Lady - More Than Just A Woman

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Lady more than just a Woman!

From the Publisher

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n today’s world one thing is certain; women are more empowered. We have more options and choices; we achieve academic height, we build careers, realize our dreams and exercise our rights in a world that is awakening to equality - and on top of it all, we remain proud in our roles as mothers, daughters, sisters and caregivers.� This is what we envision in working with Lady Magazine. Like a mother with child, the process has been challenging, but the concept is as great and the team working toward achieving this goal has been phenomenal. In this inaugural issue we dig deep into some social issues and the experiences of some women. We also highlight how NGOs and Government agencies assist in some of the social issues. However, the overall strength of women can be seen as their desires for success and, in some cases, survival comes to the fore. We also look at the lighter side of health, fashion, food and beauty, which we believe, contributes toward shaping a lady. Our company is honored to have given birth to a Lady, the first of its kind in Guyana and the Caribbean. The stories of many women will remain untold unless we, as a people can do the work that this magazine exemplifies. If the stories of our life and our experiences are not expressed and shared then our children will not learn how to face the challenges in life. Inspire Inc., in everything it does looks towards building our country and inspire our people, especially our mothers, sisters and daughters. We hope you fall in love with Lady and we look forward to your support as we continue to grow. Enjoy,

Anita Balram Publisher

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EDITORS NOTE 5 WOMEN IN BUSINESS

Ladies of Inspire Inc. 7 Doris Ann Lewis

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Partricia Bacchus

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Fine Dining with Carolyn Rahaman

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HEALTH, BEAUTY & FASHION

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Fashion oh no!

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Shaping the Lady

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Renee Thompson - The Business of Beauty

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Stress and its Effects on a Woman's Health

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Size Does Matter!

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PERSONALITY INTERVIEW

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Nuriyyih Gerrard

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Alisha Fortune

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ACADEMIA The Valedictorians

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THE WOMAN PRINT Four Sets of Twins

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Mothers in Black

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GUYWID

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The Spirit of a Fighter

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POLITICS Gail Teixeira

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KEYS TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

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HER OPINION The Idea of Parenting Alone

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RECIPE

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Lady more than just a Woman!

Published by

Inspire Inc. 62 Area “Q”, Turkeyen, E.C.D, Guyana, South America

Project Manager Adrian Pryce

Editor

Tivia Collins

Creative Director / Design & Layout Mensah Fox

Advertising Sales

Adrian Pryce / Malinda Teixeira Amrita Mangal / Lisa Mclean

Editorial Contribution

Feliz Robertson / Mosa Telford Sherod Duncan / Keisha Edwards Jairo Rodrigues / Monique Springer Schemel Patrick / Antonio Devonish Neketa Forde / Rishon Seegopaul-Rambarran Tivia Collins

Photography

Phillip Williams / Ulelli Verbeke Arian Browne / Azikiwe Denheart Troy Parboo / Keron Bruce Stabroek News

On the Cover

Nazalena Natasha Houston & Patricia Bacchus

Cover Photography

Phillip Williams / Troy Parboo All materials contained in this publication are protected by copyright law and may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, displayed or published without the prior written permission of Inspire Inc. or in the case of third party materials, the owner of that content. You may not alter or remove any trademark, copyright or other notice from copies of the content. Copyright © 2014 Inspire Inc. June 2014 ||| Lady / 4

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Welcome

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ady has been nothing short of an absolutely amazing experience. As the name suggests, Lady celebrates the accomplishments of Guyanese women while highlighting the challenges faced in a world where gender inequalities are still prevalent. Each story told represents hope and perseverance, as it signals the undying strength of the spirit of the woman.

This inaugural issue focuses on the women who conquer: articles on Nazalena Natasha Houston and Patricia Bacchus shed light on the importance of determination and courage when dealing with life’s situations, while articles featuring GUYWID and Mothers in Black enforce the universal themes of heroism and empowerment. This issue also highlights women such as Gail Teixeira, Doris Lewis and Carolyn Rahaman who have annihilated the glass ceilings in their respective fields. I hope the stories encourage and inspire you to be greater than you currently can imagine. We would appreciate your feedback on the content of the magazine. Please feel free to share with us as we work towards establishing Lady as the premier women’s magazine in Guyana.

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Inspire Ladies: L-R - Malinda Teixeira, Anita Balram & Amrita Mangal

Ladies of Inspire Inc.

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he team brings together a wealth of experience not only as professionals, but as parents, daughters, sisters, friends and ladies. Theirs is the reality of what it takes to live the Guyanese dream. It is their world and each day they wake up and engage it, trying to make it a bit better than it was the day before.

By Sherod Duncan

Malinda Teixeira gave up business as a restaurateur in the twin island Republic of Trinidad and Tobago, and as a games arcade entrepreneur in Grove on the East Bank, to take on the full-time challenge with Inspire Inc. Amrita Mangal with a background in sales and marketing she readily admits that when Inspire’s Business Manager, Adrian

Lall, came knocking at her door to be part of the new company she was a bit hesitant but has not regretted a day since. Typical days starts at 9:00am and go until 4:30pm unless there is a special project on, then the hours get “crazy”. This is the work they live for. Projects at Inspire include advertising, June 2014 ||| Lady / 7

Lady - more than just a Woman! - Issue # 1 Malinda Teixeira & Amrita Mangal

Hair done by: Kavita's Signature Cut and Spa Makeup done by: Renee Thompson

media planning and buying, sales promotions, public relations, interactive marketing, and social business strategies for companies in Guyana, the Caribbean and North America. These ladies not only target large businesses but they stand by Inspire Inc.’s mandate to help small business reach their full market potential. This type of job can be demanding. Amrita says it’s not tough balancing family and work. “If I have to run out, when I come back the work gets done.” In addition to work she is on hand to take care of her fifteen year-old brother since her parents, who manage a business in the interior, are often away. Malinda is engaged. Her son, Dante, is nine. She muses on the hardship of growing up and wanting a very different life for him. “I have the battle everyday of going home and helping with his homework and assignments; getting him set for school for the next day.” She hopes that when Dante is older he is able to look back and see that he was given the best from what was available. June 2014 ||| Lady / 8

Do not, however, take anything for granted: as dedicated as the ladies are to family, they are consummate in the area of their expertise. They each feel that nothing is given to them freely because of their gender but they quickly add it is definitely an asset being a woman. “When you are going to the executive of a company or a CEO, everyone wants to see a beautiful face walking through the door. That’s ok, but it should not be just a face but beauty and brains. They must meet someone intellectual who is able to carry on a conversation and be able, at the end of it, to sell what you have,” Malinda noted. Amrita intoned, “Men tend to get right down to business, women desire to know the brand before a common business ground can be established.” These ladies are beginning to have a “sell you everything” reputation in the business arena: from radio and television commercials to event promotions, from classified advertisements in the newspaper

to a front cover of a magazine, they will get the job done. The office has its tense moments. There are clashes over ideas but they soon find a solution. At the office, the saying, ‘The journey is the destination’ rings through the air serving as a learning experience for all. For them being a Lady speaks to a woman of poise, one who is comfortable in her own skin while acknowledging that there is a time and place for everything. As they put it: “A woman knows herself very well and a Lady can pretty much embrace any situation. She is comfortable being who she is without thinking she has to tweak or change anything about herself. A lady is someone with so much strength; so much resiliency, filled with so much passion, poise, excitement and life. Everything about us is beautiful and should be celebrated. Being a lady is the essence of being.”

Mother, grandmother, great grandmother, Catholic, businesswoman and volunteer; a warm and loving individual, are all elements that describe Mrs. Doris Ann Lewis.

Doris Ann Lewis

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The Brand of Success By Mosa Mathifa Telford

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orn Doris Jagdharry on December 8, 1946 in Rose Hall Town, Berbice, she grew up as a Georgetown girl since her parents moved to Alberttown when she was about five years old. Though she had a sister, Doris grew like an only child since her sister grew up with the grandparents.

Love blossomed for Doris just next door to where she lived. That love proved worthwhile and lasting as Doris and Victor Lewis tied the knot in 1968. For her wedding Doris recalled that she wore a hand-made dress which she proudly wore for the simple ceremony at St. Theresa’s Church.

In Alberttown, the family established a grocery store. Doris fondly recalls her father taking her back to Berbice every year when school was out so that she would know her relatives who remained in the Ancient County.

The marriage produced five boys and two girls - George, Dionne, Andrew, John, Joel, Joseph and Crystal. The experience of having seven children had its challenges, but through tears, endurance, vision, and faith in God, Doris and Victor succeeded in raising their children to be admirable members of society. Today her children are successful businessmen and women. She is not only proud of their success, but also that they followed in her footsteps, where religion is concerned.

Her schooling took place at Christ Church Primary and Secondary Schools, Oriental College and Young’s Business School all in Georgetown. In her twenties she flew to Ontario, Canada to pursue studies in Business Administration at Well’s Business Academy, but because of family commitments she only stayed a few months. June 2014 ||| Lady / 12

Though her father was a Wesleyan and her mother a non-practicing Hindu, Doris followed her own religious path.

She recalls the incident that led her to seek the knowledge of the Bible. When a customer called at the family shop in Alberttown one day for kerosene oil, she was untruthful when she said they did not have any because it was not something that she liked to sell. Her father, upon learning of the incident, was upset and decided to punish her by destroying all the comic books she loved to read. The only book left was the Bible and she began searching the pages. The more she read, the more she felt like she needed to belong and so she started attending Sacred Heart Church. Doris became a dedicated Catholic and even once considered becoming a nun. That was not her destiny however, but her faith in Christ never faltered and in 1979 she and her husband became lay ministers. The bond between Doris and Victor is an example for others. She has never left her marital home. Any disagreement was quickly resolved as they both looked out for what was best for their family.

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She advises everyone to be like Jesus – compassionate and loving. Marriage, she says goes through stages and it can eventually grow into a mature love. She is not oblivious to the fact that all marriages are not successful. She further advises young women that when in relationships they should look for early signs of issues such as violence. Some people will change but in many cases the abusive man or woman will not change. “Listen to parents, friends and guardians who may notice what you cannot see.” Today Doris is a successful businesswoman even though it was not what she envisioned when she was younger. It was the birth of her fourth child that motivated her to become an entrepreneur as she realised that she and her husband needed to do more to create a bright future for their children. They initially started with a Gas Station, then ventured into Mining but these did not last very long. They started the Regent Motor Spares in 1981 which lasted for 10 years after which The Gift Centre was born in 1991. The business started with a

little over GYD$30,000 after which they invested everything from the sale of assets from the earlier Mining venture. Being in business for over thirty years is indeed impressive. Doris noted, “One has to make the money work for them. You do not spend the money you make but pay yourself a salary and live with it.” After years of determination and endurance, Doris is the CEO of The Gift Centre and Shoe Source and she feels a sense of accomplishment to be able to hand over the businesses to her children. There is no doubt that Mrs. Lewis is a remarkable woman. Her kindness extends to being involved in organizations such as St. Joseph’s Mercy’s Hospital Auxiliary (of which she is a past president), Radio’s Needy Fund and the Guyana Relief Council. She has made contributions to the health, sport and education sectors through the various initiatives of The Gift Centre and Shoe Source which now partners with a US based charity, Scholarship for Advanced Guyanese Education (SAGE), for an

annual scholarship for the University of Guyana. Her involvement in these organizations brought awards such as: • RNCF – A Salute to Mothers • GRC – Commitment and Constant Support • International Year of Volunteers – Outstanding Volunteer Service • GCCI – Long & Selfless dedication to social relief causes • Rotary Club of Georgetown – Vocational Excellence and High Ethical Standards in Business. With a husband who has loved and built a life with her for over forty years, seven remarkable children, ten grandchildren and three great grandchildren, Mrs. Lewis has a life that is full of joy, success, generosity and satisfaction. Mrs. Lewis is an example of determination and perseverance – a woman of substance who believes that fellow women can empower themselves through education and their faith in God.

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woman’s role in business, economic and social development, is no different or no less important than a man’s role. Actually, I’m almost compelled to say that with their attention to intricate details and their natural persona as care-givers, women can bring additional valuable qualities to the table. We must be cognizant however, that if as women we desire equality, if we hunger for upward mobility, then we must be able to equally give of our time and energy. We must not expect to be treated preferentially in the same manner that we would not wish to be treated unfairly. This is not to suggest that women who have important roles in business and economic development are precluded from having children and a family, it simply means that a tighter management of the day’s twentyfour hours becomes critically important so as to ensure that neither work nor family commitments pose constraints for each other.” - Patricia Bacchus on the role of women in business, the economic development of Guyana and the social environment

Patricia Bacchus Corporate Standards of a Lady By Jairo Rodrigues

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Patricia Bacchus is a woman, no… a Lady of business with a lot on her plate; and at the age of thirty-one she has to be one of the youngest professionals in Guyana with no intentions of slowing down: her ambitious spirit and her strength will only elevate her. She currently serves the multiple senior roles of Chief Operating Officer, Executive Director of Administration and Company Secretary for Caribbean Containers Incorporated (CCI). Her other portfolios past and present include Director on the Guyana Gold Board, member of the Protected Areas Commission Board, Part Time Lecturer of Law at the University of Guyana (UG) and Councillor at the Georgetown Chamber of Commerce and Industry (GCCI). Notably she was the recipient of the GCCI Young Business Executive Award in 2012. Her success today can only be accredited to determination, her strength and endurance and her passion for excellence and efficiency, all from the foundations of a humble beginning. June 2014 ||| Lady / 16

She was born in East Berbice-Corentyne on the 1st March, 1983. She gained Primary education at the Saint Theresa’s Primary School then proceeded to the New Amsterdam Multilateral School for Secondary Education. She attended President’s College and Patricia Bacchus then spread her wings to UG where she graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in Law (LLB) in 2004. She received several awards including the ProChancellor’s Medal for Best Graduating Law Student, Anne Blue Memorial Scholarship for Most Outstanding Second Year Law Student, Cavendish Book Prize for Most Outstanding First Year Law Student and the Professor R.W. James Prize for Most Outstanding Performance in the Law of Real Property I and II. Following UG she completed her studies at Hugh Wooding Law School where she was awarded a Legal Education Certificate, a Certificate of Merit, the Government of Guyana Prize for Most Outstanding Guyanese Law Graduate, the Council of Legal Education Prize for the Most Outstanding First Year Student, the Book

Specialist Prize for Most Outstanding Law Student, the M.H. Shaw Memorial Award for Best Performance in Legal Drafting and the Lex Caribbean Prize for Client Interviewing and Advocacy. After completing her law education at the age of 23, Patricia was offered a short term legal consultancy which she accepted.

“I felt thrown to the sharks, but the prospects of foreclosure, loss of over one hundred and forty jobs at that time, and unlikely returns to shareholders, gave me and everyone involved, the will to persevere, work fourteen hours a day, and successfully meet the stipulated deadline for closure of the deal” she reflected. Patricia is self-motivated and continues to be effective and enjoys success in her endeavours. We wanted to know how she thinks the business sector can be developed. She expressed that Guyana

Lady - more than just a Woman! - Issue # 1 has great potential which requires improvements in areas such as institutional reform, human capital, infrastructural development and renewable energy at a cheap cost. When asked for her thoughts on the role of women in business, the economic development of Guyana and the social environment Patricia said that a woman’s role in business is no different or no less important than a man’s role. “Actually, I’m almost compelled to say that with their attention to intricate details and their natural persona as care-givers, women can bring additional valuable qualities to the table.” Patricia does not consider that her greatest accomplishment is based on her gender but rather the advances she has been able to make in her professional life over a relatively short period of time. Bacchus charged women to not consider themselves to be at a disadvantage on the basis of age or gender. “This preconceived notion can impair your ability to realize your full potential” she said, “Enter the world of work with confidence and enthusiasm

knowing that you deserve to be there based on the merits of your ability, just like any other professional.” She supports that women should give generously of their time and effort so that they can be effective in their endeavours, “Remember there will always be obstacles – let those obstacles challenge you to be

more aggressive, more determined” she expressed. It is easy to see why this lady has accomplished so much at her age. Patricia Bacchus is not only an inspiration to women, but a guiding light to everyone who aspires for excellence and are working to accomplish their goals.

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Four sets of twins! The Bridget Maria Story By Neketa Forde

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ressed in body hugging jeans, t-shirt, and a pair of slip-on boots, she sits on a bench to watch her stall on Camp and Regent Streets. What sets her apart from other vendors is her experience with having her children exploited by supposed well-wishers. Bridget has sacrificed a lover and all chances for an “ordinary” life for the sake of her children.

life to collect two, two [of my children], some from the States and England,” her voice trailed off, and then picked up “… Like they are puppies and they can do a better job than me when it comes to taking care of my children.” Bridget of course refused on numerous occasions and instead requested that they provide the money to assist in raising her children. No such funds were forthcoming.

Bridget is thankful for all of the support she and her children have received over the years but insists that she is not rich nor is she a beggar. Bridget started out like any other country girl and she dreamt of a home filled with laughter and a lover who would have many children with her. She eventually settled down and had one child and four sets of twins, with the man of her dreams. Soon after reality hit home. “…their father decides that I needed to make a decision between him and the children. I sent him away…kept the children,” she confided as she shifted position on the bench.

Local NGOs would have brought potential adoptive parents to Bridget’s home. She further alleges that some of the same organisations would circulate photos of Bridget and her children to raise money on their behalf. “So when persons are under the impression that the donations were given to me they were not,” a frustrated Bridget stated. She outlined an incident where, a friend discovered a local website, popular with re-migrants, hosting a photo of Bridget and her family and asking for donations to support said family. Subsequently, Bridget decided to investigate for herself. Incidentally, someone from the same organisation had previously interviewed her. The individual steadfastly denied their involvement with the scheme and the next time Bridget’s friend checked the website the ad was removed.

A young naïve Bridget began living off the support of others, mostly support provided by Non- Governmental Organisations {NGOs}. It was great in the beginning having so many people paying attention to her situation, but as the years progressed the novelty of nine children so close in age began to dwindle. Compassion and concern were replaced by “well-meaning adoptions, photo ops and rationed aid.” “Strangers have come from all walks of

For little over a decade Bridget has been walking the streets of Georgetown selling an array of items including undergarments and floral arrangements. She has even worked five jobs simultaneously, until

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settling into her new stall just outside Galaxy Photo Studio on Camp Street. She has effectively turned her wounds into wisdom. “I cut it all out completely, no more [photos] and [after that I went into business for myself],” she forcedly stated. She guards her children like a lioness guarding her cubs. “[Many] people come for an interview with her and [they usually report the wrong things], so she is admittedly skeptical,” Sister Vinnie sitting on the same bench interjects. She is Bridget’s best friend; they have been friends for more than two decades. Bridget works six days a week and wakes at 3am every morning to start preparing for the business day ahead of her. She cooks breakfast for her children and new husband before she leaves for work. By 6:30am, she is out ready to sell whatever her stall can carry, whether it is soft drinks, snacks or belts. As a newcomer to the vendors’ scene, Bridget has had her difficulties, especially with police constables, but she never let that distract her from earning a living. There is an unseen benefit to every story. A June 2014 ||| Lady / 20

constable heard about Bridget in the news and decided to help, “when he saw me on the news, he told his subordinate no one harass me. That is how I end up getting peace on the road.” Though working in the capital city can be scary sometimes, her customers provide her a measure of comfort, “something foolish takes place every day,” she laughs, “I don’t only sell…it’s like if I am a teacher…,” she stops speaking abruptly to address a customer, then continues, “it

is like I have to counsel them, give them a word of advice…sometimes I share my own experience with them.” For Bridget sharing one’s life story is important because it helps others to understand that they are not alone. She hopes to one day pen her autobiography to enlighten and encourage others. “Everyone has problems, so maybe if they hear one more difficult than their own then they will be motivated to move on and do better.”

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Fashion Oh-No! Advice from Shasha Designs

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ave you ever been out, date night, party scene or even in a grocery aisle, and have that infamous “Oh No!” moment?

handles from riding over the (too) tight jeans by making a special effort to know what compliments your body shape and size.

As a designer I have witnessed women commit several fashion crimes. I have also observed tragic get-ups by women who claim to not be interested or are interested in the fashion world. However, it does not matter which side of the fashion line you fall; once you wear clothing there are always considerations. Let us, therefore, take time to know common fashion errors and pledge to correct our mistakes, avoiding the painful “Oh No”.

4. Visible panty lines! - :( :( Need I say more?

5. Wearing clothes that are not your size! - Too many women are guilty of wearing clothing that clearly are too small or too tight. Let’s avoid those love

2. Incorrect Bra size! - Wearing a bra that does not give the right amount of lift and support can make you look old and can make your breasts sag. This takes

3. Too much skin! - A little skin is sexy but too much skin makes you appear trashy (unless that’s the look you are striving to achieve). Always remember the golden rule to avoid this fashion conundrum: “If you are showing flesh up top, cover the flesh at the bottom, and vice versa”.

away from the overall appearance of your outfit. Having a perfectly fitted bra can make you seem slender and shapely. Take your time when buying bras, paying keen attention to your bust/cup and band ratio, something every woman should know. 1. All trends cannot be worn by everyone! – While Fashion is a form of expression, you should realise that all cuts and lengths are not universally suited. Practicality proves that all trends cannot be worn by everyone. ShaSha Designs is owned by Keisha Edwards, the principal designer at the Company. Email: shashadesigns@gmail.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/ shashadesigns

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Personality Interview

“I believe the essence of what it means to be a lady lies in the definition of the word

“virtue”. “

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Radio host on HJ 94.1 Boom FM

Scene from "Shattered Dreams", staged 2014 at the National Cultural Centre

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uriyyih Gerrard has become one of the most popular radio announcers in Guyana and currently she cohosts the morning show “Jumpstart” on 94.1 Boom FM. With a recognisable laugh, soothing voice and warm personality Nuriyyih is definitely changing the game on radio one show at a time…. Age: 22 School: I currently attend the University of Guyana Hobbies: Acting, Dancing, Exploring social media, Singing, browsing the internet and I love Reading

National Stadium, February 2014

Favourite saying: In the face of trials, temporary failures or emotional lows I repeat my personal mantra: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. Pet peeve: My name identifies who I am. It is Arabic. It has significant meaning and it is my most valuable asset, so it always bothers me when people neglect to take interest in learning its correct spelling and pronunciation. Number one song on your playlist: Omigosh! “Hope” by Emeli Sande is number one on my playlist! The song is a great source of motivation for me and it keeps me driven to achieve my goals, as infinite as they are! Where do you see yourself in ten years: In 10 years I would have acquired a Degree in Public Communications from the University of Guyana and begin to pursue a Degree in Psychology. I hope to eventually practice Positive Psychology, which is the study of the strengths and virtues that enable individuals and communities to thrive. I strongly believe that this career path would assist me in achieving my ultimate goal of inspiring real change in the lives of Guyanese.

In Studio

What does being a lady mean to you: I believe the essence of what it means to be a lady lies in the definition of the word “virtue”. Being a lady also means being a conscientious female citizen who possesses high standards, is respected and one who has been able to find the ever important balance between humility and confidence. If you could change one thing in the world what would it be: If it were up to me poverty at every level would cease to exist. The late Nelson Mandela said, “Poverty is unnecessary. It is like paying for a crime you did not commit”. I am: afraid of failing. (I recently discovered the big word for that is atychiphobia). I constantly have to remind myself that, “God has not given me a spirit of fear but of love, power and a sound mind”, so, for the sake of achieving my goals I strive to push past my fear of failure and always be optimistic about new journeys.

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The Valedictorians By Sherod Duncan

“You educate a man; you educate a man. You educate a woman; you educate a generation.” - Brigham Young

Loria-Mae Heywood

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aledictorians at the University of Guyana (UG) have separated themselves from their peers, working consistently at a high level with little margin for errors as far as the Grade Point Average (GPA) is concerned. Four years of dedication to studies at UG is no small feat. The academic rosters are footnoted with students who have started the journey but did not complete it, so, graduations are to be celebrated and recognized for what they are – a testament to hard work, discipline, and a little fun in between. To graduate top of the honour roll is to breathe even rarer air. Since 1967 fifteen women have graduated as valedictorians from the University of Guyana (UG). It is a small, academically elite group. Loria-Mae Heywood, Vineeta Persaud and Eileen Marray are the most recent members.

Eileen Marray

Vineeta Persaud

They are contemporary ladies, yet, if “valedictorian” is a typology there is a certain quietude, almost reclusiveness, individually. They were students first, with routine days: lectures to attend, new people to meet, friends to hang out with, clubs to join; a myriad of things to do at the University. It would seem as if being honoured valedictorian could be anything that happens in a usual day in each of their lives.

as a culmination of all the hard work and effort she put into studies, and all the support she received from those close to her. “I had more than accomplished what I had originally set out to do, and I was immensely happy and proud of what I achieved. I was beyond thrilled when I received the news,” she said.

Loria-Mae Heywood graduated from the University of Guyana in 2009 after reading for a degree in International Relations. That same year she made national headlines when she could not find employment. It was a moment in her life which she looks back on and thinks, “Things worked out for the best in the end, and at the right time.” Vineeta Persaud graduated with a degree in Computer Science and reflects on 2011

Eileen Marray’s work ethic to the end of 2013 was a way of keeping up with her older sisters who always did well. Her older sister had topped New Amsterdam Multilateral High School where they all attended. Her other sister got second place so expectations were always high. This was something Heywood identifies with. She grew up in a relatively large family: her parents and six siblings; she confessed not doing as well as her other siblings at Queen College, her alma mater, and wanting to make her mark on entering University. June 2014 ||| Lady / 27

Lady - more than just a Woman! - Issue # 1 Persaud shared her experience, “entering University, I was determined to perform as well as I could. I was not even thinking about possibly becoming the Valedictorian. The Vishnu Panday Association worked with the Department of Computer Science (CS) to award each year’s best graduating student from the Degree programme with a plaque that is displayed in the CS Lab. I would look at the plaques achieved by the graduates, and tell myself that one day, my name would be there.” It is fair to say she went far beyond her goal even while achieving it. Their days on campus were occasionally hectic but when it came time to bury their heads in books in preparation for an assignment, or an examination, they were focused. Heywood said, “I didn’t have a particular method of studying, I just read out of my interest. In terms of assignments, I tackled them early because I like to do a lot of background research. When it comes to exams I am a person who cannot study too far before. It’s like I have to have a fear of failure to drive me. I just did not want to fail.” “I always had a drive to succeed,” Marray noted, “so my parents never had to push me. I studied on my own. I read through the material two, three times and in that way I get a better understanding of the material and content, putting in two or three hours a day study time. For me it’s more about teaching myself. I would try to teach myself out loud,” she said. Vineeta Persaud attributes her success to her lecturers and family, especially her mother, Rita Persaud who is a Computer Science lecturer at UG. She pointed out that her mother’s passion for the field inspired her love for coding and programming. Her final year project was the development of learning-friendly software, MyWebPLE. It was developed to allow users to “actively contribute to their learning environment, instead of passively accepting expert-provided information. This allows the information to be easily accessed and searched. The users will be able to contribute, collaborate and communicate with experts and fellow learners.” June 2014 ||| Lady / 28

up. “Many times I said I’m not doing this study thing anymore but I know my goal in life is to better lives. It’s all about perseverance for me.”

Loria-Mae became one of six Caribbean students and the only Guyanese to be shortlisted for the Caribbean Rhodes scholarship in 2009, and she was later accepted into the Development Studies (MPhil) programme at Oxford University. She is now settled in Switzerland at the Graduate Institute of Development Studies pursuing a Master’s programme which will be completed in August, 2014. Heywood pays a compliment to the question posed, ‘What happens after Switzerland?’ and shows off some of her fluency in French. “That’s a good question. I have been offered a consultancy with one of the UN offices here so I am going to take that up and just see where that leads. I am looking for some international experience before thinking about returning home. I want to be comfortable.” Switzerland has its attractions and studying has its own hurdles and rewards. Heywood said there were many times she wanted to give

Eileen has her eyes on higher education, but is currently enjoying every bit of her working life. “Right now it’s all about getting accustomed to the world of work. For someone who has never worked before it is a reality-check.” She is concerned about youth unemployment locally and under-employed; she noted that a friend of hers who graduated with a degree in economics is still looking for a job. These are some of the issues she is sensitive about looking ahead. Vineeta has returned to UG as a lecturer. It is a place that has given much to her, she says, and she has gone back in service. She hardly has time for anything else, even though she is more than optimistic about higher education. No one knows what the future holds. For Loria-Mae, Vineeta, and Eileen “valedictorian” was hardly in their sights when they started at the University of Guyana. They however put in a tremendous amount of hard work and reaped the benefits. These ladies are sure to make greater strides with the will to succeed and a good support system to enable them. It seems the formula has not changed going forward.

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Mothers in Black By Mosa Telford

or four and a half years they protested outside Parliament Building – affected by the loss of their children and seeking change. They called themselves Mothers in Black, inspired by a similar group in Peru called Women in Black, which consisted of mothers who had lost their sons. Denise Dias, born to an English mother and Guyanese father, formed Mothers in Black under the Alicea Foundation. The Alicea Foundation had been created in memory of Mrs. Dias’ daughter Alicea who was struck by an alleged drunk driver along the East Coast of Demerara. Alicea was only seventeen; a young, talented life with great promise had been cut by a driver who was never prosecuted. Mrs. Dias was not only heartbroken, but very angry. The same driver had killed a man on the road sometime before and many wondered ‘why was he still driving when he had a case pending?’ Mrs. Dias felt the police and judicial system had failed her. She had to do something. Then, in July 1997 another accident took the lives of eight persons, mainly children. Mrs. Dias immediately placed an advertisement in the newspapers seeking public support to join a road safety campaign. Eighteen months later, Mothers in Black was formed. Withstanding rain and the hot sun, the Women in Black stood outside Parliament Building with pictures of the children they lost, calling for the enforcement of road safety laws. After some four and a half years Mothers in Black was able to influence the enforcement of road safety laws including laws that dealt with the use helmets, seats belts, breathalyzers and radar guns by the police on the roadways. Over the years Mrs. Dias has shared road safety tips with many school children through the private schools. She is often invited to the National Road Safety Council, the Traffic Department and the Ministry of Home Affairs to provide an input on road safety related regulations. She served as the vice-president of the National Road

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Lady - more than just a Woman! - Issue # 1 Safety Council and represented Guyana in several road safety events in countries such as Barbados, Trinidad, Brazil, Peru and the United States where she was invited to tell her story. In 2010 when the Clinton Foundation recognised Guyana as one of the four countries for their progress in road safety, Mrs. Dias was selected to represent Guyana. In 2011 the United Nations General Assembly adopted a resolution, “Decade of Action for Road Safety�, that pledged to reduce the number of deaths on the road to zero by 2020. Guyana made a commitment to honour this pledge in 2012 through the work of the National Road Safety Council, the Alicea Foundation and Mothers in Black. Today, Mothers in Black is concerned about those between the ages of 18 and 25 who drive without completing the national driving examinations. Mrs. Dias has been calling for a national inquiry into issues such as buying driving licenses as well as bribery of traffic officers. She is also concerned about the qualifications that are needed to join the police force. There are plans for a monument to be erected in the National Park in honour of those whose lives were lost to reckless driving. Mrs Dias hopes the monument will serve as a reminder that one life lost on the road is one too much. Mrs. Dias proves that women have the ability to motivate and make changes to a society. She encourages women to work together to bring about positive changes, emphasising that the world would be a better place if we can spend at least one hour a week doing something positive for someone else. This, she concluded, would guarantee us a more satisfying human experience.

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It is important to know why you are getting into the business venture and where the collateral is coming from before you start

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ou arrive at the door where you are greeted by the restaurant’s hostess and guided to a table. Instantly you are taken by the décor. Picture: black and white with red accents and warm lighting, presenting an intimate setting suitable for friends, family or that special other half. When you are seated, your waiter for the evening presents you with the menu which offers an array of international and Guyanese dishes to choose from as well as a list of imported wines and other beverages. By the time your night is over, you feel very pleased to have experienced great food and

excellent service in a soothing atmosphere. “I just wanted to introduce Guyana to the same standards I enjoyed while travelling overseas.” Carolyn indicated as we sat down for a chat on the veranda of Silhouette. “The name of the restaurant was decided after we finished designing it. The ambience just spoke to me and silhouette came to mind,” Carolyn noted. Carolyn’s no stranger to the service industry; she, along with her husband Jad, were one of the first proprietors of Palm Court, and has since helped to establish several family businesses including JR Burgers and Club June 2014 ||| Lady / 33

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Altitude. Though each venture poses unique challenges this has not stopped these business moguls.

in whatever way they can. Though their actions directly affect development, it isn’t always recognised and appreciated.”

“It is important to know why you are getting into the business venture and where the collateral is coming from before you start,” she explained, as she gave us a tour of her restaurant. “It will not always be easy but you have to have a vision, a workable plan, and more importantly support.”

She then spoke very highly of the accomplishments of her own children and emphasised, several times, the importance of education in shaping the world we live in. Mrs. Rahaman is very passionate about humanitarian work and she works with several NonGovernmental Organisations to raise money for underprivileged families.

A smile consumed her face when she mentioned support. We had to ask… “Family is my rock!” Carolyn exclaimed. “They have always been my main support system. We bounce ideas off of each other and we are there to give advice and guide each other through every storm…” Therein lies the key to a better Guyana, Carolyn contends. “I believe the family unit has a responsibility to pass on values and norms to children, the type of values that will allow them to grow.”

After an hour of conversation we wanted to know what advice she had to offer persons who are unsure of how to make a difference in life.

Values such as the importance of love and commitment are important to Mrs. Rahaman, but most importantly is one’s compassion for others. This led to her remembering several young people whom she has interacted with over the years. “I’ve met some great young people who left Guyana to purse their studies abroad and have now returned home to do volunteer work and contribute to building Guyana

“Too often we undervalue the informal methods” she began, “just take a family if you can, or a child and support their dreams in life. Pay for their education, buy them school clothes, do

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something that that child or person cannot do for themself. It may seem like a little gesture, but those small actions will eventually change the world we live in, and that’s what we all should be trying to do: we should be trying to make the world a better place.”

Personality Interview

Alisha Fortune National Sports Champion

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lisha Fortune is a National Runner, Football Referee, Body Building Champion and a member of the National Rugby Team. She is also a Christian and a single mother of three smart children. Alisha manages to balance work and family life as she daily strives to be her better self. Age: 39 Hobbies: I absolutely love to dance and I am a trained masseuse. Favourite saying: I’ve been through so much in life and I manage to maintain a positive outlook, so I would have to say: “People see my glory but they do not know my story”. Pet peeve: Persons who smile with you but are silently waiting for you to fail. I don’t get why some people wish evil on others, but in life you learn to stay positive and ignore those negative people.

Number one song on your playlist: Ah! I have so many and I really appreciate worship music. Right now I’m replaying “Greater Is Coming” by Jekalyn Carr. Where do you see yourself in ten years: In relation to sports I hope to still be competing in track and body building competitions. I also hope to own my own gym and masseuse parlour. In relation to life I hope to see my children complete school and pursue their dreams. What does being a lady mean to you: A lady represents strength, determination, dedication and the ability to overcome obstacles. If you could change one thing in the world what would it be: I would ensure no one in the world is hungry ever again. I am: A Champion in every aspect of my life!

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Gail Teixeira “

Leading a Political Life By Antonio Devonish

Politicians don’t retire, you either die on the job or you are kicked out…. I don’t think I can ever just stay out of a political role, but the role I play next will be different. Sooner or later I might want to do something else.

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n a world where politics is more or less dominated by testosterone, a few women have proved that political competence and efficiency do not discriminate on the basis of sex. Presidential Advisor on Governance Gail Teixeira is a woman who has undoubtedly made a name for herself in the arena of Guyanese politics. She began her political career in 1977, although she recalls having a passion for domestic and international political issues as a twelve year old student of the St Margaret’s Primary School. During her time at St. Margaret’s Teixeira and her fellow school mates were required to keep a diary on a topic of their choice. And while others her age were writing about their favorite toy or a game they liked, Gail said she was making notes of the explosive political atmosphere here in Guyana and abroad. “I think I had it in my bones or blood stream since then,” she explained chuckling. Miss Teixeira attended St. Roses High School until 1966 when she left with her parents for Canada. She was fourteen at the time. In Canada, she was involved in political activism and the pursuit of higher education. To garner funds, Teixeira took up jobs

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as a waitress, a domestic, and she even worked in a plastic factory. Her sacrifices eventually afforded her the chance to complete an undergraduate degree in Art, History and English at the University of Toronto, before moving on to a Masters in Political Science at York University. At 19 years, she joined the Canadian Communist Party (CCP), the Association of Concerned Guyanese (ACG), and Canadians Concerned about South

Africa, an organization that was devoted to raising awareness about the straddles of South Africa. ACG was of particular importance to her as it was an organisation of the Peoples progressive Party (PPP) committed to the struggle for democracy in Guyana. It was her involvement in the ACG that would afford her the chance to return to Guyana, and eventually become the political heavyweight she is today. In 1976 Teixeira met Dr. Cheddi Jagan,

Hon. Gail Teixeira M.P. during Budget Presentation 2014

who quickly recognized her commitment to the party and her country, and he invited her back to Guyana as his personal secretary until 1992 when the PPP won the general election and Dr. Jagan became president. Teixeira was appointed Education Minister in 1992 and she kept that portfolio until 1997 when she became Minister of Culture, Youth and Sport. She then served as Minister of Culture, Youth and Sport and Minister of Home Affairs under President Janet Jagan and President Bharrat Jagdeo. Fifteen years after her first ministerial appointment, President Jagdeo appointed her as the Advisor on Governance and Head of the Governance Unit at the Office of the President. She still holds that position today, and at 61 years of age, the veteran politician has no intention of folding any time soon. When asked about retirement, Teixeira said “politicians don’t retire, you either die on the job or you are kicked out…. I don’t think I can ever just stay out of a political role, but the role I play next will be different. Sooner or later I might want to do something else.”

Sacrifices Ms. Teixeira confessed that as a woman in politics, she faced and continues to face

several unique challenges. “No matter what you do as a woman you still have to manage your house, your children, and sometimes your husband if there is one, and you are expected to carry the full load as an equal partner. Women always have double and triple burdens, and along the way things get sacrificed,” Teixeira noted. She also commented on the late hours most politicians work, which can be very problematic for a mother and a wife in politics. “After a while a man gets bored, he gets fed up, you know? This is not what he signed up for. If he is like you, a political person, then he will have empathy, but many professional women are forced to make the choice of either a career or a family”. She continued that when a choice (sacrifice) is made, it may seem like the right thing to do but the toll it takes on one’s personal life always becomes apparent. Miss Teixeira did not allow her bustling political career to stop her from having a family of her own. Family, she said, is the anchor which holds her steady during the ups and downs of her political life. She has successfully raised two daughters with her partner of 19 years. Though they eventually separated she maintains that the union was not a causality of her pursuit of politics. “He was still my best friend, my partner and adversary.” He remained those things until his passing

just a few months ago. When asked about the prospect of finding another love, she laughed, and said “I’m old now.” She took that light moment to be very candid, “my male comrades respect me and they recognise my worth, but I think that none of them would probably want to live with me.” With this statement, she pointed to yet another issue which faces women in her position – male intimidation. “It is extraordinarily difficult for men to deal with women like me, women who are strong and confident. As women continue to work their selfesteem grows and they become more ambitious. Somehow this intimidates men but that should never deter you from becoming the woman you wish to become.” In total, Ms. Gail Teixeira believes the life of a politician offers a sense of fulfilment, a sea of challenges, and the need for many sacrifices. Despite these realities, she encourages women to take up the mantle. “The glass ceiling can be broken,” she concludes, “personal reasons aside I engaged the political life to show young women, and men for that matter, that this is a future you can aim for. When in it never follow blindly, go with eyes wide open, and as you go know that anguish, frustration, pain, tears, anger and joy will be irreplaceable components. The beauty about it is that those components play a key role in making the political journey.” June 2014 ||| Lady / 41

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What is the Key to a

Successful Marriage?

Carolyn Rahaman Married for 38 years “Patience. Count from 1 to 10 before you answer because it’s the response that brings the row”

Priya Nasir Married for 20 years “I think there must be three main elements: understanding, compromise and trust”

Sheron Taylor Married for 14 years “For a successful marriage I believe the lines of communication must always be kept open, and we should never allow the love to grow cold”

Latoya Mordle Married for 11 years “It depends on understanding and communication”

Phillip Williams Married for 7 years “I don’t think there is one specific key that unleashes the outpour of marital bliss, but in my opinion maintaining a strong friendship where there is plenty “skin-teeth”, fun and laughter is vital”

Kwesi Isles Married for 4 years “It’s a partnership that calls for mutual understanding, respect and an acknowledgement that no one is perfect”

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Shaping the Lady Feature on Kavita’s Signature Cut and Spa By Monique Springer

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avita De La Cruz is a wife, mom and a businesswoman. After working as a hairstylist for over 12 years Kavita decided that it was time to finally follow her dream of having her own hair salon when her boss decided to migrate permanently. Kavita’s Signature Cut and Spa offers hairstyling and hair treatment, manicures, pedicures and full body spa treatments. We stopped by Kavita’s Signature Cut and Spa for a little chit chat with Kavita. Lady: Where did the inspiration to become a hairstylist come from? KD: My mom, she was an excellent hairstylist in her day. Even though I went to hairdressing school most of the techniques I currently use were learnt from her. Lady: How important is it for your hair to be well groomed as a woman? KD: Being a hairstylist may have something to do with my response: I believe it is very important because your hair says a lot about your personality and personal hygiene. Lady: How often should a woman treat her hair? KD: We should treat our hair daily. Wrapping your hair in the night before you go to bed is a form of treatment. You should also wash your hair no less than once weekly. Lady: Which hairstyle looks good on every woman? KD: I won’t say every, but most women can pull off a neat ponytail. Lady: What do you do when a client insists on having a treatment done that may cause damage to her hair? KD: We don’t do it, for instance applying bleach to your hair immediately after a perm is a no-no. At Kavita’s Signature Cut & Spa we try to offer a safe treatment that will produce a grand result. Lady: How do you motivate your staff? KD: I compliment my staff as often I can; it makes them excited and eager to do better in order to get more compliments. One of my staff members recently told me that my compliments have more of an impact than those from clients. I must throw in here that I have 11 employees, all women. Lady: What is the number one misconception prospective business owners have about owning their own business? KD: That you do less work because you have staff to do it for you- that has been my experience; it is actually more work. No one is going to take better care of your investment than you. You have to be present as much as you can, especially if it is a small business. Lady: How do you balance work and family life? KD: It is difficult because I work from Monday to Saturday. During the week I ensure I prepare breakfast, lunch and dinner for my husband and children; and on Sunday I ensure whatever we do, we do it together; whether it is playing games, watching movies or going for a drive somewhere. Family comes first, but I’ve got to work. June 2014 ||| Lady / 44

Reneé Thompson The Business of Beauty

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By Monique Springer

er name is Reneé Thompson and beauty is her business. After two years of introducing herself to makeup artistry, Renee has already made her mark as one of the most renowned makeup artists in Guyana. Reneé currently owns Bromeliad.rnc Makeup Studio which deals with makeup retail, make up artistry and makeup artistry classes and she has worked with some of the biggest names in the local entertainment industry - Nuriyyih Gerrard, Lisa Punch, Ruqayyah Boyer and Ashma John. Lady recently had a chance to chat with this makeup artist about her career.

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Lady: You have always been in the limelight; you have done modelling, dancing, designing, poetry and even a bit of singing, what led you to do makeup artistry? RT: I did not choose makeup artistry, it chose me. I literally wandered into becoming a makeup artist; it was pleasantly accidental. I would have never said that I wanted to become a makeup artist six years ago but it is what I am doing now and I absolutely love it! Lady: Take us through the start-up of Bromeliad.rnc Makeup Studio RT: I started this business in my bedroom; I had just completed my training and was ready to introduce Black Opal to June 2014 ||| Lady / 46

my family and friends; these family and friends became clients and marketing representatives. The makeup I brought to Guyana lasted two weeks: I was both surprised and happy. It wasn’t long after my business outgrew my bedroom and I needed to get somewhere much larger. Lady: Where did you receive your training? RT: I did my training overseas, in Barbados. I was trained by Black Opal’s Product Manager who taught me how to use the products and how to market and sell Black Opal Cosmetics. Lady: How did you convince people to start using Black Opal?

RT: I used it myself; there is a part of every woman that is always looking at another woman to criticise, compliment or desire. At first I got compliments, then women started to desire my impeccable finish- I told them my secret was Black Opal. I also did a lot of free work which is paying off now. Lady: What does beauty mean to you? RT: Beauty is something that we cannot see; it is on the inside. It is confidence, selfesteem and attitude. Lady: What should makeup be to a woman? RT: It should be an enhancer and a

Lady - more than just a Woman! - Issue # 1 confidence booster. It is not a mask; I do not agree with women using makeup as a mask. Lady: Does makeup make a woman more beautiful? RT: Make up does nothing for the soul, so it cannot make anyone more beautiful; it can make you prettier and more presentable in some cases. I have a friend who was denied a customer service job because of the acne on her face, I’m sure if she wore makeup her fate might have been very different. Lady: What do you say to people who despise makeup and criticise the use of it? RT: I would not say anything; it is a personal choice. Lady: Where do women make the most mistakes when it comes to make up application? RT: Blending and matching powder with foundation, a lot of women do not get this right; and when wrong it makes them look less pretty. Another problem area is eyebrow grooming, (which is not makeup per se but it is definitely my number one

pet peeve) eyebrows should be groomed to suit the shape of a woman’s face.

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Lady: What is one makeup item that a woman should never be out of? RT: There is not just one; you should always have moisturizer, makeup remover, concealer and sunblock.

Lady: You also teach makeup artistry, what advice do you give to your students? RT: Firstly: you’re going to have to do work for free in the beginning, do not have a problem with this, it will pay off eventually. Secondly: invest your time and your money in your trade, there are always new techniques to learn and new products to try out. Finally, be ahead of your stock, you have no excuse to be out of anything.

Lady: What do you think is the appropriate age for a young woman to start using makeup? RT: I don’t make the rules, but I think 16 is a good age. Lady: What are some of the challenges you face in this business? RT: I don’t face any major challenges to be honest, especially when it comes to competition- I am in my own lane. I show love to all my fellow makeup artists and I genuinely wish them the best. I try to remain humble and disciplined so my business and career would not suffer. Lady: You are young and successful. Tell us, what would be your ‘mama I made it moment?’ RT: Definitely being a part of a makeup

Lady: What’s next for Renee Thompson and Bromeliad.rnc? RT: In the immediate future I will have my own make up line called ‘.rnc ‘. It would not carry foundation, powder and skin care products, (I trust Black Opal Cosmetics with that) but I plan to brand makeup tools, lip glosses, eye shadows, mascara and concealer to name a few. Apart from that I plan to continue to perfect my craft and work towards satisfying the needs of all of my clients because they deserve quality service from Bromeliad.rnc.

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have often heard that it takes a village to raise a child but now I truly understand what it means. I, like many other single parent moms, am beginning to realize that we are becoming the majority. It’s not something I am proud of; as a matter of fact I am quite afraid of

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By Feliz Robertson

the stark reality. I have been alone for quite some time trying to raise ‘a man’, my son. Sure he is only 5 now but very soon he will be taller than I, and refusing my hugs and kisses. Soon he will be a man. When he was born, fear swept over me like a black cloud in the rainforest. It was a familiar

feeling but I was not ready to do this thing called ‘parenting’ alone. I know of women who say, “I don’t need a man, I just want a child”. While this may work for some families, it was not what I desired at all. I wanted him there. I prayed

and tasted of my own tears for many days and nights as I begged God to touch his heart so I would not have to do this alone. In time, I realised that was a losing battle and I soon gave in to taking the reins and steering this young, impressionable child in the right direction. There are many other moms out there facing challenges. Some people have become angry at their plight and have taken it out on the very children they swore to love and protect, while others

simply fall into a state of depression. I know because it happened to me but I soon realised that I didn’t have to do this alone. If you are a single mom you need a support group. People you can trust and depend on; people that can become your village to help raise your child. I have a mother that has quickly become my son’s baby sitter, teacher and anything else he needed her to be along with sisters who stepped in as disciplinarians and fun aunties when I absolutely needed their help. You may also want to bring a possible spouse into that village but be careful because there are so many things to

consider: When you start dating again, ask yourself ‘when is it a good time to introduce my partner to my child?’ Contemplate whether the extent of your love relationship depends on how much your child likes this new man. Ensure that this new prospect can and will be able to provide for you and your child or children. At the end of the day always remember your child sees you as their shelter, their strength and their rock: be there as best as you can, understanding that you are not going to get everything right the first time. Most importantly, cherish the village: because they ensure you do not have to parent alone. June 2014 ||| Lady / 49

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Empowerment is the Key to Success – GUYWID ladies, March, 2014.

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uyanese Women in Development (GUYWID) was started in Georgetown by the then First Lady, Janet Jagan in 1994. The work of that organisation eventually ended, due to lack of availability of members, and it was re-launched in 2000 by the Minister of Human Services, Ms. Indra Chandrapaul in Georgetown. Two years later, GUYWID was launched in Berbice with five women as initial members. The Organisation provides training, educational and development opportunities for many, as they seek to empower women and teenagers to be leaders in their respective communities. GUYWID is also concerned with the emotional health of women and they seek to build, through their many projects, women’s self-confidence and self-worth. “We try to do as much as we can with what we have. We believe women play an integral part in the society’s development so we work to ensure their development,” Mrs. Denobrega, the President of GUYWID, shared with Lady.

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GUYWID’s programmes cover a wide range of issues in Berbice, from talks on domestic violence and drug abuse, to the importance of child maintenance and First Aid training. This 15 member (all female) body has also cleaned up their surroundings, held walks and vigils to raise breast cancer awareness and coordinated with businesses to place bins along the major roadways in Berbice. “Last year we conducted a six weeks diabetic support programme in New Amsterdam,” Mrs. Nasir mentioned, “that

was followed by a six weeks sewing class to help women master the trade.” “There are families in the region that are less fortunate and need financial support to send their children to school. We provide books, shoes and school uniforms to as many homes as we can,” Mrs. Persaud noted. “We also raised money to build a house for a family who really needed one.” After listening to several stories about the volunteer work of GUYWID, we had to

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Lady - more than just a Woman! - Issue # 1 ask if there is anything they cannot do. This question was greeted by a resounding “No!” “If we see a need we try to meet it.” Mrs. Nasir explained, “I don’t think we consider the finances first, we always focus on how to solve the problem or meet the need, and somehow the money to complete the task comes.” The women do, however, engage in several fund raising activities to cover their basic costs. Each year there is a major fundraising cricket match at the Berbice Cricket ground. They also hold food sales, boat cruises, movie nights, tea parties and an annual Valentine’s Dinner. GUYWID also receives funding from several businesses and donations from private individuals, but it is still not enough to complete all their planned activities in a year.

the families of the (abused) women they have helped. The members of GUYWID had to learn how to balance their personal lives with volunteering. One member interjected, “everyone should give their time to help someone in need even though it can be very demanding.” Though demanding, their families are always supporting and can sometimes be seen helping at GUYWID activities. All the women agreed that the support of their families provide them with great strength to continue working. The group is aware of its challenges when helping the needy. “We are not counsellors, for example, so we lack the training needed to help women who

may be in an abusive relationship.” They do, however, refer these women to the Ministry of Human Services and to Social Workers in the area for the necessary help and support. Despite the set-backs which may seem to cripple them, the women of GUYWID will keep rising, as they remain focused on their goal of women empowerment. For the ladies, empowerment speaks to the strength and success of women in their daily lives. GUYWID reiterated their commitment to the work of the people and they do hope their actions as a group continue to affect change in the community. Together, they stand firm by their motto: “Win small, Win them All”. Fund Raising Cricket Competition, April 2012

“We do as much as we can with the little we get but more [financial support] is needed to further the work of the organisation.” The President however is very grateful for the financial support they currently receive. Like any NGO, GUYWID has faced many challenges throughout the years. They have been ridiculed and discouraged from working in the community by several citizens and have even been threatened by GUYWID Donates home to Jasmattie Ram and her five children in Corentyne

International Woman's Day 2013 GUYWID honoured Vanessa Siamon of Hopetown, West Coast, Berbice

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The Spirit of a Fighter Nazalena Natasha Houston

I will write and share my story with anyone who is willing to listen. Women need to know this abuse thing is not a joke. Seek help and move away from the relationship. Don’t let one time turn into death.

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he witnessed the hacking to death of her children; she herself lost an arm and three fingers all at the hands of a man she once loved. The pain and horror were indescribable: Natasha Houston saw death and lived to tell its tale. “I am okay,” a sigh escaped her lips. “What else can I be? I am alive for a reason only God knows, but I am thankful.” Eight months before this interview Natasha had two main reasons to be happy, her angels, six year old Kimberly and two year old Saheed. Tragedy would, however, steal Natasha’s angels and attempt to break her spirit. “I believe they are in a better place. That thought keeps me going.” Natasha said as she held their pictures close to her heart. The date was July 31st, 2013. Natasha unwillingly returned to the home of her abuser, Richard, a man she had lived with since the age of 14. Weeks before she and her children sought refuge at a friend’s home after she decided she had had enough of the physical and emotional abuse she suffered for eight years. “I thought he was my life. I drop out [of] school and run away from home for this boy. I loved him bad.” Natasha related. “The first time he hit me I kept it silent. He apologised and said he would never do it again… it, however, continued from there.” Natasha suffered physical and emotional trauma if he drank too much, if she asked him where he was, if she was out for too long or if any response during a quarrel upset him. Eventually this abuse affected her relationships with family. He did not want her talking to her mother or spending time with any family member or friends, especially male friends. Richard’s behaviour was so erratic that he

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built their home facing the fields instead of the road since he claimed Natasha would be able to see men and leave him. Natasha did think about leaving him, but after witnessing abuse as a child at the hands of her step-father, a permanent fear plagued her. “I actually thought it was better to stay with Richard [because] I might find another man and he might beat me and my kids, just like my step father did with my mom and siblings.” When

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unbearable Natasha would muster up the strength to leave. With help from family and friends she managed to be away from Richard for a few weeks. “There were moments I got away but he always find me, no matter where I go. He would turn up, pack up my clothes and take them back home. Sometime he would come crying and begging me to come home and I would eventually go back with him.” The last time she left she made a decision never to return. On the 23rd July, 2013 Richard beat her with the usual weapon of choice, the cutlass. Natasha then fled with her children to a friend’s home where she hid for several days. A week later Natasha went to meet with a probation officer in Pouderoyen. Though worried that Richard might see her she proceeded, cautiously, with the children. There Richard was, hiding at the corner of the road. When she was near, he grabbed Natasha and forced her and the children in the back of a taxi that was waiting for him. Despite her pleads with the taxi driver to take her to the police station, the taxi drove them home. “Mi come home back fuh mi dead!” Natasha screamed as Richard dragged her out the car and into their home. Inside the abuse intensified. “He cuff me, kick me, punch me, bang up me head to the wall. He do me that for hours.” Natasha relayed as her lips trembled. “He then lock me up in the house, ‘you can’t leave me’, he tell me.” Natasha became his prisoner. Later that evening Richard began to sharpen his cutlass. Natasha noted that this was a normal routine for him as a cane cutter, so she was not alarmed. The events that followed, however, can be described as a real life horror story. “I was making porridge for my son when

I feel a burning in my back, when I turned around Richard was over me with the cutlass. I watch he chop my hand off and I fall to the ground. He then turned on my children.” Natasha then provided a chilling account of the murder of her children.

“If it wasn’t for the women at Help and Shelter I don’t think I would still be here. People like Ms. Greene and Ms. Wilson helped me get back on my feet. If I knew there was a place like that earlier, I would have gone long time.”

“I tell Kimberly run, but it was too late. He grab her hair and fly a chop straight cross she neck… I see she head roll down… I know she dead. He then turn pun baby who di hollering all di time.” Natasha clutched her stomach as she recalled the horror, “I tell he run, and Richard tell he don’t move. The boy was confused.” Natasha’s countenance suddenly appeared blank, no facial expression. “All I hear after was a chopping sound as I see baby blood land pun di walls… the place immediately get silent.” Natasha’s mother, who had been trying all the while to break the door of the house, eventually succeeded. This forced Richard to end his rampage, scale the fence and escape.

Natasha eventually returned to her mother’s home and has been facing daily realities but is determined to rise above her darkness. With only one arm Natasha has learnt to manage on her own and can be considered semi-independent. She cooks, cleans the home and can put on a shirt by herself (this she demonstrated to us with much pride). Plans have already begun (through an NGO) to secure a prosthetic arm for her which she hopes will make her fully independent. It has not been an easy journey but with

her strong faith in God and support from her family, counsellor and well-wishers, Natasha continues to hope for better days. During counselling sessions at Help and Shelter Natasha found emotional release through the pen and has written several stories and poems that bear testimony to her unbroken spirit. “I will write and share my story with anyone who is willing to listen. Women need to know this abuse thing is not a joke. Seek help and move away from the relationship. Don’t let one time turn into death.” Though she is not sure what the future holds she remains somewhat optimistic about it. She is, however, sure that she will discover and fulfil the plan God has for her life. Therein lies the spirit of the fighter.

Neighbours and relatives could not assist her or move the bodies of the children until the police arrived so bleeding Natasha was left, surrounded by death, for two and a half hours. Natasha’s life, as she knew it, was over. “I wasn’t thinking about living ‘cause I didn’t know what I would be living for,” Natasha reflected, “I lost my children, they were everything to me.” The weeks that followed were filled with agony. She was unable to pay her last respects at her children’s funeral. Richard was eventually found hanging from a tree at the Zeelugt foreshore. In keeping with her request, the house she once lived in was dismantled. Nightmares tormented her as she relived the murders both in dreams and visions. There was, however, a fighter that emerged. Natasha was named a “miracle” by the doctors, after a successful surgery. Help and Shelter then placed Natasha in a safe house where she was counselled and provided for. The Central Islamic Organisation of Guyana assisted by sponsoring a live-in nurse for her during her time at the safe house. Natasha eventually started Physiotherapy and was on the road to recovery. June 2014 ||| Lady / 55

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Remember, stress happens to everyone at some point in their lives. What determines the outcome is how we choose to react.

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Stress and its effects on A Woman's Health

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t was after the birth of my second child that I really began to feel stressed. It was then I realised some of the negative effects stress was having, not only on me, but on my marriage, my job - almost every part of my life! Many people are stressed right now. Some are able to handle it while others fall apart at the tiniest bit of pressure. What makes them different? Men and women handle stress differently. Recent studies have shown that women differ from men in their emotional approach to stress and that both long term and short term stress may take a greater toll on a woman’s physical and mental health than a man. When stressed, our bodies release a

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By Rishon Seegopaul-Rambarran MIRMT, RM, ND.

hormone called cortisol which affects the skin, digestive system, immune system and even one’s sex drive. Vitamin C is one of the first vitamins to be depleted from our body’s storage when we are under stress. It affects nearly every system in the body and how we deal with it may be undermining our health in more ways than we realise. When my stress level went up, my desire for sex went down. Dealing with a new baby, a toddler and a husband who was working and at school was enough to toss my libido through the window. Another sign of stress for women is an irregular menstrual period. How many times have you skipped a period during a stressful time? When my husband and I were getting married I was very careful to choose a date where I knew I wouldn’t be expecting my period. After the stress of

Lady - more than just a Woman! - Issue # 1 Have you gone through a period of hair loss? This is one of the signs of stress. After a stressful period, I see hair everywhere - on my pillow, in the shower, in my hairbrush, on the floor, on my shirt, everywhere! It will fall out by the handfuls! The hair loss may not be immediately evident at the time of the stress, but can be noticed three to six months after. Stress also results in unhealthy weight gain, reduced fertility and can put us at an increased risk for heart disease. So, the million dollar question: how do we let go and not let stress consume us? 1. Speak about how we feel. Let others know what we are going through, but be sensible about it. Confide in people you trust and foster mutually supportive planning and decorating my own wedding, my period was two weeks late and showed up on our wedding night. Stress is a common cause of insomnia. Research has shown that women who sleep little over many nights do not perform as well on mental tasks when compared to women who get close to 7 hours of sleep. Stress also can affect the skin, causing excess oil production that can cause acne breakouts. Some girls develop bad acne during a stressful exam period. Women are twice as likely as men to experience depression. Raised levels of the stress hormone cortisol resulting from chronic stress like an unhappy job situation or acute stress like divorce or the death of a loved one can act as a trigger for depression.

relationships with friends, family and co-workers. As women, we are often programmed to put others before ourselves. If you don’t share what is bothering you, people will not be able to help, even if they want to. 2. Exercise. Whether it is my morning gym sessions or chasing my two

wonderful kids around the National Park, exercise helps. It’s good for the heart and reduces the anxious and depressed feelings we may have. It also guarantees a good night’s rest from all the physical activity. 3. Eat healthy. Food plays an important part in how we feel and how we respond to stress. I am blessed to live in a country like Guyana where fresh fruits and vegetables are readily available. When I go to Bourda Market, I try to make my shopping basket as colourful as possible with lots of local produce. I drink lots of water, as opposed to juice and soda and I try to limit my intake of processed foods. 4. Relax. As a Reiki Master, part of my daily routine is meditation. I find that deep breathing and visualization are equally as effective. The mind is one of the most powerful tools we have and more often than not, how we feel physically is a reflection of what is happening mentally. You can also get a professional massage. A deep tissue massage can remove months of stress in just an hour. Sometimes though, stress may be so overwhelming that you still need help. The first step is always admitting that there is a problem. The next step is to seek out a

qualified mental health professional or counsellor who can help you figure out what is causing the stress and what steps you can take

to address it. Remember, stress happens to everyone at some point in their lives. What determines the outcome is how we choose to react. We can overcome it, or we can allow it to overpower us. Stay happy, stay healthy.

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Size Does Matter! By Schemel Patrick

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ize DOES matter! By size, I mean shoe size.

Shoes are very important for a lady. We have countless pairs of the most fashionable, expensive and unusual shoes, but are they the right size for us? You may be amazed at the importance of the right size of shoes. More often than not many of us pay more attention to fashion than we do to fit and we repeatedly forget the intricacies of our feet. This can be damaging. Let’s take a moment to reflect on the innumerable times we’ve gone to a party, or the club, a concert or even to church and seen women with their shoes in their hands or on the floor in front of them. Are these shoes the right size? Did the ladies consider fit and comfort? Fashion isn’t always comfortable, but we can try to make our experiences as comfortable as possible. Our feet are unique. We spend so much time on them; it’s only fair that we take some time to understand their complexity. Firstly, our feet are seldom the same size; one is always larger than the other. We should buy shoes that are the size of the larger foot. Secondly, our feet are different sizes at different times of the day - this was my ‘AHA’ moment. Some days I would go to the office with stilettos, when I get there I would change into my office flats; at the end of the day when it’s time for me to put June 2014 ||| Lady / 58

back on my stilettos they would be much tighter than they were in the morning. I often wondered why, now I know. Our feet expand during the day because we’re on it so much. For this

reason it is recommended that we shop for shoes in the afternoon when our feet are largest. Our feet widen with age, so those shoes that are great for your teenage self are probably not going to work for your 30 year old self. Women’s feet also grow after pregnancy. Most of us love high heels – but this may not always be a good option since high heels shift our body weight to the front

of our feet, thus increasing the problems we have with corns, bunions and the like. Sometimes you trip and sprain your ankles in high narrow heels, not because you can’t walk in the shoes, but because of how they’re designed - sometimes you also really don’t know how to walk in them.

Double trouble! Styles with a slight platform at the front tend to be more comfortable as they maintain stability and balance. A platform to the front also relieves some of the stress that’s placed on the balls of our feet. This along with the right size should make us comfortable in our stilettos. It might prove helpful to, preferably in the afternoon, have someone measure your feet whilst you’re standing up. Keep that measurement with you; you never know when you’ll decide to go shoe shopping. To ensure that we‘re kind to our feet we should: 1. Buy shoes that are the shape of our feet and can offer our feet and ankles the support they need. Fit and comfort

are essential when getting your right size. 2. Make certain that you have good toe room. Many times the problem with pointy tips is that they crush our toes together, killing the circulation at the front. 3. Ensure the shoes have proper soles. Let’s avoid slipping and sliding, ladies. 4. Spend some time walking in them. Some might seem comfortable when you try them on at the store but may not be as comfortable after. Stretch to fit doesn’t work; if it’s tight it’s clearly not your size and you should try again. We all know that we just CANNOT live without shoes. This being the evident case we need to be more sophisticated in our shopping. Right size, right fit should be our mantra. Luckily manufacturers are taking all of the above into consideration when manufacturing shoes, so we just need to be a little more proactive in our search. Really, all we need is love the right size of shoes!!! :)

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SILHOUETTE RECIPIE

Eggplant Parmigiana

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Olive oil 1 clove garlic minced 1 lg onion chopped 2 (16 oz) cans tomatoes 2 tsp sugar ½ tsp oregano leaves ½ tsp basil ½ tsp sage

1 cup dried bread crumbs 2 eggs 2 tbsp water 1 lg eggplant, cut into ½” slices ½ cup grated parmesan cheese 1 (8) oz pkg mozzarella cheese cut into ¼” slices

eat 2 tablespoons of oil in a 9” skillet over medium heat. Cook the garlic and onion until tender, then add the next 5 ingredients. Reduce heat and cook, covered, for 30 minutes.

Place breadcrumbs on waxed paper. Beat the eggs with the water in a small dish. Dip the eggplant slices in the egg and then the crumbs. Repeat to coat each slice twice. Preheat oven to 350F. Heat 2 tablespoons of oil in frying pan over medium heat. Cook a few eggplant slices at a time until golden brown. Add more oil as required. Arrange half the eggplant slices in a 9” x 13” baking dish and covered with half the tomato sauce. Sprinkle with half the parmesan and top with half the mozzarella. Repeat. Bake for 25 minutes. Judy Cooper - Canada

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