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When Less Is More: Simplifying our Children’s Lives Swish Swag: a Christmas Craft The Gift of Song

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Articles When Less Is More.......................................................................................... 8 15 Minutes to Improve Literacy.................................................................... 10 The Gift of Song............................................................................................ 11 Fabulous Finds.............................................................................................. 12 The Empathy ‘Band-Aid Solution’................................................................. 14 Swish Swag: A Christmas Craft..................................................................... 18 Holiday Gift Guide....................................................................................... 19 Checking in on Well-Being............................................................................ 20 Because it Happened..................................................................................... 24 Nutcracker Ballet.......................................................................................... 25

Columns Editor’s Note................................................................................................... 3 Dadspeak...................................................................................................... 26 Healthy Families; Happy Families................................................................. 38 Just Eat It!..................................................................................................... 40 Book Nook................................................................................................... 42 Is There an App for This?.............................................................................. 44 New Parent Pages.......................................................................................... 48 Maternity & Beyond..................................................................................... 53 Nature Notes................................................................................................ 54 Cut It Out..................................................................................................... 56

Departments Letters............................................................................................................. 4 IPM Notes....................................................................................................... 5 Party Directory........................................................................................ 22, 23 Family Calendar............................................................................................ 28 Around the Island......................................................................................... 36 Family Services Directory........................................................................ 46, 47 Preschool & Child Care Directory........................................................... 50, 51 Business & Professional Directory................................................................. 52 Island Parent Magazine, produced by Island Parent Group Enterprises Ltd., is a monthly publication that honours and supports parents by providing information on resources and businesses for families, and a forum for the exchange of ideas and opinions. Views expressed are not necessarily those of the publisher. Letters (max 250 words) should be emailed to the Editor at editor@islandparent.ca. No material herein may be reproduced without the permission of the Editor. Unsolicited manuscripts are welcome and should be emailed to editor@islandparent.ca.

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hen it comes to keeping kids busy this holiday season, make winter your ally, not your enemy. Happiness, according to the American Meteorological Society is maximized at 13.9°C—a little bit higher than Victoria’s 8.1°C November/December average—but don’t let that stop you. The weather outside might be frightful, but here are a few ways to help make it delightful.

Go ice skating. Sure most of the Island ponds and lakes don’t freeze over, but why not grab a pair of skates and head to your local rink to do a few laps? If you’re looking to skate outdoors, drop by the Butchart Gardens’ rink where you can glide underneath twinkling lights to the sounds of seasonal music.

Bundle up and take a winter beach walk.

Grab your binoculars and go bird watching.

For Island birding regions, visit birding.bc.ca.

Or, to get the birds come to you, assemble a pinecone bird feeder. To do so, slather a pinecone with peanut butter, roll it in bird seed, hang it from a tree branch, and wait. Quietly.

Do a neighbourhood food drive—on foot.

Collect canned and non-perishable food for a food bank. Bring along a wagon to help with the haul.

Head for the hills and go for a hike. Let your kids invite a friend or two. To spur them on along the trail, know what lies ahead (“We’re almost at the suspension bridge/waterfall// beach”), and take lots of breaks—complete with healthy treats and juice or water—and quit while you’re ahead. Dress in layers, wear proper shoes, and bring a camera.

Go on a winter picnic. Pack your basket with a Thermos full of hearty soup or chili, and gather supplies to keep everyone warm— a thick blanket, mittens, something warm to drink, and supplies for S’mores, if you’ll be by a fire pit (like those at Goldstream Park and Elk/Beaver Lake picnic areas, to name a few).

Geocache. Visit geocaching.com, enter your home location and you’ll find out the

coordinates of secret “caches” (often filled with prizes) that are hidden near you. You’ll need a good GPS. Go cold-weather camping—with tarps and quality sleeping bags. Or an RV. Winter camping is permitted in many provincial parks, including Bamberton, French Beach, and Rathtrevor Beach, among others.

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Editor’s Note Sue Fast If the temperature outside drops below zero, make ice globes. Fill balloons with water and a drop of food colouring and either leave them outside or put them in the freezer. When they’re frozen solid, cut off the balloon and disperse them around the yard or neighbourhood.

In the lucky event of snow, know where to go for a good toboggan run. In Victoria, try Beacon Hill Park or Cedar Hill Golf Course.

In Nanaimo, you can’t beat the hills in Bowen Park. In Courtenay and Campbell River, there’s always Mt. Washington where not only can you go tobogganing, but you can tube, ski, snowboard, and snowshoe, too.

Snowpaint. Fill up a few squirt bottles with water and food colouring and then find a blank snow canvas and start painting. For inspiration: Think tie dye.

Host the Winter Olympics, with or without snow, in your backyard or a neighbourhood park. Decide on a list of games—maybe an obstacle course done in full snow gear?—make some medals, invite the neighbours to compete, divide them into teams (or countries) and let the games begin.

Go for a walk in the woods. Breathe in the smell of pine. Ahhh. Merry Christmas.

What are some of your family’s FAVOURITE THINGS TO DO in the Vancouver Island Winter Wonderland?

Please e-mail your favourites (subject: winter fun) to editor@islandparent.ca by December 15 and you will be entered into a draw for 4 tickets to National Geographics IMAX Theatre. A selection of entries will be printed in an upcoming issue.

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Letters Re-think ‘Me First’ Attitude

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WINTER HOLIDAY PROGRAMS DECEMBER 16 – JANUARY 3

Dear Allison Rees and Sue Fast, Having raised four kids together, we are long-time fans of Island Parent. Now being relatively new grandparents, we are more frequently picking up copies of your informative magazine. We’ve always enjoyed Allison’s good writing and perceptive points.

However, we must admit our distress at being confronted with the title of Allison’s thought-provoking article, Me & My ‘Boyfriend.’ Besides being clearly ungrammatical, this frequently-heard structure of putting “me first” is so socially self-centered that it truly irks us.

We admit to being seniors now, and we understand that with the accumulation of years comes the need to adapt to change in many forms. Specifically in this case, we acknowledge the continual evolution of language, whether in new forms of vocabulary, entirely new words, or modifications to old grammatical structures that may well be perceived to be more efficient. Do we want to reinforce poor grammar? Do we want young parents to model a “Me First” attitude?

On a psychological basis, is the “Me First” attitude one that simply reflects our newly evolved “run-run-run-Run-Faster&-Faster” world? No time for others first?

Or does it pertain to the necessity to pay attention to how “I” feel first, so I can best be considerate of others? Or is consideration for others (first) being obliterated in the modelling by the corporate race to be on top first?

What are we teaching our children about caring for each other—in our families, with our friends, in school, in business—and for that matter, caring for nature and biodiversity and sustainability in this race of domination first? Obviously, this seemingly little word, “me,” when placed first, has enormous impact.

Robin Roberts and Diana Denny

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Passion Sports Basketball Winter Elite Camp Hard work doesn’t take holidays!

Winter Singing & Song-Writing Camp Spend a musical week with singer and composer Paul O’Brien.

Holiday Baking Around the World

Make some delicious seasonal treats to share with friends and family.

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IPM Notes Christmas in November Feel like getting into the Christmas spirit a little early? If so, there’s no shortage of events this in November: Christmas Tree Light Up & Santa Parade.

Kick off the holiday season in Centennial Square with the 6th annual downtown Christmas Tree Light-Up on Nov 23 from 4-5:30pm. Enjoy musical performances, roving entertainment, ice sculptures, and free treats before the Island Farms Santa’s Lights Parade at 5:45pm; from the Inner Harbour via Government Street to Chatham. Rain or shine. Free.

Ferris Wheel in Centennial Square. See Victoria from 65 feet up on Friday (510pm), Saturday (noon-10pm), and Sunday (noon-8pm) on the ferris wheel in Centennial Square, running from Nov 23-Dec 22.

Rides are $2.

Sidney Sparkles Parade & Sailpast on Nov 30 at 5pm. Watch the parade along Beacon Avenue and Second Street, then wander down to the Sidney waterfront to see the sailpast.

The Ladysmith Festival of Lights on Nov 28, starting at 3pm, features entertainment, a parade, fireworks, and a visit from Santa.

Student Art Video & Writing Contest Attention kids and youth in B.C. and Yukon. Are you an artist, wordsmith, or a filmmaker? If so, take those words and pictures in your head and show the world.

Create your work of art or literature about remembrance. You can create something that is broadly about remembrance or you can focus on something more specific such as a family member who fought in the war, the poppy, a war memorial in your community, or the sacrifice of veterans. Categories include: poster; essay; poetry; and video.

Prizes include an iPad and a trip to Ottawa.

For more information, contact Chemainus Legion at 250-246-4532 or visit www. legionbcyukon.ca/content/youth-contests.

Deadline Nov 15.

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The Lighthouse Parent helps parents to regain and rebalance their energy and parenting wisdom in line with their child’s age and developmental milestones. In a confidential, small group format, parents will learn about: • theories of attachment (working with healthy attachment and releasing unhealthy attachment) • biological and neurological child development stages (toddler, youngster, tween and teen) • historical parenting traps and how to get unhooked from them • realistic stress management strategies that work In The Now • the paths to finding and sharing times of joy, and spirituality in parenting • peer support and facilitator guidance, and much, much more.

1UP Single Parent Resource Centre is offering The Lighthouse Parent: A Forever Journey (4 weeks) on Mondays, Nov 18Dec 9, 6:45-9:15 pm, at 602 Gorge Road East. Fees are on a sliding scale. For more information, please visit www.1-up.ca.

Coats for Kids West 49’s Coats for Kids campaign, fueled by community support, is once again collecting coats for kids who don’t have adequate winter clothing. Since 2002 more than 85,000 kids have received winter coats as a result of this program.

West 49 Coats for Kids campaign runs through to Nov 20. Coat collection barrels are located in every store. Anyone who brings in a clean, insulated gently used winter coat to any West 49 store will receive $25 off any winter jacket. Donated jackets will then be given to various youth shelters and charities across the country.

Each store partners with a local charity in their area—so people in the community benefit. In past campaigns, coats have been provided to organizations such as Big Brothers and Big Sisters, Canadian Diabetes Association, Salvation Army, The United Way and local youth shelters and missions across the country. For more information, visit coatsforkids.west49.com.

Sexual Health Education for the Whole Family Workshops for children and youth which approach sexuality in an age- and stage-appropriate way are being offered November 26 (adults; $5/participant) and 27 (children and youth; $12/family) at First Met United Church in Victoria. Using relevant information, and leaving space for questions, these workshops promote health knowledge and positive choices.

Conversations with younger children (ages 3-7) include information about the correct and appropriate terminology for the private and personal parts of bodies, reproduction, birth, and safety. Conversations with older children (ages 8-12) build on basics about body science, reproduction and include the changing bodies, minds, and feelings of puberty. Teen conversations explore positive choices around sexual decision making and relationships.

The first evening is for parents and other adults, helping them to become more approachable and comfortable discussing sexuality issues with the children in their lives. Participants are encouraged to take a preventative approach rather than a reactive approach to sexuality education with youth.

This workshop emphasizes the importance of families as the primary sexuality educator for their children. In this first evening, the adults also will have a preview of the sessions for children and youth being offered the following day.

Sessions are led by Jennifer Gibson, Coordinator of Community Education Services with Island Sexual Health, who believes in making sexual health education relevant, accessible, and fun for all participants. For more information, visit firstmetvictoria. com/8647 or call 250-388-5188 ext.221.

Classical Christmas Concert Victoria Children’s Choir presents its Classical Christmas Concert on Monday, Dec 2 at 7pm at Christ Church Cathedral.

Spanning countries and centuries, the Classical Christmas Concert reveals great songs of celebration. Sixty talented young choristers perform historic Renaissance masterpieces, modern holiday tunes, and beloved carols in one evening of beautiful music. The Dec 2 concert features extraordinary composers and works from Italy, Austria, Spain, Holland, Finland, England, and beyond.

Discover the enduring spirit of the holidays with the Victoria Children’s Choir and fellow music-lovers of all ages.

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The Family Christmas Fundraiser Concert for Our Place Society is on Dec 8 at 1pm at St. John the Divine. All you need to bring is socks, scarves and toques—festive spirit supplied! The Apprentice Choir and special guests The Open Door Choir @ Our Place, directed by Louise Rose, host an upbeat performance of traditional carols and novelty seasonal songs. The Family Christmas Concert is a delightful way to include generosity in your holiday celebrations. Enjoy singing, a sweet treat, the camaraderie of family and friends, and the wacky North Pole stories of Gizmo the Elf at this popular afternoon performance. Admission is by donation of socks, scarves, toques, cash or cheque, supporting Our Place Society.

Concert tickets are available at the door, by calling 250-721-0856 or visiting www. victoriachildrenschoir.ca.

Family Christmas Carol Sing-along with Victoria Philharmonic Choir The days of gathering around the family piano are long gone for many of us, but the joy of a multi-generational community singalong is still alive and well. At this annual event, Peter Butterfield conducts you, the audience, in favourite traditional carols, with the 50-voice Victoria Philharmonic Choir adding harmonies. A few benches at the front are reserved for families with small children to make it easier for little ones to come up and join the choir.

Saturday, Dec 21, 7pm, at St. Mary’s Church, 1701 Elgin Street in Oak Bay. Doors open at 6:30pm and seating is first-come, first-served.

Tickets available from Ivy’s Bookshop, Munro’s, Tanner’s Books, La Tavola Kitchenware Boutique, Long & McQuade Music and online. For details, please visit vpchoir.ca.

Enjoy Free Access to Local Culture The Greater Victoria Public Library offers 7-day loan passes for local families or teens to access cultural exhibits. Anyone with a valid adult library card can borrow a free art gallery or museum pass from your local library. Place a hold on a Pass with your library card at www.gvpl.ca and pick it up at your local library branch.

The following passes are available: • Art Gallery of Greater Victoria Household Access Pass provides free general

admission to the Art Gallery of Greater Victoria for 2 adults and up to 4 children.

Does not include special events or gift shop discounts.

• Royal BC Museum Family Pass provides free general admission to the Royal BC Museum for 2 adults and up to 4 children (youth under 5 are free). Does not include special events or gift shop discounts.

These passes are popular, but the waitlists tend to move quite quickly as there are multiple passes and a relatively short loan period. For more information, please visit www.gvpl.ca.

Climate Action Kits The Capital Regional District (CRD) has partnered with BC Hydro and the Greater Victoria Public Library on a new program that takes climate action to-go.

The Climate Action To-Go Kit program is an interactive way to educate people on climate change and community sustainability issues. Each kit provides practical tools to measure household energy use and offers a selection of diverse resources for residents across the region.

Each Climate Action To-Go Kit allows users to: • Measure household appliance electricity use with the Kill-A-Watt Meter • Discover air leaks in walls and around windows using the Thermal Leak Detector • Test out an ultra-efficient LED light bulb • Assess showerhead hot water efficiency • Learn about local solutions to climate change through films and books for adults and families.

After the kit has been returned, users are encouraged to join the conversation online to share their experience and report on efforts to reduce household energy use.

Draw prizes include energy-star products and gift certificates for detailed home energy assessments.

Kits are available in all 10 branches of the Greater Victoria Public Library, the Sooke, Sidney/North Saanich branches of the Vancouver Island Regional Library as well as the Salt Spring Island Public Library.

To find out more about this program, visit www.gvpl.ca.

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inspiring other youth to get outside and into parks? Join the Youth In Parks team!

The Youth In Parks team is a group of high school-aged youth (ages 13-18) who live in the Capital Regional District/Southern Vancouver Island and love the outdoors.

The team meets monthly to learn skills and share their passion for parks. There will be an opportunity for some members of the team to become part of the Parks Youth Advisory Council.

The Youth In Parks staff are from all three hosting organizations: BC Parks, Boys & Girls Club of Greater Victoria and CRD Regional Parks. They bring a wealth of knowledge in youth engagement, building leadership skills, interpretation and volunteerism, and are very passionate about working collaboratively with Youth In Parks.

There is no cost to participate except for your time, energy and enthusiasm. To apply, fill out an application online at www. crd.bc.ca/youthinparks or download the printable PDF application form.

For more information, email youthinparks@crd.bc.ca or phone 250-360-3326.

Eagle Extravaganza

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The end of the salmon run is a signal to the Bald Eagles that it is time to return to Goldstream for their annual salmon feast.

Record numbers of Bald Eagles have been returning to the park—up to 276 in one day—for the past four winters.

This winter, from early December until late January, Goldstream Provincial Park’s Visitor Centre will be celebrating the return of the Bald Eagles with special programs and exhibits focusing on birds of prey. Keeping the Visitor Centre open at this time of year is due entirely to public support from donations at the door.

School programs by donation occur on weekdays (teachers must book ahead).

Check out the weekend and holiday activities, too—something for the kids when school is out.

Don’t forget to make a track-print card or wrapping paper to take home for Christmas.

Hot coffee and baked goods are available at the book store, and the fire is usually lit for you to warm up by after a nice brisk walk along the river. Open 9am-4:30pm daily (closed Christmas day). For more information, phone 250-478-9414 or visit www.goldstreampark.com.

Grade 4 and 5 kids (born in 2003 or 2004) can enjoy some free skiing or snowboarding this winter, courtesy of the Canadian Ski Council. The Grade 4 & 5 SnowPass program is back, offering Canadian school children enroled in Grades 4 and 5 up to three free days of skiing or snowboarding at over 150 ski areas nationwide.

The Grade 4 & 5 SnowPass booklet includes up to three ski-free coupons at each ski area. Just visit www.snowpass. ca, complete the online registration form, upload a photo, proof of age/grade, and pay an administration fee of $29.95, including taxes. Your child’s SnowPass will be mailed to you, giving you hundreds of ways to save this season. Or you can get an application form through Grade 4 and 5 elementary school teachers.

The SnowPass can be used beginning December 1 until the end of the ski season.

For children who apply in Grade 4, the SnowPass can be used in two seasons; while they are in Grade 4, and with the remaining available lift passes while they are in Grade 5. To find all the pertinent program information, including a full list of participating ski areas, visit www.snowpass.ca.•

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When Less Is More

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t took me three days to dig through and reduce my five- and seven-year-olds’ belongings by more than half. I was inspired in part by Kim John Payne’s brilliant book, Simplicity Parenting. Payne has some insightful things to say about the value of simplifying all aspects of our children’s lives: creating reassuring rhythms and rituals, protecting free time, and filtering out excessive or adult information. But his practical program begins with a call to physically de-clutter our children’s environments.

Payne offers some compelling reasons for a less-is-more approach. Too much stuff equals too many choices—which can be a source of stress both for the child overwhelmed by the avalanche, and the parent who has to wade through the mess. According to Payne, a modest selection of quality toys invites children into “deeper play and engagement.” Children are better able to focus when they have a smaller collection of toys (or books, or items of clothing). They’re also significantly more likely to appreciate what they have, which in turn fosters deeper

connections and creativity, and better stewardship. Conversely, children with too much stuff can develop a sense of entitlement, and the belief that constant shopping is the key to happiness—which doesn’t serve our kids or our over-burdened planet.

As a family counselor-therapist, Payne has been testing his simplification principles for two decades. After thoughtfully downsizing their children’s possessions, his clients report that their kids are calmer and exhibit less stress behaviours. They play better with siblings, and immerse themselves more quickly in imaginative games. Simplifying other areas of a child’s life can have even more profound effects.

I was itching to put Payne’s theories to the test, but I waited until my children were at school and I had a few free hours over a few days before digging in. Payne has some practical suggestions on what to keep and what to pass on or discard. With these guidelines in mind, I set to work systematically.

Broken toys went straight into a garbage bag.

A few outgrown treasures got put away for

the next generation. The rest were divided into three categories: “keepers,” a pile for younger cousins, and another pile for the local thrift store. (Payne also suggests that parents can create an in-home toy library, periodically rotating toys in and out of storage). I repeated the sorting process with my children’s books and clothing.

The room looked significantly tidier—and bigger—when I was finished. I saved most of my kids’ building toys (Lego, wooden blocks, etc), a reasonable selection of stuffed animals and dolls, some “active” toys (balls, skipping ropes, sandbox stuff), some quality puzzles and games, a condensed selection of art supplies, the play food and dishes from their kitchen tub, and a few other odds and ends. In other words, my kids are still far from deprived!

I gave my children advance warning before I undertook this project, but was vague on the timeline. I promised I wouldn’t discard any of their special treasures, and wouldn’t pass on anything without their permission. It wasn’t until the third and final afternoon that they noticed some of their possessions had disappeared. My seven-year-old expressed alarm that her normally overflowing toy box was now only half full—but she couldn’t identify

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anything that was missing. I assured her I’d let her see what was immediately leaving the house, and keep the rest in storage for the short-term. We may rotate some of the stored toys back in—but only if someone asks. Otherwise I’m counting on the “outof-sight, out-of-mind” principle to kick in.

And the result? Has the burden of too many possessions been lifted from my children’s shoulders? Are they calmer, more cooperative, better behaved? It’s hard to be sure, but I would say the stress meter in our home has dropped a few points. I certainly hear “I’m bored” less often. The thinningout process has left my kids’ toys better organized and more visible to them. They can see their choice of activities and playthings, without being overwhelmed by them.

Getting dressed or choosing a bedtime story is also easier, for the same reasons. And tidyup time is a lot less stressful for everyone.

I get a rush of satisfaction every time I pass my kids’ tidy bedroom now—a far cry from the frustration and stress I used to feel.

This small success has motivated me to tackle the whole house, one cluttered corner at a time. It may take a while, but I’m confident the results will be worth the effort. In fact, according to Payne, the long-term success of my children’s new environment depends on a similar treatment everywhere else: “If the entire house is cluttered, then your streamlined, simplified child’s room will not last. Some form of homeostasis among the rooms will develop—either the room will reclutter, or its simplicity will prove your inspiration for decluttering elsewhere.”

Can we keep this new pared-down approach going over the long run? I certainly hope so. It’s a healthier model for all of us, and for the planet too. Christmas is coming, and that would normally be a challenge. But this year we’re setting a three-gift limit, just as the three wise men brought three gifts for Jesus on the very first Christmas. Each of our children will receive something they want (gold), something for their spiritual or other growth (frankincense) and something they need (myrrh). If the nativity is not part of your holiday tradition, this simple rhyme might suit you better: “something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read.”

Simplicity Parenting can be requested from both Island library systems. I hope it’s as inspirational to you as it was to me!

Rachel Dunstan Muller is the mother of five, and a children’s author. Her previous articles can be found at www.islandparent.ca. www.IslandParent.ca

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15 Minutes to Improve Literacy

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he benefits of learning as a family outside the classroom are huge—not only are children exposed to a culture of lifelong learning, but the bond between parent and child can grow with each teachable moment.

Finding time to set aside to learn as a family can be difficult, but all you need is 15 minutes a day to reap the benefits.

In honour of Family Literacy Day, taking place across Canada on January 27, 2014, ABC Life Literacy Canada is offering five learning activities parents can do with their kids in less than 15 minutes.

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Read a book aloud together.

Children’s books are usually short, and are a breeze to get through in 15 minutes.

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Sing a song. Singing encourages learning patterns of words, rhymes and rhythms, and is strongly connected to language skills.

Bake some Christmas cookies!

Most recipes take less than 15 minutes and measuring ingredients helps children understand math and numbers.

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Go for a walk as a family and read the street signs. You can even think of a city or country that begins with the same first letter as the sign.

While we may not think of it, most of the time spent together at home can be learning opportunities between you and your child.

Even time spent doing the dishes, eating dinner or having a bath can all easily have a focus on learning in a fun way.

To find out how your family can have 15 Minutes of Fun for Family Literacy Day, visit www.FamilyLiteracyDay.ca. www.kidsinvictoria.com

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The Gift

Sure, “a” is for “apple” … but even an apple-lover like myself savours a fresh take on the alphabet. In W Is for Wapiti!: An Alphabet Songbook, “a” is for “aha,” which might just describe your feeling about this lively collection of silly alphabet songs.

Of course, silly might only keep a parent going for 80 or 100 listenings before “losing” a CD in the back of a deep closet (for the record, I have not yet done this, only seriously considered it). The real gift in this album is the variety of musical styles.

The diverse rhythms and instruments will entertain adults and kids alike.

The accompanying hardcover book of song lyrics—illustrated with vibrant watercolours full of movement—helps you learn the songs along with your little ones.

And while I can’t say I love the voices of either adult singer, my song repertoire has expanded and my kiddo’s play with language has taken off. Amalia Colussi

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Listen to the Birds: An Introduction to Classical Music features 20 bird-related excerpts from different recordings performed by world-class symphony orchestras.

The CD and accompanying book by Ana Gerhard and illustrated by Cecilia Varela focuses on birds that have inspired works by composers including Vivaldi, Mozart, Tchaikovsky, and Handel, and provides corresponding music including “The Goldfinch,” “Toy Symphony,” “Piano Concerto N˚ 17,” “The Magic Flute,” “Song for the Lark,” “Dance Of The Firebird,” and “The Cuckoo and the Nightingale.”

The book includes interesting facts on both birds and music and provides a history behind the compositions—for example, starlings inspired Mozart—and how the instruments mimic birdsong. There’s a listening guide for the CD, biographical sketches of the composers, and a glossary of musical terms. Best suited to kids seven years old and up—with worthwhile though, at times, wordy text—and whimsical illustrations. Emily Coates

A Gift for Sophie is a poignant tale about friendship across generations. In this picture book with CD, Quebeçois folk singer Gilles Vigneault provides a heart-warming perspective on life’s journeys and discoveries through the eyes of sevenyear-old Sophie and her friend Emilio. The story and CD deal with multiple themes, including friendship and death, through captivating narration and original folk songs.

There is substantial text on each page and so my daughter preferred to listen to the narration while flipping through the pages at her own speed. Both the illustrations and the music invite children into the story.

The nine enchanting songs enhance the story, with five being written from the perspective of the main characters. My daughters immediately began humming along to the CD and it has become a favourite in the car.

The story deals with the death of Sophie’s great-uncle, however it is done in an uplifting way and gave us with the chance to talk about what happens when people we love die. Camille McFarlane

From the first refrains of the album Just Imagine, my fouryear-old daughter, Avery, was up and dancing. Chuggada Choo, an energetic train song, saw her transform into a steam engine and me, her tender, and then the catchy Ella’s Umbrella turned Avery into raindrops and me into someone struggling to open an umbrella. And on it went.

This is Vancouver-based Will Stroet’s fourth kids’ CD in English; the bilingual singersongwrite also has four albums in French. Will has a background as an educator, and if my daughter is any indication, he certainly knows how to channel children’s imaginations.

Along with being a great soundtrack for creative play, Just Imagine will enter our car music rotation: the lyrics are clever and fun and the guitarbased melodies are likely to appeal to the whole family.

Since one song, Trikers, makes reference to being preschoolers, this CD would probably be best appreciated by the three- to five-year-old set. Sarah Lefebure Warriner

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Fabulous Finds

Marusenko Sphere The hottest new thing in the 3D logic puzzle world. With five different levels of difficulty, the Marusenko Sphere is great for both children and adults. There are nine different moves that can be made in order to solve the puzzles. Ages 8+

Starry Night

Oops Imagination Puzzle These eight-piece magnetic, themed puzzles help develop shape and colour recognition and motor skills. Ages 1+

The Starry Night would have been just another landscape if it were not for van Gogh’s swirling layered brush strokes that make the painting come alive. The Starry Night Master Kitz includes all the tools your child needs to create their own Starry Night masterpieces as well as instructional learning materials to deepen their understanding of the original painting.

Easy-to-follow step-by-step instructions make creating and learning fun. Ages 5+

Lottie Dolls Lottie is a doll alternative for girls aged 3-9; she is 18cm tall, and easy for little hands to carry. Lottie has a “childlike” body—she doesn’t wear makeup, jewellery or high heels and she can stand on her own two feet. Her hair doesn’t tangle and knot, she has bendable knees with ball socket hips and arms; her head can move side to side and she can do the splits front to back and side to side. Launched in August 2012, Lottie has won 12 international awards, including 3 Oppenheim Portfolio Platinum Awards. Ages 3+

Plus Plus Midi (100 piece set) Minimalist plastic construction toys with maximum design potential. Intuitive construction so kids know just what to do. Easy-glide interlocking function, no significant force needed, versatile use. Build flat in 2 dimensions or up in 3 dimensions. Special texture exterior, rubbery feel to each piece. Colorful creations hold together well. Red, orange, yellow, green, blue, black, white pieces. 100 large Plus-Plus pieces. Made in Denmark. Ages 3+

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Leonardo da Vinci Catapult Catapults were first invented in Greek and Roman times, but Leonardo da Vinci redesigned the catapult around 1485, and used the spring-like energy in bent wood to give power to the swing arm. This working model, based on his drawings in the Codex Atlanticus, is made of natural untreated wood, and is easy to make in an hour or two. It will fire objects (soft clay included) over 20 feet. The pieces are pre-cut and pegged for strength, making an elegant historical model that would even please Leonardo!

Ages 12+

Hape Master Workbench Little builders with big ideas can work right at this professional-looking station. Shelves and storage keep all their tools and supplies within easy reach. Motor skills: promotes dexterity, hand-eye coordination, and manipulation. Problem solving: introduces logic, matching, spatial relationships, critical thinking, and an understanding of cause and effect. Imagination and creativity: encourages imitative and imaginary play; promotes fantasy story telling, role playing, and creativity. Ages 3+

Kendama A classic toss and catch game from Japan with endless tricks to learn and master.

Solid wood construction.

Measures 7" tall. Assorted colours. Ages 8+

Air Pogo Jumper Kids simply step onto the platform, grip the ball with their feet and start bouncing. They’ll jump up and down, bounce up and spin, leap and bound across the room. Not only is it great fun but it also builds strength, endurance, coordination and balance. The rugged, inflatable ball nestles inside a tough polymer platform and can be used indoors and out.

Up to 160 lbs. Ages 6+

NADA There is always a match until…Nada!

Scoop up the dice and let ’em roll. Quick!

Scan the array for matching symbols between the orange and white dice. The first to call a match collects all the dice showing that symbol. No matches? No problem! It’s another chance to win. Shout “Nada!” to snatch up all the dice. But speak too soon and you’ll pay the price. This dice game has 3 play variations. Think sharp and act fast to match, snatch, and win! Ages 7+

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The Empathy

‘Band-Aid Solution’ o

ur home has become band-aid obsessed. Somewhere along the way, our children discovered that band-aids have magical healing powers, whether there be blood or no blood, scratch or no scratch. Now, band-aids are one of the staple items on our weekly grocery “wish” list. My three-year-old even recognizes their value. She has stashes of band-aids conveniently located all around the house. She is on constant alert, watching and listening for signs and signals that someone might be in need of one…or two…

What is it about band-aids? Is it their appealing sticker-like quality? Is it their fashion sense, appealing to the younger Dora and Spongebob fans?

Maybe, on some level, band-aids cause us to appreciate what someone may be feeling.

“Let me have a look. Ouch! That must really hurt.” Under the band-aid solution lies a powerful virtue: empathy.

Empathy has been described as the ability to “walk in someone else’s shoes” and understand their experience. It stems from knowing that, despite our differences, we share a common humanity with all its emotions. With empathy, we view others, as described by author Linda Kavelin-Popov, with “compassionate curiosity” and consider the impact of our choices and actions.

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Anchoring the Roots of Empathy Since she was only 18 months old, I’ve watched my fourth child rush over to a hurt or upset sibling, brush their tears away and gently burrow her head into their side. It seems to come instinctively and naturally to her. My three older children in turn love to take care of their little sister, doting, protecting, defending, tending to her when she is hurt or upset and helping her when she is frustrated. “Are you okay, sweetie?” It is a phrase that I often hear my three-year-old ask of the baby, gazing endearingly as she strokes her cheek.

These examples speak to the philosophy behind Mary Gordon’s Roots of Empathy school program. With this program, a parent and their infant visit a classroom nine times over the school year. Children in the classroom learn empathy through the parent’s role modeling as well as through their own experiences and interactions in understanding what the baby is feeling and what the baby needs. With very real lessons of caring, students learn how to identify and reflect on feelings—the baby’s, theirs and eventually those of others. This powerful program shows us that empathy can take root in all children. Those roots are anchored in positive parental role modeling and the development of emotional literacy skills.

From the Inside Out “I’m scared!” my son hollers, just as my mind and body finally surrender to that one perfect moment when sleep begins to take hold. “Don’t be ridiculous! There’s nothing to be afraid of! Just go back to sleep!” my husband and I shout back from our room down the hall. Night after night of disrupted sleep takes its toll. But is what my son feeling ridiculous? Is it a matter of him “just” going back to sleep? In dismissing his feelings, what have we taught him or failed to teach him?

The work of empathy builds from within.

In order for a child to learn and feel empathy, their own needs must first be nurtured.

Perhaps it is similar to the work of psychologist Abraham Maslow who emphasized that children need to first feel safety, love and belonging if they are to acquire and achieve higher skills. What this means is ensuring that our children’s own emotional needs are being met. Do they have secure relationships that they can trust? Can they safely express their emotions? Can their emotions be understood and supported by the caregivers in their life?

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Beyond allowing our children to feel as they do, we as parents need to hone our own empathy skills. One night, as I snuggled my son in bed, he very sadly said to me, “I want a baby brother. I don’t even want any presents, all I want in the world is a brother.” I immediately launched into logic mode. “Well it is not possible for Mama and Dada to have any more children, and even if we could what makes you think it would be a boy baby and if it wasn’t a boy, can you imagine another sister? You already complain about having too many sisters.

Maybe we can find someone to be a little brother to you. Who do we know who has little boys?” I paused to find my son’s head now lying on my lap, which was moist from his tears. “But I’m so lonely,” he sniffled.

Then I realized that my approach had been completely wrong. I had not truly listened to my son. As a discerning listener I might have pulled out my magic word “What…” and asked him, “What would be the best thing about having baby brother?” And had I used this tactic, I would have understood and felt his loneliness. Instead of problemsolving, all I needed to do was to meet my son where he was and walk along with him.

To show him some empathy: “Let me have a look. Ouch! That must really hurt.”

Whole Body Listening Last year, I sat in on my son’s kindergarten class and realized that I had missed out on a huge lesson, or perhaps I had learned it but forgotten it along the way. Whole Body Listening: Ears are listening, mouth is closed, eyes are looking, hands are still, feet are down and still. I asked myself: Do I do this with my children? When my children are chatting away to me a mile a minute, how many times do I find myself saying “Yep” or “Uh huh” to placate them while my attention is focused on other things—unloading the dishwasher, answering emails or simply being distracted inside my head. How many times do I block out their chatter or fail to give them eye contact when they are talking?

Multi-tasking has come to be held with such admiration and eye contact increasingly underrated, both to the disservice of genuine interactions with others. As the familiar play on words suggests, emotional intimacy = “in to me see.” As parents, unless we pause and listen to our children with our ears, our eyes and our hearts, we fail to develop the “in to me see” that is so essential for true understanding and empathy. And if we can’t

show true understanding, how will they ever know it themselves?

Stripping Right Down Marshall Rosenberg, in his work on nonviolent communication, describes dividing his workshop participants into two groups.

Each group is given the task of writing down a dialogue between themselves and another person in a conflict situation. The only difference, unbeknownst to the participants, is that in one group the other person is a child and in the second group, the other person is a neighbour. When compared, the differences in the dialogues highlight how less respectful and compassionate we often are with our own children than with other people. Would I ever yell at, embarrass or shame another adult? How would I feel if someone were to treat me that way? So why would I do this to my children? I am becoming mindful of the fact that teaching empathy to my children begins by stripping down our parent-child relationship to a more fundamental and more respectful human-to-human relationship.

The Balancing Act Negotiating the seas of my children’s emotional worlds is the most challenging part of parenting for me. The waters are often rough and unpredictable. Given the above discussion, I acknowledge the importance of validating my children’s feelings and helping them to self-regulate. However, I don’t tolerate the never-ending temper tantrum and while I would love to give them my 100 per cent attention 24/7, the reality is that I do need to get other tasks accomplished.

Fostering understanding in our children also involves helping them to acknowledge and empathize with us as parents. We can promote this end by openly sharing our own feelings with our children. Also, we need to access wisdom, discernment and assertiveness in setting boundaries and expectations for behaviour. A good example is negotiating with our children time when we can be fully attentive to them.

The ABCs of Emotional Literacy My son is an extroverted feeler—sadness, frustration, anger, jealousy, joyfulness— every emotion exudes from him. It can be contagious, overwhelming, irritating and often times explosive. In trying to help my son self-regulate and appreciate his emotions, I have come to realize that part of the challenge is that he is still very “limbic” and doesn’t know what he is feeling. It may not be www.kidsinvictoria.com

as easy as ABC, but emotional literacy is just as important as positive parental role modeling when it comes to nurturing empathy.

At the outset, children need to be equipped with an emotional vocabulary if they are to interpret emotional cues and become sensitive to other peoples’ feelings. They need to learn the words if they are to understand the language of empathy. Once children have the words to connect to emotions, they can then begin to become sensitive to the feelings of others and eventually develop the ability to take another person’s point of view.

Michelle Borba’s book Building Moral Intelligence is an excellent resource on how to nurture our children’s capacity for empathy. Here are a few of her suggestions: • Incorporate feeling questions into your conversations and interactions—How you do think that felt?

• Make the association between feelings and needs—What do you think they need in order to feel better?

• Colour your tone of voice with emotion and feeling when you read to your children.

• Draw attention to non-verbal feeling cues in books and other everyday experiences, for example, facial expressions, postures and the tone of voice of people expressing different emotions.

• Seize teachable moments to model and stimulate empathetic feelings.

• Praise sensitive, kind actions and reinforce them as soon as they happen.

• Highlight the effects of sensitivity and kind acts and point out the difference and impact they have made.

• Share your own feelings.

• Role-play and have your children “switch roles” to “feel” the other side.

• Help children discover what they have in common with other people.

• As a family, volunteer to help people who are less fortunate.

Our work as parents is full and there always seems to be so much groundwork that must be laid. But if we can set empathy as the cornerstone of our children’s foundation, the other pieces will fall into place. Helpfulness, tolerance, respect, understanding, caring, fairness, flexibility, generosity, humility, patience, appreciation, compassion, forgiveness—it all begins with empathy.

Janine Fernandes-Hayden is an educator and Salt Spring Island mum of four children. She hosts a parent and kids radio show called “The Beanstalk” at Green 107.9 FM or online at www.greenfm.ca. She is also a trained Virtues Project Facilitator. www.IslandParent.ca

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Who doesn’t have a pair of old skates lying around the basement? Put them back into use as charming holiday decor for your door. Embellish your skates with holly and other holiday greens from the garden, some fancy ribbon and a candy cane or two.

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Clean the skates (if you don’t have any lying around, look for secondhand skates at thrift stores) and replace the laces with heavy-duty or double-ply garden twine.

Find two small jars that will fit inside the skates. They will keep your greens in place and also hold water (optional) to keep them fresh.

Select an assortment of greens from the garden (holly, cedar, salal, etc.) and tie into two neat bundles. Place the bundles in the jars and trim the ends until you have a pleasing display.

Decorate your skate swag with more ribbon, pine cones, and ornaments and then hang it in place on your front door.

Excerpted and reprinted with permission from Everyday Eden: 100+ Fun, Green Garden Projects for the Whole Family to Enjoy by Christina Symons and John Gillespie (Harbour Publishing Co. Ltd., 2011). www.kidsinvictoria.com

Holiday Gift Guide The following gift ideas come from some of our local merchants and businesses. To find out more about any of the businesses listed below, refer to the ads in this issue.

From Bolen Books Preschool: Bubble Trouble by Margaret Mahy. A delightful rhyming romp about Mabel, her bubble, and the trouble it causes her baby brother. Sure to be fun for children and parents alike. PB. 37 pages. $8.99.

Children: Mr. and Mrs. Bunny—Detectives Extraordinaire by Polly Horvath.

Madeline’s parents go missing, and she and two detectives (who happen to be bunnies) are on the case. A hilarious, layered story for all ages. PB. 248 pages. $14.95.

Juvenile/Teen: The Lives of Christopher Chant by Diana Wynne Jones. Nine lives and a magical destiny are what Christopher sees as… inconvenient. However, he learns to accept his responsibility in this wonderful, endearing children’s novel. PB. 333 pages. $10.99.

Adult: Fingal O’Reilly, Irish Doctor by Patrick Taylor. Something just for parents.

The latest Irish Country novel from Patrick Taylor finally gives the irascible doctor his time in the limelight. HC. 431 pages. $27.50.

From Buddies Toys Preschool: Folding Trampoline by Galt.

A jumping good way to burn some energy.

A steel frame construction to jump safely, indoors or out. $89.99.

Children: Starry Night or Master Kitz by Kid Zaw. Includes all the tools your child needs to create their own masterpiece as well as learning materials to deepen their understanding of the original painting. $29.99.

Juvenile/Teen: Boogie Board LCD Writing Tablet. Say goodbye to paper. The Boogie Board LCD Writing Tablet is the paperless, electronic alternative to memos, sketchbooks, sticky notes and dry erase boards. $39.99.

Adult: Family Charades by Outset Media.

Six games in one box. Picture charades, and kids charades make it easy for the wee ones to act out. Oodles of laughter for the whole family. $29.99.

From Cascadian Crusaders All ages: The Great Plastic Round-up.

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concerning plastic garbage in the Pacific Northwest. 25 pages. $20.

From JamTots Baby: CloudB Sleep Sheep. Attaches to the crib and plays soothing sounds for better sleep. $39.95.

Toddler: Baby Stella Dolls, Clothing & Accessories. Delightfully detailed from her lifelike toes, belly button and plump tummy, to her soft fleece hair and embroidered features. Toddlers will love cradling, dressing, and caring for this baby. Doll $34.95, clothing and accessories start at $17.95.

From Kool & Child (Nanaimo) Baby/Preschool: Squigz Starter Set. Push together and pop apart for hours of creative building play. Features 24 Squigz in eight intriguing shapes. $29.99.

Children: Q-BA-MAZE 2.0 Mega Stunt Set. The ingenious pieces of Q-BA-MAZE 2.0 Marble Maze interlock in endless configurations, while double-exit cubes stimulate children’s creativity and problem solving skills. $89.99.

Juvenile/Teen: Snap Circuits Sound. Enjoy hours of educational fun. More than 185 exciting projects including the Voice Changer, Echo Effects, and Keyboard with Optical Theremin. $9.99.

Adult: Crazy Aaron’s Thinking Putty.

Grab some stress relieving, hand exercising, mind-expanding, totally fun and addicting thinking putty. 16 assorted varieties to choose from. $14.99-$19.99.

From Momease Baby Boutique Preschool: Wee Woolies Pajamas, Sleep Sacks, and sleepers. Made in Vancouver BC, local company Wee Woolies makes a line of pure merino wool sleepwear and infant clothing that is as beautiful as it is functional. $37.99 and up.

Children: Boon Glo Nightlight. The innovative and fun Boon Glo Nightlight boasts 3 cool-to-the-touch removable LED balls that will glow for up to 30 minutes when off the base. $89.99.

Juvenile/Teen: Wheelie Bag from Beatrix New York. The Beatrix Wheelie Bag is the ultimate jet-setting suitcase for kids of all ages and it sports a sturdy nylon-covered design, adjustable handle & crazy-cute characters. $109.99.

Adult: timi & leslie convertible diaper

bags. The ultra-chic diaper bags from timi & leslie are widely known for their luxurious style, practical function and great quality.

With included extras like a coordinating clutch and stroller straps, these easy-care baby bags are a must-have for mama. $159.99.

From National Geographic Theatre Gift Shop Preschool: Sea Otter Pup by Victoria Miles. With wonderful illustrations of our coastal waters, Sea Otter Pup tells the tale of a mother otter helping her young pup find his way. HC. 22 pages. $9.95.

Children: Colour Capes. Our unique colour capes offer a craft project for girls and boys that will create memories forever.

Styles include pirate, princess and more.

Non-toxic markers included. $22.99.

Juvenile/Teen: Eco Bamboo Kendama.

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You could also ask “How are my kids doing?” Of course you then need some kind of measuring stick to answer such questions.

For example, do I mean how am I doing compared to people my age, my health, within my culture, my economic standing, and so on, or am I asking myself how am I feeling about life and my circumstances?

These questions are about our well-being.

personal feeling of well-being can be realized as we become more aware of our thoughts and actions. Focusing on these two areas of life can have an immediate influence on our sense of well-being.

The University of Toronto proposes some helpful tools for new students adjusting to college life. One approach states that there are five main areas that can increase our sense of well-being. These parameters of thinking and behaviours can apply to parents, and to our children. The U of T states we need to

There are a number of diagrams and models that attempt to measure, or display attributes of well-being. Models focus on things like security, access to mental-emotional-spiritual-physical health supports, leisure, employment, housing, education, finances, family and the environment. These are some of the spheres of life that touch us daily, and the way we interact with them will bring about our sense of well-being or the absence thereof.

The recent report from UNICEF, “Child Well-being in Rich Countries,” measured material well-being, health and safety, education, behaviour and risks, housing and environment.

The world around us does affect us, but in addition to measuring the outward environment and how it impacts our happiness, there are other approaches we can look at to assess our well-being. For example, our

pay attention to these five areas every day.

The “Five Ways to Well-being” include: Take Notice, Learn, Be Active, Connect, and Give Back.

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Taking notice enhances self-knowledge and self-understanding.

Learn: Try something new, rediscover an old interest, or learn to play a new instrument. Learning something can increase your confidence.

Be Active: Take the stairs; go for a brisk walk, sign up for a dance class. Being active helps to reduce stress, boost energy and strengthen your immune system.

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We encourage our kids to be active and explore their environment with vigor. We are always conscious of having our children feel like they belong, are connected and safe.

Encouraging children to give back happens when we teach them to take turns, share, help others, or help around the house.

The conscious efforts of doing something for our kids may be easier than when it comes to taking care of ourselves. It may be helpful for you to print out these themes and stick them on the fridge. A visual reminder can help you and your family to slow down and adjust the habit of rushing through life. Even when we are busy doing “good things” we can lose our sense of well-being.

We can also be active in our community.

We can join with others in addressing child poverty, bullying, or other circumstances that make our lives less than ideal.

Using the “5 Steps” model, we strengthen our own sense of well-being, assist our children in feeling safe, loved and involved (which strengthens their sense of wellbeing), and we can more confidently help others to feel safe, needed and appreciated.

When you ask yourself this year “how am I doing?” answer by checking on your thoughts and activities in the “Five Ways to Well-being.” Do the same when you ask “How are my kids doing?” It may bring you a fuller sense of a healthy well-being and the motivation to help others, which by doing so will increase your well-being even further.

Randy Keyes has lived in Victoria and worked at the Queen Alexandra Centre for 26 years. He and his wife have three children and six grandchildren. His hobbies include reading, writing and ukulele playing. www.IslandParent.ca

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have never been one to embrace Christmas.

Too many conflicting messages: peace on Earth, sure, but not if it gets in the way of binge shopping trips and rekindling age-old sibling rivalries. Years past, my ever-patient— and not-so-secretly sentimental—partner has had to practically force Christmas gaiety on me with peppermint lattes made “festive” with a nice shot of rum and repeat playings of “Feliz Navidad.” At first I would ironically play along, but it became something of a tradition, and I admit here and now, I would intentionally put my Grinch on just to enjoy his sweet efforts.

Naturally, with kids on the scene, that has all changed, though we still enjoy a nice “festive” latte. One year in particular, when they were six and three years old, my son and daughter were at the apex of Christmas excitement. The magic enfolded them like a cloak of bliss. It wasn’t just the prospect of getting a pile of loot, either, though that was definitely very real. They loved the whole package—the lights, the songs, the tree, the joy (and empowerment) of giving, the togetherness. Just the specialness of it all. And yep, it’s contagious in a way spiked lattes can’t match.

So when it came time to actually put the decorations away that particular year, I was downright wistful. “Well,” I sighed, “there it is until next year,” or something equally daft.

Daft, because who says that within earshot of a six-year-old known for his sentimentality?

So no sooner did those fool words leave my mouth than I tried to somehow grab them back, because I knew what was coming. But it was too late—his dear face crumpled with sorrow.

He sat on the couch and wept inconsolably for the end of Christmas. I gathered him in my arms and offered lame words about having next year to look forward to, not even convincing myself. We ordered a cease and desist on putting it all away and left the tree half-dressed for another couple of days so he could come to terms with things.

Eventually, his tears subsided, but I still felt I needed to find the right words to help him handle this and future endings philosophically. I felt it important that he understand we can’t control the passing of time, that all good things must come to an end, that you can let go with grace.

After much research, I found my words among the infinity of that wisest of sages,

Google. Perfectly enough, they were penned by the Grinch creator himself, Dr. Seuss.

I found my moment when we were all gathered at the lunch table and bestowed my gem to my young brood.

“Don’t cry because it’s over,” I declared, “smile because it happened.”

There was a silence which I was certain signified the internalization of this pearl. I expected to see their faces alight with appreciation for my insightfulness. Surely they would pass it onto their own children and recall the time their dear, wise mother had put their sad souls at ease and gifted them with the ability to cope with the turning pages of their lives.

I leaned back in order to more fully receive their words of appreciation.

“Well,” my son shrugged, “I just don’t work like that.”

My initial shock faded with the realization that I had seldom actually followed that advice myself. Especially when it came to my kids.

For instance? When my son started kindergarten. After I lingered for 15 minutes on the first day, he whispered, “OK, Mom, you can go now.” As I hugged him goodbye, I made sure he couldn’t see my red face and fat tears.

While registering his sister for preschool, I had to call back once I had regained my composure. Even when my son was a colicky infant rapidly bringing me to my knees, my husband said, in a failed attempt at reassurance, “Don’t worry. In about 18 years he will be packing for college.” I erupted into a mess of tears and snot. “That means he’ll be leeeeeeeaaaaaaving!” I wailed.

There at the lunch table, I had to laugh—and choke up a little. Who am I to suggest stoicism to the very souls who make me ache with the passage of time? There are so many moments already forgotten that I pine for. (Though, let’s be real, certainly not every moment.)

So, no dice, Dr. Seuss. Sometimes we have to cry because it’s over before we can smile because it happened. At least now, when my son leaves home for college and he’s embarrassed by my inevitable carrying on, I’ll know exactly what to say. And I’ll have the place all decked out when he comes home for Christmas.

Thanks to her two children, Victoria writer Aaren Madden now loves Christmas. She continues to learn more from them than she could ever teach, which makes her smile. And cry. And sometimes, both at once.

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Nutcracker Ballet

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he Nutcracker Ballet is over 100 years old. The music was composed by Peter Tchaikovsky in 1891 and the very first ballet performance took place in Russia in 1892. It’s a timeless ballet classic and it has become a festive holiday tradition for families in Canada and around the world.

The music and melodies are incredible and, combined with the dance, it is a magical story that everyone seems to enjoy. By taking your child to a ballet performance, you are opening up a world of music, dancing, costumes, stage design and excitement.

There are so many diverse elements in a single production that there is likely to be something of interest for everyone.

The Nutcracker is among the most-loved fairytale ballets. The story comes from a tale

by German storyteller E.T.A. Hoffman. Set on Christmas Eve early in the nineteenth century, the story focuses on a young girl, Clara, who receives a Nutcracker from her uncle. The Nutcracker later becomes a prince who takes Clara to an enchanted land of magical dreams.

If you plan to attend the ballet, help your child enjoy the production by introducing them beforehand to the story. There are many excellent books available with colourful illustrations. Introducing the characters can help kids understand how the acts are connected and also recognize the main characters.

As well, familiarize your child with the ballet by playing a recording of the music.

The more your children listen to the music, the more they will enjoy the performance.

Encourage your child to move and dance freely while listening to the music. Twirling and circling colourful scarves or ribbons can enhance creative dance movements.

Pretend to be a flower in the “Waltz of the Flowers” or a fluttering snowflake in the “Waltz of the Snowflakes.” Or march around the room while keeping the beat to the “March of the Toy Soldiers.” The most famous movement is the “Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy,” with sounds of tinkling bells from the glockenspiels. Other dances

in The Nutcracker include the Spanish Hot Chocolate Dance, the Arabian Coffee Dance and the Russian Candy Cane Dance.

If you are unable to attend a live performance of The Nutcracker, don’t dismay.

Watching a DVD of the ballet can be just as rewarding. Whether a live theatrical performance or one made for the screen, the music comes alive when seeing the dancers in costume, and the beautiful set designs add further excitement.

After 120 years, The Nutcracker still retains its mystery and its spellbinding story is able to transport its audience to another realm. The Nutcracker is an enriching experience for kids, one that will help enhance their dance and music appreciation.

Dance Victoria presents Alberta Ballet’s The Nutcracker at the Royal Theatre on December 6, 7 and 8. Visit www.dancevictoria.com. Ballet Victoria presents The Gift, a story told to the music of The Nutcracker at the Royal Theatre on December 28 and 29. Visit www.balletvictoria.ca Jerri Carson is a primary music teacher for SD #61. She is a member of the CRD Arts Advisory Council. Jerri plays the cello in the Victoria Conservatory Cello Orchestra.

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She said she had a plan for how to earn the money and asked if we’d let her. Later that same day, our middle daughter, Tessa, asked if she could save up for an iPod touch.

My wife and I have always tried to limit our kids’ screen and internet time. The computer I set up for them has a 15-minute timer, and I’d refused to let Tessa buy a Kobo when I found out the new version included a web browser. Our kids knew all about our concerns and insisted these devices would only be used to take pictures, text, listen to music, call people on Skype and play occasional games.

We were sceptical, but my wife and I agreed. Part of what won us over was the enthusiasm with which they started to earn and save money. They began to babysit and cat sit. They set up bake sales and went busking. They did extra chores, saved their allowance and, month after month, their savings grew. Meanwhile, Kim and I laid out some rules around how often we’d allow them to use the devices, and I made it clear they weren’t to be used for internet access.

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though there are many good reasons parents should worry about what their kids might be doing online. For me, it was more than that.

I missed them. They both suddenly had this whole new world at the touch of a screen, and it was like they were gone even when they were here. I wrote them a letter to try and express this. Here’s how it concluded: “I’m concerned about these phones because I love you, I want to see you more often, have the family together more often, have us really with each other and not constantly distracted by screens.”

It took a couple of days, but eventually Tessa wrote me back. She laid out a reasoned argument for why they should keep the devices. She listed all the good things about them, and there are good things: Tessa turned out to be a great photographer and loved editing and playing with images, and Evelyn can text us when she’s out with friends.

In the end, my wife and I decided the best way to reverse the role these devices had taken in our lives wasn’t to take them away, but to cut off the wireless. I logged into our router one day and simply switched it off.

The kids still have their devices and they still have a computer. I’ve even taken off the 15-minute time limit. However, they no longer carry the digital world with them in their pockets, and I don’t think Tessa has yet forgiven me for that. She’s still fighting to get the wireless back and occasionally writes me well-reasoned letters of protest, but I’m enjoying having our kids back with us again—present in the here and now.

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There’s nothing like snooping through the forest to get your curiosity in gear. And what better way to snoop than with an experienced CRD Regional Parks’ naturalist? Look up, look down, look all around and you’ll be amazed at what can be found. Meet at kiosk in parking lot off Atkins Ave at 1pm. 5+ years. BC Transit #53. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

SAT 16 & SUN 17 Friends of the Library Giant Book Sale at Pearkes Recreation Centre. A huge stock of gently used books to choose from. Early Bird sale: Sat 1-5pm ($5 admission). Regular sale Sat 5-8pm and Sun 9am-1pm (no admission fee). Closing all-you-can-carry for $10 admission Sun, 1:15-3:15pm. 3100 Tillicum Rd.

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SUN 17 Nuts About Squirrels at Francis/King Regional Park. What animal leaps from towering trees, runs as fast as 20 kms per hour, and gnaws through electrical cords in the blink of an eye?

A squirrel! Drop in for a squirrelly day and find out more about this amazing animal. Join in the fun with puppet shows at 11:30am and 1:30pm, and walks at noon and 2pm. Meet at Francis/King Nature Centre off Munn Rd. All ages. 11am-3pm. 250-478-3344. www. crd.bc.ca/parks.

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MON 18 Victoria Children’s Literature Roundtable at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Authors Dayle Gaetz and Kristin Butcher will tell us about their latest books. Dayle’s range from animal adventure for the youngest readers, to mystery and history novels for pre-teens and teens. Her latest title is Taking the Reins, a horse story for girls. Kristin, from her teaching experience, writes for ages 7-17. Her latest titles are Caching In (Orca Current), about geocaching for teens, and Truths I Learned from Sam, about 17-year-old Dani, set in

B.C.’s Cariboo Country. Doors open at 7pm.

Browse the Schoolhouse Teaching Supplies and Children’s Bookstore table before the meeting begins at 7:30pm. VCLR is open to the public.

Members free; $5/drop-in; $4/student. For more info call 250-598-3694.

WED 20 Giggles and Wiggles at Central Branch Library.

Wiggle your way to the library for a 20-minute storytime for little listeners with extra energy.

Dance and giggle and learn new action stories and action rhymes chosen just for you. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult.

No registration required. 10:30-10:50am.

250-382-7241, ext. 601.

Baby Signs with Layla: a Baby Sign Language Program at Juan de Fuca Branch Library.

Program participants will learn the basics of using nonverbal signs with children aged 0-24 months. Benefits of signing with your baby or toddler may include fewer tantrums, greater cognitive and language development, and improved communication with your baby.

For parents, educators and children ages 0-24 months. 11am-noon. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-391-0653 for information.

FRI 22 Stamp Scavenger Hunt at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. Join local stamp enthusiasts for an introduction to stamp collecting. Be prepared to be amazed at how many stamps you’ll see

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at one time. You’ll hear about stamps, stamp clubs, library resources and participate in a stamp treasure hunt. For ages 6-10. 1:302:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-391-0653 for more information.

Crafts for Tweens with Heather: Old School Animation with Thaumatropes at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Thauma-what?

Learn about thaumatropes, an old school animation technique, then make your own to take home and keep. Artist Heather Cosidetto will provide the supplies and tips. For ages 10-12. 2-3:30pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-477-9030.

Hello, Bonjour, Hola at Central Branch Library. Have you ever wondered how to say hello in another language? Venture to the library to learn words in different languages, listen to stories from around the world, and create a fabulous mini journal. For ages 6-9.

2:30-3:30pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-382-7241, ext. 601 for more information.

Fantastical Fairytales at Esquimalt Branch Library. Be swept away… in, around, and upside down folktales, fairytales and fractured stories from around the world. For ages 6-9.

2:30-3:30pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-414-7198.

Crafts for Tweens: Needle Felting at Oak Bay Branch Library. Love crafts? Have fun while learning a new craft or building your skills.

We’ll provide the art supplies and instructions, and you provide the inspiration. For ages 1012. 2:30-4pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-592-2489.

Marvelous Mushrooms at Francis/King Regional Park. For the novice mushroom explorer, join a CRD Regional Parks’ naturalist to identify (not harvest) fungi in the forest. 5+ years.

1-2:30pm. Free, but you must pre-register as space is limited. To reserve a spot, call before Nov 22. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Casavant Pipe Organ 100th Birthday Celebration at St. Ann’s Academy. An afternoon of music, behind-the-scene tours, and even birthday cake—and a chance to hand-pump the bellows. Local experts Grant Smalley and David Vuckson will be on hand with slides and an up-close look at this historic harmonium.

As well as an information talk and concert, there will be displays, refreshments and a piece of birthday cake for all. 1:30pm. For more information, contact Shelley Myhres, 250-953-8829. www.stannsacademy.com.

Knit Wits for Teens: Basic Hats at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Take your basic knitting skills to the next level and learn how to knit a simple hat. Join local knitter extraorinaire Nicole Bottles for coaching and inspiration. We will supply the instructions, yarn and knitting needles. For ages 13-18. 2:30-4pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-477-7111.

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Island Farms Santa’s Lights Parade, see IPM Notes on page 5.

Winter Birds of Witty’s at Witty’s Lagoon Regional Park. While some birds fly south, many spend their winters enjoying southern Vancouver Island’s moderate climate. Join a CRD Regional Parks’ naturalist to find out who’s who at the lagoon, a favourite bird hangout. Bring binoculars if you have a pair.

Spotting scopes are provided. Meet at Witty’s Lagoon Nature Centre off Metchosin Rd at 10am. 9+ years. BC Transit #54 or #55. 250478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Crafts for Tweens & Teens: Modern Macramé Bracelets at Esquimalt Branch Library. Learn basic macramé techniques and create your own simple macramé bracelet with local teenager Angel in this fun two-part workshop that won’t leave you tied up in knots. For ages 10-18.

10:30am-noon. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-414-7198.

Duck Day at Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary. Some dabble on the surface, some dive for their food—we’ll explore the amazing adaptations ducks have for living on the lake and discover who’s who in the duck world.

Admission by donation. Noon-3pm, drop-in.

3873 Swan Lake Rd. 250-479-0211. www. swanlake.bc.ca.

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TUES 26 Baby Time at Goudy Branch Library. Learn songs, rhymes and fingerplays to use with your baby every day. For babies 0-15 months and their caregiver. 10:30-11am. Register at www. gvpl.ca or call 250-391-5702.

WED 27 Makerspaces: Laser Cutter Christmas Gifts at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. Join members of Victoria Makerspace for a demonstration of high-tech tools used in their shared workshop, including a 3D printer and laser cutter. Design an original tree ornament or paper gift box and watch the high-precision laser do the cutting and engraving. Everyone welcome; children under 10 must be accompanied by an adult.

6:30-8:30pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-391-0653.

SAT 30 Lovely Lone Tree Hill at Lone Tree Hill Regional Park. Join a Regional Parks’ naturalist for a guided walk to the top of this gem of a park with spectacular views. Bring a snack, and wear sturdy hiking shoes. Meet in parking lot off Millstream Rd at 1pm. 8+ years.

250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Knit Wits for Teens: Basic Hats at Nellie McClung Branch Library. See Sat 23 for details.

For ages 13-18. 2:30-4pm. Register at www. gvpl.ca or call 250-477-7111.

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December SUN 1 Kids’ Buddhist Meditation Class at Bodhichitta Buddhist Centre. Meditation and Buddhist philosophy specially suited for kids aged 8-14. Learn to calm your minds through guided meditation and use Buddhist teachings in everyday life through stories and games.

11am-noon. $5 drop-in; $10 maximum per family. meditatevancouverisland.org.

SUN 1 – SUN 8 Annual Nativity Exhibit at Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, Sidney. More than 500 separate nativity sets displayed in a reverent and spiritual setting. Free. www. nativityexhibit-sidneybc.com.

TUES 3 Guys’ Night Out Baby Time at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. For dads, stepdads, foster dads, granddads, uncles, and male caregivers with babies 0-15 months. Calling all babies and the men who love them. Join us for fingerplays, puppets, stories and songs. 6:30-7pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-477-9030.

FRI 6 Sea of Lights Parade at Gyro Park Beach & Willows Beach. Great family fun starts with the

fleet passing Cattle Point at 7pm. Spectacular viewing at Willows Beach at 7:15pm where the Kiwanis serve free hot chocolate and cookies by donation at the pavilion. A roaring bonfire is sure to keep everyone warm. At 7:45pm, the fleet parades past Gyro Park beach, where free hot chocolate and coffee is available. For more information, visit www.rvyc.bc.ca.

SAT 7 “Made With Love” Winter Carnival in Market Square. Featuring local artisans, crafters, knitters, jewellers, fiber artists, bakers and more.

Carefully handcrafted, beautifully structured one-of-a-kind creations. 11am-7pm. www. marketsquare.ca.

Winter Wander at Devonian Regional Park.

Join a CRD Regional Parks’ naturalist to explore this beautiful seaside gem of a park.

What plants and animals make this park home? Come and find out. Meet at info kiosk in parking lot off William Head Rd at 1pm.

5+ years. BC Transit #54 or #55. www.crd. bc.ca/parks. 250-478-3344.

Tuba Christmas in Market Square.This is a great way to start the holiday season. More than 65 tuba players from BC and the Pacific Northwest come together to play everyone’s favourite Christmas tunes. 1-3pm. Free. www. marketsquare.ca.

Lego at the Library at Bruce Hutchison Branch

Could there be any greater gift?

Library. Like stories and Lego? Then this is the program for you. The library will supply the Lego, and you will use your imagination to construct your own crazy creation to display at the library. For a project to take home, bring your own Lego. For ages 6-10. 3:30-4:30pm.

Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-727-0104.

SAT 7 & Sun 8 Santa is Coming to the Root Cellar on McKenzie Ave. Santa will be the guest in the Christmas Tree Forest (full of local trees) for a “bring your own camera” opportunity. Bring your kids to visit Santa and warm up with some complimentary hot apple cider. Noon-4pm.

250-477-9495.

SUN 8 Christmas Storytime at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Ho, Ho, Ho! Merry Christmas.

Join the library for a festive storytime, a craft, and a tasty holiday treat in anticipation of Christmas Day. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 11am-noon. Register at www. gvpl.ca or call 250-477-9030.

Wreathmaking at Elk/Beaver Lake Regional Park. Join CRD Regional Parks’ naturalists in the spirit of the season to make a festive wreath.

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have them. Food and cash donations welcome.

Suggested minimum donation $10/wreath (proceeds to a local food bank). Meet at Beaver Lake Nature Centre off main parking lot. All ages. 11am-3pm drop-in. BC Transit #70 or #72. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca.

Ross Bay Christmas Tour at Ross Bay Cemetery. John Adams leads a yuletide themed tour with warm-hearted and humorous stories, including many about Emily Carr. A holly wreath will be placed on Emily Carr’s family plot. Meet at 1:45pm in front of Oregano’s, Fairfield Plaza. 1544 Fairfield Rd. Tour starts at 2pm. $2/members; $5/general.

Drop-in Christmas Craft at Oak Bay Branch Library. What’s December without a little (okay, a lot of) sparkle and trim? The library supplies the materials and samples, and you supply the imagination and enthusiasm.

Everyone welcome; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 2-3:30pm. No registration required. 250-592-2489.

Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting Ceremony at Cordova Bay United Church. Unites bereaved families around the globe in a virtual 24-hour wave of light as candles are lit at 7pm from time zone to time zone. Music from soloists from the Victoria Conservatory of Music. Speaker, special poems, candle lighting for all children being honoured, and a reception. 813 Claremont Ave. For more info: dtaaffe@shaw.ca.

MON 9 Victoria Children’s Literature Roundtable at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Two local authors for teens, Sarah Harvey (Lit Report, Death Benefits, Three Little Words) and Robin Stevenson (Record Breaker, Attitude, A Thousand Shades of Blue) will tell us about their writing experiences. Sarah, an editor for Orca Books, will also talk about the editing process, focusing on the new Limelights series of novels about the performing arts. Doors open at 7pm. Browse the Schoolhouse Teaching Supplies and Children’s Bookstore table before the meeting begins at 7:30pm. VCLR is open to the public. Members free; $5/drop-in; $4/ student. 250-598-3694.

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TUES 10 Christmas Iron Chef at Esquimalt Branch Library. Kitchen Stadium is invading the library for this fun foodie program. Think you have what it takes to be GVPL’s next Iron Chef?

You will have one hour to prepare delicious (no bake) dishes with the seasonal ingredients provided, then library staff gourmands will taste test each dish to decide whose culinary skills reign supreme. Ingredients provided will not include nuts, dairy or eggs. For ages 10-12.

3:15-4:15pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-414-7198.

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WED 11 Drop-in Christmas Craft at Central Saanich Branch Library. See SAT 8 for details. Everyone welcome; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 10:30am-12:30pm. No registration required. 250-652-2013.

Christmas Storytime at Oak Bay Branch Library. See SAT 8 for details. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 1-2pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-592-2489.

Who is Santa Claus? at Esquimalt Branch Library. What do an eight-legged horse, a flying Saint from 900 AD and Coca Cola have in common? You’ll learn the answer and play a Santa Scavenger Hunt. You will also make a diorama to decorate a tree. For ages 5-12. 3-4pm. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-414-7198.

THURS 12 Christmas Storytime at Bruce Hutchison, Juan de Fuca, and Nellie McClung Branch Libraries. See SAT 8 for details. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 10:30am-11:30am.

Bruce Hutchison: 250-727-0104; Juan de Fuca: 250-391-0653; Nellie McClung: 250477-7111. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call the hosting branch for more information.

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Wonderful Wintry Weather at Esquimalt Branch Library. Celebrate wintry weather with tales of snow, bears, birds and other forest friends. Join us for songs, rhymes, stories, and a delectable edible craft of gingerbread cookies. For ages 3-5. 10:30-11:30am. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-414-7198.

FRI 13 Christmas Storytime at Juan de Fuca, Bruce Hutchison and Oak Bay Branch Libraries. See SAT 8 for details. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 10:30am-11:30am. Juan de Fuca: 250-391-0653; Bruce Hutchison: 250-7270104; Oak Bay: 250-592-2489. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call the hosting branch for more information.

SAT 14 Moss Street Holiday Market at Sir James Douglas School & Fairfield Community Centre. Over 70 vendors. Cards, clothing, jewelry, pottery, bath products, baked goods, winter vegetables, meats and much more. 10am-4pm.

250-361-1747. MossStreetMarket.com.

Drop-in Christmas Craft at Central Saanich Branch Library. See SAT 8 for details. Everyone welcome; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 10:30am-12:30pm. No registration required. 250-652-2013.

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Christmas Storytime at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. See SAT 12 for details. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult.

11am-noon. Register at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-477-9030.

Solstice Stroll at Witty’s Lagoon Regional Park.

Why do we sing about holly and ivy? What tales were told in the days of old? Enjoy the quiet forest of Witty’s Lagoon at this special time with CRD Regional Parks’ guest naturalist Joe Percival. Meet at Nature Centre off Metchosin Rd at 1pm. 5+ years. BC Transit #54 or #55.

250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

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Lunch Beat Victoria in Market Square. Intrepid Theatre presents a winter edition of Lunch Beat Victoria, the global movement that transforms your ordinary lunch hour into an all-ages dance party. Come to the square for great dance music by a live DJ. Noon-1pm.

Entry by donation.

Greater Victoria Concert Band in Market Square. The sounds of Christmas fill the square with holiday magic. 1:30-2:30pm. Free. www. marketsquare.ca.

Drop-in Winter Wonderland Crafts at Central Branch Library. Winter is a wonderful season.

Celebrate winter at the library by creating your own miniature winter village to take home. Everyone welcome; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 3-4pm. No registration required. 250-382-7241, ext. 601.

Story Club: Winter Celebration Stories at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Listen to stories, talk about your favourite books, and enjoy fun activities. Snacks included. This club is for kids who love stories, regardless of reading ability.

For ages 5-8. 3:30-4:30pm. Register at www. gvpl.ca or call 250-727-0104.

SUN 15 Drop-in Christmas Craft at Esquimalt and Central Branch Libraries. See SAT 8 for details. Everyone welcome; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. Esquimalt: 10:30am-11:30am, 250-414-7198; Central: 2:30-4:30pm, 250-382-7241, ext. 601. No registration required.

Kids’ Buddhist Meditation Class at Bodhichitta Buddhist Centre. See SUN 1 for details. 11amnoon. $5 drop-in; $10 maximum per family. meditatevancouverisland.org.

The Nutcracker Sweet in Market Square.

Presented by ZarYevka Ballet and Market Square as a Christmas gift to Victoria. This colourful 30-minute performance features wonderful Tchaikovsky music, excerpts from The Land of the Sweets, beautiful costumes, and exciting professional dancing. Enjoy the show and stay afterwards to meet and take pictures with the dancers. 1pm, 1:45pm, and 2:30pm. Free. www.marketsquare.ca.

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Depuis sa création en 1995, le Conseil scolaire francophone de la Colombie-Britannique offre des programmes et des services éducatifs valorisant le plein épanouissement et l’identité culturelle des apprenantes et apprenants francophones de la province.

Le conseil compte aujourd’hui plus de 4 600 élèves, 36 écoles publiques et dessert plus d’une centaine de communautés réparties dans l’ensemble de la province.

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Arbutus Singers Christmas Benefit Concert at Cadboro Bay United Church. 65-voice choir, refreshments to follow. 2-3pm. Admission by donation, benefits children at risk in Uganda through the Jolly Nyeko Foundation Canada.

Info, 250-721-0445 or JNFCanada.org.

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Naden Band Christmas Concert and Toy Drive at the Royal Theatre. The Naden Band and special guest vocalists will deliver a diverse musical repertoire of popular and traditional favourites again this year. All toys donated will be used by the Salvation Army Community and Family Services for distribution to needy families. 7:30pm. $10 plus an unwrapped toy.

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Imagine the “I LOVE IT!” when you give a gift certificate for lessons and wrapped art supplies or a guitar package at Christmas!

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celebration with stories for all. Pour a cup of cider, take a cookie and get comfortable as we read classic seasonal stories as well as some less familiar Canadian gems. 7-8pm. No registration required. 250-652-2013.

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Celebrate Special Evening Candle Light Animals - Drama - Nativity Story - Carols

Dress up as an angel, shepherd or Magi! Don’t have your own costume? We’ll provide one for you!

7:30pm: Carols in the Candlelight Pageant 11:00pm: Candlelight Carols & Readings

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The Nutcracker Sweet in Market Square. See SUN 15 for details. 1pm, 1:45pm, and 2:30pm.

Free. www.marketsquare.ca.

Merry Christmas from all of us at Island Parent.

SUN 29 Who’s Hooting at Mill Hill Regional Park.

Whoo-o-o has eyes as big as yours, stays up late at night and snacks on mice? An owl, of course. A CRD Regional Parks’ naturalist will lead this walk and help you find out more about these night hunters. Meet at information kiosk in the parking lot off Atkins Ave at 1pm. 5+ years. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

MON 30 Winter Wondertime at Francis/King Regional Park. What are the animals up to in the winter forest? Bring your young ones on a winter wondertime adventure to find out. Join a CRD Regional Parks’ naturalist to look for raccoon winter food, find a good spot for hibernation and play animal games in the forest. Meet at Francis/King Nature Centre off Munn Rd at 1pm. 5+ years. 250-478-3344. www.crd. bc.ca/parks.

ONGOING BABIES, TODDLERS & PRESCHOOL Drop-in Storytimes for Babies, Toddlers & Families at the Greater Victoria Public Library.

Caregivers are welcome and encouraged to participate. Storytimes are free and drop-in.

Please come early to find a space. For a complete list of drop-in programs, call your local library, or visit www.gvpl.ca.

Parent/Tot Drop-in at Gordon Head United Church. A safe place where young children can play while parents in the community connect with each other. Lots of space and toys. Tea or coffee is available for caregivers, and a healthy snack for the children. Parents are responsible for the care of their own children. Mondays 10am-noon. More info, call the church office at 250-477-4142, or Maisie at 250-477-0388.

Children Sea-Shirt Sundays at the Shaw Ocean Discovery Centre. On the first Sunday of each month, create your own fish fashion. Be sure to bring a pillow case, cloth bag or t-shirt (or purchase a t-shirt from the centre) and your creativity. $2 donation for fabric paint. 1-4pm.

250-665-7511.

Home is a Beautiful Word: Kids’ Art Contest at the Greater Victoria Public Library. What does home mean to you? What would it be like to live without a home? Create your own artwork on the theme of “home” and be entered into a prize draw. First prize is an all access backstage pass behind the scenes tour of the Belfry Theatre for you and your friends, family, or class.

Second and third prizes are $25 gift certificates to a bookstore of your choice. For full contest rules and how to enter, see gvpl.ca/programsand-events/contests-and-games. For ages 6-18.

For questions, please email programs@gvpl. ca. Online Fri Nov 1 – Sat Nov 30.

YOUTH Friday Nights are Alright at Flipside Youth Activity Centre, Pearkes Recreation Centre.

Play pool, ping-pong, dome hockey, foosball and two different video game systems while partaking in refreshments. Drop by Flipside between 3-6pm Fridays to pick up a free admission ticket to the Junior Braves, and show your student ID to the receptionists to gain free access to skating and rentals. For more information, contact Gaileen Flaman at 250475-5462 or email gaileen.flaman@saanich.ca.

FAMILIES Pile up the Prezzies in Market Square. Market Square needs Christmas presents. The goal is to deliver a sleigh full of toys, trinkets, treats & treasures to kids of all ages for C-FAX Santa’s Anonymous. Drop off unwanted gifts at Oscar & Libby’s and watch the sleigh pile

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up during December. For a list of needed gifts, stop by the shop, or visit Oscar & Libby’s on Facebook. www.marketsquare.ca.

HoHo LoJo Heyday Tours in Market Square.

See the store where Emily Carr met Santa Claus, the butcher shop where the city’s elite shopped for their Christmas turkeys, and the saloons that served up seasonal cheer to thousands of Klondike gold miners. Step back in time to the heyday of lower Johnson Street on the 45-minute walk led by a guide in Victorian costume. Saturdays and Sundays in December, 1-2pm. $2 donation encouraged.

All proceeds go to C-FAX Santa’s Anonymous. www.marketsquare.ca.

Mindful Mamas at Lynn Wylie/Helga Beer Yoga Studio. All mothers (including soonto-be mamas) and levels of experience with meditation are welcome. An opportunity for restoration and nurturing yourself; please leave babies and children at home so that your attention can be focused on you. Each gathering will include a short guided instruction to meditation followed by a 30 minute sitting, 10-15 minute audio lecture or reading on mindfulness, and 45 minutes for check-ins and sharing reflection. Chairs, yoga mats, bolsters and blankets are available, but bring your own sitting gear if desired. No registration required. Sundays, 8:30-10am. $5 donation to help cover room rental. For information, visit www.facebook. com/MindfulMamasVictoria.

New Kids Dentist

Dr. Anita Gadzinska-Myers

is a Board Certified Specialist in Pediatric Dentistry and has a Fellowship in Special Needs Dentistry for children • Taking over space from Dr.Luc Magne • Accepting new patients now (infants to teenagers) • Referral not needed • Member of Cleft Lip and Palate Team at Queen Alexander Centre for Children in Victoria Special Services: oral sedation • hospital dentistry • nitrous oxide

Victoria Pediatric Dental Centre 210–3930 Shelbourne St, Victoria 250-383-2133 www.victoriapediatricdentalcentre.ca

Ready to Rent BC offers a free course to help find and keep a rental home. Six-week courses run at different times, days and locations. We help renters identify and deal with any barriers they may have to housing. Includes bus tickets, child minding and a healthy snack. To sign up, call 250-388-7171. readytorentbc.net.

Parent Sports Drop-in at James Bay Community School Centre. Parents need time to have fun and get back in touch with their inner child.

Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursday, 7-9pm. $3.50/person. www.jamesbaycentre.ca.

Weekly Bird Walk at Swan Lake Nature Sanctuary (meet in the parking lot). Every Wednesday and Sunday noon-3pm.

Metchosin School Museum is open Saturdays 1:30-4:30pm and Sundays 11am-4:30pm.

An original, one-room school house built in 1871, it is set up as a classroom with old wooden desks. Families can enjoy perusing the hundreds of artifacts on display. Free. 4475 Happy Valley Rd. Wonder Sunday at the Royal BC Museum.

Bring your family on the last Sunday of each month for activities and explorations inspired by different parts of the museum. Make crafts, join special tours, and let your imagination wonder away with you. Suitable for children ages 3-12 years old and is included with admission or free with membership. www. royalbcmuseum.bc.ca.•

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Visit www.IslandParent.ca for these and other events and resources for families from Cowichan Valley north to Campbell River and west to Tofino

November TUES 5 Dad’s and Kids’ Skate Night at Oceanside Place Arena, Parksville. Come skate on the pond. Free skate for dads with their kids.

6:30-7:30pm. 250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.

SAT 16 Vancouver Island Symphony Community Days at the Port Theatre, Nanaimo. Try the instruments of the orchestra at the Musical Instrument Zoo from 11am-noon (for ages 6 and up); meet a musician and hear about why they love their instrument and the symphony from 11:45am-12:15pm; watch the symphony rehearse from 12:30-1:30pm, tickets must be reserved by calling 250-754-8550. Free, but donations towards the NoteworthyKids Music Fan Club are appreciated. www.vancouverislandsymphony.com.

Silly Sea Sculptures at the Campbell River Art Gallery. Come get creative under the sea.

Using mixed media and found objects, create a one-of-a-kind mini sculpture based on a creature in the ocean. All materials provided.

Children under 12 must be accompanied by an adult. Admission by donation. 1-3pm.

250-287-2261.

Teen Glow in the Dark Skate at Oceanside Place Arena, Parksville. A colourful hour of skating. Everyone receives a free glow bracelet.

Free admission and skate rentals courtesy of the RDN Youth Recreation Strategic Plan.

6:45-8:15pm. 250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.

TUES 19 Glow in the Dark Skate at Frank Crane Arena, Nanaimo. Come skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Regular admission rates; glow necklaces $2. 6:30pm.

250-756-5200.

FRI 22 Tots Movie Night Out at Bowen Complex.

Bring your little one out for a movie and give them a little theatre experience. This is an inexpensive family outing you and your kids are sure to love. A small snack, drink and prize will be provided to each child. Parents are free, but participation is required. $9/child.

6-7:45pm. 250-756-5200.

Dive in Cinema at Frank Jameson Community Centre, Ladysmith. Come watch a movie while enjoying a fun and refreshing swim. All children under 7 must be accompanied in the water by an adult. 6:30-9pm. $4 at the door.

For more information call Ladysmith Parks, Recreation & Culture at 250-245-6400.

Dj Pizza Teen Swim Night at Ravensong Aquatic Centre, Parksville. Bring your friends to swim, listen to a DJ, and eat pizza. 7-9pm.

For 13-18 year olds. Free. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/parks.

SAT 23 Christmas Fair at Sunrise Waldorf, Duncan.

A delightful day of winter celebration with festive food, live music, crafts and an artisan marketplace. A family-friendly event. Everyone welcome. Free. 10am-3pm.

WED 27 Tropical and Tasty Sno Cone Swim at Raven-

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song Aquatic Centre. Everyone loves sno cones.

We turn up the radio and turn on the sno cone machine for you to taste your favourite treat.

6:30-8pm. Everyone welcome. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

THURS 28 Ladysmith Festival of Lights includes spaghetti dinner, Light Up Parade, family entertainment, fireworks, craft fair and more. 3pm-1am. 1st Ave, Ladysmith. 250-245-2263.

FRI 29 Jersey Day at Oceanside Place Arena. Wear your jersey for any skating session and receive reduced admission rate. Check the schedule at www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation for skate sessions and times. 250-248-3252.

Sports Day in Canada Skate at Oceanside Place Arena. Celebrate the power of sport and show your national spirit. Try your hand at some of Canada’s favourite ice sports and enter your name into the prize draw. Everyone welcome. 2-3:30pm. 250-248-3252. www. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

SAT 30 Curved Spoon Faces at the Campbell River Art Gallery. Grab a spoon and get drawing.

Look at the back of a provided spoon, and then draw what you see. These silly self-portraits are guaranteed to get you giggling. All materials provided. Children under 12 must be accompanied by an adult. Admission by donation.

1-3pm. 250-287-2261.

Santa Claus Parade in Downtown Nanaimo.

Lighted floats, marching bands, choirs, and more. 5pm. Commercial Street.

Laser Tag at the Arena at Oceanside Place Arena. Participants must be able to skate the width of the ice. First come, first to play. $5.

6:45-8:15pm. 250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.

December TUES 3 Dad’s and Kids’ Skate Night at Oceanside Place Arena, Parksville. Come skate on the pond. Free skate for dads with their kids.

6:30-7:30pm. 250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.

Glow in the Dark Skate at Frank Crane Arena, Nanaimo. Come skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Regular admission rates; glow necklaces $2. 6:30pm.

250-756-5200.

SAT 14 White Bread Ornaments at the Campbell River Art Gallery. Be amazed at the brilliant

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sculptures you can make using white bread as a sculpture medium. It works like clay. Sculpt vivid coloured ornaments for your tree. All materials provided. Children under 12 must be accompanied by an adult. Admission by donation. 1-3pm. 250-287-2261.

SAT 14 – THURS 26 Winter Wonderland on Ice at Oceanside Place Arena. This unique winter event puts the magic into the holiday season. Special lighting and décor makes you feel as though you’re skating on an outdoor pond at night. Variety of public skate sessions. 250-248-3252. Visit www.rdn. bc.ca/recreation to view the public schedule.

TUES 17 Glow in the Dark Skate at Frank Crane Arena, Nanaimo. Come skate in an atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. Regular admission rates; glow necklaces $2. 6:30pm.

250-756-5200.

FRI 20 Tots Movie Night Out at Bowen Complex.

See NOV 22 for details Parents are free, but participation is required. $9/child. 6-7:45pm.

250-756-5200.

Dive In Cinema at Frank Jameson Community Centre. See NOV 22 for details. 6:30-9pm. $4 at the door. Info, call Ladysmith Parks, Recreation & Culture at 250-245-6400.

MON 23 Holiday Swim at Ravensong Aquatic Centre.

Santa will be dropping by to say “Ho, ho, ho.”

The afternoon will be full of excitement and holiday games. Everyone welcome. 1:30-4pm.

Special admission rate. 250-752-5014. www. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

THURS 26 – MON 30 Winter Wonderland at Frank Crane Arena, Nanaimo. The arena will be transformed to a Rideau Canal theme. This is a “loonie” skate session sponsored by local businesses with all skate and helmet rentals free. Drop in during any of the public skate times. Everyone welcome. 250-756-5200.

Ongoing PRESCHOOL Gym Pals at Oliver Woods Gymnasium for 1-4 year olds and their adult. Through climbing, riding, jumping and playing, tots can explore with their parent and develop motor skills.

Drop-in $5, sibling $1. Sundays 11am-1pm; Fridays 1-2yrs 10:30-11:30am, 2-4 years 11:30am-12:30pm. 250-756-5200.

LaFF at the Aggie. A safe play-based learning

environment for families and caregivers with children newborn to age 6. Reading centre, craft area, Brio train station, and snack table.

Indoor car and toy riding area. Monday to Friday, 9:30am-noon and Thursdays 12:151:45pm. $2 suggested donation per family (punch cards available). 250-210-0870, laffexecutivedirector@shaw.ca, www.familyandfriends.ca.

Adventures in Early Literacy at the Ladysmith Resource Centre. A parent-child, fun-filled program designed for children ages 3-5 years.

Participants learn and have fun doing crafts, games and singing. A book is read, lunch and snacks are provided. 9:45-noon. Space is limited, so call 250-245-3079 to get on the list. 630 2nd Ave. Junior Lifeguard Club at Nanaimo Aquatic Centre. Build lifeguarding skills, shadow lifeguards, participate in competitions, learn about first aid, participate in community events, develop leadership and more. $3.50.

Ideal for 8-13 year olds. Runs until mid-June 2014. Noon-1:30pm. 250-756-5200.

YOUTH The Youth Zone in Ladysmith. A fun and safe place to hang out, meet new friends and enjoy games tables, internet kiosk, TV, movies, board games, karaoke and more. Play sports in the gym, or even do homework. Energized leaders will challenge you to try new activities.

Tuesdays, 3-6pm in the Rec Room; Wednesdays, 3-5pm in the gym; Fridays 6-10pm in the Rec Room or gym. 250-245-6424. www. ladysmith.ca.

Youth Drop-in in Nanaimo. The ultimate place to be. This is a supervised space for youth to hang out and chill. Regular gymnasium activities and more. Program is free, but please register using barcode 124915. 7-9pm.

Monday: Nanaimo District Secondary School; Tuesday: Oliver Woods Community Centre; Wednesday: John Barsby Community School.

FAMILY Family Frolics at the Community Centre, Ladysmith. Bring your parent or caregiver for open gym fun. Burn off some energy with soft toys (balls and nerf-type games), mini-trampoline, ride-on toys, hula hoops and more. Tuesdays, 5:45-6:45pm. $2 suggested donation/family.

250-245-6424. www.ladysmith.ca.

Parksville Lions and Save-On-Foods Family Skate at Oceanside Place. Free admission and skate rentals. Children under 19 must be accompanied by an adult. Pond hockey is not available. Free. Sundays 12:15-1:45pm November 3 to December 8. 250-248-3252. www.rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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Your Child’s Vision Healthy Families, Happy Families

Child, Youth & Family Public Health South Island Health Units Esquimalt 250-519-5311 Gulf Islands 250-539-3099 (toll-free number for office in Saanichton)

Peninsula 250-544-2400 Saanich 250-519-5100 Saltspring Island 250-538-4880 Sooke 250-642-5464 Victoria 250-388-2200 West Shore 250-519-3490

Central Island Health Units Duncan 250-709-3050 Ladysmith 250-755-3342 Lake Cowichan 250-749-6878 Nanaimo 250-755-3342 Nanaimo Princess Royal 250-755-3342 Parksville/Qualicum 250-947-8242 Port Alberni 250-731-1315 Tofino 250-725-4020

North Island Health Units Campbell River 250-850-2110 Courtenay 250-331-8520 Kyuquot Health Ctr 250-332-5289 ‘Namgis Health Ctr 250-974-5522 Port Hardy 250-902-6071

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id you know that a child’s vision continues to develop until they are about eight years old? If a child does have a vision problem, it may be difficult to correct after the age of eight and may result in life-long vision issues.

Think about all the things your child does that may involve using their vision: • Picking up forks, spoons or food when they are first learning to eat • Holding onto furniture as they learn to walk • Throwing a ball • Reading or looking at pictures in a book • Playing with other children.

Vision problems that are undetected and untreated can harm a child’s development. If a child has healthy vision and healthy eyes, it helps the child be the best they can be, both in the classroom and on the playground.

Good vision is also important when a child is learning to read. Over 80 per cent of learning at school happens visually— without good vision, a child may have a hard time in school. The British Columbia Association of Optometrists states that “one in six school-age children diagnosed with a learning disability actually has a correctable vision problem.”

Every school year Island Health conducts Island-wide kindergarten vision screening. The goal of vision screening is not to diagnose vision problems, but to find children that may need more follow-up by an eye doctor. As a result of this screening program, nearly 200 children on average get treatment or are under the care of an eye doctor each year.

Vision Concerns Vision problems often run in families.

It is recommended that an eye doctor (optometrist or ophthalmologist) check your child’s eyes if you have a family history of eye problems. If your child has any of the following signs or symptoms, they should see an eye doctor: • Sensitivity to light • Red, itchy or watery eyes • Watching television very closely • Bumping into things • Reluctance to participate in activities that require distance vision

• Squinting, rubbing the eyes, or blinking a lot • Covering or closing one eye to focus • Crossed-eyes (called strabismus) • “Lazy eye” or wandering eye (called amblyopia) • Lack of concentration • Headaches • Drooping upper eyelid • Is having trouble in school.

These are some of the more obvious signs that your child might have an eyesight problem. However, given their amazing ability to adapt, a child may have a problem without any noticeable signs. Quite often, vision problems can go undetected, which is why it’s a good idea to schedule yearly eye exams for children.

If your child is already wearing glasses in order to correct a vision problem, they should still visit the eye doctor on a regular basis. As a child grows and develops, further changes can occur in the eyes that may require their glasses to be changed.

Eye Health and Safety To help keep our children safe, we teach them many things such as wearing a helmet when they ride a bike and a seat belt when they are in a car. Eye safety and protection is also important and should be taught at an early age.

Protecting your child’s eyes now will help decrease the risk of serious vision problems later in life. Children should wear sunglasses with 99 to 100 per cent UVA and UVB protection when they are in sunlight. Choosing sunglasses with large lenses will help make sure that the eyes are fully covered when a child is out in the sun. It may be hard to get a child to wear sunglasses, but by wearing sunglasses yourself, you show your child that this protection is important. If your child will still not wear sunglasses, they can wear a wide-brimmed hat instead, which protects the eyes from bad UV rays and lowers the risk of sunburn. Remember that the sun also reflects off the snow, rain, sand and pavement so wearing sunglasses year round will also protect eyesight.

Other important ways to protect a child’s eyes include:

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• Watching TV at a distance of at least eight to 10 feet.

Vision Resources If you are worried about your child’s vision, talk with an eye doctor or your family doctor. Routine eye exams are covered under B.C.’s Medical Services Plan (MSP) for children 18 years and younger. Some eye doctors may charge extra fees for added services—be sure to check when you make an appointment.

Eye glasses can be costly and some families need help when buying glasses for their child. The BC Healthy Kids Program may be able to help with these costs. To find out if your child qualifies, or if you have further questions about the “BC Healthy Kids Program,” visit www.eia.gov.bc.ca/ publicat/bcea/HealthyKids.htm.

You can also check with your local Public Health Unit to see if there are any other funding options.

For more information about children’s eye health, visit: • www.healthlinkbc.ca/healthfiles/ hfile53a.stm “Young Children and Their Vision” • www.healthlinkbc.ca/healthfiles/hfile53b.stm “Elementary School Age Children and Their Vision” • www.health.gov.bc.ca/library/publications/year/2012/toddlers-first-steps2rev2ed.pdf “Toddler’s First Steps” • www.bestchance.gov.bc.ca “Babies Best Chance” • www.optometrists.bc.ca“British Columbia Association of Optometrists” Carly Westwood, Brittany Barry, and Heather Middlemiss are screeners for the Vision Screening Program, Vancouver Island Health Authority, South Island.

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Winter’s Yin/Yang

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eader, I am perched on the horns of a dilemma right now. November—grey, gloomy, soggy and dark—tends to be my darkest-before-the-dawn time. December turns that frown around every time: bright lights, smiling faces, good food, loving connections and lots of parties.

Traditionally, each November, I use this space as a DIY perk-up tool. I rant and vent a bit, and share some recipes for comfort food, and then it’s December. But this year, with the November and December issues combined, I have been jarred out of my regular November-Grinch, December-Cindy Lou Who routine. As a result, I’ve been at a loss to know how to proceed, feeling pulled madly in all directions, with no theme to call my own. This push-me, pull-you feeling is a familiar one, to me certainly, and also, no doubt, to many of you out there.

Life is not monotone: it’s a wild mishmash masala of up and down, bright and dim, joyful and miserable, sweet and bitter, stripey and solid. We can’t have any of these without the contrasting other. Some

Bring stock to a simmer in separate pan.

Heat large saucepan over medium heat.

Add butter and olive oil, then toss in onion, garlic, and celery. Sprinkle with a pinch of salt. Cook, stirring often, until vegetables

days, and months, it’s easier to look for life to re-fill your half-emptiness, instead of wanting to share your half-fullness. It’s all the same—eat, laugh, have fun, be merry!

Just Eat It!

Hearty Risotto 2 Tbsp butter, plus 1 large Tbsp for finishing 2 Tbsp olive oil 1⁄2 onion, diced 2 cloves garlic, minced 2 stalks celery, finely chopped 2 cups mushrooms (Chanterelles if available, or regular Cremini/button mushrooms are still very good) 2 mildly spicy Italian sausages 300 grams Arborio rice splash (3–4 Tbsp) red wine (alcohol will burn off through being cooked), or substitute half that amount red wine vinegar if desired approximately 1 litre beef stock 1⁄2 cup grated Parmesan cheese salt and pepper, to taste

Kathy Humphrey are softening and turning golden. Push vegetables to sides of pan. Squeeze sausage meat from casing into the pan, breaking clumps with the back of the spoon. Cook until brown, stir into onion mixture. Add mushrooms, and stir for 10 minutes or so, until they are becoming softer and darker in colour. Add rice, stirring for several minutes, until it has had a chance to absorb some of the flavours and oil, and has become slightly translucent. Gradually add stock, ladle by ladle-ful, stirring between additions until all stock has been absorbed into the rice.

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texture. Stir slowly, maintaining level heat between the risotto pan and the stock. The end result should be creamy in consistency, similar to rice pudding. If you have used all of the stock and your risotto is still too dry, stir in some boiling water from your kettle. When the rice has reached the desired consistency, stir in the last bit of butter and the Parmesan, and serve right away with a crisp green salad and some sliced tomatoes.

Sweet Potato (aka yam) Gnocchi 2 sweet potatoes (to yield about 2 cups mashed) 1 egg pinch each salt and nutmeg 2 cups of flour, with extra 1⁄2 cup or so 2 Tbsp butter, and 4 Tbsp butter, separate 1⁄2 onion, minced 4 cloves garlic, minced 2 cups mushrooms, thinly sliced 1 tsp dried thyme 1⁄4 cup fresh parsley, chopped First of all, cook and purée the sweet potatoes. (You can bake them at 350˚F for an hour or so, making sure that you pierce the skins well, then once they’re cooled, slip the skins off and put them through a food processor, or mash ferociously). Combine with egg, salt and nutmeg: mix well. Stir in 2 cups of the flour using a wooden spoon.

Stir in enough of the remaining flour, bit by bit, to make soft sticky dough. Turn out onto well-floured work surface and roll into log, divide that into four parts, and gently shape each of these into ropes about threequarters of an inch in diameter. Cut ropes into bight-sized pieces. Bring large pot of salted water to a boil. Cook gnocchi in two batches, for about three minutes per batch (or until they float to the top of the water).

Remove with a slotted spoon to the serving platter. You can serve them like this, with butter and some grated Parmesan cheese over, or with pesto drizzled over, or saute the 2 Tbsp butter with the onions, garlic, mushrooms, thyme and parsley until they are all tender and golden. Sprinkle with salt; remove to large bowl. Melt remaining butter; when it is browning in the pan, add the gnocchi, and cook for about 5 minutes.

Kathy Humphrey lives in Victoria with her husband and two children. She tries to see cooking for a family not as a chore but as a creative outlet.

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A Time to Remember

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t can be a little startling when kids start to show an interest in reading about war, but I have known many young readers who gravitate towards this subject, particularly books about World War II. Perhaps they have heard about, or even know a greatgrandparent who participated in the war, making it somewhat personal. Perhaps it is their first introduction to both the horror and heroics that war stories portray. Although it is impossible to pinpoint a definitive age that children are mature enough to handle this difficult subject, it seems that many become interested sometime between nine and 14. Reading the emotional and intense personal accounts of war survivors can have a big impact on a child at this age. Some kids may find it just too much, while others may be deeply moved and inspired.

Here are some excellent books covering different conflicts that will resonate with different readers, including parents.

Private Peaceful

by Michael Morpurgo Tommo is too young to enlist in World War I, but along with his brother he decides to lie about his age and join the adventure.

The story is told from Tommo’s perspective as he holds a lonely, all-night vigil, counting down the hours to an unexplained event.

The clock ticks through a 24-hour period as Tommo reflects on the differences between the gruesome reality of war and his childhood in rural England.

This is a beautifully written story that humanizes the soldiers who are written about in history books while demonstrating the banality of war rather than creating a good vs. evil story. It is an honest, heartfelt rendition with a small dose of romance that will engage readers of diverse ages and will leave many, like me, choking back tears.

The Breadwinner

by Deborah Ellis Eleven-year-old Parvana is stuck, bored and restless in her one-room, bombed out apartment building after the Taliban has taken control of Kabul and revoked the rights of women. When Parvana’s father is dragged away and arrested, she realizes that it is up to her to provide for her family.

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Parvana disguises herself as a boy in order to travel the streets to earn whatever income she can and begins to rely on her wits and courage to navigate Kabul under siege.

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Book Nook PaiSLeY aiKeN also invigorating and exciting. Nothing is stable and secure in Parvana’s life and she must draw on her strength to survive the hardships that fall on her. The Breadwinner makes Afghanistan’s history accessible and interesting and will likely pique a young reader’s interest in Middle East affairs. It is also an excellent account of a young, brave female protagonist, navigating a horrendous situation with strength and courage.

Prisoner B-3087

by Alan Gratz and Ruth and Jack Gruener Based on the true account of holocaust survivor Jack Gruener, this dark and difficult book will sadden and affect young readers.

At the start of the war, Jack, a Jew, is 10 years old. Over the next six years what he has to endure is beyond what most of us can begin to comprehend.

In the beginning, Jack hides in a pigeon coop in the ghetto only to watch his parents being marched to their death. He survives horrific cattle trains, 10 concentration camps, near starvation, death marches and emotional torture, but somehow manages to maintain his humanity and strength of character. His will to survive is astounding as he struggles to hold onto his sense of self and a moral compass in a world gone mad. Prisoner B-3087 is a raw, honest survival story.

Today the real Jack and his wife, also a holocaust survivor, travel to schools to speak of their experience. The acknowledgement section at the back of the book, describing the real people behind the story, enriches the story. This is a story that I am sure will

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stay with most of its young readers for the rest of their lives and help shape their idea of what war can be and do in all its ugliness and how deep people, including kids, can dig to survive.

Behind Enemy Lines

by Carol Matas There are several war-themed books in the “I am Canada” series, which was designed to create interest in the varied experiences Canadians have had in history.

Behind Enemy Lines is one of the newer stories and is an excellent account of a Canadian fighter pilot who is shot down in France during the German occupation.

Struggling for survival, he depends on the French Resistance to keep him safe and alive. However, before long he is caught and finds himself being shuffled between concentration camps. Although prisoners of

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New Year’s Eve Family Celebration Join us at our 8th annual First Night New Year’s Eve celebration! Enjoy musical entertainment as well as numerous activities, including swimming, skating, arts & crafts, inflatable obstacle course, bouncy castle and a giant movie screen playing holiday classics.

We’ll end off the night with a Fireworks Finale at 9pm!

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didn’t always find the kitchen to be a stressful place. I suppose that’s because cooking used to be such a straightforward experience. Choose a recipe, prepare ingredients, cook them, eat them. Simple. That was before a short, exuberant sous-chef joined me, shaking up my kitchen etiquette with his radical approach to the culinary arts. The young man in question is my fiveyear-old son Levi, a cooking dynamo with an insatiable appetite for food, messes, and tactile experiments.

This boy is keen to participate in all kitchen duties—stirring oatmeal, mixing meatloaf, flipping pancakes, chopping beets.

The presence of red-hot burners and sharp cutting tools only serves to increase the kitchen’s appeal. He prefers a hands-on approach, although perhaps hands-in is a more accurate description. Why would anyone stir with a spoon when using fingers is so much more fun? He even cleans, merrily loading the dishwasher (cramming everything into one corner), scrubbing utensils (using cold water and the corner of his T-shirt), and putting things away (sometimes he even dries them first). I regularly discover bowls caked with dried pasta sauce, and cutlery lodged in the stove’s warming drawer. But his sweet willingness to help makes it a worthwhile headache.

I adore my son, and I love spending time with him. However, I do have a family of five to cook for—and his “help” reduces my productivity by at least 92 per cent. A brief task such as cracking an egg becomes a gloriously messy experiment in both the properties of egg whites and the depths of my patience. Soap suds constantly overflow from the sink, sugar permanently crunches underfoot, and half of all ingredients get eaten before they make it into the mixing bowl.

“He wants to help with everything. I can’t get anything done!” I wail to my husband John one night. He smiles fondly. “You know, I remember doing exactly the same things when I was little. Helping in the kitchen is one of my best memories!” As he walks away, I suddenly remember a certain piece of paper I was given at our wedding, one that explains my current dilemma. www.kidsinvictoria.com

Five minutes of rummaging produces it: a story written by John’s aunt, 35 years ago, in which she describes her hilariously stressful attempt at baking a cake with fiveyear-old John.

I scan the page, nodding incredulously: “Measure flour…help John pour flour… sweep up flour from all over floor…

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SARAH MILLIGAN change John’s pants…start over... remove John’s hands from batter…wash spilled batter from counter…wash John…remove eggshell bits from John’s ear…sweep floor again…” and so on. She closes with “Put John down for nap. Take two Aspirin. Call baker. Lie down.”

It seems my husband was once quite a terror in the kitchen, himself. But the grown-ups in his life were patient and let him help. And as it happens, he grew up to be admirably competent in the kitchen. There is a valuable lesson here, especially the part about the Aspirin.

The next day, I have to bake a birthday cake for my youngest. At the first hint of a clattering bowl, Levi appears at my side, dragging out the step-stool and claiming his “workspace”—the only usable counter space in our small kitchen. By the time I return from the pantry bearing the flour canister, he is standing on the counter top, one foot in the sink, rummaging in the upper cabinetry for brown sugar and chocolate chips, his go-to contributions for any recipe.

“Mom, can I put in da flour? Can I? Can I? Pleeeeease?” he begs.

For a moment, I feel The Stress begin to rise. I don’t have the patience for this today, nor the time. But I take a deep breath, close my eyes, and try to imagine Levi as a hulking teenager, going out the door with his buddies. I see myself baking all alone in a quiet, clean kitchen. And I know what I have to do. Making this cake is important—but baking with my young son is completely, utterly irreplaceable. I open my eyes, smile at his sweet face, and hand him the measuring cup. Then I pick up my iPhone—to look up the nearest bakery.

Sarah Milligan writes at www.findingabundance.com. Please stop by and say hello! www.IslandParent.ca

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Family Services Directory This directory, sponsored by Thrifty Foods, features not for profit agencies and organizations serving children, youth and families.

BC Families in Transition (formerly the Separation and Divorce Resource Centre) is one of three non-profit agencies in North America that offers professional counselling, legal support and education for people who are having problems in their relationships. Each year we help 10,000 adults, children and youth through family changes, separations and divorces, remarriages, and complex family situations. Whether you wish to separate or remain together, call us at 250-386-4331 or visit www.bcfit.org to see how we can help. Some evening and weekend appointments available.

Beacon Community Services is a community-based non-profit agency providing social, employment, and health services to Saanich Peninsula, Greater Victoria, and Southern Gulf Islands residents. Beacon offers: child, youth, and family services; a drop-in family resource centre; counselling; employment services for adults, youth, and people with disabilities; home support; volunteer services and opportunities; community events; affordable assisted living for seniors; referrals, information, and resources; thrift shops. For Home Support information call 250-658-6407; for all other inquiries call 250-656-0134, or visit www.beaconcs.ca.

Big Brothers Big Sisters of Victoria is a non-profit organization that provides mentoring programs for children and youth between the ages of 7 - 17. Adult volunteers (“Bigs”) are matched with children (“Littles”) based on shared interests, respect and trust. No special skills or experience are needed to be a mentor to a child, just a willingness to be a friend and commit to being a

ing and Home Share service. We also provide Autism Services for youth between 13 and 19. Our family support program offers advocacy, conflict resolution, education, newsletters, workshops, support groups and a resource library. Please call 250-477-7231 ext 233.

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consistent, positive adult role model. Make a BIG difference in the life of a child in as little as 1 hr./ week. Contact us at 250-475-1117 or visit www. bbbsvictoria.com or ‘LIKE’ our page at facebook. com/bbbsvictoria.

Boys & Girls Club Services offer after-school and evening social, educational and recreational programming for children and youth at 4 locations.

We also offer support to parents (Parents Together) and programs at our Outdoor Centre in Metchosin.

For more information on all programs and services visit www.bgcvic.org or call 250.384.9133.

The Child Abuse Prevention & Counselling Society/Mary Manning Centre is the primary provider of therapy and victim support services for children and youth in Greater Victoria who experience sexual abuse, physical abuse, and other serious trauma, or who may be at risk for sexual abuse. Therapy services include individual and group sessions for children and youth and group sessions for parents. Victim services include intake and referral, accompaniment and support for children and youth being interviewed by police, and court preparation and support for those testifying as victims or witnesses in criminal cases. No charge for clients. Contact: 250-385-6111 or admin@ marymanning.com.

Community Living Victoria supports people with developmental disabilities and their families by providing residential services, day and community supports (supported employment, parent support and independent living). Our Host agency provides direct supports for those with Individualized Fund-

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Esquimalt Neighbourhood House Society. Our Family Services offer family resource programs with a focus on early childhood development and learning, parenting education and pre and post-natal services. Our Counselling Services are free to adults and youth (12-18 years); adult and short term clinical counselling is offered for acute mental health problems. For more information call 250-385-2635 or visit 511 Constance Ave. in Esquimalt.

Inter-Cultural Association of Greater Victoria (ICA) is a service agency for immigrants and refugees. Programs offered include cross-cultural counseling, parenting programs (child care available), family violence programs, employment services, interpretation and translation, diversity workshops and training, ESL instruction, volunteering, youth programs and tutoring, as well as intercultural arts programming and the Diversity Health Fair. 930 Balmoral Rd, 250-388-4728, info@icavictoria.org, www.icavictoria.org.

Learning Disabilities Association of BC, SVI Chapter, educates, supports and advocates for children and youth with learning disabilities and related conditions.

Services include a public lending library, individual/ group support for parents and children, professional/educational workshops for parents and professionals. Child and youth programs include: reading/writing, academic skills, social/emotional skill development and Fast ForWord. 1562 Fort Street, Victoria, BC V8S 5J2. Ph 250.370.9513.

Fax. 250.370.9421. www.ldasvi.bc.ca. www. knowyourrights.ca

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- unique hands-on learning activities - support from a certified teacher - constructive feedback without grading - children can learn at their natural pace

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Military Family Resource Centre (MFRC) provides programs and services to the military family community. Services include: 24 Hour Information Line, Deployment Information and Workshops, Short Term Intervention/Crisis Support, Welcome/ Relocation Services, services for families with special needs and responsibilities and childcare services and support to parents. Exciting Volunteer opportunities available! Call the MFRC: 250-3632640 (1-800-353-3329) for information. www. esquimaltmfrc.com.

Parent Support Services Society (www. parentsupportbc.ca) provides support circles, parenting resources and referrals to all in a parenting role including grandparents raising grandchildren.

Our training in peer group facilitation is open to the community. Support circles are free with child minding and transportation assistance available.

Volunteers are always needed. Call 250-3848042; email parent-support@shaw.ca.

1Up: Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre (www.1-up.ca) provides support, education and resources for parents in the Greater Victoria area through free counselling, volunteer training for reception and peer helper positions, a mentoring program for single moms, and a support group for dads. The Centre also offers over 20 integrated life skills and parenting courses which are open to the whole community (fees are on a sliding scale). Child care assistance is available based on financial need.

The Centre provides a bread pantry and free clothing for single parents. Donations of gently-used clothing, small household items, books, and toys are very welcome every Monday and Wednesday.

Centre hours are 9–4 weekdays. 602 Gorge Rd. East; call 250-385-1114 or info@1-up.ca.

South Island Centre for Counselling & Training is an affordable, non-profit, counselling agency serving individuals and families from all social, ethnic, and financial backgrounds. We help people with a wide range of issues including low self-esteem, depression, grief, marital and family conflict, abuse and spiritual direction. We also offer helpful “life” courses. For more information contact us at 250-472-2851; info@southislandcentre.ca.

Victoria Epilepsy & Parkinson’s Centre supports families living with epilepsy by providing tutoring and one on one professional consultations to help your child to live up to their full potential.

We offer epilepsy education workshops in private and public schools, and keep you up to date on the latest research about medications, lifestyle and safety for your child. Visit us at www.vepc.bc.ca to find out more, and to explore our bursaries for Camosun College. Calls are also welcome at 250-475-6677. www.IslandParent.ca

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Children learn through play in our all inclusive, non-denominational Christian preschool.

Great facility; outdoor play area and a gym for rainy day play!

Two teachers with ECE certification plus assistant teachers to help with special needs children.

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stroller rides, baby wearing, bathing, and marathon nursing sessions did not work for my little man. My mission to be mindful and cherish the moment slowly gave way to fatigue, frustration and grief at not being able to calm my colicky screamer. The months came and went. No photos were taken to mark each month as they went by.

I do not recall the date of his first smile or his first tooth. I have a journal that a dear

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y littlest turned one this past week.

This has definitely been the longest yet shortest year of my life. (Seriously, I have no idea where the last year just went.

And why is my body still bent out of shape?)

It seems like a thousand years have passed since I delivered my baby, yet I can’t believe that he is already one year old.

I spent most of the year between two opposing states: on the one hand I hoped that time would hurry up; and on the other hand, I hoped time would stand still. During many sleepless nights and countless inconsolable screaming sessions, I wished the time away, but I also held my breath as if I could stop time when I finally had settled him peacefully in my arms. And now that we have had the year milestone come and go, it’s hard not to feel a sharp pang of regret that I didn’t spend more time enjoying the

moments with my little one, really drinking him in, noticing the small details of his ever-changing development.

The first week of my baby’s life I remember watching my little bundle sleep, noticing the fine blonde downy hairs on his body, listening to his distinct newborn breathing pattern and smelling his sweet head. I vowed that this time I would make an extra special effort to take in the details and savour the moments. I had heard many times from wise ladies in the grocery store to “enjoy the moments while you have them” and I do know from experience that the days tend to crawl sometimes but the years do fly by.

Then a week later, during his newborn photo shoot, my sweet baby started screaming and did not stop for many, many months.

Much to my dismay, all my usual tricks of swaddling, rocking, white noise, car rides,

New Parent Pages Diana Hurschler, BScN friend gave me to record the memories in and its pages stand blank. In spite of all that, my big one-year-old boy sits before me with a big toothy grin, the incessant screaming and serious lack of sleep a distant memory.

On the eve of his first birthday, I sat down to write out my traditional Happy Birthday letter as I have with my other children. In the past, these letters detailed milestones and dates as a way of documenting the year

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In addition to low student/teacher ratios and highly qualified staff for children from preschool to grade eight, we have talented specialists in music, languages, technology and physical education.

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that had passed, but I realized that I did not have many dates to write down for this last baby of mine. I may not have been “in the moment” as much as I had wanted to be, but I have somehow absorbed my little one’s personality by osmosis. I may not have documented his milestones but I know his character deep in my bones. Perhaps it was all that late night pacing and nursing and cuddling. So his letter went more like this: “You have developed into such an amazing little person over this past year and I have loved watching you grow. You are such a sweet and loving child. I know in my heart there are big things ahead for you. They say the eyes are a window to a person’s soul and you’ve got the most breath-taking green eyes. You have a kind, wise and gentle spirit…my little ‘old soul.’ You have made this world and our family a better place for being in it and I feel so honoured to have been chosen to be your mother.”

As I wrote the letter to my birthday boy, I thought of some lessons I had been learning that come hand in hand with parenthood: The hard lesson of learning to let go of expectations and accept what is. Learning how to release guilt over things that did not go as planned. Learning to discard preconceived ideas, that what works for one child or family may not work for another. Re-adjusting ideas of what makes a good parent. Learning not to wallow in regret; rather than looking back to what went wrong, learning from mistakes and moving forward. Learning how important it is to take care of oneself. Learning how to surrender, how to be patient and how to persevere. Remembering to be gentle with ourselves and refrain from judging others in their parenting style. Understanding that there is no way to be a perfect parent but there are thousands of ways to be a really great parent.

Ultimately, we need to learn to live each day knowing it is normal for our hearts to simultaneously swell and break a little bit as we watch our little ones grow one wobbly step at a time.

Happy first birthday, sweet baby boy.

Thank you for the lessons you are teaching me.

Diana Hurschler, RN BscN, childbirth educator and certified breastfeeding counselor, has been helping families in their childbearing years and beyond since 1998. Diana is the proud Mama of three little ones. She can be reached at diana@hurschler.com.

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Preschool & Child Care Directory CENTRAL SAANICH

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Chrysalis Child Care..........................250-652-0815 A nurturing and stimulating environment for a small group of 3–5 year olds. Qualified ECE promotes learning through play. www.chrysalischildcare.ca.

Lexie’s Little Bears’ Child Care Inc....................................250-590-3603 Our Outdoor Nature program provides your child with an experience un-like no other in the elements! Our program boasts our OWN 2 acre forest for your child to explore and learn while our ECEs provide a strong Reggio Emilia Influence. Like us on Facebook. www. lexieslittlebears.com. Space available. Waitlist for September being taken now!

Colwood/LANGFORD Almosthome Childcare/Preschool...250-590-7666 Quality childcare with a preschool curriculum/kindergarten readiness program. Experienced Early Childhood Educators. Nurturing environment for ages 10 months to 5 years old. www.almosthomecare.com.

Caring Touch Daycare.......................250-478-4886 A warm, loving, fun family daycare in a safe, nurturing environment. Infant/toddler care for ages 1–5 years.

Jenn’s Little Bears.............................250-478-8999 A safe nurturing environment for children from infancy to kindergarten. Our Infant and Toddler Program enriches each child’s development while our 3-5 Program prepares children for kindergarten. Two separate buildings allow each age group space to grow!

Leap Forward Childcare...................778-265-5955

or 250-818-9225 Infant Toddler Program and Three to Five Program offering childcare for children six months to five years old. 2758 Peatt RD. www.leapforwardlangford.com. info@leapforwardlangford.com Miles of Smiles Nature Junior Kindergarten..............778-265-4374 Come see why learning in nature rocks! Reggio Influenced Philosophy for ages 3-5. Have your child become a nature detective today! www.naturejuniorkindergarten.com Music Makers Child Care Centre.....250-294-3916 Offering an innovative environment that develops musical abilities and encourages a love of music while following a preschool curriculum/kindergarten readiness program. Group care for children 2 to 6 and infant/toddler care for ages 12 to 36 months. www.musicmakerschildcare.com

CORDOVA BAY Carrot Seed Preschool......................250-652-2311 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. www.carrotseedpreschool.com.

Cordova Bay Preschool....................250-658-3441 A bright and cheerful parent-participation preschool with a philosophy of “learning through play.” www. cordovabaypreschool.org.

ESQUIMALT CIARA Early Childhood Centre.........250-386-7369 Education and fun hand in hand. Exceptional care for little ones ages 12 month-5yrs in an inclusive centre with Christian values.

Island Kids Academy Esquimalt.......250-381-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring all-day program. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. www.islandkids.ca.

La Pre-Maternelle Appletree Preschool..........................250-479-0292 French immersion program. 30 months to school age.

Licensed Christian centre. www.prematernelleappletree.com.

Simply Fun Childcare Centre............250-881-3958 A warm, loving, fun and nurturing place for children to grow and learn. We have spaces available for registration ages 2.5 to 12 in our Licensed Group Facility. We offer extraordinary childcare, before and after school programs and a preschool. Our teachers are extremely qualified with ECE training and have lots of experience.

Call Brenda to set up a tour. Let your child’s light shine bright with us!

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METCHOSIN A Growing Place................................250-391-1133 Half day program (AM or PM) for 2.5-5 yrs. ECE educator, small class size. Our own petting farm. Summer program for July.

Metchosin Co-op Preschool.............250-478-9241 Come and visit our stunning natural outdoor playspace, warm, nurturing, play-based,inclusive program allowing parents to grow and learn alongside their child.

Exceptional ECE Staff provide an enriching experience for 2.5 - 5 year olds. Come grow with us! Est.1960.

Reg. begins Mar.1 @ 9am. www.metchosinpreschool. wordpress.com.

North SAANICH In The Garden Childcare Centre.......250-654-0306 A GREAT PLACE TO GROW. Offering preschool, full day care, before and after school care for children aged 2.5 to 12 years old. Open all year.

Cloverdale Child Care.......................... 250-995-1766 Preschool for 3 & 4 year olds, Come grow with us and learn through play. www.cloverdalechildcare.com.

Full o’ Beans Preschool........................ 250.360.1148 Opening September 2013. We offer ‘learn through play’ programming designed to foster your child’s natural curiosity and imagination. Flexible scheduling, 2.5 and 4 hour programs, qualified staff. Registration is ongoing!www.saanichneighbourhoodplace.com.

Island Montessori House..................250-592-4411 Inclusive, integrated and nurturing preschool, kindergarten, Grade 1/2 program. Located in a lovely rural setting. Extended day available. www.islandmontessori.com.

Lakehill Co-op Preschool.................250-477-4141 Where children’s development is nurtured through a child centered inclusive, play based program.

Come visit our out natural outdoor playground and meet our loving qualified ECE team. Multiple Levels of participation available, please enquire. www.lakehillpreschool.org.

Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare............................................250-477-8131 Gordon Head’s only parent-participation preschool and childcare centre. Flexible options, play-based learning and outdoor play. Allergy friendly. Celebrating 40+ years. www.lambrickparkpreschool.ca.

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Little Readers Academy....................250-477-5550 An enriched learn-to-read program for your 3-6 yearold! Reading, Writing and Math. Half-day, weekend and evening sessions available. www.oxfordlearning.com.

Creative Child....................................778-679-0076 At Creative Child, you will find a place of quality learning and care for a small group of young children in a beautiful Montessori-inspired setting. www. creativechildcentre.com

Montessori Educare..........................250-881-8666 Beautiful learning environments in Broadmead and Saanichton. 30 months – 5 years. Summer program available. Special needs are welcome. www.montessorieducare.com.

Emmanuel Preschool........................250-598-0573 Children learn through play in our non-denominational Christian preschool near UVic. Bright attractive setting. www.emmanuelpreschool.ca.

Neighbourhood Junior Kindergarten..250-479-4410 Offering an early literacy program 4 mornings/wk. (TF) for 4 year olds in an attractive, culturally-sensitive learning environment in Lake Hill School.

Gonzales Co-op Preschool...............250-727-1003 Children explore their imaginations in our learning-throughplay environments and large natural playground. Our Reggio-Emilia inspired program focuses on art, nature and music. Over 50 years serving Victoria’s families. Nuturing and highly qualified ECE and ECE Assistant. Parent participation level options available and allergy-aware. Join us! www.gonzalespreschool.com.

Oakcrest Preschool...........................250-472-0668 • Two fully qualified teachers, AM classes • No duty days, wide variety of parent jobs • www.oakcrestpreschool.org

Kindred Spirits Children’s House........250-590-6966 Now accepting registration for a small group of 2.5–5 year olds in a purpose built Montessori classroom.

The prepared environment stimulates and engages the children at their own pace with hands on, size, age and developmentally appropriate materials. www.kindredspiritschildrenshouse.com Oak Bay Co-op Preschool..................250-592-1922 Children Learn Through Play in this parent participation school. Our bright facility is allergy-free with a large outdoor playground. www.oakbaypreschool.com.

Recreation Oak Bay..........................250-370-7200 Fully licensed, qualified ECE Daycare and Preschool with play based learning. After school care also available.

St. Christopher’s Montessori School............................250-595-3213 A beautiful, warm environment, steps from beach and park in Oak Bay. We offer an enriched Montessori program – half days for 3 and 4 year olds and half or full day Kindergarten. www.stcmsoakbaybc.com.

SAANICH Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre.....250-477-3731 Formerly known as Goosey Gander Kindergarten.

Half Day and Full Day Preschool Programs. Children’s learning is supported and nurtured through inquiry, exploration, play and creative expression. www.arbutusgrove.ca

Playtime Preschool...........................250-383-3101 AM or PM preschool classes up to 20 hrs/wk. Tillicum.

Spacious facility, qualified ECEs. Let’s Talk About Touching Program. www.playtimepreschool.com.

Puddles & Paints Playschool............250-658-6573 Introduce your children to Nature with our outdoor nature-lovers program. Our centre backs up to 15 acres of our “secret-garden” parkland where we can learn and explore! Strong environmental awareness with a “Naturalplay-based” philosophy. ECE staff, and a strong Reggio Emilia Influence! Celebrating and supporting your child’s world and successes! Like us on Facebook!

Rainbows & Dreams Preschool........250-479-1966 Small classes for 3-5 yr olds in a safe nurturing environment. Children learn through play and fun–developing a sense of confidence, independence and creativity.

Highly qualified ECE teacher.

Ready Set Grow Preschool...............250-472-1530 A warm, caring, quality Learning Through Play environment. Gordon Head area with a highly qualified ECE. heosc@pacificcoast.net.

Rogers Child Care Centre.................250-744-2343 Trusted High Quality Programs since 1991. Early Learning and Out of School Care. www.rogerschildcare.com.

St. Joseph’s Catholic Preschool..............................250-479-1232 ext 120 • A Christian child centre for 3–5 year olds.

• A warm nurturing and challenging program • Offered by St. Joseph’s Catholic School.

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Preschool & Child Care Directory St. Margaret’s Preschool & Junior Kindergarten..........................250-479-7171 Our programme for 3 and 4 year old girls offers a nurturing and educationally stimulating curriculum provided by experienced ECE staff and specialist teachers. Our state of the art facility is located in beautiful environmental surroundings. www.stmarg.ca.

Strawberry Vale Preschool...............250-479-4213

Programs for 3 or 4 year olds at “The Little Red Schoolhouse.” Choose between full or partial parent participation. www.strawberryvalepreschool.org.

Wiseways Preschool & Daycare.......250-477-1312

Fully licensed Christian preschool for 3 and 4 year olds. Designed to meet the needs of the whole child. Subsidized fees welcome. www.wiseways. lambrick.com.

SIDNEY Adel’s Play N Discovery House........250-655-4888

Licensed childcare, 3-5 years, Reggio Emilia inspired.

Mon–Fri, 7:30am–5:30pm. 2146 Beacon Avenue W. adelplayndiscovery.com.

Downtown Y Child Care Centre.......250-413-8869 Enriched program, for children ages 3-5 years, supporting healthy child development and future school success. www.victoriay.com.

Lansdowne Co-op Preschool...........250-370-5392 An extraordinary learning environment for families with young children. Parent participation. wwwlansdownepreschool.com.

Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten...................250-595-7544 – Taking children’s learning forward – One of Victoria’s leading preschools and Junior Kindergartens. Balanced approach to play and education.

Programme supports literacy, numeracy. Visit www. nightingalepreschool.com. Fernwood.

Parkdale Early Childhood Centre.....250-382-0512 We offer quality care and positive experiences for children in our diverse daycare and preschool programs. Our rich curriculum includes music classes from the Victoria Conservatory of Music. parkdalechildcare@shaw.ca.

Positive Path Early Learning............250-655-7244

Rainbow Express Daycare................250-382-2314 Enriched preschool style program in a daycare setting.

Visit our website at www.rainbowexpressdaycare.com.

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Ross Bay Preschool..........................250-383-7445 Positive/supportive program motivating children to learn and discover. Curriculum builds on interests of the children. www.rossbaypreschool.com

Year-round quality child care where preschoolers explore and learn in a culture of Christian values and virtues. positivepath@shaw.ca.

ArtsCalibre Academy........................250-382-3533 Comprehensive programs for Preschool through Grade 5, delivering academic excellence through music, dance, drama and visual arts. Outstanding educators, locations and facilities. www.ArtsCalibre.ca Babies to Big Kids Childcare............... 250-590-5540 949 Fullerton Ave. Daycare owner, 250-818-9225 Licenced group childcare for children 6 months to 12 years old. Three programs offered: Infant toddler program, Three to Five Program and Before and After School Care Program. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. Weekly music and movement classes. www.babiestobigkids. com, info@babiestobigkids.com.

Butterfly Corner.................................... 250-381-4845 Licensed family day care in James Bay. Since 1998.

ECE. Ages 1–5. Full time. Fun & Educational. http:// ButterflyCornerCreativeLearningCentre.com Castleview Child Care.......................250-595-5355 Learning Through Play & Experience. Licensed nonprofit, qual. ECE staff. Since 1958. Preschool and full-time care. www.castleviewchildcarecentre.com.

Cedar Daycare...................................250-479-2032 Community oriented, NFP Child Care facility. Wide variety of activities offered including the use of a private outdoor pool during the summer months. Licensed ECE educators devoted to nurturing children aged 30 months – 5 years. www.cedardaycare.com.

Christ Church Cathedral Childcare.. 250-383-5132 ECE and specialist teachers provide an outstanding all day licensed program for 3 and 4 year olds in our spacious and welcoming facility in James Bay. www. cathedralschool.ca.

The Sir James Douglas Playschool.250-389-0500 Fun, creative and educational ECE program for 3-5 year olds to grow and develop life long skills. Come play and learn in our bright and modern centre in Fairfield.

Victoria Montessori...........................250-380-0534 Unique, innovative learning environment combining the best of Montessori and Learning Through Play. Open yr. round. 30mths–grade 1. www.victoriamontessori.com.

VIEW ROYAL A Secret Garden Preschool..............250-380-8293 Program built on Christian values. Monthly themes, weekly topics and daily activities. asecretgardenpreschool@shaw.ca.

Island Kids Academy View Royal.....250-727-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring child care environment.

Character development using the Virtues Project.

Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. www.islandkids.ca.

Little Friends Childcare Center........250-479-8423 For a creative learning environment. Licensed group facility. Infants/Toddlers/Preschool. www.littlefriends childcare.ca.

Little Wonders Preschool (VROSCS)...........................................250-744-2718 A creative and suuportive program that will prepare your child for a lifetime of learning! OSC also available. www.viewroyalosc.com.

View Royal Preschool........................250-479-8067 An exciting inclusive program in an exceptional care environment. Licensed 3–5 year olds. Outside play and themes enrich this program. viewroyalps@ uniserve.com.

Mill Bay / Cobble Hill Starchild Centre..................................250-929-3240 Unique infant/toddler daycare, combines the best of Montessori and Waldorf. Our 9 acre hobby farm enables each child to have a garden plot, participate in planting trees, picking fruit, feeding animals, and other outside adventures. www.starchildcentre.ca.

DUNCAN Angel Care Christian Preschool.........250-746-5919 A quality, enriched program for preschool children.

Located in Queen of Angels Catholic School.

Maple Tree Play House Licensed Family Childcare...............250-746-5060 A daycare program that provides enriched outdoor play time and activities that build on a child’s intrinsic love of nature. Healthy meals and snacks are provided. mapletreekids@telus.net..

Sunrise Waldorf School, Kindercottage Preschool Nursery......250-743-7253 A morning program for 3 and 4 yr olds in a warm natural atmosphere where wonder is nurtured and outdoor play is abundant. Details at www.sunrisewaldorfschool.org.

Parent & Child programs also available!

Chemainus Cherry Tree Child Care Centre.........250-246-9195 Preschool program nurturing creative play and engaging learning activity. 30 months to age five. Qualified and experienced Early Childhood Educator.

St. Joseph’s Preschool.....................250-246-3191 A Christian learning environment for 3–5 year olds.

Active participation in the life of the school. Parental involvement.

Qualicum Beach Children’s Discovery Centre.............250-752-4343 Our program recognizes the uniqueness of each child and provides a nurturing, safe and creative learning environment. Preschool, Groupcare, Out of School care. ECE qualified staff. childrensdiscoverycentre@ hotmail.com.

Little Star Children’s Centre.............250-752-4554 Earth friendly preschool education inspired by nature.

Kinder-Prep classes. Licensed group care. ECE instructors. www.littlestardaycare.ca. littlestar@shaw.ca.

Port Alberni John Paul II Catholic School............250-723-0637 “Where children grow and learn through play.” We provide a program that will inspire development physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, creatively and spiritually.

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Little Help

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he morning it happened, I was tidying the living room as Angus pulled his books from the shelf and “read” them aloud. He’d been pleading for a park visit since he woke up, and I didn’t intend to leave the house in its current condition. I returned his instruments to his music box, put his stuffed whale on the couch, and gathered up his crayons. I began to reshelve the books at his feet. He had done nothing to help, so I pointed at Nemo—his noisy grandparent-gifted vehicle.

“When you put Nemo away, we’ll go to the park,” I said.

He looked at me, then climbed onto the couch. I repeated myself. More than once.

Angus is an all-weather slide lover. If there’s one incentive that is bound to work, the park is it. But Angus wasn’t biting. He didn’t bother to refuse. Apparently my request didn’t warrant a response.

“Angus,” I asked. “Do you want to go to the park?”

He nodded.

“So put away Nemo.”

He broke eye contact. Silence.

“Angus, we can’t go to the park until you put away your toys.”

“Park please,” he said.

“Put away Nemo.”

I desperately wanted to push the stupid toy against the wall myself. Why hadn’t I done that in the first place? Instead I’d made a big deal out of it, and now I was stuck trying to rationalize with a two-year-old.

I rephrased my request as many different ways as I could think of. Once the standoff hit the half-hour mark I tried a new tactic.

“When Angus makes a mess, whose job is it to clean it up?” I asked.

“Mummy,” Angus said, totally straightfaced and convinced. I wanted to scream, but instead I gave myself a time-out on the top of the staircase. Angus clung to the baby gate below and wailed.

The truth was, it made sense that Angus considered me his personal picker-upper.

Sure, I had him help out sometimes: hand me a book to shelve, toss a couple of blocks in the bin as I scooped up the rest. But when he wandered off, I wasn’t bothered. I generally opted for efficiency over assistance, and Angus tidying up after himself was about as bad as Mike sorting laundry.

But if Angus thought it wasn’t his job to

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clean his own messes, that was a problem. I thought back to my days working at elementary school, to the kids who informed me that the pencil shavings around their desks were for the janitor to deal with. If Angus turned into one of those kids, I would prob-

Maternity & Beyond Laura TRUNKEY ably have to exchange him. Then I thought further back, to my friends in high school whose parents still did their laundry and made thaeir lunches. Was cleaning up after Angus in his toddler years the first step to inevitable servitude?

So far, motherhood has been a list of shifting focuses. We’ve focused on tummy time, on eradicating diaper rash, on mastering spoon handling, on saying please and thank you. Now my focus is on clean up.

It is considerably painful how long our combined effort takes. I need to start the process with an abundance of time to spare.

To prevent the situation from becoming overwhelming—for me, not for Angus—I have him put away one activity before he goes on to the next. Is this perhaps how I should have approached things from the beginning?

That first day it took over an hour until Angus pushed Nemo against the wall, and I’ll admit, my hands were guiding his arms during the process. We didn’t make it to the park, only down the block to visit the chickens. An hour of agony to wave at poultry. But today, when I picked up a book from the floor and returned it to the coffee table, Angus strode over to stack the rest.

So maybe it’s worth it. Maybe these extra hours of effort will result in time-saving in the future. Mornings spent sleeping in while my 13-year-old makes his lunch—and his mum’s, too.

Laura Trunkey, mother of the amazing Angus, is a writer, and a children’s writing instructor at Story Studio. She can be reached at laurajtrunkey@gmail.com.

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Learning

At Home in Nature

Through Play Inspiring a generation to be connected

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Discover our parent-operated cooperative preschools where children (and their parents) learn through play.

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Oak Bay Preschool

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Outside Victoria Errington Preschool erringtonhall.bc.ca/preschol.htm Gabriola Island Preschool www.gabriolapreschool.org Call (250) 753-1939

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hen I was growing up in Australia, the forest beside my house was my playground. I spent many days collecting bugs, catching reptiles, and building dams in eroded clay dykes when they were filled with rain. I remember the smells of eucalyptus, the feeling of the dry, hot air against my skin, and the sound of kookaburras’ laughter echoing in the log hollows. My relationship with nature was physical and emotional. My appreciation for the natural world and the interconnectedness of all life developed through my childhood, inspiring a lifelong appetite for exploring and understanding the natural world.

The world today, with all its technological advances, has changed profoundly since I was a child. With increasing urbanization, wild spaces are being degraded, and the majority of people have much less contact with the natural world than did previous generations. The dry eucalyptus forests, where I once caught koalas as a conservation researcher, are now home to more dogs than marsupials.

On this side of the Pacific, the Garry oak meadows that once grew throughout southern Vancouver Island are now home to more ornamental gardens than camas plants. This disconnect from the natural environment impacts human health as people have less access to an active outdoor lifestyle. The ecosystems and natural processes we need, depend upon and share are also at risk if we don’t appreciate their value and continue to encourage contact and learning.

While urban children have less access to the natural world than I did growing up, I am excited to see the growing popularity of nature kindergartens and nature preschools that focus on outdoor learning environments for young children. A growing body of research suggests that children’s cognitive, social, emotional and physical development benefit from time spent in nature. Providing opportunities for direct experiences with nature for young learners encourages a life-long appreciation of natural wonders.

Another benefit from regular direct experiences with nature is the feeling of belonging nature offers, deepening our sense of place in the surrounds. Richard Louv, author of Last Child in the Woods, writes,“Given a chance, a child will bring the confusion of

the world to the woods, wash it in the creek, turn it over to see what lives on the unseen side of that confusion.”

Urban and wilderness landscapes offer opportunities to inspire a sense of wonder and

Nature Notes KIERAN DOWLING awe, a feeling that is pivotal for conservation.

In the words of David Thoreau, “Nature will bear the closest inspection. She invites us to lay our eye level with her smallest leaf, and take an insect view of its plain.” The invitation to get down in the grass, the mud, the sand and the stream is there. Not only should we accept this invitation, we should bring others along. By encouraging our children to engage physically, emotionally, and spiritually with nature, we have a chance to re-inspire a generation that experiences, values, and conserves nature.

My 18-month-old daughter reacts with awe to the world she is discovering. She loves exploring the garden, the neighbouring forest, and our vegetable patch. Like many other toddlers, she takes her time. She goes slowly, discovering things at her own pace.

To her, nature can be touched, smelled, heard, and seen. It provides the sensory memories that liven her dreams. Whether picking up a pebble hidden between blades of grass or smelling burnt seaweed on the rocky shores of a driftwood mosaic, the journey of a young mind in nature is innocent and free. She finds wonder in her surroundings and adventure with every step. As she grows, I hope to be both her fellow explorer and an example for having fun with nature. I look forward to seeing her grow to understand and wonder at this beautiful planet we live on.

Kieran Dowling, education program manager at Sierra Club BC, has over 15 years of experience as an environmental educator, working in Australia, Asia, and now Canada.

A dedicated father and husband, he loves all things wild and wonderful.

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Cut It Out!

Tips from Parent Educator Allison Rees of LIFE Seminars

Critical Grandparents

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es, kids are different today and they may appear to “get away” with murder, but in fact what they are getting away with is being a kid. A generation ago, we had to obey our elders, and then learn to act grown up. That didn’t work out very well even though some of us appear to have turned out okay. Many adults are trying to connect with feelings they weren’t allowed to experience as children. We are trying to learn to play without feeling guilty. We are realizing that example works better than orders and punishments, and finally, we are questioning the meaning of manners if it means we have to be rude to enforce them.

If you are a grandparent who is trying to get your kids to parent the way you did, you might want to Cut It Out! All those rules about manners and expecting kids to be obedient made life much easier for you but

we’ve learned that those methods are damaging.

When kids obey out of fear they don’t develop moral maturity and they can become sneaky.

You may see a little less obedience, but this does not mean that your grandchildren won’t grow up to be caring, responsible people. Research shows that reasoning with kids when you set limits, rather than just giving orders, raises children to be kinder, have more empathy and develop higher moral values. Today’s parents are allowing children to express their feelings and learn to understand and accept them. It’s not very dignified at times, but we can guide them to manage behaviour as their maturity allows and not before. We are also learning to respect our children’s bodies by not forcing food on them that they don’t like or want. This will strengthen a healthy relationship with food, respect for their bodies and better personal boundaries.

Today’s parents are getting in touch with

what matters, which is having a relationship with their kids. They encourage their kids to speak up and help with making decisions. It turns out we had good ideas when we were kids but we just didn’t know it. “Too big for our britches?” We are discovering that keeping ourselves small doesn’t serve us well or anyone else for that matter.

So if you are a grandparent, relax and have fun with your grandchild. That is what your kids want you to do. Be supportive rather than critical of your kids and how they parent. They are anxious enough about parenting without you making them feel inadequate.

So if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.

LIFE Seminars has two books available, Sidestepping the Power Struggle and The Parent Child Connection. See www.lifeseminars.com.

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Enrolment is limited. For more information or to arrange a tour, visit www.discoveryschool.ca, call Sherri Ko at 250-595-7765 or email principal@discoveryschool.ca 56 Island Parent Magazine

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Winter Break Adventure Camp (6-12 yrs) Join our fantastic fun leaders for a wonderful winter adventure this holiday! Hop on the camp bus and enjoy out-trips to the bowling lanes, skating rink, and IMAX! Swimming, games and crafts are included. Register by the day or for the whole week!

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