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Features 18 Poisonous Plastics?

Chemical Compound Poses Significant Health Hazards 22 The Pros And Cons Of Paying Off Your Mortgage 26 Desire Also Arouses Partner Fashion

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30 Picking Berries: Powerful Antioxidants For Your Wardrobe 32 100 Ways To Style 34 Going For The Gold 36 If The Shoe Fits... Footwear Trends

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38 Isaac Mizrahi: A Real-World Approach to Style Holidays 42 Holiday Blues 46 Don’t Let Family Foibles Keep You Away From Home On The Holidays 52 The Wrong Gift Can Be Disastrous For New Couples 54 Gift Ideas 58 Avoid Seasonal Diet Dangers

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Health and Fitness 62 A Little Knowledge Goes A Long Way During Cold And Flu Season

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Poisonous Plastics?

Chemical Compound Poses Significant Health Hazards

By Rallie Mcallister, M.D.

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chemical compound in plastic products may

be hazardous to human health. A growing body of scientific evidence suggests that the chemical, known as Bisphenol A, is linked to an increased risk for metabolic disorders, cellular abnormalities and heart disease.

Bisphenol A (BPA) is used as a building block for the production of polycarbonate plastics found in a variety of household consumer products, including baby bottles, some food storage containers, and the linings of milk containers and food cans. The chemical is also present in some water pipes and dental sealants.

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that the chemical linkage between individual BPA molecules is unstable. This chemical instability is what allows BPA to leach into food and beverages that come in contact with the plastics.

About 2 billion pounds of BPA are produced annually in the United States, and human exposure to the substance is widespread. Scientists estimate that over 90 percent of Americans have measurable

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blood levels of the chemical com- mimics the actions of natural estrogens in the body. Although natural estrogen pound.

Researchers at the University of Cincin- has many positive effects, it is known to nati recently reported that BPA is a risk trigger cancer of the breast and uterus in factor for metabolic syndrome, a condition some individuals.

In April 2008, researchers at the Califorcharacterized by high blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar abnormalities, and nia Pacific Medical Center Research Instiexcess abdominal fat. Approximately one tute reported that exposure to BPA causes in four Americans currently suffers from normal, non-cancerous human breast cells metabolic syndrome, according to the Na- to express genes that are characteristic of aggressive breast cancer tional Institutes of Health.

Previous research sugIn laboratory studies, the BPA is a cause cells. gested that BPA exposure University of Cincinnati scimay increase the growth of entists exposed freshly colof concern some prostate cancer cells, lected human fat tissue to as well.

BPA. The results of their If you’re concerned about research revealed that BPA regarding the health risks associated suppresses adiponectin, a with BPA, there are a few hormone that plays a key role effects on steps you can take to reduce in the regulation of insulin your exposure, including and blood sugar in the body. developing avoiding microwaving food Higher urine levels of BPA or beverages in polycarbonare associated with heart ate plastic containers. Polydisease, type 2 diabetes and brain and carbonate containers with liver-enzyme abnormalities, according to the results of a prostate tissues BPA are usually stamped with “No. 7” on the bottom. study published in the Sept.

It’s also a good idea to opt 17 issue of Journal of the in unborn for containers made of glass, American Medical Associaporcelain or stainless steel tion (JAMA). The release of the study coincides with a babies, infants whenever possible, especially when preparing or serving Food and Drug Administration hearing concerning the and children. hot foods or liquids. Only BPA-free baby bottles should health risks of BPA. be used to feed infants.

A report released by the While the age and condition of plastic National Toxicology Program indicated that the current level of exposure to BPA products is commonly believed to be a is a cause of concern regarding effects on factor in BPA exposure, a University of developing brain and prostate tissues in Cincinnati study recently revealed that unborn babies, infants and children. High old polycarbonate plastic bottles release concentrations of the chemical have been the same amount of BPA as new bottles. reported in the blood of some pregnant When exposed to boiling water, both old and new bottles released BPA as much as 55 women in the United States.

Recent research reveals that BPA can times more rapidly than before they were alter the development of the reproductive exposed to the hot water.

Although much remains to be learned tract of unborn females. Some experts fear that the chemical may negatively about the effects of BPA, it is becoming impact the future fertility of individuals increasingly evident that even at very low who were exposed to the chemical even levels, long-term exposure to this chemical may be hazardous to your health. ∆ before birth.

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The Pros And Cons Of Paying Off Your Mortgage Carrie Schwab Pomerantz

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ith all the recent focus on lending practices, foreclosures and economic pressures in general, I’ve been getting a lot of questions from readers concerning the pros and cons of paying off a mortgage.

Understandably, many people are concerned that carrying a mortgage might be a detriment to their financial future. And those struggling to meet their monthly mortgage payments are wondering if November-December 2008

there’s any light at the end of the tunnel.

First of all, I want to stress that having a mortgage isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

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be a valuable part of your financial plan. If you have a fixed-rate, affordable mortgage, you may be just fine sticking with your current payment schedule.

But there are ways to look at your mortgage and handle your payments that can help you feel in greater control as well as decrease your debt burden overtime. For those folks close to retirement, this might be especially interesting, since lessening debt in this phase of life can be both economically and psychologically freeing.

So should you try to pay down a mortgage early? The answer is a bit more complicated. It depends a lot on your personal situation, including tax issues, how you feel about risk, your current portfolio and what else you might do with the money.

However, when you look at your mortgage in the context of your overall financial health, there are some general considerations that can help you decide if to make paying off your mortgage a priority.

WHAT TO DO BEFORE PAYING DOWN A MORTGAGE The extra dollars you put toward decreasing your mortgage may actually be better spent elsewhere. Before focusing on your mortgage, make sure you’ve first covered the following bases: • Have you saved enough for retirement and taken advantage of any available employer match in your company retirement plan? This should be number one on your list. At the very least, contribute enough to take advantage of any employer matching contribution. Failing to do so is similar to leaving free money on the table.

• Have you paid off your “expensive” debt? High-interest, non-deductible debt (the opposite of a mortgage) is the type of debt to get rid of first. That means credit card debt and possibly an auto loan. If you have multiple credit cards, start by eliminating the amount on the card with the highest rate. Not paying that extra 13 percent to 18 percent a year could give you more cash to put toward your mortgage.

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three months of non-discretionary living expenses stashed in a safe, liquid investment vehicle for that proverbial rainy day. If something happens -- an unexpected illness or unemployment -- your emergency fund can help you avoid more debt. And the fund might keep you out of foreclosure.

• Have you maxed out your retirement savings contribution? Assuming you’ve already taken advantage of any available employer match and have an adequate emergency fund, your next step should be to fund your retirement accounts to the maximum the law allows, if possible.

If you’re over 50, take advantage of the “catch-up provision” and add extra money to your 401(k) or IRA -- up to $5,000 per year for 401(k) plans, and up to $1,000 for IRAs and Roth IRAs. • Have you saved for your child’s education? This may not apply if you’re nearing retirement, but setting aside money for a child’s education -- through tax-advantaged vehicles like 529 plans -- could be higher on the priority list than decreasing your mortgage amount.

• Do you have a home equity line? If you do, it’s probably at a higher rate than your underlying mortgage; it only makes sense to pay down your equity line first.

WEIGHING THE TAX BREAKS Tax-deductible interest is often cited as one of the biggest pluses for carrying a mortgage. And for many people that tax break is significant, especially if you have a large mortgage or are in a high tax bracket.

Currently you can deduct the interest expense on up to $1 million of homesecured debt -- used to purchase or make capital improvements on your qualified principal and/or second residence. You may also subtract the interest expense on up to $100,000 of home equity debt secured by your home, whether in the form of a regular loan or revolving line of credit. But once you’ve paid off the original mortgage, you’ll be limited to the $100,000 home equity debt ceiling, 86

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Desire Also Arouses Partner

By Jan Denise

“He’s just not that interested in sex anymore, and desire has always been a big turn-on for me.”

She said the words, without realizing their significance, during a weekend retreat designed to help her and her husband restore intimacy in their relationship. Women want to be sexually desired. It’s in their genes and, for the most part, they work at it.

So, when men don’t demonstrate their longing, women can be sorely disappointed.

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What many women don’t seem to understand is that men are also turned on by their partner’s yearning and this can be particularly true in a committed relationship, in which the man is foregoing the variety he’s biologically driven to seek out.

So, what happens when both partners develop a takeit-or-leave-it attitude about sex? Right -- they don’t have it very often. And their desire continues to wane.

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be nonchalant. Smile. And, yes, your nonchalance (like his) can be a big turn off.

And the hard-to-get strategy can be downright ineffective played amidst the daily grind, breeding more resentment than desire.

If you want your partner to demonstrate heated desire, demonstrate your own. If you’ve lost it, take the time to find it.

That might sound easier than it is -- not because it’s difficult, but because you have to want to find it enough to make it a priority, enough to devote time to that, instead of about a million other things.

And, let’s face it, it’s easier to simply forego sex and blame it on your partner’s lack of desire.

This is especially true as you get older. Then, you can chalk it off to hormones or impotence or normal aging.

But, you’re not really kidding yourself, right? Sex can be enjoyed into your 90s and, probably, beyond.

Having sex is an ideal way to signal your body to keep rejuvenating, rather than yield to the tide of atrophy. That is precisely what exercise does.

OK, how do you find lost desire? Renew your commitment to being desirable.

When you know that you are, you’re less apt to personalize your partner’s lack of passion.

That gets your ego out of the way, so that you can find your sweetheart sexually attractive, even if he (or she) is oblivious to your charms and lingerie.

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If you want your partner to demonstrate heated desire, demonstrate your own. If you’ve lost it, take the time to find it.

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to ignore sincere desire. He won’t want to -- just the way you don’t want to. Please note that I’m not talking about mere sexual craving; I’m talking about desire specific to your partner.

While primal lust can be very appealing, it can also seem distasteful when the “object” of your lust is not that “into you.”

It’s difficult to separate ego from sex. Part of the glory of sex is historically being sought after and being able to please... you know being the “best lover he ever had.”

And wanting him has been almost synonymous with his wanting you and wanting him to want you!

A committed relationship, though, especially between mature adults just might demand a change, unless, that is, you want to continue to let the passion die. The problem is that when you pull the plug on sexual passion, you pull the plug on other pieces of your life.

And all those pieces are connected. They don’t live and die independent of each other.

So, if you want to live, take the time to keep sex alive in your relationship. And, yes, I’m saying that that can be about as simple as finding the desire you let go of for your partner.

Find it. And chances are he’ll find his.

With it, you’ll both enjoy a more satisfying relationship, and a healthier, probably longer, life. ∆

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Picking

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his season, juicy berry richness that will delight strawberry-red satin sheaths plump blueberry bracelets, season conjure up a fruitful delights ­­— served as for your

New York designer Carmen Marc Valvo chooses a sophisticated berry-toned palette for his fall 2008 runway collection.

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Here’s how to juice up your wardrobe: • Start with accessories. If you have a lot of neutrals in your wardrobe, you can easily add some berry-colored extras that will give your blacks, grays and even jeans new life. Some examples include: a pop of blue crystal square stones at your ears, a punch of a patent leather purple pump, a luxe leather scarlet satchel or shiny red driving moccasins. Don’t worry about matching anything with these saturated bursts of color; one delicious serving is all you need.

• Get a leg up. A great way to put some energy into your wardrobe is to make a small investment in some berry-colored tights. Whether you wear bold red tights with a black skirt or fuchsia hosiery peeking out from underneath your trousers, colored leg-wear is a big boost for fall basics.

• Lay it on the lips. OK, pump up the volume with new lipsticks and lip pencils.

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A new season is the perfect time to browse your favorite makeup counters; get a few tips from the pros who have all the latest colors literally at their fingertips. They can help you decide if you need a spicy red or a more subtle burgundy stain. Maybe you’ll want both!

• Nail it. Treat yourself to a manicure and pedicure and try a new berry-toned color. Don’t be afraid to go a little darker than your standard summer peaches and pinks. It’s time to experiment with a quick way to receive a fashion pick-me-up for a new season.

• Go for the big time. It’s hard to resist the raspberry satin sheath dresses, the purple trench coats or the raspberry leather jackets. These are the knockout pieces that will make you standout in any crowd; they provide the “wow-factor.” As with accessories, it only takes one bite of these intense colors to send your whole wardrobe into another realm. ∆

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Ways To Style

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efore you flip through another fashion magazine, step inside another designer boutique or order another pair of shoes online, pick up a copy of Nina Garcia’s latest style book: “The One Hundred: A Guide to the Pieces Every Stylish Woman Must Own.” Illustrated by famous artist Ruben Toledo, Garcia’s fashion book should be at the top of every woman’s shopping list this season.

The fashion expert and judge on Bravo’s hit show, “Project Runway,” has put together a collection of stylish “must-haves” that have stood the test of time, surviving fads and fashion-cycles. Garcia takes us into her closet and pulls out all the items “I simply cannot imagine living without,” she says. “Simply put, these items make me feel classic.”

Even though Garcia has seen fashion trends come and go in her years as a fashion director, she has also noticed that certain items seem to always “be a part of the rotation.”

She explains: “Some may sit out for a year or two (perhaps even more), but they always come back. The color may change, the fabric may change, the designer or brand may change, but in essence the items in this book have always been the backbone of fashion, and, with a bit of

self-editing, each has been one of my style touchstones.”

Garcia’s 284-page guide is packed with information about each of the one hundred items she considers “style pillars,” all arranged in alphabetical order from the Aline dress (the dress that should be in every girl’s closet today “because it is so damn flattering”) to the Zippered Hoodie (“that has become the denim or leather jacket of the modern day”).

Garcia’s list contains essential articles for stylish women to own: a Blackberry, iPod, Ray Ban Wayfarers, a gentleman’s hat, an Eres swimsuit and the right red lipstick.

When it comes to shoes: think ballet flats, Converse sneakers, Frye cowboy boots, driving shoes, knee boots, Minnetonka moccasins, K. Jacques sandals, and many stilettos by Manolo Blahnik, Jimmy Choo or Christian Louboutin.

Garcia also shares her sources for the inside track on her favorite fashion items: Black opaque tights? Look for Wolfords.

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The wide-leg pant is one of Nina Garcia’s must-have fashion items listed in “The One Hundred.” The model is wearing a Bisou Bisou printed unitard and Mixit wide-leg pant.

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Going For The T

he metallic mania is a winner this season. The golden girls are setting the standard in everything from gold-encrusted shoes to sparkling sequined shifts to shimmering eyes and nails.

Here are a few golden rules: • Start with accessories: the simplest gold hoops, a gilded cuff bracelet, a gold-crackled leather clutch, a statementmaking discus ring or a pair of killer gold leather stilettos. These sparkling accessories will make any wardrobe shine (www. vivre.com).

• Wear one bold piece. Gold is the season’s newest neutral. A gold-sequined sheath dress will give you endless possibilities. A great gold-beaded tank will

Gold is a shining trend in fashion this season.

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• Make your hair luminous. Ask your stylist about giving your hair a subtle shine with lowlights or highlights to prolong that golden glow of summer. Or switch to a new shampoo like Pantene’s new Expressions collection to help restore vibrancy to dull color-treated hair.

• Brighten up your skin. If your complexion is a little pale, why not brighten it up with a holiday shimmer? There are many beauty products that will give you a boost. Try Benefit Lust Duster in Goldilocks (www.benefitcosmetics.com).

• Go for glowing lips. We all need a change in lip color every now and then.

Now’s a great time to switch to something more seasonal. Shiseido’s Lip Gloss in “Mellow Gold” is a great way to leave the hot pinks behind and ease into fall.

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• Make your nail polish shine. It’s a quick and easy way to get the Midas touch without going all out. One of the best for fall: Chanel’s “Gold Fiction.”

• Take a beauty break, but don’t forget tired, puffy eyes. Try Elizabeth Arden’s Ceramide Gold Eye Capsules (www.elizabetharden.com). ∆

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f there’s one item that women love to buy, even in a down economy, it’s shoes. Take it from Cinderella who finally found the right fit and lived happily ever after.

A new pair of fabulous shoes can lift your spirits and add instant style to any outfit, even if it’s the black suit that you have worn for years.

Shoe shopping is the perfect way to spend a Saturday afternoon. Browse the designer collections in your favorite shoe department or boutique, and check out what the big boys (Jimmy Choo, Christian Louboutin, Manolo Blahnik) are doing.

Then pinpoint your favorite shoes in your price range. And remember, the cheapest shoes are not always the best buy -purchase the best shoes you can afford.

Although you may not follow all the fashion trends, you can easily capture the season’s updated “moment” when you slip into one of these new silhouettes: The shoe boot Dubbed the “shootie” by the footwear industry, this half boot, half-shoe is the season’s No. 1 fashion trend. While models strutted these high-vamp boots down the runway often barelegged with pencil skirts, the shootie usually looks best when worn with dark tights, skinny jeans or menswear trousers, creating a long and lean monochromatic look.

The knee-high boot A classic that keeps getting better. The newest flat leather boots are still inspired by the old-school riding boot, but are now November-December 2008

dressed up with rock-star hardware and fringe trim. For a funkier take on the tall boot, tuck your jeans into a pair of suede, fleece-lined moccasin boots.

The colored pump While most of us need to have a black pump in our shoe closets, it doesn’t mean you can’t step into the office occasionally in a burst of color. This season, the berry colors are the best in leather and suede; dark magenta red is my personal favorite.

If you don’t want your feet to be quite that happy, consider switching to a more neutral pewter or bronze pump.

The embellished flat Sometimes there’s nothing better than slipping into a comfortable flat; however, our flats are the ones that often take the most pounding, day in and day out. Perk up your everyday flats with something that has a little more punch. Flats now contain extra decorative details: jewels, buckles, chains or bows.

The evening shoe Not only consisting of metallic high-heel sandals anymore, the glamorous party shoes can be an icy-blue satin shoe boot, rhinestone-studded, ankle-strap stilettos or a pair of purple, python peep-toe pumps.

Now these shoes are definitely for happy feet. ∆

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The shoe boot is a favorite footwear trend. Here, Banana Republic’s “bobbi” boot in black patent leather finishes off the head-to-toe look.

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Isaac Mizrahi suggests building a denim wardrobe by starting with the perfect jeans and layering with more denim. Try a denim jacket or vest over a denim shirt. “Multitask denim,” he says. “It works for you in more than one way.”

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Bravo, we were getting tired of those types of shows anyway. I mean, let’s get real -- down to the fashion nitty-gritty.

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“I can give you all my style tips and ideas about your hair, makeup and dress, but none of this is going to do anything for you if you don’t learn to accept yourself and love who you are,” says Mizrahi who took the hands of 12 “real” women -- both skinny and plus-size -- and in over 600 photographs and sketches shows us all how we can also look great.

Here’s a stylebook that has fashion tips for every size. Some of Mizrahi’s best advice includes:

• Start your own inspiration board.

He suggests finding a corkboard and pushpins. Then collect your favorite visual images: photographs, advertisements or paint-color swatches. After a few weeks, you will see your own personal styles start to emerge.

• Put together your own “fashion” style team. Find a great hairstylist. Enlist the help of a personal shopper and makeup artist at your favorite stores. Start the process of working with what you have -- enjoy developing your own unique sense of fashion.

• Find five to 10 items that produce instant style and keep them on hand. These items could be fishnet tights, animal-print flats or a designer scarf.

• Play this fashion game. “Find an outfit or a look in a fashion magazine that you love and then try to recreate it from your own closet. You might be surprised to discover what’s lurking in your wardrobe.”

• When in doubt, wear black. “But to stand out, you must mix patterns and textures,” adds Mizrahi. “Black is always great for appearing slimmer and taller, but it’s also good to add a bit of contrasting color to the outfit.”

• When wearing color, Mizrahi urges women to start small. “Accessorize with one color in many different hues.” Then once you find your favorite color, start mixing them within spectrums. For instance, he pairs turquoise satin ankle wedges with a dark-blue satin dress on one model in the book.

• Teach yourself to buy less stuff.

“Spend more money on a few exceptional, high-quality items that you will wear again and again,” says Mizrahi. His list includes cashmere sweaters, a classic trench coat and a timeless dress.

• Take a staple like denim and dress it up. You can use a metallic jacket, a designer handbag, bejeweled flats, an eye-catching belt or glamorous sunglasses.

And one of Mizrahi’s best tips to remember: “No one is looking at your imperfections; they’re all too busy worrying about their own.”

For more of Isaac’s tips and his great blogs check out www.isaacmizrahi.com or www.watchisaac.com. ∆

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invest deeply in pieces that you love and will love season after season, these items become yours. They show the world that you know who you are. You are no fashion victim. You are an original. Start dressing like one.”

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Holiday Blues R.J. Ignelzi

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t’s that time of year again. Christmas carols trumpet across crowded malls. Tiny lights twinkle from rooftops and trees. Homes fill with laughter and frivolity.

And all you want to do is burrow into the sofa with the TV remote and a bag of cookies.

While the holiday season is a time of giving, goodwill and cheer for many people, for some others it can mean weeks of sadness, despair and increased anxiety.

“The holiday blues are a result of a high-pressure time that is intensified by commercialism and expectations of past holidays,” says psychologist George Pratt. “We can all be affected this time of year, particularly if we have expectations that exceed our ability to cope with the holidays.”

The holiday blues aren’t restricted to the Christmas or hanukkah season. They can happen at any holiday or vacation time.

“Because so much of the world celebrates the holidays at this time of year, it’s hard to escape it,” says psychiatry professor William Perry. “We are told that we’re supposed to feel happy and excited this time of year, and if we don’t, we have selfdoubt and a sense of unsettledness.”

The holiday blues can mimic a low-grade clinical depression.

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There’s likely to be a disruption of sleep, appetite and concentration. A negative mood, lethargy, feeling of low self-worth and maybe an increase in physical pain are common.

What distinguishes it from a more serious depression is duration and severity. It generally dissipates after the festivities are over and life’s normal routine resumes.

But just because holiday blues are temporary doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take this seasonal depression seriously. No matter if it lasts five days or five weeks, it’s too long to feel miserable and not enjoy life. Because different people are emotionally affected by different triggers, it’s important to determine what contributes to your dark mood, so you can work to ease or prevent it.

Mental health experts caution that if the depression impacts your life to the point that you lose your ability to work and function, you need to seek professional intervention.

The following are some common causes of the holiday blues and what you can do to feel better.

• No matter how early you start, it seems there’s always too much to do in too little time. The demands of shopping, decorating, baking, parties and houseguests can contribute to a blue mood.

Keep in mind you don’t have to do everything that’s asked of you or that you’ve done in the past. Assert yourself and just say “no” if you don’t have the time or inclination to do something.

Delegate responsibilities to other family members. Pace yourself and organize your time by making lists and prioritizing activities. And remember to take some time out to relax, recharge your batteries and just have some fun.

“See a funny movie or be with special friends. Do something that’s not an obligation and not specific to the holidays,” Pratt says. “Do something that just makes you feel good.”

• Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by comparing today’s holidays with November-December 2008

the “good ol’ days.”

“Many people have this fantasy about what holidays are supposed to be,” Perry says. “They hold onto what they remember as an ideal holiday from their past and try to make everything perfect.”

Unfortunately, they rarely succeed.

Chances are those Christmases of your childhood were not as perfect as you remember them. Instead of creating unrealistic expectations, embrace change, expect mistakes and establish reasonable goals for the holidays. Just because your mother or mother-in-law always did things a certain way, doesn’t mean you have to.

• Financial worries can contribute to an already stressful time. People often fret over how they will afford this year’s holiday and then become anxious about soon-to-follow credit-card bills.

Know your spending limit and stick to it. While it may be too late to make adjustments to your holiday gift list for this year, prepare now for the next season. Suggest that next year everyone draw names for gifts, have a strict spending limit, or restrict gift giving to the youngest children.

If funds are tight this year, there are plenty of activities that you can enjoy for free. Drive around and look at holiday decorations. Take in the tree-lighting ceremonies and parades around the county.

Try to make the holidays more about family and friendship and less about material things.

• The absence of a loved one, no matter if due to death, divorce or military duty, is especially deeply felt during the holidays.

“If you’re separated from family or have lost a loved one, there’s a tendency to reflect back on other holiday seasons when that person was there,” Pratt says.

“There’s a feeling of nostalgia and a desire for connection and wishing they could be with you.”

This might be a good time to create new and different ways to celebrate. Abandon old traditions and start some new ones.

Go to someone else’s home to celebrate.

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Instead of cooking, have dinner at a restaurant. Plan a holiday trip.

“Create new memories for the future,” Pratt says.

If you know it will be a difficult holiday because you’ve lost someone or a loved one is away, “spend time with people who care about you,” Perry says. “Don’t allow yourself to be alone and dwell on feeling melancholy.”

• Some of the lethargy and fatigue we feel this time of year may be partly due to overindulgences that can affect us mentally as well as physically.

“With all the festivities and social pressure, we find ourselves eating too much, drinking too much and exercising and sleeping too little,” Perry says. “Eventually, it affects our mood and energy level.”

Excessive drinking will only increase feelings of depression. And while it may be difficult to resist the cookies and fudge offered at every turn, too many goodies only add up to unwanted pounds. That can put anybody in a bad mood.

Nobody is saying you have to deny yourself an occasional gingerbread cookie or a glass of champagne. Just indulge in moderation. And, to counter those extra calories, step up your exercise routine a notch.

“Exercise is absolutely essential, even if it’s just a brisk 10-minute walk one way and 10-minute walk back done daily,” Pratt says. “It can reduce the stress hormone adrenaline, bring clarity of mind and give you a chance to think through your priorities.”

• People who are alone and without any strong relationships may feel an increased emptiness and isolation at this time of year.

“If people are not happy in their life and don’t have closeness with others, they may feel left out of the celebration,” Pratt says.

“However, this can serve as incentive to connect in other ways, like working with a volunteer group.”

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s the Ghost of Christmas Past would verify, Tom won’t be the only turkey at the holiday dinner table. There’s Aunt Betsy, the hypochondriac; brother Billy, who’s tanked before the meal even gets started; sister Susie, who’s as critical as ever; adult children who still whine, aging parents who still tell everyone what to do ....

Well, you get the picture.

So what can you do this year to make things better, more enjoyable - for you, if not everyone?

We asked two experts to talk about how to deal with the characters found in most families. Debra Fine, author of “The Fine Art of Small Talk,” knows a holiday can be the ideal family get-together or a day of awkward moments, uncomfortable silences and family feuds.

Psychiatrist Stan Kapuchinski, author of “Say Goodbye to Your PDI (Personality Disordered Individual): Recognize People Who Make You Miserable and Eliminate Them From Your Life for Good!” has this warning: “Don’t think anyone who is going to be at the get-together will have changed since the last time you saw them.”

But he and Fine promise one thing: You can change how you react to family members who, well, drive you nuts.

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The biggest consideration, Kapuchinski says, is deciding whether to be at the table.

If you decide not to go, make up an excuse if you have to, and stick with it. Don’t feel guilt, he says. If you are going because you feel obligated, because it’s expected of you, because it’s the lesser of two evils, so be it.

“Once you decide you’re going or not going, that’s it,” he says.

“You can’t complain, get pouty, get sulky or angry at yourself or everyone e l s e . Yo u ’ v e made your decision. Now stick with it.”

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So, what’s the benefit of getting together?

“It’s not like you’re going because you know you’re going to have a fabulous time,” Kapuchinski says. But you could walk away from these people and make a connection with some other family member you enjoy. You at least can say you didn’t lose your temper, didn’t look like a jerk, handled the day pretty

well, given the circumstances.

“You have to expect the worst,” he says.

“It’s going to be that way. Just keep your sense of humor and enjoy the show.”

And be prepared for what Fine calls 10 common “Conversation Landmines”:

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DON’T LET FAMILY — From Pg. 47 the planet presume that longtime dating results in marriage,” Fine says. “It ain’t necessarily so.”

Either use humor and say, “We will issue a press release when we want the world to know” or “You’ll be the first to know, Mom.” Or you can throw it back at the person and say, “So, Uncle Joe, what’s going on in your love life?” And then there’s always, “That’s not a topic for conversation” and change the subject.

When are you going to make me a grandmother?

Try some of the responses above or step in for your wife/cousin/sister and say, “Hey, women are having babies at 67.”

Whatever you think is best.

“That’s the type of thing that is so passive-aggressive that about all you can say is, ‘Well, thank you, that’s exactly what I’ll do.’ And move on,” Fine says. “In families we all have our roles.”

Are you still working at (name the place)?

You could be real sour, but why not try, “You bet I am. So, what’s going on at work for you?”

Are you sure you really want that (extra serving of pie/mashed potatoes/stuffing/ roll)?

The answer is “I sure do,” Fine says.

“The minute I say, ‘Oh, maybe not,’ is the minute I show my vulnerability. If I wanted it, I wanted it. I’m a grown-up. I make my own choices.”

You’re so smart and attractive, I can’t imagine why you’re not dating.

Try “I have high standards” or “Maybe you have a crystal ball and you could tell me.”

If you answer the question directly, the next one could be ...

Oh, really? Well where is he/she today?

Your answer can be, “He’s with his family” or “Her mama wanted her and my mama wanted me.” Or try “I wish I knew” November-December 2008

or “You know what? He hasn’t shared that with me.”

Hey, looks like you’ve put on a few pounds since last year.

It’s blatantly rude, Fine says, and, if a relative asks, you can say, “You’re like Sherlock Holmes, so darned observant.”

If it’s a parent, Fine says to find a moment, in private, to say, “Why would you ever be this hurtful to me, put me in such an uncomfortable position in front of the family?” Just be sure to keep your voice down so the only person who hears you is the person who should hear you.

Do the children talk to you/treat you like that all the time?

Make a joke and say, “Only when they’re on their best behavior” or “Only when they’re trying to show me they love me.”

A holiday is not the time to teach manners or put someone on the spot in front of everyone. Fine adds that someone in the group could see the kids acting out and say, “Sarah, I see the kids are running you ragged, what can I do to help?”

Did you make this pie? Is this stuffing from scratch?

Fine says the remark is an attack. “Is that a challenge? Is it too hard to believe that I could make this from scratch? Sometimes people have no idea what comes out of their mouth.”

Her advice is to smile and say, “When we’re done, come in the kitchen and I’ll give you the recipe.” Then when the two of you are alone, you can share the recipe - the real recipe or this one that Fine has used: “So, the recipe for that pie is you go to this bakery, pick up the pie, bring it home and put it on a plate to serve at the table.”

In the end, she says, you owe no one any explanations. “Whatever the criticism - ‘What took you so long to get here?’ ‘Boy, you never seem to be able to get work done on this house.’ ‘I can’t believe Tommy/ Susie is still living at home’ - your response can be, ‘I’m sorry you feel that way.’ It’s not rude but there’s very little they can say after that.”

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Differnt pokes These are the folks who can make you less than thankful at a holiday dinner, according to psychiatrist Stan Kapuchinski: • The Controller: This one takes over, saying “Why don’t we do this, why don’t you do that.” The way you handle these people is not to feed into them by getting angry. As soon as your attitude comes out, you’re dead. They’ve got you. Their style is to provoke you. So, if they suggest going for a walk before dinner, and it’s not unreasonable, go with it. If it’s something you don’t want to do, flash a big smile and say, “You know,I think I’m going to do this.”

• The Loudmouth: This one monopolizes the conversation with political stuff, religious stuff, provocative stuff. What you want to do is shut him down, one-up him, but that is not going to happen. This guy is going to go on and on. Don’t think you’re going to have a dialogue and that he’ll see your point of view. It’s best to smile and nod or just get out of there.

• The Drinker: This one gets tanked early. The pleasant drinker is no big deal; the problem is the one who gets critical and challenging. Never argue with a drunk, never even try to have a conversation and never confront the person. Instead, try to get him or her to take a nap.

• The Braggart: He’s done everything.

He’s the center of the universe. Just nod and think “What an idiot.” Don’t challenge him. Don’t think you’re going to expose this guy. Even if what you say to him or about him is true, you’re going to look like the bad guy. Hopefully there are a few others there, and you can wink at each other.

• The Drama Queen: She’s in a state.

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s there anything more daunting than getting the perfect gift for someone?

You’ve got to think about what that person likes, what size he or she wears and what hobbies he or she has. And that’s just for your friends and family. What about the person of your dreams - the one you just met a month ago?

As the clock ticks down to the holidays, countless numbers of newly coupled men and women are faced with the dilemma: What to give? If you think a gift is just a gift, think again.

“The messages you send with gift giving are subject to all sorts of interpretations,” explained, associate professor of sociology Sue Roxburgh. “The fact is, gift giving involves a sense of obligation, and there are power issues as well, especially with gender differences.”

Give your lady lingerie, and she may be shocked. Give your beau a too-romantic gift, and he could bolt.

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sarily a question of how long you’ve been dating. There is no time limit. Once you are a couple, you are present-worthy.

If you’re not sure your significant other agrees with that, ask, Roxburgh said.

“I think the only solution to that is to bring it out, either by dropping hints or just by asking,” Roxburgh said. “You could start out by saying, ‘I would like to get you something for Christmas or Hanukkah. What do you think?’”

Once you confirm that gifts are OK, prepare to do a bit of analysis.

The first guideline is to think about the depth of the relationship.

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“Volunteers experience the joy and pleasure of being part of a larger process,” Pratt says. “It takes the focus off of you and can be very fulfilling.”

The Wrong Gift — From Pg. 53 “When a man gets a woman expensive gifts right away, it’s not romantic, it’s creepy,” Roxburgh said.

Match.com’s survey reflects a similar thought. Next to not getting a gift at all, respondents, especially men, said the worst thing is receiving a gift that is too extravagant or pricey for the couple’s dating status. For new couples, that may mean buying her a framed photo of you two together rather than a diamond pendant, or getting him a DVD instead of an iPod. Especially in the early stages, you want something that puts the value more on the personal side than the monetary side.

Men should stick to gifts incorporating photos, such as a framed photo or a collage of pictures of the couple. Women can buy their man a book in line with his hobbies, concert tickets or a money clip.

“A money clip is something you can get engraved, and it’s something he’d use every day and be reminded of you,” she said.

Keeping it as modest as possible is the way to go. But your gut may be a good predictor, too.

“I don’t think there’s a magic formula,” Roxburgh said. “It’s a combination of a set time of dating and your own perceptions of the situation.”

“I think there’s more of a tradition, at least in this part of America, to spend a lot on gifts. If you spend a lot, you’re sending a specific message.”∆

• For some people, the end of the year means a harsh accounting of the past year’s failures. That’s difficult for anyone to face.

“It’s a cognitive leap that we evaluate the past year and think about whether or not we lost the weight we wanted to, was it a financially successful year, or did we have good interpersonal relationships,” Perry says. “There’s a lot of self-evaluation this time of year, and it can be hard to measure up.”

Instead of being so critical of your performance over the past year, focus on what you have to be thankful for. Pratt suggests creating a top 10 gratitude list for the year, the month, or even for the day.

“Think about what you have to be grateful for - even the small things. It causes you to feel and appreciate what you have ... and will enable you to think more positively,” he says.

DON’T LET FAMILY — From Pg. 51 ing her a liar. Becoming frustrated or angry just makes it worse. She turns into a victim, and you are an uncaring beast.

• The Guilter: This one is really passiveaggressive. This person says anything, and you’re on the defensive. Such as “It’s nice of you to make it”; “Oh, you got a new car, must be nice.” As soon as you hear these things, you have a little twinge, you want to explain, you feel angry. Don’t give in to any of those feelings. Just answer the person directly, “Yes, it is nice to have a new car.”∆

• The difference in light and temperature in December compared with August can be a depressive trigger for some people, especially when combined with the other stresses and strains of the season.

“As the amount of available light decreases this time of year, some people are getting up and going to work in the dark and coming home after it’s dark,” Perry says. “Some people can be very sensitive to this, and it can have a significant impact on their physiology.”

The seasonal changes can make people feel fatigued, cause changes in appetite leading to weight gain or loss, and alter the sleep cycle.

Mental health experts recommend making an extra effort to get some sunlight into your day. Instead of taking your coffee break in the cafeteria, walk outdoors. Park at the far end of the parking lot so you must walk for five minutes to get inside a store. ∆

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Or, you could simply try to make sensible and nutritious food choices.

Being health conscious doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the holiday festivities. Go ahead, eat, drink and be merry. Just do so wisely by carefully considering your food options.

Nutrition experts weigh in on some healthier holiday fare.

CHAMPAGNE OR EGGNOG While eggnog has calcium and protein going for it, that’s still not enough to make it a nutritional winner over less caloric beverages like champagne.

“Anything that goes up against eggnog is going to win. Eggnog is loaded with fat and is very high in calories,” says registered dietitian Katie Bogue.

A flute of the bubbly has about 75 calories and no fat, while 5 ounces of eggnog can have more than 300 calories and 12 grams of fat. Some nutritionists say champagne’s natural effervescence might help fill you up so you’ll limit your grazing.

WINE OR BEER Per ounce, beer has fewer calories than wine. A 12-ounce beer is about 150 calories. A light beer has about 100 calories for 12 ounces. Wine, both white and red, has about 90 calories per 4-ounce glass.

However, because beer is rarely served in anything smaller than 12-ounce servings, it ends up being the more caloric if you’re comparing a serving of beer to a serving of wine.

You also get a healthy shot of antioxidants from wine - no matter if it’s red or white.

“Nutritionally, there’s really not a big difference between red or white wine,” says registered dietitian Joan Rupp. “We had thought that red has more antioxidants, but now research says that both offer it. Both help increase your HDL (good cholesterol) and keep it from sticking to the artery walls.”

But beer lovers should note that their beverage of choice is not a nutritional slouch.

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Like wines, the darker beers also contain beneficial polyphenols (plant chemicals) that might help reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease and cancer.

ALMONDS OR MIXED NUTS Although most nuts have lots of nutrients including protein and fiber, almonds are probably a smarter choice than mixed nuts.

Almonds offer mono-unsaturated fat and lots of healthy omega-3 fatty acids (a healthful antioxidant) and vitamin E. If you eat a handful of mixed nuts, you’re likely to get a few cashews or macadamia nuts which are higher in calories and contain some saturated fat.

The only real problem with eating any nuts is that you’re likely to eat too many.

Because all nuts are calorically dense, limit your serving to just 1 ounce or a handful POTATO CHIPS AND DIP OR CORN CHIPS AND GUACAMOLE The tortilla chips with guacamole and salsa is the hands-down nutritional favorite.

“The guacamole has healthy monounsaturated fat. Salsa has vitamins A and C and no fat. And, it’s a great way to get some veggies,” Rupp says. “The potato chips and dip is just salt and fat on top of salty and fatty chips.”

The tomatoes in the salsa are a good source of lycopene, a potent carotenoid antioxidant that may help reduce the risk of heart disease, cancer and diabetes, says registered dietitian Christine Zoumas FUDGE OR CHOCOLATE-COVERED TOFFEE Neither of these traditional holiday sweets are high on the nutritional scale.

However, if you have to have one (and, please make it only one piece), have the chocolate fudge. A 2-inch square of the rich chocolate has about 230 calories and 6 grams of fat (3 gram of it are saturated).

The toffee not only has more calories, about 290 per 2-inch square, but also more than three times the fat - 20 grams and 12

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Yes, the toffee has some healthy fat thanks to the nuts, but fudge is rich in flavanols, the compounds found in chocolate that protect your blood vessels.

BAKED POTATO WITH SOUR CREAM OR SWEET POTATO WITH MAPLE SYRUP GLAZE Nutrition experts are unanimously sweet on sweet potatoes.

“Sweet potatoes are one of the most under appreciated vegetables in the U.S.,” says professor of nutrition Cheryl Rock.

Bogue agrees, calling them the “powerhouse of vegetables, loaded with vitamins.”

Sweet potatoes have beta carotene, antioxidants and about twice the fiber and potassium of regular baked russets. Although a maple glaze adds sugar and calories, it’s a drop in the nutritional bucket compared with the fat and calories of sour cream.

BAKED BRIE OR PORT CHEDDAR LOG Although neither of these choices will ever be confused with a health food, if you must choose one, the cheddar log has fewer calories and fat. Hickory Farms Cheese Celebration (a port and cheddar cheese log covered in chopped nuts) has 240 calories in 3 ounces. The baked brie, which is coated in butter and phyllo dough, is often accompanied by a sweet chutney. It’s about 420 calories for the same-size serving.

A smarter cheese tray choice is a small chunk of Swiss cheese, which is lower in fat and sodium than most other hard cheeses.

Or, have some plain brie without the pastry topping. It’s only 94 calories per ounce.

BAKED HAM OR TURKEY Turkey is the more healthful choice as long as you stay within some guidelines.

Opt for the white meat. White turkey meat has fewer calories (4 ounces has about 175 calories and about 4 grams of fat) than the same portion of dark meat (about 210 calories and 8 grams of fat). However, for those extra dark meat calories, you 72

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adults get two to four colds a year and kids may catch as many as eight to 10. You’d think with that much time spent coughing and sneezing, we’d be experts on the cold and flu. However, each year these common maladies seem to cause as much confusion as they do congestion, and too often our treatment plans are based on myth and advertising hype.

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Goes A Long Way And Flu Season

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Next to an annual influenza vaccine and washing your hands frequently, accurate information is your best defense against cold and flu.

“It helps just being aware of the germ theory: Bacteria and viruses are everywhere,” says Dr. William Norcross. “You shouldn’t be too paranoid, but you can cut down on your risk of getting sick by just taking some simple precautions.”

Check out your cold and flu IQ: 1. Keeping your immune system strong and healthy is imperative during cold and flu season. What can you do to help boost your immune system and fend off viruses?

A. Get enough sleep.

B. Manage stress.

C. Get at least 30 minutes of exercise a day.

D. Eat a healthy, balanced diet.

E. All of the above.

Answer: E. Everyone can use a little TLC during cold and flu season to help build up our defenses against nasty viruses.

A University of Chicago study found that men who had slept four hours a night for one week produced only half the amount of flu-fighting antibodies in their blood compared with those who slept 7 1/2 to 8 1/2 hours.

A daily 30-minute brisk walk or three 10-minute walks is the minimum you need to help pump up your natural defenses against viruses.

A well-nourished immune system is better able to fight off infections. It needs

to be fueled with natural vitamins and antioxidants found in dark-green, red and yellow vegetables and fruits, whole grains and lean protein.

Although short-term stress can boost the immune system in a “fight or flight” response, chronic, long-term stress suppresses the immune system and makes you more vulnerable to illness. To help reduce stress and tension: Try relaxation techniques such as meditation, yoga or deep breathing; exercise; care for a pet; and communicate with someone you trust.

2. There are many ways to catch a cold or flu. Which is NOT a likely way to become infected with a cold or flu virus?

A. Touching the door handle at the bank entrance.

B. Being on an airplane with a coughing, sneezing seatmate.

C. Going outdoors in winter with wet hair.

D. Using the grocery store pen to write a check.

E. Shaking hands at a business meeting.

Answer: C. The flu and colds are more common in the winter months because that’s when more people tend to be indoors together and viruses spread across the country, the American Lung Association says. The viruses have nothing to do with the temperature outside or damp body parts.

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D. Drinking a couple extra glasses of Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says. Cold viruses can linger on surfaces as fluid a day.

E. Hot toddy long as 18 hours after initial contamination, Answer: D. It’s especially important to according to a study conducted by the Unikeep well hydrated during cold and flu versity of Virginia Health System.

Catching a virus on a plane is often season. The extra fluid helps replace the easier than it is most of the time on the moisture lost from coughing and sneezing ground because the air in planes is recir- and thins mucus secretions.

A 2007 review of 30 studies found viculated. A Harvard Medical School study found that the rate at which flu spreads tamin C doesn’t reduce your chances of for the season is predicted by the number getting a cold and is unlikely to affect an of airline passengers in November. The existing cold’s severity. Same goes for Airborne or echinacea. And, more packed our planes at although a hot toddy may Thanksgiving, the quicker Medical experts taste good, it’s important we’re likely to see the flu to avoid drinks with alcoseason peak. recommend hol when you have a cold 3. Some of the main difbecause they can lead to frequent hand ferences between a cold dehydration, the opposite and influenza are: of what you want. washing or using A. The flu comes on more 5. You should NOT get suddenly than a cold. hand sanitizers; a flu shot if: B. High fever is more A. You’re over 60. common with flu. not touching your B. You’re allergic to C. Severe body aches eggs. and fatigue are more comeyes, nose or C. You haven’t had the mon with the flu.

D. A cold has a producmouth; sneezing flu in the past five years.

D. You’re pregnant. tive cough, flu is dry and E. You’re a child 6 hacking. or coughing into months to 5 years old.

E. All of the above.

Answer: B. The viral Answer: E. The flu can a tissue, not your material in flu vaccines is be mistaken for a bad cold, especially in the beginning. hands; and staying grown in eggs, so anyone allergic to eggs should not But the clue that gives flu away is the intensity of home if you are ill. get the vaccine.

According to the CDC, the virus and the duration of lingering side effects. Body aches, flu shots are recommended for adults over fatigue and high fever can be severe and 50; children ages 6 months to 5 years old; are not common with a cold. Symptoms of adults and children with chronic medical the flu can occur suddenly, whereas you conditions, especially asthma, lung disease may experience a slightly scratchy throat, and heart disease; all women who will be stuffy nose a few days before a cold hits. pregnant during flu season; residents of The hacking cough that commonly comes nursing homes; health-care workers; and with the flu can last for weeks after other any person who wishes to avoid the flu. symptoms subside.

6. At the first sign of a stuffy nose and 4. What may decrease the severity and sore throat, skip the gym and head for the sofa. Exercise during a respiratory duration of a cold? virus makes illness more severe and last A. Vitamin C days longer.

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Answer: False. Exercise is fine if you feel up to it and don’t have a fever, severe muscle aches or a cough that produces thick phlegm. A 2001 study found that people who exercised moderately for 40 minutes while under the weather didn’t get worse. But, they also didn’t get better any faster than those who skipped workouts. A more recent study in the American Journal of Medicine showed that sedentary post-menopausal women had twice the risk of getting sick compared with women who exercised regularly. But, don’t overdo. Overtraining may run down your immune system and make it harder to kick a virus.

7. Colds and flu are very contagious.

If you have the bug, how long can you expect to be contagious?

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C. Two or three days after cold symptoms appear; one day before flu symptoms develop and five days after you become sick.

D. As long as you’re sneezing and coughing, you’re contagious.

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reduce your risk of getting the flu this year, especially during times of stress.

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by The American Physiological Society found that quercetin, a powerful antioxidant present in apples and other fruits and vegetables, may have protective effects against the influenza virus.

The scientists conducting the study demonstrated that while stressful exercise increased the occurrence of influenza in laboratory mice, quercetin canceled out that negative effect. Vigorous, stressful exercise has been shown to increase the susceptibility to upper respiratory infections not only in mice, but also in humans.

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days of exhaustive exercise compared to those who did not take the plant compound.

You don’t have to be a serious athlete to reap the health benefits of quercetin. Like exhausting physical activity, emotional stress can weaken the immune system, increasing susceptibility to infections and illnesses. Experts believe that regular intake of the natural plant compound can help protect stressed-out, sedentary individuals from contracting the flu and other respiratory infections.

In addition to its powerful anti-viral effects, quercetin has important cancer-fighting properties. Researchers at Mayo Clinic reported that it blocks hormone activity in prostate tumor cells, an action that can slow or prevent the spread of the cancer.

Additional studies have shown that the antioxidant compound can inhibit the growth of other types of cancers cells, including those found in tumors of the breast, colon and lung. Quercetin appears to induce apoptosis, a form of cell death that doesn’t ordinarily occur in cancer cells.

Researchers at Cornell University in New York found that the naturally occurring antioxidant may protect brain cells from oxidative stress, a tissue-damaging process associated with Alzheimer’s disease and other degenerative disorders of the brain. In a laboratory study, the scientists exposed brain cells to hydrogen peroxide, a chemical known to produce the type of oxidative damage that contributes to the development of Alzheimer’s disease.

Brain cells treated with quercetin suffered significantly less damage to both cellular proteins and DNA than untreated cells.

Although the exact mechanism of action is unknown, many experts speculate that the compound works by blocking the cell-damaging actions of free radicals.

Free radicals are thought to contribute to the development of other degenerative diseases, including cataracts and macular degeneration of the eye. The powerful antioxidant properties of quercetin appear to play an important role in the prevention and treatment of these eye disorders.

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the risk of cardiovascular disease. The compound not only lowers blood pressure and cholesterol levels, it also helps prevent the buildup of plaque in arteries that can lead to heart attack and stroke.

Quercetin is well known for its powerful anti-inflammatory effects, making it useful in the prevention and treatment of arthritis and other chronic inflammatory diseases. Research shows that when patients with rheumatoid arthritis switch to a quercetin-rich diet, they typically experience significant reductions in their symptoms.

For folks with allergies, quercetin may be a viable alternative to some over-thecounter and prescription medications.

The antioxidant compound has impressive antihistamine actions, making it useful in the treatment of hay fever, eczema and hives.

Several studies have linked high quercetin intakes with improved lung function.

Among people who regularly consume apples, scientists have noted a lower risk Avoid Seasonal DIET­— From Pg. 61 get twice the iron and zinc. If you really want to save yourself some fat and calories, don’t eat the skin.

For all its bad press, ham is not really such a nutritional bad boy. It actually has about the same amount of calories as dark meat turkey with only slightly more fat.

The problem is that ham’s sodium content is in the stratosphere, and it contains nitrites, which may be converted into harmful carcinogens, Bogue says.

SUGAR COOKIE OR A GINGERBREAD COOKIE Due to its high butter content, sugar cookies have nearly twice the calories and saturated fat as gingerbread cookies.

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of some respiratory disorders, including bronchitis, asthma and emphysema.

Quercetin is naturally found in a variety of plant foods and beverages, including grapes, blueberries, broccoli, tea and red wine. The disease-fighting antioxidant is especially abundant in the outermost layers of red onions and in the skins of apples.

Any type of apple is likely to be a good source of the beneficial plant compound, but red apples tend to have more of the antioxidant than green or yellow varieties.

Because apples are generally peeled and cooked when making applesauce or apple juice, these products offer less quercetin than fresh, unpeeled fruit.

Dietary supplements containing the natural plant compound are easy to find in most health food stores, and they’re generally safe and well tolerated. But if you’d rather get your daily dose of quercetin the old-fashioned way, enjoying a fresh, ripe apple might be your best bet. ∆ break down protein, aiding in digestion, which could come in handy after weeks of feasting.

PUMPKIN PIE OR APPLE PIE As desserts go, pumpkin pie is one of the healthiest. Pumpkin pie has more vitamin A, fiber, calcium, potassium and folate than any other pie, and most other desserts, Rupp says.

Apple pie with it’s double crust provides more fat, sugar and calories than the pumpkin. It also doesn’t offer the vitamins and calcium.

A 4.5-ounce piece of pumpkin pie has about 270 calories and 11 grams of fat. An equivalent slice of apple pie has about 320 calories and 14 grams of fat.

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Contrary to rumor, most people only gain about 1 pound during the holidays, not the often-reported 5 to 7 pounds. That’s the good news.

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or many years, I rode an elevator to work with a woman who looked like she was being ordered to walk a gangplank.

I didn’t know her at all, but I could tell she was not a happy camper.

I saw her outside the office one day and she was laughing and enjoying herself.

Obviously, this was someone who needed another job.

It’s like that sometimes, even when you don’t realize it. Little annoyances about your job can subtlety build until you find yourself feeling trapped.

There are two paths people commonly choose when this happens. They either jump out the window into another job, or they continue in their work resenting every second they spend on the job.

Or there is another option that most people don’t think about: They can change their attitude and work to make the job one they can endure and even enjoy.

“Four Secrets to Liking Your Work” is a book by organizational consultant Ed Muzio, management professor Deborah Fisher and Intel recruiter Erv Thomas.

“Job misery costs the employer a lot, but it costs the employee everything,” Muzio says.

But the book’s promise of four secrets to a happier work life is overly simplistic.

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The book actually calls for a combination of self-assessment, attitude adjustment, jobtask tinkering, skill-building and change of perspective that is useful for anyone trying to salvage a job that seems to have swallowed them up.

There is no quick-fix in this work. Nor are their four secrets.

What there can be, however, is a constructive way of dealing with a job that you have learned to dislike.

Surveys show that as much as 70 percent of workers would like to find other jobs because they are not happy in their current positions. But 70 percent of workers don’t have to change jobs to be happy. A small percent do, but a far larger number would be better off finding contentment in their present job.

Muzio, Fisher and Thomas believe that you first need to make certain that you have chosen the right job in the first place.

But since even well-matched jobs may prove stressful, understanding the sources of stresses and friction in your work can go a long way toward solving your at-work issues.

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Too often, we concentrate on the problems of the job, but seeing the benefits of our work on our lives and those of others can make a job more meaningful.

bothers them about their jobs. Often it is not the type or the amount of work, but how they react to the people and systems they run up against each day. If you can figure a better way of dealing with those, then you stand a good chance of being happier in your work.

Since we work best when motivated in our work, we need to make sure the jobs we have drive that motivation. If we are not inspired, we tend to suffer, we are less happy and, ultimately, we resent our positions. Much of this has to do with choosing the right job, but we also have to make certain that we accept the goal of the job at hand.

Since we all take pride in our work, we need to also look at the positives our job offers us. Too often, we concentrate on the problems of the job, but seeing the benefits of our work on our lives and those of others can make a job more meaningful.

Everyone’s job has an end result, whether

we are working on airplane assembly lines, writing computer coding or waiting tables in a restaurant.

There can be plenty of satisfaction in seeing how we contribute to helping others, but we often have to look beyond ourselves.

We also need the skills to do the jobs we face. That means not only the classroom training that gives us the hard skills, but the personal and interpersonal skills required to handle the stresses of our job and the relationships we have to maintain to do our jobs effectively.

Workers need to remember that no matter what they do or accomplish in their work, when they go home the job is all about them. It’s not about meeting a company goal or deadline, or turning a handsome profit. The job is about feeling that you are doing work that is meaningful to yourself. And nobody can assess that better than you. ∆

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The answer to that question is simple: only the smart companies.

Yet, American business really isn’t very good at accepting failure, let alone encouraging it as part of the learning experience.

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Mother Of Success Michael Kinsman

A survey for the Princeton based con- successful people who had made their sulting firm BlessingWhite, finds that own missteps.

Albert Einstein is prized for his intellect only 26 percent of workers feel they are regularly free to take risks in performing today, yet he failed his entrance exams at the Swiss Polytechnic Institute. their jobs.

Before he became a famous writer, Another 33 percent say they sometimes think it’s OK to take risks, but 41 percent Charles Dickens once was relegated to admit they don’t feel their companies will a factory job, where he pasted labels on bottles of shoe polish. accept their failures.

And, David Letterman once was fired “Everyone wants innovation in their organization but no one wants to deal with from his TV weatherman’s job when he described hail as “the size of failure,” says Christopher canned hams.”

Rice, chief executive of the You’ll find lots of compaconsulting firm. “Creating a We all have nies who say they encourage culture that fosters innovaand are willing to tion and risk-taking means heard stories risk-taking accept some failures as part that managers need to reward that process. That’s what failure as well as success.” of remarkably of they say.

When is the last time you But let business pressures witnessed that? successful mount, let productivity slip American companies just a notch or watch short-term don’t like failure because it people who profit attempts erase that in isn’t included on their busia moment. ness plans and because it is had made Middle managers in parseen as a weakness. ticular seem to panic when Yet, in an economy that is their own something goes wrong. That’s being driven by technological missteps. because they think it will breakthroughs, it seems like be held against them and the way we handle our failsome will go to great lengths ures today is more important than ever. Do you think Thomas Edison, to remove that possibility, even if their for instance, ever backed off experimenting company says it has a commitment to because he had a string of failures in the risk-taking.

Everyone is going to make mistakes on challenges he undertook?

We tend to focus on that as lost opportu- the job. But you don’t want to see them nity. At the same time, we are not quick to repeating the same mistakes, or making savor the benefits brought by one of those mistakes so large that it damages the risks that paid off. The benefits would finances, business prospects or integrity never be realized if the worker hadn’t of the company.

It is a rare company that accepts mistaken up the challenge, and that means takes as part of their business model, yet accepting that failure is possible.

We all have heard stories of remarkably it is also a successful company. ∆

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Expedition Cruising On Board Silversea’s

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ust mention the word “expedition” and images of extreme hardship and undaunted courage come to mind… Artic explorers braving icy blizzards, frontiersmen fighting their way through the Wild West, and conquistadors pursuing the legendary Inca treasures.

Expedition cruising aboard Silversea’s recently launched Prince Albert II is a completely different experience…

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Prince Albert II

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You will not be swinging a machete through the virgin jungle with native porters and tribesmen in tow‌ Instead, you will track through nature preserves and parks, wielding a camera and binoculars, accompanied by naturalists and anthropologists, who will introduce you to the exciting flora, fauna, and cultures along the way.

Prince Albert II is a 6,072-ton vessel able to navigate in shallow waters and reach remote coves and islands not accessible to larger cruisers. The ship carries eight inflatable Zodiac boats that can land almost anywhere, taking travelers to secluded, rarely visited sites.

Beginning this November, Prince Albert II will sail the Chilean Fjords, Patagonia’s coastline, and Antartica, exploring dazzling glaciers and astonishing wildlife, including colonies of penguins and sea lions.

From March 2009, the ship will be based in Papeete, Tahiti offering trips to exotic South Pacific destinations such as the Tuamotu Archipelago, Marquesas, Society Islands and Easter Island. In this tropical paradise, travelers will interact with native cultures, snorkel or scuba dive in turquoise waters, canoe along picturesque coastlines, enjoy bird watching, and hike through unspoiled nature trails.

The shore expeditions, albeit exciting, are only one part of the experience. Cruising in style and luxury is the other. Prince Albert II has 66 suites accommodating a maximum of 132 guests. Ranging in size from 350 to 675 square feet, the suites are larger than the industry average. Comfortable, and exuding understated elegance, all

Silversea Suite.

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rooms offer ocean views through portholes, picture windows, or French balconies, depending on the category. Amenities include marble bathrooms with tubs, flat panel TVs with hundreds of movies on demand, a beverage cabinet stocked with complimentary drinks of your choice, fine linen, plush robes, personalized stationery, flowers and daily fruit platters. Higher tier accommodations, such as the Silver Suites, feature a living room, a spacious bedroom, a huge walk in closet, glass enclosed shower and separate tub, two interactive flat panel TVs, and the finest toiletries. Some suites also offer butler service.

The ship’s layout is simple, compact, and easy to navigate.

Public areas include the Observation Lounge, where you can have an early morning cup of coffee while taking in vistas of sea and approaching ports of call, chat with fellow passengers, or just catch up on your reading.

Another popular space is the Panorama Lounge, the social hub of the ship, where guests enjoy live entertainment, while sipping champagne, cocktails, and after dinner drinks. Next to the lounge, in a sealed, glass enclosed room, cigar affictionados appreciate the well-stocked humidor.

Nearby, you’ll find the ship’s library, a warm, wood-paneled room lined with adventure and nature books, and equipped with computer terminals.

In the evening, guests meet in the ship’s elegant, spacious theater for cocktail receptions, enrichment lectures, and recaps of daily adventures.

The ship is not designed for fitness walking or jogging along the

Lobster with Vegetable Vermicelli and Lobster Coulis.

Breast of Duck with Fig and Butternut Squash.

Chocolate Cake.

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main deck, but if you wish to burn some calories you can work out in a small exercise room. However, you will get plenty of exercise when hiking through nature preserves, climbing ancient ruins, swimming, snorkeling, canoeing, or braving frigid glaciers, depending on the ship’s itinerary.

During sea days there are many activities to keep you busy and entertained. You can attend lectures, photography classes, cooking demonstrations, and wine pairings. If you just want to relax, soak in one of the two whirlpools on the upper deck or treat yourself to a soothing massage at the full service spa.

The highlight of any cruise is dining, and Prince Albert II offers some of the highest culinary standards on the seven seas. The main dining room, informal, but stylishly elegant, serves breakfast, lunch and dinner. There is no assigned seating, so you can dine by yourself, with new friends, or let the maitre d’ seat you at a group table.

Breakfast and lunch are buffet style with some a la carte items.

The spreads are lavish and abundant, freshly prepared, or cooked to order. Lunch includes a large selection of salads, appetizers, fish of the day, a carving station, made to order pizzas, and hot specialties such as seafood paella, chicken korma (Indian curry style), beef bourguignonne, and fusilli melanzane (pasta and eggplant), each dish authentic and worthy of a top restaurant. Fresh fruits and an assortment of desserts complete the meal.

Dinner is an experience in itself… While the dress code is casual or casual elegant (jacket),

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there’s nothing casual about Chef Sean Emslie’s superb cooking.

It’s like dining in a five star restaurant every night, savoring exquisitely presented gourmet dishes. The menu features wellness options, Relais and Chateaux entrees, and the chef’s own interpretation of classical favorites.

Some of the highlights include lobster with lobster coulis, pan seared seabass with arugula oil, breast of duck served with figs and butternut squash, melt-in-your mouth fillet mignon, ossobuco primavera with a vegetable ragout, risotto with truffle shavings and more. The kitchen will also prepare a special order, (with advanced notice) so you can enjoy your favorite entrees.

The service is impeccable…

Waiters glide smoothly through the sparkling dining room paying attention to every detail. They remember your name and your favorite dinner drinks. They anticipate your every need, lining up your Cristoffle cutlery, folding your Frette napkin, and refilling your crystal glass.

Head sommelier Karolina prepares daily selections of complimentary white and red wines paired to the lunch and dinner menus. You may also ask for another selection from their huge cellar.

Cruise fares are all inclusive covering shore excursions, spirits and wines, and gratuities.

So next time you find yourself enthralled by a National Geographic documentary, treat yourself to a memorable cruise on Prince Albert II, one of the top expedition vessels on the high seas. Bon Voyage! www.silversea.com.∆

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NYC Irving Berlin’s White Christmas Following acclaimed engagements throughout the country, Irving Berlin’s White Christmas arrives this holiday season at the Marriott Marquis Theater on Broadway. The new stage adaptation of the beloved classic film will run from November 14th through January 4th, 2009. www. whitechristmasthemusical.com.

9 To 5:The Musical, Comes to Broadway 9 To 5: The Musical, will begin previews at the Marriott Marquis Theater on Broadway on April 7th, 2009, with an April 30th opening. Based on the 1980 film, the show marks the Broadway debut of Dolly Parton as composer and lyricist. www.9to5themusical.com.

TKTS Booth Reopens in Time Square The TKTS discount booth in Times Square, at 47th Street, has reopened after extensive renovations. Located under a cascade of 27 ruby red glass steps, the new box office features 12 selling windows and accepts credit cards for same day discounted tickets to Broadway, Off Broadway, music and dance productions. A special “Play Only” window sells tickets to non musical productions.

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Chagall at The Jewish Museum

Van Gogh at MOMA

A new exhibit at The Jewish Museum, Chagall and the Artists of the Russian Jewish Theater, 1919-1949, showcases Chagall’s monumental murals, along with over 200 works of art and ephemera.

On display, from November 9th to March 22nd, 2009. www. jewishmuseum.org.

The Museum of Modern Art features Van Gogh and The Colors of the Night, a wonderful exhibition packed with some of the painter’s most popular works such as “The Night Cafe” and “The Potato Eaters.”

Through January 5. Call 212-708-9400 or visit www.moma.org.

Prokofiev Music at Avery Fisher Hall Russian Dreams: The Music of Sergei Prokofiev, will be the center piece of Lincoln Center’s Great Performers season.

(November 9-17). Russian conductor Valery Gergiev, one of Prokfiev’s foremost interpreters, will lead the renowned Kirov Orchestra and Chorus of the Mariinsky Theater in some of the composer’s most beloved work for ballet, theater and film. www.lincolncenter.org.

Gotham Shopping Tours NYC is “on sale” this season, with huge discounts and bargains for all. Shop Gotham, a company specializing in shopping tours, can lead you to sample sales, private showrooms and insider’s deals. www.shopgotham.com or 866-795-4200,

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THE PROS AND CONS — From Pg. 24 unless you make capital improvements or buy another home.

You need to carefully consider how your mortgage interest deduction impacts your overall tax situation. Consult your tax adviser if you have questions.

• Does your mortgage have a prepayment penalty? Typically, traditional mortgages don’t contain prepayment penalties, but you should certainly confirm that before you move ahead.

TWO MORE IMPORTANT FINANCIAL CONSIDERATIONS If you have all your other financial ducks in a row and you’ve decided that the tax advantage doesn’t warrant carrying the mortgage debt, there are two more financial questions to answer before you start making extra payments: • What’s your “after-tax opportunity cost?” Figure out what your mortgage loan “really” costs once you’ve factored in the tax deduction. Compare that with your potential investment return. For example, if you’re in a 40 percent (federal and state) tax bracket, your 6 percent mortgage loan effectively costs you 3.6 percent.

Could you make better than a 3.6 percent after-tax return by investing in the financial markets rather than paying down your mortgage? Possible. But the flip side of that involves investment risk; the return is not guaranteed. Paying off your mortgage is a risk-free proposition that nets you 3.6 percent. In the end, your decision is a balance of risk and reward that depends on your own level of comfort with that risk.

AND THEN THERE’S QUALITY OF LIFE For many people, particularly those nearing or in retirement, the comfort derived from being debt-free outweighs all other considerations. And no one can argue with that. If paying off your mortgage is one of your goals, you can do it in small increments (an extra payment a year can take years off your mortgage). Or you may pay a lump sum prior to your due date.

Whatever your decision -- you might want to talk through your options with a financial planner -- make sure the terms of your current mortgage are the best you can receive. Having the right mortgage at the right time can be the ultimate answer. After all, a mortgage often represents more than a financial investment; it represents home, family and hopes for the future.

Paying too much for your mortgage can get in the way of your other goals and dreams; therefore, decreasing the amount steadily may be the best way to meet your current goals. And for a lucky few, paying it off completely can be a dream come true. ∆

AVOID SEASONAL DIET— From Pg. 73 fers you food and drinks this time of year. If you are not hungry, say so. Don’t let yourself be bullied into eating something you really don’t want or know is unhealthy.

• Survey the buffet. Make a conscious decision about which foods you’ll put on your plate. Try to sample a variety of foods in small portions. Don’t waste your calories on familiar foods you have every day.

• Put together a plate of food from the buffet and sit down and eat rather than walking around the buffet table several times or sampling from passing trays.

• Leave something on your plate. Despite what your parents tried to drum into your head as a child, don’t feel obliged to

clear your plate. When you feel full, stop eating.

• Choose your favorite dessert and share it with someone. Just a taste of a special treat could be enough to satisfy.

• Avoid drinking too much alcohol. Alcohol can increase your appetite and lower your resolve to resist overeating.

• Socializing with family and friends should be your No. 1 priority at holiday gatherings. Food should come in a distant second place.

• Rather than trying to lose weight, focus on preventing weight gain. Trying to shed pounds this time of year only leads to frustration and guilt. ∆

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Openings

Electronics Thunder in Englewood Recently opened at 10 South Dean Street in Englewood, Electronics Thunder is a design and installation firm. They are experienced in all areas of residential and corporate technology and wiring infrastructure. Electronics Thunder specializes in home theater, whole house music, security, lighting control, communications and automation systems.

They offer the most up to date finished product and the support that follows after the completion of the project. Visit this new showroom to see their exciting display of products for home and office. Financing available. 201-569-9099.

Riedel Opens New Web Store Riedel, the renowned wine glass company, has opened a new web store just in time for the holidays. To celebrate the new launch, Riedel offers free ground shipping on all orders and a free “O� Cabarnet 2-pack set with all orders above $150. Visit www. riedel-webstore.com browse their fine collection and use code 150F414C at check out.

Birkat Elyon Jewelry Birkat Elyon presents a unique line of jewelry at great prices. They offer the finest Cubic Zirconia set in 14K and 18K gold, and platinum. The beautiful pieces are so rich and real looking, that even gemologists have trouble telling them apart from natural stones. View their extensive collection of rings, earrings, bracelets, pendants, necklaces, brooches, and pearls at www.birkatelyon.com or call 877-777-8352.

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Dining at American Frank’s Waterside - 7800 B River Road, North Bergen.

Frank’s Waterside is an elegant, yet comfortable waterfront restaurant with sweeping views of the Manhattan skyline from the George Washington Bridge to the Statue of Liberty. It offers sophisticated cuisine and professional service. The menu includes a wide array of seafood, steaks and chops and an extensive, well-priced and familiar selection of wines. The Chef de Cuisine is a graduate of the prestigious New York Restaurant School and was classically trained at renowned, award winning restaurants. Enjoy lunch or dinner on the outdoor stone patio at the water’s edge, listen to jazz while savoring a memorable Sunday brunch, or stop by for a cocktail during Happy Hour (Mon-Fri 5-7pm).

Frank’s Waterside is the ideal spot for a romantic dinner, a night out with friends, or a private or corporate function. The staff takes great pride in seeing to your every need and making sure that your event is a memorable experience. 201-861-0700.

Italian • American • Eclectic Dining • Private Catering Party Room

201-816-8988

The Barn — 359 Sicomac Avenue, Wyckoff. Built as a dairy barn in 1779, The Barn was converted to a speakeasy in 1929. The bar was built from an old farm wagon, it still stands today with its original wheels. In addition to award wining burgers and ribs, there is a full menu featuring a large array of appetizers and salads (served with fresh, homemade dressings) fish, poultry, beef and pasta. A highlight of the dessert menu is the popular apple pie ala mode. The Barn is family friendly and has become an important part of many traditions and memories.

Open for dinner Tues-Sun. 201-848-0108.

172 Piermont Road Cresskill, NJ 07626

Benny & Pilar Castro

American-Italian

Exquisite Cuisine From the Heart of Spain For Over 27 Years

TW’s Place - 172 Piermont Rd., Cresskill. A contemporary restaurant with an eclectic menu. Specialties include brick oven pizzas, Thai citrus shrimp, chicken pot pie, blackened salmon with mango salsa, grilled rib-eye steak, and Italian classic dishes. Dinner 7 nights. Lunch Mon-Fri. Children friendly. Party room available. Reservations for 5 or more. 201-816-8988.

★★★★ — The New York Times ★★★ — The Bergen Record

House Specialties Paellas • Mariscadas Lobster 11/4 - 4lb • 3lb Steaks

Chinese Peking Duck House — 411 Piermont Rd., Closter.

Enjoy the great taste of Peking Duck, uniquely

ristorante

fine dining in a relaxed atmosphere

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343 Bergen Blvd. • Palisades Park www.mesonmadridrestaurant.com

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Its Best prepared fresh fish selections and a “healthy “ menu (the restaurant is a member of the Pascack Valley Hospital Healthy Heart program). Seafood buffet Fri., 6-9:30pm for $1695, Dim Sum champagne buffet Sun., 11am-3pm for $1595 and a 3 course lunch served Mon.-Fri. for $695. In the Green Room Grill there is a sushi bar, juice bar, and a Mongolian Grill where you create your own meal choosing meat, vegetable and sauce. Great desserts, full bar and wine list, and a party room for 10-100 guests. Take out. For reservations call 201-767-8779.

Restaurant & Catering

Italian Café Italiano — 14 Sylvan Ave., Englewood Cliffs. The restaurant occupies the historic home of flamboyant 1920s NYC mayor, Jimmy Walker. The turn of the century architecture, combined with the fine Italian cuisine makes for a memorable dining experience.

The menu features great selections, large portions and affordable prices. From the hot and cold appetizers, to the pastas, risottos, chicken, veal, seafood, beef and lamb entrees, you will find every item uniquely prepared and presented. End your meal with a cappuccino or sinful desert. A wine list at fair prices is now offered. Open 7 days for lunch and dinner. Available for private parties for up to 100 people. Ample Parking. Call 201-461-5041.

Il Mulino — 132 Veterans Plaza, Dumont. “No wonder the place is packed. Nobody cooks like Jim Lulani,” says Savvy Living magazine. Jim Lulani, formerly of Cafe Italiano, makes guests feel at home at his 10 year old restaurant that specializes in authentic Italian food. The menu features seafood, milk-fed veal, aged steaks and chops, and creative specials.

BYOB, Sunset 4 course dinners for $1395 - $1795.

Open 7 days for lunch and dinner. 201-384-7767.

La Vecchia Napoli — 2 Hilliard Ave. (Corner of River Rd.), Edgewater. A charming, European style trattoria featuring delicious made-to-order Southern Italian dishes at moderate prices. ★★★ by the Bergen Record. Daily specials include fresh fish, lobster, meats and home made pasta that delight the eye and the palate. Wine & bar service available. Lunch, dinner. Outdoor dining in season.

Major credit cards accepted. Closed Mondays.

Call 201-941-6799.

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Fine Dining Happy Hour Mon - Fri 5-7pm Jazz Brunch Sun Outdoor Dining

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Grand Opening Formerly Porchlight Grill

Nanni — 53 West Passaic St., Rochelle Park. Features new regional Italian cuisine. Specialties include veal with chestnuts and mushrooms in brandy sauce, seafood in a white basil sauce, daily fish poached in vegetable broth, and much more. Music on Friday and Saturday nights. Major Credit Cards.

201-843-1250.

Under new management and fully renovated Introducing Executive Chef Bruce Nubile With a fresh twist on Steakhouse fare

Segreto Ristorante, Wine Bar & Cocktail Lounge — 50 Prospect Terrace, Tenafly. This newly renovated restaurant offers stylish decor, welcoming service and moderate prices. The spacious dining room is romantic, warm and comfortable. The chef, previously with two well-known NYC restaurants, has created a diverse menu with emphasis on Italian seafood. Many dishes, including Caesar Salad, whole fish, and flambe desserts are prepared tableside. The well-priced wine list features selections from around the world. Open for dinner Mon-Sat 5pm-10pm, and Sun 4pm-830 pm. 201-894-1211.

Japanese Kaname ­— 783 Palisade Ave., Cliffside Park. Rated ★★★ by the Bergen Record, Kaname is a favorite

201.445.2881

118 Godwin Ave. • Midland Park

You Don’t Have to Cross the Hudson to Dine in a

Great New York Steakhouse

NEW 4 Course Prix Fixe Menu Mon thru Fri 3-6pm.

Live Entertainment • Outdoor Dining Tuesday Karaoke • Friday Dance Band • Sunday Champagne Brunch Buffet

201-568-2616

“When nothing but red meat will do, eat here and bring a seafood lover with you!”

495 Sylvan Ave. • Englewood Cliffs On and Off Premises Catering • Party Room

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Its Best spot for Japanese food lovers, offering an extensive menu of traditional dishes and unique sushi & sashimi specialties. Sit at the Sushi bar and watch your host George create the most imaginative items using the freshest ingredients. If you haven’t tried Sushi before, he will help you. Portions are generous, the staff helpful and friendly. Cocktails, wine and beer are available. Ample parking in rear.

201-886-0080.

The Finest in Seafood

elegant, upscale dining Voted by the Readers’ Choice Award of New Jersey Monthly Magazine

Mediterranean - Fish Cihan - 354 Lawton Ave., Cliffside Park. Cihan specializes in fish and seafood dishes prepared in typical Mediterranean style with Middle Eastern accents.

The menu includes a large selection of appetizers such as freshly chopped salads, seafood salads, eggplant dishes, babagannus, and more. The entrees include fresh fish, cooked to your liking, casserole seafood dishes, and pan sizzling mussels.

Some meat such dishes such as kufta (meatballs) and lamb chops are also offered. Freshly baked breads and desserts from sister Cihan Patisserie.

201-840-0909.

“The Best a Seafood Restaurant of Northern New Jersey” for the past 14 years

201-489-7232

293 Polifly Rd. • Hackensack Conveniently located off Rt. 80, 17 and 46

www.seashack.com

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Daily Sunset Dinner Four Course Prix Fixe $1395-$1595 Mon-Fri 4pm-6pm • Sun 1pm-3pm

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Dining at Modern Italian Cuisine

Celebrating Our 3rd Anniversary!

Seafood Oceanos Oyster Bar and Sea Grill — 2-27 Saddle River Rd. Fair Lawn (1 block off Rt 4W). Manhattan comes to NJ. Oceanos, (formerly Peter’s Whale) features raw bar selections, whole Mediterranean fish and steakhouse specialties. There is a sit-down bar offering a list of sophisticated cocktails and an inviting patio for outdoor dining. Open for lunch Sun-Fri, dinner Mon-Sun, and the kitchen stays open late. 201-796-0546.

201-894-1211

50 Prospect Terrace • Tenafly Open 7 days

★ ★ ★ — Excellent Bergen Record Nov. 2006

Sea Shack – 293 Polifly Rd., Hackensack. Voted “The best seafood restaurant of Northern New Jersey for 14 consecutive years by the readers of NJ Monthly magazine. Sea Shack offers the largest and finest seafood selection. Fish entrees are prepared to order any way you desire, be it broiled, grilled, steamed, blackened or sauteed. The chefs use just the right touch of seasoning to subtly enhance the food’s natural flavors, not to overpower it with sauces. Also steaks, chops, veal and chicken dishes. Serving lunch and dinner. Credit cards accepted. www. seashack.com. 201-489-7232.

• Whole Mediterranean Fish • Exotic Oysters • Colossal Shrimp • Prime Steaks kitchen open late

201-796-0546

2-27 Saddle River Road, Fair Lawn Reserve Online

www.oceanosrestaurant.com

Spanish Don Quijote — 344 Bergen Blvd., Fairview. Fine Spanish cuisine featuring the freshest fish and seafood, delicious steaks and chops, as well as their famous paellas and mariscadas. Special lunches from $895 and early dinners for $1595. (served mon-fri 4pm7pm including soup or salad and Sangria). Private parties welcomed. New parking lot with ample parking. 201-943-3133.

Dine in a historic landmark serving great food and drinks!

201-848-0108

Meson Madrid — 343 Bergen Blvd., Palisades Park.

Casual elegance and exquisite cuisine from the heart of Spain for over 27 years. This highly rated restaurant specializes in exceptional paellas, mariscadas, as well as superbly prepared selections of lobster,

359 Sicomac Ave. Wyckoff for menu and directions visit www.TheBarnNJ.com

Peking Duck House

Don Quijote

Enjoy unique

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Thanksgiving and Christmas Buffet.

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(Whole Turkey available for Take Out)

★★★—Excellent, The Record

Open 7 Days

Exquisite Cuisine from Spain

Heart Healthy Menu

201-943-3133

201-767-8779

344 Bergen Blvd., Fairview • New Parking Lot www.donquijoterestaurant.net

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Authentic Italian homestyle cooking “Excellent” HHH — The Record seafood, veal and poultry. Lunch specials from $695.

Available for private parties and corporate events.

Full bar. Open Sun-Fri 1130am-1030pm, Sat 1130am1130pm. 201-947-1038.

Steaks and Seafood Assembly Steak House — 495 Sylvan Ave., Englewood Cliffs. Assembly Steak House has built a reputation and established itself as a favorite dining spot among those who recognize and expect fine food, service, and ambience. From the lively bar area to the spacious and comfortable dining room, the Assembly prides itself on serving prime beef, fresh seafood and fish. Each evening the chef offers a large and varied selection of popular specials.

The Champagne Sunday Brunch for only $2495 pp is a great way to relax with friends and family. R&B Jazz and dancing on Fri., and happy hour 4-7pm Mon-Thu, and 4-9pm Fri., with complimentary gourmet hors d’oeuvres. Party room available. Lunch Mon-Fri, dinner Mon-Sun. Off premises catering for any size group, from a casual gathering to a formal event. 201-568-2616.

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Party Room up to 120 • Fits any budget

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★★★ —the Bergen Record

Steakhouse Legends Steakhouse, — 118 Godwin Ave. Midland Park. Under the management of new owners, this former sports bar has been fully renovated and re-designed and is now a casual steakhouse with a menu created by executive chef Bruce Nubile (from the River Palm Terrace Group). The menu is best described as “simple and fresh.” Of course, the emphasis is on Black Angus Steaks, but there are also many choices of pasta, poultry, and seafood selections.

Legends Steakhouse is open daily for lunch, dinner and cocktails. Bring friends and family or arrange a private event. 201-445-2881.

KANAME Authentic Japanese Cuisine & Fabulous Sushi Bar

201-886-0080

783 Palisade Ave., Cliffside Park (Across from Winston Towers)

open Tue.-Sun. — Take-Out available

GRAND O P E NING Mediterranean Fish Restaurant 201-840-0909

354 Lawton Ave. • Cliffside Park

Next to CIHAN Patisserie

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Spacious 2 bedroom and 2.5 Bath home with approx 2020 sq ft in luxury living - views of the GW Bridge, Hudson River, and dazzling sunsets - spacious kitchen with a sunlit breakfast area and views of the water - great balcony - master bedroom suite with marble bath, jacuzzi, and separate shower - laundry.

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A total renovation has been completed encompassing every detail. Two of the three bedrooms and bathrooms have been combined to create the most luxurious master suite. Precision craftsmanship and the use of the finest materials articulate every aspect of this quintessential residence in the sky. The ultimate island kitchen features a breakfast area overlooking the George Washington Bridge, custom millwork, fabulous wood floors, automated window shades, built-in speaker system, the list goes on and on! A true masterpiece!

Offered at $2,388,000

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November-December 2008

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