MATRIMONIALS

Seeking Grooms

Match required for my sister, Aus citizen, Hindu Punjabi (non-veg) 5’0, slim/fair/beautiful, 1988-born, Masters of Professional Accounting, working in Melb. Aus Citizen/PR req. Email: melbournejodi@yahoo.com

Seeking well educated, Aus Citizen/ PR match from professional/ business family for a fair, slim, 32 years old convent educated Hindu-Khatri girl, 5’3” post-graduate (never married). Willing to move to Australia. Currently in Melbourne (visitor visa). Whatsapp/call: +61 466984747 email biodata with pictures matrimonial. kapr@gmail.com

Marriage proposal invited for a Nair girl, 24 years, BTech, Master of Business, working in Australia, from professionally quali ed and employed Nair/Menon boys (below 30 years) working in Australia. Contact sparavanoor@gmail.com or whatsapp +6745573365 details to sarvid87@yahoo.com.au

Suitable match for Aus citizen, Sydney-based, Sikh girl 1991 born, 170cm, quali ed Chartered Accountant, working for Australia’s leading bank. Parents highly educated and well-settled in Sydney. Please respond to hs52216a@gmail.com

Seeking an alliance for a Punjabi Brahmin 44 year, 5’2” never married girl. She is a professionally quali ed accountant and an Australian citizen, currently working in Australia. Please send your details with a photo at lucky.aus18@gmail.com

Seeking Brides

Seeking suitable match for Kamboj Sikh turbaned Boy (student) born March 1992 height 5’8”, living in Australia (Melbourne) for the last 4years. Looking for a well-educated Australian PR, citizen or student girl (Sikh family) living in Australia. Contact 0469 075 879 Email: singh. kamboj1992@gmail.com

BY PAWAN LUTHRA

As you get towards the end of your 40s, life usually begins to ‘settle’ if you are lucky. Your career is consolidating; you’ve passed on your gene pool, and you’ve formed social relationships that are stable and rewarding.

And just as you start to think life may even be rosy, it starts to take an interesting turn.

You find yourself in the sandwich. On the one side, you have kids flowering into adulthood, causing your relationship with them to change from authoritative to co-operative, bringing with it the fear of letting go. On the other, you have parents wilting into the sunset of their lives, causing your relationship to change from co-operative to supportive, bringing with it, again, the fear of letting go but in a more permanent sense.

In our own community here in Australia, many of us have family relationships split across two continents: one, with seniors back in India, and two, with their young families here in Australia. (This, of course, excludes those that now have their elderly parents living with them here.)

Those with split families in two continents, experience the tyranny of distance. The advantage, often, is the strong network of social support that India offers. There are solid community and family bonds that facilitate access and availability of assistance for the elders in the family. The challenge for the middle generation is to manage time,

The advantage in the Australian system is that employment can offer you breaks and with longevity in a company, there are options of long service leave, etc., which can be availed. However at that stage of your professional lives, job responsibilities are such that it may be difficult to have extended breaks. While professionally, there may be an option to manage the situation, another challenge arises from the next generation. Specific challenges can be faced such as in case it is an HSC year and the parent needs to be overseas on family duty.

Of course, the pressures are different if the three generations are together in Australia. While there is no need for travel, there is limited social support, and so there are demands on time to care for the parents.

In either case, there is no simple solution as the squeeze is felt; rather, the challenge is how to manage these responsibilities.

Sandwichers should consider this a stage of development with its own particular challenges. Recognise that there is no right way, and your unique circumstances will require you to tailor your own solutions to suit. Perhaps you can prepare yourself by developing, over the years, relationships with both generations that are nurturing and honest. There’s a lesson there for younger readers not yet feeling the squeeze.

And for those in the thick of things right now, a reminder: take time out to look after your own selves as you look after others. Ensure you have healthy eating and sleeping patterns. Adopt a flexible approach as you plan your daily schedules.

Treasure every moment with your loved ones.

Seeking professionally quali ed match for a 30-year-old Hindu Brahmin girl, Australian born, 5’2’’, slim and attractive. Holds a postgraduate degree. Working in accounting/ nance sector at a multinational company in Sydney, pursuing CA quali cation. Family well settled in Australia for more than four decades. Please reply with

Seeking professionally quali ed, well-settled match for Sydney based, never married Punjabi man with Aus citizenship. He is a handsome 40-year-old, height 5’7” working as senior IT software developer. Please send your details with photo to raminder026@gmail.com or call on 0416 087 192.