Anger

Anger

Question # 1 What is anger?

Examples of anger:  Rage.  Fury.  Hatred.  Envy.  Jealousy.  Apathy.  Shame.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2768418051 page 115.

Anger is an alerting phenomenon.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creative-explorations/201706/understanding-anger

Question # 2 How do we express anger?

Because kids cannot yet understand or communicate anger so well, they act it out, for example by shouting.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/anger-when-adults-act-children-and-why

Question # 3 Why do we feel anger?

Anger can come from seeing people, we care about,

being mistreated.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.

Anger is usually a response to inequality, injustice

and unfair treatment.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3777340683 Pages 115 and 130.

Anger is a common emotional response to a conflict.

https://hbr.org/2017/12/should-you-share-your-feelings-during-a-work-fight

Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward

someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong.

http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/index.aspx

What is often sitting beneath that anger are emotion such as  feeling betrayed,  feeling unseen,  feeling disappointed.

https://hbr.org/2017/12/should-you-share-your-feelings-during-a-work-fight

Anger is highly related to love, for example because of its connection to need and involvement.

When anger is accompanied by a clear communication, it is a sign of basic respect for a loved person.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creative-explorations/201706/understanding-anger

Question # 4 How does anger help us?

Anger can help you express negative emotions.

http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/index.aspx

Anger helps us set boundaries.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2768418051 page 41.

Anger helps us to act and fix what made us angry.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3777340683 Page 28.

Anger often helps people to get the courage to fight back.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.

Moving from feeling hurt to feeling angry helps the person feel less vulnerable.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/anger-when-adults-act-children-and-why

When anger arises, it signals that healing is underway.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2768418051 page 115.

Anger can give you a way to find solutions to problems.

http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/index.aspx

When a child refuses to accept a parent’s critical assessment of him or her, the anger rescues him or her from feeling,

for example, shame.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/anger-when-adults-act-children-and-why

Question # 5 What are negative results of expressing anger?

When people feel anger, they tend to believe that

people are at fault and things go wrong.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3777340683 Page 32.

Anger can cloud our ability to think clearly and behave effectively.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.

People, who feel anger, also feel more optimistic and

more in control than they actually are. This can lead them to take risks that they would not do otherwise.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.

When we feel anger, we tend to speak more loudly, more

aggressively and more in black-white terms.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4069212658 Page 144.

Excessive anger can cause problems such as increased blood pressure.

That can make it difficult for the person to think straight and harm his or her physical and mental health.

http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/index.aspx

When we express anger, we instill fear in others.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3777340683 Page 36.

Getting angry is a desperate attempt by a person to cover up that he or she feels hurt.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201602/anger-when-adults-act-children-and-why

When you are unable or unwilling to deal with your anger, boredom arises.

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/2768418051 page 191.

Question # 6 How can we feel less anger?

To feel less anger, be less optimistic.

Be less hopeful about life.

https://youtu.be/coiCkmcKjX8

3 ideas to express anger in healthy ways: 1. Accept the emotion as normal and part of life.

2. Take a walk or run to cool down.

3. Ask yourself why you feel angry.

https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/anger-how-it-affects-people

To help a person feel less anger,

help the person to feel safe.

3 ideas: 1. Suggest that you take a walk and talk.

2. Listen patiently.

3. Speak slowly and in a low tone.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/overcoming-destructive-anger/201804/10-strategies-defusing-your-partners-anger