Relationships Love at First Swipe!

By Cooper Lawrence, PhD

Online dating is definitely the most convenient way to meet a potential partner. But with millions of people using dating apps and websites, it’s important to approach online dating with the right mindset and the best strategies to increase your chances of finding a meaningful connection with the right person. Whether you’re a newcomer or have been swiping for some time, here are my essential tips to make your online dating game total fire! Choose the Right Platform: Research and choose a platform that aligns with your dating goals and preferences. Different platforms cater to different demographics and relationships, so find one that suits your needs and that will connect you with people of similar interests. Are you a single parent? Then check out STIR. Pet lover? Try Date My Pet or if you’re into ethical nonmonogamy, try FEELD. There’s something for everyone.

Create a Unique Profile: Your profile is your first impression for potential matches, so make it stand out. Be honest and authentic when describing yourself but, make it interesting. Anyone could say they like coffee and the beach, but what makes you different? What makes you stand out? Ditch the normal responses and avoid being negative. Then post a mix of photos that showcase your personality and provide a clear image of who you are. I know a guy who posts terrible photos of himself so when he shows up for a date, he’s much more handsome in person and it’s an immediate upgrade. priority. This is the only time ghosting is a go. You don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why you’re feeling the ick. Just move on.

Be Clear About Your Intentions: Whether you’re seeking a long-term relationship or casual dating, be transparent about your intentions in your profile and early conversations. You need to be on the same page with potential matches. This helps avoid awkward ghosting down the line.

Stay Safe: Online safety is paramount. Avoid sharing personal information, such as your home address or phone number, until you’ve developed trust with the other person. Take advantage of in-app messaging or email systems to communicate until you’re comfortable taking the conversation to other platforms. Also, when you meet for the first time, do that in a crowded, popular place.

Manage Expectations: Keep in mind that not every connection will lead to a long-term relationship. Understand that rejection is a part of the process, don’t take it personally. Keep an open mind, enjoy the experience, and view each interaction as an opportunity to learn and grow. My grandfather used to say, “If a guy isn’t into you there’s obviously something wrong with him.”

Engage in Meaningful Conversations: When initiating conversations, show you’re paying attention by referencing details from the other person’s profile. Show genuine interest in getting to know them and ask openended questions that encourage thoughtful responses. This helps foster a deeper connection and shows that you’re invested in the conversation, unless you’re just looking for sex and if you are, say that upfront.

Get Off The App and Meet: While it’s exciting to find a potential match, don’t stay on the in-app messaging too long. Studies show that the longer you text and message the less likely you’ll have a real connection in person. That’s because you build up an idea of what the person will be like, and then you are more likely to be disappointed. Nobody can live up to an imagined idea. So, see who they are as soon as you feel comfortable. Get their vibe in person.

Trust Your Instincts: Listen to your gut feeling when interacting with others online. If something feels off or makes you uncomfortable, trust your instincts and take a step back. Your safety and well-being is

Be Patient and Persistent: Finding the right match takes time, be patient. It’s common to face setbacks and experience disappointing interactionshappens to everyone. Stay positive and remember that perseverance is key. Don’t get discouraged, continue to put yourself out there. A recent study found that 67% of Americans met their partner through a dating app, so...they are out there!

Take Breaks When Needed: Online dating can be overwhelming at times. If you feel burnt out or overwhelmed, it’s okay to take breaks. Give yourself time to recharge and refocus on other aspects of your life. This will help you approach online dating with a fresh perspective when you’re ready to return and maybe even give you more to talk about.

Online dating can be a rewarding experience if approached with the right mindset and strategies. Try these tips and I’m sure you’ll enhance your chances of finding meaningful connections with the right people. Remember to be authentic, stay safe, engage in meaningful conversations, and manage your expectations. Most importantly, enjoy the process and remain optimistic. There are 441 million active users on dating apps. One of them is your perfect match!

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