ISSUE 06
A Portion of Proceeds Donated to the Council On Domestic Abuse
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Welcome to our 6th issue of Haute Life Magazine. This issue is dedicated to all of those “FEARLESS” women we know and love. When we started working on this issue we knew we wanted to focus on women who took risks and stepped outside the lines, celebrating those who are striving to be the best they can be. I think most of us have faced fear at some point in our lives, whether personal or business, and have told ourselves a LIE -- that we aren’t pretty enough, capable of accomplishing our goals, or that we shouldn’t dream big. It’s our goal to push you beyond your limits and watch you do amazing things in your life, whether it’s trusting your gut or taking a leap of faith. We want you to find your voice, share what you’ve learned along the way, and know that you are helping women of all ages and backgrounds live a happier life. As you browse through this issue, we hope you love getting to know a new contributor, Beth Silcox, who wrote a beautiful article (page 17) on what it’s like to go through the “Empty Nest” syndrome, and her personal battle with anxiety. We also highlighted just a few of the women of Rose-Hulman and Ivy Tech (page 37), and two amazing female firefighters (page 62) who risk their lives on a daily basis to protect us from danger. Now that’s what you call fearless! Below are some ways that you can conquer your fear with specific actions -- to show you how to be FEARLESS: * Stay open to all possibilities * Let go of the outcome * Embrace change * Write a mission statement * Find mentors * Challenge yourself * Think big and create partnerships
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CONTRIBUTORS
KELLIE EASTHAM
Inspirational
KRISTINE O’HARE
Baesler’s Market
JENNIFER SCHWAB
Editor
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CLAIRE SILCOX
Haute Sycamore/ Editor
SAMANTHA MCGRANAHAN
Unveiled
DEBBIE HILL
Realtor
JESSICA ADEN
Writer
SARAH CAMPBELL
CODA
EMILY RICHARDS
Esthetician
SARAH JAMES
Dietician
LORI MITCHELL
Cocreator
ASHLEE SAPPINGFIELD
Editor/Photographer
CHELSEA WILSON
Photographer
BETH SILCOX
Writer
SUSAN ROYCE
Baesler’s Market
ANGELA TAPY
Graphic Artist
YVETTE MORGAN
Cocreator
LYDIA COLLINS
Haute Sycamore
SAMANTHA BROWN
Writer
GABRIELLE COMELLERI
Editor
LEAH SINGER
Editor
KASY LONG
Editor
CRAIG MITCHELL
Graphic Artist
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Council on Domestic Abuse Since 1985, the Council on Domestic Abuse, Inc. has been serving victims of domestic violence and sexual assault in the Wabash Valley. Each year our community support grows, along with the services we provide. Thank you to everyone who participated in this year’s Monte Carlo Masquerade & Casino Night, where funds were raised to support victims and children residing in CODA’s emergency shelter and also those receiving case management and advocacy services through outreach programming. The Terre Haute Country Club was a beautiful venue for guests to enjoy a night out for a great cause!
to participate in fun annual fundraising events where we can all come together and make a huge difference in a small amount of time. There are also volunteer opportunities available for those interested in sharing a skill or hobby with a support group. Please help us by emailing volunteercoordinator@codaterrehaute.org to let us know you’re interested in volunteering. For more information or to donate, please visit our website at www.codaterrehaute.org or call our office at 812-234-3441. For emergency assistance, please call our 24-hour crisis hotline at 1-877-566-CODA or 812-232-1736. - Sarah Campbell
After expanding our emergency shelter and almost doubling the beds available in late 2016, we are now serving almost 400 victims a year in a communal-living environment. Residents are offered free counseling, case management, childcare, transportation, and of course food, clothing, and other daily essential items. Last year our sexual assault victim’s advocate responded to 49 calls from local hospitals, where she supported victims in-person as they were interviewed by police and examined by doctors. The CODA education, outreach, and prevention team made presentations last year to almost 4,000 community members regarding healthy relationships, teen dating violence, bullying, internet safety, etc. Our legal advocates working from the Vigo County Courthouse have assisted over 1,800 victims so far this year and helped request almost 300 orders of protection. None of these services would be available without the community’s support. The Council on Domestic Abuse, Inc. staff, volunteers, and board of directors are excited to add new fundraisers and programming ideas in 2019 to better serve the Wabash Valley. We are looking for groups of volunteers
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Tell us a little bit about yourself and why you decided to choose modeling as a career? My name is Brooke Deighton and I grew up in Terre Haute, IN. When I was eight years old, my sister, Michelle Deighton, was on America’s Next Top Model. I thought it was the coolest thing ever and I wanted to be just like her. Ever since then, I haven’t stopped dreaming about becoming a model.
I’ve known Brooke for several years and have had the opportunity to work with her on my social media platform. She’s a beauty inside and out, and a young woman on a mission to make it big in New York City. She’s taken a leap of faith and making her dreams come true. - Yvette Morgan
Tell us about your education. Any prior modeling courses or studies? I was signed to my first modeling agency, Helen Wells Agency, when I was 18 years old. I didn’t have any prior experience at all. I only learned random things my sister had taught me. What are your goals in your modeling career? As a model, I have a lot of goals. To name a few, I want to walk in the New York Fashion Week, Paris Fashion Week, and Milan Fashion Week. Runway is my favorite type of modeling. The Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show is every model’s dream! I also want to be on the cover of Vogue. What did your parents say when you told them you wanted to pursue modeling? Were they supportive? I moved to New York City on June 1. When I was planning and packing up my belongings, my parents had no idea what to think. I had been planning to move since the fall of 2017. It’s not that my parents didn’t support me, because they support me 100% in everything I do, but I think they were mostly nervous and worried about me. What is your guilty pleasure? Definitely chocolate and desserts. You can ask anyone who knows me and that’s what they would say! I have such a sweet tooth. What beauty tips do you swear by? How do you stay fit? I have a lot of beauty hacks/tips, but one thing I love are oils for my face and skin. I have a nightly face routine with a variety of different products to help my skin feel fresh and stay young.
As for staying fit, I used to workout six days a week, but since I moved to New York, it’s a little harder to go to the gym every day. So, I make sure I run every day and squeeze in a good workout when I get the chance. I was always involved in sports, so it’s nothing new to me. If you weren’t a model, what would you be doing? If I wasn’t modeling, I would definitely try to get into acting. Who knows? Maybe after my modeling career I’ll become an actor! What advice would you give someone wanting to follow in your footsteps? My advice to anyone wanting to become a model is to take risks and never give up, no matter who tells you no. You have to move past that and work harder for whatever you’re trying to do in your life. It’s your life—love it how you want. How important is it to network and get your foot in the door? Networking is so important, especially here in New York City. Everyone here “knows someone,” and that advantage is important. Finally, where do you see yourself in five years? In five years, I truly see myself being successfully in anything I put my mind to, honestly. I’m not one to give up on my goals, so I will work until I achieve them.
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and received so much information. We met our oncologist and he explained that it was one of 2 kidney cancers, most likely a Wilms tumor. We didn’t know what stage, as it had to be tested. We were in the hospital for another 7 days. During that time, we created a plan for chemotherapy, but once the results came back it was more aggressive than we thought. That was another bomb dropped on us. What was supposed to be 12 weeks of one chemo drug now turned to 25 weeks, 3 drugs and 6 radiation treatments. There were no other options - it was you can go home for the weekend, but when you come back, radiation starts and she will be put to sleep every day for that. She was so little and she couldn’t move during the radiation - it was too dangerous. We made the best of that first weekend home and realized this was our new normal. Everything else in life was on hold as we had to make sure our Parker, our little Pig as we call her, beat this cancer!
When I met Megan Gossett and her family through St. Patrick School, I knew they were a strong, close family. Outwardly, it was obvious that their daughter, Parker, had a prosthetic leg. I remember thinking, that alone must be tough to deal with. Little did I know, until I really spoke with Megan at length one day, that Parker has also battled childhood cancer, unrelated to being born without her leg, something most of us could never imagine. I wanted to share Megan, Anthony, and Parker’s story here, in the hopes that their story may reach someone else who needs to hear it.
Tell us about your daughter, Parker. Parker is an outgoing, vivacious 9-year old. She is very strong willed and very confident in herself. She is funny and sarcastic and can put a smile on anyone’s face! Were you aware of any birth defects prior to delivery? We were not aware of any birth defects. I had a high-risk pregnancy, and received extra care, however, no birth defects were found until after delivery. How has Parker handled having a prosthetic leg? Parker handles her prosthetic or “Savanna” (which is what she calls her leg) in stride. She makes the most of any situation and prefers to doll it up and make it pretty! She currently has rainbow unicorns and llamas on her leg. She has had rough moments where she has to have it off and relax and miss out on activities. Instead of letting that get her down, she chooses to perfect her artistic ability. She’s very much a glass-half-full kind of girl, always looking on the bright side! At what age was she diagnosed with cancer? How did you discover her illness? Parker was diagnosed with cancer at age 3. This was completely unrelated to her amniotic band syndrome that she was born with, which is why she wears a prosthetic. One evening she was getting out of the bath and I was putting lotion on her belly. I felt a lump on her side, and I was concerned… I had no idea what it could be. I called the doctor first thing the next morning and they got us in ASAP.
What was yours and your husbands first reaction? How did you decide to proceed? My husband and I first reaction was like a blur of sorts. We had an ultrasound in Terre Haute, they called with no information for us other than you are going straight to Peyton Manning Children’s hospital in Indianapolis. We were seeing an orthopedic surgeon. Something felt very off, and I knew it was terrible news. I was completely sick the entire drive, while trying to say it must’ve been something I ate as to not concern Parker. We got there and checked in. As we walked back to the room the nurse started to get Parker’s blood pressure and I fainted. I guess I was just overwhelmed thinking about what they were going to say about my little girl. I was taken to the other side of the hospital, to St. Vincent’s ER. Meanwhile, Anthony, my husband, stayed with Parker and heard first of Parker’s large tumor. Once I went to the ER, we called to have my parents come and help us. No one was with me and I was terrified. I got some meds, calmed down, and was wheeled over to meet up with Anthony and Parker again. At this time, it was a whirlwind. Anthony said they said she has a large tumor on her kidney, and that it might be cancer. She had to get a CT scan, we have to go to a room… it was so much information and so many unknowns. We waited to get the CT scan and after the scan my parents took Parker to play. That’s when the surgeon came in and bluntly said she has a tumor in her right kidney and the tumor, along with her kidney, have to come out immediately. “We don’t know what type of cancer but are almost sure it’s cancerous.” I could’ve just died. I was there, but I wasn’t “there”. Anthony had to ask anything he thought needed to be asked because I couldn’t even hardly function. We sat there, we cried, we knew we only had a few minutes before we had to see Parker and we had to make so many phone calls. Surgery was within 8-10 hours and so many people needed to know. We had to tell Parker. I have to say somehow in all the madness I found strength to do what I had to do. Anthony and I split the tasks of calling family and keeping Parker occupied. Tell us about Parker’s ordeal with her cancer. After surgery and a long meeting with the doctor, we found out that our 3-year old had a 2-pound tumor, the size of a nerf football, in her right kidney, and coming out of it. We shared the news with our family and waited to see what was next. We saw so many doctors
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How has this changed your lives? It had changed our lives so much. As I mentioned our bond as a family of 3 is rock solid. We do everything together. Every birthday, holiday, or even just a Tuesday, feel special and we are fortunate to have them with Parker. She has overcome so much in her short 9 years. When you see the pain and all the struggles that a child with cancer goes through, you will not be the same. It made me appreciate every day and also made me more aware of childhood cancer.
Photo by Sarah Jackson Photography
- Lori Mitchell
What things did you do to get through the stress and worry? I used the support system we had a lot. We had family who brought meals, sat with Parker, and wore a mask so Anthony and I could just drive. There were many times she couldn’t leave home and we were stuck inside for a long time. We played games, we did crafts, we had movie nights. I think during that time the 3 of us created an unbreakable, indescribable bond. If I couldn’t handle something, Anthony stepped in and knew I needed to walk away. She had weekly blood draws from her port. A nurse would come to check her blood levels, some days I just couldn’t bear the tears and the pain it caused her. For me, cooking became an outlet. I would be in the kitchen and create anything I wanted. It was like pain and sadness weren’t in the kitchen. With a glass of wine and the oven on, I could conquer this day.
What advice would you give to other parents now that you have gone through this? My advice would be to take it 5 minutes at a time. Sometimes I couldn’t even think about the next hour with chemo, or blood draws, transfusions, sickness… I just had to get through 5 minutes. I had to be strong for Parker - if I was scared and she saw that, then she was scared. Also, lean on your loved ones. People would say, “let us know if you need anything”, and at first it felt like everyone said that. The thing is… I needed things, so I asked. Our family & friends were delighted to bring groceries or anything we needed. You have to ask for help. No one expects you to be Wonder Woman/ Superman all the time. But, at the same time if you’re a childhood cancer family you already are superheroes. :)
How is she doing now? What type of follow up care does she have? She is currently 5 years cancer free as of October 22! She gets yearly check-ups now. She is very healthy and her one kidney does very well for her. Her prosthetic needs adjusted every 4-6 months as she is growing so fast. The great people in St. Louis at Shriners help her with her leg. We hosted a celebration for her in November to celebrate 5 years cancer free. In honor of that, we are raising money to send another little girl, Paige, on her wish trip to Disney. Parker received her wish to Disney when she was 4. The Indiana Children’s Wish Fund made that happen, and we want to give back. No better way to celebrate good news like this!!
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