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Hey Taylor –I’m in between jobs and trying to find some direction. People tell me to find Taylor something that Kovar suits my strengths, but I always second guess what I’m good at. How do I figure out what I do well without just being unrealistically confident? - Elsie
Hey Elsie - It’s hard to manufacture confidence, and that’s something overlooked when people are searching for direction. Until you feel confident about what you’re doing, you won’t know if you’re playing to your strengths or not. Meanwhile, that confidence isn’t going to come until you have experience.
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Fortunately, there are multiple ways to assess whether or not you’re good at something. The most important factor to watch for is your excitement level. If you feel passionate while doing the work, even when the work isn’t great, you’re showing a significant strength. It might not be evident in the results, but staying excited and persevering is a talent in and of itself.
The question then becomes will this passion and perseverance lead to a career? This is where many people have a hard time making their strengths fit into a job title. You might be really fascinated by certain elements of web design and photo editing, but you don’t know if you should be a designer or an editor or an animator.
The solution is to ignore the moniker. Not every job will fit all of your strengths, but that doesn’t mean you’re wrong for the position. Every career will come with a learning curve; you should expect to learn on the job while letting your best abilities serve as an entry point. Don’t search for a named role within a company, and instead look for any place where you can work on something
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live on Timbercreek Drive with his wife Betty of 15 years. Over on Timbercreek, they say they have the best neighbors in the whole world. They sit on their porch and watcher their neighbors mow and trim their yard again, and again.
“They do love their neighbor as themselves,” said Elwood. “This is just half of the fondness and love these neighbors show.”
On Saturday, the neighbors planned a birthday party for Elwood. He says he had the best birthday dinner to celebrate entering the 90s. There are good people all around you. Just look. ***** Did criminals of the world who love money and power take over the world many years ago? Do you get crazy insanely rich by being an honest fella, generally speaking? And if these criminals had fellow criminals in place, bribed to not prosecute them for their crimes, could they be allowed to feast on the world for more power and money? Was there one egotistical guy, with all his flaws, that ran for president who wasn’t in the club? Did he not take the bribes from the mob, therefore, not controlled by the mob? Did he vow to take down these people? With all their evil fortunes, might, and power, could they have declared war on America who dares to interfere with their criminal enterprise? Would they want to do away with all that makes America America like its history, lessons, faith, and culture? Is this a war for our freedom?
I will never believe that America is a racist country full of hate. When this becomes the front page of “20 years ago this week”, we might know the outcome of these questions above. Maybe. Depends on November I guess. It seems as if a person’s value is measured for their vote and for their monetary tax contribution. To try and control both of those measurements, talking points have been instituted. Controlled systems of information can sway the two, especially of 90 percent of the narrative is owned by six corporations.
The Howe Enterprise is one of the 10 percent and that’s why we’ve been attacked. Hackers have tried to silence us and we’ve had to block every country outside of the U.S. from accessing our site. The truth has never been more savage.
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Remember, strengths don’t have to be specific trades like accounting or welding. Listening, problem solving, organizing and communicating are all valuable assets employers look for. I know plenty of people who have landed jobs they initially thought they weren’t qualified for, but they were hired because they had personality traits and skills that can’t really be taught.
So, what do you like to do? When you’re doing that thing or those things, what makes you feel confident about your effort, and what keeps you engaged in the activity? Even if you start by focusing on a leisurely task like reading or gardening, there are still strengths on display. Your love of fantasy novels might not feel like it translates directly to a marketable skill, but it’s not as far off as you think.
We’re typically the best at things we like to do, and that’s where you should start. Consider jobs from your past that have given you moments of excitement, and think about why that was. Eventually, you’ll be able to align your passions and be a few steps away from a great career. Good luck!
Legal Disclaimer: Information presented is for educational purposes only and is not an offer or solicitation for the sale or purchase of any specific securities, investments, or investment strategies. Investments involve risk and, unless otherwise stated, are not guaranteed. Be sure to first consult with a qualified financial adviser and/or tax professional before implementing any strategy discussed herein. To submit a question to be answered in this column, please send it via email to Question@GoFarWithKovar.com or via USPS to Taylor Kovar, 415 S 1st St, Suite 300, Lufkin, TX 75901. I have long maintained that the significant per-capita increase in child and adolescent mental health John problems since Rosemond the 1960s – a ten -fold increase in suicide, for example – is due to the collective embrace of a parenting paradigm that has proven itself to be not only dysfunctional but also dangerous – ironically, to child and teen mental health. This new paradigm, which I term “Postmodern Psychological Parenting,” was cut from whole cloth by America’s mental health establishment.
I was in graduate school when PPP was cobbled together, given fake scientific bona fides, and set in motion. At its core is the notion that good parenting is primarily a matter of permitting, understanding, and properly responding to a child’s emotional expressions.
Individuals who have achieved a state of authentic adulthood –which has nothing to do with one’s chronological age – know that emotions are, on one hand, one of the wonders of being human but on the other, one of the most destructive of human attributes. On their dark side, they destroy people and relationships, not to mention various personal properties ranging from dishes and lamps to Wal Marts. Like a child’s thinking, emotions must be disciplined, trained. The chaff of emotion must be separated from the wheat and the earlier that training begins, the better for all concerned. more than an indication of proper thinking and emotional restraint.
Unfortunately, the new paradigm took hold and has wreaked havoc since. Ironically, the very profession responsible for the national child and adolescent mental health mess markets itself as exclusively qualified to treat it. At the individual level, psychologists (keep in mind, dear reader, I am one) call it by various scientific-sounding names like “emotional dysregulation disorder” that, as in that very case, have no scientific validity whatsoever.
One “treatment” facility’s website says that kids with EDD “can have biological predispositions for emotional reactivity that can be exasperated by chronic low levels of invalidation in their environments resulting in emotional dysregulation.” I think they meant “exacerbated by chronically low levels of validation.” Nonetheless, said facility can prove not one aspect of that statement. Furthermore, validating a child’s every emotion is at the heart of the problem, not by any means a solution.
The solution is for parents to stop allowing their children’s emotional states to drive their decisions and run their families; for parents to stop striving for fun, give-and-take relationships with their kids and assume their rightful authority – calm, decisive, rational and intentional.
Paradoxically, good child mental health begins with the child realizing his parents are not there to ensure his perpetual happiness. He will be much happier from that point on.
The term “behavior modification” entered parenting vocabulary in the late 1960s. The implication was that the discipline of a child was all about his or her behavior. Previously, before psychobabble reigned in American childrearing, it was generally understood that discipline was needed to teach children not only to behave correctly, but also to think and emote correctly. In fact, proper (pro-social) behavior is nothing Family psychologist John Rosemond: johnrosemond.com, p arentguru.com.
