Utah Valley Health & Wellness January/February 2016

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Taysom Hill: The Measure of Success See page 30

INSIDE: BRRR-Race Yourself for Winter Running How to Conquer the Dinner Drain Resolutions: Tricks of the Trade

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My Bionic Knee 14 Small Steps, Big Change Lyme Disease 18

TA B L E O F C O N T E N T S

Family Wellness 16

Spirituality and Therapy 24 Smart Parenting: Your Children are Watching 25 Seasons of Life 26 Resolutions: Tricks of the Trade 28

Culture The Measure of Success: Taysom Hill’s Story 30 The Historic Springville Museum of Art 32

JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2016 On The Cover: Cover photo courtesy of Taysom & Emily Hill.

Photography by Valory Dahlin.

Fitness Your Final Fitness Resolution!

BRRR-Race Yourself for Winter Running 10

How to Conquer the Dinner Drain

Financial Grow Your Money: Finding the Right Financial Adviser 20 Not Your Parents’ Mortgage 22

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Meet Our Staff 4 Letter from the Editor UVU Letter 7 Community Focus 8 Calendar of Events 34

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Utah Valley Health & Wellness is pleased to introduce the individuals listed below as part of our staff.

As members of our staff, each of the authors will regularly contribute to our magazine.

We look forward to reading their articles and learning from them.

Triston Morgan Author, Family Wellness

Erica Hansen Author, Nutrition

Travis Lott Author, Fitness

Terrin Parker, PT Associate Editor

Clint Wood Executive Editor

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FROM THE EDITOR

Believe it or not, 2016 is here! What happened to the last few months of 2015? I remember as a youth how time seemed to move so slowly. The months prior to turning 16… the long wait until high school graduation… on and on, the days seemed to crawl through time. Now, as a husband and father growing closer and closer to the median of life, trying to hold on to time seems as fruitless as trying to capture water in a net.

In truth, the passing of time is relative to our circumstances. My life today is filled with responsibilities I never could have imagined as a younger version of myself. These responsibilities, some fun and entertaining and others a constant nagging, are ever-present and require daily attention. As I review the day’s accomplishments each night, I am often struck with the sad realization that I did not accomplish many of the things I originally set out to do. Perhaps it’s poor planning, too many interruptions, or I’m just not as efficient as I think I am. Whatever the reason, the reality is that the clock doesn’t stop; I am given the same 24 hours each day and it’s up to me to make the most of them.

So, for 2016, I have decided that I want to climb into bed each night with a more peaceful mind and joyful heart by focusing on these three areas: Prioritize. Stephen Covey’s “First Things First” principle teaches proper prioritization with great clarity and effectiveness.

In essence, we should consider the things that matter the most, that will bring about the most happiness or success (however we choose to measure those things) and make them our priority that day. When these items become our focus, our day will mold itself to fit around these items. Anything else we accomplish that day is simply a bonus.

Say “no” more often. At first glance, this might come across as a negative thing. However, saying no doesn’t have to be negative! By learning how and when to say no, we can be greater protectors of our time, allowing ourselves to accomplish the things that are more essential and/or most important. Saying no to certain things also helps us build discipline.

We need to be willing to put off certain activities to afford us the time we need to accomplish the things that are most essential to our happiness. As you say no, you’ll become more disciplined with your time and in turn find that you have more time in your schedule, for yourself and others.

Enjoy. We need to enjoy each moment of every day. There is no point in racing through life chasing success, only to realize in the end that we didn’t slow down enough to recognize the blessings that were ours to enjoy every single day. The key is to open our eyes and look for those moments in our day that are truly special, then stop for a moment and enjoy!

Abraham Lincoln once said, “It’s not the years in your life that count, it’s the life in your years.” My hope is that each of you are able to find joy in the special moments of life that fill up your years.

Clint Wood Executive Editor

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Utah Valley University will celebrate a significant milestone in 2016 — 75 years of providing access to a brand of education predicated on engaged and experiential learning. From our humble beginnings in 1941 as a vocational school teaching wartime trades, UVU has grown into the largest four-year institution of higher education in Utah, serving more than 33,000 students.

It is my privilege to work alongside remarkable students, faculty, and staff who are transforming the educational and economic landscape of our community and beyond. We are proud of our unique dual mission, one that has established the breadth, rigor, and advanced training of a first-rate teaching university while retaining the access and trade and technical training of an open admissions institution.

The key to our achievement is the fact that student success stands at the heart of every program offered. Our formula for promoting this student success is a powerful combination of intellectual professional seriousness about all we do, an active and practical engagement with the world around us, and an inclusive spirit of welcome for all.

Our 75th anniversary this year is designed to engage UVU stakeholders who have a past, present, and future connection to this tremendous institution.

We invite you to come to our University during the coming year to experience first-hand the great things we are accomplishing.

Our commitment to student success is what has driven us to this milestone moment, and it will be what continues to propel us as we journey toward our next 75 years of success.

Warmest regards,

Cameron K. Martin

Vice President, University Relations, Utah Valley University Cameron K. Martin, Vice President, University Relations Utah Valley University Dr. Cameron K. Martin is the vice president for University Relations at Utah Valley University with responsibility for state and federal legislative affairs, economic development, community engagement, campus events, and public relations and marketing. Dr. Martin rejoined the UVU administrative team in 2012, after working four years for the Utah System of Higher Education (USHE) as the Associate Commissioner for Economic Development and Planning. While at USHE, Dr. Martin had stewardship for economic development, strategic planning, presidential searches and evaluations, policy administration, system student affairs coordination, and special projects, initiatives and events for USHE. Dr. Martin earned a baccalaureate degree in political science with a minor in gerontology and a master’s degree in public administration from Brigham Young University. He completed his Ph.D. in educational leadership at BYU with a research focus on the role and organizational value of an interim university president.

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Community

At a recent city event, I watched a 93-year-old Orem resident give an enthusiastic speech.

Over the past two years, she has participated in many city events, and even leads groups in exercise. This friend of mine is careful about what she eats, and spends an hour or two every day exercising. This has helped her to enjoy good health for many years.

Health is wealth, and no matter our circumstances, it is important to treat our bodies with respect. If we’re sick, we should get the help we need. When we are well, we should be proactive to protect our health.

As the mayor of Orem, I have watched our city work hard to provide the elements needed to promote a good quality of life and healthy lifestyle for the residents of our city.

Public parks have been built by each grade school. In the last two years, the Orem Fitness Center underwent a major renovation of the existing buildings, along with construction of a new indoor swimming pool.

We are now moving forward with an all-abilities park for the disabled, putting in a new splash pad, and have also added playing fields for the youth with the addition of a new city park. We are updating many playgrounds and tennis courts.

All of our cities here in Utah Valley provide many wonderful facilities that promote health and wellness, and I hope that we use them, and are grateful for them.

We have passed legislation outlawing the use of e-cigarettes on city grounds and parks.

We have given grants of CARE tax funds to the SCERA, the Hale Center Theater, the Timpanogos Storytelling Festival, and many other ballet, opera, and music groups to promote the arts in our community.

For good health it is important to have clean water, good waste water services, and good garbage collection. This last year, Central Utah Water has put in millions of dollars in a new water treatment facility in Orem that is not only utilized by our city, but many others as well.

Our water facilities have also been improved. In fact, Orem City recently received the “best tasting water award.” There is nothing more refreshing to the body than a drink of cool, clean water.

All of our cities here in Utah Valley provide many wonderful facilities that promote health and wellness, and I hope that we use them, and are grateful for them.

May we enjoy a great quality of life in 2016 by protecting our bodies and providing for our own good health and wellness through good habits and proactive actions.

Sincerely,

Mayor Richard Brunst City of Orem

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FITNESS

YOUR FINAL FITNESS

RESOLUTION!

By Travis Lott, CPT, CES, WLS, FNS

Hopefully you are well into your workout regimen and not scratching your head, thinking to yourself, “Is this the year that About the Author Travis Lott is a certified I’ll finally get into a routine?” I think most people fall prey to personal trainer, corrective the marketing hype and spend good money on well-intentioned exercise specialist, certified health goals, never realizing those goals to fruition months into nutritionist, and certified weight-loss specialist at the new year. Simply put, a new year is not enough motivation Leantrition. He has trained alone to keep you focused on and sticking with a new fitness many diverse individuals regimen. and groups over the years Many people wait until they hit a breaking point or a major including people of all ages, weight classes, and medical event (i.e. a heart attack, getting married, etc.) to change their histories. Many of his clients bad habits. Please do not let this be you! Think preventative. have seen very successful Also, think about your family, your significant other, and most results that have changed their lives. Travis is passionate importantly, think about yourself. It’s not selfish to dedicate about the health industry and time to fitness. When people start seeing the benefits of a welltakes pride in helping others rounded fitness program, they tend to stick with it. It gives them achieve a new, healthy way of living. confidence in appearance; they like the way the feel physically and emotionally, and they feel better because they have more energy and a higher metabolism.

The biggest hurdles that people face is getting to a point in their lives to make a change.

The next big challenge is to implement that desire to change. Lately, I have been trying to redirect all of our clients’ focus on forming the habits, rather than the numbers and results. Forming good habits will help you successfully reach your goals of losing weight, gaining muscle, and being healthier. Here are some tips that will ensure success in establishing these habits: • The why. Understand your motivation and reasoning for wanting to change your health. Is it to lower your heart rate, fix a health issue, lose unwanted fat, feel better, prepare for a special event, train for a race, improve your self-image, or some/all of the above? Either way, your reason has to be powerful enough to keep you going. I would challenge you to really contemplate “the why” and fully commit to acting on it. This may be emotionally challenging because we act on emotions, and our physical state is often times representative of those emotional decisions.

• Accountability. This can be a workout partner, a trainer, or a group setting or class where everyone expects you to be there. In any of these scenarios, establish specific times and days that work for everyone and DO NOT change them.

If you have a partner that changes them frequently or bails, find a new partner. You don’t have time for that. Don’t be that person, either! It will derail your success. Also, do not choose unrealistic goals or a workout routine where you will most likely fail. It’s better to start easy and build up than to start hard, crash, and then give up.

• Habits. Do this routine for 6 weeks in a row, never faltering.

Whatever you decide, stick to it like your life depends on it! This 6 week window is the most critical to establishing the habit. After being very consistent for six weeks, you won’t think twice about it because it’s now part of your regular routine.

By following these three tips, you’ll have a great start to feeling so 801.473.1887 much better this year! Good luck—you got this!

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BRRR-RACE YOURSELF for W inter R unnin g

By Iain Hunter, PhD

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About the Author Iain Hunter is an associate professor at Brigham Young University. He studies distance running mechanics including steeplechase technique. Since 2003, he has been completing biomechanical analyses for USA Track and Field.

In the 1984 Chicago Marathon, a relatively unknown runner (seeded 10th in the race) broke away during the 20th mile. Steve Jones from Wales pushed on with miles averaging 4:46. With two miles to go, Chris Brasher, the pacemaker for Roger Bannister’s sub 4-minute mile, told him he would have the record if he could finish with two sub 5-minute miles. Steve thought he meant the course record. He did not wear a watch while racing and had no idea until he crossed the finish line and was told that he had completed the race in world record time.

He didn’t even know what the world record was prior to the race.

That race took place with a cold wind in 44° temperatures. Performance suffers as temperatures get uncomfortably cold. El Helou, a French researcher, observed the optimal temperature for performance differs depending upon how fast one runs. At marathon world record paces, runners produce enough heat that 45° is actually optimal for reducing thermal stress leading to peak performance. Slower runners produce much less heat and have a higher optimal air temperature for marathon performance. The best temperature for slower marathon runners is in the 70s.

When runners train or race at sub-optimal temperatures for their current paces, extra energy is required to maintain that given pace leading to longer performance times. Adjusting pace may be necessary in cold weather for training and performing at marathon paces. However, if the temperature is lower than desirable, runners should use clothing that keeps their body comfortable. This means successful racing can be completed through a wide range of temperatures, if you use clothing to regulate your body temperature to its optimal level. Since everyone responds differently to the surrounding environment, runners should use their training runs to determine what clothing will work best for race day.

Most marathons have increasing temperatures as the race progresses, so choose shirts, hats, gloves (or socks for gloves), that you don’t mind never seeing again if you need to shed them during the race.

Along with cold temperatures affecting the physiology of the runner, our running mechanics may also change with the environment of winter running. While cold temperature has little effect on movements once a warmup is complete, the forces on the body and how the muscles and tendons react to the stresses placed upon them are different. Extra time should be taken in gradually progressing to your desired pace for the run. If snow or ice creates a slippery surface, then ignore your GPS watch and run by time and effort rather than distance. Sudden changes in training are what lead to injuries. The slipping that occurs with every step on ice and snow leads to forces that the body is not adapted to, so slower paces are required to avoid injury.

As you prepare for racing or training during the winter, realize that with the right clothing, you can perform just as well as you need to. If you can convince your friends of this, you will have company on these runs that will add to the motivation needed to get out and work well through the winter months to be ready for racing in the spring.

Photo courtesy of Abdiel Ibarra from Black Pond Media & Jaybird Sport Image.

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How to Conquer the Dinner Drain

By Erica Hansen MS, RD, CD In the movie The Grinch, Jim Carrey’s cantankerous character stands atop the blustery Mount Crumpet and considers each name on a list of Whoville citizens, declaring in angst, “Hate, hate, hate.

Hate, hate, hate. LOATH ENTIRELY.” There are many times this scene reminds me of popular sentiments regarding household chores—especially dinner.

Why is dinner planning and preparation such a drain for so many families? We know that eating family meals regularly is good for kids. Research shows that kids who eat regular meals with their families perform better in school, have better self-esteem and resilience, are less likely to participate in risky behaviors like substance abuse, develop eating disorders, and experience teen pregnancy. When kids and adults eat home with their family they 12 www.utvalleywellness.com

eat more fruits, vegetables, and whole grain foods and less sugarsweetened beverages and fast foods than kids who do not. Healthier weights are also reported among kids who eat family meals, and when you involving kids in food production and planning, it can give them a sense of ownership and leads to improved eating patterns.

These benefits have been shown to extend into young adulthood, even after children leave the home.

So if most of us are aware of the many benefits of family meals, why is it such a struggle to get dinner on the table? Some cite picky eaters, restrictive diets, limited income, and busy schedules as culprits. Another big reason is the repetitive and tiring process of making dinner decisions. Research has shown that making decisions can be mentally tiring, and that our brains have a limited

uvhw | capacity to exercise executive function. With all that is happening in our busy lives, if we wait until the end of each day to plan dinner, make a last minute stop at the grocery store, and then do all of the food preparation, there’s a good chance we will suffer from decision fatigue, as well as physical fatigue. Our mind-maker-uper may be three times too small!

Here are some tips to help you conquer the dinner drain: 1. Make a master list of meals. This should be list of tried and true entrees your family enjoys. Make it a collaborative activity--each family member will have different favorites to add. To help you brainstorm, organize the list into categories (e.g. meat, ethnicity, etc.) and post it list in a visible place, like on your fridge or inside a kitchen cabinet.

2. Consider your Schedule. Before you begin assigning meals to days on a calendar, answer these questions:

• How many days in advance do you want to plan?

• W hich days do you have the most or least amount of time for meal preparation?

• W ho will be home for dinner on the days you are planning?

• Who will be around to assist in preparation?

3. Sit Down with a Calendar. Using an electronic calendar, a spreadsheet, a piece of scratch paper, or a planner, start inserting meals from your master list. Start with the main dish, and add sides.

Aim to make half your plate fruits and vegetables.

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Place low-key options like crockpot meals on busy days. Consider prep work that could be done ahead of time to simplify things the day-of like thawing meat, cutting vegetables, or grocery shopping, and make a note of these things.

Adding new recipes to a meal plan About the Author is a fun way to add variety and interest, Erica Hansen is a registered but don’t plan more than one new recipe dietitian and owns the nutrition consulting company a week. New recipes always take more Foods that Fit. She specializes time to prepare when you’re learning in working with individuals the routine. Too many new recipes can and organizations to make their health and lifestyle goals be overwhelming. When you find a new fit into real life. She believes winner, be sure to add it to your master that getting back to the basicslist.

-preparing good, wholesome 4. Try It On. Finding a routine that foods at home--is the first step to improving health. works for your family may take time. Be prepared to make adjustments and try again. With some old-fashioned elbow grease and stick-to-itiveness, dinner can go from a drain to a delight!

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About the Author Eric Glenn is an author, father, entrepreneur and speaker. Eric travels frequently and has been to many different parts of the world. Eric has made several appearances on TV, radio and the internet, motivating people to positively move their lives to better health, wealth and wisdom. Eric resides in American Fork, UT.

My Bionic Knee

By Eric Glenn In 1989, I blew out my ACL skiing. The ensuing operations changed my lifestyle for what I thought would be forever. I’ve also experienced sciatic nerve issues and severe knee pain whenever I ran more than 20 yards. However, I found that snowboarding was an activity I could do—and I’ve stuck with it for more than 20 years.

In 2012, feeling spry at 54, I befriended and followed some young guys while boarding. They were going to try a jump off what they claimed was a 65-foot cliff. I didn’t believe them—but I also didn’t do my usual scope of the jump. It wasn’t until we arrived at the cliff that I realized two things: I was going too fast, and yes, it really was 65 feet.

I damaged my knee on the landing. My orthopedic surgeon operated and removed bone spurs—each of which was somewhere between the size of a quarter and a half dollar—that had broken loose from the impact. The surgery was a success, but my knee was still a mess. The only permanent solution that my surgeon could advise was a total knee replacement.

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Development. Then I found Dr. Thomas Calton, one of the top doctors for this particular kind of knee replacement, at Mckay-Dee Hospital in Ogden, Utah. Dr. Calton, alongside my anesthesiologist Dr. David Stettler, performed the operation on October 1, 2014. My physical therapist, Bob Sumsion of American Fork, Utah, then set me on the fast path to complete recovery.

About 7 weeks after the surgery, I went snowboarding again. In spring, I started walking with my wife. At first, I was only able to do one mile to her three and a half. Three weeks later, I was walking too fast for her. The next week I thought, I wonder what would happen if I ran? On June 19, 2015, I did it—and though I ran slowly, I almost passed out.

My next quest was to become a better runner. I was challenging all my past limitations.

I ran 8 miles, then 12, 15, 18, and finally 20 miles. My running friends encouraged me to enter a race, and I ran a half-marathon in August. So, of course, the next question was: Why not a full marathon? After all, I had done a 22-mile run and felt okay. On September 26, I completed my first marathon. I was sick that day and had overstressed my body by running too much the week before. As a result, I finished slower than I wanted to, but faster than many. I felt lucky to cross the finish line with nothing more troubling than cramping calf muscles and a deep cough.

My running adventures are proof that modern knee replacement is nothing short of amazing. I have zero knee pain. My level of activity has increased tenfold, my body fat is at an all-time low, my weight feels excellent for my frame, and my muscle tone and density have increased. I feel great. I recently realized that even with the increase in activity, my sciatic nerve pain is almost gone! It seems that if I have a health challenge, physical activity has become the best weapon to overcome it.

If you ever face a similar injury, my advice is to do your research, choose the right doctors and technologies for you, and really commit to physical therapy. The exercise routine you begin to recover from an injury may morph into a lasting habit that helps you get into the best shape of your life. It took getting a “bionic” knee to motivate me to push myself and be more active. Hopefully I won’t need another injury to remind me to keep it up!

We are still the independent healthcare providers you know and trust–just easier to identify and more unified in our efforts.

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H E A LT H

SMALL STEPS,

BIG CHANGE

By Eric Glenn

Dr. Bob Lindberg, DC Here we are, starting a new year again. It’s a time for setting goals for the coming months in an effort to make this our best year ever. Unfortunately, for most people, the year will end up pretty much like all the ones before it. Why? I think a big reason is that we set ourselves up for failure by setting goals that are too big initially, and unrealistic to achieve. I would like to suggest that if we break our goals down to bite size chunks, they would be more manageable. After all, unless you are Superman, you can’t leap from the base of a mountain to the summit in one bound. You have to climb it one step at a time.

I believe there are three basic components that shape us as human beings: physical/biomechanical, biochemical, and emotional/mental/spiritual. In order for us to reach our potential, all three of these areas need to be in balance.

Here are a few small steps we can take in each area to help us reach a more balanced state, and produce big changes by the end of the year:

About the Author Dr. Bob Lindberg has been practicing chiropractic in American Fork for 24 years.

He is a past member of the American Chiropractic Physicians Association and The Masters Circle. He was named Chiropractor of the Year by the Masters Circle in 2002. He currently resides in Lehi.

Physical/Biomechanical: Since you spend your life in your physical body, keeping it healthy is a must! Exercise is important but finding the time and energy to go to the gym 3-5 times a week can be difficult. How about starting with 1-2 times a week? Or maybe taking a walk around the block a couple of times this week? Perhaps a rebounder (mini trampoline) is the answer. Light bouncing on a rebounder for 10 minutes 2 to 3 times a week is an excellent way to tone your muscles and heart and stimulate lymph and blood flow. Take a yoga class with a friend or spouse. Get a massage to loosen muscle tension and reduce stress. Have a chiropractic adjustment to remove stress from your nervous system and improve your overall health. Start with one step and increase the best you can—remember that it all adds up over time!

Biochemical: Your body needs the right building materials to support itself. Consider taking a good vitamin supplement to enhance your diet. Our foods generally don’t have enough of the necessary nutrition our bodies need to be healthy. Also consider drinking more water. The next time you pick up a soda or an energy drink, think about having some water instead. Substitute water every once in a while for your less healthy drinks and, over time, it will become much easier to get the water your body needs.

Emotional/Mental/Spiritual: It is vital that you keep positive thoughts in your mind as much as possible. There is a direct correlation between mental attitude and health. Pick up a good book. Listen to uplifting music. Take time once in a while to think about the things in life you are grateful for. The more you focus on the positive in life, the healthier and happier you will be—I promise!

Remember, you don’t have to get to the top of the mountain today or even tomorrow. Just take one step, then another and then another.

Before you know it, your life will be significantly better. Small steps really can lead to big change!

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DISEASE

By Dr. Andrew Petersen

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Lyme Warning Signs

Common symptoms include: • Fatigue • Muscle pain or stiffness • Joint pain or swelling • Numbness, burning, or tingling in the extremities • Brain fog • Headaches • Sleep problems Common misdiagnoses include: • Chronic fatigue syndrome • Fibromyalgia • Reflex sympathetic dystrophy • Autoimmune disorders • Multiple sclerosis • ALS • Early menopause • Low thyroid

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Lyme disease is recognized as a tick-borne illness that About the Author Andrew Petersen is a Doctor affects millions of Americans. Recently, the Center for of Osteopathic Medicine.

Disease Control (CDC) acknowledged that Lyme is far He graduated from BYU more common than previously believed. In fact, this year and went to medical school at The University of North the CDC adjusted their official estimates tenfold from Texas. He served as Chief 30,000 new cases annually to 300,000 new cases annually.

Resident in family medicine You might look at the map on the CDC website and in Altoona Pennsylvania. He worked in rural Kansas and assume that Lyme disease is not a problem here in Utah.

Texas before moving to Provo This is simply not true. Many patients living in Utah Utah to practice Integrative have been diagnosed with Lyme disease according to the Medicine where he specializes diagnostic approach described by the CDC. Additionally, in chronic fatigue, hormone imbalance, and optimal health many Utahans have tested positive for Lyme disease achievement. He works at based on more sensitive testing methods including B-cell WholeHealth Medical Group, or T-cell antibody tests, microscopic stains, and a Lymewith offices in Provo and West Jordan. specific culture.

Surprisingly, the diagnosis of Lyme disease remains a controversial issue in medicine. The official position of the Infectious Disease Society of America (IDSA) is that chronic Lyme disease does not exist. However, many patients continue to be culture positive for borrelia—the bacteria that causes Lyme disease—even after completing the course of antibiotics recommended by the IDSA. Another organization, the International Lyme and Associated Disease Society, suggests that while the infection may at times be effectively treated with a standard course of antibiotics, there are also patients for whom this short course of treatment is ineffective.

Patients who develop chronic Lyme disease require longer durations of treatment to the initial infection as well as attention to other systems of the body that become weak as a result of the infection.

Just recently, right here in our state, researchers at the University of Utah demonstrated that genetics plays a role in determining who becomes sick with Lyme disease. The initial research suggests that some people are able to fight off the disease with treatments such as those recommended by the IDSA, while other patients require lengthier treatment and a multi-systemic approach. Research on this topic is ongoing.

Another reason that Lyme diagnosis is so controversial is that it is known to cause a large variety of symptoms depending on the tissue that it infects. Lyme is often called “the great imitator”; it can present with such diverse symptoms that it often ends up being misdiagnosed as something else. In general, Lyme prefers living in connective tissue, joint spaces, and nerve tissue. These areas require limited blood supply, and therefore enable the infection to elude detection and elimination by the immune system.

However, the location where the infection takes up residence in any given patient varies widely.

One of the most confounding issues is that because Lyme puts so much stress on the body, patients with chronic Lyme disease can develop abnormal hormone levels.

Often it is the change in hormones, rather than Lyme itself, that causes many of their symptoms. Because the patient has hormone abnormalities as well as an underlying infection, they do not improve as one would expect from normal treatments.

There are many other overlapping factors that cause Lyme patients to do poorly. A few of these include co-infections, mitochondrial dysfunction, environmental toxins, coagulation abnormalities, immune dysfunction, gastrointestinal disorders, sleep disorders, pain disorders, addiction, and deconditioning (lack of exercise).

If you have been treated for hormone imbalance, an autoimmune disorder, or one of the many other common misdiagnoses of Lyme (see the sidebar for more) and are not getting better, you should strongly consider getting properly tested for Lyme disease.

When approached in a comprehensive manner and accounting for all overlapping factors, chronic Lyme can be effectively treated—helping those who suffer from this debilitating disease to regain their health and get their lives back.

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Grow Your Money

Finding the Right Financial Adviser

By Dave Young You wouldn’t consult an electrician about heart surgery, a dentist to do your taxes, or a plumber for legal advice. Since the investment decisions you make today critically affect your future, wouldn’t it make sense to work with an experienced investment specialist?

For some reason, it has always been easier to lose money than it is to make it and keep it. The FBI calculates that in recent years there were more than 4,400 victims of fraud in Utah, totaling a net losses of $1.4 billion dollars (www.fbi.gov).

Properly managing your investments is critical to your long term financial success. It is not optional. First, it requires a time commitment to research and track your investments. Second, it requires discipline to stick with your strategy through challenging times. Third, and most difficult, it requires you to remove emotion from your investment process.

About the Author Dave Young founded Paragon Wealth Management in Provo, Utah 29 years ago.

His investment methods have attracted national and local attention. He has been interviewed by BusinessWeek, CNBC, the Wall Street Journal, the Deseret Morning News and other national and local media.

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Most successful people recognize the need for a relationship with an accountant and a lawyer. However, many have not yet discovered the benefits of working with a financial adviser. Based on the variety of investment options and the myriad of people that call themselves financial advisers, it is easy to understand why.

Figuring out who to work with is often so confusing that people give up and try to manage their money themselves.

Though finding the “right” adviser is much more difficult than most people realize, studies have shown that investors are better off with the help of a financial adviser. Most investors hire someone they “trust.” However, trust is very intangible, and difficult to quantify. And, contrary to popular belief, the size of the firm or familiarity of the brand name does not indicate the quality of the advice provided.

Part of the problem is that titles for financial sales reps are completely unregulated. This means that brokers, annuity salesmen, and insurance agents are all free to call themselves financial advisors, planners, or whatever else they prefer.

To make sure you don’t get stuck with a salesperson when you are really looking for an adviser, make sure look at these 5 critical areas:

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Not Your Parents’ Mortgage

By Blake Bench

On a recent visit to my parents’ house—the same one I grew up in—I found myself thinking about the differences between how my generation and theirs approach home ownership. My parents have lived in the same home for almost 40 years, and been free of a mortgage for more than a decade. At the time when they purchased their home, mortgage rates were in the double digits and the difference between the rates offered by two financial institutions were often a full percentage point or more.

My generation has been blessed with record-low interest rates, so for us the difference of a quarter or eighth of a percentage point can be the deciding factor. Also, we tend to buy, sell, and refinance our homes every couple of years. This comparison brings up a very important principle about the relationship between interest rates and closing costs in today’s market.

There are three main questions to consider when looking to buy a house. First, how much does it cost to get a mortgage?

Second, how do different rates affect the total cost? And finally, how do you bring it all together and make the best mortgage decision?

The cost of obtaining a mortgage, or closing costs, can vary from $0 to 3% of the loan amount or more. Closing costs may include processing or application fees, underwriting fees, appraisal costs, and title charges. You might also be charged origination points, or loan origination fees.

What most consumers don’t know is that they have some control over closing costs. For example, a $200,000 loan at 4% on a 30-year fixed mortgage might cost $2,500 in closing costs, but if the interest rate is raised to 4.25%, those costs can be waived. In contrast, if the rate is lowered to 3.75%, the lender may add an origination fee of $2,500, bringing the total costs to $5,000. That relatively small difference in the interest rate could cause a very dramatic change to the cost of the loan.

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To my parents and many in their generation, the answer was “yes,” but for me and so many of my peers the answer is “probably not.”

Doing the Math A $200,000 mortgage at an interest rate of 3.75% will cost $29/month less than the same mortgage at an interest rate of 4.0%, and $58/month less

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and have no intention of refinancing or paying off the loan before the end of the seventh year, then it might make sense to pay the extra money up front for the lower rate.

When you’re looking to buy a new home or refinance an existing mortgage, make sure that you have your lender give you several estimates that break down the closing costs. Ask them to show you options with interest rates that have little or no closing costs. Then compare your closing-cost savings to the increase in your monthly payments. You can then make the decision based on your best estimate of how long you’ll keep that mortgage.

By getting multiple options and doing some simple math, you’ll avoid paying too much up front to get a lower interest rate that will never save you enough money to recuperate your initial investment.

than at an interest rate of 4.25%.

About the Author

Given that example, the real question that homebuyers needs to ask themselves is whether it is worth paying $5,000 up front in closing costs to save $58 per month. The answer depends on how long they will have the mortgage. With a monthly savings of $58 (an annual savings of $696), the breakeven point isn’t until the 87th month—just over 7 years. If you think you might sell the house, refinance the mortgage, or pay the loan off before the end of the seventh year, then the higher rate with cheaper closing costs is the better choice for you. If you plan to keep the house

Blake Bench is a professional mortgage lender specializing is residential purchase mortgages. A graduate of Utah State University with degrees in accounting and finance Blake finds a great deal of fulfillment helping home buyers of all experience levels make the best decisions regarding their mortgage. With more than 10 years as a Loan originator Blake has helped thousands of people purchase a refinance their home. These levels of production have elevated Blake to be on one of the top originators of mortgages in the state of Utah and the trusted lender of many realtors, financial planners and builders. Blake is blessed with a beautiful wife and 5 rambunctious children. In Spare time he finds a retreat in fly fishing the many lakes and streams of Utah and cheering on the Aggies and Cougars.

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Spirituality and Therapy Bridging the Gap Part One of a Three-Part Series

By Daniel Colver, M.A., LAMFT In generations past, issues of faith and spirituality were often deferred to clergy and chaplains. It could easily be argued that psychology, as a discipline, has maintained a reputation for reducing issues of faith and belief to mere symptoms of other issues, thereby discrediting the significance and importance of the subject matter itself.

However, things are changing. Ironically, as Len Sperry from Florida Atlantic University recognizes, “[Today], more individuals in various cultural contexts are increasingly seeking out psychotherapists and other practitioners, rather than ministers or spiritual guides, to deal with these concerns or foster their spiritual growth and development.” (Sperry, 2014) This calls for a new breed of psychotherapist. One who is not only skilled in matters of psychological, emotional, relational, and cognitive health, but also one who understands the various theoretical approaches to religious studies and the ethical implications of such for their clients.

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Daniel is an associate marriage and family therapist at the Spanish Fork Center for Couples and Families. Along with completing a Bachelor of Science in Behavioral Science: Sociology Emphasis and a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy, Daniel has completed additional coursework toward obtaining a second bachelors in Integrated Studies: Religious Studies and Peace & Justice Studies. Daniel lives in beautiful Utah with his lovely wife, cute newborn daughter, two dogs, and his motorcycle.

(ACT), and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT). Integrative health models will often include spiritual health alongside emotional, mental, social, and physical health. But what exactly does spiritual health mean? What place does religion, belief, faith, and spiritual practice have within a therapeutic setting? And what role can a therapist serve regarding such issues?

Spirituality is such a deeply personal and subjective concept that many mental health clinicians pay little to no attention to it in therapy (except perhaps briefly asking one or two questions while completing a “psychosocial assessment”). And it’s not their fault. Chances are, such clinicians have had little to no formal education or training on issues of religion, existentialism, or spirituality as a whole.

As a marriage and family therapist by training, I am reminded every session about how my personal experiences, biases, and values affect the therapeutic relationship and overall wellbeing of my clients. When I am looking for a therapist to refer colleagues, family members, or friends, I look for the following three qualities: • A licensed professional with an appropriate level of education/training to treat the particular issues bringing the client into session.

• Someone who authentically recognizes the limits of personal biases (we all have them).

• Someone who empathically collaborates with their clients from a place of acceptance and compassion.

When working on issues of faith in a therapeutic setting, the same applies. If you are interested in working through issues of faith or spirituality with a therapist, I also recommend the following suggestions: Take your time to find someone you feel comfortable with, and who simultaneously challenges you to grow. Be clear about what you are looking for in therapy.

Perhaps it’s wanting to learn how spirituality paired with therapeutic techniques can bolster resiliency. Perhaps you are experiencing feelings of shame and perfectionistic tendencies which can be counterproductive to living the life you want to live. Or perhaps you or a loved one is experiencing a crisis of faith and you need the support from a nonjudgemental, yet knowledgeable, third party. Whatever your needs, find a therapist who you feel understands your journey and is comfortable exploring such sensitive issues with confidence. *Please be sure to check in on the next article in this three-part series, where we explore the qualities which help define spiritual health, and five benefits of integrating spirituality with psychotherapy.

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Smart Parenting:

Your Children are Watching

By Phil Scoville MS, LMFT As we hit full swing in the post-holiday season, young children and adolescents are finishing their first term of school. Some are full of hope, while others struggle with fear and anxiety. Simultaneously, we, as parents, are working through our own anxiety and fear about the social, emotional, educational, and physical success of our children. As our children continue to grow and develop they need us to model how to handle difficulty, stress, and life’s challenges. Through my practice as a therapist, I have found that when parents deliberately teach their children appropriate skills to handle difficulty and stress, children adjust better to life’s challenges. I emphasize the word deliberate. This has to be something you choose to spend time doing because it doesn’t just happen on its own.

Here are 4 strategies to help you model for and teach your children how to handle difficulty, stress and develop well in life: Emotional Development I find that many families struggle to consistently follow through with healthy emotional development in life. It is crucial that children learn how to handle emotions from their parents. This does not mean, for example, that if we get upset we are always going to handle it perfectly.

Children learn how to handle emotions by observing our actions just as much, if not more, than by our words. If we make a mistake, it is important to talk with your child about this. Apologize. Tell them what you did wrong. Tell them what you could have done differently.

School for children can also be an emotionally charged experience. It often creates difficulties our children don’t know how to handle. I encourage parents to help their children understand their emotions and learn to let them go. Help your children label what they are feeling so that they are not confused. Then help them let it go. Sometimes you can have them write down their emotion on a piece of paper and tell them to let it go by tearing it up and throwing it away. We need to let our children know its ok to feel difficult emotions.

Share Your Love with Your Children Talk openly about your love for your children and make sure they know you mean it. Verbally telling them that you love will have longlasting effects that you may not see right away. Find fun activities that you can do together. Let some of these activities be directed by your child. Follow their lead in what to do and how to play. You will learn a lot about your child by doing this. This is an important way to develop common interests and to help you spend time with each other.

Talk about your Personal Goals Both parents and children have goals in life that they are working towards. A goal that I have with my own children is to help them

understand the things I do on a day-today basis (i.e., business development, understanding stocks, football scores, fantasy football). Reach outside yourself and share a bit of you with your children.

This is a good segue into helping your child develop their own personal goals.

Accept Yourself About the Author Many people struggle to accept Phil Scoville is a marriage themselves for who they are. I challenge and family therapist and a coyou to explore and understand yourself and owner and the clinical director at the Center for Couples and to accept the good, bad, and ugly parts you Families, a counseling center find. We often compare ourselves to others in Utah Valley. and feel like we don’t measure up. Keep in mind that everyone is different. Discover new things about yourself and finding ways to be less judgmental and critical of our weaknesses. There is so much guilt and shame in the world, let’s find ways to decrease this in ourselves. By doing so, we model to our children how to accept themselves as well.

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It is great to live in a location where we can experience the benefits of all four seasons throughout the year. Seasons change, and each new season of life provides an opportunity for refocusing on what is best and what is needed for this time in life.

As you think about winter, how can you use this time to focus on what is most needed for you and your family? Rather than being frustrated with having children under feet because it is too cold to go outside, consider bundling up and going out to play in the snow together. Or, snuggle up together on the couch and watch a show that everyone can enjoy together. Build memories rather than frustrations.

On a larger scale, different seasons of life allow the opportunity to step back and consider what is needed for each person in your family according to their developmental stage in life. Erik Erikson outlined stages of development for all people across the lifespan. Consider the stages that are relevant to you and your family, and use your creativity to plan out developmentally appropriate experiences for each person.

Trust vs. Mistrust. From birth to 18 months of life, the focus of development is building a sense of trust. Infants cannot care for themselves and they need the predictability and trust that their caregivers will be there for them. Activities that foster healthy development at this stage include eye gazing, smiling, and physical touch. Give yourselves permission to enjoy some “down time� with your baby.

Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt. Toddlers from age 18 months to 3 years are learning to do things on their own. They become more mobile, learn to feed themselves and potty train. Activities to help toddlers in their development include clear routines or schedules, encouraging new behaviors, and praising and rewarding successes. Consider taking your toddler to explore in a new but safe environment. Avoid criticism or any form of shaming.

Initiative vs. Guilt. The pre-school stage, from ages 3 to 5, is when our children learn to try new things. They are ready to explore and do anything they can on their own. Children can develop a sense of guilt if they consistently break spoken or unspoken boundaries. So, give them space to play and explore, knowing what the rules are, and play with them sometimes, and they will learn to take initiative and try new things within safe limits.

Industry vs. Inferiority. The school age years of 6 to 11 are focused on their ability to make, do, and accomplish things. To help children in this stage of development, help them try new things that are within their reach. They can learn to ride bikes, build things, play instruments, learn new sports, clean their rooms, do chores, and even cook simple meals. Openly praise their progress and encourage next steps.

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Identity vs. Role Confusion. The teenage years from 12 to 18 are focused on figuring out the kind of person you want to be. Teens continue to try new things and, as they experience success in chosen pursuits, they develop a sense of identity and purpose. Help your teens to discover talents, try new things, and engage in discussions about their likes, wants, thoughts, and feelings. Let them know you are confident in them.

Intimacy vs. Isolation. The focus of young adulthood, ages 19 to 40, is building connection and intimacy in relationships. This includes both a committed relationship with one partner and healthy adult-to-adult relationships with siblings, parents, coworkers, and friends. In this stage of development, create shared meaning through activities both people value. Play games, read interesting books, work together on projects, and serve each other.

Generativity vs. Stagnation. Middle adulthood, from ages 40 to 65, has the focus of generativity or productivity in your life. As adults, we have a need to accomplish things and make a difference in the world. Often, parenting is the key focus of these years. Working and having a fulfilling career is another primary focus. In this stage, take time to clarify your priorities and make time to achieve them.

Ego Integrity vs. Despair. From retirement on, our focus turns to a reflection on who we are and what we have done with our lives. Activities in this developmental stage can include time with family, mentoring others, journaling about your life experiences and accomplishments, and trying new things. Facilitating success in each of the earlier stages of life (for yourself or others) can lead to a greater sense of integrity later in life.

Whatever you determine is best for you and your family, choose to make this season a season of progress and connection. Enjoy life, spend your time on what matters most, and be the best type of person and best type of family you want to be.

About the Author Dr. Henline is a marriage and family therapy educator, supervisor, and therapist.

He owns a family therapy clinic based in Arizona and was the founding Program Director for the family therapy training programs at Northcentral University. Dr. Henline is also a Certified Family Life Educator. He enjoys life with is wife and four children currently living in Lehi, Utah.

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Be a better person. Be happier! Don’t get mad at the kids. Make more money! These are all good ideas for New Year’s resolutions, but flawed in their design. If you are like me, you have already set New Year’s resolutions and look forward to what this coming year will bring.

There is a trick, however, to make sure you set yourself up for success. Being a goal driven person is a good thing—let’s make sure, however, that you don’t stumble out of the gate.

Over the years I have heard many couples tell me that they want a “better relationship,” or that they need to work on their “communication problems.” Creating a better relationship is a fantastic idea and worthwhile goal for every couple in or out of therapy. However, to successfully achieve this goal, we need to drill deeper to understand what having a better relationship means. For some, it might mean improving their fun and play together through a date night every Friday. For others, they would spend less time with electronics and more quality time together doing activities that create conversation and intimacy.

Working on communication problems can mean many different things as well. For one couple it could mean that they spend less time being critical of each other and instead adopt an attitude of understanding and compassion to their spouse’s views. For others it might mean that they want to actually talk about difficult topics in their marriage before they simmer, unaddressed, and eventually cause a blow up. We could even drill down further here—but you get the point. Your goals should be specific to you and your family, not generic and abstract.

In working with couples in my office, I have found several principles to help when setting goals. Keep your New Year’s resolutions in mind as we review a few principles:

About the Author Dr. Triston Morgan is a director and co-owner of Center for Couples and Families, a counseling center, in Utah Valley. He is licensed as a PhD marriage and family therapist, and is originally from Oregon.

1. Positive Frame – State your goals in a positive tone. Outline what you want to do, not what you don’t want to do. For example, instead of creating a goal such as, ‘Don’t get mad at the kids,’ reframe it into something like, ‘Respond to my children with calmness and take a time-out when needed.’ Dr. Craig Manning, the mental strength coach for a variety of BYU sports programs, emphasizes this. Through his experience teaching athletes this and similar principles, he has found that their performance improves.

2. Guiding Tools – Use an acronym, such as SMART, to help set up your goals:

1. Specific – what do you want to achieve?

2. Measurable – how can you track progress? (i.e., I want to run an 8-minute/mile pace in a half-marathon)

3. Attainable – can you achieve this goal? You don’t have to limit yourself here, however. It’s good to shoot high at times!

4. Relevant – is this something that will help you meet your needs in life?

5. Timely – include a time frame or increments of time (i.e., by March 2015, or every Friday night) Some would argue that using an acronym like SMART limits your creative, bold self. Just make sure to stretch yourself as you use this tool in setting goals.

3. Follow Up – Your resolutions should be something you review often. Make it a habit to look them over once a week. This helps guide your efforts and reminds you of your course.

Some people post these goals in a conspicuous place in their daily routine so that they see them whether they want to or not. The bathroom mirror, the kitchen refrigerator or the screen saver on your phone are great places to start. I have noticed that when I review my goals weekly I am able to achieve them throughout the year, instead of watching them disappear like the snow in spring.

Remember—everyone is unique. That you want to improve an area of your life and stretch yourself in new ways is admirable, but a one-size-fits-all goal is usually not the best way to do it. Decide on specific positive actions that will get you to a happier self. Don’t forget to keep track of your progress, and most importantly, be proud of the new you!

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I credit my parents with teaching me and my siblings the power and art of working hard to accomplish goals – Taysom Hill

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By Clint Wood In the 1989 movie Field of Dreams, Kevin Costner’s character, Ray Kinsella, interviews an elderly character named Archibald “Moonlight” Graham. The conversation focuses on Archibald’s baseball career when he was a younger man. As a young ballplayer, Archie Graham had been stuck in baseball’s minor league system for years, when finally he got a late-season call to join a major league club. However, instead of realizing his dream and securing a career in the major leagues, Moonlight’s opportunity ended as quickly as it started: one game, no official “at-bat,” and a one-half inning appearance in right field, where, in his words, “the ball never made it out of the infield.” The game ended and Archie Graham was sent back to the minor leagues and thereafter made the decision to walk away from baseball and pursue a career in medicine.

One of my favorite lines of this movie is where Ray, describing the torment Archie must have felt, concludes, “It would kill some men to get so close to their dream and not touch it…..they’d consider it a tragedy.”

Now, please consider for a moment a dream of yours becoming a reality, then being taken from you, then given back to you, only to be taken away yet again. Please meet Taysom Hill’s college football career. Consider the frustration of applying years of hard work and dedication to a craft, that of a successful quarterback, seeing your work culminate into a reality on one of the biggest stages in college football, starting quarterback for Brigham Young University, then, your dream is taken from you without apology….not once, not twice, but three different times due to injury.

Granted, Taysom Hill has been able to get on the field, win ball games, and showcase what he can do for a football program. I am sure he is grateful for every college football game he has had a chance to play in. However, the “tragedy” of Taysom’s story lies not in how many games he did or did not play in, but rather, in the manner and timing in which these severe injuries have caused early endings to 30 www.utvalleywellness.com

uvhw | three out of four of his college football seasons. The repetitious nature of beginning a football season healthy and strong, with the highest of expectations for success, only to be cut short by injury, can weigh heavily on the psyche of an individual – especially when it happens in back-to-back seasons, as the 2014/2015 seasons ended for Taysom.

The 2013 football season is the only season he has experienced at BYU which was not shortened by a painful and severe injury.

During our recent conversation, Taysom stated, “to say the least, the last few years have been difficult.” “The broken leg injury that occurred during the 2014 season was especially frustrating, both physically and mentally.” For those non-BYU football fanatics, the 2014 season looked very promising as the Cougars started quickly with a four-game winning streak. Taysom’s broken leg shook thing up a bit, but his teammates rallied, a new quarterback stepped in, and the team finished the season with a respectful record of 8 wins to 5 losses.

Taysom explained to me that the resulting physical pain as well as the limited mobility (he wore a protective boot and had to use a medical “knee walker” cart) were especially frustrating. But, physical pain was something he had dealt with before and he knew that proper rehab, coupled with time, would help him get back to full strength. The more painful experience was the mental anguish that he encountered. In one moment, he was the starting quarterback on an extremely talented team, then, a moment later, he was done. His second such experience in three years. He was busted up and sidelined for the remainder of the season. Psychologically, this is difficult for athletes, especially those performing at the highest levels of their sport. Taysom knew that mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, this wasn’t a healthy place to be and he knew he needed to do something about it.

From his earliest days, Taysom can recall the memories of a loving mother and father that worked hard to provide a good and safe home for their children. “I credit my parents with teaching me and my siblings the power and art of working hard to accomplish goals,” Taysom explained. For him, the example set by his parents instilled in Taysom values that he has drawn upon throughout his life. He holds onto memories of his father rising each morning, sometimes as early as 5:00 A.M., to leave for work, only to then come home from a long day and continue to work around the house. Through this, Taysom witnessed the life rewards available through hard work and dedication.

Taysom was married in 2013 to his wife Emily and they have quickly learned in their young marriage the need for patience, love and support to help one another through difficult times. Selflessness is a sought after quality, and Taysom commented on his wife’s unique ability to pick him up when he is down. Together, the two of them set goals and work hard to make their marriage happy and fulfilling.

From his faith, Taysom holds onto the idea of progression; the value of trying to be a little better today than you were yesterday.

He credits the values of honesty, hard work, love and patience with helping him through difficult times.

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he needed to throw his focus and efforts in a new direction. Football, for the time being, was over. Now, it was time to seek success in other areas.

However, finding balance in life is not always easy. Many of us, out of tendency, will focus on only those things that bring an immediate reward or happiness. We find the “one thing” we are good at or About the Author Clint is the owner and enjoy the most, then place our focus and Executive Editor of Utah efforts there. However, when that one Valley Health & Wellness thing doesn’t work out or is temporarily Magazine. Clint has over 15 taken from us, what do we fall back on? years of sales and marketing experience and holds a What else in life do we have that can Bachelor of Science degree provide the self-fulfillment and happiness in Business Management as we all long for? well as a Juris Doctor degree from South Texas College of Psychologist, Dr. Guy Winch Law. Clint resides in Cedar explains that personal failures can Hills with his wife and two have a distorting effect on our selfchildren. perceptions. The result is a hopeless outlook. Dr. Winch suggests that when we find ourselves in such a dilemma, we should seek to regain control and refocus our efforts.

The control factor will help improve our self-doubts. For Taysom Hill, this was exactly his plan. Just because success on a football field was no longer available to him, he knew that other opportunities were there. Taysom explained that he likes to measure success through the security and happiness of his family. Therefore, he had school and a career to focus on, he had a loving and supportive wife by his side, and he had his faith.

Through academics, Taysom has positioned himself to be as prepared as possible for his and his wife’s future. He graduated in December of 2015 with a bachelor’s degree in finance from BYU’s Marriott School. The financial world has always intrigued him, and Taysom has set his sights on a career in that field. What that looks like exactly, Taysom won’t yet say, but he knows the direction he is going and is excited for the opportunities that await him in the future.

As the movie Field of Dreams explains, Archibald “Moonlight” Graham went on to successfully practice medicine for 50 years in Chisholm, MN where he was affectionately known as “Doc” Graham. In response to Ray Kinsella’s declaration of the tragic end to Moonlight’s baseball career, Doc Graham wisely explains that, for him, not becoming a doctor would have been the real tragedy.

Taysom Hill is still a young man, who, with his wife by his side, and the support of his family, will make several decisions over the coming months and years that will have an impact on the story of his life. Whether he steps back on the football field, moves on to a career in finance, or chooses another path altogether, there is one thing that is certain: success cannot escape the grasp of an individual so dedicated and true.

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The Historic Springville Museum of Art Refining Minds and Building Character

By The Springville Museum Staff

The Springville Museum of Art is Utah’s first museum of visual art. Dedicated as “a sanctuary of beauty and a temple of contemplation” by David O. McKay in 1937, the museum houses an impressive permanent collection which includes 150 years of Utah art, twentieth-century Soviet realist art, and American art. The permanent collection shares space with juried and curated exhibitions highlighting Utah artists.

Founded with a commitment to quality and life-affirming art, the museum recognizes the seed of potential within each individual, and seeks to nurture growth through the creative process, positive cultural values, and a belief in the beauty of life. Through the vision and generosity of donors, visitors, members and volunteers, the museum is able to fulfill the mission of its founders, John Hafen and Cyrus Dallin, in refining minds and building character through fine art. The museum is a non-profit fine arts institution, and has provided cultural and educational opportunities to residents and visitors of Utah for nearly 100 years.

The history of the Springfield Museum of Art began in 1903, with the donation of two works of art to Springville High School by artists Cyrus E. Dallin and John Hafen. Dallin became famous for his Paul Revere sculpture in Boston and his heroic depictions of the American Indian, and Hafen for his sensitively rendered impressionistic landscapes. In 1907 a number of Utah artists agreed to donate paintings to the school, including James T. Harwood, John B. Fairbanks and Mahonri M. Young. The students became interested in art and collecting, and began purchasing paintings and sculpture through an “Art Queen” program. Each student paid a penny-per-vote; the girl with the most votes was named queen, and the funds were used to purchase artwork for the museum’s collection.

Cultural and educational offerings at the museum have expanded over time in response to community desire and need. A Paris salon-style exhibition was put on in 1921 by Springville High School students. This tradition has continued as the Annual Spring Salon, and is displayed from April to July. In 1925 the museum, then called the High School Art Gallery, became incorporated. Generous donations from the Smart, Steed and Lund-Wassmer Collections have strengthened the museum’s permanent collection. By 1935 the collection had grown so much that the students and townspeople raised $100,000 during the Great Depression to construct the present facility. Additional money came from the city of Springville, the LDS Church, and the Works Progress Administration (WPA). The museum has since been expanded and modernized with the addition of the Clyde Wing in 1965, and the George S. and Delores Dore Eccles Wing in 2004. The new wing doubled the size of the facility, adding 20,000 square feet. The latest addition is the beautiful Sam and Diane Stewart Sculpture Garden, dedicated in 2009.

The Springville Museum of Art continues to have strong ties to the state and its community. The Utah All-State High School Art Show, established 44 years ago, is the result of an ongoing collaboration between the museum, high school art teachers, students, government officials, and various private partners. The exhibition honors the best high school artists in the state for their talent, creativity, and dedication.

The purpose of this exhibition is to foster creation of original visual art among Utah teenagers by providing a professional forum for student artists. The 44th Annual High School Exhibition will run from February 6th – March 25th 2016.

A variety of other exhibitions, concerts, programs and special events are offered throughout the year. The Springville Museum hours are Tue-Sat 10-5, Wed 10-9, and Sun 3-6. They are closed Mondays and holidays. Admission is free. The museum is located at 126 E. 400 S. in Springville, Utah, directly off freeway I-15. For more information, visit www.smofa.org or call (801) 489-2727.

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CALENDAR OF January January - February 13, Mondays-Saturdays American Chronicles: The Art of Norman Rockwell Brigham Young University Museum of Art North Campus Drive Provo, UT 84602 This limited time exhibit chronicles the storytelling of human nature through the art of one of the past century’s most popular artists.

FREE January 14 - January 16, 7:30 PM with matinee Saturday at 2:00 PM Heartsongs - Melodies of Love Franklin S. Harris Fine Arts Center Campus Drive & Heritage Drive Provo, UT 84604 The Young Ambassadors’ production, Heartsongs – Melodies of Love, highlights some of the world’s all-time favorite love songs in a vibrant musical journey through the roller coaster of life. With show tunes from award-winning Broadway musicals and hits by the Beatles, Elvis Presley, Adele and Michael Jackson, Heartsongs celebrates life’s unforgettable seasons of love. $8-12 January 14 - 30, 7:30 PM with matinee on Saturdays at 2:00 PM Mother Hick Utah Valley University Performing Arts Noorda Regional Theatre 800 West University Parkway, Orem, UT 84058 Experience an evocative story of three outsiders, a foundling girl known only as Girl; a deaf boy, eloquent in the language of his silence; and an eccentric recluse, Mother Hicks, who is suspected of being a witch.

This tale chronicles the journeys of these three to find themselves in troubled times.

General $10, Students & Faculty $5 January 15 and February 19, 8:00 PM ImprovBroadway The Provo Covey Center 425 West Center Street, Provo, UT 84601 ImprovBroadway is the fusion of three amazing art forms: improvisation, comedy, and musical theater.

With suggestions from the audience, the cast of will craft a hilarious and family-friendly show. $8 Presale, $10 at-the-door January 21 - January 23, 7:00 PM Off The Map: Leo BYU Performing Arts Harris Fine Arts Center BYU Campus Drive, Provo, UT 84602 This solo physical theatre piece challenges gravity and reality through the clever interplay of vibrant acrobatic performance and high-tech video projection.

Universally appealing to adults and children alike, this is the funny, intriguing and moving journey of a seemingly ordinary man whose world becomes physically unhinged. Jaws will drop as LEO takes “off the wall” to a whole new level.

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January 21 –June 2017 Russian Stories, Soviet Ideals Springville Museum of Art 126 East 400 South Springville, UT 84663 Step into Russia during the Soviet Union era.

Featuring Soviet artwork with highlights from the Jerald Jacobs collection.

FREE

February February 2nd, 7:00 PM February 3, 4:00 & 7:30 PM The Jordan World Circus 2016 McKay Events Center 800 W. University Pwy Orem, UT 84058 “The Jordan World Circus” will thrill fans of all ages. Come see the death-defying aerial acts, animal attractions including tigers and elephants. In addition to the performing acts, kids will have the unique opportunity to ride and pet different types of animals.

Adults $18 Children $14 February 5 & 6, 7:30 PM, 2:00 PM Matinee Snow White Ballet Covey Center for the Arts 425 West Center Street Provo, UT 84601 Utah Valley University School of the Arts presents, Snow White, a contemporary, romantic ballet that turns the Grimm Brothers’ classic tale on its head.

Never has death-by-poison-apple been so mesmerizing and entertaining.

Contact Covey Center for the Arts for ticket information.

February 8 – February 26, 7:00 PM Peter Pan’s Great Adventure SCERA Center for the Arts 745 South State Street Orem, UT 84058 The newest musical adaptation of J.M. Barrie’s classic tale of the boy who could fly and never grew up!

Wendy and her brothers Michael and John meet the infamous Peter Pan and fly to Neverland, where they literally find themselves in a bind – tied to the mast of Captain Hook’s ship with the misfit Lost Boys… and Peter $4-6 February 9, 7:00 PM “Home-Fried” Tales with Storyteller Lyn Ford Presented by Timpanogos Storytelling Institute and Orem Public Library at Orem Public Library 58 North State Street Orem, UT 84057 Bring the family for a special free performance by award-winning storyteller Lyn Ford. Lyn’s stories and songs are great for audiences of all ages.

FREE

February 11, 7:30 PM Concerto Night: A Classical Journey Utah Valley University Symphony Orchestra Sorensen Center Ragan Theater 800 West University Parkway, Orem, UT 84058 Helping talented young musicians perform is the heart of what we do. Once again thrill to our annual concerto competition, featuring accomplished student soloists from our Department of Music. $10, Students & Faculty $5 February 12 & 13, 6:00 PM Valentine Dinner/Dance Thanksgiving Point Show Barn A live band provides entertainment for the night to complement an exceptional dinner.

Doors open: 6 pm Pictures available from 6 - 9 pm Dinner and Dancing: 7 - 10 pm $58/per person in advance $70/per person in advance with rose at seat February 17 & 18, 7:30 PM The King’s Singers YU de Jong Concert Hall BYU Campus Drive, Provo, UT 84602 Acclaimed worldwide for their virtuosity, lifeaffirming energy and irresistible charisma, The King’s Singers are synonymous with the very best in vocal ensemble performance. Instantly recognizable for their immaculate intonation, impeccable vocal blend, flawless diction and incisive timing, Britain’s greatest musical exports return to BYU-following last season’s sold out concerts-with a program of tunes collected from their travels around the globe.

February 23, 7:30 PM Solo Marimba from Back to the 21st Century Gunther Trade 507 800 West University Parkway, Orem, UT 84058 Join us for an evening of student solos featuring the warmth and clarity of our world-class Marimba.

Whether your tastes favor the beauty of tonal music or the innovations of the avant-garde, we are prepared to satisfy your palette.

FREE February 25, 7:30 PM Renee Fleming Harris Fine Arts Center BYU Campus Drive, Provo, UT 84602 One of the most beloved and celebrated musical ambassadors of our time, soprano Renée Fleming captivates audiences with her sumptuous voice, consummate artistry, and compelling stage presence.

Known as “the people’s diva,” she has graced the world’s greatest opera stages and concert halls, won four Grammy Awards, and received the National Medal of Arts. A variety of beloved art songs and arias will populate her concert program at BYU.

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