Hamilton County Family Magazine March/April 2013

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Meet the Staff Publisher Mary Wynne Cox mary@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

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8 | Greetings Happy Spring Hamilton County Families!

10 | On the Radar

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Mayors for Meals Day, 2nd Annual Family Fun Run, Sparrow Club and more!

12 | DĂŠcor Next Door Inexpensive steps to transform a tired home

15 | Discussing Tragedies with Children 18 | Happy Campers

Advertising Coordinator Karen Ring karen@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

Camp experiences can be the highlight of summer vacation

5 common myths about autism

Editorial Assistant Wendy Schrepferman s.wendy@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

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26 | What Is ABA Therapy?

Helping children on the autism spectrum achieve their full potential

Business Manager | Accounting Roxanne Burns roxanne@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

29 | What's Cool After School

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Drama and Music

30 | Reci-please Broccoli, scallop and linguine toss

Karen Ring, Holly Kline, Carolyn Loub, Nicki Turner, Mary Susan Buhner, Susan Bryant, Julie Smith Costakis

Eating disorders in adult women

34 | Mommy Magic Less mess = less stress

Animal professionals

PHOTOGRAPHER

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Hannah Hilliard Contact Us:

38 | In Our Opinion

Hamilton County Family PO Box 40206 Indianapolis, IN 46240 (317) 417-3031 or (317) 710-6622

Clothing marketed to young girls

39 | Take Me Out of the Ballet– and Back to the Ball Field One mother's perspective of stage versus stadium

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40 | To Do With Your Crew Family fun activities

42 | The Last Laugh Favorite funny family moments

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Public Relations and Events Wendy Cox wendy@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

32 | To Your Health

36 | Ask the Expert

Associate Publisher Advertising Sales Jennica Zalewski jennica@hamiltoncountyfamily.com Creative Director Katie Pfierman katie@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

Offering a sense of safety in scary times

24 | On the Spectrum

Editor Susan Bryant susan@hamiltoncountyfamily.com

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Greetings MARCH/ APRIL 2013

Happy Spring Hamilton County Families!

I trust you are like me and have a “renewed” spirit this time of year, feeling reawakened from a stretch of long winter days.

We bring you the March/April Hamilton County Family with pride. With every issue, our team of moms work together to supply you with a wealth of information and articles we hope you find helpful.

As we planned this issue’s content, we couldn’t help but think of how the heartbreaking tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary affected us all as parents. As much as I wanted to listen and learn as the story unfolded in the news, I also felt compelled to shield my own children from the sadness. We bring you the article Discussing Tragedies with Children in an effort to help parents know how to talk with their kids about the difficult events that happen in our world, even as we struggle with these events ourselves.

April is National Autism Awareness month. Although many of us may be familiar with autism, it is still a largely misunderstood diagnosis. In our article On the Spectrum we explain several common myths surrounding children on the autism spectrum.

Spring is also the time to start thinking about summer vacation! Check out Happy Campers for descriptions of the unique summer camps and programs available in our area your kids will be sure to love.

Although we may still have some cool days yet, keep in mind that cute groundhog in Pennsylvania assures us Spring will be here soon. This is one piece of folklore I am happy to endorse!

After taking a few minutes to read this issue, send me your thoughts at Jennica@hamiltoncountyfamily.com.

Jennica Zalewski Associate Publisher

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On The Radar MARCH/APRIL 2013

Mark Your Calendar

Get Involved

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Hamilton County siblings pay it forward one kilometer at a time Courtney Smith-Cooley was immensely grateful for the quality care her daughters received at Peyton Manning Children’s Hospital. As a result, she and her siblings, Brittany, J.D., and Jesse created the Annual 5K Family Fun Run to benefit the hospital.

The 2013 5K Family Fun Run will take place on Saturday, April 13th on the campus of Butler University. Along with supporting a great cause, families are in for an exciting day of fun with games, a D.J., face painting, prizes and raffles. New to the event this year is the free Kids Race. Participants are encouraged to be on the lookout for some famous mascots as well.

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Get ready to race, run or just come be part of the fun at this year’s event! Visit https://give.stvincent.org/2013familyfunrun for more details.

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Noblesville elementary school launches Sparrow Club Since its inception in 1995, the non-profit group Sparrow Clubs has been empowering students to help kids in medical need through simple, yet heroic acts of kindness.

The 665 students of Promise Road Elementary in Noblesville recently had the opportunity to meet their “sparrow” sponsor child in person. At the school-wide convocation, each student was charged with completing a community service activity. Upon reporting their service hours, The Michael Treinen Foundation will deposit $10 for each hour into a “Sparrow Cash” account.

These funds will be used for medical expenses and much needed special equipment for the young recipient. Most of all, the project hopes to bring joy and encouragement to a little girl who has been through so much in her short life.

The Promise Road Elementary student-led philanthropy group has plans to organize a Sparrow community service project this spring, and sponsor another child next school year as well.

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To learn more about how to participate in a Sparrow Club, call 541-312-8630, email info@sparrowclubs.org or visit www.sparrowclubs.org.

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Hamilton County Meals on Wheels promotes “Mayors for Meals Day” On March 20th, several Hamilton County mayors and town managers will take part in the annual Mayors for Meals Day. On this day, mayors across the country will show support for their local Meals on Wheels organizations by delivering meals and visiting with seniors and homebound residents.

Each year volunteers donate their time and generosity to deliver more than 52,000 meals to people throughout Hamilton County.

There are many ways for families and businesses to become involved with Meals on Wheels. In addition to delivering meals as a driver or companion navigator, volunteers can assist with fundraising events, organize an “adopt a route”, sponsor a senior or simply make a financial donation to a local Meals on Wheels office.

The Meals on Wheels program provides more than just nutrition, as drivers also check on the well-being of each client. Many meal recipients enjoy the opportunity to visit and establish relationships with their volunteer families.

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To volunteer, become a corporate sponsor, apply for assistance or learn more about this vital county program, visit the new Meals on Wheels website at www.mealsonwheelshc.org or call 317-776-7159.

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DÉCOR

N EX T DOOR

SPRING SPRUCE UP:

Inexpensive steps to transform a tired home by: Carolyn Loub, mom of 4

If outdated décor is getting you down, breathe new life into your home with some simple changes. A fresh, new look is closer than you think.

Rearrange Sometimes a new view is all it takes to bring your home back to life. If your couch has been in the same spot for the past 20 years, move it! Switch your end tables around, or swap them with pieces from another room. Don’t be afraid to move objects from one room to another or break up furniture sets.

Moving into a new home is an overwhelming task, but the one thing I enjoy about the process is unpacking and seeing new possibility in my old “stuff”. Pretend you are new to your home, and rethink the placement of your pieces.

If you have difficulty switching things up, invite a friend over to help you. A fresh pair of eyes is always a plus!

Edit If your home feels a bit stale, rearrange your knick knacks. Take everything off your bookshelves, coffee table and mantel. Put back only the things you really love, and put them in a new spot. “Shop” your home for accessories, and move objects from rooms you don’t often use to a place where they can be seen and appreciated.

Paint Paint remains one of the most affordable ways to breathe new life into a room. For very little money and some elbow grease, a fresh coat of paint can completely transform a space.

And don’t neglect the trim. Trim can easily get dingy and dinged over the years. Freshen it up with paint, or at least give it a good cleaning.

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But why stop with the walls? Furniture painting is very in vogue, and there are great products that make the process easier than ever. Painting tables, chairs, dressers and cabinetry can make a big impact.

Freshen up smaller accessories such as mirrors or picture frames with a fun paint color.

Reupholster Replacing large pieces of furniture is costly. If your sofa or chair has good bones and is structurally sound, reupholstering is a great option. And, the bonus is that you aren’t limited in fabric choices.

If reupholstering is not in the budget, have cushions re-stuffed to perk up a sagging sofa.

Transform a tired couch by draping a throw over it and adding toss pillows in new colors or patterns. If you have a bold patterned couch, choose a throw or pillows in soft, solid colors.

One of my favorite ways to update a home is by recovering dining chair seats. Anyone with removable seats and a staple gun can tackle this project. Just pick out a new fabric and get to work! This simple change can give your dining area a completely new look.

Lighting Lighting can make or break a room. Luckily, there’s a quick, inexpensive way to transform the look of dated lamps: change the shade!

Drum shades are chic, current and can be used on nearly any style lamp. You’ll be

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amazed how a drum shade can bring your lamp back to life.

Customize a lamp to fit perfectly with your décor by spray painting the base and recovering the shade in a stylish fabric.

Nothing can date a room quite like an outof-date light fixture dangling from the middle of your ceiling. Change up your chandelier’s finish with spray paint or rub ‘n buff. Add or remove its shades, or replace traditional light bulbs with small round bulbs for an unexpected twist.

You don’t have to start from scratch to create a home you love. A fresh outlook and some simple changes can transform any home from tired to terrific.

For more great ideas, visit Carolyn’s blog at www.sweetchaoshome.blogspot.com.

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Discussing TRAGEDIES WITH

Children

Offering a sense of safety in scary times by: Karen Ring, mom of 2

In this information age, news is constantly at our fingertips – it

protect children from the harsh realities of the world, it is crucial

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to keep them informed in a responsible manner in order to pre-

hours a day. At no time does news spread more quickly than

serve their sense of safety.

when tragedy strikes. When the storm of the century hits or a lone gunman takes the lives of the innocent, the news arrives instantly and the airwaves and cyberspace are inundated with the details.

Following are some suggestions on discussing tragedies with children.

In 2012 alone, devastating tornadoes ripped through the south-

Take care of your own emotions first

ern half of our state, a gunman opened fire on a group of unsus-

Anyone who has traveled by airplane is aware that, in case of

pecting moviegoers in Colorado and a super storm ravaged our

emergency, parents should secure their own oxygen masks

nation’s northeast. With information on these tragic events so

before assisting children with theirs. Until we have ensured our

readily available, parents often grapple with how to explain them

own safety, we are of little use to our children. The same is true

to their children when they, as adults, can barely wrap their

of emotions. “When a parent first learns about an event, it would

heads around the devastation.

be helpful if they could acknowledge, embrace and allow their own feelings to emerge, separate from their children,” Sagebiel

Then, on December 14, 2012, a gunman entered an elementary school in Newtown, Connecticut, and took the lives of 26 innocent people, including 20 children… and everything changed.

Parents snapped to attention and the conversation about how to discuss tragedies with children became very real. Parents stood at bus stops and pick-up lines that day, their minds reeling: “How will I tell my children? If I tell them, will they ever feel safe

advises. It is natural to experience a slew of emotions when news of tragedy breaks. “We may become deeply saddened or even enraged at the stories we hear, because we are parents, because we are human,” Sagebiel points out. It is okay to let children know you are sad, but they should also be assured that you have not lost all hope. If your own feelings are overwhelming you, seek help by talking with friends or family members, a

again? If I don’t tell them, will someone else?”

religious leader or a mental health professional.

“When major events occur in our society, there is a strong

Limit exposure

likelihood that parents simply cannot shield their children from

In times of disaster, our minds struggle to make sense of what

the emotional and, sometimes, personal storm that follows,”

happened and so we tend to immerse ourselves in the details

Stephanie D. Lowe Sagebiel, LCSW, with CenterPoint Counsel-

looking for some sort of explanation. The American Psychologi-

ing says. Although it seems to go against the parental instinct to

cal Association has conducted numerous studies that show

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events and a heightened level of anxiety and fear in children. The same holds true for adults. Every time you turn on the news, you are opening yourself up to fresh emotions. Taking a break from the coverage will allow you to stay focused on helping your child work through his fears, and will ensure your child is not overexposed to images he may have a tough time shaking.

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Remind your child that it's the job of grown-ups to keep them safe, and that you and the other adults in their life will always work very hard to do that job.

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a link between constant exposure to news coverage of tragic

Let your child be your guide Parents should broach the subject by finding out what their child already knows about the event in question. In discussing the events of Newtown, CT, Sagebiel advises a simple starting point could have been, “I wonder if you heard about what happened in Connecticut?” Sagebiel adds that, “It is important to understand what the child has seen and heard and what they understand before the parent jumps in with specifics.” Nico Squadroni, LCSW, agrees, adding that, “listening to your child allows you to find out what his fears are.” For instance when discussing the movie theater shooting in Aurora, CO, we may assume that a child may now be afraid of going to the movies; however, maybe he has a relative that works in or near a movie theater and he is worried about them, or maybe he feels it is unsafe to visit Colorado.

“We cannot just assume that we know what the child is thinking because he may have very specific fears that need to be ad-

Colorado. Let them know that natural disasters like hurricanes and tsunamis are not a possibility in our landlocked location.

Remind your child that it's the job of grown-ups to keep them safe, and that you and the other adults in their life will always work very hard to do that job. Discuss all of the systems that are in place to ensure their safety – smoke detectors, tornado sirens, seatbelts, bicycle helmets. Sagebiel also suggests going over safety plans for various emergencies that may arise – tornadoes, earthquakes, fires, school lock-downs. “Anxiety and fear about one’s own safety comes mostly from unpredictability and fear of the unknown. Walking through safety plans offers a sense of empowerment that can feel comforting in an unpredictable world,” Sagebiel says.

dressed,” Squadroni adds.

Explanations should also be age-appropriate. For preschoolers and younger, it is only necessary to discuss tragic events if you are aware the child has been exposed to the news. In this case, simple statements like, “That happened very far away from our home. You are safe,” should suffice.

For early elementary children, Squadroni recommends using words they can relate to, such as “bad guys”, to convey very basic details and answer questions as simply as possible.

Beginning in the late elementary to early middle school years, children start to process information more logically, which may require more detailed explanation. Take cues from your child in regards to what he knows and what he feels he needs to know.

Children at this age may feel compelled to express an opinion about the events…let them, and then let those thoughts guide the conversation.

Focus on the good This may sound contradictory in the face of devastating news, but with the horrific also comes the heroic. Place an emphasis on those who are there to help in times of need – firefighters, police officers, doctors, and everyday citizens who stop to lend a helping hand. The late Fred Rogers summarized this best: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”

And then do something good There is nothing worse than feeling helpless in times of crisis.

Often in the face of tragedy, the best way to offer help is not immediately clear. But helping does not need to be specific to the events at hand. Bake a batch of cookies and deliver them to a local nursing home; organize a canned-food drive in your neighborhood to help keep a local food pantry stocked; give blood as a family; head to your neighbor’s house to help with yard work.

Provide reassurance

All help is good help.

Begin by reminding your child of the rarity of catastrophic events.

Squadroni suggests pulling out a map for younger children and

Helping your children find ways to give back will remind them

allowing them to visualize the distance between them and the

that the good in this world far outweighs the bad – which is

incident – show them Indiana in relation to Connecticut or

something we all need to remember.

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As the summer months approach, parents begin that scramble to find activities that will keep their kids occupied until the school doors open again in the fall. Often parents turn to summer camp to fill their childcare needs; however, it is important to remember what summer camp is really all about…a way for kids to take back their summer.

“Camp is essential to the education of the whole child,” states Katie Johnson, a field office executive director with the American Camp Association. At camp, children have a chance to break free from expectations imposed by parents, educators and peers, a chance to try something new, meet someone new and take risks by stepping outside of their comfort zone. And if nothing else, camp forces young people to put down their gadgets, to quit communicating with their peers through texts and tweets and start communicating through teamwork and cooperative play.

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While budget and proximity to work and home will ultimately play a large role in choosing a camp, the interests and personality of the child must also be taken into consideration. Johnson firmly believes that choosing a camp should be a joint decision between parents and children. “If it is important to your child to swim every day at camp, then find a camp that includes swimming as part of the daily activities,” Johnson says. Safety is also an important consideration. According to Johnson, a well-run camp will be able to readily supply answers to questions such as staff-to-camper ratio,

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CAMPERS Camp experiences can be the highlight of summer vacation by: Karen Ring, mom of 2

out in nature. We didn't hear any cars or traffic and there were no electronics allowed. We got to swim, canoe and fish – and it was like our own little world."

Cool Creek Nature Center also offers a range of nature-inspired camp programs for ages 6 to 13 that will foster an appreciation of the great outdoors and it inhabitants.

Experience the arts If the stage is calling, Booth Tarkington Civic Theatre has the answer. The Jr. Civic day camp experience introduces campers ages 7 to 14 to the excitement of musical theatre, including instruction in acting, singing and dancing. Campers then reveal their newfound talents by performing on Civic’s main stage at the end of the week.

For those who prefer to keep their art on paper, Myart Art Camps offer the opportunity to learn different drawing and painting techniques in a variety of media.

Be a good sport Incrediplex offers a camp experience that is chock-full of activity. A 24-foot rock climbing wall, an 8-lane bowling center and sport court and turf fields are just a few of the amenities campers can explore. “We live our summer camp tagline of ‘Bring them in excited…take them home exhausted’ which is appreciated by the parents at the end of a long work day,” says general manager Matt Quinn.

Indianapolis Sailing Club offers campers a one-of-a-kind opportunity to develop an appreciation of sailing on the waters of Geist Reservoir. “We teach sailing, knot tying, boat and water safety, and have fun all at the same time,” says junior sailing coordinator Michelle Sarber.

procedures that are in place should a child become sick and what background checks are required for camp staff. For a more detailed list of questions to ask before signing your child up for camp, visit http://www.campparents.org/childprotection.

Camp offerings are as abundant and varied as the millions of children who attend camp each year. Below is just a sampling of the variety of camps available in our area.

For the animal lover, Sport Horse offers an introduction to equestrianism. According to owner, Alex Leach, “Camp activities are based on the introduction to horses through Safety, Respect and Fun.” A combination of riding and ground lessons help campers develop balance, confidence and riding skills. “With the correct foundation campers will be able to continue their equine interests in any discipline - pleasure or competitive,” Leach adds.

Exercise your brain Become one with nature Located on the White River with hundreds of acres to explore, Conner Prairie Adventure Camp offers outdoor activity in a truly unique setting. Sarah Bryant, 13, found her Adventure Camp experience refreshing: “What I liked about camp was how secluded we were

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Purdue University’s Gifted Education Resource Institute (GERI) engages exceptional students who have completed grades 5 through 12 in residential camps designed to stimulate the imagination and expand current abilities. “GERI has changed my life by giving me the chance to grow, not just intellectually, but emotionally and socially,” says former camper, Maria R.

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Go for variety The YMCA has a history steeped in helping children and teens grow in spirit, mind, and body through day camp. The Fishers YMCA is no exception, offering an abundance of options to fit any schedule, with themes ranging from traditional day camp to dedicated sports camps and unique enrichment themes.

Carmel Clay Parks also offers a multitude of options to meet campers’ various interests – whether they prefer to spend their days hiking through nature, engaging in science experiments or simply chilling with friends.

Make a night of it Resident camps offer the ultimate lesson in building independence and autonomy. Fishers mom, Betsy Field, gave her children the chance to spread their wings at Camp Tecumseh in Brookston, IN, a resident camp for kids ages 8 to 15. “What I love about the Camp Tecumseh experience is that it allows kids

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Summer camp can truly be one of the most memorable experiences of your child’s life... work together to make a choice that works for the whole family.

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Also held on the grounds of Purdue University, iD Tech Camp offers cutting-edge summer camp courses for tech-savvy kids ages 7 to 18, that strike the perfect balance of off-computer activities (creative games, sports, life skills) and STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics) skill development.

to focus on the simpler, ‘most important’ things in life so they can reflect on who they are and who they want to be,” says Field.

Choosing to send a child away for a week, or even an entire summer, can be overwhelming, and the American Camp Association’s Find a Camp feature www.acacamps.org/findacamp is a great place to start.

Summer camp can truly be one of the most memorable experiences of your child’s life. So, sit down with your child to discuss his interests and summer camp expectations, and then work together to make a choice that works for the whole family. Don’t be surprised if, toward the end of the summer, you find your child smiling as he stares off into space. When asked what he is thinking, you just might hear, “Oh nothing…just thinking about something that happened at camp.”

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On the Spectrum 5 common myths about autism

by: Susan Bryant, mom of 2

April is National Autism Awareness Month. Although many of us know a family affected by autism, several misperceptions exist about the nature of this condition. Here are some of the common myths surrounding individuals on the autism spectrum.

MYTH #1: Autism is a mental illness caused by early-life trauma or poor parenting.

A single, specific cause of autism is not known. Current research links autism to neurological or biological differences in the brain. Autism is referred to as a spectrum disorder because of the broad range of symptoms, functioning and skills that different individuals with autism can exhibit.

Some children with autism are severely disabled by their symptoms, while others are only mildly impaired. Unfortunately, past theories on the nature of autism blamed early childhood experiences or poor parenting for the disorder. [ Source: Autism Society ]

MYTH #2: People with autism can’t express any emotion or understand the emotions of others.

Being autistic does not mean an individual cannot feel emotions—he or she simply communicates emotions and perceives

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expressions in different ways. People with autism often have difficulty understanding unspoken interpersonal communication.

They may not pick up on sarcasm or understand something beyond its literal meaning.

This can make it difficult for children with autism to develop social skills and interact with peers. When emotions are communicated in a direct way to someone with autism, he or she is more likely to understand a situation and feel empathy and compassion for others. [ Source: Autism Speaks ]

people with autism are fascinating, only an estimated 10% of the autistic population possesses these abilities. The general population is often under the misperception that the autistic savant is a common phenomenon in autism, possibly in part to the movie Rain Man where the main character has an uncanny ability for memorization.

This movie may be the only exposure many people have to the world of autism. Current research still does not explain why some individuals with autism display extraordinary savant characteristics. [ Source: Autism Research Institute ]

Myth #3: A person with autism will have violent tendencies.

It is more likely that an individual with autism will be the victim of violence rather than a perpetrator. There is no evidence that links autism to premeditated violence.

Autism is a complicated disorder that is often misunderstood. Unfortunately, recent events in Newtown, Connecticut highlighted the shooter’s possible diagnosis on the autism spectrum as a factor in that tragedy. Associating autism with violence is a dangerous assumption that can have farreaching harmful effects for the 1.5 million people in the U. S. living with autism. [ Source: Autism Society ]

Myth #4: All individuals with autism have savant-like characteristics.

While the amazing mathematical, artistic or musical skills that sometimes exist for

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Myth #5: Children diagnosed with autism cannot be expected to improve much.

There is great potential for children on the autism spectrum to make significant gains in their social, cognitive and communicative abilities. The earlier a child receives proper intervention, the better the prognosis.

Even in children as young as six months, the signs and symptoms of autism can be detected. The most effective available treatments today are Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) along with occupational, speech, physical and pharmacological therapies. [ Source: Autism Science Foundation ]

A more inclusive look into Applied Behavioral Analysis follows in “What is ABA Therapy?”

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WHAT IS

ABA THERAPY? Helping children on the autism spectrum achieve their full potential

Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) Therapy has proven to be a highly effective therapeutic technique for children with autism. What exactly is ABA? We asked several local experts in the field to share their knowledge on the subject.

What does the term Applied Behavioral Analysis mean?

Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) is the science in which tactics derived from the principles of behavior are applied to improve sociallysignificant behavior. The identification of these principles began with the work of B.F. Skinner more than 80 years ago and has been validated through years of extensive experimentation. Experimentation is used to identify the variables responsible for the improvement in behavior.

There is often a misunderstanding that ABA is a specific procedure that was developed solely to treat children with autism. The actual case is that the teaching we do is based on the principles of applied behavior analysis. If you really understand behavior analysis, then you can understand the real causes of human behavior. If you apply that knowledge to an understanding of children with autism who cannot communicate, and you use the tools developed through behavior analysis (referred to as behavior modification), then you can have a lot of success teaching children to communicate. [ Submitted by Dr. Carl Sundberg, BCBA-D, Executive Director, Behavior Analysis Center for Autism (BACA) ]

What are the main benefits of ABA Therapy?

ABA is used to teach skills to many different populations in education, business, health and fitness, training of animals, traumatic brain injury and persons with autism. Most commonly known ABA therapy is used to help children and adults with autism. The principles of be-

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havior analysis are applied to increase socially significant behaviors (i.e., language, academics, imitation, daily living skills) and to reduce problem behaviors (i.e, aggression, tantrums, food refusal). It focuses on analyzing environmental events as it relates to behavior and taking data to document behavior change. ABA therapy can be life changing to a child or adult with a disability and requires well-trained staff in behavior analysis. Programs are developed by a Board Certified Behavior Analyst for the individual person after a thorough assessment and focuses on increasing the persons’ quality of life. [ Submitted by Ashley Geighes, MS, BCBA, Clinical Director, ABA Programming, Inc., The Applied Behavior Center for Autism ]

Why is ABA the method of choice for so many children with autism?

ABA is the method of choice for children with autism, because it works. It’s not the easiest, fastest or least expensive, but it is the most effective!

Individuals diagnosed with autism are often significantly affected in the areas of language, social interactions and skills of daily living.

The inability to communicate and engage in social interactions can have a negative impact on their success in and access to community supports and relationships within their own family. Intensive therapy is often required to strengthen these skills. Hence, ABA is a proven therapy that can increase the skills necessary for an individual to obtain independence and maximum enjoyment in their life.

The intensity of the approach and the clear focus on motivation keeps children with autism engaged while minimizing the occurrence of problem behavior. ABA is proven effective by the research and can change a child’s life! [ Submitted by Mary Rosswurm, Executive Director, Little Star Center, Inc. ]

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How important is early intervention in ABA Therapy?

If you notice your child is not meeting important developmental milestones, seek help immediately. Don’t wait and hope “they’ll grow out of it”. Small children are “sponges”. Their brains have greater neural plasticity; allowing them to learn quickly. However, this plasticity begins to decrease with age. This doesn’t mean older children are unable to learn, but that with age, learning patterns are formed, making it more difficult to change behavior due to a longer history of reinforcement.

Research shows that children who receive intensive early intervention services are likely to make more progress and have better long-term outcomes. In fact, the long-term benefits of early intervention can decrease the costs of lifetime care by over two-thirds.

In addition, some children who participate in early and intensive ABA for several years acquire sufficient skills in order to transition into regular classrooms with little or no additional support. [ Submitted by Courtney Bierman, MA, BCBA, President and Behavior Analyst at Bierman ABA Autism Center ]

What type of training is involved to become an ABA therapist?

Different autism centers have different expectations and training for

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their therapists, so no standard is in place for therapist credentials across all centers.

At the Verbal Behavior Center for Autism (VBCA), all ABA therapists are educated with a minimum of a Bachelor’s Degree, typically in a field such as Psychology, Special Education or Early Childhood Development. The VBCA provides each of our therapists with a minimum of three weeks of initial training that consists of first observing the therapy of an experienced ABA Therapist, and then gradually implementing therapy procedures with multiple children more and more each day until an entire session of therapy has been successfully run.

In addition to this hands-on training experience, ABA therapists receive extensive exposure to the principles of behavior, for which ABA is founded, until a mastery level has been acquired. This mastery is achieved through pre and post-test assessments of knowledge. The acquisition of ABA principles are developed through one-on-one training with experienced staff on a variety of topics at a minimum of once per week for the first six months of employment, and then at a minimum of once every other week for the duration of employment. Learning opportunities are provided on a daily basis in order to ensure the continuous development of skills.

[ Submitted by Dr. Breanne Hartley, BCBA-D, Clinical Director of the Verbal Behavior Center for Autism ]

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WHAT'S COOL AFTER SCHOOL by: Holly Kline, mom of 3

DRAMA and MUSIC

If you have a born performer in your family, you know how important it is to give your child an avenue for creative expression. Fortunately Hamilton County offers many opportunities for kids to express themselves through the arts. Below are a few local places where your young actor or musician can shine.

Christian Youth Theater Indy (CYT Indy) offers several types of music, drama and dance classes for kids ages 4 – 18. “It’s a comprehensive program,” says CYT Artistic Director Angela Manlove. “There are lots of things for people to be involved in.” Enrolled students are eligible to audition for CYT Indy productions. For those kids who may be a little stage shy but still want to be involved in the theater, CYT Indy also offers classes in theatrical makeup and set design.

Their degreed music instructors teach piano, voice, violin, viola, cello, electric/acoustic guitar and drums. JLMA also offers numerous group programs, including beginning prep classes in piano, violin and guitar for children ages 5 to 8. Students can participate in various orchestras and ensembles, music theater and a children's choir as well.

The 7,000 square foot school in Fishers includes a 175 seat concert hall and multi-use space available for various events in the community. JLMA students include children as young as two years old through seniors ages 55 and up – all levels from beginner to advanced are welcome.

To learn more call (317) 576-5562 or visit www.JLMA.net.

Michele’s Studio also offers music and drama classes. Music classes include guitar, piano, voice and violin. A new youth show choir has also been added. Beginning acting classes break down the process of acting and teach kids how to be “in the moment”.

A variety of summer camps are offered, including a “Fashion Week Camp” where young fashionistas can design and construct some of their own pieces to show off in the studio’s fashion show. Visit the Fishers studio at www.michelesstudio.com or call (317) 288-4882 find out more.

Upcoming productions include Pridelands, Into the Woods, Seussical and Beauty and the Beast. CYT Indy has classes at several area locations including Carmel, Fishers/Castleton, Noblesville and Zionsville. To learn more, visit www.cytindy.org.

School of Rock in Carmel is just the ticket for those budding musicians who wish they could rock out in a real band like their favorite artists. School of Rock offers kids the opportunity to actually put their practice and lessons to good use by placing them in a band setting, rehearsing weekly as a group and putting on a live performance at the end of the season—in front of friends and family all in a real concert venue.

School of Rock believes that the best way to learn music is to play music. They offer lessons in guitar, bass guitar, keyboard, vocals and drums. Students range from complete beginners to the most advanced students; and from ages 7-18 as well as adults. School of Rock students have performed at Daddy Real's, SoHo Cafe, Hard Rock Cafe, The Old National Center and other locations. Call 848-ROCK or visit them online at www.schoolofrock.com to learn more.

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Reci Please by: Nicole Turner, Registered Dietician, mom of 2

Have you ever seen a recipe you liked, but thought it could use a little tweaking to make it healthier and more pleasing to your palate? Go ahead, modify it! March is National Nutrition Month® and this year’s theme is “Eat Right, Your Way, Every Day”. The message this year recognizes that food preferences, cultural traditions, health concerns and even lifestyle can all impact food choices. In order to “Eat Right, Your Way, Every Day,” the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics wants to encourage everyone to personalize healthy eating styles. Many healthy food options are out there, the key is making the choice that’s right for you. This recipe is one my family enjoys. I hope yours will too, with or without changes.

Broccoli, Scallop and Linguine Toss • 12 ounces scallops • 2 medium onions, halved and sliced • 1 cup apple juice • 2 tablespoons dry white wine • 2 cloves garlic, minced

• 2 teaspoon dried marjoram leaves • 1 teaspoon dried basil leaves • 1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper • 3 cups broccoli flowerets • 1/4 cup water

• 4 teaspoons cornstarch • 1 1/2 cups chopped seeded tomatoes • 1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese • 4 cups cooked linguine

STEPS: 1. Depending on size, cut scallops into 1-inch pieces.

2. Combine onions, apple juice, wine, garlic, marjoram, basil and pepper in large skillet. Bring to a boil over high heat.

3. Add broccoli. Return to a boil. Reduce heat to medium-low. Cover and simmer 7 minutes.

4. Add scallops. Return to a boil. Reduce heat. Cover and simmer 1-2 minutes or until scallops are opaque. Remove scallops and vegetables.

5. Place cornstarch in a small bowl. Stir in water until smooth.

6. Add cornstarch mixture to liquid in skillet. Cook and stir over medium heat until mixture comes to a boil and thickens. Cook and stir a couple minutes more.

7. Stir in tomatoes and cheese. Allow to heat through. Return scallops and vegetables to the skillet; heating thoroughly.

8. Toss with cooked linguine.

Makes 4 servings Want to change it up? Other vegetables like asparagus, snow peas, julienned carrots, diced squash and zucchini or mushrooms would be great, too. Not a fan of scallops?

Try substituting shrimp, calamari or clams (cook time may need to be adjusted).

Recipe is from the cookbook Treasury of Cooking Healthy: Great Tasting Low-Fat Recipes. (Lincolnwood, Publications International, Ltd.,1995)

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to your HEALTH. by: Holly Kline, mom of 3

Eating disorders in adult women Often when the issue of eating disorders arises, we think strictly of young girls being affected. In fact, it is not uncommon for adult women to suffer from these problems as well. According to a recent study in the International Journal of Eating Disorders, in women ages 50 and older, 13% struggle with an eating disorder. For some women, their first experience with this issue appears only later in life.

Eating disorders involve a complex set of patterns and behaviors.

Simply defined, anorexia nervosa is a refusal to maintain a healthy body weight. Bulimia nervosa is characterized by episodes of eating

Not just about food

large amounts of food followed by purging. Binge eating disorder

The National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disor-

is a less commonly known illness that is similar to bulimia except

ders (ANAD) states that “…eating disorders are not just about food

that purging is not usually a factor. Other related issues can involve

and weight. People begin to use food as a coping mechanism to deal

over-exercising and fixating on never ingesting any food perceived as

with uncomfortable or painful emotions or to help them feel more in

“unhealthy”.

control when feelings or situations seem overwhelming.”

Robanne Robin of Fishers suffered from eating disorders for many

While it may be impossible to pinpoint a single direct cause for an

years. “For a solid nine or ten years, I was just up and down with an-

eating disorder, its effects are far-reaching. According to Mathews,

orexia and bulimia. In my particular case, when I was actively pursu-

more people die from eating disorders than any other mental health

ing anorexia and bulimia, it was a self-esteem issue. I just wanted to

disorder.

be skinny. I never felt pretty so I concentrated on being super-thin.”

What made Robin stop? “Literally I couldn’t take it one more second,” According to Dr. Laura L. Mathews, licensed psychologist in Fishers,

she says. “I’m honestly surprised I kept it up as long as I did.”

it is not uncommon for people struggling with eating disorders to think in terms of extremes such as this. Other typical behaviors include having unreasonable expectations about one’s body and having low self-esteem.

Finding the way back Recovering from an eating disorder is absolutely possible according to Mathews, who says early intervention is critical.

The stress of hiding Robin still remembers the day-to-day difficulty of living with eating

“Many people who struggle with eating disorders experience ma-

disorders. “The hardest thing to hide was the bulimia,” she says. “It

jor challenges with identifying and managing their emotions,” says

was way more involved (than anorexia). With bulimia you have to drink

Mathews. A person with an eating disorder can have distorted think-

a lot of fluids. You have to excuse yourself; you always have to find

ing that requires modifying in therapy. Mathews emphasizes the im-

a way out (to purge). Anorexia was easier to hide. I had all kinds of

portance of changing distorted thoughts because they are connected

tricks to get food off my plate.”

to negative emotions and behaviors. "During treatment, behaviors are often the last to change."

“You’re always wondering, ‘Are they going to find out?’” continues Robin. “It’s hard to be a bulimic. I’m sure people had to have known.

Fortunately, Robin has recovered from her long battle with eating

You’re always super tired. It became very difficult to feel like I was

disorders. “If I’m faced now with a decision about food, I ask myself

keeping the secret. It started changing my behaviors. I didn’t want to

‘What would anorexic Robanne do?’ And I just go 180 degrees in the

go out to eat.”

other direction.”

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Mommy Magic Less mess = less stress Getting kids on board with “spring cleaning” Spring is peeking around the corner and this time every year, I remember helping my grandmother with her spring cleaning list.

by: Mary Susan Buhner, mom of 3

toys, library books or a portable art caddy that will make play time (and clean-up time) much easier.

She methodically organized drawers and closets and was always determined to make her household more organized. In the same

Create a Memory Box

spirit, I try to do the same for my family this time of year. I enlist

Hobbies, clubs, sports and activities that your children par-

the help of my husband and my kiddos and turn on some music

ticipate in come with a lot of stuff! Use a file box to create a

to dance our way through it. Making it fun rather than a chore

“memory box” to store medals, awards, photos, certificates and

seems to lighten the mood and expectation of everything hav-

papers. Line the top of the box with cork to create a mini bulletin

ing to be perfect. Plus, I think it’s a good lesson to teach your

board to display a few favorite memories.

children the importance of taking care of their stuff. By keeping things organized, you will be surprised how efficient mornings

Pantry Donation

can be getting ready for school. Even play dates go better when

Load up food you haven’t used and donate it to a local food pantry. This helps de-clutter your pantry space and teaches your

everyone’s games and toys have some order to them!

kids the important lesson of giving to others.

Below are some of my favorite tips to get kids’ stuff organized.

Clean Car

Label it system. Creating a system your kids can follow will make it

As moms we spend a lot of time in our car running our children around. It is so easy to have a cluttered car. Sometimes I am shocked when I crawl in the backseat and see what has been accu-

easier for them to keep their rooms neat and tidy. Target sells

mulating there. Give your kiddos a trash bag and let them get to it!

Use a monogram, print your own labels or use a color-coded

great dry erase clip-on labels to write on for older children. For younger kiddos, try assigning a color for certain toys or for a cer-

Sort the Sports

tain child. You can also print adorable free labels at www.BHG.

Sort equipment by sport or child. Use inexpensive backpacks or duffel bags to contain items, or designate a cubby, locker or cabinet for each sport or child. Make sure to label each container. When it's time to head out the door, your kids will know exactly where to go to find all their gear.

com/CuteLabel.

Wall of Wonder Black boards, cork boards or magnet boards are a huge help in keeping my family organized. You can hit your local big box store for fun cork or magnet boards or customize one online.

Happy Spring Cleaning!

Chalkboard paint is also amazing and can help your family jot down messages, or even practice math or create an impromptu art project!

Get Low Store stuff for your little ones down low where it is easily accessible. Use a kid height cubby with designated spots for favorite

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Mary Susan Buhner is a Life Coach for Moms and author of “Mommy Magic: Tricks for Staying Sane in the Midst of Insanity.”

Visit her Mommy Magic Fan Page on Facebook and her website at: www.Mommy-Magic.com.

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PURGE and PURCHASE Resale shops and consignment events create “win – win” situations for parents For many families, spring cleaning is synonymous with purging outgrown or out of season items in their kids’ closets. Children grow so quickly, oftentimes their clothes are barely worn before they must be given away. Baby gear may be used infrequently or not at all before tiny infants turn into rambunctious toddlers – leaving parents with a houseful of equipment like cribs, swings and high chairs taking up valuable space needed for the new things their growing children require. When these items show up for resale, other parents can find just what they’re looking for at great discounts. Decreasing clutter equals extra cash for some, and smart shopping for others.

If you haven’t visited a resale shop or consignment event recently, you may be surprised at what you may be able snatch up. Not just kids clothes, but gently used maternity wear, nursery furniture, strollers, toys, bikes, books, movies, tap and ballet shoes, hair accessories, Halloween costumes and more can be found at below retail prices.

Check out the resale and consignment events available in our area. Take advantage of the opportunities our advertisers below offer to “purge and purchase” what you need for your kids this spring!

Once Upon a Child www.onceuponachild.com

Just Between Friends www.jbfsale.com

Kids Closet www.kidscloset.biz

Whale of a Sale www.whale-sale.com

Kid Again www.kidagainstore.com

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ask THE

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EXPERT:

ANIMAL PROFESSIONALS

“Caring for animals can be expensive. When does it make sense for me to consider pet insurance?”

As healthcare in general (including veterinary care) continues to see costs rise, insurance has become a way to cope with large bills that can accompany a major illness or surgery.

There are a host of policies out there that offer lots of options.

First, look at pet insurance differently than human health insurance. Where we use our insurance for virtually everything, and have the physician’s office file the paperwork, pet insurance generally is more geared for major issues and you must file claims with the insurer after covering the fees with the veterinarian. True, there are some policies that cover preventative care and offer broader benefits for coverage, but they can be pricey. It’s best to look at most pet insurance like homeowner’s insurance: it’s something you are glad to have and hope you rarely need to use it.

Second, not all policies are the same—not by a longshot. Read the fine print, and especially the exclusions. Some common conditions for certain breeds may be considered “congenital” and not covered, even if they occur late in life.

Third, think about the overall cost of veterinary care. Just as with human medicine, some parts of the country have more expensive medical costs than others, and in veterinary medicine, fees may vary widely among individual practices. Get a rough estimate for the cost of certain issues from your veterinarian’s office to see if these are fees you could absorb or if insurance would allow you to avoid making a difficult decision about whether to accept or decline care someday.

Should you get a policy? If you can find one that will cover issues beyond your budget, but that has a premium that you can afford, insurance may offer great peace-of-mind. Know what you are getting and what you aren’t, and (ideally) talk to people who have the policy themselves.

– Submitted by Jerry L. Risser, DVM, MA (Bioethics) at Fall Creek Veterinary Medical Center

“What is ‘puppy kindergarten’ ”?

Just like children, puppies benefit from the socialization and learning that takes place in kindergarten.

A good puppy kindergarten class will teach your puppy how to behave not only in a classroom setting but out in the real world too. Puppies learn basic obedience commands (like sit, stay and down) and also become socialized around people and other dogs. Owners learn how to reward and reinforce positive behavior, practice food bowl exercises, train their pup how to properly greet people and teach their puppy to become potty-trained and cratetrained.

These skills can be learned outside of the classroom setting, but classes enable trainers to work with pups in a controlled environment. Real world distractions of other dogs and people are great for teaching dogs to focus on us and nothing else.

Teaching a dog these skills while they are still a puppy is a great way to help ensure that you have a great dog and not one that your neighbors, friends and family members want to avoid!

– Submitted by Brian Cottrell, Manager and Owner of Dog Dayz Playhouse and Retreat in Noblesville

“What should a family consider when choosing a pet to adopt from a shelter?”

The benefits of adopting versus going to a breeder or pet store that receives its animals from puppy mills are significant. Many shelter dogs are already potty trained and know basic commands. Shelter animals usually come fully vaccinated, spayed and neutered. With our organization, they’re also microchipped. Most importantly, adopting a shelter dog means you are saving a life. Before adopting, it is important think of the following factors: Time. Depending on the animal, some may require more time than others. Every dog needs love and exercise. A “tired dog is a good dog.” Dogs that do not receive proper exercise and mental stimulation to suit their age and breed may develop behavior issues.

Lifestyle. If you’re a couch potato, don’t adopt a high energy Jack Russell! If you’re a runner, don’t adopt a Bassett Hound! If you travel a lot, maybe a cat is a better fit for you. If you do choose a dog, select a breed that is a good fit for your lifestyle.

Cost. Pets need more than food. They may get sick, they require a monthly heartworm/flea and tick preventative, they need a bed, toys, training, a possible fence and more. They are family—and they’re depending on you to meet all their basic and medical needs.

Commitment. Life happens. People have babies, get divorced, lose jobs and move. Your pet should remain a part of your life through all its ups and downs. They’re not only companions during the good times—they are a life-long commitment.

– Submitted by Rebecca Stevens, Executive Director, Humane Society for Hamilton County

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In Our Opinion MARCH/APRIL 2013

Racing through childhood As parents, we often lament that “kids grow up too fast”. If this is such a common sentiment, why do we rush the process and turn our young girls into miniature adults by allowing them to wear clothes that promote a level of sexuality clearly inappropriate for their age? High heeled sandals for toddlers, push up bras that fit girls as young as seven, provocative messages on t-shirts for tweens – these clothes send a powerful message to girls about what they are supposed to value about themselves. Leaving our daughters’ developing body image in the hands of what retailers market to them is a dangerous practice. That’s my opinion. What’s yours? – Susan Bryant, Editor

“What is your opinion about the style of clothing marketed to young girls today (toddlers to teens)?"

They need to use more material, they don't use much to cover areas.

– Amy A.

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#1 clothing rule in my house.... NO ONE will ever wear anything that has words written across the rear end…

- Heather R.

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Trash! All trash! Since when do 8 year olds need lace leggings? What's next - fish nets for 5 year olds?

– Tera M.

All horrible. Once they outgrow size 5T they are apparently supposed to dress like Madonna. I. Hate. It. – Ellen M.

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Let us hear your opinion!

We want to know what parents in our community think about important topics affecting our children.

Send me a message at susan@hamiltoncountyfamily.com to join our email panel. Your opinion matters and we want to hear it!

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Take Me Out of the Ballet— and Back to the Ball Field One mother’s perspective of stage versus stadium by: Julie Smith Costakis, mom of 3

Spirited fan loyalty toward the outstanding sports teams in Hamilton County is deeply imbedded in its culture. Growing up in Carmel, although busy with dance, music, academics and later my high school job at a local theatre, my allegiance to Greyhound athletics ran deep. This enthusiasm carried over to Purdue, and was a likely tipping point for my sports-loving college sweetheart when he asked me to marry him. We eventually settled in Hamilton County where our sons learned to toss a ball and cheer in the stands before they could walk. My time formerly engaged as a patron of the arts was replaced with football, basketball, lacrosse, soccer, baseball, bowling and tennis competitions. “When will I ever attend the ballet?” was my frequent question, inciting a round of laughter from the guys. On Christmas, I received an answer. My husband and now grown sons presented me with a special gift: a written proclamation that after enduring years of male-dominated events, I was the recipient of the ultimate “Ladies Day Out”: a certificate to my favorite day spa, elegant dinner reservations and center tier box tickets to the Russian ballet.

Anticipation of the event was as enjoyable as observing their pride in thoughtful planning. How delightful to don my heels, little black dress and favorite jewels. My friend and I were chauffeured through the picturesque snow to the restaurant, and later to the grand entrance of The Center for the Performing Arts. The ambiance of The Palladium was simply wondrous and the ballerinas exquisite. Yet an unsettling realization began to dawn. The long awaited ballet, despite its perfection, was not evoking the familiar thrill and satisfaction of competitive sports!

Would my perspective have differed with a daughter engaged in ballet? Whatever the reason, I eventually embraced the reality that I might prefer a stadium to a stage. A leather ball to a lace-trimmed

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tutu, and an athlete decked out in shoulder pads and team jersey to one wearing purple leotards and a sequined vest. My kind of star laces up Nike shoes, not satin slippers. He braves a real opponent, keenly aware of the potential for agonizing defeat, yet the possibility of glorious victory.

I delighted in the ballet and return to the theatre after too long an absence. Yet celebrating and sharing my sons’ enthusiasm for athletics has deeply impacted me. I have also savored their stage debuts, art exhibitions and academic award ceremonies. Yet the happiest times have been at the athletic fields, gymnasiums, tennis courts, ski slopes and sport complexes across this country. I would easily trade my high heels for boots dusted with stadium dirt, and my silk wrap for a treasured team logo jacket. Cheering for my sons from a blanket on a wooden set of bleachers elicits more joy than clapping politely from coveted velvet theatre seats.

Have I lost perspective as to which cultural events are worthwhile?

Or are the more likely answers that shared family experiences are genuinely fulfilling, and the price of motherly-sacrifice well worth the reward? I need not choose—the arts touch my soul, while the interests of the men in my life fuel my heart. I will embrace and enjoy each experience on its own merits, in its proper season.

As our sons now leave the nest, I do not regret one moment we invested in their lives and passionate endeavors. My little leaguers have become a high school and college varsity athlete; our oldest now launched in his career. The future will certainly include athletics, yet promises more time for artistic performances—hopefully with the addition of daughters-in-law and granddaughters by my side!

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To Do With Your Crew MARCH/APRIL 2013

March | through 31 Hearthside Suppers Ever wondered what people ate for dinner in the early 1800s? And how it was prepared? Discover those answers firsthand when you and your family join in the preparation of a candlelight feast served inside the historic Conner House. Recipes are straight from the pages of a 19thcentury cookbook. Reservations required.

Recommended for ages 10 & older.

Times: 6:00 PM - 9:00 PM Price: $60/person ($55/member) Phone: 317-776-6000 Location: Conner Prairie, Fishers Website: http://connerprairie.org/

March | sun 03

Phone: 317-595-3150 Location: Billericay Park Building, Fishers Website: www.fishers.in.us/parks

March | thurs 14 – sat 16 Whale of a Sale Indy’s premier upscale childrens consignment event featuring 25,000 square feet of clothing, toys, equipment, bedding, furniture, boutique, maternity, fabulous vendors and more... at a fraction of retail price!

Times: See website for shopping schedule Phone: 317-660-2665 Location: Meridian Village Plaza, Carmel Website: www.whale-sale.com/

Central IN Dance Ensemble presents: Mixed Rep

March | sat 16

An exciting program that displays dance at its' finest: innovative, energetic and highly entertaining. This repertoire performance combines classical with contemporary for a show that will have you on the edge of your seat.

Times: 4:00 PM Price: see website for ticket pricing Phone: (317) 843-3800 Location: The Tarkington at the Center for the Performing Arts, Carmel Website: http://thecenterfortheperformingarts.org/

Invite your friends to this comical and light-hearted unbirthday celebration.

This is a good time to bring children for experience in etiquette. The Mad Hatter greets you at the door and keeps you entertained the whole time with his witty antics, riddles, and add libs. A 5-course tea is prepared and served to you along with delicious tea pairings. Reservations required.

Times: 11:30 AM Price: see website for pricing Phone: 317-770-9399 Location: R.L. Wilson House, Noblesville Website: www.heavenlysweetscakes. com/RL_Wilson_House

March | mon 11 St. Patrick’s Day Cookies and a Story Children will use cookie cutters to create their own cookies out of cookie dough.

While they bake, we will read St. Patrick’s Day stories. Next, we will design the cookies with green frosting and sprinkles.

Children can taste one of their cookie creations and even have some to take home.

For ages 3-6.

Times: 1:00 PM Price: R $12/NR $18

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schedule. Pre-registration is encouraged to avoid lines and the $8 day-of fee.

Times: 11:00 AM - 2:00 PM Price: $5/person when pre-registered Phone: 317-573-5243 Location: West Park, Carmel Website: www.carmelclayparks.com/

2013 Central Indiana Autism Expo You are invited to experience the 2013 Central Indiana Autism Expo! Visit with dozens of different Exhibitors that have information, resources, and other items.

There will be a wide variety of things to see, do and buy. Register now at www. inautism.org.

Times: 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 800-609-8449 Location: The Fountains, Carmel Website: www.inautism.org

March | mon 25 Fishers Parks and Recreation: Hoop Shoot Competition Showcase your basketball skills at this skills competition. Competitors are timed as they shoot from different spots on the floor to receive as many points as possible. This is a drop-in program. For boys and girls ages 9-14.

Times: 7:00 PM - 9:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-595-3150 Location: Fall Creek Intermediate School, Fishers Website: www.fishers.in.us/parks

March | sat 23 Spring Fever

Winter Kids Concert

Spring has sprung and the birds are chirping. Bring your kite, Easter basket, and binoculars out to West Park for an afternoon of fun. Activities will include kite flying, Easter egg hunt, spring craft, bird watching, and music with Radio Disney! Check our website for event

This concert, featuring Mik the Music Man, is toe-tapping fun for kids ages 2 to 5.

Times: 10:00 AM Price: Free Phone: 317-573-5243 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel Website: www.carmelclayparks.com/

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March | sat 30 Easter Egg Hunt at IMS See website for more event details and for information on joining the IMS Kids Club!

Times: 10:00 AM - 12:00 PM Phone: 317-481-8500 Location: Indianapolis Motor Speedway Website: www.indianapolismotorspeedway.com

April | sun 07 April Fools Family Fun Find Families will scour the woods for patterned letters and after finding them will rearrange them to spell activities that you can do outdoors. An additional hunt will be available for families with younger children to complete just for fun. Stop by any time to take part in this family-friendly event. Pre-registration is appreciated by 4/4.

Times: 2:00 PM - 7:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-5 95-3150 Location: Ritchey Woods Nature Preserve, Fishers Website: www.fishers.in.us/

April | weds 10 Legomania: Epic Star Wars Challenge Join us for a special Star Wars Challenge! Your Star Wars masterpieces will be a special feature at the first ever Star Wars fair held on May 4th. There will be a prize up for grabs at this challenge!

Please bring your own Legos to this event.

Times: 7:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 579-0304 Location: Hamilton County East Public Library, Fishers Website: http://www.hepl.lib.in.us/

April | fri 12 Family Game Night Enjoy a night of family fun brought to you

by Fishers Parks and Recreation. You can enjoy board games, puzzles, BINGO, open gym, and giant games. Snacks and www.hamiltoncountyfamily.com

games will be provided. Bring your family out for a fun evening. For all ages.

Times: 6:00 PM - 8:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-595-3150 Location: Fall Creek Intermediate School, Fishers Website: www.fishers.in.us

April | sat 13 Carmel Arts & Design Second Saturday Gallery Walk Enjoy the merchant events/activities, entertainment, culture and shopping of the Carmel Arts and Design District.

Guest appearances by international and local artists, please check the website for participating galleries and artists each month.

Times: 5:00 PM - 9:30 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-571-ARTS Location: Carmel Arts & Design District Website: www.carmelartsanddesign. com/

Saturday Family Matinee Bring a pillow and get comfy while watching family favorites on the big screen. Free popcorn! Registration is not required. These family movies are for all ages. Parent or caregiver should remain in the movie with children 8 yrs. and younger. Parents or caregivers of children age 9 yr. and up should remain in the building.

Times: 4:00 PM Price: Free Phone: (317) 773-1384 Location: Hamilton County East Library, Noblesville Website: http://www.hepl.lib.in.us

April | fri 19

Location: Founders Park, Carmel Website: www.carmelclayparks.com/

April | fri 26 Fishers Movies in the Park - Dr Seuss’ The Lorax Join Fishers Parks & Recreation for free movies in the Friday nights. Bring chairs, blankets and your favorite snack to enjoy popular movies. Movies begin at dusk.

See website for schedule and location of movies.

Times: Dusk (8:30 PM) Price: Free Phone: 317-595-3150 Location: Fishers Amphitheater, Fishers Website: http://www.fishers.in.us/parks/ movies

Kids Pottery - Elephants Make and decorate pottery with Jeremy South, then pickup after Jeremy fires and returns them to the library. Pre-payment and registration required. For ages 6-12.

Times: 4:00 PM Price: $16 per participant Phone: 317-896-9391 Location: Westfield Washington Public Library, Westfield Website: http://www.wwpl.lib.in.us

April | mon 29 Winter Kids Concert This concert, featuring Stacia Demos, will have kids ages 2 to 5, dancing in the aisles.

Times: 10:00 AM Price: Free Phone: 317-573-5243 Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel Website: www.carmelclayparks.com/

Earth Day Celebration Join us for an afternoon of family friendly activity with entertainment provided by the Clang Interactive Percussion Duo. Come and enjoy educational games, crafts and more. Great for kids and adults of all ages.

Times: 3:00 PM - 7:00 PM Price: Free Phone: 317-573-5243

For more ideas, visit www.hamiltoncounty family.com

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March is National Nutrition Month. Getting kids on board with healthy eating can be a challenge. Here’s what you had to say about what your kids would like to see on the menu.

"My child would eat their weight in

but refuses to touch

"My child would eat their weight in pickles but refuses to touch lasagna.”

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— Alicia K.

"My child would eat their weight in pizza but refuses to touch peanut butter.” — Diane S.

"My child would eat their weight in tomatoes but refuses to touch pizza.”

— Sharon G.

"My child would eat their weight in broccoli but refuses to touch lunch meat.” — Stacy A.

"My child would eat their weight in ketchup but refuses to touch tomatoes.” — Annetta E.

"My child would eat their weight in Nutella but refuses to touch a banana with Nutella on it.” — Stacy A.

Have something funny you can share?

Send it to susan@hamiltoncountyfamily.com to be included in our next issue!

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