The Goods on Grief

Mother’s Day & Father’s Day are Here

by Diane Michael

With these celebrated Sundays approaching on May 14 and June 18, many who have lost their parents are not looking forward to these holidays that were once enjoyed. Memories flood in of time spent appreciating their love and gratitude for their sacrifices along with thoughts from the past of annual get-togethers. Some, who are now parents themselves, may keep their feelings hidden to embrace the days with their own children. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day can be very challenging for many.

A brief turn down a grocery store aisle during these months can certainly bring up the loss of Mom, Dad or both. The pink cards everywhere with #1 Mom titles may cause some to move on to the next lane with feelings of loss. The blue and black card tones during Dad’s Day may also evoke emotions of grief without being prepared.

Instead of being taken off guard in public, possibly attempt to buy a greeting card or something that reminds you of them and open it on the day. The ritual of shopping and opening a card or gift could help keep the fond memories alive. For those that are now the celebrated ones, share stories of what you did for your Mom or Dad with your kids. Share pictures and talk about gifts given. Feelings of grief can shift to good laughs and thoughts of loving time spent together.

Here are some thoughtful resources to support your loved ones during these holidays:

1.https://optionb.org/articles/how-to-show-your-love-for-afriend-grieving-for-their-dad

2. https://www.etsy.com/market/mothers_day_sympathy