Iceni Magazine Norfolk Issue 107

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ISSUE 107

Focus On: Mental Health

Earth Hour

Many Of You Eco-Bods...

Start By Prioritising Your Wellbeing

Importance Of Friendships For Parents’ Mental Health

Is It Time To Walk Away

From The NegativePeople In Your Life?

Welcome To Iceni Magazine, “Mental health problems don’t define who you are. They are something you experience. You walk in the rain and you feel the rain, but, importantly, YOU ARE NOT THE RAIN.” - Matt Haig Welcome to Issue 107 of Iceni Magazine!

We’d like to take a moment to offer our thoughts and love to those people affected by the terrible events happening in Ukraine at the moment. It’s heart-breaking to see some of the footage and read some of the stories.

This month’s magazine focuses on Mental Health with Missy sharing her original and revised views on the subject on pages 40 and 41. Blossom Education’s Vicki shares why she feels friendships for parents are so important, detailing her story and landing on her feet with her two closest friends (Pages 38 & 39). Jen provides us with some tasty baked oats recipes – we'd love to hear feedback from you on which was your favourite.

Elsewhere, if you are keen to see those sudden signs of spring ‘springing’ up around the county, check out the Open Gardens for March and April (Page 11). Jill brings us up to speed with her article about Earth Hour and some of the recent changes she has made to retain her eco-Queen status (Pages 20 & 21).

We hope that you are able to relax this month, despite all the troubles happening around us. Until April, enjoy Issue 107 and stay safe!

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Contents 46

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Full of absolute dynamic

creative content!

“You Reap What You Sow”

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IS IT TIME TO WALK AWAY FROM...

IMPORTANCE OF FRIENDSHIPS..

For Parents’ Mental Health

The Negative People In Your Life?

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24 NOVA SILVER Mother’s Day

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LACK OF...

Momentum

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The Benjamin Foundation Monthly Update

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Motoring Review Volkswagen Multivan

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Breakfasts To Help You...

Start Your Day With A Smile

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Iceni News Marie Curie Daffodil Appeal

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Earth Hour Many Of You Eco-Bods...

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Four PT Red Flags As A Quality PT...

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Iceni News Norfolk Makers Festival

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See What Mummy Says Holidaying With Children

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Importance Of Friendships For Parents’ Mental Health

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Iceni News Leyland Band In Concert

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Nova Silver Mother’s Day

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Lack Of Momentum During My Adult Life...

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Iceni News Norfolk Open Gardens

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Best Of Norfolk Readers Images

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Iceni Asks...

How Is Your Mental Health

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Iceni Columnist Keri Beevis

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Focus On: Mental Health

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Just For Fun 'Healthy Murder'

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Is It Time To Walk Away From The Negative People...

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Start By Prioritising...

Your Wellbeing

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Iceni Horoscopes What Do Your Stars Hold?

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The Benjamin Foundation For over 25 years, children, young people and families across Norfolk and Suffolk have been supported by The Benjamin Foundation to overcome big challenges in their lives.

Each night, we accommodate up to 180 vulnerable young people, equating to over 50,000 safe nights’ sleep a year. They can finally feel safe from youth homelessness.

Each week, 150 young people access our emotional wellbeing support improving their mental health, increasing their self-esteem to finally feel understood.

Each year, over 400 young people attend our youth work in the community to gain new life skills, expand their horizons and finally feel confident. Overall, in the region of 2,000 local children and young people every year finally feel hopeful of a better future because of the work of The Benjamin Foundation.

Fundraising for Meet Up

Meet Up is The Benjamin Foundation’s youth and community centre in Thetford.

Located in an area of high need, Meet Up plays a vital role in tackling local wellbeing issues, inequalities, mental health and social problems.

The centre supports the community via a range of groups and activities. It provides young people with youth clubs, reduces isolation for older people, and offers support to families. Meet Up provides opportunities to strengthen and develop skills, raise self-esteem and aspirations, helping to keep young people on the right path.

We have launched a fundraising drive to fill a funding gap to ensure local people can continue to access the services which they’ve described as their “lifeline.”

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Funding from The National Lottery Community Fund for the last eleven years has enabled Meet Up to carry out vital youth and community work. We are grateful for this support and, with funding drawing to a close, would like Twitter: @icenimagazine

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to thank The National Lottery as we reach out to supporters and new funders in order to continue Meet Up’s fantastic work.

Meet Up member Alfie, age 13, says: “I have been going to Meet Up for five years and it has always been a supportive and safe place for me to attend.

It has helped with my self-confidence.”

Mike Towndrow, Meet Up Manager, says: “The National Lottery support for Meet Up has been amazing for the community. Meet Up means so much to so many. Ultimately, it is a lifeline in the heart of the community where little else exists. A place to share worries, get advice, support and guidance and take part in positive activities that enable young people and families to broaden their aspirations, confidence and self-worth.”

We need your support. Funding and support for Meet Up are needed now to ensure local people have a place to connect, a place to make friends and a place to feel safe. Life is tough for many local people. Meet Up makes it a little easier.

Donate to Meet Up today: https://benjaminfoundation.co.uk/donate/meet-up/

Meet Up and Corporate Partnership Opportunities If your business or community group would like to get involved and support Meet Up, please contact Jessica on events@benjaminfoundation.co.uk to discuss fundraising and corporate partnership opportunities.

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ICENI - NEWS

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Marie Curie Daffodil Appeal Request For Volunteers! just two hours of your time at a collection near you means that you are raising money to help make sure more dying people get the care and support they need at the end of their lives.

What’s more, collecting is lots of fun, you can do it on your own or with friends.

Whatever your story, donating and wearing a daffodil pin during March unites people with millions of others to help make sure all dying people get the care and support they deserve.”

Marie Curie, the terminal illness charity, is looking for people to volunteer two hours of their time to help their latest Great Daffodil Appeal in March which is back after the pandemic brought it to an early close in 2020.

The charity, most famous for its overnight nursing service that cares for people living with a terminal illness in their own homes in East Norfolk and Waveney and for their Information & Support service which received over 18,000 requests for help and support from people living in Norfolk last year, is looking for people and groups and associations to help collect funds at supermarket collections across Norfolk.

Helen Chapman, Marie Curie community fundraiser for Norfolk, said: “Volunteering

To volunteer for Marie Curie’s Great Daffodil Appeal and help distribute the famous yellow daffodil badges please visit mariecurie.org.uk/collect or call Helen on: 07920 235435.

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Norfolk Makers Festival 9th-20th March 2022

The Norfolk Makers Festival, held at The Forum in Norwich, offers twelve days of inspiring exhibitions, demonstrations, free activities, and workshops.

Explore the Norfolk Makers Festival website to see what’s free to see and do each day between 10am and 4pm, and to book onto daytime and evening workshops.

This is a friendly and free-to-enter celebration of both traditional skills and modern practice involving textiles and other crafts.

Put the dates in your diary!

Everyone is welcome to come into The Forum to have a go at something new, develop existing skills, chat to experts and enthusiasts, and enjoy a colourful and eclectic exhibition of work created by local makers.

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Dates Wed 9th - Sun 20th March 2022 Entry FREE activities, exhibitions demonstrations. TICKETED workshops.

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Leyland Band In Concert performs in all parts of the United Kingdom, with frequent international appearances.

Audiences in the Royal Albert Hall, London to The Waterfront Hall, Belfast have warmed to Leyland’s sound. Programming is always innovative with a firm focus on the audience.

Repertoire ranging from the traditional to contempory, presented in eclectic mixes or themed sets, Leyland Band always seeks to engage positively with the audience.

On Sunday 8th May, the East Anglian Brass Association is presenting its 83rd Annual Spring Gala Concert St Andrew’s Hall, Norwich commencing at 3.00pm.

The concert is being performed by the Leyland Band.

Founded in 1946 in the heart of industrial Lancashire, England, Leyland celebrated its 70th anniversary in 2016.

The band has forged a reputation for quality performance coupled with innovative and engaging repertoire and its quality is reinforced with an impressive list of titles - British Open Champions, National Champions of Great Britain, five times Brass in Concert Champions, All England Masters Champions - all achieved since its emergence on the national scene in the early 1980s.

The band has also proudly represented England in competition at the European Brass Band Championships twice since the turn of the millennium.

One of the most sought-after brass ensembles on the concert platform, Leyland Band regularly

The band performs internationally boasting appearances in the United States of America, Japan, South Korea, all the major European countries and Scandinavia.

Leyland Band is proud of its deserved reputation for recognising and developing new young musical talent, through work with renowned conductors and its own established music teachers, challenging the brass band stereotype.

Allied to that is the band’s openness to new music and new composers, regularly providing a platform for new work to be heard.

Regular radio and television appearances, and recordings add to the diversity of the body of work this great progressive ensemble produces.

Leyland Band is proud to be ambassadors for its home town of Leyland, Lancashire and the United Kingdom through its musical excellence and presentation.

To order tickets which are priced at £15.00 and £17.00 either email: administration@eabba.org.uk or telephone 07934169721.

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Norfolk Open Gardens March And April 2022 Mannington Hall

The Old Rectory, Catfield

The brightly coloured bulbs of spring are emerging just in time to put on a splendid show for our garden visitors.

Five gardens are opening to support the National Garden Scheme charities during March and April this year. These early spring gardens offer opportunities for countryside and woodland walks, masses of narcissus and other spring flowers, as well as a cup of tea and piece of cake.

Pre-booked tickets can be purchased online for all gardens listed, and the booking system is currently open, and at most gardens, it will be possible to turn up and pay at the gate.

Refreshments will be available at the majority of gardens, and entry for children is free unless otherwise stated.

Wretham Lodge

Sat 19 March 12pm to 5.30

East Ruston Old Vicarage Adult £11.50 Child £2.00

Sun 3rd April 11am to 4.30

Gayton Hall Adult £6.00

Child Free

Sun 10th April Mannington Estate 11am to 5.00 Adult £6.00 Child Free Sun 17th April Mon 18th April Wretham Lodge 11am to 5.00 Adult £5.00 Child Free

Sun 24th April The Old Rectory, Catfield 10am to 5pm Adult £5.00 Child Free 2022 marks 95 years of fundraising for the National Garden Scheme and its partnership with The Queen’s Nursing Institute, and over that time we have raised over £63 million for our beneficiaries. The first gardens opened in 1927 for a shilling a head and this format has been so popular that it has continued to this day, now raising millions each year for some of the UK’s best-loved nursing and health charities.

Thanks to the generosity of our gardens owners, volunteers and visitors, we made a total donation of £3,030,272 in 2021, despite the challenges faced during the COVID pandemic.

This makes the National Garden Scheme the most significant charitable funder of nursing in the UK. The latest impact report for 2021 can be found on our website at https://ngs.org.uk.

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I Have Learnt Two Things (Three Actually) Since my move to the countryside, I have learnt two things.

Above: Keri Beevis

(Well, three actually, but I covered the whole geese thing is the last episode of my life, so you’ll have to look back for that one if you missed it).

So, thing number one. People are so much more friendly when you live further out in the sticks.

Now, I’ve always been a girl who tries to be sociable when I’m out and about, and when I lived in the suburbs and was out walking, I would smile and say hello to the people I passed. Yes, a few of them would greet me back, but mostly I would get looked at like I had just invited them to come back to my van to see some puppies. Honestly, I would get home from my walk and go check in the mirror to make sure I hadn’t grown two heads or something.

That is not the case, however, in my new neighbourhood. Oh no. Living in the countryside is a bit like being in The Truman Show. People don’t just smile and say hello, many of them will stop and talk to you.

On one particular walk with my mother, we took double the time to walk down a footpath because everyone we passed and said hello to then stopped for a chat. I do love that I seem to have moved to Friendlyville.

an episode of Starsky and Hutch. And yes, I know I am showing my age there. This is not good for a girl who pootles along at the speed of a milk float though.

Okay, I might be exaggerating slightly, but I do stick to speed limits, and I am still trying to familiarise myself with all these winding country roads.

And of course scoping out all the perfect locations to hide the bodies.

My writer’s mind never stops working.

My lovely new neighbour came round to introduce herself when I moved in, bringing me a new home card, and the other people living in my street have all been welcoming. People even acknowledge you when driving if you stop to let them pass.

Talking of driving, that brings me on to my second thing. Everyone around here drives like they are in

My new book ‘The People Next Door’ is available in Kindle, paperback and audio.

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Is It Time To Walk Away From The Negative People In Your Life?

As we progress through life, we Where might we experience negative come to learn that not everyone people? shares our views, tastes and Trolling is where people post rude, hurtful or outlook on life.

And indeed, these past two years have seen people’s frustrations, anger and intolerance levels escalate, about even the smallest things.

Road rage, annoyance at other people’s lifestyle choices, irritations and frustrations seem to be bubbling close to the surface in some people.

How do we protect ourselves when so much negative emotion and judgement may be encroaching into our world?

At vulnerable times it’s important to be vigilant about good self-care. Healthy living, good food choices, fresh air, exercise, speaking to positive friends, enough sleep, a little laughter; all are ways to detach a little if you’re starting to feel overwhelmed by other people’s stuff!

offensive comments, often anonymously, on social media. It’s being taken more seriously by these platforms, with trolls often being sanctioned and deleted. We, too, can protect ourselves online by blocking trolls, reacting quickly to report offensive comments and by maybe limiting access to our social media posts.

Work colleagues may appear to have an issue with us, causing a tense, uneasy atmosphere.

Could it be that they suspect we’ve received special treatment or that we’re responsible for any of their missed opportunities?

It’s important to detach a little from these situations and not feel guilty or compelled to justify or constantly explain ourselves.

Otherwise. this might escalate into bullying or

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harassment. If negative treatment and remarks become a regular pattern commit to keeping a log with dates, times and details of what’s happened. This helps you feel more in control, plus gives an evidence-based record if things get too bad and you need to speak with management or HR. Close relationships and family.

There are many sad stories of relationships breaking down and families being pulled apart because of decisions and lifestyle choices made throughout the pandemic. Heightened tensions means that both sides are often firmly entrenched, fully convinced that their views are correct and that others are wrong, immoral, unethical and perhaps even criminal.

This situation has been stressful for everyone.

No one has been unaffected by it. The ongoing social, financial, emotional and health-related impact has meant, that with new information coming out almost daily, old routines and security have been replaced by stress and uncertainty. Daily life, for many, entails taking it one day at a time. It’s not easy.

Be patient, tolerant and remember that the people closest to you are essentially good.

Arguing your point, trying to bully or coerce others into doing what you think is best is unfair in any situation, but especially after a fraught, disruptive two years.

Agree to accept that we’ve all tried to make the best decisions for ourselves and those closest to us. Live and let live rather than become preoccupied with what we feel others should or ought to be doing. It’s time to focus on the positives and rebuild our relationships.

Random people in our social circle may at times feel that it’s acceptable to make negative or unpleasant comments about us. That can be disappointing, when they’re people we like, see reasonably often, but are not inner-circle friends. Our paths may cross fairly frequently but those relationships have occurred through other connections.

It can be disconcerting to be made aware of their comments or opinions of us. Do we stop socialising with the group because of this unpleasantness or might we be making too much of it? It’s possible to doubt ourselves when something like this happens, but should this culminate in us limiting our social life and restricting our freedom?

First ensure that your closest social relationships are solid and then avoid turning any comments into a big deal by limiting who you discuss them with. Cherry-pick the outings you go on until sufficient time has passed for it all to blow over.

What about neighbours or even strangers, people we perhaps know only slightly or not at all? If they feel inclined to make nasty, disparaging comments or throw dirty looks our way, why not try a cheery smile or oblivious, ‘hello, what a lovely day!’?. That can sometimes be enough to throw them offguard and defuse any tension. It’s unlikely they were expecting that response and by ‘not noticing them’, by refusing to react to their behaviour it loses any power, so wasting their

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time. Your unexpectedly pleasant response may force them to reflect on their behaviour and subsequently stop.

Ways to walk away from negative people; Sometimes it’s possible to ignore hurtful comments by simply refusing to listen, be aware or notice what’s being said or done. Or we can ‘act thick’ and behave as if no sarcastic or biting undertones are coming our way, pretending instead to hear only positive or nonconfrontational remarks. Doing this removes the power from the other person.

Detaching can result in the option to walk away from difficult or unpleasant situations, but that isn’t the most productive way to live and isn’t always a viable option. Having therapy, coaching or language classes to improve thinking and communication skills can help in overcoming doubt and hesitancy, resulting in a fuller, more successful life.

A mediator can help, if a situation needs outside input to be resolved. A third party can act effectively as referee, allowing both parties to have their say, keeping discussions relevant and respectful, whilst steering towards viable, positive outcomes.

We may choose to hire a trained professional mediator, a relationship counsellor or spiritual adviser or even ‘book’ a respected family friend or neighbour; someone who’s perceived as neutral, respectful and able to keep order.

Learning how to communicate regularly and effectively is an important skill, valuable in keeping relationships healthy and nurtured.

Remaining quiet due to fear of confrontation, laziness or lack of confidence may result in relationships becoming out of balance, which can eventually fester and keep us in relationships with negative people. Is now the time to reflect and walk away from those negative relationships?

Article By Susan Leigh Susan Leigh, South Manchester counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship counsellor, writer & media contributor offers help with relationship issues, stress management, assertiveness and confidence. She works with individual clients, couples and provides corporate workshops and support. For more articles, information or to make contact please visit: http://www.lifestyletherapy.net PAGE

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MOTORING REVIEW

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Volkswagen Multivan Review

By Tim Barnes-Clay. Follow on Instagram: @tbarnesclay and Twitter: @carwriteups.

The Volkswagen Multivan has been designed from the ground up to be a minibus.

But this gives the vehicle an advantage. Whereas the standard van-to-people-carrier conversions can’t always offer wholesale changes to the interior, VW has been able to design this from a clean sheet, enabling it to focus on usability and drivability.

Based on the same platform as a Tiguan, the Multivan replaces the outgoing, popular Caravelle, which remains on sale for the moment but will eventually be withdrawn.

It looks modern yet somehow retro, with my test vehicle being silver on top and metallic orange on the bottom - as if donning its cap to the classic bi-coloured Campervan.

Interestingly for a van, there is no diesel on offer yet (although one is expected soon). So, for the moment, there are two petrols - a 1.5-litre producing 136PS and a 2.0-litre producing 207PS. Both are seven-speed automatics. But what’s even more noteworthy is the addition of the eHybrid. This houses an electric motor connected to a 1.4-litre petrol engine and produces a combined 218PS via a six-speed automatic.

The lower-powered petrol engine doesn’t cut the mustard, although the higher-powered 2.0-litre unit has a decent amount of kick to it. You can expect to only get around 30mpg with a full load of passengers, though.

The eHybrid is the one to go for. It manages a claimed 31 miles in all-electric mode, can comfortably do 70mph without needing the

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engine, and VW claims it will achieve 157mpg in hybrid mode. It only takes three-and-a-half hours to charge up from a 3.7kW wall box, too.

If you are likely to be driving about around town centres, slow airport roads and through stopstart traffic, then the effortless acceleration of the eHybrid will make things easier. Admittedly, the hybrid’s engine sounds a bit thrashy when pushed, but the fuel savings make up for it.

The shift from the electric motor to the engine is smooth, too. Furthermore, VW has made the Multivan as aerodynamically efficient as possible to help with fuel savings and limit wind noise.

The VW feels relatively effortless to drive as the steering is very light. It does tighten up a bit as you go quicker, but this hardly makes it handle well, and there’s a lot of bus-like lean in the corners, as you’d expect.

Inside, there is a premium feel. All the seats are comfortable - and all passengers get USB-C charging points. Furthermore, there are numerous options available to fit a centre console and tables if you can make do with losing one or two seats.

In terms of practicality, you will struggle to do better. Even with the three rows of seats in place, there is 469-litres of room in the standard Multivan (763-litres in the long-wheelbase version). But this figure extends towards 4,000-litres if you were to take all the seats out.

Fast Facts Volkswagen Multivan eHybrid: • Max speed: 118 mph • 0-62 mph: 11.6 secs • Combined mpg: 156.9 mpg (31-mile allelectric range) • Engine layout: 1,400cc four-cylinder petrol + electric • Max. power (PS): 218 • CO2: - TBC • Price: £55,000 (est.)

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Earth Hour Many of you eco-bods will be aware or at least heard of EcoHour.

It takes place the last Saturday of March every year since 2007, when WWF and partners organised the first event in Sydney.

If you’re not aware, the idea is that it is a symbolic hour, during the evening, where you switch off all non-essential lights, to highlight our impact on our environment. So, what to do in this hour?

Wrap up and head outside - if you can get away from urban lighting, you’ll be amazed at the difference lack of lighting makes, particularly if it’s a clear night. I recently had family stay who haven’t stayed in a truly rural

area for many years. On a brief foray outside for the dog’s last wee break before bedtime, they were amazed how dark it was (you often don’t realise the different levels of darkness) and on looking up how amazingly bright the stars were.

When the moon appeared from behind a cloud, it transformed the night. Maybe a torch and a map of the galaxy might prove fun or light the bbq and invite the neighbours around.

Family time (yawn) I know sounds boring, but when we recently had power cuts due to the various storms (who cares what their names are), it was amazing the conversation subjects we covered, serious and completely frivolous.

Online - head over to the event website https:// www.earthhour.org/ for events streaming

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live. The emphasis this year is particularly on nature as there is a UN conference happening (postponed due to Covid) where the state of the environment and its biodiversity (or lack of) will be the focus.

In the UK, we are incredibly fortunate to have ready access to basic resources such as water and power, and the storms that have been experienced over the last couple of years have really shown how difficult it is for us to function without it.

Living in rural Norfolk (just 8 miles from Norwich), we only have the option of heating with oil (we did recently look into retro fitting air source, but just wasn’t viable), but ultimately without electricity the heating system won’t work. We do have a small gas camping stove, which we dragged out of the loft, but other than hot water bottles, keeping warm is usually the biggest challenge for us during power cuts.

Not this time. Earlier in the year we had invested in a bio-fire. We’ve been looking at them for some time but have a re-modelling project planned for our living room and the centre piece will be a fire. We can’t fit a wood burner (and eco-wise still not great) so decided to go for it.

The fuel is bio-ethanol and can be scented (we didn’t opt for that) and a bottle (yes

unfortunately plastic but no other viable options) will last 3 hours if on full burn, and it’s made in the UK. The principle is that you have a chamber that you fill with the fuel, leave 10 mins (for any fumes to dissipate) and then light.

There is a sliding lid that you can pull across with a tool provided, to adjust the flame and the amount of heat produced.

You mustn’t top up within 30 mins, need to ensure the room is ventilated (standard carbon monoxide practice) but we found it provided ample heat for our room and due to having the door ajar, the heat warmed up the hall and ultimately filtered upstairs as well.

They come in all sorts of shapes and sizes and can be wall mounted as well. Unfortunately we couldn’t find anything locally so bought off the internet, but hopefully they’ll become more widely available.

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Holidaying With Children As restrictions ease and everyone begins to feel more confident living with coronavirus.

I hope that holidays return as the break with the family that we all used to look forward to and be without the worry of if the holiday will go ahead or if one of us will test positive at the last minute.

To be honest, I can’t wait to travel anywhere but in particular I am really looking forward to stepping off a plane and feeling the heat hit me. For this reason, we’ve put on our thinking caps and come up with our top five tips for the airport when travelling with children.

1) Order baby food for collection from the departure lounge. If your young children need food for the plane journey or throughout the trip itself, it’s helpful to place an order for collection from a shop in the departure lounge. We usually order with Boots ahead of time and this eliminates any issues with taking too much liquid through security or coming off your baggage allowance.

2) Toys For The Plane. As well as the usual assortment of snacks and in flight entertainment, we’ve always found it helps to have some small toys to keep the children entertained. Ideally these would be new to them so they’re interested for longer but they needn’t be large or expensive!

3) Baby carriers. A baby carrier or sling can really help both in the airport or whilst on holiday, leaving your hands free for other important tasks like applying sun cream or sipping a cocktail!

in your luggage, but don’t forget to take a mini pump with a deflate feature to prepare for your return journey! Also, vacuum bags can become heavy, quickly so keep an eye on your luggage weight allowance.

5) Bungee cords. With suitcases, hand luggage, pushchairs and the children themselves, there’s a lot to navigate around the airport. We have regularly used bungee cords to strap hand luggage to the top of our cases for the initial part of the airport journey. This also helps when you arrive at your hotel and you end up carrying all the cases up the stairs because the lift is out of order!

4) Vaccuum bags. This was recently recommended to us and it is such a good idea!

Vacuuming your clothing can save lots of space

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Nova Silver Mother’s Day

As we enter into this new month, many of us are looking ahead to this annual Mother’s day celebration.

The origins of this day can be traced back to the ancient rites of Greek and Roman civilisations, both of which marked a special date during their spring to honour matron Goddesses. In more recent history, the English tradition of Mothering Sunday, celebrated on the forth Sunday of Lent, marked a day of veneration toward the Virgin Mary. This year, here at Nova HQ, we have comprised an inspirational gifting guide, full of ideas to make this Mother’s day extra special for your loved ones.

A truly timeless gift idea is that of matching jewellery sets; we have a wide selection to choose from here at Nova Silver, ranging from unique statement sets to the more simplistic designs, ideal for everyday wear. Our Silver Currents set features a matching pendant and stud earrings in a simple, yet modern wave design, an amazing set to be worn on any occasion. Crafted using Sterling Silver, this gift is sure to last the test of time. However, if you are in search of a more unusual set these complimentary Turtle Studs and Pendant will surely make an impact. One of the oldest symbols associated with the idea of motherhood, the turtle plays an important role in Native American legend, representing the spirit of Mother Earth. In fact, these legends tell the story of giant turtle who aided in the creation of their homeland. To this day the turtle is considered to be a symbol of great strength and unwavering maternal instinct. Perhaps this will be the perfect gift to express your sentiments to the mother figure in your own life this March.

The gift of flowers has long been a commonality during Mother’s day celebrations. If you are looking for a floral gift to last a life time we suggest our range of Sterling Silver bracelets. Our Flower Garland Bracelet perfectly encapsulates the essence of spring, with a textured finish to really emphasise each beautiful detail. A piece like this may be your perfect gift to surprise a loved one this Mother’s Day. All of these ranges are available on our website with free delivery around the UK, and gift wrapping available.

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Start By Prioritising Your Wellbeing Some people treat happiness as valuing the lessons learned from challenges and setbacks, the relationships in your life, the their main goal.

When you ask them what they want in life they say, ‘to be happy’. But happiness can be elusive.

It creeps up on us when we least expect it, when we find ourselves smiling at a beautiful sunset, a table laid for a family meal, succeeding in a challenge, watching our friends laugh at a terrible joke.

Happiness and good self-care is rarely about expensive gifts or acquisitions. So, when planning for a positive, fulfilling life it’s important to start by prioritising your happiness with good habits. Let’s look at what this entails. ● Practise daily gratitude. This doesn’t mean settling for second best or sitting back on your laurels, but is about being grateful for what you have and finding a balanced, grounded approach to life. Appreciation of others,

food, air, roof over your head, running water, all can all be taken for granted but are things many others don’t have. Those people would feel fortunate to be in your shoes. ● Happiness comes from being inspired, so ensure you have things that motivate you to improve, to be better, reach a higher level. This may be learning new skills, expanding your area of expertise, focusing on a new direction, something that elevates your vision, stretches you and brings a sense of achievement. ● Leaving our familiar comfort zone can be scary and exhilarating, yet often results in us feeling rewarded and proud of ourselves afterwards. Even trying new food, another route to work, having a go at something we’re apprehensive about can prompt a positive shift in our thinking and a happier, more upbeat sense of self.

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● Being challenged is important to happiness too. Being receptive to new ideas and initiatives, being prepared to say, ‘yes’ even when unsure of yourself. Why not say ‘yes’ first and work out how to do it afterwards! Self-improvement and development bring their own happiness and fulfillment.

● Being involved with others can bring happiness; teaching, mentoring, coaching, volunteering are each often fulfilling experiences. And the people we’re involved with may bring new ideas, inspiration, suggestions of their own that add value to our lives.

● Do things you do well. Being challenged is often a good experience but if life is already stressful making time to do something you know you’re good at can be an important reminder of how competent and capable you are. And we all need a little window of success in a stressful life. Enjoy it, even if it’s icing a cake, putting up shelving or supporting an elderly neighbour.

● Don’t follow the crowd. Others have their own stories, motivations and limitations.

They may begrudge you your energy and drive, preferring that you don’t remind them of their apparent lack of ambition, but we’re all different and each of us have needs and wants that evolve over time. Reflect on those relationships and consider if it’s time to reduce their influence in your life.

● Rewards can bring happiness and a better sense of self-worth. Yes, we deserve to be rewarded for our efforts financially. We need to live and pay our bills. But also reward yourself by ensuring you have a space, a place where you go and feel secure, able to relax.

It may be your bedroom, with lovely prints, cushions, flowers and music. When you’re there you close the door on the world, destress and chill.

● Mix with people who like, support and encourage you; they’re your fans and ambassadors. People who like you treat you with respect, may challenge you on occasion, but they’re in your court and you’re in theirs.

Nurturing ‘your’ people allows you to be vulnerable, wrong sometimes and able to discuss any problem areas in an accepting, nonjudgmental arena.

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● Indulge your senses. Good mental health comes from incorporating smell, taste, touch as well as music and beautiful art and colours.

Make time to enjoy nature, your pets. Visit the beach, the forest and stimulate your senses; feel the sand underneath your feet. ● Give yourself regular free time.

A positive life is about ensuring there’s balance in your choices. Prioritising time for fun, sport, exercise, reading is important. Sometimes work may require extra attention, but aim to regularly give yourself time out, perhaps just to sit with a coffee at the mall. ● Insist on being treated with respect by those you come into contact with. Good boundaries matter. Unhappiness can occur if we feel disrespected, treated dismissively or are taken for granted. Intercept bad treatment

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at the outset and be firm about good manners and consideration. But equally remember to invest time and attention in your good relationships. ● Deal with your demons. Happiness is about being at peace with ourselves, forgiving any failures, past mistakes or errors of judgement. If you’re struggling therapy could be a good way to heal and recover from negative patterns and ways of thinking. Be gentle with yourself and move on from unhelpful selftalk. It can make all the difference to your happiness levels.

Look after yourself. Eat well, exercise, commit to regular sleep.

Practise these tips, prioritise health and happiness will follow.

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Breakfasts To Help You Start Your Day With A Smile We often hear the old adage ‘breakfast is the most important meal of the day’, and when it comes to your mental health, ensuring you don’t skip a meal can really boost your mood and help keep you full for longer - of both food and energy.

Here’s my dead easy recipe for baked oats with a few variations to the base recipe to mix it up a bit. Which one appeals most to you?

Base recipe: • 40g plain porridge oats • 100g fat-free natural yoghurt • 1 egg • 1 tsp sweetener Put all the ingredients into a bowl and mix thoroughly. Place in an ovenproof dish and bake for 35 minutes in a 200°C oven.

Apple and cinnamon baked oats Finely chop an apple and add that to your base mixture along with a 1/4tsp cinnamon.

This is ever so tasty and perfect for an autumnal or wintery morning.

Apple and blackberry baked oats Another delicious choice - all you have to do is add a finely chopped apple along with a handful of blackberries.

Banoffee baked oats Everyone loves banoffee pie, right? But it’s so calorific and hardly a suitable choice for breakfast. Here’s the next best thing to satisfy your sweet tooth.

For banoffee baked oats simply add a small banana, either sliced or mashed to the base mixture. If you add the banana sliced, you will notice them more in the final dish. For the toffee element, I would recommend fudge pieces from the baking section of the supermarket. A level tablespoon of them will be perfect.

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Four PT Red Flags As a quality PT, I often get clients who have defected their old PTs for the reasons that are about to follow.

Backed up by years of military service discipline and professionalism, I also make sure not to do these things to give you the best quality Personal Training experience I can provide.

There are always exceptions to the rule, and this isn’t an exhaustive list. However, here are four red flags you should look out for when watching a PT in the gym you are considering using or pay attention to with the PT you currently have if you feel you are being taken on a wild goose chase for results.

If you encounter any of the following, give your PT feedback and a chance to rectify before depriving a self-employed worker of a client.

Red Flag #1 - Warm ups on cardio equipment First and foremost, if you get shoved on a treadmill or exercise bike for anything other

than a workout that immediately follows some sort cardiovascular training on said equipment or similar, alarm bells should be ringing. Too often when I worked in a commercial gym doing the 6- and 12-week programme reviews, I’d see a fellow colleague has told the client to do 5 mins on a treadmill before an upper body workout as their warm up.

Questions needed to be asked if that trainer knew the purpose of a warm up. It’s not just to raise your heart rate and body temperature. The warm up is to facilitate joint specific mobility, lubrication and nervous system activation. In simple terms a little bit of movement practice and a slight test to check for warning signals with pain. Thus, some of the better warm ups look more like mobility routines.

If this happens to you, challenge your trainer by asking what the purpose of your warm up is and why you’re not moving the joints you’re about to place under load. Some exceptions include the Cross Trainer as it does a good job of moving a lot of joints but shouldn’t be the only thing you use.

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Red Flag #2 - Unable to progress your exercise beyond weight or reps It’s not uncommon to be with a PT to gain a little more knowledge and confidence, so this one can be tricky to spot especially as it is a valid progression technique and harder to spot being a bystander. However, nobody is the same, and some exercises suit certain body types and experience levels. If you’re new to exercising and you go straight on an advanced exercise like a power lifting movement or even something midtier like a barbell back squat, I’d have concerns that the PT is using a cookie cutter programme rather than developing the knowledge and experience to build your movement patterns, strength and confidence. If you came to me as a new exerciser we’d be starting with bodyweight squats or chair sits and over time progress you onward to using weights and more sophisticated patterns. You’re paying for a premium, often customised, service so why settle for a plan every Tom, Dick and Harry is using with this PT to save the PT’s time and effort? If you want a cookie cutter plan there’s plenty out around on the web for free.

Kind of a flag 2.5 is if the exercises are too intense, can the PT regress your workload to an easier progression or do they just say to stick with it until you get stronger? I’ve had a client come to me as on their very first session the PT blasted them and had her trying to do push ups

when the exercise was too intense for her. That was her first and last PT session with him. We, however, took things back a notch to make the workout manageable and personalised to her ability by using simpler movement patterns.

She’s now gone from struggling to row a minute to rowing 30 km a week for charity! All from starting at the right intensity.

Red Flag #3 - Disinterested body language

The exact numbers vary on whom you consult, but around 93% of language is unspoken.

During my military leadership training, we spent weeks learning to communicate. What you say makes up so little of how information comes across. Ever pissed of off a foreign language speaker? You certainly know about it without understanding a single word they are saying.

Now the PT could be having a bad day, so if their body language, tone, pitch and so on seems unwelcoming on one occasion, read no more into it. If it keeps happening, at very least ask them if they are OK. They may be going through a rough time but if they don’t admit it should you suffer too? Another thing brought up in my mental health first aid training is that you can’t let someone else’s burdens become your own.

As much as you want to help and shoulder the weight, you only get dragged down too (and you’re paying for this).

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Assuming there are no background issues, you need to make a choice. Do you stick with someone that’s not interested in you or your goals or do you muscle on through because they can write you a programme? I’m biased, of course, but finding a PT that you get on with will make a world of difference. You’ll enjoy coming to sessions rather than dreading the necessary burden. You’ll be receptive to more information and probably work harder than you realise.

You may have noticed I’ve not mentioned what signals exactly to look out for. You’ll instinctively know; you’ll have a gut feeling they don’t want to give you the time of day. Even if they are technically doing the right things but you don’t feel inspired and motivated, it could just be a personality clash.

“The belief is that 55% of communication is body language, 38% is the tone of voice, and 7% is the actual words spoken.” Jeff Thompson Ph.D 2011 Red Flag #4 - On their phone when with a client The ultimate red flag! If you see a PT do this or have it happen to you, first, challenge them to do better, then if they fail, drop them like a sack of unmentionables. Unless it’s an emergency, changing songs, videoing you (with permission) or getting a timer ready, the PT has little to

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no reason to be on their smartphone scrolling social media, texting other clients or taking calls. The personal part in Personal Training is that you get the professional’s time dedicated to you. If they’re on their phone, are they actually paying attention? Are they interested in your development? Do they give a crap about developing evidence to support their own business through your results?

I’ve seen this a little too often in younger PTs that haven’t held a job anywhere other than in a gym. This isn’t to say that if the PT is young they’re automatically substandard nor is it that if they’ve never had a mortgage or common job they’re bad. Be wary though, as employing the services of a PT is not all about exercise. Being a PT is partly being a life coach, and with little life experience, do they have much authority to coach you on yours? A big give away to this character is, as above, being glued to their phone.

Let the PT know you’ve seen a flag If you see or experience any of the red flags, do give the PT feedback. I can say from my end, any feedback, even negative, is invaluable. If they don’t act on your constructive criticism, perhaps consider sourcing another professional.

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Importance Of Friendships For Parents’ Mental Health Friendships are important. For everyone.

But when you become a parent, things change and friendships become strained, for some people, but the positive impact they can have on your mental health means they are a necessity.

When I had my first daughter, nothing really went to plan. The birth was much quicker than anticipated and I didn’t have chance for any pain relief despite asking for some. Because of the loss of blood, I fainted. I knew I was going to and had warned the midwives, but because of them insisting I go for a wee, I ended up following instructions and then falling face first onto the bed.

My daughter didn’t feed properly, and I ended up with her in NICU for a few days to establish the feeding. As a result, my mental health took a nose-dive. It’s natural for parents (both the mums and dads!) to suffer from the baby blues and even post-natal depression. For me, it was fairly short-lived, but I felt like a failure. Other mums seemed to look down their noses at me for not exclusively breastfeeding (formula saved

my daughter’s life!) or for driving the wrong car.

I didn’t really have the best start when it comes to being a mum in many respects. However, I established (thank goodness) some solid friendships and they really helped enhance my life and boost my mental health.

Why are friendships so important for parents?

We are more than parents Life has a habit of becoming all about the children. Of course, our cherubs are the most important aspect of our lives in a lot of ways, but this should not be to the detriment of ourselves.

Putting ourselves first and remembering our own needs do not mean we are being selfish. Surely, happier parents cannot be a negative thing.

We need a support network Having a small group of friends who won’t be judgmental (unless it really is necessary) or

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slag you off behind your back is vital. Knowing that you can share your innermost worries with someone who is slightly removed from the situation can be useful. Friendships can provide you with an essential support network.

I definitely have that with my girly friends.

We need honesty Having friends who will stop and say, “Vicki, hang on a minute. That’s a really bad idea!” or “I don’t really agree with that. Have you considered… instead?” can be a game changer.

Life will be full of mistakes along the way, but having friends who are willing to be honest and say it like it is, in a polite and supportive manner, can prevent so many being made.

We need to laugh I always feel better after an hour or two of laughter with friends. Some days as a parent, particularly in the early days, you can find that the routine is somewhat monotonous. You might laugh about your baby’s cute giggle or chuckle to yourself about a potty-training mishap, but often, the hearty laughs are missing. There’s something so special about those people in your life with whom you can belly laugh, snort and hurt because you are having so much fun and reminiscing over the funniest experiences and memories. There are genuine health benefits to this, too, such as a higher intake of oxygen, increases endorphin levels and is a natural stress reliver.

Being a parent is such an enormous responsibility and privilege. However, having time to yourself and reminding yourself and others that you are more than someone’s mum or dad can prove necessary. To me, friendship is a necessity, and I feel lucky to have the ones that I do. ~ Article By Vicki from Blossom Education ~

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Lack Of Momentum During my adult life, I haven’t been much of an advocate for mental health awareness.

Nor have I had much understanding of susceptibility to ill mental health. Certainly, I believe in taking mentally ‘healthy’ actions, and these are incorporated into every day life for me and my children. Wherever possible, we make our own decisions, we listen to our own needs, and we persevere without pressure. If something feels too heavy - an action, a task, or even a whole day - we put it down and pick it up when it feels lighter. Everything we do is centred on prioritising happiness.

With a pragmatic nature, and a ‘mind over matter’ perspective, I’ve always been inclined to view happiness as a choice. How we react to adversity greatly influences how we pull through it. I’ve found that negative thoughts and emotions can pop up, uninvited, and I can rationally reign them in again.

Perhaps this attitude was inherited. I was recently told a story about my late Great Grandmother, who one day visited the home of her excessively neurotic daughter-in-law.

During a spontaneous outbreak of neurosis, the

woman claimed her legs had ‘stopped working’, and stood motionless on the kitchen floor. My Great Nanny (always sympathetic) responded to this predicament carefully and considerately, by exclaiming “don’t be so ridiculous!” and giving her a hefty shove forward. It fixed the momentary paralysis.

And I’ve typically shared this approach to fix all things ‘mental’. Push forward, do what you can, and keep moving. I thought fixation on negative feelings was caused by a lack of momentum, and it could be shaken off with progression.

Until recently…

I experienced a blip. A wobble? I’m unsure what to call it, or even how to describe it. But my typically pragmatic, functional brain was swapped with a faulty one. Logically, I knew nothing in the physical sense was wrong.

Nothing terrible had triggered it, and no problems needed to be addressed. But I couldn’t shake the feeling that everything was wrong, and it slightly panicked me.

An entire week of anxious restelessness was a new experience for me. I stuck by my fail-safe approach and persevered. I continued working, attended appointments, and socialised. But

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nothing remedied how I felt. I found myself waking up each day, hoping to feel better. ‘Hope’ is the key word in this realisation, because it signifies a lack of control. A hope to feel better translates as ‘I don’t actually know how to make this better’. Venting, seeking reassurance, and rationalising didn’t alleviate my feelings.

I felt out of depth, and it was no one else’s problem to fix. Luckily, with a bit of quiet reflection and patience, it passed. I felt like myself again just as quickly as I’d felt alien to myself. And in hindsight, I’ve concluded it was caused by a combination of factors: Mild past trauma, sleep deprivation, and the classic contributing factor to stereotypical female breakdowns… Hormones.

Having voiced my experience to several women, the collective response was that all women feel complete despair during certain times of their cycle. My brief episode was apparently a mild case. Hormones are not given enough recognition for how greatly they can affect mood and behaviour. Women are expected to carry on with life as normal, while sometimes feeling completely at odds with themselves. For me, the hormonal disruption combined with single parenthood, lack of sleep, and the emergence of some unpleasant memories, created a perfect storm.

With a fresh sense of sympathy, lack of judgement, and the realisation that some things are beyond our control, I’ll offer some pointers that actually helped when I wasn’t sure what to do: Research your cycle I track my cycle using an app. It’s free, and when I actually remember to check it I’m

invariably impressed with how insightful it is.

Understanding the reason behind a particular feeling provides introspection and reassurance.

Move your body Perhaps don’t ask a relative to shove you.

Instead, find somewhere right for you and get some exercise. My children and I attend a class together - kids are welcome at the setting, whether they join in or play. I get to see other adults and focus on my wellbeing for 1 hour.

Check @tiredmumclubnorwich instagram to enquire and book.

Get outside Even if the weather looks uninviting and the house is warm, fresh air and daylight help massively.

Sleep Easier said than done, especially if a negative mind is keeping you awake at night. But rest is necessary, even if it means climbing into bed much earlier than usual. Sleep will help… a glass of wine and a serial killer documentary probably won’t.

With a quarter of UK adults reporting ill mental health annually, and 1 in 6 reporting ill mental health weekly, it should be widely accepted as ‘normal’ to not always feel normal. By observing how swiftly a small child transitions from sheer delight to inconsolable sadness, it is evident we are not built to maintain an unwavering mood. We are mortal, not superhuman. Acceptance of lows is important to combat feelings of isolation, panic or inadequacy. Through life’s ups and downs, treating ourselves & others with compassion and patience is invaluable.

Article By Missy Hitchcox Missy Hitchcox is a Norfolk mother of two. She has a background of English Literature and Creative Writing studies. Her professional career has centred on the Beauty industry, and she now home educates her children.

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How is your mental health right now?

“Honestly... I’m scared. The world seems to be about the implode. First Covid now Russia invading Ukraine. What’s it going to be next?” Millie

“I’m doing ok right now, surprisingly. After a long fight with my anxiety, I seem to be coping well in spite of everything.” Emma

“I’m seeing a hypnotherapist. I’ve tried everything so far to help with my mental health... and finally, things seem to be clicking with the help of hypnotherapy. Not a pendulum in sight!”

Mark

“Everything is tickety-boo right now! Touch wood, I’ve been good for a few years now.” Josh

“I hadn’t stepped foot outside of my house for a couple of years until just three days ago. Small steps. Literally. But I can see the light at the end of the tunnel thanks to an amazing therapist.”

Amie

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Horoscopes For March Aries 21 March - 20 April

Gemini 22 May - 21 June

Taurus 21 April - 21 May

Cancer 22 June - 23 July

You’ll have an opportunity to navigate the landscape of your soul, and find closure on issues that have caused you to feel tired and drained. There’s also a major shift occurring in your sector of goals, that could see one door closing and another opening onto a sunny vista. From week one, your friends and social groups can be a source of fun and great support. And as the Sun enters your sign on the 20th, you’ll be in your element. Ready to stand out from the crowd?

Go for it!

Have a dream that you’d like to get started on? The Pisces New Moon on the 2nd is perfect for taking the plunge. But to make as much progress as you’d like, there may be something you’ll need to handle first. Put it on ice for now, and your focus can shift to getting your goals and career on an upward trajectory. As the Sun glides into Aries on the 20th it enters a secluded zone, so the coming four weeks might be an opportunity to slow down and reflect on your priorities, Taurus.

Keen to make a big splash? The weeks until March 20th can be helpful for promoting yourself, and getting your CV into the hands of the right people. The Pisces New Moon on the 2nd could boost your efforts to get things moving. A situation may reach a peak early on, and your clever handling of it means you’ll quickly feel happier and more at ease. Your social life gets busier from week three, and time spent with those on your wavelength might bring out the best in you, Gemini.

You’ll be ready for something different, and for a chance to take on board fresh opportunities or perhaps to travel. First though, you’ll need to set firmer boundaries, especially if someone’s manner and personality are too dominating. Resolve this, and even bigger and more positive changes may be on their way to you. The March 18th Full Moon could highlight a project you’re more than ready for. From the 20th you’ll be flying high, basking in the spotlight and loving it.

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Leo 24 July - 23 August

Sagittarius 23 November - 21 December

Virgo 24 August - 23 September

Capricorn 22 December - 20 January

Libra 24 September - 23 October

Aquarius 21 January - 19 February

Scorpio 24 October - 22 November

Pisces 20 February - 20 March

Have a mystery to solve or an issue to get to grips with? The Sun in an intense zone means you’ll be in detective mode, and very capable of finding answers. Something you discover could inspire a new beginning. Relationships gain in potency from March 5th. If you’ve put your work before your love life, things can change at this point. Ready to embrace new options which might involve travel or study?

From week three, you’ll be very eager to traverse new terrain, Leo.

A fresh start could transform a relationship and give it a zestier outlook. The Pisces New Moon on the 2nd can help you, or even push you to break the ice and get to know someone better. An intense romance might crash and burn though, and secretly you may be pleased. You’ll be free to get moving on something you’re really excited about. If you feel emotional around the 16th, the Full Moon in your sign can be a call to get something out into the open and out of your system.

Are your routines working for you? If not, this month brings opportunities to improve your lifestyle so you can begin to enjoy it. And the New Moon on the 2nd is excellent for initiating new and healthier habits. Keen to resolve an issue at home? Week one brings a chance for a breakthrough you’ve longed for. Plus, Venus and Mars walking in tandem from the 5th, hints at romance. Relationships are a focal point from the 20th, and you’ll enjoy closer interactions.

Keen to learn a skill or hobby, or enjoy a sparkling romance? The New Moon on the 2nd encourages you, and helps build momentum. An ongoing conflict could escalate in week one. A serious talk can resolve this, and you’ll then be able to move on.

As Venus and Mars enter your home zone in tandem, it’s time to nurture yourself and take time out to recharge. Ready to embrace new and productive habits? From week three this becomes very possible, Scorpio.

If you’re ready to make changes around the home or are thinking of a bigger shake-up, such as a move, the New Moon on March 2nd could inspire you to get started. Finances may need sorting out so you can channel your money into your plans. An intense issue might come to a head in week one, and resolving this could pave the way for positive change and movement. From March 20th, you’ll be keen to head off on an adventure, take up a sport or dive into a sizzling romance.

You’ll make a big breakthrough during the first week, that reverberates throughout the month. A matter you’ve been trying to resolve could peak, and this time you’ll be ready to resolve it. As you do, a burden will be lifted, and you’ll have more energy to put into plans and projects, and for enhancing your income. Home and family affairs become a priority from March 20th, and this can be a good time to unwind, get some extra sleep and look after yourself, Capricorn.

As Mars and then Venus move into your sign on March 5th, you’ll begin to feel brighter and happier.

And it may partly be because you’ve found closure on an issue that has been a sore point for a while.

You’ll also benefit from the New Moon in week one, as it helps kickstart financial initiatives. As the Sun swings into Aries from week three, you’ll be ready to push ahead with writing projects, studying, marketing and other ideas that have been waiting in the wings.

The New Moon in your sign on the 2nd, gives you a fantastic opportunity to get moving on your goals, and quickly build momentum. The Sun in your sign until March 20th, means it’s time to make a big splash and project yourself out into the world. You have so much to offer. Feelings can fluctuate around the Full Moon on March 18th, and could override logic when making decisions. From week three, you’ll be ready to overhaul finances and enjoy some retail therapy.

Astrologer Patrick Arundell provides a unique take on Horoscopes and Astrology. Join him daily for your Daily Horoscope and his penetrating insight into this fascinating subject. Also FREE Horoscope Videos.

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