November 2020 Vol 12. No 5

VOL 12 NO 5

NIGERIA DREAMS

DARE TO HOPE

GOD still ANSWERS PRAYERS

LESSONS LEARNT

OF MY

FRIENDS IN DISGUISE

MORAYO AFOLABI-BROWN Host of Your View, The number one breakfast chat show in Nigeria

SPEAKS ON HER HOPE FOR NIGERIA AND THE FUTURE

Team PUBLISHER/CEO Bolanle Olawale EDITOR Toluwalase Olawale CREATIVE/GRAPHICS ARTIST Tonye Edet DIGITAL/TECHNICAL SUPPORT Adura Arowolo SALES AND LOGISTICS Francis Unufe CONTRIBUTORS Kingsley Okonkwo, Kehinde Adollo, Busola Jegede, Liz Kingsley, Dr Akinfemi Akingboye, Dr Chinyere Almona, Olamide Elizabeth Adeleye, Olufunlola Ifebogun, Lara Yeku, Sarah Williams, Ola Asags, Boma Oruambo, Ibironke Olubamise, Dayo Oluwasanmi, Taiwo Katherine Isijola, Oluseyi Farinu CHAIRMAN ’Kunle Olawale gemWoman is digitally published by gem Publications Ltd. All Rights Reserved, © 2020 For subscriptions and advert enquiries, please call or visit #10 Jide Ayo Close, Omole Phase 1, Ikeja, Lagos, Nigeria WhatsApp: +234 706 931 4010 Email: editor@gemwoman.net Website: www.gemwoman.net Follow us on instagram: @gemmagazines and @gem.event Like us on facebook: gemmagazines

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Contents gemWOMAN MAGAZINE

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Just Say “NO!”

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ETIQUETTE

Nation building is a collective effort and young people must begin to identify the best

Communication Etiquette

amongst them and groom each other for leadership.

ISSUES OF THE HEART

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COVER INTERVIEW Morayo Afolabi-Brown Host of Your View, The number one breakfast chat show in Nigeria 45

ENDSARS FEATURE Lessons from the ENDSARS Protest: Friends in Disguise

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Temitope Omoyefa

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Joy Chizoba Chianu

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Olawunmi Idowu

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The Woman and Her Changing

TESTIMONY

Relationships 60

God Still Answers Prayers

BSS

KANDID TALKS

Body Soul and Spirit Global 2020

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ABC steps in Achieving Executive Presence

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ENDSARS FEATURE #ENDSARS Nigerians

PRAYERS

in the Diaspora speak out 70

Prayers for our Nation

Tomi Favored Alesh

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Anita Adefuye

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CUISINE Easy to Make Desserts

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HAIR CARE

Hope 13

Proven Tips That Promote Hair Growth

Spiced Apple Galette

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Fried Yeast Doughnuts

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Spiced Apple Filling

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Dark Chocolate Mousse

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FROM THE PUBLISHER’S DESK Hopeful 14

FEATURE Should Christians Be Part Of Protests? 28

APPLES OF GOLD Quotes On Hope

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LIGHT REFLECTIONS Living Expectant

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Contributors Taiwo Katherine Isijola is a seasoned expert on International Protocol and

Olufunmilola Ifebogun is the CEO of Blooms Soft Furnishing, which she

Etiquette. Taiwo’s passion is to make an impactful difference to humanity by

established in 1994 and is fast gaining recognition within and outside Nigeria.

promoting societal dignity, decorum and values..

She is an associate of Dorothy Van Riet Design Academy in South Africa and also possesses a Diploma in Color Concept from Interior Design, Texas, USA.

Dr. Mrs Alarape Oluwasanya is a Senior Registrar in Family Medicine at the

Olamide Elizabeth Adeleye is a chartered Arbitrator and a legal practitioner

Olabisi Onabanjo University Teaching Hospital and a member of the West

who specializes in Corporate Law and Real Estate. She is also a pastor, and

African College of Physicians. She is also a certified Geriatrician. She attends

a poet. She currently runs her own legal practice and oversees the Women’s

Chapel of Victory, Sagamu where she works in the Children’s Department.

Ministry of God’s Favourite House Church, Lekki.

Married to Dr. Richard Oluwasanya and mother of two adorable children

Her passion is to help women acquire the drive to thrive and not just survive in

Aseoluwa and Araifeoluwa.

all spheres of life. She is joyfully married and blessed with two nations.

Kingsley Okonkwo is a popular TV host, certified Relationship coach and

Kehinde Adollo is a Profile Marketing communications expert who just wants

highly sought after speaker with well over 20 years’ experience. He is the

to make a change in every little way she can. She loves to be in the company of

founder and lead Pastor of David’s Christian Centre in Lagos. His wit, humour

good and inspiring people. The God factor has been her support through the

and real life styled teachings have made him a darling of the media. He is

years She often asks herself, “where will I be without him?”

married to his best friend Mildred and they are blessed with children.

Dr. Chinyere Almona is a versatile inspirational speaker and Bible teacher.. She

Oluseyi Farinu is a Nigerian Canadian Pastry Chef based in the beautiful

is passionate about leadership and people development. Professionally, she

Vancouver, British Columbia. She is passionate about God and good food. At

has over twenty-six years of work experience, providing strategic support to

Honey and Grace, her goal is to bring joy to her client’s momentous occasions

companies and currently leads a series of corporate governance interventions

through consistent, quality, and delicious treats that anyone will love to eat

across sub-Saharan Africa. She lives in Lagos, Nigeria, where she serves

and be proud to share with your guests. You can check out her work on her

alongside her husband, Pastor Obi Almona.

Instagram page @honeyandgracehouse and @seyi_farinu.

Dayo Oluwasanmi is an unpretentious woman who loves God with all her

Toluwalase Olawale is a law student and beauty entrepreneur from Dallas,

heart, Dayo Oluwasanmi is passionate about fulfilling purpose and maximising

Texas by way of Lagos, Nigeria. She is passionate about travel, youth

potential. Undertaking a PhD program in her fifties combined with the

mentoring, advocacy and authentic living as a Christian. She shares on her

demands of motherhood and career, she is committed to shattering the glass

podcast “Live Intentional” practical tips, and applicational scripture that aid

ceiling in her own sphere of life. She is married with three children and based

in self-betterment, and that of the world at large.

in the UK.

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H O P E Everything may seem in a state of disrepair Don’t lose heart, don’t give up in despair Look up! In Him we have a great hope You do not have to cope In us, He’s the hope of glory He’s working to change your story So you will not worry We call Him the Balm in Gilead He holds your hand so you will be led Give Him your scars He’ll turn them into stars Give Him your pains He’ll turn them to gains Give Him your worry He’ll rewrite it into a beautiful story Give Him what’s left of your money He’ll give you a testimony Give Him your life’s strains From them He’ll bring the new rains Give him all the wrongs And you’ll be singing new songs For your unspeakable shame Don’t worry, it’s a new name For the glory of His fame Yours are not the shadows Look up to see the rainbows You will know no sorrow For He cares even for the sparrow Girlfriend, rejoice and smell the rains He’s filling your threshing floor with grains For out of the darkness Emerges the brightness ~Lamaide Adeleye © 2020

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From the Publisher’s Desk

Hopeful W

e live in unprecedented times

“normal” going to look like? Will the

testimony on God still answers prayer

as there is continued social

vaccine work? How long will it last? So

will inspire anyone that is tempted to

distancing, wearing of masks and of

many questions – and so many remain

give up on God. Can you dare to hope

course Zoom meetings continue. Like

unanswered.

will make you rethink and re align

most of you it keeps looking like a year

yourself with God’s promises for you.

we would like to skip. However in the

No matter what the outcome is, we

Can Christians partake in protests?

midst of all the pandemic, protests,

must bear in mind that we can adapt

This will certainly be a conversation

riots, and record breaking natural

and overcome. This is something I

piece at many gatherings.

disasters around the world, we cannot

have had to learn to embrace and make

lose hope.

a valiant effort in practicing.

Our cover feature; Morayo Afolabi brown speaks candidly on her future

We have to keep believing that

The stories we selected for this issue

tomorrow will be better and the day

are intended to reassure you that

after. We have to keep doing our best

hope and triumphs still remain. The

and hopes for Nigeria.

My hope for you is that you will find

to keep the dream alive and our heads

hope can always be found in times of

time to explore these pages and draw

above water. This is true not only in our

despair.

inspiration and hope from all the

businesses, but also in life generally.

Now more than ever it is imperative

It has become quite difficult to stay

that we collectively stay connected as

motivated when uncertainty seems

this has become vital to our personal

to be the only constant. We find

well-being.

ourselves anxious about the coming months while our country and even

This

is

why

our

at

the world seems to be in turmoil and

gemwomanMagazine decided to put

unrest. Are things ever going to go

together this issue to remind you that

back to “normal,” and what is this new

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team

My hope for you is that you will find time to explore these pages and draw inspiration and hope from all the amazing things and people we have here in the magazine.

amazing things and people we have here in the magazine.So sit back, relax and enjoy. Things are certainly looking hopeful.

Warmest regards Bolanle Olawale Publisher @Bolanlegemwoman

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HOPE APPLES OF GOLD

APPLES OF GOLD

QUOTES ON

H

“Courage is like love; it must have

ope is a powerful thing. It inspires us to do the impossible and helps us carry

hope for nourishment.”

on during difficult times. And hope can come in many different shapes and

– Napoleon Bonaparte

forms. It may be through scriptures, experiences or inspirational words “To them God has chosen to make

The following hope quotations from the scripture and motivational quotes can

known among the Gentiles the

be added to your daily prayers, declarations and serve as a reminder of the power

glorious riches of this mystery, which

of hope.

is Christ in you, the hope of glory.”

– C o l o s s i a n s 1:27 “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”

– I s a i a h 40:31 May the God of hope fill you with all

“Hope lies in dreams, in imagination,

joy and peace as you trust in him, so

and in the courage of those who dare to make dreams into reality.”

“The very least you can do in your life

– Jonas Salk

is figure out what you hope for. And

that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

– R o m a n s 15:13

the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof.”

— Barbara Kingsolver

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”

– J e r e m i a h 29:11

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APPLES OF GOLD

APPLES OF GOLD

“Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And

“Hope is the companion of power, and

now these three remain: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of these is love.”

– 1 C o r i n t h i a n s 13:13

“We must accept finite

mother of success; for who so hopes

“Hope is the only bee that makes

strongly has within him the gift of

honey without flowers.”

miracles.”

– Robert Green Ingersoll

– Samuel Smiles

disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”

— Martin Luther King, Jr.

“He who has health, has hope; and he

“You will be secure, because there is hope; you will look about you and take your rest in safety.”

– Job 11:18-19

Hope is being able to see that there is

who has hope has everything.”

light despite all of the darkness.”

– Thomas Carlyle

– Desmond Tutu “It’s always something, to know you’ve done the most you could. But, don’t leave off hoping, or it’s of no use doing anything.

Hope, hope to the last.”

– Charles Dickens “To live without hope is to cease to “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.”

“Let your hopes, not your hurts,

live.”

shape your future.”

– Fyodor Dostoyevsky

– R o b e r t H. S c h u l l e r

– Helen Keller

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HAIR CARE

HAIR CARE

Proven Tips That Promote Hair Growth

I

Toluwalase Olawale

f you have kinky, coarse or afro textured hair, it may seem as though your hair takes a long time to grow and, in some cases, might even be prone to unwanted breakage. You might have tried different remedies and it seems like nothing is working. You might even be tempted to cut all your hair off, or just accept the fact that your hair is just not meant to grow.

Don’t give up yet, there are a few

Consider protein conditioners. These

things you can still do to encourage

can strengthen some types of hair, but

hair growth and make sure your locks

may damage dry hair. Here is a test you

stay healthy.

can do to identify what type of hair you have: when brushing your hair, if your

Don’t abuse your hair. Excessive use

strands stretch significantly before

of hot tools like flat irons and blow

breaking, you may need more protein.

dryers, tight braiding, tight sew-in weaves, dye and frequent perms ruin

Do not leave in a protein conditioner

your hair. These can cause damage and

longer than instructed on the label, or

breakage, so use them as infrequently

it may turn your hair hard and brittle.

as possible.

Moisturize. Water strengthens dry Trim damaged hair. Trim the ends

hair and may stimulate your hair

of your hair every three months, or

roots. You can apply water, a water

whenever they start to split. If your

based moisturizing conditioner, or a

hair is healthy, you may only need to

mixture of olive and coconut oil. For

remove 1–2 inches (2.5–5cm) every

extra moisture, apply each oil, in that

three or four months. It may seem odd

order. Apply your oils as the last step of

to trim your hair to help it grow, but it

your hair care routine as they help seal

really does help. Split ends rapidly lead

in moisture.

to breakage, making it very hard to grow your hair out and retain length.

Apply hair oil daily. Rub natural oils to the middle and ends of your hair to

Remove products with neutralizing shampoo. Once a month, use a neutralizing shampoo to clean all products out of your hair and restore your hair’s pH. If you use a lot of sprays, gels, and other styling products, use the shampoo every other week.

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soften and fortify hair strands. This will help prevent breakage and can help in length retention. Jamaican oil, castor oil, argan oil, jojoba oil, Moroccan oil, and lavender oil are all good options.

Covering your hair with a satin scarf at night can help your hair retain the moisture and protect your sheets.

Grease your scalp when it’s dry. If you have a perm, grease only once a week, or apply a hot oil treatment instead.

Let hair dry on its own. The heat from blow drying can cause damage, leading your hair to break before it grows to the desired length. Alternatively, dry your hair by wrapping it in a t-shirt and allowing it to dry. A t-shirt is better

Let hair dry on its own. The heat from blow drying can cause damage, leading your hair to break before it grows to the desired length.

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than using a towel as it dries the hair without interrupting your curl pattern and natural moisture.

Wash your hair only when you must.

Washing hair too often strips it of natural oils. Try washing it once a

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Covering your hair with a satin scarf at night can help your hair retain the moisture and protect your sheets. week. Switch to once every two or three weeks if your hair starts to break easily.

To reduce damage, wash hair in

Try to find a moisturizing shampoo or

lukewarm water and rinse in cool

one that doesn’t leave your hair feeling

water to close the hair cuticle and

too dry.

prevent moisture loss. gw

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F E AT URE

F E AT URE

Should Christians Be Part Of Protests?

S

Bolanle Olawale

hould Christians be a part of peaceful protests? That is a question some people have asked especially since the wave of the ENDSARS movement which recently occurred all over Nigeria. Is there a place for Christians in protesting against regimes or injustice in whatever form?

In order for this question to be

an account. Do this so that their work

answered biblically it is important

will be a joy, not a burden, for that

to ask “What would Jesus do in the

would be of no benefit to you”.

face of injustice”? Are there any Bible verses that speak to participating in

Others will argue that the Bible

protests? We know as Christians we

admonishes us to “Open your mouth

are in this world but not of this world

for the mute, for the rights of all who

hence regardless of what we think or

are destitute” (Prov 31:8), and to

feel, the Bible should always act as our

“Open your mouth, judge righteously,

compass.

defend the rights of the poor and needy” (Prov 31:9). Surely the youth

While some might argue that

are those who are “mute” and we need

protesting is a form of disrespect to

to “defend the rights” of those who

those in authority citing the scripture

cannot defend themselves, but should

in Heb 13:7NIV as their reason. “Have

Christians protest or demonstrate?

confidence in your leaders and submit

In itself, there’s nothing wrong with

to their authority, because they keep

protesting or demonstrating because

watch over you as those who must give

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we are to “Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good” (Rom 12:9).

I believe the operational word for us as Christians should be peaceful and this could be expressed by engaging in prayer walks, organizing vigils, speaking the truth in love.

There are appropriate ways to protest injustice with civility and respect.

We have a right to gather peaceably to express grievances and outrage at what we perceive to be injustice.

We must make a distinction between individuals who are exercising their Constitutional right to peaceably

I believe the operational word for us as Christians should be peaceful and this could be expressed by engaging in prayer walks, organizing vigils, speaking the truth in love.

protest and others who have taken this to another step and instigated rioting, violence, vandalism, destruction of property, physical brutality, and in some cases murder. The current confusion lies in trying to distinguish which group is which. As Christians we should only be found on the side of peace. So the question whether Christians should participate in protests would be better addressed by asking a variation of that question “How should Christians participate in protests”? gw

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LIGHT REFLECTIONS

LIGHT REFLECTIONS

Living Expectant Bolanle Olawale

I

had a conversation with a young lady late last year. I asked her about her expectations for the year 2020 and she

promptly answered, “None.” That answer caught me off guard. “Why?” I asked, bewildered that anyone would go into the year with no expectations. She replied without any emotions. “Last year, I was very expectant and none of the things happened, so this year I have decided not to expect anything, so I won’t be disappointed”.

Life at times can be hard and this year has definitely been more difficult than most.

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expectancy. It is important that while we wait for God’s plans, we continue

Having an attitude of expectancy builds the foundation for something great to happen. We have a few weeks till the end of the year.

to create the atmosphere. You can do this by being thankful. No matter how bad things look, there are still some things to be thankful for. Surround yourself with Praise. Your spirit will definitely experience a lifting in this atmosphere. Having the right friends is also very important. You need people who will add to you and not deplete you, especially in lower periods of life.

Sometimes I think we forget that the law of sowing and reaping is a promise of God. We have to believe it and walk

Should we then stop being expectant

you ask of me” people; I recently began

I want to be a “whatever it takes”

everyday with our head held high and

because we have had some challenges?

studying the miracles of Jesus and a

kind of woman. I want to be the kind

expectant because God never breaks

common factor in all the miracles is the

of person who is always expectant,

His promises

I think a lot of times we are so expectant

fact that the people who received the

knowing that because I have sown, I

of things to come, and that is a great

miracles were all ready to do whatever

will see the promises of God take over

Do you want to see change? Invest, take

thing! However, I believe there is a

Jesus asked them to do.

in my life.

action and watch how God changes

difference between expectancy and

your life!

mere wishing. In our spiritual lives,

You see, everyone wants to see

An attitude of expectancy is therefore

in our businesses, and even in our

a breakthrough in their lives or

an outlook of hope.

marriages we often expect a change

relationship with God, many will

but are simply not willing to invest

declare “I am expecting my best year

The attitude that you have while

happen. We have a few weeks till the

what is necessary to see the change.

yet!” But very few people dare to say,

waiting for something is a very

end of the year. Great things can still

“I am willing to do WHATEVER it takes

important key. An attitude of

happen. Change your mindset and hold

Expectation without investment is just

to see breakthroughs in these areas of

expectancy is contagious because

on to God’s word. Live expectant!! gw

a wish. We need to become “whatever

my life”.

it can create an atmosphere of

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Just Say

by Tonja Taylor

“NO!” I

enjoy meeting people and being hospitable, and the Word commands us to do that (Romans 12:12-14).

However, there may be times when, no matter what the tradition has been, or what a family member expects or thinks about it, that you must say “No” to them.

I encountered this very recently when a relative who lives several states away just decided she would come down and visit, arriving when she wanted and leaving when she wanted. She was supposed to come down for an important family event, but insisted she stay with us, instead of getting a hotel.

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This woman has flown all over the

I do love both this relative and her

home, especially while my husband

world and does what she wants pretty

husband, and, at Christmas, my

and I were working.

much when she wants. She has no

husband insisted they stay no matter

children, and I suppose, no current job.

what I thought about it, even though

Before and after work, we both spend

they made the schedule they wanted

time with the LORD. We do pray

and we had to work around it. However,

together, but we personally spend

we were both blessed to be off for the

private time with Jesus. We value that

There were many reasons for this. The

holidays while they were in town, so

time very highly. It has taken years to

main one, however, was that, although

things worked more smoothly than

get to this place, but it is so worth it!

I had tolerated her and her husband

they would have if we were working.

This time, I said, “NO!”

doing this at Christmas time, even

There is nothing like private time with

the end.

though it disrupted several things, I

I still had to ask the LORD to help me

knew deep within that I did not need to

adjust spiritually and emotionally. It

allow that this time. It is a new season

is good to be unselfish and giving, and

So, knowing that if the relative came,

Truth (John 16:13), knows all things.

for my husband and me, and there

showing hospitality is an excellent

our private time would be interrupted,

Every time I have trusted Him and

have been many challenges we have

way to do that.

and that, because we were both

what I knew He was helping me

working outside the home now that

know in my heart—no matter what

However, my privacy was invaded and

our private time with each other and

the circumstances seemed like, nor

I did not have the freedom to be with

especially the LORD was more valuable

what others said—I was thankful,

the LORD as usual. Since our daughter

than ever, knew the Holy Spirit was

protected, and blessed.

had grown up and went to college

instructing me to just say “No.”

been working through, knowing God is faithful and good forever.

There may be times when, no matter what the tradition has been, or what a family member expects or thinks about it, that you must say “No” to them.

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the LORD! The Holy Spirit, Who is the Spirit of

years before, we had become quite

Thank the LORD that, when Jesus went

accustomed to having the house to

Although the devil and my mind was

to Heaven to be with the Father until

ourselves and I had created a prayer

trying to tell me I was being selfish, I

His return, He sent the Counselor, the

room in my office, where I had things

could not get peace about saying “Yes”

Comforter, the Helper (John 14:26) to

that were just between me and the LORD.

to her.

us!

This time, I knew that, for many

I had learned through the years to

So I decided to obey the LORD and

reasons I won’t go into, I did not need

overcome other humans’ opinions

expressed that to my husband,

to have the spiritual atmosphere

and go with the One Who loves me and

reminding him of other times when

interrupted by having a person in my

knows my life from the beginning till

we had had to say “no”—even to our

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daughter—and that it was all right. It

We had both grown spiritually since

Unfortunately, as I expected, she

had been hard at the time, but it was

Christmas, and as I expected him to

bemoaned the fact that, since she was

the right thing to do. Even our daughter

(trusting God ultimately to guide my

flying, she could not afford a hotel.

had later admitted the wisdom of our

husband’s heart), he honored that

The event was only one day. She had

decision, and decided to respect it,

request.

decided, without consulting us, that

which is when the relationship was reconnected.

she would stay three days.

I told him a few things that would test the relative’s maturity to see how

Anyway, she was offended and decided

Even if others did not understand, I

she would respond, knowing that

not to come.

told my husband, and judged us, they

she would most likely be offended. I

were not responsible to the LORD for

don’t like to offend others, but when it

As I also told my husband, if she truly

LORD, my Greatly Beloved Jesus Christ,

our decisions—but we are.

comes down to it, if they are offended,

wanted to come to this event, she

Who saved, delivered, and healed me

it is because they choose to be.

would make a way—as she had made

(John 3:15-17), and continues to bless

a way to travel the world for years and

my life more every day!

After all, I also told him, if we did not

my private time and place with my

allow demons or other unwelcome

So I asked my husband to tell her that

even living in foreign countries in the

guests to stay in our home, why would

we would be happy to take her to the

bush.

we allow this?

event, but that she needed to get a

Ask the LORD for wisdom and courage to say “No” when you need to. He knows all things, and always has the best Plan for you. He always has your back!

I will also continue to guard and enjoy

Ask the LORD for wisdom and courage to say “No” when you need to. He

hotel for however long she wanted to

I find no fault in her and pray this

knows all things, and always has the

stay in town.

lesson will help her understand to be

best Plan for you. He always has your

more considerate of others. Only the

back! gw

She was first offended because he

LORD can help her with that.

Tonja K. Taylor is the author of many

discussed the matter with me, his bride, instead of just telling her

Meanwhile, I have and continue to

works, including THE ADVENTURES OF

“yes,” as he had at Christmas. She

have peace, knowing that, for many

PRINCESS PEARL, P.O.W.E.R.* Girl! series.

had not wanted me to be privy to the

reasons, I was supposed to say,

She and her husband Clayton minister

conversation. But as any good husband

“NO.” This test has strengthened

the Word through teaching, preaching,

should, he not only showed me her

our marriage too. Unity, trust, and

and the arts, through River Rain Creative

emails and his replies, but told her

openness is vital in marriage, and

Arts on You Tube, God Tube), their church,

that as Covenant marriage partners,

I pray this lesson will also help her

and beyond.

we discussed everything.

strengthen her own marriage.

Article Source: http://www.faithwriters.com

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ETIQUETTE

ETIQUETTE

COMMUNICATION

Etiquette Taiwo Katherine Isijola

C

ommunication Etiquette is the art of effective and competent communication.

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Concise: Keep discussions short, sensible and impactful.

Lengthy communication sometimes

Confidence: Keep the tone of your communication warm,

positive and enthusiastic. It creates

This is an essential skill for building

Here are some useful tips for improving

leads to miscommunication and

a very commendable and attractive

personal and business relationships.

communication etiquette:

misunderstanding. Stay on the end

perception to your recipients.

It is a fundamental asset that should be consistently and intentionally developed for personal success and excellence.

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Courtesy: It is important to remain polite and respectful when

communicating at all levels. The use of offensive, unhealthy language and comments should be avoided. Keep it

goal

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Clarity:

We must encourage and advocate for Communication

should be clear. Written and

communication etiquette at all levels in the society.

Verbal communication must be

The manner in which we communicate

Polite and Professional. It will earn you

understandable and coherent for

This is an essential fabric for

or interact speaks volumes: It can

credibility.

maximum benefit. We must check

promoting a harmonious and positive

either reflect positively or poorly on

for spelling mistakes and reduce

business, political, personal and social

oneself.

ambiguity. Make it Simple and Clear

life. It’s time to start communicating right. gw

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“

Nation building is a collective effort and young people must begin to identify the best amongst them and groom each other for leadership.

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MORAYO AFOLABI-BROWN

Host of Your View, The number one breakfast chat show in Nigeria

Interview by Bolanle Olawale

M

orayo is the friend we all wish we had in our corner. She is the host of the number

1 breakfast TV show in Nigeria, Your View. An inspiration to many women and men alike.

Her authenticity is refreshing and appealing as she is never afraid to speak her mind and to go where many people will not dare to tread. Although she has had her own fair share of trials, she is still open about her faith in God. She is not deterred by naysayers and is hopeful about the future and the role the youth are to play in the birth of a new Nigeria.

A true conversationalist, interviewing Morayo was like chatting with an old friend, I’m sure you’ll feel the same way reading through the interview as she speaks on her faith, family, and the importance of remaining hopeful.

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COVER INTERVIEW

How was your life growing up?

New Jersey. I was in a coma for a few

As I remember my childhood, I’m

days, crushed my right femur, lungs

filled with mixed feelings that are

collapsed and had a skull fracture.

indescribable. I attended Corona

Healing and therapy took eight months

primary and secondary school and had

because I had to be in a wheelchair for

a pretty decent childhood. Growing up

a while and I had to get speech lessons.

in a polygamous setting comes with its

It was indeed my “downest” moment.

own unique challenges. Also growing up alone, knowing all my older

How has this moment impacted

brothers had left for school abroad was

you?

rather lonely for me. Although I had my

That experience drew me closer to God.

half sister and brother to interact with

I had to force myself to find purpose,

when I visited them at their house,

knowing that God saved my life for a

that came with its own special drama.

reason. I stopped focusing on myself

Nevertheless, my father sometimes

and paid more attention to society and

noticed my loneliness and would

how I can be more impactful.

engage me in political discussions sometimes. My mom on the other hand

How do you relax?

made sure I did not lack anything.

Before marriage, I used to like watching movies, dining at fancy restaurants,

Describe a defining moment in

and eating new cuisine. After

your life.

marriage,things have changed, I just

My car accident was one of the most

hang out with my kids and husband,

defining moments of my life. I was

not sure I have eaten out at a very fancy

a front passenger driving with my

restaurant since marriage. My “oga”

university boyfriend at the time. It was

doesn’t roll like that. Recently, I have

a jeep wrangler and the rooftop was

begun to watch movies with my kids.

down. He lost control of the vehicle

However, I’m craving for a girls night

and the car flipped. I was later flown

out where we go to dance and do some

with a helicopter to Rutgers University

unusual stuff.

teaching Hospital in New Brunswick,

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What 4 words best describe you?

Leader, selfless, true and kind.

What role does faith play in your everyday life?

God is my source. He has been leading me since I can remember.

More importantly, I have a prayerful support system that lifts me when I’m

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He is my best friend. I really don’t have a lot of friends and he covers that gap pretty well. We talk about things a lot and we rely and trust each other immensely.

down. I’m very grateful to God for all the people in my life that are holding me up in prayer. Personally, I have a deep indescribable relationship with God.

Tell us about your salvation experience.

It happened when I was in Corona Secondary School. I think my classmate, Stephen Obasohan led me to Christ. I can’t remember all the details because my car accident took away some of my memories. I remember I used to be a Moslem and I was fascinated at how Christians dance and are happy during their service. I just knew I had to attend church with them. It was from there that I met with Christ and began my journey.

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two are a set of twins. What has motherhood taught you?

It has taught me patience, love and care. Sometimes, I get quite exhausted from work but as a mother, I simply have to make out time to attend to family no matter how tired I am. It has also taught me sacrifice.

COVER INTERVIEW

“

Don’t speak because others are speaking.

We all have different paths. Your time will come.

make do with what we have.

Your father left a huge legacy. Do you feel pressured to live up to those standards?

Not many people in my generation know my father, so I don’t feel the pressure with my peer group.

However, my father’s generation often

What is the sweetest thing your

remind me of my Dad. Personally, I’m

husband has done for you?

out to make my own mark and not to

He surprised me with the best 40th

live under my dad’s shadow, so no

birthday song, planned a TY Bello

pressure for me.

photoshoot and organized a virtual birthday celebration. I knew he wanted

How do you reconcile career

my birthday to be memorable but I did

a d va n ce m e n t a n d fa m i l y

not know how far he was going to take it.

responsibilities?

I am very careful to know where to

Your birthday song, “Morayoo”

draw the line. Career advancement

performed by your husband

is great but if it will get in the way of

to celebrate your 40th birth-

my family, I don’t take it. I have learnt

day was indeed a very romantic

from my mother, mother-inlaw and

touch. What would you say has

other older people around. When

been a helpful tip for keeping the

the chips are down, your family is all

romance alive in your marriage?

you’ve got. So, I won’t trade building

He is my best friend. I really don’t

that relationship for a career that could

have a lot of friends and he covers that

disrupt that. Also, earlier in marriage,

gap pretty well. We talk about things

we made some intentional decisions

a lot and we rely and trust each other

like moving from 1004 apartments to

immensely. I would have loved to say

a duplex in Ketu, so I’m exactly next

we are romantic but we aren’t. We

to my office. It helped in the early days

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Of course. I have gotten in trouble for

Can you please describe the

We party hard. We love our cultural

some careless talk about my husband,

Nigeria of your dreams?

display in fashion, food and music.

Mistakes happen. For me, I believe one

The Nigeria of my dreams is clean,

We are probably the most educated

of the reasons we have a high level of

has lots of fresh air and we can see the

Africans. We are also probably the

moral decadence is that good people

blue skies. We have young innovative

most respectful and resilient.

refuse to talk or share their real life

leaders, creating and building. I

stories. We must stop glossing over

become a real Nigerian, not just a

How should the youth perceive

successes and triumphs. We must

Yoruba woman. The basic social

their roles in nation building?

say it as it happened so people learn.

amenities are provided and there are

This country belongs to them. They

There are good marriages out there but

no worries about electricity or roads.

are the new custodians and must not

the bad stories are prominent. Young

More importantly, there is a full new

be afraid of taking what belongs to

couples who are happily married

orientation of love and care for each

them. Nation building is a collective

should be open about their successes

other.

effort and young people must begin

and challenges so younger people

to identify the best amongst them

see both stories. Let’s not leave the

How can we as Nigerians create

and groom each other for leadership.

narrative to people who have had bad

an enabling environment for the

Nigerians in the diaspora too must

experiences alone.

next generation?

participate. They should lead in

Hands off!! The young people have

resources and strategy.

What would you say to that

shown they can lead and can be very

woman who is yet to find her

organized. Leaders simply need to step

Do you believe having more

voice?

aside. I would like to wake up one day

women occupying strategic lead-

Don’t force it. It will come, when the

and be told every single leader above

ership roles in politics will help

time arises. Don’t speak because

60 years has put in their resignation

move Nigeria forward?

of building our relationship. We had

others are speaking. We all have

to every political office and they’ll

Well, I think so. Women see things

enough afterwork activities that built

different paths. Your time will come.

be handing over in 3 months. Young

verify differently from men and

our friendship.

Before then, know yourself, get

people will have 3 months to take over

I strongly believe the season we

acquainted with your unique message

the helms.

have found ourselves calls for a re-

You unashamedly express your

and prepare. When your time to speak

views, which has endeared you

comes, it will be divine and you’ll know

What are 5 things you think

Recently, my husband bought a

to many people. Has this attribute

it. At that point. Not even you can stop

Nigerians do better than anyone

well-known branded extension box

ever gotten you in trouble?

you from speaking.

else?

because he expected it to be efficient,

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Women see things differently from men and I strongly believe the season we have found ourselves calls for a re-strategizing and a recalibrating.

COVER INTERVIEW

I was a social media protester. I was pretty

We’ve all watched nervously as

Who would you say are your

consistent online with my messages on

the hoodlums invaded TVC and we

“dream guests” that you would

FB, Twitter and IG. I completely identified

were unsure of what the outcome

love to have on your show?

with the guys on the streets and I felt the

would be. Would you care to share

Every TV presenter would like to

pulse of every Nigerian. If I were not a tv

on what took place that day?

interview Oprah. However, locally, I’ll

presenter, I would definitely have been

On that day, we figured something

be honored to interview Mrs. Ibukun

on the streets.

could happen but we did not envisage

Awosika, Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala-

the enormity. So, that day when TVC

Iweala and President Buhari. Oh, how

What do you hope this protest

got attacked, we were in the studio,

I have so many questions for Buhari.

will birth in Nigeria?

and had no idea what was happening.

It has birthed a new political

Eventually, we got out and some

Words of advice for aspiring

consciousness in the minds of young

hoodlums still attacked us, smacked

media personnel

people. Politics used to be somewhat

my face twice and took my phone. It

Media personalities have a lot to do

considering the brand. I saw the

far fetched but after the protests,

was quite a traumatic experience for

in the new Nigeria. They are the real

brand without opening the box and

it has almost become tangible and

me but I’m grateful that we got out

influencers. Many journalists and

I also concurred it was a good choice

achievable. They have tasted a

alive

media houses are being demonized

for our house. My husband then gave

semblance of power and authority and

out the extension box to his mother.

it is left for them to build on it or throw

What does the future look like

which many believe are unsympathetic

Sadly, I decided to get a replacement

it all away.

for your breakfast chat show;

to the plights of Nigeirans. In view of

Your view?

this, media personalities have been

for our house. When I got to the store

as a result of their various platforms,

to buy the same brand, I surprisingly

What excites you most about the

Your View has come of age. It’s beyond

able to earn the trust and respect of

realized that the exact brand wouldn’t

future?

the ladies and I. It’s a platform created

their followers. They are now the

have worked in our house because we

It’s hard to say. Recently, there is a

for women to continually have a voice.

real influencers. The younger ones

have a toddler. Women consider all

frequent family discussion on possible

So, with or without any of us, YourView

must understand the enormous task

the important factors before making

relocation but in that conversation,

is the voice of Nigerian women. So the

ahead and must be ready to take

a decision. We need more of us to be in

there is still resistance within us. We

future of the show will be in the hands

responsibility for every action and

political leadership

are hopeful that things will get better.

of those who’ll be anchoring in future.

utterance. gw

2023 elections will give a better insight

For now, we’ll continue to do our job

Can you please describe your

to what the future holds. Until then, let

the best we can.

experience during the #endsars

me hold on to hope and not veer off to

protest?

excitement.

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LESSONS FROM THE ENDSARS PROTEST: Friends in Disguise

T

Lamide Adeleye

(Photo by PIUS UTOMI EKPEI / AFP)

ruly, a rich man amid hungry men isn’t a rich man after all; this is just one of the copious lessons learnt during the COVID 19 lockdown and the just ended ENDSARS protest in Lagos, Nigeria. →

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During the recent lockdown imposed

the menial jobs; drivers, house maids,

meaningless deaths and unfair arrests.

in Lagos, sometimes in March, as

artisans etc And oh! They are a huge

It started well and the organizers were

a measure in curbing the spread of

number! A lot of them are jobless, some

eulogized until hoodlums and looters

the coronavirus, many families who

are graduates and many left farming

took advantage of the situation and we

could afford it started stocking up on

in their villages in pursuit of greener

were no longer safe on the streets and

groceries and toiletries. I reside in one

pastures in Lagos and are too ashamed

even in our houses. The hoodlums were

of the gated and well secured high-

to return home to their villages.

now in charge. Police had abdicated

brow estates in the Lekki axis and I

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and overtake and recover all.

their civic duties and fled the streets.

could see several instructions flying

It is inevitable that after only a few

across the social media platforms

days, with no daily income, things

Businesses, shops and malls were

journey, give us speed and ensure

encouraging folks to stock up.

will get tough for them and they will

mercilessly looted. It was complete

victory. The Lord never wants us to

become hungry and angry. Besides

mayhem and chaos. A quagmire we

ignore the poor around us. As you go

“Stock up”? What happens to the so

that, shouldn’t we care for them?

never imagined possible. Even private

up the ladder of success, progress,

many folks at the lower end of the

Aren’t they our neighbors?

residential estates were not spared in

promotion, who can you help along

the attack.

the way? It’s very crucial that even

socio-economic hierarchy around us

Certain things will help us in our

whose survival is solely dependent

With these thoughts in mind; I quickly

on their daily earnings? I asked my

sent a message to those I thought could

My estate was almost attacked but our

insecurity, that seed of greatness in us

husband, who could not agree less.

get my message across directly to the

saving grace were the hoodlums in our

can still be a blessing to those around

Even though the estate is gated and

officials of the Resident Association

neighborhood we had fed during the

us.

well-secured, the neighborhood has

and almost immediately, plans were

March lockdown; the Egyptians we

a number of communities whose

being made to raise funds to purchase

didn’t ignore several months earlier

Rise up and as you do, don’t forget to

residents are on a much lower

food items for these people. However,

when they were hungry. They fended

help those you meet on the way. Who

economic class, people living below

the Estate management decided to act

off the hoodlums on our behalf and

knows? That may be where your next

the poverty line in the Lekki axis; they

and sort these people out by giving

insisted they were the ones protecting

promotion comes from.

are the ones majorly employed to do all

some donations to the community on

the Estate. It would have been a most

behalf of the residents, from their own

horrible and catastrophic experience!!

My estate was almost attacked but our saving grace were the

in our own low seasons or seasons of

coffers. That season ended peacefully.

Don’t ignore that Egyptian around you anymore. Reach out and help the less

The same Egyptian David chose not to

privileged today without expecting

hoodlums in our neighborhood

Then the month of October ushered in

neglect in 1 Samuel 30:6-18 became his

to receive from them in return.

we had fed during the March

the ENDSARS protest; a protest against

saving grace, even though he already

Remember, a rich man amid poor

lockdown

police brutality in Nigeria, leading to

had an instruction from God to pursue

people, isn’t rich after all. gw

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The Woman and Her Changing Relationships

ISSUES OF THE HEART

W

omen are natural

go through various seasons.

support enablers (Ps 144:12). We provide the

Having established this background,

underpinning structures for stability

what does it mean for a woman?

and productivity. Simply put, we are

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wired to give of ourselves, to solve problems, to hold others up and to ensure sustainability.

Dayo Oluwasanmi

Know the season. Because relationships are, at the very least, bi-directional, sometimes

the change is taking place in the life of

As support providers and enablers, we

the other party (be it children, parent,

must be conscious that the pillars of

husband or friends). In what season

structure – as immovable as they are,

of life are they? You need to adapt to

don’t take the shine forever. As soon

that change – whether that means

as the structure is erect and solid, the

being less intrusive, stepping back or

focus shifts from the pillars to other

holding your peace. What change do

items/components in the house. Our

you need to make?

role of support goes through dynamic

peer, we must be open to inevitable

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change.

many of us start off as though it were

changes as we grow. Whether as mother to child, wife to husband, mentor to mentee, or even peer to

Know the season of life you are in. The journey of life is run as a marathon and we are not

in control of the finish line. Yet, too a sprint. We put all our energies into

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Life is lived in seasons whether

getting things done. We sweat small

measured by the process of planning,

stuff. We care so much for others. We

planting and harvesting as farmers

make tremendous sacrifices and we

do; or by the weather through spring,

get disillusioned because we forget

summer, autumn and winter. As

that a different strategy is required

mortals we live through the process of

for running a marathon without

birth, growth, maturity and death. Just

crashing along the way. If you have

like life, the dynamics in relationships

given up so much, perhaps now is the

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Do not be afraid to embrace a new you.

As we evolve so do our relationships change.

time for some reflection and self-

matters begins to broaden. We know in

love. Take some time out for yourself

part and so we learn every day. There is

and consider some of the ‘almost

more to you. Expect change. Embrace

forgotten’ dreams. There is never a

change.

better time to consider ‘YOU’

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To everything under the sun, there is a

Do not be afraid to embrace a

time. A time to love others and a time

new you. As we evolve so do our

to self-love. A time to nurture others

relationships change. Change

and a time to be nurtured. A time to

is certain as long as we live, and this

give and a time to take.

is why we must continually be open to a reframing and repositioning of our mindset. As you grow older, you will notice that your position on some

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Know the time and enjoy the season. gw

BSS

BSS

B

ody Soul and Spirit (BSS) is an annual women’s event, pioneered in 2007 by gemWoman Magazine with the vision of creating an exclusive day of timeout for women to network, get empowered and be inspired for greatness, rejuvenation and destiny fulfillment; through inspiring praise, worship, word ministrations, prayer sessions, special ministrations and various interactive sessions. This life-changing event affords women an opportunity to take time out to receive inspiration, hope, strength, and a mindset shift. They are encouraged to remain focused on Christ and gain the insights needed to live and maximize their full potentials.

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October 1st 2014 [Shine]

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October 1st 2015 [A New Song]

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October 1st 2016 [Radiance]

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October 2nd 2017 [Greater-Heights]

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October 1st 2018 [Limitless]

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October 1st 2019 [More Of You]

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October 3rd 2020 [Sound of abundance of rain (SOAR)]

BSS has over the years, enjoyed sponsorship from companies such as MTN, Nestle, Nigerian Bottling Company, GlaxosmithKline, Ragolis, May and Baker, PZ Cussons, Venivici Spa, Maggi, Coca Cola, FCMB, Standard

BSS GLOBAL 2020 was simultaneously

Chartered Bank, Chi foods, Unilevers,

streamed and translated in Spanish to

Access Bank, Stanbic IBTC etc.

the women who joined from eleven major cities across three continents.

This year due to the pandemic Body

It was indeed a time of refreshing, rededication and reawakening

The ambience of BSS is such that

Ibadan, Dallas, TX, Atlanta, Georgia,

Soul and Spirit was held on the 3rd of

breeds openness and togetherness and

London, Uk, Panama, Nicaragua,

October virtually, rather than being

the main objective of BSS is to ensure

Costa-Rica

held in various cities. All the cities

For more details you can watch

came together to have one event

highlights on the various platforms

that women achieve and live a life of passion, purpose and fulfilment.

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tagged: (BSS GLOBAL – 2020) with the

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theme, “Sound of Abundance of Rain

The journey of BSS started 14 years

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(SOAR)”, featuring various seasoned

ago with about 200 women in

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speakers namely; BImbo Fola-Alade,

attendance and has grown over the

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Bukola Salami, Adeyanju Olomola, Pilar

Glory]

Alvarado, Bukola Bekes, and Bolanle Olawale ( Convener)

years in attendance as well as to being held in various cities around the

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world. It is now being held in Lagos,

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#ENDSARS Nigerians in the Diaspora speak out

Y

Toluwalase Olawale

Tomi Favored Alesh is, a Licensed Vocational Nurse, who lives in Houston, Texas

What prompted you to get involved

info as possible to keep it trending.

in th e #En dSars Movem ent?

(Especially as a Christian) -

oung Nigerians in their thousands took to the streets, for nearly

I’ve messaged and reached out to perceived influential figures such as

two weeks blocking major roads across cities in Nigeria. They

The Bible tells us in Isaiah 1:17 to

the U.S president & the international

carried placards that stated what their grievance was and their

learn to do good; to seek justice,

criminal court via their public profiles

demands were simple “ENDSARS” This Movement that galvanised

correct oppression, bring justice to

in hopes that they’ll hold Nigeria’s

youths from around the world, became known as the #ENDSARS”

the fatherless, and plead the widows’

leaders accountable.

movement. The Special Anti Robbery Squad or SARS had become a

cause. To hear of the levels of gross

notorious police unit that killed innocent people at will. The pain in the faces of the youth as they chanted in the Yoruba language “Soro soke ” which means “speak up” was visible for all to see. The stories of police brutality were chilling and the videos were sometimes unbearable to watch. The youth demanded reform at every level of policing.

The movement was not restricted to Nigeria alone. Nigerian youths in the diaspora took to the streets, marched to parliaments, embassies, organized prayer walks and made their voices heard on social media platforms and on all forms of media.

injustice and police brutality that

My husband and I have attended

were occurring was a literal pain in

protests, and I made a video with

my heart. I also know people who

images from the protests to my

have been affected by the meanness of

spontaneous song “Ignite” to give a

SARS. So when the peaceful protests

visual to the pain.

began, it was not a hard decision to make. I knew I needed to add my voice to the voices speaking out against the evils being propagated.

In what ways did you support

One of the unusual aspects of the protests was that it knew no gender,

the movement, and Why did you

ethnicity, age, status or location; religious affinity was also not a barrier.

choose to support it?

Everyone wanted to see a change and took to the streets regardless of their location.

I prayed, wrote posts, prayed

We decide to interview a few women in the diaspora who actively

information regarding the movement

collectively with others, shared

participated in the protest to find out why they decided it was time to

on all of my social media pages,

“Soro soke”

retweeted the hashtags with as much

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I honestly hope the little I did would add to what many other people are doing so the awareness continues like an avalanche.

Anita Adefuye a public servant living in Regina, SK

What prompted you to get involved in th e #En dSars Movem ent?

(Especially as a Christian) I have always had a passion for Nigeria and want to see the country live up to its full potential. The #endsars movement was the first of its kind on such a large scale where young people stood up to the powers that be, demanding justice. And as a Christian, I know God is a Just God and I do believe that any movement that speaks to justice, Christians should be at the

What did you hope your support

forefront. I mean if we are not, who

would achieve?

else will be?

Well, first, involving my kids was a In what ways did you support

way helping them understand the

the movement, and Why did you

need to always stand for justice and

choose to support it?

speak for their rights. While I am not

I chose these ways because in my own

add to what many other people are

little way I believe they will add to

doing so the awareness continues

I shared posts that would help increase

getting involved, I hoped overall, the

bringing awareness to the issue.

like an avalanche. I hope the topic’s

awareness, I attended the protest

movement will send a strong signal

trend continues unabated, and that

in Regina with my kids. I engaged in

to our political leaders that we are

What did you hope your support

corrupt leaders are held accountable

social media discourse regarding it

not a dumb generation incapable of

would achieve?

or prosecuted for their evils by the

and educated people around me when

standing up for our rights. The idea of

international court. gw

there was misunderstanding on the

silence and suffering has to come to an

purpose of the movement

end in our nation on so many levels. gw

I honestly hope the little I did would

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Temitope Omoyefa is an Identity Administrator living in Regina, SK

and it was clear to see that the youths were being deprived of their basic human rights. Although I could only empathize and pray, I also know that my prayers without work to back that faith is dead. So I decided to get involved in the best way possible right now.

In what ways did you support the movement, and Why did you choose to support it?

I supported the movement by speaking out on all my social media platforms, In Isaiah 1: 17 (part a) it says “Learn

had prayers with my friends and

to do right; seek justice. Defend the

youths from my church, went for the

oppressed”

organized walk/rally that was held in my city and also educated as many

As a child of God, my belief is that

people as I could; both old and young.

being complicit in the face of injustice is just as bad as those perpetuating

What did you hope your support

this criminal act. I have read and

would achieve?

heard of numerous stories of the atrocities committed by the SARS unit

I hope my support will help amplify

and how it has affected families. The

the voices of the youths in Nigeria to

manipulation and impunity of the

bring about a much needed change for

Nigerian government was appalling

everyone. gw

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Joy Chizoba Chianu a Chemical Engineer from Toronto, Canada

What prompted you to get involved

in the mouth by a police officer. All these

in th e #En dSars Movem ent?

compelled me to join the movement. I

(Especially as a Christian)

felt it was time for me to take a stand for what was right and to speak up.

The drivers for me to get involved in the #EndSars Movement boils down to

In what ways did you support

being tired of accepting the injustices

the movement, and Why did you

inflicted on Nigerians as the status quo.

choose to support it?

I got tired and fed up of the narrative, “This is Nigeria. Nothing can ever

I supported the movement in three

Lastly, I supported the movement

change.” There were several videos and

ways: Sensitize people raising

financially in my own little way through

victims’ accounts circulating online

awareness, Protesting and Donating.

donating to trusted organisations. I

that revealed to us a lot of atrocities

saw the value organisations like The

that the police units and the task force

In the early days of the movement, as

Feminist Coalition were bringing to

SARS had perpetrated. One that was

a Nigerian in Diaspora who was very

the table and it only felt right to support

particularly touching to me was of Joy

active on “Nigerian Twitter”, what was

them within my capacity.

Eze, a young lady who was literally shot

clear to me was the disconnect between the diaspora and Nigerians in Nigeria,

What did you hope your support

where the movement emanated from.

would achieve?

It felt as though not many people in my

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immediate circle were aware of what

I saw the movement as a catalyst for

was going on. This prompted me to

change. I hoped that as Nigerian Youths,

support the movement by sharing the

we would be able to effect change across

information I was receiving far and

various dysfunctional systems in

wide.

Nigeria starting with the Police Force.

I hoped that through my support and advocacy for the movement, I would re-ignite the interest of my fellow Nigerians who have come to have a resigned view of what they expect from our leaders.

I also saw it as an opportunity for us to

like tribe, religion and socioeconomic

I also went to the peaceful protest that

come together in our fight for a better

status that have been historically used

was held in Toronto.

country, irrespective of differences

to pit us against each other. gw

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Olawunmi Idowu Founder & Director of Woezo Africa Music & Dance Theatre Inc. Lives in Calgary, Alberta

What prompted you to get involved

Youths who want a transformation and

in th e #En dSars Movem ent?

a rebirth of the Nation. We created an

(Especially as a Christian)

Instagram handle (@endsarsyyc) to keep supporters engaged, raised funds

I actually had my own frightening encounters with the Nigerian police when I traveled to Lagos for my grandfather’s funeral in 2007. The

I knew I could not sit at home in distress knowing that I did nothing to represent my brothers and sisters and protest against their habitual mistreatment.

Nigerian police motto has been “Police is your Friend” but the unit has been implicated in widespread human rights abuses, extrajudicial killings, torture, arbitrary arrests, unlawful detention and extortion. I am utterly disappointed at our unconscious Nigerian leaders who used the military

to purchase items such as: food/

brand and platform and signed several

to forcefully intimidate and disrupt

beverages, banner, megaphones,

online petitions.

the peaceful protesters in Lagos. They

etc. and we also organized a

had shown no regards to human rights

protest and candlelight vigil in

What did you hope your support

or lives.

a show of solidarity which was

would achieve?

heavily publicized by the National In what ways did you support

news agencies (CBC and CTV).

I was mentally and emotionally

the movement and, Why did you

I supported the movement by

drained due to the severity of the issues

choose to support it?

coordinating the media coverage,

going on in Nigeria. I knew I could not

made placards for the protesters,

sit at home in distress knowing that I

This is an historic moment. I am a

conducted radio, television and

did nothing to represent my brothers

member of endsarsyyc in Calgary,

newspaper interviews, broadened

and sisters and protest against their

Alberta. We are a collective of Nigerian

the awareness through my own

habitual mistreatment. gw

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TESTIMONY

God Still Answers Prayers

me of God’s silence during this time

ready to end the call and bubbling in

and doubt began to set in as my faith

the new joy I suddenly felt in my heart

wavered. I found myself lost in the

after the prayers. Unknown to me, the

tunnel of my own thoughts and all I

sister’s husband had been listening

could see was deep darkness all around

to our conversation and prayers, he

me. I suddenly knew that this wasn’t

told her to ask me to send my account

just about the situation, it was a test

details. I did and within the twinkling

of my faith. I knew I needed prayers

of an eye, money was sent to my

ndeed the clouds were very dark over

to stand strong. Somewhere, in my

account that covered all the issues

my life, this time I was definitely

subconscious I knew I had to be strong.

and debts. I even had some leftovers

convinced that I had said enough

I finally decided to send an anonymous

to start my side business. It was like

prayers, yet it looked like God still

prayer request through one of our

a dream! My heart leapt in gratitude

turned a deaf ear. How long will this

selected leaders in the gem group. I

and praise to God. So God had not been

continue? I wondered. I am a woman

stated my prayer point and described

silent all along. He was working behind

of faith and try to live by faith but

the thoughts I had been battling with.

the scene and at the appropriate time

this time it looks like my faith was

I was so ashamed of my situation and

He showed up. I am not ashamed to

not working. All manners of thoughts

did not want to be identified.

declare that God came through for me.

Upon receiving my text the sister

Please be encouraged, no matter what

called me immediately. I was greatly

you are going through The tunnels

Omowunmi Seriki

I

kept running through my mind and

‘ve given...that response came back to

finally, on that fateful day, I thought

me and helped bring me back to reality.

to myself, “wouldn’t it be great if my life just ended”?. I couldn’t seem to

I was too ashamed to even ask for help,

encouraged by her words of wisdom

and dark clouds of thoughts are just a

see a way out of my predicament. I

and even if I wanted to ask, who would

and counsel. I was reminded of God’s

deceit of the devil to keep you out from

looked at the bug powder my landlady

I ask from? It looked like everyone

faithfulness and all of a sudden, the

being reached by God. Take it from

had given me to use on the insects

I knew pretty much had their own

dark cloud of thoughts rolled away.

someone who has experienced the

plaguing my kitchen. “I could just mix

issues to deal with and I was heavily

During the prayers, I received hope

faithfulness of God.

that up in water and close my eyes

in debt. Enormous responsibilities

and faith in my heart. I felt renewed in

in death”. I didn’t know I had said it

were staring me in the eye. I couldn’t

faith,and in fact.

out loud, my second daughter’s voice

cut corners and compromise my

killed the thought when I heard her say

relationship with God, although to

I told her there was no need for the

“mummy you would land in hell fire”.

be truthful, I thought of it at times.

prayer points to be sent to the group

You are just one step closer to your

Talking about getting back what you

Daily, the devil never failed to remind

anymore. She was happy and I was

miracle! gw

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KAN D I D TAL K S

ABC steps in Achieving

Executive Presence Kehinde Adollo

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o put it in simple terms, executive presence is how we show up every day. It’s our ability to inspire confidence, trust, and let others know you are dependable, reliable and capable.

Here are the ABC steps to attaining

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Executive steps

Behaviour: Does your behavior convey negative or positive energy, do you inspire and influence others

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Appearance: Did you know that it

with your character? It’s important

takes less than 3 seconds to make

that you carry confidence without

an impression? It is said that the

being arrogant, assertive without

way you dress is how you will be

being averse, humility yet not timid,

addressed.

these are all good behavioral traits.

The way we look, and package

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Communication:

your

ourselves even before uttering a single

communication must also display

word says a lot about you.

strength even in the midst of challenges, ensure you do not

It can be sometimes described as

communicate as being rude or

charisma or the ability to own a room.

aggressive. Communicate with clarity, let it always be seasoned

As 2021 , beckons what will be your

with grace .

differentiation strategy amongst your friends, contemporaries, and

Executive presence is a required and

stakeholders.

essential asset for every career woman or entrepreneur.

It is simply called “Executive Presence” this comprises your

It is important to take into cognizance

carriage, composure, confidence,

the way you show up at all times.

courage, and care. All these combined comes to play Executive

presence

brings

opportunities, and helps us climb the corporate and business ladder of success .

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Remember your “presence” can either make you or break you. God bless you. gw

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Rest In Peace

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ne Sunday morning, the pastor noticed little Alex staring up at the large plaque that hung in the foyer of the church. The plaque was covered with names, and small American flags were mounted on either side of it.

The seven year-old had been staring at the plaque for some time, so the pastor walked up, stood beside him and said quietly, “Good morning, Alex.”

Good morning, Pastor,” replied the young man, still focused on the plaque. “Pastor Phillips, what is this?” Alex asked.

“Well, son, it’s a memorial to all the men and women who have died in the service.”

Soberly, they stood together, staring at the large plaque.

Little Alex’s voice was barely audible when he finally managed to ask, “Which one, the 9:00 or 10:30 service?”

Tale of two Pastors

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wo Pastors wives were visiting and sewing their husband’s pants. One wife said: My husband is just beside himself, he does not know what to do anymore and he is so tired and depressed he said he is ready to just give up and resign.

The other wife said: I am sorry to hear that because my husband has never been happier. Our membership is growing and we are out of our financial burden, we have such a large and loving congregation. Life could not be any better than it is right now.

One woman was mending the seat of her husband’s trousers, the other was mending the knees.

Prayerful people are victorious people.

Forgiving Others

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he preacher’s Sunday sermon was Forgive Your Enemies. Toward the end of the service, He asked his congregation, “how many of you have forgiven their enemies”?

About half held up their hands. He then repeated his question. As it was past lunchtime, this time about 80 percent held up their hands.

He then repeated his question again. All responded, except one small elderly lady.

“Mrs. Jones?” inquired the preacher, Are you not willing to forgive your enemies?

“I don’t have any.” she replied. smiling sweetly.

“Mrs. Jones, That is very unusual. How old are you?” “Ninety-three,” she replied.

“Oh Mrs. Jones, what a blessing and a lesson to us all you are. Would you please come down in front of this congregation and tell us all how a person can live ninety-three years and not have an enemy in the world.”

The little old lady tottered down the aisle, faced the congregation, and said “I outlived all of them”

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PR AY E R S

Prayers for our Nation

• Pray that God’s will would be done in our nation.

“Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”

Matthew 6:9-10

• Pray that each of us in our great nation would begin to walk in the love of Christ towards one another as Christ demonstrated for us.

• Pray that you and all believers in the nation would seek God

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not

in humility and that God would bring healing to our nation.

proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily

“Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves

angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but

and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear

rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes,

from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land.”

always perseveres. Love never fails.”

2 Chronicles 7:14

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

• Pray that our nation would be able to emerge from its

• Pray that our hearts would love generously and help those

darkness and seek God and be a light to others.

in need in our country.

“See, darkness covers the earth and thick darkness is over the peoples,

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility,

but the LORD rises upon you and his glory appears over you. Nations

value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests, but

will come to your light, and kings to the brightness of your dawn.”

each of you to the interests of others.”

Philippians 2:3-4

• Thank God that He is the one in full control of our nation

• Pray that God would hear our prayers and move in mighty

and over the hearts of those in authority.

“Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God.” Romans 13:1

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Isaiah 60:2-3

ways in our nation.

“We do not make requests of you because we are righteous, but because of your great mercy. Lord, listen! Lord, forgive! Lord, hear and act! For your sake, my God, do not delay, because your [nation] and your people bear your Name.”

Daniel 9:19

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• Pray that our hearts will not harbor any anger or bitterness towards those with different political views or religion and show them love and respect.

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Ephesians 4:31-32

• Pray that our hearts: from those in power to the citizenry would pursue righteousness rather than sin.

“Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin condemns any people.”

Proverbs 14:34

• Pray that the fear of the LORD will rule in the nation and godly wisdom would govern the actions of all in the country.

“The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.”

Proverbs 9:10

• Pray that God’s will alone would be done in our nation and only the counsel of god shall stand.

“Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”

Matthew 6:9-10

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CUISINE

CUISINE

Easy to Make Desserts Seyi Farinu

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here are 2 types of dessert people. The cake folks and then the pie folks. Which one are you? Personally, I am biased, and I believe nothing is as good as warm pie, especially on a cold day. This pie crust recipe is for real the best if you stick to the instructions in the recipe and maintain the temperature. My trick for this pie crust is to pre grate your butter and freeze it. Trust me, you will be glad you did. Happy baking!

Spiced Apple Galette Ingredients

freeze for at least 20 minutes.

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Pie Dough

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2 and 1/2 cups or 315g all-purpose

butter together, ensure all the butter

flour

is coated in the flour. Make a well in

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1 teaspoon salt

the center and pour in the ½ cup of

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1 cup or 240g unsalted butter, chilled

ice-cold water. Using your hand mix

and grated

the mixture together till it comes

1/2 cup or 120ml ice water

together. If dough feels crumbly,

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2. Mix salt, flour and chilled grated

transfer to a lightly floured flat

Instructions

surface and form it to one ball. Wrap

1. Using the large section of your

dough and chill in the fridge for at

standard box grater, grate all the

least 30 minutes. gw

butter on a parchment paper and

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Fried Yeast Doughnuts

aside to proof for at least 1 hr.

2. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper and spray lightly with nonstick cooking spray; set aside.

Place the proofed dough on a wellfloured work surface and gently roll into a 12-inch square (about ½-inch thick). Cut the dough into 9 doughnuts using a 3-inch round cutter. Transfer the doughnuts to the prepared baking sheet, cover with a piece of plastic wrap that has been sprayed with non-stick cooking spray, and prep your fryer or a medium pot filled halfway with a neutral oil.

3. The oil in the fryer or pot should be at 350°F before frying donuts.

Fry donuts 2 at a time so as not to crowd the fryer and drop the heat.

Ingredients

Instructions

on low speed until the dough comes

Fry donuts for 3-4 minutes or until

1. In a small bowl stir together yeast,

together, about 3 minutes. Add the

golden brown. Toss fried donut in

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2½ teaspoons active dry yeast

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⅔ cup whole milk (warm)

a pinch of sugar and warm milk. Let

butter, two pieces at a time, mixing

granulated sugar right after frying

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3½ cups all-purpose flour

it sit for 2 minutes or till bubbles

after each addition and until butter is

and cool for 5 minutes.

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⅓ cup granulated sugar

form. Transfer mixture into the

fully incorporated and dough is soft,

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2 teaspoons salt

bowl of an electric mixer fitted with

a total of 5 to 6 minutes. Transfer the

Doughnuts can be enjoyed tossed in

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3 eggs

the dough hook attachment and add

dough into a lightly oiled bowl and

sugar or you can fill them with your

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110ml of soft butter

the flour, sugar, salt and eggs; mix

wrap tightly with plastic wrap. Set

favourite jam or pastry cream. gw

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Spiced Apple Filling Ingredients zz

Assembly

5 medium apples (I used granny

1. A galette is a free form pie that

smith apples for the tartness and

doesn’t require a pie pan to bake.

red gala apples for the sweetness)

2. Roll out chilled dough on a lightly

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¼ cup brown sugar

floured surface. You would need

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1 tablespoon ground cinnamon

to roll the dough larger than when

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1 teaspoon allspice

you are baking it in a pie pan. I

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½ teaspoon ground nutmeg

rolled mine to about a 12-inch

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½ teaspoon ground ginger

diameter.

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1 tablespoon cornstarch

3. Layer the apple mixture from the

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1 tablespoon cold butter

center spreading outwards, leave about 2 inches to crimp and fold

Instructions

the dough.

1. Wash and dry apples with vinegar

4. Fold in the dough edges to seal

to get the wax off. Cut apples into

in the apple mixture. Transfer

1-inch thick slices.

to a baking sheet. Egg wash the

Dark Chocolate Mousse L et’s talk dark chocolate…

Our all-time guilty pleasure chucked with loads of antioxidants and brain power nutrients. Chocolate is a very versatile baking ingredient with endless delicious applications.

With that being said, I came up with an easy application for chocolate that does not involve baking and only uses one other ingredient.

the chocolate is smooth and melted.

Set the bowl aside to cool.

2. Using a hand mixer or whisk whip the remaining cold cream to medium peaks. It’s important that cream remains cold to speed up the

2. T o s s i n t h e s u g a r a n d d r y

sides on the dough. Bake at 350°F

whipping process.

ingredients and set aside for 10

(176°C) for 40 minutes. Cool for 10

minutes.

minutes and serve warm with your

Ingredients

favourite ice cream or whipped

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¾ cup 33% whipping cream

spatula. I recommend folding the

cream. gw

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½ cup good chocolate (preferably

mixture four times so as not to

55-75%)

deflate the mousse.

3. Fold the whipped cream into the cooled chocolate mixture using a

4. Divide the mixture between 3

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Instructions

ramekins or glasses. Refrigerate at

1. Put all the chocolate chips in a clean

least 1 before serving.

bowl. Heat up ¼ cup cream on the

5. Garnish with whipped cream,

stove or microwave and use it to

chocolate chips or toasted nuts for

melt the chocolate, stirring until all

a crunch. gw

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