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THE PARENTS WHO APPEARED ON RTÉ’S ‘GROWING UP GAY’ ARE CHANGING HEARTS AND MINDS

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atching the first part of Growing Up Gay, the documentary on RTÉ following the fortunes of several gay teenagers as they negotiate life out of the closet, I was struck not only by the strength of the kids’ convictions, but the strength of character displayed by their parents. While the gay teens who took part are role models for young, isolated gay people across the country, their parents are role models for a different sector of society - the middle ground, where prejudices about homosexuality are hidden and rarely discussed. As I explained to Brenda Power when interviewing her for this issue, homophobia isn’t simply about hating gay people, or saying hateful things about them. Because there is a long history of oppression and repression of lesbians and gay people, of stereotyping, prejudice and myth-making, negative feelings about homosexuality are deep-seated and they leak out in all sorts of ways, often without the offending person knowing what they are doing. On the surface they think they are okay with gay and they subscribe to the political correctness that has built up around sexual orientation, but beneath, an often unconscious residue of negative education remains. The wonderful thing about Growing Up Gay is that it showed straight people confronting their own prejudices, thrown face-to-face with those feelings on discovering that a person they love above everyone else in their lives - their child - is gay. I asked Brenda Power what she would say if her own child came out as gay and she said that she would be fine with it, that she would only want her child’s happiness. She’s telling the truth, but it’s a hypothetical situation. If Power’s child came out to her as gay, she could be forced, in the way the brave parents who agreed to be filmed for Growing Up Gay were, to deal with how underlying anti-gay feelings affect the happiness of gay people as they grow up, and how it often creates an internalised homophobia that stymies individual gay and lesbian lives. When I was first asked to interview Power to publicise her new book, I was reluctant; I didn’t want GCN to provide even more space for someone who has expressed what I regard as opinions that are rooted in underlying societal homophobia. But as time went on, I felt it was an opportunity to ask her if she could see that the sentiments expressed in her anti-gay marriage column validated a deep-seated antipathy towards people who were born homosexual rather than heterosexual. I wanted to hold up a mirror and show her exactly what homophobia is, and why gay people need to celebrate themselves at Pride to counteract a sickness in society that judges them inferior and distasteful.

What I discovered is that it is very difficult to change hearts and minds. Power is entrenched in the idea that Gay Pride, as it is represented in the mainstream media with images of drag queens and men in leather chaps, is the wrong way to go about changing hearts and minds; that in seeking equality we are shooting ourselves in the foot at the same time. It is an argument I have heard before, but I believe it is wrong. What gay people are fighting for is the right to be fully, truly, openly ourselves, as we were born to be, and to be treated as equal members of society. If certain parts of our community moderated their dress and behaviour to help achieve the goal of equality, would they be ditching precisely the thing everyone, not only just LGBT people, needs to celebrate - the fact that the world is rich with diversity, of which we are just a small, energetic part? The day after I met Power, in an effort to shift the blame for clerical child abuse and its cover up by the Catholic Church, the Pope’s right-hand man, Cardinal Tarcisio Bertone shamefully repeated one of the most hateful myths perpetrated about gay people; the idea that we are sexual predators who rape and molest children. There was widespread condemnation of his comments, but be certain: the Cardinal’s insidious linking of homosexuality with paedophilia feeds that little beast in many people’s minds that distrusts and distorts gay people. He knew what he was doing, because he knows that beast still exists. The parents who appeared on Growing Up Gay confronted that space within themselves. By doing so in the public eye, they created another space where those who read Brenda Power’s anti-gay marriage columns and agreed with her, or have secretly nodded approval of the Church’s latest distraction, might see the truth of our humanity, as evidenced through the love of the people around us. They might have come nearer the full understanding that we have a human right to equality with everyone else, while being different at the same time. On another note, I would like to take this opportunity to congratulate The George on reaching the grand old age of 25. Throughout GCN’s 22-year history ‘The G ‘has been a huge and consistent support to the publication, and we sincerely thank everyone, from its founder, Cyril O’Brien to its current owners, and everyone in between, for that. We look forward to working for a long time into the future with The George, as our community strives forward together in mutual support.

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WE got mail Diversity Rules Dear Editor, In response to a letter by P Burns in your last issue (issue 224), I found his opinion that a man in stockings shouldn’t appear on the cover of GCN both dangerous and abhorrent. The gay community should not be prepared to exclude others from being an equal part of the scene in order to supply a rose tinted image to straights who might otherwise find us ‘repugnant’. If ‘assimilation’ means becoming part of a bigoted majority to the detriment of ourselves and others, then they can keep it. Yours, Damien Kelly

Uniform Expression Dear Editor, There are many conservative gay people in the world who think that a moderate form of self-expression would make the gay community more acceptable and who would like to quash diversity in order to advance their own agendas of assimilation. One of these people was P Burns, who wrote to you last month (Issue 224), complaining about the winner of Alternative Miss Ireland being on the GCN cover. But P Burns does not speak for the majority of gay people, who embrace and celebrate all forms of self-expression. When a minority starts censoring itself in order to fit in to the perceived norm, that minority looses all its power. It is only through celebrating difference in all shapes and forms that we achieve a society where difference is not frowned upon or punished. To you at GCN I say, take no notice of the opinions of the self-hating few who would rather bow down than stand up and be beautiful and different and self-empowered. Continue to publish a wonderful magazine that celebrates diversity and is proud to put a man in women’s underwear on the cover. Without the likes of GCN giving us accurate and proper representation, we would sink into the mass of grey uniformity. Yours, John Clancy

Late Late Youth Dear Editor, I am writing this after watching two young gay people speak about their lives on The Late Late Show. I wanted to say thank you, not only to both of them for being so brave and articulate and a positive face for all the gay youth watching, but to the boy’s parents too for coming on national television and supporting their gay son. They did it with real emotion and truth about what it means for parents to discover their child is gay, and they did a great service to the many parents who are learning, or have learned, the same thing. I was also particularly taken with the message the young woman gave to the young gay people of Ireland at the end of the interview. I want to say to her that if, when I was a teenager, I had seen someone like her on television, speaking in such a empowered way about being a lesbian, my journey towards self-acceptance would have been made much easier. I am deeply moved by their appearance and I think they have made the Ireland a better place for gay people. Yours, Emma

Festival Split Dear Editor, While I wish both gay theatre festivals that are happening at exactly the same time in May the very best, because I will always applaud the endeavours of those who add good things to the gay cultural calendar, I am at the same time embarrassed for the gay community that the split has happened. While having one great gay theatre festival last year, with huge presence across the city, was an indication that gay Ireland was growing up, having two festivals from the original organisers going up against each other gives the impression that the gay community is childish and egotistical. The same thing happened with Pride in Galway last year, which was another embarrassment. Is it not time to put childish things aside for the greater good? Yours, David Close

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Because of the financial crisis and how it is affecting advertising revenue, GCN Forever hopes to raise €48K in 2010 to save GCN as a much-needed gay community resource. Cormac Cashman, promoter of the hugely popular Prhomo on Thursday nights at Basebar, kindly offered to host a fundraiser night for GCN Forever on May 27, at which 50 per cent of the door will go towards the campaign. If there are any other club promoters who would like to support GCN Forever, please get in touch!

The Grand Hotel in Tramore, Waterford, who are organising a Big Gay Weekend on May 28 and 29, will be holding a draw with all proceeds going to GCN. Thank you to Irene Treacy there for her support. Also, to Rory, Shane and Harry at Pantibar, who raised €420 with an raffle at their Sticky and Sweet Madonna night on March 31. The good people at ABSOLUT have also sponsored the My Big Fat Gay Pub Quiz at The Front Lounge on April 22, giving us a great head start, so a big thank you to Richard Brickley and all at Irish Distillers So far we have received donations online and via our Direct Debit form to the totalling at €6,343. We would like each and every person who has donated to GCN Forever to know how much it means, not only to us and the NLGF, who publish GCN voluntarily, but to the wider community. Along with funds raised at events and raffles, our current total stands at €9,313.

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Dermot Reilly Out and About Hiking Group

“My favourite holidays as a kid were going to Wicklow. I have a particular memory of going through the Wicklow Gap and looking up and wondering ‘what’s up there?’ but as I got older, I wasn’t really a group sports kind of guy. Then I went away to the States on a group holiday and ended up in Yosemite and got completely hooked on the experience. The first day we were there we went up this huge escarpment and it was absolut.ely glorious. I came back and thought ‘I have to keep doing this’ and so I started hiking. I heard about Out and About Hiking through GCN, knew it was happening and kept thinking ‘I must join’, but never really did anything about it. Then in November 2004, I just went along and I’ve never looked back since. Unlike other sports where they have a season and it finishes, hiking always goes on. No two hikes are ever the same. Even on the most humdrum hills around Dublin, you could go there in the summer and it’s easy, but the winter it’s a completely different kettle of fish. I think the thing about hill-walking is that even when you’re with a group, you can have a period of time when you’re on your own, so if you’re shy or have problems with mixing with people it can work well. There are days I’m on the mountain and I barely talk to anyone but I feel like I’m part of a group. As you walk from place to place, you might be talking to different people so you constantly network with people as you go along. It’s the most welcoming group you could imagine. It’s open to men and women and we’re always looking for female members. It’s great for people who like to stay healthy and fit. As long as you turn up at Earlsfort Terrace with a change of clothes, a rucksack, food, hiking boots and waterproof gear, you’re started. For more information on joining Out and About, visit www. gay-hiking.org

European Gay Police Association Meet Garda On Friday April 9, a board meeting of the European Gay Police Association (EPGA) was held in the Officers Club at Garda Headquarters in the Phoenix Park. While Garda members have been involved in the EGPA for over four years now, this was the first time that the association has met in Ireland. The meeting was organised by the new Garda LGB employee network, G-Force, and was attended by 15 police officers from eight different European countries. It was the first time that Belgium and Switzerland participated in such a meeting and almost all Western European member states are now represented in the EGPA. The meeting was largely concerned with the organisation of the 5th European Gay Police Association Conference, which will be held this

summer in Vienna. It is hoped a number of Garda officers will participate in this event. It is anticipated that Ireland and Spain will also participate in the development of a Best Practice police officer training package. The group is currently seeking EU funding and with the aid of the Gay Police Association in the UK, hopes to work with the EU on developing strategic LGB policing policy at a European level. At the launch of the GLEN LGB Diversity in the Workplace Guidelines last month, the Tánaiste, Mary Coughlan praised An Garda Síochána and G-Force as an example of strategic support for LGB employees. Further information on the group can be found at G-Force’s new website www.g-force.ie

queens university gets lgbt staff network Colleagues and friends celebrated the official launch of the Queen’s University Belfast LGBT Staff Network at a reception at the university on March 11. Chair of the National Lesbian and Gay Federation (NLGF), Ailbhe Smyth (pictured right) spoke at the launch and called the Network a “very welcome and timely initiative”. She added: “In November last year, the Burning Issues survey of LGBT people reported that discrimination in the workplace was their number one ‘burning issue’. Discrimination against LGBTs has not been eliminated in the workplace, and I believe it is an issue we all must address urgently, North and South.” In his opening speech, launching the group, the Vice Chancellor of the University, Professor Peter Gregson welcomed its formation and acknowledged the importance to the university of the work of the Network. His comments were echoed by the Chief Commissioner of the Equality Commission, Mr Bob Collins, who drew attention to a recent UK equality report which highlighted the

work on LGBT equality which still needs to be done in the higher education sector. According to Dr Richard O’Leary, a co-founder and co-convenor of the Network, they were inspired to set up the Queen’s Belfast Network, only the second such Network on the island of Ireland, by University College Cork. UCC set up Ireland’s first LGBT staff network two years ago and UCD is now also in the process of setting up an LGBT staff network.

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Gays and lesbians will be descending on Tramore, Waterford in their droves for a super gay weekend this month at The Grand Hotel. Amongst the many acts that will be providing the entertainment are Top Gunz Strippers, The Kylie Experience with Lady Gaga Tribute, Donna Mc Caul, Joanna Ryde, Charmin Eletrik, Cher Guevara, Tyra Wanks and lots, lots more. For all you singletons there’s also speed dating by omeoromeo/julietjuliet on Friday from 7pm It’s shaping up to be a fabulous weekend of meeting new people, games, great live entertainment and most of all fun with a capital ‘F’. What’s more a draw during the weekend will be supporting GCN Forever, so it’s a win-win situation. Two nights B&B with one evening meal costs from €149 for a double/ twin room, €119 for a triple room, or €99 for a quadruple room, per person sharing. There are also special residents-only parties until the early hours of the morning. Stay an extra night for only E20.00 per person and join in the Sunday party at Dignity Bar in Waterford with half price drinks and Charmin on the decks, with a bus provided there and back. My Big Fat Gay Weekend at The Grand Hotel, Tramore, May 28 and 29, email irene@grand-hotel.ie for further information

GIVE A LITTLE WHISTLE Musical fans get ready because the Andrew Lloyd Webber/Jim Steinman hit show, Whistle Down The Wind is coming to the Grand Canal Theatre, Dublin from May 11 to 22. This re-working of the ‘60s film (starring Hayley Mills) tells the story of a pair of children who come across an escaped convict in their barn and believe that he is the second coming of Jesus Christ, as played here by G4 hottie, Jonathan Ansell. We have a pair of tickets to give away to one lucky winner.

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TEN THINGS/FEBRUARY MAY 2 CANDI STATON The fist lady of southern soul gets funky at The Pavillion in Cork. MAY 3 FLORENCE AND THE MACHINE Dog days might be over but Flo and co’s popularity sure ain’t. Catch them at The Olympia in Dublin

electro pop pioneers CocoRosie, hitting the stage at The Button Factory. MAY 14 BOY GEORGE Doing time in the DJ booth at Tripod, expect the place to be hoppin’. MAY 15 & 16 KELE OKEREKE Former Bloc Party singer takes to the stage of Cyprus Avenue in Cork and The Academy in Dublin the following night.

MAY 8 ZRAZY Still Zrazy after all these years, performing at Bewleys Café Theatre at 9pm and in residence at Harvey Nichols in Dundrum for Sunday brunch from May 2 at 12.30pm.

MAY 20 HURTS ‘80s retro synthesiser duo, Hurts look oh, so gay. Please say they are! At Whelan’s in Dublin and well worth a look.

MAY 10 TO 22 WHISTLE DOWN THE WIND The first big West End musical to reach Dublin’s Grand Canal Theatre sees Andrew Lloyd Webber finding Jesus (again).

MAY 21 & 22 SIMON AMSTELL The gay Never Mind The Buzzcocks man presents his new show, Do Nothing, at Vicar Street. We lurve him! MAY 27 & 28 CHIC The gods of disco descend on The Savoy in Cork, and Tripod in Dublin one night later.

MAY 11 COCOROSIE Rockin’ sisterly antics from the cute

EVENT A brand new gay group (anyone can join but places are limited), the Film Qlub will show lesser known gay films of high quality once a month in Dublin. Each screening will be followed by an open discussion over tea and cake. The Film Qlub will have themed seasons of ten films each. Their first season will show silent and pre-censorship code (1934) films. To find more information on this unique first season at the Film Qlub, and of other related film events, check up their website by searching Film Qlub on google or drop a line to filmqlub@gmail.com If you are somewhere else in Ireland and would like to get to see these films, contact them, because there are plans for a Film Qlub on tour.

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Dil Wickremasinghe from Dublin My first job back in Sri Lanka was in radio. When, I came to Ireland I jumped at an opportunity to volunteer at a community radio station in Blanchardstown. After about two or three years of presenting at Phoenix FM I heard that Newstalk was looking for a migrant to present a multicultural program. I met with them and got the job. Last May we decided to widen the scope by adding and focusing more on the issue of equality, which seemed to increase our attraction to listeners. We were asked to go into a more favourable slot on Wednesdays. There are a lot of very angry people out there. Some of the text messages that come in as a response to the radio show are actually frightening. With the recession, all the training that had been in put in place to combat racism has been done away with and anger and resentment are floating up to the top again. Ireland needs to have a serious discussion with itself about racism. It’s not just the present issues that make this necessary, it goes further back than that. Just look at how the Irish Traveller community is, and have been, treated. There is not much diversity in the Irish media. This is part of the reason for me having taken this job on. But of course the media is not the only place lacking in migrant representation, the wider arena is desperately in need of it as well, for things to become normalised somehow. I was given residency on the basis of my same-sex relationship, and this is a major reason for my being very hopeful about Ireland. I’ve lived in Sri Lanka, Italy and Bahrain and must say that I think the Irish have a unique experience and understanding of migration, immigration and integration. The closest I ever came to experiencing prejudice myself came from within our very own LGBT community, which is very sad, and makes it necessary for me to finish with the following words, equality starts at home. Global Village airs live on Newstalk 106-108FM every Saturday from 7 to 9pm. Visit Dil’s blog: http://dwickremasinghe.ie where you can find information on further initiatives started by her.

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This year, that old grande dame of the scene herself, The George, has reached the ripe old age of 25 and there’s a whole host of fantastic events lined up in celebration. Expect thrilling drag performances, celebrity guest appearances, great holiday giveaways, birthday cake, candles and lots more! Among the highlights: Veda Beaux Reeves will be taking you on a trip down memory lane with Videodrome on May 12, a retrospective of video art and multimedia performances down through the years. Then there’s Dance with Davina! on May 13, a sizzling-hot summer party, where swimwear is optional and 500 worth of holiday vouchers are up for grabs! May 14 is 25th Birthday Bonanza, so get your glad rags on and prepare for a night of unbridaled camp as Four Poofs and a Piano help the resident drag queens blow out the birthday candles. Shirley’s Silver Jubilee Bingo Jamboree (what a mouthful!) rounds off the celebrations by introducing Shirley’s

brand new electronic bingo balls on May 16. In other news, scene queen Kristin Kapelli will be getting up to all sorts of diva antics at her new Absolut Gay Theatre Festival show, Viva La Diva on May 5 to 8 at Smock Alley from 8pm. Complete with her boys, Pav and Eamonn and (another!) Eamonn she’ll be taking us through the divas of the decades. Cannae wait (as they say in Scotland). Monthly night Cake, enjoying it’s new Friday spot, will be getting Dublin’s lesbians and their gay mates in a tizzy on May 14 at The Academy. Also entertaining the Sapphic sisters and their gay brothers in arms this month is Kiss, which will shake a tail feather or two at The Tivoli on April 30. PrHomo is still kicking the funky beats every Thursday at Basebar, Wicklow Street from 10pm, and this month the club is holding a special fundraiser for GCN Forever, on April 27 with 50 per cent of the door going to the campaign to save your favourite gay magazine. After great success at Cassidy’s Bar last month, new over-25’s women’s night, Miss Match moves to the airier confines of The Morrison Hotel on May 15 with DJ Jules ratcheting up the retro grooves from 9pm. Resident tune guru Miss Davina Devina spins the decks every Thursday from 10pm at The George, while up the road in Tripod on Saturdays, SUPERSUPERDISCO for boys, gals and everything in-between gets the party started. If you have an event or club night you would like included in this column, email editor@gcn.ie with full details

EVERYTHING BUT THE PALE LIMERICK Thursday is Karaoke Night at Riddler’s with the one and only Fada, while Friday ushers in drag show supreme with Pearlstar, Leslie B Ann, Heidi Hotlips and guests. It’s party night on Saturday and finishing off the weekend on Sunday is hangover barbeque. Alternatively La Boutique is on every second Saturday in Dolan’s. CORK Ruby’s is open every Friday and Sunday with the daring DJ Jules. Chambers becomes Sinners every Wednesday night, Daisy Dripps brings you her garden patch on Thursdays, and Sunday nights feature Joanna Ryde’s Bingo Wings. Meanwhile, across the river in Loafers, Tuesday is open DJ night. Wednesday sees midweek madness with DJ Sinéad, while Fridays and Saturdays are always hopping! After closing a few months ago, Instinct re-opens this month. Check out www.GayCork.com for details. KILKENNY Joanna Ryde returns this month with something new and exciting for Thursday nights. Charmin Eletrik plays all your favourite hits on Friday nights and Saturday nights, join DJ Fran Duggan and DJ Shaz who are joined every week by special guests. WATERFORD All new for Mondays at Dignity Waterford is the Karaoke World Championship Waterford heats. You could win a chance to represent Ireland at the finals in Moscow. Tuesday sees all-new salsa classes kicking up a storm. Wednesday is Charmin’s Bingo Bonanza with your chance to win the jackpot and other prizes. The Tyra and Cher show is on Thursdays with karaoke, comedy and randomness. DJ Fran Duggan plays all your favourite hits on Fridays while on Saturday join Charmin, Joanna, Tyra, Cher and a host of special guests for The Pop Eletrik Show. GALWAY On May 2, Sébastien Léger is the first guest in a new season of events with the 515 club from Tripod in Dublin who will be hosting monthly parties in the upstairs venue in Galway’s Kelly’s. There is a strong line up of International guests lined up for the summer months and beyond and backed up well by local and national residents, and the gays will be out in force. Meanwhile, every Saturday at the Warwick Hotel in Salthill, get down with Galway’s current club du gay jour, Eden from 11pm. SLIGO It’s all camp glamorama at Miss Honey’s Speakeasy cabaret at Tobergal Lane on Saturday, May 8. Expect your favourite acts doing their thing, with special guests including the show-stopping Sinéad Conway belting out torch songs galore.

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Sound Bytes On MiPod We do love a big star returning to the pop world and this month is a zinger in that respect. Christina Aguilera returns with her blistering new single, Not Myself Tonight. A slick piece of synth-infused R’n’B pop, it’s a welcome return from one of the biggest voices in pop. Another returning queen of queer heartsKelis with David Guetta-produced track Acapella. An uplifting and euphoric slice of commerical dance music, this is a good contender for song of the summer. It’s been a while since Sophie Ellis Bextor was a staple of the gay dancefloor, but her new track Bittersweet should change all that. With a firm hand from the Freemasons (among others), it lumps a big chorus with her typically icy delivery. Similarly poptastic is Aggros Santos, who has roped in former Pussycat Doll, Kimberley Wyatt in for his new single, Candy. One of the catchiest tracks we’ve heard in a while, this Wiley-lite style club track is likely to eat up airwaves over the next few months. Alt-drag diva Veda Beaux Reves hits the dancefloor with her super electro-retro single , Miss You Much (Just A Tad). The Edwin James mixes included in this little gorgeous package give it plenty of attitude - think Madonna meets Human Leage and you’re nearly there. In a completely different vein is Hole’s triumphant new single Skinny Little Bitch. Filled with snarly attitude, like Courtney Love never left, it’s a perfect taster for their forthcoming album. With that in mind, we’ve a mixed bag of albums this month. Crookers unleash Tons of Friends, their jaw-dropping debut featuring a range of high-profile guests, including Roisín Murphy, Will.I.Am, Pitbull, Yelle, Soulwax and Miike Snow. It’s an exciting and energetic record that will be the soundtrack to every great party over the next six months. Scouting for Girls deliver more solid pop with their second release Everybody Wants To Be On TV. It’s a bit twee and cheesy in places but there is still plenty of solid songwriting to be found. Our obligatory tween pop entry this month is surprisingly enjoyable too. Selena Gomez and The Scene, the Disney starlet’s musical project, give us Kiss and Tell, a solid rock effort in the vein of Katy Perry. With plenty of catchy moments, it’s proof that bubblegum tween junk can still appeal to all. Naturally, an infectious punch of Miley-style attitude. Conor Behan

DJ Jules

1. Momma’s Place - Róisín Murphy This has to be my favourite song at the moment. It’s classic Róisín, packed full of wit and attitude, with a killer beat. The best thing about this tune is the mixture of elements, the ‘80s-style synths, reminiscent of Kim Wilde’s Keep Me Hanging On, married with ‘90s-style house keys, lending it massive body and a truly timeless sound. Awesome! 2. Don’t Look Back - Telepopmusik If you’re a fan of zero7, Air or Goldfrapp, you will love this. It’s definitely one of the best chill-out songs, with its ambient, wispy flow that gets you daydreaming in seconds. The real gift in this song is the sweet huskiness of Angela McClusky’s voice. Her vocal is without doubt one of the most unique recorded in the last decade. Great easy listening - check it out. 3. Why Don’t You - Gramaphonedzie When I’m in the mood for dancing this has to go

on. Gramaphonedzie do an epic job of marrying old and new, taking 1940s blues/jazz style pop classic, Why Don’t You Do Right by Peggy Lee, cutting and splicing it, and laying on a monster dance beat. Makes for a great ‘blazin’ out the car’ tune (if you’re into that sort of thing)! DJ JULES is a prominent DJ on Cork’s gay scene, holding residencies in both Chambers Bar and Ruby’s Nightclub. Jules can also be found in the spotlight performing with her band, Jules and the Boys, or as part of her popular Lady GaGa and Britney tribute shows. Contact her on facebook at www. facebook.com/juleswalsh or gagaincork@ gmail.com

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Goldfrapp may have gone through a folk music wringer or two with their last release, but Headfirst (Mute) sees them back on more up-tempo ground. Taking cues from jubilant ‘80s pop in the vein of Irene Cara and Van Halen (no, really), this is fizzy and fresh pop. There are gems throughout, not least stunning lead single Rocket, the Abba-esque Alive and the anthemic I Wanna Life. Still, for all the fun, it’s thin sounding and half-baked in places, a bit like Goldfrapp on autopilot. You’ll find lots to enjoy here but ultimately it’s an unsatisfying collection. 7/10

Goldfrapp maybe be doing their best ‘80s pastiche but Californian act, Music Go Music are deliberately reaching into heyday of ‘70s disco with their debut Expressions (Mercury). Rather than sounding completely retro it takes the best of the era’s MOR rock (think The Carpenters), mixes it with power chords and creates something exciting and new. This is catchy, glorious music with an off-beat quality that makes it truly charming. From the funk breakdown of Reach Out or the Abba-wail of I Walk Alone, it’s an album bursting with ideas and energy and a sense of fun. Essential listening. 9/10

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Hot Reels First up and certainly one of the most eagerly anticipated sequels of recent years is Iron Man 2 (May 7), once again starring Robert Downey Jr. Following on from the first instalment, Tony Stark has outed himself to the world as Iron Man, leading the US Army to take a break from discriminating against gay soldiers and demand that Stark share the technology behind his supremely powerful super-suit. Being a billionaire playboy with infinite resources and a debonair moustache, he tells them (suavely) to shove it, forcing the Army to develop their own armoured suit. This time, instead of Stark’s antagonists being insurgents of Middle Eastern descent, the film’s producers have gone for a classic Cold War-esque villain in the form of Ivan ‘Whiplash’ Vanko, played with suitably hammy panache by grizzled veteran, Mickey Rourke. Also making appearances are Scarlett Johanson as The Black Widow (expect more fake Russian accents, comrade!) and more importantly, Samuel L Jackson as S.H.I.E.L.D head honcho, Nick Fury. Next up is Robin Hood (May 14), starring everyone’s favourite Antipodean scrapper, Russell Crowe as the eponymous hero and

Cate Blanchett as the very merry Maid Marion. It’s the 13th Century and Robin is an expert archer in the army of King Richard. Upon the monarch’s death, he travels to Nottingham, a town suffering from the corruption of a despotic sheriff and crippling taxation, where he falls for the spirited Lady Marian. Hoping to earn the hand of the fair Maid and salvage the village, Robin assembles a gang and together they begin preying on the indulgent upper class to correct injustices under the sheriff. A true hero for these corrupt, recessionary times, non? Another eagerly anticipated sequel being released this month is, of course, Sex and The City 2 (May 28). The producers of SATC 2 have gone to great lengths to avoid any details being leaked before the film’s release (including forcing cast members to sign threatening non-disclosure agreements) but a few tasty tidbits about what cinemagoers can expect have surfaced. Firstly, arch-rivals Stanford and Anthony get hitched (and their celebrant is none other than Liza Minnelli), then the gals head off to Abu Dhabi (because where else would four charmingly promiscuous cosmopolitan women go on holiday besides the United Arab Emirates?) where Carrie reconnects with Aidan. Elsewhere, Harry and Charlotte’s marriage is on the rocks, thanks to a sexy Irish nanny. An scandal mór! Ciara McGrattan

MiMovie Steven Brinberg, Performer

I saw Funny Girl when I was five with my parents in New York City, not knowing I would one day star in the show on stage, playing Barbra! It was her first movie and I don’t think she’s ever topped it. I think she’s a natural performer. You don’t see her ‘acting’ like Meryl Streep, who is great, but it’s a ‘performance’. Barbra could just be an actress even if she didn’t sing - people don’t get that about her and often only know her as the rich, forever farewell-touring diva. You should see Funny Girl if you want to know why she is so special. The film shows you everything she can do singing/acting/comedy/drama - and she looks fantastic in it. Steve Brinberg plays Barbra Streisand along with Rick Skye as Liza Minnelli in ‘Barbra & Liza Live’ at the Studio Theatre, Smock Alley, Dublin from May 10 to 15 at 9.30pm as part of the Absolut Gay Theatre Festival, www. absolutgaytheatre.ie

film Aaron, a respectable butcher in Jerusalem’s ultraOrthodox Jewish community, is married to Rivka and is a dedicated father of four children. One day he meets Ezri, a handsome 22 year-old student, and soon falls head over heels. He begins to neglect his family and community life, swept away by his love for Ezri. However, guilt, torment and pressure from the community force him to make a difficult decision about his sexuality. Delicately handled by first time director Haim Tabakman, Eyes Wide Open (Eynaim Pekukhot) was a hit at this year’s Belfast Film Festival and it opens exclusively in the Light House on May 14. At it’s heart is a beautifully affecting love story, which, despite the emotional intensity of the subject matter, remains impeccably restrained throughout. 18 www.GCN.ie

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“Once I was happy with the song, only then would I commit to it.” No’48 Niamh Kavanagh It is not well known on these shores, but in my sideline career as a stylist to the stars I have been responsible for some of the most iconic fashion faux pas over the past couple of decades. From Bjork’s swan dress at the Oscars to Janet Jackson’s nipple star at the Superbowl, I’ve deliberately humiliated certain celebs who pissed me off by stealing my bottle of Thunderbird at the Electric Picnic 2008 (you know what I’m talkin’ ‘bout, Whitney), by convincing them they looked great wearing kak. But for the record, I want to say that my styling of Niamh Kavanagh in the 1993 Eurovision, where I matched her suit to her hair, was not an act of revenge. Believe it or not, I honestly thought she looked great at the time. Hindsight tends to give us 20/20 vision and where Niamh is concerned I hope this turns out to be true. The day we met to chew the fat, she was going off for frock fittings for her

forthcoming return to the Eurovision stage. If her get-up is anything like the travesty she wore while belting out It’s For You in the Nationals, I’m cutting all ties. Not only with Niamh, but with Ireland. Enough, as they say, is enough. Ah, Jaysus, Niamh. What the frock was going on with that dress? There were always going to be people who loved it and those that hated it, Shirley. The truth is I don’t really take any of it on board. It would incapacitate me if I did! In fairness, apart from the frock, you looked amazing. What’s your secret? Thanks, Shirley. I feel great. I’m 42 and still getting loads of love from the room! I celebrate my birthdays with a vengeance. You’re going that way anyway, so you might as well embrace it. I find you get a lot less lines if you do. What convinced you to shimmy down the Eurovision road again? It’s always about the song for me. Once I was happy with the song, only then would I commit to it. It’s also the right time. I’ve had two lovely boys but now Mammy’s ready to get back on the road and maybe record another album. We thought you were going to be the next Celine Dion after the first time, but that didn’t quite work out. Were you as disappointed as we were? Never! Winning the Eurovision was a magnificent experience for me and people still give me my kudos for it. Even though things don’t work out the way you’d like them to do, if you can still get to do what you love and people appreciate it, then it’s happy days. At least this time you get to go overseas instead of mucking it in Millstreet. I’m looking forward to that. The Eurovision fans are great so there will be lots of photos and parties and I love all that.

Do you think you’ll be getting douze points from those pesky Eastern Europeans? I don’t think it’s so heavily weighed towards the Eastern European vote anymore. These days it’s 50/50 split between jury and the tele-voting. I don’t know how they’ll present it but I suppose each country will be visited once to get the amalgamated scores. There are just too many countries, so they don’t even stop for long anymore. Are you giving up a job in the bank to represent us this time around? I always maintained that job at the bank because then I could choose whatever gigs I wanted. My first question wasn’t ‘How much?’ but rather ‘Do I want to do this?’. People would sometimes say, ‘You’re not a real musician unless you are starving for your musicianship’ and I’d look at them and say, ‘Knock yourself out. Look at me! I’m not starving for anything’. One of the gigs you took was elbowing Eileen Dunne out of the picture to present the Irish vote the year Dustin put us to shame. Eileen wasn’t available! It was great. I got a new suit and even a pair of Miu Miu shoes, which was gas considering they could only see my head. You know, they should get you to do it, Shirley! Who do you have to sleep with to get that gig? Don’t ask me, Shirley. I’ll call Eileen. In the meantime, are you nervous about Oslo? People say ‘Are you not worried about failing?’ but as long as I sing well, whatever happens won’t be a failure. I feel lucky to be representing Ireland with such a wonderful song. Niamh Kavanagh represents Ireland in the semifinal of the Eurovision on Thursday, May 27 and, fingers crossed, in the final on Saturday May 29

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Meeting Sunday Times columnist, Brenda Power, Brian Finnegan did not expect to change her point of view about gay marriage, but he got a lot more than he prepared for.

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renda Power is angry, but I’m quite not sure who with. On the surface, she’s soft-spoken, even a bit nervous, but once we get past the prerequisite questions about her new book, The Noughties, and on to the real reason GCN agreed to an interview, a fire is lit, her voice goes up a semitone and she’s in for the kill. She’s angry at the hundreds of people who emailed her with livid comments after her Sunday Times column last July, which belittled the campaign for gay marriage as represented by Miss Panti during a speech at Pride the previous week - one of several campaigners who spoke that day, including the feminist scholar, Ailbhe Smyth. Along with her pot-shots at Panti, she also wrote that the “get-up” of marchers in the Pride parade might suggest that homosexuality was a lifestyle choice rather than an inherent nature, all to argue that it was not in the best interests of a child to be placed with a same-sex adoptive couple. She’s angry with Rory O’Neill for the use of a subsequent radio interview on the subject as a satirical sketch in The Panti Show. She’s angry that people march through the streets of cities across the world once a year to demonstrate their gay pride. And she’s angry with the gay community as a whole for wanting access to civil marriage. Much of our interview rehashed the same ground as her column in the Sunday Times, but as it progressed I began to see Power in a different light to the one I had cast her in. Emerging between the lines came the story of a woman who has fought tooth and nail to get where she is today, a separated mother of five who has worked her ass off to make a career for herself in a man’s world. Faced with the mass wrath of lesbian and gay people who were incensed by her column, it seems she has filtered the whole experience into her worldview as a strong-willed woman kicking against the pricks. To her mind, the gay community is entirely male and misogynistic, and the reaction to her column was the rant of a group of people married to victimhood. Such is the power of her conviction, there is absolutely no room for her to consider the fact that at the same time as telling me that as a member of the gay community I have a victim mentality, she constantly plays the victim card herself and expects impunity. Bizarrely, however (although you may find it hard to believe, reading what follows), I found myself almost warming to her by the end of the interview. Power speaks with forceful conviction, but there is something confused about her that I can’t put my finger on, and it lends a certain unexpected vulnerability. You find yourself wanting to sit down and take her by the hand to explain why she doesn’t have to be so angry after all. The following interview is greatly edited

down. The entire transcript can be found at www.gcn.ie GCN: Why do you think the gay community was so upset by your column last July? BP: I have never come across such a level nasty, snide and cowardly comments, most of them personal and anonymous. There are lots of male columnists - John Waters, Ian O’Doherty, Kevin Myers - who have all said the same thing. None of them received the kind of hate mail that I did. I can only conclude that it was misogyny. I think that there is an element of the gay community who feel vindicated by victimhood and that gets more and more desperate as the battle gets closer to being won, so relatively mild comments by me generated a reaction that was completely out of proportion to what I said. GCN: Let’s talk about the central element of your argument in the column, which said that marriage is between a man and a woman for procreation purposes, and therefore same sex couples could not be married under those terms. And also that it would be better for unwanted children to be placed with heterosexual adoptive parents than same-sex parents. Would you not trust professional, trained people in adoption agencies to place children in the best homes for them, if gay couples had the right to apply for adoption? BP: I don’t think it’s a decision any adoption agency should be called to make. In circumstances where you say, should a gay couple be on par with a straight couple seeking to adopt an unwanted child, I would say no. GCN: Twenty years ago you would probably not have been divorced and you would have most likely been in an unhappy marriage bringing up your children. Society has changed. Just the same as divorced people are bringing up children in Ireland now, there are same sex couples bringing up children too. What do you think about the lack of protection for the existing children of same sex couples in civil partnerships legislation? BP: Somebody has made a decision on that child’s behalf that they don’t need a father in their life, or a mother for gay male couples. My problem is that I am not entirely sure that anyone is entitled to make that decision on behalf of somebody else. It’s a decision that society has accepted in a way that commodifies children. I feel like I want a child, so I will make a decision on behalf of another human being to exclude their full heritage from their life. GCN: I am not asking you for your moral judgement on this subject. What I am asking you is, do you think the children of same sex couples, who do exist and who

continue to be born, deserve the same protections as other children? BP: If there is a situation where for somebody in one way or another has a child, their civil partner should be able to adopt. I have no problem with that. GCN: No such protection is given in civil partnerships legislation. BP: Over time civil partnerships will come to equate marriage, but why do you have to change the definition of heterosexual marriage to suit yourselves? Develop your own formula. GCN: It is not about seeking to change marriage. It is about seeking inclusion. BP: What do you think the essence of heterosexual marriage is, then? GCN: I think the essence of any marriage, heterosexual or homosexual, is that two people come together and make a legal and loving commitment to one another, with the intention of forming a family together, whether that family includes children or not. BP: Lots of people make that promise without ever getting married. Marriage, according to the law of the land and the European Convention on Human Rights, involves a man and a woman. It’s purpose, in my view and I think in a lot of people’s view, is that it’s a child-centred union. GCN: If one of your children came out as gay, what would you say? BP: Great. Why would you have reservations about your child’s sexuality? Only if I felt that he or she was unhappy, would I be concerned. GCN: What if your child was unhappy because he or she did not have the equal right to form a family in the same way as his siblings could? BP: I’d have to say to him or her: ‘if you’re asking my advice, I would think a child would be better off in a heterosexually parented family. And if there is unhappiness in your life that you are trying to fill by acquiring a child, then you should really think about your motivations. GCN: Gay couples do not want children to fill voids; they want to form families because it is a natural human drive. I have a child and I was biologically driven to have that child. I did not have him to fill some gap in my life, to suggest so is demeaning. BP: If my child said he or she wanted to have a child with a donor, I’d say, ‘great, fantastic’. GCN: But what if that was impossible and your child needed to resort to adoption, as it happens for many heterosexual couples? BP: If my child said ‘I want to adopt a child with

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my gay partner,’ I’d have to say, ‘Well, you know my feelings on that’. Do you see civil partnership as any sort of a step forward at all or do you think it’s not worth the paper it’s written on? GCN: I believe that civil partnership on one level is a move forward. I understand that political change happens incrementally. But I don’t believe that full equality has ever come about through demanding second best. BP: If you want to engage in adult debate then put away silly things and engage like adults. You are doing yourselves no favours. Gay Pride, for instance, is foolish and anachronistic and sets back the gay cause. Every time you see people walking down the street with the arses hanging out of their trousers, wearing dog collars and being led along, first of all it alienates gay teenagers who think, ‘Is that what gay is? Is that who I’m meant to be?’ But also the whole point of it is that if people see it and don’t like it, it allows you to turn around and shout ‘homophobe!’ It’s pointless and its silly. GCN: So you think 12,000 people gathered in Dublin last summer simply to provoke and exclude? Have you ever been to Gay Pride? BP: No, I’ve seen it pass by while I was in town. GCN: Do you think that if gay people behaved and some of them didn’t march in Pride wearing drag or leather, that then we might be deserving of equal rights? BP: I would have doubts about placing a child in the care of anybody who wants to express their sexuality in what, to me, is a very dysfunctional way. I wouldn’t like a child to be brought up by two men dressed all day in women’s clothes, to be frank GCN: Do you understand what drag is? BP: Yes, I think I do, actually. It is a hostile parody of femininity that is designed to make the point: Look how stupid women are. Imagine straight men fancying that? And what’s a pantie? It’s an intimate form of women’s clothing, a slightly embarrassing item of underwear. It’s not something women discuss when they get together, it’s not something women flaunt. For a man to call himself Miss Panti is openly misogynistic. GCN: I think you sound very angry with Miss Panti. BP: Miss Panti is entitled to express her opinion, so am I. Get over it. Do you think it is wise for the gay community to say that this represents us? That Miss Panti represents us? GCN: Rory O’Neill is an intelligent man who expresses himself very eloquently. He does so in the form of a popular

entertainer and because of that his message is communicated to gay people who are only learning about the inequalities they face. BP: I think that calling anyone who disagrees with the gay community homophobic is silly and childish. GCN: What do you think homophobia is? BP: Hating gays, isn’t that what it means? GCN: I would say as somebody who as been on the receiving end of the stick is that a low-key homophobia is felt by a great deal of people and is expressed in all sorts of different ways, and ways in which the people themselves don’t even know they are doing it. Homophobia is systemic in society and it damages lives. BP: And you think walking down the street with your ass hanging out tackles that? GCN: I find that incredibly reductive. At Gay Pride we celebrate ourselves because there is still a need to do so in the face of historic oppression, persecution and isolation of gay people. We do it in remembrance of all those who went before us, both persecuted and the fighters who brought us this far. It is a hugely potent symbol. BP: Do you think there will ever be a time when you don’t need a Pride march? GCN: Personally I would love for a time when there was no bigotry against gay people, when I could walk down the street holding my partner’s hand. There are lots of people who would still love to have Pride nonetheless, because it is wonderful to party and to do it with your peers, no matter what the circumstances of your life. If you wanted to march down the street with lots of divorced mothers and say you are really glad to be who you are, where you are in your life, I would say, ‘Go for it. You deserve to do that because you have experienced difficulties in society that could have brought you down. But you survived and you are wonderful.’ BP: But can you not see my point about not needing to shout about your difference if you want to engage in mature political debate? GCN: There are many different ways of effecting political change. Pride is a radical expression and it’s part of the mix that brings about change. Radical action often leads towards the middle ground, where people start strategically fighting for change. Most change makers begin in the radical mode. It’s about

“Gay Pride is foolish and anachronistic and sets back the gay cause.” how we move through phases of selfexpression, empowerment and change. BP: Most people nowadays know someone who is gay, don’t you think? And most people have no problem with it. GCN: I would say society is evolving and that people are learning through engagement with gay people, as you may be learning today. A lot of people fully accept gay people on the surface, but in society there is an underlying sense of distaste or distrust towards gay people. It comes out in all sorts of ways. BP: My kids come home from school and they use gay as a term of abuse. I would always say, ‘Don’t say that, it’s a stupid, stupid thing to say. Gay people are normal like you and me’. GCN: Can you make a connection between a columnist in a national newspaper who intimates that being gay is a lifestyle choice because of Gay Pride marches, and the use of gay in a negative sense in the playground? BP: They’re getting that negativity by looking at Gay Pride. GCN: On the contrary, they are responding to an underlying homophobia in society that is endorsed by rhetoric like that found in your column. You are entitled to your opinion, but when you couch it in certain terms, you are adding fuel to a fire that’s been burning for a long time. It genuinely hurts people. So, I’m asking again, can you make a connection up between those kinds of sentiments in the mainstream media and homophobic bullying in the playground? BP: You say the schoolyard impression of homosexuality is coming from the media, I say that gay people are part of that problem too. The Noughties - From Glitz to Gloom by Brenda Power is published by The Collins Press, price €12.99

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As The George turns 25, its reigning queens, Shirley Temple Bar, Veda Beaux Reves and Davina Devine, talk to Brian Finnegan about the venue’s legacy and future, and remember how they each came to be part of its alternative family. Photos by Fionn Kidney.

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t’s a balmy Sunday evening in Dublin. On the ground floor of the city’s most famous gay pub, crowds are beginning to gather for Bingo!, chattering amongst themselves about their weekends so far, securing good positions from which to watch Shirley and co’s antics. High above their heads, unseen in the attics of the building, a bevy of drag queens are getting ready; carefully applying make-up, selecting the costumes they will first be seen in, gossiping and giggling, preening and posing with each other like a crowd of sisters who have grown up together and know each other inside out. Which of course, they do. “I’ve taken to saying it to the audience when I get on stage that the best bit of the show is upstairs,” Shirley says with typical matter-of-fact attitude. “It’s a full-on Dionysian ritual.” Veda, ever ready to articulately expand on a point, adds: “It’s a family dynamic. Sometimes we have issues with each other, but we all team up to help resolve those issues. It’s always about moving on and about the friendship. I love to perform, but when I stand back and look at the whole picture, I think the times we have together before and after shows are the best. “It usually takes an hour and a half to make yourself up. When there’s a lot of queens in for a big show, it definitely takes a bit longer, all of us talking and distracting each other.” “Except for Dolly,” Shirley points out. “She comes in at the last minute and slaps on a face quicker than you can say Marge Simpson.” Davina Devine, the third drag persona in the triumvirate of drag queens who oversee what happens on the stage at most of The George’s regular entertainment nights, has a more emotional take. “I love the place,” she says. “I come here because it’s great fun. If you’re feeling shitty and you walk in and there’s a room full of drag queens all chatting and laughing, you always feel lifted up.” All three queens are here to talk to me about 25 years of The George and their key place in that history, but before we get there, Veda has a thing or two to say about their place in its future. “There’s a lot of talk about the fact that The George is moving forward under its new ownership, which it certainly is, but from my point of view, we’re always moving

forward anyway. I think there is a lot of ambition in us and that’s what makes our thing continue to grow and change.” Shirley is in full agreement. “We’ve always been evolving and taking on new forms. What we do is meant to be anarchic; it’s meant to be a rebellion of some kind. It’s meant to be about looking forward, rather than looking back.” Bingo!, which sits at the apex of The George’s shows, has been entertaining the mostly gay masses for nearly 13 years. Before it came along, The George was a fairly run-of-the-mill gay pub (if run-of-the-mill could apply to any gay venue in Dublin of the late ‘80s and early ‘90s), but the appearance of Shirley Temple Bar on it’s stage in 1997 ushered in a new era, not only for the bar, but for drag entertainment across the scene. “At the beginning there was me and a couple of other people doing Bingo!, just calling numbers,” Shirley remembers. “Then I started adding a performance element to it; bouncing around on the stage, doing my gymnastics thing at first, and then adding more typical drag performances where I’d lipsynch to songs.” Around this time, The George finished its expansion into the building next door and the arena got bigger, a development that saw larger routines usually associated with AMI making it to the pub scene. Suddenly the mainstream media began talking about Shirley’s show and it seemed everyone wanted to get in on the gay action, to see her and a group of teen Irish dancers stage their very own epic version of Riverdance, among other routines. “It was a cultural phenomenon!” Shirley quips with a self-effacing grin. “It went from something where there was just me jumping around the stage like a freak to a big show with queues out the door.” The then manager, Peter McGloughlin, saw the potential for further drag developments and asked Veda, who had already proved her alternative worth at a drag show called Gristle in Pod, to stage her own Wednesday night concoction of windswept cross-dressing. The resulting Space ‘n’ Veda premiered ten years ago and is still going strong. “I was bringing something different to the table and Peter spotted that,” says Veda. “I was a good risk, I think. I’m still here and still loving it, and people are still coming to see it. So he did the right thing.” Meanwhile a young gay guy who was just dipping his toe into the scene for the first time came across Veda and Shirley’s shows and thought, ‘I could do that’. “That was eight years ago,” Davina says. “It just evolved very naturally with me after that. I knew where I wanted to go, but it was a slow process getting there, creating Davina. I’ve been doing my Thursday night shows at The George for a few years now, and I think it’s something that changes all the time, just like me. It all feels very natural.” After being through the wringer, going into receivership when Capital Bars ended up in massive debt under the current economic cloud, and now being run by a new company on behalf of the receiver until it is financially viable for

“I believe that gay is a gift. It’s brought so many amazing experiences into my life.” resale, has The George changed? “I think it has,” says Davina. “In a good way. It’s very different to the way it used to be. It feels more exciting.” “Before there was this sort of corporate attitude to running the bar, you were part of this big organisation and there was another entity out there controlling it all,” says Shirley. “As a result we were all very separate in a way, doing our separate things.” “Now that it’s its own entity again, I think there’s more of a group effort,” adds Veda. “Not only between the queens, but with people like Anto and Karen, and the people who are working in the bar. We’ve all had to call on each other to keep it together. It’s been good for us” As it reaches it’s 25th birthday, the new people behind The George are keen to look to a bright new tomorrow for the venue, but as Veda points out, it’s the bar’s legacy that informs the future. “If you mention The George to someone in a tiny town in Kerry, they’ll say ‘that’s the gay bar in Dublin’. So just by being the big gay bar that’s been here for 25 years, The George is making a huge statement.” “It’s supported the drag queens, who in turn have influenced the scene,” says Shirley. “It’s been here to financially support events like AMI or magazines like GCN, and it’s even been here to fundraise for people who need to get money for someone in their family who is sick.” “If The George is our Dad, it’s been a good Dad,” Veda smiles. “Like all teenagers we’ve kicked up a fuss now and then and had arguments, but it’s worth celebrating for the message it’s been sending to the Ireland all this time.” Davina hits the nail on the head as our interview winds down. “I’ll be upstairs changing my costume between Bingo! acts and I’ll hear people pass by outside saying, ‘That’s The George. There’s a big party going on in there’. People see it as a place of happiness and fun, and that’s really what it is. It’s the heart of gay Ireland.” The George celebrates its 25th birthday from May 12 to 16, see page 12 for details. Thanks to Arnotts, Henry Street and the Design Centre at Powerscourt Townhouse Centre, D2, for use of locations.

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Working Girl

Whether to come out to the girl you fancy at work or not is the subject of Rebecca Walsh’s new play, but it’s not all office politics, as Ciara McGrattan discovered.

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istorically, lesbian love stories tend to err towards the tragic with one of both protagonists either caving to societal pressure and reverting to heterosexuality (à la Kissing Jessica Stein) or succumbing to some tragic disease (à la Fried Green Tomatoes) by the end of the story. So, Working Late, a production hitting the stage at the International Dublin Gay Theatre Festival this month, is that rarest of beasts - an upbeat lesbian rom com.

The play, written by and starring actress Rebecca Walsh, is set against backdrop of today’s economic crisis and tells the story of four office workers and their various interactions with each other. Walsh’s inspiration for the piece was born of a desire cast off the miserable shadow of pervasive recessionary doom and gloom but also to give theatregoers something they mightn’t see very often - lesbians. “I wanted to do comedy,” she says. “I wanted to make a few points about the recession but kind of laugh at it too. Also, I go to a lot of theatre in Dublin and unless it’s at the Gay Theatre Festival, you don’t see that

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many gay subjects on stage. I don’t get to see as many girls as I’d like to!” In a world where the average person spends approx 50,000 hours of their life earning a crust, Working Late examines the contemporary office as a microcosm of society at large. Damo and Jason are co-workers with frustrated closet-case, Patricia (played by Walsh), who successfully blends into the office background until attractive new girl Lauren shows up. The play promises to be an “exploration of the beauty of social evolution”, but what does that mean to Walsh? “Without trying to give away the ending, it’s that situation of being in a work-space and fancying someone, but you’ve no idea whether they’re gay or straight and you’re not going to do anything about it because you could be ‘outing’ yourself to the rest of the company. And you could be completely wrong about that person.” Certainly, a situation most of us can relate to at some point or another in our careers. Walsh’s own career has spanned movies (she appeared in 2002’s Magdalene Sisters) and theatre, as both writer and actor. How does she differentiate acting for the camera and acting for an audience? “Film is a lot more technical and much more subtle. Cameras pick up on every facial tick, every little movement, whereas theatrical acting is a lot more extroverted, it’s a lot bigger, much more loud. You are reaching out to the audience. Also, when you’re working on a film set, there are so many people involved. Theatre involves a much smaller group of people trying to put something together and then it’s live performance, so it’s probably a bit scarier in a sense: you only get one take.” Though she has enjoyed relative success as a writer, acting is Walsh’s enduring passion, despite the fact that it’s career that doesn’t gel easily with her rather shy off-stage persona. “I love performing,” she says. “I love the feeling of acting, but I don’t particularly love the feeling of doing it in front of a group of people. I know that sounds weird, but I like the process of learning a character, doing it and doing a

in the wake of Matthew Shepherd’s murder by two gay-bashers. The Photographer May 3 to 8, The Teacher’s Club, Parnell Square, 9.30pm. A coming of age story as blue-eyed boy Evan inches his way out the closet via the photographs he takes. This intense exploration of burgeoning sexuality was a sell-out at last year’s Edinburgh Fringe. Drags Aloud May 10 to 15, The Complex One, Smithfield Square, 9.30pm. Glee meets Scream as Australia’s beloved drag king/queen troupe crank up the comedy in this hit Edinburgh Festival show.

festival five: our top five fancies at the international dublin gay theatre festival theatre The Laramie Project May 3 to 8, The Complex One, Smithfield Square, 8pm. A welcome staging of the masterwork that came from Moisés Kaufman’s visit to the town of Laramie, Wyoming really great job with it. It’s actually something I feel that I’m good at, and it makes me feel good about myself. It’s something I have a passion for and I think it’ll always be there.” So what can audiences expect from Working Late? “Well, hopefully, they’re going to laugh their asses off - that’s what I want to create. I think the writing is funny and the acting is very good. They’re going see good performances. “It’s going to be enjoyable for the men as well

Dykeotomy May 10 to 15, Pantibar, 8pm. Internationally renowned performance artist, Kimberly Dark brings her hilarious and thoughtprovoking tales of gender confusion and dating to a Dublin audience. Don’t miss it. Billy Redden May 10 to 15, The Complex One, Smithfield Square, 9.30pm. A trip in time back to 1971 where gay teenager Billy Redden is visited by versions of himself from the future, all squabbling about how he should live his life. The International Dublin Gay Theatre Festival, May 3 to 16, booking at www.gaytheatre.ie - the guys are easy on the eyes - but I think for the women of Dublin it’s going to be something that they haven’t really seen before. I mean, there have been a couple of lesbian films in the last few years in the festivals and I do go to them, but I think this is a little bit different we’re going to see two girls get it on a little bit.” Working Late is at Complex 2, Smithfield Square, May 3 to 8 as part of the International Dublin Gay Theatre Festival, www.gaytheatre.ie

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Into the Blue Working with the trans Filipino community in Dublin, artist Qasim Riza Shaheen has created an alter ego called Liliquoi Blue for a specially commissioned show that tells personal stories of longing and transformation.

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he City Arts Centre, now re-christened CityArts has relocated to a new, permanent home on Dublin’s Bachelor’s Walk and to mark its opening, Mancunian artist, Qasim Riza Shaheen, was commissioned by curator Liz Burns to research and develop a new body of work that would respond to the local area. Based in Dublin for six months during 2009, Shaheen worked closely with members of the transgendered Filipino community to develop the project Liliquoi Blue: God Made Me a Boy. The completed work consists of three video pieces entitled, ‘Father I have sinned I, II and III’, and an accompanying publication, which explore ideas around beautification, gender, personal icons and childhood memories. “I’ve always been interested in the ‘other’ and the way the other becomes another,” says Shaheen. “Gender is a social construct and contract that seeks to polarise individuals into

“Gender is a social construct and contract that seeks to polarise individuals into male and female.” male and female. I’m interested in the grey.” To begin exploring the ‘grey’ with his trans Filipino subjects, Shaheen conducted a number of in-depth interviews about their lives here and their childhoods back home. “As most expatriate communities do, they have a heightened sense of difference,” he says. “Dublin doesn’t digest difference very smoothly. Sometimes it’s violent and suffocating. So along with the sense of being other, there is a nostalgia for where they came from.” There are an estimated 12,000 Filipinos working in the health care professions in Ireland which makes them the largest category of non European Union workers in the Republic of Ireland. The Christopher David hair salon on Capel Street caters primarily for the Filipino community in Dublin and in addition to being a place of business, the hair salon also acts as an informal social space for the transgendered as well as the wider Filipino community. “It’s a close-knit community of health professionals and like-minded individuals who share similar aspirations and speak the same tongue, and they are comfortable in their difference,” says Shaheen. Recognising the challenges of representing a community perceived as exotic or ‘other’, he invented the character of Liliquoi Blue, whom we witness in various guises and ages, visually mediating the personal narratives recounted by the Filipino participants in the videos’ voiceovers. The narratives which consist of memories, fantasies, Filipino fairytales and lullabies, recorded by the artist over the course of his residency in Dublin, tell very personal stories of longing and transformation. Shaheen, who describes his own gender as ‘transiting’, says that the creation of Liliquoi Blue allowed him to interact with his subjects in a much closer way. “By becoming Liliquoi Blue I was able to somewhat remove myself from the position of the observer to become the observed. The participants, in sharing their stories, lent me their icons, which in turn informed the character Liliquoi Blue. I gave them the opportunity to share stories of being a boy and at some stage, in some manner, becoming a woman.” Being Muslim in Britain and of a different

sexuality, Shaheen has explored otherness through most of his art. Central to his work is an ongoing exploration of the tensions and meanings of his own identity in terms of gender, race, nationality and sexuality. He spent two years with the transgendered Khusra community in Lahore, Pakistan, one of many such groups in the Indian subcontinent that traditionally provide singing, dancing and sex-worker services. Of the work that came from his time there, the performance piece, Queer Courtesan, will also have an incarnation at CityArts. In it the viewer is confronted with Shaheem in super-kitsch Bollywood drag, a constructed Kushra sex worker in a peep show booth. “My work has primarily been around misplaced stories and the grandeur of invented personas,” he says. “Coming from a live art background, I create tableaux of memories and happenings. This is my way into creating new socially-engaged works.” Though regular posters adorn the walls of Christopher David’s, advertising upcoming social events and fundraisers (including the ever popular trans beauty pageants such as Alternative Miss Philippines, and the more recent Queen of all Seasons), by and large this community is relatively invisible within Irish society, and even within the wider gay community in Dublin. It is this idea of sub-culture embedding itself in the wider community that brought Shaheen to the Dublin Filipino’s. “Liz Burns, the curator for this Liliquoi Blue, was aware of the previous body of work I had done with the Kushra sex workers and was keen to engage in my process of making work and generating a dialogue around community participation,” he says. “From my experience of working through the ideas around constructing of Liliquoi Blue as an alter ego, I learned that the trans Filipinos perceive their gender and interact with wider society in a most comfortable way.” Blue: God Made Me a Boy by Qasim Riza Shaheen runs at CityArts, 15 Bachelors Walk, Dublin 1 until runs until May 21. For more information, visit www.cityarts.ie or www.qasimrizashaheen.com

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One of the UK’s favourite gay comedy duos are coming to Ireland with a specially written show for the Absolut Dublin Gay Theatre Festival, and the Catholic Church are on the wrong end of their stick, as Brian Finnegan discovered.

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t’s a rainy Thursday afternoon in Dublin City. In a pub on Wicklow Street, two men sit over a pot of tea and sandwiches, one dressed as a nun, the other as a priest. Nobody takes a blind bit of notice of them as they pour cups for each other and pass the time of day. Topping & Butch, as they’re known to a certain clientele, have well and truly settled into their surroundings. Having seen their 2004 Edinburgh show, Taking It Up The Octave, I’m no stranger to their cunning brand of tomfoolery, but up close and personal, as tea is graciously poured for me, it’s hard to pin them down. Topping, otherwise known as Michael Topping, is the one in the full habit. A bit older and portlier than strapping Butch (aka Andrew Simmons), he delivers a

double entendre the moment I sit down, one carefully-groomed, devilish eyebrow cocked higher than Frankie Howerd’s could ever have made it. Butch, in his cassock and biretta, has a slightly more serious countenance, and although he often breaks into giggles at Topping’s entendres, he’s keen to explain what their act, which is coming to the Absolut Dublin Gay Theatre Festival this month, is all about. “It’s totally tongue in cheek,” he says. “We start off in these costumes to give a nod to what’s happening with the Catholic Church in Ireland...” “A veiled reference,” Topping interjects, fingering his wimple. “If you’re easily offended, you should stay away,” adds Butch. “But if you’re up for the craic and you don’t take life to seriously, you’ll have a good laugh. It’s a chance for us to be really, really naughty.”

The aforementioned Frankie Howerd is listed among Topping’s major comedic influences, along with Benny Hill and The Two Ronnies, while Butch says he’s much more influenced by the likes of Angus Deayton and Russell Howard. “I grew up in the ‘80s with comedy from people like Ben Elton, which was more about what was going on currently. The humour I bring to the act is sort of fused together with Topping’s love of Benny Hill and Carry On films.” The two got together in the early noughties after Butch moved to London to work in television research and ended up living in Topping’s flat. “There was no sex involved,” Topping says. “Except for me watching it.” After a while they began to write “the odd song or sketch”, an enjoyable pastime that evolved “almost organically,” according to Topping, into an act. Notice came via accidental mass-exposure

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“We’re like an old married couple. No sex and lots of rows.” when they took it to Edinburgh’s notoriously competitive Fringe Festival in 2003. “We were the only ones handing out flyers on the Royal Mile for our show dressed in full S&M gear” Topping explains. “Some of the other people handing flyers out told us to fuck off, that we were ‘queering the pitch’, but then a photographer from Reuters news agency passed by and took our picture.” “Suddenly we were everywhere,” Butch takes up the story. “And after that The Pet Shop Boys came to see the show, which got us a lot of attention. Then Janet Street Porter gave it a great review in The Independent. It was a great start for us.” To begin with, Butch says the show was mostly camp frivolity, but the invasion of Iraq that year took it in a new direction. “We put in a song called Bombing Nine To Five, which commented on the war and it was a big success.” With the Iraq debacle getting the laughs, they penned a number about the John Leslie/ Ulrika Jonsson sexual assault scandal based on ‘Maria’ from West Side Story. “Ulrika. I’ve just creamed a Swede called Ulrika,” Topping warbles and then takes a sip of tea with perfect comic timing. Given that the two senses of comedy involved are so differently influenced, I wonder how the two

men have fared over the past seven years in such close company, travelling the length and breadth of the UK every year and appearing at festivals across the globe. “We’re like an old married couple,” Topping sighs. “No sex and lots of rows.” “There’s three of us in this marriage,” Butch adds, referring to their new sat nav system, which they’ve named Tom Tom. “I used to read the maps when we were driving to different places to perform. Now Tom Tom does it and I sleep.” Having just toured every corner of the UK with a show called Sex, Drugs and Harriet Harman, the duo have come up with a new show especially for the Absolut Dublin Gay Theatre Festival, intriguingly entitled, Filth. “The Harriet Harman show is mostly about British politics,” Butch explains, “Irish audiences wouldn’t get half of it. This show is much more about having fun.” “I think we’ve used every rude word there is,” says Topping, turning to Butch for confirmation. “We’ve used rude words that don’t even exist,” Butch confirms. But for all the double entendres and potty mouth, Irish audiences will be able to enjoy a saucy smattering of pokes at politics and popular culture. “We have our ambassadors,” says Topping, tapping his nose. “They tell us what’s going on and we write on the hop. We like to keep on our toes.” “There’s nothing like having a job that leaves a room laughing,” says Butch. “If we’ve got something that’s really on the button in terms of what’s topical, the audience can see that we’ve just written it, and they really love our immediacy.” “Oooh, er,” says Butch. “They like a bit of immediacy alright.” And there you have it - the dual experience that is Topping and Butch. Catch their show at the Absolut Festival if you can, and maybe you’ll bump into them in one of Dublin’s gay bars later on. “We’re anyone’s for a pint of Black and Tan,” says Topping. “And a snowball,” says Butch, not very butchly. Topping & Butch star in Filth at Break For The Border, Stephen’s Street, Dublin 2 from May 3 to 8 as part of the Absolut Dublin Gay Theatre Festival, www.absolutgaytheatre.ie

festival five: our absolut top picks Whore Works May 3 to 8, The New Theatre, 9.30pm. When an older John falls in love with a hustler, some emotional buttons get pressed in this highly acclaimed, sexually charged two-hander from New York. I’ll Tell It Tomorrow May 10 to 15, Smock Alley Theatre, 7pm. Comedian Johan Goossens reads from his diary about his adolescent years in a rural village in Holland in this funny and moving one-man show. Slaughterhouse Swan May 19 to 15, The New Theatre, 6.45pm. Darkly hiliarious family drama ensues when the son of a local butcher returns from Australia to find big changes afoot. Far From Kansas - Oklohomo! May 6 to 8, Studio Theatre, Smock Alley, 9.30pm. Brokeback meets Broadway in this 20-strong cabaret act from the London Gay Men’s chorus. Barbra & Liza Live May 10 to 15, Studio @ Smock Alley Theatre, 9.30pm. Steven Brinberg and Rick Skye bring their uncanny impressions to Dublin for this show-stopping superstar sing-out. The Absolut Dublin Gay Theatre Festival, May 3 to 16, booking for all shows at Filmbase, Curved St, D2, (01) 677 8511, or www.absolutgaytheatre.ie

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THE FIVE MINUTE GUIDE TO: Sitges Although it’s been a gay summer destination for many years, Sitges is hosting its first ever Gay Pride this July. Gearing up for the celebrations, Declan Marr samples some of its delights. Well-to-do Barcelonans, bohemian artists and an international gay community have all made Sitges what it is today - a cosmopolitan and stylish seaside resort replete with chic boutiques, antique shops, art galleries and first-class restaurants together with soft sandy beaches, an immaculately kept promenade and a white-washed, cobblestreeted old town. One of the first pleasant surprises you’ll get on arrival is that you’ll notice that the main gay beach is centrally located, not - as with so many gay destinations - stuck out on a limb miles from anywhere. In fact, there are 17 well-kept beaches stretching along Sitges’ four kilometres of coastline, and these include an out-of-town rather cruisier gay beach as well as a couple of naturist options. You’re more than likely to spend a lot of your day at one of these beaches, before wandering

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into town to check out some of Sitges’ impressive galleries and boutiques. The town’s artistic heritage is well documented and this is still in evidence today, with many examples of local painting and sculpture on sale. Collectors may wish to keep a little bit of extra luggage space, as should fashionistas who will seriously enjoy updating their wardrobes: clothes shops here are not cheap, but they do offer a level of quality and design sadly lacking from Ireland’s shops these days. All that retail therapy is bound to make you a little bit hungry, and Sitges is well known for its trendy daytime cafés. Granja Elsa, Mont Roig and Los Vikingos are three favourites where you can sit around chatting with friends, enjoying a snack and a bevy while watching the seemingly endless parade of attractive blokes strolling past. The range and quality of restaurants in Sitges is superb. Eateries serving Catalan and regional Spanish cuisine are extremely popular. There are also restaurants catering to almost every international taste. Gay restaurant, Air (Paseo Maritim, 2) serves great food in a modern atmosphere and some of the best cocktails in town, while the ultra chic Exquisit (Psg de Las Drassanes, 23) at the port, serves high end food in friendly and relaxed surroundings. On the cheaper end of the scale, The Beach House (Sant Pau, 34) serves three courses for €20, but doesn’t skimp on the quality of the food. There are dozens of gay bars in the town, most of which are indoors with air conditioning, and these vary from mixed, gay-friendly early evening venues to seriously late nighters. Never let a trip to Sitges go by without popping into the high camp, Bar 7 and to El Piano, where they host regular cabaret spots. If you’re tempted by a bit of drag, Comodine might well be right up your alley, while

Eric and the boys are always eager to welcome you to Bourbon’s. Although gay visitors to Sitges are primarily the male of the species, there is a small lesbian scene too, which gets bigger as the summer months go on. Marypili, a nice little lesbian bar with a great terrace in the heart of town on Calle de Juan Tarrida Ferratge, serves as a coffee shop by day and a popular bar by night. August is the month for girls to go to Sitges as the Legend Party attracts lesbians from all over the world to enjoy fun in the sun. As the clock ticks into the wee small hours, dancing queens might well end up in El Candil while those after less dance but more fun should head for Man Bar, XXL or El Horno. It’s hard to believe, but this year Sitges will host its first ever Pride, from July 9 to 13, with the parade winding its way through town on Saturday, July 10, and a host of parties and events over the weekend, including a party for the girls. The Gay Beach Party on Sunday 13 is the highlight of the weekend, as thousands of boys and girls gather on the golden sands to dance like there’s no tomorrow. It’s a great weekend to plan a trip to Sitges for, if you like hot guys, hot girls and partying. Holidaying in Sitges means that the surrounding area of Catalonia - and its many attractions - is easily accessible. Barcelona really shouldn’t be missed, but also try the Roman ruins at Tarragona, the Universal Studios Theme Park at Port Aventura, the monastery at Montserrat or the Dali museum at Figueres. Sitges is located just 40 minutes from the heart of Barcelona City Centre and just 30 minutes from Barcelona’s main airport, by train. Aer Lingus flies to Barcelona from Dublin daily. Sitges Pride, July 9 to 13, www.gaysitgespride.com

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The Chameleon is an intimate and ambient restaurant, serving contemporary Indonesian cuisine. The great value highlight of the menu is the Rijs-tafel - a selection of eight dishes to share, starting at €18. Oh, and the pork belly dish and the lamb curry dish are too die for!

Koh is well known to serve the best Asian Fusion food in the city. Friendly and efficient staff and a beautiful dining room make this a must for any fan of super-sexy city dining. Two pre-theatre or post theatre courses are just €17.50, while three courses go for a mere €20.00, this offer is available all evening throughout the festival for those who produce tickets. Not only is there food amazing they have the hottest cocktail shakers in Dublin!

There’s a reason, Saba is every gay’s favourite Not only does Uki Yo have a delicious Thai restaurant in Dublin. It’s atmosphere is Japanese menu, but deep in its luxurious style personified, the food is in a word, ‘delish’, basement it’s got karaoke booths where and the cocktails are the best this side of Sex friends, lovers and self-loving singles can and the City. The ‘fixed-price lunch menu, sing the night away to a superior selection of available seven days a week from 12 - 6pm, songs. Sit at their cocktail bar and watch the offers two courses for just €15.95 or three world go by and throw in a €10 dinner bento courses for €19.95. The fixed price dinner menu box, Uki Yo is the perfect haunt for some pre is tavailable every Sun, Mon and Tues from 6pm. S theatre treats! Talbot It’s €25 for three courses. We’re so there!

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With stylist, Darren Kennedy When it comes to design, whether it be furniture or clothing, the Danes have genuinely earned their reputation for fantastic aesthetic style. I’ve always been a big fan of Danish labels and with one of my close friends having relocated to the capital Copenhagen a couple of years ago, I’ve had plenty of excuses to visit. I was lucky enough to spend some time there over Easter and strolling around the city it’s easy to get excited by the casual style of the everyday Dane - what I like to call ‘cycle chic’ (given that practically everyone seems to be on a bike). Danish

men in general really take care of themselves and seem to have a much more innate interest and sense of style than most other European men. To quote Karl Lagerfeld: “Fashion is all about zeitgeist,” and the Danes dexterously surf the curve of the wave. Far from being clones of each other, they succeed in effortlessly fusing trend elements with their individual style. The result is instant, insouciant chic with an edge. One of the main trends I noticed was the revival of the boat shoe. While there’s nothing wrong with traditional brown boat shoes, which have been around for a long time and are often associated with the preppy set, this new wave of boat shoe comes in a range of defiant colours, streamlined silhouettes and daring patterns. Louis Vuitton, Bally, Band of Outsiders and Gucci (who teamed up with Mark Ronson to create a limited edition pop-up collection) and even streetwear Vans have created their own hybrid version of their iconic canvas trainer meets boat shoe. There are tons of ways to wear them - tie them and dress them up or down, with or without socks, jeans rolled up etc - but if you really want to make a splash go for a pair of high-top boat shoes for a super comfy and stylish look. Darren Kennedy is a presenter and stylist. He is resident stylist with 2FM and writes a daily fashion blog www.helpmystyle.ie

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On the Side PARMA WRAPPED ASPARAGUS SPEARS Like something to nibble on first? Crank up the BBQ to a moderate heat. Meanwhile pour a cup of olive oil into a bowl. Add some chopped chilli, garlic and rosemary. Blanch some asparagus spears for two minutes. Allow to cool and marinade in the oil for 20 minutes. Wrap each spear in Parma ham and cook until golden on the BBQ. Crumb over some blue cheese before serving. It’s as simple as that!

Two Poofs in a Pantry Recent sunny skies have made our resident chefs, Brian Drinan and Paul Coffey turn to thoughts of dining al fresco with a dish made for a queen. STYLISH CITY CENTRE CONTEMPORARY DINING. 2005 Winner ‘Food & Wine/Evian’ Award for Best Dublin Restaurant, Best Chef Dublin and Best Overall Restaurant Ireland 109a Lower Baggot Street, Dublin 2 Tel: 01 661 1919 Fax: 01 661 0617 Email: enquiries@lecrivain.com www.lecrivain.com

Hurray, hurray, the first of May, outdoor eating is here to stay! Weather permitting, of course. Seriously though there’s no better time of the year for creating wonderful food with the fabulous ingredients and flavours of summer. This recipe for Coronation Chicken; diced cold chicken in a curried apricot mayo, was created

in 1953 by the Cordon Bleu School in London in honour of the coronation of Queen Elizabeth II. It’s so good, we decided every queen should have the pleasure of eating it. This recipe serves six. WHAT TO PUT IN Six large chicken fillets, poached, cooled and diced One tblsp olive oil One onion, finely chopped One tblsp curry paste One tblsp tomato purée One can of apricots, drained and finely chopped 300 ml mayonnaise 100 ml cream Salt and pepper Watercress to serve HOW TO MAKE IT 1. Heat the oil in a pan and cook the onion until soft. Add the curry paste, tomato purée and cook for four minutes. Leave to cool. 2. Whisk the curry and apricots into the mayonnaise. Lightly whip the cream and fold into the mixture. Season to taste. 3. Stir the chicken pieces in the sauce and serve on a bed of watercress. Serve with some homemade brown bread or crusty white.

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The new meal deals at Wagamama make Japanese dining more affordable, although you never know who you’re going to end up sitting beside, as Sinéad Deegan found out.

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he sunshine had us all a-flutter. A gay outing was planned to Japanese Day at Farmleigh House and Gardens. We were invited to enjoy Hanami with the Dublin Japanese community (‘hanami’ or ‘flower-viewing’ is the renowned Japanese custom of enjoying the beauty of ‘cherry blossoms’ in Springtime, just so you know). So, off our excited unconventional family - gays, dogs, blondes and baby - trotted towards the Phoenix Park, not realising that every other family - conventional and otherwise, had the same idea. The queues for sushi and sake were worse than lines for the loos at Electric Picnic. With humours quickly souring in the midday sun, we trotted back to the car and decided to head into town for some more accessible refreshments. A nice Sunday lunch somewhere, dining al fresco maybe? No. The gay wanted Japanese food. Wagamama became our new destination and y the time we got there we were starving. The canteen-style layout, with shared bench dining, isn’t to everyone’s taste. You run the risk of being seated next to your old maths teacher or worse, your ex, forced to make polite conversation. Having said that, it’s also ripe for random flirtation over food. Wagamama has just introduced a new ‘positive eating’ menu with “positive meal suggestions for a positive eating experience” and at a very positive price. The menu has three choices, each served with your choice of Tiger beer, wine or juice - The Absolute Wagamama with a choice of Chicken Ramen or Yaki Soba and three Gyoza for €15.95, a Pure Wagamama (the veggie option) consisting of Moyashi Soba or Yasai, Yaki Soba and three Yasai Gyoza for €14.95, or the Complete Wagamama Seafood Ramen and three Ebi Gyoza for €16.95. We both opted for the Absolute Wagamama with a side of Edamame. Gyozas are chicken and vegetable dumplings, which come either steamed or fried and are served

with chili, garlic, sesame and soy sauce. We had them fried and they were perfectly crispy with no skimping on the stuffing, but I much prefer the Duck Gyozas that come with plum sauce, so I won’t be opting for the chicken ones again. The gay thought his has been fried in oil that had been used for fish and wasn’t raving about them either. The Yaki Sobas (teppan-fried noodles with egg, chicken, shrimp, onions, green and red peppers, bean sprouts and spring onions garnished with sesame seeds, fried shallots and pickled ginger) portions were huge and the meat looked more like pork than chicken. They were tasty and filling, if a little too much to take in. We had the Edamame (steamed green soyabeans) with chilli salt, which gave them a nice kick, but they are overpriced. €6.45 for a small bowl when you can buy a pack that would fill 20 bowls for a couple of euro in the Asian market. The house wine, a blend of Sauvignon and Chardonnay was very fresh, fruity and morish, so another two glasses were ordered. Wagamama is also very kid-friendly, which is fine as long as you don’t mind kids, especially ones who have just bought a Lightsaber (made from balloons) and a golf club (not made from balloons) and start hitting each other on the head with them right beside you. Overall, the experience was relatively positive. We saved €10 between us on the meal deal, which was no bad thing, considering the antics going on around us. The total came to €25 per person including tip. Wagamama, King’s Street South, Dublin 2, (01) 478 2152, www.wagamama.ie

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the follicle (the place where hair growth starts), so technically, another hair can grow in its place, but it’s difficult. Laser takes roughly 30 minutes per treatment, up to eight treatments are needed and it’s best for removing or reducing hair on back, chest, stomach, shoulders, and genital area. It works best on light skin with dark hair and is not suitable for blond or white hair. After all laser hair removal treatments are completed, results can be almost permanent, with touch-up treatments annually or biannually to maintain results.

While women are fully versed in the removal of unsightly body hair from an early age, men aren’t so clued in when it comes to wanting be less hirsute. Declan Marr explores the various ways to get rid of excessive fur. Lots of men have the negative feelings about hair on their backs, hair on their fronts, or their legs or their dangly bits. But unlike women, for whom hair removal is second nature by Junior Cert, men often find themselves at a loss for how to deal with excess body fur. For those men, here’s the low-down on the most common hair removal options.

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1. Laser Hair Removal Using light energy to penetrate the hair shaft, laser actually kills the hair root. This doesn’t kill

2. Waxing Strips of specially prepared waxed cloths are laid over the skin. When the mixture dries, in just a few minutes, the cloths are removed (think of pulling off a bandage) and poof! The hair is gone. Waxing is best for eyebrow shaping, unibrow, hair on ears and neck, legs, underarms, and arms. While waxing can easily be done in the genital area, it is painful, so you might want to try it on other parts of your body first so you know what you’re in for! Results last for four to six weeks. 3. Electrolysis Using an ultra-slim needle to penetrate each individual hair shaft, this system delivers tiny shocks of electricity to the hair follicle, killing the cells that actually make hair. Once a cell is gone, it’s gone, so no hair will grow there again. Each electrolysis treatment is relatively short - from 10 to 20 minutes - but if you want a lot of hair removed, it could take up to a year of weekly treatments. Since each hair is treated one at a time, take a glance at the thickness of your fur and you’ll have an idea of how it will take. While electrolysis works for hair removal equally well on all areas, because of the time-consuming nature of the treatment, small areas are often a good place to start, such as brows and neck. If used

for genital hair removal, a local anaesthetic can help, since it is often painful in this location. 4. Back Shavers With blades as wide as an inch and a half, and hinged handles as long as a foot, these special razors allow you to literally shave your back and shoulders, in much the way you use a back scrub brush during a shower. You can shave any area of the back, shoulders, or buttocks. Shaving the genital area is possible, but not recommended since a cut in this region could have serious complications. 5. Cream Hair Removers Depilatory creams attack the proteins in hair and dissolve them. This causes the hair to loosen and fall out instantly. It’s best for back, chest, arms, and legs. Because some chemicals used in depilatories can be harsh, particularly on sensitive genital skin, you should always do a patch test on a small area of skin. If you have any type of reaction - burning, redness, blisters, or itching - wipe it off immediately and don’t use it. Since every formulation is slightly different, you may want to try a different brand before giving up on this method.

Beauty Bitch If you go all weak in the knees at the sheer mention of a limited edition, then pay me your attention, please. I don’t normally jump straight in with a blatant plug - however, as a one-off, special-value offer, my absolute most favourite skincare brand in the whole wide worldwide-web, has launched their Skincare Essential Kit at last, at a mere €25.00. The brand in question is Shiseido, and this isn’t the first time that I’ve waxed lyrical about this major Japanese cosmetics producer. Being the oldest cosmetics company in the world gives Shiseido an air of a much deserved authority where beauty is concerned, and you will realise why when you buy to try. The benefits to your

skin will not go unnoticed. When I say ‘try’, Shiseido’s Skincare Essential Kit is the perfect offre decouverte for anyone wishing to do exactly that - try. Shiseido’s product range for men is usually quite expensive and the obvious thinking behind the kit is that it gives the newcomer with an affordable opportunity to sample three of Shiseido’s best products for a pittance: Cleansing Foam, Total Revitalizer and Moisturizing Emulsion. The hope is that said newcomer will become won over and ultimately hooked, and this is one addiction that I am fully endorsing. So, if you prefer a cheap introduction to Shiseido, now’s the time.

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HIV

MIND OVER MATTER Because of the stigma attached to HIV, a diagnosis of the condition can often lead to irrational feelings of guilt and negative belief systems, says therapist, Wes Orr.

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ational emotive behaviour therapy (REBT) - a form of Cognative Behavioural Therapy (CBT) - is a strand of psychotherapy that focuses on uncovering irrational beliefs that lead to unhealthy negative emotions and replacing them with more productive, rational alternatives. So, how can a psychoanalytical discipline be applied to the treatment of a physiological condition like HIV? REBT practitioner Wes Orr explains: “People who are living with HIV experience a lot of different emotions. As we all know, there’s a lot of stigmatisation of HIV in Ireland and abroad. There’s obviously been a very unfortunate history of discrimination for quite a long time and people do have a lot of related emotions. They may have issues of depression or sadness, issues of guilt. Obviously there can be a lot of worry, concern and anxiety. CBT targets the parts where people have unhealthy, negative emotions, which specifically would be anxiety and depression.” REBT and CBT work under the assumption that humans are prone to adopting irrational beliefs and behaviours that stand in the way of achieving their goals. Often, these irrational beliefs take the form of extreme or dogmatic ‘musts’, ‘shoulds’, or ‘oughts’. They contrast with rational desires, wishes, preferences and wants. The presence of such extreme philosophies can make all the difference

between healthy negative emotions like sadness or regret or concern, and unhealthy negative emotions, such as depression or guilt or anxiety. “The fact is that CBT, generally speaking, is the treatment of choice for people who have emotional difficulties,” says Orr. “If you have unhealthy negative depression, as opposed to ‘sadness’, or you have unhealthy anxiety as opposed to concern, the research is there - CBT clearly does help people who are dealing with fact that they have a life-changing diagnosis of HIV or other medical conditions that can be quite serious. It works very well for people because it comes back to what you actually believe and think about your diagnosis.” REBT focuses on the ‘here and now’, with special attention paid to the thought process of the patient, as it applies to influencing their opinions or beliefs following a positive diagnosis. “HIV is a long-term condition and I believe in terms of psychotherapy, it’s quite similar in some ways to other long-term conditions. Stigma issues aside, it’s a condition that affects the health of the body. People often develop certain belief systems about the chronic conditions they have. Somebody with diabetes, for instance may experience guilt, saying, ‘I lived life to excess and this is my punishment now’. Unfortunately, sometimes people develop this unhealthy guilt as opposed to accepting that we are all fallible human beings. We all make good decisions, we all make poor decisions. Sometimes even religions gets into the mix. People can think,

‘maybe God is punishing me’. “REBT is really about learning to understand where your inferences and beliefs fit into your emotions. With other therapies you have this concept that a specific situation/event caused your emotion. What I focus on with people who might think less of themselves after receiving a positive diagnosis is challenging that belief, because it’s a very unhealthy belief. It doesn’t get them anywhere. It actually makes things worse because if you’re beating yourself up all the time, you can’t even enjoy the quality of life you could have.” Wes Orr, The Arc - The Advanced Resource Centre for Cognitive Counselling, 085 767 0182

SHARE YOUR STORY Are you living with HIV or Aids? As Irish Aids Day (June 15) draws near, we are starting a special GCN project to help people understand the reality of HIV. We will be asking HIV positive lesbian, bisexual, gay and trans people, and those living with Aids, to share their stories with us. When Irish Aids Day takes place, we will be sharing those stories with the entire gay community in a special edition of GCN that we hope will promote understanding. Although we would prefer all those who of you who share your stories to be photographed, this is not compulsory. What we would like is for you tell us how life is for you as a person living with HIV or Aids. If you want to be included in this very special project, please email editor@gcn.ie and express your interest. We look forward to hearing from you.

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directory DUBLIN & THE EAST MONDAYS 1 Dundalk Outcomers Women’s Night 8-10pm. T: 042 932 9816 or www.outcomers.org 1 Iris (LGBT mental health support group) OUThouse, first Monday of every Month from 6.30pm.E: outreach@outhouse.ie, T: 01873 4999 1 Bear Coffee NIght 7.30-9.30pm in Cafe 105 in Outhouse. E:outreach@outhouse.ie or 018734999 1 Clowns - Learn how to juggle and be a circus performer, every Monday 7.30-9.30pm. E: outreach@outhouse, T: 01 873 4999 TUESDAYS 1 The Emerald Warriors training every Tuesday and Thursday at 7.30 in Bolbrook, Tallaght. Beginners welcome, no experience necessary, www.ewrfc.ie. 1 Personal Development Course for Men. Six-week courses. To book your place contact GMHP on (01) 873 4952 or E: gmhpoutreach@eircom.net 1 Athy GLB group meets Tues every 3 weeks. T: 086 261 8808. E: athyglb@gmail.com 1 LGBT AA group meets weekly in OUThouse at 6.30pm. 1 Johnny (Men’s Gay and Bisexual peer group) meet Outhouse. 7pm. T: 085 747 8383 for details, johnny.group@gmail.com, www. johnnygroup.org. Second Tuesday of every month 1 Bi Irish social group for Bisexuals and friends . For info email E:dublinbisexualgroup@gmail.com 1 GIG (Gay International Group), multicultural group for women and men Outhouse 7.30-9.30pm E: outreach@outhouse, T: 018734999 1 Gloria LGB Choir, meets every Tuesday 7.30-7.30pm E: info@gloria.ie T: Ian 086 354 5011 www.gloria.ie 1 Dundalk Outcomers Men’s Night 8.30-11.30pm. T: 042 932 9816 or www.outcomers.org 1 Dublin Devils FC, soccer club for gay men, all levels welcome.7pm in the Phoenix Park. www.dublindevilsfc.com WEDNESDAYS Friendly Gay Book Club meet at Outhouse 8pm on the first Wednesday of every month The Phoenix Tigers, Dublin’s lesbian soccer team train Larkin College. 8-9.30pm. New players all levels welcome.E: phoenixtigersirl@gmail.com Drop-in for LGBT young people ated 14-23, every Wed afternoon, 3pm, 13 Parliament St, D1 (01) 670 6223, www.belongto.org 1 Over 18’s BeLonG To Youth Group, meets every second Wed at 7pm, 13 Parliament St, D1, (01) 670 6223, www.belongto.org 1 Individuality, youth group for trans people aged 14-23, every second Wed at 6pm, 13 Parliament St, D1, (01) 670 6223, www.belongto.org 1 Dublin Front Runners running club for gay men and women, all levels. Meet every Weds 7.30pm. www.dublinfrontrunners.ie. E: dublinfrontrunners@gmail.com 1 G-Swim, gay men’s swimming group, meet 8.45pm at statue outside the Markievicz Pool, Townsend St. E: Gswim@eircom.net, 087 666 5770 1 YO! Youth Night at Dundalk Outcomers. For 18-25 year olds only, 8.30-10.30pm. T: 042 932 9816 or www.outcomers.org 1 Amach Wicklow - Gay and lesbian group meets in Ashford on the 2nd Wednesday of every month at 8:30pm T: (086) 235 2599 for more details. 1 Womens Tennis practice intermediate level on public tuf courts in Dublin. Weds 5.30 & Sat 11.00am. Call: 0863892992 for info 1 Transgendered Peer Support group, bi-montly from 7.30-9.30. For info: E: outreach@outhouse, T: 018734999 1 Garda Advice, second Weds of the month from 7-9pm. Free and confidential service. For info: E: outreach@outhouse, T: 018734999 1 GOLD Chat and Chew for the older LGBT community in Cafe 105, Outhouse. Info: E: outreach@outhouse, T: 018734999 1

THURSDAYS 1 The Lady Birds group for young women aged 14- 23, every second Wed, 6pm, 13 Parliament St, D1, (01) 670 6223, www.belongto.org 1 N.A. meeting in Outhouse 8pm T: 873 4999 1 Rainbow Recovery AA Meeting, Carmelite Community, Aungier St, D2, 6.30pm, fully accessible 1 First Out is a confidential discussion group for women exploring their sexuality. First Thursday of each month in Outhouse at 7.30pm. T Outhouse: 01 873 4999 1 The Emerald Warriors training every Tuesday and Thursday at 7.30 in Bolbrook, Tallaght. Beginners welcome, no experience necessary, www.ewrfc.ie. 1 Women’s night 7.30-9.30 Social Group for all women in Cafe 105, Outhouse. For info: E: outreach@outhouse, T: 018734999 1 Acting Out: Drama group for men and women in the theatre space in Outhouse 7.30-9.30pm. For more info: E: outreach@outhouse, T: 01 873 4999

FRIDAYS EAGLE, Gay Wexford social group meets the first Friday of every month in Wexford town from 8 p.m. til late. Text 0860792625 : 6.30-7.30, MonFri or w: www.gaywexford.com, e: info@gaywexford.com 1 Swimmin Wimmin, meets at 7pm for a swim, a chat or just a cuppa T: 087 773 1557 for info 1 Dining Out for gay men 087 286 3349 E: info@diningoutinireland.org 1 AA meeting in OUThouse, 8pm 1 Men’s Night in OUThouse, 7-10pm 1 Queer Studies Group. Open discussions in WERRC Resource Room, Arts Annex Building, UCD Belfield 6.00-8.00pm. E: dublinqueerstudiesgroup@hotmail.com 1 Queer Conversations at Dundalk Outcomers. Check www.outcomers.org for updates on speakers and topics. T: 042 932 9816 1

SATURDAYS Live, Let Live AA Meetings,Friends Meeting House Abbey Street D1 6.30pm 1 Dublin Front Runners: running club for gay men and women, all levels. Meet every Sat 10am, www.dublinfrontrunners.ie 1 Dublin Devils FC - soccer club for men, all levels welcome. Meet 1pm Sat in Phoenix Park. www.dublindevilsfc.com T: Mark on 086 805 9443 1 Women’s Golfing ‘Saturday Swingers, every second Saturday in Dublin. Tel: 087 987 1661, some experience neccessary. 1 The Dublin Gay Music Group is a gathering of gay men who meet each Saturday afternoon to listen to recordings of classical music. An outlet for enthusiasts of classical and operatic music, the focus is on musical appreciation. New members are welcome. http://info.dublinmusicgroup.com 1 Open Night in Dundalk Outcomers 8.30 to 10.00pm

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gidisupportgroup/ Queer Men’s Night Out. Dinner, movie and a pint. Follow the link on www.nua.cc 1 Kildare Youth Group, for 16-26 year olds http://groups.yahoo.com/group/kildarelgbt 1 Athy GLB Group, meets October 17 at Athy Community Development, Woodstock St, T: 083 304 9363 1 Kildare Group E: Kildarelgbt@gmail.com for details 1 Irish Queers. LGBT activists organising on issues in Ireland and Irish America. NY 212.289.1101 and www.irishqueers.org 1 Gay Bray Social Group for LGB persons in the Bray area. E: gaybray@gmail.com 1 Wet & Wild LGBT outdoor pursuits club, monthly activites, E:wetandwild@gmail.com 1 G Force , Garda LGB Employee Support Network. E: group42732@ yahoo.com 1

HEALTH HELP Gay Men’s Health Project (GMHP), 19 Haddington Road D4. Free sexual health service T: (01) 660 2189 E: gmhp1@eircom.net 1 Johnny (Men’s Gay and Bisexual peer group) meet Outhouse first Tuesday of every month. T: (01) 873 4999 for details 1 Gay Health Network (GHN) T: (01) 873 4952 E: info@gayhealthnetwork.ie, www.gayhealthnetwork.ie 1 St. James’ GUIDE Clinic T:(01) 416 2315 or (01) 416 2316 1 Transgender Equality Network advice, help and support T: 085 147 7166, E: info@teni.ie or www.teni.ie 1 Drugs/HIV Helpline 1800 459 459 10am-5pm everyday 1 BeLonG To Drugs Outreach. Support for young people around drugs and alcohol T: Gillian (01) 670 6223/087 328 3668, www.belongto.org, e:info@belongto.org

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SUNDAYS 1 A.A. Meets in OUThouse at 6.30pm. 1 BeLonG To group for LGBT young people aged 14-23 in a safe & fun environment. Meets every Sunday at 3.30pm in Outhouse, 105 Capel St, D2, (01) 670 6233, www.belongto.org 1 Out & About Hillwalking Group meet at National Concert Hall Earlsfort Terrace 10am for a Wicklow Mountain hike. www.gay-hiking.org 1 GLOW (Gays and Lesbians of Wexford) mixed social group, for details of meeting E: glow@iol.ie T: (051) 879 907 1 Dundalk Outcomers Fri, Sun & Wed 8.30-10.30pm

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COMMUNITY CENTRES OUThouse, 105 Capel Street, Dublin 7 T: (01) 873 4999.www.outhouse.ie. Cafe hours: Mon-Fri 1pm-10pm, Sat 1pm-6pm, closed Sundays 1 Dublin AIDS Alliance at Eriu Centre, 53 Parnell Sq, D1 T: (01) 873 3799 www.dublinaidsalliance.com 1 Dundalk Outcomers, 8 Roden Place Dundalk T: 042 932 9816 www.outcomers.org 1

OTHER GROUPS ASTI GLB Network for second level teachers working in school. Meet monthly in ASTI head office. T: 087 629 7727. E: gayandlesbiannetwork@asti.ie 1 Irish Queer Archive. Open by appointment only. E: irishqueerarchive@ireland.com 1 OUT4TENNIS is Ireland’s GLBT tennis network. For details of our tournaments and ladders as well as overseas tournaments, visit us at www.out4tennis.com 1 G-Swim, men’s swimming group, meet Wednesdays, 8pm outside Markievicz Pool, Townsend St, info@gayswim.org 1 Changing Attitude Ireland. Christian pro-gay network of persons gay/ straight working for full affirmation of LGBT persons in the churches. Visit us at www.changingattitudeireland.org 1 Older Women’s wining, dining networking group. Regular meetings with a view to pursuing mutual social and cultural interests. Email: verity20042000@yahoo.co.uk 1 LGB group for primary teachers in Ireland, North and South. The group has the offical sanction of the Irish National Teachers Organisation (INTO). Contact lgbt@INTO.ie or T: 087 695 2839. 1 Gay Book Group, first Wednesday of every month at Outhouse. http://groups.google.com/group/dgrg 1 GLUE - Gay and Lesbian Unions Eire. Group lobbying for changes in the Partnership Laws in Ireland. www.glue.ie 1 The Married Men’s Support Group meet once a month. Contact Gay Switchboard Dublin on 01 872 1055 for details. 1 Labour LGBT E: lgbt@labour.ie. www.labour.ie 1 Irish Shamrocks. Dublin based soccer tean, weekly training, new members welcome. Contact: 0860889273, info@irishshamrocksfc.com, www.irishshamrocksfc.com 1

Transgender Equality Network www.teni.ie, E: info@teni.ie or 085 147 7166 1 Gender Identity Dysphoria Ireland (GIDI). Lynda on 085 744 2697 or E: lyndatheeyes@yahoo.co.uk or 1

HELPLINES Dublin Lesbian Line (01) 872 9911, 7pm-9pm, Mondays and Thursdays, www.dublinlesbianline.ie 1 Gay Switchboard (GSD) (01) 872 1055 Mon–Fri, 7-9pm.W: www.gay switchboard.ie 1 Dublin Transsexual Peer Support Group. Every second Wednesday. Information, assistance and support for those questioning their gender. Confidentiality is respected. T: Fiona on 087 9207013 or 085 147 7166 1 BeLonG To Youth Project, supporting and resourcing lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender young people aged 14-23 T:01 670 6223; E: info@belongto.org; www.belongto.org 1 Greenbow LGB deaf group E: deafgreenbowlgbt@yahoo.ie www.greenbowdeaf.com 1 Dundalk Outcomers, Louth LGB Helpline (042) 935 2915, For detailed listings, see www.outcomers.org 1 OutLouth 086 324 1579 E:info@outlouth.com www.outlouth.com 1 Transgendered Equality Network T: 085 147 7166, www.teni.ie or E: info@teni.ie STUDENT LGBT SOCIETIES National Union of Students in Ireland, Lesbian Gay & Bisexual Rights Campaign - Contact Laura Finlay, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Rights Officer E: lgbt@usi.ie, T: (01) 709 9300, M: 086 781 6393 1 National College of Art & Design LGBT, ncadlgbt@gmail.com 1 Trinity College Dublin: lgbisoc@csc.tcd.ie: www.TrinityLGB.org 1 University College Dublin : ucdlgbt@gmail.com 1 Dublin City University : dculgbsoc@yahoo.com 1 Dún Laoghaire IADT : lgbt@iadtsu.ie 1 Dublin Institute of Technology: www.ditlgbt.org 1 Blanchardstown IT: itb_lgbt@gmail.com 1 NUI Maynooth: NUIMLGBT lgbt@nuimsu.com 1 Tallaght IT: supres@it-tallaght.ie Mary Immaculate College: maryilgbt@hotmail.com 1

GARDA LIAISON OFFICERS Community Relations Section - Inspector Finbarr Murphy 01 666 3831/3811 1 Community Relations Section - Sergeant Andy Tuite 01 666 3831/3821 1 Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Unit - Detective Sergeant Michael Lynch 01 666 3366/3435 1 Pearse Street - Detective Brendan Supple 01 666 9000 Store Street - Martina McDermott 01 6668000 Store Street - Mark O Doherty 01 6668000 Kevin Street - Mark Bolger 01 6669400 1 Cabra - Brigit Burke 01 666 7400 1 Bridewell - Detective Frank Tracey 01 666 8200 1 Bridewell - Garda Ita Bradley 01 666 8000 1 Fitzgibbon Street - Garda Eoin Lynch 01 666 8400 1 Swords - Margaret Coyle 01 664700 Terenure - John Banahan 01 666400 Blanchardstown - Mick McCoy 01 6667000 1 Cabinteely - Derval Gillen 01 666 5400 1 Dundalk - Sergeant Vincent Jackson 042 933 5577 1 Kildare/Carlow - Sergeant Mary Corcoran 045 884300 1 Kilkenny - Inspector Padraig Dunne 051 305 300 Clondalkin -Stephen Dunican 01 6667642 1

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BELFAST & THE NORTH MONDAYS 1 GLYNI youth group for LGBT’s 16-25 years old, 64 Cathedral Buildings Belfast, 6-9.30pm, www.glyni.org.uk TUESDAYS Ulster Titans. Men’s rugby club. Training 7.30 - 9.30pm. www.ulstertitans.com for more

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WEDNESDAYS 1 Collective meeting at Cara Friend Centre 8pm THURSDAYS Ulster Titans. Men’s rugby club. Training 7.30 - 9.30pm. www.ulstertitans.com for more

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FRIDAYS Men of the North An alternative gay venue for men over 25 Meets on the 2nd Friday of every month at Mynt, Belfast. E:info@menofthenorth.com, www.menofthenorth.com 1 GLYNI youth group for LGBT’s 16-25 years old, 64 Cathedral Buildings Belfast, 6-9.30pm, www.glyni.org.uk 1

SATURDAYS Ulster Titans. Men’s rugby club. Training 2pm. www.ulstertitans.com for more information 1 Inspace Coffee Lounge at Queerspace Cara Friend Centre 3-6pm Everyone welcome 1 Narcotics Anonymous Women’s Meetings 6.30pm - 8.00pm at La Verna Grattan Street (next door to Project School) 1

SUNDAYS Out & About (NI), LGBT walking group now in its third year. Last Sunday of each month.; Check out our http://outnabout-ni.org.uk E: neil@outnabout-ni.org.uk for details. Cathedral Buildings, 3-6pm

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COMMUNITY CENTRES Changing Attitude Ireland. www.changingattitudeireland.org E: mailto:changingattitudeireland@hotmail.co.uk 1 Rainbow Project Belfast. 2-8 Commercial Court Belfast BT 1 2NB. (028) 903 19030 www.rainbow-project.org 1 The Rainbow Project 12A Queen Street Derry BT48 7EG (028) 7128 3030 1 QueerSpace in Cara Friend Centre Offices in Cathedral Buildings, Lower Donegall Street Belfast T: (028) 905 90257 and www.queerspace.org.uk 1

OTHER GROUPS NIGRA (Northern Ireland Gay Rights Association) PO BOX 44, Belfast BT1 1SH T: (028) (048 from ROI) 906 64111 E: nigra4@hotmail.com 1 Gay Men’s Spiritual Group meeting Clonard Monastery, Belfast, E: gathering05@hotmail.co.uk 1 Gay Policing Northern Ireland, E: gpni@yahoogroups.com 1 Gay Newry, check www.gaynewry.com 1 Gay and Lesbian Across Down, 07791 398438, www.gladni.org 1 Gay Men’s Spiritual Group meeting Clonard Monastery, Belfast. E: jimger2000@yahoo.co.uk for details 1 Lesbian Friends Northern Ireland, a Social Support Group for LBT women LesbianFriendsNorthernIreland@groups.msn.com 1 LGBT Youth Group. Dundalk Outcomers Age 14-23 all welcome e: info@outcomers.org, www.outcomers.org 1 Border Area Group (BAG), based in Monaghan, also includes Cavan, Fermanagh, Tyrone and Armagh areas, Tel: 087 775 8640/083 005 3909, borderareagroup@yahoo.com 1 Causeway LGBT Network, for the Causeway Coast area, 1st Monday of month, 7-9pm, info@causewaylgbt.co.uk, call 0791 098 0314 on Thusdays, 7-9pm only. 1

HEALTH HELP GUM Clinic at Altnagelvin Hospital, Anderson House, Derry, Mon, Wed & Fri 9.30am-11am Wed 1.30-3pm (028) 7161 1269 1 Women’s Health Clinic at Altnagelvin Hospital, Anderson House Derry, Thurs 9.30am-11am Wed (028) 7161 1269 1 Body Positive NI Room 308 Bryson Hse Bedford St, BT2 7FE 1

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HELPLINES Lesbian Line (028) 902 386 68 Thursdays 7.30-10pm 1 Cara Friend Belfast (028) 903 220 23 Monday – Wednesday 7.30-10pm 1 Rainbow Project Belfast 2-8 Commercial Court, Belfast BT1 2NB T: (028) 90319030 sexual health info and counselling 1 The Rainbow Project 12A Queen Street Derry BT48 7EG T: (028) 712 83030 1 AIDS Help North West/Letterkenny Helpline (074) 912 5500 1 The HIV Support Centre Mon-Fri 9-5pm T:0800 137 437 or (028) 902 49 268 E: info@thehivsupportcentre.org.uk 1 Donegal Text Line: 085 741 1607. E: LGBT@donegalyouthservice.ie 1

STUDENT LGBT SOCIETIES Queen’s University Belfast : qub_lgb@hotmail.com 1 Letterkenny Institute of Technology: lgbt-lyit@hotmail.com. 1

PSNI MINORITY LIAISON OFFICERS Third party reporting of incidents can be made to: Rainbow Project Belfast. 2-8 Commercial Court Belfast BT 1 2NB. (028) 90319030 www.rainbow-project.org; 12A Queen Street Derry BT48 7EG T: (028) 712 83030; Cara-Friend Gay Helpline (028) 90322023 or admin@cara-friend.org.uk; Lesbian Line (028) 9023 8668 or admin@lesbianlinebelfast.org.uk 1 North Belfast 028 9025 9207 1 South Belfast 028 9070 0509 1 East Belfast 028 9025 9763 1 West Belfast 028 9025 9892 1 Antrim 028 9448 1657 1 Ards 028 91 829041 1 Armagh 028 37 521153 1 Ballymena 028 2566 4013 1 Ballymoney/Moyle 028 276 49 668 1 Banbridge 028 40 621368 1 Carrickfergus 028 90 259622 1 Castlereagh 028 90 901314 1 Coleraine 028 70 280906 1 Cookstown 028 79 399406 1 Craigavon 028 3831 5355 1 Down 028 44 611109 1 Dungannon & Sth Tyrone 028 97 750503 1 East Belfast 028 90 259824 1 Fermanagh 028 66 321557 1 Foyle 028 71 739751 1 Larne 028 28 271055 1 Limavady 028 7776 6797 1 Lisburn 028 92 600978 1 Magherafelt 028 7963 3701 1 Newry & Mourne 028 3083 2067 1 Newtownabbey 028 90 259319 1 Nth Down 028 91 474957 1 Omagh 028 8224 6177 1 Strabane 028 71 379803 1

CORK, KERRY & THE SOUTH MONDAYS 1 Phase 2 is a group offering a supportive welcoming space for older (35+) lesbian/bisexual women - 3rd Monday of each month 7.30 - 9.30pm. Tel: (021) 480 8600, E: info@linc.ie 1 Kerry LGBT Resource Night (LGBT speakers etc.), third Mon of the month, contact KGLP, 087 294 7266 TUESDAYS L.Inc Drop-in - women only space - 11am 3pm Tel: (021) 480 8600, E: info@linc.ie

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WEDNESDAYS 1 L.Inc Drop-in-women only space - 11am 3pm 1 TENI trans support group, meets first Wed of every month at The Other Place, 8pm, Tel: (021) 427 8470, E: christine@teni.ie Tel: (021) 480 8600, E: info@linc.ie 1 SOUTh Drop-in Centre Waterford. 1st and 2nd Weds of the month 8-10pm. P: 0862147633

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Gay cinema night @ The Other Place cinema, 8 South Main Street, 8pm every Wednesday E5/3 Conc. Tel: (021) 427 8470

THURSDAYS L.Inc Drop-in - women only space - 11am 3pm Tel: (021) 480 8600, E: info@linc.ie 1 UNITE Youth Group. A safe, fun, social space for Gay and Bisexual 17 23 year olds at The Other Place, 6-9pm, www.gayyouthcork.com 1 Kerry LGBT Movie Night, first Thurs of month, contact KGLP, 087 294 7266 1

FRIDAYS Cork Gay Men’s Dining Group, 3 Fri of month to dine at local restaurant, 085 270 2396, www.corkdininggroup.com 1 The Friday Meltdown on Cork Campus Radio, 97.4FM with Allan, Caroline and Evan 1

SUNDAYS Cork Gay Hillwalkers group for gay men meet the 1st and 3rd Sunday of each month. Mountain hikes in Cork/Kerry/Tipperary/Waterford. T: (087) 973 6636 www.corkgayhillwalkers.com

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COMMUNITY CENTRES L.Inc resource centre for LBT women, 11A White St., Cork. Opening times: Monday-Friday 11-3pm Phone line 9-5pm daily. Tel: (021) 480 8600, email: info@linc.ie, www.linc.ie 1 Cork Gay Project for GB Men, Dunlaoi, 8 North Mall, Cork, T: (021) 4278 470, www.gayprojectcork.com 1 The Other Place, 8 South Main Street, Cork T: (021) 4278 470 1 Waterford: sOUTh Drop in Centre. Chat, movies, games, books. Cheshire Homes, John’s Hill, (St Parick’s Hospital), 1st & 3rd Wed of each month, 8-10pm, E: southlgbt@gmail.com, T: 086 214 7633 1

OTHER GROUPS Cork Gay Men’s Dining Group, 085 2702396, www.corkdininggroup.com 1 North Kerry/West Limerick LGBT, Listowel Family Resource Centre each Saturday night, Call Martin, 086 855 6431 1 Kerry Gay & Lesbian Project, contact 087 294 7266, kerrygayandlesbianproject@gmail.com, www.gaykerry.com 1 Kerry running club, kerryfrontrunners@gmail.com 1 MEN (Male Emerging Network), social/support group for gay men, meets monthly www.gaycork.com/men 1 Mna Mna Ladies Choir, T: (021) 480 8600, info@linc.ie 1 Gaycork.com Social Groups, montly social events, info@gaycork.com, www.gaycork.com 1 Positive Positive: confidential support group for HIV GB men in Munster area, T: 085 834 3939, www.posposmunster.com 1 Out4Tennis Cork, for men and women, www.outinireland.net 1

HEALTH HELP STD Clinic at Victoria Hospital., Cork Apt Necessary. Mon, Tues, Thurs 9.30-11.45am and Wed 2.30-4.30pm T: (021) 496 6844 1 STD Clinic at Waterford Regional Hospital Mon 2-4pm & Tues 10am-12pm T: (051) 854149 1

HELPLINES Gay/Bi Men’s Helpline Cork (021) 427 1087, Tue & Wed, 7-9pm 1 Cork Lesbian Line (021) 431 8318 8-10pm Thursdays 1 Kerry G & L Line (076) 615 4124, Tues 7.30 - 9.30 1 AIDS Helpline (021) 427 6676 10am-5pm Mon-Fri & 7-9pm Tues 1 NA Helpline (021) 427 8411 8pm-10pm Mon - Fri 1 AA Helpline (021) 450 0481 8pm-10pm every night 1

STUDENT LGBT SOCIETIES University College Cork meet weekly W: www.ucclgbt.com E: lgbt@uccsocieties.ie 1 CIT LGBT soc, meets every Wed at 8pm, www.ciglgb.com, E: lgbt@gmail. com for details 1 Waterford IT (WIT) LGBT Society T: 087 252 7838, www.witlgbt.wetpaint.com 1 Tralee IT: LGBT@students.ittralee.ie or call Ben at 085 754 7110 1

GARDA LIAISON OFFICERS Cork Bridewell - Karl Griffin 0214943330 1 Waterford - Inspector Padraig Dunne 051 305300 1 Waterford - Garda Sinead Donoghue 051 305 300 1

BED & BREAKFASTS Æmerson House, 2 Clarence Terrace Summer Hill North, Cork T: 086 834 0891, www.emersonhouse.cork.com

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directory GALWAY, THE WEST & NORTH WEST MONDAYS 1 Self Defence and Awareness Classes for Women in Limerick. Call Jai Chan on 087 676 1663. TUESDAYS ’I’m Out Here’ informal meet up every Tuesday in Sligo at 10pm. Text 087 986 2400 for details or log onto

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THURSDAYS Limerick Women’s social group meets every 2nd & 4th Thurs of the month at 7.30-9.30 in Rainbow Support Services, Contact us on (061) 310 101 E: rainbowlmk@eircom.net

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FRIDAYS OUTWEST Gay group for the West and North West, meets monthly first Fri of every month and holds discos and other events regularly. T: 087 972 5586 www.outwestireland.ie, E: info@outwestireland.ie

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SATURDAYS LGBT Youth Group meets every Saturday. Contact us on (061) 310101 or E: rainbowlmk@eircom.net for further info. shOUT! LGBT Youth Group meets every Saturday 4-6pm, Youth Work Ireland Offices,41-43 Prospect Hill. w: www.lgbtyouthgalway.com, e: shout@youthworkireland.com, p: 0877738529

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SUNDAYS Northwest Queer Brunches the second Sunday of each month, meets 1pm at the Glasshouse Hotel, Sligo. All welcome.

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COMMUNITY CENTRES Rainbow Support Services, First floor, Fox’s Bow, William St, Limerick, (061) 31010, 087 931 0252. Supporting the Mid-West Community. 1 Rainbow Centre at 29 Mallow Street Limerick T: (061) 468 611 E: rainbowlmk@eircom.net 1

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OTHER GROUPS shOUT! LGBT Youth Group, Saturdays, www. lgbtyouthgalwaycom, E: shout@youthworkireland.com, Tel: 087 7738529 1 LGBT Youth Group for 14-23s. Safe, confidential, relaxed and fun environment for LGBT young people to meet. Info E: curiousgalway@gmail.com. 1 Gay Clare Group, organises social events and supplies info, www. gayclare.com, 085 721 2674 1 Over The Rainbow Drama Group, Sligo, Merville Community Centre, every Wed 7.30pm, contact Brian: 085 803 3665 1 AZURE - Sligo based social group, holding regular meetings and events, www.azuregay.com 1 Midwest dining group meeting in Tipperary. Contact Joe on 086 898 9626 for more details AMACH!LGBT Galway, w: www.amachlgbt.com, e: info@amachlgbt.com 1

HEALTH HELP AIDS West T: (091) 562 213 E: info@aidswest.ie, www.aidswest.ie 1 Red Ribbon Project (061) 314 354 1 LGB Alcoholics Anonymous for people in the Galway and Midlands area, every Saturday, 7.30pm. Call Denis (087 295 6233) or Paddy (087 250 7580) for details. 1

HELPLINES Clare Area Lesbian Information Line. To find out what’s going on in Clare Tel: 087 949 4725 E:clarelesinfo4@eircom.net 1 OutWest Gay Helpline: T: 094 937 2479 OUT (For information or a chat in confidence) Wednesday nights 8 - 10pm 1 AIDS West T: (091) 562 213 E: info@aidswest.ie, www.aidswest.ie 1 Rainbow Support Services Limerick. Supporting Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transvestite, Transgendered people; their families and friends. Confidential Helpline: (061) 310 101 Business Telephone: (061) 468 611. e-mail: rainbowlmk@eircom.net 1 The Limerick Gay Switchboard and Lesbian Line is available Monday to Friday 9-5, and Tuesday nights 7.30-9.30pm for details Tel: 061 310 101 Tuesday and Thursday 7.30pm-9.30pm. 1

Red Ribbon Project T: (061) 314 354, Helpline : (061) 316661, www.redribbonproject.com Mon 2.15-5pm,Tues-Fri 9.30am-5.00pm, lunch 1.00-2.15 1 Gay Sligo E: sligout@hotmail.com 1 NW Lesbian Line (071) 914 7905 Tuesdays 8-10pm 1

STUDENT LGBT SOCIETIES Out in UL E: outinul@yahoo.ie 1 Mary Immaculate College, Limerick LGBT Meet once a week, details by email to: maryilgbt@hotmail.com 1 Sligo IT. E: rainbowsoc@gay.com 1

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MY PARTNER PROPOSED, AND I SAID YES. BUT I’M SEEING ANOTHER MAN ON THE SIDE

Dear Ray, I have been in my relationship for six years and I would describe it as a happy one. My partner and I get on very well. We understand each other and have a similar sense of humour about life. In the past few years, however, our sex life has dwindled to once a month at best. We’ve talked about it and have accepted that sometimes it’s going to be better than others. About a year ago, I began having a relationship of sorts with another man. In my mind, it’s not an affair; it’s about sex only. We don’t speak much, have very little in common, but I have great sex with him. In February, with all the focus on the Civil Partnership Bill in the Dáil, over dinner one night my boyfriend popped the question out of the blue. Stunned and moved, I said, that I would be proud to marry (or civil partnership) him. I realised that this would mean a new commitment to him and that I would have to give up my other sexual relationship, and when I told the man I am seeing on the side this, he fully accepted it. However, over the past month, I have been seeing him again. Although for a while after the marriage proposal, the sex was wonderfully intimate and more plentiful with my partner, after a while it went back to the same way it was before. Seeing this other man is fulfilling a part of me that I thought had gone away, yet having had other relationships in the past, I know that my boyfriend is the perfect match for me in other ways. If I can’t stop having sex on the side, though, should I leave my boyfriend and back out of the marriage, something that would break both our hearts? I’m very confused and am looking for your advice. Yours, Denis Dear Denis, Ironically, your story is actually the perfect argument for civil partnership. Civil partnership, just like heterosexual marriage, is nothing to do with emotions, trust, or relating and everything got to do with economic, social and legal security - just as with a heterosexual marriage. That the romance level of the proposal lasted all of a month, when “the sex was wonderfully intimate and more plentiful” really establishes the level of commitment you are willing to make here, and just how you view your partnership. But it also establishes that wonderful intimate sex is possible and exists between you both. The only question here is whether your boyfriend knows about your extra-curricular activity or not, and I sense he doesn’t. You get on well only because something is concealed. And if deception is at the heart of your relationship it is no wonder your “sex life has dwindled to once a month at best”. Let me make it clear, I am not against civil partnership, marriage or open relationships - what I am against is dishonesty, deceit and lack of openness. You know, Denis, I can’t help wondering about

your intimacy issues and I am struck by the boundaries you have constructed around your life and your relationships. Your boyfriend/fiancé is defined by you not having sex with or desiring him; while this “relationship of sorts” with the man you desire is “about sex only, though we don’t speak much, and have very little in common”. What does it say that the proposal made you realise that this would mean a new commitment but that within a month, you broke this promise and continued the affair? Who are you fooling? Of course you can “stop having sex on the side”, but it is unlikely you will, because it is easier to keep doing this than to ask yourself why you are doing it, or facing the challenge of your relationship. But if you really want to make a commitment, an honest, open and public commitment to your boyfriend, the very least he deserves is honesty, and that means first that you be honest with yourself. Is there passion at any level with your boyfriend? Does he inspire you, or is it security or stability he represents? If you love him and really want to make this commitment you should definitely see someone else, but that should be a professional counsellor to examine your intimacy issues and see what it is you really desire, and then commit to your desire. Ray Ray is a psychoanalytic psychotherapist specialising in individual and relationship counselling. He can be contacted on 086 828 0033

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1. Try and know what the answer will be before popping the question. 2. A proposal will not be like any of the imaginary fantasies, for the very fact that it will be real. 3. As with most proposals, it is an application. Nothing is finalised, but the intention is there. 4. It may seem romantic to have a ‘spur of the moment proposal’, but two words: ‘Katie Price’. 5. It is the desire, not the location you pop the question in that demonstrates true intention. 6. If ring size matters to you or your intended, then one of you is over-compensating. 7. Public proposals are not fair on your partner, or on you, or on the people watching. 8. If in doubt, or in public, there is always a third answer to the proposal that buys time without humiliation. 9. Traditionally, engagements were lengthy to allow the couple to get to know each other. It worked. 10. If going for the big romantic, extravagant gesture, know whether you are doing it for you, or for them. It should be about both of you.

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Star Icons Rudolph Valentino, Born May 6, 1895 Taureans are known for their extreme determination and few icons born under this sign displayed that virtue in such abundance than the bisexual silent movie star, Rudolph Valentino. An international sex symbol, he was so ambitious for artistic integrity, he almost destroyed his career. The Italian immigrant made few friends among the commercially minded powers in Hollywood, who wanted to keep him in racially narrow roles. Against the odds, he carved out a career for himself that made him so famous that when he died at the age of 31, over 100,000 people attended his funeral, where both women and men were seen to faint.

SCORPIO OCT 24 TO NOV 22 This month’s Mercury aspect will pick you up and push you out to say the things you need to say and express your words the way you need them to be heard. A longing for the past offers little growth for the future. Cut the ties and move on. SAGITTARIUS NOV 23 TO DEC 21 You may find it difficult to put into words exactly what you think this month, so look before you leap into conversations that carry weight. You will have to come to a greater understanding of the past and learn from what went wrong in order not to repeat the cycle. CAPRICORN DEC 22 TO JAN 20 This month you will find the courage and confidence to say things you have wanted to say for some time. If you can find people who are happy to be in competition with you without it spilling over into resentment, this will be good for lively conversations.

TAURUS APRIL 21 TO MAY 21 Neptune is making its passage through your careers domain, revealing your Taurean trait of avoiding uncomfortable situations to keep the peace. Now is the time to lay the foundations for much needed change. The goal is worth the sacrifice.

LEO JULY 23 TO AUG 23 With Mars, the planet of force, gracing your domain of work, expect a change within the structure and flow of your employment status. This will help you regain a greater sense of prosperity within your life. Travel may be calling but for now your place is best at home.

GEMINI MAY 22 TO JUNE 21 Expect to be busy this month, with a great deal of variety in your everyday schedule. Your sense of influence will be felt as your enthusiasm sweeps others along with you. Halfway through the month you will be especially aware of the emotional self. Seize the opportunity for release.

VIRGO AUG 24 TO SEPT 22 Take care not to keep yourself too busy. It’s a clever way to stay distracted from a sticky situation that you are not yet able to tackle, but such a tactic will ultimately take its toll. Sharp words can cut deep so beware of speaking to harshly about someone this month. All is not as it seems in that department.

PISCES FEB 19 TO MARCH 20 Be wary of issuing ultimatums when things don’t go your way this month. They will be subject to a lot of quick change so it may be best to relax and go with the flow. Grit your teeth and do what is necessary to resolve a situation with someone close.

CANCER JUNE 22 TO JULY 22 You may be feeling somewhat tired and irritable this month, but with an upcoming Moon opposing Pluto aspect swiftly approaching, much needed emotional ease will start and you will be your happy go lucky self once more. Financial stresses will also begin to ease and a return of an old friend is to be expected.

LIBRA SEPT 23 TO OCT 23 Few things seem to change when you keep your eye on one spot, so relax and let life happen as it is meant to. Don’t underestimate your need for rest, renewal and rejuvenation. You need more then you realise. Love calls from an unexpected quarter. Go with the flow towards a brighter and much desired future.

ARIES MARCH 21 TO APRIL 20 You start the month with Aries under the shadow of the tenth house, so limited success will be born out of listening to the advice of others. While they have the experience you have a unique insight into the situation, so it is best to listen, but ultimately act on that which calls to you most.

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Colin Farrell’s statement about the roots of homophobia has done much to educate Ireland about a fear of difference that has been historically encouraged by the Catholic Church.

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recently attended the launch of BeLonG To’s newest campaign, STAND UP! LGBT Awareness Week, a week where young people all over the country were involved in activities to show their support for their LGBT friends and to show that they don’t stand for homophobic bullying. As part of the campaign, BeLonG To have released a series of short films about the amazing friendships that exist between LGBT and straight young people all over the country. At the launch, some of the BeLonG To members who had taken part in the short films were there with their straight friends and they spoke about their friendships from both perspectives. It was very heart-warming and inspirational to see all these young people so comfortable and confident with their friends ‘standing up’ for them, making it clear they do not accept homophobia. It got me thinking about my own coming out and how important it is to have a support network of friends and family around you. I came out at 20 after a few years of serious denial, thanks to good old-fashioned Catholic guilt and fear of the reaction in my small rural home village. Luckily, I had great, supportive

friends and family but it did take me a while to get to a place of acceptance. Colin Farrell issued a statement in support of BeLonG To’s STAND UP! Campaign. It is the first time an Irish star of his stature has spoken out about the issues that affect LGBT people and I was really struck by his eloquence and his understanding about the roots of homophobia. “People are often afraid of difference,” he said. “They feel that anything that causes fear, should be turned away from”. Harvey Milk famously said, “Gay brothers and sisters... You must come out. Come out to your relatives... come out to your friends... if indeed they are your friends. Come out to your neighbours... to your fellow workers... to the people who work where you eat and shop... come out only to the people you know, and who know you.” Coming out is still as powerful an action as it was in Milk’s day and I believe it is fundamental to greater acceptance and tolerance in Irish society. It is a vital tool in conquering the fear that is at the heart of all homophobia. By sharing the truth about ourselves with the world, we, as Milk so beautifully put it, “break down the myths, destroy the lies and distortions. For your sake. For their sakes”. It is clear that the existence of youth groups like BeLonG To provides a safe and supportive place for this to happen. The Catholic Church has had plenty of press recently with the avalanche of damning reports into clerical sex abuse cases and the subsequent cover-ups. I have no problem in saying that I think the Church is an institution that’s rotten to the core and I am happy to see that the control and power the Church had in Irish life is lessening day by day. With each new revelation, people are finally realising they have no credibility in trying to give moral instruction to any of us. As it was famously said: Power corrupts; absolute power corrupts absolutely. Ireland is rapidly evolving as a society and particularly in terms of LGBT rights and general acceptance. We are making leaps and bounds, considering that homosexuality was only decriminalised in 1993, especially when

“By sharing the truth about ourselves with the world, we break down the myths, and destroy the lies and distortions.” you consider the widespread homophobia and intolerance experienced by LGBT citizens all over the world. I am thinking of Senegal where the freshly buried corpse of a gay man was dug up and flung in front of his parents’ house, or Uganda where the definition of homosexuality translates as “the thing that eats directly from the garbage”. Closer to home, in Belgrade for example, last year’s Pride was cancelled and the Mayor declared “Everyone should keep their sexual orientation to themselves instead of parading it.” All that conservatism, violence and hate is largely encouraged by religion and so the demise of the Catholic Church in Ireland can only be a good thing. A complete separation of Church and State is vital to our fight for equality. I am so thankful that groups like BeLonG To exist and our LGBT youth are coming out and being proud and that support networks are in place to help that process. It took me until I was 24 to finally be comfortable with myself and shrug off the self-hating element that came from growing up in a country heavily influenced by the Catholic Church, an organisation that consistently encouraged people to turn away from difference. An organisation that would like to see people still rooted in a fear of homosexuality. As we hopefully evolve beyond the Church’s power, I think we can all learn a thing or two from the BeLonG To kids. Closeted silence will get us nowhere. Standing up and being counted, that’s the key.

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