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Dear F-Style Magazine readers. WERE back and are ready to bounce back with new energy. Sorry that we disappeared for a while but now we’re making plans to switch to a new server, obtain new management and prepare to expand more as we are constantly getting visits from artists and talent all over the world. We still have a few bugs to deal with but I am working diligently on them to bring you good quality soul visions with the unique Urbane Fashion Movement. Thank you for all the prayers and continued support. We have made our publication more interactive as you will see the QR codes which you can scan with your phone and check out exclusive interviews, performances, music videos, and other media. Much more to come. This year we will need your help and support as we seek to release the long anticipated project of our cartoon and comic series HIMITSU. I will be looking for a lot of help and talent to make this project a success in which I know it can be with Chicago talent.
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Article Written By: Jalysa Dalmida
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His name is Lawrence Lee Wallace. He was Born and raised in Chicago IL. Accomplishments He has completed 6 features, 4 shorts, 2 TV Pilots And a abundance of commercials and music videos.
The beginning of his career started with directing theater. His first play was The Colored Museum by George C. Wolfe. He then moved into film. His first film was a documentary called: The Black Light Project.
He first began writing poetry in high school.
Then later he went on to write plays. A major influence in his life was one by the name of Dick Gregory. A veteran in his field who came to his school and gave him notes on his writing. He once told Wallace that he had “great potential” and not to give up. 26 F-Style Magazine
The challenges that arise as a Director are mostly about money. He goes on to explain that, “Chicago isn’t really geared around the entertainment industry and art there isn’t taken seriously as a business, so it’s hard to find donors and investors to help.” He describes his directing style as edgy and a bit over the top. He likes to surprise his audience by introducing new story lines in the middle of the main story to break up the monotony and get a different reaction.
The collaboration that would most bring value to his career would be withQuentin Tarantino. He enjoys his dynamic dialogue and his shooting style. He believes they would make something really stylized and fun.
His favorite and most memorable completed project is entitled: If you Love me. It is his 3rd, most fun and best received. He really felt that he had become a real filmmaker when that movie came out. Be on the look out for his next thrilling and captivating project called: Pieces of David. Also, a dark Comedy will be out the spring of 2018. Its featuring Cynda Williams who played “Clarke” in Spike Lee’s, Mo’ Betta Blues F-Style Magazine 27
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VIEW TRAILERS IN THE LINKS BELOW https://youtu.be/xZEaPoy9uK4 https://youtu.be/Uh5LQLFT38c
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Contact Him and Check Out His Work Here: https://www.facebook.com/deepproductionstudios/ https://www.facebook.com/piecesofdavid/ https://twitter.com/LawrenceLWallac http://www.deepproductionstudios.com/ https://www.youtube.com/deepproductionstudios
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Kayla Williams was born in Chicago and
raised in St. Louis. Her first modeling experience was at the age of 5 or 6 when she participated in modeling for Sears. Then she started modeling again in college. She did a brick wall shoot in downtown LA and and now she is currently living in San Diego. She never thought she was fit to be a model because she’s not tall, but she was always interested in the art. She started hearing about girls taking interest in brand modeling which doesn’t require a height requirement so she decided to reach out in the industry. As a model challenges do arise. But, the one challenge that she is working on as a model is probably confidence. A person would think every model is confident, but that isn’t the case. As she grew in modeling it helped her to become confident in her own skin and love her body. She goes on to share that “you have to learn how to embrace your looks and love them even if they aren’t fit to the status quo.”
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Her other creative talent is dance. She loves to dance! She wants to start incorporating dance from her future dance classes into her shoots. She also wants to work on more live streaming opportunities whether it be talk shows, videos, commercials and or ads. Her advice for any up coming models would be “Be comfortable in your own skins. Embrace your inner beauty and it will show through your outer beauty. Also, don’t let anything stop you from achieving your goals. You may get knocked down once but you have to learn how to get back up again!� If she could do a photo-shoot with any Top model in the world she would choose to share that experience with: Chantelle Young. She likes that Chantelle Young embraced her beauty and that she ignored everyone that told her she could never model because of her skin pigment disease. She has excelled in the modeling and fashion industry and has become one of the most popular models in the industry.
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Wise Advice She Received “Always have fun with it Don’t ever do anything you’re uncomfortable with.”
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DR. BOYCE WATKINS Follow fb: Dr. Boyce Watkins
So I ask the question. After you “made it” after you reach the top of where you strive to get to and you have all the material things you could want, but soon realize that is just material and you want to do more to help and encourage others, but you do not know where to go and do not have a lot of time to do the research on who best fits your desire to give. Where do you go? Well I was blessed to find a woman who can help. She started to follow me on instagram a few weeks ago and I was so impressed with her company and what she does I believe is another great candidate for our influences section. Lateasha DeGuzman Sutton-Gbor of Celebsclosets. Com helps the celebrities and notable public figures donate to their favorite charities. If you follow her on instagram at celebritiesclosets you can see all the amazing talent she has come in contact with and has helped support them in their quest to give back. Follow celebritiesclosets and continue to bless others just as you have been blessed.
With so much talk of the problems of our country, our communities and our personal battles, it is good to see individuals who seek to find solutions against the program. Dr. Boyce Watkins is one to follow as he speaks about various political issue but also true empowerment. Go to his website Dr. Watkins you can see not only does he showcase a black economic empowerment tour, black business school but what I found most interesting and fun was, “The Dr. Boyce Watkins Fun Financial Flash cards for children. “ He has so much to offer on his sight which I hope to see more families use this as a blueprint to success, understand and empowerment. Dr. Boyce Watkins is a true Man who is are pick for a great influencer. He talks about the problems but he also brings solutions. Follow him at on fb at Financial Juneteenth with Dr. Boyce Watkins
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Unlimited Guardians Add All Your Friends The more Guardians you choose, the safer you are. Add all your friends and family as your Guardians for a bigger and better safety net. Choose One As Primary Choose one person as your primary Guardian. In case of an emergency this one contact will not only receive a text, but also be called. Help Each Other bSafer Guardianship is mutual. When one Guardian accepts, you are automatically that person´s Guardian too. Help each other stay safer!
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For jogs, hikes, or active times, choose Follow Me with timer. Define how long you want bSafe You to follow your every step. Automatic Alarm If you have not checked in on time, the bSafe alarm will automatically trigger and alert all your Guardians. Don´t worry, you can always update your timer as you move. Full Trace Your Guardians will get access to your full trace from when Timer Mode was activated as well as evidence gathered by video and voice. Hide if you don´t like to share your location. In case of an emergency or when you use Follow me and I´m Here, your location will of course be shared for your safety. Navigate Safely With bSafe maps you both have all safety features at your fingertip, and your map for safe navigation. We´ve even included a flashlight for you to use any time it´s dark!
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rysta Wicks is a Chicago native and the CEO of The Boss Wife Enterprises Inc., a multifaceted company consisting of real estate acquisitions, self-development, apparel, and social networking events. Her current publication, “Everybody Is Not Made For This�, was written as a self-help book to empower women in every aspect of juggling life. She was inspired to put together a collaboration of her own personal experiences, trials, and life mastery. She created a book that was more than words but a tool that could be used to compose the best version of oneself in an easy to relate to guide. In writing her book, she became the change and value that she wanted to see in the world.
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Crysta currently has written three self-help books, one of which is self-published. Her current audience is full of women that share some of the same titles as her – wife, mother, current and aspiring entrepreneur. In most cases, women wear many modified hats which makes it easy to attract and maintain an audience of women. As she developed her passion and expertise, Crysta fell in love with self-development books. She believes that no matter what level in life people are at, they should always be teachable. One of her favorite quotes is: “When the student is ready the teacher appears.� When I am ready to take things to the next level, I seek out the self-development genre and the teacher appears. Her future goal is to, with exceeding faith and hard work, turn her masterpiece writing into an unforgettable box office movie hit that her audience will remember with great admiration and appreciation for her skills, talent, and multi-faceted gifts.
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Crysta’s Wise “Decide onAdvice: who you want to be an do what it takes to become her!”
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7 ways to
Producit Here are seven ways you can further your career, even if you don’t have an agent or manager championing your talent: 1. Create your own work wherever possible. Find like-minded artistic collaborators and put on a play; create a short film; do a web series. Many actors of whom I’m a passionate believer go this route, and I admire them for it. Actors, you will gain the attention of casting directors and other industry professionals if you put together well-crafted, intelligent work. It need not be costly or have tremendous production values. It just needs to be compelling. 2. Read Backstage and other publications geared toward actors and those in the entertainment business. There are many listed auditions for theatrical productions, student films, larger films, etc. An actor need not have representation in order to submit himself. Similarly, the Actors Access website is another valuable tool: Actors can read breakdowns and submit themselves. Be certain your headshot and résumé are as realistically appealing/accurate as possible. The SAG Foundation and the Actors Fund are also excellent resources for actors, as is Playbill.com. 3. Contact student filmmakers and student theater directors and let them know you are available and eager to work with excellent collaborators. There are highly accomplished student films being made—some of which go on to win Student Academy Awards. With my AMPAS colleagues, I participate in the judging of these films every year, and am floored by the high bar they set. 62 F-Style Magazine
4. Attend EPAs if you’re trained to do theater and are passionate about it. I have auditioned, and subsequently hired, brilliant actors whom I’ve met at these auditions. One sees both represented and unrepresented actors in attendance. 5. Reach out to casting directors, directors, and producers whose work you admire. I can’t emphasize enough how a thoughtful, personalized note to those whose work moves you will make an impression. You must be impeccable in your crafting of this kind of note, but if it is sincere, it will make an impact. You may not hear back from everyone, but you will hear back from some of the people you contact. This is a business of relationships. You don’t want to deluge people or hound them, of course, but if you are talented, and truly prepared and hardworking, asking for an audition or a meeting can yield rewards. If you are in a play or have other performance work to show, invite industry colleagues to see your work—especially when you are truly proud of it.
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High on You Kim Noel https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vRAtN97dxo
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So Beautiful Charleone Reverbnation.com/Charleone YouTube.com/Charleone Facebook.com/Charleonemusic Twitter.com/charleonemusic
There is a lot of great talent in Chicago and to showcase more talent with beautiful voices is what we seek to do. This issue we have found a Chicago native that many know and many are not familiar but we want to give our support to this amazing talent. Follow @Joharinoelle https://www.youtube.com/ F-Style Magazine 65 watch?v=d9DFi0ZaHhA
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Industry Things to do during the gig
So you finally booked the gig, and now you are on your way to do the great performance you have been planning for, practicing for and lol yes arguing and debating on for money and terms. BUT WAIT! The work is not over yet, you still have to capitalize on the gig while you are there. There every artist should know that there is a beginning, during and end process to ever gig. So here is just a few tips and pointers to remember for your next gig. We will continue to put out more tips as pointers for artist so write in and let us know some issue you need addressed as you navigate your fame and fortune as we cover you. 1.have a banner with your logo or bands logo hung behind the act, high enough to be easily read by all. You’d be surprised how many people will see and hear your act and never know who you are. A visible banner solves that problem. 2. place “table tents’ with interesting artist/band information ( trivia, song lyrics, etc.) and gig schedules on each table around the club. Use sturdy, postcard stock for best results. 3. set up a visible area for merchandise ( t- shirts, posters, cds, etc) the person ( non- band member) running the merchandising can also oversee the new fan mail list. Be sure there’s plenty of writing instruments and paper on hand or a tablet if possible. 4. have plenty of business cards with a readable contact person’s name and number in the pockets of all group, band members or supportive crew. Distribute them liberally( side note: I found a wonderful artist I wanted to showcase in the publication, but he was such a artist that he put all his information in a way I could not read nor understand to contact him) 5. when you’re on stage, remember to make your show stimulating visually as well as aurally. You’re on display and all your clothing, colors, movements and lines should blend with the music you’re playing. Give the people what they want- a feast of sight and sound. This is an essential part of “ working the crowd” and finally, make sure that you can give a website or a way for your fans to follow you at the end of your performance. Remember most with their camera phones will be recording you so make sure you advertise so they can share it with their friends or if they can not get to you at the end of the performance. Ok this is just a few tips more to come and good luck and see us next issue for more tips and resources to help you maintain and grow your fan base. F-Style Magazine 67
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Jose A. Santiago Jr. https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=ShLklh9E5f0
Anita Nicole Brown https://youtu.be/N5ID-hmyK3s
Kelly McKinney https://www.youtube.com/ watch?v=4TQWvrP1j3M
Charleone Thompson https://www.dropbox.com/s/lj1ap2nwxs01i4q/CharleoneREEL.MP4?dl=0
Shon McGregory https://youtu.be/Y26JGEHANoM
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Fitness BBY SIDDIQU MUHAMMAD
Belly Fat Do’s and Don’ts
When you start a workout routine or new diet, you may want to lose weight or be in better shape, but there is one thing that is guaranteed – you want to have a flat stomach. A flat/tight stomach is a clear sign to the world that you are in shape and fit, and we all know that one of the most unattractive qualities on any body is a big mid-section! So Trey, Mr. Calahan and Nancy (clients) will have all the information that they need to make some changes. Here are some key “Do’s an Don’ts” you can set in place in your routine to ensure that flabby gut is gone forever! Do: Perform cardio activities consistently that elevate your heart rate. Jumping jacks, stair runs, jumping rope, jogging and swimming are all good activities to participate in. Your goal should be to engage in some cardio 4-5 times a week minimum, with 30 minutes per activity. Don’t: Don’t indulge in impractical and fast methods to lose belly fat, as you risk reversing your results just as quickly. Moreover, try to maintain consistency in your dietary plans in order to maintain the same toned body. Do: Eat as many vegetables as you can. If you are eating, then a vegetable should be somewhere on the plate. Vegetables take up more space in your stomach, and are more easily digested in your system. So this means that you feel full from less calories, and in turn, you will eat less food. Don’t: Don’t consume too much junk food and deep fried food, as they are the main cause of accumulation of excess fat around the belly. Try to avoid unhealthy choices like fast food hamburgers, pizza and fried meats, as these food are rich in elements that lead to a high rise in cholesterol levels. Do: Enjoy the process of toning up! Make a game out of it, or challenge a friend to a tone stomach contest. If you do not enjoy the process, it will become difficult to sustain it. If you constantly tell yourself you hate exercise or you hate vegetables, then you will start to believe it, and the first chance you get, you’ll drop your program and go back to your detrimental old habits. F-Style Magazine 75
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TOMATOES PRICE PER 1 CUP SERVING: $1.28 WHY THEY’RE GREAT: “ They’re one of the highest sources of cancer-faighting antioxidant lycopene,and they’re very low -calorie HOW TO USE THEM: Slice and sprinkle with pepper, salt, and extra-virgin olive oil.
RED PEPPERS PRICE PER 1 CUP SERVING: $1.38 WHY THEY’RE GREAT: “Thee are really high in vitamin C- Just one cup has triple what you need dailywhich is important for healthy skin. HOW TO USE THEM: Dip in hummus.
BEET GREENS PRICE PER 1 CUP SERVIING: 38 cents WHY THEY’RE GREAT: One cup of beet leave contain an insane amout of vitamin K ( 774 percent of your daily need!) and double the blook pressure-lowering potassium you’d find in coconut water. HOW TO USE THEM: Saute with olive oil, onion, garlic, salt, and pepper. Serve as a side dish, like spinach 76 F-Style Magazine
PUMPKIN PRICE PER 1-CUP SERVING: 63 cents WHY IT’S GREAT: Each serving has almost 3 grams of fiber- more than you’ll get in a cup of kale- and double the vision supporting vitamin A you need daily. HOW TO USE IT: Scoop out the seeds, then roast it as you would a sweet potato and serve it with a little bit of olive oil, salt, and pepper.
BROCCOLI PRICE PER 1 CUP SERVING: 63 cents WHY IT’S GREAT: A cooked cup contains almost half the folate you need daily to protect your fertility. It also packs 4 grams of protein- more than what’s in a table poon of almond butter, and without the extra calories. HOW TO USE IT: Steam it- you lose nutrient to water when you boil. Add to omelets, salad, and pastas.
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Where to buy Healthy Food Chicago Health Food Stores Bonne Sante 1525 E. 53rd St. 773-667-5700
KMT 233 E. 75th St. 773-224-7500
Good Food 1966 E. 73rd St. 773-420-3832
Native Foods Cafe www.nativefoods.com 218 S Clark St, Chicago • (312) 3326332
Kudus 8515 S. Cottage Grove Ave. 773-994-1754 Southtown 2100 W. 95th St. 773-233-1856 Sunrise 17650 Torrence 708-474-6166 F-Style Magazine 77
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Free Mammograms, Breast Exams, Pelvic Exams and Pap tests and low cost treatment to all UNINSURED women http://www.cancerscreening.illinois.gov/ MAMMOGRAM GUIDELINES BY DR. SHARON K. An x-ray of the breast i called a mammogram. There are certain times that a mammogram may be indicated. It may not be the same for everyone because some people have risk factors in their family Loose guidelines are listed below. Please check with your doctor if you have any further questions. breast examination by your doctor 01 yearly approximately around the time the first Pap
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The Reflection She believed them. They told her that she was no-
body and she believed them. She accepted what others said at face value because she no longer knew who she was. She did not undertand the definition of love, beauty and virtue because they hid them from her. She had become as a woman undone; a woman whose pieces were scattered abroad; a woman who had no concept of what it meant to be whole within. When she looked in the mirror, she did not see her own reflection but she saw image they saw and she became afraid. She was afraid of not knowing who she was so she began giving herself away to others in hope of gaining an identity. In giving she sought to gain love and affection but instead gained heartaches and disappointments. She sought to gain acceptance and respect but instead gained brokeness and rejection. So she continued to give. But the the more she gave the less she had until there was nothing left for her to give. And there she stood; fragmented and broken into pieces for she had reached her end, she had given all of herself to others. It was then that she began to realize that it was she who allowed herself to be devalued and shamed. It was she who allowed her virtue to leave and her beauty to be hidden from her. She had become so afraid of not being loved and aceped that she let others make her into something that she was not. She accepted who they said she was and not the woman who she knew she was within. She was so use to looking at herself through the eyes of others that she could not see her own reflection in the mirror. 82 F-Style Magazine
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She then understood that as long as she kept giving herself away to others that they would continue to take thus leaving her with nothing to give herself. And so she decided that day to give herself the love she sought from others and accept the woman that she was on the inside. She knew that she was worth more to herself whole than to someone else broken. She stood in the mirror and finally opened her eyes. When she looked at her own reflection, the image that she saw standing before her was that of pure beauty; a priceless masterpiece. She believed in her own reflection that day. She believed that she reflected a woman of virtue filled with self love.
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Steps to End Damaging Family Cycles
1. Intentionally stop and acknowledge, you must really recognize that YOU want to change. 2 seek a mentor you can trust ( e.g., older adult, or, teacher, or counselor or a successful friend) to help you identify whch of the negaitve your actions perpetuates the negative cycle(s) 3 Decide that you want to quit the harmful Cycle you are living with as you reach a new plato of life and identify what you can do to head in that direction. 4 Access a program that can help you break bad cycles so you can take intentional steps toward improving your life chances going forward. 5 Remain committed to your process of change by finding resposible accountablity partners who can encourage you , on a regular basis, to stick to your plan of action. 6 Help others break out of their family dysfucntion and become a mentor and accountablity partner to someone else as you become more strongly committed to your new way of living.
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7. Identify both the positive and negative traits of the people who raised you. 8. notice how you embody those characteristics( realizing that thay might appear as slightly different but still recognizable versions). 9. for those traits you dislike, observe where and when they show up and log them for a few weeks. 10. learn what your triggers are and the simple measures you can sometimes take to curb them. 11. strive to interrupt the behavior. For instance, if you notice yourself being cold and distant, commit to being loving. If necesssary, use consequences to ensure you keep your promises. 12. design new favorable traits to replace the ones that don’t serve you. Again, use actions consistent with the new characteristics to help develop them. sources: gabriella Jordan, the handel Group; Willie and Elaine oliver, real family talk with Willie & Elaine Oliver
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