Haute Life Magazine, Issue 3

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Photo by Grace Sarris “Be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi As we think about this spring issue that we’ve appropriately themed “Be the Change,” Mahatma Gandhi’s famous quote comes to mind. This, along with the other quotes that are on constant repeat in our heads – like “change nothing and nothing will change” and “this too shall pass” – is one that we remind ourselves of on a regular basis.

There is so much meaning in these quotes on so many different levels. When we hear “be the change,” we tend to think globally… especially with the issues our world and our country face right now. Things like clean water, oil spills, cancer, and more… and you think, “How can I affect this change?”

But these break down into our daily lives, too. Many of us have mini-me’s, imitating our every move and sometimes, every word. There are others that we affect daily, whether we realize it or not. We influence others through our words and actions, and we truly believe kindness matters.

Not only can we affect change within ourselves and with those who we are guiding, but we can affect change globally. In this issue, you’ll find tips on doing just that from ReThink Wabash Valley, learning how to make DIY products from Pure Grace Soaps, and many other ways we can affect change, including an inspiring story of someone that changed her own life. You will also find a feature on that special person in many of our lives that inevitably affected change in us – our moms.

Our hope is that as you read this issue, you consider the different ways you can “be the change” – in your own world and in the world we share.

XOXO Lori & Yvette

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Project P.I.N.K. - A Mother’s Mission Our Contributors The “Soul Closet” Cleaning The Power to be Your Best Aging Gracefully Haute Beauty Are We There Yet?!

Bon Voyage! Essentials for the Beach Brave Moms Club A New Look for a New Life Haute Sycamores Make It... Happen A Truly Well Styled Home Haute Homes Boss Lady: My Fly Life Makers Gonna Make Unveiled Haute Fashion ShopGirl: A Yorktown Pearl Geek Chic Nursery Baby Gifting: Sweet for the Littles Not Your Mama’s Recipe Ice, Ice Baby Ethical is the New Black Love Your Mother (Earth) Simple Indulgence Haute Reads: The Joy of Wasting Time Haute Musician Haute Women in History Dream Chaser A Catalyst for Change Haute Blogger Charmed Life Sincerely, Millie Got a Big Dream?

Special Feature: Moms are the Best

62. Gifts for Mom 64. Coping with Loss: Two Special Moms Tell Their Stories 68. Dear Mom...

70. Maternity Fashion 72. Like Mother, Like Daughter 81. Fan Girl Friday

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A Mother’s Mission

The bond shared between a mother and daughter is unlike any other. Although I was only able to experience the powerful bond a mother and daughter share with my mom for the first twenty years of my life, I am confident I will carry it with me for the rest of my existence.

Growing up, I was able to learn so much from having a strong-willed yet loving, warm, and caring mother. Everyone has role models; young girls, teenagers, and even adults. Having a role model while growing up and understanding who we are is vital. It’s exceptionally important for young girls to hold a role model that embodies the kind of woman they would like to become someday.

Today, I am beginning to grasp just how fortunate I was to possess a mother that grew into my primary role model, as well as being many others’. She modestly accomplished this duty without striving to do so. I continue to notice things about myself that I have gained from my mom; some of these traits I observed while she was still with me, and some I’ve found following her passing. I am grateful for this.

Even though our time spent together on Earth is now over, I am thankful to recognize and acknowledge just how much our relationship has influenced my life in such a powerful, positive way. She taught me the value of never comparing my experiences to anyone else’s because the only life I am going to live is my own.

When my mother received her terminal diagnosis, she did not allow it to dictate the rest of her days. She did not compare her struggles to anyone else’s.

Throughout our relationship, I discovered that the things we can control are the things that matter, but I only learned this from watching my mom control and fully live her individual life. As time progresses, I understand more of the ways my mom helped me through life and how I can do the same for others now.

She showed me that life truly isn’t worth living if we aren’t striving to change and better the lives of the people around us.

Maybe if anyone else were my mom, I would not feel this way. I can’t say for certain. However, what I do know is that I will infinitely work toward becoming half of the mom she was.

Photo by Grace Sarris

My mother opted to stay happy and remain thankful for the 49 years she was given, until the day she departed from this Earth. From this experience, I’ve learned to love my life, as well as each day I’m blessed with, despite the situations I must face.

I will do this so that maybe one day, my daughter will feel the same way as I do now, and she will hold beautiful memories about our relationship just like I am fortunate to hold onto today.

Experiencing the beautiful bond mothers and daughters share together, I cannot think of a better gift I could grant to my future child. Because I haven’t and will never receive anything as sweet as that.

- Dominique Bagnoche

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C o n t r i b u t o r s

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Dominque Bagnoche

Angela Tapy

Leah Singer

Haute Fashion

Charm School

Leah’s Thoughts

Giovy Sanders

Julie Manson

Samantha McGranahan

Terre Haute Church of God

Pure Grace

Unveiled

Liv Curtis

Angelia Eccles

Stephanie Pence

Haute Sycamores

Makeup Artist

Hallie Hound Barkery

Jennifer Schwab

Laura Kirchner

Holly Brucken

Evolution Fitness

Evolution Fitness

Editor

Lily Freese

Amy Gibson

Sarah Johnston

Brittany Molinder

Blogger

Travel

Photographer

Clabber Girl

Brittany Michaels

Peg Finzel

Nicole Osborne

Craig Mitchell

Vigo County Public Library

Century 21

Brave Mom’s Club

Graphic Artist

Grayce Daniel

Ashlee Sappingfield

Samantha Ripperger

Susan Tingley

Haute Sycamores

Photographer/Editor

Intern

Vigo County Historical Society & Museum

Chelsea Dickerson

Candi Snyder

Allison Hunt

Cheryl Salyers

Evolution Fitness

Gentiva Hospice

Editor

Serendipity Salon

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The “Soul Closet” Cleaning

“Joy is prayer - Joy is strength - Joy is love Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls.”

- Mother Teresa

Spring has sprung, folks! What does that mean for you? For many, it means springcleaning your home, but for me, this year it means cleaning out the soul closet. After really taking in a recent message at church, I was reminded that cleaning up the soul closet is the most important task for spiritual growth and self-improvement.

Our minds, bodies, and souls are much like the wintered flowerbed. In order for growth and fresh blooms, we must spend time pruning, raking, and preparing for rebirth. So, let’s take that time to prune the soul!

Are you still feeling regretful about something that occurred in the past? Is there an emotion that’s holding you back from moving forward? Take charge and remove whatever may be limiting you or keeping you from reaching your goals. A coworker of mine has taught me that it’s important to remind myself daily of my soulful purpose. In order to stay genuine and true to myself, I have listed my three core principles that define my soulful purpose, and I keep them where I can see them daily. The day-to-day distractions and stresses can easily get you off track, but 2017 can be your year to make permanent changes that set you on the track of fulfilling your purpose, following your heart, and living God’s will.

I’m blessed to work in hospice, where I am reminded daily that we may only have one chance to make things right. A few years ago, I read the book Dying Well by Dr. Ira Byock. We always hear about everyone’s bucket lists, but Dr. Byock’s end of life patients say the most important things to hear are: please forgive me, thank you, I forgive you, and I love you. He explains how these four phrases and the sentiments they convey provide people with a path to emotional wellbeing, and I believe that these are important to soul cleansing and for guiding us through interpersonal difficulties with integrity and grace.

I want to leave you with an inspirational quote to inspire your soul cleansing and to keep you on track.

“The soul for me, it’s the truth of who we are. The light, the love, which is within us, goes by different names but the truth of us. Michelangelo said when he got a statue that he would go to the quarry and get a big piece of marble. So that’s what we’re like. Inside is the being that God has already created. Some call it the Christ, the Buddha mind, the Shekinah, the light, the soul. And our job is to get rid of this excess, useless fear, thought forms of the world that actually hide the light of the soul.” -Marianne Williamson

- Candi Snyder

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The Power to be Your Best

The small group fitness studio, Evolution Fitness, is the product you get when you take a group of committed friends who not only want to exercise and lead healthy lives, but who also share a true desire to provide that same opportunity to others at an affordable price. In January 2014, five friends came together with an idea to launch a group fitness studio model unlike any other here in the Wabash Valley.

They decided on a simple business plan: seven dollars per class, no memberships, and no long-term commitments. They shared a common goal: give people who want to exercise a place to come and do it. They each love to instruct and love to inspire others to help them commit to a healthier lifestyle. Along the way, they combined with other talented people that share those same traits, those same goals, and those same aspirations for others.

Larry and Laura Kirchner, Darren and Holly Brucken, and Chelsea Dickerson founded Evolution Fitness located inside Wabash Valley Tumbling and Gymnastics on Erie Canal Road. Evolution Fitness offers a wide variety of classes and a huge array of fitness opportunities ranging from Spin Classes to Turbo Kick, Group Power, HIIT training classes, TRX, Kettlebell AMPD, and small group personal training, plus many more. This isn’t a branded, stand-alone gym filled with machines, nor the clatter of barbells and grunting muscle-heads (not that there’s anything wrong with that, of course). What you will find inside is a welcoming smile, challenging classes, and a heartfelt welcome into the Evolution Family. It’s a wonderful place for people of all skill levels. It’s a great opportunity to meet like-minded people who share the same goals you hold near and dear to your own heart - the desire to live a healthier life. Your classmates will keep you inspired to keep coming back, to stay on your journey to a healthier life.

The motto that created Evolution Fitness is clear in their logo: Inspire, Transform, Evolve. They are there to help inspire you, to push you to transform your body and mind, and to evolve into the person you know you can be.

Evolution Fitness offers a wide variety of challenging classes. A list of class descriptions and online class registration can be found on their website: www.evolutionfitness.biz. Small group and individual personal training is also available at Evolution, and can be tailored to your busy schedule. There are no memberships to buy, no contracts to sign, no long-term commitments… just an honest opportunity to help get you into the gym again! Come and laugh, sweat, and rediscover the you that you want to be! Visit the website, or drop by the studio during a scheduled class time to check out a class, meet an instructor, or to ask questions.

- Holly Brucken, Laura Kirchner, Chelsea Dickerson

Evolution Fitness instructors include a busy mother of three, Jodi May, and another certified personal trainer, Jennifer Flynn. The drive behind the instructors is incredibly diverse. With backgrounds as personal trainers, busy moms, busy dads, and simply real people, they understand the difficulty of balancing the desire to exercise with the obstacles of real life. The instructors also have knowledge of nutrition, exercise science and sports medicine, and have literally more than six decades of experience in personal training and fitness instruction.

The classes are open to anyone from the novice exerciser, to the skilled fitness fanatic. With beginner classes and exercise modifications easily explained during classes, no one should feel intimidated giving Evolution a chance to help them achieve their own fitness goals. Once you take a class, you will surely feel that amazing feeling of “family” that Evolution’s clients all experience. You will hopefully be planning your next class the minute you finish wiping the sweat from your face after just kicking butt in a spin class, completing your first go at a TRX Tabata class, or restacking your Group Power weights.

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- Photo by Samantha Ripperger - Inset Photo by Samantha McGranahan

Aging Gracefu lly It’s never too late to start an exercise plan and start living a well-balanced life. With some planning, and a fitness program that fits your needs, you can achieve your goals regardless of your age. I have the pleasure of knowing Carol Templeton, and loved that she was willing to tell her story of how she keeps fit and her secrets to a healthy and viable lifestyle. She is such an inspiration to so many people in Terre Haute, including her family!

If her story doesn’t inspire you to get up off the couch and do something, then I’m not sure what will. I hope Carol’s tips will be the motivation you might need to help you in your fitness journey.

Carol, do you mind telling us your age?

Where do you work out? What type of classes do you take?

80... I will be 81 in May…

I go to Ultimate Fitness and Bariatric Center. I go every day except Sundays, and usually workout 2-3 hours daily. I take several different classes, so my routine looks something like this: • Barre Pilates - 1x/week • Mat Pilates - 1x/week • Pilates on the Reformer - 2x/week • Zumba - 3-4x/week • Performance Training - 2x/week • Total Body Workout - 3x/week • Sweat Shop - 2x/week (pretty intense/high energy) • Walk on the treadmill, outside, or mall very frequently

How many children do you have?

I have 4 children ages 55, 53, 50 and 47, and 9 grandchildren. We have a wonderful time and all of us are very close. Three of our children live here in Terre Haute, and one lives in Des Moines, IA. What was the turning point for you to get on track and live a healthy lifestyle?

It’s so hectic with a young family - I got started by walking a lot with friends to relieve stress and connect with other adults.

What benefits have you experienced from working out daily?

My health is very good. I feel so blessed that I am able to do all that I do! I do not have to take a lot of medications like so many people my age, and I think I am in the shape I’m in because of all the exercise and healthy eating.

What motivates you each day to get up and go to the gym?

Everyone encourages me and in turn, I feel an obligation to get moving and be an example to older people. I feel I can show what you’re able to do if you work at it.

People are my motivation. I love to be around others and we all love working out together. The “younger ones” certainly keep me going!

Photography by Samantha Ripperger How long have you been working out?

I’ve been working out probably 40 years, but more concentrated the last 20-25 years.

Earlier too…I was busy with children and family and didn’t go to the gym much, but took a few aerobics classes, stretching, that type of thing.

What do you know now that you wish you knew in your 30-40’s?

The true importance of living an active lifestyle is attitude - to try to always be positive, and try to wear a happy face as much as possible...it is contagious! It is amazing how that helps me and others. I hope to remain active as long as possible and hopefully my husband will too!

- Yvette Morgan

Ultimate Fitness and Bariatric Center is located at 3171 S 3rd Place in Terre Haute, Indiana. Find more information and class schedules at www.ulitmatefitnessbariatric.com.

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Haute Beauty: All Dolled Up Angelia Eccles is a makeup artist based here in Terre Haute. The majority of her work includes doing on-site makeup for bridal parties and special events. Building relationships and getting to know her clients is most important to her, and she wants to ensure your makeup reflects you. Whether you are a bride-to-be and it’s your big day, or if you’re going to your 50th class reunion, she will customize your look to make you look and feel like the best version of yourself.

Cathy Contri is a Terre Haute native, cancer survivor, mother of two, and a grandmother to three. I had the opportunity to do her makeup and spend some time with her this past February.

For Cathy’s makeup, I wanted to create a look to suit her vibrant personality and dry skin type. I primed her skin with moisturizer, and used concealer and airbrush foundation. I then gave her a smoky eye using matte shades and false lashes, bringing out her eyes. I used matte blush and a subtle contour on her cheeks. I defined and filled in her eyebrows with a pencil and powder, and finished off her look with red lipstick.

Tips for Dry and Textured Skin For makeup application on dry skin, I recommend making certain you properly cleanse and moisturize, including the eye and lip area. If you have some extra time, using a moisturizing face and eye mask before will do wonders for a smooth application.

For further skin perfection, use a cream foundation and concealer. Using matte and minimal satin finish eye products are a great idea, so that you are less likely to enhance any unwanted skin texture. Another tip is to define and fill in your brows using a shade or two lighter than your natural hair color.

Lastly, using false lash strips or lash clusters to make your eyes pop is a great way to add that festive touch for a special day or evening out.

This could be a day or evening look for Cathy! It allows for her dynamic personality to shine through!

Cathy has a zest for life that is contagious! She recalled her visits to Los Angeles, teaching ballroom dance classes while living in Indianapolis, meeting her husband (to whom she proposed!), to having her children, grandchildren, and being diagnosed with cancer a few years ago.

She explained how she took the news, and the support she received from her family in the days and months after that diagnosis. Cathy also told me of her excitement and relief upon receiving the news that she was cancer free after surgery, and especially after the chemotherapy was finished.

She is an avid ballroom dancer. From east coast swing to salsa, she loves it all and is quite talented. What an honor it was for me to have the opportunity to hear Cathy’s story and spend time with her.

Thank you, Cathy! You are an inspiration!

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- Angelia Eccles

Photography by Danna Andreas

Are We There Yet?!

Our editors share their favorite vacation spots

When we lived in San Diego, we were fortunate to visit Disneyland in Anaheim a few times each year. The three of us would stay for a few days and often enjoyed a night at one of the Disneyland hotels. While we’re not huge amusement park people, there’s something about Disneyland that we always look forward to visiting and experiencing. Every visit was magical for different reasons. We love the Halloween decorations in the fall. The holidays bring about an excitement for winter, and we were super lucky to experience the Star Wars Seasons of the Force when it debuted!

– Leah Singer

I grew up in Minnesota and still have lots of family back there. One of my favorite places to visit when I was growing up was Duluth, MN. We were fortunate to introduce my girls to Duluth this past summer. Located at the westernmost point of the Great Lakes, this port city on Lake Superior is always fun to explore. We love to watch the aerial lift bridge and the enormous shipping boats. We visit Park Point to chase seagulls and dip our toes in the lake. It’s great for a day trip, but there is so much you could do during a longer visit - visit the zoo, aquarium, or railroad museum, tour Glensheen Mansion, watch Grandma’s Marathon, go agate hunting, do some shopping, or stroll the Lakewalk.

– Jennifer Schwab

My family’s favorite vacation spot is Myrtle Beach, SC. We go every other year, but we’re trying to turn it into a yearly trip. There’s plenty to do, hundreds of places to shop, eat, stay, and have fun. Very family-friendly!

– Ashlee Sappingfield

My favorite vacation spot is Indian Rocks Beach, Florida. My extended family and I have been frequenting that area since I was really young, and it certainly holds a special place in my heart. If you ever make it to this area, be sure to make time for John’s Pass Boardwalk—an adorable village filled with restaurants and shopping a short drive away in Madeira Beach. We spend most evenings there while we’re visiting. My favorite restaurants there are Scully’s and DeLosa’s Pizza. Whatever you do, though, eat dinner at Crabby Bill’s in Indian Rocks! Picnic tables, paper towels, and the best clam strips, you won’t want to miss out on this experience. Our other favorite spot in Indian Rocks is the Candy Kitchen. It’s a family-owned ice cream shop that’s been open since 1950. During the summer months, the line to get in is typically out the door and halfway down the street! Be sure to check out the bathroom while you’re there. The water is amazingly blue, the sand is unique, and there are seashells galore. Indian Rocks is by far my favorite beach I’ve been to—I hope you can check it out sometime!

– Allison Hunt

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Bon Voyage!

With summer travel quickly approaching, I thought I’d share some of my tips for packing light. By using these tips, I hope you will gain a more relaxed and simple way to travel with style!

I always used to over pack. At the beginning of every trip with my husband, there would be a confrontation about the amount and the weight of my luggage. He would look at my heap, (so what if I had 3 suitcases for a weekend trip), grab the handle of each bag, and as he raised it would look aghast, and say, “Amy, that’s just ridiculous.” It really started the vacation off on a happy note (insert sarcastic tone here).

I always took great pride in my ability to pack. I’ve traveled extensively, and in doing so, I think I know every item a person could possibly need in any given situation. But as I was repacking to come home from yet another overly packed vacation, I realized I hadn’t even touched a fourth of the things I had brought. Why spend so much time packing so many things? Could my husband be right? How could I be such an experienced traveler but pack like a rookie?

I decided I would come up with a packing plan that would still be style savvy, stay within my “supposed” luggage limits, and not stress me out planning it. So I set out to pack for a beach vacation, using only carry-on luggage. A very frightening thought to me. But so many travelers do it, why couldn’t I? I started researching everywhere to find info about light packing hacks. I searched all the top fashion websites, travel websites, Instagram, and Pinterest. I bought travel magazines and watched countless YouTube videos as well. Finally, when I felt confident enough, I believed I was ready to conquer Turks and Caicos with only a roller bag, a tote bag, and a purse.

The following are the tips that helped me turn from an overly stressed packer to a simple, stylish traveler.

SHOES - I always brought too many shoes. You actually only need 3 pairs, max.

Always bring flip-flops—hands down the most useful shoes. They take up no room, are perfect for the beach, great to wear with shorts or a dress, and perfect to use as “house shoes” in your hotel. I really like the Ipanema line - their flipflops are a tad bit dressier than normal ones. Then, bring a nice pair of flats that look good with pants or dresses, but are comfortable enough to wear out walking around the city. I like a gladiator espadrille. Finally, there is always a chance to work out or take a beautiful walk in a new city, so bring a pair of sneakers. A pair that is fashionable and functional can do double duty. Save room by wearing the your bulkiest shoes on the plane.

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PACKING CUBES - I had always heard to roll your clothes, which never worked for me. Packing cubes, however, are a great way to pack for each day or keep items separated by category. They also keep things from getting wrinkled, which always happens no matter how great you fold/roll your items. Always put your heaviest things at the bottom - the short end where the wheels are - it’s easier to roll a bag along when the weight is at the bottom. Putting shoes and toiletries there can make it easier for you to manage your suitcase.

TOILETRIES - This was also a major problem for me, being a total beauty product junkie. It all depends on where you are going, so take these tips as you wish!

If you are going to a hotel that carries nice shampoo, conditioner, and soaps, then don’t bring those at all - they take up too much room. Most hotels have hair dryers, so never pack one of those. You’re on the beach, give your hair a break and let it air-dry! Slim down your makeup bag by taking only what you will be using… you’ll be amazed at how much smaller that bag becomes. If you wear contacts, bring an extra pair. If you forget anything, most hotels have all the basic amenities you might need, like razors, toothbrushes, etc. I include a small bottle of wrinkle reducer and a travel-sized pack of makeup wipes. Remember, all liquids in a carry on must be 3 ounces or less.

Essentials for the Beach THE LIST - Every piece on “The List” must be multi-functional, easy to coordinate, and a true favorite of your wardrobe. This makes an easy checklist for packing exactly what you need and nothing that you don’t. You can always add extras depending on where you are traveling.

Beach Packing List 1 pair of shorts 1 skirt 6 shirts 2 dresses 1 beach cover up 1 beach shoe 1 evening shoe 1 sun hat 4 favorite accessories 2 swim suits undergarments

Beach Packing List: Wear on The Plane 1 spring jacket 1 layering piece 1 tank top 1 long pant 1 pashmina scarf 1 comfortable (& stylish) walking shoe 1 pair sunglasses 1 tote bag suitable for carry on and beach 1 favorite accessory

Hopefully this beach packing list can take all the stress out of your packing for your next vacation! Just follow along and plan how the pieces you’re packing will work together as you set them aside. I think you’ll find you need a lot less than you usually pack. I still make rookie mistakes while packing for some trips, but for most traveling experiences, I am now packing like an expert - and you can too!

- Amy Gibson

Photography by Grace Sarris

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Brave Mom's Clu b The Evolution of Bravery

I haven’t always been a member of the Brave Mom’s Club. In fact, when I became a mom, I was the exact opposite of brave: fearful, cautious and worried about what others thought of me.

Six months into my pregnancy, I was told I had an aneurysm on my aorta near my heart. The anxiety that filled my days after was overwhelming. I managed to make it through a successful delivery, but I ended up with postpartum depression and that, coupled with the anxiety/fear of the aneurysm rupturing, sent me on a downward emotional spiral.

The day we found out, I was in complete and utter denial. Only six months had passed since heart surgery! I was so angry with God and I just didn’t understand.

Unbelievably devastated and not at all ready to embark on yet another medical journey, I sat in tears on my sofa and let the anxiety and fear creep back in. There weren’t enough deep breaths for the what-ifs going through my head. The saving grace for me was my team of doctors. I was able to meet with two of them that day, and though treatment would be difficult, the idea that I could be cured - that this wasn’t a death sentence - made that “c word” a little less scary. So, with the help of many, I picked myself up, wiped away the tears, and put my fighting gloves back on. I started be-

Over the next five years, with hard work, a therapist, antianxiety meds, and A LOT of self-help books, I gradually recovered. My new self was dreaming big and had a passion for life. My relationships with family, friends, colleagues, and God were changing, in a good way. I finally felt like my life had a purpose. I wasn’t worrying about what others thought of me, instead I started believing in who I was and the dreams I had for myself.

Eventually, I quit my teaching job, published a book, and started a small business, all with a vision to inspire others to “fear-less” and live more in the moment. I was happy and thankful...and things remained that way until a little over a year ago.

That was when I was told I would need open heart surgery to repair my aneurysm. And without warning, all of the anxiety and fear I had worked so hard to overcome, returned. I was scared of everything; the surgery, of dying, for my daughter to grow up without a mom, for my husband to move on. My need to be in control of everything was at an all time high, so I began making lists and planning for my family. I planned a celebration for my life, wrote letters to my family and close friends, made lists of my favorite quotes, songs, and bible verses, spoke often of my love for them and the joy they brought to my heart. The scariest moment of my life was when they wheeled me away from them to the operating room.

So when I woke up in the ICU after surgery, even though the pain was unimaginable, the relief I felt was indescribable. I had survived! I was alive! And I used that motivation to push me through recovery and rehab. Believe me, that part of the journey wasn’t easy, but I was ready to put this behind me, to be the mom and wife that God had set me out to be. Once again, I put my anxiety and fear to rest. I was happy and thankful...that is, until they told me I had breast cancer.

Say what?!

lieving that everything I had been through, all I had learned up to this point served a purpose and that God hadn’t brought me this far to leave me now. My support network of family, friends, fellow artisans, shop owners, and many others I never met was, and is, unbelievable! With their help, I successfully completed eight chemotherapy treatments, a double mastectomy, and twenty-five radiation treatments.

For two years, I have had to let others see, scan, biopsy, cut into, and take care of my body. That was hard, humiliating at times, especially since my outward body doesn’t look like it once did. But I’ve learned to embrace the new parts of me.

When you’re stripped of all that makes you, you outwardly, you’re forced to really look at what makes you, you inwardly. What I want my daughter to see when she looks at me, scars and all, is a brave, strong woman. One who has been through a lot, but continues to remain optimistic; one who embraces the woman she has become and looks forward to what the future holds; someone she looks up to, she comes to for advice, she trusts; someone who has shown her that simply being who you are, being true to yourself, can in fact, change the world in some small way. A “brave mom” by my own definition.

My hope for you today is that you will come up with your own “brave mom” definition. Maybe you’ve been on a similar journey, or maybe yours has looked completely different. Really, no matter how we are or were challenged, or what struggles lie ahead, all of our stories are oddly alike in one way or another. We all deserve to feel proud of where we’ve been, how far we’ve come, and all we’ve learned that makes this crazy, scary, fabulous life worth living every single day.

As for me, I’m learning to let go of the guilt and pressure I’ve been putting on myself to figure out what to do next with my life. Some days you might find me sobbing on my closet floor or locked in the bathroom looking for a few alone moments of silence! But for the first time in a while, I have decided that is ok. That’s part of the new me I’m learning to embrace and accept. I remain hopeful that my story will bring encouragement and inspiration to all those I am blessed to share it with. I am happy and thankful...and ready to write a new chapter.

- Nicole Osborne

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Photography by Rachel Deal - Green Glass Photos

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A New Look For a New Life Lora McCracken was kind enough to sit down with me over the phone and chat a little bit about her life and where it has led her today.

Lora is 30 years old and has been doing drugs since the age of 12. She was born in Terre Haute at Union Hospital, and raised by her parents Kathy and Richard Kirk. She’s the mother of 3 children; 1 boy and 2 young girls. Growing up, she remembers that her parents provided for her and did the best they could. But Lora was always looking for acceptance in her young life, and at the age of 12 she turned to drugs and alcohol to ease the pain of not feeling accepted. Over the next 17 years she was in and out of rehab facilities, Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, moved, tried to go back to school, married, and then remarried, all in attempt to change her life.

On September 27, 2015 with her third DUI, she flipped her truck and was LifeLined to Methodist Hospital, and was put on life support. After she was released she realized her life was spiraling out of control. It took 11 months after the accident before she was able to seek help, and turned to a non-profit Christian based program called House of Hope. Their facility houses residents for 8-10 months

as they seek treatment for substance abuse. As she entered the program, Lora accepted Jesus Christ, and from that day forward her life has changed in a positive way - she gives all the glory to God. She’s been drug free for 17 months, and for the last 10 months has been a Staff Trainer and Senior Counselor at House of Hope. Lora now oversees 20 residents. She can’t believe how much her life has changed in such a short time, and every day is filled with hope. She plans to give back by being an advocate, counselor, and mentor to women in our community.

When we heard about Lora and her story, we felt compelled to share it with you.

We decided to give her a makeover, and give her that boost that she may need to continue realizing her dream. We partnered with Serendipity Salon’s owner and stylist, Cheryl Salyers, who was more than happy to do the makeover on Lora, and transform her look to correspond with her new life of living clean. Cheryl coordinated with makeup artist, Kellee Vegas, and we were all thrilled to give Lora this special day, and to give her some added hope for her new future ahead.

If you or someone you know is struggling with drugs or alcohol and needs help please go to www.missionteens.com for more information.

- Yvette Morgan

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1. Cheryl Salyers, Owner and Master Stylist at Serendipity Salon, added layers and dimensional color to create movement and texture to Lora’s already thick, beautiful locks.

2. Lora’s new cut and color adds new life to her fresh start in her own life.

3. Cheryl works to finish the look. The outer transformation is nearly complete to match the inner transformation.

4. A touch of makeup is added by Kellee to enhance Lora’s natural beauty.

5. With a very bright future in store and with her faith in God, Lora will continue to grow and change her life, as well as the lives of others, who bear similar struggles to those she has faced in the past.

6. Lora has already made the necessary changes happen on her own. Serendipity Salon was given the simple assignment of bringing out her inner beauty. Her glow says it all.

Before Photo by Samantha McGranahan All Other Photos by Grace Sarris 6.

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Stitching Together a Legacy

Indiana State University is not the first school you think of when someone says my major is fashion. But tucked up on the third floor of the John T. Meyers building of Indiana State is the Textiles, Apparel, and Merchandising program. The TAM program has evovled over the years at ISU. I was lucky enough to see the progress the program has made over the last 20 years. When I was 3 years old, my mother started at Indiana State as a TAM major. At that time, the TAM program was in the Family and Consumer Sciences building, where the Welcome Center is now. Many years later, the program moved to the College of Technology. The classes my mother took were completely different than the ones I am taking now. During her time at ISU, the TAM program wasn’t as evolved as it is today; it didn’t have all of these great opportunities that have been incorporated into the curriculum over time.

Even during my time at Indiana State, I have experienced change in the program. I have been a part of the change, and have gained so much experience in my short time here. While enrolled in classes I have met designers, traveled to

major cities, interned at style markets and local boutiques. Every year the TAM students host a fashion show; the first two years I was at ISU it was in the fall, but this year it scheduled to be in the spring. It is a student planned, and student run fashion show, to show case the students own designs. The year that I was in the class that plans the show, I got to meet a Helen Castillo, who was featured on Project Runway, and made a great connection with her. Another class that is offered to TAM majors is known as the “Chicago Trip” class. For this class, we get to go to Chicago for a long weekend and intern at Style Max, with various wholesale companies, and learn the ins and outs of buying and selling. It is a very hands-on weekend, where the students get to do everything from showing clothes to prospective buyers, to writing up orders, to making connections for our future job search. During my second year at ISU our program got a new instructor, who brought a different element of design to our program. Dr. Robin Robinson was brought in to our program to help with the design and textiles aspect. She has been a great mentor and wonderful instructor, and she added what turned out to be my favorite and most memorable project with my peers: she added a time period window display to our class, and I loved every minute of that project. I was given the 1970’s as my time period, and if anyone knows me, they know that the 70’s are my “if I could have been born in a different decade…” era.

My time at ISU and with the TAM program would not be complete without mentioning my internship with Millie & Maude Boutique. Lori and my mother met as TAM majors at Indiana State when I was little, so saying I have known Lori my entire life is an understatement. I was lucky enough to be offered an internship working for her at her boutique, and learning more than any job or class could have ever taught me. I interned for two years with Millie & Maude, and in that time Lori taught me so much on the business side of retail, from brands to marketing, and how to be just as amazing as she is. As an intern, I was able to start an alumni relationship between Lori and the TAM program, help with a charity fashion show, suggest merchandise and help with orders, visual merchandising within the shop, and work various downtown events in Terre Haute. I couldn’t have asked for a better way to spend my first two years of college or my internship experience. I will be sad when my time at ISU is done, but thankful for the experience I’ve gained with the program.

- Liv Curtis

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For the Love of Alpha Chi Domestic Violence. It’s a topic that hits close to home for many and a topic that the average person would just rather not discuss. The awareness of this topic, in my opinion, has been over looked and the common citizen would rather not believe that it is happening. Many people assume physical abuse is the only form of domestic violence. Domestic violence is defined as the willful intimidation, physical assault, battery, sexual assault, and/or other abusive behavior as part of a systematic pattern of power and control perpetrated by one intimate partner against another. It also includes physical violence, sexual violence, threats, and emotional or psychological abuse. 95% of abusers psychologically abuse their partner as well as abuse them physically. Women and men who earn 65% or more of their household income are more likely to be psychologically abused than women/men who earn less than their significant other. On average, nearly 20 people a minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States alone, and this can be men or woman being the abuser. During the span of one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men who are in danger and afraid of their partner. According to the Huffington post, in an article written in February of 2015, the number of troops who lost their lives in Afghanistan and Iraq between the years of 2001 and 2012 is 6,488. The number of American woman and men who were murdered by a current or ex-partner during this time was 11,766. That is nearly double the amount of military casualties. I know that these statistics are shocking, but there are ways we can help the ones in need of a protection when they don’t think they have a safe way out.

I am part of a wonderful organization/sorority of women called Alpha Chi Omega, and as a group, we are coming together to bring awareness to this issue.

Since 1 in 3 women, and 1 in 4 men will be a victim of domestic violence of some form in their lifetime, we believe it is important to share this information. My chapter of Epsilon Omicron here in at Indiana State University has the privilege and honor to raise money and work with the people of CODA. CODA stands for Council on Domestic Abuse, a safe house for men, women, and children here in Terre Haute. All year round, as well as at specific philanthropic events we hold each school semester, we raise money and collect everyday items such as hygiene products and clothing for the organization. We even dedicate certain times of the year to this topic. Healthy Relationships Week and Domestic Violence Awareness Month are just two examples. During these times, we bring awareness to the matter on campus. We pass out purple ribbons to begin conversations about Domestic Violence. During Healthy Relationships Week, which is always during Valentine’s Day week, we sell purple carnations and ask people to write down what they think love is. This gets the students on campus reflecting on a topic some wouldn’t normally talk about.

Healthy relationships don’t involve using hurtful or derogatory words and actions against each other. In my opinion, love and a healthy relationship is being with a person’s best friend. Someone with whom you can talk about anything and tell them anything without them putting you down. Someone who shares the same ambitions and life goals as you, but most importantly, someone who is patient. Always remember, if you or someone you know is being abused or doesn’t feel safe, there is always someone you can turn to. For those that have been through abuse, I encourage you to be a voice for those who can’t speak up and are too afraid. I encourage you to inspire people. I want someone to look at you and say, “because of you I didn’t give up.” These next words have been spoken before but I believe more than ever we need to think deeper on the statement and ask ourselves, “Is this a healthy relationship I’m in?” Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. Love is not rude or selfish. It cannot be easily angered. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, and love never fails. Corinthians 13:4-5

- Grayce Daniel

Grayce is a senior at ISU, and an Art Major focusing on ceramics, with a minor in Art History.

CODA 24 hour Crisis Hotline (812)232-1736 To learn more about domestic violence, visit The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence at www.ncadv.org.

Photo by Grace Sarris

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Make it....Happen As the shop owner at Modern Charm, I get the pleasure of meeting new faces and working with talented artists and crafters locally and from around the Midwest. Christy Brinkman-Robertson’s Lovely Upcycled Things has been in my shop for several years and is such a talented artist. I love how she recycles everyday materials and creates beautiful handmade jewelry. I had the chance to ask Christy a few questions to see what inspires her to create her unique pieces.

What are the three “must have” items in your studio?

Tell me about yourself and what you do?

3. I have to acknowledge that nothing would happen without all of those tools I have. Working with jewelry findings would be impossible without pliers.

1. I must have natural light! It does wonders for my mood, and I can see the actual colors of what I’m working on. On the occasions that I paint in the studio, it’s also preferred to have natural lighting.

2. Background noise is a must for me, so I have music or a movie playing on the laptop.

By day, I am the Art Curator for Rose-Hulman Institute of Technology. I maintain a permanent art collection for the school and bring in work by local artists for temporary art displays. Any-extra-time-in-between, I am a creative spirit for my own artwork and use the artistic skills (refined from my fine art studio education at Indiana State) to repurpose items into unique jewelry. I’m an avid recycler, so this is a great combination of the two passions.

What advice do you have for other creator’s wanting to sell?

Network with other creators and see where they are selling, especially if they have similar items. Make sure that your items are different from them and that you’re offering something that you can say is unique about YOUR work.

Also, start at whatever level makes you comfortable for the amount of inventory that you have. You may become overwhelmed if you cannot fill the supply. Think about selling at one small craft fair to see the response that you get and who your clientele might be.

How long have you been creating jewelry, and how did you start your small business?

I’ve always somehow been involved with jewelry for years, making slight variations to what I would buy, and I definitely was into the friendship bracelet craze as a young girl. My “serious jewelry making” came about after I volunteered to teach a recycled jewelry class for kids at the Swope Art Museum as part of the Summer Youth Art Program in 2011. Ideas flowed, and I was hooked. I’d get compliments on the items I would make for myself, and people seemed genuinely as excited as I did when materials were transformed into brand new, unique items. If there was a creative platform to talk about repurposing and recycling, that was worthy of my time. I made several pairs of earrings and began selling them in the Halcyon Art Gallery within the Swope. I branched out to Modern Charm after the Halcyon, created a name “Lovely Upcycled Things” for my work, sold on Etsy, started selling at craft shows, and have not looked back.

Where can we find your jewelry?

Currently my work is in Modern Charm and Zen Cat Yoga, both in Terre Haute. In the future, I do plan on selling again at the SaintMary-of-the-Wood Earth Day celebration, The Hoosier Artisan Boutique in Noblesville, and the Indie Handicraft Exchange in Indianapolis. Hopefully that list will keep growing. I exhibited my jewelry in a few shows at Art’s Illiana and sold the pieces of jewelry I entered, so I’d like that to be a regular occurrence, too!

Describe your studio?

I get a whole bedroom in the house to spread out my materials and tools and make things to my heart’s content!

Instead of putting everything away, I can just close the door and come back to where I left off. This is only one of the things that I love about my studio. I have many bins of scrap to be made into jewelry, mostly in the closet. I have several wheeled carts with drawers by the walls - those are filled with tools. That is what my husband buys me for birthdays and Christmas presents anymore! There’s a computer and desk in the room for business operations and organizing photos, and the center of the action is the table in the middle of the room where I pull out materials that I’m currently working with.

What inspires your work?

New materials have dropped into my lap lately when people find out that I upcycle things, and that’s what fuels the work. I love the possibility of “what if” when I look at these items. Most recently, I was given some film cameras to disassemble and make into jewelry, and I was amazed by how complex all of the gears and inner-workings were. I’m also inspired by the feedback that I get from customers. When I see that they get excited about what an item used to be, I get excited all over again!

What is success to you?

Maybe the biggest indicator of success is when you still love what you’re doing and do not feel like it’s an obligation. I’m still the curious girl who gets in the studio with a new material and lets the creativity flow. Most importantly, the inspiration and creativity still come. My sketchbook is filled with ideas that I want to try out.

What is next for you and your business?

It was nice to get a good response outside of my home base of Terre Haute. I was asked to sell at a major event for recycle-minded artists in Chicago, and I’d like that to be the next step. I’ve also played with the idea of making larger upcycled art pieces (wearable art), and entering into more art galleries.

What is your creative Dream?

My dream would be to have more time in the day to spend on my jewelry making. I feel like I only get to daydream about what I may get to make for 90% of the day.

- Yvette Morgan

Photos by Christy Brinkman-Robertson

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Photography by Grace Sarris

Styled Home

After a long winter we sometimes get stuck on how to liven up our spaces for the spring, and prepare for warmer days ahead. If you’re like most of us, we’re all so busy with work and family that we tend to put our homes last.

Most of us don’t have a large budget to spend on decorating, or we have no idea where to begin!

I spent the afternoon decorating my small living space using three different looks from The French Hen and Willow Gift and Home - two local businesses in Terre Haute, along with some items I have in my home. I love mixing new with old and adding pops of color with throws, pillows, or accessories. I hope as you browse these photos, you’ll get inspired to take an afternoon off and spend it trying different looks in your own home.

- Yvette Morgan Special Thanks to Willow Gift and Home and The French Hen – Farmhouse Tables and Home Décor.

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Haute Homes Tips for Buying, Selling, and Updating

Getting your house ready to sell or simply wanting to update your home can be a taxing job. It’s not always easy, and it doesn’t come without its challenges, but there are a few things you can do to help minimize the burden.

1.) Kitchen drawer: Installing an electrical outlet behind a drawer for a use of a power strip hiding everyone’s electronics in my kitchen, and turned an unused corner into a place to display photos, calendars and my kids’ artwork.

Buyers want your home to look like a fairytale they can envision themselves living in.

What does that mean for you? Rule number one is to not spend tons of money on an update unless you’re planning on living there for several years. However, a little elbow grease and a few hundred dollars (and maybe finding an affordable handyman) can go a long way with an end result of several thousand dollars more in your pocket.

2.) Bathroom: Switching out a countertop and fixtures for a big impact in my bathroom and made only a modest dent in my wallet.

3.) Kitchen photo: The calming grays in my kitchen help keep anxieties at bay.

If you think certain aspects of your home could really use a lift, many times you can find an affordable solution. For example, my master bathroom was starting to feel outdated.

I knew the local cemetery headstone dealer also had a side business in cutting granite for kitchen and bathroom countertops. I purchased a remnant piece of granite from them which was left over from one of their jobs. I used my existing sink base that was still in decent condition, purchased some fun but affordable mirrors from Overstock.com, as well as new hardware, faucets, and light fixtures, and my hubs put up a simple subway tile backsplash. All of this for about $1,500. It made a huge impact on the look of our master bathroom, which will result in a higher value to our home if we ever decide to sell.

As far as freshening things up, inexpensive repairs like replacing the caulk and grout in your bathroom, updating old or rusted ceiling fans and light fixtures, and changing outdated switch plates, doorknobs and other hardware for a clean and neat appearance go a long way in the eyes of the buyer. Keep an uncluttered appearance on the fridge and countertops – try designating a special area for displaying photos, kid’s art, a drawer designated for cell phone chargers and other electronics. Buyers want to see a home that’s fresh, clean and uncluttered - even if it means throwing items that are cluttering your home in a big plastic tote and storing it in the closet or garage. Walls and trim should be free of dents and marks from everyday traffic. Also, make sure touch-up paint blends in nicely with the walls. If you need a new paint job, searching on Pinterest for Sherwin Williams’ latest colors can be very helpful in your update. Staying neutral is a good rule, but it doesn’t mean you can’t make a statement. Grays, pastels, and jewel tones are popular colors, and make a big difference for those buyers wanting a modern look.

If you’re looking to buy, your first step should be to contact a lender. A lender will inform you on how much you should spend on a home according to your debt/income ratio. Also, make sure there are no surprises on your credit score. Many lenders will help you attain your goal of buying your dream home by making a plan with you, it could take as little as 6 months if your credit needs some work. Banks aren’t expecting a huge spike in rates, only a modest increase, so 2017 is expected to be a good year to buy a home with these low rates. Home values are expected to increase again this year (3.6% nationally). If you happen to be among those who are pondering a change in your life, whether upsizing or downsizing, cleaning up your “home” life will make way for an easier year, both of mind and spirit (and for a potential move!).

On the selling side, inventory continues to remain low so it’s a perfect time to sell your home!

Whether you’re buying, selling, or just need a good spring cleaning, hopefully these ideas will help you steer through your space a little better in 2017.

- Peg Finzel

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Boss Lady: My Fly Life When we asked for a single mom submission for “Boss Lady”, I was thrilled to see that Michelle sent her story in for our review. I’ve known Michelle for a long time, and have followed her and her story for several years on social media, so I’m excited to share just a bit of her life with our readers. I thought her submission was so compelling, we decided to leave it in her own words. My hope is that other single moms who read her story can relate, and live out their dreams, just as Michelle has.

- Lori Mitchell

When I found out I was expecting a baby, I wouldn’t say I was filled with excitement as first time moms should be, but more fear. The father and I had known each other for five years, and although we were on and off again, we were off at the time. In my previous years, I was all about partying and bad decisions. I can’t honestly tell you that I was a good person, because I wasn’t. I only truly cared about myself…until the day I found out I was expecting. That positive test suddenly gave my life perspective. It was soon after that the father told me he didn’t want anything to do with us. I gave him the option of being a full-time father or a no-time father… he chose the latter.

A week later, I stepped into Northview Christian Church in Carmel, IN for the first time. I was alone, I was scared, and I had no idea how I was going to handle this baby all by myself. Then the best thing happened: the sermon was on Jeremiah 29:11. I swear Pastor Steve was looking directly at me (keep in mind it’s a church of 3000 people), and said the words, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I was instantly in tears, and vowed that very day not only was I going to be a single mom, but I was going to raise this child with faith that I would do my best to give him the best life. Sure, we have family and great friends, but financially, mentally, and emotionally, it was going to be on me to give this baby boy a life he deserves…a life that was planned before I even existed.

On September 22, 2010, Christian Russell Jarvis was born, and my life was changed at the sound of a cry. The last 6 years haven’t been the easiest… no one told me it would be. When Christian was 15 months old, he was diagnosed with two auto-immune deficiencies. We have had 13 hospitalizations, countless ER visits, fevers that would scare anyone - his highest was 107.2 - that would have been the scariest day. But we got through it. We always do, together. I worked a $12/ hour job, and promised to never go on any kind of assistance, because I wanted to show him what working hard meant. I always said he will have everything he needs, just maybe not everything he wants. Being a mom changes you, obviously, but it changed me in ways I never knew. This little man relies on me, he loves me - like a love you can’t put into words. I find it funny when people say, “I don’t know how you do it”, “I could never be a single mom”, or “you are so strong!”

My answer to all of those is “I just do it.” I take one day at a time… and on those really special days, I take one breath at a time.

As a single mom, you need to have an army behind you. Mine happens to be my parents, my sister, and my friends who have become family. Because of them, not only am I able to be a mom, but for two years now, live out my dream of becoming a flight attendant for one of the world’s biggest airlines. I was hired with Delta Air Lines after a 3 month, 5-part application and interview process. When I flew back from my last interview and told my family that I got the job, fear instantly set in.

How are we going to do this?! I had wanted to be flight attendant for as long as I could remember, so when I had the opportunity to apply for one of the largest and most successful airlines in the industry, I had to jump on it. I never wanted any other airline and always told myself that if I ever did it, then it would only be for Delta.

The next step was to begin a 7-week training in Atlanta. I can’t even explain the tears that were shed that day. I will never know how I managed to go away from my child for that long. We were required to pass 24 exams, all with a 90% or higher accumulative average, 400 airport codes, emergency evacuations on 15 types of aircrafts, and countless days of lectures. It was honestly harder than any college course I ever took. I not only passed, but somehow managed to get the highest scores in my section. I can only credit that to my drive to get through it, and get back to my child. The day we were reunited was so emotional. There’s nothing like a four-year-old tackling you in the middle of a hotel lobby, screaming “Mommy I missed you!” It was the best day.

I have been based in New York for the last two years. That means before each trip that I work, I fly to New York to begin. I typically work three days a week, and once a month I am “on-call” for six days. On average, I am away from home

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15 days a month. The best thing about my job is that I don’t bring my work home with me. I go home and I am present. My schedule is up to me to plan and make it work for me.

I have been able to see the world. I’ve been all over the United States, including Hawaii, as well as Amsterdam, Paris, London, Milan Italy, Barcelona, Madrid, and my favorite, Tel Aviv, Israel, just to name a few. The first time I saw the Eiffel Tower, I stood in front of it and cried. Not because of its beauty (and OH how I wish I could describe its beauty!), but because I never thought this single mom from Terre Haute, Indiana would be standing in front of the Eiffel Tower. It was the moment I realized that all my dreams have come true.

Sometimes it’s hard. Sometimes it’s really hard. But like all moms, I do what I have to do. If he is “healthy” (by our terms), feels loved, and HAPPY…I think I’m doing OK. Being a mom made me better… being a single mom made me stronger.

The fear I felt 6 years ago no longer exists. What I’ve learned is that you don’t know what each day holds, so I teach my son to begin and end each day on a good note; the most important thing you can do for yourself and for others is to be kind.

Being a single mom is really a gift that I’ve been given – it’s a feeling of pride and self-worth that I never knew before. With faith, my boy and I can get through and do anything!

- Michelle Jarvis

Photo by Lori Margason

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Whether you are a true “Hautian” or a “transplant”, it’s time to embrace what our city has to offer. I consistently hear “there’s nothing to do in Terre Haute”, or “Terre Haute has nothing to offer my family”, but in my opinion, it’s all matter of perspective. I have met more than a few newly-deemed Hautians, transplanted from cities much larger than ours, and not once have they mentioned anything negative about Terre Haute or complained that they are unable to find activities for themselves or for their children to get involved with. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. They go on and on about the wonderful opportunities and services that Terre Haute has to offer… things that they didn’t have in their previous (usually much larger) cities. However, I find that if you were raised here, you have a tendency to think that Terre Haute is uninspiring and boring, and that traveling to Indianapolis or other larger cities is necessary to find activities and amenities to suit all of your needs. When in all reality, so many possibilities are right under your nose. Immerse yourself in the culture, seek out events, they won’t often come to you, but there is always something going on in “The Haute”!

Are you looking for something unique for yourself or your children to do this summer (and throughout the year)? Why not create with us? With Pinterest-inspired crafts, creative projects, and artistic techniques instructed by two local makers and artists, Charm School is the place to be! You won’t find another location quite like our quaint space in the new Modern Charm and Millie & Maude location. Bring your friends. Bring your family. Bring your children. Charm School offers more than just traditional painting and canvas classes - you won’t be disappointed!

- Angela Tapy

Our Summer Calendar is available now at www.CharmSchoolTH.com Summer Workshops for Kids begin June 12

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What makes a Century 21 Agent?

You know that story about the tortoise? Well, kind of like that.

Only instead of slow and steady, it’s more like relentless and dedicated. That’s what wins the real estate race.

Century 21 Agents smarter. Bolder. Faster.

Peg Carney Finzel Broker (812) 208-8587

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Unveiled: Uncovered Meet Alicia. She is the mother of two amazing little girls and works at an Illinois hospital as a phlebotomist, also known as the person who draws your blood.

Recently, Alicia booked a personal photo shoot at the UNVEILED studio in Bloomington, Indiana as an act of self-care.

When Alicia arrived at the studio, she was still a bit unsure. Was a boudoir session worth it? Would this be as uplifting as people say? In a word, yes! After a great shoot, Alicia walked out of the studio with a renewed sense of self confidence— and, of course, some beautiful, empowering photos of herself!

in the mirror—a fat, ugly person who no one would think was beautiful. I know I didn’t think I was beautiful. I was very nervous about getting to the studio and meeting you, but when I walked in the door, I never felt more welcomed. Samantha genuinely said how excited she was to show me the beauty you could see in me in the photos she was going to take. Immediately, she made me feel as if I had known you for years.

UV: Did you have concerns about spending the money on a photo shoot?

For us at UNVEILED, every booking and every shoot is an honor because it means our clients have placed their trust in us. That’s a hard thing for most people to do, and it’s a responsibility we don’t take lightly. For that reason, all client information, experiences, and communications are confidential by default. That means we never share images or details about without expressed permission. But sometimes, clients want to use their stories to help spread the message that all women—no matter their size or shape—are unique, beautiful, and worthy of celebrating. Lucky for us, Alicia was excited to be featured in an interview about her experience at UNVEILED.

A: I think money is always a concern to most of us. It sure was for me. I am a single mother of two young girls, and I wasn’t sure this was something I would ever be able to afford. I was thinking exactly that when I emailed Samantha and asked her about the pricing and options. I was surprised when she emailed me back with tons of different options and packages, including a payment plan option for the product order. I immediately thought, “What? a payment plan?!” This was perfect for me. This one piece alone made it possible for me to work the photo shoot into my budget, so I could do something for myself.

UNVEILED (UV): Have you ever had a boudoir session before? What made you decide to have one now?

A: In the beginning, I really didn’t think that this shoot would impact me that much. I didn’t even know if I would like any of photos. After the shoot, I went to lunch and then returned to view the edited pictures a few hours later. I was so nervous waiting for Samantha to pull them up on the screen. As I sat on the couch, a million thoughts went through my head. “Will I look fat? Will the photos be terrible?” My heart was racing. When the first picture appeared, I just sat there in silence with tears running down my face. I couldn’t believe the woman in those pictures was me. She was confident and beautiful and she was me.

ALICIA (A): I have never had a boudoir session done before. The reason I decided to take the leap and have these done was because of a friend. She knew the struggle of my past and that I had lost all faith in myself and my self-esteem. She knew this experience would be uplifting for me.

UV: What was your biggest fear before hiring UNVEILED to photograph your boudoir session?

A: My biggest fear was that Samantha would look at me the way I saw myself

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UV: Did your session impact you in a way you weren’t expecting?

I kept crying as we watched the photo slideshow. I realized the girl I saw in the mirror every morning—who I had thought was a fat, ugly person—was beauti-

ful! I have never felt more comfortable in my own body as I did that day. I left the studio feeling happier than I have felt in years. I got to see the true beauty I thought I had lost.

UV: If you were to recommend us to your best friend, what would you say?

A: I would tell them that you should do the photo shoot for YOU. As women, we usually play many roles in life... many of us as a mother or caregiver of some kind. Sometimes we forget that we are important, too. Booking a photo shoot like this gives you the chance to have a day just for you and to see the true beauty we sometimes forget to see in ourselves.

I booked my photo shoot as a gift for myself. It truly was a reminder that I am a beautiful woman, and no matter what you have been through in life, you should never lose sight of that.

UV: Is there anything else you would like to share?

A: I was in a mentally abusive relationship for years where I was told I was fat and that no one would ever want me. Unfortunately, when you are told these things for so long you start to believe them. I left that relationship right around the time I had these pictures taken. This photo shoot helped bring back the self-esteem I had lost after many years being told things that I now know are not true. To any woman who has lost her self-esteem or doesn’t feel good enough anymore, know that you are worth it. These photo shoots are a great reminder that WE are all beautiful.

- Interview and Photography by Samantha McGranahan

Interested in reading more interviews with real UNVEILED clients?

Visit www.unveiled-photo.com to check them out!

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Haute Spring Fashion Trends These Four Spring Fashion Trends are easily adaptable for anyone in their individual way, which is why I love them.

They aren’t exclusively high fashion trends. They’re flexible looks that anybody can achieve and embrace themselves in.

- Dominique Bagnoche

Slogan T’s T-Shirts with slogans written on them are a major trend this spring. Dior has released one of the most popular slogan tees during Spring Fashion Week saying “We Should All Be Feminists.”

Off-the-Shoulder Dresses This spring, off-the-shoulder dresses are a huge trend. You can find a variety of casual off-the-shoulder dresses as well as glamorous dresses in several boutiques.

I love how these dresses can be dressed up or down to create a gorgeous look.

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Stripes

Stripes are showing up everywhere this spring in a wide variety of different colors and styles. It doesn’t matter if it’s stripes on a shirt, sweater, or a dress, stripes look beautiful. I like wearing casual tops with stripes, though I also adore the striped dress look.

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Denim Skirts

Denim skirts are unquestionably one of my favorite trends this spring season!

Light and dark washed denim skirts are equally adorable. I love wearing denim skirts to concerts, when I am going out with friends, or even just on a day I feel like looking pretty!

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There you have it! The Four Spring Fashion Trends you surely want to check out and see why they are popping up everywhere you turn!

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ShopGirl: A Yorktown Pearl Erin Hill started Lois Pearl seven years ago, when people started asking her where to buy the clothing and accessories she was making for her daughter, Evy. She started selling her goods at craft fairs around the Midwest and on Etsy. Two years later, she expanded her sales into a consignment space in a boutique near Indianapolis called Best of What’s Around. Soon, a larger market was introduced to Lois Pearl clothing, so she expanded to home textiles and women’s clothing. Erin then began taking wholesale orders.

Erin has been fortunate that customers have discovered Lois Pearl in a very organic way. Social media, including Facebook and Instagram, has been instrumental in that aspect, because it allows Erin to engage with customers, and give them a more personal buying experience, both in the store and online. And she doesn’t limit her social media posts to business either. Customers will frequently see photos of her own farm life, family and pets, which Erin believes helps customers get a sense of my own personal style, and gives them a deeper connection to Lois Pearl.

As demand grew, Erin left her position in sales to make Lois Pearl a full-time business. She quickly outgrew her home sewing space and rented a retail space in Yorktown. Lois Pearl’s location – in the old original bank space in town – is the same place where her great grandmother, Leona Pearl, did her banking.

Advice to Future Shop Owners and Makers

The first two years Erin was in her retail space, she was open seasonally and carried goods from other makers and friends. But as demand grew locally, she began curating a wider range of merchandise for the shop, and expanded the retail hours.

“Work hard, do your research and network,” said Erin. “I’ve been so fortunate that my mentors are also my dearest friends. We frequently bounce ideas off one another and know each other’s businesses inside out. They help me prioritize objectives, give me the confidence to try ne w things, and push me to work harder each and every day. Being a small business owner can be lonely, and it’s wonderful to have these girls as ‘coworkers.’ They inspire me every day!”

What’s really motivated Erin over the years is not just creating clothing itself, but helping women and girls feel beautiful. “When someone walks through my door, my goal is always to make them feel great,” said Erin. “As women, we can be so hard on ourselves. We all have things that we want to change about our bodies. My hope is that I help my customers find just the right fit, so that they feel beautiful, both inside and out.”

The Makers Gonna Make Erin has been a maker and creator from a young age, and credits her mother for that influence.

“My mother was always creating when I was young,” said Erin. “She is an excellent seamstress, and made all of my special occasion dresses.”

“I remember she would give me her scraps, and I would sit on the floor playing with fabric while she sewed. When I was about 4 or 5, she was making a darling sundress out of white knit with rainbow colored polka dots. I was playing with my scraps, cutting with scissors and creating my own masterpiece, when she realized that I had cut a big hole in the front of the dress that she was making for me! Not to be deterred, my creative (and very calm) mom came up with a solution. She made an adorable balloon appliqué to go over the cuts that I had made. I still remember being so proud of that dress!”

The Business of Running a Business As a shop owner and maker, Erin has had her share of challenges and successes.

Her biggest challenge thus far is overcoming a fear of failure. “Owning a small business involves a lot of risk, and I’m a pretty conservative girl,” said Erin. “It’s hard learning to trust your gut and do something that is out of your comfort zone.

But every time I’ve done that, I have been rewarded.”

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Having now owned Lois Pearl for seven years, Erin has learned a few things from her business venture. She offers the following advice to other women thinking about starting a business:

When Erin is not making or running Lois Pearl, she spends time with her husband, Matt (the two were college sweethearts who met through a mutual friend at a cattle show!), and their two kids, Nate (9) and Evelyn (7). The family enjoys life in the country and renovating their midcentury home.

“We love that our property sits on the White River, next to our family farm,” said Erin. “Matt and I are both farm kids, and feel so fortunate to be raising our kiddos in the country. Nate will begin 4-H this summer, and we love spending time in the barn with our cattle.”

Animals are a big part of their life. They have two rescued weimaraners, a handful of adopted kitties, and they enjoy fostering kittens for our local animal rescue group, Muncie ARF. When the family is not working on the farm, they can be found vacationing at the family summer cottage near Frankfort, MI. Erin is clear about what her goals are when asked what the future holds. “Professionally I hope to still be running a successful boutique and be an active member of our community,” she said. “Personally, I would love to have a small herd of cattle, and share that love of agriculture with others.”

- Leah Singer

Lois Pearl is located at 9127 W. Smith Street, Yorktown, IN 47396 Visit the store online at www.loispearl.com, and on Instagram at @loispearl.

Erin’s Fun Facts

What’s your favorite food?

Coffee with Milk....never sweet!

Instagram feed you love? @farmmher1. I love their inspiring stories of women in agriculture! And, @kittenxlady. The work that she does with tiny kittens in phenomenal.

Indulgence?

My mom’s Aunt Alice cookies. It’s an old family recipe, and I can never eat just one!

Favorite go to outfit?

A soft t-shirt, faded jeans, my favorite boots, and lots of funky bracelets.

What type of music do you like?

I love old country: Alabama, Cash, and Willie

Who do you admire?

My mom. From the farm, to owning her own business, to being an active volunteer in our community, she has set an amazing example for us. She is my biggest cheerleader, sounding board, and best friend.

Your favorite book?

Gone with the Wind

What is your favorite color palette?

Aqua, black, and white.

Style Icon?

Lauren Hutton. J. Crew has always been one of my favorite brands, and I love her style in their ads. She owns that darling gap between her teeth and exudes confidence.

What is Success to you?

Being happy!

Photography by White Ox Studio

Geek Chic Nursery: From a Galaxy Far, Far Away...

There are a number of big questions that soon-to-be parents have when a new baby is on the way. Is it a girl or a boy? What if I’m a terrible parent? How do I balance work and a baby? How do I change a diaper? Stress abounds.

One of my biggest concerns was decorating the nursery. I considered that these decisions map out the environment my baby is going to grow up in. I knew I was going to spend hours reading bedtime stories, singing lullabies, and changing numerous dirty diapers in this room. Let’s face it; the nursery is more the parents’ room in the beginning than the baby’s. In short, it has to be you.

And that’s what we did in our nursery: we made it us.

I didn’t want the typical fluffy-bunny-baby-animal-ballerina-princess-white-andpink-with-flowers-overkill nursery. Not that there is anything wrong with that, it’s just not who we are. My husband is all geek and I’m a little bit chic, so a geek chic nursey was perfect.

Our strategy was about finding things we love and want to share with our daughter: Star Wars, Firefly, comic books, strong female role models (Wonder Woman, Princess Leia and Super Girl), and fun.

We’d done the geek theme from the announcement of our pregnancy with matching Star Wars shirts to our AT-AT jumping over the moon – that’s no moon – baby shower invitations. Even our daughter’s name, Mara, comes from Star Wars. Mara Jade is Luke Sykwalker’s wife. (She’s not in the movies yet, but she is in the books!)

In the beginning, we thought it would be challenge to find pop-culture decor for our baby girl’s nursery. What we discovered is that due to a growing acceptance of geek culture among women, the things we wanted existed if we just looked a little harder. We scoured the internet, attended pop-culture conventions, shopped with our eyes always peeled, and even made some of the things ourselves; eventually the pieces came together. When we really got to looking we even found items at Meijer’s and Hobby Lobby that fit into the geek chic theme.

Nineteen spaceships are in the stripe that goes around the room. My husband found or made the silhouettes and then the shapes were cut out with the use of a Cricut. I think Mara will know the names of the ships before her ABCs. The other major focal points in the nursery are the Death Star-like light in the center of the room and the ultra-furry Wampa rug. Thank you, IKEA, for having such an amazing light! During the day, the Death Star “explodes” to allow for more light, while at night I can change a diaper in the dim light of its ominous glow. The Wampa rug… well who wouldn’t want one! Mara loves to play on it.

We incorporated some beautiful artwork from artists that attended Indy PopCon, Indiana Comic Con, and GenCon plus some of my husband’s designs to add some pops of color and messages of encouragement.

Girls can pretend to be superheroes like Batgirl or Spider Gwen, fighting crime and saving the day. They can dream of flying a space ship like the Millennium Falcon from Star Wars or Firefly’s Serenity, discovering new worlds. A little girls’ imagination can lead them on adventures time traveling in a police call box from Dr. Who, what a fantastic way to teach history. Developing a nursery where her imagination could grow and run wild was so important to us. Plus, her parents get to have a little fun, too!

- Stephanie Pence

Photography by Samantha McGranahan

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Baby Gifting: Sweet Gifts for the Littles HELLO SPRING...Grab your checklist and get a head start on your baby shopping at some of my favorite spots.

- Yvette Morgan

Freshly Picked Moccasins freshlypicked.com

BluTaylor Head Wrap blutaylor.com

Rookie Humans Crib Bedding

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Alyson Scarlett Personalized Baby Gifts etsy.com

Hapai Baby Wraps hapaiwraps.com

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Darling Designz Children’s Clothing

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Not Your Momma’s Recipe

Photography by Ashlee Sappingfield

All of us have that one dish (or two) that we grew up enjoying every year with family, whether it was a dish that made an appearance only during the holidays or it was a regular dinner time staple in your home. It always seemed to be a dish you grew up watching your mother make and no matter how simple or extravagant it was, it always had a way of warming you right to the soul.

For me, that dish is my mom’s Beef Stroganoff. For years growing up, I never knew how she made it, and honestly, I never really wanted to know. It was my mom’s specialty and it was her time to shine whenever she made it. As I grew older and embarked on my culinary adventure, it was a dish I often thought about, telling myself I’ll ask her how to make it one day. In more recent years my grandmother has been making beef stroganoff at family gatherings, and though it’s also tasty, it’s just not my momma’s recipe. As my mom grew older and more comfortable in the kitchen, the dish that she was taught has slowly evolved to something totally different with all of her own personal tweaks and preferences.

But isn’t that the point of recipes passed down through the ages? We all remember that moment we finally found or were given the prized recipe we’ve been waiting for our whole life. Or, better yet, are actually allowed in the kitchen to be shown the treasured family recipe and just what that secret ingredient actually is. We all have inevitably gone home and tried to recreate the dish, only to find that it just isn’t the same. We check and double check our recipes and notes and we try again. Still, it might be good, even great…but it’s just not the same. I don’t know what that one secret ingredient is that all the mom’s, grandmas, aunts, cousins and sisters have in their dishes that make it truly special. Some would say love, some might say that you just can’t recreate a dish for yourself that someone else made that has touched a piece of your heart and left a lifetime of memories. All I know is, as a chef, you spend a lifetime trying to recreate food memories like that for other people but, it should come as no surprise that I just couldn’t recreate this feeling for myself. So, though this Beef Stroganoff is not my momma’s recipe, it is absolutely inspired by her.

- Brittany Molinder

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Beef Stroganoff Ingredients:

Serves: 4-6

12 oz. shitake, baby bella, and oyster mushrooms, thinly sliced 5 tbsp. butter, divided 1 ¼ lb. flank steak; cut against grain into ¼ inch slices and slices cut into 3 inch lengths 2 shallots, thinly sliced 5 cloves garlic, minced 1 tbsp. fresh thyme leaves ¼ - ½ cup beef stock 8 oz. cream cheese ¼ cup heavy cream Kosher salt, to taste Freshly cracked black pepper, to taste 1 lb. pappardelle pasta Parsley, minced for garnish Fresh thyme leaves, for garnish Directions: 1. Melt 2 tablespoons butter in large nonstick skillet over medium heat. Add sliced mushrooms to skillet and sprinkle with salt and pepper to taste.

Sauté until tender and brown, around 6-8 minutes. Remove from heat and set aside.

2. Using the same large nonstick skillet, heat 1 tablespoon butter over medium-high heat. Working in batches, add beef slices to skillet and season with salt and pepper and sauté until just brown on the outside, roughly 1-2 minutes. Transfer beef slices to a plate and set aside.

3. Add sliced shallots to the same skillets, reduce the heat to medium and sauté roughly 4 minutes, add garlic and thyme and cook an additional 30 seconds. Add beef stock to skillet to deglaze, scraping up any browned bits on the skillet. Add in cream cheese and whisk until melted and smooth, add heavy cream and whisk to combine. Let mixture come to a simmer.

4. Meanwhile, bring a pot of salted water to a boil and cook pasta until al dente.

5. Add sautéed mushrooms and beef slices to shallot cream cheese mixture in skillet and bring to a simmer, stirring occasionally. Remove from heat and season with additional salt and pepper to taste. Divide cooked pasta between bowls and ladle beef-mushroom mixture over the top, tossing pasta slightly. Garnish with minced parsley and fresh thyme leaves; serve warm.

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There’s nothing more satisfying than helping another woman entrepreneur.

Mandie is no exception, especially when it comes to food trucks. She had an idea and went with it in hopes that the community would embrace her shaved ice business.

With spring and summer around the corner, I thought this would be an awesome opportunity to share what Mandie has up her sleeve in the coming months.

Tell me about yourself and your family?

Hey y’all, my name is Mandie Doran, and I am the owner of MJ’s Cajun Ice! I am originally from New Orleans and have lived in Terre Haute the past 14 years.

I have an 11-year-old daughter, Jayden, who helps me any chance she can. One of my best memories as a child growing up was getting a delicious Snoball in the summer. It was always a childhood dream of mine to have a Snoball stand, so along with the help of my fiancé, Jesse, we decided to make that dream come true and opened up last August. It’s been such a great experience so far getting to make these special memories with my daughter, and I can’t wait to see what’s in store for the future.

How long have you been in business?

We got a late start to the season last year and opened in August of 2016, but it was a great way to test the waters with our Snoballs, and more than prepared us for this coming first full season.

What are your top 10 flavors? What is your favorite?

• Blue Raspberry • Strawberry • Wedding Cake • Tigers Blood • Cotton Candy • Sour Apple • Creole Cream Cheese • Watermelon • Cherry • Grape Last year we featured these seasonal flavors, and they were a big hit.

(We will bring these out toward the end of the summer season): • Pumpkin Pie • Carrot Cake • Red Velvet Cake • Candied Apple • S’mores My favorite is the Mardi Gras King Cake topped with condensed milk cream! It has been one of our best sellers. We are adding some fun new flavors this season, stay tuned!

Do you have a business mentor?

My business mentor is one of my favorite people in the world, my Papa Luke, who has passed away many years ago. I always looked up to him because he, too, had a dream of owning his own southern “po-boy” sandwich shop. He took a leap a faith and made it happen just as I am doing. I sure hope I am making him proud.

What advice can you give to someone wanting to get involved the food truck business?

I would say to do your research, get to know rules and regulations. Talk with the health department and ask many questions. Search for the right food truck that best suits your needs. Keep competition in mind if there is any, and really research and plan where your potential location(s) could be.

Is there a special licensing you have to apply for in this business?

Getting started...what steps did you take?

We did a lot of research on the best machine, trailer, and best brand of flavoring for the perfect Snoball. Then we started looking for the perfect trailer that was turnkey, already customized and set up for a Snoball stand. We had to decide on a name, attain a tax ID number, set up state sales tax, and get a food permit through the health department. Lastly, we had to get the right business insurance set up accordingly.

The only special licensing we needed was a food permit from the health department. Depending on the product being sold, there are other certificates and requirements that need to be met.

- Yvette Morgan

Do you have a permanent location or do you travel to festivals?

We do not have a permanent location for this season, but are working on it. Last year we attended the Indiana Bicentennial parade at Fairbanks Park and ISU’s Football Homecoming. We are hoping to be at a few events this year such as Rib Fest, Special Olympics, and Old Fashion Day. Check us out on Facebook, as we will post our permanent location and events on there! * Editor’s note: MJ’s Cajun Ice is now located behind The Meadows Shopping Center near Baesler’s Gas.

What is the difference between snow cone, shaved ice, or Snoball?

The difference between snow cones, shaved ice, and a Snoball is all about the ice.

Snow cone ice has more of a crunchy consistency, where a Snoball has the consistency of soft fluffy ice, just like snow. We have a top notch Sno machine, along with rich flavors from a New Orleans based company.

How are you marketing your business?

We are marketing through Facebook and Instagram, but our main marketing tool has been word of mouth through all of our great friends and family.

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Ethical is the New Black Sustainability is a modern element of fashion; it’s an exciting and conscious part of the industry. The fashion and style industry is continuously evolving. However, sustainability will remain an important part of how the industry continues to make their clothing items. Several fashion brands are taking the leap to shift into more sustainable brands.

Sustainability is a broad term for brands in the fashion industry because a significant amount of work is necessary for companies to shift towards sustainability. A brand seeking to become more sustainable often takes approaches such as promoting healthy working conditions, ensuring that all human rights are respected, and decreasing environmental impacts.

Some of my favorite sustainable fashion brands include New Balance, Patagonia, ASOS, and H&M.

One of my favorite items from Patagonia is their Women’s Sweater Fleece vests that are perfect for multiple seasons.

H&M has a sustainable fashion collection that is stylish and affordable, called ConsciousSustainable Style. This gorgeous dusty pink open-shoulder blouse is one of my personal favorites for spring from this collection.

Providing ethical fashion is transforming into a priority for the world we live in today. Brands all across the board are expected to meet the ever-changing demands of society. All companies have their unique ways, depending on their size, of becoming a sustainable fashion brand.

H&M has chosen to support developing countries by continuing their supplier relationships in these countries. The company believes this is the best way they can help struggling countries, rather than remove production from the country completely. Other companies, such as Patagonia, take a different approach to sustainability. Patagonia focuses on reducing the impact their production of clothing items has on the environment. They do this through altering the methods and materials being used to create their products. Other small sized companies have their own approaches to deliver sustainability by producing their fashion pieces within the United States. No method is better than the other, however, it is vital for a brand to identify their most effective and efficient way of becoming sustainable.

Sustainable living is becoming a more widespread trend as time and society progress. If brands do not decide to identify ways they can improve their current processes to become more sustainable, they risk damaging the image of their brand.

As a consumer in the fashion industry, I look to find brands that I am proud to wear. I seek to purchase and wear clothes produced by companies that I trust.

Everyone holds responsibilities when it comes to protecting the environment and all of the people existing within it. This is why I enjoy discovering current sustainability projects that are being created by designers and manufacturers in the fashion industry.

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Sustainable fashion is challenging, and it requires years of work, which is why I like to support all sustainable projects in fashion, whether big or small. These advancements and plans are shaping and changing the whole outlook of the second largest industry in the world today: the fashion industry. Sustainable fashion goes beyond companies solely using sustainable materials. It’s about the way clothes are produced and what impact they have on the environment, as well as the social implications on each person involved in the production process.

Everyone can make a change in the way they purchase their clothing items. When shoppers, designers, suppliers, and manufacturers all work together, I believe a real difference can be made environmentally and socially.

Sustainable fashion is the future of the industry.

- Dominique Bagnoche

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When I first met Dr. Shikha Bhattacharyya in my shop, I knew I needed to learn more about the important changes she is promoting in our community. With the topic of sustainability on the forefront, we need to learn how to make changes within our own little worlds, to eventually make the world a better and safer place for our children to live in. Shikha is doing amazing things to educate adults and children in our area, and I’m proud to call her a friend. Read on to find out how you can help to “be the change”.

- Lori Mitchell Tell us about reTHink and how it got started… reTHink, Inc. is a non-profit organization that promotes environmental sustainability in Terre Haute. Terre Haute has low recycling rates, no composting facility, and in general is lagging behind other developed cities like Chicago, Bloomington, and even Indianapolis in terms of sustainability efforts such as using biodegradable and compostable packaging, to go boxes, grocery bags, straws, and Styrofoam substitute.

There seems to be awareness with the public, but minimal efforts from businesses to provide environmentally friendly options to customers. In a survey, we found that people would be happy to let go of their Styrofoam to-go boxes and straws if provided with biodegradable options. reTHink was started to provide education, support, and incentives to businesses and organizations to become more sustainable.

What kinds of things does reTHink do to help promote being “green”? reTHink is mainly an educational organization. We create events and activities for children to learn environmental sustainability in a fun way. We also organize talks and get involved in speaking engagements with the public-at-large and organizations to create awareness about green practices. Last year, we organized an ‘Art from Waste’ contest and an eco-fashion show called Replay Runway, which we are organizing again this year. We realize that environmental sustainability is intimately related to social and economic sustainability. Since Terre Haute has one of the highest poverty rates in Indiana, we are working in poverty stricken neighborhoods to create better conditions for children. Children are learning to grow their food which is better for the environment, their health, and the local economy. We are also working with local businesses to help them adopt greener practices.

What are the top three major factors that are polluting our earth?

The three worst things would be plastic (K-cups, straws, plastic forks and spoons, grocery bags), Styrofoam (cups and to-go boxes), and household chemicals (detergents, sprays, cleaners).

Almost everything we use today has some kind of plastic in it. Plastic is a scourge for the environment. The creation of plastic uses oil and water and creates pollution. Most plastics leach chemicals into our drinks and foods, especially if heated or microwaved, and are harmful to human health. Plastic does not biodegrade, and every single piece of plastic that was ever created still exists. A lot of plastic in the form of bottles, grocery bags, straws, and forks ends up in oceans and breaks down in smaller pieces where fish and other marine animals eat it or get tangled in different kinds of plastic. It melts in landfills and pollutes water bodies. Plastic recycling further creates pollution and in fact, plastic is always “down-cycled”, not recycled, since the recycled plastic is usually lower grade and not recyclable.

Styrofoam is not biodegradable, and Styrofoam recycling facilities are rare. Styrofoam leaches cancer causing chemicals in hot food and drinks. Manufacturing Styrofoam uses fresh water and petroleum, and creates a lot of pollution. Styrofoam also poses a health hazard to the workers in Styrofoam manufacturing industries.

Not only do single-use coffee pods cost $60 for a pound of coffee, K-cups are killing the planet. While the company is making billions of dollars, K-cups are creating tons of plastic waste. Even the inventor, John Sylvan, regrets coming up with the idea. In 2014, enough K-Cups were sold that if placed end-to-end, they would circle the globe 10.5 times. Almost all of them ended up in landfills. They are not recyclable, and using them is extremely wasteful and irresponsible.

How do you get children involved, and what upcoming events does reTHink have planned?

We involve children through our gardening programs, Super Diggers Salsa Club and Eden of Ryves, and creating events for children such as the ‘Art from Waste’ Contest and our Replay Runway Eco-fashion show. We are also working on a local TV show, the “Abbey and Ayush show”.

Explain to our readers how cut-backs, or even dissolving the EPA will affect ours and our children’s futures?

The EPA (Environmental Protection Agency) plays an important role in monitoring and restricting pollution created by industries. Dissolving EPA, or even cutting back on regulations can be disastrous for the environment, and permanent damage might be done to our water bodies. This country is already seeing water related crisis in places like Flint, Michigan. If there are no proper regulations put in place regarding pollution created by industries, our children will suffer the consequences and they may not have access to clean drinking water, amidst other things such as clean air to breathe. We are already experiencing increased asthma rates, increased food sensitivities and allergies, and increased rates of mental disorders (anxiety and depression) in the United States. While the rest of the world is moving towards cleaner energy to protect their water and air, it is extremely sad that these talks of the EPA getting dissolved are underway in this country.

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Love

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Five simple tips to becoming the change, saving money, and improving health.

C - Carry your Water Bottle Plastic bottles use a lot of fossil fuels and

pollute the environment. Americans use 29 billion water bottles every year, and most of them aren’t recycled. Bottled water costs about 300 times more than tap water. Many bottled water companies sell regular tap water. Save money and the planet and carry your water bottle. Similarly, coffee cups create tons of waste every day. Carry your coffee mug and save hundreds of dollars, as most shops will give you the refill price.

H - Hesitate to use Styrofoam According to the National Institute of

Environmental Health Sciences, Styrofoam contains carcinogenic chemicals. It also poses dangers to the environment and their workers. About 20 million pounds of Styrofoam waste is generated every year; more than 17 million ends up in surface waters where sea birds and marine animals swallow it.

A - Avoid Grocery Bags Plastic bag manufacturers create a lot of pollu-

tion that is harmful to our health. About 1 trillion plastic bags are used every year worldwide, and approximately 100,000 sea turtles and other marine animals die because they either mistake the bags for food or get strangled in them. It takes about 400 years for a plastic bag to degrade.

N - No to Straw Each day, humans produce and utilize 500,000,000 straws,

and straws are often left to float on the surface of the ocean where they slowly degrade into a toxic mess, or are consumed by confused organisms. Straws are super destructive to the environment and do nothing to prevent germs.

your

(Earth)

G - Grab your Silverware Toxins, endocrine disruptors, and carcinogens

are leached from plastic materials. Plastic forks are usually not recyclable and pose a threat to the environment. Use re-usable metal cutlery whenever you’re eating at home with your family. If you’re throwing a big event and must use disposables, please purchase compostable cutlery.

E – Eliminate K-cups We use about 9 billion K-cups every year that are not

recyclable or biodegradable. Once you own the pod machine, it owns you. K-cups are quite literally destroying the planet. The coffee packaged into each K-Cup costs customers dearly: on a per pound basis, they spend up to $60, or roughly five times what they’d pay for a bag of Starbucks coffee.

Knowledge is power! Education is what separates knowledgeable from the ignorant.

Educate yourself on the pressing issues such as pollution and climate change, and contribute to solving the problem, rather than being the contributor to the problem.

Find out more about reTHink, Inc. and the work they are doing at www.wabashrethinks.com, or contact them at bethechange@wabashrethinks.com.

Get Involved: Replay Runway Eco-Fashion Show is October 7th, 2017, in DEDE 1 in the Indiana State University Commons.

Photo by Samantha Ripperger

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simple Indulgence Let’s face it. Moms are some of the busiest people we know, and the least likely to take time for themselves.

Show your mom or yourself some love and relaxation this Mother’s Day by whipping up a few of the DIY bath and beauty recipes below.

Most of these can be made with common household items or by purchasing a few specialty ingredients online or at a nice market.

- Julie Manson

honey face mask from hellogiggles.com

This recipe is perfect for restoring dry, itchy, winter facial skin. The honey in the recipe is antibacterial, super hydrating, and helps to unclog pores and slow down the effects of aging. Aloe Vera is chock full of minerals and helps to keep skin clear and hydrated. Lemon juice, being a natural antiseptic, can also help alleviate problems related to the skin.

What you’ll need: 1 teaspoon raw honey ½ teaspoon aloe vera (I used gel form) ½ teaspoon lemon juice Mix the ingredients together in a bowl and then smear on your face. Let sit for 10 minutes. This can be a messy mask, so find a nice place to lay down and rest for your 10 minutes. Rinse your face with warm water and pat dry.

Intensive Shea Butter Eye Cream adapted from wellnessmama.com

This cream also works well as a nourishing and moisturizing eye makeup remover.

The absence of water allows this preservative free product to last a long time. Use clean and dry fingers when applying and take care to keep out of your eye.

What you’ll need: 2 tablespoons shea butter 1 tablespoon coconut oil 1 teaspoon beeswax 1 ½ teaspoon rosehip oil or jojoba oil 4 drops geranium or lavender essential oil (or leave unscented) Small to Medium Pot Wide mouth mason jar 2-ounce glass jar or steel tin Combine everything but the essential oil and rosehip seed oil into a mason jar.

Make a double boiler using a pot on the stove with a couple of inches of water and place the mason jar into the water. Turn the stove onto medium heat and melt the contents of the jar for about 6 minutes. Don’t let the water boil or it could splash into the mixture; just bring it to a simmer. Stir the mixture to help it melt evenly.

As soon as the ingredients are melted completely, remove the jar from the water bath and turn off the heat. Pour the mixture into a small mixing bowl and let cool for about 5 minutes. Then add the essential oil, if using, and rosehip seed or jojoba oil and stir. Scoop the mixture into a glass jar and use a tiny amount under the eyebrow and under eye area at night.

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Photography by Grace Sarris

Rose-Scented Milk Foot Soak with Cornmeal Scrub adapted from boulderlocavore.com

Milk baths or soaks have been popular for centuries. The natural lactic acid found in milk is a form of alpha-hydroxy-acid (an ingredient which can be found in some of the most expensive exfoliating products). This type of acid gently dissolves proteins to exfoliate dead skin cells, which reveal fresh, younger looking skin underneath. Milk is quite soothing on dry skin while also being rich in vitamins and minerals.

What you’ll need: A soaking container large enough to hold both feet and milk without spilling over ½ gallon whole milk Rose or lavender scented essential oil 1-2 roses, petals removed ½ cup of coarse grind cornmeal Coconut oil Clean cotton socks Warm the milk until its comfortably warm but not boiling. Pour into the soaking container and add 2-3 drops of the essential oil and rose petals. Soak feet and relax for 15-20 minutes. With feet still in the soak container, use a handful of the cornmeal to scrub your feet, focusing on the areas of dry skin. Rinse the cornmeal off using the milk bath. Moisturize feet with coconut oil and apply dry cotton socks until absorbed.

The Joy of Wasting Time

When romance author and English Literature professor Eloisa James was diagnosed with breast cancer, she believed the time had come in her life when she would understand and appreciate how to live life to the fullest. James distinguishes living from the repetitive actions that she carried out each day, managing the day to day motions of work and family life on autopilot. During her treatment, James thought that the sometimes impatient and snappy side of her personality would make way for the wisdom and patience that would allow her to live in the moment and anticipate “the epiphany when I would be struck by the acute beauty of life.” However, it took more than cancer to bring James to the heart of her search for a more meaningful experience in life. It took Paris.

complete with all the beauty and heartbreak one might expect of a real-life experience without the rose-colored glasses.

Throughout the memoir, James contrasts her Parisian life with her New Jersey life, making interesting and humorous assessments without judgement. She compares driving her minivan in the New Jersey suburbs to take her children to school and lessons, at times forgetting how she got from point A to B, with the meandering strolls she would take wandering around Paris after dropping off her kids at school. “All of the buildings lining Rue du Conservatoire are constructed of cream marble or limestone. When I went outside today, the sky was pale and fierce, on the very cusp of rain. From the top of the church and the conservatory, the contrast was almost imperceptible, as if marble and air danced cheek to cheek.”

She longed for a change in her suburban life that would afford her the time and the locale to fully experience so many of the pleasures that had become blurry features in her bustling life.

Eloisa James, the daughter of a poet, grew up on a farm in Minnesota and spent time in Paris as a young student. During her time there, she felt that while Parisians may not have an omniscient answer to the meaning of life, they knew how to live life well, and knew how to appreciate and indulge in life’s adventures in a way that modern, fastpaced cultures might consider idle.

James’ imagery is vivid and decadent, but also humorous and humble. An additional insight from her walks around Paris is that “the French walk slowly”. James regards the way in which the French seem to enjoy the pleasure of walking, randomly bumping into friends, and spending time chatting as if that was their intent all along. Conversely, she acknowledges that she walks like a New Yorker; “fast, dodging obstacles, glancing at windows, going places.” Eventually, she asks herself, “Where am I going that’s so urgent, when all these French people don’t agree?”

Paris in Love is a wonderful antidote to the deadlines and “to do” lists that bog us down. James carries the reader along during her magical year in one of the most beautiful cities in the world. Married to a fellow professor, and both able to take advantage of a sabbatical year, James and her husband quickly sold their home, their cars, and most of their possessions, uprooting their teenage son and preteen daughter, neither of whom spoke French, and moved to a charming apartment in Paris.

While many cannot replicate James’ time in Paris, the insight she shares in her memoir does not require the Eiffel Tower or walks along the Seine. James’ appreciation for the beauty of a great city and the perception she gains stems from her willingness to “waste time” and to not fear “laziness”.

James’ initial plans for her sabbatical year included ambitions such as writing four publications; however, her time exploring the city and noting observations became a truly meaningful product of her time. Her Parisian account is told in a series of short chapters that makes for a quick read, and serves as reminders or encouragement to look at the world in a slightly different manner. Mimicked from original formats of social media, James compiled experiences she shared with family and friends into a collective memoir, and uses a casual yet intelligent and witty voice to treat the reader like a friend as she shares glimpses of her daily life in Paris,

Read Alikes:

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Paris, Paris: Journey into the City of Light by David Downie

During her time in Paris, indulgence was no longer perceived with caution as James enjoyed rainy mornings while reading in bed, and allowed for the pleasure of trying new foods with little regard for waistlines in a city known for tiny waists and women who are “tres chic”.

James also found contrast with how she regarded food and meals. More often, before her time in Paris, meals were quick fixes or hurriedly consumed between activities. Her time in Paris opened her eyes to the concept of preparing a meal with care and fanfare. Perhaps more important than the actual consuming of decadent foods, as she is the first to point out not all recipes worked well, is that she learned to enjoy the preparation of a meal, and to consider the context of a shared meal as a means of expression with family and friends.

James’ year in Paris did not turn out quite as she expected. “I never did learn to live life in the moment, but I did learn that moments can be wasted and the world would continue to spin on its axis.” However, she provides a great story and a valuable reminder to enjoy “wasting” time.

- Brittany Michaels

Photo by Grace Sarris

My Life in France by Julia Child

This title is available at the Vigo County Public Library

On Rue Tatin: Living and Cooking in a French Town

by Susan Herrmann Loomis

Haute Musician : Sara Quah When did you first start singing and having an interest in music?

ing on the physical products is another big investment. My personal goal is to sell 1000 albums this year. I think that’s possible if I work my tail off.

Music is central to my every memory. It is the landscape of my life. It is my inheritance, and I am endowed with a love of it. My mother likes to tell a story about a lullaby she tried to sing over and over to me as a baby. It was her favorite, All the Pretty Little Horses, but every time she tried to sing it, I would cry. I think that story probably shows my innate and emotive response to music pretty well. My public singing debut was in the little Prairieton Church with my great grandmother playing the piano. I sang Jesus, I Heard You Had a Big House, and I still remember the words and the feeling of looking out at the faces listening and smiling at me.

What advice can you give someone wanting to break into music? What about a young person/child who’s interested in singing?

What kind of music do you play?

That’s a tough question. I guess the closest genre name would be Indie Folk or perhaps Lyrical, as words are very important to me. But the truth is, as almost everything else in our culture, genre labels aren’t sufficient with all the crossing over, intercultural influences, and blending of artistic media in modern music.

Songwriters just have SO much material to influence us and inspire us.

My new album Taking Me Back is a blend of vintage songwriting and storytelling, inspired by the legendary songwriters of the 1970s, and my own modern perspective. We produced this album the old-fashioned way, with master musicians who have perfected their crafts through experience and time. We used instruments that evoke those sentimental responses, like the Wurlitzer electric piano and Hammond organ. All in the room at the same time, we recorded the basic tracks, and added overdubs later, taking our time with decisions. My producer, Tony SanFilippo of Oxide Lounge Recording, recorded the tracks digitally, but then laid the mixes to tape to mellow out the sound. Since we are ordering vinyl, we will also have that warm, beautiful depth added.

Where can we see you play?

If you go to my website you can find a schedule of shows and events. I add them as they are scheduled. I love to be invited to play intimate shows where I get to talk to people and hear their stories. Those stories often turn into songs.

I know you have an album coming out soon...when can we get our hands on it? How many albums do you have available?

Yes! My new album with indie label Palo Santo Records (the story of how this coolness came about is on my website) is set to release on May 5, 2017. Right now, we have a pre-order/pledge campaign going on. You can reach that through my website as well. Pre-orders for the album help me to know how many CDs and vinyl to order, as production costs for a project of this size are significant, and add-

I’m still working on the answer to this myself, so any advice I give will be based on instincts.

But here is my blunt advice: Be amazing. That sounds really tough because it is.

To really make it you have to be little bit amazing; work really hard, practice constantly, be honest with yourself, not overly critical or overly permissive. It’s true that sometimes people who aren’t amazing make it, but most of the time, that’s what it takes. You don’t have to be amazing at everything, and you don’t have to be amazing all the time. But you do need have some of that quality that sets you apart and makes people remember you.

Another piece of advice I would give would be: Be who you are. Don’t try to sound like someone you admire. Don’t try to dress like someone who’s popular.

Just be the best possible version of yourself as both a musician and a person.

Last piece of advice: Be nice. Be a nice person and people will want you to succeed. Be a genuine human being and people will care what you have to say.

Tell us a little about yourself and your family...

I was born in Terre Haute and raised mostly there, though we moved around quite a bit, too. I went to North Vigo High School and loved the music program there, studied English Literature and Creative Writing at ISU, where I met my husband our senior year. We married a year out of college, went to grad school at Ball State, and started our family soon after. We have three beautiful children, all musical in their own way - and great writers too. Now I teach English part-time, homeschool my kids, and I’m active in local progressive causes here in Normal, Illinois. All of that is in addition, of course, to writing, blogging, recording, and performing music wherever and whenever I can.

What is your favorite quote?

“If it is right, it happens. The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.”

-John Steinbeck

- Lori Mitchell

Find more on Sara and her music at www.saraquah.com

Photography by Sheryl Clark Productions

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Haute Women in History Curtain Call Aren’t you just a little fascinated by celebrity couples? Based on the magazine covers at your local newsstand, I’d say you’re in good company. Famous people cheek-to-cheek with other famous people that the public just wants to know.

There are some celebrity couples from the past who worked closely together: Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz, Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton, George Burns and Gracie Allen, to name a few. They were each gifted performers in their own right, but as couples who performed together, they created something even more special.

A Terre Haute woman who was part of a celebrity couple goes way back to the days of Vaudeville. Rose Fehrenbach was born on October 9th, 1879 at 936 S. First Street. She was blessed with a beautiful voice and perfect pitch. She sang and played the organ with the St. Benedict children’s choir, and took music lessons from local music teacher Florence Sage. Her hard work paid off with a scholarship to a private Chicago music school, and after graduating she signed a contract as a concert pianist.

Early in Rose’s career she met an actor and singer who seemed a good match for her musical talents. Joseph Edward Pierce and Rose formed the vaudeville team “Pierce and Roslyn” with an act they called “A Whirl of Melody.” With fanciful costume changes and the blending of voices and instruments, they were a hit all over the United States and Europe. In December of 1908, Billboard magazine carried an advertisement that described Pierce and Roslyn as “The Operatic Toreadors – the most elaborately dressed singing duo in Vaudeville.” The Albuquerque Citizen wrote on May 14, 1909: “Pierce and Roslyn, the operatic toreadors and their splendid company of entertainers, are breaking all records at the Colombo Theatre.” The duo performed for King George V and Queen Mary, and had a private audience in Rome with Pope Pius XI.

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As one can imagine, the romance between the two blossomed. However, Pierce and Rose were partners for fifteen years before they tied the knot. They were married in England in August of 1915, and continued to perform together all over the world. It’s easy to imagine the connection they must have had with each other both on and off the stage. Of course, Rose stayed connected to her family back home in Terre Haute as well – she even took her widowed mother with her on several American tours.

Putting yourself out there, onstage, is a daring proposition. Imagine the trust two people must have in each other to be partners in a stage act! If one fails, they both fail. Of course, you could say the same thing about a marriage, couldn’t you?

Whether they were J. Edward and Rose, or Pierce and Roslyn, the two parts of their lives were dramatically intertwined. So when Pierce died suddenly of a heart attack in London on November 7, 1937, Rose was devastated and went into seclusion for several months. Not only did she grieve the loss of her husband, but she

must have felt like a big part of her own identity was gone. It reminds me of what George Burns said of his wife after she died: “My life was Gracie.”

But Rose’s life did go on for a few more years. She performed at several opera houses until 1940, when her brothers convinced her to move back home to Terre Haute. Only a few years later, in 1943, Rose Fehrenbach Pierce passed away, and is buried in Terre Haute’s Calvary Cemetery. Her obituary appeared in the June 1943 issue of Billboard magazine, under a most appropriate heading…

The Final Curtain.

- Susan Tingley

Photos Courtesy of the Vigo County Historical Museum Collection

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ourbodybook.com

@justaddsunshineinc

Cameron Diaz shares her learnings and what she continues to discover about nutrition, exercise and the mind/body connection.

@maskcarabeauty

A lifestyle brand that inspires women to keep their memories close by creating one of a kind, heirloom pieces, silhouette portraits and jewelry.

Bright colors make this crafter happy.

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lepapierstudio.com

Creator of IIID foundation, providing a glowing complexion in one refillable compact.

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countryliving.com

All things pretty and vintage rentals.

The magazine’s website, full of articles featuring design ideas, food and drink, home and more.

blogs to follow dombagnoche.com

Sharing her world of beauty, college life, fashion, and travel.

cupcakesandcashmere.com

All things fashion, food, beauty, décor, DIY, and motherhood.

lizmarieblog.com

Shop owner, interior designer, and creative soul, who’s fixing up her 1800’s farmhouse with her handsome veteran husband.

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A Catalyst for Change There was no way to prepare for the senseless massacre that unfolded on the morning of April 20, 1999 in Littleton, CO. A beautiful and otherwise uneventful day morphed into a senseless act, yielding destruction that would send shockwaves across our nation. At approximately 11:19 a.m. outside the west doors of Columbine High School, two young men obsessed with death and mayhem delivered the gunshots that fatally claimed their first victim, Rachel Joy Scott. Within a matter of minutes, an additional twelve beautiful human beings were murdered, and America would collectively grieve the loss of innocent souls.

It’s difficult to believe that hope can triumph over such a horrific loss, but love has a way of making even the broken things seem beautiful. Rachel was gifted with the ability to bring joy and encouragement to everyone with whom she crossed paths. She understood the concept of hope and compassion and lived it out every single day. Her father resolved to ensure the life of his precious child would have purpose even after her physical touch was no longer palpable. Rachel believed she would impact millions of lives someday, and her daddy honored that dream by overcoming hate with love when he founded Rachel’s Challenge, a bullying and violence abatement program. By sharing Rachel Joy’s life and writings with millions worldwide, Mr. Scott has given people the remarkable chance to gaze into the heart of an exuberant seventeen-year-old who made it a point to see the good in all people.

Rachel Joy understood that to revolutionize the world, only one person needed to start a chain reaction: One person had to decide to be the change. Could the challenge of a feel-good theory actually change the world? The answer is yes: it did and it has. Since the inception of Rachel’s Challenge, over 22 million people have heard Rachel’s story, preventing at least eight school shootings and changing the minds of over 500 potential suicide victims. {2} When I contemplate Rachel’s story I have no choice but to ask myself, “what will the world remember me for?” I think that Rachel considered life to be a gift with an unknown expiration date, and therefore resolved to impact the world for the better every chance she got. Ergo I ask: whose life have I changed? What contributions for the betterment of society have I made? What legacy do I leave those whom I love and how am I changing their world?

DON'T LET YOUR CHARACTER CHANGE COLOR W IT H YO U R ENVIRONMENT. FIND OUT WHO YOU ARE A ND LET IT STAY ITS T RU E C O LO R .

There is no doubt that Rachel would have matured into an amazingly strong and beautiful woman. She would have continued to inspire other young ladies to seek out their dreams. But now we are given the opportunity to continue what she was unable to finish while here on earth: encouraging others to be the best they can be. Her story has inspired and challenged me to exchange days of procrastination with days of willful and purposeful living while I still have the time to do so, and I challenge you to learn from Rachel Joy’s life and discover the world through her eyes. By using our talents and our gifts, we can impact everyone around us.

Together, we can make this world a better place.

- Giovy Sanders This beautiful child positively impacted humanity by dreaming big on a daily basis and therefore leaving behind an undeniable legacy of love, acceptance, and compassion. Rachel had challenged herself to become the catalyst for change within her sphere of influence, and allowed her light to push past the darkness that fought to engulf her. Rachel believed that God could restore all that was lost and felt she had been given a platform to initiate change; a platform she would never see. In one of her journal entries she penned the following: My definition of compassion is forgiving, loving, helping, leading, and showing mercy for others. I have this theory that if one person can go out of their way to show compassion then it will start a chain reaction of the same.

People will never know how far a little kindness can go. {1}

Visit http://rachelschallenge.org/ for more information.

1. Scott, Rachel (1999). “My Ethics, My Codes of Life”. Rachel’s Challenge. Archived from the original on May 1, 2009. Retrieved 2017-02-08.

2. Rachel’s Challenge Media Fact Sheet (n.d.). Retrieved 2017-02-13 from http://rachelschallenge.org/media/media_press_kit/Media_Fact_Sheet.pdf ~ Pictures and logo courtesy of www.rachelschallenge.org

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Haute Blogger This Thing Called Life

When we went on a search for a blogger to feature, it seemed like Lily waltzed into our shops on a cloud, with rainbows and streamers and fireworks (in my head at least). She was exactly what we were looking for – a young, stylish, breath of fresh air, who isn’t afraid to be herself.

We’re excited to feature her in this issue…and you may just be seeing more of her on the pages of Haute Life.

- Lori Mitchell

Literally what is life?

I’m on this earth for 22 years, forced to get a job to push into a career of 50+ years, only to retire. When I’m older, I can’t do half the things I want to do on my bucket list because I’ll be too fragile to get around. I think it is easy to get lost in the dollar sign and forget that you should wake up every morning eager to go to work to do what you love in this world. What’s so awesome about people is that they are all so different and all enjoy doing different things with their free time. Some people feel suppressed when they have a boss, and some people feel totally lost without one.

Life is as fun and enjoyable as you make it. You are a key creator in your happiness. Sometimes, we rely too much on objects and other people to make us happy.

Since I was a little girl, I feared grudgingly waking up and feeling like I’m in a rut of doing the same thing over and over again. I want to do something that makes me feel passionate and excited for the following day. Fashion is one of the most expressive ways to exude confidence on a daily basis. Clothes show everyone who you are or how you feel that day. I’m not saying we should judge everyone based on how expensive their clothes are or where they bought them, but we should be looking at how the person is wearing the outfit. No matter what you are wearing, if you are confident and strut what you have on, you’ll turn heads. Not only will people gravitate toward you more, but you’ll feel so much better about yourself.

When your social and emotional life are in check, you will look super fly.

I’m telling you people, fashion is the key to confidence, and confidence is the key to happiness. Remember that there is no right or wrong when it comes to style, no matter how many times someone will tell you that in your life. Individuality and uniqueness need to be reinforced and encouraged in the world today. With so many things going on, uplifting each other should be a priority. With all this being said, one day I hope to create a place where every type of person can shop, a genderless store that has a variety of sizes and styles that anyone could wear. We’ve all been categorized too much, and it’s time to make it easier. I dream of creating a shop where men, women, straight people, the LGBTQ community, overweight, underweight, white people, or people of a different ethnicity can all come together in one store and look fresh. I won’t stop until I’ve made it, I can promise you that.

Photography by Grace Sarris

- Lily Freese

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C har med L ife

Photo by Grace Sarris Have you ever wished you asked those questions after you’ve lost a loved one?

Most of us have experienced this, even if it was basic family questions about birthplace, grandparents or family history.

I lost my father five years ago, and there’s not a day that goes by that I wish he was still here so we could talk about what’s going on in our lives. I wish I would have asked him more about my grandparents, what he learned in his life, his mistakes, and what he could have done different and his childhood.

Now I’m only left with memories of the later part of his life, which consisted mostly of working at his small business, taking care of grandchildren, and his own battle with cancer. No matter what was going on in his personal life, he always put his children and grandchildren first. He had a huge impact on my life and into my adulthood. He was compassionate like no one I ever knew; he listened and offered advice. He was everything to our family, and to this day, I wish I would have known more about him to share with my family and my granddaughter.

My friend, Tammy Schaffer, told me about a book, Tell Me So I Know: My Questions ... Your Answers, and how it helped her ask those important questions of her mother.

to getting to know my mom in a more comfortable and loving way. We spent an hour going over questions and I was pleasantly surprised how fun it was. If she wasn’t able to remember something, we just moved on to the next question or skipped to another chapter.

The book is filled with 181 pages and more than 600 questions to learn about the life, memories, and experiences of someone special. Each chapter talks about childhood, high school, college, marriage, faith, holidays, vacations, future and past, and everything in between. It’s fun to include your family and children - get them involved by asking the questions themselves and jotting down the answers.

As you make your way through the book, don’t forget to do the section called “Tell Me Your Favorite.” It was perfect for my son, Ryder, to do with his grandma.

In this chapter, you will share 100 of your favorite items, from your favorite food to your favorite pet. He was also able to do the next chapter called “154 Choices”, in which we found out what grandma’s favorite snacks were (if she preferred sweet and salty), or if she was a morning or night person. It was all simple, everyday stuff that she shared with us, yet so very personal and sweet.

Using the book, she was able to ask questions more intimately and see another side of her mother. Tammy gifted me a copy of the book, which was written by Terre Haute native Paul Shike. I was so intrigued by her testimony that I knew I had to carry it in Modern Charm and share with my mother.

I hope you embrace this book and use this process with someone special in your life, and seize the opportunity to strengthen the bonds with your loved ones. I found many of the questions in the book were not items I would have thought of on my own to ask my mom. It was nice not having to think of something myself to ask and write.

I was so excited to tell my mom about it in hopes she would be on board about answering. I asked her to come over one evening and we sat in my dining room and started on page three, “Will You Tell Me So I Know?” As I added my mom’s name and date, I knew this experience would forever change our relationship and make us closer. I had many unanswered questions and was really looking forward

Finally, be respectful to the person giving you the answers. There really isn’t a wrong or right answer, so avoid challenging them over the details of events. Be positive and just keep the conversation going. Stop by Modern Charm to pick up a copy and get inspired to cherish your memories.

- Yvette Morgan

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Sincerely, Millie

...Notes to My Little.

My daughter will be 9 this year. NINE. I’m freaking out, man.

While I absolutely love watching her grow into the beautiful young lady she’s becoming, inside and out, I wish time could slow down just a little. It seems like overnight, maybe even every night, she has grown up a bit more. She surprises me daily with something new that I had no idea she knew; innocent, yet so very smart. We are super close, and I am so thankful for that. But as the space between us grows because she’s growing, I become more aware of the fact that someday, she will be moving on from her world of mommy and daddy, to friends and boys and high school and college and life. This year, I have felt this amplifying need to write things down as they’re happening… things that she may not understand now, but she will someday.

So, I started this journal. I don’t know when I’ll give it to her, that can be decided later I suppose. Maybe when she graduates high school? College, perhaps? Or maybe on her wedding day. I tend to fly by the seat of my pants, which is just another reason I’m doing this – I feel like certain things that should be remembered may not be – by even me. Now, I’m not necessarily writing down life altering baggage here. Mostly it’s been a diary of sorts, recording events that have happened, things that she’s said that were either hilarious or wise beyond her years, and how these “events” may play into her life later. Even how they play into my life now. I’m logging a narrative of what we, as her parents, think while these events are taking place. Most definitely thoughts that she won’t understand

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now, but she will into adulthood. Maybe even things that will help her better understand her parents someday. There are things she says that make me think, holy crap, that was deep. Then I think, how is that relative to our lives, my life, right now? She’s giving me advice and causing me to analyze life, and isn’t even aware that she’s doing it.

On a simpler note, I thought there were some stories that she might forget, and would like to have those “notes” later in life. I try to remember things from my childhood, and it’s usually bits and pieces. My hope is that she can look back on this someday, and it triggers a memory that makes her feel special, warm.

That it reminds her of our closeness now, a closeness that I hope never disappears, even though I know it’s inevitable – I remember pulling away from my mom as I grew into a teenager and young adult. Thankfully, though we have some very differing views on some topics, we are close once again.

My hope is that my little and I always stay close. I hope that she always asks me for a story from my past at night, that she never pulls away from a hug or a kiss, that she always knows she can tell me anything because I’ll never judge her, that I’m always here for her. My hope is that, even though I’m dreading those years where I know she’ll pull away a bit - it’s part of that growing up thing we talked about - that this journal will bring us closer soon after, when she realizes she needs her Momma again.

- Lori Mitchell

Photography by Grace Sarris

Got a Big Dream?

Here’s How to Make the Change You Want In March 2012, I made a bold move. I left my safe and secure, full-time job to become a freelance writer and my own boss.

Since then, nearly all of my work is professional writing published with my name, or for companies and businesses that I chose.

However, this leap of faith was not a decision I made overnight. It was a process that began several years before with a lot of thought, work, and planning. Here’s some background on my story and how you can make that scary change yourself.

My Story When I graduated college with a degree in journalism, I got a job in the marketing and communications field. That’s where I continued for nearly 20 years.

However, in 2007, something changed. I had my daughter and my focus changed.

I wanted to make a difference in people’s lives and teach them the tough lessons I was learning as a working mother and in life. But how would I even start to get my voice out in the world? I couldn’t simply leave my full-time job for an idea.

So, in December 2009, I started a blog and thought to myself, “I’ll just start writing my stories, putting them out for the world to read, and maybe one day I can quit this job and be a professional writer.”

For years, I wrote everything on my blog. I shared my struggles with motherhood and balancing a full-time career; about issues I had with weight growing up; and how my husband and I were dealing with furloughs and pay-cuts.

In the summer of 2010, I published my first piece with an online website and was thrilled to receive a check in the mail for it. I then started pitching pieces to other publications. I started finding companies who needed people like me with writing and social media skills.

Finally, in 2012, I was working almost two full-time jobs along with my freelance work. It was time to make the move and go out on my own.

How You Can Make the Change

Perhaps you have an idea percolating in your mind about what you really want to be doing for a living. Like my story, it’s not an overnight path to success. Here are four things you can do now to make that change in the future.

1. Find your tribe – online and offline.

There are so many online places you can form those communities and make connections. Find Facebook or LinkedIn groups that speak to your industry or goals, and then read and participate in the discussions. Join some local Meetup groups.

2. Find the industry you want to work in and get involved.

Volunteer for organizations that compliment your goals and vision. These may not be paid gigs in the beginning, but they build your credibility and experience. If your industry is writing or speaking, start a blog, contribute to local publications such as your church or your children’s school newsletter.

3. Make your LinkedIn profile work for you.

So many people tell me they can’t go for their dream until they have a website.

Websites take money and time. Opt for LinkedIn instead. It’s free, and when people search for you online, your LinkedIn profile will always come up much higher than a website in search results.

4. Start now getting your financial house in order.

Knowing you won’t be launching your new venture for a while gives you time to make sure you’re financially ready. Pay down debt and save extra money each month for emergencies.

Going for your dream and making that big change is scary. But it IS possible! It just takes some planning, time and commitment.

- Leah Singer

Photo by Grace Sarris

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Coping with Loss

Two Special Mom’s Tell Their Stories

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Embracing Life After Loss Teresa Dwyer has gone through the unthinkable. Eleven years ago, her son, Collin – just 4-years-old at the time, was tragically killed. Since then, she has not only had to recover from such a devastating loss, but also move forward in life as a single mother to her surviving son, who was only 2 at the time of his brother’s death.

Over the years, Teresa has learned so much about herself, her strength, and especially how to raise a confident child after tragedy.

While so many parents would react to a child’s loss by becoming extremely overprotective of their child, Teresa chose to go to the opposite way. She let go of her fears, and let him have a childhood filled with adventure and challenge.

“I didn’t want my son to live in a bubble,” said Teresa. “I wanted him to explore the world and take chances. So, I let him climb trees and jump up the stairs on his pogo stick.” He is now 13-years-old and thriving.

“I learned I’m not only stronger than I thought I could be, but I’m stronger than I ever wanted to be,” said Teresa. Her strength came from having an amazing support system of family, friends and a supportive employer in place (she was working in the Career Development Center at Saint Mary-of-the-Woods College at the time).

He also helped teach Teresa a valuable lesson about grief and moving forward with life.

Teresa also learned that while a tragic loss of a child is devastating, people are resilient and the situation brings a lot of perspective about what is important in life.

She learned not to be afraid to take chances, and while the loss certainly made her question her faith, it deepened it at the same time.

That’s been a daily reminder that the days continue to pass and she needs to keep going. With the sun brings a new day, and new hope and change.

“While I don’t believe that saying that something good comes from every tragedy, I do believe there is always something more important to learn,” said Teresa. “That ‘something’ gets me through the day.”

One of the most significant lessons she’s learned is to value every minute she has with her son and to rethinking how she approaches parenting.

She remembers one morning, not long after Collin died, waking up next to her son.

He said to Teresa, “Wake up, mom. The sun is up.”

Teresa continues to embrace her life and always looks for those sunny days. When she’s not working in the Indiana State University Career Center, she enjoys being active and participated in six half-marathons. She and her son spend lots of time together outdoors, on many adventures such as hiking with their two dogs, playing/watching soccer, and even kayaking. They also enjoy traveling, with one of their most memorable trips being a vacation to Seattle and cruise to Alaska.

- Leah Singer

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Precious Memories As you read Tami Dooley-Smith’s story, you will find a courageous woman behind the heartache, tears, and loss. Tami was so open about sharing her story with us in the hope it brings some light to the darkness she has gone through. She’s honest about her struggles and life after her son Travis passed away in January 2007. There is not a day that she doesn’t think about Travis, but today she’s stronger, ready to move forward, and keep Travis’ memory alive. We hope her story connects with other parents that have experienced the loss of a child.

Tell us about Travis? What was he like?

Travis was a very caring, sensitive and loving boy. He loved his family more than anything! He loved animals and sports, especially golf. He was quick-witted and funny, and very compassionate. He had a soft spot for the less fortunate, especially children. He was competitive, yet cared most about his teammates.

What do you miss most?

I miss everything about Travis, but I think I miss the way he would always lighten the mood for everyone, especially his sister if anything was troubling her. I talked to him every day and miss our deep conversations we would have. Our last late night conversation that was really deep was when he was home on winter break 2006-07. We had the best talk about friendship…

Would you share with us how he passed away?

Travis was killed in a car accident. He was the front seat passenger in a car that was going 5 blocks. The driver drove reckless and accelerated very quickly after they turned the corner, and lost control. He was going approximately 50 mph in a 20-mph zone. Travis died on impact, but they did try to resuscitate him for about 40 minutes without success. He died of a torn aorta on January 27th, 2007.

What things do you and your family do to remember Travis?

We established the Travis Smith Memorial Fund at the Terre Haute Boys and Girls Club. The fund helps scholarship children that cannot afford membership or program fees, as well as helping programs that already exist. New programs can be created, too. Now we have a fund that helps benefit the annual boys and girls Vigo County golf tournaments. We have a golf outing in the summer to benefit the boys and girls golf teams of Vigo County - that helps offset the often expensive cost of golf [for students].

What phases of grief did you go through?

Oh my! I truly think I went through every phase of grief that is described in Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’ famous book, On Death and Dying. Of course, I went through denial. I just could not believe my son had died...that is something that I didn’t think could ever happen to me. I thought I was invincible to that happening, especially since I was an ER nurse, and I took care of children in this situation or helped save children in this situation. This truly could not happen to us. I remember being in total disbelief. I thought that this could not be real and Travis was just at a golf tournament and would be back. I tried to bargain with God to please give us Travis back and take me instead. I knew in my head this was impossible, but I would still ask God to try to make this happen. I felt cheated and I was very sad that Travis would not get to live his life. I went through a lot of anger. I was mad at the driver, I was mad at the world. I was mad at God....I just didn’t understand why Travis had to be gone. I was mad at people who would complain about their children being difficult - I just wanted my child to be here! I was very angry that the kid driving chose to be reckless. I was very angry at God even though I knew God didn’t cause this. I was mad that God didn’t protect him. I was mad that Travis could not have been a miracle. My anger also gave way to depression. It was very difficult to know that my family was not complete on earth anymore. It was depressing to go out to dinner and get a table for 3 instead of 4....we were a family of 4 people, yet we would never be that way during our life on earth again.

I can’t say that I have ever had true acceptance, but I have learned to live in our new normal. Our lives and hearts were forever changed, and a piece of our heart was gone. We have learned to have happiness again and not feel guilty about enjoying life even though Travis was taken so young. Travis always worried about his family being happy, especially his dad. He would not want us to waller in grief and anger. My grandchildren, Ryker Travis and Sawyer Rae have also helped with the grief we had, too.

Tell me about your support system, and how it helped you through the darkest days?

I could not have made it through the last 10 years without my family and my close

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friends. For the first year after Travis was gone, I had friends that called me every single day. My family was my rock. I tried so hard to be strong for everyone all of the time, especially for our daughter. My parents, Jimmy and Courtney, gave me a purpose when I felt lost. I am so blessed with friends that supported and loved me, and a family that has always showed unconditional love for me. Another big source of support was Travis’ friends who stayed close with us and continue to keep us in their lives. My faith has also helped sustain me, even when I was angry.

If I didn’t believe in heaven, I wouldn’t have the peace to know I will be with Travis again one day. I am not sure how people go forward after losing their child without the belief in God and eternal life.

What do you do to take care of yourself?

I am very guilty of putting myself last, especially since Jimmy (my husband) has had health issues. I should take better care of myself, but it is hard to do sometimes. I wish I liked to exercise, but I don’t. I think the way I take care of my mental health is by spending time with our grandchildren. They make me happier than I have been in many years. It is very rewarding seeing the greatest part of you holding the greatest part of them.

What advice can you give to someone who has lost a child?

They need to be patient with themselves and understand this is a very long journey.

It is not something you ever get over. Things will not magically get better after the first year. I actually thought the second year was harder because it was now our reality. Travis was not on a golf trip somewhere...he was really in heaven and

not coming back to earth. Your grief will get softer with time, but the pain will always be present. It is ok to live and be happy again - that does not mean you forgot your child. The journey is a roller coaster with lots of dips. Always keep the communication open with your spouse and remember that your children on earth need you very much.

- Yvette Morgan

“On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy, & Their Own Families”, by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross is available on www.amazon. com, along with her other bestsellers on grief and life after death.

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Dear Mom Dear Mom, It’s hard to sum up all the gratitude we have for you in a few words.

From not choosing a favorite twin, to working three days a week in order to spend time with us, to giving genuine advice, you have done your best to make sure we had everything we needed. Thank you for celebrating with us in our happiness, consulting us in our weaknesses, and building us up when we needed you the most. Thank you for bringing Meka into our lives, we will never forget that day.

Thank you for pushing us to further our education, because we needed it. Thank you for never giving up on us (and please continue to do so). Most importantly, thank you for the love of pasta and chocolate, our bellies greatly appreciate it.

Future nod to you: Sam will thank you in her Oscar’s acceptance speech for Costume Design and Paige will thank you for showing her determination and an excellent work ethic when she finally decides what she wants to do with her life.

We can’t thank you enough for all that you have done for us!

Love always, Paige and Sam

Mom— For some reason, that old Cingular commercial where the family talks in text slang was one of my favorites, probably because I was around 13 years old. “Idk, my bff Jill,” was a ridiculously common phrase in my tween vocabulary. I loved it so much that I made your name in the contacts in my cell phone “Idk, my BFF Momma.” And it’s been that way ever since. I’m almost 23 now, and still when you call, I laugh. I think about the many, many years ago when that quote was relevant. I think about how it›s not anymore. But I don’t change it. And I’m not sure I ever will. Because that’s just proof of how long you’ve been my very best friend.

The second quote I think of when I think of you is, “I know you’ve loved me as long as I’ve lived, but I’ve loved you my entire life.” First, let that sink in. And second, take that, mom. You’re cool and everything, but guess who wins.

Allie

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If I could go back in time and say one thing to my 17 year-old self, it would be: Listen to your mother.

As much as it shames me to admit it, I was not a nice daughter from age 17 to 21. I was stupid, selfish, lazy, and thought I knew what was best for me. I had a chip on my shoulder because I felt that life had dealt me an unfair hand. I made a few bad decisions and got mad when I had to pay for them. Sometimes, I even made myself pay for them when I didn’t really have to. I was honestly kind of a mom’s worst nightmare. I said and did things that I would give anything to take back. The truth was, I was ashamed of myself and riddled with guilt. I was angry at the world. Yet through everything, despite all of my bitterness, my mom never pushed me away. She could have, and I wouldn’t have blamed her (Ok I would have at first, but later I’d understand why), but she didn’t. She kept trying to get through to me. She was there for me even when I was being stubborn and didn’t think I needed her. She gave help that I was too ashamed to ask for.

She said what I needed to hear instead of what I wanted to hear. We have yelled at each other, hung up on each other, and cried over each other. If it weren’t for her, I have no idea who I’d be today or how many more mistakes I’d have ended up making. My mom has always been special to me, and I have always loved her - even when I wasn’t acting like it. Now she is my best friend.

Mom, thank you. For being the mom I needed even when I didn’t want you to be. For not giving up even when I seemed hopeless. For being my light when times were dark. And for showing me exactly what unconditional love is supposed to look like. I’m sorry for all the times I hurt you. I only got mad because I knew you were right. XOXO -Ashlee Sappingfield

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The Fabric Junkie: Fashionable maternity wear can be hard to come by, and we usually find ourselves ordering online.

We searched out some of these not-so-well-known online maternity shops to find some of the sweetest essentials for your baby bump.

Don’t forget the hospital bag essentials, trust me, you’ll forget something without a list! Enjoy, Mama.

- Lori Mitchell

Cutest maternity T-shirt ever:

Le Bump T www.projectnursery.com

A money saving essential, wear this with your trousers and jeans for as long as you can:

You’ll wear this dress all summer:

Ingrid & Isabel Pleated Tank Maternity Dress

Ingrid & Isabel Bellaband www.amazon.com

www.figure8maternity.com

Who says you can’t be bright and sunny:

Aqua Multi-Color Floral Maternity Halter Tankini www.pinkblushmaternity.com

Wear these now, wear them later: We love these elastic hip panels:

Emma Faulkner Cropped Denim Power Legging www.rosiepope.com

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Olive Linen Fold-over Waistband Maternity Shorts www.pinkblushmaternity.com

Maternity Fashion

Be prepared with these basics when it’s time:

Hospital Bag Essentials www.polyvore.com

We can’t forget Daddy, a diaper bag he will actually like carrying:

Combat Daddy Equipment Diaper Bag www.amazon.com

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Like Mother,, Mother,,, Like Daughter “I hope that I see the world as you did, cause I know a life with love is a life that’s been lived” Ed Sheeran

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Feature Photography by Sarah Johnston

My mom is a one of a kind woman. She is faithful, caring, loving, kind, generous, and patient. She is a teacher, someone I look up to, the best nana, and a great friend.

She has shown me that life and the people in it should be cherished; that God’s love is all around us; that even on the bad days, you can always find something good. When I feel weak, she knows just the right words to give me strength.

When I was down after heart surgery and then again during cancer treatment, she took care of me, my family, and my house along with her own. She is the one person who has always believed in me, supported my crazy ideas, and encouraged me to follow my wildest dreams. In the words of my daughter, “she fills the world with goodness like butterflies”. Why yes, yes she does! We love her so much and are so very grateful to have her in our lives every single day!

Nicole

Nicole Osborne and Kathy McCauley

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Mami. That’s a term of endearment around our house. It simply means “mommy” in Spanish. When I look into the face of my beautiful Mami, a hardworking woman who singlehandedly raised two kids in the heart of Miami, Fl.; not an easy thing to do.

My memory banks recorded a Mami working long hours, calling home and asking about my brother, chores, and homework. And often reminding me not to take a shower until she got there… “I don’t want you to slip and fall when I’m not there to help you.”

Mami was a fierce warrior that battled anything or anyone that threatened the safety of our home. Mami spanked if she needed to, kissed us because she wanted to, and prayed for us because she chose to. I learned amazing work ethic from that woman.

I learned to stand up for myself and not expect handouts. But most importantly I learned that being a Mami was one of the greatest accomplishments of her life. She has spent a life time being proud of my brother and I…humbling indeed.

Mami, thank you for raising us with every ounce of your being. You set an example for me to follow that has allowed me to reach my dreams. It is my turn to tell the world how incredibly proud I am of my Mami: YOU ROCK!!

Giovy

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Mom, You listen and support my decisions regardless of what’s on my plate, and we both know I always have a million things going on in my life. You created a safe environment for us growing up, and we always felt very loved. I admire you for your honesty, and someone who fiercely loves her family and kids.

You’re a beautiful person on the outside and a have a heart of gold on the inside. You have always been the center of my life and someone I always looked up to as a child, and now as an adult. You’ve been my biggest cheerleader from the beginning as a young mom, and all the struggles I went through in my 20’s.

We’ve both been through highs and lows, and we’ve always been there for each other every step of the way.

We also share many similarities which include creating, decorating, crafting and shopping. Everything I know now is because of you.

Thank you for everything, and I’m so glad God blessed me with a caring and loving mother like you...I love you.

Happy Mother’s Day! Xoxo, Yvette

Yvette Morgan and Rose Elmore

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Mothers and Daughters My mom is not only my best friend, she is my spirit and my influence in all of my successes in life. During the hardest times in my life when adversity took the place of prosperity, my Mom was always there.

She has always been the one that has brought peace back to my heart.

My Mom is such a faithful woman and has always been the most committed Mom. Her faith in Christ has always influence me deeply. I want to thank her for being an example to me in having such a strong faith in God and treating others the way you want to be treated. She has always celebrated every accomplishment of mine as it is was the greatest thing I’ve ever done. Without realizing it she is the reason that I have always had confidence in myself and my ability to do anything I set my mind to.

I realized in my mid-thirties, after having my daughter that when I look at my Mom, I am looking at the purest love I will ever know.

Now at the age of 50, I know one thing for certain, “There is no bond as strong as a mother and their child.”

Mom, you are the reason my life has been so rich and beautiful. I have felt so loved and treasured because of you. I thank God everyday for giving me you as my Mom. Laura

Laura Kirschner and Cathy Davis

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Me and my Mom My mom is a rock! It doesn’t matter how difficult or emotional the task is, she will conquer it! I’m not going to lie, my sister and I were the typical kids that talked back and thought mom was too strict and too conservative, but today, we are just like her. I am beyond grateful for her guidance and unconditional love. She always remains steadfast and consistent with her style and way of life. No matter what time of day or situation I find myself in, I always know I can count on mom! She is most famous for her quote, “You will get what you get and you won’t throw a fit!”

Candi

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What I Learned from Mommit I remember a long time ago, my mom instilling in me that I needed to learn to live on my own, should that situation ever arise. She wanted me to have my own money, understand how to handle financial situations on my own, and not to rely on others. She raised me to be a strong and independent woman, just as my mom was a strong, hard-working, single mother of two, whom I watched work her butt off to support the two of us. I also saw what it was like for a mother to lose a child, when my brother passed away at age 13. I was 10 at the time. It wasn’t until I had my own daughter that I realized even a little bit of the depth of what she went through, yet held it together (most of the time) for me. I learned to savor my friendships, and the importance of close family. I’m blessed to have strong friendships and an amazing husband that my mom loves. Mommit (our nickname for her after our young neighbor boy would call us “Lorit” and “Erwit”) taught me to be kind, to not give up on something I started, to cook a killer chicken curry, and to not take s**t from anyone.

Lori

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What I have learned the most from my mom is kindness.

Growing up, she has always shown me the power of treating everyone with kindness and the effects that can have on those around you. The smallest gesture or smile can mean so much to someone, and I’ve seen that on a daily basis in my life. She has always treated everyone with kindness and I’m always in awe of her patience and grace with others. Not only is she my mom, but she’s an amazing person that I am lucky enough to call my friend as well.

Brittany

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Fan Girl Friday The Truth About Being a Single Mom

I love everything about single moms… the pure love, the hard work and perseverance… they hold a special place in my heart.

I personally know the challenges that come when you’re the caregiver and you have to provide the essentials for your children on a tight budget.

But through it all, we made it. It’s been amazing to support other single moms and to encourage them to never give up.

I’m sure Jennifer Barry’s story will sound familiar to some, but what I hope most is that she inspires you to keep moving forward.

How has motherhood changed you?

It has made me stronger and more focused. It has taught me to let go of small things like dirty laundry and petty differences, but not others like differences in ideals. It has also taught me to be mindful of the present and to make time to play.

What has been your biggest challenge as a single mom?

Feeding myself. No, seriously. Between caring for my daughter and my dog, working and doing chores, meal planning, preparation and consumption often get de-prioritized. I’m lucky that my family members and friends have stepped in with meals, lunch dates or free hands to hold Baby E and mix up food for Casper the Friendly Dog.

Have you ever felt judged for being a single parent? If so, how did that make you feel?

I have at times felt judged, but I wonder if it isn’t my own internal critic projecting onto others. Regardless, it usually makes me feel like a screw up until I actively remind myself of the reasons I’m in my situation, how I got here and why I made the decisions I did. Then I feel strong and capable… even lucky and progressive on really good days.

What type of support do you have?

I moved back here from my longtime home of San Diego specifically for my support system, which includes phenomenally helpful parents, siblings, care providers, and a small but budding group of fantastic friends and other mothers.

What type of goals are you setting for yourself and your future?

I would like to put away all the clean laundry a fourth time since Baby E’s birth in June. I’d enjoy attending a yoga or Zumba class or two. I’d love to buy a house, get a car with a bigger trunk, make a stronger group of friends, and eventually meet a man with whom I could share my life. And eat a hot meal. Bonus if it’s out of the house and I can wear heels. That’s the stuff of dreams.

What advice can you share with other single moms?

It’s probably not going to be as bad as you think it is… at least not all the time.

(Let’s hope not, anyway, because we all have pretty creative minds when it comes to conjuring our futures.) And it’s probably going to be better than you think it is… at least some of the time. But no matter what, it is what it is and you are more than enough for your kid(s). Be happy and they will be too.

What’s the best thing about being a mom?

Everything. Honestly, even if I’m covered in [insert bodily waste product here], when I look at Baby E, my heart swells with love, pride, awe and excitement.

I can’t imagine my life without my baby girl and my baby dog. Even though it didn’t happen at all the way I planned it, it is perfect in its imperfections.

*An added bonus: My new mottos are “Fake it ‘till you make it.” and “Done is better than perfect.”

- Yvette Morgan

Top & Left Photos by Family Tree Photography Right Photo by JCPenney Portrait Studios

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Ella Tapy - Age 9

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Evie Mitchell - Age 8