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The View From This Side DECEMBER 2019 This is a hard View to write. I always want to be upbeat and encouraging in my little corner of the magazine, but this month is more difficult than others. Most of you know this has been a challenging year for our family, but as we face the first Christmas without my dad, it’s weighing heavily on me. While I certainly don’t want to be depressing, I have always been transparent. In that spirit of transparency, I’m sharing this in the hopes that our readers will pray for us as we face the holidays.

We appreciate all the prayers, encouragement, and support you’ve shown us this year!

On a better note – we have also been blessed with the most amazing physical therapist for my husband, Tim! She comes to our house twice a week and as we approach the one-year anniversary of his stroke, we are seeing some major momentum and improvement to his overall health and strength! Nothing makes me happier than to see my best friend feeling healthier and happier than he has in months!

And of course, as we bring this year to a close, I would be remiss if I didn’t thank my daughter and right-hand once again. Brooke has stepped up to the plate time and again over the last year, helping out and making things happen when I simply couldn’t. I’m so grateful for our amazing team and my amazing daughter who is proving to be a tremendous leader.

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Indeed, they were my first boutique advertiser! We’ve enjoyed a long friendship and relationship with Kristina and her team which always makes it a pleasure to feature them on the cover of our magazine! We hope you will enjoy learning more about their store.

Finally, thank you for reading!

As always, we can’t do what we do without you! Please know you are appreciated! And as you shop this holiday season, be sure to let our advertising partners know you saw them in this month’s issue!

And we hope to see you at our annual GNO Christmas Party on Tuesday, December 3rd! We are so excited about this event and have some great stuff planned at Sapona Country Club, including live music from Hawthorne Curve and a photo booth by Photo RAMIT Productions! Reservations are strongly recommended. See our ad on page 31 for the details!

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NEW YORK CITY BALLET STARS TAKE THE STAGE IN UNCSA’S STORIED PRODUCTION OF

THE NUTCRACKER

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The University of North Carolina’s (UNCSA) beloved “Nutcracker” will continue its tradition of bringing world-class ballet stars to WinstonSalem as guest artists in the production. New York City Ballet Principal Dancers Sara Mearns and Russell Janzen will visit Winston-Salem to take on the roles of the Sugar Plum Fairy and her Cavalier Prince on Wednesday and Thursday, December 18 and 19.

Sara Mearns, hailed as “one of the most celebrated ballerinas in the world,” by The New York Times, trained at the School of American Ballet, the official school of the New York City Ballet. A native of Columbia, South Carolina, she became an apprentice at the New York City Ballet in 2003, a member of the corps de ballet in 2004, a Soloist in 2006 and was promoted to Principal Dancer in 2008. Her entire professional career has been in New York City.

Also a student of the School of American Ballet, Russell Janzen has been with the New York City Ballet since 2007 when he joined as an apprentice. He became a member of the corps in 2008 and was promoted to Soloist in 2014, the same year that he was heralded on New York Times’ dance critic Alastair McCauley’s list of top male dance performances for his role in Robert Schumann’s “Davidsbündlertänze.”

Originally from Bridgeport, Connecticut, he has been a Principal Dancer since 2017.

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“We are particularly thrilled to offer two Principal Dancers from the New York City Ballet as guest dancers in our annual production of ‘The Nutcracker,’” said UNCSA Dean of Dance Susan Jaffe. “Sara and Russell are among America’s premier ballet dancers and will showcase their world-class technique and artistry in WinstonSalem. Seeing them is an opportunity not to miss,” continued Jaffe. “They are not only sure to captivate our audiences but will also bring invaluable inspiration and instruction to our UNCSA students.”

The full performance schedule for the UNCSA production of “The Nutcracker” is: December 13 at 7:30 p.m.; December 14 at Noon and 5:30 p.m.; December 15 at 2 p.m.; December 18, 19, 20 at 7:30 p.m. December 21 at 2 p.m. and 7:30 p.m.; and December 22 at 2 p.m. Tickets for “The Nutcracker” are now available at the Stevens Center Box Office, by phone at (336) 721-1945 or online at uncsaevents.com.

Ticket prices are: Prime Orchestra, $83; Orchestra Center, $61 for adults and $40 for children 13 and under; Orchestra Sides and Front Balcony, $51 for adults and $35 for children 13 and under; Center Balcony, $38 for adults and $28 for children 13 and under; Rear Balcony, $29 for adults and $24 for children 13 and under. Ticket prices include a 6.75 percent North Carolina entertainment sales tax and box office processing fee.

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Keeping It Real

THE GIFT THAT WON’T FIT

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Today, Paul would gather with a missionary team to leave every familiar thing behind and reside in eleven countries for eleven months.

Previous missionaries warned us of sparse communication from these places. Many of the world’s remote villages exist without electricity and plumbing, much less WiFi. What kind of mama sends her son to live in such impoverished places?

What kind of mama allows her child to embark on a yearlong mission that will surely kill him? (I meant to say that!)

You can’t literally become one with “the least of these” for the cause of Christ and return unchanged. It’s simply impossible! Something in you will die so that the most real part of you can truly live.

What’s with these fanatics, decking the halls weeks before Thanksgiving, then insisting on stretching that tinseled celebration straight into the New Year?

Guilty! Yes, I binge on this season that invites grown-ups to become children again.

Like every kid, I got revved up over presents under the tree. I would jiggle each one and Wear.My.Mama.OUT with constant guessing!

It’s easy to lose that wonder. Our deepest desires no longer fit under the tree. Bows cannot top our innermost longings. This girl adores everything Christmas. But this year, no colorful box can contain my heart’s cry.

Anxious thoughts buffeted my peace all night. In the morning, dark circles exposed the battle scars, so I slathered on concealer.

I heard my son stuffing one collapsible backpack with all he would own for the coming year. Puddles of tears dissolved my concealer as I realized his scuffling on the other side of that wall would soon be silent.

I tried to ready myself for the coming hours. How could I say goodbye without embarrassing him? What if he got sick and I wouldn’t even know it? How frequently would he be surrounded by danger with no protection but the Angel Armies of God? Tears wreaked havoc. I exhausted myself searching for solutions to boatloads of questions. Trepidation taunted as uneasiness escalated.

Out of nowhere, one of my music apps suggested a song that stopped me in my tracks. Back in the day, my sweet baby boy delighted in this melody. He would yell from his car seat, “Play ‘Cru-Ti-Fied with Christ,’ Mama!”

“Crucified with Christ” became a signature mark between us. Even from college, Paul often texted it to recall sweet memories and declare allegiance to the call upon our lives: “Even though it took dying to survive, I've never felt so much alive. For I am crucified with Christ and yet I live!”

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Now, as these cherished lyrics seeped deeply into my soul, I realized THIS anxiety-filled day was everything I had ever prayed for my son.

Right there in my bathroom, I became painfully aware that my son is too grown up for that once-protective car seat. In fact, he is too grown up to protect at all. Crazily enough, peace overwhelmed me.

The reality? My son was never mine. He has always belonged to God. Now, Paul knows it, too. I’ve prayed since his birth that his whole life would enthusiastically declare, “I am crucified with Christ and yet I live.” And so, it is.

This Christmas will be different for our family.

Paul’s absence will certainly create some tears. But we’ll smile, too, from a gift that won’t fit under our tree but will be hallowed in our hearts. Our son is doing what matters most: offering his life as a living sacrifice to the One who created him, calls him, carries him, and keeps him.

What do you want that won’t fit under the tree? What deep longing has been on your list so long that you wonder if it is still possible? Have you prayed about it?

I promise, He’s listening. He may deliver it in an entirely unexpected (even uncomfortable) package. But He longs to give us the desires of our hearts. I have seen it. I am living it.

I stake my very life on it! You can, too!

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SORE THROAT

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

It’s that time of year again when the dreaded sore throat creeps up on you at any given moment. It may be time to get flu shots, but it’s also time to keep our bodies healthy for the season. While many folks would rather take medicine to speed up the healing process, there are others who don’t believe in manmade medication and prefer to take the natural route.

There may also be some who want to start using home remedies, but don’t know the best way to go about it.

Here are some simple home remedies for a sore throat to get you started!

HERBAL TEAS

Herbal teas are naturally quite healing for various ailments, and there are a plethora of teas that can be used to soothe and eventually heal a sore

throat. Decaffeinated green tea and clove tea both have antibacterial properties to combat infection and fight inflammation while providing pain relief. Other great herbal teas to try are chamomile, raspberry, and peppermint tea because they all reduce inflammation and pain.

Chamomile tea helps with hoarseness, while peppermint tea can numb your throat for a while. Herbal teas are suggested over caffeinated teas because resting is paramount in the healing process, so drinking decaffeinated tea will not only soothe a sore throat, but help you relax.

HUMIDIFIERS

Many times, sore throats are caused by dry air, especially in the cold seasons. It’s very common to wake up with a sore throat if you’ve been sleeping in a cool, dry room all night.

So if this happens to you often, it’s best to keep your throat moist overnight and invest in a humidifier.

A humidifier keeps the air moist while opening your sinuses, thereby reducing your chances of waking up with a sore throat.

SALTWATER

Gargling salt water is effective in killing bacteria that cause sore throats while loosening the mucus and easing pain. This remedy is not immediately effective, nor will it heal sore throat right away, but doing it a few times daily will do the job. All you need is eight ounces of warm water and half a teaspoon of salt to gargle.

APPLE CIDER VINEGAR

This remedy is centuries old and has been prescribed by the father of medicine himself, Hippocrates! The main ingredient of apple cider vinegar, acetic acid, fights bacteria. Mixing apple cider with honey creates a powerful combination that helps treat common flu symptoms such as coughs and sore throats. Treat yourself to this natural home remedy by mixing one tablespoon of apple cider vinegar with some honey.

HONEY

Honey, honey, honey! It is one of the most powerful remedies for cold symptoms, especially sore throat. Its natural antibacterial properties allow it to be a wound healer while fighting pain and inflammation simultaneously. Honey is also a natural cough suppressant. There are a couple of ways to use honey as a home remedy. You can either take two tablespoons of honey in a cup of warm water or herbal tea several times a day, or you can just swallow two tablespoons of raw honey by itself (preferably in the morning). Using either method will offer quick pain relief.

LEMON WATER

Like saltwater and honey, lemon water (or just plain lemons) helps to break up mucus and relieve pain. Lemons are loaded with vitamin C, which empowers your immune system to fight off your infection. Just one tablespoon of freshly squeezed lemon juice in warm water will provide quick relief!

Home remedies are an important alternative to those who are sensitive to over-the-counter medicine and its side effects. Not only will these remedies heal your throat naturally, they also keep your body healthy as a whole by building up your immune system to fight off future cold symptoms all winter!

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When you hear the word “stress,” do you automatically associate it with something negative? Many people are surprised to learn that both negative and positive experiences produce stress. Stress is just a response to change, whether the change is good or bad, welcome or unwelcome. Every life situation that requires us to change or adapt creates stress.

While the holiday season is certainly one of the good stresses in life, it can feel like—or become—a bad stress if we overdo it. During such a busy time of year, we can all use a few ideas for reducing holiday stress. Here are six practical holiday stress-busters:

1. Plan ahead. The trick to avoiding the exhaustion and stress of “holiday overload” is planning ahead. Before your schedule gets crazy, pour yourself a cup of coffee, relax, and take a little time to objectively think and plan. By planning ahead, you’ll be able to set priorities that will allow your time and energy to be spent on the things that are most important to you.

2. Recruit some help! Decorating, shopping, cooking, and memory-making holiday activities can be fun, but also exhausting if you try to do it all, all by yourself.

When you need help, ask your family or friends to pitch in. Some of the sweetest holiday memories with friends and family are made while “on the journey” together on the days leading up to the big day. But if others can’t or won’t help, reconsider how much you really want to do.

3. Accept your feelings. Sometimes holiday stress

comes from inside of us instead of from without. Holidays can trigger all kinds of memories and feelings, both good and not so good, from childhood or from recent sad or tragic events in your life or the life of your family. Remind yourself that you don’t have to feel “merry” or “jolly” or any other certain way during the holiday season. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you feel.

4. Schedule time to rest. In the midst of all the

hustle and bustle, try to set aside at least 20 minutes of downtime for yourself each day. Spend that time soaking in a bubble bath, listening to relaxing music, taking a walk, or however you like. You’ll have more energy, more patience, and less stress if you take good care of yourself while you are doing so much to make everyone else’s holiday experience special. (Remember, you’re special, too!)

5. Get practical about gift-giving. Here are options for you and your family to consider:

• Draw names. If your extended family is large and gift buying has gotten out of control, see if your family will agree to draw names instead.

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• Take shopping shortcuts. Shop early from catalogs and Internet stores. Many online retailers will now wrap your gifts and ship them directly to your out-of-town family and friends.

• Shop year-round. You can relieve a lot of holiday stress by shopping year-round. Instead of waiting until after Thanksgiving to start shopping, pick up gifts while you’re on summer vacation, whenever you’re out of town, or any time local stores have sales throughout the year.

6. Last but not least, don’t expect a perfect holiday.

There is no right or wrong way to celebrate Christmas Eve, Christmas day, Hanukkah, Kwanza, New Year’s Eve, or any other holiday. All of us have childhood memories, impressions from the media, and ideals of our own about how we think a holiday “should” be. In reality, an ideal holiday is one that is celebrated in whatever ways work for you and your family!

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HOPE

BY VIC KHEMSARA, MD

We live in a different world today - even from 10 years ago.

Change is all around us, and sometimes we feel “HOPELESS.” What is HOPE? Webster’s says it is a “feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.” The verb definition is to “want something to happen or to be the case.”

We all know people who are hopeful, non-hopeful, or pessimistic.

One can think life is unfair and have the attitude “Why me?”

Or one can think, “I can handle this and never have a thought of why this happened to me – it just did.” We all face setbacks and wonder whether we’re going to get by. We all know what it’s like to feel you’re on the brink of disaster. Many of us know what has happened to a loved when all hope was lost or they lost all hope.

Most trials and tribulations affect us based on how we react to them. One of the most important strengths we have in life is hope or being hopeful and it can determine the outcome of everything.

Hope in our lives creates positive emotions, reduces stress, creates self-worth, improves social relationships, and in general, makes us happier. Each day and whatever it may bring is faced head on with hope and optimism.

Along with hope comes belief. Referring back to Webster’s – a synonym for hope is belief.

Christmas is a celebration of God’s gift of hope for the world.

Jesus, the Son of God, was sent to us to forgive us for our many sins and shortcomings and to provide us with life everlasting and hope on a daily basis. We just have to believe and ask him to be our Lord and Savior and make him the center of our life.

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During the Christmas season, let’s fill our souls to overflowing with belief, hope, and being hopeful for a better world or, on a smaller scale, a better family life, a better workplace, or neighborhood. If we have an overflow within ourselves, it will spill over and add hope to someone else’s life. It occurs every day with a smile, a touch, a word of encouragement, and a faithful prayer. My prayer and “hope” for anyone reading is that your Christmas and New Year are filled with health, happiness, and hope to last throughout 2020.

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Christmas at Beauty, Whimsy & Style

BY ADELE CASANOVA, PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM PHOTOGRAPHY

What could be more whimsical than an upside-down Christmas tree? Enter Kim Taylor & Company on Stratford Road, and you will love their famous upside-down tree laden with creative, fun Christmas ornaments. This tree has been a beloved tradition at Kim Taylor & Company for eighteen years. What a great way to begin your Christmas shopping! You will then discover what many local savvy shoppers know – Kim Taylor & Company is one of the best shopping experiences in town!

Offering a large variety of unique gift items from ornaments to jewelry, casual easywearing women’s fashions, yummy gourmet food items (great for the men on your list), candles, home design/décor items, art, cookbooks and much, much more.

Originally started as an interior design company by Kim Taylor in 1986, this wonderful business has evolved to include one of the area’s premier gift shops. With Kim Taylor’s talent for design and color, she has been able to stock her gift shop with lovely, timely home décor items, as well as a host of popular personal gift items. She has a penchant for detail and is constantly researching trends and styles, so she can fill her gift business with quality, timeless pieces in a variety of price points to fit all budgets and all ages. She finds great inspiration for the gift shop from her design experience. Kim finds running her gift shop while managing her design business, is a pleasure with the invaluable input from her longtime manager, Diane Green. “I appreciate Diane’s organizational skills, and the clients love her personal relationship building style,” says Kim. At Kim Taylor’s, you will find stunning jewelry like the one of a kind pieces by local artist Lori Snyder, as well as other fashionable jewelry lines, including Julie Vos. Trendy women’s clothing at Kim Taylor’s includes Mud Pie, Krazy Larry, Gretchen Scott, and other fashionable independent lines. Not sure of someone’s size? Shop the selection of beautiful scarves and gloves at Kim Taylor. No size needed! Or consider a Christmas themed candle made locally in Charlotte by Ella B. These hand-poured, pure soy candles are perfectly scented with a variety of holiday seasonal fragrances.

Who doesn’t love a Christmas candle?

A very popular item this gift-giving season at Kim Taylor’s is the charcuterie board! Buy one for yourself and wow your guests this holiday with an epic charcuterie selection of delectable, savory treats topped off with delicious gourmet food items from Kim Taylor’s, including cheese straws and delicious sauces.

“This year, one of the hottest items we are selling is the portable Karaoke microphone,” says Diane. “People love this Karaoke microphone to give as a fun gift, or to bring to a party or family gathering. It simply syncs with your phone, how easy is that!”

Another creative gift idea to pursue at Kim Taylor’s is the purchase of items that are on your friend’s or loved one’s Kim Taylor Wedding Gift Registry. Popular gift registry selections include Vietri dinnerware, glassware, and flatware.

Weddings and anniversaries near the holidays lend themselves to perfect gift giving from Kim Taylor & Company.

Mark your calendars for Kim Taylor’s much anticipated Annual Holiday Open House to be held Thursday, December 5th, from 5:00 to 9:00 p.m. Delicious food, including Kim’s famous sweet potato biscuits, will be served along with seasonal beverages. And best of all, there will be giveaways of cool products and gift cards throughout the evening!

This popular Holiday Open House will be followed by yet another spectacular event at Kim Taylor’s with the Annual Champagne Brunch scheduled for Friday, December 13th. This fun holiday brunch has been a customer favorite for several years. Held from 9:00 to 11:30 a.m., this yummy champagne brunch will include games and more fabulous giveaways!

Pop into Kim Taylor & Company and sign up for their email list so you never miss one of their fun events or annual sales. While there, you will be treated to an exceptional shopping experience!

And enjoy free gift wrapping! One of the best ways to treat yourself to a stress-free holiday!

Kim Taylor & Company is located at 153 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. They are open Monday – Friday from 10 AM – 5:30 PM; Saturday from 10 AM – 3 PM; and closed on Sunday. Reach them at 336.722.8503 or visit KimTaylorAndCo.com. Like and follow them on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest.

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Located at the DoubleTree Hotel on University Parkway, Providence Restaurant is open to the public and easily accessible from anywhere in Winston-Salem. The décor is lovely – sophisticated and charming. And while you may be temporarily distracted by comfy pillows and trendy lighting, once they hand out the menus, everyone quickly gets down to business.

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One of my favorite dining experiences is Providence Restaurant. Not only because they have fantastic food and excellent service, but because the whole dining experience supports such a wonderful cause! It doesn’t take much to convince me that eating out is a great idea, but add a non-profit restaurant to the mix – one that supports the Second Harvest Food Bank’s culinary program and helps create jobs and makes dreams come true? Yes, please. I’ll drive. So with all that said, I was super happy to see Providence came up on my list of restaurants to review. While this isn’t my first review, with their ever-changing menu, there’s always something new to experience!

when appetizer Bread comes to the table, we can’t indulge ourselves too much. After all, the most dangerous thing to do at Rosey’s Review is to fill up too early in the evening! But when a basket of warm and buttery garlic bread came to the table, served with a plate of herbed oil – none of us could resist the temptation. And none of us wanted to. Sometimes, a restaurant reviewer has to live on the edge and friends, I was living dangerously.

Next to arrive were bowls of She Crab Soup.

After making my standard dumb joke of “How do they know which ones are she’s?” we got busy tasting. The She Crab Soup had great flavor. It was creamy, full of chunky crabmeat, and had a beautiful flavor of herbs. It was a unique twist on traditional She Crab Soup! Seafood enthusiasts will approve!

We sampled a few appetizers, and the Wild

Mushroom Crostini is a hearty appetizer that packs a flavorful punch. The mushrooms are rich and delicious. And with a topping of onion jam – there was a hint of sweet that set the whole thing off perfectly.

We also tried the Kickin’ Wings and let me just say – kickin’ is no joke. WOWZA, those were hot, but they were crazy-good! The wings are meaty and smoked. But then, they are fried and topped with a honey garlic sauce that has a serious dose of heat! Amazing!

But hands down, my favorite appetizer – and the one I bogarted without shame – was the Flash

Fried Brussels Sprouts. Y’all, I think it’s time to just say it: Brussels Sprouts have usurped broccoli as my favorite vegetable. And I love me some broccoli. I can eat it morning, noon, and night.

But give me a dish of exceptionally made Brussels Sprouts, and I am a happy, happy girl. These were so beautifully prepared and topped with lemon garlic aioli and garnished with Parmesan.

My applause to the chef for this one. I hope they never take it off the menu. And if they do, I hope they will send me the recipe. Nom nom nom…

AThe wait staff tried to clear our appetizer dishes, but I stubbornly held on to my Brussels Sprouts even as our first entrée arrived. Duck Hash Skillet is an unusual dish. The duck is slowly cooked in its own fat (duck confit) and served on crispy potatoes (also cooked in duck fat). A vegetable hash is topped with bacon vinaigrette, pickled shishito (chili) peppers, and topped with a soft egg. It’s a beautiful meal and full of rich flavor that has some unexpected twists! It’s a dish that could be summed up as “elegantly rustic.”

Few comfort foods have had as profound an influence on my life as the humble meatloaf. But in the hands of Providence?

Well, this ain’t your grandma’s meatloaf.

This is a sophisticated version of a comfort food classic. And while I love the traditional, I have a soft spot in my heart for Providence’s House Meatloaf! There are all kinds of great things about this dish – hello, Tomato Bacon Jam—I’m talking to you. But honestly, it was the ketchup that really got my attention. I’m just going to admit that I don’t like ketchup. I don’t even like the smell of ketchup. I don’t know why. I like tomatoes. I like vinegar.

But I steer clear of ketchup. I don’t even use it on my fries. But y’all – Providence brought out Green Tomato Ketchup. And it was IN. CRED. IBLE. I was a ketchup convert that night. But not for the other ketchup. Just the green kind.

So speaking of comfort food. I have two words for you – Chicken. And

Dumplings. And be still my beating heart – they made it with house-made ricotta gnocchi. This dish is one of the reasons Providence is as amazing as it is. They take something that most of us would never imagine being improved upon – and then they improve upon it!

Seriously! First ketchup, and then Chicken & Dumplings? My Southern food o’ meter was in overdrive. Especially when I realized they added the secret ingredient. The secret ingredient that all Southern chefs instinctively know will make any meal ten times better… They added bacon.

After all that, the bar was set incredibly high, and for dessert – they served DJ’s Butter Pecan Cheesecake. DJ is

an alumnus of the program. After he graduated, he started his own cheesecake business and Providence is proud to feature his decadent desserts. As far as THIS cheesecake goes -- it was a mic drop moment. This magnificent dessert was creamy. Rich. And as one of my dinner mates so perfectly put it – it tastes like fall. It was the perfect way to wrap up a delicious meal!

Go. Go now. (Double check their hours first and make sure they are open.

Otherwise, you’ll be sad.) But you have to try this new menu at Providence. It’s incredible. Please be sure to tell them that Rosey sent ya!

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A few days ago, my friend posted something on Facebook that shook me to my core. It was titled “Why People With Anxiety ACTUALLY Cancel Plans Last Minute,” and I have never felt more seen. Reasons like “They’re too exhausted to face the world and pretend to be ‘okay’” to “They’re struggling and don’t want to burden you with their problems” covered this illustration. It was simply a person holding their head that was surrounded by scribbles and phrases around the person.

It was as if I made that image myself.

I can’t tell you how often my anxiety got in my way before I started taking care of it. I would make plans: coffee with friends, a call with a client, a workshop for my company even, and at the last minute, I would cancel and then shortly after, ghost that friend or client. Whether it be overwhelm, exhaustion, overstimulation, or just the general feeling of being over it, I would find myself at home, beating myself up, and too embarrassed to call that person up and tell them what was happening in my brain and life.

If you’re wondering what ghosting is, it’s exactly what it sounds like – suddenly, and without warning, communication stops immediately, and that person disappears, much like a ghost. They are just gone from your life: no texting, no emails, no calls – just gone.

Sound familiar, maybe even a little too familiar?

Whether you’re canceling plans yourself or getting your plans canceled by the same friend every single time, an important thing to remember this holiday season: people who ghost because of anxiety aren’t doing it because they are rude, or because they don’t like you anymore, or truly anything to do with you. Anxiety disorders are one of the most common types of mental illnesses, so the chances of it affecting you or someone you know are high.

IF YOU RECOGNIZE THIS BEHAVIOR IN A FRIEND:

Anxiety Ghosting No, I’m Not A Flake

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Don’t lessen their panic or anxiety by talking about a situation where you felt similarly – unless you also have an anxiety disorder.

Saying, “Oh, my gosh, seeing my dinner bill gave me a panic attack!” doesn’t help someone who feels panic leaving the house every day, it just lessens their anxiety.

Don’t tell them to calm down, meditate, take CBD or try another trend of the moment, no matter if you know it works or not.

Unsolicited advice isn’t helpful when someone is suffering from anxiety, and it’s really not helpful when things are so intense that breathing feels like a chore.

Don’t ask why they aren’t “fixing” it with medicine or therapy.

Your friend isn’t broken, they have anxiety, and they need to make decisions at their own pace. Harping on them to “get help” or “take a pill” – two things I heard consistently before I started therapy – just creates shame.

Do tell them you care about them and are concerned about their anxiety.

Do ask them if there is anything you can do for them. Ask them what they need and do it. Don’t offer and then skip it – even if the request seems silly to you. Little things can be majorly helpful!

IF YOU RECOGNIZE THIS BEHAVIOR IN YOURSELF:

Take time out to check in: is this something that happens once in a while or something that is consistent? If it’s the first time, be sure to monitor it. If you’ve been feeling this for a while, find someone you can talk to about it. This doesn’t have to immediately be a therapist or counselor; it might be a friend or someone you trust. There is no shame in getting help.

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Design Strategies for 2019 Showcase Parade of Homes When it’s time for the Parade of Homes, we are always excited when the builder brings us plans to review and this year was no different. The architectural plan gave us a great light-filled open space to work with. We went about our normal design inspiration – finding the right fabric first and then starting the process of pulling color and material selections for the house. Of course, new fabrics and new colors are our closest friends.

This year the fabric represented the newest Benjamin Moore colors for 2019. As a matter of fact, we just finished a Benjamin Moore seminar earlier in the year to learn about new colors. From the seminar, we walked away with five colors that were used in the new Parade House. We painted the paint colors on large 12x24 inch paint boards and laid them out in the office for weeks to ponder, contemplate, and reflect upon. The fabric of our choice and the paint color boards were seen every day to make sure the feel was just what we wanted.

Ultimately, the ambiance was a huge success during the open house. Warming the large space that was decked out in cooler, neutral colors was easy to do with gold hardware and fabrics. The Smoke color on the island and laundry room cabinets were stunning, also with gold accents. These colors were a big hit. (There is a method to our madness!)

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Our signature at June DeLugas Interiors, as well as our strategy for the Parade Home, is bright and wonderful – we love open spaces. We were so pleased with the colors this year. So many people asked about the materials and color, therefore, we gave out informational sheets the second weekend. The other cabinets in the house were painted White Dove. Furnishings, accessories, and artwork were purchased by JDI using the theme colors. People tell us that our houses flow and our paint choices really make a difference.

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Signature rugs, which were all vintage except the family room, were placed all over. The family room rug was a custom-made carpet with an adornment of an animal-shaped fake zebra rug.

We sprayed curly sticks gold for the tall vases to bring the eye up with the height of the ceiling.

The light fixture in the family room filled the space, which also gave off generous light.

I understand that some folks are apprehensive about using a design firm, but most of the time you receive multiple ideas and creativity from a professional. For us, we have four people on the design team, so you get a lot of value for your money and a great design to boot.

December is the time of year to also think about what you will be doing in January.

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ALWAYS A TIME FOR TEA Love in Every Cuppa!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

It’s hard to imagine life without a good cuppa tea to sip away our cares. Not only is tea delicious, it is also nutritious, rich in antioxidants, and has a multitude of health benefits. One of the most diverse drinks ever, and the most popular beverage worldwide after water, options for different types of tea are endless.

Like wines and beers, teas contain interesting orchestrations of flavor combinations that please the palette and speak to the senses. Enter Cuppa Love Teas with authentic tea blends that are “unlike any others you’ll find out there,” says founder and owner Susan Schabacker of her local Winston-Salem based tea business that launched at Twin City Hive Coffee Lounge this past August and is making its way around town. Cuppa Love Teas can be found at a/perture cinema, Sixth and Vine Wine Bar, and Moji Coffee + More.

Whether you’re a local yokel or an international traveler just stopping by Winston-Salem for a visit, you can enjoy a Local/Location line of unique tea blends that make each place special and memorable. Here is what’s available at Twin City Hive Coffee Lounge. There’s WS (Winston-Salem), a green tea blend; PT (Piedmont Triad), a caffeine-free herbal tea blend; NC (North Carolina), a white tea blend; and USA (United States of America), a rooibos tea blend.

Upcoming blends might just be GSO (Greensboro) and Sweet South!

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Schabacker hopes to expand her line blend-by-blend and place-by-place and hopes to sell Cuppa Love Teas online from her website, cuppaloveteasWS.com, as well as from other store locations in the Piedmont Triad, North Carolina and beyond.

Schabacker is excited about selling teas at all of her beloved distributors and gives each one a special thank you. Twin City Hive is the perfect place to relax or work with a cuppa where tea goes hand-in-hand with the local Fools Gold honey. For moviegoers, a/perture is the place to catch a film and try a Cuppa Love Teas tea blend. Moji Coffee supports people with intellectual and developmental disabilities and works with The Enrichment Center.

Having enjoyed a marketing internship in London with the Bramah Museum of Tea and Coffee, Schabacker is a fan of afternoon tea. The polite way to drink tea is to put your pinkies out, hence Cuppa Love Teas’ new blend “Pinkies Out,” which was blended specially with inspiration from Downton Abbey (Schabacker’s fav TV show) just in time for the launch at a/perture cinema where they now carry other Cuppa Love Teas tea blends.

Schabacker encourages even those who aren’t that fond of tea to give Cuppa Love Teas tea blends a try. If at first you don’t find your fav blend, try, try again. You may be pleasantly surprised. There’s something for everyone – for those who love a strong black tea, a less caffeinated green tea, a subtle white tea, or caffeine-free herbal teas and rooibos tea.

Tea is so much more than just drinking a beverage. It is the ultimate experience of making, sharing, and sipping tea that is not to be missed and the pleasure of steeping loose, whole leaf teas that are vastly better quality than the typical tea bag filled with tea dust or “fannings.” Schabacker compares real tea to a garden-fresh ripe tomato versus a dull, lackluster store-bought tomato, and Cuppa Love Teas’ goal is to convert “tea virgins” into “tea lovers.”

Connect with Cuppa Love Teas directly via email: CuppaLoveTeas@gmail.com and on social media: @CuppaLoveTeas on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest and @TeasCuppa on Twitter. Also, please frequent the Cuppa Love Teas website: CuppaLoveTeasWS.com for more info and blog updates.

The first distributor, Twin City Hive Coffee Lounge, warmly welcomed Cuppa Love Teas on board to the local scene.

In addition to selling Cuppa Love Teas by the cup, they also sell packages of loose tea that make ideal gifts. ‘Tis the season for giving!

Feel the love in every cuppa and know how loved and special you are. Steep, share, sip, and savor a Cuppa Love Teas authentic tea blend and let us know your favs!

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Medical Weight-Loss Programs Extend Far Beyond Diet An airplane flight was the wake-up call Katie Toomes needed to lose weight.

Katie had been referred to Wake Forest Baptist Health’s Weight Management Center after a consultation for surgery. While trying to decide if she wanted to do the weight-loss program, Katie took a trip to Katie Toomes Boston. after losing 90 pounds “For the on the weight-loss first time program ever, I had a hard time buckling the seatbelt on the airplane,” Katie said. “I love traveling and have flown all over the world, so this was quite the wakeup call for me. I called the Weight Management Center as soon as I got off the plane in Boston to make an appointment.”

GAINING FREEDOM BY LOSING WEIGHT

Katie ended up choosing the Optifast program, a comprehensive course that included meal-replacement and nutrition plans; behavior modification to promote lifestyle changes; counseling to address underlying issues that contribute to weight problems; medical attention to weight-related problems and personal exercise training with a fitness specialist; plus follow-up sessions, support, and guidance. “I knew that I needed to have the accountability piece in my journey and felt this more intensive program would provide that,” she explained.

Katie lost 90 pounds, went from a size 18 to a size four, and no longer takes any medication for weight-related problems. “Overall, I am significantly happier. The vanity part is nice, but I find more joy because I have more mobility and feel like food no longer controls my life,” Katie said. “I hiked Mount Rainer, kayaked in Thailand and went on an adventure tour in Australia. I lost so much weight, physically and mentally, and I gained freedom in my life to pursue the adventures I wanted.”

OBESITY DECLARED A DISEASE

A Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study released in 2017 stated that 39.8 percent of American adults were obese in terms of body-mass index, a measure of body fat calculated from weight and height. In 2013, the American Medical Association (AMA) declared obesity a disease.

The AMA’s action was important to Jamy Ard, MD, Co-Director of the Weight Management Center, which offers both medical weight-control programs and weight-loss surgery.

Katie Toomes before starting Weight Management Center weight-loss program

For more information about Wake Forest Baptist Health’s Weight Management Center programs and locations near you, call 336-716-6099 or visit WakeHealth.edu/WeightManagement.

“Historically, providers have been taught directly or implicitly that obesity is related to being lazy and inactive,” Ard said. “The AMA’s statement and obesity science are changing people’s attitudes. The next step is to improve access to more medical treatment for obesity.” Ard noted that most commercial weight-loss programs have centered on diet rather than lifestyle changes. However, medical weight loss focuses “on the ideal weight for you to do the things you want to do and be healthy.”

For people with serious weight problems who are not interested in, or candidates for, weight-loss surgery, the Weight Management Center has two physiciansupervised weight-loss programs that go beyond diet and exercise to tackle obesity from multiple angles.

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13 Ways to Protect Your Dog in Winter

BY PHIL RAY

1. Let’s talk temperature! Some dog breeds are blessed with thick fur that keeps them warm naturally, even in very cold temperatures, but dogs with thin coats may need to wear a sweater or coat when out for winter walks. A good coat should reach from the neck to the base of the tail and also protect the belly. But remember that coats will not prevent frostbite on the ears, feet, or tail.

2. Try to walk your dog in the late morning or early afternoon hours when temperatures are a little warmer, and avoid early morning or late evening walks. Spend time playing outdoors while it’s sunny; sunshine brings the added benefit of providing both you and your pet with vitamin D. 3. Indoor pets are happiest and our family pets need to be indoors with us. The happiest dogs are taken out frequently for walks and exercise, but live inside the rest of the time. A good rule of thumb is to go out with them and when you’re ready to come in, they probably will be, too.

4. Provide cozy bedding and don’t let your pooch sleep on a cold floor in winter. Choosing the right bedding is vital to ensure your dog stays warm.

Place your dog’s bed in a warm spot away from drafts, cold tile, or uncarpeted floors, preferably in a favorite spot where he sleeps every day so that the area doesn’t feel unfamiliar.

5. Protect your dog from heaters. Dogs will often seek heat during cold winter weather by snuggling too close to heating sources. Avoid space heaters and install baseboard radiator covers to avoid your pet getting burned. Fireplaces also pose a major threat, so please make sure you have a pet-proof system to keep your heat-seeking pal out of harm’s way!

6. Dry and cold weather can do a number on your pet’s skin. Help prevent dry, flaky skin by adding a skin and coat supplement to his food. Coconut and fish oils are easy foods that can help keep your pet’s skin and coat healthy.

7. No overfeeding please! Although dogs may need an extra layer in winter, make sure it comes from a coat and not a layer of fat. Cold temperatures may even bring on lazy behavior and the need for fewer calories. Be attentive to your dog’s activity level and adjust his calories accordingly. A high quality, healthy diet will help ensure a healthy coat and good energy for the cold winter months.

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8. Dogs can dehydrate just as quickly in winter as summer. Although many dogs eat snow, it’s not an adequate substitute for fresh water. Always provide fresh water and change it often to entice adequate hydration.

9. Your dog needs a clean, well-groomed coat to keep him properly insulated.

This is especially important if your dog spends a lot of time outdoors. A properly groomed coat will keep your pet adequately prepared for winter woes.

10. Paw care is a must. Just as we tend to develop foot cracks in winter, dogs can also suffer from cracked pads. If your dog has furry feet, trim the hair that grows between his pads to prevent ice build-up. Winter salt can also burn your dog’s pads and is toxic, so rinse or wipe your dog’s paws to remove any salt – you don’t want him licking it off. If your dog shows signs of discomfort when walking outside on frozen or salted surfaces, consider using dog booties to protect his paws.

11. Although your dog is likely to be having a great time outdoors, take frequent indoor breaks for water and warming and don’t ever stay out too long. If you’re walking or playing in unfamiliar areas, keep your dog close. It’s easy for him to venture onto unsafe surfaces such as frozen ponds or lakes. These may be covered in snow and not easily visible.

12. NEVER leave your dog unattended in the car, no matter what the season. Just as cars can get dangerously hot in summer, freezing cold temperatures are equally dangerous for your dog in winter. Leaving the car running involves additional risks, including carbon monoxide poisoning if the car is parked in a garage.

13. Cold weather will often aggravate existing medical conditions in dogs, particularly arthritis.

It’s very important to maintain an exercise regimen with your arthritic dog, but be mindful of slippery surfaces and make sure your dog has a warm, soft rest area to recuperate after activity. If you don’t already give your senior dog a natural joint supplement to lubricate the joints and ease the discomfort of arthritis, you may want to consider adding one in winter.

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BY LISA S.T. DOSS

A feeling of sympathy goes towards the guardians of the community, who willingly work on significant holidays, especially Christmas. There are occasions that a colleague will offer to accept a shift or trade to help EMS, doctors and nurses, and police officer dads and moms celebrate the special day with children. The exception goes to the men and women, who willingly agreed to place country and service before family and self. The obligation of being a member of the United States military is one of sacrifice. Throughout the seasons, special events and important holidays often include one-member absences. Christmas is no exception. Men and women deploy to more than 150 countries around the world, which include more than 165,000 active-duty personnel.

DEPLOYED MEN AND WOMEN

Not all men and women who deploy are 10-feet deep in a foxhole or sitting in a tent surrounded by thousands of miles of sand. Location, while important, is not the only aspect that aids morale. When you cannot be with your spouse and children, the next best form of comfort is the people who know your strengths and weaknesses as well as understand your emotions and story. The men and women of the unit are a tight-knit group and can help one other make the best of their situation and day. The comedian of the group may walk through the base wearing a reindeer or Santa suit. The one who sings will belt out Christmas carols, hoping others will join in or dance.

Decorations on a ship or in the chow hall help boost festive spirits. Communication tents allow access to video-chats and cram wall-to-wall with as many as will fit. Voices may be at a whisper, but at least loved ones will see home and the faces of the people they love, in addition to the arrival of letters and care packages from home!

Mailing Letters: One stamp (comprising five-sheets-of paper, not including the envelope) will arrive at any military destination with an APO, DPO or FPO address.

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THE FIRST DEPLOYMENT APART

Spouses experience the stages of mourning by surrendering to the sobs and bursts of tears, and carrying plenty of tissues.

One message that resonates strongly is to keep moving forward. Amie Houser writes, “It is challenging to transition from a routine of togetherness to a feeling of uncertainty. Deployments can bring us closer together because there is a need to communicate more information and talk about plans. Despite the challenge of being separated, it also helps us to reaffirm ourselves as individuals and get back to who we are. The hardest part is keeping it together when communication doesn’t arrive for days or a few weeks when he is out in the field.”

HELPING MILITARY MEMBERS & FAMILIES

A great way to give back to military families for the holidays is to reach out to neighbors and social media. You’ll be surprised how many friends and colleagues have a loved one overseas.

Consider sending letters or care packages. Other ways to help are to: • Contact a local USO office to see how you can assist in the many programs, which may include toy and food drives, and dinners.

• “Laying Wreaths Across America” has a chapter locally. Reach out to see how you or your family can help.

• Join a “blanket drive” to send to a wounded soldier or veteran in VA Hospitals. While you may be late to meet the deadline for 2019, reach out to assist 2020’s goal.

• Another helpful idea is to pray daily for the safety of all military members and their families!

EMOTIONAL HOMECOMINGS A deployment rarely abides the time-frame of projected days. A four-month mission could last six months, but rarely three.

Families rarely know the date a spouse will return due to delays in orders and travel plans. “Hurry-up and wait” is the best description associated with the end of a deployment. A reunion is an emotional relief to exhale and accept his or her anticipated return.

Military spouses, children and loved ones know how lucky they are in the gift of physical presence and the ability to offer tight hugs!

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Traditional Ingredients of Christmas

Then & Now

A fragrance overload occurs in the season of specific spices, minty tastes and refreshing drinks. The anticipation to await our favorite ingredients offers temptations too irresistible to deny. The mind reminisces of days in childhood with grandparents, parents, aunts and uncles, cousins and siblings; yet, the history of Christmas ingredients stretches to the fascinating times involving ancient Egyptians and Romans, the medieval times, of kings and queens, and European countries. An extraordinary history, indeed, to find its way to the homes of the New World, America, and continue into the 21st century.

EGGNOG

First, the name. Nog was a strong variety of beer served warm. And, bartenders served nog in a small wooden carved mug called a noggin. Eggnog itself is a drink of eggs, dairy, sugar and, historically, alcohol. From egg-n-grog to eggnog, eventually, the name simplified.

During the American Revolution, the original recipe of warm milk and egg with a mixture of ground nutmeg, cinnamon, and brandy and sherry to prevent spoiling altered the spirits to include moonshine. Colonists had access to rum, while farmers west of coastal ports had fields of grain to make whiskey. A drink of celebration and the delicious nog became a Christmas tradition. Rather than buy a carton, this year, find a recipe and create your own.

GINGERBREAD

In medieval England, gingerbread was a term designed to mean “preserved ginger.” The spice concealed the taste of preserved meats and in a concoction of drink, boosted the health of Henry VII. Throughout England, France and Germany, candied ginger desserts became a favorite at medieval festivals, called gingerbread fairs. Queen Elizabeth I requested the design of gingerbread to represent her foreign dignitaries.

It may be the reason gingerbread men came into existence. While accessible year-round, eating gingerbread at Christmas was always affordable and continues to be a family favorite ingredient.

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Making gingerbread cookie dough is not as complicated as you may think. While the orange zest is optional, add it! The subtle taste of citrus pairs extraordinarily well with cinnamon.

MULLED WINE

Dating back to the 2nd century by the Romans, the heated wine warmed the body against the chill. Throughout the middle ages, Europeans added spices, herbs and flowers to promote health and hope to avoid sickness. By the late 1800s, wine merchants rekindled the mulled wine popularity by concocting their recipes and

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bottling in time to start a new tradition of selling glogg, or mulled wine, each Christmas.

Fifteen to 20 minutes will create a delicious drink for gatherings or dinner guests. There are plenty of recipes to choose from, depending on which mixture sounds the most delicious to you!

NUTS

The three sections of a nut have a symbolic and religious message. The trinity comprises the shell, skin and kernel. Eating the nut symbolized good fortune. In the 1800s, it was a tradition for a man to arrive dressed as St. Nicholas and scatter a bag of fruit and nuts on the table. The household scrambled to collect the contents for the table’s centerpiece. Germans began a tradition of giving a wooden nutcracker in the shape of a soldier to guard loved ones and keep them safe. Families gathered at the table and passed around the nut bowl to share in fellowship.

In some households, roasting chestnuts is synonymous with Christmas, served as a dessert and accompanied with fruit and dried figs. It’s worth trying!

PEPPERMINT

Some believe peppermint is the star ingredient of Christmas and tradition. Ancient Egyptians and Romans used peppermint to flavor sauces and accented the table with springs to add a refreshing fragrance. In the 1670s, one story tells of a German choirmaster who needed a group of rowdy children focused when observing the Nativity. A confectioner came to the rescue and created a special hard candy using peppermint flavoring to sugar.

How will you integrate the favorite ingredient? A few ideas would be to make peppermint stick brownies, peppermint bark, mint meringue kiss cookies, peppermint hot chocolate or create a peppermint wreath.

What smell arrives in your senses to say, “It smells a lot like Christmas?”

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Fall in Love with

BY LOGAN PRYSIAZNIUK

Hip Chics has had the pleasure of being a part of your

community for almost 14 years. We have celebrated with you during the good times and cried with you during the bad, and through it all we have come to know and love our customers.

As a locally owned business, Hip Chics knows about

you.

When you walk into the doors of a local business, you are not just another transaction, you are a neighbor and a friend.

Local businesses tailor their products to fit their customers As the holiday season quickly approaches, you will likely be

and community, and Hip Chics is no exception. We are proud

faced with many decisions: what flavor cookies to bake, which

to feature

angel to put on the top of your tree, and where to do your gift

which are made right here in Clemmons or throughout North

shopping. This year, Hip Chics would like to encourage you to

Carolina. Small businesses provide a sense of

make the decision to

shop local.

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unique gifts with hometown appeal, many of originality

and charm to towns that a big box store or online shopping

Shopping Local cannot. Additionally, local businesses such as Hip Chics offer

complimentary gift wrap with purchases and have convenient parking right in front of the store. In order to

primarily by local businesses. Supporting small businesses allows them to continue to sponsor instrumental programs within the

Hip Chics alone had the pleasure keep these small businesses that add so much to the community of donating to over 100 local organizations around, it is important for community members to remember to

support their small businesses. A small purchase at a local shop makes a big difference!

community.

this year, including neighborhood schools, churches, youth sports and charities.

Hip Chics hopes that you will consider these factors when

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The next time that you are at a little league baseball game or

choosing your destinations for holiday shopping!

your local YMCA, Hip Chics would like to challenge you to look

local employees are looking forward to providing you with

around at the jerseys and signs. You will find they are sponsored

the perfect gifts and a memorable experience.

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Giving & Charity

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Giving is one of the first lessons learned as a child. The idea to let go of a possession to help someone else feel better is not always easy. In a society of materialism and the desire to want, even more, it is hard, at times, to let go or remember to give. The knowledge in helping others can boost a feeling of fulfillment.

Even the brain registers the act of giving through the release of neurotransmitters, which elevate the feeling of pleasure. In the season of creative gift-giving, allow the season to consider a variety of charitable donations.

VOLUNTEERING

Beyond the gift of a monetary object or funds, the gift of self and time is a beautiful contribution. In considering your unique talents, playing holiday music at a local retirement home, nursing home or hospital might boost the spirits of everyone in the room. Even if your vocal cords hit a note off-key occasionally, grab a group of friends, and enjoy an evening in festivity. Patients may not always receive visitors around the holidays; therefore, you can help ease a feeling of loneliness.

Additional ideas:

• Assist the community by participating in construction projects or future planting efforts.

• Homeless shelters and churches appreciate volunteers to aid guests during check-in and provide a presence during the night.

• Go to triadmomsonmain.com in search of a specific listing of organizations in the Piedmont Triad.

EASY SEWING GIFTS

Holding tight onto an object such as a small doll or blanket can soothe feelings of stress and loneliness; not just for a child, but for an adult, too. Through a four-step process of sewing two pieces of fabric together and adding stuffing, the simple design will bring peace to a somber heart. Families can bond together one Saturday or Sunday afternoon and make a few dozen, and then attach a card of seasonal goodwill and love!

AIDING A SPECIAL CAUSE

We all have a soft spot for a specific cause. If you are wondering what to give, here is a shortlist of ideas.

• All children love the idea of unwrapping a gift. Consider crafts, toys and electronics.

• Consider providing gift cards to help parents who remain at the hospital.

• A local animal shelter or rescue may welcome a new volunteer.

• Homeless and women’s shelters appreciate donations of basic toiletries, socks, hand warmers, clothing, bottled water, washcloths and ready-to-eat meals.

• Reach out to non-profit organizations such as food pantries or arts councils to see how you can assist!

• Send care packages containing instant coffee, personal hygiene items, jerky and stationery to military spending Christmas oversees.

• Check the “want” ads in search of seasonal volunteers. Sorting and wrapping are wellneeded tasks.

FAMILY GIVING OPPORTUNITIES

Sharing the experience of charity is a bonding experience to give without the need to receive. Families can nominate a preferred charity each year and delve into a giving plan.

• Children can elicit the help of extended family members to support a worthy cause, such as granting a child’s wish or helping families in need.

• Local bookstores may offer a holiday book drive to foster an opportunity for children to pass a book forward. Call ahead to find out whether stores accept pre-wrapped books with a tag marking the appropriate age level.

• Charitable projects can occur within the neighborhood.

They include raking leaves for an elderly couple or inviting a grieving neighbor to Christmas dinner.

It’s important to give back in ways that work for everyone in the family. And, not just in the season of giving but throughout the year!

DISTANT RELATIVES

While time is a gift to beloved neighbors, coaches and teachers, it is essential to reach out to relatives living at a great distance; perhaps, states away. The gifts of packages and cards often encourage the sound of a pleased great aunt or cousin baring appreciation. There is, with hope, individuals and families who will take your place to provide exceptional care; perhaps, in the form of home-baked cookies, a homemade card, or a festive performance of carols.

The heart feels the challenge when you cannot help everyone.

Remember, miracles also come in the form of silent prayers!

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According to a Pew Charitable Trust survey, only 53% of small to mid-size businesses, those with between five and 250 employees, offer a retirement plan. Many small businesses cite administrative hassles, plan-related expenses, and lack of employee interest as reasons for not offering a retirement plan. As a small business owner, you may be asking yourself, why should I have a retirement plan?

Below are the top three reasons, as a small businesses owner, you should have a retirement plan:

1. Saving for the Owner’s Retirement:

The top reason a small business owner should have a retirement plan is to save for their own retirement.

Yes, you can sell the business to fund your retirement, but finding potential buyers can be a challenge. There is no guarantee that you will net enough to meet your retirement income needs after the sale. Saving for this goal during your career will put you in a better negotiating position when you do decide to retire and sell the business.

2. Tax Advantages: Employer contributions to

retirement plans are tax-deductible and can potentially reduce the business’s tax liability.

Depending on the type of plan a small business implements, the tax deduction can be significant. The key thing to consider is the amount of money you can save in the plan. As my dad would say, “No reason to kill a fly with a sledgehammer.” Likewise, no reason for a small business owner to implement a defined benefit plan when an IRA will do. A more complex plan could potentially generate a bigger tax deduction and allow you to save more towards retirement. In the end, you still must be able to fund it.

3. Employee Retention: The final reason a small

business owner should have a retirement plan is employee retention. This reason seems to matter more depending on what stage the economy is currently in and the type of folks you employ. If the economy is strong and unemployment is low, new hires will likely demand richer benefits, including a retirement plan. White-collar employees will typically expect some sort of retirement plan to be offered in any potential employment opportunity.

While a little over half of small business owners have made the decision to offer a retirement plan, it is a good idea that more follow their lead. At Marzano Capital Group, we have helped many small business owners decide what type of plan is best suited to their needs.

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Holiday Giving FAMILIES IN NEED

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

There is a family who is struggling and trying to make ends meet. Every month is a battle to keep the lights on, pay bills, and even buy food. Although they receive governmental assistance, they still come up short. As the holiday season approaches, they pace the floor and shake their heads, wondering how they can give their children a joyful Christmas, showered with the toys they’ve been asking for all year and more warm clothes. Because this family can only afford so much, they either rely on charitable organizations to help them, or they shake their heads as they are bypassed.

There are a plethora of needy families like this in every city. Needy families who live in Winston-Salem are sometimes overlooked, especially during the holidays, and are yearning for an abundant, joyful holiday season. Thankfully, there are several organizations in Winston-Salem that have charitable programs in which we are able to help!

Goodwill Industries is a retailer that sells donated merchandise. Their merchandise is sold at very modest prices, so working families can have access to quality clothing, toys, furniture, books, DVDs, home décor, and even electronics and appliances.

You can help by donating your gently

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used—or unused—goods, especially during this time. Think of things needy families will need this winter, such as coats, pants, hats, and scarves. You can also donate lightly used toys and books for children.

Experiment in Self-Reliance is a fair housing agency, an equal opportunity employer, a community action agency, and a united way agency all in one.

They passionately work with working poor and working homeless families to help improve their quality of life. This organization works with needy families by helping them transition into new, affordable, and permanent residencies.

They are instrumental in providing holiday help, especially with housing and food. You can help by becoming a volunteer or by making a donation.

Salvation Army, like Goodwill Industries, is a reputable organization that impacts thousands of families locally every holiday season. Not only do they sell high quality and gently used donated items, they run several programs that give to low-income families during the holidays. This year, take advantage of the Angel Tree program where needy families make a Christmas wish list for their children and place them on giant Christmas trees. These Christmas trees are normally found at Walmart, Hanes Mall, Target, and other popular local retailers with numerous slips of paper with the child’s name on it, along with their holiday list. You can take a list, purchase the items, and return it back to the Angel tree so they can be sent to the child in need. Give-a-Kid-

A-Coat allows volunteers to donate their coats and give to children who need them. Also, the Old Dominion Freight Line Holiday Concert features the Winston-Salem Symphony. It’s a free concert, but donations are highly encouraged because they go straight to the Salvation Army food pantries to keep needy families from going hungry. The concert takes place on Friday, December 20th, at 7:30 pm at the Joel Coliseum.

Family Services has a shelter for battered women and children who are suffering from domestic abuse or sexual assault. Because many of these women and children arrive to the shelter empty-handed, donations are needed to help these individuals find safe living environments when they leave the shelter. You can help in various ways by adopting or sponsoring a family or a single woman. Children and women who live in the shelter make a wish list, especially during the holiday season. By adopting, you can purchase the items on their wish list and send them to the organization. The wish lists include items such as clothing, toys, books, household items, journals, and personal care items. You can donate generous gift cards to battered women so they can choose what they need, not only during the holidays, but throughout the year.

Of course, the holiday season isn’t the only time to give to those who may be less fortunate than us. It’s important to recognize their needs all year round, so give continuously!

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Conflict

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Calm It Down!

We are t-minus zero days to the holiday season. It’s here, and with it inevitably comes parties and dinners, seeing and talking to folks you may not have seen for a while, and tiring travel. With all of that also comes conflict, potential arguments, disagreements, tears, and anger. Take a few moments to yourself to work on your conflict skills this holiday season and maybe you’ll make it through without yelling at Uncle Jeff.

any of those emotions that lead to negative coping skills? Take some time to THINK before you respond.

LISTEN

GIVE UP CONTROL

Sometimes when folks have a difference in opinion, they just want to be heard. You don’t have to agree with them, or tell them they are right or anything. You just have to listen to them. Let them talk, hear what they are saying and move along. If you need an extra trick, affirm what they are saying with “Yes, And.” If Uncle Jeff is talking about how cheese is trash, and you love it, you might say: “Yes, Uncle Jeff, you think cheese is trash, and I love it.” All you’ve done is affirm what they think, and there is no harm in that.

RESPOND, DON’T REACT

Reactions are not great when you’re in the middle of a conflict. We use some of our worst coping mechanisms when we are experiencing the emotions of HALT – Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired – and the holiday season can bring ALL of those emotions on quick.

When you are in the middle of something that you can easily recognize as conflict, build in some reflection time, and be sure to give yourself some time for grace in response. If you’re simply reacting, you might end up saying things you regret or activating some of those negative coping mechanisms.

Chances are the conflict is with someone you’re interested in seeing again or even maintaining a relationship with. Take the time and care out to respond, which involves thinking about the other person and practicing empathy, considering what you want out of this conversation, and looking at the outcomes of your response. Snapping back at someone is going to evoke a different response than taking a pause and then responding.

Giving yourself space and time is critical to responding versus reacting, and considering where you are in the HALT acronym. Are you experiencing

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There are very few things you can control during a conflict, and all of it lies with you. In the past few months, I read something online that shook me to my core so hard, I can’t help but tell everyone about it: Disagreement is inevitable; disrespect is optional.

It’s ok – you can sit down, too. It’s heavy, I know.

How true though! Disagreements happen all the time – you’ve probably had several already this month, week, even today! You don’t have to be disrespectful though when you disagree with people. You can choose to leave it as a disagreement instead of letting it turn ugly and rude.

You also need to give up a bit of control when you’re dealing with conflict, because you cannot control how someone responds to you – only how you respond to them.

You can’t make them listen more, make them practice empathy, even make them understand when they are in the middle of being hangry they aren’t easy to talk to or deal with – you can only control how you respond to them.

It might seem like a lot of pressure to only have that much control – or to have so much, in my opinion! – but think about it: you can quickly diffuse some of the conflicts by simply taking a breath, listening, and responding instead of reacting.

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It’s Been Around Here A Long Time.

“I’m dreaming of a white Christmas. Just like the ones I used to know.

Where the treetop glistens, and children listen to hear sleigh bells in the snow.”~ Irving Berlin “It’s been around here a long time” is a statement that my mom and I chuckle about at least once or twice when I am visiting with her. Mom, who just turned 95 in November, not only has been around for a long time, but most of her household belongings have been, too. As I put up Christmas decorations in my home, “It’s been around here a long time,” are words I utter about my own stuff. The ornaments collected through the years on the small tree in the sunroom, the paper-mâché Nativity, the collection of Santas gathered on the mantle, the photos of past Christmases on the sofa table, our handmade stockings hung on the mantle, a few framed counted cross-stitch Christmas pieces, and the framed Santa by artist Ben Hampton that we bought when we lived in Georgia, all remind me that I, too, have some things that have been around here a long time.

Each year as I pull out our decorations, I sort through them and decide on the ones I’ll use, the ones that need to be discarded, or the ones I’ll take to consignment. Some have sentimental value, and I’ll always try to find a place to display them. I admit I do not need to buy another decoration! But I do buy a few things each year to refresh the ones that have been around here a long time.

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A few ideas to help you refresh decorations that have been around your house for a long time: • Dress up that tired wreath you have been using on the front door with a new bow and red berries and ornaments – or add a plaque with a Christmas greeting, etc.

• Add small Christmas trees to your collections. (Pier 1 has some great ones this year). They are a nice addition to your Santa collection or even the collection of Christmas china in your hutch.

• Display your antique ornaments in pretty bowls, lanterns, or hurricane vases instead of putting them on your tree. Mix in some beads, greenery, or pinecones.

• Cut evergreens from your yard and add to your arrangements for a fresh and inexpensive decoration.

• Spice things up a bit by rearranging your decorations and how you display them in your home.

Most of all, have fun decorating your home for the holidays.

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• 4 to 5 tart apples, peeled and sliced • 3 cups fresh or frozen cranberries • 1 cup sugar • Mix and place in greased 9 x 13” Pyrex dish.

TOP WITH: • 1 cup chopped pecans • ½ cup brown sugar • 1⁄3 cup plain flour • 1 ½ cup old-fashioned oatmeal • ½ cup melted butter Mix and sprinkle over fruit. Bake at 325 for 60 to 75 mins or until brown on top.

I’m dreaming of a white Christmas With every Christmas card I write May your days be merry and bright And may all your Christmases be white.

May the love of Christ fill your home as you celebrate His birth.

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A ROOM MAKEOVER FILLED WITH HOPE!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JON ERIC JOHNSON PHOTOGRAPHY

There’s never a shortage of creativity and love at Accent Prone, but in completing the company’s latest makeover project, Cheri and Justin Lingafelt found it difficult to put into words the pure joy this particular endeavor brought the entire Accent Prone team.

“When you’re able to combine your passion and career with the ability to help others, there’s just no better feeling,” explains Cheri. “I hope this new little oasis will give the Byrds a peaceful environment and sense of calm.”

“Cheri and Justin unknowingly appeared on our doorstep to announce we were the winners of a room renovation, all in the days leading up to the one year anniversary of the loss of our daughter,” explains Melissa.

“Andrew, our son Braxton, and I were given so much more than expected in this entire process. They gifted us with something really exciting to look forward to, instead of solely focusing on the dread we were experiencing.

We made new friends along the way that continue to inspire us, and we received an oasis in a master retreat, designed brilliantly

by Cheri, providing peace and tranquility.”

Andrew and Melissa Byrd were entered into Accent Prone’s room makeover contest by their sweet sister/sister-in-law Emily, and her entry was filled with such heartfelt words about the family’s loss of their daughter, Kensley Hope, to a heart defect, that the Byrds were an easy choice as this round’s winners. The entry’s last words were this: “With the one year mark of Kensley’s passing quickly approaching, I would love nothing more than to surprise them with a new bedroom and a new sense of ‘hope’ since losing their little girl.”

Melissa says every detail of their new master suite was perfect, and she’s especially fond of the way Cheri created a photo wall with six family portraits.

In Melissa’s own thankful words, they have found such peace in the makeover project.

Just as Cheri had hoped, the room has become a sweet escape for the entire family.

“I look at these photos multiple times a day – with pride – and am quickly reminded how much I have to be thankful for!” she says.

A second contender for “favorite element” is the custom built-ins Cheri designed to outline the couple’s bed, with an archway at the top, and iridescent tile lining the back of each shelf.

“I find myself reading to the glow of the light above my side of the bed, and Braxton loves to use the expanded closet as the perfect spot to sneak away to for hide and seek,” says Melissa. “Andrew frequently voices his continued appreciation for the amount of storage we have now – the way Cheri took our small space and transformed it into a room offering exceedingly more storage, while simultaneously making the room feel larger, is an incredible talent.”

As always, the Accent Prone team went above and beyond to listen to the wants and needs of the lucky winning family, building a room that worked seamlessly with their life.

“We not only designed and remodeled the entire space, but we also knocked out their closet and created a walk-in for maximum storage!” says Cheri. “The room is a mixture of Boho and modern, with a funky flair!”

For the Byrd family, it’s a mix of everything they hold dear.

“Everywhere I look I am reminded how blessed we are, from photos of our family to inspirational quotes about our daughter,” smiles Melissa. “This room reflects us and how far we have come on our journey as a family.”

Accent Prone would like to send huge thanks and props to Zack Suit of Zack’s Home Improvement for the custom carpentry and assistance with the entire renovation. Design and renovation by Cheri and Justin Lingafelt @myaccentpronelife.

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Holiday Gingerbread I love gingerbread for the holidays! In addition to the show stopping beauty of this cake, the combination of spices and flavors make it the perfect holiday sweet treat. Whether you’re hosting in your own home or bringing to a holiday potluck, this recipe is the perfect way to celebrate the holidays!

Serves 12

INGREDIENTS CAKE:

2 ¾ cups all purpose flour ½ teaspoon baking soda ½ teaspoon baking powder ½ teaspoon salt 1 ¼ teaspoon ground ginger 1 teaspoon cinnamon ¼ teaspoon ground nutmeg 4 eggs, whisked and at room temperature 1 ½ cups dark brown sugar 1 cup unsalted butter, melted 1 cup buttermilk ½ cup molasses

MAPLE GLAZE:

1 ½ cups powdered sugar 3 teaspoons real maple syrup 6 teaspoons milk

DIRECTIONS: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Grease and flour a 10 cup bundt cake pan and set aside.

In a medium sized bowl, whisk the dry ingredients - flour, baking soda, baking powder, salt and spices. In the bowl of your stand mixer, add eggs, brown sugar, melted butter, buttermilk and molasses. Using the paddle attachment, mix on low until the wet ingredients are combined, about 30 seconds. Add the flour mixture into the wet ingredients.

Mix on low until combined.

Pour batter into your prepared bundt pan. Bake for 45-50 minutes, or until a toothpick comes out clean. Let the cake cool in the pan for 10-15 minutes. Invert cake onto cake stand or cooling rack.

Allow to cool before topping with glaze.

For the glaze, whisk together powdered sugar, syrup and milk until combined.

Pour over the cake.

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Bundt Cake with Maple Glaze

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DELEGATION Make it Happen

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Delegation is one of the hardest things in leadership and management. It’s also a key to success: you cannot do it all, no matter who you are, what it is, or what your goals are. When leadership moments call for delegation, or when you’re ready to start leveling up your skills, here are a few things to think about to make sure your delegation is on point:

WHY NOW?

Delegation happens for a few reasons. Make sure before you decide to delegate things – so having others do a task that you’d otherwise have to do – you think about why you’re delegating. Are you out of time? Are you increasing responsibility for someone else (or for yourself)?

Effective delegation will never happen when you are throwing something at someone else in a moment of panic. Sure, things might get done, and they might even get done well – but it’s always better to build in some structure and learning into delegation if you’d like it to be a sustainable thing, and not just throwing buckets of water at fires.

WHEN, WHAT & WHO

Now that you’ve moved past the “everything is on fire, and this is fine” stage of your life, and you’re ready to build a structure for delegation, be sure to give yourself enough grace and time to do it right! If you don’t understand how to fully do the task, and how to explain it to another person, then you need to spend some time practicing this. For example, think of something that happens in your day to day work that you’d like to delegate out. This could be shopping for groceries or updating a spreadsheet. You do it all the time – and now it’s time to delegate it.

EXPLAIN IT AS SIMPLY AS POSSIBLE.

Not so easy, right? Let’s take both examples. First, shopping for food for the week. I could tell my husband just to do this, and we might need to make 3-5 trips to the store during the week because I didn’t mention the task ALSO involves writing out the meals for the week and planning for leftovers and late nights. Now, the spreadsheet – I could tell my new hire to update it, but it might not get saved in the format that’s helpful, or the cells from past programs might not get moved over.

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NOT THAT EASY.

You need to be able to be clear and concise with the task or tasks you’re delegating, or you’ll be disappointed in the results. When you’re thinking about the specific task and how to explain it to get the results you’re looking for, think about the person you’re explaining it to, as well as their strengths and weaknesses. If you give them a task that firmly falls in their weaknesses and expect a 100% success rate immediately, you will probably be extremely disappointed.

FEEDBACK AND FOLLOW UP

You did it! You are delegating! Now you’re done, right?

Wrong.

If you aren’t offering feedback and following up with the person you’ve delegated work to, the work might not be what you want it to be – and might turn into something completely different.

If you aren’t scheduling regular feedback sessions, you’re already behind. So many people think feedback just has to happen when things go “wrong” – and if that’s the only time you’re giving it, feedback is going to be a feared and negative trip.

Take time to follow up with the task and the person you’re delegating to. Scheduling feedback sessions (both for “Hey, this is great!” and “Hey, this needs some work!”) is a great way to not only ensure success, but it also helps you understand, as the delegator, what you might need to work on.

The best way to get better at delegating?

Just start.

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Stop Centering Yourself

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

We have all seen it. A conversation is moving along just fine, and suddenly someone inserts themselves and their experience into the conversation, awkwardly and seemingly without sense. The conversation is now revolving around that person, their experiences, and the previous trajectory has been abandoned for this new path.

me!” thing – it might be as simple as changing the subject to what they want to discuss, versus giving the current conversation weight and care.

An example: two friends are having a conversation. A third comes up and joins the conversation. The two original people are talking about a work issue that affects both of them. That third person inserts their own example from their own work that only affects the third person, and proceeds to continue the conversation on their own path and agenda, not acknowledging the conversation that was in place prior to their arrival. They have “centered” it on themselves.

There are a lot of times I feel like a broken record, and this is one of them. I truly believe that if we actively make the choice to listen better, we won’t commit these communication sins like centering. If you take an active stance in a conversation as a listener, you’ll see that the conversation usually doesn’t need your example to move forward.

This term isn’t new: it’s often used in conversations on race where someone is discussing their experience, and another person of a different race gives an example, alluding or outright stating that the two experiences are the same (they aren’t). The connecting factor in all centering moments? The person that is doing the centering has changed the conversation to revolve around them and what they want to talk about – it might not even be a personal “Focus on

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When you realize you’ve been centering yourself, there are a few things you can do in your next conversation – and a few things to do when you realize you’re dealing with a center-er.

IF IT’S YOU

SPEND TIME LISTENING

ASK QUESTIONS

Instead of inserting yourself as the prime person in an issue, ask questions about what is currently being discussed. I have a friend that will literally make every conversation about her: she will add an example, think things are directed at her when they are larger comments in a conversation, and she rarely, if ever, asks questions. Don’t ask a question just to insert your opinion – that’s obvious and people need to stop doing that. Ask a question because you’re generally curious about what the person is talking about!

IF IT’S SOMEONE ELSE

SOFTLY REDIRECT

You’re going to notice centering pretty quickly once you’re aware of what it is, so when you see it, gently guide the conversation back to where

it was. Sometimes this works pretty well, and sometimes – not so much.

Try this first, then aim for the larger options like…

ASSERTIVELY COMMENT

Notice I said “assertive” and not “aggressive” – people generally don’t respond well to aggressive. You can easily say something like, “Hey, thank you for that example! We were actually talking about X and their experience. Let’s get to yours in a bit; I don’t think we were done.” Whatever works in your own glossary of terms, you can bring it back by being clear, direct, and concise.

PULL THEM ASIDE

If this happens a lot, and with a person that you’re semi-close to, pull them aside and let them know what they are doing. They may or may not see it, and they may or may not respond well – and that’s ok! Chances are, if you get to this point of pulling someone aside, it’s probably bad enough that you’re out of options. Have a quiet and calm conversation with them, and be sure to tell them how you feel – a conversation with a person who centers doesn’t feel good, and might even lead to you ignoring that person – or avoiding them all together.

All in all, remember that conversation is a two-way street: you can’t just take the entire time.

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STARBOARD ACCOUNTING: HELPING BUSINESSES CLOSE OUT THE YEAR

BY JULIE FRITZ

The end of the year is a very busy time for businesses. There is so much that needs to be done to prepare for the approaching tax season. Year-end planning, preparing 1099s, and getting all of the year’s paperwork together are just a few of the things that need to be accomplished before the year comes to an end. When a business gets overwhelmed by these tasks or gets behind putting them together, there is only one place to turn, Starboard Accounting & Consulting. They have the expertise you need to help you get everything ready in an efficient and timely manner.

Kerri Stewart opened Starboard Accounting in 2008. She loved working with numbers, thought it would be a fun business to start and hoped that maybe one day it would grow into her full-time job. And that is exactly what happened. When she lost her job during the recession, she decided to give this business her all. Now, 11 years later, her ten employees work with over 200 businesses each year to provide bookkeeping services throughout the triad, from Advance to Greensboro, and beyond. Though they do not provide tax preparation services, they do work with CPAs regularly and help businesses prepare all the things that the CPA will need.

This time of year, they find themselves helping businesses focus on end of year bookkeeping needs. Stewart said, “Year end planning to prepare for CPAs can be very time consuming and overwhelming for businesses. We are here to help. We are well aware of what CPAs will require and can help make sure everything you need is in line.” Stewart went on to discuss the work they do regarding 1099s, “ We also spend a lot of time helping businesses prepare their 1099s. Those have to be given to vendors by January 31st. We can help gather the vendor information that is needed and get them printed so you can be sure to meet the deadline.”

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In addition to end of year planning, Starboard Accounting provides a variety of year-round bookkeeping services. They are available to create new or review existing bookkeeping records, provide accurate profit and loss statements, pay bills, create invoices and customer statements.

They can provide your business with as much or as little as you need. The client can determine what their needs are and use the services available accordingly.

Payroll is another area where Starboard Accounting can be of assistance.

Team members work with businesses regularly to handle their payroll needs.

They are able to create paychecks, make direct deposits, pay taxes, and help with filing all the payroll forms.

One thing that sets Starboard Accounting apart is its QuickBooks Consulting. They provide a variety of services related to using QuickBooks in your business. Team members are available to train your employees on how to use the program. If you are

having issues with the program, they can evaluate and fix issues to get you up and running again. If you need to upgrade your version or convert from another program, they can help with that, too. They even have two certified QuickBooks ProAdvisors on staff.

Starboard Accounting is ready to provide the customized bookkeeping services your business needs. From end of year planning to year-round bookkeeping services, Kerri Stewart and her team are ready to get you started today. Schedule your appointment at Starboard Accounting & Consulting by calling their office at 336-397-4974. They are located at 632 Holly Avenue in Winston-Salem with convenient parking nearby, and open Monday through Friday from 9:00 am to 5:00 pm. Consultations are by appointment only, so be sure to call ahead so they can be prepared to meet your needs. If you would like more information, visit their website at starboardaccounting.com. You can also follow them on Facebook.

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BY MARTIE EMORY

My oldest son has been living out-of-state for several years now and has always managed to get home a few days at Christmas. Last year the planets didn’t align for more than a 48-hour visit to our hometown, and the opportunity arose for us to begin a new family tradition.

Sprinkled with all the “little things” that had made our Christmas days so special through the years, the new plan was this: my youngest son and I joined him in New York for the actual Christmas holiday, with the three of us driving up on Christmas Eve – an exciting adventure in itself! Smitten by the magic of the holiday season that seems to follow you no matter where you go, we packed their childhood stockings (handmade and identical to my own childhood stocking), presents (of course!) and a cooler filled with Neese’s sausage (none of that in New York!) to continue our long-time tradition of sausage biscuits on Christmas morning. Thinking back, it was the first time in my 50-something years I had not been “home” on Christmas morning, but I was quickly reminded over the next few days that “home” is the people you are with, right?

If “grown-up” Christmas traditions are looming in your life and you may be celebrating the holidays in a new spot this year, look for creative ways to keep your family traditions alive, and embrace new adventures as you share the holidays with your adult children!

• Take along those sentimental foods from home that have always made Christmas time sweet for your

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family: a special tea blend, hot cocoa from a family recipe, or your kids’ favorite Christmas cookies. If you’re the designated gravy master for holiday lunches, make sure you’ll have all the ingredients there to whip it up as usual.

• Celebrate a couple days before – or after – if that’s what best suits everyone’s schedule. Your son or daughter may be adjusting to the corporate world, and may not be blessed with a week’s vacation. The date doesn’t matter, only the company and the holiday spirit!

• Make time together your main gift, especially if you are flying or driving a long distance. Or, pick up fun items along the way, and new keepsake ornaments from your adult child’s new home state.

• Bring the best traditions along with you. For us, it was childhood stockings; for your family, it might be heirloom ornaments that you travel with to hang on a new tree, or catching “It’s a Wonderful Life” together before bed on Christmas Eve. • Include your favorite holiday music in your visit. Nothing stirs memories of home like holiday tunes and old-fashioned carols.

• Enjoy this chance to explore the new state where your adult child has landed. Because my son lives in New York, there was no shortage of holiday happenings and amazing decorations, but no matter where your son or daughter lives, explore their new surroundings and enjoy local festivities.

It’s a good chance to meet some of your son or daughter’s new friends, too.

Savor every minute you have together, and you’ll find yourself looking forward to next Christmas when you may add yet another new tradition to your holiday normal!

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Family Services: Celebrating 75 Years as a Trusted Partner in Adoption Support

You may be single. Or married with children. Or divorced. It doesn’t matter. The heart of the matter is that if you’re interested in adopting, Family Services is here to help.

For us, it’s all about trust.

This year marks the 75th year that Family Services continues to support families on their journey to become parents through domestic and international adoption.

Families explore adoption for many reasons. Some couples have struggled with infertility or other medical issues and have decided to build their families through adoption. Others are looking to expand their family by embracing a child who is waiting for a permanent home. At Family Services, our goal is simple: to help children find “forever families” and to provide lifelong support to all who are touched by adoption.

Our experienced staff is available to talk with you about your adoption journey and assist with every phase of the process.

Our services include: • Individual consultations to help families select the type of adoption appropriate for them; • Placement of children through our infant adoption program; • Home study, education, and post-placement services for families adopting internationally through one of our U.S. partner agencies; • Services for families involved in step-parent, relative, private, or independent adoptions; • Education about open adoption; • Ongoing supportive services, including support groups, counseling services, and confidential Intermediary services.

Adoption affects both the child and the adoptive parents in wonderful and lasting ways. If you are truly interested in sharing your life and your love, please call us at 334.722.8173, or visit us online at FamilyServicesForsyth.org.

Family Services is licensed by the North Carolina Department of Health and Human Services and is nationally accredited by the Intercountry Adoption Accreditation and Maintenance Entity.

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vernight Oats to the Rescue

BY TABI FALCONE

Meal prep can be the turning point of a normal week into a fantastic week.

By eliminating the need to think about your food choices for the day (which can be daunting and impractical to do while also juggling life), it frees up your brain for more important things, such as killing it in your career or personal life. One of the easiest, cost-effective, and tasty ways to meal prep breakfasts for an entire week is to embrace the (well deserved) fad of overnight oats. The idea of overnight oats is that you throw the ingredients into a mason jar (because really if it isn’t in a mason jar did you even find the idea on Pinterest?), shake it up, and throw it in the fridge for at least one day until you are ready to eat it. By spending half an hour every Sunday making these, you will save yourself time, stress, and calories by avoiding grabbing a “quick bite” of a fast-food breakfast on your way in to work.

There is a base recipe, and then for the toppings, you can go absolutely wild.

We have included some suggestions for toppings, but feel free to get creative and go out with your own ideas.

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BASE RECIPE

• ½ cup oats • ½ cup milk of your choice • Sweetener of choice • Toppings of your choice

CARROT CAKE

• ¼ cup shredded carrots • 1 tablespoon raisins • Dash cinnamon • Dash nutmeg

APPLE PIE CRUNCH

• Diced apple • 1 tablespoon raisins • Roughly chopped walnuts

PB & J

• 1 tablespoon peanut butter • 1 tablespoon jam of your choice • Dash chia seeds

PEANUT BUTTER

• 1 tablespoon peanut butter • ½ banana (sliced) • Dash of chia seeds

STRAWBERRY SHORTCAKE

• 3 sliced strawberries (or to taste) • ½ teaspoon vanilla extract • 1/8 cup white chocolate chips

BLUEBERRY BANANZA

• ¼ cup blueberries (frozen or fresh) • ½ banana (sliced)

DECADENT PEANUT BUTTER

• 1 tablespoon peanut butter • 1/8 cup dark chocolate chips • 1 teaspoon cocoa powder

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AERACURA SALON Great Stocking Stuffer Alert! Limited Edition AVEDA Feed My Lips™ Mini Gloss Duo2 fabulous holiday colors in our new vegan formula that is 98% naturally derived.

These lip glosses visibly plump your lips with long lasting color! On Sale now for $22.

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TODAY & TOMORROW INTERIORS Offering distinctive items for your home and special holiday gifts for your friends and family. Fine furniture, fabric, wallcoverings and rugs are just some of what we have to offer.

Ask about our interior design services. Located at 435 West End Blvd. in Winston-Salem. 336.723.4430.

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WINDSOR JEWELERS CHARLES KRYPELL Gold Collection Jewelry Designed by Charles Krypell in 18K yellow and white gold, brilliant yellow and white diamonds adorn these uniquely angled pieces in unparalleled dimensional jewelry design. Mix, match, layer and stack for an ultra-chic look this holiday season. @windsorjewelersnc See ad on page 2.

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Our olive oils and balsamic vinegars are Perfect for hostess gifts, teacher gifts, stocking stuffers, your favorite foodie or those who just enjoy eating or who have everything! We offer an extensive list of high quality imported Italian white and dark aged balsamic vinegars, single varietal high polyphenol extra virgin olive oils and flavored olive oils for that perfect recipe.

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SIMPLY STERLING & COMPANY Shoot for the moon...Even if you miss you will land among the stars! Simply Sterling & Company is the perfect stop to find just right gifts of sentiment and thought for each unique person on your list. Located at 5275 Robinhood Village Drive at the intersection of Robinhood and Meadowlark you will be pleasantly surprised with our vast selection of lovelies. 336896-0077 @simplysterlingandcompany See ad on page 19.

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SIMPLY STERLING & COMPANY The holidays are upon us! Simply Sterling & Company has the perfect scents to spark special memories and create new ones. Lemon Sugar Cookie, White Fir, Golden Cypress, and Holiday, just to name a few! Moments of comfort, warmth, and joy are only a flame away. No need to fight over them, there’s more than enough for everyone on your list!

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ELLIE RAY BOUTIQUE All we want for Christmas is cozy leopard sweaters! We want to make sure you give her the pur(fect) gift we know she will love. Thank you for shopping local and letting us help you check some things off your list. Happy Holidays from us at Ellie Ray Boutique! 1320 Creekshire Way Winston-Salem, 336.727.3796 @ellierayboutique

FLEET FEET WINSTON-SALEM SAY GOODBYE TO ACHES AND PAINS! Now available at Fleet Feet Winston-Salem: Percussive Therapy This revolutionary deep muscle treatment uses rapid, repetitive strokes to stimulate blood flow & heat. It is the most effective muscle treatment of any handheld device. Theragun G3Pro $599, G3 $399, Addaday Biozoom $250 (and it’s worth EVERY penny). Located at 278 Harvey Street, Winston-Salem, 336.722.8477 www.fleetfeetws.com @fleetfeetws

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KENDRA SCOTT Nalani Hoop Earrings $58 A classic hoop with a contemporary twist, ready for whatever’s on your schedule. Kendra Scott – Friendly Center, 3334 West Friendly Ave, Suite 103, Greensboro 336.285.0372

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AERACURA SALON Our #1 favorite gift set at Aeracura is Cherry Almond Obsessed! This Holiday Gift Set is everything you need to be pampered in Aveda’s own juicy, sweet iconic Cherry Almond aroma. Included in this luxurious gift is a full sized shampoo, conditioner, body wash, body lotion and a limited edition rich hand Creme! It’s beautifully packaged to be the perfect gift for someone you love. It’s retail value is $93 but you can get it today for $74.

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WINDSOR JEWELERS IPPOLITA Classico Jet Set Earrings With duo circles in different finishes, these mixed hoops of 925 silver and 18K gold are designed to delight! Discover Ippolita earrings, rings, necklaces and more for the perfect holiday gift. @windsorjewelersnc See ad on page 2.

KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY Give the gift of cozy warmth with our great selection of gloves and scarves. We have everything from plaid and velvet to knits with fur accents. You don’t have to worry about size, which makes gift giving easy. Don’t forget we have complimentary gift wrap everyday! Kim Taylor and Company 153 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem, next to Midtown Café and Dessertery. Check us out on Instagram @kimtaylorco and Facebook @ KimTaylorandCo 336.722.8503 | kimtaylorco@msn.com See ad on page 47.

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HIP CHICS BOUTIQUE On the top of everyone’s Wish List this year are Sheila Fajl earrings! Lightweight, Fun and Contemporary Designs for all ages! @hipchicsboutique See ad on page 11.

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WOOD & THREAD BOUTIQUE Need the perfect outfit for your holiday?

We have the gift of style this holiday season! We’re sure to have something for everyone on your list. Wood & Thread is located at 301 Brookstown Ave Suite 500 in Winston-Salem, NC or give us a call at 336.842.5761

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CAMEL CITY BOUTIQUE When we created Mix•o•logie, we didn’t want to just “make scents.” We wanted to make sense of what we (as girls, women, or just as people) feel internally, of our relationship with the world and each other, and of our identities. That’s why each of Mix•o•logie’s ten fragrances is beautifully and mindfully blended to express who you are when you are.

As a gift to yourself or a gift to someone else, Mix•o•logie is intended to be experienced (and to empower) over and over again—not just when you open the box for the first time. More than just great smelling products, Mix•o•logie is an exercise and a celebration of experimentation, individuality, and evolution. @camelcityboutique See ad on page 133.

PROGRESSIVE IMAGE SALON Now featuring the entire line of LEAF & FLOWER hair care products, exclusively at Progressive Image Salon! Leaf & Flower provides a color-safe CBD charged hair care line, developed by stylists, offering tangible results with a therapeutic and innovative line centered around the natural benefits of CBD. The Exclusive LEAF & FLOWER CBD Corrective Complex elicits an entourage effect designed to deliver instant results to all hair types – making hair stronger and more predictable with continued use. Progressive Image Salon is located 3538 Vest Mill Road, Winston-Salem, 336.760.1292

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Fictitious Characters Add to the Heart of Christmas

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

The tangible symbols of Christmas inspire the envelopment of familiarity and excitement. From the dusty boxes arises the decorations of light, wreath and tree. And, instantly, someone rejoices in saying, “It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas!” Through the need to follow tradition, we add beautiful touches such as baking cookies, singing carols and wrapping gifts for loved ones. The connection to people adds the spark of a season celebrating the birth, family, togetherness and giving. Not all the people who support the value of such loving tidings are real. A lengthy list of fictitious friends, in fact, help to create the bond we feel every December.

Particular names transport us to a time long ago and hold the feeling of Christmas past and present in our hearts.

CINDY LOU WHO

The little girl of Whoville who was no more than two. Her job – to save Christmas! How is this task accomplished? Through love and friendship! Even a child can save a soul, clasp a hand and connect to those who need help understanding the true meaning of Christmas.

CLARK GRISWOLD

“National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation” is not a typical classic movie. Clark, the dad, daydreams about the ideal, perfect holiday season; yet, too many problems interfere with his standard. Life is chaotic and stressful in the Griswold household.

Similar to the many Christmas messages that resolve differences and petty issues, Clark reminds us to focus on the gift of togetherness.

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LINUS VAN PELT

The antagonist, who hates Christmas, typically has Who? You may ask is Linus a fatal flaw. Deep down inside, there is love; Van Pelt. Well, among the yet, it takes someone brave and kind to help characters of the Peanuts gang, the names, which define greediness or Linus relies on his trusty blanket. heartlessness such as Scrooge and the Except, when he offers to tell Charlie Grinch. The transition from mean to kind, Brown the real meaning of Christmas. At greedy to giving, a recluse to a socialite that moment, he no longer needs security. offers fruitful lessons in a season Linus reminds us to stand in the spotlight when of charity. asked, “Does anyone know what Christmas is all about?”

JACK FROST

Yes, Jack Frost is among the essential fictitious characters.

He brings forth the chill, the wind, the frost and the magic inspired in the feeling of Christmas. The 2012 movie, “Rise of the Guardians,” is not the most well-known on the list; however, Jack has a distinct task of driving out the darkness to protect the dreams of children. For all the classics, it is good to add new movies to your belief in magic.

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FROSTY THE SNOWMAN

Frosty the Snowman is an allegory concealing one of the oldest stories within a magical being. In the song, Frosty, “Made the children laugh and play and were surprised when, before their eyes, he came to life one day.” Frosty, trusted by the children who followed him willingly to the end of the world, the North Pole, represents Jesus.

“Frosty the Snowman had to hurry on his way, but he waved goodbye saying don’t you cry, I’ll be back again someday.”

SCOTT CALVIN

It’s not easy to become Santa Claus, especially when an actual legal clause states, “If Santa dies, you must continue

the tradition.” Surrendering to the need to wear the boots is a job, which takes hard work, dedication, selflessness and compassion.

The character of Scott Calvin inspires us to remember the magic of the suit lasts beyond one night a year.

KEVIN MCCALLISTER

Screaming the name “Kevin!” may click on a part of your memory to remember the child, whose parents and relatives left him home and alone. It’s not easy to be brave and companionless during the holidays; yet, even children can live alone in a house full of people. The miracle of wanting his family back showed the need for forgiveness while offering his heart to new friends such as a misunderstood neighbor who also finds himself alone.

Of course, the list is not yet complete. You can easily name countless others! Enjoy the festivity with familiar and ageless characters, and be sure to welcome the new additions!

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How Safe is Your Mani Pedi?

Simple Safety Precautions for Your Next Trip to the Nail Salon

BY TARYN JEREZ

What girl doesn’t love to treat herself to a mani-pedi from time to time? Generations have viewed it as a typical girl’s day out and for some, a right of passage for a young girl. A trip to the spa or salon can leave you feeling relaxed, rejuvenated, and even feeling a little more secure in your appearance. When you book an appointment for a little self-care, the last thing you would think about are the risks involved with manicures and pedicures such as injuries, infections, and illness. Here are a few simple safety precautions to take before your next trip to the nail salon.

MAKE SURE IT’S OFFICIAL.

Before you step a foot (or hand) in the salon for an appointment, it’s imperative that you check to make sure they are licensed.

This ensures that the salon itself, as well as its nail technicians, have gone through the proper training to ensure they can manage their craft with care and safety. Heading to Google Reviews or Yelp.com is also a good idea to check out what other patrons are saying about their own experience with the salon.

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CLEANLINESS IS NEXT TO GODLINESS.

From the moment you step inside for your service, take a look around at the salon to see if things look clean and tidy. Is the nail technician’s space clean with newly disinfected tools being used for each client?

Do you notice that they wash their hands in between one client and the next? When getting a pedicure be sure to look at the drains in the foot bath area to see if they are clear and clean, otherwise this is often where fungi and bacteria can live.

As you look carefully around from tools to tabletops, if anything looks like it isn’t up to par, it may not be the safest place for you.

REDUCE YOUR RISK OF INFECTION.

Believe it or not, reducing infections at the salon starts with you first. If you have any cuts, scrapes, or current open wounds, it’s important to wait until they are fully healed before booking your appointment. When going for a pedicure, it may be tempting to want smooth, freshly shaved legs. Due to the possibility of nicking your skin when shaving, it’s vital to avoid shaving 24 hours before having your pedicure. All of this is to prevent bacteria from getting into your body through water, products, and tools being used.

SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING.

It’s easy to brush things off sometimes and think like you’re overreacting, but when it comes to your health and safety it’s important to always speak up for yourself. The next time you book an appointment, don’t be afraid to ask some important questions about a salon’s licensing or disinfecting routines before going. When you are enjoying your manicure or pedicure, if you see something that rubs you the wrong way, mention it to the nail technician. This will help remind them of their own safety protocols and that their customers are also watching.

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Finding the Right

BRA

BY JAMIE LOBER

According to research, 80% of women are wearing the wrong bra size. That means there is a good probability that one of those women could be you. Finding the right bra is about more than identifying your correct size and what is the most comfortable. It is about helping yourself to feel your best. When you look good, you feel even better.

A good first step is finding out your size. Make sure you are not wearing a padded bra or push-up bra at the time you take your measurements, as it will not give you an honest result. All you have to do is: • Wrap a measuring tape directly under your breasts • Measure the bust by placing the tape at the fullest part of the bust, checking to see that it is parallel to the band • Subtract the band size from the bust size to determine your cup size The easiest way to remember this is to know that every inch equals a cup size. Some examples include: • A 1-inch difference means you are an A cup • A 2-inch difference means you are a B cup • A 3-inch difference means you are a C cup • A 4-inch difference means you are a D cup • A 5-inch difference means you are a DD cup • A 6-inch difference means you are a DDD cup When you are figuring out your band size, always round to the nearest whole number. If the number is even you want to add 4 inches and if it is odd, you want to add 5. For example, if you measure 32 inches, your band size is 36.

Some stores have professionals that will measure you. It is possible that, depending on the brand, your size may be a little different, but measuring will give you a baseline. If you ever notice wrinkling in the cups, the underwire poking the side of your breasts, or you just feel sore or uncomfortable from your bra, it is most likely because you are wearing the wrong size and that is easy to fix.

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Keep your measurements written down in your cell phone or on a note pad that you keep with you so you have them handy when you get the urge to go bra shopping.

If you think your size has changed, you may be right, and it is perfectly normal. There are many factors that affect your breasts, including aging, pregnancy, hormone fluctuations, and weight gain or loss.

When you try a bra on, do a selfcheck to be sure that it fits properly.

Taking a little extra time to make sure it is a good match for your body will avoid problems down the road. Some things to do include: • Making sure the front and back of the bra are even • Seeing that the straps are not falling off and

adjusting them if necessary • Making sure you can only slide one finger under the band • Stand in front of a mirror and get a glimpse of yourself sideways where you should see the breasts are the halfway point between your shoulders and elbows • If you need to go down a cup size to fit better, go up a band size. An example is that if a 34C feels too large, try a 36B. Bras should last a while. Sometimes they can become loose just from wear and washing. When this happens, move toward the tighter hook. A good bra will fit smoothly, so there should not be room between you and the bra. Even in a sports bra, your size should be the same. A final helpful trick can be taking the straps off your shoulders and seeing if the bra stays in place.

If it does not move, you have found a winner. When you understand how to find the right bra size, you will see it is possible to feel comfortable and be in style at the same time after all.

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Spreading

that feeling of

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Are you feeling a little bah-humbug, Grinch-y, or asking, “Where’s the Tylenol?” multiple times this holiday season? Don’t worry – you probably aren’t alone in wondering where your Christmas spirit is.

The feelings of goodwill, kindness, and humility can sometimes get lost in the hustle and bustle of the season. When the brightness of Christmas doesn’t bring a smile to your face, there are ways to get back the real meaning of the holidays and to spread the feelings to others. Let’s look at a few examples.

First, there is Scrooge in Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol. You probably won’t be visited by three ghosts on Christmas Eve to get the feeling of Christmas, but you can still find the same meaning as Scrooge did. Through the ghosts’ visits, Scrooge was able to reflect on his past, present, and future Christmases and behaviors, therefore, turning around and actually enjoying Christmas, as well as, being with others. The Christmas feeling came back to him after he started to spread joy and cheer to others. The same happened with the Grinch from Dr. Seuss’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas! The Grinch, whose heart was two sizes too small, tried to stop Christmas in Whoville. To do this, he decided to steal all the decorations, presents, etc. Yet, after a simple twist of fate and a little help from the Whos, the Grinch begins to feel the Christmas spirit and realizes that “maybe Christmas, perhaps, doesn’t come from a store. Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more.”

Using the stories of Scrooge and the Grinch, there are many ways we can bring goodwill, kindness, and humility into our community.

• You can start with something small, such as listening to your favorite Christmas carol, smelling your favorite holiday smell, or baking your favorite treat. Also, take a drive through your town to see all the festive lights and decorations. A cup of hot chocolate is always welcome on the trip. Don’t forget about snuggling up to a classic Christmas movie with your loved ones.

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• Go caroling with your family, friends, or church group. After all, Buddy the Elf says, “The best way to spread Christmas cheer is by singing loud for all to hear.” Visit houses in your neighborhood, go to a local nursing home, or hospital, with their permission, and sing carols.

• Along with caroling, Christmas cards are a must during the season. Bring cards as you travel from place to place or take them to a nursing home, hospital, or police/fire department. It can be easy for some people to get overlooked in December, but simple tasks, such as giving out cards, can make a difference.

• Do a Christmas craft. Just a search on Pinterest will bring up numerous ideas. Tie everything all together by completing the craft, while watching a movie or listening to music, and then donate the project to a place in the community.

• Part of enjoying the Christmas feeling is by helping out others.

This can be working with family members or friends. It can also be donating your time and volunteering within your town. For example, spend an afternoon at the soup kitchen, animal shelter, or other non-profit. An easy way to discover holiday joy is by seeing it in the eyes of someone else. Volunteering can always make a person feel better, especially at this time of the year.

If your schedule doesn’t permit taking the time to volunteer, organize a collection drive or bake sale for a charity. Instead of gifts or Secret Santa at a holiday party or work, change it to a holiday drive, like a toy or book collection.

The holidays are hard. It can be easy to get caught up in the stress and lose the feeling of Christmas. Yet, that joy isn’t far. Try these ideas to spread that feeling of Christmas with yourself and others.

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MAKING CHRISTMAS MEMORIES AND KEEPING THEM

BY SARA MIGLIARESE

Can you remember your favorite Christmas gift as a child? Mine was a Malibu Barbie playhouse that Santa brought when I was nine years old. I played with that dollhouse every day that year. I still remember how it was decorated with pink and yellow flowers and the plastic toy furniture that cluttered its rooms. The holiday season can be stuffed full of joyful times spent making memories that can last a lifetime, like my dollhouse memories.

Dementia in older age can prevent us from reminiscing about past holiday joys, and eventually rob us or loved ones of the ability to communicate, make new memories, and perform even the simplest everyday functions. So how do we keep the holiday memories that we hope to cherish for many years when statistics tell us that the risk of being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease is close to 50% after the age of 85? Currently, there are an estimated 5.7 million Americans living with Alzheimer’s disease and 50 million people worldwide with this condition. What can we do to lower our risk while researchers look for a cure?

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Researchers in Finland believe that lifestyle can impact memory and brain health, and have influenced local scientists at Wake Forest Medical School and associated healthcare centers to explore how reversible risk factors, like physical activity, can impact dementia. They report in Vital News (Fall/Winter 2019), the newsletter for the Sticht Center for Healthy Aging and Alzheimer’s Prevention, that one third of Alzheimer’s disease cases worldwide are related to physical activity, obesity, high blood pressure, diabetes, smoking, depression, and lack of education on risk factors. They are looking at combinations of healthy diet, physical activity, social activities, and mental challenges to see which ones can positively impact disease course and progression. The Vital News newsletter lists numerous Wake Forest, Sticht Center, and other local institutions’ studies and how to volunteer as a participant.

While researchers continue to investigate interventions and possible cures for Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia, current evidence supports regular physical activity and exercise that meets the recommended 150-300 minutes/week of aerobic exercise, strength training, and for added measure, some balance training. Practice aerobic exercise that increases blood flow to the brain. Stop smoking, treat any diagnoses of diabetes or depression, be social, and lose weight.

While there is no guarantee (yet) that these changes will prevent the onset of dementia, they can certainly improve overall health and decrease the overall risk of suffering a cognitive decline in older age. Talk to your primary care provider about these lifestyle changes and potential referrals to members of your healthcare team that can help implement safe and effective changes.

A physical therapist can design safe and effective exercise programs and provide education on how to progress through that program. Making some (or several) of these lifestyle changes is a promising step toward helping your brain hold on to and share cherished memories for as long as possible.

I hope to remember Malibu Barbie for years, and maybe even play with a Barbie with my future great-grandchildren!

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GET GLAM AND GLOWING FOR THE HOLIDAYS WITH GORGEOUS MAKE-UP!

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Look glamorous and gorgeous this holiday with these lovely looks. Dare to dream up a little drama. Try colorful eyes, silver smoky eyes, and ravishing red lips that say “kiss me!”

PRETTY PALETTES

Palette ideas include rare precious metallic and oh-so-seasonal red, green, and white Christmas colors! Why not celebrate the season with fanciful and fun make-up?

FRAMES FOR YOUR EYES

Shape up those brows, pluck stray hairs and fill in sparse areas with shadow or pencil in a natural shade, following the natural shape of your brow. Try your best to make them look even. And remember, your brows are like frames for your eyes. You want them to complement your pretty peepers - not detract from them - unless you’re into the heavy brow look (a la Brook Shields). Keep the focus on those windows to your soul!

GLAM AND GORGEOUS GREENERY

Use a small eye shadow brush or angled brush, depending on how finely you want to line your eyes.

Use green to shade close to the lash line around each eye. Add more drama by rimming your eye with black eyeliner and applying two coats of black mascara.

COOL CHRISTMAS COLORS!

Get festive with Christmas colors! Try applying white shadow to your lids and under your eyebrows, towards the outer edge of the brows. Then shade in the crease with a poinsettia red. Line your bottom lash lines with green shadow. For more definition, consider adding black eyeliner to the top lash lines then add two coats mascara. Curl your eyelashes for a wide-eyed effect.

For lips, stick with a neutral nude or go gung-ho with a bright, Christmas red.

SNOW WHITE & CANDY CANE STRIPES

Highlight your eyes with white (like snow), which goes festively with ravishing red, and you can even do a few stripes (like a candy cane) if you’re feeling adventuresome.

SILVER BELLS

What’s flattering to most eyes that you can layer with white and black? Silver!

Choose a shimmery shade of silver and play up those peepers. Add mystery and intrigue with sexy and dramatic black eyeliner, black mascara, and even

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a little black eyeshadow in the outer corners of your eyelids, hugging the lash line. Here’s to plenty of pop!

PUCKER UP & PERFECT THAT POUT

Shimmery gold and metallic silver are also great options for highlighting your eyes, and you can apply a little to the center of your lips over lipstick, followed by a lip gloss for a plumpifying finish that puckers up that pretty pout.

Perfect that pout with palette-pleasing colors that complement your skin tone.

Can’t seem to find the right shade lip color? Experiment and mix colors together to find the right hue that suits you!

DIY MUA (DO-IT-YOURSELF MAKEUP ARTIST)

Artistic license is yours for the taking, so get creative and be your own makeup artist. Play around with your palette.

Study make-up trends and how-to’s on YouTube and beauty blogs. Warning: your savvy styling skills could be in hot demand with family and friends as they line up for you to do all their make-up!

CONCEPTS OF CONTOURING

Experiment with different shades of green, like lighter mint green and dark forest green, as a contour color.

Remember, the basic concept of contouring is to give your facial features more definition, depth, and dimension, as well as slim and shape your face. The cool thing about make-up (well, aren’t there many cool things?) is that the right make-up application can take off years or pounds. Typically, highlighting brings attention to an area and stands out, as well as adding contrast to darker areas. Contours can recede and give the appearance of a bit more – or a lot more – drama.

Bored with doing your own make-up?

Head to a department store and have them do your make-up, whether you opt for a full make-over or prefer just brows, eyes, cheeks, or lips. Or, invite some girlfriends over before you go out and allow enough time to make each other up.

Look your best and love your look before you head out to that Christmas party. C’mon gals, it’s party time!

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Through the Decades:

A Look at the First 19 Years of the 21st Century

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Remember New Year’s Eve, 1999? People were celebrating the turn of a new century, another decade, and millennium. For some people, they were also looking at the unknown of what could happen going into the 21st century. Now, 19 years later, a great deal has happened, some good, some bad, but all memorable. Before we enter 2020, let’s take a look back at the notable happenings from 2000 to 2019.

2000

Since 2000, the United States has had three presidents – George W. Bush, Barack Obama, and Donald Trump. In 2000, Texas Governor George W. Bush defeated Al Gore and was elected the 43rd president. However, the votes were so close in Florida, there was a recount, and eventually, the Supreme Court declared a president a month after Election Day.

2001

Not many people can forget the September 11, 2001 attacks on the Pentagon and the World Trade Center. Nearly 3000 people were killed when two planes flew into the World Trade Center, and one crashed at the Pentagon in Arlington, VA. Another plane crashed in a field in Shanksville, Pennsylvania. The original plan for the plane was averted by the passengers.

On October 7th, the United States military and the United Kingdom began their first attack in the War on Terrorism against the Taliban and Al-Qaeda in Afghanistan.

2002

President Bush opens the Winter Olympic Games in Salt Lake City on February 8th. The games continued until the closing ceremony on February 24th.

2003

The Space Shuttle Columbia crashed over Texas on February 1st. All seven astronauts are killed after a successful space trip.

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2004

One day after Christmas, a tsunami killed over 200,000 people from Sri Lanka to Indonesia. The event was one of the greatest humanitarian tragedies in history.

2005

Hurricane Katrina hits the Gulf Coast in late August.

New Orleans became filled with water from Lake Pontchartrain when the levees broke. Today it is viewed as one of the worst natural disasters in the United States.

2006

The Wii gaming console was released by Nintendo in November 2006 at $249.99.

2007

Representative Nancy Pelosi is sworn in as the first female speaker of the U.S. House of Representatives on January 4th.

2008

Barack Obama was elected in a landslide election as the 44th President of the United States and the first African-American president.

2009

Captain Chesley B. Sullenberger, “Sully,” successfully lands US Airways Flight 1549 in the Hudson River after being struck by a flock of geese shortly after takeoff.

2010

2014

The Affordable Care Act was passed on March 25th. The legislation extended healthcare benefits and insurance to many Americans. However, it was controversial and caused concerns from the public and Congress.

The Ice Bucket Challenge overtook the Internet and controlled social media for summer 2014. People, including celebrities, dumped buckets of ice water on their heads, then challenged others to do the same, all to raise money and awareness for ALS/Lou Gehrig’s Disease. At the end of the craze, $115 million was raised for the ALS Association.

2011

The war in Iraq was declared over in December and President Obama ordered the remaining combat troops to leave the country.

2012

Two historic shootings took place in 2012.

First, on July 20th, a gunman opened fire in Aurora, Colorado at a midnight showing of “The Dark Knight Rises,” killing 12 people and injuring 58. Then, on December 14th, 26 people died, mostly children, at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newton, Connecticut.

The attack is now the second deadliest mass shooting committed by a single gunman in U.S. history.

2013

100,000 people came to the Lincoln Memorial and the National Mall in Washington, D.C. to commemorate the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther King’s “I Have a Dream” speech on August 28th.

2015

Pope Francis made his first visit to the United States in September.

He held services in Washington, New York City, and Philadelphia.

2016

Music competition show American Idol ended its fifteen-year run on April 7th. For eight of its seasons, the show was number one on television and brought in over 31 million viewers in 2006 alone.

2017

Hurricanes Harvey, Irma, and Maria plowed through Texas, Florida, and the Caribbean, causing massive flooding and destruction. Celebrities came together and hosted the “Hand in Hand” telethon for Hurricanes Harvey and Irma victims.

2018

President Donald Trump and North Korean leader Kim Jong-un met for the first time to discuss North Korea giving up its plans for nuclear weapons.

2019

2019 was an important year for many historical events.

We celebrated the 50th anniversaries of the moon landing and Woodstock. This past June, we remembered the 75th anniversary of D-Day, when Allied troops stormed the beaches of Normandy, France.

As I completed research for this article, many events I had forgotten about reappeared.

Here’s to 2020 and many more years of history-making!

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Get a Hobby

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

I bet you are busy.

I bet you are so busy, you read this title and said, “I don’t have time for a hobby,” or “I don’t need a hobby,” or “Even if I had time what would I do?”

I am here to tell you that you should stop thinking that you are too busy. Get a hobby.

There are so many reasons why hobbies are good for your health.

You can’t work all the time. You are more than what you do; if it’s a business or a position at a business, you are more than your work.

You know this though. I’m just going to help you help yourself find a hobby.

GO BACK TO BEING A KID

What did you like to do when you were younger? Tap back into those things that made your heart sing, whether that was collecting rocks, crocheting, growing flowers…head back to your youth and see what made you tick once upon a time!

TRY MANY THINGS!

Got a list of potential hobbies?

Take a moment to try them out – yes, all of them. Some of them might not be the best for who you are now, and others might be exactly what you need.

A personal example: I started to read again a few years ago. It’s not that I ever stopped, I just stopped making time for it. So I

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did what any business owner would do, I tried to combine my professional development with my hobby, and started reading self-help and business books. I ordered ten off Amazon and started to read through them, one painful page at a time.

That lasted for about a month.

It was too much like work!

After that, I started crocheting again…that lasted for about four weeks. Then baking – that made it a few months. Candy making, a long weekend. I missed reading. After a while, I realized that I wanted to read, I just didn’t want to read books I associated with work.

Bring on the thrillers!

Had I not tried other things – and a lot of them – I don’t think I would have ended up back at reading.

GUILTY PLEASURES

If you’re struggling with your childhood list, head to the guilty pleasure portion of your life. What do you do when you have nothing work-related to do? Take some time to check on what you consider a guilty pleasure. Is it buying plants?

Running? Shopping for your collection of colorful cups?

Whatever you might do, tap in and see if it’s potentially a hobby. It doesn’t have to be! This is just a nice place to go if you’ve exhausted your childhood passions.

DON’T MAKE IT WORK

I have a lot of plants. Like a lot a lot. I love them dearly. I also make cheesecakes for the holiday season. It’s one of my favorite things to do.

I can no longer count on all my fingers and toes how many times people have told me to sell plants, teach a class, talk about plants, sell cheesecake…and how many times I’ve said “absolutely not” because of the plants and cheesecakes. Those are for ME and only ME. Do not make your hobby your work. Your hobby is your hobby, and your work is your work.

Unless you want to make your hobby work, and fully understand that it won’t ever be your hobby anymore.

When it becomes your work, you have responsibilities, bills, and tasks that need to be done: ask any home baker turned bakery owner – once you start tying a hobby to your income and living expenses, it rapidly moves from hobby to work.

The best thing to remember when you’re looking for a hobby? It’s for fun. Remember fun?

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The Story Behind the Carol

BY VONDA HENDERSON

It’s that time of the year – Christmas carols are on the radio and played as background music in restaurants and shops all over. You can’t get away from them! They do put you in a Christmas mood, and certain ones stand out as favorites for many reasons – they invoke childhood memories, remembrances of loved ones, or just make you feel good when they play.

Most everyone has personal favorites. Let’s share some of the stories behind the music on a few . . .

WHITE CHRISTMAS

Written by Irving Berlin, White Christmas is nostalgic with a longing for times past with sadness mixed in. Berlin’s infant son died at three weeks of age on Christmas Day, 1928. From that time on, he and his wife visited his grave every Christmas, and the lyrics identify with his longing and loss.

The song was first aired on the Kraft Music Hall radio show by its host, Bing Crosby, a few weeks after the attack on Pearl Harbor. It was often requested by troops during USO shows, even if it wasn’t planned. It was said that Bing Crosby often had the song removed from the show because he felt it was so sad for the troops to hear, but evidently they didn’t share that emotion and most often called out for it to be sung.

The Guinness World Record notes White Christmas as the best selling single of all time.

“I’m dreaming of a white Christmas, Just like the ones I used to know”

SILVER BELLS

Silver Bells was written by Jay Livingston and Ray Evans for the movie, The Lemon Drop Kid,, starring Bob Hope. The song was originally titled Tinkle Bell; however, Jay’s wife explained the slang behind the word, and in short order, the title was changed to Silver Bells.

The song’s lyrics describe Christmas in a big city with all the hustle and bustle. The inspiration was derived from department store Santas and the Salvation Army bell-ringers on the streets of New York City.

“Silver Bells, Silver Bells It’s Christmas time in the city…

City sidewalk, busy sidewalks Dressed in holiday style In the air, there’s a feeling of Christmas.”

LITTLE DRUMMER BOY

The original title of the song was Carol of the Drums,, primarily due to the repeated line, ‘pa rum pum pum pum’ which depicted a drumbeat. There’s a bit of mystery about who the writer was for Little Drummer Boy, but Katherine K. Davis is most often credited. The song is thought to be based on an old Czech carol. In 1951, the song was recorded by the Trapp Family Singers (of The Sound of Music fame).

The lyrics speak to the Gifts of the Magi to Baby Jesus…

“Our finest gifts we bring To lay before the King” Enjoy the music of the season, not just as background music. Embrace the words and their meanings. Caroling is a fun, seasonal activity. Join in and go caroling with your church group or family. Many places welcome carolers – assisted living homes, nursing homes, and more. It doesn’t matter if you sing well or not; a joyful noise is just that. So, sing along with your favorite carols and enjoy the blessing of the season.

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GRISWOLD CHRISTMAS

BY VONDA HENDERSON

How would you define your outdoor decoration style for Christmas? Are you a minimalist who puts a wreath on the door and thinks, “Now, the decorating is done.” Or, do you put lights up on the porch rails and frame out the doors and windows, making sure everything is symmetrical? Or . . . is anything in the yard or on the house fair game for decorating?

If you decorate your home exterior with the gleeful abandonment of Clark Griswold in Christmas Vacation, you know who you are.

So do your neighbors and the people who make a point to drive by every year to see what you’ve added this year! ‘Cause if that’s your style, there’s not much taken away, only added to, right?

We are blessed in this area to have a beautiful annual treat to visit: Tanglewood’s Festival of Lights. We pile into vehicles and visit to enjoy the light show and get into the spirit of the season.

But don’t forget to also pile into your car for an evening tour around your neighborhoods to enjoy the ‘exterior illumination’ talents of local residents. You’re likely to be surprised at

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what you can find – no addresses or locations provided here – you’ll have to hunt them down on your own, but they’re worth the quest!

There’s the house that has a yard full of different Christmas scenes from the Nativity, to Frosty, to the Grinch, and pretty much every favorite TV special you can name. Is anything to scale? Of course not. But it’s fun to visit a house whose owners just go all in to celebrate. And the decorations are not limited to just the front yard. Nope, the fence has its own lights along with the deck.

Then there’s the house that goes even further . . . all the lights twinkle and cover the entire home front. The intensity is such that anyone with a flashing light sensitively really can’t look straight at it for very long. Let’s just say that you can see it from afar!

What do you do when the lights on the head don’t work anymore? One resourceful person made one slight modification – instead of standing in the middle of the yard moving its head; his reindeer now grazes in the shrubbery with his head hidden. One can assume that as long as the backend lights, that deer will be snacking on shrubs every season.

Have you seen the giant ornament balls of lights that some folks put in their trees? Maybe you’ve made some yourself by accident . . . don’t you hate pulling out a tangled mess of lights that no one thought to detangle from last year? Unless you have a phenomenal amount of patience, buying new lights is definitely a good idea.

And let’s not forget the good-natured, competitive spirit of neighbors bent on outdoing each other. You can tell when that’s the case during your drive; you get a front row (car) seat to determine the winner.

Whether you’re a Griswold-er decorator or just enjoy the simplicity of a few wreaths with spotlights, carve out some time to drive around an evening or two and enjoy the variety of decorations. Sharing is sharing whether it is a planned visit or a drive-by to see a house that exemplifies and celebrates the spirit of the season.

Raise your hand if you have or had those twig, pre-lit reindeers that have been so popular.

‘Tis the season. Enjoy! Merry Christmas to us, every one!

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Earlier this spring, Winston-Salem State University had a huge win! They were one of two HBCUs (Historically Black Colleges and Universities) selected by a panel of judges to each receive a $100,000 American Heart Association (AHA) grant as part of the AHA’s first-ever EmPOWERED to Serve Urban Health Accelerator. This WSSU’s studentled project takes aim at food insecurity and addresses disparities in chronic disease rates, which are highest among racial/ethnic minority and low-income populations, and they are already putting the dollars to work in our community!

As part of the project, the Rams Fitness Academy (RFA) camp was conducted this summer, with over 80 campers enrolled in the 6-week session. Monday through Friday, these campers were provided with a nutritious breakfast and lunch, healthy snacks, physical activities, health literacy, academic enrichment, and life skills classes.

In addition, campers were provided with several enrichment activities, including an introduction to gardening, developing a podcast, assisting with the artistic development of the Simon Green Atkins Community Garden Mural, and fun field trips.

Other camp activities included RFA Community Day, which included activities focusing on educational enrichment and career development. The Winston-Salem Fire Department provided experiential learning activities, and STEM activities were facilitated by staff from the Malloy Jordan / East Winston Heritage Center Public Library of Forsyth County.

RFA staff also conducted WSSU Career and College Prep Day to provide campers an occasion to explore future career opportunities. Campers engaged with WSSU professionals from the University’s Campus Police, Financial Aid Department, and coaches from the Department of Athletics.

During the camp’s American Heart Association Day, campers received information on heart health, a visit from the American Heart Association’s mascot, Thumper, and cooking lessons from the AHA’s Triad Mobile Kitchen with Chef N’gai Dickerson. Campers gained knowledge on the importance of eating heart-healthy and how to prepare healthy snacks.

The camp’s culminating event was a Showcase and Awards Day Ceremony, where campers’ families were invited to attend. The

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Showcase provided campers with an opportunity to share some of the many things they learned during the six-week experience.

“The success of the Rams Fitness Academy is due to engaged families, strong community partnerships, and an excellent staff. We take pride in addressing the health and well-being of our children by means of what we feel is a strategic and well-designed program that educates, motivates, and empowers our campers and their families to live healthy lifestyles. Campers and their family members often share stories of how they are exercising together more and trying healthier food options,” shared Dr. Cynthia Williams Brown, Chair & Associate Professor, Department of Health, Physical Education & Sport Studies for Winston-Salem State University. “The impact of the AHA grant over the next two years will help us increase our opportunities to address the root causes of persistent disparities and strategically continue advancing steps forward on the path to health equity.”

The AHA’s EmPOWERED to Serve Urban Health Accelerator- HBCU Leadership Summit was developed to address critical needs and social issues – in and around campuses – that impact the ability of individuals to attain optimal health. The AHA called on HBCUs from Maryland, DC, Virginia, North Carolina, and South Carolina to help solve some of today’s most complex problems, including removing social and societal barriers.

Nineteen schools answered that call and submitted ideas for a chance to move forward to the Showcase event and on April 29, WSSU presented their exhibit and made their final pitch to the judges at the International Civil Rights Center & Museum in downtown Greensboro and were awarded the funding to make their plans come to fruition.

The funding for the American Heart Association’s EmPOWERED to Serve Urban Health Accelerator – HBCU Community Wellness Challenge was made possible by the Barbara Houston Historically Black Colleges and Universities Legacy Award and through the support of Mr. John Houston, III. “Every member of our community should be able to achieve well-being supported by the places they live, learn, work, pray, and heal,” said Jennifer Lawson, Executive Director of American Heart Association in the Triad. “We are excited to work alongside WSSU to increase the opportunity for all of our neighbors to live longer, healthier lives.”

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Homemade, Handmade & Heartfelt DIY Gift Ideas

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

When it comes to Christmas presents this year, why not DIY? Homemade and handmade gifts come from the heart are special and memorable. By getting creative, you can make something truly authentic and unique, and even save money in the process. You can bypass chemicals and toxic ingredients in beauty and cleaning products and, instead, opt for organic and natural ingredients that save your skin and are beneficial to your health.

From making your own cards to complement each gift and craft a memorable message, to creating your own beauty (skincare, haircare, nail care, and bath) products, to crafting your own jewelry, you will be proud of your creative creations and so will recipients of your presents.

Get your creative juices flowing and get going as you use your hands. Be a generous giver, and make Christmas gifts that are one-of-a-kind with a personal touch. Enjoy the process of gift making, wrapping, and exchanging. Be one of Santa’s busy elves this Christmas season and cross those names off your gift and wish lists - and treat yourself to some homemade gifts you can use, as well.

CREATIVE & CRAFTY CHRISTMAS CARDS

Christmas cards can be easy and cheap to make, and they can be personalized to have a signature flair that shows they came especially from you.

Origami - Try the art of paper folding and add origami cranes, swans, and other folded creations to your cards.

Calligraphy - practice penmanship using a steady hand to create calligraphy that is beautiful and sophisticated to convey your card’s Christmas message.

Collage/Montage - paste rice papers or magazine cutouts to your cards in an interesting and artful way.

Paint/Pastels - Whether your subject matter is a person’s or pet’s portrait, landscape, or something more abstract, create a work of art. Sign and dedicate it to your loved ones.

Photography - You don’t have to own a fancy camera with lots of lenses or boast a background in photography to create stunning pictures, but having an artistic eye does help!

Simply use your phone to snap photos, check free YouTube tutorials to learn image editing, edit your pics in a free software program like Gimp, and then get them printed!

Pressed Dried Flowers/Herbs - Lay flowers and herbs flat between two tissues or two paper towels and nestle them between the pages of a big old encyclopedia or novel. Wait until they’re pressed and dried, and then glue them to your cards.

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DIY BEAUTY & CLEANING PRODUCT GIFTS COULDN’T BE CLEANER CITRUS CLEANING SPRAY

INGREDIENTS • ½ cup distilled white vinegar • 2 cups water • 10 drops orange essential oil • 10 drops lemon essential oil • 5 drops tea tree essential oil DIRECTIONS Combine all ingredients in a bottle and screw on a spray top. Shake before spraying.

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ALL AROUND BEAUTY MOISTURIZING OLIVE OIL

INGREDIENTS • 1 cup olive oil • 10 to 20 drops essential oils

PRETTY PINK PEPPERMINT LIP BALM

INGREDIENTS • 1 beetroot, ground in food processer and strained (use the juice only) • 1 teaspoon to 1 Tablespoon coconut oil • 3 to 5 drops peppermint essential oil DIRECTIONS Mix all ingredients together and dispense into a lip balm container.

Refrigerate to solidify.

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COFFEE + COCONUT OIL SCRUB

INGREDIENTS • ¼ cup dry coffee grounds • ½ cup coconut oil DIRECTIONS Add coffee grounds to coconut oil and mix well.

Store in a glass mason jar or another container. This scrub is both exfoliating and moisturizing and makes a great gift for gardeners.

Recipe adapted from: thehowtohome.com/ all-natural-coconut-oil-and-coffeehand-and-body-scrub/

DIRECTIONS Mix ingredients and use this versatile plant-based oil on your skin, hair, and nails.

CRAFTING WEARABLE ART

Visit your local craft store and pick up earring backs, ring backs, necklace chains, bracelet chains, jump rings, and wiring to make jewelry, and then take a trip to Goodwill, Salvation Army, consignment stores or flea markets for some interesting jewelry to repurpose. Create wearable art with beads, baubles, gemstones, pendants and seashells. Go on a nature walk and collect pinecones and gumballs to use, too.

The gift-giving season is upon us, and, with Christmas just around the corner, you’ll want to get busy DIY-ing your cards and presents.

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WOMEN PIONEERS

Who Broke the Mold

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

As women, we are constantly working hard to make a statement in a world that is mostly dominated by men. But as black woman, we have to strive twice as hard to get the same amount of respect as everyone else. There are some great black women of our time who have pioneered their way into greatness and set the standard in certain fields of work.

MICHELLE OBAMA

Although a traditionalist at heart, Michelle Obama knew from a very young age that she was different than most girls. It was her industriousness, class, and hard-driven nature that set her apart. These traits followed her through her adulthood and eventually made her the first black First Lady of the United States. She had a very humble upbringing that prompted her to strive until striving became thriving! Of course, she faced insecurities and challenges, such as living in a rural community with little opportunity in education and personal inadequacy. She would constantly ask herself, “Am I good enough?” Despite achieving academic heights and graduating from Harvard and Princeton, she somehow felt that she wasn’t worth her accomplishments.

But Michelle had to catch up to her greatness.

She would do this by meshing who she is and what she stood for with every job she took on in her life. Although her marriage to Barack Obama steadily pulled her away from the conventional life she’d always known, she had to overcome a major hurdle: to take on a life that had more control over her than she did. Michelle felt more comfortable being in control over every aspect of her life instead of living a spontaneous one as our former First Lady. It terrified her!

One thing that kept her grounded and motivated was incorporating some aspects of her old life into her new one: grocery shopping, gathering together with her old friends, practicing aerobics, and especially marrying her passions with her new role. Her passions included advocating for education and nutrition and planting a garden, all of which gave her abundant success and made her a living legend.

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KATHERINE JOHNSON

Fiercely intelligent and precociously gifted with numbers, Katherine Johnson was always led by her extreme curiosity and was driven to do her best. Her drive, curiosity, and talent took her far and made her one of the first black female computers for NASA. Her journey as a legendary mathematician skyrocketed at a young age when her brilliance with numbers shot her several school grades ahead. By the time she was thirteen, she was already taking collegelevel courses. At eighteen, she enrolled in the historically black West Virginia State College and majored in mathematics. She graduated with the highest honors and devoted herself to a shortlived teaching career. When she heard about job openings at the West Area Computing section at the National Advisory Committee for Aeronautics’ Langley Laboratory, she and her family moved to Newport News, Virginia, to pursue a new career.

Johnson had several breakthroughs during this career, one of which included the 1962 orbital mission of astronomer John Glenn for the Friendship 7 mission.

Katherine was asked by Glenn to do the work that the most sophisticated IBM computers at the time would normally do – calculate the trajectory of the capsule from blast off to splashdown. Glenn did not want to risk technological malfunctions that would cause the IBM computers to shut down while he traveled, so he asked Katherine to perform the calculations by hand. “If [the numbers] are good, then I’m ready to go,” said Glenn.

Because of Katherine’s impeccable ability with numbers and computations, Glenn’s flight was a success! It’s believable that Katherine only wanted to get her job done right at the time instead of focusing on whether or not she would become legendary.

It’s not about trying to break the mold; it’s about actually doing it.. These women probably didn’t even know they would become pioneers, but somewhere along their journey and in the midst of their breakthroughs and accomplishments, perhaps they felt they had the capacity to shake the world.

Part 2 will explore the lives of Mary Jackson and Dorothy Vaughn, the other black women who were NASA pioneers.

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is a comprehensively certified Power Pilates instructor at Inner Strength Pilates. She has been teaching Pilates in the Triad since 2012. She is also a certified Lymphatic Enhancement Practitioner. During the last year, Summer has taken several new courses, including a course on Bellicon Rebounders, courses from ScolioPilates and her Master training for Lymphatic Enhancement Technology. This detoxification method has been life-changing for many of her clients. Summer has a background in horseback riding and dance, which led her into Pilates. She immediately fell in love with the method and is a firm believer that movement heals! Summer enjoys spending her spare time with her two children, husband and their animals.

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is a graduate of the University of Vermont nursing program. Lisa served in the United States Air Force as an active duty nurse for four years and in the inactive reserves for four years as a medical-oncology, nursing supervisor and emergency room nurse. As a civilian R.N., Lisa worked in oncology and also at a rehabilitation hospital. Lisa is a proud Air Force BRAT and veteran; growing up as a BRAT, her family lived all over the United States as well as in Asia and Europe. Lisa was a Pilates student, for many years, leading to her love of the Pilates Method. She has completed many trainings and certifications through STOTT Pilates and Pilates Academy International. Lisa is a Polestar Pilates Studio Practitioner and is a nationally certified Pilates teacher. Lisa recently completed training in Scolio-Pilates and is looking forward to applying that knowledge to many of her clients! She loves combining her nursing background and her Pilates certifications to help clients become stronger, and achieve and maintain functional movement. Lisa is thankful to God for leading her to Inner Strength Pilates and the wonderful team there! In her free time, Lisa enjoys traveling, knitting, reading and spending time with her husband, adult daughters and their dogs.

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was an English major at Salem College, studying Romantic and African American Literature, when she was pregnant with her first child. “I read Pride and Prejudice and Frankenstein and Toni Morrison aloud to her,” said Susan. “I was a little worried about how those conflicting themes and graphic images would affect her personality in the long run, but thankfully, she turned out alright.”

By the time she graduated two years later, with a second daughter on the way, an obsession had been established.

Motherhood didn’t ease her addiction. Two boys were soon added to the family; so, with four kids to read to, Susan was delighted to reunite with her childhood favorites and discover their quirky favorites, as well. Historical fiction and classic literature are her go-tos, but she won’t turn her nose up too much. And, though she’s not a huge fan of cooking, she even appreciates a good cookbook. “I like to give Amy Sedaris, I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence as a gift. It keeps hosting in the proper perspective.” Susan is gratefully married to another avid reader, Craig, who is kind enough to favor different genres so she doesn’t have to share her books.

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

Let’s Review: 12 Tips from 2019 to Empower Your Business This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Let’s take some time to celebrate and reflect the last year together! This month we’re looking back at 12 months of tips, tricks, and bites of knowledge from 2019’s Hustle & Heart as a reminder to be proud of what you’ve accomplished and excited for what you’re going to implement next in your business! Cheers to a great next year!

1. Projects and tasks of small business owners continue to evolve and add up throughout the week, making it difficult to feel accomplished. Do yourself a favor and spend a little time at the start of every day picking your top three goals! Sure there are tons of things to get done, but choose three things that absolutely must be completed before the end of the day.

2. Avoid what I call “review abandonment” and make it simple for customers to write you a rockstar review with these three questions: Question #1: What was the problem that you were facing? Question #2: How did you use me to solve that problem?

Question #3: What did life look like afterward/what did success look like after?

3. When you have a new service launching or a product sale coming up, promote your brand and dive into your marketing across all of your resources. Make sure to pause in between those large promotional moments and prepare your existing audience and potential customers alike, by curating connection and trust.

4. The “where” that you choose to sell has to support who you are. Consider your personality and ask yourself if you are more introverted or extroverted. Do you enjoy interacting with customers in person or behind a screen? Do you enjoy the creative side of merchandising a physical space, or does that idea frighten you and feel uncomfortable? Know your strengths and play into them to get the best results.

5. When it comes to user-generated content, the more, the better for your business, especially when the account is leading people back to your brand.

Encouraging customers to share photos of themselves using your product and tagging your account on Instagram is a simple way to gain traffic and often followers.

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6. When you are starting a business, a support system is one of the biggest assets you can have.

Having people in your circle who not only care about you and your success but are willing to help promote what you’re doing and connect you to others is very important. Spend time cultivating a community and the ROI will always be tenfold.

7. Having a content plan can seem like a bear to tackle, but I promise it can be as easy as sitting down at your computer for a fifteen-minute brainstorming session! A great way to make this happen is to add a recurring calendar reminder each month during a time of day you are most likely to have some time to spare. This becomes your time to get all of your ideas in one place.

8. One of the best pieces of advice I received was to create a “rainy day” folder in my email. This folder is meant to be a place where you can store those emails and sweet messages of encouragement, praise, and rock star moments. It could be a review from a client, a thank you from a friend, or anything that makes you smile and reminds you that you’re doing amazing things!

9. When someone needs you “real quick,” remember that the moments with them are not all they are asking for. You lose productivity by exiting your current concentration and workflow, as well as the time it will take to get back into it afterward.

Embrace saying “no” and “not right now” to stay productive when you need to.

10. When you’re creating video content, it’s important to remember exactly whom you’re addressing and try to picture them in front of you! We can feel awkward and a little robotic when we hit that scary record button on our camera or smartphone. Allow yourself to have someone in mind that you’re speaking to, and it will get easier to show up as yourself and share what you’re there to talk about.

11. Think of everything you’ve learned since launching your business!

Remember, you don’t have to know the steps A through Z to teach someone A through C! Host a workshop or class on a topic you are knowledgeable and passionate about that coincides with your brand. By showcasing your expertise, you become a resource for your audience and you gain trust, which helps build a strong, reputable brand people stand behind.

12. You can do big scary things. Listen to the voice of fear when it starts to speak and give yourself permission to either run away from something that doesn’t feel right for you or run towards something that you want more than anything.

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In case you thought I was losing my mind or making all of this up, I wanted you to hear a voice other than mine. My friend Peggi Coony is acting as a Guest Columnist to share her story.

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BY PEGGI COONEY

Several of my friends had committed to intermittently taking a break from drinking alcohol this year and reported feeling healthier and having more energy. Jenn Quest Kaustch’s 21 Day Reset Program popped up on my Facebook and Instagram pages several times around the month of June, and I spent several weeks thinking about joining. I had been questioning my relationship with alcohol for months. I was finding myself promising not to drink that morning, only to justify drinking a glass or two or three when five o’clock came around. Interestingly, most of my friends, all of my colleagues, and some family members had no idea I had any issues with drinking. I never lost one day of work and have a high energy career as a social work instructor/coach for a local university. So many of the women in Sober Sis group are professionals working in the helping fields: social work, nursing, counseling, coaching, teaching, and health.

I know from my own training in social work that it takes about 21 days to form a new habit and about 90 days to make it stick. I enrolled in the Sober Sis Program on July 12 and successfully completed the 21 Day Reset. I felt so good after those 21 days that I extended my commitment to being alcohol-free and am now at 120 days. I can’t say I will never drink again, but right now, I am not willing to start over at day one.

Being Sober Minded really opened up my eyes to the incredible pressure there is to drink in the US. I started to ask myself, when did it become okay to drink alcohol at a six-year-old’s birthday party? When did it become ‘the thing’ to take your children trick or treating and be offered an alcoholic beverage at nearly every house in the neighborhood? When did grocery stores feel the need to open up full-service bars in the middle of their food isles? The tipping point for me was taking my three and seven year-old-twin grandchildren to Disney on Ice, and having a 40-ounce beer spilled over all of us! Seriously, beer and wine at a Disney Matinee?

At four months, I offer you my top twelve reasons I am grateful to be alcohol-free in honor of the upcoming holiday season:

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THE TWELVE DAYS OF GRATEFUL 1. I no longer have to buy birthday or congratulations cards along with my Sauvignon Blanc to make the clerks think I was buying the wine for someone else.

2. I no longer have to call the people I was with the night before and “fish” around for details of my behavior because I couldn’t remember. (Sad, right?)

3. My brother, Jerry, recently spent two weeks with me while our younger brother was in the hospital recovering from a massive heart attack. Right before he left, he hugged me tight and with tears in his eyes, said, “I am so completely happy to have my sister back.”

4. I now take fancy salt baths with eucalyptus, rosemary, lavender, or peppermint followed by doing meditation, which is seriously better than any glass of wine.

5. I no longer have to pull out my ID at grocery stores to buy wine. (I am 67!) I can also now go through selfcheckout…I usually don’t, but I can.

6. I am fifteen pounds lighter, exercise more, and I am sleeping better than I have in the past ten years.

7. It never gets old waking up in the morning clear-headed, hangover-free, with no regrets or no shame and ready to start my day.

8. For the first time, I was able to tell my new physician the truth about drinking alcohol. I don’t drink. (I never told my previous doctor I was having two to four glasses of wine a night at least four times a week).

9. I no longer wait in anticipation at my hotel (I travel a lot for work) for 6:00 pm to come around so I can get my two free, really awful glasses of Chardonnay. Pathetic, right?

I didn’t even drink Chardonnay.

10. I have stopped “pairing” Sauvignon Blanc with decorating for the holidays.

Halloween was my first sober-minded decorating activity since I began my journey on July 12. This wine “pairing” has actually been the one happy drinking memory I have and I am not going to lie. I will miss it.

11. I can put my eyeliner on straight every time.

12. When I finally told my best friend about my new sober-minded lifestyle, she sent me this text: “I am so honored that you shared this with me. I definitely have experienced a difference with you. I applaud your courage and growth. The most beautiful element of this equation is not only how your life will be enriched; it is the impact you will have on others. I LOVE IT! I love you, and am very proud of you!” My husband and my adult children are also some of my biggest supporters.

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More, Please?

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

Ah, that rich green, mildly flavored herbal seasoning that we see sprinkled on vegetables, roasted meats, and pastas.

Although ubiquitous in many cuisines, parsley is possibly overlooked and, therefore, may not be widely known for its powerful health benefits. Over the years, parsley has been used to treat conditions such as high blood pressure, allergies, and inflammatory diseases. Here are some enlightening advantages of adding this leafy seasoning into our regular diets.

PROTECTS OUR EYES

Parsley is high in carotenoids that keep our eyes healthy and our vision sharp. Beta carotene is one of these carotenoids that can be converted into vitamin A in our bodies, another vitamin that is essential to eye health. The other carotenoids that prevent eye degeneration are called lutein and zeaxanthin. These agents help to prevent blindness from people across cultures.

HEART HEALTH

As a nutrient-dense herb, parsley is high in vitamin B folate, which supports a healthy heart. It helps to have a relatively high intake of parsley, or any food that is rich in vitamin B folate, to decrease our risk of future heart disease.

ANTIBACTERIAL PROPERTIES

When used as an extract, parsley is instrumental in fighting bacteria. Studies have shown that parsley keeps bacteria from forming and prevents molds in foods. Parsley is also capable of preventing the growth of salmonella, which is a catalyst for food poisoning.

MAY LOWER CANCER RISK

One of the many causes of cancer is prolonged oxidative stress—when there is an imbalance of antioxidants and free radicals in our bodies. With parsley being so high in vitamin C and flavonoid antioxidants, it helps to reduce oxidative stress and, therefore, reduces the risk of our bodies developing cancer. High dietary intakes of parsley can help reduce colon cancer risk.

HEALTHIER BONES

Does anyone here need to work on their bone health? Parsley can help in that as well! Vitamin K is a building block for our bones. It supports bone-building cells and activates certain proteins that increase bone density, making them less vulnerable to fracture and osteoporosis. Parsley is quite high in vitamin K and will definitely benefit your bone health with regular intake.

ADDING PARSLEY TO OUR FOOD

Parsley can be used as a raw plant for smoothies, salads, and garnishing, and as a dried spice for an herbal seasoning on just about any food. Although it’s heavy in Mediterranean cuisine, parsley can be used on American foods such as hamburgers, pasta, sandwiches, grits, eggs, and potatoes (whether mashed, baked, or boiled). Not only is it amazingly healthy, but adds just enough greenery to any basic dish!

Parsley is not just a decorative herbal seasoning, but sprinkling it into our regular diets will sprinkle more health into our lives!

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Writers Who Read The Best Series for Winter Binge Reading

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR before, but there is nothing better than curling up with a good book when the weather is rough outside, and the winter season is no exception.

Usually during the winter, many people will complete a reading binge. They will try to read one book after another. If time allows, that person is me. However, I try to keep the books within a series. This way, I’m able to engulf myself in similar stories and characters for multiple books at a time. Let’s take a look at some of the best series for winter binge reading.

HARRY POTTER SERIES

by J.K. Rowling

The Harry Potter book series was first published in 1997 and detailed the story of an orphaned wizard named Harry Potter. Over the next ten years, seven books followed Harry throughout his time at Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry, meeting his friends and companions Hermione and Ron, and defeating “he who must not be named,” a.k.a. Lord Voldemort, a dark wizard who tried to kill Harry when he was a baby and wants to overthrow the Ministry of Magic. The series includes Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone (also referred to as Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone), Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, and Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows.

In 2018, it was reported that over 500 million copies had sold worldwide, translated into eight languages, and is the best-selling book series in history. After all, adults, young teenagers, and children have all fallen in love with Harry Potter.

THE LITTLE HOUSE ON THE PRAIRIE SERIES

by Suzanne Collins

Starting with the novel, Little House in the Big Woods, the Little House on the Prairie series chronicles of the life of Laura Ingalls Wilder over the course of eight books.

Written by Wilder herself, the books were published from 1932 to 1943. However, in 1971, the final tale The First Four Years was published posthumously and unfinished.

The series describes Wilder’s childhood on the American frontier in the 1870s.

Readers get invested in the Ingalls family of Laura, Ma, Pa, Mary, Carrie, and Grace.

We follow the family through their move from Wisconsin to Kansas, their travels in the Dakota Territory, and Wilder’s marriage to Almanzo Wilder. For many years, the timeless tales of the Little House on the Prairie series have attracted readers of all ages and will continue for decades to come.

A well-known trilogy, The Hunger Games follows young Katniss Everdeen in a young adult dystopian environment, Panem.

Located in North America, Panem consists of a wealthy Capital and 12 poverty-stricken districts. Every year, children from those districts are chosen by lottery to compete in a televised “survivor, battle death match” called The Hunger Games. Heroine Katniss is only sixteen years old but decides to volunteer herself for the games in her sister’s spot.

From there, Katniss battles life and death challenges where she must survive in order to win. Starter novel, The Hunger Games, was published in 2008 with Catching Fire in 2009 and Mockingjay in 2010. Since then, the books have been turned in beloved movies. One thing is for sure, that when reading the series, readers will always remember the catchphrase “May the odds be ever in your favor.”

by Laura Ingalls Wilder

THE HUNGER GAMES SERIES

New novels and series are published year after year. Yet, sometimes the best ones are the books that never go out of date and can be read over and over again.

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Do NOT Refrigerate After Opening!

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Food appears to have just as many rules as the English language! The biggest indecision arrives in canned and jarred foods that open with a sealed popping sound. Vacuum sealed for health and safety reasons, the goal is to kill any bacteria or molds growing fueled by exposure to open air.

The term “refrigerate after opening” is an instruction from preserved food products. The mind tends to play tricks on us, and almost every canned or vacuumed sealed products have a special shelf within the cooled box. If you ever ask the question, “How did so many items end up in my refrigerator?” it’s time to look at the items that can instead occupy a cabinet.

RULE: ITEMS SPREAD OR POURED, MOST OFTEN, DO NOT REQUIRE COOLING.

• Ketchup: Most restaurants keep bottles of ketchup on tables because it is an acidic food item and has less risk of forming bacteria. Most bottles contain the words “needs refrigeration” only as a precaution, since consumption is not likely after one month. In place of buying the extra-large bottle, consider a smaller size.

• Jams and Jellies: Despite the mixed opinions, some experts suggest water and pH levels support the acidity to foster bacteria growth. The best solution is to look at your brand and follow its recommendation.

Shelf-life is typically one-month.

• Mustard: Whether yellow or Dijon, the contents of mustard has enough acid to preserve it for two months without refrigeration.

• Barbeque Sauce: It is safe to store an acidic mixture at room temperature since its primary ingredients are tomato, vinegar, sugar and salt.

• Soy Sauce: A fermented condiment, it has a one-year shelf-life.

• Hot Sauce: If your hot sauce is vinegar-based without the addition of fruits and vegetables, the timeframe is three-years. Even if the color changes color, it will not spoil.

• Oils: While it seems logical to place your preferred oils next to the range, it’s not the best idea. Oils can spoil if exposed to light, heat and oxygen.

Unless the oil is nut-based such as walnut and hazelnut, it is best to remove from the refrigerator. The first indication is the liquid will cloud or even harden.

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• Peanut Butter: A spreadable item like peanut butter will harden if kept in the refrigerator. Choose a location not exposed to heat, light and oxygen!

• Butter: Four decades ago, it was customary to find a crock of butter on the kitchen table, alongside salt and pepper.

Science states, due to its properties of fat, salted butter can last at room temperature for up to two weeks. To enjoy soft butter, consider leaving a day’s worth under a crock. Make sure it is far from heat, light and air.

• Pure Maple Syrup: The moisture content of syrups is immune to bacteria; therefore, it has a difficult time fermenting.

• Honey: Due to a low pH level and the natural process created by honeybees, natural, raw honey is one of nature’s gifts, if sealed. If you have a jar with an expiration date, it may falsely comprise 90% syrups and lack the properties needed to heal and soothe.

RULE: BREAD AND BAKED GOODS ARE NOT PRONE TO BACTERIAL SPOILAGE.

Crystallization of the starches occurs when bread chills and changes the composition to brick-hard when chilled. While it has a finite timeframe on a counter, the best solution is to store it in an airtight container and bag, used within the week, or freeze for long-term storage.

RULE: SWEET TREATS, ESPECIALLY CHOCOLATE, SHOULD NOT BE REFRIGERATED.

Ever notice the surface of chocolate extracted from the refrigerator. The color appears “dull.” Refrigeration causes condensation to form on its surface, producing patches. Enjoy the full taste of chocolate, and keep it out of chilling temperatures!

RULE: PUTTING BATTERIES IN THE REFRIGERATOR DOES NOT PROLONG THEIR CHARGE!

Alkaline batteries self-discharge less than two percent per year if stored at room temperature or 70 degrees. Increase the temperature by 15 degrees, and the statistic increases to five percent annually. To battle the problem, homeowners deferred to refrigeration. Corrosion was one problem created by condensation. And, charging levels dropped once the batteries returned to a room or outdoor temperature. The recommendation is to store all batteries in a cool, dry and non-refrigerated location.

Just imagine all the space you will have after removing selected items from the refrigerator!

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Typically, we spend more time indoors in the colder months as we turn up the heat and snuggle up by a warm fire. Some people can meet basic requirements for vitamin D through the sun, but this is often not as true in the colder months. Without the sun, we are not synthesizing vitamin D, which is essential to our health for a variety of reasons.

GET OUTSIDE

Some factors that affect UV radiation are sunscreen, skin pigmentation, smog, cloud cover, location, and length of day. UVB radiation does not penetrate glass, so sitting by a window won’t get you the D you need. You’ll have to go outdoors to get your daily dose of sunshine.

WHEN & HOW LONG TO SOAK UP THE SUN

Since staying out in the sun all day without sun protection can cause burning and can put you at risk for skin cancer, researchers strongly recommend using sunscreen while soaking up the sun. Spending just five to fifteen minutes a day in the sun, at least two to three times a week, provides some basic vitamin D requirements. Early mornings and late afternoons are the best times to be in the sun, and medical professionals often caution against exposure at high noon when the sun is the strongest. Be smart and avoid overexposure.

HEALTH BENEFITS OF “THE SUNSHINE VITAMIN”

Since sunscreen with an SPF of 30 can reduce Vitamin D synthesis by 95%, supplementing with Vitamin D, “The Sunshine Vitamin” is often recommended.

• Vitamin D promotes strong bones and teeth and helps prevent osteoporosis.

• Vitamin D bolsters the immune system and reduces the risk of developing flu and pneumonia.

• Vitamin D is believed to improve blood sugar.

• Vitamin D may improve cognitive function and help prevent dementia.

• Vitamin D helps support a healthy pregnancy.

• Vitamin D may reduce the risk of diabetes.

• Vitamin D can help prevent some forms of cancer and might significantly reduce the risk of breast cancer.

VITAMIN D IN FOODS

Vitamin D is available in two forms: D-2 (ergocalciferol) and D-3 (cholecalciferol).

D-3 is the natural form created in the body in response to sunshine and may

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provide more benefits than D-2, a synthetic version made in a lab.

Vitamin D is not found in many foods, so supplementing in capsule or liquid form may be helpful.

For those wanting to get more vitamin D through their diet, the best sources of vitamin D include fatty fish, including tuna, salmon, and mackerel, as well as fish liver oils. Vitamin D is also found in egg yolks, beef liver, and cheese. Fortified milk, orange juice, and yogurt can also contain vitamin D.

D IS FOR DEFICIENCY – NOT ENOUGH D?

Opinions about optimal levels of vitamin D vary widely, but health care professionals estimate that 40% to 50% of Americans may be deficient in vitamin D. Without sufficient vitamin D, people can get sick more often, risk bone fractures, and become tired, fatigued, and depressed.

Guidelines for recommended dietary allowance (RDA) of vitamin D have recently been raised to 600 international units (IU) for everyone between the ages of 1 to 70 and to 800 IU for those over the age of 70.

Many health care providers recommend the 25-hydroxy vitamin D blood test to measure your vitamin D level.

Any result lower than 20 ng/mL indicates a vitamin D deficiency. Levels between 20 to 30 ng/mL are considered sufficient by RDA standards, but many providers prefer an optimal range somewhere between 30 to 50 ng/mL.

DAMAGE WITH VITAMIN D - TOO MUCH D?

Too much can be a bad thing, so don’t overdo your vitamin D intake! Vitamin D toxicity can lead to weight loss, anorexia, and heart arrhythmias. Damage may be done to the blood vessels, heart, and kidneys with an increased risk of developing kidney stones. Vitamin D levels above 100 ng/mL are thought to be too high.

Get healthier today and live better and longer by getting enough vitamin D. Soak up that sun in small amounts, eat vitamin D-rich foods, and take your vitamin D supplements regularly. Request that your doctor check your vitamin D level to see where you are and go from there.

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Holiday Card Hacks

BY TABI FALCONE

Every holiday season, families everywhere are bombarded with boundless holiday cards from friends, family, even their dentist. But how do we get that holiday card magic to pop, while still on a budget and with the least amount of stress (if that is even possible)? Yes, we all enjoy the professional photos taken by magazine quality photographers set in fields of magic, but let’s be honest – that just isn’t realistic for most of us.

If this struggle has ever crossed your mind, you have luckily stumbled across this magazine just in time! Below are some easy and cost-effective hacks to help you create fantastic images for your holiday cards this year. Once you have the image (or images) you want, just pop them into an online template and hit order – it’s as simple as that!

CRASH A CHRISTMAS TREE FARM

Before you set off to grab your Christmas tree this year, pick out some nice coordinated outfits (for this type of photo, flannels, boots and scarves work best) and take advantage of the amazing background created by lines and lines of fir trees. If you don’t feel comfortable asking a stranger or employee to take your photo, bring along a friend or selfie stick. A great option as well is to double up on photos by picking out trees with friends and taking turns taking each other’s family photos.

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF A MINI-SESSION

Social media is absolutely saturated around the holidays with photographers offering sales on their services with “mini sessions.” These sessions are generally 15-20 minutes long (which if you have small children is an absolute blessing – nothing is worse than having to try to make a 2 year old smile for an hour of photo taking), and are at a significantly discounted price from a standard photo session. As these normally supply between 5-15 edited images, you can pick and choose what you decide to throw on your holiday card.

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SILLY DOLLAR STORE PROPS

If your family structure is of the not-serious kind, it would be off-brand to send out stuffy holiday cards where all the kids are wearing sweater vests and everybody feels uncomfortable. Your holiday card should represent the fabric of your family, so if you spend your time together laughing and making silly jokes then capitalize on that for your photo! The Dollar Tree is absolutely packed with ridiculously fun and festive props – throw these on with holiday colors and just take a photo in front of a cool background! There are plenty of cool backdrops around the Triad, or you could sit down in front of a big bush in your backyard like the photo shown here.

REUSE OLD HOLIDAY CARDS

This requires a little bit of planning, but you can reuse generic cards that have been sent to you in previous years. Glue a piece of themed (or not – entirely up to you) scrapbook paper over the message from the original sender and then add your own message. If you want to include a photo you can slip it in and then send it off! This hack will save money (especially if you happen to have an unseemly amount of scrapbook paper lying around like many people do), and will reduce your carbon footprint in the process.

COLLAGE PHOTOS FROM YOUR YEAR

There is no absolute rule stating that you have to have a themed photo to use in your holiday cards. Scroll through your Instagram feed and pick some of the highlights from your year and throw them into a collage online and use these. Not only will this save you time and frustration, it will show your friends and family what you have actually been up to during the year.

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Vegan-ize the Ho i ays!

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

Food is paramount for the holidays. Some may argue that homemade dishes make the holidays! But for vegans, and even aspiring vegans, eating during the holidays can feel like a trap. With all the meats, cheese, and other non-vegan foods that make up holiday food, it’s hard to remain faithful to a vegan diet—and some of us may even cave with a small slice of turkey! The heavy indulgence in delicious holiday meals may also come with a lot of guilt because of the consumption of salts, sugars, and fats included in the most popular dishes. So, whether you’re a vegan trying to keep it consistent during the holidays or just someone who wants to enjoy the holiday feasts with a little less guilt, here are some vegan holiday goods that are just as tasty as the traditional dishes!

VEGAN CHRISTMAS TREE PLATTER

Who wouldn’t love a fruit and vegetable tray plattered in the shape of a Christmas tree? This crudité-inspired dish can be made with anything from oranges and blueberries, to broccoli and almonds. This type of dish is mainly used as an appetizer and is enjoyable for all ages to create and eat. You can be creative in various ways with the platter by using green fruits, vegetables, or a green peeling for the greenery of the tree; grape tomatoes or raspberries for the ornaments; pineapple bits for the lights and stars, just as some examples.

LENTIL LOAF

Some folks are unfamiliar with lentils, so here’s a brief introduction! Lentils are small legumes—similar to peas— that are loaded with fiber, protein, and minerals such as zinc, magnesium, calcium, potassium, and phosphorus. With lentils being a very popular food in the vegan diet, lentil loaf is a perfect addition for the vegan holiday feast. Think of meatless meatloaf. Crazy, right? But lentil loaf is a great vegan dish to parallel the beloved meatloaf. All you have to do is boil a cup of raw lentils for 40 minutes, mash them up afterward, combine with flaxseed meal and bake on 350 until ready. You can have fun with this by adding vegetables to the mix (peas, onions, diced carrots, and peppers).

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VIRGIN CHOCOLATE EGGNOG MARTINI

Seriously, what is a holiday season without eggnog? Good beverages always bring life into the holidays, especially the ones that everyone can enjoy. The term “virgin” implies no alcohol, so even if you’re underage, you can still be treated.

To create this new classic beverage, you need the basics: vegan eggnog, cacao powder, and a nice peppermint candy cane. Blend the eggnog and cacao powder until frothy, pour into your favorite glass or mug, and stir with a candy cane to add some peppermint flavor!

GINGERBREAD

So classic and common, yes, good ol’ gingerbread! Though intensely popularized since its dawning, many overlook the fact that gingerbread is vegan. Gluten-free gingerbread, gingerbread cakes, and cookies are all must-haves for a vegan dessert. There are many recipes for gingerbread treats that don’t include eggs or milk.

STUFFED PORTOBELLO MUSHROOMS

Portobello mushrooms are a staple in the vegan world. They are large brown mushrooms packed with protein, which many vegans use as a main dish in place of meat. Some may even use it as a “meat patty” for a Portobello mushroom sandwich or burger. So for stuffed Portobello mushrooms, you can add all of your favorite vegetables and choose a vegan grain—such as rice, lentils, and quinoa.

Prepare the vegetables and your cooked grain of choice and put them inside the Portobello mushroom cap. Bake until you’re ready to enjoy!

VEGAN STUFFING

A successful holiday feast practically requires stuffing! So for vegans, there is a way to make vegan stuffing just as good as the original. The ingredients are simple: cubed bread, vegetable stock, onions, garlic cloves, celery, vegan butter, and some herbal seasonings such as thyme, sage, and pepper.

It is possible to fully enjoy a holiday feast as a vegan! As you see, there are several ways to take a traditional holiday dish and vegan-ize it! So, you don’t have to worry about the extra calories or the temptation to fall into non-vegan eating.

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Holiday Tipping A Basic Guide

BY TABI FALCONE

While the holidays can be a joyous time to rejoice in time spent with family and friends, they can also be a stressful time when it comes to figuring out how to gift and tip. Generally speaking, it is common courtesy to tip any type of “household help” (such as lawn service, house cleaners, in-home nannies, etc.) around the holidays. Most people understand this but are unsure what the standard tipping amount is. According to Emily Post, the queen of etiquette, a cash tip should be up to one week’s pay – or one visit’s pay if they don’t get paid weekly.

Obviously, one week’s pay for a nanny, for example, can be substantial, and meeting this standard for tipping is not realistic for many people. It is important to note that if following the “standard” for tipping will be a financial hardship, you absolutely should not follow it. There are other ways to show your appreciation than with cold hard cash. Well thought out gifts can be both more meaningful, as well as better for your budget in this case, especially if you get your children involved in the gift shopping or have them help make the gift itself. For a fulltime, in-home caregiver (such as a nanny for a child or a health care worker for an elderly parent), a gift certificate for a spa treatment of some sort, such as a massage, would be an appropriate gift to go with something handmade.

Other in-home but not full-time workers such as landscapers and housekeepers also warrant a holiday tip but not to the same extent. If doing cash, stick to the one visit rule. If deciding to do “cash” but with gift cards instead of actual money, keep in mind that these services are often done in crews. If you know how many people are actually cleaning your house every visit, and likewise with landscaping, then make sure to get even amounts of gift cards per person. If you are unsure, it’s safest to do cash and allow them to distribute evenly amongst themselves.

But what about those people who make our lives easier on a less than regular basis? For our regular hairdressers, pet groomers, personal shoppers, and whomever else you may feel inclined to tip around the holidays, start with the same rule and adjust accordingly. If you are not scheduled for your regular appointment during the holiday season, it’s absolutely acceptable to stop by their office or salon to drop off a gift basket with a holiday tip or gift card in it. In fact, I’m sure that would absolutely make their day!

Some people are also not legally allowed to take cash tips, such as postage workers, so keep this in mind when making your list. For your mail carrier, they are legally allowed to accept snacks, and gifts that have a value of $20 or less. Most importantly, do what feels right to you to show your appreciation for the people who work so hard to help make your life easier.

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Happy 95th Birthday to Bea Thomasson, who celebrated at the family farm in Hamptonville. She was surrounded by her children, Ava, Jody, and Anita, as well as their spouses. Pictured left to right: Ed and Ava Lewandowski; Joy and Jody Thomasson ; Bea Thomasson; and Anita and Jim Kernodle.

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Post Adrenaline Blues

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Every late January and early February, I crash. It never fails: I’m flying through the holiday season, excited for my pumpkin spice everything (and I am not ashamed to admit it), only to run with open arms to gingerbread scents, trees and lights, and BOOM! Like clockwork, I feel down when it’s all said and done.

I know I’m not alone and felt a little better while prepping for this year’s slowdown when I heard about the concept of post adrenaline blues. I’m willing to bet even if you don’t get the same post-holiday blues as I do, you get some kind “meh” emotion after “high” moments.

Maybe you’ve been digging into work hard, and you’re finally done – YAY! – only to be miserable afterward for no good reason.

Perhaps you’ve felt the aftermath of a major event, and suddenly with all this time and energy that was previously spent on the event, you find yourself in the dumps.

Post adrenaline blues are quite literally the symptoms you experience when you are going in withdrawal from stress hormones – also called the “let down effect” it can also manifest physically. Remember getting sick AFTER the big stressful holiday get together? Your body held it together just enough to make it through, and then, BAM. In prep for your next slowdown, here are a few tips to make the aftermath a bit easier:

REFLECT

Think about what just happened and how you feel about it. What went well?

What didn’t? How did you feel about it? Giving yourself space to reflect on what just happened, good or bad, gives you time to process.

When I turned in a big project, I felt panicked: what is all of this time? What happens now? After looking back on how I accomplished that project, I realized that next time, I would be a

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little softer on myself and understand that off days are important. That reflection helped me get through that sudden panic.

RECOVER AND RELAX

“Learn to rest, not to quit” is one of my favorite quotes. Take time for you and do whatever fills you – if that is taking a moment to read a favorite book, having a nice snack or sleeping an extra hour on an off day, do something that is solely and selfishly for you.

If you are always pushing and working, you won’t move forward because your body needs that time to recover – whether you’re doing something physical or mental, that space between you and your work is critical.

ROUTINE

Dig back into that old routine! After major stress-inducing events, going back to your routine might help in your bounce-back. Keep busy (after you reflect and recover, of course!) and focus on tasks that need to be done, and you’ll be over that funk in no time.

When things seem a bit out of control, finding a routine to hold on to can make things feel a bit easier. If you don’t have one, start one! Even if it’s work for a few hours, then take a walk around the block before you hop on a call or do another email round, that’s a routine. Consistency can equal calm!

WHAT NEXT

I promise you; you have something coming up “next” – even if it’s in a few months! Start to focus on that “what next” as well as your next set of goals and accomplishments, and you’ll have a new plan. If you don’t give yourself extra time to wallow, you won’t. Focus on what’s coming up!

The next time you’re bummed after a big event, try these tips and see how fast you can get back to your normal.

And always remember, if things are more than you can handle, there is nothing wrong with seeking help.

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DR ESS FOR SUCCES S ® WIN STON-SALE M

First Annul Black Dresses & Red Bow Ties Dinner, Silent Auction & Fashion Show

BY ADELE CASANOVA, PHOTOS BY BOBBY ROEBUCK

Adele Casanova Dress for Success Fund Raising Committee and Vicky Denny, Dress for Success Board Member

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Florence Corpening, DFS Board Chair

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This event was a blast! Thank you, Macy’s for providing the beautiful clothing for our models to show off on the runway. Money was raised to support Dress for Success’s mission to help women in need in the community to become financially independent. Lots of attendees went home with terrific door prizes and great items from the silent auction table. Thanks to Village Inn Event Center in Clemmons for the use of their wonderful venue.

The buffet was absolutely delicious! Paparazzi Hair Salon glamorized our lovely models with make-up and hairstyling, and Keiger Graphic Communications provided all the printed materials. Dress for Success would like to also thank Forsyth Woman magazine for their amazing support with promotion and silent auction donations.

But this event is not over! There will be a gently loved Designer Clothing Sale that you will not want to miss! It is on Wednesday and Thursday, January 29 and 30, at Dress for Success, 375 Buxton Street, Winston-Salem (off of Sixth Street), 12:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. You will find amazing deals on designer items from Ming Wang, Carlisle, Doncaster, Coach, Kate Spade and more! All proceeds from this sale will go to help the women in need in our community!

Mark your calendars, not only for the Designer Clothing Sale January 29 and 30, but also for next year’s Black Dresses and Red Bow Ties Dinner, Silent Auction & Fashion Show on Thursday evening November 5, 2020! Contact Dress for Success at 336-970-0374, like and follow their Facebook page!

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Robin Ervin, DFS Executive Director

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Thank you to the following businesses and individuals for donating to Dress for Success: Nitsa’s Apparel, Sunrise Yoga, Inner Strength Pilates, Hanes Brands, Paparazzi Hair Salon, Phyllis Hines (Rodan and Fields), Lee Evans (Worth New York Certificate).

Special thanks to photographer, Bobby Roebuck.

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SECOND WEDNESDAYS

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting.

Learn more at PWWS.org

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 6 CULTIVATE™ FINE ART CLASSES FOR KIDS Twin City Bible Church, 1337 Ebert Street in W-S. CULTIVATE™ offers weekly lessons (90 minutes) in two tracks - homeschool and after school sessions – taught by professional artists Emily Drew Mash & Beth Glover. Both encourage your child’s inherent creativity through drawing and watercolor fundamentals. Every child will be encouraged to explore their own curiosity and individuality at any skill level. Cost: $100/month. emilydrewmash.com/cultivate

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 7 EXHIBIT: LIFE AFTER DEATH: THE DAY OF THE DEAD IN MEXICO 10am-4:30pm (Tuesday-Saturday), Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. The MOA’s annual exhibit celebrates the unique Mexican observance of the Day of the Dead. The exhibit’s centerpiece is a traditional ofrenda, an altar with food and beverage offerings, flowers, sugar skulls and photos of deceased family members.

Admission is FREE. moa.wfu.edu

DECEMBER 2

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WORKSHOP // WATERCOLOR FUNDAMENTALS + ABSTRACT TECHNIQUES 6-8:30pm, Awake Church, 7840 North Point Boulevard, #120 in W-S. In this art workshop, professional artist Beth Glover will be teaching the fundamentals of watercolor, including the types of washes, how to mix watercolor pigment and how to create beautiful pieces with a brush, watercolor paint and paper. Kids 6+ are welcome to register with a parent or an older sibling. All supplies are provided, and light snacks and drinks will also be provided. Cost: $30/person. bethglovercreates.com

DECEMBER 2, 9 & 16

MAGICAL MONDAYS 5:30-8pm, Greensboro Science Center, 4301 Lawndale Drive in Greensboro. Magical Mondays are coming to the Greensboro Science Center!

Enjoy complimentary hot cocoa and cookies from Chick-fil-A, listen to holiday stories with Wonderland Bookshop, create Christmas-inspired crafts, discover the science of the season with Mrs. Claus, and (be sure to bring your camera) meet Santa! Cost varies. www.greensboroscience.org

DECEMBER 3

GIRLS’ (& GUYS) NIGHT OUT HOLIDAY PARTY 5pm-until…, Sapona Club, 439 Beaver Creek Road in Lexington. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy $5.50 select wines by the glass, $1 off all draft beer, $6 signature cocktails and $6 appetizers! There will be live music and photo fun. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! Reservations appreciated.

MUSIC CAROLINA WINTERFEST – SWINGLE BELLS 7:30-9pm, Salem College – Elberson Fine Arts Center, Shirley Recital Hall, 500 East Salem Avenue in W-S. Holiday music with a fun jazz edge, with featured vocalist Martha Bassett.

Cost: $23/adult; $8/student or child. musiccarolina.org/winterfest-2019

DECEMBER 5

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KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY ANNUAL HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE 5-9pm, Kim Taylor & Company, 153 South Stratford Road in W-S. Join us for a festive night full of good food, merry cocktails and tons of giveaways!

DECEMBER 6

DECEMBER GALLERY HOP AT RED DOG GALLERY CONTINUING “ART UNWRAPPED” EXHIBIT 7-10pm, Red Dog Gallery, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. Showcases AFAS artists with a variety of artworks in a range of prices. This is the gift giving season when many are looking for that right gift for a friend or loved one. We hope to help you do just that! theafasgroup.com

DECEMBER 6-8

THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO SCROOGE 7pm, Redland Arts, 137 Baltimore Road in Advance. Please join us for a musical drama based on “A Christmas Carol” by Charles Dickens.

FREE tickets (336.998.4226). rpch.net GRASSROOTS HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE Grassroots Salon, 3283 Robinhood Road in W-S. Annual holiday open house. 20% off Aveda products, double Aveda Pure Privilege points, complimentary $20 gift card with $100 gift card purchase and a raffle for products and services.

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DECEMBER 6-7 & 13

‘TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS AT KÖRNER’S FOLLY Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. Come hear the Körners’ spin on the classic 1820s poem by Clement Clarke Moore, fun for children of all ages and the young at heart! The Puppet Show is followed by a visit with Santa in the elegant Reception Room. Bring your camera for this great photo opportunity! kornersfolly.org

DECEMBER 6-23

AN OLD SALEM CHRISTMAS CAROL SECCA – Southeastern Center for Contemporary Arts, 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. The Little Theatre of Winston-Salem’s original holiday classic returns! Set in Winston and Salem in 1887, this adaptation of Charles Dickens’ classic tale unfolds as three spirits try to teach a miserly mortgage lender the true meaning of Christmas in the heart of Old Salem. Cost: $23-25/person. ltofws.org/an-old-salem-christmas-carol-2019

DECEMBER 7

CHRISTMAS TREASURES SALE 8am-12pm, Clemmons Moravian Church, 3535 Spangenburg Avenue in Clemmons.

All gently used holiday related items including ornaments, lights and many other decorations.

There will also be an “all holiday corner.”

Proceeds will be shared with Clemmons Food Pantry. clemmonsmoravian.org HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE 11am-5pm, Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. It’s the holidays! Come and join us for all the sights, sounds and tastes of the season! Lots of wonderful gift ideas to start checking off your shopping list! Consider staying at our award-winning Hampton Inn and Suites for the complete experience. sheltonvineyards.com/events

DECEMBER 7 & 21

SATURDAY ART JAM! UNLEASHED ARTS CENTER @ AFAS CENTER FOR THE ARTS 12:30-3pm, Unleashed Arts Center, AFAS Center for the Arts, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. Create a fun ART project, meet new friends, free community ART event. All ages welcome.

Parents/guardians must stay with kids while at the event. There is no need to register ahead of time, just show up and bring your imagination!

CHRISTMAS BY CANDLELIGHT 5-9pm, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. To experience Körner’s Folly decorated from floor to ceiling in holiday lights, garland and decor is a real treat, and in the evening, it becomes even more magical! This special holiday event feature self-guided tours of the house beautifully decorated in the evening hours. Cost: $15/adult; $6/child. kornersfolly.org

DECEMBER 8

ST. JOHN’S CHRISTMAS FESTIVAL 4-7pm, St. John’s Lutheran Church & School, 2415 Silas Creek Parkway in W-S. There will be a Christmas pageant, vendors fair for gift purchasing, special music, crafts for the kids, food, fun and fellowship. The SJL Christmas Festival will be great fun for all ages. stjohnsws.com

DECEMBER 8-9

COMMUNITY CHRISTMAS FESTIVAL Winmock at Kinderton, 168 East Kinderton Way in Bermuda Run. Come join the whole community at the beautiful, historic WinMock barn to start off the advent season with a fun night of fellowship!

There will be plenty of Christmas crafts and games, seasonal desserts and beverages, and a special reading of the Christmas story followed by the classic carols we all know and love. All ages are welcome, and there is no cost for admission.

Donations will be accepted for victims of Hurricane Dorian. goodshepherdbermudarun.org

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DECEMBER 17

ANGEL BEAR YOGA: GREEN 3pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. As winter and the holiday season arrive, we’ll discover ways to enjoy nature and incorporate a little more “green” into our lives. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. kaleideum.org SALEM BAND HOLIDAY CONCERT 7:30pm, New Philadelphia Moravian Church, 4440 Country Club Road in W-S. The lovely New Philadelphia Moravian Church will be decorated for Christmas! Enjoy pre-concert music by Salem Saxophone Quartet. Participate in your community with holiday sing-alongs and donations to our annual charity partner, Sunnyside Ministry. salemband.org

DECEMBER 19

CHRISTMAS WITH THE EMBERS FEATURING CRAIG WOOLARD 7:30pm, Andy Griffith Playhouse, 218 Rockford Street in Mount Airy. Don’t miss Christmas with the Embers!

This is the perfect show to get you in the mood for the holiday season. Cost: $20/$25.

SENSORY FRIENDLY MONDAY 9am-12pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and sensory processing differences can have a fun and interactive learning experience in a comfortable environment! You don’t have to be a member to attend, but paid admission or membership is required. Learn more at downtown.kaleideum.org

SALEM BAND HOLIDAY CONCERT 7:30pm, Trinity Moravian Church, 220 East Sprague Street. The lovely Trinity Moravian Church will be decorated for Christmas! Enjoy pre-concert music

by Salem Saxophone Quartet. Participate in your community with holiday sing-alongs and donations to your Salem Band. salemband.org

DECEMBER 10

PRONOVIAS BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 S. Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

GROWN-UP GAME NIGHT 6:30-9pm, Greensboro Science Center, 4301 Lawndale Drive in Greensboro. Adults (ages 21+ only) are invited to enjoy wine and beer – as well as non-alcoholic beverages – while exploring the GSC after hours in an adult-only atmosphere! Join GSC staff for a round of trivia, participate in a virtual snowball fight and try your hand at giant jenga, kerplunk and cornhole.

Cost varies. greensboroscience.org

DECEMBER 12

KIDS’ MORNING OUT! 10-11am & 11am-12pm, Hoots and Hollers, 5336 Robinhood Village in W-S. Hoots and Hollers will help boost your children’s creativity with a special “make and take” sun catcher art project!

Snacks will be available. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous Forsyth Family Magazine prize board! Registration required; two time slots available – tinyurl.com/KMODec19.

DECEMBER 14

BALSAM RANGE Historic Earle Theatre, 142 North Main Street in Mount Airy. This multiple IMBA award-winning bluegrass group has left a well-marked trail of success while leaving audiences spellbound with their traditional yet contemporary sounds and fiery instrumentals. Cost: $35/$40/$45. surryarts.org HOLIDAYS WITH THE CAMEL CITY JAZZ ORCHESTRA Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, Reynolds Place Theatre, 251 North Spruce Street. WinstonSalem’s own big band will perform holiday classics, including new arrangements of seasonal favorites. Early Show: 5:30-7pm. Late Show: 8-9:30pm. Cost: $25/adult; $12/student or child. camelcityjazz.org

DECEMBER 14-15

THE BEST CHRISTMAS PAGEANT EVER 3pm, Andy Griffith Playhouse, 218 Rockford Street in Mount Airy. Enjoy this hilarious Christmas classic musical about the true meaning of Christmas. A couple struggling to put on a church Christmas pageant is faced with casting the Herdman kids – probably the most inventively awful kids in history.

You won’t believe the mayhem and fun when the Herdmans collide with the Christmas story head on! Cost: $20/$15. surryarts.org

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SURRY ARTS HOLIDAY REVUE 7pm, Andy Griffith Playhouse, 218 Rockford Street in Mount Airy. A holiday version of our Evening of Broadway! Come join us for an evening of classic holiday songs as well as songs from shows. A perfect holiday outing for the entire family. Cost: $6/person. surryarts.org MUSIC CAROLINA WINTERFEST – A CLASSIQUE CHRISTMAS 4-5:30pm, Salem College – Elberson Fine Arts Center, Shirley Recital Hall, 500 East Salem Avenue in W-S. Musical treasures of the past and present. Seasonal songs and carols. Cost: $24 general admission; $8/student or child. musiccarolina.org

DECEMBER 28

MUSIC CAROLINA WINTERFEST – PETER AND THE WOLF 10am, Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, Mountcastle Forum, 251 North Spruce Street. Fun for all ages!

Enjoy the classic tale in its chamber music version and up-close to the musicians! Cost: $10/adult; $8/student or child. musiccarolina.org

DECEMBER 31-JANUARY 1

NEW YEAR’S EVE 2020 CELEBRATION 8pm, Village Inn Hotel & Event Center, 6205 Ramada Drive. Entertainment in all the ballrooms! Party favors and noise makers, hors d’oeuvres from 8:30-10pm and a champagne countdown at midnight. nyeve2020.eventbrite.com.

NEW YEAR’S EVE CELEBRATION 9:30pm, Shelton Vineyards, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Dress to impress and celebrate New Year’s in style with Shelton Vineyards. Back by popular demand!

We will host our annual New Year’s Eve Party at The Barn at Heritage Farm. Dance tickets will be available along with full packages; including $100.00 towards dinner at the Harvest Grill, two tickets to our DJ/Dance party and hotel accommodations at the Hampton Inn & Suites at Shelton Vineyards. sheltonvineyards.com

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Now Open To The Public Sapona Bar & Grille

At Sapona, the views from the Clubhouse windows make every dining experience a memorable occasion. Enjoy your favorite beverage at the Sapona Bar while overlooking our dual 9/18th green; or dine open air on our covered patio with plush seating and fire tables. Sapona is now open to the public with a casual fine dining menu that appeals to everyone’s desires. Thick Juicy Burgers, Flatbreads, Grilled Bone-in Chops, and Fresh Seafood are just a taste of what our inspired culinary team prepares daily. Join us at the Sapona Grille after a round of golf, for a special occasion, or just a night out with family or friends for the best dining experience in the Lexington area.

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Conversations with Your How Can I Find More Joy BFF

BY REBECCA COOPER

in the Year to Come?

As 2019 comes to a close, there’s no doubt the older we get, the quicker the years seem to pass. With the fast pace of time, it becomes important to find joy in each day, leading to a fulfilling and joyful year. So for 2020, how can you have more joy? I’m so glad you asked!

I spent a good part of my life and still do to some extent, focusing on tomorrow. When I was in college, when most were enjoying the experience, I was in a hurry taking the heaviest course load I could to move this blip on my life’s radar along so that I could get to tomorrow and all that was awaiting me. I never went to a party, rarely did anything but study and unlike most of the rest of my friends, who squeezed four years into 5 or more, I tore through college, getting two four year degrees in three years. Did I enjoy my college years? Nope, not at all. I was a type-A, perfectionist ready to get on with life and I missed the joy filled, tiny details and I still struggle with doing the same thing in mid-life.

If we want to be happier and more fulfilled in our daily lives, we need to forget the big picture, the great tomorrow we are in a hurry to get to, and start with the details – the small, everyday choices we make. We need to choose joy every second of the day. But where do we start?

BE QUIET AND GET TO KNOW YOURSELF

As with most changes, before you can be different or better, you have to meet yourself where you are right now. There’s so much noise today from outside sources like our partners, kids, jobs, social media, TV, you name it, and quiet time is nonexistent. Spending time in meditation or in prayer, as I do, helps to center me and makes me more mindful of the details in life like watching a bird at the feeder or a child play on the sidewalk with chalk.

BE MINDFUL THAT YOU WILL TRY AND TALK YOURSELF OUT OF JOY

Most of us stay too busy to connect with what our bodies and souls are trying to tell us. When we do settle down, we realize we already know what we need to do: focus more on our spiritual walk, acknowledge our blessings, put the phone down. But there’s an inner voice that keeps us from acting on what we know to be the truth. Change is hard, so we find the rut of not being joyful comfortable.

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ACKNOWLEDGE YOU HAVE A CHOICE

Knowing that (most of the time), we can choose how we feel, that we can choose to ‘happen to life,’ as I recently read, instead of just letting life happen to us is one of the most liberating truths. We can’t control everything, but we can choose how we are going to show up each day and allow ourselves to be open to joy and walk away from misery.

SOMETIMES, YOU ARE YOUR OWN SELF-HELP BOOK

Self-help books and seminars are good, and there is a time and place for both, but sometimes just getting quiet enough to hear your own thoughts can be as beneficial as another book. Each day is a new page in your life’s book, so give yourself permission to write something completely different that you wrote yesterday and realize that living a life of passion and purpose is what you are meant to do no matter what your stage in life.

NEW DAY, NEW YOU

When each new day starts with yesterday’s leftover ‘to do’ list or baggage, you lose the fresh eyes and an openness to what may arise. We make more space for joy and happiness when we step into a new day with no expectations clouded by yesterday’s disappointments.

BE MINDFUL EVERY DAY

Take a moment each day to take stock and be mindful of what brings you happiness. Be honest with yourself and ask the questions you need to address.

Are you in a relationship with a person who doesn’t value you? Do you hate your job? We can’t always just toss life upside down, but we can make a step each day to get to a more joyful place.

EMBRACE THE BEAUTIFUL DISASTER YOU ARE

There’s a big difference between being conscious of our failings and beating ourselves up for them. Living a joyful life doesn’t mean living a perfect life. A writer once said, ‘There’s no such thing as happily ever after, it’s messily ever after.’ Take time to make yourself a priority, unplug and appreciate where you’ve been, the scars you’ve earned along the way and seek joy in the year to come…one day, one step at a time.

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