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MATERNITY AND Delivery: THEN AND NOW

BECOMING A BIG BROTHER OR SISTER

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WHAT’S IN A NAME?

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PEDIATRIC DENTISTRY 101

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What’s in a Name?

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CHILDREN’S BOOKS: FINDING

A GREAT READ FOR YOUR KIDS

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Becoming a Big Brother or Sister

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Pediatric Dentistry 101

SERIOUS LEARNING...

THROUGH PLAY!

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FEBRUARY HAPPENINGS

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NEARBY TO TRY

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ASK THE TEACHER

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THOSE IN THE KNOW

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PUBLISHER’S NOTE

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ONLINE BUZZ

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COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT

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FEBRUARY EVENTS

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ONGOING EVENTS

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WACKY CALENDAR

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THE MONTH OF LOVE

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TRUE CONFESSIONS OF A STAY-AT-HOME DAD FOOTNOTES: THOUGHTS FROM THE MARGINS OF A MOM’S LIFE

Olivia Harrold (18 Months)

photo by: Jenni Harrold Photography

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publisher’s note

interested in some baby talk?

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e hope so because February marks our “Baby and Maternity Issue” and we have a lot to babble about!

The experience of being pregnant and giving birth is a journey that bonds many women together – although the specifics of how this process is handled have changed dramatically over the years. In our article Maternity and Delivery: Then and Now we take a look at how having a baby today is different from when your mother gave birth. (Can you imagine not knowing you were having twins until they arrived?)

As you and your baby venture out into playdates and Mommy and Me classes, who are you most likely to meet there? Probably Sophia, Emma, Jackson and Aiden – which were the top baby names of 2013. Deciding on a name for your little bundle of joy can be fun, exciting…and potentially nerve-wracking! How can you choose the name that’s just right for your baby? Read What’s in a Name for some tips on picking something you’ll always love.

If this is baby #2 for you, then it’s not your first time around the block (maybe even pushing a deluxe, multi cup-holding, power-folding stroller.) You’ve already mastered those tricky car seats and awkward baby slings. For those parents with another child at home, you may be wondering how he or she will react to a second little person suddenly arriving on the scene. Be sure to look at Becoming a Big Brother or Sister for some strategies to making this a smooth and positive transition for your older child.

Also in this issue, check out our recommendations for the best children’s books to read to your little one and learn what you need to know about pediatric dentistry (tip: make the first appointment before your child’s first birthday!)

We hope you enjoy this issue we’ve “labored” over – we couldn’t wait to “deliver” it to you! As always, thanks for picking up Dayton Parent. We appreciate being included in your family’s activities each month!

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community spotlight community spotlight

A Valentine’s Night Out (for kids only!)

Miami Valley Education Expo Looking for a great school? Connect with the best preschools, primary schools and colleges at this event. Speak with representatives from some of the best traditional and online schools, plus enjoy great activities for kids. Your young ones can meet and take pictures with well known princesses and super heroes or get up close and personnel with exotic animals like giant tortoises and baby kangaroos! There will be make-and-take art activities too.

Come with questions and leave with answers on all things related to area schools. This event is completely free. Dates: February 22. Time: 12:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. Location: Dayton Mall, 2700 Miamisburg-Centerville Rd., Dayton

Dayton Demonz Breast Cancer Awareness Hockey Game The Dayton Demonz face off against the Danbury Whalers in a battle between the two Federal Hockey League powers. This is no ordinary hockey event, as the Dayton Demonz organization will pay homage to women who have had a lumpectomy or mastectomy, and others who have been affected by cancer. Demonz players will be wearing specially designed pink jerseys representing those who have suffered from breast cancer. At the end of the game the players’ jerseys worn in the game will be auctioned off in the lobby of Hara Arena. Each player from the Demonz will be on hand to autograph their jersey, and have a picture taken with each fan who obtains their jersey. Part of the proceeds from the auction will go to Dayton Expressions of Hope, an organization that helps women physically and emotionally, along with several other local cancer organizations. There will be a ceremonial puck drop prior to the game which starts at 7:35 p.m. For tickets call (937) 723-8461 or visit the Hara Arena Box Office. Ticket prices start at only $7.50 for kids 6 & up (5 and under are free) and up to $12.50 for adults.

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Hey parents! Enjoy a night out and bring the kids to spend the evening with us at the Davidson Interpretive Center where kids will discover the world of Ohio wildlife. If the night is clear, kids will go outside, view the night sky and listen to the sounds of the night. Children will make a craft, play games, learn some cool facts and enjoy a Valentine’s Day snack. For ages 6 – 10, preregister by February 12, $10 per child or 3 for $21 (from same family). Call 937-882-6000 for more information or visit www. clarkcountyparkdistrict.org. Date: February 14. Time: 6:00 p.m.

- 9:30 p.m. Location: Davidson Interpretive Center, 5638 Lower Valley Pike, Springfield

Disney Live! Mickey’s Music Festival Disney hits are remixed to the hottest sounds of today featuring hip hop, swing, reggae, rock, country and much more! Mickey Mouse and friends rock the world with the stars from The Little Mermaid, Aladdin and Disney/Pixar’s Toy Story. The irresistible lineup of performers, including Mickey, Minnie, Donald and Goofy; Ariel, Sebastian and Ursula; Jasmine, Aladdin and Genie; and Woody, Buzz and Jessie; are among the more than 25 Disney stars featured in this jam session fit for the entire family! You can’t resist dancing, singing, playing your air-guitar and laughing with this band of characters! Ticket prices range from $17 to $52 each. Date: February 14. Times: 4:00 p.m. and 7:00 p.m.

Location: Ervin J. Wright Nutter Center, 3640 Colonel Glenn Hwy., Dayton

Go Red for Women Kickoff Heart disease is the number one killer of all women – taking more lives than all forms of cancer combined. Here in the Miami Valley, we’re ready to rise to the challenge and make this year a turning point in the fight against heart disease. Men and women alike are encouraged to kick off American Heart Month and the Go Red for Women Campaign for 2014 in Dayton. This free event will feature food, entertainment, health screenings and information about how you can join the Go Red for Women movement and fight heart disease. For more information, contact ellen.duncil@heart.org Date: February 6. Time: 5:30 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. Location: Dayton Racquet Club, 40 N. Main St., Dayton

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Maternity and Delivery:

Then & Now How your mother’s experience differs from your own

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he experience of being pregnant and giving birth has changed dramatically over the years. Below, learn how the advice and opportunities offered to today’s momsto-be compare to those given to women from previous generations.

Start spreading the news Pregnancy is confirmed by measuring the female hormone hCG, explains Bill Rettig, MD, obstetrician/gynecologist at Lifestages - Samaritan Centers For Women.

Back in the 1950’s and 1960’s, a woman might have waited days to receive her pregnancy test results from the lab, he says. Home pregnancy tests first became available in the 1970’s, and have become less expensive, more accurate and easier to use over the years.

Today, a woman should be able to confirm her own pregnancy by the time she misses her first menstrual period, says Dr. Rettig.

A positive result received at that point is highly likely to be accurate, although he recommends that a woman who receives a negative result wait a week and retest.

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Prenatal care and education Doctors’ ability to monitor pregnancies via ultrasound has changed greatly over the past 20-25 years, says Dr. Rettig. He likens the improvement in clarity to the difference between analog TV and high definition Blue-ray. This advancement has increased the likelihood of detecting fetal anomalies and birth defects, which helps ensure medical personnel are prepared to handle any issues that may arise.

In addition, gender determination can be made earlier and more accurately than in previous generations. Dr. Rettig recalls that when he first started practicing in the early 1990s, occasionally a baby expected to be a girl would turn out to be a boy.

Today, he considers gender predictions made at 18 weeks or later to be reliable, although there can still be some variation based on the equipment used and the technician’s level of experience.

Dr. Rettig believes patients have become more educated and health-conscious over the last decade as well. Many of the patients he sees are proac-

tive about their diet even prior to conception, and he has observed a reduction in smoking and alcohol use. He notes that many women now prepare for their births online using websites and apps in lieu of traditional inperson classes. While Dr. Rettig feels many of the sources available online are fairly reliable, there can be a downside to using Google to search for answers. “[Patients] kind of read a little bit too much and get alarmed about some of the things they read,” he says.

The big day T h e birth experience itself has also changed dramatically over the years. A comment on the Dayton Parent Facebook page on the subject from reader Bonnie W. says, “My mom said she was put out when she had my sisters and myself.” Another reader, Kendra P. adds a similar experience writing, “From my mom’s perspective in 1967[she] told me she was given a “saddleblock” (epidural?) - she was numb from the waist down.

She was asleep when I was delivered. She guesses she must have pushed because I was lying in a bassinet next to her when she woke up.”

| Michelle Shirk

Births typically took place in a sterile operating room called a delivery room, says Dr. Rettig. The mother-to-be would be gowned and draped as if for surgery, then moved out of the room after the delivery. Today, he says, many rooms found within Premier Health’s birthing units are very homelike, and women are generally able to participate in decisions regarding the labor process, pain control options and who is present during the birth. “It’s very individualized now,” he says. “We really try to empower patients to let us know what type of birthing experience they want.”

Over the past twenty to twenty-five years, fathers taking an increasingly active role in pregnancy and delivery. In addition to attending prenatal appointments, many fathers now participate in the birth process. Reader Kendra P. confirms this trend with her comment on our Facebook page saying that when she was born in 1967, “My dad was not allowed in the room.” In contrast, during her own delivery in 2000, her husband was “very involved and in the room the whole time.”

Pregnancy and birth stories are a unique and fascinating part of our personal histories. Why not get the women in your family together and swap stories today?

BLUE TURTLE TOYS

LIFESTAGES

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BECOMING A BIG BROTHER OR SISTER

Preparing children for the arrival of a new baby Sarah McCosham

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dding a second child to the family may not seem like a big transition – after all, you and your partner have already been through the whole baby thing before, and are seasoned veterans at this point.

While having a second child isn’t a huge change for parents, it is for your only child.

Used to having parents’ full attention and affection, the addition of a new sibling can be overwhelming for some kids. However, with

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thoughtful preparation and a game plan, a new sibling can be an exciting and positive experience for your child.

During pregnancy

There are many things parents can do during the long process of pregnancy to help their child prepare for this major event. Attending prenatal appointments, helping with nursery preparation, and even weighing in on baby names are all ways to get kids involved, says

Dr. Julie L. Stucke, a pediatric psychologist with Dayton Children’s Hospital.

Candice D., a mom of two in Middletown, says her six-year-old daughter loved seeing her little sister on ultrasounds. She was very excited about the pregnancy – “she had been asking us for a sister for a long time,” Candice explains.

The age of your child will dictate how you share the news of a new baby coming home.

With younger kids, Dr. Stucke suggests that parents talk about their own infancy – sharing pictures, videos and even some of the toys/clothes they used to wear. “This will help give younger kids an idea of how they were as an infant, and what to expect with their sibling,” she says.

Older kids may wonder how a new baby will affect their daily life and “place” in the family. “Make sure your older children know they still have important roles in the family,” says Dr. Stucke. “Reinforce all of the wonderful things about who they are and how they contribute to the family.”

The first days as a bigger family

The first days with a newborn are rough for any parent – and this challenge is magnified when juggling multiple children.

Nancy Conley, RN and certified childbirth educator at Miami Valley Hospital, says that getting older kids involved is key. “Older siblings are great helpers if parents allow them

to be. Include them in the simplest of activities, from getting clothes out of the dresser to helping give the baby a bath.” Conley says parents should praise siblings for their help, which really helps them feel appreciated and included.

Children also benefit from having some special one-on-one time, so have someone watch the baby and plan special date with your older child. This helps older kids attach a positive association with the new baby.

In addition, getting your child a present from the new baby can help smooth this transition. Dr. Stucke says that siblings can even help throw a “birthday party” for the baby, complete with a cake and presents. “Parents can make the baby’s homecoming an event that’s special for the entire family,” she says.

Anticipating bumps in the road

After the initial excitement, kids may respond in a variety of ways to a new baby that aren’t so positive – acting out, becoming with-

drawn or even regressing developmentally.

All of which are completely normal.

“Sometimes younger children regress after the arrival of a baby,” Dr. Stucke says.

This can include toileting accidents, sleeping troubles or even wanting to drink from a bottle. “If this occurs, parents should give their children lots of reassurance. Parents might explain how happy they are that their children are older and can do ‘big kid things’ like dressing themselves and picking up their toys,” says Dr. Stucke.

Some children may try getting their parents’ attention by acting out. “Kids will push the boundaries to get their parents’ attention,” says Conley. “Take a calming breath, explain to them that you’ll always love them, then follow through with a ‘time out’” she explains.

Above all, make sure to address your child’s emotions, and make them feel heard and loved. Do that, and everything will fall into place. “My daughter loves her little sister so much,” says Candice. “It makes me really happy to see so much love in my family.”

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WHAT’S IN A

NAME? Tips for choosing a baby name you’ll always love Trisha Shepherd

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Step 1: Set your criteria What do you know for sure about the kind of baby name you prefer? Are you into common spellings, or do you like clever variations? What about trendy or unusual names?

Would you consider a family name? Will your kids’ names all start with the same letter?

When deciding what to name your little one, you can start by listing your must-have baby naming criteria and see how well your ideas line up with your partner’s.

No one wants to grow up introducing themselves with a name they really don’t like. To make sure your child doesn’t end up cursing you for the name you chose, be aware of a few naming pitfalls. First, run the name through the monogram test. (Aidan Scott Sampson has a nice ring until you picture those initials stitched onto his backpack.)

Test possible email handles as well, which often combine the first initial of the first name with the last name. (Just imagine the campus or office jokes that would fly when receiving emails from Sarah Nott.) You may also want to Google your baby’s full name and possible nicknames to make sure no unpleasant characters pop up. (Even if you plan to call him Theo instead of Ted, you may want to avoid the name Theodore if your last name is Bundy!)

Now, it’s time to get to the fun part – starting a list of all the names you like. Some websites like BabyCenter.com, Babynames.com, Nameberry.com and Parents.com offer not only baby name lists, but also tools that help you search based on factors like ethnic background or suggest similar names that might interest you. You may also want to think of historic figures, family members, personal mentors, authors, athletes or artists who have influenced you.

Step 4: Get historic

If you’re looking for a name with a classic ring that’s not overused today, try the Social Security Administration website: http:// www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames. Plug in a year and browse through names that were big hits back then. You can also enter your favorite names and see when they peaked in popularity.

Source: BabyCenter.com

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1. Sophia 2. Emma 3. Olivia 4. Isabella 5. Mia 6. Ava 7. Lily 8. Zoe 9. Emily 10. Chloe

Some families also keep family trees, family bibles or genealogy records. These are gold mines of interesting names with family ties!

You don’t have to limit your search to first names – many surnames (like Davis, Sterling, Jackson, Washington, Calvin, Harper or Harrison) can make distinctive first names. The trick is finding the name that both you and your partner fall in love with.

Step 5: Keep it quiet?

Most of your loved ones will respond kindly to your baby’s name, but be prepared for negative reactions. (BabyCenter’s survey found that out of people who got a negative reaction to their child’s name, their own parents were the naysayers 46% of the time!)

If you want to lower the risk of having your favorite name tainted by a nasty comment, keep it secret until the big birth day.

Whenever you reveal your baby’s name to the world, stay confident in your choice.

Even the toughest critics are likely to soften once your bundle of joy starts melting their hearts.

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11. Layla 12. Madison 13. Madelyn 14. Abigail 15. Aubrey 16. Charlotte 17. Amelia 18. Ella 19. Kaylee 20. Avery

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Step 3: Find inspiration

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ow many Jacksons, Sophias, Emmas and Aidans have you met this year?

BabyCenter.com is out with its annual list of most popular names. What’s the trick to picking the name that’s perfect for your baby? And how can you avoid choosing a name you may later regret? We’ve put together a step-by-step guide to making this important decision.

Top Baby Names of 2013

1. Jackson 2. Aiden 3. Liam 4. Lucas 5. Noah 6. Mason 7. Jayden 8. Ethan 9. Jacob 10. Jack

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11. Caden 12. Logan 13. Benjamin 14. Michael 15. Caleb 16. Ryan 17. Alexander 18. Elijah 19. James 20. William

*This list is based on surveys with parents who use the website, and combines spelling variations. See the full top 100 at BabyCenter.com.

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PEDIATRIC 101 Dentistry Basic info every parent needs to know | Jennifer Garcia

A child’s first dental visit is as much about educating the parent as it is examining the child. Pediatric dentists are specially trained to work with very young children through early adulthood. They also are experts at teaching parents to be guardians of their children’s dental health.

The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry and the American Academy of Pediatrics encourage an initial dental visit by age one and every six months thereafter.

Dr. Swati Singh, DDS, says getting children to the dentist early helps them get used to the doctor, staff and office. “We can help prepare them to know what to expect as the child ages, such as questions about teething,” she says. “It’s also helpful for parents to know where to go in an emergency.” The most important factor is educating parents about prevention of tooth decay.

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Healthy food, Healthy smiles A balanced diet, with fruit, vegetables, grains, dairy, and limited sugars and starch, decreases the chance of tooth decay. According to Dr. Singh, studies show that munching on crunchy veggies like carrot sticks, as well as cheese which has toothfriendly bacteria, are better options than processed and packaged foods. Childhood favorites like fruit snacks, gummy vitamins and candy are likely to stick in the molars and promote cavities. If the child eats such snacks, brush their teeth afterwards.

A good rule of thumb is if your child has three meals per day, including snacks, then he should brush more than two times daily.

Brushing and flossing are key to maintaining healthy teeth and gums.

Create a routine Health care providers recommend cleaning a baby’s gums with water and a soft cloth.

As soon as teeth appear, start brushing daily. It’s surprisingly helpful to establish a routine, such as: “first take a bath, next put on jammies, then brush teeth.”

“It can be challenging to brush a toddler’s teeth,” admits Dr. Michelle Edwards, DDS. “I recommend a technique called ‘back to brush,’ which has the child lie with their head in the parent’s lap.” This can be a special bonding time and allows the parent to see inside the mouth to clean the child’s teeth.

It’s essential for parents to model healthy habits – brush, floss and visit the dentist as a family.

Dental Emergencies Children are accident-prone and their teeth are not immune to danger. Bathtub slips often result in broken and knocked-out teeth.

If such an accident occurs, call the dentist immediately. Most pediatric dentists have an after-hours emergency phone number.

According to Dr. Sarah Husted, DDS, when a child injures her gums or teeth, especially if there’s blood, parents should put cold water on a piece of gauze and apply pressure to the site. “To reduce swelling, offer the child an ice pop to suck on,” says Dr. Husted.

If the tooth is loose, watch for a change of color or redness and swelling in the gum around the damaged tooth. These could indicate an abscess and should be examined by a dentist.

Big Decisions Parents of older children may face important choices about their dental care. A formal evaluation for braces can be performed around age seven or when their first permanent molars come in.

As our mouths grow, a variety of jaw, face, and bite irregularities can occur. These irregularities can affect a growing child’s speech, chewing capability, and digestion.

“It’s becoming more common to have two phases of braces – the first fixes foundations of their mouth, such as a crossbite, while the second straightens out their permanent teeth,” says Dr. Edwards.

Recommended Reading Parents can talk with their children about what to expect at the dentist in order to calm any fears. Below are a few fun books that can help get the conversation started.

If wisdom teeth need to be removed, age 17-25 is ideal.

By this age, the teeth have stopped shifting, yet it’s still relatively easy to heal from surgery.

These are major family decisions, and parents need to feel comfortable with their children’s dental professional and trust that they are making the right choices together with the family. Each child is an individual and your pediatric dentist should be willing to address all of your questions and concerns about their course of care.

POELKING BOWLING

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ABC Dentist: Healthy Teeth from A to Z by Harriet Ziefert (author) and Liz Murphy (illustrator)

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Brush Your Teeth, Please: A Pop-up Book by Leslie Mcguire (author) and Jean Pidgeon (illustrator)

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Carrie and Larry the Tooth-Tickling Fairies by Dr. Michelle H. Edwards (author) and Wes Harlan (illustrator)

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Pony Brushes His Teeth by Michael Dahl (author) and Oriol Vidal (illustrator)

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The Tooth Book by Dr. Seuss (author) and Joe Mathieu (illustrator)

DR. DIPAUSQUALE

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the month of love

The Month of Love Simple ideas for families to express their affection

By Andrea Massimilian of Dayton Children’s Hospital

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ach year as Valentine’s Day rolls around, we are reminded to show others how much we love them.

“Love is less about candy and more about the little things we do every day to stay connected to the special people in our lives” says Dr. Ramey, Ph.D., child psychologist at Dayton Children’s Hospital. “It’s important for parents and families to show not only what it means to be loved, but how to love.”

Love can be shown in a variety of ways.

Use this month to try some of these ideas and make them a habit for the rest of the year.

Story time before bed.

Have your child pick out a book to read before bedtime. They can show off their reading skills, or just listen to the silly voices you have for all the characters. For older children, pick a chapter book and read a chapter together each night.

Exercise together.

Instead of sending your kids outside or to the basement to play, join them! Kids are more likely to follow their parent’s example more than just their words, so exercise together to reinforce this positive habit. Make it fun! Shoot some hoops, find a new bike trail to explore, make an obstacle course, walk the dog – any activity you all enjoy.

Cook together.

When kids help with the preparation of a meal, they feel a sense of accomplishment and are more likely to eat what you’ve made. It’s also a perfect time to reinforce healthy eating options.

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Go on a treasure hunt.

Make a collage.

Build a snowman.

Leave a note.

Board game night.

Take the time during the “month of love” to show your children just how important they are to you – and keep these tips going throughout the year so they know how much they are loved every day!

Hide some “treasure” outside or in the house and make a map! Cut the map into pieces and hide each piece with a clue in a different location of where to find the next piece of the map. Once you all collect the pieces, put them together to find where the hidden treasure lies.

If there is good “packing snow” on the ground, bundle everyone up and go outside to make a snowman, or snow family! Kids will be excited to see the finished masterpiece the entire family helped to create.

Grab a board game (or two!) the whole family will enjoy. Candyland?

Monopoly?

Clue? You might be surprised who is good at what and the laughs you’ll share!

Find some old magazines, scissors, glue and poster board. Decide on a theme (things to be thankful for, things that make you smile) and start clipping! Little children can tear a page out for a parent to cut. Put everyone’s findings together for a family collage.

Place a special message in a lunch box or on a bathroom mirror to wish your child a good day or just remind them that you are thinking about them.

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Children’s Books: Finding a great read for your kids Local experts suggest best bets for young readers | Rebecca Wood

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alking into the children’s section at a bookstore or library can be exhilarating. Books with clever titles and imaginative illustrations line the shelves. But sifting through the maze of choices can be a bit overwhelming. What’s a parent to do?

and a “bad guy” depending upon the mustache’s shape. Quirky? Yes. But Murtaugh refers to author Bridget Heos’s work as a truly clever book born of a current fad.

the uniqueness of all children. Murtaugh calls this book “beautifully illustrated.”

What Does the Fox Say?

by Jimmy Fallon

Ask an expert. We asked two.

A picture book based on the popular YouTube video. The book pages feature the lyrics of the song paired with whimsical illustrations. Murtaugh said her store sold out of this book before the holiday season.

Kate Murtaugh, Children’s Lead at the Dayton Mall Barnes & Noble, gushed over children’s books. She said, “My favorite thing in the world is to talk about books.” Murtaugh listed popular children’s picture books among the favorites of her young customers.

Mustache Baby

by Bridget Heos

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by Ylvis, Christian Løchstøer, and Svein Nyhus

Snowflakes Fall

by Patricia Maclachlan

Newbury Medalist Patricia Maclachlan teams up with award winning artist Steven Kellogg to create this visually appealing picture book. Snowflakes Fall is a tribute to the victims of the Sandy Hook tragedy (Kellogg lived in Sandy Hook) and a celebration of

Snowball Fight!

Comedian Jimmy Fallon captures the joy of a snow day on the pages of this picture book.

Murtaugh says children really appreciate this book during cold winter months.

Lisa Nabel, Youth Materials Selection Specialist for the Dayton Metro Library, feels passionate about encouraging children to read. “Any librarian will tell you that encouraging your child to read is the most important factor toward future school success,” Nabel asserts.

Spurring a child to read begins with finding the right books. Nabel shared librarian favorite picture books released within the last year.

This Is Not A Good Idea!

by Mo Willems

From the bestseller author Mo Willems (renowned for Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus and his Knuffle Bunny series), This is Not A Good Idea! tells the story of a hungry fox inviting a goose to dinner. Willems peppers this book with a signature refrain and humor.

Nabel calls this book a “daring adventure with a twist at the end.”

New York Times bestseller Goodnight, Good night, Construction Site teams up again for Steam Train, Dream Train. Geared towards younger readers, this book escorts little ones along the dream train as it chugs into the station and loads up animal passengers. Nabel refers to this book as the “perfect bedtime story.”

The Day the Crayons Quit

by Drew Daywalt

Exclamation Mark

by Amy Krouse Rosenthal

“Who thought punctuation could be so amusing?” says Nabel. This story centers around an exclamation point trying to fit in with a line-up of periods. Exclamation Mark weaves life lessons with grammar instructions in a light-hearted fashion.

Steam Train, Dream Train

by Sherri Duskey Rinker

In The Day the Crayons Quit, a boy opens up a crayon box to find notes from his crayons. The letters spell out their frustrations (e.g. Blue is sick of coloring water!) and their pleas for equal coloring time. Named as one of Amazon’s Best Children’s Books of 2013, this book is a clever story infused with humor.

Nabel encourages parents to consult a librarian when selecting just the right children’s books for a little one. She says, “They are trained to find the perfect book for children.”

Most Anticipated Children and Tween Books of 2014 Bad Kitty Drawn to Trouble by Nick Bruel Release date: January 7th Pete the Cat: Old MacDonald Had a Farm by James Dean Release date February 18th The Shadow Throne by Jennifer Nielsen Release date: February 25th Princess Labelmaker to the Rescue!: An Origami Yoda Book by Tom Angleberger Release date: March 4th Big Nate: In the Zone by Lincoln Peirce Release date: March 11th The Pigeon Needs A Bath! by Mo Willems Release date April 1st This list was compiled by Lisa Nabel, Youth Materials Selection Specialist for the Dayton Metro Library

The author and illustrator duo behind the

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serious learning...through play!

Serious Learning...through Play!

Unstructured, outdoor activity is essential to children’s development

By Peg L. Smith, CEO, American Camp Association

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or me, the cornerstone of childhood is play.

The ability to play follows us throughout our life. Stuart Brown, author of Play: How It Shapes the Brain, writes, “There is a great deal of evidence that the road to mastery of any subject is guided by play.”

As a parent, I want my child to seek continuous improvement in everything he or she does, in all areas of life – a learning journey.

That journey becomes their path to personal mastery. However, it often feels like the “ritual of resume building” is trumping the “rights of childhood.”

Since 1955, unstructured play has been on the decline. The University of Michigan says from 1981 through 1997, we saw a 25 percent decline in play. We have also witnessed an increase in teen suicide, depression and mental health problems. What is the correlation, if any?

Parallel to the loss of play is the decrease in access to the out of doors. It is stated that the aver-

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age radius of play today is 500 square feet. Kids want to play outside – The IKEA Corporation found that 69 percent of a sample of U.S. children indicated the preferred place to play is out of doors. Unfortunately, the Children and Nature Network has shared the time spent outside has decreased by 50 percent.

Recent teen brain research has shed light on the importance of development during adolescence.

The National Institute of Mental Health states that the prefrontal cortex (the CEO of the brain) is at its greatest capacity to learn during adolescence! The brain needs multiple techniques to maximize its natural ability to learn: mastery, experiential, cooperative, practical and movement opportunities.

Yet, we have altered the formula, preempting “how” the brain

learns with “what” it should learn. This is a misguided notion.

One’s ability to discover meaning is always more valuable than information alone.

As parents, I believe we know our children need to have stimulating environments that encourage individual AND group learning. Learning takes place indoors and out of doors. Learning e nv i ro n m e n t s must be engaging, adaptable, flexible, and mixed with structured and unstructured time. Yet, as parents, we are often not given permission to articulate those needs, fearing it will sound frivolous. We have also been bombarded by images of abduction and violence causing us to micromanage our children in a way that may, in fact, be causing a slowing down of normal development. At the end

of the day, the issues of academic fervor and fear are resulting in an ever-shrinking “unstructured play” environment. Play is a natural developmental learning process that embellishes what we now understand about the science of the brain during adolescence. If we want to supersize something, let it be the science of play and access to the out of doors. Let’s come together as parents and demand a strong foundation of play and nature be established for the developmental rights of childhood that will complement and support the desire for academic success!

With four decades of experience as a change agent in youth development and transformation, Peg L. Smith is the chief executive officer of the American Camp Association® (ACA). ACA is the champion of better tomorrows — providing resources, research, and support for developmentally appropriate camp experiences.

Learn more at www.CampParents.org or www.ACAcamps.org.

february happenings

February Happenings Beat cabin fever with these fun local activities!

Lisa Seibert, Community Executive, DaytonLocal.com

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ebruary may be the shortest month with only 28 days, but there’s no shortage of fun things to do in our area this month. On the 2nd, Groundhog Day, we’ll find out if we get six more weeks of winter. On the 14th be sure to wish your sweetheart a Happy Valentine’s Day! During February 11th – 17th we celebrate “Random Acts of Kindness” week, so take some time to be extra kind to people.

Check out these fun things to do below – and for even more options, visit the www.DaytonLocal.com community calendar.

The Secret Garden at Town Hall Theatre 27 N. Main Street, Centerville (937) 433-8957

When a young orphan girl returns to England to live with her uncle, she’s not prepared to ever be happy again. Soon Mary meets Colin and the two begin a personal journey of discovery that will open a secret door and carry them into a mysterious garden that will change their lives forever.

Dates: Feb 1, 11 a.m. and 3 p.m., Feb 2, 3 p.m., Feb 7, 7 p.m. and Feb 8 and 9, 3 p.m.

Admission: Adults $15, Students & Seniors $13, 12 & under $10, Day of show $15, Age 2 & under admitted free with accompanying adult.

Laser Light Shows at The Boonshoft Museum of Discovery 2600 Deweese Parkway, Dayton

Immerse yourself in the sounds of modern classic albums with “throwback” shows in The Dome! A long-time favorite with Daytonians, these special effects shows bring classic albums to life. Rock to the sounds of Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin and The Beatles while you relax under The Dome of the Caryl D. Philips Space Theater.

Several show times February 14, 15, 16, 17. Visit the website (www. boonshoftmuseum.org)or call (937) 275-7431 for showtimes Admission is $5/person; early show rates ($3/person) apply to 5:00 and 6:00 show times.

The Chronicles of Narnia - The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe 456 Belmont Park North, Dayton

Zoot Theatre Company takes this classic C.S. Lewis story set in the land of Narnia and faithfully recreates the magic and mystery of Aslan, the great lion, his struggle with the White Witch, and the adventures of four children who inadvertently wander from an old wardrobe into the exciting, never-to-be-forgotten Narnia.

Dates: February 14 & 15, 8 p.m., Feb 16, 2 p.m., Feb 21 & 22, 8 p.m., Feb 23, 2 p.m. and Feb 28, 8 p.m. Admission: $20 adults, $17 Seniors & Students, $12 Children 12 & under

The Great Train Expo Hara’s East Hall, 1001 Shiloh Springs Rd, Dayton

Great Train Expo is a national, traveling show that caters to the model railroad enthusiast. The show features 200-500 tables of train dealers, offering everything from HO Scale, N Scale, Lionel (O Gauge), G Gauge, Z Scale, American Flyer (S Gauge), hobby tools, die-cast vehicles, train whistles, scenery items, Railroadiania Slides, t-shirts, videos, railroad gift items, books, photos and much more.

Dates: February 22 & 23, 10 a.m. – 4 p.m.

Admission: Adults $7, Kids under 12 are FREE

Riverscape Ice Skating 229 East Monument Ave., Dayton (937) 278-2607

Sheltered under the covered pavilion, the MetroParks Ice Rink is at Riverscape Metropark. Patrons may skate daily. While the rink is open, you can enjoy delicious treats from Silver Fern Café, including a cup of hot chocolate.

Dates: Monday - Thursday 2:30 p.m.- 5 p.m., Friday 2:30 p.m. – 10 p.m., Saturday 10 a.m.-11 p.m. and Sunday 1 p.m.-5 p.m.

Admission: Mon - Thurs, Free (skate rental $5), Fri - Sun & Holidays, $7 includes skate rental (Season passes also available)

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nearby to try [branded content]

Nearby to Try: Mommy and Me Classes

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ids love it when their parents jump in and participate in an activity right alongside of them. Sharing an experience together not only increases the fun factor, but creates a special bond too. The Dayton area offers several opportunities for parents to spend time with their children in ways everyone can enjoy – check out a sampling here!

Inner Dance Yoga

2600 Far Hills Ave., Oakwood Mommy and Me Read for Sleep: Ages 4-36 months 4 week session every Tuesday in February. $40 for 4 classes/$12 drop in. Bring your little yogi and comfy blanket for this yoga class designed for Mama and Baby/Toddler! Doors open at 6 p.m. for play and connection with other moms; 45 minute class starts promptly at 6:15 p.m.

Please pre-register by emailing info@innerdanceyoga.com or calling 937-609-YOGA (9642).

Class space is limited. Cost: $40 for 4 classes/$12 drop in.

New Class for New Moms: Postnatal Yoga Balance is one of the most important things for new moms to maintain, and it can be one of the hardest to achieve when a new baby arrives. IDYC is now offering a postnatal yoga class for new moms and their babies six-weeks postpartum to six months. Join us each week as we share the journey called motherhood. We will spend time stretching, bonding with baby, building core strength and connecting with other moms. This new class starts Wednesday, February 5.

This 45-minute class will begin at 6 p.m. Please pre-register by emailing info@innerdanceyoga. com or calling 937-609-YOGA (9642). Class space is limited.

Cost: A five class pass is $50 and single drop in classes are $12.

Decoy Art

1561 Grange Hall Rd., Beavercreek For the little artists in our families, picking activities that parents can do with them is just as important as the content. At Decoy Art Studio, our Parent & Child Art Class held every Saturday from 10:00 - 10:45 a.m. combines exploration, the use of fine motor skills and fosters creativity for kids 2-4 years old.

This

class is drop-in meaning no registration required nor any commitment! Coming this Spring, our Studio will be hosting Open Art Studio for Kids - a great family activity! Check out our website at decoy-art.com, stop by our colorful studio or give us a ring!

Mommy and Me Spanish Classes

7811 Mad River Rd., Dayton International School Toddlers 1-2 years and caregivers are invited to explore Spanish together with Dayton International School’s Mommy & Me Classes. Experienced, native Spanish-speaking teachers use songs, word games, and repetition to help introduce and reinforce language skills. Weekly classes are 45 minutes and cost $90 for a 6 week session. Children ages 2+ can join the Little Explorers program, a 1.5 hour weekly class for more independent learners. Spanish immersion opportunities continue with our preschool enrichment sessions for ages 3+. Ask about a Free Trial Class and witness the many benefits to learning a second language early through immersion! Contact DIS at 937.433.1120, or online at www. daytonis.org.

Mothers and Daughters United

P.O. Box 24674, Huber Heights Our mission is to promote the general welfare of mothers and daugh-

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ters through the provision of educational services, health and nutritional services, parenting skills, leadership development skills, and relationship building that will strengthen the bond between mothers and daughters.

We have designed our programs to build a strong foundation of mutual affection, respect, honor, and love between mothers and daughters. Join us for one of our many fun mother and daughter outings. Our February event will be snow tubing at Perfect North Slopes on February 22nd from 1 p.m. -3 p.m. Please contact Cheli at mothersanddaughtersunitedinc@gmail.com to register.

Group rate is $20 per person.

Hand 2 Hand Gymnastics

270 Hiawatha Trail, Springboro Hand 2 Hand is very proud of its Pre-K and Kindergarten program. Our program director has designed age appropriate themes for each month which incorporate the basic moves used in gymnastics. Gymnastics helps your child build confidence, become more spatially aware, develops strength and promotes intellectual activities by using both sides of the brain to follow and execute instructions. At Hand 2 Hand, you can expect the lowest advertised student/ teacher ratio in the area, and a safety certified and CPR and first-aid trained coaching staff.

Day and evening classes are available. FREE trial class! Call 937-743-1466 or enroll online today! www.hand2handgym.com

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ask the teacher

Ask the Teacher

Increasing responsibility, speech anxiety, “teaching to the test”

By Deb Krupowicz

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My ten year old son is so forgetful! He regularly forgets homework assignments, library books, gym shoes, etc. and then is a stressed mess waiting for me to deliver them to him at school. What can I do to help him get over this?

Some children seem to be born more responsible than others. We all know that developing basic responsibility is important on so many levels, and it is our job to teach children who aren’t naturally inclined how to meet their obligations.

While allowing them to suffer the obvious consequences may help them understand that there are reasons for being responsible, it does not help them understand how to develop those needed habits.

Help your child by teaching him to use a calendar (digital or paper) and to make lists. Have him mark all the regular events like gym and library days on his calendar. Coach him into developing a list of what needs to go to school each day. Keep the calendar and list on the refrigerator or in some other safe place. Make checking the list part of his daily routine. For instance, right after brushing his teeth before bed, have him consult the calendar and the list. Watch as he double-checks that everything is in his back pack. The key is teaching him to actually look into his bag to be sure that what he knows he put in, did indeed make it into the bag. Then instruct him to walk through all of the areas where he has been since coming home as a safety check in case something not on his list has been overlooked.

This routine will only take a few minutes each day and will result in a much more responsible and calmer child!

Q A

Giving speeches makes my daughter so uncomfortable that she often makes herself sick when it comes time to present. Is it reasonable to ask that she be exempt from making speeches?

Very few people, children or adults, are comfortable giving speeches. No one wants to look foolish; few people want to be stared at; some have had a negative experience they are afraid will be repeated. There are two key parts of speech giving: content and delivery. Typically, students give the needed attention to preparing the content and underestimate how much effort should go into delivering their speech.

Once your daughter has developed the speech content, have her read the speech aloud at least ten times before practicing speech giving techniques. I recommend that she read it two or three times in a row, take a break, and then continue. When she really knows

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what it is she will be saying, she is ready to begin practicing effective presentation skills. Have her work first on volume and pacing.

If your child tends to speak softly, have her give the speech from another room. The most common struggle for students is speaking too quickly when they get nervous, so practicing at a slow pace is important. Finally, have her work on eye contact. Her eyes should be on the audience more than they are on the paper. Suggest that she look at the tops of the heads of her audience rather than at their faces.

It is doubtful that even being well prepared and practiced will eliminate all nervousness, but it should keep your daughter’s anxiety at a manageable level. Learning to express her ideas publicly is an essential skill necessary for success.

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This time of year it seems that my kids’ teachers are just “teaching to the test” in anticipation of spring standardized testing. I find it so frustrating. Can’t they just stop all the testing?

Standardized testing has been part of public education for generations. It is in the headlines now more than ever as funding and teacher evaluation are tied to test results.

That is a reality that we must accept as it does not seem likely to change any time soon.

To put it in perspective, consider that the idea of “teaching to the test� is really teaching the state adopted standards. The tests are designed to allow students to demonstrate that they have mastered understanding of content and skills determined to be appropriate for their particular grade level. With that in mind, teaching the standards is mandatory.

When scores indicate a deficiency, it is our job as educators to consider other assessments that either verify or disprove what the test result has shown. Should a genuine deficiency be identified, steps

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must be taken to re-teach those skills so that your children are attaining needed skills to continue academic progress.

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Ask the Teacher is written by Deb Krupowicz, a mother of four and current teacher. Deb holds a Master’s degree in Curriculum and Instruction and has over twenty years of experience teaching preschool, elementary and middle school students. Please send your questions to her at asktheteacher@daytonparentmagazine.com.

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those in the know

Those in the Know: Fitness Professionals I’m thinking of working with a personal trainer for the first time. What should I look for in someone to make sure it’s a good match?

Personal Training is very…well, personal. You must be willing to share your medical history, family history, medications, goals, fears, ups and downs and know that the trainer will listen, make necessary modifications and help motivate you to reach your goals. When looking for a personal trainer your first questions should be about education, national accredited certification and experience. You want someone with knowledge of anatomy, physiology and general nutrition. Top national certifications are from the American College of Sports Medicine, National Strength and Conditioning Association, American Council on Exercise and National Academy of Sports Medicine. General experience is important unless you are training for a specific athletic activity, then you want to make sure the trainer understands the challenges you will face. For example, training for a triathlon requires more than a basic understanding of how to swim, bike and run. A good match will have all the above qualifications and also exhibit creativity, flexibility and the ability to make your workouts fun all while keeping your personal goals in mind as to yield results in a safe and progressive manner. The best investment you can ever make is in yourself and your health.

Submitted by Becky Cobb, President, Personally Fit

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I tend to get bored with the same exercise routine and quit. What are some new fitness options I could try?

We all tend to get bored with doing routines over and over as this is human nature. Monotony will drive us all mad to a degree.

Nonetheless, there is a remedy!

Group training will open your eyes up to new ideas from a professional outlook. You don’t have the chance to become stagnant in your workouts because they change from class to class! This is just one of the perks, you also get the chance to have someone monitor your form to ensure safety, give you the necessary modifications to each exercise and motivate you when your subconscious feels you have had enough. This is more than just an opportunity to gather a collection of new workouts, this is a great chance to meet new people who share common goals and feed off their energy!

Submitted by Jeremiah Hull, Fitworks Personal Training Manager

I’d like our whole family to become more fit. How can I get my kids up off the couch and excited about exercising?

The healthy lifestyle message of GetUp is every day: 5-eat five fruits and vegetables; 2-no more than two hours of recreational screen time; 1-one hour of physical activity; AND-almost no sugary beverages. If we wish our kids to become happy, healthy, disease-

free adults, we need to be models of healthy lifestyles. Their attitudes toward everything from nutrition to exercise are shaped by our own actions, so being active starts with us. Getting your family involved in exercise will create a culture of wellness and provide quality time together while building individual skills, enhancing self-confidence and creating deeper relationships.

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Start small. We lose motivation when we try to do too much too soon. Running a marathon together as a family may be out of reach, but taking a family walk after dinner isn’t.

Find out what your family likes to do and how you can do that together. As your kids get older, invite their

friends. Your school, YMCA or local recreation center may have family programs.

Put your kids in charge of choosing an activity.

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Be in nature and get the family outside as often as possible.

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Crank up the music and boogie down. Make a game out of household chores. Turn TV commercials into fitness breaks (and take the TV out of children’s bedrooms).

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Whatever the activity, you want to keep the fun in kid fitness.

For more resources, visit www. getupmc.org.

Submitted by Bruce Barcelo MS, CTTS, GetUP Montgomery County

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confessions of a stay-at-home dad

But does it have a basement?

True confessions of a stay-at-home dad Pete Gilbert

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hat was the first question my wife and I would always ask our realtor when she would show us a house. Why was a basement so important to us? Because we have three kids, ages seven, four and two, and their full-time job is making noise. Most weeks they work overtime.

So, after much searching and going to open house visits always asking the same question, we finally found a house – with a basement.

Now, it’s been a year since we moved in and having a basement has changed everything.

First, it’s the best place to send our kids when my wife and I simply need a break. If all five of us are crammed into one room, or the kids are acting like maniacs while we make dinner, we ship them off to the basement. Also, when we have friends over we send their kids to the basement too. I’m not sure how many kids it would hold, but based on experience our basement holds at least twelve rugrats (or shorties, whatever you call your kids).

Don’t feel too bad for my kids though, it’s not like it’s an unfinished dungeon or anything. There’s an art table, games, trucks, toys and more toys. There’s even a television with a Wii and Netflix hooked up to it (I knew we saved that tube TV for a reason.) In fact, it’s more like a multi-purpose room than a basement – where sword fights have taken place, talent shows have been performed, hula hoop competitions have been decided, restaurants have been opened …the list goes on and on.

So, to whomever the first home builder was that dug out a basement in the house he was building, I want to say thank you. I’d also be willing to bet he had kids too.

Happy parenting!

-Pete Don’t forget to “like” my page on Facebook at True Confessions of a Stay at Home Dad for daily updates and links to my blog posts.

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footnotes

Footnotes: Thoughts from the margins of a mom’s life Stealth 101 Kelly Blewett

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e are not sure when my daughter started walking. She was an early, proficient crawler. It seemed that she might never walk, so given was she to crawling. But then, she was standing, pulling herself up on the sofa, edging her way around. “She’ll be walking before she’s ten months,” we predicted. But, alas, it didn’t seem to happen. Or did it?

“Did she just walk?” my husband asked me one day, puzzlement creasing his brow. “She was standing there, but then, suddenly…”

He trailed off, looking at our baby suspiciously. Was she crawling between her stand-ups? If so, why did we never see her sit or rise? “I think she can walk,” I replied, “but she’s secretive about it.”

We tried to test her skills. Ken stood her up on the floor, pointed her toward me. “Walk to Mama!” But no. She would drop and crawl, quick as a little fox. But then, one day, she smiled at us and toddled on wobbling legs from one end of the room to the other. She could walk! And more than walk; the girl was nearly strolling! What was

next? Tap dancing? She’d been practicing on her own, we decided, but had opted to hold opening night until she had a showstopper.

She likes the element of surprise.

She’s been secretive, too, about her waving. She waves beautifully, wagging her hand back and forth at appropriate moments, but never on demand. Does she really like to wave, or is it a coincidence? I honestly can’t say. And then last night, I heard her say to her grandmother “nigh nigh nigh.” Nighty night? What? When did that become part of the vocabulary?

In short, my daughter is growing up too fast. And, sadly, the only thing I do know is that I don’t know how fast it’s all happening. But I do know this. I need to keep a careful eye out, and a listening ear. I need to develop my detective skills and watch this baby daughter of mine. Because she is, in a word, stealthy.

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Saturday | 01 Alice in Wonderland

Times: 1:00 p.m. & 3:30 p.m.

Price: $15 Phone: (937) 228-3630 Location: Victoria Theatre, Dayton www.victoriatheatre.com

With their usual wild inventiveness and ingenious storytelling, The Zoot Theatre Company returns to the Victoria Theatre, with their imaginative and captivating puppets! Get ready for a cunning new production of Lewis Carroll’s ALICE IN WONDERLAND. Experience this fantastical tale like never before with an incredible Cheshire Cat, an over-the-top Queen of Hearts, an amazing Mad Hatter, the bemused Alice herself, and much more. For ages 4-10.

SISTER ACT

Through Sunday, February 2nd Price: $40-$96 Phone: (937) 228-7591 Location: Schuster Performing Arts Center, Dayton http://www.victoriatheatre.com/

Featuring original music by Tony® and 8-time Oscar® winner Alan Menken, SISTER ACT tells the hilarious story of Deloris Van Cartier, a wannabe diva whose life takes a surprising turn when she witnesses a crime and the cops hide her in the last place anyone would think to look—a convent! Under the suspicious watch of Mother Superior, Deloris helps her fellow sisters find their voices as she unexpectedly rediscovers her own.

Recommended for ages 9 and up.

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Groundhogs Galore Time: 10 a.m.

Phone: (937) 275-7275

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Location: Hills & Dales MetroPark, Kettering www.metroparks.org

Continue your Groundhog Day celebration for another day with a naturalist, searching for groundhog holes to see for yourself if there will be six more weeks of winter! Ages :2Y-5Y.

Monday Music Fest: Slap Guitar

Time: 6:30-8:30 p.m.

Price: FREE Phone: 937-435-3700 Location: Woodbourne Library, Centerville http://www.wclibrary.info/

Performed by David Baugham. Enjoy the sounds of music while visiting the library each Monday night in February!

Tuesday | 04

PreSchool Open Gym

Ongoing Each Tuesday Time: 11 a.m.-12 p.m.

Price: $6 per child, max family $15 Phone: 937-743-1466 Location: Hand 2 Hand Gymnastics, Springboro http://hand2handgym.com/

Pre School Open Gym is held every Tuesday from 11:00 am to Noon.

Cost is $6 per child or $12 per family.

Come swing on our ropes, run an obstacle course, play some games, and jump on our trampolines. Fun guaranteed Ages 2 to 6 accompanied by an adult. Advance registration is not required but we must have a current waiver on file. Please check our website for gym closures.

Thursday | 06 Junie B. Jones

Through Friday, February 7th

Times: 9:30 a.m. & 11:30 a.m.

Price: $5 Phone: (937) 228-3630 Location: Victoria Theatre, Dayton www.victoriatheatre.com

JUNIE B. JONES is the entertaining musical based on several books about Junie B.’s first grade experience: Junie B., First Grader (at Last!); Junie B., Boss of Lunch; and Junie B., One-Man Band. The connective tissue tying these stories together is a fourth book, Top-Secret Personal Beeswax: A Journal by Junie B (and Me!), which features diary entries

by Junie, designed to give your students ideas for their own writings and discussions. GRADES: 3-12.

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Antioch Shrine Circus

Through Sunday, February 9th Phone: (937) 229-4433 Location: University of Dayton Arena, Dayton http://www.antiochshrinecircus.com/

3 Big Days, 5 Big Shows! Time to start clowning around!

Saturday | 08 Hawk and Owl Workshop

Time: 6-8 p.m.

Price: $10 Phone: (937) 277-4178 Location: Germantown MetroPark, Germantown http://www.metroparks.org

Explore Ohio’s hawks and owls with a relaxing presentation of their identification characteristics, ecology, and their interactions with people.

Afterwards, take a slow-paced night hike into the forest in search of owls.

Each participant will get an ODNR field guide to Ohio Owls and a CD of their sounds. Reservations required.

Ages 14Y - and up.

Renfro Valley Barn Show

Time: 7:30 p.m.

Price: $22.50 Location: The Murphy Theatre, Wilmington http://www.themurphytheatre.org/

This variety show of talent comes complete with artists proficient in country, bluegrass, gospel and so much more.

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Beginners Ice for Tots

Time: 12-12:30 p.m.

Price: $10 Phone: (937) 274-0126 Location: RiverScape MetroPark, Dayton www.metroparks.org

Join us select Sunday afternoons for our tot’s beginners ice lesson! Your youngster will learn how to sit and stand up on the ice, march in place and across the ice, dip and glide all while gaining confidence in their new abilities. Please arrive 15 minutes prior to start time. Fee includes use of skates.

Valentine’s Tea

Time: 2-4 p.m.

Phone: (937) 293-2841 Location: Carillion Park, Dayton www.daytonhistory.org

Join us for a 19th century afternoon tea at the historic Patterson Homestead. Enjoy hot tea, a variety of breads, tea sandwiches and desserts served by interpreters in 19th century costume. Learn about the Patterson family history and take a tour of the Homestead. Advanced reservations required.

Monday | 10

Alton Brown LIVE! The Edible Inevitable Tour

Price: $30-$50 (Plus service fees.

Phone: (937) 228-3630 Location: Schuster Performing Arts Center, Dayton http://www.schustercenter.org

Alton Brown brings his brand of quirky humor and culinary-science antics to the stage. The 90 minute show is a unique blend of stand-up comedy, food experimentation, talk show antics, multimedia lecture, and, for the first time…live music!

Tuesday | 11

Can a Groundhog be a Weatherman?

Time: 1 p.m.

Phone: (937) 276-7062 Location: Possum Creek MetroPark, Dayton http://www.metroparks.org/Parks/PossumCreek/

Do you think animals can really predict the weather? What about a plant - or a bird? Can you predict the weather? You will be surprised!

Have fun as we learn about seasons.

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Local-made Valentine’s at the Market Time: 11 a.m.-3 p.m.

Phone: (937) 228-2088 Location: 2nd Street Market, Dayton www.metroparks.org

Looking for a handcrafted, one-ofa-kind gift for that special someone? Need the makings of a delicious meal for a romantic night in?

From wine to artisan jewelry to gorgeous bouquets to an assortment of locally-produced sweet treats - the Market is the place to shop for your sweetie! And to show our affection for our customers, we’ll be spreading the love by having sweetheart deals all weekend long - follow us on Facebook and Twitter to learn more!

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Disney Live! Mickey’s Music Festival

Time: 4:00 & 7:00pm Price: $17.00, $25.00, $40.00 (VIP) & $52.00 (Front row), plus parking Phone: (937) 775-3498 Location: Dayton Nutter Center, Dayton www.disneylive.com/MickeysMusicFestival

Disney hits are remixed to the hottest sounds of today featuring hip hop, swing, reggae, rock, country and much more! Mickey Mouse and friends rock the world with the stars from The Little Mermaid, Aladdin and Disney/Pixar’s Toy Story. The irresistible lineup of performers include more than 25 Disney stars featured in this jam session fit for the entire family! You can’t resist dancing, singing, playing your air-guitar and laughing with this band of characters!

Laser Light Show

Through Monday, February 17th Phone: (937) 275-7431 Location: Boonshoft Museum of Discovery, Dayton http://www.boonshoftmuseum.org/

Immerse yourself in the sounds of modern classic albums with “throwback” shows in The Dome! A longtime favorite with Daytonians, these special effects shows bring classic albums to life. Rock to the sounds of Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin and The Beatles while you relax under The Dome of the Caryl D. Philips Space Theater.

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Chocolate & Beer Valentine’s Day 5K & 10K Location: Brixx Ice Company, Dayton www.keysports.net

Enter as a couple or individual. All runners receive a race t-shirt, Kilwins chocolate, after party drink ticket.

Plus, free food & door prizes.

Family Day: Stratos Jump Time: 10 a.m.-3 p.m.

Price: Free

Phone: 937-255-3286 Location: National Museum of the U.S. Air Force. 1100 Spaatz St., Dayton. http://www.nationalmuseum.af.mil/education/family/index.asp

This month’s theme complements the museum’s temporary exhibit highlighting the incredible high-altitude jump from 128,100 feet above the Earth. Learn about gravity, freefall, the speed of sound and more through fun demos and hands-on activities as we commemorate this record breaking feat.

Sunday | 16 Family Backyard Bird Count

Time: 2 p.m.

Phone: (937) 275-7275 Location: Hills & Dales MetroPark, Kettering www.metroparks.org

Want to be a part of the Great Backyard Bird Count of 2014? Join a naturalist on a hike, searching for birds and learning how to conduct your own at home! People all across the US will be counting the birds they see and reporting their sightings online, and you can be a part of this growing program! Bring binoculars if you have them, a limited supply will be available.

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President’s Day Skate

Price: $7 Phone: (937) 274-0126 Location: RiverScape MetroPark, Dayton www.metroparks.org

Celebrate the holiday at MetroParks Ice Rink! Admission includes ice skate rental. No registration required. Age: All ages.

Thursday | 20 2014 Dayton Auto Show

Through Sunday, February 23rd Phone: 937.222.4911 Location: Dayton Convention Dayton www.daytonautoshow.com

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Annual exhibition favorite - featuring new models from a host of dealers, entertaiment and more! Get behind the wheel and experience the available options.

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Hansel and Gretel

Through Sunday, February 23rd Price: $36 | $66 | $87 | $92 Phone: (937) 228-3630 Location: Schuster Performing Arts Center, Dayton http://www.daytonperformingarts.org

Who said that fairy tales are just for kids? This timeless Brothers Grimm favorite is both delightful and haunting, making it an operatic experience for the entire family. All ages will be delighted by the creatures of the forest, brought to life through the magic of the puppetry of the Zoot Theatre Company as well as an overthe-top Witch played by one of our favorite guest singers and directors, Gary Briggle.

Hot Fudge Sundae Sale Weekend

Through Sunday, February 23rd Phone: (937) 325-0629 Location: Young’s Jersey Dairy, Yellow Springs http://youngsdairy.com/

By the end of February, we are still cold but ready for spring to arrive.

We felt a good way to say goodbye to winter was to have a Hot Fudge Sundae Celebration as February ends and March starts. Friday through Sunday at either The Dairy Store or The Golden Jersey Inn a one dip Hot Fudge Sundae is only $1.99! A two dip Hot Fudge Sundae is only $2.99! You choose the flavor of homemade ice cream you want us to make it from, and we’ll add the hot fudge, whipped cream, nuts, and a cherry! What a deal!.

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The Greene Goes Red

Time: 9:30 a.m.

Price: $20 includes t-shirt and refreshments if registered by February 14th Phone: (937) 490-4900 Location: The Greene, Beavercreek www.keysports.net

This movement celebrates the energy, passion, & power women have to band together & wipe out heart disease. The proceeds for this event will go to the American Heart Association.

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The Great Train Show Through Sunday, February 23rd Phone: (937) 278-4776 Location: Hara Arena, Dayton www.greattrainexpo.com

A national, traveling show that caters to the model railroad enthusiast.

The show offers a variety of operating model railroad and toy layouts for the entire family to enjoy in many different scales and gauges. Check them out and get some great ideas for your own layout! If you’re interested in joining a local model railroading club, the Great Train Expo is a great place to visit some of the different clubs in your area and learn more about them.

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Dayton Demonz Hockey vs. Danbury Whalers

Price: Ticket prices vary Phone: (937) 278-4776 Location: Hara Arena, Dayton http://www.haracomplex.com/ Come cheer on the Dayton Demonz Hockey!

Tuesday | 25 Shen Yun

Time: 7:30 p.m.

Price: $50-$120 Phone: (937) 228-3630 Location: Schuster Performing Arts Center, Dayton http://www.shenyun.com/

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5,000 years of Chinese civilization!

With classical Chinese dance, live orchestra, dazzling costumes and animated backdrops, Shen Yun will transport you to another world. Millions have seen Shen Yun. Standing ovations at sold-out theaters around the world have made it a global sensation. Experience a performance that will touch your soul.

Wright State Raider Men’s Basketball vs.

Valparaiso

Time: 7 p.m.

Price: $13.00 & $25.00 Phone: (937) 775-3498 Location: Dayton Nutter Center, Dayton www.wsuraiders.com

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Jammie Leap

Occurring Each Saturday Times: 8:30 AM - 10:00 AM Price: $9.35 per child Phone: (937) 640-3345 Location: Leapfrogs, Miamisburg http://www.leapfrogsplay.com “Come Leap in your Jammies every Saturday morning”! LeapFrogs Party & Play’s Infamous Jammie Leap for the kids who get up early on Saturday mornings! Hop in the car in your jammies and head on down for the best morning fun around!

There’s nothing more fun than playing, partying and bouncing around in your jammies!

The Lion, the Witch & the Wardrobe

Every Fri, Sat & Sun Beginning Friday, February 14th Through Sunday, March 2nd Price: $20 adults, $17 Seniors & Students, $12 Children 12 & under

Phone: (937) 223-5277 Location: Dayton Art Institute, Dayton http://zoottheatrecompany.org/ Zoot Theatre Company takes this classic C.S. Lewis story set in the land of Narnia and faithfully recreates the magic and mystery of Aslan, the great lion, his struggle with the White Witch, and the adventures of four children who inadvertently wander from an old wardrobe into the exciting, neverto-be-forgotten Narnia. The intense action features chases, duels and escapes as the witch is determined to keep Narnia in her possession and to end the reign of Aslan. Recommended for all ages. Perfect for a family outing!

Everything Thomas At EnterTRAINment Junction

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World’s Toughest Rodeo

Through Saturday, March 1st Time: 7:30 p.m.

Phone: (937) 278-4776 Location: Hara Arena, Dayton http://www.haracomplex.com/

A Dayton favorite is returning after almost a decade. World’s Toughest Rodeo is truly a ticket for “fun in a rodeo package”. Whether you are 6 or 66 it is FANtastic. Young and edgy with great music, top professional competition, the best in specialty entertainers, and fan interaction’s a new breed of an old tradition. World’s Toughest Rodeo is truly the nation’s premiere roughstock rodeo.

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day, March 2nd Price: Admission prices start at $9.95; Free parking Phone: (513) 898-8000 Location: EnterTRAINment Junction, West Chester www.entertrainmentjunction.com A kid’s dream come true, an indoor celebration of the world’s most famous tank engine Thomas the Train, with several Thomas wooden train layouts, Thomas HO scale electric train display, videos, Thomas & Friends scavenger hunts and crafts, an indoor train ride, and an incredible hobby & toy shop with the area’s largest selection of Thomas merchandise 15%-50% off.

The Girl Scout Experience

Saturday February 1st Through Friday, February 28th Phone: 937-275-7601 www.girlscoutsofwesternohio.org With Girl Scouting, girls make new

friends and have a ton of experiences that show how exciting the world is. There’s still plenty of time to join Girl Scouting and also participate in the Girl Scout Cookie Program.

Riverscape Metropark Ice Skating

Through Friday, February 28th Time: 11 a.m.-10 p.m.

Phone: (937) 278-2607 Location: RiverScape MetroPark, Dayton http://www.metroparks.org/Parks/ RiverScape/ The ice rink will host outdoor skating starting November 29, 2013 through February 28, 2014. Patrons may skate daily. Monday through Thursdays, there is no admission charge, so if you have your own skates, you can practice your figure-eights for free. Fri, Sat, Sun admission is $7 and includes the use of skates.

At Dayton Parent, we work hard to ensure our calendar and guide information is accurate. Occasionally event specifics change after we go to press. Therefore, we encourage our readers to call locations or visit them on the web to verify information.

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