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contents table of contents

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WHAT IS AN OPEN ADOPTION?

Breast Test Breakdown

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WHEN PARENTING STYLES CLASH THANKFULNESS BEYOND THANKSGIVING

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Music and Children

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Private School Open House Guide

MUSIC AND CHILDREN KICK OFF THE HOLIDAY SEASON DOWNTOWN

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Earning Income as a Stay at Home Mom

PUBLISHER’S NOTE

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ONLINE BUZZ

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COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT

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NOVEMBER EVENTS

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ONGOING EVENTS

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WACKY CALENDAR

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TRUE CONFESSIONS OF A STAY-AT-HOME DAD FOOTNOTES: THOUGHTS FROM THE MARGINS OF A MOM’S LIFE NATIONAL FAMILY HISTORY DAY

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THE MODERN MILITARY PARENT

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EARNING INCOME AS A STAY AT HOME MOM PRIVATE SCHOOL OPEN HOUSE GUIDE

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ALISSA (8) & SYDNEY (5) WITH PARENTS JASON AND JANNELLE PAJARI photo by: Captivations Photography

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publisher’s note

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he month of November is synonymous with giving thanks – and at Dayton Parent we have much to be thankful for. Each month as our issues go from a conception of ideas to a tangible product, we are reminded that the support we receive from local readers, businesses and organizations makes it all possible. We’re grateful for the opportunity to bring you this magazine and hope that you find it useful as you go through your day doing the invaluable job of parenting.

Speaking of gratefulness, it’s the rare parent that doesn’t wish their child would express a little more of it! This month, our article Thankfulness Beyond Thanksgiving gives a few tips for promoting an “attitude of gratitude” in kids throughout the year.

Also in this issue, we explore what it means to have an “open adoption” and some of the concerns prospective parents have when considering this choice as they expand their family. Area experts and parents who have gone through the process weigh in with their knowledge and perspectives.

Do you and your spouse occasionally butt heads on the best way to parent?

(Is this a rhetorical question?) When Parenting Styles Clash gives some suggestions for getting both parents on the same page (and nixing any attempts by kids to divide and conquer!)

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There’s so much more in this issue – you’ll just have to turn the page and start reading! As always, please let us know how we’re doing and what you’d like to see in Dayton Parent. We’re thankful for your feedback in November – and every month!

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Sugarplum Festival of Trees

JOHN TARTAGLIA’S IMAGINOCEAN A one-of-a-kind live black-light puppet show, JOHN TARTAGLIA’S IMAGINOCEAN is a magical undersea adventure for kids of all ages. Tank, Bubbles and Dorsel are three best friends who just happen to be fish, and they’re about to set out on a remarkable journey of discovery. And it all starts with a treasure map. As they swim off in search of clues, they’ll sing, they’ll dance, and they’ll make new friends, including everyone in the audience. Ultimately they discover the greatest treasure of all: friendship. Jam-packed with music ranging from swing to R&B to big band, JOHN TARTAGLIA’S IMAGINOCEAN is a blast from the first big splash to the last wave goodbye. Recommended for ages 4-7 and runs 60 minutes (no intermission). Tickets are $15. Call Ticket Center Stage at (937) 228-3630 to learn more about Season Tickets. Date: November 1st 1:00 pm and 4:00 pm. Location: Victoria Theatre, 126 N. Main St. Dayton, OH

Feast of Giving The Feast of Giving is a Thanksgiving dinner including turkey with all the trimmings that will be provided for free not only for those in financial need or those with no one else to spend the holiday with but for all. All are welcome to this beautiful event that puts our city’s charitable nature in the spotlight. With over 8000 meals to be served and 500 volunteers, this is a huge event that Dayton can be proud of. No tickets are needed and RTA will be providing free bus rides to and from the event from 10:30 am to 3:00 pm.. Dates: November 25th 11:00 am – 2:00 pm.

Location: Dayton Convention Center, 22 E. Fifth St. Dayton, OH 45402

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The Sugarplum Festival of Trees is an annual holiday extravaganza that kicks off the holiday season for the Miami Valley. Please join the more than 350 TWIG volunteers that have worked year-round to make this spectacular holiday event possible. There will be a gala, Ladies Luncheon and Breakfast with Santa as well as beautifully decorated Christmas trees available at auction with all proceeds to benefit the Dayton Children’s Hospital. Date: November 14th- November 16th.

Location: Presidential Banquet Center 4548 Presidential Way, Kettering, OH 45429.

The Beach Mountain During the summer months, it is known as The Beach but now during the winter it has a new name. Come experience The Beach Mountain for winter fun! Bring the family snow tubing and experience an exciting wintertime activity that brings people together and creates memories.

It is just like sledding – only it’s faster and more accessible. Slide down the snowy 400 foot long run and then conveniently ride the magical moving carpet back up. Family members of all ages will enjoy the thrill of sliding down our run. It’s a fast and easy winter fun that requires neither experience nor special, expensive equipment and clothing.

In addition to having a safe venue with safe equipment, trained staff members supervise the run and provide information for a safe ride.

Call (513) 398- 4356 or go to www.thebeachwaterpark.com for more information. Ticket prices run $17- $25 per person. Date: Opens November 21st. Location: 2590 Waterpark Dr. Mason, OH 45040

A Special Wish 5K Run The mission of A Special Wish Foundation is to grant the wish of a child or adolescent (birth through age 20) who has been diagnosed with a life-threatening disorder. The 2nd annual 5K Run/Walk plus Kids Fun Run and Stroller Roll will support this great cause. The Dayton Chapter of A Special Wish Foundation serves Montgomery, Greene, Miami, Darke, Shelby, and Mercer counties. Over the past 29 years, the chapter has granted over 1,500 wishes to children living in its six county area. For more information call (937)-223-9474 or go to aspecialwish.org. Date: November 1st. Location: Island Metro Park, 101 E. Helena St. Dayton.

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8 WAYS MUSIC EDUCATION ENHANCES THE LIVES OF KIDS | STEFFY MCCOURT

If your toddler loves banging pots and pans, your middle schooler is still singing all the songs from Frozen or your tween has his ear buds in 24/7, you may have a music lover on your hands. Which is great news, because music is incredibly beneficial for children! Beyond learning how to play an instrument or sing, children who receive music education develop a broad skill set that can enhance their lives for many years, in many ways.

What are these benefits?

“Let’s start at the beginning/ A very good place to start…”

- Maria, The Sound of Music.

C O N F I D E N C E Learning to read music, play an instrument or sing on pitch isn’t easy – and mastering these skills builds confidence and self-esteem. Pair these abilities with performing in front of people and you provide kids with an opportunity to show off what they can do – to resounding applause!

“Music can be a bridge to friendships and a source of pride in one’s own accomplishments,” says Jim McCutcheon, owner of McCutcheon Music. “In school band and orchestra programs, it can be an opportunity to develop team and leadership skills as well.”

state. Researchers discovered that specific musical activities like “imitation” where children were asked to imitate another musician or musical piece increased the child’s ability to recognize another’s “mental state.”

and progress. It’s easy for kids to make the connection that hard work and practice will result in learning to play a musical piece successfully.

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“Studying music results in creating something new,” says Sarah Bucher of Bella Musica. “They don’t have to be a composer and write their own music to create something. Each musician’s interpretation and the way they perform something is in itself a creation.”

A study done at the University of Kansas in 2007 found that elementary schools with superior music programs had students who performed 22% higher in English and 20% higher in math on standardized tests.

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In a 2012 year-long study, researchers from the University of Cambridge, England found that school-aged children who participated in group music education classes which taught ensemble and rhythmic work, were more capable of accurately recognizing another’s emotional

Music is an excellent means of teaching kids about discipline and delayed gratification. Before a student can tie a few notes together to play a song, he must first learn the notes and how to create them. Early on, students can see the benefit of practicing at home before their lessons. Self-discipline is necessary to be able to move forward

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These advantages benefit both the development of their mother tongue and the learning of foreign languages.

During these crucial years, the brain is at its sensitive development phase, with 95% of the brain’s growth occurring now. Music training started during this period also boosts the brain’s ability to process subtle differences between sounds and assist in the pronunciation of languages – and this gift lasts for life, as it has been found that adults who had musical training in childhood still retain this ability to learn foreign languages quicker and more efficiently than adults who did not have early childhood music training.” From the book The Music Miracle: The Scientific Secret to Unlocking Your Child’s Full Potential by Liisa Henriksson Macaulay.

S PA T I A L- T E M P O R A L A N D M AT H S K I L L S If you have one tired parent, one algebra assignment and one musical child, how late will you be up working on homework?

Not long probably! Research has found a link between students’ understanding of music and their ability to visualize elements that should go together (spatial-temporal skills).

This is the same ability that is needed to successfully complete those tricky

word problems found in math classes. Spatial-temporal skills are also fundamental in architecture, engineering, art and especially information technology.

MOTOR SKILLS In order to make music, a child must learn to simultaneously do several things at once.

For example, a trumpet player must control his breathing, manipulate the airstream with his tongue to start and stop notes, use his fingers to press valve buttons, use his eyes to read the music and listen to the notes that he and others create. As the student progresses, so too will his motor skills.

Music education can begin to benefit a child as early as the first month of life. With such farreaching effects, encouraging the music-makers in your household to express themselves in this way can be one of the best parenting decisions you ever make!

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KICK OFF THE HOLIDAY

SEASON DOWNTOWN Families can enjoy free activities, tree lighting, parade and a new life-size snow globe at the November 28th event

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or more than 40 years, families have gathered downtown for the Dayton area’s largest holiday celebration, the Dayton Holiday Festival, on the Friday after Thanksgiving. This year’s event will be held from 4 to 9 p.m. on November 28.

The Grande Illumination, a tree-lighting ceremony presented by Big 106.5 FM, will be held at 7:45 p.m. on Courthouse Square, immediately followed by the Dayton Children’s Parade Spectacular in Lights, featuring a variety of festive floats, entertainers, live music and horse units. CareSource will provide special “magic glasses” you can wear to see the tree lighting and parade in a unique way.

New this year, DP&L will sponsor a Life-Size Snow Globe on Courthouse Square. Jump inside the enormous snow globe and take photos of yourself and your family and friends among a whimsical

winter scene as a fun way to capture the memories of the Dayton Holiday Festival kick-off.

The Junior League of Dayton’s Holiday Hunt will be held from 4 to 7 p.m. Check in at the booth on Courthouse Square to receive a map of participating merchants and a goody bag for collecting treasures. Horse-Drawn Wagon Rides, sponsored

by Miami-Jacobs Career College, will pick passengers up near the corner of Second and Main streets from 4 to 7:30 p.m.

Children can enjoy free carnival rides at the Street Fair on Third Street, sponsored by Fifth Third Bank.

In the Holiday Village in the lobby of the Kettering Tower, kids can play games and make holiday crafts sponsored by Hollywood Gaming – Dayton Raceway, and speak to one of Santa’s helpers at Time Warner Cable Media’s “Dial-an-Elf” booth.

Volunteers from YES! for Youth will help kids shop for their loved ones at The Tike’s Shoppe in the Schuster Center, where they also can visit with Santa. Visitors can enjoy the magical Rike’s department store animated holiday windows, presented

by the Victoria Theatre Association, in the Schuster Center’s Wintergarden. Entries from the Gingerbread Homes for the Holidays contest, sponsored by the Downtown Priority Board and B94.5 Hot Country, will be on display in The Old Courthouse.

Live entertainment will be presented on the Courthouse Square Main Stage, sponsored by Kroger, beginning at 4 p.m. and continuing until the tree lighting.

The Dayton Holiday Festival continues throughout the month of December with DP&L Family Weekends and other activities. Visit www.daytonholidayfestival.org for more information or call 937224-1518.

The Dayton Holiday Festival is presented by the Downtown Dayton Partnership with special thanks to the City of Dayton, Montgomery County, and the Mrs. Virginia W. Kettering Dayton Holiday Festival Fund.

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November is National Adoption Month. To find out more, visit the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services website: www.childwelfare.gov/ adoption/nam/#twtr=pro.

a few Dayton area adoption resources: ACTION Adoption Services

WHAT IS AN

OPEN ADOPTION? Understanding the differences in adoptive relationships | Sarah Bricker-Hunt

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ccording to the Child Welfare League of America, there are over 150,000 children in the United States awaiting adoption, and an additional 500,000 in foster care. Many of these children will also become eligible for adoption. The process of adopting a child is often complicated and lengthy, but sorting through some of the myths and misconceptions surrounding this issue can help put prospective parents on a clearer path.

The way that adoption is often portrayed in movies and television, where couples visit an orphanage and return home as parents, is hardly accurate.

Children are adopted in many ways – through agencies that pair up adoptive parents with interested pregnant women, through the foster care system, international adoptions, as a result of family situations including death and remarriage and a whole host of other circumstances.

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an extra layer of exposure. “You’re basically naked,” Andrea, mother of two adopted children and a set of twins, says. “You’re being poked and prodded and inspected by complete strangers. The paperwork is overwhelming, and you feel like you’re walking on eggshells the whole time.”

Still, she is quick to add, “I would have gone through 100 times worse. It is all completely worth it.”

No matter the path, adoptions generally fall into a few categories: open, semi-closed, and closed. These categorizations refer to the amount of privacy and ongoing contact the adoptive and birth families will maintain.

Catholic Social Services of the Miami Valley handles a full range of adoption alternatives, and is well-versed in what modern open adoption looks like. “Today, open adoption enables two sets of parents to work together with courage and compassion so that a child can benefit from the best plan possible,” the organization’s website states. “Personally-arranged adoptions offer many benefits to both birth parents and adoptive parents.”

A closed adoption is typically less nuanced than an open adoption, where details about the levels of openness and ongoing contact can vary greatly from case to case. In a closed, or “sealed” adoption, identification records remain closed, though birth families are required to provide medical history that may be useful to the adopted child.

In addition to open and closed adoptions, some agencies can also work with prospective parents who have already made arrangements with a pregnant woman to adopt her child.

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For Andrea, the circumstances following her two adoptions “couldn’t be more different.” One birth mother maintains limited email contact, and Andrea sends occasional updates.

“Honestly, I wish it could be more,” she says, “but I need to respect her privacy and desire to keep a far distance.” Her other child’s birth family, on the other hand, has become an extended family to her own. She was present in the delivery room and the family bonds have only grown stron-

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ger over the years. Both sons even participated in her younger son’s birth mother’s wedding.

Dayton mother Susan Strong has also had a positive experience with open adoption. Her adopted daughters are now in their 20’s and Susan says that over the years, they have cultivated relationships with the girls’ birth mothers, birth fathers, birth grandparents and their immediate families.

With an open adoption, she says her girls never had to dwell on who their biological parents were, what they looked like, etc. and could move forward in their lives from this sense of knowledge and security.

Adoptive families may find a postadoption support group helpful once the adoption is finalized. Local organizations like ACTION Adoption in Dayton provide help for families working through issues like deciding when and how to inform family members about their decision to adopt, transitional issues unique to adopted children, and integrating a family with adoptive and biological children.

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when parenting styles

clash Finding common ground for a more harmonious household Karen Ring

Understand each other’s style The first step is for parents to understand their individual parenting styles. Parents typically fall into one of four categories: Authoritarian. The parent expects rules to be followed without need for explanation. Obedience is the primary concern.

Permissive. The parent rarely disciplines the child and is more concerned with establishing a friend-like relationship.

Authoritative. The parent sets rules, but allows input from the child. Discipline tends to be more supportive than punitive. Cooperation and raising a self-regulated and socially responsible child are the primary concerns.

Uninvolved. The parent provides for a child’s basic needs, but is viewed as being detached from the child’s life.

Parenting styles tend to be rooted in past experience. Individuals often choose to parent based on how they were parented as a child or they may parent in complete opposition to that experience.

First comes love. Then comes marriage. Then comes the moment when the happy couple welcomes a child into the world and realizes their parenting styles don’t quite mesh.

Fortunately, differing perspectives need not spell disaster. With a concerted effort, parents can successfully merge their styles to create a well-rounded approach to parenting. Here’s how:

Lynne Donahue acknowledged that while she and her husband are both fairly laid back parents, their parenting styles do differ. “My husband is definitely the one that says no more often, while I’m much more quick to give in,” she says. Fortunately, by recognizing their individual styles, parents have a better chance of pinpointing and managing their differences.

Keep the lines of communication open Kathleen Diegelman, MSW, LISW-S, Director of Youth Services with Family Solutions Center, advises parents to engage in regular daily “check-ins” in order to stay on the same page. “It is important for children to know that their parents communicate about their child’s school day, grades, behaviors and even successes!” she says. “The

better the communication, the less likely the ‘good cop/bad cop’ dynamic will play out in a family.”

In the Donahue household, the roles are pretty clear-cut, with dad acting as the primary disciplinarian. However, punishment is discussed and agreed upon before it is doled out in order to keep the message consistent for their two boys.

Agree to disagree Even the most agreeable couple will disagree from time to time. The key is to find a way to resolve differences without either parent feeling that they are compromising their values.

“It actually can be very healthy for children to see effective problem solving and compromising within their family,” says Diegelman. “Witnessing and learning these skills as a young child can help prepare them for years ahead when faced with problems.”

Don’t be afraid to ask for help “If parents are unable to see eye to eye on a frequent basis regarding parenting, it can sometimes cause stress, anxiety and behavioral problems in children,” Diegelman says. If constant disagreements are taking a toll on the family, she suggests seeking help from a mental health professional who has experience in working with children and families.

“Remember the saying, ‘Children learn what they live.’ Be good role models and have healthy communication. Whatever parenting style works for your family and your children, be consistent, loving, nurturing and don’t be afraid to ask a professional for help if you need it.”

Parenting styles are bound to differ from time to time. But when parents work together to understand each other’s perspectives and form a consistent approach, everyone in the household benefits. A respectful, harmonious relationship between mom and dad trickles down to children – who will likely model these positive behaviors when they become parents themselves someday.

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thankfulness beyond thanksgiving Promoting a grateful attitude in kids all year long Holly Wheeler

As Thanksgiving approaches, children are often reminded to think about what they’re grateful for. While focusing on gratitude this special day of the year is important, what we’d really like to do as parents is instill a sense of thankfulness in our kids every day. Therapists agree that cultivating an attitude of gratitude in children early on will help them develop into adults prepared for life’s realities. Here are their tips for promoting gratefulness in our children all year long.

Say “no” “Kids who have everything appreciate nothing,” says Jeff Wilbert, PhD, a clinical psychologist in Dayton. “Parents need to make sure their kids don’t get everything they want.”

For parents, this can be difficult at times. It’s a natural instinct to want to say “yes” to our kids’ desires, but in the end, we can be doing them a disservice. Having children earn a reward, instead of it being handed to them, can increase how much they appreciate it.

Teach personal responsibility “Teach children to be responsible for their actions and they will grow up to be more responsible and appreciative of what they have and what they earn,” Wilbert says. “You have to live with the consequences of your actions and giving kids responsibility teaches them to be respectful instead of exploitive and self-centered.”

Wilbert recommends giving a weekly allowance that is conditional upon behavior, not services rendered.

“Chores should be an expectation from everyone in the family,” he says. “Many parents pay their kids for helping around the house, but they need to establish expectations of how each person contributes to the family. An allowance teaches kids money management in order to get what they want instead of being showered with gifts.”

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taught best by example,” says Susan Toole, PhD, a therapist in Centerville. “When they are treated with kindness, gratefulness and gratitude they will become like you.”

Do you express thanks for what you have? Are you thanking your children for what they do and who they are?

Expressing gratitude to your children for small things, like picking up their toys, will reward both them and you. Children crave such reinforcement and will increase their responsibilities on their own if they are praised for doing so.

Make it routine Adding a moment of thankfulness to your daily routine will encourage children to recognize just how much they have to be grateful for. At bedtime, before a meal or while saying a prayer each person in the family can share one thing they are thankful for that day. This could be something as simple as earning a good grade on a test or being happy for a sunny day. Large or small, making a point to acknowledge these sorts of things will teach children to be aware of the positives in their lives.

Share with others Participating in volunteer projects can help your children realize just how much they have – and the importance of sharing what they have with others. For example, Toole says, “As a family, take your children to serve at a soup kitchen. Or teach them to spend some of their allowance, save some and give some away.”

As Thanksgiving comes and goes this November, try using a few of these suggestions to make being grateful a part of your family culture all year long.

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eing a stay-at-home mom is sometimes a thankless job that requires endless hours, patience beyond measure and a willing acceptance for the unexpected.

Although it’s a job that is invaluable to its constituents, payment is often given in the form of hugs, kisses and a supportive comment or sideline cheer.

While many stay-at-home moms enjoy their position of choice, some hope to connect their home life with that of a paycheck. Luckily, Dayton has many opportunities for moms looking to earn some extra income.

Creative options If you’re the creative type, you have several avenues to consider. From blog writing to graphic design, an increasing number of moms are using these talents to earn a paycheck from home.

earning income as a stay-at-home mom Options to consider for making some extra cash Lauren Lawson

The ground is especially fertile for crafty moms who would like to use their skills to start a handmade business. If it’s adorable outfits you sew or wooden toys made by hand, there are opportunities in Dayton that allow you to showcase your products.

The 2nd Street Market is one arena where residents can apply to sell their goods in a downtown setting.

Located on 600 E. 2nd Street, this public market hosts vendors in the areas of food, floral and handcrafted gifts.

Green Baby, an environmentally friendly baby boutique, also offers moms a place to sell their organic and green products. Located in Dayton, Green Baby works with local vendors to sell distinct and personalized gifts.

If you’d rather sell your items from home, try Etsy – an online marketplace that allows you to set up your own virtual shop. Check out www. etsy.com for details.

Business and sales options Are you interested in selling a specific product? Being an independent consultant is an easy way to unite your skills in sales with your enthusiasm for a company or organization.

The Pampered Chef and Stella and Dot are just some of the many successful companies that hire independent consultants.

Remote work is ideal for many stayat-homers, especially when technology makes it so easy to connect with customers or clients. If you’re investigating online businesses, make sure to do your homework and verify that the company you’re interested in is legitimate.

Educational options If you’re a former educator or considered an expert on a specific topic, consider sharing your skills or knowledge for potential income. Tutoring students in subjects like math or foreign languages may be options, or giving private music lessons to area children.

Why not offer your expertise at your child’s school? If you’ve done public relations or marketing in the past, you may be able to use these talents in some capacity within your school system.

Health and wellness options Are you trained in Pilates or yoga?

Possibly a running guru? Use your interest in fitness to help other moms reach their goals.

Hosting paid exercise classes in places like Aullwood Garden Metropark or offering nutritional classes in an organized setting could be advantageous for both you and your peers.

Also, consider volunteer positions for organizations you’re passionate about. These experiences and connections can often lead to potential paid positions you can do part-time while still being at home. Good luck!

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confessions of a stay-at-home dad

Politician in Training

True confessions of a stay-at-home dad

By Pete Gilbert

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aughter: “Sign this so I can be on my school’s student council.”

Me: “Oh, ok. You don’t have to have an election or anything, you’re just on it?”

Daughter: “There’s an election, but I’m going to win!”

Finally, the big day arrived. In true political form, she was ignoring actual issues (like studying for her math and spelling tests) while only focusing on her speech – but it went off without a hitch. The only problem was the actual vote wasn’t for another two days.

Actually, everyone in the class was running for third grade student council (except for the five or six math club kids that couldn’t run because it conflicted with their meetings). From the beginning I tried to prepare my daughter for not winning. I just wanted her to be realistic, but she didn’t want to hear any of it. She already had the eternal optimism all political candidates possess, and now her speech was starting to sound like a legitimate politician’s too! For starters, it was full of empty promises:

Once again, like a true politician, she used her position of power in the classroom (assignment notebook checker) to get some one-on-one time with the undecided voters. Everyone would be voting for themselves so she strategized the math club kids were going to help her win. On the morning of the vote, while checking notebooks, she passed out fliers reminding these coveted voters about the dunk tanks and princess costumes.

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A fundraiser where the (male) vice principal will dress up like a fairy princess.

2. A food drive that ends with the principal in a dunk tank.

She promised her classmates everything short of free candy and all-day recess. For days she practiced her speech, reciting it like Oprah handing out her favorite things….”I want to hold a food drive to get the principal in a DUUUUNNNNNK TAAAAAANNKKK!”

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Her hard work paid off. She did, in fact, win the election.

I wonder if it’s too early to start printing presidential bumper stickers for the year 2044?

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footnotes

Footnotes: Thoughts from the margins of a mom’s life Blewetts run!

By Kelly Blewett

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hen I misplaced our soccer schedule the second week of the season, I called the facility where the games take place and was told the blue team would take the field at 10 am. We arrived – the entire family clad in blue – for the 3 to 4 year olds game. Looking at the field, I instantly knew something was wrong. Our friends were nowhere in sight, nor was our coach. And these kids looked a lot bigger. We were in the wrong league. We were with the 5 year olds. My son William took in the scene and pulled on the strings of his sweatshirt nervously. The coach of this blue team, though, suggested William hop right in. “The more the merrier!” he said cheerfully. As William headed to the field I kept a smile on my face, but inside I was wondering: What would happen now?

Well, as it turned out, not much. When William was positioned at the center of the field, he remained there, still as a statue, even after the whistle blew.

The other kids headed down the field in a hurrying mass, the ball at the front of the pack. William hung back, watching, pulling his hoodie up over his head. We tried an intervention, cheering from the sidelines: “Come on, Will!

Stay with the team! Run!” He looked confused. I wondered if I should just pull him off the field. But his dad had a different idea.

At the water break, my husband crouched down and attempted a major pep talk. He told William he could do it. He told William he should just have fun.

He reminded William to go after the ball. And most importantly: “Run, William!” my husband urged. “Blewetts run!”

Back on the field, William took his place in line as the whistle blew. And then, after it sounded, he took off with a run I can only describe as a combination skip-jog-hop. But he was not going toward the ball. Oh no. William ran in the opposite direction from the ball and the team, making a wide lap around the field completely on his own. We watched, mouths agape. And then, because he had such spirit, because he was trying to follow his dad’s advice, because he was so earnest, we did the only thing we could do: We cheered like crazy!

I’m happy to say that since that morning William has learned more about the sport of soccer. He now runs with the group instead of in the opposite direction, but he still hesitates when it’s time to actually kick the ball. “I can’t kick it because other people are already kicking it,” he tells us. Well, okay.

One step at a time. At least he knows: Blewetts run.

TOWN HALL THEATRE

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national family history day

National Family History Day Learn your family’s health history during Thanksgiving this year!

By Alexandria Digby, Dayton Children’s Hospital

Migraines: A child is 50 percent more likely to develop migraines if one parent has a history of them.

Common symptoms include throbbing pain, nausea and/or vomiting and sensitivity to light and/or sound.

If left untreated, a child dealing with migraines is at a higher risk for emotional, behavior and social problems.

Allergies: When it comes to allergies it doesn’t matter what the parent is allergic to, as one parent having allergies is enough for a child to develop an allergy to anything.

Common symptoms are frequent colds, itchy eyes, rashes and hives.

What can you do now to help your child?

Compile a record of your family’s health history. Include all your child’s close relatives – parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, nieces and nephews – and list all the condition(s) that each relative has or has had, along with the age of when they were diagnosed.

Be sure to update this list regularly as relatives may receive new diagnoses.

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hanksgiving is a unique holiday. For some people, it marks the beginning of the Christmas season. For others, it’s a day to forget work and devote their attention to family, food and football. But for everyone, it should be a day to be mindful of their health because Thanksgiving is also National Family History Day.

Why documenting health history is important When it comes to your child’s health, ignorance is anything but bliss. Genetic health problems are most likely to become obvious during the childhood years. As family members

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gather for the holiday this year, take the time to learn what kinds of health conditions run in your family.

This information can clue you in on any worrisome signs and symptoms that you should be on the lookout for in your children.

“Communicating these conditions and symptoms with your child’s doctor can help speed up the diagnosis and treatment process, which can prevent, delay, or at least reduce the severity of a condition,” says Faith Callif-Daley, genetic counselor at Dayton Children’s Hospital.

Knowing any health issues that are hereditary in your family is a proactive way of protecting your child.

Some common examples of hereditary conditions Vision: Nearsightedness, color blindness and lazy eye are all conditions that can be passed through family genes. If both parents are nearsighted, the odds for their child to be as well are between 25-50 percent. Color blindness is more common in males, but it is transmitted through females. If the mother is the carrier, her son has a 50 percent chance of being nearsighted. Common indicators are squinting, headaches or tearing up when trying to focus.

Share this list with your child’s doctor so that he or she can be aware of any conditions your child’s symptoms may be indicating.

Keep these hereditary conditions in mind if your child is experiencing a health problem – and always be proactive when it comes anything related to their health.

“Children with a family history of chronic diseases can benefit from developing good lifestyle habits early on,” says Callif-Daily. “Additionally, healthy habits can help the entire family.”

the modern military parent

The Modern Military Parent Military Family Month

By Molly Blake

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ach November, the President signs a proclamation declaring November as the time to honor and recognize our nation’s military families. In 2013, President Obama said, “during Military Family Month, we celebrate the families who make daily sacrifices to keep our Nation whole, and we remember a most sacred obligation – to serve them as well as they serve us.”

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• Personally, I’m well aware of the daily sacrifices that all military families make to keep our nation whole. The grease-stained flight suits, the deployments, the moving. So how do I honor myself? How and why would I celebrate my own membership to this club? November is also the month when we celebrate Veteran’s Day, an official U.S. holiday originally called Armistice Day, designed to celebrate our veterans. But I’m not a veteran either. Okay, so now what?

If November is Military Family Month, why not use this chance to help civilians understand what life is like for military families and veterans. Here are some ideas: •

Check with your children’s teachers and offer to come in and share a military related lesson. For instance, you or your spouse can bring in uniforms, flight helmets or patches and explain the significance of the unit insignia.

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Offer to read military-themed books during library time or in class. My personal favorite is Nubs, The True Story of a Mutt, a Marine, and a Miracle by Brian Dennis. Kids in kindergarten through 2nd or 3rd grade will enjoy the sweet tale of a wild pooch who found a home with a big, tough Marine. Teachers can wrap in a lesson on letter writing – and kids can mail Nubs a letter thanking him for his service.

Night Catch by Brenda Ehrmantraut is a lovely story that helps kids understand that despite a parent or loved one’s physical absence, staying connected isn’t impossible. It’s another book that you or your spouse can read at school or at home. Again, chat with the teacher about a related lesson plan.

Offer to talk about Veteran’s Day at a local high school. The History Channel has a unique program called “Take a Veteran to School.” It’s important to remember that 99% of our nation does not serve in the military and they have only a tangential connection, at best, to someone who does. There’s an entire how-to guide, lesson plans and suggestions for would-be presenters. Visit www.history.com/ veterans to learn more.

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Check with the Public Affairs Officer and see if there are demonstrations or field trip opportunities on base. When we were stationed at Marine Corps Air Station Yuma, the K-9 dog trainers were thrilled to show off their furry Marine’s tricks and abilities for local school children.

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Visit an area museum like the National Museum of the Air Force. Triple Ace Col C.E. “Bud” Anderson will share stories and answer questions at a special event on November 8. Anderson flew 116 missions during WWII and later became an acclaimed Fighter test pilot at Wright Patterson. Our WWII veterans are dying at a rate of about 550 a day so take this chance to shake “Bud’s” hand and say thank you.

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Team Red, White and Blue has a Dayton chapter. This nonprofit organization, started and

staffed by veterans and military spouses, connects civilians and military folks through physical activity like group runs, yoga classes and social gatherings.

Check with the Dayton Chapter Captain for upcoming events (www.teamrwb.org).

Most importantly, don’t forget about your own military kids. My daughters regularly ask if their dad is going to deploy again. They worry about it even though I’ve assured them it’s improbable. So this month, my husband and I will put our phones away and take them on a hike in a nearby preserve and then to their favorite noodle shop. And while we slurp spicy miso and udon, we’ll thank them for their service.

Molly Blake is a freelance writer. Her husband recently retired after serving 20 years in the United States Marine Corps. She attended the University of Dayton and writes about issues affecting military families and other parenting issues. Follow her on twitter @mblakewrites.

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ask the teacher

Ask the Teacher

Parent-teacher conferences, distracting students and computer spelling tests

By Deb Krupowicz

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Consider your daughter’s past school experiences and the challenges that have been typical for her. If the difficulties that she has had tend to occur during a certain time of year or in specific subject areas, it would be a good idea to request a conference with the teacher ahead of that curve. The more information the teacher has, the better prepared she will be to help your daughter before the challenge becomes a problem. When you contact the teacher about scheduling the conference, be as specific as possible about what you would like to discuss. If the teacher has some time to consider your daughter’s situation, she may have some possible solutions for you to discuss.

If you have concerns about something that is happening socially, especially if you are concerned about bullying or something that could escalate to that, contact the teacher immediately. Often social problems escape the teacher’s observation because they occur on the bus, in the lunchroom, during recess or in the hall. Never assume that the teacher is keyed in to a social problem – big or small.

Should you simply want to hear the teacher’s perspective on how your daughter is doing in school and it is not urgent, wait until after the first

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of the year. That way the teacher will have something significant to tell you about how your daughter is doing and will have had a chance to observe her in a variety of learning and social situations. This will ensure that your conference time is meaningful and you get the most helpful feedback from the experience.

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My fifth grade son comes home every day complaining that he cannot finish his work because the person sitting next to him is so distracting. Is it appropriate to contact the teacher about changing his seat?

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Rather than rushing in to remove your son from this distraction, help him problem-solve. Encourage him to tell his neighbor what he would like for him to do. If that doesn’t work, he should try ignoring the person.

To avoid creating a problem with this classmate, he could explain at recess that he is sorry, but he really has to concentrate in order to get his work done. Moving to another place in the classroom during work time is a possible solution if the teacher allows that.

If those solutions do not work, contacting the teacher is a good idea.

Instead of telling her that the seating arrangement needs to be changed, tell her that your son says he is having trouble working and what he has tried. Ask her to observe your son and his neighbor for a few days to determine exactly what is happening and whether the distraction is coming from just one party. Knowing whether or not your son is playing a role in the problem is an im-

portant part of finding a solution.

She may have additional strategies for your son and his neighbor to try before moving their desks.

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All spelling tests in my third grader’s class are done on the computer – and she just does not do well on them.

When she practices with me, she knows all of the words.

But on the computer, she is missing two or three each week. What can I do to help her be more successful?

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To make sure that your child has mastered the words, try testing her in a few different ways. Give the words to her orally and have her write them out, as in a traditional spelling test format. Then have her type them on the computer. Have her spell the words aloud. Give her a test to “grade” in which you write out the words with some spelled incorrectly that she must find and correct. Enter her spelling words into a computer program like Quizlet.com and have her take the test. Evaluate her work in the various modes to determine if she experiences more success using a particular format. Some children need to produce the words in different ways to genuinely master them.

If she appears to know the words well using a variety of testing meth-

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ods, but continues to miss a few on the test at school, she may be experiencing test anxiety. To overcome that nervousness, be sure that the study and quizzing of words begins as early as possible. Waiting until the night before will only add to the tension. Then, teach her test-taking strategies. One strategy would be to skip something she isn’t sure about; another would be to highlight the tricky words. Explain that she must spell the words letter-by-letter rather than read them when she is proofreading her test. This will help her to catch errors that the brain automatically overlooks when reading. Finally, give her some ideas for taking a few seconds to relax before starting: take a deep breath, picture a relaxing place, count to ten, etc.

Ask the Teacher is written by Deb Krupowicz, a mother of four and current teacher. Deb holds a Master’s degree in Curriculum and Instruction and has over twenty years of experience teaching preschool, elementary and middle school students. Please send your questions to her at asktheteacher@daytonparentmagazine.com.

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My daughter’s school has decided that it will no longer offer designated days for parent-teacher conferences but instead, just have parents and teachers work out when to have a meeting.

How do I decide when to do that?

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Private School Open House Guide

Alexandria Montessori School

Miami Montessori School

175 East Franklin Street, Centerville, OH 45459 | 937-435-5392 | www.alexandriamontessori.org | Ages 3 - 14 years | Call to arrange a school tour.

86 Troy Town Drive, Troy, OH 45373 | 937-339-0055 | www.miamimontessori.org | PreK - Grade 6 | Call to arrange a school tour

Alter High School 940 East David Road, Kettering, OH 45429 | 937-434-4434 | www. alterhs.org Grades 9 -12 | Open House: November 16, 2014, 1:00 pm - 4:00 pm

Antioch School 1160 Corry Street, Yellow Springs, OH 45387 | 937-767-7642 | www. antiochschool.org | PreK - Grade 6 | Call to arrange a school tour

Ascension School 2001 Woodman Drive, Kettering, OH 45420 | 937-254-5411 | www.ascensionkettering.org | Grades K - 8 | Call to arrange a school tour

Bishop Leibold School West Campus 24 South Third Street, Miamisburg, OH 45342 | 937-866-3021 | www. bishopleiboldschool.com | PreK Grade 3 | Call to arrange a school tour

Considering a private school for your child? The Dayton area has plenty of quality options to choose from. Find the right match by visiting an upcoming open house or scheduling a school tour to get all your questions answered.

Bishop Leibold School East Campus 6666 Springboro Pike, Dayton, OH 45449 | 937-434-9343 | www.bishopleiboldschool.com | Grades 4 - 8 | Call to arrange a school tour

Carroll High School 4524 Linden Avenue, Dayton, OH 45432 | 937-253-8188 | www.carrollhs.org | Grades 9 - 12 | Call to arrange a school tour

Chaminade Julienne High School 505 South Ludlow Street, Dayton, OH 45402 | www.cjeagles.org | 937-461-3740 | Grades 9 - 12 | Open House: October 26, 2014, 2:00 pm - 4:00 pm

Dayton Christian School 9391 Washington Church Road, Miamisburg, OH 45342 | 937-291-7201 | www.daytonchristian.com | PreK Grade 12 | Call to arrange a school tour With Admissions Events scheduled to accommodate your busy life, we make it easy for you to discover the Dayton Christian School System difference! See our full schedule of Admissions Events at: www.educatingforeternity.com/admissions

Dayton International School 235 West Franklin, Centerville, OH 45459 | 937-433-1120 | www.daytonis.org | K - Grade 6 | Call to arrange a school tour

Dayton Islamic School 3662 East Patterson Road, Beavercreek, OH 45430 | 937-429-9477 | www.dis4u.org | PreK - Grade 8 Call to arrange a school tour

First School 7659 McEwen Road, Dayton, OH 45459 | 937-433-3455 | www.firstschooldayton.

com | PreK - Kindergarten | Call to arrange a school tour

Hillel Academy 305 Sugar Camp Circle, Dayton, OH 45409 | 937-277-8966 | www.daytonhillel.org | K - Grade 6 | Call to arrange a school tour 26 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Miami Valley School 5151 Denise Drive, Dayton, OH 45429 | 937-434-4444 | www. mvschool.com | PreK - Grade 12 | November 16, 2014 1:30 pm The Miami Valley School, Dayton’s leader in education for pre-school - 12th grade, provides challenging, immersive experiences which prepare students for college and beyond. Attend our open house and learn why students thrive in an environment that offers them the freedom to explore their individual passions. Students don’t just come to MVS. Here, they become.

Nicholas School 1306 Garbry Road, Piqua, OH 45356 | 937-773-6979 | www.rcnd. org | Kindergarten - Grade 8 | tSpecial needs charter school | Call to arrange a school tour

Overfield School 172 South Ridge Avenue, Troy, OH 45373 | 937-339-5111 | www.overfield.org | PreK - K | February 8, 2015 2- 4 pm We see children as capable, passionate, inquisitive, and inventive.

Visit our campus and talk to faculty and parents to find out how Overfield can support your child’s development.

St. Helen School 5086 Burkhardt Road, Dayton, OH 45431 | 937-256-1761 | www.sthelenschl.org | PreK - Grade 8 Call to arrange a school tour

Temple Christian School 1617 Ohmer Avenue, Dayton, OH 45410 | 937-253-5288 | www.templechristiandayton.com | Kindergarten - Grade 12 | Call to arrange a school tour

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SATURDAY | 01

Dayton Flyers vs. Valparaiso

Price: varies | Phone: (937) 229-4433 | Location: Welcome Stadium, 1601 S Edwin C Moses Blvd, Dayton. www.daytonflyers.com/calendar.aspx

SUNDAY | 02

Dayton Train Show

Price: $6 per person, children under 12 are free and parking is free | Phone: 937-278-4776 | Location: Hara Arena. 1001 Shiloh Springs Rd, Dayton | www.daytonlocal.com/things-todo/dayton-train-show-hara-arena.asp

The Annual Dayton Train Show is Presented by the National Model Railroad Association at Hara Arena in Dayton, Ohio. The largest exhibition of operating layouts in Ohio! Thousands of square feet including 20+ operating layouts; 400+ dealer tables, hourly door prizes (including 2 Thomas train sets per day), How-to clinics on train care and model building, train rides for kids, Boy Scouts can earn Railroading Merit Badge.

MONDAY | 03

Intro to Bicycle Maintenance

Price: $5; Registration required | Phone: (937) 277-4374 | Location: Wegerzyn Gardens MetroPark: Auditorium. 1301 E. Siebenthaler Ave., Dayton | www.metroparks.org/GetOutside/ SearchByInterest.aspx

This lecture-style class with some hands-on instruction will help you diagnose and fix minor mechanical issues.

Participants will be introduced to basic repairs and adjustments as well as the tools needed to do so. Topics will include bike inspection and terminology, fixing a flat tire, and basic brake and gear adjustment. Learn on our bikes so your ride doesn’t get cut short.

THURSDAY | 06 Backpacking Babies: Prairie Play

Price: free | Phone: (937) 275-7275 | Location: Sugarcreek MetroPark: Trailhead Parking Lot. 4178 Conference Rd., Bellbrook | www.me-

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Let’s get out and play around a prairie.

A baby backpack or carrier is required for this program, as trails are not stroller-friendly.

FRIDAY | 07

Rumpelstiltskin Is My Name

Price: Adults - $15, Seniors & Students - $13, Under 12 - $10 | Phone: 937-433-8957 | Location: Town Hall Theatre. 27 N. Main Street, Centerville | www.washingtontwp.org/recreation/theatre/productions/all-children-s-theatre/rumpelstiltskin

Laura, the miller’s daughter, is in a bit of a pickle. The king thinks she can spin straw into gold and has big plans for increasing his kingdom’s treasury! There’s only one problem! The poor girl has no idea how to turn straw into gold. When a small wizard shows up and promises to help…she makes a bargain she’ll soon regret!

The Southern Ohio Indoor Music Festival

Price: Buy tickets in advance to save; see website for details | Phone: 937-372-5804 | Location: Roberts Center. 123 Gano Road, Wilmington | www.somusicfest.com

The Southern Ohio Indoor Music Festival features nationally known acoustic music groups, including pioneers of bluegrass music, as well as a sampling of up and coming bands. Our goal is to feature bluegrass, old-time, and gospel music, combined with family fun and educational opportunities in an entertaining, smoke and alcohol-free environment.

SATURDAY | 08

Dayton Flyers vs. Drake

Price: varies | Phone: (937) 229-4433 | Location: Welcome Stadium. 1601 S Edwin C Moses Blvd, Dayton | www.daytonflyers.com/calendar.aspx

Kettering Holiday Arts & Crafts Show

Price: free | Phone: 937-296-2587 | Location: Kettering Recreation Complex. 2900 Glengarry Dr., Kettering | www.daytonlocal.com/ events/kettering-arts-and-crafts-show.asp

Easily browse through more than 75 exhibitors displaying festive holiday decorations and unique gifts. Come early to this one-day-only show and shop for the one-of-a-kind present. This event will be held at the Kettering Recreation Complex.

Ohio’s First Farmers

Price: free | Phone: (937) 276-7053 | Location: Possum Creek MetroPark: Possum Creek Education Building. 4790 Frytown Rd., Dayton | www.metroparks.org/GetOutside/SearchByInterest.aspx

Please join Possum Creek MetroPark staff and Andy Sawyer of Sunwatch Indian Village in celebrating Native American Heritage Month. There will be fun activities and lots to learn about the people who once lived in the Dayton area.

SUNDAY | 09

Antique & Collectible Toy and Hobby Show

Price: Admission is $5 for adults, free for children under the age of 12 | Phone: 937-2784776 | Location: Hara Arena Conference and Exhibition Center. 1001 Shiloh Springs Rd., Dayton | www.daytonlocal.com/things-to-do/ antique-collectible-toy-and-hobby-show-hara-arena.asp

Hara welcomes the return of the Antique & Collectible Toy and Hobby Show! It features a wide variety of vintage toys as well as a few newer collectible ones.

Aullwood Fall Walk

Price: free | Phone: (937) 277-6545 | Location: Aullwood Garden MetroPark. 900 Aullwood Ave., Dayton | www.metroparks.org/GetOutside/SearchByInterest.aspx

Join us as we explore the beauty of Aullwood after most of the leaves have fallen. The garden, woods and prairie take on a different look as they ready

for winter. Colors deepen and light and sound are less muffled by foliage. Join us for a wonderful afternoon exploration and don’t forget your camera! We’ll meet in the parking lot.

Kids Pottery Painting with Santa’s Helpers

Price: Registration required; $5 fee + cost of pottery | Phone: 937-431-4838 | Location: Decoy Art Studio. 1561 Grange Hall Rd., Beavercreek | www.decoy-art.com/

Drop the kids off for a magical time in the Pottery Studio! Give them a budget per family member or friend and Santa’s Helpers will guide them to picking their favorite pieces and painting them!

Works will be ready for pick up approx.

8-12 days from event. Ages 5-12.

Dayton Cat Fanciers Show

Price: Adults: $6; Seniors: $5; Children ages 6-12: $5; Family: $15 | Location: Hara Arena.

1001 Shiloh Springs Rd., Dayton | www.daytoncatfanciers.org/

Purebred cats of many different breeds from all over the nation and Canada will be competing for ribbons, and regional and national points. There will also be a Stand-Alone Contest on Sunday in which people can enter their beautiful household cats to be judged. Coupons for admission can be found on the website.

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Family Recycling Workshop

Price: $5 | Phone: (937) 277-6545 | Location: Wegerzyn Gardens MetroPark: Auditorium.

1301 E. Siebenthaler Ave., Dayton | www.metroparks.org/GetOutside/SearchByInterest. aspx

Families learn how to recycle and compost together through a variety of fun activities. Each family brings a container to build a starter worm bin and creates a household recycling plan.

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THURSDAY | 13

Living the Green Life: Green Holiday Gatherings

Price: free | Phone: (937) 275-7275 | Location: 2nd Street Market: Pavilion. 600 E. Second St., Dayton | www.metroparks.org/GetOutside/ SearchByInterest.aspx

Holiday celebrations can generate a lot of waste, but they don’t have to!

Learn how to organize an event so that all supplies can be reused, recycled or composted. We’ll also discuss how to source locally produced, seasonal food.

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Family Day: Destination Space Station

Price: free | Phone: (937) 255-3286 | Location: National Museum of the United States Air Force. 1100 Spaatz St. Wright-Patterson AFB, Dayton | www.nationalmuseum.af.mil/education/family/index.asp

Commemorate the anniversary of the greatest engineering feat in modern history: the International Space Station.

Learn about the station and spaceflight through fun demos and hands-on activities. Build your own space station from recycling materials! Free admission.

SUNDAY | 16

Kids Pottery Painting with Santa’s Helpers

Price: Registration required; $5 fee + cost of pottery | Phone: 937-431-4838 | Location: Decoy Art Studio. 1561 Grange Hall Rd., Beavercreek | www.decoy-art.com/

Drop the kids off for a magical time in the Pottery Studio! Give them a budget per family member or friend and Santa’s Helpers will guide them to picking their favorite pieces and painting them!

Works will be ready for pick up approx.

8-12 days from event. Ages 5-12.

Thanksgiving Tea

Price: $18 members; $20 non-members | Phone: (937) 222-9724 | Location: Patterson Homestead. 1815 Brown Street, Dayton | www.daytonhistory.org/ e v e n t /e v e n t - r e g i s t r a t i o n / ? r e g e v e n t _ action=register&event_id=426

Join us for a 19th century afternoon tea at the historic Patterson Homestead.

Enjoy hot tea, a variety of breads, tea sandwiches and desserts served by interpreters in 19th century costume.

Learn about the Patterson family history and take a tour of the Homestead.

Registration required.

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Wings & Things Guest Lecture

Price: free | Phone: (937) 255-3286 | Location: National Museum of the United States Air Force. 1100 Spaatz St. Wright-Patterson AFB, Dayton | www.nationalmuseum.af.mil/

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Dr. Squire L. Brown will present “Pushing the Envelope: Vision and Genius in the R&D Gallery.” During his lecture, Brown will discuss the museum’s Research & Development (R&D) Gallery, which exhibits a unique collection of aircraft that challenged the imagination and pushed the boundaries of flight.

FRIDAY | 21

Kids Night Out Kicking It

Price: $20 | Phone: 937-204-4257 | Location: Mengs Martial Arts & Mile High Karate. 51 E. Spring Valley Rd., Centerville | www.bestkarateclassesindayton.com/

Just $20 for 3 hours of learning, exercise, character development, personal protection, social skills, and making new friends.. plus pizza and juice included!.

The Beach Mountain Grand Opening

Price: $17-$22 | Phone: 513-398-4356 | Location: The Beach Waterpark. 2690 Waterpark Dr., Mason | www.thebeachmountain.com/

Every day is a SNOW DAY! White snow and cool temperatures are the next big thing at The Beach Waterpark in Mason, when the water park becomes a sensational new winter park called The Beach Mountain. Join us for our huge Grand Opening on November 21 beginning at 10:00 am!

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giving, the festival is expected to draw nearly 70,000 visitors to the community and is the largest three-day Christmas festival in the tri-state area.

SUNDAY | 23

AF Museum Theatre Hollywood Series

Price: $5.00 per person | Phone: (937) 2553286 | Location: National Museum of the United States Air Force. 1100 Spaatz St. WrightPatterson AFB, Dayton | www.afmuseum. com/attractions/theatre/upcoming-events

“The Polar Express,” a 2004 film starring Tom Hanks, arrives at the largest screen in Southwest Ohio just in time for the holiday season.

Sinclair’s Community Band Fall Concert

Price: free | Phone: 937-512-4580 | Location: Sinclair Community College. 444 W 3rd St., Dayton | www.daytonlocal.com/events/sinclairs-community-concert-band-fall-concert. asp Sinclair’s

Community Concert Band Fall Concert.

Kenneth Kohlenberg, Conductor. Blair Hall Theatre, Building 2.

Christmas in Historic Springboro

Price: free | Location: Historic Springboro.

North Street, Springboro | www.springborofestivals.org/

Price: varies | Phone: (937) 229-4433 | Location: Welcome Stadium. 1601 S Edwin C Moses Blvd, Dayton | www.daytonflyers.com/calendar.aspx

Welcome to the annual Christmas in Historic Springboro Festival! Held annually on the weekend before Thanksgiving, the festival is expected to draw nearly 70,000 visitors to the community and is the largest three-day Christmas festival in the tri-state area.

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Dayton Flyers vs. Campbell

Price: check website for ticket information | Phone: 937-293-2841 | Location: Carillon Historical Park. 1000 Carillon Blvd., Dayton | www.daytonhistory. org/event/event-registration/?regevent_ action=register&event_id=519

Kick off the holiday season as you mingle with family and friends at this festive celebration! Sample gourmet hors d’oeuvres and warm your spirits with a delicious martini from the open bar or a steaming cup of premium coffee. You can listen to classic holiday tunes while you vote for your favorite specialty dessert in the “Dayton’s Most Delightful Dessert Contest!”

Christmas in Historic Springboro

Price: free | Location: Historic Springboro.

North Street, Springboro | www.springborofestivals.org/

Welcome to the annual Christmas in Historic Springboro Festival! Held annually on the weekend before Thanks-

Such a Night: The Last Waltz Live

Price: $25 (premium seating, first 10 rows of center section) & $20 | Phone: 937-223-4278 | Location: NCR Renaissance Auditorium. 456 Belmonte Park North, Dayton | www.daytonartinstitute.org/event/events-activities/special-events/such-night-last-waltz-live-benefit-wyso-913fm

Nearly 30 local musicians will once again gather on the stage of The DAI’s NCR Renaissance Auditorium to recreate the historic performances of The Band’s Last Waltz. There will be two performances this year: one on Wednesday, November 26 and an encore performance on Friday, November 28.

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Price: Age 15+ $25 before November 1, $30 after November 1. Age 14 and under: $20 before November 1, $25 after November 1 | Location: Downtown Miamisburg. Main Street and LIn-

den Ave, Miamisburg | www.orrrcturkeytrot. com/

A 5 mile run and 1 mile fun walk/run with a new course this year! Race starts at the intersection of Main St and Linden Ave and finish in Riverfront Park, approximately one block from the start.

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Dayton Holiday Festival

Price: free | Phone: (937) 224-1518 ext. 227 | Location: Courthouse Square. 10 W. 2nd St., Dayton | www.downtowndayton.org/index. php?option=com_content&task=view&id=112

The Dayton Holiday Festival is your source for family-friendly holiday fun in downtown Dayton. Each year the festival kicks off Thanksgiving weekend with the Grande Illumination and the Dayton Children’s Parade, and the fun continues throughout the month of December with activities like the Tike’s Shoppe, a family movie series at The Neon, pizza with Santa, and more!

Ice Rink Opening Weekend

Price: $7 | Phone: (937) 274-0126 | Location: RiverScape MetroPark. 111 E. Monument Ave., Dayton | www.metroparks.org/GetOutside/ SearchByInterest.aspx

Spend the holiday weekend creating lasting memories with friends and family at MetroParks Ice Rink! Warm up with hot chocolate from our food concession and enjoy our outdoor fireplaces.

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Hometown HoliDazzle Illuminated Parade & Festival

Price: free Location: City of Wilmington. 69 N. South Street, Wilmington | www.daytonlocal. com/things-to-do/wilmington-hometownholidazzle-parade-and-festival.asp

Downtown Wilmington closes its streets and opens its doors for everyone to see our hometown all lit up, from the twinkling decorations to the thousands of lights decorating the nighttime parade.

Santa Claus, indoor carnival games, delicious food and live musical entertainment help bring in the holiday season.

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ongoing calendar // NOVEMBER 2014 Hawthorn Hill Tours

(Occurring every Wednesday and Saturday) Price: $12 per person, $10 per Dayton History Member | Phone: 937-293-2841 | Location: Carillon Historical Park. 1000 Carillon Blvd., Dayton.

Join us for a tour of Hawthorn Hill, one of Ohio’s most beautiful and gracious buildings, designed as the home for Daytonians Wilbur and Orville Wright. The home was the venue of family weddings and funerals, holiday celebrations, musical events and many more. Come explore the various rooms of the Wright Brother’s home and learn the rich history of Hawthorn Hill.

Miracle on 34th Street

(Occurring daily beginning Wednesday, November 5 through Wednesday, December 31) Price: Tickets vary; check website | Phone: (937) 746-4554 | Location: La Comedia Dinner Theatre. 765 W. Central Ave., Dayton | www.lacomedia.com/playbill/

The story of the real Santa Claus, Miracle on 34th Street is one of the most beloved holiday films of all time. This touching musical version of the holiday classic proves that miracles do happen and is sure to fill both the young and the young at heart with the Christmas spirit.

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Christmas At EnterTRAINment Junction

(Occurring daily beginning Saturday, November 15, 2014 through Sunday, January 4, 2015) Price: Included with Do-It-All Admission | Phone: 513-898-8000 | Location: EnterTRAINment Junction. 7379 Squire Court, West Chester | www.entertrainmentjunction.com/cincinnati_entertainment_and_attractions_calendar

Create a holiday tradition for your family!

See the magic of Christmas at the home of the World’s Largest Indoor Train Display. Take a “Journey to the North Pole”, where you can meet Mrs. Claus and Santa himself. See our “Main Street Holiday Trains” displays which offers some beautiful winter train displays that are FREE to the public. Santa goes on vacation after Christmas.

Holiday in Lights

(Occurring daily beginning Friday, November 21 through Wednesday, December 31) Price: $13 per vehicle | Phone: (513) 769-0393 | Location: Sharon Woods. Sharon Woods, Sharonville | www.holidayinlights.com/home

Holiday in Lights is an outdoor light display at Sharon Woods viewed by patrons from the comfort of their own vehicle.

Built over a mile of wooded roadway, the display of fantastic seasonal color adorns hundreds of trees as well as more than 120 moving and standing holiday themed figures depicting everything from Santa Claus and his elves to Godzilla.

PNC Festival of Lights

(Runs nightly from November 22 , 2014 – January 2, 2015) Price: General admission is $15 for adults 13-61 and $11 for kids 2-12. Parking is $9 | Phone: (513) 281-4700 | Location: The Cincinnati Zoo & Botanical Garden. 3400 Vine St., Cincinnati | www.cincinnatizoo.org/events/ festival-of-lights/

The PNC Festival of Lights has been a family holiday tradition for over 30 years.

We are proud to be the largest holiday light display in Cincinnati.

Clifton Mill Christmas Lights

(Occurring daily beginning Friday, November 28, 2014 through Thursday, January 1, 2015.)

Price: Admission is $10 per person for everyone age 7 and older. Children 6 and under get in FREE! | Phone: 937-767-5501 | Location: Clifton Mill. 75 Water St., Clifton | www.cliftonmill.com

For over 20 years Clifton Mill has celebrated the Christmas season in a very special way. Our light display features over 3.5 million lights illuminating the

mill, gorge, riverbanks, trees, and bridges. There is a Miniature Village, a Santa Claus Museum, and a spectacular synchronized lights and music show that features the old Covered Bridge. Every night until Christmas you can peek into Santa’s Workshop to see a live Santa at work and then, every 15 minutes, watch him check his list and go up the chimney to load his sleigh!

North Pole Express

(Select Weekends Beginning Saturday, November 29 through Monday, December 22) Price: Adults: $20.50; Seniors: $15.50; Children 5-16: $15.50; Kids 2-4: $8.50 | Phone: 513-933-8022 | Location: LM&M Railroad. 127 S. Mechanic St., Lebanon, OH 45036 | www.lebanonrr.com/ northpole.html

Take a half hour train ride to the decorated LM&M Junction to visit with Santa and Mrs. Claus! Take a moment to visit Santa and tell him your Christmas wishes. Each child will receive a small gift from Mr. Claus himself! Stop at the “Holiday Post Express” to color pictures or write letters to be delivered to Santa. Enjoy a holiday cookie and a cup of hot chocolate to keep you warm while you are entertained

by Santa’s talented Elves! Trains run: November 29-30; December 6-7, 12-14, and 19-22.

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