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WhAT'S COOL AT P U B LI C SCHOOL

I G N I T I N G T H E S PA R K OF L E A R N I NG

GOING OVERBOARD W H E N PA R E N T S HE L P T HE I R ST U DE N T S TOO M UCH

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contents J A N U A R Y 2 0 1 5 // I N D Y S C H I L D . C O M

AROUND TOWN 12

WINTER IN THE CITY

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STAMPS: COLLECTING AND CREATING

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A TREASURE INDEED!

C O M M E N TA R Y & PA R E N T I N G 34

RESEARCH TO REAL WORLD

W O M E N ' S H E A LT H 10

F R O M C H I L D TO YO U N G W O M A N

IN EVERY ISSUE 06 EDITOR'S NOTE 08 COMMUNITY SPOTLIGHT 09

F E AT U R E S

ONLINE BUZZ

RESOURCES & CALENDARS

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EDUC AT ION 101

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SPECIAL NEEDS CALENDAR

Researching the school option right for your child

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SPECIAL NEEDS GUIDE

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EDUCATION & CHILDCARE GUIDE

PREPAR ING FOR A N IEP MEET ING

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DAILY EVENTS

Getting the most out of this important conference

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ONGOING EVENTS

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W HAT ' S COOL AT PUBL IC SCHOOL

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MARKETPLACE

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FUN & WACKY CALENDAR

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GOING OV ERBOARD

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Unique clubs, classes and programs that ignite the spark of learning

What kids lose with parents who help too much

FA ST F R IE NDS

SPECIAL NEEDS 26

AUTISM EARLY INTERVENTION

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SPECIAL NEEDS ADOPTION

Tips for helping kids make healthy friendships

[ON THE COVER] Rhys F r a n k e n, 3 years old Clothes provided by B allerinas and Bruisers in Zionsville Photographer: Katie Destry, www. kati edestry.com

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Educ at ion I ssu e

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hat was your favorite part of school when you were growing up? A special teacher that encouraged you? Finding a club or sport where you connected with new friends? Discovering a class where you excelled? (Or maybe the highlight of your day was lunch and recess!)

School plays such an important role in our kids’ lives – it’s no surprise we put so much effort into finding the right environment where they can thrive.

With the wide variety of academic choices available in our area, determining the best fit can be a challenge however. This month our Education 101 article walks you through a range of options from charter and private schools to homeschool and virtual programs.

Also this month we highlight a few of the unique clubs and classes that are being offered in our local public schools. You will be amazed at what is available to elementary students today! Check out What’s Cool at Public School to learn what educators are doing to get kids excited about coming to school every day.

WEBSITE DESIGN & GRAPHICS ASSISTANT Maria Tancredi | maria@indyschild.com

Do you have a child who has an Individualized Education Program (IEP) in place at school? If you’re new to this process, it can seem confusing and overwhelming. Preparing for an IEP Meeting can help you advocate for your child most effectively and make the most of these important conferences.

Sometimes the best intentions to help kids succeed in school actually become detrimental when parents assume too much responsibility for their child’s work. (Red flag: How often have you thought “I wonder how much homework we have tonight?")

It can be hard to know when we’ve crossed over into helicopter parenting – read Going Overboard for some suggestions to ensure that your student is taking ownership of his own work.

It’s a new year – and a new semester! We wish you the best of luck in both! With this issue we hope you find some helpful information to get your student off to a great start in 2015!

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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Maggie Loiselle, Sarah Bricker-Hunt, Lauren Lawson, Sarah McCosham, Jennifer Garcia, Pete Gilbert, Deb Krupowicz, Kelly Blewett, Jessica Beer, Wendy Schrepferman Chrissy Colgrove of Downtown Indy, Kimberly Harms of The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis

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Historic Hoosier tak e s t he stage Freetown Village Inc. proudly presents the fascinating story of Madam Walker, America’s first female, self-made millionaire!

Her hard work, innovative ideas and fierce dedication to her craft and her people are an inspiration to the community and the country. In honor of her great achievements and the rich legacy she created for women, African-Americans and our city, Freetown Village Inc. has created this one-woman show.

Guests are also invited to tour the exhibits of artifacts and memorabilia from Madame Walker and the Walker Theatre.

Every 3rd Friday through April 17, 2015

Cre at ing a Cult ure of Pe ace The 17th Annual Martin Luther King Community Festival will feature more than 30 local organizations, vendors and community connections. Families will enjoy art workshops, live music, drumming, family yoga, Zumba, poetry, and more! Sponsored by The Peace Learning Center of Indianapolis, this event is the perfect way to celebrate Dr. King’s legacy of peace!

Saturday, January 17, 2015 11:00 am - 3:00 pm Christian Theological Seminary: 1000 West 42nd Street, Indianapolis www.peacelearningcenter.org Free (includes a boxed lunch)

10:00 am - 2:00 pm (several shows occur within this timeframe) Madame Walker Theatre: 623 Indiana Avenue, Indianapolis www.freetownvillage.org | 317.631.1870 Price: Free

Storie s on Sat urdays This free, kids storytelling event is held on the 4th Saturday of each month. Arts for Learning artist and theater buff Will Gould will kick 2015 off to a great start as he dives into your child’s favorite stories and makes them come to life!

Every 4th Saturday January 3, 2015 - May 23, 2015 11:00 am

He art hside Suppers: a unique way to spe nd a win t er e v e ning Prepare and dine on a delicious meal the 19th century way! Families will enjoy a candlelight feast served inside the historic Conner House using recipes straight from the pages of a 19th-century cookbook. Guests will also tour the historic 1823 Conner House, learn about life in 19th-century Indiana from costumed hosts, and enjoy entertainment in the parlor.

Fridays - Sundays in January Thursdays - Sundays in February Tuesdays - Sundays in March 6:00 pm - 9:00 pm Conner Prairie: 13400 Allisonville Road, Fishers www.connerprairie.org | 317.776.6006 Price: $55.00 - $65.00

Indy Reads Books: 911 Massachusetts Avenue, Indianapolis http://indyreadsbooks.org | 317.925.4043 Price: Free

She n Y un ret urns to Indi a napolis For 5,000 years, divine culture flourished in the land of China. Humanity’s treasure was nearly lost, but through music and dance, Shen Yun is bringing back this glorious culture. This breathtaking performance features classically trained dancers, a unique orchestra, exquisite costumes, and dazzling animated backdrops. Shen Yun is the perfect outing for families with children of different ages.

January 16 - 17, 2015 Friday: 7:30 pm Saturday: 2:00 pm and 7:30 pm Clowes Memorial Hall at Butler University: 4602 Sunset Avenue, Indianapolis www.cloweshall.org | 317.940.6444 Price: $60.00 - $120.00

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WO M E N ' S H E A LT H / / B R ANDED CONTENT

From Child to Young Woman A girl’s changing body, first visit to gynecologist A girl’s first period ushers in a time of great discovery and, sometimes, great confusion. Or, in Lily’s case, great “grossness.”

Lily, whose name had to be changed because she was so embarrassed by this interview, got her first period a year ago, at age 11. Her reaction? “Oh, no! Not yet.

When does it stop? Age 50 or something?” She can’t tell for sure which of her friends have started menstruating. “We don’t talk about it. Gross,” she retorts, inching toward the exit in nervous laughter until one foot sits just outside the door. And there lies the challenge of

parents trying to talk to their daughters about puberty.

It’s a time when young girls like Lily see their bodies change and are exposed to a slew of new information – some true, some false, some wild exaggerations whispered by fellow pubescent girls. It’s a great time for a first visit to the gynecologist.

Lacee Melevage, a women’s health nurse practitioner at Women’s Health Alliance at St.Vincent Carmel, sees that dynamic often.

“Initial gynecological care of an adolescent patient involves mostly

providing education, both to the child and her parent, about what’s normal, what to expect in terms of physical changes, addressing myths and providing reassurance for her fears and anxieties.”

Common concerns that should be addressed during a girl’s adolescent years include: • Pelvic pain • Cramps • Menstrual irregularities • Breast health An initial appointment can be made at any age after a girl begins menstruating. Whether that appointment is set immediately after the menstrual cycle starts or later when a problem occurs, either scenario is appropriate.

Melevage, whose practice will play a prominent role when St.Vincent Carmel Women’s Center opens in the spring, is mindful that some parents are comfortable educating their daughters about body and life changes, while others are not. “This is where my role comes into play,”

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she says. In any event, “this is an important time to teach young women about their changing bodies and how to take care of them.”

It’s a conversation girls like Lily need to have but often avoid. When asked whether she has any questions or concerns about her body and the changes she’s experiencing, Lily’s answer is an expected one: “Nope! None! I’m good!” – she replies, giggling and burying her face in a pillow. What about pads and other period supplies? “Ew, I don’t even want to go there,” she counters.

Parents want their daughters to be healthy, confident and knowledgeable. But sometimes it takes a professional to help get past the giggles.

To schedule an appointment with St.Vincent Carmel Women's Health Alliance, call 317-582-9500 or visit 3384HER.com to learn more.

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A RO UN D TOWN

Winter in the City Indoor fun this January!

Chrissy Colgrove, Downtown Indy

The weather outside is frightful, but downtown Indy has a variety of warm, family-friendly events to enjoy! From sports to music to Disney princesses, this January can fill up quickly with fun activities to keep you and your little ones entertained.

Trifecta of sports Head inside and watch some of Indy’s best sports teams in action.

Catch one or more of the eight Indy Fuel hockey games at the Indiana State Fairgrounds January 2, 3, 9, 23, 24, 28, 30 and 31. Cheer on the Pacers at one of six home games (January 9, 13, 16, 27, 29 and 31).

See the world famous Harlem Globetrotters at Bankers Life Fieldhouse on January 19.

Hot jazz for cool kids The Indianapolis Public Central Library invites families to enjoy a performance by Indy’s leading jazz musicians, Kenny Phelps and Friends, on January 11. In addition to jazz music, the program will include interactive fun. Phelps will help the audience understand the building blocks of jazz: rhythm, melody and improvisation.

Cozy up and watch a movie Escape the cold and cozy up during a classic film at the Winter Night Film series presented by the Indianapolis Museum of Art. Films are played Fridays at 8 pm in the Toby Room and include: O Brother,

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Where Art Thou?, The Wizard of Oz, Spirited Away, Fargo and A Hard Day’s Night. For more information, visit the IMA’s website.

Disney on Ice presents Treasure Trove Get caught up in Disney’s ice skating spectacular - Disney On Ice presents Treasure Trove. See your favorite Disney princesses like Rapunzel, Tiana, Cinderella, Ariel, Sleeping Beauty, Belle and Snow White. Sail around with Peter Pan and Tinker Bell or journey the wild with Simba and Nala. The show is offered nine times from January 21 – 25.

Experience the magic Bring the family together at the IndyFringe Winter Magic Festival January 22 - 25. The series includes rarely seen magic shows performed by world famous magicians. New this year: a World Championship of Magic Showcase highlighting quick 10-minute acts by world champion magicians. Tickets are $15 or $8 for children under 12.

[Indianapolis audiences will enjoy over 50 different Disney characters in the cast of Disney On Ice presents Treasure Trove!]

Want more downtown events? Visit Downtown Indy’s website (www.downtownindy.org) and sign up for the newsletter to have top events emailed to you each week.

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Stamps: Collecting and Creating Kimberly Harms, Director Media Public Relations, The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis

Winter is upon us, the kids are trapped inside for hours at a time and parents everywhere are searching for creative ways to prevent “glued to the tube syndrome” and video game trances.

A recent exhibit at The Children’s Museum of Indianapolis inspired our scout troop to try something new that combines recycling with starting a collection and creating art. Stamp Art featured 94-year-old artist Shirley Baskin Familian who collects canceled postage stamps to sort and repurpose as mosaic art. She has created everything from stamp-covered spheres and musical instruments to a mannequin named Coco who resembles a tattoo covered model.

If you think about it, this is a brilliant concept with multiple learning layers. First of all, collections build organizational skills as one has to figure out how to sort and catalog items. You can encourage your child to customize her stamp collection however she wants - by animals, birds, colors, flowers, musicians, sports, world leaders or even by country. With the exception of Great Britain, all postage stamps must have the name of the country of issuance on them. Great Britain doesn't because it was the first nation to have a postal system utilizing

stamps. See, you learned something already!

Stamps in particular are a wonderful tool to help children understand history, other cultures and the subject matter depicted on the stamps. For example, who is the person pictured on the stamp?

What did he or she do to become famous? What does the image on the stamp commemorate? What do certain animals have in common?

Your child could even start a pen pal relationship and learn about the arts and culture of other nations while collecting.

You could even encourage your child to create a piece of art for the people who donate stamps so it becomes a creative outlet.

Ms. Familian also has fun making holiday cards and birthday cards out of stamps -- another creative, indoor project for kids of all ages.

For more ideas, check out: American Philatelic Society – Just for Kids British North America Philatelic Society – for Kids How to start a collection http://stamps.org/Starting-aCollection Shirley Baskin Familian's website at http://shirleyfamilian.com/

The American Philatelic Society is a great resource and has a “Just for Kids” section with fun and educational ideas. “They don't realize that they're learning, but they might discover a stamp that they like that has the name of a country that they don't recognize or know. Their natural curiosity is going to kick in, and they are going to find the answer,” says Gretchen Moody, Director of Education at the American Philatelic Society. In the process, families can research, discover and learn together while having fun.

Stamp collecting is a familyfriendly hobby that is easy to start without a big investment. Just ask friends and relatives to share stamps they receive on their mail.

photo cREDIT // THE CHILDREN'S MUSEUM OF INDIANAPOLIS

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E d u cat i o n 1 0 1 Researching the school option right for your child

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reater Indianapolis is home to a wide variety of school alternatives. While parents are fortunate to have so many choices available, the sheer number of options can leave one wondering where to start. Here we explain some of the key differences among the various types of schooling available in our area.

Public and charter schools Each district is unique in how it designs its educational system, but it is typical to see several elementary schools feeding into a few middle or junior high schools, culminating in one or two high schools. Some districts allow for “school of choice” designations, meaning parents can select a specific school within the district.

Charter schools receive public funding but are run independently. “Charter schools were created to increase competition for students and provide more choice for parents, especially for low-income

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and minority students from diverse backgrounds,” explains Katherine Beckwith, Regional Community Engagement Coordinator for Indiana Math and Science Academies.

Application required?

Sometimes. Indianapolis Public Schools, for instance, requires applications to many of its magnet schools, and some have extensive waiting lists. Charter schools require applications.

Tuition?

Find out more:

Application required?

The Archdiocese of Indianapolis website (http:// oce.archindy.org/catholic-schools) provides a wealth of information for families interested in Catholic education. The School Digger website (www.schooldigger.com) offers an extensive database of private schools throughout the state.

Virtual schools require an extensive application process to verify a student’s identity, school and medical history. Homeschool families follow state standards for notification to the local district.

Tuition?

Montessori schools “Montessori” is an educational approach designed

by Maria Montessori. Classrooms are mixed age and the approach includes a great deal of child-led choice, movement, and hands-on discovery.

Most virtual/e-schools are free to families, including all materials and a computer.

Homeschooling is tuition-free, but curricula choices run the gamut from free to thousands of dollars a year.

Generally, no. Charter schools are tuition-free.

Application required?

Find out more: The My IPS website (www.myips.org/schools) includes details about every school in the district.

Input your zip code to find charter schools near you at the Great Schools website (www. greatschools.org). Visit the Indiana Math & Sciences Academy website (www.imsaindy.org) for information about this college-prep charter school, which has been given an “A” ranking by the Indiana Department of Education.

Usually. Some Montessori schools are public schools and don’t require a formal application.

Private Montessori schools always do.

Tuition?

Private schools are not required to follow some of the federal and state laws that apply to public schools, especially in regards to curriculum.

Parochial (religion-centered) schools fall under the private category.

Application required?

Yes. Requirements vary widely.

Tuition?

Yes. Financial assistance is often available, and academic scholarships can be earned at some private schools in later years. Some private schools will work with you to establish a payment plan, while others require full payment upfront.

Check on these details early in the process if the cost is a major concern for your family.

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Go to the Indiana Department of Education website (www.doe.in.gov) to read about homeschool requirements in Indiana. A few online schools to check out are Connections Academy, Hoosier Academies, Indiana Online Academy, Indiana Virtual Academy, Indiana Virtual School and Indiana University High School.

Tuition is required at private Montessori schools.

Find out more:

Private schools

Find out more:

Check out the United Montessori Schools of Indiana website (www.umsindiana.org) for a directory of Montessori schools across the state.

For more general information about the Montessori method, try the American Montessori Society website. Locally, contact Maria Montessori International Academy or Village Montessori School to get started.

Homeschool and virtual school Parents who opt to exercise the legal right to homeschool file a notice with their local district and follow other state laws to report back to the district about their child’s educational progress.

Some families choose to purchase a pre-set curriculum, while others opt for a more relaxed or hands-on approach. Virtual, or e-schools, are sometimes considered a subset of homeschool since most schoolwork is conducted at home, on a computer. However, students enrolled in these schools are actually classified as public students in a statewide district. They follow a curriculum provided by the virtual school and check in with state certified teachers on a regular basis.

The right educational environment for your student is out there – with a little homework you can find the best fit to help your child have a happy and successful school experience!

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ndianapolis mom Erin S. first learned about Individualized Education Programs, or IEPs, when her youngest son was identified as having ADHD. “Prior to him being diagnosed, I hadn’t even heard of IEPs,” she says.

Her son is now in second grade and doing very well says Erin. However, she recalls how confusing that initial period was, and says she wishes she’d known more about what to expect. Between the meetings, acronyms and testing, the IEP process can seem overwhelming for many parents.

What is an IEP? The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) is a federal law that guides how states, school districts and public agencies provide early intervention, special education and related services to children with disabilities. Under IDEA, when a child is suspected of having a learning disability, schools must follow a process called Response to Intervention, or RTI. This is the evaluation process that determines whether or not a student has a learning disability as defined by the school.

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If the evaluation determines that there is a disability that adversely affects the child’s education, an IEP is developed for the student. The IEP outlines specific goals teachers will work on with the student, what instruction will need to take place to help the child meet the IEP’s goals, and how much time/services the child needs.

Who is in the IEP meeting?

The student’s IEP is developed during a meeting with a team of professionals from the school. Mary Ann Scott, Director of Student Support Services & The Learning Project at Park Tudor School says that the IEP team is generally comprised of the child’s general education teacher, a member of

the assessment/evaluation team, an administrator, a teacher licensed in the child’s area of disability, the parent and under some circumstances, the child.

Scott says parents should pencil in up to two hours for the first meeting.

Once the IEP is in place, it’s effective for one calendar year minus one day, or 364 days. While IEP meetings generally happen once a school year, they can be scheduled more frequently to discuss or reevaluate progress, explains Scott.

What should parents ask?

While every IEP meeting is different, there are some common areas that every parent should expect to be covered. Dr. Karol Farrell, recently retired Director of Special Services at Indianapolis’s Washington Township Schools, says that parents should ask the following questions: • How can I assist in helping my child make progress?

• What are some things I can do at home?

• How can we [parents and IEP team members] work together to make sure my child is progressing?

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Is my child making progress? (after the first IEP meeting) If not, why not? What can be changed?

Scott recommends parents review the Indiana Department of Education’s website to review education services and laws prior to their first IEP meeting. Dr. Farrell adds that INSOURCE is a helpful resource in Indiana that provides education and training to parents of kids with special needs.

These tools can help educate parents on different elements of IEPs, such as 504 plans, which state the modifications and accommodations that will be needed for a student to perform at the same level as his or her peers, which are often part of a student’s IEP. More information on Indiana’s Special Education laws and services can be found at: www. doe.in.gov/specialed.

With so much information to process, it’s easy for parents to get confused during their IEP meeting.

“Parents need to make sure they understand what is being said,” explains Scott. “There is often a lot of educational jargon and acronyms used during this meeting. Parents should not feel ignorant in asking questions, as educators sometimes don’t even realize they are using too much jargon. Ask for clarification -- and then clarification of the clarification if necessary.”

How can I help my child?

As a parent, you know your child best, so if you have concerns don’t hesitate to bring them up. “Parents have a great deal of power in the IEP meeting – and if they disagree with something that is, or is not, included in the plan, they should respectfully speak up in advocating for their child,” says Scott.

Erin adds these thoughts: “It’s important for parents to be as educated as possible -- you are your child’s best advocate. I wish I’d known more when my son was diagnosed. Know that everyone at the school is there to help you and your child, so work together.”

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at pu bl ic s chool Unique clubs, classes and programs that ignite the spark of learning Lauren Lawson

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tudent engagement is the spark that lights a flame of interest, which can ignite a fire that grows into a passion. In order to engage a curious student, an educational program must attract children on a real level – stimulating their interests and helping them grow into lifelong learners, not just yearlong students.

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Our local public schools are doing just that, creating special activities that challenge kids to think in innovative ways and open up their world to new possibilities. Here are just a few of the unique programs offered in our area schools.

Lew Wallace Elementary School PS 107

learn how to perform different tasks and experiments. The Website Design Club offers students lessons in creating websites through a program called wix.com. These two clubs introduce Lew Wallace kids to the skills and abilities needed in today’s workforce. The school is hoping to find volunteers who can share their knowledge on coding and website design. If you are interested in sharing your talents, contact Principal Floyd.

Indianapolis Public School District Lew Wallace Elementary offers two new pilot programs that combine technology with future opportunity. Open to 5th and 6th grade students, the Coding Club and the Website Design Club teach kids about building a website and software coding. Using a free online website called code.org, students in the Coding Club

Clarence Farrington Elementary School PS 61 Indianapolis Public School District Clarence Farrington Elementary has kids developing money management skills in their

Young Bankers Club, a program that partners with Fifth Third Bank to give 6th grade students an opportunity to learn about strategic financial issues. In the Young Bankers Club, students are asked to participate in a stock market challenge, where they are given a pretend amount of $5,000 and asked to purchase a stock.

Students then track the progress of their stock to learn how market conditions can affect their investments. At the end of this program, the winners of the stock market challenge will be invited to the Fifth Third Bank’s headquarters for breakfast with the bank’s president. By investing in their students, Clarence Farrington is giving elementary kids the knowledge needed to invest in their own futures.

James A. Garfield Elementary School PS 3 Indianapolis Public School District James A. Garfield Elementary School has started a local food movement with their very own Community Garden, a program that teaches students about the connection between food and nutrition. Started by Sarah McAfee, a Parent and Community Coordinator at Garfield, the garden was built in an empty lot across from the school.

Distressed by her student’s accessibility to healthy foods, Sarah decided to grow this garden in order to educate students and their families on the benefits of eating healthy. Teachers form lesson plans

around the garden and students physically maintain the area during the school day.

Families at the school are encouraged to take home the local and organic fruits and vegetables that are produced in the garden as well.

Winding Ridge Elementary: School of Inquiry and Performing Arts Metropolitan School District of Lawrence Township Winding Ridge Elementary teaches its students about the simple act of kindness through the Sparrow Club.

This club invites students in grades 4 - 6 to perform simple acts of kindness within their own community. This year, the Sparrow Club has chosen to tackle assorted projects in order to raise money for a local family with a young child who needs medical assistance. The Sparrow Club is more than a fundraiser; it helps to teach kids the joy of helping others and the meaning of selflessness.

What unique programs does your public school offer?

Send a message to editor@indyschild.com to share your stories!

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E A R LY I N T E RV EN T ION Don’t hesitate if you suspect a problem Maggie Loiselle

Growing awareness about autism is fueling a push for earlier intervention aimed at shoring up deficits in a child’s brain development giving them a better chance to catch up. Children often aren’t officially diagnosed with autism until around age two, but mounting research shows that work on a child’s social and communication skills before then can be crucial to future development.

“Early intervention is important because the earlier you start working on any deficits, the more impact you’re going to have in the future,” says Vince LaMarca, a board certified behavior analyst and Clinical Director for Little Star Center, a nonprofit network of Applied Behavior Analysis centers and in-home programs. “Once they have learned a set of skills, it snowballs.”

Don’t wait for a diagnosis Where can parents start if they suspect a problem?

In Indiana, First Steps – a federally mandated early intervention program for children from birth to three years old with developmental delays or other disabilities – does not require a medical diagnosis.

Instead, a child is evaluated in several areas of childhood development, including cognitive, physical, communication, social and emotional capacities. A child is typically eligible for services if he or she shows delays of 25 percent or more in one area or delays of 20 percent in two or more areas, or if he or she has a diagnosed condition that has a high probability of resulting in a developmental delay.

The initial evaluation is performed at no cost to the family.

“We encourage parents not to wait for a diagnosis to seek out services,” says First Steps Director Cathy Robinson. “The 0 to 3 year old age period is a critical time for intervention.”

Robinson, whose own child went through the First Steps program, encourages parents to visit the program’s web site or call their local office at 317-257-BABY for preliminary information.

Repetition and intensity

LaMarca also recommends the resources at AutismSpeaks.org and the treatment comparison information at ASATOnline.org, the website for the Association for Science in Autism Treatment.

Early intervention, especially for very young children, may seem more like play than traditional therapy, but ABA strategies that include repetition and intensity are key to making real progress, LaMarca says.

At Little Star Center’s facilities, therapists follow a learner’s lead to see what he or she is interested in, and then use that to reinforce developing skills such as imitation, learning to request and joint attention.

“It’s not like you can do a tiny bit of training and have it generalize throughout the day,” LaMarca stresses. “It’s the time that you’re teaching that increases the skills. It’s the time you’re not teaching that doesn’t increase skills.”

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Important Milestones: Your Child at One Year Act early by talking to your child’s doctor if your child: • Doesn’t crawl

Similarly, Robinson emphasizes the family focus of First Steps, which not only coordinates services for children but also provides parents with guidance on how to assist their child. “We’re a little different from clinical programs in that First Steps trains parents on what they can do for their child in the course of their day,” she says. “What we’re doing in the home on a daily, weekly or monthly basis is important, but it’s what parents do on a daily basis that is really critical.”

• Can’t stand when supported • Doesn’t search for things that she sees you hide

• Doesn’t say single words like “mama” or “dada” • Doesn’t learn gestures like waving or shaking head • Doesn’t point to things • Loses skills he once had

Getting started For parents who believe their child may have a developmental delay, experts stress there is not any age that’s too young to seek support.

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He stresses that the earlier intervention can begin the better. “Prior to early intervention, children are learning to cope with the world any way they can, and the longer they do that, the longer they may be learning bad habits – coping versus thriving,” LaMarca says. “The earlier the intervention can get started, the less there is that has to be unlearned.”

Source: The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention website at www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/ actearly/milestones/milestones-1yr.html

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SPECI A L NEEDS ADOPTION Opening your home to kids most in need Maggie Loiselle

“Do you think anyone will want me?”

The quiet question from a 14 year-old girl with special needs still sticks with Anna Wolak, Director of Adoption Recruitment for the Children’s Bureau Inc., which works in partnership with the Indiana Department of Child Services to find families for at-risk children.

“No child should have to wonder about whether or not someone will want him or her,” she says.

Indiana’s Special Needs Adoption Program, or SNAP, was established in 1989 and applies to children in the custody of the state who are defined as hard-to-place, that is, two years or older or those who have a sibling who is two or older. Many of the children seeking homes also have special needs, ranging from autism to physical challenges and emotional issues.

Wolak and her team compile profiles for the bimonthly Picture Book (also available online at www.adoptuskids.org/states/in/browse. aspx). Medical privacy laws prohibit them from listing specific diagnoses, but they aim to give a comprehensive look at the child’s needs, personality and wishes for a new family.

“We are an extension of their voice, especially when they have diagnoses that prevent them from being able to tell us what they need,” Wolak says. “We are finding families for children because every child deserves a family.”

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For Gary and Chanda Lacy, they know that their four adopted daughters, who all have special needs, were meant to be with them. The couple became foster parents in 2009 and cared for 12 children before adopting sisters Savannah, 13, and Anna, 7, in 2011 and then Jasmine, 6, and Bella, 5, also sisters, in 2012.

Savannah and Anna have developmental delays due to neglect suffered as babies, Gary says.

Savannah has been diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder, Autism Spectrum Disorder and mild retardation, and Anna’s delays are a result of failure to thrive as an infant, when her birth parents gave her water instead of milk or formula.

Jasmine and Bella were removed from a filthy, abusive home where they were often left alone.

Jasmine has struggled emotionally but is developmentally on track, says Gary, while Bella has cerebral palsy and speech delays.

“There are a lot of challenges, but it's amazing to see them grow,” he says. “These are the kids who other people have given up on. We know it's not going to be an easy road, but you just do it.”

Chanda homeschools all four girls, and the couple continues to attend classes and trainings to learn how to help their daughters heal and grow. Gary says it’s a steep learning curve, but stresses that he wants the girls to know that no matter how many times they were moved around in the past, this family is forever.

“We just have patience and show them love.

They went through the beginning of their life without the love they needed. They're not going to learn overnight. You, as parents, have to be patient. They're adjusting to normalcy.”

Indiana’s Special Needs Adoption process includes training, background checks and a home study, which must have a recommendation from SNAP officials. Wolak encourages families considering adoption to look through the Picture Book and read the children’s stories. “These children are sweethearts,” she says. “A lot of them do want a home, even if they can’t express it because of some of the challenges they face."

For more information about adopting a special needs child, call 888-25-ADOPT or learn more at: www.in.gov/dcs/2730.htm

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JANUARY SPECIAL NEEDS EVENTS

SPECIAL NEEDS CALENDAR S AT 01 High Functioning Autism Parent Support Group Time: 9:30 AM, Price: Free, Location: White River Christian Church, www.wrcc.org/specialneeds

Sun 11 Love Does Kick-Off Meeting, Adult Special Ministries Program Time: 4:00 PM to 5:00 PM, Location: St Luke's United Methodist Church This is a kick-off meeting to establish the meeting time and our Love Does Activity, following the group discussions based on the Study Guide to Bob Goff's book: Love Does. Refreshments will be served. One does not have to be a member of the church.

Come Greet, Meet and Eat with us.

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Down Syndrome Indiana D.A.D.S. Community Group Meeting

Adaptive Bowling

Time: 6:30, Location: George's Neighborhood Grill DSI D.A.D.S. monthly meetings are held on the second Tuesday of every month at 6:30 p.m. for fathers of children with Down syndrome. DSI D.A.D.S. will pick up the check for your meal and the soft drinks. Contact Mike Byron at mbyron@pedcor.net for more information.

Time: 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM, Price: $21, Location: Woodland Bowling Center, www.carmelclayparks.com Do you want to have a fun and exciting Friday evening with good friends? Come join us for an enjoyable evening of bowling at Woodland Bowling Center. The fee includes two games of bowling and your shoe rental. Let's make some memories together. For ages 18 and up.

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Hendricks County Special Olympics' Spirit Bowl

Time: 6:00 PM to 10:00 PM, Price: Free, Location: Trinity Wesleyan Church

Time: 1:00 PM, Price: $20, Location: Western Bowl, http:// soindiana.org/event/2015-spirit-bowl/

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Storytime Express @ the Monon Center – Superheroes

Time: 6:30 PM to 8:00 PM, http://www.iidc.indiana.edu/ index.php?pageId=3719 Speaker: Catherine Davies, MEd, MSc, LMHC, Sponsored by: Southside Special Services

Location: Monon Community Center, Phone: 317-848-7275, www.carmelclayparks.com This fast-paced interactive mix of fun-filled stories, rhymes, and songs paired with a simple craft is designed to introduce and practice critical early literacy skills. The shorter length and fast pace make it perfect for active children with short attention spans. Younger siblings are welcome. Registration for this free program is required, one week prior to the start date of the program.

W eds 21 Autism Family Resource Center Parents’ Support Group Time: 5:30 PM to 7:00 PM, Price: Free, Location: Easter Seals Crossroads, Contact Amy Miller at 317-466-1000 Ext. 2488

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SPECIAL NEEDS GUIDE ABA Autism Services by Damar ABA provides proven research-based treatments and interventions for children with Autism and their families, ensuring that children learn, gain confidence and purpose, and engage in meaningful interactions in their everyday lives. 9905 Fall Creek Road, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Kristin Dovenmuehle, Director, Phone: 317-813-4690, Email: info@damar. org, www.DamarABA.org

Applied Behavior Center for Autism Carmel CENTER

ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Our new Carmel center is also home to our state-of-the-art indoor, therapeutic pool. This is home to our special needs swim lessons and free open swim days. 1341 Old Merdian St, Carmel, IN 46032 , Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-573-KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www. appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www.facebook.com/ autismhope

Applied Behavior Center for Autism Early Childhood Center ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Our Early Childhood Center (ECC) is a highly specialized center in which clients ages 2-6 grow and develop through individualized programming, typical peer interaction, and early intervention ABA therapy.

7857 E. 88th St, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-849-KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www. appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www.facebook.com/ autismhope

Applied Behavior Center for Autism Greenwood CENTER ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Our beautiful Greenwood facility offers individualized one-on-one therapy programs for children and teens ages 2 and older. 374 Meridian Parke Lane, Greenwood, IN 46142, Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-889-KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www. applied behaviorcenter.org, www.facebook.com/ autismhope

BEHAVIORWORKS ABA We work with you! BehaviorWorks provides Early Intervention for Autism and Indiana Medicaid Waiver Behavior Support Services. BehaviorWorks is a team you can grow with. We use the evidence-based strategies of ABA to create effective behavioral solutions. Are you looking for a fresh perspective? Take action for positive change with BehaviorWorks. 8206 Rockville Road No. 146, Indianapolis, IN 46234 Contact: Ann Baloski, Executive Director, Phone: 317-436-0037, Email: info@behaviorworksaba.com, www.behaviorworksaba.com

Children's Therapy Connection Applied Behavior Center for Autism IndIANAPOLIS North CENTER ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Indy North is our corporate office which also offers individualized one-on-one therapy programs for children and teens ages 2 and older. 7901 E. 88th St, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-849KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www.appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www.facebook. com/autismhope

Applied Behavior Center for Autism IndIANAPOLIS West CENTER ABC for Autism is proud to be Indiana's largest and longest running ABA therapy provider. With 7 locations throughout the state, we offer high quality one-on-one ABA and verbal behavior consulting and therapy. Our Indy West center is proud to offer individualized one-on-one therapy programs for children and teens ages 2 and older. 6865 Parkdale Place, Indianapolis, IN 46254, Contact: Sheiletha Quinn, Phone: 317-849-KIDS, Email: Sheiletha@appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www. appliedbehaviorcenter.org, www.facebook.com/ autismhope

Children’s Therapy Connection is a therapist-owned and family-operated pediatric therapy provider in Indianapolis. We strive to be the provider of choice in central Indiana for quality, comprehensive, and familycentered pediatric therapy services for families of children with disabilities. Services we offer include: First Steps, private PT, OT, and Speech Therapy, Social Skills/ Communication/Gross Motor Playgroups, Feeding Groups, Kindermusik, Apraxia Groups, Hanen Programs, and Therapeutic Yoga for Kids. Visit our website or follow us on Facebook to see how we are Connecting Kids with Their Potential! 7424 Shadeland Station Way, Indianapolis, IN 46256, Phone: 317-2887606, Email: info childrenstherapy connection.com, www.childrenstherapy connection.com

Special Smiles Pediatric Dentistry Dr. Satterfield-Siegel is a Board Certified Pediatric Dentist specializing in providing dental care for infants, children and patients that have special needs. We provide routine dental care, fillings, in office sedations and hospital dentistry for all of our patients. We build long-lasting relationships with our families through active listening and understanding. New patients are welcomed! 10801 N Michigan Rd Suite 210, Carmel, IN 46077, Contact: Jennifer Satterfield-Siegel, D.D.S., Phone: (317) 873 3448, Email: info@specialsmilesdentistry.com, www.specialsmilesdentistry.com

Behavior Analysis Center for Autism BACA The Behavior Analysis Center for Autism (BACA) has four locations throughout Indiana. This includes BACA 1 and Prep in Fishers, BACA Z in Zionsville and BACA Hart in Elkhart. BACA uses the principles and procedures of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) to teach language, social, self-help, academic, daily living and life skills to children ages 2-21 with autism and related disorders. BACA was established by Dr. Carl Sundberg and a group of highly trained Board Certified Behavior Analysts. 11902 Lakeside Drive, Fishers, IN 46038, Contact: Devon Sundberg, Phone: 317-288-5232, Email: dsundberg@thebaca.com, www.thebaca.com

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AROUND TOWN

A Treasure Indeed!

Discover endless riches when Disney On Ice presents Treasure Trove comes to Indianapolis!

Wendy Schrepferman

This lavish production presents a medley of beloved Disney material from the first, full-length animated Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs feature, to the 50th Disney installment, Tangled. With eight different films and over 50 Disney characters portrayed, there is a story to inspire every generation.

Which char acters are coming to Indy?

Don’t be late for an important date with: Alice in Wonderland and friends

Set sail and swim with:

Energetic hosts, Mickey, Minnie, Donald, and Goofy give Disney On Ice presents Treasure Trove that variety show feel. Some story lines are fully developed while others are woven throughout the various scenes.

Michael Hovda, Senior Director of Domestic Ice and Stage Operations, explains the philosophy behind the show’s format. “We want to bring Disney right to your hometown so all families can experience all the characters, all the stories, and all the magic right in front of them.”

Disney On Ice presents Treasure Trove boasts award-winning music, remarkable costuming and mesmerizing special effects. Add the heartwarming Disney stories and cast of world-class professional figure skaters and the result is beyond compare!

Hovda began his career with Disney On Ice as a professional skater.

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Peter Pan, Tinker Bell, Captain Hook and Ariel

Explore the kingdoms of: Beauty and The Beast Prince Charming and Cinderella Prince Phillip and Aurora Flynn Rider and Rapunzel Aladdin and Jasmine [A young audience member is selected to assist Rapunzel and Flynn Rider with the magical lantern launch.]

Human Resources Director before becoming involved with the operations side.

“It’s been a huge advantage coming into this role as a former cast member. I have an important perspective about what it’s like to be on the road nine to eleven months of the year. I know how to support the cast as they work to train, improve technique and gain character knowledge.”

responds without pause. “Disney On Ice and Feld Entertainment are experts when it comes to exceptional guest experiences.

Every show is fresh, and our characters and stories resonate differently with each person in the audience from year to year.”

Trek the wilds of Africa with:

Disney On Ice presents Treasure Trove

Enjoy the story that inspired it all:

Bankers Life Fieldhouse January 21-25, 2015 1-800-745-3000

When asked to respond to patrons who worry about attending the show two or more years in a row, Hovda

Naveen and Tiana

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Simba, Nala, Pumbaa, Timon and friends

Witness the strength and bravery of: Mulan and The Incredibles

Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs

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Research to Real World:

What good is an imaginary friend?

Jessica Beer, PhD

Children with imaginary companions show stronger narrative skills

Would you be surprised to find out that nearly two-thirds of children report having an imaginary companion during their childhood?

Some friends are invisible while others are personified in an object like a doll or stuffed animal.

Regardless of this distinction, children consider their imaginary companion as a separate other, and engage in simulated social interactions and role-play with the imaginary companion just as they would a real friend.

Research in the past decade has provided an abundance of support for the benefit of imaginary companionship, placing the phenomena in the realm of typical development. Parents just think of them as really cool and fascinating imaginative things kids do that we must know more about!

Studying imaginary companionship is not easy. First, you have to cross your fingers that a good percentage of children in your overall group will report having an imaginary friend.

That is why most researchers choose to study preschoolers, who are at the height of imaginative play. Also, you hope parents can corroborate the existence of the friend, which happens about half of the time.

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Narrative skill is the ability to retell a story from beginning to end, reporting details like characters and events, as well as the main idea. It is one of the most complex expressions of language in early childhood because it is decontextualized from real-time activities and draws heavily on working memory (keeping ideas in mind while talking) and planning (reporting details in order of how they happened).

(Is it created in the child’s likeness? If not, whose likeness and why? How long does an imaginary friend stick around?) than we do about differences between children with and without imaginary companions.

So what are some of the benefits of having an imaginary companion?

Having an imaginary companion facilitates private speech Private speech is a developmental term for talking to yourself. We all do it, especially when we are working on a challenging task like new math or trying to remember why you opened the fridge. In young children, private speech represents an important developmental transition between using language to communicate (e.g.,

“I want a snack”) and using language to think (e.g., planning in your head how you will put down your Legos and then eat a snack). Children can actually solve problems better (e.g., how to get the cookies off a high shelf) when they are talking to themselves than when they are instructed to solve the same problem without talking to themselves.

So how would having an imaginary companion facilitate private speech?

Children engage their imaginary companions similarly in dialogue as their real friends and this imaginary back and forth series of exchanges is just practicing private speech: they are thinking, planning and taking perspective with every conversational turn.

Researchers asked children with and without imaginary companions to retell a story that was read to them and to retell a past experience (e.g., a visit to the beach). Results showed that children with imaginary companions told richer and more detailed narratives than children without imaginary companions, even though children had the same vocabulary level.

So embrace that invisible friend, encourage the pretend dialogue and just enjoy them because, as with everything regarding our children, it won’t last long and when it’s over you’ll be wishing for more!

Developmental psychologist Jessica Beer combines her real world experience as a mother with her professional training as a researcher to provide parents with a practical way to apply the most current findings in childhood development research to their everyday life. Jessica is also a co-founder of The Urban Chalkboard playcafe, and welcomes questions and feedback from readers at experience matters@theurbanchalkboard.com.

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going overboard W h at k i ds los e w it h pa r e n t s w h o h e lp to o mu c h Jennifer Garcia

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rom elementary school science projects to college applications, kids look to their parents for guidance. But at what point is our help no longer helpful?

The boundary isn’t always clear and a parent’s good intentions to provide assistance can backfire when kids don’t learn to take ownership of their own work.

Determining just how involved we should be can be difficult. As teachers know, parents are essential to their children’s academic success. Kids who have little or no support at home tend to struggle more in school than those with parents who are actively involved. “Parents who are keyed in to school provide built-in tutoring, and the emotional support and encouragement many children need,” says Deb Krupowicz, sixth grade teacher at Zionsville Middle School and Indy’s Child “Ask the Teacher” columnist. “Striking a balance is a challenge for all parents. When a parent finds himself thinking, ‘I wonder how much homework we will have tonight?’ he has a skewed sense of helpfulness.”

A child with a “helicopter parent” who routinely steps in to take control of an assignment or project robs their son or daughter of the chance to feel confident in their own abilities. “The natural cycle of not knowing, of working through the murkiness of confusion, of trying and failing, and of finally trying and succeeding is circumvented,” says Krupowicz.

School counselor Jennifer Wilson agrees.

“It’s difficult to see your child in trouble.

[But] if a child is constantly getting the message that his parent has to step in, they can feel helpless and incompetent.

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self-motivation and resiliency. Molli Stephens, a human resources professional, says it’s not uncommon to see young job applicants bring parents to interviews. “It’s wonderful for parents to be involved, to encourage and prep their children on their job search. However, there is a point where they need to step away and let the child own the job search himself. When a candidate brings his parent to an interview it shows me that he is not independent, cannot think on his own, and is too reliant on a parental figure.”

Although it’s hard for parents to watch their child struggle – especially when it would be so easy to step in and help them resolve a problem quickly, fighting this urge ultimately leads to empowered, confident kids. Recently, the “No Rescue” approach to parenting has been talked about in the media – a premise that kids should experience the natural consequences of their actions instead of relying on parents to “fix” everything for them. For example, when a child forgets his homework at home, a parent doesn’t “rescue” him by bringing it to school, but lets him suffer the consequences of a poor grade or discipline by the teacher. This experience teaches a more valuable lesson to kids in the long run about being responsible for their work and for themselves.

When it comes to providing a healthy amount of help, Wilson and Krupowicz offer these tips:

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Make sure your expectations of your child’s responsibility and academic abilities are realistic based upon the child’s age and emotional maturity.

Set them up for success by creating a homework routine, including a homework zone stocked with basic supplies and free of distractions.

Go over directions and check for understanding. Offer overall feedback, but not specific right or wrong answers.

Check on progress periodically to encourage your child to focus, and check over work once it’s completed.

If you see evidence that your child is struggling with concepts, and simple explanations don’t help, let the teacher know so he or she can work to improve the situation.

Remember that the goal of homework is not perfection, but for the child to develop skills needed for academic success.

And then step back. Let your children learn from their mistakes and take pride in their successes – knowing that both belong to them.

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E D U C AT I O N A N D CHILDCARE GUIDE [ S C H O O L S & E D U C AT I O N ] AVON Our Shepherd Lutheran Church & School We welcome you to visit our small Christian school setting: a small town-sized school right outside the big city of Indianapolis. Students learn and develop spiritually, physically, begins February 1. 9201 E. CR 100 N., Avon, IN 46123, Contact: Christie Hampton, Phone: 317-271-9100, Email: champton@ourshepherd.org, www.ourshepherd. org, Ages/Grades: Preschool - Grade 8, Before/After School Care: Yes

carmel Carmel Montessori Schools, Inc. Carmel Montessori School is located on the beautiful campus at St. Christopher’s Church on the NE corner of Main St. and Meridian in Carmel. Our directress is American Montessori Certified with 16 years head-teaching experience. We offer a beautiful, peaceful and positive Montessori learning environment. Extended days available. 1402 W. Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Emily & Scott Rudicel, Phone: 317-580-0699, Email: info@carmelmontessori.com, carmelmontessori.com

Clay Montessori A Montessori school offering morning, afternoon, and full-day programs. Available for ages 3-6 years old. Call for more information. (Affiliated with Fisher’s Montessori) 463 East Main St., Carmel, IN 46032, Contact: Peggy White, 317-849-9519 or 317-580-1850

Maria Montessori International Academy (Carmel) “Can your 4 year old read this?” OURS CAN! Come discover why our programs are so successful that our kindergartens are in advance reading and math in first grade at both Zionsville and Carmel Public Schools! The program offers education for infants, toddlers, Pre-K, kindergarten, and elementary across subjects, even for very young children, including math, science, Spanish, art and music, as well as reading and writing. 3500 106th Street & Shelborne (Holy Trinity Orthodox Greek Chur, Carmel, IN 46032, Phone: 317733-9204, www.mariamontessori-intl.org

Minds-in-Motion, Inc. Minds-in-Motion is a brain-training program based on NASA technology. It utilizes a unique blend of balance exercises, gymnastics and applied technology, all focused on strengthening the brains ability to process and organize information. Minds-in-Motion builds stronger bodies and smarter minds! 879 West Carmel Drive, Carmel, IN

46032, Contact: Candace Meyer, Phone: 317-571-8752, Hours: 10-week Fall, Winter & Spring sessions + 4-week 38

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Intensive Summer, Email: info@mimlearning.com, www.mimLearning.com, Hours/Dates: 10-week Fall, Winter & Spring sessions + 4-week Intensive Summer Sessions, Ages/Grades: 3-18

Starting Line Preschool The Right Start for A Lifelong Love of Learning! Our strong academic-based curriculum prepares and encourages your child to succeed in school while discoving learning is fun! * Develop Social Awareness & Friendships, Build Confidence and Master Academic Skills for Kindergarten. All of our classes focus on an introduction to colors, number and letters with exciting art and science projects. Math, social studies and sight words are taught in the older classes. 110 Third Ave NE, Carmel, IN 46032. Contact: Diane Atkins. Phone: 317-753-9397. Email: dkatkins22@msn.com, www.startinglinepreschool.com

fishers Fall Creek Montessori Academy Fall Creek Montessori Academy is a culturally diverse environment where children grow and develop their unique talents and gifts. Through child-centered learning, children excel physically, academically and emotionally. Conveniently located one mile east of I-69 on 96th St. FCMA serves children at all levels. Programs are available two to five days per week. 8888 Fitness Ln, Fishers, IN 46037, Contact: Diana Brugh, Phone: (317) 436-8606, Email: diana@fallcreekmontessori.com, www.fallcreekmontessori.com

indianapolis // north Beth-El Zedeck Early Childhood Center Fall School Year. OPEN TO THE PUBLIC. Full Academic Curriculum and Innovative Arts’ Enrichment. Our Program recognizes that intellectual, social, emotional and physical development are interwoven. Our children will thrive on exploration, creativity, curiosity, discovery, spontaneity and more important, lots of love! Type of School: Early Childhood, Full Time/Part-Time/Flexible Hours, Ages: 12 months old+, 18 months old+, 2’s+, 3’s+, 4’s/PreK (3 day or 5 day program) and Full Day Kindergarten (5 full-day program) (8:50 am to 3:00 pm) Before School/After School Care available daily as needed for all ages: Early drop off as early as 7:30 am and late pick up anytime up until 6:00 pm/5:30 pm on Fridays. Call or email for brochure. 600 W. 70th St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Joanie Waldman, Phone: 317-259-6854, Fax: 317-259-6849, Email: jwaldman@bez613.org, www.bez613.org in.us

Brebeuf Jesuit Preparatory School You are invited to visit the only Catholic Jesuit school in the state of Indiana that has been educating students in the Jesuit tradition for more than 50 years. Brebeuf Jesuit’s Mission Statement: Brebeuf Jesuit, a Catholic and Jesuit school, provides an excellent college preparatory education for a lifetime of service by forming leaders who are intellectually competent, open to growth, loving, religious and committed to promoting justice. Fostering a culture of understanding and dialogue, Brebeuf Jesuit seeks and welcomes students from diverse religious, ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds. Students at Brebeuf Jesuit are called to discover and cultivate the fullness of their God-given talents as a responsibility and as an act of worship. CORE VALUES: Education of the Whole Person, A Caring and Diverse Community, The Greater Glory of God. 2801 W 86th St, Indianapolis, IN 46268. Contact: Liz Otteson, Director of Admissions. Phone: 317-524-7090.

Email: admissions@brebeuf.org, www.brebeuf.org

Fishers Montessori A quality learning environment offering preschool, kindergarten and elementary. Certification through American Montessori Society. 12806 Ford Rd and 131st and Allisonville Rd., Fishers, IN 46038, Contact: Peggy White, 317-849-9519 or 317-580-1850

INDI A NAPOL IS // CE N T R AL Fairview Early Childhood Program Fairview ECP has been a part of the Meridian Kessler community for over 22 years. We offer a developmentally appropriate, experienced based curriculum in a warm and inclusive environment. Our program is designed to promote positive social behavior, respect for diversity, and encourages independence, creativity and critical thinking skills. 4609 N. Capital Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Tracy Cooper, Director, Phone: 317-253-4990, Hours: August - May 8:30 a.m - 2:30 p.m., Email: tcooper@ fairviewpresbyterian.org, www.fairviewecp.com

BJE Bright Beginnings Preschool The BJE challenges your child through a nurturing environment that stimulates creativity, community, learning through nature and outstanding academic programming.

Highly trained teachers emphasize both group and individualized learning in the classroom with encouragement throughout. Open to the public. Cost/Tuition: Call for more info; Financial Aid: Call for more info; Hours/Dates: 7:45 am to 5:45 p.m; Ages/Grades: 12 months to 6 years; Restrictions: None - open to the public; Uniforms/Dress Code: none; Before/After School Care: yes; Open House Dates: ongoing - will arrange family visit upon request. 6711 Hoover Road, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Elaine Fairfield, Phone: 317-255-3124 ext 3704, Email: efairfield@ bjeindy.org, www.bjeindy.org

Children’s Circle Preschool at Second Presbyterian Church Children’s Circle Preschool is a developmentally appropriate, activity based, Christian preschool. We offer classes for children ages 9 months to 5 years old. We meet the needs of the whole child in a creative and loving environment. Our experienced staff embraces excellence in education by nurturing the whole child- physically, emotionally,

spiritually, and intellectually. Please call for more information or to set up a tour. 7700 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Cara Paul, Director, 317-252-5517, cpaul@ secondchurch.org, www.childrenscircle.org

Children’s Day In Nursery School and Traditional Preschool The Children's Day In Nursery School is a fully inclusive early childhood program with an emphasis on Christian values. It is designed to offer children ages 9 months to 3 years a positive and developmentally appropriate experience in the care of experienced caregivers. We play and learn!

Classes are offered weekdays from 9 am to 2:30 pm. The Children's Day In Traditional Preschool program provides a quality developmentally appropriate education for 3, 4 and 5 year olds. Our program includes weekly Christian Life Skills, First Steps in Music (ICC) and Book Club. Summer Camp CDI is our 4-week summer program for children ages 9 months to age 5 years. Classes are offered on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Summer Camp CDI runs the month of June. Please call, E-mail or visit for further information and registration forms. 5500 N. Meridian St., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Christy Whaley, Phone: 317-253-0472, cwhaley@meridianstreet.org, www.meridianstreet.org

A Children’s Habitat Montessori School For over 40 years, A Children's Habitat Montessori School has been providing a place where children thrive and discover their love of learning. Habitat provides a traditional Montessori school experience for families seeking a half-day preschool and kindergarten, or full-day elementary program.

We are a not-for-profit school based on the principles of Maria Montessori, and we are fully accredited by the American Montessori Society. For more information, visit our website: www.childrens-habitat.org. 801 W. 73 Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Carmen Nieves, Phone: (317)726-5584, Email: info@childrens-habitat.org, www.childrens-habitat.org

Heritage Christian School

Paramount School of Excellence

Established in 1965, accredited through ACSI and NCA, HCS is the choice in college preparatory discipleship Christian education for 1,400 students each year grades Prep K-12. Advanced , Honors and AP classes. Full Fine Arts and 2A IHSAA ATHLETICS . HCS is training up the next generation of Christian leaders through challenging, Biblically taught curriculum including internships and service to others. Bus transportation available. Schedule a tour today! 6401 E. 75th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46250.

Contact: Angela Proctor, Director of Admissions, 317-849-3441, Admissions@heritagechristian.net, www.heritagechristian.net

PSoE is a kindergarten through 8th grade urban charter school with innovative technology and state-of-the-art educational practices. PSoE offers a unique vision for developing students as caring young adults that respect themselves, their environment and learn as independent thinkers. Through intuitive curricular design, robotics, wind turbines and green practices, students will receive a solid foundation for real world problem solving. 3020 Nowland Ave, Indianapolis, IN 46201, Phone: 800.778.9334, Fax: 800.778.9334

Little Friends of God International Childcare Ministry Our full-time childcare ministry offers the finest facilities available for children ages 6 weeks to school-aged. We offer an extensive school-age program for before and after school and planned activities to keep them busy with age appropriate groupings of ages 5 to 7 year olds and 8 to 12 year olds. 8350 Ditch Rd, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Bradley Wilson, Director, Phone: (317) 523-3478, Email: info@littlefriendsofgod.com, www.littlefriendsofgod.com

Park Tudor creates an inspiring college-preparatory learning environment, with exceptional educators and extraordinary opportunities, that prepares and motivates students to become balanced, confident and resourceful lifelong learners. With small class sizes, teachers are able to know students deeply and help build on their strengths. Park Tudor students benefit from a breadth of experiences, including world language and fine arts education at every grade level; educational travel opportunities and a wide variety of athletic activities. 7200 N. College Ave., Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: Alicia Carlson, Phone: 317-415-2777, Fax: 317-254-2714, Email: info@parktudor.org, www.parktudor.org

St. Luke’s Early Childhood Programs Maria Montessori International Academy (INDIANAPOLIS) “Can your 4 year old read this?” OURS CAN! Come discover why our programs are so successful that our kindergartens are in advance reading and math in first grade at both Zionsville and Carmel Public Schools! The program offers education for infants, toddlers, Pre-K, kindergarten, and elementary across subjects, even for very young children, including math, science, Spanish, art and music, as well as reading and writing. 7507 N. Michigan Road, Indianapolis, IN 46268, Phone: 317-291-5557, www.mariamontessori-intl.org

Montessori Centres

Our Mothers Day Out (12-35 mos) and Preschool (3 yrs-PreK’s) programs provide relaxed, playful, secure environments that nurture creativity and encourage the exploration of God’s world, with a wide variety of learning materials & readiness skills woven through each unit. Need longer hours? Try our child care ministry, The Neighborhood, designed for 16 mos-PreK. 9111 N. Haverstick Rd., Indianapolis, IN 46240, Contact: John Drake or Kelly Belt, Phone: 317-575-6508, Fax: 317-5756509, Email: jdrake@golove.org or kbelt@golove.org

Peace and respect for all is our main goal. Montessori Centres has worked with children to develop criticalthinking and time-management skills since 1966.

Montessori-certified lead teachers serve children aged 3-3rd grade. Classroom structure and materials allow children to be self-directed and self-paced. Our well-rounded curriculum includes French and Spanish, art, science, computer skilles, grace and courtesy, social studies, nature and outdoor gardening. 563 West Westfield Blvd., Indianapolis, IN 46208, Contact: Lynn Boone, Director, Phone: 317-257-2224, Fax: 317-257-3034, Email: montessoricentres@sbcglobal.net, www.montessoricentres.com/

Epworth Weekday Children's Ministries

The Orchard School

It is our mission to nurture and support in a safe Christian environment the children and families of the Epworth congregation and surrounding community by providing the highest quality affordable early childhood program. We embrace the philosophy that children learn best when actively involved in play and provided opportunities to explore, question, investigate, and manipulate objects and materials in their environment. Registration for families on our wait list (families who have toured our school) is Tuesday, January 20th. Registration is open to the public beginning Friday, January 23nd. 6450 Allisonville Rd., Indianapolis, IN 46220, Contact: Dawn Blake or Anndi Maguire, Phone: 317-251-1483, Email: epworthwcm@aol. com, www.epworthindy.org

The Orchard School, an independent, non-sectarian, progressive school, emphasizing experiential learning.

Orchard teachers engage the natural curiosity of children, develop academic excellence, and provide leadership experience through well-rounded education. Orchard’s diverse community and commitment to multicultural education inspires responsible, global citizenship. Founded in 1922. NAIS, ISACS, NAEYS accredited. 615 W. 64th St., Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Kristen Hein, Director of Admissions, Phone: 317-713-5705, Fax: 317-254-8454, Email: khein@orchard.org, www.orchard.org

Early Childhood Center, The Church at the Crossing

Park Tudor School

St Luke’s Community Preschool is a weekday, developmentally appropriate and experience based program.

Two well-trained, degreed teachers are in each classroom.

Parents’ Day Out is a structured play experience that provides parents some time for themselves on a regular basis on M, W, Th, F. We provide a warm and loving Christian environment in which children can learn and grow. Tours available upon request. Visitors welcome. 100 West 86th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Mollie Smith, Director, 317-844-3399, smithm@stlukesecp.com, www.stlukesumc.com

St. Richard’s Episcopal School SRES strives for academic excellence through its classic curriculum with innovative teaching methods; it also provides preparation and knowledge in areas such as faith, leadership, civic responsibility, and global readiness. St. Richard’s offers a rigorous academic curriculum, three world languages, public speaking and leadership opportunities, a strong fine arts program and organized athletics for continued lifetime success.

Our newly redesigned Early Childhood Program uses brainbased research and proven instructional practices that lay the foundation in math and literacy skills. The program features unique field experiences, community partnerships, year-round offerings, and a full-day curriculum along with part-time options. 33 E. 33rd Street, Indianapolis, IN 46205, Contact: Abby Williams, Director of Admission and Communications, 317-926-0425 x134, Fax: 317-921-3367, awilliams@ strichardsschool.org, www.strichardsschool.org

Sycamore School At Sycamore, teachers trained in gifted education deliver a curriculum designed to challenge and engage gifted learners.

Art, music, Spanish, PE and technology are taught at all levels. Extensive field trips, athletics, child care, financial aid, and a wide variety of after school activities are offered. 1750 W. 64th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46260, Contact: Dr. Susan Karpicke, Director of Admissions. 317-202-2500, Fax: 317-202-2501, skarpicke@sycamoreschool.org, www.sycamoreschool.org

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indianapolis // northeast Polly Panda Preschool & Bridgford Kindergarten

Polly Panda provides a safe and healthy environment which enhances each child’s total growth. Our theme-based hands-on preschool program provides a wide-range of experiences that foster learning, creativity and problem solving in all areas. A child’s sense of self-worth, independence and growth in social skills are developed through positive interaction with peers and our well-qualified and loving staff. 2944 E. 56th Street, Indianapolis, IN 46220, Contact: Gail Hacker and Tammy Clark, Phone: 317-257-9127, Email: pollypandaindy@sbcglobal.net, www.pollypanda.com

multiple locations Indiana Council of Preschool Cooperatives: ICPC Indianapolis Area Preschool and Kindergarten Cooperatives Preschools: great for your child, great for you! Children and parents learn and grow together in the classroom with caring, experienced teachers. Multiple Locations in Indianapolis Area, ICPC Line: 317-767-7596

westfield Montessori School of Westfield, Inc. Located on 3 wooded acres in Central Indiana, the Montessori School of Westfield adheres to the academic traditions of Montessori while serving the present day child.

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Indianapolis, Fishers, Carmel, Zionsville, Westfield, Sheridan, Noblesville, Cicero and Tipton. We serve children ages 18 months to 15 years. 800 E. Sycamore Street, Westfield, IN 46074, Contact: Mary Lyman, Directress, Phone: 317-867-0158, Fax: 317-896-5945, Email: montessori westfield@gmail.com, www.montessori schoolofwestfield.com

z ionsville Advent Lutheran Preschool Advent offers a Christian learning environment for children ages 2 through 5, including a half-day kindergarten. Our well-balanced program supports emotional, social, cognitive, physical and spiritual development. All children, regardless of faith or church affiliation, are welcome. Call to schedule a tour. Registration is open for the 2014-15 school year. 11250 N. Michigan Rd., Zionsville, IN 46077, Contact: Deb Trewartha, Phone: 317-873-6318, Email: dtrewartha@ adventlutheran.org, www.adventlutheran.org/298544. ihtml

Maria Montessori International Academy (Zionsville) “Can your 4 year old read this?” OURS CAN! Come discover why our programs are so successful that our kindergartens are in advance reading and math in first grade at both Zionsville and Carmel Public Schools! The program offers education for infants, toddlers, Pre-K, kindergarten, and elementary across subjects, even for very young children, including math, science, Spanish, art and music, as well as reading and writing. 4370 Weston Pointe Dr., Zionsville/Carmel, IN 46077, Phone: 317-7692220, www.mariamontessori-intl.org

Zionsville Community Schools Universal Preschool The ZCS Universal Preschool provides a hands-on learning experience, focused on the whole child, in an inclusive and supportive environment that ensures maximum child growth, for life-long learning.We will provide a quality program through: Organizing the environment so it is conducive to success, Providing specific directions and instructions, Acknowledging and encouraging each child’s efforts, Creating challenges and supporting children in extending their capabilities. The Indiana Foundations for Young Children will be a resource/framework for UP. Preschool Sites are at Boone Meadow, Pleasant View and Union Elementary Schools.

900 Mulberry St., Zionsville, IN 46077, Phone: 317-8731251, Email: GROW@zcs.k12.in.us, http://zcsgrow.zcs.k12. in.us

[ childc a r e ] Peanut Butter and Jelly 24/7 Childcare PB&J is a childcare that is a safe, nurturing environment where your child will get the attention and care that he or she needs. We are licensed and always working to meet and exceed all health and safety guidelines. You can rest assured that your child will be cared for with the utmost kindness, love and respect . Open late for lots of flexiblity.

Stop in for more info. Follow us on twitter @ pbj247childcare. 5501 E. 71st Street, Suite 4, Indianapolis, IN 46220, Contact: Anita Beck. Phone: 317-205-9211, Email: peanutbutter_jelly18@yahoo.com, www.peanutbutterjelly.info

FaST FRIENDS Tips for helping kids make healthy friendships Sarah Bricker-Hunt

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avigating the waters of childhood friendships can be surprisingly difficult for parents. How do you help your kids learn how to make friends? What if your child has a friend you don’t like?

Should you intervene when a friend mistreats your child or let him resolve the situation on his own?

options on how to deal with it and then strongly encourage them to work it out.”

Harvey does not typically recommend parents contact other parents to discuss conflicts at this age, however. “Intervening in this manner can actually backfire and it doesn’t help your child’s social and emotional development,” she explains. “If we fight their battles we are not allowing them the opportunity to learn how to resolve conflicts.”

“How to be a good friend is not a skill that we are all born with,” says Dr. DeAnn Harvey, child psychologist at Franciscan St. Francis Health. “It is a learned behavior that starts with our first and most important teachers – our parents.”

She suggests encouraging your child to expand their circle of friends so they don’t need to rely on only one or two.

The teen years Laying the groundwork for comfortable communication early on will help into the teenage years. “This provides you the opportunity to provide support and help with problem-solving,” Harvey says, “with the end goal of your teen choosing how they want to resolve the conflict on their own, knowing you will be there to provide support regardless of how it turns out.”

Harvey says parents should focus on modeling good friendship behaviors, especially when it comes to conflict resolution. “If we primarily model aggressive means to resolve conflict our children will learn to resolve interpersonal conflict via the use of aggression,” she explains. A more effective approach is to promote the concept of assertiveness.

“Assertiveness involves stating your opinion in a respectful manner while at the same time considering the views of others,” Harvey says. “On the other hand, aggressiveness involves attacking others and forcing your opinion upon them.”

When children feel confident in their ability to assert feelings and opinions, they are less likely to become entangled in inequitable friendships. Even confident, assertive kids can benefit from parental guidance when it comes to making friends.

“One emphasis at this age is learning how to share and how to take turns.”

When a problem does crop up, Harvey stresses parental modeling as a way to exemplify appropriate interactions, and praising younger children when they demonstrate good friendship skills. She also points to behavioral modification techniques as a means to address poor interaction skills, for instance consequences like losing a toy in response to issues with sharing.

The preschool and elementary years

The mid-elementary years

Harvey suggests approaching the issue from a teaching perspective during the preschool and early elementary years. “During play times parents still need to be providing periods of supervision where they are observing how children are interacting,” she says.

As children move into the mid-elementary years, Harvey says relationship issues tend to increase. At this stage, she recommends encouraging kids to engage in their own conflict resolution. “When your child comes to you voicing conflict with a friend, the parent can sit down with their own child and discuss

Harvey points out that parents should address the importance of social communication in today’s tech-heavy environment. “Teens need to be encouraged and actually taught how to still communicate with their friends by talking face-toface or talking on the phone rather than texting,” she says. “Written text does not communicate emotion or meaning effectively and is easily misinterpreted, causing unnecessary conflict between friends.”

Harvey says parents should keep a close watch and intervene right away if their teenager is engaging in self-demeaning or self-destructive behavior.

Friendships play an important role in the lives of our kids – and in our lives as parents as well. By being aware of how you model what it means to be a good friend to the important people in your life, your children will see the benefit of investing in these relationships even when they can be challenging.

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Indianapolis Auto Show 2015

Marvel Universe LIVE!

Phone: 317-266-8455, Location: Indiana Convention Center & Lucas Oil Stadium,

Price: $30 - $155, Location: Bankers Life Fieldhouse, www.bankerslifefieldhouse.

www.theindyautoshow.com America’s second-longest running auto show returns to the Indiana Convention Center.

Thirty-five automobile manufacturers from around the world will display their 2015 model automobiles, SUVs, light duty trucks and luxury vans in more than 400,000 square feet of exhibit space.

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com/event/2015-01-02-marvel-universelive/ Marvel fans, assemble! Marvel Universe LIVE! is taking the live entertainment experience to a whole new level. Watch your favorite Marvel Super Heroes including SpiderMan, The Avengers – Iron Man, Hulk, and their foes come to life in an action-packed arena extravaganza! You’ll definitely feel the energy with cutting-edge special effects, pyrotechnics, aerial stunts, martial arts, motorcycles and more. The fate of the universe depends on it!

Wizard of Oz Time: 7-9 p.m., Price: Tickets: $46.50 Adult, $24 Students (under 18), Phone: 317-8433800, Location: Booth Tarkington Civic Theatre, www.civictheatre.org/shows-

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By L. Frank Baum With Music and Lyrics by Harold Arlen and E.Y. Harburg. Our dazzling holiday show celebrates the 75th anniversary of MGM’s classic movie, bringing it to life in song and dance. Follow Dorothy and her friends as they stroll down the Yellow Brick Road, avoiding the Wicked Witch and seeking out the great and powerful Wizard of Oz.

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Let it snow, let it go…at our Frozen Party!

Join us for frozen crafts, activities, games, and fun. Free tickets are required and will be available on a first-come, first-served basis.

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Mon 05 Indy Word Lab Time: 7-9 p.m., Price: FREE, Location: Indy Reads Books, www.meetup.com/

IndyWordLab/ Indy Word Lab is an experimental writing group that has been described as, "what writing workshops are SUPPOSED to be."

Join us every first Monday for this free event, whether you're a seasoned writer or just starting out.

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Family Day: Kickoff

Price: FREE, Phone: 317-577-2200, Location: Babies R Us, www.babiesrus.com

Time: 10 a.m.-3 p.m., Location: Indianapolis Museum of Art, www.imamuseum.org/

familyactivities/family-day Enjoy art activities and storytelling, a disco dance party and a special performance from Grammy Award-winning children’s folk band, The Okee Dokee Brothers. The Saturday Morning Matinee series also begins in partnership with the Indy Film Festival, featuring family-friendly films from the '70s and '80s. Please reserve your FREE ticket for the Okee Dokee Brothers.

Frozen Party Time: 2-2:30 p.m., Phone: 317-844-3363, Location: Carmel Clay Public Library Storytime Room, www.carmel.lib.in.us

indoor farmers market between the East and West lobbies every Sunday through March 2015.

This course is led by a certified CPR instructor and intended for those who want to learn CPR but don't need certification. It's ideal for new parents, grandparents and anyone interested in learning life-saving techniques.

JCC Winter Farmers Market Time: 10 a.m.-1 p.m., Price: FREE, Phone: 317-251-9467, Location: Arthur M Glick JCC,

www.JCCindy.org Shop the JCC indoors for fresh local produce, baked goods and dairy products throughout the winter and early spring. You can find our

JCC Open House Time: 8 a.m.-8 p.m., Price: FREE, Phone: 317-251-9467, Location: Arthur M Glick JCC,

www.JCCindy.org Kickstart your New Year's resolutions by stopping by the JCC to take a drop-in class, use the fitness center or join in fun activities throughout the day. See our website for rates on babysitting, available from 8 am-12:30 pm and 4:30-7:30 pm.

F ri 09 – S at 10 A Beauty & the Beast Story presented by YAT Time: 6 p.m., Price: $10-$12, Location: The Athenaeum Indianapolis, www.yatkids.org/

upcoming-shows/ Are you familiar with the old tale of Beauty and the Beast? Cool, well this isn't it. Modern, unique and wonderful - this performance was written and presented by 8th-12th graders from all over Indy. Bring your entire family for a cool experience.

S at 10 T ues 0 6 Monthly Mini Model Build @ Lego Store Location: Lego Store at Castleton Square,

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http://stores.lego.com/en-us/stores/us/ castleton-square Learn how to build this LEGO® Alien and space dog model and take it home – for free!

Event begins at 5pm. One free per child. Event is open to children ages 6-14 only.

DIY Wind Chimes Time: 1-2:30 p.m., Price: R$26/NR$39, Phone: 317-595-3150, Location: Roy G. Holland Memorial Park Building,

www.Fishers.in.us/Parks Children ages 8 and older are invited to stop by this spring inspired class where participants will fuse their own glass wind chimes. Not only will participants get to paint and assemble their wind chimes, but you can pick up your finished designs at the Fishers Parks and Recreation office just in time to start decorating for spring.

The Wizard of Oz Film Screening Time: 6:30 p.m., Price: Free (reservations requested), Phone: 317-232-1882, Location: Frank and Katrina Basile Theater | Eugene and Marilyn Glick History Center, www.

indianahistory.org Join IHS for a special film screening of The Wizard of Oz. Kansas girl Dorothy Gale and her dog, Toto, are whisked by a tornado into the magical land of Oz in this much loved musical adaptation of L. Frank Baum’s classic novel.

Dorothy joins the Tin Man, the Scarecrow, and the Cowardly Lion on an adventure down the Yellow Brick Road to persuade the Wizard to help her find her way home.

Sun 11 Holliday Park Create and Decorate: Terrariums Time: 1:30-3 p.m., Price: $8/terrarium, Phone: 317-327-7180, Location: Holliday Park Nature Center, www.hollidaypark.org

Winter got you down? Need a little green in your life? Come make a table top terrarium!

These fun and easy terrariums are sure to brighten your day and convince you spring is on its way. We will provide all materials and plants. All ages, pre-registration required.

Mon 12 Two Times the Fun - Snow Angels Time: 10-11 a.m., Price: R$6/NR$9, Phone: 317-595-3150, Location: Billericay Park Building, www.Fishers.in.us/Parks

Come get your play on! Join in the play with your two year old or watch them play with the other toddlers. Either way your child(ren) will play, sing, and interact with art, games and hands-on activities. Some activities are outside, so dress with the weather in mind.

Prairie Tots is a new program for 2-year-old children that can involve games, songs, crafts and more. These short classes (45 minutes) are perfect for little ones to experience with their parents or grandparents.

F ri 16 – S at 17 Shen Yun Time: 7:30 p.m., Price: $120 - $60 plus $3 restoration fee, Phone: 317-940-6444, Location: Clowes Memorial Hall of Butler University, http://cloweshall.org/events/

by-month/january/event/334-shen-yun For 5,000 years divine culture flourished in the land of China. Humanity’s treasure was nearly lost, but through breathtaking music and dance, Shen Yun is bringing back this glorious culture. A Shen Yun performance features the world’s foremost classically trained dancers, a unique orchestra blending East and West, exquisite costumes, and dazzling animated backdrops—together creating one spectacular performance.

S at 17 Martin Luther King Community Festival Time: 11 a.m.-3 p.m., Price: FREE, Phone: 317-327-7144, Location: Christian Theological Seminary, www.peacelearningcenter.org/mlk

Celebrate Dr. King’s message of peace and the importance of personal responsibility by creating a community that encourages kindness for positive change. The festival includes music, art-making activities, theater, poetry, peace games, a free stage, and family yoga.

Mon 19 Martin luther King Jr. Day at the Zoo Time: 9-4 a.m., Location: Indianapolis Zoo,

F ri 16 Prairie Tots Time: 9:30-10:30 a.m., Price: $5/member youth ($6/non-member youth), Phone: 317-776-6000, Location: Conner Prairie Interactive History Park, http://connerprairie.

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www.indianapoliszoo.com While the Zoo is usually closed on Mondays in January, weather permitting, it's our privilege to open our gates to those with a generous heart. Zoo admission on this day is free with the donation of a canned food item for Gleaner's Food Bank.

W eds 21 – Sun 25 Disney on Ice presents Treasure Trove Price: $18 - $93, Phone: (317) 917-2500, Location: Bankers Life Fieldhouse, www.bankerslifefield

house.com/event/2015-01-21-2015-01-22disney-on-ice-treasure-trove/ Discover endless riches when Disney on Ice presents Treasure Trove, its newest skating spectacular! Get tangled up with Rapunzel and Flynn and enter the worlds of your favorite Disney princesses! Set sail with Peter Pan, Tinker Bell and the cantankerous Captain Hook. Trek the wilds of Africa with Simba, Nala, Pumbaa and Timon, and don’t be late to a very important date with Alice & the Madhatter as they march with the Queen of Hearts’ Army of Cards.

F ri 2 3 Pinterest Craft Night Time: 6:30-8:30 p.m., Price: R$15/NR$23, Phone: 317-595-3150, Location: Roy G. Holland Memorial Park, www.Fishers.in.us/Parks

Pinterest offers so many awesome craft ideas, but there never seems to be enough time to actually start crafting some of their do-ityourself projects. Participants, ages 10 and up, are invited to join us for a class that sets time aside just to start and finish a few craft ideas courtesy of Pinterest.

Teen Night: Zombies Time: 5:30-8:30 p.m., Price: Free, Phone: 812-337-1337, Location: WonderLab Museum of Science, Health and Technology, www.

wonderlab.org It's a teen takeover of the museum with free admission, free food, special zombie-themed activities, and hanging out with friends. Play zombie tag to explore the epidemiology of how disease spreads and more! This event is only open to teens in middle and high school (or home school equivalent).

S at 2 4 Monster Jam Time: 7 p.m., Price: $15-$125, Phone: 800-745-3000, Location: Lucas Oil Stadium,

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The world’s premier monster truck series, Monster Jam, is revving into Indianapolis!

Monster Jam®, the most popular monster truck tour, performs to over 4 million fans annually at the most prestigious arenas and stadiums throughout the world. Monster Jam® shows consist of three main fan-favorite elements -- the pit party, racing and freestyle.

Mon 26 Winter Kids Koncert Time: 10-11 a.m., Price: FREE, Phone: 317-848-7275, Location: Monon Community Center, www.carmelclayparks.com

Dig your way out of the snow and join other parents and kids for our Winter Kids Koncerts. Each hour-long show is an enriching and engaging experience for young children ages 2-5. Parents enjoy the freedom to come and go with their kids, while the kids love to dance and sing-along to classical hits and kid favorites.

W eds 28 PlayFULL Hours - Natural Wonderland Time: 10-11 a.m., Price: R$2/NR$3 or Flex Pass, Phone: 317-595-3150, Location: Roy G. Holland Memorial Park Building, www.

Fishers.in.us/Parks Your child(ren) ages 1-5 are invited to PlayFULL Hours for unstructured play time each with its own theme. Parent participation is required so get your play on too.

S at 31 Isabelle: American Girl of the Year 2014 Phone: 317 844-3363, Time: 10:30-11:30 a.m. or 1:00-1:45 p.m, Location: Carmel Clay Public Library Program Room, www.carmel.lib.in.us

Get to know more about Isabelle, the American Girl of 2014. She is an inspired dancer who discovers her own way to shine through practicing ballet and designing costumes. You will learn more about ballet during the program because dancers from the Indiana Ballet Conservatory will demonstrate and teach some basic ballet steps. For children in grades 1-5.

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ONGOING EVENTS

ONGOING C ALE N DAR Carmel Clay Parks and Recreation: Toddler Open Gym Occurring Every Tuesday Time: 10-11 a.m., Price: $6 drop-in fee or $20 session rate, Phone: 317-848-7275, Location: Monon Community Center, www.

carmelclayparks.com Come enjoy some active quality time during which we supply the balls, mats, and equipment. You and your child will be able explore a variety of stations while socializing with other moms, nannies, grandparents and children. Play is on your own, so no instructor will be present. A drop-in fee of $6 per child may be paid if you can only make a single session. Ages 0-5

Family Swim Occurring Every Mon-Thurs, January 12th Through January 29th Time: 1-2 p.m., Price: Free for members, $5 per person and up to $15 per family, Phone: 317-810-0790, Location: Goldfish Swim School Fishers, http://goldfishswimschool.com/

swimming-lessons/ It may be cold outside, but it’s always 90 degrees at Goldfish Swim School Join in a Family Swim every Monday through Thursday, 1-2p.m., starting Monday, January 12. Call (317) 810-0790 to reserve a space for your family.

Indianapolis Home Show Occurring January 23rd Through February 1st Price: $14, adult; $3, children 6-12; free, children 5 and under, Phone: 317-927-7500, Location: Indiana State Fairgrounds, www.

IndianapolisHomeShow.com The Indianapolis Home Show is the nation's oldest and the Midwest's largest home-focused extravaganza with more than 900 exhibits.

Now in its 93rd year, the Indianapolis Home Show offers thousands of products, decorating, construction and remodeling ideas for visitors to gather and compare.

Indianapolis Winter Magic Festival Occurring January 22nd Through January 25th Time: 6 p.m., Price: $15 Adults/$12 Students/$8 Children under 12, Phone: 317-224-6726, Location: IndyFringe Basile Theatre and Indy Eleven Theatre, http://

indyfringe.org/indianapolis-winter-magicfestival Surprising. Innovative. Entrancing.

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaat? This event will get you out of the house in January just when you need a boost to your spirits. Five of the eleven magicians who were chosen to represent North America in the FISM World Championship of Magic will be performing. The World Championship of Magic can be thought of The World Cup for magicians — bringing the world’s very best magicians together to compete against each other.

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Jingle Rails: The Great Western Adventure

Phil O'Malley Exhibit

Occurring Daily Through January 19th Time: 10 a.m.-5 p.m., Price: Adults: $12, Youth 5–17: $6, Children 4 & under: Free, IUPUI: Free, Phone: 317-636-9378, Location: Eiteljorg Museum of American Indians and Western Art,

www.eiteljorg.org Enter a locomotive wonderland--a network of trestles, bridges and tunnels with chugging trains and detailed replicas of national treasures, all made of natural materials like twigs, moss and nuts and wrapped up in holiday trimming.

Watch seven trains wind past the local treasures of downtown Indianapolis, including the Eiteljorg Museum, Monument Circle, Union Station, the Indiana State Fairgrounds and Lucas Oil Stadium, where you will hear veteran Colts radio announcer Bob Lamey call a game.

The trains then head through the national parks of the American West, passing legendary sites, including grand railway lodges, Northwest Coast Native villages, and wonders both natural and human-made—Mt. Rushmore, Grand Canyon, Yosemite Falls, Old Faithful and more.

Little Ones Occurring Every Wednesday beginning January 7th Location: Carmel Clay Public Library Storytime Room, Phone: 317 844-3363, www.carmel.

lib.in.us Storytime for children ages 12-24 months and their caregivers. Free tickets are required and will be available on a first-come, first-served basis at the Children’s Reference Desk 30 minutes prior to the scheduled program start time. A ticket will be required for each person, including infants, attending the program.

Occurring Daily (except Sat & Sun) Time: 9 a.m.-4 p.m.. Price: Free Admission, Phone: 317-940-6444, Location: Clowes Memorial Hall of Butler University, http://

cloweshall.org/art/artatclowes/event/304phil-o-malley-exhibit Phil O’Malley, a professional studio artist and designer in Indianapolis, has painted for the last four decades in the Midwest. O’Malley has created dimensional works in fine art, culinary art, interior design, architectural design, graphic design, and event design. All these endeavors have symbiotically fed his art to maturity. He studied Interior Design in the Purdue School of Engineering at IUPUI and earned a BFA from the Herron School of Art and Design at IUPUI.

The Giver at the IRT Occuring January 23rd Through February 21st Price: Adult tickets: $25 - $47, Student tickets: $20, Phone: 317-635-5252, Location: Indiana Repertory Theatre, www.irtlive.com/

shows_and_tickets/shows/giver/ Sameness reigns in a utopian society set in the not-too-distant future. But for twelve-year-old Jonas, his controlled and predictable life is unraveling before his eyes. Based on the award-winning book by Lois Lowry, this complex and controversial story forces us all to question the dangers of conformity and the power of truth.

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