1113 dp proof 2

DAYTON

PARENT daytonparentmagazine.com

NoVEMBER 2013 FREE

VOLUNTEERING

GUIDE savvy shopping

THE MERITS OF

MUSIC

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 1

2 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

INTEGRATED CONNECTIONS

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 3

contents features

NOVEMBER 2013

commentary & parenting

10 | The Merits of Music 12 | ASK THE TEACHER Music education has far-reaching benefits

“Best” efforts, morning routines, homework errors

14 | Supporting SomEone During Their Adoption Process

20 | FOOTNOTES: THOUGHTS FROM THE MARGINS OF A MOM’S LIFE

Helpful tips for what to say and do

16 | Just Like You…Only Different

14

The Mommy Magnet

21 | TRUE CONFESSIONS OF A STAY-AT-HOME DAD The Seven-Meal-a-Day Plan

An open letter to my son’s kindergarten classmates

22 | Healthy Eating During the 18 | Make-A-Wish Holidays Granting special experiences for special children

24 | When Unemployment Hits Home Strategies for coping as a family

22

Enjoy the season without adding extra pounds

26 | THE HOMESCHOOL HEARTBEAT Homeschool versus virtual school: One mom’s perspective

resources

28 | Savvy Shopping 27 | NOVEMBER HAPPENINGS Simple ways to save big

24

A time to give thanks

31 | KICK OFF THE HOLIDAY SEASON DOWNTOWN

30 | VOLUNTEERING GUIDE

in every issue 6 | PUBLISHER’S NOTE

ON THE COVER

8 | COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT

calendars 32 | NOVEMber EVENTS 34 | ONGOING EVENTS 35 | FUN & WACKY 4 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Chloe (6) & Seth (4) Photo by:

Inspired by Christy

DAYTON LOCAL

ADRENALINE SPORTS

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 5

in every issue

[ publisher’s note ]

DAYTON

Thank you Dayton!

PARENT PUBLISHER

As we flip the calendar to November, our thoughts can’t help but turn to the highlight of the month – Thanksgiving! The turkey, the stuf fing, the casseroles, the pies… enough calories in one meal to last a week! Plus, the fun of family and friends to share in the gluttony.

Mary Wynne Cox | Mary@daytonparentmagazine.com

ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER & SALES DIRECTOR Katy Mark | Katy@daytonparentmagazine.com

EDITOr Susan Bryant | Susan@daytonparentmagazine.com

ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Jennifer Baum | Jennifer@daytonparentmagazine.com

ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Katie Clark | Katie@daytonparentmagazine.com

Of course, the big feast can mean big bucks. This month check out our article on Savvy Shopping to learn strategies for reducing that grocery bill to a manageable level.

web developer Wendy Cox | Wendy@daytonparentmagazine.com

advertising coordinator Karen RIng | Karen@daytonparentmagazine.com

graphic designer Maria Tancredi | Maria@daytonparentmagazine.com

Many of you will get into the Thanksgiving spirit this year by giving back to your community in some way – and our Volunteering Guide has some great ideas for how your whole family can get involved in helping others this season.

business manager Roxanne Burns | Roxanne@daytonparentmagazine.com

editorIal assistant Wendy Schrepherman | S.Wendy@daytonparentmagazine.com

And as always, our calendar of events and things to do around town will help you make the most of all the fun this time of year brings to our area.

Here at Dayton Parent we have much to be thankful for. Our new magazine is off to a great start with the help of our readers, advertisers and many supporters throughout our community. We’re so grateful for the opportunity to bring you the best of what’s happening in the Dayton area each month, and look forward to growing better and better each issue. Please continue to send us your thoughts and suggestions for the magazine – your local input is what makes Dayton Parent a true resource for our readers.

Calendar of Events calendar@daytonparentmagazine.com Contact Us daytonparent@daytonparentmagazine.com Copyright

Happy Thanksgiving Dayton!

Dayton Parent Magazine is published monthly. Copyright 2013

by Midwest Parenting Publications, LLC. All rights reserved.

Reproduction without permission is strictly prohibited. Distribution of this magazine does not constitute an endorsement of products, commentary, or services herein. For information on subscriptions, editorial guidelines, advertising rates and more, visit daytonparentmagazine.com

Katy Mark Associate Publisher

6 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Contributing Writers Sarah McCosham, Michelle Shirk, Taryn Skees, Pete Gilbert, Deb Krupowicz, Kelly Blewett, Alicia Elam of the Southern Ohio Homeschool Organization, Lisa Seibert of DaytonLocal.com, Elizabeth Reeves of Dayton Children’s Hospital

BIG BAD BOUNCE

PAINT BRUSH POTTERY

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 7

in every issue

[ community spotlight ]

community spotlight Inaugural Dayton National Veterans Day Run Show your support of our veterans on November 7th with the Inaugural Dayton National Veterans Day Run at Island Metro Park. The event offers two distances, a timed 5K run and a 1 mile family walk. If you’d prefer not to run or walk, there is also a supporter option – with 100% of funds donated to the Folds of Honor Foundation. All participants will receive a race goodie bag, finisher’s pin, online certificate and ref resh m e nt s . A pre - race ceremony will start at 4 p.m. The timed 5K run begins at 4:11pm and the 1 mile family walk will start at 5 p.m. Expectations are for a large turnout of veterans and active-duty military to this race, including many current and former veterans, so come on out and support the men and women of our armed forces! Contact metroparks.org for more information.

Tiny Thursdays at The Dayton Art Institute Join The Dayton Art Institute on Thursday mornings for the popular child and caregiver preschool program “Tiny Thursdays.” Each week offers story time with a Dayton Metro librarian, a fun gallery hunt and a creative, take-away artmaking activity in the Experiencenter classroom. Our fall Tiny Thursdays sessions take place every Thursday, September - December, 11:00 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. (except November 28th and December 26th). Cost is $6/child with member caregiver; $8/child with non-member caregiver. For more information or to register, contact Alex Otte at 937-512-0167 or aotte@daytonart.org.

8 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Ask “The Kid Whisperer” Never argue with your child again! Scott Ervin, “The Kid Whisperer,” will teach parents how to neutralize arguing, prevent power struggles and teach children how to solve their own problems. On November 12th Ervin, a former teacher, principal and discipline specialist, will present “Using Empathy.” Other topics follow through April 1st, 2014. All sessions will take place at Miami Valley School in the Alumni Theatre.

Cost is $50 in advance per couple/individual for one session; $55 at the door. Call 937-434-4444 for more information.

Feast of Giving “A Feast of Giving” reaches out to bring the entire community together by providing Thanksgiving dinner for anyone that might be spending the holiday alone, for those that are homeless or less fortunate, and for anyone else who wishes to attend. The Dayton Convention Center will host the event on T h u r s d a y, November 28th with doors opening at 11 a.m. and dinner served until 2 p.m.

No tickets are needed and there will be free parking at the convention center garage. The Greater Dayton RTA will provide free bussing to and from the convention center on Thanksgiving Day. Those that would like to volunteer, including previous years’ volunteers, should register on the station website at www.abc22now. Donations are also gladly accepted for the Feast of Giving Fund.

[ online buzz ]

in every issue

online buzz for a chance to win

NOVEMBER’S CONTESTS

LIKE US ON FACEBOOK VISIT US AT DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

facebook talk “I couldn’t help but laugh when I saw my kids...”

Take clean diapers out of her diaper bag and put them in the trash can! - Tiffany E. Fall asleep in the laundry basket at bed time. - Jannelle P. School picture. My 3 1/2 year old made his “growling” face this year. Super cute and funny! - Kristy W. Rub a strawberry on her forehead. True story it just happened. - Elizabeth F.

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 9

The Merits of Music MUSIC EDUCATION HAS FAR-REACHING BENEFITS | MICHELLE SHIRK Do you play CDs during car rides or allow your toddler to bang pots and pans together while you cook? You may be doing more for your child than you think. Read on to learn about some of the benefits of music education and discover ways to incorporate more music into your family’s days.

WHY MUSIC EDUCATION?

Jim McCutcheon AKA “The Guitar Man”, owner of McCutcheon Music, believes music is a valuable tool for attention development in young children. He explains that with music, everything happens in time, and kids enjoy trying to clap, stomp or make a verbal sound at an exact moment. Indeed, a 2006 study entitled “Examination of Relationships between Participation in School Music Programs of Differing Quality and Standardized Test Results” shows a relationship between schools offering superior music education programs and higher standardized test scores. In an interview for the University of Kansas’s “Research Matters” program, study author Christopher Johnson theorizes this may be because the focus used for music is similar to that required for test taking.

INCORPORATING MUSIC INTO DAILY LIFE

McCutcheon suggests taking your child to the library and allowing him to choose recordings from the classical and world music sections. He stresses that kids need not be limited to children’s music, which is often “dumbed down.”

“Kids really hear a lot, and I think we should be giving them our best music,” explains McCutcheon.

He also recommends rhythmic activities for young children, such as taking found objects like kitchen lids and spoons and tapping them together. “I think almost anything you pick up can be used as a percussion instrument.” When McCutcheon’s own children were young, he used to tap a beat on the car seat during road trips. These types of activities can “give [children] a sense of how to organize that sound that they’re hearing,” he says.

MAKING MORE MUSIC

Music education also helps children learn to have confidence in their own performances, says McCutcheon. As an instructor, he facilitates this confidence by asking each child to perform individually during every class.

Looking for some outside help in introducing your child to the benefits of music education? McCutcheon Music’s “Music Together” class allows newborns and young children do activities to music from around the world. Lessons for voice and specific instruments, including guitar, piano, violin and more, are also available.

While listening to music or playing a piano can be enjoyed as solo activities, music need not be a solitary pursuit. “I think the social experience of making music is really important as well,” says McCutcheon. He notes that students who participate in band, orchestra or choir have an opportunity to form relationships with their peers that can last a lifetime.

Bella Musica in Miamisburg hosts a 36-week “Music for Young Children” program for kids ages 3 to 12. Participants enjoy a multi-sensory approach that includes everything from creative movement to sight reading to music composition. The center also offers group guitar and ukulele classes as well as private lessons for many different instruments.

Finally, the benefits of music education need not end after grade school. As students who have learned an instrument grow up through their teen and college years, “it will give them an activity they can do that’s just for them,” says McCutcheon. He explains that even during his busy days as a physics student, he allowed himself breaks to relax and play music each day.

10 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Whether you’re a parent who moonlights as a church pianist or one who can’t carry a tune in a bucket, you can always instill a love of music in your child. Start making music with your family today!

The Dayton Foundation

Donors share their desire to help children experience the arts Having lived throughout the country, Beavercreek residents Elizabeth and John Ey never lost touch with their childhood Midwestern values that have guided them through their lives. It’s also what led them to Greater Dayton to pursue careers and raise a family.

cost to send more than 40,000 children to the Victoria Theatre Association’s Discovery Series.

“We love the feeling of community here and the commitment to hard work and family values,” said Beth Ey, a pediatric radiologist and president of Dayton Pediatric Imaging, Inc. (DPI).

“Live theatrical performances expose children to a new way of learning. It’s experiential and complements traditional teaching methods,” Beth Ey said. “It’s something they will carry with them for the rest of their lives.”

Beth and her husband, John, president of Radiology Business Managers, Inc. (RBM), have made their love for children the focus of their careers and of their giving through their Dayton Foundation Charitable Checking AccountSM. “What is most important to us – our ‘big rocks,’ – all involve children, including giving to our church, the arts, Dayton Children’s and the Miami Valley School (MVS),” said John Ey. “Children are our future.

It’s our responsibility to help them succeed.”

The Eys combined their passion for children and the arts by creating Physicians for Kids, which DPI supports through a separate Foundation Charitable Checking Account. Each year since 2006, Physicians for Kids, a partnership between DPI, Dayton Children’s, RBM and six other pediatric physician groups, has underwritten the

BELLA MUSICA

Whether it’s by providing charitable gifts or volunteering, the Eys believe in the power of helping others. “It’s not about how much money you give,” John said. “It’s about how to give more effectively. The Dayton Foundation helps us do this. They have the expertise to help you grow in your philanthropy over time.”

For more information, visit The Dayton Foundation at www.daytonfoundation.org

McCUTCHEON

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 11

commentary & parenting

[ ask the teacher ]

Ask the Teacher “Best” efforts, morning routines, homework errors

By Deb Krupowicz

Q

I don’t understand why my third grade son doesn’t take pride in his work. I want him to give his best. How can I get him to put that kind of effort into his schoolwork?

A

“Give your best” is a worthy charge, but it is an ambiguous goal for a third grader. Are you asking that he work for a long time, work with concentration and focus or work without mistakes?

How will you measure whether your son has given his best? Will you know that he has given his best when the work is perfect?

“Giving your best” requires a clear understanding of what that is. Define very specifically what your expectations are. Put the steps toward those expectations into concrete terms your child can understand. Acknowledge the effort taken practicing steps you have defined, without focusing on the end result. As the steps are taken, eventually the quality of work will show it.

Don’t expect an immediate understanding of what “giving your best” is.

Recognize that on a given day, a child’s best may just be getting the work done. Unfortunately, there are days for all of us when that is all we can do!

Q

As a fourth grader, I think my son should be able to get through the basic morning routine without constant reminders from me. I spend all morning reminding him what needs to be done next in order for him to get out to the bus on time. Is it reasonable to expect that he should be able to do this on his own?

Expecting your fourth grade son to get ready for the bus each day himself without any assistance is unreasonable. However, it is reasonable for your son to develop routines and behaviors that will mature into the kind of independence you are seeking.

A

experiment a bit to find out what sequence of events produces the best results. He may want to eat breakfast first, or may want to start with a shower. Find out what strategy achieves the outcome you both are seeking.

There are many steps to getting out the door each morning! Develop a list with your son. Walk through the steps to be sure nothing has been left off the list. Determine how much time the steps require and select a wake-up time accordingly. When your son is distracted by things not on the list or gets off track, refer him to the checklist. When he reports that he is ready, go over the checklist with him item-by-item. Have rewards and consequences in mind to reinforce adherence to the checklist.

My fifth grade daughter is so careless. Her writing assignments are full of mistakes. Some of the errors she makes are the most basic things, like forgetting an end mark or not capitalizing “I”. I know she knows better.

When she proofreads, she only catches one or two problems.

What can I do to get her to be more careful?

If your child has trouble getting started in the morning, he should complete as many steps as possible before going to bed. He can pack his lunch, gather belongings into his backpack and lay out clothes for the next morning to minimize the morning to-do list. You may have to

12 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Q

A

It’s human nature to want to put down the paper as soon as the question is answered and to consider it done. Unfortunately, it is also human nature to makes mistakes, even when we know better! Proofreading is not as simple as re-reading a paper. It is a skill in

[ ask the teacher ]

commentary & parenting

and of itself that must be taught. Helping your daughter understand that revising and editing are every bit as important to the writing process as pre-writing or brainstorming and constructing a rough draft will reinforce the importance of proofreading .

If time allows, hold the paper until the next day or at least for a few hours before having your daughter begin proofreading. Then have her read aloud what she has written. Each time that she has to stop or back up and reread a phrase is an indicator that there may be a problem.

After making those corrections to produce meaningful sentences, have your daughter go through an editing checklist one item at a time. For example, she should check over the entire paper for end marks. Then she should start at the beginning and check for capital letters. Your daughter is much more likely to do a good job of proofreading her work using this approach.

{

}

Ask the Teacher is written by Deb Krupowicz, a mother of four and current teacher. Deb holds a Master’s degree in Curriculum and Instruction and has over twenty years of experience teaching preschool, elementary and middle school students. Please send your questions to her at asktheteacher@daytonparentmagazine.com.

FAR HILLS OBGYN

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 13

Supporting Someone During

THEIR ADOPTION PROCESS Helpful tips for what to say and do | Michelle Shirk The adoption process is often compared to a roller coaster. Many prospective adoptive families spend months or even years completing paperwork and waiting for placement of a child, and some encounter significant setbacks along the way.

The journey that ultimately led my husband and me to a successful domestic infant adoption was a lengthy one. However, to say our amazing daughter was worth the wait would be a tremendous understatement! I am confident that we ended up with exactly the right child for our family and will remain forever grateful to our wonderful family and friends for their support along the way.

If you know someone in the process of building a family through adoption, you may be wondering what you can do to help. Below are some tips for providing support to a prospective adoptive family before and after the placement of a child in their home.

14 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Throughout the Adoption Process Understand the type of adoption involved. Adoptive families can be formed in a variety of ways including international adoption, domestic infant adoption, adoption through the foster care system and stepparent adoption. Adoption.com and similar websites provide excellent background information on the various types of adoption, but keep in mind that rules can vary depending on the state, country and/or agency involved.

Offer tangible assistance. Families in the adoption process sometimes need a favor. Many if not all candidates for adoption will require reference letters from friends or family members. Some may also need photographs for a profile book, help spreading the word about their interest in adopting or just a listening ear. If you want to help out but aren’t sure what you can do, just ask.

Celebrate significant milestones. Depending on the type of adoption involved, landmark moments might include making the decision to adopt, completing the home study process, matching with an expectant mother or receiving the referral of a child. There are many ways to acknowledge these milestones. To celebrate the start of our process, one thoughtful friend gave us a picture frame intended to hold a photo of our future child. Others simply told us how excited they were when they learned about progress we had made. A handwritten note or card would also be a nice gesture.

Acknowledge setbacks and disappointments. The “lows” of the adoption process can include anything from a paperwork snafu to a failed match with an expectant mother. If you aren’t sure what to say in such a circumstance, try a simple “I’m thinking about you.”

After Placement of a Child Offer the use of baby supplies. Because the adoption timeline is often uncertain, some prospective adoptive families choose not to purchase many baby supplies in advance. This approach saved our sanity during the wait but left us scrambling when we received word our daughter had been born several states away. Fortunately, friends provided us with clothing and supplies left over from their own children to help us get through the first few weeks. If you’re already a parent, consider loaning your dormant diaper genie or baby washcloths to a family in the early stages of parenthood.

Respect privacy about the details of the adoption. Adoptive families have varying comfort levels regarding the information they wish to share about their fertility history, their child’s biological parents and the circumstances that lead to the adoption. The closeness of your relationship with the individuals involved obviously impacts the types of questions that are appropriate. Regardless of the situation, though, try to avoid putting new parents on the spot about issues they seem hesitant to discuss.

4

ACTION ADOPTION

Focus on adoption as the desired outcome. Adoption should be treated as a wonderful way to build a family, not a second best option. Comments such as, “Are you still going to try to have your own child?” are better left unsaid.

Celebrate the end of the adoption process. In some cases, an adoption is not finalized until after a child has been home for weeks or months. It’s a big deal to be legally recognized as parents, so consider offering a hearty “Congratulations!” when this milestone is reached. If you are particularly close with the family, you may even wish to offer to attend the final court hearing. We were touched and honored to have family members willing to travel by plane to celebrate the finalization of our adoption. I look forward to sharing photos and memories from this trip with our daughter as she grows.

The suggestions above are neither mandatory nor all-inclusive, but simply a starting point to help you support a prospective adoptive family in your circle. Like most journeys, the adoption process is a lot more fun with family members and good friends along for the ride!

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 15

To Aiden’s fellow classmates: Congratulations on this huge milestone in your lives! Kindergarten is SO much fun and such a huge step. Many of you are leaving your mommies and daddies for the first time ever. You may feel both nervous and excited and that is okay.

My little guy Aiden is starting this journey too. He is most excited about riding the big yellow school bus with his brother, but he is nervous about going to a new school and making new friends.

Can I let you know a little secret? I am his mommy and I am nervous too. You see, Aiden is a very special boy. Aiden has Apert syndrome.

When I look at him, I see his big bright eyes, his long and luscious eye lashes that would make any woman envious. I see the soft brown freckles sprinkled across his cheeks and nose. I am drawn to his contagious smile. I don’t notice the scar on his head or that his face looks a little different.

But I know you probably will.

Just Like You...

Only Different An open letter to my son’s kindergarten classmates | Taryn Skees

A

fter a recent move, my boys (ages 6 and 5) started at a new school this year where they would have no familiar faces to make them feel at ease. As a parent, I wanted to be a fly on the wall on that first day. Are they making friends? Will they use good manners? Do they remember their numbers and letters?

In addition to the normal first day jitters, I had a whole new set of worries. My kindergartner, Aiden, was born with a rare craniofacial condition called Apert syndrome that is characterized by marked differences in his appearance. His midface is retruded a bit, his fingers and toes are varied shapes and sizes due to having been fused together at birth and separated surgically later, and he proudly wears a zigzag scar from ear to ear that shows where his head was opened up twice to expand his skull to allow his brain to grow. So while I was reassuring my boys that “first grade and kindergarten are going to be awesome!” I admittedly had doubts myself.

In an effort to gently raise awareness and advocate for Aiden, I wrote a letter to Aiden’s classmates and shared it with his teacher.

The message is universal - everyone is different. And everyone should be accepted no matter what.

I marvel at the hands that have been refined by an amazing surgeon giving him fingers where there once were none. I watch in awe as he twists the cap off a water bottle or cuts a piece of paper into scraps. I see perfectly created little toes that make shoe shopping a week-long challenge. I don’t think his hands are strange or his toes are weird.

But you might think so.

When I hear Aiden talk, I am reminded that doctors and specialists told me he may have hearing loss that would affect his speech.

That language may always be a struggle. Needless to say, he has proven them all wrong. When I talk to Aiden I don’t think he’s hard to understand.

But it may be difficult for you to know what he’s saying sometimes.

I don’t mind if you notice these special things about him. Most people do. However I hope that when you’re learning your ABC’s and colors of the rainbow, that you also learn how to accept my little boy. That before you decide not to sit next to him on the bus or share your crayons with him during art, you give him a chance.

He will make you laugh with his little jokes and silly songs. He will be a great friend, always ready to help you hang your backpack or put the blocks away. And my Aiden? He gives the best hugs, hands down.

Get to know him. That’s all I ask. And when you do, you will understand - Aiden is just like you...only different.

Hope you all have a wonderful year!

Love, Aiden’s mommy To read more from Taryn, visit www.moreskeesplease.com, www.facebook.com/moreskeesplease, www.twitter.com/moreskeesplease

16 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

APPLIED BEHAVORIAL SERVICES

WINDOW WORLD

DAYTON CHILDREN’S #1

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 17

advertorial

[ make-a-wish ]

Granting special experiences for special children Dondra and Scot Clark are the parents of Keanan, Austin and Destiny.

Both Keanan and Destiny received wishes through the local chapter of Make-A-Wish, an organization that grants wishes to children with life-threatening medical conditions.

“We were at an appointment at Cincinnati Children’s, following Keanan’s surgery to remove a tumor attached to his brain, when we learned about Make-A-Wish. The child life worker sat down with us and explained that Keanan may be eligible for a wish. We filled out the paperwork, sent it in and learned that Keanan’s condition qualified. When wish granters came to our house to see what Keanan’s wish would be, Keanan chose to go to Walt Disney World® Resort because he loves Disney movies and characters like SpongeBob SquarePants and Mickey Mouse. In 2007, Keanan’s wish came true.

Destiny has severe epilepsy. Her doctor told us that she was going to refer Destiny for a wish through Make-A-Wish. Destiny’s condition qualified and she wished to go to Walt Disney World® Resort because she loves dressing up like the princesses. Her wish was granted in 2012.

The impact of Keanan and Destiny’s wishes has been very positive on them and our family. We have pictures all around our house of both wishes and the kids love to show everyone who comes into our home. It also gave both Keanan and Destiny a chance to spend a week away from all doctors and hospitals and just have fun. It allowed us to feel like a normal family for a week. The memories of meeting their favorite characters will last a lifetime. The smiles on their faces when they talk about their wish experiences are priceless.

Make-A-Wish has had a wonderful impact on our family. I (Scot) have become a wish granter, helping to grant the wishes of local children in the Dayton area like Keanan and Destiny. In addition, I have done public speaking for Make-A-Wish and our whole family gets involved in special events like the Wish Bowl and Walk For Wishes, which help to raise funds for Make-A-Wish.

In addition, Keanan was an Honorary Wish Child for the Dayton Wish Bowl and Destiny was the Honorary Wish Child for the Inaugural

18 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Dayton Walk For Wishes this past summer. By experiencing the power of two wishes and seeing what it has done for Keanan, Destiny and the rest of us, we always try to be involved with Make-A-Wish.

Wishing it forward gives Keanan, Austin, and Destiny a chance to help grant the wishes of other children with life-threatening medical conditions.

If we see a potential wish child, we always ask the family if they have heard of Make-A-Wish. We share with them the impact of Keanan’s and Destiny’s wish experiences and prepare them for the fact that a wish will be a lifetime of memories.”

A child can be referred to Make-A-Wish by a parent/guardian, medical professional treating the child or by the child. To learn more about referring a child to Make-A-Wish, visit ohio.wish.org or call 1-877206-9474.

MAKE-A-WISH

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 19

commentary & parenting

[ footnotes: thoughts from the margins of a mom’s life ]

Footnotes: Thoughts from the margins of a mom’s life The Mommy Magnet Kelly Blewett I was recently at a table with a bunch of moms and someone mentioned how frustrating it is when you can’t get a minute to yourself to brush your teeth. Suddenly the bathroom becomes clogged with six extra feet and three extra voices as your children and your husband gather round to talk and ask questions, or, as my son puts it, “just watch, please!” And then, just to make things more interesting, the dog will wander in.

Why, when our domestic worlds usually have space to accommodate all of us, does such a phenomenon occur? The answer is simple: we are experiencing “the mommy magnet.” Wherever mom might be, that’s where the action is happening. For instance, if I am nursing my baby on a white chair in a quiet living room, inevitably my toddler will crash onto the chair to stroke my daughter’s head and shoot some questions and ideas my way. “When is lunch?” for example.

“I’d like to watch a little Dora” perhaps. “It might be time to let the dog out” I’ve heard as well. But no need to look terribly hard for the dog, for he has settled into a fluffy white heap on the edge of

BOWL

20 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

said chair. I look around and take a deep breath. “I’m experiencing The Mommy Magnet,” I say quietly, “and this too shall pass.”

Moms have this magnetic effect because we arbitrate the day. We dole out the schedules, the peanut butter-and-jellies, the dog treats, the milk, the Dora episodes. And, if all is well, we manage to keep a little air of benevolence around us, a sense that wherever we are is a happy, safe and welcoming place.

While such magnetism can be a little claustrophobic at times, I think it might be useful to remember that in coming years we will likely be bereft of our tiny entourages. They will go to kindergarten and soccer camp, and (though I can’t even imagine it) middle school.

And then the gig is really up. We will no longer arbitrate the day – though, by the grace of God, we can keep our benevolent air. So as your little ones are surrounding you today, don’t fret. Take a deep breath. You’re the Mommy Magnet and you’re fabulous.

DECOY ART

[ true confessions of a stay-at-home dad ] commentary

& parenting

The Seven-Meal-a-Day Plan [True Confessions of a Stay-at-Home Dad] Pete Gilbert “Seven Meals a Day” – that’s the name I’ve given to the meal and snack plan my kids are on. As a stay at home dad, I’m the meal planner, grocery shopper, cook, server and bus boy for all of it. And our days aren’t broken down into hours, they are segmented into meals.

On many mornings, the only reason I keep track of the day is so I know what to make for breakfast: Oatmeal Monday, French Toast Tuesday, Waffle Wednesday and so on. Not long after breakfast, it’s time for a morning snack – GoGo Applesauce in the pouch. What started off as a snack to pack in my daughter’s lunch has turned into an obsession for my youngest two kids. Thankfully Costco sells them in bulk, because a package of six just doesn’t cut it. After morning snack we usually run some errands. My kids have convinced me they cannot exist in the car unless they are chowing down on raisins and Cheerios. They also get suckers at several stops: Trader Joe’s, the bank and mom’s work.

After nap, it’s time for afternoon snack. This is when the kids clean out the cupboards, eating oatmeal, sandwiches, cereal and all fruit that’s in the house. Many times it’s the largest meal of the day and often continues right up until dinner.

At dinner, if they’re still hungry, the kids are pretty good about eating whatever it is I serve, even if it is tofu pad thai. My son walks around the house eating basil from the herb garden so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised.

Which brings us to the day’s final meal, after dinner snack. By this time, the kitchen is clean and I’m tired so my kids have learned that their only options at this point are spoonfuls of peanut butter and some milk. The night usually ends at our house by me saying, “All right kids, the kitchen is closed!” Until tomorrow, when we will do it all over again.

Happy parenting!

After errands, it’s lunch time. There are many lunch choices at the beginning of the week (deli meat, fruit, chips and cheeses) but by the end of the week, there’s only one choice – PBJ.

THE CAKERY

www.facebook.com/petetheblogger

PINOT PALLETTE

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 21

Healthy Eating during the Holidays Enjoy the season without adding extra pounds | Elizabeth Reeves It is no secret that a great deal of our holiday joy stems from food.

Warm, yummy dishes are the perfect ingredient to any family get together or holiday tradition. Yet, with one holiday after another and a seemingly endless couple of months in the kitchen, the food frenzy can leave us feeling stuffed like a bowl full of jelly.

While many see no harm in gaining a couple of pounds during the holidays, studies have shown that most people never lose that holiday weight and it adds up year after year. “Studies show that one in three adults are obese and 17 percent of children are obese,” says Becky Gonter-Dray, RD, CSP, LD, pediatric dietitian at Dayton Children’s Hospital. “The National Institute of Health reported that during the holiday season, people usually gain one to two pounds, which accumulates and contributes to the overweight and obesity epidemic. It’s important for families to make a plan before the holidays to avoid this unwanted weight gain!”

Five easy steps to keep your family healthy during the holidays Portion control. Watching portion sizes will help your child eat healthier and avoid adding extra pounds. Using moderation when choosing foods that are special to the holidays, like cookies and fudge, can help satisfy a sweet tooth without adding unnecessary calories.

1.

2.

Change recipes. Consider fat-free or light sour cream in recipes and steaming vegetables rather than cooking in butter.

Getting kid’s taste buds accustomed to less fattening food will help as they begin to select their own menu.

22 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

3.

Monitor kids’ access to food. Start the day with a small meal that includes whole grains, fruits, dairy foods and protein.

Encourage them to eat a small snack so they are not as hungry before a big holiday meal.

4.

Plan active family events. Spend time together with active outings like going to a museum or sledding. If you don’t have time for a big outing, go outside and play games like tag or build a snowman.

5.

Buy gifts that promote being active. Include at least one gift this holiday season that will make being active fun, such as a new bike. A gift for the whole family, like a badminton set can create a new opportunity for everyone to enjoy the double benefits of play and physical activity. Remember to purchase safety equipment as well if recommended.

Not only will the guidelines you set help your child now, but they will also set a pattern of behavior to last a lifetime.

“Just like riding a bike, children are taught how to act by their parents and form habits that mimic what they see,” says Gonter-Dray. “There is no doubt that traditions can be made around a dinner table, but how wonderful would it be if those traditions introduced habits that will lead to a healthy and happy life both inside and out!”

For more information on family nutrition, visit Becky’s Activities to Zucchini blog at blog.childrensdayton.org.

FIVE RIVERS

DAYTON CHILDREN’S #2

HAND 2 HAND

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 23

WHEN UNEMPLOYMENT HITS HOME Strategies for coping as a family | Sarah McCosham

O

ur jobs – what we do with our days, how we earn a living and provide for our families – are an essential part of our identities. A career often defines who we are. As a result, losing a job can be devastating. In fact, job loss is one of the most stressful events an adult can experience.

meanwhile, may wonder how this new situation will affect their everyday life. “Most children are fairly egocentric,” says Dr. Ramey, “they want to know how the job loss will affect them personally.

It’s important for parents to be direct and honest, while also reassuring their kids that everything will work out.”

If you are a parent who has lost a job, these feelings can be compounded because of the effect unemployment has on the family’s well-being. How can moms and dads deal with their own concerns while still attending to the needs and questions their children have about their situation?

Keeping calm and carrying on

Talking to your kids

While your first instinct may be to protect your kids by not telling them of a job loss, it’s important to include them in the news in age appropriate ways. Kids are intuitive and can feel when something is wrong, so it makes sense to address their concerns. Plus, not telling your kids about your job loss suggests there’s something wrong with a person who loses a job – when the fact of the matter is that unemployment is a part of many people’s lives.

“One of the biggest things parents feel when they lose a job is a sense of inadequacy,” says Dr. Ramey. “Our job as a parent is to take care of our families – and job loss hits at the core of who we are.”

The way to combat these feelings is to stay busy and actively work to find a new job. “Staying busy on the job search is so important,” says Dr. Ramey, “parents need to feel like they’re actively trying to better the situation.”

Try to embrace your stint as a stay-at-home parent by taking advantage of the extra time this affords being with your children.

“If the main feeling is being inadequate, then do things to feel competent as a parent,” suggests Dr. Ramey.

When you do discuss the situation with your kids, it’s important to keep a few things in mind. Dr. Gregory Ramey, a child psychologist at Dayton Children’s Hospital, says parents often make the mistake of “overtalking and undercommunicating.” In other words, parents use too many words, but not enough meaningful information.

Above all, the most important thing a parent can do is stay positive and set a good example. How we respond to trying times as parents teaches our kids one of the most important lessons of all – how to handle the tough situations life dishes out.

Dr. Ramey suggests parents stick to the pertinent details, being “simple, clear and specific” about the situation. Younger kids will likely want reassurance that everything will be okay. Older kids,

“Be a great role model for overcoming obstacles,” says Dr. Ramey.

“Adversity is a part of life, but it builds character and shapes who we are.”

24 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

THINK TV

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 25

commentary & parenting

[ the homeschool heartbeat ]

The Homeschool Heartbeat

Homeschool versus virtual school: One mom’s perspective Alicia Elam, President, Statewide Ohio Homeschool Organization

My oldest child started kindergarten in 2008, so for several months prior to that, I researched all the educational options available to us. I learned that my state offered virtual public schools, also known as a cyberschools or e-schools; schools that teach students through predominantly online methods. Many of the virtual schools in Ohio provide a free curriculum, teacher support, use of a computer and internet reimbursement. This is where my home educating journey began!

My first year homeschooling, I was scared, nervous and excited.

Most parents choosing to home educate their children are! I chose an online public school, the Ohio Virtual Academy (OHVA), whose curriculum is provided by K12, a nationwide provider. I loved everything it had to offer: an advanced curriculum that was laid out for me, teacher support, partial internet reimbursement, a family directory so I could reach out to nearby families and more.

There are several other virtual school options as well: Connections Academy, ECOT, BOSS and OHDELA. We weren’t considered “homeschoolers” because students using virtual schools, per Ohio state law, are considered “schooled at home through the public school system.” However, I was able to get a good feel for the journey I was beginning. A virtual student is required to complete 920 hours per school year (460 hours for kindergarten), make

26 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

adequate progress which is tracked by a teacher, complete 36 hours of structured physical education, take state mandated tests, and meet with other families several times through the year. Many of the virtual schools offer great field trips and events for the students to meet. Although our experience was a positive one, after four years we decided to make the switch to a true homeschool experience.

For our fifth year of home educating, we began a more eclectic approach using a variety resources. I followed the state laws in regards to notifying our home district of our intent to homeschool.

Choosing to homeschool means the parent is responsible for putting together their own curriculum, or for paying out of pocket for a boxed curriculum. No state assistance is provided. We pick how, what and when to teach various subjects, provide 900 hours of education and choose the type of year-end assessment (teacher narrative, nationalized test or standardized state test) we do. In order for a homeschooling family to continue, adequate progress must be shown just like any other school option. For us, we like being able to work at our own pace; stopping when a topic needs more help, or when a topic is particularly interesting. This fluctuating pace and in-depth investigation is an approach that works well for our family. An added bonus with both homeschooling and virtual school, is that each allows the freedom to take trips and visit interesting places when they are not packed.

Ultimately, each family must make the best educational choice for each individual child. There are many options out there - don’t let others tell you what you should do. When it comes to your children, no one knows what’s right for them better than you.

For more information on the Statewide Ohio Homeschool Organization, visit www.ohiohomeschoolers.org

[ november happenings ]

resources

November Happenings A time to give thanks

Lisa Seibert, Community Executive, DaytonLocal.com

Americans celebrate Thanksgiving on the last Thursday of each November with a gathering of family and friends for a feast.

The tradition began in 1621 to celebrate a bountiful harvest and has continued for nearly 400 years. In the Dayton area, we have much to be thankful for. Here are a few of the many activities and events to enjoy with your family this month.

Square, followed immediately by a nighttime parade for children, sparkling with more than 100,000 lights! The holiday fun continues through December with Family Weekends and other activities, including The Tike’s Shoppe and Wintergarden Wonderland Windows at the Schuster Center, a family movie series, pizza with Santa, a holiday train display, noontime entertainment in downtown’s office buildings and much more.

The Cat In The Hat Town Hall Theatre 27 N. Main St. Centerville Friday, November 1 at 7 pm, Saturday & Sunday, November 2 & 3 at 3 pm Admission: Adults $15, 12 & under $10, Day of Show $15, Ages 2 & under admitted free with accompanying adult A door opens…and in pops the Cat! Complete with his signature striped red-and-white hat! What marvelous tricks he has stuffed up his sleeves and listen to the fantastical tales he endlessly weaves!

And the mess! Oh the mess! When mommy returns, what WILL she say? Little Sally and her brother will find out this very same day!

Veterans Exhibit Centerville Library Branch Saturday Nov 9, 10 am – 5 pm, Sunday November 10, 1 pm – 5 pm, and Monday, November 11, 10 am – 9 pm, no charge Veterans Day is Monday November 11th.

In celebration, the Centerville Washington Township Library on Spring Valley Road will feature an annual exhibit honoring our veterans, featuring books, artifacts, military uniforms and more. Children will also have the chance to write thank-you cards to veterans which will be delivered before the holidays to our troops serving in Afghanistan. Jointly presented by the Library and the Centerville Washington Township Historical Society.

The Grande Illumination Tree Lighting & The Dayton Children’s Parade Spectacular in Lights

Hometown Holidazzle Illuminated Parade & Festival Saturday November 30, 10 am – 9 pm, no admission charge Downtown Wilmington closes its streets and opens its doors for everyone to see our hometown all lit up, from the twinkling decorations to the thousands of lights decorating the nighttime parade. Santa Claus will end the parade and be available to hear the kids’ wish lists. Indoor carnival games, delicious food and strolling musicians help bring in the holiday season.

The Carillon Park Rail & Steam Society Saturday November 30, 1 pm – 4 pm Family Fun at the Carillon Historical Park Museum - take the kids for a train ride on their 1/8th scale railroad! Operated by the Carillon Park Rail & Steam Society, Inc. Weather permitting at all passenger operations.

Park admission required.

For more family friendly events, please visit Dayton Parent Magazine’s online calendar, powered by DaytonLocal.com.

North Pole Express Train Ride Saturdays & Sundays, November 30 through December 22 at 10 am Admission: Adults $20.50, Seniors 62+ $15.50, Children 5-16 $15.50, Toddlers 2-4 $8.50, Infants 1 yr & under - free Take a half hour train ride to the decorated LM&M Junction to visit with Santa and Mrs. Claus! Take a moment to visit Santa and tell him your Christmas wishes. Each child will receive a small gift from Mr. Claus himself!

Stop at the “Holiday Post Express” to color pictures or write letters to be delivered to Santa. Enjoy a holiday cookie and a cup of hot chocolate to keep you warm while you are entertained by Santa’s talented elves!

Friday, November 29, 7 pm, no admission charge Watch the holidays light up during Dayton’s traditional tree lighting on Courthouse NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 27

SAVVY SHOPPING Simple ways to save big | Sarah McCosham

T

here’s no way around it: kids are expensive. In fact, a recent study on the cost of raising a child by economist Mark Lino of the U.S. Department of Agriculture estimated the cost of raising a child born in 2012 at roughly $241,080 - not including college.

But there are many ways to keep costs down: buying in bulk, shopping second-hand, and simply timing your purchases right.

And with the holidays fast approaching, now is the perfect time to start saving money.

Buying in bulk

When you’re purchasing baby items regularly – think formula, diapers, wipes and other supplies – buying in bulk not only saves you money, but also time. Going to the grocery store with your brood can be a challenge, so if you can minimize unnecessary trips, everyone wins!

Warehouse clubs like Costco and Sam’s Club are probably the first places that come to mind – and with good reason. For a small annual fee, members have access to thousands of items at wholesale prices. In fact, Costco-brand diapers have been named one of the best deals, for both exceptional quality and price.

If you want to avoid the whole shopping-with-kids experience altogether, consider signing up for an online shopping service. For example, Amazon Mom is a free program for parents and caretakers of small children. Members can take advantage of free, two-day shipping, 20% off diapers and wipes, and special promotions on kids’ items. For those items purchased regularly, members can opt for automatic delivery via the retailer’s “subscribe and save” program.

Secondhand steals

At the rate kids grow, you can invest a small fortune keeping them clothed. Between shoes, clothing and outerwear, it’s a challenge to keep your little one in the right size. Then there’s the stuff: changing tables, cribs, beds, high chairs, etc. And, of course, toys and books to match your child’s growing interests and needs. Add it all up, and that’s a lot of money spent on items that will only be

28 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

used for a short period of time.

The solution? Buy used! Craigslist is a great resource for parents, offering everything from cribs to jogging strollers to clothing. If there is something particular you’re looking for – say a train table for your Thomas-loving tot – consider keeping tabs on Craigslist, as your patience will generally pay off.

There are also loads of second-hand stores around the Dayton area specializing in kids’ items. Selling clothing, baby items and toys galore, Once Upon A Child is a great place to score gently used products for your kids. Meanwhile, Kidz Again in Centerville sells name brand and designer apparel at a fraction of the retail price.

Lastly, be sure to keep your eyes open for large consignment events.

In the fall, the Moms 2 Moms Sale in Monroe features hundreds of gently used, brand name kids’ apparel, furniture and toys. Not only can you find great deals for your kids, but you can also sign up to become a seller – bringing in some extra cash for the family!

Utilizing technology

With the holidays coming up, budgets can fall by the wayside – but they don’t have to. In fact, you can still visit your favorite retail, toy and bookstores without breaking the bank.

For starters, signing up to receive store coupons is an easy way to get deals delivered to your inbox. Often stores will market special sales and discounts to email members. For example, Old Navy and the Gap constantly run promotions via email, making it easy for parents to coordinate their purchases with sales.

Local brick-and-mortar stores frequently utilize technology to offer special savings to customers. Blue Turtle Toys, one of Dayton’s beloved independent toy stores, has a Facebook page to connect with customers. By simply “liking” the page, you’ll be privy to the store’s special sales and events. Most stores now use social media to connect with customers, so be sure to seek out your favorite places on the web.

And with all the money you save, perhaps you can set aside some cash for a well-deserved date night or girls’ night out!

SILVER LININGS

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 29

resources

[ volunteering guide ]

VOLUNTEERING GUIDE

This time of year, many families are reminded of their many blessings and look for ways to give back to their community as a volunteer. Listed here are just a few of the many organizations in the Dayton area for kids and adults to share their time. While some opportunities are specific to just the holiday season, many are available to volunteers throughout the year.

Adopt a Christmas Tree Greenewood Manor, 711 Dayton-Xenia Road, Xenia, 937-562-7550 Would your club, youth group, scout troop or other group like to create ornaments and decorate a Christmas tree? Every year this nursing facility decorates eight full-sized trees in a particular theme. This year, the theme is music and they’re hoping you can decorate the trees from top to bottom in your own creative interpretation of the theme.

New Year’s Noon Greenewood Manor, 711 Dayton-Xenia Road, Xenia, 937-562-7550 Every year the residents of Greenwood Manor celebrate New Year’s Noon (on New Year’s Eve) with a sparkling cider toast during their lunch at noon, rather than midnight. They would love to have some entertainment during their celebration. This is a great opportunity for students who are off for their holiday break!

Christmas Cheer Distribution The Salvation Army of Middletown, 1914 First Avenue, 513-423-9452 Share in the joy of giving this season by assisting with the distribution of food and toys to over 500 families this Christmas. Volunteer times are Thursday, December 19th and Friday, December 20th.

30 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

Food Pantry Drive

one bistro

The Salvation Army of Middletown, 1914 First Avenue, 513-423-9452 Almost 14,000 individuals were assisted through the Salvation Army’s food pantry last year. Shelves are always running low and could benefit from a non-perishable food drive. This could be a seasonal opportunity or an activity anytime during the year.

110 South Second Street, Miamisburg, 937-8591165, http://onebistro.org/ one bistro serves healthy, affordable meals to those in the community who are privileged and under-privileged. Those interested can volunteer to help as staff and assist in providing meals to people in need. Volunteers should be 16 years of age, although families who wish to serve together may have younger children help out with adult supervision.

Build a Kid’s Library The Salvation Army of Middletown, 1914 First Aven, 513-423-9452 Help enhance after school programs by collecting books to establish a reading library for children. Hours are flexible in this volunteer opportunity and can be arranged to work around your schedule.

Musical Entertainers St. Leonard Franciscan Living Community, 8100 Clyo Road, Centerville, 937-433-0480 Share your musical ability and time by entertaining residents in memory care units.

Your talents bring joy to the residents who love music. Volunteer times are flexible and can be worked out with your schedule.

The Humane Society of Greater Dayton 1661 Nicholas Road, Dayton, 937-268-PETS (7387), www.humanesocietydayton.org/home. html The Humane Society offers flexible opportunities designed to fit into anyone’s schedule. No matter what your skill set – whether you desire hands-on activities with pets, prefer to provide clerical support, or want to assist with events and education programs in the community – there is a place for you. Volunteers must be at least 10 years of age.

Swim for MS 856-488-4500, http://support.mymsaa.org Swim for MS is a national fundraiser in which volunteers are encouraged to create their own swim challenge while recruiting online donations to support the Multiple Sclerosis Association of America (MSAA). Swim for MS is unique because MSAA does not plan the event - you do! As a Swim for MS volunteer, you have the opportunity to create and arrange your own special swim activity. You can participate individually or recruit other swim enthusiasts to form a team.

Watch the Wild http://www.natureabounds.org/Watch_the_ Wild.html As a Watch the Wild volunteer, you observe and report what is taking place in your community, from trees and plants to weather and wildlife activity. Your observations are then entered into a database and shared with interested scientists, helping us to understand how our eco-systems are changing and help us to adapt for the future.

KICK OFF THE HOLIDAY SEASON DOWNTOWN Families can enjoy free activities, tree lighting and parade at Nov. 29th event For more than 40 years, families have gathered downtown for the Dayton area’s largest holiday celebration, the Dayton Holiday Festival, on the Friday after Thanksgiving. This year’s event will be held from 4 to 9 p.m. on November 29th.

crafts, play games, and speak to one of Santa’s helpers at Time Warner Cable Media’s “Dial-an-Elf” booth.

The Grande Illumination, a tree-lighting ceremony presented by Miami-Jacobs Career College and MIX 107.7-FM, will be held at 7:45 p.m. on Courthouse Square, immediately followed by the Dayton Children’s Parade Spectacular in Lights, featuring a variety of festive floats, entertainers, live music and horse units. CareSource will provide 3-D magic glasses that add a special twist to the lights.

Volunteers from YES! for Youth will help kids shop for their loved ones at The Tike’s Shoppe in the Schuster Center, where they also can visit with Santa. Visitors can enjoy the magical Rike’s animated holiday windows in the Wintergarden. Entries from the Gingerbread Homes for the Holidays Contest, sponsored by the Downtown Priority Board, will be on display in the Old Courthouse.

The Junior League of Dayton’s Holiday Hunt will be held from 4 to 7 p.m. Check in at the booth on Courthouse Square to receive a map of participating merchants and a goody bag for collecting treasures.

Live entertainment will be presented on the Courthouse Square Main Stage, sponsored by Kroger, beginning at 4 p.m. until just before the tree lighting.

Horse-drawn wagon rides will pick up passengers at the corner of Second and Main streets from 4 to 7 p.m. Rides are $1 per person.

The Dayton Holiday Festival continues throughout the month of December. Visit www.daytonholidayfestival.org for more information or call 937-224-1518.

Children can enjoy free carnival rides at the Street Fair on Third Street, sponsored by Fifth Third Bank. In the Holiday Village in the lobby of the Kettering Tower, children can make holiday arts and

The Dayton Holiday Festival is presented by Downtown Dayton Partnership, the City of Dayton, Montgomery County and the Mrs. Virginia W. Kettering Dayton Holiday Festival Fund.

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 31

calendar FRIDAY | 01 Cat in the Hat

Date: Friday, November 1 through Sunday, November 3 Time: Friday, 7PM; Sat. and Sun., 3PM Price: $15 adults; 12 and under $10 Location: Town Hall Theatre, Centerville Website: www.washingtontwp.org/ recreation/theatre In this double feature, a door opens…and in pops the Cat! Complete with his signature striped red-and-white hat! What marvelous tricks he has stuffed up his sleeves and listen to the fantastical tales he endlessly weaves! And the mess! Oh the mess! When mommy returns, what WILL she say? Little Sally and her brother will find out this very same day!

Recommended for kids 4 and up.

Tike Hikes: My first leaf collection Time: 10:00 AM Price: Free Location: Hills & Dales MetroPark, Kettering Website: www.metroparks.org/ Parks/HillDales/ Leaves are perfect study materials for preschoolers; they learn colors, shapes, and relative sizes, while developing a close relationship with the season. Bring your preschooler out for a hike to collect nature’s retired food makers!

Registration requested, walkins welcome. For ages 3 to 5.

SATURDAY | 02 Fall Fling Craft Fair Time: 10:00AM-2:00PM Price: prices vary Location: Fairhaven Church, Centerville Website: www.facebook.com/FallFling The Family Network of Dayton, a non-profit, moms organization, 32 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

will be holding their annual Fall Fling Craft Fair. Shoppers will have the opportunity to shop many types of vendors all in one place as well as enjoy some delicious baked goods A portion of the proceeds will go to The Family Network, The Miami Valley Down Syndrome Association and The Kettering Backpack Program.

National Model Railroad Dayton Train Show Date: Saturday, November 2 and Sunday, November 3 Time: 10:00AM-5:00PM Price: Under 12 and parking free; 12 and over $6 Location: Hara Arena, Dayton Website: www.daytontrainshow. com All Aboard! This 38th annual event has everything for the train enthusiast - operating layouts in all scales, hands on how to clinics, 400 vendor tables, hourly door prizes. There are trains for the kids (old and young) to operate and ride. Boy Scouts can earn their Model Railroad Merit Badge. There is something for all ages to see and enjoy.

SUNDAY | 03 Holiday Open House Time: 11:00AM-5:00PM Price: Free Location: Little Exchange, Oakwood Phone: 937-299-1561 You are invited to a festive Holiday Open House at the Little Exchange in Oakwood. Beautiful, one of a kind Holiday gifts, serving pieces and decorations will be featured.

Special baby and children’s gifts as well as tasty treats will be on hand to tempt you. Complimentary gift wrap is available. Please come and enjoy a special kick-off to the Holiday Season. All proceeds benefit Dayton Children’s Hospital.

NOVEMBER

TUESDAY | 05

Home School Youth Sports Sampler Class Time: 1:30 PM Price: $1 per class per student Location: Payne Recreation Center, Moraine Website: www.moraine.oh.us/ A great way for home school students to get out, get active and try something new.

THURSDAY | 07

Backpacking Babies: Leaves of Color Time: 10:00 AM Price: Free Location: Sugarcreek MetroPark, Bellbrook Treat your baby to some fresh, fall air while exposing them to the colors of fall! We will stop for a break, play time and snacks in the Osage Orange Tunnel. A baby backpack or carrier is required for this program, as trails are not stroller-friendly. No registration required. Contact (937) 2757275 for details. Ages 0 to 2.

Paint me a Story Time: 11:00 AM Price: $10 Location: Paintbrush Pottery, Springboro Website: www.paintbrushpottery. com Watch the shiny feathers disappear as you count down from five to one in this Thanksgiving story about five silly turkeys. Afterward, you can create a handprint on a tile that will be turned into a turkey! For ages 2 and up. A light snack will be provided.

FRIDAY | 08

The Elves and the Shoemaker Date: Friday, November 8 through Sunday, November 10

Time: Friday, 7PM; Sat. and Sun., 3PM Price: see website for ticket pricing Location: Town Hall Theatre, Centerville Website: www.washingtontwp.org/ recreation/theatre A down-on-his-luck cobbler finds that the kindness of strangers often comes in the most unexpected shapes and sizes! One night, he goes to bed hungry knowing he has just enough leather to make one last pair of shoes to sell. But when he wakes up, the most amazingly stitched shoes are sitting finished on his cobbler bench, ready to sell to his best paying customer!

Recommended for ages 4 and up.

SATURDAY | 09 Ohio’s First People Time: 1:00 PM Price: Free Location: Possum Creek MetroPark, Dayton Website: www.metroparks.org/ Parks/PossumCreek/ Andy will talk about how the first Ohioans lived, worked and played.

Hands-on activities and displays will be available. Registration requested, walk-ins welcome.

Contact (937) 276-7062 for details.

St. Martin’s Day Celebration Time: 3:00PM-8:00PM Price: Free will offering Location: Dayton Liederkranz Turner, Dayton Website: www.daytongermanclub. org In November each year, German children celebrate St. Martin’s Day. Carrying lanterns, and singing special lantern songs they walk around the streets in a procession after darkness falls. The procession often ends with a bonfire. The Liederkranz will celebrate this tradition with lantern making, a

soup supper, a parade thru St. Anne’s Hill neighborhood, and a bonfire with cocoa and special baked treats. Area children are invited to participate.

SUNDAY | 10 Girl Scout Day

Time: 1:00PM-7:00PM Price: $8 per scout Location: Decoy Art Studio, Dayton Website: www.decoy-art.com Local Girl Scouts have the studio to themselves. The studio is closed to the public for the day to celebrate art and creativity. The scouts will be working with polymer clay creating a mosaic mural, good luck origami installations and friendship bowls with the ladies from Sew Dayton. All scouts must be register in 2-hour sessions.

MONDAY | 11 Veterans Day Open House

Time: 11:00 AM -9:00 PM Price: Free Location: Centerville Library Website: www.wclibrary.info Stop by and meet with veterans as we honor them on this special day. Refreshments will be served. During your visit, enjoy walking through our annual exhibit honoring our military.

The exhibit will run Saturday Nov 9 through Monday Nov 11th during open library hours.

Jointly presented by the Library and the Centerville-Washington Township Historical Society.

TUESDAY | 12 Kid Whisperer: Using Empathy

Time: 6:30 PM – 8:00 PM Price: $55 per ticket Location: Miami Valley School, Dayton Website: www.mvschool.com/ Never argue with your child again!

Scott Ervin, The Kid Whisperer, will teach you how to neutralize arguing, prevent power struggles, and help you teach your children how to solve their own problems.

Over a series of 10 evenings, you will learn how to communicate through “Love and Logic,” the winwin approach to raising respectful and responsible children.

THURSDAY | 14

Price: Free Location: Possum Creek MetroPark, Dayton Website: www.metroparks.org/ Parks/PossumCreek/ Celebrate the noble bird we call a turkey. Learn how the turkey almost became our national symbol, how he feeds people from all over the world, and how he played a role in the first Thanksgiving. Registration required. Contact (937) 2767062 for details. Age: 3Y-6Y

Diva Night

Time: 6:30 PM Price: $10 to reserve spot; $14 minimum pottery purchase Location: Paintbrush Pottery Website: www.paintbrushpottery. com Get your holiday groove on!

Create a Turkey platter or make that one of a kind gift. There will be music, munchies, prizes and more! For ages 18 and over.

TUESDAY | 19

Mid-Day Arts Cafe: DPAA (ballet) Time: Noon Price: $12 Location: Schuster Center – Mathile Theatre, Dayton Website: www.victoriatheatre. com/shows/ One Tuesday a month, a participating arts organization presents an hour-long session in the Benjamin & Marian Schuster Performing Arts Center’s Mathile Theatre, providing a little insight into its mission, its productions and events, and maybe even a preview performance. Each Mid-Day Arts Café begins with a box lunch provided by Citilites Restaurant & Bar at 11:30 a.m., and the presentation starts promptly at noon.

Farm to Preschool: Are Turkeys Pretty?

Time: 1:00 PM

WEDNESDAY | 20 Spirited! Painting Party (Album Covers)

Time: 6:00 PM-9:00 PM Price: $25 Location: Decoy Art Studio Website: www.decoy-art.com/ Join in on Dayton’s longest running painting party - the Spirited!

Painting Party - where you don’t just paint, but learn to paint!

Experienced instructors help from start to finish on your own, personal painting. Everything is supplied: the canvas, paint, apron, brushes - you name it. You just bring your favorite drink. 21+ only.

FRIDAY | 22

Annual Craft Fair and Vendor Open House Time: 11:00 AM-6:00 PM Price: prices vary Location: A Great Start Preschool, Dayton Just in time for the holidays, browse from a variety of craft and vendor booths.

WEDNESDAY | 23 Shoes for the Shoeless Walkathon

Time: 9:00 AM Walk Begins (lead

by Santa), 8am Registration Location: JCPenney’s Court inside the Dayton Mall Price: new pair of gym shoes with socks or $15

FOR MORE FUN IDEAs, VISIT DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

All participants will get a backpack and an entry for a new bike!

Go to www.shoes4theshoeless. org for more information.

SUNDAY | 24

National Adoption Month Party Location: Irish Club, Dayton Phone: 937-277-6101 This event is hosted by hosted

by Action Adoption. Call 937277-6101 for more information.

WEDNESDAY | 27 Stock-Up Wednesday Time: 11:00 AM -3:00 PM Price: prices vary Location: 2nd Street Market Website: www.metroparks.org/ Parks/SecondStreetMarket The Market will be open to pickup your last minute needs for Thanksgiving - homemade breads, fresh turkeys and hams, pies and cakes, flowers and more. Many of our vendors are accepting preorders throughout November so remember to ask on your next visit.

No registration required. Contact (937) 228-2088 for details.

FRIDAY | 29

Riverscape Metropark Ice Skating Rink Opening Weekend Date: Friday, November 29 through Saturday, November 30 Time: 11:00 AM – 10:00 PM Price: $7 Location: Riverscape Metropark, Dayton Website: www.metroparks.org/ Parks/RiverScape/ Spend the holiday weekend creating lasting memories with friends and family at MetroParks Ice Rink! Warm up with hot chocolate from our food concession and enjoy our outdoor fireplaces. No registration required.

Contact (937) 274-0126 for details.

At Dayton Parent, we work hard to ensure our calendar and guide information is accurate. Occasionally event specifics change after we go to press. Therefore, we encourage our readers to call locations or visit them on the web to verify information.

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 33

ongoing events Christmas Spectacular Date: Friday, November 1 through Tuesday, December 31 Time: see website for schedule Price: see website for ticket pricing Location: LaComedia Dinner Theatre, Springboro Website: http://lacomedia.com/ playbill/ Join us this Christmas for a musical journey that features dancing, fun-loving characters and Santa Claus himself. Then, with the warmth and beauty of the Nativity, we will celebrate the wonder of the true meaning of Christmas, featuring our traditional rendition of “O’Holy Night”.

Parents Night Out at LeapFrogs Party & Play Center Date: Fridays, November 1 through

November 29 Time: 6:00 PM – 9:00 PM Price: $23.00 per child, including dinner Location: Leap Frogs, Miamisburg Website: www.leapfrogsplay.com/ Drop the kids off every Friday & enjoy a night out for shopping, dinner, a movie or just a quiet evening together! We guarantee to wear the kids out with plenty of exercise and fun bouncing, climbing, sliding and playing in our Giant arenas by the time you pick them up! We will even provide the kids dinner and fun-filled activities!

Bouncing with Books Date: Mondays and Thursdays through Saturday, November 30 Time: 10:00 AM – 11:00 AM Price: $9.00 Location: Twigs Kids Sports Cen-

LIKE US ON

f

facebook.com/ daytonparentmagazine 34 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM

ter, Carrollton Website: www.twigskids.com/ Come bounce with us. 1 1/2 hours of supervised gym time includes inground trampolines, balance beams, uneven bars, bounce house, and much more.

Also, includes story time and craft Fun for kids of ALL ages. (closed on Thanksgiving).

Sugarplum Festival of Trees Date: Friday, November 22 through Sunday, November 24 Time: see website for event schedule Price: prices vary by event Location: Presidential Banquet Center, Kettering Website: www.childrensdayton.org The Sugarplum Festival of Trees is an annual holiday

NOVEMBER

extravaganza that kicks off the holiday season for the Miami Valley. Please join the more than 350 TWIG volunteers that have worked year-round to make this spectacular holiday event possible.

All proceeds benefit Dayton Children’s Hospital. See website for complete schedule of events.

Big Bad Bounce “T-Shirt Sunday” Date: Sunday, November 24 Time: noon – 10:00 PM Price: initial cost of T-shirt $13 Location: Big Bad Bounce, Vandalia Website: www.bigbadbounce.com/ Wear your t-shirt (purchase for $13) on the last Sunday of each month for 1 free hour of bouncing.

sun

mon

tues

wed

thurs

fri

sun

NOVEMBER 2013 [ dayton parent ] 35

KETTERING

36 DAYTONPARENTMAGAZINE.COM