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F E AT U R E S What’s Your Passion?

Interesting stories containing some fact, some fiction, but always with a mixture of boldness, courtesy and an uncanny air of familiarity.

“John and Joan had been in love since high school. Her plan was to become an actress where she earned small parts at the Old Globe Theatre in San Diego opposite a new actor named John Wayne.”

Stepping In Step into our world where we will escort you through various designing techniques and ideas. Some old, some new and some yet to be named, either way, the door is open and after you visit, you won’t want to leave, mostly because we won’t let you!

10 DESIGNER SECRETS TO SEXY BEDROOMS

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Behind the Curtain It’s not always easy to pull the curtain back. These are issues you don’t always find the words for, and along with ideas, you’ll want to uncover for yourself.

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Second Glance What makes you STOP,TURN AROUND, and take a Second Glance... It’s worth it!

14 WARDROBE TIPS FOR ARIZONA’S “THAW” It’s all about Color!

The Deep End Forget your life vest, refill your oxygen tank and dive into a section that will surprise, amaze, educate and possibily anger you with topics you were waiting for “the other guy to bring up.” Feel free to throw down the gauntlet and challenge us.

32 LOVE ON THE (SOCIAL NETWORKING) ROCKS

It seems clear that most of these change-in-relationship-status postings are more about the poster seeking revenge on, or initiating a reaction from their (ex)lover than anything else.

26 THE PRINCESS AND THE PEEPS

I can’t let February go without taking time to appreciate the other primary loves in my life....my girlfriends.

28 THE COUNSELOR IS IN

Intimacy and Authenticity: Risks Worth Taking

That One Thing We know how to find what stands out, whats worth writing about... that One Thing that jumps out at you.

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Managing your home’s temperature via smartphones.

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20 RULES OF ENGAGEMENT

W H AT ’ S I N S I D E

Taking the time to make you comfortable.

20 SOME LIKE IT HOT

16 “WHILST” YOU DON’T FORGET...

Yes, she actually said “whilst”... Don’t write off the old when it’s now the new!

Area 44 Area 44 unlike Area 51 doesn’t have any alien sightings or do they? Area 44 is Ahwatukee.

30 TO PROTECT AND TO SERVE

Defending a girls best friend. Being presented with the sizeable investment of an engagement ring, you’ll want to protect it for reasons both practical and sentimental.

31 LEGALIZING MARIJUANA: HOW IT WORKS.

Persons who use marijuana for medical purposes are not immune from Arizona’s driving under the influence DUI laws.

Contributors Denise Teichert Local Designer Denise Teichert, Owner of Teichert Design Group and Show Host of Fine Wine and Design has

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actively lead complete floor to ceiling design projects for over 18 years for both residential and commercial projects.

PUBLISHERS AZ Media Consultants, LLC Isabel & Kevin Ham

Denise is an Allied Member of ASID and is a regular contributor for Tukee AZ. e-mail: teichertdesigngroup@msn.com

ART DEPARTMENT Jeb Blann Angelina Gonzales

Chef Laura Slama An Ahwatukee resident since 1992, Laura Slama is a graduate of Le Cordon Bleu, Scottsdale and the University of Pennsylvania. As the executive chef and owner of Celebrated Cuisine, as well as Laura’s Gourmet, the producer of four moutherwatering flavors of artisan crafted granola. Chef Laura is also a regular contributor to several television shows, including Sonoran Living Live and the Valley Dish. She also is a regular contributor to Tukee AZemail: cheflaura@celebratedcuisine.com

Rollin’...since 1994

serenity Imagine... Two-wheeled Join the movement

ADDITIONAL CONTRIBUTORS Melanie Beauchamp Tiffany Craig Joel Henderson PRINTING CONSULTANT Robert Petri

Susan Brashears Wacker

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Susan Brashears Wacker divides her time between her work in real estate, her hobbies of jewelry making, art and writing, and her time with her elderly parents, two adult daughters and four granddaughters. Susan’s roots run deep in Arizona. Her grandparents were all early pioneer settlers in the Verde Valley, Phoenix and Prescott and include the Brashears, Smith, Hicks and Marshal families. Most of Susan’s youth was spent in Chinle and Parker, Arizona and also Mesa and Flagstaff. She now makes her home in La Mesa, California with her husband Dennis.

Marcie Edmonds In her Ahwatukee practice, Change of Heart Counseling, Marcie Edmonds, M.C., L.P.C., helps people cope with and heal from a range of issues including depression, anxiety, addictions, codependency and relationship challenges, divorce, grief and more. Reach her at marcieedmonds@cox.net or visit her online at www.changeofheartcounseling.com. Or, find her at www.TukeeAZ.com.

Scott Gruby Scott Gruby is a software engineer in San Diego, California. He has written mobile applications for more than 15 years, most recently for the iPhone and the iPad. Diane Meehl

© 2011 by Arizona Media Consultants, LLC All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reprduced in any form without prior written consent from TukeeAZ Magazine TO OUR READERS: TukeeAZ Magazine would love to hear your reactions to our magazine! Feel free to send us an e-mail: publisher@tukeeaz.com ADVERTISERS TukeeAZ is distributed to select area homes and through prime area businesses. To hear more or to request a media kit, please contact Isabel Ham at 480.656.0626 or isabel@tukeeaz.com

Longtime Ahwatukee resident, Diane Meehl, owner of Your Words by Design, is an independent journalist and editor, a mother of 3 and an active community and church volunteer. A regular contributor to several local publications, including The Arizona Republic, Ahwatukee Foothills News and Raising Arizona Kids magazine, Diane can be found poring over her laptop during piano and ballet lessons.

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and Every Day of The Year

Welcome!

Both our Art & Creative Directors said “we need an editor’s letter and a picture”. In our opinion, an editor’s letter is sometimes overlooked. For now, we will continue to publish interesting content, some fact and some fiction, delivered with a mixture of boldness and courtesy from contributors, both professional and “ semi professional” that will present “behind the curtain” opinions with style, passion and an uncanny air of familiarity. Here is a small part of our beginning along with the first of many contributor introductions.

A foreboding of destined CHANGE, was the feeling we had on a warm Ahwatukee evening as we sat down to dinner with one of our friends. She lifted the glass, testing her newest find, a Malbac, and in her usual “flair”, threw down the gauntlet (she actually did that) and said, “Well, are we going to do it”? Now don’t let your mind wander into THAT area! She was talking about all the urging we’d had from numerous community leaders, business owners and residents to produce a magazine

From Practical to Tactical...

From Mild to Wild

befitting Ahwatukee’s lifestyle, a publication that would focus on local businesses and people in a manner equal to its own uniqueness.

Well, we picked up that gauntlet and said, “only if you’re going to jump in with us”……so enhance a friendship into a marriage, yes, I am now married to Denise Teichert, in the publishing sense. It has taken 3 years, and she continues to be as unique as our community and the magazine she is the Design Editor for. With her knowledge and professionalism, you’ll find what we found, a woman with a positive “I can accomplish anything and in half the time” attitude. So, “step in” with Denise and welcome to our world.

Dear Tukee AZ Reader, Welcome! I’m so glad you’ve discovered our magazine, and I look forward to your feedback. Allow me to introduce myself. I have been blessed with many wonderful gifts in my life… my beautiful children, supportive and loving friends and family, and an exciting and rewarding career. I’ve also been fortunate to live, work and play in a community full of inspiration, growth and true spirit. When I was offered the opportunity to serve as Design Editor for Tukee AZ, my response was an elated, “YES!” Not because I love the challenges of intense deadlines or the occasional bout of writer’s block, but because I’ve been given an opportunity to share my knowledge and passion for design with others in this community we call home.

My background and experience in design and media go back many years. I won’t share the actual number of them with you because, well, you might not believe I’m still thirty-nine and that’s my story, I’m sticking to it! I come from a family of gifted artists, so it only seems natural that I follow that path. My education and years of experience reside mostly in fashion and interior design. I’ve spent most of my adult life creating visual displays and designs for both commercial and residential spaces. My background in media has enabled me to share many of the transformations I, along with my talented team, have created for our clients.

In 2005, I launched a career in media with the local lifestyle television show, Fine Wine and Design. We showcase extraordinary floor to ceiling design projects, wine pairings, and recipes from top celebrity chefs. I look forward to introducing to you the many facets of design. Together we’ll step into the world of talented designers and take a look at the innovative products and exceptional art found right here in Ahwatukee. We’ll journey through local design events and scout out the “must do’s” as we discover new ways to create and engage in the “how-to’s.”

I am proud to be a part of the Tukee AZ lineup… and I look forward to embracing homemakers, foodie enthusiasts, fellow artists and designers looking to get their creative juices flowing, learn something new, or just have fun! I’ll enthusiastically encourage you to enhance your home, your style and your life through art, design, food and wine, and I invite you to enjoy all that TUKEE has to offer.

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Cheers! Denise Teichert

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Stepping In

t’s interesting how the one

so this is where I advise you to splurge.

room in our home where we

Crisp, clean sheets (I recommend a 450 -

spend the most time is the

650 thread count) entice us to jump in.

last to get decorated.

Keep your bedding simple‌. comfortable

Over

the 18-plus years I’ve been

and uncomplicated.

helping people enhance their living spaces, I can count on one hand the

s #OZY UP YOUR WALLS 7ARM TONES ARE

number of calls I’ve received specifically for

sexy.

help with master bedroom designs. I get

yellows.

numerous calls regarding children’s rooms.

passion; but use caution, because it also

Putting our children first is not a bad thing,

stimulates anger - unless you’re into that

however any marriage counselor out there

kind of thing.

Try browns, beiges, apricots and Red is the color of love and

little “you/us� time. I am by no means

s 9OU MIGHT lND IT INTERESTING THAT YELLOW

a marriage counselor; trust me, I will be

symbolizes communication, so keep that

following my own advice as I write. Some

in mind if you’re lacking in that area.

of you are smiling, I know. s !S HARD AS THIS WILL BE FOR SOME TRY TO I understand the master bedroom is not

keep computers and televisions out of

one you generally show off. It’s not the

your bedroom.

first room your guests see and it doesn’t

you, then at least hide them in a cabinet

have to be transformed into some happy

or armoire.

If that’s impossible for

place to keep your children occupied and feeling safe. Therefore our time, budgets

s +EEP ALL EXERCISE EQUIPMENT OUT OF THE

and thoughts are focused on those “more

bedroom - that’s not the excitement we

happen’n� spaces. In actuality, though,

are trying to create here!

your life and/or your relationship may very well be “more happen’n� if you put

s 7HEN IT COMES TO ACCESSORIZING THINK IN

invest in your most personal space‌your

terms of pairs. One of anything represents

bedroom!

loneliness; so plan for two nightstands, two candles on a dresser, two pictures on a

Sexy Bedrooms By: Denise Teichert

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When in LOVE‌

Do as the French do‌

By: Denise Teichert

will stress the importance of having a

Designers’ Secrets to

Enough said!

Whether you’re single and want to change

wall. And your accessories are the perfect

what you are attracting, (or just want to

opportunity to introduce that passionate

attract, period) or if you’re looking to

red. It’s been said that a red object on

recharge the eroticism in your existing

the nightstand increases eroticism in the

relationship, start by incorporating these

female partner, a copper one in men.

sexy design principles into your bedroom.

Don’t wait! This is far too important to put

s ,ASTLY KEEP IN MIND ALLURE IS IN THE

on hold. Valentine’s Day is just around the

lighting.

corner; this is a perfect time to re-charge

use of dimmers, candles and oil lamps.

your bedroom‌ and your romantic life. A

Not only does it set

few tips to get the (creative) juices flowing:

the mood but we all

Soften your lighting with the

Looking for a romantic piece of furniture? Let me introduce you to the Chaise Lounge. Properly known as “Chaise Loungue�, which is French for long chair.

A symbol of luxury and comfort it’s perfect for your bedroom or sitting room. The unique design of a chaise lounge makes it extremely comfortable. Its artistic curves make it a sexy piece of furniture that is sure to bring a touch of romance to your dÊcor.

There are a wide range of options when it comes to choosing a look that’s right for you. Traditional to modern you’re sure to find the right fit!

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner; this is a perfect time to re-charge your bedroom‌ and your romantic life.

look better in soft s 2EMOVE THE CLUTTER INCLUDING ANYTHING

lighting, too.

that reminds you of past lovers, such as photos, love letters, gifts, etc. And get rid

With a bit of time

of any bad memories. If you’re looking to

and

rejuvenate, you have to start fresh.

love life will match

effort,

your s .EW BEDDING CAN BRING FRESH ENERGY

passionate

your

bedroom’s dÊcor.

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Second Glance

ut together pieces they can wear now that have staying power to wear later in the season. I

The key to making the most of this in-

often find women have

a classic cut pair of grey or silver pants,

a

between time is to gather versatile pieces to add to your collection. Not a big fan of yellow? Try a sheer navy blouse, with

choosing

and since it’s still cold outside, pick up a

clothing outside of their comfort zone.

matching blazer as well. Choose items you

This is especially true when it comes to

can wear to both work and happy hour,

color. Just because it’s still winter, don’t

and look great in both places!

hard

time

be afraid to embrace color!

Navy is hot

this season, along with yellow and shades

Finally, every outfit that achieves a “put

of grey. I tend to get the question, “Why

–together” look requires accessories. Try

so much yellow? It’s not summer time

some silver textures that are everywhere

yet!” Once again, it’s all about transition.

right now, such as a silver cuff and

Why not try a bright canary top or

matching necklace to stitch your look

cardigan, which easily transitions into the

together. And don’t forget your most

next season. Save time and stretch your

essential accessory …confidence!

wardrobe budget. High five, ladies!

Submit your own fashion tips at TukeeAZ.com!

Within our doors you will find alluring irresistible trends.

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Wardrobe Tips for Arizona’s “Thaw”:

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By: Tiffany Craig

It’s official. The weather is warming, and we’re heading into that transitional time before we dive into the long summer’s wardrobe. The advice I give to clients searching for just the right outfits?

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That One Thing

bacon slightly longer (but don’t ruin those

excellent restaurants in Manhattan; the

talent of the chef, desserts in house could

scallops, they were perfection!).

house-made pasta definitely did not deter

be so much better (Chef Laura reminder –

from the abundant seafood inside that

better to offer fewer options that are yours

Our

server,

David,

wanted

nothing

had no chance of being overwhelmed by

and awesome, than too many which don’t

less than to please, and he performed

ricotta – a great balance.

reflect all the wonderful things your guests

flawlessly. For those of you that know me,

Oh, but I digress. Whilst (yes, I wrote

have already experienced).

I can be a little challenging, and so that is

whilst) waiting for the main, we shared the

exactly what I did – I challenged him to

hearts of palm salad. Replete with hearts

I am grateful to the current rash of

bring me that evening’s best dish on the

of palm, artichoke hearts, roasted red bell

Ahwatukee restaurant newbies for not

menu – which turned out to be the Halibut

peppers, baby romaine, tomatoes and a

being ready for me yet. I was able to

Genovese – Pan seared halibut with capers

great balsamic vinaigrette, it was funny to

rediscover what has always been here and

sn’t it funny how we tend to

and artichokes, so perfectly cooked, that

see three people so enraptured by a salad.

found a new place for my bubble to float.

write off what is “old” in favor

after 30 minutes sitting on my plate (I

of what is new? We can’t help

am a bit of a talker) it was still moist

Dessert was a little more challenging.

it, it’s just human nature.

I

and enjoyable). My dining companions

Most of the desserts come from an offsite

mean, why settle for the old

put old and new school to the test, veal

bakery, so we specifically asked for that

and understood, when you

marsala and fresh seafood ravioli. Again,

which is made in house (crème brulee) and

can take on the new and exciting? Well, I

pinch me – where am I? The Tuke? The

back East (cannoli). Suffice to say, both hit

have one word for why not, Ruffino Italian

veal was reminiscent of my days in

a basic need, but I am confident, given the

“Whilst” You Don’t Forget Ruffino Italian Cuisine By: Chef Laura

Gone is the garish red wall, the old Italian décor, and in its place is a spot that made me say,“where have I been?”

Cuisine.

A few evenings ago, after a thwarted attempt to dine at a few new restaurants in our “bubble” (one was in “training mode”, the other still learning the basics), my dining partners and I decided to visit an oldie but a (potentially) goodie at Warner between 48th and 51st streets, Ruffino Italian Cuisine. As you may be aware, it went under new ownership about three years ago. Gone is the garish red wall, the old Italian décor, and in its place is a spot that made me say, “where have I been?” Seriously, from the warm greeting at the door, to the knowledgeable cocktail server dying to make us feel comfortable, I had to pinch myself for a second. I was a little thrown off by the live entertainment until the little voice inside my head said “embrace, don’t reject” and before I knew it, I, too, was flying to the moon…..

We decided to enjoy appetizers in the lounge while waiting for our table (yes, there was a wait), which included the beef carpaccio and the bacon wrapped scallops. Both were delicious, although I would suggest the kitchen slice the beef a teeny bit thicker so it is easier to lift from the plate, and perhaps cooking the Photos By: Art Holeman Page 16

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That One That one Thing

thing

DINING IN

The Living Room By: Chef Laura irst dates can be awk-

are you having?” menu where someone in

beef sliders were also tasty, and were a lit-

ward.

Anyone who tells

your group is certain to have entrée envy

tle more filling than the bruschetta, impor-

you otherwise apparently

(entrée envy: the emotion one feels when

tant if you want to leave feeling like you

never had one. From the

eyeing another person’s entrée and think-

have eaten an actual meal.

drive to the restaurant, to

ing “I should have ordered that!”).

selecting the menu items,

Other items we tried included the anti-

enduring lapses in conversation, and of

Following the directions of our enthusias-

pasto board with selected Italian meats,

course, the inner monologue (“do I have

tic server, Morgan, we started with two

cheese, olives and ciabatta, great to share,

food in my teeth”, “is my conversation

bruschetta. The first was more of a test

especially in a large group, as well as the

interesting”, “did he just check out that

since it can be an easily ruined classic: to-

hot Bavarian pretzel, made in house, of-

other woman?”), first dates can be excru-

mato, mozzarella and basil with a drizzle

fered with three different mustards. I con-

ciating.

of balsamic reduction.

sider myself a pretzel connoisseur, and this

Presented sliced

in thirds, each piece had plenty of toma-

one was definitely up to snuff.

But first dates can also be exciting – no

toes and fresh mozzarella nicely brought

lapses in conversation, easy familiarity, no

together by the balsamic.

The second,

Chef’s Caution - If you select The Living

room for inner monologue as words tum-

selected by my dining partner, was com-

Room for your first date, prepare yourself.

ble unfiltered from your mouth.

prised of prosciutto, figs, mascarpone and

The combination of atmosphere, service

tomato jam, also in thirds, proved to be a

and menu is the perfect formula for dating

tasty balance of sweet and salty.

success. The rest, of course, is up to you.

for us, we have The Living Room not too

From there we ventured into sandwich

Chef Laura note: All good first dates result

far away. Tucked into the edge of a retail

land, enjoying a house roasted turkey

in a second. On a return visit to the Living

strip in Chandler, The Living Room is ex-

sandwich with provolone, roasted pep-

Room, this time enjoying the brie fondue

actly that – easy familiarity that embraces

pers and basil pesto, served hot, with a

and few different bruschetta, I was happy

you the moment you walk in. Depend-

chopped vegetable salad on the side. As

to see the same consistently friendly staff

ing on your mood and your dining com-

a professional chef known for her pesto, I

and one even remembered my visit from

panion, choose to sit indoors at the bar, a

am pretty picky when I taste others, but

the earlier visit. At The Living Room, it is

high top, or a table for four or outdoors on

this one I definitely enjoyed, especially in

easy to see how that first date could easily

the abundant couches. No matter where,

combination with the turkey. The prime

start a long term love affair.

The restaurant we pick can play a role in making or breaking that first date. Lucky

you will be greeted by a service staff who knows the menu, isn’t shy about sharing their favorites, can navigate you through the wine list or make up a cocktail designed to please your specific desire.

On the Saturday evening I visited The Living Room it was nearly full at 6pm. I did notice that women outnumbered men, but I think that was more due to the fact that the menu appeals more to women than men – I call it a “grazing menu”, comprised of items that are meant to be shared, as opposed to the traditional “what Page 18

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That One Thing

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Managing your Home’s Temperature via Smartphones By: Scott Gruby

By now, we thought we’d all live like The Jetson’s. While home automation has remained a topic of conversation for years and there are so many advances in technology, we’re not there just yet. True, we’ve enjoyed systems for turning lights on and off during certain hours, and timers to fire up appliances at night. Still, Judy wouldn’t be too impressed.

A programmable thermostat remains the simplest form of in-home automation; an

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essential for both comfort and energy savings. These relatively mundane devices enable the regulation of heat or air at predictable intervals, and they have been the extent of the promise of life at a touch of a button. That is… until now.

A company called Radio Thermostat, www.radiothermostat.com, makes a few WiFi enabled thermostats, putting this technology on a new trajectory. While they won’t automatically clean your house or make dinner, these devices help regulate the temperature…whether you’re relaxing at home or globetrotting.

These thermostats perform the same functions as their contemporaries, but

10:15 AM

also integrate with your home network so you can control the temperature from not only the comfort of your couch, but from anywhere you can connect via mobile application or web-based connection; but that’s not all. For instance, if you leave the house and forget to turn off the air,

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you can hold the temperature to achieve maximum efficiency. Plus, programming these thermostats is a snap, just log into the website for instructions.

One of the best features of these thermostats, including the CT-30, and its counterpart, the 3M Filtrete 50, is that they are affordable. Each is available for a price just slightly higher than a programmable thermostat, around $99. Installation will, of course, cost extra, but if you’re slightly handier than George Jetson, installation shouldn’t be too difficult.

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Whats your Passion?

Rules of

Engagement By: Isabel Ham

“Rules of Engagement?” she asked. “Just exactly what are those, and why do you have to enlist and go to Korea, or Japan, or to whatever secret place they’re sending you?”

“John and Joan had been in love since high school. Her plan was to become an actress, and she earned small parts at the Old Globe Theatre in San Diego opposite a new actor named John Wayne.”

“Well, my love,” he answered, “the ROE’s are complicated and confusing at best.

Basically, they are the guidelines that determine where, when and how you conduct yourself in difficult situations. And yes, I have to go… to serve our country and preserve our freedom so future generations, our children, might not have to.”

“I understand. But I hate that you’re leaving. I love you desperately.”

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Whats your Passion?

were to be married.

No one knew.

It

He returned

never looked back. She didn’t run after

to the States, where he came across

him this time. She stood still, tears in her

her brother, Bob attending Annapolis

eyes she looked down at her child, the one

After all those letters professing his love,

Academy, who told him cryptically “the

with John’s personality, and envisioned

abruptly, they stopped.

Joan had been

last I heard from my sister who obviously

the ones to come. In that moment, she

heartbroken to find out that he was

inherited the blood of our adventuring

vowed to teach them that when they find

missing in action (MIA) and quite possibly

Spanish ancestors, was that she was going

love, hold on tightly, don’t let anything

dead on arrival (DOA). She didn’t know

home”. That was all, nothing more.

get in the way…not work, not play - not

wasn’t official.

“A love like that is so fragile, so precious, that even if you have to break “THE RULES of ENGAGEMENT” to defend it… then….do it!”

exactly what had happened, but she was

uncovered those words and

a booklet titled ‘The Mass on the day

many more contents in an

of Marriage,’ a key (to a house?), a tiny

old cigar box.

Dusty and

pill box tucked with a note that read,

John and Joan had been in love since

unopened, it had languished

‘whoever opens this must give a kiss,’ a

high school. Her plan was to become an

in a large crate that had

sultry picture of my mother, who looked

actress, and she earned small parts at the

been ignored and moved

like Elizabeth Taylor down to the beauty

Old Globe Theatre in San Diego opposite

The storage

mark, wearing a black velvet swimsuit…

a new actor named John Wayne.

company had called and asked if I wanted

and one of a man in a uniform and helmet

friend, Suzanne Pleshette, had advised her

to continue renting a space. Having taken

smoking a cigar. On the back it read, “this

to ‘hang in there’ and a good part would

out all the important items and stacking

is me beside my home. I carry the carbine

come along. She could dance, and had a

them in my garage, I thought, well, it

to fight off the Korean girls. The armor vest

beautiful face and a wonderful personality,

wouldn’t matter if I gave away the rest to

is to hold in my stomach. I have a cig in

but couldn’t carry a tune to save her

Goodwill. I almost wish I had.

my mouth because we get them free. One

life… something I inherited, along with

from one house to another.

she had come and gone.

unfolded.

Her

pant’s leg is up because I just scratched my

her friends name. John had enlisted into

Buried deep down under torn papers

leg. If you can’t use this, please send it

the Army and was serving with the 40th

and pieces of an old scrapbook with gold

to the home for old soldiers, I Love you

Division in Korea where he was awarded

corners, I discovered carefully hidden

desperately”

the Combat Infantryman’s badge. They

even a war.

going to go find him! When she left for

Had too much time passed for a love to

the Orient, she didn’t tell anyone, knowing

survive? It was a summer day, and the

A love like that is so fragile, so precious,

they’d advise against it. She didn’t want

Alabama sun was threatening her tomato

that even if you have to break “THE RULES

to hear it; so she was gone.

plants as Joan watched her child playing

of ENGAGEMENT” to defend it… then….

in the mud of their 150-year-old family

do it!

After months, and no word from either

homestead, when a man approached.

of them, there was a beach party and all

They stood looking at each other, and in

Many hours later, surrounded by all the

the usual suspects showed up.

Beach

that moment, it evaporated - the vision of

artifacts from this unrequited love, I knew

parties at “The Del” in San Diego during

what their life would have been. All the

that she had excelled in HER mission. My

the 1940’s and 50’s involved bonfires

years of hoping and dreaming and finally

brothers, John, Clay, Charles, and a sister

with lots of friends, some you didn’t even

giving up, came rushing in on them. In

Kayte, would agree.

know. One in particular stepped forward

that moment a voice echoed,

I’ll find the man that quite possibly is my

to announce he was back. It was John;

chance is gone.”

“Your

For me, hopefully

father, and thank him for the love he gave

and he was looking for Joan. No one knew

to my mother, the respect he afforded

where to find her. After surviving Korean

As he watched the little girl, rub muddy

her, and the service he gave our country.

and Japanese battles, he was faced with a

hands on her mothers skirt, he looked at

The “Rules of Engagement” are those you

bigger fear - losing his love forever.

Joan with longing, smiled, blew her a kiss

follow each day, the ones you respect when

A glimmer of hope, mixed with

and then turned and walked away.

you’re engaged with any relationship.

He

paralyzing fear hit him when he found that she’d left to look for him!

Back to Korea and Japan to no avail,

handwritten letters. I was shocked to see them.

I thought I’d already discovered

I thought, this guy has a great sense of

all the mementos of my mother’s life

humor… who is he? There was more,

after her early departure from mine. The

including an old box made of fabric

numbered letters were both old ones

emblazoned with the word, passion, and

and new. Thumbing quickly through the

I was almost afraid to open that one! First,

photographs, my eyes settled on a man I’d

I got up to get a drink - I won’t tell you

never seen before. Mingled throughout

what kind, but for the sake of posterity, I’ll

the box were photos of my mother

just say, those Argentineans’ know what

pictured with the same man, strategically

they’re doing - and came back PREPARED

hidden in between love notes with her

to find just ONE MORE corner to turn in

lip prints on them, and programs from

my life. I hoped it wouldn’t be a dead end.

The Old Globe Theatre. Amongst the pile was a skillfully drawn sketch of a naked

I opened the “passion” box, and found

woman, complete with a beauty mark on

exactly that…it was filled with poems

her cheek.

and letters that would put Hallmark out of business, plus, two rings. What existed

The excavated trove revealed old menus

in those letters was the love of a lifetime,

from restaurants, a cross without a chain,

and I never knew it. Here’s how the story

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Behind The Curtain

network of friends fared a better chance of survival.

The Princess & The Peeps By: Diane Meehl

In my own strictly empirical research, it is clear to me that women are different from men in this regard. Often, in order to cope with their stress, men choose to retreat.

Together in groups, guys seem more

on’t get me wrong, I’m

and constant companionship is vital to the

Marriage is a marathon, and every wife

all for technology. I love

many and varied roles I play every single

needs a gang of girlfriends to help her

an e-card in my inbox;

day. The women in my “foxhole” have

retain her reign as Queen. Her very life

but when it comes to

my back, and I’d take a bullet for any of

depends on them.

expressing my feelings

them. (Of course it might take the shape

during Valentine’s Day,

of sharing an emergency cocktail to shake

Evidence suggests my theory rings true:

off some mother-in-law stress.)

women with strong friendships enjoy

I’m a devout believer in the church of Hallmark.

However, my still knight-in-

shining-denim is not the only one I’m

Nothing prepares one for the rigors

of The Girls from Ames, spent a decade

thinking of as I forage for greeting cards

of

intimate

immersed in the study of a group of

this year.

relationships. No one explains that after

women and their friendships. “A host of

I can’t let February go without taking time

family

life

or

the Prince sweeps in, every Princess rides

studies show that having a close group of

off to a castle for which she will carry a

friends helps women sleep better, improve

to appreciate the other primary loves in

hefty load of responsibilities, including

their immune systems, stave off dementia

my life…my girlfriends.

cleaning the royal “thrones.”

and actually live longer,” he said.

Without them,

Or that

His

I’m not certain I would have survived the

over time, the tiara tarnishes, the Prince

research revealed a study at Stanford

adventure that is marriage these 16 years

occasionally

froggish,

University that showed women with late-

and counting.

and the fever pitch of courtship simmers.

stage breast cancer who enjoyed a large

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Their support, laughter

acts

downright

There seems to be an unwritten rule not to talk about their problems, whereas with women, how much we share is precisely the measure of our closeness.

more robust health. Jeffery Zaslow, author marriage,

likely to seek diversion than conversation.

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It doesn’t take long for women to achieve this intimacy. We tell our labor stories to the pregnant woman in the bathroom. We celebrate our children and commiserate

encouragement we so effortlessly offer to

over their struggles.

one another.

We laugh at the

Longtime

antics of our significant others and we

Ahwatukee

resident

Diane

Meehl is an independent writer and can

cry over our profound disappointments

So Princesses and Queens, join me in

be found in her closet, talking with her

in them. We deliver meals when one of

celebrating

girlfriends on the phone.

us is sick, because we instinctively know

Uggs. Because she’ll ride you off into the

that the caregiver is often the last on her

sunset and emancipate you from your

own list. We humble ourselves to each

hours of toil… at least until you’ve got to

other, and we draw strength from the

get the kids to bed.

your

Knightess-in-shining-

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Behind The Curtain

Joel and Stephanie’s proposal story... start the next chapter in our lives. After getting their approval, I went home, tried to get sleep and planned how I was going

The Counselor Is In

to propose.

Intimacy and Authenticity: Risks worth Taking

Stephanie came over to my house to meet up and go to dinner. She came

By: Marcie Edmonds, M.C., L.P.C.

in, and I told her to sit down because I had a present for her. She looked at me in

like “why did you buy me something?”

I like to

I told her that it wasn’t big and I gave

their journey in therapy, clients can learn

describe intimacy as, “in-to-me-you-see.”

her the wrapped frame. When she saw it

to become more authentic.

Practicing

True intimacy involves allowing yourself

she jokingly said “Its not a ring!” I loved

casual

authenticity means being true to oneself…

to be vulnerable. We do this by sharing

hearing that, because she had NO idea

greeting is, “I’m fine,”

to your personality, spirit and character.

all of ourselves with someone we trust,

what was coming. Then she opened the

even if it isn’t true? You aren’t alone; many

The difference means knowing when it’s

speaking truthfully and letting go of the

present and was so happy to see it was a

of us employ these practices in certain

appropriate to say,

potential consequences. When we try to

Nan Lawson. It took her a minute to realize

contexts. However, patterns such as these

control the outcome in relationships, we

what I was doing on the print. Once she

turn problematic when they become the

end up sacrificing our authenticity if we

realized she started to tear up and kept

are not equipped to deal with conflict

repeating “Are you serious?” “Is this a

or rejection. So we act as if life is

joke?” Then I got on one knee, opened

an election, toting a campaign It’s

up the ring box and said. “I love you so much, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. Will you marry me?”

sustain

She was in complete shock. All I heard for

oes this sound familiar?

drawn to addictive behaviors often propels

Creating

You

one

people to seek professional help. During

relationships requires risk.

thing yet say another.

Or,

often

think

your

answer

to

standard a

“I’m fine”, to the

only way we “do life,” walking around with an invisible sign that reads, “If you only knew.”

emotional

intimacy

slogan that says, “Vote for Many of us have learned

me! Vote for me!”

how not to say what

exhausting

we really think, believe or feel.

to

a minute was “Seriously?? Did you buy

that kind of insincerity.

that? Is this really happening?” I put the

We do this

out of fear of others’

Are

you

reactions:

take

a

i.e.,

he/

ready

ring on her ring finger and gave her a hug

to

and she then said YES!

calculated

she will get mad at

risk in 2011?

me; my words will

a

Make

bout a year ago Steph

Finally Monday, December 27th I went

to

had a digital image of us

to the ring store to just “look” at the ring

Since that day we have loved being

be hurtful; I’m afraid

express your inner

created by the amazing

and decide what I should do. The ring

engaged and that much closer to being

if you know my truth

self, and worry less

Nan Lawson. She loved

was not online anymore so I was worried

married. I truly love Stephanie SO much,

others

that print, she framed

it would be discontinued. I was able to

and I am so blessed to have her as my

your

it, blogged about it, and

walk away owning the ring that I would

fiancé. I can’t believe that in about a year

words,

posted it on facebook. So, I contacted

ask the woman I love to marry me. I knew

she will become Mrs. Henderson.. Then I

actions,

Nan soon after that and asked her to do

I had to act fast if I wanted to propose that

will be the luckiest man in the world.

and you may discover real

a top secret project for me. She had all

week. Her sister, and close friends would

you may not want to

about

be with me. We mask our

sadness

behind

Align

thoughts, feelings

We soothe

our emotional wounds with compulsive activities. Over time, these habits become symptoms of a range of psychological issues making their way to my office.

and

change in your experiences

the photos, and knew our styles already

leave the following week for school. The

and relationships. It’s what I refer

from when Steph did business with her.

proposal had to happen with them here.

to as living a life that is authentic. It’s

My project was a little different than the

not an easy shift, and it forces us right

other one though. I asked Nan if she

I secretly set up a breakfast with her parents

could illustrate me on one knee instead of

one early morning. They knew that the big

standing.

question was coming, and fully supported

out of our comfort zone. check

o

u

t

Feeling dissatisfied with life, discontented

clerk, but admitting, “I could really use a

in relationships, depressed, anxious or

shoulder to cry on,” to a significant other.

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what

think.

anger. We drape our pain with a smile.

commitment

But it’s the

surest path to sustaining loving, engaged, intimate relationships.

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us. They couldn’t wait for Steph and I to

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Area 44

To Protect and Preserve Defending a Girl’s Best Friend‌For Life By: Kevin Ham

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Think for a moment about these heart-

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November

2,

2010,

from a registered nonprofit marijuana

Arizona voters approved

dispensary.

Location of dispensaries

Persons who use marijuana for medicinal

Proposition 203 legalizing

continues to be a controversial subject

purposes are not immune from Arizona’s

marijuana for medicinal

because many citizens do not want them

driving under the influence (DUI) laws.

use.

located in residential areas or near schools

Arizona DUI laws make it a crime to drive

The Department of

Health Services (DHS) has

a vehicle while under the influence of

yet to finalize rules that will be used to

Patients or their registered caregivers may

marijuana. If a person is using medical

regulate medical marijuana. The informal

acquire up to two and a half (2.5) ounces

marijuana and can be shown to be under

draft Rules and comments thereto are

of medicinal marijuana in a two (2) week

its influence they are guilty of a DUI. The

available at the Arizona Department

period from a registered nonprofit medical

problem is that chemical tests are not

Health Services website.

marijuana dispensary. If the patient resides

always sufficiently accurate to determine

over twenty-five (25) miles from the

if there is enough marijuana in someone’s

At this time it appears that the following

closest medical marijuana dispensary, the

blood to actually impair them.

rules and guidelines are expected to be

caregiver or the patient can grow up to

blood alcohol analysis wherein someone

used to determine who may use medical

twelve (12) marijuana plants in a locked,

with a blood alcohol content of .08 or

marijuana and how it may be dispensed

enclosed facility.

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severe and chronic pain, severe nausea,

identification card should the qualifying

bloodstream even though they are no

seizures (including epilepsy), and severe

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longer impaired by the drug.

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The Deep End

Love on the (Social Networking) Rocks

By Susan Brashears Wacker

Oh yes, we know them. Those people

there. The post could be removed, but

raising my hand in a single finger salute

that meet someone and after the 3rd

chances are, not in time to keep it from

to you!”

date they post on their social networking

being read. And, somehow, even while

page that they are “in a relationship”. A

having regrets about past relationship

As for me, if my husband and I ever hit

couple of weeks pass, they have their first

postings, some people can’t seem to stop

the skids, I vow not to change my Face-

fight, and hurriedly change their status

themselves.

book status until I’m absolutely, positively,

back to “single”. A few days later, the

unequivocally certain that we are finished

couple reconciles and the status changes

It seems clear that most of these change-

and over; then I’ll deliver him my single

back to “in a relationship”. This repeats

in-relationship-status postings are more

finger salute in real space not cyber.

several times over the next few months

about the poster seeking revenge on, or

until they post “engaged”, then “single”,

initiating a reaction from their (ex)lover

then “it’s complicated”, then back to

than anything else. They are a way to

“engaged”. Meanwhile… we’re reaching

say, “See… I’m moving on!” or, “I’m put-

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Parting Shot

Treasure the Moments. .

Welcome to Our World!

Until Next Month. .

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