April 2012 Island Parent

Island Parent The Resource Publication for Vancouver Island Parents

April 2012

Farms & Families Sing-a-long on Earth Day

Special Needs Programs & Services

Summer Camp Fun

All for One how We Can all help Families with Special Needs Too Much Information readers respond Blended Families

Announcing the 2013 Down Syndrome Cruise Conference

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Feb 25 – Mar 2, 2013 to Labadee, Haiti and Falmouth, Jamaica!

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Speakers: Dr. Teresa Cody, Kent MacLeod, Geralyn Spiesz, Kristen Morrison, Linda Kane, Cyndi Ringoen & Dr. Norman Schwartz

www.rosalienewellwagner.cruiseshipcenters.com Secure your preferred stateroom! Prices starting from $728.73 per person cruise only, based on double occupancy (incl. taxes, fees, prepaid gratuities and $50 conference fee) Contact: Rosalie Newell-Wagner, Parent of child with Down syndrome Email: rosaliewagner@cruiseshipcenters.com Tel: 250-540-6529 Toll Free: 1-855-DSCRUIZ (1-855-372-7849)

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SATURDAY, APRIL 28, 2012 Arts Centre at Cedar Hill 11:00am - 3:00pm

Join “Juno Award” winning musician Norman Foote for a concert as well as a song-writing workshop. This free family eventt features a wide variety of hands on activities and exhibits that allow you to explore the world of visual and performing arts.

HANDS ON ART ACTIVITES • FAMILY ENTERTAINMENT • FREE FAMILY FUN

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LIVE MUSIC DANCE ART/DISPLAYS KIDS’ STUFF FOOD & MORE

A FREE FUNFILLED FAMILY EVENT

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Contents: April 2012 Feature All For One................................................................................................... 14

Articles Ten Per Cent Shift......................................................................................... 10 Blended Families........................................................................................... 12 Families & Farms.......................................................................................... 18 Summer Camp Fun....................................................................................... 22 Sing-a-long on Earth Day.............................................................................. 25 Secure Your Own Happiness First................................................................. 26 Lessons of a Six-Pack Mom........................................................................... 30 Special Needs Resources................................................................................ 38 Too Much Information.................................................................................. 42

Columns Editor’s Note................................................................................................... 3 Healthy Families; Happy Families................................................................. 44 Dadspeak...................................................................................................... 46 Just Eat It!..................................................................................................... 48 Book Nook................................................................................................... 50 Is There an App for This?.............................................................................. 52 New Parent Pages.......................................................................................... 56 Maternity & Beyond..................................................................................... 60 Nature Notes................................................................................................ 62 Cut It Out..................................................................................................... 64

Departments MAY 17 – SEP 16 The exhibition is organized by the American Museum of Natural History, New York (www.amh.org), in collaboration with the Houston Museum of Natural Science; California Academy of Science, San Francisco; The Field Museum, Chicago; and North Carolina Museum of Natural Sciences, Raleigh. © American Museum of Natural History. Image Courtesy of the Royal Tyrrell Museum of Palaeontology.

Site and Sound April 29, 1 pm – 3 pm Free with admission or membership

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IPM Notes....................................................................................................... 4 Party Directory........................................................................................ 28, 29 Family Calendar............................................................................................ 32 Around the Island......................................................................................... 37 Family Services Directory........................................................................ 54, 55 Preschool & Child Care Directory........................................................... 58, 59 Business & Professional Directory................................................................. 61 Island Parent Magazine, produced by Island Parent Group Enterprises Ltd., is a monthly publication that honours and supports parents by providing information on resources and businesses for families, and a forum for the exchange of ideas and opinions. Views expressed are not necessarily those of the publisher. Letters (max 250 words) should be emailed to the Editor at editor@islandparent.ca. No material herein may be reproduced without the permission of the Editor. Unsolicited manuscripts are welcome and should be emailed to editor@islandparent.ca.

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Shoe Laces & Outer Space

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ids these days.

According to an online survey by the British energy company npower, many of today’s children don’t know how to climb a tree, tie their shoes, or make a cup of tea—after all, this is a British survey.

Researchers polled 1,000 respondents who have children between the ages of 5 and 13 and found the following:

Top 10 things children aged 5 to 13 can’t do: 1. Recognise three types of butterfly, 91 per cent 2. Repair a punctured bike tire, 87 per cent 3. Tie a reef knot, 83 per cent 4. Read a map, 81 per cent 5. Build a camp fire, 78 per cent/Put up a tent, 78.5 per cent 6. Spot a blackbird, sparrow or robin 71 per cent 7. Make papier mâché, 72 per cent 8. Make a cup of tea, 65 per cent 9. Build a fort, 63 per cent 10. Climb a tree, 59 per cent All hope is not lost, though. According

to the survey, new skills have replaced the old ones.

Top 10 things children aged 5 to 13 can do: 1. Work a DVD player, 67 per cent 2. Log onto the internet, 58 per cent 3. Play computer games on games console, (Wii, Xbox or similar), 50 per cent 4. Make a phone call, 46 per cent 5. Use a handheld games console (Nintendo DSi, PSP or similar), 45 per cent 6. Use an iPhone (or smartphone), 42 per cent 7. Work a PVR, 41 per cent 8. Send a text message, 38 per cent 9. Search for clips on YouTube, 37 per cent 10. Use an iPad (or tablet computer), 31 per cent Does this mean we parents should all be limiting our children’s screen time and investing in shoes with Velcro fasteners instead of shoes with old-fashioned laces?

Or forks with rounded tines?

Maybe. But chances are, the 37 per cent who are capable of searching for clips on YouTube will be able to find an assortment of instructional videos covering everything

from the how-to’s of tying shoes to avoiding impaling oneself on a fork.

And what does it matter if kids can’t read a map? With GPS devices getting cheaper,

Editor’s Note Sue Fast smaller, and more portable, carrying around paper maps, asking for directions, and even getting lost are increasingly rare, kind of like VCRs, phone booths and handwriting.

So instead of fretting over the survey’s findings, maybe we should be trying to raise our children to survive in the future rather than the past. After all, of the 37 per cent of kids in the survey who said they didn’t care about the environment, more than half explained their answer by saying it’s because “in the future we’ll be able to live in space.”

Maybe they will.

If that’s the case, I’m sure there’ll be at least one YouTube video demonstrating how to build a space station. And lace up moon boots.

Cover Photo Contest For the 2012 Family Summer Guide or Kids’ Guide to Victoria & Vancouver Island Send us a colourful, clear photo of your kids or family enjoying a summer moment, and it may end up on the cover of this year’s Family Summer Guide or Kids’ Guide.

1st Prize: Main cover photo on the Family Summer Guide and two nights at Beach Acres Resort, Parksville. Runners up: Five or more runners up will receive two IMAX tickets and their photos will be featured on the cover of either the Family Summer Guide or Kids’ Guide.

Only digital submissions will be accepted. Send a maximum of three photos of medium or higher resolution. Photos must be colour shots of children or families in Vancouver Island locations.

Contest is open to Vancouver Island residents only. Entry deadline is Tuesday, April 24, 2012; winners will be notified by email by May 18. Winning photos become the property of Island Parent Magazine.

Send entries to: mada@islandparent.ca

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IPM Notes Daffodil Month This spring, the Canadian Cancer Society is asking British Columbians to join the fight against cancer by making a donation and wearing the iconic daffodil pin.

This little yellow symbol will let people fighting the disease know that they are not

families. It also provides transportation services, accommodations and short-term financial assistance for treatment-related transportation and accommodation. The volunteers and staff deliver cancer support programs, cancer prevention information, advocate for healthier communities and fundraise for cancer research.

It takes courage to take on a fight with cancer. Help get the Cancer Society’s daffodil onto the lapels of British Columbians.

Show those affected by cancer that they are not alone—we are fighting with them.

You can find a pin at these province wide locations: Pharmasave, BC Liquor Stores, Marketplace IGA, WirelessWave and Tbooth Mobile and Chevron Town Pantry.

For a full listing of locations visit fightback.ca.

Brant Wildlife Festival

alone on their cancer journey. They are supported by friends, family and the Society through its support services.

The Society delivers programs for individuals seeking cancer information, emotional support, and camps for children, youth and

From March 29-April 10, the Nature Trust of British Columbia is hosting the 2012 Brant Wildlife Festival in both Parksville and Qualicum Beach. Activities range from the Opening Night Kick-off Reception to “Brant in the Bay,” where the public is invited to head down to the Parksville Community Park with the Arrowsmith Naturalists and watch the Brant Geese as

they feed along the shoreline. The cost to participate ranges from free or by donation to a maximum of $25.

The festival celebrates nature, birds, and the Brant geese in particular. Brant geese have a migratory path stretching between Mexico and the Alaska Peninsula, which means that when they pause for a rest on the shores of B.C., they are thin, hungry and exhausted. They only have a few days to feed and regain strength before they embark on a non-stop flight to Alaska.

The Nature Trust is concerned with the diminishing numbers of Brant Geese and claim that this is due to both climate change and loss of habitat. The Trust welcomes volunteers, participants, and donations in its effort to raise awareness of the Brant Geese and their territory.

For a partial list of events, please see Island Parent’s Around the Island calendar on page 37. For more information, to register for events, or to make a donation, go to brantfestival.bc.ca, e-mail rrivers@ naturetrust.bc.ca, or call Robin Rivers toll free at 1-866-288-7878.

Victoria Children’s Choir It’s time for VCC’s Talent Search, with auditions starting this month. Kids ages 8-15

Transforming disability into ability.

At Discovery School, learning disabilities are transformed into valuable skills and abilities. Students work at their own pace in small classes, with focused, individualized instruction.

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Experienced, high-qualified teachers Ongoing assessment, evaluation & feedback Improves organizational & study skills Boosts confidence, independence & responsibility Nurturing environment based on Christian values For students aged 7–17 in grades 1–11 Individual Education Plans Low student/teacher ratio Serving Victoria families for over 35 years

Enrolment is limited. For more information or to arrange a tour, visit www.discoveryschool.ca, call Sherri Ko at 250-595-7765 or email principal@discoveryschool.ca

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are invited to audition for the choir’s 12th season from September 2012 to June 2013.

VCC’s program offers: • opportunities to perform in exclusive events and concerts, and with respected artists • a new singing challenge, and the training to conquer that challenge • a way to develop natural talents • greater self-confidence • social experiences that teach teamwork, respect and motivation.

The Concert Choir and Apprentice Choir will learn a variety of masterpieces and modern arrangements that teach vocal technique at an international-performance level. As the choristers’ abilities grow, so will their knowledge and affection for all music—an appreciation easily shared among families as a whole.

Kids and teens who audition should be keen to contribute to the choir, have a good musical ear, pleasant voice in terms of resonance and breath support, and an ability to read language. With numerous rehearsals, performances, camps, and tours, choristers need to be in good physical health to fully participate in choir activities.

Kids 8-15 should come to the audition prepared with a song to perform, a head shot or photograph, and enthusiasm.

To reserve an audition on April 14, May 12, June 2, or August 25, phone 250-7210856. Find out more about the audition process and the Victoria Children’s Choir at www.victoriachildrenschoir.ca.

Creatively United for the Planet Festival Faeries, elves and costumes of every description are welcome at the new three-day Creatively United for the Planet Festival—a free, fun-filled family event on April 2022. The festival will be held both indoors and outdoors at St. Matthias Church, 600 Richmond Road at Richardson. Located on a convenient bus and bike route, this wheelchair accessible venue will be transformed with dancing, art making, music, lectures, fashion, displays, raffles, and healthy food options. World class speakers and performers such as Robert Bateman, Ann Mortifee, Paul Horn, Mae Moore, Daniel Lapp, Mike Demers, Brad Prevedoros, the Gettin Higher Choir, storyteller Shoshanna Litman, communications expert Rachelle Lamb and many others will donate their time and energy to benefit more than 15 amazing eco-based charities doing the hero work in our communities on our behalf, such as the Ancient Forest Alliance, The Child & Nature www.IslandParent.ca

Pre-primary School

An early learning opportunity for children 3-5 years: - learning naturally through play - nature awareness and respect - compassionate communication - experience with math and science - exposure to books and language arts

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ent ial Ev c e LOVING LEARNING p S A day of FREE workshops for parents of 3-5 year olds

Saturday April 28th 11:00-3:30 • educational workshops for parents with their kids • Free Compassionate Communication workshop for parents with Nonviolent Communication trainer Ingrid Bauer Turn to Page 26 for full Schedule for this Event

Writing for Island Parent Many of the articles in Island Parent are written by people just like you: parents who want to share their experiences, knowledge or ideas with other parents. We’re always happy to consider your submission, whether you’re a published writer or not. If you’re itching to express yourself but need a few pointers or a friendly nudge, come out for an evening of inspiration.

We’re holding a Writing for Island Parent workshop on Wednesday, May 16th, 7–9pm, at 830 Pembroke St, Ste B (across from the north side of Save On Foods Memorial Arena). Space is limited. If you’d like to attend, please e-mail Sue Fast at editor@islandparent.ca.

Come on out and get those creative juices flowing!

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Island Swimming

Swimming in Victoria for nearly 100 years

Swimmers with a Disability Programs since 1996 Fun swimming programs for persons with a wide range of physical, visual and intellectual impairments.

Great lessons at even greater value!

See Yourself Swimming Event

Alliance, YES BC, the Dogwood Initiative, Habitat for Humanity, Sierra Club, Pacific Wild/Bears Matter and many more.

A variety of artists will lead hands-on workshops for everyone to enjoy, animal and sea creature displays will delight all, the CRD will have a prize wheel and the Compost Education Centre and numerous other groups will have displays of interest to all ages.

Crystal Pool May 5 11am to 12:15pm

For information on this event, disability programs and any of our regular programming please contact info@islandswimming.com or check out our website at www.islandswimming.com or leave a message at 250-479-3909

OPEN HOUSE Childcare Ages 1–5

Sunday, April 15th, 2012 1:00pm – 4:00pm 538 Fraser Street Where Children Are Honoured for Who They Are

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impact.

Discover how music can improve the quality of life for people of all ages with special needs, conditions, illness and exceptionalities.

VCM offers the very best in Music Therapy for a powerful impact.

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A free opening night disco-meets-Mardi Gras outdoor fun family dance party will be the place to be on Friday, April 20 from 7-9:30pm.

The festival will continue, rain or shine, Saturday April 21 from 1-9:30pm and Sunday April 22 from 1-6pm. Admission is free, but tickets are required for three world-class performances being held during the festival.

For all the details and a schedule, please visit www.creativelyunitedfortheplanet.com

35 Years of Making Tomorrow Conference Since 1949, the Vancouver Island Cooperative Preschool Association (VICPA) has been an advocate for high-quality education for young children and for professional standards for the adults who work with them. For 35 years, VICPA has organized the Making Tomorrow Conference as an extension of its educational support. Celebrate 35 years of “Learning through Play” on Saturday April 28 at the University of Victoria. The theme this year is “Embracing Diversity” and the line-up of speakers features a dynamic group leading morning and afternoon workshops on a wide range of topics of interest to caregivers of young children.

The 2012 keynote speaker, Monique Gray-Smith, will present “Fostering Resiliency with Indigenous Children and Families.” She has worked as executive director for Aboriginal Head Start Association of BC and national Aboriginal advisor for Roots of Empathy and Seeds of Empathy, as well as an instructor for the Justice Institute of www.kidsinvictoria.com

B.C. In her keynote, she will provide a brief historical perspective of Indigenous people in Canada and how our history continues to affect the lives of children, families, and communities today, including early learning and engagement in early learning programs.

Her new book Hope, Faith and Empathy, about a young Aboriginal woman growing up in Canada, will be available at the conference.

For a detailed workshop and speaker list, featuring 24 diverse and thought-provoking speakers, please visit www.makingtomorrowconference.com.

Nanaimo on Saturday May 5, from 10am2:30pm in venues surrounding the Diana Krall plaza. Noon-hour activities include the lively Jangano Marimba Band from Oceanside. Books will be available for purchase on site, or you can bring your own for the book signing following the last session.

T-shirts with a festive and elegant design by illustrator Robin Muller will also be on sale.

A Fun-Filled Day at BookFest Mark your calendars: Saturday May 5 is the 26th annual Vancouver Island Children’s Book Festival. BookFest 2012 is a wonderful opportunity for children aged 5-12 to meet some of Canada’s finest children’s authors, illustrators and storytellers in downtown Nanaimo.

Mike Deas, Julie Flett, Michael Kusugak, Julie Lawson, Loris Lesynski, Martin Springett, Joan Betty Stuchner, Paul Yee, and Werner Zimmermann will be on hand, sharing the magic of their books and the secrets of their success.

All the action takes place in downtown

Tickets are $10 per child for three sessions to a maximum cost of $25 per family.

Please note that adults must be accompanied by a child. Free parent-child rhyme-time session, musical story time and a puppet show are all available for babies, tots and their caregivers.

Bring your family to a magical fun-filled day in celebration of books!

Tickets are available through The Port Theatre in Nanaimo. Phone 250-754-8550,

or visit www.porttheatre.com. For more information, visit www.bookfest.ca.

Actions for Earth Day Earth Day Canada challenges all Canadians (kids, classrooms, groups, businesses, individuals and families) to make positive changes to their daily habits. The challenges run from April 1- 30 and encourage participants to take up a new action for 21 days, a period long enough for the action to become a part of their daily routine.

For kids, classrooms and schools, the kid-friendly campaign, Act for the Planet, Earth Day Canada’s EcoKids program, with prizes from Sony Canada, is offering kids a chance to get involved on their own terms. Kids will have all month long to do something good for the planet (and remind their parents to do their part, too!)

Some ideas include: creating window decals to prevent bird crashes; making planters to clean inside air; bringing their own water bottle; making something new out of something old.

For adults, lifestyle choices are typically based on convenience, complacency and habit, but these come with a price. Earth Day Canada’s Take It Up for Earth Day campaign can help you make better deci-

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Glenlyon Norfolk School Marine Adventure Program Teen Marine Kayak Camps – Summer 2012 Ph 250-370-6852 Email dtyrrell@mygns.ca Day Camps: July 23–27, Aug 13–17

These popular camps (9:00–4:30) for children ages 11 to 12 cover all the basics in sea kayaking, with plenty of fun for the younger paddler. Cost: $255.00 + HST

Teen Barkley Sound: July 1–6 Teen Johnstone Strait: Aug 19–24 Two exciting sea kayak camping expeditions for teens ages 15–17.

Cost: $625.00 + HST

Discovery Camps: July 9–13, Aug 6–10

For ages 13 to 14, sea kayaking basics, rescues, games, and a three-day camping experience on Discovery Island.

Cost: $285.00 + HST

Offering marine adventure since 1995!

sions about what you eat, drink and what resources you use. Try something new that’s good for you and the planet!

For example: eat and prepare plantbased foods at home; drink tap water and get water wise; detox your personal care routine; activate your lifestyle with outdoor, unplugged activities.

Feel ready? Visit earthday.ca, register your commitment(s) and join other Canadians this spring to make change a habit.

Hike for Hospice 2012 Mark your calendar and start fundraising with your family, friends, or group for the Canadian Hospice Palliative Care Hike for Hospice on Sunday, May 6. This nationwide event is designed to bring together individuals and organizations to raise funds and awareness for hospice and palliative care.

The hike will take place in several communities across Vancouver Island and is open to everyone.

Nanaimo and area residents meet at Maffeo Sutton Park for the Walk to Remember and Picnic in the Park. Registration will begin at 10am and the hike starts at 11am.

Afterwards, participants are invited to the Picnic in the Park from noon-2pm.

Gather pledges, gather a team. Wear your company logo. Leashed pets are welcome.

To register, phone Nanaimo Hospice Community Society at 250-758-8857 or e-mail jeannef@nanaimohospice.com. For links for online fundraising or to print a pledge sheet, visit nanaimohospice.com.

Bridges for Women Needs Mentors

Summer Music Academies at St. Michaels University School Switch Band July 3–13 Junior Band July 9–13 Voice – In the Key of Glee July 8–14 Voice – Youth Opera Lab July 15–28 Jazz Trio Workshop July 16–20 Musical Theatre Aug 16 – Sept 1 Residential and day options available.

For more information and to register, visit our website at www.smus.ca/academies or call 250-370-6120

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Bridges for Women Society provides specialized employability training to women with a history of abuse or trauma. Over 800 women from Victoria, Saanich and the Western Communities have completed Bridges programming since its inception.

Bridges’ Mentoring is a program that matches volunteer mentors from the community with mentees in order to provide a learning opportunity for both parties.

Mentors are asked to support mentees while they develop their career path, introduce them to professional networks, share feedback on job search techniques, and provide support and encouragement while they work towards their career goals.

Bridges is currently looking for mentors and mentees for the spring intake. If you would like to be a part of this supportive program for women, please call Carrie at 250-385-7410.

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Strong Kids Campaign The YMCA-YWCA of Greater Victoria’s Annual Strong Kids Campaign is in full swing. The campaign is aimed at raising public awareness and much needed financial support for the work the Victoria Y does in providing children, families, and at-risk youth with the values and life skills they need to succeed.

Each year, the YMCA-YWCA of Greater Victoria helps hundreds of young people by providing them with direct financial assistance.

The Annual Strong Kids Campaign encourages the public to help provide opportunities for children and families facing financial barriers, and at-risk youth to participate in and benefit from Y programs and services. For more information about the YMCA-YWCA of Greater Victoria’s Strong Kids Campaign, or to make a donation, visit www.ymcastrongkids.ca or www. victoriay.com, or drop by the Victoria Y at 851 Broughton Street.

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Victoria Kids Consignment Spring Sale The Victoria Kids Consignment Spring 2012 Sale will be May 4-6 at the Sheraton Hotel (located behind Costco) and you won’t want to miss it.

The sale will have thousands of clothing items in sizes preemie to children’s 12, toys, infant gear, shoes, bedding, books, games, DVD’s, and SO much more! The best part is there is no hunting or digging through piles of clothing for deals at a VKC Sale. Shop early; the best items will go fast!

Getting excited? Can’t wait to get in?

Sell your items with us and/or volunteer your time to receive a presale pass to shop early on May 4. If you’re expecting OR you have welcomed your first child or grandchild within the last 12 months, then you qualify for the New Parent/Grandparent Presale! Sign up online to receive your special entrance pass.

VKC Spring 2012 Sale schedule: May 4 – 5:00pm to 7:00pm – Presales (by invitation only); May 5 – 10:00am to 4:00pm – General Public Sale; May 6 – 10:00am to 1:00pm – ½ Price Sale (many items will be 50% off!)

We accept Visa, MasterCard, Debit and Cash. Admission is FREE! Parking is available at the Sheraton, street-side or Costco.

Let Victoria Kids Consignment save you time and money! Visit www.victoriakidsconsignment.ca for all the details. •

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Depuis sa création en 1995, le Conseil scolaire francophone de la Colombie-Britannique offre des programmes et des services éducatifs valorisant le plein épanouissement et l’identité culturelle des apprenantes et apprenants francophones de la province.

Le conseil compte aujourd’hui plus de 4 600 élèves, 36 écoles publiques et dessert plus d’une centaine de communautés réparties dans l’ensemble de la province.

Inscrivez votre enfant dans une école du CSF !

Nos écoles publiques daNs l’île de VaNcouVer Campbell River École Mer-et-montagne École secondaire Phoenix École secondaire Carihi

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Where Kids

Become Authors!

Writing and bookmaking for all ages. Check out the website for workshops and camps. www.storystudio.ca or call 250-592-BOOK

Art Classes • Drawing • Painting • Sculpture • Cartooning • Portfolio Preparation

• Children & Adults • Day & Evening Classes • Fabulous Results • Original Art for Sale

Artistic Statement Gallery & School of Fine Art Call Joan in the Oak Bay Monterey Mews, #107–2250 Oak Bay Ave

250-383-0566

www.artisticstatementgalleryandschool.com Now offering Art lessons on SKYPE for those unable to make it to the studio

Fun Acrylic Stain Painting Workshop for Children

(Supplies Included.) Saturdays 10am – Noon

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Ten Per Cent Shift T

he small Island town my family calls home has recently challenged its residents to make a “10 per cent shift.” The goal is to get as many households as possible to shift 10 per cent of the money they customarily spend in the larger centres to the north and south, to local businesses, producers and services instead. It’s a goal that makes sense to me.

More local spending means a healthier local tax base, and more jobs for my neighbours.

It means that local businesses can keep supporting our community through grants, sponsorships and donations. It means that our charming, walkable downtown will continue to be a vibrant place to shop and hang out. Increased local spending should also translate into fewer cars driving to outof-town big box stores, thereby decreasing our community’s carbon footprint.

We’ve been trying to “green” every aspect of our lives as a family over the last few years. Looking at how and where we spend our money has certainly been part of that process. We already shop close to home much of the time, but there’s always room for improvement. I decided to formally sign up for the challenge, but with my own twist: I took an inventory of local businesses that could further help us achieve our environmental goals. While you might not live in my neighbourhood, it’s likely you have similar shops and services nearby. Here’s the list.

Having read one too many books and seen one too many documentaries about our modern industrial food system, I am now committed to feeding my family locally-raised, pasture-fed meat whenever possible. Our main street butcher shop is a great source for local beef, pork, chicken, fish, and even a few exotic items like bison.

It’s more expensive than what I could buy at a chain supermarket, but I feel much better about where our meat comes from and how it was produced. We compensate for the higher price by eating less meat overall, which is also an environmental plus.

Our local health food store is an excellent source for environmentally-friendly products of all kinds. It’s also a great place to find locally-grown organic produce in season, as well as ingredients for DIY cleaning supplies, cosmetics, and my own custom-blended herbal teas. Many of the store’s products

are sold in bulk, reducing the amount of packaging I need to bring home.

We’re much more likely to find local fruits, vegetables and other products in our independent grocery store than in a nationally-owned supermarket. We’ve purchased apples grown in local orchards, peppers, cucumbers and tomatoes grown in a greenhouse 15 minutes down the road, and eggs, dairy, poultry and honey also produced nearby. I’ll be watching for more local products in the coming months.

Our small town is blessed with two wonderful consignment stores, one that sells quality women’s clothing, and one that sells children’s toys, clothes, and furniture, as well as a good selection of maternity wear. Consignment stores are win-win-win businesses: they promote reuse, they provide a source of income for their owners and employees, and they put money back in the pockets of ordinary families. Our town also has an antique store, a second hand emporium, and a fabulous charity thrift shop. If we keep looking long enough, just about anything our family needs can be purchased at one of these businesses. We save money and the environmental cost of a new item, the local economy gets our dollars, and less waste goes to the landfill.

It’s almost always greener to repair or refashion what we have, than to replace it. We are fortunate to have a number of repair services in or near our community.

The local vacuum doctor refurbishes and sells used vacuum cleaners. The local appliance repairman does the same with washing machines and stoves. Local seamstresses provide mending and altering services, while upholsterers give new life to home furnishings. Local professionals service furnaces so they run efficiently, and vehicles so they produce a minimum of emissions. When we’re ready to replace our last single-pane windows or upgrade our insulation just a little bit more, there are a number of local tradesmen we can call.

Then there are the local producers. We have people who cut and deliver firewood, gardeners and farmers who produce local food, and musicians who provide local entertainment. We have craftspeople who create jewelry and clothing, potters who www.kidsinvictoria.com

make attractive and practical dishes, and artists who paint, photograph or collage all manner of striking things. If it’s a whole house you need, there are architects and contractors with green building expertise.

As an added bonus, they’ll source as many materials locally as possible.

Local businesses don’t have to be overtly “green” to have environmental benefits.

When I go to a local credit union for my financial services, I’m supporting an organization with a vested interest in the health of my community. When I buy a quality item from a local boutique, I’m investing in something durable that should outlast the cheaper item I could get at the mall. When I give my business to the nearest pharmacy,

“...We’re not saying that you should buy local at any cost to you, or that you’re letting down ‘the team’ if you don’t. What we’re saying is that you should THINK local first: I need X product—can I purchase it from a local producer or retailer?” optometrist, hardware store, etc., I’m saving the gas and greenhouse emissions of a longer trip.

Is my family pledging not to do any of our shopping online or in larger centres in the future? Absolutely not. In the words of the Ten Percent Shift website (www.tenpercentshift.ca): “the Shift is not intended to guilt you into anything or require anything from you. We’re not saying that you should buy local at any cost to you, or that you’re letting down ‘the team’ if you don’t. What we’re saying is that you should THINK local first: I need X product—can I purchase it from a local producer or retailer?” And that’s the question we will be asking from now on. When a local product or service satisfies our requirements and fits the family budget, that’s the one we’ll take. It just makes sense.

Happy local shopping!

Rachel Dunstan Muller is the mother of five, and a children’s author. Her previous articles can be found at www.islandparent.ca. www.IslandParent.ca

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would have guessed that 20 or 30 years ago the blended family lifestyle—remarriage after divorce and the introduction of stepparents and siblings—wouldn’t have been as much a reality as it is now. However, I would have been wrong. During the ’80s many studies were conducted that focused on increasing divorce rates and the effects these rates had on blended family households. I was a child in the ’80s, so in light of this information, it is no surprise that I grew up in a blended family environment, and that now my children have as well. It seems that the blended family has become a fact of life. According to divorcerate.ca, with information derived from Statistics Canada, the number of divorces since 1985 has increased by over 15,000 a year. When it comes to remarriage, the figures depend on the age group, with the likelihood of remarriage for both men and women decreasing considerably after the age of 35.

However, there is still that uncertainty we feel as parents when introducing a potential stepfather or mother and siblings; we wonder

how our own children will feel about the process of change that “moving in together” will create. For me, this uncertainty was a huge factor, and after my kids’ father and I decided to separate, I did not explore another relationship for 10 years. I wanted to make sure my children knew that they were my number one priority and that no “new man” in my life would ever replace their father.

There can be both pros and cons to blended family life. The trick, I’ve found, is to stay alert and attentive. According to Marilyn Coleman and Lawrence H. Ganong, authors of Remarriage and Stepfamilies: What About the Children?, part of the reason the effects of remarriage and stepfamily living are seen as negative is because we view these types of families from a problem-oriented perspective. We assume that children in stepfamily households will grow up lacking in some capacity compared to those in nuclear family households. We also assume that the added stress resulting from becoming a blended family will negatively affect the psychological

and social development of children.

However, according to David M. Mills, author of A Model for Stepfamily Development, stress is created from trying to replicate the typical biological nuclear family unit.

“This attempt to create an instant family— with instant intimacy—leads to problematic family dynamics which tend to persist and which can forever block the development of real intimacy.”

The relationship between a step-parent and child takes time to develop—often the equivalent number of years as the age of the child when the relationship began—and should be developed on its own terms. Taking the time to try on different roles to find the one that fits will be beneficial for both adult and child in the long run.

Coleman and Ganong claim there are benefits to children living in blended family households. For example, they say that it has been shown that children in these families are actually better equipped to deal with transitions and change, such as new teachers and making new friends, and that the exposure to more role models means that stepchildren have more examples to draw from when they become parents themselves.

However, we still need to be aware that introducing new family members to an

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established family unit can be complicated and even traumatizing for children. Here are a few tips that I have discovered that might help to keep things in perspective and help everyone to adjust.

1. Always put your children first. Take a moment to consider: What do my children need from me? Am I giving them the attention they require? How will this decision affect them? You might be feeling that because your heart has been broken you deserve the attention that a new relationship can provide.

However, you are the adult. You can probably wait a while before inviting someone new into your and your kids’ lives, and if you think about it, you might even benefit from having the space to “find yourself” so to speak.

2. Never underestimate the intelligence and emotional capacity of your children. No matter how old they are, children feel and are aware of the circumstances of their lives.

They are not oblivious and they do not exist in a bubble outside of reality. Communicate clearly with them and allow them space to communicate with you. Set up structured family conference times in which they are free to express themselves in safety.

3. Allow for a transition period. New roles and responsibilities will have to be established for each family member. Both you and your

children will need to adjust. You will all be used to established emotional and physical boundaries, routines and responsibilities, and even a hierarchy between family members.

Changes to these aspects of your child’s life can have a long-lasting impact if not handled with care. Allowances need to be made for differences in personalities and needs, for it is the shared moments of joy and love that you will want your children to remember 20 years down the road.

And finally, remember that you are not alone. Ask for help from family members and utilize the resources available in your community, including the following: • BC Families in Transition, bcfit.org • Queen Alexandria Foundation for Children, queenalexandra.org • Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre, singleparentvictoria.ca • Cowichan Family Life Association, cowichanfamilylife.org • Qualicum Beach, Family Resource Association, d69fra.org/index.php.

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n Canadian author Ian Brown’s award-winning memoir, The Boy in the Moon, he writes, “All I really want to know is what goes on inside his off-shaped head. But every time I ask, he somehow persuades me to look into my own.” “He” is Brown’s severely disabled son, Walker, who was born with a rare and severe genetic disorder called Cardiofaciocutaneous Syndrome. Brown’s book describes the anguish, exhaustion and constant struggle for meaning that caring for a severely disabled child entails.

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The forced self-examination that forms part of Brown’s journey lies well outside most people’s comfort zones, but to different degrees it’s a place parents inevitably enter. Raising kids is tough at the best of times. Parents everywhere know the rigours of sleepless nights, moments of fear, selfloathing, bewilderment and overwhelming intensity. On top of that, families with special needs children face challenges of a range and magnitude that are nearly impossible to quantify, let alone sum up.

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Though challenges will be as different as each individual and family, lightening the load is something everyone in the community, whether you know a family with special needs or not, is capable of.

The term “special needs” is such a vast umbrella, covering everything from learning issues to major medical and developmental disabilities. It’s a phrase that is often loaded with heartbreak, uncertainty, and incredible demands on a family’s resources—financially, emotionally and physically.

Though challenges will be as different as each individual and family, everyone in the community, whether you know a family with special needs or not, is capable of helping lighten the load. Simple gestures can make all the difference between feeling isolated and feeling valued and accepted.

Ruby Commandeur, the 49-year-old North Saanich farmer (hers are those luscious Ruby Red Farms blueberries), has two children with special needs. Her daughter Kira will be 23 this summer; her son Robert is 24. Kira has been in a wheelchair all her life, is nonverbal, in fragile health, has seizures, and has had numerous orthopedic surgeries. Her condition remains undiagnosed. Despite this, Commandeur says Kira is “incredibly happy and social.” Robert, whom they adopted at three and a half years of age, is at the “opposite end of the spectrum.” Born with Spina Bifida and a cleft palate, he was diagnosed with DiGeorge’s Syndrome at age 12. He is physically able, but has major cognitive and social functioning challenges.

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people around me would have been if they had made food. That’s a really simple thing that people can do,” she suggests.

This small act shows support and understanding in a way words often can’t.

Easing feelings of isolation for a family is vital in a situation where loneliness can be a part of daily life. In all of her elementary school years, only once did Kira enjoy that ubiquitous rite of childhood, playing at another child’s house.

“She had no real true friends, even though there were kids who were really wonderful to her,” recalls Commandeur.

Though kids were great, parents did not tend to encourage relationships outside of school.

“I think a lot of times they were afraid to say, ‘My daughter would like to have your daughter over to play Barbies, but I don’t know how that would work,’” she says.

Reaching out to a family with special needs might be a step outside of our comfort zone, but it comes with its rewards.

“All people have their gifts to humanity,” says Commandeur. She calls Kira her “little guru. She’s very wise. She helps you keep perspective of what actually matters in life.”

In The Boy in the Moon, Ian Brown speaks to the geneticist Bruce Blumberg from Oakland, California who puts it this way: “It isn’t just great minds that matter.

It’s great spirits, too.”

Kira’s Grade 5 teacher might have had a similar thought. Even though Kira made noises and could have, potentially, been disruptive in class, her teacher placed her at the front of the room. Kira ran the “staple station” and flicked the switch on the electric stapler for every student to use before they handed in their work. It was such a simple thing, one that required no additional resources, but it made her feel connected and included in the class.

“That kind of simplistic thinking can really, really make a difference,” says Commandeur. Kira felt belonging, importance even, thanks to some understanding and an open mind on the teacher’s part.

Understanding and open minds are crucial when special needs are invisible. Local mom and artist Tamara Bond’s six-year-old daughter Ruby lives with sensory processing disorder, a neurological condition in which the brain registers and interprets sensory information differently from a “typical” brain. As is often the case, the condition is compounded by anxiety. Sounds and tactile sensations can be unbearable for Ruby. For over six months, for instance, she could www.kidsinvictoria.com

not (not would not) wear socks. What for most parents is the stuff of a standard power struggle, is—for Ruby—cause for all-consuming visceral distress.

A situation like this might be difficult to understand from the outside, especially when the condition manifests itself as what just looks like acting out. Consequently, people can mistakenly assume a parenting failure and judge accordingly.

“Her behaviour seems like a two- or three-year-old’s sometimes. A lot of times I get looks from parents [and] I sometimes want to explain it to people,” says Bond.

“I just have to ignore whatever feeling I am getting from other people and focus on helping her. Otherwise, I just get really frustrated.”

As with Commandeur’s situation, isolation can be a risk for Bond and her daughter.

“It has been difficult trying to find people I can connect with because being with Ruby socially can be difficult,” says Bond.

A couple of years ago, Bond and two other moms brought their children to play at a park. “It was a beautiful summer day,” she remembers. It should have been a delightful time, “but it was just a struggle the whole day.” Feeling overwhelmed as Ruby became upset, Bond sat down on a bench.

Her friends “just heard me talk and just listened,” she recalls. Later on, one of the women phoned her at home to reassure her with some kind words.

“She was just so supportive and really understood that I was struggling, and said that she thought I was doing a great job.

It was just so nice to hear that feedback,” Bond says. Recently, and for the first time, Ruby has expressed interest in making a new friend, so things are slowly looking up, adds Bond.

Good friends make all the difference to a special needs family, it’s true. But something else that also makes a difference is feeling supported within the community. Pushing our own comfort zones and stepping past judgment has the potential to touch people in ways we may never know. Support might take the form of an understanding smile, an offer of help, a word of reassurance, or a thoughtfully posed question. These are the things that make our whole community of minds and spirits stronger.

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This slogan, part of a recent United States Department of Agriculture campaign, goes hand in hand with the Cowichan Valley Regional District’s Agricultural Plan to “make farming viable and economically stable.” Together, the two directives make for a hopeful future for several small farms on Vancouver Island.

Local farming becomes stable and viable when there is a connection between the people who raise food and the people who eat it. This relationship between farmer and consumer has eroded over past decades, but is now being turned around. Community Shared Agriculture (CSA) is a growing movement that aims to support farmers and consumers in working cooperatively to grow and purchase food. And families are the vital link in this new movement. Connecting children to the land and to the source of their food is both nurturing in the present and sustaining in the long run.

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For the past eight years, John and Katy Ehrlich at Alderlea Farm in Glenora (southwest of Duncan) have created a vibrant farming community. With the support of over 200 shareholders, they use biodynamic methods to ensure that the food they grow is nourishing, and they are mindful of the land that produces it.

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Three times a week during the growing season at Alderlea, shareholders pick up their fresh produce. Children can visit the cows and chickens and then help their parents pick out and weigh their veggies.

Two years ago, the Ehrlichs added a farm café as a way to introduce visitors to local, organic food. Parents can relax with a cup of coffee while their kids explore the farm or help Farmer John collect eggs or pull some carrots. “Children want to contribute,” says Katy. “They are curious about farm life.”

Creating these connections between families, farmers, and the land is all about building relationships, say Katy and John.

When they hear a child say, “I want to be a farmer,” it confirms for them that farming and food are being valued.

At a CSA farm, shareholders contribute their money once a year. The farmer uses the money to purchase seed, supplies and equipment. Once the harvest begins, shareholders usually come to the farm one to three times a week for 24 weeks to pick up their produce. Some years, if the harvest is plentiful, shareholders can sign on for extra weeks.

Involvement in the farm can take many forms. Some people choose to volunteer

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and learn more about the practical aspects of farming. Others might, for example, volunteer to help out at special events. At Alderlea, there is a Valentine’s Feast, a Spring Nettle Festival, the Borscht Festival, apple cider making, hay rides, and a Christmas tree “hunt,” to name a few. And the seasons are celebrated.

At Makaria Farm, south of Duncan, families can sign up for the farm’s CSA program, or they can buy their produce at the Duncan Farmer’s Market. This year Makaria is offering the Food Security Club.

The Club is open to anyone able to come to the farm in the fall and pick up a bulk amount of vegetables that they can store or preserve. This is a way to support sustainable agriculture and to eat local, organic produce year-round.

There are two sources of nutrition, says John Ehrlich, the substances we eat as food and the stimulae and images we take in through our many senses. “Coming to the farm allows people to see how the food is grown, to smell it, taste it. Many people are surprised,” he adds, by “how different the food tastes compared to what they might have been eating.”

Simply visiting a farm can be a new ex-

perience for families. And just being able to see what’s growing out there in the field can connect people to the earth.

For more information about CSA farms, visit www.ffcf.bc.ca/resources/kp/csa.html.

Selinde Krayenhoff, a former city dweller and the co-founder of Island Parent, now lives in the Cowichan Valley. She is an enthusiastic shareholder at Alderlea farm.

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Community Shared Agriculture, Organic Farms & Other Resources Food security is directly tied to the relationship between families and their food. Here are some ways you can enjoy delicious food today in a way that secures your children’s food source for the future: Alderlea Farm (CSA) in Glenora offers 24 weeks of fresh organic farm produce.

This year the Ehrlichs are offering the Farm to Family program where, once a week, produce will be brought down to a designated pick up spot for 50 Victoria families. Visit alderleafarm.com.

ALM Organic Farm (CSA) is located at 3680 Otter Point Road, 8 km west of Sooke and offers a box program with pick up on Tuesdays. Visit www. almfarms.org.

Makaria Farm’s (CSA) Vegetable Share Program is in its fifth year. The farm is just south of Duncan at 4715 Bench Road. Makaria Farm’s produce is also available at the Duncan Farmer’s Market every Saturday morning during growing season. Visit www.makariafarm.com.

Nanoose Edibles Farm (CSA) runs a pick up program in the Nanaimo area and delivers to buying groups of 20 or more families. E-mail neorg@telus.net.

There are also Organic Food Bin delivery businesses in various Island communities such as Spud.ca, Share Organics, and Small Potatoes.

Both the Greater Victoria Public Libraries and Vancouver Island Regional Libraries have the DVD/video “Island on the Edge” (which looks at food security for Vancouver Island and includes interviews with some of the CSA farmers mentioned here) and “The Real Dirt on Farmer John” (about one farmer’s journey into CSA).

There are Farmers’ markets in most communities where families can meet local farmers and buy directly from them. For a list, visit www.islandfarmfresh.com/markets. www.IslandParent.ca

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Summer Camp Fun Residential summer camps offer children and teens a chance to take a step toward independence in a safe, fun-filled setting. Here are some summer camps from which to choose.

Some of these organizations also offer camps for families. For more information, please refer to the advertising in this issue.

Camp Columbia.Middle schoolers won’t want to miss out on a week of co-ed Wilderness Camp in Strathcona Park, where they’ll learn survival skills, plant identification and campfire building. Six skilled counsellors will guide campers through team-building challenges, hikes, worship, and care for creation programing. Guest leaders include an Anglican chaplain, an ecological restoration designer, and an Aboriginal elder. Tents and gear are provided, but bring a sleeping bag and mat. July 30-August 3. $250. Register at www.antikipper.com.

We provide space for high school students to get serious about doing what they love in our three specialty camps: Get Me a Musi-

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cian, Act Up!, and Holy Disorder, in which campers work with professionals in music performance, stage acting or doing justice.

Visit a recording studio, learn script-writing, and perform in an inspiring theatre, or play ninja games with high-powered nuns. July 4-13 at Pine Lodge Farm in Mill Bay, $500 early bird. www.antikipper.com.

Camp Imadene has been providing successful camping opportunities for children, teens, and adults on Vancouver Island for 85+ years. Our 200-acre property surrounds beautiful Mesachie Lake, just 90 minutes from Victoria. Each year, 1,500 campers come to enjoy tubing, wakeboarding, our 1,000 ft. BMX track, rock-climbing, rappelling, caving, swimming, boating, low-ropes, geocaching, pickleball, and more. With a 1:2 staff-to-camper ratio, we provide a supportive and encouraging atmosphere that fosters unforgettable experiences and lifelong friendships. 1-800-445-7575. www. imadene.com.

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Imagination and adventure thrive at Camp Narnia. We are located near Parksville, and are a nondenominational camp whose programs are based on the creative children’s stories The Chronicles of Narnia. Camps are for children ages 6-15. Camp Narnia is centered on storytelling, forest and nature activities, unique crafts, theatre, and so much more. Our purpose is to foster the joys of childhood, respect and community in a unique setting. Come join in the adventure! www.campnarnia.com.

Camp Qwanoes is a youth oriented highadventure Christian camp celebrating a 46year tradition of excellence in camp ministry on Vancouver Island. We are fully accredited and maintain standards of the highest quality. Choose from week-long co-ed camps for Juniors, Junior Highs, Senior Highs, plus family retreats. Seeking to encourage, challenge and develop the entire person, our wellrounded programs include over 75 activities, stimulating speakers, music and singing, Bible study, firesides and pure fun. Qwanoes is an ideal place for fun-filled, life-changing adventure. For a free brochure or more info: 1-888-997-9266 or www.qwanoes.ca.

CanAdventure Education is a therapeutic wilderness adventure program that engages young people in education, cultural awareness, skill development, and personal growth. The program was founded to promote wilderness adventure as an ideal vehicle for recreation, learning and personal growth among youth. Located in Sayward, CanAdventure runs programs for youth aged 13-19, including specialized programming for struggling teens. Our camps feature backpacking and kayaking expeditions to Vancouver Island’s most inspiring destinations, including Strathcona Park, Nootka Island, Cape Scott, and Johnstone Strait.

250-282-3862. www.canadventure.ca.

Capernwray Harbour Bible Centre provides a stunning island setting for summer retreats and conferences. Outdoor Education participants as well as special interest groups such as artistry guilds, reunions, and church denominations receive attentive and friendly service to make their time away a memorable event. The Holiday Bible Weeks during July and August provide families with solid practical Bible teaching amidst a holiday setting. See www.capernwray.ca for all the details, or call 1-888-224-5681.

The Marine Adventure Program at Glenlyon Norfolk School is beginning its 18th season providing 5- and 6-day sea kayak camps for teens and youth. Small groups and experienced leaders create an ideal and

GNS is now accepting applications for the few remaining spaces in our afternoon JK class for September 2012. Our Montessori trained teachers would love to welcome your child into their happy classroom at the Beach where inquiring minds are guided through International Baccalaureate accredited curriculum units.

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safe opportunity to experience sea kayaking and the marine environment while gaining skills in paddling, marine travel, navigation, marine life and more. These active camps are full of games and activities and explore some of the most spectacular locations of our world famous B.C. coastline. Contact the Marine Adventure Program at 250-3706852 or e-mail dtyrrell@mygns.ca.

George Pringle Memorial Camp. Remember that great summer you spent as a child at that awesome summer camp? Those carefree days of learning new skills like archery or canoeing, being able to swim every day and being in an inclusive community where you became best friends with every kid in your cabin? Those camps still exist, and they continue to have a profound and positive social aspect. This summer, send your child for a week that lasts a lifetime. www. campringle.com.

Act, direct, and make your own movies with Canada’s best filmmaking mentors during six “Action!”-packed days. The Gulf Islands Film & Television School is celebrating 18 years of exceptional youth experiences each week this July and August. Lifelong friendships are made in this intimate setting (only 30 campers) on safe, beautiful Galiano Island, while learning real-life skills ' on professional equipment. Early Teen (1014) or French Immersion available. School groups April-June. For information: www.

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Jerri Carson

Sing-a-long on Earth Day

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arth Day, celebrating its 42nd anniversary on April 22, 2012, is a day set aside to foster awareness and appreciation for the Earth’s natural environment. It is celebrated in more than 175 countries and encourages environmentally friendly activities such as reducing, reusing and recycling. Getting children involved in these activities and celebrating the beauty of nature is important. Earth Day is a good time to discuss environmental issues such as climate change, sustainability, and how to take care of our planet. Many Canadian children’s performers sing about the environment. Listening to and singing their songs can help get your children motivated to do their part for the planet.

A perfect way to celebrate Earth Day with your child is to go on a walk. Whether you head to the beach, woods or mountains, take time to look at the trees, flowers, birds and

sky. Before venturing out, listen to songs such as “Evergreen, Everblue” and “Big Beautiful Planet” by Canadian singer-songwriter Raffi.

Raffi’s ecology album has messages relating to the environment as well as upbeat melodies and rhythms. His song “Cool It,” about reducing C02 emissions, became the theme song for David Suzuki’s 2007 cross-Canada bus tour to raise awareness of global warming. And don’t forget Paul Hann, a musician/ songwriter from Victoria who has a wonderful song called “Clean Air” that features a catchy guitar rhythm and fun lyrics.

Earth Day is an excellent time to introduce your child to the joys of gardening and composting. Explain to them how even the simple act of tossing potato peels and eggshells into the compost bin can help the environment.

Help them plant seeds to establish their own vegetable garden, and talk about the benefits

of organic gardening. Download Raffi’s “Everything Grows” and have kids listen as they plant seeds and garden.

Aaron Burnett, a bluegrass musician from Manitoba, features songs on his albums— “Call of the Wild” and “Canadian Critters”—about animals that are endangered or threatened in Canada. Sing along to “Great Grey Owl,” “Skoki the Grizzly Bear,” and “Beaver in my Backyard.”

B.C. singer-songwriter Holly Arntzen also sings about endangered species. Arntzen’s environmentally themed music with children’s choirs as back-up has songs such as “Orca Baby” and “Salmon Circle.” “Endangered Species Sounds” includes sounds of insects, fish, birds and other creatures. Arntzen has many other songs that are worth listening to such as “The Cycle of Life” and “Voices of Nature.” You can listen to all these environmental songs on YouTube.

Earth Day is best when it involves the entire family. On April 22, play a song to motivate you and your family to go out and do something that will benefit our beautiful planet.

Jerri Carson is a primary music teacher for SD #61. She is a member of the CRD Arts Advisory Council and plays the cello in the Victoria Conservatory Cello Orchestra.

Sooke Options for Community Living Association Providing individuals who live with developmental and physical disabilities opportunities for personal growth, independence and participation in their community.

We provide support to families through: a Children’s Life Skills Program an Adult Community Inclusion Day Program and Summer Kids Day Camps in-line with the abilities of the kids.

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Matthew Gardner

Secure Your Own Happiness First I

watched a video recently of a deer giving birth. It was the craziest thing: within minutes of flopping out like a trussed chicken, the newborn fawn was strutting around, butting its dazed mother’s milk-sack with ruthless efficacy. What a contrast to my kids, who remained virtually helpless for many a sleepless month. We humans spend 18 years grooming our children for adulthood, a job that cats and dogs complete in a few months.

Ironically, the human being’s slowness to mature is a direct consequence of our greatest asset. If we stayed in the womb any longer, our over-sized brains would never fit through the birth canal. The relative premature nature of our birth, however, means that much brain development that occurs safely in utero for other mammals takes place for humans in the dangerously uncertain outside world. This makes us vulnerable to developmental problems, especially in the first three years of life, during which time the fledgling brain grows to 80 per cent of its adult size.

According to Vancouver MD and author Gabor Maté, brain development can only proceed optimally in the right environment, which requires the presence of an emotionally and physically available, non-stressed adult caregiver. This is Attachment Theory which, like most of life’s greatest truths, is at once incredibly simple and extraordinarily far-reaching in its ramifications.

Kids internalize almost everything. They steep in the emotional environment of their parents. It doesn’t matter if those emotions are explicitly expressed or not, because over 90 per cent of communication is non-verbal, and infants are hard-wired to read subtle cues. Parental moods are the air children breathe, parental energy the water in which they swim.

On a very practical level, stressed parents are not fully present, and cannot respond reliably to cues. The infant internalizes such absence, inconsistency or unpredictability, becomes chronically anxious, and unconsciously draws a number of conclusions: people cannot be trusted, the world is not

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safe, hyper-vigilance is required. Or: I’m not worthy of attention, I’m not lovable, I’ll never be good enough. Biologically encoded, these messages become the blueprint upon which all future relationships and life endeavours are based. The stressed child grows into a stressed adult, who creates selfperpetuating stressful life circumstances, then raises stressed-out kids. And on it goes.

In his four books, Maté has exposed the consequences of poor attachment relationships, beginning in Scattered Minds with Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder, a diagnosis that he received himself. The hallmark symptom of ADHD is “tuning out.” As a long-term trait, tuning-out behaviour is disastrous, but it is a healthy and logical short-term adaptation for dealing with stress. When stress is chronic, tuning out becomes a default setting, biologically encoded as deficits in emotional regulation and self-soothing, and low levels of dopamine, which Maté describes as “the motivation molecule.” ADHD is treated with Ritalin, a medication which raises levels of dopamine, as do cocaine, crystal meth, coffee, and cigarettes.

Our society has a tendency to judge addicts. We blame them for choosing to live the way they do. I’ve worked with addicts, and many of them lead lives that are a living hell. Why would anyone choose such a life?

How does the addiction justify so high a price? The answer is that, in a sense, all addiction is self-medication. The brain craves, discovers and consumes what it is lacking: dopamine, cortisol, endorphins, and so on.

Maté suggests that many health issues, from mental disorders to addictions to physical ailments, can be explained by a single underlying diagnosis: Developmental Trauma Disorder. Consider Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) scores, which measure trauma, neglect, abuse and so on.

Research has demonstrated that, with higher ACE scores, the risks of addiction and mental health issues, and also of obesity, asthma, cancer, premature death and suicide, all rise exponentially. www.kidsinvictoria.com

In Hold on to Your Kids, Maté and coauthor Gordon Neufeld explore a more insidious danger. In the absence of healthy adult attachment figures, kids form their strongest attachments with other kids. Attachment naturally entails emulation. When kids become peer-oriented, they mimic each other’s vocabulary, opinions, feelings and culture, which are narrow and immature, instead of aspiring to those of adults.

Attachment also engenders a sense of belonging and loyalty, but there is no safety in the peer group because belonging is always contingent on obedience to implicit rules.

Rule number one is that the exhibition of vulnerability is shameful, punishable by mockery and exclusion. Human emotional growth requires vulnerability. When growth is blocked and emotional shut-down becomes the norm, only the most extreme stimuli—such as violent TV, graphic video games, premature and risky sexuality, alcohol and drugs—can evoke any reaction at all.

The good news is that we adults can offer our kids something that their peers can never equal: unconditional love and acceptance.

If you fear that you’ve already lost your kids to the peer group, resist imposing pressure. That will only make them push back harder. The solution is to re-engage them in a relationship based on unconditional love.

For parents with infants, Gabor Maté’s message is equally clear and positive. Airlines instruct us to secure our own oxygen mask before helping our kids with theirs; a dead parent is no use to anyone. Similarly, since kids internalize their parents’ emotional state, it makes sense that we deal with our own issues—such as stress, frustration, anger and regret—before we can give our kids the reliable presence of an emotionally available, non-stressed adult caregiver.

Paraphrasing Vietnamese Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh, Maté assures us that the greatest gift a parent can give to their child is their own happiness. Happy wife, happy life, I used to believe (and still do). Now I’ve added: Happy parent, happy child. For all parents, the greatest source of happiness is also its final recipient: their children. All we have to do is love them and enjoy them, “not” as Maté says, “because of what they do, but because of who they are.”

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Matthew Gardner is a registered clinical counsellor. He also volunteers at Citizen’s Counselling Centre, facilitates groups at the Single Parent Resource Centre, and writes travel guides. www.matthewgardnercounselling.com. www.IslandParent.ca

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Janine Fernandes-Hayden

Lessons of a Six-Pack Mom

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’ve got a six-pack and it takes less sweat and effort to maintain than one might expect.

I’m speaking about my family of six—my husband, our children, aged six, four, two and six months, and myself.

I was in a local café recently with half of my brood when the owner approached me and said, “I can tell that you are a mother of four.” I jokingly replied, “Why? Are the bags under my eyes that conspicuous?” She answered, “No, it’s because you make it look so easy.” Her remarks made me think. Is it supposed to be harder?

“You’re a busy mum!” It’s a comment that I hear over and over. There is a perception that more children equal more work. Yet for me, besides the drudgery of laundry day, having four children has been relentless but no more demanding or complicated than having just one. I think back to six years ago when I first accepted my role as “Mum.” I remember vividly the tears, the insecurities, the painful lack of sleep and how difficult it seemed to juggle household chores with the responsibilities of a new baby. Life seemed so challenging and yet, paradoxically, I had the time to orchestrate baby photo shoots that lasted hours. I created mini scrapbooks with painstaking details that I sent to all my family and friends. Napping was still part of my reality.

Six years and four children later, the infrastructure of my life has morphed considerably and for my family, it has been for the better. There is an old adage that suggests, “The busier you are, the more you get done.” This statement is underpinned by the recognition that effective strategies, tricks and shortcuts make life more efficient. This is the reality of a large family. Necessity is the mother of all invention but why re-invent the wheel? Here are some of the lessons that I have learned, insights that I believe are valuable, regardless of the number of children you may have.

1. Cultivate Independence. Young children are extremely capable of doing things for themselves and in fact, they quite enjoy it.

As much as we love to do things for our

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children, it is important to remember that healthy development requires that they gain a sense of independence and mastery over their world, particularly between the ages of one and three. What I would never have expected of my first child at 18 months, my third carried out with ease—washing her hands by herself, putting on her own socks, boots and coat, eating with a fork, setting the table. She was motivated by the allure of being like the “big kids,” and for my part, I did not protest because it made my life easier.

Encouraging independence can make life for us as parents more manageable while at the same time enabling our children to grow in confidence, security and self-esteem.

2. Enforce Routines and Boundaries. Children need boundaries and routines. Both offer predictability amidst a world that can often be overwhelming, big and confusing.

Boundaries and routines provide children with a sense of security, buffer the effects of change and help them to gain control and mastery of their lives. They eliminate the power struggles and the constant nagging that results in emotional energy drain.

Boundaries are essential in large families if everyone is to feel a sense of fairness.

My household depends upon routines and clearly defined expectations. “Make your bed, brush your teeth, get dressed” is the morning routine that we all follow, myself included—it is the only way to ensure that we can get out of the house and be “somewhat” on time. Quiet time is from 2:00 to 3:00 p.m. and bedtime is at 7:00 p.m. These downtimes are healthy for my children, and they also acknowledge my personal boundaries and need for renewal. At this point, there are no negotiations and no arguments. As my family grows, I recognize that I may need to throw in a healthy dose of flexibility, but it’s always easier to loosen the reigns once some basic understandings have been established.

3. Implement Systems. Ask any family with multiple children and they will tell you that success resides in having systems in place that keep things running smoothly.

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enough time. Systems help make life more efficient. It’s surprising how shaving off little portions of time here and there can make a huge difference to the course of a day, even a week. I have developed three meal plans that I rotate, each with a corresponding grocery list. This system has paid great dividends and has saved me time that I would have otherwise spent paralyzed in the grocery aisles wondering what to cook for the week.

Another example: I have a babysitter come in one morning a week while I cook meals and bake snacks for the week. I will often make double batches, keeping one in the freezer. The kitchen is a whirlwind of disaster for one day but the storm is followed by a week of relative calm.

The systems you adopt for your family will be dependent upon your lifestyle, but remember that the goal is to make your life easier, preserve your sanity and ultimately save you time.

4. Ask for help. When Baby #4 arrived, my midwife congratulated me on my promotion. “You’ve moved up to the executive suite,” she said. “Now start delegating.”

It has taken four kids for me to, out of necessity, find the humility to ask for help and to allow my vulnerabilities to show. I have happily retired my Super Woman cos-

tume in exchange for a valuable life lesson, as well as a little more peace of mind. Make the shift from “me” to “we” in your life by shamelessly recruiting the help of your spouse, extended family, members of your community, even your older children. Ask yourself the question, what can I surrender to others in order to create more ease in my life?

5. Prioritize Self-Care. One night after nursing my baby and putting the other three children to bed, I took my cars keys and announced, “I’m going swimming.” I had to commend myself as I drove away, leaving behind a screaming baby and a capable husband. Never would I have dreamed of parting from my first-born at the best of times, let alone when she was unhappy.

Six years later, I have come to take my job seriously and recognize that if I am to carry it out with excellence, I need to take care of myself and find ways to sustain my mental energy. Not only do I deserve it, I need it. I absolutely can’t afford to let my fuel tank run dry. There is too much at stake. For me, this has meant taking even little steps like selfishly reclaiming my shower time and refusing to share it with four, three, two or even one child at a time! You count whether you have multiple children or just one. Don’t lose yourself.

6. Mellow on the Micromanagement. My first-born had the luxury of 100 per cent of my time. I felt it was what I needed to do, even though after a while, I began to feel resentful of the commitment. On the eve of my second child’s arrival, I became fretful over where I would possibly find the time to care for another. With each child, I have learned how to redistribute my time and I have come to realize that my children don’t need my full attention at every given moment of the day. Not only is it impossible, but it is unhealthy. It’s important to role model healthy work-life balance for your children.

Hindsight is 20/20 but experience is the best teacher so I don’t disregard the value of my past parenting trials. However, a cheat sheet would have alleviated my head of some of the FOG—Fatigue, Overwhelm and Guilt (coined by Linda Kavelin Popov, author of The Virtues Project)—and helped me to navigate more clearly when waters were rough.

Janine Fernandes-Hayden is an educator and Salt Spring Island mum of four children. She hosts a parent and kids radio show called “The Beanstalk” at CFSI 107.9 FM or online at www.cfsi-fm.com.

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Ultimate Hobby and Toy Fair at Pearkes Arena.

Tons of vendors with items for sale including action figures, vintage toys, models, trains, comics, Barbie dolls, LEGO, video games and so much more. Almost 200 tables. $3/adults; kids free. 9am-3pm. Door prizes. Special Charity Carnival and Superhero Creation Station with all proceeds going to the BC Children’s Hospital. www.cherrybombtoys.com.

Calling all Cottontails at Central Branch Library. See TUES 3 for details. 10:30-11:30am.

Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250652-2013 for more info.

Kindergym Easter Event at Panorama Recreation. Hippity Hop on a special Easter egg hunt. 9-10:30am. 250-655-2180.

TUES 3 Calling all Cottontails at Esquimalt and Juan de Fuca Branch Libraries. Hop, hop, hop on over to the library for stories and songs about bunnies, chicks and everything that makes spring so egg-citing. Make an egg-stravagant craft to take home. For ages 3-5. Esquimalt: 10:30-11:30am, 250-414-7198; Juan de Fuca: 3-4pm, 250-391-0653. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call the hosting branch for more info.

Guys’ Night Out Baby Time at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Calling all babies and the men who love them. Join us for fingerplays, puppets, stories and songs. For dads, stepdads, foster dads, granddads, uncles, and male caregivers with babies 0-15 months.

6:30-7pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca or call 250-477-9030 for more info.

Treating Anxiety, Panic Disorders and Obsessive-Compulsive Behaviours in Children at Dr. Zimmerman’s office. Anxiety disorders in children are increasing. Parents are very distressed about these conditions as they realize how much they limit their children. This is a talk about naturopathic and homeopathic approaches to treating various types of anxiety in children. Free, but please RSVP. 7-9pm. 304-2250 Oak Bay Ave. 250590-5828. drzimmermann@shaw.ca, www. drzimmermann.org.

THURS 5 Calling all Cottontails at Emily Carr and Bruce Hutchison Branch Libraries. See TUES 3 for details. Emily Carr: 10:30-11:30am, 250475-6100; Bruce Hutchison: 1:30-2:30pm, 250-727-0104. Register online at www.gvpl. ca or call the hosting branch for more info.

SAT 7 Tartan Day in Market Square. Highland dancers, Tartan weaving, highland dog show, VHGA Heavies, Gaelic choir, kilt making, musicians, vendors, Daisy the cow and a play area for the children. Free. Noon-4pm. www. sacsvictoria.com.

4th Annual Signs of Hope in Africa Easter Egg Hunt in Beckwith Park. Bouncy castles, face painting, crafts, games, clowns, fire/police vehicles, BBQ, raffle prizes. 10am-1pm. Egg hunt starts at 10:45 for toddlers, 11am for older children. $5/kids 13 and under; adults free. Rain or shine. No registration needed.

MON 9 Easter Egg-stravaganza Skate at Panorama Recreation. Spring has sprung! Join us for a special Everyone Welcome Easter skate.

Games, Easter egg hunt and fun for all ages.

Don’t forget to bring your Easter basket.

1-2:20pm. 250-655-2172.

THURS 12 Baby Signs with Layla: a Baby Sign Language Program at Central Branch Library. Program participants will learn the basics of using nonverbal signs with children aged 0-24 months old. Benefits of signing with your baby or toddler may include fewer tantrums, greater cognitive and language development, and improved communication with your baby.10:30-11:30am. Register online at www. gvpl.ca or call 250-413-0365 for more info.

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FRI 13 First Friday Book Club at Sidney/North Saanich Branch Library. Discuss great books, make new friends and enjoy snacks at the library.

Ages 11-14. 4-5pm. To find out the April book selection, please call Virginia at 250-656-0944.

SAT 14 Children Count: An Early Childhood Resource Fair at Brentwood Bay Elementary School.

Don’t miss this great opportunity to bring your children (0-6 years) and have fun together at the Fair. Parents can gather info on local services, and support and opportunities offered for children around the Peninsula, while the kids can enjoy face painting, storytime, arts & crafts, music, a mini-bouncy castle and lots more. If you’re lucky, you’ll also get to meet Slider along with his friend, Cooper, from Peninsula Co-op. Each child will receive a free children’s book, a goodie bag, and a snack.

10am-1pm. 250-655-2172.

SUN 15 Ugh! A Slug! at Elk/Beaver Lake Regional Park. Be it a Banana or Licorice Slug, stroll with a CRD Regional Parks naturalist to peek under fallen logs and leaves in search of these giant gastropods that are one of nature’s best recyclers. Meet at the Beaver Lake nature centre off the main parking lot at 1pm. All ages. BC Transit #70 or #75. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Information Session at Choices Adoption. A great way to start learning about adoption.

Find out about the process and programs available, both locally and internationally. A family will also be there to share their adoption experience. 2-4pm. 100-850 Blanshard St. 1-888-479-9811 or choices@choicesadoption.ca.

MON 16 Vancouver Island Research Symposium at the Waterfront Room, Delta Victoria Ocean Pointe. Come learn about the very latest advances in the science of curing diabetes and

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Stories at Fern. Featuring Victoria Storytellers and guests. For people who love to tell stories, and people who love to listen. All welcome.

7:30-9:30pm. 1831 Fern St (please park on Begbie). $5; $3/students (includes tea and goodies). 250-477-7044. www.victoriastorytellers.org.

Victoria Children’s Literature Roundtable at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Karen Rivers, who writes for young adults, will tell us about how she found her “dream job” as a writer.

Her most recent novels are What is Real, the XYZ Trilogy, and Barely Hanging On. Doors open at 7pm. Browse the Cadboro Bay Books table before the meeting at 7:30pm. Open to the public. Members free; $5/drop-in; $4/ student. Info, 250-598-3694.

THURS 19 Baby and Toddler Basics at Bruce Hutchison Branch Library. Parents, babies and toddlers are invited to a visit from our Peninsula Health Unit nurse. She will answer questions, measure and weigh your baby or toddler and discuss topics such as immunization, growth and development and successful nursing. No registration required. 11:30am-12:30pm.

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Earth Day Extraordinaire at Saanich Centennial Branch Library. Come to the library for recycled stories, reusable activities and upcycled crafts. Please bring a sheet of black and white newspaper and a colourful flyer for our upcycled project. For ages 6-9. 3:304:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca. Info, 250-477-9030.

FRI 20 Giggles and Wiggles at Nellie McClung Branch Library. Wiggle your way to the library for a 20-minute storytime for little listeners with extra energy. Dance and giggle and learn new action stories and action rhymes chosen just for you. For young children and their families; children under 3 must be accompanied by

an adult. No registration required. 10:3010:50am. 250-477-7111.

SAT 21 & SUN 22 Creatively United for the Planet. Enjoy music, lectures, fashion, art, displays, raffles, food, and world-class speakers and performers. Rain or shine. St. Matthias Church, 600 Richmond Rd, at Richardson. Free outdoor disco meets Mardi Gras family dance Friday, 7-9:30pm.

Sat: 1-9:30pm. Sun: 1-6pm. www.creativelyunitedfortheplanet.com.

SAT 21 Massive Marine Outdoor Garage Sale at the Maritime Museum. All kinds of outdoor and marine related gear from fishing gear to sails and motors and all things in between. 9am1pm. $5; children under 12 free. 28 Bastion Square. 250-385-4222.

Sleuthing with Skulls and Scat at Francis/King Regional Park. Through displays and activities, use your finest detective skills to help uncover the clues that animals leave behind. Drop-in, 11am-2pm. Meet at the Francis/King nature centre off Munn Rd. All ages. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Island Illustrators Society Artist Visit: M is for Marcia at Saanich Centennial Branch Library.

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Fancy Nancy Spring Party at Esquimalt Branch Library. Ooo-la-la. Come celebrate spring in style with stupendous stories and activities.

Dress up in your fancy best—the more accessories the better. For ages 3-6. 2:30-3:30pm.

Register online at www.gvpl.ca. Info, 250414-7198.

SUN 22 Sensational Seaweeds at Island View Beach Regional Park. A CRD Regional Parks naturalist will help you discover how important marine algae is—for you and me and the creatures that call them home. Seaweed tasting optional. Be prepared to get your feet wet (bring sandals or beach shoes). Meet at the picnic shelter on Homathko Rd, off Island View Rd at noon. 5+ years. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

Spring Gala Concert: The Garden at St. Andrew’s Presbyterian Church. Intercultural choral repertoire and early music (pre-1600) from aboriginal fishing chants to medieval love songs. By donation. 3pm. ensemblelaude.org.

WED 25 New Hope for Children with Autism and other Neurodevelopmental Disorders at Dr. Zimmermann’s office. Naturopathic medicine, and homeopathy in particular, have much to offer to children with neurodevelopmental disorders such as autism and Asperger’s syndrome, as well as ADD/ADHD, learning disabilities, aggression and anxiety. Homeopathy can be used to identify causative factors and then help restore the brains and immune systems of these children. Treatment is safe, effective, and very economical. Free lecture, but please RSVP. 7-9pm. 304-2250 Oak Bay Ave. 250590-5828. drzimmermann@shaw.ca, www. drzimmermann.org.

FRI 27 Fourth Friday Book Club at Juan de Fuca Branch Library. Join Devon to discuss great books, make new friends, and enjoy snacks.

Club members should read Ghosts of the Titanic by Julie Lawson for the April meeting.

For ages 9-13. 3:30-4:30pm. Register online at www.gvpl.ca. Info, 250-391-0653.

SAT 28 35th Making Tomorrow Conference: Embracing Diversity at the University of Victoria.

Dynamic speakers run workshops on topics of

interest to caregivers of young children. 8am4pm. www.makingtomorrowconference.com.

Loving Learning at Oak and Orca School. A day of free workshops about learning with 3to 5-year-olds. Certified teachers and an NVC Trainer offer compassionate communication, music education, math exploration, and many more hands-on workshops for you and your child. 11am-3:30pm. BC Transit #24, #25 and #4. 250-383-6609. www.oakandorca.ca.

Forest Tea Party at Francis/King Regional Park.

Forests are full of plants that make delicious and nutritious teas. Join a CRD Regional Parks naturalist for an interpretive tea tasting featuring some of our local plants. 1-3pm. 12+ years. $7 + HST. Registration required before April 27. Space is limited. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

SUN 29 Wildflower Weekend at Swan Lake Nature House. Spring has sprung, and Swan Lake and Christmas Hill have never looked better.

Celebrate the wonderful world of wildflowers with guided tours of the native plant garden, hikes to Christmas Hill, crafts for the kids, and our wildflower musical revue. Noon-3pm.

Admission by donation. Info, 250-479-0211 or www.swanlake.bc.ca.

Seaside Blooms with a View at Witty’s Lagoon Regional Park. Tower Point is alive with

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blooms poking their heads up in seaside meadows. Follow a CRD Regional Parks naturalist along a shoreline trail that offers spectacular views both at your feet and on the horizon.

This walk is for the wildflower novice. Enter at the Tower Point parking lot off Olympic View Dr at 1pm. 12+ years. BC Transit #54 or #55. 250-478-3344. www.crd.bc.ca/parks.

ONGOING BABIES, TODDLERS & PRESCHOOL Drop-in Storytimes for Babies, Toddlers, Preschoolers & Families at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Storytimes are free and drop-in.

Please come early to find a space. Caregivers are welcome and encouraged to participate.

For a complete schedule of programs, call your local branch or check out the library’s website at www.gvpl.ca.

Parent/Tot Drop-in at Gordon Head United Church. A safe place where young children can play while parents in the community connect with each other. Lots of space and toys. Tea or coffee is available for caregivers, and a healthy snack for the children. Parents are responsible for the care of their own children. Mondays 10am-noon. More info, call the church office at 250-477-4142, or Maisie at 250-477-0388.

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Kindergym at the Burnside Campus Gym. Join us for a half-hour of free play in the gym using child sized sports equipment, balls, hoops, climbers and slides. Following free play is 15 minutes of organized game or physical activity based on LEAP/HOP and then 15 minutes of circle time. For toddlers (walking) to 5 years, their parents and caregivers. Drop-in program; parents do not need to register to attend. Tuesdays 9:30-10:30am. 250-388-5251. www. burnsidegorge.ca.

Parent Tot Drop-in at the Burnside Gorge Family Centre. Come and enjoy a nutritious snack (coffee and tea for the parents) and free play and time to socialize in the family centre.

We have lots of toys, books, dress-up clothes, puzzles and more. For infants birth to 5 years and their parent/caregivers. Parent participation required. Free. Tuesdays & Wednesdays, 10:30am-noon and Thursdays 6-7pm. 471 Cecelia Rd. 250-388-5251.

Toddler Art at the Burnside Gorge Family Centre. Come and get creative in the family centre.

Crafts are designed specifically for toddlers and preschoolers. We provide the supplies, smocks and lots of soap—your child provides the creativity. Parent participation is required.

Wednesdays 9:30-10:30am. For toddlers up to age 5 and their parents/caregivers. $2/family.

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Good Morning Rhyme Time at Sidney Branch Library. Bring your littlest ones to the library on Thursday mornings for songs, rhymes and stories. We meet in the Nell Horth Room.

Stay for refreshments and some social time afterwards. Ages 0-5. 10:15-10:45am, April 12-May 24. To register, call 250-656-0944.

Children Canadian Children’s Book Week Smarty-Pants Contest at the Greater Victoria Public Library.

Do you love books and rock at contests? Do you think you know your Munsch from your Montgomery or your Heidbreder from your Horvath? Then don’t miss this opportunity to show off your Canadian kids’ book smarts and be entered into a draw for a prize pack of Canadian kids’ books. Leading up to the 2012 Book Week celebrations from May 5-12, go online to gvpl.ca/interests/kids-tweens and complete one of the age-specific book related trivia quizzes for kids, tweens or teens. If you answer the questions correctly, you will automatically be entered into the prize pack draw.

For more info about Canadian Children’s Book Week, visit bookweek.ca. Online contest runs April 16-May 12. For ages 5-18. No registration required.

Sea-Shirt Sundays at the Shaw Ocean Discovery Centre. On the first Sunday of each month, create your own fish fashion. Be sure to bring a pillow case, cloth bag or t-shirt (or purchase a t-shirt from the centre) and your creativity. $2 donation for fabric paint. 1-4pm.

250-665-7511.

YOUTH Canadian Children’s Book Week Smarty-Pants Contest at the Greater Victoria Public Library.

See above for more details. For ages 5-18. No registration required.

Advance Reading Copy (ARC) Club at the Greater Victoria Public Library. Be the first to get all the new books. Get an exclusive copy of a book before it comes out in stores or hits the library shelves. Review it online and you get to keep it. For ages 13-18. Info, teens@gvpl.ca.

Stellar Book Review Contest at the Greater Victoria Public Library. We want your Stellar nominee book reviews. Review a book from the 2011/2012 Stellar Book Award nominee list and you could win a prize. Submit your reviews

by April 30 and let us know about it using our online review form. See gvpl.ca/interests/teens for the list of books to consider and all the nitty gritty details. To learn more about the Stellar Book Award, see www.stellaraward.ca. For ages 13-18. Info, teens@gvpl.ca.

Friday Night Drop-In Night at “The Scene” Youth Centre. Come and register for a planned activity with old and new friends. Bring your ideas, and we will help you carry them out.

6:30-9pm. Free. Info, youthrec-bgca@shaw.ca or 250-388-5251 ext. 254. 471 Cecelia Rd.

FAMILIES Geocaching Adventures with the Geocaching Families of Victoria. Join us at www.meetup. com for details of our upcoming meetups and to RSVP. There is a small annual membership fee to help cover costs.

Ready to Rent BC offers a free course to help find and keep a rental home. Six-week courses run at different times, days and locations. We help renters identify and deal with any barriers they may have to housing. Includes bus tickets,

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Harmonious Family Singers & Choir. A great way for families to sing, laugh and play together. Kids, teens and adults join voices.

All voices and ages welcome. First-timers are invited to try a no-audition session any Monday afternoon or evening. For details www.harmoniousfamilychoir.com or 250385-SING (7464).

Parent Sports Drop-in at James Bay Community School Centre. Parents need time to have fun and get back in touch with their inner child.

Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays, 7-9pm. $3.50/person. www.jamesbaycentre.ca.

Cook Street Village Sing-a-long at the Cook Street Village Activity Centre. Lyrics on-screen and a piano/sax duo support the fun of singing for all. Tuesdays 10:30am-noon. $1.75 for members and $3.50 for non-members (memberships available). 380 Cook St. The Victoria Good News Choir, directed by Louise Rose, welcomes new members. No auditions and no age requirements. Info, 250658-1946 or www.victoriagoodnewschoir. com. Come sing with us. You’ll have the time of your life!

Weekly Bird Walk at Swan Lake Nature Sanctuary (meet in the parking lot). Every Wednesday and Sunday noon-3pm.

Metchosin School Museum is open Saturdays 1:30-4:30pm and Sundays 11am-4:30pm.

An original, one-room school house built in 1871, it is set up as a classroom with old wooden desks. Families can enjoy perusing the hundreds of artifacts on display. Free. 4475 Happy Valley Rd. Wonder Sunday at the Royal BC Museum.

Explore the Museum in a new way. Bring your family on the last Sunday of each month for activities and explorations inspired by different parts of the museum. Make crafts, join special tours, and let your imagination wander away with you. Suitable for children 3-12 years old, and is included with admission, or free with membership. www.royalbcmuseum.bc.ca.

Hillside Partners with Women in Need. Pick up a complimentary Women in Need (WIN) clothing bag at Customer Service and fill it with your gently worn clothing or fashion accessories. At your convenience, return your WIN bag to Hillside Customer Service. Hillside offers this donation service 365 days of the year.

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Parent & Child Hockey at Cliff McNabb Arena, Nanaimo. A fun, non-competitive hockey time for children where their parents can play too. Please bring your own gloves, stick, and helmet with face cage. Pre-registration required. Sundays 2:15-3pm. $4. 250-756-5200.

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Brant Wildlife Festival in Parksville. Nature tours and activities including birdwatching, farm tours, Big Bird Day Count and more.

For festival details, visit www.brantfestival. bc.ca or call 1-866-288-7878.

SUN 1 Family Day on the Farm at Nanoose Edibles Organic Farm. Tour, refreshments and activities for kids. Free. www.brantfestival.bc.ca.

WED 4 Glow in the Dark Skate at Cliff McNabb Arena. Skate in our atmosphere of dimmed lighting and special effects. 6:30-8pm. Regular admission. Glow necklaces $2. 250-756-5200.

SAT 7 Dora the Explorer Family Fun Swim at Ravensong Aquatic Ctr. Dora had so much fun last time, she asked to come back! Pin the tail on Boots, musical back pack, and even a piñata to finish off this 2 hour fun morning. 10amnoon. Regular admission. 250-752-5014. www.rdn.bc.ca.

Eagle Release at North Island Wildlife Recovery Centre. A rehabilitated eagle will be released, and there will be refreshments and bird presentations. 9am-4:30pm. By donation. www.brantfestival.bc.ca.

SUN 8 Easter at the Barn at the Comox Valley Exhibition Grounds. Easter egg hunt, games, pony rides, hay rides, face painting, petting farm, great food and more. Free admission. 11am3pm. 250-338-1968.

SAT 14 Mother’s Unite Garage Sale at Beban Park Social Centre. Over 70 tables of clothing for children and babies, toys, furniture and more.

9am-1pm. $2. 2300 Bowen Rd. Aquatic Special at the Nanaimo Aquatic Centre. A session of games and other special themed activities. 2-4pm. 250-756-5200.

SUN 15 Nanaimo Model Railroad Show at Beban Park Rec Ctr. Operation layouts include On30, HO and N scale and the stage will be set up for large scale trains that you can run in your garden. Model contest where any modeler is

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welcome to enter their railroad related projects. $5/adult; $1/child; $10/family. 250-724-4698.

WED 18 Glow in the Dark Skate at Cliff McNabb Arena. See TUES 6 for details. 6:30-8pm.

Regular admission. Glow necklaces $2.

FRI 20 Aquatic Special at the Beban Park Pool. A movie and games in the leisure pool. 2-4pm.

250-756-5200.

Tots Movie Night Out at Bowen Complex, Nanaimo. Are you wanting to take your child out for a movie but are worried about disrupting the audience? Bring your little one out for a movie and get them used to sitting in an environment much like a movie theatre. $5/ child; no charge for parents, but they must attend. For 2 1/2- to 5-year-olds. 250-756-5200.

SAT 21 Nanaimo Walk & Bounce for Autism at Caledonia Park (by the Curling Club). Bouncy castles, fire truck, face painting and snacks.

Get your pledge form and start collecting donations. Call Marilyn at 250-716-6110.

SUN 29 Fabulous Frogs at Bowen Park Duck Pond.

Who loves rainy spring weather? Frogs! Join us in exploring the wonderful world of frogs.

Learn what a frog is, where they live, and what they eat. While exploring the pond edge with nets, look for frog homes and the bugs they eat, as well as what eats them. Parent participation required. For 3- to 5-year-olds.

2-3pm. $8. 250-756-5200.

SAT 28 Aquatic Special at the Nanaimo Aquatic Centre. A session of games and other special themed activities. 2-4pm. 250-756-5200.

ONGOING PRESCHOOL LaFF at the Aggie is a drop-in program for children 0-6 and their caregivers. Play area, free clothing exchange, food programs, free coffee and tea. Mon-Fri, 9:30am-noon. $2 suggested donation. 250-210-0870, www. familyandfriends.ca.

Spare Blox Youth Drop-in in Nanaimo is a supervised space to hang out and chill. Open to those 12-17, it offers regular gym activities, video games, movies, foosball, air hockey and much more. Free, but you must register.

7-9pm. Mondays, NDSS; Tuesdays, Oliver Woods Community Ctr; Wednesdays, John Barsby School. 250-756-5200.

Rec Room at Frank Jameson Community Ctr. Play pool, ping-pong, air hockey, foosball, surf the net, watch TV or listen to music. Tuesdays 3-6pm features interactive events and Fridays 6-10pm is a drop-in with different activities planned. For ages 13-18. 250-245-6424.

FAMILY Our Feathered Friends at the Nanaimo Museum. Why are feathers important to understanding birds? Why do some remain close to home year-round and others migrate for thousands of kilometers? Learn about birds and birdwatching. Workshops and demos, try your hand at Origami, and even learn to prepare a meal for your favourite backyard bird.

10am-5pm. $2/adults; 75¢/child; members free. 100 Museum Way. Info, 250-753-1821.

Golden Shoe Hunt at RDN, Recreation and Parks. Take some time to explore the RDN’s 12 regional parks and 7 regional trails. Begin the hunt by collecting clues at www.rdn.bc.ca and you may find the coveted Golden Shoe.

This program is free. No registration required.

April 13-May 18. 250-248-3252.

Free Sewing Classes at St. Andrew’s Presbyterian Church, Nanaimo. All skill levels welcome. Experienced volunteers are invited to come help newbies or just sew in a fun, friendly group. Lots of materials and ideas. Info, email Val at vfroom@shaw.ca, search Facebook for Nanaimo Sewing Mamas. Mondays 6-9pm.

4235 Departure Bay Rd. Spring Sundays at Milner Gardens & Woodland. Come see the blooms, have a cup of tea or bowl of soup. Enjoy the woodland trails, and check out the ocean activity and the view to the islands and mainland with the viewing scope. By donation. 2179 West Island Hwy, Qualicum. 250-752-6153.

Free Family Skate at Oceanside Place, Parksville. Free admission and skate rentals. Children under 19 must be accompanied by an adult. No pond hockey during Family Skate sessions. Sundays. 250-248-3252.•

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If your son or daughter has autism and is between 6–18 years old, we can help through: • Direct 1:1 Support • Behaviour Support • Social Groups • Day Camps • Account Management

For more information please call 250-477-7231 local 237

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Special Needs Resources ACT – Autism Community Training is an information and referral service that supports individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder and their families across British Columbia.

We also welcome calls from community professionals. ACT provides an extensive training program both live and online to parents and professionals. ACT has a team of friendly, knowledgeable information officers available to answer questions about ASD and associated conditions. Our office is open from 8:30 a.m. - 4:30 p.m. Our toll-free number is 1-866-939-5188; email info@actcommunity. net; websitewww.actcommunity.net.

At Discovery School, students in Grades 1-11 work at their own pace in small classes under the direction of skilled, experienced teachers. What makes us unique is that we are dedicated entirely to teaching students with learning disabilities, and we have a proven track record in using the latest advances in brain research to the benefit of our students.

We are Ministry inspected, follow B.C.’s core curriculum, and are a non-denominational Christian school open to families of all faiths.

We would be happy to show you our school.

For more information, please visit www. discoveryschool.ca, or call 250-595-7765.

Rosalie Newell-Wagner is the President and Co-founder of the BC Down Syndrome Centre Society. The Society provides information and resources for complementary and specialized therapies and services. The society runs a private listserve, the BC Down Syndrome Connection, for parents and caregivers of children and adults with Down syndrome to discuss various therapies and services. As a separate project, Rosalie is working on the 2013 Down Syndrome Cruise Conference, Mission Possible: Sailing to Solutions with Andi Durkin, Communications Director for Down Syndrome OPTIONs Foundation.

Please see the ad on the inside cover of this magazine for more details about the Cruise Conference. www.bcdsc.org.

Community Living Victoria’s Autism Services Program is designed for children and youths aged 6-18 who live with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and their families.

We help families to manage and designate their funds, navigate the system, plan for

success as well as coordinate with contractors to provide direct services like behaviour intervention, social groups and day camps.

Through our services, CLV seeks to reduce the burden that individualized funding can have on families, allowing participants to enjoy the benefits of support without taking on additional administrative tasks. 250-4777231. communitylivingvictoria.ca.

The Cridge Centre for the Family has a rich heritage and an even richer future. Founded in 1873, the Cridge Centre provides diverse services to children, adults and families to maximize their opportunities and enjoyment of family life and loving relationships, and to achieve their potential. The Cridge Respite Resource Service and the Cridge Respitality Service work together. Where Respite Resource helps parents of children with a special need find qualified caregivers, Respitality provides a free overnight stay at one of 25 area accommodations partners for parents while their children are cared for at home.

To learn more about these services, please visit www.cridge.org. The Cridge Centre for the Family… because love is the bottom line.

Dr. Anke Zimmermann, BSc, ND, FCAH, Naturopathic Pediatrics. Dr. Zimmermann specializes in naturopathic pediatrics with a focus on children with special needs, including developmental disorders such as autism and ASD, PDD-NOS, ADD/ADHD, failure to thrive, selective mutism, apraxia and learning disabilities. She also sees children with congenital and chromosomal disorders such as Down Syndrome, Cris-du-Chat and related conditions, as well as children with any behavioural and mental health conditions, including anxiety and panic disorders, ODD, OCD, aggression and depression. Dr. Zimmermann has 21 years of experience and is using mostly homeopathy and CEASE Therapy in her practice. 250-590-5828. www.drzimmermann.org.

Dylexia Victoria Online. We believe dyslexia is a learning difference and doesn’t become a disability until a child has experienced years of inappropriate teaching. We provide dyslexia awareness and understanding through screenings, workshops, teaching plans, oneon-one training with parents and teachers, ac-

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commodations such as computer programs, tutoring and manuals. Other areas we focus on are dysgraphia, learning style (auditory, visual or kinesthetic), and Irlen Syndrome, which are often connected to dyslexia. Our methods come from successful school practices for dyslexics in New Zealand, the UK, and from Neil MacKay, world renowned dyslexia expert. www.dyslexiavictoria.ca.

Island Montessori offers individualized programs for all children, including those with special needs and/or behavioural challenges, in an integrated, inclusive setting. Our highly trained and experienced staff work closely with the child’s family and involved professionals to develop and deliver a program designed to meet the developmental needs of the child. We believe that every child has a natural desire to learn, and that they do so best in an atmosphere of warmth, caring and respect. 5575 West Saanich Road (across from Red Barn Market). 250-592-4411, imhs@telus.net, www. islandmontessori.com.

Hands-On Home-Learning, offered through Oak and Orca School, provides flexible learning opportunities, making it easy to meet your child’s needs while learning at home.

Our program acknowledges that every child is unique, and endeavours to support families to help their children learn at their own pace and in their own way. Our special education program provides you with options to hire educational assistants, seek out alternative therapies, and choose your own workers and therapists. Working with a certified teacher, you are empowered to help create the team that will care for and support your child.

Necessary supplies, technology and equipment can also be provided within a budget that you are able to control. Contact us for more information at 250-383-6609 or oakandorca.ca.

Island Swimming. Since 1996, Tyee Aquatics has run programs for swimmers with a disability, providing fun and engaging swimming programs for persons with a wide range of physical, visual and intellectual impairments. Offering levels from beginner to high performance, our programs adhere to Swimming Canada’s Four Pillar approach: water safe, athlete first, empowerment and autonomy, and improved lifestyle. We are hosting a See Yourself Swimming event May 5, 2012 at Crystal Pool, 11am to 12:15pm.

For more information regarding this event and our programs, please contact Breah Dunn at 250-812-9646, or e-mail breah@ islandswimming.com.

Little Steps Therapy Services Ltd. works

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LIFE Seminars presents

LIFE Seminars Sidestepping Victoria’s most the Power comprehensive programs.

Struggle presents

For parents with children Sidestepping of any age – this course the Power takes the guesswork out of parenting and creates long Struggle

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Sixlasting Weeks Spring Session Wednesday Evenings Wednesday Evenings April 25 to May 30 April 28to–9:30 June 2 7:00

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Individual parent education sessions are available Spectrum School with Dr. Allison Rees

7:00 – 9:30

Plus Parenting Teens, Parenting Preschoolers and One day seminars – see website for details.

For more information on other courses or counselling go to lifeseminars.com or call: 250-595-2649

with Dr. Allison Rees

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Keep families together when it matters most.

Ronald McDonald House BC provides accommodation for families whose seriously ill children require treatment at BC Children’s Hospital.

1/3 of the families we serve come from Vancouver Island.

Help families from your community. Give today.

www.rmhbc.ca

BRITISH COLUMBIA

This Spring: Seasonal Wear, Toys, Strollers, High Chairs, Exersaucers & More.

Call 250-382-5225 for a drop off time.

Same day appointments often available.

Happily Serving Victoria Families for Eight Years and Counting

424 Craigflower Road Victoria, BC V9A 2V8 www.sailorjack.ca

Monday – Friday 9:30 – 5:00, Saturday 10 – 5, Sunday Closed

2nd Annual Greater Victoria

Autism Resource Fair Saturday, May 5, 2012 • 10am–3:30pm UVic Student Union Building Local Autism Service & Product Exhibitors • Kids Play Zone Parents Pampering Corner (free massages!) • Expert Speakers All Day Keynote Speaker: Dr. Marion Blank from Columbia University, expert in literacy for children with autism

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with children, youth and adults who require support, regardless of diagnosis. The therapy team consists of speech language therapists, occupational therapists, physiotherapist, behavioural consultants (BCBA), massage therapist, certified teachers, and interventionists. The organization specializes in services to individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorders, but will provide therapy to all individuals requiring short- or long-term support. Individual sessions are available at the Little Steps Centre, home or community. No doctor referral necessary. Funding sources include: extended health plans, At Home Program, Autism Program, home school agencies, private pay. Contact us at 250-386-1171.

The Nanaimo Child Development Centre has been providing services to families since 1967. Our mission is: “Promoting optimum child development by serving children with developmental needs and their families.” Our services are based on the philosophy that children have the right to quality services which facilitate their optimum development and that early recognition and intervention can enhance a child’s ability. We are an accredited organization, adhering to practices based on international standards of quality and accountability. Services for children birth to 18 years of age are provided through a range of programs, including Early Intervention, Supported Child Development, and a School Age Therapy Program. 250-753-0251. www. nanaimocdc.com.

Nanaimo Unique Kids Organization (NUKO) is a registered charity that supports the needs of children and adolescents with brain based (neuro-developmental) disabilities and their families. Our mandate is to provide support services and relief to children and youth with neuro-developmental disabilities by developing and implementing recreation, education, and social integration opportunities and services. Nanaimo Unique Kids Organization offers education, social/emotional and recreational programs year-round. For more information on all our programs or to get involved, visit www.nuko.ca. For general information, please send an e-mail to nukoadmin@shaw.ca.

Operation Trackshoes (June 8-10, 2012) is a weekend-long provincial sports festival for people with developmental disabilities.

It includes a full-length competitive track and field meet, events for people in wheelchairs, and fun and recreational events.

We offer a range of activities appropriate for people of all levels of ability and ages.

Building relationships between people with and without developmental disabilities is a

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key component. Volunteers are needed to provide support, assistance and friendship to the competitors throughout the weekend (similar to a summer camp counsellor). The number of volunteers determines the number of competitors accepted. To volunteer, visit www.trackshoes.ca or call 250-721-4932.

Ronald McDonald House is a welcoming home away from home for families whose seriously ill children require treatment at BC Children’s Hospital. One third of the families we serve come from Vancouver Island. For parents, the House provides financial and emotional support when they must leave their homes, jobs and communities to care for their sick child in Vancouver. For kids, the House is a place to play, make friends, and experience the magic of childhood, even as they fight a serious illness. For more information, visit www.rmhbc.ca.

The SelfDesign Special Education Program.

The philosophy of our program mirrors the philosophy of SelfDesign: we believe that the learner is the “program,” and we consider the Special Education grant as an investment in a child’s development—present and future. We provide support to both High Incidence and Low Incidence funding criteria in the form of grants, consultations with our Special Education Team and contracts with community-based professionals.

Parents are active participants and are able to make choices about interventions and service providers for their child and receive ongoing support from our experienced team. For more information, visit www.selfdesign.org.

At Sooke Options for Community Living (SOCLA), we provide individuals who live with developmental and physical disabilities opportunities for personal growth, independence, and participation in their community.

We also provide support to their families and caregivers. SOCLA features a children’s life skills program that gives our participants the opportunity to be members of their community. Also, we provide an Adult Community Inclusion Day Program with meaningful participation in their community. During the summer, we offer children’s day camps that are in line with the abilities of kids. To donate, volunteer, or participate, please contact us at 250-642-6364 ext. 244. www.socla.ca.

Special Olympics is an athletic program for people with intellectual disabilities. Our programs focus on fun and inclusion to help children and adults develop motor skills, sports skills and friendships. The FUNdamentals multi-sport program is designed specifically for children 7-11, or choose from a variety of popular sports for ages

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16 and up. If your child is between 11-16, contact us to discuss program options. Visit www.victoriaspecialolympics.com or contact Christine at christinekyles@yahoo.ca or 250477-7106 for more information.

Spina Bifida and Hydrocephalus Association of BC. Something so small can make such a big difference. Folic acid is known to help prevent birth defects such as spina bifida. To be effective, folic acid must be taken at least three months before pregnancy. Since only 50 per cent of pregnancies are planned, any woman who could become pregnant should make sure she is getting enough folic acid.

Folic acid is found in leafy green vegetables, orange juice, and enriched grains. For most women, though, eating food is not enough.

To reach the recommended daily level, you will probably need a vitamin supplement.

Help protect your baby before they are born by getting enough folic acid daily. www. sbhabc.org.

Whether your child has been newly diagnosed with Asperger’s or autism, or you’d simply like to know more about the subject or talk with other parents, the Victoria Society for Children with Autism (VSCA) is here to help. VSCA provides support and education through monthly social events for kids, support groups for moms and dads, respite funding and an equipment and resource lending library. Contact info can be found at www.victoriaautismsociety.com. Everyone is welcome to join us at the 2nd Annual Greater Victoria Autism Resource Fair to be held May 5 at UVic. Entrance is free. www. victoriaautismresourcefair.com.

The Victoria Conservatory of Music’s music therapy department is the best in the region, and its therapists work with people of all

ages with exceptionalities, conditions, or illnesses. Sessions take place in the VCM music therapy studios, or in such facilities as hospitals, nursing homes, rehabilitation centers, and schools. The VCM music therapy department is also home to a state-of-the-art multi-sensory studio created to offer a peaceful retreat for children with critical illnesses.

This is a room where these children can create, express themselves, and find respite from their daily anxiety and pain. For information on VCM music therapy, call 250-386-5311.

Victoria Epilepsy & Parkinson’s Centre supports families living with epilepsy by providing tutoring and one on one professional consultations to help your child live up to their full potential. We offer epilepsy education workshops in private and public schools, and keep you up to date on the latest research about treatments, lifestyle, and safety for your child. Visit us at www.vepc. bc.ca to find out more and to explore our bursaries for Camosun College. If you know a child living with epilepsy, contact VEPC at 250-475-6677 or help@vepc.bc.ca.

The Vitamin Shop. Is your child sleepdeprived due to ADHD or hyperactivity?

Melatonin is a naturally occurring hormone and is the master hormone that controls sleep patterns. Many parents whose children are challenged with ADHD or hyperactivity find that melatonin will induce sleep while it helps to alleviate their insomnia and sleep disturbances. This may result in sleeping longer with less night-time disturbances, enabling them to function better during the day. Please check with your health professional before administering melatonin to your child. The Vitamin Shop, 1212 Broad Street. 250-386-1212.•

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Are you interested in a

Family Healthy Eating Study?

Dr. PJ Naylor at the University of Victoria is currently looking for parents with children aged 11 to 13 years to participate in a healthy eating study.

There is NO COST to participate but it will take about 12 hours of your time over 8-weeks.

To hear more, please contact: David Trill dtrill@uvic.ca or 250-853-3141

✓ Short Naps? ✓ Waking Through the Night? ✓ Grumpy During the Day? Maintaining a regular sleeping pattern for your little Tumblebum is essential for their development. All children can become good sleepers.

We have seminars and individualized plans to find your Sleep Solutions.

Too Much Information Readers respond In the February issue we asked readers: Do you read parenting, mommy or daddy blogs? If so, which ones are your favourites? What draws you to them?

How much is more than you want to know? Are blogs at their best when they serve as group therapy sessions? Or at their worst? Do you write a parenting, mommy or daddy blog? If so, why? How do you determine what material is okay to include? Best left out?

Here are a few replies. Thanks to all those who sent in submissions.

Simplicity, Rhythm, & Family

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I read blogs and also write a parenting blog (www.momamusings.co My favourite types of m). parenting blogs are on es that either: a) give inf tion about what to do ormawith my own children on Vancouver Island; b) are true, candid, and and/or on the humorous side.

There is nothing better reading a true story abo than ut parenting that you can relate to, and that you laugh out loud. makes I admire bloggers who don’t seem to have a cen sor or a limit to what the write. It is refreshing to y read blog posts that jus t tell it like it is…it often me feel more normal wh makes en they are not sugar coa ted to make the blogger better than they really look are.

That said, I don’t write my own blog that way.

I do, and probably alw will, worry way too mu ays ch about what other peo ple think. So I am car to write posts without eful naming names, revealing too much about others sometimes even hiding , and my true feelings. When writing about my childr constantly aware and thi en I am nking about how they would feel a few years the road if they were to down read something that I wr ote now. I would never them to be embarrassed want , hurt, or angry over som ething I wrote about the No amount of readershi m. p is worth that…to me anyway!

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I just love to write! I sta rted out writing for my To give me something self. to do—to give me som ething that makes me fee am somehow contributi l like I ng to society, other than just being a mom 24/7. ever, it has turned into Howso much more. I now als o write for an ever-grow audience of followers. ing It feels wonderful to hav e people who enjoy my my thoughts, my musin words, gs. Although it would be a dream come true enough followers to sta to have rt making a living off my blog, I also think that important for me to kee it is p being me, and not let the glitz and glamour of blogging world take ove the r….for when it comes right down to it, my nu one priority is still my mber children!

Victoria & Vancouver Island 1-866-518-7287 Nanaimo 250-756-9794 Or online at: www.welcomewagon.ca

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Are Your Immunizations Up to Date?

Child, Youth & Family Community Health South Island Health Units Esquimalt 250-519-5311 Gulf Islands 250-539-3099 (toll-free number for office in Saanichton)

Peninsula 250-544-2400 Saanich 250-519-5100 Saltspring Island 250-538-4880 Sooke 250-642-5464 Victoria 250-388-2200 West Shore 250-519-3490

Central Island Health Units Duncan 250-709-3050 Ladysmith 250-755-3342 Lake Cowichan 250-749-6878 Nanaimo 250-755-3342 Nanaimo Princess Royal 250-755-7855 Parksville/Qualicum 250-947-8222 Port Alberni 250-731-1315 Tofino 250-725-2172

North Island Health Units Campbell River 250-850-2110 Courtenay 250-331-8520 Kyuquot Health Ctr 250-332-5289 ‘Namgis Health Ctr 250-974-5522 Port Hardy 250-949-3100

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accinations are recommended from infancy through all stages of life. National Immunization Awareness Week (April 21-28) reminds us to protect our own health and the good health of our children, families and communities. One hundred years ago, many children did not see their fifth birthday due to infectious diseases like meningitis, invasive pneumococcal disease, measles, and polio. Now, as more people are immunized through free, publicly-funded programs, the risk of getting sick and dying from many diseases is much lower.

Infants and young children are especially at risk for many preventable diseases. Their bodies cannot fight the germs that cause them to get sick. Vaccines prepare a baby’s immune system to protect them from these serious diseases. To provide children with the best possible protection, immunizations are offered at 2, 4, 6, 12 and 18 months of age. These shots provide protection from diphtheria, whooping cough, tetanus, polio, measles, mumps, rubella, hepatitis B, haemophilus influenzae Type b, meningococcal C, pneumococcal diseases, influenza and chickenpox. In addition, rotavirus vaccine was recently added to the immunization schedule for infants. This vaccine protects infants from diarrhea and vomiting caused by the virus. The rotavirus vaccine is given by mouth and does not require a needle, which will come as a welcome change for many. The first dose is given at two months of age, followed by a second dose at four months. B.C. is now also offering hepatitis A vaccine to all Aboriginal infants and children. Hepatitis A affects the liver and can cause fever, tiredness, loss of appetite, nausea, vomiting and yellow skin and eyes.

As you grow, you don’t outgrow the need for immunization! As stages of life change, so do risk factors. Keeping up to date with immunizations during the school years and into young adulthood will help your health stay on track.

Some vaccines require a booster dose to give you protection for the rest of your life.

If you don’t get this dose, you may get sick and pass it on to others.

Kindergarten-aged children need boosters for tetanus, diphtheria, pertussis and polio

combined in one shot. A second dose of chickenpox vaccine will now be offered to children at school entry (four to six years of age). Although babies get their first dose at 12 months, a second dose will help keep them protected. Chickenpox is a viral infection that causes an itchy blistering rash, but can also cause infections in any part of the body, including the brain.

Healthy Families; Happy Families C hild Y ou th & Family C ommu nity Health

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As children enter their pre-teen years, there is a risk of new diseases, making school-aged immunizations important.

Public health nurses provide immunization at school for students in grades 6 and 9.

Consent cards are sent home for parents to read, complete, sign and return to the school. Grade 6 students will be offered hepatitis B, meningococcal and chickenpox (varicella) vaccines. Girls in Grade 6 will also be offered a series of two shots of human papilloma virus (HPV) with a third dose given in Grade 11. Grade 9 students will be offered a combined tetanus, diphtheria, and pertussis vaccine.

Some immunizations given in childhood, such as tetanus, require a booster to maintain protection in later life. Maintaining tetanus protection as an adult means getting a booster every 10 years. Tetanus is a very serious disease that kills up to one in five people who get it. It is caused by a bacteria mostly found in soil that enters the skin through a cut or scrape. The bacteria produces a poison that can cause painful tightening of muscles all over the body.

Tetanus is also known as lockjaw, because often the first muscles affected are those of the jaw. Before you head out into the garden this spring, it’s important to make sure you are up to date with your tetanus immunization.

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• Do you plan to travel to another country?

• Are you pregnant or planning to be?

• Are you a caregiver or grandparent?

• Are you a gardener or do you work with soil?

• Does your job or lifestyle expose you to infection?

• Are you a health care provider?

• Are you planning to attend postsecondary education?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, call your local public health nurse, family doctor or pharmacist to make sure you have the best protection against preventable diseases.

Vaccinations are recommended from infancy through all stages of life. National Immunization Awareness Week (April 21–28) reminds us to protect our own health and the good health of our children, families and communities.

You and your family are eligible for a variety of free vaccines which in turn prevent the spread of disease to those who are not immunized. When more and more people get their immunizations, it is less likely that a disease can spread to others.

Global travel means diseases are only an airplane ride away. Travelers can bring germs to your neighbourhood from areas where those germs are common. Not keeping up to date with immunizations puts individuals with immature or weak immune systems (such as babies and persons with certain illnesses) at risk. Check the immunization records for your family to make sure everyone is up to date.

For more information on vaccines and immunization, visit www.immunize.bc.ca or call 811 from any phone to speak with a nurse. You can also contact your local public health unit, family doctor or pharmacist for more information or to make an appointment.

Donna McNeil, BScN, is the Immunization Program Coordinator for the Vancouver Island Health Authority for Central and North Vancouver Island. www.IslandParent.ca

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Back to ‘Normal’

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ust before 11 p.m. on New Year’s Eve, my family and I finally arrived home. We were back in Victoria after six months living in India. All three of our kids were quivering with excitem ent. They were talking fast. They were grinning wildly.

From the first day we’d landed in India, they’d been looking forward to our return home. On weekends in Chennai they’d sit together and muse about what they’d be doing if they were home in Victoria. When we went to airports in India, they’d often say things like “Can you imagine if we were getting on a plane to Victoria?” With one month to go, Tessa and Vivian, our two youngest, made a calendar to count down the days to departure.

It was dark as we arrived, and of course, it was rainy and cold. Friends met us at the airport and brought us back down familiar streets. With every corner we turned, the kids got more excited. When we actually stepped inside the house, Vivian, who is six, started running around in small circles, screaming with delight. Her face had a tight, impossibly wide grin that I don’t think I’d ever seen before. I felt it too. I couldn’t stop smiling myself—although I did manage not to scream too much.

Friends had put up welcome home signs, they’d left care packages for us, they’d turned on the heat. There was a fresh loaf baking in a bread maker on the counter, bottles of champagne in the fridge. Soon enough, people started dropping in to say hello.

Over the coming weeks we slowly settled in, and bit by bit returned to our usual lives.

There was a series of firsts as we adjusted to life back home. There was the first time drinking water from the tap. (Vivian actually asked if it was clean before she lifted the cup to her mouth). There was the first time petting a cat, first time petting a dog, neither of which you’d risk in India. The first time eating a slice of pork, the first time cars actually stopped for us at a crosswalk.

And the first spotting of a Canadian garbage dumpster. Vivian pointed to it and said, “Look, it’s empty.” Not only that, it was sturdy, well built, it stood upright and didn’t stink. Compared to a dumpster in Chennai, this one you could practically eat out of.

Our friends all wanted to know about our lives in India, and of course they wanted to hear what our kids thought. Everyone was curious about our young girls’ insights into

life on the sub continent. Suddenly, though, the kids were shy. In some ways it was like a chapter closed. Perhaps they just shied from the attention and wanted nothing more than to return to “normal” life. It took a lot of prompting to get any of our daughters to speak up. I’d hear Evelyn and Tessa say things like, “It was hot” or “It

Dadspeak Daniel Griffin was dirty.” I’d often start a sentence, “Tell them about…” but almost as often, I’d have to finish the story. The other problem was that we rarely managed to get them to say any of the positive things about our lives there—about having started to learn Hindi or being able to name Gods in Indian paintings or having new friends five thousand miles away or what the Taj Mahal looks like up close. They talked about the garbage, the beggars, the shanties and the smell.

Sitting around the dinner table in the evening, Kim or I occasionally asked what the kids missed. We forced them each to tell us a few things they liked there and couldn’t get here: dosas, chapatti, dal, the warmth of an outdoor pool, weekends spent on a blazing hot beach, turtles pecking about the garden. In every one of these conversations, each of our kids talked about Amrit and Pirya—the couple that managed the building we lived in. They’d become great friends with our kids.

In the weeks since our return, for the most part our kids have wanted nothing more than to get back to their orderly and comfortable North American childhoods.

And then one day, just recently, Evelyn, our eldest, out of the blue announced that she wanted to go back.

“Really?” I said.

“Not to stay,” she said quickly. “Just for long enough to see Pirya and to eat a dosa.”

Daniel Griffin is the father of three children and the author of Stopping for Strangers (Vehicule Press, 2012), a collection of short stories about parents, children, brothers and sisters.

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Keeping Food in Its Place

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fries with that, please.” We love food, and feel guilty for this love. We deny it, and sometimes end up focussing our lives around this obsession. We need food, to live.

Moderation is the key to success, in eating, as in everything. It should be simple, and I believe that it can be. Put food in its place, and call a friend (or two) to help.

Cooking and then eating with friends or family is invaluable in reminding us that we are social, civilized beings. We sit to eat, we don’t gobble, we use utensils, and we talk to one another (and listen) between mouthfuls.

Food, and mealtimes, can be reclaimed. Try not to grab quick bites in the car or en route to activities. Make your meals into together times—spend them with the people that you love. This keeps food in its proper (very necessary) place, and keeps us connected.

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Just Eat It! Kathy Humphrey salt and pepper, to taste chili flakes, to taste Heat large skillet over medium-high flame. When heated, add bacon, onion and mushrooms to skillet. Cook, stirring often, for 10–20 minutes, or until bacon is becoming crisp, and onions and mushrooms are softening. Meanwhile, clean greens well, and chop into 1" lengths. Stir garlic into onion mixture. Cook, stirring often, for 3–5 minutes, or until garlic is softened and golden.

Add greens to skillet, and stir to combine all flavours. Reduce heat to medium-low, and stir in chickpeas. Sprinkle chili flakes over, if using. Cook, stirring occasionally,

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ne of my dear friends has just embraced a new way of looking at the food she eats, a different approach to eating. It’s based on a book that she read that inspired her to make some positive changes. The word I did not use about her decision is “diet,” partly because of the ways that this word has come to be defined. Her choice, to put more fresh and raw food into herself, and to avoid the things that seem as if they should be avoided (processed foods, caffeine, and so on), made me think about people and the way that we eat.

“Diet” is food and drink regularly consumed; the word is derived from the Greek, meaning “manner of living.” How has the manner of living become twisted around to signify strictures limiting and confining the intake of nutrients? Food and issues around food are North American society’s great big elephant in the room: we smell it, move around it, but refuse to acknowledge it, beyond the reflexive “Oh yeah; and yam

one small onion, finely chopped 1 cup mushrooms, washed and thinly sliced 2 cloves garlic, minced 1 bunch spinach, kale, bok choy, gai lan, or similar leafy green (green cabbage is a lovely substitution)

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until heated through. Season to taste with salt and pepper. Serve.

Lemon Split-Pea Soup 2 tsp vegetable oil 1 medium onion, diced 3 small carrots, chopped 2 stalks celery, chopped 1 clove garlic, minced 6 cups chicken or vegetable stock 11⁄2 cups yellow split peas, rinsed and drained 1 bay leaf 11⁄2 cups chopped fresh spinach leaves, lightly packed 3 Tbsp lemon juice 1⁄2 tsp pepper Heat large saucepan over medium-high flame. Add vegetable oil. When heated, add onion. Cook, uncovered, for about five minutes, or until onion is softening and beginning to turn golden. Reduce heat to medium. Add carrot, celery, garlic, stock, and split peas. Cook, uncovered, for 5–10 minutes, stirring occasionally, until stock begins to simmer, and vegetables (particularly carrot) begins to soften. Add bay leaf.

Stir and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to medium-low. Simmer, covered, for half an hour or so, until peas are soft but still have some distinct shape. Discard bay leaf. Add spinach. Heat and stir for about one minute, until spinach is wilted. Add lemon juice and pepper and stir well. Serve.

One-Shot Dinner 1 package turkey sausages (Italian spiced, or tomato and basil) 2 apples, washed, peeled if not organically grown, cored, and chopped 1 yam, peeled and cut into chunks 1⁄2 onion, chopped one small red pepper, cored and cut into chunks salt and pepper, to taste thyme leaves Preheat oven to 375˚F. Lightly grease bottom of large rectangular roasting pan.

Prick sausages with fork and arrange in bottom of pan. Strew apples, yam, onion and pepper around. Sprinkle all with salt, pepper, and thyme. Bake, turning vegetables occasionally and sausages at least once, for 45 minutes, or until done. Serve with couscous. (Prepare according to package directions, or 11⁄2 cups couscous to 2 cups of hot stock; season as desired.)

Kathy Humphrey lives in Victoria with her husband and two children. She tries to see cooking for a family not as a chore but as a creative outlet. www.IslandParent.ca

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Spring into Spring!

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azzling, shade-dappled sunlight, shifting and dancing as a breeze tosses branches to and fro; the unexpected squelch of mud between your toes as you step onto emerald-green grass; the heady scent of lilac that wafts through the crisp, clear air. Spring has arrived, bringing with it vibrancy and sensory stimulation that falls upon our newly-awakened winter minds with overwhelming force and beauty. Much the same can be said of spring in the book world, as an abundance of bright new titles bursts into stores and onto shelves like so many fresh spring flowers.

One such sparkling title is I.C. Springman’s superb book for 3+, More (Houghton Mifflin Books for Children, 2012). Here, the magic is in the details of Brian Lies’ rich, colourful, and quite simply gorgeous illustrations that unite with Springman’s spare, simple text to tell the story of an overzealous magpie who, with the help of his moderate-minded mouse friends, learns the difference between “more” and “more than enough.” Magpie means well at first, but he soon finds that once you start collecting things, it can be hard to stop. In addition to being a feast for the eye-spy fan’s fancy, delicate details, such as the numbered ID tag on Magpie’s leg, provide a subtle hint at the human tendency to “collect” in a magpie-like fashion, while the story itself serves as a gentle reminder of the joys of simplicity, observation and the power of friendship. More is clever, beautiful, and a visual delight, filled with hidden treasures that will catch your eye and your imagination just as they do Magpie’s.

Another excellent and entertaining read is found in One Cool Friend (Dial, 2012)

by Toni Buzzeo. Elliot is a very proper and well-behaved boy (who always wears a 50

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tuxedo) whose father is a top-ranking, if slightly absent-minded, scientist. During a rather deliberate misunderstanding at the aquarium, Elliot acquires a new pet in the form of Magellan, as neat and charming a penguin as you could hope to find.

Buzzeo’s smart, elegant dialogue is framed in comic-book-style speech bubbles, harmonizing perfectly with David Small’s sleek and playful pictures to lead the reader to a conclusion as delightful as it is unexpected.

One of those rare titles which manages to entertain and educate simultaneously while never even hinting at sanctimoniousness or preachy piety, One Cool Friend will make you laugh out loud while at the same time subtly introducing topics for discussion that range from courtesy and good manners to science, ecology, education, and parent-child relationships—all in the coolest, classiest way possible.

Of course, if you’re searching for cool and class, anyone with any sense will direct you to the unusual Marshall Armstrong and his wonderful, whimsical, eccentric family. Marshall Armstrong is New to Our School by David Mackintosh (HarperCollins, 2012) starts out with the arrival of odd, awkward Marshall Armstrong, who simply does not fit. He eats food that looks like it was made for astronauts and carries more school supplies than anyone else; he has shell-shaped ears, wears big glasses and stares hard at the blackboard; even his shoelaces are different—they’re tied straight, not criss-crossed like other people’s are. However, there’s much more to Marshall Armstrong than meets the eye, as our narrator and his schoolmates are about to discover. Mackintosh’s quirky images are at once adult and childlike, demonstrating the clear contrast between Marshall and his

peers, and his dry, humorous prose effortlessly evokes a young boy appraising his new deskmate with all the savvy and naiveté of the seasoned school child. A fantastic take

Book Nook MaDDY SMIth on the classic “new kid” story, Marshall Armstrong is New to Our School is sure to delight readers and listeners from 4+.

As the world around us returns to jubilant life, stretching, growing, unfurling and awakening, we too feel the stirrings of spring—new ideas, inspirations, aspirations and inquiries fizz in our minds and in our blood; whispers of adventures and explorations are carried in through open windows and splatter on the pavement with the raindrops; we long to be out and doing, to be off and going, to give fresh fancies a road test and see which old thoughts are worth

keeping. Now is the perfect time to give your mind a proper spring cleaning and to welcome in new notions, new perspectives; the perfect time to look at things from a new direction. This April, open yourself up to new possibilities and remember—anything is possible.

Maddy Smith is a children’s bookseller and an Islander born and bred; she reads, writes, and believes in the magic of a great book. www.kidsinvictoria.com

Parting the Clouds Learning how to embrace my son’s autism diagnosis

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ast summer, I wrote a column about what not to say to the parent of a speech-delayed child. At that time, I was really hoping for the best: shortly, my son would open his mouth and announce that I needed to get a grip, or perhaps he would recite a sonnet. Other than the sonnet part, it wasn’t a huge stretch—most late talkers do, eventually, figure it out.

I confessed I was afraid of the “worst,” that he would be diagnosed with autism.

I still regret this choice of words.

My son does have autism. And although it’s not what I imagined for him, it sure isn’t “the worst.” Far from it, in fact.

However, when we first received the diagnosis I thought the “worst” had happened.

I was angry at everyone who had “typical” children. I obsessed over whether my son would ever talk, or be gainfully employed, or live independently, or have a relationship.

It was a dark time.

After some scheduled wallowing, and some help from a counselor, I declared the pity party over. From that point on, I started to see how a diagnosis of autism was a new and hopeful beginning for our family.

For starters, I could turf “The Happiest Toddler on the Block” and “The Difficult Child” and replace them with “Overcoming Autism” and “Pivotal Response Treatments.” The new resources in combination with a wonderful parent group on behaviour intervention were the first steps to getting some concrete solutions for our son’s unique challenges. Things started to improve, and before long I could say with confidence to a startled fellow grocery shopper as my son melted down in the cereal aisle, “WE’RE PRACTICING PLANNED IGNORING!” instead of making a run for the doors as soon as our box of raisins ran out.

Further to that, family and friends stopped giving me well-meaning, albeit completely unhelpful, advice about how to “discipline” my son. The diagnosis and new wealth of resources gave me confidence (and some parenting street cred) whereas before I had been overwhelmed and confused. I share information with everyone involved with my son, and working together instead of butting heads in frustration has done wonders.

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We got over the fact that some typical kid experiences would look a bit different for our family. The whole concept of Santa might have gone over our son’s head this year, but there has never been a child who loved walking around the neighbourhood looking at Christmas lights more. Watching

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Carly SUTHERLAND our child experience such joy in the moment made us revisit what those childhood moments are really about.

And the people. I read somewhere that when you have a child with special needs, you meet a better class of people. This could not be truer. From our early interventionist who helped his adjustment to big brotherhood, to his speech therapist who got the words and phrases rolling, to the high school student who comes over every Tuesday night to dance around the living room to Raffi albums, the people who have come into our lives are inspiring.

Best of all, though, is the appreciation I have for the small successes that I would otherwise have taken for granted. Last week I dropped my son off at preschool and was wrangling him out of his boots when a little girl approached. “Hi, Callum,” she said. He looked her straight in the eye, smiled, and said, “Hi, Ava.” I burst out sobbing, right there, in the middle of all those mismatched mittens and puddles of dirty melted snow.

It was one of my best parenting moments. Ever.

Is this the worst it can be?

I’ll take it.

Carly Sutherland has come a long way in the past year with help from wonderful family, friends, and a trampoline in the middle of her living room (seriously, thank you occupational therapy!). She’s always reachable at carlycasey@hotmail.com. www.kidsinvictoria.com

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Family Services Directory Association of Family Serving Agencies (AFSA) is a network of organizations, groups and individuals serving families. All agencies listed are members of AFSA. This directory is sponsored by BC Families in Transition (formerly the Separation and Divorce Resource Centre) is one of three non-profit agencies in North America that offers professional counselling, legal support and education for people who are having problems in their relationships. Each year we help 10,000 adults, children and youth through family changes, separations and divorces, remarriages, and complex family situations.

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Big Brothers Big Sisters of Victoria provides mentoring programs to children in schools and communities. Adult ‘Bigs’, and child ‘Littles’, build a friendship based on shared interests, respect, trust, and the magic of everyday moments shared with a friend.

Everyone needs someone to laugh with, to share a dream with, and just to hang out. No special skills, money, or experience are needed to be a mentor to a child, just a willingness to spend time together, to listen, and to be a friend and advocate—in as little as one hour a week! The positive impact of mentorship

lasts for a lifetime. Contact us at 250-475-1117, email main@bbbsvictoria.com, or at our website www.bbbsvictoria.com Boys & Girls Club Services offer after-school and evening social, educational and recreational programming for youth at four locations. We also offer support to parents of teens (Parents Together) and run Adventure Based Learning programs at our Camp in Metchosin. For more information on all our programs visit our website at www.bgcvic.org. For general information on after-school and evening programs at our 4 Community Clubs please call 250-384-9133.

The Child Abuse Prevention & Counselling Society/Mary Manning Centre is the primary provider of therapy and victim support services for children and youth in Greater Victoria who experience sexual abuse, physical abuse, and other serious trauma, or who may be at risk for sexual abuse. Therapy services include individual and group sessions for children and youth and group sessions for parents. Victim services include intake and referral, accompaniment and support for children and youth being interviewed by police, and court preparation and support for those testifying as victims or witnesses in criminal cases. No charge for clients. Contact: 250-385-6111 or admin@ marymanning.com.

Community Living Victoria supports people with developmental disabilities and their families by providing residential services, day and community supports (supported employment, parent support and independent living). Our Host agency provides direct supports for those with Individualized Funding and Home Share service. We also provide Autism Services for youth between 13 and 19. Our family support

program offers advocacy, conflict resolution, education, newsletters, workshops, support groups and a resource library. Please call 250-477-7231 ext 233.

Esquimalt Neighbourhood House Society. Our Family Services offer family resource programs with a focus on early childhood development and learning, parenting education and pre and post-natal services.

Our Counselling Services are free to adults and youth (12-18 years); adult and short term clinical counselling is offered for acute mental health problems. For more information call 250-385-2635 or visit 511 Constance Ave. in Esquimalt.

Inter-Cultural Association of Greater Victoria (ICA) is a service agency for immigrants and refugees.

Programs offered include cross-cultural counseling, parenting programs (child care available), family violence programs, employment services, interpretation and translation, diversity workshops and training, ESL instruction, volunteering, youth programs and tutoring, as well as intercultural arts programming and the Diversity Health Fair. 930 Balmoral Rd, 250388-4728, info@icavictoria.org, www.icavictoria.org.

Learning Disabilities Association of BC, SVI Chapter, educates, supports and advocates for children and youth with learning disabilities and related conditions.

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Military Family Resource Centre (MFRC) provides programs and services to the military family community. Services include: 24 Hour Information Line, Deployment Information and Workshops, Short Term Intervention/Crisis Support, Welcome/Relocation Services, services for families with special needs and responsabilities and childcare services and support to parents. Exciting Volunteer opportunities available!

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Parent Support Services Society (www. parentsupportbc.ca) provides support circles, parenting resources and referrals to all in a parenting role including grandparents raising grandchildren.

Our training in peer group facilitation is open to the community. Support circles are free with child minding and transportation assistance available.

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1Up: Victoria Single Parent Resource Centre (www.1-up.ca) provides support, education and resources for parents in the Greater Victoria area through free counselling, volunteer training for reception and peer helper positions, a mentoring program for single moms, and a support group for dads. The Centre also offers over 20 integrated life skills and parenting courses which are open to the whole community (fees are by donation). Child care assistance is available based on financial need. The Centre provides a bread pantry and free clothing for single parents. Donations of gently-used clothing, small household items, books, and toys are very welcome every Monday and Wednesday. Centre hours are 9–4 weekdays. 602 Gorge Rd. East; call 250-3851114 or info@1-up.ca.

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Elementary (ages 6-10) 9:00am-Noon $55.00 12:30-3:30pm Adventures on Promise Island Pre.-Gr. 5* $35.00 for first child July July 2-6 16-20 more!

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Welcoming a New Baby

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ringing a new baby into the family is a time for celebration. While the birth of a sibling is a transition for the whole family, it may be a cause of stress for a young child. An only child who has not yet had to share his parents may feel displaced by the arrival of a new baby who demands a lot of time and attention. The following is a list of guidelines which may help to make the transition of bringing home a new baby easier for your child.

Before the birth Once you are ready to share the news and your body starts to show the changes of pregnancy, tell your child about the coming baby. Take a trip to the library and pick out some books that will help explain what’s going on.

If you are planning to have your child make major changes such as toilet training or moving out of their crib, make these changes well in advance or well after the baby’s arrival. The tendency to encourage independency at this time may make your child feel resentful and resist the changes.

Explain frequently that a baby is not a playmate at first but a new member of the family. It may help to talk about what babies can and cannot do to avoid disappointment!

Practice caring for “baby” with a favourite stuffy or doll similar to the size of a newborn. Diapering, dressing and even buckling up a car seat are fun activities for your little one to do. Have fun talking about and planning for the baby.

Sit down with your child and go through her baby album. Tell her stories of the day she arrived and all the memories you have of taking care of her in those early weeks.

As you decorate the baby’s sleeping area, you may want to consider renewing parts of your older child’s room—perhaps a new duvet cover or light fixture.

Involve your child by asking for help to plan a “birthday party” for the new baby.

Allow him to choose the cake and decorations and to plan special presents to and from the baby.

As the due date gets closer, talk to your child about what will happen when Mom (and Dad) have the baby. If planning a hospital birth, explain who will be caring for her and that not only will she be able to

talk to Mom on the phone, but that she’ll be able to visit the new baby after the birth.

After the Birth If possible, have someone other than Mom holding baby at the first visit so that Mom can greet and hug the older child right away.

It is important to be prepared for any negative reactions from your child. Acknowledge your child’s feelings and provide him with appropriate ways to express them.

Keep in mind that not all rough treatment means that your child wants to hurt the baby. Young children do not always know their own strength, nor do they understand the fragility of the baby. Always supervise!

To foster positive reactions to the baby, provide your child with opportunities to care for the baby, such getting a diaper, choosing baby’s clothes, and helping to push the stroller.

To foster positive reactions to the baby, provide your child with opportunities to care for the baby, such getting a diaper, choosing baby’s clothes, and helping to push the stroller. Involving your child gives her a sense of your trust which will increase self-esteem, as well as foster feelings of acceptance and affection between your child and the baby.

It is important, however, to remember to follow your child’s lead about how much and how often they want to help out.

Keep a few small gifts in reserve for your young child when friends give gifts or lavish attention on the new baby. Stock up on little items like stickers, colouring books, crayons, and puzzles to bring out. Let him be the one to unwrap the baby gifts and test the rattles.

Spend quality time with your child. If needed, have someone look after the baby so that you and your child can have time together. Stress to your child that she is special and loved. Often a child will feel that there will not be enough parental love for www.kidsinvictoria.com

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a game with your older child. While feeding baby, read a book or just have cuddle time. As baby gets older, place him on a blanket on the floor to watch while you play with his big brother or sister. As baby gets more responsive, encourage your older child to interact with baby. Making faces and funny noises is something all three- or four-year-olds enjoy doing and babies love.

Big brothers and sisters love getting those big, toothless grins!

Revive “special time,” especially with Dad or other close relatives—outings to the park, the ice cream store, even to the store for bread and milk. These one-on-one outings are reserved just for the older child.

Expect some regressive behaviours from your child, for example, separation anxiety, toileting accidents, wanting to be diapered or breastfed. Sometimes pointing out that there are benefits to being big (like eating ice cream when all the baby gets is milk) seems to improve behaviour. Offer lots of hugs and frequent words of praise when your child is acting her age.

Priority number one is to make sure your child feels loved and needed, and that his place in the family has not shifted. Explain that, as the family is growing, so is your heart and that is why you have enough love for everyone. Adding a new member to the family will affect your child in a big way, but ultimately a positive one. This is the beginning of most likely the longest relationship they will ever experience and hopefully they are also gaining a lifelong friend.

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Preschool & Child Care Directory CENTRAL SAANICH Chrysalis Child Care..........................250-652-0815 A nurturing and stimulating environment for a small group of 3–5 year olds. Qualified ECE promotes learning through play.

Colwood/LANGFORD Almosthome Childcare/Preschool...250-590-7666 Quality childcare with a preschool curriculum/kindergarten readiness program. Experienced Early Childhood Educators. Nurturing environment for ages 10 months to 5 years old. www.almosthomecare.com.

Caring Touch Daycare.......................250-478-4886 A warm, loving, fun family daycare in a safe, nurturing environment. Infant/toddler care for ages 1–5 years.

Jenn’s Little Bears.............................250-478-8999 A safe nurturing environment for children from infancy to kindergarten. Our Infant and Toddler Program enriches each child’s development while our 3-5 Program prepares children for kindergarten. Two separate buildings allow each age group space to grow!

Miles of Smiles Licensed Child Care..........................250-298-7374 Dedicated to offering quality care where caring, learning, diversity, guidance and fun are the priority. www. milesofsmileschildcare.com Music Makers Child Care Centre.....250-294-3916 Offering an innovative environment that develops musical abilities and encourages a love of music while following a preschool curriculum/kindergarten readiness program. Group care for children 2 to 6 and infant/toddler care for ages 12 to 36 months. www.musicmakerschildcare.com

CORDOVA BAY Carrot Seed Preschool......................250-652-2311 Where children can discover, imagine, construct and learn through play. Wondrous natural playground. www.carrotseedpreschool.com.

Cordova Bay Preschool....................250-658-3441 A bright and cheerful parent-participation preschool with a philosophy of “learning through play.” www. cordovabaypreschool.org.

Lakeview Christian Preschool..........250-658-5082 Nurturing environment for 30 month to 5 year olds in a rural setting. Christian values emphasized. Licensed Cordova Bay facility with ECE teacher.

ESQUIMALT CIARA Early Childhood Centre.........250-386-7369 Education and fun hand in hand. Exceptional care for little ones ages 12 month-5yrs in an inclusive centre with Christian values.

Island Kids Academy Esquimalt.......250-381-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring all-day program. Character development using the Virtues Project. Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. www.islandkids.ca.

La Pre-Maternelle Appletree Preschool..........................250-479-0292 French immersion preschool program. Small groups 30 months to school age. Licensed Christian centre/ECE. Simply Fun Childcare Centre............250-881-3958 A warm, loving, fun and nurturing place for children to grow and learn. We have spaces available for registration ages 2.5 to 12 in our Licensed Group Facility. We offer extraordinary childcare, before and after school programs and a preschool. Our teachers are extremely qualified with ECE training and have lots of experience.

Call Brenda to set up a tour. Let your child’s light shine bright with us!

Highlands Lexie’s Little Bears’ Child Care Inc....................................250-590-3603 A 2 acre outdoor playground! A “Learning Naturally” interpretation. Our children explore, grow and learn from nature. Beside Bear Mountain. 12 months to 5 years. www.lexieslittlebears.com.

METCHOSIN A Growing Place................................250-391-1133 Half day program (AM or PM) for 2.5-5 yrs. ECE educator, small class size. Our own petting farm. Summer program for July.

Metchosin Co-op Preschool.............250-478-9241 Come and visit our stunning natural outdoor playspace, warm, nurturing, play-based,inclusive program allowing parents to grow and learn alongside their child.

Exceptional ECE Staff provide an enriching experience for 2.5 - 5 year olds. Come grow with us! Est.1960.

Reg. begins Mar.1 @ 9am.

North SAANICH In The Garden Childcare Centre.......250-654-0306 A GREAT PLACE TO GROW. Offering preschool, full day care, before and after school care for children aged 2.5 to 12 years old. Open all year.

OAK BAY Emmanuel Preschool........................250-598-0573 Children learn through play in our non-denominational Christian preschool near UVic. Bright attractive setting. www.emmanuelpreschool.ca.

Gonzales Co-op Preschool...............250-727-1003 Children explore their imaginations through our varied learning through play environments and large natural playground. Our Reggio-Emilia inspired program focuses on art, nature and music. Join us! www.gonzalespreschool.com.

Kindred Spirits Children’s House........250-590-6966 Now accepting registration for a small group of 2.5–5 year olds in a purpose built Montessori classroom.

The prepared environment stimulates and engages the children at their own pace with hands on, size, age and developmentally appropriate materials. www.kindredspiritschildrenshouse.com Oak Bay Co-op Preschool..................250-592-1922 Children Learn Through Play in this parent participation school. Our bright facility is allergy-free with a large outdoor playground. www.oakbaypreschool.com.

Recreation Oak Bay..........................250-370-7200 Fully licensed, qualified ECE Daycare and Preschool with play based learning. After school care also available.

SAANICH Arbutus Grove Children’s Centre.....250-477-3731 (Formerly known as Goosey Gander Kindergarten) Play-based, creative, active-learning programs: half/ full day Preschool. www.arbutusgrove.ca.

Cloverdale Child Care.......................... 250-995-1766 Openings available for 3 and 4 year olds for September 2012. cloverdalechildcare@shawbiz.ca, www.cloverdalechildcare.com.

Island Montessori House..................250-592-4411 Inclusive, integrated and nurturing preschool, kindergarten, Grade 1/2 program. Located in a lovely rural setting. Extended day available. www. islandmontessori.com.

Lakehill Preschool.............................250-477-4141 Nurturing, warm environment for children to learn through play, with qualified, experienced ECEs. Different levels of participation available. www.lakehillpreschool.org.

Lambrick Park Preschool & Childcare............................................250-477-8131 Gordon Head’s only parent-participation preschool and childcare centre celebrating 40 years. Offering morning, afternoon and all-day preschool options, flexible participation model, and allergy protocol. www. lambrickparkpreschool.ca Montessori Educare..........................250-881-8666 Beautiful learning environments in Broadmead and Saanichton. 30 months – 5 years. Summer program available. www.montessorieducare.com.

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Call your local Child Care Resource & Referral for free referrals and resources.

Your community’s best source of child care information and resources.

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Victoria & Gulf Islands: 250-382-7000 or 1-800-750-1868 Sooke/Westshore: 250-642-5152 • Cowichan Valley: 250-746-4135 local 231 PacificCare (Ladysmith north): 250-756-2022 or 1-888-480-2273 Funded by the Province of BC

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Preschool & Child Care Directory Neighbourhood Junior Kindergarten..250-479-4410 Offering 2 fall programs: “Stepping Stones” (2-3 yr. olds) 4 afternoons/wk. 12:45-2:45, focuses on learning positive interactions thru a variety of free play and group activities; Junior Kindergarten (4 yr. olds) 4 mornings/ wk. 8:50-11:30 prepares children for school, balancing teacher-directed and child-choice activities. Two fully equipped bright classrooms in Lake Hill School.

Oakcrest Preschool...........................250-472-0668 • Two fully qualified teachers, AM classes • No duty days, wide variety of parent jobs • www.oakcrestpreschool.org Playtime Preschool...........................250-383-3101 AM or PM preschool classes up to 20 hrs/ wk. Tillicum. Spacious facility, qualified ECEs. Let’s Talk About Touching Program. www. playtimepreschool.com.

Puddles & Paints Playschool............250-658-6573 Lexie celebrates 15 years as an ECE in the community.

Excellence through enriched programming. Music, art, dance and play. Montly themes and curriculum.

Supporting and encouraging your child’s individual successes.

Ready Set Grow Preschool...............250-472-1530 A warm, caring, quality Learning Through Play environment. Gordon Head area with a highly qualified ECE. heosc@pacificcoast.net.

Rogers Child Care Centre.................250-744-2643 High Quality Care and Educational Programs. Licensed for children 30 month to Grade 5. rogerschildcare@ shaw.ca or www.rogerschildcare.com St. Joseph’s Catholic Preschool..............................250-479-1232 ext 120 • A Christian child centre for 3–5 year olds.

• A warm nurturing and challenging program • Offered by St. Joseph’s Catholic School.

St. Margaret’s Preschool & Junior Kindergarten..........................250-479-7171 Our programme for 3 and 4 year old girls offers a nurturing and educationally stimulating curriculum provided by experienced ECE staff and specialist teachers. Our state of the art facility is located in beautiful environmental surroundings. www.stmarg.ca.

Christ Church Cathedral Childcare.. 250-383-5132 ECE and specialist teachers provide an outstanding all day licensed program for 3 and 4 year olds in our spacious and welcoming facility in James Bay. www. cathedralschool.ca.

Little Wonders Preschool (VROSCS)...........................................250-744-2718 A creative and suuportive program that will prepare your child for a lifetime of learning! OSC also available. www.viewroyalosc.com.

Downtown Y Child Care Centre.......250-413-8869 Enriched program, for children ages 3-5 years, supporting healthy child development and future school success. www.victoriay.com.

View Royal Preschool........................250-479-8067 An exciting inclusive program in an exceptional care environment. Licensed 3–5 year olds. Outside play and themes enrich this program. viewroyalps@ uniserve.com.

Footprints Academy............................. 250-590-5540 Licensed group daycare for 2.5 to 6 year olds. Open 6:30am–5:30pm. Weekly music and movement classes. www.footprintsacademy.ca.

Lansdowne Co-op Preschool...........250-595-5223 An extraordinary learning environment for families with young children. Parent participation. wwwlansdownepreschool.com.

Nightingale Preschool and Junior Kindergarten...................250-595-7544 – Taking children’s learning forward – One of Victoria’s leading preschools and Junior Kindergartens. Balanced approach to play and education.

Programme supports literacy, numeracy. Visit www. nightingalepreschool.com. Fernwood.

Parkdale Early Childhood Centre.....250-382-0512 We offer quality care and positive experiences for children in our diverse daycare and preschool programs. Our rich curriculum includes music classes from the Victoria Conservatory of Music. parkdalechildcare@shaw.ca.

Rainbow Express Daycare................250-382-2314 Enriched preschool style program in a daycare setting. Visit our website at www.rainbow-express.bc.ca.

Ross Bay Preschool..........................250-383-7445 Positive/supportive program motivating children to learn and discover. Curriculum builds on interests of the children. www.rossbaypreschool.com St. Andrew’s Catholic Preschool......250-382-3815 A place where children learn to love and love to learn.

A warm and nurturing environment. A stimulating curriculum.

DUNCAN Angel Care Christian Preschool.........250-746-5919 A quality, enriched program for preschool children.

Located in Queen of Angels Catholic School.

Maple Tree Play House Licensed Family Childcare...............250-746-5060 A daycare program that provides enriched outdoor play time and activities that build on a child’s intrinsic love of nature. Healthy meals and snacks are provided. mapletreekids@telus.net..

Parkside Academy Early Learning Centre.........................250-746-1711 Offering quality, literacy focused childcare for children aged 6 mos – 12 yrs; infant/toddler; 3–5, preschool, and after school programs at Alexander, Bench, Khowhemun and Tansor Elementary schools.

Queen Margaret’s Preschool/ Junior Kindergarten..........................250-746-4185 Offering a co-ed enriched curriculum in a friendly atmosphere. Morning ECE/afternoon daycare. www.qms.bc.ca.

Sunrise Waldorf School, Kindercottage Preschool Nursery......250-743-7253 A morning program for 3 and 4 yr olds in a warm natural atmosphere where wonder is nurtured and outdoor play is abundant. Details at www.sunrisewaldorfschool.org.

Parent & Child programs also available!

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The Sir James Douglas Playschool.250-389-0500 Fun, creative and educational ECE program for 3-5 year olds to grow and develop life long skills. Come play and learn in our bright and modern centre in Fairfield.

Cherry Tree Child Care Centre.........250-246-9195 Preschool program nurturing creative play and engaging learning activity. 30 months to age five. Qualified and experienced Early Childhood Educator.

ArtsCalibre Academy........................250-382-3533 Comprehensive programs for Preschool through Grade 5, delivering academic excellence through music, dance, drama and visual arts. Outstanding educators, locations and facilities. www.ArtsCalibre.ca

Victoria Montessori...........................250-380-0534 Unique, innovative learning environment combining the best of Montessori and Learning Through Play. Open yr. round. 30mths–grade 1. www.victoriamontessori.com.

St. Joseph’s Preschool.....................250-246-3191 A Christian learning environment for 3–5 year olds.

Active participation in the life of the school. Parental involvement.

Butterfly Corner.................................... 250-381-4845 Licensed family day care in James Bay. Since 1998.

ECE. Ages 1–5. Full time. Fun & Educational. http:// ButterflyCornerCreativeLearningCentre.com

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Qualicum Beach

A Secret Garden Preschool..............250-380-8293 Program built on Christian values. Monthly themes, weekly topics and daily activities. asecretgardenpreschool@shaw.ca.

Children’s Discovery Centre.............250-752-4343 Our program recognizes the uniqueness of each child and provides a nurturing, safe and creative learning environment. Preschool, Groupcare, Out of School care. ECE qualified staff. childrensdiscoverycentre@ hotmail.com.

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Castleview Child Care.......................250-595-5355 Learning Through Play & Experience. Licensed nonprofit, qual. ECE staff. Since 1958. Preschool and full-time care. www.castleview.ca Cedar Daycare...................................250-479-2032 Community oriented, NFP Child Care facility. Wide variety of activities offered including the use of a private outdoor pool during the summer months. Licensed ECE educators devoted to nurturing children aged 30 months – 5 years.

Centennial Daycare...........................250-386-6832 Providing quality childcare in the Burnside/ Gorge area for 30+ years. Snacks, lunches, Sportball and Music programs included. www. centennialdaycare.ca.

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Island Kids Academy View Royal.....250-727-2929 High quality child care (ages 1-5). Preschool curriculum offered within a warm, caring child care environment.

Character development using the Virtues Project.

Access to community programs including swimming, skating, Victoria Conservatory of Music. Part-time spaces available. www.islandkids.ca.

Little Friends Childcare.....................250-479-8423 “Learn through play” group childcare centre. Infants/ Toddlers/30mth–5yrs daycare and morning preschool near Knockan Hill park.

Little Star Children’s Centre.............250-752-4554 Earth friendly preschool education inspired by nature.

Kinder-Prep classes. Licensed group care. ECE instructors. www.littlestardaycare.ca. littlestar@shaw.ca.

Nanaimo Nanaimo Parent Participation Preschool...........................................250-753-1939 Experienced, caring and energetic ECE using learning through play in an enriched environment. www.nanaimopreschool.com.

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On the Move

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ur family doctor said Angus would be late to crawl. He mentioned this during our first appointment. It was nothing more than a meet and greet—we still were seeing the pediatrician assigned to us at birth. There was no need for Angus to be weighed or measured so he spent the entire time squirming and whining on my lap. “Don’t be alarmed when he progresses more slowly than other babies,” the doctor said as we were leaving.

“What?” I asked.

“He’ll sit and crawl later than average.

But don’t be concerned.”

I wondered if there was some sort of research: babies who spend time in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit are slow to crawl, babies born with heart conditions don’t sit up well. So far, aside from his extreme displeasure with tummy time, Angus seemed to be progressing pretty much on target. The doctor hadn’t even touched him.

What was he basing this on?

“I’ve seen a lot of babies,” he said. “I can just tell.”

I didn’t want to hear anything more about Angus being different: not smaller (which I knew he was), or more fragile (which of course he was too), and certainly not delayed. All I wanted to hear was that he was completely average.

“It might be nice, though, if he is a late mover,” Mike said. Maybe he said it from the living room of our one-bedroom apartment, surrounded by copious items at baby-height. Or maybe he said it from the bedroom—which contains our bed, Angus’s crib, and Mike’s studio space. Yes, perhaps it would have been more convenient if Angus developed a little slowly, if he remained content to just lie wherever we put him.

But Angus had already decided to prove the doctor wrong.

It happened early, before we were fully prepared. Just after his six-month birthday, he began to slither around on the floor. He’d scrunch his legs underneath him and then shoot them out again, thrusting his body forwards like a tipsy inchworm. Or he’d stretch his arms and grab for some sturdy

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object just within reach—a chair, the coffee table, the leg of his exersaucer—then pull until his face was pressed against it. It was hilariously entertaining. We’d offer him our arms and he’d use them to propel himself

Maternity & Beyond Laura TRUNKEY further forwards. But the progress was slow and before he reached any contraband, we had ample time to move it away. Then one day when I was changing him, instead of turning over onto his stomach, as per usual, he flipped onto his hands and knees.

Now all Angus does is move—everywhere, quickly, all the time. He crawls faster than I can walk, and he’s more than effective at pulling himself to standing. And then he lets go, supporting himself by leaning as he grabs for things out of reach. He’ll stomp his feet. His legs have gotten incredibly stable.

Watching him on Skype his grandfather said, “He’ll be walking in no time.”

Ha, ha, ha, Mike and I said. Translated to Oh God, hopefully not.

Angus just turned nine months old. We have secured the drawers of the sideboard in the living room as he had taken to opening them (then waiting until we’d turned our heads for a moment) to fish out pieces of paper and shove them into his mouth. The living room is slowly being cleared of items: all books and magazines, the floor lamp that Angus decided had a delicious bulb.

Some things we’ve resorted to storing in Tupperwear boxes, but he often mistakes these as jungle-gyms.

Last night Mike and I looked at photos of Angus’s earliest days. He was so little, we said. And he just lay there! It’s amazing to think that we will never have that baby back. The fussy little monkey who couldn’t move. And this proficient crawler who can’t yet stand on his own, he too will soon be replaced. It seems pointless to worry about milestones that might arrive late. Better to enjoy each moment—these times that will never be repeated. We’ll find out what’s around the next corner soon enough.

Laura Trunkey is the mother of the amazing Angus, as well as a writer and a children’s writing instructor at Story Studio. She can be reached at laurajtrunkey@gmail.com. www.kidsinvictoria.com

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If you think that your commute is long, think again. This three-inch bird travels almost 6,600 kilometres one way from Alaska to Mexico and then back again. If we took a similar one-way journey compared to our body length we would have to take over 3,500 trips around the earth. I’m not sure any of us has that many air miles.

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hoever said that good things come in small packages definitely had hummingbirds in mind. What other winged wonder can hover in place, dive at speeds faster than a fighter jet, or make one of the longest bird migrations on earth comparable to body size? That’s right. None.

With spring in the air I find myself enjoying the return of one of our two local hummingbird superstars—the Rufous. Not to slight the Anna’s Hummingbird who stays here year round, but as the Rufous return, I’d like to give them a special welcome back to this part of the world.

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Nature Notes REED OSLER Luckily, we can leave that claim to fame to the Rufous Hummingbird.

When these world travellers arrive here it’s straight to work for the females. One spring I was lucky enough to witness the fruits of their labours. I was at Francis/King Regional Park enjoying the fresh breeze when shrill shrieks woke me from my reverie.

I looked up to see my co-worker standing on a bench with his head floating somewhere amidst dense greenery. I joined him among the abundant leaves of a maple tree suddenly awash in green. There, perfectly camouflaged to less inquiring eyes, was a tiny nest adorned with moss and lichen.

Perched upon the nest, like an ice-cream topping, was the Rufous mother keeping her eggs warm.

Rufous females begin nesting within three days of reaching their breeding grounds.

No rest for the wing-ed. They use fluffy plant down for a cozy lining, then wrap it in moss and lichen to hide it from predators or the prying eyes of park naturalists.

Hummingbird nests, not to be outdone by other fantastic hummingbird feats, have a secret ingredient: spider silk. Females use the sticky silk to hold the downy plant material together. The nest can then stretch and grow, making room for the babies (usually two) when they hatch. Keep your eyes out this spring for a female Rufous diligently collecting spider silk for her nest.

Like the local convenience store, a spider web is a one stop shop for hummingbirds.

We all know that these feisty fliers drink nectar from flowers, but what you might not know is they like to indulge in tasty spider and insect treats as well. Not every creature can enjoy a big steak or some stir fried tofu, but we all need to get our protein

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from somewhere. If you see a hummingbird darting about in mid-air they are likely having a buggy brunch.

For their sweeter requirements, hummingbirds visit one to two thousand flowers every day. The sweet nectar lures in the birds and gets the plant pollinated at the same time.

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So how can you welcome back these little birds from such a long journey and thank them for all their efforts? The way to a hungry hummingbird’s heart is through its stomach. First, choose a feeder than can be cleaned easily. The simpler, the better. Then, make up a sugar solution by boiling one cup white table sugar (sucrose) with four parts water for two minutes, and fill your feeder when it has cooled. Never use honey, brown sugar, icing sugar, juice, artificial sweetener, or food colouring. The red on the feeder is enough to attract the birds. It is also very important to keep your feeders clean (using basic soap and water, not bleach). If you wouldn’t want to drink the liquid in your feeder neither would they. Next, sit back, relax and enjoy the feeding frenzy.

You can celebrate the return of our feathered friends at International Migratory Bird Day on May 12 at Elk/Beaver Lake Regional Park. Find out all the details at www.crd. bc.ca/parks.

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Cut It Out!

Tips from Parent Educator Allison Rees of LIFE Seminars

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t is difficult to set exact age guidelines for the development of a child’s ability to process information. The situation is complicated by the fact that children differ in their inborn intellectual abilities, and also in the speed of their development. If you are expecting your child to think like an adult, CUT IT OUT! The best thing for a parent to do is to recognize that kids often have problems in certain areas just because they are immature. A parent should identify an inability as something beyond normal childishness only if experienced outsiders (who see a lot of kids of the same age) identify a problem.

In general, these difficulties are most pronounced in the preschool years, and gradually decline with age. Preschool children have difficulty focusing on a task or even on a conversation for any length of time. They are easily distracted. They can’t remember what you asked them to do, especially if you gave them more than one instruction. If you say, “Go upstairs, put

your pajamas on, wash your face and brush your teeth,” the child is likely to get as far as “go upstairs” and then get distracted. A lecture does no good because they tune out—their attention span just isn’t that long. And, by adult standards, they never seem to focus on what is important. That’s because they don’t yet have the capacity to sort the important from the unimportant. This takes abstracting ability, as well as life experience to teach what matters and what doesn’t.

What to do: • keep instructions limited and make a clear positive request • draw things out or write them down • expect things to take time, and allot more time for kids to complete tasks • give one-word reminders • plan ahead and plan fewer trips • use a timer for young children to help them stay on track • enjoy the distractions with your children

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If the lessons at school were broken down into small, easy-to-learn tasks, which were then practiced until “mastered” (a word we don’t use any more in school) every child would find success. Perhaps teachers aren’t able to do this in a large class. However, students who are struggling still need someone to do this for them.

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