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Parenting Differences Parenting is tough and when two parents are arguing about the right way to discipline a child it can end up backfiring and working against both of them. Often times each spouse feels judged and misunderstood because their partner is not supporting their position. To make matters worse, each partner probably disagrees with the child rearing techniques of the other parent.

The good news is that this is a common occurrence in coupleships and happens in all families.

Consider this scenario: Perhaps your child is having difficulty going to sleep and is getting out of bed to come sleep with Mommy and Daddy. Mother wants to ignore the behavior, or read him several good night stories, or leave the light on and let him play games.

Dad wants to punish him by spanking him for his incessant crying and “wimpy” behavior. In actuality these approaches have been utilized in the past and have not been successful. So it appears that nothing is working and ultimately your child’s refusal to sleep on his own has resulted in lots of anger and tension for you both.

By the time this couple gets to counseling my objective is to get them to do two very important things. First, I want to make sure that each person’s suggestion has been heard. This involves each person repeating back “verbatim” what the other person has said.

That may look like this.....

Mother says, “I just want to work on decreasing his fear by making him feel more at ease at night by making bedtime more enjoyable and less stressful and when I read to him, he seems to be more relaxed and ready for bedtime.”

Father is thinking, “Well that sounds good but that method hasn’t been working and I believe that we are rewarding bad behavior.

Even though he is thinking that thought he repeats what he heard

instead (verbatim). “ I heard you say that you want him to go to bed with less stress and so when you read to him it helps him to relax...is that correct?” Mother than gets a chance to respond.

Carol Juergensen Sheets Now it is Dads turn to voice his opinions and thoughts. Dad says, “Our son is capable of going to bed and staying there so we need to discipline him when he doesn’t listen to us. He will eventually get the message once he sees that we mean business by spanking him.”

Mom is thinking ....We have spanked him and that has accomplished nothing except get him wound up....but instead she uses reflective listening and says, I heard you say that you think we are too easy on him and a spanking would send him a stern message that this behavior is unacceptable.

Dad may say “That is not exactly what I said but you got the general message.” I would then ask Mom to restate what Dad said and she might reiterate the following. “OK, I heard you say that Tommy is capable of staying in bed and when he doesn’t follow our guidelines you think a spanking is in order.” Dad responds with “That is exactly what I said.”

Once each person feels heard it is a lot easier to compromise and negotiate a parenting technique that works for both of them.

More than likely either technique will work if done long enough with consistency so the next goal is to get each parent to agree to try one technique daily for the next 30 days. In 95% of all situations, any parenting technique will work when the parents use it with steadiness!

Carol Juergensen Sheets LCSW PCC is a psychotherapist and personal life coach. She does motivational speaking and empowerment trainings nationally. To find out more about her services--contact her at www.carolthecoach.com or call her at 317-218-3479.

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August Calendar of Events Saturday, August 2nd 10:30AM Tales and Trails. The Forrest L. Wood Crowley’s Ridge Nature Center in Jonesboro invites you to Tales and Trails Nature Stories and Crafts for ages 5-8 every first Saturday of the month.

Rhea Lana’s of Jonesboro August 3-9 with Private Pre-Sale August 2.

Join us for the premier Children’s Consignment event in NEA. Go to www.jonesboro.rhealana.com for more information.

Tuesday, August 5 Teens: T-Shirt Jewelry Making, at 4:00 pm Round Room at Jonesboro Public Library. Teens will take old t-shirts and transform them into t-shirt scarves and jewelry during this craft hour!

Starting at 4 p.m. in the library round room on August 5th.

August 7 5:00 pm – 8:00 pm Alive After Five - Downtown Jonesboro Alive After Five, an open-air street festival established in 2013 by the Downtown Jonesboro Association, is held on the Third Thursdays of the month.

Teens: Thursday, August 14, 2014 at 3:00 pm - Round Room The library will host “totally tweens” every Thursday during the summer reading club programming. This summer the theme is science! Tweens are those who are 4th-6th graders. They must have finished 4th grade going into 5th grade and finished 6th grade going into 7th to qualify. It’s the last totally tweens of the summer! Join us to get

marked with your very own temporary henna tattoo on August 14th.

Saturday, August 16th 10:00 AM Creature Feature at Forest L Wood Crowley’s Ridge Nature Center. Join the Nature Center educator as they introduce you to a resident critter.

August 21 5:00 pm – 8:00 pm Alive After Five - Downtown Jonesboro Craving a farm fresh tomato? How about the wonderful homemade taste of a canned grape jelly? Alive After Five, an open-air street festival established in 2013 by the Downtown Jonesboro Association, is held on the Third Thursdays of the month. This festive event features local artisans, farmer’s products, live music, kids corner and a Downtown open-air Movie Night!

It’s safe to say there is something for everyone at Alive After Five in Downtown Jonesboro. Market items include: fresh fruit and vegetables, home baked goods, flowers, local hand made gifts, and much more!

Come be Alive After Five in Downtown Jonesboro!

Saturday, August 23rd 10:00 AM Creature Feature at Forest L Wood Crowley’s Ridge Nature Center. Join the Nature Center educator as they introduce you to a resident critter.

Saturday, August 30th 10:00 AM Creature Feature at Forest L Wood Crowley’s Ridge Nature Center. Join the Nature Center educator as they introduce you to a resident critter.

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Monday

Tamolly’s Kids eat for 1.99 from the kids menu (nights only)

Tuesday

Pizza Hut Free kids buffet with adult buffet purchase Shorty Small’s Kids eat free after 5pm with purchase of adult meal Fazoli’s 5-8pm Kids 12 and under eat for .99 with adult meal Pizza Inn Free kids buffet with adult buffet purchase nights only

Wednesday

IHOP Wednesday- Kids eat free form 4-10pm with purchase of adult entrée Lenny’s Free kid’s meal on Wednesdays with adult combo

Thursday

Front Page Café 1 free kids meal with purchase of adult meal after 4pm Ryan’s Kids eat for .99 with purchase of adult meal from 5-8pm

Saturday

Dixie Café 11-4pm, kids eat for 1.99 plus get a free sundae with adult meal purchase

Sunday

Slim Chickens 1 free kids meal per adult entrée purchase Lenny’s Sub Shop 10% off entire ticket with church bulletin (Please call ahead to verify details)

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