Bayou Catholic Magazine June 2022

Bayou

Catholic

The official magazine of the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux

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Contents

Features 20 Father Dean Danos retires

By Janet Marcel

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Hurricane Ida recovery

By Janet Marcel

Columns 8 Message from our Administrator

By Very Rev. P.J. Madden

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Pope Speaks Pope Francis I

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Questions of Faith

By Father Wilmer Todd

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Readings Between the Lines

By Father Glenn LeCompte

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Overtime

By Ed Daniels

In Every Issue 6 From the Editor 16 Scripture Readings 22 Heavenly Recipes 29 Daily Prayer for Priests, Deacons, Religious and Seminarians

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Youth In Action

Guest Column 32

Catholic Foundation update

By Amy Ponson

Announcements 18 Pastoral announcements 28 Brothers of the Sacred Heart leave the diocese

Lawrence Chatagnier/bayou catholic

On Our Cover

Abraham and Robin Parfait of Dulac hold the keys to their new home, which was built by Mennonite Disaster Service after their home was destroyed by Hurricane Ida. The project was made possible through a grant from Bayou Community Foundation’s Bayou Recovery Fund for Hurricane Ida Relief. See page 24 for the article.

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St. Mary’s Nativity School has a new principal Local nonprofits receive grants Tekakwitha Conference July 20-23

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BY E-MAIL: bayoucatholic@htdiocese.org The Bayou Catholic is published monthly, for the people of the Roman Catholic Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux by the H-T Publishing Co., P.O. Box 505, Schriever, LA 70395.

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From the Editor

What happened to civility?

I don’t know when it happened. It seems as though it happened overnight.

Maybe it came upon us in the dark, like a thief in the night. Somewhere in time a change occurred. Somewhere along the way a change has turned our hearts to stone. A change occurred that took away the norms of respect, courtesy and basic honesty.

Things that were thought to be evil, name-calling, ethnic slurs, taunting, lying and disrespect for one another, are now accepted in the mainstream.

It seems that if you are courteous, respectful and polite, which are virtues, you are now seen as weak. Civility has died.

Why is it that we can’t tolerate each other anymore? Nowadays if there is someone who has different political views or is from a culture that is foreign, they are viewed as the enemy. We are entrenched in an “us versus them” ideology.

These days with advances in automobile technology, driving an automobile has become a much safer situation. However, while the automobiles have become much more advanced in technology, we must still contend with the human element.

One recent morning while I was on my way to work, I witnessed a road rage incident. Someone turned into the same lane as the car that was in front of me. This was obviously a poor decision made by the driver of the car that turned, but the car in front of me had plenty of time to react to the situation.

That female driver slowed down by braking. From my vantage point it was not a near collision. Approximately one quarter mile down the road when the traffic stopped, the driver in front of me dashed out of her car and shouted obscenities to the other driver, all the while giving the famous one finger salute. I was shocked. The drivers in the other cars also looked horrified. As the traffic light turned green and the cars proceeded to flow with the traffic, the car in front of me changed lanes cutting off the other driver, lowered her window and more finger salutes were given; then the driver sped away. Luckily the confrontation did not turn into a violent encounter between two drivers with guns blazing.

I read a report which claims that in 2019, 82 percent of people admitted to committing an act of road rage the past year. According to the National Highway Transportation and Safety Administration, road rage has been responsible for about 300 deaths since 2013. American Automobile Association records show that over a seven-year period, more than 200 murders and 12,000 injuries were attributed to road rage.

Our lack of civility is not reserved only to the highway. Attend any little league ball game and you will most likely experience what has become a national occurrence. More and more we are hearing of parents having confrontations with coaches, umpires, referees, other parents, and even the young athletes. It has become such an issue that there are many sports leagues demanding that parents sign a Parent Code of Conduct before signing up their child to play ball. Among the themes of the code are trustworthiness, respect,

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responsibility, fairness, caring and good citizenship. These themes are regarded as the six pillars of character.

So, when did we lose basic respect for one another? I don’t have the answer to that question, but there may be a solution. During the month of June, the church celebrates the feast of Pentecost. The apostles and followers of Jesus received the gifts of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost. The same spirit that was given to us when we received the sacrament of confirmation. The gifts of

wisdom,

understanding,

counsel,

strength (fortitude), knowledge, fear of the Lord and piety.

In this month’s Questions of Faith, Father Wilmer Todd addresses the gifts of the Holy Spirit. He explains that in his letter to the Galatians, St. Paul lists the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit: Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity,

faithfulness,

gentleness

and self-control. We all could use these graces at a time like this. Come, O Holy Spirit, Come!

Remember,

after

reading

Bayou

Catholic, pass it on to a friend or relative who might not be attending Mass. It’s one of the great ways to do your part in spreading the Good News!

Lawrence

Lawrence Chatagnier Editor & General Manager

Church Life

Software training session Approximately 40 participants from church parishes across the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux gathered at the Pastoral Center in Schriever for a training and refresher course for using and inputting data in the ParishSOFT family directory. Very Rev. P.J. Madden, diocesan administrator, welcomed the bookkeepers and parish secretaries in attendance and thanked them for the work they do in the parishes. The training was facilitated by Christina Pepper, ParishSOFT software trainer. The training was sponsored by the Catholic Foundation of South Louisiana in partnership with the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux.

Photos by Lawrence Chatagnier

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‘Most sacred heart of Jesus, I trust in you’

Very Rev. P. J. Madden

June, my sisters and brothers in Christ, is the month of the Sacred Heart! Despite all the unfinished recovery tasks yet to be completed, the bright sun of summer, the lively chattering of children, the singing of the birds, the longer evenings, all lift our spirits!

And how timely that it starts with the feast of Pentecost, who powers the church into mission, telling the world that Christ is risen and we have received the grace of sharing his new life, as we acclaim Alleluia, Alleluia, Alleluia!

This new life is seen in the pride of parents presenting their children for the sacraments of baptism, first penance, Eucharist and confirmation.

All our hearts swell with hope when watching maturing teens, dressed and behaving so reverently, standing to profess and claim for themselves the faith their parents prayed for at baptism.

Even as the birds sing joyfully in our yards and trees, angel choruses rise joyfully in heaven. Christ is risen and walks among us through all these sacred moments of our lives. How blessed are we to know, believe and share this through our lifestyle.

As we start another hurricane season, I offer this reflection to allow us to celebrate all the good things happening in our communities at this time. And I didn’t even mention weddings, which bring us together to celebrate as each young couple pledges

their lives to each other, with Christ as their bond! This issue appropriately covers this special sacrament. To all recently married and to all June brides and grooms, I wish you every blessing you wish for yourselves.

I am a great believer of tradition, which is a vital element in our distinct and beautiful culture. May I suggest a reawakening of the practice of having a picture of the Sacred Heart in your home, preferably in a prominent place, and draw children’s attention to it. It is a beautiful thing to consecrate a home to the Sacred Heart! Of course, equally beautiful is the image of the Divine Mercy, and the simple chapter which goes with it.

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This new life is seen in the pride of parents presenting their children for the sacraments of baptism, first penance, Eucharist and confirmation. All our hearts swell with hope when watching maturing teens, dressed and behaving so reverently, standing to profess and claim for themselves the faith their parents prayed for at baptism.

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Message from our Administrator

As always, this is also the month when priests are ordained, transferred

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and retire. Please keep them, and their affected parishioners in your prayers.

I thank them, and all our priests, for their faithful ministry.

Brothers of the Sacred Heart It is with great sadness, but a full understanding of their need to reorganize their mission, that I have been informed by their provincial, Brother Ronnie Hingle, S.C., that their mission in Houma-Thibodaux closes at this time. After over a century of teaching, counselling and social ministry, there are no words adequate to express our heartfelt gratitude to them. In God’s divine design, it is no coincidence that they leave in the month of the Sacred Heart! But they leave a legacy, as do the Sisters of Mount Carmel, of deep and abiding trust in God’s plan for our unique culture and faith. The best tribute is to live that faith to the fullest in our ordinary lives.

Brother Ronnie and I have agreed to have a joint public celebration of thanks and hope in the fall. Meanwhile please keep the four brothers who are moving in your prayers.

May the glow of the Spirit of Pentecost light your hearts and homes as summer unfolds and new life abounds. Please pray that Pope Francis will send us a good shepherd in God’s good time. BC

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‘Sagrado Corazón de Jesús, en ti confío’ en nuestra distintiva y hermosa cultura. Me permito sugerir que se reanude la práctica de tener una imagen del Sagrado Corazón en casa, preferiblemente en un lugar destacado, y enseñar a sus hijos sobre esta imagen.

Es hermoso consagrar un hogar al Sagrado Corazón. Por supuesto, igualmente hermosa es la imagen de la Divina Misericordia, y el sencillo capítulo que la acompaña.

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Esta nueva vida es manifestada en el orgullo de los padres que presentan a sus hijos para los sacramentos del bautismo, la primera penitencia, la Eucaristía y la confirmación.

Todos nuestros corazones se inundan de esperanza al ver a los adolescentes maduros, con su vestimenta y comportándose con tanta reverencia, de pie para profesar y proclamar por sí mismos la fe que sus padres profesaron en el bautismo.

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Junio, mis hermanas y hermanos en Cristo, es el mes del Sagrado Corazón. A pesar de todas las tareas de recuperación pendientes, el sol brillante del verano, el bullicio animado de los niños, el canto de los pájaros, las tardes largas, todo esto ¡nos levanta el ánimo!

Y qué oportuno es que comience con la fiesta de Pentecostés, quien impulsa a la iglesia a la misión, diciendo al mundo que Cristo ha resucitado y que hemos recibido la gracia de compartir su nueva vida, mientras aclamamos ¡Aleluya, Aleluya, Aleluya!

Esta nueva vida es manifestada en el orgullo de los padres que presentan a sus hijos para los sacramentos del bautismo, la primera penitencia, la Eucaristía y la confirmación. Todos nuestros corazones se inundan de esperanza al ver a los adolescentes maduros, con su vestimenta y comportándose con tanta reverencia, de pie para profesar y proclamar por sí mismos la fe que sus padres profesaron en el bautismo.

Mientras los pájaros cantan alegremente en nuestros patios y árboles, los coros de los ángeles se elevan alegres en el cielo. Cristo ha resucitado y camina entre nosotros en todos estos momentos sagrados de nuestra vida. Cuán bendecidos somos al saber, creer y compartir esto a través de nuestro estilo de vida.

Al comenzar otra temporada de huracanes, ofrezco esta reflexión para permitirnos celebrar todas las cosas buenas que suceden en nuestras comunidades en este momento. Y aún no había mencionado las bodas, las cuales nos reúnen para celebrar el momento cuando cada joven pareja promete su vida el uno al otro, ¡con Cristo como vínculo! Este momento es abrazado de una manera tan especial.

A todos los recién casados y a todos los novios de junio, les deseo todas las bendiciones que anhelen para ustedes.

Soy un gran creyente de la tradición, que es un elemento vital

Como siempre, este es también el mes en que los sacerdotes son ordenados, transferidos o se jubilan. Por favor, ténganlos a ellos y a sus feligreses quienes les toca vivir estas transiciones en sus oraciones. Les agradezco a ellos, y a todos nuestros sacerdotes, su fiel

ministerio.

Hermanos del Sagrado Corazón, con gran tristeza, pero con plena comprensión de su necesidad de reorganizar su misión, he sido informado por su provincial, el Hermano Ronnie Hingle, S.C., de que su misión en Houma-Thibodaux se cierra en este momento. Después de más de un siglo de enseñanza, asesoramiento y ministerio social, no hay palabras adecuadas para expresar nuestra más sincera gratitud hacia ellos. En el designio divino de Dios, ¡no es casualidad que se vayan en el mes del Sagrado Corazón! Pero dejan un legado, al igual que las Hermanas del Monte Carmelo, de profunda y permanente confianza en el plan de Dios para nuestra cultura y fe únicas.

El mejor homenaje es vivir plenamente esa fe en nuestra vida ordinaria.

El hermano Ronnie y yo hemos acordado hacer una celebración pública conjunta de agradecimiento y esperanza en otoño. Mientras tanto, por favor, mantengan en sus oraciones a los cuatro hermanos que se están en esta transición.

Que el resplandor del Espíritu de Pentecostés ilumine sus corazones y hogares a medida que el verano se expande y la nueva vida abunda. Por favor, recen para que el Papa Francisco nos envíe un buen pastor en el buen tiempo de Dios. BC

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Binh luan bang loi

‘Lạy Thánh Tâm Chúa Giêsu, Con Tin Ngài’ nếp sống riêng biệt và đẹp đẽ. Vậy cho tôi đề nghị làm sống lại tập tục treo hình ảnh Trái Tim Chúa trong nhà anh chị em, đáng chú ý ̣ là nơi tôn nghiêm, và hướng dẫn trẻ em chú tâm vào đó. Một điều rất đẹp là dâng hiến căn nhà cho Trái Tim Chúa, Đương nhiên, đẹp đẽ ngang hàng là tấm ảnh Lòng Chúa Thương xót, và một bài học đơn sơ cùng đi với tấm ảnh.

Như tập quán, tháng này các cha được

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Sự sống mới này được chứng kiến bởi sự hãnh diện của cha mẹ khi đưa con cái mình đến lãnh nhận Bí Tích Rửa Tội, Xưng Tội Lần Đầu, Mình Thánh Chúa và Thêm Sức. Tâm hồn tất cả tràn đầy hy vọng khi chúng ta nhìn thấy con em đang trưởng thành, ăn mặc và nhân cách nghiêm trang, đứng tuyên xưng đức tin cho chính mình mà cha mẹ cầu nguyện cho chúng lúc rửa tội.

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Tháng sáu, anh chị em thân mến trong Chúa Kytô, là tháng của Thánh Tâm Chúa. Mặc cho mọi thứ cần sửa chữa sau trận bão vẫn chưa xong, ánh sáng chói lòa mùa hè, giọng nói ríu rít của trẻ em, tiếng chim hót của đàn chim, ngày dài hơn, tất cả nâng tâm hồn chúng ta lên.

Và như thế đó khởi sự Ngày Chúa Thánh Thần Hiện Xuống, Ngài đem giáo hội vào hành trình rao giảng, tung hô cho muôn dân biết Chúa Kytô đã sống lại và chúng ta được ân sủng chia sẻ cuộc sống mới với Ngài, cùng tung hô Alleluia, Alleluia, Alleluia!

Sự sống mới này được chứng kiến bởi sự hãnh diện của cha mẹ khi đưa con cái mình đến lãnh nhận Bí Tích Rửa Tội, Xưng Tội Lần Đầu, Mình Thánh Chúa và Thêm Sức. Tâm hồn tất cả tràn đầy hy vọng khi chúng ta nhìn thấy con em đang trưởng thành, ăn mặc và nhân cách nghiêm trang, đứng tuyên xưng đức tin cho chính mình mà cha mẹ cầu nguyện cho chúng lúc rửa tội.

Thậm chí như chim hót líu lo trong khuân viên nhà và trên cây, các thiên thần vang lên tiếng hát du dương thánh thót trên thiên đàng. Chúa Kytô đã sống lại và tiến bước cùng chúng ta qua những giây phút linh thiêng trong cuộc sống mình. Thật ân sủng biết bao khi ta nhận ra điều đó, tin và chia sẻ nó trong đời sống. Lại bắt đầu vào mùa bão nữa, tôi chia sẻ với anh chị em để giúp chúng ta ăn mừng những gì tốt đẹp xảy ra trong cộng đồng mà chúng ta đang sống. Như tôi đã không nhắc đến đám cưới mà nó quy tụ chúng ta lại chúc mừng cho đôi trẻ thề hứa có nhau suốt cuộc đời, với Chúa Kytô là gạch nối. Tờ báo tháng này rất thích hợp nói về bí tích đặc biệt này.

Với các bạn đã thành hôn trước và vào tháng sáu, cô dâu chú rể, tôi ước mong các bạn đạt được ý nguyện của mình.

Tôi có niềm tin rất lớn vào truyền thống, vì nó là yếu tố sống động trong

phong chức, thay đổi nhiệm sở và nghỉ hưu. Xin nhớ các ngài, và giáo dân có liên quan trong lời kinh của quý vị. Tôi cảm tạ họ, và các cha vì sự hy sinh tận tụy phục vụ.

Sư Huynh Dòng Thánh Tâm Một nỗi buồn sâu sắc, nhưng hiểu thấu được sự cần thiết phải chính đốn lại đường hướng nhà dòng của họ, nên tôi được thông báo do thầy bề trên là Sư

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Huynh Ronnie Hingle, S.C., rằng mục vụ của các thầy đã đóng lại trong giáo phận. Sau hơn một thế kỷ dạy học, linh hướng và mục vụ bác ái, không có ngôn ngữ nào đầy đủ từ tâm can tri ân Quý Sư Huynh. Trong Thánh ý Chúa thì không thể nói ngẫu nhiên mà Các Sư Huynh ra đi trong tháng Trái Tim Chúa. Nhưng họ đã để lại nhiều dấu ấn tốt đẹp, cũng như Quý Sơ Dòng Núi Đức Mẹ Ca Mê Lô, sự sâu xa và khăng khít tin vào Thánh Ý cho văn hóa và đức tin riêng biệt của chúng ta. Một cách biết ơn tốt nhất là sống đức tin đó trọn vẹn mỗi ngày.

Sư Huynh Ronnie và tôi đồng ý sẽ cử hành Thánh Lễ tạ ơn và hy vọng cùng với giáo dân vào mùa thu. Trong thời gian này xin nhớ Các Sư Huynh trong thời gian chuyển tiếp trong kinh nguyện.

Xin ánh hào quang của Chúa Thánh Thần trong Ngày Hiện Xuống chiếu soi tâm hồn và tổ ấm của anh chị em mà cánh cửa mùa hè mở̀ ra và cuộc sống mới dồi dào. Xin cầu nguyện cho Đức Thánh Cha để ngài bổ nhiệm một mục tử nhân lành trong thời gian tốt của Chúa.

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Pope Francis offers guidance to young Christians in politics The Pope Speaks

By CNA STAFF Vatican City, (CNA) Pope Francis recently urged young Christians engaged in politics to promote fraternity, while shunning “violent confrontation” and ideology.

The pope outlined his vision for the renewal of politics in a May 16 address to members of the Chemin Neuf Politics Fraternity, an international group of people aged 18 to 35 who want to “be active in politics according to the heart of God.” He gave the young people present in the Vatican’s Clementine Hall three watchwords — encounter, reflection and action — and encouraged them to show “unconditional acceptance and respect” for others.

“Without such a change of heart, politics often risks turning into a violent confrontation, where people try to impose their own ideas and pursue particular interests over the common good, contrary to the principle that ‘unity prevails over conflict,’” he said, referring to a maxim in his 2013 apostolic exhortation Evangelii gaudium.

The pope, who has been making his public appearances in a wheelchair since May 5 due to a torn ligament in his right knee, invoked the 18th-century statesman Edmund Burke.

He recalled that the author of “Reflections on the Revolution in France” told his constituents after his election to the British Parliament that he would not only serve their interest but also “the interest of the entire

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Pope Francis meets with members of Chemin Neuf Politics Fraternity at the Vatican’s Clementine Hall. country, the general good.”

The pope said: “As Christians, we recognize that politics is practiced not only through encounter, but also through shared reflection in the pursuit of this general good, not simply through the clash of differing and often opposed interests.”

He added: “Our own compass for advancing this common project is the Gospel, which brings to the world a profoundly positive vision of humanity as loved by God.” The Chemin Neuf Politics Fraternity is part of the Chemin Neuf Community, which was founded in Lyon, France, in 1973, and describes itself as a Catholic community with an ecumenical vocation.

Members of the Politics Fraternity issued a manifesto in Poland in 2016 recalling that Pope Pius XI described

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politics as “the highest form of charity” and committing themselves to strive “for justice and peace, through our political commitment.”

The pope highlighted the group’s “efforts on behalf of migrants and ecology,” as well as an initiative in which members “have chosen to live together in a working-class quarter of Paris, in order to listen to the voices of the poor.”

“That is a Christian way of engaging in political life,” he commented. “Don’t forget these things, that realities are more important than ideas: Politics cannot be practiced with ideology. That the whole is greater than the part, and that unity prevails over conflict.

Always seek unity and do not get lost in conflict.” BC

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Questions of Faith Father Wilmer Todd

Gifts of the Holy Spirit I remember being taught that I received the gift of the Holy Spirit when I received the sacrament of confirmation. That was a long time ago. It seems now that the Spirit has diminished or has left me completely. How can I get the Spirit back?

When people receive the sacrament of confirmation, they receive the seven gifts of the Holy Spirit: Wisdom, understanding, counsel, strength (fortitude), knowledge, fear of the Lord and piety. These gifts are not to meant to be idle or to be kept in storage. They are to be put to good use so they will bear much fruit.

I often compare the spiritual gifts with electricity. If the electrical power line is attached to a house but no one turns on the main switch, no appliances will work. If we don’t “turn on the switch” and ask the Holy Spirit to guide us, nothing will happen. The good news is that we can activate our spirituality by asking the Holy Spirit to “turn on this spiritual power in our lives.”

Let’s look at these seven special gifts of the Holy Spirit. Wisdom is both the knowledge of and judgment about “divine things” and the ability to judge and to direct human affairs according to divine truth. Understanding is penetrating insight into the very heart of things, especially those higher truths that are necessary for our eternal salvation. We put on the mind of God. Counsel allows a person to be directed

by God in matters necessary for their salvation.

Fortitude (or strength) is a firmness of mind in doing good and in avoiding evil, especially when it is difficult or dangerous, and the confidence to overcome all obstacles by virtue of the assurance of everlasting life. Knowledge is the ability to judge correctly about matters of faith and right action, so we will never wander from the straight path of justice.

Piety: A pious person makes God the center of their thinking, judging and acting. Once someone comes to know God, they put the Almighty in first place in their lives. Piety also involves honoring everyone because of their relationship to God. Fear of God is remembering who we are and who God is. We revere God and avoid separating ourselves from God’s love for us.

In his letter to the Galatians, St. Paul lists the nine fruits of the Holy Spirit: Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).

When a confirmed person cooperates with these graces, these fruits expand and intensify.

Love is the highest form of love for God and for neighbor. It is selfless, focused on the other person, given freely and gladly without condition or the expectation of repayment, expressed in service, and willing to suffer for others.

Joy is an interior contentment that comes from being close to God and in right relationship with others. Joy also comes with speaking and upholding the truth, honesty, and integrity in relationships, with enduring hardships and with decent conduct.

Peace is the harmony that occurs when justice prevails; it happens when we share resources equitably.

Power is used for service by fostering interdependence, by sharing information openly and honestly, by respecting the dignity of each person, by tolerating legitimate differences, by helping the disadvantaged, by forgiving hurts, and by upholding the common good.

Patience is the virtue of suffering interruption or delay with composure and without complaint; it is being able to suffer annoyance, insult or mistreatment with self-restraint, and is refusing to be provoked. It is also the willingness to slow down for another’s

benefit, to set aside one’s personal plans and concerns, and to take whatever time is necessary to address their need.

Kindness is a warm and friendly disposition toward another. A kind person is polite and well mannered, respectful and considerate, pleasant and agreeable, cheerful and upbeat, caring and helpful, positive and complimentary.

Generosity is grounded in an abundance mentality. It is unselfish, and it expresses itself in sharing. We extend it to family and friends, to strangers, and particularly to those in need; we offer not only as money, food and clothing, but also as time shared and assistance provided.

Faithfulness is shown by loyalty and fulfillment to friends, duties, promises, commitments, contracts and vows; it is the virtue of being true to one’s word.

Gentleness is sensitivity for another person. It is concerned with another’s welfare, safety and security. It is grounded in humility. The approach is careful, tender, considerate, affectionate and mild-mannered; it is free of all pushiness, roughness or abrasiveness.

Self-control is self-mastery despite the circumstances; it is to be in control of oneself rather than to be controlled by temptations, events or other people, especially when under pressure or in times of crisis. It is to remain calm, cool, collected, reasonable and eventempered; it is to be alert and conscious, to act with caution and prudence, and to avoid an impulse response. It’s the strength and courage to reject evil and to choose good.

Turn on “your switch” and invite the Holy Spirit to be the center of your life!

BC

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Reflections

The importance of sharing the blood of the covenant Readings Between the Lines Father Glenn LeCompte

“Father, when will we be able to receive from the chalice again at Mass?” This question has been posed to me by several people in our diocese.

At this time, all I can say regarding the practice in our diocese is “I don’t know.” Dennis Schnurr, Archbishop of Cincinnati, gave permission to reinstate the practice of giving holy Communion under both species at Masses in the archdiocese at the discretion of the pastor of each parish beginning April 24, 2022. At the time of my writing this article, I have not heard of other bishops doing so.

In any case, the return of the distribution of the Precious Blood of Christ, in addition to his Sacred Body, at Mass is in the thoughts of many Catholics in our country. Mindful of this, I am continuing my series on biblical foundations of the Eucharist with a focus on the Precious Blood.

My consideration of the Precious Blood is based on Exodus 24:3-8. This passage recounts Moses performing a ritual with blood that serves as a ceremony for ratifying the Sinai Covenant. The passage begins with Moses recounting all the “words” (the “Ten Words” = Ten Commandments, Exodus 20:1-17) and the “statutes” (the Covenant Code, Exodus 20:18—23:33).

The Covenant Code was actually an independent group of laws pertaining to situations in rural life before Israel was under a united monarchy. It is part of the covenant law depicted as being presented to the Israelites at Mount Sinai. Moses recounts the text of the

covenant and the people give verbal assent to “do” and “observe” God’s commands. God invites the people into a covenant relationship which is defined by the words and statutes just recounted to them, but they have to agree to embrace them as a guide for their lives.

To seal the ratification ceremony, Moses performs a ritual using blood.

He has some young men sacrifice young bullocks and make of them a burnt offering. This offering is called a “well-being” or “wholeness” offering; a description of such a ritual is found in Leviticus 3:1-17. While the purpose of the well-being offering is not totally clear, it represents “ ... the preservation of harmonious relations between the participants and Yahweh as portrayed especially in the shared offering” (R.J. Faley, T.O.R., “Leviticus” in New Jerome Biblical Commentary, page 63). Moses presents the Lord’s words and statutes, and the people commit themselves verbally to carrying them out (Exodus 24:3), an exchange which reflects a harmonious relationship between the people and God at this point.

After the sacrifice is offered, Moses builds an altar and 12 pillars, representing the 12 tribes of Israel, that is, the whole nation. He puts half of the blood drained from the animals into bowls and the other half he

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sprinkles on the altar. Then he takes the book of the Law (the laws he has just recounted put into writing) and the elders, on behalf of the people, declare again that the people will “do” and “observe” all that is written in the book.

Then Moses takes the blood in the bowls, sprinkles it upon the people and declares it “the blood of the covenant.”

Leviticus 17:8-12 maintains two things about the blood of a sacrificed animal.

First, the poured out blood is a symbol of atonement. Secondly, people are not to consume blood because the life of a being is considered to be in the blood, a logical conclusion of ancient people since the animal dies when its blood is shed. Moses’ practice of sprinkling some of the blood of the sacrifices on the altar and the other half on the people reflects the people’s sharing in life with God. They share in God’s life through commitment to God’s Law. Moses’ phrase, “the blood of the covenant” (Exodus 24:8) is recalled by Jesus at the Last Supper in reference to his own blood, which is to be shed (Mark 14:24; Matthew 26:28). He calls the cup of wine which he commands the disciples at table with him to drink, “my blood-of-the-covenant which is poured out for many.” In other words, Jesus is declaring that his shed blood will become the means of atonement and sharing in the life of God. The shedding of his blood, once for

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all, would replace all expiatory animal sacrifices in the Law (Hebrews 10:1114). In addition, Jesus in Luke 22:20 declares that the cup he holds before his disciples at the Last Supper is “the new covenant in my blood.” In other words, the covenant relationship between the Israelites and their God is brought to a new level through Jesus. Atonement for sin comes through the shedding of his blood, and those who drink of his blood enter into a covenant relationship with God. Finally, whereas Israelites were not to drink the blood of slaughtered animals, Jesus declares that in order to have life in God through him people are to drink of his blood (John 6:53-54), for by doing so they will share in God’s life.

Whenever we drink of the Precious Blood of Christ at the Eucharist we participate in the benefits of his atoning death and enjoy eternal life with God through Jesus Christ.

Moreover, by drinking of his blood-ofthe-covenant we share in a covenant

relationship with God because through Jesus’ sacrifice we have been reconciled to God. While we receive “the whole Christ” when we partake of only his Sacred Body, our sharing in the cup of Christ’s blood reinforces for us everything that the shedding of his blood signifies–expiation, covenant relationship, participation in eternal life.

Along with Christ’s Sacred Body, there are important reasons for offering the eucharistic chalice at Mass and our partaking of it. On the one hand, doing so conveys and declares the significance of Christ’s blood poured out on our behalf. On the other hand, our communion not only with God but with one another is reinforced. When the Precious Blood is distributed along with the Sacred Body of the Lord, not only is the sign of the eucharistic banquet made more clearly evident, but “clearer expression is given to the divine will by which the new and

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eternal Covenant is ratified in the Blood of the Lord” (General Instruction of the Roman Missal, No. 281). Given the significance behind receiving the Lord’s Precious Blood, along with his Sacred Body, why would we want to deprive ourselves of such a spiritual benefit. BC

Reflection Questions

v What does it mean to you to be in a covenant relationship with God? v Jesus Christ says that those who partake of his body and blood have eternal life (John 6:54). How do you experience the beginnings of eternal life through the sacrament of the holy Eucharist? v The shedding of Christ’s blood atones for our sins. What does this mean to you personally?

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June Scripture Readings and a listing of Feast days and saints

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Memorial of Saint Justin, martyr Acts 20:28-38 John 17:11b-19

5 Solemnity of Pentecost Sunday Acts 2:1-11 1 Corinthians 12:3b-7, 12-13 John 20:19-23

12 Solemnity of the Most Holy Trinity Proverbs 8:22-31 Romans 5:1-5 John 16:12-15

19 Solemnity of the Most Holy Body and Blood of Christ Genesis 14:18-20 1 Corinthians 11:23-26 Luke 9:11b-17

26 Thirteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time 1 Kings 19:16b, 19-21 Galatians 5:1, 13-18 Luke 9:51-62

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Weekday Memorial of Saint Anthony of Padua, 1 Kings 21:17-29 priest and doctor of Matthew 5:43-48 the church 1 Kings 21:1-16 Matthew 5:38-42

20 Weekday 2 Kings 17:5-8, 13-15a, 18 Matthew 7:1-5

27 Weekday Amos 2:6-10, 13-16 Matthew 8:18-22

21 Memorial of Saint Aloysius Gonzaga, religious 2 Kings 19:9b-11, 14-21, 31-35a, 36 Matthew 7:6, 12-14

28 Memorial of Saint Irenaeus, bishop and martyr Amos 3:1-8; 4:1112 Matthew 8:23-27

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8 Weekday 1 Kings 18:20-39 Matthew 5:17-19

15 Weekday 2 Kings 2:1, 6-14 Matthew 6:1-6, 16-18

22 Weekday 2 Kings 22:8-13; 23:1-3 Matthew 7:15-20

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Easter Weekday Memorial of Saint Acts 22:30; 23:6-11 Charles Lwanga John 17:20-26 and companions, martyrs Acts 25:13b-21 John 21:15-19

9 Weekday 1 Kings 18:41-46 Matthew 5:20-26

16 Weekday Sirach 48:1-14 Matthew 6:7-15 June 17

23 Solemnity of the Nativity of Saint John the Baptist Isaiah 49:1-6 Acts 13:22-26 Luke 1:57-66, 80

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Solemnity of Saints Weekday Amos 7:10-17 Peter and Paul, Matthew 9:1-8 apostles Acts 12:1-11 2 Timothy 4:6-8, 17-18 Matthew 16:13-19

10 Weekday 1 Kings 19:9a, 11-16 Matthew 5:27-32

17 Weekday 2 Kings 11:1-4, 9-18, 20 Matthew 6:19-23

24 Solemnity of the Most Sacred Heart of Jesus Ezra 34:11-16 Romans 5:5b-11 Luke 15:3-7

Easter Weekday Acts 28:16-20, 30-31 John 21:20-25

11 Memorial of Saint Barnabas, apostle Acts 11:21b-26; 13:1-3 Matthew 5:33-37

18 Weekday 2 Chronicles 24:1725 Matthew 6:24-34

25 Memorial of the Immaculate Heart of the Blessed Virgin Mary Lamentations 2:2, 10-14, 18-19 Luke 2:41-51

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Announcements

Pastoral and administrative announcements for 13 diocesan priests Rev. Dean Danos

Rev. Stephen Castille

Very Rev. P.J. Madden, diocesan administrator, after consultation with the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux’s College of Consultors, announced the following pastoral appointments, effective July 1, 2022.

Retirement Father Dean Danos, who has been serving as pastor of St. Eloi Church parish in Theriot since July 2016, will be retiring from active ministry. Father Danos, a native of Larose, was ordained to the priesthood May 24, 1980.

Diocesan Appointments Father Stephen Castille, has been appointed special assistant to the Office of the Bishop and will be in residence at St. Hilary of Poitiers Church parish in Mathews, with weekend pastoral ministry at St. Hilary and the Community of St. Anthony in Gheens.

Father Castille, a native of Church Point, was ordained to the priesthood June 4, 2022.

Rev. Mitchel Semar

Rev. Rusty Bruce

Father Mitchel Semar, who has been serving as pastor of St. Thomas Aquinas Church parish in Thibodaux since January 2018, has been appointed full-time diocesan director of the Offices of Vocations and Seminarians.

Father Semar, a native of Sulphur, was ordained to the priesthood May 26, 2012.

Administrator Appointments Father Rusty Bruce, who has been serving as associate pastor of St. Hilary of Poitiers Church parish in Mathews and the Community of St. Anthony in Gheens since May 2020, has been appointed administrator of St. Hilary and the Community of St. Anthony in Gheens, for a one-year term. Father Bruce, a native of Cut Off, was ordained to the priesthood June 6, 2020.

Father Evelio (Toto) Buenaflor, who has been serving as pastor of St. Lawrence Church parish in Chacahoula since July 2021, has been appointed

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Rev. Evelio (Toto) Buenaflor

administrator of St. Charles Borromeo Church parish in Pointe-aux-Chenes and Sacred Heart Church parish in Montegut, for a one-year term.

Father Buenaflor, a native of M’lang, Cotabato, Philippines, was ordained to the priesthood May 24, 1985.

Father Rajasekar (Raja) Karumelnathan, who has been serving as pastor of Sacred Heart Church parish in Montegut and St. Charles Borromeo Church parish in Pointe-aux-Chenes since July 2019, has been appointed administrator of St. Lawrence Church parish in Chacahoula, for a one-year term.

Father Karumelnathan, a native of India, was ordained to the priesthood April 27, 2009.

Father Brett Lapeyrouse, who has been serving as associate pastor of St. Bernadette Church parish in Houma since February 2022, has been appointed administrator of Sacred

Announcements

Rev. Rajasekar Karumelnathan

Rev. Brett Lapeyrouse

Rev. Joey Lirette

Rev. John David (J.D.) Matherne

Rev. Antonio Maria Speedy

Rev. James Rome

Rev. Sabino (Benie) Rebosura

Rev. Joseph Henry Sebastian

Heart Church parish in Morgan City, for a one-year term. Father Lapeyrouse, a native of Chauvin/Bourg, was ordained to the priesthood June 1, 2019.

Father Joey Lirette, who has been serving as associate pastor of Sacred Heart Church parish in Cut Off since July 2018, has been appointed administrator of Our Lady of Prompt Succor Church parish in Chackbay, for a one-year term. Father Lirette, a native of Chauvin, was ordained to the priesthood June 2, 2018.

Father John David (J.D.) Matherne, who has been serving as pastor of St. Hilary of Poitiers Church parish in Mathews and the Community of St. Anthony in Gheens since July 2020, has been appointed administrator of St. Thomas Aquinas Church parish in Thibodaux, for a one-year term. Father Matherne, a native of Raceland, was ordained to the priesthood June 3, 2017.

Father Antonio Maria Speedy, who has been serving as administrator of Holy Family Church parish in Grand Caillou since January 2019, has been appointed administrator of St. Eloi Church parish in Theriot, effective July 1, 2022, for a one-year term, in addition to his role as administrator of St. Eloi.

Father Speedy, a native of Adelaide, South Australia, was ordained to the priesthood Dec. 6, 2014.

Associate Pastor Appointment Father James Rome, has been appointed associate pastor of St. Bernadette Church parish in Houma.

Father Rome, a native of Golden Meadow, was ordained to the priesthood June 4, 2022.

Returning Home Father Sabino (Benie) Rebosura II, who has been serving as pastor of Our Lady of Prompt Succor Church

parish in Chackbay since July 2015, will be returning to the Philippines. Father Rebosura, a native of Bohol, Philippines, was ordained to the priesthood April 22, 1987, for the Diocese of Tagbilaran in the Philippines. He has been serving in the diocese since April 1993, and was incardinated in the Diocese of HoumaThibodaux July 1, 1997.

Father Joseph Henry Sebastian, who has been serving as pastor of Sacred Heart Church parish in Morgan City since July 2019, will be returning to India. Father Sebastian, a native of Tamil Nadu, India, was ordained to the priesthood April 26, 1989, for the order of the Missionaries of St. Francis de Sales in India. He has been serving in the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux since September 2010. BC

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Father Dean Danos retires after 42 years of active ministry Story by Janet Marcel ~ Photo by Lawrence Chatagnier Father Dean Danos, a native of Larose who was ordained to the priesthood for the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux by Bishop Warren L. Boudreaux on May 24, 1980, will be retiring June 30, 2022.

When asked what he attributes his 42 years of active ministry to, Father Danos says simply, “my love of Jesus...”

I keep a crucifix at my bedside, and every night and every morning, I kiss that crucifix and tell Jesus that I love him,” says the priest.

Father Danos is the youngest of three children and has an older brother and an older sister. He was brought up in a Catholic family who practiced and lived their faith, not only on Sunday but every day of the week. He served as an altar boy for many years at Our Lady of the Rosary Church parish in Larose and says he had many good priest role models – especially Msgr. John Keller, Msgr. William Koninkx and Father Emile Fossier – whom he felt always showed an interest in the people.

He says looking back over his life as a priest, there is nothing he would do differently even if he was given the opportunity, because “it was all good.”

One aspect of being a priest that Father Danos enjoyed most was working with youth. He served as diocesan director of Youth Ministry for many years and wrote a “Spotlight on YOUth” column for the Bayou Catholic newspaper. And, he says that he has always had active youth ministries in the parishes he served. Another aspect of his priesthood that was very fruitful and rewarding for the priest was prison ministry.

One of Father Danos’ fondest memories of being a priest was working in the missions in Saltillo, Mexico. He says it was a life-changing experience. “It opened my eyes and the eyes of many youth and adults as to how we live so differently compared to the people in third world countries.”

Father Danos has had the privilege of working with all four bishops of the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux. He says each bishop brought their own style and gift to the position.

“It’s been a joy to work with all of them. The first three bishops allowed me to stay in Larose for 20 years – which was a long time, I thought – to care for my mother. I am very grateful to them for allowing that to happen. All four of them had an influence on my priesthood. I think every priest has a special place in his heart for the bishop who ordained him. For me, that was Bishop Boudreaux.

I remember him singing The Impossible Dream, and that sort of challenged me in the sense of knowing that the impossible is made possible with God.” He remembers Bishop Emeritus Michael Jarrell as very quiet, but loving and concerned for his priests. Bishop Emeritus Sam G. Jacobs, he says, was a father to the priests, who also brought his charismatic gifts to each 20 • Bayou Catholic • Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux • June 2022

priest. And, Archbishop Shelton J. Fabre was a gentle and kind shepherd to his flock.

Father Danos has served the diocese in many different capacities over the years, as dean of the South Lafourche and Upper Lafourche Deaneries, chairman of the priests’ council, member of the college of consultors, and director of several diocesan offices, to name a few. He believes the reason he was chosen for these positions was because the diocesan leadership recognized the gifts he had to lead and guide his fellow priests and parishioners, as well as the diocesan family.

“Serving in those capacities gave me a greater sense of church – that it’s not just the parish – but it’s the diocese, likewise; and that helped me to enrich my vision of church,” he says.

With regard to serving as pastor at Our Lady of the Rosary in Larose where he was raised, he says it was frightening at the beginning when Bishop Boudreaux made that assignment. “I was kind of in awe that he would do that. I think it was the first time that a priest went ‘back home,’ so that was a new concept for me. Once I got there, I had the support of my family and the larger family of the church backing me, so that was a positive thing. I think the people respected me because I was their native son and they were proud of the fact that I was from that parish.”

Father Danos also notes that he received all of his sacraments – baptism, holy Communion, confirmation and holy orders at Our Lady of the Rosary Church parish in Larose.

Throughout his 42 years as a priest, Father Danos served as an associate pastor at St. Genevieve in Thibodaux for five years, and as pastor at Our Lady of the Rosary in Larose for 20 years, St. Hilary of Poitiers in Mathews for four years, St. Genevieve for seven years, and St. Eloi in Theriot for the past six years.

He says one of his legacy’s to St. Eloi is the beautiful prayer garden featuring Stations of the Cross that was created through parishioner donations, the beautification of the grounds with flower beds, statues and benches that created a peaceful space where people come daily to pray.

He also arranged for the publication of A Journey of Faith – An Oral History of St. Eloi Parish and Bayou Dularge, by Claire Rose Champagne and Anita Regira.

Father Danos says after he retires, he plans to help his brother priests by filling in for them whenever he can.

Because of his love for Holy Savior Catholic School in Lockport, he plans to donate a lot of his time there to work with the school, the faculty and the students. He currently does a weekly newsletter for the school that features Scripture readings for the upcoming Sunday and the saint of the week, which is given out each Friday. The families are encouraged to sit with their children and go over it together.

He has been told that when they go to Mass on Sunday they are able to correlate what was written and what they hear their parish priest saying.

He also hopes to have more time for gardening and photography, two of his favorite hobbies.

“I have had a wonderful life being a priest. I would do it all over again because it was worth every minute … every second,” says Father Danos. BC

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Heavenly Recipes

Story and Photos by Lawrence Chatagnier

Logan makes dessert

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Logan Crosby, development associate for the Catholic Foundation of South Louisiana, shares her recipe for chess squares (ooey gooey bars), a dessert that she uses for parties.

Logan and Brett, who are newlyweds, have been married for seven months. Logan, who is a native of Napolenville, lives with her husband in Lockport. Logan graduated from Assumption High School and then Nicholls State University in Thibodaux. “I received a bachelor’s degree in marketing and master’s degree in higher education and administration.”

She has been working for the Foundation for the past two months.

Logan remembers her childhood times fondly. “I would go to my grandmother’s house daily. After school I would walk to their house because it was so close. My parents would pick me up after work. My fondest memory when I was younger is when I would drink coffee with them (with a lot of milk). We would also watch Jeopardy together.”

Logan recalls her mom doing most of the cooking in the home when she was younger. “My mom cooked when I was a young child. As I got older, my dad began doing the cooking at home. My dad is a very good cook. He cooks the main meals like chicken spaghetti, jambalaya and pastalaya.”

Logan says that she grew up in a small town atmosphere.

“Napoleonville is a small town. I went to school with the same people all my life. St. Ann Church is where I received all my sacraments. I was also married in that church. We had the same priest throughout my childhood. We would travel to Baton Rouge for retreats because St. Ann is part of the diocese of Baton Rouge.”

Logan says she enjoys cooking anything that is easy.

“Being newly married, I am still experimenting in the

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Chess Squares (Ooey Gooey Bars) Ingredients: Bottom layer: 1 box yellow cake mix 1/2 cup melted butter 1 egg Top layer: 1 pack cream cheese 3 eggs 1 box confectioners (powered) sugar

kitchen with various recipes. My husband Brett does most of the cooking. He picked up a lot about cooking during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic. He had lots of time to try different recipes.”

Brett teaches a safety course and a marine operations class at South Lafourche High School.

Logan enjoys her work at the Pastoral Center and working for the Catholic Foundation. “I enjoy working at the Pastoral Center. Every day it feels like there is something new that I am learning. I find it exciting working here. I am learning.

I was fortunate that my parents in a sense spoiled me. I am now learning how to do adult things like finances, managing home and work.”

When asked what she likes to do when not working, Logan says, “I read a lot. I do Barre Bar workouts on the side and I also love to shop.” BC

Directions:

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Mix bottom layer ingredients and then press into bottom of 9x13 dish. Mix together top layer ingredients and pour over crust. Bake at 350 degrees for 50 minutes.

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Cover Story

Jennifer Armand, executive director of Bayou Community Foundation, addresses those in attendance at the Abraham and Robin Parfait home in Dulac during a home dedication. The ceremony was held recently to celebrate the completion of the first two homes built in the bayou community of Dulac for victims of Hurricane Ida.

Bayou Community Foundation celebrates the completion of the first two homes built for Hurricane Ida victims in Dulac Story by Janet Marcel ~ Photos by Lawrence Chatagnier Jennifer Armand, executive director of Bayou Community Foundation (BCF), welcomed members of BCF, Greater New Orleans Foundation, and Mennonite Disaster Service (MDS), state and parish leaders, diocesan representatives, nonprofit partners, and local residents to a dedication ceremony held recently to celebrate the completion of the first two homes built in the bayou community of Dulac for victims of Hurricane Ida. This project was made possible through an $850,000 grant from Bayou Community Foundation’s Bayou Recovery Fund for Hurricane Ida Relief and MDS. Funding for the grant was provided by gifts from individual and corporate donors, $300,000 from the Governor’s Hurricane Ida Relief and Recovery Fund, and a $300,000 matching grant from Greater New Orleans Foundation’s Hurricane Ida Disaster Response & Restoration Fund.

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Armand thanked the many volunteers and generous donors from throughout the state and country who made this project possible. “This is such a tremendous accomplishment in our Hurricane Ida recovery efforts. This gives us hope and shows us the heart of the people here. We are so blessed to have the Mennonites working here with us.”

Within weeks of the storm, Armand told those present, it became clear that housing was the most critical need for recovery, requiring demolition and new home construction for residents with little means to rebuild on their own.

“We knew the restoration of the community and the people depended on it. That is why we were so grateful when, in October 2021, volunteers from the Pennsylvania-based nonprofit Mennonite Disaster Service Storm Aid visited Father Antonio Maria Speedy, pastor of Holy Family Church parish in Grand Caillou,” says Armand. “It was then

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that the idea of a Bayou Community Foundation funded grant project to build and repair homes in this hard-hit bayou community was born. This is the project we celebrate today.”

Homeowners Linda Faye Pellegrin, and Abraham and Robin Parfait, and their families were on hand to accept the keys to their new homes, built by Mennonite Disaster Service. Father Speedy blessed the homes as part of the dedication ceremony.

The MDS built a total of 10 new houses, completed 40 major home repairs and 36 home demolitions in the bayou community as of the end of May 2022. The two and three bedroom MDS homes are designed and built for storm resiliency as part of the Federal Alliance for Safe Homes “Strong Homes Initiative.” Strong Homes provides donated services and products to upgrade homes to meet the IBHS FORTIFIED hurricane wind standard. The homes are rated for 160 mph winds and are elevated far above FEMA requirements.

Grant funds are used to purchase building materials, while construction labor is provided at no cost by MDS volunteers.

Homeowners also contribute insurance or FEMA proceeds received toward construction costs, and appliances are donated by a nonprofit, Rebuilding Together Bayou.

“MDS is grateful to join hands with so many wonderful partners as we put our faith into action with a hammer and paintbrush serving our neighbors in need. From our offices in Pennsylvania, I keep hearing reports of the gracious

hospitality of the Dulac community – that our volunteers keep wanting to go back and serve,” says Kevin King, executive director of MDS. Bayou Community Foundation President Henry Lafont says, “We are grateful to MDS for sending volunteers to Dulac and working with us to fill this critical housing need.”

Lafont says it was because of an extraordinarily successful partnership between Bayou Community Foundation, MDS, Holy Family Catholic Church parish and Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux (CCH-T), along with the generosity of the Bayou Recovery Fund donors, Greater New Orleans Foundation and the Governor’s Hurricane Ida Relief and Recovery Fund that they were able to welcome the first two families to their new homes.

Abraham and Robin Parfait and their two young sons lost their home and all of their belongings when the roof of their home was blown away by Hurricane Ida’s Category 4 winds.

The family was left with no means to rebuild, until they learned about the MDS project.

“Hurricane Ida took all of the ‘things’ in our life, but not what matters most – our family and friends. We are grateful for all of our new friends from MDS, Bayou Community Foundation and the other groups who have given us a new chance at life and a new, beautiful, strong home along the bayou. This is where the Parfait family belongs, and we thank God and all the generous donors and volunteers who have helped us rebuild a home here,” says Abraham.

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Father Antonio Maria Speedy, administrator of Holy Family Church in Grand Caillou, blesses the home of Linda Faye Pellegrin in Dulac during a dedication ceremony recently.

“This is such a blessing,” adds his wife Robin. “I am so thankful. I don’t know how to thank these people, because they did so much. It’s just amazing. I don’t know if I thanked everyone … but I want to thank everyone.”

Faye Pellegrin’s home was also completely destroyed by Hurricane Ida’s powerful winds. Her daughter Candice says all that was left was debris all over the yard. “It was a hard pill to swallow when we turned in the driveway at the house to see all of our belongings all over the yard … I did not think we would come home to everything gone.”

The Pellegrins are also grateful and happy to be back “home.” “Our neighbors miss us. They are already planning a housewarming party for us,” says Candice’s son Logan.

“It is such a blessing that these people came here to share their time and talents to build these houses for us,” says Faye.

“We are very thankful and grateful for all they have done for us and the people of Dulac. After the hurricane, we didn’t know what we were going to do; we didn’t have insurance.

Then the Mennonites came down here and we qualified for their assistance, so they built a house for us and we can’t thank them enough.”

The Pellegrins, Parfaits and other families were identified and selected for this Hurricane Ida home rebuild and repair program through the extensive case management efforts of Holy Family Church parish in Dulac and CCH-T. In addition to the 50 homeowners initially selected for assistance this spring, over 100 homeowners remain on a waiting list for the project.

Paula Dawson-Ringo, case manager for Hurricane Ida disaster relief, says one of her responsibilities is to make sure all of the proper documents are completed and in place for projects like this one. There is a lot of paperwork to be done and requirements that have to be met, she says.

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Kathy Verdin, case manager for Hurricane Ida disaster relief and native of Grand Caillou, has been working with the hurricane victims in the area. She says even though she grew up here and thought she knew the people; she didn’t really know them until she listened to their stories. “When working with those who are suffering a loss like this, I tell them they have to trust that God will provide. People who lose everything will naturally question God; that’s human nature. But this is a happy ending for these families and I’m grateful to God for that.”

“Bayou Recovery Fund grants will continue to help residents repair, rebuild and return to our unique and precious Terrebonne, Lafourche and Grand Isle communities in the months ahead. This is just the beginning,” says Lafont.

In 2012, local residents, business owners and philanthropists came together to establish the Bayou Community Foundation, which specifically serves Lafourche Parish, Terrebonne Parish, and Grand Isle in coastal southeast Louisiana. With BCF, this region can now receive private contributions for relief and recovery if and when the next disaster strikes, and donors can be confident that their gifts will be used strategically to directly benefit local disaster victims and help their community rebuild.

Gifts to the Bayou Community Foundation’s Bayou Recovery Fund may be made at any time and qualify for the maximum deductions allowed for charitable donations.

Making donations ahead of a disaster helps BCF to build a bucket now, allowing them to act quickly to help organizations on the ground with initial relief efforts immediately following a storm or disaster. Donations during and after a storm will be important to provide for the immediate and long-term recovery needs of this Bayou Region. BC

Bayou Catholic

The official magazine of the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux

A MAGAZINE THAT SUPPORTS YOUR FAITH

Outreach Line In response to the Charter for the Protection of Children and Young People from the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux is offering an Outreach Line (formerly known as the Child Protection Contact Line). The Outreach Line is an effort to continue the diocesan commitment to support healing for people who have been hurt or sexually abused recently or in the past by clergy, religious or other employees of the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux.

The Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux Outreach Line operates from 8:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. Monday through Friday. A trained mental health professional responds to the line. Individuals are offered additional assistance if requested.

The Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux Outreach Line Telephone number is (985) 873-0026 or (985) 850-3172

Línea de Comunicación Diocesana

Con el fin de cumplir con las Políticas de Protección de Niños y Jóvenes de la Conferencia de Obispos Católicos de Los Estados Unidos, la Diócesis de Houma-Thibodaux ofrece una Línea de Comunicación (antes Línea de Contacto para la Protección de los Niños). La Línea de Comunicación es parte del esfuerzo diocesano de comprometerse con el mejoramiento de aquéllos que han sido lastimados o abusados sexualmente recientemente o en el pasado por miembros del clero, religiosos u otros empleados de la Diócesis de Houma-Thibodaux.

El horario de la Línea de Comunicación de la Diócesis de Houma-Thibodaux es de 8:30 a.m. a 4:30 p.m., de lunes a viernes. El encargado de esta línea es un profesional capacitado en salud mental. Se ofrece asistencia adicional al ser solicitada.

Línea de Comunicación de la Diócesis de Houma-Thibodaux Número de teléfono (985) 873-0026 o (985) 850-3172

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Ñeå höôûng öùng Hieán chöông Baûo veä Treû em vaø Giôùi treû töø Hoäi ñoàng Giaùm muïc Hoa kyø, Giaùo phaän Houma-Thibodaux ñang chuaån bò ñöôøng daây ñieän thoaïi Cöùu giuùp (luùc tröôùc laø ñöôøng daây lieân laïc baûo veä treû em). Ñöôøng daây ñieän thoaïi Cöùu giuùp laø moät söï coá gaéng cuûa giaùo phaän nhaèm cam keát haøn gaén naâng ñôõ nhöõng ai ñaõ bò toån thöông hoaëc bò laïm duïng tính duïc hoaëc gaàn ñaây hoaëc trong quaù khöù bôûi giaùo só, tu só hoaëc caùc coâng nhaân vieân cuûa Giaùo phaän Houma-Thibodaux. Ñöôøng daây ñieän thoaïi Cöùu giuùp Giaùo phaän hoaït ñoäng töø 8:30 saùng ñeán 4:30 chieàu, thöù hai ñeán thöù saùu. Moät nhaân vieân chuyeân nghieäp veà söùc khoûe taâm thaàn traû lôøi treân ñöôøng daây ñieän thoaïi. Nhöõng caù nhaân seõ ñöôïc trôï giuùp naâng ñôõ theâm neáu caàn.

Ñöôøng daây ñieän thoaïi Cöùu giuùp Giaùo phaän Soá ñieän thoaïi: (985) 873-0026; (985) 850-3172

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Announcements

Brothers of the Sacred Heart announce withdrawal of Brothers from Vandebilt and E.D. White Catholic High Schools at the end of 2021-2022 school year

Brother Daniel St. Jacques, S.C.

Brother Ronald Travers, S.C.

“The Brothers of the Sacred Heart have had a presence in our diocese for more than 100 years, and it is with great sadness that I announce this news to you,” says Very Rev. P.J. Madden, diocesan administrator. “They informed me of their departure at the end of May as part of a regrouping of their community. They do this with great pain, but gratitude for the many blessings they have shared with us during their time in this diocese. I have thanked them, in conversation with their Provincial Brother Ronald Hingle, S.C., for their beautiful work in our Catholic schools and beyond.”

Brother Daniel St. Jacques, S.C., who is currently ministering at Vandebilt Catholic High School in Houma, will be moving to Edison, New Jersey, as of next school year. Brother Dan was working as a part-time counselor at Vandebilt, and he will continue with similar part-time ministry in the Counseling Department at Saint Joseph High School. Brother Dan will also serve as the new director of the Buchanan Road Community.

Brother Ronald Travers, S.C., who is currently ministering at Vandebilt Catholic High School, will be moving to Woonsocket, Rhode Island, for next school year. Brother Ron has had an extremely rewarding four years at Vandebilt as a senior religion teacher. He also won the hearts of students, faculty, administration and parents through his efforts as director of several dramatic productions. For the 2022-23 school year, Brother Ron will teach religion at Mount Saint Charles Academy and become involved in the Fine Arts Program, particularly in the dramatic arts at MSC. Brother Patrick McGinity, S.C., who is currently ministering at E.D. White Catholic High School in 28 • Bayou Catholic • Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux • June 2022

Brother Patrick McGinity, S.C.

Brother John Hotstream, S.C.

Thibodaux, will be moving to Bay St. Louis, MS. Brother Patrick, who was recently inducted into the E.D. White Hall of Fame, was serving in the Academic Enhancement Department of the school, assisting students with special learning needs. He was also the school’s main ambassador, greeting students and their parents in the “drop-off” line each morning. Rumor has it that Brother Patrick came to know everyone and everything about the E.D. White community, befriending even the family pets that made their way to the car windows each day to get a pat on the head from him. Brother Patrick will continue this same work in the Academic Assistance Department at Saint Stanislaus next year and do some proctoring of the car lines before and after school.

Brother John Hotstream, S.C., was assisting in the Academic Enhancement Program at E.D. White Catholic High School, leading Bible Study at St. Luke the Evangelist Church parish in Thibodaux, and doing some tutoring and mentoring at The Louis Home, a residency program for orphaned and disadvantaged kids.

Brother John has also been undergoing chemotherapy for esophageal cancer. Once his surgery in New Orleans and his rehab in Thibodaux have been completed later this summer, Brother John will be moving to Baton Rouge.

His community is hoping and praying Brother John can complete his second round of four chemotherapy treatments in Baton Rouge. New ministry will be explored for him once he has healed from his cancer treatments.

A formal celebration to thank the Brothers of the Sacred Heart will be held in August of this year. More information will be announced in Bayou Catholic as the details are finalized. BC

June Daily Prayer for Priests, Deacons, Religious and Seminarians

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Rev. Ty Nguyen, retired

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Rev. Charles Perkins, retired

Deacon Lloyd Duplantis, retired

Rev. Amang Santiago, retired

Rev. Caesar Silva, retired

Rev. Wilmer Todd, retired

Rev. Jerry Villarrubia, retired

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Seminarian Scott Beslin

Very Rev. Jay Baker

Rev. Paul Birdsall

Rev. Rusty Bruce

Rev. Toto Buenaflor

Rev. Duc Bui

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Rev. Joseph Chacko

Rev. Cody Chatagnier

Rev. Jackson Cleetus

Rev. Carl Collins

Rev. Van Constant

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Rev. Robert-Joel Cruz

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Very Rev. Vicente De La Cruz

Rev. Dean Danos

Rev. Daniel Duplantis

Msgr. Cletus Egbi

Very Rev. Simon Peter Engurait, V.G.

Daily Prayer for Clergy and Religious Lord Jesus, hear our prayer for the spiritual renewal of bishops, priests, deacons, brothers, sisters, lay ministers and seminarians of the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux. We praise You for giving their ministry to the Church. In these days, renew them with the gifts of Your Spirit.

You once opened the Holy Scriptures to Your disciples when You walked on this earth. Now renew Your ordained and chosen ones with the truth and power of Your Word.

In Eucharist you gave Your disciples renewed life and hope. Nourish Your consecrated ones with Your own Body and Blood. Help them to imitate in their lives the death and resurrection they celebrate around Your altar.

Give them enthusiasm for the Gospel, zeal for the salvation of all people, courage in leadership and humility in service.

Give them Your love for one another and for all their brothers and sisters in You. For You love them, Lord Jesus, and we love and pray for them in Your Holy Name, today especially for _______________________. Amen.

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Youth

in action

Sophie Vining

School: Central Catholic School, Morgan City Grade: 8th Church parish: Holy Cross, Morgan City Describe your family unit: Trish, mother; Jason, father; Emmy, sibling Favorite Hobby: Being with friends Favorite Movie: Tangled Favorite T.V. Show: Chicago Med Favorite Genre of Music: A little bit of all

How will you share your knowledge of the Catholic faith during the upcoming summer months?

My knowledge on the Catholic faith should be shared all the time, but especially in the summer. During summer, people usually forget our main goal as Catholics is to live a good, holy life to get into heaven with God. We, as Catholics, strive to meet God in heaven and have eternal life with him. To do this, we must have faith and believe in God the Father. Personally, I am helping share my knowledge by helping at Bible camps near me. These camps help teach children about our faith using fun activities. These activities commonly are about a Bible story or common beliefs. Vacation Bible School

is usually a week long, giving kids the opportunity to learn while they play with other kids. This lets me share my knowledge with children so that they can be the best person of faith they can be. Many kids do not make the church a priority in their lives. This can help them connect to others and understand why it is so important to make God a priority. I want to grow as a role model for the next generation. In the upcoming summer months, I will also lead the school dance team in prayer before practices and dance camp. This will help bring the members of the dance team’s focus back on religion.

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I can share my knowledge I have learned in my religion classes with the members of the team that are younger than me. Hopefully, with our prayers, we will have a fun and safe football season. Another thing I plan to do is to read at Mass. I hope to make it to every Sunday Mass and read at as many services as possible. By doing this, I can help clearly share the words of God in the Bible. These words, shared with others, can change lives. Overall, I will be sharing my knowledge of the Catholic faith in many ways this summer. BC

Seminarian eDucation burSeS Seminarian Spotlight Wayne Romero Jr. St. Gregory Barbarigo, Houma n What has been your favorite topic/subject of study in the seminary?

So far, it has been the scriptural studies over here. It is just an amazing thing to learn about how the Scriptures, from both the Old and New Testaments, connects with the church and our daily lives. n What are you looking forward to most about priesthood?

Of course, whatever the priesthood has to offer, but mainly just talking with people.

Guiding them, learning about them, and being a father to them; that just gives me comfort in knowing that just taking the time and talking with people, as a priest, could help them in so many ways. n What is your favorite Bible quote?

“With God, all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26)

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all completeD Seminarian eDucation burSeS can be vieweD online at www.htDioceSe.org/vocationS For more information contact the Catholic Foundation at 985-850-3116 or aponson@htdiocese.org June 2022 • Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux • Bayou Catholic •31

Announcement

Catholic Foundation Update Amy Ponson

Catholic Foundation of South Louisiana continues to transform lives Summer is here, which is always an exciting time for families and students as summer camps and vacations begin.

However, it is also a very exciting time for our church, our Catholic Foundation of South Louisiana and the future of our faith as we celebrate the ordinations of men who have prayed and studied for years in the seminary to become leaders of the church in our diocese. However, this month is a bit extra special as we welcome back Archbishop Shelton J. Fabre of Louisville, KY, to ordain both a transitional deacon and two new priests for our diocese.

The Foundation has played a very special role in the lives of these men as well, as each year it is able to fund and support the education of three to four men through its seminarian endowments. Oftentimes I am asked what is it that the Foundation actually does. Well, quite honestly, we transform lives every day for the benefit of future generations, and one prime example happens each summer through the ordinations.

Our Foundation was started many years ago through the generosity of over 3,000 of our own Catholic faithful through our ‘Continuing the Vision’ capital campaign that created an endowment with our Foundation specifically for the support of seminarian education. Your gifts, your prayers, your ‘yes’ to experience the joy of giving and sharing of the blessings the Lord has provided you, has educated countless men.

Through your generosity, prayers

and joyful giving, Stephen Castille and James Rome are now Father Castille and Father Rome, and Davis Ahimbisibwe is now transitional Deacon Ahimbisibwe. What has made this June a bit more special is having Archbishop Shelton Fabre ordain these fine men, as he has walked with them on their journey for these past eight years. Through the archbishop’s vision and his faithful determination, the Foundation has become a vital resource to foster generosity while transforming the future.

The hearts and minds of our Catholic faithful have been opened to experience the joy of giving and how their gifts and legacies have been able to expand the Foundation’s reach and impact the lives of others locally. The Catholic Foundation has grown from $5M to more than $14M in just five short years.

However, the financial growth doesn’t quite express the impact of what has happened throughout the community because of the generosity shown through the Foundation. The impact is what moves and drives our Foundation staff and board each and every day.

In just five short years, we have: • Educated three to four seminarians annually • Provided tuition assistance for more than 20 students in our Catholic elementary and high schools • Assisted hundreds of families through Catholic Charities of the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux, while providing annual operating support of its ministry • Helped to build an adoration chapel

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at St. Thomas Aquinas in Thibodaux through #iGiveCatholic • Facilitated capital improvements for St. Bridget in Schriever’s annex building and renovated their entire church, upgrading their worship space • Granted over $329k to nonprofits locally for women and children through our Mother Teresa Women’s Giving Circle which has: 1) Helped to fund a new program for foster children aging out of the system with MacDonell United Methodist Children’s Services 2) Helped to fund a new ultrasound machine for Crossroads Pregnancy Resource Center where mothers are able to see life in their womb 3) Afforded teacher training and curriculum for St. Lucy Child Development Center 4) Provided safe shelter and housing for women and their children through The Haven 5) Gifted the students at the Wallace Center in Raceland the ability to have field trips to expand their cultural experiences 6) And hundreds more stories just like these through the Mother Teresa Women’s Giving Circle: • Expanded our support of cultural ministries by 1) Funding Hispanic, American Indian and African American faith formation ministries 2) Sent our Hispanic Sisters to conferences, along with Hispanic youth leaders to leadership conferences 3) Provided operational funding

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for our predominantly American Indian and African American Church parishes and their pastors.

All of these accomplishments and many more would not have been possible without the faith and generosity of our people. I invite you to take a look at our most recent Impact Report to learn more about how your legacy, your gift, can provide perpetual support of the church, school or nonprofit that you care for so much.

Visit https://bit.ly/CFSL2021IR to view our most recent Impact Report. For more information about the Catholic Foundation of South Louisiana or how you may experience the joy of giving, please call me, Amy Ponson, at (985) 850-3116 or email me at aponson@ htdiocese.org.

(Amy Ponson is the executive director of the Catholic Foundation of South Louisiana.) BC

St. Mary’s Nativity School announces new principal Linda M. Henry has been named the new principal of St. Mary’s Nativity School in Raceland for the 2022-2023 school year, it was announced recently.

Henry has a bachelor of science degree from Nicholls State University in Thibodaux, and a master’s degree in education from the University of New Orleans.

She was a Catholic school teacher/ administrator in the Archdiocese of New Orleans; and a teacher in the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux.

She most recently served as the youth formation coordinator at St. Charles Borromeo Church parish in Thibodaux.

The New Orleans native currently resides in Houma with her husband of 40 years, Eddie Henry III. They are parishioners of the Cathedral of St. Francis de Sales in Houma, and have three adult children, Dominick, Katie and Robbie. BC

Linda M. Henry

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Announcement

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Members of the Mother Teresa Women’s Giving Circle who were present for the grants distribution at the Pastoral Center in Schriever are pictured with the grant recipients. Grants totaling $101,000 were distributed to seven local nonprofits.

Mother Teresa Women’s Giving circle grants $101,000 to seven local nonprofits After another year of tremendous challenges in our community, the Mother Teresa Women’s Giving Circle members have granted $101,000 to seven local nonprofits directly impacting the lives of women, children and families.

Through prayer and community, the group of Catholic women have together overcome the challenges of Hurricane Ida and found ways to make an impact in the community. After listening to presentations from 13 nonprofits, members were able to vote for seven nonprofits that would benefit from their efforts.

Members of the Mother Teresa Women’s Giving Circle recently joined together to present $101,000 in grants to these seven nonprofits focused on women, children and families: • Catholic Charities Disaster Relief – $34,000 to continue with their appliance assistance efforts • Crossroads Pregnancy Center – $20,000 to implement a digital marketing

campaign to further their reach in our community • The Haven – $15,000 for their Family Violence Emergency Support Program and Flexible Housing Fund • Friends of Beyond the Bell – $8,000 to improve engagement in experiences and trips for kids • St. Lucy Child Development Center – $8,000 to add and improve playground equipment and kitchen appliances • Hope Extreme – $8,000 to improve the after school program by purchasing new equipment and supplies • Good Samaritan Food Bank and Thrift Store of Raceland – $8,000 to extend outreach of the food bank to other locations like the Wallace Center “It has been a truly humbling experience to watch the members of the Mother Teresa Women’s Giving Circle live out Mother Teresa’s mission to help women, children and families,” says Amy Ponson, executive director of the

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Catholic Foundation of South Louisiana.

“Over the course of four years, despite continued challenges we face daily, the Catholic women within our diocese have led with their prayers, their hearts, and their vision to make our community a better place. Their shared generosity has enabled our Giving Circle to distribute over $329,000 over the last four years. Our vision was to build a community of Catholic women where every gift, no matter how large or small, would make an impact locally. We are honored to have been able to grant out $101,000 this year and hope to continue to grow our support throughout our local community.”

For more information about the Mother Teresa Women’s Giving Circle, visit catholicfoundationsl.org. If you are interested in joining, please contact Amy Ponson at (985) 850-3116, or aponson@ htdiocese.org. BC

Announcement

National Tekakwitha Conference July 20-23 in Alexandria The Dioceses of Alexandria and Houma-Thibodaux are cohosting and planning the 83rd Annual National Tekakwitha Conference that will be held July 20-23 at the Randolph Riverfront Center in Alexandria. Also participating in the planning are the Dulac and St. Charles the Roch Kateri Circles, with Circles from other states. This year’s conference theme is “Saint Kateri, Inspire Us with Your Spirit.”

This year’s conference will be the first in-person event since 2019. Throughout this 4-day gathering, there will be dynamic keynote presenters, breakout sessions, regional membership meetings. Participants will also be able to catch a glimpse of the intersection between the vibrant Native American cultures and the Catholic faith. Even though the conference will be attended by many sovereign tribes and pueblos, they will all gather as one “family” in faith.

Kateri Tekakwitha was canonized by Pope Benedict XVI as the First Native American Saint in October 2012.

For more information about the conference or to register, visit https://tekconf.org/conferences. BC LAWRENCE CHATAGNIER/BAYOU CATHOLIC

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Special

Louisiana celebrates first statewide ‘St. Joseph the Worker Day’

By KATHY SCHIFFER On May 1, Catholics across the state of Louisiana celebrated the first official “St. Joseph the Worker Day” – honoring Jesus’ earthly foster father, while also honoring the important contributions of laborers from across the state. The special day was established last year with Louisiana Senate Resolution 116, which was passed in the State Senate on May 25, 2021, and unanimously adopted one week later, on June 1.

Inspired by Joseph the Worker as a model for all working men and women, Resolution 116 points to virtues such as patience, peacefulness, prudence, protector, provider and prayerfulness.

The resolution uses historical points and sacred Scripture to ultimately call for the elevation and celebration of all of Louisiana’s working men and women each year on May 1.

This year, more than 100 Louisiana workers, leaders of the faith community, and dignitaries joined together for the St. Joseph the Worker Prayer Breakfast on Friday, April 29, in celebration of this resolution and this new designation. The inaugural celebration was hosted at Buck and Johnny’s “Glassroom” in downtown Breaux Bridge, LA. The event acknowledged the important contributions of military, educators, first responders, health care providers, energy workers, barbers and beauticians, fishermen and farmers, auto mechanics and restaurant workers, finance, banking and insurance industry workers, administrative staff, and religious clergy.

Former Lieutenant Governor Scott A. Angelle delivered a special tribute to the most important vocation of all, motherhood. Two area priests – Father Nicholas DuPré, pastor of St. Joseph Church and St. Louis Mission Chapel in Parks, LA; and Father John Joseph Bourque, C.S.J., from the Community of Jesus Crucified – offered blessings and words of inspiration.

Louisiana Governor John Bel Edwards

penned a letter of welcome to attendees at the St. Joseph the Worker Prayer Breakfast, recognizing citizens who model the dignity of a strong work ethic and who show kindness to others. He thanked them for their faith and honor to St. Joseph, who has been described as an obedient, loving and courageous father, and cited Matthew 1:19, which “attests that he was a righteous man.”

John L. Weimer, Chief Justice of the Louisiana Supreme Court, was unable to attend the breakfast but sent his warmest wishes and thanks to the state’s working people, explaining, “My parents operated a family-owned Mom and Pop service station until my mother tragically passed away, leaving my father to raise five children, ages nine to three, on his own. I grew up working in that service station as a kid. I learned the value of hard work, the virtue of honesty, and how vitally important it is to treat everyone with dignity and respect, regardless of their station in life. I also learned how gratifying it is to be of service to others and to help resolve someone’s problems.”

Chief Justice Weimer went on to tell of his own experience during college and law school, working menial and often dangerous jobs on the rigs offshore and on the boats plying the rivers and bayous of Louisiana and the Gulf of Mexico – often working 30-day shifts. “I will never forget the hardworking and brave individuals I met,” Weimer said, “who spent so much time away from their families in order to supply this nation with the energy to prosper.”

Louisiana State Senator Fred Mills Jr., a Catholic who submitted Senate Resolution 116 last year, says of the resolution, “I have personally witnessed an authentic passion and zeal in spreading this model for working men and women across the State of Louisiana. I am grateful to be a part of memorializing St. Joseph the Worker Day in Louisiana for generations to come.”

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Louisiana Speaker of the House Clay Schnexnayder attended the celebration and shared his own story of the integrity of work, as a mechanic himself. He pointed to the value of hard work, saying, “Although the genesis of this resolution is based on a Catholic worldwide movement – it has indeed birthed a new day for Louisiana to focus, celebrate and give honor to our work force, regardless of religion, race, creed or political parties. I fully support it and it’s long overdue.

Since the 14th century, the Catholic Church has honored St. Joseph as the husband of the Virgin Mary and legal father of Jesus each year on March 19, traditionally thought to be the day of his death. In 1870, he was declared patron of the universal church by Pope Pius IX. In 1955, Pope Pius XII instituted a second feast on May 1, honoring St. Joseph in his role as worker because, as the pontiff explained, “no worker was ever more completely and profoundly penetrated (by the Spirit) than the foster father of Jesus, who lived with him in close intimacy and community of family life and work.” The pope chose the May 1 date to directly counter the “May Day” celebration for workers sponsored by the communists.

The passage of Louisiana’s resolution honoring St. Joseph the Worker was the result of a collaborative effort by Father Donald Calloway, M.I.C., Jennifer Picard Angelle (owner of Hugs from Heaven, a company which produces cloth dolls of Jesus and Mary to comfort children), Father Michael Champagne (Superior of the Community of Jesus Crucified), former Lieutenant Governor Scott A. Angelle, and Louisiana Senator Fred Mills Jr. The organizers hope that this year’s inaugural celebration will encourage and spark additional events statewide in the coming years.

(This article is courtesy of The Catholic World Report.) BC

STATE CHAMPS !

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The Vandebilt Catholic Terrier baseball team recently claimed the LHSAA Division II state championship title again after 51 years.

On Sunday, May 15, the boys defeated University Lab 12-2 in six innings at SLU in Hammond, LA, to earn the state title. This is the 12th state championship in school history and was the first state championship game appearance since 1996. Senior Owen Schexnaydre earned the LHSAA Division II State MVP award. Vandebilt Catholic High School congratulates the entire baseball team, the coaching staff and Head Coach Chad Menard on a fantastic season (33-8).

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Overtime Ed Daniels

It’s Winston’s time to lead Saints You may be looking forward to the summer, but my guess is no more than Saints quarterback Jameis Winston.

The Saints dogged pursuit of Deshaun Watson was unsuccessful.

The Saints drafted a speedy wide receiver and an offensive tackle in the first round.

New Orleans did not draft a quarterback.

And, head coach Dennis Allen announced that Taysom Hill’s primary position will be tight end.

So, the keys to the store have been handed to Winston, who gets an improved offense to go along with an already stout defense.

So, is Winston good enough to win, big?

The answer might be, yes.

Of the last 10 quarterbacks to win Super Bowls, one had a lower career completion percentage than Winston.

And, that is Eli Manning, who won two Super Bowls with the Giants.

Manning’s career completion percentage was 60.3.

Winston’s is 61.2.

That’s only .50 percent less than Joe Flacco, who quarterbacked the Baltimore Ravens to a Super Bowl title here against the 49ers in February of 2013.

While researching the last 10 quarterbacks to win the big game, the completion percentages were not that much better than Winston’s.

Nick Foles was at 62.4 percent Matt Stafford was at 63 percent.

Even Tom Brady, possessor of seven championship rings, was at 64.2 percent completion percentage.

Winston’s numbers this season figure to improve.

Along with investing two first round picks, Michael Thomas returns after missing all of 2021.

In the last season he was healthy, Thomas set an NFL record for receptions in a season with 149.

2022 is a fish, or cut bait year for Jameis and the Saints.

If he performs at an extraordinarily high level, the Saints may want to lock him up with a contract extension.

Winston doesn’t turn 29 until January.

If you are sold on him, and he on the Saints, the team and the quarterback could be together for years.

If Winston performs poorly, the Saints have to move on.

And, it would likely be with another veteran quarterback, unless the Saints can somehow acquire a first round pick in the 2023 draft.

The Saints traded their own to Philadelphia.

There is a way the Saints can pick a first round pick, perhaps two.

That’s if Sean Payton, who is under contract to the Saints, decides to return to coaching in the 2023 season.

A Super Bowl winning coach has been traded before.

The Bucs traded Jon Gruden to the Raiders, for two first round picks, two second round picks, and eight million in cash.

If Payton returned, he would be doing the Saints a huge favor.

The Saints could package the bounty in that trade to move up and take a quarterback.

But, in the meantime, in the land of black and gold, it is all about Jameis Winston.

He’s surrounded by a quality roster, filled with young talent, and he’s been handed the job.

Now, let’s see if he can run with it. BC

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E.D. White has 135 graduates for 2022 E.D. White Catholic High School in Thibodaux’s Class of 2022 chose “Take pride in how far you’ve come. Have faith in how far you can go, but don’t forget to enjoy the journey,” (Michael Josephson). Class colors are mint green and pink; class flower is the cherry blossom; and the class song is Wherever I Go by Hannah Montana. Class officers are Luke Diedrich, president; and Maggie Escher, vice-president.

Class of 2022 graduates are: Riley Albert, Nicholas Angelette, Elizabeth Ayers, Carson Babin, Samantha Barrois, Noah Benoit, Quin Bergeron, Grant Blouin, Joseph Boudreaux, Caroline Bower, Brett Brady, Isabella Breaud, Emily Caldwell, Olivia Carmouche, Mackenzie Castro, Hope Chenier, Maddie Clause, Mary Clause, Claire Clement, Shelby Cobb, Madeline Cortez, McKenna Currie, Blakelyn Daigle, Avery d’Aquin, Olivia DeGravelle, Carly DeSandro, Luke Diedrich, Andrew Dietz, Carmen Duet, Claire Durocher, Maggie Escher, Dylan Fabregas, Charley Falgoust, Ellen Favaloro, Gavin Fontenot, Lauren Gallagher, Gracie Garcia, Emma Graffeo, Alexis Granier, Christopher Gravois, Collin Gravois, Isabella Gravois, Josie Gravois, William Gravois, Charles Grazier, Brandon Gros, Breanna Gros, Christina Gros, Emma Gros, Jace Gros, Dominick Guidry, Megan Guidry, Ashton Hebert, Benjamin Hebert, Hannah Hebert, Brennan Henry, Charles Hunt, Helen Husbands, Jason Jones Jr., Hunter Kee, Elise Kliebert, Collin Klingman, Chance Kraemer, Ethan LaCoste, Anthony LaJaunie, Ellie Lasseigne, Mason Lawless, Elizabeth LeBlanc, Katherine LeBlanc, Matthew LeBlanc, Alyce Ledet, Harrison Ledet, Ethan Lee, Sydney Lotz, Rickey Lovell, Landon Mahler, Christen Marcombe, Brendan D. Martin, Brendan J. Martin, Peyton McGoey, Emma Miller, Morgan Morvant, Collin Naquin, Karishma Nathaniel, Jake Newchurch, Dylan Ordoyne, Ethan Ordoyne, Kate Paige, Emily Parfait, Luke Pate, John Patten, Gracie Pepper, Coby Perera, Eli Pitre, Owen Plaisance, Luke Poiencot, Rae Richard, Jane Robichaux, Julia Robichaux, Mariana Robichaux, Mary Robichaux, Peyton Robichaux, Stephen Robichaux, Sydney Robichaux, Jacob Rodrigue, Olivia Rodrigue, Emma Rogers, Natalie Russell, Madison Sanchez, Tyler Savoie, Alec Savoy, Thomas Schneider, Ava Schorr, Cassie Scioneaux, Elizabeth Scorsone, Abigail Shaw, Jayce Shaw, Emily Smith, Baylon Stassi, Lexi Steinmann, Katie Sue Sternfels, Erin Stevens, William Stueben, Madeline Talbot, Sri Priya Talluri, Wesley Templet, Jacob Terracina, Rachel Terrebonne, Nicholas Toups, Easton Waguespack, Ridge Waguespack, Josh Weimer, Mia Wilson, Wesley Wise, and Emmy Wong. BC 42 • Bayou Catholic • Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux • June 2022

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Vandebilt has 149 graduates for 2022 Vandebilt Catholic High School in Houma’s Class of 2022 chose “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Jesus Christ” (Romans 3:23-24), as its class motto. Class colors are lavender and cream; class flower is the magnolia; and the class song is I Lived by One Republic. Class officers are Sydney Thompson, president; Emily Roberson, vice-president; and Meritt Doyle, secretary.

The 2022 graduates are Brooklyn Alston, Brooklyn Angelette, Parker Angelette, Dominic Arceneaux, Jasmine Arceneaux, Dominic Archila, Emma Authement, Madison Authement, Chloe Babin, Anna Bascle, Lauren Bascle, Triana Bergeron, Georgia Bice, Emma Billiot, Trista Bonvillain, Cade Bordelon, Aidan Boudreaux, Angelina Boudreaux, Frances Boudreaux, Andrew Braud, Eli Brien, Benton Brooks, Rebecca Cagle, Kade Campbell, Logan Carmouche, Justin Caro, Emma Carroll, Madison Carter, Hailey Cazenave, Seth Charpentier, Caleb Chauvin, Brianna Cheramie, Ella Chesnut, Keegan Cicero, Morgan Clayton, Robert Clement, Catherine Cobb, Kara Colwart, Max Compeaux, Ethan Daigle, Caroline Daigre, Eli David, Kalyn Dehart, Elena Dishman, Lily Domangue, Meritt Doyle, Alaina Esponge, Hunter Fanguy, Reese Fanguy, Morgan Fleniken, Eleanor Fondren, Blake Ford, Blake Foret, Launnah Fullilove, Christian Garcia, Richard Gonsoulin II, Alexis Gottman, Emma Gottschalk, Allison Guidry, Anthony Hackett, Benjamin Hagen, Eli Hagen, Kameron Harris, Hudson Haydel, Mary Ellen Haydel, Parker Haydel, Ryan Hazzard, Elijah Hebert, Lavar Henderson Jr., Mason Himel, Jack Hohensee, Clayton James, Hope Jones, Emmi King, Hayden Klingman, Sophia Knoblock, Jean-Luc Lapeyre, Andrew Leaber, Jayden LeBlanc, Patrick LeCompte, Gracie Lee, Lexie Lirette, Caroline Louviere, James Luke, Alison MacKay, Rylie Malbrough, Brooke Marceaux, Sydney Marcel, Jacques Marmande, Nicole Marmande, Mia Martin, Raquel Masters, Roman

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Masters, A’skyri Matthews, Ella Mazarac, Lillie Mazur, Megan Meche, Koen Melancon, Zachary Miller, Jena Modisette, Gian Monteleon, Emily Newman, Peyton Nunnally, Colin Olivier, Caleb Ougel, Isabela Ourso, Stella Ourso, Amun Patel, Emily Poiencot, Alexis Porche, Grace Porche, Emery Prentice, Dakotah Purvis, Stephen Ragas, Emily Rains, Rylie Rios, Emily Roberson, Harrison Robichaux, Abigail Rodrigue, Michael Rodrigue, Landon Rogers, Ryan Rogers, Joshua Rotolo, Clinton Russell, Antoinette Savoie, Cole Schexnaydre, Owen Schexnaydre, Isabella Siddon, Camryn Silver, Maria Smith, Joshua Sobert, Guy Sonnier, Hannah Staszak, Lillian Stathes, Jeffrey Teuton, Caroline Theriot, Chelsi Theriot, Brad Thibodeaux, Hayden Thibodeaux, Peyton Thibodeaux, Katherine Thompson, Sydney Thompson, Thomas Thompson, Luke Trosclair, Alexander Villavaso, Andrew Villavaso, Sophia Wade, James Weaver, and Avery Westbrook. BC

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The 2022 graduates are Olivia Black, Konnor Boudreaux, Drake Burgess, Dylan Cornes, Hallie Crappell, Gweneth Dohmann, Kaleb Domingue, Ty Eschette, Lucy Hamer, Spencer Hebert, Ethan Kahl, Drayton Keller, Madison Lancon, Donald Lewis III, Shelbie Mabile, James Montgomery, Kye Morgel, Karson Nelson, Jonathon Picou, Gracie Pintado, Bria Romero, Drew Rock, Abbie Scully, Jack Bernard Seitzinger, Tanner Simmons, Jena Sonnier, Tyler Smith, Nicolas Spitale, Grant Tamberella, and Ryan Templet. BC

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Nicholls’ 110th Commencement Ceremony featured Justice John Weimer as keynote speaker

Louisiana Supreme Court Justice John Weimer was the keynote speaker at Nicholls State University in Thibodaux’s 110th Commencement Ceremony held in May at Stopher Gym. Commencement consisted of four ceremonies, broken down as follows: The College of Science and Technology; College of Liberal Arts; the College of Education and Behavioral Sciences and the Chef John Folse Culinary Institute; and the College of Business Administration and the College of Nursing.

During the noon ceremony, the university awarded an associate’s degree of general studies posthumously to the family of Kennedi Foret. An honors student studying marine biology, Foret was the victim of a fatal car crash on Dec. 19, 2021.

Justice Weimer was first elected to the Louisiana Supreme Court in 2001 and was named its 26th chief justice in 2021.

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and ethics for 16 years.

He left the classroom in 1993 when he was appointed by the state supreme court as judge pro tempore for Division D of the 17th Judicial District. Two years later, he was elected as judge for Division A of the 17th Judicial District. Following re-election to that position, he was elected to the state’s First Circuit Court of Appeals.

During the ceremony, the Justice John Weimer University also awarded an Honorary Doctorate of Science to Dr. John Heaton (BS ‘81), the president and chief medical officer of LCMC Health. Dr. Heaton has been one of the most successful and well-respected clinicians in the state and is a passionate advocate for patient safety and quality. BC

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Fletcher Technical Community College’s

Commencement Ceremony featured Phyllis Leblanc Peoples as speaker The speaker for Fletcher Technical Community College’s 2022 Commencement Ceremony was Phyllis Leblanc Peoples who serves as the president and chief executive officer for Terrebonne General Health System. She is a native of Houma and has worked in healthcare administration for over 27 years.

She served as the Louisiana Hospital Association (LHA) Board of Trustees Chair from July 2019-July 2021 and currently serves as the Immediate Past Chair. She is also a member of the LHA Trust Funds Board. She previously served as a member of the American Hospital Association Regional Policy Board 7, and has been a member of the American College of Healthcare Executives since 2001, completing a two-year term as president of the Louisiana Chapter of Healthcare Executives.

Peoples earned a bachelor’s degree in nursing from the University of Southwestern Louisiana and two master’s degrees from Valdosta State University in administration and education, as well as a master’s degree in healthcare

administration from Tulane University.

She is a member and has served on the Boards of numerous other local, state and national organizations. She was recognized as the Community Role Model in 2011 by the Young Leadership Council of New Orleans and was awarded the Golden Pelican President’s Award from the Louisiana Society for Hospital Public Relations and Marketing.

Phyllis Leblanc Peoples She was also honored as one of the New Orleans CityBusiness Health Care Heroes for 2012 and, as one of the CityBusiness 2013 Women of the Year.

Fletcher celebrated the graduation of more than 350 students for Fall 2021, Spring 2022 and Summer 2022 in May. All majors/programs participated in one ceremony. BC June 2022 • Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux • Bayou Catholic •49

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Grand Isle Grand Isle School in Grand Isle’s Class of 2022 chose “The past is my heritage; the present - my responsibility, the future - my challenge” (Linda Thibault, RN, ONC), as it’s class motto. Class Colors are purple and silver; class flower is the magnolia; and the class song is I’m A Believer by Smash Mouth. Senior class officers are Isabelle Armand, president; Brianna Santiny, vice-president; Emma English, secretary; and Colyn Bradberry, treasurer. BC

South Lafourche South Lafourche High School in Galliano’s Class of 2022 chose “Our lives are before us, our pasts are behind us, our memories are forever within us,” as its class motto. Class colors are royal blue and silver; class flower is the white rose; and the class song is The Nights by Avicii.

Class officers are Gavin Terrebonne, president; Madalyn Bourgeois and Jesi Savoie, co-vice presidents; Jackson Autin, secretary; Isabella Lasseigne, treasurer; Allie Bossier, reporter; and Alaina Ashmun, Emily Griffin, and Atalin Guidry​, representatives. BC

Ellender High Allen J. Ellender Memorial High School in Houma’s Class of 2022 chose “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams” (Eleanor Roosevelt) as its class motto. Class colors are red, white and blue; class flower is the red rose; and the class song is End of the Road by Boyz II Men. Senior class officers are Malory Solet, president; Alexya Marcel, vice-president; Edmary Talavera, secretary; and Lilianette Irrizary, treasurer. BC

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Thibodaux High Thibodaux High School in Thibodaux’s Class of 2022 chose “The best view comes after the hardest climb” as its class motto. Class colors are royal purple and gold; class flower is the purple orchid; and the class song is Wherever I Go by Hannah Montana. Senior class officers are Semaria Cheatham, president; Jillian Bernard, vice-president; Ryann Dorsey, secretary; Hailey Becnel, Sophie Benoit, Denaecia Lewis, spirit coordinators; and Mason Antee, Lauren Badeaux, Jasmin Blanchard, Bently Chiasson, Abby Guidry, Nasrine Ningbinnin, Rylee Reulet, Nathan Savoie, Dylan Stentz, executive board. BC

South Terrebonne South Terrebonne High School in Bourg’s Class of 2022 chose “Our lives are before us. Our pasts are behind us.

Our memories are forever with us,” as its class motto. Class colors are green and white; class flower is the white rose; and the class song is 22 by Taylor Swift. Class officers are Rhett Williams, president; Lexie Lebouef, vice-president; Remley Lirette, secretary; and Deana Molinere, treasurer. BC

Morgan City High Morgan City High School in Morgan City’s Class of 2022 chose “Our lives are before us, our pasts are behind us, our memories are forever within us,” as its class motto. Class colors are Columbia blue and gold; class flower is the white rose; and the class song is Colors by Jason Derulo. Senior class officers are Tyler Besse, president; and Jerson Flores, vice-president. BC

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H.L. Bourgeois H.L. Bourgeois High School in Gray’s Class of 2022 chose “I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling 22,” as its class motto.

Class colors are royal blue and gray; class flower is the white rose; and the class song is I Lived by One Republic. Senior class officers are Joslyn Myers, president; Kaleb Trosclair, vice-president; Kiana Tarr, secretary; and Ethan Lam, treasurer. BC

Central Lafourche Central Lafourche High School in Raceland’s Class of 2022 chose “Together, we have experienced life. Separately, we will pursue our dreams. Forever, our memories will remain,” as its class motto. Class colors are green and gold; class flower is the yellow rose; I’ll Always Remember You by Hannah Montana is the class song. Senior class officers are Courtney Breaux, president; Zoey Billiot, vice president; Erin Degruise, secretary; Alexandra Rodriquez, treasurer; Laila Zirlott, reporter; and Rylee Naquin, parliamentarian. BC

Terrebonne High Terrebonne High School in Houma’s Class of 2022 chose “If there’s a will there’s a way, if there’s a quizlet there’s an A,” as its class motto. Class color is iridescent; class flower is the Venus Fly Trap; and the class song is See You Again by Wiz Khalifa featuring Charlie Puth. Senior class officers are Emma Fontana, president; Justin Dufresne, vice-president; Marco Garcia, secretary; and Bre Pitre, treasurer. BC

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Couples featured in our Marriage Special Why is the sacrament of marriage important to you as a couple?

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The sacrament of marriage is important to us because it united us as one in Christ. We were able to commit ourselves to loving one another for a lifetime. We are blessed by the grace of the sacrament and the opportunity to strive for heaven together. It was a beautiful experience to enter into marriage at our parish surrounded by loved ones.

Taylor and Kasey Zeringue Champagne Wedding Date: October 24, 2020 Church Parish: Cathedral of St. Francis de Sales, Houma

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The sacrament of marriage is important to us as a couple because as with Adam and Eve, God created man and woman to become one. It is God’s design that man and woman should complete each other, draw strength from each other, contribute to one another’s spiritual growth. Some days may not be as easy as others, but we work things out and pray together to get through the tough days. We look to God for things we need help with.

It’s important to us because it has fundamentally reoriented our lives. Entering into that commitment means living for someone else, first for our spouse, and then for our child and future children. Now, everything we do is for one another.

So just like the beautiful example of God, the son, and the church, Connor loves and gives to Noelle who loves and gives to their child.

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Connor and Noelle Pitre Mabile Wedding Date: September 19, 2020 Church Parish: St. Joseph Co-Cathedral, Thibodaux

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Marriage preparation guidelines for the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux Getting Married?

All couples getting married in the Catholic Church are led through a process of preparation that includes meeting with the priest or deacon who is officiating, completing a premarital inventory (see below), and completing a marriage preparation program, which is usually assigned by the person responsible for the couple’s preparation (some program options are listed below). The priest, deacon or appropriate parish personnel will also walk through all the liturgical arrangements and other necessary details for the wedding day.

Pre-Marital Inventory Couples will be directed to complete an inventory, or a sort of “personality test” for their relationship to give them and those walking with them in the preparation process a clear picture of where their strengths lie and where they might focus their energy as a couple to grow closer. The two options most used in the Diocese of Houma Thibodaux are Prepare-Enrich and FOCCUS. The priest, deacon or marriage prep coordinator will arrange for the couple to complete this inventory online, and a qualified facilitator will discuss the results. This is not a “pass or fail” exercise or a “compatibility test,” but an opportunity for couples to get to know one another more deeply in a process that is customized to their particular relationship.

Marriage Preparation Programs Mentor Couple Programs Relationship-focused programs are the ideal option for marriage preparation.

They provide a personalized, relational approach, and they have the potential for fostering long-term connections between couples who can support one other as they encounter joys and challenges throughout their lives, rather than just during the preparation stage.

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1. Witness to Love - This parishbased mentor program is offered in a number of parishes in our diocese and it is believed to be the most effective marriage preparation program available today. For more details, go to https://witnesstolove.org/.

If a church parish or pastor is interested in starting a Witness to Love Program, their liaison can walk them through the process.

2. Catholic Marriage Prep Online - Ideal for couples who are unable to connect with local resources. Unlike other online marriage prep programs, which require a couple to watch a series of videos and discuss the content amongst themselves before obtaining a certificate of completion, Catholic Marriage Prep Online connects engaged couples with a mentor couple online who assists them through the process. They cover both theology and catechesis as well as the practical skills needed for a successful marriage. The sessions are structured in a “go at your own pace” format – scheduling with a mentor couple isn’t necessary.

For details or to register, go to https:// catholicmarriageprep.com.

Retreats Two other diocesan approved options for marriage preparation are the ENGAGED Course hosted by Paul and Gretchen George of Discover the Art of Living, and the Catholic Engaged Encounter Retreat, which are both intended to supplement a broader marriage preparation process

facilitated by either the pastor or deacon officiating the wedding or their designated representative. Information about both options can be found here: 1. ENGAGED Course - Registration and more information can be found at http://discovertheartofliving.com/ engaged. This is a combination of a video retreat and a live processing discussion over Zoom with Paul and Gretchen George. After registering, the video retreat is taken by the couple and then they schedule a personal Zoom call with Paul and Gretchen to unpack what they received in the retreat.

2. Catholic Engaged Encounter Retreat - These weekend retreats give engaged couples the opportunity to intentionally invest in their relationship as they prepare for the sacrament of marriage. While these retreats are not held in the Diocese of Houma-Thibodaux, there are opportunities to attend retreats in the Archdiocese of New Orleans and the Dioceses of Lafayette and Baton Rouge.

Video Options Video programs can be incorporated into a larger marriage preparation process to facilitate conversation between the engaged couple, a mentor couple, and/or the priest preparing them for marriage. Leader guides are included to assist in the discussion.

There are two main options available: Joy-Filled Marriage (Ascension Press); and Beloved (FORMED.org/Augustine Institute), which are both available in Spanish. BC

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Gratitude: Foundational for marriage

By DOLORES R. LECKEY If you consult one of the larger dictionaries about the meaning of the word virtue you will discover three categories of virtue. They are cardinal virtues, natural virtues and theological virtues. There is no mention, however, of marriage virtues. This article is about a particular virtue which can strengthen the great adventure of marriage: Gratitude.

Why do people marry? The short answer is that they are in love. Being in love and practicing love is truly the essence of the Christian vocation, no matter what one’s state in life because all true love is ultimately about falling in love with God. Marriage affords endless opportunities to practice loving.

But because the intimacy of the relationship also reveals personal flaws, (the other’s and our own), we can slip into negativity, forgetting what it was like to initially fall in love, and what it is now to live in love. The virtue

of gratitude can help us remember.

Implicit in the term virtue is the notion of habitual, of a way of being that shapes our character. So it follows that to develop the virtue of gratitude it is important to be grateful, both in the recesses of our inner selves, and in external exchanges with our marriage partner, and to do so with some regularity.

So important did St. Ignatius of Loyola consider gratitude that he thought the absence of it was the only real sin. Without gratitude we cannot appreciate the grace of God which surrounds us, all of us, all the time.

One resource for getting in touch with the roots of gratitude is the Ignatian examen.

Jesuit father Dennis Hamm presents a helpful modern version of the ancient examination of conscience which is more an examen of consciousness.

He points out that in French and Spanish the word conciencia has a much larger meaning than the English

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word conscience. Consciousness is about awareness, self-knowledge and feelings. The practice consists in prayer at the end of the day, reviewing high points and low points and being conscious of one’s feelings in relation to the daily activities, challenges and questions. Feelings will rise up and Father Hamm assures us that feelings are genuine clues about what is really going on in our interior lives.

The method is easily adapted to illuminating the marriage relationship. At the end of the day, find a quiet place for a few moments of prayer, and begin by praying for light to see and understand how you regard your spouse. A simple prayer is all that is needed, followed by a review of the day with the emphasis being on thanksgiving. This is not a search for what is wrong, but for seeing more clearly what is right.

One might ask the question, in the spirit of prayer, how the presence of one’s spouse is a source of blessing.

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What unique qualities of your spouse rise up in your consciousness? As in all prayer, it is essential to be honest with oneself, and of course, with God. Don’t make things up. You are concentrating on a person’s reality, and on your own reality. Over time it is possible that annoying behaviors will be seen more as quirks. The examen can and should include the relationship itself. How is life richer and more meaningful because you and your spouse are given to each other?

If a daily examen seems impossible, then a weekly exercise can still be beneficial. The point is to bring to consciousness the essence of the other person, oneself and the marital relationship, and to express genuine gratitude for all of that.

Because Ignatian prayer usually moves toward action, it seems reasonable to find ways to express this gratitude to your husband or wife. You might try a version of the Elizabeth Barrett Browning poem, “How Do I Love Thee?” You might create something like, “I give thanks for you because … ” Gratitude leads to many other “virtues” like laughter and fun, compassion and mercy. In addition to highlighting the gifts of our marriage partner, the examen will also uncover our propensity to magnify small failings, our own and others.

I think of a poem by the Carmelite nun, Jessica Powers, “The Tear in the Shade.” The narrator tells of making a small, half-inch tear in a shade, and then worrying about it (almost in an obsessive way). She goes outside “to lose her worry there,” and when she returns to the room “It seemed that nothing but the tear was there.” She goes on to say that there had been beautiful furniture, purple flowers, rugs—but, “It was amazing how they dwindled, dwindled/and how the tear grew till it filled the room.” Practicing gratitude will allow the beautiful to flourish. It will also grace all aspects of our life, beyond the boundaries of marriage.

When the wife of the Rev. Martin Luther King Sr. was shot while she was playing the organ in Ebenezer Baptist Church during a Sunday service, Rev. King turned to his congregation and asked everyone to kneel and thank God for all that had been left to them.

How could this be? He had lost his son to assassination and now his wife. How could he say such a thing? Because during the course of his life, loving his wife and his children, loving the people he served as pastor, he was falling ever more in love with God. He knew that God was still with them; nothing was lacking.

The effect of practicing gratitude in marriage has the effect of shifting our

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perspective, enlarging our horizons, and deepening our love, not only for our spouse but for the wider community.

For Reflection and Action • What qualities of your spouse are you most grateful for? Share your lists with each other.

• Does your spouse have an annoying behavior or habit that you’ve magnified out of proportion? Make an effort to let it go. BC

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Love for love’s sake

By TOMMIE & KATIE McGRADY Four months. Four months since I sobbed as my bride walked down the aisle. Four months since we promised the rest of our lives to and for each other. These months have been full of memories, stories, laughter, frustrations and transition. In the midst of this newlywed adventure there has been one question that has worked its way into every single conversation we have had with other people.

“Soooooo … How’s married life?” It’s a common question, and I shouldn’t be surprised by it or frustrated to answer it. But when you’re asked the same question by everyone you see, literally all the time, it gets a little grating. And I say that knowing I’ve asked the same question of newlyweds myself …

To be clear, it is not the question that I have problem with … it is that the intended answer is saturated with expectation. There is only one acceptable answer to this ever present question. There’s an approved script, and it goes like this: Family/friend/stranger: Soooooo, How’s married life?

Married Couple: Oh it’s so wonderful, my husband/wife is just the best!

F/F/S: Awww newlyweds!!

Married Couple: We highly recommend it!

F/F/S: Just … just so happy for you! (usually tears in the eyes) This conversation has occurred in every family, in every country, since the beginning of marriage itself. In fact, I’m convinced that this was the ice breaker that the snake used in the garden of Eden! This has to be the exchange lest the people you are speaking with conclude that your new marriage is doomed to fail. With this reality in mind, everyone we had ever talked to had always given the same answer, until two people in Northeast Pennsylvania shattered the mold and

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offered freedom to the rest of us.

Katie and I were visiting with some really good friends who were newlyweds themselves (and also expecting their first child this month!

Pray for them!) When we went over to their house for a reunion, we caught up for a few minutes, and then we asked the question. “Sooooo, how’s married life?” Their answer: “The most difficult thing in the world.” THANK GOD! These two had the courage to articulate the truth about newly married life: It is indeed the best, but it is also the most difficult thing that we have ever done.

The reason for the difficulty is simple. For 28 years I have done my own thing. I’ve gone where I wanted to go, when I wanted to go there,

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and no one else’s schedule or needs superseded mine. But this rhythm of life comes to a screeching halt once the I do’s are exchanged, primarily because for 27 years, my wife has also done her own thing, gone where and when she wanted to go, and no one else’s schedule or needs superseded her own as well.

Now, I could argue I’ve been doing it longer, therefore I should get to keep doing it … but our couch isn’t all that comfortable, so I won’t. In these four months I have come to experience that the graces of the sacrament are real.

No one can speak to, love, and heal me like my wife, and the promises we made were not just something nice to say, but rather vows to die to self

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for the sake of the other. Always.

A few weeks ago, Katie had to go out of town for a speaking job, meaning I had a weekend all to myself. It had been a long week of teaching, and I was so looking forward to a Friday night with a cigar, scotch, and the company of friends. I was even more looking forward to waking up early on Saturday and taking my kayak out, fishing the morning away. I was so excited!

And then it happened. Katie felt a rush of anxiety and panic at the amount of prep work needed for her weekend of ministry. She felt like she was drowning, and had no time to do the work she needed to do because she had to drive a few hours to the conference. Seeing her like this, and knowing she needed me, I cancelled

my plans and told her I would drive her so she could get the prep work done and make it through the weekend with her sanity intact. I immediately thought, “Gee, what a great husband I am! Thank God for me! Die to self?

Check!”

Would you like to know what happened on the trip? We fought. A lot.

We criticized, we complained, and we dug our heels in. Feelings were hurt, tears were shed. Marital bliss, right?

It was sadly simple: I wanted my act of selflessness to be praised and lauded and my picture put up in the Husband Hall of Fame. But even though I did choose to drive her because I love her and knew that was what was best for her in that moment, my desire for praise and affirmation from her and everyone else changed the act from

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selfless to selfish. I was playing the martyr. Katie probably should have said, “Get off the cross Tommy, we need the wood.”

Marriage isn’t just hard. It’s sneaky hard. The choice to drive Katie to her speaking gig was easy. Keeping myself from creating an imaginary scoreboard of selflessness was impossible. Therein lies the core challenge and chief lesson I have learned in these four months of marriage. Dying to self for the sake of the other is not just about the choices you make. It’s ultimately about the reasons you make those choices and what you expect in return for them.

This is a lesson I have seen time and time again in the marriage of my incredible parents.

I witnessed their sacrifices, time and time again. Whether building our home with their bare hands, scraping by on one income so one parent would always be home with us until we were old enough to go to school, or going to every concert, game or performance my sister and I ever had. They didn’t do these things for a pat on the back, to score points, or to hold it over our heads. They did it because they loved us, and each other, and would do anything to pursue and achieve that love. I am forever grateful, and I know I must do better.

This lived lesson on the difficulty of merging two lives together is paralleled in St. Bernard of Clairvaux’s teaching on the four degrees of love. He speaks of them as the love of self for self’s sake, the love of self for God’s sake, the love of God for self’s sake and the love of God for God’s sake. I think his teaching works as a parallel for marriage because it speaks of love as a process. Yes, today I may make choices that show I love Katie for my own sake, but every day I am working hard for a tomorrow where I will love her for her own sake and for the sake of the God who brought us together.

Marriage is hard. Marriage is a process. I love giving that answer, because it shows that we aren’t permanently wearing rose-colored glasses about this sacrament. We love that it is tough. We embrace the challenges. Pray for us. We’ll pray for you. BC

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Seven signs of a functional relationship During my year studying Interpersonal Communications, I was introduced to the work of one of the top researchers in marriage and relationship health, Dr. John M. Gottman. Throughout my post college years, I have kept up with his research. He is most famous for developing a formula that accurately predicts divorce after observing a couple interact with one another for only five minutes!

Here I will describe Dr. John Gottman’s findings through his research on successful, happy couples, as written in his book, The Science of Trust.

Matches in Conflict Style Most people fall into one of three conflict styles: Validators, avoiders and volatiles. If the ratio of positivity to negativity in conflicts was 5:1, the relationships were functional.

However, mismatches in conflict style will increase risk of divorce.

The mismatches usually mean one person wants the other to change, but that person is avoiding change. The researchers did not find any volatiles and avoiders matched. They speculate it’s because they don’t get past the courtship phase!

Dialogue With Perpetual Issues Gottman discovered that only 31 percent of couples’ disagreements were resolvable! This means the majority of conflicts were about perpetual problems, which was attributed to personality differences (even among similar temperaments). While active listening seems like a good idea in theory, it almost never is practiced or works in real life settings, because if there is any negativity at all, the listener finds that hard to ignore and will usually react to it.

One of the biggest indicators for a successful relationship is having a “soft” start-up. This usually puts the pressure on women, since we are the ones who bring up issues in the relationship 80 percent of the time. The

positive responses in these conflicts were from couples in relationships who used the gentler start-up. So remember to keep your sense of humor, and be sensitive to your beloved! Dialogue is necessary to avoid “gridlock” in conflicts, and remember, God created us uniquely, so rejoice in that!

Present Issues as Situational Joint Problems Instead of blaming your spouse for your feelings of irritability and disappointment in the relationship, express how you feel, but then identify your needs. Be gentle in this conversation. Focus on what he or she is doing right, and acknowledge that first. Remember, you’re not perfect either, so don’t expect gratitude for your complaints.

Successful Repair Attempts No one is perfect. After years of spending time with someone, you’re going to get on their nerves from time to time, and vice versa. This is actually a good thing! It helps us identify our areas of weakness beyond the shadow of a doubt, and remain humble through seeking correction.

Your goal in a relationship is not to avoid these conflict situations, or punish yourself when they happen, but rather process the damage done and make repair. This point of repair is so crucial. Saying sorry alone is never enough. Work with your spouse in identifying those areas where you strayed, apologize for those specifics, and ask what you can do to make it up to them.

I teach my daughters that for every offense they commit to one another, they must actively seek three to five good things to do in reparation for them. Repairs also help maintain the positive balance in the relationship.

Remaining Physiologically Calm During Conflict Once adrenaline is flooding our bodies, we are rendered incapable of empathetic conversation. Learn

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techniques and skills to self-soothe.

When you sense your temper rising, either take a break, or interject with some humor. Reach out to hold each other’s hands. Stop the negativity in its tracks. These skills will not only help you in your marriage, but they will help you as a parent when you teach your children positive methods of self-soothing.

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Resist the pattern of turning down every request your husband and wife makes. Accepting influence means looking at your beloved’s point of view, and allowing their way, as long as it’s not immoral. This means stretching your comfort zone. So if your significant other asks for you to wake up early on a Saturday morning to pray in front of abortion clinic, for example, try it, instead of making excuses or backing down.

Building Friendship, Intimacy and Positivity Affects Systems This is where couples who practice Natural Family Planning have an advantage. There is already that regular built-in daily evaluation of how you’re going to spend your time together, and how you will show your love for one another. The issue isn’t whether you do love each other, but rather which way are you going to express it today? This just means keeping up the courtship all throughout marriage. Learn to love each other well. Keep a greater ratio of positivity to negativity. Start those habits now, and you’ll have a seamless transition into marriage.

My husband, Alex and I can attribute much of our success in marriage to prayer, regularly receiving the sacraments, and following these points in our relationship. After reading these points, maybe you’ll find an area that needs improvement in your own relationship. If you recognize these habits in your own relationship, congrats! Keep up the good work; you’re on the road to happily ever after. BC

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