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FEATURES 10 Tina Kelly:

Mark Your Calendar for Nature

14 Lisa Clarabut:

COLUMNS 5 Sue Fast: Editor’s Note 34 Emillie Parrish:

Let Me Think About It 16 Learn at Play, Every Day 18 Winter Programs 21 Literacy at Home 22 Tamara MacNeil: Having Fun in Winter 24 Maxine Fisher: A Child’s Disappointment 26 Jerri Carson: Chinese New Year Music and Dances In Every ISSUE

Island Parent Notes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Party Directory. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Family Calendar. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 Around the Island. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Family Services Directory. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46, 47 Preschool & Child Care Directory . . . . . . . . . . . 48, 49

Cooking With Kids 36 Ashley Degraaf: Is There an App for This?

38 Daniel Griffin: Dadspeak 40 Cindy Knott: Healthy Families, Happy Families 42 Diana Hurschler: New Parent Pages 44 Sara Cassidy: Book Nook 50 Laura Trunkey: Maternity & Beyond 52 Mark Worthing: Nature Notes 54 Allison Rees: Cut It Out!

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To a Fresh Air-Filled New Year

W

e make it to the top of Mt. Work in under 30 minutes, quicker than usual, despite the muddy trail. My 24-year-old son, Luc, is the reason my husband, Barry, and I made it up so quickly. For Luc, the ascent is easy, a walk in the park, so to speak.

He bounds to the top without breaking a sweat and is there waiting by the time we catch up.

“Look at the view,” I manage in between gasps, taking a spot beside him.

He scans the horizon and nods. He won’t last long, I know, before he wants to head back down and reclaim his day. I was surprised, on this grey, drizzly Sunday morning, when Luc agreed to come with us.

Until recently, getting my kids to come along on a hike required bribery: use of the car later on, a favourite sandwich from the deli on the way home, a designer coffee. But now they’ll occasionally ask to tag along—no lattés required.

When they were younger, all I had to do to get my kids to accompany me on most outings

was mention a mountain top or the beach and they’d be dressed and ready to go before I could find my shoes. Witty’s Lagoon, Mystic Beach, Mount Finlayson, Sooke Potholes, Goldstream Park, Mt. Washington, even the park down the street or the backyard sufficed.

Now most of their favourite memories are from those earlier excursions—camping trips with family and friends, hikes, and the countless hours we spent outdoors. They notice details now: the colours in a sunset, the whitecaps on rough seas, and the autumn leaves changing from green to gold. What’s more, they now plan their own outdoor excursions. They organize birthday camping trips with their friends, day hikes exploring new parts of the Island, and even just walks to the beach for the fresh air.

Few of us need studies to confirm the importance of spending time outdoors, but lots exist. And not one of us requires a doctor’s prescription to get outside, but those are available, too. Some doctors now write

prescriptions for parks just as though they were prescribing medication. And with good reason. Simply breathing forest air and the essential oils emitted by trees improves immune system function.

“Nature restores mental functioning in the same way that food and water restore bod-

Sue Fast Editor’s Note ies,” writes Adam Alter in an article for The Atlantic. And not only that, but when children spend time outdoors they are more likely to care for nature as adults.

The problem is, kids are spending less time in nature than ever. The David Suzuki Foundation found that 70 per cent of young Canadians spend an hour or less a day outdoors. And according to the 2012 Active Healthy Kids Canada Report Card, they spend almost eight hours a day in front of screens. “So,” as David Suzuki says “it’s not that kids don’t have time to be outside.”

Here’s to taking the time for a fresh air-filled 2017. Happy New Year.

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Try it Free

Make health and wellness your family’s focus for 2017 with Try it Free, from January 2-15. Start off the new year with active, fun and healthy activities for you and your family. Try it Free invites you to sample a range of programs at no charge, and includes programs for ages two and up.

This annual campaign of free sample classes offered at the Crystal Pool and Fitness Centre, Save-On-Foods Memorial Centre and at participating community centres encourages the community to try new things, have some fun and get active.

Take the opportunity to sample over 120 popular activities for free such as yoga, skating lessons, Spanish lessons, Zumba, small group personal training, Hip Hop for kids, deep water running, sport ball, carpet bowling, High Intensity Training (HIIT) and kids karate.

For a complete list of the free activities offered in early January, visit victoria.ca/ recreation and follow the links to Try it Free.

Register online at victoria.ca/recreation or call 250-361-0732 for Try it Free activities offered at the Crystal Pool and Fitness Centre and Save-On-Foods Memorial Centre. Please contact community centres directly to register for their Try it Free programs.

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Help revive the lost art of letter writing.

Stop by Royal BC Museum’s letter writing station during Universal Letter Writing Week from January 2-8 and sit down to pen a note. Maybe it is a thank-you note to your aunt for that present she sent or a query to your local representative. RBCM will provide the paper, pens, envelopes and even stamps—no parcels to South Africa please! Who knows, the letter you write could one day become part of RBCM’s future archives. For more information, visit royalbcmuseum.bc.ca.

Childbirth Preparation: For Doctors’ Patients

These group prenatal classes for doctors’ patients provide a comfortable and friendly atmosphere where parents-to-be can meet to collect and discuss information and prepare themselves for the journey ahead.

Courses are designed by trained and experienced childbirth educators who are also IslandParent.ca

doulas and breastfeeding counselors. The curriculum for all of Mothering Touch’s Prenatal Classes is based on the Lamaze Six Healthy Birth Practices. Topics are presented in a variety of ways, including discussion, hands-on practice, video, couple work and group work. The two consecutive full-day Saturday workshops (9:30am-4:30pm) allow expectant parents to immerse themselves in the topic of birth in an intense but intimate format. This format might be suited to mothers and birth helpers who are busy in the evenings, who are out of town frequently or who cannot take the classes until late in pregnancy. The January classes run on Saturday January 21 and 28 at Mothering Touch Centre, 975 Fort Street.

There are also separate prenatal classes for midwive’s clients. For information visit motheringtouch.ca.

Brownlow. For tickets and more information, visit cowichanpac.ca/event/oliver.

$25,000 Prize for 10 Eco-focused Schools

Staples and Earth Day Canada have teamed up to provide publicly-funded schools the chance to win $25,000-worth of new technology, giving students the opportunity to learn, discover and enhance their education through leading-edge technology.

Through the Staples Superpower Your School Contest, a total of 10 prizes (each for $25,000-worth of tech products) are up for grabs. To win, publicly-funded schools must simply share what they’re doing to help our environment at staples.ca/powereco. Maintaining a sustainable green house, creating planting areas in local parks and building a Geodome are just some of the projects that helped previous winning schools stand out.

All Out for Oliver To help schools prepare their entries, Oliver is being staged at the Cowichan Staples has assembled a series of resources, Performing Arts Centre at 7:30pm on Janu- including excerpts from the 2016 winning ary 20, 21, and a matinee at 2pm on January school entries, a step-by-step entry guide 22. Directed by Gregg Perry, and put on by and a list of frequently asked questions. the South Island Musical Theatre Society, For links, visit staples.ca/powereco. Apa non-profit organization whose mission it plications will be accepted until January 31. is to keep the tradition of musical theatre alive and accessible to our community, 1000X5: 1000 Books by Age the production is filled with children as Five Children’s Book Recycling well as adults. There are 17 sets of vari- Project ous family constellations amidst the cast: In your home, how many baby and pregrandparents, parents and children, (and/ schooler books sit on shelves, tables and or teenagers), couples, siblings, including a under the bed? More than 50? 100? How whole family of four. There are children of many times have you read the same story stage managers and production assistants to your little one? More than 10? 25? 50? and the lead, Dominic, plays the grandson Congratulations—you are building a love of of his own father, Charlie, in the role of Mr. reading that will last a lifetime. Sadly, many

The Library’s Toy Collection

Greater Victoria Public Library’s toy collection offers a box full of fun—everything from giant foam blocks to talking brix—to support a child’s learning journey.

The Skill Builders Adaptive Toy collection provides families with young children who have cognitive, physical, sensory, or communicative challenges with the opportunity to borrow adaptive and accessible toys from the public library. The collection was developed with the assistance of the Island Health, Early Intervention Program located at the Queen Alexandra Centre for Children’s Health.

There is an array of mainstream and specialty toys, all sourced locally or from Canadian distributors. Each of the more than 70 toy boxes contains three to five toys, a fidget sensory and self-regulation toy, a book or CD, and an activity sheet with information and ideas on how to use the toys, as well as resources for parents who may have developmental concerns about their child. The boxes come in three sizes, the smallest size is the same as GVPL’s Stories to Go Boxes.

To find a list of the available boxes, search the GVPL catalogue using the term “skill builders” or view a complete list of toys with pictures at gvpl.ca/skillbuilders.

GVPL patrons can borrow one box per adult card for 21 days (14 days with holds).

Greater Victoria Public Library aims to inspire literacy, lifelong learning and community enrichment for all. GVPL provides services and collections in 10 libraries and online at gvpl.ca to more than 300,000 residents in 10 municipalities.

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Yoga, Support and Fun! January 2017 Schedule 975 Fort Street,Victoria | 250-595-4905

We have lots of classes, activities and support groups for Parents, Babies and Toddlers.

All classes are drop-in.

Come on down and tryy them out!

Sunday

Prenatal Yoga 10:30am Family Yoga 12 noon

(all ages, all genders)

Monday

Songs & Rhymes for Babies & Toddlers10:15am Mommy & Baby Yoga 1pm Baby Massage 2:30pm Yoga for Labour & Birth 5:15pm

Tuesday

Fun in French 10:15am New Baby Group (0-4mos) 11:15am Mom & Baby Strength & Stretch 1:00pm Prenatal Strength & Stretch 5:15pm

Wednesday

Motherhood Circle 10:30am(by registration) Older Baby Group (4-9mo) 1:00pm Prenatal Yoga 5:15pm

Thursday

Toddler Yoga 10:15am Mom & Baby Yoga 11:30am Mobile Baby Group (9-18mos)1:00pm Prenatal Yoga 5:15pm

Friday

Prenatal Yoga 10:15am Sing and Sign with Baby 12 noon Pregnancy Happy Hour 5:00pm

Find more information on all of our classes and groups, on our website at www.motheringtouch.ca.

Motherhood Circle with Theresa Gulliver is a weekly group for women who want to explore their experiences as new mothers and build community in a supported and nurturing environment. It is an opportunity to connect with other moms and share your personal experiences.

The next session begins on Wednesday, January 11 at 10:30am See our website for more information and to register.

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babies and preschoolers in our communities do not have books in their homes and do not build this essential habit in the early years.

1000X5 Children’s Book Recycling Project is changing that reality, one book at a time. Families at most elementary schools in Victoria, Saanich, and Sooke School districts donate gently used picture books for babies and preschoolers. Retired teachers and administrators donate time to sort, label, and gift bag those books.

The gift bags are delivered to Strong Start Centres and community agencies where families monthly take home three quality books for each child. The numbers tell a powerful story: 220,000 books into homes 12,000+ families who donate 13 municipalities in which 1000X5 operates 23 Strong Start Centres (in elementary schools) distributing books 42 other agencies distributing books 20-30 books received per child per year Priceless, the difference these books make in a child’s life.

January 27 is National Literacy Day. Enjoy a book with your child. Make a difference to another child. Take a few picture books for babies and preschoolers to your nearest elementary school.

Visit 1000x5.ca for information or to make a charitable donation. Contacts: Eileen Eby in Victoria School District at eileeneby@shaw.ca, Daphne Macnaughton in Saanich School District at dlmvictoria@ shaw.ca, or Denise Brown in Sooke School District at leahybrown@shaw.ca.

Share Some Warmth with Big Brothers Big Sisters

It’s time to clean out your closet. For 38 years, Big Brothers Big Sisters (BBBS) of Victoria and area has been helping children and youth in communities from Sooke to Salt Spring. BBBS’s mentoring programs support youth in reaching their full potential. Generous donors help BBBS to reach its goals—your donations are needed. Please consider giving your time, your financial support and your re-usable clothing and linens. Each of these gifts moves BBBS closer to reaching their goal of providing a mentor for every child who needs one.

BBBS volunteers mentor children and youth on a one-to-one basis, meeting weekly with their “little brother” or “little sister.”

The goal is to create a connection that meets the specific needs of the child, offers support and potentially lasts a lifetime. Mentoring IslandParent.ca

fosters confidence and self-esteem, and as a result youth who have been mentored are less likely to allow themselves to be victimized or bullied by their peers. Mentored youth simply do better. Drop off your clothing donations at the main office at 230 Bay Street (Mon-Fri, 9am-5pm), or at 855 Langford Parkway (Sat, 1-3pm), Tillicum Mall parking lot outside Old Navy (Mon-Fri, 8:30am-6pm, and Sat and Sun, 9:30am-5pm) or call to arrange a free pick up at 250-385-7226. For more information, visit bbbsvictoria.com.

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Support for Those with Learning Disabilities

The Learning Disabilities Association of BC South Vancouver Island (LDA-SVI) works with students with learning disabilities to assist their learning and help them reach their potential. LDA-SVI currently offers support through academic skills programs, reading and writing programs, and social skills programs.

Some of the skills that can positively impact the lives of those with LD are: • Self awareness. An understanding of their strengths and weaknesses (we all have them!). Helping people with LD to recognize their strengths and providing accommodations for their challenges is important for their learning, self-worth and overall well-being.

• The ability to compartmentalize their disability so they see their disability as just one aspect of themselves. Think about your own strengths and weaknesses. Now imagine if your identity was largely based on what you can’t do.

• The ability to make mistakes. Successful learners are willing to try new things and problem solve. It is crucial that children are taught by example that mistakes are an opportunity to learn, not a sign of failure.

• Tolerance for frustration. The ability to set goals and stick to them despite setbacks. Learning can be fun and it can be challenging at times.

• Presence of a support network. Never assume a child knows who they can talk to if they need help. Talk with your child about who they can go to for help in their care facilities and schools.

• Emotional coping strategies. As with anyone who is experiencing difficulty, children with LD require knowledge and skills to cope with anxiety and frustration and reduce the impact of stress.

For more information about how LDA SVI can help your child, visit ldasvi.bc.ca.• IslandParent.ca

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hen the leaves change colour.” “Salmon spawning.” These were the two most common answers I got after I posed the question, “What is a seasonal nature event that you look forward to?” Now whether these represent true favourites or just what came to mind due to the timing of the question (October and November in order to meet the publishing deadline!) I don’t know, but in order to gather ideas for every month, I cast the question wider to nature nut friends and colleagues. Get your pen and calendar ready for their top suggestions.

January

Catch a storm on the wild west coast. The towns of Tofino and Ucluelet have made a profitable industry out of storm watching.

The force and power of winter waves can be breathtaking.

Can’t make it out to the coast? Depending on the direction of the wind, local beaches may offer a fun but less dramatic version.

After a wild storm is the perfect time to look for a wide range of seaweed species.

Algae growing in deeper regions is ripped up, churned around and thrust up on the shoreline. See how many different types of red, green and brown seaweeds you can find.

feeder and watch the speed at which a hummingbird’s tiny wings flap.

March

Stop and find the roses—some native plants flower as early as March. You may find some native plants are brightly coloured, Indian plum, and some are strongly scented, skunk cabbage, for example.

Flowering time depends on weather and elevation so keep your eyes out through the following months for other species.

Witness a small part of the grey whale’s 16,000km migratory journey along the Pacific Rim. As a celebration of this an-

CHEMAINUS Chemainus Theatre SHAWNIGAN LAKE Community Centre LADYSMITH Ladysmith Recreation Centre NANAIMO Nanaimo Aquatic Centre Quality Foods Country Club Mall Regional Library – Boban Fairway Market Island Natural Health Foods Woodgrove Centre

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Celebrating

February

Before deciduous trees sprout their leaves in spring, walk your neighbourhood and go on a hunt for birds’ nests. You might be surprised by the variety—in size and shape—of birds’ nests you have nearby.

When nesting season comes, you’ll know where to look for the action.

Hang a seed feeder to attract birds and take the time to learn how to identify them with a field guide. Suspend a sugar-water

nual migration, Ucluelet and Tofino host a variety of events for the Pacific Rim Whale Festival. Grey whales travel close to shore on their journey north to Alaska and at times you can watch for them from shore.

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April

The Canada goose gets all the glory but there is another goose in town and it has its own celebration. Every April, Parksville IslandParent.ca

has a party for the brant goose; these geese are feeding and resting along the shores before they migrate back to their breeding grounds in the Arctic.

Camas, a unique purple native flower, blooms in Gary Oak Meadows, a habitat fragmented all over Greater Victoria. To see large fields of camas visit Beacon Hill Park.

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Saanich Schools (SD63) Kindergarten Information Evening for Fall 2017 January 25, 2017 Please join us for an evening of information about SD63 Kindergarten programs.

January 25, 2017 7 - 8:30 pm Keating Elementary School 6843 Central Saanich Rd, Saanichton, V8Z 5V4

Kindergarten Registration for Fall 2017

January 30— February 3, 2017

May

Great. Did I say great? Great low-tides occur at the end of May. Be sure to check tidal heights at tides.gc.ca before heading out. Lower tides increase the diversity of sea stars, sea slugs, cucumbers, crabs, chitons, urchins and other marine life you will find.

Don’t worry if you miss them, there are more good low tides in June.

June

June is the month when citizens worldwide give a nod to the ocean with World Oceans Day. Officially celebrated on June 8, local environmental and ocean-loving organizations typically host their public parties—to encourage participation by people of all ages—on a weekend either side of that date.

Learn about the flora and fauna commonly found in June by joining Parks Canada’s Bioblitz. This year’s blitz will take place on Pender Island. Hang out with experts, participate in walks and talks, and engage in citizen science. pc.gc.ca

All Children born in 2012 are eligible to register for Full Day Kindergarten at your neighbourhood school.

Register January 30 - February 3, 2017 at your neighbourhood school.

Brentwood Elementary KELSET Elementary Cordova Bay Elementary Lochside Elementary Deep Cove Elementary Prospect Lake Elementary Keating Elementary Sidney Elementary

French Immersion registrations:

Deep Cove Elementary (North Zone) Keating Elementary (South & Central Zone)

To register at your neighbourhood school please bring:  Proof of your address (resident driver’s license, utility bill, etc).  Proof of your child’s age (birth certificate).  Your child’s BC Care Card.

After February 3, all K-5 registrations will be done at:

Saanich School Board Office 2125 Keating Cross Road, Saanichton 8am to 4pm

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July

It’s time for the harbour seal baby boom.

From late June to early September, harbour seals give birth and regularly leave their newborn pups on rocky outcrops or beaches.

In order for pups to gain a substantial amount of fat in a very short time, mothers routinely head out to feed and then return to nurse. Remember to keep your distance and keep pets away.

Another marine mammal is a regular occurrence during the summer months.

Endangered Southern resident killer whales travel a fairly predictable route in search for salmon. Saturna Island’s East Point, in the Southern Gulf Islands, is considered a land-based whale-watching site due to the amount of times whales transit past. Gulf Islands National Park Reserve offers killer whale-focused interpretive programs at East Point.

August

Remember all of those native plants you watched bloom in the spring? Head back to look at those same plants and check out their berries. (Note: check guide before eating).

Walk the shoreline in August and you may encounter a smack of jellyfish. The natural seasonal end to their lifecycle along with their lack of ability to swim against waves and currents results in beached jellies. The rule of thumb to remember for local jelly species, white or clear jellies are safe to touch, jellies with colour will sting.

Experience the magic of bioluminescence in August and September. To get a glimpse of microscopic animals emitting the light— that is bioluminescence—set out after dark and head to the shoreline. Throw rocks in the sea or swirl hands in the water off of a dock; if it’s the right time and right place, the water will glow.

September

Look up for large birds soaring in circles in the air. It’s hard to miss turkey vultures— with a wingspan of almost 2 metres—going round and round as if they’re lost. What’s the purpose? These vultures are kettling.

As they ready themselves to migrate for the winter, they soar in thermals that will help them coast south across Juan de Fuca straight.

Fungus fun begins this month if the weather is our usual wet, wet, wet. Peak time to look for mushrooms is September and October when moisture is high. (Note: check guide before eating).

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October

The vulture may have flown south from here, but many bird species fly south to here.

They leave the interior or Arctic to spend winter here where waterways are free of ice.

One bird, the bufflehead, is tremendously punctual, returning annually in time for Bufflehead Day on October 15.

Watch leaves turn colour and fall. Walk your neighbourhood and count how many different types of leaves you can find.

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November

If you live in Greater Victoria you likely don’t need a reminder for this one—the annual salmon spawning event at Goldstream Provincial Park is an iconic West Coast experience. Historically, Goldstream’s salmon run begins at the end of October and continues on through November. The exact timing can vary due to water level and other environmental factors. Note: other salmon rivers on Vancouver Island may also differ in spawning time.

December

Revisit Goldstream River and view a bald eagle extravaganza. Salmon carcasses draw in eagles providing them with an all-youcan-eat buffet. Past winter eagle counts at the river have been as high as 276 birds in one day. They aren’t the only birds looking for an easy meal; many gull species are there to scavenge a fishy meal.

Tina Kelly is the Director of Learning at the Shaw Centre of the Salish Sea. IslandParent.ca

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Let Me Think About It M

y four-year-old daughter and I were walking through a local mall recently when she spotted a Starbucks.

“Ohh, a Starbucks! Can I get a cake pop?” Unfortunately, she has acquired an internal GSP for locating Starbucks, thanks to my latté addiction.

“Let me think about it,” I said, buying myself some time. To my surprise, she wasn’t disappointed by being put on hold.

“Oh, I love ‘let me think about its’!” she said.

Taking time to think about my answer worked in her favour often enough, she explained to me, so she was happy to wait. And she was right: sometimes she’d get the answer she wanted and sometimes she wouldn’t.

The phrase “let me think about it” has become a go-to parenting move for me.

Whether I’m using it with my four-year-old daughter or 19-year-old son, it’s a winner—not that my son needs my permission for many things anymore, now that he’s an adult. Raising kids of all ages comes with constant decision making. I found that during my son’s teen years, I had to start making decisions about more complex situations such as him asking to go to a party or to borrow the car or to go downtown with his friends at night. Those were all scenarios that I needed time to think about. I needed to weigh the pros and cons of saying yes or no. I needed to assess each situation so that I knew what I wanted to talk to him about in terms of his safety and my expectations.

I didn’t want to be pressured into making a quick decision.

“Let me think about it” takes the pressure off and gives me the time to process my thoughts. It comes in handy with little ones, too. Some examples of daily questions from my daughter include (but are not limited to): Can I have dessert? Can we go to the park?

Can I watch TV? Can you buy me this toy?

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These are not the same kind of requests as those of a teen, they do not carry the same level of potential risk or consequences, but they still work with “let me think about it.” Saying those words gives me time to evaluate whether or not she’s already had a sweet treat today or how much screen time she has had without giving her a “No” straight away. And once I’ve thought about it, I’m able to give her an answer and an explanation that help her understand my decisions. Sometimes she does just get a “No” and I have to help her learn how to deal with not getting everything she wants and her feelings of disappointment.

Lisa Clarabut This phrase doesn’t work with every kid.

Take, for example, my five-year-old nephew.

He does not like it when my sister answers him with “Let me think about it.” It is too vague for him; he is a very black and white thinker and wants to know either way. He wants the yes or no response, he doesn’t want to be wondering what the answer will be. As parents, we have to figure out what works best for us and our kids.

“Let me think about it” has become one of my favourite responses. It lets me take the time that I need to think when I’m faced with a decision. And it lets my kids know that I hear their requests—however big or small. It also provides teachable moments for my daughter to practice patience.

Being a parent isn’t always easy, we are constantly faced with challenging decisions about our kids and how we want to raise them. Nothing will test us more than having to make decisions about their well-being and trying to teach the kind of values we want them to learn as they move through the world. So why not grant ourselves a few extra minutes to really consider how we want to respond?

Oh, and by the way, she did end up getting her cake pop.

Lisa Clarabut has been working as a Youth & Family Counsellor for the past 12 years in Victoria. She is a proud mama to a preschooler and a teen and has a weakness for chai lattés.

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Saanich Schools (SD63) Ready, Set, Learn Open House

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Parents and preschoolers (3 years and up) are invited to visit their neighbourhood school.   

Participate in hands-on learning activities.

Tour your neighbourhood school.

Learn about community resources available to support families.

Wednesday, January 18, 2017 3:15 — 6:00 pm Join us at your neighbourhood school.

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Learn at Play, Every Day

for each player, then how many cups in total fall for all players.

Map It!

Pretend your family is anywhere in the ABC Life Literacy Canada encourages families to “Learn at play, every day.” Engaging world—on a world map, point to a locain literacy activities as a family improves a child’s skills and also helps adults keep their tion. Find out more about that county. skills sharp. Here are a few ideas to get your family started!

What language do they speak, what is the weather, what sports do they play?

Grocery Hunt Then together make each shape with your Write a grocery list with your child and body—kids and adults work together.

Animal Dance let kids find all the items in the store—a fun With kids and adults in a circle, each way to do the grocery shopping. person takes turns to move like an animal Game Anyone?

Playing a board game is a fun way to learn and say what they’re doing: “I hop like Play & Tell together as a family. Try the Get Winston a bunny,” or “I stomp like a dinosaur.”

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After everyone has had their turn, start at adults share stories from their own childthe beginning again and this time do the hood and even play a card game from when Happy 150 moves together and say what you’re doing. they were a kid.

It’s Canada’s 150th birthday this year— that’s a lot of candles! What would you do What Do You Mean?

Home Restaurant Write a sentence about something you for your dream birthday party and where Spice up mealtime and have kids create a you would go? Now parents, your turn to want to tell your mom or dad. Cut the words menu by drawing food items or using gro- tell kids about your dream birthday party. out and tape each word to a building block cery store flyers—kids can take orders too. and mix up the blocks. Can they figure out what you want to say?

Bowled Over Where’s that Shape?

Make your own bowling game with 10 Have a shapes scavenger hunt by taking plastic cups and a tennis ball. Set up your For more literacy and learning ideas, visit turns to find shapes indoors and outdoors. cups and roll the ball to knock down the abclifeliteracy.ca. cups. Together count how many cups fall

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Winter Programs

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rom art classes to wellness programs—and everything in between—our community offers an array of programs, resources and services for families. To find out what’s available, read on. (For more details on the following listings, please refer to the ads in this issue of Island Parent).

Dance/Drama/Performing Art

movement, voice, dramatic techniques and pride in their accomplishments. For and performance skills. Benefits include more information, please call STAGES at Four Seasons Musical Theatre classes improved acting skills, confidence, creative 250-384-3267 or visit stagesdance.com. are back in session! FSMT classes teach the thinking, public speaking, creative colfundamental skills of stage acting, singing, laboration, and versatility in physical, vocal and dancing. Our goal is to foster confidence and emotional expression. 250-386-7526. and success on the stage. The 8 sessions of skam.ca facebook.com/KateRubinTheatre classes are available for children 7-14 years old. For more details and registration visit Since 1980 STAGES Performing Arts our website: fsmtheatre.ca.

School has offered professional instruction in jazz, ballet, lyrical, tap, musical Kate Rubin Theatre offers young people theatre and hip hop for all ages and levels Victoria Academy of Ballet (VAB) was from 3-18 years who have a dramatic inter- of experience. We believe that all students established in 1990 and is under the ownest or passion, the opportunity to creatively should have an equal opportunity to learn ership and direction of Bleiddyn Del Villar explore and develop their skills. Studio staff in a safe, non-competitive environment, Bellis, FCSC-CICB. VAB offers specialized are all trained and experienced theatre art- which fosters self-expression, a healthy dance instruction to children ages 3 to ists and teachers. Students are encouraged body, confidence, and encourages respon- Professional level. VAB is a registered Vocato develop individual and group skills in sibility, discipline, inspiration, creativity tional Institution with its two-year, full time

Working Together for Greater Impact

Think Learning…Think READ

Since 1976 the READ Society has been supporting children and youth in the Greater Victoria community to reach their potential.

We offer nationally recognized academic assessments to pinpoint your child’s academic needs. We then develop an individualized learning program for your child that is delivered in small or private after school classes by BC Certified Teachers.

Learning skills, confidence and potential

Nationally Recognized Level B Assessments • Remedial Sessions in Language, Arts, Math, Sciences Noisy Kids Reading Club after-school sponsored program • Adult Literacy Tutoring

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Bridge Program for high school graduates designated with the BC Private Training Institutions Branch. 716 Johnson Street.

250-590-6752. victoriaacademyofballet.ca

Gymnastics Victoria Gymnastics is celebrating its 38th year with the addition of our second location near Royal Roads University in Colwood.

We continue to provide quality artistic gymnastics for boys and girls ages two through adult, beginner through advanced. Our non-competitive achievement programs provide children with a skill set advantage for all activities. We guarantee our 8 to 1 ratio, offer convenient class times and ensure certified instruction so that your child will excel in a well-structured, fun and safe environment. Visit victoriagymnastics.com.

Learning to play music is a life-changing skill that is also great fun. From ages 3 beginners to the advanced student, we strive to make music education accessible and enjoyable with a sense of accomplishment at every level. Please call 250-383-5222 for more information.

health and wellness a focus. Try it Free invites you to sample over 120 programs at no charge: try yoga, skating lessons, Zumba, small group training, Hip Hop, deep water running… and the list goes on.

Register online at victoria.ca/recreation for a complete list of the participating facilities and programs, or call 250-361-0732.

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Cedar Hill Recreation and Arts Centre provides unique state-of-the-art spaces, studios and programs. We offer a wide range of classes and drop-ins for all ages, including sports, arts, pottery, dance, fitness, tennis, squash, badminton, table tennis and rehabilitation. Enjoy the Gallery Café, free of charge art exhibitions, and Golf Course chip trails while using the facility. Give Cedar Hill Recreation Centre a call today for details on classes and how to register 250475-7121 or visit recreation.saanich.ca.

LIFE Seminars parenting courses have made a huge, positive impact on families in Victoria for over 30 years. Dr. Allison Rees offers courses, Sidestepping the Power Struggle and Cutting Through Conflict.

Dr. Rees also provides individual coaching and education. For more information about the courses, go to the website, lifeseminars. com or call 250-595-2649. These courses are in book form and available on Kindle, at Bolen’s or Books on View.

Gordon Head Recreation Centre. Facility highlights include our pool, dance/ Recreation fitness studio, weight room, multi-purpose The Tom Lee Music Academy at Millspaces, wellness annex, dedicated preschool stream Village offers lessons for all ages City of Victoria. Start off 2017 with active, space and more. If you’re looking for a in piano, guitar, keyboard, bass, drums, fun and healthy activities for you and your quality preschool experience, we still have voice, theory, strings, brass and woodwinds. family! January is a perfect time to make space available in our very popular “ECO

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Saanich Commonwealth Place offers Parent and Tot, as well as preschool age programs ranging from French, science, dance, karate, swim lessons and soccer.

There are some fantastic new preschool programs to check out including; Stepping up to Kindergarten, and Intro to ABC123’s.

Call us at 250 475 7600 or online at saanichrec.ca.

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Everyone is welcome at Cinecenta! Cinecenta is a cozy 300-seat cinema that is a division of the non-profit University of Victoria Students’ Society, located in the Student Union Building at UVIC. From September to April we offer Matinees for Kids on Saturdays and Sundays. All seats: $4.75. Cinecenta has a terrific Munchie Bar with baked goods and espresso drinks.

Damn fine popcorn, too, with real butter at no extra cost! See you at the show!•

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Literacy at Home P

arents are a child’s first teacher. Even after kids have started school, there are still many opportunities for learning as a family. Spending just 15 minutes a day engaged in a learning activity with your kids can help them develop a love of learning and improve their literacy skills.

In honour of Family Literacy Day on January 27, here are some fun activities for your family to do at home to make learning fun for everyone: • Establish a night to enjoy activities such as puzzles, crosswords or board games.

Switching the activity each week keeps the enjoyment level high.

• The brain is like a muscle—if you don’t use it, you lose it. Getting active can help strengthen the mind, so play hide-and-seek, tag or catch outside with your children.

• Use your imaginations by creating stories together. You lead with the first sentence and then go back and forth building on the story. Your child uses their imagination and creativity while together you create a living story. Do this while completing chores to help time pass faster.

• Together, act out the family’s favourite book by reading a page together and then acting out what was written. If the kids have friends over, they can engage in this activity and then put a play on for their parents when they are picked up.

• Still waiting for the lasagna to cook in the oven? Read together while you wait.

Pick up a book, magazine or newspaper and open up a world of possibilities.

Spending time doing learning activities at home is crucial. Practicing these activities will help develop a love of learning for both parents and children, and help to develop important literacy skills.

While we may not think of it, most of the time spent at home can be seen as a learning activity between you and your child. Even time spent doing the dishes, eating dinner or having a bath can all have a focus on learning without you or your kids noticing.

For more literacy and learning ideas, visit abclifeliteracy.ca.

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Having Fun in Winter

Why Study with a Registered Music Teacher?

Because your children deserve the best !

Assurance of knowledgeable, competent and qualified instruction • Performance opportunities • Workshops and Master Classes • National, Provincial and local competitions

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never used to like winter. It’s cold and grey and those two things together are often followed by the word “miserable” which, in my opinion, is the correct sequence.

Don’t get me wrong, I like the rain. It keeps the place green and mossy, makes the trees grow tall, and the creeks run fast.

It’s melodious, clattering on windows and percussing on the roof, tinging against downspouts and off wind chimes. But come February, the grey has usually been something of a solid mass, and the air is cold, and if there was snow, that pristine white is now heavily trodden and mucky.

Less a dazzling white then a nasty slush that comes up over the top of a shoe when you step in too deep a puddle.

The fact is, I just don’t care much for winter. And maybe that’s because I haven’t been out in it much.

the first time. I got myself a water-resistant jacket for damp days, and a proper waterproof coat for the really wet ones. We got the little guy a “newt suit,” basically waterproof overalls for babies, with a hood attached.

We got some waterproof shoes I like to call “foot bags” because that’s essentially what they are. Between the things for me and the things for him, we can spend a whole day out in almost any weather. And we do.

Because in winter, it turns out, there is a lot of great outdoor stuff to do in Victoria.

Take for example the children’s zoo at Beacon Hill. Sure, it might be closed, but the goats still get their outside time. They still run and jump and play together in their paddock, and watching them through the fence is pretty amusing, especially now that James wants to stand all the time, but still needs something to lean on. It’s nice.

I grew up in the country, in the interior.

I grew up with crystalline winters, dazzling snow and ice, chimney smoke a thick column in the ice-blue sky. Most winters the thermometer dipped to minus 35, and going outside meant being heavily bundled, expecting encrustations of frost and ice on your eyelashes, and boogers freezing in your nose. Since coming to the coast some 16 years ago, I’ve kept my old winter ways— avoided going outside when possible in the winter, partly because of the temperature and partly because of the wet.

But this year, I have a little person living with me who is curious about everything and easily bored. He wants to move, too, and we live in a one-bedroom apartment that doesn’t provide a lot of exploration opportunity, unless you count getting into trouble. So we go outside a lot. And you know, winter? It’s okay.

I invested in good boots this year, for

There’s no jostling at the fence, and I’m not worried he’s going to get knocked over or be overwhelmed by the noise and excitement, or that we’re blocking the view for somebody else. We can stay as long as we like, watching the goaty antics. And the peacocks still strut around the grounds of the park, enormous and dinosaurian, their feathers just as bright as ever, and their cries just as loud. We even spotted a white peacock, or perhaps peahen, which I didn’t know lived at the park. Score one for winter time adventures!

Speaking of peacocks and peahens, James has started to notice birds, which is perfect.

With the leaves down and the geometry of trees clear against the daytime sky, we’ve started to watch birds flying in chevrons over our apartment, and counting the nests we see in the day. The other week, from the large and ragged nests of crows to the tiny, perfect nest of a humming bird that was

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still braving the weather by Clover Point, we saw more than a dozen in one day. We also saw a family of otters in one of the small bays, and with no one else around to make noise or startle them, we got to

watch them play for a good 15 minutes. It was the first time James had ever seen an otter, and he was fascinated.

Park equipment may be cold and wet, but the waterproof suit and the fuzzy liner means the state of the equipment makes essentially no difference. And, since he’s that age, James has been eating a lot of wood chips and leaves, or what I like to call “park salad,” but I feel a little less anxious about that than I might feel in summer.

After all the rain, it’s about as clean as it’s ever going to be.

The waterside walks downtown are more accessible now, too. The boardwalk that passes from the Inner Harbour to Fisherman’s Wharf is so much less crowded that a stroller is no problem these days, and in places the water is still and clear as glass which makes it perfect for watching fish.

All the things that make it a fun walk in the summer time—the house boats, the seaplanes coming and going, the small craft zipping around—are all still there, but there are fewer people jostling for the view, and instead of the skin-roasting August sun, the temperature tends to be mild, and the walk is pretty sheltered. Plus, Fisherman’s Wharf Park is a nice place to stop and take a break, and maybe have a snack.

I thought winter was going to be terrible in our little apartment, and gloomy.

But having a baby to entertain has had the effect of making me more interested in the world again. Everyday things I might not notice on a hurried walk from one place to another, things like houseboats and birds’ nests, are suddenly daytime destinations because they’re fun, and fascinating. Happily they’re free, too, which never hurts.

Tamara MacNeil attended UVic and afterward ran away to become a full-time freelance writer.

She’s the author of Salt and Iron (as Tam MacNeil), A Fine Romance (as T Neilson) and many other books, short stories and articles.

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Reggio-Inspired programs Nurture through Nature.

Infants/Toddlers/ Pre-Kindergarten

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A Child’s Disappointment

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ou are a bad daddy! You never give me what I want” “Mommy, I am so mad. You make me sad!”

Have you ever heard words like these from your children? What do you feel like when you hear them? Many of us in today’s busy world are challenged to work, take care of the household, and look after our children. We are fed the message that we can be super moms and dads by doing everything well, staying in great shape and being financially successful. When faced with our children’s words of disappointment do we feel their words may have some truth? Many parents might feel it is their fault that their children are upset or disappointed, that if only they were better parents their children would be happier.

They accept the blame and wonder how they can make it up to their children. Do they hit their children? No. Do they yell or are they verbally abusive to their children?

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No. But many parents feel responsible for their children’s feelings and behaviour. “If my child didn’t have temper tantrums and feel sad then I would know I was doing a better job.”

When did we come to believe that children need all of their wishes to come true? When did we decide to shield our children from their own feelings and disappointment?

Does this really prepare them for a healthy life? If we take each tantrum or disappointment as being a failure on our part, then we are no longer present to help our children deal with their feelings in a healthy way. We get caught up in our own minds thinking about what we did wrong instead of what our child may be experiencing apart from us.

The next time you are faced with your child’s disappointment, go through a checklist in your own mind. Be curious about what is happening for them and unless you have caused direct damage, assume it has more to do with their experience than

your parenting. When we blame ourselves for not being good enough, then we focus on ourselves, often missing our children’s true experience. When we can feel stronger within, we can focus on them, knowing they will feel sad and disappointed sometimes and that is normal and healthy, too. We

Maxine Fisher can also let them know that sadness and disappointment are part of life just like happiness and joy.

During the start of the new year notice all the love and care you give and if faced with your child’s disappointment, take a step back and in doing so, try to notice and help them with their feelings.

Maxine Fisher is a registered clinical counsellor and an accredited music therapist working with individuals, children, couples and families. Phone 250-686-7582 or visit victoriafamilycounselling.com.

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hinese New Year, also known as the Spring Festival, is the most important festival in China. It marks the first day of the New Year in the Chinese calendar. It is a vibrant and festive occasion and it is a time for good wishes, hopes and expectations. It can last for many days and it includes various festivities such as street parades and festivals featuring dancing, traditional Chinese music, and firework displays. As well, it is an excellent opportunity to introduce your kids to traditional Chinese music and dances.

Among China’s many traditional musical instruments, the most popular include the stringed instruments called the erhu, pipa, and guzheng, as well as the dizi flutes. The erhu is a two-string, violin-like instrument that is played with a bow. It produces a soft, melancholy sound. The Guzheng is much larger with 18 to 23 strings. It is meant for Chinese opera and concert performances, and it is often played in traditional music ensembles.

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those on a guitar and it sounds like a banjo.

Dizis are generally made of bamboo, and they have six or more finger holes. One hole is covered with paper so that the flute has a distinct buzzing sound.

One important traditional Chinese dance is called the Lion Dance. The lion plays an important role in Chinese mythology as it represents joy and happiness. Lion dances are performed accompanied by the beating of drums, clashing cymbals, and resounding gongs. It is performed in a lion costume and often demonstrates martial arts agility.

Another traditional Chinese dance is called the Dragon Dance. Chinese dragons are believed to bring good luck. This dance is performed by a team of dancers who manipulate a long flexible dragon using poles positioned along the length of the dragon.

An excellent book to read with your child is D is for Dragon Dance by Ying Chang Compestine. It is an alphabet book beginning with “A is for acrobats” to the conclusion with “Z is for Zodiac.” With beautiful illustrations,

your kids will learn the interesting customs of the Chinese New Year such as burning incense, wearing jade, flying kites as well as the dragon dance.

Another interesting book is Hiss! Pop! Boom! by Tricia Morrissey. Beautiful Chinese brush paintings illustrate this book about Chinese traditions during the New Year

Jerri Carson celebrations. See pictures of the lion dancing to the boom of the drums and hissing and popping firecrackers.

This year, Chinese New year is on Saturday, January 28. Be sure to visit Victoria’s Chinatown. The oldest in Canada, its entry is through the ornate “Gates of Harmonious Interest.” Watch the ceremonial Lion Dance and listen to the many Chinese musical instruments during the festivities. This is a cultural event that you won’t want to miss!

Jerri Carson is a retired music teacher. She now spends her time playing the piano and cello.

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Try it Free at Crystal Pool and Save-On-Foods TH Memorial Centre. Try some new things, have some WEDNESDAY fun, and get active. Take the opportunity to sample activities such as yoga, skating lessons, Spanish Coast Capital Free Swim at Panorama Pool. Bring lessons, Zumba, Hip Hop for kids, kids karate and the whole family for a night of active fun. The wamore. For a complete list of free activities offered, terslide and climbing wall will be open for this free visit victoria.ca/recreation. Register online at victoria. everyone welcome swim. 6-7:30pm. 1885 Forest Park Dr. 250-656-7271. panoramarecreation.ca. ca/recreation or call 250-361-0732.

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Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist for a hike around this picturesque lake to explore its many inhabitants. Wear waterproof footwear. Meet in the Durrance Lake parking lot off Durrance Close, off Willis Point Rd at 10:30am. 8+ years. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

Mermaid Tail Lesson at Panorama Recreation. Want to see what it would be like to swim like a mermaid?

FRIDAY TH SATURDAY TH TO Come learn how to be a mermaid. Tail sizes available SUNDAY TH for those 8 years and older (yes, adults too!). Free Movie Night at Brentwood Teen Lounge. Grab lesson with drop-in admission. 2-3pm. 1885 Forest Christmas Tree Chipping at seven Island locations. a seat and kick your feet up for the annual Ex- Park Dr. 250-656-7271. panoramarecreation.ca.

Dispose of your Christmas tree in an environmentally treme Movie Night. Pizza and popcorn included. friendly manner and help raise funds for Vancouver 7:30-9:30pm. 1233 Clarke Rd. 250-656-7271. MONDAY TH Island Easter Seals services at the same time. Trees panoramarecreation.ca.

Stories on Fern The Victoria Storytellers Guild welcomes you to hear and tell stories. Tea and goodies. Doors open at 7:15pm, stories start at 7:30pm.

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Open House and Early Primary Info Session at St. Margaret’s School. A student-led event designed to provide your family with an authentic experience THURSDAY TH of the school culture. Early Primary Info Session for parents interested in Junior Kindergarten to Grade Giggles and Wiggles at Nellie McClung Branch 1 (4-5:30pm). Open House follows from 6:30-8pm Library. Little listeners with extra energy will enjoy with student-led demonstrations, activities and TM action-filled stories, songs and rhymes followed by tours. Evening wraps up with a film screening of free play and stations. For young children and their the acclaimed documentary “Screenagers”. RSVP families; children under 3 must be accompanied to admissions@stmarg.ca or 250-470-7171. 1080 StoryWalk® Collection Launch at Juan de Fuca by an adult. 10:30-11am drop in; space is limited. Lucas Ave. stmarg.ca.

Branch Library. Come for the launch of GVPL’s StoFor more information, visit gvpl.ca or call 250-940ryWalk® collection. Individual pages of a storybook, GVPL (4875).

THURSDAY TH mounted on sign posts, are placed outdoors in a circuit. Children follow the narrative by visiting each SATURDAY ST Australia Day Storytime at Sidney/North Saanich sign post in sequence. After the StoryWalk®, stay Branch Library. Vegemite, kangaroos and didgeri- at the branch for nature-inspired activities. Rain or Maker Day at St. Margaret’s School. Come for a doos—oh my. Join us for a special Australia Day shine; please dress appropriately. Everyone welday of inventing with wild abandon. This workshop storytime. Ages 0-5 years. 10:30-11:15am. Please come; children must be accompanied by an adult. for girls 8-13 years old will offer an introduction to register by phone at 250-656-0944 or email 10am-1pm drop in. For more information, visit gvpl.

Arduinos, littleBits and MakeyMakey to build elec- Sidney@virl.bc.ca. ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875). tronic projects using circuits, software and a little imagination. Hosted in collaboration between Girls FRIDAY TH TO Westshore Family Learning Tour at Langford HeriLearning Code, St. Margaret’s School, and Science MONDAY TH tage Branch and Goudy Branch Libraries. Celebrate Venture. Registration by donation. 10am-4pm. 1080 Family Literacy Week with activities at the library. This Lucas Ave. stmarg.ca.

Family Literacy Weekend at Sidney/North Saanich program is part of Your Literacy Connection WestBranch Library. Celebrate reading and learning shore’s Family Learning Tour. Everyone welcome.

Tree-mendous Trees at Francis/King Regional together as a family. Come to one of the special 10am-2pm drop in; space is limited.

Park. Unlock the mysteries of trees on a fun forest events or drop in and try the activity stations. Family adventure with a CRD Regional Parks naturalist. Fol- Literacy Day is a national awareness initiative held Chinese New Year: Lantern Making at Esquimalt low clues and riddles along the trail to meet Francis/ annually on January 27th to raise awareness of and Nellie McClung Branch Libraries. Create a King’s giants. Meet at the Nature Centre off Munn the importance of reading and engaging in other beautiful paper lantern in celebration of Chinese Rd at 1pm. 5+ years. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks. literacy-related activities as a family.

New Year. Everyone welcome; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. Esquimalt: 11:30amWEDNESDAY TH SATURDAY TH 12:30pm; Nellie McClung: 2-3pm. Drop in; while supplies last. For more information, visit gvpl.ca or Giggles and Wiggles at Nellie McClung Branch Books for Breakfast at Sidney/North Saanich call 250-940-GVPL (4875).

Library. See THURS 19 for details. For young chil- Branch Library. Enjoy songs, stories, puppets, a light dren and their families; children under 3 must be breakfast snack and take home a book to keep. For Tracks and Traces at Elk/Beaver Lake Regional Park. accompanied by an adult. 10:30-11am drop in; space ages 0-5 years (older siblings welcome). Sponsored Become a nature super sleuth. Join a CRD Regional is limited. For more information, visit gvpl.ca or call by Peninsula Connections for Early Childhood and Parks naturalist to explore and investigate clues left 250-940-GVPL (4875).

Saanich Peninsula Community Literacy. 10am-noon. behind by animals. Meet at the Elk/Beaver Lake 250-656-0944.

Nature Centre off the main parking lot, off Beaver Lake Rd at 12:30pm. 5+ years. BC Transit #70 or #75. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

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Movie Night at Greenglade Teen Lounge. Grab a seat and kick your feet up. The giant inflatable movie screen will be set up in the teen lounge. Pizza and popcorn included. 6-8pm. 2151 Lannon Way. 250626-7271. panoramarecreation.ca.

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Admission by donation. For more information, call 250-479-0211, or visit swanlake.bc.ca. 3873 Swan Lake Rd.

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Circus Skate at Panorama Recreation. Step right up for the “Big Top Circus” theme skate. Victoria Costumes will provide all sorts of sideshow characters in family-friendly costumes, as well as treats for all the kids. Bring in a non-perishable item for the Sidney food bank and have your name entered to win all sorts of prizes. 1-2:20pm. 1885 Forest Park Dr. 250-656-7271. panoramarecreation.ca.

Who’s Hooting at Mill Hill Regional Park. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to learn some owl calls, find out about these excellent night hunters, and get to know our BC owls. Meet at the information kiosk in the parking lot off Atkins Ave at 1pm. All ages. BC Transit #53. 250-478-3344. crd.bc.ca/parks.

Chinese New Year: Lantern Making at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. See SAT 28 for details. Everyone welcome; children under 3 must be accompanied by an adult. 2-3pm. Drop in; while supplies last.

For more information, visit gvpl.ca or call 250-940GVPL (4875).

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Book artist Tracy Leal will show you how. Ages 7-12.

10:30am-noon. Please register by phone at 250656-0944 or email Sidney@virl.bc.ca.

Pro-D Day Skate and Swim at Panorama Recreation.

Come for a fun-filled Pro-D Day skate or swim for $2. Skate: 1-2:2pm; swim: 1-3pm. 1885 Forest Park Dr. 250-656-7271. panoramarecreation.ca.

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ONGOING BABIES, TODDLERS & PRESCHOOL Baby Times, Toddler Time & Family Storytime at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Parents and caregivers are welcome and encouraged to participate with their children. Drop in; space is limited.

Admission is on a first-come, first-served basis. For a complete schedule of drop-in programs, visit gvpl.ca or call 250-940-GVPL (4875) for more information.

Good Morning Storytime at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Bring your littlest ones to the library for stories, songs, rhymes and movement. Ages 0-5. Thursdays 10:15-11am, January 12-March 2.

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FAMILIES Grandparents Raising Grandchildren Support Circles in Victoria. Every second Tuesday morning from 9:30-11:30am or every second Wednesday evening from 6:30-8:30pm. A safe supportive place to meet others in a similar situation and to share information and resources. Call 250-384-8042 for more information, or visit parentsupportbc.ca. Province-wide toll free information and support line at 1-855-474-9777 or email grgline@parentsupportbc.ca.

Young Parent Drop-In at the Downtown Y. Free breakfast and drop-in for young parents in the community. Socialize with other young parents, enjoy a kids’ craft, let your little one explore the fully-equiped playroom, or have a look in the ‘free store’ for gently used children’s items and household supplies. Information available for local resources, advocacy and counselling support. The Y Young Moms Program also runs groups such as Mother Goose, Nobody’s Perfect, and Food Skills for Families. Thursdays 10am-noon. 250-382-1004.

Monthly Dyslexia Information Sessions. Ending dyslexia is now possible. Learn about the latest developments in neuroscience and programs to end dyslexia quickly and with lasting results. Free information sessions held monthly with Marlene Lewis, award-winning registered speech pathologist. Please phone 250-474-6368 for details, or visit end-dyslexia.com.•

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Polar Bear Splash at Parksville Beach. A great way to start the New Year, you are welcome to come as a participant, spectator or volunteer. Register on site at 11:30am. Free. 250-752-5014. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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Resource library, gym time, parent support, special events throughout the year. 1-4pm. $5/drop-in fee per family or $20 year-long membership. nanaimocommunityhomelearners.org.

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Dads, bring the kids out and enjoy a free skate together. 6:30-7:30pm. 250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/ recreation.

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5:45-7:15pm. 250-248-3252. rdn.bc.ca/recreation.

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Starlight Skate at Nanaimo Ice Centre. An opportunity to come out and enjoy the soft light “stars” and passive LED glow lights. This is a great night out for families after dinner. Regular admission rates.

7-9pm. 250-756-5200.

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Dive-in Move at Nanaimo Aquatic Centre. Bring your floatie into the wave pool while enjoying a relaxing time watching a movie. 7-9pm. 250-756-5200.

ONGOING PRESCHOOL Family Storytime at Cowichan Library, Duncan.

Bring the whole family for stories, songs, rhymes and fun. For ages 0-5. Tuesdays 10:30-11:30am.

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Drop-In Science Studio at NS3 Science Studio.

Children can explore the many features of the Science Studio including KEVA blocks, marble wall, air field, wind tunnel, and a variety of discovery boxes. $4/child; adults free. Thursdays and Saturdays 10am-noon. Schedule subject to change, check nanaimoscience.org for current schedule. 4355 Jingle Pot Rd. 778-971-6893.

Family Pool Party at Beban Pool. End the hard work week with a party at the pool. Fridays 7-9pm until December 9. 250-756-5200.

Lions Free Skate at Frank Crane Arena. Every Sunday noon-1:30pm. 250-756-5200.

Parksville Lion’s and Save-On-Foods Family Skate atOceansidePlaceArena.Thispopularsessionisback.

Pond hockey not available. Children must be accompanied by an adult 19+ years. Free. Jan 8, 15, 22, 29.

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ermentation is the ultimate form of slow cooking. In our high speed culture it’s hard to devote our energy and attention to something that can take weeks or months to complete. Yet fermented foods are becoming more prevalent and popular for a variety of different reasons: 1. Great taste. Fermenting is a great way to jazz up the ordinary and add some savoury flavours to your meals.

2. Food preservation. Before there was refrigeration, people cultured food as a way to preserve it. It’s still a low-cost way to preserve seasonal foods, especially if you are lucky enough to have somewhere cold to store your ferments. Personally, I like to ferment foods for times when you might not have access to refrigeration, like when you’re travelling or camping.

3. Pre-digestion. Fermenting foods can help those with food sensitivities. For example, those with lactose intolerance are likely to be able to tolerate kefir, cheese and yogurt. Pre-fermenting grains breaks down a lot of the complex carbs and starches making them easier to digest.

to ferment. They naturally have lactic bacteria on their skin, so all that you need to do to ferment vegetables is add a brine and leave them out on the counter.

Emillie Parrish Cooking With Kids You can ferment vegetables in any glass container, with a weight to keep them submerged below the brine (usually a smaller jar). However, there is always risk of contamination from free-range molds and bacteria. If you are concerned about spoilage, use a fido-style jar (jars with latch lids) or an airlock instead.

Vegetable Fermentation Basics

1. Sterilize before fermenting. I do this by pouring boiling water into my jars and over my tools, and leaving them to soak for five minutes. For more information visithealthlinkbc.ca/healthlinkbc-files/ home-canning-avoid-botulism.

2. Vegetables like to ferment at about 18˚C, so put the jar somewhere cool and dark.

3. Ferments typically bubble for the first four days, and the CO2 might cause them to bubble over, so leave two centimetres of headroom at the top of your jar, and place the jar on a dish to catch any overflow.

4. Keep the jar covered (but not tightly unless you’re using a fido or airlock) to prevent germs from getting in. Either a cloth or a loosely placed lid work.

5. If you see mold growing on top of 4. Probiotics. This is probably the most your jar or if the vegetables smell bad, then popular reason for eating fermented foods. throw them away—ferments should smell The reality is that gut-friendly bacteria is and taste good. everyone’s best friend. They help us to digest food, protect our skin from the sun, and help Sauerkraut our immune system fight off pathogens. We Sauerkraut is easy to make. Encourage live in a world where everything is pasteur- your children to help out by mixing the ized and antibiotics are everywhere. Who cabbage with the flavours, and packing couldn’t use a little more friendly bacteria? them into the jars. Pounding the cabbage Vegetables are probably the easiest thing into the jars is fun!

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1 head of cabbage (approximately two pounds) 1–2 tsp pickling salt (to taste) Additional vegetable and fruit options (use up to 1 cup): • Grated apple, fennel, cranberries or carrot will sweeten the kraut.

• Onion and garlic are savoury additions.

• For a spicy kraut add hot pepper slices.

Whole spice options: • 1 tsp caraway seed, 1 tsp mustard seed and 10 juniper berries (a classic).

• 2 bay leaves and 5 black peppercorns.

• 2 tsp of mixed Indian curry spices.

• 1 tsp dill seed.

Grate the cabbage and any other vegetable or fruit additions. Toss it with spices and salt. Pack it into a wide mouth mason jar(s). Use a spoon to press all the cabbage into the jar. It may take an hour for the salt to draw the liquid out from the cabbage.

If you pack it down enough, you will get enough to cover the cabbage. The cabbage will be finished fermenting when you decide it is done (anywhere between five days to seven weeks). Store sauerkraut in the fridge to stop the fermentation.

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Ingredients: Enough vegetables sticks to fill one jar: carrots, beets, radishes, kohlrabi, green beans, sweet peas or cauliflower Water (filtered to remove chlorine) 1 Tbsp of salt (non-iodized or pickling salt) Optional flavour additions: You can add any herbs or spices that you want. In general you want 1 tsp of a spice or 1 Tbsp of a herb. My favourite flavours are garlic and dill for a traditional pickle flavour, or garlic and ginger for something tangier.

1. Pack the vegetables into the jar.

2. Add in the salt and any additional flavours that you’re using. Then cover with the filtered water.

Snacking Vegetables 3. Use a weight to keep the vegetables Fermented snacking vegetables are one below the brine. thing that I always have bubbling away on 4. After 2–3 days the vegetables will have my kitchen counters. I love packing them developed a nice flavour and they will still be into school lunches, and my kids like the crisp, so store in the refrigerator and enjoy! salty vegetables. (Though cauliflower tends to be a bit stinky for school). This is such an easy recipe that even young children should Emillie Parrish loves having adventures with be able to do most of the steps themselves. her two busy children. She lives in Victoria and is the author of the fermentation-based blog fermentingforfoodies.com.

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Postpartum Depression

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ith recent media coverage of the death of New Westminister mom Florence Leung to suicide—as a result of postpartum depression (PPD)— I’ve been thinking about how important awareness is and how many moms might have symptoms when their children are older as well.

“Postpartum Depression and Anxiety generally affects women who have given birth in the past year,” writes Randy Shore in an article in the Vancouver Sun, following Leung’s death. “Between 50 and 80 per cent of new mothers suffer from a mild depression, or ‘baby blues,’ within days or weeks of giving birth, according to the Canadian Mental Health Association.”

However, it seems to me that it’s not uncommon to hear of postpartum depression that’s “lasted” or maybe even gotten worse past the child’s one year mark.

Symptoms typically include sadness, guilt, hopelessness and irritability.

I’ve been lucky enough to have great support circles including friends to chat with and parents who step up and help out when the going gets tough. This is extremely important.

Aside from my support circles, I’ve never had to seek outside help, however I have felt the blues following the birth of both my children, which I mostly blamed on the drastic change in my lifestyle as well as hormones. I think a good majority of moms experience this.

However, I’ve also felt sadness (along with a whole range of feelings) more often lately now that my children are older, two and a half and almost five.

The stress around parenting tripled after I started my own business, plus my children were both at challenging ages behaviour-wise.

At this stage I try to avoid restaurants, grocery stores, and people’s houses who don’t have children—which is sometimes hard to accept. I am usually forced to work during naptimes and after their bedtime.

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impossible to keep the house in order when you have children. I have a hard time functioning without order, so imagine how I feel on days when I have a big to-do list and my house looks like a tornado blew through?

So how do I get through these moments?

I call my mom. I text a friend. I tell them how I’ve been feeling. I will drop the kids off with their grandparents to go for a hike with friends so I can clear my head. That

Ashley Degraaf Is There an App for This? is a great reminder to myself that I can accomplish something and my life doesn’t completely revolve around my children.

I savour every second of quiet lunches at my favourite café when my kids are in daycare.

An important factor is that I’ve created a good circle of friends and have worked on strong ties with my family.

My advice to women who are well past the typical postpartum stage but who are still feeling the blues, don’t think you shouldn’t be feeling that way. Make connections with other parents, at, say, a playgroup such as Mother Goose at the library, Strong Start at elementary schools or Healthy Beginnings at a health centre.

Also, find activities you know the kids will enjoy, something that’s not stressful for you.

The times when I’m feeling the most stressed—which typically turns into feeling sad—are days when I’ve pushed the boundaries, done too much to try and please people, or met someone at a place where I knew wouldn’t be a great atmosphere for the kids.

Just admitting you’re feeling the blues, however, will be the first step toward feeling better. It’s not always easy, but just know that you are not alone. Chances are, lots of other moms feel the same way at one time or another, but are reluctant to say so, too.

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hristmas shopping was easy when our kids were little. I remember one year when all three of my daughters were particularly avid High School Musical fans—for a time that fall our youngest daughter Vivian refused to answer unless we called her Gabriella. All I had to do that year was buy a few gifts related to Troy Bolton or Gabriella Montez and stick them under the tree. It was hard to go wrong.

The year after that, my wife’s father had a stroke late in December and I was alone doing the Christmas shopping, but that year wasn’t hard either. The kids were all young, and I’m not even sure if they had wish lists, but they wanted everything and anything back then—piles and piles of plastic junk.

I just had to walk the aisles of Toys R Us picking things off the shelves.

Eventually our girls did start to write Christmas lists. I think it began the year Evelyn, our eldest, discovered the Sears Wish Book. She used to flip through that book every night in November and December, marking the things she wanted and making up lists, colourful notes with words misspelled and letters mis-formed.

My wife and I made our girls send their lists to Santa and of course, Santa wrote back. Every Christmas morning he’d leave a letter for our kids along with the presents.

Santa began to fade from our lives, but the kids kept making wish lists only instead of sending them to Santa, they posted the lists on our fridge. This meant they could edit and update them right through December.

Sometimes they’d even write up new lists.

Last year just before Christmas, our middle daughter, Tessa added a note to hers saying she’d accept cheques for Christmas but nothing under $20.

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Over the years, as the kids have grown older and their interests have changed, so have their Christmas lists. In recent years they’ve listed fewer and fewer things to play with; instead of toys, games and art supplies their lists centre around clothes, make-up and bath products. Despite all these Christmas lists, I’ve always tried to think up my own gift ideas. I figured if I knew my children well enough I should be able to find each a perfect gift, but their changing interests have made this harder.

Last year I bought everyone in the family books but I’m not sure how many were read.

The year before I resorted to buying each of the kids new ear buds and back up iPod chargers even though I often complain about how much time they spend on their devices.

Daniel Griffin Dadspeak Early this past December, our two eldest girls, Tessa and Evelyn, wrote up their wish lists as they do every year. This year though, they did it in the form of Google docs with notes like, “These shorts” and “This Tshirt in grey” above links that aren’t just to products but to sites where my wife and I can order the gifts. Not a single toy on the list, just clothes and beauty products.

I know where this is heading. I know the final stage in parent gift giving because my parents just give my brothers and me cheques each year—a card and some money arrives under the Christmas tree.

This past December, when I was growing nostalgic for Christmases past, Vivian, our youngest daughter stepped into the room and said to my wife and me, “I want a Lego farm for Christmas.”

That was Vivian’s only Christmas request.

She didn’t ask for any clothes or hair or bath products. Her Christmas list was one item long, and it was something to play with.

While wasn’t a gift I thought up myself, I was determined to buy it for her all the same.

Daniel Griffin is the father of three children and the author of Stopping for Strangers (Vehicule Press, 2012), a collection of short stories about parents, children, brothers and sisters.

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hopping can be an enjoyable activity for the whole family. It can also be difficult when your child gets tired, irritable or disruptive. Children may find shopping challenging, particularly if they have nothing to do or if their regular routine around meals and naps is disrupted. Triple P—the Positive Parenting Program—suggests that many challenges can be avoided during shopping trips by using some of the following suggestions:

the shopping trip. You can engage them in activities such as finding things on the shelves, passing things to you, counting purchases, putting things in the shopping cart, finding prices or spotting different colors, shapes and sizes of items. You can also give your child their own shopping list with a few items that they are responsible for finding.

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1. Prepare your child for the trip.

Before you leave home, tell your child where you will be going, what you will be buying and when you will be returning home.

2. Explain the rules.

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6. Keep your child busy.

Decide on two or three simple rules for Involve your child in what you are doshopping trips and discuss them with your ing by talking to them about decisions you child. For example: stay beside the shopping are making. cart, walk while in the store, ask before you touch. Remember, rules should be stated 7. Encourage desirable positively and be easily enforced. behaviour.

When your child is following the rules, 3. Talk about rewards. give them lots of attention. You can praise For the first few trips after setting the them by saying things like “you are walking rules, you may want to reward your child in the aisles really well today” or “you are for following them. Tell your child what doing so well at finding the items on our list.” they can earn if they follow the rules. Suggested rewards might include going to the 8. Review the shopping trip. park, special time with Mom or Dad, or a When you are finished shopping, talk with special activity when you get home. your child about the trip. Always start with what went well. If a rule was forgotten you 4. Talk about consequences. can remind your child of the rule and set a Decide ahead of time exactly how to goal for next time. The important thing is manage problems. Tell your child what will to acknowledge what your child did well. happen if the rules are broken. For example, Many problems can be avoided on shopif your child wanders away from the cart in ping trips by planning ahead and making the grocery store, have them hold onto the sure both you and your child are prepared. cart for a brief period of time. Consequences For more Triple P tips and ideas for all should be directly related to the behaviour ages and stages of development or to find and if it involves the withdrawal of a privi- Triple P services in your community, visit lege, a brief period is more effective than a triplepvip.ca or facebook.com/TriplepVIP. long one. You can also try using “planned ignoring” for minor behaviour problems like whining or complaining.

Cindy Knott has worked for more than 25 years supporting children and families in Manitoba 5. Plan some activities. and now in British Columbia. She currently works It may be useful for you to think of some as the Vancouver Island Triple P Coordinator suitable things for your child to do during and as an adoption social worker.

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ur local hospital emergency rooms and medical clinics are busier than usual this time of year. Some of our patients are our littlest members of our community with high fevers and worried parents who do not know where else to go.

The misery of sickness is compounded by unusually long waits due to the overload.

Occasional illness and fevers are to be expected, especially at this time of year but it can be confusing for parents to know what is a true emergency and when it is okay to wait and keep an eye on a sick baby.

An occasional illness is usually nothing to worry about in an otherwise healthy baby—trust your instincts. If you think you should contact the doctor, do not hesitate; it is better to be sent home with reassurance from medical staff than delay getting attention because you are not sure if your baby really needed help.

Symptoms that warrant a visit to your doctor:

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Crying. It is important to note that one of the first signs of illness in babies is a change in their cry. You may notice a difference in the duration or sound of the cry. If your baby is active when awake, feeding well, and can be comforted when crying, small differences in crying are normal. Crying is a baby’s only way of communicating. Over time, babies develop different cries depending on what they need: food, sleep, diaper change or a snuggle. Usually parents are able to console their baby’s cries by providing what he needs and with close physical contact. However, some babies begin to cry inconsolably. Colic (babies cry for three hours or more at some stage in a 24-hour period, usually evening) and inconsolable crying only differ in the demeanor of the baby while awake at other times. If your baby had quiet, wakeful periods during that day and has no other signs of illness, it is likely a bout of colic. A baby who becomes very irritable, fretful, and fussy, with long crying periods outside of his normal fussy time may indicate that he is experiencing pain of some sort, which could be related to something like a viral or bacterial infection.

Fever. Mild fevers are common and usu-

ally harmless, but contact your doctor if a baby younger than two months has an elevated temperature. Normal body temp is 36.5˚ to 38˚C (armpit/axillary); 35.8˚ to 38˚C (ear/tympanic). If your baby is older than two months you may decide to treat the fever symptoms if necessary with

Diana Hurschler New Parent Pages acetaminophen based on their weight and make sure they are drinking plenty of fluids.

Your doctor will be interested in how a child with a high fever is behaving rather than just focusing on the number on the thermometer.

Other Symptoms to watch for:

• Listless or limp, little or no energy— baby sleeps longer than normal, and may be difficult to wake for feedings. When awake, they seem drowsy and do not pay attention to visual stimulation or sounds.

• Swelling of the soft spot on the top of babies head (fontanelle).

• Purple blotches on skin, or any other type of rash.

• Breathing seems labored. If a young baby is breathing very fast—more than 60 times a minute—or rapid breathing is making it hard for him to drink, see a doctor that day. An older child with laboured breathing that does not resolve with rest, or if accompanied by high fever or chest pain, should be seen that same day as well.

• Refusing feeds, either breast or bottle.

• Babies or children with a bad cough will probably also vomit intermittently because the two impulses are connected by the same nerve.

Symptoms that warrant same-day attention:

• If a child is vomiting so much that bile starts to come up (bright green or bright yellow discharge), or if they’re vomiting blood.

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• Appears to have trouble swallowing; liquids draining out of mouth and drooling excessively.

If you do decide to access medical attention either at your doctor’s office or emergency care, please be prepared to help the medical staff understand what is happening with your baby.

Expect questions about:

• Medical History: does your baby have any known allergies? Are your baby’s immunizations up to date? Does your baby have any medical conditions? The doctor may ask you details of your pregnancy and birth.

• Changes in feeding/bowel movements: Any changes in eating and drinking patterns? Number of wet and soiled diapers over the last 24 hours?

• Changes in your baby’s temperature; when did you last take your baby’s temperature?

• Medication. Has baby had any medication? What was given, how much and when?

• Your main concerns. This may sound obvious, but if you have a concise description of your specific concerns, the staff will be able get a better understanding quickly.

• Please bring your baby’s care card with you.

As parents, you likely have a built in “sixth sense” when it comes to judging whether your baby is experiencing mild illness versus something more serious. Most often this instinct will come as a thought along the lines of “something isn’t quite right with my baby.” Listen to your gut instinct and access medical attention whenever you feel this way about the health of your baby.

From my experience, these illnesses seem to crop up at night time just when the doctor’s office is closed.

A great resource to use if you are just not sure is the 24-hour nurse hotline at 8-1-1.

By calling 8-1-1, you can speak to a health services representative, who can help you find health information and services, or connect you directly with a registered nurse, a registered dietitian or a pharmacist. Any one of these healthcare professionals on the other end of the phone will help you get the information you need to manage your concerns about your baby.

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Once Upon a Time “And in his anger he stamped his right foot so hard that it went right into the ground above his knee. Then he seized his left foot with both his hands in such a fury that he split in two, and that was the end of that.” – Rumpelstiltskin, Marie- Louise Gay “And he sank his right foot so hard that he sank into the ground up to his waist. Then, in his rage, he seized his left foot in both hands and tore himself in two.”

– Rumpelstiltskin, Anthea Bell

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here are many ways to tell a story. To spin a tale. To skin a cat. Sometimes a story wants the facts, sometimes the poetry.

Fairy tales—those stories about imaginary and magical beings and lands—come in two varieties, as Joan Acocella explained in The New Yorker. There are the literary fairy tales conceived on the page—for example, Hans Christian Anderson’s The Princess and the Pea or Oscar Wilde’s The Happy Prince—and then there are the oral tales, stories that travelled mouth to ear for centuries, even millennia.

When industrialization wore away at long-time domestic rhythms, the opportunities for storytelling, by parents to children, or labourers to one another, were diminished. A movement to preserve fairy tales rose up in Europe: German brothers Wilhelm and Jacob Grimm joined in, working at desks across from each other in the same room for decades, recording over 200 stories. Most of the fairy tales you can call to mind were preserved by the brothers’ pens.

I had three collections of fairy tales growing up. I remember the weight of each in my hand and the generosity of its spine when opened. More profoundly, what I remember is the sound of a silver twig snapped from a silver tree—a soldier’s proof of a musical underworld in The Twelve Dancing Princesses—or the thrill of Rumpelstiltskin’s rage.

“English novelist Angela Carter, who wrote some thrilling Grimm-based stories, [says that] asking where a fairy tale came from is like asking who invented the meatball,” writes Acocella. “Every narrator reinvents the tale.”

Last year, researchers at universities in Durham and Lisbon released amazing-butmaybe-not-shocking findings: fairy tales are far, far older than commonly believed (the Grimm brothers had their suspicions). Jack and the Beanstalk has been told, in various ways, the academics said, for 5,000 years.

Beauty and the Beast and Rumpelstiltskin for 4,000.

Luckily, the diversity of fairy tales does not end with the Brothers Grimm. Writers continue to write the stories afresh.

The Greater Victoria Public Library has shelves filled with versions of Rapunzel and Little Red Riding Hood and Snow White and more. Fill your boots! I highly recommend taking out a dozen versions of the same tale and read them with your children.

They will learn an enormous amount about a story’s fluidity—how it can change and still keep its soul. They will learn about points of view, tone, even about the sanitizing of narrative.

Paul Galdone didn’t sanitize the end of Little Red Riding Hood. In his version, “the huntsmen skinned the wolf and took the skin home.” Imelda Staunton, in her version, recalls another traditional ending, one that I adore: after the huntsman slices the wolf open to free Red Riding Hood and her grandmother (who in every version emerge wonderfully whole and clean), the three fill the wolf with heavy stones before stitching him back up. In many versions, the wolf wakes and staggers about until he topples over dead. But in Staunton’s version, the wolf wakes desperately thirsty and hurries to the river. When he bends to drink, “the stones in his belly tipped him right into the water, and he was too heavy to get back out.”

The details may change, but Red Riding Hood retains its ancient warning against talking to strangers, or, more specifically, perhaps, for girls against talking to strange men. And against disobeying your mother’s advice. The story also plays with how easy it is to be led astray, how distraction can lead to disaster, and how something as wonderful as collecting flowers can have dangerous consequences.

Fairy tales endure because, for all their impossibilities—talking wolves, tiny men tearing themselves in two, pigs building IslandParent.ca

houses of brick—they are filled with truths about being human.

In Rumpelstiltskin, a proud father gets carried away and boasts to the king that his amazing daughter can spin straw into gold.

The girl pays for her father’s flight of fancy by getting locked by the king in a room of straw that she must transmute. She can’t, of course. Along comes Rumpelstiltskin to help her—in return for her firstborn. The story is about pride, the miller’s and Rumpelstiltskin’s, and about fair exchange: we cheer at Rumpelstitlskin’s end because he is

Sara Cassidy Book Nook punished for his extortion. Kids may wonder, doesn’t the girl owe him something? But is it her debt, or her father’s? Most tellings preserve the story’s basic bones: the father’s boasts (in one version, a mother’s), the girl weeping in distress, Rumpelstitskin saving the day, the girl’s three attempts to guess the little man’s name, his being overheard singing out the name (often as he dances around a fire). And, of course, his vanishing (well, in some stories, he just hops off.

How I hated this unsatisfying ending as a child!). But there are lovely differences, too.

Virginia Hamilton’s West Indian variant is rich in language and uniquely attends to the problem of why a young woman would unquestioningly marry a greedy man who locked her in a room three nights in a row.

In Hamilton’s empowering version, he pays!

Illustrators also bring their unique interpretations to the page, emphasizing different plot points or details. Some, mercifully, remember that Rapunzel, for example, can have dark hair and brown eyes and black skin. I particularly like Peter Malone’s illustrations for the Kingfisher Book of Fairy Tales. The Fairy Tale Princess: Seven Classic Stories from the Enchanted Forest is worth checking out for Su Blackwell’s stunning illustrations made from newspapers, though Wendy Jones’s retellings are incredibly lackluster—perhaps you and your children can pinpoint what makes them so.

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FAMILY SERVICES Directory This directory, sponsored by Thrifty Foods, features not for profit agencies and organizations serving children, youth and families.

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End Dyslexia provides a qualified speaker to share information about advances in neuroscience and technology that are now making it possible to end dyslexia relatively quickly, affordably and with lasting results. Award-winning speech language pathologist Marlene Lewis is donating her time and expertise to deliver research-based presentations that clearly show what steps need to be taken to do this.

If you would like Marlene to speak to your group, find out when her next free public talk is or learn more, please visit end-dyslexia.com or call 250-474-6368.

1Up, Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre (1-up.ca) provides support, education and resources for parents in the Greater Victoria area through free counselling, volunteer training for peer helper positions, a mentoring program for single moms and a support group for dads.

The Centre also offers a variety of integrated life skills and parenting courses which are open to the whole community (fees are on a sliding scale). The Centre provides free toys and books, a clothing room and bread pantry for single parents. Donations of gently-used clothing, small household items, books and toys are welcome. Hours are Mon, Tue, Thu, Fri: 9-4, Wed: 12-7. 602 Gorge Rd. East; call 250-385-1114 or info@1-up.ca

more information on all programs and services visit bgcvic. org or call 250-384-9133.

Beacon Community Services is a community-based non-profit agency providing social, employment, and health services to Saanich Peninsula, Greater Victoria, and Southern Gulf Islands residents. Beacon offers: child, youth, and family services; a drop-in family resource centre; counselling; employment services for adults, youth, and people with disabilities; home support; volunteer services and opportunities; community events; affordable assisted living for seniors; referrals, information, and resources; thrift shops. For Home Support information call 250-6586407; for all other inquiries call 250-656-0134, or visit beaconcs.ca.

CHOICES Adoption & Counselling is a licensed, professional, non-profit agency that provides services to adoptive parents, birth-parents, and adoptees. CHOICES arranges adoptions domestically and internationally. We are committed to providing a comprehensive, clientcentered adoption service which best meets the needs of everyone in the adoption constellation. Please contact us at choices@choicesadoption.ca, or call 250-479-9811 for further information.

HappyBaby Sleep Solutions helps families create healthy sleep habits in babies and children so everyone is well rested and happy. Sukkie Sandhu, M.Ed., has worked with hundreds of families locally in Victoria and worldwide. Sukkie is a Registered Clinical Counsellor so the cost of a sleep consultation may be covered under your extended medical plan. For more information visit happybabysleepsolutions.com or call 250-857-1408 for a FREE evaluation. Let’s get started!

Community Living Victoria’s Autism Services offers dynamic community-based programs for children and youth (6 – 18 yrs) with Autism. We offer 1:1 Behaviour Intervention, Social Skills Groups and spring, summer and winter Day Camps. Our skilled and caring team draws from various behaviour support models to customize programming for each youth. Fun programming within safe, supportive environments motivate youth to expand their interests, gain confidence, strengthen social and communication skills, and build friendships. 250-477-7231. communitylivingvictoria.ca.

HeadWay Victoria Epilepsy & Parkinson’s Centre supports families living with seizures by offering parent workshops three times a year, educational presentations in schools and community groups as well as providing tutoring sessions and one-to-one professional consultations to help your child live up to their highest potential.

Keep up to date with the latest research about treatments, lifestyle, and safety issues for your child. We can be reached at headwayvictoria.com, or you can reach the Epilepsy Program Coordinator directly at 250-475-6677.

Beacon Community’s Employment Services. Beacon Community Services provides a full menu of employment services to the Saanich Peninsula, Southern Gulf Islands.

We have been helping people find work since 1982! Our programs build on a client’s strengths and resolve barriers to securing and maintaining employment. Furthermore, we work in tandem with our employer network to support those residents looking for work. If you need help finding a job or need employees please pay us a visit! It’s FREE. 9860 Third St, Sidney, 250-656-0134, beaconcs.ca.

Boys & Girls Club Services offer after-school and evening social, educational and recreational programming for children and youth at 5 locations (Colwood, Langford, VicWest, Central Saanich and Esquimalt) and summer camps both in Esquimalt and at our Outdoor Centre in Metchosin. We also offer support to parents through our Parents Together program and parent workshops. For

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Canucks Autism Network (CAN) provides high-quality, adapted sports, recreational and social programs for kids, teens and young adults living with autism on Vancouver Island. Shawnigan Lake: Multisport day camp, bike clinics and family camp. Victoria: Swim, soccer, skate and physical literacy. Nanaimo: Swim and physical literacy.

Family events take place throughout the year! Become a member for only $25/year at canucksautism.ca/join.

Call 604-685-4049, email info@canucksautism.ca or visit canucksautism.ca/VancouverIsland for more information.

Community Options for Children and Families offers recreational support groups for Children and Youth age 6-18 who have a brother or sister with a disability. The Sibshop Program allows children and youth to connect with peers who understand what it is like to be a Sib. Sibkids (age 6-12) and Sibteens (age 13-18) are play and activity based designed to provide opportunity for participants to share in a comfortable and safe environment. For further info call 250-380-6363 or communityoptions.bc.ca.

Family Services of Greater Victoria (formerly BC Families in Transition) is a non profit agency that has been serving families since 1978. We provide a full range of services to the whole family in supporting their relationship and through separation and divorce. Counseling, mediation, legal information and a range of group programs are available for children, youth and adults on a sliding fee scale.

Call us at 250-386-4331 or visit fsgv.org. We can help.

Inter-Cultural Association of Greater Victoria (ICA) is a service agency for immigrants and refugees. Programs offered include cross-cultural counseling, parenting programs (child care available), family violence programs, employment services, interpretation and translation, diversity workshops and training, ESL instruction, volunteering, youth programs and tutoring, as well as intercultural arts programming. 930 Balmoral Rd, 250-388-4728, info@ icavictoria.org, icavictoria.org.

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Learning Disabilities Association of BC, SVI Chapter, educates, supports and advocates for children and youth with learning disabilities and related conditions.

Services include a public lending library, individual/group support for parents and children, professional/educational workshops for parents and professionals. Child and youth programs include: reading/writing, academic skills, social/ emotional skill development and Fast ForWord. 1562 Fort St, Victoria, BC V8S 5J2. Ph 250-370-9513. Fax. 250-370-9421. ldasvi.bc.ca. knowyourrights.ca.

Military Family Resource Centre (MFRC) provides programs and services to the military family community including: 24-Hour Information Line; Deployment Information and Workshops; Short Term Counselling, Crisis Support or Intervention; Welcome/Relocation Services; Childcare and Family Support Services; Assistance for Families with Special Needs and Responsibilities. Call the MFRC: 250-363-2640 (1-800-353-3329) for information or visit esquimaltmfrc.com.

Power To Be provides inclusive nature-based activity programs for youth and families living with a barrier or disability who need support to access recreation and their community. We create year-round programs to fit participant needs through activities such as kayaking, rock climbing, hiking, canoeing and more. Visit powertobe.ca or call 250-385-2363 to get involved.

Sooke Family Resource Society (SFRS) provides Family Resource Programs including: Prenatal Education and Outreach, Parent-Tot Drop-In Groups, Parent Discussion Groups, Family Support Groups and Outreach, a Toy and Book Lending Library, and Kingfisher Preschool. SookeWestshore Child Care Resource and Referral services, as well as all-ages counselling services are also provided

by SFRS. Services are provided from the Child, Youth and Family Centres in both Sooke and the Westshore. Call 250642-5152 for more information or visit our website at sfrs.ca.

SFRS’s Welcome Home Program is looking for homes that can support adults diagnosed with a disability looking to gain further independence. The livingsituations are varied and unique and can include living within a family home or a suite in the family home. The needs of the individuals are varied, dependent on the disability, but can include relationship building, life skills, meal prep, etc. For more information, please call 778-433-2023 or go tosfrs.ca.

Sooke-Westshore Early Years Centres provide information to families about children and family services, supports, child development and parenting. The Early Years Navigator will assist families with referral information for local early years programming, child care, public health, special needs intervention services, and social supports.

The Sooke-Westshore Early Years Centres are hosted by Sooke Family Resource Society and located at the Child, Youth, and Family Centres in both Sooke and the Westshore and can be reached at 250-217-9243. Additional information can be accessed at sfrs.ca/early-years-centre.

Victoria Immigrant and Refugee Centre Society (VIRCS) supports immigrants and refugees living in Greater Victoria. Services are free and include one-onone counselling, parent education workshops, youth life skills classes, a preschool program, art therapy, language classes and academic support, employment help, computer classes and fun community events like free yoga, tai chi, dance and cooking classes. Visit us online at vircs. bc.ca or phone 250-361-9433.

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The Victoria School for Ideal Education • Daily meditation • Nature based learning • Small class sizes • BC curriculum K – Gr. 8 2820 Belmont Avenue

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PRESCHOOL & CHILD CARE Directory CENTRAL SAANICH Chrysalis Child Care................................250-652-0815 A nurturing and stimulating environment for a small group of 21⁄2–5 year old children. Qualified ECE promotes learning through play. chrysalischildcare.ca.

programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. islandkids.ca.

La Pré-Maternelle Appletree Preschool......250-479-0292 A French Immersion Program. 30 months to school age.

Licensed Christian centre. prematernelleappletree.com.

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Goldstream Co-op Preschool....................250-474-3011 Learning Through Play for 3 and 4yr olds! For registration information go to our website: goldstreampreschool.com.

Lexie’s Little Bears Child Care Inc........... 250-590-3603 Only seconds past luxurious Bear Mountain our highly respected outdoor program will not disappoint! Our “Nurture through Nature” facility is rooted from the Reggio-Emilia philosophies, allowing the children to use their environment as the “third teacher.” Located on 2 acres of forest land, your child will learn and grow in a natural surrounding of tress and wildlife! Newly expanded, we NOW have more spaces available for your Infant/Toddlers and Pre-Kindergarten aged children. We use the trees from our own property to build the furniture and some of the toys in all three centres. The children enjoy yoga, music, Spanish, sign-language and an outdoor classroom. In 2016, Lexie Biegun won the BC Provincial Gov’t award of Excellence for Child Care Providers.

Please visit our Facebook page for current info. And pics, as well as our website at lexieslittlebears.com. Cub House waitlist: 778-432-3600.

Leap Forward Childcare...........................250-818-9225 2758 Peatt RD. Licenced group childcare for children ages 6 months to 5 years old. Offering full-time and parttime care. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. For more information please contact Amber: info@leapforwardlangford.com, leapforwardlangford.com.

Miles of Smiles Nature Junior Kindergarten...................

778-265-4374 Come See Why Learning In Nature Rocks! Reggio Influenced Philosophy ages 3-5. Have Your Child Become a Nature Detective Today! Email mosnjk@hotmail.com.

RIA Early Learning Centre........................ 250-590-0781 Reggio Program—for Preschool aged children. A unique learning environment—encourages each child’s development. reggiopreschool.ca.

CORDOVA BAY Carrot Seed Preschool.............................250-658-2331 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. carrotseedpreschool.com.

Cordova Bay Preschool........................... 250-658-3441 A bright and cheerful parent participation preschool with a philosophy of learning through play. 4 yr olds - M/W/F 9:151:15; 3 yr olds - T/Th 9:15-12:15. cordovabaypreschool.org.

Lakeview Christian Preschool/Daycare..... 250-658-5082 30 mths to Kindergarten entry. Small group. Experienced teacher. Full time and part time spaces. Mornings only or full day. Monthly DROP IN STORY HOUR. For information please email lakeviewschol@shaw.ca.

ESQUIMALT Ciara Early Childhood Centre...................250-386-7369 Education and Fun Hand in Hand! Exceptional care for ages 1-5yrs. Inclusive nature inspired kindergarten readiness program with Christian values. Facebook.com/ CiaraEarlyChildhoodCentre.

Island Kids Academy Esquimalt...............250-381-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring all-day program. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community

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METCHOSIN Metchosin Co-op Preschool..................... 250-478-9241 Est. 1960. Our school provides a beautiful natural play space and inclusive child led learning through play emergent curriculum. Two excellent ECEs per class provide loving and enriching family support. Half-day programs for 2.5-5 yrs. metchosinpreschool.com.

West-Mont Montessori School.................250-474-2626 Preschool Montessori instruction in a beautiful natural environment in Metchosin. Ages 30 months and up. Providing a balanced approach to incorporating Nature, French, Music and Art into a complete educational program. Be a part of a community devoted to the development of the whole child.

Open House: Thursdays 9-11 am. west-mont.ca.

NORTH SAANICH In The Garden Childcare Centre.............. 250-654-0306 A GREAT PLACE TO GROW. Offering preschool, full day care, before and after school care for children aged 2.5 to 12 years old. Open all year.

OAK BAY Emmanuel Preschool.............................. 250-598-0573 Children learn through play in our non-denominational Christian preschool near UVic. Bright attractive setting. emmanuelpreschool.ca.

Gonzales Co-op Preschool....................... 250-727-1003 Children explore their imaginations in our learning-throughplay environments and large natural playground. Our Reggio

Emilia inspired program focuses on art, nature, music and friendship. Over 50 years serving Victoria’s families. Nuturing and highly qualified ECE and ECE Assistant. Parent participation level options available, nut-free and allergy-aware. Join us! gonzalescooppreschool.com.

Recreation Oak Bay.................................250-370-7200 Fully licensed, ECE Daycare, Preschool and Nature Preschool.

Play based, child led learning. Afterschool care available.

SAANICH Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre..............250-477-3731 Formerly known as Goosey Gander Kindergarten. Half Day and Full Day Preschool Programs. Children’s learning is supported and nurtured through inquiry, exploration, play and creative expression. arbutusgrove.ca.

Camosun College Child Care Services........250-370-4880 Quality licensed facilities on both campuses providing children, newborn to 5 years, with rich early learning experiences in a learn through play environment. camosun.ca/childcare.

Carrot Seed Preschool.............................250-658-2331 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. Extended hours starting Sept. carrotseedpreschool.com.

Cloverdale Child Care................................. 250-995-1766 Register now for preschool 4 year olds Mon/Wed/Fri 9:00–1:00 & 3 & 4 year olds Tue/Thur 9:00–1:00. Full time Early Learning Centre 7:00am – 6:00 pm 3–5 year olds.

Before and after school care. cloverdalechildcare@shawbiz. ca, cloverdalechildcare.com.

Full o’ Beans Preschool............................... 250-360-1148 We offer ‘learn through play’ programming designed to foster your child’s natural curiosity and imagination. Flexible scheduling, 2.5 and 4 hour programs, qualified staff.

Registration is ongoing! saanichneighbourhoodplace.com.

Island Montessori House......................... 250-592-4411 Inclusive, integrated and nurturing Preschool and Kindergarten programs. Located in a lovely rural setting with a focus on nature and outdoor environmental activities such as gardening and composting. islandmontessori.com.

Lakehill Co-op Preschool.......................... 250-477-4141 Where children’s development is nurtured through a child centered inclusive, play based program. Come visit our natural outdoor playground and meet our loving qualified ECE team. Multiple Levels of participation available, please enquire. lakehillpreschool.org.

Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare........ 250-477-8131 Gordon Head’s only parent-participation preschool and childcare centre. Flexible options, play-based learning and outdoor play. Allergy friendly. Celebrating 40+ years. lambrickparkpreschool.ca.

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Montessori Educare.................................250-881-8666 Beautiful learning environment in Broadmead and Saanichton. 30 months to 5 years. montessorieducare@shaw.ca. montessorieducare.com.

Neighbourhood Junior Kindergarten....... 250-479-4410 Welcoming, culturally sensitive parent participation program in Lakehill School. Morning and afternoon.

For 3s and 4s. See website for details. neighbourhood juniorkindergarten.com

Babies to Big Kids Childcare.......................250-590-2722 949 Fullerton Ave. Licenced group childcare for children ages 6 months to 11 years old. Offering full-time and part-time care. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. info@babies tobigkids.com, babiestobigkids.com.

Castleview Child Care............................. 250-595-5355 Learning Through Play & Discovery. Licensed non-profit, qual. ECE staff. Since 1958. Preschool and full-time care. castleviewchildcarecentre.com.

Oakcrest Preschool................................ 250-472-0668 A welcoming, nurturing environment with a large, bright facility. Learn through play with 2 caring ECEs. oakcrestpreschool.org.

Centennial Day Care............................... 250-386-6832 Exceptional childcare and education 35+ years. Nature inspired, play based program. NEW central, “green” building. centennialdaycare.ca.

Pacific Christian School – Pre-School.......250-479-4532 Your child will love the playful, safe environment and caring staff at PCS Pre-School. Come and explore Educational Excellence to the Glory of God. PacificChristian.ca

Christ Church Cathedral Childcare and Junior Kindergarten.......................... 250-383-5132 ECE and Specialist teachers provide an outstanding all-day, licensed program for 3–5 year olds. Spacious, renovated facility with a huge backyard in Fairfield. cathedralschool.ca.

Rainbows & Dreams Preschool................ 250-479-1966 Small classes for 3-5 yr olds in a safe nurturing environment.

Children learn through play and fun–developing a sense of confidence, independence and creativity. Highly qualified ECE teacher.

Ready Set Grow Preschool....................... 250-472-1530 Inside Hillcrest Elm. in Gordon Head, we help children transition to Kindergarten. Licensed Preschool with highly qualified, warm ECE. heoscmanager@gmail.com.

Rogers Child Care Centre........................250-744-2343 Trusted High Quality Non Profit Care since 1991. Year Round Early Learning and Out of School Care. For more info go to rogerschildcare.com.

St. Joseph’s Catholic Preschool................... 250-479-1237 • A Christian child centre for 3–5 year olds.

• A warm nurturing and challenging program • Offered by St. Joseph’s Catholic School.

Wiseways Preschool & Daycare................ 250-477-1312 Quality, fully licensed, Christian preschool/daycare for 3–4 year olds. Experienced team of ECEs. Spacious facilities include large playground and indoor gym. Subsidized fees welcome. Call for a tour. wisewaysvictoria.com.

SIDNEY Acorntree Preschool................................250-686-1408 Balanced indoor/outdoor program, designed to stimulate natural curiosity and foster empathy and compassion towards others. We believe in the importance of both child and teacher directed activities. acorntreepreschool.ca.

Positive Path Early Learning....................250-655-7244 Located near the library and Sidney School, our program has earned a stellar reputation for quality child care and is growing as fast as the children we care for. Space is available for your child to embark on a journey of active exploration and discovery, enjoying a natural outdoor playground and an expansive indoor learning space. Experienced educators foster a lifelong quest for knowledge and guide children with Christian values and virtues. positivepath@shaw.ca.

Storyoga Preschool................................. 778-679-4004 Embracing and empowering children exactly as they are. Storyoga Preschool is a nature and yoga based program located in Sidney, BC. storyoga.com.

VICTORIA ArtsCalibre Academy.............................. 250-382-3533 Comprehensive programs for Preschool through Grade 6, delivering academic excellence through music, dance, drama and visual arts. Outstanding educators, locations and facilities. ArtsCalibre.ca

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Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten Ltd....................250-595-7544 We offer education through creativity and play, providing rich learning experiences through a well sourced and stimulating indoor and outdoor environment. Early years reading programme. nightingalepreschool.com. Arts/Drama programme. kidsworks.ca.

Parkdale Early Childhood Centre.............250-382-0512 ECEs offer the highest quality care and positive learning experiences in our daycare and preschool. Full time or part time. Call for a tour or visit us at parkdalechildcare.ca.

Rainbow Express Daycare....................... 250-382-2314 A nurturing environment for children to learn through play and discovery in a natural setting. ECEs and specialist teachers. rainbowexpressdaycare.com. Close to city centre.

Ross Bay Preschool.................................250-383-7445 Positive/supportive program motivating children to learn, discover and grow through play. Daily outdoor time, special guests and community events! rossbaypreschool @shaw.ca.

The Sir James Douglas Playschool.......... 250-389-0500 Fun, creative and educational ECE program for 3-5 year olds to grow and develop life long skills. Come play and learn in our bright and modern centre in Fairfield.

Victoria Montessori................................ 250-380-0534 Unique, innovative learning environment combining the best of Montessori and Learning Through Play. Open yr. round.

30mths–K. victoriamontessori.com.

YMCA-YWCA Child Care Centres...............250-386-7511 Enriched programs for children 10 months – 5 years. Our programs support healthy child development and future school success. victoriay.com.

VIEW ROYAL Island Kids Academy View Royal.............250-727-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring child care environment. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. islandkids.ca.

Little Wonders Preschool (View Royal OSC)..................................... 250-744-2718 A creative and supportive program that will prepare your child for a lifetime of learning! Out of School Care is also available for school aged children. viewroyalosc.com.

A Secret Garden Preschool..................... 250-380-8293 Program built on Christian values. Monthly themes, weekly topics and daily activities. asecretgardenpreschool@shaw. ca.

View Royal Childcare...............................250-479-8067 Preschool structured, high quality childcare. Victoria Conservatory of Music classes. Part time spaces available. 2.5-5year olds. viewroyalpreschool@live.com.

View Royal Preschool..............................250-479-8067 Exciting inclusive program in a safe and exceptional care environment. 3-5 year olds. Outside play and themes enrich this program. Full/part-time spaces available. viewroyalpreschool.com.

MILL BAY / COBBLE HILL Cedar Montessori..................................... 250-710-9007 A beautiful rural setting where children are lovingly supported to learn at their own pace within a stimulating Montessori environment.

DUNCAN International Montessori Academy of Canada................................................. 250-737-1119 Offers an enriching environment for preschool children 2-4.9 years with potty training. Nurturing young minds, keeping the spirit free. intmontessori.ca.

Parkside Academy..................................... 250-746-1711 Providing high quality early learning and care from infancy to 12 years of age, in a stimulating, respectful, nurturing, nature based environment with fully educated and passionate early childhood educators. Visit parksideacademy.ca or find us on Facebook.

Queen Margaret’s School.......................... 250-746-4185 Early Childhood Education Program. Co-ed nurturing curriculum to develop the whole child. Healthy snacks and lunch provided. qms.bc.ca.

Queen of Angels Early Learning Centre...... 250-701-0433 We believe that the development of the whole child (physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, and spiritually) encourages each individual to develop to their full potential. We offer an enriched full day program for 3–5 year olds based on Kindergarten readiness.

Sunrise Waldorf School Preschool..............250-743-7253 A warm, nature-based Waldorf rhythm where wonder is nurtured. Led by Waldorf trained ECE teachers. sunrisewaldorfschool.org.

CHEMAINUS St. Joseph’s Preschool..............................250-246-3191 An enriching preschool program allowing children to grow as individuals in a safe and nurturing Christian environment.

QUALICUM BEACH Children’s Discovery Centre.....................250-752-4343 Our program recognizes the uniqueness of each child and provides a nurturing, safe and creative learning environment. Licensed preschool, group care and out of school care. Early Childhood Educators. childrensdiscovery centre.ca. childrensdiscoverycentre@hotmail.com.

Little Star Children’s Centre.....................250-752-4554 Mother, Daughter owned and operated. Earth friendly preschool education inspired by nature. Infused with fun and creative daily yoga practices! Licensed group care.

Enthusiastic ECE instructors. littlestardaycare.ca

PORT ALBERNI John Paul II Catholic School.....................250-723-0637 “Where children grow and learn through play.” We provide a program that will inspire development physically, socially, emotionally, cognitively, creatively and spiritually.

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Resolutions I f you ask me what my New Year’s Resolution is this year, I’ll tell you that I didn’t make one. Probably I’ll be lying.

There’s something about fresh starts—that crisp fall back-to-school season, April when I tack another year to my age, and the first of January—that make me feel optimistic about the future. That make me certain that I can form a plan and stick to it for an entire calendar year, achieve some goal that seems unattainable, but will certainly be within reach after 365 days of solid effort.

How many times have I lasted 365 days?

Precisely zero. My childhood diaries provide a hint at how far I usually get: they all end in the first week of February.

When Angus was six months old I came close. My New Year’s Resolution was to run the Times Colonist 10K in April—and to train with a “Couch to 10K” app every day until then. The plan was multipurpose.

Angus was still colicky and it was an ef-

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fort, and sometimes admittedly an embarrassment, to take a screaming child into the world. Easier to stay cloistered away, which I did, often. This was not good for my sanity. Nor did it help with my other goal, which was to fit into pants other than my pregnancy jeans.

I ran the 10K. Without the stroller, I ran considerably faster. Also, my wardrobe began to expand. I felt great about my success and decided to extend my goal. I’d run at least three times a week for the rest of the year. After I took a well-deserved break, of course. Four and a half years later this break is still ongoing.

The next January I didn’t make a running goal—my old standby—I made an Angus goal. I don’t remember what it was, but likely it had something to do with sleep: sleeping through the night, or sleeping without first breastfeeding, or sleeping during the day for longer than 20 minutes. Whatever

it was, I know it involved my kid, and it involved some skill-deficit or behaviour of his that I felt with concentrated effort I’d be able to change. I know this because it became the type of goal I made every year.

The problem with Angus being a little slower to develop than most other kids his

Laura Trunkey Maternity & Beyond age was that from almost the beginning of his life I could pick out things he wasn’t doing that other kids were. That, I was certain, every other kid was. And I just knew he wasn’t doing these things because of me.

Maybe he was slow to talk because I didn’t talk to him enough. Because I sometimes turned on the radio for company rather than running a continuous monologue with him. Maybe he didn’t eat well with a spoon because I hadn’t demonstrated the skill properly. And because often times, when he dropped said spoon eight times in a row

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and yogurt had sprayed all over the walls, I gave up and fed him myself. Maybe he wasn’t toilet trained because all the other moms I knew were just better teachers. Or else they put in more effort.

Angus’s autism diagnosis was, in many ways, a blessing. Aside for the occasional dark moment when I blamed my genetics, or the fact that I occasionally rested my laptop on my pregnant stomach when I wrote, I felt like I could loosen my expectations. Or more accurately: I could loosen my expectations of Angus. I couldn’t loosen my expectations of myself.

Because what about the super moms with blogs or books devoted to their extraordinary efforts with their autistic children? Their full days of scheduled behaviour intervention, or sensory therapy, or miracle diets. What about the inspirational YouTube video of the autistic boy who was almost non-verbal but at 18-years-old was the high school valedictorian because of his devoted mother. Clearly there was even more reason to pour concentrated effort into my child. High functioning kids with autism were surely high functioning because of the effort their parents put in, right? Because that’s how life works: more effort, better results.

It’s taken me a long time to recover from this type of thinking. In fact, I’m not so sure I’m there yet. These days Angus likes to practice reading with me each afternoon. I love how proud he is of himself. Admittedly, I also love that he’s learning a skill that isn’t yet being taught in his kindergarten class.

But if he decides he doesn’t enjoy it, if we stop and he slips behind his classmates, I’ll blame myself for this. Just like I blame myself for not focusing on each and every skill suggested by the various professionals in Angus’s life. Maybe a super mom could find time for everything. But super moms must be worn ragged. Do they ever have time to just enjoy their children?

This year I’m sure I’ll make another resolution. I can’t help myself. But my plan is not to make it something only achievable with herculean effort. It won’t be devised to “fix” something about my son. Maybe instead it’ll be something I’m guaranteed to do anyways: to love him, to be there for him and to appreciate his company.

Laura Trunkey is mother to the amazing Angus and the author of a forthcoming short fiction collection from House of Anansi. Email laurajtrunkey@gmail.com.

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The Coral of Vancouver Island An unprotected underworld

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ave you ever hiked through the forests of Vancouver Island and come across rivers bursting out of the ground from seemingly nowhere?

Or have you followed the path of a creek to find that the rushing water disappears underground? If you have, you’re likely walking on a karst landscape with a complex cave system of limestone, dolomite or marble beneath your feet.

Vancouver Island has more caves than all of Canada combined. These caves are a result of the large limestone deposits that span along the Island’s length. Where this soluble rock is exposed to rainwater or to the surface of the earth (epikarst), we call a karst landscape.

Thousands of years of rainwater carve the bedrock through alchemy and time.

This forms the magical architecture of

salmon-bearing streams in coastal B.C. feature karst somewhere within their river system. These limestone deposits have the same basic chemistry as coral reefs, oyster shells, eggshells and antlers.

underworld sinkholes, caverns, caves and disappearing rivers. This phenomenon happens to correlate with Vancouver Island’s spectacular ancient rainforest.

If you were to take a flight above a karst forest, you’d see a richer colour in the forest canopy. The most productive

into the trees and other plants, carrying on the lifecycle of ancient forest ecology. This has helped create towering nutrient-rich cedar, spruce and Douglas fir trees with roots clutching coral limestone bedrock.

This gift of glacial nutrients only comes once. It now exists only within the de-

Mark Worthing Nature Notes After the last Ice Age, rich nutrients were left behind by receding glaciers. These provided the food today’s old-growth trees needed to develop into some of the planet’s most unique and magnificent forests. Over time, that fertile topsoil has been sucked up

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composition cycles of dead plant matter and fungus on the spongy forest floor. The topsoil has also been pulled down into valley bottoms and waterways, creating healthy salmon-bearing rivers and exposing the karst bedrock below.

When a karst landscape gets this nutrient gift, one of the most endangered ecosystems on Vancouver Island is created: old-growth karst forests.

Unlike Alaska and Washington where there is stringent protection, British Columbia has absolutely no legislated protection for karst landscapes or even caves. A Cave Protection Act has been tabled for first reading in the B.C. Legislature more than once whereas the U.S. federal Cave Resources Protection Act was made into law over three decades ago. Yet still no legislation here. Karst or cave protection might damper logging companies’ profit margins, so there is little political will to regulate.

There is also no protection for rivers or creeks that “disappear” underground.

Logging and road building is legal on top of areas that could be massive cave and karst systems. Not only is this dangerous to workers and a risk to public health, but it is belligerent negligence of a fragile ecosystem.

The logging culture on northern Van- have flooded out entire cave systems and couver Island seems cavalier, which is clogged water drainage systems older than unfortunate as the north end of the Island the country of Canada. has the most caves and karst landscape The forest of the Walbran Valley and northern Vancouver Island’s East Creek sit on top of karst limestone. Within the Flathead Valley of B.C.’s southern Rockies lies the deepest cave systems in North America.

All of these cave systems are vulnerable without legislated cave or karst protection.

Yet there is hope for these magnificent places. First Nations leaders are asserting sovereignty over their lands and sacred cave sites. The Horne Lake Caves boast 17,000 visitors per year, and they recently received Destination B.C.’s first-ever Remarkable Experiences Award. Through ecotourism and parks, the public is becoming more and more engaged with the fascinating and fragile world below the roots of the ancient forests of Vancouver Island. So get out there and explore!

features. The legendary Maquinna Cave near Tahsis has had its entrance covered and desecrated with logging and road-building debris. Logging-caused slides near Holberg

Mark Worthing is a multidisciplinary activist, naturalist and journalist who has an affinity for the wilder landscapes of British Columbia. He works with Sierra Club BC, Greenpeace and the Sea to Cedar Foundation.

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All In Due Time

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ust because children have a good vocabulary doesn’t mean they understand adult concepts or can act like an adult. If you are expecting too much from your child you really need to Cut It Out! All children, including teens, struggle with various concepts such as the value of money, organizing a messy room, and understanding how their behaviour effects other people.

We can help our children learn by giving them opportunities to take responsibility. Having an allowance is an opportunity for children to experience the natural consequences of spending money and then not having any. That is something that many adults struggle with so better to have the opportunity to learn when the mistakes are fairly cheap.

Children have difficulty sorting and categorizing objects which is due to an immature brain not a bad attitude. Did you have a tidy room when you were growing up? Did you notice when you got into your early 20s that your ability to tidy your room improved? That was largely due to your brain maturing. While we can have expectations for children to tidy, what is important is that we understand why keeping their room in order may be difficult.

Understanding this should keep the judgment off to the side. It’s often our criticism and judgment of kids that stops them from wanting to cooperate.

understand why lying isn’t okay or why it isn’t okay to take something that doesn’t belong to them. This does not mean you have failed to teach

Children can say things that are really embarrassing when you’re out in public. They stare at people or comment on their looks without understanding the impact it has. This doesn’t mean that our kids are mean or thoughtless, and helping our children develop empathy for other people takes many years. When we help children understand their own feelings then and only then can they begin to understand other people’s feelings. Reflective listening and making “I statements” helps children understand feelings and as they mature they learn that their behavior really does have an impact on other people.

How many power struggles arise from children having mistaken ideas about the world?

Young children up to the age of seven have very little concept of time and because of this they have difficulty organizing themselves when it comes to transition. We all know that getting out of the house in the morning can be one of the most stressful times of the day for families. While it is important to teach our children and help them grow, we have to walk in their shoes and imagine what it’s like to live in their present moment. That is one of the gifts that children bring to us as we impose our societal time frames on them.

Before the age of eight many children don’t

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Taking a step back and embracing the true nature of a child can shift our perception to something more loving, and more supportive. When we put our own mistaken ideas aside, we hold the bar at just the right level. You can put away your parenting books if you’re looking for one that speeds up your child’s maturity. That just isn’t a great goal.

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