Funeral Times Magazine issue 3 2019

The magazine for Funeral Directors in Ireland

2019 Vol.19 No.3

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Fannagans book launch.................................................... 4

National Funeral Exhibition in pictures........................... 8

Contents Fannagans celebrate 200 years with Book Launch............. 4 National Funeral Exhibition................................................ 8 IAFD News....................................................................... 14 Restoration and Reconstruction by Glyn Tallon............... 20 BIE News.......................................................................... 24 A Great Place to Die by Mary Elizabeth Dillon.............. 29 NAFD News...................................................................... 32 Natural Resomation....................................................... 73

Dennis Daulton on Causes of Embalming Failure........... 44 SAIF News........................................................................ 49

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PEAI News........................................................................ 67

grieves (Part 2).................................................................. 50 Jennifer Muldowney - The Recompose Project................ 61 Mattie Lennon - Lawyers, Garda and Coffins.................. 64 BIFD News....................................................................... 73 Death Statistics 2018......................................................... 77 Classifieds......................................................................... 80

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Fanagans Funeral Directors celebrate 200 years with book launch Fanagans Funeral Directors are celebrating a significant milestone of 200 years in business this year and marked the occasion with the launch of their book ‘Fanagans of Dublin – a 200-Year History’ in City Hall, Dublin, on Thursday 25th April 2019, with guest speaker, John Bowman. Over 250 guests attended the celebration.

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he book looks back over the past two centuries. It covers the heritage and tradition that make up Fanagans today and also gives an insight into how funerals and their associated customs have evolved during this period. The authors of the book, Charlie McCarthy, Alan Fanagan and John Fanagan, have included vivid and comprehensive images from the extensive Fanagan archive.

The business was founded by John Fanagan in 1819 and is now run by the fifth and sixth generations of the family. Fanagans has continued to thrive over the two centuries and now comprises 11 locations throughout Dublin.

The chosen venue, City Hall Dublin, has

(L:R) Alan Fanagan, Director, Jody Fanagan, MD, David Fanagan, Director

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particular relevance. William Fanagan, great grandfather of current Managing Director, Jody Fanagan, was a city councillor between 1881 and his death in 1905. The Dublin funeral of Charles Stewart Parnell was arranged by Councillor Fanagan and the body was received by the city councillors at City Hall before his burial at Glasnevin Cemetery.

They have looked after several high-profile funerals over the years including, Sean Lemass (1971), President Erskine Childers (1974) Lord Louis Mountbatten (1979), Phil Lynott (1986), Sean McBride (1988), Dr. Gareth FitzGerald (2011), and Albert Reynolds (2014).

John Bowman, guest speaker

John Bowman, guest speaker at the launch, comments on the depth of this book: “The Irish in the nineteenth century had an obsessive preoccupation with death which was often noted by contemporary travellers: but the rituals associated with death have been relatively neglected by Irish historians since. The Fanagan story is a micro study of one family business. But the Fanagan archive is likely to prompt further historical research on the Irish way of death. How did funerals in Dublin differ from those in

The Authors and John Bowman

rural Ireland? What was the impact of class?

And of religion? And why was the opening of Glasnevin Cemetery such a transforming moment in Dublin’s history?”

Jody Fanagan says: “This is very proud occasion for the entire Fanagan family. Personally, it is a fantastic honour for the current fifth and sixth generations of the company as we celebrate this milestone with the launch of our Book ‘Fanagans of Dublin – a 200-Year History’.

Our family ethos, which has been passed down through the generations, is to provide an exceptional service to every client family in the most professional and dignified manner. Our mission is to pass this legacy on to future generations of the family”.

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NFE 2019 delivers, with great attendance across the event ‘Excellent’, ‘successful’, ‘fun’ and ‘entertaining’ are just the sort of words used by visitors and exhibitors alike to capture the essence of the three days at the National Funeral Exhibition, at Stoneleigh 2019.

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IAFD News

Mid-year Members Meeting Killeshin Hotel, Portlaoise Friday 17th May 2019 The Mid-year Members Meeting was held in the Killeshin Hotel, Portlaoise on 17th May 2019, part of the event included a wellattended complimentary lunch.

The meeting followed the normal format when Edwina Fitzgerald, President, welcomed all in attendance and introduced her Board colleagues.

The Officers Reports were presented by Dara Gillespie, Hon. Secretary. John Foley presented the Hon. Treasurer’s Report on behalf of Niall Mulligan. Donal Forde and Robert Fanagan, Chairs of the Education and Members & Excellence Committees gave

their respective reports. Edwina thanked the Committee Chairs and stated she hoped the information provided gave members an insight into the activities of the Committees and also the Board.

A question and answer session followed after which the two guest speakers were introduced. Sharon Williams, Irish Hospice Foundation, addressed the subject of “Staying well at work” and Aisling Quilter, Coroner, South and East Kerry, spoke about the role of the Coroner. Both presentations were excellent and greatly appreciated by all.

Mid-year Members Meeting

Excellence Programme visits for 2019 The Excellence Programme visits are currently being made by two Past-Presidents, Gerard Clarke and Michael Crowley. The visits provide an excellent opportunity to discuss matters of interest or concern which members may have regarding IAFD and any other issues. Also, the high level of standards of service to families associated with IAFD membership is reviewed with members.

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IAFD News

2018/19 Education course T

he final day of the programme was held on 23rd May 2019 in Glasnevin Crematorium where the 15 students handed in their assignments and are now awaiting their results.

Presentations on the day were given by: • Irish Hospice Foundation • MOCT – Training Consultants • Anam Cara • Glasnevin Trust The IAFD Board and Education Committee wish to thank the following organisations and individuals: Glasnevin Trust for hosting the course days

and Kirwans Funeral Directors for hosting the Health and Safety practical day.

Stephen Shields and Conor Jameson for presenting the Course, Joanne Cooney, Course Co-ordinator for preparing all the material and organising the entire programme.

The next course is planned to commence in early 2020, dates and venues are yet to be finalised and will be advertised as soon as possible.

Individuals are encouraged to register their interest by emailing Joanne Cooney joanne@cooneysfuneralhome.com

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FULL MEMBERSHIP

Regional Training Workshops: (Details to be published in due course) Thursday 15th July 2019 Newbridge, Co. Kildare Thursday 26th September Cavan Town

• William Bell & Company, Banbridge, Co. Down • McLaughlin Funeral Directors, Dungiven, Co. Londonderry • Wellbrook Funeral Services, Allenwood, Nass, Co. Kildare

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IAFD News Edwina Fitzgerald (President) Fitzgeralds Funeral Directors Channel Road Rush Co. Dublin Ph: 0873512949 Email: edwinafitzgerald78@gmail.com

Mary Cunniffe (PRO and Immediate Past President) Massey Bros Funeral Home Templeogue Village Dublin 6W Mobile: 085-8010742 Ph: 01-4907601 Email: mary.cunniffe@hotmail.com

Robert Fanagan (First Vice President & Membership Officer) Fanagans 54, Aungier Street Dublin 2 Ph: 01-4754101 Email: robert@fanagans.ie

John Foley Jennings Funeral Directors 81 Amien Street Dublin 1 Ph: 01-8555511

Donal Forde (2nd Vice President & Education Committee Chair) Forde & Sons Funeral Home South Gate Bridge Cork Co. Cork Ph: 021-4318222 Email: fordes@indigo.ie Dara Gillespie (Hon. Secretary) Finlays Funeral Service Tierney Street Ardee Co. Louth Mobile: 086 7923472 Email: dara.gillespie@finlaygrp.com Niall Mulligan (Hon. Treasurer) Heffernan’s Funeral Directors Trim Co. Meath Mobile: 086 8208501 Ph: 046 9438662 Email: heffernansfd@gmail.com

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Tom Lawless Lawless Funeral Directors Mucklagh, Tullamore Co. Offaly Ph: 057-9322622 Email: info@tullamorefunerals.ie Dermot McCarthy McCarthy’s Funeral Home Gurrane, Banteer, Cork.

Ph: 029-56044 Email: dermot@mccarthyfuneraldirectors.com Kieran Shovlin Seamus Shovlin Funeral & Embalming Services Sandfield Ardara Co. Donegal Ph: 074-9541300 Email: kieran.shovlin@gmail.com

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Restoration and reconstruction

By Glyn Tallon, Tallon Mortuary Specialists

Back in March, I had the great pleasure of teaming with two wonderful professionals, accomplished in their respective fields, Mr. Karl Wenzel, an embalmer and reconstruction specialist and Mr. Deane Jones, a Grammy Award Winner and special effects artist and cosmetic specialist.

Together we formulated a two-day presentation focusing on the restoration and the reconstruction of the deceased, showing signs of extreme trauma, specializing in facial and bone reconstruction.

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his symposium was aimed towards those embalmers who value continued education in their chosen profession; those who wish to extend their skill set, to offer the families they serve in their communities a chance to view loved ones, where perhaps a viewing would be previously restricted or deemed impossible.

The satisfaction for me, hosting an event like this, is that the group of professionals which express interest in such education weekends, value the work that they do and generally are the people continuously aiming to better their own knowledge and skills. Such self-motivating groups are a pleasure to have in attendance at such events and it always feels like a meeting of similar minds, when it comes to putting value on the work done by the embalmer.

For these professionals, there is an accepted importance on the value of ‘the viewing’ and an innate understanding of the role it plays in the psychological aspects of healthy grieving.

This, being the very first course of its type held in Europe, we hoped it would be supported and we were not to be disappointed. Embalmers from all over Ireland, North and South; Embalmers from Canada, Beijing, Tokyo, Norway, Germany and France, all travelled to attend this event.

We could not have asked for a more devoted group of embalmers to be with us for this symposium.

Day one commenced with a presentation

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from Karl Wenzel. Karl is an incredible public speaker and highly motivational, so an ideal introduction to such weekends. It is of utmost importance to Karl and I that the embalmers in attendance feel some sense of pride in the work that they do. It is often found that many embalmers feel their work is so often undervalued and unappreciated, or restricted by limitations set by employers etc., that in a sense we often find that just a positive reminder of what can be achieved by all these professionals, easily changes the mindset. It is important to value the work that you do and to be reminded of the value it gives back.

Presentations by Karl and myself, intertwined with open floor discussions, allowed us to establish topics of conversation with the group present. There is huge value

in such conversations, with contributions from varying perspectives and cultural traditions.

When presenting cases of reconstruction, for me, the visual is very necessary. I aim to bring the embalmers through the step-bystep stages of the cases I work on. For me it is of the utmost importance to follow through with the process and to allow for discussion and contribution at the varying stages.

Wherever and whenever possible, a hands on approach, can be presented to attendees, the focus in the room becomes palpable. Working in pairs, a fragmented, anatomically accurate human skull was tediously reconstructed by techniques demonstrated in previous presentations.

Working in this manner allows the embalmers to familiarize themselves with significant, anatomical indicators and landmarks that are present on the bone fragments, in the hopes that they will identify them in future. This was a very enjoyable part of the weekend.

Concluding the weekend, Mr. Deane Jones

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presented the group with a vast array of techniques and products that have bridged between our professions. Working closely with embalmers and their needs and concerns when it comes to cosmetics and working on such abstract surfaces; Deane discussed many ways in which he has been able to present the funeral industry, with skills that were once restricted to the film industry.

With every gathering of people and meeting of minds, the social aspect of events is as valued as the content discussed formally. We were truly delighted to have made friends and exchanged numbers and contacts with so many wonderful professionals from across the world. I would like to extend my gratitude to Karl and Deane, all the crew behind the scenes who helped put the day into action and all who

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attended and contributed throughout the weekend. Education sets better standards for the industry, as a whole and it was a privilege to see such passion in embalmers in attendance. Thanks to you all.

Glyn Tallon, Tallon Mortuary Specialists.

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BIE News Ireland Division Hi all, Well… I’m never usually one to be stuck for words but I’m finding it hard to find the right adjective to describe this year’s conference. What a truly amazing event it was, from the educational sessions on the Friday which were second to none, to the fun and traditional entertainment of the Friday night to the Saturday night Banquet where old friends met up and new friendships were made.

To our outgoing president, Barbara, a huge thank you for organising such a wonderful weekend. The work and passion you put into your role should be a huge influence to all of us. It was also great to see the ongoing support to the institute from Shepherds Funeral Supplies, Canfly Marketing, and Celtic Coffins who all had stalls in place over the weekend.

We had our second meeting of the year at conference and it’s always a pleasure to share these with the Northern Irish Division.

Congratulations to Stephen Montgomery, Ciaran Bailey and Ian Richard Kyle May on Receiving your Certificates.

Finally, I would encourage each and every member and student to please support your division because without members, the division simply does not exist. We have three meetings per year and we are making every effort to make these as interesting as possible by bringing along guest speakers and demonstrators from various professions all related to what we do. I do understand that we all work to very busy schedules but it would be so encouraging to see numbers growing at our meetings. I wish you all the very best, till’ next time.

Thank You.

Cyril Gantley Chairman

Northern Division

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y name is Seamus Mc Laughlin MBIE and I took over the chairman’s role in the Northern Ireland Division in January 2019 from Laurence O’ Neill.

I joined the funeral industry in 2012, working for another funeral director. In 2015, with my partner, we acquired a local funeral business and named it Mc Laughlin Funeral Directors of Dungiven.

We are members of the I.A.F.D, helping to promote excellence in funeral directing and adhering to its established code of practice.

Realising the importance of the presentation of a loved one to their family, I began my training at Tallon School of Embalming Seamus Mc Laughlin MBIE in 2016 and obtained a B.I.E certificate in 2017.

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I strive to provide families with a dignified and professional service and as a qualified embalmer I cannot stress enough the importance of an open coffin, especially where sudden death has occurred.

In times of trauma and severe oedema I do my best to provide the family with a chance to view their loved one.

Everyday is a challenge and no two cases are the same but this is what it’s all about:learning everyday and continuing your professional development by keeping up to date with new products on the market,

attending courses if you can or have the time and funding to do so, and attending your local AGM divisional meetings.

We all work under pressure and in extremely stressful situations so sharing both your experiences and your concerns with colleagues and other fellow members in a professional and confidential way can also help improve your skills in future situations.

Changes are beginning to take place within the funeral industry and if we all work together we can welcome the changes that are coming to regulate the industry.

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List of BIE Officers and appointed representatives for 2019 National President: Barbara Fowley MBIE Imm. Past President: Amanda Woodward MBIE 1st Vice President: Dr. Phil Gore MBIE phil.gore@yahoo.co.uk National PRO & National General Secretary: Mrs Karen Caney FBIE White Meadow Cottage, Brailsford, Derby DE6 3DA Tel: 01332 349035(BIE) Mobile: 07786 432014 karencaney@btopenworld.com National Treasurer: Michael Liddle FBIE 10 Yew Tree Close, Silsoe MK45 4EQ Business Tel: 01582 490005 Home Tel: 01525 860117 michael@silsloe.wanadoo.co.uk Editor: Gwen Schofield FBIE 9 Seymour Walk, Meltham, Holmfirth HD9 4BP Home Tel: 01484 851994 Mobile: 07778 279100 gwen.schofield@ntlworld.com Master Fellow: David Kaye FBIE Student Liaison Officer: Lizzy Bollington-Kinch Anubis House, 21c Station Road, Knowle, Solihull B93 0HL, Tel: 01564 778 991

IRISH DIVISION Chairman Mr.Cyril Gantley MBIE 336 Kildare Road, Crumlin, Dublin 12 Mobile:00353 857671582 cyril.gantley@mortuary-science.ie Vice Chairman Mr.Shane Casey MBIE Gortnabinna, Ballingeary, Macroom, Co.Cork.

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NORTHERN IRELAND DIVISION CHAIRMAN Mr Seamus McLaughlin MBIE 904 Glenshane Road, Dungiven Co L’Derry BT47 4SB TEL : 07747 046084 Email: info@ mclaughlinfuneraldirectors.com VICE CHAIRMAN Mr Pat Harley MBIE 67 Creggan Road, L’Derry BT48 9DA TEL: 07712 899137 Email: phschoolofembalming@hotmail.com

Secretary Susan Moran MBIE Maydown House, Aughraboura, Athy, Co.Kildare.

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1st NATIONAL COUNCIL REPRESENTATIVE Laurence O’Neill MBIE 98 Stewartstown Road, Belfast BT11 9JP Tel: 028 9062 0099 Email: oneill8210@hotmail.com

National Council Rep Mr.John Hawe MBIE 12 Meadow Vale, Smith’s Road, Charleville, Co.Cork Mobile: 00353 876390087 jmhawe@eircom.net

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t was remarked recently to Mary Elizabeth Dillon, of Civil Funerals Ireland, that Ireland is a bad place to get sick but a great place to die. This remark was made by an American gentleman who had recently retired to Ireland and was commenting on his experiences so far. He had had a trip to Accident and Emergency which took three days and also attended a civil funeral the same week which had been organised in three days and this is what prompted his remark to Mary Elizabeth. He was so impressed by the whole of the funeral service and the care and attention from the funeral director and the fact that things were done so speedily but also with such respect.

Mary Elizabeth takes up the story. The gentleman in question had attended many funerals in his lifetime but had never been to an Irish funeral, especially an Irish civil funeral. The personal touches meant so much, with the service being co-ordinated by myself but with so much input and participation from the family. Three generations of the family were involved, through readings and speeches. The music was also chosen by the family and gave a broad spectrum which truly represented the deceased. Mary Elizabeth introduced

each piece, stating exactly why it had been chosen and added to the poignancy of the moment with a few short but well chosen words. While a sad occasion, there was also great joy. The speeches expressed and remembered times of great joy and happiness and there was much laughter throughout the service. Much of the music chosen was also upbeat and reflected different events in a very eventful life.

It was pointed out to the American gentleman that this was not a standard or traditional Irish funeral but rather something new which was becoming more popular. What impressed him was the choice that was available, for a person to have a totally traditional funeral or to go down the civil funeral route, was not something that he expected to find in Ireland.

Mary Elizabeth finds that people are less surprised now than in recent years to encounter a civil funeral. Those who haven’t attended one personally have usually heard about one from someone who has attended.

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NAFD News NAFD responds to Treasury announcement in BBC interviews I

n early June, the NAFD welcomed the announcement by HM Treasury that it intends to introduce statutory regulation to the funeral planning market during interviews with the BBC. NAFD Chief Executive Jon Levett was interviewed for BBC Breakfast and BBC Radio 2 news. In its response, the NAFD emphasised the importance of ensuring that both consumers and funeral directors are protected from unscrupulous sales tactics: “Around 200,000 funeral plans are bought by consumers each year and, given the negative impact of poorly sold funeral plans on both bereaved people and funeral directors trying to service the plans, this move will help to protect consumers,” he said. “It will also ensure that consumers can feel confident they are purchasing funeral plans that will cover the cost of the funeral they have chosen. It’s particularly important that the new regulatory framework, which the Treasury says will now be developed by the Financial Conduct Authority, is suitable and proportionate for what is a very small, niche market with a very different kind of product to other financial markets.”

In its response to the consultation on the Treasury’s announcement, the NAFD

will seek to ensure the new regulatory framework will require funeral plan companies: • To communicate more clearly with the consumer regarding where and how funeral plan funds are invested; • To be transparent regarding the value of any fees and sales commissions attached to the plan. This must include ensuring the consumer understands how much of their payment remains in the funeral plan after the deduction of commission and charges; and • To inform funeral directors when a plan is being sold with their name against it as nominated funeral director. The funeral director must have an opportunity to agree the terms and their decision be confirmed to the family before the standard ‘cooling off ’ period ends.

Rollout of NAFD Resolve gets underway Following its reveal during Conference, NAFD Resolve preparing to go live and will be rolled out across the membership in July – a process that will take eighteen months to allow for a year to elapse since the final funerals covered by the Funeral Arbitration Scheme (FAS) took 32 | FuneralTimes

place.

NAFD Chief Executive Jon Levett said: “NAFD Resolve is a much more consumer and funeral director-friendly complaints resolution service and is free and independent to use. Unique to the sector,

no fees will be charged to either consumers or funeral directors at any stage of the scheme and the independence of the scheme will continue to be assured by its being administered by the Centre for Effective Dispute Resolution.”

NAFD Resolve will become the compulsory scheme for NAFD members next year, replacing the FAS, but in the meantime members can decide to ‘opt in’ in advance by registering their interest with the Association.

Steering Group appointed for Funeral Service Consumer Standards Review

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he Funeral Service not serve consumers’ best Consumer Standards interests and so the industry Review (FSCSR) is an decided to act. Comprising independently chaired project the main industry bodies and that brings together the skills consumer groups with an and knowledge of industry interest in funeral matters, experts and key stakeholders the FSCSR was initiated to with a view to improving develop joint solutions to quality, standards and discuss tackling these issues, outcomes for funeral service make clear recommendations consumers. to Government and produce There is a common at an agreed code of practice, Lewis Shand Smith misconception among approach to inspections, and consumers that the funeral sector is approach to how pricing information fully regulated and operates to required is made available to the public. The standards. Even for those funeral creation of the group was referenced in businesses that are subject to voluntary the Competition and Markets Authority’s regulation by NAFD or SAIF, there are final report, recommending a market separate codes of practice and differing investigation. inspection regimes, which makes it Chair of the group is Lewis Shand difficult to accurately monitor and Smith, who is a former Chief Ombudsman compare standards between different and is also the independent Chair funeral service providers. Despite both of the Dispute Resolution Service NAFD and SAIF requiring members to Implementation Steering Group. clearly present their pricing information, Secretariat is provided jointly by the in 2018, the Competition and Markets NAFD and SAIF. The steering group Authority’s (CMA) study of the funerals comprises representatives from funeral market found that there was “limited firms large and small – and those both in visibility of pricing, particularly online”. trade association membership and those The CMA also found that, where pricing not – as well as consumer representatives information was made available, it was and other industry stakeholders. The not always easy to compare packages. first meeting took place in June, during This combination of a lack of mandatory which a work plan was agreed which will regulation, clarity about services offered include the creation of a number of cross and clear pricing information has led to sector working groups and a stakeholder the market operating in a way that does reference group.

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NAFD Conference in Guildford charts course for the future

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AFD Conference’s 2019 Manager Morgan Harris in Guildford proved to be revealed more details about an optimistic, inspiring and the new NAFD complaints informative three days. Ahead resolution scheme NAFD of the Annual General Meeting Resolve. He outlined the key on the Friday, NAFD President differences and benefits of the Abi Pattenden addressed new scheme in comparison to Conference on the challenges the current Funeral Arbitration and achievements of the last year, Scheme and explained that it including the historic governance was a voluntary opt-in for the changes that will shape the transition year, as FAS was NAFD’s future and the initial phased out, but that it would investigations by the Competition become part of the Code of and Markets Authority, which are President 2019-2020 Practice going forward.

David Barrington set to continue throughout the Immediate Past President year ahead. Highlighting some Alison Crake took Conference of the very challenging potential impacts that through the work she is doing to prepare might result from the market investigation, a new member benefit which will support President Abi heralded the presentation members in assessing their readiness to on price regulation by economist Deborah support a future pandemic or other mass Drury that was to follow the AGM and urged fatality event. Ahead of its launch in the members to engage with the CMA to ensure it Autumn, Alison explained the work she has understands the funeral sector fully. been doing in the North East, where her The 2019 Annual General Meeting focused business Crake and Mallon is based, with firmly on the future of the funeral profession the local resilience forum and how this will with discussions about the Competition be mapped out into guidance and resources and Markets Authority investigation and for all NAFD members. not only what the Association is doing to Combating the growing threat of respond, but what individual members need cybercrime was the topic of the penultimate to be aware of and can do themselves too. session, with Ecclesiastical’s Nicholas The NAFD Conference Education Sessions Hartley giving attendees pause for thought offer an opportunity to members to hear on the security of their digital information from a range of speakers on relevant systems and highlight the risks of a cyberand important topics to the sector, with attack. Lastly, the newly appointed National certificates of attendance available to those Medical Examiner, Dr Alan Fletcher, talked who wish to record their learning as part of about the early measures he has put in place their Continuous Professional Development. to support the non-statutory roll out of Deborah Drury, a senior economist with Medical Examiners as part of the reforms of Europe Economics - which has been Death Certification. He called the changes, engaged by the NAFD to provide counsel on “an opportunity like no other to establish the impact of some of the potential remedies something brand new which gives the under consideration by the Competition bereaved a voice and gives us an opportunity and Markets Authority - talked Conference to learn from deaths. It is daunting, but very attendees through the potential impact that exciting.” different types of price regulation would NAFD Conference 2019 drew to a close on have on member businesses. the Sunday morning with the traditional Next, NAFD Policy and Legislation installation ceremony which marks the 34 | FuneralTimes

Outgoing president Abi Pattenden

Deborah Drury being interviewed

passing of the presidential chain to the new President and installation of their officers. David Barrington, of Barrington Funeral Services in Liverpool, was installed as President for 2019-20. He, in turn, installed NAFD tutor Kate Edwards as 1st Vice President and John Adams of Perry and Phillips as 2nd Vice President, as well as outgoing President Abi Pattenden as Immediate Past President.

In his acceptance speech, David set out the issues that the Association and its members would face during the coming year, the projects it is delivering for members - and called upon others in his position to consider standing for election to the NAFD’s various boards and committees in the future. He also issued a warm invitation to all NAFD members to join him next year in Liverpool, for Conference 2020.

NFE 2019 rated a huge success by exhibitors and visitors alike In June, a record-breaking 4,500 attendees packed into halls 1 and 2 at Stoneleigh Park, England for the 2019 National Funeral Exhibition, visiting more than 200 exhibitors and attending a fully-booked three-day seminar programme.

Visitors from 20 different nations, from China to Denmark, Thailand to the Netherlands, joined the UK funeral profession to check out the latest inspiring and innovative developments. Suppliers as diverse as vehicle fleets, coffins, caskets, professional equipment suppliers, printing and stationery companies, online memorial services, charities and business advisory firms, created bold and eye-catching stands, demonstrated equipment, products and skills and provided refreshments for thirsty visitors.

The number of visitors - both domestic and international - was up on both 2015 and 2017, with international thanatology

organisation, FIATIFTA, bringing a large delegation to the show and the Church of England also sending members of the clergy, as well as a diverse range of UK funeral business owners and employees. A group of Danish funeral directors also made the trip and spent time not only at NFE, but also visiting A Pargetter & Son in Coventry for a tour. “Once again the NFE proved to be a fantastic event at which to showcase new products and new partnerships. NFE is an FuneralTimes | 35

incredibly important event for us, as we use it as the launch platform for the bi-annual JC Atkinson product brochure, which this year has grown to 200 pages, putting a wider range of choice and personalisation opinions directly into the hands of funeral directors.” Said Greg Cranfield of J C Atkinson. His thoughts were echoed

by Marko Dakin of Netherlands-based Memorial Trees, who added: “As a Dutch company we were pleasantly surprised to be making new contacts from outside the UK, in particular the Chinese and French markets. All in all, it was a big success for us. We have already reserved our space for 2021.”

Speaking on the last day of the show, NAFD President David Barrington said: “It’s been a fantastic weekend. I’ve met people from all over the world and the exhibitors surpassed themselves with the quality and innovation of their stands, products and services.

On behalf of the NAFD, I would like to thank the sponsors, whose support of

the show helps us to make it as vibrant and inspiring as possible for visitors, our speakers - who packed out the seminar theatre for every session of the exhibition; the exhibitors for trusting NFE to support the development of their businesses, the NFE Committee for its leadership during the past two years and last, but certainly not least, the amazing team of staff and stewards who were on the go all weekend making sure the whole event ran like clockwork.”

The road to Stoneleigh in 2021...

Within two days of the show closing, more than 35% of stands for NFE 2021 had been reserved and the number continues to climb with many exhibitors taking new or larger positions for the next show.

Any exhibitors who wish to secure their preferred space now, or for further information, please contact show manager Jane Lawrence on 0121 711 1343 ext 1009, or by email to jane@nafd.org.uk to discuss your needs.

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Representing the needs of almost 4,000 funeral homes, the National Association of Funeral Directors is the “Voice of the Funeral Profession”, supporting members and assuring the public of high standards for more than 100 years.

The NAFD is influential • Consulted by Government on legislative issues • First call for the media on funeral / bereavement issues • Established cross party groups in all four UK Parliaments / Assemblies • Universally endorsed professional qualifications

The NAFD is inclusive • We are financially independent of any other organisation • We campaign on issues affecting all members equally • Members range from small independent firms to groups and Co-operatives • We are totally democratic with one member, one vote - irrespective of the number of funeral homes

The NAFD is supportive • Best benefits package within the sector, saving up to £5,000 a year on essential business costs • Free helplines for financial, legal and employment law, HR, public relations and repatriation issues • Free £5m professional indemnity insurance per UK funeral home member - unique within the sector • Free insurance against tribunal claims, H&S and tax prosecutions

The NAFD is trusted • NAFD members are trusted by consumers to deliver our Funeral Promise: • A funeral that is a fitting farewell, at a price they are comfortable with • Treating bereaved families with respect and acting with integrity • Fulfilling any special wishes and requests • The right to independent redress if the need should arise

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By Dennis Daulton

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n the 1991 March edition of the Dodge Magazine the late Don Sawyer wrote an article with a similar title. I’ve added “Along With Discouragements.” Don was the Director of Embalming Education and a Dodge representative in California and Utah. His son Mark now covers that territory. Jack Adams, our representative in Illinois, assumed Don’s role presenting technical seminars and writing many technical articles. As I reviewed Don’s article I realized not much has changed.

While alternating between handling some of the technical calls in the office and covering my sales territory in northeastern Massachusetts, I hear many of the same challenges Don described in his article.

These can be overcome with a change in one’s technique, along with, perhaps, looking at the profession with a different perspective.

If you are just starting out, have patience with yourself. This profession cannot be learned overnight. If you have entered it because others think you should, then find another profession. It’s that simple. Unless funeral service and serving others is your true calling, it will be just too hard to endure what lies ahead. If it is your calling, then you will receive satisfaction that few other professions offer.

In addition, you will always be able to put food on the table and pay your bills. There are increasing opportunities for competent and caring funeral professionals. At Dodge we are contacted for technical assistance by more folks than just our customers.

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Dennis divides his time working in his Dodge sales territory in northeastern Massachusetts, and being in the office manning the technicalsupport line, along with helping out with customer service.

the embalming room you can use whatever company’s product you want to use. We just want the final presentation to be a positive experience for the family and friends so that the next time they experience a death in the family they will have the desire to see the deceased.

I don’t know how to say goodbye to a photograph or an urn. Omitting the deceased from the funeral is like omitting the baby from the baptism or the bride and groom from the wedding.

If viewing is desired by the family, we need to do everything possible to get the dead where they need to be. This is a place where they can be seen and where death cannot be denied. Here are several things we might consider: • What’s the rush? I feel that clocks should be removed from embalming rooms. Stay focused and take as long as is required to do a thorough and complete preparation.

Do not compare the time it takes to do your work with how quickly someone else does theirs.

• The features must be set properly. On occasion I have found myself taking longer to set the features than actually doing the injection. The oral cavity must be thoroughly disinfected, otherwise bacteria can attack the inner surfaces of the mouth causing a shriveling or wrinkling and softening of the lips.

• Body positioning devices should always be used. This allows for a cleaner operating area but, more importantly, the entire weight of the body on the table inhibits penetration to the back side where it comes

in contact with the table.

• Many complications arise from injecting a large volume of a weak solution of injection chemicals. Under the technical section on our webstore you can read about recommended dilutions. Water is the largest co-injection and it is also the biggest culprit in under-embalmed cases.

Water will not preserve and disinfect a body.

Consider using a water conditioner such as Rectifiant along with your arterial chemical and co-injections. Rectifiant de-gasifies and de-mineralizes the water, allowing better penetration into the tissue. We will test your water at no charge. Ask your Dodge rep about this service.

• Use no less than 32 ounces of a cavity chemical. That is one bottle up (thoracic region) and one bottle down (abdominal region). We all have approximately 26 feet of intestines regardless of our size. On large bodies, delayed embalming cases, or ship-out cases, consider using more than 32 ounces. You might consider reviewing the article, “I Never Use Cavity Chemical” in the April 2012 issue of the Dodge magazine.

• Thorough bathing of the deceased is critical. Shave all bodies. Remove hair from the nose and ears. Pack the nostrils with a piece of Webril saturated with Dry Wash II. This will repel any flies that might enter the room and subsequently the nostrils. If for some unfortunate reason there might be flies already in there (body found outside, in a barn or shed, etc.) this procedure will kill the flies and any larvae. Also review the article “Flies (Musca Domestica)” in the July 2012 issue of the Dodge Magazine.

• Fingernails should be trimmed and

cleaned. On any stains on the fingernails, such as tobacco stains, which we seldom see anymore, take a pair of sharp scissors and scrape across the top of the nail. There is no need to purchase new scissors if yours get dull. Put them in a vice and run a fine file evenly across the top.

• Now about discouragement. All professions have their own unique impediments and causes for despair. They don’t last long if you are committed to your profession. I recently saw a poster which showed and quoted U.S. Marine Veteran Chris Van Etten who had both his legs amputated at his knees. “Things are going to get in your way, but whatever you do never stop showing up.” Oftentimes this is all it takes … just keep showing up. I’ve seen some very good people leave the funeral profession because of the difficulties they experienced at their place of employment. It is possible to out last difficult people and toxic situations in an unhealthy environment if you keep showing up … with a smile. We must not confuse a particular troublesome job with the profession. Find another place to work or your own place, where you will certainly flourish if you have that deep desire to serve others as a caring and competent funeral professional.

• Not only does the deceased need to be properly and well embalmed, they need to have the appearance of being well cared for.

Otherwise what is the sense of offering any of this? How well the body is positioned in the casket is critical. They must look comfortable. This takes practice, but you can get there if you haven’t already. There are many families who still want and need to FuneralTimes | 45

see their loved one. When they call us they expect nothing less than perfection. Most of us who have been doing this for any length of time agree that there are few times if any, that we have been 100% satisfied with our own results. But we keep trying.

This is the calling … taking care of the dead because they can’t take care of themselves.

And we keep showing up to do just that.

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Obit software Q&A For this edition, we asked Neal Massey of Rom Massey & Sons, Dublin, who started using Obit in December 2016 about his experiences.

What do you see as the main benefits of Obit for your business?

benefit during out of office hours as we can easily look up details on a phone.

It offers simplicity, ease of use, and the clear entry of details, providing an overview of the funeral so that the implementation of processes can start as soon as details are online. We no longer have to wait for an email or phone call with the details of the funeral as the software can be updated as information is received. We can plan the allocation of vehicles and staff much more quickly and efficiently, and with more lead time.

We now raise invoices directly from the software, and can upload any other relevant documents to the system, so that all the information is located together. Having all the information in one system also allows us to look up clients and funeral details much more quickly than before. An example of this would be when a client returns to us, or has a query regarding a grave number, the details are instantly available. This is also of

What functions or areas would you like to see Obit develop more?

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We only have minor queries regarding development, as the major ones have all been addressed. The team at Obit usually deal with any queries quite promptly. There are some features that we haven’t made full use of as yet, so perhaps we need the developing rather than Obit.

How do you rate the support by Lytesoft for Obit?

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SAIF attended the National Funeral Exhibition on the 7th - 9th June 2019

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hroughout the weekend our stand was continuously busy, with the opportunity to meet both existing and new members and associates, either to find out information on joining us or with general queries surrounding the profession. Thinking about the NFE in 2017, the visitors to our stand certainly had increased on both the Friday and Saturday.

Along with SAIF’s National President Jim Auld, Chief Executive Terry Tennens and members of the Executive Committee, we were also accompanied on our stand by representatives from the SAIF’s NextGen group, Brian Hart and Jo Carra from SAIFInsure and Catherine Betley, Chantelle Rose and Joanna Williams from Professional Help who were on hand to answer questions about SAIFCare and SAIFSupport.

We were also pleased to launch the new website FuneralAdvice.org.uk https://

www.funeraladvice.org/. This has been created by the National Society of Allied and Independent Funeral Directors (SAIF) and is in response to consumer research last year by the Competition and Markets Authority, which highlighted a lack of public awareness about options.

The aim of the site is to provide information about funerals in a nonpromotional way which gives the public the knowledge it needs to make informed choices, in addition to signposting to aftercare and bereavement support groups.

On behalf of SAIF, we would like to thank all who took time to visit the SAIF stand, for the positive feedback and wonderful comments.

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n the 13th July, Simon Rossiter (Rossiters in Tenby), Brian Stock (West & Coe), Bob Spittle (Bradnam Joinery) and Brian Hart (SAIFInsure) will be undertaking a gruelling continuous 100K challenge in 24 hours in the Peak District to raise money for SAIF’s charity for 2019, Breast Cancer Care and Breast Cancer Now. Hopefully, conditions will be more forgiving from the 2018 Three Peaks event where record temperature in Scotland made for a gruelling experience for all concerned.

We would be most grateful for any and all support and sponsorship for this and all proceeds will be going to a fantastic and worthwhile cause and if it helps those of a mischievous disposition, please smile and think of us as we will no doubt be suffering throughout those 24 hours!

Please go to SAIF/Justgiving https://www. justgiving.com/fundraising/saifpeak2019 Your support is very much appreciated and welcomed by us all.

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he college is looking at arranging their course schedule for Autumn/Winter 2019.

Courses are arranged where they know that there is sufficient interest.

Please contact the College Administrator Corinne Pengelly corinne@saif.org.uk or

IFD College T:0345 230 6777 if you are interested in courses running in your area.

The new course Arranging Infant & Child Funerals is already underway so please contact Corinne for more information.

Dr Bill Webster When the “Death Care Professional” grieves

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n my last article, I shared about the tragic death of my son this summer, and some insights I gained in my personal journey from “theory” to “experience”.

One other important perception was not just about me as an individual but about us all collectively as death care professionals.

It involved the apparent expectation that those of us who deal with “death” and “grief ” on a daily basis must somehow be “used to it” and thus able to draw on “experience” to help us cope.

Of particular frustration to me were those who said things like, “You will be able to draw from your wisdom as a grief counsellor to get through this.”

But as I said last time, there is a big difference between “understanding grief ” and “experiencing” it. We have all sat through long, boring seminars (not mine, of course!!) expounding the theories of grief, cognitively seeking to explain and understand the process.

But this summer, I learned that in the actual moment, none of these theories made a lot of sense to me. After my son’s death, it was of little help that I “understood” it.

The whole situation simply seemed beyond belief, so nothing cognitive brought any real

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comfort or satisfaction.

My grief was too big and too overwhelming to be soothed by trite comments or clichés.

Even when people quoted my own written words back to me, it didn’t really help.

Somehow, well-meaning words of advice ring strangely hollow in these moments, leaving us feeling empty, or worst of all, misunderstood.

Funeral directors and ‘death professionals’ experience similar sentiments when they themselves experience a personal loss. While we deal with such situations professionally on a daily basis, when something happens to one of our own, it is different. Any personal loss triggers emotions, reactions and pain for which we often prepare others, but rarely enable us to guard ourselves.

So what should we do when loss hits close to home? We need to do what we need to do. I personally was unwilling to share my “unravelling” in full view because it seemed to me that many of the grieving people I had helped and supported over the years were watching with some trepidation to see if I was going to “make it”.

So in the time following Steve’s death, it was important to be true to myself and to maintain some professional decorum in

general view, while at the same time sharing my tears and true feelings only with those closest to me, which included some family and trusted colleagues.

While some might disagree with this strategy, it worked for me. Here are some things I found helpful: 1. It is important to get some structure back into your life. The first principle of Critical Incident Stress Debriefing is that “Structure is a remedy for chaos” and I found it helpful to get back into albeit limited structure in my own life and work.

I was fortunate enough to be able to take a “sabbatical” and not have to conduct my support groups. But within a few weeks, having “nothing to do” was driving me crazy.

So I conducted a number of funerals, which was surprisingly therapeutic because I was “helping people”, which has been my life.

Funeral directors may not be as fortunate to get extended time off and may have to return to work sooner than they feel ready.

It is a challenge to deal with death and grief on a daily basis in such a situation. There are so many reminders and “triggers”. I found it was helpful to distinguish between meeting “their” needs and “my” needs. As long as it

was about “them” I was able to handle the challenges; and when it was about “me” I retreated to my own safe places and people to seek support.

2. I did find I was very impatient with myself. If things didn’t go right, or when I was forgetful, or my lack of concentration led to oversights or blunders, I would get angry and frustrated with myself. My wonderful wife would say, “Bill, give yourself some grace”, which I tried to implement (albeit sometimes with mutterings under my breath!) and I was careful not to take frustrations out on family or friends, who least deserved to be targets. Johanna tells me I am improving!!!

3. Don’t over-rationalize the situation.

We professionals tend to explain rather than express, and while it is a good thing to be able to remain relatively emotionally detached when dealing with client families; when you experience personal grief, it is OK to let ourselves feel what we feel and do what we need to do.

“A family is a risky venture, because the greater the love, the greater the loss. That’s the trade-off. But I’ll take it all.” (Brad Pitt)

First you hurt, then you heal Dr. Bill Webster understands grief not just in theory, but also from personal experience. In his book, “First you Hurt, Then you Heal”, Dr. Bill outlines a road map for the grief journey in a series of articles that take us through the process .

He begins with a chapter entitled “I Didn’t Plan for This” that gives people an understanding of what they may experience in the early days after a loss. The book then goes on to give us an understanding of grief, some insights into various situations of loss, and some strategies to help us work through the process.

This book will be a helpful resource for those who are going through a grief process as well as containing much relevant and practical information for those who would like to know what they can say and how they can help someone who has experienced a significant loss. It will also serve as a basic knowledge and layman’s guide for those in the helping professions such as nurses, teachers, funeral directors and those who seek to support grieving people, young and old, through their work. “First you Hurt, Then you Heal” provides practical, down to earth and effective insight into one of the most difficult topics and most misunderstood experiences of life.

First you Hurt, Then you Heal: A Road Map for the Grief Journey (Kindle Edition) is avaialble to buy on Amazon.

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eclan Finnegan of Lakelands Crematorium, Cavan, became a funeral director in 1988 when he took over from his Uncle Joe who had been running the Finnegan funeral business since 1938. His immediate drive was to improve and modernise the business, as ever aiming to provide the best service possible. One element of this plan involved commencing his own training as an embalmer, qualifying in 1993, making him the first qualified embalmer in County Cavan and the surrounding areas.

With previous experience in the business world, Declan, along with his wife Teresa, in

2001 purchased the former Baptist Church which they refurbished as a Funeral Home, whilst simultaneously venturing further into the Memorials business.

2010 saw Declan complete a course with the In-sight Institute in New Jersey, U.S.A., to become a qualified Celebrant of Civil Funerals, providing a service to all, both religious and non-religious. His most ambitious plan was of course the extension of the Funeral Home and building of Lakelands Crematorium, the first Crematorium in Ireland located outside of a major city.

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The Recompose Project

By Jennifer Muldowney

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as-fueled cremations and toxic burials in cemeteries are currently the only options available to Irish Funeral Directors and their clientele. But this will not forever remain the only ways we care for our dead. We all know this and there are so many options currently in prototype build, in pilot mode or a simple idea in someone’s head. So how might deceased people’s bodies be attended to, honored, and better utilized in the future? Enter Katrina Spade from Washington State in the USA, the designer/entrepreneur behind the Recompose project.

Katrina Spade invented a system to transform a dead body into soil while earning her Masters of Architecture. After years testing the concept, the Recompose project won the approval of Washington state’s legislature.

So what exactly is the Recompose project and what happens to the body? The unclothed body is place into a cylinder vessel on a bed of a blend of woodchips, wet alfalfa and straw. The temperature of the body

naturally rises over the course of a month and the vessel is aerated with oxygen. After one month, all that remains is soil. The soil will be regulated as with current cremains.

While I believe it will be met with questions and I am sure Katrina has a fight ahead of her to get people comfortable with the idea, as with all new ideas, it will be in the educating of the idea. It is certainly a fascinating conversation of how nature’s principles might be harnessed to more efficiently return deceased bodies to the earth, sequestering carbon and improving soil health.

Katrina Spade, Founder and CEO of Recompose

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Lawyers, Garda and Coffins

By Mattie Lennon

Miley Murphy, a farmer from Knockanarrigan was involved in an accident in Donard.

In court, the trucking company’s lawyer was questioning Miley. “Didn’t you say, at the moment of the accident, ‘I’m fine.’” asked the lawyer?

Miley responded, “Well, I’ll tell you what happened. I had just loaded my favourite cow, Bessie, into the...”

“I did not ask you for any details”, the lawyer interrupted. “Just answer the question. Did you not say, at the scene of the accident, ‘I’m fine?’

Miley said, “Well, I had just got Bessie into the trailer and I was driving down the road...”

The lawyer interrupted again and said “Judge, I’m trying to establish the fact that, at the scene of the accident, this man told the Garda on the scene that he was just fine. Now several weeks after the accident he is trying to sue my client.

I believe he is a fraud. Please tell him to simply answer the question.”

By this time the judge was fairly interested in Miley’s answer and said to

the lawyer “I’d like to hear what he has to say about his favourite cow, Bessie.”

Miley thanked the judge and continued.

“Well as I was saying, I had just loaded Bessie, my favourite cow, into the trailer and was driving down the road when this huge army truck coming from the Glen of Imaal came around the corner at speed and smacked my truck right in the side. I was thrown into one ditch and Bessie was thrown into the other. I was hurt pretty bad and didn’t want to move.

However, I could hear old Bessie moaning and groaning. I knew she was in terrible shape just by her groans.

When the Garda came on the scene he could hear Bessie moaning and groaning so he went over to her. After he looked at her and saw her near fatal condition he asked one of the army lads in the lorry to put her down humanely. The young soldier raised his rifle and shot her between the eyes.

Then the soldier came across the road, rifle still in hand, looked at me and said, ‘how are you feeling?’ Now, what would YOU say?”

I had, what I thought was, a brilliant article for you this time. It was an argument in favour of cremation over burial. But when I submitted it the editor refused to publish it, informing me in an email, “The writing is not too bad but where’s the plot.”

A man awakens from a coma.

His wife is irritated and changes out of her black clothing.

“I really can’t depend on you for anything, can I?”

William Shakespeare famously spurned his wife by leaving her his “second best” bed in his will, but German author Heinrich Heine was more brutal. Upon his death in 1856, he bequeathed his entire estate to his wife Matilda - provided she remarried. Why that condition? As Heine saw it, then “there will be at least one man to regret my death.”

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A lawyer in Blessington was on his deathbed and he called to his wife. She rushed in and said, “What is it, honey?”

He told her to run and get the bible as soon as possible. Being a religious woman, she thought this was a good idea. She ran and got it, prepared to read him his favourite verse or something of the sort.

He snatched it from her and began quickly scanning pages, his eyes darting right and left. The wife was curious.

“What are you doing, honey?” she asked.

“I’m looking for loopholes!” he shouted.

It was early March 2018. In the words of James Joyce, “Snow was general all over Ireland” and Kylebeg didn’t escape. For once my garden looked the same as everybody else’s. One of my well-heeled neighbours, as soon as he heard the Met Eireann weather warning, headed for Florida.

His wife was on a business trip and was planning to meet him there the next day.

When he reached his hotel he decided to send his wife a quick email.

Unfortunately, when typing her address, he missed one letter, and his note was

directed instead to an elderly preacher’s wife in north Antrim whose husband had passed away only the day before.

When the grieving widow checked her email, she took one look at the screen, let out a piercing scream, and fell to the floor in a dead faint.

At the sound, her family rushed into the room and saw this note on the screen of her tablet: “Dearest Wife, Just got checked in. Everything prepared for your arrival tomorrow.

P.S. - Sure is HOT down here!”

After Patrick died, everyone gathered at his funeral. Then the Priest started to speak: "He was a model husband, a decent man, a terrific father."

The widow then makes a motion for her son to come to her.

"What is it mother?" he whispered.

"Dear, go check the coffin, I think we're at the wrong funeral..."

According to most studies, people’s number one fear is of public speaking. Death is number two. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you’re better off in the casket than doing the eulogy.

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Babworth Crematorium is dedicated

by The Bishop of Hallam

A Service of Dedication of Babworth Crematorium took place on Thursday June 6th, and was well attended by local Funeral Directors, Clergy and Funeral Celebrants as well as senior representatives of Professional organisations from the Bereavement sector.

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he service of Dedication was led by the Right Reverend Ralph Heskett, Bishop of Hallam who emphasised the importance of those involved in making Funeral arrangements and providing facilities at Crematoria and for the bereaved to be able to mourn. The Bishop blessed the buildings and grounds and spoke of the new Crematorium providing a place where services for those of all faiths and none could be held in accordance to the wishes of each family, a place where they could draw comfort from the beautiful natural surroundings.

Babworth Crematorium performed it's first service in August 2018 and has already established a reputation for offering the highest standards of service to bereaved families from across the local area.

The crematorium is a convenient choice for the residents of Retford, Worksop, and much of the North Nottinghamshire area.

Set in more than 20 acres of grounds, nestled in the countryside of Bassetlaw, Babworth Crematorium provides families with all the time and facilities they need to hold a dignified and private funeral, putting their needs first at all times.

After the Ceremony the congregation gathered in a marquee in the grounds which was bathed in warm sunshine, for refreshments. Many of the guests were also afforded the opportunity of participating on a guided tour of the buildings which included the chance to see behind the scenes of a working Crematoria.

Kevin Davies (Westerleigh) Kate Waller, Hilary Grainger, Harvey Thomas CBE, Sophia Allana, Bishop Ralf Heskett, Jim Auld (SAIF National President), Amanda Carr (Crematorium Manager) Philip Spicksley, Kate Edwards, Alun Tucker, Rev Richard Warren, Darrell Williams, Sarah Scarsbrook, James Fox, Rev Mark Cantrill, Emily Summerhill, Gordon Dunn (Westerleigh) David Capper (BIFD National President) and Alan José (Westerleigh) FuneralTimes | 69

Family Funeral Directors choose new Coleman Milne Mercedes

Terry and Martin Rogers with Area Sales Manager Stacey Moore

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ourth Generation Cornish Family Funeral Directors choose Brand New Coleman Milne Mercedes.

The Padstow family funeral directors and existing Coleman Milne customer T C Rogers & Son are now the proud owners of a brand new Mercedes E Class hearse.

Terry and Martin Rogers travelled from Cornwall to take a tour of Coleman Milne’s production facility in the North West, gaining valuable insight into the process behind the company’s signature vehicles and meeting key members of the team and also would like to personally thank Eddie Marsden and Stacey Moore.

Thanks to the innovative features and luxurious specification including glass roof, led illuminations and the optional extra integrated cover boards, the E-Class hearse was the best choice for T C Rogers & Son, with Martin commenting: “We’re delighted with our brand new Mercedes hearse, it’s a perfect addition to our existing Mercedes fleet and seamlessly blends in. We were also interested to learn how these vehicles were made and

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we’re grateful to Coleman Milne for the opportunity.”

“We are very proud to provide our clients, their families and other funeral directors we hire to around Cornwall with such an elegantly designed hearse. It has already been very much admired and commented on by families, the public and other firms saying that they are delighted with the new hearse which is second to none.”

T C Rogers & Son pride themselves on their ability to cater for all funeral types with a variety of transport options available including motorcycle and horse-drawn hearses. Their new Mercedes E-Class hearse will join a famous fleet – the firm’s vehicles have starred in ITV’s Doc Martin and the 2013 film About Time which starred Bill Nighy and Rachel McFadden.

Now in its 4th generation, T C Rogers & Son offer traditional family values with dignified professional funeral services to the families around Cornwall for more than 100 years and are always modernising their services and providing the highest standards to their clients.

All-new Coleman Milne fleet for Turner & Son

The new fleet for Turner & Son was handed over by CM Area Sales Manager for the South, Stacey Moore

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ndependent funeral directors Turner & Son are now the proud owners of a brand new Mercedes hearse and limousine.

This new fleet, based on the Mercedes E-Class, marks the first order that the business has placed with Coleman Milne.

Luxury and innovation feature as standard with this range of striking ceremonial vehicles thanks to their unparalleled specification. With a wide range of options and accessories available, the E-Class range can be exclusively tailored to the customer’s requirements.

In addition to the 2-bearer deck, integral coverboards and bespoke illuminated signage of the hearse, Turner & Son also opted for a 5mm silver coachline on both vehicles. This subtle addition highlights the sleek lines of the vehicle and provides a unique touch to truly make the vehicle stand out.

Founded in 1887, the business is now in the capable hands of Mark Turner and

continues to serve the communities of March and the surrounding areas within Cambridgeshire. Thanks to their wealth of historic experience, they are able to expertly cater to the needs of each family they encounter and deliver a unique final tribute – from floral arrangements and stationery to funeral plans and vehicles and everything in between, the business demonstrates true compassion and care throughout their service offerings When asked for comment, Mark Turner had this to say: “The purchase of our new vehicles complements the redevelopment of our premises to include new Garages, Workshop, Florist Shop and a Memorial showroom enabling the business to grow in the future.

“We would like to thank Stacey Moore and the staff at Coleman Milne for their assistance and making the selection and purchase of our vehicles so easy and accommodating all our requirements.”

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Resomation – Natural Water Cremation

By David Gresty - British Institute of Funeral Directors Further to the article last issue, which described and explained Water Cremation /“Resomation” following a talk given by Sandy Sullivan, Regions C & J and Manchester Members of SAIF and the NAFD were invited to a tour of the factory.

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e were met by Sandy Sullivan (founder & director) and Howard Pickard (managing director). BIFD National President, David Capper, welcomed over 40 guests and introduced our hosts.

Sandy provided an introductory talk, like the article provided in December 2018.

Along with his colleague Howard, we were then taken to the factory to see a working Resomation machine.

Seeing the equipment in the flesh was very impressive. Very clean, clinical and sterile looking, you knew straight away that you were looking at a process and

working environment quite different to the traditional flame cremation we are used to.

The equipment consists of: • The Resomation Chamber (Resomator S750) which is essentially a pressurised vessel (high temperature 150C liquid creating internal pressure but providing a slow methodical process) and is based on an industrial scale autoclave.

• The rapid as-needed steam generator unit to efficiently heat the water and alkaline solution • The storage chambers for reclaimed hot water and the alkaline solution

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• A holding storage chamber for collecting the resomated liquid before disposal • A scientific oven to rapidly dry the “Resomated Remains” before they are traditionally Cremulated The equipment and machinery were amazing to see although at first glance most agreed bigger than expected. The idea of the final setup would be that the Resomation Chamber would be visible to the technician, funeral staff or even the public and all the ancillary units would be in separate utility area.

The process takes about 3-4 hours and drying the final remains about 2 hours.

Alternatively, the remains could be air dried over a 2 day period. The oven is the size of a large microwave/domestic oven.

The guests asked some interesting questions such as: Does the equipment have to be checked, maintained and validated?

As the unit is a pressure unit it may require annual pressure test inspections. However, it only uses a working pressure of around 65psi and the Resomator chamber is factory tested and insurance validated to almost 200psi. Maintenance is minimal, and the equipment will last 20 to 30 years without any major upkeep such as re-lining a traditional flame cremator.

What does the water board and local authority think of Resomation?

There are no issues with the water board as the level of waste is negligible to other industries and the waste product is a nonharmful solution. Local authorities are happy with the method as an alternative way to dispose of a deceased person. In fact, Resomation has already been written into Scottish Law as an alternative consideration to flame cremation and burial. All testing of the equipment and waste product has been verified.

How is the body presented to enter the Resomation Chamber?

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robe and then placed in a sealed sustainable wool coffin. There must not be any cotton, wadding, clothing or personal items on or in the deceased body.

How are the Resomated Remains presented?

The same as flame cremated remains except the remains are pure white and more of a powdery consistence. They also tend to be greater in quantity than flame cremation.

After listening to Sandy Sullivan’s talk, seeing the equipment was impressive and interesting and gave much food for thought on the future of funerals.

Thank you most sincerely to Sandy, Howard and their colleagues at Resomation Ltd. for not only looking after us so well, but for providing an informative and open talk and tour of their premises and facilities.

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Another pre-owned Limousine for William Main Funeral Directors

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illiam Main Funeral Directors are a family run business based in Dunbar.

They were recently voted a Best Professional Service Provider in the Edinburgh Business Awards for 2019.

William was delighted to receive the limousine, which is part of William Main standing alongside a further Vauxhall his ongoing investLimousine supplied by Wilcox Limousines Ltd. ment in the business.

The vehicle has a high specification including leather interior, DAB stereo, alloy wheels and cruise control.

Wilcox Limousines Ltd would like to thank William for his continued custom and wish him every success with his new vehicle.

L D & A Tideswell Funeral Directors receive new Volvo S90 Hearse L

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D & A Tideswell are a family run business based in Dove Holes, Derbyshire. Alan and Sally offer their services to the families of Dove Holes and surrounding areas.

Alan and Sally were delighted to receive the hearse, which is part of their ongoing investAlan Tideswell standing alongside his new Hearse ment in the business. supplied by Wilcox Limousines Ltd. The vehicle has a high specification including leather interior, DAB stereo, Satellite Navigation, heated front seats, alloy wheels and active cruise control. Alan and Sally opted for a bench seat enabling them to carry four bearers in addition to the driver.

Wilcox Limousines Ltd would like to thank Alan and Sally for their custom and wish them every success with their new vehicle.

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J.P. Ward and Sons called on to service President Trump J

.P. Ward and Sons family funeral home, based in Bray, Co. Wicklow, are no strangers to rubbing shoulders with the elite from the other side of the pond.

In 2014 they were approached by the US state department to undertake the task of providing a chauffeur service for the Obama family during their visit, the cost at the time said to be in the region of £90,000. The firm’s website promotes the availability of seven large passenger limousines, all driven

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by professional, discreet and fully uniformed drivers. Now, following the recent State visit, the Trump administration is rumored to have employed the services of J.P Ward and Sons by leasing four limousines to cover the two-day visit where the president joined in the commemoration of the D-Day landings and met with Taoiseach, Leo Varadkar.

The fee being mentioned on this occasion is close to $1,000,000, a figure allegedly discovered on USAspending.gov according to the Funeral Service Times.

Death Statistics in Ireland 2018 Natural population increase on the decline across the South

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he Central Statistics Office of Ireland recorded a rise in deaths coupled with a fall in births across 2018.

With 31,116 deaths registered in the calendar year, it represented a 2.1% increase on total deaths from 2017 (30,484). The tables, graphs and data below have been produced by the Central Statistics Office and are accessible at https://www.cso.ie/ Of the deceased registered in 2018, 15,967 were male and 15,149 female. Interestingly, the number of births minus the number of deaths across 2018 represents a natural population increase of 29,900, a 5.3% decrease from 2017, and continuation of the recent downward trend.

Slight increase in infant deaths year-on-year 2018 saw 187 Infant deaths registered, representing an infant mortality rate of 3.1 deaths per 1,000 live births, an increase of 0.3 from 2017.

Neonatal deaths are deaths of infants at ages under 4 weeks.

There were 139 neonatal deaths registered in 2018, a neonatal mortality rate of 2.3 deaths per 1,000 live births, which was an increase of 0.1 from 2017.

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Primary causes of death by age The primary cause of death in 2018 varied widely dependant upon age group. Among those aged from 15 to 34 years, external causes of death including accidents, suicide and other ranked first (265 deaths). Among individuals aged 35-74, cancers were the leading cause while for those aged 75 and older, it was diseases of the heart and arteries.

Slight decrease in deaths throughout Northern Ireland Month

2017 2018

16,036 15,923

Januray February March April May June July August September October November December

1,818 1,391 1,449 1,148 1,360 1,262 1,178 1,172 1,163 1,333 1,403 1,359

2,102 1,456 1,487 1,281 1,166 1,146 1,149 1,230 1,095 1,347 1,231 1,233

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