November 2012

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November 2012

When Weaning Ends How I Wonder What You Are Supporting Children’s Spiritual Worlds Too Many Toys

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Deck the Hall Winter Lights Festival Saturday December 1, 2012 5:00-8:30pm ~ Free Admission

Kick off your holiday season with a festive lights display, Children’s Christmas Concerts, photos with Santa, horse and carriage rides, arts & crafts, and seasonal entertainment.

Breakfast With Santa Saturday, December 15 9:00am - 11:30am Saanich Commonwealth Place

Meet and greet with Santa, crafts and a pancake breakfast.

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Contents: November 2012 Feature How I Wonder What You Are....................................................................... 10

Articles Too Many Toys............................................................................................... 8 The Path of Art............................................................................................. 14 Holiday Gift & Book Recommendations....................................................... 16 When Weaning Ends..................................................................................... 18

Columns Editor’s Note................................................................................................... 3 Dadspeak...................................................................................................... 22 Healthy Families; Happy Families................................................................. 30 Just Eat It!..................................................................................................... 32 Is There an App for This?.............................................................................. 34 Book Nook................................................................................................... 36 New Parent Pages.......................................................................................... 40 Maternity & Beyond..................................................................................... 44 Nature Notes................................................................................................ 46 Cut It Out..................................................................................................... 48

Departments IPM Notes....................................................................................................... 4 Party Directory........................................................................................ 20, 21 Family Calendar............................................................................................ 24 Around the Island......................................................................................... 29 Family Services Directory........................................................................ 38, 39 Preschool & Child Care Directory........................................................... 42, 43 Business & Professional Directory................................................................. 45 Island Parent Magazine, produced by Island Parent Group Enterprises Ltd., is a monthly publication that honours and supports parents by providing information on resources and businesses for families, and a forum for the exchange of ideas and opinions. Views expressed are not necessarily those of the publisher. Letters (max 250 words) should be emailed to the Editor at editor@islandparent.ca. No material herein may be reproduced without the permission of the Editor. Unsolicited manuscripts are welcome and should be emailed to editor@islandparent.ca.

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Rock-A-Bye Reggae

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n a warm autumn night at a farm wedding reception in Metchosin, a young mother sits on a hay bale and, in an attempt to prepare her infant son for bedtime, slips off his casual wedding attire and diaper in one quick motion, then, as he arches and resists, wrestles on a clean diaper and his striped sleeper. Her other son, maybe two and a half years old, races past, but she grabs him before he is out of reach and playfully pulls him onto her lap beside his baby brother. While the baby wriggles, she begins to undress her eldest son and pull on his pajamas.

I marvel at her composure and patience, and think back to when my children were this young. Back then, when they were babies and toddlers, parenting was more physically demanding than it is now that they’re grown. Now, I would argue, it is the mental strain that’s exhausting. I miss this young age.

“Do you need some help?” I ask, almost reaching for the baby.

“Uh…” She glances at me and then back down at her infant son. “Sure.”

I don’t wait for her to change her mind and instead, scoop up the baby and settle him in my arms, leaning him away slightly so we can see each others’ faces. I quickly realize my mistake. When he sees me, his face starts to scrunch up, he takes a deep breath, and readies himself to cry. But before he can, I flip him around so he is facing outward, away from me, his back now against my front.

Not far from us, the four-piece band plays an eclectic mix of music, a sort of reggae-surf-country-folk fusion, and people

dance beneath strung tarps and mini lights, twinkling like stars in the clear night sky. On the tables, now strewn with dinner dishes and Mason jars, doubling tonight as drink glasses, candles flicker amidst simple flower arrangements made up of dahlias, sunflowers, gladioli, and poppies.

The sun is long set, and the dark sky has created a sort of intimacy among the guests that allows them to sit down next to strangers and talk or get up and dance with anyone who happens to be close by. Old friends who haven’t seen each other since probably the last wedding, laugh and catch up.

I manoeuvre us onto the dance floor, a patch of uneven grassy field, and make my way toward the band, getting as close as I can so the baby will be able to see the musicians and hopefully, won’t worry about me.

The baby’s father is sitting close by, likely enjoying his minute of peace, but keeping a watchful eye on his son as I waltz him around the dance floor.

Making a cameo appearance on percussion, the bride’s mother, dressed in a red plaid kilt and wearing lipstick in the same shade, is sitting beside the stage, a hand drum held between her knees. She is tapping out a rhythm in time with the band, leaning in toward the music. I dance the baby over to her and then stand and sway to the steady beat, hoping to keep the baby distracted.

Out of the corner of my eye, I see my 18-year-old daughter—my baby—clearing dishes from the nearby tables and delivering drinks to the guests. She and her friend have been hired by the bride and groom to help serve dinner and clean up. I am relieved to see that she is doing her job, not flirting with

the band members or indulging in a glass of cider or wine. She sees me and waves.

I gesture for her to join me on the dance floor but she declines with a quick eye roll.

I shuffle through the crowd, stopping in front of the band or a couple dancing, and

Editor’s Note Sue Fast linger a minute while the baby watches.

Some people reach out and tickle the baby’s feet or grasp his hands, dancing momentarily with him, before returning to their partners.

I move us around the dance floor, reveling in the feeling of holding a baby, his lovely, easy weight and milky clean scent. He is relaxed now, his body resting against mine.

It’s not long before I realize that he has fallen asleep. I don’t dare stop moving.

From beside the dance floor, the baby’s mom catches my eye.

“Do you want me to take him now?” she mouths.

I shake my head. If his parents would let me, I could hold the baby all night and dance until dawn.

When I see his mom and dad next, they are sitting together at the side of the dance floor, leaning into each other, laughing and talking, and glancing, from time to time, back at the dance floor and their young son.

When it is time to give him back, I do so reluctantly, transferring him carefully into his mother’s arms. He jumps a little, but then quickly settles.

“Thanks,” she whispers.

“Thank you,” I reply, sure that we were both grateful for the time.

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IPM Notes Pumpkin Smash 2012 The scariest thing about Halloween is the number of jack-o-lanterns that end up in the landfill. Keep your pumpkins out of the trash and drop by the Greater Victoria Compost Education Centre’s largest event of the year—the 8th Annual Pumpkin Smash.

Bring your family and friends, and of course your pumpkins, and try your hand at an assortment of family games to help raise awareness for composting. Since the event started, the Compost Centre has diverted almost 100 tonnes of pumpkins from the landfill.

The Pumpkin Smash (by donation) takes place on Saturday, November 3 at the Fairfield Thrifty Foods (1590 Fairfield Road) and Broadmead Thrifty Foods (777 Royal Oak Drive) from 10am-3pm and on Sunday, November 4 at the Admirals Walk Thrifty Foods (1495 Admirals Road) and Cloverdale Thrifty Foods (3475 Quadra at Cloverdale) from 10am-3pm. There will be family-friendly games, and lots of knowledgeable staff and volunteers to answer your questions or give you advice on the best smashing techniques.

The Greater Victoria Compost Educa-

tion Centre is located at 1216 North Park Street in Victoria and provides composting and organic gardening education to Capital Region residents. The Centre is also your regional “one-stop compost shop,” selling composting supplies and offering free Composting Basics workshops. For more information, phone the compost hotline at 250-386-WORM (9676) or visit www. compost.bc.ca.

Check Out a Living Book In celebration of the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria’s Season of Portraits exhibitions, the Gallery and the Greater Victoria Public Library have partnered to host The Human Library Project.

On Saturday, November 3 from 1-4pm, Victorians will be able to “check out” living books at the Central Branch of the Library and at the AGGV. Started in Denmark in 2000, the Human Library hosts a collection of living books: a diverse range of people who make themselves available to be “checked out” for informal 20-minute conversations.

Celebrating the unique, creative, and sometimes controversial individuals that shape the fabric of our community, the AGGV and the GVPL’s Central Branch will

both offer a variety of living books. At the AGGV, books include a City Planner, Pawn Master and a Buddhist Nun, readers at the Library will find a selection that includes an Urban Farmer, Police Officer and a Singer/ Songwriter.

The AGGV’s Season of Portraits features the exhibitions Beyond Likeness: Contemporary Works from Library and Archives Canada, and Capturing the Inner Essence: Chinese and Japanese Portraiture. The exhibitions invite individuals to explore the art of representation and demonstrate portraiture’s ability to express far more about personal identity than a mere likeness.

Pre-registration at both locations is required. Participation is free.

To register for a conversation at the GVPL, please call 250-413-0388 or drop by the Central Branch Information Desk.

To register for a conversation at the AGGV, please call 250-384-4171 ext. 0, or visit the Gallery in person. For more information, visit www.aggv.ca.

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a film about the importance of getting children into nature. There will be food, drinks and an expert panel after the film to answer your questions and bring the film into a local context. Guest speakers will include Richard Kool (Associate Professor, Environment and Sustainability, Royal Roads University) and a teacher from the Sooke Nature Kindergarten.

Through this film, the community is encouraged to ponder the consequences of a childhood removed from nature. Doors open at 5:30pm, admission is a donation of $10-$20 at the door. Check out the trailer for the film at playagainfilm.com.

Christmas in November Feel like getting into the Christmas spirit a little early? If so, there’s no shortage of events this month: A Christmas Carol at the Belfry from November 13-December 16. This classic tale of humanity and redemption will touch your heart deeply. Director Michael Shamata’s adaptation is faithful to the original holiday story. For more information visit www. belfry.bc.ca, for tickets call 250-385-6815.

Christmas Tree Light Up & Santa Parade.

Kick-off the holiday season in Centennial Square with the 5th annual downtown Christmas Tree Light-Up on November 17 from 4-6pm. Enjoy musical performances, roving entertainment, ice sculptures, and free treats before the Island Farms Santa Light Parade at 5:45. Rain or shine. Free.

The Snowman at the Royal Theatre on November 18 at 2:30pm. The film version of the beloved story The Snowman by Raymond Briggs is shown with live musical accompaniment by the Victoria Symphony.

Sidney Sparkles Parade & Sailpast on November 24 at 5pm. Watch the parade along Beacon Avenue and Second Street, then wander down to the waterfront to see the sailpast.

The Ladysmith Festival of Lights on November 29, starting at 3pm, features entertainment, a parade, fireworks, and a visit from Santa.

The Lighthouse Parent: A Forever Journey Whether we realize it or not, we have learned how to parent from our parents and grandparents or extended family. And since the techniques of yesterday are not necessarily the most enlightened for today’s child, you can find yourself dealing with unanticipated and unnecessary conflict with your children. The Lighthouse Parent: A www.IslandParent.ca

Forever Journey is a three-week parenting program to help parents understand how to hold and be the light for their family. Your light will shine brightly or dimly depending on how connected you feel to your own and your family’s physical, emotional, mental and spiritual growth.

The Lighthouse Parent will help parents to regain and rebalance their energy and parenting wisdom in line with their child’s age and developmental milestones. In a confidential, small group format, parents will learn about: • theories of attachment (working with healthy attachment and releasing unhealthy attachment) • biological and neurological child development stages (toddler, youngster, tween and teen) • historical parenting traps and how to get unhooked from them • realistic stress management strategies that work In The Now • the paths to finding and sharing times of joy, and spirituality in parenting • peer support and facilitator guidance, and much, much more.

1UP Single Parent Resource Centre is offering The Lighthouse Parent: A Forever Journey on Thursdays, November 15-29, 6:45-9:15 pm, at 602 Gorge Road East. Fees are on a sliding scale. For more information, please visit www.1-up.ca.

Student Art Video & Writing Contest Attention kids and youth in B.C. and Yukon. Are you an artist, wordsmith, or a filmmaker? If so, take those words and pictures in your head and show the world.

Create your work of art or literature about remembrance. You can create something that is broadly about remembrance or you can focus on something more specific such as a family member who fought in the war, the poppy, a war memorial in your community, or the sacrifice of veterans. Prizes include an iPad and a trip to Ottawa. For more information, contact Chemainus Legion at 250-246-4532 or visit www. legionbcyukon.ca/content/youth-contests.

Deadline November 15.

Bear Wear 2012 The holiday teddies are back! For the 12th year, Bear Wear, a fundraiser for Children’s Health Foundation of Vancouver Island, runs from November 19, 2012 until January 3, 2013 in the lobby of the Hotel Grand Pacific, 463 Belleville Street in Victoria.

Head down to the Inner Harbour and visit

the best-dressed teddy bears in town. Vote for your favourite ($2 suggested donation) as many times as you like—the more times you vote, the better your chances at winning that bear in our raffle.

Funds raised at Bear Wear will support the Children’s Health Foundation of Vancouver Island, formerly the Queen Alexandra Foundation for Children. Children’s Health Foundation built, owns and operates Jeneece Place, funds programs at the Queen Alexandra Centre for Children’s Health, and provides grants to organizations across Vancouver Island and the Gulf Islands that support the health and well-being of children. For more information, phone 250-519-6935.

Coats for Kids West 49’s Coats for Kids campaign, fueled by community support, is once again collecting coats for kids who don’t have adequate winter clothing. Since 2002 more than 80,000 kids have received winter coats as a result of this program.

West 49 Coats for Kids campaign runs through to November 21. Coat collection barrels are located in every store. Anyone who brings in a clean, insulated gently used winter coat to any West 49 store will receive $25 off any winter jacket. Donated jackets will then be given to various youth shelters and charities across the country.

Each store partners with a local charity in their area—so people in the community benefit. In past campaigns, coats have been provided to organizations such as Big Brothers and Big Sisters, Canadian Diabetes Association, Salvation Army, The United Way and local youth shelters and missions across the country. For more information, visit coatsforkids.west49.com.

After School Program Promotes Physical Literacy The Pacific Institute for Sport Excellence (PISE), the B.C. Government, and Saanich Parks and Recreation are collaborating on an after school program that promotes physical literacy for children in Grades 1-5.

The program started last month at Tillicum School, and covers a wide range of games and sports that help kids learn and practice movement and sports skills. Different grades are taught on each day, with supportive funding coming from various sources including the Canadian Jumpstart Program and the After School Sports Initiative (ASSI).

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IPM Notes assistant deliver the program. Each session begins with 20 minutes of free time and typically ends with a kids’ choice game. The kids have a say in how the day is shaped, and while they’re having fun they are learning skills that will carry them through life.

The leaders believe in “active coaching” where the children learn as they play and are given feedback throughout each session to help them along.

“Students have participated in developing physical literacy skills, healthy nutritional decision making and an increased understanding of the benefits of healthy lifestyle choices,” says Lori Burley, Tillicum principal. “PISE provides excellent programming which has led to an increase in participation in school-wide activities both during school as well as after school.”

Organizers hope to expand the program to other schools in the region. For more information contact Andrea Pask, physical literacy coordinator at PISE at apask@ piseworld.com or 250-220-2519.

Enjoy Free Access to Local Culture The Greater Victoria Public Library offers

7-day loan passes for local families or teens to access cultural exhibits. Anyone with a valid adult library card can borrow a free art gallery or museum pass from your local library, and any teen with a valid library card can borrow a free teen culture pass. Place a hold on a Pass with your library card at www.gvpl.ca and pick it up at your local library branch.

The following passes are available: • Art Gallery of Greater Victoria Household Access Pass provides free general admission to the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria for 2 adults and up to 4 children. Does not include special events or gift shop discounts.

• Royal BC Museum Family Pass provides free general admission to the Royal BC Museum for 2 adults and up to 3 children (youth under 5 are free). Does not include special events or gift shop discounts.

• Teen Culture Pass provides free general admission to the Royal BC Museum and the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria for 1 teen aged 13-18 and 1 teen guest. Does not include special events, discounts or IMAX. These passes are popular, but the waitlists tend to move quite quickly as there are multiple passes and a relatively short loan period. For more information, please visit www.gvpl.ca.

Exploring Art with the AGGV For the first time, the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria will be sending art educators into a local school as Artists in Residence. This innovative program at Sir James Douglas Elementary School will see all 500 students in the school visited by artists for two hands-on art-making sessions as well as an interactive tour at the Gallery. Inspired by the AGGV’s Season of Portraits exhibitions, students will be introduced to different methods of portraying identity. The program runs until the end of December when the entire school community will be invited to the AGGV for an Open House.

Also, the AGGV’s popular Family Sunday program has returned for another season. Family Sundays take place on the third Sunday of each month through April 2013. Upcoming events include the Back to the Land Family Sunday, on November 18 inspired by the current AGGV ceramics exhibition, and the Winter on the West Coast Family Sunday on December 16 examining the coastal B.C. landscapes of Emily Carr and her contemporaries.

For more information, contact aggv.ca or 250-384-4171.

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Royal BC Museum Families are invited to extend and enjoy the weekday learning experience with a new After School Special at the Royal BC Museum. Every Monday to Thursday afternoon, until November 15, each individual museum admission will be half price from 3:30pm until closing at 5pm.

This discount benefit is a pilot project designed to make the Royal BC Museum more accessible to its community, especially school-age youth. Children 5 years or younger experience the museum galleries free of charge, as they do year-round.

The After School Special offer does not include the IMAX Victoria Theatre, family or group museum admission, or museum membership, and may not be combined with any other offers. For more information, visit www.royalbcmuseum.bc.ca.

Victoria Children’s Health Foundation Last month the Queen Alexandra Foundation for Children became Children’s Health Foundation of Vancouver Island.

Why the change? Over the years, the Foundation has gradually outgrown its name. Today, and for a long time now, they support far more children’s health initiatives than many realize.

The Queen Alexandra Centre for Children’s Health in Victoria is one of those initiatives. The Centre’s name will remain as is, and the Children’s Health Foundation will continue to support the Centre, as it has since the beginning.

The Children’s Health Foundation also supports many other facilities, organizations, services and programs, each designed to promote the health and well-being of children on Vancouver Island and the Gulf Islands. This includes funding for Jeneece Place and the West Shore and Sooke Child, Youth & Family Centres. The new name helps to make people more aware of the full scope of the Foundation’s work on behalf of children and youth.

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ing even greater success in their fundraising efforts, meaning they will help more kids in the future.

Climate Action Kits The Capital Regional District (CRD) has partnered with BC Hydro and the Greater Victoria Public Library on a new program that takes climate action to-go.

The Climate Action To-Go Kit program is an interactive way to educate people on climate change and community sustainability issues. Each kit provides practical tools to measure household energy use and offers a selection of diverse resources for residents across the region.

Each Climate Action To-Go Kit allows users to: • Measure household appliance electricity use with the Kill-A-Watt Meter • Discover air leaks in walls and around windows using the Thermal Leak Detector • Test out an ultra-efficient LED light bulb • Assess showerhead hot water efficiency • Learn about local solutions to climate change through films and books for adults and families.

After the kit has been returned, users are encouraged to join the conversation online to share their experience and report on efforts to reduce household energy use.

Draw prizes include energy-star products and gift certificates for detailed home energy assessments.

Kits are available in all ten branches of the Greater Victoria Public Library. The Sooke, Sidney/North Saanich branches of the Vancouver Island Regional Library as well as the Salt Spring Island Public Library will also host kits. Phone your local library to find out more about this initiative.

Youth in Parks Team Do you love parks and being outside? Are you interested in improving your outdoor leadership skills? Do you want to join a group of people from all over Southern Vancouver Island who are interested in inspiring other youth to get outside and into parks? Join the Youth in Parks team!

The Youth In Parks team is a group of high school-aged youth (ages 13-18) who live in the Capital Regional District/Southern Vancouver Island and love the outdoors.

The team meets monthly to learn skills and share their passion for parks. There will be an opportunity for some members of the team to become part of the Parks Youth Advisory Council.

The Youth In Parks staff are from all

three hosting organizations: BC Parks, Boys & Girls Club of Greater Victoria and CRD Regional Parks. They bring a wealth of knowledge in youth engagement, building leadership skills, interpretation and volunteerism, and are very passionate about working collaboratively with Youth In Parks.

There is no cost to participate except for your time, energy and enthusiasm. To apply, fill out an application online at www. crd.bc.ca/youthinparks or download the printable PDF application form.

For more information, contact Reed Osler, Park Interpreter with CRD Regional Parks, at youthinparks@crd.bc.ca or 250360-3326.

Tiga Talks Language Development The early years are a critical time for speech and language development. Kids who struggle with these skills often find traditional speech therapy options to be frustrating or boring. Now a local production company is offering parents and educators a new option that’s more fun.

May Street Productions has created an iPhone/iPad app for preschoolers called Tiga Talk Campfire Adventure. It follows the company’s first app, Tiga Talk Speech Therapy Games. Both apps are designed to help children develop speech and language skills in an entertaining way.

The Tiga Talk Campfire Adventure is a choose-your-own adventure game featuring characters from May Street’sTiga Talk! TV series, which airs on APTN. In the game, a sneaky Whiskey Jack has stolen voices from many different animals. Children choose a Tiga Talk character and work with them to help find the lost voices through a series of mini-games. Each “voice” is a phonetic sound.

In addition to learning sounds and words in English, players also have the option to learn in Cree. Younger players can simply explore the interactive environment, touching elements in each scene to hear what they are called (sun, tree, etc.). For more info, please visit www.tigatalk.com/app or the iTunes Store.•

Errata Our apologies to 1UP: Single Parent Resource Centre whose website address in The Family Resource Guide was incorrect. Visit 1-up.ca to find out more about the Centre.

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From everything I’ve read and experienced, in 25 years of tutoring, reading fluency is THE key difference between future success or the lack of it.

This is true whether we’re talking about high school, university or in life. The mastering of basic numeracy skills is also a necessity.

If all we do is help students “get through” their homework and survive the tests at school, we are not helping them in the long run. If you take the time to support your child in learning the basics, you may discover that the material they are struggling with now just falls into place.

Success depends upon having a strong foundation.

Passing children on from grade to grade, even if they have not mastered the basics, is detrimental to their future success.

It can also undermine their self esteem.

Spend the time with them today and don’t give up no matter what. Figure out that piece of information that they don’t “get,” that is at the root of their not understanding and do whatever it takes until they “get it.”

Reading and numeracy are the building blocks of all success in our culture and in the world. Don’t delay. Get help for your child as early as possible. The younger they are when you intervene, the better.

For a complimentary assessment of your child’s skills, call Karen today.

Karen is offering a workshop in Sidney on November 13. Check out her web site for details.

Karen Murdoch Therapeutic Tutor Parenting Coach

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Too Many Toys W

hen I was a child, I had a best friend named Mary Jane who lived just around the corner. Mary Jane had her own princess-themed bedroom and two playrooms overflowing with toys. She must have had every Barbie accessory available in the late 70s, not to mention an Easy Bake oven that I coveted.

We had a lot of fun playing at Mary Jane’s house—but we had even more fun playing at mine. My toy collection was modest, but I had a big, unmanicured back yard that was perfect for tree-climbing, fortmaking, and hide-and-seek playing. When the weather forced us inside, we made things with materials I kept in a shoebox. These weren’t fancy craft supplies. My shoebox held salvaged materials like rubber bands and cardboard tubes. We lost ourselves for hours working on our creations. I may have a selective memory, but I don’t remember ever complaining of boredom.

As the gift-giving season approaches, I’ve been thinking about my own children’s massive toy collection. It’s not that we spend our Saturdays at the mall. Most of my kids’ playthings were gifts from extended family, hand-me-downs, or things we picked up at garage sales. They didn’t cost us much financially, but lately I’ve been considering their other costs.

As parents, we give our kids toys because we love them, because it gives us pleasure to provide them with good things. We want them to have what their peers have—we certainly don’t want them to feel deprived.

But there’s a line between enough and too much of a good thing. An overflowing playroom is overwhelming for a child—not to mention the stressed-out parents trying to keep on top of the clutter. Furthermore, too many choices can take away from the enjoyment of play, and discourage creativity and imagination. A constant flow of new toys also sends children the message that they need “stuff” to be happy—a perfect recipe for fostering materialism.

And then there are the significant environmental costs of manufacturing, packaging, transporting, and eventually land-filling

each child’s personal mountain of playthings. For toys with lasting play-value the costs might be justified. But what about all the plastic gizmos that lose their novelty after a few days, and end up broken or gathering dust?

If your children—like mine—have far more toys than they need, there are strategies that can help you manage their collections.

And if you’re a new parent starting out, these tips can guide you in building a sensible collection from the beginning.

If your children—like mine— have far more toys than they need, there are strategies that can help you manage their collections.

Choose quality over quantity. Think about a toy’s quality and play-value when you choose it. Blocks, building sets, paints, crayons and play dough all encourage creativity, and won’t be outgrown quickly. Simple toys that can be played with in many ways are better than ones that have a single purpose or flashy “gimmick.” If it has batteries, it likely falls in the latter category. My siblings and I didn’t grow up with piles of toys, but that made the ones we did have more special.

My parents still have some of our original playthings, which are now being enjoyed by a second generation. Because they were well-made, there’s no reason they won’t be used by the next generation as well.

Rotate toys. If your children like the toys they have, but just have too many to be enjoyed properly, consider putting half of them away. When you bring them out a month from now, put the other half away.

You’ll be cutting your children’s clutter dramatically, while providing them with “new” toys to get reacquainted with. A child’s old toys are much more exciting and special after an absence.

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Choose pre-loved toys. Avoid the financial and environmental costs of brand-new toys by giving your children quality pre-loved ones instead. Accept hand-me-downs from cousins. Organize swaps with friends. Shop consignment stores, thrift stores and garage sales, or look for bargains on Craigslist.

When your children have outgrown their treasures, pass them on.

Make toys for or with your children. The web has some great ideas for DIY toys, from the simplest to the most sophisticated of projects. Do a search on Pinterest, and you’ll have enough inspiration for years.

Your projects don’t have to be fancy. My father once brought home a box of assorted wood off-cuts, and they became material for towers and countless games of “Blockhead.”

Paint pebbles to make pet rocks. Or take a large cardboard box and turn it into a fort or playhouse. The more you involve your kids, the better.

Provide your children with creative materials for their own projects. My six-year old daughter loves to make things, and we keep her well stocked with supplies. She has some basic things like scissors, crayons, masking tape and glue, but almost everything else comes from the recycling closet. It’s amazing what can be made from toilet paper rolls and yoghurt lids if you have some imagination!

Give children experiences. Twenty-first century life is hectic—it’s easy to fall into the trap of giving our children things instead of time. But children need our time and attention more than they need toys. My family wasn’t rich in money or “stuff,” but we were wealthy in other ways. My mother took us to the library regularly, and read us mountains of stories. My father did puzzles and played board games with us.

Sunday afternoons were reserved for family excursions. In decent weather we hiked or beachcombed, and when it was bucketing outside we visited museums and art galleries. It’s not a coincidence that we remain a very tight-knit family now that my siblings and I are adults.

Take or send children outside. The great outdoors is still the best playroom of all.

Children are physically and emotionally healthier when they have frequent access to nature, to run and climb and explore.

And it’s healthy for us adults, too. We never outgrow our need for play!

Rachel Dunstan Muller is the mother of five, and a children’s author. Her previous articles can be found at www.islandparent.ca.

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was raised within a Christian framework. Growing up, I went to church every Sunday.

I still go to church. I take my children to church. For me as an adult, it is a place to get away from the busyness, to reflect and to be thankful for the blessings in my life. I value the song, the symbolism in the stories and, most important, the sense of community. I do, however, remember my early church experiences as a child—struggling to see beyond the horizon of the row in front of me, the musty smell of wood intermingled with incense, porcelain statues with eyes that tracked my every move, and the temptation of the tiniest orange pencil that I had ever seen perched upright in a most curious hole on the top side of the pew rack. The stained glass windows and the red plush kneelers broke the monotony of voice that hypnotized me into lethargy. This description perhaps sounds oddly more romantic than it likely was for me as a child. So when I see my own children getting fidgety in church, I have to temper my frustration and embarrassment with some understanding and empathy. I confess sheepishly that after-service coffee time, in particular the sweet treats, becomes a powerful bribe in desperate times.

So I ask myself: what is it that I really want my children to get out of this experience?

I want them to feel that they belong to something bigger than themselves, to hold tight to their sense of wonder, to love and be loved, to discern the gifts that they are meant to share in the service of others, and to have a sense of personal meaning and purpose. I want them to possess a faith and hope that sustains them through their trials and to be thankful for the bounty of their lives. This to me is what is meant to be spiritual. It is a component of being a human being, a wisdom that is irrespective of religious practice.

Yet, when it comes to nurturing my children’s spirituality, I feel like an imposter. I can read. I can write. My comfort with numbers is acceptable. I have good manners. I value the importance of healthy eating and physical activity. I can impart this wisdom to my children. But ask me who I am meant to be or where my place in this world lies? These are questions that I myself am challenged with on a daily basis.

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about how children learn. Children make meaning and come to understandings best when the learning is relevant, hands-on and when they can draw on their own personal experiences. The ability to sit still in a pew for an hour may demonstrate commendable focus and self-regulation, but I know that it is not enough to satisfy my children’s spiritual development. It is an area that I must mindfully and deliberately attend to through a more child-centered lens.

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Embrace Uncertainty “If God made us, then who made God?” My four-year-old son never ceases to amaze me with the complexity of his reasoning.

My typical response to difficult questions such as this is to defer to my husband, sparing myself from having to admit that I simply don’t know.

In the presence of my children, I often feel like I have to have all the answers. After all, how could they possibly have confidence in someone who doesn’t? What I forget is that spirituality is about mystery and wonder.

I am working hard at being comfortable with uncertainty and the unknown. I have learned from my children that questions are natural, answers optional, and wonder sacred.

We can nurture our children’s sense of spirituality by honouring their questions, even if we don’t have the answers. It’s okay to say, “That’s a good question, I don’t know the answer.” In doing so, we model humility. We also help our children develop the virtues of discernment, patience, and trust that the answers will reveal themselves in due course. “Just Because” as an answer to our children’s persistent “Why?” questions may not be such a bad response after all.

Rituals in the Everyday I remember clearly the final months of my fourth pregnancy. Consumed by fatigue, it was becoming harder to mobilize my troops for church on Sunday mornings. I simply didn’t have the wherewithal to effectively manage the children. My focus at church revolved around praying for good behaviour, both theirs and mine. After a couple of inner core meltdowns and having to haul the children out midway through the service, I decided that until the baby was born, we would do church at home. God would understand.

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my two eldest reminded me. We decided that we would read from The Family Virtues Guide, picking out a specific virtue and discussing what it meant to us. “Let’s sing a song to begin,” my son proposed. I awkwardly began chanting Alleluia to a made-up tune, but it lacked energy, passion and authenticity. “You choose something,” I suggested to my eldest daughter. She began singing, “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star,” the song she uncomfortably sings when put on the spot. “C’mon, be serious!” I barked.

But then I paused to listen mindfully to the words. She couldn’t have picked a more appropriate song, so simple and ordinary, yet so sacred.

Through this example, my children taught me a valuable lesson. I don’t need to pour over piles of parenting books and reference material or desperately surf the internet in hopes of someone else telling me how to nurture my children’s spiritual worlds. The experts reside under my very own roof. Here is what I have come to: 1. Begin with Belonging. It is hard to know your place in the world without a sense of belonging. As parents, we can nurture our children’s spiritual development by helping them find places where they can feel “at home,” whether it is within the walls of a religious institution, connecting with nature, doing things together as a family or living in community with others.

2. Children love and need rituals as a means of connecting to the world and to others. Rituals also provide little lives with stability and a sense of constancy. Change the ordinary into something meaningful and bring the spiritual back into traditions. The celebration of birthdays is an example of a ritual with actions and symbols that are deeply spiritual—we gather, we sing with joyfulness and appreciation and we light candles to celebrate the gift of life.

3. Children love stories. Read broadly across different faith traditions that promote values, morals and virtues that you feel are important. Parables like the Good Samaritan are very insightful for younger audiences but there are also many fables and old folk tales from around the world as well as general children’s books that teach good lessons.

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4. Create routines of reverence. Add a sacred dimension to everyday acts. For example, make the commitment to eat together as a family, take turns at the dinner table to share one thing for which you are thankful that day, read stories together at bedtime, and schedule time to connect with nature.

5. Sing! Singing is an outlet for the expression of our deepest emotions—our sorrow, our joyfulness. I remember floating around the living room with my eldest daughter as a baby and singing “Top of the World” by the Carpenters because it was the best way for me to convey how I felt about this new gift in my life. Spine-shivering songs remind us of our spirituality. “The Rainbow Connection” by Kermit the Frog can be just as inspiring as Handel’s “Messiah.”

6. Engage your children’s sense of awe by exposing them to new life—babies, puppies, seedlings. I am always amazed to watch how babies gaze curiously at each other or how the most boisterous child mellows in the presence of a newborn, somehow knowing to show loving respect and gentleness.

7. Encourage “I wonder” questions. Allow your children to come to answers on their own and in their own time. Offer them opportunities to tell you what they think.

8. Give your children permission and space in their lives to explore their world and to make meaningful connections. This could entail time for stillness and personal reflection as well as time for them to be of service to their world.

Learn from the Past I fondly recall the image and words of my mother-in-law the day she first held my eldest child. Bracing my daughter’s tiny six-pound body within the length of her forearms and gently cupping her delicate head in the palms of her hands, my mother-in-law stood entranced by my baby’s deep brown eyes that, without words, conveyed the wisdom of an old soul. “She has a knowing because she has come from the unknown, a place we no longer know, one that we have forgotten,” my mother-in-law whispered reverently.

When I start to anguish over the meaning of life for myself as well as for my family, I take comfort in my belief that my children have an inborn sense of spirituality: joyfulness expressed through unfettered laughter…grace and tenderness shown towards their baby sister…the way time is embraced on their terms, much to the frustration of my

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hurried schedule…imaginations and dreams brimming with idealism…their ability to uncover the beauty of “wishberries” and dandelions…purposefulness in piling rocks on the bottom of the park slide, pouring water from one bucket to another, spinning around in circles…“Tell why” questions that relentlessly chisel away at the surface of life in an attempt to expose a deeper meaning… excitement and enthusiasm in simply being.

As far as my children’s spiritual development is concerned, I now recognize that my job is not to instill but instead to help them sustain what it is they already know. And when my memory fails me, I am learning to look to my children to help me reconnect with my own sense of spirituality and to be more open to the mysteries and wonder of life.

Janine Fernandes-Hayden is an educator and Salt Spring Island mum of four children, aged 1, 2, 5 and 6. She hosts a parent and kids radio show called “The Beanstalk” on local Salt Spring Island airwaves at CFSI 107.9 FM or online at www.cfsi-fm.com. She is also a trained Virtues Project Facilitator.

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here’s a new path at George Jay Elementary School, and it’s one the entire community is invited to walk. But it’s not made of wood chips and there’s no danger of getting lost—it’s Fernwood’s first labyrinth!

Unlike a maze, labyrinths are not puzzles; there’s only one path to follow, and the intention is more about finding yourself than finding the way out. And while the CRD has no shortage of labyrinths (almost a dozen), this is a first for Victoria’s funkiest neighbourhood.

says. Beth, a member of the Parent Advisory Council, pulled together a team of community members and George Jay parents who donated supplies and funds or volunteered their time to help paint the 35-by-39-foot labyrinth this past summer.

“The main goal of our PAC this year is to be more welcoming to the community,” explains Beth. “One of the ways to do that is to have more things for people to do while they’re on the school grounds—so everyone is welcome to come and use the labyrinth.”

“It’s really a reflection of Fernwood,” says George Jay’s principal, Leslie Lee. “This is a unique community with unique parents and children, many of whom have alternative lifestyles. Since we have a more eclectic area, we need to honour different ways of thinking to meet the needs of our community—and the labyrinth itself is very representative of a multitude of cultures, which our school has in abundance.”

A parent-community initiative undertaken with the full support of Principal Lee, the idea for the labyrinth project was conceived by local artist Beth Threlfall (who, in the interest of full disclosure, is my supercool wife and mom to our two George Jay kids). Frequently involved with community art projects, Beth is perhaps best known as the guiding force behind Fernwood’s painted telephone pole project.

“I do art that brings people together as a community, as well as art that inspires people to interact with one another,” she

Lee agrees. “Over the last two years, we’ve tried to beautify our school and offer different, creative things for our children, as well as making it more welcoming and interesting for the community,” she says. “By adding a brand new playground, the gardens and now this labyrinth, we’ve noticed more people coming by and taking better care of the school. We don’t have the graffiti we used to…people see that more care and attention is being taken in the schoolyard, so it’s being treated with more care and attention. The idea is to have people think, ‘Look at all the neat things that are happening on the outside—I wonder what kind of neat things are happening on the inside?’”

The new labyrinth is more than just a playground addition; it also functions as a teaching tool. “It’s a calming, meditative feature,” says Lee. “Teachers can take a child out there and say, ‘I’m going to walk this with you; we’re not going to talk, we’re just going to calm down and think about the

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path.’ It’s a different focus, a different kind of challenge for them. And it lets teachers have conversations about labyrinths, what they represent and the many cultures in which they’re found…it’s a wonderful addition that aesthetically adds to the uniqueness of our school.”

While there are many labyrinths on Vancouver Island, and a number of schools in the U.S. have begun incorporating them, George Jay is the first local school to have one. “One of the purposes of a labyrinth is to clear the mind and settle your emotions, and there’s a lot of emotional and mental processes going on at an elementary school,” Lee says. “It seemed like a great tool for kids to have access to if they’re having a rough day in class…it’s a place where they can walk and check in with their feelings, clear their minds. It seemed natural for an engaged educational environment like George Jay.”

Know Your Local Labyrinths While George Jay Elementary (near the corner of Cook and Bay) may boast the most recent urban labyrinth, it’s certainly not alone. Here’s a quick guide to Victoria’s many spiral paths, which range from brick and grass to fabric and paint.

• First Unitarian Church (West Saanich Road) • UVic’s Interfaith Chapel (seasonal) • Irving Park (Michigan Street in James Bay) • Christ Church Cathedal (Quadra and Burdett) • CorUnum Retreat Centre (The Yurt on Old West Saanich Road) • Mosaic Labyrinth (Hillside and Cook) • Victoria General Hospital (View Royal) • Garden City United Church (Carey Road) • Holy Trinity Anglican Church (Mills Road) • Glenairley Centre (East Sooke Road) • Queenswood House (Cadboro Bay, although the fate of this one is uncertain since the property changed hands) • Also worth noting is the lavender labyrinth in Cobble Hill—mm, lavender.

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Juvenile/Teen: Spooner Board. Wildly fun Spooner Boards make it easy to learn skateboarding, surfing and snowboarding techniques all year round. No weight limit— fun for grown ups too. $59.99.

Adult: Perplexus Twist. Hot new brainteaser marble maze game will challenge and excite players to twist and realign tracks to escape traps, decoys and cliffhangers. $29.99.

From National Geographic Theatre Gift Shop Preschool: Create your own puzzle. Blank puzzles made with high-quality board sturdy enough for paints. Two sizes: 14" x 10" or 7" x 5". $2.99-$16.99.

Children: IQ Busters. Stars, pyramids, barrels and cubes. Classic wood puzzles guaranteed to tax, tease and torment. $6.99.

From Red Balloon Toy Shop (Duncan) Baby/Preschool: Friction-powered WOW Toys are brightly coloured vehicles, animals and people that mix and match to stimulate your child’s imagination and develop sensory and motor skills. $5.99-$69.99.

Children: Phantasticks are Vancouver Island-made wooden juggling sticks (sometimes referred to as Devil Sticks). This locally made toy is fantastic for hand/eye coordination. $24.99.

From Lizzy Lee & Me Children: Princess Bed Canopy. This adorable, pretty Princess Canopy in either Sparkly Tastic Pink or Purple will have the little princess in your life excited about getting her beauty rest. $39.95.

Children: Kiss Naturals DIY Craft Kits.

Made from high-quality natural ingredients, these DIY craft kits make a fabulous gift.

Choose from lip balms, bath fizzies, soaps, perfume and lava lip gloss kits. $12.95.

All ages: Piggy Paint Barn Box. Cute Barn Boxes that will be perfect for holiday gift givers, each box includes one Piggy Paint nail polish, a toe separator, nail file, and 3-D nail art. Piggy Paint is a natural, eco-friendly nail polish. Its non-toxic, hypoallergenic formula makes it safe to use on all little piggies. $19.95.

From Mothering Touch Baby/Preschool: My First Farm Friends by Betsy Wallin. Four-book set, including popup animals, a barn and a haystack, makes these delightful books about pigs, chickens, cows and goats come to life. HC. $17.99.

From Mr. Tubbs at Western Speedway All Ages: Gift Certificates. Children have too much stuff? How about a gift certificate for fun? Any denomination. Can be used for any services, including birthday parties. www.mrtubbs.com.

Juvenile/Teen: Yikerz is an exciting fast-paced game using strategically placed magnets on a variety of playing surface configurations. The compact carrying pouch is an added bonus. $18.99.

Adult: Cobble Hill and Ravensburger quality puzzles offer a wide selection of sizes and subjects for every taste and skill level. Always a Christmas favourite. $19.99$199.99 (for the 18,000-piece puzzle).

From Rick Scott Children: The Great Gazzoon by Rick Scott and Valley Hennell. Illustrated by Linda Sanborn. A tall tale with tunes and turbulence. 4-hour musical audio adventure for ages 8 to ageless on 4 CDs with illustrated songbook, with 25 actors, singers and musicians. Parents’ Choice Approved. www.gazzoon.com. $30.•

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t was certainly no secret to me that many women and their babies struggle with breastfeeding. Luckily, women are talking about it more which, in turn, seems to have led to a lot more support and understanding for those to whom breastfeeding does not come easily.

Being more aware made the process of preparing for my first baby that much easier.

Between parents, aunts, a sister-in-law, my midwife and nurse practitioner, I could forgo the panic of striking through the ridiculous amount of hits to “breastfeeding problems” on the internet by listening and perusing through the odd book.

I figured, before my little one was even born, on a plan of attack of sorts. I armed myself with knowledge, and I mentally and emotionally prepared myself for the endless possibilities that could occur. I was determined to be as relaxed as possible.

Isn’t that how it often goes? We have a vision of how we want and hope it to be?

So you know where this is going then, don’t you?!

I was familiar with the fact that each baby often has a “type” or “personality” that can explain their feeding habits. For example, you might get the “chronic dozer” (requiring finesse just to keep them awake long enough to get a full belly), the “tongue flicker” (requiring patience to keep them latched on), the “power sucker” (ouch), the “tooexcited-to-eat feeder,” the “snacker,” and if you’re lucky, the “barracuda eater”—a mother’s dream—the child who feeds anytime, anywhere. Oh yes, and if that wasn’t enough, you could get combinations of any and all of the above at any point.

That’s just the beginning. You might get a child who is sensitive to certain temperatures, or a certain degree of light, certain fabrics, certain sounds or presences…to name only a few possible challenges.

Then of course there are other complications: milk doesn’t come in, too much milk comes in and you are swollen beyond belief, sore nipples, infection, the dreaded “M” word (mastitis), which for some moms can lead to the inability to breastfeed altogether.

Let’s not forget the fact that once we have mastered (or managed) these complications,

then we have to begin (eventually) the process of weaning.

For you moms-to-be, I promise, I’m not trying to scare you. As daunting as it may sound, it’s all manageable and truly, there are lots of places to go for resources and support.

My daughter was a snacker and a total tongue flicker. After a few weeks, though, I resolved that it was just her way and we grew accustomed to our own unique schedule. The flicking eventually wore off once she got more practice. I managed to

I’m quickly learning that whatever expectation you have for the way things are ‘supposed’ to turn out, especially when it comes to your kids, be prepared for your expectations to be blown out of the water. avoid mastitis and any other infections that could have made nursing difficult. In every respect I had what seemed to be a fairly average child, with average problems that took average solutions and some patience.

That was until she hit about 11 months old.

I had a plan, you see. I heard the stories, I knew that weaning was a process, could take weeks, months…years even. I had conceived again once my daughter was nine months old so I had even prepared myself for possible tandem feeding. I was going to slowly start weaning her after her first birthday and see how it went. I figured I’d get it down to one feeding a day, in the morning. Then maybe I’d start skipping days, then only for comfort as needed. If I was lucky, maybe she’d be weaned before her sibling was born.

Anyone else notice the number of I’s that started off every one of those thoughts?

I was prepared for that child.

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At 11 months old, feeding had suddenly become quite the challenge. I would wake her up, and settle her down at the breast for a feed and she would become agitated. So I would try again in the afternoon to no avail.

I could not interest her. I could not get her to settle down to feed. I tried feeding her at all sorts of hours, for two weeks, I fought with her, confused at her sudden disinterest.

I reflected on the stories I’d heard, of the struggles women had in weaning their children at 16, 17, 18 months. I started reading about feeding strikes and looking for answers anywhere I could.

It was emotionally draining. I couldn’t understand what was happening. My daughter didn’t seem to be fitting my understanding of the process she was “supposed” to go through. Then I took a step back and realized that I was putting all this pressure on her, to feed, when clearly she was done.

Truth be told, I was heartbroken.

I had clearly missed the signs that now seem so obvious. And while I may not have been ready to stop feeding—or even begin to wean—she was. I wasn’t emotionally ready to break the bond that is formed so securely around mother and child during the breastfeeding months.

She had made this decision, and I had absolutely no control over it.

This wasn’t how it was supposed to happen. Everything that I had heard led me to believe I was in the long haul for breastfeeding.

Didn’t she need me anymore?

As time passed I realized that of course my daughter still needs me, she still crawls or walks to me when hurt, needs me to hold her when she cries, or just for a cuddle. I am still just as essential to her life as I was the day before.

The panic, the hurt, the broken-hearted feeling was quickly replaced with a feeling of pride. This was one little step to her growing up and that, after all, is the point, isn’t it?

I’m quickly learning that whenever I have an idea of how things are “supposed” to turn out, especially when it comes to my child, I need to be prepared for my expectations to be smashed. My first breastfeeding experience was not what I expected. It was, however, something that my daughter and I share that is uniquely our experience.

I have also learned that, whatever my experience was first time around, I am sure to be surprised with the next one.

Krista Minar, mother of one and expecting another, is constantly in search of balance. www.IslandParent.ca

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Reality Check

W

e dads don’t often admit it, but man, can this industry ever make us feel lousy. The parenting industry, that is. The one that portrays a mother gazing lovingly at her baby while father smiles knowingly across the room as he reads the paper, house blindingly clean, the feeling of love almost palpable as the father takes both his hands, puts his fingers together to form a heart, and stares at mom and baby through it, smiling like a maudlin madman.

How about the reality, where neither parent is sleeping, baby won’t stop screaming, house hasn’t been cleaned for weeks, relationships are strained, and you’d rather take those fingers and jam them in your ears? Sometimes, yup, that’s the reality. But admitting it is difficult when you’ve got one more ad campaign or book cover showing you how idyllic it is to have a baby, and making you feel like a heel. I’ve got a couple of little ones, myself; I know how it goes.

So, dads, let’s reclaim the chaos of having a kid. When our dads were dealing with us as babies, they weren’t bombarded with the advertising of an industry hell-bent on selling, well, everything to new parents.

Everything including a sense of perfection that isn’t always in stock, and a joy that is sometimes on back-order.

Being a dad means embracing that imperfection and making it yours. Having a baby is complete chaos for some people, while having a toddler is just the next stage in that chaos. One day, the house will be empty and the whirlwind of reckless forward-moving inertia that is children will be gone. Don’t look back and remember striving towards some false sense of calm that you saw in an ad for post-natal mom-and-dad yoga. (I’d prefer if you looked back and had no yogarelated memories whatsoever, but you can’t win ’em all, I suppose.) Own your mistakes, grow from them, but don’t let them define you or drag you down.

We all make mistakes; our fathers made mistakes and we’re just fine. Our fathers just didn’t have the collective conscience of the modern parenting industry looking at them disapprovingly as they barked at their kids having tantrums at the mall. But you better believe they did bark at their kids

having tantrums at the mall, just like I did the other day. (Pratt’s “Family Life Portraits I’d Like to See” #1: Exhausted dad barking at kid in mall who’s tantruming because he can’t go on one of those mall carousel rides.)

Dadspeak GReG PRatt My wife recently pointed out a blog post to me where another mom said she gave herself a time out—HERSELF A TIME OUT—instead of giving her tantruming kid a time out…and then felt bad for almost giving her kid a time out. In a culture where decisions like these are being published for all to read and for the culture at large to normalize, it’s easy to see why you can feel bad for living life at the end of your rope some days. But, remember, you’re only human, just like your father was only human.

Reclaim the chaos, make the imperfection yours. We’re men, we’re fathers, we’re human beings—we’re imperfect. Embrace the stress of having kids. Don’t let your mistakes chain you down: use them, grow from them. (Pratt’s “Family Life Portraits I’d Like to See” #2: A flustered dad carrying a screaming kid out of a restaurant under one arm, eyes locked in the thousand-mile stare.)

And, hey, if you’re one of the lucky ones who really did find some sense of inner zen and peace during the baby phase, then, good for you. Just promise me, as a man, that you’ll never, ever, ever do that “making a heart with your fingers” thing. Ever.

(Pratt’s “Family Life Portraits I’d Like to See” #3: Dad and kid locked in a loving, true embrace as a thousand advertisements that make real-life average Joe fathers feel like failures smolder to ash in the background.)

Greg Pratt is the father of two children and a local journalist and editor. His writing has appeared, among other places, in Today’s Parent, Wired, Revolver and Douglas.

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We provide support to families through: a Children’s Life Skills Program an Adult Community Inclusion Day Program and Summer Kids Day Camps in-line with the abilities of the kids.

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Family Calendar For calendar updates throughout the month visit www.kidsinvictoria.com FRI 2 First Friday Book Club at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Discuss great books, meet new friends and enjoy snacks. The Hobbit movie arrives in theatres on Dec 14. Read the book and discuss it before you see the film. Ages 11-14. 4-5pm. To register, call 250-656-0944.

SAT 3 Art with Heather: Old School Panoramas at Oak Bay Branch Library. Have fun and learn how to turn your own drawing into an old-school animated panorama. Artist Heather Cosidetto will provide the supplies and drawing tips. For ages 10-12. 10:30amnoon. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-592-2489 for more info.

SAT 3 & SUN 4 Friends of the Library Booksale at Pearkes Recreation Centre. Thousands of used books at great prices. Sat: 1-5pm, $5 early bird admission, 5-8pm, no admission fee. Sun: 9am-1pm, no admission fee, 1:15-3:15pm, all you can carry for $10. 3100 Tillicum Rd.

SUN 4 Nuts About Squirrels at Francis/King Regional Park. What animal leaps from towering trees and runs as fast as 20 km/hour? Drop in for squirrel day and join in the fun with puppet shows at 11:30am and 1:30pm, and walks at noon and 2pm. Meet at Francis/King Nature

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Centre off Munn Rd. 11am-3pm. All ages.

250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

WED 7 Play Again at Victoria Events Centre. What are the consequences of a childhood removed from nature? Come watch the film Play Again, and join a panel discussion. $10-$20 donation, at the door only. Doors open at 5:30pm.

THURS 8 For the Birds! at Central Branch Library. Flock to the library for a “tweet” storytime filled with stories, songs and rhymes about birds.

Make your own birdfeeder and learn some bird-feeding tips. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 10:30-11:30am. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-382-7241, ext.

365 for more info.

Musical Storytime at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. Come make some marvelous music!

Timothy from the Victoria Conservatory of Music will explore the fun of music-making with instruments and voice in this interactive musical storytime. For ages 0-5; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 11:30amnoon. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-391-0653 for more info.

Author Gary Kent & Illustrator Kim LaFave: Gubby Builds a Boat at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Gubby is a West Coast fisherman in need of a new boat. Follow his adventures through each stage of the boat

building process, then practice drawing graphic novel-style illustrations with award-winning illustrator Kim LaFave. For Grades 2-4 and great for homeschoolers too. 1:15-2:30pm.

Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250477-9030 for more info.

FRI 9 Lego at the Library: Tallest Lego Challenge at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Like stories and Lego? Then this is the program for you.

We’ll supply the Lego and you will use your imagination to construct your own crazy creation to display at the library. For a project to take home, bring your own Lego. For ages 6-10. 3:30-4:30pm. Register online at www. gvpl.ca or call 250-727-0104 for more info.

SAT 10 Spectacular Spiders at Island View Beach Regional Park. Join CRD Regional Parks guest naturalists Claudia and Darren Copley on a seaside expedition searching for spiders that make the beach logs and shore their home.

Meet at picnic shelter off Homathko Rd, off Island View Rd at 10am. 5+ years. 250-4783344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Paper Crafts for Kids: Budding Blooms at Emily Carr Branch Library. Fold, cut, curl and twirl. Join us at the library for fun with stories and paper art activities. Create your very own magical masterpiece to take home using a few simple art supplies. For ages 6-9.

10:30-11:30am. Register online at www.gvpl. ca or call 250-475-6100 for more info.

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Mill Hill Story Stroll at Mill Hill Regional Park.

Join Liz Crocker, CRD Regional Parks guest naturalist and author of A Cultural History of Three Regional Parks, to explore the cultural and natural landscape of Mill Hill. Meet at info kiosk in parking lot off Atkins Ave at 1pm. 12+ years. BC Transit #50 or #53. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

SUN 11 Saanich Remembrance Day Ceremony at Saanich Municipal Hall. Join Mayor Frank Leonard and Council in a silent moment of remembrance for the men and women who have served, and continue to serve, our country during times of war, conflict and peace. 11am.

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WED 14 Fancy Nancy Party at Oak Bay Branch Library.

OOO-la-la! Come celebrate in style with stupendous stories and activities. Dress up in your fancy best—the more accessories the better! For ages 3-5. 10:30-11:30am. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-592-2489.

Lucy and Todd’s Excellent Adventure: A Puppet Show at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Join our puppets Lucy and Todd for stories and laughter as they explore the world of critters both big and small. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. No registration required. 3:30-4:30pm. 250-477-9030.

THURS 15 Musical Storytime at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. See THURS 8 for details. For ages 0-5; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 11:30am-noon. Register online at www. gvpl.ca or call 250-391-0653 for more info.

Baby and Toddler Basics at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Parents and babies are invited to a visit from a Peninsula Health Unit nurse.

The nurse will answer all your questions, measure and weigh your baby, and discuss topics such as immunization, growth and development, and successful nursing. Join us half an hour before Baby and Toddler Basics

for songs and rhymes at Drop-in Baby Time.

No registration required. 11:30am-12:30pm.

250-727-0104.

Putting the “I” Back in Parenting at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Discover the hierarchy of parenting needs and enjoy a renewed sense of optimism, value and connection. Renee Lindstrom will incorporate the teachings of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and his work on Nonviolent Communication to explore the role of autonomy and its benefits to the wellbeing of your family relationships. A letter of completion will be provided upon request at the end of the workshop. For adults. 6:308:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-477-7111 for more info.

Pre-Diabetes: An Opportunity to Change Your Future at Oak Bay Beach Hotel. Hosted by Bob McDonald of CBC’s Quirks & Quarks.

Features Dr. Galina Smushkin, Endocrinologist, Metabolism Specialist (recently arrived from the Mayo Clinic). 7-9pm. $25. Proceeds to Camp Homewood family subsidy program.

FRI 16 Author Beryl Young: Follow the Elephant at Esquimalt and Oak Bay Branch Libraries.

Award-winning book Follow the Elephant tells the story of Ben and his grandmother on a quest across India and is based on the author’s real-life adventures in India and her love for elephants. During her program, Beryl will inspire you to use your own life experiences to write stories. For Grades 4-7, and great for homeschoolers too. Esquimalt: 10:30-11:30am, 250-414-7198; Oak Bay: 1:30-2:30pm, 250-592-2489. Register online, www.gvpl.ca.

SAT 17 Annual Craft Sale at Cloverdale Traditional School. Support over 45 local artisans and crafters. Stop by Mrs. Claus’ Kitchen for a hot drink or meal and some delicious baking.

There are crafts, games, a cupcake walk and face-painting on Candy Lane. 10am-4pm.

Admission by donation. For more info, check www.sd61.bc.ca/school/cloverdale.

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Magic of Christmas Gift Fair at Burnside Gorge Community Centre. Jump start your gift-giving season. Enjoy creative crafts, talented artisans, seasonal sounds and an on-site café. 10am-4pm. $2/person. 471 Cecelia Rd. 250-388-5251. www.burnsidegorge.ca.

Marvelous Mushrooms at Francis/King Regional Park. For the novice mushroom explorer, join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to discover more about fungi in the forest. 5+ years. 10:30am-noon and 1-3:30pm. $7 + HST. Pre-registration required by NOV 16. Space is limited. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Tween Lego Competition at Central Branch Library. Bring your own Lego sets for an allout Lego building competition at the library.

You will have one hour to build your craziest, coolest and most creative Lego invention. At the end of the hour, library staff judges will award one inventive tween a Lego prize. For ages 10-12. 2:30-3:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-382-7241, ext. 365 for more info.

SUN 18 Mystery Creature at Francis/King Regional Park. With the help of a CRD Regional Parks naturalist, solve riddles to find clues hidden along the trail. At the end, we will piece the puzzle together to discover who the mystery creature is. Meet at the Witty’s Lagoon Nature Centre off Metchosin Rd at 1pm. 5+ years.

250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

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Family Sunday: Back to the Land at the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria. Explore the work of local potters with hands-on activities and demos. 2-4pm. 1040 Moss St. www.aggv.ca.

Information Session at Choices Adoption. A great way to start learning about adoption.

Find out about the process and programs available, locally and internationally. A family will also be there to share their adoption experience.

2-4pm. 100-850 Blanshard St. 1-888-4799811 or choices@choicesadoption.ca.

MON 19 Victoria Children’s Literature Roundtable at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Beryl Young will present the topic One Writer’s Life, and talk about her most recent book Follow the Elephant, a richly colourful, adventure-packed novel that keeps you turning page after page, while the sights, sounds and flavours of India permeate the senses. Doors open 7pm. Browse the Cadboro Bay Books table before the meeting at 7:30pm. Open to the public. New members and drop-ins welcome. Members free; $5/drop-in; $4/student. Info, 250-598-3694.

TUES 20 Art Explorers with Andrea Soos at Oak Bay Branch Library. Art instructor Andrea Soos will delight young children and their caregivers with a hands-on introduction to colour, shape and

form with paint and paper. Be sure to wear your painting clothes! For ages 24-36 months and caregivers. 10:30-11:30am. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-592-2489.

WED 21 Guys’ Night Out—A Bedtime Storytime at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Calling dads, stepdads, granddads, uncles… bring the kids you love to a special storytime before they go to bed. Join us for stories, puppets, fingerplays and songs. Pajamas and a favourite stuffy or blanket are welcome, but optional.

For children newborn to 5 years. 6:30-7pm.

Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250477-9030.

THURS 22 Musical Storytime at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. See THURS 8 for details. For ages 0-5; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 11:30am-noon. Register online at www. gvpl.ca or call 250-391-0653 for more info.

Goldstream Preschool Live and Silent Auction Fundraiser at the Longhouse Pub. Bid on dozens of items/gift certificates and support your local community preschool. Free admission; must be 19+ for entry. Cash, credit, debit and cheque accepted. 6-9pm. See ad on page 31 for more details.

FRI 23 Lego at the Library at Saanich Centennial and Juan de Fuca Branch Libraries. Like stories and Lego? Then this is the program for you.

We’ll supply the Lego, and you will use your imagination to construct your own crazy creation to display at the library. For a project to take home, bring your own Lego. For ages 6-10. Saanich Centennial: 10:30-11:30am, 250-477-9030; Juan de Fuca: 1:30-2:30pm, 250-391-0653. Register online at www.gvpl. ca or call the hosting branch for more info.

Art with Karen: Flip Books at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Flip books can be funny or serious, but they are always interesting. Artist Karen Hibbard will teach you how to illustrate a flip book of mix-and-match creatures or people based on your own ideas. For ages 6-10.

2-3:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-477-7111 for more info.

Stamp Scavenger Hunt at Emily Carr Branch Library. Join local stamp enthusiasts for an introduction to stamp collecting. Be prepared to be amazed at how many stamps you’ll see at one time. You’ll hear about stamps, stamp clubs, library resources and participate in a stamp treasure hunt. For ages 6-10. 2:303:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-475-6100 for more info.

Shadow Puppet Magic at Central Branch Library. Enter the world of enchanted shadows at the library. Enjoy a shadow puppet play and then learn to make your own. For ages 6-9. 3-4pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call the 250-382-7241, ext. 365 for more info.

Story Club at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library.

Listen to stories, talk about your favourite books and enjoy fun activities. Snacks included.

This club is for kids who love stories regardless of reading ability. For ages 5-8. 3:30-4:30pm.

Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250727-0104 for more info.

6th Annual Mustard Seed & Sidney Lions Food Bank Fundraiser at the Saanichton Friendship Community Church. Join Barney Bentall’s Grand Cariboo Opry in support of two local food banks. 7pm. $30. 7820 Central Saanich Rd.

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Art with Karen: Drawing Sounds at Central Branch Library. Use sounds, pastels, markers, coloured pencils and your imagination to create a unique origami art book. Artist Karen Hibbard will provide instructions while recordings of animal noises and other sound effects will inspire you to create. For ages 6-10.

10:30am-noon. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-382-7241, ext. 365 for more info.

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Kids Mega Sale at Pearkes Rec Centre. Gently used baby and children’s clothing, toys, equipment and maternity. 9:30am-12:30pm. 3100 Tillicum Road.

Is expanding to make room for your child!

Our temporary location is 600 Richmond Ave.

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Forever Green at Francis/King Regional Park. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to learn more about the lives and uses of our evergreens, and warm up with a sip of forest tea. Meet at Francis/King Nature Centre off Munn Rd at 1pm. 8+ years. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Crafts for Tweens: Smoldering Scepters at Emily Carr Branch Library. Create wonderous wands, stunning scepters and brilliant batons using everyday objects. When you are finished, you will be able to light up the night with your design. For kids aged 10-12.

2-3:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-475-6100 for more info.

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6th Annual Mustard Seed & Sidney Lions Food Bank Fundraiser at First Metropolitan Church. Join Barney Bentall’s Grand Cariboo Opry in support of two local food banks. 7pm. $30. 932 Balmoral Rd.

SUN 25 Winter Birds of Witty’s at Witty’s Lagoon Regional Park. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to find out who’s who at the lagoon, a favourite bird hangout. Bring binoculars if you have a pair. A spotting scope is provided.

Meet at Witty’s Lagoon Nature Centre off Metchosin Rd at 10am. 9+ years. BC Transit #54 or #55. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Slug Day at Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary. Licorice or banana? Which is your favourite slug? Join us in a celebration of all things slimy. Crafts, songs and a slug safari.

Fun for the whole family. Noon-3pm. Admission by donation. Info, 250-479-0211 or www. swanlake.bc.ca.

MON 26 Paper Crafts for Kids: Origami at Esquimalt Branch Library. Fold, cut, curl and twirl. Join us at the library for fun with stories and paper art activities. Create your very own magical masterpiece to take home using a few simple art supplies. For ages 10-12. 3-4pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-414-7198 for more info.

Jazz Minors at Juan de Fuca Branch Library.

Experience the magical world of jazz. Timothy from the Victoria Conservatory of Music will explore improvisation and experimentation with recorders, bass, piano, xylophones and percussion in this fun-filled program. For ages 8-11. 4-4:45pm. Register online at www.gvpl. ca or call 250-391-0653 for more info.

My Body is An Instrument at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. The human body is amazing, but did you know your body could also be an instrument? Timothy from the Victoria Conservatory of Music will explore musical timing and basic to advanced rhythms in this

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Fri. December 21 7 PM Sat. December 22 1 PM A magical full-length ballet that delights audiences of all ages Tickets: $23 | Family (2 adult/2 children): $70 COWICHAN TICKET CENTRE 250.748.7529 2687 James Street, Duncan BC V9L 2X5

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Christmas Goody Contest Send us the recipe for your family’s favourite CHRISTMAS GOODY and we’ll enter your name into the draw for a $50 gift certificate to your favourite bakery.

A selection of recipes will be printed in the December issue of Island Parent.

Please e-mail recipes (with Christmas Recipe in the subject) to editor@islandparent.ca or mail to: Christmas Recipe, c/o Island Parent Magazine, Suite A-10, 830 Pembroke Street, Victoria, B.C. V8T 1H9.

Deadline: Monday, November 12th at noon.

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hands-on program. For ages 8-11. 5-5:45pm.

Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250391-0653 for more info.

WED 28 Story Club: Winter Celebration Stories at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. Listen to stories, talk about your favourite books and enjoy fun activities. Snacks included! This club is for kids who love stories regardless of reading ability. For ages 5-8. 3:30-4:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-391-0653.

FRI 30 Science Venture: Imagineering at Esquimalt Branch Library. Put on your engineering hat for a hands-on design challenge. You’ll have an imaginary budget and work against the clock to build a top-secret project. All you need is your creativity. For ages 8-12. 2-3:30pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-414-7198.

Story Club at Central Branch Library. See FRI 23 for more details. For ages 5-8. 3:30-4:30pm.

Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-382-7241, ext 365.

ONGOING BABIES, TODDLERS & PRESCHOOL Drop-in Storytimes for Babies, Toddlers and Families at the Greater Victoria Public Library.

Caregivers are welcome and encouraged to participate. Storytimes are free and drop-in.

Please come early to find a space. For a complete schedule of programs, visit www.gvpl. ca or call your local branch.

Parent/Tot Drop-in at Gordon Head United Church. A safe place where young children can play while parents in the community connect with each other. Lots of space and toys. Tea or coffee is available for caregivers, and a healthy snack for the children. Parents are responsible for the care of their own children. Mondays 10am-noon. More info call the church office at 250-477-4142, or Maisie at 250-477-0388.

Kindergym and Parent and Tot Time at Burnside Campus Gymnasium. Ride-on toys, climbers, slides, balls, hoops and various sports equipment. The program includes free play, organized games and circle time. Best suited for ages 2-4 years, but all children under 5 years are welcome. Parent participation required.

Free. 3130 Jutland Rd. 250-388-5251. www. burnsidegorge.ca.

Drop-in Toddler Time at Lansdowne Preschool. A great place to play and discover. For children ages 0-4. Wednesdays 3:30-4:45pm.

1468 Ryan St. 250-595-5223. www.lansdownepreschool.com.

Toddler Art at Burnside Gorge Community Centre. Explore your creative side. Smocks and soap provided, but please dress children in

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clothing that they can get messy and be creative in. Parent participation required. $2/drop-in.

Wednesdays, 9:30am-10:30am. 471 Cecelia Rd. 250-388-5251. www.burnsidegorge.ca.

Rhyme Time at the Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Bring your littlest ones to the library for stories, songs, rhymes and movement. Stay for a social time and refreshments.

Ages 0-5. Thursdays until NOV 22, 10:1510:45am. To register, 250-656-0944.

Children Unravelling Research at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Come prepared with a topic of study, learn or review research techniques, and then use both print and online sources to research your topic. Have fun sharing the results with other homelearners. Submit your topic to Children’s Librarian Phyllis Dalton to guarantee adequate sources. For ages 5-12.

Fridays 2:30-3:30pm. Register online at www. gvpl.ca. More info, 250-477-9030.

Reading Buddies: Little Buddies at Bruce Hutchison, Nellie McClung and Saanich Centennial Branch Libraries. Does your child need a little help with reading? Reading Buddies provides reading practice, literacy-based activities and fun with volunteer teen Big Buddies. For children in Grades 1-4. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call the hosting branch for more information. Program runs Saturdays until DEC 8, 2-3pm or 3:30-4:30pm.

Bruce Hutchison: 250-727-0104; Nellie McClung: 250-477-7111; Saanich Centennial: 250-477-9030.

Sea-Shirt Sundays at the Shaw Ocean Discovery Centre. On the first Sunday of each month, create your own fish fashion. Be sure to bring a pillow case, cloth bag or t-shirt (or purchase a t-shirt from the centre) and your creativity. $2 donation for fabric paint. 1-4pm.

250-665-7511.

YOUTH Advance Reading Copy (ARC) Club at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Be the first to get all the new books. Get an exclusive copy of a book before it comes out in stores or hits the library shelves. Review it online and you get to keep the free book. For ages 13-18. Info, contact teens@gvpl.ca.

Reading Buddies: Teen Volunteers at Bruce Hutchison, Nellie McClung and Saanich Centennial Branch Libraries. If you like working with children, enjoy reading, are a fluent English speaker and want to help emerging readers, we need you! Reading Buddies teen volunteers mentor children in Grades 1-4 with reading practice, literacy-based activities and fun. We provide training and, upon completion, a reference letter outlining your volunteer hours. First-time volunteers, please complete a Teen Volunteer Referral Form at www.gvpl.ca. For ages 13-18. Program runs

on Saturdays until DEC 8, 1:45-3pm or 3:154:30pm. Bruce Hutchison: 250-727-0104; Nellie McClung: 250-477-7111; Saanich Centennial: 250-477-9030.

FAMILIES Ready to Rent BC offers a free course to help find and keep a rental home. Six-week courses run at different times, days and locations. We help renters identify and deal with any barriers they may have to housing. Includes bus tickets, childminding and a healthy snack. To sign up, call 250-388-7171. readytorentbc.net.

Harmonious Family Singers & Choir. A great way for families to sing, laugh and play together. Kids, teens and adults join voices.

All voices and ages welcome. First-timers are invited to try a no-audition session any Monday afternoon or evening. For details www. harmoniousfamilychoir.com, sing@harmoniousfamilychoir.com or 250-385-SING (7464).

Parent Sports Drop-in at James Bay Community School Centre. Parents need time to have fun and get back in touch with their inner child.

Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursday, 7-9pm. $3.50/person. www.jamesbaycentre.ca.

Cook Street Village Sing-a-long at the Cook Street Village Activity Centre. Lyrics on-screen and a piano/sax duo support the fun of singing for all. Tuesdays 10:30am-noon. $1.75 for members and $3.50 for non-members (memberships available). 380 Cook St. The Victoria Good News Choir, directed by Louise Rose, welcomes you and your family to sing with us for the joy of singing. We are a non-audition community choir for all ages in which friendship and support are present in abundance. Rehearsals for the new season begin Tuesday, JAN 8, 2013, 7:30pm at Cordova Bay United Church. For more info, 250-658-1946, www.victoriagoodnewschoir. com, email info@victoriagoodnewschoir.com.

Weekly Bird Walk at Swan Lake Nature Sanctuary (meet in the parking lot). Every Wednesday and Sunday noon-3pm.

Wonder Sunday at the Royal BC Museum.

Bring your family on the last Sunday of each month for activities and explorations inspired by different parts of the museum. Make crafts, join special tours, and let your imagination wander away with you. Suitable for children ages 3-12 years old and is included with admission or free with membership. www. royalbcmuseum.bc.ca.

Hillside Partners with Women in Need. Pick up a complimentary Women in Need (WIN) clothing bag at Customer Service and fill it with your gently worn clothing or fashion accessories. At your convenience, return your WIN bag to Hillside Customer Service.

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Around the Island

Visit www.IslandParent.ca for these and other events and resources for families from Cowichan Valley north to Campbell River and west to Tofino

SAT 24 Jersey Skate at the Arena at Oceanside Place Arena, Parksville. How fast is your slap shot?

The radar gun will show you how fast you are.

Wear your favourite team jersey and have your name entered in a draw. 2-3:30pm. Regular admission and skate rentals. 250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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Tots Movie Night Out at Bowen Complex. Are you a parent wanting to take your child out for a movie, but are worried about disrupting the audience? Bring your little one out for a movie and get them used to sitting in an environment much like a movie theatre. Popcorn and drinks included, and parents are free. 6-7:45pm. $5/ child. 250-756-5200.

Pro-D Day Everyone Welcome Skate at Oceanside Place, Parksville. School is out, but skating is in. 1:30-3pm. Regular admission and skate rentals. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

Festival of Lights in Ladysmith. Spaghetti dinner, Light-Up Parade, family entertainment, fireworks, craft fair and much more. Free.

250-245-2263.

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Christmas Fair at Sunrise Waldorf, Duncan.

Olde fashioned fun for the whole family.

Activities and games for kids, delicious food and drink, live music, artisan marketplace, raffles, silent auction, baked goods and lots of community spirit. More info, 250-743-7253 or www.sunrisewaldorfschool.org.

Gone in 60 Seconds at Bowen Complex. Taken from the popular TV show “Minute to Win It,” enjoy a series of activities and games that will certainly be entertaining. Each session will feature different activities, games and prizes for those who can complete them. 6-7:30pm. $8. 250-756-5200.

Rescue Rangers Challenge at Nanaimo Aquatic Centre. Join the aquatic leaders for some fun rescue activities, build a rescue boat, and learn some new skills. 2-4pm. 250-756-5200.

ONGOING

SAT 3 Silly About Salamanders at Bowen Park.

Who loves wet, rainy weather? Salamanders!

Join amphibian biologist Elke Wind in an exploration of the wonderful world of salamanders. Learn about what a salamander is, where they live and what they eat. Look for hidden salamander homes and the bugs that fill a salamander’s belly. If you’re lucky, you may get to see live salamanders. 10-11am. $8.

250-756-5200.

TUES 6 Silly About Salamanders at Bowen Park. See WED 3 for details. 10-11am. $8. 250-7565200.

Dads and Kids Skate Night at The Pond, Parksville. This free skate activity for dads and kids is sponsored by Building Learning Together. 6:30-7:30pm. 250-248-3252. www. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

WED 7 Glow in the Dark Skate at Nanaimo Ice Centre.

Skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Glow necklaces $2. Regular admission. 6:30-8pm. 250-756-5200.

FRI 9 Old School Gamer’s Night at Cowichan Neighbourhood House. A trip down memory lane with Atari, Sega and the original Nintendo. For 12- to 18-year-olds. 7-10pm. 250-246-3203.

SAT 10 Princess Family Swim at Ravensong Aquatic Centre, Parksville. Bring your preschoolers to this swim. All games and fun will be centered around the fall season. 10am-noon. 250-7525014. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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Teen Glow in the Dark Skate at Oceanside Place, Parksville. Break out all your glow goodies and join us at the rink for a colourful hour of skating. Everyone will receive a free glow bracelet. 6:45-8:15pm. Regular admission rates. 250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.

WED 21 Coastal Community Credit Union Parksville Branch Sponsored Skate at Oceanside Place.

Join your friends for a skate. 3:45-5:15pm.

Free admission, skate rental fees apply. 250248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

Glow in the Dark Skate at Nanaimo Ice Centre.

Skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Glow necklaces $2. Regular admission. 6:30-8pm. 250-756-5200.

FRI 23 Pro-D Day Everyone Welcome Skate at Oceanside Place, Parksville. School is out, but skating is in. 1:30-3pm. Regular admission and skate rentals. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

Teen Pizza Movie and Skate at Fuller Lake Arena, Cowichan. Come watch the Avengers. For youth 11-17 years. 4:15-8:15pm.

250-246-3811.

Dive in Movie Night at Ravensong Aquatic Centre, Parksville. This night is just what the teen ordered. The pool will be transformed into a movie theatre with inflatable seating for you to view the movie. 7-9pm. Free. 250752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

PRESCHOOL LaFF at the Aggie is a drop-in family & friends resource program for children ages 0-6 and their parents, grandparents or caregivers. Play area, free clothing exchange, food programs, free coffee and tea. Monday to Friday, 9:30amnoon. $2 suggested donation (punch cards available). 250-210-0870, laffcoordinator@ shaw.ca, www.familyandfriends.ca.

Children Parent & Child Hockey at Nanaimo Ice Centre.

A fun, non-competitive hockey time for children where their parents can play too. Please bring your own gloves, stick, and helmet with face cage. Pre-registration required. Sundays 5:15-6pm. $5. 250-756-5200.

YOUTH Spare Blox Youth Drop-in in Nanaimo is a supervised space to hang out and chill. For youth 12-17, with regular gym activities, video games, movies, foosball, air hockey and much more. Free, but you must register.

7-9pm. Mondays, Nanaimo District Secondary School; Tuesdays, Oliver Woods Community Centre; Wednesdays, John Barsby Community School. 250-756-5200.

FAMILY Lion’s and Save-On-Foods Family Skate at Oceanside Place Arena. Free admission and skate rentals. Children under 19 years must be accompanied by an adult. Pond hockey not available. Sundays in November. Free.

250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.•

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Choosing Dental Products for Kids Child, Youth & Family Community Health South Island Health Units Esquimalt 250-519-5311 Gulf Islands 250-539-3099 (toll-free number for office in Saanichton)

Peninsula 250-544-2400 Saanich 250-519-5100 Saltspring Island 250-538-4880 Sooke 250-642-5464 Victoria 250-388-2200 West Shore 250-519-3490

Central Island Health Units Duncan 250-709-3050 Ladysmith 250-755-3342 Lake Cowichan 250-749-6878 Nanaimo 250-755-3342 Nanaimo Princess Royal 250-755-3342 Parksville/Qualicum 250-947-8242 Port Alberni 250-731-1315 Tofino 250-725-4020

North Island Health Units Campbell River 250-850-2110 Courtenay 250-331-8520 Kyuquot Health Ctr 250-332-5289 ‘Namgis Health Ctr 250-974-5522 Port Hardy 250-902-6071

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here’s a lot of discussion about how to prevent cavities in children’s teeth.

Basic care includes a parent or caregiver brushing children’s teeth twice a day with fluoride toothpaste and flossing daily once their teeth touch. However, it can be confusing to choose between the many oral care products on the market today. Following are some simple guidelines around appropriate dental care products to use for kids.

Toothbrushes Gently brushing teeth helps remove plaque and food that is stuck to the teeth.

• Use a toothbrush with a small head to fit a child’s mouth.

• Ultra soft or soft bristles are gentle on the gums but still able to remove plaque and food.

• Power toothbrushes may motivate some children to brush but they aren’t necessary. Recently, some power toothbrushes have been recalled by Health Canada because they came apart in the mouth or shorted out.

Before your child uses a power toothbrush, check that the head is securely attached and there are no loose pieces.

Fluoride Toothpaste Fluoride helps protect teeth from cavities and is a recommended ingredient in toothpaste. Fluoride isn’t added to our water supply so using toothpaste containing fluoride to strengthen and protect teeth is recommended for all ages. If you use well water, it can be tested for fluoride.

• Parents need to be aware that many “baby” toothpastes do not offer the protection of fluoride and often cost more than regular toothpaste. As soon as teeth appear, the Canadian and BC Dental Associations, as well as the World Health Organization, advise that it is safe for children to use fluoride toothpaste as long as it’s the correct amount.

• Fluoride toothpaste for children contains the same concentration of fluoride as adult toothpaste. According to the Canadian Dental Association (CDA), the safe, appropriate amount of fluoride toothpaste is: For children under 3 years: an amount the size of a grain of rice.

For children over 3 years or those who do not swallow toothpaste: an amount the size of a green pea • The CDA’s seal of approval should be on the tube of toothpaste used.

• Children often prefer toothpaste that is mild or sweet. Toothpaste does not contain decay-causing sugar but does have other

sweeteners to make it more palatable and prevent it from drying out and hardening.

The most common sweeteners are xylitol, sorbitol or glycerin. Xylitol is a natural sweetener that helps prevent tooth decay.

• Toothpastes may also have added whitening, desensitizing, tartar-control, breath freshening or anti-bacterial ingredients.

When you see the Canadian Dental Association (CDA) seal of approval on a tube of toothpaste check to see what it is approving. It may be approving the fluoride in the toothpaste—not the added ingredients.

Some of these additional ingredients have not been tested for safety or effectiveness on children and are not recommended for youngsters.

• For safety, store all toothpaste out of reach of children and monitor how much toothpaste is being used.

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Floss When children’s teeth start touching sideby-side, toothbrush bristles can’t reach in between them anymore. Floss is needed to clear food and plaque from between teeth once per day. Before bed is the best time.

• String-type floss or floss sticks can be used. Try a see-saw motion with the floss to ease it between the teeth and avoid damag-

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ing the gums. Parents often find it easiest to floss their child’s teeth when the child’s head is supported and they are lying down.

• Waxed floss usually slides between the teeth more easily than un-waxed floss.

Emmanuel Preschool

2121 Cedar Hill Cross Road (by entrance to UVic)

Openings this Fall 2012–2013 Classes!

Children learn through play in our nondenominational Christian preschool. Bright attractive setting with competent and caring staff.

Two teachers with ECE certification plus assistant teachers with each teacher bringing their own strengths to the team.

Opportunities available: Mon/Wed/Fri morning class Tues/Thurs morning class Phone 250-598-0573 preschool@emmanuelvictoria.ca

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Mouth Rinse Mouthwash is used by adults for different reasons but children don’t need mouthwash for good oral health. Basic brushing with fluoride toothpaste and flossing will protect their teeth.

• When children can spit, you may choose to purchase mouthwash for your children.

Only alcohol-free mouth rinse should be considered.

• Mouth rinses that show where plaque is on the teeth can be used by children who are able to spit the rinse out completely. These may help motivate older children to brush but are not necessary.

Other basic tips for keeping children’s teeth cavity free: • Children need parent’s help to brush their teeth properly until they are eight years old.

• Make brushing fun to encourage good oral care.

• Offer tooth healthy snacks like fresh fruit and vegetables, cheese, nuts and foods that are not sweet or sticky.

• Give water for thirst between meals.

Juice, even diluted juice, can cause cavities.

• Regular visits to the dentist should start around one year of age.

If you have any questions or need help finding a dentist, please call your local Health Unit.

Denise Baillet, RDH, is a dental hygienist with the Vancouver Island Health Authority Child, Youth and Family Dental Program in Victoria. www.IslandParent.ca

UKRAINIAN CHARACTER DANCE

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artistic director: Lisa Hall

Ukrainian classes for boys and girls on weekdays or Saturday.

Creative Movement classes with Lori Hamar for 18 months to 5 years old.

Adult classes for basic and advanced levels.

Check out classes and schedule online.

3277 Douglas Street 250.475.1174

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Goldstream Co-op Preschool’s Annual Live & Silent Auction November 22, 6–9pm at the Loghouse Pub, 2323 Millstream Rd • Dozens of items and gift certificates to bid on • Open to the public: 19+ • The Preschool’s largest fundraiser: 100% of the proceeeds go to the preschool.

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cup raisins (optional) cup fresh parsley, finely chopped 1⁄2 cup feta cheese, crumbled 1 cup quinoa 1 cup fresh or frozen green beans, cut into bite-sized lengths Toast walnuts in large, non-stick saucepan over medium heat for five minutes, or until

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veryone needs to eat, and not every food will do for everyone. Whether from necessity or design, dietary requirements vary greatly from person to person, no matter how close they are in other ways. This can make cooking for a family an exercise in ingenuity, or a recipe for frustration, depending on how hungry the crowds are, and how tired the cook is. People who are eating a vegetarian or vegan diet need to be sure that they are incorporating complete protein into their diets. Proteins are the building blocks for the human body: young children need adequate protein to grow.

My daughter has increasingly moved away from meat, drifting through phases of pollopescatarian-ism, to simple pescatarian-ism, to vegetarianism, around again to allowing the fishes back in. My son would eat meat with meat sauce all day, every day, if his digestive tract would permit. I tend to lean a bit to the veggie side of the spectrum, and my husband has driftings the other way. I love to cook,

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and family mealtimes are very important to me. Oh yes, and I work full time, and prefer to eat before midnight, generally. Enter the multi-purpose side-dish, allowing a complete protein when eaten alone, and an extra bit of fiber and veggies to mix with the flesh for those who are living the omnivore dream. In warmer weather, whole grains make delicious salad bases, stirred together with beans, vegetables, and an Asian or Tex-Mex dressing.

When seasons change, heat the same sort of flavours up and call it a casserole, instead of a salad. Big batches work for lunchtimes and leftovers, too, and you’re set!

Just Eat It! Kathy Humphrey fragrant. Remove to a small bowl. Add oil to pan, and heat. Cook onion and cinnamon until onion is tender, stirring, then add yam. Pour broth over and bring to a boil. Cover, reduce heat, and simmer until quinoa is cooked and yams are tender (about 15 min). Return to a boil, and add green beans: cook another five minutes or until tender-crisp. Stir in raisins, remove from heat, and fluff with a fork. Empty into a serving bowl, sprinkle with feta, walnuts and parsley. (Whole wheat couscous can be substituted for the quinoa, if desired.)

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Warm Quinoa Salad 2 Tbsp olive oil 3 green onions, finely chopped 1 red pepper, diced 1 clove garlic, minced 1 cup frozen corn kernels salt and pepper, to taste 1 Tbsp chili powder 1 tsp ground cumin 1⁄2 tsp crushed chili flakes 1 tin black beans, drained and rinsed 2 cups vegetable stock 1 cup quinoa 1 avocado, diced Bring stock to boil in medium saucepan.

Stir in quinoa and simmer for 15–20 minutes, or until cooked. Meanwhile, heat large skillet over medium heat. Add oil, then onions, pepper, garlic, and corn. Season with salt, pepper, and chili flakes. Cook for five or 10 minutes (until tender). When quinoa has been cooked, fluff with fork then scoop into serving bowl.

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Stir in beans, then tomatoes, and finally stock.

Bring to boil, then reduce heat to simmer. Cook until rice is almost tender (about 35 min). Stir in spinach. Add more stock, or some water, if needed. Serve with bowls of sour cream, salsa, and grated cheese to sprinkle over, if desired.

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used to believe books were innocent enough. They seemed a classic component of a happy childhood, and therefore have always been essential to our routine. From the time Zoe was tiny, we read story after story—her downy head snuggled up under my chin, her fat little fingers pointing to the pictures. When she grew to be a toddler, we would find her on the potty “reading” one of Daddy’s magazines upside-down, or sitting with a row of her stuffies, reciting a storybook to them from memory.

Despite my bumbling efforts to “teach” her to read, one day she simply picked up a page and away she went. This simple skill, one I take for granted every day, changed her world. For Zoe, learning to read marked a shift from passenger to enlightened traveler in life. And I can now list the trouble reading creates.

You see, once a kid can read, parental editing power is severely hindered. For instance, I can no longer bypass a word—or a paragraph—here and there to expedite the bedtime stories. Nor can I skip over a pas-

sage I dislike. I get caught out by little eyes following along, and reprimanded severely: “Mama! You missed that part about them chopping off the Swan Princess’s head!”

Similarly, you can forget about spelling things you don’t want the little ones to hear.

Trying to talk to my husband about whether we should go to the P-O-O-L or try for an N-A-P after lunch becomes impossible when she is listening and slowly piecing together the words, suddenly privy to all our codes.

And then there is the never-ending, unquenchable flow of information. We have practically been extended frequent flyer cards at the library, so great is Zoe’s appetite for knowledge. She devours books like candy, memorizing facts at an incredible pace. Groggily trying to operate the coffee grinder, I am informed that a rhino has such bad eyesight it might run right over a human. Shoving laundry into the dryer, I learn that a sloth stays still for so long algae may turn its skin green. And did I know that a blue whale’s heart is the size of a small car? Or that the aggressive red squirrel will frequently take

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over a grey squirrel’s territory? In the car, she shouts multiple choice quizzes from the back seat, offended that I am too distracted—you know, trying to drive safely—to correctly guess any of the answers.

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SARAH MILLIGAN Yes, reading creates some real issues. But far and above, my biggest beef is this: books have replaced me as the chief authority on the way of the world. All of a sudden, my knowledge seems to hold no water. I know nothing about the migration habits of monarch butterflies, can never recall where the platypus was first discovered, and am generally unfamiliar with the characteristics of the green anaconda—which, by the way, can weigh as much as a lion.

You see, my capacity for information maxed out years ago, thanks to my kids.

Birthday plans, dietary preferences, and which pair of booties the baby will not try to eat—these facts juggle for space alongside grocery lists, dental appointments, and whose pants are getting too short. Then there are phone numbers, bake sale dates, and the lastseen whereabouts of the Lego jeep towing a trailer full of Lite-Brite pieces—under the couch in the living room, if you’re wondering. Yes, a mother’s mind is the filing system for all information relevant to family life.

Of course, my child is free of such cumbersome details, ready to discover the wonderful world. And the real reason Zoe can remember these facts is evident in her shining eyes, which light up when she talks about zebra stripes. Animals, you see, are her thing. She is passionate about them, and therefore has no trouble recalling the unique nest-building habits of the bower bird. Just as I am able to remember thousands of random bits of information about my children. I am passionate about them, and love to study their habits. Right now, they are my thing.

My recommendation? Use caution when choosing your child’s first board books.

There’s bound to be a quiz about them, sooner or later.

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t’s often said, as it very well should be, that Vancouver Island is a place of manifold treasures, myriad riches: our Island boasts exquisite landscapes, marvellous creatures, warm and welcoming communities…and an abundance of exceptionally talented writers.

Last month, the Victoria Book Prize Society held its annual award ceremony and gala to honour some of these skilled wordsmiths.

Out of the eight authors nominated for a prize, three writers were nominated for their contributions to children’s literature through the creation of three splendid young adult titles.

Across Vancouver Island, and indeed across Canada, the name Kit Pearson is synonymous with wonderful historical fiction. A multiple award-winner best known for her thoughtful, engaging, and richlyresearched Guests of War trilogy, Pearson was nominated for the first in her newest series. The Whole Truth (HarperCollins, 2012) tells the story of Polly and Maud, two sisters growing up in 1932, whose lives have just been turned upside down. “After it happened they were sent away.” This is all we are told before we meet the girls on the last leg of their arduous journey from Winnipeg to the West Coast, as they meet their new family. Sent to live with relations they’ve never met, Polly and Maud are faced with a life unlike any they’ve known.

Gradually, though, they rise to the challenge, and begin to discover the magic of life on

an island, but the girls are harbouring a dark secret—one that, if exposed, could destroy everything they’ve come to love. A captivating mystery for 10+.

The next nominee is another well-known Island writer. Pamela Porter’s imagination, compassion, and exquisite poetic style were put to great use in her free-verse novel The Crazy Man (Groundwood Books, 2005), which was awarded the Governor-General’s Award for Children’s Literature, and her nominated novel I’ll Be Watching (Groundwood Books, 2011) follows in the same tradition of evocative, captivating excellence. Set in small-town Saskatchewan at the start of World War II, I’ll Be Watching sees Porter once more taking on the challenge of storytelling through verse, and once again sees her outdoing all expectations to a breathtaking degree. The Depression has not been kind to Argue, Saskatchewan, and life has not been kind to the Loney family—most particularly, to the four Loney children. From the death of their mother, to their stepmother’s cruelty and abandonment, to the ensuing death of their father, the Loney children’s story would not be out of place in Dickensian London. Porter, however, manages to make this seemingly bleak tale at once haunting—literally, as at least two of the speakers within the novel are deceased—and hopeful. Her verse is simultaneously heartbreaking and inspiring.

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I’ll Be Watching is a beautiful coming-ofage tale for 12+.

Finally, we come to debut author Caitlyn Vernon, and her personal, practical, and uplifting ecology book for kids (and smart adults), Nowhere Else On Earth: Standing

Book Nook MADDY SMITH Tall for the Great Bear Rainforest (Orca Book Publishers, 2011). This outstanding title features a comprehensive profile of the Great Bear Rainforest, with hands-on activities, engaging anecdotes and adventures, and abundant photographs and information on not only the plants and animals that thrive in the rainforest, but the deadly threats and overwhelming challenges that they face in this age of pollution, habitat destruction, and climate change. It must be said, however, that Nowhere Else on Earth is not your conventional kids’ green science book: Vernon is smart, strong-willed, and a passionate optimist who firmly believes in the power of an individual, no matter their age, to make a profound, lasting, and above all positive change; reading Nowhere Else On Earth, it’s hard not to feel the same.

This intelligent, engaging science book for 10+ started life as an impassioned article in a local magazine, before it was spotted by a publishing house willing to take a chance in order to make a difference. Last month, Caitlyn Vernon was awarded the 2012 Victoria Bolen Book Prize for achievements in Children’s Literature. If you don’t think that one person’s actions are important, I really would suggest that you take a look at Caitlyn’s book, and think again.

We live in an age where we are constantly reminded that things are getting worse and there’s very little we can do about it—one person can’t change the world. And yet, here on a small island in the Pacific Northwest, three writers just proved that statement wrong. Whether you favour fiction, poetry, or factual prose, the truth in each is crystal clear: when you speak up for what you believe in, you always make a difference.

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Family Services Directory This directory, sponsored by Thrifty Foods, features not for profit agencies and organizations serving children, youth and families.

BC Families in Transition (formerly the Separation and Divorce Resource Centre) is one of three non-profit agencies in North America that offers professional counselling, legal support and education for people who are having problems in their relationships. Each year we help 10,000 adults, children and youth through family changes, separations and divorces, remarriages, and complex family situations.

Whether you wish to separate or remain together, call us at 250-386-4331 or visit www.bcfit.org to see how we can help. Some evening and weekend appointments available.

Beacon Community Services, a community-based, non-profit social, employment and health services agency, serving Greater Victoria, Saanich Peninsula and the Southern Gulf Islands. Providing these services: child, youth and family services; a drop-in family resource centre; counselling; employment services for adults, youth and people with disabilities; home support; volunteer services and opportunities; community events; affordable, assisted living for seniors; referrals, information and resources; thrift shops. For Home Support information call 250-658-6407, for all other inquiries call 250-656-0134 or visit www. beaconcs.ca.

Big Brothers Big Sisters of Victoria provides mentoring programs to children in schools and communities. Adult ‘Bigs’, and child ‘Littles’, build a friendship based on shared interests, respect, trust, and the magic of everyday moments shared with a friend.

Everyone needs someone to laugh with, to share a dream with, and just to hang out. No special skills, money, or experience are needed to be a mentor to a child, just a willingness to spend time together, to

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listen, and to be a friend and advocate—in as little as one hour a week! The positive impact of mentorship lasts for a lifetime. Contact us at 250-475-1117, email main@bbbsvictoria.com, or at our website www.bbbsvictoria.com Boys & Girls Club Services offer after-school and evening social, educational and recreational programming for youth at four locations. We also offer support to parents of teens (Parents Together) and run Adventure Based Learning programs at our Camp in Metchosin. For more information on all our programs visit our website at www.bgcvic.org. For general information on after-school and evening programs at our 4 Community Clubs please call 250-384-9133.

The Child Abuse Prevention & Counselling Society/Mary Manning Centre is the primary provider of therapy and victim support services for children and youth in Greater Victoria who experience sexual abuse, physical abuse, and other serious trauma, or who may be at risk for sexual abuse. Therapy services include individual and group sessions for children and youth and group sessions for parents. Victim services include intake and referral, accompaniment and support for children and youth being interviewed by police, and court preparation and support for those testifying as victims or witnesses in criminal cases. No charge for clients. Contact: 250-385-6111 or admin@ marymanning.com.

Community Living Victoria supports people with developmental disabilities and their families by providing residential services, day and community supports (supported employment, parent support and

independent living). Our Host agency provides direct supports for those with Individualized Funding and Home Share service. We also provide Autism Services for youth between 13 and 19. Our family support program offers advocacy, conflict resolution, education, newsletters, workshops, support groups and a resource library. Please call 250-477-7231 ext 233.

Esquimalt Neighbourhood House Society. Our Family Services offer family resource programs with a focus on early childhood development and learning, parenting education and pre and post-natal services.

Our Counselling Services are free to adults and youth (12-18 years); adult and short term clinical counselling is offered for acute mental health problems. For more information call 250-385-2635 or visit 511 Constance Ave. in Esquimalt.

Inter-Cultural Association of Greater Victoria (ICA) is a service agency for immigrants and refugees.

Programs offered include cross-cultural counseling, parenting programs (child care available), family violence programs, employment services, interpretation and translation, diversity workshops and training, ESL instruction, volunteering, youth programs and tutoring, as well as intercultural arts programming and the Diversity Health Fair. 930 Balmoral Rd, 250388-4728, info@icavictoria.org, www.icavictoria.org.

Learning Disabilities Association of BC, SVI Chapter, educates, supports and advocates for children and youth with learning disabilities and related conditions.

Services include a public lending library, individual/ group support for parents and children, professional/ educational workshops for parents and professionals.

Child and youth programs include: reading/writing, academic skills, social/emotional skill development and Fast ForWord. 1524 Fort St. 250-370-9513. www.ldasvi.bc.ca.

Military Family Resource Centre (MFRC) provides programs and services to the military family community. Services include: 24 Hour Information Line, Deployment Information and Workshops, Short Term

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Intervention/Crisis Support, Welcome/Relocation Services, services for families with special needs and responsabilities and childcare services and support to parents. Exciting Volunteer opportunities available!

Call the MFRC: 250-363-2640 (1-800-353-3329) for information. www.esquimaltmfrc.com.

Parent Support Services Society (www. parentsupportbc.ca) provides support circles, parenting resources and referrals to all in a parenting role including grandparents raising grandchildren.

Our training in peer group facilitation is open to the community. Support circles are free with child minding and transportation assistance available.

Volunteers are always needed. Call 250-384-8042; email parent-support@shaw.ca.

1Up: Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre (www.1-up.ca) provides support, education and resources for parents in the Greater Victoria area through free counselling, volunteer training for reception and peer helper positions, a mentoring program for single moms, and a support group for dads. The Centre also offers over 20 integrated life skills and parenting courses which are open to the whole community (fees are by donation). Child care assistance is available based on financial need. The Centre provides a bread pantry and free clothing for single parents. Donations of gently-used clothing, small household items, books, and toys are very welcome every Monday and Wednesday. Centre hours are 9–4 weekdays. 602 Gorge Rd. East; call 250-3851114 or info@1-up.ca.

South Island Centre for Counselling & Training is an affordable, non-profit, counselling agency serving individuals and families from all social, ethnic, and financial backgrounds. We help people with a wide range of issues including low self-esteem, depression, grief, marital and family conflict, abuse and spiritual direction. We also offer helpful “life” courses.

For more information contact us at 250-472-2851; info@southislandcentre.ca.

Victoria Epilepsy & Parkinson’s Centre supports families living with epilepsy by providing tutoring and one on one professional consultations to help your child to live up to their full potential.

We offer epilepsy education workshops in private and public schools, and keep you up to date on the latest research about medications, lifestyle and safety for your child. Visit us at www.vepc.bc.ca to find out more, and to explore our bursaries for Camosun College. Calls are also welcome at 250475-6677.

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Whether it’s dance lessons, parenting workshops, fun days and festivals, what’s happening at your local rec centre or community events—Kids In Victoria has it all!

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Pregnant?

Pregnancy is a state of health.

Midwives recognize what an extraordinary time this is in your life and we are available to support you through your childbearing year.

Covered by Your BC Health Care BC’s Medical Services Plan pays for midwifery care, including in-home check-ups in labour and after you’ve had your baby.

You can self-refer to a midwife.

Quality Care Studies show that midwifery clients have lower rates of episiotomies, infection, Caesarean sections, forceps and vacuum deliveries and newborns that require resuscitation.

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Registered Midwives in Victoria: Angela Schaerer 250-384-9062 Beth Smit 250-384-5940 Ilana Stanger-Ross 250-590-7605 Julia Stolk 250-590-7605 Misty Wasyluk 250-380-6329 Deanna Wildeman 250-592-5407 Heather Wood 250-380-6329 Amy Brownhill 250-386-4116 Michele Buchmann 250-590-7770 Chloe Dayman 250-380-6329 Uta Herold (Sooke) 778-425-0780 Deborah Little 250-592-0099 Luba Lyons Richardson 250-381-1977 Lorna J. McRae 250-380-6329 Jody Medernach 250-590-7605 Kim Millar Lewis 250-384-5940 Heather Nelson 250-380-6329 Jill Pearman 250-590-7605 Colleen Rode 250-386-4116 We would be pleased to schedule an appointment to answer your questions about midwifery care.

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iving birth is one of the most profound experiences in a woman’s life. Every birth is unique. For some, giving birth can be deeply empowering, ecstatic, even orgasmic, but for others the experience can be sometimes looked back upon as a scary and even traumatic event. Although the vast majority of births result in a healthy baby, you may be left with a feeling of failure, anger or fear, and you may find that you are revisiting the events of your birth frequently.

Despite efforts to plan and prepare, birth sometimes can turn out very differently than you had envisioned.

It is interesting to note that even though to the objective eye a birth may seem complicated or have an unforeseen turn of events, the mother may in fact not perceive her birth as troubling. The opposite is also true—a birth can seem straightforward and free of complications to the observer yet a mother may have a tough time accepting how her birth unfolded. So what makes the difference?

Birth experiences tend to be categorized into “positive” and “negative” experiences.

We tend to focus on objective characteristics such as how long a labour lasted, whether or not a mother received interventions or pain medication, and the type of delivery she had. There is an assumption that vaginal deliveries are usually positive and that caesarean births are usually negative, which is not always the case. More important factors that determine whether a birth is troubling or traumatic are to what extent a mother perceives events of the birth of her baby as being overwhelming, sudden and/or dangerous, not what interventions occurred.

The feelings we come away from the birth with can affect our experience of parenting our new babies. If we have feelings of confidence, joy, and strength, our instinctive bonding is promoted with our sweet babies.

Our confidence in all aspects of life can soar and we can connect at a new level with our partners. If we are struggling with feelings of fear, isolation and confusion, bonding with our beautiful babies can be difficult, and feelings of failure can result. Our confidence can plummet, and relationships with partners can suffer. These feelings can infiltrate all areas of our lives as a new family. Fortunately, if you have had a troubling birth, there are

some positive steps you can take to resolve your experience and heal from it. Coming to terms with a negative birth experience is a process that can take months or longer, so please be very patient with yourself. Many mothers and babies have overcome difficult beginnings, and you can, too.

What You Can Do

Confide in someone you trust. It is important to discuss your feelings with your midwife, doctor or public health nurse so that they can help you access the best resources for you to begin healing from your experience. You may be tempted to hide your true feelings, thinking that they may go away on their own. I have met many women who confided in me that they felt embarrassed

Although birth takes about a day in the life of a new mother, becoming a mother is a role that takes time to grow into. about admitting their true feelings about the birth of their baby. Although a negative birth experience can affect your relationship with your baby, it does not have to. This is why it is so important to get the support you need as soon as possible. Many women find that sharing their negative feelings about their birth experience with a trusted friend, family member, therapist or support group is the first place they receive validation that the feelings they are experiencing are not only okay, but normal and understandable considering their experience. A support group can help start the healing process by hearing others’ experiences and realizing that one is not alone, that others have felt similarly and that it is possible to heal.

Spend skin-to-skin time with your baby.

Your birth may have been far from what you expected and as a result, you may feel disconnected from your baby. A great way to reconnect is to spend as much time as you can with your baby, skin-to-skin. Sometimes mothers have a difficult time with breastfeeding after a traumatic birth. Having baby www.kidsinvictoria.com

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skin-to-skin can activate feeding instincts and help your baby find and latch onto the breast, even weeks after birth. If your baby is older, try sharing baths together, giving your baby massages and wearing your baby as much as you can. The closeness will

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foster reconnection that can be healing for both of you.

Learn about your experience. Have a discussion with your health care provider or someone who can help you understand the events that occurred during your birth.

I always encourage mothers to get copies of their medical records. You may find it helpful to read books or reputable websites so you can understand what happened during your birth.

Write, paint or draw your birth story. The process of writing out your birth story can give you a deeper and more objective awareness of the experience. Drawing or painting can be very therapeutic and may help you process the events of your birth as you get the feelings out of your head and onto paper. It may become clear to you if there are any areas that you want to explore further. Using the right side of your brain through the creativity of writing, drawing or painting can help you heal from trauma.

Although birth takes about a day in the life of a new mother, becoming a mother is a role that takes time to grow into. A difficult beginning need not cloud the rest of your mothering career. Some mothers who have had difficult births try to make up for it by being a perfect “super mom.” This sets the new mother up for failure because there are many ways to be a great mom but no way to be a perfect mom! If you have had a troubling birth experience, please be gentle with yourself, take extra good care and actively search for support. I wish you healing for you and your precious baby.

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Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. www.islandkids.ca.

Chrysalis Child Care..........................250-652-0815 A nurturing and stimulating environment for a small group of 3–5 year olds. Qualified ECE promotes learning through play.

Colwood/LANGFORD Almosthome Childcare/Preschool...250-590-7666 Quality childcare with a preschool curriculum/kindergarten readiness program. Experienced Early Childhood Educators. Nurturing environment for ages 10 months to 5 years old. www.almosthomecare.com.

Caring Touch Daycare.......................250-478-4886 A warm, loving, fun family daycare in a safe, nurturing environment. Infant/toddler care for ages 1–5 years.

Jenn’s Little Bears.............................250-478-8999 A safe nurturing environment for children from infancy to kindergarten. Our Infant and Toddler Program enriches each child’s development while our 3-5 Program prepares children for kindergarten. Two separate buildings allow each age group space to grow!

Miles of Smiles Licensed Child Care..........................250-298-7374 Dedicated to offering quality care where caring, learning, diversity, guidance and fun are the priority. www. milesofsmileschildcare.com Music Makers Child Care Centre.....250-294-3916 Offering an innovative environment that develops musical abilities and encourages a love of music while following a preschool curriculum/kindergarten readiness program. Group care for children 2 to 6 and infant/toddler care for ages 12 to 36 months. www.musicmakerschildcare.com

CORDOVA BAY Carrot Seed Preschool......................250-652-2311 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. www.carrotseedpreschool.com.

Cordova Bay Preschool....................250-658-3441 A bright and cheerful parent-participation preschool with a philosophy of “learning through play.” www. cordovabaypreschool.org.

Lakeview Christian Preschool..........250-658-5082 Nurturing environment for 30 month to 5 year olds in a rural setting. Christian values emphasized. Licensed Cordova Bay facility with ECE teacher.

ESQUIMALT CIARA Early Childhood Centre.........250-386-7369 Education and fun hand in hand. Exceptional care for little ones ages 12 month-5yrs in an inclusive centre with Christian values.

Island Kids Academy Esquimalt.......250-381-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring all-day program. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating,

La Pre-Maternelle Appletree Preschool..........................250-479-0292 French immersion preschool program. Small groups 30 months to school age. Licensed Christian centre/ECE. Simply Fun Childcare Centre............250-881-3958 A warm, loving, fun and nurturing place for children to grow and learn. We have spaces available for registration ages 2.5 to 12 in our Licensed Group Facility. We offer extraordinary childcare, before and after school programs and a preschool. Our teachers are extremely qualified with ECE training and have lots of experience.

Call Brenda to set up a tour. Let your child’s light shine bright with us!

Highlands Lexie’s Little Bears’ Child Care Inc....................................250-590-3603 A 2 acre outdoor playground! A “Learning Naturally” interpretation. Our children explore, grow and learn from nature. Beside Bear Mountain. 12 months to 5 years. www.lexieslittlebears.com.

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Oak Bay Co-op Preschool..................250-592-1922 Children Learn Through Play in this parent participation school. Our bright facility is allergy-free with a large outdoor playground. www.oakbaypreschool.com.

Recreation Oak Bay..........................250-370-7200 Fully licensed, qualified ECE Daycare and Preschool with play based learning. After school care also available.

SAANICH Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre.....250-477-3731 (Formerly known as Goosey Gander Kindergarten) Play-based, creative, active-learning programs: half/ full day Preschool. www.arbutusgrove.ca.

Cloverdale Child Care.......................... 250-995-1766 Openings available for 3 and 4 year olds for September 2012. cloverdalechildcare@shawbiz.ca, www.cloverdalechildcare.com.

Island Montessori House..................250-592-4411 Inclusive, integrated and nurturing preschool, kindergarten, Grade 1/2 program. Located in a lovely rural setting. Extended day available. www. islandmontessori.com.

A Growing Place................................250-391-1133 Half day program (AM or PM) for 2.5-5 yrs. ECE educator, small class size. Our own petting farm. Summer program for July.

Lakehill Preschool.............................250-477-4141 Nurturing, warm environment for children to learn through play, with qualified, experienced ECEs. Different levels of participation available. www.lakehillpreschool.org.

Metchosin Co-op Preschool.............250-478-9241 Come and visit our stunning natural outdoor playspace, warm, nurturing, play-based,inclusive program allowing parents to grow and learn alongside their child.

Exceptional ECE Staff provide an enriching experience for 2.5 - 5 year olds. Come grow with us! Est.1960.

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Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare............................................250-477-8131 Gordon Head’s only parent-participation preschool and childcare centre celebrating 40 years. Offering morning, afternoon and all-day preschool options, flexible participation model, and allergy protocol. www. lambrickparkpreschool.ca

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Little Readers Academy....................250-477-5550 An enriched learn-to-read program for your 3-6 yearold! Reading, Writing and Math. Half-day, weekend and evening sessions available. www.oxfordlearning.com.

In The Garden Childcare Centre.......250-654-0306 A GREAT PLACE TO GROW. Offering preschool, full day care, before and after school care for children aged 2.5 to 12 years old. Open all year.

OAK BAY Emmanuel Preschool........................250-598-0573 Children learn through play in our non-denominational Christian preschool near UVic. Bright attractive setting. www.emmanuelpreschool.ca.

Gonzales Co-op Preschool...............250-727-1003 Children explore their imaginations through our varied learning through play environments and large natural playground. Our Reggio-Emilia inspired program focuses on art, nature and music. Join us! www.gonzalespreschool.com.

Kindred Spirits Children’s House........250-590-6966 Now accepting registration for a small group of 2.5–5 year olds in a purpose built Montessori classroom.

The prepared environment stimulates and engages the children at their own pace with hands on, size, age and developmentally appropriate materials. www.kindredspiritschildrenshouse.com

Montessori Educare..........................250-881-8666 Beautiful learning environments in Broadmead and Saanichton. 30 months – 5 years. Summer program available. www.montessorieducare.com.

My Little Folk......................................250-380-7197 Licensed In Home Multi Age Daycare in a very central location! Caregiver is Montessori and ECE Certified and has a fun and nurturing approach. Part time or full time. 7:30am-5:00pm. mylittlefolk@shaw.ca.

Neighbourhood Junior Kindergarten..250-479-4410 Offering an early literacy program 4 mornings/wk.

(T-F) for 4 yr. olds: play and group activities focus on developing positive social skills and kindergarten preparation. Operating in Lake Hill school in two fully equipped, bright classrooms/outdoor playground.

Oakcrest Preschool...........................250-472-0668 • Two fully qualified teachers, AM classes • No duty days, wide variety of parent jobs • www.oakcrestpreschool.org

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Preschool & Child Care Directory Playtime Preschool...........................250-383-3101 AM or PM preschool classes up to 20 hrs/ wk. Tillicum. Spacious facility, qualified ECEs. Let’s Talk About Touching Program. www. playtimepreschool.com.

Christ Church Cathedral Childcare.. 250-383-5132 ECE and specialist teachers provide an outstanding all day licensed program for 3 and 4 year olds in our spacious and welcoming facility in James Bay. www. cathedralschool.ca.

View Royal Preschool........................250-479-8067 An exciting inclusive program in an exceptional care environment. Licensed 3–5 year olds. Outside play and themes enrich this program. viewroyalps@ uniserve.com.

Puddles & Paints Playschool............250-658-6573 Lexie celebrates 15 years as an ECE in the community.

Excellence through enriched programming. Music, art, dance and play. Montly themes and curriculum.

Supporting and encouraging your child’s individual successes.

Downtown Y Child Care Centre.......250-413-8869 Enriched program, for children ages 3-5 years, supporting healthy child development and future school success. www.victoriay.com.

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Ready Set Grow Preschool...............250-472-1530 A warm, caring, quality Learning Through Play environment. Gordon Head area with a highly qualified ECE. heosc@pacificcoast.net.

Rogers Child Care Centre.................250-744-2643 High Quality Care and Educational Programs. Licensed for children 30 month to Grade 5. rogerschildcare@ shaw.ca or www.rogerschildcare.com St. Joseph’s Catholic Preschool..............................250-479-1232 ext 120 • A Christian child centre for 3–5 year olds.

• A warm nurturing and challenging program • Offered by St. Joseph’s Catholic School.

St. Margaret’s Preschool & Junior Kindergarten..........................250-479-7171 Our programme for 3 and 4 year old girls offers a nurturing and educationally stimulating curriculum provided by experienced ECE staff and specialist teachers. Our state of the art facility is located in beautiful environmental surroundings. www.stmarg.ca.

Strawberry Vale Preschool...............250-479-4213 Children learn through play at our parent participation preschool. Programs for 3 and 4 year olds at “The Little Red Schoolhouse.”

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SIDNEY Positive Path Early Learning............250-655-7244 A “New” child care centre has opened at 2269 Mills Road. Exciting and enriching program offering learning opportunities for children 3-5 within a culture of Christian values and virtues. Centrally located near Sidney Elementary and VIR Library. Now accepting enrollment for full and part-time registration. positivepath@shaw.ca

VICTORIA ArtsCalibre Academy........................250-382-3533 Comprehensive programs for Preschool through Grade 5, delivering academic excellence through music, dance, drama and visual arts. Outstanding educators, locations and facilities. www.ArtsCalibre.ca Butterfly Corner.................................... 250-381-4845 Licensed family day care in James Bay. Since 1998.

ECE. Ages 1–5. Full time. Fun & Educational. http:// ButterflyCornerCreativeLearningCentre.com Castleview Child Care.......................250-595-5355 Learning Through Play & Experience. Licensed nonprofit, qual. ECE staff. Since 1958. Preschool and full-time care. www.castleview.ca Cedar Daycare...................................250-479-2032 Community oriented, NFP Child Care facility. Wide variety of activities offered including the use of a private outdoor pool during the summer months. Licensed ECE educators devoted to nurturing children aged 30 months – 5 years.

Centennial Daycare...........................250-386-6832 Providing quality childcare in the Burnside/ Gorge area for 30+ years. Snacks, lunches, Sportball and Music programs included. www. centennialdaycare.ca.

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Footprints Academy............................. 250-590-5540 Licensed group daycare for 2.5 to 6 year olds. Open 6:30am–5:30pm. Weekly music and movement classes. www.footprintsacademy.ca.

Lansdowne Co-op Preschool...........250-595-5223 An extraordinary learning environment for families with young children. Parent participation. wwwlansdownepreschool.com.

Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten...................250-595-7544 – Taking children’s learning forward – One of Victoria’s leading preschools and Junior Kindergartens. Balanced approach to play and education.

Programme supports literacy, numeracy. Visit www. nightingalepreschool.com. Fernwood.

Parkdale Early Childhood Centre.....250-382-0512 We offer quality care and positive experiences for children in our diverse daycare and preschool programs. Our rich curriculum includes music classes from the Victoria Conservatory of Music. parkdalechildcare@shaw.ca.

Rainbow Express Daycare................250-382-2314 Enriched preschool style program in a daycare setting. Visit our website at www.rainbow-express.bc.ca.

Ross Bay Preschool..........................250-383-7445 Positive/supportive program motivating children to learn and discover. Curriculum builds on interests of the children. www.rossbaypreschool.com St. Andrew’s Catholic Preschool......250-382-3815 A place where children learn to love and love to learn.

A warm and nurturing environment. A stimulating curriculum.

The Sir James Douglas Playschool.250-389-0500 Fun, creative and educational ECE program for 3-5 year olds to grow and develop life long skills. Come play and learn in our bright and modern centre in Fairfield.

Victoria Montessori...........................250-380-0534 Unique, innovative learning environment combining the best of Montessori and Learning Through Play. Open yr. round. 30mths–grade 1. www.victoriamontessori.com.

VIEW ROYAL A Secret Garden Preschool..............250-380-8293 Program built on Christian values. Monthly themes, weekly topics and daily activities. asecretgardenpreschool@shaw.ca.

Island Kids Academy View Royal.....250-727-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring child care environment.

Character development using the Virtues Project.

Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. www.islandkids.ca.

Little Friends Childcare.....................250-479-8423 “Learn through play” group childcare centre. Infants/ Toddlers/30mth–5yrs daycare and morning preschool near Knockan Hill park.

Little Wonders Preschool (VROSCS)...........................................250-744-2718 A creative and suuportive program that will prepare your child for a lifetime of learning! OSC also available. www.viewroyalosc.com.

Starchild Centre..................................250-929-3240 Unique infant/toddler daycare, combines the best of Montessori and Waldorf. Our 9 acre hobby farm enables each child to have a garden plot, participate in planting trees, picking fruit, feeding animals, and other outside adventures. www.starchildcentre.ca.

DUNCAN Angel Care Christian Preschool.........250-746-5919 A quality, enriched program for preschool children.

Located in Queen of Angels Catholic School.

Maple Tree Play House Licensed Family Childcare...............250-746-5060 A daycare program that provides enriched outdoor play time and activities that build on a child’s intrinsic love of nature. Healthy meals and snacks are provided. mapletreekids@telus.net..

Parkside Academy Early Learning Centre.........................250-746-1711 Offering quality, literacy focused childcare for children aged 6 mos – 12 yrs; infant/toddler; 3–5, preschool, and after school programs at Alexander, Khowhemun and Tansor Elementary schools.

Queen Margaret’s Preschool/ Junior Kindergarten..........................250-746-4185 Offering a co-ed enriched curriculum in a friendly atmosphere. Morning ECE/afternoon daycare. www.qms.bc.ca.

Sunrise Waldorf School, Kindercottage Preschool Nursery......250-743-7253 A morning program for 3 and 4 yr olds in a warm natural atmosphere where wonder is nurtured and outdoor play is abundant. Details at www.sunrisewaldorfschool.org.

Parent & Child programs also available!

Chemainus Cherry Tree Child Care Centre.........250-246-9195 Preschool program nurturing creative play and engaging learning activity. 30 months to age five. Qualified and experienced Early Childhood Educator.

St. Joseph’s Preschool.....................250-246-3191 A Christian learning environment for 3–5 year olds.

Active participation in the life of the school. Parental involvement.

Qualicum Beach Children’s Discovery Centre.............250-752-4343 Our program recognizes the uniqueness of each child and provides a nurturing, safe and creative learning environment. Preschool, Groupcare, Out of School care. ECE qualified staff. childrensdiscoverycentre@ hotmail.com.

Little Star Children’s Centre.............250-752-4554 Earth friendly preschool education inspired by nature.

Kinder-Prep classes. Licensed group care. ECE instructors. www.littlestardaycare.ca. littlestar@shaw.ca.

Nanaimo Nanaimo Parent Participation Preschool...........................................250-753-1939 Experienced, caring and energetic ECE using learning through play in an enriched environment. www.nanaimopreschool.com.

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t the vaccination clinic a few days after Angus turned 14 months old, I mentioned to the public health nurse that Angus didn’t say any words yet. I wasn’t worried. Angus made lots of noises: he held long and involved conversations with his toys. He “read” his books. Some of the time he called me Ma-Ma—though just as often I got Ba-Ba or Da-Da, the latter the only word Angus had really seemed to nail down—using it for a lot of things, but especially for Mike.

“How old is he?” the nurse asked.

“Fourteen months,” I said. “Just.”

He nodded, and that seemed to be the end of it, until we were about to leave the room.

“Here’s a 14-month assessment form,” he said.

“It’s useful to determine if Angus is developing normally. There’s a communication section, but one of the great things is that you’ll be able to see if there are other areas Angus is behind in.”

One of the great things? Any incentive I felt to complete that form vanished.

Mike drove us home, and I sat beside him and flipped to the communication section.

“Does the child say one word other than Mama and Dada?” the first question asked.

Further down, it asked if the child could say “at least eight additional words.”

“Oh God,” I said.

I flipped to the next page. Could he put Cheerios into a bottle? Could he stack two blocks? Three or more? Could he scribble on a piece of paper with a pen or pencil? Any time Angus was given a writing implement he stuck it in his mouth. Could he scribble? What kind of savant 14-month-old could scribble? Or, for that matter, say “eight additional words.”

I put the form in the To Do box I keep on the washing machine. This box is for the non-essential To Dos—the To Do Laters and the To Pretend I’ll Dos. A week later our own public health nurse called.

“Did you have a chance to complete that form?” she asked.

“No,” I said. Though I had, in my head.

Angus was in need of intervention in three categories.

When I got off the phone I took the form out of the box. On the top corner it said “To be completed for children from 14 months to 14 months, 30 days.” We had two weeks.

For the next 14 days, Mike and I modeled “Normal” 14-month-old development skills.

We stacked blocks like mad, we transferred

toys from one box to another, we put Cheerios in bottles. And eventually Angus caught on.

He started to do all these things too. But his vocabulary remained the same.

Maternity & Beyond Laura TRUNKEY My friend brought her own 14-month-old over. She said he didn’t really speak either.

Just a couple of words: Mama, Dada, Ball.

He said Ball. I felt a shiver of jealousy. If Angus said Ball I could finish the form and mail it in.

And then her son tottered over to Angus’s blocks: “Fff”, he said. “Mmm, nnn, ddd.”

“He knows his letters?” I asked, incredulous.

“Just the sounds,” she said. “And he doesn’t know all of them yet.”

Angus was sitting in the corner with his stuffed elephant. “Da-Da,” he said. “DaDa-Da-Da.” Angus’s 14-month, 30-day birthday arrived.

I placed a couple of pieces of sliced banana on the tray of his highchair. “Ba-Na-Na,” I said, ever hopeful.

“Na-Na-Na.” “Right!” I picked up the banana and waved it in front of his face.

“Na-Na,” Angus said again.

“Mike!” I shouted. But he was already in the doorway.

“Na,” Angus said. “Na-na-na-na-na-nana.”

The three-syllable echo had convinced me that Angus was mimicking the word, but now I wasn’t so sure. He was looking at his toy box.

“He said Banana,” Mike assured me. “We both heard it.”

I filled out the form and put it in an envelope, but not before scoring it. Angus was completely normal, just as I had thought before I was given the form. And what I should have trusted all along.

Laura Trunkey, mother of the amazing Angus, is a writer, and a children’s writing instructor at Story Studio. She can be reached at laurajtrunkey@gmail.com.

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igh mountain meadows, rushing streams, ancient forests each call to us with their particular beauty and power. Lakes, too, have their own special gift: a gentle gatheredness, a quiet centering. The still surface, the reflected light, the ripples softly lapping at the shore draw us in, cradle us into stillness. Yielding to the embrace, we ourselves become like water, serene and receptive.

We usually think of stillness as synonymous with silence but the stillness of a lake is not an absence of sound. Rather, it is an

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absence of noise and disrespect. Natural sounds, like a chorus of frogs or the rattling call of a Belted Kingfisher, are part of it, and so are many human ones when they are a spontaneous response to the place and the moment. The shrieks of children having a water fight, the whoops greeting a young man’s daring dive, are part of wilderness as much as the hoot of an owl or branches snapping in the wind. We, too, belong here.

But even such joyful exuberance can be too much for nerves jagged from daily assaults of unnatural noises, living as we do under the harsh dominion of the internal combustion engine and the electronic jingle.

Sometimes we crave stronger medicine than a walk around Thetis or a paddle in Matheson Lake. Seeking to leave all human sounds behind, we long for a secret lake, one that will extend her embrace only to ourselves and perhaps one special companion. Fortunately, southern Vancouver Island is blessed with many small, hidden lakes www.kidsinvictoria.com

that few people know: Blinkhorn, Killarney and many others. Go early enough, or on a work day, and you may enjoy hours of delicious solitude.

Blinkhorn Lake in Metchosin is rarely frequented by more than two or three people, as its parking lot cannot accommodate more than three cars. A two-mile trail goes right around, through shady cedars and airy patches of birch, alder and maple. There is a small sandy beach, sunny in the afternoons,

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From late winter until the beginning of salmon season, Killarney Lake in the Highlands is home to a pair of Bald Eagles who can often be seen sitting on a floating log at the northern end of the lake, at the opposite end from a small pebbly beach. In August, the eagles depart to follow the salmon on their spawning journey, and a colony of gulls take possession. Accessed only on foot, with a big stretch of Mount Work Park at its back, Killarney feels beautifully remote.

How do you find your own hidden lake?

Until recently, hiking guides to greater Victoria, including John Crouch’s excellent trilogy, Walk/Cycle/Hike Victoria, only featured larger lakes with developed trails.

As of May this year, we finally have an outdoors guide devoted exclusively to lakes, The Secret Lakes of Southern Vancouver Island by Alan Ungstad. The author, who is legally blind, spent seven years exploring 25 lakes by bicycle. The book includes detailed directions, along with description of unique natural features and historical tidbits.

Ungstad was initially ambivalent about publishing the book, knowing full well that the places he loves might be desecrated by thoughtless recreation. After much reflection, he chose to share his secret. Ultimately, he felt that the more people knew, loved and enjoyed these special places, the better the chances for their protection.

Ana Simeon is a writer and activist in Victoria. She divides her time between working for Sierra Club BC, hiking and birdwatching.

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Cut It Out!

Tips from Parent Educator Allison Rees of LIFE Seminars

Be Specific

S

o your child is testing the limits.

You’ve taken enough parenting courses to know this is normal stuff and so you calmly say, “I don’t like your behaviour right now.” Lovely. That ought to stop it. NOT! If this is your favourite phrase, would you please…Cut It Out! Children do not understand this concept, especially if they are hearing this several times a day. They also hear things like, be good, nice, behave, or your behaviour is inappropriate. This doesn’t mean a thing to a child. It also doesn’t protect their self-esteem because they don’t say to themselves, “Ah, I see. You love me, you just don’t like my behaviour.” They just think you don’t like them.

So, how do you give feedback to a child or teen? Be very specific. It isn’t okay to say “ficky-fucky.” Actually, when it is good old attention-getting behaviour, it is even okay to say nothing and just get

busy with those dishes because, of course, giving the behaviour attention is rewarding it. After all, it is designed to get you to say something useless.

If you don’t like the behaviour you could try being specific with what you would like them to do instead. “Please say ficky-yicky instead.” A child has an easier time doing a do, than a don’t.

• Describe behaviour specifically (what you see or hear)

• Tell them what they can do instead • Ignore attention-getting behaviour • Catch them doing something positive and be specific there, too • Express feelings of concern if it is affecting somebody else.

LIFE Seminars has two books available, Sidestepping the Power Struggle and The Parent Child Connection. See www. lifeseminars.com.

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