Parent Survival Guide 2022

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Parent Survival Guide 4 Family weekend

22 Q&A with student’s siblings

27 How to address mail

6 Campus leaders share advice

23 Campus resources for students

28 Resources for IU parents

8 Packing list for your child

24 Move-in day tips

29 Music venues in Bloomington

9 What to know about paying for IU

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OPINION EDITOR Sean Gilley

IU pop culture guide COPY EDITORS Morgan Jones Jocelyn Sweeney Katy Szpak SOCIAL MEDIA EDITOR Natalie Ingalls

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What to do when your child moves out

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14 Planning a visit to Bloomington 16 IU parents through the years 18 Best places to get IU apparel 20 Arts events near campus

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Keeping up with your student

26 Care package 101

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Q&A with an IU parent

LETTER FROM THE EDITOR Congratulations on your child’s acceptance to Indiana University Bloomington! In my two years as a student here, I have found campus and Bloomington to be an incredible space to learn and grow. I hope your student is able to find a home at IU as well.

As the parent of a new college student, I’m sure you have a lot of questions and worries as we head into the academic year — that is completely

normal for a parent sending their child to a new place. Your student is moving on to a new chapter in their life and that means as their parent, you are too.

Here at the Indiana Daily Student, we want to do everything we can to help make this transition as easy as possible, for both you and your student. This is the 2022 Parent Survival Guide, a special publication of the IDS meant to help parents wrap their

head around what it means to send their child to college. Inside, you will find information about resources on campus, tips for moving into the residence halls and advice for your inevitable visit to Bloomington.

Just as this is a transitional period for your student, you will also have new experiences and will need to adapt to your new normal. It’s okay to take things slow and process this change as move-in day approaches.

Take as many cheesy family selfies as possible to prepare for the fall.

I hope you are as excited as your student is. While it may be sad to see your child leave the nest, at least you may finally get some peace and quiet at home (if you’re lucky).

Good luck to you and your student!

Ethan Moore

Summer 2022 Editor-in-Chief

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Fun ways to reconnect during family weekend Family weekend is the perfect time to visit and check in with your child

By Sean Gilley

spgilley@iu.edu | @SeanyG729

Beginning freshman year can be a difficult time for both new students and their parents. Experiencing your child moving out of the house for the first time and taking their first steps towards adulthood on their own would make any parent worry.

As my parents’ first child, I know they had a difficult time trying to find the balance between checking in to see how I’m doing and letting me find my own path

independently. Many families struggle to find the best way to reach back out to their child and reconnect for the first few times after moving into college.

Family weekend is a great time to visit your children and see how they’re adjusting to college life. Parents can tour IU’s beautiful campus and the Bloomington area. There are many different restaurants, bars and other places for families to explore while they’re visiting their children.

As of now, IU hasn’t released an official schedule, but in years past, a main attraction has been IU’s football team. Last year, stu-

dents and their families watched as IU faced off against the Cincinnati Bearcats. Visitors were also able to schedule free tours of the team’s locker room and the luxury suite and walk out on the field.

This year’s family weekend will be from Sept. 16-18, the same weekend of the IU Western Kentucky football game.

The rest of Bloomington is normally packed for the duration of this weekend as well. The city has many different attractions, restaurants and bars for families to check out as well. From Siam House to Nick’s English Hut, Bloomington has a wide variety of food and drink options for families — many of which are located along Kirkwood Avenue and Fourth Street.

The surrounding area also has many different entertainment options for families as well. Pop down to Lake Monroe and have a beach day — lay out on the shore and catch some sun or take a dip in the water. Stop by the Starlite DriveIn and experience the

novelty of a traditional drive-in theater. This venue puts on both newly released movies and hosts special screenings of classic films.

Feeling more adventurous? Go indoor rock climbing at Hoosier Heights. This venue offers climbing experience for all skill levels as well as free climbing, various classes and clinics for new climbers. Or maybe a more laid-back night sounds better to you – the Indiana Memorial Union has bowling and billiards as well as pinball, electronic darts and table tennis. You don’t have to be an IU student to enjoy these fun options.

This is not an exhaustive list — there are so many fun ways to spend family weekend with your student. Let them show you where their favorite local restaurant is or where they like to spend time outside of school.

Additional details regarding activities and schedules will be released later this summer, according to IU’s Division of Student Affairs.

Families can register for any of the events starting July 15.

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1. Empty picnic tables are seen Sept. 7, 2021, outside of Nick’s English Hut.

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2. Neal Sipahimalani completes his lead-climbing route during the finals round of the first annual Moves for Muir competition in 2011, at Hoosier Heights climbing gym.

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3. The sun rises March 30, 2021, on Monroe Lake.

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4. Movie times decorate a board May 22, 2020, at the Starlite DriveIn Theater.

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Leaders welcome you to the IU family Here are some welcoming words from people who help shape your student’s experience at IU.

Pamela Whitten

Denise Hayes

Rahul Shrivastav

Hannah Buxbaum

IU President

Assistant Vice Provost for Student Affairs, Director of Counseling and Psychological Services

Provost

Vice President for International Affairs

I am delighted to welcome our incoming freshmen and their families to the Indiana University community. As a leading public research university with a global reputation for excellence, IU offers many opportunities for our students to get involved in campus organizations, build strong relationships with faculty and strengthen skills and talents that will lead them to success in their careers and prepare them to make an impact on the world. With the support parents and families provide, alongside the many advising, counseling, financial aid and other IU resources available, we are dedicated to ensuring our students’ success. I hope you’ll join us at campus events and activities, and I’m looking forward to celebrating the achievements of our students with you. Welcome to the IU family.

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Congratulations! Here are a few suggestions: reflect on how your student typically responds to change, as you are likely to see similar changes as they adjust to this new environment. Acquaint yourself with campus resources, and when your student seeks advice from you, encourage them to use the resources on campus. Learn the names of their roommates and friends they mention often, and pay attention to new activities. By asking about their friends and activities, you are signaling that you care about their new world. Finally, resist the urge to solve problems for them. I hope you find these helpful!

Welcome to the IU Bloomington community! I hope you will encourage your students to experience all our vibrant campus offers, from strong academic and research opportunities to a dazzling array of events and activities.

These combined experiences produce graduates with excellent academic credentials, a better understanding of the world and lifelong friends. As your students begin their college journey, our guidance counselors, Freshman Orientation Guides, mentors, tutors, student advocates and mental health professionals are here to help them be successful. I appreciate all you have done and will continue to do as partners in their success.

We are excited to welcome international students from more than 140 countries to our campus. Your students will be cared for by our dedicated and devoted faculty members and school administrators, and by the expert team at our international student services office. My advice is to encourage your student to talk to us about any concerns they may be experiencing. We value the contributions our international students make to IU academics, to the campus and to the Bloomington community, and I know that they will have a safe and successful year with us.

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A complete college packing list for your child

By Lawren Elderkin

lelderki@iu.edu | @LawrenElderkin

Bath and dorm room □ Bedsheets (normally Twin XL-size sheets) □ Comforter □ Mattress pad □ Pillows and pillowcases □ Throw blanket

School supplies □ Sticky notes □ Calculator □ Hole punch □ Scissors □ Index cards

Personal care products □ Towels □ Shower shoes (a must-have!) □ Basket or shower caddy □ Toothbrush and toothpaste □ Travel soap container

Room decor □ Area rug for dorm room □ Trash can □ Fan or dehumidifier □ Closet organizer □ Over-the-door hanger (for coats, etc.)

Clothing and laundry supplies □ Laundry basket or bag □ Laundry detergent □ Stain remover stick □ Dryer sheets □ Quarters for laundromat

Other items □ Large bag or backpack for trips □ Health insurance card □ Bike and bike lock □ Umbrella or raincoat □ Food storage containers and silverware

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Everything parents need to know about paying for college

By Marissa Meador

marnmead@iu.edu | @marissa_meador

Although transitioning to college is an exciting experience for students and their family, many parents may be thinking about the steep costs of college education.

With tuition for 2022-23 at $11,446 for in-state residents and $39,118 for outof-state residents, IU can be an investment. In addition to tuition, parents must also consider room and board costs, textbooks and supplies, which IU estimates to cost $900, and other living expenses.

As your student figures out New Student Orientation and dorm supplies, here’s everything parents need to know about paying for college.

Federal aid Financial aid is determined by your expected family contribution, which is calculated through FAFSA. FAFSA is a student aid application students fill out during their senior year of high school.

Federal student aid may include grants or loans.

Loans range from $5,500 to $12,500 per year and are either subsidized, meaning they don’t accrue interest until after graduation, or unsubsidized, meaning they do accrue interest.

IU aid IU offers scholarships with a mix of merit and need-based criteria. Many are awarded automatically after applying, such as the Provost or Dean’s scholar-

ship, but others are applied to later with the selective scholarship application.

This scholarship application is sent to students who applied to IU by November 1, with all scholarships awarded by May 1.

Certain students can also receive aid from IU, including children of veterans, staff or employees and students who have received the 21st Century Scholars grant or the federal Pell grant.

Finally, the MoneySmarts program at IU provides resources and strategies to help students and parents finance college, including scheduled appointments.

third-party access. Parents should then find the IU Bursar Pay application in One. IU. Parents can make payments with their checking or

savings accounts, credit or debit cards, or a 529 college savings plan. Parents can pay all at once or in installments.

Parents of international

students can pay through the apps PayMyTuition, Flywire or Western Union GlobalPay without a transaction fee and with a competitive exchange rate.

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My student just moved out: now what?

By Sean Gilley

spgilley@iu.edu | @seanyg729

You might have feared for the day your students move out for college marked the calendar. For some, a student leaving their home creates feelings of happiness, parents can now live free from the stress of high school shenanigan days. For others, the move out day creates sadness as the thought of a lost connection with your child grows.

As a student, I cannot speak from my own experience. However, here’s some advice from Counseling and Psychological Services at Ap-

palachian State University.

Ask questions, but avoid sensitive topics For starters, never ask your college student how they are doing. If they want to tell you, let them tell you. Parents asking their students if they are homesick raises nonessential awareness to the topic. The student might not have even considered that they were homesick until you brought it up.

When your student calls or texts, it is okay to ask questions, but don’t interrogate them. You should only ask a couple questions when you

are catching up with them.

They might feel uninterested in talking when they’re berated with inquiries.

Never tell your student the years will “go by fast” or that they will be “the best years of your life.” This may be the case for some college students, but not all. Out of the four kids in our family, my oldest sister is the only one who feels college was the best years of her life.

Offer support If the student calls to tell you adjustment to their new lifestyle is hard, listen to them and offer advice from your own life. New environments

bring change. It is okay and even expected that your student will find themselves emotional while enduring these changes. Let them know they can ride the wave — it will go by faster than they will expect.

Find a hobby As the parent or legal guardian, you are also probably experiencing similar emotional difficulties as your student as you undergo a significant life change. Actively find activities you enjoy. This might include going for walks with a family pet, getting a good book at a library or

spending time doing physical activity which you enjoy.

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Lastly, continue living your own life while your student is away at college. You can check in with them regularly, listen to them and provide enough support for individual living.

As your college student finds a foundation of trust built in your relationship, you’ll contribute to their happiness and success in other areas of their life.

Validate your feelings and acknowledge that this is a new chapter in the book of your life, and enjoy the time you get to spend with your student.

When life is not the best, they might call you and seem dragged down by the adjustment. You don’t have to get in the car or on an airplane to visit them immediately. Eventually, your student will make adjustments and will want you to meet the new people in their life. Respecting your student’s boundaries during this time will make them feel comfortable enough to invite you to visit. This should be done with plenty of warning so they can prepare for their

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The 1979 film “Breaking Away” features one of the most sacred Hoosier traditions, the Little 500. This quintessential Bloomington film is just one of several classic Indiana movies to watch to get into the Hoosier spirit.

IU pop culture guide for parents

By Emma Pawlitz

epawlitz@iu.edu | @emmapawlitz

“Breaking Away” This Academy Awardwinning film written by Indiana alumnus Steve Tesich is one of the most well-known pieces of IU pop culture. The movie documents the most

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famous event on campus every year, Little 500, and tells the story of a group of underdogs that has become a tale as old as time. It was shot in Bloomington and on campus, so you can also familiarize yourself with the local scenery before coming into town during the school

year. Then, when you walk down Kirkwood Avenue and see Cutters shirts in the window of every store, you’ll understand the reference and significance.

“A Season on the Brink” John Feinstein stepped inside the Indiana basket-

ball program to document life therein and the controversies of former head coach Bob Knight in this bestselling biography. The book was written during the course of the Hoosiers’ 1985-1986 season and explores the boundaries between Knight’s brilliance

and madness. Plus, it was converted into an ESPN TV movie in 2002. Basketball is one of the most culturallysignificant parts of Indiana University. It’s important to acquaint yourself with the history of one of the most storied programs in the country and understand the

thrill of Indiana basketball that remains on campus to this day.

“Indiana, Our Indiana” It’s never too early to start learning IU’s fight song — you’ll hear it played endless times at Memorial Stadium during the

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parent’s weekend football game and at Assembly Hall during any basketball season visits you might make.

“Indiana, Our Indiana” was written by Russell P. Harker, a former IU band director, and was first performed in November 1912 at a football game against Northwestern.

The song is rhythmic, peppy and pairs perfectly with the inevitable rowdy cheers and claps at every school sporting event. As a bonus, take a listen to the official Alma Mater song “Hail to Old IU” or “This Is Indiana” by Brice Fox and Daniel Weber, the school’s entire basketball culture summed up in a fourminute pop tune played at every party around campus.

Knowing these songs will impress (or embarrass!) your student when you visit them IDS FILE PHOTO BY CLAIRE LIVINGSTON in Bloomington during the Women’s basketball players sing along to “Indiana, Our Indiana” during Hoosier Hysteria on Oct. 5, 2019, in Simon Skjodt Assembly Hall. The team sang, danced and cheered on fellow year. teammates and the men’s basketball team during the whole event.

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The Graduate Hotel is located at 210 E. Kirkwood Ave.

Where to stay and what to eat on your Bloomington trip

By Lexi Lindenmayer

lindena@iu.edu | @lexilindenmayer

Having your child be so far from home is a big adjustment, so why not go ahead and schedule a few Bloomington trips to come and visit them. While planning may sound stressful, we’ll make it very easy for you with many options for places to stay and eat.

Where to stay: The Graduate is located at 210 E. Kirkwood Ave. This hotel is right off campus and just a quick walk away

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from Downtown Bloomington’s most beloved restaurants and shops.

In the middle of campus, Biddle Hotel is in the Indiana Memorial Union at 900 E. Seventh St. This recently renovated hotel includes a full-service and luxury suites to make your stay as comfortable as possible.

The Hilton Garden Inn is another great option to consider. Located at 245 N. College Ave., staying here will place you in the heart of Bloomington. Relax with comfortable accommoda-

tions just steps away from all the activities Bloomington offers.

Not feeling the hotel life? Consider renting an Airbnb in Bloomington.

There are a variety of quality homes all across the city for you to choose from.

Avoid the hotels all together and focus on spending time with your child.

Where to eat: Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, so consider these options when visiting Bloomington. Village Deli is defi-

nitely a Hoosier favorite, as customers can get huge meals featuring pancakes, eggs, waffles, coffee cake and much more.

You could also check out Runcible Spoon for their specialty omelets and cozy atmosphere. Looking to just get a coffee and a fast breakfast? Try out Soma Coffeehouse and Juice Bar for a honey lavender latte and a banana nut muffin.

Need to stop somewhere easy for lunch in between all of your Bloomington adventures? Try eating at Dagwoods on South

Indiana Avenue. This deli and sandwich shop is beloved by many as they serve gourmet sandwiches, quality wraps and specialty soups, all at a reasonable price.

If you are in the mood for a longer lunch, Uptown Cafe will definitely satisfy your hunger. This restaurant features fine dining, “American Casual” style.

Take in the atmosphere and who knows, maybe you will get lucky and see Bruce Springsteen eating there.

There are countless dinner options around Bloom-

ington. Big Woods is a great place to consider with a menu of craft food and beer. Sit outside to experience the nice weather or eat inside for a fun, rustic environment.

Social Cantina is another fun restaurant to check out. Serving everything from street tacos to quesadillas and of course, flavorful margaritas. Finally, Fourth Street contains restaurants serving international foods. Consider stopping in Siam House for Thai food or Taste of India for Indian food.

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IU parents through the years

Families will have years to share college experiences while their students are at school.

Here are some Hoosier parents who came before you.

IU ARCHIVES

1948 Law student Jean Seidel Miller, standing with her husband and parents, receives an award for having the highest GPA in her class in 1948.

ARBUTUS FILE PHOTO BY BOBBY GODDIN

2018 Then-senior guard Robert Johnson thanks his father, grandfather and mother in his senior day speech after the IU v. Ohio State basketball game at Simon Skjodt Assembly Hall on Feb. 23, 2018. Johnson was one of five seniors on IU’s team. He played in the inaugural 3X3U Championship, and he scored the game-winning shot.

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1970s Students at an IU football game in the 1970s send a message to their parents.

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2007 Then-freshman Andrei Vajiac gets help moving into his Ashton dorm from his father Bogdan Vajiac in 2007. The beginning and end of the school year are always filled with a flurry of activity on campus.

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2012 Anna Mackinnon hugs her mother after the undergraduate commencement ceremony at Assembly Hall in 2012.

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1948 Students and their fathers gather for Dad’s Day at the Chi Omega sorority in 1948.

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2017 Then-freshman Elizabeth Ketzner and her father, Brian, laugh while listening to a recording of Elizabeth’s grandfather in Wells Library in 2017. Elizabeth was a baby when her grandfather died and had no memory of what he sounded like.

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2015 Parents and students listen to an informational talk about financial aid in Whittenberger Auditorium in 2015.

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1994 Then-senior Todd Yeagley shares a moment with Jerry Yeagley, his father and head coach, following the Hoosiers victory over University of California, Los Angeles in the Final Four of the 1994 NCAA Soccer Championships. Todd Yeagley is now coach of the Indiana men’s soccer team.

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2010 Graduate Latroy Hampton hugs his mother, Eunice Foley, following spring commencement May 8, 2010, at Assembly Hall.

2010 Kim Davis shakes the hand of the Herman B Wells statue during an orientation tour in 2010 on behalf of her son. Wells was a long-time, much-admired president and chancellor at IU. It’s a tradition to shake hands with his statue for good luck.

2018 On Senior Day 2018, then-senior softball infielder Taylor Uden walks down the field with her parents and her younger sister, Madison, a player for the University of Michigan. The Hoosiers lost the April 29 match to Michigan 2-0 in extra innings.

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1977 Hoosier players crash through a banner commemorating Parents Day celebrations in 1977.

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Here are the best places to pick up some IU mom and dad swag From Etsy to the Indiana Shop, consider these options when looking for cream and crimson.

By Lexi Lindenmayer

lindena@iu.edu | @lexilindenmayer

Now that your child is officially a Hoosier, you’ll need to add some cream and crimson to your wardrobe. Whether you decide to sport a classic “Hoosier Daddy” shirt or purchase a student-designed crew neck, we have you covered on the best places to find your IU swag.

Indiana Memorial Union Bookstore Located inside the Indi-

ana Memorial Union, the bookstore is a great place to buy some attire while walking around campus. With its central location in the heart of IU, you can pop in quickly between all the orientations and tours.

The bookstore sells every type of clothing: jerseys, sweatshirts, t-shirts, socks and much more. While the merchandise is a little more on the expensive side, the quality is durable, and it’s worth it in the long run.

IU Varsity Shop

The IU Varsity Shop is the official store of IU Athletics.

There are two locations, one on the corner of Indiana Avenue and Kirkwood Avenue and another inside Simon Skjodt Assembly Hall. They sell a variety of IU sportsthemed apparel, including the iconic candy-striped pants, branded sports gear, tailgate accessories and even home decor.

Kirkwood Options The Indiana Shop, located on Third Street and Kirkwood Avenue, has a

wide variety of apparel and merchandise. They have one of the more diverse collections in town, including tote bags and other novelties.

Here, you can get intentional with what you buy, as the Indiana Shop carries clothing from specific IU schools. Whether your child is studying game design in the Media School or finance in the Kelley School of Business, the Indiana Shop will have something for you.

When dropping your

child off or coming to visit for a weekend, stopping at Tracks is a must. Located on Kirkwood Avenue, Tracks sells classic IU apparel as well as student-designed shirts and sweatshirts. The store is always introducing new designs and bringing back favorites.

Greetings is the perfect place to purchase shirts to represent that Hooiser pride. Greetings has all kinds of diverse designs, such as shirts featuring IU football coach Tom Allen’s slogan “Leo” or the famous

Grateful bears.

If you aren’t in Bloomington but still want to represent Hoosier pride, online shops like Etsy can help. Searching “IU” or “Indiana University” on Etsy’s home page will show pages and pages of IU related items and clothing. From vintage sweatshirts to new designs and dog collars to Apple Watch Bands, you’ll definitely be able to find something that suits you.

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College allows you to get out there, make new memories and experience fun adventures. While most people associate college with the constant cycle of studying on weeknights and partying on weekends, Bloomington also offers a variety of arts events and shows to consider.

Encourage your child to get involved with the Bloomington arts scene during their four years. They can attend festivals, shows, musical performances and much more, all without leaving the city.

If you are looking to stay on campus, keep an eye out for the IU Auditorium. Every year, IU Auditorium hosts off-Broadway productions, concerts and talks with notable celebrities.

Over the years, guests have included Bob Dylan, R.E.M., Maya Angelou, the Supremes and Yo-Yo Ma among many others. Musical comedy “The Prom’’ will make a stop at the IU Auditorium on Sept. 20-21 as part of its national tour. Check out the auditorium’s fall lineup and experience a beautiful theater, right in the heart of campus.

The Buskirk-Chumley

Theater has been a Bloomington gem since 1992. This historic theater features music, theater, dance, film and community events.

University and local organizations will take the stage at the BCT, but they also bring in nationally-touring performers, including musicians and comedians. If your child is looking to experience the arts culture of Bloomington, the BCT has you covered.

New students should also check out the African American Arts Institute. This program brings Black music, dance and culture to center stage with performances for

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local, national and international audiences.

The African American Arts Institute offers three performing ensembles through IU’s Department of African American and African Diaspora Studies: the African American Choral Ensemble, the African American Dance Company and the IU Soul Revue.

These ensembles will conduct concerts throughout the year, so keep an eye out for their schedule.

The Jacobs School of Music conducts shows throughout the year. From student ensembles, workshops, ballets and operas, there is something that everyone can enjoy. Buy a ticket for your child to see the opera “Don Giovanni,” on the weekend of Sept. 1617 or Sept. 23-24, or the Fall Ballet on Sept. 30.

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Q&A: Younger siblings discuss the college transition

By Marissa Meador marnmead@iu.edu

Going to college can be a big transition for students themselves, but siblings and other family members also struggle with the changes. Before leaving for college, I shared a room with my 17-year-old sister for 12 years, so we spent a lot of time together. My brother, an incoming middle schooler, sarcastic and sometimes grouchy, would take occasional breaks from Fortnite and play a board or video game with me. To get their perspectives on what it was like to have a sibling move out, I talked to my sister Ella and my brother Zach about the good and bad of the college transition.

What was it like for me to leave for college?

Ella: It came very suddenly. It didn’t hit me until the night before. And it took a while to get used to you not being there. For example, I had to do more things we used to do together alone, like getting coffee or going thrifting.

Zach: It was weird having you around all the time in the summer and then never seeing you.

How did things change in the house?

E: I would walk out to the living room and there would be nobody there.

Like how Mom and Dad usually sit out there and watch TV — they just didn’t anymore. That was weird. Sometimes I’d be about to go to bed in the room we used to share and I would say “Hey, can you get the lights,” because I would forget you weren’t there.

Z: You weren’t always talking to Mom and Dad at night.

Was there anything good about me leaving?

E: It would be easier to determine who stole food. It was always Zach.

Z: Yes. I get more food for myself.

How should younger siblings deal with not having another sibling in the house?

E: Make sure you text and call your older sibling. I would also listen to songs that reminded me of my sister sometimes, and that helped.

Z: Get another sibling, I guess. Or hang out with friends more.

What should parents do to help their other children adjust when a sibling moves out?

E: It would be nice if parents did the things siblings used to do with their older sibling. Like sometimes Dad and I would get coffee. Also, not talking about the older sibling like they’re dead — they just went to college.

Z: Maybe offering to take them places or doing more stuff with them.

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Make sure your student knows about these campus resources

By Ethan Moore

ethmoore@iu.edu | @ethcmoore

It’s important to make sure your child is set up for success before they move into college. Sometimes, that can mean making sure you know everything you can, so you are able to point them in the right direction when they need it.

Here are just a few of the on-campus resources that your student should be familiar with before they get to campus.

cal therapy, point them to the Student Health Center. Located at the corner of 10th Street and Eagleson Avenue in the heart of campus, the center provides various medical services to students and is an important resource to make sure your child is familiar with.

A complete list of the services offered at the center and which medical insurances they accept can be found on its website.

Student Health Center

Counseling and Psychological Services

healthcenter.indiana.edu If your child gets sick, needs a prescription filled or has to go to physi-

healthcenter.indiana.edu/ counseling Counseling and Psychological Services, located in

the Student Health Center, offers mental health care and counseling to students from trained professionals.

Each student that pays the student health fee receives two free counseling sessions.

CAPS provides individual and group counseling options, ADHD screenings, services specifically for LGBTQ students and a crisis counselor that is available 24/7. A complete list of services can be found on the CAPS website.

Recreational Sports Facilities recsports.indiana.edu IU has two recreational sports facilities and mem-

bership for students is included in their student activity fee. The Student Recreational Sports Center, located on Law Lane, and Bill Garret Fieldhouse, located on Seventh Street, are great resources for students to make the most of.

Between the two facilities, students can make use of an Olympic sized pool, basketball courts, indoor tracks, multipurpose gyms and more. Hours of operation and more details about the facilities can be found on the IU Recreational Sports website.

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The Division of Student Affairs is a great general resource to make sure your child is familiar with. The division is there to help students with navigating all aspects of college life.

The division provides advocates to help with academic issues, gives free legal advice to students and handles reports of harassment and discrimination.

Even if they are not able to provide the service your student is looking for, they can probably point them in the right direction.

Student Academic Center The Student Academic Center provides resources

to help students adjust to the college learning environment and assist in areas they are struggling with. The center provides academic coaching, peerled study groups for particular classes and even offers courses for credit that help students improve their academic performance in areas of difficulty.

The center also has general tips and strategies on its website to make many different aspects of college easier. Even if your child isn’t the type to go to a study group, make sure they at least check out the online resources that the center offers.

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Tips to make move-in day as easy as possible

Here are some tricks to help avoid unnecessary stress when you’re moving into the dorms.

By Emma Pawlitz

epawlitz@iu.edu | @emmapawlitz

Moving into college for the first time can be one of the most stressful and emotional parts of life for teenagers and parents alike.

However, a lot of that stress can be avoided simply by planning ahead and being wellprepared. Follow these tips to ensure the most painless move-in experience possible.

Have a plan for your room Move-in will go smoothly if you come into it familiar with the layout of your student’s room and how they want to set everything up. The IU Residential Programs and Services website provides pictures and videos of typical room setups for each dorm, along with measurements of the items that are provided and cannot be removed. Planning out the setup — where you’ll put large items and if you’ll move anything around — can save a ton of time on the day you move-in.

Know where you are going A lot of residence halls have multiple buildings and entrances, so triple check that you know exactly where you need to park your car. Campus will be super busy around

move-in time and roads will be packed; one wrong turn could cost you valuable time.

Communicate with your roommate Whether your student is living with one of their best friends or signed up for a random suitemate, it is important to reach out and discuss the living situation well in advance of their movein date. Make sure your student and their roommate determine who is bringing large items like a TV, refrigerator or microwave. It can also be helpful to have your student set up spatial boundaries, coordinate decorations and room accessories and ask their roommate about their cleanliness and organizational habits.

Bring a cart or dolly Anything with wheels can be a lifesaver, especially if you have lots of boxes or large, heavy items. Stacking your stuff on a cart or dolly will save you trips up and down the elevator and conserve energy for a long day of hauling around bags and boxes.

Avoid stores near campus Bloomington will be packed during the week before school starts, and Kroger, Targets and College Mall are definitely no exception. Plan to bring as much food, bathroom supplies and extra necessities as possible so that you don’t have to face the massive crowds in local grocery stores or other shops. Even if your student forgot something important, ordering from Amazon can be much less annoying than waiting in an hour-long line to buy shampoo.

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How to keep up with your student

By Ethan Moore

ethmoore@iu.edu | @ethcmoore

As residence hall move-in dates start to creep closer, “promise you’ll call home at least once a week” enters practically every parent’s vocabulary — and understandably so. Every parent worries about how their child will adjust to college life, so calling home becomes extra important in those first few weeks.

Regardless of how often your new IU student promises to call, it’s normal for you to worry about staying up-to-date on your child and their life on campus.

Even if those calls start to fade out as the weeks go on, there are other ways to stay in the loop when it comes to campus and Bloomington life. Here are some resources to help you know what’s going on.

Indiana Daily Student The Indiana Daily Student is IU Bloomington’s student-run newspaper, and we are committed to covering important events at IU and in the Bloomington community. Visit us at idsnews.com and subscribe to our newsletters to stay in the know with what’s going on around campus. You can also follow us on social media, @idsnews.

IU Notify IU Notify is the university’s masscommunication tool used to send out immediate alerts for dangerous situations around campus, whether that may be a tornado warning, gas leak or an assault near campus. Sometimes bad things happen, and it’s important for you to know so you can check in on your student. Visit one.iu.edu and search for IU Notify to add your contact information to the list.

Social Media Social media is one of the easiest ways to quickly see what’s going on in Bloomington. Even if your child won’t accept your follow request, there are plenty of official IU social media accounts dedicated to updating you on different things.

We recommend following the official IU Bloomington account and the account for your child’s school within IU to catch any big news that may affect your child’s college experience.

Parents Association The Division of Student Affairs has a Parents Association to act as a bridge between you and life at IU. At the end of orientation, your student should have enrolled you (or his or her other parent or guardian) as a member. If you’re not a member, you can sign up for the IU Family Connection newsletter on the Division of Student Affairs website.

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Example address:

[Student’s name] [Residence hall name, building name, room number] [Residence hall street address] Bloomington, IN, 47406

John Doe Forest Quadrangle B Tower B505 1725 E. Third St. Bloomington, IN 47406

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Southeast Neighborhood

Northwest Neighborhood

Ashton Center 1800 E. Tenth St.

Forest Quadrangle 1725 E. Third St.

Briscoe Quadrangle 1225 N. Fee Lane

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Read Hall 125 S. Eagleson Ave.

Foster Quadrangle 1000 N. Fee Lane

Eigenmann Hall 1900 E. Tenth St.

Spruce Hall 1801 E. Jones Ave.

McNutt Quadrangle 1101 N. Fee Lane

Teter Quadrangle 501 N. Sunrise Drive

Wells Quadrangle 1021 E. 3rd St.

Walnut Grove Center 1200 N. Walnut Grove St.

Union Street Center 445 N. Union St.

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Resources for parents of incoming IU students IU offers many resources through the Office of First Year Experience Programs

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While you may have questions and uncertainties as a parent of an incoming college freshman, there are many resources IU has to offer to provide parents what they need.

The Office of First Year Experience Programs serves to guide incoming students and provide their parents with the resources they need to get on track for a successful first year. This includes the New Student Orientation Guide, which lays out the steps incoming students need to take in order to enroll successfully and

can be found on IU’s First Year Experience website.

The Office of First Year Experience has programs specifically designed for incoming freshmen and transfer students to IU. These programs include new student orientation, which incoming students must access by setting up IU computing accounts and two-step login in order to complete the required NSO components.

Programs through the Office of First Year Experience also include Welcome Week programs consisting of CultureFest and the Freshman Induction Ceremony, which includes of

campus organizations and performances all set up.

There’s also the Hoosier Experience, a guide to events and activities on campus consisting of four tiers — explore, engage, reflect and earn.

Also available are Residential Programs and Services and the Parent Advisory Board. Residential Programs and Services guides parents through the housing assignment process.

The Parent Advisory Board consists of IU parents from across the nation who provide input in the programs and services supported by the Division of Student Affairs.

Award-winning student media outlets, internship programs, international travel opportunities and dozens of student organizations are all available to you starting your first day on campus.

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By Christy Avery

averycm@iu.edu | @christym_avery

IU’s campus is home to six culture centers, inclusive spaces where students can get involved in and learn more about different cultures. These centers provide a second home to students, who can find community in a new environment.

Visiting a culture center can provide your student with academic, spiritual, career and mental health resources, as well as a safe place to gather, study and participate in activities.

The centers are a space to celebrate their heritage and culture at IU, a predominantly white institution. If you’re looking for a place your child can connect with others of the same culture or religion — or a place to learn about other cultures — these centers are a great place to start.

bat dinner and services, community advocacy initiatives and travel abroad programs to Israel. Included in the Center are a kosher dining hall, a chapel, a library and learning center, and more.

First Nations Educational and Cultural Center The First Nations Educational and Cultural Center supports Native American and Indigenous students at IU. Located on Eighth Street, the FNECC offers programs like Native American Heritage Month celebrations, Native film screenings, an annual Powwow and more. The FNECC promotes the “Indigenize Indiana” initiative, which amplifies the voices of Indigenous people and developed a land acknowledgement statement recognizing that IU was built upon land of the Miami, Delaware, Potawatomi and Shawnee people.

Neal-Marshall Black Culture Center

La Casa/Latino Cultural Center

The Neal-Marshall Black Culture Center supports the growth and success of Black students, faculty and staff. It provides academic and other resources to help students navigate college.

Programming at the NMBCC includes the Freshman Pinning Ceremony, which welcomes first-year students into IU, monthly Mid-Day House Parties to gather and check in with students, and Black History Month celebrations.

The La Casa/Latino Cultural Center serves Latino students on campus. La Casa offers a weekend Latino Retreat in the fall, puts on monthly Colectiva Dinners and celebrates National Hispanic Heritage Month and Dia de los Muertos. La Casa is located on Seventh Street next to the LGBTQ+ Culture Center.

Asian Culture Center Through advocacy, institutional resources and community outreach, the Asian Culture Center strives to promote understanding and acceptance of Asian American and Pacific Islander cultures and issues. The Asian Culture Center offers programs such as AAPI Heritage Month and Lunar New Year celebrations, Asian language learning, discussion programs and an Asian American Film Series. The center, which celebrated its 20th anniversary in 2018, is located across from the Collins Living-Learning Center, near the corner of Tenth Street and Woodlawn Avenue.

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LGBTQ+ Culture Center The LGBTQ+ Culture Center is a safe and welcoming environment dedicated to advocating for students of all genders and sexual orientations. The center, which celebrated its 25th anniversary in 2019, provides counseling, free supplies for safe sex, free HIV/STI testing, an LGBTQ Library, a Gender Affirming Closet where students can access free clothing and more. There are also LGBTQ student groups where students can find community and resources for transitioning at IU. The LGBTQ+ Culture Center is located on Seventh Street across from Dunn Meadow and next to La Casa.

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Jewish Culture Center A newer addition to campus, the Jewish Culture Center focuses on educating the IU community about Jewish culture and supporting Jewish students. The Center provides opportunities for Jewish students to develop leadership skills and connect with Judaism. It was launched in part as a way to combat antisemitism and create a welcoming space on campus.

Located in the Helene G. Simon Hillel Center, the Jewish Culture Center puts on events and activities such as Shab-

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Q&A: Mom discusses sending child to college

By Ethan Moore

ethmoore@iu.edu | @ethcmoore

My mom always said I was her little sidekick growing up.

I never missed the chance to run errands or watch a cheesy rom-com with her. She loved to remind me of that when I was a bratty teenager, but we were still close when I went to college.

Even though IU is less than a two hour drive from home, the transition was still hard for her, as it is for any parent. Because she’s been through it, I asked her a few questions to help parents sending a child to college for the first time know what to expect.

What was the hardest part of dropping me off at IU? I think the hardest part was that you and I were so close, and I knew I was losing my sidekick. That was always going to be the hardest thing.

I knew I was going to miss you each and every day.

I worked in the school system where you went to high school, so even when you were at school and I was at work, we were still in the same location. That always gave me a sense of peace and I knew dropping you off I was not going to have that anymore. I wasn’t going to be able to know where you were, what you were doing or who you were with. That’s hard for a parent to let go.

What was the biggest adjustment you had to make after I left for school?

Getting used to not seeing you every single day and

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talking to you every day after school was really hard. I wanted to call you every single day, but knew that I couldn’t. I had to let you acclimate to a new journey in your life, so I had to fight against myself not to call you every day.

How did the dynamic at home change without me?

Well, there was no more bickering between you and your brother, which was a

sense of peace. But at the same time, the house was too quiet. It was just odd, not having you around to chat with, to joke with and to laugh with.

It was a new adjustment.

What do you wish you would have known about the transition into college life?

That’s a really hard question, because you went to college during a pandemic.

It was a very strange transi-

tion for us, because you left home to move into a single room with no roommate and to take online classes. I was worried about you making friends. I wish I knew how much harder of a transition it was going to be because of the pandemic compared to when we dropped your older brother off at IU a few years before that. I was more worried about your isolation and your mental health from not

being around people.

What advice would you give to parents sending off their children to college for the first time?

Try to refrain from having to know where they are or calling them all the time.

We raise our children to be independent, strong individuals and to spread their wings and fly, but it’s just a very hard thing to push

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them out of the nest to let them do that. Even though you raise your children to be independent, you’re never prepared for sending your child off. Trust the way that you raised your children.

I knew that I had raised you the right way, and I just needed to trust you.

Answers have been edited for clarity.

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