What parents need to know about cyberbullying

With the growing use of technology, our kids are at an increased risk of cyberbullying. But what is it, and how can we protect them? We spoke to Anita Low-Lim, Media Literacy Council member and senior director at TOUCH Integrated Family Group, to find out more.

What is cyberbullying? How can cyberbullying affect my child?

“Cyberbullying is the act of using technology to harass, threaten, embarrass or target another person. There are five forms of cyberbullying. You might have heard of harassment and impersonation, but what about flaming (using hostile online interactions to hurt another)? Then there’s denigration, where cyberbullies post cruel rumours, and doxxing – where bullies use identifying information about an individual to discredit them.“

“Victims of cyberbullying may feel anxious and depressed, as it destroys their selfconfidence, self-esteem and happiness,” says Anita. “Or they might feel vulnerable and powerless if their bullies are acting anonymously. You might notice your child has lost interest. Instead of hanging out with their family and friends, they may prefer to be alone.”

How to protect my kid from cyberbullying?

“Take active steps to discuss the consequences of online bullying and the impact of a person’s actions online,” shares Anita. As parents, it’s also great to be well-informed by reading up on the preventive functions available on apps instead of restricting access.”

TOUCH Cyber Wellness’ five-step method:

1. Stop – Teach them to stop what they’re doing if they encounter something that makes them feel uncomfortable, fearful or hurt.

2. Block – Cut off all lines of communication.

3. Save – Save all evidence of cyberbullying – preferably in both hard and soft copies.

4. Tell – It’s important you let your kids know that rather than keeping everything to themselves, they can always tell a trusted adult (parents or teachers).

5. Report – If the previous tips aren’t effective in stopping cyberbullying, your children may need to report the cyberbullies to the relevant authorities.

Anita advises parents to help their children find an identity outside of cyberspace to strengthen their ability to maintain emotional stability and cope with stress. “Parents should keep the lines of communication open and check in with their children. This will allow children to share info that they post online. In turn, it’ll help keep you in the loop, too.”