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Tan gled SILVER M agazin e TSMagazine is published quarterly featuring articles on embracing the silver lifestyle. Editor & Publisher Robin Salls robin@tangledsilvermag.com Content Assistant David Salls david@tangledsilvermag.com Copy Editor Debra Proud Abell Contributing Writers Tina @grey.grace.andgrit Joanne @jobo_silver-linings Katie @katiegoesplatinum Joli @jolicampbell Leah @leahrachel66 Diana @Silver.is.the.new.black Jineen @jineenmariesilvery Layout Designer Robin Salls Advertising Rates & Inf ormation Sales@tangledsilvermag.com Mailing Address Girls Gone Grape, Inc./TangledSIlverMag PO Box 503 Johnstown, CO 80534 Submissions | Inquiries Email : sales@tangledsilvermag.com Tangled Silver Magazine - ISSN (Print) 2768-4407, (Online) 2768-4415 . Summer 2021. Printed in USA. Tangled Silver is published quarterly (4x per year) January, April, July, October by Girls Gone Grape, Inc. Subscription prices f or print $49, digital $20. Tangled Silver Magazine. All rights reserved. Reproduction of any content or artwork is prohibited in any print or electronic f orm without prior written permission by the publisher.
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One of the best parts of childhood revolves around playing with a box of crayons and dumping them all over the table or f loor. It seems like hundreds of colors to choose from and it?s hard to know where to start, so we just start grabbing a handful and filling our paper with as much color as possible with no rhyme or reason. It?s comparable to going gray and then figuring out what colors work with your shades of gray. It?s confusing. Even the color itself can?t decide the proper way to spell it - Gray/Grey?Throw in that no two women ever have the exact same shades of gray and we?re really entering into a journey whose boundaries are that of imagination. I coined the last part of that sentence from a section of the tag line for Twilight Zone: TheMovie(1983) because it feels like a spinning swirl of colors jumping out at us. Gray has the stigma of being boring, dull, and old and aging women that choose it. And we can?t deny that some of that can be applied to gray hair of the past, but this movement is not your gramma?s gray. Enter Color Expert Jill Kirsh whose clients ranging from Red Carpet celebs and Grammywinning musicians to titans of business, call on her for color coaching to be at their best. She?s worked with community outreach groups including Dress for Success, Beauty Bus, The Fulfillment Fund,
and The Cinderella Project; and you might have seen her in other media outlets for her color knowledge. She?s a ?go-to?for the silver community that you may recognize from her recent feature in the Gray IsThe NewBlondemovie that came out in 2020. She knows colors and how to make them pop for the silver community; and ladies, we?re about to share Jill?s simple strategy to rock your grays! Jill?s starting point is helping you understand that your colors start with your present hair color. Your hair frames your face, your eyes and your smile which is what people typically notice first, and you want to pull everything together. The colors that worked with your blonde or dark brunette hair might be okay with your silvers, but how about making your silvers pop with a few shade tweaks in your clothing and make-up?! Jill?s experience led her to believing there are two color palettes that cover the many shades of gray; and if you hone in on the colors of the palette your shades are closest to, you will look and feel your best.
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Gray and White Think actress Helen Miren or Silver Sisters Jineen Marie @jineenmariesilvery or Michele @graytdaysahead.
Feeling like you?ve got the crayons but what do you do with them?I hear you, so let me share my personal experience with Jill on a virtual color consultation I had with her in April and show you where to begin. We started with my wearing a white t-shirt, my hair down, and no make-up in the best natural light I had available so we could start comparing colors I currently have in my wardrobe. I was about to discover what an impact a few tweaks could make in my look, going from colors that worked with my warm blondes to colors for my salt and pepper, silvery, and a touch of light brown strands still mixed in. I had sent over several photos of my hair and face from the front, sides, and back so Jill already had an idea of which gray
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Salt and Pepper and Silver Hair - Think Andie MacDowell or Silver Sisters Pamela @nifty.shades.of.grey or Diana @silver.is.the.new.black
color system she felt I belonged in. We started reviewing some of the colors I currently wear; and while I was spot on with a few, she shared her reasoning behind some she felt just didn?t give me the ?it?factor moving that shade of color in a different direction could do to brighten me up. Think of the four or five shades of blue in your crayon box. Do you look better in the Royal blue or the Robin?s egg blue? Pastels and more neutral tones brought out the best in my warm blondes; but seeing how adding a Royal blue really made my silvers brighten or taking a fuchsia purple into a deeper purple changed my overall look was a little surprising. That fuchsia top I bought when I only had a few silvers peaking out and still plenty of
EM BRACE | You warm blonde looks totally different three years later with my long salt and pepper hair. It?s a little crazy what simple changes of shades can do. She used gorgeous silk scarfs and fabric swatches on herself as an example of what wearing the right colors can do for any hair shade. She answered all my questions; we reviewed make-up and her thoughts on how everything enhances one another and how she?s created swatch books of the perfect colors; and those colors blend together, so you can make multiple shades work together to create the ideal look for yourself. Her goal is to help you become your own color expert and feel confident in choices when shopping, getting ready for a night on the town, or a lazy day. Since our April meeting, I find myself looking at color differently and recognizing that I prefer the hues that make me pop versus the ones that look okay. You know what I mean. The looks that make you go, ?Nailed it?versus the looks that leave you thinking, ?It?s okay, not my favorite, but it?ll work for now.? An artist chooses the right colors or mixes their colors to create the ones that bring their canvas to life, similar to the process of thinking about your colors with your silvers. You don?t have to throw out your current colors, but add a little more thought to your shopping and watch how you rock your silvers. Most importantly, choose the colors that you feel make you look your best. If you like things simple or done for you well, head over to Jill?s website at jillkirshcolor.com where she?s made it simple and quick with her color swatch wallets to keep on hand when shopping to know the colors that are awesome for you and make-up to compliment your look wearing the shades or combos of shades of color in those pre-made color wallets.
The bottom line is color plays a pivotal role in our lives; our homes, make-up, clothing, and even food. Color can even invoke emotion. Look around at your favorite room in your house, the colors you?ve used and think about how that room makes you feel. Now do the same when you look at yourself in the mirror. Feeling amazing?Then you pulled the right crayons out of your box. Top photos are before consult looks, which I still love the left outfit. Bottom photos are after. I've never done yellow before!
"My playingin thecrayon box withcolorsI never wouldhave thought of before! Jill'screateda solution for color that helpstake theguesswork out of things when you'reall over thecolor wheel!
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Contributor Meet & Greet
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Hi, I?m Katie, the founder of KatieGoesPlatinum.com, a website devoted solely to the subject of gray hair. I?m a voracious reader, so right after I made the decision to stop dyeing back in 2018, I excitedly started looking online for more information on going gray. But a lot of the articles I found at the time were negative...they treated the gray hair transition as something tiresome to ?get through?instead of as an empowering and thrilling journey. So I started my blog to show women that going gray could be f un, to give them tips and product recommendations, and to share other women?s stories about going gray.
Katie | CA Age 54
Three years later, I still get a huge kick out of helping women find their way to gray, and I?m still astonished that the decision to stop dyeing my hair opened up so many new creative pathways in my life (plus fantastic connections with other women all over the world)! I?m excited to contribute to Tangled Silver magazine and look forward to helping you navigate your own gray hair journey whether you?re just starting out or already fully gray!
Blogger Gray Hair Inf luencer Photographer Mother of Two Amazing Sons (and 1 pug and 2 kittens)
Want more information?You can find me over at katiegoesplatinum.com, or on Instagram, YouTube, Pinterest and Facebook!
Silver Since 2018
Went silver cold turkey f rom dark brunette hair and never looked back!
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Three years ago, I started my cold-turkey gray hair transition. I was SO excited to be done with dyeing (which had become a TEDIOUS chore!) but sometimes I f retted about what my gray hair would look like.
Would it be frizzy? Would it be course? Would I have trouble keeping/finding a job due to my gray hair? Would I look old? Would my friends criticize my new look? What would my husband think? You see, my hair has always been a huge part of my identity. It all started back in 1967, when I came into this world with hair that was so black and thick that my red-headed mother was constantly asked about the circumstances of my adoption. People were astonished to discover that I was, in fact, her biological child. I grew up in a town in Western Michigan that had been founded by Dutch settlers. The vast majority of my classmates were of Scandinavian or Polish extraction. In a sea of blondes, my sister and I , and my best friend Cheryl (a Native American) stood out like sore thumbs with our dark black hair.
Kids don?t like to be different. As a child, sometimes I?d dream of having long, blonde hair and looked with envy at my classmates. But as the years passed, and I grew more comfortable in my own skin, I took pride in being different. Strangers would stop me on the street to compliment me on my green eyes, which really stood out in contrast to my dark hair. TangledSilverMag.com | Summer 2021
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So when I decided I was done with dyeing, I fretted a bit about that loss of identity. (Yes, people tell you it?s ?just hair?but we all know it?s somuchmorethan that.) I knew myself well enough to know that if I went gray quickly (by cutting my hair short or by having my hair chemically treated), I?d feel all at sea. I needed time to become the ?new me.? Therefore, I decided to take the long, slow route and grow out my hair completely cold turkey. Was it easy?Not always. Was it worthwhile?Yes! It took me two and a half years to grow my gray roots out to shoulder-length. And that gave me the time to get used to the new color and to see that not only was I still ?me?, I was MORE me than I had been for all those years that I?d been dyeing my hair. Why?Because for many of those years, I was resentful of the time and thought I had to put into covering my gray roots. After all, I wasn?t dyeing my hair for fun, I was dyeing it to hide the grays. Once I threw off the shackles of dyeing my hair because I felt like I hadto(it didn?t seem like a choice), I felt free and more like the old me - the one who took pride in being different. Not the one who tried so hard to blend in. And to my surprise, all the the things I feared didn?t come true: Was my gray hair frizzy?No, it?ssurprisingly smooth! Was it coarse?No, it?sshiny & thick! Would I have trouble keeping/finding a job due to my gray hair?Quitetheopposite! I starteda fulfillingnewcareer! Would I look old?Peopletell meI look younger (andI agree!) Would my friends criticize my new look?They loveit! What would my husband think?He?smy biggest supporter! TangledSilverMag.com | Summer 2021
Once you go through a major transformation like the gray-hair journey, it starts making you question other limiting beliefs that you have. You might find, to your surprise, that you get a new outlook on life. And instead of missing your old self, you find that you really like your new self. The one who is confident in her choices and doesn?t care what others think. Three years after I started my gray hair journey, my life has changed for the better. So, ?just hair??I think not. It?s so much more. Be sure to check out Katie's blog over at Katiegoesplatiunum.com or pick up our fall issue for her next share on the silver hair lifestyle. Katie is one of the first bloggers to have seen a need for more information for women thinking about taking the journey to gray.
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MEET TINA a.k.a. @grey.grace.andgrit on Instagram 52 | Photographer, Homeschool Mom 25+ years, writer, cosmetologist & speaker | Silver Ssince 2018
I enjoy sharing a different perspective and have hopes that they would bring good things to the community and individual lives. I believe the best way to reveal my most intimate self to you is through my faith and how it impacts my life through the good, the bad, and the raw. This photo represents my story to reconcile women to the true image they were created, which is to offer an invitation for other women a chance to shine. This photo humbles and reminds me that I am only one sister in this deep sea YET empowers me to continue to work and help others treasure their identity through grace, grit and faith. I cannot be more grateful to this beautiful body of
@gr ey.gr ace.an dgr it | Con n ect icu t women that have made me smile, cry, dance, and think about important issues. I have been inspired, encouraged and accepted! I can only hope and aspire to loving this community back more than I have received. I stand with you and beside you to edge you on to delight in the vivid contrast of going grey and I walk with you to cheer you on and enjoy the stroll together. Be confident in your journey and embrace the whole process, from beginning to end, and know it has significant value to your entire wave of silver. Let it roll in and out naturally. You are a part of the body of silver and play a vital role yet SO DIFFERENT from others which is to be celebrated! Each one of us is like the tide; we have our own time of coming into this movement. Embrace the entire gif t of this lif e f rom sunrise through sunset and again. There is a calling in this life and the ocean roars your name and awaits your response. God waits with unconditional love. Do not delay your crown. These waters are healing to the mind, body and soul. This summer be the salt and light of the world. Sincerely silver, Tina TangledSilverMag.com | Summer 2021
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Tangled Silver Magazine believes that age and experience are beautif ul things. We believe women embracing their natural selves should be celebrated. We believe our daughters and granddaughters should be taught early on to tap into their creativity with wild passion. We believe that silver doesn?t make you look old or mean you?re letting yourself go. We believe f riendships are important. We believe sisters connecting together over shared passions is joyf ul. We believe aging gracef ully looks dif f erent f or every woman and there is no right or wrong way along the journey. We believe in encouragement. We believe that embracing your silvers goes f ar beyond just a color choice. We believe every woman has a story to share. We believe that everyday is a gif t. We believe in laughing loudly and living boldly. We believe that positive self -talk is not only essential f or our happiness, but f or the girls and young women around us who are developing their understanding of beauty and self -conf idence. We believe grey hair does not equate old age. We believe you are never too young or too old to start embracing your natural hair. We believe it is time to end the stigma surrounding grey hair and to celebrate who we are instead. We believe that supporting other women in their journey to acceptance and authenticity is of the utmost importance. We believe our encouragement and love f or one another online is leading to more positive and productive social media experiences f or women. We believe in loving who we are, laughing at ourselves, and inspiring those around us to do the same.
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