How are you feeling? Sometimes it can be hard to tell.

HOW ARE YOU FEELING?

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It is not always easy to know what you are feeling, especially when you are in a difficult situation, feeling triggered or with people who it is not easy for you to be with.

Feelings can be confused and confusing because you can have more than one feeling at a time; and you can have conflicting feelings, like happiness and anxiety, fear and desire, hope and sadness.

Sometimes feelings are all a jumble.

Use the Positive Feelings Chart & Negative Feelings Chart to identify your feelings.

Negative feelings are feelings such as sadness, anxiety, fear, anger, jealousy and hatred. They are called negative by psychologists not because they are bad or should not be felt, but because they are feelings that we generally do not want or seek. It is important to feel all your feelings, including the negative ones.

You can print the Negative Feelings Chart and put a check on the feelings you are feeling.

Remember: Feelings are not to be judged.

Actions are not the same thing as feelings.

Negative Feelings Chart Sad Depressed Dejected Despair Despondent Disappointed Discouraged Disheartened Forlorn Gloomy Heavy Hearted Hopeless Melancholy Unhappy Wretched

q Fearful q q Afraid q q Apprehensive q q Distrustful q q Dread q q Foreboding q q Frightened q q Mistrustful q q Panicked q q Petrified q q Scared q q Hate q Suspicious q Aversion q Terrified q q Animosity q Wary q q Appalled q Worried q q Numb q Contempt q q Disconnected q Disgusted q q Insecure q Alienated q Dislike q Upset q q Fragile q Horrified q Aloof q Disquiet q q Guarded q Apathetic q Hostile q Agitated q q Helpless q Bored q Repulsed q Alarmed q q Leery q Disconcerted q Cold q q Reserved q Annoyed q Detached q Disturbed q q Aggravated q Sensitive q Distant q Perturbed q Dismayed q Shaky q Distracted q q Rattled q Disgruntled q Indifferent q q Shame q Restless q Displeased q Ashamed q Removed q q Shocked q Uninterested q Exasperated q Embarrassed q q Startled q Frustrated q Chagrined q q Withdrawn q Surprised q Impatient q q Flustered q Troubled q Irritated q q Guilty q Turbulent q Irked q Mortified q Turmoil q Self-Conscious q Uncomfortable q Uneasy Other feelings and thoughts: q Unnerved q Unsettled

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Anxious Cranky Distressed Distraught Edgy Fidgety Frazzled Irritable Jittery Nervous Overwhelmed Restless Stressed Tense

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Angry Enraged Furious Incensed Indignant Irate Livid Mad Outraged Resentful

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Tired Fatigued Burnt Out Depleted Exhausted Lethargic Listless Sleepy Tired Weary Worn Out Confused Ambivalent Baffled Bewildered Dazed Hesitant Lost Mystified Perplexed Puzzled Torn Jealous Yearning Envious Longing Nostalgic Pining Wistful

Positive feelings are feelings such as happiness, joy, tranquility, curiosity, and contentment. They are called positive by psychologists because they are feelings we generally want to be feeling and want our loved ones to feel.

You can print the Positive Feelings Chart and put a check on the feelings you are feeling.

Remember: Feelings are not to be judged.

Actions are not the same thing as feelings.

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Happy Joyful Amused Delighted Glad Jubilant Pleased Tickled

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Loving Affectionate Compassionate Friendly Open-Hearted Sympathetic Tender Warm

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Blissful Exhilarated Ecstatic Elated Enthralled Exuberant Radiant Rapturous Trilled

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Passionate Excited Amazed Animated Ardent Aroused Astonished Dazzled Eager Energetic Enthusiastic Giddy Invigorated Lively Surprised Vibrant

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Curious Engaged Absorbed Alert Engrossed Enchanted Entranced Fascinated Interested Intrigued Involved Spellbound Stimulated

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Confident Empowered Open Proud Safe Secure

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Hopeful Expectant Encouraged Optimistic

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Grateful Appreciative Moved Thankful Touched

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Awe Inspired Amazed Wonder

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Peaceful Trusting Calm Clear-Headed Comfortable Centered Content Equanimous Fulfilled Mellow Quiet Relaxed Relieved Satisfied Serene Still Tranquil

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Refreshed Enlivened Rejuvenated Renewed Rested Restored Revived

Other feelings and thoughts:

The Positive Feelings Chart is copyright © 2015 The Happiness Alliance and Clinton Bliss, MD

Three signs that your feelings matter: q You pay attention to your feelings. q You value your feelings when you talk about them. q You feel valued and heard by others when you talk about your feelings.

Your Feelings Matter.

How Are You Feeling from the Doctor Bliss Doctrine © 2015 the Happiness Alliance & Clinton Bliss. MD.