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The View From This Side MARCH 2020 I’ve spent the last few months making a lot of changes. As you may already know, this last year has been about getting healthy. It took me years and years to put on extra pounds, but for some reason, I thought I’d be able to get them off in a matter of weeks. I’m not a “diet” person, but in this healthymindset that I’m in, I’ve been doing intermittent fasting, not drinking alcohol, and working out 5 – 7 days per week! This year is about being stronger and making sure cancer is gone forever! I am feeling younger and better than ever!

March is one month closer to spring, which is my favorite season, which means this is one happy publisher! One of the things I love about spring is that there’s always so much more to do! It’s like everyone emerges from their cocoons. And if you’re looking for some things to do, be sure to check out our Calendar of Events page (126 – 127). Some special events of note include the Clemmons Lip Sync Battle on March 6th (which is a hoot!)… the United Way Casino Night on March 20th… Men Who

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Cook is on March 21st… And coming up in April, Twin City Fashion Week will be at the Millennium Center April 8th – 11th! There’s a lot going on!

Also – BIG NEWS! The launch date hasn’t been decided yet, but we are going to have a reader survey starting sometime this month. We haven’t done one in over three years, and this is YOUR chance to let your voice be heard and share what you think of Forsyth Magazines!

We thank you in advance for your help and willingness to share. Stay tuned for news on our Facebook and Instagram pages.

Well, it’s time for me to get back to publishing…. So, I’ll keep things short this month!

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Twin City Fashion Week Where creativity takes center stage!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY KYLE DUNCAN With a nod to everyone’s favorite universal language – fashion! – Twin City Fashion Week’s mission is a trio of efforts: Shine the spotlight on local businesses, commemorate the Twin City’s colorful history, and gather the community for an exciting, positive event with an eye towards the future.

Back for its second year, presented

by Jaguar/Land Rover of Greensboro and Restoration MedSpa, Twin City Fashion Week (TCFW) will be held at the Millennium Center in downtown Winston-Salem, April 8 – 11, 2020.

Reynolda House is the event’s non-profit partner, and a portion of all proceeds will be donated to that organization.

A truly unique experience, this event joins designers, models, photographers, stylists, community volunteers, retailers, and boutiques in the most creative endeavor of the year.

“We want to embrace Winston-Salem’s name as the ‘City of Arts & Innovation’ and push the envelope in terms of production and creative output year after year,” explains DJ Hargrave, creator of Twin City Fashion Week. “It’s about so much more than the clothes.

It’s about giving to the community, providing opportunities for our citizens, and embracing diversity by making anyone and everyone feel welcome in Winston-Salem.”

Twin City Fashion Week brings economic impact to both local businesses and larger companies headquartered here, which in turn helps local arts to flourish even more. Whether you’re a patron of the arts, a participant in the art or fashion scene around town, or have an interest in event production, TCFW offers the chance for personal expression in fun, innovative ways, and it’s a perfect opportunity to get your foot in the door of these industries!

The magical allure of fashion transcends age groups and lifestyles. Twin City Fashion Week will kick off with a a Sponsors Gathering at Spring House Restaurant, Kitchen & Bar on Wednesday, April 8. “Springhouse Restaurant is a much-loved staple in our community, and our sponsors gathering is a chance for local sponsors to mingle and share ideas,” says DJ. The following evening (Thursday, April 9th) will be a charity dog fashion show in partnership with the Forsyth Humane Society. This one-of-a-kind event will take place at the

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Reynolda House. It’s an exciting time for local dog- lovers, too! “We see families and dogs on the Reynolda grounds every day. We are thrilled to partner with TCFW to help our four- legged companions make fashion history against the backdrop of the 1917 Reynolds’ family home!” says Kaci Baez, Director of Marketing and Communications, Reynolda House & Reynolda Gardens.

To gain admission to the Pup Strut at Reynolda House, visitors must purchase a ticket – with 100% of proceeds going to Reynolda House– or purchase $10.00 worth of dog food (receipt must be presented) which will be donated to the Forsyth Humane Society.

Then, the two fabulous runway shows take the stage April 10 and 11, where fashion will come alive at the Millennium Center!

Friday night is emerging designers night.

This is for up-and- coming designers looking to make a name in the industry.

This year the event welcomes out-ofstate designers to participate as well.

Saturday evening will be Local Boutiques Night, presented by Forsyth Magazines, and will feature community favorites Hip Chics, Mellie & Emilia, and Wood & Thread Boutique.

“A part of our mission of starting TCFW is to give local businesses the chance to market themselves at a cutting-edge, modern event in the heart of downtown, attended by local influencers and business owners, young professionals, and families,” says DJ. Twin City Fashion Week’s team includes Acacio da Silva, an experienced hairstylist at Aeracura Salon who has traveled globally working in the fashion industry, lead photographer Kyle Duncan (Kyle Duncan Photography), lead videographer Alex Fuentes (Owner of The White Label Media), lead admin Kylie Duncan, lead makeup artist Elizabeth Johnston, and social media manager Sam Shunney.

For more information on this year’s Twin City Fashion Week, and to purchase tickets, visit twincityfashionweek. com. Models, hair and makeup artists, photographers, and prospective volunteers can also apply on the website. Be sure to follow them on Instagram and Facebook @twincityfashionweek for more info and some behind the scenes content.

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Keeping It Real WHAT DO YOU WANT?

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

What is it that you want . . . more than anything?

No, really. Think about it. Are you sure?

Nobody has to convince me. I know God is good to His very core. Yet every time I take a longer look, I realize He is SO MUCH GOOD-ER than good. (It’s a word, ok!)

God is a Father who loves us too much to simply extend to us that one solution that we think will fix everything. You see, He knows we have this propensity to think small, a little shortsighted, and mostly “in the moment.” Our Good Father knows our end from our beginning and never struggles to discern precisely what we need when we need it.

Take the lame man who begged passersby for money on their way to daily prayers (Acts 3).

As Peter and John beat a path to their Temple spot, this man hollered for their attention. What did this crippled man want? What did he need?

The invalid simply “wanted” and was “sure he needed” coins in his cup.

This guy was so consumed with getting change for his cup that he overlooked his deeper craving . . . change for his life!

The crippled man had suffered with this debilitating ailment since birth. He had lived with this condition for so long that he had stopped believing for the impossible.

Essentially, the lame man asked for just enough to keep him content in his condition. Sound familiar? We can grow so accustomed to our challenges that our belief for a miracle simply dries up.

Peter and John could not offer the needy man what he wanted. Peter said, “I don’t have any silver or gold for you. But I’ll give you what I do have. In the Name of Jesus, get up and walk!”

(Acts 3:6) “As soon as Peter and John prayed for him, the crippled man jumped up, stood on his feet, and began to walk! Then, walking, leaping, and Praising God, he went into the Temple with them!” (Acts 3:8) Every person watching this scenario unfold knew this man had NEVER walked a day in his life! They had passed him for years on their way to the Temple. When this healed man walked into the Temple for the very first time, every spectator raced to watch. That glorious occasion became a defining moment of Faith for the man AND the masses.

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What if God used Peter and John to give this guy what he thought he wanted? What if they had simply offered to him what this invalid was sure he needed? He would carry a cup full of coins AND a life full of deficit.

When I consider some of my prayer requests through the years, I realize my doting Father protected me with “no” or “not yet.” It felt cruel at the time, but getting a little further down the road provides clearer vision. He wasn’t withholding the good. God was actually extending His good. Now I recognize His generosity and faithfulness on full display. Sometimes it looks like God is neglecting our desires and ignoring our needs because we are too short-sighted to see where He's leading.

When we live with this unshakable conviction that God is AllKnowing, Always GOOD, and completely ABLE, we will ask for the big things and trust His heart through the process.

What kind of change are you looking for? If we’re asking this All-knowing, All-present, All-powerful God to do a thing in our lives, let it be too big to fit in our cup. May it invade the totality of our constitution and overflow onto others as they extend their cup in our direction!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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BY MARTIE EMORY

With so much information swirling around us these days, it’s easy to get caught up in the online or widely advertised “too good to be true” offer that seems faster and less expensive. But when it comes to straightening your teeth, there’s no substitute for a professional orthodontic practice.

The exceptional care Chermak & Hanson is known for can’t be found online or through a company that offers a quick fix for your dental issues.

Their staff is well-versed in the new technological advances of the last decade, dedicated to the patient’s ultimate well-being, and the one-on-one experience of visiting their office and sharing the journey to a perfect smile together is irreplaceable.

When Dr. David Chermak and Dr. John Hanson took over the already successful practice in 2003, the two bonded with a shared vision of always being patient-focused, and the doctors are anxious to educate our readers on the clear-cut reasons not to consider mail-in orthodontics or DIY treatments: • An orthodontist is a highly trained professional who attends four years of undergraduate study, four years of dental school, and three years of specialty training. “This regimen is similar to a medical specialist, and we don’t think anyone would consider doing their own heart surgery or eye surgery!” says Dr. Hanson.

• Orthodontics and dentofacial orthopedics is a complicated specialty that involves treatments to achieve ideal facial balance, optimum occlusion (bite), and life-long health of oral and facial structures and jaw joints. Achieving perfectly straight teeth is a by-product of those tasks, and yes, it is a process!

• Mail order aligner movement of teeth in no way achieves anything other than teeth that appear straighter. It does not consider the complexity of the oral facial system, and in many cases, without direct orthodontist supervision, the bite is actually changed in an adverse way.

• Many patients, after online aligner treatment, have reported having their front teeth touch after treatment, but not the back ones (posterior open bite), or their lower teeth are pushed forward to alleviate crowding. But the end result can be an edge-to-edge bite -- or underbite -where the lower teeth are forward of the upper teeth. Their bite no longer fits! “We can adjust tooth shape or angulation of the teeth to achieve a perfect bite,” explains Dr. Hanson. “Imagine putting a new roof or doors and windows on a house that has a poor foundation or buying nice tires and rims for a car that is out of alignment.”

(Note: Some websites admit your bite may change during treatment – however, they also require customers to sign paperwork that relieves them from any and all liability related to any adverse outcome.)

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• While an online dentist reviews pictures of the patient’s mouth before treatment begins, there is no actual exam of the supporting structures of the teeth. “One possible reason why teeth begin to shift is loss of bone under the teeth due to gum disease,” says Dr. Chermak. “Moving teeth amid undiagnosed gum disease or severe gingivitis can accelerate bone and tissue loss around teeth and even result in tooth loss. If cavities exist that are untreated, wearing aligners can accelerate the decay process by trapping food and plaque in the decayed area.”

• Let’s talk impressions! “It takes a dentist years to master impression taking,” says Dr. Chermak. “I can’t imagine someone with no experience taking a good impression.” In some cases, these companies send you a kit to take your own impressions – DIY dentistry!

• An orthodontist can slightly reshape the teeth or change the angulation if a “black triangle” begins to occur between certain teeth, a result of crooked teeth pushing the gum down in between teeth. They can also monitor aligner fittings and make needed adjustments, as well as monitor retainers. Without the proper use of retainers, results can be lost over time.

• While mail-order aligners tend to be less expensive, there are many factors that may ultimately end up costing the patient more in money, time, and frustration. Too many unknown factors make it risky to count on a positive outcome without direct, periodic supervision.

We provide a complimentary exam to review your situation and discuss why or why not aligner treatment or braces may be able to achieve your goals. “We have an in-office financing plan of 0% interest over the time of treatment, so payments are spread over time,” says Dr. Hanson. “Plus, we file claims which can reduce your out-of-pocket expense even more.”

So see the professionals – face to face – with that beautiful smile of yours! Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics offers three locations: 1564 N. Peacehaven Rd., Winston-Salem, 336-760-1491; 3742 Clemmons Rd., Clemmons, 336-766-8244; and 524 S. Main St., King, 336-983-4551. Visit them online at smileland.com, and call today to begin your personal orthodontic journey!

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Please join us for a Q&A session on deep vein thrombosis in honor of DVT Awareness Month An interview with Dr. Rickey, leading vein specialist at Novant Health Vein Specialists 1) What is DVT, or deep vein thrombosis?

A DVT results from the formation of blood clots in the calf or thigh.

2) Why is it important for people to be aware of this condition?

The Surgeon General reports DVT affects between 350,000 and 600,000 Americans each year and is responsible for at least 100,000 deaths. The Venous Disease Coalition reports up to one million Americans are affected by DVT each year. DVT blood clots cause more deaths each year than AIDS and breast cancer combined.

3) What are some of the risk factors and warning signs of DVT? Smoking and immobility (like during air travel) are among the most common risk factors. Pregnancy and obesity can also cause DVT. In some cases, these blood clots can travel to the heart and lungs causing severe complications, including death. 50% of DVTs can occur with little or no symptoms. Warning signs include pain, swelling or redness of the legs, or unexplained cough, chest pain or shortness of breath.

4) How often and at what age should someone be screened for DVT? Depending on risk factors, anyone can be screened for venous disease and risk for DVT. In general, the risk goes up with age, but young patients with other risk factors should also be screened. Common risk factors include varicose veins, obesity, surgery, cancer therapy, immobility, oral contraceptive use and smoking. Anyone with a history of DVT or a family history of DVT or pulmonary embolism is also at risk and should be screened. If you have a negative screening, rescreening should be done if any of your risk factors change over time.

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5) Why is leg health so important?

Taking care of your legs will allow you to spend more quality time with your family, no matter how old you are. Being aware of your overall health is always important, and everyone should take preventative steps to remain healthy rather than simply treating problems as they arise.

6) Do you offer consultation services?

Yes. Please call us today at 336-276-0776 if you think you have a DVT or have had a DVT in the past. We will perform an ultrasound and physical examination to assess your condition. We also offer monthly screenings at: Novant Health Vein Specialists Tuesdays: March 3, April 7, May 5, June 2, July 7, August 4, September 8, October 6, November 3, December 1 Thursdays: March 19, April 30, May 21, June 18, July 23, August 20, September 24, October 22, November 19, December 17 7) What treatment options are available?

Customarily, blood thinners may be required to treat DVT when present.

Other patients found to be at high risk for DVT may require therapy tailored towards prevention. Only after being properly evaluated can an appropriate treatment plan be prescribed.

Novant Health Vein Specialists are conveniently located at 2827 Lyndhurst Avenue, Suite 206 in Winston-Salem and 1710 Kernersville Medical Parkway, Suite 202 in Kernersville. Call or go online to schedule your FREE SCREENING. Improve your life today!

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BLEPHARITIS

BY KEITH BIGGS, O.D.

Do you suffer from dry, watery, red, itchy eyes? Blepharitis could be the underlying root of it all. Nearly 30 million Americans suffer from chronic blepharitis. This condition causes irritation and inflammation of the eyelid margin, where eyelashes join the eyelid. If not treated, this condition can worsen and may lead to further problems, including sties and decreased or fluctuating vision. Blepharitis is quite difficult to manage because it tends to reoccur.

Blepharitis occurs in two forms: anterior and posterior. The anterior form affects the outside front of the eyelid, where the eyelashes are attached.

The two most common causes of anterior blepharitis are bacteria (staphylococcus) and scalp dandruff. Posterior blepharitis affects the inner eyelid (the portion of the lid that makes contact with the eye) and is caused by problems with the oil (Meibomian) glands. These glands help to release oil onto the front surface of the eye to aid in a normal tear film layer. If this chemistry is disrupted, dry, watery, or redness can ensue.

Posterior blepharitis can develop as a result of a skin condition such as acne rosacea, which leads to red and inflamed skin, or scalp dandruff.

The way that I explain it to my patients is that there is a normal number of bacteria that live on everyone’s skin surface; but in certain individuals, they tend to overpopulate and inflame the lids, lashes, resulting in clogged oil glands, dry eye disease, and chronic redness.

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Treatment of blepharitis revolves around hygiene of the area. In most individuals, the bacteria are overpopulating, and it is our job to get this under control and develop a maintenance program to keep the bacteria in check. Depending on the severity of your blepharitis, we may recommend simple sprays to help kill the bacteria or may perform other procedures in our office.

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Touring Christian Dance Company Combines Movement with Worship

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON

There is no shortage of talent in and around the Triad area. We are blessed in many ways by the artistic nature of our fellow citizens whether it be in design, creation or performance. The Arts at Ardmore Series is described as the place where community, faith and the arts come together. For three years, Diane Guthrie, committee member of Arts at Ardmore and member of Ardmore Baptist Church, has been working on Ballet Magnificat!, a performance she is excited and proud to bring to an audience of all ages!

Ballet Magnificat! is known as America’s Premier Christian Ballet Company and was founded in 1986. In a relatively short time, this company has performed original productions for 12 million people in North and South America, Europe, Africa, Asia and the Middle East. With more than 200 programs performed around the world annually, Ballet Magnificat! is a remarkable success and a true honor to host here in Winston-Salem.

According to the event’s website, attendees will “Experience the Exodus from Egypt in a whole new way with Ballet Magnificat!’s popular performance, ‘Deliver Us!’ Under the blazing Egyptian sun, the enslaved Jewish people cry out for a deliverer. One man, Moses, challenges Pharaoh and leads the people to freedom. Set to the soundtrack from DreamWorks’ The Prince of Egypt, this riveting true story from Exodus will jump off the stage and into your life! Ballet Magnificat!’s high energy and powerful performance shatters the stereotypical image of ballet and guarantees to captivate audiences of all ages with a kaleidoscope of movement, costumes, lights and sound.”

It is important to note and emphasize the difference between Ballet Magnificat! and a stereotypical ballet performance. The talent and expertise of the dancers is second to none, but the evangelical mission of the company is what truly leads to the experience of a lifetime. It is the hope of all involved that the performance reaches those of all ages, those interested in dance now and in the future, those of all backgrounds, as well as those with diverse interests and experiences. Even though this event is held at Ardmore Baptist Church, it is not meant only for churchgoers. Everyone is welcome!

Ballet Magnificat! “Deliver Us” hosted by Arts at Ardmore is on March 20th from 7-9:30pm at Ardmore Baptist Church located at 501 Miller Street in WinstonSalem. There is only one performance with limited seating, so reserve your tickets as soon as possible. There is no cost to attend the performance but a love offering will be accepted to help with cost. Tickets are available online at http://tinyurl.com/deliverusatardmore or www.ardmorebaptist.org.

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INSPIRED LIVING AT ITS BEST! The unmistakable allure of its picturesque setting draws prospective residents to Brookridge Retirement Community in Winston-Salem, and the long-standing tradition of compassionate care and the unique camaraderie among residents always seals the deal.

For one of its newest residents however, vivacious 74-year-old Anne Adams, the love for this community also seems to run in her family.

“I am a second-generation resident at Brookridge,” explains Anne.

“My mother moved in when it first opened in 1989, and I’ve felt at home here from my first visit with her.”

Anne’s mother’s experience was so positive that she knew she wanted the same for herself. Plus, she has a beloved aunt – Eloise McManus – who, at almost 98 years of age, is a 30-year Brookridge resident and still lives there independently. “My aunt’s husband required nursing care after 11 years of full active participation in everything this community has to offer,” says Anne. “The care he received – along with the ease of her being able to visit him multiple times a day – were such blessings.”

As one of our newer residents, Anne shares her thoughts on other elements of the community she feels stand out and are important to consider if you are searching for senior living options. “Simply walking in the lobby is a feast for the eyes,” she says. “The openness and beauty are always a pleasure, not to mention the food is delicious! Financially, I also found Brookridge to be a wise investment, and, in comparison with other retirement facilities, I found it to provide the most for my money.”

Brookridge is spacious enough to provide a wide gathering of residents of all ages, with unique backgrounds, so learning new interests while making new friends is an everyday occurrence.

As both Anne’s mother and aunt quickly learned, participating in planned activities, group games, exercise programs, and excursions open up even more opportunities for sharing and learning!

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“Mom was very involved in activities that opened new doors of creativity for her, including ceramics and dulcimer lessons. I enjoy playing cards, the challenge of puzzles, pool exercises, crafts, and reading,” says Anne. “Plus, the well-stocked library and wonderful pool area are great places to socialize!”

Choosing a retirement facility can be life-changing, and a single visit isn’t enough to fully appreciate the atmosphere. From Anne’s experience, she suggests you visit the facility at different times of the year to get a feel for the surroundings during each season and ask long-time residents what they love most about their community.

Brookridge residents overwhelmingly find the natural beauty of the 46-acre wooded campus and garden provide a sense of home, and the apartment home floor plans offer wonderful options. Its convenience to the entire Triad area is a bonus for visiting friends and family members.

With a continuing eye towards innovation and development, Baptist Retirement Homes, which owns Brookridge, is also excited to announce the arrival of Reed VanderSlik as the new President and CEO, taking over leadership from retiring CEO Bill Stillerman, who successfully led the organization for almost 35 years. With over three decades of executive business experience, including over 15 years of executive leadership in the senior living industry, Reed comes to Brookridge from Ann Arbor, Michigan, and holds an MBA from Grand Valley University in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Reed and his wife’s move to North Carolina reunites them with two of their three children who live in Charlotte, as the Brookridge “family” continues to grow!

Visit Brookridge Retirement Community – a Continuing Care Retirement Community – at 1199 Hayes Forest Drive in WinstonSalem, or call them at 336-759-1044 to schedule a tour. For a closer look at this beautiful community, visit brookridgecommunity.org.

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When you’re longing for the luxury of a country club, you can enjoy fine dining at The Grille at the Glen! The best news is The Grille at the Glen offers country club dining that is open to the public! And, with specials that include Slider Wednesdays and Taco Thursdays, plus a Steak of the Week and Catch of the Day – you’ll want to head there soon!

My friends and I were invited to sample some new dishes on the menu at The Grille at the Glen, and it’s always a joy to dine there. We know we can enjoy a relaxing atmosphere (which has been recently repainted and new carpet installed, by the way!) and we will have great service! In fact, their service is so great, I could probably raffle the extra seat we have allotted for Rosey’s Review.

Just sayin’.

We arrived on a cold and rainy February night, but the chill was quickly alleviated by three things: 1) the fire in the fireplace beside our table, 2) freshly brewed coffee because yours truly is a coffee fiend and 3) Golden Bear Margaritas and Ryder Cup Cosmos. Both drinks were beautifully presented and masterfully made. And, with a fully stocked bar, the options are endless in the hands of a creative bartender!

Appetizers were next, and we sampled two. First, the Skillet Baked Mac ‘n Cheese.

I know, I know…I’ve reviewed this before.

I get it. But, it’s amazingly good, and this time, we ordered it with fried chicken.

Our arteries kept their mouths shut as four spoons reached into gooey cheesy goodness meets crispy southern classic.

Nom nom nom…. When you’re having a bad day, this is the meal you need. We weren’t having a bad day and still – it was made better by the combination of creamy-crunchy goodness. We just don’t talk about the carbs or calories. Enjoy the moment, and don’t think about the rest.

On the healthier side, we sampled the Seared Ahi Tuna. It was spicy and had the perfect sear on it! While this is designed as an appetizer, because it’s also served with a bed of fresh greens, it could also be a perfect light meal for those who don’t want anything too heavy. Like Skillet Baked Mac ‘n Cheese with Fried Chicken.

Oops! Did I go backwards? Yeah – as good as the Seared Ahi Tuna was, I admit that my spoon was like a magnet for that Mac ‘n Cheese.

After begging our server to remove the Great Temptation Henceforth Known as Skillet Baked Mac ‘n Cheese with Fried Chicken, she brought us a hearty Grilled Chicken Salad. Much healthier. Very flavorful. The chicken is perfectly grilled, and the salad is a lovely combination of fresh veggies, cheese and bacon. This is defined as an entrée salad, and the portion is certainly large enough. While we had grilled chicken, this salad can also be enjoyed with salmon.

We were also invited to try the Soup of the Day, which was, for us, the Clam Corn Chowder. This is a perfect soup for seafood lovers who want something hearty but not fishy tasting. It was rich and creamy with a soft flavor! Perfect for a cold, rainy night!

The Blackened Shrimp BLT was a recommendation, and while it wasn’t something I would normally choose, I’m glad I took the recommendation. Forget everything you thought you knew about BLTs. Salem Glen has changed the game on this one with blackened shrimp, cheddar cheese, chipotle-lime mayonnaise and, of course – the primary ingredients of a BLT – bacon, lettuce and tomato.

The whole thing is wrapped up in a whole wheat wrap. It’s huge – big enough to share or enjoy for two lunches instead of just one!

As many times as I’ve visited Salem Glen, I’ve never tried a Flat Bread until this Rosey’s Review, and I must say – I have been depriving myself. This flat bread may, as the name implies, be flat, but it holds a hearty selection of toppings.

There are several options, and we tried the supreme. And, it was by name and description – supreme. An excellent dining option!

The Chicken Alfredo was made from Salem Glen’s delicious grilled chicken, which was tossed with bacon, broccoli, cavatappi pasta and a delightful parmesan cream sauce. It’s hearty and filling and the perfect way to slip into the most delightful food coma!

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I mentioned at the beginning of the review that Salem Glen offers a Steak of the Week. For us – that meant trying a Chimichurri Angus Sirloin that was served with sliced avocados on top. It was almost too pretty to eat! Almost. On the side, we enjoyed a salt-crusted baked potato and fresh veggies. So good!

How can we end a meal like that, though?

We can’t. That’s why there’s dessert! We tried the Chocolate Mousse Cake, which was a dark, rich, decadent slice of cake served with fresh whipped cream. As tempting as it might be to bogart the whole thing, unless you’re one of those dessert-first people, you will want to share this one.

As great as the Chocolate Mousse Cake was, the real star of the evening was, in my opinion, the Pecan Pie. Lest you think the humble pecan pie isn’t worthy of such extravagant praise, go to Salem Glen, try it, and then we’ll have that debate. Served warm with fresh whipped cream…oh, you will have sweet dreams after this one!

And, that’s a wrap for another Rosey’s Review! I hope you will try The Grille at the Glen soon and discover for yourself how incredible their menu really is! And, be sure to tell that Rosey sent ya!

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Design Team Dreaming for You at June DeLugas Interiors, Inc So, what to write about this month? I see so much these days in advertisements, market ads, and magazine ads that have the word dream in it. Naturally, a light bulb goes off in my head that this is a great subject to write about. Here we are in the year 2020, and honestly, design and décor change so quickly the average person cannot begin to know what to do if they are beginning a new remodel, a new house, or even just considering an uplift. There is so much social media and their opinions, HOUZZ and their opinions, and of course, magazines and their input, what’s a person to do? It is really easy: just call us, and we will dream it for you.

There is so much creativity in the air at June DeLugas Interiors, Inc., and we have a great creative team to be proud of. We can’t wait to see what the newest fabric or furniture design will be. We order product at the furniture markets that are new, and it may take a year to get to us and by then, it may be on its way out. Wow, hard to keep up with it ourselves! However, we really do a good job at it. Atlanta is a start and then High Point.

For designers, decorators, architects, and store owners, this is where we learn. There are classes during these markets that you would be crazy not to go to, if you are in the profession. Social media, marketing, kitchens and baths, floral design, and color seminars all are going on during market.

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course, my husband is the engineer and math major who keeps us energized so that we can be efficient. As we add more to our team, we only look for talent that matches the excitement in the air at June DeLugas Interiors, Inc. In other words, you are in good hands when you decide to ask for help from our team. We will do our very best to give you greatness.

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Don’t Ask To Go Back to the 20s:

What Women Couldn’t Do

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

If I hear one more reference to “going back” to the Roaring ‘20s, a bid to have a flapper party, or a comment on how amazing the 1920s must have been, I might cry.

Yes, it’s amazing that we are well into 2020, and kicking off the ‘20s. I am THRILLED we are no longer in the awkward “teens” of the 2000s, but the 1920s weren’t great.

Sure, the booming economy!

(White) Women could vote!

Flappers and prohibition and the Harlem Renaissance!

And…a lot of not great stuff for women.

Before you jump on the “Let’s make 2020 JUST like the 1920s because how fun!” take a moment to check what women couldn’t do in the 1920s – and keep in mind that women of color were largely disenfranchised under Jim Crow until the 1960s. Some other reasons to make 2020 much better and different than 1920: Want your name on a passport? Sorry – you were listed as “and wife” on a passport – and it was a joint passport.

Want to work at night or be a leader? 76% of states had laws limiting the number of hours women were allowed to work – which meant no overtime and no leadership.

Think about working at night? That’s a hard no.

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Are you pregnant or thinking about it? You could be fired, and often were because pregnancy got in the way of job productivity.

court until 1977 – and it was 1980 before sexual harassment was defined by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

Want to serve your country? You could help with war efforts! You would be serving in noncombat, volunteer or civilian roles – translated: no benefits, no matter how much you work.

Are you interested in wearing a modern bathing suit? Watch out, law enforcement would patrol the beaches with measuring tape to make sure that your suit wasn’t too short and covered everything it needed to cover! (This particular weird thing wasn’t just a woman thing – men couldn’t be topless on the beach until 1937!)

Sit on a jury? Not you, ma’am! At the end of the ‘20s, only 24 states allowed women to try their peers, and North Carolina wasn’t one of them.

And forget about practicing law – even if you passed all of the exams, you weren’t allowed.

Want birth control? No way. Comstock laws of 1873 made it so women couldn’t even talk about birth control. An anti-birth control campaigner (Comstock) had a law signed that you couldn’t send contraceptive devices by mail – or distribute pamphlets with “obscene material” which included anything that was probirth control.

Do you want your own credit card? No way and not until 1974. You weren’t even allowed to apply for credit. Until the Equal Credit Opportunity Act, you couldn’t even open a bank account without your husband – or male relative’s – permission.

Thinking about reporting sexual harassment?

Sorry, no go – it wasn’t recognized by the

How many of you are runners? You’re not running in a marathon until the 1970s – and yes, you read that right. The Amateur Athletic Union distributed information and “research” (read: false information) that claimed that long-distance running could cause infertility in women.

Looking for an Ivy League Education? Not at Yale, Princeton, Harvard, Columbia, Brown, Dartmouth…you could only go to the University of Pennsylvania, and on a case by case basis (since 1876) and Cornell (1870, and in special circumstances). Maybe worse news? Harvard told a woman in 1961 that “married women find it difficult to carry out worthwhile careers.”

Remember one or two of these the next time you declare you’d like to relive the 1920s – I’ll keep my running and credit card.

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Mastering Productivity

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Weekly Schedule

BY TARYN JEREZ

Somewhere between running a small business, working in Corporate America full time while traveling internationally, keeping up with our home, trying to have a social life, and a whole lot of other things, I realized my weeks were running me instead of me running them, and it had to stop.

Something tells me that you can relate!

Over time, I became aware of how much I thrived on routine and while there never seemed to be enough time, I needed to find a way to master the hours I did have to get the most out of them. Creating a weekly schedule that helped show me where my time was going and where I needed it to go truly helped create the positive shift I’d been looking for.

NOT BEING INTENTIONAL ABOUT YOUR TIME IS PREVENTING PRODUCTIVITY

Two years ago, I remember making a joke to my husband one evening that I should join the circus because I felt like I’d become a professional at juggling more than anyone thought possible. (Ok, it didn’t get a laugh, but it opened up some good conversation.)

The truth was that there was so much on my plate at the time that looking back, so

many things didn’t even need to be there. Some obligations weren’t necessary and things my time was going towards weren’t helping my overall goals for my business or my life.

When you sit down to look at what your time is going towards across all categories, it allows you to get a bird’s eye view. It’s too easy to get busy doing a million different things that seem important, when really none of us want to be “busy,” we want to be productive. Carving out time to create an outlined schedule for your weeks helps you be intentional about what you are spending your energy on during each portion of your day.

YOU AREN’T SURE WHAT WILL WORK, BUT I PROMISE YOU KNOW WHAT WON’T

After hitting some pretty tough bumps in my business feeling like the Energizer Bunny who never quit, I sat down one evening and

reviewed every single thing my time was going towards. I was honest about what was really getting me to where I wanted my business and life to be and - spoiler alert - a lot of things didn’t make the cut. Sometimes you need a reminder of where your time is going and how it’s going to affect the big picture.

Bottom line? You may not know how to make things work yet, but you definitely can tell when something isn’t working. Think about the difference and what that looks like for you. It may be something drastic that is weighing on you hard right now, or it could be a few simple things that you know need to change to make things feel a little better. Challenge yourself to view your time the way you do your money, and you’ll see how different life is when you start to budget your time.

FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU’RE WORKING WITH AND GO FROM THERE

One of the best feelings is when I’m working on things that really feed my soul, and when I’m putting time towards people and commitments that I don’t feel forced into. This doesn’t mean there aren’t obligations and commitments in there! As you begin creating your weekly schedule, think about all the things you put your time towards every week.

Focus on the non-negotiable time slots that remain the same regardless of the other commitments and additional time spent elsewhere. Make a list to help you before you include each of these. This may include things like daycare drop off and pick up for your little one, work hours, weekly team meetings, church services, standing client appointments, and more. Look hard at what and when those events take place and make sure each commitment is something important and necessary to keep every week. Now that those things are accounted for, you have the space to include things in your weekly schedule you have control over.

CREATE A WEEKLY SCHEDULE AND EMBRACE THE FACT THAT IT WILL CHANGE

You know the old saying, we make plans, and God laughs?

Totally true, but it doesn’t mean He’s laughing every week!

Don’t let the fact that you know your plans can change keep you from making a plan to begin with! Building an intentional schedule, including things you need and want to make time for each week, makes such a difference.

By no means is it meant to be the permanent blueprint of which you plan your entire life, but embrace it as a guideline for each week to give you some structure and help you find a flow that really works for you. Don’t let your week run you! You are more in control of your time than you realize, even when it feels beyond challenging. Start creating your weekly schedule and jump into the rest of this year, feeling stronger and more productive than ever.

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How to Quit Your Job

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

YOU DID IT! You applied, stressed over your cover letter, worked hard on your resume, had an interview, and got the new job! Whether it’s a level up or a lateral move, congrats. You earned this. One last thing…

You have to quit your current job.

Cue dramatic music – and hopefully not panic. In case you are concerned about the confrontation that might occur – ‘cause let’s face it, it’s never fun to quit a job, even if it’s a toxic one – I’ve put together a roadmap for your resignation adventure.

CONFIRM BEFORE YOU QUIT

You have to first accept and say yes to your new job! This, of course, all assumes you want to quit – if you’re simply using this offer as a leverage point for you to get a better situation at your current job, that’s a completely different situation.

Assuming you DO want to move to this new offer, be sure you sign a contract or accept a written offer of employment before you quit.

Do not just depend on verbal! I can’t tell you how many times I see the same thing happen: someone gets offered a job, verbally. They are so pumped! And then, they get ghosted or the offer isn’t nearly as good as expected, so they don’t end up taking it. The bad part here?

They’ve already told their other job.

Bring on the awkward moments of trying to keep your current job or being unemployed.

Make sure all of your ducks are in a row before you quit. Look over information and confirm that YES, this is what you want to do and YES, you are ready to move on.

CHECK THE RULES

What does your current policy say about notice? Is it two weeks or something different? Take some time to check out your handbook or any other reference points about employment.

While generally speaking, notice is two weeks, if there is no policy in place, look at what others have done. Did they just disappear (hopefully not) or did they give a standard two weeks?

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TALK TO YOUR BOSS

Do not simply email, text, or carrier pigeon your boss your resignation letter. Set up a meeting to tell her in person. Usually, it’s best to schedule the meeting and tell her the news in the meeting – you can also mention it in the request. No matter what, be sure to meet in real life.

Before your meeting, prep. Don’t go in cold, practice saying things out loud. You can be as simple as “I was offered another opportunity that is a good move for my career. My last day will be [insert last day]. I appreciated my time and growth here.” Assertive and positive.

There’s no reason to mention where you’re going (they’ll ask, probably, but you don’t have to offer it!) or why you’re leaving (again, they might ask, you do not need to dig into your why at all).

Something else to consider: is there anything that would make you stay? I’ve seen some pretty magical Hail Mary plays in the last hours by companies when people resign. This is

why the first point is to decide you’re saying yes, say yes, and sign that yes – if there is something that might be said as a lure to get you to stay, know how you’ll respond.

A client of mine had this exact thing happen – he got a job he was excited about, set up a meeting to tell his boss and his boss offered him a considerable raise. Lucky for my client, we discussed what would make him stay, and he concluded that nothing would – he wanted a new field. He politely declined and is happy in his new job.

After your meeting, send a follow up with your last day – keep it in writing!

WRAP IT UP AND SAY BYE!

Do your best to wrap up tasks in your last few days. Don’t start fires, and do what you can to make it work for the next person.

Oh, and don’t forget to say goodbye.

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Get Out of Debt

BY MATT HENDRIX

Americans seem to have a great ability to get into debt. In 2019, household debt in the United States rose to almost 14 trillion dollars. Average credit card debt per family is $8,500. The average household with auto loans owes just under $28,000. Average student loan debt is $46,800, and average debt for those with a mortgage is $189,600.

Regardless of what stage of life you are in or what your needs are, if you’re like the average American, debt can be a real issue. Resolving your debt can allow you to start putting more away to secure your retirement, take the vacation you’ve been dreaming of, or just provide more financial breathing room for every day expenses. It’s going to take more to accomplish this than occasionally skipping out on your morning trip to the coffee shop or trying to buy things on sale. You need to develop a detailed plan for how to get out of debt and stick to it. Being mindful of your debt is a good thing, but awareness without concrete steps for resolution won’t be very helpful.

CREATE A BUDGET AND STICK TO IT

One important step towards reducing your debt is to create a budget and stick to it. Understanding where all of your money goes each month will allow you to very clearly see the areas you might be overspending. Cutting out unused subscription services and trips out to eat could start freeing up more money for you to put towards paying off your debts. It isn’t a quick fix, but taking this step will allow you to cut out bad habits and improve your financial picture.

CONSIDER REFINANCING

If you have multiple outstanding debts, one thing that may help is to refinance and consolidate your payments. It is well worth the effort to carve out space in your schedule to analyze whether the rate on your car or home loan is abnormally high. Or, perhaps the payment due date is especially inconvenient. Often it’s as easy as letting your lender know about your situation to get your loan restructured in a way that works for you. Don’t just stand by and assume that nothing can be done!

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KNOW WHICH DEBTS TO PRIORITIZE

Aside from assessing your budget and knowing where you can cut back, another key step is to evaluate which debts you need to pay off first. Debts that have the highest interest rates should be your primary focus so that you can save as much money as possible by eliminating them early on. This can also help to relieve the stress that comes with having debt, as such a plan will give you peace of mind and a sense of direction.

REACH OUT FOR HELP

An important thing to keep in mind while trying to reduce debt is that you may not be able to handle everything on your own, and that is okay! There are different tools available to you, and many of them are free. The objective with most is to put you on track towards reducing debt.

Financial advising, budgeting workshops, debt calculators and debt consolidation loans are all options that could help significantly to reduce your monthly payments. These tools are readily available to you, but you need to be proactive and utilize them! Cutting back and looking to pinch pennies is great, but sometimes it is going to take outside help to push you over the hump. Being knowledgeable about the resources available to you will help take the stress out of reducing debt.

One resource that we highly recommend is Piedmont Advantage’s new SMARTU. This is a web portal that allows you

to select relevant learning experiences that can help improve your specific financial situation. The modules are easy to navigate and will give you the knowledge you need to push forward and reduce your debt. Best of all, this experience is free for members and nonmembers alike. You can check out this great resource at pacu.com.

STAY THE COURSE

One of the most important things to remember while trying to get out of debt is that it can be a long process.

Don’t get frustrated with yourself when you’ve taken some of these steps and everything doesn’t clear up right away.

Develop good habits and keep chipping away at your debts bit by bit. Living within your means and being disciplined will help you become more secure financially. Don’t stress – you’ve got this!

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The Fascinating Life Behind These Paintings

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Every artist creates with intentions, cultivating an untold story behind the painting. Every brush stroke and each shade of color used to unfold the image often has a hidden message, a written word on the canvas. Whether they’re inspirational or charismatic, it’s time to slow down to read these invisible memoirs.

AMERICAN GOTHIC BY GRANT WOOD

In 1930, American artist Grant Wood, was ecstatic winning $300 for his oil painting, “American Gothic,” in the Art Institute of Chicago. A simple glance shows a portrait of a man, gripping a pitchfork, and a woman standing in front of a farmhouse. So, how did Wood become inspired?

the Gothic-style house along with two individuals that he imagined would perfectly fit its living style. While most people assume the man and woman are husband and wife, Wood intended to portray a daughter and father. For the daughter, Wood imagines his very own sister. For the father, Wood painted his dentist, who had a prominent role in his life as he had quite the sweet tooth.

A young artist encouraged Wood to take a casual drive with him during his visit to Eldon, Iowa.

On the drive, Wood’s attention was immediately captured by a farmhouse that held large, lonely windows (Dibble House). After Wood gained the consent of the homeowners, he began painting

Today, his painting is known to be the Mona Lisa of American art. It became a staple representation of the Regionalism movement and the Great Depression in America as it focused on authentic American subjects.

MONA LISA BY LEONARDO DA VINCI

There is no need for an introduction for this famous Renaissance painter with his iconic “Mona Lisa” displayed in the Louvre Museum and “Last Supper” in Santa Maria Delle Grazie. However, many people misunderstand the intentions behind the painting of the “Mona Lisa” by Leonardo Da Vinci. The beautiful lady with a mysterious smile is believed to be Lisa del Giocondo, the wife of a very wealthy Florentine merchant of the era. Da Vinci created the painting shortly after Mona Lisa

THE SCREAM

BY EDVARD MUNCH

In 1893, Edvard Munch painted “The Scream,” which today has been referenced in almost everything from Home Alone to countless parodies. From a glance, the painting inspires expressionistic colors that are swirling the sky, leading the viewer’s eye to the main subject: a mysterious person clasping their face as they appear to be screaming in anguish on a road. So, why is the main subject screaming?

and her husband had their second child. However, many critics dare to believe that the Mona Lisa is disguised as Da Vinci himself!

Although the truth behind Da Vinci’s intentions remains to be an unresolved mystery, the painting itself holds immense value.

Did you know that it once went missing for 28 months? In 1911, former Italian employee of the Louvre, Vincenzo Peruggia, locked himself in a storeroom on the night of August 20th. The following morning, Peruggia hid the painting under his coat as he walked home to store the treasured painting in a suitcase under his bed in a Parisian boarding house. It remained there for 28 months until Peruggia finally went back to his hometown on the banks of Lake Maggiore, Italy. Peruggia claimed that the painting historically belonged to Italy, not France. Later, he was placed on trial for being ‘mentally disabled’ and incarcerated for about eight months.

Scholars believe “The Scream” to be an honest glimpse into the troubling life of Edvard Munch, as he dealt with great anxiety. The painting was thoughtfully based on a personal experience that Munch detailed in a diary entry in 1892. He described his evening as a casual walk with two friends to admire the vivid sunset when he became overwhelmed with exhaustion and experienced a violent wave of anxiety. During Munch’s panic attack, he felt as if his two friends had left him alone and he was consumed in a chorus of screams.

Artists tend to express their memorable experiences and raw emotions through their paintings. Some are shoveling deep into their own thoughts or even opening a pictorial path for what they might imagine to be a better life. The question is not, “Is there a story?” The better question is, “How do I discover their story?”

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The Top Reasons to Choose

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Sixth Sense health and wellness center PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON, JEJ PHOTOS

Since 1997, Sixth Sense Health and Wellness Center has been a trusted resource for highquality massage and acupuncture therapies in the Triad. Owners Nikki and Nike Roach have carved out a name for themselves, and their clients appreciate their holistic-meetsmodern-medicine approach… a truly unique collaboration in their industry! But that’s far and away from the only reason to consider Sixth Sense Health and Wellness. Consider the Top Six reasons you may want to give them a try.

1. MASSAGE.

The art of massage is just that – an art form.

Those who enjoy the benefits of massage will agree…. As one of the primary specialties at Sixth Sense Health and Wellness, massage is a cornerstone of the business. The massage therapists at Sixth Sense Health and Wellness all have various specialties in the field. Still, they all focus on the ultimate goals of relieving tension, improving flexibility, and offering relaxation.

2. ACUPUNCTURE.

In addition to massage, acupuncture is another foundational service offered

by Sixth Sense Health and

Wellness. An ancient Chinese technique, acupuncture is used to treat and prevent a number of issues – both physical and mental. At Sixth Sense Health and Wellness, acupuncture treatments include general acupuncture, cupping, and gua sha (which helps removes waste from the body).

Acupuncture can treat issues from carpal tunnel syndrome to infertility, can help detox the body and even be used for facial rejuvenation.

Bonus! The Department of Veterans Affairs Benefits cover both Massage and Acupuncture therapies offered by Sixth Sense Health and Wellness for qualified veterans through the VA.

3. NUTRITIONAL CONSULTATIONS.

Because Sixth Sense Health and Wellness specialize in total wellness, they also offer nutritional consultations that cover weight loss, improved health, and detox. Nutrition services are customized based on the needs of the client with the overarching goal of stressing the importance of nutrition as the foundation for overall health and wellness.

4. 90+ YEARS OF EXPERIENCE IN HEALTH AND WELLNESS.

Between the years of experience by owners Nikki and Nike Roach, the collective expertise

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of the Sixth Sense Health and Wellness staff totals over 90 years. This is a team of professionals who have invested their careers and continue to invest in their education for the overall health and wellness of their clients. With their collective experience, they’ve seen it all and have the understanding and knowledge of how to treat unique cases.

5. THE SIXTH SENSE DIFFERENCE.

The Sixth Sense difference is multifaceted, and it starts with the diversity of services that are offered. The menu of services is a focused blend of various options, and with a team committed to meeting individual needs, it’s a recipe that provides perfect balance. But more than just a great menu of services, Sixth Sense Health and Wellness is unique for another reason – it’s a facility that combines holistic techniques with Western medicine. It’s an uncommon strategy in this industry, but one that works. The team is comfortable talking holistic approaches as well as reading and understanding medical reports. With Dr. Chelsea Wynter on staff, who is a licensed acupuncturist and naturopathic doctor, with a specialty in holistic care, Sixth Sense Health and Wellness offers their clients the best of both worlds.

6. OTHERS AGREE.

For 23 years, clients have raved over the extraordinary service provided by Sixth Sense Health and Wellness. One client who would otherwise suffer from sciatica has found relief from visits to Sixth Sense Health and Wellness. Another enjoyed the benefits of prenatal massage. A third client shared that after ten years of suffering from surgical trauma, she found relief at Sixth Sense Health and Wellness. Beyond testimonials that support the healing benefits, accolades include, “professional,” “warm,” “friendly,” courteous,” and “excellent.” Clearly, clients agree that Sixth Sense Health and Wellness is the place to come for those who need to relax and heal.

Sixth Sense Health and Wellness Center is located at 1012 Brookstown Ave in Winston-Salem. They are open weekdays from 9:00 am to 7:00 pm, and Saturdays from 10:00 am to 4:00 pm. To schedule an appointment, visit their website at 6ths.com or call them at 336.723.4400.

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Owners Nikki and Nike Roach have decades of experience in their industry and together, they love to travel. Nike is an Army veteran and as such, is especially passionate about care for veterans. They are both committed to building their business with a team of talented and dedicated staff who share their care and compassion for others. Meet the team!

Dr. Chelsea Wynter has been with Sixth Sense Health and Wellness for a year and a half. Dr. Wynter specializes in holistic medicine and acupuncture – specifically acupuncture for stress relief, sleep support, fertility, pain relief, and more. She enjoys modifying treatments based on the individual needs of the client, as well as continually learning new ways to treat the body.

In her spare time, Dr. Wynter enjoys Zumba and dancing. She loves to be outdoors, enjoys live music, and playing with her almost year-old daughter.

For nine years, Jermaine Delgado has served Sixth Sense Health and Wellness in administration and operations. He enjoys learning and sharing new things, as well as spending time with the clients. In his spare time, Jermaine loves to read, travel, and cook.

For six years, Marilyn Samuels has been a part of the Sixth Sense Health and Wellness team, specializing in trigger point/ sports massage. Marilyn loves the atmosphere and team support of Sixth Sense Health and Wellness. She enjoys international travel, meeting people from other cultures, singing, and studying different massage techniques.

Yolanda D. Dickerson’s tenure with Sixth Sense Health and Wellness is just a little less than a year, but she’s brought her specialty of Swedish massage to the business. She is Reiki I and II certified, as well as EFT certified. Yolanda is also a yoga and meditation instructor and specializes in spiritual coaching.

She is Nurturing the Mother certified as well. Yolanda loves working with her clients and appreciates their trust in her as she facilitates the art of healing. In her free time, Yolanda enjoys reading, writing, travel, urban gardening, and candle making.

Jewell Jones has been a massage therapist with Sixth Sense Health and Wellness for four years. Her specialty is clinical massage assessments and treatment plans, Reiki energy healing, and women’s issues. She loves to educate her clients on the importance of self-care, wellness, and quiet time. In her spare time, Jewell loves working with children, serving the community, carpentry, crafts, travel, and cooking.

Meeka Perez has worked in the front office of Sixth Sense Health and Wellness for four years. She also serves as the Veterans Billing Specialist. Meeka loves working at Sixth Sense and enjoys getting to know the clients and seeing the positive effect that massage has on improving their lives. Meeka is excited for her future role at Sixth Sense Health and Wellness because she’s currently a student at Forsyth Tech Community College, working to become a licensed massage therapist. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her family, watching movies, and relaxing.

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How to Stop People-Pleasing

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

People-pleasing isn’t exclusively a woman’s issue… so then, why are so many women people-pleasers?

You know what I’m talking about – worrying about what other people think and the aversion to displeasing someone or looking difficult or highmaintenance? It’s all around us: if we disagree, people can see us as hard to work with. The pressure of “having it all” and niceness, and with that, likeability, often leads to women making choices that might not align with their beliefs, desires, and choices.

This can be as simple as what to eat for dinner and what to do on the weekend to life choices – and it doesn’t only happen in romantic relationships!

If you apologize often, feel responsible for how others feel (we’re all in charge of our own emotions!), pretend to agree with everyone and cannot say no – you’re a people-pleaser. And if you’re reading this, you might be thinking about how to stop people-pleasing. Try one (or many!) of these four tips and start thinking of yourself:

UNDERSTAND YOU HAVE A CHOICE AND PRIORITIES

If someone asks you for something, you do not have to say yes.

Read that again, slowly, out loud.

You can say yes, which is probably what you’ve been saying…and you can say no. Before you answer – or say something just to say something, take a step back and think about your values and priorities. If you

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understand where you stand on things, and give yourself time to think about it (stalling is a great tactic here!) you can see if you’re making a choice out of obligation or intention – and aim for intentional choices.

By saying no without offering a paragraph of solutions, you’re being assertive. When you offer excuses, you allow the other person to dig in and possibly manipulate your excuses into getting you to help them.

SET A BOUNDARY

This isn’t to say that people try to manipulate people-pleasers. Sure, there are some folks out there trying to manipulate everyone, and people-pleasers are easier. That being said, the moment you start to say no when you’ve always said yes is going to be a little weird for everyone involved.

My favorite phrase from my therapist: Boundaries aren’t meant to feel good, they are meant to keep you safe.

By setting a boundary even if you say yes, you’re starting to chip away at the idea of you being taken advantage of. A boundary can be something like, “I can only help you until 4 pm” or “I’m only available on Tuesday” or it can be something like “I can only help you in this way.” By limiting your help, you’re saving some of the energy – and choice – for you.

NO IS A SENTENCE.

This might be the hardest of all – “No” is a complete sentence. The first time you say no, you’re going to feel strange, awkward and nervous. And the next time you say no, you’re going to feel strange, awkward, and nervous, but less so. The more you say it, the easier it’s going to get.

DON’T APOLOGIZE

If you’re a people-pleaser, you probably apologize a lot.

This isn’t because you’re wrong all the time, or constantly hurting people – it’s because you think you are responsible for other’s feelings.

Surprise! You’re not.

A great way to stop apologizing? Think about what you are apologizing for – are you responsible for the situation or do you think you’re responsible? Where are the facts?

Assess the situation and see if you need to be apologizing, or you’re just doing it because you don’t know what else to say.

People-pleasing is a tough habit to break: start small and be sure to reward yourself for those little victories. And remember, you’re doing this for yourself, not for anyone else.

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BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN Are you in the market for a mentor?

Maybe you’re feeling trapped or stuck in your career and need some nudges forward, or you’re looking for a change.

Mentors can be incredibly helpful for transition and growth, but how do you find a mentor? And when you find one, what do you do to help the relationship grow and thrive in a way that isn’t simply taking advantage of another person?

Here are some quick questions to ask yourself before tapping into a mentor and things to do after you’ve identified the person you’re looking to chat with.

COACH OR MENTOR?

This one is pretty simple – are you looking to get one thing (or a finite amount of things) done in a fairly quick amount of time, or do you want a longterm relationship with someone? Mentors offer their experience to someone with less experience; coaches will develop specific skills and goals in a finite time.

Another big difference? Mentors are generally not compensated. If you’re looking for someone to help you with a finite thing, and they do this for a living, you’re looking for a coach, and they will charge you, and you should pay for that service. This doesn’t make a coach better than a mentor; they are simply different.

KNOW WHAT YOU’RE LOOKING FOR BEFORE YOU ASK

As someone who has asked and been asked, please – know what you want before you reach out. Here’s a recent interaction:

Person: Hi! I would like to be mentored by you.

Me: Oh ok! What are some of your goals?

Person: …

Me: Totally good, are you looking for help in a certain area?

Person: …I just want to be mentored by you.

Me: I just want to know what you’re looking to focus on to see if we’re a good fit. (Unsaid: because I’m really busy and I want to help you. I want to be sure I can help!)

Person: Oh, well – for everything.

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This is frustrating! It’s like telling someone that you want to pick their brain. You don’t need to know all the things – but have an idea!

ASK IN AN EMAIL TO SET UP A CALL

Do not just call or text someone. Please. This is a professional transaction, keep it as such!

Send an email to ask for a time to set up a call. Very simple, and often overlooked! This indicates that you also respect their schedule and want them to help pick a time that works for both of you!

KEEP THE MEETING TIME FINITE

It is really easy to let meetings go very, very long. Keep it set and keep it respectful. If you set an end time, stick to it. Yes, you’re going to have one more thing every time – this person has more experience than you, and it’s why you asked them to mentor you in the first place!

BE RESPECTFUL OF THE TIME AND ASKS Since you’re going to be amazingly respectful on time during meetings, you can schedule a follow-up meeting – but not the next day.

Give some breathing time between meetings and ask your new mentor what seems like a good frequency. I find often that once a month or every other month is usually good for most people – let your mentor decide this one, and if they don’t have an opinion, aim for once a month unless it seems like too much.

SEND A THANK YOU After your meetings, send a thank you. You do not have to throw a parade, spend a million dollars on a gift or anything like that – you do need to thank them for their time.

Even a simple email is effective – and better than nothing.

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BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Joshua Becker, a proponent of minimalism and intentional living, has a challenge for those of us who grapple with having too much stuff.

He says, “The first step in crafting the life you want is to get rid of everything you don’t.” If you are anything like me, my first reaction is, “Well, easier said than done when it feels like a perpetual tugof-war of To Keep or Not to Keep.”

And yet, if I am perfectly honest with myself, I recognize that every time I’ve moved on…from a life, or a lifestyle, a house, or an office, a piece of clothing or a wardrobe, I feel better.

The question at the heart of this drama is why we cling to things, objects, and possessions that are no longer relevant to our here and now. If you tend to beat yourself up about your clinginess, please don’t!

It turns out that our tendency to create attachments to things starts at birth. Babies have screaming fits when a binky is replaced; toddlers prefer favorite objects over brand new replicas, and adolescents identify with all manner of things that mark their transition into early adulthood. Throughout our lives, we continue to identify with material things that signify our status, social class, and of course, our memories. It catches up with us and we have a hard time letting go.

Here’s why: It’s emotional: “My Great Aunt Betty gave me this set; I couldn’t possibly let it go.” Or, “I wore this on my honeymoon 34 years ago.”

It’s a guilt trigger: “I paid good money for this. There’s no way I’m trashing it.”

It’s a trap labeled “someday”: “I might need this someday.

Who knows?”

Our tendency to cling is normal, and so is our knee-jerk response to persist in rationalizing why we won’t let go. If that’s where you find yourself, take a deep breath and allow yourself to consider the price you pay for getting stuck with all of that stuff. You may find that the more you have, the more you have to store, clean, and keep track of. The more you have, the less focused you are on the things

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that work in the present, unfettered by yesterday’s memories, useless guilt, or tomorrow’s promises. By managing the obsolete, you get to focus on what brings you joy and works for your life right now. You also reduce that nagging sense of overwhelm and put yourself back in control. It’s not too big a stretch to say that letting go is the gateway to crafting the life you want, starting with your material stuff.

Whether it’s clearing out the attic, excavating your closet, or simply getting a handle on all of that costume jewelry, it’s a good idea to create a set of workable criteria to help you get started. For example: If there’s an emotional reason that’s holding you back, you might designate a single box to contain those heartfelt treasures. Instead of keeping all of Great Aunt Betty’s china, which, to be honest, you would never have picked for yourself and don’t intend to use, then keep the vase or a single serving platter that complements what you do use. Take a photo of the rest and bless it on its journey forward via consignment, a thrift shop, a gift to a grateful friend.

If it’s guilt that keeps you stuck, remember that you made the best choice at the time. No one ever knows for sure how useful or useless a purchase may end up being. Most of the time, you make a great choice, right? Focus on that and own the not-so-perfect choices.

Then, consider how your useless or imperfect- for- you item could be useful or perfect for someone else.

Sell, donate, or gift…and remember how good that makes you feel.

If it’s the “someday” lure that keeps you trapped, knock yourself on the head ever-so-lightly and remind yourself that this logic suggests that everything in the universe might just, possibly, maybe, someday be useful. Sure, be judicious, but 90% of what falls into this category is not likely to prove useful in the future. Give it a new purpose in the here and now by donating, selling, or gifting.

I’m with Joshua. Crafting the life I want begins with getting rid of what I don’t want.

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Kick Off Your Spring with the Celtic Sessions Benefit Concert

BY TARYN JEREZ

If you are looking for the perfect way to kick off your spring season, we have an event that just might do the trick!

You’re invited to mark your calendar for Friday, March 20th, at 7:00 pm for a family-friendly concert that benefits the Clemmons Food Pantry featuring local musical talent, Celtic Sessions! The Concert will be held in the Curlin Center at Holy Family Catholic Church on 4820 Kinnamon Road in WinstonSalem, and will bring the community together for a beautiful evening of entertainment.

Celtic Sessions are a local three-piece folk band with unique performances of ancient folk music, storytelling, and songwriting.

Band members Naomi Orr, Julian Charles, and RG Absher create an interesting blend of woodwind and strings with their original songwriting and arrangements, all influenced by traditional Celtic music.

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find talent that spans over multiple instruments, including guitar, bodhran, harmonica, fiddle, banjo, hammereddulcimer, silver flute, Irish flute, pennywhistle, Celtic harp, and other traditional folk instruments. “These are the songs of our ancestors. When we hear them, something magical begins to stir in our hearts, of ages past. Born again in the room.” The two-hour event will feature fan favorites as well as some newer stylings from the band and share a moment with a spokesperson from the Clemmons Food Pantry who will provide insight into the pantry’s programs and community needs.

The masterminds behind this incredible giveback concert event are members of the St. Elizabeth Ann Seton guild through the Holy Family Catholic Church. The guild was founded in 1981 and, over the near forty years of its existence, has been involved in countless outreach programs and events to help the community where it’s needed most. It’s no surprise that the concert benefits one of their recurring outreach organizations, the Clemmons Food Pantry, a partner agency of Second Harvest Food Bank and a member of Feeding America.

If you are unfamiliar with the Clemmons Food Pantry located on Old Glory Road in Clemmons, it is a local non-profit organization that was founded in 2004, providing supplemental groceries to residents of Forsyth County who are in need. They are proud to be one of the largest food pantries in our region and make an impact on over 800 local households per month. With over 16%

of Forsyth County residents suffering from food insecurity, and nearly 22% of its children unsure of where their next meal will come from, you can imagine how important the work that they are doing really is. According to their website, “last year, over 480,000 pounds of food were distributed to needy individuals and families by the Pantry.”

We hope you come out this month to join us and enjoy the Celtic Sessions.

Tickets are only $20, with half of each ticket going straight to the Clemmons Food Pantry to help make an impact.

The tickets for this event are limited, so don’t miss your opportunity to come out for an incredible concert that lets you give back and make a difference in your community. Tickets are on sale now on Eventbrite.com through the event date with any remaining seats available for sale at the door the night of the show.

If you have further questions about the upcoming Celtic Sessions benefit concert or on ways you can get involved with the Clemmons Food Pantry, please reach out to Ellen Tommasi at ellentommasi@yahoo.com or check out clemmonsfoodpantry.org. ***ONLINE FORSYTH MAGS LINK FOR TICKETS: eventbrite.com/e/ celtic-sessions-benefit-concertfor-clemmoms-food-pantrytickets-91835982897

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“How are those leggings I gave you for your birthday working out?

I know it’s the brand you love.”

“They’re awesome, and they’ll really look great with a few of my longer sweaters.”

“Wait. You mean you haven’t worn them yet? I thought you loved them.”

“I do.”

The China & So Forth

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

“Please don’t tell me you’re saving them for good…”

My sister knows me. The truth is that the mere sight of a few dangling tags brings me joy, a sense of excitement, and anticipation. These tags mark my “on reserve” items, the things I cherish, like the leggings… and have yet to wear. Honestly, they give me a head rush.

You may not be into clothes as much as I am. But just as likely, there is something else that you keep “on reserve,” in anticipation of the right time, the right moment, the right place.

Today I restrict the number of “on reserve” items in my closet and in my life. That intentionality emerged from an unexpected eureka moment that’s embedded in a personal story.

My mother-in-law, Margaret, lived with us for eight years until she moved into a nursing home for her final days. I grew to honor, respect, and love this woman in a way that I could never have imagined. After the funeral, my husband, her only child, couldn’t fathom the idea of “going through Margaret’s life” by clearing out the many things she had brought with her from Illinois when she came to live with us in Connecticut. In true organizer fashion, I took on the task.

Today, Margaret might be labeled a hoarder. Born in a log cabin in Wisconsin, Margaret lived through the Great Depression and eventually became a bookkeeper and a beautician – all with an eighth-grade education. When she suddenly found herself a widow, she somehow managed to put her only son through college and graduate school. At five feet tall, Margaret was a quiet force to be reckoned with. Her life experience taught her to “waste not, want not,” and so she lived, gathered, and accumulated. Amongst the salvaged 1920s wrapping

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paper, the decades-old bill receipts, and the miscellany of strings, pins, and bra straps that reflected her frugality and pragmatism, I discovered something else: her treasure trove of good.

Finally, the booty! My hands caressed the beautiful, monogrammed linens from her wedding shower, some seventy years past. And there was of course the set of china she had saved and scrimped for, carefully packed in the basement. We brought it out once or twice at Christmas when our scattered family managed to convene at our house. Otherwise, it sat in anticipation, in dust-covered crates, its beauty lost to us.

I remember grieving over all of the good stuff sitting in wait. And then it hit me: In wait for what?

Most of us have things that we keep on perpetual “reserve.”

We think that today is not worthy of the good stuff. Or, we have a scarcity mindset, reasoning that if we use it and it becomes “imperfect,” we may not be able to replace it. These ideas become habits of thought and action that are hard to break. In so many ways, it makes no sense. We deprive ourselves on the one hand and burden ourselves with things to store and lug along with us on the other.

When I began to challenge myself by getting my good on at every opportunity, I discovered that I: • Elevate my everyday by bringing more beauty into my world • Spend less money on mediocre “good enoughs” (a pleasant surprise!)

• Embrace the truth that tomorrow is not promised • Demonstrate that I am worthy of the best that I have When I falter, I remind myself of these truths and resolve that every day I am here – alert, alive, breathing–is a day to get my good on. Here’s to your linens, Margaret, and your china! A stain here, a chip there? Now I can relax and enjoy them all the more.

Will those tags still dangle in my closet? Well, yeah… but instead of ten, there are merely two.

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Built by the Community for the Community Trellis Supportive Care began as a grassroots organization over 40 years ago by local pioneers of the hospice movement. They were inspired to improve the quality of life for patients facing advanced illness, and their families. They believed in a team approach to high quality, compassionate care provided at home – wherever the patient calls home.

This group, affectionately known as the “Back Porch Gang,” started meeting in 1977 on the back porch of Rev. George Bowman’s home.

Before long, support came in from local foundations and medical professionals; and Hospice of Winston-Salem/Forsyth County was established, providing care to the first hospice patient in NC in 1979.

That inspiration lives on as teams of supportive care professionals find meaning and purpose in bringing comfort and peace of mind to the patients and families being cared for today.

DEEP ROOTS AND COMMUNITY PARTNERSHIPS STRENGTHEN THE MISSION

Grateful for the trust from the medical community, the long-term care community, and the many businesses and donors who believe in the mission, this community organization has grown and evolved over its forty-plus years.

NOT ALL HOSPICES ARE ALIKE

As a nonprofit, Trellis Supportive Care (formerly Hospice & Palliative CareCenter) places one hundred percent of its resources into serving the community. With partnerships and ongoing support, Trellis Supportive Care offers so much more than traditional hospice care. In the 13 counties it serves, some of the offerings may surprise you.

• Grief Counseling – for anyone in the community facing the challenges of losing a loved one.

• Complementary Therapies – for patients who can benefit from massage or music therapy.

• Advance Care Planning – open to all people to discuss and document their wishes for future care, including naming who you would want to make healthcare decisions if you were unable.

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• Veteran Care & Outreach – a very specialized approach to caring for veteran patients. An unappalled outreach effort, including a host of Veteran Coffees throughout the Piedmont Triad, brings untold numbers of veterans together for fellowship and access to resources.

• Collaborations with hospitals & long-termcare facilities – working together to create communities where people have completed advance care plans, and where partnerships enhance the care of hospice and palliative care patients.

• Volunteerism – training and utilizing the compassion and talents of over 400 volunteers.

• The Kate B. Reynolds Hospice Home – a “home away from home” offered to hospice patients and families when around-the-clock care is needed for patients’ quality of life.

• A promise of care – Access to care for all who need it is a commitment from Trellis Supportive Care. No one is ever turned away because they do not have Medicare, Medicaid, or private insurance.

EMBRACING THE PIEDMONT/ TRIAD

From humble beginnings in donated space at Forsyth Memorial Hospital (as it was known in 1977) to serving 13 counties from offices spread throughout the region, Trellis Supportive Care serves over 425 patients and their families every day. As a nonprofit organization, Trellis has treasured the strong support from the communities it serves for over 40 years, and remains committed to being an independent, responsive organization that thrives on going above and beyond.

CALLS ARE ENCOURAGED

Far too many hospice patients and families only wish they had hospice care sooner.

That is one reason the supportive care team encourages families to call with questions, or simply to learn more. Understanding how to navigate serious illness is overwhelming, and this organization wants to help provide guidance and peace of mind.

To learn more and get help, call Trellis Supportive Care at 336-768-3972, or visit TrellisSupport.org

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Car Maintenance Tasks

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

From an operator’s perspective, the inner working of a vehicle is inconsequential just as long as the ignition switch activates the battery’s voltage and comes to life! Dependability is the number one factor of what defines a great car. Beyond the cargo space, ample legroom and a few other factors, which may include road trips and your four-legged friend, the investment in your vehicle is worth it!

KEEPING A WRITTEN RECORD

A small spiral notebook may be the ideal system to record the date associated with problems, repairs or replacements made to your car.

The system should accommodate your needs. Consider placing it in the console or glove box for ease of access! Just think, in the prospect of needing new tires or considering a trade for a new model, you have a precise reference tool to offer information. Another great tool to add in reminders is the calendar app on your phone.

OIL CHANGES

Non-synthetic oil created a rule of thumb, which suggested oil changes occurred every 3,000 miles; however, most vehicles today use synthetic extending the need to 5,000 to 10,000 miles. For the best performance and to save money, it is wise to know the mileage between oil changes. Check your owner’s manual to learn your vehicle’s requirements.

Tip: Depending on your oil change mileage, keep in mind tires require rotation every 6,000 to 8,000 miles.

TIRES

With a quarter in hand, place the coin into the tread groove with George Washington’s head facing upside down. The goal is for the tread to reach Washington’s head. A clear reading of the word liberty indicates a need for new tires!

EARLY WARNING REPORTING NOTICES

Google the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration to determine whether the manufacturer of your vehicle issued a recall.

The good news is all NHTSA repairs are the dealership’s responsibility.

LOOK UNDER THE HOOD

Every driver can be responsible for three areas under the hood.

1. Lights: As a means of safety, check monthly to ensure all exterior lights properly work. Drivers should remain aware of interior lights, too. Make sure they remain off.

2. Oil: Despite following the rules of scheduling oil changes, check your oil levels monthly. It takes just a minute to remove and clean the dipstick, insert and remove to read the results. Two lines will indicate a “low” and “full” level. If oil levels are low, top off immediately to keep your engine running smoothly. Secondly, take notice of a burnt fuel smell. Start looking at the ground for either fuel or oil leaks. If dirt is in the oil, you may need an immediate oil change.

3. Coolant: Usually located on the left side, look for a large plastic container marked “coolant.” Check the “full” line. If fluids are low, buy a “pre-mix” container along with a funnel to prevent splashes.

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4. Air Filter: A clogged air filter containing dust, dirt and other contaminants can negatively impact your engine. Usually, after 15,000 to 20,000 miles, it is wise to lift the box near the engine marked “air filter” to assess its cleanliness. Check out yours today!

5. Windshield Wiper Fluid: Having a clear view outside your window has its appeal, especially during pollen season. The tank has a label and a line preventing an overflow.

BATTERY

How long ago did you buy a battery? Despite a warranty measured by time and not mileage, most barriers last four to five years, extending to roughly 60,000 miles. There are viable ways to extend its life. For instance, short distances prevent your car’s battery from fully charging; therefore, consider ways to drive your vehicle for extended periods. It may require combining numerous errands.

• Ensure the terminals are free from corrosion. With a toothbrush dipped in equal parts of baking soda and water, scrub the terminals. Use a spray bottle to rinse and clean cloth to dry. The act will take just a minute with a significant effect.

• By using a multimeter, test your battery’s output voltage levels. The effort can ensure you take responsibility to install a new battery before it dies.

FOLLOW MAINTENANCE CHECKS

While you can take personal care of your vehicle to ensure its lifespan, consider printing out a copy of the basic car maintenance schedule. You’ll save money while knowing when to request professional assistance!

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Making Dollars, Making $ense

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BY MIKE MCGILVARY, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

As our firm continues to build on the momentum from the capital markets in 2020, we are continuing to meet with more and more people that reside in our wonderful community. We are privileged to have been a part of this community for many years, and we look forward to many great years ahead!

During our review/goal planning sessions with clients and potential clients, especially in the discovery process, we focus on what questions and concerns people have. What we have found is that many people have misconceptions about working with a Financial Advisor and planning for the future. Below are a few I would like to highlight:

1.) “All of my money is tied up in my retirement plan at work, I don’t need to worry about having a Financial Advisor right now.”

We run across this often, as the majority of working professionals have most of their long-term investable assets in their 401(k)/403(b) plan at work; however, we believe working with a Financial Advisor can add value to this scenario. What we have discovered is that many of the retirement plans offered by several local employers in the triad have flexibility inside of them for their employees.

Some offer After-Tax and/ or Roth contribution options, while others offer a company stock fund. It is important to review your 401(k) plan at work to make sure your holdings match your risk tolerance and that you are not overweight in one investment/investment option. A good financial team can help break down what you own and make sure what you are invested in makes sense for you and your goals.

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2.) “I have 20 years before I am 65, no need to plan just yet.”

It is true that if you are 20 years out from retirement, you still have time on your side. However, in our office, this is what we consider a critical point in your retirement horizon.

As you approach your mid-40s, you typically are entering the higher income earning years of your career, and this is where you and your family may have more discretionary income in your monthly cash flow. It can be very important to pay down debt, invest outside of your retirement plan at work, or a combination of the two during this time in your life. We utilize a planning software that is, in our opinion, very client-friendly and can help more clearly articulate what could benefit your financial future the most.

This is also a time where you may have a future goal, possibly a wedding or dream vacation that you would like to plan for, and the earlier we can incorporate this into your plan, the more likely we are to be able to help make it happen.

3.) “Social Security? I am just going to take it as early as possible.”

At Marzano Capital Group, we feel that Social Security should be modeled in financial planning software. We make it a point to drill down into this topic while also leveraging outside professional resources who are well versed in this field to help alleviate some of the confusion. We work hard for our clients, and we feel we have built a network of professionals who can offer advice that is client-centric and based on individual needs/goals.

It is important to plan your claiming strategy on how best to claim your benefits, and we highly recommend consulting with a professional.

As stated earlier, we are very fortunate to be a part of this wonderful community, and we are excited to continue meeting more people in the area. As a team, we feel that we can add value to your specific financial situation! Please reach out to our office if you feel we can help you in any way or have any questions about our process.

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11th Annual

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Growing up in a small town, we had a few events that brought out the entire community. From delicious food to seeing my friends and neighbors, it was one of those really exciting days where we could all just hang out together and remember that beyond our busy day-to-day, we were part of a larger community.

Imagine how excited I was to find out about Clemmons Community Day, back for the eleventh year on Saturday, May 2nd. Partnering again with Chamber member Jerry Long Family YMCA, this free and rain-or-shine communitywide event offers a stage for local businesses to feature their products and services to residents and visitors. Last year over 100 vendors showed off their best to 5,000+ community members.

Created in 2009 by local real estate expert Jody Peske and former Clemmons mayor John Bost to unite neighbors, friends, and local business owners, every year seeks to top the last, and this year is no exception. While new adventures come each year, time-honored traditions stand tall and sometimes become a bit deeper. For example, Community Day begins with the national anthem, and this year, a cancer survivor will be singing the patriotic song.

“What makes Clemmons Community Day successful year after year is the heart that goes into it – the volunteers, the community, the kids, the survivors,” said Ditra Miller, Executive Director of the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber of Commerce. “It’s what makes our community strong, and it’s what makes the businesses in our community, the members of the Lewisville-Clemmons Chamber, want to give back, build, and grow here.”

In addition to the anthem, Community Day is doubling the entertainment for kids at this fun for all ages event: think rock wall, trackless train, super slide, double bounce houses and, according to Miller, a special surprise. “This will be the first year we will have a limo on-site… not just any limo either. It’s a Mouse Limo!” If you’re scratching your head, be sure to look up Truly Nolen Pest Control & Termites Mouse Limo to catch a glimpse of the incredible extended VW Bug “Limo” – or better yet, come out to enjoy it, as well as face painting, a ladder firetruck, gem mining, music and more fun for all ages adventures.

Aside from the family-fun entertainment, local businesses will be on hand to connect with community members – and if you’re a local business thinking, “Wow! What a great

opportunity!” you still have time to register and participate by visiting the chamber website – but act fast! Early bird registration ends March 31, and your last chance to register is noon on Monday, April 20th.

While the event is free, visitors are encouraged to bring a donation for the Clemmons Food Pantry. Clemmons Food Pantry always accepts canned and boxed food, but they are also in need of adult hygiene items.

Mark your calendar and get your crew together to make plans to attend Clemmons Community Day on May 2nd! I’ll be hanging by the food vendors, reliving the community vibe from my youth, and getting to know my neighbors – just like you!

11th Annual Clemmons Community Day | Saturday, May 2, 2020 | 10 am – 2 pm | Jerry Long Family YMCA, 1150 S. Peace Haven Road, Clemmons | Additional parking available at Novant Health Clemmons Medical Center.

For more information and to register a booth or volunteer, visit ClemmonsCommunityDay.com or call Executive Director Ditra Miller at 336.970.5100.

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Color Makes a Difference

“Each little flower that opens, each little bird that sings, God made their glowing colors, and made their tiny wings.

All things bright and beautiful, all creatures great and small, all things wise and wonderful; the Lord God made them all.” ~ Cecil F. Alexander

With the month of March comes the promise of spring. Soon we will have the opportunity to watch color unfold in this part of North Carolina, and that makes me happy! The many colors of the flowers and trees, even the green grass, bring new life to the world. Ever notice all the different shades of green in the new growth in the spring? I am fascinated with all the shades. Many times when doing a decorating project, I stress about using different shades of green together, but when I look at all the greens, I see God use in nature, they all go together.

I love color and live with quite a lot of it in my home.

One of my favorite expressions is, “Life is too short to live with beige and white.” Whether you are aware of its effect on you or not, color plays a vital role in how you live…..even how you dress. Color can influence your thinking, your feelings, and your actions. It can irritate or calm your spirits, raise your blood pressure, and even make you hungry!

Probably most of you remember your first experiences…..and experiments with color. It was the first time you came into contact with a box of crayons.

There are many color choices in a box of crayons. “We can learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors. But they all have to learn to live in the same box.” (Robert Fulghum) Similarly, our color choices have to live together in the same house.

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Paint is the easiest, quickest, and most economical way to transform a room. If you are on a budget, yet want to make a noticeable improvement to a room, pull out the paintbrush. Maybe you are thinking of putting your house on the market to sell. The smell of a fresh coat of paint will create a “WOW, this house is new!” signal to potential buyers.

Choosing a paint color or coordinating fabrics can be perplexing. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. It will save you time and dollars in the end.

First, decorate your home with the colors you and your family love.

Second, remember these helpful tips: • To make a space feel cooler and peaceful, use cool colors such as blues, greens, and violets.

• To make a space feel warmer, use warm colors such as reds, oranges, or yellows.

• If your family tends to overeat, try painting the kitchen and dining room blue. Cool colors tend to diminish appetites.

• Coral, soft teal, sage, or even monochromatic tone-on-tone color palette can make you feel calm and serene.

• To have a common thread woven room by room throughout your home, chose a favorite color and use a touch of it in every room.

• Try vibrant colors like reds and yellows in rooms where people are very social, such as dining rooms and kitchens.

Need inspiration for a color palette to use in your home? Check out design-seeds.com, and of course, Pinterest is a great app.

Choosing the right color for your home is probably the hardest decorating decision you have to make, but the use of color is an easy and inexpensive way to bring peace and harmony to your home.

I am honored that you read my column each month. It is my pleasure to share decorating ideas to help you create a beautiful place where your family can come to be loved, refreshed, and encouraged. Need help with making decorating decisions for your home? Give ReDESIGNS by Ava a call.

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How Safe is Your Rideshare?

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

When 21- year-old, University of South Carolina student Samantha Josephson entered a black Chevy Impala that fateful March night, she expected her Uber to take her home, safe and sound. The next day, Josephson’s battered body was discovered by turkey hunters in a wooded area sixty miles away. Why did this senseless tragedy happen? Josephson had sadly mistaken the car to be her Uber ride. Once inside, Josephson was unable to get out. The driver, Nathaniel D. Rowland, employed the child-safety locks—making it impossible for her to get out from inside.

News of her death has devastated the community and put the entire nation on alert. The tragic death of Samantha is sadly only one of several incidents involving common rideshare companies like Uber and Lyft. According to the public awareness campaign, “Who’s Driving You?” there have been “52 deaths, 102 assaults, 395 alleged sexual assaults, 22 alleged kidnappings, and 26 felons driving behind the wheel” since the campaign first began tallying incidents from around the world in 2013.

The initiative, led by the Taxicab, Limousine & Paratransit Association (TLPA), urges the public to take steps in order to maintain their own safety before entering these vehicles. Without doing so, they urge that everyone is in danger. “Understanding the methods by which Uber and Lyft undercut for-hire vehicle safety—via inadequate insurance, background checks, and more—requires knowledge of the for-hire transportation industry,” the campaign urges. “Who’s Driving You?’ explains the safety components Uber and Lyft are evading and why they are vital for the wellbeing of passengers and communities.

While this campaign may shed a negative light on such rideshare companies, this is not an attempt to have the public stop using their services. It is only urging

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all to do more research into who exactly is driving the car they are getting into. What are the exact steps one needs to take in order to ensure that their own ride is safe?

Read on for a few simple yet pertinent steps to help all maintain safety once on the road.

TIP # 1: ASK THE DRIVER WHAT YOUR NAME IS.

Asking a simple question — “What’s my name?” —can greatly help keep riders safe. This is the question the new public safety campaign that followed the death of Samantha Josephson is asking people to do before they get into a rideshare car.

While this is such a simple question, it is one that can easily prove whether a driver is legitimate.

TIP #2: CHECK THE LICENSE PLATE, MAKE, AND MODEL OF THE CAR.

The car that arrives to pick one up must be the same as the car listed within the rideshare app. Most apps, like Uber and Lyft, provide very detailed information about the car’s make, model, color, etc.

These apps also include a picture and brief history about the driver so that you can compare it.

TIP #3: DON’T JUST SIT ANYWHERE.

A good spot to sit is in the backseat, passenger side. This way, you can have

full view of the driver, and what they are doing. Another great spot is to sit in the passenger side seat, if you feel comfortable sitting there, this gives the rider a great advantage to see what the driver’s GPS is telling him, and also avoids the risk of sitting in a seat that has a child protection lock utilized.

TIP #4: CHOOSE A SAFE, PUBLIC LOCATION FOR PICK UP AND DROP OFF.

If you are getting picked up outside of a bar, ask the driver to pull up to the front, or the side of the bar, where people are still nearby. As far as drop off goes, it is not wise to give a stranger your home address. If it is early and the weather is nice, consider having the driver drop you off a block away.

TIP #5: SHARE YOUR TRAVEL INFORMATION WITH CLOSE FRIENDS/ FAMILY.

Communicating your travel route is a smart and easy way to ensure a safe ride. Share your trip details with a friend, relative, or a group through the sharing option available on most of the rideshare apps.

By adding your destination and sharing through a text, others can watch your ride in real-time. They can see you traveling on their own map of your route. The “Trusted Contacts” feature allows you to select up to five contacts to share your whereabouts for every ride.

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SHEET MULCH YOUR WAY TO A GORGEOUS YARD

BY AMY DANIELS

A lush green lawn is the standard for American homescapes. While a grassy yard is nice in theory, it really serves very little practical purpose and can be expensive, labor-intensive, and downright toxic to maintain. Mowing equipment, gasoline, fertilizer, and herbicides for weeds aren’t cheap and contribute to air and water pollution while disrupting local ecosystems.

Planting native trees, shrubs, flowers, and groundcovers can enhance the beauty of your yard, provide year-round interest, save you money on maintenance costs, and provide a habitat for birds, pollinators, and other beneficial insects.

This does not mean that all of the grass has got to go—reducing the amount of grass by planting large garden beds also reduces costs and chemicals and can be done without digging.

SHEET MULCHING

Sheet mulching allows you to smother large sections of grass while enriching the soil. Laying down a thick, overlapping layer of paper or cardboard blocks sunlight and traps moisture, effectively killing the underlying grass and leaving it to rot in place right down to its roots.

As the paper and cardboard decompose, earthworms and burrowing insects will migrate to your sheet mulching site. Their activities serve to aerate and enrich the soil, making your future use of fertilizers much less necessary.

A layer of newspaper 6-8 sheets thick or standard corrugated cardboard makes an

effective base layer. Remove all tape. Overlap edges of paper or cardboard by at least two inches and make sure that there is absolutely no grass showing through anywhere. Tip: Skip the small boxes—they require so much overlapping of flaps that it takes more time and boxes than is necessary.

Smothering can take several weeks to several months, depending primarily on the amount of moisture. A faster smother and decomposition of your base layer requires more moisture, so you need to soak the site regularly with a hose when it begins to dry out. Tip: Saturating the ground before laying your base layer also speeds the process.

Once your base layer is in place, you have two options: 1. Let the layer sit until the grass is dead and rotted, remove the cardboard and plant, or seed the area with flowers and shrubs of your choice. This may require you to weigh the layer down with bricks or other heavy objects to prevent it from blowing away. It’s unsightly but temporary.

2. Cover the layer with at least two inches of compost and/or topsoil. If you want to plant or sow seeds right away, mix compost with topsoil in a 1:1 ratio to provide nutrients without burning the roots of your plants. If you don’t plan to plant for several months but want to begin the smothering process, a two-inch layer of compost will serve to enrich the soil even more while covering the unsightly base layer.

FINDING MATERIALS

Using paper and cardboard for sheet mulching is a great way to reuse the materials.

Finding them in bulk is not difficult,

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but be prepared for a few skeptical looks when you ask for something that others consider trash. Explain your garden project, and you’ll usually find someone willing to help.

• Contact your local newspaper and ask for papers that are slated for recycling.

Newspapers always wind up with extra copies and are usually happy to provide old issues.

• Get large pieces of cardboard from appliance stores and big box stores.

Many stores bale cardboard into massive blocks for recycling, so you’ll need to talk to a manager to schedule a time to pick up boxes before they are baled, and when it won’t interfere with their regular schedule. Be sure to specify that you want large boxes.

• Buy compost and topsoil in bulk. Skip the bagged options that hardware stores and small garden shops offer. You’ll save money and plastic. Find a local mulch yard and purchase by the cubic yard. If you don’t have a truck or trailer, you’ll still save money even if you have it delivered. Tip: Use an online soil calculator to determine the volume of compost/topsoil you will need based on the dimensions of your garden bed.

When you’re ready to plant, punch through your base layer and make sure to re-cover the area with your base material to within 2-3 inches of your plant to prevent the grass from creeping back in. Or, sow wildflower weeds and skip all of the digging!

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Have you ever been hit in the feels* before?

You’re talking to someone and they say something and it’s almost like you could have said it for them or have said it yourself? This particular group of women hit me in the feels, and I think they’ll hit you, too.

As a reminder, this column is dedicated to uplifting incredible women that might not be featured in the local news or shouting about their accomplishments from the rooftops.

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

These are abridged versions of these incredible women: please find them and ask them more!

TIFFANY TATE

WHAT MAKES YOU YOU?

Signature markers that make me ME include my “can do” attitude at work and life, deep commitment to clarity and decision-making, unique sense of style, and overall belief in learning (and doing) better every single day as it relates to personal growth and change agent behavior. I try to show up and show out for myself and others consistently.

WHAT ARE YOU MOST PROUD OF?

Right now, I am most proud of the non-profit boards I have the opportunity to share my time and talent with (the REACH Women’s Network and the Winston-Salem Foundation’s Black Philanthropy Initiative). It’s awesome to work alongside so many smart and committed people who care deeply about our community and are pushing it toward a better future as it relates to access and equity.

JACKY MAIRENA

WHAT MAKES YOU YOU?

Maybe what makes me ME is my curiosity. I ask questions when I am intrigued and that can throw people off guard sometimes. My curiosity has been a good guide in my life to understanding myself and the people around me.

I am good with my hands lots of different ways, I’m very empathetic, and I’m secretly hilarious!

WHAT ARE YOU MOST PROUD OF?

I’m most proud of the moments that took courage to walk out of a situation that caused a lot of pain. A year ago, I let go of a relationship that did not serve me well, and that was a hard and painful thing to do, but doing so has opened so many opportunities for growth that led me to where I am now.

Being brave enough to envision a better life, and going for it! The last few years have meant changing everything. New family dynamics (divorce), new social circles, new home, new job (started my own business), and new, happy life.

I am setting a good example for my daughter.

WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING WHEN THINGS ARE TOUGH?

WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING WHEN THINGS ARE TOUGH?

WHAT ARE YOU MOST PROUD OF?

My daughter. I want to be someone she can look up to every day and be proud of, and I want her to know that her word and deeds matter - even when no one is watching.

I think the support I receive from my community has been crucial for me; as I get more involved in my community, I learn from community leaders and activists different ways to combat the emotional and mental energy it takes to find strategies to help people. I get a lot of tough love, but a lot of love and support nonetheless.

What keeps you up at night? The reality that there are children in our community without adequate access to equitable educational resources and school environments, many of whom are also facing a staggering amount of food insecurity.

The question that I did not do enough or am not doing enough or who am I to be the person to help my community. Imposter syndrome has become an issue for me; I feel inadequate a lot of the time.

WHAT KEEPS YOU GOING WHEN THINGS ARE TOUGH?

HOLLY MCDONALD

WHAT MAKES YOU YOU?

WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?

My family, which is small but mighty!

We are a sparkly vortex of power!

WHAT KEEPS YOU UP AT NIGHT?

Sometimes it’s the stress of figuring out how to be a business owner, single mom, member of the sandwich generation, and general handyman. But usually, it’s my 15-year-old lab, with bathroom issues.

*Editor’s note: for those over 50, like me, “hit me in the feels” means invoking or causing emotion or feelings – I had to look it up.

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A SLICE OF ORGANIC LIFE

Part 1: Life Without a Yard

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Are you dreaming of being closer to nature and yet worried that your living arrangement stifles practical goals? Whether you live in an apartment or townhouse, in the city or suburbs, your current lifestyle does not prevent you from choosing fresh and natural over pre-packaged and chemicalladen. Take the positive road and dedicate it to a fruitful change.

You’ll be amazed at what life can become without owning a plot of earth outside your door.

YOU CAN HAVE A GREENHOUSE?

Assess your advantages by asking the following questions. Do I have a location that receives at least six to eight hours of sunlight? A deck is ideal for installing a four or fivetiered greenhouse to grow your favorite vegetables, flowers, herbs or fruits. (Add a few gallon jugs of water to boost the moisture content.)

Another suggestion is to aid plant growth with waterproof seedling heating pads, grow lights, seedling bags and trays without holes.

You’ll be astounded at the ability to harvest tomatoes in winter or grow fresh herbs all year long!

DRY & BOTTLE YOUR FRESH HERBS

For decades, you purchased the small glass bottles filled with your favorite dried herbs. In striving for an organic approach, why not make the effort and dry your own?

The effort in harvesting leaves or whole stalks takes minimal time to tie and hang. After bottling, you have an entire year to enjoy your efforts in teas, infusions or meals.

The next step: Research the medicinal value of herbs, and start taking control of your health.

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To pursue an organic or natural lifestyle, start supporting your local farmer’s markets, country stores or drive to nearby pastoral communities. There are extraordinary farming communities that sell specific items such as grass-fed beef, fresh eggs, cheeses, butter or homemade soaps and candles. Introduce yourself to farmers, who may sell produce or grass-fed beef, fresh eggs, cheeses, butter or handmade soaps or candles.

NC COOPERATIVE EXTENSION OFFICE

If you seek an opportunity to take free or low-cost classes, join associations or groups, go to NC Cooperative Extension website. It offers a wealth of knowledge of events occurring just outside your front door.

BAKE BREAD

With a mere five to seven ingredients, you can make quality-sized loaves of wheat, white, cinnamon or cheese bread without purchasing a machine. By excluding preservatives from the recipe, the loaf lasts about three to four days before hardening.

To resolve the issue, keep extra balls of dough in the refrigerator to bake as needed. Just imagine serving hot slices of homemade bread with dinner! Delicious!

CHOOSE HOMEMADE OVER PRE-PACKAGED

Essential ingredients often comprise a bread-based recipe. Rather than buy a box of pancake mix, a tube of biscuits or

a ready-made pizza, start stocking up on key ingredients to make your own. Despite the extra time, the effort has a direct connection to eating better!

BORAX, WASHING SODA & SOAP FLAKES

Laundry detergents are both expensive and toxic to your skin and health.

One way to choose a green alternative is by using natural products such as combining equal parts of borax, washing soda and soap flakes. Inexpensive in cost and produces the same effect to laundry. Take your effort one step further and start cleaning your home with baking soda which disinfects while removing dirt and grease. Vinegar has similar cleansing powers while adding its ability to discourage mold.

ENJOY TRAILS, PARKS & PATHS

In Winston-Salem alone, there are 79 parks, 47 playgrounds, 29 trails and seven dog parks. Just north of the city in Danbury is Hanging Rock State Park, which covers more than 8,600 miles. You may discover a love for researching wild plants or bird watching. With countless opportunities to get outside and enjoy and experience nature, the great state of North Carolina can aid in your desire to live a health-based life. And, without a yard, the possibilities cannot stop you from reaching that sweet slice of organic life!

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Hey, extroverts!

Cool It.

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

How many articles have you read that have taught you, the introvert, how to be more extroverted?

How many articles have you seen that have mentioned you, the extrovert, as the “best” personality type?

Don’t worry; this isn’t another “how introverts can be more extroverted” article. It’s the opposite actually: it’s how you, as an extrovert, can chill out and stop pushing your extroversion on others.

Before we tap into these tips, let’s think about the three types: extrovert, introvert, and ambivert.

Extroverts are talkative, sociable, action-oriented, enthusiastic, friendly, and outgoing – and on the flip side, can be labeled attention-seeking, distracted, and unable to spend time alone.

Introverts are quiet, reserved, and thoughtful.

They can also be labeled as weird, snobbish, aloof, or selfish. Ambiverts are right in the middle – they have qualities of both introverts and extroverts.

For this, we’re specifically tapping into how extroverts can chill when they are around introverts – because you might know that all of that talkative business gets exhausting for people who don’t thrive on that kind of high energy.

FIND YOUR INTROVERT

I would hazard to say we all have some ambivert in us. There are times we want to be alone, times we need to be a bit quiet, and it all depends on who we are around. Take some time to reflect and see if you have an inner introvert. I used to think I

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was an extrovert and because of reflection, I realize I’m an introvert that I lovingly refer to as an introvert masquerading as an extrovert when I need to. I don’t love being in big groups that are super social, but I know how to do it (and it’s exhausting).

If you get charged up by social interaction, take a moment to think about your inner introvert. It’s there – what situations tire you out? Do you have a desire to be alone ever?

Do you need space sometimes? Tap into those moments and think about how it feels when someone presses you to be social.

LISTEN MORE

One of the qualities that people love about introverts? Their listening skills. Take some time to work yours during your next conversation and specifically listen for bits of information that you can incorporate in responses and questions. This is considered active listening – not just hearing, but also processing the information and adding to the conversation with more information.

By working on your listening skills more, and spending more time listening than talking, you’re going to be able to tap into that introvert superpower.

READ THE ROOM

Pay attention to when you can tap into this new side of yourself by reading the room.

Is someone you’re talking to uncomfortable because your energy is all over the place?

Take a step back and ask a question, spend more time listening, think about the times you’ve wanted to be alone. Don’t push your style on someone else because it’s how you communicate.

Quick story: a friend was at a work event and an acquaintance came up and hugged them, saying, “Oh, I’m a hugger!” My friend was incredibly uncomfortable and mentioned it to me afterward. The next time they saw each other, they told this extrovert “No” when they went in for the hug again – and the extrovert said, “I noticed you were uncomfortable last time, too.”

When I heard about this story I was stunned – who does this? Who knows that someone is uncomfortable, notes it, and does the same behavior again!

After my stunned shock wore off, I realized it’s because that extroverted hugger doesn’t pay attention to the world around her – she doesn’t think about how other people move through the world – just how she does.

Don’t be this person. Read the room AND react to it.

This isn’t to say extroverts aren’t amazing – so are introverts though. And we should all learn how to better communicate with people that aren’t like us.

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Thought Power!

BY MARTIE EMORY

Now that we’re past January and February – the months where we struggle with resolutions and all those amazing new habits that will “change” our lives – it’s a wise time to step back, embrace the hopeful coming of spring, and identify the most basic way to enhance your life!

With the abundance of research and information available on this topic, it tells me that we aren’t the only ones eager to rewire our brains – on a daily basis – to focus more on positivity. Have you ever heard the acronym A.N.T.S. – as in Automatic Negative Thoughts?

It’s easy to get bogged down with family and work stress, along with the healthy dose of negativity thrust at us in the news and via social media. The good news is with a mindful attitude, and closer attention to your personal thoughts, leaping forward with a positive attitude is easier than you might think.

First, some behaviors to look for: • Do you tend to go through the day with an “all or nothing” attitude?

• Are you constantly talking yourself down with negative labels such as lazy, boring, or unattractive?

• Is it easier to blame yourself for a certain situation and simply move on?

Looking for ways to identify those automatic negative thoughts is a great place to start, then realize your real power is controlling how you respond to events and situations.

Focusing on the power of positive thoughts is a necessary part of your daily routine, and there are easy – even fun! – ways to go about it: • Keep a daily gratitude journal.

Instead of piling on more lists of things to do, pile on written reminders of all the good things in your life! Each night list two or three happy events that occurred during your day.

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• Stay centered, whether you choose yoga, meditation, or your favorite form of regular exercise.

• Be very aware of what you eat!

Vitamin deficiencies alone can greatly affect your thought processes.

• Find your passion and follow it!

Giving back to your community, learning a new hobby, or tapping your artistic side never fails to help you see the good side and promise in any situation.

• Familiarize yourself with the term brain aerobics! Take up chess, crossword puzzles, or anything else that forces you to take 15-30 minutes each day to actually focus and stimulate your brain.

• Visualize concrete long-term goals – even when your current circumstances change. Keep your eyes and mind always looking forward!

• Surround yourself with positive people. A happy frame of mind can definitely be contagious!

Although it sounds simple, “thought stopping” is a long-studied method of helping people reduce – and even eliminate – negative recurring thoughts. Think of it as the easiest form of self-love!

• Literally picture a STOP sign in your head when you feel a wave of negativity sneaking in.

• Acknowledge a negative thought long enough to feel what the real emotion behind it is – then let it go. Be mindful, but not judgmental, of what you feel. For example, you may feel anxious about an upcoming event or trip, but that anxiousness doesn’t necessarily have to be negative.

• Switch out a negative thought for anything that makes you feel positive, confident, and loved! Adopt a favorite mantra or affirmation you can repeat to yourself as needed, picture your favorite beach, or tune in – even if it’s just in your head – to your favorite music or lyrics.

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Fulfilling the Promise in Forsyth County

BY FAMILY SERVICES

Education has long been the door to opportunity and the pathway to prosperity in America. But achieving the American Dream has become a remote possibility for too many, especially for younger generations.

A long-time friend to Winston-Salem, Dr. Robert Putnam, captivated WinstonSalem leaders several years ago with his groundbreaking study on the importance of social capital or “community connectedness,” which generated a local movement to strengthen neighborhoods through resource-sharing and community collaboration.

In 2016, Putnam was asked to be the keynote speaker at the inaugural Raising Every Child Benefit Luncheon, where he presented his startling examination of the growing “opportunity gap” that is preventing communities like WinstonSalem/Forsyth County from flourishing.

In his book, Our Kids: The American Dream in Crisis. Putnam found that over the last 30-40 years, the gap has grown between the opportunities and resources for those kids coming from affluent and well-educated homes, and opportunities and resources for those kids coming from poor, less-educated homes. The point of his work is to say, “Here’s the reality.”

Now, how do we go about changing our current reality to move us back toward the reality of the American Dream?

THE OPPORTUNITY GAP IS WIDEST IN FORSYTH COUNTY.

A 2017 study by two Harvard economists found Forsyth County to be among the worst counties in the U.S. for helping poor children move up the income ladder.

We rank fifth worst out of 2,873 counties nationwide. Only four American Indian reservations are below us.

During his address at the inaugural Raising Every Child Benefit Luncheon, Putnam challenged community leaders to collaborate, innovate and work together in order to ensure that every child in Forsyth County has the opportunity to reach his or her full potential.

THAT WAS FOUR YEARS AGO.

Since that time, Family Services has convened a team of champions to focus on proven ways to close that opportunity

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gap, most notably during the earliest years of life. Brain science has confirmed what most parents already know, namely, that the first five years of life are a time of tremendous physical, social, emotional, and cognitive development. These are the years when brain architecture is being built, with more than one million new neural connections formed every second.

But just as seeds must be planted in good soil in order to grow, a child’s environment and life experiences shape and change the architecture of the developing brain, laying the foundation for all the development and behavior that follows, including how healthy and successful the child will become as an adult.

This year, Dr. Putnam returns as the fourth Raising Every Child keynote speaker to underscore the belief that communities do, in fact, flourish when all children have access to opportunities that enable them to reach their full potential and contribute back to community life.

During his address at the Benton Convention Center on April 23, Putnam will focus on the current state of America—deep and accelerating inequality; unprecedented political polarization; vitriolic public discourse; a fraying of social fabric; public and private narcissism.

While it may seem as if the only thing that Americans agree on is that this is the worst of times, Putnam says we’ve been here before, and we can turn the corner once more to become more cooperative, more generous; a society more focused on our responsibilities to one another and less focused on our narrower self-interest.

We hope you will come help us elevate the well-being of all children as we continue to make Pre-K a Priority in Forsyth County. Tickets and sponsorship opportunities are available at RaisingEveryChild.org.

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BY LISA S.T DOSS

The cultural knowledge of herbs is not entirely lost. Tea drinkers seek warmth through sips to find a remedy for the onset of an ailment or to relax. Once upon a time, herbal lore was instinctual, just like the hand wanders into a cupboard to find oregano written on a glass bottle. The basic knowledge of medicinal plants may still be in our genes, urging to take root and blossom. You, too, can appreciate the versatile quality of herbs by first loving plants – the colors or fragrance. Take it one step farther! And, the gardener in you can make teas, salves, tinctures and poultices to promote good health!

Some flowers are simply eye-catching due to their brilliant coloring or height. Unlike the small daisy, the coneflower stands at almost four feet at maturity and possesses large single-petaled blooms that develop throughout the summer despite heat and drought. Perhaps without knowledge of echinacea’s magical gifts, you cut a few stalks to adorn the kitchen table. Similar to the Native American tribes who dipped their arrows in an infusion of echinacea in hopes of strengthening and follow-through, the flowers offer you a sense of purpose.

HARVEST, DRY AND SAVE SEEDS

While the grocery aisle does not offer dried echinacea, harvesting either the seeds or leaves and flowers are a viable option. The process even takes little time.

• To encourage blooms, cut a stalk with a spent flower and enclose the head in a paper bag tied with a rubber band. Hang upside down. Seed separation takes a few weeks. Afterward, allow to dry in a cool place. Store in sealed Mason jar.

• In the second year of the coneflower, pluck only the leaves and petals to dry. After a few weeks, crumble into a glass jar with a screw-top lid to use for medicinal purposes.

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In possessing a personal supply of dried echinacea, imagine having the ability to prevent illness and encourage wellness against viral and bacterial conditions, controlling blood sugars, infections, such as recurring vaginal yeast infections, inflammations, cuts and scrapes?

Studies conclude taking echinacea can reduce the odds of developing a cold by 58 percent!

Baths: To engage in acts of self-pampering,

consider spending a minimum of 10 minutes in a warm bath. The mind can surrender from daily stress and ease sore muscles to a state of tranquility. Consider trying a tea bath by steeping either loose leaves and flowers or bags for 10 minutes before pouring into the tub. Whether you are in pain, not feeling well or anxious, allow the herbs to penetrate through your pores to ease all worries.

Teas: Many herbal teas designed for

sore throats and flu include the ingredient echinacea. The plant’s flowers contain antioxidants to help defend your cells against oxidative stress which is an ability to detoxify the body against harmful effects. To increase the effectiveness of the herb, herbalists recommend drinking the tea, especially for illness or infection, in cycles of five consecutive days with a two-day break.

Tinctures: The term sounds Old World; yet, pharmaceutical companies create “alcoholfree” medicines which use dry petals, leaves, bark, roots and berries from a plant. With the ability to harvest and dry, consider making a homemade jar using echinacea.

Pack tightly 2/3 of a screw-top glass jar with finely chopped fresh and mature leaves and petals from the spring season. Pour an 80-proof, grain alcohol three inches above the herb and insert a piece of parchment paper over the opening before adding the lid. Place in a warm, easily accessible location. Agitate daily across eight weeks. Ensure the alcohol level remains consistent; otherwise, add. Strain using cheesecloth. After a week, strain again until the liquid is particle-free! For acute illnesses, only consume a half-teaspoon every hour and decrease the dosage after the first 24 hours.

Salves: Disaster strikes in the form of a

wound, sting, bite, rash or chapped lips! Now, you can make a healing salve!

Begin by packing a glass bottle with finely cut leaves and petals, and cover with sunflower oil. Allow the mixture to sit in the sun for four weeks; then, add to a double-boiler, one ounce of beeswax to four ounces of your newly infused echinacea, sunflower oil. Once melted, add two drops of lavender essential oil. Pour into wide mouth jars or tins!

After one season, you’ll be an herbal expert!

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Respectfully Giving Credit

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Picture this: you do work for a project – a lot of it. You hustle, you lose sleep, your blood, sweat, and tears are in the project, and you finally get it done.

You’re really proud of it. Presentation time kicks in and someone else is presenting your work and they take all of the credit for all of it. No mention of you, no mention of your work, or the people that your work builds on.

This is all too common and all too uncomfortable. I could end this article here with one piece of advice: give credit. Be respectful and give credit.

I won’t end it there though, because too many people don’t give credit and I think folks need some advice.

First: giving credit does not make you look bad. It doesn’t make you look less; it doesn’t make you look like you don’t know what you’re talking about, it’s not a negative.

It is effective.

It is respectful.

It is what you should be doing.

Take a moment to think if you have been that person, whether intentional or not. Have you forgotten to give credit, and then it’s snowballed out of control, and you’ve gotten so much credit and affirmation that you just feel weird saying, “Oh, by the way, [this person] came up with the original idea.”

If you need to give credit and you’re unsure about how, here are a few simple tips:

DO IT IN THE MOMENT, DON’T LET IT SNOWBALL

If you’re waiting, you’re going to miss the chance. When you introduce an idea, you can say, “[Person] and I worked on this together” or “I based my ideas off of [person]’s thoughts.” If you let things get too far, it’s going to feel weird and awkward when you do bring things up. Take the chance in the beginning to credit the other person and their work.

BE HONEST

Do not lie. I repeat, do not lie. Don’t claim creation for something you did not create. If you do, you get into a very weird situation where people either 1) know you’re lying or 2) decide you’re being strange for some reason and they can’t quite figure out why – and they don’t trust you because you’re being strange.

Again, giving credit isn’t a bad thing! It actually is great to see that you credit your collaborations! You want to be easy to work with and a good collaborator.

NOTHING IS ORIGINAL, EVERYTHING IS A REMIX

We’re in 2020 – nothing is original anymore. We don’t have a new “wheel” or a new “sliced bread” and haven’t had one for a while.

Everything is a remix of everything else! Things are inspired by and combinations of and have connections to. It’s not a bad thing – it’s the truth.

When I opened my latest business, everyone asked me where I got the idea, and every time I very clearly talked about the two businesses it was based on, as well as the personal experience I had. I had a collaborator at the beginning of the project, and when we broke the partnership, she insisted I took her idea and stole it.

Here’s the problem with that: from day one, I was crediting the two businesses I had “mashed up” to make my business. Both of those businesses existed before I had even met that collaborator – and the concepts of both of those businesses existed long before either of us were old enough to vote, much less open a business!

Folks will think their idea is original. And they will be upset when they realize it isn’t because of my original statement: nothing is original.

How does this help you? Well, the more you understand that everything is a remix and a collection of ideas, the more you’re going to 1) credit these other folks and 2) learn from their mistakes (and make new ones instead of the same old ones).

Remember that the next time you’re introducing an idea to tap into your inspiration – it will be worth it!

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Need Ideas for

Spring?

Here’s a Checklist

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Usher in the new season with a fresh to-do list for spring. Get outdoors, see what’s beautifully in bloom and experience nature, or stay inside and banish boredom!

SPRING TO LIFE OUTDOORS CHECKLIST

 Visit a local winery, learn about wines and enjoy a wine tasting

 Give your dog and your car a bath  Have a bite and a sip as you peruse a local festival

 Soak up the sun, sand and surf at the beach - bring your swimsuit, sandals and sunscreen

 Pick a bouquet of herbs or flowers for yourself or a loved one

 Host a spring party event - don’t forget to decorate with fresh flowers

 Go shopping at an outdoor mall

SPRING TO LIFE INDOORS CHECKLIST

 Enjoy your local park  Visit a local farm and pick up some fresh eggs

 Get cultured and go see a play, opera or ballet

 Go to the zoo

 Visit an aquarium

 Have a fun kids-at-heart day at a playground

 Go around the rink at your local skating joint

 Blow bubbles and play games on the grass

 Check out the newest movie

 Put on some rollerblades, roller skates or hop on a skateboard and hit the streets  Practice tai chi  Bike around town  Have a picnic  Host an outdoor tea party (pinkies out, everyone)!  Play golf or miniature golf  Go hiking, fishing and camping  Check out LIVE music shows and concerts  Fly a kite in a field or along the beach  Try a horseback riding lesson  Have fun at an amusement or water park  See what’s in season and go fruit picking  Go out to eat, sit outside and enjoy a drink at a new coffee shop, restaurant, or bar  Attend a group meet-up based on shared interests and hobbies

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 Skip stones across the water

 Gallery hop and visit a museum  Join a gym and hit the pool, followed by the steam room and sauna  Work with a wellness or fitness coach, personal trainer or nutritionist to get in shape  Get pampered with a mani, pedi, facial and massage at a salon or spa  Send out spring cards to your loved ones  Take a genealogy test and discover your genetic make-up  Get your hair done with cut and color for a whole new you  Try lash extensions and bat those beautiful lashes  See what’s new at your local library  Try a new grocery store and discover new foods and beverages  Order a CSA (Community Supported Agriculture) box at your local farmers market

 Start a blog to further your passionate hobby or to boost your business  Work on relationships with old and new friends, online and off  Take a cooking class  Visit a local brewery, find out how beer is made and enjoy a brewski  Smell good with a new fragrance find - sample perfumes at a department store or Ulta or Sephora  Get a make-over at a department store make-up counter to pick out a few new beauty products that suit you for the season  Visit your local music store to try out some instruments and sign up for music classes  Ask a bartender to make you a special mixed drink or make your own cocktail or mocktail  Open the windows in your house and roll your car windows down for a healthy blast of fresh air  Make spring gifts for your loved ones – experiment with DIY beauty products or arts and crafts  Turn your bathroom into a home spa and enjoy some R&R  Decorate your house or work place for spring - include fresh plants, flowers and candles - and redecorate a room using Feng Shui  Get a water fountain - running water sounds soothing Start checking off that bucket list whether you stay indoors or go outdoors. There’s much to do and see this season, so spring into spring!

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Pay Attention to Your Attention!

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

In a culture of rapid pace and endless distractions swarming around us, it has become increasingly difficult to employ a laser-like focus on whatever is requiring our attention at the moment. Our attention spans have decreased with the rapid growth of technology, entertainment, and daily obligations at work and at home.

If you want to strengthen your focus and increase your attention span, it helps to know what causes it so you can know how to combat it effectively.

According to research, a short attention span is caused by conditions such as ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, depression, and learning disabilities. It can even be caused by multitasking, which gradually causes our brains to lose that concentrated focus on a single task.

Here are several proven ways to increase our short attention spans.

ASK QUESTIONS AND STAY ENGAGED.

During a lecture or training session, or even when listening to podcasts or watching a documentary, keep your mind actively engaged by asking questions during the lecture. Asking questions keeps your curiosity satisfied and growing. Also, taking handwritten notes improves our attention and listening more effectively than taking notes on an iPad or a computer, where there are bound to be a stream of endless distractions emanating from it.

MEDITATE.

Meditating for about 20 to 30 minutes a day is crucial for our mental health and will help lengthen our attention spans. The purpose of meditation is not to empty our minds, but to redirect our thoughts and to focus on positive thoughts and emotions. Meditation can also include focusing solely on our surroundings, so it’s imperative to meditate in a calm, yet stimulating environment. What it all narrows down to is focus. So the more we strengthen our focus, the longer our attention span will be.

LISTEN TO MUSIC.

Studies have shown that listening to classical music helps one pay attention!

Listening to classical—no matter what the theme or mood of the piece—activates areas of the brain involved with paying attention and making predictions. Have you tried listening to classical music while studying, cleaning, reading, writing, or even driving? Because classical music helps the mind focus, our quality of work (or whatever we are doing while listening) is much higher because we can truly focus on what we are doing. So blast that Mozart!

STAY HYDRATED.

Water is paramount for our minds and bodies to function at their maximum level. Even a 2 percent decrease in hydration can impact one’s ability to focus properly! So make sure you have plenty of water in your system before doing something that demands great concentration.

EXERCISE.

Physical activity improves us mentally by helping one to focus as well. But exercise doesn’t always have to be strenuous; a 30-minute walk is just enough to stimulate the concentration areas of our brains and improve cognitive functions. Want to know something fascinating? Studies from the University of Illinois discovered that students with ADHD who participated in 20 minutes of exercise regularly were able to pay attention longer and even scored higher on academic tests, particularly in reading comprehension!

STOP MULTITASKING!

While being able to multitask may make one feel more productive, and while it is rewarded when done on the job, multitasking hinders our cognitive performance when we do it habitually. According to research, multitasking negatively impacts our ability to pay attention and recall information. It is a fact that working on only one task at a time is far more productive than attempting to work at several tasks at a time. Monotasking—performing one task at a time—helps one to be present and focus and, ultimately, helps us to stay calm.

SLEEP, SLEEP, SLEEP…

While most of us depend on caffeinated beverages such as coffee and Coca Cola to keep us alert, we tend to forget how our minds benefit from a good night’s sleep! Quality sleep rejuvenates our brains and renews our energy level, which is advantageous because our attention spans are fueled by our energy levels. If we’re tired, we cannot focus properly. It also helps to not engage with smart devices prior to falling asleep and right after waking up.

Once you become focused on applying these strategies, your attention span will take you far.

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Breathing New Life Into Old Home Decor Simple DIYs to Update a Space Without Buying New

BY TARYN JEREZ

Remember when your parents told you that everything comes back in style eventually? The love for nostalgia never seems to go out of style and can clearly be seen in the fashion industry, but when it comes to home décor, it’s actually truer these days than ever!

BOTH INSPIRATIONAL & IMPACTFUL

With renovation and interior design trendsetters like Chip and Joanna Gaines of “Fixer Upper’’ and hit shows like “Flea Market Flip” and “Thrift Hunters,” there has been a renovation revival going on. This expands past houses themselves and into the way people view the items that make their house their individual home. Being able to look around at existing pieces in a home or finding old items that you could reimagine with a new purpose or design is not only inspiring but also impactful.

With new light being shed every day on environmental issues and more education available on reducing waste and being more sustainable, renovation and repurposing is a beautiful way to go when decorating. There truly has never been a better time to look around your home and give new life to things of the past!

GETTING STARTED

Take Inventory of Your Home

There may be pieces both old and new across your home that just don’t feel like you anymore or really don’t make the impact you are wanting to make at this point in time. Take time to review the items in your home from furniture to decorative decor and make mental notes of what you love and what may have worn out its welcome.

Collect Style Inspiration

While you may not be diving into a room renovation right now or ready to refinish every piece of furniture in your collection at the moment, the time will come to jump in. Start learning your home style and looking at how it’s evolved. Who and what inspires you?

What brings joy to your home? Keep magazine pages or snap photos of décor that speaks to you, or start a Pinterest board online where you can save all your home inspiration images so you can reference when the time is right.

TIPS & TRICKS FOR SIMPLE UPDATES

Furniture: Couches, Headboards, Dressers, Nightstands & Tables

From second generation hand-me-downs to bargain finds from IKEA or Rooms-to-Go, there comes a time where furniture that once made you “ooh and ahh” starts to feel out of place in your home. If you have the budget or skill set to reupholster a couch or chair, you may find that new fabric brings brand new life into those pieces. Simple supplies like an electric sander and a great coat of chalk paint can make any old wood furniture take on a trendy farmhouse or shabby chic look. Changing up the trim color or adding different furniture legs can also make a piece feel new and exciting. Sometimes furniture outstays it’s welcome in a certain space, so try moving it to another spot in your home or office to see if it just needed a change of scenery to stand out.

Wall Decor: Mirrors, Canvas Art, Picture Frames & Signs

Somehow over the years, decorative wall décor can pile up not only on your walls themselves but hiding in closets or the garage from purchases that never fulfilled their purpose. Often, picture frames and artwork tend to make the list of forgotten pieces that wind up tucked away for years. If you are bored with the appearance of your bare walls or your current wall hangings, play up your pieces by putting them together and curating a gallery wall. Grab a can of spray paint in a fun color or striking metallic and spray old frames or mirror edges to fit the look you’re wanting. Take things down that don’t feel right, and see what other spots in your space may feel bare and in need of those exact pieces that had been hiding elsewhere.

Storage: Baskets, Canisters, Shelving & More

Good storage options have been underrated for too long! The more recent comeback of creative storage design is an attractive and useful trend! Old containers or canisters can help you stay organized for small items in areas like the kitchen, linen closet, under the sink, in the bedroom and more. Leave them as is or play them up with a paint job or decoupage! As for larger storage, options like baskets can be repurposed to be planters for indoors or outdoors, or turned into a stylish hamper. Shelves are always helpful for added storage as well as a decorative way to showcase collections of art, books, plants and more. Try staining the wood a new shade or distressing it with a light grain sandpaper to add a new look.

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BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

We’ve all been there, feeling down and out and lackluster, simply too tired to trek on.

Here are some tips, tidbits, and tricks on how to boost your energy level as you refresh, reset, renew, and rejuvenate your senses. Sometimes we all need a reboot.

CUT DOWN THE CAFFEINE

Don’t rely on that cuppa caffeine to keep you revved up throughout the day. Too much caffeine actually has an opposite effect and can make you crash. A caffeine overload can cause anxiety, headaches, and sleepless nights. Instead of reaching for another cuppa coffee or black tea to reawaken you, try a cuppa caffeine-free herbal tea with peppermint that typically has a refreshing and renewing effect.

THE NOSE KNOWS

Taking a few whiffs of peppermint or eucalyptus essential oils can revive your senses and give you an energy boost naturally. Citrus can be a good choice, whether you opt for orange, lemon, lime, grapefruit, bergamot or a combination that can be combined with mint. You can add them to a carrier oil like olive or coconut oil and massage them into your skin and hair to tame those frizzies and flyaways. Or, you can add several drops to a spray bottle filled with distilled water for a healthy DIY room spray with a scent that’s uplifting.

QUICK CAT NAP

Taking a quick cat nap can help boost your brain and benefit your body. But don’t overdo it. Limit your short naps to 30 minutes or so, and let yourself relax and rest. Sniff some lavender essential oil, drink

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some chamomile tea to calm you down, and don an eye mask to induce sleep. Then, get up, feeling restored and renewed and ready for the rest of your day.

EXERCISE FOR ENERGY (AND STAY HYDRATED)

Whether you go to a gym, work out at home, or take a stroll/jog around the block, it’s important to get active. Fill up a water bottle (add a slice of lemon or lime if you like) and get moving! In addition to exercising, it’s important to drink enough water. Your body and mind will thank you and reward you with improved cognition, digestion, and circulation, along with lots of other health benefits (feel free to Google). A power walk or run that gets your heart rate up can be all the cardio you need to give you an adrenaline rush for extra energy. Tired of working out solo? Get a work out buddy or more than one and make it into a fun social event. Then, you’ll associate your sweat-it-out time with positive feelings that’ll help keep you motivated to do it again and again.

AVOID ALCOHOL AND SMOKING

These two things that can drain you, you can learn to cut out for a healthier lifestyle and a more energized you. Cut out or limit drinking alcohol to one beverage a day and work on letting smoking go. Why? They can both cause health problems. They are dehydrating and full of toxins. Cut back or cut them out more easily by replacing them with other beverages you like and nicotine replacement gum.

EAT ENERGY-LOADED FOODS

As they often say, “You are what you eat.” So let your food boost your mood and your energy level instead of bringing you down. Pack a punch in the nutrition department and become a revved up powerhouse. Load up on fruits and veggies and eat more fish, like wild-caught salmon that is teeming with omega-3s. And, whether you’re a meat-eater or not, don’t forget the protein. Eggs are an egg-celent source of steady energy that doesn’t spike your blood sugar and keeps you sustained throughout the day. For those who love a sweet treat, studies have shown dark chocolate actually has health benefits, so you don’t have to sacrifice that sweet tooth – generally speaking, the darker the chocolate, the more energy you get.

Try these tips and tidbits for increasing your energy level naturally each day and figure out what works best for you at different times of the day.

You’ll be doing yourself a favor and helping your health.

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It’s amazing how something as simple as a leisurely cup of coffee on the front porch can seem like a pie in the sky goal, but for Allen and his wife Joyce, this seemingly mundane morning ritual was something they longed to get back to. After radiation and chemotherapy treatments to address the head and throat cancer that Allen was fighting, an abdominal feeding tube took away his ability to have that morning coffee on the porch – and his ability to eat anything at all, for that matter.

Thankfully, the couple found a physician here in Winston-Salem who could do more than promise life with a feeding tube, so Allen and Joyce made the trip from Atlanta for appointments and treatment, and first set up “home” in a hotel. A shuttle driver for the hospital had a better idea: the SECU Family House.

They were unsure of staying in a hospitality house. Wouldn’t a house full of folks dealing with illnesses be a depressing atmosphere? Wouldn’t interactions with other families staying there be tense and sad because of the circumstances and the stress everyone would surely be under?

Allen and Joyce reluctantly checked out of their hotel and made the move to the SECU Family House – and what they found was a warm, welcoming, oasis of a home. And after nine long, tedious months of not having a bite to eat, Allen had his FIRST meal at the SECU Family House – a bowl of beef stew lovingly prepared by a group of the house’s dedicated, longstanding volunteers.

Their story is one of the hundreds that have taken place within the walls of the house that show the impact of such a facility in our city. And major

fundraising events like “Men Who Cook” – coming up on March 21 at Bridger Field House – support the work that the house does and the love, care, and shelter that it provides 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year.

The event – now in its 5th year – brings together local male amateur chefs and their cooking teams who battle it out to please the taste buds of over 400 hungry attendees. Participating chefs come from all sectors of the Winston-Salem community, from banking to clergy, lawyers to realtors, higher education to local media, and everything in between.

“We are thrilled that this event continues to be one that garners such wonderful support for our house,” said Kathy Carr, executive director of SECU Family House. “The kitchen is definitely the heart of our homes and meal preparation is such a large part of the services that Family House provides its guests. We love bringing families together over food, and we love what a fun, popular event Men Who Cook has become over its five-year run.”

The Family House, which is conveniently located near Winston-Salem’s two major hospitals, has served as home base for folks from 95 North Carolina counties and 43 states and has welcomed more than 38,000 overnight guests since opening its doors in 2011.

When families come to our area with their loved ones for medical treatment – whether planned or in emergency situations – the Family House provides a welcoming, comfortable atmosphere for rest, food, community, and more. There is only a small overnight fee for guests, and a Family House assistance fund is in place thanks to faithful donations and events like the Men Who Cook fundraiser.

Each year, Men Who Cook chefs create their own recipes, ranging from appetizers to desserts, and may utilize a sous chef during the event. They provide tastings of their fares for attendees to enjoy, hoping to win a coveted award. Early online voting will be available as well. Last year alone, the Men Who Cook event raised nearly $140,000 for the SECU Family House!

Make plans to join us on March 21 when WinstonSalem’s own will don their aprons and grab their whisks for a great cause!

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The Ultimate Movie Snacks

Couples Edition

After a long day of hard work, a movie date night sounds pretty good right now. Tossing your softest blankets on the sofa to cuddle up with your best friend as you decide on comedy or drama. However, the real question comes into play when deciding what delicious snacks you’ll be nibbling on tonight. Enjoy these healthier, low-calorie movie snacks that’ll upgrade your next date night.

EXCEPTIONAL CLASSICS

• Satisfy those salty cravings with crunchy, made-at-home popcorn. A classic that can never be turned down during a movie session! Whether popping in the microwave or on stovetop, lightly drizzle your plain popcorn with extra virgin olive oil and season with sea salt. Or try out a new combination such as ground cinnamon and maple syrup, or grated parmesan and black pepper.

• If your typical go-to sugary movie snack is gummies or sours, try this sweet-tart alternative of frozen grapes to satisfy those cravings with a more natural choice. They’re crisp, cool, and easy to pop in your mouth as you keep your eyes on the tv screen.

• Tired of popcorn? Try replacing those corn kernels with crunchy chickpeas or edamame! Before you shove this delicious alternative to the side, you have to give it at least one try. Simply toss your drained beans with a little olive oil and sea salt, then roast until crunchy. Toss with cumin and cayenne pepper for a savory edge.

SALTY BITES

• If you’re a big fan of those concession stand nachos, then you’re about to fall in love with these Mexican StreetStyle Nachos that are made with real ingredients. Simply begin with a pile of crunchy tortilla chips. Then, top those tortillas with shredded cheese, corn, cayenne pepper, and lime juice. Broil in the oven until the cheese is ooey-gooey

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goodness, about 1-2 minutes. Top with additional lime slices and garnish with freshly chopped cilantro. In a similar manner, tortillas chips and guacamole are always a truly delicious classic!

• Assembling a Cheeseboard for movie date night is an enjoyable and effortless way of consuming your daily protein, fiber, and healthy fats.

Naturally arrange your favorite, small-portion sized, cheeses on a board with dried or fresh fruit, sliced meats, roasted nuts, and so on. An exceptional cheeseboard example consists of dried figs, sliced fresh pears, roasted walnuts and almonds, local honey, sliced prosciutto, baked brie, sliced Gouda, aged blue cheese, and plain crackers.

SWEET EATS

• A perfect, thoughtful date night surprise for your beloved is ChocolateDipped Strawberries made by yours truly. Choosing a quality dark chocolate will not only complement the fresh, crisp strawberries with a richer flavor, but also add a scrumptious source of antioxidants. Dark chocolate may lower blood pressure, improve brain function, and reduce heart disease risks. Try a delectable assortment of chocolate-dipped melon slices, strawberries, and orange slices. Or skip the dark chocolate and wrap those melon slices in prosciutto drizzled with a little honey.

• While we are on the topic of why you should eat dark chocolate, try drizzling a little melted dark chocolate and creamy almond butter on top of your plain (and popped) popcorn kernels. Toss in a few M&Ms or toasted coconut shavings for a little added celebration. That wasn’t too hard! This Chocolate Almond Butter Popcorn will satisfy all those sweet-salty cravings.

• Warm your heart with this Baked Apple and Vanilla Bean Ice Cream combo.

Simply remove the core of a sweet-tart apple, Granny Smith Green or Honeycrisp apples are recommended. Then, bake the apples at 400°F until tender. Top with a little cinnamon and vanilla bean ice cream for a little bite of Heaven.

No need to feel guilty or stuck in a never-ending battle of choosing water over snacks! Try out these healthier, low-calorie movie date night snacks that will have you never wanting to leave the sofa.

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WritersFavorite WhoLoveRead Stories Everyone loves a good love story – a tale about two people falling in love and starting a life together. There are many variations of this story available to readers. In this month’s “Writers Who Read,” we are taking a look at favorite romance novels and the good news is that all of these books have been turned into movies. After finishing the stories, plan a Rom-Com movie night with your significant other or best friends and enjoy the novels once more (of course, with a few edits).

THE NOTEBOOK

THE PRINCESS DIARIES

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

THE TIME TRAVELER’S WIFE

by Nicholas Sparks

by Meg Cabot

by Audrey Niffenegger

Nicholas Sparks is almost synonymous with love stories and The Notebook provides just that.

Readers are introduced to Allie and Noah, two star-crossed lovers from different worlds. Published in 1996, The Notebook is set during the 1930s and ‘40s in South Carolina where Noah Calhoun is a mill worker and Allie Nelson is your typical rich girl. After a romantic summer and Allie’s parents’ disapproval of Noah, the two are forced to maintain their relationship miles apart. Time passes and World War II hits the United States. Noah gives up on Allie ever returning his letters and decides to enlist. However, upon his return home, his life takes a different route when he notices Allie is getting married. To help ease the situation, Noah restores an old farmhouse, which eventually catches Allie’s eye and the rest is history. The love story of the two is told through the perspective of a man reading to a woman with Alzheimer’s. Readers soon discover the connection this couple has to Noah and Allie.

The Notebook is a can’t miss Nicholas Sparks book.

Before the world was introduced to Mia Thermopolis, Princess of Genovia, on the small screen, readers met the young heir to the throne in 2000 through author Meg Cabot’s book series. The first novel, titled The Princess Diaries, tells the story of teenager, Amelia “Mia” and her everyday life until her lost-long grandmother reveals to her that she is the princess of a small European country, Genovia. Throughout the pages, readers share in Mia’s struggles of her newly discovered fate, as well as her struggles navigating teenage romance, heartbreak, and life. The series consists of 11 books and are written as Mia’s on-going journal. Readers young and old will fall in love with a story that was brought to theaters.

We all enjoy the romance stories of lovers whose tales are set in different time periods from today. Yet, what if a person in that romance traveled throughout time?

The Time Traveler’s Wife is about Clare Abshire and Henry De Tamble. Clare is an art student who first met Henry, a librarian, at the age of 20. As for Henry, he was 28 when they met. The two fell in love and got married when Clare was 23 and Henry was 31. Henry has Chrono-Displacement Disorder, which causes a person’s genetic clock to reset under stress and displaces them in ages and time. Henry and Clare navigate this unique time travel twist and their relationship, attempts at normal lives, jobs, children, and more. However, they are aware that in a moment’s notice, everything could be threatened by time and Henry’s disappearance. Readers will “fall in love” with Clare and Henry.

Whether they are classics or new reads, romance novels are loved throughout the entire year.

Just make sure you add these three to your must-read list.

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KRISTIN HENRY

Kristin Henry is the owner of Club Pilates Winston-Salem. At just 29 years of age, she is opening this business to bring the benefits of Pilates to people of all ages.

Kristin earned her degree in psychology and classical studios from the College of William and Mary and is a master trainer of Pilates and yoga. In her spare time, she enjoys long walks in nature with her dog, Tobey (13), partner acrobatics, hiking and kayaking. Kristin’s husband is currently finishing deployment in Kuwait and will soon join her in Winston-Salem.

CHRISTY COX SPENCER

Christy Cox Spencer is the president of JKS Incorporated. “I’m a true ‘Winston-Salemite’ having lived here all my life,” said Christy. “My innate love of our city and the energy that surrounds it is something of great pride for me. I have worked in a family business for more than 30 years and have just recently become the president and female majority owner coming from an industry dominated by men.

With my new duties and responsibilities, I appreciate even more the network of amazing women who have mentored, supported and helped to build me up. I believe that women should respect and honor each other – we should aspire to share our experiences and knowledge for the greater good. Women have shouldered much responsibility without their due credit. I want to make sure that I am a part of the change that gives women the respect and equality we have earned in our culture. That starts in our own community.”

Christy has a two-year business degree from Forsyth Tech. In her spare time, she enjoys time with her dogs, painting, gardening, spending time with family and friends as well as wine!

ANTONINA WHAPLES

Antonina “Little Thunder” Whaples is well known as “Winston-Salem’s #hometownshaman.” Both her partner and herself attended Mt. Tabor High School. She graduated from Wake Forest University in 2010 with two bachelor’s degrees on a Presidential Merit Scholarship for Artistic and Academic Excellence. Antonina became the owner at Kindred Spirits in the arts district of downtown Winston-Salem in 2012. An artist and healer passionate about community issues, her visionary efforts have been recognized numerous times throughout the international healing community, including her 2018 Coalition of Visionary Resources Award for the web mini-doc “Antonina’s Shaman Shop.” “I am lucky to be the mother to a beautiful five-year-old daughter, ‘Standing Ready’ and partner to a wonderful man who loves us both,” said Antonina. “As a family, we enjoy singing, exercising, doing art together and our two dogs, Chloe and Jazz.”

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SHANNON STOKES

Shannon Stokes is the patron services and events manager for The Arts Council of Winston-Salem & Forsyth County. Prior to this position, she worked in the arts, entertainment and nonprofit sector for 10 years including event and program management at Reynolda House Museum of American Art and institutional advancement at Salem College. Shannon is originally from West Palm Beach, Florida and received her bachelor’s degree in arts management from Salem College before earning her master of science in entertainment business from Full Sail University in Winter Park, Florida. According to a press release, Shannon “…began her duties at The Arts Council at a transformative time for the Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts. The multi-functional Reynolds Place Theatre opened in the fall along with the Arboreal Gallery and Community Arts Gift Shop which she manages. The substantial investment in facilities for the use of the Winston-Salem and Forsyth County arts community quickened the pace at The Milton Rhodes Center and increased the number of events hosted.”

KYNDAL HUTCHINSON

Kyndal Hutchinson has joined the staff of The Arts Council of Winston-Salem & Forsyth County as Patron Services and Gallery Support Associate. Christine Jones, Arts Council Chief Operating Officer, said, “It is rare that you find a recent college graduate with the diverse arts background and broad practical experience that Kyndal brings with her. She is a great fit for our Arts Council.” She graduated from Appalachian in 2019 with a degree in art and visual culture with a concentration in art management and a minor in nonprofit management. She completed internships at Blowing Rock Art and History Museum in Blowing Rock, North Carolina, and at Philbrook Museum of Art in Tulsa, Oklahoma, gaining experience in both marketing and development.

AMBER BOYLES

Amber Boyles is the owner and broker in charge of Village Properties Triad, EXP Realty. “I’m opening up a real estate firm in Clemmons with a focus on community involvement and building relationships,” said Amber.

“We have many years of experience in the Triad market and are excited to be opening our new office in Clemmons.” She went to massage therapy school before getting her real estate license and broker in charge license. “I had my own massage therapy practice for many years,” said Amber. “I have now been in the real estate business for 15 years. I am super excited to be bringing a female-owned real estate firm to Clemmons.

We handle residential real estate in Forsyth and surrounding counties.” Amber also loves giving back to the community and is a big supporter of Big Brothers Big Sisters. “I also volunteered for the reading buddies program for the WS/FC school system,” said Amber.

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

How to Make Your Next Networking Event Work for You & Your Biz This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

I don’t know about you, but my schedule seems to get packed before a new month even begins. Your time is valuable, and like many small business owners, it’s also in high demand.

So, hear me when I say this: Not all networking events are created equal and neither are the connections you’ll make. You want to foster new relationships and build connections for your business, so make sure the events you do attend are working for you!

DO YOUR RESEARCH

Do yourself a favor and take the time to research the event prior to RSVP’ing. Does this event reoccur and have an ongoing popularity?

Can you find the event on social media with people marked as “going”? Is there a specific industry or mission that this networking event is geared towards? Do your due diligence and see if you think opportunity awaits versus a waste of time in the wrong place with the wrong people. Don’t be afraid to reach out to the host of the event to ask who their audience is geared towards or find past participants and message them to see what they thought of the last one they attended.

BE PREPARED & SHOW UP READY

Often, a quick interaction is all you’ll have with someone. Pack your business cards and have them somewhere easily accessible like in a pocket or slid into your name tag holder on your lanyard if the event supplies one. You don’t want to be digging in your Mary Poppins bag for 5 minutes while someone stares at you.

If the venue is large and you’ll be covering a lot of ground and standing a lot, be sure to wear comfortable shoes. As tempting as those stylish 4” heels may seem, it’s doubtful you’ll be able to put your best foot forward if you’re in pain. Little things like bringing breath mints and a pocket mirror along (especially if this shindig will be feeding you) can help you feel your best.

KNOW WHO YOU ARE

The owner to that boutique you’ve been hoping to partner with is walking right towards you? Perfect chance to line something up – unless, of course, the only thing you remember about yourself is your first and last name. Even when we practice our elevator pitches and introduce our business a million times a week, there is something about networking events that can make us first-date level nervous.

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If you only had 30 seconds to share what makes what you do so amazing, what would you say? Think about a few major points you know are important to get across and write them down or put them in your phone before you get there. What do you do, and who do you serve? Maybe you have a new product or service launch you want to share or an exciting sponsorship opportunity you’re hoping to find a connection for?

REMEMBER: YOU’RE ON A MISSION

I know that charcuterie board looks amazing and that complimentary glass of Chardonnay is calling your name but stay focused! Take a look around the room and see if you recognize anyone that you’ve been hoping to meet or a new connection you’d like to rub elbows with again. You may see someone you know who can make a new connection for you as well.

Don’t be afraid to be bold and ask for what you need or make yourself known when you see a shiny new connection on the horizon. It can sound cheesy, but at the end of the day, the old “it’s who you know” really rings true.

Take mental notes of who you’re meeting and what you discussed, especially when it’s a long event. You can even write a few quick details on their business card to review later.

DON’T LET THEM FORGET YOU

You may have slayed at that networking event throwing your business cards around like confetti, but you want to leave a lasting impression! Networking events are pointless unless you learn to kill it at the follow-up game!

Follow people and their companies on social media and like and comment on any posts you find interesting. Take a few moments to send emails letting new connections know how much you enjoyed meeting them and look forward to connecting further. Don’t forget to mention where you met them in case they can’t quite recall and mention a few key points from your short conversation from those handy notes you took. If you are following up with someone who can truly be pivotal in your business journey or a specific project you’re working on, now is the perfect time to add an invitation for a coffee date or a short meeting!

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We are all aware of the dichotomy of book smarts versus street smarts, and most of us have more of one and are lacking in the other. But where do these different “smarts” come from? For example, is having street smarts acquired through life experience, or is it merely a natural inclination towards being a practical, handson learner? Is one more preferred over the other? Should we have more of one and less of the other or a healthy balance of both?

ARE YOU BOOK SMART?

It’s quite self-explanatory: people with a higher level of book smarts have a greater wealth of knowledge from the books they read and the information learned in the classroom. This area of smarts can carry one very far in life, but probably not as far as their true potential can take them. Book smarts will get one into college—on full scholarships, maybe— and can help score a promising career, but it is street smarts that will help maintain those gains.

Although admired for their intellectual depth, thoughtfulness, and eloquence, people higher in book smarts tend to be poorly perceived by their streetwise peers. They are sometimes regarded as naïve, inexperienced, and nerdy. But if one has the ability to learn from books, surely they have the ability to learn from practical life experience outside of the classroom. It’s all about comprehension!

It is likely that people who are book smart have a different primary learning style than those who are strong in common sense.

Book smart folks tend to have a stronger imagination than their more practical peers. Their imagination works as an internal visual aid that guides their learning and understanding. This is how they connect the dots between different learning points (learning history, science, or culture, for example). This is why it is easier for book smart folks to sit in a lecture or sit down with a book and receive novel information than those who’d rather go out and learn hands-on.

Although not true for all book smart individuals, most of them have more patience for these types of learning environments and may not be as eager to interact with the tangible world.

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WHAT ABOUT STREET SMARTS?

Also known as ‘common sense,’ street smarts are attained through life experience and are more about knowing how to survive “in these streets!” Street smart people are more observant of their surroundings and have a higher awareness of their environment, people, and situations. They may not always have the polishing eloquence of the book smart individual, but they are likely more resourceful and adaptable in new situations. Street smarts involve thinking on your feet and knowing how to work your way out of the labyrinth of complex obstacles.

Street wisdom comes with experience and practicality. These people are very hands-on and are anxious to learn new skills and abilities. They may argue, “What’s the point of knowing the history and composition of a tire if you don’t know how to change one?”

Streetwise folks may appreciate the classroom, but not to the same degree as book smart people do. Their learning style is handson and they learn quickly from mistakes. They are more pragmatic and realistic and don’t want to rely on theory or imagination as much as book smart people do.

They may sometimes be viewed as ‘uneducated’ by their more book smart peers, but these different types really round each other out.

IS ONE GREATER THAN THE OTHER?

Many people agree that street smarts are handier than book smarts. While education provides an excellent backup and can help us express ourselves more properly, street smarts help us navigate through life and find (and maintain) success.

So, do we want more book smarts or street smarts? The answer is simple: have both! Have the book smarts to know what is going on in the world, but have the street smarts to find and implement a solution. Book smart folks can gain more wisdom with tangible life experience and by becoming more observant while street smart folks can gain more book smarts by listening to lectures and taking the time to read more.

Balance is key!

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wizards have yet to find a cure-all drug. Oddly enough, the science world is calling Alzheimer’s “type 3 diabetes,” and even odder, the research shows that most auto immune disease, cardiovascular disorders, cognitive decline, and diabetes are a result of chronic inflammation. Once I learned this, my passion turned to learning how to protect myself and family from acquiring chronic inflammation.

Were you aware that most of our inflammation starts in the gut? It’s true! It’s called leaky gut, which leads to leaky brain.

Intestinal permeability causes the lining of the small intestines to leak undigested food particles, bacteria, and waste into the blood system. This creates inflammation that triggers the immune system to go into attack mode against the foreign particles. Unfortunately, leaky gut is not well recognized by most practitioners, so many people are misdiagnosed. If you suffer from gas and bloating, constipation, diarrhea, fatigue, nausea, headaches, sugar cravings for refined carbs, and even depression, these could all be signs of an unhealthy gut. Since this is not generally recognized as a medical diagnosis, it must become a personal challenge to help our body heal itself.

Naturally, what we eat is going to have a positive or negative effect on us.

ALZHEIMER’S:

HAVE WE FOUND A CURE?

BY DAVE & TAMMY MCCONNELL

It’s been nearly five years since the day my wife came home from an afternoon visit with her parents. There was a concerned look about her, and as we talked, she began to express a fear that something was wrong with her dad. Even though she never said anything specific, I knew what she was thinking… forgetfulness, losing things, lethargic, disoriented. All signs of aging, but the nurse in her knew there was more to it, and unfortunately, her worst fear became reality. Her father had Alzheimer’s. I could write about my father-in-law’s deteriorating life, the physical and emotional strain it puts on the family, and the care needed to deal with this disease. But the enlightening part of this story comes from the years of research my wife has done on slowing down and preventing Alzheimer’s and other auto-immune disease.

The following is her story: The first conclusion we must believe is that our bodies are designed to be healthy! Give it what it needs to thrive and it will typically regenerate itself without any outside intervention. Doctor Joseph Mercola calls it “effortless healing,” but due to our western diet consisting of high processed food and sugar, stress, toxins, lack of sleep and exercise, chronic inflammation, and lack of purposeful meaning in life, our bodies are not protecting us from chronic disease. Obesity rates are at an alltime high, and for the first time in human history, this generation’s life expectancy will be shorter than their parents.

For so long we believed that the brain was unchangeable, and even worse, we thought that once we started to experience cognitive decline, it was all downhill from there. Everyone knows someone who survived cancer, yet no one knows anybody who survived Alzheimer’s.

To honor my father, who has been robbed of his dignity of the natural aging process, I have found there is hope. Dr. Dale Bredesen is at the forefront of changing the way we approach neurodegenerative disease. Dr. Bredesen reveals that Alzheimer’s is a combination of many conditions with four major causes, which are dramatically influenced by imbalances in 36 metabolic factors that can trigger “downsizing” in the brain. This could explain why billions of dollars spent by government agencies, pharmaceutical companies, and biotechnology

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In conclusion, I would like to leave you with a twofold message.

First, if you or a loved one is showing signs of cognitive decline or is just interested in brain health, I recommend you familiarize yourself with the research of Dr. Dale Bredesen, Dr. David Perlmutter, or Dr. Valter Longo. Their research is fresh, novel, and highly informative. Secondly, if you suffer from chronic inflammation or have symptoms of a leaky gut, I recommend reading information on Dr. Mark Hyman, Dr. Rangen Chatterju, Dr. George Papanicolaou and Dr. Peter Attia. I have found it easier to listen to podcasts and interviews from these doctors as I go about my daily routine. My beliefs on the conventional way of eating has drastically changed and can be confusing. But to help you get started, a diet rich in eggs, nuts, oils, avocados, coconut oil, fresh fruit (especially berries), cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, cauliflower, kale, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, spinach) are all great starting points. Replacing red meat with fish as often as possible can also be a big step.

Again, I challenge you to seek your own journey to learn about the changes that need to occur in our diets that could get you on your path to optimal health!

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WHY OPT FOR

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER Organic is so “in,” it has become a trend, but is organic really that much better for you? Is it worth paying extra for? Opting for organic is typically the healthier option as organic has more nutritional value and is free of pesticides and fertilizers, which boost vitamins and antioxidants. Going organic is important to your health and may result in avoiding future illnesses that can wreak havoc in your life.

WHAT IS ORGANIC?

It’s what we always hear about these days, but what does organic really mean? Organic is a more natural way to go, as the crops have been grown without the use of bioengineered genes (GMOs), synthetic pesticides, sewage sludge-based fertilizers, and petroleum-based fertilizers – which we could all do without.

WHY GO ORGANIC?

Hands down, it’s the healthier option. Avoid toxic chemicals that can wreak havoc on your health and get more bang for your buck in the nutrition department. You may even taste a difference. Organic foods are often fresher, contain more nutrient-content, and naturally have more flavor. Believe it or not, plants can get stressed, too, and not produce as tasty produce as those that grow under natural conditions.

HEALTH BENEFITS OF ORGANIC

Going organic can provide more antioxidants and help avoid toxic heavy metals. Antioxidants help prevent the risk of premature aging, vision problems, cognitive malfunction, cancer, and heart disease. With a higher nutrient-content, additional vitamins and minerals can boost our immune systems to keep us healthy. And, with higher levels of omega-3s, choosing organic is heart-healthy.

CONSIDER THE SOURCE

Natural fertilizers, instead of synthetic fertilizers derived from fossil fuels, are used to grow organic products, and pests are controlled with natural methods. Soil is nurtured to become more nutrient-rich. With organic meat, dairy, and eggs, livestock are fed organic, hormoneand GMO-free feed. What they eat matters.

If it’s healthier for them, it’s healthier for you.

And, instead of administering antibiotics and medications to treat animals, natural ways of keeping them healthy are implemented instead.

Clean housing, rotational grazing, and a healthy diet are important factors in raising organic meat, dairy, and eggs.

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WHY AVOID GMOS?

The actual DNA of Genetically Modified Organisms (GMOs) or genetically engineered (GE) foods have been altered to become resistant to pesticides or to produce an insecticide. Animal studies with GMOs have concluded that they can cause delayed brain growth, thickening of the digestive tract, and internal organ damage. In humans, GMOs have been connected with gastro-intestinal issues and food allergens. This is good news for those with food allergies who may find their symptoms subside when adopting an organic diet.

HARMFUL EFFECTS OF PESTICIDES

The toxicity of pesticides is undeniable.

Pesticides don’t just target the bad bugs; they can wipe good pollinators out, too, and hamper biodiversity. Pesticides are known to be endocrine disrupters and can disrupt nerve impulses that control the muscles and the lung, and can cause paralysis for bugs, as well as animals and humans. Symptoms of those who are infected with pesticides may be neurological, psychological, gastrointestinal, and/or cardiorespiratory. In studies, excess mortality from cardiovascular and respiratory diseases has been noted, as well as an excess of diabetes.

HERE’S TO YOUR HEALTH

Organic food can have a positive impact on our mental and emotional health, too. Organic means more nutritional value with more antioxidants to help keep us well and ward off illnesses and diseases. One study found that nutrient content, such as omega-3s in organic meat and milk, was 50% higher than in nonorganic meat and milk.

Our bodies don’t function well with added preservatives that can be harmful to our health.

Often, organic food is much fresher and is certainly more naturally produced.

ENVIRONMENTALLY FRIENDLY

Going organic also has a profoundly positive impact on our environment in reducing soil erosion and pollution, increasing soil fertility, conserving water, and conserving energy.

Our health and happiness are worth the investment, so organic is worth paying extra for. When possible, opt for organic and feel good about what you put in your body.

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Staging your home like a Pro

BY TABI FALCONE

Selling a home can easily be one of the most stressful times in a family’s life, but with some helpful tips on staging, it can be streamlined, and the time spent on the market shortened –thus reducing the time you spend stressed out. When asked about why staging a home is important, local realtor at the Karin Head Team EXP Realty, Amanda White, states that “People don’t want to feel like they are walking into someone else’s home, they want to feel like they are walking into their next home.”

When you think about this statement, it absolutely makes sense.

When you walk into a house that you are considering buying, you are looking to see if you feel like your family could make it your next home. It is hard for even the most creative people to make this jump if the home is filled with personal photos and the current resident’s personal items. What a potential buyer needs to see is essentially a blank slate – somewhere they can grow into and see themselves turning into their dream home.

Now, blank slate does not mean empty. It’s important for buyers to understand where they can fit their couch, their bed, and other furnishings – as well as seeing which room is used for what purposes. By keeping basic furniture that is in good shape and relatively neutral (sorry folks, you should keep your elephant carved tables in storage) out and staged in a way that opens up the rooms to make them look as big as they can, you will help your chances of selling your home quickly.

The first thing that should be done, however, is the easiest way to upgrade your house: slap a fresh coat of paint on the walls.

Unless you have painted your walls a generic color in the past three years, chances are you will greatly improve the resale chances by freshening it up. You may absolutely LOVE your bright green living room with the teal mantel over the fireplace – but that is a very specific buyer and your goal is to attract as many potential buyers as possible. Chances are the type of person who appreciates bold colors in a home is going into home buying expecting to have to paint the house regardless.

After a color has been chosen (most likely gray because, let’s be honest, it goes with everything), I would recommend having your realtor go through your home with a pack of post-its and have them mark anything that needs to be stored. White explains that it’s important to “depersonalize and declutter; everything should have a place and be in it. If it doesn’t have a place, get rid of it or store it away until the home is sold.” After the unnecessary furniture has been placed in a storage pod, box up all personal items that you don’t need to live during the selling process and send them to storage as well. Yes, it will stink to not have your family photos on the wall for a time, but do you really want everybody touring your house to see your photos from the beach in 2014 anyway? The trinkets that are left should be paired together in groups of three in aesthetically pleasing manners. For example, a framed print that states “Home is where the heart is” with a candle and a small houseplant on the mantel.

The final step is, thankfully, a simple one: your house should smell nice. Pet people: this means that your cat litter must be stored away, and any scent of a cat or dog (or ferret, rat, whatever other pet with odor you may have) must be eliminated. While showing the home, the pets themselves should also be out of the house if possible. You never know if somebody who may otherwise be very interested in your home is terrified of dogs, and your pooch in a crate in the bedroom ruins the experience for them. A quick and easy way to get the entire house smelling nice: pick up some simple vanilla plug-in air fresheners and scatter them around the house.

They’ll make your house smell like cookies, and who doesn’t want to live in a clean house that smells like cookies?

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How Smart Technology …Slows...U s . . . D o w n . . .

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

Think about it for a minute: smart technology can, in fact, slow us down. Since the wake of iPhones and tablets, we’ve become increasingly reliant on these little gadgets to the point where we shudder at the mere thought of going a day—or sometimes a waking hour—without them! We may believe this truth is ironic for something that is designed to speed our lives up and make our tasks “easier,” but there are alarming ways that smart technology can slow our minds down over time.

tasks back to our brains. Let’s make the effort to remember important events, phone numbers, and even daily reminders, even if we have to physically write them down. Don’t worry; you don’t have to go back to using those vintage address books or planners—unless you really want to! Our memories will greatly benefit from this old school memorization practices.

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Smart technology has grown increasingly rapid to the point where we find it nearly painful to wait 30 seconds until our desired YouTube video plays. Today, we’re all about immediate gratification and our smartphones are excellent at providing just that. But this instant gratification has cost us a few things: our attention spans, our patience, and our laser focus on things that matter.

Back before the era of smart technology, we were quite adept at remembering phone numbers and important events. We had tangible guides, such as phone number and address books. We relied more on planners and wall calendars (although some people still use them today, but not as heavily) to keep up with special events and appointments. These manual techniques did our brains well because writing down things such as events and phone numbers helped lock them into our memories faster versus using a smartphone.

Once upon a time, the only “alert” we needed to rely on was an alarm clock to wake us up in the morning.

Today, we literally use alerts for everything, even taking out the trash! But, before smart technology rapidly took over, we were fixated on checking our calendars for that girls’ night out or that eye appointment so that it stayed embedded in our memories. This actually served as a mental practice to strengthen our memories! But just think of how our brains have been impacted since we’ve become increasingly reliable on our smartphones reminding us to check our mailboxes!

Today, we depend on our smartphones to help us remember birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, and work meetings. We hardly make the conscious effort to remember phone numbers because we are so quick to save them under our loved one’s names! Handing these tasks over to our smartphones, unfortunately, subjects us to mental laziness; it’s like we’ve let our phones do the thinking for us. But it’s not too late for us to delegate these

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OUR BRAINS ARE… BUFFERING…

We are so enamored at the idea of playing our favorite songs in just a few short “taps” and buying that sparkling dress we’ve been eyeing for months in just minutes, that waiting for anything we want seems daunting. We’ve gotten so accustomed to fulfilling our desires quicker than normal that our patience has diminished. And at work (or even when tending to important everyday tasks), our smartphones have become a primary distraction. With those mini-computers right next to our hands, we are so tempted to scroll through social media that we quickly lose focus on what we are supposed to be doing because our smartphones seem much more interesting and less intimidating than the task at hand.

But we can break out of this habit by putting our phones out of sight or on silent. We can even give ourselves the incentive of engaging with our phones after our work is completed!

Our smartphones are wildly useful and practical in today’s world, but becoming too reliant upon them can slow our minds—and our performance—down. We should try putting them down and engaging our minds in the tangible world around us more often. Our brains thrive when we are more actively involved with the physical world.

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Sleep Better & Catch More Z Z Z ’s

Why Sleep is So Important

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER We’ve all been there, loading up on coffee and slathering on concealer to hide dark and puffy under eye bags while nodding off at work, desperate for a nap. Whatever the cause of your lack of sleep, there are ways to get a better night’s sleep and wake up refreshed, renewed, and rejuvenated. Here are some helpful tips on improving your sleep, along with some health benefits of sleeping enough versus health risks associated with lack of sleep.

SLEEPLESS SUCKS

Not getting enough shut-eye? Not good. Lack of sleep can increase your risk of disease, cause weight gain, inhibit brain function, and mess with your hormones. Loss of sleep negatively impacts how you function in daily tasks and wreaks havoc on work performance. You’re more at risk of falling due to poor balance and coordination. Driving is hazardous when you are more likely to fall asleep at the wheel. Because less sleep affects your brain, cognition goes downhill, causing you to be less alert, less focused, and unable to think clearly. Poor sleep inhibits learning and memory.

Your health is at stake with sleep deprivation, especially if it’s chronically long-term. Your immune system is weakened and leaves you susceptible to developing illnesses. The risk for developing high blood pressure increases along with the risk for developing type 2 diabetes and heart disease.

It’s also bad for your sex life. Losing zzz’s lowers libido as testosterone levels decrease along with your energy levels.

But enough about the detrimental effects of not getting enough sleep. What are the health benefits of getting enough sleep and how can you get a better night’s sleep?

In addition to good nutrition and exercise, getting enough sleep is important to your health. Adequate sleep boosts cognition and memory, helps you learn more effectively and even enables your creativity to flourish.

You may actually live longer, too. The way you sleep affects your quality of life and can have a bearing on your longevity.

A study has shown that more deaths among women aged 50 to 79 occurred among those who slept less than five hours a night. Inflammation improves with better sleep to help protect against premature aging, arthritis, stroke, diabetes, and heart disease. One study noted that C-reactive protein levels, a common marker for heart disease risk, are 25 percent higher in people who slept six hours or fewer.

HERE’S HOW TO HELP

Work with your own built-in circadian rhythm by exposing yourself to bright light during the day and keeping your room extra dark at night. Keep devices and your TV turned off at night because artificial light affects sleep-inducing melatonin production that can keep you wide-eyed, tossing, and turning. A study of people with insomnia found that those exposed to bright light in the daytime enjoyed improved sleep quality and that the time it took to fall asleep fell by 83%. Another study concluded that adding two hours of bright light during the day added an extra two hours of sleep to the participants’ slumber schedule and improved their sleep efficiency by 80%.

Cut out caffeine later in the day. Avoiding java jitters will help you get a better night’s sleep. A study has shown that sleep quality was worsened in those who consumed caffeine up to six hours before bed. Missing your nighttime beverage? Opt instead for decaf or enjoy herbal or rooibos tea that’s chock full of health benefits and is also naturally caffeine-free.

Constant cat-napper? Leave naps for the cats. One study found that people were sleepier during the day after taking long daytime naps.

Although long naps seem to be detrimental to health and sleep quality, a short 30-minute nap might be beneficial and has been shown to boost brain function.

Create a relaxing and calming atmosphere to induce sleep, and adopt a bedtime ritual like listening to soothing music or nature sounds, meditating, taking a bath and using essential oils like lavender and chamomile.

Get going on your goals to improve your sleep. The more soundly you can slumber, the healthier and happier you’ll be.

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Simplify & Streamline Your Life with Life Hacks That Make Daily Living Easier & More Convenient

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

The world is full of problems, but it’s also full of solutions. Here are some useful life hacks that can make living easier. Let’s get creative and practical about everyday living and try these DIY life hacks that can simplify and streamline your life.

• Try stacking your folded clothes vertically, so they fit more compactly in your drawer(s).

• Tie a colorful ribbon to your luggage to help you identify it as yours.

• Use a hair clip to keep your rolled-up cords neat and tidy.

• Don’t have a tripod to prop your phone up with? Lean your phone on your sunglasses.

• Scrape a post-it note along the sides of your keyboard to clean out the dust and crumbs.

• Don’t worry about losing your business cards. Keep track of your contacts by simply taking a picture of your biz cards. Then, you can save them in one place, under your Contacts.

• Place a bagel in a plastic CD spindle/container to take with you on the go.

• Crumple up a newspaper to line the bottom of your trash can with to catch and absorb any liquids.

• Label and clip-on bread clips to your cords to keep them straight.

• Color code your set of keys by painting the tops with nail polish to identify them.

• Avoid burning yourself by lighting a strand of dry spaghetti and lighting a candle wick with that.

• Put a medical information card in your wallet with your emergency contact info, your list of medications, and your blood type. This may save your life someday.

• Stash some cash in your phone case, in case you’re ever in need of some extra money.

• Stash a scented bar soap in your socks, underwear, or clothes drawers to keep them smelling fresh and clean.

• Clean up that dust and cobwebs by rolling a lint roller along your screen door.

• Want to prop up your magazine for hands-free reading when you’re cooking or baking in the kitchen or getting ready in the bathroom? Use a pants hanger to hang up your cookbook or magazine.

• Use a picture frame as a dry erase board, put a picture or paper underneath, and write on top of the glass.

• Wrap a wet paper towel around your drink and place it in the freezer for 15-30 min. Take it out and it’ll be ice cold.

• Refill your empty ketchup bottle with pancake mix for an instant, mess-free experience.

• Serve your condiments, including lettuce, onions, and tomatoes, in a muffin mold. Plus: cuts down on dishwashing.

• Store your cleaning supplies in a mountable shoe rack you can hang on the inside of your pantry door.

• Freeze grapes and toss them in your white wine to keep it chilled, but not water it down.

• When you’re about finished with a jar of Nutella or peanut butter, add a few scoops of ice cream, drizzle with chocolate sauce, and top with a maraschino cherry and a handful of nuts (e.g., pecans or walnuts).

• When you have extra coffee that cools off, add it to an ice cube tray and drop it in your iced coffee drinks to prevent them from getting watered down.

• Use a hair straightener/flat iron to keep collars and sleeves wrinkle-free.

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• Make DIY ice packs by letting sponges soak up water, putting them in plastic bags, and freezing them.

• Fix wobbly furniture by propping a coin underneath each leg.

• Write messages to your loved ones with a dry erase marker on your washer and dryer to keep track of your loads of laundry.

• Keep track of your daily water intake and stay hydrated throughout the day by drawing lines with different times on your water bottle with a marker.

• Clear and unclog your drain with 1 cup of baking soda, followed by 1 cup of vinegar, followed by 1 cup of boiling water.

• No deodorant? Use fresh citrus. Cut a lemon or orange in half and rub on your body to keep smelling fresh and odor-free.

Sometimes it just takes a little thinking outside the box and actively experimenting to discover new ways to do things that can save you time, money, and energy.

Focus on creating options and solutions for your issues and problems. Then, feel free to share your ideas, tips, and tidbits with your loved ones to improve their lives.

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SECOND WEDNESDAYS PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING

11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting.

Learn more at PWWS.org.

MARCH 1

FAMILY FIRST | BATIK SILK WORKSHOP

2-4pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. In this workshop, discover Betye Saar’s silk painting “A Matter of Clarity” (1981) and then develop your own design and silk painting.

For children in grades 1-6 and a favorite adult. Cost: $15/person; member discounts available. www.reynoldahouse.org/learn/program/ family-first-workshops

MARCH 5-8

CYRIL VERDAVAINNE SPECIAL OCCASION TRUNK SHOW

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

MARCH 6

CAROLINA LIVE! – OUR MUSICAL HISTORY

Wine Merchants WINE SHOP HOURS Monday CLOSED Tuesday - Saturday 10:00 AM to 9:00 PM Sunday 10:00 AM to 3 PM

BISTRO HOURS Dinner: Tuesday - Saturday 4:00 PM to 9:30 PM Lunch: Friday 11:30 AM to 3:00 PM Brunch: Saturday & Sunday 10:00 AM to 3:00 PM

7pm, SECCA McChesney Scott Dunn Auditorium, 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. This fundraising concert features jazz, bluegrass, blues, gospel, old-time string band, and rhythm and blues. There will be a cash bar and food available for purchase from local food trucks.

Cost: $25-$50/person. www.carolinamusicways.org/tickets

RED DOG GALLERY “REAWAKENING” EXHIBIT – GALLERY HOP EVENT

7-10pm, Red Dog Gallery, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. Red Dog Gallery is honored to present works of art by AFAS artists in the continuing exhibit “Reawakening”— an AFAS artist juried exhibition celebrating the season of rebirth. www.theafasgroup.com

MARCH 6-8

PRONOVIAS BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

MARCH 7

BRAIN POWER DAY

10am-1pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Enjoy engaging, hands-on activities geared towards teaching your child (and you!) all about our amazing brains! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. www.kaleideum.org

MARCH 7 & 21

SATURDAY ART JAM! UNLEASHED ARTS CENTER

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12:30-3pm, AFAS Center for the Arts, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. Bring the kids to Unleashed Arts Center (2nd floor/AFAS Center for the Arts) the 1st and 3rd Saturday every month between 12:30pm3:00pm. Create a fun ART project, meet new friends, free community ART event. All ages welcome. Parents/ Guardians must stay with kids while at event. There is no need to register ahead of time, just show up and bring your imagination! theafasgroup@gmail.com

MARCH 9

KIDS’ MORNING OUT

10am-11:30am, Salem Gymnastics & Swim, 4870 Country Club Road in W-S. Free event! Come see all that Salem Gymnastics & Swim has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations and two warm water pools with amazing instructors! If you’d like to give the pool a try, don’t forget your bathing suit and towel. Children under 3 must be accompanied with a parent in the pool. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous Forsyth Family Magazine prize board!

BIG DADDY WEAVE – WHEN THE LIGHT COMES TOUR

7pm, First Presbyterian Church, 200 North Cherry Street in W-S. Top-headlining CCM band, Big Daddy Weave, is coming through for the When The Light Comes Tour with special guests Paul & Hannah McClure of Bethel Music! www.transparentproductions.com/events/ big-daddy-weave-winston-salem

MARCH 12

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT

5pm-until…, Butcher & Bull, 425 North Cherry Street in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy select half price wine as well as appetizer and dinner features. Complimentary valet parking. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

MARCH 12-14

FRIDAZE & CONNIE ROBERSON SPORTSWEAR & SPECIAL OCCASION TRUNK SHOW

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional inhouse alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

MARCH 14

PARENTING CONFERENCE

8:45am-12pm, Maplewood Baptist Church, 1100 Maplewood Drive in Yadkinville. Join us for this practical and fun parenting conference led by author, counselor and professor, Dr. Shannon Warden. Parents of all-aged children are invited.

Doors will open at 8am and refreshments served.

Child-care for infants-2nd grade. Register on our website maplewoodbc.org or call church office 679.3555. Cost: $5/person.

SPRING FLING OPEN HOUSE

Your Home Marketplace, 670 South Stratford Road in W-S. Join us for this fun-filled day. Brush off those winter blues and come see what’s new.

With more than 65 different vendors, you’re sure to find everything you will need to decorate your home for spring. Enter to win several prizes and take advantage of the numerous vendor discounts throughout the entire mall. Light refreshments provided. yourhomemarketplacenc.com

MARCH 18-APRIL 23 MORNINGS AT THE MUSEUM

Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. To promote reading readiness and visual literacy, pre-schoolers and their caregivers will explore Reynolda through handson activities that encourage dramatic play, music, movement and art-making. Participating families will visit different spaces in the museum and on the grounds. Cost: $55. reynoldahouse.org/learn/ program/mornings-at-the-museum-0

MARCH 20

BALLET MAGNIFICAT PRESENTS “DELIVER US”

7pm, Ardmore Baptist Church, 501 Miller Street in W-S. Experience the Exodus from Egypt in a whole new way with Ballet Magnificat’s popular performance. Free, general admission. A love offering will be accepted. Reserve your tickets: tinyurl.com/deliverusatardmore

CELTIC SESSIONS TRIO BENEFIT CONCERT

7pm, Holy Family Catholic Church, 4820 Kinnamon Road in Clemmons. This Celtic trio will do a concert with half the proceeds going to the Clemmons Food Pantry. Tickets are $20 and will be available at the door at the Curlin Center.

MARCH 21

SECU FAMILY HOUSE MEN WHO COOK

6:30-9pm, Bridger Field House, 499 Deacon Boulevard in W-S. Get your appetites ready because the SECU Family House in W-S will be serving up the 5th annual serving of their popular “Men Who Cook” fundraising event this year. The event brings together local male celebrity chefs and their cooking teams who battle it out to please the tastebuds of nearly 400 hungry attendees of the event. Cost: $75-$500. familyhousews.org/men-who-cook

MARCH 21-22

JULIE GUDMESTAD WEEKEND YOGA WORKSHOP

10am-1pm & 3-5pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in Clemmons. Asana plus anatomy; focus on the core. Cost varies. Prerequisite: Six months of yoga experience. This will be an active workshop and is not appropriate for students with acute injuries or severely limiting conditions. sunriseyoga.net/yoga-workshops/

MARCH 22

NITSA’S APPAREL BRIDAL SAMPLE SALE

12-2pm, Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964!

No appointment necessary. Call for sizing information (725.1999). nitsas.com

MARCH 26

WINSTON-SALEM HOUSEWIVES IN THE CITY – SPRING NETWORKING & GIRLS NIGHT

5:30-8:30pm, Wise Man Brewing, 826 Angelo Bros Avenue in W-S. Shop, network and sip tasty wine and beer in one of W-S’s favorite settings. All women are welcome to attend out free networking socials, but please register your ticket via Eventbrite. Bring a friend, come make new friends, bring your business cards and come share in the fun. housewivesinthecitywsspring. eventbrite.com

HABITAT FORSYTH: A CELEBRATION OF THE FIRST 35 YEARS

6pm, Benton Convention Center, 301 West 5th Street in W-S. We are bringing together residents from the 400+ homes built, volunteers, donors and all who have journeyed with us to celebrate the past, present and future. habitatforsyth.org

MARCH 26-29

FRASCARA, WAYNE CLARK & KIM NEWPORT SPECIAL OCCASION TRUNK SHOW

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

MARCH 27

KALEIDOSCOPE BALL: A FUNDRAISER FOR KALEIDEUM

6-11:45pm, Millennium Center, 101 West 5th Street in W-S. Kaleideum’s annual fundraising gala is so named because of the kaleidoscope which inspired the Kaleideum name. The Kaleidoscope Ball raises funds that directly support Kaleideum’s mission. Cost: $150.

Tickets and additional information available at kaleideum.org/kaleidoscope-ball/.

MARCH 28

STATESVILLE ARTISAN & CRAFTER’S EXPO

10am-3pm, Statesville Activity and Fitness Center, 1875 Simonton Road in Statesville.

Join us to find that unique, handmade item!

Something for everyone – art, photography, pottery, handcrafted items, personalized items, woodworking, specialty food, honey, jams, repurposed/upcycled items and more! Admission is free. facebook.com/ events/489729988405208/

HARRY POTTER NIGHT

6-8:30pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Calling all wizards, muggles and pranksters for a magical night with an April Fool’s twist! You’ll leave with a prank of your own to surprise unsuspecting friends and family on April 1st! Advance registration highly recommended at kaleideum.org. Cost: $10/Kaleideum member; $12/non-member. Limited tickets available.

GREENSBORO SYMPHONY TANGER OUTLETS 2019-2020 MASTERWORKS SEASON

8pm, Steven Tanger Performing Arts Center, 300 North Elm Street in Greensboro.

Cost: $15-$75/person.

GET YOUR REAR IN GEAR – WINSTON-SALEM

Quarry Park, 1790 Quarry Road in W-S. Join us for the 9th Get Your Rear in Gear 5K Run/Walk to help raise awareness about colon cancer. This is a special day to celebrate, honor and remember those who have been impacted by this disease!

Cost: $28/adult; $15/youth (12 and under). donate.coloncancercoalition.org/winston-salem

FUTURE: APRIL 21-22 EMPTY BOWLS

5-7:30pm (21st); 11am-2pm (22nd), Benton Convention Center, 301 West 5th Street in W-S. Two opportunities to feed community lunch or dinner – you choose. Empty Bowls brings together top local chefs and artists as well as people like you to fight hunger in our community.

Chefs prepare soup made with fresh, wholesome ingredients and local artists create beautiful, handmade bowls for each of our guests. Live music at both events. Dinner event will feature balloon artists, magicians and a stilt walker... plus a bar. Cost: $35 in advance; $40 day of. emptybowlsnc.org

Davie Craft Association 50th Anniversary!

Craft Village Spring Fling March 21, 9am-4pm

Davie Craft Association

$1 Admission

benefits local charities

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Accent Prone . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 89 Air by Alkali . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Alexander’s Automotive . . . . . . . . 113 American Moving & Hauling . . . . . 91 Ashley Barnhardt Hairstylist . . . . 123 Brookridge Retirement . . . . . . . . . . 29 Budget Blinds . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Busy as a Bee Concierge . . . . . . . . 121 Butcher & Bull . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31,128 Carolina Characters . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Carolyn’s Baby Cakes . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Castle Lights . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Chermak & Hanson . . . . . . . . . . . . 119 Christina’s Dessertery . . . . . . . . . . 113 Chrystal Yates . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Clemmons Bicycle . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Clemmons Lip Sync Battle . . . . . . 125 Crystal Cleaner . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117 Cuppa Love Teas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 119 Dalton’s Crossing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 Davie Craft Association . . . . . . . . . 127 Dawson Tree Service . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Dirty Dozen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Duke Eye Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Emerson Designs . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Family Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 85 Farrago . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Forsyth Family Dental . . . . . . . . . . . 61 Forsyth Magazines Podcast . . . . . . 81 Forsyth Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . 67

Forsyth Woman Engaged . . . . . . . 119 Fraleigh’s Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93 Goin’ Postal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Goldman Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Grassroots Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Grille at the Glen . . . . . . . . . . . . 33,67 Habitat ReStore . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87 Hair By Alkali . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 HakkaChow . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Halo Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 Hawthorne Obgyn . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Hillcrest Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Hip Chics Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Home Maids Services . . . . . . . . . . 109 Homestead Hills . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 iHeart Radio . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 Inner Strength Pilates . . . . . . . . . . . 65 Jeffrey Adams on Fourth . . . . . . . 131 JEJ Photos . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6 Jodie Brim Photography . . . . . . . . 105 June DeLugas Interiors . . . . . . . . . . 35 Kingery & Kingery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65 Kortney Beam Designs . . . . . . . . . 122 Laster’s Antiques & Fine Art . . . . . 117 Laundry Matters . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics . . . . . 55 Liv for Sweets . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .122 Liz Fit . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Lyndhurst . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 Marzano Captial Group . . . Back Cover

Massage Envy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Medi-Weightloss . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Men Who Cook . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 98 MidTown Cafe & Dessertery . . . . . . . 4 Moji Coffee + More . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Mosquito Authority . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Mountain Valley Hospice . . . . . . . 113 My Grace-Full Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Nitsa’s Apparel . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51 Novant Health Vein Specialists . . . 73 Nu . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 101 Office Nerd . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 One Crafty Miss . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97 Paparazzi Hair Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 Pat’s Body Shop . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 Photo Artistry by Melinda . . . . . . 121 Piedmont Advantage Credit Union . 93 Piedmont Federal Savings Bank . . . 7 Piedmont Opera . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 63 Professional Women of Winston Salem . . . . . . . . . . . . . 109 Providence Restaurant . . . . . . . . . . 79 ReDESIGNS by Ava . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 71 Restoration Med Spa . . . . . . . . . . . . 37 Rodan + Fields, Kelley Carnall . . . 123 Rosie’s Hallmark . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 75 Salem Detailing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 122 Salem Plastic Surgery . . . . . . . . . . . 91 Salem Smiles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 103 Salemtowne Retirement . . . . . . . . 71

Butcher & Bull

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Second Harvest Food Bank . . . . . . . 53 Sharon Reid, DDS, PA & Tyler Wynne, DDS . . . . . . . . . . . . . 87 Simply Southern Cuisine . . . . . . . . 83 Simply Sterling & Co . . . . . . . . . . . . 73 Singing Bird Salon . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Sixth Sense Health & Wellness . . . 11 Social Southern Kitchen . . . . . . . . . 77 Starboard Accounting . . . . . . . . . . 117 State Farm, Kendall Bodford . . . . 123 Summit Eye Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24 Swanky & Swag Boutique . . . . . . . 39 TJ’s Body Shop . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 115 Trellis Hope Run . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 59 Trellis Supportive Care . . . . . . . . . . 81 Triad Mac . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Trophy Room . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Twin City Fashion Week . . . . . . . . . 17 Two Maids . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 97 United Way . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 57 Village Inn Event Center . . . . . . . . . 95 Wake Forest Baptist Health . . . . . . . 2 WFBH . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 WFBH Cosmetic & Plastic Surgery . . 75 WFBH Outpatient Imaging . . . . . . .89 Wine Merchants . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 126 WomanCare . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69 Young Cardinal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 131 Your Home Marketplace . . . . . . . . . 83

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Conversations with Your BFF Take a Lesson

BY REBECCA COOPER

from Elsa & ‘Let It Go’!

As we are now a few months into the new year, you may have begun the task of cleaning things out of your life like clothes you haven’t worn in years, kitchen gadgets you forgot you had, and friends who don’t serve a purpose in your life other than to suck the energy from your being. It’s not easy to put things and people where they belong, in your past, but if you take advice from Elsa of ‘Frozen’ fame, and ‘let it go,’ will you miss what you may feel you ‘lost’?

Are those things really losses? I’m so glad you asked!

At any given moment in life, there’s probably something or someone we need to let go of. I like inspirational quotes that help me get a clearer picture of my life and here are a few I use to clean up my life.

‘Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.’ Herman Hesse Tying ourselves to things or people in our life isn’t always the strong decision to make. There’s no doubt that staying in a bad relationship, going day to day and year to year, is easier in some ways to putting your foot down and saying, ‘I deserve better than this!’ People remain in marriages and long term relationships with loved ones and friends because it’s just not in our DNA to give up; no one likes a quitter, but sometimes letting go of people whom you have outgrown or who are taking advantage of you on a regular basis is just what you need.

The initial pain and feeling of ‘I could’ve worked harder, done more, stuck it out,’ will pass in time as you see this period in your rearview mirror.

meeting of a server at a restaurant on a particularly bad day, who gives you a word that lifts your spirits, or the woman at the vet who recently lost her dog and you both share your broken hearts over losing your best friends.

Long term, did those moments in time change the course of your life or your destiny? Not really, but sometimes those brief encounters are all we need to make it to another day. This can also apply to a friend who you never thought you’d be without, and for whatever reason, you grow apart, and they no longer play a role in your life. Initially, you look at the situation as a loss, but if you can see the break up as a lesson and reflect on the good times, you can see they were in your life during a time when no one else could fill the place they did. Value that time, but realize you have to move on.

‘Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not part of your destiny.’

- Steve Maraboli

‘You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway’ - Steve Maraboli

Over a lifetime, we meet hundreds, if not thousands of people, all of whom I believe serve some sort of purpose during our lives. Whether it is a chance

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For a moment, think about all the time and energy – and yes, stress – that you put into trying to make things and relationships work.

You have it set in your mind that ‘I must make this work. I do not want to be without this person in my life.’ If you realized how little

control you had over most things, circumstances, and people in your life, would you spend so much time stressing out over them? I know I wouldn’t.

I have spent much of my life jumping through hoops for people, doing everything I could to build a relationship that was never going to be there. It takes two to make any relationship work, whether that is a friendship, dating, and especially a marriage or long term commitment. You aren’t in control of the situation, so let it go!

‘When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. - Lao Tzu A fulfilling life is about taking risks, not a risk like jumping out of a perfectly good airplane, but thinking and stepping out of your comfort zone to grow into what you can become. In other words, what you are now is based on what has gone before you. In order to reach your full potential, you have to let go of your old limits and those things that hold you in place.

It’s not always easy, it’s usually not a lot of fun, and it is likely to be a bit scary, but to get from where you are now to where you want to be, letting go can be a cleansing of your life to let better things in.

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