INFLUENCE Influencing people in a positive way.

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7. Challenge them: start a friendly competition between teams or departments, ideally a competition in which everyone can win or learn something.

Keep the competition between teams, not between individuals, to prevent it from becoming too contentious.

8. Celebrate them: celebrate success as a team but recognize everyone's contribution. If it's a big project, break it down into smaller goals that can be celebrated.

9. Inform them: even after their contribution is complete, let them know how the project went.

Especially if they aren't part of the project from start to finish, make sure they know their input was important to its ultimate success.

The main thing, if you want to accomplish great things, you need the cooperation of others.

Motivating others will help you realize your vision, your mission for your success and that of those around you.

INFLUENCE

Everything we do depend on our ability to connect with others and build deep relationships.

You cannot sell a house or buy one, progress in most careers, sell a product, present a story, teach a class, etc. without establishing healthy relationships.

Successful people get better results from their teams, not by brute force, but by appealing to their sensitivity to communicate.

By using a series of tactics, they can influence others toward excellence, toward productivity, and toward success.

Most of us have had or we have in our life a person who influences us positively.

And in turn, we owe it to ourselves to positively influence the people around us, in order to foster our success while helping the people around us in their own pursuit of success.

However, if you don't know such a person, chances are you know a gifted person in your surroundings who can help you in your quest.

During your research remember that a person who really knows how to influence does not sound like nails on a blackboard, but like beautiful music to your ears.

So, how do you influence people in a positive way?

1. Be authentic: to positively influence people, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else's authentic version, find out what makes you unique. Discover your unique perspective on an issue, then respect and honor it.

2. Listen: to positively influence others, you must listen to what is being said and what is not being said. Therein lies the explanation of what people need to feel validated, supported and seen.

If a person feels invisible and unnoticed by others, they are less likely to be positively influenced. Listening responds to a person's primary need for validation and acceptance.

3. Become an expert: most people are predisposed to listen to, and even respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area where you seek to lead others.

Research and read everything you can about the subject at hand, then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

Also, you can discuss on opinions. However, it is unwise to discuss expert facts or untested assumptions.

4. Use narratives: I never cease to be amazed at the effectiveness of a story told at the right time.

If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should relate to the issue or concept you are discussing.

It should be an analogy or metaphor explaining your topic in layman's terms and with vivid detail to influence and make it all happen right.

5. Lead by example: to influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention, and execute with excellence.

6. Identify people who do well: a powerful way to positively influence people is to find people who do well.

Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for the often overlooked, but of critical important things that your peers, subordinates, and bosses do that make work more efficient and enjoyable.

Once you find these good people, name, and write down their contributions.

7. Be praiseworthy: find ways to celebrate the unique qualities and skills of the people around you.

Be able to assess what people quickly and accurately are doing right, then let them know.

Make the qualities and skills of each individual known to other members of the group or community.

8. Be nice instead of always being « right »: for people who lack selfconfidence or those who prioritize the opinions of others, being « right » is important to them. The validation that comes with being perceived as being « right » feeds their ego.

However, in our quest to be « right, » we can hurt others. Once we have hurt someone by being disagreeable, it is much more difficult to get someone to listen for the purpose of influencing them.

In order to influence, it is better not to use intimidation, but to promote kindness, rather than to insist on being « right. »

You can be nice and stand firm. For example, many people think they need others to validate their experience.

If someone doesn't see the situation, you've been through the way you see it, you get upset. Here it's all about just telling yourself that your experience is your experience and moving on.

9. Understand logical, emotional and cooperation needs: the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional, and cooperative needs.

• Their logical need corresponds to their rational and educational need. • Their emotional need is information that touches them in a deeply personal way. • The cooperative need is to understand the level of cooperation that different individuals need and then offer it appropriately.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having the opportunity to collaborate will outweigh the emotional connection.

Remember that if you know your audience, you will know what they need to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people you are trying to influence, you will be ineffective.

10. Your sphere of influence: If you want to positively influence others, act from your sphere of influence. Leave the rest to others.

Gone are the days when being a jack-of-all-trades is celebrated, as most people these days appreciate more people who understand the target medium and respond with expertise and experience to what people want.

As a final thought, influencing people is all about centering your humanity.

If you want to positively influence others, focus on how you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It's hard to influence others if you're still trying to figure out how you communicate with yourself.