Jan/Feb 2018 preview

WHAT ARE YOUR DREAMS TELLING YOU? FIND OUT…

VOLUME 4, ISSUE 4 JAN/FEB 2018

HOW TO TRAVEL LIKE A MILLIONAIRE ON A STARTER BUDGET

META GOLDING

REENACTS THE REAL-LIFE ROLE OF ROSA PARKS

DEAL-BREAKERS IN BED NEW:

CHECK OUT YOUR HERISCOPE!

FLIRTING IN THE WORKPLACE:

HARMLESS OR HARASSMENT

THE UNDOING OF PLASTIC:

HOLLYWOOD STARLETS WHO ARE REVERSING COSMETIC SURGERIES

Editor-in-Chief, Annette Johnson Managing Editor, JanayĂŠ Brown Senior Editor, Laurianna Cull Associate Editor, Grace Kelley Design Director, Joey Shepherd Design Assistant, Robert Johnson III Entertainment Editor, Harmoni Brangman Financial Editor, Deborah Hightower Editorial Assistant, Janice Pettigrew Sales Manager, Tim Ralph Contributors: Nicola Beer Holly Caplan Diane Sherry Case Jessica P. Conick Sloane Davis Audrey Epstein Julie Etter Merilee Kern Kelley Kosow Ahana Lara Ingrid Levin Jerry Della Mura Cover: Meta Golding Customer Service: For subscription service or change of address, including email, contact info@hersmagazine.net or write to P.O. Box 1071, Atlanta, GA 30301 Hers (ISSN 2372-3785) is published six times per year by Allwrite Communications Inc. 3300 Buckeye Road, #264 Atlanta, GA 30341 770-284-8983

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CONTENTS F E AT U R E S

24 What are Your Dreams Really Telling You? Do Dreams Really Reveal Hidden Messages?

10 Donna Hopkins: Triumph Through the Victory Cancer Survivor and Amputee Encourages Women to Victory

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How to Stay in Shape While Traveling

Keep Your Fitness Momentum in Check with these Travel Tips

13 Deal-Breakers in Bed

Increase the Romance by Eliminating These 7 Mood Killers

30 Emotional Bubble-Wrap for Young People Changing Homes

How to Overcome Your Children’s Stress About Moving

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Winter Styles by JustFab Spice Up the Winter with These Everyday Styles

35 Soft Surroundings Home Décor Bring in The Spring with These Home Décor Ideas

13 Easy, Healthy, MustHave Sugar Cookies!

Curve Your Sweet Tooth with this Guilt-Free Treat

29 Top Five Hairstyles of 2018 Caution: These Hairstyles Come with Instant Hair Envy

26 The Undoing of Plastics

Hollywood Starlets Who Are Reversing Cosmetic Surgeries

32 Cannabis-Infused Skincare, Yes, It’s Legal!

This Skincare Company Provides Pain Relief Without the Buzz

36 Dorothy Gibbons Wants You to Live in the Present Tense If Your Goals are Always in the

34 Agent Inc, Booking App

Future, You’ll Never Reach Them

The New Indeed of the Entertainment Industry

58 Meet My Two Best Friends: “No” and “I Can’t”

50 What to Do with Your Flowers After Valentine’s Day

Why Putting Yourself First Doesn’t Make You Selfish

How to Treat Your Skin to a Floral Spa

9 How to Travel Like a Millionaire on a Starter Budget Don’t Blow Your Money, Just Your Mind

33 She Persisted: 13 American Women Who Changed the World

A Perfect Book to Inspire Your Daughters

44 Winter Releases

Grab Your Coats and Go See a Show

45 New TV Shows to Watch in 2018 Bring in the New Year with

38 Meta Golding

Binge Worthy TV

Re-enacts the Real-Life Role of Rosa Parks

46 Hello Broadway! What’s New? Musicals You Don’t Want to Miss in 2018

47 Who’s On Tour? What Cities are They In? I Don’t Know Why You’d Miss It. Check out Artists Coming to Your Town

20 Want to Be More SelfAware? Build a Better Team Create a Fun Workplace that Your Employees Actually Enjoy

22 The “Write” Way to Cultivate Mindfulness and Spirituality Key Tips to Mindfulness and Spiritual Principles

48 No Longer Living with Pelvic Pain How Magnetic Dilators Can Save Your Sex Life hers-magazine.com

42 Flirting in the Workplace Harmless or Harassment

52 4 Keys to Unlock Your Income Mindset Are You Looking For Financial Freedom?

56 Food Fight: 7 Diet Apps for Slimdown Success This New Year The Key to Success is Just a Download Away

54 7 Steps to Keep Your Hobbies and Marriage Intact The Family that Has a Hobby Together, Stays Together

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Editor’s Letter We’re almost there, women’s history month in March, but before then, we honor female icons in African American history (February), such as Rosa Parks. In an upcoming TV biopic, Meta Golding plays the role of the woman who sparked one of the most significant events in the civil rights movement (1954-1968). In preparation for the role, Golding says she thought she knew a lot about Parks. However, she learned just how pivotal Parks was as an organizer alongside Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and others.

Other women like Dorothy Gibbons and Donna Hopkins may not be household names, but they are the inspiration behind hope for women who face breast cancer and other health challenges. Each one has used her experience to create a platform for which others can stand. You will surely enjoy learning more about each one.

While we learn what we can do for others, we also focus on what not to do to ourselves, at least not too much. The trend among starlets like Courtney Cox may be to enhance their looks through plastic surgery, but a reverse course is on the rise. Some stars like Cox and singer K. Michelle are actually reversing their surgical procedures, opting for a more natural look. You can read more about what’s driving this natural-look revolution in our editorial titled “The Undoing of Plastic: Hollywood Starlets Who are Reversing Cosmetic Surgeries.”

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Hollywood is also promoting the #MeToo and #TimesUp movements to expose the long-held attitudes and even people who have normalized women’s sexual harassment and assault.

With so much focus on harassment, we examine the age-old overture of flirting, specifically at work. Is it harmless toying or potential harassment?

On a lighter note, most everyone loves to getaway once in a while, but what prevents many of us from doing it regularly or at all, is our budget. Given that, we offer a means to overcome travel budget challenges with “How to Travel like a Millionaire on a Starter Budget.” While travelling may seem more like a dream for some, we know that everyone has actual dreams while sleeping. The issue is that we don’t always know what to make of our dreams. Enter Kim Forrester. She explains what your dreams may be telling you. Are you going to meet someone new or is your income going to increase? Read on so that you get away with Hers!

Regards, Annette R. Johnson

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H O L LY CA P L A N Holly Caplan has been in the medical device industry since 1997, and she learned early in her career that prospering in the male-dominated industry required adopting a few group values of the “dick clique,” as she calls it. And, membership in that clique has come with a battle – a battle to preserve personal and professional identity.

Caplan enjoys writing about her experiences and struggles in the workplace, and offers advice in her book, “Surviving the Dick Clique: A Girl’s Guide to Surviving the Male Dominated Corporate World.” She hopes to connect with women who are just entering their careers or who are in the throes of their success.

D I A N E S H E R RY CAS E Veteran actress, Diane Sherry Case, most known for her role as Lana Lang in the 1978 film, “Superman,” is now a writer and filmmaker living in Santa Monica, California.

Her short stories have been widely published, and her first novel, “Elephant Milk” won the Best Novel award at the Next Generation Indie Book Awards and has also been adapted for screen. As an alumni of the American Film Institute’s Directors Workshop for Women, she wrote and directed two short films, “Spa-tel” and “Valentine’s Day.” More recently, she has worked on the 2016 television series, “House Poor.” And her book, “Write for Recovery: Exercises for Heart, Mind and Spirit” was recently published in January 2018.

S LOA N E DAV I S Sloane Davis is a Certified Nutritionist and Personal Trainer who has helped thousands of people, both men and women, around the world get in top shape both mentally and physically.

Sloane has her Bachelor of Arts from Syracuse University and became accredited through ISSA with her degree in Sports Nutrition and Personal Training. She has two children and has transformed her own body, starting at age 40 with a program she calls, “Pancakes and Pushups.” She works personally and online with thousands of clients around the US and globally to help them get in the best shape at any stage of life.

AU D R EY E PST E I N Audrey Epstein joined The Trispective Group as a founding partner nearly ten years ago, following a 20-year corporate HR career focused on her passion: driving executive, team and organizational excellence. Audrey has successfully coached executives in dozens of different organizations, facilitated team sessions for many executive teams, and developed and led leadership programs for hundreds of leaders.

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Additionally, she built state-of- the-art leadership programs for executives, high potential groups, and special populations such as executive women. Audrey has an approachable but no-nonsense style, which enables her to help executives quickly assess their key strengths and challenges and identify practical and achievable actions to sustain high performance.

JULIE ETTER Julie Etter is a professional, national awardwinning realtor and former middle-school teacher based in Wrentham, MA. She is the author of “Lily and Andrew Are Moving.”

MERILEE KERN Founder and Executive Producer/Editor of “The Luxe List” International News Syndicate, Merilee Kern is a lifestyle, tech, consumer goods expert who reports on noteworthy products, services, destinations and events at all price points – from the highly affordable to the luxury extreme. In addition to her television endeavors, Merilee is also an award-winning author, APP developer, internationally syndicated writer, entrepreneur, publicist, and two-time fitness champion.

She also has a passion for children’s health which she features in her book, “Making Healthy Choices-A Story to Inspire Fit, Weight-Wise Kids” as well as her app, “Kids Making Healthy Choices.”

K E L L EY KO SOW Kelley Kosow is an author, motivational speaker and the Chief Executive Officer of the highly acclaimed Ford Institute. She continues the legacy of the late Debbie Ford, New York Times bestselling author and creator of “The Shadow Process,” by leading the development and teachings of The Ford Institute’s transformational programs to tens of thousands of people across the globe.

Kelly says, “I have realized my purpose and feel free to be selfexpressed, authentic, and fiercely confident in my passion to serve, empower, and liberate others.”

I N G R I D L EV I N Ingrid Levin is a former model living in New York who has almost 30 years of dating and living experience and has been through the ups and downs of previous engagements and marriages.

Ingrid aims to help empower, inspire and enlighten both men and women to live the best and happiest life possible by sharing her tips and tricks to help those avoid the same mistakes and to catch red flags when it comes to sex, dating and relationships. And, she does so through outlets such as her new blog, Ingrid Madison Ave. hers-magazine.com

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The “Write” Way to Cultivate Mindfulness and Spirituality Key Tips to Mindfulness and Spiritual Principles

BY DIANE SHERRY CASE

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Dreams W H A T

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Really Telling You?

D O D R E A M S R E A L LY R E V E A L HIDDEN MESSAGES?

BY JANAYÉ BROWN

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reams, what do they really mean? Some people say that dreams are conscious acts performed throughout the day that transfer over to our nightly brain. Others argue that dreams reveal underlying messages that helps in interpreting our future. Despite these various claims, has anyone ever come up with a definite and proven scientific answer for the story behind our dreams? Well, according to award-winning author, educator and intuitive consultant, Kim Forrester, she has the answers.

Kim Forrester, author of the book, “Infinite Mind,” uses psi experiences and modern-day research to explain this psychic phenomenon. I had the chance to speak with Kim to learn all about her book and also, how to interpret what my dreams were really telling me.

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THE U ND OI NG OF PL AST I C: H O L LYWO OD STARLE T S WH O A R E R E VERSI NG COS M ET IC S U RG ERI ES

BY LAURIANNA CULL

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or many female celebrities, there’s an invisible clause in every contract they sign which says they are never allowed to look older than 35 years old. And for those ladies still under the age of 35, it is highly recommended that they enhance their physique with plastic surgery, lest they be outshined by the 25-year olds. This backwards idea has been an unspoken rule in Hollywood for decades, and we’ve all seen the results.

Actresses such as Rene Zellweger, Meg Ryan, and Jennifer Grey are almost unrecognizable from the lovable romantic comedy characters that once stole our hearts.

And there are more fake noses, butts, and breasts walking around L.A. than there are vegans… and that’s saying something.

However, amongst the sea of spray tans and lip injections, some Hollywood stars are breaking their silent contract not only by speaking out against cosmetic procedures and enhancements but having theirs removed. Three celebs that have had their implants/fillers removed recently are Courtney Cox, K. Michelle, and Heidi Montag.

Towards the final season of “Friends,” it was obvious that Monica (played by Courtney Cox) started to have that “always surprised” face which is usually indicative of face lifts, fillers, injections, etc. By the time Cox had hers-magazine.com

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META GOLDING

RE-ENACTS THE REAL-LIFE ROLE of ROSA PARKS

BY ANNETTE JOHNSON

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est known for her breakout role in the “Hunger Games” film franchise, Meta Golding stars as the civil rights icon Rosa Parks in the new biopic “Behind the Movement.”

The TV movie retells how Parks’ refusal to give up her seat to a white passenger on a public bus launched the history-making Montgomery Bus Boycott. While there had been other instances of African Americans refusing to obey segregation laws, the film reveals the untold story of how a group of everyday people decided this incident was the right time to take a stand for their civil rights and demand equal treatment.

Prior to taking on the role, Golding was familiar with Parks’ incident on the bus and the subsequent boycott, but she admits she learned so much more about Parks’ involvement as an activist long before the incident. She said, “Of course I knew who Rosa Parks was and I knew what she did. I knew what she looked like, but I never knew…I never heard her voice. I just knew her as this brave woman who was a national 38

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treasurer who went on to be an activist. I had no idea that by the time Rosa Parks refused to give up her seat, she was already a seasoned activist.”

Parks’ longtime commitment to social justice and bravery were especially notable given her gender, as well as her race, in such a socially volatile time in American history. “She was an activist in the ‘40s in Alabama when it was very, very dangerous to be part of the NAACP,” noted Golding. “She was the secretary, not secretary like keeping notes, but she was going out and documenting all the civil rights injustices that were happening and trying to get people legal help and voter registration. She was very, very active, and I did not know that.”

As one of the main but few prominent female members of the civil rights movement lead by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Parks holds an emblematic place in American history. In preparing for the role, Golding said, “I went to a lot of church, and I tried to prepare myself spiritually because Ms. Parks was a profoundly faithful person. I gained a lot of her courage hers-magazine.com

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he other day I was speaking to a friend who is also a transformational teacher and leads workshops. She was telling me about a new project she’s putting together. As she was excitedly rattling off her multi-tiered strategy, she started naming all of the ways I could and would play a part in her new undertaking. Being a lover of great ideas, new ventures, spiraling up in the energy of other people’s visions and of course, having my ego stroked by someone telling me how fabulous I am and what an “amazing addition” I would be, normally, I would have just followed along with her assumption that I would be a part of her new project. However, since I’m preparing to launch my Every Choice Matters program on May 1st, I am very much in the conversation about the impact of each and every

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Her-iscopes: Career predictions from the stars Happy birthday, Capricorn and Aquarius!

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22-January 19 Strengths: Disciplined, ambitious, logical, reliable Weaknesses: cold, pessimistic, rigid Your infallible work ethic means that you’ve been prolific recently, and your analytical mind has made sure that you have the numbers to back you up. You’ve been kicking butt and taking names like Miranda Priestly. Unfortunately, some people find your Miranda Priestly social attitude off-putting, and that might mean that you’ve been getting passed over for raises and promotions that you deserve. It’s unfair, and even though you would rather wear your painful interview shoes to the gym than network, grit your teeth and state your career goals to someone senior (not necessarily within your company—a mentor, or someone at a different company with the position you want would work too). They can help you work out a game plan and will keep your name in their mouths when they see your desired position open up.

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January 20-February 18 Strengths: Intellectual, independent, friendly, compassionate Weaknesses: Aloof, self-absorbed, temperamental Aquarius, you usually thrive in places where people exchange views and experiences, but the holidays have you drained.

The holidays are full of diplomacy, which you’re good at, and small talk, which you’re not bad at but which feels tedious when you naturally crave deeper conversations and connections. You just need a “you” moment. For your birthday, give yourself some time to articulate, via a Pinterest board, journaling or talking to a friend about your goals for the coming year. Just remember to eventually exit la la land, and make a plan for how to attain these goals. Also, actually listen to your 60

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friend when she talks about her life, too!

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February 19-March 20

You’re a bit of worrywart, Pisces. It’s normal to think you’re going to get fired when your boss calls you into her office—it’s less normal to come out of the perfectly benign meeting, W-2 in hand, thinking, “Okay but how do I know she won’t fire me the next time she brings me in?” Calm your emotional brain down by focusing on concrete numbers for how you’ve helped the company’s goals. You’ve brought in X number of new clients which meant Y growth in revenue last quarter, etc.

Bonus—you might be able to use these numbers to negotiate a well-deserved raise!

ARIES

March 21-April 19 Fiercely competitive like the charging ram of your sign, you roll your eyes at “participation” trophies and are a good team player. But when a new colleague enters your work, resist the temptation to see her as a rival—for raises, for meeting quotas, for that spot in the fridge that’s conveniently your-saladTupperware-sized. Your boss wouldn’t have brought her in if she didn’t have something good to contribute to the team, and rest assured if she doesn’t, she will be shown the door. So be patient, and get to know her—and come in to work earlier to score that fridge spot.

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April 20-May 20 You have a good eye for detail and seek out quality rather than quantity. You have a high standard for your work, but this also unfortunately means that you’re prone to procrastination. You think slapping something together at the last minute is an easier blow on your ego—if it wasn’t your best, you’re safe, you haven’t “truly” failed. But you owe it to your poor stressed body to take the time to really plan your next project. Manage your time wisely, and drink something nonhers-magazine.com

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