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THE LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE A question of perseverance.
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THE LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE
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Even in people who seem most confident, the level of confidence improves or decreases depending on the level of combativeness they exert.
If something shakes your confidence, show a good disposition. Don't criticize yourself. Learn from what happened, think about what you could have done differently, and remember that for the next time.
Talk about what happened with someone you trust. But above all, selfconfidence comes through remembering your strengths and the things you have accomplished.
Above all, it's about getting back into the game as quickly as possible!
You might think that really mentally strong people never want to give up, but the truth is that perseverance is usually about keeping going even when you have strong intentions to suspend or even quit.
1. The strength to carry on: Here are some tips for those who are tempted to quit, but want to find the strength to keep going:
a. Make sure your goals are worth your persistence: sometimes you really should quit.
However, make sure it's not one of those unthinking moments. You might be determined to make a mistake.
This reasoning in addition to the challenge you give yourself, to also consider the possible collateral damage to your health, your relationships, and your integrity that this action will produce when stopping.
b. Remember past persistence: Remembering past times when you refused to give up, can help you be more persistent now. These could be moments of fear, stubbornness, inspiration, clarity, determination, commitment, or a mixture of these.
Re-energize yourself to draw from within you the resources necessary to continue.
c. Take a step forward: don't get caught thinking too much about the future. Often there is something you can do to make small progress.
d. Set your pace: once you're back in the action, you don't want to find yourself in a new slump a week or a month later, so avoid frantic activities that will only exhaust you once again.
As the old saying goes, slow and steady often wins the race.
e. Carry on, even when in doubt: putting one foot in front of the other and believing that your efforts will be rewarded are the most fundamental aspect of perseverance.
However, sometimes this is impossible, in practice at least. Sometimes you are well and truly stuck. For example, perhaps you have contracted an illness or are your ambitions awaiting someone else's move?
Nevertheless, just because real progress isn't possible right now doesn't mean there isn't anything you can do to maintain momentum and morale.
Remember that strong self-confidence will help you identify other possibilities that will surface. To persevere is to continue to seek, evaluate, plan, and improve to better face new potential challenges.
2. Stop comparing yourself to others: whether you're comparing your looks to your friends on Facebook or comparing your salary to your friends' earnings, comparisons aren't healthy.
If you feel envious of someone else's life, remember your own strengths and achievements. When you notice that you are making comparisons, remind yourself that it is not helpful. Everyone is on their own course and life is not a competition.
Surround yourself with positive people and pay attention, to how your friends make you feel.
Do your friends lift you or bring you down? Are they constantly judging you or accepting you for who you are?
The people you spend time with influence your thoughts and attitudes about yourself more than you realize. If you feel bad about yourself after dating a particular person, it might be time to say goodbye.
Stop comparing your appearance, take care of your body instead. It's hard to feel good about yourself if you're mistreating your body. On the other hand, if you take care of yourself, you know you're doing something positive for your mind and body, and you'll naturally feel more confident.
Be kind to yourself by treating yourself with kindness when you make a mistake, fail, or experience a setback. It is a way of connecting with yourself that allows you to become more emotionally flexible and better manage difficult emotions, in order to improve your interaction with yourself and others.
3. Confront Your Fears: stop putting off things like asking someone out on a date or applying for a promotion until you feel more confident. The best way to build your self-confidence is to face your fears.
Practice facing some of your fears that stem from a lack of self-confidence. If you're afraid of embarrassing yourself or think you're going to screw it up, try it anyway. Tell yourself it's just an experiment and see what happens.
You may learn that being a little anxious or making a few mistakes isn't as bad as you thought. And each time you move forward, you gain confidence, which will ultimately save you from taking risks that could lead to major negative consequences.
When you face your fears and try hard things, you will gain confidence. A little fear is normal.
In fact, fear helps you instinctively protect yourself from harm. Your fear can help you recognize when you're about to do something dangerous, and it could help you make a more confident choice.
However, you might fear things that aren't actually dangerous, like public speaking. Your fear of public speaking can keep you from advancing in your career or participating in traditions like giving a toast at your best friend's wedding.
For example, if you want to go on vacation to Europe, but your fear of flying, has you thinking, you might feel like your fear is holding you back from living your dream.
If you find that your fear is holding you back or creating bigger problems in your life, facing your fear can help you learn how to better confront fear and overcome it.
4. Assess the risks: Facing your fears involves assessing the risks, developing an action plan, and making sure you don't completely avoid your fears.
However, you may first need to decide if you need to deal with a particular fear if it is not part of your daily life.
Sometimes fear comes simply, from not knowing much about what you fear. For example, you might fear aircraft because you seem to have heard of many in-flight incidents that have resulted in injury or death.
However, if you look at the statistics, you might learn that the odds of a US commercial airline crash are 1 in 7 million, compared to 1 in 600 due to smoking.
You can also learn more about the causes of these shocks and jolts during turbulence on board an aircraft. It's simply the movement of the air that influences the aircraft and, if you're properly strapped in, it poses a very little threat to you.
Of course, less tangible fears, like fear of public speaking, don't necessarily have statistics to help you learn more about the risks you perceive.
But you can read about other people's successful public speaking initiatives, or learn more about successful public speaking strategies, to help you feel more confident.
Keep in mind that just because something scares you, doesn't mean it's actually risky. Educate yourself on the facts and the risks you really face doing the things that scare you.
5. Create an action plan: the best way to overcome a fear is to face it, but it's important to do so in a healthy way that helps you overcome the fear rather than in a way that traumatizes you.
If you are having difficulty, a mental health professional can gradually guide you through the situations you fear, making sure to work on the thought patterns that are blocking you first.
The key to facing your fears is to design an action plan and develop a hierarchy of fear made up of small steps.
6. Maintain your confidence: in the workplace as in private life, there are people who always seem to be above the situation.
For example, there are spirited employees who are always ready to share their ideas or take on new tasks. Their positive attitude manages to convince those around them that they are an asset. The feeling they embrace that many struggles, to find, is self-confidence.
On the other hand, some people are consumed by doubt and fear, unable to take the necessary risks or to express their opinions. Always remember that self-confidence is as much a skill as it is a way of putting a situation into perspective.
It should be remembered that to be successful at work and in your personal life activities, it is important, to avoid, believes that kill confidence and to manage, sometimes with great restraint, difficult personalities.
Here are five pitfalls to trust that you can work around:
a. The perfectionism: high performers often persuade themselves to achieve ridiculous and unrealistic standards and sometimes get discouraged when they don't meet them.
Remember that everyone has different strengths and weaknesses.
Whenever you fail to complete a project, ask yourself if you gave it your all. If so, you know that you are human and accept that you cannot do everything perfectly.
Once assessed, you need to stop the negative mental reflections and just tell yourself that you gave your best and that your action or work is good.
b. The micromanager: being micromanaged can make a person feel as if they’re not up to the job. Otherwise, why would the boss penalize you and tell you exactly how to complete a task?
In most cases, you're probably doing nothing wrong. Here, it should be noted that fear is generally underlying behavior control.
Your boss's micromanagement probably has more to do with what that person thinks of themselves and has nothing to do with you. If, you are really confident in yourself, no one can bring you down.
A micromanager can make you feel some insecurities but remember how far you've come and especially where you want to go.
c. Disengagement from work: one of the most common reasons for feeling detached from your job, and therefore lacking in selfconfidence, is doing a job that doesn't use your skills.
Everyone has talents and abilities, and if you're not using them in your job, you might want to consider other opportunities.
Another option is to maintain an optimistic and encouraging attitude towards your job performance. If you feel indifferent, try a different perspective or approach.
Maybe you've fallen into a rut or a routine that's wearing you down. Take a different approach that will better support your passions.
What can you do differently that could make your job more enjoyable? Do not hesitate to discuss it with a trusted person and then your employer.
d. The fear of failure: everyone experiences fear and some even more than others. It is crucial, however, to face the fear head-on.
Fear can be so paralyzing that it holds people back in ways they don't even realize and puts them at a disadvantage. For example, someone who is afraid to speak up in meetings might be seen as someone who doesn't add much value.
Or the fear of being yourself, trying to imitate, for example, the boss never learns to truly own what is unique about you. Sure, you want to do it right, but your fear of failing, shouldn't stop you from trying something new.
Or a project may not go as planned and you make mistakes. As long as you learn from these experiences, you haven't really failed.
e. Uncooperative or critical colleagues: working with rude, arrogant, or unpleasant co-workers can reduce your job satisfaction, especially if their negativity is directed at you.
Knowing that you are professional, it is better not to take these behaviors too personally, but rather to make an effort to solve the problems with your colleague.
Clean up your side of the street by asking yourself the following question, are you doing anything to contribute to this negative situation? If so, take appropriate action.
On the other hand, if it is a situation beyond your control, be sure to write down the incident and then seek help from a superior, in order to regain a positive work atmosphere.
7. Balance of work and private life: the challenge of balancing work and private life is arguably one of the biggest struggles facing modern men and women.
It can be incredibly difficult to experience a sense of balance and selfworth as we juggle careers, personal responsibilities, family time, selfcare, recreational activities, social times, community service, etc.
We all know that in order to achieve career goals and also to be active and present with the family, the need to rationalize one's life is paramount.
To do this, you need to eliminate non-essential activities like mindlessly scrolling through social media or checking email a million times a day, and above all, be mindful of the time wasters of each day.
The important thing is to determine where we spend our time and where we expend our energy if we are to achieve the desired successes.
It requires a sharp focus on your priorities and a ruthless elimination of many time-consuming non-essential activities.
People who lead fulfilling lives have distinctive habits, while most people find it very difficult to be satisfied both at work and in personal life.
Successful and thriving people know it's not impossible.
Voici quelques astuces en ce sens :
a. Have a clear idea of what you want: successful and thriving people know exactly what they want to accomplish. They know what is important to them and set very clear goals to achieve in their career and personal life.
These people don't have vague aspirations. Instead, they set very specific goals that align with their priorities, and they dedicate their time and effort to achieving those goals.
b. Define success on your terms: successful and thriving people define success in their own way. They understand that they can only be satisfied if they achieve the success that really matters to them.
Although they recognize the value of hard work, their definition of a successful life is often more general than simply achieving financial results.
c. Defend your position: successful and thriving people understand the importance of saying, « no .» They set boundaries so they can focus their lives and work on what matters most.
They avoid falling prey to enticing goals that don't align with their true purpose, priorities, and passions.
d. Be highly productive: successful and thriving people know how to get things done. They know that to have « everything » and balance their career and personal life, they must avoid wasting time. When they aspire to do something, they achieve it.
e. Be strategic with time: successful and thriving people are in full possession of their time. They strategically match their work to their ideal lifestyle.
As a result, their hard-earned success doesn't seem overwhelming. Try to perceive time differently and you will begin to make every second count.
f. Make decisions with confidence: successful and thriving people make decisions with force. They make choices that correspond, to whom they are and what they really want. They bravely refuse opportunities that don't align with their values.
g. Know your priorities: successful and thriving people have a clear vision of their priorities. They work hard but avoid the « succeed at all costs » mentality.
Although they achieve great results in their careers, they also perform well in the other life activities that matter to them.
h. Do not be jealous of others: successful and fulfilled people congratulate and praise the achievements of others. They don't feel threatened by the success of others. Instead, they are happy to create their own version of success and they greatly enjoy their lifestyle.
i. Be disciplined: successful and thriving people know that they are responsible for creating a better life. They realize that ultimately, they are in control of what they do with their lives, and they accept that power.
They see the vision of what they want to be and stick to their plan.
j. Learn to delegate: successful and thriving people declutter. They delegate tasks at work and in their personal lives.
As a result, they can enjoy more freedom of time and do more of what they love.
k. Be grateful, but not complacent: successful and thriving people appreciate what they have.
However, they also strive to accomplish more of what really matters. They do it because they know they will use their success to have a positive impact on the world.