Atlanta Gay Weddings guide 2013

2013-2014

Editorial EDITOR IN CHIEF Kirsten Ott Palladino EDITOR Laura Douglas-Brown CONTRIBUTING WRITER Elizabeth Demos

Design ART DIRECTOR Rob Boeger

Advertising CO-PUBLISHERS Chris Cash Maria Palladino ASSOCIATE PUBLISHER Tim Boyd ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Marshall Graham Anne Clarke

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Engaging and inspired It’s been an exciting time for our community in terms of marriage equality at a federal level and across the country.

Even though our marriages have yet to be legally recognized by the state of Georgia (as of print time), we’re still continuing on with our lives, falling in love, getting engaged, planning the wedding of our dreams and marrying our soul mates. And that’s where we come in, helping you every step of the way from proposing to selecting what you’re going to wear to narrowing down the food choices.

A huge source of inspiration comes from our Real Weddings features, seeing what other couples have chosen to do for favors, décor and cakes.

This year, we selected four couples from Atlanta whose love stories won our hearts. In this issue, you’ll also find fun ideas for wardrobe in our fashion feature, no matter where you fall on the gender spectrum.

We’ve selected a bevy of local products for gift-giving to your loved ones who are supporting you in your wedding.

We hope you enjoy the issue. As always, reach out anytime.

We’re here for you throughout the year.

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Letters from the Editors

Kirsten Ott Palladino, Editor in Chief editor@atlantagayweddings.com | @kirstenop

What a difference a year makes Brent Corcoran/RNZ Photography

ATLANTA GAY

Anyone who has fallen in love knows what a difference a year can make — from those thrilling first flirtations, through the “getting to know you” phase, to the depth of true commitment.

For gay and lesbian couples, the last year has also made a huge difference in our legal rights. As we published the first issue of Atlanta Gay Weddings in September 2012, activists around the nation nervously watched as marriage equality cases made their way to the Supreme Court.

The high court heard those cases in March 2013, and on June 26, 2013, issued two historic rulings for our equality.

As you plan your wedding — whether a ceremony here in Georgia, a legal marriage in another state, or both — please join us in taking a moment to say “thank you” to the activists and organizations who made these victories possible, and commit to continuing the fight for our full equality.

Thank you for sharing your special day with us.

Laura Douglas-Brown, Editor

Real weddings

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Jamie & Jodi

Romance, elegance at the Foundry at Puritan Mill

Brooke & Shmetrice From discrimination to a dream destination wedding

Patric & Darin

DIY backyard ceremony filled with personal touches

Mandi & Carmon

First same-sex ceremony at the Four Seasons Atlanta

Wedding Wisdom

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Legally wed

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Ask the expert

Your rights after the Supreme Court marriage decisions Tips from how to propose to how to include the kids

Planning Makes Perfect

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Health matters

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Get it in writing

Look and feel great when you say ‘I do’ Buzz-worthy invitations to get their attention

Express Yourself

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Aisle style

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Crowning glory

The latest wedding fashions, whatever your gender Buns, bling and more hair trends

YOUR DAY, YOUR WAY

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Spectacular venues 10 Atlanta locales for your ceremony and reception

Dishes that dazzle

Make your reception menu deliciously memorable

For the love

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Instructables: DIY Crafts

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Giving back

Simple projects to wow your guests

Show your thanks with these stylish gifts

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Jamie & Jodi Feb. 22, 2013

Jamie and Jodi share a kiss as wife and wife.

After a serendipitous crossing of paths at a charity softball tournament and an intentional exchange of digits, Jamie Smith and Jodi Wilson (now Jodi Wilson-Smith) couldn’t stop thinking about each other.

The two began texting, then hanging out, and then officially dating. On their first anniversary, Jamie proposed to Jodi with a fun scavenger hunt day that included their Goldendoodle, a softball, their first date location, the rooftop of the Livingston Hotel, and, of course, a sparkling princess-cut diamond ring.

The women took only three months to plan their wedding.

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Jamie and Jodi opted out of Officiant “I will have to admit our the typical guest book, inDJ (friend) Kaci McLaughlin wedding would have never stead spending time making a Vicki Powell DJ happened the way it did if it wishing tree out of Manzanita Vocalists Liz Ellis wasn’t for Jamie. She is very branches.

Marlysa Brooks-Alt particular. However, I was “The absolute best part of OwenAttire Stevenson a very big part of the decithe reception had to be the David’s Bridal Attire sion making, but she loves to photo booth,” says Jodi. “The Hair Savvi Formalwear research so she handled most guests loved dressing up in Jamie: Halo Hair Salon Hair and Makeup of that as well as the very crazy hats, glasses, boas, and (April Kosbey); Jodi: Lather Laura Palmer, Salon in-depth budget chart.” whatever else they could Hair Salon (KatieMint Bressner) The pair learned a valuable think of to look as goofy as Officiant Makeup lesson though. Always hire possible to take pictures, Rabbi Michele Coffsky Bombshell Creations, wedding vendors who have which eventually became AthensJeweler ( Jeris Farmer) a backup professional they decorations at the reception.”

Barron’s Jewelers FloristFine & Décor can call. Jamie says, “The one Because their wedding Tulip – Blooming Creations Flowers problem that occurred was an was on a Friday night, most Florist Atlanta issue with our wedding planof their 80 guests were comWedding Planner ner having to call us the night ing after work, so the brides A Big To Do Event before the wedding explaining started out the evening with a that she could not come to the cocktail hour with passed hors wedding because of a family emergency. Luck- d’oeuvres, including bacon-wrapped dates and ily she did have back up and most things went crab Rangoon. off without a hitch.”

At the reception, chef-attended stations Their eloquent and romantic evening served salmon, chicken, prime rib, a mélange wedding took place at the Foundry at Puri- of cheeses and sides. To finish, Jamie and Jodi tan Mill, an industrial landmark situated in offered a three-tiered square Italian cream Atlanta’s Westside. cheese cake adorned with a black satin ribbon.

The brides were both dressed in long ivory “The atmosphere was very intimate wedding gowns and carried bouquets of red and loving,” says Jamie. “Everyone kept saying roses for their intimate, candle-lit traditional how they could just feel the love in the room” ceremony. Their 10 wedding attendants wore long, silk black dresses and carried white roses — Kirsten Ott Palladino 7

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Brooke & Shmetrice Nov. 13, 2011

Brides Shmetrice and Brooke tied the knot in an intimate ceremony in Mexico.

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Shmetrice, a registered nurse, and Brooke, a program consultant, met in Fort Lauderdale, Fla. “We enjoyed quite a few dates on the beach, including a disastrous date that involved Miami’s nude beach and a jellyfish. We’ll spare the details!” says Shmetrice.

After dating for seven years, the women got engaged. Both were planning on proposing to the other, but neither one knew it. Brooke exchange of matching fiveVenue & Caterer planned to propose to Shmediamond platinum bands and ME Cancun trice on an overnight hiking a sand ceremony. trip on the Appalachian Trail.

“We used fuchsia and Photographers Aki Demi Photography Two days before leavgray sand to match the coling, Shmetrice saw a picors of the ceremony,” says Cake ture of the ring on Brooke’s Brooke, who wore an ivory, ME Cancun cell phone. Brooke says, “She charmeuse side-drape gown Music Playlist never looks at my pictures! I

by David’s Bridal. Shmetrice DJ Glass Dee took a picture to send to my looked lovely in a chiffon ivory Attire friends. And I just watched in halter gown by Galina. At the David’s Bridal horror as she looked at it.” direction of their minister, “I wasn’t snooping,” Shmethe brides combined sand Florist trice responds with a laugh. and shells from the beach as a Blossom Events and “At the time I was working reminder of the ceremony.

Wedding Design weekends and felt like I was Their romantic wedding missing all the fun stuff. My reception was held on the intention was to see pictures of resort’s deck, which overlooked her and her friends hanging out. But seeing a the beach. The décor of orchids, silver chairs, picture of the ring was much better.” fuchsia roses and floating candles added to Brooke ended up going for a less romantic the elegance of the evening. proposal and popped the question in the livThe brides danced together as wife and ing room later that night. wife to Natalie Cole’s “Inseparable,” because The Buford, Ga., couple first married in “it describes our relationship since the beBrooklyn, N.Y., on Sept. 20, 2011, on the same day ginning even as friends,” says Shmetrice. as the repeal of the military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Though they loved everything about their Tell” policy. They celebrated with a wedding wedding day, one thing definitely didn’t go as ceremony on the beaches of Cancun, Mexico, planned: the wedding cake. two months later. Their first venue choice for “We often laugh today thinking about the cake,” their wedding turned the lesbian couple away. says Brooke. “It was horrible. It looked nothing “We were very hurt and disappointed that like we wanted. However, we were so happy that our resort, the Gran Caribe Royal in Can- it did not ruin the mood. And we got a full refund.” cun, would not host the ceremony — even The Atlanta women were able to bring a though it clearly stated on their website that little Atlanta flavor to their wedding by hirthey performed ‘commitment ceremonies,’” ing DJ Glass Dee to create their jazz and R&B Shmetrice says. “Nevertheless, we did not playlist for them to play on an iPod hooked up allow this to hinder our plans. to the resort’s sound system.

“After several days of searching, we discovTheir seven wedding guests were welcomed ered a resort that agreed to host our nuptials: to the resort with a monogrammed beach ME Cancun, home of ‘The Real World’ cast in tote, a monogrammed T-shirt, two pairs of 2009,” she continues. “We were well-received flip-flops, sunscreen and a large, diamond ring by spectators who cheered us on as we traveled paperweight. to and from our wedding location. In addition, “After finally making the leap, we felt excitwe were delighted to hear in January 2012 that ed and ready for a new beginning as a married Cancun legalized gay marriages.” couple,” says Brooke. “We felt like the ceremoWith a sparkling turquoise sea as the back- ny in Cancun completed our NYC marriage.” drop, Shmetrice and Brooke tied the knot in a spiritual celebration which included a ring — Kirsten Ott Palladino 11

Patric and Darin, newlywed grooms, married in their Atlanta backyard among friends and family.

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Patric & Darin Oct. 20, 2012

“Star Trek” fans Patric Bell-Good and Darin Good were made for each other.

Their symbiotic sense of humor and attention to imaginative details shine through in the telling of their love story.

Patric, a local chef, and Darin, a marketer, got engaged on Patric’s 41st birthday with a proposal from Darin complete with a ring from Tiffany & Co. They spent about a year planning their elaborate DIY wedding, set in their own backyard on a gorgeous fall afternoon.

The Atlanta grooms went for a bountiful harvest theme, drawing upon natural elements for their wedding décor of pumpkins, corn, birds and cotton with hay bales for guest seating. Their ceremony was unparalleled in its creativity.

Both grooms were escorted down the aisle by their mothers. Patric donned an outfit of denim jeans, purple Converse, a blue gingham shirt, an orange-and-blue tie and a light brown vest, and Darin sported brown Converse, jeans, a white striped shirt, and a blueand-orange tie pulled together by a light brown sports jacket.

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of cotton. Their ring bearer dressed like Patric, even matching his funky hairdo.

Their friend Juan, also a groomsman, handled the flower arrangements (which they bought wholesale). The blooms ranged from hot pink ranunculus, orange and purple zinnias, and orange gerbera daisies, to an eggplant-colored sunflower mixed with stalks of cotton, brown leaves, and purple kale in galvanized tin buckets.

“Like us, our lives, and our ‘tribe’ of friends and family, our wedding was a blend of Korean, Jewish, Spanish, ‘Star Trek’ and AfricanAmerican traditions,” Patric says.

“We started out with the Korean dates and chestnuts (Pae Bek) tradition, where we tossed dates and chestnuts — symbolizing the good, bountiful years we will have together — back and forth; the goal was to catch as many as possible, to ensure as many good years together as possible,” he recalls.

“We followed that with The Seven Circles from Ashkenazi Jewish tradition, which symbolizes the number of times Joshua encircled the walled city of Jericho before sounding his horn and destroying the walls. I circled Der-

wood (Darin) seven times while our friend Holly gave the Sheva Brachot (The Seven Blessings).”

Darin’s ‘Star Trek’ infused vows were short and sweet, while Patric recited the last two verses from Chilean poet Pablo Neruda’s XVII:

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“We ended the ceremony with the breaking of the glass, again from Jewish tradition, a Hair representation of the fragilHeather Everson of ity of human relationships, Bubbles Salon (Darin) and also a reminder that marriage changes the lives of individuals forever,” he remembers. “Then everyone shouted ‘Mazel tov!’ and we walked down the aisle together.”

I love you without knowing how, Patric is a chef, and in keeping with their DIY or when, or from where. theme, he catered the wedding himself, serving I love you straightforwardly, a casual buffet of all of their favorites, such as without complexities or pride; okra chips, Funyuns, pimiento cheese, chicken so I love you because I know no other way liver pate, chicken salad, a cheese board, gefilte than this: where I does not exist, nor you, fish with horseradish, and boiled peanuts. so close that your hand on my chest is my hand, For wedding favors for their 35 guests, Patric so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep. made bottles of Puerto Rican hot sauce called pique. The members of the wedding party got a The couple then jumped the broom, drawing bottle of pique and a jar of pickled okra. on their Southern heritage to also invoke the inPatric even found time to make the pumpequality faced by same-sex couples in Georgia. kin wedding cake with cream cheese frost“We followed that with the jumping of the ing, decorated with marzipan pumpkins and broom from African-American/slave tra- crowned with a repurposed “Star Trek” Kirk dition, for two reasons: one, because I am and Spock salt-and-pepper shaker set.

Southern-born and Derwood has adopted So would they advise other couples to do a the Southern way of life, and the history of DIY wedding? In a heartbeat. the slaves is as much a part of Southern and “We had a very casual wedding,” says DaAmerican history as the cotton which we rin, “and in my opinion, it was the best wedused to symbolize it, and two, because slaves ding I’ve ever been to!” jumped the broom because their marriagPatric adds, “Do it yourself. You’ll save a lot es were not recognized as legal, just as gay of money, it will truly be personal, and, in the weddings were not considered valid,” Patric end, it actually will be the best day of your life.” says. “Our friend, my ‘twin sister’ Shameeka, officiated this part of our ceremony.

— Kirsten Ott Palladino Photographer Caryn Oxford Photography

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June 7, 2013

Mandi &

Carmon When you’re born Southern, you’re usually born loving college football. Such is the truth for Kennesaw residents Mandi and Carmon, the former an Auburn Tiger graduate, the latter a Clemson Tiger graduate.

The two diehard pigskin fans met at the elementary school where they both teach, conveniently the year Clemson and Auburn went head-to-head on New Year’s Eve at the Chick-fil-A Bowl. “This was just the beginning of an amazing, fun-loving, closer-thanyou-could-ever-be friendship,” says Mandi.

“The ease with which we could have a conversation about anything was something that resulted in a foundation of friendship, love and trust. She continues to be my best friend, confidant and true soul mate. No words could ever describe the bond that we have.

In the years that followed and our friendship blossomed into love, Clemson and Auburn continued to play one another in the season opener. Our house was divided, but never our love for one another.”

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in a trip with their best friends to the Dominican Republic, where Mandi proposed to Carmon.

After a three-year engagement, Mandi and Carmon married in a late spring evening ceremony at the Four Seasons Atlanta.

The wedding was simple yet elegant with vintage overtones. “We like to think of ourselves as simple and a couple of old souls, and that, paired with the elegance of The Four Seasons, seemed just perfect,” says Carmon.

The bride wore a Rivini silk strapless ball gown with tulle-swirled flowers. A delicately beaded belt completed the look. The broom donned a barely blue, fine-pinstriped suit from Banana Republic paired with a a peachand-white tie, also from Banana Republic. Mandi and their son rocked socks that matched Carmon’s shoes. Mandi says, “He got a kick out of picking them out!”

Carmon carried a lush hand-tied bouquet of mixed ivory and cream roses, and sage for greenery. Mandi’s boutonniere was an ivory ranunculus bloom with an accent of sage. The

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color palette of peach, sage Mandi and Carmon married in and off-white continued in the a luxurious ceremony at the Venue & Caterer ceremony and reception décor Four Seasons Atlanta.

Four Seasons Atlanta with peach and white garden Photographers roses, sage ribbons, green hya complete surprise from Emil Family Photography drangea, and sage. Decorated my bride, and my sisterPhoto Booth tables featured with small in-law and her mom comSnapz Photo Booth mint julep cups filled with pletely out-did themselves. garden roses.

It was an edible Auburn Broom’s Cake Their faith-based 54-guest cooler, with real beer in it.

Created with love by their ceremony included some traIt even had edible ice cubes sister-in-law and her mother ditional leanings complete made out of sugar crystals.

Cupcakes with handwritten vows and As the chef and our friend Four Seasons Atlanta the exchanging of rings (a Carole were rolling the cake DJ pave diamond wedding band out, Lou, our DJ, had the Lou Guzzo for the bride, a platinum band Auburn fight song playing.”

Jewelers with four inset princess-cut The newlyweds kicked off The Shane Company; diamonds for the broom). the dancing portion of the eveJohn Lawrence of Their 6-year-old son, the ning with “She’s Everything” by The Nest, Smyrna sole wedding attendant, was Brad Paisley. “The day I heard asked for his blessings of [the song], I knew that would Attire his mothers’ union. “Our one day be the first song I Rivini Alyne Bridal ceremony was very indicative Collection wedding gown, danced to with Carmon as my Bridals by Lori; suit, of the importance of family wife,” says Mandi. “Carmon is Banana Republic and of committing ourselves that favorite pair of jeans, that to love only one another for yellow pair of running shoes, Hair & Makeup the rest of our lives,” says and that one glass of wine. The Cyrus Gilbert of Vivid Salon Mandi. “We were honored to song is perfectly reminding of Officiant have our best friend, Barrett, exactly what she is to me.”

Barrett Scoggins marry us.”

The women incorporated (friend of the couple) The wedding reception in their son into as many aspects Florist the hotel’s Savannah Room of their ceremony as posCharles Vance was a lively, intimate affair. sible, and continued that into of Jackson Durham The Four Seasons is lauded for the reception. “After the first its culinary prowess, and Chef dance, we all three danced as Robert Gerstenecker and his a family to a favorite song we like team received rave reviews from the wedding to sing loud and proud in the car,” says Mandi. guests. Hors d’oeuvres ranged from creamy “We also had our DJ play our son’s favorite song Savannah crab-stuffed mushrooms to an Asian that he likes to dance to so that he could steal spiced beef satay with a soya glaze for the the spotlight for a few minutes.” cocktail hour, followed by a dinner reception The lovebirds stole the spotlight that night featuring stations with herb-and-mustard- as well, even amongst strangers. “Our wedcrusted tenderloin of beef, a pasta/risotto ding at The Four Seasons Atlanta marked the station, and a Southern barbecue spread with first same-sex ceremony at The Four Seaall the fixings. sons,” says Mandi. “The response we received Instead of the traditional wedding cake, on the night of our wedding from hotel guests Mandi and Carmon opted for individual cup- we didn’t know who were lined up outside cakes that were designed and created by The the grand staircase cheering, screaming and Four Seasons. Carmon gifted Mandi with a smiling was absolutely amazing! broom’s cake, too. “My broom’s cake was the most amazing thing I have ever seen! It was — Kirsten Ott Palladino 19

Wedding wisdom

Atlantans rallied at the corner of 10th Street and Piedmont Avenue on June 26, 2013, the day the Supreme Court handed down historic victories for marriage equality.

Legally wed Supreme Court ruling gives new rights, responsibilities to gay spouses Gay couples getting married now have more legal rights than ever before, thanks to the Supreme Court’s recent ruling that held a key part of the Defense of Marriage Act to be unconstitutional.

The federal government can’t refuse to recognize legal same-sex marriages, the justices held in their historic June 2013 decision.

As the decision has been implemented over the last few months, married gay couples have gained a bevy of rights — from “married” tax status to military spousal benefits.

But the court did not overturn the section of DOMA that allows states to refuse to recognize same-sex marriages from other states, and that is a crucial issue for gay couples here in Georgia, where gay marriage is banned in the state constitution.

If you choose to travel to a state where it is legal to marry, you will get several important federal marriage rights. You won’t get state rights, however, and you won’t be able to get divorced in Georgia courts if your relationship ends.

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Here are some of the biggest rights you will and won’t get based on the Supreme Court ruling. Keep in mind that every situation is different and that government policies are still evolving, so it is wise to consult an attorney about your specific circumstances before deciding to travel to another state to get married.

WHAT YOU DON’T GET

The right to marry in Georgia: Georgia still refuses to allow gay couples to marry or to recognize our marriages from other states, so your home state will still consider you “single” (for everything from state taxes to state benefits) even if you travel to another state to legally marry.

The right to divorce in Georgia: It’s the last thing you want to think about when getting married, but it is perhaps the most important issue you need to consider when deciding whether to legally wed.

Many states that allow gay couples to marry also restrict divorce to state residents. That means that if your relationship ends (as many do, both gay and straight), you could find yourself unable to divorce without moving to the state where you got married and living there long enough to establish residency.

Photos by Laura Douglas-Brown

When planning where to get married, ask careful questions about state policies related to divorce and consider talking to an attorney or other expert before deciding to say “I do” outside of Georgia.

WHAT YOU DO GET

‘Married’ tax status: The Internal Revenue Service will now count all legally married same-sex couples as “married” for tax purposes, regardless of whether your state recognizes your marriage. You may need to consult a tax professional for help in preparing your returns, since you will be “married” for federal taxes but still “single” for Georgia taxes.

Immigration rights: U.S. residents can now sponsor same-sex spouses for immigration.

Military spouse benefits: Same-sex spouses of those serving in the military are now eligible for the full range of spousal benefits.

Because the military will only recognize legal marriages, not commitment ceremonies or civil unions, the military will also grant service members leave to travel to states where it is legal for them to marry.

Veterans benefits: In September, the U.S. Attorney General announced that in the wake of the DOMA decision, the Veterans Administration will no longer restrict spousal benefits to opposite-sex couples.

Federal civilian employee benefits: Same-sex spouses of federal civilian employees are now eligible for a host of benefits, including health, vision, dental and group life insurance, coverage under the

Family Medical Leave Act, and more.

Social Security benefits: The Social Security Administration is still working to develop policies after the DOMA ruling, but in August, officials announced that some retirement spouse claims for same-sex couples are being processed. Even if you live in a state that doesn’t recognize your marriage, you are encouraged to apply for benefits.

For more information, consult Lambda Legal at www.lambdalegal.org — Laura Douglas-Brown

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Wedding wisdom

Ask Etiquette advice for your proposal and ceremony

By Kirsten Ott Palladino

Q: I’m planning on proposing to my girlfriend of five years at Christmas when we’ll be visiting her family in another state. I’ve met her parents several times, but I’m not particularly close to them. Should I ask her parents’ permission to ask for her hand? And if so, which one do I ask? (She has the traditional still-married mom and dad.)

A: Aw, how sweet! Well, you don’t have to ask anyone’s permission, especially since you’ve been together this long and I’m guessing you’re already living together. But I’m a traditionalist to the bone (traditionally gay, if I had to coin a term for folks like me), so I say yes, ask!

I’d ask them together, if you can do it without arousing suspicion from your bride-to-be.

To me, marriage is not only the public lifetime commitment of two people, but it’s also the merging of two families. This initial step will seal that bond and help get them involved early.

Even if you don’t want to ask for their daughter’s hand, at least let them in on your plans. They’ll love being included — and being in on the surprise. Speaking of, make sure you don’t tell them too early. A giggly mom who’s had too much eggnog might spill the beans before you’re ready.

Try waking up early the morning you’re going to do it and talk to them over their parental cups of Folgers before your sweetheart rouses. Good luck!

Q: We’re inviting quite a few friends with children to our wedding, and we haven’t decided if we should include the under-18 set. (We’re trying to keep it somewhat formal.) If we do allow children, do you have any suggestions for keeping them entertained?

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Thinking of involving kids at your wedding? It’s easy with some prep work.

A: Kids don’t have to change the atmosphere of your wedding if you plan wisely. It’s important to keep the kids on your guest list entertained so you’ll be able to enjoy your wedding without worrying about them sticking their fingers in your precious wedding cake or running off during the reception.

As you’re cutting said cake and dancing the night away, have the kiddos sit at a table stocked with crayons, coloring books, puzzles, sticker books, glow sticks and temporary tattoos.

Or set up a mini-daycare, complete with hired babysitter, in a roped-off area or a separate room. Have each child wear his or her parents’ names on a wristband to provide peace of mind for everyone.

Make sure to offer a buffet of kid-friendly food, and serve it during cocktail hour. This prevents hungry grouchiness and may save you money on the food tab since herb-crusted beef tenderloin served to a toddler probably wouldn’t be a hit with them anyway Kirsten Ott Palladino is the editor-in-chief of Atlanta Gay Weddings, as well as Equally Wed, an award-winning online wedding magazine for gay and lesbian couples.

She regularly answers wedding etiquette questions on equallywed.com. Submit yours by emailing her at askkirsten@equallywed. com. You can follow Kirsten on Twitter for more wedding tips @kirstenop.

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Planning makes perfect

Get healthy for your big day On the biggest day of your life thus far, you’ll want to look your very best.

You and your sweetheart will be center stage, and it’s probably important to you that you’re ready for all eyes on you.

I’m not advising to try to shed 30 pounds or take extreme measures with Botox injections and plastic surgery. But a gentle juice cleanse to detox your body, a weekly spin class or a few trips to a skin specialist will provide your body and face a holistic renewal to make you radiant.

JUST JUICE IT

Cold-pressed fruit- and vegetable-based juices are a hot-ticket item these days, and for good reason. They provide a high level of nutritional content in every bottle. Atlanta’s Roots Juices, a gay-owned establishment in Buckhead, offers more than 17 different juices, infused waters, and kits and cleanses that can be purchased at the store or ordered online.

Each 16-ounce juice is made up of an estimated two to three pounds of locally grown fruits and vegetables, and helps to lower sugar levels, detox the body, increase energy, strengthen bones, clear skin and lower the risk for disease. Delicious flavor combinations include the Fat Fighter (grapefruit, orange, ginger and cayenne), Liver Cleanse (beets, carrots, apple, aloe and ginger) and Immune Booster (grapefruit, orange, red apple, jalapeño and kale).

3400 Shops Around Lenox, Suite 202-A, Atlanta.

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THE CYCLE OF LIFE

Flywheel, a growing chain of indoorcycling studios, has established its Atlanta presence with a flagship studio in the bustling Buckhead neighborhood. It provides an intensely competitive, sweat-inducing experience with signature indoor cycling rides, as well as body sculpting FlyBarre classes.

The 45-minute class takes place in a cool room with an adrenaline-pumping playlist propelling you to keep cycling. The classes are supreme not only for burning fat and

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SHOW THE GLOW

To achieve glowing skin on your wedding day, make sure you are exfoliating once per week (use circular motions with the exfoliating scrub to wash away all dead skin cells that can cause the skin to appear dull). Your final exfoliation should be two weeks prior to the wedding.

Use a fragrance-free moisturizer two times per day to keep the skin hydrated (don’t forget to drink water throughout the day, too). Of course, never use anything new on your face the week of your wedding.

If you’ve got major problem skin, make an appointment with Dr. Mark Beaty. He treats men and women with excellent results. To get radiant skin, try the Portrait Skin Resurfacing, which delivers nitrogen plasma to your skin. It’s wonderful for getting rid of rough skin texture and uneven pigmentation.

“It does require a few days of downtime but is well worth the result,” says Dr. Beaty.

Another great, low-maintenance way to achieve your wedding glow is with a signature micropeel, a combination of microdermabrasion and a light chemical peel. It takes 15 to 30 minutes, uses no needles and doesn’t require downtime.

2365 Old Milton Parkway #400, Alpharetta.

770-753-0053. www.miltonhallplasticsurgery.com.

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Planning makes perfect

Get it in writing For the past four years, Callie Burnette, a graphic designer by trade, has devoted her life to creating high-quality stationery for weddings, birth announcements and other lifestyle-related print work.

Her business started as helping out one friend who was getting married, but when she became a mother and launched an at-home business, the orders started flowing in.

Now Burnette, who owns Calliespondence, a paper goods outfit offering custom wedding invitation suites, birth announcements and stationery, is completely immersed in weddings year-round. Oh, and she’s a huge supporter of marriage equality, too. She shared her thoughts on wedding invitation styles for 2014.

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“I feel like classic copperplate calligraphy on an invitation never goes out of style, and since it’s customized, it can be exactly how you want it — less flourished or more! I’m seeing couples trend toward fun details on their invitations, like a bright pattern on the back side, while still being able to keep a more traditional invitation on the front.

“Letterpress is still very in demand due to its beautiful texture and high-quality finish, but other methods like gold foil are gaining steam.”

2014 WEDDING TRENDS

“I see lots of bright colors and modern patterns, non-traditional invitation stylings as well as non-traditional wording, such as ‘together with their families’ as opposed to the traditional ‘Mr. and Mrs. So and So request the pleasure of your company…’

“I think people getting married now want to put a lot of personality and fun into their paper products, as it is a preview for what to expect at the event.”

ON MODERNIZING THE WEDDING “More couples are throwing [the weddings] themselves or receive minimal contribution or input from their parents. Also, the reply card is where I’m seeing couples 28

Images courtesy of Calliespondence

Local designer explores the future of wedding invitations

A colorful Mexican pattern makes for a fun destination wedding invitation.

Letterpress with gold foil embellishments are very popular for 2014.

Flourished calligraphy is ideal for a formal wedding.

wanting their personality to shine through.

For instance, saying ‘we’ll be there with bells on!’ as opposed to just the usual ‘accepts with pleasure’ and so on.

“I think people are loosening up on those binding etiquette rules and just having fun, which I think is awesome.”

SEE CALLIE’S WORK

Visit her website at www.calliespondence. com. You also can find her baby and children’s stationery line at local boutique Marguerite Peele Fine Stationery. 2300 Peachtree Road, C 103. 404-352-8158.

— Kirsten Ott Palladino

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Express yourself

Aisle

style Wedding attire takes an exhilarating turn in 2014 with glam, romantic touches for feminine looks and relaxed luxury for masculine styles

By Kirsten Ott Palladino Leonardo diCaprio and Carey Mulligan’s Jazz Age attire in the Warner Bros. film “The Great Gatsby,” a cinematic production of F. Scott Fitzgerald’s eponymous novel, serves as a major inspiration to late 2013 and 2014 wedding looks.

From the runway to the showrooms, we’re still seeing a myriad of Roaring ‘20s styles in wedding attire, with the focus on being dressed up for a party.

Of course, with a bevy of designers creating new threads for the wedding industry daily, other time periods are also getting their due, from the elegant era of Jackie O. to the twinkling of future glitterati.

We’ve gathered some of our favorites for you to peruse for your big party. After all, your wedding is the party of the year, right?

Beaded column dresses Cap sleeves Coverlets Elbow-length sleeves Glitter tulle Metallic lace Pearls Sheer straps Textured fabrics

Pictured clockwise: 2014 wedding gowns from Romona Keveza; Anne Barge; Hayley Paige; Romona Keveza

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Trends in gowns

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Trends in suits

Bow ties or pocket squares with a pop of color and/or stripes Casual chic jackets Fitted gray suits Shoes without socks Trousers cropped at the ankle Pictured clockwise from right: Brooks Brothers; Fourteen (photo by Patty Nash Photography); Hugo Boss; Duchess, Clothier.

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Photo: Nick Kova Photography

Jeff and Sebastian went for preppy chic at their Lake Tahoe wedding.

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Crowning

glory

Max Sanchez (hair), Jennifer Denise (makeup), Carlos Maldonado (photographer)

Express yourself

Pro tips to achieve the ultimate in 2014 wedding hair trends

3. Don’t be afraid to wear your hair down: Remember, up-dos are not mandatory! Wearing your hair down can be a beautiful look for your wedding. But do take the time to curl, set and style.

4. Ditch the traditional veil: Hair accessories are a big trend for 2014, so don’t be afraid to try something new, such as feathers, pearls or crystals.

5. Masculine trend: Slicked back. In 2014, grooms and masculine brides looking for a modern, dapper look should opt for this clean and classic look.

Featured gowns are sold at Ivory Bridal & Formal.

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Wanda Barret (hair), Jennifer Denise (makeup), Carlos Maldonado (photographer)

2. The princess look: A classic style that incorporates a tiara or other blinged-out hair accessories will always take you to the next level of elegance. Don’t be afraid to sparkle on your big day with a modern top-bun and glamorous hair accessories.

Max Sanchez (hair), Jennifer Denise (makeup), Carlos Maldonado (photographer)

1. Low buns and chignons with a modern twist: The classic chignon gets an update this season. Brides can opt for the on-trend low-slung bun, but are encouraged to add a special twist, such as incorporating a braid or accessories into the bun.

Max Sanchez (hair), Jennifer Denise (makeup), Carlos Maldonado (photographer)

According to Max Sanchez, owner of White Salon and Spa, the 2014 bridal season is all about updated classics.

Your day, your way Anthony Masterson

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gorgeous wedding venues The Atlanta area boasts glorious gay-friendly backdrops for your ceremony and reception

Atlanta Botanical Garden

guide brides and grooms through the wedding-planning process might not get any better than those at the Four Seasons.

Whether you’re dreaming of a grand gala or an intimate gathering, this posh hotel and award-winning kitchen is more than equipped to handle any request. 75 14th St., Atlanta. 404-881-9898. www.fourseasons.com.

Fox Theatre

By Kirsten Ott Palladino

The Fox Theatre is one of Atlanta’s historic landmark destinations for weddings. In addition to the starry-skied auditorium, the building that makes up the Fox also includes elaborate ballrooms for guests to rent. 660 Peachtree St., Atlanta. 404-881-2100. www.foxtheatre.org.

Atlanta Botanical Garden

Hotel InterContinental Buckhead

A go-to destination for many Atlanta couples, the Garden is a brilliant vision year-round with intriguing plants, flowers and even sparkling light installations. Options range from the Rose Garden for intimate ceremonies to two large halls where up to 300 guests can dine, dance and toast your endless love. 1345 Piedmont Ave., Atlanta.

404-876-5859. www.atlantabotanicalgarden.org.

From the classic Windsor Garden for outdoor weddings to the Venetian Ballroom for an opulent evening affair, Hotel InterContinental is a savvy venue selection. With in-house catering, floral service and luxury suites for the guests, it’s one-stop shopping.

3315 Peachtree Road, Atlanta. 404-946-9000. www.intercontinentalatlanta.com.

Carl House

JCT. Kitchen & Bar

Four Seasons Atlanta

Our Labor of Love

The wedding specialists appointed to help

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JCT. Kitchen & Bar has become a really popular wedding venue with its quaint courtyard greenery. The farm-to-table restaurant can seat 165 guests in the dining room, and the bar can seat up to 200; both can be completely bought out.

The restaurant can create custom menus for the wedding and your guests will enjoy fantastic views of Midtown. 1198 Howell Mill Road, Atlanta.

404-355-2252. www.jctkitchen.com.

Meave Photography

A longtime supporter of marriage equality, this Southern, antebellum-style home offers lavishly appointed interiors, including a 4,000-squarefoot ballroom, as well as ceremony gardens and a gazebo. 1176 Atlanta Highway, Auburn.

770-586-0095. www.carlhouse.com.

The Foundry at Puritan Mill

Erni Family Photography

Christi Sue Photography Carl House

Four Seasons Atlanta

The Inn at Serenbe

Less than an hour’s drive from the city, the Inn at Serenbe is both rural and upscale. The rolling countryside and pastoral elegance makes for jaw-dropping panoramic photos, and your guests will have plenty to do in the way of three critically acclaimed restaurants, a spa, shops and art galleries. 10950 Hutcheson Ferry Road, Chattahoochee Hills. 770-463-2610. www.serenbeinn.com.

Vinewood

Christine Gallagher Photography

Planning a rustic wedding? Vinewood, a gayowned event facility, offers a historic home in which to ready yourself and a handsome barn, as well as antique heart pine farm tables, a dance floor crafted from reclaimed wood, tons of vintage items at your disposal, and a heap of Southern hospitality. 1324 Roscoe Road, Newnan. 404-520-7465. www.vinewoodevents.com.

The Inn at Serenbe

Fox Theatre

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The Georgian Terrace is a full-service event venue and gorgeous hotel offering packages for wedding ceremonies and receptions, rehearsal dinners, engagement events and a farewell brunch to send your guests on their way. 659 Peachtree St., Atlanta. 404-897-1991. www.thegeorgianterrace.com.

Georgian Terrace

Courtesy of Hotel InterContinental Buckhead

The Georgian Terrace

Hotel InterContinental Buckhead

Courtesy of JCT Kitchen & Bar

Built in 1921, the Foundry at Puritan Mill is an industrial gem laden with character. The spacious Westside wedding venue features original pine beams, expansive skylights and polished concrete floors. 916 Joseph E. Lowery Boulevard, Atlanta. 404-962-8700. www.novareevents.com.

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The Foundry at Puritan Mill

JCT Kitchen & Bar

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INTERCONTINENTAL BUCKHEAD ATLANTA. A MEMORABLE SETTING FOR YOUR UNFORGETTABLE DAY.

Luxurious guest rooms, stunning ballrooms that are the largest in the city and InterContinental’s renowned service levels ensure your special day will be cherished forever.

Set in the heart of Buckhead on legendary Peachtree Road, InterContinental Buckhead Atlanta brings southern hospitality and modern elegance to your unforgettable wedding memories.

Call 404.946.9119 or visit www.intercontinentalatlanta.com

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With the rise of foodies and demands for superior quality ingredients, there’s immense pressure on couples to wow with your wedding food. We spoke with three captains of industry in Atlanta’s wedding catering business to get their take on what’s hot right now in nuptial noshes.

“The biggest thing I’m seeing is family style,” says Chef Shane McIntosh, executive chef and owner of Ocean Catering Company (404-377-FOOD, www.oceancateringcompany. com). “It’s a nice mix between formal plated stuff, but without expensive action stations.

It’s not quite a buffet though. I like to call it formal casual.”

One thing is for certain: Southern cuisine is here to stay.

“In Atlanta, everyone is sticking to Southern,” McIntosh says. His team offers up twists on the classics, such as a puff pastry filled with macaroni and cheese, and Mississippi cross rolls, a savory blend of collard greens and chicken wrapped in wontons.

Steve M. Moore, director of sales and marketing for Glorious Events (770-455-FOOD, www.gloriousevents.net), is noticing an uptick in chef-in-motion stations.

“At these stations,” he says, “the chef is sautéing, flambéing or offering some type of motion. This is great because guests feel like they are involved.”

Moore advises couples to “be open to new and creative ideas beyond Southern or Mexican,” recalling the old saying, “try it, you may like it.” He’s had his share of surprises, too.

One couple requested to have their grandfather’s moonshine served.

Whatever you decide on for your guests’ meal, finishing it off with inspired sweets will make the final impression.

“Desserts are more inspired than just wedding cake,” says Stacy Zeigler, a certified professional in catering and events and director of sales for Bold American Events (678-302-3232, www.boldamerican.com). “We do monogrammed pie pops, homemade twinkies, whoopie pies and homemade donuts. Guests still like the comfort foods of their childhood, but we dress them up for the special occasion.

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In food-centric Atlanta, delight your guests with taste and aesthetics

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Good eats

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Trend spotlight:

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Your day, your way

Macaroni and cheese puffed pastries

Mini pie pops

Frozen Pints craft beer ice cream

Coca-Cola whoopee pies

For a really fun ending, serve your guests Frozen Pints craft beer ice cream. An Atlanta original, Frozen Pints (www.frozenpints.com) is a huge hit at weddings.

Using the finest craft beers and freshest local ingredients, Frozen Pints manufactures five distinct flavors: Georgia: Peach Lambic, Honey IPA, Brown Ale Chip, Malted Milk Chocolate Stout and Vanilla Bock, as well as seasonal flavors. Frozen Pints also offers single-serve portions that come with a spoon.

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For the love

Get crafty Personalizing your wedding just got easier with these DIY instructions

By Elizabeth Demos

Vintage map votive candles With a good theme in mind, you can scour local flea markets and antique shops for items that carry out your vision. Using maps proved the perfect fit for this travel-happy couple. Vintage maps are colorful and filled with interesting lines. One large map will make approximately 50 favors, but if you find only smaller maps, you will want to purchase more than you need.

Make it yours

Level: Easy When to start: 3 weeks before the wedding Yield: 50 votive favors

Materials

• One 8½-by-11-in/21½-by-28-cm sheet card stock • 50 straight-sided glass votive candle holders, each 2 in/5 cm wide by 2½ in/6 cm tall • 50 unscented votive candles • Vintage maps

Tools

• Pencil • Scissors • Clear tape • Glue stick

How to

1. Make a template. Set the card stock on a flat surface. Lay a candle holder on its side on the card stock. Slowly roll it along the card stock, tracing the path of the holder with a pencil. To allow for an overlap, add ¼ in/6 mm to the length of the tracing. Cut out the template. Wrap it around the candle holder to check the size and fit.

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2. Cut out map pieces. Place the template on a map, trace around the template with the pencil, and cut out the piece. Repeat to cut out the remaining pieces.

3. Attach the map cutouts. Secure one end of each cutout to a candle holder with a small piece of tape. Wrap the cutout around the holder and use the glue stick to glue the paper in place where the ends overlap and to conceal the tape.

Wood-block flower centerpieces This project is full of perks. The cost-saving centerpieces are versatile enough to work with modern or antique accessories. The wooden beam is bold and rustic at the same time. After the wedding, the centerpieces can be used in your home, or you can let them weather outdoors on a picnic table.

The aesthetic simplicity of the piece comes from the hidden glass tubes inside each hole.

The test tubes can be found at stores that carry scientific equipment or stock supplies for teachers, and are available online.

The wood beam used here needs to be cut in half. The lumberyard can do this for you.

After you drill all the holes, turn the beam upside down and knock out all the bits of wood and sawdust inside the holes. Repeat to drill the second beam.

Make it yours

Level: Moderate When to start: 2 weeks before the wedding Yield: 2 centerpieces

Materials

• One 6-by-6-by-72-in/15-by-15-by- 183-cm rustic wood beam • 180-grit sandpaper • Dark paste wax • 2 cotton cloths • Sixteen 5/8-by-4-in/16-mm-by-10-cm test tubes • 16 flowers

Tools

• Tape measure • Pencil • Safety goggles • Chop saw or bow saw • Electric hand drill • 5/8-in/16-mm drill bit

How to

1. Prepare the wood. Using the tape measure and pencil, mark the beam so you can cut it in half crosswise. Wearing goggles and using the saw, cut the beam into two 36-in/91.5-cm pieces.

2. Mark the beams for drilling. With the tape measure and pencil, make a mark about 4 in/10 cm from each end of one beam. Mea-

sure between the marks and make six more marks, spacing them evenly between the marks at the ends. These marks are where you will drill each hole. Mark holes in the second beam.

3. Drill the holes. Fit the drill with the drill bit. Wearing the safety goggles, drill down 4 in/10 cm into a beam at each mark. Hold the drill steady and work slowly. Test the holes as you go, to make sure the test tubes will fit inside them. If not, continue working with the drill.

4. Finish the wood. Use the sandpaper to clean up the rough edges of both beams and around the drilled holes. Brush off any sawdust from the sanding. Apply the paste wax to each beam, using a cotton cloth and following the manufacturer’s instructions. Work on the wax in circles and cover the whole beam. Let the wax dry for 15 minutes, then use the second cotton cloth to buff the beams.

5. Add the flowers. Slip a test tube into each hole. Carefully fill the tubes with water, and then set a flower in each one.

For more DIY wedding ideas, purchase a copy of Vintage Wedding Style: More than 25 Simple Projects and Endless Inspiration for Designing Your Big Day by Elizabeth Demos (Chronicle Books, 2012). Photos and instructions reprinted with written permission from Chronicle Books.

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For the love

Giving back You receive so much love, time and money for your wedding.

Say ‘thank you’ with these gifts During the wedding-planning process, there are a number of people helping you along the way. Although you might harrumph at the idea of spending a single extra penny after footing the bill for your spectacular event, it’s appropriate to say thank you with a small token of your appreciation.

Budget gifts in from the very beginning.

No excuses.

SHOWER HOSTS

It’s neither easy nor cheap to throw a wedding shower. If you’re having a bridal, groom or couples shower, it’s customary to thank your host or hostess with a small gift and a handwritten thank-you note.

Standard gifts include personalized stationery or note cards, a potted plant or flower, a photo frame or album, or send a bouquet of flowers afterward.

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Want to go the extra mile? Consider something out-of-the-ordinary that your shower host will always remember you by, such as the Gurgle Pot, below, a whimsical but handsome stoneware pitcher that actually makes a fun gurgle when you pour a beverage. Available at Heliotrope in Decatur.

HONOR ATTENDANTS

For your best man/woman/friend/honor attendant, it’s important to recognize just how much time and love they have invested in your wedding. From helping you pick the perfect suit or gown to dealing with what to do about difficult relatives, they’ve been there for you all the way.

The Garnish and Gather farm-to-kitchen meal kit, at left, is the perfect gift because it delivers locally farmed produce and protein in exact measurements accompanied by chefscripted recipes straight to the doorsteps of your dear friend. The meals (for 2, 4 or 6 people) are to-die-for delicious and are delightful to create. www.garnishandgather.com.

WEDDING PARTY

Your bridesmaids, groomsmen and other friends who’ve thrown you showers, assembled invitations, listened to your rants and purchased clothes that they’ll likely never wear again deserve a token of your love.

If you only have one or two to buy for, we adore the terrarium kits at Garden in West Midtown, at right. Inside the signature kit is everything you need to build your own terrarium, a self-contained, self-watering ecosystem that brightens any indoor space. www.gardenatl.com.

FAVORS

This small but meaningful gift to your wedding guests is an old tradition to thank your guests for coming to celebrate your wedding. Let them know you appreciate them with something to take home, like a candy station.

Buy small plastic bags with flat bottoms at a craft store, and let your guests fill them up with sweet treats. Go the extra mile by having stickers made with your monogram or image from your invitations to personalize the

Emil Family Photography

Garden photo/Heidi Geldhauser

experience even more.

Also, unless you’ve got the budget for a candy-station attendant, you’ll need to alert your guests to the fact that this is for them to take home. Frame a sign that reads something like, “We’re sweet on you. Please scoop up your favorite sweets to enjoy later.”

PARENTS & GRANDPARENTS

If you’re one of the lucky gay or lesbian couples blessed with supportive parents or grandparents, then you’ll want to plan to give them a gift as well. This is customary whether or not they have made a financial contribution toward your wedding. The thought here is that they’ve helped shape you into the person that you are today, which led you to meeting your soul mate.

Ideas for parent and grandparent gifts include engraved photo albums to fill later with photos from your big day. We adore this locally made SugarBoo Designs photobox plaque, at left, from Heliotrope, located in Decatur, for showcasing for showcasing their own wedding day, and you could even display it at your wedding to give them a heartwarming sense of inclusion.

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A Legendary Event 404.869.8858 | www.alegendaryevent.com Tony Conway presents A Legendary Event and Atlanta’s newest venue “The Estate” located in Buckhead at 3109 Piedmont. This world-class company is well known for their award-winning catering, stunning décor and breathtaking floral. Attentive staff and a team of talent focuses on every detail of your commitment celebration. Let us make your special occasion “Legendary”!

Atlanta History Center | Atlanta, GA 404-814-4090 | www.atlantahistorycenter.com/events Let serenity set the scene at the Swan House with stately columns, majestic fountains and private lawns. Gaze at wooded gardens through a wall of windows in the Grand Overlook. Explore our award-winning museum and enjoy our boutique ballroom overlooking lush gardens. Create rustic charm at 1860’s Smith Family Farm.

Cayce Callaway Photography 404-210-0879 | www.caycecallaway.com Love is both universal and unique. In my years of shooting weddings it’s still what keeps me clicking the shutter. The look that passes between two people, the touch that speaks without words and the desire to say “I love you” out loud. It’s a human need and I will forever support it.

Cooper Piano | Atlanta, GA 404-329-1027 | www.cooperpiano.com

DeKalb History Center | Decatur, GA 404-373-1088 ext. 26 | www.dekalbhistory.org Conveniently located near Atlanta in downtown Decatur, the Old Courthouse on the Square is the ideal location for weddings, rehearsal dinners, bar mitzvah parties, luncheons and other milestone events. The marble walls, terrazzo floors and large arched windows provide an elegant and historic backdrop for your special event.

Anna and Spencer Photography

At Cooper Piano, we rent a variety of pianos for any occasion, including weddings and commitment ceremonies. Our pianos arrive ontime and are performance ready. We can also provide an on-site tuner. Need a pianist? Let us know! We can connect you with a talented performer and we will match any price.

Digital Memories by Christy | Atlanta, GA 770-599-0212 | www.DigitalMemoriesbyChristy.com When real love manifests itself in two people, we are honored to be the ones chosen to show the world what that looks like. We are located in historic Senoia, GA, serve the Greater Atlanta area as well as destinations worldwide. Christy’s passion is celebrating love through photography. Est. January 2000

Euphoria Affairs | Atlanta, GA 770-873-6469 | www.euphoriaaffairs.com Congratulations! This is one of the most monumental days of your life! Why risk it? Let Euphoria Affairs be your partner in planning. Euphoria Affairs is a premiere wedding planning business specializing in same-sex weddings. We are gay owned and operated and we take “pride” in rendering a service of excellence no matter who you choose to love!

Feast Catering | Stone Mountain, GA 770-403-8491 | www.feast-catering.com Choosing a menu and cake is just one piece of the wedding puzzle, and we’ll do everything we can to make it easier. We’ll work with you to design a menu that strikes a balance of styles and tastes — nothing is preset. Our cakes are works of art, traditional to whimsical and always delicious. Our experience is at your disposal.

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The Gathering Place Worship Center 404-815-0007 | www.lgbtchurch.com | Atlanta, GA The Gathering Place Atlanta has several ordained clergy both male and female who are able to conduct your wedding ceremony. Whether you use our venue or would like one of our clergy to perform your ceremony offsite, we are here for you. The Gathering Place Atlanta — connecting to God, connecting to others, impacting our world.

Georgia Benefits Counsel | Atlanta, GA www.georgiabenefitscounsel.org Georgia Benefits Counsel educates same-sex couples in Georgia on securing wills, financial powers of attorney, and advanced directives for health care. We facilitate obtaining those documents for the cost of a marriage license in your home county. Visit us on Facebook or on the web to learn more.

The Georgian Terrace | Atlanta, GA 800-651-2316 | www.thegeorgianterrace.com Atlanta’s modern classic, the historic Georgian Terrace welcomes you to wed at their sophisticated and historic Midtown Atlanta hotel. Need help planning the big day?

Georgian Terrace’s experts will assist you with every detail. Spoil your guests with the most elegant experience Atlanta has to offer.

HLM Financial Group | Decatur, GA 404-836-1126 | www.hlmtax.com HLM Financial Group has proudly served the LGBT community for 26 years. Relationships are important and we respect and value yours. You can trust us to provide you with the expert advice on your accounting, tax, mortgage and financial needs you and your partner deserve.

Maui Sunseeker | Kihei, HI 800-532-MAUI | www.mauisunseeker.com Haiwaii’s largest LGBT resort, Maui Sunseeker is the premier destination for gay and lesbian weddings and the most romantic honeymoons. Space is available at the Maui Sunseeker for your ceremony and/or your reception. Choose from two locations on our property and five different package options.

Rainbow Bells | Niagara Falls, NY 716-777-4555 | www.rainbowbells.com Get hitched in Niagara Falls! You set the date, we do the rest. Rainbow Bells is a fullservice boutique concierge company that provides complete consulting /services for same-sex marriages. Every element of your celebration will be coordinated flawlessly. No celebration is too big or too small. Sit back, relax and leave the rest to us.

Something Special Events | Newnan, GA 770-251-1206 | www.sspecial.net A special events facility in a beautiful circa 1859 Antebellum Home and Garden. Featuring stained glass windows, winding staircase and a wraparound porch. A beautiful ballroom overlooking landscaped gardens with fountains and a Victorian gazebo. Offering In-house catering, all inclusive or a’ la carte wedding packages, and dual wedding/ commitment packages featuring civil ceremonies in Maryland.

Travel by Keith | Atlanta, GA 404-576-2817 | www.travelbykeith.com Travel By Keith is your personal concierge for gay and lesbian weddings and honeymoons. We specialize in gay, lesbian and LGBT-friendly cruises, tours, packages, travel insurance and bed and breakfasts. Whatever your travel needs are, let Travel By Keith help make them extra special.

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