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strawberry fields My youngest son has to be the pickiest eater alive. Ice cream…

No thanks. Macaroni and cheese… No thanks. Ketchup, pudding, oatmeal, yogurt, turkey, cheese sticks and the list goes on and on of the food items that get a “No thanks, mom. I will have a peanut butter sandwich,” response.

However, if there is one thing he will risk his food-induced allergic reaction of itchy eczema for, it is strawberries!

Yes, those little red balls of sweetness get him every time. He can devour cups full and not even blink. He knows the itchy repercussions of his actions, but he doesn’t seem to mind.

Picking strawberries with the boys has been a family tradition since Josh could walk and carry his own bucket. We venture to the local fields in Gainesville, grab a bucket, or 10, and walk up and down the rows searching for the perfect berries to plop into our bucket.

On page 56 we introduce you to all things strawberry to kick off your spring. So, venture out in the sun with your kiddos and fill up those buckets! Just leave some for Josh!

My sweet boy picking his strawberries.

Nicole Irving, Publisher nicole@irvingpublications.com

It's our tradition to go berrypicking every year.

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76 Helping Your Child Cope with the Death of a

16 Do You Have a Favorite Child?

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Financial Downsizing: Thinking Outside the Box

BY SELENA GARRISON

Over the past few years, my husband and I have been in a gradual financial downsizing process, necessitated by our desire for me to be home with our kids. When our first baby was about 10 months old, I started a home-based business to supplement our income, and one year later, I left my full-time job. We have since had baby No. 2 and my husband has started graduate school. With all of the ups and downs of life, we wanted to streamline our spending as much as possible. It is definitely still a work in progress, but we have found some things that work for us.

The main purpose of financial downsizing for us was reducing debt, and there are only two ways to do that: reduce your spending or increase your income. We will start with five main areas for reducing expenses:

1 Food

Prior to having kids, my hubby and I got into the habit of eating out often. We both worked full time and eating out was convenient. When it came time to cutback, though, this is the first place we looked. You can easily save several hundred dollars a month by cooking at home and packing a lunch instead of eating out for lunch and/or dinner. You can also save a lot of money on food and household items by using coupons for things that you were already going to buy.

2 Cable/Satellite

Our satellite TV bill was over $90 a month. We cut out satellite and switched to Netflix and Hulu, which saved us about $70 a month. Hulu generally has current shows available the day after they air, so we still get to watch everything that we want. We also got Sling TV for football season, which is an online streaming option that gives you access to many premium channels for around $30 a month, with no contract. For the few months that we use Sling TV, we still save $40 a month compared to what we paid for satellite.

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Memberships/Subscriptions

Look at all the memberships you have and see which ones are not adding as much value to your life as you spend. Maybe you have a gym membership, a professional association membership, a few magazine subscriptions, and a “surprise thing that comes in a cute box for $10 a month” subscription. All of those little fees can add up to well over $100 or more per month. Cut out the ones that you do not need.

Refinancing/Moving

If you own a home and haven’t looked into refinancing to lower your payments, it may be worth it to do so. Depending on your loan amount, interest rate and credit, you could save hundreds or even thousands of dollars a year. While it is a bit more drastic, you may also consider moving to a smaller or less expensive house.

5 Going to One Car

If it is feasible for your family, you may also consider going down to one car.

While it would take some adjusting, this would save on gas, insurance and car repairs. You would also have a nice chunk of money from selling the other car to put towards debt payments or savings.

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1 ~ Start a Home-Based Business

This has been huge for us. When I was still working full time, the income from my home-based business went straight to paying off my husband’s truck. We paid off two years of loan payments in nine months and immediately freed up $300 a month in car payments.

We then put the money toward credit cards and paid off almost $10,000 in debt, saving several hundred dollars in interest. There are many home-based businesses to choose from, but you want to make sure to do your research and pick one that pays well and does not require you to tie up your resources (and all your storage space) in inventory. You should also look for one that is flexible enough to be worked alongside your job (if applicable) and allows time for family and other activities.

2 ~ Sell Unused Items

While this is not a long-term solution, you can downsize by selling items that you aren’t using. You might do this online or through a yard sale. If you really need to pay down debt, this can give you a good jumpstart.

While financial downsizing may feel uncomfortable in the short term, it will set you up for a much better financial future in the long run.

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Offer Services

Think about what services you can provide that other people need. Maybe it is occasional child care, elder care, cutting grass, running errands, or even writing blog posts. All of these are things that people are willing to pay for. Offer your services as often as you would like depending on your need.

By doing some or all of these things, you will be saving (and earning) money that you can put toward paying off credit cards, car payments, student loans and any other debt you may have. When you pay off debt, that frees up all the money that you have been spending on monthly payments and interest and allows you to save, plan for retirement, or just have fun! ]

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The other way to reduce debt is to increase your income. While this is a bit more challenging than decreasing your expenses, it has been a huge help for my family. Here are some ideas on how to do it:

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Chill Out, Mama!

BY KELLY GOEDE

As modern mothers, we tend to hold ourselves to some impossible standards. If we had a touch of perfectionism before having a child, it can rear its head with a vengeance after we have a tiny human to raise, and our children have the propensity to set us off like no one else. Here are some tips to help you keep perspective in the moment so you can lighten up and enjoy the ride.

1 Examine what is making you so uptight. Are you

feeling pressure to be perfect because of your past?

Understanding why you do the things you do can go a long way toward making you a more fulfilled mama.

2 Do something to pamper yourself — a hot bath, a mani/pedi, or even a fresh haircut. Feeling as refreshed and recharged as possible will give you extra energy to deal with the million-crisis march that is parenting.

3 Schedule some girl time and swap stories over a cup of coffee with your fellow mamas. Chances are they have similar frustrations and can share some strategies that have worked for them. Plus, laughter helps lighten any mama’s load.

4 Find the positive. Do your kids’ crazy outfits set you off? Hooray! They dressed themselves! Are they bickering amongst themselves? Awesome! They are learning negotiating skills. There’s always something to praise and be thankful for.

5 Intentionally lower your voice when you feel your

blood start to boil. You will still be angry, but at least you won’t be adding yelling to the mix.

6 Smile at your children. Hug them. You might realize that you’ve been scowling or frowning even when you haven’t meant to. A constant low boil of anger can make it hard to show love toward your children. Cup their little chins in your hands, look them in the eyes and smile.

7 Put on some music. This can have a soothing effect on both you and your children. kiddo’s. Has everyone eaten? Hunger and low blood sugar can make even chill mamas cranky. Drink water and make sure to sleep! If basic needs aren’t met, you can count on special meltdowns.

9 Try to view things through your child’s eyes. Are you crushing him with the burden of perfection? Kids will not (I repeat, WILL NOT) get it right all the time. They need space to make mistakes and even fail, especially when the stakes are low.

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10 feet away. Sometimes a little distance between you and the perceived problem will offer fresh insight into how to proceed.

11 Keep a journal. It can be paper or electronic, whatever

you like. Spending time reflecting on your days helps you to spot areas of strength and weakness and can potentially help you to keep your cool moving forward.

12 Examine the family schedule — anything causing more stress than it’s worth? You have my permission to give your family a break on activities that only seem to drain energy and resources.

13 Prevention is key. Before heading into a potentially stressful situation, go over your expectations with your kids — but set realistic and attainable ones. Shopping, sitting still, waiting in line and smiling for family pictures for an hour straight are all going to be challenging for children to accomplish perfectly.

14 Channel your inner Elsa and “let it go.” Easier said

than done, I know. Figure out the behaviors in your kids that are non-negotiable and then lighten up on everything else.

Quiet your mind from the tyranny of the urgent.

15 Finally, cut yourself some slack. Ask yourself, “Will this matter in five years?” Chances are that answer is “no” and you can afford to ease off the throttle. ]

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8 Make sure basic needs are met — yours and your

10 Relocate. Go outside and take a drive, or just walk

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Meet Ashley Owning your own business can be time consuming, but Ashley Finnegan never lets her work get in the way of family time. Along with her husband, Leith, Ashley successfully balances her work at Maven Construction Group with her partnership at MomCEO, all while spending quality time with 2-year-old son, Callum, and prepping for a new baby!

Vice President of Marketing at Maven Construction Group and Partner at MomCeo Wife to Leith, mommy to Callum, 2, and Expecting baby #2 in July.

Photos by Allison Raber.

Ashley Finnegan

What does your typical workday look like?

One of the benefits of having your own business is that there’s no typical day and I love that! I wake up between 5-5:30 a.m., pray and read my daily devotional. I always do a quick review of my short- and longterm goals as well. These keep me focused on the bigger picture and not just on tactics.

This quiet time in the morning is really important and helps me get my mind right for the day ahead.

After I drop my son off at school, my day can go a few ways. I usually have multiple in-person meetings. A big part of the way that I build our restoration business is networking. That doesn’t just mean getting to know a lot of people, it means getting to know them well (think Keith Ferrazzi’s “Never Eat Alone”). I will often join my husband, Leith, on one of our jobsites. He’s been in the restoration business for over 15 years, and I’m only in year two, so I still learn a lot from him every day. Staying in tune with what’s happening operationally is important to effective marketing.

"Put down the phone, turn off the TV and use the time you have in the evening and on weekends to connect and engage with your kids."

How do you balance work life and family life?

There are many stressors that come along with being in business for yourself, but one of the upsides is being able to create a strong work/life balance. Spending quality time with my son is really important to me. Some days I choose to pick him up early from school, and that gives us extra time together in the afternoon. Since my husband and I are in business together, it’s easy to get caught up in work 24/7. We’ve both had to commit to making sure that we spend time together as a family without discussing work-related topics.

What advice would you give to other working parents?

Try to limit the guilt of having to work and not being able to stay home with your children. The important thing is to spend quality time with them when you’re able to. Put down the phone, turn off the TV and use the time you have in the evening and

on weekends to connect and engage with your kids. And, if you are truly unhappy with your work/life situation, then make a change. There are options that allow you to build a career AND spend more time with your family.

What sacrifices/compromises have you had to make?

I worked in Tampa for years before meeting Leith. Our entire dating relationship and the first two years of marriage were spent long distance — basically just seeing each other on weekends. That was a tough time for both of us, but it was important for my career, so we supported each other to make it happen. The experience and knowledge I gained during that time has been invaluable in shaping my career today.

When and how do you make time for yourself?

Health and wellness are really important to me. I carve out time four to five days a week to work out, usually SweatBOX for three to four days and class at Barre Forte. Staying healthy is one key to being effective in business. Leith and I try to do date nights every couple of weeks and spend a weekend away together every six months. I also love cooking fresh, homemade meals for my family. It’s a mental escape for me and a way to unwind.

Who is your greatest inspiration?

WHAT IS YOUR COFFEE ORDER? Caffé Americano, black!

MY GO-TO BREAKFAST

I know this is cliché, but my parents have always inspired me. I grew up in a household with two working parents, but I never felt like I didn’t get enough time with them. They always left work at work and focused on quality time with our family when they were home. They instilled in me the core values that have helped me to be successful today.

Warm lemon water, two eggs, and rolled oats with fresh fruit, almonds and chia seeds, as well as my peak performance vitamins (can’t live without those). And, since I’m pregnant right now, I’m hungry again about an hour later!

Who is your biggest supporter?

5 THINGS YOU MUST HAVE AT WORK?

Hands down, my husband. We are a team, not only in business but in life.

He works incredibly hard and has made many sacrifices to give our family the best life possible. He is always my sounding board and my motivation. Since the day I met him, he’s encouraged me to pursue what makes me happy. He has been my biggest fan and has shown me unending support with the launch of my own recent business, MomCeo. ]

I’m always on the move, so my iPhone, iPad and digital calendar are key. I also can’t live without my notepad; I still go old school with paper and pen! Lastly, business cards are always a must-have.

FINISH THIS SENTENCE: I HOPE I HAVE TAUGHT MY CHILDREN Positive core values that give them a moral map to help make good life decisions.

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Do You Have a Favorite Child?

BY OLIVIA K PITKETHLY, MA, LMHC

4Don’t: Insult your children. Ever.

Choose your words carefully and encourage them to do the same. Remember that children mirror our behaviors!

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Real Moms Confess;

Ross and Monica Gellar are the rival siblings of our generation. The TV sitcom “Friends” depicted Ross as the favored child, a “medical miracle,” who could do no wrong in his parents’ eyes. Monica was often criticized for her appearance, her cooking and her romantic relationships.

Much research about sibling rivalry has been conducted since the show first aired and the close relationship between this brother and sister is quite the exception to what was found. Researchers from Purdue University find that siblings experience higher tension and less closeness with one another when there is a perceived favorite child, unless it is found that the favored child is “more needy.”

Additionally, when mothers do not favor any children in the family, siblings develop closer relationships well into adulthood.

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4Don’t: Spend more time with one child than the other. Each child should get “mommy time” or “daddy time.”

4Do: Look at each child as an individual.

I recently told a fellow mom that when you have the first child, everything is brand new, but after a while you feel you’ve got this parenting thing nailed. Then the second child comes along, and you have to redo your whole parenting plan! Karri Perry has four children, ranging from ages 11 to 20. “Personality wise, they are north, south, east and west,“ she said. “Each one has to be handled in a different way.”

While some parents admit to having a better relationship with one of their children, they also report treating all their children equally.

If this is something you are struggling with and want to create harmony between siblings, here are some tips:

4Don’t: Draw comparisons between your children, such as, “Your sister can keep her room clean, why can’t you?”

Doing so will create a competitive atmosphere. While a little friendly competition doesn’t do any harm, ongoing comparisons will cause children to feel they are not good enough. Each child will have their own strengths and challenges, and it’s up to us as parents to recognize them.

4Do: Make time with each individual child to do special activities. Corinne EggerWittlin, mother of three, makes a conscious effort to divide her time and attention equally among her children. “I enjoy doing some activities with some more than others, but that will continue to change with time,” she said.

4Do: Praise your children. Discover their love language to find the best way to fill their love tank. “I’m big on hugs and kisses,” said Ivannia Van Arman, mother of four. “I also try to surprise them with little things like a treat here and there or completing one of their chores for them.”

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If you ask the kids, they will tell you that I favor my son.

The girls say I let him get away with murder. I call it picking my battles.

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I always joke with them that I love them all the same, just not at the same time.

Each child has their own personality. Just how in the ‘non-mommy’ world there are certain adults we gel with and some not as much, some kids are more difficult to parent than others.

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My husband and I joke that our third of four children is the favorite. I’m not sure if we’re serious or not, but some days he definitely steals the show.

-Mom of 4

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Tips for Updating Your Kid’s Room on a Small Budget

BY SELENA GARRISON

While that adorable farm animal theme may have been just perfect for your newborn, it is quite possible that your 6-year-old is more into super heroes now than cuddly sheep. If you are ready to update your kiddo’s space but don’t want to spend a fortune, check out this list for some ideas.

1 Paint

The easiest and most cost-effective way to spruce up your kid’s space is with a coat or two of paint. Because your child’s taste is likely to change throughout the years, you don’t have to spring for the super expensive stuff.

You will, however, want to make sure that you don’t go for the cheapest options, which may just rub right off the wall when you try to remove smudges.

You may also want to choose a neutral color that can grow with your child and that you won’t get tired of quickly.

2 Ask Around

Need a bed frame? A lamp?

Curtains? It is highly likely that there are other people nearby who are updating and getting rid of things you might want. Ask around on social media to see what people have. You can get low-cost (or FREE) items from friends and family trying to clean out their own homes.

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Save on big items by bargain shopping. Before you go to the big retail store to buy a new bunk bed, check out Craigslist, your local sale site and consignment stores. There are awesome bargains to be found on beautiful furniture in great condition.

Look at discount stores like TJ Maxx or Ross for pillows, bedding, curtains and decorations. Stop at a few yard sales to see what treasures you may be able to find. If you do decide to purchase from a big retail store, don’t be afraid to ask about sales or if you can get a discount on floor models that have been used for display purposes.

Keep it Fun

You don’t have to spend big money to make your kid’s room his favorite place to be. Add an inexpensive chalkboard wall for your little artist to express his creativity.

Put low shelves in to display his favorite train set or super hero figurines. By using items that your child already enjoys to decorate their new space, you are guaranteed that they will love it!

Updating your kid’s room can be fun without costing a fortune. By following a few simple costsaving guidelines, your big kid will be ecstatic with their new digs and you will be satisfied with money well spent. ]

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Does your kiddo LOVE Disney princesses? Instead of spending big bucks on Disney brand merchandise, search Pinterest for princess-inspired ideas for the majority of the room and throw in a few Anna and Elsa items to finish off the theme. Not only will this save you money now, but it will be easier (and less expensive) to change things out if she decides that she HATES princesses in a few years.

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h a p p y f a m ily What makes your kiddos laugh?

We love music so we have lots of dance parties at home with them. They love to run around in circles and laugh so hard.

At the end of the day, we just want our kids to feel loved and laugh a lot. That’s all that matters.

What would your family’s dream vacation be? We travel a ton.

Traveling and exploring cultures is a huge part of our family. Once Charlotte gets old enough to pull her little suitcase, we will probably fly off to someplace crazy like Iceland. One day we want to take a train across the entire United States together.

PHOTOS BY AB PHOTOGRAPHY

The Urban Family We will greatly miss him this year when he retires.

Our family is most like: The Energizer Bunny. We pretty much never stop and that’s how we like it. We enjoy our quiet time in preparation for our next adventure.

We are weekend warriors and having kids didn’t change that. We love to bring them along. A bag is always halfway packed in our house.

Describe your family in three words: Adventurous, passionate and tenacious.

Movie in our DVD player right now: “The Incredibles.”

Favorite games to play as a family: I spy and dance parties.

The kids’ favorite books: “Goodnight, Goodnight, Construction Site,” “Mix It Up!” and “Madeline.”

{ Christy and Matt Urban, Brock (4) and Charlotte (1) } Occupation(s): Christy is a senior account manager at SumTotal Systems, and Matt is an area sales manager at Hibu.

Favorite local restaurants: Embers for special occasions and Leonardo’s 706.

Favorite local “Must go” places: Gator games of all kinds, Lake Alice and Tioga Park.

What are your children’s favorite meals that you cook? We try to grow some of our own vegetables, so any veggies cooked in fresh spaghetti is our favorite. Brock is obsessed with tomatoes.

He eats whatever he grows every day.

What is your family’s favorite holiday? We spend every Fourth of July on Anna Maria Island where Matt is from and we love our time there. Easter at our family church, Trinity United Methodist, is also very special to us. Pastor Dan Johnson married us in Tallahassee 10 1/2 years ago and baptized both Brock and Charlotte.

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Favorite date spot: We love doing a lot of activities with other couples.

We feel blessed to have such wonderful friends here. Our friends are probably why we never want to leave this town!

We are die-hard Gators and have a wonderful football tailgate group we enjoy.

Do you have any pets? One dog, Zeke.

He is 10 years old and was our first baby.

Why do you love raising your family in Gainesville? We love the small town feel of Gainesville mixed with culture and a high emphasis on education. We love Brock’s preschool, Abiding Savior. He has such wonderful teachers there.

Once you live here long enough you always run into people you know. We love having friends here that are always watching and caring for our family, even if we are not there. We like that close-knit feeling for our kids to grow up in. If we want something new, we travel.

Mommy and Daddy’s favorite TV show: HGTV's “Fixer Upper.”

Favorite picnic spot: Anna Maria Island for a beach lunch.

Favorite family activity: Going to Disney World and going to the beach. ✽

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G RAN D PAREN T S Keep your own schedule

Just because your living arrangements are changing, doesn’t mean your life has to.

Continue to attend to your commitments, such as volunteer work, church, exercise groups, etc. Having your own schedule will help you maintain your independence and individuality.

Continue to connect socially

Meeting friends for coffee or dinner, chatting with your new neighbors and engaging in new activities should still be on your social calendar. Let your family know that sometimes you’d like to have a friend or two over for dinner.

Having Your Own Space When Sharing Theirs

BY OLIVIA K PITKETHLY, MA, LMHC

Grandparents living with grandchildren is becoming more and more common due to financial strain, health issues and the desire for closeness. From 1980 to 2008, the number of U.S. households with at least two adult generations increased from 12 to 16 percent.

Discuss your expectations

Have an open and frank discussion with your children. Will you be expected to contribute to the household bills? If so, how much? What about cleaning, cooking and child care? By communicating your expectations, you help avoid any future confusion or awkwardness.

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Your space is your own

Most likely, when you move in with your children, you are downsizing from a larger space and won’t be able to take much with you. However, it’s important that you identify your space as yours alone. Let your children and grandchildren know that this is your private room and to respect your belongings.

Decorate your room to make it feel like yours, especially if the rest of the house isn’t to your taste. We all need a place to bring us comfort and security — let your personality dictate the décor.

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Respect boundaries

There may be some parenting techniques that your children use that you think is offthe-wall, but remember that parenthood was new to you at some point, too. Just like you did, your children are navigating their way through this parenting thing. Use your role as the grandparent to provide support and love to all family members.

Cherish family moments

Take advantage of the closeness and continue to make happy memories with your loved ones. Focus on the advantages of all of you living under one roof. “Although it was a transition, we all have benefited from my mom living with us,” said Turner. “And she has benefited by feeling included, safe and taken care of.” ✽

Looking for more info?

For personal stories, case studies, and expert quotes, check out “When Your Parent Moves In: Every Adult Child’s Guide to Living with an Aging Parent”

by David Horgan and Shira Block.

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The decision to move in with your children and grandchildren may or may not be in your control. It may have been financially impossible for you to live on your own, or you may want to be closer to your family.

Whatever the case may be, it’s important for all of you to live in harmony.

Karen Hoffman Turner is a licensed psychologist, wife and mother of three teenage daughters. Her mother moved in two years ago and although she is not required to pay any bills or do any chores, she chooses to do so because she wants to contribute to the family. “My mom cooks and cleans for us, her choice,” said Turner. “She feels like she needs to do something to help us. We all are working and going to school, so her presence helps our household function better.”

“My mom lives her own life and we live ours,” said Turner. “She does not expect us to be with her during every single outing, and she also invites us to her things too. It’s a great balance.”

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So eggs-citing!

Sponge paint, natural dyes and puffy paint!

design

dozen by the

Creating traditional Easter eggs with untraditional methods! photos by allison raber

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Gone are the days of dropping little dye tablets into cups of vinegar to color your Easter Eggs. We searched high and low and came up with three fun and creative ways to decorate your eggs this year.

Puffy Paint Thick puffy paint is a fun and quick way to add three dimensional texture to your design. The paint bottle, usually used for fabric, has a thin tip that makes easy painting a snap.

Once you've finished painting, prop the egg up on a bottle cap to finish drying.

Natural Dyes People have been coloring eggs throughout history. Try your hand at some of the more traditional methods by boiling onion skins, turmeric or red cabbage to create homemade dyes.

See our full tutorial on the next page!

Sponge Painting Cut a small piece of kitchen sponge and dab into gold paint. Lightly sponge paint all around your egg for an elegant design with minimal effort!

Tip: Paint over an already dyed egg for an even fancier look.

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AN EASY HOW-TO GUIDE

What You'll Need

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DIY Natural Egg Dye • ROOM TEMPERATURE EGGS • VINEGAR • SALT • FRESH INGREDIENTS FOR YOUR CHOSEN COLORS For blue, try: blueberries, red cabbage or grape juice For Yellow, try: carrots, turmeric or cumin for red, try: red onion skins, cherries or paprika for green, try: spinach leaves for purple, try: grape juice

(colors will vary depending on amount used, color of eggs and time left in dye)

• If you are using a solid ingredient, such as cabbage, chop it up into small pieces and add to a pot with four cups of water. You will use approximately two cups of dyeing agent per four cups of water.

• Bring to a boil and add your eggs.

• When eggs are cooked and color has released from the dyeing agent, remove from dye and set aside.

• Strain dye into a container with two tablespoons of vinegar and two tablespoons of salt. Mix well and carefully add eggs back to the dye.

• Cover and allow eggs to refrigerate overnight in the solution to yield more vibrant colors.

• For liquid ingredients, such as grape juice, mix with salt and vinegar and add to container. Carefully add a pre-cooked egg, cover and refrigerate overnight.

• To make your color pop even more, rub a small amount of olive oil over the dry, colored shells. This gives them a glossy shine!

Giggle Tip: The color of your dye may not necessarily look like the ingredient you used. Use a marker and masking tape to label your containers!

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Bye, Bye

Boring Butter

BY REBECCA VITKUS

Long gone are the boring old days of standard butter and peanut butter spreads! We have emerged into the age of the alternative butters, and with so many options to choose from, there is no end to the culinary possibilities. Whether you're using a substitute to avoid allergic reactions, gain health benefits or just try a new food, there is definitely a new butter for you.

Trader Joe’s Speculoos Cookie Butter may be the very item that launched alternative butters into recent popularity. With the increase in Trader Joe’s stores around the nation, cookie butter is becoming more easily available to adults and kids everywhere.

Cookie butter is made of crushed cookies mixed with vegetable oils to form a peanut butter-like consistency and a sweet taste, with almost a gingerbread flavor. There is even a seasonal Pumpkin Pie Spice Cookie Butter! Although it definitely seems like dessert, many people spread cookie butter on bagels or waffles, use it as a dip for pretzels or veggies, or melt and drizzle it as an ice cream topping. Once you taste it, though, you won’t have any problem devouring it alone.

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Apple butter is known as a Southern breakfast staple, and once you’ve tried it, there will be no question as to why it is so popular. This special butter is made by slow cooking apples with cider or water until they caramelize, almost like applesauce with extra sugar. Though not as healthful as organic applesauce, apple butter is a great source of iron, and it has a much longer shelf life as a preserve. It is usually used like a jam on toast and biscuits or as an ingredient in baked goods.

Whipped butter is a more traditional way of enjoying your dairy goodness.

Although it doesn’t have any fun or exciting flavors added to it, many people do not realize how useful it is. The texture of whipped butter is light and fluffy, making it ideal for spreading on toast or crackers. It is not recommended for cooking

or baking, but it does have fewer calories than standard butter, so it makes a great alternative when used as a substitute.

Sesame seed butter, more commonly known as tahini, is made from finely ground, toasted sesame seeds. It is popular in many Middle Eastern cuisines, and its smooth, thin texture makes it the perfect sauce or salad dressing. Studies have shown that tahini reduces total cholesterol levels, and it contains a healthy amount of fats needed. Tahini is usually free of additional ingredients, so there are no trans fats or hidden sugars to be found.

Almond butter is one of the new, trendy health foods on everyone’s grocery list, and it’s for a good reason.

It contains about seven times as much calcium as peanut butter does, plus around 50 percent more magnesium. Almond butter can be used as a direct peanut butter substitute on sandwiches, with apple slices or even in cooking and baking. However, like peanut butter, almond butter is often made with additives and sweeteners, so check the label before you make your purchase.

Coconut butter, which is not the same as coconut oil, includes coconut meat as its main ingredient. It can be used to make fudge and peppermint bark, and it provides a richer texture than coconut oil does. The best part of coconut butter is that it’s fairly simple to make at home, so it’s easy to try it out for yourself!

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Sunflower seed butter is made exactly how you would think — by grinding sunflower seeds into a paste. One tablespoon of sunflower seed butter has 99 calories and contains lots of vitamin E. Add it to toast for a nutritious breakfast, use it as a sandwich condiment or even add some vanilla to make a sweet dessert spread.

Pumpkin butter is the perfect seasonal snack. It can be made from scratch with fresh pumpkin puree and a few additional ingredients, so make as many jars as you can eat! Try mixing it into oatmeal, blending it into smoothies or even using it as a pie filling.

Pistachio butter is a great way to enjoy your pistachios without having to go through the hassle of cracking them open. This butter may not be beautiful, but it sure is delicious. Try using unsalted pistachios and substitute the butter for peanut butter in sandwiches or dips while enjoying its unique, buttery consistency. ]

Love the yellow stuff?

Make Your Own Butter!

YOU’LL NEED

: • Glass J ar with lid • Heavy Cream • Cold w ater

Step 1: Pour the cream into your jar. You

want enough cream to fill it about 1/3 to 1/2 of the way full. Make sure to secure the lid tightly on your jar and start shaking! After a minute, you’ll notice the sloshing noise stops as the cream begins to thicken.

Giggle Tip: Enlist the help of a friend so you can each take turns shaking the jar for two-minute intervals. It's a workout!

Step 2: After about 7-10 minutes,

open your jar and check your results. If the contents look like whipped cream, it's because it is! Shaking the cream causes a chemical reaction that results in whipped cream. Grab a spoon and have a taste! Keep shaking; you’re halfway there!

Step 3:

Within another 5-7 minutes, you will hear liquid sloshing again in you jar.

No worries; that’s the buttermilk separating from the solids. Keep shaking and once your butter starts to solidify into a single mass, you can open your jar and pour off the liquid buttermilk. Strain it and save it for cooking! To finish, you will need to rinse your butter under cold water, kneading it as you do so. This will remove the last of the buttermilk and prevent your butter from going rancid quickly.

Step 4:

Slather your homemade butter on some bread and enjoy! Store your butter in a covered container or wrapped in wax paper in the refrigerator for up to three days.

Check out the science behind what happens to cream at www.seriouseats.com/2014/10/ the-science-of-whipped-creambutter-creme-fraiche.html

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A Week of Dinners Crock Pot Smothered Pork Chops

BY KELLY GOEDE

Makes 4 servings.

Submitted by: Amy Hogue, mom of two There’s nothing like staring at a full calendar of family activities and knowing that these little children who call you “mom” will be expecting to eat…daily. As daunting as feeding a busy family seems, it can be done simply and nutritiously with just a little bit of preparation and planning. Here’s a week’s worth of family approved recipes to get you started.

Zoodles with Sauce and Meatballs Making “zoodles” (aka zucchini noodles) is a fun and nutritious alternative to traditional pasta. You can find a zoodle maker or you can just slice the zucchini very thin, skipping the seed portion.

Cristina Merricks, mom of three, recommends trying to spiralize the zucchinis. This is a process where you slice the zucchini very thinly to create noodles.

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3 medium zucchinis 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 jar of your favorite spaghetti sauce 1 bag Italian-style frozen meatballs Parmesan cheese

Makes 4 servings.

DIRECTIONS Cook meatballs according to package and set aside in a medium sized pot. Add the jar of sauce and warm on stove on medium heat for 5-8 minutes.

Spiralize the zucchini and saute with oil over medium heat for a few minutes. Add the cooked zoodles to your meatballs and sauce and stir. Divide into bowls and sprinkle with Parmesan cheese.

Chicken Enchiladas

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4 bone-in pork chops (or boneless) One 1-ounce envelope onion soup mix One 14-ounce can lower sodium chicken broth One 10.5-ounce can lower sodium cream of chicken soup One 1-ounce envelope dry pork gravy mix 1 teaspoon garlic powder

DIRECTIONS In a 5-6 quart slow cooker, combine onion soup mix, chicken broth, cream of chicken soup and pork gravy mix. Whisk together until combined. Don’t worry about any lumps; they will go away during cooking.

Season both sides of the pork chops with a little bit of garlic powder. Place pork chops into the slow cooker. Do your best to spread them out and cover with the gravy mixture. Cover and cook on low about 6-8 hours. Serve with steamed broccoli.

Cauliflower “Mac and Cheese” • • • • • • •

1 head of cauliflower, chopped into florets 1 cup plain Greek yogurt 1 tablespoon yellow mustard 1 clove garlic, minced Makes 4 2 cups shredded Parmesan cheese servings.

1/2 cup Italian panko breadcrumbs Salt and pepper, to taste

DIRECTIONS Preheat oven to 350 F. Boil cauliflower for 7-8 minutes, drain and return to cooking pot. Stir in yogurt, mustard, garlic and cheese until well mixed. Add more yogurt to make the sauce creamier if desired. Pour into a baking dish and sprinkle panko on top. Bake uncovered for 5-7 minutes.

1 pound shredded chicken, cooked and seasoned • One 2-cup bag of shredded cheddar cheese • 1 can cream of chicken soup • One 16-ounce container of sour cream • 1 package of 10 flour tortillas • Salt, pepper, chili powder, cumin and cilantro for seasoning

Makes 5 servings.

DIRECTIONS Preheat oven to 375 F. Line and spray a cake pan. Combine cooked chicken, cheese, sour cream and cream of chicken soup in large bowl and stir until well mixed. Season to taste with spices, salt and pepper.

Spoon filling into each tortilla, roll and place seam down in cake pan. Repeat with remaining tortillas. Top with enchilada sauce or any remaining filling. Bake uncovered for 30 minutes.

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Picadillo (Cuban Chili)

Submitted by: Stacy Partain, mom of three • • • • • • • • • • • • • •

3 tablespoons olive oil 1 small onion Makes 6 1/2 green bell pepper, diced servings.

2 cloves fresh garlic, pressed 1 1/2 pounds ground beef 1 teaspoon salt 1/2 teaspoon pepper One 8-ounce can of tomato sauce 1 small can of tomato paste 1/4 cup dry white wine (the cheaper, the better!)

4 tablespoons pimento stuffed green olives, sliced 1 small box of dark raisins 1/2 teaspoon cumin 1/2 teaspoon oregano

DIRECTIONS Heat the olive oil in a large skillet over medium heat. Saute the onion, green pepper and garlic until the onion is translucent.

Add the ground beef and brown over medium heat. Add the rest of the ingredients and continue cooking until meat is tender and completely cooked through, about 25 minutes.

Serve over white rice.

Brinner (Breakfast for Dinner) This idea is nothing new, but sometimes we need someone to sign our parent permission slip to mix things up and make life easier for a change. So you have my permission to cast aside any dinner notions and serve up a hearty breakfast instead. Scramble up some eggs, make pancakes and for the love of Pete, make BACON!! Whatever your children love in the morning is sure to be a winner at dinnertime. Add in some yogurt and cut up fruit and call it a night!

Turkey Avocado Burgers • • • • • • • • • •

1 pound ground turkey breast 3/4 cup Italian panko breadcrumbs 1 ripe avocado, cubed 1 egg 1 tablespoon Worchestershire sauce 1 clove of garlic, minced 1 tablespoon yellow mustard 1 tablespoon ketchup Cheese slices Hamburger buns

Makes 4-6 servings

DIRECTIONS In a large bowl, combine turkey, panko, avocado, egg, Worcestershire sauce, garlic, mustard and ketchup. Stir until well mixed.

Create patties and cook on a George Foreman Grill, searing for 5-7 minutes. Turkey is fully cooked when internal temperature reaches 165 F. Add cheese slices and serve the burgers on buns.

Add some microwaved frozen organic broccoli on the side and dinner is served!

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For many kids this summer, camp is where they’re headed. It is a place to create lifelong friendships and memories that last for decades to come. There are many options and activities to choose from, so start planning now!

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fun facts • The tradition of summer camp dates back more than 150 years to 1861.

• Research shows that interaction with nature helps reduce stress in children and teaches them to appreciate and sustain the environment.

• There are camps available for all ages, including family camp groups, camps for single adults and camps for senior citizens.

• Research shows that 74 percent of campers tried a new activity at camp that previously scared them.

When parents have great memories of childhoods spent singing campfire songs, it’s hard to understand the reluctance their kids may have about going away for the summer. The decision of whether or not to send a kid to summer camp can be incredibly stressful and often lasts for years. So what’s a parent to do when a kid just won’t go?

• Summer camp has been beneficial in teaching manners and etiquette to children in a large group environment.

• Camps often focus on healthy eating and are continuously exploring new food options, including for those with allergyspecific or vegetarian diets.

With all the excitement of a summer at sleep-away camp, it’s easy to forget something important! Make sure your children have all the necessities before you send them off to camp.

FF A journal and pens or pencils

FF Bedding and linens (beach and bath towels)

FF Insect repellent and sunscreen

FF Clothes for all weather (heat, cold, rain) and activities (bathing suits, pajamas)

FF Medications or other health needs

FF Plenty of stamped, addressed envelopes for writing letters home FF Sneakers, shower shoes and extra socks FF Toiletries and lip balm FF Flashlight and water bottle FF Cash, as you see fit

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CAMP CHECKLIST

To encourage your child to try out a new camp, involve him in the selection process.

Find camp environments that will interest him, and give him power to choose his own experience. Take him shopping for new camp clothes and invite his questions, doing your best to put off any worries he may have.

You know your child best, so use your instincts to determine when, if ever, is the right time for sleepaway camp, and remember to consider day camp as an alternative route.

• Some studies show that students who attend summer camp, even those without a specific academic focus, show less of a learning loss when they begin the new school year.

OVERNIGHT

If you’re an anxious parent with an anxious child, the best bet is to wait until you’re both more comfortable. Try introducing your child to a day camp so he can meet new friends and experience what it’s like, just for a few hours. Let him know it’s fine to be nervous, but try not to let any of your own anxiety show.

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+summer safety › Bug Bites

› Sunburn

Though they are annoying, most bites from mosquitoes or ants can be treated with an over-thecounter cream or ointment. The best way to prevent the bites is to wear bug spray on a daily basis. If your child is allergic to the bites, seek medical attention immediately.

Hours in the sun often cause sunburn, even when sunscreen is used. The best treatment for sunburn is an aloe gel or moisturizer applied directly to the skin. If that’s not available, use a cold, damp compress on the affected area. Make sure your child drinks plenty of water, and if the pain is severe, ibuprofen may help. Be sure to tell your child not to touch the blisters.

› Bee Stings If a bee stings your child, scrape the stinger away rather than pulling it out. Pulling out the stinger will only release more venom into the skin.

› Ticks Instead of listening to myths like using petroleum jelly or a hot match to remove a tick, use simple tweezers instead. Grasp the tick firmly and as close to the skin as possible, then pull the tick’s body back. Don’t worry if the tick’s mouthparts remain in the skin, as the infectious parts have been removed. Cleanse the area of the body with an antiseptic after the removal.

Some of the best friendships in a child’s life develop through hours spent at camp, so it’s important for campers to stay connected.

In the world of social media and instant messaging, there’s no excuse for lost friendships just because the

› Water Safety When at the beach or pool, always have children swim under the supervision of a lifeguard, and never let a child swim alone. In Florida, water safety is extra important, so enroll your children in swim classes as early as possible so they will always be prepared in case of a water emergency. Life jackets can be helpful, but never rely on them alone for your child’s safety.

packing a healthy Keep kids healthy, hydrated and happy at summer camp WITH THESE YUMMY LUNCH OPTIONS. • Veggie sticks

• Chips and salsa

• Rice cakes

• Fresh fruit cups

• Apple slices

• Apple sauce

• Raisins

• Nuts

• Hummus

• Granola bars

• Bananas

• Cheese sticks

• Grapes • Pretzels • Oranges • Peanut butter and apples • Graham crackers and Nutella

» Always pack an ice pack, hand wipes and disposable silverware. » Avoid mayobased foods.

If your child has any allergies or medical needs, speak to a nurse upon registration.

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kids live far away. Connect with the other campers’ parents online to stay in contact. Even better, encourage the kids to write to each other, and help them send mail to their new pen pals. After all, everyone loves getting a letter!

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Blend, Blend, Blend!

BY KARA WINSLOW, Makeup Artist

I’ve been doing makeup for a long time, and that includes highlighting and contouring. I started highlighting and contouring 20 years ago after studying the books of legendary makeup artist Kevyn Aucoin to perfect the technique. Back then there was no YouTube or Instagram, and the technique was not the “BIG FAD” of makeup popularized by celebrities like the Kardashians. It was something makeup artists had been doing for years, but wasn’t particularly mainstreamed.

Today, you can find different techniques splashed all over social media, ranging from the simple to the extra intense. Why should you be doing it? How do you do it?

And how can you use it on a daily basis to enhance your look?

Why should you highlight and contour?

Look at your face in the mirror and imagine that you are looking at your skull, void of skin and tissue — just the bones and the empty space between them. This sounds weird, I know, but what highlighting and contouring do is enhance your bone structure. Where you want the bones to come out more you add light, just like the white of the bone. So highlight your brow bone to lift the face, the cheekbone to raise your cheek, and the center of your nose to straighten it. If you would like to give the illusion that a part of your face “goes in” where there is no bone, add a shadow.

To slim the nose, add shadow on the sides of it; to slim the face, add a shadow under the cheekbone; and to hide a double chin, add it under the jawline. See the chart to illustrate these concepts.

Once you learn your face structure and what areas need a highlight or shadow, the biggest thing is to BLEND, BLEND, BLEND! You don’t want random streaks of color on your face. That is not cute and does not enhance your face in any way.

Dramatic highlighting and contouring is trending heavily right now, but you don’t

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Make highlighting and contouring work for you and don’t be afraid of it.

These are techniques that every woman should have in her beauty arsenal.

Helpful Tips: Pick and choose the highlighting and contouring technique that best fits YOUR face.

Bronzer is a great product to use for contouring. Make sure it is matte brown WITHOUT any shimmer or glimmer.

FLOWER Glisten Up! Highlighter Chubby Price: $9.98, Available at Walmart and Walmart.com

L’Oréal Paris Infallible Pro-Contour Kit Price: $12.99, Available at Lorealparisusa.com and drugstores nationwide

need to go that heavy to make your face look amazing. As a makeup artist, I do highlighting and contouring every day that I wear makeup, and most people don’t even know. The goal of applying makeup is to allow you to look like yourself, just an enhanced version. Investing in the right colors and tools will help. And remember to BLEND!! You can use blending sponges, brushes or even your fingers, depending on what works best for you.

Use a concealer trio as your basic starting point to highlighting, concealing and contouring.

Be careful not to use too much sparkly highlighter. If overused, this can give you oily-looking skin.

After using concealers, enhance the look with matte powders. tarte Deluxe Contour Set $24 at QVC.com

Keep it simple. At night you can go more dramatic, but be careful during the day as it can look like stage makeup.

Product photos courtesy of Alison Brod PR.

It can help fix those pesky little nuances in your face that bother you. Round cheeks and crooked noses can be corrected and you can even enhance your eyebrows, giving the temporary look of a lift to your face. Highlighting and contouring is the smoke and mirrors that allow you to create your ideal look.

How do you do it?

Highlighting If you have a darker skin tone, focus on highlighting.

Contouring If you have a lighter skin tone, focus on contouring.

To make your face appear slimmer, add a shadow beneath the cheekbone.

Highlighting the center of your nose can make it appear straighter.

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Adding shadows on the side make it appear slimmer.

Contouring & Highlighting Those with medium skin tones should balance both contouring and highlighting.

É Kara Winslow is a Gainesville native who graduated Cum Laude in 2004 from Rollins college with a bachelor's in theatre. Upon returning to Gainesville she worked in theatre education, administration and production. In 2008 she was cast as a spokesmodel for ybf Beauty on Home Shopping Network. Around the same time she launched her company as an on-location makeup artist and in 2013 she was promoted to ybf’s official USA makeup artist. Her work has been seen on MTV, CNN, FOX News, and HSN, as well advertising campaigns for Gatorade, UPS, AT&T, Speedo, AXE, Procter & Gamble and more. Her celebrity clients have included Olympic swimmers Ryan Lochte and Dara Torres, football legend Harmond Wages, actress Lyndon Smith, politicians Steve Oelrich and Ted Yoho, and Miss Florida USA Ashleigh Lollie. gigglemag.com | FEBRUARY/MARCH 2016

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Keeping Your Ticker in Tip Top Shape

BY DANIELLE PASTULA

 SIMPLE STEPS FOR HEART HEALTH

The good news about your heart health is that it is largely dependent on lifestyle factors, such as your diet and activity.

However, this may also mean you’ll have a lot of changes to make if you want to reduce your chance of having a heart attack as you get older.

• Stop smoking! According to the As we get older, more and more foods get added to the indigestion list. Our favorite indulgences or even food items that were once normal during dinner now keep us lying awake with pain, wondering if the food was really worth it.

Whether you’re someone who experiences heartburn frequently, or not all, some episodes of chest pain can be enough to set off alarm of a possible heart attack. But how do you know for sure?

Here’s the breakdown to see what your ticker is telling you:

How to Distinguish Heartburn from a Heart Attack Oddly, heartburn has nothing to do with your heart. Heartburn occurs when acids from your stomach travel up to the esophagus, which is sensitive to acid, causing pain in the chest, neck and throat.

While both heart attacks and heartburn can be characterized by pressure, squeezing and tightness of the chest, some of the distinguishing symptoms for a heart attack include dizziness, pain in the upper

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In an interview by the American Heart Association with Dr. Mary Ann Bauman, a practicing physician and medical director of women’s health at INTEGRIS Health Systems, she said, “I tell my patients that if you belch and the symptoms go away, it probably isn’t related to your heart but to your esophagus, but if you have shortness of breath or sweating, then it’s likely a heart-related issue.”

However, because heartburn and heart attacks can be difficult to distinguish, especially if you’re someone who is prone to heartburn discomfort, if you’re truly uncertain and experiencing pain that doesn’t subside within a few minutes, it’s better to be cautious and seek the immediate attention of a medical professional.

Healthy Heart Vitals The most important vital signs related to your heart health include your resting heart rate, blood pressure, fasting glucose, cholesterol and your CRP (C-reactive protein) levels. If any of these vitals do not fall within a healthy range based on your weight, height and age, you’ll want to take some of the simple steps in addition to following the guidance provided by your physician. ]

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• Clean up your diet of excess salt, sugar, fat and cholesterol Eat more whole foods, less processed foods and put more vegetables on your plate than animal fats.

• Gain control of your blood pressure. This may mean taking medication if your blood pressure is hereditary or something you can’t completely control with a lifestyle change, such as lowering your stress and anxiety.

• Get your blood pumping more frequently with exercise! If you’re someone who never exercises, starting off small is the way to go. Try getting out for a short walk after dinner to get some cardiovascular activity and help with digestion, then steadily increase your distance and frequency.

Please consult your doctor if you experience any pain or discomfort you believe to be related to your heart. Please consult your doctor before you change your diet or ingest any new medications or vitamins and for updates on your vitals.

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A heart attack, or myocardial infarction, occurs when the flow of blood is blocked off to a section of the heart muscle, causing oxygen deprivation. If blood flow isn’t restored quickly, that section of the heart muscle may die.

extremities such as your neck, back, and arms (especially your left arm), shortness of breath, nausea and sudden sweatiness or clamminess.

American Heart Association, people who smoke a pack of cigarettes a day are twice as likely to suffer a heart attack as non-smokers.

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Best Places to G e t F r e sh A i r n e ar

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BY DANIELLE PASTULA

Those who have called Gainesville home for more than four years know that The Swamp is home to more than just the university, football team and the entertainment scene along University Avenue.

Gainesville and its surrounding towns are home to numerous gems of nature. From springs, to rivers and lakes, to prairies and plains, there’s no shortage of places to explore, break a sweat and unplug from the stresses of everyday life.

Biking GainesvilleHawthorne State Park Trail For families looking to hit a well-maintained trail that stays relatively level the whole way through and boasts great scenery and wildlife, the Gainesville-Hawthorne State Park Trail will make for an awesome day.

While the whole trail is 16.5 miles, you enter Paynes Prairie Preserve State Park about 2 miles into the trail. If you’re looking to ease into a longer bike trip, getting to Paynes Prairie is a good start. Then you can go a little further on your next trip.

In addition to the enjoyable ride, several of the trailside overlooks offer wonderful views of the prairie and wildlife, including bison, wild horses and alligators.

Hiking

Whether you’re a Gainesville native or a newbie, here are a few of our top places to get some fresh air around town:

San Felasco Hammock Preserve State Park

Walking

San Felasco Park is home to some of most popular trails in Gainesville, and for good reason!

Hogtown Creek Greenway The easy 2-mile stretch of greenway that runs alongside and over Hogtown Creek is a short, but beautiful outing that will allow you to appreciate the nature in Gainesville away from the hustle and bustle of the college and surrounding busy roads.

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With over 20 miles of single-track trails, hikers have options both north and south of Millhopper Road in loops ranging from 1–6 miles, which makes this park an excellent option for families of all ages. During the course of your hike you’ll get quintessential views of Florida nature, including woods, marshes and wildlife.

Swimming Blue Springs Park For families with small kiddos, Blue Springs Park, which is located in High Springs, is one of the best places near Gainesville to get some time in the sand and the water without have to worry about the vastness or currents of the ocean.

Blue Springs Park is a second-magnitude spring with a large area for swimming, a diving dock, 50 yards of white sand beach and a boardwalk that allows for fishing at the end.

At a comfortable 72 F year-round and clear visibility, Blue Springs is also fun for snorkeling and tubing. There’s also an area for camping to make a weekend trip out of your visit.

F i sh i n g Lake Santa Fe Designated by the state of Florida as “Outstanding Florida Water,” you know you’ve got a potential day of spectacular fishing ahead at Lake Santa Fe. Lake Santa Fe is a spring-fed lake that is 2 miles wide and 3 miles long, giving you plenty of space to hook a black crappie, bluegill, redear or largemouth bass. In fact, according to Visit Gainesville, 2–4 pound largemouth bass are common in Lake Santa Fe, with 6–8 pounders possible.

For more information about Gainesville-area attractions, things to do and places to explore, head to VisitGainesville.com.

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Start off at the kiosk of the former environmental center and head into Loblolly Woods on the Hogtown

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Creek Greenway for views of historic Gainesville. This trail is a nice, shady reprieve from the heat, but you will definitely need to bring some bug spray!

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THE SEASON FOR

Strawbe ‘Tis the season for sweet, juicy strawberries! With the winter months subsiding and spring approaching, everyone’s favorite fruit is ripe for the picking – so bring the kids along and pick some yourself! Strawberries are actually the first fruit to ripen in the spring, so they truly are the first sign of sunny days ahead. Whether you indulge in a delicious strawberry shortcake, blend some into a refreshing fruit smoothie, or enjoy the berries by themselves, make sure to take advantage of this nutritious springtime treat.

BY REBECCA VITKUS

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94 percent of households in the United States consume strawberries, with an average yearly consumption of 4.85 pounds of fresh and frozen strawberries per person.

Strawberries are grown in every state in the United States, as well as in every province of Canada.

You can find native forms of strawberries in every continent except Africa, Australia and New Zealand.

There is a strawberry-themed museum in Belgium.

The strawberry is actually a member of the rose family.

There is an average of 200 seeds in each strawberry.

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produces the most strawberries, totaling an incredible one billion pounds each year. If you laid the berries side by side, they would wrap around the world 15 times!

According to research from the University of Illinois...

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Delicious & Nutritious Aside from being one of the tastiest snacks, strawberries also have numerous health benefits for kids and adults alike, and one cup of strawberries is only around 55 calories. They serve as a powerful antioxidant, and they are also effective in fighting cancer as well as neurodegenerative and inflammatory diseases. Just eight strawberries provide 140 percent of the daily recommended intake of Vitamin C for kids, which helps boost immunity and fight off sickness. Strawberries are also high in fiber, potassium and folic acid.

weight loss. Some people even use strawberries as an ingredient in foot scrubs!

In addition to their high content of vitamins and nutrients, strawberries can also help clear skin, fight dandruff and assist in

There are many ways to enjoy strawberries, but to receive the maximum health benefit, she suggests eating them fresh.

Jen Hillan, MSH, RD, LD/N, an outpatient dietitian at UF Health, agrees that strawberries are an excellent source of nutrition.

“Try adding them to smoothies or incorporating sliced strawberries in a salad.

Add pureed strawberries to lemonade. Sliced strawberries are a great topping for low-fat yogurt, ice cream, pancakes, French toast, cereal, angel food cake and so much more! And of course, don’t forget strawberries dipped in dark chocolate!”

“Did you know that eight strawberries have more vitamin C than an orange? Strawberries are full of phytonutrients, compounds in foods that may help protect us from diseases such as heart disease and cancer,” Hillan said.

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Though the strawberry is one of the most popular fruits, it is also one of the most common allergens. An allergy to strawberries can produce tightness in the throat, itching, swelling, hives inside the cheeks and a prickling or burning sensation on the tongue, gums or lips. This allergy can usually be treated by an antihistamine or an over-thecounter medication for temporary relief. It is always best to notify a doctor if you suspect a strawberry allergy in yourself or your kids, especially because this allergy may indicate an allergy to similar fruits.

Saddened by an allergy to this fabulous fruit?

Try white strawberries instead! Though they may not be as flavorful as the red variety, biochemists from Sweden’s Lund University determined that those with a strawberry allergy did not show the same symptoms after consuming white strawberries, which contain little to no allergens. gigglemag.com | FEBRUARY/MARCH 2016

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Save Some for Later!!

When you go strawberry picking, odds are you will grab more than you can eat in one sitting! Storing strawberries is simple, and frozen strawberries can last six to eight months.

Don’t wash the strawberries until you are ready to eat them. Strawberries act like sponges in that when they are wet, they soak in the moisture, making them more susceptible to spoiling or getting soft. Wet berries also invite mold, so make sure to hold off on the rinsing until it’s time for a snack.

If you’d like to freeze the strawberries, wash them and cut the stems and leaves off before placing them in a freezer bag, removing as much excess air from the bag as possible.

Don’t cut off the stems. Leaving the stems on the strawberries until you are ready to eat them will also prolong their shelf life.

Don’t let a bad berry spoil the bunch. If you see any moldy berries in the container, take them out immediately. Mold spreads quickly, so removing spoiled berries can save your whole batch.

Take Your Pick Florida is second in the nation for production of strawberries, right behind California, and the season runs from December to May, with its peak occurring during March and April. There are many options to choose from for this fun and tasty family activity, so we’ve included some of our favorite farms.

Brown’s Farm

Rogers Farm

3831 NW 156th Avenue Gainesville, FL 32609 386-462-2406 Open year-round with a variety of fruits and vegetables to pick Rogersfarm.webplus.net

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18120 NE State Road 26 Hawthorne, FL 32640 352-475-2015 Strawberry picking from mid-March through mid-April Monday through Saturday, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.

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Removing Those Pesky Stains

BY OLIVIA K PITKETHLY, MA, LMHC

While staining our clothes is just another good reason to buy more, that’s not usually the most practical answer. Here are some helpful tips to remove stains for good:

Grass stains Spring is approaching, which means more time outside, and probably a grass stain or two. To remove the stain, create a solution using one part vinegar and two parts water. Scrub the solution into the stain using a toothbrush and then wash as normal.

Wine…er…adult grape juice

Vomit If your little one suffers from motion sickness and has vomited all over the upholstery in your new minivan, you have quite the chore ahead of you. First, remove the solid debris of vomit. Then, liberally cover the area with baking soda and leave it for at least 15 minutes; it will absorb the odor. Roll down the windows if you can to improve

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Just spilled red wine on your brand new white couch? Take out the salt and sprinkle it on the stain generously. The salt will absorb the wine. For older stains, saturate the area with hot water then apply an Oxi product for two to 10 hours. Do not use white wine to clean up red wine. Many people have tried it, and it just doesn’t work. Wine is wine, no matter what color it is.

Oil

Real Life Giggle Mom Tip:

I suffered from motion sickness as a little girl living in New York. The winding roads of the Taconic mixed with the smell of my brother’s grape gum was always too much to handle.

So, my mom made me travel daily with a small, personal “get sick here Nicole” bucket. Saved her hours of cleaning!

-NICOLE ventilation. Vacuum the excess.

Next, create a solution using a tablespoon of dishwashing detergent, a half a cup of white vinegar and two cups of warm water. Generously apply this to the area and scrub with a wash cloth. Check back in an hour, and if the stain or odor remains, repeat the steps.

Permanent Marker Be careful when you are crossing off items on your to-do list, because you could end up with one more. If you’ve managed to get permanent marker on your clothes, place the fabric stain-down on paper towels. Sponge rubbing alcohol around the stain and then apply it directly to the stain. Change the paper towels underneath frequently, continuing to transfer as much of the ink to the paper towel. Rinse thoroughly and then wash as usual.

Fried chicken and grease splatters seem to go hand in hand. If you’ve been sprayed with cooking oil, remove as much as you can with a spoon.

Then apply liquid detergent (either dish soap or laundry detergent) and let it soak for five minutes. The soap will break down the oil. Next, wash the fabric in hot water, as long as it’s safe for the fabric. Make sure the stain is fully removed before drying. If the stain remains, repeat the soak/wash process.

If the oil has stained a delicate fabric, cover the stain with baby powder or cornstarch and keep it in a warm place overnight.

The powder mixed with the warmth will absorb the oil. The next day, after brushing away the powder, if the oil is still there, repeat the steps. Then wash the garment according to label directions.

Strawberries A red, ripe, juicy strawberry is delicious, but often drips onto clothing. Rinse the garment with cold water. Mix one tablespoon of white vinegar and half a teaspoon of liquid laundry detergent with one quart of cool water. Soak in this solution for 15 minutes and then rinse.

Extra helpful tips: • Never mix chlorine bleach and ammonia; the resulting fumes are hazardous.

• Drying a stained fabric will set the stain.

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Keeping Safe Around the Fire Pit

BY OLIVIA K PITKETHLY, MA, LMHC

With cooler temperatures comes the desire to toast a few marshmallows and relax by a warm fire. However, make sure your safety measures aren’t too relaxed. Fire pits have caused nearly 3,700 grass and brush fires in the U.S. Keep these tips in mind as you plan your toasty evening:

Also note that it is illegal to burn pressure-treated wood because it contains toxins that are harmful to the environment. Do not use flammable liquids, like gas or lighter fluid, to light or relight fires.

Sweet treat

Your fire pit should be at least 25 feet from your house and 25 feet from any forest, brush or wildlands. Make sure the area is clear of any debris or flammable objects. Do not set up your fire pit underneath low-hanging trees. The best surface on which to place a fire pit is hard stone, cement or tile, which are all fire proof.

When toasting marshmallows, be sure to use a long enough branch so that the kids don’t get too close to the flame. Because they are made of sugar, marshmallows can act like little bits of fuel. You want to hold the marshmallow to the side of the flame, in an area of glowing coals. If you hold it above the flame, the marshmallows can catch on fire. Once the marshmallow is toasted to your liking, wait at least 30 seconds for it to cool before eating it. You don’t want to burn your tongue!

What to burn

Extinguish

Breathing in the smoke from a wood-burning fire pit can be dangerous, especially if you have heart or lung diseases. The U.S. Environmental Protection Agency warns those with such illnesses to steer clear of wood smoke. Children should also keep their distance as their respiratory systems are still developing and they breathe in more air per pound of body weight than adults.

Always have a garden hose, shovel or bucket full of water ready and within reach of the fire. If you are burning coals, keep in mind that they can remain hot for two or three days if the conditions are right. Always make sure coals are completely cool before dumping them in a trash can or on the ground. Never leave a fire unattended. ]

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Avoid burning paper and don’t burn on a windy evening. If your fire pit has a wire mesh covering, use it. It will prevent sparks from flying and causing additional fires. You should also avoid using soft woods like pine or cedar because they tend to “pop” and throw sparks.

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What’s more important to you: the item itself or the space it occupies?

ASK HELEN

Queries from the Curious I'm serious about decluttering and spring cleaning this year, but I need some guidelines to help me make decisions about all the stuff we have. How do professional organizers help clients overcome their reluctance to pare down?

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Great question! The answer will fling back the curtain, revealing the magic tricks of professional organizers. Organizing power consists of good questions that ask clients to make judgments about personal belongings. Pick the ones that appeal to the little voice inside you and please, answer honestly.

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As you clean up and clear out your space, ask yourself these questions to help determine what to keep and what to toss: ❉ What is this thing? If you don’t know, you probably don’t need it. ❉ Does this thing work? Keeping broken items doesn’t fix them. Kitchen utensils that don’t do the job aren’t helpful. ❉ Have I or another family member used this in the past year? Don’t cheat by saying you would have, had you known where it was. ❉ Will it be needed on a definite date in the future?

Caution: “Someday” is not a day of the week. ❉ Do I love it? Does it love me back? These questions apply especially well to clothing and shoes, no matter how much money you may have spent for them. ❉ Does this item serve a worthwhile purpose in my life?

It might have been a good idea when you bought it, but it might not be now. ❉ What’s more important to you: the item itself or the space it occupies? If you don’t have enough room to keep everything, something has to go. ❉ Why are you saving it? Hardened bath gels, yellowing stationery and old perfumes won’t improve with age.

Use it up or give it up. ❉ What memories does this thing prompt? If there’s no genuine emotional attachment to an old item, is it really worth keeping? ❉ Was this a gift that you never liked? Don’t let unwanted gifts hold your space hostage. Regift or donate them. ❉ Has it been replaced by a better, more efficient model?

Saving the old model while using the newer version doesn’t make much sense if space is limited. ❉ If you saw this in a store, would you buy it again?

A powerful question that often puts you face to face with your truth! ❉ Is it stored in a good place? This is a trick question.

The item may be beautifully stored but it’s still a waste of space if you don’t need it or use it. ❉

Does the thought of parting with the item make you feel guilty? It was so expensive, it was your grandma’s, you really loved it. Notice all the past tenses. That’s all in the past now. Move it out so you can move forward.

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Does it represent who you wanted to be or who you are now? Craft supplies and kitchen equipment are often clues to hobbies that never materialized. It’s okay to let the bread machine go. Who needs so many carbs nowadays?

Save these questions so you can move yourself from a cluttered past and present to an enticing future with room to spare. *  Helen Kornblum is a life coach and organizer in Gainesville, FL. Find her at www.CoachandOrganizer.com. Her specialty is coaching teens and young adults who have ADHD or ADD. gigglemag.com | FEBRUARY/MARCH 2016

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Do you know a dad who can grocery shop, bake cupcakes, iron his children’s clothes, play dress-up, braid hair and construct the tallest LEGO skyscraper out there?

Does he do dishes? Laundry? Carpool? Walk the dog? Change Diapers? Is he the best dad ever and last but not least…HOT? If you know a dad who is the COMPLETE package and deserves to be spotlighted, nominate your HOTTIE DAD now.

You can nominate a HOTTIE DAD by submitting up to three photos and a brief paragraph (200 words or less) about who he is and why he should be chosen to be one of Giggle Magazine’s HOTTIE DADS! Please send nominations, photos and contact information to: nicole@irvingpublications.com.

Please include “Gainesville” in the subject line!

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The Importance of Preschool

BY KELLY GOEDE

Did you know that having your child attend just one year of preschool before he starts kindergarten can set him up for greater success well into his elementary years and beyond?

Even though play is the “work” of childhood, children attending a high-quality preschool are exposed to an environment filled with rich experiences, the opportunity to learn and hone their problem solving skills and, most importantly, the chance to interact with their peers.

According to education expert Barbara Callaghan of Familyeducation.com, “interacting with other children means learning how to wait, how to take turns, and how to listen. These social skills are critical to developing personality and I would not dismiss them lightly.”

Beyond social skills, young children who attend preschool are also laying the foundation for what will hopefully be a life-long love of learning, as they are exposed to pre-academic skills.

“Children who attend high-quality preschool enter kindergarten with better pre-reading skills, richer vocabularies, and stronger basic math skills than those who do not,” said W. Steven Barnett, the director of the National Institute for Early Education Research.

Many other experts in early childhood development echo that sentiment, and research backs it up. According to education researcher and professor Dr. Crystal Ladwig (who is also a mom of two young boys), “children who attend high-quality preschool programs tend to outperform peers who didn’t attend such programs on achievement tests well into elementary school … a key aspect of these successful programs is that they include stimulating activities with positive, nurturing, and challenging interactions between the teachers, children, and curricula.”

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The beautiful thing about

children in preschool is that they don’t realize

they are involved in the critical work of developing their brains — they are just enjoying themselves. As they engage in pretending, circle time, or even learning the days of the week, they are learning how to function in a structured environment, flexing their language muscles and developing

emotionally.

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As a preschool director for over 35 years, Patsye Dulmer has seen her fair share of children entering her school as toddlers and leaving as children well prepared for kindergarten. She reminds parents that children experience the most brain growth from their first through their fifth year of life, and preschool provides activities “to encourage growth in all areas; social, emotional, academic, and physical.” Children cannot make up what they missed in preschool if they did not attend, as preschool happens during a critical time of brain growth. These rich experiences need to happen within a certain time frame.

Finding a high-quality preschool is not about paying exorbitant fees, as programs exist at every price point – some are even free! Whether it’s private preschool, Head Start, or VPK, options abound for parents to find a preschool program that is the right fit for their child. And when parents choose to send their children to preschool, they truly give them a gift that will keep on giving. ]

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If You Want to Chaperone Please Sign Here x

By April Tisher

Your child’s class is going to the museum and they need chaperones.

Are you going to volunteer? Are there specific requirements you must meet? Does your child want you to come along? The answer is yes, on all accounts.

Spending some time with your child’s class on a field trip gives you the unique opportunity to get to know his or her classmates and teachers in a more relaxed environment. It allows you to observe your own child’s interactions with schoolmates as well as other adults and to have some fun learning and exploring new things.

Volunteering can also fill a crucial need for the teachers and the school, because without the proper amount of volunteers willing to help on these fun outings, they simply cannot do them. A ratio of one chaperone per 15 students is required, but more is ideal as it takes several adults to assist the teachers in keeping students safe and on task.

I’ll admit I am usually the first one to volunteer. While it’s true I have a hard time letting go of my kids, I also really love going on the field trips with my children. Here are some tips I’ve gathered to make sure your experience goes smoothly and is enjoyable as well.

Make the decision to go and turn in the forms and any money required as soon as possible. This is especially important for you as the volunteer. Liz Stark, the volunteer coordinator for Alachua County Public Schools, stresses that you must fill out a volunteer application form either online or on paper and have it approved prior to the day of the trip.

Please do not wait until the day of to fill out this necessary paperwork or you may not be allowed to attend. Her recommendation is to go ahead and fill out this information at the beginning of the school year so you are ready to go whenever the need arises.

Be sure you meet the minimum requirements for parent volunteers as field trip chaperones. Per the SBAC website you must: Be a responsible adult, twenty-one (21) years of age or older, unless the chaperone is the parent/ guardian of the student attending the trip.

Register as a school volunteer and complete a background check against the Florida Department of Law Enforcement’s sexual predator/sex offender registry.

Be approved in advance by the Principal.

Conduct himself/herself in an exemplary manner at all times.

Be prepared! Wear appropriate attire for the trip. Please do not wear spike heels to walk around in nature with 8-year-olds or a string bikini to a water park with fourth graders. Bring a small backpack or fanny pack (I’ve heard they are coming back in style) with supplies such as Band-Aids, hand sanitizer, tissues and small pieces of hard candy in case you or someone else needs it.

My son’s first grade teacher gave out field trip “goody bags” containing these simple items and they do come in handy!

Be on time! Follow the bus if you aren’t riding on it.

Be sure to get your group assignments and itinerary from your teacher as soon as you arrive so you can alleviate those students from her workload.

Be kind and treat the other children in your group like you would want your child treated. Some children may not be accustomed to being without their parents and may be scared or act out. ]

Most of all have fun and be a part of the out-of-the-box learning experience. It’s a day out of the classroom for the kids and a day off work for you too!

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Helping Your Child Cope With the Death of a Classmate

BY ELIZABETH PATTON, LMHC

This is an article that I am both honored and saddened to write. As a school counselor I am privileged to enjoy the wonderful blessings of happy, carefree children on a daily basis. The tremendous joy that I feel when entering a classroom of children is hard to describe. The intense delight that children bring us makes the death of a child seem like one of the most tragic parts of our life. There are no words to capture how intensely sad it is when a child dies.

As adults we wonder WHY and might question our faith. We feel the burden of maintaining our emotions, fearful that we might upset the children. Yet, our children’s ability to cope with death is a reflection of our ability to help them understand and manage their emotions in this difficult time. In order to do that, we have to be genuine with our own feelings.

Explaining death to a child means that

A child may or may not show grief as an adult would.

Most children are aware of death, even if their understanding is limited. As caregivers, we cannot protect children from the pain of loss, but we can help them to feel safe. By allowing and acknowledging a child’s feelings, it is possible to help him or her build coping skills. Sometimes we are too quick to try to cheer up our children because it is hard for us to watch their sadness.

Depending upon the age of the child, his or her ability to understand the finality of death is likely limited. Even after discussing the idea of death, children may ask when they will see their friend/loved one again. It is important to use the correct language and avoid phrases such as “lost”, “went away” or “went to sleep.” When children are young they use language in a concrete manner and might be scared to go to sleep, or worry when someone goes away. Questions might be difficult, but remember that honesty and clarity are invaluable. Simply being available to your child is the most important thing. Over sharing details or specifics of the death might be a signal that you, the caregiver, need another adult to talk with in order to process the situation. Too much information can be scary for a child and difficult for him or her to process.

A child may or may not show grief as an adult would. Sometimes we might see acting out or hyperactivity as a result of a death. Teens might demonstrate annoyance and look for comfort from their peer

group. Learning how to deal with grief is like other developmental tasks and is a process.

There is often great comfort in keeping to the regular routine. Though this may feel wrong, it is best to keep things as consistent and predictable as possible.

So, while attending dance class or soccer practice at this time might feel unreasonable to an adult, to a child this familiarity can be comforting. Offering a predictable day with the same rules and expectations provides more room for our children to express their grief in a way that makes sense to them. ]

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With each new school year, we prepare our children for being flexible and adaptable; making new friends, sharing, following the rules, etc. We don’t expect to need to have a conversation about the death of a classmate. We want to handle it the right way because this is a big moment in our child’s life, but we struggle with the enormity of what it must feel like to lose a child. Our children seem a little sweeter, a little nicer, and we want to hug them a little longer and tighter.

we have to be honest with our kids and encourage their questions. Not having the answers is part of the process and there’s no one right or wrong way to feel. It is perfectly acceptable to be sad and share that you are sad. Sometimes the tears will come out of the blue.

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Love Letters

BY TARYN TACHER

Here are some tips for love letter writing in the 21 st century: ♥ Use decorative paper and pens for a special, added touch.

♥ Write your letter as a poem.

Before heart-shaped emojis and Skype video chats, before text messages, Snapchat and emails, instantaneously expressing your feelings was next to impossible unless you were standing face to face with your loved one. Long distance relationships had no option but to thrive off of handwritten sentiments that took days or even weeks to reach their recipient.

Love letters date back for centuries — back to ancient Egypt just after King Tutankhamen’s untimely death. His widow, Ankhesenamun, wrote to a Hittite King asking for one of his son’s hands in marriage. Perhaps it wasn’t as much a gesture of love as it was an act of desperation to avert a wedding to her grandfather, but nevertheless, it’s considered one of the earliest known love letters.

The writing and sending of heartfelt letters peaked during wartime, when separation aroused longing and heightened feelings in couples distanced by combat. Something about declaring love on paper made it so concrete, and holding the very paper that had been touched by one’s lover helped momentarily bridge the physical miles between them.

As technology has hastened communication, pens and paper have been thrown to the wayside in exchange for smartphones and laptops. There is seemingly no need for snail mail when we can share our feelings in real time through a multitude of telecommunication channels. But where’s the romance in a blue speech bubble filled with size 12 Helvetica font?

Where’s the emotion in a kissy-faced photo that disappears after no more than 10 seconds?

Revert back to love letters to amp up the passion in your relationship. Let your innermost thoughts and feelings ooze out of your soul and find their way to your hand as you stroke the page with elegant cursive to manifest your affection.

Whether you live states apart or in the same home, channel your inner romantic in the form of a love letter.

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♥ Mist your letter with your perfume or cologne, so your loved one can carry your scent with them.

♥ Write your love letter in installments – sending

them a week or so apart to build the anticipation.

♥ Do you and your significant other have a special

song? Replace the lyrics with your loving thoughts.

♥ Include a crossword puzzle with hints and words only the two of you would understand.

♥ Write your love letter in the form of a recipe – a

hint of humor and a spoonful of spontaneity go a long way in cooking up a successful relationship.

♥ Include a bucket list of activities you’d like to do together.

♥ Make your love letter interactive by leaving blanks where keywords should go. Let your partner fill them in and send it back to you.

♥ Seal it with a kiss, literally.

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pregnancy

Leaving on a Jet Plane…

BY NICOLE IRVING

That last getaway before baby comes can be very much needed. Worrying about the birth, the nursery, breastfeeding, which pacifier he or she will want and who will be in the birthing room can be enough to make you want to run away to any hotel and stay for a while.

If your travel plans take you on a plane, there are a few things you should consider before boarding.

Traveling via plane while pregnant is overall safe and allowed by both airlines and doctors. However, there are times when it can be potentially harmful for you or the baby. Checking with your doctor before you travel, especially before flying, is HIGHLY recommended. If your doctor clears you for travel via plane, you still may have some needed steps to take per the airlines policy before you can get on that plane.

For instance, Virgin Australia requires women 28 weeks pregnant or more to carry a letter from their doctor or midwife written within 10 days of traveling. The letter must include the due date, whether you are having multiples, whether you have any complications and what your fitness level for travel is.

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1.

Schedule flights in your second trimester, if possible. This is the perfect time because it is after the first trimester morning sickness phase and before the “too close to due date” phase.

2.

Check the airlines policies, as each airline has their own terms for pregnant women. They also may require a letter from your doctor, which you will need to carry with you.

3.

If this is not your first pregnancy, think back to how you felt during your last and try to remember when you started to feel uncomfortable or if you had problems in a specific month.

Keep this in mind when scheduling any flights.

4. Be honest with your doctor and the airline. Don’t try to downplay any health complications or problems just to get on the flight. It isn’t worth it.

5.

Don’t travel alone. If you can, bring someone with you.

6. Keep in mind that you will be on a plane with small spaces, small seats and a small bathroom. If that will make you uncomfortable, postpone flying.

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Check with your doctor to see if you need any immunizations for your travel destination and if you can get them while pregnant. ✽

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Getting ready for the flight starts at home. When packing, make sure to pack light, especially your carry-on bag. There is no need to stress out your body. Carrying multiple bags will slowly get heavy.

Wear comfortable and weather appropriate clothes, keeping in mind how your body feels in climate changes. Ultimately, dress accordingly to sit and wait, stand in line and sit on a plane. Although stylish, heels are not recommended, especially if you have a layover and may need to walk to a different terminal. Most importantly, make sure you stay hydrated and check restrictions regarding boarding a plane with any food/drinks. Eat a healthy meal prior to departure and avoid salty snacks. If taking a longer flight, make sure to get up and stretch a few times. Prior to boarding the plane, make sure that you have your ID, passport, ticket and any other needed documentation readily available and easy to access so you don’t have to strain to find them.

Make it as easy as you can for yourself.

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By REBECCA VITKUS

Gainesville, emphasizes the need to be patient and provide extra time in your schedule in case your traveling takes longer than expected.

• “When traveling by plane, feed the

baby (breastfeed or bottle-feed) during take off and landing to keep the pressure change from bothering the baby’s ears,” said Dr. MorosHanley. “Children over 40 pounds can use the aircraft seat belts.”

• Dr. Moros-Hanley also suggests

consulting a pediatrician if the baby has had an ear infection in the last two weeks. She recommends washing your hands frequently and suggests waiting until the baby is six weeks old before exposing him or her to crowds, and even longer for plane travel, especially during flu season.

• “Always consult with your Vacations are meant to be relaxing and enjoyable, a time away from the hassles of daily life when you and your family can make memories together that will last a lifetime. However, when you have an infant to care for, vacation may seem more daunting than delightful. With a few helpful tips, learn how to ensure that vacation is enjoyable for parents and babies alike.

Think of it this way — babies that are extra small are extra portable!

❉ TIPS FOR TOT TRAVELS • If it’s practical, take a “staycation” to a

• If you are staying with relatives or friends,

be sure to notify them in advance about baby’s nighttime routine and sleep schedule.

Also ask if they have any baby equipment

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• Take a trip to the beach! Living in

Florida, beach vacation opportunities are endless, and the relaxed, low-key schedule of a weekend at the beach provides room for any bumps or surprises you may come across along the way. This kind of trip also works well with baby’s eating and sleeping schedules, as you can plan your trip to best suit the baby’s needs. Don’t forget to stay hydrated and use lots of sunscreen!

• Note that TSA restrictions are lifted for milk and breast milk held in containers that hold more than 3.4 ounces. Just make sure you notify the TSA officer at the start of the screening process.

❉ ADVICE FROM A PROFESSIONAL • Dr. Ana Moros-Hanley, a pediatrician at Healthy Steps Pediatrics in

❉ CHECK LIST • When packing medication, bring

enough for a few extra days in case your stay has to be extended unexpectedly.

• Bring plastic bags for easy and convenient diaper disposal.

• Pack outlet covers and other safety

items to make sure the hotel room is baby-safe. Some people even use blue painter’s tape as an all-purpose safety tool.

• Leave behind your nicest stroller

and bring a compact one instead – think of small hotel rooms, cruise ship staterooms and crowded streets.

• Don’t forget baby’s favorite toys, books and blankets!

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nearby hotel or resort. This way, if you forget anything important, you can run home to grab it. By going on staycation before you take a big trip, you will be able to see how the baby responds, make a list of what you might otherwise forget and gain the confidence to know that everything will be just fine.

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ages 2-3

There’s a Monster Under My Bed!

by OLIVIA K PITKETHLY, MA, LMHC

Monsters, darkness and ghosts are among the top 10 fears of children, according to “Fears Stress and Trauma: Helping Children Cope” by Edward Robinson, et. al. In his book, Robinson reports that these fears are a normal part of a child’s development. They typically start at a young age and may last until middle school. If not properly addressed, these fears can affect sleep patterns, confidence, self-esteem and daily functioning.

Parents should be aware of their own reactions to their child’s fear.

Dismissing it by saying, “There’s no such thing as monsters,” may be a truthful response, but it isn’t helpful. Making fun of the fear or using it as a disciplinary tool are also big no-nos.

Talking to your child about the fear and listening intently to them will help them feel that their concerns are important to you. Ask questions, such as, “What does the monster or ghost look like?” or “What happens to your body (butterflies in tummy, headache, crying, etc.) when you feel scared?”

Helping your child develop strategies to defeat his fear will also give him a sense of control and security. Arm him with a flashlight or a bottle of monster spray made from rubbing alcohol, water and lavender oil. At bedtime, surround your child with her favorite toys to help her feel safe.

Here are two more creative strategies from Robinson’s book:

 Puppets:

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Ghosts, Goblins & Monsters

Read the book, “There’s a Nightmare in My Closet” by Mercer Mayer. Help your child identify how each character coped with their fear. Bring out materials to make puppets, such as socks, yarn, buttons, different colored felt, etc.

Have your child design a puppet that looks like the feared object and assist in

creating it. You can make more than one puppet and have them interact with each other, using different voices. Then help your child design a puppet that makes them feel safe or can rescue them. Play with your child with the hero puppets and the fear puppets and help your child come up with ways he can defeat the fear.

 SEND THE MONSTER PACKING Bring out an old pillowcase and some scraps of colorful material cut into different shapes (polka dots, squares, circles, and cut outs of pants and shirts). Have your child look through them all.

Tell your child a story about the monster that left for good: Once upon a time, there was a HUGE monster who loved the dark. He stayed in the prince’s bedroom night after night. He grew tired

of staying there because the prince was scared of how he looked. The monster really wanted to go home, but didn’t have anything he could use to pack his clothes! One night, the prince turned on the light and said, “What would it take to send you packing?” The monster said, “I was waiting for you to ask! I could use a sack to pack up my clothes!” The prince looked around, found a sack and helped the monster pack.

Then the monster said, “I’m sorry that I scared you and I’m glad to be going home to my monster family!”

Next, pull out the pillowcase and a piece of material and say, “I think the monster needs to pack this!” Encourage your child to do the same, asking, “Do you think this will help him find his way home?” Continue to place items in the sack, and ask your child “Are you afraid when the monster won’t go home?” and “What can you do? Can you send the monster packing?” ]

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ages 4 - 5

Kids in the Kitchen

by JEN HILLAN

Your 4- or 5-year old is at the perfect age to begin forming a love of cooking and nutrition. Here are some great ways to get them involved.

Spreading – Teach her how to make her own PB&J or spread frosting on cupcakes Peeling – He can use his fingers to peel fruits or hard boiled eggs Mashing – Give her a fork to mash soft foods or try a ricer for a different texture Juicing – He can squeeze fruit by hand first and work up to using a hand juicer Rolling – Let her try cookie dough, meatballs or cheese balls Pouring – Put a baking pan under the cups to catch any spills Tossing and tearing – Let him make the salad Adding ingredients – Teach her to make a simple trail mix with dried fruits and nuts

Having your children in the kitchen is an excellent way to teach them about healthy eating and good nutrition, not to mention help them develop a lifelong love of cooking!

While cooking they will learn skills in science, math, art and reading in addition to kitchen safety and preparation skills.

Measuring – Teach him how to use the side of a knife to level dry ingredients as well as how to use a clear cup to measure wet ingredients

Children who help prepare recipes tend to be more likely to eat them. Do you have a picky eater at home? Then you will definitely want to get him involved in the kitchen! Let him pick out a new fruit or vegetable at the grocery store or produce stand, find an easy recipe to prepare together and have him serve it proudly to his family. Chances are, he’ll be more likely to try it since he helped make it!

Mixing and stirring – Let her use her hands (for room-temperature ingredients) or a spoon

The activities your children can do in the kitchen will depend on their age and abilities.

Always keep safety in mind and use your parental judgment to choose tasks that are appropriate for each child. Children as young as toddlers can manage simple tasks and will probably be excited to help out in the kitchen. Take advantage of their interest and use the opportunity to start teaching!

Let’s focus on tasks that 4- and 5-year-olds should be able to do in the kitchen. If your child is older or younger, use your judgment to find suitable activities based on her age and abilities. ]

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Cutting – Start with a plastic knife and soft foods such as hard-boiled eggs, fruit and cheese No matter how you slice it, getting your kids in the kitchen will help them (and maybe even you) in many ways! You can find some easy recipes online, or look for some kid-friendly cookbooks at your local library or bookstore.

Resources: Kidshealth.org/kid/recipes, Foodnetwork.com/recipes/packages/recipes-for-kids.html, Fruitsandveggiesmorematters.org/kid-friendly-healthy-recipes

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ages 6-9

What the Bleep! Cleaning Up Your Child’s Potty Mouth

by OLIVIA K PITKETHLY, MA, LMHC

There’s nothing like hearing your child curse to make you cringe in horror.

The first time I heard my daughter utter a four-letter word, I was in shock.

Where did she learn this? It didn’t take long for me to look in the mirror, hang my head in shame, and realize I was her teacher.

Like many of you, I take pride in teaching my children the importance of sharing with others, compassion for those who are hurting, and being a good friend. But that’s not where the learning stops. Children watch us. I mean, really WATCH us, even when we don’t realize it. They are stealth super-spies, taking in our every action and reaction. And some of those aren’t pretty.

So after my shock wore off, I sat down with her and told her it was a grownup word, not something children say. I was firm, she seemed to understand, and all was right with the world again.

Until a week, and another four-letter word, later.

So, I sat down with her again, and told her the same thing. But, this time, I promised her I wasn’t going to say those words anymore either. I told her the next time I got frustrated in traffic, I would take a deep breath and keep moving. By doing this, I showed her an appropriate way to deal with uncomfortable feelings.

Being firm, talking honestly and changing my ways helped my daughter, but it may not help every child. ]

*Teachable moment

*Watch how you react

Some parents think hearing their child curse is adorable and makes them laugh, but this only encourages the child to curse more. If you think your 6-yearold is cute when he curses, imagine him at age 15 doing the same thing, only worse. And directed at you. Don’t

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the punishment fit * Let the crime

If you have used your timeouts and talks to no avail, and your child insists on having a potty mouth, then let his ugly words match an ugly chore. Have him scrub the toilet, take out the trash, or clean out the litter box. Let him know that if he can’t clean up his mouth, then he can clean up other things in the house.

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Have a “swear jar” in your house.

Designate a price amount for using

different curse words, and have your child contribute to the jar whenever she slips up. For instance, 50 cents for a “mild” word, 75 cents for calling someone a curse word, and $1 for the really, really bad one. After a couple of months, count the money and donate it to charity. © 2016 iStockphoto LP. All rights reserved.

If your child is older and mature enough to understand, explain the difference between someone who curses and someone who can express themself without using bad language. Discuss how one way of speaking makes a person seem angry and disrespectful, while the other makes a person sound smart, friendly and nice. Then ask them which kind of person they want to be.

encourage this behavior. Same goes for congratulating him when he uses it in proper context. Just don’t.

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BY NICOLE IRVING

Tweens are extremely busy creatures. Between their social calendars, school, extracurricular activities, work, family and sleeping, a tween can basically be considered a live version of the Energizer Bunny. These “bunnies” burn calories like nobody’s business. But, with fast food, busy schedules and self-esteem at play, being overweight or underweight may become an issue for these growing young adults.

The average tween male needs about 2,850 calories per day to keep going, and the tween female needs to consume an average of 2,350 calories.

If your tween likes milkshakes, make him or her a protein smoothie with banana, dark cocoa powder, spinach, almond milk, Greek yogurt and acai seeds. Blend with ice and serve.

If your tween likes burgers, make homemade burgers combining lean meat, an egg and shaved carrots. Bake it in the oven instead of frying.

If your tween likes French fries, try organic sweet potato fries. Then try moving to just sweet potatoes.

If your tween likes soda, try sparkling water like LaCroix, Perrier or San Pellegrino. ]

But, it is what those calories are made up of that is most important. The Center for Disease Control states that in the United States, the number of obese children and teens has continued to rise over the past two decades. Lack of physical activity and poor eating choices are the culprits.

Tweens need a balanced diet for brainpower and growth. They should be getting a diet full of protein, healthy fats, calcium and iron. Empty calories and low-fat foods are not their friends.

Healthy fats, such as nuts, avocados and olive oil are great for them.

The CDC states that childhood obesity can lead to heart disease, Type 2 diabetes, asthma and social discrimination. These serious ailments can plague a person for life, so it is important that we have our tweens get on the healthy path right from the start.

If your tween likes pizza, try making it at home instead of ordering it. Pizza dough, skim milk mozzarella and fresh tomato sauce are all you need. Add some of their favorite veggies and there you go!

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Other ways to encourage healthy calorie intake in your tweens.

• Make their lunch daily • Limit eating out • Keep fresh and in-season veggies in the fridge

• Practice what you preach • Purchase a water machine if your

fridge doesn’t have a water dispenser Avoid bringing unhealthy items into your home.

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So, how do we get these ever so moody and disgruntled tweens to eat right and learn good habits? By making sure their food tastes good, looks good and is simple and quick for them to digest and move on.

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ages 14-18

Beyond the Paper Route: Helping Your Teen Get Their First Job

BY LISA KATz

With all of the over-the-top reality shows out there today, it is more important than ever to teach our children the importance of working hard for what they want in life. In fact, there are many benefits your teen can experience by having a job.

A job, whether paid or volunteer work, can instill many positive traits.

Teenagers can begin to feel a new sense of responsibility while developing time-management skills that will prove invaluable throughout life. While working, your teenager will learn skills that will help him or her become a better communicator, especially with adults.

to help your teen make a good first impression: •

Teach them to

• • • •

Make eye contact with the person that is interviewing them Shake hands (usually at the beginning and end of the interview) Be sure to be on time.

Leave their cellphone in the car or keep it turned off Dress appropriately and professionally

A few things that your teen should avoid:

Teach them NOT to

• • • • • •

Bring a friend to the interview Fidget or slouch Chew gum Mumble when responding to a question Lie or speak negatively about anyone Use slang or curse words

Receiving a paycheck on a consistent basis will help teens grow a foundation of financial independence and teach them to save and spend wisely. Even more important, they may gain a new level of self-confidence.

The first step in attaining these important benefits is actually getting through the interview process. Generally, teenagers are insecure and quite nervous about an interview. In many cases, this will be their first one.

“Finding and obtaining your first real job is a rite of passage for most teens. It’s an exciting and scary experience, but one that will serve you well — both for the money you earn and for the lessons you learn,” explains Randall S. Hansen, CEO of Quintessential Careers.

As parents, it is our job to help guide our children to be their best selves.

Occasionally, this can include letting go, at least a little bit. Teenagers typically feel as though they are caught between childhood and adulthood. Getting a job can enable your teen to feel more independent and more grown up.

There is no doubt that your teenager is a busy one, however, making space for a part-time job can definitely be a positive addition to his or her life. ]

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Leaping Into Spring

BY REBECCA VITKUS

There are songs that describe it, legends shared about it and movies entitled with its name. So what exactly is Leap Day, and why is it so important? Even if your birthday doesn’t fall on February 29, it’s important to know why people around the world are adding an extra day to their lives in 2016.

What is it?

Leap Day occurs every four years on February 29; this year it falls on a Monday. The point of a leap day is to synchronize the solar year with our Gregorian calendar, which is about six hours shorter. It takes the earth about 365 ¼ days to orbit the sun, so the extra day is added every four years. Without adjusting the calendar to include a leap day every four years, within 100 years, the calendar would be off by 24 days! This would eventually have a drastic effect on our seasons, which would no longer coincide with the traditional months.

When did it start?

Historically, the practice of including a leap day into the calendar began in 46 B.C. by decree of Julius Caesar. The Julian calendar added an extra day every four years, but it did not include the modern rule of only including leap days on centuries divisible by 400. For example, Leap Day occurred in 1200 and in 2000, but not in 1700 or 1900.

By 1582, there was a 10-day discrepancy in the Julian calendar, so Pope Gregory XIII created the Gregorian calendar, establishing February 29 as leap day and adding the other rules about the year.

In modern days, Leap Year always coincides with the United States presidential election years.

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What about Leap Day babies?

The chance of being born on February 29 is one in 1,461.

The people who are born on this day, often called “leapers” or “leaplings,” were once thought of by astrologers as having unusual talents and even special powers. The number of Leap Year babies in the United States is more than 200,000, with more than 5 million worldwide. Though many leaplings choose to celebrate their birthdays on February 28 or March 1, most U.S. states will not legally recognize the person’s age until March 1. Well-known Leap Day babies include rapper Ja Rule and motivational speaker Tony Robbins.

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Leap Day is now celebrated with discounts and sales in contemporary cities, and many restaurants serve dishes that include frog legs.

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February 1 25th Anniversary Celebration of Library Headquarters 10 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.

401 East University Avenue Aclib.us February 2

Groundhog Day February 5 National Wear RED Day Raise awareness for women and heart disease February 5-7 30th Annual Hoggetowne Medieval Faire Alachua County Fairgrounds Hoggetownefaire.com February 6 Stomp the Swamp for Autism 10 a.m. – 1 p.m.

Ben Hill Griffin Stadium February 13 Newberry Father-Daughter Dance 5 p.m.

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Presidents Day February 19 Passport to Caribbean Nights 7 – 11 p.m.

Florida Museum of Natural History Flmnh.ufl.edu February 20 Junior League of Gainesville Tour of Kitchens 10 a.m. – 4 p.m.

Gainesvillejrleague.org February 20 Five Points of Life Kids Marathon 9 a.m.

Southwest Recreation Center on UF Campus Fivepointsoflife.com February 25 Harlem Globetrotters 7 p.m.

Stephen C. O’Connell Center Harlemglobetrotters.com March 5 2nd Annual Joey’s Run 8 a.m.

Westside Park Joeywings.org

March 12 The Wiz Presented by Danscompany Phillip Center 1:30 p.m. and 7:00 p.m.

Tickets: 352-371-0761 danscompanyofgainesville.org March 12 29th Annual Puttin’ on the Ritz 7 – 11 p.m.

Gainesville Country Club March 13 Kanapaha Botanical Gardens Easter Egg Hunt 11 a.m.

Children $10/Adults regular admission.

Adult members get in free.

Kanapaha.org MARCH 17

St. Patrick's Day March 19 Family Day at the Dairy Farm 2016 UF/IFAS Dairy Farm Open House 9 a.m. – 2 p.m.

Please wear closed toe shoes | NO pets March 21-25 Alachua County Public Schools Spring Break

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