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YOU’VE GOT A FRIEND!

The word languishing has been used to describe an overall feeling of what could be called the blahs. In a New York Times article, Adam Grant describes it like this: “Languishing is a sense of stagnation and emptiness. It feels as if you’re muddling through your days, looking at your life through a foggy windshield.” A sort of stuck and empty feeling that lingers.

While the pandemic is somewhat under control, it is accurate to say we are all still dealing with its effects. So, in our post-Covid world, how do we regain our sense of well-being? How do we engage in flourishing instead of languishing?

While there is no one-size-fits-all solution, psychologists in general suggest that we look to restorative activities to bring ourselves into some balance. So, you may pay greater attention to self-care which is always a good choice! Or you may want to find your “flow” – that means finding how to invest your time and attention in an engaging and purposeful activity.

St. Alphonsus Liguori, the founder of the Redemptorists, who has greatly influenced the spirituality of the IHM Sisters, focused his spirituality on the Incarnation, Jesus becoming one of us! Alphonsus is quoted as saying: “Acquire the habit of speaking to God as if you were alone with Him, familiarly and with confidence and love, as to the dearest and most loving of friends.” Could St. Alphonsus have been on to something? Is it possible that we can discover our “flow” in making time for Jesus, God-with-us, in prayer? Perhaps daring such a personal relationship with God, can provide a social and emotional support to each of us as we navigate the complexities of our post-Covid world.

So, grab your cup of tea and find a comfortable and quiet space! Just maybe your “dearest and most loving of friends”, who is with you always, will help you to discover your “flow” and lead you closer to flourishing!

References

Carter, Christine L. 3 Steps to Finding Your Flow. (Posted September 3, 2015)

Grant, Adam. There’s a Name for the Blah You’re Feeling: It’s Called Languishing. New York Times (4-19-21)