Leadership from the Inside Out – Ceremony

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Leadership from the Inside Out Booklet 3 – Ceremony

Booklet 3 – Ceremony Welcome to the Ceremony Booklet. Ceremonies in Girl Scouting are used to celebrate special occasions, to recognize accomplishments and to mark rites of passage. Ceremonies can also be used for many other purposes, such as providing a means for expressing feelings, appreciating friendship, demonstrating patriotism, creating a sense of service, passing on tradition, reinforcing the values of the Girl Scout Promise and Law, and many more.

Background: Creating Containers Just as with circles and reflective practice, ceremonies are most effective when conducted in a place that is safe physically, emotionally and spiritually. As a leader, you are the key to creating these conditions. As part of the council’s leadership from the inside out, this is referred to as creating a safe container.

“Safe container” are the words we use to describe a consistently safe space that allows each girl to show up as her authentic self without fear of judgment. The quality of the atmosphere you create in the container makes a space where girls feel welcomed, appreciated, and seen for who they are. It is a place of belonging – a place of love.

Many of us have experienced what we are calling a safe container. We may have participated in an experience that left us feeling supported, connected and loved. We left fulfilled and looking forward to return. Unfortunately, many of us have also had the experience of being in an unsafe container. These experiences often left us confused, angry, afraid and, in some cases, even wounded. In Girl Scouting, we are committed to creating these safe containers and we believe it is the cornerstone that enables girls to discover, connect and take action to make the world a better place.

At Girl Scouts–Arizona Cactus-Pine Council, we believe that such a container does not happen by accident. It is created with intention and care. We believe that our job as caring

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leaders is to consistently set the container in our troops and in other environments so that girls feel safe emotionally, spiritually and physically. We see time and again that when this effort is made girls and adults are engaged in whatever is taking place.

Creating healthy containers is a lifetime’s work that can impact our families, workplaces, and Girl Scout troops. Our hope for Girl Scout leaders is that they become aware of the containers they and others are creating, notice how they are impacting the girls, and learn more about them.

Reflect on your own life experience and identify times where you experienced a safe container. What were the key components? What were those who created the container focused on?

Ceremony “With all the art forms and the gift of our imaginations, we weave ceremony to mark important times of healing and transition.

Ceremonies heighten our sense of where we have been, and inspire and energize us toward the ever-beckoning future.”

–Ceremonialist Linda Sussman Ceremony is indigenous to all cultures and spiritual traditions, and can be found in most organizations. The Girl Scout culture has a rich legacy of ceremony that has sustained the thread of tradition over many decades.

There are many traditional ceremonies in Girl Scouting and if you are interested, the council can provide additional information about them. Here are some examples:

• Investiture. This ceremony is for all new members, whether they are girls or adults. It welcomes them into Girl Scouting and gives them their membership pin.

• Bridging. This ceremony is for girls moving up to the next level and it involves the crossing of a real or symbolic bridge.

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Candle lighting. This ceremony is for girls and adults who want to reflect on the meaning of the Girl Scout Promise and Law. Each candle represents a value in Girl Scouting.

Girls can often describe ceremonies in which they have participated, but in most cases, the ceremonies have been planned by others. The purpose of this booklet is to help you guide girls in developing new ceremonies to mark their special events. All effective ceremony has a beginning, a middle and an end.

1 | The Beginning: Separating from the Familiar The beginning of the ceremony separates the occasion from “business as usual,” the familiar pacing and habits of our daily lives. This can be accomplished by making participants aware of what is happening–for example by saying “This is a different/special occasion.” A change of atmosphere can be marked by inviting participants to wear a specific kind of

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clothing, putting up special decorations, or playing particular music. Ringing a bell or the playing a musical instrument can also be effective. A chosen person could say or do something that signifies entry into something larger than or different from the everyday. This might be the reciting a prayer or poem, the raising of a flag or the lighting of a fire. It may also be as simple as a long moment of silence in which participants can release their to-do lists and simply be present in the moment.

The first part of the beginning could be likened to a ship leaving the shore of the familiar.

Next we acknowledge who’s on board.

The person guiding the occasion thanks participants for coming into this special space. The welcoming of those present can extend to those who are not present in person, but in spirit.

The leader of the ceremony then speaks about the context and the content, making explicit why everyone has gathered and how the proceedings will unfold.

2 | The Middle: Marking the Change

This is where the focus for the event comes to light. Whether it is the blessing of a new home, the acknowledgement of someone’s movement to a new level of experience or period in her life, the completion of an important journey or accomplishment, or the marking of a change in someone’s relationship with herself, others or the community, it will likely bring a shift. This is often not outwardly dramatic, yet it penetrates to a place within the person’s heart. In some way, there is a shift from who you were to whom or what you are becoming. Examples are:

• Making a commitment in front of witnesses

• Stating an intention in the community

• Speaking your own truth directly and succinctly

• Honoring someone else with genuine, loving and affirmative words.

• Giving and or receiving of gifts.

• Being alone in silence

• Listening with full presence to another

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Deliberately stepping over a symbolic line that symbolizes movement from one state to another (e.g. could be as simple as moving from having your mother make your breakfast/school lunch to making it yourself ).

Basically, a present state is described, and a new state that is opening is acknowledged. In Girl Scouting, a ceremony often marks the beginning of a new program. In this case the participants may symbolically join the larger community at the beginning of the new cycle, and honor Juliette Low’s original intent for the growth and development of girls.

This is followed by an acknowledgement of what has happened or the state that is passing. Often there is some kind of recognition of the change that has occurred from those present, using their own words.

Finally, someone honors or blesses the occasion. In organizational or community ceremonies of the Girl Scouts, this is often done by someone who is loved and respected by the person or people participating in the ceremony. It could be an elder from the council or the troop leader. It could be a simple, appropriate acknowledgement of the shift that has occurred, and an expressed wish for the future well-being of the participants or community.

3 | Ending: Reconnecting to the World

The closing of a ceremony is equally important as the opening.

It may be simple and short but no matter what, it is intentional.

The closing often connects those involved in the transition back into their community or larger world. This could involve:

• Statements about what this experience might contribute back into the community: the joy friends and family of a maturing young woman might experience.

• It could be feedback or reflection from the witnesses, such as words spoken from the heart briefly and spontaneously.

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Often it involves a symbolic turning outwards towards the world, as in the Girl Scout tradition of singing together in a circle, arms crossed and holding hands, then turning to face outwards.

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A ceremony without an ending is like a sentence without a period, is it done or is there more to come? Take the time to plan any ceremony to its end. By doing so, the practice of ceremony becomes ingrained in all participants so that when the day comes for them to lead, they will have a natural understanding of the process.

Traditional ceremonies are often appropriate, provided they do not consist of just empty repetitive behavior. They are kept alive through participants’ willingness to think freshly about each step in the ceremony, its meaning, and whether it is appropriate for the occasion. When creating a new ceremony, it is best to keep it simple and heartfelt. The aliveness comes from establishing a safe container, the well-articulated intention for the event, the attention given to detail in the planning, and the ability of those participating to be fully present and attentive during the event.

Through ceremony, girls experience the power of creating an intentional space in which they celebrate their own or each other’s achievements, commit to something new or to service in the community, mark a change, or highlight that which requires special attention. The following are outcomes and indicators developed by GSUSA for these skills.

grade level

outcome

indicator

Girl Scout Daisy

• Demonstrate increased interest in learning new skills.

• Feel their actions and words are important to others.

• Ask lots of questions/make lots of observations about the world around them.

• Give examples of something they have done to make them feel like an important part of the group (e.g., help choice an activity, lead a game, help make up the rules).

Girl Scout Brownie

• Are open to learning or doing new and challenging things.

• Increasingly feel they have important roles and responsibilities in their groups and/or community.

• Report doing things they thought they couldn’t do.

• Describe ways their actions contributed to bettering their family, neighborhood, environment.

Girl Scout Junior

• Are better at exploring new skills and ideas.

• Feel they have greater opportunities for involvement in decision making of their community.

• Report using a variety of resources to pursue topics of interest (e.g., the Internet, popular culture, art, poetry).

• Give examples of when they participated in the decision-making process in their Girl Scout council, church, school, etc.

Girl Scout Cadette

• Recognize the importance of challenging oneself for one’s positive growth.

• Have increased confidence to participate in decision making processes in their groups and communities.

• Report how setting goals helped them do better in school.

• Show interest in providing and/or receiving input from community members on community issues.

Girl Scout Senior

• Show increased courage to challenge their own and others’ beliefs and opinions.

• Are better able to address challenges to their feeling of empowerment.

• Express preference even when they differ from the majority’s opinion.

• Describe strategies for ensuring that their voices and opinions are heard.

Girl Scout Ambassador

• Increasingly set challenging goals for the future.

• Feel capable of using their skills to better the functioning and governance of their communities, locally or globally.

• See themselves in roles/ positions they previously considered unattainable.

• Create an action plan that could be implemented to include more young people in setting town priorities.

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Contributors Carol Ackerson Barbara Cecil Glennifer Gillespie Mary Lee Hoffman Beth Jandernoa Matt Thesing Tamara Woodbury

Editors Glennifer Gillespie Robin Telle

Graphic Design Nicole Andersen

Girl Scouts–Arizona Cactus-Pine Council would like to thank The Fetzer Institute for their generous support of this project.

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