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Memorial mural painter

DREAM PATIENTLY But keep dreaming

A local family — left to right, Sara, Nevaeh and Luke — enjoys a Treasure Valley winter

Contents Features

Volume 7, Number 1 Publisher J.J. Plew Associate Publisher Adrianne Goff

January 2019

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Contributors Daniel Bobinski Jessie Horney Macaile Hutt Sandy McDaniel Mary Ann Wilcox Graphic Design Carol Smiley csmileydesign@gmail.com Distribution Shauna Howard, Doris Evans

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Columns

23 Wednesday’s Child

Meet Robbie

Running your ‘engine’

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A coping skill

Tami Mouser

Memorial mural artist

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In Each Edition 4 Editor’s Intro Crazy words

Wrong Choices Long-term effects

Resource Guide 2019

14 10 Family Events 16

Calendar

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EDITOR’S Intro

Words matter: new year, new words

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eing in the business I’m in, I enjoy learning new words. Sometimes I actually get to use one in a sentence; sometimes I don’t. I thought I’d share a few new words with you — BUT DON’T STOP READING! They’re fun words. Possibly even very useful.

• Breatharian: A person who believes that it is possible, through meditation, to reach a level of consciousness where one can exist on air alone. (Think of the money you’d save on groceries!)

• Arctophile: A person who collects or is very fond of teddy bears. (Apparently, this definition applies to grownups, but there are much worse things you could be fond of — see next entry.)

• Emacity: Fondness for buying things. (I know some people who have this...badly.)

• Misogamy: The hatred of marriage. (I’ll bet most of the people to whom this word applies are actually married.)

• Kyoodle: A mutt; dog of mixed breed of little value; noisy dog. (This definition reminds me of my neighbors’ annoying pet.)

• Absquatulate: To leave somewhere abruptly. (Don’t do this on the job or to your family.)

• Eucatastrophe: A happy ending to a story. (So, more or less the opposite of a catastrophe.)

• Cryptozoology: The search for and study of animals whose existence is unproven, such as the Loch Ness Monster and the Yeti. (Can you get a degree in this?)

• Dumbsize: To reduce the staff numbers of a company to such low levels that work can no longer be carried out effectively. (Been there!)

• Mouse potato: A person who spends large amounts of their leisure or working time on a computer. (Isn’t that all of us?)

• Mumpsimus: A traditional custom or notion that is adhered to although it has been shown to be unreasonable.

(Isn’t that all of us?)

• Pre-loved: Second-hand. (A strange but useful term.)

• Pyknic: A technical description of a stocky physique with a rounded body and head, thickset trunk, and a tendency to fat. (Could be influenced by eating too much at a picnic.)

• Rawky: Foggy, damp, and cold. (A good word for this time of year.)

• Limerence: The state of being infatuated with another person. (Hopefully, your spouse.)

• Petrichor: The pleasant, earthy smell after rain. (What about after snow?)

• Rebirthing: A form of therapy involving controlled breathing and intended to simulate the trauma of being born. (What? Once wasn’t enough?)

• Rug rat: A child. (Lovable rug rat: your child.)

• Screenager: A person in their teens or twenties who has an aptitude for using computers and the Internet. (Could be a good thing, could be a bad thing.)

• Skimmington: A kind of procession once undertaken to make an example of a nagging wife or an unfaithful husband. (Nowadays, it’s just off to divorce court.)

• Sonder: The realization that each passerby has a life as vivid and complex as your own. (Literally gives a whole new meaning to people-watching.)

• Bardolatry: Excessive admiration of Shakespeare. (I guess anything’s possible.)

• Calving: Of a glacier or an iceberg, to break up or splinter so as to produce a detached piece. (Not what you first thought, was it? That’s all right — the first thing you thought is also accurate.)

• Bobsy-die: A great deal of fuss or trouble. (Yep, I’m gonna use this word someday.)

• Annus mirabilis: A Latin phrase that means “wonderful year,” “miraculous year” or “amazing year.” (We’d all love to have one of those. Can you hear us, 2019?)

(Definitions courtesy of Merriam-Webster, Wiktionary, Dictionary.com, YourDictionary.com, and Oxford Dictionaries) FREE

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SHOPPING day

An organized list saves time, money

By Mary Ann Wilcox

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Here are a few ideas of know what you are thinking... “Why do I places where your list may need to read about a shopping list?” The need to be in your home: answer is because you want to spend • Hang the list on your LESS time in the grocery store, LESS fridge so everyone can energy, have LESS stress, and spend LESS help keep you stocked money. Am I right? Using a shopping list will up. help you get in and out of the store faster • Hang it in your and spend less money because you are NOT pantry so that you’ll be able making spontaneous purchases but rather to correctly re-stock your pantry buying what your family actually needs. when you run out of something. This way you A well-organized list will help you be even are constantly and easily rotating your food. faster.

• Print out multiple copies at a time and I encourage you to arrange your list by the Mary Ann Wilcox file them. This way you don’t have to print departments in the store you’ll be going to. This one every time you need one. Hang one up in each place. way you can quickly and easily go down the list, checking They’re easy to consolidate while driving to the grocery items off as you walk through the store WITHOUT making store. (No, not while YOU’RE driving. Either a family that “oh yeah, I just remembered” run back several aisles you member can drive and you can arrange the list, or you can already walked through. Talk about wasting time and energy. drive and they can arrange the list.)

Since most of us purchase the same things each time we By using a recurring shopping list form that you’ve created grocery shop, a recurring list makes sense.

Arrange items by category. This is done for several reasons: or customized, you’ll save energy and time racking your 1. When searching for the item on the list, it’s easier to find so brain as to what you need and how much you need, because you can check it off as needed (and correct quantity, too). you probably had to buy it last time, too.

I hope using this concept helps make your shopping prep 2. When shopping, know which section on the list to look at and shopping trips easier, faster, and more thrifty. If you to learn what you need from that department. are looking for more information on how to save money Arrange the categories by the store where you do most on feeding your family, may I suggest that you take the of your general shopping. To use this list, simply find the “Eat Better for Less” class or purchase the book at www. category, write down the item you need and how many you MaryAnnsCupboard.com. need on the line, and check it off when purchased.

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BUILDING cohesiveness

Emotional intelligence and your family

By Daniel Bobinski

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on’t you wish spouses and babies spouse and your children. came with “how to” manuals?

Here’s something else that’s counterintuitive.

Life would be so much easier if Having taught emotional intelligence for they did. But they don’t, and so nearly 30 years, I contend that EQ is easier we experience a lot of on-the-job discovery. It to learn if you don’t make emotions the doesn’t help when schools don’t offer classes central focus of your learning. That’s because on people skills. Those would at least give us a the three core aspects of our personality head start. (behavioral styles, cognitive styles and The good news is that people skills are motivators) have emotional components to learnable, and no matter what your age them. Learn about those three aspects, and by or place in life, you can learn them. Call default you’re learning EQ along the way. them soft skills, people skills or emotional For example, if someone has a strong intelligence (EQ), just know that they’re driver personality (DISC type “D” / Colors Daniel Bobinski learnable, and yes, they can help your family be type red), the affiliated emotion is anger. More more cohesive. specifically, such a person tends to have a short fuse.

I’ll never forget an EQ course I was teaching about 15 For the analytical type (DISC type “C” / Colors type blue), years ago. One day I’d given an assignment on practicing the affiliated emotion is “fear.” More specifically, a person good listening skills, and at the next class, one of the women with this core style is afraid of the consequences of making a reported that she couldn’t believe how her young 5- and bad decision.

6-year-old children responded when they realized she was In other words, if you study the four behavioral styles, truly listening to them — not just you learn the strengths, weaknesses, nodding her head. This woman was preferences and tendencies of each style as amazed that her connections with her well as the affiliated emotions. This greatly family could be so much better just by enhances your effectiveness in relationship practicing emotional intelligence. management, which enables you to be a So what is emotional intelligence? better spouse and parent.

I define it as an intelligence and skill You can also learn about the cognitive that lets you perceive and assess your styles and motivators. After all, what own and other people’s emotions, motivates you won’t necessarily motivate desires, and tendencies, and then your spouse or your children. make the best decision based on those By the way, when it comes to styles, there perceptions to get the best results for is no good or bad. Each style has strengths everyone involved. and each has weaknesses. That said, I believe that styles are Interestingly, everything in EQ starts with knowing yourself. more effective or less effective in given situations.

This means identifying your strengths, tendencies, and For example, the strong driver personality tends to be more preferences, as well as coming to grips with your weaknesses. effective in situations that require quick, bold decisions.

I know, nobody wants weaknesses, but guess what?

However, they are less effective in environments that require Everybody’s got them. The truth about our humanity is that a lot of interpersonal patience or attention-to-detail. every strength has a corresponding weakness. Our job is to The strong analytic personality tends to be more effective accept the fact that we have them. when there’s mounds of data to pour over and accuracy is From there, the progression is straightforward: selfa must. But people with that style tend to be less effective in management, work management and relationship environments that require reaching out and engaging new management. people.

Self-management and work management include To exercise EQ as parents and spouses means to recognize strategizing to compensate for your weaknesses and the tendencies and preferences in our family members capitalizing on your strengths. Relationship management and work with them — not against them. The more you starts with learning the strengths, weaknesses, tendencies understand about the different styles, the easier it is to and preferences of those around you, and then working with make good self-management and relationship management them, not against them. In your family, that means your decisions.

“The truth about our humanity is that every strength has a corresponding weakness. Our job is to accept the fact that we have them.”

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MAKE ART TOGETHER!

Drop-in artmaking programs for children accompanied by an adult. Free with the price of admission.

Toddler Wednesday January 2, 2019 10:00 a.m. - Noon

Paint a picture of an everyday object inspired

by Charles Gill: Observatory.

By the way, let me point out that all of this is a choice. We can choose to value the differences and work with other people, or we can choose to criticize the differences and work against them. As one parent put it, every interaction you have with your family is like the placing of a brick. You’re either building a bridge or you’re building a wall. The choice is up to you.

So no, our spouses and babies don’t come with “how-to” manuals. But we can study up on the various facets of human nature and then figure out the styles of our family members. Pick up a book. Take a class. Read about it online. Improving our family relationships is always a choice.

Family Art Saturday January 26, 2019 Noon - 3:00 p.m.

Visit Charles Gill: Observatory and create your own collection of objects.

670 Julia Davis Drive, 83702 208.345.8330 www.boiseartmuseum.org

Daniel Bobinski, M.Ed. is a certified behavioral analyst, a best-selling author and a popular speaker at conferences and retreats. He loves teaching teams and individuals how to use Emotional Intelligence, and his videos and blogs on that topic appear regularly at www. eqfactor.net. Reach him at daniel@eqfactor.net or (208) 375-7606.

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A COPING skill

How is your ‘engine’ running?

By Macaile Hutt

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s a pediatric therapist, I try to make the content I’m delivering to my patients fun and easy to understand. Particularly with coping tools and strategies, I have found that when a topic is motivating and interesting, children will be much more willing to adopt the practice in their everyday lives, and remember to use it when the appropriate situations arise. I try to use visuals and examples that feel less scary than deliberately talking about how a child is feeling, and give them the opportunity to express it in a way Macaile Hutt that makes sense in their minds.

For example, if a child is displaying an abnormal or atypical behavior, I will ask the child what color it feels like, what animal it feels like, or what character from his favorite movie he is feeling the most like, and why. I will never forget sitting in a sensory tent with one of my patients as she cried uncontrollably and asking her what color and animal she felt like at the moment. Her answer, as profound as it comes, was, “I feel like a big blue elephant is inside of me sitting on my heart.” This answer allowed us to dive deeper into our feelings and why they cause us to react in certain ways. What made the elephant show up? What purpose does he serve?

What actions can we take in order to make the elephant walk away?

We talked about the things that someone else could do to help the elephant stand up and move away from her heart, and also about how the elephant was never going to fully go away, and it would always live inside of her and press into her heart at the times in her life when her mind and body needed to feel sad. This elephant gives us clues about our heart, and we need to listen to those clues. She told me that crying was one way the elephant would shrink and not feel so heavy, and I gave her strategies and healthy phrases to use to let the people around her know that everything was okay, but she just needed some time to cry and feel sad before she wanted to talk about what was going on.

Another child, out of the blue, began displaying really negative and aggressive behaviors without warning in our session. I asked him who he felt like and he rattled off the names of a few Minecraft characters that I was completely unfamiliar with. After asking a few more questions about the character, how he feels, and what he needs, we were able to take the pressure off of the child and his feelings and behaviors and, instead, give him a way to talk about feelings and behaviors of a motivating character that made sense in his mind.

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We spoke about which character is the “ideal” character for getting work done and focusing, which character was distracted or tired, and which character was angry or frustrated. As our sessions went on, we practiced identifying these different feelings as the character specifically and came up with coping tools and strategies to use to switch from character to character in order to match the expectations of the environment we were in. We even made a visual in which he drew Minecraft characters to correspond with the feelings happy, sad, angry, and focused, and we practiced transitioning from character to character depending on our moods at any given time or situation. Over time, this child learned how to express his feelings in a way that made sense to him internally, but it also helped his feelings and emotions make sense to those around him externally as well.

One of the most basic and simple starting points in order to implement this type of practice is to use The Alert Program, created by Mary Sue Williams, OTR/L and Sherry Shellenberger, OTR/L (Occupational Therapist Registered/ Licensed). The Alert Program discusses a child’s current state of arousal, impacting the body’s ability to focus, regulate, follow directions, and behave appropriately in any current situation. The visual used is that of a car and its engine.

“Your body is like a car engine, sometimes it runs on low, sometimes it runs on high, and sometimes it runs just right,” The Alert Program maintains.

The child is encouraged to come up with examples for an engine running fast, slow, and just right, with the help of a parent, teacher, therapist, or caregiver. An engine running too fast might look like not being able to sit still in the doctor’s office waiting room, punching brother from across the car, and not being able to follow directions or instructions when mom asks for the tenth time to “please finish your breakfast and go brush your teeth” before school in the morning.

An engine running too slow might look cranky, tired, and frustrated. It might look like a head resting on the table and “zoning out” when being asked to follow simple instructions.

An engine running just right looks like feeling focused, content, and proud. It looks like being able to sit still, but also having the energy to play and move without taking that movement too far.

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(pushing or pulling a laundry basket full of books), run a few laps around the block, or receive input through squishes, squeezes, or the use of weight or compression in the form of a blanket or vest. An engine running too slow might need to eat, rest, or take a break from overwhelming input such as bright lights or loud noises. An engine running just right is ready to work, ready to move, and ready to take on the challenges that our daily environment presents.

Once we have identified how our engine is running and how to speed it up or slow it down, we can put these tools into practice as we experience new situations, emotions, and feelings. Giving these visuals to our feelings and emotions makes them feel less scary to talk about, and less scary to address. Allowing our children to come up with the animal, color, car, or character they identify with personalizes our emotions in a motivating and familiar way while taking the pressure off having the spotlight placed on our (or our children’s) behaviors and emotions directly.

I challenge you to ask your family what color, character, or animal they feel like as different situations arise in their

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everyday lives. And I challenge you to ask yourself the same.

Honor these feelings, characters, or engine speeds. Give yourself a break when your engine is sluggish or running a little slow, and give yourself grace when your engine is speeding around all over the place without direction or navigation. Let yourself coast a little when your engine is running just right. The roads of life are ever-winding, everchanging, and ever-moving. But, luckily, your engine is too.

Macaile Hutt is an occupational therapist in Boise, as well as a writer and contributor for The Sensory Project. Her therapy style takes a holistic and child-directed approach, with the goal of children succeeding across multiple environments. She holds a master’s degree in occupational therapy from A.T. Still University and has received continuing education in Handwriting Without Tears, pediatric kinesiotaping, Interactive Metronome, and Beckman Oral Motor. She is co-owner of the company Human Code, a candle and retail company with a larger purpose of promoting kindness and generosity. In her free time, she enjoys creative writing, backpacking, and traveling.

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CALENDAR Parenting Strategies Join licensed psychologist Meghan Carney at an informal group program to discuss parenting problems and solutions from 1 to 2 p.m. Thursday, January 10, in the Children’s Conference Room of the Cherry Lane branch of the Meridian library.

Bring your child and get advice from other parents.

Kids’ toys and activities will be available. Go to https://www.mld.org/parenting-strategies-0 for more information.

Nature Explorers The Deer Flat Wildlife Refuge will hold a Nature Explorers program for preschoolers on the fourth Thursday of each month beginning at 10:30 a.m. in the Refuge Visitor Center, 13751 Upper Embankment Rd. in Nampa. Preschoolers ages 3-5 may use their natural curiosity to investigate the world around them on guided nature explorations.

There will be hands-on activities on a different theme each month. Preschoolers should come with an adult and be ready to be outside. For more information, visit www.fws.gov/deerflat, email deerflat@fws.gov, or call 208-467-9278.

Doggy Tails Kids may practice their reading skills worry-free when they read to a trained therapy dog. The Library! at Cole & Ustick will hold a Doggy Tales: Read Aloud to a Library Pup program from 2 to 3 p.m. Sunday, January 6. Bring your own book or borrow one of the library’s. The program is ongoing at all branches of the library and features dogs named Stiles, Winston, Lexie, and Grace, to name a few. Go to boisepubliclibrary.org to learn more.

Family History Night This drop-in session at the Nampa Public Library is set for 5:30 to 7:30 p.m. Monday, January 7, in the Local History Area on the library’s third floor.

Daughters of the American Revolution members will be available to help you with family genealogy research. Contact Chantel West with questions at chantelfamilyhistory@gmail.com. Bring basic details about yourself and immediate family (names, birth/death dates and locations, etc.), as well as a laptop computer or tablet and a library card, if you have one.

Family Fun Night: Games Every second Thursday of the month, the main branch of Boise Public Library holds a family game night, with games such as Apples to Apples, Bingo, and Uno that the whole family may enjoy.

Try out this free offering from 6:30 to 8 p.m.

Thursday, January 10. Go to boisepubliclibrary.org to find out more.

21st anniversary of Boise Cotillion The Boise Cotillion is marking its 21st anniversary.

The next programs on its schedule of events include the Nifty 50’s Dance on January 10; a Sweetheart Dance on February 7; an All American Western Dance on March 7; and a Spring Prom on April 4. For more information or to enroll, go to www. boisecotillion.com. Questions may be directed to Cotillion Director Denise Hodges at boisecotillion@ aol.com or 208-371-7410.

Flavorful Fairytales: “Mooncake” It’s time for a new year of Flavorful Fairytales at J.U.M.P. in downtown Boise. To start things off, there will be a reading of “Mooncake” from 4:30 to 5:30 p.m. Thursday, January 10, in the J.U.M.P. Share Studio. After the story, little participants will work on a rocketship collage and then make sweet mini mooncakes in the kitchen.

Registration ends Tuesday, January 8. Go to register. jacksurbanmeetingplace.org.

Foothills Family Day – Over and Under the Snow Learn about animals that survive Idaho’s winters both above and below the snow. Explore our “bear den,” crawl through a “subnivean” tunnel as the mice do, and understand how snow can actually keep animals warm — all during Family Day from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday, January 12, at the Foothills Learning Center, 3188 Sunset Peak Rd. in Boise. There will be warm drinks, snow experts, and snowflake making. The event is free, and no pre-registration is required. See the calendar at bee. cityofboise.org for more information.

Ada Library Activities Ada County Library branches feature a number of family- and youth-friendly programs. Following is a brief list of events for January and February: Hidden Springs Branch Library, www.adalib. org/hiddensprings, 208-229-2665 • January 12, Women’s Self-Protection and Empowerment, two sessions: 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. and 1:30 p.m. to 3:30 p.m., at Hidden Springs Clubhouse, 5525 W. Hidden Springs Dr., practical self-defense principles to defend

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yourself against common attacks; registration required by calling the library branch or stopping by; for ages 12 and up Lake Hazel Branch Library, www.adalib.org/ lakehazel, 208-297-6700 • January 26, 10 a.m. to 5 p.m., 30th Anniversary Celebration, all ages welcome; drop in and celebrate with cake and a family scavenger hunt • February 21, 6:30 p.m., Fairy Tale Ball, all ages welcome; come wearing fairy tale costumes and enjoy games, crafts, snacks and more Star Branch Library, www.adalib.org/star, 208-286-9755 • January 25, 2 to 5 p.m., 30th Anniversary Celebration, all ages welcome; drop in and celebrate with cake and a family scavenger hunt Victory Branch Library, www.adalib.org/ victory, 208-362-0181 • January 19, 1 to 5 p.m., Quilting with Carol, experienced and novice quilters ages 12 and up welcome, some materials and sewing machines provided, but you are encouraged to bring your own; for questions or a materials list, contact Carol at cmcclain@adalib.org • January 26, 11 a.m. to 5 p.m., 30th Anniversary Celebration, all ages welcome; drop in and celebrate with cake and a family scavenger hunt

Happy Dog Piano Duo Caldwell Fine Arts will present a performance by Happy Dog Piano Duo at 7 p.m. Friday, January 18, at Jewett Auditorium on the College of Idaho campus. Pianists Eric Tran and Nathan Cheung bring humor and joy to the classical music world with their four-hands originals and transcriptions.

There are a range of ticket prices from $5 to $25 for adults and children. Go to caldwellfinearts.org for tickets or more information. Caldwell Fine Arts is a longstanding cultural program for people of all ages in the Treasure Valley.

Baby Sensational Sensory Playdate Join other babies and caregivers (babies ages 0 to 12 months) for a special sensory-focused drop-in play program from 9:30 to 10:30 a.m. Friday, January 18, at the Cherry Lane branch of the Meridian library. There will be stimulating toys and activities for babies, and good conversation for caregivers. Go to https://www.mld.org/babysensational-sensory-playdate for more information.

SnowSchool Family Day – WaterShed Weekend The Boise WaterShed will offer families the chance to explore how humans and organisms interact with winter during a WaterShed Weekend program beginning at 10 a.m. Saturday, January 19, at 11818 W. Joplin Rd. in Boise. From 10 a.m. to

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of Events McCall Winter Carnival

CFA Children’s Theatre

Canyon County Kids Expo

Drama Kids International will conduct auditions and produce a week of Children’s Theatre in partnership with Caldwell Fine Arts, featuring the play “Hot as Summer, Cold as Winter.” All parts are cast with local children in grades 1-12, and all children will receive a role. Pre-registration is necessary by January 20. All auditions will be held on January 24 in Jewett Auditorium. There is a $25 participation fee, and scholarships are available. The show will be performed for the public at 7 p.m. February 1 and at 1 p.m. February 5 in Jewett.

Educational Support Group for Parents of Special Needs Children Come learn how to successfully advocate for your child’s needs and gain valuable insights from other parents of special needs children during a support group meeting from 7 to 8 p.m. Tuesday, January 22, at the Cherry Lane branch of the Meridian library. Go to https://www.mld.org/educationalsupprt-group-parents-special-needs-children-3 for more information.

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The 2019 McCall Winter Carnival is set for January 25 – February 3, with the theme “Legends, Myths and Superheroes.” The annual carnival is a celebration of all things winter and features snow sculptures, Torchlight and Mardi Gras parades, live music, daily events spanning everything from comedy shows to art auctions, snowbike races to the Monster Dog Pull and much more. Go to mccallchamber.org.

The 2019 Canyon County Kids Expo will be held from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Saturday, January 26, at Ford Idaho Center in Nampa. Admission is $3 for children and $5 for adults. Special guests The Paw Patrol will return this year. Go to canyoncountykidsexpo.com for more information or to purchase tickets in advance.

Idaho Remodeling & Design Show Visit over 130 exhibits, attend the educational seminars and meet local design experts to get plenty of ideas for a whole new look for your home during the 2019 Idaho Remodeling & Design Show January 26-27 at Boise Centre. Admission is $5, and children 16 and under get in free. Go to https://www.eventbrite.com/e/idaho-remodelingdesign-show-2019-tickets-42631189034 for advance ticket purchases or more information.

Idaho Scrapbook Show

Favorite Sesame Street characters will be at Nampa’s Ford Idaho Center on Wednesday, January 23, from 1:15 to 6 p.m. Tickets range from $2 to $55. Go to fordidahocenter.com for more information.

The Idaho Craft Association will present the 2019 Idaho Scrapbook Show from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Friday and Saturday, February 1-2, at Expo Idaho. General admission tickets are $7 and may be purchased online at idahoscrapbookshow.com or at the door. The event will feature a variety of crafting and paper crafting vendors, all of which are listed on the website. There will also be classes on new techniques and styles. Families are welcome. For more information, email idahoscrapbookshow@gmail.com.

“A Little Bit of Showbiz”

Daddy Daughter Date Night

“A Little Bit of Showbiz,” an after-school theater production for students in K-5 in east Meridian, is set for 4:30 to 5:30 p.m. for K-2 students and 5:30 to 6:30 p.m. for 3rd-5th graders on Thursdays for 8 weeks starting January 24. Cost is $50, and volunteers’ discounts are available. Enroll at SwingtoneTheatre.com.

Nampa Rec Center’s annual Daddy Daughter Date Night is set for 7:30 to 9:30 p.m. Saturday, February 9. The special night allows girls to dress up, go to a ball, and have a great time with their fathers. Tickets are $9 per person for members and $11 per person for non-members. Tickets may be purchased at the Nampa Rec Center, 131 Constitution Way, or online at nampareccenter.org.

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Babby Farms program On the fourth Thursday of each month, Nampa Public Library hosts an animal program, with one of the animals from Babby Farms. The fun takes place from 4 to 5 p.m., and in January it is set for January 24. All ages are welcome to attend.

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Foothills Family Day – Idaho Explorer Day Develop your explorer skills by creating a naturalist journal, learning to identify plants, and completing an orienteering scavenger hunt during Idaho Explorer Day from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturday,

February 9, at the Foothills Learning Center, 3188 Sunset Peak Rd. in Boise. Learn about Idaho’s explorer history and check out some tools used when the pioneers began moving west. The program is free, and no pre-registration is required.

Go to bee.cityofboise.org for more information.

Foster/adoption meetings The first step in finding out more about being a foster or adoptive parent in the State of Idaho is by attending an information or orientation meeting.

A meeting is set for 6:30 to 8 p.m. Wednesday, February 13, in the Idaho Room of Caldwell Public Library, 1010 Dearborn St. For more information, contact Monique Layton, recruitment coordinator, at 208-249-0180 or mlayton4@ewu. edu, or visit www.fosteringidaho.org.

Cabin Fever Reliever If the winter blues are getting you down, then put the annual Cabin Fever Reliever on your calendar. It’s set for 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, February 16, in Nampa’s Karcher Mall. Cabin Fever Reliever offers free education about healthy outdoor activities for kids and families, and is a fun family-friendly event. Go to kidsfirstcast.org for more information.

Children’s Reading Series Boise Contemporary Theater’s Children’s Reading Series is a popular program that presents the best of contemporary children’s theater in a creative environment, allowing children ages 6 and up to “hear a play.” Professional actors bring compelling stories to life — and there are free goodies. The performances are presented at 2 p.m. one Sunday a month (see BCT website for more information).

A performance of “Polar Opposites: An Impossible Tale” is set for February 17. The play is described as, “About ice. And melting... A play featuring animals of the Arctic and Antarctic.” To purchase tickets, go to bctheater.org or call the BCT Box Office at 208-331-9224.

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TAMI MOUSER

Artist struggles through memorial mural

By Gaye Bunderson

F

irst responders are the people communities depend on when someone needs help, or when their family members need help. But it’s important to remember that first-responders have families too. Tami Mouser of Mountain Home found an ideal way to help her community remember the people who put their lives on the line: she painted a mural.

It wasn’t an easy thing to do. Tami only started painting two years ago. She painted at home, and she started out small. Really small.

“I started with miniatures,” she said.

She went to the store and bought the littlest painting supplies she could find. Her first work of art was a 1-inch by 1½-inch painting of a tree. That small scale beginning seems an unlikely launch toward painting a large mural. But in two years’ time, Tami leaped into the big project art scene.

First, she joined the Mountain Home Arts Council and entered an art show at the Mountain Home Public Library.

One of her paintings was the second biggest seller of the event. That whet her appetite for more. Through a program called Community Canvas of Moho (short for Mountain

Home) — a project to beautify the town of 14,224 residents through works of art — she created her first mural in 2017.

“You have to submit your idea, with a draft, and get it approved by the council,” Tami said. “You then have three weeks to finish the mural, starting in June and finishing by July 4.”

Her first mural was of birds. It was completed by July 4, 2017 without any problem. When Tami decided in 2018 to paint another mural, she picked an American flag concept, hastily turned in a roughly hewn draft, and was given the goahead by the arts council. The second order of business was to find a large, bare, exterior wall to paint on. She found one on the building that houses her hair salon, All About You, and her landlord gave his approval.

Tami not only struggled with learning to paint large on a rough surface, she faced many other challenges.

“Painting outside on a wall is much different from painting at home,” she said.

Painting outdoors requires dealing with the vagaries of the weather, daylight and darkness, and big equipment, among other things. One of the biggest hurdles was dealing with Tami Mouser of Mountain Home overcame artistic and other challenges to create a memorial mural for her father and fallen police officers and firefighters.

(Photo by Gaye Bunderson)

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the public, some of whom would just stop by with friendly, curious questions while others took exception to the mural.

Tami’s flag is tattered and painted mostly in black in honor of those who’ve passed.

“I did it as a memorial for police and firefighters,” she said.

She also painted a small, brief tribute to her father on the mural that reads, “In honor of Larry Mouser, 1930-2013.”

Larry worked as a police officer in Pocatello, then came to Mountain Home and volunteered as a firefighter for roughly 10 years while running Mouser Auto Repair.

The controversy over the mural was heightened because of its mix of a “Lives Matter” message and the seemingly disrepectful depiction of a black and tattered banner. Some people also complained the flag looked incomplete.

For a time, the Stars and Stripes became the Stars and Gripes, and people’s harsher comments would send Tami home in tears, thinking she should abandon the project.

“The ridicule was insane,” she said.

But she stuck with the project and found ways to avoid the visibility that attracted so much attention.

“It got to where I could only paint at night. I used my vehicle lights to light the wall. My son would play until he was tired, and then I would put him to bed in the back of my SUV.” She would frequently paint until 2 or 3 a.m. to get it finished by deadline. Supporters would drive by and honk.

Some would stop and bring her coffee to keep her going.

Though the controversy has settled down, Tami wants to make a few things clear.

“This is a mural for my family — there is no dark side. It’s to say ‘thank you for your service,’” she said. “I don’t get into hate.”

One of the positive steps she took to calm the naysayers was to put prayers on each side of the flag: A Firefighter’s Prayer and The Policeman’s Prayer. Getting the lettering on

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the wall was a challenge; at one point, she shined a projector on the wall and traced and painted over the letters. In all, it took her three tries to get the lettering large enough and legible enough to read. She also found painting over brick was by no means simple. But in the end, it was her project — all hers — and she was determined to complete it on her own.

“I didn’t want anybody to help me,” she said.

Once the prayers were up, Tami found that many in the community who had been upset over the mural were suddenly drawn to it; people even came from churches to see and read the prayers on it, and Tami made friends among the church people. Now, she had the support of firefighters, law enforcement and, at last, the townspeople.

“I visited with the churchwomen who came to see it,” she said.

One of her biggest supporters was, and still is, Mountain Home’s mayor, Rich Sykes.

“The mural is truly amazing,” he said. “We need a world full of people to create art, and the mural is an inspiration.

The police and fire departments have found meaning in that mural, and have told me that it made them feel a sense of community pride.”

He said the flag inspires so many feelings and so many demographics: the patriotic, the faithful, the first-responders, and families.

Ask Tami the exact size of the mural and she might hem and haw: “Oh...it’s about 15 feet by 20 or 25 feet.” Unable to be precise about the measurements, she just says, “It’s gigantic.”

That in inself sums up a whole lot about the project.

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WARN the young ones

Wrong choices can have lasting effects

By Sandy McDaniel

M

y series of transition classes for fifth through eighth graders and their families is designed to teach children skills for better decision-making. One of the most difficult concepts is that when you compromise on your integrity, you weaken your ability to make more difficult decisions down the line.

You learn not to trust yourself.

I ask a dozen students to line up with a paper attached to their shirts reading, “Self trust/self worth.”

“I am going to read some things that you Sandy McDaniel are going to pretend you did,” I tell them. “To Here are some of the significant teachers of ethics the degree you would feel badly, tear off a piece of paper and morals: and drop it on the floor. If you would feel a little badly about 1.

What are you, as parents, modeling? Do you lie, cheat, what you did, tear off a small piece and drop it on the floor. smoke, drink alcohol to chill out; are you kind to people’s If you would feel really badly, tear off a large piece and drop faces and trash them behind their backs? it.”

2.

What are children’s heroes modeling for them? If children Then I read my hypothetical list: are allowed to watch unsupervised television, have 1. You cheat on a test. You get caught. unlimited computer use, play unsupervised video games, 2. You are asked to be unkind to a friend, and even though listen to unsupervised music, and are media junkies, what you don’t want to do it, you give in to peer pressure. are they learning to value and to emulate?

3. You smoke a cigarette.

3. How do you respond when your child compromises on a choice? It is hopeless to tell your child not to (smoke) 4. You lie to your mother. if you (smoke.) Fill in the parenthesis with any word you 5. You drink a beer. choose; your children are following you.

The point to be made now is, “If a huge, life-changing 4.

Children are learning morals and values from the media. choice needs to be made, like taking drugs, the student who We are in deep trouble. Conversations with parents help has very little self trust/worth left (indicated by a very small children make better choices. piece of paper on someone’s shirt) is more likely to make a Teach children to think about their choices. Have a “What bad choice.” could happen if you (try to steal something in a store)?”

Most, if not all of the students, will have very small pieces conversation.

The moral aspect of this need to be short, of paper left; some will have none. such as, “Stealing something is a conscious attempt to hurt “You teach yourself to be strong and stand up for yourself by doing it. It’s kind like a muscle; the more you choose not to compromise, the stronger you get,” I explain.

If, down the line, a child makes a compromising choice, I remind their parents to have a conversation, remembering the “self trust/worth” papers. Rather than giving a child the shame and blame lecture you learned from your parents, talk about how another, better choice could have been made.

It is fascinating, over the years, to watch students tear their pieces of paper. I am greatly concerned that today’s children too often fail to feel badly about cheating, lying or harming another person.

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“Peer pressure sits like a vulture, waiting for your child to be in a compromising decision-making place. In my experience, it is important to rehearse difficult situations before they happen.”

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someone else, and that is not acceptable.” Talking about the possible consequence of a choice helps a child be prepared to make a less destructive choice. Remember: lack of awareness is the same as no choice.

Peer pressure sits like a vulture, waiting for your child to be in a compromising decision-making place. In my experience, it is important to rehearse difficult situations before they happen. Even if you are against drinking alcohol or teen sex (for religious or other reasons) those reasons need to be stated AND young people need to have a “what would you do if...” session, such as: • If you walked into a party/group and they handed you a beer, what would you do? (Only 7 percent of young people can say, “I don’t drink alcohol,” so most kids need an alternative plan.)

• In the case of teen sex, whether through videos, interviews or real life, teens who are dating need a keen awareness of what it is like to be a parent. Make sure they know how much having a baby will alter their young lives by thrusting them into the realm of adult responsibilities. Also tell them, “If Plan A is for me to raise the child, you’d best have a Plan B.” Some people think that talking about what could happen if you have teen sex condones the idea of having teen sex.

Seeing the statistics on how many young people get swept up by peer pressure, it seems like playing Russian roulette to let your child face that pressure. You need to inform them.

I understand that this stance will not be popular with some readers, but I trust my 56 years of research on children. My intent is not to offend; it is to help you protect your child.

Talk to your children. Earn their trust. Help them to look ahead to decide if a choice is worth it. When they mess up, help them re-think their choice, and bury blame and shame as a teaching tool.You are a teacher, not a warden. Teach!

For more than 55 years, Sandy has been an international speaker and recognized authority on families and children. Author of five books, columnist, founder of parentingsos.com, she is a resident of Meridian and loves spending time with her three Idaho grandchicks. Semi-retired, she speaks to schools, churches, and MOPS groups and provides parent coaching sessions in person and on the phone. She is available for parenting talks/trainings in the Treasure Valley and may be reached at sandy@parentingsos.com. Also, go to YouTube: Sandy Spurgeon McDaniel to see videos on specific parenting issues.

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Special Needs Guide 2 2019 RESOURCE GUIDE AFTER-SCHOOL ACTIVITIES & THE ARTS Aquarium of Boise 64 N. Cole Rd., Boise 208-375-1932 aquariumboise.net Aqua-Tots Swim School 3116 E. State St. #180, Eagle 208-938-9300 aqua-tots.com Balance Dance Company 616 S. 8th St., Boise Downtown Boise 208-407-2943 www.facebook.com/balancedance-company Ballet Idaho and Academy 501 S. 8th St., Boise 208-343-0556 balletidaho.org

Dance Allegro Academy 3015 W. McMillan Rd. #105, Meridian 208-258-3599 danceallegroacademy.com Gem State Gymnastics Academy 5420 W. State St., Boise 208-853-3220 gemstategymnastics.com Girl Scouts of Silver Sage Council 8948 W. Barnes St., Boise 208-377-2011 girlscouts-ssc.org Idaho IceWorld 7072 S. Eisenman Rd., Boise 208-608-7716 idahoiceworld.com

Bodies In Motion 729 W. Diamond St., Boise 208-381-0587 bodiesinmotionidaho.com

Idaho Shakespeare Festival 5657 E. Warm Springs Ave., Boise 208-336-9221 idahoshakespeare.org

Boise Art Museum 670 Julia Davis Drive, Boise 208-345-8330 boiseartmuseum.org

Idaho Tennis Association 1076 N. Cole Rd., Boise 208-322-5150 idtennis.com

Boise Philharmonic 516 S. 9th St., Boise 208-344-7849 boisephil.org

Kindermusik Music Center Studios 12516 W. Fairview Ave., Boise 208-861-6056 kindermusik.com or musiccenterstudios.com

Born to Succeed Early Care & Education Center 4770 N. Shamrock St., Boise 208-658-5561 myborntosucceed.com Bronco Elite Gymnastics 106 E. 48th St., Boise 208-389-9005 broncoelite.com Caldwell Fine Arts 2112 Cleveland Blvd., Caldwell 208-459-5783 caldwellfinearts.org Capital City Ballet Center 9140 Emerald St. #109, Boise 208-378-9752 capitalcityballet.com Champions ATA Martial Arts 2108 Caldwell Blvd. #117, Nampa 208-283-0772 championsmartialarts.win

Music Lingua Foreign Language For Kids Warm Springs area, NE Boise 208-571-1713 musiclingua.com Nampa Civic Center 311 3rd St. S., Nampa 208-468-5500 nampaciviccenter.com Nampa Recreation Center 131 Constitution Way, Nampa 208-468-5777 nampaparksandrecreation.org Social Essence—Etiquette, Leadership, Image Development 208-631-0576 socialessence.com Treasure Valley Family YMCA Locations throughout the valley ymcatvidaho.org

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BABY & NEW PARENTS Babysitting Classes American Red Cross, Idaho Chapter 208-947-4357 https://www.redcross.org/ local/idaho.html St. Alphonsus Regional Medical Center 208-367-2121 saintalphonsus.org St. Luke’s Babysitting Classes 208-381-9000 stlukesonline.org

Breastfeeding Mother’s Milk & More 208-484-1899 St. Alphonsus Family Center 208-367-7380 St. Luke’s Breastfeeding Classes 208-381-9000 Women, Infants and Children (WIC) 208-327-7488

Car Seat Safety St. Alphonsus Family Center 208-367-7380 St. Luke’s Children’s Hospital 208-706-5437

Childbirth & Early Education BabySteps 518 N. 8th St., Boise 342-5601 ext. 212 babystepsidaho.com

St. Alphonsus Family Center 208-367-7380 St. Luke’s Children’s Hospital 208-706-5437

Health & Child Safety American Red Cross, Idaho Chapter 208-947-HELP Anacker Clinic of Chiropractic 300 Main St., Ste. 103, Boise 208-287-2299 1560 N. Crestmont, Ste. E., Meridian 208-288-1776 anackerclinics.com Central District Health Department 208-375-5211 cdhd.idaho.gov Idaho Department of Health and Welfare Dial 2-1-1 Idaho Sound BeginningsEarly Hearing Detection and Intervention Program (ISBEHDI) 208-334-0829 idahosoundbeginnings@dhw. idaho.gov Sleep Well Children 208-994-9429 sleepwellchildren.com Southwest District Health Department 208-455-5345

Hospitals St. Alphonsus Regional Medical Center 208-367-2121

Early Head Start & Head Start, Friends of Children and Families First Inc. 208-344-9187 focaf.org Idaho Association for the Education of Young Children (IAEYC) 4355 Emerald St., Boise 208-345-1090 idahoaeyc.org March of Dimes 1553 N. Milwaukee St. #204, Boise 208-336-5421 marchofdimes.org

St. Luke’s Regional Medical Center 208-381-2222

Immunization Central District Health Department 208-375-5211 Idaho Department of Health and Welfare – Idaho Immunization Program 208-334-5931 Southwest District Health Department 208-455-5345

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Loss of a Baby Boise Chapter of Compassionate Friends 208-409-4660 tcfboise.org

Midwifery Treasure Valley Midwives 208-343-2079 treasurevalleymidwives.com

Pediatric Dentists Dan Streeby, DDS, Pediatric Dentistry 450 W. State St. #180, Eagle 208-939-0600 DanStreeby.com Treasure Valley Pediatric Dentistry 1564 South Timesquare Lane, Boise 208-376-8873 tvpdsmiles.com

Playgroup and Moms’ Groups Boise Mothers of Multiples boisemom.org Idaho Moms’ Network idahomomsnetwork.wixsite. com idahomomsnetwork@gmail. com

Safe Kids Treasure Valley 208-381-1719 safekids.org Idaho Association for Infant & Early Childhood Mental Health (or Aim Early Idaho) 208-433-8845 (message phone) info@aimearlyidaho.org aimearlyidaho.org Idaho Department of Health and Welfare Infant and Toddler Program 208-334-0900 https://healthandwelfare. idaho.gov/Children/ InfantToddlerProgram/ tabid/4120/Default.aspx Idaho Federation of Families for Children’s Mental Health 208-433-8845 info@idahofederation.org Idaho Parents Unlimited 208-342-5884 ipulidaho.org Idaho Project for Children and Youth with Deaf-Blindness 208-364-4012 http://www.afb.org/directory/ profile/idaho-project-forchildren-and-youth-with-deafblindness/12

Boise Moms Group-More Than “Just Moms” 208-991-0534 boisemomsgroup.my-free. website boisemomsclub@gmail.com

Rehabilitation Services

Mother’s of Preschoolers (MOPS) mops.org

Retail

Postpartum Support Synergy Birth Services 208-968-3616 synergybirthservices.com

Prevention & Crisis Assistance City Light Home for Women & Children/Boise Rescue Mission 208-368-9901 Idaho CareLine Dial 2-1-1 Idaho Department of Health and Welfare Dial 2-1-1

Nampa Recreation Center 208-468-5777

541-276-2752 meadowoodsprings.org

Roaring Springs Waterpark 400 W. Overland Rd., Meridian 208-884-8842 roaringsprings.com

Capital City Ballet Center 208-378-9752

Wahooz Family Fun Zone & Pinz Bowling Center 1385 S. Marlin Ln., Meridian 208-898-0900 wahoozfunzone.com Wings Center 208-376-3641

Camps Ballet Idaho and Academy 208-343-0556 Boise Art Museum 208-345-8330 Bronco Elite Gymnastics 208-389-9005 Camp Meadowood Springs Weston, Oregon (21 miles from Pendleton)

Cascade Raft & Kayak 7050 ID-55, Horseshoe Bend 45 minutes from downtown Boise 208-793-2221 cascaderaft.com Eagle Adventist Christian School 538 W. State St., Eagle 208-939-5544 eagleadventistchristian.com Gem State Gymnastics Academy 208-853-3220 Idaho Botanical Garden 208-343-8649 Idaho IceWorld 208-608-7716 idahoiceworld.com

St. Luke’s Children’s Rehab Boise: 208-489-5880 Nampa: 208-489-5700 Meridian: 208-489-5099 Caldwell: 208-385-3680

Lakeshore Learning Store 417 N. Milwaukee St., Boise 208-377-1855 lakeshorelearning.com

Birthday Parties Aquarium of Boise 208-375-1932 Ceramica 208-342-3822 Discovery Center of Idaho 208-343-9895 Fast Lane Indoor Kart Racing 208-321-1166 Idaho IceWorld 208-608-7716 idahoiceworld.com

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2019 RESOURCE GUIDE Idaho Shakespeare Festival 208-336-9221 Idahoshakespeare.org

Music Lingua 208-571-1713 musiclingua.com

Lakewood Montessori 133 E. Linden St., Boise 208-331-3888 lakewood-montessori.com

Puentes Spanish Preschool & Daycare 1605 S. Phillippi, Boise 208-344-4270 puentes.biz

Music Lingua Foreign Language For Kids 208-571-1713 musiclingua.com Paradise Point Summer Camp McCall, Idaho 208-345-4440 paradise.episcopalidaho.org Rose Hill Montessori School 4603 Albion, Boise 208-385-7674 rosehillmontessori.com Social Essence—Etiquette, Leadership, Image Development 208-631-0576

EDUCATION Academic Enrichment Center for Stepfamily Development 5460 Franklin Rd., #F, Boise 208-322-2908 stepfamilyhelp.com Chatterbox Pediatric Therapy Center 7091 W. Emerald St., Boise 208-898-1368 320 11th Ave. South, Nampa 208-466-1077 boisechatterbox.com Eagle Adventist Christian School 538 W. State St., Eagle 208-939-5544 eagleadventistchristian.com Idaho Botanical Garden 208-343-8649 Kindermusik Music Center Studios 208-861-6056 kindermusik.com or musiccenterstudios.com Lee Pesky Learning Center 3324 Elder St., Boise 208-333-0008 lplearningcenter.org

Social Essence—Etiquette, Leadership, Image Development 208-631-0576

Adult Education Boise School District Community Education—208-854-4047

Child Care A Bright Child Preschool & Daycare 208-336-7228 A Step Ahead Preschool & Childcare 3348 N. Meridian Rd., Meridian 208-473-2420 astepaheadpreschoolidaho. com Born to Succeed Early Care & Education Center 4770 N. Shamrock St., Boise 208-658-5561 myborntosucceed.com Giraffe Laugh Early Learning Center 901 W. Resseguie, Boise (Child Care Center) 208-342-1239 1191 W. Grand Ave., Boise 208-424-3387 3641 N. Market Lane, Boise 208-954-5459 giraffelaugh.org Kid’s Choice Child Care Center 2210 W. Everest Lane, Meridian 208-888-7540 MyKidsChoice.com New Horizon Academy 1830 N. Meridian Road, Meridian 208-887-3880 12692 W. LaSalle St., Boise 208-376-2690 11978 W. Ustick Rd., Boise 208-323-8900 155 E. Boise Ave., Boise 208-386-9108 newhorizonacademy.net

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Polaris Learning Center 1096 E. Fairview Ave., Meridian 208-629-7451 1323 E. Iron Eagle Dr., Eagle 208-938-9830 6224 Birch Lane, Nampa 208-466-1322 polarislearning.net Puentes Spanish Preschool & Daycare 1605 S. Phillippi, Boise 208-344-4270 puentes.biz

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A Bright Child Preschool & Daycare 208-336-7228 A Step Ahead Preschool & Childcare 3348 N. Meridian Rd., Meridian 208-473-2420 astepaheadpreschoolidaho. com Anser Public Charter School 208-426-9840 Aqua-Tots Swim School 208-938-9300 Bodies In Motion 208-381-0587

Giraffe Laugh Early Learning Center 901 W. Resseguie, Boise (Child Care Center) 208-342-1239 1191 W. Grand Ave., Boise 208-424-3387 3641 N. Market Lane, Boise 208-954-5459 giraffelaugh.org Kids Connect Preschool 68 S. Baltic Place, Meridian 208-898-0988 advancedtherapycare.com Kindermusik 208-861-6056

Born to Succeed 4770 N. Shamrock St., Boise 208-658-5561 myborntosucceed.com Boiseko Ikastola 1955 Broadway Ave., Boise 208-343-4234 boisekoikastola.org Boise State University Literacy Center 208-426-2862 education.boisestate.edu/ literacy/literacy-center/summerliteracy-academy/ Children’s School 208-343-6840 Cloverdale Montessori School 208-322-1200 Cole Valley Christian Schools 208-947-1212 Cooperative Preschool 208-342-7479 208-703-3823

Eagle Adventist Christian School 538 W. State St., Eagle 208-939-5544 eagleadventistchristian.com

Lakewood Montessori 133 E. Linden St., Boise 208-331-3888 lakewood-montessori.net LearningRx Center – Boise West 208-258-2077 Montessori Academy 1400 Park Lane, Eagle 208-939-6333 boisemontessori.com Montessori Garden School / Caspari Montessori 9626 W. Victory, Boise 208-562-1420 caspari-montessori.com/ montessori-garden-school Nampa Christian Schools 208-466-8451 nampachristianschools.com New Horizon Academy 1830 N. Meridian Road, Meridian 208-887-3880 12692 W. LaSalle St., Boise

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Wesleyan Preschool & Kindergarten 717 N. 11th St., Boise 208-343-3778 wesleyanpreschoolboise.com

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2019 RESOURCE GUIDE Berry Ranch 7998 Hwy. 20, Nampa 208-466-3860 theberryranch.com Bogus Basin Recreation Area 208-503-6866 bogusbasin.org Boise Art Museum 208-345-8330 Boise Hot Air Company 7803 N. Hole In One Pl., Boise 208-941-2625 balloonboise.com Boise Philharmonic 208-344-7849 Idaho Botanical Garden 208-343-8649 Idaho IceWorld 208-608-7716 Idaho Shakespeare Festival 208-336-9221 Morrison Center Family Theatre Series 208-426-1110 (box office) 208-426-1609 (main) http://www.morrisoncenter. com/education/family-theatreseries Pinz Bowling Center 208-898-0900 Roaring Springs Waterpark 208-884-8842 Treasure Valley Children’s Theater 33 E. Idaho Ave., Meridian 208-287-8828 treasurevalleychildrenstheater. com Wahooz Family Fun Zone & Pinz Bowling Center 208-898-0900 Warhawk Air Museum 201 Municipal Dr., Nampa 208-465-6446 warhawkairmuseum.org

Field Trips & Day Trips Aquarium of Boise 208-375-1932 Boise Environment Education Boise WaterShed: 208-6087300

Jim Hall Foothills Learning Center: 208-493-2530 bee.cityofboise.org Discovery Center of Idaho 208-343-9895 Idaho Botanical Garden 208-343-8649 Warhawk Air Museum 208-465-6446 Zoo Boise 355 Julia Davis Dr., Boise 208-608-7760 zooboise.org

HEALTH & WELLNESS Chiropractors Anacker Clinic of Chiropractic 300 Main St., Ste. 103, Boise 208-287-2299 1560 N. Crestmont, Ste. E, Meridian 208-288-1776 anakerclinics.com

Emergency Care Saint Alphonsus Regional Medical Center 208-367-2121 St. Luke’s Pediatric Emergency Deptartment 208-381-2235

Mental Health Children’s Therapy Place Locations in Boise, Nampa, Emmett 208-323-8888 childrenstherapyplace.com Nancy Keeton, M.Ed., LCPC 10587 W. Silver City Court, Ste. B1, Boise 208-794-5349

Midwifery Idaho Stork 333 N. 1st St. #260, Boise 208-345-3136 idahostork.com Saint Alphonsus Midwives Locations throughout valley 208-367-1212 https://www.saintalphonsus. org/midwives/ Treasure Valley Midwives 207 W. Washington St., Boise 208-343-2079 treasurevalleymidwives.com

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Pediatric Dentists Dan Streeby DDS, Pediatric Dentistry 450 W. State St., Ste. 180, Eagle 208-939-0600 DanStreeby.com Delta Dental of Idaho 555 E. Parkcenter Blvd., Boise 208-489-3580 deltadentalid.com Dental Care for Kids 3235 N. Towerbridge Way #200, Meridian 208-888-7711 https://drbaby2th.com Meridian Smiles Dentistry & Orthodontics The Village at Meridian – 2274 N. Eagle Rd. #130 208-893-5440 meridiansmilesdentistry.com Treasure Valley Pediatric Dentistry 1564 S. Timesquare Ln., Boise 208-376-8873 tvpdsmiles.com

Pediatric Nutrition Wellness Impact Nutrition 1013 E. Winding Creek Dr. #102, Eagle 208-250-5657 wellnessimpactnutrition.com

Rehabilitation Services Advanced Therapy Care 68 S. Baltic Place, Meridian 208-898-0988 advancedtherapycare.com Boise Teen Counseling – Robert Rhodes 3152 S. Bown Way #105, Boise 208-900-8500 boiseteencounseling.com Children’s Therapy Place Boise – Nampa – Meridian 208-323-8888 Family Counseling Services 208-888-5905 FCSmeridian.com Idaho Pediatric Therapy Clinic 13895 W. Wainwright Dr., Boise 208-939-3334 idahopedstherapy.com

Kaleidoscope Pediatric Therapy 7211 Franklin Rd., Boise 208-375-4200 kaleidoscopepediatrictherapy. com

Specialists Center for Stepfamily Development 5460 Franklin Rd. #F, Boise 208-322-2908 stepfamilyhelp.com Chatterbox Pediatric Therapy Center 7091 W. Emerald St., Boise 888-2796 320 11th Ave. S., Nampa 466-1077 boisechatterbox.com Speech Spot 208-514-9243 boisespeechspot.com Strickland Ear Clinic 1516 W. Cayuse Creek Dr. #100, Meridian 208-375-HEAR (4327)

Special Needs Access Living 690 S. Industry Way #45, Meridian 208-922-2207 accesslivingllc.com Advanced Therapy Care 68 S. Baltic Place, Meridian 208-898-0988 advancedtherapycare.com Ambitions of Idaho 208-466-7443 ambitionsofidaho.org Brain Balance Achievement Centers 3210 E. Chinden Blvd. #113, Eagle 208-377-3559 brainbalanceeagle.com Chatterbox Pediatric Therapy Center 7451 W. Iron Drive, Boise 208-898-1368 320 11th Ave. South, Nampa 208-466-1077 1710 N. Whitley Ste. C, Fruitland 208-466-1077 boisechatterbox.com Children’s Therapy Place Boise – Nampa – Meridian 208-323-8888

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Community Connections Inc. – Adult Day Care Center 208-377-9814 Community Partnerships of Idaho Inc. 3076 N. Five Mile Rd., Boise 208-376-4999 mycpid.com Framework Learning 1102 N. 21st St., Boise 208-890-0008 frameworklearning.com Idaho Parents Unlimited 208-342-5884 ipulidaho.org

Idaho State Parks & Recreation parksandrecreation.idaho.gov Meridian Parks & Recreation Department 33 E. Broadway Ave. #206 208-888-3579 https://meridiancity.org/parks/ Nampa Recreation Center 131 Constitution Way 208-468-5777 nampaparksandrecreation.org

Gymnastics Gem State Gymnastics Academy 208-853-3220

Imagine A&R Case Management Mountain West Gymnastics 208-463-9313 60 N. Cole Rd., Boise arcasemanagement.com 208-869-1693 gymnasticsboise.com Speech Spot 208-514-9243 boisespeechspot.com

Treasure Valley Down Syndrome Association 208-954-7448 Idahodownsyndrome.org

Sports Bogus Basin Mountain Recreation Ski Area 208-332-5100 Boise Parks & Recreation Department 1104 W. Royal Blvd.

208-608-7600 parks.cityofboise.org Caldwell Parks & Recreation Department 618 Irving St. 208-455-3060 https://www.cityofcaldwell.org/ departments/parks-recreation Cascade Raft & Kayak 7050 ID-55, Horseshoe Bend 45 minutes from downtown Boise 208-793-2221 cascaderaft.com Eagle Parks & Recreation Department Eagle City Hall, 660 E. Civic Ln. 208-489-8763 cityofeagle.org/recreation

Wings Center 208-376-3641

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THE HORNEY village

Dream patiently...but keep dreaming

By Jessie Horney

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s there anything quite like parenting to reveal one’s lack of control? Each child we add to our family peels back another layer of my ineptitude, becomes another prism of the mirror I stare into every day, like one of those three-way mirrors in a poorly lit TJ Maxx dressing room that makes your face older, your thighs wobblier, and your selfesteem much, much lower.

Other times, I look at my children and experience a sense of release. I hold them and see the very face of God, their light is so bright and their hearts so open. They were never mine in the first place, I realize in that moment. While the lack of control is unnerving, the scariest part of mothering is when I glimpse my true self through it. Like my friend Claire always says, “I didn’t think I was an angry person. Then I had kids.” Did I always yell like this? Was I always this frustrated by inconvenience, so exhausted by the mundane?

Wasn’t I a dreamer, once upon a time?

Yes, we love control. Some of us like to control time, planning and scheduling like it’s our religion. Some of us think we can control our children and their future, so we don’t buy the red dye 40, we pay for the good coaches, we open enroll in the arts or stem school, we lecture even though we know they’re not listening anymore. We try to control our image, our reputation, our legacy and our name. We would control the weather, the traffic, our lifespan — hell, the whole world if we could.

The tricky thing is, we can’t even control one minute to the next. No matter how firmly I command my kids to NOT SPILL their freaking hot cocoa, they will spill their cocoa. I can worry all I want, but it won’t stop my loved ones from getting a fatal disease. I can hold pretend conversations in my head and practice a scary confrontation all day long, but I cannot control how a relationship heals or progresses.

Kids and their messes reveal our fragility. And in our grasping for something to manage or direct, we see the raw material of us, the stuff we’re made of, the unraveling of the stories we’ve always told about who we are and what we’re worth, what we believe and what we hold dear. We stare in disbelief as that ball of yarn tumbles out of our hands and lands in a tangled pile at our feet, the ends frayed in the unwinding of what we thought we were meant to be. So much of my life as a mother is gathering all those story lines, dreams, and beliefs about life, and wondering what to do with them now. These things I thought were permanent are, as it turns out, quite combustible. All it took was the pressure of parenthood and life unraveled, leaving me to figure out what I mean and where I’m going now.

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(and now helping us raise her 18 grandchildren), running businesses with my dad, helping him pastor a church, nannying for other families, and serving everyone she ever met. She tried going back to school many times, but life did not allow it. The last time she tried she was pregnant with me, her 5th child, and nearly miscarried from the stress.

I cannot imagine deferring a dream for 40 years. That is not a message the world sends, that dreams are worth waiting for; we are told to do it, go for it, fight fight fight for what makes you happy and what you deserve. My mother did not listen to those messages. She did not despair over her lack of control. She allowed time, children, loss, joy, pain, and the mundane every day to develop her as a person, to change her, and when it was time to run hard after her dream... she did it. She did it as the person that life molded her into, which was quite different than the person who started college in 1974.

Watching my mom accept her diploma at Boise State brought tears to my eyes, and a hope rose up in me as a young mother and writer, someone sometimes wishing she could fast forward to success (and days without spilled cocoa).

The message my mom gave us during the hard work of her degree is this: The opposite of control is surrender — which is not, in fact, defeat.

Can I surrender to the work of mothering and allow it to shape my character, while, like my mother, holding my dreams in hopeful hands? Remember what Langston Hughes told us?

Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, Life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.

Hold fast to dreams, for when dreams go, Life is a barren field, frozen with snow.

This new year, the fields of my life are worth planting and tending, even when the seasons are out of my control. So in my prayers I’ll ask for patience in my dreaming, and for a fire in my belly that lights up the days right in front of me.

Jessie Horney is a freelance writer and poet.

Find her at www.horneymomtellsall.com.

Jessie Horney

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WEDNESDAY’S CHILD Robbie: resilient, respectful and fun

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eet Robbie, a fun-loving 15-year-old with a contagious smile and an amazingly positive attitude. Though life has been unkind to him at times, Robbie’s strong resilience shines through and is the first thing you’ll notice when you meet him. A very playful, outgoing and respectful young man, those who are lucky enough to get to know him also describe Robbie as funny, helpful, smart and curious about many different things.

Fun facts about Robbie that he would like prospective adoptive families to know include: Like most teenagers with a love of video games, Robbie can get lost in himself for hours playing Halo Reach, Minecraft or searching YouTube, and is hoping to be a famous YouTuber someday. Though he’s not really into organized sports, Robbie does love swimming and the outdoors in general. He’s also enthusiastic about his science class at school and is most fascinated when learning about the science behind rockets.

While not so much a “dog person,” Robbie loves cats, lizards and snakes and even had a snake of his own once named Cornelius. Robbie is goofy and funny and enjoys making people laugh.

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The following information is provided by Wednesday’s Child, an organization that helps Idaho foster children find permanent homes.

Robbie is also an excellent communicator and has a keen sense of self-awareness for his age. He is so ready to be a part of a Forever Family and dreams of having a dad who will build a fort or work on cars with him. Robbie’s idea of the perfect family for him would include two parents who are flexible, relaxed and will spend quality, one-on-one time with him. Robbie also envisions being part of a family that values sitting down and eating meals together regularly.

Robbie summed up what he is looking for in a family by simply stating that he needs a safe and stable family where he can “just celebrate being a kid at heart because I missed so much of that in the past.”

Robbie’s kind heart, adventurous spirit and giant personality are infectious, and he will be such a treasured addition to any family. Robbie is sure that the family meant to be his is out there somewhere, waiting for him to come along. If you believe that your family is the one he has been dreaming of for such a long time, please inquire to find out more about Robbie today.

For more information on the Idaho Wednesday’s Child Program, visit www. idahowednesdayschild.org, or contact Shawn White at swhite52@ewu.edu or cell 208-488-8989 if you have specific questions.

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