Aging Gracefully

Your golden years will truly shine if you take actions to enjoy, participate and even Forgive

BY LINTON TAYLOR

Good genes certainly help one live a long life. But just because your parents or grandparents lived into their 90s or longer doesn’t mean you will, too. And living many years is no guarantee those years will be filled with joy and grace. To do that, many physicians and therapists say having an optimistic spirit and a sense of purpose matter most. Numerous studies have shown that there is a connection between a positive state of mind and overall health and longevity.

In short, physical health is affected by things such as work, creative outlets, attitudes and relationships of all kinds. As one ages, having compelling reasons to get out of bed in the morning are crucial to thriving during one’s golden years. In addition, research has found that setting goals and taking action to achieve them lead to healthier choices and ultimately a longer life. After all, just living a long time isn’t the goal. Appreciating the time that you have is much more meaningful. So, to better enjoy the days, months and years ahead, consider the following:

Live in the moment. Predicting the future is impossible so stop trying and make the best of each moment—morning, noon and night. Making plans for the days and weeks ahead is prudent, of course. But cultivating daily awareness and enjoying the here and now will make the days happier.

Learn to forgive. Saying, “I forgive you” doesn’t mean you condone some past slight or misunderstanding. No, it simply means you relinquish the sore feelings and hurt it may have caused, as well as the toxic hold it has on you. This includes forgiving oneself for past mistakes. Noone is perfect. Don’t pretend you must be.

Laugh. Even if life throws you curveballs, learn to take your swings anyway. If you miss, you miss. Especially as one ages, the ability to take yourself lightly and brush off setbacks becomes more important. So, watch funny movies, tell jokes and don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself.

Never stop learning. You are never too old to learn something new. Take lessons on something you always wanted to learn— watercolor painting, pickle ball, writing poetry… the list is only limited by you. Stay curious and keep exploring.

Stay flexible. This includes your body and your mind. Exercise is crucial to a healthy life, as we all know. But being physically active is a challenge for many due to physical limitations. However, simple stretching and yoga are proven to increase muscle flexibility. Feeling stronger also makes one feel better.

Take time to reflect. Meditation comes in many forms, including prayer and journaling. Activities like gardening and quilting also provide similar mental health benefits. Engage in activity where time flies because you are actively engaging your mind.

Be grateful. There’s nothing better for you and your happiness than appreciating the good things around you. Everyone’s clock eventually runs out. So, until it does, appreciate the fact yours is still ticking. u