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• A Minute with Molly includes fifty-two quick etiquette Text Box for each week of the year. lessons—one TM
1. A LESSON for the child to read and learn. 2. A FREE downloadable LESSON GUIDE for parents/ educators to review and reference. Scan the QR Code below or use this secure link: bit.ly/FreeMolly • •
Begin each week by reading a lesson with your child. Then discuss and practice applying the lesson during the week using lesson guide tips.
Remind your child that while following etiquette rules outwardly is good, demonstrating genuine love and compassion for others is even better.
Molly TM
Presenting the Lessons–Abridged Hardback Edition •
Review the FREE downloadable LESSON GUIDE that presents the same pictures/scenes as the LESSON but includes lesson suggestions for the educator.
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Read (or have your child read) the LESSON and practice applying the lesson during the week using lesson guide tips.
Free for Groups and Schools •
Download a FREE PowerPoint edition with tips and other resources.
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Table of Contents C o v e r Pa ge ...................................................... 1 H o w t o U se A Minute with Molly TM ....................... 2 Ta b l e o f Co n te n ts ............................................. 3
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1. Say "Please" & "Thank You"................................................................................4 2. Say "I'm Sorry" Honestly .................................................................................. 5 3. Look a Person in the Eyes ..............................................................................6 4. Introduce Yourself ............................................................................................. 7 5. Use a Friendly Voice ............................................................................................8 6. Be Kind to Everyone .......................................................................................... 9 7. How Are You?...................................................................................................... 10 8. Everyone Likes to Get a Compliment ........................................................1 1 9. Don't Make Fun of Anyone............................................................................ 12 10. Don't Be Late!...................................................................................................... 13 11. Be Thoughtful. Open Doors. .......................................................................... 14 12. Kind Friends Are Good Friends! .................................................................. 15 13. Smile .........................................................................................................................16 14. What to Do?......................................................................................................... 17 15. Say "Thank You," but Don't Eat It! .............................................................18 16. Keep Your Hands to Yourself ....................................................................... 19 17. Don't Be a Bully! ...............................................................................................20 18. Oh, Excuse Me!................................................................................................... 21 19. Oh No . . . Gotta Go! .......................................................................................22 20. Don't Chew with Your Mouth Open .......................................................23 21. Tidy Up! ..................................................................................................................24 22. Germs Are Not for Sharing .......................................................................25 23. When Something Breaks ............................................................................. 26 24. You Have Two Voices ....................................................................................27 25. Attention, Please! .......................................................................................... 28 26. Watch Your Words ..........................................................................................29 27. Put Your Napkin in the Right Place .......................................................30 28. Where Does the Fork Go? ........................................................................... 31 29. May I Be Excused?........................................................................................32
30. How Fres h I s Y ou r B re a th ? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 31 . Hat s O n, Hats O ff . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 32. D res s for t he O c c a s ion . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 5 33. Work Firs t , th e n P l a y . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 6 34 . Everyone Love s a Good S p or t . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37 35. Nobody Like s a S ore L os e r . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 8 36 . D on't Point a nd Sta re . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39 37. Sit and St an d Ta l l . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 38. No O ne Like s a Gos s ip . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 39. Phone Manne r s M a tte r . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42 4 0. Yuc k , I s t h a t Gu m in Y ou r M ou th ? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 41 . Boo! Sc aring O th e r s I s n't Fu n . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44 42. Enjoy t he Sh ow — Q u ie tl y ! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 43. Mind t he M one y ! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 4 4 . Shhh! Libra r y M a nne r s M a tte r . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47 4 5. Sw it c h O n, S w itc h O ff . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48 4 6 . A R es t aura nt I s for E a ting , Not P l a y ing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 47. O nline Mann e r s M a tte r . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 0 4 8. Borrow Nic e l y ! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51 4 9. D o Nic e T hing s for O th e r s ! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52 50. T he Bes t G ift . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 3 51 . The Bes t Wa y to S a y , " Th a nk Y ou " . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 4 52. Think about O th e r s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 5 Congr atulation s ! You D i d It! ............................. 56 After wor d for Par ents ...................................... 57 The Stor y Beh i nd A Min u te with Molly T M ............. 58 Acknowledgm ents ........................................... 59 Copyr ight Not i c e ............................................. 60
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1. Say “Please” & “T hank You” Text Box
Would you like it if someone took your toys away without asking nicely? Remember to say "please" and "thank you." If you don't, your friends and family might feel hurt.
May I have a balloon, please?
T hank you!
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2. Say "I'm Sorry" Honestly Text Box
You didn't mean to break your sister's favorite necklace. You didn't mean to worry your mom by not coming home on time. You still need to say, "I'm sorry." Say it honestly. Explain what happened. Even an angry person will understand if you honestly say, "I'm sorry."
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3. Look a Person in the Eyes Text Box
Always look a person in the eyes when you talk to him. It will make the person feel good about you. He will know you are interested in him and what he has to say.
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4. Introduce Yourself You have a nice name, so share it!
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When you meet someone new, look into her eyes, say hello, and share your name while shaking her hand. MOLLY
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When speaking to an adult, be sure to use their title and last name to show respect. There are many titles, such as Mr., Miss, Mrs., Aunt, Uncle, Doctor. 7
52. T hink about Others Don't stay in a bubble—think about others when you enter a room. If you see someone who seems sad or upset, ask her if you can help. If she asks for space though, leave her be!
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C ONGRATULATIONS !
45. Switch Of f Y OUOn, D IDSwitch IT! YOU DID A GREAT JOB! I am very proud of you!
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Learning 52 etiquette lessons with A MINUTE WITH Molly™ is an outstanding accomplishment! You've learned skills that will help you (and others) all your life.
Everyone involved is proud of you! And remember, learning etiquette is very good, and showing genuine love and compassion for others is even better! Parents may download & present Molly's
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"E T I Q U E T T E E S S E N T I A L S C E R T I F I C A T E " (printable, customizable & ready to frame)
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AFTERWORD FOR PARENTS The need for civility, manners, and kindness has never been more apparent across all levels of our society–from individuals and families, to schools, political parties, and even our governments. But just like a small rudder can change the direction of a huge ship, the simple yet profound lessons in A MINUTE WITH Molly TM–along with your efforts to teach them–can chart a new course of civility, manners, and kindness for our children and for generations to come. Kind words and deeds are powerful. And as we collectively offer them to others in greater measure, we will all experience an evergrowing attitude of gratitude across our land. Thank you for partnering with us at Living A Manners Mindset TM to help change the world for good–one child and one family at a time. In service to our children, I am, sincerely yours,
Judy Bollweg
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THE STORY BEHIND A MINUTE WITH
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The Inspiration for A Minute with Molly TM
About Our Molly…
Molly and I started each morning with the children by introducing a quick manners lesson. Now it’s easy to imagine the kids losing focus and getting bored . . . but they didn’t, not at all.
But you may not know that Molly is also a certified therapy dog who shares her kind ways with patients and children in hospitals and schools with living examples of compassion.
In fact, before long I found that just asking, “What would Molly do?” brought out a mannerly mindset.
Children everywhere are simply drawn to her, and they quickly embrace our etiquette lessons through her.
And that’s when the inspiration came to me: What if every child could have a Molly in their lives? The result is the book you are now reading: A Minute with Molly .
Connecting with Others…
first inspiration for the lessons in this book came when I was visiting TextThe Box with my wonderful niece and her two young children.
You may already know that Molly is a cute-as-a-button malshipoo with big eyes that just win your heart every time.
By introducing A Minute with Molly lessons, we engage our children’s imaginations and communicate in a way that inspires them to think beyond themselves and connect with others. It is my earnest hope that using these lessons will help families, teachers, and caregivers develop a dialogue of civility in their homes, classrooms, and other venues such as after-school programs. After all, manners will matter regardless of where the children are! I truly hope that you have as much fun and success using these lessons as Molly and I have had in our lifelong journey toward a manners mindset.
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A CKNOWLEGMENTS My first thanks goes to the children I have worked with over the years who continue to inspire me to find tools to help them draw on their own intuitive nature to be kind, thoughtful, and well-mannered. A special thanks to my niece Abby, whose cooperation and inspiration helped to conceive this idea. There are a few people without whom I couldn't have completed this project. To my friend Jim Fitzgerald who believed in this social project from the beginning: my deepest thanks. To Nancy Jones & Associates for the creation of the character version of Molly: my sincere gratitude. They brought our little Molly to life in a way that connects Molly and her message of Living a Manners Mindset in a fun and interactive experience.
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I have so much gratitude for the creative input of my friend Sage Salvo. With gratitude and great respect to Dr. Bart Dahmer and Innovo Publishing. For my son, Thomas, who has been a privilege to raise. Finally and most important, my heartfelt thanks to my wonderful husband, Mike Bollweg, who always treats people with compassion and empathy and puts up with my eternal optimism.
–Judy Bollweg
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ISBN: 978-1-61314-474-9 Cover Design & Interior Layout: Innovo Publishing, LLC Graphics & Illustrations: Nancy Jones & Associates Printed in the United States of America U.S. Printing History First Edition: 2019
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