Family Resource Guide

Island Parent Celebrating

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Over 700 Listings from Victoria to Parksville

Family Resource Guide 2012–2013

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Welcome

to the seventh annual Family Resource Guide

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ALWAYS HERE AND MAKING IT EASIER

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Our team of highly qualified professionals provide services based on best practices, with treatment geared specifically to the needs of your child and family.

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ince 1988, Island Parent has provided Vancouver Island families with information that supports them in their daily lives.

Our goal is to assist parents, grandparents and others involved in the day-to-day care of the children in our community. With this in mind, we bring you the seventh annual comprehensive FRG compiling the various programs, services and advertisers that have been featured in our regular publications.

We hope that you find the listings, articles and advertising useful to your family.

Keep this guide on hand so you can refer to it throughout the year. Don’t forget to regularly visit our website or www.kidsinvictoria.com for all your parenting needs.

Paul Abra, Publisher

Island Parent Magazine, produced by Island Parent Group Enterprises Ltd., is a monthly publication that honours and supports parents by providing information on resources and businesses for families, and a forum for the exchange of ideas and opinions. Views expressed are not necessarily those of the publisher. Letters (max 250 words) should be directed to the Editor at the address below. No material herein may be reproduced without the permission of the Editor. Unsolicited manuscripts are welcome and should be accompanied by a self-addressed, stamped envelope. Island Parent Magazine is distributed free in selected areas. Subscriptions can be obtained by sending $28.00 (includes HST) with your name and address to the address below. Canada Post: Canadian Publications Mail Sales Product Agreement 40051398.

Island Parent Magazine Suite A-10, 830 Pembroke St, Victoria, BC V8T 1H9 Tel: 250-388-6905 Fax: 250-388-6920 Website: www.islandparent.ca Partner Website: www.kidsinvictoria.com

FOR MORE INFORMATION, PLEASE CONTACT: Monarch House - Victoria 611 Discovery Street

250.220.8999 monarchhousevictoria@cbi.ca

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President, Publisher: Paul Abra Vice-President: Anna Abra Director, Production Manager: Mada Moilliet Editor: Sue Fast Advertising Sales: Paul Abra, Rod Holt Publisher’s Assistant: Linda Frear Bookkeeping: Elaine Francis Distribution: Anna Abra, Ray Cutts, Ted Dawe (Mid-Island) Founders: Jim Holland & Selinde Krayenhoff Production: Eacrett Graphic Design Printed at Island Publishers Cover printed at Hillside Printing ISSN 1915-1799

Contents: Family Resource Guide 2012/13 Articles

Listings

Money Concepts for Kids..............................................12 Time Bandits.................................................................16 Time to Learn................................................................23 Unintentional Teaching.................................................24 A Garden for Grief........................................................32 Dealing With the Death of a Child................................33 Refueling Your Marriage...............................................34 Online Resources for Breastfeeding Help.......................40 Playtime With Baby.......................................................44 Family Getaways...........................................................46 Learning from Each Other............................................51 Fantastic Four...............................................................56 Starting Baby on Solids.................................................61 This Too Shall Pass........................................................62 Feast of the Salmon.......................................................70

South Island (Greater Victoria, Saanich, Sidney, Gulf Islands, Westshore, Sooke) Important Phone Numbers..............................................4 New Parent Resources.....................................................5 Family Support................................................................8 Health & Wellness........................................................14 Legal & Financial Services............................................15 Education......................................................................18 Classes & Programs......................................................27 Family Fun & Entertainment........................................38 Party Planning...............................................................41 Retail Products..............................................................41 Family Restaurants & Food Markets............................43 Cowichan Valley (Mill Bay, Shawnigan Lake, Duncan) Family Support..............................................................48 New Parent Resources...................................................48 Health & Wellness........................................................48 Education......................................................................48 Classes & Programs......................................................49 Family Restaurants & Food Markets............................50 Retail Products..............................................................50 Family Fun & Entertainment........................................50 Party Planning...............................................................50 Island-Wide Residential Camps.........................................................54 Family Travel................................................................54

On the Cover: Photo by Konul Rosario of The Light Within Photography, www.thelightwithinphoto.com

Departments Annual Family Events...................................................36 Party Directory........................................................52, 53 Business & Professional Directory.................................69

Mid-Island (Chemainus, Ladysmith, Nanaimo, Parksville) New Parent Resources...................................................59 Family Support..............................................................60 Health & Wellness........................................................60 Education......................................................................63 Classes & Programs......................................................65 Party Planning...............................................................67 Family Fun & Entertainment........................................67 Retail Products..............................................................68 Family Restaurants & Food Markets............................68

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South Island Greater Victoria, Saanich, Sidney, Gulf Islands, Westshore, Sooke

Important Phone Numbers POLICE (NON-EMERGENCY) Central Saanich . . . . . 250-652-4441 Sooke (East Sooke, Jordan River, Otter Point, Port Renfrew, Shirley) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-642-5241 Esquimalt . . . . . . . . . . 250-995-7654 Oak Bay . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-592-2424 Saanich. . . . . . . . . . . . 250-475-4321 Sidney (includes North Saanich, Willis Point) . . . . . . . . . . 250-656-3931 Victoria . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-995-7654 Western Communities (Colwood, Highlands, Langford, Metchosin, View Royal) . . . . . . . . . . 250-474-2264

Highlands . . . . . . . . . . 250-474-1773 Langford. . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-9555

Options Pregnancy Centre 4-855 Caledonia Ave. 250-380-6883

Metchosin. . . . . . . . . . 250-478-1307

HealthLink BC HealthLinkBC.ca. . . . . . . . . . . . . 8-1-1

North Saanich . . . . . . . 250-656-1931 Oak Bay . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-592-9121 Otter Point. . . . . . . . . . 250-642-6211 Saanich. . . . . . . . . . . . 250-475-6111 Sidney . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-656-2121 Sooke. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-642-5422 Victoria . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-384-1122

Poison Control Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-567-8911 Sexual Assault Crisis & Information Line. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-383-3232 The Representative for Children & Youth www.rcybc.ca. . . . . . 1-800-476-3933

AMBULANCE (NON-EMERGENCY)

Vancouver Island Crisis Line . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-888-494-3888

All areas. . . . . . . . . . . . 250-727-2400 Central Saanich . . . . . 250-652-4444

OTHER IMPORTANT NUMBERS

Colwood. . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-8321

Emergency Fire, Police or Ambulance . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9-1-1

Esquimalt . . . . . . . . . . 250-414-7126

Kids Help Phone . . . 1-800-668-6868

View Royal. . . . . . . . . . 250-479-7322

FIRE (NON-EMERGENCY)

East Sooke . . . . . . . . . 250-642-4411

Help Line for Children. 250-310-1234

Child Find BC. . . . . . 1-888-689-3463

Women’s Transition House . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-6611

Make sure your children know to call 911 for Emergency Police, Fire or Ambulance

At SMS, our most confident leaders have one thing in common.

They are all girls.

Open House

Friday, October 19, 2012 9-11:30 am & 1-3 pm 1080 Lucas Avenue

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South Island

New Parent Resources MATERNITY/FERTILITY Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit epau.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-592-5633 Vancouver Island Naturopathic Clinic Inc. 3954 Wilkinson Rd . . . . 250-881-1806 Victoria HypnoBirthing . . . . . . . . . victoriahypnobirthing.com

DIAPER SERVICES Happy Island Diaper Service . . . . . . . . . . happyislanddiapers.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-866-922-7377

DOULAS Birth & Beyond Doula Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-889-6009 Glowing Touch Doula Services glowingtouch.ca . . . . . 250-514-3009 Island Childbirth IslandChildbirth.com . . 250-889-2760 Natural Birthing and Postpartum Centre . . birthingandpostpartum.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-386-2758

The Midwives Collective 107-1120 Yates St . . . . 250-590-7605 Midwifery Services of Victoria 2000 Beach Dr . . . . . . . 250-592-0099 Sooke Midwifery 2050B Townsend Rd . . 778-425-0780 Victoria Midwifery Group 35 Cambridge St . . . . . 250-381-1977 West Coast Midwives 2823 Dysart Rd . . . . . . 250-384-5940 Western Communities Midwifery 287 Stewart Ave . . . . . 250-589-3417

PRENATAL SERVICES Aboriginal Prenatal Support 231 Regina Ave . . . . . . 250-384-3211 Birthright Victoria 516–620 View St . . . . . 250-380-0305 Camosun College . . . 250-370-3550 A healthy baby begins with prenatal class! Camosun’s specialized nurse educators support clients of midwives and doctors. Fun and informative classes at VGH, includes tour. Bursaries available for low-income families.

Mothering Touch Centre 975 Fort St . . . . . . . . . . 250-595-4905 motheringtouch.ca. Childbirth preparation, pre- & post-natal yoga and fitness, parenting the newborn, baby groups, breastfeeding education & support, baby massage, baby sign language, Music Together.

Vancouver Island Naturopathic Clinic Inc. 3954 Wilkinson Rd . . . . 250-881-1806 Victoria Doula Directory . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . doulasofvictoria.ca

BEST BABIES PROGRAMS

MIDWIVES

Saanich Neighbourhood Place Best Babies . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-360-1148

Access Midwifery 208–2951 Tillicum Rd . 250-380-6329 Birthways Midwifery Service 2254 Belmont Ave . . . . 250-384-9062 Community Midwifery Care 130 McPhillips Ave, Salt Spring . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-537-2243

Esquimalt Neighbourhood House . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-2635 Family Services Best Babies 511 Constance Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-2635 ext 203

Victoria Best Babies 1240 Gladstone Ave . . 250-381-1552 Victoria Native Friendship Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-384-3211

PUBLIC HEALTH (VIHA)

Cook Street Community Midwives 101–1005 Cook St . . . . 250-386-4116

Esquimalt 530 Fraser St . . . . . . . . 250-519-5311

Dandelion Midwifery 709 Connaught Rd . . . 250-590-7770

Gulf Islands . . . . . . . . 250-539-3099

Midwifery Care 547 Michigan St . . . . . 250-592-5407

Saanich 3995 Quadra St . . . . . . 250-519-5100

Pregnant?

Pregnancy is a state of health.

Midwives recognize what an extraordinary time this is in your life and we are available to support you through your childbearing year.

Covered by Your BC Health Care BC’s Medical Services Plan pays for midwifery care, including in-home check-ups in labour and after you’ve had your baby.

You can self-refer to a midwife.

Quality Care Studies show that midwifery clients have lower rates of episiotomies, infection, Caesarean sections, forceps and vacuum deliveries and newborns that require resuscitation.

Choice of Hospital or Home Birth Continuity of Care Comprehensive Care Breastfeeding Education & Support

Registered Midwives in Victoria: Beth Smit 250-384-5940 Ilana Stanger-Ross 250-590-7605 Julia Stolk 250-590-7605 Misty Wasyluk 250-380-6329 Deanna Wildeman 250-592-5407 Heather Wood 250-380-6329 Amy Brownhill 250-386-4116 Michele Buchmann 250-590-7770 Chloe Dayman 250-380-6329 Uta Herold (Sooke) 778-425-0780 Deborah Little 250-592-0099 Luba Lyons Richardson 250-381-1977 Lorna J. McRae 250-380-6329 Jody Medernach 250-590-7605 Kim Millar Lewis 250-384-5940 Heather Nelson 250-380-6329 Jill Pearman 250-590-7605 Colleen Rode 250-386-4116 Angela Schaerer 250-384-9062 We would be pleased to schedule an appointment to answer your questions about midwifery care.

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Peninsula 2170 Mt. Newton X Rd 250-544-2400

BC Association of Family Resource Programs . . . . . . . . . . 604-738-0068

Vancouver Island Baby Fair . . . . . . . vancouverislandbabyfair.com

Saltspring Island . . . . 250-538-4880

The Cridge Young Parent Outreach Program 1307 Hillside Ave . . . . . 250-995-6421 This dynamic service for young parents, parents-to-be, and their children offers support, mentoring and advocacy to young parents as they endeavor to have healthy babies, develop their parenting skills, and pursue their education and employment goals.

Vancouver Island Multiple Birth Association email . . . . . . vimba234@hotmail.com

Sooke 104–2145 Townsend . . 250-642-5464 Victoria 1947 Cook St . . . . . . . . 250-388-2200 West Shore 345 Wale Rd . . . . . . . . 250-519-3490

BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT Breastfeeding Matters . . . . . . . . . . . breastfeedingmatters.ca Island Breast Pumps Facebook “The Breast Pump Lady” . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-514-2265 La Leche League of Greater Victoria . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-727-4384

NEW PARENT SUPPORT Babyproofit Professional Child Proofing Services babyproofit.ca . . . . . . . 250-514-2265

Vancouver Island Naturopathic Clinic Inc. 204-4480 West Saanich Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-881-1806 Welcome Wagon welcomewagon.ca . . 1-866-518-7287

Greater Victoria Down Syndrome Society . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-7450

ADOPTION SUPPORT

Infant Development Program 3970 Haro Rd . . . . . . . . . . . 477-1826

Adoption Support Program 2400 Arbutus Rd . . . . . 250-721-6751

Options Pregnancy Centre 4-855 Caledonia Ave. 250-380-6883

Choices Adoption & Counselling Services 100–850 Blanshard St . 250-479-9811

Peninsula Best Babies Program 9860 Third St, Sidney. 250-656-0134 Registered Nanny Canada The best live-in nanny . 250-667-0565 The Savvy Squirrel Coupon Book . . . . . . . . . . squirrelcouponbook.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-589-7192 Sleep Sense . . . . . . . . 250-857-1408 . . . . . . . . . . . . sleepsense.net/victoria

Family Services of Greater Vancouver 1616 West 7th Ave . . . . 604-736-7613 Options Pregnancy Centre 4-855 Caledonia Ave. 250-380-6883 Origins Supporting People Separated By Adoption originscanada.org . . . . 250-419-1200

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Toll-Free Legal Information Line: 1.877.386.4333 (Mon & Thurs 9am–4pm) 6 www.IslandParent.ca

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Family Friendship Program, Victoria Immigrant & Refuge Centre 637 Bay St, 3rd Floor . . 250-361-9433

South Island

Fernwood Neighbourhood Resource Group 1240 Gladstone Ave . . 250-381-1552

Family Support

Inter-Cultural Association 930 Balmoral Rd . . . . . 250-388-4728

ALCOHOL ADDICTION INFORMATION & TREATMENT Al-Anon Family Groups . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-383-4020

COMMUNITY CENTRES Blanshard Community Centre 901 Kings Rd . . . . . . . . 250-388-7696 Braefoot Activity Centre 1359 McKenzie Ave . . . 250-721-2244 Burnside/Gorge Community Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . burnsidegorge.ca 471 Cecelia Rd . . . . . . 250-388-5251

James Bay Community Project 547 Michigan St . . . . . 250-388-7844 Oaklands Community Association 1-2827 Belmont Ave . . 250-370-9101 Saanich Neighbourhood Place 3100 Tillicum Rd . . . . . 250-360-1148 Victoria West Community Association 521 Craigflower Rd . . . 250 590-8922 YM-YWCA of Greater Victoria 880 Courtney St . . . . . 250-386-7511

COUNSELLING Arbour Counselling Centre 4277 Quadra St . . . . . . 250-479-9912

Esquimalt Neighbourhood House 511 Constance Ave . . . 250-385-2635

A.T. Malcolm & Associates 218-284 Helmcken Rd 250-727-7060

Fairfield Community Association 1330 Fairfield Rd . . . . . 250-382-4604

Dr. Allison Rees . . . . . 250-595-2649

Dr. Barry Robinson, M.A. avaloncounselling.com 250-881-5907 Citizen’s Counselling Centre 941 Kings Rd . . . . . . . . 250-384-9934 Connecting Cultures . 250-920-0373 Creative Family Solutions 303-2722 5th St . . . . . . 250-413-3107 Esquimalt Neighbourhood House 511 Constance Ave . . . 250-360-0644 Five Directions Counselling Services counsellingvictoria.ca . 250-580-6031 Island Family Counselling 130–1105 Pandora Ave 250-598-0544 Journey Counselling . 250-885-0506 Men’s Trauma Counselling Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-381-6367 Origins Counselling Services 420-1105 Pandora Ave 250-588-4822 The Salvation Army Community & Family Services 2695 Quadra St . . . . . . 250-386-8521 Sooke Family Resource Society www.sfrs.ca . . . . . . . . . 250-642-5152 South Island Centre for Counselling & Training southislandcentre.ca . . 250-472-2851

Fall Classes…

Expand your skills, build your confidence and discover the joy of learning • Academic assessments • After school classes: Monday to Thursday starting at 3:30 • Daytime classes: by appointment • Camps and Pro-D workshops Locations: Colwood, Sidney and Victoria Call: 250-388-7225 for information about our services and schedules

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START YOUR CHILD AT 16 MONTHS! REGISTER ONLINE NOW FOR FALL! • SPORTBALL JUNIOR (16-24mos) • PARENT&CHILD/ME&MY DAD (2-4yrs) • MULTI-SPORT (4-7yrs) • OUTDOOR SOCCER (2-10yrs) • soccer • hockey • basketball • baseball • • volleyball • tennis • golf • football • FOR MORE INFORMATION CALL: 250-590-4625 OR 1-877-590-4625 OR EMAIL: VAN.ISLAND@SPORTBALL.CA

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Victoria Group Perspectives . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-590-7624

V I C TO R I A’ S

GRIEF SUPPORT Circle of Friends . . . . . 250-384-9133 Compassionate Friends 1346 Ravens View Dr . . 250-478-9270

U N D E RWAT E R

A Q U A R I U M

Living & Learning Through Loss www.teenloss.com . . . . 250-413-3114 Origins: Supporting People Separated by Adoption www.originscanada.org 250-419-1200 Rainbows. . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-0766 Victoria Hopsice Bereavement Services victoriahospice.org . . . . 250-370-8868

PARENT SUPPORT

AN AUTHENTIC UNDERWATER EXPERIENCE !

1UP: Single Parent Resource Centre 602 Gorge Rd . . . . . . . . 250-385-1114 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-up.ca.

1Up offers a wide variety of 3-8 week personal growth and parenting courses, a mentoring program for single moms, and a single dads’ support group. Courses open to all.

Dr. Allison Rees. . . . . . 250-595-2649 BC Families in Transition 899 Fort St . . . . . . . . . . 250-386-4331 Professional counselling, legal support, group programs, information & more for families and family members of all ages when family relationships are in distress Separation/divorce; working through conflict to stay together; grief/loss.

Beacon Community Services, Sidney beaconcs.ca . . . . . . . . . 250-656-0134 Big Brothers Big Sisters bbsvictoria.com . . . . . . 250-475-1117

Live Dive Show every hour Aquatic-themed 490 BELLEVILLE ST. VICTORIA Gift Shop 250-382-5717 www.pacificunderseagardens.com

490 BELLEVILLE ST. VICTORIA 250-382-5717 • www.pacificunderseagardens.com

Bridges for Women Society 320–1175 Cook St . . . . 250-385-7410 Central Baptist Church . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-7786 Child Abuse Prevention/ Mary Manning Centre 210–1175 Cook St . . . . 250-385-6111 Child Care Resource and Referral Sooke/Westshore . islandfamilyinfo.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-642-5152 or . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-4324 Family Caregivers’ Network Society 526 Michigan St . . . . . . 250-384-0408

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First Unitarian Church of Victoria 5575 West Saanich Rd 250-744-2665 F.O.R.C.E. Society for Kids Mental Health . . . . . . bckidsmentalhealth.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-1192 Foster Parents Support Services 145-735 Goldstream Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-598-1500

www.BelliesInBloomMaternity.com

Island Parent Magazine A10–830 Pembroke St 250-388-6905

Young Parents Support Network 404–620 View St . . . . . 250-384-0552

Kids In Victoria . . . kidsinvictoria.com

WIN Administration Office 812 Cormorant Ave . . . 250-480-4006

Pacific Centre Family Services Association Colwood & Sooke . . . . . pacificcentrefamilyservices.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-8357 Parent Support Services Society of BC . . . . . . . . . . . . parentsupportbc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-384-8042 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-877-345-9777

Success By Six . . . . . . . . . . . . successby6victoria.ca

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Community Living Victoria 3861 Cedar Hill X Rd . . 250-477-7231

The Cridge Respitality Service 1307 Hillside Ave . . . . . 250-995-6412 Our unique Respitality program provides parents of a child with a disability a chance to pause and be refreshed with a complimentary overnight stay for two in a hotel or bed-and-breakfast.

St. Barnabas Anglican Church 1525 Begbie St . . . . . . 250-595-4324

From Veterans Memorial Parkway, turn onto the Langford Parkway, drive past the Westhills Arena and follow the signs.

Child & Family Counselling Association (Autism Program) 5–230 Menzies St . . . . 250-595-4423

The Representative for Children & Youth www.rcybc.ca. . . . . . 1-800-476-3933

South Island Dispute Resolution Centre 102-2220 Sooke Rd . . 250-383-4412

Call Mike Hartshorne* at (250)-889-4445 for more information or visit WesthillsBC.com!

BC Lions Society for Children with Disabilities . . . . . 250-386-0668

Community Options for Children & Families 830C Pembroke St . . . 250-380-6363

Sooke Options for Community Living Association socla.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-642-6364

3 furnished show homes open from 12–4pm daily

SPECIAL NEEDS & DISABILITY SUPPORT

Partnership in Learning and Advocacy for Young Children (PLAY) Victoria . . . . . playvictoria.org

Sooke Family Resource Society www.sfrs.ca . . . . . . . . . 250-642-5152

NEW HOMES JUST RELEASED!

Victoria Native Friendship Centre 231 Regina Ave . . . . . . 250-384-3211 Victoria Women’s Sexual Assault Centre #511-620 View St . . . . 250-383-5545

Momstown Victoria . . momstown.ca

250 479 0803 ROYAL OAK SHOPPING CENTRE

Victoria Pacific Rim Alliance & Pipeline Churches 1792 Townley St . . . . . 250-592-1821

Hulitan Social Services Society . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-384-9466

Military Family Resource Centre Work Point . . . . . . . . . . 250-363-3443

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Unity Church of Victoria 838 Pandora Ave . . . . . 250-382-1613

Surrounded by Cedar Child & Family Services 303-3995 Quadra St . . 250-383-2990 TS Consulting . . . . . . . 250-590-4114 Tumblebum Solutions . . . . . . . . . . tumblebumsolutions.com Brenda Kovitz, certified sleep consultant, assists parents whose children are experiencing irregular sleep. Individual plans available, or join us for one of our montly seminars.

The Cridge Respite Resource Service 1307 Hillside Ave . . . . . 250-220-8569 This vital service keeps an up-to-date listing of people able to provide respite care and parents who need respite services for their child. If you are either a parent or a respite care provider, please contact us for more information.

Greater Victoria Down Syndrome Society gvdss.ca . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-7450 Lifetime Networks 102-4090 Shelbourne St . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-477-4112 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . lifetimenetworks.org Providing creative and inclusive programs welcoming people with disabilities, including a two-year Post-Secondary Education Program, Employment Programs, friendship building, personal support networks,

fine arts, socials, cooking and independent living.

Little Steps Therapy Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-386-1171 Monarch House Victoria 611 Discovery St . . . . . 250-220-8999 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . monarchhouse.ca Mosaic Learning Society Victoria 500 Admirals Rd . . . . . 250-382-0848 Pivot Point Family Growth Centre pivotpoint.ca . . . . . . . . 778-430-5914 Queen Alexandra Centre For Children’s Health 2400 Arbutus Rd . . . . . 250-477-1826 Ronald McDonald House . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .rmhbc.ca Schizophrenic Society, BC Chapter 941 Kings Rd . . . . . . . . 250-384-4225 Special Olympics . . . . . . . victoriaspecialolympics.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-477-7106 Spina Bifida & Hyrocephalus Association of BC 4480 Oak St, Vancouver . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 604-878-7000 Victoria Brain Injury Society vbis.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-598-9339

Victoria Epilepsy & Parkinson’s Centre 813 Darwin Ave . . . . . . 250-475-6677 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . www.vepc.bc.ca If epilepsy is in your life, we can help.

Professional consultations, information, classroom education, advocacy, music therapy, tutoring for school-age children, bursaries for Camosun College. www.vepc.bc.ca.

Victoria Group Perspectives . . . . . . . . . . . groupperspectives.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-590-7624 Victoria Society for Children with Autism Box 44106, 2947 Tillicum Rd . . . victoriaautismsociety@gmail.com Westshore Child & Youth Family Centre, 345 Wale Rd . . 250-391-4320

YOUTH SERVICES Discovery Youth and Family Addiction Services 2nd Fl-530 Fraser St . . 250-721-2669 Island Sexual Health Society Clinical Services . . . . . 250-592-3479 Community Ed . . . . . . . 250-388-2202 Parents Together Program . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-384-9133 PFLAG of Greater Victoria . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-9462 Youth Clinic 533 Yates Street . . . . . 250-383-3552 547 Michigan Street . . 250-388-7841 Youth Addiction Services 530 Fraser St, 2nd Flr . 250-721-2669 Young Parent Support Network 2541 Empire St . . . . . . 250-384-0052

PARENT EDUCATION

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arly in my financial planning career, a client asked me to speak to her children about basic money concepts. I thought this would be a snap. After all, talking about money is my job. The meeting, however, did not turn out as expected. The questions were so basic I didn’t have a ready response.

It is one thing to talk about investing with an adult. It turned out to be another thing altogether to talk about money basics with a nine- and 11-year-old. I don’t know who learned the most that night, my client’s children or me.

It’s tough raising children in today’s consumer-orientated society. How do parents educate their children about money when, at every turn, they see advertising designed to persuade them to acquire the next musthave thing?

Good financial literacy is one of the most important life skills we can teach our kids. For good or bad, what and how we learn about money when we are young usually stays with us for the rest of our lives. This learning starts surprisingly early. Children as young as preschool age can learn basic concepts such as counting and working with coins. They are perceptive enough to understand that a plastic card at the checkout or ATM means “money.”

Many children learn most of their financial behaviour from their parents.

They are also quick to note their parent’s habits and attitudes. I learned my money skills from my parents who learned theirs from their parents and so on. Hopefully, the parents get it right because bad habits once made are hard to break.

The first step in developing effective financial literacy in children usually begins with a monthly allowance. The common questions seem to be how much, when and

the relationship between an allowance and doing chores. There are many thoughts on these questions. A frequent approach is to give an allowance of one dollar a week for each year of age. As the child ages the dollar amount increases. This is, of course, dependent on the family’s financial situation and number of children.

The key to an allowance is that you give it consistently. The parents and children also need to agree on the ground rules at the beginning. These rules also depend on the age of the child and their ability to comprehend basic concepts.

Keep it simple early and gradually introduce ideas that are more complex. Another common rule is that a percentage must be saved each month for mutually agreed upon goals. Goals might be as simple as a new computer game to something more complex like education savings. This is also an excellent opportunity to introduce the excellent “pay yourself first” concept. In essence, by regularly saving 10 per cent of their allowance they will be on their way to mastering one of the fundamental concepts of successful financial planning. This is also a good time for children to make spending mistakes.

The amounts are small, the consequences are minor and with any luck, they will learn from the experience.

A frequent source of difference between experts, parents and, of course, children is the tying of an allowance to chores. Chores should be something that everyone in the family does freely. It is unlikely that dad will be punished financially if he does not do the dishes. If the child does not take the garbage out, however, they stand to have their allowance reduced as a “teaching” point. Children are quick to recognize a double standard and may decide that the

small reduction in their allowance is worth it to avoid the chore. An allowance is a tool to teach money skills, not ensure children complete their chores. A better approach would be offering to pay an extra amount for chores over and above the normal requirements. An example might be washing the car. What a great way to encourage initiative and motivation.

When a child starts to receive an allowance, it is an opportune time to introduce the notion of a bank account. Most, if not all, Canadian financial institutions offer a children’s savings account. These accounts are usually no fee, pay interest and may offer debit card access. The rules and interest rates vary from institution to institution so you need to check around. They can deposit their 10 per cent and over time watch interest accrue, thereby introducing the idea of interest and earning a return. Again, a rule needs to be set on what constitutes a valid reason to withdraw funds from the account.

Another learning occasion is introduced if the account offers debit card use. Canadians are the world’s largest users of debit cards, and learning the do’s and don’ts of their use is essential.

Another great teaching opportunity is shopping with your kids. “Take my kids shopping! Are you crazy?� It may sound crazy, but surprisingly, even though we all shop, a large number of Canadians do not have good shopping skills. Having your children help with grocery shopping will introduce important concepts such as meal planning, making a grocery list, looking for bargains and dealing with conflicting wants. Like handling money, effective shopping is a life skill that they will always use.

As you move through the aisles, you can discuss price comparisons, expiry dates, healthy vs. unhealthy eating, and nutritional value. Take a calculator and compare items against each other to see how the grocery bill is affected.

Children learn early and quickly. The ideal time to start them on the road to good financial literacy is as soon as they are able to understand basic concepts. An allowance is fundamental in setting them on the road to a happy financial future. Tie in a bank account and shopping and you will have done them a favour they will never forget.

Keith Guinchard is a former financial planner and non-profit debt counsellor who maintains a keen interest in financial issues and their effect on families. He can be reached at keith@keithguinchard.com.

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Health & Wellness CHIROPRACTORS Dr. Ellen Laine, Chiropractor 202-1770 Fort St . . . . . 250-595-3989

DENTISTS Oak Bay Dental Clinic 2015 Oak Bay Ave . . . . 250-592-3013 Pediatric Dental Associates 2820 Jacklin Rd . . . . . . 250-478-5580 Brentwood Bay . . . . . . 250-652-0008 Saanich Dental Group 119-1591 McKenzie Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-477-7321

HEALTH CLINICS Admirals Walk Health Centre 105–1505 Admirals . . . 250-380-9002 Millstream Medical Clinic 107–2349 Millstream Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-7554 St. Anthony’s Medical Centre 582 Goldstream Ave . . 250-478-6242 Tillicum Mall Medical Clinic 14–3170 Tillicum Rd . . 250-381-8112

NATUROPATHS Dr. Anke Zimmermann 304-2250 Oak Bay Ave 250-590-5828 Hawthorne Naturopathic Centre 1726 Richmond Ave . . 250-598-3314 Vancouver Island Naturopathic Clinic Inc., 204-4480 West Saanich Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-881-1806

OPTOMETRISTS BC Association of Optometrists . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . absee.ca Cadboro Bay Optometry Clinic 3830 Cadboro Bay Rd . 250-360-2229 Eye Etiquette Optical Boutique eyeetiquetteoptical.ca . 250-474-1941 Eitutis & Associates Optometric Centre, 201-3750 Shelbourne St . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-477-7771 Family Eyecare Centre 749 Yates St . . . . . . . . 250-383-2411

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Mayfair Optometric 3196 Douglas St . . . . . 250-361-4444

YOGA Bikram HOT Yoga 1620 Garnet Rd . . . . . . 250-590-3456 Fernwood Yoga Den 1311 Gladstone Ave . . 250-590-4664 Iron Butterfly Pilates/Yoga & PrePost-Natal Studio ironbutterflypilates.ca . 250-920-8005 Iyengar Yoga 202–919 Fort St . . . . . . 250-386-9642 Moksha Yoga . . . . . . 250-385-YOGA Mothering Touch Centre & Birth Services, 975 Fort St . 250-595-4905

PHARMACIES Cadboro Bay Peoples Compounding Parmacy . . victoriapharmacy.com 3825 Cadboro Bay Rd . 250-477-2131 Fairfield Peoples Compounding Drug Mart . . . . victoriapharmacy.com 15-1594 Fairfield Rd . . 250-598-9232 Fairfield Peoples Compounding Pharmacy . . . . victoriapharmacy.com 1282 Fairfield Rd . . . . . 250-595-5997 Forbes Pharmacy 111-755 Goldstream Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-7300 105-2349 Millstream Rd250-478-1600 Shelbourne Plaza Peoples Compounding Pharmacy . . . . . . . . . . . . victoriapharmacy.com 3643 Shelbourne St . . . 250-577-1881 UVic Campus Pharmacy UVic SUB . . . . . victoriapharmacy.com 3800 Finnerty Rd . . . . . 250-721-3400

ALTERNATIVE HEALTH CEDRIC Centre cedriccentre.com . . . . 250-383-0797 Elements of Health Centre #206-1581 Hillside Ave 250-383-2626 Victoria Headache Clinic 774 Spruce Ave . . . . . . 250-382-6663

OTHER Anaphylaxis Canada . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . pactvictoria.com Base Lounge Fitness Studio . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . baselounge.ca 1303 Broad St . . . . . . . 250-590-1816 Life Force Systems Boot Camps . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-380-6947

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Legal & Financial Services CREDIT COUNSELLING Credit Counselling Society nomoredebts.org . . . . 1-888-527-8999

LAWYERS Collaborative Family Law Group . . . . collaborativefamilylawgroup.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-704-2600 Legal Aid Legal Services Society 200–747 Fort St . . . . . . 250-360-4516 MConnan Bion O’Connor & Peterson mcbop.com . . . . . . . . . 250-385-1383 Scott-Moncrieff & Company 104-9710 Second St, Sidney . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-656-0981 Spier & Company Law 208-852 Fort St . . . . . . 250-590-1539 Windsor Law Group . . 250-385-6004

South Island Dispute Resolution Centre . . . . . . disputeresolution.bc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-383-4412 TS Consulting . . . . . . . 250-590-4114

NOTARIES Notaries on Douglas 201-2610 Douglas St . . 250-382-8880 The Shipley Group 1551 Pandora Ave . . . . 250-592-4342

FINANCIAL PLANNERS Hatch & Muir, Certified Financial Planner . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-953-8552

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Stephen Whipp, Certified Financial Planner, 200-2826 Bryn Maur Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-405-3550

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kale and beans, simmer for another 5–7 minutes, or until kale is tender and beans are hot. Serve hot. Offer grated Parmesan cheese to sprinkle over.

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ife is fast. With children and families, we have to be just a tiny bit faster, to keep ahead of the inexorable steamroller of daily activities. Some weeks, Monday morning blends into Friday night, which offers a quick sip of air before the wild weekend engulfs us. This is what it is: when one is living the life that one has elected to live, and is surrounded by the people one loves, then all that can be done in the craziest times is to take a deep breath, hold hands, and plunge in together.

However, something gets lost if we don’t allow ourselves to be in the moments that make up our lives. Sometimes, being translates directly into doing because that’s what is demanded.

We need to remember the moments, and remember to allow ourselves, and our families, time to live fully in them, instead of diving right away into the next ones.

These moments make up our lives and our memories. Take some time back with these easy, prepare-ahead recipe suggestions!

Pizza Soup

Autumn Minestrone 2 Tbsp vegetable oil 1 cup finely chopped onions 2 garlic cloves, minced 21⁄2 cups peeled, cubed winter squash 2 celery stalks, diced 1 cup diced carrots 21⁄2 cups cubed potatoes (if organically grown, leave peel on) 1 tsp dried oregano 1 tsp cumin 1 Tbsp fresh ginger, grated 2 tsp salt black pepper 6 cups vegetable stock 4 cups chopped kale (or spinach or chard) 11⁄2 cups cooked or canned cannellini beans Heat large saucepan over medium heat.

Add oil. When heated, stir in onions and garlic and sauté for 5 minutes. Add ginger and cumin, stir to combine with other ingredients, then add remainder of ingredients (except for kale and beans). Cook for 10–15 minutes (or until vegetables are tender). Add

1 Tbsp vegetable oil 1 onion, diced 1 stalk celery, diced 2 cloves garlic, minced 2 cups button mushrooms, thinly sliced 1 cup diced pepperoni (or ham if desired) 1 tsp dried oregano 1⁄4 tsp each salt and pepper 1⁄2 green pepper, chopped 1 x 796 ml can diced tomatoes 2 cubes frozen spinach 2 cups chicken or vegetable stock 1⁄4 cup tomato paste In large saucepan, heat oil over mediumhigh heat. Sauté onion, celery, garlic, mushrooms, pepperoni, oregano, salt and pepper until liquid is evaporated (about 6 minutes). Add green pepper, tomatoes, spinach, stock and tomato paste. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat, cover and simmer until flavours are blended (about 10 minutes).

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Cheese Tortellini Soup with Sausage & Kale 2 Tbsp vegetable oil 12 ounces kielbasa sausage, thinly sliced 1 onion, finely chopped 4 garlic cloves, minced 1 cup chopped celery 11⁄2 Tbsp fresh thyme (or 1–2 tsp dried) 1⁄ 2 tsp dried crushed red pepper flakes (optional) 10 cups vegetable or chicken stock 4 cups chopped fresh kale (can use spinach instead) 1 can kidney beans, drained and rinsed 1 350 gram package cheese-filled frozen tortellini 1 cup grated Parmesan cheese Heat large saucepan over medium heat.

Add oil, then when that is heated, add sausage, onion, garlic, celery, thyme and pepper flakes. Sauté until vegetables are soft and sausage has browned (about 12 minutes).

Add broth and bring to a boil. Stir in kale and beans, reduce heat to low and simmer until kale is wilted, about 4 minutes.

Brown Sugar Refrigerator Cookies 2 cups brown sugar (sounds like a lot, but consider that it’s part of a large batch.

If desired, substitute 1 cup of the sugar with 1⁄2 cup honey) 1 cup butter 2 eggs, at room temperature 3 tsp vanilla 1 tsp baking soda 1⁄2 tsp salt 1 tsp cinnamon 1 cup rolled oats 21⁄2 cups flour 1 cup walnuts, finely chopped (can use 1⁄2 cup chocolate chips instead) Cream sugar with butter till light and fluffy. Add vanilla and eggs (one at a time), beating well after each addition. Combine flour, soda and salt, then add to creamed mixture. Stir in rolled oats and nuts. Divide dough in half. Roll each half into a log about 2" in diameter; wrap in waxed paper. Refrigerate until firm (overnight). Preheat oven to 350˚F. Cut rolls into 1⁄4" thick slices, set 1" apart on ungreased baking sheets, and bake for 10–12 minutes, or until golden. (The logs can be frozen and pulled out to bake from frozen, for playdates, lunch snacks, or quick dessert!)

Kathy Humphrey lives in Victoria with her husband and two children. She tries to see cooking for a family not as a chore but as a creative outlet.

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Education PRESCHOOLS, CHILD CARE & OCCASIONAL CARE A Growing Place . . . . 250-391-1133 A Secret Garden Preschool 246 Island Hwy . . . . . . 250-380-8293 Almosthome Childcare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-590-7666 Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre 3905 Haro Rd . . . . . . . 250-477-3731 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . arbutusgrove.ca (formerly Goosey Gander Kindergarten). Play-based, creative, active learning programs. Half day and full day preschool.

ArtsCalibre Academy 2121 Cedar Hill X-Rd . . 250-382-3533 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . www.ArtsCalibre.ca “The Art of Preschool”—An engaging, comprehensive program infused with music, dance, theatre and Visual Arts, giving children confidence and the social and academic skills to thrive in Kindergarten and beyond. Excellent staff and outstanding facilities within the Cedar Hill Recreation Centre.

Babies to Big Kids Childcare 949 Fullerton Ave . . . . . 250-590-5540 Daycare owner . . . . . . 250-818-9225 . . . . . . . . . . . . . babiestobigkids.com Licenced group childcare for children 6 months to 12 years old. Three programs offered: Infant toddler program; Three to Five Program; and Before and After School Care program. Open 6:30am-5:30pm. Weekly music and movement classes. Email info@babiestobigkids.com.

Butterfly Corner . . . . . 250-381-4845 Caring Touch Daycare 250-478-4886 Carrot Seed Preschool 813 Claremont Ave . . . 250-652-2311 Castleview Child Care 1075 Joan Cres . . . . . . 250-595-5355 Cedar Daycare . . . . . . 250-479-2032 Centennial Daycare centennialdaycare.ca . 250-386-6832 Child Care Resource & Referral . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . islandfamilyinfo.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ccrr.bc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-382-7000

Christ Church Cathedral Child Care and Junior Kindergarten Program 520 Niagara St . . . . . . . 250-383-5132 . . . . . . . . . . www.cathedralschool.ca We provide an excellent pre-kindergarten program in an outstanding facility for children aged 3 and 4.

Chrysalis Child Care, Saanichton 6633 Oldfield Rd . . . . . 250-652-0815 CIARA Early Childhood Centre 846 Phoenix St . . . . . . 250-386-7369 Cloverdale Child Care 3427 Quadra St . . . . . . 250-995-1766 Cordova Bay Preschool . . . . . . . . . .cordovabaypreschool.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-658-3441 The Cridge Childcare Services 1309 Hillside Ave . . . . . 250-995-6419 Our quality daycare, preschool and out-of-school care programs offer an environment that is safe, stimulating, nurturing and responsive to every child.

Downtown Y Child Care Centre 851 Broughton St . . . . 250-413-8869 Emmanuel Preschool 2121 Cedar Hill X Rd . . 250-598-0573 Goldstream Co-op Preschool . . . . . . . . . . goldstreampreschool.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-474-3011 Gonzales Co-operative Preschool 2928 Eastdowne Rd . . 250-727-1003 In the Garden Childcare Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-654-0306 International Nannies & Homecare Ltd. . . . . . . . internationalnannies.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-412-3730 Island Kids Academy Esquimalt . . . . . . . . . . . 250-381-2929 View Royal . . . . . . . . . . 250-727-2929 Island Montessori House 5575 West Saanich Rd 250-592-4411 Jenn’s Little Bears ECE Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-8999 Kindred Spirits Children’s House . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-590-6966 Lakehill Preschool 3821 Cedar Hill X-Rd . . 250-477-4141 Lakeview Christian Preschool 729 Cordova Bay Rd . . 250-658-5082 Lambrick Park Preschool 4205 Tyndall Ave . . . . . 250-477-8131 Lansdowne Co-op Preschool 1468 Ryan St . . . . . . . . 250-595-5223

La Pre-Maternelle Appletree Preschool 500 Admirals Ave . . . . . 250-479-0292 Lexie’s Little Bears’ Child Care Inc. 1931 Millstream Rd . . . 250-590-3603 Little Friends Childcare 40 High St . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-8423 Little Readers Academy oxfordlearning.com . . . 250-477-5550 Little Wonders Preschool (VROSCS) 218 Helmcken Rd . . . . 250-744-2718 Metchosin Co-op Preschool . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-9241 Miles of Smiles Licensed Childcare 525 Pearkes Rd . . . . . . 250-298-7374 Montessori Educare . 250-881-8666 Music Makers Child Care Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-294-3916 My Little Folk . . . . . . . 250-380-7197 Licensed in home multi-age daycare in a very central location. Caregiver is Montessori and ECE Certified and has a fun and nurturing approach to learning. PT, FT or drop-in is offered for children 1-5 years. 7:30am-5pm. mylittlefolk@shaw.ca.

Neighbourhood Junior Kindergarten 1031 Lucas Ave . . . . . . 250-479-4410 Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten Ltd. 1340 Balmoral Rd . . . . 250-595-7544 Oak and Orca PrePrimary School 2738 Higgins St . . . . . . 250-383-6609 Oak Bay Co-op Preschool . . . . . . . . . . . . oakbaypreschool.com 1701 Elgin St . . . . . . . . 250-592-1922 Oakcrest Preschool 3738 Cedar Hill Rd . . . 250-472-0668 Parkdale Early Childhood Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-382-0512 Playtime Preschool 550 Obed Ave . . . . . . . 250-383-3101 Positive Path Early Learning 2269 Mills Rd, Sidney . 250-655-7244 Exciting & enriching program offering learning opportunities for children 3-5 within a culture of Christian values and virtues. Centrally located near Sidney Elementary & VIR Library. positivepath@shaw.ca Puddles & Paints Playschool . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-658-6573 Rainbow Express Daycare 433 Kingston St . . . . . . 250-382-2314 Ready Set Grow Preschool 4421 Greentree Terr . . . 250-472-1530 Family Resource Guide 2012/2013 19

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Recreation Oak Bay 1975 Bee St . . . . . . . . . 250-370-7200 Rogers Child Care Centre rogerschildcare.com . . 250-744-2643 Ross Bay Preschool 1620 Earle St . . . . . . . . 250-383-7445 Sidney Preschool 2410 Malaview Ave . . . 250-655-3333 Simply Fun Childcare Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-881-3958 Sir James Douglas Preschool . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-389-0500 Sooke Westshore Child Care Resource & Referral 105–2145 Townsend Rd250-642-5152 St. Andrew’s Catholic Preschool . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-382-3815 St. Joseph’s Catholic Preschool 757 Burnside Rd West . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-1232 ext. 120 St. Margaret’s Preschool & Junior Kindergarten . . . . . . . 250-479-7171 Strawberry Vale Preschool . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-4213 Tumble Camp Occasional Care . . . . . . . . . . tumblebumsolutions.com Drop off your children at Tumble Camp while you take some time for yourself. Tumble Camp is a licensed program that includes enriched activities and crafts for pre-schoolers. What will you do with your two hours?

Vancouver Island Co-operative Preschool Association . . . 598-2667 Victoria & Southern Gulf Islands Child Care Resource & Referral 2001A Douglas St . . . . 250-382-7000 Victoria Montessori 750 Front St . . . . . . . . . 250-380-0534 View Royal Preschool 279 Island Hwy . . . . . . 250-479-8067

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ArtsCalibre Academy 2121 Cedar Hill Cross Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-382-3533 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . www.ArtsCalibre.ca Imagine a school where music, dance, theatre and Visual Arts are infused into all aspects of an outstanding curriculum. Academic excellence is achieved in a dynmaic, engaging and safe environment. Small class sizes, individualized educational plans, highly skilled and dedicated teachers, excellent facilities, central location.

Christ Church Cathedral School 912 Vancouver St . . . . 250-383-5125 . . . . . . . . . . www.cathedralschool.ca CCCS is Victoria’s Anglican Elementary and Middle School for boys and girls. Small classes, enriched programs, after-school care and a welcoming community.

Discovery School 4052 Wilkinson Rd . . . . 250-595-7765 Eaton Arrowsmith School 200-3200 Shelbourne St . . . . . . . eatonarrowsmithschool.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-370-0046 The only school on Vancouver Island focusing on the potential of children with learning disabilities to improve cognitive functioning and benefit from the brain’s ability to change itself.

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Elizabeth Buckley School STEAMschool.ca . . . . . 250-995-6425 Glenlyon-Norfolk School 801 Bank St (Admissions) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-370-6801 801 Bank St (Middle Years) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-370-6803 801 Bank St (Senior) . . 250-370-6802 1701 Beach Dr (Primary) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-370-6854 Lakeview Christian School 729 Cordova Bay Rd . . 250-658-5082 Lighthouse Christian Academy 1289 Parkdale Dr . . . . . 250-474-5311 Maria Montessori Academy 1841 Fairburn Dr . . . . . 250-479-4746 Oak & Orca Bioregional School 2738 Higgins St . . . . . . 250-383-6609 Pacific Christian School 671 Agnes St (Elementary) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-9365 654 Agnes St (Secondary) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-4532

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Salt Spring Centre School 355B Blackburn Rd . . . 250-537-9130 Selkirk Montessori School 2970 Jutland Rd . . . . . 250-384-3414 South Park Family School 508 Douglas St . . . . . . 250-382-5234 St. Andrew’s Regional High School 880 McKenzie Ave . . . . 250-479-1414 St. Andrew’s Elementary School 1002 Pandora St . . . . . 250-382-3815 St. Christopher’s Montessori School 2619 Currie Rd . . . . . . 250-595-3213 St. Joseph’s Catholic School 757 West Burnside Rd . 250-479-1232 St. Margaret’s School 1080 Lucas Ave . . . . . . 250-479-7171 St. Michaels University School 3400 Richmond Rd . . . 250-592-2411 Jr. School 820 Victoria . 250-598-3922 To learn, to lead, to serve; discovering the promise in our selves and the world.

St. Patrick’s Elementary School 2368 Trent St . . . . . . . . 250-592-6713 Victoria School for Ideal Education 2820 Belmont Ave . . . . 250-383-6654 West-Mont School 4075 Metchosin Rd . . . 250-474-2626 Westshore Centre for Learning & Training westshorecentre.com . 250-391-9002

DISTRIBUTED LEARNING E-Bus . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-567-1236 Hands-On Home-Learning for a Sustainable World 2738 Higgins St . . . . . . 250-383-6619 Individual Learning Centre Broadmead . . . . . . . . . 250-744-1174 Saanichton . . . . . . . . . 250-656-4042 Juan de Fuca Distributed Learning 814 Goldstream Ave . . 250-391-9002 North Island Distance Education, Courtenay nides.bc.ca . . . . . . . . 1-800-663-7925 SelfDesign . . . . . . . . . selfdesign.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-877-353-3374 SIDES Distributed Learning sides.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-704-4979

LEARNING CENTRES & TUTORS Dyslexia Victoria Online . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . dyslexiavictoria.ca . . . . . 250-815-0950 or 250-715-3034 Karen Murdoch, Therapeutic Tutor . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 778-430-3183 KUMON Math & Reading 214-3965 Quadra St . . 250-479-1800 103-721 Station Rd . . . 250-474-4175 10091 Resthaven Dr . . 250-656-6696 Learning Disabilities Association 1524 Fort St . . . . . . . . . 250-370-9513 Mosaic Learning Society 500 Admirals Rd . . . . . 250-590-2746 Oxford Learning 203–1595 McKenzie Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-477-5550 READ Learning Centre 201-990 Hillside Ave . . 250-388-7225 READ’s qualified teachers design individual remedial programs that build skills and create confident, capable learners. For over 35 years, families have been expanding their knowledge and their opportunities by learning with us.

School Is Easy In Home Tutoring schooliseasy.com . . . 1-877-ITSEASY We are a group of carefully selected certified teachers who assist students in the comfort of their home in Greater Victoria, Saanich and Sooke. We help students in all subjects: Grades 1-12, ESL (all levels), Special Ed, Study Skills, Gifted programs and French immersion. Rated A+ with BBB. Smart Tutor Referrals . . . . . . . . . . SmartTutorReferrals.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-544-1588 Sylvan Learning Centre 1623 McKenzie Ave . . . 250-477-3212 3145 Jacklin Rd . . . . . . 250-590-6211 Digital tablet technology, innovative teaching techniques, motiviational programs and the Sylvan Skills Assessment, continue to make Sylvan the leader in supplemental education from K-12. Call today to find out more.

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Camosun College camosun.ca . . . . . . . . . 250-370-3550 Canadian College of Performing Arts 1701 Elgin St . . . . . . . . 250-595-9970 Capernwray Harbour Bible School & Conference Centre, Thetis Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . capernwray.ca Open Learning Agency . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-663-1663 Royal Roads University royalroads.ca . . . . . . . . 250-391-2511 Sprott-Shaw Community College 2621 Douglas St . . . . . 250-384-8121 Stewart College of Languages stewartcollege.com . . . 250-388-7774 University of Victoria uvic.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-721-7211 Vancouver Island School of Art 2549 Quadra St . . . . . . 250-380-3500

OTHER Alliance française de Victoria . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-661-6942 or . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-477-5508 Connecting Cultures . . . healthandsocialdevelopment.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-920-0373 Drivewise Driving Schools . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-475-0666 Mad Science . . . .madscience.org/vancouverisland . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-1814 Open School BC . openschool.bc.ca Saferway Driver’s Education 905B Esquimalt Rd . . . 250-385-8212 Scouts Canada scouts.ca . . . . . . . . . . 1-888-726-8876 Scouting offers a world where you can discover the best in yourself and in others. Scouts runs all year around, and offers adventures that youth will remember for a lifetime.

Victoria German School . . . . . . . . . . victoriagermanschool.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-886-1420

SCHOLARSHIP & EDUCATION FUNDS Children’s Education Fund Inc. cefi.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-246-1203

Time to Learn Learning opportunities in the everyday

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ixty-two per cent of Canadian parents say they don’t have as much time as they would like to spend helping their child learn, according to an Ispos Reid study on the learning habits of Canadian families.

Despite the belief and desire to nurture a learning environment at home, with six in 10 Canadian parents indicating that the primary place for a child to learn is in the home, parents are overlooking inherent learning moments in their daily activities, with just three in 10 using daily tasks as key learning opportunities.

“While it’s encouraging to see that three in 10 Canadian parents always use grocery shopping, traveling or participation in sport as a learning opportunity, there are still 70 per cent of parents who are missing out on embracing these moments,” says Margaret Eaton, president of ABC Life Literacy Canada. “It’s easy to use day-to-day tasks as a way to teach children. When traveling in the car, play word-association games with the letters on license plates, or when

Regionally, parents in Quebec and Atlantic Canada spend the most time writing stories with their children, with 22 per cent writing together daily or weekly. Parents in B.C. visit libraries the most, with 49 per cent going at least once a month. The majority of parents in Atlantic Canada, Saskatchewan and Manitoba visit the library less than once a month. When it comes to using a computer as a family, 34 per cent of Atlantic parents do it daily, but that number dips to 20 per cent in Alberta and just 14 per cent in Quebec.

“Seventy per cent of Canadian parents agree that they are their child’s best teacher,” says Sean Simpson, associate vice president of Ipsos Reid. “This data shows us that there are many more opportunities they could use to be a non-conventional teacher to their kids.”

With Family Literacy Day taking place in January, parents have the perfect opportunity to start embracing learning opportunities happening in their daily lives. Families can download the Journey to Learning Passport and see how easy and fun it is to share these moments and start learning together.

grocery shopping, try to add up the total before the cashier tells you. Learning can happen anywhere.”

When it comes to paying bills, for example, over half of Canadian parents surveyed rarely (27 per cent) or never (28 per cent) use it as an opportunity to teach their children key financial literacy skills.

Colours, matching and measurement can be taught while doing the laundry, yet only 19 per cent of parents use it as such.

Looking at more traditional literacy activities, the study showed that: • Writing stories is an activity that is almost never done as a family, with 68 per cent of parents taking part in that activity less than once a month.

• 81 per cent of parents visit a library less often than once a month or just once a month.

• Digital literacy is still not fully embraced as a family activity, with only 22 per cent of parents using a computer daily with their children.

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Unintentional Teaching A Grandfather’s Perspective

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ou can tell a lot about what parents are teaching their children by watching them during those moments when they don’t think they’re teaching the little darlings a darned thing. Take it from an old grandfather, no matter what advice you’ve read or heard, the ultimate key to parenting is to realize that your little ones are learning stuff at the most inconvenient times.

Take for example the mother I saw at the grocery store last week. She had a toddler in her shopping cart and a little girl of about five years of age struggling to keep up as mom trundled along the grocery aisle. The little girl was talking a blue streak, pointing out items on the shelf and making suggestions for what they should buy. Even the toddler was trying to make her wishes known, pointing and shouting (more of a screech, really) and generally trying to engage.

Mom was oblivious. She had a cell phone glued to her ear and was discussing what someone had said about someone else and

making statements like “OMG! Can you believe that?” I know this because mom seemed inclined to speak at a rather high volume. It was as though she was talking, not into a smart phone, but rather a tin can on a string.

Now, I suspect that, had that mother received the same call while engaged in a business meeting or a luncheon with a friend she wouldn’t have ignored her company to take this call (at least I hope not). Still, she did it to her children.

She might also have lowered her voice and kept the conversation somewhat personal. She didn’t when her children were her audience.

And what did she teach them in the process?

Well, I’m not sure but I would guess that the lessons included the position that children are not as important as an inane phone call from a friend, and that it’s OK to ignore others if you feel like it. I wonder if the mother in question will ever have occasion to berate

her children for not listening to something they’re being told because they’ve set their attention elsewhere.

On the same visit to the grocer I saw a mom and dad with their son. I’m guessing that the boy was about 10 years old. They were in the housewares aisle when mom noticed that dad had, at some point, put a large plastic clamshell of sushi in the cart.

“Oh honey, we don’t need this. It’s way too expensive!” said mom.

Dad shrugged and took the very perishable item from the cart and placed it neatly on the shelf where he was standing. Unfortunately the shelf happened to be one assigned to laundry detergent and was definitely not refrigerated.

His son watched the episode without saying a thing.

Now, you might hope that the boy learned about being frugal when shopping and not buying things you don’t need. Maybe he did; but I suggest that he learned a few other things as well. For one, he learned that you don’t have to put things back where they belong, even if the item needs refrigeration. He learned that it was perfectly acceptable to drop items in a store wherever you might be standing and that consideration for whoever will have to pick up that item later isn’t important.

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This was a teachable moment, folks. Dad could just as easily have taken junior with him to return the item to the refrigerated area where he’d picked it up. He could have explained the concept of being responsible and considerate. He didn’t.

I hope he thinks about that the next time his son leaves the chocolate milk carton sitting on the family room coffee table.

Incidentally, I’m not immune to making this kind of modeling mistake myself. I had my three-year-old granddaughter in the back of my vehicle a while back. We were caught in traffic and had been for a while. Suddenly, from the car seat in the back, my little princess expressed her frustration. “For crying out loud, folks! Get out of my way!” she cried.

OK, the timbre of the voice was wrong, but the words were mine. I recognized the phrase and the frustration in the tone. I couldn’t remember saying the words with her in the car, but I must have done so at some point—and she remembered not only the words but the context and the emotion.

Princess is three years old, remember.

Sheesh.

This whole concept was driven home yesterday when I made a call to a friend back east. He’s a man who, years ago, I’d met as part of a prison visitation program with which I was volunteering. He’s spent much of his adult life in and out of prison but he’s out now, working and living an honest and productive life. He has three little children under 11 years of age and an older daughter from a previous marriage.

When I asked him about being a dad again, he got very serious.

“I’m totally straight and responsible now,” he told me. “There’s no drinking and no drugs and no stuff that makes me ashamed to be their dad. I try to remember that everything I do with them teaches them something. I did a lot of that wrong before but I’m making up for it now. I just try to make most of the lessons good ones.”

Soon after, he excused himself. His son had come in and asked his dad to throw a football. My friend decided that doing so was more important than our call.

He was right.

Maybe he could run a seminar for a couple of the folks in the grocery store.

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Tim Collins lives in Victoria, B.C., and writes on a variety of topics. In 2012 Tim won the Ma Murray award for editorial journalism.

He divides his time between his work and helping to raise an amazing three-year-old granddaughter.

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South Island

Classes & Programs

Guided Nature Hikes, Walks, Canoeing,

ART PROGRAMS

Drop-In Events

4Cats Arts Academy 2296 Cadboro Bay Rd . 250-598-0300 2285 Bellamy Rd . . . . . 778-430-5422 4500 W. Saanich . . . . . 250-590-7233

Most are free, all are fun!

Art Corner . . . . . . . www.artcorner.ca Art Gallery of Greater Victoria— Children’s Studio 1040 Moss St . . . . . . . 250-384-4171 Art School Victoria 600 Richmond Ave . . . 250-383-5429

Nature Outings & Events That Pique Your Natural Curiosity For Nature Lovers of All Ages, For Every Season

Artistic Statement 110-1841 Oak Bay Ave 250-383-0566 At Artistic Statement of Fine Art, emphasis is placed on technique with classes in drawing, painting, sculpture, cartooning and portfolio preparation for College or University entrance.

Fiddlesticks Studio of Fine Arts for Young Children fiddlestickschild.ca . . . 250-858-7034 Classes combine music, art, movement and play to provide a balanced and joyful learning experience for young children. Classes for children 2-8 years of age. Celebrating your child’s creativity!

Fired Up Ceramics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . firedupceramics.ca The Paint Box School of Art 1284 D1 Gladstone Ave 250-590-7571

There is a whole world of natural and cultural history to explore at our nature centres at Witty’s Lagoon, Francis/King and Elk/Beaver Lake Regional Parks.

See the calendar of activities at crd.bc.ca/parks Capital Regional District | Regional Parks crdparks@crd.bc.ca 250.478.3344

Wild Arts . . . . . . . . . . . 250-544-4057

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CLUBS & ACTIVITIES Boys & Girls Club Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . www.bgcvic.org 1240 Yates St . . . . . . . 250-384-9133 7162 West Saanich Rd 250-652-3021 410 Macaulay St . . . . . 250-380-9250 830 Pembroke St . . . . . 250-370-5909 626 Hoylake Ave . . . . . 250-478-0721

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Girl Guides of Canada 938 Mason St . . . . . . . 250-383-1712 Navy League Cadets navyleague.ca . . . . . . . 250-565-3344.

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Royal Canadian Air Cadets . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89pacific.ca

Boys & Girls Club . . . . 250-384-9133

Scouts Canada . . . . . 250-888-1806

Canadian Forces Sailing cfsa.wordpress.com . . 250-385-8873

Byte Camp . . . . . . . . . 250-661-3358

Young Actor’s Conservatory. Film & TV training for children, teens and adults.

Est. 1980. www.screenactors.ca; email screenact@shaw.ca.

FUN Camps, Eco-Superheros . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .funsociety.ca

StageCoach Langford 250-743-0858 . . . . . stagecoachschools.ca/langford Sing, dance and act now! Performing arts classes for 4- to 16-year-olds on weekends. Safe, non-competitive environment, building young people’s confidence through singing, acting and dance classes.

Broadstreet Dance . . 250-519-0555

Hands On Summer Camp . . . . . . . HandsOnSummerCamp.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-995-6425

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Cabri Creative Dance… and Art Too . . . . . . . . . . CabriCreativeDance.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-360-2667

Kids Klub Centre . . . . 250-881-1223 Christ Church Cathedral School 912 Vancouver St . . . . 250-383-5125

Centrepoint Dance School 1468 Ryan St . . . . . . . . 250-592-4260

Passion Sports passionsports.ca . . . . . 250-208-2822

Dance Unlimited danceunlimited.ca . . . . 250-361-3267

Pedalheads 2827 Belmont Ave . . . 1-888-886-6464

dansko Studios Inc. est. 1993 4814 W. Saanich Rd . . 250-475-6606

Science Venture . . . . . 250-721-8661

DANCE SCHOOLS Arabesque Dance Studio dancearabesque.ca. . . 250-595-3107 Arthur Murray Dance School 206-2504 Government St . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-220-8426 Boston Dance Collective 110-2750 Quadra St . . 250-658-1818

Lighthouse Academy of Dance . . . . lighthouseacademyofdance.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-595-8705 MoonDance Dynamic Arts School MoonDanceArts.ca . . . 250-743-5846 O’Brien School of Irish Dance 1234 Esquimalt Rd . . . 250-598-4778 Pacific Dance Centre 5182 Cordova Bay Rd . 250-477-6114 Stages Performing Arts School 301 - 1551 Cedar Hill X Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-384-3267 Veselka Ukrainian Dancers 3277 Douglas St . . . . . 250-475-1174 Victoria Academy of Ballet 643 Broughton St . . . . 250-590-6752 Victoria School of Contemporary Dance . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-383-7183 Westcoast Academy of Performing Arts 1359 McKenzie Ave . . . 250-415-1477 Whitespace Dance . . . . . . . . . . . . whitespacedance.com

DAY PROGRAMS (See also “Recreation Centres”)

Crafty School of Art & Design 2440 Richmond Rd . . . 250-592-5075 Glenlyon-Norfolk Marine Adventure Program . . . . . . . . . . . 250-370-6852

SMUS Education Extension Holiday Programs . . . . . . . . . . 250-370-6120 . . . . . . . smus.ca/programs/extension Open to all children in Victoria ages 5-18. Summer, winter and Spring Break holiday camps, academic preparation, driver training, music academies and more.

Soccertron . . . . . . . . . 250-475-3777 Victoria Academy of Ballet 643 Broughton St . . . . 250-590-6752 YM/YWCA 880 Courtney St . . . . . 250-475-3777

DRAMA PROGRAMS Four Seasons Musical Theatre . . . FourSeasonsMusicalTheatre.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-0329 Kaleidoscope Theatre 3130 Jutland Rd . . . . . 250-383-8124 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .kaleidoscope.bc.ca Vancouver Island’s premiere professional theatre training for youth. Offering year-round professional theatre classes, camps and workshops for all ages.

Kate Rubin Theatre & Drama Studio katerubintheatre.com . 250-386-8593

Badminton Victoria . . 250-881-1881

Saltwater Youth Education 2750 Quadra St . . . . . . 250-888-4982

BC SPCA . . . . . . . . . . 250-686-1581 . . . . . . . . . . . . www.spca.bc.ca/youth

Screen Actor’s Studio 845 Fisgard St . . . . . . . 250-595-1339

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Falcon Gymnastics Centre 208–721 Vanalman Ave 250-479-6424 * Ongoing registration. * Classes for boys and girls. * Ages 20 months and up. * Beginner through advanced. * Teen and adult drop-in. * The best birthday parties in town. * Newly renovated birthday rooms * www.falcongymnastics.com.

Lion’s Pride Gymnastics 1060 Henry Eng Place . 250-383-3547 Victoria Gymnastics 2051 Store St . . . . . . . . 250-380-2442

LIBRARIES Greater Victoria Public Library Bruce Hutchison Branch 4636 Elk Lk Rd . . . . . . 250-727-0104 Central Library 735 Broughton St . . . . 250-413-0365 Central Saanich Branch 1209 Clarke Rd . . . . . . 250-652-2013 Emily Carr Branch 3500 Blanshard St . . . . 250-475-6100 Esquimalt Branch 1231 Esquimalt Rd . . . 250-414-7198 Goudy Branch 119-755 Goldstream Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-5702 Juan de Fuca 1759 Island Hwy . . . . . 250-391-0653 Nellie McClung 3950 Cedar Hill Rd . . . 250-477-7111 Oak Bay Branch 1442 Monterey Ave . . . 250-592-2489 Saanich Centennial Branch 3110 Tillicum Rd . . . . . 250-477-9030 Vancouver Island Regional Library Sidney-North Saanich Branch 10091 Resthaven Rd . . 250-656-0944 Sooke Branch 2065 Anna Marie Rd . . 250-642-3022

MUSIC Amati String Studio . . 250-590-0126

Notary Services The Shipley Group

BC Registered Music Teachers Association . . . . . . . . 250-370-2551

Providing Quality Legal Services to Victoria Families for Over 15 Years

Blue Octopus Violin blueoctopus.ca . . . . . . 250-858-1787 Fiddlesticks Studio of Fine Arts for Young Children fiddlestickschild.ca . . . 250-858-7034 Classes combine music, art, movement and play to provide a balanced and joyful learning experience for young children. Classes for children 2-8 years of age. Celebrating your child’s creativity!

Greater Victoria Youth Orchestra gvyo.org . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-360-1121

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Guitar in Motion . . . . . 250-217-2316 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .guitarinmotion.com

Suite 204–4480 West Saanich Rd Royal Oak Plaza 250-881-1806

Harmonious Family Singers & Choir . . . . . . . . . . harmoniousfamilychoir.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-SING (7464)

www.islandnaturopathic.com Fertility & Prenatal Care

Larsen Music larsenmusic.ca . . . . . . 250-389-1988

Naturopathic Infertility & Prenatal Care Acupuncture for Fertility & Pregnancy Clinical Counselling for Postpartum & Infertility Doula Services and Naturopathic Labor & Delivery Integrated Treatment for Postpartum Depression Breastfeeding Support & Counselling Prenatal & Postnatal Massage Therapy C-section Scar Therapy

Music Together . . . . . 250-217-2477 . . . . . . . . . musictogethervictoria.com Musicalia 165 Cook St . . . . . . . . . 250-595-1040 Oak Bay Piano Studio 250-380-1702 Rock & Go Guitar . . . . . . . .rockandgoguitarschool.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-634-2959 Teach Musicians Piano Studio . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-588-1849 Tom Lee Music #105-2401D Millstream Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-838-5222 Victoria Children’s Choir . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-721-0856 Victoria Conservatory of Music 907 Pandora Ave . . . . . 250-386-5311

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Viva Youth Choirs 3703 St. Aidan’s St . . . 250-472-2655

RECREATION CENTRES Archie Browning Sports Centre 1151 Esquimalt Rd . . . 250-414-7103 Cedar Hill Recreation Centre 3220 Cedar Hill Rd . . . 250-475-4121 City Centre Park citycentrepark.ca . . . . . 250-391-1738

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Crystal Pool & Fitness Centre 2275 Quadra St . . . . . . 250-361-0732 . . . . . . . . . . . . victoria.ca/recservices.

Swimming lessons for all ages and abilities; 50m pool with waterslide, two kids’ pools and sauna/steam rooms; full fitness facilities and wellness programs.

Esquimalt Parks & Recreation 527 Fraser St . . . . . . . . 250-414-8500 Gordon Head Recreation Centre 4100 Lambrick Way . . . 250-475-7100 Henderson Centre 2291 Cedar Hill X Rd . . 250-370-7200 Panorama Recreation Centre 1885 Forest Park Dr . . 250-656-7271 Pearkes Recreation Centre 3100 Tillicum Rd . . . . . 250-475-5400 Recreation Oak Bay recreation.oakbay.ca . . 250-595-7946 Saanich Commonwealth Place 4636 Elk Lake Dr . . . . . 250-475-7600 Salt Spring Island Recreation 145 Vesuvius Bay Rd . . 250-537-4448 Save On Foods Memorial Centre 1925 Blanshard St . . . . 250-361-0732 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . victoria.ca/arena Passport to skating lesson programs for all ages and abilities; special events and theme skates; youth and sports programs; rental opportunities for ice/dry floor/meeting rooms.

SEAPARC Leisure Complex, Sooke 2168 Phillips Rd . . . . . . 250-642-8000 West Shore Parks & Recreation westshorerecreation.ca 250-478-8384 Juan de Fuca Recreation Centre and Centennial Centre offer a variety of programs for Preschoolers, school age and teens, plus drop-in swimming, skating, child minding & more.

RIDING Forward Equestrian & Wellness Centre 6309 Old East Rd . . . . 250-588-2583 Harrison School of Horsemanship 1570 Wain Rd . . . . . . . 250-544-0737 Westside Stables 6404 Central Saanich . 250-652-1462

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SCIENCE/NATURE

Pacific Coast Swimming . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-727-9243

BC SPC spca.bc.ca/kids . . . . . . 250-686-1581

PacificSport Synchro 250-881-1471

CRD Parks Programs 250-478-3344 Gorge Waterway Nature House Gorge Park . . . . . . . . . 250-380-7585 Greater Victoria Compost Education Centre . . . . . . . . . compost.bc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-386-9676 Offers a variety of programs for children and youth from ages 3-30, including after-school programs, spring and summer camps, home learners program, in-class workshops, birthday parties and much more.

Mad Science . . . .madscience.org/vancouverisland . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-1814 Swan Lake Christmas Hill Nature Sanctuary 3837 Swan Lake Rd . . 250-479-0211

SPORTS PROGRAMS Boardworks Diving 4636 Elk Lake Dr . . . . . 250-479-0330 Gorge Rowing and Paddling Centre 105-2940 Jutland Rd . . 250-380-4669 Greater Victoria Junior Field Hockey 3670 Kathleen St . . . . . 250-384-5499 Hampton Little League Hampton Park . . . . . . . 250-385-0022 Highland Pacific Golf 450 Creed Rd . . . . . . . 250-478-4653 Island Swimming . . . . 250-479-3909 Lakehill Soccer Association . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . lakehillsoccer.com Ages 4-18, co-ed, year round soccer Oak Bay Figure Skating Club . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-396-4007 Olympic View Golf 643 Latoria Rd . . . . . . . 250-474-3673 Operation Trackshoes 3100 Foul Bay Rd . . . . 250-721-2233 Pacific Institute for Sport Excellence piseworld.com . . . . . . . 250-220-2510

Passion Sports passionsports.ca . . . . . 250-590-8114 Peninsula Figure Skating Club pfsc.homestead.com . . 250-652-0663 Piranhas Swim Club . . . . . . . . . . . . . . sidneypiranhas.com Racquet Club of Victoria Skating Club . . . . . . racquetclubofvictoria.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-704-0160 Royal Victoria Yacht Club . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-592-6113 Saanich Skating Club 250-479-1094 or . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-595-1077 Sportball sportball.ca . . . . . . . . . 250-893-1476 Non-competitive sports instruction for kids 16 months to 10 years old.

Velox Rugby . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . langfordrugby.com Victoria Junior Field Hockey . . . . . . . . victoriajuniorfieldhockey.ca Victoria Minor Hockey Association . . . . . . . . . . . . victoriaminorhockey.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-592-5841 Victoria Track and Field . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-744-2982 Victoria Volleyball Association . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .vvball.net Victoria Youth Paddling Club vypc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-744-2189 Westshore Motocross Assoc. westshoremx.com . . . . 250-590-8088

OTHER Andrea’s Sew Easy . . 250-592-7879 Story Studio storystudio.ca . . . . . . 250-592-BOOK Victoria German Language School . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-886-1420

Early development is child’s play!

It’s obvious that play time is fun.

What’s not so obvious is how important it is.

Play time in a child’s first six years encourages creative, cognitive, language and motor development, and builds social and emotional skills, including self-confidence. In short, play time is an important step for healthy growth and development and is great preparation for school.

To find out more about children’s early years and how you can encourage their healthy growth and development, please visit

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www.successby6victoria.ca

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Lindsay McCray

A Garden for Grief

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y first pregnancy was straightforward and I was blessed with a happy, healthy baby girl we named Lauren. When Lauren was around 18 months old, my husband and I started trying to conceive our second baby and had quick success. Although I knew the rates of miscarriage before 12 weeks gestation were high, I was too excited to keep the news to myself, so we told a number of family and friends our news. At around eight weeks I started spotting. Terrified, I rushed to the walk-in clinic and was told I was likely miscarrying, but there was no way to tell for sure and nothing they could do to stop it. All the doctor could say was, “Nature has to take its course”…words I still hear echoing to this very day. What happened over the next two days was graphic, physically painful and completely heart wrenching. Sadly, those two days were only the beginning of my grieving process.

It continues today.

Because we had told so many people about our pregnancy, we now had to tell everyone that I had suffered a miscarriage. Family and friends just don’t know how to react to the word “miscarriage” unless they have experienced it themselves. Miscarriage still carries a stigma with it—as if it’s something people shouldn’t talk about openly; as if I had done something wrong that caused me to miscarry. Yet, the more women I spoke to about my experience, the more I realized just how many others had gone through something similar. It was eye opening. I was not alone, far from it.

Fifteen to 20 per cent of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage, according to statistics from Vancouver Island Women’s Clinic. In Victoria, it is conservatively estimated that there are at least 450 miscarriages each year.

Deaths in the second half of a pregnancy are considered stillbirths. In 2010, Vital Statistics reported 457 stillbirths in B.C. At least 50 of those stillbirths occurred in Greater Victoria.

To help support parents grieving the loss of a baby, the Little Spirits Garden at Royal Oak Burial Park in Victoria will be a dedicated place where parents and families can grieve the loss of a baby, and the community at large can remember, share, and openly acknowledge pregnancy and infant loss. This public memorial space—one of 32 www.IslandParent.ca

the first of its kind in North America—will be available to every family, regardless of financial circumstance, and no matter where or when they may have experienced the loss of a baby.

The Board of Cemetery Trustees of Greater Victoria (a not-for-profit organization) has contributed $50,000 to developing the plan for the Little Spirits Garden and dedicated land within the Burial Park for the project. The board has partnered with the Saanich Legacy Foundation to raise the remaining $295,000 needed to complete the project. We are asking members of the community for their financial support to make the garden a reality. We also welcome corporate and foundation support; sponsorship benefits are available for those interested.

For those wishing to make a donation “In Memoriam” of a baby lost, they may do so via the website www.saanichlegacy.ca. As thanks for your donation and in memory of the loss, a cedar remembrance flag with a personalized message will be hung in the garden when it is completed.

The garden, located in a wooded grove at one of the highest points of land in the Burial Park, will include 3,000 small cement “Spirit Houses” which families can decorate, fill with mementos or personalize. There will also be benches that can be dedicated with bronze plaques, a ceremonial pavilion memorial installation, and an ossuary and communal garden for scattering ashes.

As we’ve begun to raise awareness about the project, I have heard stories of loss from across the country. Stories of one miscarriage (as in my case). Stories of miscarriage after miscarriage after miscarriage. Stories of stillbirths and infant loss shortly after birth.

Each story is different in circumstance and grief. Each story is equally heartbreaking.

Moms who never saw the face of their baby, but still had hopes and dreams for that child.

Moms who held their baby as it took both its first and last breath in the space of just a few minutes. Parents who created a birth and death certificate for their child on the same day.

Not only is this loss traumatic at the time it occurs, but the pain lingers for years to come. As Jill Davoren, Maternity Services social worker at Victoria General Hospital says, “It does not matter if parents lost their

baby 50 years or five hours ago, the grief of the loss of a baby before birth is often lifelong, raw, and ever present, lying just below the surface of the parent’s heartbeat.”

All this loss, yet there is currently no support group, no place to mourn, no place to

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seek comfort. Yes, Little Spirits Garden is a physical place, a garden. But to someone who has felt so alone, so lost, it is so much more than just a garden. It is a peaceful place created for the sole purpose of remembering your own little spirit. I will be able to stand in the middle of the garden and look up at all the cedar flags, hung in memory of other infants lost and know that there are others who share my sadness. There are others who have stood where I stand.

Little Spirits Garden can be the place where families connect, a place where there is no stigma to the words “miscarriage,” “still birth” and “infant mortality”—a place where families mourn in peace, where families can give their little spirit a home to rest for all time. To me, Little Spirits Garden will be the place I can take comfort in the fact that I am not alone.

October 15 is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. To commemorate pregnancy and infant loss in our community, a candlelight vigil will be held on Monday, October 15 at 7 p.m. in Sequoia Gardens, 4665 Falaise Drive (next to Royal Oak Burial Park). Everyone welcome.

To contribute to Little Spirits Garden, please visit saanichlegacy.ca or call Stephen Olson at 250-658-5621. To find support from others who have experienced a similar loss, please join the Little Spirits facebook page at www.facebook.com/LittleSpiritsGarden.

Dealing with the Death of a Child

October 19th 2012 Professional Development Opportunity BC Teachers ton Arrowsmith School Victoria presents the followingfor session:

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he death of a child is devastating. No parent feels that he or she should outlive his or is herthe child.

However, every minute and how is it impacting students in BC? Workshop: What Arrowsmith Program around the world, some 15 children die, according to the WorldPrincipal Health Organization. enter: Jason Cruickshank, of Eaton Arrowsmith School Victoria The psychological and emotional impact e: 10am–12pm, bytraumatic a light lunch between 12 and 1pm followingfollowed sudden and death can inhibit parents’ grief and, without appropriate treatment, develop into Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). n more about Eaton Arrowsmith Schools, the only The session is complimentary, and members will receive When Your ools in Vancouver, Victoria and White Rock that, a letter stating their involvement. Participants are Child Dies: Tools for Mending Eaton Arrowsmith Victoria presents the following ugh the Parents’ use of the Arrowsmith Program, focus on welcomeSchool to attend for the morning session. session: Please Hearts What is the Arrowsmith Program and how is it impacting students in BC? parentswith learning disabilities toAM Workshop:RSVP potentialprovides of children

by Tuesday October 9th to 250-370-0046 or Presenter: Jason Cruickshank, Principal of Eaton Arrowsmith School Victoria with the tools efit fromtothe brain’sthe ability to change itself. victoria@eatonarrowsmithschool.com.

Space is limited!

Time: 10am–12pm, followed by a light lunch between 12 and 1pm navigate grieving process Learn more about Eaton Arrowsmith Schools, the only The session is complimentary, and members will receive and deal with schools in Vancouver, Victoria and White Rock that, the intrusion of a letter stating their involvement. Participants are ttendees will receive a copy of director Howard Eaton Arrowsmith School Victoria the media, the through the use of the Arrowsmith Program, focus on welcome to attend for the morning session. Please of children with learning disabilities to St. RSVP by Tuesday October 9th to 250-370-0046 or n’s book,justice Brain system, School, and will be entered into the potential #200-3200 Shelbourne medical system benefit from the brain’s ability to change itself. victoria@eatonarrowsmithschool.com. Space is limited! aw for founder, Barbara Arrowsmith Young’s Victoria, BC and coroners.

The book covers Eaton Arrowsmith School Victoria selling, newly released book, The Woman Who All attendees will receive a copy of director Howard ways to reduce Eaton’s book, Brain School, and will be entered into #200-3200 Shelbourne St. a draw for founder, Barbarais Arrowsmith Young’s BC nged Heranxiety Brain.and depression and promote healthy Parking available in the lotVictoria, adjacent to the school. self-soothing, identify and address issues best selling, newly released book, The Woman Who that linger and cause emotional pain folChanged Her Brain.

Parking is available in the lot adjacent to the school. lowing the child’s death, and incorporate their loss into their lives in healthy ways.

There are suggestions for talking with surwww.eatonarrowsmithschool.com www.eatonarrowsmithschool.com viving children, how to handle the impact on family and social relationships, how to foster a continued loving relationship with the dead child’s memory, as well as a comprehensive list of resources and reading for ongoing support.

Island Parent is looking for articles for upcoming issues. Some of our Authors Avril Nagel and Randie Clark have both experienced the traumatic loss best content comes from people just like you—Vancouver Island parents of a child and write with compassion and who are passionate about their families and are dealing with the day to empathy directly to the reader, parentday issues of raising children in our community. Share your experiences, to-parent, as well as providing insightful your thoughts on a particular issue, your ideas on places to see or projects psychological guidance and support.

Send Us Your Stories!

When Your Child Dies: Tools for Mending Parents’ Broken Hearts is published by New Horizons Press, 2012.

to do—anything related to parenting.

Check our Writer’s Guidelines at www.islandparent.ca for specific information on submissions. We’d love to hear from you. Please email submissions to editor@islandparent.ca.

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o think about getting a divorce because love has died is like selling your car because it’s about to run out of gas.

As a marriage counselor, I witness firsthand the courage of those people who are committed to taking what are often painful steps towards saving their marriage. Conversely, I also see those who have already checked out and want to be able to say, “Yeah, I went to counseling, but it didn’t work.”

So why do so many marriages run out of gas? Consider the following analogy.

Next week I will take my car in for its regular maintenance and a minor repair based on an indicator light that recently appeared. The car is six years old. I expect I will spend around four to five hundred dollars. This is what responsible people do, right? We take care of our things. We want to make sure that everything is operating properly and that our car has been well maintained. We even keep all the records so we know exactly what needs to looked after next.

To be forthright, your marriage will break down if you don’t invest in regular maintenance! Pay attention to your relationship’s indicator lights. Get better at reading the right signs.

Here’s a key question: Why don’t people invest in their most valued relationship?

Why do so many people fail to realize that marriages need maintenance, too?

An easy answer would be that few of us had the luxury of having been raised by extraordinary role models who provided consistent examples of loving, supportive, respectful relationships. As a result, many of us muddle along foolishly expecting success to happen because we married for love, and then when it derails, we’re hurt and bewildered.

Don’t despair. Marriages have service centers, too. You! You’re the gas. Yes, it takes work, commitment, perseverance, and love, but you can salvage your marriage because you already have the basic skill that is required. In fact, you acquired this skill at

an early age and you use it daily. It’s called communication.

It’s important to have a sense of where the minefields are when you communicate with your partner and then know how to navigate through your marriage with clarity, purpose, satisfaction and joy.

Dr. John Gottman’s “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” provide a helpful approach to improving communication between partners.

The first horseman is Criticism. Please don’t confuse criticism with complaining because they are two very different beasts.

While a complaint focuses on a specific behaviour, “I’m disappointed you didn’t tell me earlier that you were too tired to make love,” criticism attacks a person’s character. What could have been a request for a behaviour change now becomes a full condemnation: “Why are you always so nasty? Whenever I want to make love, you always say you’re too tired. You are so selfish!”

See the difference? The reality is that criticism is very common in relationships and, regrettably, it almost always leads to the second horseman: Contempt. Have you been the recipient of sarcasm, cynicism, name-calling, eye rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humour? If so, then you know first-hand what contempt feels like; and, since it communicates disgust from your partner, contempt is the worst of the four horsemen because it has only one outcome: it escalates conflict.

Now the third horseman thunders in; this one is called Defensive. Being human, it’s natural to become aggressive when you are being criticized, it’s natural to want to shift the blame to the partner who is conducting the criticism, and it’s natural to take the stance that “You’re the problem, not me,” but you are both in this marriage and you both need to work on avoiding these spiteful outcomes.

When the first three Horsemen are used in a conversation—first criticism, then contempt, followed by defensiveness—one partner will respond by tuning out the other,

and that invites, you guessed it, the fourth horseman: Stonewalling.

Stonewalling is a natural defense against the feeling of being flooded by a partner’s negativity. In response to the criticism, contempt and defensiveness that has escalated the conversation to a dangerous level, the stonewaller’s reaction is to withhold any signs of responsiveness, kind of like being in a state of shell-shock. Physiological changes such as increased heart rate, the secretion of adrenalin, and an increase in blood pressure also occur, which significantly decrease the ability to process information.

When a problem-solving discussion leads to one or both partners becoming stonewalled, the conversation is doomed to fail. Creative problem solving has left the relationship—but only temporarily!

Don’t lose heart. Now that you know to pay attention to the indicator lights, you can deconstruct this debilitating process by extracting your secret weapon: Regular Repair and Maintenance.

You start this maintenance by fine-tuning your channel of communication. If you have a complaint, don’t let it escalate into a criticism of your partner’s character. When you’re making your point, be immediate and specific—and respectful.

Become conscious about how you sound, model the behaviour of “active listening,” validate your partner’s perspective, tell your partner their feelings are legitimate even if you don’t identify with what they are feeling, shift to something you can easily appreciate about your partner, and finally, claim responsibility by saying to yourself, “What can I learn from this? What can I do about it?”

Marriages fall apart for a wide variety of reasons, but recognizing the warning signs in your dialogues with your partner is the first step towards ensuring your relationship remains intact. Maybe right now you are feeling stuck, but don’t give up. Responding appropriately to the “indicator lights” that warn of the approach of the Four Horsemen provides you with the opportunity to give the appropriate level of maintenance to this most cherished relationship. Use your new and improved communication skills to stay tuned in to each other and to keep your marriage tank full.

Daniel M. Hughes is a family psychotherapist based in Victoria. To find out about his Bringing Baby Home workshops, visit victoriafamilytherapy.com.

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Annual Family Events Visit www.islandparent.ca for updated monthly event listings OCTOBER 2012 84 Charing Cross Road at Langham Court Theatre. Set in the tumultuous decades between 1950 and 1970, this is a story of love for great literature, and a long-distance love between two people. Suitable for all audiences.

Previews Wednesday, October 3. Runs until Saturday, October 20. To book tickets or for more information, please call 250-384-2142 or visit www.langhamtheatre.ca.

Seussical™ at the Metro Theatre. Horton listens to a clover and hears a cry for help from the tiny planet of Who, but will anyone in Jungle of Nool believe him in time to save his little friends? Follow the Cat in the Hat (and his chaotic crew) and visit Dr. Suess’s world of incredible creatures and magical characters. Recommended for ages 4 and up.

October 19-27. www.saltwater.inc. For tickets, call 250-386-6121.

Raffi in Concert at the McPherson Playhouse.

Known for his work as a children’s entertainer.

October 20, 1pm. For tickets and information, www.rmts.bc.ca or 250-386-6121.

Galey Farms Corn Maze includes 6 acres of corn mazes, exhibits and surprises, including the Ghost Train and Haunted Mansion. You can also take a free hayride to the pumpkin patch every weekend in October, 10am-4pm.

4150 Blenkinsop Rd. For details, 250-4775713.

Halloween Train at the BC Forest Discovery Centre. Beware the Halloween Train. Ride the

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steam train through ghostly scenes and past scary Halloween characters at the museum.

Children will enjoy trick or treating and making Halloween crafts, and there are haunted houses for those who dare! After 4:30pm, costumed spooks will mingle with the visitors and creep up in unexpected places. Spooky exhibits and live Halloween music in the main gallery.

The train leaves every 30 minutes between 3-8:30pm (except at 4:30pm). October 26-28, 2:30-9pm. 2892 Drinkwater Road, Duncan.

250-715-1113. www.bcforestmuseum.com.

McNab’s Corn Maze just south of Nanaimo offers 7 acres of mazes, a petting zoo, and more family fun in the country. Open daily in October, 10am-dusk. 4659 Yellowpoint Rd. Info, 250-245-0666.

NOVEMBER 2012 Norman Foote & Big Voice at Chemainus Theatre. Music, stories and props (with attitude!) that capture the imaginations of young and old alike. November 6, 7pm. 1-800-565-7738. www.chemainustheatrefestival.ca.

Naomi’s Road at Malaspina Theatre at VIU. Details a young Japanese-Canadian girl’s experiences as her family is interned during World War II. November 17, 1pm. 250-754-7587. www.theatreone.org.

Island Farms Santa Claus Parade along Government St (from Belleville to Store St).

November 17, 6-7pm. Info, Ron Butlin at 250-382-3111.

The Snowman at the Royal Theatre. The film version by Raymond Briggs is shown with live musical accompaniment by the Victoria Symphony and Maestro Joey. Experience the magic of the remarkable friendship between James and his snowman in this holiday tradition. To begin the concert, a group of young musicians join the orchestra to play toy intruments in Leopold Mozart’s delightful Toy Symphony. November 18, 2:30pm. www. victoriasymphony.ca.

Lady Windermere’s Fan at Langham Court Theatre. Comic misunderstandings, hidden identities, fluttering fans, whispered gossip and a touching reconciliation are all sure to please audiences of all ages. Previews Wednesday, November 21. Runs until December 8. To book tickets and for more information, call 250384-2142 or visit www.langhamtheatre.ca.

Pan at the McPherson Playhouse. Pan dares you to free your imagination and fly away on an epic adventure where danger lurks behind every corner. Adventure awaits in Never Land where growing up is only for those who lack imagination. November 24 to December 1. www.kaleidoscope.ca.

DECEMBER 2012 Christmas Express at the BC Forest Discovery Museum. Be enchanted as you ride through the decorated forest on a 1910 steam locomotive.

Enjoy the season’s laughter and twinkling lights on the Christmas Express. Visit with Santa Claus, dance to live Christmas music, make a

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Christmas tree craft in the schoolhouse, watch the model trains on display and warm up with hot chocolate or a snack in Train Station Treats.

Santa Claus will ride the first train, leaving at 4:30pm, and then will reside in the main museum for pictures and visits. December 7-9 and December 14-23, 4-9pm (train leaves every 20 minutes from 4:30 to 8:30pm). 250-7151113. www.bcforestmuseum.com.

Nutcracker at Chemainus Theatre. Come and share young Clara’s dream, wherein her toy Nutcracker turns into a dashing prince. Visit the Land of Sweets and meet exotic people from faraway lands. Friday December 20, 7pm and Saturday December 21, 1pm. 1-800-565-7738. www.chemainustheatrefestival.ca.

JANUARY 2013 The Mozart Experience at the Royal Theatre.

A mischievous street musician is caught playing the orchestra’s grand piano. Much to her surprise, the conductor does not scold her, but instead offers her the chance to “be Mozart” for this program about one of the most famous composers of all time. The street musician and her prankster companion must now confront dilemmas and opportunities similar to those faced by Mozart. January 27, 2:30pm. www. victoriasymphony.ca.

FEBRUARY 2013 Rick Scott in The Great Gazzoon at Malaspina Theatre at VIU in Nanaimo. This one-man show of music and storytelling features excerpts from the musical audio novel written

by Rick Scott and Valley Hennell. February 2, 1pm. 250-754-7587. www.theatreone.org.

Family Theatre Festival. Four of the city’s most dynamic theatre companies take to the mainstage of Kaleidoscope’s brand new Family Theatre Festival featuring new and exciting work for the whole family. February 8-11. www.kaleidoscope.bc.ca.

Lemony Snicket’s The Composer is Dead at the Royal Theatre. Beethoven, Bach and Mozart are dead. Were they drowned out by drums?

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Did the clarinet sneak up on them? Or did the trumpets blow them away? Help solve this perplexing mystery. In the quest to discover who killed the composers, our detective interrogates each section of the orchestra to determine what they do and how they work. February 24, 2:30pm. www.victoriasymphony.ca.

MARCH 2013 The Velveteen Rabbit at Malaspina Theatre at VIU. Ten children will play the parts of toys in the show. They will be pre-selected and rehearse their roles during the half hour before the performance begins. March 13, 1pm. 250-754-7587. www.theatreone.org.

APRIL 2013 Singin’ in the Rain at the McPherson Playhouse. It’s the roaring ’20s and silent movie stars are the biggest names in the world. Don Lockwood has it all, a string of hit films and a studio-engineered romance with the most beautiful actress in town. But with the new phenomenon of the talking picture on the way and a chance meeting with a talented young chorus girl, things are about to change for Don and for Hollywood forever. April 12-14. www.kaleidoscope.bc.ca.

The Secret Garden at Chemainus Theatre.

A young orphan girl joins her uncle and his ailing son in their dark and dreary home. It’s not long before the adventurous girl discovers a secret garden and the key to unlocking hearts. April 19, 7:30pm. 1-800-565-7738. www.chemainustheatrefestival.ca.

Judy and David’s Symphonic Adventure at the Royal Theatre. Minutes before the show, someone has stolen David’s magic conductor’s baton! It must have been the criminal mastermind, Alfred Tonal. But Mr. A. Tonal is nowhere to be found, and the show must go on! Judy suggests conducting with a piece of wet spaghetti. David suggests a rubber chicken.

Nothing works. The only solution is to follow the clues and, with everybody’s help, get the magic baton back where it belongs. April 21, 2:30pm. www.victoriasymphony.ca.

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May 2013 War of the Eagles at Fort Rodd Hill & Fisgard Lighthouse National Historic Site of Canada.

It’s 1941 and the world is at war. While his father serves overseas, Jed moves back to his mother’s Tsimshian community. Yet, with the attack on Pearl Harbor and the deportation of the nearby Japanese Community, Jed’s world is shattered. Alone, Jed must ask himself where his allegiance really belongs, to his country’s rigid code, or to the truth that is buried in his Tsimshian soul. May 22-26. www.kaleidoscope.bc.ca.

July 2013 Canada Day celebrations at various locations on July 1. Check www.kidsinvictoria.com for events listing.

ONGOING Behind the Scenes at the Royal BC Museum.

The museum has turned inside out with a year-long feature exhibition of B.C.’s amazing natural history. Get up close and personal with thousands of specimens you’ve never seen before, a separate virtual exhibition, and activities for the entire family. Free for members and children under 5. www. royalbcmuseum.bc.ca.•

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INTER-GENERATIONAL ACTIVITIES Harmonious Family Singers & Choir . . . . . . . . . . harmoniousfamilychoir.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-SING

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MUSEUMS BC Aviation Museum, Sidney 1910 Norseman Rd . . . 250-655-3300 Craigdarroch Castle Historical Museum 1050 Joan Cres . . . . . . 250-592-5323 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . thecastle.ca

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Craigflower Schoolhouse & Manor 2790 Shoreline Dr. . . . . 250-383-4627

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Fort Rodd Hill & Fisgard Lighthouse National Historic Sites of Canada 603 Fort Rodd Hill Rd. . 250-478-5849 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . pc.gc.ca/fortroddhill Come run, climb and go underground at Fort Rodd Hill. Then steer a ship, sound the fog horn and master the games inside Fisgard Lighthouse.

The Maritime Museum of BC 28 Bastion Square . . . . 250-385-4222 Royal BC Museum 675 Belleville St . . . . . . 250-356-7226 Saanich Historical Artifacts Society 7321 Lochside Dr . . . . . 250-652-5522

NATURE Beacon Hill Children’s Farm Beacon Hill Park . . . . . . 250-381-2532 CRD Parks crd.bc.ca/parks . . . . . . 250-478-3344 Galey Farms Corn Maze & Market 4150 Blenkinsop Rd . . . 250-477-4450 Goldstream Park Nature House 3400 Trans Canada Hwy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-9414 Gorge Waterway Discovery Centre Gorge Park . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-7585 Horticultural Centre of the Pacific 505 Quayle Rd . . . . . . . 250-479-6162 Mineral World & Scratch Patch, Sidney 9808 Seaport Pl . . . . . . 250-655-4367 Shaw Ocean Discovery Centre 9811 Seaport Pl . . . . . . 250-665-7511 Victoria Bug Zoo bugzoo.com . . . . . . . . 250-384-BUGS Victoria Butterfly Gardens 1461 Benvenuto Ave . . 250-652-3822

THEATRE & ART Art Gallery of Greater Victoria 1040 Moss St . . . . . . . . 250-384-4101 Cinecenta, Student Union Building @UVic . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-721-8365 Dance Victoria. . . . . . . 250-595-1829 Four Seasons Musical Theatre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-478-0329 Greater Victoria Youth Orchestra www.gvyo.org. . . . . . . . 250-360-1121 Intrepid Theatre Company #2-1609 Blanshard St. . 250-383-2663 Kaleidoscope Theatre 3130 Jutland Rd . . . . . . 250-383-8124 National Geographic IMAX Theatre 675 Belleville St . . . . . 250-953-IMAX Pacific Opera Society 250-385-0222 Victoria Operatic Society #10-744 Fairview Rd . . 250-381-1021 Victoria Symphony #610-620 View St . . . . . 250-385-9771

OTHER All Fun Karts, Cages, Clubs & Camping at Western Speedway allfun.bc.ca . . . . . . . . . 250-474-1961 Centre of the Universe, Dominion Astrophysical Observatory 5071 West Saanich Rd 250-363-8262 City Centre Park, Playzone 1089 Langford Parkway . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-1738 Hatley Park National Historic Site 2005 Sooke Rd . . . . . . 250-391-2666 Highland Pacific Golf . . . . . . . . . . . highlandpacificgolf.com 450 Creed Rd . . . . . . . 250-478-4653 Mattick’s Farm Mini Golf 5325 Cordova Bay Rd . 250-658-4053 Miniature World 649 Humboldt St . . . . . 250-385-9731 Pirate Adventures pirateadventures.ca . . . 250-858-7535 Tumblebums Play Centre & Toy Shop 133-735 Goldstream Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-474-PLAY Wild Play Element Parks West Shore . . . . . . . . 1-888-856-7275

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Online Resources for Breastfeeding Help Child, Youth & Family Community Health South Island Health Units Esquimalt 250-519-5311 Gulf Islands 250-539-3099 (toll-free number for office in Saanichton)

Peninsula 250-544-2400 Saanich 250-519-5100 Saltspring Island 250-538-4880 Sooke 250-642-5464 Victoria 250-388-2200 West Shore 250-519-3490

Central Island Health Units Duncan 250-709-3050 Ladysmith 250-755-3342 Lake Cowichan 250-749-6878 Nanaimo 250-755-3342 Nanaimo Princess Royal 250-755-3342 Parksville/Qualicum 250-947-8242 Port Alberni 250-731-1315 Tofino 250-725-4020

North Island Health Units Campbell River 250-850-2110 Courtenay 250-331-8520 Kyuquot Health Ctr 250-332-5289 ‘Namgis Health Ctr 250-974-5522 Port Hardy 250-902-6071

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ost people know that breastmilk protects babies and children against infection and illness. It’s the only food needed for the first six months of a baby’s life. Breastmilk is recommended until two years and beyond and offers endless health benefits to babies, children and mothers. If a mother is not able to fully breastfeed, even small amounts of breastmilk have value for her baby.

But did you know that breastfeeding also helps our planet to be healthy?

This is just one of many breastfeeding topics you can read about on the BC Baby-Friendly Network website at www. bcbabyfriendly.ca. The website has good upto-date links to other websites and articles.

These give information that can support breastfeeding mothers and help all of us learn about new breastfeeding research.

Breastfeeding help is also available free of charge from public health nurses at your local health unit (see health unit contact information on this page). If you have questions or need help as you plan for and breastfeed your baby, please call.

Meanwhile, check out some new breastfeeding online resources from the BC BabyFriendly Network website: Why Breastfeed? The Case for Breastfeeding (www.breastfeedingmadesimple.com/ whybf.html). A collection of articles by Nancy Mohrbacher.

Breastfeeding has gotten some bad press in the past couple of years. If you are struggling with breastfeeding—or just feeling discouraged—you may wonder why you should continue. Are the effects of breastfeeding trivial? Or is it something that can have lifetime health effects? In fact, the health benefits of breastfeeding are welldocumented and quite powerful. In short, it’s very much worth your time and effort.

“Hands-on pumping” (www.bcbabyfriendly.ca/handsonpumping.pdf and newborns.stanford.edu/Breastfeeding/ MaxProduction.html). Lactation Education Resources 2009.

Combining pumping and breast massage has been shown to increase milk production in research conducted by Jane Morton

MD, at Stanford University, Lucile Packard Children’s Hospital. She found that adding breast massage and “hands-on pumping” increased mothers’ average daily volumes by 48 per cent.

A Non-Prescriptive Recipe for breastfeeding (www.biologicalnurturing.com/ pages/downloadarticles.html), by Suzanne Colson.

Suzanne Colson presents a new approach to breastfeeding using semi-reclined positions that benefit mother and baby.

Breastmilk requires no resources for packaging, shipping, or disposal. It’s a natural, renewable resource and is all the baby needs for the first six months of life.

Infant Feeding Affects Climate Change (www.slideshare.net/tanyakaye/infantfeeding-affects-climate-change). Malta Breastfeeding Coalition.

This Power Point presentation from the Malta Breastfeeding Coalition applies a “green” lens to the act of breastfeeding that is thought provoking and informative.

How I Breastfed My Babies and Saved the World, by Norma Ritter, New Beginnings. La Leche League International. 2009, Issue 4.

Breastmilk requires no resources for packaging, shipping, or disposal. It’s a natural, renewable resource and is all the baby needs for the first six months of life.

For more breastfeeding information from La Leche League, visit: www.lllc.ca (Canada) www.llli.ca (International) Happy World Breastfeeding Week, October 1 to 7 in Canada!

Irene Rathbone is a Public Health Nursing Coordinator at the Peninsula Health Unit and has worked to support breastfeeding families for over 30 years.

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Party Planning ACTIVE PARTY PLACES Falcon Gymnastics 208–721 Vanalman Ave 250-479-6424 Lion’s Pride . . . . . . . . . 250-383-FLIP Mr. Tubbs Ice Cream Parlor & Family Fun Zone 2207 Millstream Rd . . . 250-590-4369 Recreation Oak Bay recreation.oakbay.ca . . 250-595-7946 Victoria Gymnastics 2051 Store St . . . . . . . . 250-380-2442

ENTERTAINERS & CLOWNS

Retail Products ART & CRAFT STORES Beadworld 63–560 Johnson St . . . 250-386-5534 Island Blue Print 905 Fort St . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-9786 Knotty by Nature Fibre Arts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . kbnfibres.ca

BABY SUPPLIES Abernathy Naturals abernathynaturals.ca . . 778-433-4453 Baby carriers, cloth diapers, breastfeeding accessories, babywearing outerwear, cloth hygeine products.

Bellies in Bloom Maternity 104-4489 Viewmont Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-0803 Mothering Touch Centre & Birth Services, 975 Fort St . 250-595-4905

Mad Science . . . .madscience.org/vancouverisland . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-1814 The Puppet Booth . . . 250-472-3546 . . . . . . puppetbooth.homestead.com

TJ’s The Kiddies Store 3045C Douglas St . . . . 250-386-2229

MUSEUM/MOVIE

BEDDING

National Geographic IMAX Theatre 675 Belleville St . . . . . . 250-953-IMAX Maritime Museum 28 Bastion Square . . . . 250-385-4222 SilverCity 3130 Tillicum Rd . . . 1-888-3FAMOUS

SCIENCE/NATURE Pacific Undersea Gardens 490 Belleville St . . . . . . 250-382-5717 Victoria Bug Zoo 631 Courtney St . . . . 250-384-BUGS

PARTY SUPPLIES/PLANNING Funtime Inflatables . . 250-474-0597 The Great Little Celebration Company . . . . . greatlittlecelebration.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-866-503-4397 Jump Up Inflatables 778-678-JUMP Lizzy Lee & Me 3655 Shelbourne St . . . 250-590-5568 Par-T-Perfect par-t-perfect.com . . . . 250-386-5867

Heirloom Linens #380-777 Royal Oak Dr 250-744-1717

BICYCLES Fairfield Bicycle Shop 1275 Oscar St . . . . . . . 250-381-2453 North Park Cycle 1725 Quadra St . . . . . . 250-386-2453 Oak Bay Bicycles 1990 Oak Bay Ave . . . . 250-598-4111

BOOKS Bolen Books 111–1644 Hillside Ave . 250-595-4232 Chapters 1212 Douglas St . . . . . 250-380-9009 Children’s Bookshop 2442 Beacon, Sidney . 250-656-4449 Ivy’s Book Shop 2188 Oak Bay Ave . . . . 250-598-2713 Munro’s Books 1108 Government St . . 250-382-2464 School House Teaching Supplies & Children’s Bookstore . . . . . . . . . schoolhouseteaching.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-385-9032

CLOTHING Abby Sprouts 3011 Gosworth Rd . . . 250-294-8978 Abra Kid Abra 2024 Oak Bay Ave . . . . 250-595-1613 Baggins 110–561 Johnson St . . 250-388-7022 Bellies in Bloom Maternity 104-4489 Viewmont Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-0803 Blue Bear Aware Allergy Awareness Clothing bluebearaware.com . . . 604-760-5573 Bubba Loo Children’s Boutique 2410 Beacon Ave, Sidney . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-655-7270 Clothesline Clothing Company . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-0800 Dress Me Up Organic 104-1028 Fort St . . . . . 250-590-4670 Finn & Izzy 2259 Oak Bay Ave . . . . 250-592-8168 Frontrunner Footwear 1200 Vancouver St . . . 250-382-8181 Good Planet Baby Company 764 Fort St . . . . . . . . . . 250-590-3500 Hemp & Company 1102 Government St . . 250-383-4367 422 Craigflower Road . 250-412-0880 Hip Baby 104A-560 Johnson St . 250-385-8020 JamTots Baby & More Store 748 Goldstream Ave . . 250-478-1737 J’s & M’s Shoes & Handbags jandmshoes.com . . . . . 250-589-3645 Kids & Company Victoria, Uptown kidsandcompany.ca 1-866-MYKIDCO Lil Sweet Nancy’s Uptown Centre . . . . . . 250-995-2748 Maya’s Treasures 1606 Stanley Ave . . . . . 250-598-6927 Little Sweetie Clips . . . . . . . . . . . . . littlesweetieclips.com Mini-Miracles Children’s Clothing minimiracles.ca . . . . . . 250-478-6331 Mothering Touch Centre & Birth Services, 975 Fort St . 250-595-4905 NoZone Clothing Company 2001 Douglas St . . . . . 250-472-2247 Persnickety For Kids, Salt Spring PersnicketyKids.ca . . . 250-931-0091 Rainy Day Play 320-3980 Shelbourne St . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-590-5639 Family Resource Guide 2012/2013 41

ROCKBEBE Kids Boutique 101-3500 Uptown Blvd rockbebe.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .250-477-ROCK Sailor Jack 424 Craigflower Rd . . . 250-382-5225 Scallywags . . . . . . . . . www.scallywags-island.ca 624 Fort St . . . . . . . . . . 250-360-2570 777 Royal Oak Dr . . . . 250-360-2520 TJ’s The Kiddies Store 3045C Douglas St . . . . 250-386-2229 Victoria Kids Consignment . . . . . . . . victoriakidsconsignment.ca WIN Resale Shops 1803 Cook St . . . . . . . . 250-389-2203 785 Pandora Ave . . . . . 250-361-9303 174-160 Wilson St . . . . 250-412-0369

COMPUTERS Restart Computers 847 Yates St . . . . . . . . 250-995-3020

DANCE SUPPLIES Toes ’n Taps 1733 Cook St . . . . . . . . 250-480-0017

FABRIC & SEWING Satin Moon Quilt Shop 1689 Government St . . 250-383-4023 Sawyer’s Sewing Centre #201-3400 Douglas St 250-388-6228

HAIR SALONS Lizzy Lee & Me 3655 Shelbourne St . . . 250-590-5568

MATERNITY Bellies in Bloom Maternity 104-4489 Viewmont Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-479-0803 La Mama Maternity & More 1010 Broad St . . . . . . . 250-388-3977 Mothering Touch Centre & Birth Services, 975 Fort St . 250-595-4905

MUSICAL INSTRUMENTS Allison Piano 2328 Government St . . 250-384-3935 Larsen Music 1808 Cook St . . . . . . . . 250-389-1988 Tom Lee Music #105-2401D Millstream Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-838-5222

TOYS Buddies Toys 2533 Estevan Rd . . . . . 250-595-6501 2496 Beacon Ave, Sidney . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-655-7171 Discovery Toys toylady.ca . . . . . . . . . . 250-477-9891 Kaboodles Toy Store 1320 Government St . . 250-383-0931 Science Works 1889 Oak Bay Ave . . . . 250-595-6033 Timeless Toys . . . . . . 250-598-TOYS Tumblebums Play Centre & Toy Shop 133-735 Goldstream Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-474-PLAY

PHOTOGRAPHERS HOME DECOR/FURNITURE Dreamland Kids 3194 Douglas St . . . . . 250-381-5437 Quality cribs, beds, bunks and lofts, bean bags, fun crib to teen bedding, modern room decor and creative play items. We’re right across from Mayfair Mall at the corner of Douglas and Alpha. Latest products and sales at twitter.com/dreamlandkids.

TJ’s The Kiddies Store 3045C Douglas St . . . . 250-386-2229

HOME RENOVATION Habitat for Humanity Victoria ReStore . . . . . . . . . . habitatvictoria.com 849 Orono Ave . . . . . . . 250-386-7867

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Beth Hayhurst Photography bethhayhurst.com . . . . 250-896-0766 Erin Wallis Photography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . erinwallis.com fotoart Photography . . . . . . . . . . . . fotoartphotography.net Heather Armstrong Photography heatherphoto.ca . . . . . 250-507-8747 Karen McKinnon Photography . . . . . . . . mckinnonphotography.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-890-9222 The Light Within Photography . . . . . . . . . . . thelightwithinphoto.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-589-2534 Michelle Loewen Photography . . . . . . . . . . michelleloewenblog.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-661-2464

Sarah Booth Photography . . . . . . . sarahboothphotography.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-882-0172 Vivian Kereki Photography viviankereki.com . . . . . 250-812-4466

EMERGENCY PREPAREDNESS/SAFETY Beesafe Solutions Ltd. beesafe.ca . . . . . . . . . 1-855-838-0788

SHOPPING CENTRES Broadmead Village Shopping Centre 777 Royal Oak Dr . . . . . . . . . . . . . broadmeadvillage.ca Hillside Shopping Centre 1644 Hillside Ave . . . . . 250-595-7154 Mattick’s Farm 5325 Cordova Bay Rd Mayfair Shopping Centre 3147 Douglas St . . . . . 250-383-0541 Tillicum Centre 3170 Tillicum Rd . . . . . 250-381-7123 Uptown . . . . . . . . . . . shopuptown.ca Westside Village Shopping Centre 172 Wilson St WestShore Centre 2945 Jacklin Rd . . . . . . 250-474-3269

SPECIALTY STORES Christmas Village 1323 Government St . . 250-380-7522 Rocky Mountain Soap Company Mayfair Shopping Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-382-7070 Soccerworld 831 Vernon Ave . . . . . . 250-475-3777

OTHER Better Business Bureau 220–1175 Cook St . . . . 250-386-6348 Lalabee Bathworks . . . . . . . . . . . . lalabeebathworks.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-508-8495 My Funkins™ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . myfunkins.com The Savvy Squirrel Coupon Book . . . . . . . . . SquirrelCouponBook.com

Family Restaurants & Food Markets HOME dELIVERY Island Farms . . . . . . . . 250-360-5222 Lunchalicious Food Services lunchalicious.ca . . . . . . 250-588-7616 Recipes to the Rescue . . . . . . . . . . . . recipestotherescue.ca Share Organics 1885 St. Ann St . . . . . . 250-595-6729 Sustainable Produce Urban Delivery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . spud.ca

Le français au CSF, c’est bien plus qu’une langue !

MARKETS Country Grocer . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . countrygrocer.com Lifestyles Market #180-2950 Douglas St 250-384-3388 343 Cook St . . . . . . . . . 250-381-5450 9769 5th St, Sidney . . . 250-656-2326 The Market On Yates, 903 Yates St 250-381-6000 On Millstream, 2401 Millstream Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-1110 Planet Organic Market #109-3995 Quadra St. . 250-727-9888 Share Organics . . . . . . 250-595-6729 Thrifty Foods thriftyfoods.com . . . . . . 250-544-1234

RESTAURANTS/COFFEE SHOPS ABC Country Restaurant 2900 Douglas St . . . . . . 250-995-1200 Pizzeria Prima Strada . . . . . . . . . . pizzeriaprimastrada.com 230 Cook St . . . . . . . . . 250-590-8595 2960 Bridge St . . . . . . . 250-590-4380 Red Robin 800 Tolmie Ave . . . . . . . 250-386-4440 Serious Coffee . . seriouscoffee.com 14 South Island locations The Old Spaghetti Factory 703 Douglas St . . . . . . . 250-381-8444 Wendy’s Restaurants . . . .wendys.ca

Depuis sa création en 1995, le Conseil scolaire francophone de la Colombie-Britannique offre des programmes et des services éducatifs valorisant le plein épanouissement et l’identité culturelle des apprenantes et apprenants francophones de la province.

Le conseil compte aujourd’hui plus de 4 600 élèves, 36 écoles publiques et dessert plus d’une centaine de communautés réparties dans l’ensemble de la province.

Inscrivez votre enfant dans une école du CSF !

Nos écoles publiques daNs l’île de VaNcouVer Campbell River École Mer-et-montagne École secondaire Phoenix École secondaire Carihi

250-923-3359 1102 South Alder 250-923-3359 400, 7th Ave. 250-923-3359 350 Dogwood St.

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Playtime With Baby Learning and growing in the first year

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s a parent, you are your baby’s first playmate. Play is a fun way for the two of you to bond and it encourages healthy child development.

Play is how children learn—about themselves, other people, and the world around them. Play helps to build confidence, relationships, and basic skills.

Toys for babies don’t need to be expensive. They can be things you have around the house, as long as they are unbreakable, safe (no loose parts, broken pieces or sharp edges), and the right size (anything that can fit through a paper towel roll is too small).

Good toys are washable, made to last and appeal to parents, too. After all, you’ll both be playing with them!

Here are some suggestions: Use rhymes, games and songs as you go through the routines of your day. You can make up a diaper-changing tune, or try a little rhyme as you’re putting shoes on.

Play with books. Read to your baby every day, and remember that babies also want to play with books. They like to put books in their mouth and try to turn pages, so provide clean and sturdy board books.

Encourage babble. It’s how babies learn to make different sounds using their own voice. Repeat these sounds, and turn them into real words. As you do this, you can make up all sorts of language games that are sure to delight your baby.

Words and music: Instant playtime

Your newborn baby is developing hand-eye coordination. Reaching for and touching things, and learning how to hold them provide wonderful stimulation. Good playthings for this age include: Cloths or transparent scarves that can be

For the first year of your baby’s life, play won’t involve toys much at all. Reading, speaking, and singing are fun and easy (and portable) ways to play with your baby. And they are rich learning experiences.

From birth to 3 months

used for peek-a-boo An unbreakable mirror placed so that baby can see himself Fabric “bracelets” (soft rattles that can attach to your baby’s wrists) A set of plastic measuring spoons Pieces of brightly coloured cloth with different textures Wooden or plastic bracelets that don’t have loose parts Anything with a face on it—dolls, pictures, stuffed animals

From 3 to 6 months At this age, your baby is developing both fine motor (using hands and fingers) and gross motor (moving arms and legs) skills.

She’s fascinated with her own hands, and starting to connect how arm and hand movements feel with her desire to make them happen. Toys that can help support your baby’s development include: Sturdy rattles Peek-a-boo scarves Doughnut-shaped objects made from plastic or fabric, large enough to grasp Pieces of brightly coloured and textured fabric (terry cloth, silk, fake fur) A play arch where baby can lie on his back and bat or kick at toys hanging above

Looking for child care?

Taking care of children?

Child Care

Resource & Referral Your community’s best source of child care information and resources.

3-5 yrs Pre-primary School

Call your local Child Care Resource & Referral for free referrals and resources.

Victoria & Gulf Islands: 250-382-7000 or 1-800-750-1868 Sooke: 250-642-5152 Westshore: 250-391-4324 Cowichan Valley: 250-746-4135 local 231 PacificCare (Ladysmith north): 250-756-2022 or 1-888-480-2273 Funded by the Province of BC

www.islandfamilyinfo.ca www.ccrr.bc.ca A gentle learning opportunity for young children: - learning naturally through play

The joy of learning - naturally.

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- nature awareness and respect - compassionate communication - experience with math and science - exposure to books and language arts

Toys that make interesting sounds (rattles, shakers, chimes) are better than toys that make electronic sounds. Just be sure they are not too loud for baby’s sensitive ears.

From 6 to 12 months In the second half of the first year, your baby sees anything within reach as a potential toy. And if he can reach it, he’ll probably put it in his mouth. He wants to know how things work, and what they do when they’re dropped, rolled, shaken, banged or thrown.

Toys that are safe for and appealing to babies this age include: Stacking and nesting toys: A set of nesting cups and some sturdy blocks are a great investment. They’ll provide hours of playtime well beyond your baby’s first year.

Cups, little pails and other unbreakable containers Large building blocks Board books Any ball, as long as it is too big to fit in a baby’s mouth. Avoid balls with a plug/ pin that could be a choking hazard if it comes out.

Shape sorters Trucks, cars Riding toys designed for babies this age Soft toys small enough to handle Percussion instruments: shakers, a small drum, or a “rain maker.” You can also make these from containers and fillers you have at home (for instance, put lentils or dry beans in a water bottle and secure the top tightly closed with some tape).

Toys that encourage “visual tracking” (following a moving object with your eyes), like a ball ramp, or a push-and-go rolling toy.

Safety tip: Always check the label to make sure the toy is right for your baby’s age.

Active play Active play really does start from birth.

Very young babies need “tummy time” each day (while they are awake) to help strengthen the muscles in their neck and upper body.

As you encourage your 6-month-old to reach for objects or try new things, you’re encouraging active play. When he starts to crawl, he’ll need lots of supervised floor time to explore.

Finally, make sure your baby doesn’t spend long periods of time in a seat, high chair or stroller. Avoid TV and other electronic media.

Reprinted with permission from the Canadian Paediatric Society. For more information, visit www.caringforkids.cps.ca.

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View our calendar of events.

Whether it’s dance lessons, parenting workshops, fun days and festivals, what’s happening at your local rec centre or community events—Kids In Victoria has it all!

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Family Getaways Beach Acres Resort is the perfect spot for rest, relaxation and rediscovering the fine art of conversation with your family and friends. Enjoy beachfront, ocean view or forest cottages and townhouses with full kitchens and fireplaces. Plan a quiet autumn weekend getaway for two, a spring family reunion, or a week at the beach in the summer with the kids, and enjoy the way life was meant to be! 1-800-663-7309. www. beachacresfamilyfun.com.

Bring your family to Blue Vista Resort and start a new tradition. Located steps from Bennett Bay and the Gulf Islands National Reserve with its beaches and shoreline walks on Mayne Island, this Tourism BC Approved Accommodation has been catering to families for over three decades. With nine individualized housekeeping cottages to choose from and a quiet lawn with barbecues, picnic tables and a children’s play area, this small family-run resort invites you

to join a tradition many families have been enjoying for years. Cabins start at under $100/night. Visit www.bluevistaresort.com for rates and details.

Capernwray Harbour Bible Centre on Thetis Island provides a stunning setting for summer retreats and conferences. In May and June, school groups enjoy the challenge of participating in the Outdoor Education Packages on offer. Special interest groups including artistry guilds, reunions and church denominations receive attentive and friendly service to make their time away a memorable event. The Holiday Bible Weeks during July and August provide families with solid practical Bible teaching amidst a holiday setting. Call 1-888-224-5681 for more information.

Affordable family holidays year round!

For a fun family holiday that won’t break the bank, check out the camping and out-

door adventures at Horne Lake Regional and Provincial Parks. Open year round, Horne Lake has spectacular beach campsites and a wide variety of daily activities such as hourly rentals of canoes, kayaks, pedal boats and SUP boards, cave exploring, rock rappelling, and even camping in a family-sized Teepee.

Families love the all-inclusive Adventure Camps with 2 nights, 3 days of meals, guided activities, a teepee and evening campfires.

Or take a winter break with a package from Tigh-Na-Mara. Horne Lake is located just north of Qualicum Beach, and was voted the “Best Natural Outdoor Site in BC” by Attractions Canada. Online reservations: www.hornelake.com or call 250-703-6051.

Kye Bay Guest Lodge & Cottages in Comox.

A popular family-oriented beach vacation spot since 1932, this location offers miles of sandy beaches with warm, safe swimming. The tidal pools are filled with small fish and fascinating sea life. The lawn offers places to curl up to read, sunbathe or play lawn games. The accommodations provide a comfy home base. Join us on the seaside terrace for Sunday pancake breakfast and Friday’s High Tea. For a week you’ll never forget, call toll free 1-866-658-6131. www. kyebay.com.

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Park Sands Beach Resort is a familyoriented RV park and campground located downtown on the sandy shores of Parksville Bay beside the Community Park with its fabulous playground, water-spray park and BMX/skateboard park. Families have been coming here for generations to enjoy the wide expanse of sandy beach, the surrounding natural beauty, numerous recreation opportunities like hiking, biking and golf, and our central location, which makes for easy day trips to other Island destinations. www.parksands.com.

The Natural choice for family getaways, Tigh-Na-Mara Seaside Spa Resort is an allseason destination offering accommodations, a full service spa and three restaurants.

Centrally located in beautiful Parksville, Tigh-Na-Mara is easily accessible to the entire Island. Tigh-Na-Mara features 192 log-style accommodation units set above 3 kms of sandy beach and the warmest ocean swimming in Canada. We offer families the most extensive seasonal recreation program on Vancouver Island with exciting activities for every age group. www.tigh-na-mara. com. 1-800-663-7373.

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Mill Bay, Shawnigan Lake, Duncan

Family Support COMMUNITY CENTRES Shawnigan Lake Community Centre 2804 Shawnigan Lk Rd 250-743-1433

COUNSELLING Canadian Mental Health Association 371 Festubert St . . . . . 250-746-5521 Central Vancouver Island Crisis Society, Cowichan . . . . . 250-748-1133 Community Options Society 200 Cowichan Way . . . 250-748-0232 Cowichan Family Life 250-748-8281 Duncan Mental Health & Addiction Services . . . . . . . . . . . 250-709-3040 South Vancouver Island Assessment & Resource Service 305–394 Duncan St . . . 250-746-6900

GRIEF SUPPORT Rainbows, Duncan 371 Festubert St . . . . . 250-746-5521

PARENT SUPPORT BC Families in Transition 899 Fort St . . . . . . . . . . 250-386-4331 Professional counselling, legal support, group programs, information & more for families and family members of all ages when family relationships are in distress Separation/divorce; working through conflict to stay together; grief/loss.

Big Brothers Big Sisters #1-60 Ingram St . . . . . . 250-748-2447 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . bbbscowichan.ca Cowichan Family Life Association 2C–2753 Charlotte Rd . 250-748-8281 Family Caregivers’ Network Society 526 Michigan St . . . . . 250-384-0408 Parent Support Circle Shawnigan Lake . . . . . 250-384-8042 The Representative for Children and Youth rcybc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-476-3933

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SPECIAL NEEDS & DISABILITY SUPPORT Cowichan Valley Association for Community Living 5856 Clements St . . . . 250-746-4135 Early Intervention Team 202–394 Duncan St . . . 250-709-9022

Infant Development Program 202-394 Duncan St . . . 250-709-9092 Island Mother . . . . . . . 250 737-1687 Margaret Moss Health Centre, Duncan 675 Canada Ave . . . . . 250-709-3050 New Mom Centre, PostPartum Support & Education newmomcentre.ca . . . . 250-510-2518

YOUTH SERVICES Community Options Society 200 Cowichan Way . . . 250-748-0232 Cowichan Youth Services Inc 103–80 Station St . . . . 250-748-3875 Drop-in resource centre offering employment counselling, job board, resume preparation and more.

New Parent Resources MIDWIVES/DOULAS/ PRENATAL SERVICES Beautiful Birth Prenatal & Doula beautifulbirth.ca . . . . . . 250-597-2770 Cowichan Birthwise . 250-748-8493 Cowichan Childbirth, Prenatal & Doula cowichanchildbirth.com 250-510-0805 Cowichan Midwifery Group 164 Station St . . . . . . . 250-709-2040 Cowichan Valley Hypnotherapy . . . . . . . . . cowichanvalleyhypno.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-709-7380 Matraea Centre matcentre.ca . . . . . . . . 250-597-0085

PUBLIC HEALTH (VIHA) Duncan, 675 Canada Ave . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-709-3050 Lake Cowichan Health Unit 58 Cowichan Ave . . . . . 250-749-6878

DIAPER SERVICES Happy Island Diaper Service . . . . . . . . . . happyislanddiapers.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-866-922-7377

NEW PARENT SUPPORT Aboriginal Infant Development Program, Duncan 5768 Allenby Rd . . . . . 250-746-6184

Health & Wellness MEDICAL CENTRES Coleman Medical, Duncan 186 Kenneth St . . . . . . 250-746-4102 Margaret Moss Health Centre, Duncan 675 Canada Ave . . . . . 250-709-3050 Matraea Centre matcentre.ca . . . . . . . . 250-597-0085 Valleyview Treatment Centre #27-1400 Cowichan Bay Rd Cobble Hill . . . . . . . . . . 250-743-9395

OPTOMETRISTS Eye Etiquette Optical Boutique eyeetiquetteoptical.ca . 250-474-1941

PHARMACIES Valleyview Peoples Drug Mart 26-1400 Cowichan Bay Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-743-1448

PHYSIOTHERAPY South Cowichan Physiotherapy 59-1400 Cowichan Bay Rd, Cobble Hill . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-743-3833

Education PRESCHOOLS & CHILD CARE Angel Care Christian Preschool . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-746-5919 Child Care Resource & Referral . . . . . . islandfamilyinfo.ca / ccrr.bc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-746-4135 Cowichan Valley Child Care Resource & Referral, Duncan 5356 Clement St . . . . . 250-746-4135 Kindercottage Nursery, Sunrise Waldorf School 4344 Peters Rd . . . . . . 250-743-7253

Little Peoples Early Childhood Academy, Shawnigan Lake . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .250-929-KIDS Maple Tree Play House Licensed Family Childcare . . . . 250-746-5060 Parkside Academy Early Learning Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-746-1711 Queen Margaret’s Preschool/Junior Kindergarten . . . . . . . 250-746-4185 Starchild Centre, Mill Bay . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-929-3240 Sunrise Waldorf School, Kindercottage Preschool Nursery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-743-7253

South Island Distance Education 4575 Wilkinson Rd . . . . 250-704-4979 SelfDesign . . . . . . . . . selfdesign.org . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-877-353-3374

LEARNING CENTRES & TUTORS Sylvan Learning Centre 215–80 Station St . . . . 250-746-0222 Digital tablet technology, innovative teaching techniques, motiviational programs and the Sylvan Skills Assessment, continue to make Sylvan the leader in supplemental education from K-12. Call today to find out more.

SCHOOL DISTRICTS

POST SECONDARY EDUCATION

School District #79 2557 Beverly St . . . . . . 250-748-0321

Sprott-Shaw Community College . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-748-2700

INDEPENDENT SCHOOLS Brentwood College School 2735 Mt. Baker Rd . . . 250-743-5521 Duncan Christian School 495 Beech Ave . . . . . . 250-746-3654 Dwight International School 2371 East Shawnigan Lake Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-929-0506 Evergreen Independent School 3515 Watson Ave, Cobble Hill evergreen.net . . . . . . . . 250-743-2433 Island Oak High School, Duncan 5814 Banks Rd . . . . . . 250-701-0400 Queen Margaret’s School, Duncan 660 Brownsey Ave . . . . 250-746-4185 Queen of Angels Catholic School 2085 Maple Bay Rd . . . 250-746-5919 Shawnigan Lake School 1975 Renfrew Rd . . . . . 250-743-5516 Sunrise Waldorf School 4344 Peters Rd . . . . . . 250-743-7253 sunrisewaldorfschool.org. A fully certified Waldorf School estabilished in 1980. Our 7 acre rural campus is located in Cowichan Station, just south of Duncan. Programs include Parent & Child mornings, preschool, mixed age kindergartens and Grades 1-8.

DISTRIBUTED LEARNING E-Bus . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-567-1236 Hands-On Home-Learning for a Sustainable World . . 1-888-383-6619 North Island Distance Education, Courtenay 110–1742 Cliffe Ave . . 1-800-663-7925

Classes & Programs ART PROGRAMS

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4Cats Art Studio 4Cats.com/Duncan . . . 250-709-2286

CLUBS & ACTIVITIES Boys & Girls Club, Duncan 2471 Beverly St . . . . . . 250-748-1171 Girl Guides 321 Cairnsmore St . . . . 250-748-1052

LIBRARIES Vancouver Island Regional Library Cowichan Branch 2687 James St . . . . . . . 250-746-7661 Lake Cowichan Branch 38 King George North . 250-749-3431

MUSIC PROGRAMS Lila Music Centre, Duncan joythroughmusic.com . 250-701-0978 Music for Young Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-828-4334

RECREATION CENTRES Cowichan Centre, Duncan 2687 James St . . . . . . . 250-746-0450 Cowichan Lake Sports Arena 311 South Shore Rd . . 250-749-6742 Cowichan Sportplex 5847 Chesterfield Ave . 250-746-5666

Victoria & Vancouver Island 1-866-518-7287 Nanaimo 250-756-9794 Or online at: www.welcomewagon.ca

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Mill Bay, Shawnigan Lake, Duncan Kerry Park Recreation Centre 1035 Shawnigan-Mill Bay Rd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-743-5922 Shawnigan Lake Community Centre 2804 Shawnigan Lk Rd 250-743-1433

RIDING Alpine Stables alpinestable.com . . . . . 250-743-6641

SKATING Duncan Skating Club . . . . . . . . . . . . . . duncanskating.com

Family Restaurants & Food Markets

RESTAURANTS/COFFEE SHOPS

TOYS

Catrina’s Grill Mill Bay Centre . . . . . . 250-743-7277

Red Balloon Toyshop, Duncan . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . theredballoon.ca 85 Station St . . . . . . . . 250-748-5545

Pioneer House Restaurant Whippletree Junction . . 250-746-5848

PHOTOGRAPHERS

Serious Coffee . . . seriouscoffee.com 3 Cowichan locations Wendy’s Restaurant . . . . wendys.ca

Retail Products ARTS & CRAFTS Treasured Memories, Duncan 1C-2753 Charlotte Rd . 250-748-8054

McKinnon Photography . . . . . . . . mckinnonphotography.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-890-9222 Tony Colangelo Photography tcphotography.ca . . . . 778-422-1422 Transmit Photography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-732-3422

Family Fun & Entertainment FESTIVALS & FAIRS

BOOKS Volume One Books, Duncan 149 Kenneth St . . . . . . 250-748-1533

MARKETS

CLOTHING

Country Grocer, Cobble Hill . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . countrygrocer.com The Old Farm Market, Duncan 5164 Francis St . . . . . . 250-748-7141

Giggle Gear, Duncan gigglegearclothing.com 250-748-4445

Thrifty Foods Mill Bay Centre . . . . . 1-800-667-8280

Matraea Mercantile, Duncan 170 Craig St . . . . . . . . . 250-597-0085

Kinderbeez, Duncan 110-2755 Beverly St . . 250-748-2345

Trendy Tots, Duncan 151 Craig St . . . . . . . . . 250-701-4240

Islands Folk Festival Duncan . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-248-8975

MUSEUMS BC Forest Discovery Centre 2892 Drinkwater Rd . . . 250-715-1113

NATURE The Raptors, Duncan 1877 Herd Rd . . . . . . . 250-746-0372

THEATRE & ART Chemainus Theatre 9737 Chemainus Rd . 1-800-565-7738 Cowichan Theatre Duncan . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-748-7529

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Dayna E. Mazzuca

Learning from Each Other

How different personalities navigate newness Families are a dynamic mix of different personalities. This can be exciting. But now and then it takes a little digging to figure out exactly what makes the people you love tick.

It takes work to make it work. And while a psychology degree might come in handy, sometimes all it takes is a closer look at the people we call family.

For example, my family of four breaks down into two broad categories of extroverts and introverts. We have two of each. Turns out, this makes a big difference in how we make our way in the world, and in how we learn to navigate new places and ideas.

To be honest, it’s taken me a while to appreciate our differences. As an extrovert, I used to get frustrated when my children or hubby didn’t dive into the deep end of conversation with people we’d just met, or risk taking a new route without googling the details, or answer a question until they’d had a chance “to think about it.” As an extrovert, I’m used to jumping to conclusions, befriending strangers, and getting lost and calling it an adventure. But I am one of four in the mix. So, I soon discovered the beauty of the introvert, and (surprise!) not all extroverts are created equal. Being part of a family sure teaches you a lot of things. Like how other people learn.

As an extrovert, I love to engage the world by asking people I meet all sorts of questions.

I’d far rather talk to someone than read a pamphlet or find a website. Talk to me and I learn.

Better still, let me talk and I’ll be an expert in a matter of minutes! This served me well working as a community newspaper reporter.

Then I became a mom and tried to teach my kids to just ask lots of questions if they wanted to know something, anything really.

My children tagged along, but they never really engaged strangers the way I did. They had their reasons.

My son, for example, is not an extrovert who likes to engage people in question-andanswer sessions. He’s one of two introverts of the family. He likes to learn through intro-

spection. He’ll observe from a distance, assess quietly and come to his own conclusions. His approach is a mystery to me, but I always enjoy hearing his thoughts later in the day.

He is insightful in a way I deeply appreciate.

My daughter, on the other hand, is happy to talk to people, but does not initiate conversation like I do. She waits for a good time to join in the conversation and usually needs an invitation to share her delightful thoughts.

She never asks too many questions. She makes people comfortable. While extroverted, in the sense of learning via relationship, her approach is to experiment and join in the task at hand. Once shown how to do something, she loves to use her hands. She learns by doing, not watching or talking. She is our experiential extrovert, and I love the way she creates relationship simply by coming alongside someone and doing whatever they’re doing. I never do that.

My husband, rounding us out, doesn’t like to engage people with questions, or indulge in introspective analysis, or experiment with his hands. He likes to investigate. He’s our introverted research guru. Nine times out of 10 he’ll do his own research on anything new—a new place, a new idea, a new program. Before venturing out somewhere new, he likes to have his bases covered, and makes an effort to cover all of ours while he’s at it.

This works. It allows me to talk along the way, my son to watch the world go by, and my daughter to get her hands dirty when the opportunity arises.

So it’s a nice mix. We have an extrovert who engages, an introspective introvert, an extrovert who likes to experiment herself, and an investigative introvert. Somehow it all works out. As a family, we’re so glad— although we show it in different ways!

Dayna E. Mazzuca is working as a writer, creative workshop leader and home schooling mom in Victoria. Her family is always teaching her something new. Most days she loves it all!

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Residential Camps BC Camping Association . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . bccamping.org Information on summer day camps and residential camps for children.

CanAdventure Education . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . canadventure.ca

UVic Vikes govikesgo.com . . . . . . 250-721-8406

Capernwray Harbour Bible School & Conference Centre, Thetis Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . capernwray.ca

WYLD Expeditions Strathcona Park . . . . . . 250-286-3122

Earth Track Education Cowichan Valley . . . . . 250-737-1450 Gulf Islands Centre for Ecological Learning . . . . . . . . . . . 250-539-0619

Family Travel

Gulf Island Film and Television School, Galiano Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-813-9993

CAMPGROUNDS

Boys & Girls Clubs Wilderness Camp . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-384-9133

Horne Lake Outdoor Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-248-7829

Camp Barnard . . adventurecamps.ca

Island Escapades Salt Spring Island . . . 1-888-529-2567

Bere Point Campsite, Malcom Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-956-3301

Camp in the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . antikipper.com Camp Imadene Mesachie Lake . . . . . 1-800-445-7575 Camp Narnia . . . . . campnarnia.com

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Camp Pringle, Shawnigan Lake camppringle.com . . . . 250-472-6877

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Pioneer Pacific Camp Thetis Island . . . . . . . 1-800-784-1415

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Bald Eagle Campground, Chemainus 8705 Chemainus Rd . . 250-246-9457

Broughton Strait Park Campsite, Port McNeill . . . . . . . . . 250-956-3224 Horne Lake Outdoor Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-248-7829 Link River Campsite, Port Alice . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-956-3301 Living Forest Campground, Nanaimo 6 Maki Rd . . . . . . . . . . 250-755-1755 Pacific Playgrounds, Black Creek 9082 Clarkson Dr . . . . . 877-239-5600 Park Sands Beach Resort www.parksands.com . . 250-248-3171

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HOTELS

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Accent Inns Toll free . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-663-0298 Comfort Inn & Suites Victoria 101 Old Island Hwy . . . 250-388-7861 Travelodge travelodge.com . . . . . 1-800-578-7878 YWCA Hotel, Vancouver 733 Beatty St . . . . . . . 1-800-663-1424

RESORTS Alert Bay Lodge . . . . 1-800-255-5057 Beach Acres Resort, Parksville 1051 Resort Dr . . . . . 1-800-663-7309 Blue Vista Resort, Mayne Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . bluevistaresort.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-877-535-2424 Capernwray Harbour Bible School & Conference Centre, Thetis Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . capernwray.ca Chemainus Festival Inn 9573 Chemainus Rd . 1-877-246-4181

First-time discoveries and cool adventures begin with Scouts. After all, it’s the perfect place for kids to be kids – and have a lot of fun along the way.

Real Scouts. Real Experiences. To join, visit scouts.ca ts.ca

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Kye Bay Guest Lodge, Comox kyebay.com . . . . . . . . 1-866-658-6131 Pacific Sands, Tofino Cox Bay . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-565-2322 SeaScape Resort, Quadra Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-888-893-1626 Strathcona Park Lodge . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-286-3122 The Beach Club Resort, Parksville . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-888-760-2008 The Haven haven.ca . . . . . . 250-1-877-247-9238 Tigh-na-Mara Seaside Spa Resort & Conference Centre, Parksville 1155 Resort Dr . . . . . . 250-248-2072

NATURE Horne Lake Outdoor Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-248-7829 Raincoast Interpretive Centre, Tofino 451 Main St . . . . . . . . . 250-725-2560 The Land Conservancy of BC conservancy.bc.ca . . 1-888-738-0533 Wickaninnish Interpretive Centre, Tofino . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-726-7721

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Maddy Smith

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ne of the most challenging, exciting aspects of a bookish lifestyle is unquestionably the quest for the next great read.

Depending on one’s level of dedication, it’s a matter of spending hours or days sorting through dozens of new books to find the handful that will make you think, or laugh, or look at the world anew. This year has been absolutely exceptional, with an abundance of gems for all ages. I’ve done my best to find the best and brightest, and below you’ll find four titles for a variety of ages that are outstanding.

For the youngest among us (well, 2+) and their accompanying adults, I offer you what every parent longs for: Five Minutes’ Peace (Putnam Juvenile, 2012). All Mrs. Large wants is a little time to herself, away from her three well-intentioned but rambunctious children. After vain attempts to achieve this, and the frightening sight of her elephant offspring eating breakfast, Mrs. Large takes refuge in the bathroom with a hot bubble bath, safe in the certainty that here, at last, she is alone. Alas, as anyone with children knows, five minutes peace is much easier asked for than found. Murphy’s bright, engaging illustrations, wittily authentic text, and delightful characters make this a perfect book for any parent.

Next up is a superlative new book from an established and much-lauded author: the masterful Mr. Ian Falconer, creator of the dynamic, eccentric, Olivia the pig.

Olivia and the Fairy Princesses (Simon and Schuster, 2012) finds thoughtful, artistic Olivia weary, ill at ease, and considering the possibility that she may be having “an identity crisis.” Olivia is sick to death of pink, glittering princesses with frilly dresses and sparkly wands; she longs for diversity, for difference, for strength. Olivia is not one for standing passively by while someone—be it a knight in shining armour or a girl in a bright pink tutu—gets all the action. Redolent with Falconer’s trademark tongue-in-cheek humour and hilarious modern art references (including a spectacular, Martha-Grahamesque performance from everyone’s favourite piglet), this is an Olivia book not only for a new generation of children (4+), but for all those who have known and loved her since her first arrival 10 years ago. Rarely do I come across a picture book that makes me laugh

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or cheer out loud—Olivia does both. Read it.

Third on my list features another return appearance from a fantastic protagonist; the marvellous, inspired character of Primrose Squarp, hero of Polly Horvath’s award-winning read, Everything on a Waffle. One Year in Coal Harbour (Groundwood Books, 2012) carries on where Waffle left off, chronicling Primrose’s further adventures. Of course, nothing in Coal Harbour is ever quite as it should be, and Primrose has her hands full with a not-quite-blossoming romance between cynical, enigmatic Ms. Bowzer, proprietor of the Girl on the Red Swing restaurant, and Primrose’s uncle Jack, real estate developer and decided bachelor; the possible development of a nearby mountain; and the cultivation of a best friend in Ked, a foster child whose residency in Coal Harbour is growing more tenuous by the day.

Filled with warmth, wit, philosophy, and a fresh batch of recipes and characters, Horvath’s newest tale will delight fans and neophytes alike. 11+ Last, but certainly not least, a scrumptiously eerie read for those who like to feel their spines tingling. The Cavendish Home for Boys and Girls (Simon and Schuster, 2012) by Claire Legrand, darkly, starkly illustrated by Sarah Watts, is funny and frightening by turns, and replete with a cast of duplicitous adults, maligned, misused, and potentially rebellious children, and a heroine of daring, fortitude, and exceptional organizational abilities. Victoria likes to have everything just so, from her exams to her best (read: only) friend Lawrence. Then Lawrence disappears and suddenly, Victoria’s safe tidy life is anything but, as she sets out to rescue Lawrence, uncovers dark secrets lurking in her orderly town, and learns that perfection can come at a terrible cost. Reminiscent of Roald Dahl or Edward Gorey at their best, Legrand’s debut novel is a delightfully chilling choice for 12+.

This has been a year of incredible books; let this too be the year you challenge yourself: to go beyond the ordinary, outside the conventional, and embrace the extraordinary—you never know where it’ll take you.

Maddy Smith is a children’s bookseller and an Islander born and bred; she reads, writes, and believes in the magic of a great book.

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Sooke Options for Community Living Association Providing individuals who live with developmental and physical disabilities opportunities for personal growth, independence and participation in their community.

We provide support to families through: a Children’s Life Skills Program an Adult Community Inclusion Day Program and Summer Kids Day Camps in-line with the abilities of the kids.

We do respite in home or in agency.

To donate, volunteer or participate please contact us at 250 642 6364 ext 244 or visit our website at www.SOCLA.ca Family Resource Guide 2012/2013 57

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Mid-Island

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New Parent Resources

Central Vancouver Island Crisis Society Nanaimo . . . . . . . . . . . 250-754-4447

MIDWIVES/DOULAS Born Healthy 630 2nd Ave, Ladysmith . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-245-3079 Cowichan Midwifery Group 164 Station St, Duncan 250-709-2040 Jennifer Hewko, Registered Midwife 3799 Avolea Dr . . . . . . 250-760-1080 Journey of Birth, Certified Birth & Postpartum Doula . . journeyofbirth.ca Mid-Island Midwifery, Nanaimo 2506 Maxey Rd . . . . . . 250-741-1294 or 350 Stewart Ave . . . 250-716-1366 West Coast Doulas, Port Alberni, Parksville, Tofino & Ucluelet . . . . . . . . . . . . .westcoastdoulas.com

St. Joseph’s Early Learning Centre 785 W. Burnside Rd. 250 479 1237 www.stjosephschool.ca We are pleased to announce that our Early Learning Centre is

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announce that our Early Learning Centre is now Hours of operation are 7:30am–5:00pm. For additional time daycareplease for children who are 3 and information contact Susan Clifford at 4250-479-1237. years of age.

Ladysmith Health Unit Applications are available on-line or from the Early 224 High St . . . . . . . . .

250-755-3342 Learning Centre office. St. Josephʼs offers an excellent program in a Nanaimo Health Unit Catholic Christian atmosphere.

1655 Grant Ave . . . . . . 250-755-3342 Hours of operation are 7:30 AM - 5:00 PM. For additional information Nanaimo South Health Unit 260 Irwin St . . . . . . . . .

250-755-7855 please contact Susan Clifford at 250-479-1237.

Campbell River Public Health open! We are offering full 200-1100 Island Hwy . 250-850-2100

Parksville Health Unit 249 W. Hirst Ave . . . . . 250-248-2044 Port Alberni Health Unit 4227 6th Ave . . . . . . . . 250-724-1281

DIAPER SERVICES Happy Island Diaper Service www.happyislanddiapers.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-866-922-7377

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NEW PARENT SUPPORT Hands On Prevention & Education Centre, Gabriola Island 790 North Rd . . . . . . . . 250-247-8730 Happy Tribe Consulting karynclarke@shaw.ca . 250-739-3146

Health & Wellness

Kwumut Lelum Child & Family Services, Ladysmith 7973 Chemainus Rd . . 250-246-3336

NATUROPATHS

Nanaimo Family Life Association 1070 Townsite Rd . . . . 250-754-3331

Healthy Beginnings Ladysmith, Nanaimo . . 250-755-6230

Arbour Wellness Centre, Nanaimo 2136 Bowen Rd . . . . . . 250-729-4969

Ladysmith Association of Family & Friends . . . . . . . . . . 250-245-6424

Inspired Health Naturopathic Clinic #11-321 Wesley St . . . 250-714-0721

La Leche League, Parksville 245 West Hirst Ave . . . 250-954-2922

PSYCHOLOGISTS

Nanaimo Infant Development Program 1135 Nelson St . . . . . . 250-753-0251 Oceanside Infant Development Program, Parksville 249 West Hirst Ave . . . 250-248-2044 Welcome Wagon . welcomewagon.ca

Family Support COMMUNITY CENTRES Central Vancouver Island Multicultural Society, Nanaimo 114-285 Prideaux St . . 250-753-6911 Cherry Creek Community Centre, Port Alberni 3720 Moore Rd . . . . . . 250-724-1923 Child Development Centre 1135 Nelson St . . . . . . 250-753-3521 District 69 Family Resource Assoc.

Qualicum Beach 181 Sunningdale Rd . . 250-752-6766 Ladysmith Parks, Recreation & Culture, Ladysmith 810-6th Ave . . . . . . . . . 250-245-6424 Ladysmith Resources Centre Association 721 First Ave . . . . . . . . 250-245-3079 Gabriola Community Centre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-247-9291

Dr. Raymond Shred #120-2124 Bowen Rd . 250-758-2331 Waterman & Associates 70 Prideaux St . . . . . . . 250-754-8559 Campbell Fairweather Psychology Group, Nanaimo www.cfpsych.ca . . . . . 250-729-8181

GRIEF SUPPORT Child & Youth Grief Support, Nanaimo, 1729 Boundary Ave nanaimohospice.com . 250-758-8857 Rainbows, Nanaimo 2221 Bowen Rd . . . . . . 250-751-7888 Rainbows, Parksville (4-12 yr olds) 345 N. Pym St . . . . . . . 250-248-3927 Spectrum, Parksville (13-18yr olds) 345 N. Pym St . . . . . . . 250-248-3927

PARENT SUPPORT Associated Family & Community Support Services Ltd, Parksville 155 Weld St . . . . . . . . . 250-248-0076 BC Families in Transition 899 Fort St . . . . . . . . . . 250-386-4331 Professional counselling, legal support, group programs, information & more for families and family members of all ages when family relationships are in distress Separation/divorce; working through conflict to stay together; grief/loss.

Nanaimo Mental Health & Addiction Services . . . . . . . . . . . 250-755-3361 Nanaimo Women’s Centre 285 Selby St . . . . . . . . 250-753-0633 Nanoose First Nations 111 Snaw-Naw-As Rd . 250-390-0003 Nutsumaat Lelum, Ladysmith 3947 Shell Beach Rd . . 250-245-0994 Parent Support Circles, Nanaimo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-468-9658 Parent Support Circles, Parksville . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-468-9658 Parents Together Parents Line 20 5th St . . . . . . . . . . . 250-754-9661 Princess Royal Family Centre 260 Irwin St . . . . . . . . . 250-755-7855 Salvation Army Meal Program 505 8th St . . . . . . . . . . 250-754-2621 Snu Ney Muxw First Nations 668 Centre St . . . . . . . 250-740-2300 SOS Child Youth & Family Centre, Parksville 245 West Hirst Ave . . . 250-248-2093 The Representative for Children & Youth rcybc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-476-3933 Tillicum Lelum Friendship Centre 927 Haliburton St . . . . 250-753-8291

SPECIAL NEEDS & DISABILITY SUPPORT Child Development Centre 1135 Nelson St . . . . . . 250-753-0251 Island Deaf and Hard of Hearing Centre 205-55 Victoria Rd . . . . 250-753-0999

Big Brothers & Big Sisters, Nanaimo #3-2350 Labieux Rd . . 250-756-2447

Nanaimo Brain Injury Society 101-55 Victoria Rd . . . . 250-753-5600

Child Development Centre 1135 Nelson St . . . . . . 250-753-0251

Nanaimo Unique Kids Organization . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . nuko.ca

Family Caregivers’ Network Society 526 Michigan St . . . . . 250-384-0408 Family Resource Association, Qualicum Beach 181 Sunningdale Rd W 250-752-6766 Foster Parent Support Services 3D 132 Roberts St . . . . 250-245-2622 60 www.IslandParent.ca

Nanaimo & Area Resource Services for Families 210–170 Wallace St . . . 250-754-2773

YOUTH SERVICES ADAPT Society, Nanaimo 206-96 Cavan St . . . . . 250-754-0600 Nanaimo Youth Services 290 Bastion St . . . . . . . 250-754-1989

Diana Hurschler

Starting Baby on Solids

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s it time for your baby to venture into the world of solid food? Breast milk is the only food necessary for your little one until they show signs of needing solid food, around the middle of the first year of life. La Leche League International recommends letting baby lead the way when it comes to weaning and starting solids, saying that “ideally the breastfeeding relationship will continue until baby outgrows the need.” Allowing your baby to lead the way promotes independence in eating, and helps your child to develop a healthy relationship with food. Your job as parent in terms of food and nutrition from the moment your baby starts eating solid food until they reach a level of independence (years later) is to offer a variety of healthy options in safe shapes, sizes, portions and textures. Your child’s job is to be in charge of how much they eat. Early on, your baby can experience the taste of whole foods through a self-led approach which will set the pace of how much they want to eat.

Watch for signs that baby is ready.

Taking cues from your baby on when he wants to eat solid foods is an extension of breastfeeding on demand. While sitting on your lap at the dinner table, you may notice that your little one may take your hand and redirect your fork to his open mouth. It doesn’t get more obvious than that!

Other signs to notice are: • intently watching others eat • making little noises and sucking motions with mouth • drooling

Developmental milestones and foods to offer: Keep in mind that no two babies are alike, and they will not all meet developmental milestones at the same time. It is helpful to be aware of the importance of these milestones so you can be prepared to follow your baby’s cues as to when they are ready to start solids.

At six months, baby has good lip control, can extend and retract her tongue, and may reach for your spoon. She may be interested in some very soft foods at this point. When

food is placed on her lower lip, she will likely draw it inward. She may even move her tongue horizontally to get at food in the side of her mouth. Foods to try from six months: soft, smooth table foods such as banana, avocado, single grain, iron-fortified infant cereal (no mixed textures yet).

At eight months, she can use her upper lip to remove food from a spoon. She is able to eat soft whole foods and mashed up table food. Her hand-to-mouth coordination is improving and she may have developed a better grip so she can finger feed. Try peeled, grated apple, pear, brown rice, mashed beans, and soft cooked mashed veggies.

Iron-rich foods are important for baby, so be sure to include well-cooked shredded or slivered pieces of chicken, ground lamb or beef.

At nine months, she can chew up and down and on a diagonal. Foods to try: hard foods that dissolve (for example, graham crackers, frozen fruit pieces), soft cubes (soft cooked squash, steamed apple chunks, yams), soft chewable food with a single texture (very thin slices of meat, pasta, rice, oat ring cereal), fully cooked, well-minced meat, poultry, fish, mashed tofu, legumes.

At 12 months, your baby can drink from a cup. Her jaw can move up and down and her lips may be open during swallowing. She can bite with whatever teeth she may have, and can now manage ground, mashed or chopped food with noticeable lumps. She will choke or cough if she tries to swallow too much or eats too fast. Foods to try: soft chewable foods with mixed textures (for example, moist fully-cooked chicken pieces and veggies, macaroni and cheese, homemade baked sweet potato “fries,” spaghetti with meat sauce).

Foods associated with allergy, rash and food sensitivity: Berries containing small, hard seeds (strawberries, raspberries, blackberries), citrus fruits (oranges, lemons, grapefruit), corn products, cow milk and dairy products (may be the most common of allergens), egg whites (yolks generally are okay), kiwi fruit, peanuts and peanut butter, shellfish.

Choking risks—not suitable for babies and toddlers: Hotdogs (even small slices), nuts, popcorn, raw carrots and other similar hard foods, whole grapes, marshmallows and candies.

Other problem foods to avoid: Dried fruits and fruit bars are too sticky to deal with easily and they also stick to teeth which may lead to tooth decay Foods high in saturated fat such as fried foods are hard to digest and unhealthy Foods high in salt. Read labels closely since there are no regulations on how much sodium is allowed in even “baby friendly” foods Foods that contain added sugar or artificial sweeteners Honey or corn syrup may contain botulism spores which can make babies very sick Juice should be limited to ¼ to ½ cup per day. If you do offer juice, only offer 100 per cent unsweetened juice, but the best option is to eliminate juice completely Even if your little one hasn’t started eating solid foods yet, it is not too early to think about how to raise a healthy eater who will make wise choices into adulthood.

You can pave the way by making the very best choices for yourself and keeping your kitchen stocked with good food. At the grocery store, focus on buying foods from the perimeter of the store which is better stocked with whole foods. The food that is packaged and processed is located in the middle aisles. Embracing a “whole foods for the whole family” way of eating will clear the pathway for your child. Get in the habit of eating together every evening as a way of creating a healthy family food culture.

You’ll have time to ease into this new phase, as it could be well after their first birthday before your baby starts to favour solids over your milk. When the time comes, get out those bibs, strip down your baby, set down a tarp underneath the highchair if you have to and have a camera ready to capture those first gummy, banana-smeared smiles.

As daunting and messy as it may seem, starting your little one on solids is a very short period of time in your child’s life. While your baby is discovering new tastes and textures, remember to enjoy this milestone!

Diana Hurschler RN BScN is a perinatal educator and certified breastfeeding counselor who has worked with pre- and post-natal families since 1998. Please send comments and questions to diana@hurschler.com.

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Carly Sutherland

This Too Shall Pass Words of wisdom from The Experienced Ones “Gentle, gentle, shhhh.”

That was my grandmother, to me, as I was trying to soothe my cranky newborn by hopping around the kitchen to Arcade Fire. I had just read The Happiest Baby on the Block and was following Dr. Karp’s advice about being vigorous when bouncing your fussy baby. I think I had taken it a step too far and was whipping my child into an orchestral frenzy rather than lulling him into a tranquil slumber.

“Don’t ever say, ‘My child will never do that.’”

That was from a wise colleague. I’ve been slow to catch on to that one, too, as I’ve had to eat my words more that once.

I’m not above hiding the Sesame Street DVDs because so-and-so is coming over, and when I was pregnant I was all, “TV

FOR CHILDREN IS EVIL!” in front of her. Dumb dumb dumb.

“Maybe you should stop reading parenting books.”

This from my mother. And my husband.

I am pretty sure I’ve read, oh, EVERY PARENTING BOOK EVER PUBLISHED. Almost. Of course, some of them were extremely helpful and interesting but a large number of them either a) confused me (see previous item in list), b) patronized me, c) made me feel like a failure, or d) convinced me that my child was delayed in some area.

I admit that while I have reduced my parenting book consumption, I am still guilty as charged. But I’m working on it.

“If you ever feel like you’re not a good parent ask yourself: would you want you as a parent?”

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I heard this once, not in those exact words, and I can’t remember where. But that’s the gist of it, and I love it. I have had many a moment when I put my head in my hands and tearily declared myself the Worst Parent Ever. Usually it’s for something stupid, like pinching a little chin flesh with a zipper or having a fleeting wish for kindergarten to begin, oh, tomorrow. I find that if I stop and ask myself that question, the answer is (almost) always YES. And that helps.

“This too shall pass.”

Almost every friend/family member who was a mother before me told me this at one point, and more than once. It’s because it’s the mantra of parents everywhere. If you are a new parent, and you haven’t heard it yet, start chanting it NOW. Think you’ll never sleep again? This too shall pass. Two year molars gettin’ ya down? This too shall pass.

Kiddo obsessed with Barney? This too shall pass. Teen queen breaking into your liquor cabinet? Again? This too shall pass. This too shall pass. This too shall pass. (Hopefully.)

Carly Sutherland can say from personal experience that she no longer has a crush on Jesus (Grade 4), shuns vegetables (ages 2-9), or wears combat boots with every outfit (grade 10). So yes, most things do pass.

Mid-Island

Chemainus, Ladysmith, Nanaimo, Parksville

Youth Pass!

Education PRESCHOOLS & CHILD CARE

BC Transit offers a special pass for youth throughout the year.

Aspengrove Early Learning Centre aspengroveschool.ca . 250-933-2223 Cherry Tree Child Care Centre, Chemainus 10114 View St . . . . . . . 250-246-9195

The BC Transit Youth Pass gives riders ages 6 to 18 unlimited travel throughout the Victoria Regional Transit System.

Children’s Discovery Centre, Qualicum Beach . . . . . 250-752-4343

Just $35 per month for a minimum of six months.

Little Star Children’s Centre Qualicum Beach . . . . . 250-752-4554 Nanaimo Parent Participation Preschool 1998 Estevan Rd . . . . . 250-753-1939

For details visit www.bctransit.com and click Victoria – fares.

PacificCare Child Care Resource & Referral . . . . . . islandfamilyinfo.ca / ccrr.bc.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-756-2022

IF IT’S GREEN...

St Joseph’s Preschool, Chemainus 9735 Elm St . . . . . . . . . 250-246-3191

JUST GO!

Vancouver Island Co-operative Preschool Association . . www.vicpa.org

SCHOOL DISTRICTS Conseil scolaire francophone de la Columie-Britannique #180-10200 Shellbridge Way, Richmond . . . . . . . . . 1-888-715-2200 School District #68 (Nanaimo-Ladysmith) 395 Wakesiah Ave . . . . 250-754-5521

www.bctransit.com • 250·382·6161 2100

School District #69 (Qualicum) 100 Jensen Ave . . . . . . 250-248-4241

Victoria Regional Transit Commission

INDEPENDENT SCHOOLS Aspengrove School . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-390-2201 John Paul II Catholic School, Port Alberni 4006 8th Ave . . . . . . . . 250-723-0637 Linnaea School, Cortes Island . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-935-6747 Morning Glory School, Qualicum 861 Hilliers Rd . . . . . . . 250-752-2722 Nanaimo Christian School 198 Holland Rd . . . . . . 250-754-4512 Nanaimo Montessori School 945 Waddington Rd . . . 250-753-0649 Family Resource Guide 2012/2013 63

St. Joseph’s Catholic School Chemainus 9735 Elm St . . . . . . . . . 250-246-3191

Christ Church Cathedral School Jr. Kindergarten (ages 3 – 4) | K – Grade 8

DISTANCE EDUCATION

• Small classes size (max 22) • High calibre academic instruction • Strong focus on Fine Arts • Progressive athletics programs • Before and after school care

CEAP School District #69 Home Learning Program . . . 250-954-3043 Hands-On Home-Learning for a Sustainable World 2738 Higgins St . . . . . 1-888-383-6619 North Island Distance Education School, Courtenay navigatenides.com . . . 250-337-5300

Every day is an Open House at Cathedral School Call us to arrange your personal tour

LEARNING CENTRES & TUTORS Amber Scotchburn Training Consultants, Nanoose Bay amberscotchburn.com 250-821-8214

250-383-5125 | 912 Vancouver Street | www.cathedralschool.ca

Book now for a tour!

5575 West Saanich Rd (across from Red Barn Market) 250 592 4411 imhs@telus.net www.islandmontessori.com

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We help students in all subjects: Grades 1-12, ESL (all levels), Special Ed, Study Skills, Gifted programs and French immersion. Rated A+ with BBB. Sylvan Learning Centre 3260 Norwell Dr . . . . . . 250-758-1526 Digital tablet technology, innovative teaching techniques, motiviational programs and the Sylvan Skills Assessment, continue to make Sylvan the leader in supplemental education from K-12. Call today to find out more Tutor Doctor Tutoring-Nanaimo.com 250-753-7539

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POST SECONDARY EDUCATION Collége Éducacentre #420-256 Wallace St . . 250-741-1288 Sprott-Shaw Community College . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-754-9600 Vancouver Island University 900 5th St . . . . . . . . . . 250-753-3245

OTHER Chemainus Community Schools’ Association 3172 Garner St . . . . . . 250-246-3588

Classes & Programs

GNS. The Power of the Small.

Join Ella, and all of us at GNS, and find out why we are Victoria’s finest day school.

ART PROGRAMS 4Cats Arts Academy #13-7217 Lantzville Rd 250-390-2724 2002A Comox Ave . . . . 250-941-8444

CLUBS & ACTIVITIES Boys & Girls Club, Chemainus 3172B Garner St . . . . . 250-246-5421 Boys & Girls Club, Ladysmith 730 3rd Ave . . . . . . . . . 250-245-8921 Boys & Girls Club, Lantzville 7-7221 Lantzville Rd . . 250-390-4001 Boys & Girls Club, Nanaimo 20 5th St . . . . . . . . . . . 250-754-3215

Do your best through truth and courage

OPEN HOUSE

October 26, 2012 & February 15, 2013 9:00 a.m. to noon 250.370.6801 • w3w.mygns.ca

Cadets-Navy League of Canada, Port Alberni 4210 Cedarwood St . . 250-723-7442

DANCE Brigadoon Dance Academy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-756-3661 O’Brien School of Irish Dance, Nanaimo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-758-0208

DAY CAMPS VIU’s GrandKids University, Nanaimo 900 Fifth St . . . . . . . . 1-866-734-6252

GYMNASTICS Flipside Gymnastics flipsidegymnastics.ca . 250-756-9102

LIBRARIES Vancouver Island Regional Library Campbell River Branch 1240 Shopper’s Row . . 250-287-3655 Chemainus Branch 2592 Legion St . . . . . . 250-246-9471 Hornby Island Branch 1765 Sollans Rd . . . . . 250-335-0044 Family Resource Guide 2012/2013 65

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forever!

Ladysmith Branch #3-740 1st Ave . . . . . . . 250-245-2322 Nanaimo Harbourfront Branch 90 Commercial Dr. . . . . 250-753-1154 Nanaimo Wellington Branch 3032 Barons Rd . . . . . . 250-758-5544 Parksville Branch 100E Jenson Ave East . 250-248-3841 Port Alberni Branch 4245 Wallace St . . . . . . 250-723-9511 Qualicum Beach Branch #101–660 Primrose St . 250-752-6121

MUSIC PROGRAMS BC Registered Music Teachers Association . . . . . . . 1-866-756-2304

www.qwanoes.ca 1-888-99-QWANOES

SUMMER CAMPS FOR ALL AGES

Arbutus Music, Nanaimo 6324 Metral Dr . . . . . . . 250-933-1900 Music for Young Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-800-828-4334 Nanaimo Community Band . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-722-3088 Nanaimo Conservatory of Music ncmusic.ca . . . . . . . . . . 250-754-4611 Jacinthe Laramee Piano Studio 3469 Osprey Lookout, Nanaimo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-751-2454

RECREATION CENTRES Beban Park Social Centre 2300 Bowen Rd . . . . . . 250-756-5200 Bowen Park Complex 500 Bowen Rd . . . . . . . 250-756-5200 Frank Crane Arena 2300 Bowen Rd . . . . . . 250-756-5200 Kinsmen Park Pool 5779 Alderlea St . . . . . . 250-246-3811

Hallowe’en Howl

Ladysmith Parks, Recreation & Culture, 810-6th Ave 250-245-6424

Greenglade Community Centre, 2151 Lannon Way Sunday, October 28, 4:30pm - 6pm

Nanaimo Aquatic Centre 741 Third St . . . . . . . . . 250-756-5200

FREE - All Ages

A fang-tastic Halloween event for the entire family, which includes a carnival of games, craft activities, face painting, family entertainment and our giant inflatable obstacle course! Don’t forget to wear your costume!

Stelly’s School, 1627 Stelly’s Cross RRoad Friday, October 26, 4:30pm - 6pm

Carnival of games provided by Panorama Recreation and students of Stelly’s Secondary School.

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McGirr Sports Complex 6185 McGirr Rd . . . . . . 250-756-1173

Nanaimo Ice Centre 750 Third St . . . . . . . . . 250-756-5200 North Cowichan Parks & Recreation, Chemainus 2876 Fuller Lake Rd . . . 250-246-3811 Oliver Woods Community Centre 6000 Oliver Rd . . . . . . . 250-756-5200 Ravensong Aquatic Centre 737 Jones St . . . . . . . . 250-752-5014

SCIENCE/NATURE Morell Nature Sanctuary 787 Nanaimo Lakes . . . 250-753-5811

OTHER Spanish World, Nanaimo . . . . . . . . . nanaimospanishtutor.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-585-1888

Party Planning

8-week Group Therapy Offerings for kids and for adults Adults

Project Hope Strengthening, Rebuilding, and Empowering Families of Offenders

Adults

Adults

The Self-Esteem Group It’s Okay to be Okay

Change Happens Finding Direction, Support and Inspiration through Change

Middle Schoolers

Elementary Schoolers

Anxiety At Bay

Overcoming OCD

A Group to Help Middle Schoolers Overcome Anxiety

A Group for Elementary School Children

ACTIVE PARTY PLACES Jumping Jiminy’s Playland #400-2980 Island Hwy 250-729-0999

ENTERTAINERS Mad Science . . . .madscience.org/vancouverisland . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-391-1814

Supporting growth and wellness through professional care

PARTY SUPPLIES/PLANNING Funtime Inflatables (Victoria) 656 Caleb Pike Rd . . . . 250-474-0556

www.arbourcounselling.ca

Joel Durkovic, M.A., RCC, RMFT Liz Prette, M.A., RCC Jacqueline Nikolejsin, M.Ed., RCC

250.479.9912

Family Fun & Entertainment FESTIVALS & FAIRS Filberg Festival Comox Valley . . . . . . . 1-866-898-8499

MUSEUMS Alberni Valley Museum 4255 Wallace St . . . . . . 250-723-2181 Black Nugget Museum, Ladysmith 12 Gatacre St . . . . . . . 250-245-4846 Comox Air Force Museum 19 Wing Rd . . . . . . . . . 250-339-8162 Courtenay Museum . . 250-334-0686 McLean Mill National Historic Site 5633 Smith Rd . . . . . . . 250-723-1376 Nanaimo District Museum 100 Cameron Rd . . . . . 250-753-1821

NATURE Butterfly World 1080 Winchester Rd . . 250-248-7026 Family Resource Guide 2012/2013 67

Filberg Heritage Park 61 Filberg Rd . . . . . . . . 250-339-2715 Horne Lake Caves Qualicum Beach . . . . . 250-248-7829 Morrell Nature Sanctuary 787 Nanaimo Lk Rd . . . 250-753-5811 North Island Wildlife Recovery 1240 Leffler, Parksville . 250-248-8534 Pacific Rainforest Adventure Tours . . . . . . . . . rainforestnaturehikes.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-248-3667 Seaview Game Farm, Black Creek 1392 Seaview Rd . . . . . 250-337-5182 World Parrot Refuge, Coombs 2116 Alberni Hwy . . . . 250-248-5194 Yellow Point Cranberries, Ladysmith . . . . yellowpointcranberries@shaw.ca . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250-245-5283

THEATRE & ART Chemainus Theatre 9737 Chemainus Rd . . 250-246-9800 Port Theatre, Nanaimo 125 Front St . . . . . . . . . 250-754-8550 Theatre One www.theatreone.org . . 250-754-7587

FAMILY FUN Jumping Jiminy’s Playland & Café 2980 Island Hwy . . . . . 250-729-0999 Romper Room Indoor Climbing 4835B Boban Dr . . . . . 250-751-7625 Tiger Lily Farms Barnyard & Trail Rides 1692 Errington Rd . . . . 250-248-2408 Wild Play Element Parks, Nanaimo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .WildPlayParks.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1-888-668-7874

Retail Products Family BICYCLES Restaurants & Food Markets Oak Bay Bicycles, Nanaimo 2-5771 Turner Rd . . . . 250-760-0211

CLOTHING Huckleberry Baby Shop, Nanaimo 12A-4376 Boban Drive 250-585-5552 Indigo Children’s Consignment 436 1st St, Ladysmith . 250-245-2042 Pumpkin Pie Kids Wear 411A Fitzwilliam St . . . 250-754-3933

FURNITURE Dream With Me Custom Bedding 115 Chapel St . . . . . . . 250-754-2192

MUSIC STORES Tom Lee Music #10-6894 Island Hwy N 250-390-2626

SHOPPING CENTRES Woodgrove Centre, Nanaimo 6631 Island Hwy North . . . . . . . . . . . . woodgrovecentre.com

TOYS/EDUCATIONAL SUPPLIES Kool & Child, Nanaimo koolandchild.com . . . . 250-585-1778

MARKETS Country Grocer . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . countrygrocer.com Thrifty Foods Nanaimo 650 Terminal Ave . . . . . 250-754-6273 5801 Turner Rd . . . . . . 250-729-4950 Parksville 280 E. Island Hwy . . . . 250-248-8823 Courtenay . . . . . . . . . . 250-338-1383 Campbell River . . . . . . 250-850-3581 Chemainus Health Food Store 9738B Willow St . . . . . 250-246-9838 Lantzville Market 7201 Lantzville Rd . . . . 250-390-4232

RESTAURANTS ABC Country Restaurant 6671 Mary Ellen Way . . 250-390-4064 809 Island Hwy . . . . . . 250-754-8171 Serious Coffee . . . seriouscoffee.com 6 Mid-Island locations.

Wendy’s Restaurant . . . . wendys.ca

PHOTOGRAPHERS Erin Wallis Photography, Campbell River . . . . . . . . . . . . . . erinwallis.com

Enter Our Online Contests Every month at Island Parent and Kids In Victoria you can enter to win some great prizes!

October Contest: 1st Prize is a $500 Gift Card to Thrifty Foods.

2nd Prize is a Discovery Toys Family Game Package ($100 value).

An additional 3 winners will receive their choice of of an item from our prize table.

Check out the prizes and enter the contests by visiting

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Ad Directory Abra Kid Abra.................. 20 Arbour Counselling........... 67 Arbutus Music................ IBC BC Families in Transition..... 6 BC SPCA......................... 13 BC Transit........................ 63 Beesafe Solutions............ 17 Bellies in Bloom............... 10 Blue Vista Resort.............. 47 Cadboro Bay Optometry... 51 Camp Qwanoes............... 66 Canadian Blood Services.. 50 Capernwray..................... 46 Cathedral School.............. 64 Child Care Resource and Referral................. 44 Children’s Bookshop......... 14 Children’s Education Fund........................... 72 Cinecenta........................ 20 Conseil Scolaire............... 43 CRD Parks....................... 27 Discovery School............. 70 The Duet........................... 7 Eaton Arrowsmith............. 33 Esquimalt Recreation....... 20 Forward Equestrian.......... 25 Fringefest........................ 64 Galey Farms.................... 11 Glenlyon Norfolk School.... 65 GT Hiring Solutions.......... 29 Guitar in Motion............... 39 Happy Island Diapers....... 38 Hip Baby......................... 59 Horne Lake Caves............ 58 IMAX Theatre................... 23 Island Farms.................... 36 Island Graphics................ 59 Island Montessori............. 64 Island Swimming............. 25 JamTots.......................... 65 Jump Up Inflatables Kaleidoscope................... 39 Kate Rubin Theatre & Drama......................... 12 Kool & Child..................... 58 Kye Bay Resort................ 46 Ladysmith Parks.............. 58 Larsen Music................... 21 LIFE Seminars.................. 13 Lifestyle Markets.............. 39 The Light Within Photography................ 25 Lighthouse Academy of Dance..................... 38 Little Steps...................... 19 Mac Zen.......................... 15 Mad Science................... 57 Maria Montessori............. 57 Maritime Museum............ 24 Monarch House................. 2

Mothering Touch.............. 19 Karen Murdoch................ 18 Nanaimo Conservatory of Music...................... 58 Nanaimo Parks................ 62 Notaries on Douglas......... 51 Oak & Orca.................23, 44 The OCEAN 98.5............. 26 Oxford Learning............... 71 Pacific Undersea Gardens... 9 Panorama Leisure............ 66 Park Sands..................... IBC Pemberton Holmes.......... 23 Pizzeria Prima Strada....... 67 Positive Path................... IBC Rae Murphy Photography................ 39 Rainbow Express.............. 63 READ Society..................... 8 Red Balloon Toy Shop....... 62 Restart Computers............. 9 Royal BC Museum........... 71 Saanich Recreation..........IFC Savvy Squirrel.................. 27 Scallywags......................IFC Scouts............................. 55 SelfDesign....................... 12 Serious Coffee................. 55 Shaw Ocean Discovery..... 54 The Shipley Group............ 29 Sooke Options For Community Living........ 57 Sportball............................ 8 St. Joseph’s School.......... 59 St. Margaret’s School......... 4 St Michaels University School......................... 16 Stagecoach Langford.......IFC Success by Six................. 36 Sunrise Waldorf.............. IBC Sylvan Learning............... 17 Theatre ONE.................... 58 Thrifty Foods.................1, 37 Tigh Na Mara................... 47 TJs................................. 21 Tom Lee Music................ 66 Valentus Clinic................. 35 Vancouver Island Naturopathic Clinic....... 29 Victoria Epilepsy & Parkinson’s Centre....... 34 Victoria Gymnastics.......... BC Victoria Midwives............... 5 Victoria Symphony........... 72 VIHA................................ 40 Vitamin Shop................... 11 Welcome Wagon.............. 49 Westhills......................... 10 Westside Stables............. 34 Wild Play Element Parks... 71

Business & Professional Directory

Growth Investment

In-home Tutoring

Discovery Toys needs new Distributors and Testers of our engaging, awardwinning educational toys, books and games!

For a Free workshop on how to choose and use our products or to start your own Discovery Toys Home Business contact:

Lisa Woo, Director & Trainer

250 477 9891 www.toylady.ca

Natural Health Care for Children Homeopathy & Nutrition for:

Smart Tutor Referrals.com Enriching Young Minds in Victoria since 2002.

Call 250-544-1588 to learn more.

Our Family Realtor ®

• Autism & ASD • Developmental Disorders • Behavioural Disorders • Ear Infections • Asthma • Eczema

Nancy Vieira

www.drzimmermann.org 250-590-5828

Where Kids Become Authors!

Writing and bookmaking for all ages.

Check out the website for workshops and camps.

www.storystudio.ca or call 250-592-BOOK

250-514-4750 Supervised Access Visits Looking for a way to ease the stress of being Separated or Divorced with Children?

Professional Services Flexible hours (including weekends)

Transition Services for Families Phone 250-590-4114 Email info@tsconsultingvictoria.ca or find us online at

www.tsconsultingvictoria.ca

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Nancy Dohan

Feast of the Salmon

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veryone has gathered for the annual banquet of salmon. No invitations were sent out, no RSVPs were required, it was “come as you are” with bears, ravens, bald eagles, gulls, kingfishers, dippers, ducks, river otters, raccoons, and a myriad of unseen bacteria—to name a few—on the guest list. The table has been set, and the menu is mouth-watering if you like dining on Pacific salmon. We mustn’t forget the humans; they too gather in great numbers to witness the spectacle of spawning salmon.

During the months of October and November, in B.C.’s creeks and rivers, Pacific salmon, Oncorhynchus, complete their cycle with an awe-inspiring ritual of life, death and rebirth. The waters are turbulent as thousands of salmon, driven by instinct to their natal streams, come to spawn and die.

But this is neither the beginning nor the end of the story. The feast is sublime and all the guests leave for warmer climes, hibernation or a more readily available food source. Little trace of the spawning display remains to be seen. Under the rocks and stones, however, the salmon eggs are slowly developing into alevin,

larval salmon with a yolk sac providing all the nutrients they need. In a few months the tiny juvenile fry are ready to begin their adventures swimming through the creeks dodging herons, rainbow trout and other voracious predators.

They either remain in the freshwater streams for a year or move to the deeper waters of the estuaries, undergoing the transformation from fresh to saltwater existence, and finally they make their way into the great ocean for four or five years until they, too, are mysteriously called to the creeks of their birth to complete their lives. It is a perfect cycle that beckons to all of us to be amazed at this spectacle of the natural world for the annual salmon run. You will be amazed! Dinner is served for many and no one goes hungry.

Various organizations, from local conservation groups to government agencies, have enhanced spawning habitat in concerted efforts to steward this precious natural resource.

CRD Regional Parks and the British Columbia Conservation Foundation are undertaking a project to increase water flow releases from Thetis Lake Regional Park into Craigflower

Creek to improve summer coho and cutthroat salmon habitat.

Whether you’re a local resident or just visiting the area, plan an excursion to view this spectacle. Sooke Potholes Regional Park and

Photo: Dan Bennett

Goldstream Provincial Park offer excellent wildlife viewing. There is also an adults-only guided hike at Sooke Potholes being led by a CRD Regional Parks naturalist on October 14. Check the website for details: www.crd. bc.ca/parks.

Nancie Dohan is Coordinator of Environmental Interpretation with CRD Regional Parks.

Transforming disability into ability.

At Discovery School, learning disabilities are transformed into valuable skills and abilities. Students work at their own pace in small classes, with focused, individualized instruction.

• Experienced, highly-qualified teachers • Ongoing assessment, evaluation & feedback • Improves organizational & study skills • Boost confidence, independence & responsibility • Nurturing environment based on Christian values • For students aged 7 – 17 in grades 1 – 11 • Individual Education Plans • Low student/teacher ratio

Enrolment is limited. For more information or to arrange a tour, visit www.discoveryschool.ca, call Sherri Ko at 250-595-7765 or email principal@discoveryschool.ca 70 www.IslandParent.ca

Pre-K to Grade 12 Grammar

Reading Study Skills

Writing Homework

Math French

This is what motivation looks like Call today, or visit oxfordlearning.com Victoria 203-1595 McKenzie Ave. Victoria, BC, V8N 1A4

250.477.5550

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AFTER SCHOOL

Special

Oct 15 – Nov 15, 2012 Looking for something fun to do after school? Stop in at the Royal BC Museum on your way home and get in for HALF PRICE!

Monday – Thursday only 3:30 – 5 pm Not valid with any other offers. Not valid for IMAX. Not valid on “family” admission.

BC Bites & Beverages Food From the Home Front

Join author Carolyn Herriot as she hosts the evening, presenting on the history of ‘Victory Gardens’ and enjoy food pairings created from the BC Archives recipe books.

Thursday, November 8, 2012. 7 – 9 pm Get your ticket online or at the box office.

Members $35 + HST Non members $40 + HST

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The Snowman A Concert for Kids SUNDAY NOVEMBER 18, 2:30 pm ROYAL THEATRE Enjoy the film version of the beloved story The Snowman by Raymond Briggs with live musical accompaniment by the Victoria Symphony and Maestro Joey!

Come early for the VS Instrument Petting Zoo and other activities in the lobby.

victoriasymphony.ca or 250.385.6515

Kids Grow Fast.

So Do Tuition Costs.

Before your child grows another inch, start saving with Children’s Education Funds Inc. (CEFI). CEFI has the greatest selection of Registered Education Savings Plan offerings. It’s easy and very affordable. You can get started for under $10.00 per month! Keep saving - you’ll be surprised at how much you can accumulate. Add to your savings all the Government Grants, the “cash back” from your CEFI no fee MasterCard and the AIR MILES® reward miles.

At CEFI, we are education funding specialists!

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“Parent Tested, Parent Approved”

If you have kids… and you like camping… try Park Sands Beach Resort this summer!

A vibrant island community, abundant with the arts, surrounded by organic farms and endless outdoor adventures.

RV Park & Campground

A quiet, family place – on the beach – in Parksville.

www.parksands.com 1.877.873.1600 Music education for the whole family!

Toddler, Youth, Adult & Professional Musician Classes, Workshops and More!

Music is proven to improve Memory, Motor Skills, Learning Skills & Listening Abilities

It’s never to early or late to start learning how to play!

Come and join us at an Arbutus Music Open House this season: Sundays: November 4th, 2012 • December 16th, 2012 February 24th, 2013 • April 14th, 2013 • June 9th, 2013 Music, food and fun for the whole family. Check the website for details!

250 933 1900 arbutusmusic.com

Arbutus Music Store and Education Centre 6324 Metral Drive, Nanaimo

Parent & Child Mornings, Preschool, Kindergarten, Grade 1-8, & Aftercare until 5:30pm.

since 1980.

Our 7 acre rural campus Is located in the Cowichan Valley, 7km South of Duncan.

Come visit us to see why Waldorf Education is the fastest growing Education system in North America. www.sunrisewaldorfschool.org | 250-743-7253

ctoria Gymnastics

Why Victoria Gymnastics?

Boys & girls, ages 2 through adult, beginner through advanced Morning, afternoon & evening classes seven days a week Start any time Optional character

Monthly payments with no further obligation—cancel any time Optional character

Trial classes available

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Make-ups for missed classes

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We guarantee your child will flip over our Birthday Parties!

Benefits Victoria Gymnastics Will Provide for your Child: • Unlike other gymnastics clubs, our priority is ‘non-competitive’ gymnastics where all students are treated equally and fairly. Our objective is to provide students with a foundation of gymnastics that will benefit them for the rest of their lives.

• Your child's progress is monitored daily, and every 3 months, each student is awarded a medal indicating his or her progress in our 14 level, 600 skill program.

• Our ratio guarantee of a maximum of 8 students per instructor will provide your child with the Individualized attention he or she deserves.

• We are a family oriented business. Classes are scheduled so that varying ages and genders can take part in different classes at the same time.

• Clean. Very Clean. Our facilities are ozone treated.

• Consistent, safe and experienced coaching in a well structured, safe and fun environment—all of our coaches have their NCCP certification and First Aid.

www.victoriagymnastics.com

250-380-2442

Celebrating 33 Years of Excellence!