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PUBLISHER Brooke Eagle Brooke@ForsythMags.com

The Publisher Perspective

EDITOR Keela Johnson Keela@ForsythMags.com

Thousands of articles. Hundreds of events. Hundreds of thousands of emails. Countless hours of dreaming, brainstorming, and collaborating to make things happen. My mom, Keela, started Forsyth Woman with a clear mission in mind and that mission was to celebrate the lives of women. I’m proud to continue this legacy of celebrating local women and local businesses through the pages of our magazine, through our social media platforms, our podcast, and through our many events.

Take a step back in time with me… back to 2005. Keela was furloughed from her corporate job after 25 years.

She was approached by someone about selling ads for a car magazine, and this same person had a plan to start a local women’s magazine and felt it would be better for a woman to be the publisher of a magazine for women, so offered her the opportunity to purchase the idea from him. The rest is history!

Her family and friends thought she was crazy. “You have no publishing experience!” they said. But in true Keela fashion, she persevered and moved forward with Forsyth Woman. If this isn’t a life lesson to follow your dreams, I don’t know what is. While she calls herself “semi-retired,” Mom is still very much involved

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with the magazine. I wouldn’t have it any other way!

If you could hear our daily phone calls, it wouldn’t take you long to see how very passionate we both are about this business.

Tamara Bodford

ACCOUNT EXECUTIVES Kristi Marion Heather Spivey

It’s both crazy and exciting how much this business has evolved over the last 16 years. What started out as a partially black and white 26-page publication has turned into a full color, full gloss 148+ page magazine.

Oh no, print is not dead. Adare International says, “The more tangible an item is, the more powerful it is too.

There’s something that happens when consumers hold something physical; senses engage, and connections are formed.” The bottom line? Print is authentic and as humans, we crave authenticity.

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EDITORIAL DIRECTOR Vonda Henderson

BACK OFFICE & VIRTUAL ASSISTANT The Office Nerd, Denise Heidel

COVER PHOTOGRAPHER Jodie Brim

The best part of this evolution is that Forsyth Woman is not just a magazine. We’re a brand. We have an ever-increasing online and social media presence, a podcast, a newsletter, video opportunities, and we’ve put on more events than I can count (with a very exciting new event coming Spring 2022…stay tuned).

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS JEJ Photos Jodie Brim Photo Artistry by Melinda *others credited throughout accordingly

Sixteen years is a big milestone, but just wait to see what we have in store for the next 16 years.

CONTENT EDITORS Kim Beane Meghan Corbett (Assistant)

Supporting one another and supporting local is my life mission, and I sincerely hope you, our amazing readers and supporters, can see that through these pages and through every single person, thing, event that is tied to our Forsyth Mags family.

SENIOR STAFF WRITERS Meghan Corbett Denise Heidel Carolyn Peterson

This issue is an extra special one—I encourage you to pour over each page, but here are a few highlights:

OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

• Be sure to check out an article that’s been in the works for months on Fast Fashion (page 32).

• We have a brand-new “Visit Clemmons” column (page 56-57).

• We’ve put together a timeline of Forsyth Woman!

The highlights of 2005 – 2021 (page 68).

• Tour de Boutique registration closes on September 8th—check out the official list of participating stores on the adorable storefront map we’ve created (page 114). We have no doubt this will be our best shopping trip yet - we hope you’ll join us!

Register at tinyurl.com/2021FWTDB

Jen Brown Genevieve Condon Elisa Coppede Karen Cooper Martie Emory Amy Hill Taryn Jerez Jean Marie Johnson Debbie Lanier Tabatha Renegar Susan Schabacker Lauren Sephton Megan Taylor *others credited throughout accordingly

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• Last but certainly not least, please join us for Girls’ Night Out on Tuesday, September 14th! We’ll be at Bermuda Run Country Club (page 53).

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Wishing you a happy month of September!

CONTACT ForsythWoman.com 888-892-3204

All my best,

Brooke Eagle, Publisher

PHOTO BY JODIE BRIM

This month we celebrate 16 years of Forsyth Woman magazine.

Forsyth Woman Disclaimer: Please note that the inclusion of stories and articles in Forsyth Woman magazine does not imply endorsement of products or people. The views of the authors are presented for information and entertainment only, and may not necessarily reflect the views of Forsyth Woman. Specifically, Forsyth Woman in no way endorses any claim associated with health and/or well being with respect to any particular person. We disclaim all warranties, express or implied, including, but not limited to, implied warranties of merchantability and fitness for a particular purpose. We will not be held responsible or liable, directly or indirectly, for any loss or damage that is caused or alleged to have been caused in connection with the use of, or reliance on, any content in this magazine. Forsyth Woman reserves the right to deny any advertisement or listing that does not meet Forsyth Woman standards. Submissions are welcome but unsolicited materials are not guaranteed to be returned. Forsyth Woman assumes no responsibility for information, products, services or statements made by advertisers or editorial contributors. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher is prohibited. ©2005 by Forsyth Woman, Inc.

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32 Slooooooow Down your Fashion Reversal: 54 Role Adults and Aging Parents COVER STORY 60 June DeLugas

Interiors: The Art of Design Okay to NOT 66 It’s Want More

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Forsyth Woman Turns 16

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Best Advice 74 The My Therapist Ever Told Me Your 80 Finding Motivation to Know 86 How When it’s Time

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de Boutique 114 Tour 2021: A Map

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COURTNEY PAIGE PHOTOGRAPHY

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

“Being a stay-at-home mom during a lockdown naturally brought a lot more time on my hands, so after about ten months, I decided to create an Instagram account, and everything completely snowballed from there!” Sabrina Paran is the founder, cake designer, baker, packer, washer, deliverer... well, she is Creamed, the Confectionary. And her dedication to practice her cake designs intensified with every order. She didn’t just desire to become better at baking cakes but in creating a masterpiece that touched the hearts of her clients. “My clients truly fueled me into becoming the cake designer I am today!”

When it comes to the decoration process, all her cakes are an “in-themoment” process. She rarely maps out any designs unless requested by the client because she “truly never knows what a cake will fully turn out to be” until it’s ready to be delivered. “Every cake design is truly a spark of my intuition and inspiration from a variety of different textures, florals, color palettes, and patterns,” Sabrina explained. And the flavor options are “absolutely endless” with every single confection being made completely from scratch. “Down to our fillings, compotes, toffee, caramels, and even marshmallows!” Sabrina enjoys being hands-on in all aspects to ensure that every fine detail is completed to a tee, delivering her clients with nothing less than sweetened perfection.

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Creamed, the Confectionary was born out of a little bit of curiosity and courage amid a world pandemic. A custom-to-order bakery, its mission is to create made-from-scratch desserts from high-quality ingredients that are overwhelmingly delicious, aesthetically pleasing, and a unique experience for you and your taste buds to remember.

From traditional Flans to custom cakes to specialty cakes like their Cafè Con Leche, the hardest decision to make will be whether to order an extra cake just for yourself!

From wedding cakes, specialty cakes, cupcakes, cookies, Italian macarons, and custards, every order is custom. Every baked good isn’t just another decadent sweet, but an experience to be enjoyed with family and friends. And that’s her favorite part of the job - getting to know her customers and earn their trust so that she can pour her heart and soul into every sweet is what fuels her work. “Let’s create together, and make the magic happen!”

While Sabrina has had many memorable customer experiences, there’s one that will forever be ingrained in her memory. The cake design was named, “Forget Me Not.” This client had reached out to her about creating a cake for her mother’s upcoming birthday. Through conversation, Sabrina found out that her client’s mother was in hospice, and it would potentially be her last birthday cake she’d eat. Her client had sent Sabrina a picture of her tattoo that she had dedicated to her mother, which read, “Love you, Mom” with two Forget Me Not florals (Myosotis scorpioides) crossed at their stems right underneath. These florals are moderately tall, sprawling wildflowers that are a beautiful mixture of powdery blue flowers and bright yellow centers.

“As soon as I saw it, I knew I had to do a replica of the florals on her cake,” she explained. And Sabrina did just that!

When her client was finally able to see her mother in person again after over a year of separation, she was able to feed her a slice of this very special birthday cake that touched the hearts of every family member in the room that day. “Her whole family face timed me shortly after expressing their gratitude and little did they know that moment would always be in my heart. I bawled like a baby on the way home, and it was the day that confirmed that this was my life calling.”

To learn more about the services Sabrina offers or inquire about your own custom order, you can email her at creamed. theconfectionary@gmail.com. You can also browse a few of her past cake designs on Instagram @creamedtheconfectionary.

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DETOX

Keeping It Real WHAT’S THE BIG DEAL?

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER, PHOTO BY JODIE BRIM

So what’s the big deal about prayer? I admit, it can sound a little flimsy at first glance. After all, we’re talking to an invisible God about visible needs that require visible solutions that remain presently . . . well, invisible. Besides, it seems unlikely that the Big Kahuna who oversees the universe with all its seven billion people actually pauses to listen to me. Yep, it does sound unbelievable . . . but only at first glance.

Researchers doggedly attempt to disprove the power of prayer. Nevertheless, the results create believers out of the most ardent skeptics.

Repeatedly, science confirms the truths of Scripture. “When a believing person prays, great things happen” (James 5:16).

Daily engaging the Lover who possesses everything we need is the difference between letting natural things happen and making supernatural things happen. Prayer puts purpose in our living and adds power to our days. It alters life’s journey profoundly.

Do you believe that? I’ve never believed in the power of prayer more emphatically that I do right now. I’ve witnessed too many miracles to deny what my heart knows to be true.

Are you still asking, “What’s the big deal about prayer?” Pull up a chair.

For forty-two years, Julie tirelessly prayed for the man she adored. Her unbelieving husband, Charles, appeared more obstinate the more his wife prayed. Vitriol spewed as he cursed the very idea of God. While in Florida on business, Charles died unexpectedly. Julie anguished over the suddenness of his death. Deepest devastation set in as she realized she would never experience the one thing that mattered most, her Christian Faith, with the one person who mattered most, her unbelieving husband.

An agonizing month passed. The phone rang. A gentleman asked for Charles. Julie’s countenance fell. “My husband recently died while in Florida on business.” An awkward pause hovered.

The caller gently probed, “Ma’am, do you mind me asking what day your husband passed?”

Julie reluctantly replied. The guy continued to press. “Did you talk to him that day?”

She affectionately recounted Charles’ routine.

“My husband never missed phoning home every morning and evening.” Julie hesitated, “I heard his voice for the last time as the sun rose that day.

He died before evening came.”

Silence reverberated through the airwaves once again. The man proceeded despite his trembling tone. “I awakened that morning with a nudge from God to do something absolutely outlandish. In fact, it was so bizarre I ignored the urge for hours. By lunch, the feeling consumed me. I decided I could live with jeering co-workers but I couldn’t live with snubbing God. So I did it.”

The caller continued, “Please understand, I’m a businessman. I go to work everyday in a suit and tie. Nevertheless, God kept pressing me to go hitchhike alongside the busy freeway. Charles was the first car that stopped for me. Ma’am, your husband and I shared some life-altering conversations that day. I led Charles to the Lord.

He couldn’t wait to tell you that night. He kept saying, “I get it! I finally get it!”

The news sent shockwaves through Julie’s soul.

In that moment, she knew beyond all doubt that God heard every prayer.

As Julie’s tears spilled, the gentleman’s voice choked again. “Ma’am, you didn’t lose your husband. He’s not lost at all!

You’ll see him again.”

Even when Julie’s circumstances screamed “hopeless,” she wouldn’t give up on the belief that God hears us and that He intervenes in the intricate details of our days.

What do you need from God? I’ve come by to tell you that the One who loves you most holds everything you need. God IS everything you need and He’s right here.

Don’t give up on this Father who has never given up on you. Don’t stop believing in this God who has never stopped believing in you.

Friend, God hears you. He REALLY hears you. Keep on asking.

Don’t you dare give up!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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10 TIPS FOR INSTAGRAM MARKETING IN 2021

USE HIGH-QUALITY, PROPERLY SIZED CREATIVES Instagram is a visual content social platform, so it’s important that the pictures and videos you post be high-quality and sized correctly. Canva is a great tool for editing and sizing creatives.

BY MICHELLE HYATT, OWNER, FLHY MARKETING, PHOTO BY JODIE BRIM

Since launching in 2010, Instagram has grown and evolved into one of the top visual sharing apps in the world! With over 1 billion monthly active users, it’s easy to assume just about everyone who reads this article uses the platform in some capacity. Whether you’re promoting a business or your own personal brand, these tips will help you get the most out of Instagram in 2021!

SELECT THE CORRECT ACCOUNT TYPE Instagram has three profile types: personal, creator, and business. Each type varies in tools and features, so choosing the right one is key in determining your Instagram strategy. This can be adjusted in your settings.

OPTIMIZE YOUR BIO Think of your bio as your first impression.

Keep it short yet informative with your name or business name, a short description, and location. You can also add one link, or you can set up a “Link in Bio” that allows you to add multiple links for your content. Later.com is one good option for this.

ESTABLISH AN AESTHETIC Having some form of consistent aesthetic in your content, such as a color-scheme, filter, or pattern, can be more appealing to your audience, help brand recognition, and create the vibe you want to convey.

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WRITE ENGAGING CAPTIONS Whether your post is meant to be informative, compelling, or entertaining, make sure the right message for your post is conveyed through your caption while keeping length and format in mind so it’s easy to follow. Emojis and other symbols are also a fun added touch!

UTILIZE TAGS Tagging boosts engagement, increases exposure, and creates a community. There are several different tag options for Instagram including location tags, personal/account tags, product tags, and hashtags.

Acquire the habit of tagging whenever possible and you’re sure to see your content go further.

POST STRATEGICALLY Determine how often you can consistently post quality content, and what posting days/ times perform best with your audience. Current recommendations are one feed post per day, but the ultimate rule should always be quality over quantity.

ANALYZE INSIGHTS DATA Instagram Insights, available for creator and business accounts, is a tool that provides analytics on your content and followers so you can better understand your audience and what they’re interested in.

DIVERSIFY YOUR CONTENT CEO Adam Mosseri recently announced that Instagram’s focus is no longer just “square photosharing” but more so entertaining through multiple forms of content.

In addition to feed posts, using other features like Stories, IGTV’s, and Reels is no longer just an option, but a must.

ENGAGE WITH OTHERS Social media is a two-way street.

In order to grow on Instagram, you must engage with your audience and other businesses. Responding to comments and DM’s, liking and commenting on others’ posts, and following accounts are a few ways to engage with others.

Developing a winning Instagram strategy takes time and effort, but the tips listed above will hopefully put you on the right track for success!

Flhy Marketing is a digital marketing company serving local businesses in Winston-Salem, NC and surrounding areas. For help with your digital marketing needs, visit flhymarketing.com or email info@flhymarketing.com, and check us out on socials at @flhymarketing.

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BY LAUREN SEPHTON Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer, a food blogger and the official Forsyth Mags Foodie! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

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Easy Churros Prep Time: 10 min Cook Time: 10 min Total Time: 20 min Servings: 8 INGREDIENTS • 1 cup Water • 1 cup Flour • 3 tbsp. Olive Oil • 1 large Egg

• 1 tbsp. Sugar • 1 tsp. Vanilla Extract • ¼ tsp. Fine Sea Salt

INSTRUCTIONS 1. Heat 1 1/2 – 2” of oil in a deep skillet or large frying pot on medium high to 360F. 2. In the meantime, bring the water, olive oil, and sugar in a saucepan over medium high heat to a boil.

3. Add in the flour and salt, then use a rubber spatula to fold together on medium low heat, stirring constantly, until a smooth dough. (It’s okay if there is still a few dry flour clumps) 4. Transfer to a mixing bowl to cool for 5 minutes, then add in the egg and vanilla extract. Mix until a smooth dough (it may break up at the beginning, but after 1-2 minutes it will form back together).

5. Transfer the dough to a piping bag with a rounded star tip (~ 1” diameter).

6. Fry in the deep skillet for 2-3 minutes, or until golden brown. Transfer to a paper towel to drain excess oils, then immediately toss in a cinnamon and sugar mix.

7. Enjoy warm with a chocolate sauce!

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Shine the Light on Your Next Event with Alpha-Lit Letters

BY AMY HILL

What sets Alpha-Lit’s service apart from its very few competitors in the area is not solely attributable to its reliable and efficient delivery services. Alpha-Lit letters possess the unique ability to be stacked two letters high, can be customized in order to suit logos and events of all kinds, and can be used just about anywhere.

Many marquee letters are not weatherproof and are very one-dimensional, but Alpha-Lit letters are durable and versatile.

As a brand, Alpha-Lit supports local businesses and is proud to produce all their letters within the United States.

Ashley Tillery, Owner Looking to plan a picture perfect party?

Let Alpha-Lit light up your big day. As the premiere marquee letter rental company in the Triad, Alpha-Lit allows anyone to illuminate weddings, corporate events, birth announcements, and more with the letters of their choice.

Located in High Point, North Carolina, Alpha-Lit is celebrating its one-year anniversary this coming October. Owner Ashley Tillery was drawn to opening Alpha-Lit’s Triad location after seeing a birth announcement post on social media featuring the brand’s marquee letters. By parlaying her 19 years of experience in nonprofit fundraising and special events, she decided to reach out to Franchise owners Mackenzie and Dan to fill the community’s need for a marquee letter rental service. Almost immediately, Ashley’s inbox was inundated with excited messages about Alpha-Lit establishing its Triad roots. In addition to servicing the greater Triad area, including areas surrounding Mocksville, Lexington, Burlington, and Mount Airy, Alpha-Lit is even able to deliver to locations in Virginia such as Danville and Martinsville.

Ashley ensures that Alpha-Lit’s Triad location accommodates last minute requests, offering rental-only services equipped with delivery and assembly. To help planners visualize their ideal AlphaLit set-up for their individual event, Ashley allows potential renters and hosts to view photo albums of past marquee letter setups for inspiration. Marquee letter rentals are able to be reserved with a 50-percent deposit, and it is recommended to book as far in advance as possible - especially when planning an event over a holiday.

After weathering the storm of the pandemic in the summer of 2020, Ashley was unsure of Alpha-Lit’s future while heading into the fall. Fortunately, due to social distancing and local restrictions, party planners and guests were having to learn how to adjust to new ways of celebrating, whether that involved driveby parties, live streaming events on social media, or socially distanced gatherings outside. Alpha-Lit’s marquee letters helped bring Covid-era celebrations back to life.

Ashley attributes much of Alpha-Lit’s ability to withstand the throes of the pandemic to social media’s influence on party decor and photo opportunities.

With an audience on platforms such as Instagram and Facebook, it is now more important than ever to party planners and guests to capture the moment, and to do so in the most photogenic way possible. Seeing the excitement on guests’ and hosts’ faces when Ashley plugs in the marquee letters is one of the most rewarding aspects of her new career. In fact, being able to use her creativity in arranging letters and customizing orders for renters brings her joy.

“I could spell the same thing over and over again with our marquee letters and never get bored,” explains Ashley.

“There is something at Alpha-Lit for everyone, and we love filling custom orders of all kinds.”

With COVID restrictions easing and life gradually getting back to normal, Ashley is already receiving bookings far into 2022. Don’t wait until it’s too late to book your letters. Visit www.alphalitletters. com for more information on founders Mackenzie and Dan, various Alpha-Lit locations, and to view the website’s gallery of past events. Out of town and interested in opening a location of your own? Establish Alpha-Lit’s presence in your city by emailing alyssa@ alphalitletters.com. To stay up-to-date on the latest happenings at the Alpha-Lit Triad location, follow @alphalittriadnc on Instagram and check out the location’s Facebook page for all news and updates.

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WARM, WELCOMING AND STYLISH IN THE WEST END

BY TABATHA RENEGAR

“This is a beautiful store with a thoughtfully curated selection. Everything is displayed as a treasure but at prices I can afford.

I will be shopping here often. The owner and her team are very friendly and helpful.” ~ Marissa’s review on the Fiddle & Fig Facebook page As you enjoy a stroll around the perfectly displayed merchandise in the West End’s retail gem, Fiddle & Fig, the presentation of their beautiful products seems to happen effortlessly. And yet, anyone who has worked in retail, even briefly, knows that it takes SO much more work than shoppers realize. I had the pleasure of chatting with Jamie, one of the owners of Fiddle & Fig, to learn more about how it all began and what lies ahead.

Jamie Lapp and Morgan Holt, co-owners of Fiddle & Fig, may have bonded over houseplants but turning their dream and inspiration into something as eye-popping and pleasing as their shop started with a smart investment. Once they knew they were serious, they hired a branding company in Pennsylvania that created a brand story which includes their logos, fonts, colors, tone, and voice.

I asked how, of all the places where they could have placed the shop, they chose its West End location.

“Joe & Jodi Williams of LMI Builders found the location in early 2019 and offered space in the building to us. We knew it would be a good fit when we saw how much parking the building would have. LMI remodeled Morgan’s old law firm on 5th Street in 2016 and Morgan and her husband stayed close with them, which led to discussions of finding a building for our store.

We are so thankful for the space we do have, our neighbors in the building, and for the Williamses.

They are one of the best, if not, the best, landlords in Winston-Salem.”

Jamie has said that their decision to delay their opening from March 2020 to October 2020 turned out to be a blessing. “We were able to open when people were ready to get out again and had been staring at the walls of their house dreaming of change.

We feel people were inspired by our store in a time when it was needed the most.”

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Each time I have visited Fiddle & Fig, there are happy shoppers purchasing dishes, vases, candles, mirrors, pillows, faux succulents and furniture. It’s hard to imagine what the most popular item is.

According to Jamie and Morgan, it would have to be their signature soy wax candles with the faux greenery and plants, wall decor, and kitchen accessories all running a close second.

With less than a year in operation, I asked what has surprised or challenged their team the most about operating a large retail space. “We now have just over 4,000 square feet as we closed our upstairs event space this year and converted it to more store space. Logistically, having an event space and, thankfully, several busy businesses in the building together, would be too much of a strain on our parking lots. We placed more inventory upstairs along with a third cash register. We are excited to have this space and additional register as we head into the holiday season.

One of the most challenging parts of retail is keeping up with the latest trends and changing up the store look and layout as much as possible. We are constantly searching for new vendors and products and changing displays as much as we can.”

Plans for the future? “We are currently overhauling our website and shipping options. We will be offering better shipping rates, curated boxes, and more items online. Our one year anniversary celebration will be October 2, 2021, the same day as the Tour de Boutique, and we have lots of surprises in store!”

To enjoy your own pleasant stroll through Fiddle & Fig, visit the store at 403 West End Boulevard in Winston-Salem. Stay up to date on events at www.facebook.com/ fiddleandfigmarket and www. instagram.com/fiddleandfigmarket.

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The Band Plays On After Alzheimer’s

BY SALLY KAY, ALZHEIMER’S ASSOCIATION

George Flake was a life-long lover of music. Spending his days as an engineer, George pursued his passion for music by singing in the church choir. Additionally, he and his wife Opal frequented the opera and the symphony while they lived in Indiana. “He was quiet until you got to know him,” shares daughter Laura Banasiewicz of Winston-Salem. “He was a sweet man, who was sharp, did all of his own investing, and was good with a computer.” George worked until he was in his seventies, consulted after retiring, and became very interested in genealogy.

“The biggest change we noticed was that when he’d go to the doctor’s office or the grocery store, it would take him forever to get home, as he would forget how,” offers Laura. “He would lose things, put keys down, and could not remember where he put them. My mom called me and said something is going on with Dad, so she took him to the family physician’s office.” A cognitive test was performed on George, and the results revealed that he did have early signs of dementia. Shortly after the diagnosis, Laura’s sister passed away unexpectedly. Subsequently, her father’s condition spiraled. His daughter’s death was a triggering event that exacerbated his decline. Laura’s mother was insistent on caring for her husband herself upon his diagnosis; however, that changed when Laura’s mother passed away suddenly. Laura and her husband decided to move her father to live with them in North Carolina.

“When we moved Dad, we worked with the Alzheimer’s Association for resources as, quite honestly, we were scrambling to figure out what to do since my husband and I both work full time,” said Laura. “We knew that we could not leave Dad at home alone. In addition to caregiver options, I was looking for general information in educating myself on Alzheimer’s —what it is, what are some of the things that we can do to help with the day-to-day.

The Association was a really big resource for us!” During Laura’s review of Association information, she discovered her dad’s love for music was key to providing the calming effect for him when he

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was upset or agitated. “I will always treasure this memory,” shares Laura. “We took my father to Greensboro to see Celtic Women.

After the concert was over, he remained sitting in his chair with the biggest smile on his face. We bought him some of the videotapes and CDs. He would sit at the house and say, ‘I want to listen to my girls.’”

She now uses these experiences to pay it forward. As a financial planner with Allegacy Investment Group, Laura believes that she is seeing more and more of her clients — either their parents or their spouses — being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. “My experience with my dad has made it helpful for me to try to relate to them and offer them some of the resources that are available through the Alzheimer’s Association.” Laura and her team along, with the help of a local Association staff partner, are planning to offer their clients some educational events and workshops in their investment group initially and then expand it to a broader audience in the future.

Laura and Team Banasiewicz have participated in the Walk to End Alzheimer’s - Winston-Salem for about five years, and she is serving as the 2021 Walk Chair. “I have really enjoyed this role as it’s given me the opportunity to reach out to many of my friends and clients that I know have a personal connection to the disease.”

Because of what she’s seen firsthand through the journey with her father, research and finding a cure is of the utmost importance to Laura. In turn, Alzheimer’s hasn’t closed the curtain on the performance, but rather has called for an encore in support of others.

Forsyth Woman is proud to be a media partner for the 2021 Walk to End Alzheimer’s events in Mount Airy on September 18 and in Winston-Salem on November 6. To join us and Laura, sign up as a walker, team captain, or sponsor at alz.org/walk or by calling 800-272-3900.

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FOR FANS OF FOOD! ARTICLE & PHOTOS BY LAUREN SEPHTON

A 21 year old chef with a college degree and one cookbook already under her belt, Lauren Sephton’s enthusiasm for food is almost extravagant. She doesn’t just eat food, she celebrates it; she doesn’t just prepare meals for people, she lavishes her dishes on them. A foodie who knows how to feast, photograph and formulate her own recipes and articles for Forsyth Woman, Lauren is our Forsyth Mags Foodie!

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Located in the heart of downtown Winston-Salem, you’ll find the latest spot for a simple yet timeless breakfast and lunch menu that features fresh ingredients with a modern twist. From Candied Pecan Pancakes to Canadian Bacon Benedict, whether enjoying the cool morning breeze on their outdoor patio or chilling inside, the Young Cardinal Cafe and Co. makes for an impeccable brunch! And if starting your day off a little earlier than normal, stop by their coffee bar for an espresso to go or while you work on your laptop.

Our brunch couldn’t have started off any better than with a House Special, The Avocado Toast of the Day. The beautifully plated slices of wheat berry bread, toasted for a little crunch, was layered with a thin slather of creamy goat cheese, fried green tomatoes, thinly sliced avocado, two over-easy eggs, pickled mushrooms and onions, and microgreens for a lemony aftertaste. The hearty, rustic wheat bread was the perfect complement to the herbal aromas from the farmfresh ingredients, and the combination was impeccable. Brooke, our Forsyth Woman publisher, particularly enjoyed their Very Berry - Absolut Citron, seasonal fresh berries, and lemon-lime soda with this dish.

The next breakfast-inspired dish was their Veggie Omelette that had a near custard-like texture - soft, rich, and full of flavor. Every bite gave you a taste of savory tomatoes, caramelized onions, sauteed spinach, green bell pepper, and mushrooms. Served alongside a small bowl of fresh fruit, this dish is calling all sweet and savory breakfast lovers.

To follow the omelet was their signature Loaded Hash Browns that were unmatched to any other. The slightly salty, crunchy texture of the hash browns couldn’t have paired more perfectly with their sweet and tangy pulled pork. And because, can you call it a savory southern

brunch without a little pimento cheese? The chopped pickles and minced garlic folded into the pimento cheese rounded out the dish without it being overpowering. Lastly, it was topped with fresh, house-made salsa. It hands down would be the perfect starter to share at any brunch out with family and friends!

Moving onto more lunch-inspired dishes, we kept things light at the start with their fresh Arugula and Berries Salad. The baby arugula was bright, delicate, and mild unlike the much spicier flavors of more mature arugula. It was beautifully plated with dried cranberries, fresh strawberries, and blueberries that were wonderfully ripe, candied pecans for a sweet crunch, pickled onions for crisp, salty crunch textures, and edible flowers to make your day a little brighter.

Michelle, our Forsyth Mags social media manager, thought their Miley’s Citrus couldn’t have paired better with its bright citrus notes Tito’s Vodka, Solerno, blood orange.

To round out our lovely brunch outside, we ended with one of my all-time favorite dishes - a fried chicken sandwich - and to say it did not disappoint would be an understatement. The fried chicken batter was whipped with Texas Pete Hot Honey for a local flair that added just the right amount of heat. Layered with a thin spread of pimento cheese, fresh lettuce, and crisp tomatoes, their YC Hot Honey Chicken Sandwich was more than enough to keep you full and satisfied until dinnertime.

The Young Cardinal Cafe and Co. was an exceptional experience that should be enjoyed during the week, in addition to your weekend brunch! Thank you Chef David Swing and Adam Andrews for one of the most amazing brunches. Now, if your stomach is grumbling, here is your sign to head on over to the Young Cardinal and tell them that the Forsyth Mags Foodie said hi!

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On the Road Again: New Jersey

BY AMY HILL

Known for its busy culture and heavy traffic, New Jersey often flies under the radar as a vacation destination packed with family-friendly activities.

Here’s how to spend seven days in the Garden State.

Day 1 - Arrive in Newark

For this trip, book your flight for an arrival into Newark Liberty International Airport (EWR) and a departure out of Philadelphia International Airport (PHL). While the traffic in the Northeast can sometimes be a bear, book a rental car for a pick-up at EWR and a drop-off at PHL to make sure you have the freedom to explore. After you arrive into Newark, cross Newark Bay and spend the rest of your day viewing the Statue of Liberty from Liberty State Park. If you have time, take a ferry to Ellis Island and check out the National Immigration Museum.

Ferry tickets to Ellis Island can be purchased through statuecruises.com.

For dinner, find one of the many eateries downtown in the nearby Jersey City, or head back to your hotel in Newark for some room service if you’re tuckered out after a day of flying and sightseeing.

Day 2 - Nearby Historic Parks

Wake up early and drive to Paterson Great Falls National Historic Park. Due to the possibility of dense traffic, plan for a 30 to 45-minute drive out of Newark to reach the park. Aside from its beauty, the massive waterfall in the park is 77-feet tall and was responsible for water-power development in 1792.

According to information from the National Park Service (NPS), Paterson was America’s first planned industrial city. History buffs can also take advantage of Paterson’s close proximity to Thomas Edison National Historic Park, which is a short 20-minute drive south of Paterson Great Falls and allows visitors to view Thomas Edison’s home and laboratory.

Day 3- The Jersey Shore

Day 5 - Atlantic City

Accommodations in this area might be harder to come by, especially in the summer months, so book in advance.

With fewer hotels, consider using alternatives such as Airbnb or Vrbo for a short-term stay. My recommendation is to stay in Toms River, which is a short drive from the shore with a few more hotel options than Seaside Heights.

Day 6 - Choose Between Casinos or Cape May

For those less enthused by New Jersey’s history, it’s time to have lighthearted fun in Seaside Heights, famous for its debut in MTV’s Jersey Shore. Stroll along the Seaside Heights Boardwalk, grab a margarita at Spicy Cantina, and embrace your inner Snooki at Karma Nightclub for a taste of Jersey Shore nightlife.

Day 4 - Six Flags Great Adventure

On day four, leave Toms River and head 43 minutes west to one of the East Coast’s most popular amusement parks, Six Flags Great Adventure. Looney Toons fans will appreciate the Bugs Bunny and Daffy-themed attractions.

Not a fan of roller coasters? The park has plenty of options for those seeking less of a thrill. Ride a slower-paced family ride or stop by an animal exhibit to make the day fun for the whole family.

After checking out of your Toms River hotel room or rental property, drive less than an hour south to Atlantic City for a Vegas experience on the East Coast. While there are tons of properties to choose from, spend a few nights at the Hard Rock Hotel & Casino Atlantic City. Aside from its prime location in the heart of the action, guests with a major sweet tooth have just a short walk to one of the best places to indulge your cravings. At the Sugar Factory, children can try their luck at devouring a gourmet milkshake or sundae, while adults can order one of the Factory’s many refreshing and creative mixed drinks served in a giant steaming goblet (I recommend the White Gummi).

On day six, spend your day wandering around the many casinos in Atlantic City, or take a stroll down the boardwalk to relax before your trip comes to an end. Those looking to escape Atlantic City’s madness can drive less than an hour south to Cape May, a quaint town packed with Victorian houses along the Atlantic Ocean. Enjoy a lobster roll at Quincy’s Original Lobster Rolls before returning to the chaos in Atlantic City for the night.

Day 7 - Depart from Philadelphia

With traffic in mind, plan for at least an hour-long drive west of Atlantic City to PHL to board your flight home. I recommend giving yourself twice as long as you think you need to protect yourself from missing your flight if you run into any traffic jams. North Carolinians arriving from PHL will appreciate the short 90-minute flight home, leaving them plenty of time to unpack and unwind before returning to work for the week.

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Slooooooooow Down your Fashion

BY TABATHA RENGAR

Way back in the day, circa 1987, my high school friend Mitzi and I used to go on clandestine missions to find stylish treasures at the local Salvation Army thrift shop. When someone would ask where a particularly cool outfit or accessory came from, we would tell them “Sally’s” as if it were some fancy boutique because we didn’t want to reveal our secret. Sifting through donated clothing wasn’t quite as acceptable back then.

Little did we know that we were actually early participants in the Sustainable Clothing movement!

Sustainable Fashion, sometimes referred to as Eco-fashion and ReFashion, is the long overdue movement meant to create change in the world of “fast fashion” where for decades the almighty dollar has been the driving force.

Fast fashion is the term for our propensity to order inexpensive clothing items online or from big box stores like Amazon, H&M, Target, WishApp, etc. We like the instant gratification factor but often the quality is disappointing so the items are worn a couple times and then thrown away.

These discarded items are not only filling our landfills but the conditions that these clothes are made in are often deplorable.

Sustainable Fashion means to altar the whole system of how clothing is produced, who produces it, and how long the life span of a product is before it reaches landfill. This means dealing with interdependent social, cultural, ecological, and financial systems.

Here in the Triad, you will be delighted to learn that some of your favorite shops are taking this issue quite seriously. From partnering with sustainable companies, using recycled materials, empowering women and simply highlighting the benefits of the customer service you receive locally, they shared their thoughts about the value of Sustainable Fashion with Forsyth Woman.

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GEORGE BAM BALIS, PRESIDENT OF NITSA’S APPAREL:

The three major areas of sustainability are environmental social and economic. In the clothing industry the one place where much of the clothing is manufactured seems to ignore these issues of sustainability. Of course, I’m speaking about China where their abuses of their people and their human rights are unconscionable and where their concern for the environment is virtually nonexistent. Unfortunately, for many clothing designers and manufacturers, it is an economic reality that they must do business China. At Nitsa’s, our approach to sustainability is to source as many products as we can from companies manufacturing in nations committed to well-being of their employees and to the environment.

EMILY S. DAVIS, OWNER OF FLEET FEET:

Many of our apparel brands are produced from recycled plastic and use less fabric dyes. Some brands are also starting to get away from each unit being packaged in a plastic bag. Brands that are really working on this are Rabbit, Oiselle, and Vuori.

The fast fashion brands are mostly produced in low income manufacturing and can’t afford to focus on recycled plastic fabric or less waste.

EMILY SMITH, OWNER OF ELLIE RAY BOUTIQUE: One of my favorite brands that we carry at Ellie Ray Boutique is She & Sky. They offer a great selection of clothing from sizes small through 3xl. She & Sky is constantly on a mission to provide unique clothing that empowers women and celebrates the female form.

As a business owner, product quality is extremely important. If you have a great product that is well made, fits good and you believe in, it really helps build your relationships with your customers.

Customers will spread the word that your clothing holds up, the type of customer service they received and even how beautiful they felt in that cute outfit we put together.

Supporting a local small business in your hometown is super important, especially nowadays. The difference between us and “fast fashion” places is you get to experience a service and let us help put that “perfect” outfit together for you. Whereas other “fast fashion” places you are just ordering from a big company, you have no clue the fit, the quality and even sizing.

MARCIE APPELT, OWNER OF STYLED GATHERING:

I carry a jewelry line by a company called Tagua designed by Soraya Cedeno. It’s fair trade, sustainable, and handmade from 100% natural materials. The jewelry collection is carved from a sustainable nut called Tagua which grows from a palm tree found mainly in the Ecuadorian rainforest. Handmade by skilled artisans, maintaining the traditions of past generations in order to provide life changing opportunities for their families and community.

JOIN THE MOVEMENT! Brooke Eagle, the Publisher of this fine magazine, has made a commitment to stop purchasing clothing from Amazon. And although I’ve been on the thrift store bandwagon for over 30 years, I have also made a pledge to resist the instant gratification grab as I walk through Target. Here is a list to make changing to Slow Fashion fun and easy in your life.

1. SHOP LOCAL.

6. LEARN TO DIY.

Whether you’re shopping for clothes, shoes, accessories or even art and home goods, make it common practice to think local first! Not only are you helping keep resources in your community, you’ll have the chance to speak with shop owners to learn more about their commitment to sustainability.

Learning to sew is daunting but it can be a great skill to have. If you find a great skirt in a thrift store but it’s too big, you’ll be able to tailor it yourself! You can also start to learn how to turn your old clothes into something new: I love the idea of making hoodies out of old tee shirts!

2. DONATE AND SHOP THRIFT.

It’s fashionable to be green: many high-end designer lines like Stella McCartney and Loomstate have started to support sustainable fashion. There are SO many great eco-friendly brands out there that sell fabulous products. Take a list of the brands you’d like to see to your local boutiques - you may be surprised to find they are already carrying them or they might be happy to start.

It’s hard to think that some people just throw clothes away, but it happens. Before you donate yours, look at all the clothes you want to get rid of. Are they still in good condition? Now think of the person who will find them in a thrift store – and how happy they’ll be. Instead of going to a department store or the mall to buy new, take a look in your local thrift or vintage shops.

SUZANNE LAKEY, OWNER OF SOUTHERN TIES BOUTIQUE:

3. BUY NATURAL FIBERS.

We encourage shopping local to support your community. Southern Ties Boutique loves nothing more than working with you to find that perfect outfit for your event or date night all while learning about you and your family! It gives us great joy when customers share photos at weddings or just a night out with friends and we see the outfit we picked together.

There is just something about that community spirit and we hope that is what brings ladies back to our boutique.

Not only is it better for you to buy natural fibers (synthetic fibers can be itchy and they can make you sweat more!), but it is better for the environment. Cotton and bamboo are two examples of natural fibers that make great fabrics and clothes.

DONNA AND ALLY MERRIMAN, OWNER FRALEIGH’S BOUTIQUE:

4. SHOP ON ETSY.COM.

Fast fashion isn’t limited to just everyday wear, we see it so often when it comes to Formal Wear too. We always hear “I ordered a dress online” “it didn’t fit right” “It wasn’t like it was pictured” When it comes down to buying a formal dress, trying on different styles and colors is what makes it fun! We pride ourselves on our one-on-one customer service and can help you not only find the perfect dress but also with shoes and accessories - to make it a one stop shop - and to have the perfect fit the first time around! A few brands we carry in formal wear are Alex Evenings, Adrianna Papell, SLNY, Jessica Howard.

Etsy is full of artists making great pieces: you can find hand-knitted scarves, handmade jewelry, and lots of eco-friendly products. These artists care about what they do and each piece is special.

In most cases, no one will have anything like it!

5. USE EBAY INSTEAD OF BUYING NEW. Think of it as your online Thrift Store!

7. RESEARCH THE BEST ECO-FRIENDLY BRANDS.

8. SHOP YOUR OWN WARDROBE! Instead of buying all new stuff each season, think about how you can make what you have look new again. Do you have accessories that you haven’t worn in years that you could use to spruce up a current outfit? How can you mix pieces together to create new looks? Be creative and have fun with it.

9. EXPERIMENT. Don’t be afraid to use your favorite pieces together to create a new outfit – you don’t need a new bag to pull an outfit together… you might just need to experiment with your options. Don’t limit yourself!

10. GET EDUCATED… AND EDUCATE THOSE AROUND YOU! Sustainable fashion isn’t a political idea – it is an idea to help our planet continue to thrive, something I think we can all agree is important.

I know I want the world to be as beautiful for my children (and my grandchildren!) as it was for me.

Sustainable fashion helps to make that dream an attainable reality.

Maintain Your Brain: Keeping Your Brain Healthy As You Age

BY KAREN COOPER

The brain is a truly remarkable part of the body. It devises ingenious ways to express thoughts and emotions, it stores all our precious memories, and it coordinates our every move. Many older adults worry about how aging will affect memory and cognitive abilities. What are the causes of the decline in cognitive function? Can they be prevented?

To keep the brain sharp as we age and even reduce age-related decline in function, we need to keep our brain active and engaged! Just as with physical health, we can give the brain a regular workout to help slow down the effects of aging which translates to more resistance against problems like dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.

“Despite the stereotypes, cognitive decline is not inevitable as you age, and adopting healthy lifestyle habits can significantly reduce your risks for dementia later on in life,” says Sarah Lenz Lock, AARP’s senior vice president and executive director of the Global Council on Brain Health.

Here are some ways to keep the brain healthy and working at optimal function as you age:

SOCIALIZING Social isolation has been shown to increase dementia in adults. A few close friends, volunteering opportunities and even a pet can help one feel more socially connected.

Even if socializing in person is not possible, take the steps needed to socialize online. One study published in 2017 in the Journal of Gerontology showed that after seniors learned to use Facebook, they scored higher on memory tests than older adults who didn’t use Facebook.

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GET MENTAL STIMULATION

EXERCISE

You’ve probably heard that doing crossword puzzles helps to keep your brain healthy…and it’s true! Through research with mice and humans, scientists have found that activities that exercise the brain stimulate new connections between nerve cells and may even help the brain to generate new cells. Any mentally stimulating activity is good for your brain. Playing word games, chess, reading, taking classes, solving puzzles or doing math problems are all beneficial.

Or get in touch with your creative side! Drawing, crafting or painting help stimulate brain function as well.

Playing chess is a win-win for brain health. It stimulates brain cells and fosters social interaction.

Research shows that moving your body also helps your brain. Exercise also increases the development of new nerve cells and increases the connections between brain cells. The outcome is a brain that is more efficient and resilient. Exercise also lowers blood pressure, improves cholesterol, helps regulate blood sugar, and reduces mental stress, all of which helps your brain as well as your heart. Exercising outdoors in fresh air may provide another bonus. Taking in natural surroundings and daylight assists brain function by reducing stress and increasing melatonin for a more regular sleep-wake cycle.

EAT WELL FOR YOUR BRAIN Good nutrition can help your mind as well as your body. Adults who follow a Mediterranean diet consisting of fish and foods such as fruits, vegetables, nuts and olive oil, while limiting red meat, lower their risk for Alzheimer’s disease by up to 40%. Some great foods to incorporate into a brain boosting diet include: fish (high in Omega 3), coffee, blueberries, turmeric and nuts. Drinking coffee over the long-term is linked to a reduced risk of neurological diseases such as Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s.

The largest risk reduction was seen in those adults who consume 3-4 cups daily…so savor that cup ‘a joe!

WATCH THOSE NUMBERS High blood pressure, diabetes, and high cholesterol are all associated with an increased risk of dementia. You can keep these problems at bay by maintaining a healthy weight, exercising regularly, limiting your alcohol, not smoking, reducing stress, and eating nourishing food.

Also, talk to your doctor about getting on a low-dose aspirin regimen. This is not for everyone, but can reduce the risk of dementia for some. Be sure to check with your doctor to see if this might be right for you. Research connecting poor physical health with deteriorating brain health is increasing. While some factors affecting brain health cannot be changed, there are many lifestyle changes that can make a big difference.

NIA Alzheimer’s and related Dementias Education and Referral (ADEAR) Center 800-438-4380 (toll-free) adear@nia.nih.gov www.nia.nih.gov/alzheimers The National Institute on Aging’s ADEAR Center offers information and free print publications about Alzheimer’s and related dementias for families, caregivers, and health professionals. ADEAR Center staff answer telephone, email, and written requests and make referrals to local and national resources.

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Helping the WFU Community Feel at Home in Her Hometown Winston-Salem native Dr. Ashlee Canty will soon finish her second year at Wake Forest University (WFU) as the Inclusive Practice Manager in the Office of Diversity and Inclusion. She holds a big title and has big aspirations for helping faculty, staff, and students at WFU feel like they belong at their small university in her small hometown. Dr. Canty grew up in a loving family on the south side of Winston, where she attended First Waughtown Baptist Church and participated in choir and flag core at Parkland High School. This may sound like a typical upbringing in a small town, but Ashlee is not a typical small-town girl.

Dr. Ashlee Canty is part of a rare group of Americans who have earned a doctoral degree (less than 1.2% of all Americans have a Ph.D.). Even more special is that she recently joined an even smaller percentage of African American females with a Ph.D. Dr. Canty’s life journey took her from Winston-Salem, across 40 states, and to faraway places like Istanbul and Tokyo, and finally back home last year to her hometown, where she plans to make a difference at WFU and in her community.

After graduating from Parkland High School, Ashlee attended North Carolina State University and became active in the Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated, and several other campus organizations. Mentors, who became her lifelong friends, supported her as she changed her focus from a major in biology and minor in genetics to a master’s in the area of student affairs and a doctorate in curriculum studies.

Mentors have and continue to connect Dr. Canty to career opportunities, from her job as a graduate assistant for Fraternity and Sorority

Life to her current position at Wake Forest.

As the only African American female in her graduate school cohort, Dr. Canty experienced firsthand how important it is for universities to implement intentional programs that promote student feelings of inclusion and belonging.

While in school in Mccomb, IL, she could not find a hairstylist that could do her hair. “There was nothing there for black folk.” She felt the pressure as an African American female in academics to “do more with less” and to expect to work twice as hard as other majority students to get ahead.

She learned to set healthy boundaries to avoid burnout while working full-time and completing doctoral studies at DePaul University in Chicago.

She met her future business partner while attending North Carolina State, and they started a consulting firm, A to Z Consulting, providing guidance and strategic planning for companies earnest about building an inclusive work culture.

Dr. Canty’s journey brought her back to her hometown in 2016 to work remotely, and soon after, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. She secured her current position at WFU in July 2020 and completed her Ph.D. in December 2020. In her role, Dr. Canty will help the WFU Office of Diversity and Inclusion to implement the newly created framework for inclusive excellence, Realizing, Inclusion, Diversity, and Equity (R.I.D.E.) across the WFU campus. She will assist with curriculum development that aligns with the framework initiatives and will assess its effectiveness. She especially enjoys working one-on-one with departments ready to recognize opportunities for growth and willing to implement change. She also understands what students need to feel like they belong. She can help students find what they need to feel “at home” as she knows our community so well. While the current city of Winston-Salem is not exactly like the Winston she grew up in, the community needs are very much the same. Disparities still exist in healthcare access, affordable housing, need for school lunches and laptops, making a living wage, resources for Veterans, and treatment for addiction and mental health. “We miss the mark as a small town when it comes to creating equitable spaces and living circumstances.” As a small, caring community, she calls us to connect with each other and live as humans. Dr. Canty’s journey back home will undoubtedly connect students, faculty, and staff on the WFU campus to our Winston-Salem community, where we all can feel like we belong.

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For The Love Of A Princess

BY GENEVIEVE CONDON

All young girls grew up reading fairy tales about the princess waiting to be saved. She’d let down her long hair or wait in distress as she was held captive. She was vulnerable and always found happiness in a man’s warm embrace. Well, screw that. I’m a Princess that waits for no man.

I refuse to let down my hair or wait for some man to find me. I won’t sit around for him because I’m the one doing the saving. Let me make this clear, my father would much rather me sit pretty and wait for some man to ask me to marry him.

Me. No. I knew who I wanted to marry. I had since I was a little girl and he taught me how to ride a horse bareback and to joust like a professional. His name was Lee. We did jousting only for fun because it was a rather primitive sport but I loved it. It made sense when my father told me there was to be a competition for my hand in marriage that this would be the event. You know why? Because they’d all lose to Lee and to me.

Cue the sighs and confetti because Lee, he would fight for me, even knowing how I felt about being fawned over. He loved me. I knew that with everything that I was because he respected me. My intelligence. My choices. My thoughts. And he was easy on the eyes. His long hair and chiseled face with a distinguished chin that I longed to run my teeth over. And his eyes, so dark and expressive. Trouble was, he still had to fight for my hand.

“Ladies and Gentlemen please be seated for the tournament. Whoever taps or gets their opponents to fall first wins and shall earn the hand in marriage of the lovely Princess Annabelle.” I cringed as they sold me off like cattle. They motioned to where I sat or was supposed to be sitting. My servant was a good fill-in.

I snuck away and geared up, disguising myself in full gear. I wasn’t going down without fighting for what I believed in. Laws and Procedures were one thing I couldn’t fight my father on but I was known to get around them and I had a plan.

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“Begin!” I rode with a passion as I immediately knocked the first contender off his horse, then the second, then the third. Murmurs ran through the crowd of who the masked man was. Little did they know it was me, fighting for my own honor. This wasn’t about Lee because I knew at the end of the day he was going to be the one I shared my life with. This was about every little girl watching, thinking that she was only able to choose a man who could fight for her and win. That she had no say in her own happily ever after. I was here to rip that veil off their eyes and show them that women were our own heroes.

“The last two standing men please prepare.”

I looked at the end and saw Lee holding onto his helmet. He looked up to where he thought I was sitting and blew a kiss.

“Although I know you can fight for yourself dear Annabelle, I will fight for you because I love you wholeheartedly and would do anything to spend my life with you.” I know I didn’t need saving, or a man to complete me but Lee, he was the exception to the rule.

He didn’t treat me differently because I was a Princess or a woman. He let me learn and try things, be independent yet supported me when I needed. I watched him through the slits of the helmet as he pulled back his long blonde hair and covered his face with the helmet.

Then it started. We went back and forth many times, both of us dodging and weaving each other’s attempts to get the other to fall off our horse. It was a dance that Lee and I had done many times before. Then, I caught him off guard, going below his jousting stick and pinning him in the shoulder. A loud gasp sounded through the audience, my father standing up and clutching the end of his chair.

“Unmask yourselves!” He demanded.

Lee took off his mask and then I did, my long black hair flowing around me. Silence greeted me.

“I have won my own hand and marriage.” I smiled at my father, shaking his head and slumping into his seat.

Lee looked stunned but smiled, placing his helmet between his arms.

“I wanted to show every young girl that you are the makers of your own destiny. Not a silly game or tournament. You. It all starts with loving yourself and knowing your worth!” I pointed out into the crowd.

Women cheered and men looked confused as I stood in front of them, their princess declaring the rights of women all around.

“Women don’t need a man to complete them or to be a good queen,” I glanced up at my father who sat there unsure of what to do. “But I, Princess Annabelle, choose Lee to be my husband. Not because I need him or because someone told me I had to marry him but because I love him.” I dropped my helmet and ran into Lee’s arms.

“That was quite a spectacle, princess,” he whispered against my ear.

“Would you expect anything less from me?”

I questioned.

“Absolutely not. You were a worthy competitor. Even if your form was a bit off.”

“Lee, I will have you know that I beat you far and--”my objections were halted when his lips pressed down on mine. I didn’t agree with fairytales but with my lips pressed against the man I knew was my soulmate, I did believe in one thing: happily ever afters.

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BY AMY HILL Is your wardrobe looking a bit dull heading into the fall season? With employees returning to the office and students returning to the classroom, it’s no longer socially acceptable to live in sweatpants all day. Stow away your sweats and visit Wood & Thread Boutique to upgrade your look with stylish staples that are sure to help you get back to business.

As the owner of Wood & Thread Boutique, Theresa Burton has spent the summer sprucing up her shop with freshly painted white ceilings and walls. As fall approaches, the boutique is filling up with dresses, sweaters, and trendy Y-cut jeans. With life slowly creeping back to normal, Theresa and her daughter Emily, who manages the boutique’s social media, are happy to have noticed the inventory shifting away from primarily loungewear and graphic tees into business casual clothing and going out dresses.

Over the last year, Mondays through Thursdays were the busiest days of the week for Wood & Thread, as locals left town on the weekends for quick getaway vacations. Currently, weekends are beginning to pick back up as visitors from out of town are visiting nearby locations such as Old Salem and the Historic Brookstown Inn. Curious as to what Wood & Thread has in store?

Theresa describes the shop as the perfect spot for boho chic styling from your home to your closet. From wooden and gold jewelry to blazers and bodysuits, shoppers will likely be unable to leave the store empty-handed.

After establishing pop-up shops for over a year, Theresa decided to snag a spot to open the boutique in Downtown Winston-Salem - a spot she had been eyeing for months at 301 Brookstown Avenue. As it turns out, Wood & Thread was a perfect fit for the Brookstown area, as residents of nearby apartment complexes, convention center visitors, and students from Salem College and UNCSA frequent the shop. Wood & Thread’s visitors often take advantage of the boutique’s close proximity to tasty coffee shops such as Camino Bakery and ByGood Coffee, along with treating themselves to tasty Italian dinners at Di Lisio’s. Over the last three years, Theresa has grown to love the neighborhood’s familylike atmosphere and has thoroughly enjoyed immersing herself and the boutique in the Brookstown community.

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During the pandemic, however, Wood & Thread re-established its pop-up roots by setting up outdoor shops in parking lots alongside other small businesses to circumvent the challenges imposed by local restrictions and social distancing guidelines.

Having the opportunity to work with fellow small business owners gave Theresa and Emily the opportunity to network and gain inspiration for Wood & Thread. Since moving into its Brookstown location, Wood & Thread has also persevered through the closure of Business 40, which caused a major disruption to the amount of traffic passing through the nearby community. With so many triumphs under its belt, Wood & Thread’s versatility and appealing in-store and online presence have kept the boutique thriving when times have gotten tough.

Giving back to the community and supporting local businesses are important causes to the Wood & Thread team, as many clothing and accessory brands sold in-store and online donate a portion of their proceeds to nonprofit organizations.

Additionally, Wood & Thread will be a hot spot on Saturday, October 2nd, as one of the many local businesses participating in

Forsyth Woman’s 2021 Tour De Boutique.

To keep Tour de Boutique shoppers satiated and hydrated, Wood & Thread will be hosting a food truck serving donuts and other tasty treats, alongside one of Thirsty Buffalo’s beloved mobile bars. If it’s your first time visiting the boutique, be on the lookout for Alpha-Lit’s stunning marquis letters shining in the store window. Be sure to stop by and take advantage of the Tour de Boutique discount available for all registered shoppers.

With this being the first year Theresa and her team is participating in Tour de Boutique, they are working hard to make sure that the shop is in tip-top shape. Returning customers can expect to see brand new hardwood floors and an overall brighter atmosphere within the store in the near future. Ready to start shopping? Visit woodandthreadboutique. com to view store hours and current products online, and follow @woodandthreadboutique on Instagram to stay posted on the boutique’s newest items. Check out Wood & Thread on Facebook and be sure to register for the 2021 Tour de Boutique on Facebook by September 10th to shop Wood & Thread Boutique’s exclusive sales.

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CENTENARY UNITED METHODIST CHURCH: E V E R Y D AY F O R E V E R Y O N E

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Rev. Dr. Glenn Kinken

Since 1931, Centenary United Methodist Church has been a staple in the Winston-Salem community, serving people and families for generations while offering spiritual guidance, counseling, and encouragement. Most recently, Centenary UMC’s senior pastor, Rev. Dr. Glenn Kinken, and the church staff have made it a mission to reach the next generation in our ever-changing world.

“Our church just went under significant renovation,” said Kinken. “It was the second renovation our church has undergone in nine years, and we are thrilled with the results. Our campus is brighter and more inviting.

Of course, the original architecture has been preserved, but we have made updates as part of our ongoing efforts to reach the community.

“We have stood by our church’s mission that was established years ago,” Kinken continued. “Our ministry doesn’t stop and start on our doorsteps, but we do everything we can to bring church to our community. Our doors are wide-open, and we have something for everyone – every day of the week.”

The Centenary United Methodist Church team has also partnered with a number of agencies that have allowed them to spread their reach and share the Gospel of Jesus through hands-on endeavors. Kinken shared, “We are so thankful for these partnerships which enable us to have an open invitation to the community. It enables us to grow together and reach more in need. We know more than ever the basic need for connection. So while we are proud of the work we did to move our programs and services to virtual in 2020, we know that people need fellowship. It’s how we’re hardwired by our Creator.

“Our staff, members, and families are so excited,” he continued. “We have revamped opportunities for special events, music, meetings, and more through the church’s remodeling and partnerships. Our ultimate goal is to show others the way to incorporate time with God into every day.

Church doesn’t just happen on Sundays, but it’s a way of life.

Whether we are connecting via email with a ‘First 15’ from our faith formation program or volunteering with our ministry partners at Samaritan Ministries… serving others is what we do and what we encourage others to do too. We believe that community is intentional, and at our church, that is something we take very seriously.”

Rev. Dr. Kinken wants Centenary United Methodist Church to be known as the hands and feet of Jesus. “Everyone who walks through our doors, partners with us, or is a recipient of one of our services is a person who is loved by God. So we, too, want to ensure we’re doing our part not only to fulfill the Great Commission to share Jesus, but to also love God first, and our community.”

Centenary United Methodist Church invites Forsyth Woman readers to visit and learn more about the opportunities to connect through their ministry. They are located at 646 West Fifth Street in Winston-Salem. You can call the office at 336.724.6311 during office hours (Monday – Thursday, 9 AM –4 PM). Visit online at Centenary-WS.org. Centenary UMC is also on social media! Like them on Facebook, or follow on Instagram.

Centenary United Methodist Church has something for everyone.

Their ministry partnerships and opportunities include: • Samaritan Ministries • Betty and Jim Holmes Food Bank Garden • New Story Church • Community Care Center • Shepherd’s Center • Crisis Control Ministry • The Shalom Project • Winston-Salem Rescue Mission • UMAR • Crossnore Communities for Children • Forsyth Jail and Prison • GreeNest • Horizons • Crosby Scholars • Second Harvest Food Bank • Haiti Outreach Ministries • World Relief • Winston-Salem Street School • City with Dwellings • Senior Services

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BY AMY HILL, PHOTOS BY RANDOLPH COMMUNITY COLLEGE PORTRAIT STUDIO MANAGEMENT CLASS OF 2021

After a long workweek, there are few things finer than a glass of white wine (or four) by the lake. One Friday afternoon, I decided to unwind at Old Homeplace Vineyard with a flight of four two-ounce pours of various wines of my choosing. As a growing wine enthusiast, I found Old Homeplace turned out to be the perfect venue to kick my feet up and relax on a back porch while treating my palate to brand new blends.

Shortly after I got cozy in my wooden lounge chair with my wine flight, I witnessed Old Homeplace Vineyard’s owner, David Stone, greeting each patron outside. It was obvious that one of the most important goals of the Old Homeplace team is making its patrons feel like family.

In fact, family is so deep-rooted in the vineyard’s blood that its most popular wine among customers is the Henry Lee, named after the great-grandfather of David’s wife and fellow owner, Jill. As the first wine in my flight, I was pleasantly surprised by the refreshing and crisp taste of the Henry Lee, a white blend of Viognier, Pinot Gris, and Chardonnay.

If sweet wines are what satisfy your palate, they have you covered with a wide variety of muscadine and fruit wines that will surely be pleasing. Be sure to try the best-selling Skinny Dippin’ (and to hear the story behind this one, too).

Nestled along 1,200-acre Lake Thom-aLex, Old Homeplace Vineyard is more than just a tasting room with a view. Although it’s currently the only lakefront vineyard in North Carolina, wine tasters from all areas of the state visit the vineyard to learn about the history of the vineyard’s farm, which has been standing strong since 1947. Jill’s father and vineyard co-owner, Bud Kennedy, grew up on the farm and has witnessed its transformation from growing tobacco, small grain, and corn to

becoming the Davidson County staple it is today. Ever since the vineyard was first planted in 2016, Bud and his wife, Dee, have worked closely alongside David and Jill to keep the atmosphere at Old Homeplace true to its name.

Open year-round, Old Homeplace’s live music, food trucks, and picturesque space for weddings and private events keep the tasting room bustling with patrons. Guests and planners of private events can take advantage of the vineyard’s versatility, with the charming onsite barn doubling as an event center when the weather doesn’t cooperate.

May through October are the vineyard’s liveliest months of the year, so those looking to book an event at Old Homeplace should look to secure the space far in advance.

When it comes to Old Homeplace’s selection of 22 unique wines, each wine is made with North Carolina-grown grapes, including nearby grapes from Chart’s Hill Vineyard in Wallburg. What really piqued my interest, however, was Old Homeplace’s New Moon wine, a Sauvignon Blanc aged in bourbon barrels. As the second wine in my flight, I immediately noticed the aromatic notes of bourbon in the glass. If you happen to prefer red wine over white, the vineyard’s Full Moon is a Cabernet Sauvignon also aged in bourbon barrels. As a somewhat inexperienced wine drinker, I’m typically wary of most red wines, but I will definitely make an exception for the Full Moon - although the 15.9% ALC of both bourbon barrelaged blends might have influenced my decision by my third pour.

I finished off my flight with the lovely Tire Swing, a rosé blend of Sangiovese and Cabernet Franc. In my opinion, you can never go wrong with a rosé wine and the Tire Swing did not disappoint.

While I was tempted to add a glass of 2017 Riesling to the mix after hearing that it won a double gold medal at the 2017 NC State Fair, I instead decided to call it a night and purchased a bottle of the vineyard’s classic Sauvignon Blanc to savor at home in my complimentary tasting glass. When you can’t take in the beauty of the vineyard’s rolling hills, horses, and southern charm in your busy Downtown apartment, having a bottle of Old Homeplace Vineyard wine waiting in your fridge will do the trick.

To stay tuned in to the latest live music, food trucks, and events happening at Old Homeplace Vineyard, follow the Old Homeplace family on Instagram at @oldhomeplacevineyard, or check out the team’s Facebook page for updates. Read more about the vineyard’s wine selection or contact David and his team to book a private event at oldhomeplacevineyard.com.

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You are an Artomat artist, can you explain what an Artomat is for those who don’t know and share what you ove most about contributing?

BY TARYN JEREZ

A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

This month’s featured artist, Dot McCollum, takes color and whimsy to the happiest of heights creating a world all her own with the singular desire to never settle for singularity but experience a little bit of everything life has to offer!

Dorothea McCollum | Mixed Media Artist How would you describe your work?

Whimsical, colorful and textured.

What influences your art most?

Influence comes from everywhere. I always have paper around so I can doodle something and there’s always my handy smartphone where I can bookmark or send myself a text to remember. I am drawn to bright, colorful, whimsical, happy things in life so that’s what I generally prefer to create.

You just returned from a recent road trip. Did your adventure inspire you in new ways?

I recently returned from a 28-day road trip adventure with my kids! My goal for this adventure was to explore the plains and deserts of the southwest. I have been in love with New Mexico since I was 14 and I took two winter semesters in college at Ghost Ranch in NM. I’ve been wanting to return ever since. The warmer color palettes of the earth and rock formations in AZ, NM, UT and NV are so different from the lush blues and greens surrounding us in WinstonSalem. I captured moments by sketching and took 1,000 photos! I hope to work on some desert landscapes to bring my emotional attachment to canvas.

How have you evolved, personally, as an artist?

In 1984, when I was four, my mom entered me into a Snoopy related drawing contest at Christmas. I still have that crayon drawing framed and I vividly remember drawing it. I took extra art classes in high school and went to college for a BFA, never having a singular focus because I wanted to try it all.

I think 20 years ago I was completing projects and assignments to (A) fulfill the project criteria and (B) make something other people would like. The blanket of fear I mentioned kept me from showing myself as a professional.

The last couple years I realized I needed to live my artist life like I live my actual life because time isn’t a guarantee. I will make art I love because I love making it and it will find its place somewhere.

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In short, Artomat machines are repurposed cigarette vending machines that now vend artwork from contributing artists worldwide. Artomat was created

by Winston-Salem artist Clark Whittington and now venues across the country can host a machine. For $5 you can have a tiny original piece.

Submitting a prototype a few years ago was my first step to throwing off my blanket of fear. I want to make art, this is a fun way to send my happy little paintings out into the world. Besides coming up with funny food related puns (which is my chosen Artomat subject matter), my favorite parts of being an Artomat artist are the online community I’ve found and the “green cards” we receive quarterly showing us precisely which machines our art has been sent to!

How do you carve out time to be creative?

It takes balance and scheduling an appointment with myself! During the school year I try to work in the studio a few hours throughout the day and I plan about a week ahead, especially since my boys are home during summer. I work in batches so while things are drying I can be working on something else instead of wasting time, literally watching paint dry. I can prime and work on 100-200 tiny paintings at a time (grouped into sets of 20 per design).

Short bursts of time throughout the day and week can accomplish a lot when the paintings are so small.

What are you working on that excites you right now?

The best thing I did during quarantine was sign up for an online art group. This group is encouraging, supportive and wildly talented from beginner to seasoned pro.

It’s a treat to see how everyone interprets the classes and makes adjustments to suit their own aesthetic. Tons of inspiration is soaked up here. Having this library of technique and themes has been invigorating and has really sparked my desire to try new things.

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists?

Your art is yours, that’s why it’s so special.

Keep creating!

If you are interested in learning more about Dot McCollum you can follow Dot on Instagram @delightfullydotty as well as find her work in Artomat throughout Winston-Salem.

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Have you ever taken a moment to read the ingredients on your skincare products’ labels? With over 80,000 chemicals on the market today, it’s no wonder there are serious health issues on the rise. And while it’s inevitable that our bodies will become exposed to toxic chemicals throughout our lifetime, there is a step you can take to eliminate a good portion of them. Insert Beautycounter, the California-based brand with more than 1,800 questionable and harmful chemicals never used in their products and a mission to provide their customers with beauty that is “good for you.” It is the brand that is doing all the hard work so that you can keep life simple.

“There’s a lot in life we can’t control,” said Jennifer Ertl, Founding Member and Managing Director with Beautycounter.

“From household products, food prep and storage, cleaning products, and the things we do in daily life. But we can choose safer products we use on our skin and our bodies - body wash, lotion, deodorant, skincare, and makeup.”

The skincare and beauty industry uses many chemicals that have no safety databacked behind them, and what’s worse is that the FDA doesn’t have the authority to remove those harmful ingredients from the everyday products we put on our bodies, as well as those of our children. Take, for example, three of the most widely used chemicals that potentially may be in a few of your bathroom essentials right now. The first being Parfum or perfume, a chemically manufactured fragrance that could affect brain health, trigger allergies, or even cause asthma flare-ups. Another harmful chemical is Parabens that have been linked to endocrine disruption. Lastly, DEA, MEA, and TEA are a set of preservatives that are most common in moisturizers and shampoos that can react with other chemicals to form nitrosamines, which could lead to the growth of cancer.

Possibly even more troubling is the fact that the FDA has no authority to recall a product even if it contains known carcinogens, as in the recent case of a well-known retailer that discovered asbestos contamination in the kids makeup palettes they were selling. The company did remove the contaminated products from their shelves, but ultimately made no effort to recall those products already sold to customers.

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Remember the substantial number of chemicals I mentioned earlier that Beautycounter does not use? Well, it’s called The Never List. It’s their commitment to lead a change in the beauty and skincare industry all across the marketplace. From family and friends to people they’ve just met, every face behind Beautycounter is committed to helping you make a healthier choice that works to meet your needs. They not only source ingredients carefully but test constantly. “Beautycounter goes above and beyond to continually screen and batch test our products for contaminants,” Jennifer expressed. “All things being equal, why wouldn’t you choose a highperforming, gorgeous product that is significantly safer?”

Beautycounter is redefining the skincare and beauty industry through fastforwarding thinking that puts safety front and center. But beyond that, they are always putting the needs of their customers right along its side. Now, you may be wondering, why is it necessary to have a good daily skincare routine? Well, you’re shedding skin cells throughout each day, and safe, effective products can keep your skin glowing and in good condition over the years. By creating an effective routine that works for your schedule, you can treat wrinkles, help prevent acne, and keep your skin looking its best!

“My favorite product is the Overnight Resurfacing Peel + Allbright Vitamin C Serum combo - I call it the glow duo!” said Jennifer. “Overnight Peel delivers skin-smoothing gentle acids that work overnight to give you a smoother, more even complexion, and our C-Serum has 10% vitamin C complex, Turmeric root extract, and Camu Camu fruit extract (they call it superfruit for a reason!) for visibly brighter skin. This combo is perfect for anti-aging concerns and for keeping breakout-prone skin clearer and brighter.

At age 48, this combo is my daily go-to for the most glowing skin.” And contrary to belief, you don’t need a drawer full of products to keep your skin naturally glowy. Just a few of the right products will get the job done!

To learn more about Jennifer, discuss any questions, or request free Beautycounter samples, find her on Instagram at @NCJennifer or visit her Beautycounter page at www.beautycounter.com/jenniferertl.

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BY AMY HILL

Heading to the dreaded DMV soon to take care of business? Here are the five types of people you’re likely to run into along the way.

THE IMPATIENT PERSON As usual, the line at the DMV is wrapped around the waiting room as everyone is standing patiently for their turn. The man in front of you seems to be waiting a bit less patiently than most, however, as he begins rocking back and forth and looking around the room in exasperation.

You start scrolling through social media on your phone to make sure your head is down and away from potentially making eye contact with him. This man doesn’t care that you’re acting busy on your phone and instead turns around to start chatting. “This line is ridiculous, ain’t it?” he asks. To appease him, you smile and nod in agreement, but immediately resume scrolling. With a renewed confidence that someone else has agreed with his sentiment, he starts ranting on and on about how this is the worst DMV out of all the DMVs he has visited. Why does this guy have to go to so many DMVs? You think to yourself. You continue to keep your hands and eyes glued to your phone and hope for the best until you reach the front of the line.

THE CLUELESS GUY As you inch closer to the front, you notice that there is quite the hold up as an employee is desperately trying to explain the rules of the new REAL ID requirements to an unprepared young man who only showed up with his driver’s license. “I’m sorry, sir, but all of the paperwork you’re supposed to bring is listed online,” says the employee. The young man, refusing to take responsibility for his lack of research ahead of time, begins complaining about how he doesn’t have a passport and has no clue where his birth certificate is. Everyone in the waiting area is watching the young man become more and more frustrated, making an uncomfortable waiting situation even more unpleasant. After a few more pleas with the employee to bend the rules for him, he gives up and is forced to leave with no REAL ID in hand.

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When it’s finally your time to shine, you walk up to the employee’s desk and lay out all of your documents on the table for the employee to gather. You smile and say hello, but the employee is not happy. She barely smirks and asks you to sign a few forms. You can barely understand what she’s saying, but you are too afraid to ask for clarification because she does not seem to be in a great mood. While it would be nice to have a friendly employee greeting you after waiting for so long, you can’t blame her for being miserable.

THE FIRST-TIME DRIVER After you’re taken back to a desk behind the waiting area, you see a young woman at a computer nearby taking the written portion of her driver’s license exam. You discretely watch as she second-guesses every multiplechoice answer on the screen due to nerves. You’re internally rooting for her, as you’ve been in her shoes and know how nerve-racking the experience can be. Unfortunately, after she completes the test, she learns that she has not passed. Her eyes begin to well up with tears. She heads back to the waiting room to find her mother, who is now consoling her and letting her know that she can “always come back and take the test again” in a few weeks.

YOUR OLD HIGH SCHOOL CLASSMATE After your time at the DMV has finally come to an end, you’re heading out the door when you are approached by a familiar face. “Amy Hill?” he asks. “What are you doing here?” Quickly remembering that he attended high school with you, you tell him that you’re just here to renew your driver’s license.

Even though you’d like nothing more than to drive to Taco Bell to emotionally eat after your stressful experience at the DMV, you allow your former classmate to briefly reminisce on the only class you recall having with him. As the conversation comes to a close, he asks, “Did you know you can renew your license online?”

Baffled, you cannot believe you wasted so much time instead of checking the website before showing up at the crack of dawn. Now I’m the unprepared one, you think. You warmly say goodbye to your former classmate and take advantage of your renewed license by heading straight to the drive-thru.

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The popular lyrics continue to strike a chord. On the one hand, they capture a little boy’s desire to “grow up just like you, Dad.” And on the other, it is a lamentation because, you guessed it, that is exactly what happens.

One day the little boy is pining for his busy dad’s attention, and then, in a flash, it is the dad who is pining for time with his now grown son.

HEALTHY ROLES AND GOALS The song’s title, “The Cat’s in the Cradle” has come to refer to the experience of someone who doesn’t take enough time for the other in a relationship, or who is constantly cancelling plans.

It’s a familiar phenomenon for many of us. And, it is just one way that parents and their grown children seem to reverse roles. But we need to be careful here because mental health and aging professionals encourage us not to think in terms of “reversal,” as if it were an absolute. Instead, it’s helpful to take a step back to: • Be mindful that as with all close relationships, how the adult child and their aging parent relate and provide one another with support over time will evolve

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• Adult children are most helpful when they focus on helping their aging parent deal with the many changes that accompany aging

SageMinder, which provides services for seniors, recommends a proactive approach to preparing for shifting roles. Consider these six actions: • Have honest and respectful conversations with one another. It can be helpful to sit down to “assess the situation” together, before a crisis happens or a big decision needs to be made.

• Meet your own needs and say “no” in order to protect priorities you each have. Remember that each person’s individual needs, apart from the parent/child relationship, matter and should be respected.

• Cultivate a deep respect and realistic trust in one another. Build on the bond you already have and remember that by working together you will both feel respected.

• Ask for help from each other and from others. No one goes it alone. Lean on one another and by all means, reach out to friends, neighbors, and services that can provide both emotional and practical support.

• Take good care of yourselves. While “good care” varies from person to person, it is important to attend to your mental, emotional and physical health.

• Avoid secrets and guilt trips. Candor tempered with compassion can help you work together to find new solutions to emerging challenges.

And that goes for both the adult child as well as the aging parent.

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Clemmons Country Store

Helps Bring Local Businesses to Life

BY AMY HILL

Shopping local and supporting small businesses and vendors has never been more imperative. Ditch the drive-thru and long lines at Target and try something closer to home instead. Perfect for working families in need of a quick, restaurant-quality dinner at home, or homeowners looking to decorate their living spaces with unique art pieces and greenery, Clemmons Country Store brings a wide variety of local goods to the Clemmons community and helps keep the beauty of owning a small business alive.

Since the store first opened in 2000, owner Sherrie Billings and her husband Tim have been selling high-quality, local products to the Clemmons community. Clemmons Country Store customers rave about the hot commodities found on the store’s shelves, including birdhouse gourds and jewelry crafted by local artists, along with delectable homemade desserts and baked goods from local staples such as Camino Bakery. Sherrie and Tim love selling local products and giving talented bakers and artisans the opportunity to shine and showcase their goods.

In order to determine which products are sold at Clemmons Country Store, Sherrie and Tim research each product and are dedicated to knowing where each item is made and/ or grown before selling it to their customers.

To maintain the integrity of their goods and services, Sherrie and Tim ensure that food items are produced from licensed kitchens, and that all plant vendors are licensed through the N.C. Department of Agriculture. Without following these guidelines, Sherrie and Tim run the risk of compromising the health of their customers – something they work diligently to prevent.

With fall just around the corner, Clemmons Country Store is gearing up to change with the season. After enjoying a bounty of fresh produce this summer, Sherrie and Tim look forward to stocking the store with fall’s pumpkins, mums, pansies, scarecrows, fall flags, hay bales and autumn décor. Customers will find delicious fall produce and year-round staples, such as their popular local honey and elderberry, chicken pies, and quiche. Shoppers looking for a delicious and easy dinner can take advantage of the numerous take-and-bake items for sale in the store, such as lasagna, lobster and crab ravioli, and enchiladas.

When the store first opened over two decades ago, Sherrie attended pop-up seasonal markets to find different suppliers for products sold instore. Now, Clemmons Country Store’s stellar reputation has spread so much throughout the community that new suppliers approach Sherrie and Tim on their own to inquire about joining their team.

How exactly did the idea for Clemmons Country Store come about? After seeing a need for a store in the Clemmons area focused on selling local products, Sherrie took the reins and made Clemmons Country Store the flagship location in Clemmons for local food and fare. Prior to owning Clemmons Country Store with Tim, she earned a bachelor’s degree in criminal justice and worked as a private investigator for years. After getting married and giving birth to her daughter, her hectic schedule of managing a family while frequently traveling as a private investigator became overbearing. With her father and brother owning service stations throughout Clemmons, she became one of the only female owners/ operators of an Exxon convenience store. In 1999, however, Sherrie signed the lease for Clemmons Country Store’s current location and was able to fulfill her desire of selling local products to the community.

Clemmons has turned out to be the dream location for the store that Sherrie envisioned it would be. She and Tim enjoy the small-town feel of the area, and the amazing and loyal customers who shop daily. Part of the fun of owning a local business for Sherrie and Tim is getting to know their customers by name and sharing exciting moments and memories with them throughout the years. Over the last 20 years, Sherrie and Tim have seen children grow up and become adults, who then bring their children back into the store to continue their

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shopping tradition. To Sherrie and Tim, the family-like atmosphere of running Clemmons Country Store is the labor of love.

To keep your home feeling green as the leaves fall off the trees, Clemmons Country Store is the perfect place to find plants and garden goods.

If you’re a new plant parent, Sherrie suggests initially investing in a low maintenance plant, such as one of their locally grown perennial garden mums sold in-store this fall. Fall mums should be watered several times per week with no deadheading required. Want to put some of the store’s locally produced honey to use?

Sherrie and Tim share recipes in the store and anticipate discussing plenty of apple dumplings and pumpkin pie recipes to try as we transition into the fall season.

Interested in seeing what Clemmons Country Store has to offer? Stop by in-person at 2690 Lewisville-Clemmons Road, or visit http://www. clemmonscountrystore.com/ to read more about the products sold in-store. For the latest updates from Sherrie and her team, check out the store’s Facebook page and follow @ clemmonscountrystore on Instagram for all things local.

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I WishI Knew

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

You know that song lyric, “I wish that, I knew what I know now, when I was younger?” from the band The Faces?

Read on to what Forsyth County women wished they knew when they were younger – maybe it will be exactly what you need today: Rejection doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you.

People show you how they feel about you…they don’t have to tell you…pay attention. – Miranda

Flossing is more important than you think.

– Amy

Don’t be so caught up in raising a good kid that you forget you already have one. – Lydia

You can tell someone to take a hike (in fact, it may be necessary sometimes) and still be a nice person. – Adrienne

No one can make me happy/ complete/whole. I am all of those things with and without anyone else. If it is to be, it’s up to me. – Becka

If I knew I was worthy of love, I would have never married him.

– Jennifer

Never compromise who you are for another person. Remain true to yourself and the right partner will come along and celebrate exactly who you are. – Christina

In order to establish credit, one must actually use the credit they have and not just have it for emergencies. – Shanata

You are worthy of a life full of love, happiness and a full belly.

– Leslie Ann

You do not expand infinitely in all directions.

– Jillian

I wish neurodiversity were laid out for everyone. That way, neurodiverse folks wouldn’t feel like aliens, and neurodiverse folks could have some empathy. – Heidi

Don’t get married because you think you have to by a certain age to have kids. – Amanda

Living life in any way, having organization or a routine or health and wellness – is specific to each of us. It doesn’t need to be like anyone else. – Lisa

Having order and organization in your life is not overrated and makes embracing spontaneous opportunities so much easier. - Linda

Your job isn’t as important as you are. You need to reserve some time to live your own life, and not pour 70 hours a week into a job where they will not hesitate to replace you if you feel the need to scale it back. – Dina

I have learned how to embrace the skin I am in and be body positive for my beautiful daughter. – Bianca

Always use sunscreen – and that’s not enough, use more sunscreen! – Natalie

Growth and change in myself may cost me people in my life, but the cost of an inauthentic life is much higher. – Michelle

My boundaries are valid.

– Jacqueline

Consent is everything.

– Emalia

I wish I had learned that it really was ok to be Queer. I was the only one in my life that had to be comfortable with my sexuality.

Once I finally figured that out, I fell in love with myself and the love of my life whom I’ve spent almost 18 years with. – Vanessa

There is always another option. Just because you don’t see it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist! – Alexandra

Work and a paycheck are not the goal. Life should be about the moments. Love fiercely and with your whole heart. – Shelia

Saying no is not offensive. “No” is a complete sentence. – Angela

Five simple words I learned at 70 I wish I had learned as an early teen: “YOUR LIFE IS YOUR OWN.” – Dana

You don’t have to earn the right to be comfortable in your own body. – Brooke

I wish I’d known at 12 that it is ok to be gay, instead of 36. – April

WHAT MOTIVATES YOU?

With my type-A personality, I’m motivated by the thrill of setting and achieving goals. But I’m most motivated when I help other women on my Beautycounter team achieve their goals. I love coaching women over the hurdles toward their goals and then celebrating their achievements. There’s no better feeling!

WHAT IS YOUR PROUDEST ACHIEVEMENT?

Professionally, passing bar exams in 2 states within 2 years was a proud achievement. But I’m actually most proud of making the decision to leave my law practice to strike out as an entrepreneur in direct sales. Leaving a “regular” job to work with a new, unproven company was a bold choice that has paid off in all aspects of my life. Beyond professional achievements though, raising my sons to be kind, confident, generous kids is my proudest achievement, and it is definitely a work in progress!

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WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE BEAUTYCOUNTER PRODUCTS?

My favorites are the Overnight Resurfacing Peel and the All Bright C-Serum. At age 48, this combo is my daily go-to for the most glowing skin. Overnight Peel has skin-smoothing gentle acids that work overnight for a smoother, more even complexion (with no visible peeling), and the C-Serum has 10% vitamin C, Turmeric, and Camu Camu fruit (they call it superfruit for a reason!) for visibly brighter skin. You don’t need a drawer full of products to keep your skin naturally glowy.

Just a few of the right products will get the job done!

Ask me for free samples if you want to try it for yourself!

Find me on IG @ncjennifer or contact me via my website: beautycounter.com/jenniferertl.

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WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SEASON?

My favorite season is always the one that we’re in! I love these last days of summer that fade into a crisp, colorful autumn.

Along with cozy sweaters and warm drinks I like the routine of back to school, homecoming gatherings, and more structured days. While the days growing shorter is a bit sad, the prospects of holiday festivities just around the corner makes it happy.

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Balancing colors, fabrics, and the endless other intricate decisions necessary to create the perfect space for life or work, June DeLugas is a master of dazzling details and creative vision.

From her regular Forsyth Woman blog, “Dear June” (where readers adore seeing her passion for her craft shine through!) to welcoming loyal followers and clients new to the area in need of design direction, she never misses the mark when it comes to marrying the “old” with the “new,” always in perfect harmony, while infusing current trends to keep things interesting.

Best of all, she makes it sound so easy!

“For example, take a beautiful console with exquisite curves and add a new, sleek pottery vase or small piece of abstract art,” says June. “You’ll fall in love instantly!”

If reading this already has you re-imagining your own view – at home or at the office – let June DeLugas Interiors tempt you with some amazing possibilities. A full-service design firm in Clemmons, NC, it truly is a client’s one-stop shopping experience for retail and design expertise, for both residential and commercial projects. June and her team also act as construction designers for new homes, providing turnkey remodeling for residential projects, and specializing in kitchen and bath remodeling.

If you’re updating your current home or building a new private sanctuary for your family, or your commercial space needs a refresh and a facelift, her enthusiasm and talent for making a room simply flow are unmatched! And her creative team – Patty Grogan, Maddy Blevins, and Ellen Carr – keep her grounded and inspired every day, as each brings a unique skill set to the design table.

AN ENLIGHTENED START Even as a young girl, June recognized the power of style and good design and their effect on the comfort we crave in our daily lives. Always in love with each heirloom passed down to her from family members, June discovered the emotional riches in a handful of special pieces, and instilled that same appreciation in her daughter, Megan (sure to be passed to her granddaughter as well!).

When June opened her design firm in 2002, she had outgrown her working space at home, and knew it was time to offer clients an inviting setting to browse, and actually experience the feel of all the samples of design elements she offers. From a variety of granite, fabrics (she has the largest fabric library in the area!), wood finishes, luxury bedding, and wallpaper, to window treatments, accessories, antiques, lighting, rugs (she’s seeing some amazing antique patterns lately!), carpet, and paintings by local artists, the team can order even your hardest-to-find request from a listing of over 500 manufacturers, including as many local vendors as possible.

The recently redesigned showroom beautifully showcases all the elements needed to create the perfect living space for your family from start to finish, with everything needed to reflect your personal style – no matter how traditional or how edgy!

“Everything from A to Z – it really is all right here,” June explains.

Her husband, Fred, is also very involved in the business and is always ready to lend a hand with creative projects around the store – think shelving and display areas that showcase products and vignettes designed to give you the “feel” of how everything fits together.

LOCALLY ESTABLISHED & STILL GROWING Based in Clemmons, but with a loyal following and client base that extends from WinstonSalem, Lewisville and Clemmons, to Advance, Burlington, Greensboro, Lexington, Mocksville, and the Lake Norman area, June knows the industry well – including top professionals in real estate and home building – and has built strong working relationships with the area’s top contractors in both remodel and redesign.

As we’ve all navigated a variety of new scenarios over the past year, June also notes the percentage of northerners choosing to relocate to North Carolina is impressive. Transplanted families are opting for larger homes, and are typically redoing their new spaces from top to bottom, with June’s artful assistance and keen eye for detail. As is the case with so many industries, shipping issues remain unresolved, and wait time for completed projects can add to the stress of building or remodeling. But working as a team and staying on top of communication between designers, vendors, and clients eases the process, and June’s more than 25 years of decorating experience have taught her patience and poise!

While her mornings and afternoons are spent on creative pursuits, her evenings are often set aside for paperwork and the more tedious tasks of owning a business. But she – and her family and staff – wouldn’t have it any other way. Passion makes perfect, and the firm’s impressive client and project list speaks for itself!

June DeLugas Interiors is located at 2575 Old Glory Road, Suite 100, in Clemmons, where you can reach June and her staff to schedule a consultation for custom residential or commercial work at 336-778-1030. Studio hours are Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday 10 a.m. - 5:30 p.m., and Tuesday 10 a.m. - 6 p.m., and consultations by appointment on Saturdays. At juneDeLugasinteriors.com, you can find a recap of their creative services and a glimpse of some of the firm’s recent design projects, or follow them on Instagram @juneDeLugasinteriors.

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Ten Ways To Make Your Husband’s (Or Significant Other’s)

Day Better

BY KAREN COOPER

Life is busy! We work, take care of the kids, run our errands, eat, drink and try to stay merry. It can be easy to forget that we need to spread a little love in the direction of our husbands/significant others.

Luckily, (in my experience at least), there are lots of ways to make husbands/ significant others happy! It can be a small word or gesture or it can be something big that takes a lot of time and planning. It can be whatever your special person would appreciate the most.

Here are ten ways you can show your love and appreciation and keep the romance alive…

PREPARE HIS FAVORITE MEAL FOR DINNER They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. (I think this is true of almost anyone)!

Take time to shop for the freshest ingredients and prepare something special that makes him feel nourished and loved.

TELL HIM HOW GREAT LOOKING HE IS Admire his dad bod! Your man wants to know you find him attractive and he probably wouldn’t admit it, but he may be feeling insecure about the changes in his body as he ages. Let him know that you still find him irresistible!

LET HIM BE VULNERABLE Men need a space to share their deepest thoughts, feelings, fears, and concerns, too.

Be that safe sounding board for him whether he just needs you to listen or is seeking advice.

Give him encouragement and let him know it is ok to share anything with you and that there will be no judgment, just loving ears to hear.

TELL HIM HOW AWESOME HE IS Tell him he’s awesome, but get specific!

Specific compliments feel more meaningful than general ones. Complimenting your partner on specific ways he has handled situations with the kids, impressive work he has done, times when you thought he was extra smart, his new haircut, or the stamina he showed when you hiked that difficult trail…all will ring true and stick with him.

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MAKE TIME FOR ROMANCE In today’s busy and fastpaced world, it can be difficult to set aside time just for romance. But being intimate is a key ingredient to a happy relationship. Surprise him with a date night or even better…a mini vacation!

MAKE HIM COFFEE IN THE MORNING Every now and then, wake him up with coffee (just the way he likes it) and a kiss. Let him relax in bed and enjoy his coffee and quiet time while you get everyone ready for the day.

BRAG ON HIM (WHERE HE CAN HEAR YOU) Every man I know would eat this up! Talk about something great your partner did when he’s within earshot, but not in the same room. This makes everyone feel good! #winwin all around!

EXPRESS APPRECIATION FOR ORDINARY AND ROUTINE TASKS HE DOES Thank him for taking the trash cans to the curb, for mowing the lawn, for fixing dinner for the kids, for unclogging the sink…for any and all the things he does that make your and your family’s life easier. Thank him sincerely.

LOOK HIM IN THE EYE AND TELL HIM HOW PROUD OF HIM YOU ARE What has he done today, this week, this month that you are proud of him for? Has he been on a health kick, spent quality time with the kids, built something really cool, gotten noticed at work, picked up the slack so you could do more things you like to do? Find something you’re proud of and tell him how you feel about it. Get the kids in on it. Get him a cake just because he’s amazing.

PRAY A BLESSING OVER HIM AT THE START OF YOUR DAY If you are the praying kind, pray for your husband as he starts his day. What does he need today? What concerns him today? What is he searching for? You are the best one to determine these things. Then you can also pray for his safety, his well-being, wisdom, and strength.

Adding these extra efforts will not only make your loved one’s day much better, it will also give an extra spark to your relationship! They say a happy wife equals a happy life, but I’m pretty sure that sentiment holds true for the men we love as well.

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It’s Okay to NOT Want More

BY GENEVIEVE CONDON

Progress. Upward momentum.

Promotions. Degrees.

No matter what we call it, there is always the pressure and assumption that we must want to move upwards. That once in a relationship you must plan to get married. Then buy a house. Then have children.

The job you finally snagged after going to college and putting yourself in debt; you have to want a promotion.

Then to become a supervisor.

Better yet, why don’t you just own the place!

You must always want to move upwards. No matter what. No matter the cost.

Sometimes that cost is our own happiness and so often people are willing to forgo that in order to make more happen - to fit this mold and goal structure that society has set for us that is absurd and causes so much unneeded stress on people.

That encourages people to live outside of their means, putting themselves further in debt, dieting until we are sick, working ourselves until absolute burnout.

Society says we must always want more.

Society is wrong.

We never talk about how it is okay to stay still. To relish in the beauty of the moments you have and be happy with your relationship as is it. It’s okay to look forward to the simple joy of coming home to a partner that loves you and asks about your day, listening intently as you speak animatedly about something that happened. To love the apartment that has the absolute best view and Starbucks around the corner for your daily coffee fix. And the job. To just love what you are doing and be able to leave at the end of the day with a smile on your face, not wondering how you can do more than your colleague to prove you are worthy.

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You are worthy. Even if you don’t stay past closing. Even if you don’t want to go back to college to get that master’s degree. Or you don’t want to get married or have children.

We don’t always have to uproot our lives and what makes us happy in an effort to always be moving upwards. The focus, the true goal, should be to grow within ourselves and aim to be the best version of ourselves we can be. This doesn’t mean we have to get married, have kids or get promotions to validate our self-worth because happiness looks different for everyone. Accepting this is true freedom, true upward momentum.

Think about it. There would be no more pressuring ourselves to find someone we want to marry or working overtime to prove we deserve that promotion.

No more missing out on sunny days, dinners with our families or dance recitals and t-ball games. Vacations would be taken without feeling like we are letting our company down and driving the newest, fanciest car not a requirement to be seen as having truly made it.

At the end of the day, each person should pursue their own happiness. For some that is going to be the new car, promotion and a beautiful house on the hill.

For others, it’s going to be simple days in the sun and a job that makes ends meet.

We must remember, though, that it is okay to stay still.

To not want more. To be happy with what we have and who we are. Because if we aren’t truly happy with what we have in this moment, no amount of money or notoriety is going to change that.

So, I challenge you to stop.

Reflect. Take notice of what truly matters and remember: It’s Okay to Not Want More.

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November 2007 We became a big sister!

Our sister-publication, Forsyth Family joined the family, featuring our publishing families — the Bralleys and the Johnsons!

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Likely you remember your Sweet 16.

It’s a magical age. And for Forsyth Woman, it’s more than magical…. It’s a milestone. A milestone each and every one of you helped us to achieve!

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It’s been a 16 year journey of evolving, growing, but being ever-community-minded. We were, we are, and we always will celebrate women, life, work, and play in Forsyth County.

It’s home. And our readers and advertising partners are both friends and family.

The Cruise for the Cure! Forsyth Woman friends, family and readers cruised to Cozumel, Mexico in support of the fight against breast cancer!

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We were ramblin’!

Ramblin’ Rose, that is, when we formed our first Forsyth Woman Ramblin’ Rose Triathlon Team!

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We said “I Do!” to our biannual wedding magazine, Forsyth Woman Engaged!

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Forsyth Woman was born! We featured the still-awesome Cindy Farmer on the cover of our premiere issue!

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Our success is YOUR success. So take a bow, Forsyth Women! You have made this an issue to celebrate!!!!

Our First Annual Consignment Shop Hop, and we lived up to the promise, “Shop ’til we drop!”

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June 2014 We hosted our first Forsyth Woman Showcase in Old Salem!

Look! We moved into an office and had a ribbon cutting at the Historic Broyhill!

The family just kept on growing, this time with an annual publication focused on Lewisville and Clemmons — Forsyth Community!

April 2017 We are women, watch us build with Habitat for Humanity!

December 2018 Logo much? We gave ours a brand new look!

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July 2014

Our shopping trips took a new direction with the first annual Tour de Boutique!

January 2020 What’s that I hear? Forsyth Magazines launched a podcast!

We proposed a new kind of Bridal Show — a Bridal Show at the Ballpark, to complement our wedding magazine!

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August 2020 Keela moved to the passenger seat while Brooke took the wheel as publisher of Forsyth Woman!

September 2021 We are here…. In this moment….

Savoring every memory we’ve made with you along the way — not only these, but so many more. Thank you, for your generous support and kind enthusiasm for Forsyth Woman.

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We hosted an Insta-Worthy Fundraiser to support our friends, Family Services!

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

This column is dedicated to uplifting incredible women that might not be featured in the local news about their accomplishments.

These are abridged versions of these incredible women; please find them and ask them more!

MARI KRIS FULK

BRITNEY DENT

I’m a Filipino immigrant who grew up in Queens, NY, so while I’ve lived in the United States for almost three decades, I still honor the Filipino culture and traditions. I marry the traditional voices of my parents with American thinking. Sometimes they clash and it can be a difficult thing trying to find my own identity and forge a path that my parents may not understand. As a person, I’m a caretaker, which is something I am only now realizing as I look back on my life. I’m also (still) a dreamer and an artist. If you see my index finger moving while I’m staring at something, I’m sketching it in my imagination.

All of my flaws combined with my successes make me who I am. My unique upbringing as a small-town girl, a big sister, and preacher’s kid coupled with my maturity, faith, resilience, and growth over the last 33 years make me the one and only Britney Dent. My turquoise glasses and my loud voice stand out, too.

What makes you YOU?

What are you most proud of?

I’m most proud of my accomplishments and my ability to pivot in life. As a child, we didn’t have a lot so I knew I had to rely on myself to get into college. I’m the first in my immediate family to finish a degree. I worked three jobs when I was a freshman in the Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC, but my fashion design aspirations stopped when 9/11 happened and I joined the Navy shortly after. Now, as a Navy veteran, an art degree graduate, and a professional photographer, I am very proud of the life I have lived, as both a woman and a creative, and can’t wait to see who I will become and what I will do in the next twenty years.

What keeps you going when things are tough?

I realize that I am a terrible optimist, but I also rely on perseverance and determination to get through the tough times.

My children, now, are what drives me to do the best I can and to also be kind to myself knowing that I’m doing the very best I can. It’s important for me that they see that second part as well because I would want them to live life being kind to themselves.

What keeps you up at night?

My worries are always about my family. I’m at that age now where I take care of my elderly dad along with my young children.

I’m thankful for my husband and his family for all the help they’ve given me, through my stepmother’s death from cancer several years ago and now with my dad’s healing from a heart attack and consequent triple bypass surgery he’d suffered last year.

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What makes you YOU?

What are you most proud of?

I am most proud of publishing my first book during the pandemic while maintaining sanity and safety in my household this past year and a half, and the fact that my book is a number one best-seller makes me really proud!

What keeps you going when things are tough?

When things are tough my faith and family keep me going and my therapist helps me through. I focus on Galatians 6:9 as part of my faith along with personal affirmations and the cliche my dad said growing up: “Life is a cycle of battles and blessings.” My husband supports me and my children look up to me so I remain hopeful.

What keeps you up at night?

Not much literally keeps me up late at night but before falling asleep, I constantly think about inequities in education, housing, and employment, then what my plans are for the next day. I think of what else I can do to help someone.

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Collectibles & Decor for Him and Her: Shop at The Barn on Country Club

BY AMY HILL

Need to adorn your brand new home with furnishings and decor for the whole family without breaking the bank? Why not snag repurposed furniture that look as good as new? Whether you’re looking to spice up a shared living space, or you’re simply in the mood to spend girls’ day out shopping for antiques, the treasures at The Barn on Country Club will catch the eye of everyone stopping by.

Open since 2016, The Barn on Country Club is closely tended to by owner Renee Floyd, who works at The Barn daily to ensure operations run smoothly. As a small team of five, I was impressed to learn that so few people efficiently move inventory in and out of The Barn, refurbish and paint incoming products, and deliver those products to customers around the clock. In fact, Renee is so passionate about her customers’ experiences that she personally purchases each item sold in-store. Whether it means

performing heavy lifting in order to move large pieces of furniture onto the store floor or accommodating customers’ delivery requests, Renee and her team are focused on providing customers with outstanding and thorough service.

Customers who love the look of antique and refurbished furniture, but aren’t so thrilled with the idea of adding secondhand pieces to their new home, can have the best of both worlds at The Barn on Country Club.

Shop team member and woodworking wizard Mark Nyswonger is notorious for creating customized pieces, and is especially talented in building dining tables tailored to the needs and wants of those craving a custom feel. The turnaround time for Mark’s custom pieces is around two to three weeks on average, depending on the availability of lumber and other materials used to build each furnishing. Team members Holly, Hannah, and Isabel help keep pieces in tip-top shape by painting and refurbishing furniture whenever it needs a little TLC.

While browsing the massive floor space of The Barn on Country Club, customers looking to spruce up their man cave will be thrilled by The Barn’s attic, stocked with masculine memorabilia and decor. With the holidays rapidly approaching, why not get a head start on Christmas shopping for your husband, father, or brother with a classic collectible he is sure to love? The Barn carries an excellent selection of beer tap handles, neon lights, and authentic signs to gift to the men in your life. In addition to collectibles and gifts, The Barn on Country Club is the ideal spot for couples looking to balance the feminine and masculine energy in their home by turning used, functional items into brand new decor. Creative shoppers can turn many rustic farm items into country chic accent pieces or light fixtures.

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Love antiques, but aren’t exactly sure how to use them in your home?

In the small chance that she hasn’t already offered to show you around the shop, ask Renee for information on pieces throughout the floor, or ask for her advice on how to make them stand out.

Prior to opening the shop nearly five years ago, Renee always had a knack for retail, interior design, and repurposing furniture. Living just minutes away from the shop, she had been eyeing the store’s location for around five years before she bit the bullet and decided to turn her hobby into her full-time career. While the shop receives new inventory daily from auctions, estate sales, and downsizing customers looking to sell their items, nothing enters the doors of The Barn that Renee hasn’t closely inspected and priced herself.

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Curious to see what The Barn on Country Club has in store? On Saturday, October 2nd, The Barn will be participating in Forsyth Woman’s annual Tour de Boutique, supplying refreshments and sales for registered Tour de Boutique shoppers. Register for the event at TINYURL.com/2021FWTDB by September 10th to take advantage of exclusive discounts at The Barn. To stay updated on the latest news from Renee and her team, follow @thebarnoncc on Instagram and check out the team’s Facebook page. For store hours and contact information, visit www.thebarnoncountryclub.com.

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The Best Advice My Therapist Ever Told Me

If you don’t ask for what you need, the answer is always no.

– Michelle It’s ok to be a crying emotional pile of goo. – Aimee Logic can’t be used to explain or replace something that wasn’t put there with logic to begin with. – Chrissy.

Be gentle with yourself. – Lia It’s okay to grieve a loss you are actively choosing. It’s still a loss. – Chelsea No feeling is final. – Danielle Don’t rush through your feelings of sadness, grief, or anger. Take your time, and find a healthy way to cope when needed, but don’t try to skip through it. Be ready to move to the other side of it when the time comes, but don’t let anyone else convince you that you should be “over it by now”. – Dina As you can, remember to be flexible with yourself. We do not always feel strong, even when we are being strong; and strength can present itself in many different ways.

– Alison

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

One of my favorite things to do in conversations with friends when they are going through it? Quote my therapist. I joke that I owe her so much – but truly, having that third party to your life is incredible. We reached out to women across Forsyth County to see what was the best thing their therapists said. Enjoy, take what you need and pass along what your friends and family need!

Not everything is about you. – Wren It’s ok that I don’t do things like “everyone else” (meaning neurotypical people) and that I should never apologize for asking for changes or adjustments that help me function and live better. – Jess The version of me that someone else created in their mind is not my responsibility. – Annie Anxiety isn’t intuition. – Sarah

You will not be a victim for the rest of your life. – Jasmine You cannot be empowered and a victim. – MariPat You can’t have a rational conversation with an irrational person. – Terri No is a complete sentence.

– Tamara.

Other people may not like you because they see traits of themselves they don’t like within them. – Katie You don’t need to treat everything as if it’s a life or death situation. – Annie

There are two kinds of people.

Givers and takers. Givers need takers and takers need givers. But givers and takers that don’t learn to set and maintain boundaries are when relationships get unhealthy. – Gloria Take care of yourself. Even when you don’t want to. Even when you don’t feel like you deserve to. You do. And it is so worth it.

– Ali Empathy without boundaries is self-destruction. – Mary Feelings aren’t facts. – Kathryn Listen to your body. – Carla You can only control your actions and reactions; you can’t control others. So let’s work on you.

– Mari Kris Don’t you ever let anyone speak for you! – Miranda To be successful at anything in life, I must take care of me first.

– Elizabeth Just because it ended, doesn’t mean it can’t begin again.

– Sarah It wasn’t your fault, and “fixing it” isn’t your only purpose for existence. – Heather Your problems follow you wherever you go, but where you are may change the way you process them. – Jennifer Stop “shoulding” on yourself.

– Pam One decision at a time. – Aileen You’ve gotten through 100% of the things that have happened to you. Why worry about what might happen when you’ve always been able to figure it out before. – Jessica Own your power. – Cassey Feel your feelings. – Kate

And from Stephanie Adrian, LCSW, Fulcrum Counseling: My favorite piece of advice is “sometimes self-care is about deciding what you won’t do.” Whether it’s saying no to a stressful family event, or deciding to go out to eat instead of cooking, or maybe putting aside that work you need to do in order to have fun with friends. I got really tired of people telling me to take bubble baths; I hate bubble baths. I feel like a lot of women especially feel like they need to say yes to everything. We load up our plates and then struggle to carry them. Sometimes you just have to take something off your plate.

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Start From Scratch “Accessories will always help to make a room more beautiful, stylish and put together.” ~ unknown As an interior redesigner, I like nothing better than to use furniture and accessories my client has in their home to create a beautiful space. But there are times I start from scratch and help my client purchase some or all new items, including accessories for their home. The larger furniture items and rugs are easier than shopping for all the accessories, which take more of my time but are so important in the end result. When accessories are needed, where do you start?

1. Whether the accessory will be on a tabletop, wall, or shelf, the first and most important is to know the size of the space where the accessory will be placed. If a shelf, the depth, height, and width need to be measured. A good rule of thumb (guideline) is to fill the shelf with items that fill 2/3s the width of the shelf. If you are hanging a mirror, picture, or architectural item on a wall, measure the width of the furniture piece (sofa, console, etc.) it will be hung over; the wall art should measure approximately 2/3s of that width. For example: if the console is 60”, a picture should be 40”. This works for a mantle also. If hanging on a wall by itself, follow the same guideline.

2. I can ‘run my legs off’ shopping for accessories, but if I know the size, color, and object I am shopping for, I can shop online. Lamps are a good example; bedside lamps should be approximately 26 -28” tall. My rule of thumb is that the shade should be no wider than the table the lamp sits on. In a family room, 28” – 30” is a good height.

Accent lamps can be shorter. Pillows are great accessories and are a means of adding pops of color. Try to mix shapes and textures.

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3. Don’t forget to shop your home for accessories you may have put away or weren’t sure where to use. If you can use accessories that you already own that have meaning or a ‘story,’ these are the best! You might love the item and appreciate it more if it is used in a different place.

4. You can shop for reasonably priced accessories at consignment stores, yard sales, Target, Homegoods, etc.

5. Keep in mind when you are shopping that you will be accessorizing a shelf, mantle, vignette, etc., using an odd number of items (1, 3, 5…. more tend to look cluttered). By varying the heights, shapes, and textures, the items will add visual interest and depth.

6. Add interest to your space by accessorizing with books. Books can stand, lie flat, or elevate an object. Their spines can add color or distract. If you don’t like the color of the book, try turning the spine so you see the pages. I always remove book jackets and never use paperbacks.

7. Don’t forget to use elements of nature as accessories as they bring ‘life’ to your décor.

Whether it’s green plants, wood, shells, baskets, etc., these elements will add texture and help to create a beautiful home.

8. Remember, it may take several shopping trips to fine the items you love…..it’s a process!

Don’t just buy to fill your space.

You’ll be much happier with the end results if you take your time to accessorize your room.

Thank you for reading my article each month. It is my pleasure to help you create a beautiful home where your family can come to be loved, refreshed, and encouraged.

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4 Types of Accounts for your College Savings Dollars

BY STEVEN GALLO, CFP®, PARTNER, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

It’s no secret that college is one of the major expenses most folks will face. In a 2020 report titled, Trends in College Pricing and Student Aid1 , the College Board indicated the average annual in-state cost of attending a four-year public college came to $26,820.

For out-of-state students the average cost came to $43,280, $54,800 for those students attending a private university. As a parent with a child not too far off from college, these numbers certainly got my attention.

One universal truth of all long-term saving goals would be – the earlier you start, the better – and saving for college is no different. We talk about the importance of putting money away for retirement as soon as possible. That’s because time plays a major role when it comes to compound growth. If you put money away as soon as your child is born, you have almost 20 years of growth potential—and you don’t have to invest as much each month as you pursue your goal. There are many different types of accounts you can utilize as you save for college. Here is a list of the types of accounts we use with our clients at Marzano Capital Group.

• 529 plans: These state-sponsored plans allow parents to put their savings in an investment account with their child as beneficiary. As the owner of the account -- named for the IRS code section that created it -- the parent does not pay income taxes on earnings. If the kid doesn’t go to college, parents can transfer the amount in the account to another family member. Moreover, parents do not have to pay federal income taxes when withdrawing money as long as the cash is earmarked for college expenses, such as tuition and books.

• Coverdell Education Accounts: Coverdell Education Savings Accounts work similar to 529 plans, offering tax-free investment growth and tax-free withdrawals for qualified educational expenses. However, the maximum annual contribution to Coverdell ESA is $2,000 and there are annual income restrictions limiting parents who can contribute.

• Roth IRA: Using a Roth IRA to save for college gives you flexibility and offers a number of advantages. For example, if you withdraw your Roth IRA contributions early for college expenses, you won’t be taxed or penalized. You can also leave your earnings in a Roth for retirement, while withdrawing the principal to pay for the cost of education. In addition, if college is not a fit for your child, or their education is paid for by other means, like a scholarship, you can simply keep the money in your Roth IRA for your own retirement.

• Investment Account: An account for long-term savings looking to achieve a higher return in exchange for taking on more risk. Typical investments include stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and exchange-traded funds (ETFs). You will pay taxes on your investments as you realize gains and income from dividends and interest. However, if you don’t use all the funds for college expenses you can reallocate them to other longer-term goals like retirement.

College costs are projected to continue to increase. The best time to start savings toward any longer-term goal is early and the next best time to start is today. Whether you use one of the above accounts or a mix of them, the key is to get started. If you would like help determining your best college saving strategy or any long-term savings plan, check us out at www.marzanocapitalgroup.com.

1 Source: College Board, https://research.collegeboard.org/trends/college-pricing Prior to investing in a 529 Plan investors should consider whether the investor’s or designated beneficiary’s home state offers any state tax or other state benefits such as financial aid, scholarship funds, and protection from creditors that are only available for investments in such state’s qualified tuition program. Withdrawals used for qualified expenses are federally tax free. Tax treatment at the state level may vary. Please consult with your tax advisor before investing.

A Roth IRA offers tax deferral on any earnings in the account. Qualified withdrawals of earnings from the account are tax-free. Withdrawals of earnings prior to age 59 ½ or prior to the account being opened for 5 years, whichever is later, may result in a 10% IRS penalty tax. All investing involves risk including loss of principal.

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BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

One of the first questions I ask new clients: How are you motivated?

This results in one of two things – either an outpouring of information that may or may not be apologetic – or – a slightly blank stare often followed by an “I don’t know.” Asking you, dear reader: how are you motivated?

- meeting deadlines?

- mentoring?

- coming up with creative ideas?

- leading a team?

- solving a difficult problem?

WHAT IS IT EVEN?

This isn’t an exhaustive list, of course! Just a jumping-off point. Now on to personal goals – are you motivated by…

- money?

- status?

- opinions of others?

- material items?

- accolades?

- respect?

First of all, you have to understand what motivation is: simply put, it’s the drive to achieve your goals or meet your needs. It’s affected by how much you want it, what you will gain, and what your expectations are. It’s safe to say that something you don’t want very much and yields a small amount of personal gain will also be lacking some of your motivation.

Take some time and think about what gets you working on things that you want to accomplish. Now, while this can vary between career and personal goals – it can also vary with goals! You might be motivated at work by money as well as by leading a team or solving difficult problems. Understanding what motivates you is key to getting motivated.

WHAT GETS YOU MOTIVATED?

BUT I DON’T KNOW!

Now if you’re like any one of my clients, you might be floundering. It’s ok! Let’s work on finding – and activating – that motivation together.

Motivation is also a funny thing: everyone is motivated by something different! Take a moment and think about what gets you going to accomplish a goal? This can change whether you’re thinking about a goal that is focused on your career or personal life. This starts with a career goal – are you motivated by…

- money?

- titles?

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It’s ok if you don’t know what motivates you! If taking time thinking about what gets you working on things didn’t work, try this: the last time you accomplished something, what kept you trying even when the time got tough? For me, sometimes getting it done – not perfect, just done! – motivates me to make it happen. I don’t love leaving things unfinished. Sit with that reflection for a while, and see what comes up.

BUT WHAT NOW? Once you understand a bit more about what motivates you – how do you NOW apply this to your goal? Deep breath – it’s easier than it sounds! Look at your goal and make sure it is specific, achievable, and timely. Now, think about how this goal fits in your life – how can you incorporate it into your every day? How can you break it down into smaller tasks? How can you get your family and friends to support you?

Now that you have that little goal setting 101 done – how do you let your motivations push your goals to a place of success? Simple: think about your why.

Why do you want to accomplish that goal – and how does this fit into that time when things got tough and you kept going?

Channel that into your goals and let it guide you to success.

A CAUTION One quick word of caution before you run and accomplish all the things – when your motivation is internal instead of external, you’ll reach success more often.

Examples of external motivation can be what other people think, how they feel, status – things that live outside of your control. When things are outside of your control, then, frankly, you can’t make it happen, it depends more on other people! (Whom you can’t control.)

Finding internal motivation is key to a high level of success in goals!

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How Running Transcends Poverty Around the Globe

Fleet Feet and New Balance Winston-Salem owners Emily and Keith Davis have had a heart for the children of Kenya since their first mission trip in 2014. Over the past seven years, they have invested in them, both financially and emotionally. Living in third world poverty is hard to imagine unless you have seen it with your own eyes; it is something that many Americans will never experience. When Boston Marathon champion Wesley Korir was introduced to Emily and Keith through mutual friends, they discovered another opportunity to pour their love into Kenya.

Wesley grew up in a family of eight siblings, in a mud home in rural Kenya. Access to food was a special privilege and meals in his home were not consistent. In Kenya, high school is only for the students that can afford to pay school fees. Wesley’s family did not have the resources to cover his school fees, but a priest, also a teacher at the high school, stepped in to change Wesley’s life...and change his life it did. Following high school in Kenya, Wesley went on to run for the University of Louisville, win the Boston Marathon, the LA Marathon, and eventually won a position in parliament in Kenya. He has used his education and financial resources to give back to his family, his community, and his country. His list of philanthropic accomplishments for Kenya are lengthy and he continues to help students, one by one, overcome the prison of poverty.

In partnership with his wife Tarah, Wesley created the Transcend Running Academy. This program offers the most talented high school runners of Kenya a chance to finish high school and have a chance to work toward a US college running scholarship. Wesley and his wife have covered the cost of high school for over 300 students and currently have 11 students placed on US scholarships.

“If it wasn’t for this one person, this one priest that saw the potential in me, my life would be completely different. This one priest changed my life. Through Transcend, our goal is to change the lives of Kenyan youth, one child at a time,” says Wesley Korir.

Emily and Keith Davis are taking their passion for running and Kenya and merging the two to help additional children escape from poverty and have a chance to use their running talent to access a world-class education in the USA, and eventually give back to their country in return.

In January, Emily will head to Kenya to break ground on a new school building for the Transcend Running Academy.

The ultimate goal is to raise $150,000 to complete a new school, student dorms, and track. The first phase, beginning in January 2022, requires $50,000.

For more information about this project please visit www. fleetfeetws.com/transcend or download Wesley Korir’s amazing documentary Transcend on iTunes. All donations for this effort can be made through www.handupafrica.org, a local charity that is collecting funds for this project.

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Their outpouring of love for those in need is reflected in their shoe charity, Mission: Feet First, and in their efforts to support the children of Kenya.

How to Advocate for Yourself in your Job as a Woman

I often find myself sitting and thinking about what life would have been like for me as a woman fifty years ago and I cringe. As a working woman, a mother, a wife, I often struggle with being thankful for all the opportunities I have, versus being angry that I am conditioned to feel thankful for common things like working outside of the home, voting, the right to own a home.

With several degrees under my belt and a career in higher education, moving up the ladder has always been a goal. I work hard, volunteer for extra things to prove myself and put in extra hours to show my dedication. But this got me thinking, why have I been passed over for that promotion? The raise? The new cushy office with a view?

Sometimes I feel like I am screaming, “Look at me! I’m worthy!” To only get a nod, pat on the back, and a stack of more work to do.

All while watching someone else get the job I coveted and tried so hard to prove I deserved.

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I realized I needed to learn how to advocate for myself.

To speak on what I need. What I want. What my goals are.

Speaking with other women, I realized I’m not alone in this struggle.

Crystal Grant, a successful nurse anesthesiologist in Winston-Salem, best-selling author and business owner, has struggled with similar realizations within her career. Working long hours, getting passed over for pay raises because it just wasn’t in the budget when her male counterparts received them, quickly learned that in order to be successful as a woman, we must ask for what we need.

It seems simple but it isn’t always. We often feel that by just doing, the opportunities will fall into our laps. This couldn’t be more incorrect. Does it happen? Sure! But odds are we need to use our voices and communicate.

First, you must know exactly what you want. More money?

Better hours? More vacation? Don’t go in blindly and let the company decide for you. Do your research, present what you bring to the table and how you have benefited the company. I recommend keeping a log of all your accomplishments because when it comes time, there is nothing wrong with highlighting all you have done and being proud of your work.

You must also be prepared for the company to say no to your request. It happens. It stinks but if they say no, what is your backup plan? Resigning? Stepping down or staying with the company? If you decide to stay with them after they tell you no, planning an exit strategy to leave within the next 3-6 months would be ideal.

Otherwise, if you stay, they will forever take advantage of you, perpetuating the vicious cycle.

Crystal experienced this working for an anesthesia group.

When trying to advocate for herself her requests were declined. She saw this as an opportunity to really go after what she wanted and decided to go to work for herself and from the beginning always state what she needed.

Now, she is happier with a strong work life balance, higher pay and overall, less stress.

It isn’t always easy asking for what we need, especially as women. We shouldn’t feel the need to apologize for having children and needing to leave to get them from school instead of putting in extra hours to prove our worth. Or take less pay to be given an opportunity that we deserve for a much higher rate. We are worth the money. The time. The consideration.

Our success should not be contingent on how others view our worth as women, and what they feel we should accept and be thankful for.

Today, let’s be thankful for our strength and perseverance as women to advocate for ourselves. The right to finally have equal pay and job opportunities that we choose and not just settle for. Let’s be thankful for all that we are and all that we will be for our future selves, for all other women.

Let’s pave the way for amazing things.

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How to Know When it’s Time for a Change

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I recently spent $7.49 on a new mouse that arrived jam-packed with a life lesson. Who knew? Here’s the thing: when there isn’t a coffee mug, a tumbler of water, or a Happy Hour glass of wine in my right hand, my mouse is most likely nestled comfortably in my palm. That small but mighty device is an extension of my appendage, so why didn’t I notice when it started wearing out by acting out in odd ways?

I couldn’t grab a line to copy and paste or close a document in fewer than four attempts. Frustrated, I changed the battery and carried on with zero improvement in performance. When my eureka moment finally arrived, I replaced the dang thing and then this happened: First, I realized that my old mouse had been deteriorating for a loooong time. And second, I recognized that my tendency to over-adapt and to “make do” was playing out click by frustrating click. I’m generally good at recognizing when a big change will serve me, but it’s the smaller ones that trip me up.

Everyone has their own way of working with the changes that they initiate, and for many, knowing when it’s time to start something, end something, replace something, or simply add something new into the mix can be the hardest part.

IT MAY BE TIME FOR A CHANGE WHEN… You feel like a victim. You don’t like to admit that you’re feeling “victimized” by life, fate, others, whatever. But when you do, pay attention. That feeling may be a significant call to action.

You start asking, “Don’t I deserve better?” or “Is this the best I can do?” No one wants to live in this space. You doubt yourself and feel a loss of agency over your own life.

You notice that your spark is in sputter mode. Whether it’s your marriage, your job, or that volunteer activity you were so keen about, your passion for it and perhaps your commitment to it, have waned.

Because you have experienced “better,” you know the current reality pales in comparison. The change you make doesn’t have to be an either/or; the change may simply be a matter of making some adjustments.

You realize that you are overreacting to small things.

Setbacks, workarounds, niggling little details that hardly mattered before have become a major source of annoyance. That often means that whatever it is, it is no longer serving you.

You overcompensate and constantly try to make do.

This behavior can be exhausting as well as extremely frustrating… just as it was with my mouse.

I realized that I had developed a love/hate relationship with it!

You are stuck on the way things used to be. You find yourself lamenting the good old days and replaying old tapes. Your thinking is repetitive and unproductive because it only makes you feel worse.

TIPS ON HOW TO MAKE THAT CHANGE Okay, so this is another article, for sure, but consider the following three tips a bridge from understanding that you need to make a change to actually taking the steps to do so: Understand your resistance. Take some time to ask yourself what is holding you back instead of moving forward.

Remember that you have a choice. More often than not, you have more choices than you may realize. Instead of automatically resisting that idea as “Pollyanna,” sit with it and see what happens.

Explore what you have to gain. Talk about an energizer!

When you start to look at the possibility, deciding to change becomes so much easier.

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Second Time’s the Charm

LESSONS I LEARNED FROM MARRIAGE THE SECOND TIME AROUND

BY KAREN COOPER

To my younger friends I always say…”the most important decision you will make in your life is deciding who to marry.” This is a lesson I learned the hard way because no one ever told me how careful I should be.

The first time around, I married because…it was time, everyone else was doing it, I was sure I could fix whatever was wrong with the relationship, and well, my clock was ticking. I have two amazing children from that marriage so I will never really regret it, but it wasn’t a very smart choice. I stayed for almost ten years in a bad situation because I thought it was the marriage I deserved and because I was afraid to fail.

Fast forward to the present day and I am married to my second husband. The one who dropped into my complicated, single mom life out of the sky when I had given up on love. THIS is my true love marriage, my second chance marriage. The marriage I always dreamed about but never thought I would have. We’ve been together for seven years and married for almost four. Of course, it isn’t perfect, but it’s really good.

Being married again has taught me some things I didn’t know before… important things that are good for everyone to remember:

YOU DESERVE A PARTNER WHO LOVES THE REAL YOU “I like you, very much, just as you are.”

These are the words the dashing Mark Darcy says to Bridget Jones in the movie Bridget Jones’ Diary. It surprises her that someone could feel this way about her because her spirit has been crushed by love.

Nonetheless, this is what we all deserve… to be loved and appreciated for exactly who we are, because trying to be anyone else is way too exhausting.

TRUST AND INHERENT GOODNESS GOES A LONG WAY What I learned from my first marriage…you cannot fix the broken parts of other people.

If the person you choose to share your life with is not honest and good at the core, you will know it very quickly and though you may try to fix it or ignore it, it will always be the elephant in the room. Listen to your gut and jump ship early if you think things aren’t right. My second marriage has taught me what it’s like to live with someone who is indeed good at their core.

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HUMBLE, HONEST COMMUNICATION IS CRITICAL It’s easy to disagree and not communicate about the tough topics.

It’s much harder to eat humble pie and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Staying humble is a lesson I’m learning over and over and over again in my second marriage. We remind each other to come back to this place of humility when things get heated. It lays the groundwork for productive discussion.

It allows your heart to stay open.

With humility, communication, and compromise, you can solve almost any problem. I am so grateful for this lesson.

UNDERSTANDING HOW EACH OTHER NEEDS TO BE TAKEN CARE OF WILL GET YOU TO THE FINISH LINE TOGETHER There’s a book by author Gary Chapman called “The Five Love Languages.” In it, the author explains how different people show and respond to love in different ways. If you can learn to understand your own and your partner’s Love Languages, you can figure out how to best meet each other’s needs. This time around, I’ve learned a whole new way to show love and receive love and, most of all, to be my authentic self in the process. This lesson of learning how to love and be loved is something you can only do with a person you can be completely vulnerable with and who you know you can trust.

Some people are fortunate enough to meet their lifelong companion early on and stay happy and in love for their whole lives. For others, the road is rockier and it can be more complicated. No relationship is perfect, but if you value and respect each other, your relationship can be a great success story because you put in the work to succeed together.

Everyone deserves true love, everyone learns lessons along the way, and at one time or another, we all rely on second chances.

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Changing the Way We Eat: The Lasting Impact of Canned Food

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Canned food – it’s a common staple in grocery stores, food drives, and homes. While this item is regularly easy to find, there was once a time when canned food wasn’t around. This past school year, I took part in a committee that had to create a list of the top 20 most influential moments in history with a lasting impact. Trust me; this wasn’t an easy task to do. One of the members suggested the creation of canned food.

After doing some brainstorming and research, we realized that this invention has a lasting impact. Think about it – before even plastic pouches of frozen food were around, canned food was the only option to store uncooked food for a period of time.

Canned food dates back to the late 1700s and early 1800s. In 1795, France was involved in fighting with Italy, the Netherlands, Germany, and the Caribbean, and they needed a new way to preserve food for their military. The government created a competition for a new invention to accomplish their goal. Chef Nicolas Appert began experimenting with the idea of packaging food in champagne bottles, sealed with an airtight mixture of cheese and lime. Soon the champagne bottles changed to glass containers, and in 1803 his preserved foods of vegetables, fruits, meat, dairy, and fish were put to the test by France’s navy. A year later, Appert’s factory tried storing meat in tin cans. Appert was officially awarded the competition’s prize in 1807 and published his findings in The Art of Preserving for Several Years, all Animal and Vegetable Substances.

Throughout the years, people and companies have altered and perfected Appert’s method.

In 1810, Peter Durand of England was granted a patent by King George III for tin-coated cans.

Durand was on a mission to challenge Appert and wanted to include the ability to preserve food in not only tin cans and glasses, but also in pottery, metals, and other materials.

Inventors Bryan Donkin and John Hall used Durand’s patent and conclusions to create the first commercial canning factory in 1812. Located in England, the factory used tinplate cans and a year later, the tins were used by the British army and navy. Since then, canned food has changed not just military life, but civilian life as well.

It wasn’t until 1825 when Thomas Kensett and Ezra Daggert started selling their patented cans to New Yorkers. However, canned food didn’t catch on until 1856 with Gail Bordon’s invention of condensed milk. The Civil War then pushed the need for canned food and condensed milk further and into more homes, and the rest is history.

FAST FACTS ABOUT CANNED FOODS: • Early cans were opened by a hammer, chisel, or knife until the invention of the can opener in 1860 by Ezra J. Warner.

Although Warner’s design was useful, it was also large and only used by the military and shop clerks. In 1920, a commercially home-friendly can opener was created.

• The Hormel Company first sold canned ham in 1926.

• Soft drinks were canned beginning in 1940.

• Aluminum was added to metal cans in 1957. A few years later, aluminum beverage cans began appearing in stores. By 1985, aluminum cans were taking over the beverage market.

• Almost 200 billion canned foods are produced each year globally.

• Research done by USA Today in 2020 found that 98% of Americans keep canned food in their kitchen and 86% of parents use them at least once a week.

• Also, per the data, the top three most sold canned items in 2018 were soup, tuna, and complete meals, such as spaghetti and meatballs. Corn is the most popular vegetable, with tomatoes and green beans following closely behind.

• Nearly 100 million pounds of Spam were eaten by the Allied troops during World War II. Today, almost 44,000 cans are produced every hour by Hormel.

There are pros and cons to consuming canned food. However, you can’t deny the lasting impact this food has had on our global society. As we venture into the future, we can only wonder what new improvements and techniques will be made to this everyday essential.

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BY KRISTY DODD

From the time I was a child growing up in Michigan, I have always had a love for butterflies. My father majored in entomology in college, and from an early age, he had my sister and me chasing butterflies with our butterfly nets. I became more fascinated with the butterflies, especially monarch butterflies when my family moved to Florida, and we had a plant called milkweed growing in our yard.

I noticed that the monarchs were laying eggs on my plants, which quickly hatched into tiny and very hungry little caterpillars! I learned that milkweed is what is called a host plant. It is the only plant the little caterpillars will eat. They are very picky eaters! The more I learned about these beautiful butterflies, the more I became addicted to their fascinating life cycle. Within about a month, the caterpillars go through a truly amazing metamorphosis, starting from a tiny egg the size of a period and culminating in the release from their chrysalis, a beautiful orange and black monarch butterfly!

Monarchs are one of the only butterflies that migrate to Mexico in the winter, where they are protected from the cold. They gather by the thousands on an estimated 12 mountain tops in Mexico, where they are protected by the branches of oyamel fir trees. When warmer weather comes, the

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monarchs begin their long journey into parts of the US. It takes about four generations for the butterflies to reach Florida and the Midwest states. Dining on nectar from plants along the way, the first generation goes a short distance, rests to lay eggs and the next generation that hatches from those eggs flies a little further until they arrive at their destinations. They often arrive in the same place where their great great great grandparents visited the year before! How they know where to fly is still a mystery!

After a few months when the weather again begins to cool, the next generation of monarchs to hatch are called Super Monarchs. These monarchs are larger and stronger, and this generation flies all the way back to Mexico to spend the winter, beginning the cycle again.

I hope by now you are beginning to be as fascinated by the monarchs as I have become! At the time there were many monarchs in our yard in Florida, but with further research, I soon learned that the monarchs were experiencing an 80%to 90% decline in their numbers from 1.2 million 20 years ago to an estimated 30,000 currently. The US Fish and Wildlife Service may soon decide if the butterflies should be officially designated “Endangered.”

There are many reasons for their decline.

Extreme weather due to climate change has allowed freezing weather in Mexico to freeze the butterflies as they huddle together in the fir trees. Large swaths of prairie in the US that support the milkweed the caterpillars need to survive have been wiped out by development and have been re-appropriated for farming. Over that time, we’ve lost over 150 million acres of monarch habitat. Patches of milkweed that used to grow in fields and roadsides are gone due to genetically modified crops that are sprayed with herbicides that allow crops to grow but kill the milkweed that the monarchs need.

Also gone are the nectar-producing flowers the adult butterflies need to sustain them on their journey.

Now you might realize why I entitled this article “Let’s Bring Back the Monarchs!”

These beautiful butterflies cannot depend on farmers and developers for their survival.

They must rely on people that love plants and all they bring to our environment. Who better to help restore butterfly populations than gardeners like us! Milkweed is readily available in nurseries, so be sure to plant a patch of milkweed in your garden! Share the news about these beautiful butterflies with friends and neighbors so that they will survive to thrill generations to come!

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Benefits Beyond the Beach Head to the Seaside this Summer or Fall for Health and Healing

BY SUSAN B. B. SCHABACKER

Summer may be the most popular time for the beach-bound, but fall can be an even better time to head on over. The sun is not as scorching and vacationers aren’t flocking in droves. Don’t leave your swimsuit, sunnies, and sunscreen behind, though. Pack a cooler full of ice, drinks, and a picnic meal, or grab a take-out and spread out those beach towels. If you’re solo, entertain yourself with readables or music, and keep connected with a vid chat. Spin slowly in a circle to share a 360 view of the seaside scenery.

But, there are more benefits of going to the beach than just enjoying the experience. If you’ve been needing some R & R, it’s an ideal opportunity to focus on your health and healing.

In addition to the surf, soothing ocean waves and sea salt with antiseptic properties of sodium and iodine, the sun, sand, and even seashells can be therapeutic.

Since ancient times, humans have valued the ocean’s transformational healing properties. It’s not just beneficial to our physical health; the ocean also offers calming, restorative, and meditative benefits that can aid our mental and emotional wellbeing. Studies have concluded that those living in coastal areas have experienced better health than the landlocked. And, in marketing research and the psychology of color, blue can be therapeutic and is associated with tranquility, depth, and wisdom.

SWIMMERS REJOICE! Immerse yourself in mineral-rich water that can boost your immune system, ward off bacteria and pathogens, and detoxify and nourish your skin. Saltwater can help reduce swelling and redness of skin irritations, draws impurities from the skin and absorbs minerals. Ideal for those with arthritis, ocean water can reduce inflammation and improve joint pain.

BYE-BYE BLUES! The blue hues of rhythmically soothing ocean waves embrace our eyes and ears, providing benefits to mental health.

Reduce stress, alleviate anxiety, and banish the blues of depression as you mindfully boost your mood. Can’t get to the ocean? You can still benefit from color therapy, thalassotherapy with sea products, and just by listening to ocean waves.

SWEETER SLEEP! While many factors can negatively inhibit sleep, seawater is working in our favor. In addition to soothing the senses, the ocean water normalizes blood pressure, improves oxygen levels, and balances serotonin levels. And, other beach-side elements in nature like sunshine, fresh air, and soft sand can complement your circadian rhythm, so you won’t be counting sheep all night.

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SUNNYSIDE UP! Natural exposure to sunlight can brighten your day and put you in a sunnier mood, stimulating endorphins. A main source of Vitamin D, the sun’s rays can give you a daily dosage of D3 with many benefits, including heart health, protection of bones and muscles, and immune system support. But don’t overdo your sun exposure (best to limit to 10-30 minutes a day) and wear sun protection afterward to reduce your risk of sun damage and skin cancer.

SAND IT UP! Get gorgeously glowing and slough off those dead skin cells with the sand at the beach, a natural exfoliant that can improve your skin’s condition. Other benefits of exfoliating? Increase circulation, stimulate lymphatic system, and speed up healing and fading of scars. Want to benefit from an exfoliating scrub when you’re not at the beach, too? Combine sand or sea salt with your facial cleanser, body wash, or a plant-based oil (e.g., coconut, olive, or avocado oil). And there’s no other feeling quite like walking (and dancing) barefoot on the beach. Wonder why? With between 3,000 and 7,000 nerve endings in our feet, stepping into the soft sand can be a luxuriating experience.

SEASHELL IT UP! Not just beautiful mementos to decorate with, seashells can help you de-stress and be tactically therapeutic, just mindfully touching and holding them. Crushed seashells also serve many healthful and helpful purposes: wastewater cleaning, air purifying, construction material, fertilizer for soil, and calcium supplement for birds. And, of course, there are always creative ways to wear and decorate with seashells.

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Meet Bridgette Kelley

BY AMY HILL

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In 2017, Bridgette was performing a shoulder press exercise when someone bumped into her, tearing her rotator cuff and sending her on a road to recovery. She received adjustments, stem cell, and laser cell therapies at a chiropractic clinic, but decided to take matters into her own hands before seeking physical therapy. By conducting her own research on rehabilitation and using a trial and error method to figure out what worked for her body, she intensely focused on resistance and strength training in order to gradually heal from her injury. Soon enough, she was able to lift heavier than she could lift before her injury, leading her to consider pursuing a career in personal training specializing in rehabilitation.

Winston-Salem native Bridgette Kelley has found her purpose in life by combining her passion for helping others with her knack for all things fitness. In August 2020, Bridgette transitioned from working as a certified nursing assistant to earning her current role as a personal trainer at Phenom Fitness in Clemmons. As a member of Phenom Fitness myself, I immediately noticed Bridgette’s natural ability to simultaneously make her clients feel at ease while making sure they break a sweat. Her clients always leave the gym with a smile and are eager to return for their next training session.

Having a love for sports, Bridgette played soccer for 13 years and was accustomed to staying active. After working as a CNA and caring for geriatric patients, Bridgette began to realize that the emotional stress of her profession was beginning to take a physical toll on her body and weight.

When she mustered up the energy to start refocusing on her fitness, she taught herself how to lift weights properly through her own research and whipped herself back into shape. Others around her also noticed her progress and began asking her for help in reaching their fitness goals, allowing her to dip her toes into the personal training water for the first time.

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Although Bridgette initially planned on attending nursing school, she became more passionate about personal training as she gained more knowledge about the body and experience in healing her injury. After living and working in Raleigh for two years, she took a leap of faith, quit her job as a CNA, and set out to become a full-time personal trainer. The knowledge she gained by researching fitness on her own set an excellent foundation for her to begin training others. When one of her friends encouraged her to reach out to local gym owners in Clemmons to jump start her career, Bridgette took the initiative and expressed her interest. They were so impressed with Bridgette’s drive and knowledge that they hired her on the spot after her first interview. In less than one month of training, she had accumulated up to 15 clients and found that her new role was a perfect fit.

What Bridgette finds most rewarding about her role as a personal trainer is hearing her clients say that they not only look better, but feel better as well. Knowing that her clients are able to walk up stairs without pain or feeling sore, in addition to improving their overall quality of life, inspires her to keep learning and keep training. In the future, Bridgette aspires to one day open a gym of her own.

Her dream is to create an environment where clients feel confident and comfortable in their own skin while working hard to reach their goals.

A woman after my own heart, Bridgette loves travel and fell in love with the Italians’ healthy lifestyles during her many trips to Rome, Italy, to visit family. Between all the pasta and red wine, one of her favorite Italian meals was prepared by her great aunt and consisted of fresh tomatoes and mozzarella, drizzled with olive oil and a touch of salt. Inspired by her great uncle, she hopes to fulfill her childhood dream of exploring Egypt on her next international adventure.

When she’s not training at Phenom Fitness or wandering the canals of Venice, Bridgette enjoys visiting her friends, post-workout massages and spa visits. To learn more about Bridgette’s personal training and follow along with her fitness journey, check her out on Instagram at @bkelleyfit.

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“That House”: A Lesson in Letting Go

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I once had a love affair with a house. She was both lovely and tattered, well-worn with the soul and spirit that comes with time.

We put that house on the market and quickly moved on. In the flurry of activity that followed, I thought I was over her but soon realized that those four walls had a long-term hold on me, much like the memory of a first love. In truth, it still had my heart.

I was profoundly “attached.”

ATTACHED - WHO, ME? Charles A. Francis, Director of the Mindfulness Meditation Institute explains attachment as “Mental and emotional fixation on something we think we need or want. We get attached to things like people, views, outcomes, or material possessions. The reason we get attached to them is that we’re afraid we’ll lose them, and therefore, we’ll be unhappy, or we may even think we won’t survive.”

I loved that house, yes, but on a deeper level, I loved who I was when I was there. Maybe I was afraid of losing a sense of myself that I couldn’t recreate.

IT’S HARD TO LET GO That thinking didn’t help me to get over her. There are many reasons why we hold on for dear life when letting go is the healthier response. There is the fear of loss and of the unknown, especially when it comes to our relationships. Or, we think that holding on is a sign of strength or an integral part of our identity. Or, maybe we hold on out of force of habit. Mr. Francis reminds us that, “We often believe that if we get all the material things and circumstances just right, then we’ll be happy. So, we try to manipulate people and circumstances in order to get them the way we want.” That was certainly true of my attachment to that house.

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LEARNING HOW TO LET GO • Accept and be grateful. Life is filled with endings. Resisting them and clinging to the past or to what can no longer be only prolongs stress and unhappiness. I eventually accepted that my love affair with that house needed to end. I learned to cherish the memories instead of longing to go backwards in time. I became grateful for the experience as well as for reminding me in a profound way that all things are subject to change. All things.

• Own your decision to let go. I used to think that I left a part of myself there, in that house. But when I finally committed to letting go, my thinking shifted. I replaced that sad thought with the idea that I brought a part of that house with me, forever. I transformed that loss into a personal gain.

• Focus on what you control. We humans spend a lot of time lamenting what isn’t or what can no longer be. We want things to stay the same – our relationships, our job, our neighborhood, our physical bodies – you name it. We don’t take kindly to change that is outside of our control. By shifting all of that energy to our own thoughts and actions, we have a much better chance at contentment!

• Have a little faith. Call it what you will, but it’s the belief that on the other side of letting go, you will be just fine.

I’ve lived in three houses since moving on from that first love. And while I may occasionally look back wistfully, I focus on how that house blessed me, and trust that I did the same for her.

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Town & Country Estates “Creates a Space” to Celebrate their Community

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Oftentimes when a person drives down a road they’ve traveled multiple times, some things start to blend in. You have memorized the houses, sidewalks, and other neighborhood features, only to take note of the road signs. So, when something new is built, you pay attention, and your curiosity is piqued. This is exactly what happened to me as I drove through the Town and Country Estates neighborhood in Winston-Salem.

Located off Reynolda Road, Town and Country Estates have recently turned their two old tennis courts into 70 colorful spaces. Neighbors purchased a space and transformed it into a unique design. The idea for “Create a Space” was born out of the need to revitalize the tennis courts next to the neighborhood pool.

“The tennis courts were part of the original Recreation Center along with an outdoor basketball court and pool. The tennis courts have not been maintained and slowly declined, creating an eyesore. They haven’t been used as “tennis courts” in several years,” stated Lauren Sorel, President of the Town and Country Neighborhood Association.

Instead, the two tennis courts have been used for many other activities, such as kids riding their bikes, drawing with chalk, and playing kickball. Throughout the years, the Town and Country Neighborhood Association and T&C Pool Board questioned what to do with the space and if the area should be refurbished or removed.

“We needed an activity that was somewhat affordable for the neighborhood association, but would still make the area more welcoming and playful.”

“Create a Space” came from brainstorming sessions with neighbors Courtney Eklund and Lauren Sorel.

Soon spaces became available for sale, the tennis courts were primed, and word got around about what was being done with the spots.

“We also had a DJ, bake sale, and Kona Ice serving shaved ice. We sold all 70 spaces, and people are painting them as their schedule allows. Some spots are artistic, some spots are more functional, but each one is different. Some families let their children decorate the square, and others took a more planned approach. There is a wide variety, which reflects the neighborhood. After many years of neglect, people are happy to have some changes in this common space, and it is also a way for neighbors to show their creativity.”

Once done, neighbors can enjoy the designs, as well as participate in a few interactive spaces. Games and hopscotch have been included in various spaces.

Looking ahead, more community plans and projects are in the works for the Recreation Center.

“The hope is that we can continue to build upon the area, use it for more neighborhood events. Since beginning the project, there is already more use just during pool breaks. Kids come and look at all the spots and play the games. There are ongoing conversations about how to make the pool and common space around it more inviting. The tennis courts are largely done for now, but there is excitement about other ways we could make the pool grounds more usable and attractive.”

Part of this discussion includes turning the second tennis court into a pickleball court, but sponsorships are needed before anything occurs.

The “Create a Space” project exemplifies the value and importance of a community. According to Sorel, her favorite part of the activity was “seeing the community come together, have fun, and make new connections.”

“Initially, people were intrigued, but not entirely on board. As with any new idea, it took a moment to take on. But after we primed the courts and people started painting, people got excited and involved.”

“At the very least, it is a conversation starter, and people feel a sense of involvement in their space that translates into increased engagement with other aspects of the neighborhood. A community project can be daunting and consume a lot of donated time, but completing the task and seeing the joy it brings is well worth the effort spent.”

Excitement about the project continued to grow after a community event was held on June 11th for spot owners to paint, share supplies and ideas.

If you are looking for a community project for your neighborhood, “Create a Space” may be the perfect one for you.

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Revenge Bedtime Procrastination

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Picture this: you’ve had an incredibly busy day. One of those days if you ate lunch, you ate lunch while you were working or multitasking in some other way. It was one thing after another from the first thing (which, by the way, was too early) to the end of the day – and it wasn’t even all work! You bounced from one scheduled (or unscheduled) thing to another, and now it’s the end of the day, you should be headed off to sleep…but you’re not.

You’re taking time for yourself! That’s the best thing, right? So you turn on a movie, hang out with friends, scroll on your phone – anything but get a good night’s sleep. And instead of going to bed at a time that would allow you to get enough sleep to be rested for your tomorrow, you stay up way too late reclaiming that time you didn’t have during the day.

A few years ago I would have said, “Oh, this is just what I do!” As an often-overscheduled human that has a lack of free time, I find myself snagging the late-night hours for my own – no matter that it often starts a chain reaction of me not having enough sleep during the week. Now I know there is a name for this behavior: revenge bedtime procrastination.

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According to psychologists, revenge bedtime procrastination refers to the decision to sacrifice sleep for leisure time – often due to an overscheduled daytime that lacks free time.

You see the problem, right? By choosing to get your free time at night – no matter what – you get insufficient sleep and sleep deprivation. And I’m not sure about you, but when I’m sleep deprived, I am a cranky mess of a human that doesn’t work and play well with others – including myself.

Basically, you can assess revenge bedtime procrastination in three ways: • Are you staying up in a way that results in less sleep? IE: you have to get up early.

• Do you have a reason for staying up late? Like, is there a going away party, a birthday, an event, or are you not feeling well?

• Are you aware that staying up late might end in you being exhausted tomorrow? (this is my worst one – I’m fully aware that staying up will lead to a terrible tomorrow.)

If you have these – welcome to the club – the club that affects mostly women and students.

Now, if you’re reading this and thinking “Oh, no” don’t worry – I’ll never introduce a concept I don’t have some support for! Here are some ways to combat revenge bedtime procrastination: • Routines! This one is tough – even on off days, you should try to get up and go to bed around the same time. Your routine isn’t just about timing – it’s also about relaxation methods. Do you read or meditate before bed? One of the best parts of my bedtime routine is reading a great thriller.

• Avoid alcohol or caffeine after a certain time. This will help you stay on that routine – if you’re struggling to fall asleep because of one too many late-night coffees – or drinks, which can keep you awake! – you’re going to get irritated and the revenge part might kick in where you start forcing yourself to stay awake to do something that doesn’t need to be done.

• Don’t bring your phone to bed. I know, I know – this is a struggle! But that light – from phones and tablets – isn’t doing you any favors in the sweet dream department.

And above all, start slow! If you know you do this, maybe skip the phone in bed for a few nights, or stop having that late-afternoon latte. Make your bedroom a peaceful, snuggly place so you can get the sleep you deserve.

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Project Patience:

How to Handle the In Between Stages of a Home Project

BY TARYN JEREZ

As a society entertained by reality television and DIY networks, we live for the before and after! But how many of us are guilty of fast forwarding to see to the beautiful perfection at the end sometimes?

In reality, your own transformative projects take time or money - and often a far larger amount of both than what you first imagined.

Whether you are working on a small project like redecorating a half bath or taking on something a little more HGTV, like hiring a team to remodel a kitchen, chances are that the anticipation of seeing the end results is even higher than watching one on TV. So, how do you handle the in-between stages that are leaving you feeling a little impatient and sometimes even downright discouraged?

Here are a few tips on how to make the process as painless as possible and find joy in the waiting!

SET *LOOSE* EXPECTATIONS Before you get to the point where obscenities are being mumbled under your breath each time you pass by your half painted guest room, create a framework for your project. Regardless of whether or not you are doing the work yourself or have hired a contractor, having a plan in place will help set expectations and help you feel more in control. How long do you have to complete the project?

What is the overall budget? Are you planning to purchase all the needs up front or do you need to space things out? Is there a firm deadline or grace period of when you’d like things completed? Knowing what to expect can really make a difference compared to working on something continuously with no end in sight. Create a plan and follow it as closely as you can, being flexible when it calls for it.

CHOOSE WISELY WHAT’S NEXT You may have a laundry list of projects you can’t wait to accomplish but remember to focus first on the ones with the biggest return on investment! Which projects are going to bring your joy or make life easier? As you get started, try to choose which steps

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happen when, in accordance with what can be completed versus sitting unfinished for a lengthy time. If it can be avoided, try not to leave things a mess while a project lays unfinished.Even if time marches on quicker than you’d like, it will feel less daunting if you finish one thing before starting another.

This will help avoid unnecessary stress if you can see a completed progress on some aspects of the project!

IDENTIFY CHANGES IN VISION A funny thing happens when a project is taking time: your vision may evolve. Suddenly those shelves you didn’t get to purchase and install yet don’t quite seem like the best fit anymore. The gallery wall that’s been taking forever to find time to hang, you realize is actually a better fit on the opposite wall above the dresser. Sometimes that inbetween stage is a blessing in disguise allowing your vision to reach its full potential. You may be surprised that the pauses in progress, whether caused by time or budget, are giving you a chance for project evolution to capitalize on the best opportunities for the space.

KEEP YOUR EYE ON THE PRIZE As we said earlier, your own home projects aren’t always going to pan out like a 60 minute episode on HGTV. Projects, especially the ones that excite us, can take anywhere from days to years sometimes to complete. Find ways to stay focused on the “why” behind what you’re working towards.

Home in on what life will look like after the project is done and you and your loved ones can enjoy the fruits of your labor! If you are working for months on a backyard patio, imagine the memories you’re going to make out there with your children or grandkids.

Have a master bathroom you’re remodeling? Think about the self care filled moments you’ll be able to have soaking in your new bathtub! You can even create a vision board and keep it on your refrigerator to remind you of what feels like a total eye sore is actually going to be the most amazing part of the house once it’s complete.

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Celebrating National Hispanic Heritage Month

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

National Hispanic Heritage Month began in 1968, as a weeklong observance recognizing Hispanic culture. The event quickly expanded to a month-long celebration in 1988 by Congress. California Congressman George E. Brown recognized the contributions that the Latinx (also known as Latino) community gained throughout the 1960s, when the Civil Rights movement was at its peak. The congressman, who represented East Los Angeles and a large portion of the San Gabriel Valley—both heavily populated by members of the Hispanic and Latinx communities—recognized the vital role played by those communities throughout American history.

The observance starts officially on September 15th each year and carries on through October 15th. It starts in the middle of the month, rather than the beginning, because that date coincides with the national independence days of multiple Latin American countries. A few of these include Guatemala, Honduras, El Salvador, Nicaragua, and Costa Rica, which all celebrate their independence on Sept. 15th.

This is then followed by Mexico, celebrating theirs on Sept. 16th, Chile on Sept. 18th and finally Belize on Sept 21st. While these countries are specifically located in Latin America, the celebration also recognizes the culture and lifestyle of their neighboring South American countries.

UNDERSTANDING THE TERM “HISPANIC” The term “Hispanic” refers to a person’s culture or origin—regardless of race. In other words, it can reference a person who is from, or a descendant of someone who is from, a Spanish-speaking country. A Latino/a or Latinx refers to a person who is from, or a descendant of someone who is from specifically a country in Latin America.

For example, I am half Peruvian since my mother was born and raised in Peru. However, I had a Caucasian father. Since I identified strongly with my mother’s culture growing up, I labeled myself as “Hispanic” throughout my childhood. (This is despite only being “half” of this race.) On a 2020 Census form, people were counted as Hispanic or Latino or Spanish if they could identify as having Mexican, Mexican American, Chicano, Puerto Rican, Cuban, or “another Hispanic, Latino, or Spanish origin.”

HISPANICS IN THE US According to the article, “Key facts about U.S. Latinos for National Hispanic Heritage Month,” in the United States alone, the Hispanic population has grown exponentially, reaching 60.6 million in 2019. This is up from 50.7 million in 2010. These statistics prove that Hispanics are the nation’s second fastest growing racial or ethnic group after Asian Americans. “Hispanics alone made up 18% of the U.S. population in 2019, up from 16% in 2010 and just 5% in 1970,” the article states. Most incredible is that four out of five Latinos are U.S. citizens, contrary to the popular assumption that many are here illegally.

CELEBRATING THE HISPANIC CULTURE With numbers like these, you can see that this demographic is a great part of the overall culture of the United States. However, there are other reasons why we all should take a moment to celebrate Hispanic culture and its lifestyle. For example, it is ingrained in a great deal of what this nation experiences day to day. If you turn on the radio and enjoy a specific salsa rhythm, we can thank our Latin American countries for this. If you are enjoying a new recipe featuring a particular spice like Aji, you can also thank our Hispanic friends. Hispanics and their culture thrive throughout so many of our communities, again making it vital to recognize, yet also understand, more about their heritage.

EXPLORE AND LEARN This September, explore and learn more about Hispanic culture and the greater Latinx community. During this month, as well as throughout the year, the National Park Service will share the history, heritage, and accomplishments of Hispanic and Latino Americans of past and present on their website. The group will also feature events both in their various parks as well as online featuring information about Hispanic culture. Experience the excitement firsthand by attending the 2021 “Fiesta,” hosted by the Hispanic League of Winston-Salem. This event will be held on September 9th and 10th in downtown Winston-Salem and is free to attendees.

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BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

If you read my articles you already know that I struggle with taking that detour from the tried, true, and planned. Even the peeps in my inner circle have been known to raise an eyebrow at my punctilious attention to time – how I order it and how I use it. Thank you for loving me anyway! But lest I sound defensive, it bears pointing out that there are many scientifically based benefits to having routines – particularly morning routines.

Having a morning routine simply means that you perform the same basic tasks and activities in the same order every day. A well-constructed morning routine can get each day off to a good start. Consider my sister, a hospital social worker who needs to get to work on time, every time. She came up with the clever idea of removing a step from her morning routine by hanging five work outfits in ready-to-go fashion on Sunday night. With that planning done, she’s more prepared and less stressed.

PROVEN BENEFITS Piedmont Healthcare notes that, “According to a study by researchers at Tel Aviv University, predictable, repetitive routines are calming and help reduce anxiety. They’ll also help you take control of your day and subsequently, your life.” Dang, I knew that! The order and predictability are something I know I can count on. And yes, there’s more. With a morning routine, you can reap these psychological and physical benefits: Gain a healthy sense of control Instead of beginning your day in a chaotic rush, a morning routine reinforces that you are in control and have things under control. There is nothing willy-nilly about how you will go about things because you’ve designed a routine that works for you. In my home, for example, our poodle eats first, then the backyard birds and critters, and finally, us. Works for me!

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Set the tone for the day ahead That morning routine also establishes a specific, intentional vibe for the 24-hour cycle ahead. So often, we may feel as if we are at the mercy of everyone and everything around us. In fact, studies show that people generally spend more time thinking about the things they can’t control than those they can. You put the lid on unhelpful thinking when you customize your morning routine and make a conscious choice about how you want to experience your day.

Lower your stress By knowing that you can rely on your routine, you are automatically less stressed out. I always know that my outgoing mail will be in the mailbox each morning because I put it there when we head out for our morning walk. You also might include a brief period of meditation, yoga, or even weeding as part of your morning routine – all activities that will add to the calm, low-stress vibe.

Increase your productivity When you start your day focused, and in sync with the routine you’ve established, you put yourself in a productive mode. You’ve already channeled your energy in valuable ways. Now it’s easier to carry that approach into the rest of your day.

Develop healthy habits There is discipline involved in establishing and sticking with any new routine. When you see that you can do it, and that it’s working, you may be inspired to develop other healthy habits, maybe even incorporating them into your routine. Because your routine is likely saving you some time, you may decide to experiment with adding a healthy habit such as ten minutes of prayer, stretching, or journaling. Who knows where you will go from there!

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ALMOST FAMOUS (2000)

“This song explains why I’m leaving home to become a stewardess.” The words spoken by young William’s (Patrick Fugit) sister before Simon & Garfunkel’s “America” washes over the whole scene. This is a movie I will watch no matter what else is on or how recently I saw it. To me it is a perfect movie, it takes me out of the world and into a glamorous story about rock and roll.

THE HOLIDAY (2006)

Two women Iris (Kate Winslet) & Amanda (Cameron Diaz) with guy-problems swap homes from the English countryside to Los Angeles, where they each meet a local guy and fall in love. It’s a Christmas-themed romantic comedy with two captivating storylines. There are many connections between the characters which makes for some funny misunderstandings. This movie offers great acting and really smart dialogue. This is one that stays with you long after the credits roll.

BACK TO THE FUTURE (1985)

This classic is about a young man, Marty McFly who accidentally travels into the past and inadvertently jeopardizes his own future existence. Small town California teen Marty (Michael J. Fox) is taken back into the ‘50s when an experiment by his eccentric scientist friend Doc Brown (Christopher Lloyd) goes wrong. Stuck in the ‘50s, Marty meets young versions of his parents, and must ensure they fall in love to solidify his future existence. At the same time, he and Doc have to figure out how to get him back to 1985!

DESPERATELY SEEKING SUSAN (1985)

Who can resist a movie with Madonna? She stars with Rosanna Arquette in this classic New York City comedy. Throw in memory loss, a killer on the loose, a love triangle and vintage New York nightlife and this movie will completely draw you in. The ‘80s fashion makes this fantastic time capsule well worth digging up for the nostalgia alone.

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This movie begins with beautiful scenes of Paris, like a slide show…making you long to be there. The story is about a man Gil (Owen Wilson) and his fiancée Inez (Rachel McAdams) vacationing in Paris with her parents. On a late-night walk, Gil happens upon a group of strange carousers, who invite him to join them on their night on the town. To Gil’s amazement, he finds himself in another time with some art and literature icons. The story continues to deepen as Gil experiences more of these strange and wonderful nights.

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Londoner Bridget Jones (Renée Zellweger) is turning 32 and has decided it’s time to take control of her life -- and start keeping a diary. She is relatable in so many ways to young single women learning about life and dealing with the hilarity and the agony of work, exercise, food, sex and especially complicated relationships! Bridget loves a good adventure, and we are along for the ride with her as she moves ahead in her new life.

THE DEVIL WEARS PRADA (2006)

“I’m just one stomach flu away from my goal weight”, says Emily (Emily Blunt), Miranda Priestly’s (Meryl Streep) FIRST assistant until smart, new grad Andy (Anne Hathaway) becomes her competition. Andy is at first an unlikely fit to work for the demanding editor-in-chief of a high fashion magazine who carries the nickname of Dragon Lady, but over time, Andy becomes more interested in her job, in fashion and in meeting the challenges the Dragon Lady throws her way. We watch her transformation and see her emerge as a strong, confident beautiful woman who is ready to conquer the world.

SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE (1991)

This tried and true ’90s romantic comedy about unlikely love that begins through a radio talk show is charming and irresistible. One of many Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks classics, this one will calm you, fill your heart and restore your faith in the power of love.

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When I was about 6 years old, my dad said to me, “One day you will grow up to be tall and look like Wonder Woman. You might even play basketball for NC State!” Growing up in the South, college sports are rooted in your consciousness at a very early age, and I was a Wolfpack girl from the start. Imagine my surprise when I ended up clocking in around 5’4, with blond hair….looking nothing like Wonder Woman and about as athletic as a garden snail. My beautiful mother is tall and statuesque with long brown hair and does look something like Wonder Woman. I can see how a miscalculation was made. I just happened to get the other side of the family’s genes.

Even though I came from a family that loved the NC State Wolfpack, I never played a sport or had much interest in sports. My poor dad… he wanted me to be athletic….but I was having none of it. I couldn’t tell you the difference between a foul and a fumble….but all that was about to change.

After I got married, I found myself blessed with two rambunctious little boys…and a little while later, I found myself holding it all together as a single mom. Our sporting adventures began when the oldest boy turned five. It started with T-ball, then machine-pitch baseball, then we went for basketball, flag football and tried soccer for a season…scored a bunch of goals for the other team with soccer.

All of it was new to me.

Sometimes at the games, I felt like the only mom there. Just me and all the super competitive, baseball cap-wearing dads coaching their five year olds and yelling like crazy for them to run faster, keep their eye on the ball, and come ON! I didn’t really know how to behave in that crowd. I loved it when my kids did something good, but mostly I just wanted them to make friends and have fun. Let’s face it, I was never going to be the team mom. Even so, I could see sports were going to be part of my life for a long time, and since I’d do most

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anything for my kids, I was committed to going to each practice and each game and to cheering them on because they loved it and they deserved my support whether I enjoyed every second of it or not.

As the years went on, I did get more into the sports mom groove. I volunteered to bring snacks, made friends, cheered a lot more and coached my kids on what they could have done better. We played more basketball, baseball, football, tennis and lacrosse. As the boys got older, they started to find their niche. The older one gravitated to lacrosse and the younger one became really great at tennis…even reaching number one in the state at age 9. I went all in as a tennis mom. We traveled around to tournaments, I made sure the kid was well outfitted, accessorized and prepared in every way I could. I cheered for him, coached him and comforted him when he was defeated. Our life revolved around his matches for a few years…and we loved it.

The older kid plays lacrosse in high school and enjoys it, but just as one of his many interests. I’ve been there to cheer him on just like always. This year he’s a senior, and my 12 years of sports with him are about to come to an end. The younger tennis kid has slowed down, too, although we still go to tournaments from time to time. When I was in the thick of it, I couldn’t imagine a day when it would be over…when my boys would not have another sports season coming up! Being a sports mom had become so much a part of my identity!

One thing I’ve learned at this stage of life - now that the boys are practically grown up - is that every moment is precious, even the ones you’re not really enjoying. They do grow up fast, so do your best to spend all the time you can with them. Teach them what it means to be a good teammate. Cheer loudly enough for them so they can hear you! They will never forget it.

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One of the “small but mighty” changes I made when I moved to North Carolina was to start a yoga practice…as in start from scratch. I was looking forward to gaining all of the much-touted benefits of tree pose, butterfly pose, warrior two and standing mountain. Even the language of yoga gave me a wild head rush that I knew would culminate in a heartfelt Namaste. And while I was beyond midlife – technically, that is – I was backed by a lifetime of mostly-healthy habits and sound nutrition. I was confidently “good to go”!

Little did I know how challenged I would be. My peripatetic mind struggled with the “be where you are” foundation while focusing on my breathing was a complete and utter bore. And what happened to all of that flexibility I was sure I still had? Not so much. I quit one studio where I felt like a kindergartener mistakenly placed in senior high.

That experience almost slammed the door on my yoga experience, I admit, but I picked up my wounded pride and tried again, somewhere else. In the next place, two things happened. First, I shifted my expectations of myself.

I understood and accepted that I was a STUDENT who had nothing to prove except my willingness to learn. Second, the folks here felt more like my tribe. Many were older, like me, and clearly moved along at their own pace with a sense of wonder and humor. A great combo, I soon discovered!

Along the way, my reset allowed me to understand that practicing yoga was the perfect analogy for practicing life.

Because isn’t that really what we do? Aren’t we always students, attempting to be and do better in one, more, or many ways? Does anyone, anywhere have it all figured out? To say that I doubt it would be an understatement.

Approaching each new day as a student in life and on the mat means that we show up fresh, eager, open… and then do the best that we can.

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Even with that sound intention, we do trip ourselves up. I have found that how I trip up in life is often how I trip up on the mat…and vice versa. So, a few gentle reminders that I’m now harvesting: • Constantly anticipating what is next gets in the way of what is. As an uber-neurotic planner, I am always relearning this. I now laugh at myself when I assume we will be moving from a full forward fold to a half fold only to hear the instructor guide us into an entirely different configuration. Slow down, Jean Marie, you will get there, wherever “there” is.

• Looking around at everyone else too often and too closely leads to comparison, self-doubt, shame, and sometimes, guilt. While this has never been a big tripping point for me, I realize that feeling vulnerable is a trigger. The point is always my journey, not someone else’s. Truly accepting where I am allows me to appreciate and admire where others are.

• No two experiences are exactly alike. Being able to hold a triangle pose one day doesn’t mean that I will the next. Some days are better than others in terms of what I am able to do and accomplish.

• To “fail” is to learn. There is something magnificent about having the humility, courage and strength to pick oneself up after falling flat on one’s butt. Thank you, yoga!

And guess what? It’s enough. Maybe even more than enough. I still fall out of tree pose and my butterfly pose is always a work in progress!

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Retirement: The Emotional Journey

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

What happened? I thought it would be SO GREAT! What do you mean?

You know. It sounded like the perfect fit, everything I wanted.

And…?

It’s not.

We’ve all been in this conversation, but what are we actually talking about? Is it a new relationship that’s lost its sizzle? Or maybe a long-awaited job that’s already gone sour? It could even be a new house, an exciting relocation. “It” – that which leaves us wondering “What happened?” could even be that chapter we refer to as “your retirement.” So let’s put this into perspective. First, remember that retirement is a major life change. It comes with its own set of emotional experiences, surprises, and hurdles which can catch us off-guard and unprepared.

And yet, sociologist Phyllis Moen notes that people spend more time planning their wedding – typically a one-day affair – than they do the years they spend in retirement.

Ouch! With a better understanding of the emotional journey that accompanies retirement, we can expect and prepare for the road that lies ahead.

AgeWave, a thought leader on issues related to aging, suggests that there are five distinct emotional stages that retirees report experiencing. Other researchers corroborate their findings and describe them in similar ways. So, rather than engaging in the magical thinking that will make you ask, “What happened?” or even “What was I thinking?” consider the self-reported experience of others.

THE FIVE STAGES OF RETIREMENT Stage One: Imagination Don’t most great experiences begin here? Retirement is no different. In the six to fifteen years before retiring, our enthusiasm and excitement begin to grow as we begin to look beyond our working years. At this stage, it is a good idea to start setting some initial goals, such as where we may want to live and how much money we will need in our new lifestyle.

Stage Two: Anticipation This stage occurs in the one to five years before we retire. At this point, we are initially excited and hopeful.

It’s time now to think about the experiences we want to have and how we want to reinvent ourselves when we close the door on our long work life. As the end date nears, it is common for worry and doubt to begin to creep in.

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Stage Three: Liberation

Stage Five: Reconciliation

This stage covers an entire calendar year and lasts only that long. At this point, we are on our honeymoon as excitement and relief from work stress reign supreme. We tend to reach for pleasures and enjoyments that we’ve long waited for.

In this stage, which begins at sixteen years and beyond, we tend to be relatively content, less depressed, and less worried. We are looking at the big picture now and comfortably balancing fun activities with those that bring us a sense of meaning and fulfillment. At the same time, we may also experience sadness as we begin to confront our end-of-life issues.

Stage Four: Reorientation We may find retirement more challenging two to five years into retirement than we anticipated because it isn’t what we imagined it would be in Stage One. We may feel bored, disenchanted, or even depressed as the novelty wears off, and we begin to question our identity and our purpose. By addressing those concerns wholeheartedly, we can successfully reinvent ourselves and create a rewarding new life that gives us a sense of fulfillment.

You might say that we start with the dream, grapple with the reality, and then make peace and find contentment at our journey’s end. In fact, that is exactly what retirees report: 74% of people in the Imagination Stage expect to enjoy their retirement “a great deal.” Sixteen years or so later, 75% are indeed enjoying their retirement “a great deal.” The bottom line: by thoughtfully planning for the practical and emotional journey ahead, people are generally happier in retirement!

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Creativity: The Core of Change IdeasCity Winston-Salem Festival to Bring Community Together to Celebrate Innovation from Within

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From movers and shakers to musicians and makers, Winston-Salem is no stranger to bringing together and providing a platform for ideas and innovation. On Saturday, October 2nd, Bailey Park will be home to the “IdeasCityWS Marketplace of Ideas Festival” hosted by Wake Forest University, New York City’s New Museum, and a plethora of local partners with one purpose: to celebrate the creative ideas leading us out of a pandemic and identifying the synergy that’s here in our amazing community.

New York City’s New Museum launched the IdeasCity concept in 2011 with a Festival which brought together the worlds of art, culture, technology and design to celebrate their essential roles in the vitality of the City. Since that time, New Museum and NEW INC, the first museumled creative incubator in the world, have chosen cities around the globe as IdeasCity host partners. In 2020, Winston-Salem was honored to be chosen as an IdeasCity host joining past sites such as Athens, Detroit, Singapore, Istanbul, New Orleans, Toronto, São Paulo, Shanghai, Arles, and New York City.

The challenge of “How do you keep a community moving forward?” is one that IdeasCityWS has already begun immersing itself in finding the solution.

In early 2020, a diverse working group composed of members of Winston-Salem’s artistic, educational, tech, and design communities, the Mayor’s Office, and entrepreneurs from the local creative economy assembled to imagine an IdeasCityWS year which would highlight Winston-Salem’s distinctive community. In true creative fashion, when the pandemic caused most things to come to a screeching halt, the working group pivoted and began offering virtual events called “Beta Bonfires.” These wildly successful events curated community while fostering innovative thinking through case studies with solutions-based discussions. Each virtual gathering, featuring local creatives paired with New York’s NEW INC creative entrepreneurs, explored subjects such as “Rethinking Norms,” “Workforce Development” and “Scale.” A virtual workshop on “ Developing Ideation Skills For Life After COVID - Imagining a Post-Pandemic Winston-Salem” drew a lively and diverse audience of artists, teachers, and entrepreneurs.

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The “IdeasCityWS Marketplace of Ideas Festival” is the culmination of over a year of exploring Winston-Salem’s tremendous resources and creativity poised to move our city forward. IdeasCityWS celebrates those diverse “thinkers and makers” working in areas such as environmental sustainability, health and well-being, education, scientific research, tech and design, equity and economic mobility.

The October 2nd Festival will feature an “outdoor living room” that will include interactive exhibits from two dozen creative organizations representing progressive contributions in art, tech, design, and culture. There will also be working “ideas” on display poised to move our City forward as we reimagine a postpandemic Winston-Salem. In addition to the Marketplace, the Festival will include panel discussions featuring Kennedy Center Citizen Artist Fellows, prominent figures in the Winston-Salem music and arts scene, and mayors from cities across the country.

Throughout the afternoon and evening, performances from well-known local musicians will highlight the diverse musical community in Winston-Salem. A live performance of “The Martha Bassett Show” will conclude the Festival on Saturday evening.

If you are interested in more information about the “IdeasCityWS Marketplace of Ideas Festival” on Saturday, October 2nd you can head to www.ideascity.events.wfu.edu for all the details.

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What We Lose

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We’ve been aware of the gender gap, the pay gap, the leadership gap, and all of the other gaps that face women in life daily. Too often I’m working with women on their leadership or career and they fall into stereotypes of being too passionate, too quiet, too loud, too subdued, too much – and the thing they all have in common? They all have these issues pushed upon them – someone else has called them something.

On the flip side, there are a lot of choices we make personally as women – and for every choice we make, there is a loss. Here are some common choices – and losses – that women go through.

TO CHILD OR NOT TO CHILD

This one is probably one of the most popular choices that women make – when are you having kids? Notice I wrote “when” and not “if” – that’s the real question, right? Remember that the next time you ask.

CAREER CHASER OR CHOOSER?

Going after your career with a passion and intensity will lead to a lot of sacrifices – when I was single, I was traveling 5-7 times a month, all over the nation. Sounds fun, right? Now picture a lot of hotel time watching bad cable because your body is confused about the time, elevation and location – and you have to prep for the meetings and presentations the next day. But you can sneak out and get great food, and you are an absolute BOSS. If you’re a bit more choosy with your time, you might not be the person that hops a plane or works those 14-hour days to advance the thing that very well may never advance. If you aren’t following a career, what are you choosing to follow? That isn’t to say you are career or nothing – but many people fill time with career or family. And many women are called upon to make that choice and accept that loss, whatever it is.

As for having children – think about what you lose having – or not having – kids. We are childfree by choice, and appreciate our freedom, our celebration of our lives with our dogs, and our little family. One of my closest friends is trying to have children so hard it hurts – and another can’t believe I would choose not to have kids. All of us think the other has a “loss” and in truth – we have what we want.

PASSIVE OR ASSERTIVE?

I DO…OR DON’T?

At the same time, asserting yourself as a woman means you’re advocating for your wants and needs – but – speaking up will get you deemed difficult in a lot of circles. What do you lose when you keep yourself first?

Ah, marriage. What do you lose when you gain a spouse? If you choose to not get married, you can chase your needs, goals, career, adventures – you don’t need to check in with anyone, you can make all the decisions on dinner, living arrangements, decoration – you name it, it’s yours.

On the flip side, being single might not be the most fun – after being perpetually single for years after my first marriage ended in a nasty divorce, I loathed going on dates and being the third or fifth wheel when I was out with my friends. Also, selfishly, I hated being the only person to clean up, make dinner, decide on dinner, and more.

This one is TOUGH – when we are passive, we are that fantastic person that goes with the flow and follows along with everyone else. How wonderful to have someone so flexible! But what about what you want?

That question isn’t often asked if you’re always choosing to be the person that just rolls with it.

In the end, all of these decisions have to be made by YOU – understanding all possible losses. Just don’t lose sight of your gain.

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Pandemic Lessons: Practical and Priceless

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

While browsing a clearance rack on a warm summer day, I paused when I came upon a tee shirt emblazoned with the words “Goodbye, 2020.”

Goodbye, indeed, I thought.

These trends bode well for stamping out isolation and loneliness which contribute to serious health issues, including death. At the same time, for many of us, cherished family and friends are far-flung. Here’s a lesson that is especially promising:

Inarguably, 2020 was an unforgettable year; it taxed our energy, dominated our attention, and took a toll on our emotions. But here’s what I know: there is always some good on the other side of a crisis – even if that “good” arrives in the form of lessons learned.

Americans of all ages are learning to stay connected through smart phones, Facetime, Zoom, and other platforms. The great news here is that many older folks who may have resisted have proven their ability to adapt and learn. And with those adult offspring back at home, the support for doing so may be just a few feet away! Of course, using digital technologies also means ordering groceries online and connecting with healthcare providers via telehealth platforms.

For many of us, the COVID-19 pandemic provided many lessons, things like elevating the critical importance of self-care, connection, and community while showing us just how resilient and adaptable we really are. I will give you that much, COVID! Here’s a roundup of COVIDexperience lessons that pertain especially to older Americans. See how many ring true for you:

STAY TOGETHER, HAPPY TOGETHER Many couples in long term relationships who “stuck it out” through COVID found a renewed sense of intimacy and connection.

This finding reflects the notion that when people experience adversity together, their bond strengthens!

THE RETURN OF GROWN CHILDREN TO THE FAMILY HOMESTEAD A year ago, 52 percent of Americans between 18 and 29 were living with their parents – the highest percentage since the Great Depression. Researchers predict that a cultural shift is occurring that makes it more acceptable for adult children to “co-reside” with mom and dad.

KEEPING GRANDMA AND GRANDPA AT HOME It isn’t just adult children who are expanding the household - grandma and grandpa may also move in with their adult children to circumvent the nursing home option. As the nuclear family reshapes itself, family members are reconnecting while also leaning on one another for help and support.

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Strengthening family and friendship bonds matter, but reaping the rewards depends largely on the following lesson:

GET HEALTHY, STAY HEALTHY Did you know that a recent study concluded that a healthy 75-yearold was one-third as likely to die from the coronavirus as a 65-year-old with multiple chronic health issues?

Now that’s something to think about. We all know how hard it can be to stay away from the food and lifestyle habits that can harm us, but COVID was a longevity wakeup call! Avoiding chronic health conditions is a mindset that many middle aged and older adults are adopting. We all know that eating right, getting enough sleep and staying engaged with others are huge investments in our well-being.

So, too, of course, is exercise.

I am thrilled to see folks in my neighborhood continuing with their COVID-era daily walk. And, what could be better than older folks setting the example for the now-expanded household? After all, we learn what we live!

As for the tee shirt? Well, against the backdrop of these hope-filled lessons, I opted for the optimism of one that simply said “Good Vibes.”

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Giving Your Creativity a Compass to Help Guide Your Business This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Business owners are always getting new ideas! We either get carried away when we feel that pull to follow our creativity or find ourselves questioning if it makes sense in our current business. We could easily go back and forth deciding which move to make and which to ignore.

Unfortunately, rather than making that decision on which feeling to lean into, we can end up leaving ourselves feeling stuck in the mud altogether.

How do you navigate that push and pull of creativity then? Simple. You give it a compass.

#1 ESTABLISH YOUR BRAND’S TRUE NORTH When creativity strikes, let your brand’s compass determine whether it’s pointing you in the right direction. Figuring out what your true north is as a business will allow you to navigate what’s worth pursuing and what needs to take a back seat. You can establish this guideline by thinking about what you truly want your brand to be known for at the end of the day. Who do you create for and what impact does it make on them? Everything you put out into the world as a brand should come back to this! Your true north. Remember to give your business time to curate its own “true north” concept and if you’ve been in business awhile, it may be time to take inventory and refresh what it really means.

#2 LISTEN TO YOUR CREATIVITY Knowing that there could never be enough resources like time, money, or manpower to tackle every creative thought you have can be empowering, depending on how you look at it. Learn to listen to your own creativity and figure out what’s exciting you the most right now. What are you feeling bored with right now? Don’t discredit your creative appetite but hone in on what it’s really saying about what direction you need to go.

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Ask yourself the following questions to determine which way your compass is pointing: 1. Could this current idea be sparked by trends, competitors, or even boredom?

2. Is this idea best for me personally or for my business?

3. IF for my business, is this something that deserves my time right now or later?

#3 LEAN INTO WHAT FEELS RIGHT Once you ask yourself the right questions, you will start to see the right direction come into view more clearly, with the bottom line being what feels right to you as a brand. The ideas that you can’t stop thinking about tend to mean you are onto something of value.

Trust that true north you’ve established and lean in! The creativity you have as a business owner then gets channeled into the right aspects of your brand at the right time! This is what helps avoid creating confusion among customers about who you are and what you mean to them as consumers. The magical moves that build momentum in a business happen when you learn to not only navigate which creative direction makes sense in the moment, but genuinely feels right.

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This month help identify which of your creative ideas are pointing your brand’s compass toward its true north. Make a list of recent creative ideas that you’ve considered moving forward with. Review each idea one by one, asking yourself the three questions above to see if they align with the mission and vision of your brand as a whole. Allow the “keeper” ideas to permeate and see what truly feels like the right move forward.

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The Most Checked Out Novels at the Clemmons Library

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

September is Library Card Sign-Up month. During these 30 days (or most any other day of the year that the library is open), people can visit their local library and sign up for a library card, giving them unlimited access to hundreds of novels, movies, music, and online resources. Taking a trip to the library can be overwhelming, especially if you aren’t sure what books to check out. For this month’s “Writers Who Read,” I spoke with Chris Kennedy at the Clemmons Branch Library of Forsyth County to see what novels people are reading and he shared with me the list of the library’s most checked out books. Making the top three are Sooley, A Gambling Man, and 21st Birthday.

by John Grisham

SOOLEY

by David Baldacci

A GAMBLING MAN

21ST BIRTHDAY

Recently published in April of this year, Sooley is a story about Samuel “Sooley” Sooleymon, a 17-year-old basketball player who has big dreams and travels to the United States with his South Sudanese teammates to play in a showcase basketball tournament. A New York Times bestseller, Sooley draws readers into the life of Samuel who is also experiencing big challenges outside of the stadium. A wonderful athlete whose game still needs some work, the trip to the United States is full of many firsts for Samuel. However, the trip quickly becomes bittersweet when he receives news that a civil war has broken out in South Sudan, killing his father, causing his sister to go missing, and placing his mother and two younger brothers in a refugee camp. Unable to go home and wanting nothing more than to bring his family to America, the coach at North Carolina Central offers Samuel a scholarship to the school and to play basketball. Will Samuel be able to succeed on a college basketball team and move his family to the United States? Read John Grisham’s newest novel to find out.

A Gambling Man is the second novel in the Aloysius Archer series. A World War II veteran who is also right out of prison, Aloysius Archer is on the journey for a fresh start as the 1950s are about to begin.

Heading towards California, readers are taken through Archer’s travels, stopping in places such as Reno, where he picks up some luck, some cash, a red convertible, and an aspiring actress who travels with him for the rest of the journey. Yet, things don’t go as planned when the two arrive in Hollywood and discover that Tinsel Town is not what they thought it would be and instead, brings out the worst in people. This realization is made more apparent when Archer gets a job as a private investigator and is pushed full force into the world of scandal. A Gambling Man is filled with many twists and turns, leaving readers in suspense of what will happen next.

Part of the Women’s Murder Club series by James Patterson, 21st Birthday follows detective Lindsay Boxer who is on a mission to protect a young woman from being murdered before her 21st birthday. Tara Burke goes missing along with her baby daughter.

Her husband, Lucas is instantly made a suspect who states that Tara isn’t missing; she’s just traveling. With reporters and detectives working hard on the case, evidence is found and turns the mystery into a criminal investigation. In addition, Lucas’ response to law enforcement brings about an unexpected suspect which increases the threat of all women throughout California to a serial killer.

by James Patterson

While these books are high on the list, other highly sought reads are: A Time for Mercy by John Grisham | The Sentinel by Lee Child | The Law of Innocence by Michael Connelly | Daylight by David Baldacci The Four Winds by Kristin Hannah | The Return by Nicholas Sparks | Ocean Prey by John Sandford The next time you go to the library and don’t know where to begin looking for your next novel, turn to this list and see if one of these books are of interest to you.

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Skydive. Glad I did it but happy to say “one and done.”

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I will never go traditional camping again…I would consider going “glamping” as long as electricity and plumbing are involved.

I’ll never “test” expired milk again. …why I thought it would be like buttermilk? I have no clue.

I will never run a full marathon again. It was a great bucket list check off, but running 26.2 miles ONCE is plenty for me!

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‘Never ignore your gut’… don’t make excuses for poor behavior from anyone. If your gut says something isn’t right, never second guess it.’

I will never again expect a relaxing trip when traveling with kids.

Vacations are very different with two little ones! (I have a 2 year old and 9 month old.) Relaxation doesn’t come as easy this go around!

I’ll never buy a dog from a breeder… the best dogs my family has had through the years have come straight out of the local animal shelter.

There’s nothing like the love of a dog that has been rescued.

I don’t like to say never because you just never know...but I feel I can say with certainty that I will never fly to Australia again. It was a fabulous month I spent there in college but the 21-hour plane ride was challenging. That is something I would not care to do again - glad I got to experience the beautiful country / continent.

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WOMEN ON THE MOVE JALISSA GRIER MSN, FNP-BC

Jalissa Grier MSN, FNP-Bc is the owner of Bella Sol Medical Spa, PLLC which offers IV Hydration and Vitamin Shot Therapy. Born and raised in Winston-Salem, Jalissa graduated from Winston-Salem State University before earning her Master of Science in nursing from Purdue University. “I have been working in healthcare as a licensed professional for six years now,” said Jalissa. “I chose to open a medical spa offering IV hydration and Vitamin Therapy as my primary services to the community as a preventative option to manage their overall health and wellness. As a full-time family nurse practitioner, I have noticed that more people are looking to discuss alternative ways to manage their health besides western medicine. Prioritizing self-care from the cellular level is the foundation that Bella Sol Medical Spa is built on. The vision I have for my brand is to one day expand into a fully functioning wellness center where you can receive services from a variety of professionals such as licensed therapists, estheticians and advanced practice providers such as myself.” When not at work, Jalissa enjoys learning how to roller skate, trying new recipes, binge watching “This is Us” and “A Million Little Things” and spending time with her husband, Austin, daughters, Bellamy And Soleil and English spaniel, Marlo.

JENNIFER FOX BOYLE

Jennifer Fox Boyle, originally from Hickory, North Carolina, earned her bachelor of arts in English and American studies from UNC Charlotte in 2007. She married a Forsyth County native in 2008, and they moved to the Winston-Salem area to join family businesses and explore new opportunities. She then obtained her master of arts in rhetoric and composition in 2010 from UNC Greensboro. She fell in love with teaching at the community college level and has been an English instructor for the past 12 years. When Covid-19 threw the educational environment into a tailspin (even for her own seven-year-old), she decided to officially launch a long-time dream of hers, a private tutoring company she fondly named Red Barn Scholars Tutoring Resources.

Her dream is to provide educational resources through local, professional educators to students needing supplemental help, especially when bridging the gap between distance learning and face-to-face instruction. She feels that empowered students are successful students, and accessibility is a part of that equation. The company’s tutors currently serve students in Forsyth and Davidson County. As the 2020-2021 Past Charity League of Lexington President, she feels it is important to also provide opportunities to those experiencing financial difficulty. As a “scholarship kid” herself, she was ecstatic to provide scholarship opportunities to those with academic and financial difficulty through the “Allison Boyle England Scholarship Fund” within the Red Barn Scholars company. When she isn’t teaching or connecting students with tutors, she loves fishing and escaping from technology in wild open spaces on her family’s Forsyth County farm with her spirited husband, Josh, and their two sons, Easton (7) and Wilder (2).

ASHLEY WREN

Ashley Wren is a retired champion international professional equestrian rider who operated one of the largest equestrian centers in the northwest. In 2014, after severe injury from a horseback riding incident and already suffering from degenerative disc disorder, she decided it was time to move on to the next chapter in her life. Being homesick for the south, she moved east and eventually settled in Forsyth County where she decided to pursue a career in helping others. Knowing first-hand about the difference the holistic health approach made in both her horses and herself, she enhanced her natural healing talents and became a Master Reiki Practitioner and certified Spiritual Life Coach. Ashley grew up in a family of healers; one side having a more traditional medicine approach and the other having natural healing abilities using energy. Since she has a combined belief in approaching healthcare, she became a massage therapist. She cares greatly about each client and hopes to heal each and prevent future pain. She believes her holistic healthcare approaches will help those suffering from the opioid epidemic in the Triad. Ashley recently began her practice at Aeracura Salon & Spa in Clemmons as well as her mobile massage services and reiki for animals and people, and spiritual life counseling services. She dedicates her spare time to learning more healing techniques. Ashley stays optimistic despite her chronic pain and feels it helps her empathize greater with her clients who suffer similarly.

ISABEL SPRINKLES

Isabel Sprinkles is the owner and head trainer of Leverage Training.

She attended the University of North Carolina at Wilmington. “My business began through a simple realization that most women have no idea what they are capable of and the self-recognition they deserve,” said Isabel. “This realization led me to become certified as a personal trainer through the National Academy of Sports Medicine. From there, I made it my mission to educate women and help them understand that exercise is a privilege and their bodies are a powerhouse. It’s been such a dream come true to see the physical and mental transformations that take place when my clients make the choice to work on themselves and improve their health. I believe training out of my personal gym allows my clients to be comfortable and confident enough to give workouts their all, and leave feeling powerful and positive. My business would not be nearly as successful without the support of my family, friends and fiancé, Harrison. When I’m not pouring 100% into my business, I’m most likely spending time with those amazing people and/or getting outside and staying active! I am grateful for the women I’ve been able to help thus far and excited to see what the future brings!”

CHRISTINA MINER-O’REILLY

Christina Miner-O’Reilly is originally from New York, but has called North Carolina home for more than 15 years. She is a secondgeneration Realtor and works with RE/MAX Preferred Properties.

“Real Estate is something I’ve always wanted to pursue, but when I was pregnant it was something I definitely wanted to accomplish for our growing family,” said Christina. “I spent the year studying constantly while working full time, and I was able to pass the state exam on the first try – just two weeks before our son was born! Since joining RE/MAX two years ago, I’ve already been recognized by our office and RE/MAX International in getting the Executive Club Award. This year, my goal is to get the 100% Club Award. I’m passionate about people, and I’m grateful for the ones I have already met in this industry and I’m excited for the ones I will meet in the future! Getting to play a role in such an important chapter in people’s lives enriches my own so much.

When I’m not selling real estate, I enjoy reading a good mystery or romance novel, cuddling with my pug, Rico, trying out new local restaurants or watching my husband and our two-year-old son, Grayson, ride their dirt bikes and four wheelers!”

DARIEN CLAIRE DANCY Darien Claire Dancy is the owner and a licensed esthetician of D.ClaireBeauty facial spa located in downtown Winston-Salem.

Darien graduated from Health and Style Institute specializing in Esthetics/Skin Care Therapy. She loves making every client feel confident and beautiful in their own skin and loves building personal relationships with her clients! In her spare time, Darien loves to spend time with her family, especially her oneyear-old son, Hayden, her dog, Cannoli, and her fiancé, Gavin.

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Embrace Summer’s End with a New Skill: Learn How to Play

BY AMY HILL

Sad about saying goodbye to your summer activities? As the days get cooler and nights get longer, it might be time to retire your summer routine and find a new way to spend your free time. With the perfect combination of cardio, competition, and community, the popular sport of pickleball can help keep your end-of-summer blues at bay.

After pickleball players Gary and Debbie Hellmann invited my friend Kim and me to play along with them one evening at Joanie Moser Memorial Park in Lewisville, I was quickly able to understand why pickleball is the nation’s fastest growing sport. Within minutes of playing, I knew the sport was a hobby I could enjoy on a regular basis – something stressed and overworked adults of all ages are often longing for.

Gary Hellmann, a pickleball enthusiast/fanatic, began playing the sport around five years ago after his neighbor invited him to play.

Currently, Gary plays around three to four times per week for an average of two to three hours at a time. When playing alongside his wife Debbie, the Hellmann duo makes for an intimidating pickleball pair. Gary initially assumed that pickleball would be a cakewalk for him, as he is well-versed in playing tennis and has a knack for handeye coordination. And while tennis and pickleball do overlap in many arenas, the concept of the “no-volley zone,” commonly referred to as the “kitchen” by pickleball players, made the sport more challenging than he initially expected. In the kitchen, players are prohibited from volleying the ball (or hitting the ball out of the air) and are only allowed to enter the zone to return a ball that bounces within the zone. Because of this rule, professional pickleball players often find themselves in a game of “dinking,” or lightly hitting the ball back and forth within the kitchen, until someone inevitably errs.

Unlike tennis, pickleball can be picked up fairly quickly by most novice players. Tennis often requires years of expensive private lessons to master, in addition to the pressure many tennis players feel to purchase the latest and greatest tennis gear and garb.

Because pickleball carries a more lighthearted reputation, players

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can enjoy the thrill and fast-paced nature of the sport with a fraction of the financial burden. Additionally, volleying occurs much more frequently in pickleball than it occurs in most tennis singles matches, making it a riveting sport to watch.

Another advantage of picking up pickleball is the size of the pickleball itself. Being much larger than a standard table tennis ball, the pickleball is slightly slower and easier to spot (although just as bright). With pickleball courts being smaller in perimeter than standard tennis courts, senior players can still hustle for the ball without having to cover too much ground.

Triad communities have caught on to pickleball’s popularity and have installed permanent pickleball courts in Greensboro and High Point, as well as in neighboring areas such as Statesville, Salisbury, and Wilkesboro. Makeshift courts like the ones found at Joanie Moser Memorial Park can be created by striping tennis or basketball courts and utilizing portable nets for indoor or outdoor play. While the City of Winston-Salem boasts 109 tennis courts, it currently has no dedicated pickleball courts. Forsyth County pickleball players hope to see pickleball courts installed throughout the county sometime in the future, as the demand for pickleball is only increasing.

For those interested in getting started with the sport, read up on the sport’s rules and find out how to get involved at USApickleball.org.

Watch the multitude of YouTube videos available on how to play, or grab a friend (or three) and head over to Joanie Moser Park most mornings to chat with any of the players. To stay in the loop, Gary and his fellow teammates utilize the TeamReach app for information on local pickleball schedules, calendars, and chat rooms. Pickleball players pride themselves on their sense of community and are always open to teaching new players the ropes.

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You Put Your Foot Where?

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If there is one place where we never want to find our foot, it’s in our mouth. And yet we all do, at one time or another. We say something that offends, embarrasses, or upsets someone else and wish like the dickens that we could take it back.

The “put my foot in my mouth” idiom first appeared in the late 1800s and is thought to have originated with stepping in mud or feces. Well, that makes sense because when I find my foot in my mouth, I feel like I’ve got mud on my face or, frankly, crap on my shoes. My “cringe-response” kicks in when I know I’ve stepped right into it.

I once told a new friend who cherishes the time with her college-age kids that I was looking forward to getting together with her when the kids were out.

What was I thinking? My comment was the epitome of inconsiderate and I worried it would put a wedge in our relationship. I managed to recover…but more about “recovery” later.

I often called my husband, Dean, by my first husband’s name. Okay, granted it was early in our marriage, and my ex also had a one-syllable name, but still. Now, that was 29 years ago, so mercifully, I recovered.

The “experts” are somewhat vague about precisely why the foot in mouth moment happens. Some say it is because we: • assume that the other person trusts our good intentions and won’t be hurt by anything we say • fail to consider the other person’s point of view or values (a la my comment to my friend) • get caught up in the moment and don’t think before we speak

KEEP YOUR FOOT WHERE IT BELONGS There may be no definitive way to eliminate the foot in mouth phenomenon entirely, but there actions we can take to minimize its occurrence.

Here are four to reach for before you even open your mouth:

Pause: Close your mouth. Consider what you are about to say before you say it.

Clarify your motivation: Consider the reason behind what you are about to say. Are your intentions good, or is there a slight or a judgment lurking behind them? Are your words likely to help or hurt this person?

Put yourself in their shoes: Consider how this person might feel based on their values, perspective, experiences, and hot buttons.

Consider “add or subtract”: Ask yourself: “Will what I am about to say add or subtract from our bond?”

RECOVER FROM A FOOT-IN-MOUTH MOMENT Let’s say that you do put your foot in your mouth and catch yourself. In that case you can take responsibility with these four actions: Apologize: Be the person you claim to be and own it! You might say: “I’m sorry, that wasn’t called for.”

Or, “I was out of line just now, I’m sorry.”

Clarify: Step up to the plate by explaining what you really meant. You might say: “That didn’t come out right. What I meant was...” Or, “What I meant to say was…”

Learn from it: Every foot-in-mouth moment is an opportunity to gain a better understanding of what triggers a mindless or insensitive comment.

I know that when I am emotionally charged about something, I am more inclined to find my foot in my mouth. I have asked a couple of people to be my accountability partners on this so that I will know when I have stepped in it!

Let it go: Don’t beat yourself up.

Accept that you are human and do better the next time!

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CELEBRATIONS

Ella-Brooke Morgan Ella-Brooke Morgan, 16, was recently awarded the President’s Gold Volunteer Service Award and the NC Governor’s Volunteer Service Award for her work in the Forsyth County community. As the Founder and Executive Director of ViP (Virtual & in-Person) Tutoring and Peer Guides Program, a local nonprofit organization, she has given over 1,000 hours of her time to assist families and support her team of peers throughout this past year.

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SECOND WEDNESDAYS

SEPTEMBER 12

SEPTEMBER 17-19

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING

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11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting. Learn more at PWWS.org.

SEPTEMBER 2-4 34TH ANNUAL USED BOOK SALE 9am-9pm, Education Building, WinstonSalem Fairgrounds, 400 Deacon Boulevard, Gate 5. The book sale is one of the largest in our state! Parking and admission are free! This is truly a book sale with a purpose! All proceeds of the sale benefit the programs and services provided for older adults in our community. During 2020, the Shepherd’s Center provided services to more than 6,400 individuals. More than 300 volunteers provided in excess of 25,000 hours of service in our community. The Shepherd’s Center mission is to support and promote successful aging through direct services, educational, volunteer and support programs for older adults. www.shepherdscenter.org

SEPTEMBER 8 TOUR DE BOUTIQUE 2021 REGISTRATION CLOSES! To learn more and register about this October 2nd event, visit tinyurl.com/2021FWTDB.

SEPTEMBER 9 WINSTON-SALEM DASH VS. BOWLING GREEN HOT RODS 7pm, Truist Stadium, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Lowe ‘s Foods Thirsty Thursday – Select discounted beers throughout the stadium. Pups In The Park – Bring your pup to the park! This year Pups in the Park presented by Tito’s benefits AARF of Winston-Salem. wsdash.com

SEPTEMBER 10 WINSTON-SALEM DASH VS. BOWLING GREEN HOT RODS 7pm, Truist Stadium, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Friday Night Fireworks. wsdash.com

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10am-2pm, Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield. Bring the grandkids and family, or come on your own, to have some fall fun at the Preserve. Bring a picnic lunch, enjoy a self-guided tour of the farm and participate in nature-inspired picture-frame crafts for the whole family. This event is free, and donations are gratefully appreciated.

FREE COMMUNITY MOVIE (ANGSTMOVIE.COM) AND PANEL DISCUSSION 6-8pm, River Oaks Community Church, 1855 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons.

Free community movie followed by a panel discussion of experts from the community and the school system. The last 17 months have been full of stress, mental exhaustion and anxiety and especially among our children and teens. Learn tips for managing stress and helping your children. carenetnc. org/piedmonttriad/

SEPTEMBER 13 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10-11:30am, Salem Gymnastics & Swim, 4870 Country Club Road in W-S. Grab a friend and bring the kids for a morning of fun at Salem Gymnastics! Come see all that Salem Gymnastics & Swim has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations and two warm water pools with amazing instructors. If you’d like to give the pool a try, don’t forget your bathing suit and towel! Children under three must be accompanied with a parent in the pool. Each adult also receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings.

SEPTEMBER 14 GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm until…Bermuda Run, 324 Bermuda Run Drive in Bermuda Run. We invite you to experience Club Life! Reservations are required; $15 per person includes food… drinks are sold separately. As always, each attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board drawings!

WINSTON-SALEM DASH VS. ASHEVILLE TOURISTS 7pm, Truist Stadium, 951 Ballpark Way in W-S. Free Hot Dog Tuesdays – Free hot dogs are available until 8:30pm. wsdash.com

Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics.

As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

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FRASCARA TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. FRASCARA is a made to order line of women’s special occasion dresses and gowns. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of designer couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s offers its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! #wewearnitsas. nitsas.com

SEPTEMBER 18 TRIAD LUNGE FORWARD 5K RUN, WALK & CELEBRATION 8-11am, Center City Park, 200 North Elm Street in Greensboro. From the 5K race to the celebration rally, to the kid’s dash, this year’s event will include a variety of activities for the entire family. The Triad LUNGe Forward 5K Run, Walk & Celebration will be a day remembrance, as well as a day to take action and provide hope to those impacted by lung cancer. However you choose to participate, your support will make an impact in the fight against lung cancer. All 5K participants will be timed. One mile participants will not be timed. Cost: $15-$35/person.

TWILIGHT GOAT YOGA 7pm, The Farm at Henley Hill, 6890 Henley Hill Drive. Join us for an amazing evening of yoga, under the stars, led by our certified instructor, Fontaine Gervasi, while the goats enjoy grazing and hanging out with you.

Yoga is for all levels and most ages. The goats are very gentle and completely adorable. All you need to bring is a water bottle, a yoga mat or towel and an open mind. Cost: $20/ person. thefarmathenleyhill.com

3pm, Reynolds Auditorium, 301 Hawthorne Road in W-S (18th); 3pm, UNCG Auditorium in Greensboro (19th). The excitement of film music brought to life with brass! A concert of entirely John Williams music, scores from many of the greatest films ever made. Star Wars, Harry Potter, Indiana Jones, Jurassic Park and much more! Fun for the entire family – admission is free for children ages 12 and under! Have your picture taken with real life movie characters. Also, a costume contest for children – dress up as a character from your favorite movie! Cost: $20/adult; $5/student.

More information at www.ncbrassband.org.

SEPTEMBER 19 SALEM BAND “BEETHOVEN LIVES!” CONCERT 3pm, Hanes Auditorium, Elberson FAC, Salem College, 412 Rams Drive in W-S. Join Salem Band as we kick-off our 250th anniversary season! The music of Beethoven and his contemporaries, Haydn and Mozart, will create a program of beauty, familiarity and comfort as we explore just how alive Beethoven remains in the hearts and minds of today’s music lovers.

Established in 1771, Salem Band is the oldest, continuous mixed wind ensemble in the nation. www.salemband.org

SEPTEMBER 20 SOCIAL DISTANCING SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING IN THE BEDROOM Zoom webinar. Is painful sex causing social distancing in the bedroom? For many postmenopausal women, a condition related to low estrogen levels can cause dryness, itching and painful intercourse. Learn about a treatment for this condition that does not involve medications. Find out if the laser technology of MonaLisa Touch® is right for you. novanthealth.org/pelvichealth

SEPTEMBER 24-26 SAREH NOURI BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

11am-2pm, Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield. Enjoy a seasonal hike on Minglewood’s trails with your family and friends! The foothills of North Carolina are the perfect place to enjoy a fall hike.

The cooler temperatures and beautiful fall foliage create a picturesque backdrop for an outdoor adventure. Enjoy the trails or a self-guided farm tour at Minglewood.

GOING BEYOND SIMULCAST FEATURING PRISCILLA SHIRER Pinedale Christian Church, 3395 Peters Creek Parkway. Pinedale will be a host site for the Going Beyond Simulcast featuring the teaching of Priscilla Shirer and worship led by Anthony Evans. We are excited to offer this event to you free of charge, but registration is required. We will also be offering ASL interpretation for the deaf and hard of hearing. pinedale. church/Simulcast-PShirer-2021

FUTURE: OCTOBER 2 TOUR DE BOUTIQUE 2021 After the popularity of last year’s self-guided Tour de Boutique, we’ve decided to offer it for 2021, too! $40 includes your choice of either -- Forsyth Woman Tour de Boutique Quarter Zip Sweatshirt OR Forsyth Woman Tour de Boutique Hat + Long Sleeve Tee Combo. Plus, you’ll get a $10 lunch voucher! You’ll receive door prize tickets, and the more stores you visit on the tour, the more opportunities you’ll have to WIN! Also, every store on the trip is going to have special sales, exclusive to Forsyth Woman’s Tour de Boutique shoppers! Grab your mom, your sister, your co-workers, your best friends, your neighbor and join us for another shop-til-you-drop adventure!

Visit tinyurl.com/2021FWTDB for more information and to register. Please note, registration closes on September 8th.

LEADERSHIP LEWISVILLECLEMMONS Register soon! If you live, work, or have a vested interest in the success of the Town of Lewisville and the Village of Clemmons, consider Leadership Lewisville-Clemmons. Learn more at www.LeadershipLC.com or apply online at tinyurl.com/LLC2021-22. Questions?

Contact Denise Heidel at 336.970.5100.

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Conversations with Your BFF With all the isolation this past year, most of us have spent a lot of time alone, or at least away from others, and perhaps hunkered down with our family. You’d think that we would want some ‘me time,’ moments to just be with our own thoughts. Still, some of my friends and acquaintances wonder why they feel alone, after all the overload on being together with their families, and are asking themselves, ‘What’s the difference between being alone and feeling lonely?’

I am so glad you asked!

Am I Alone or Just Feeling Lonely?

BY REBECCA COOPER

BIG DIFFERENCE To begin with, there is a huge difference between being alone and feeling lonely.

Being alone is defined as the choice to spend time with yourself and feeling lonely is the need to be with others.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that you love your own company and treasure the moments you get time to yourself. Never let anyone tell you that is narcissistic; it’s actually healthy, according to mental health physicians. We fill so much of our lives up with busy time, whether running from work to the gym or chauffeuring the kids from baseball to soccer and finding time for dinner at the drive-thru. But when you understand there is a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely, and begin to embrace a time of being alone all to yourself, you will never again feel lonely in your life.

HOW DO I GET COMFORTABLE WITH BEING ALONE? Focus on the Joy of Exhaling When you live life going 100 miles per hour at work and with friends and family, taking time to focus on just being, taking a breath, is rare. When you set time aside to be alone, you have a chance to breathe and exhale, letting all the drama and cares of life fade away from your busy mind.

Brain Fog Lifts A busy life leads to a busy mind.

Multitasking can be a gift and a curse.

Have you ever had a day when you are so busy and preoccupied with life that you just can’t seem to see things clearly? Being alone allows this brain fog, as I call it, to lift from your mind, and clears the way for more concise and focused thinking.

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Reflecting on Life is a Good Thing to Do Staying busy in your life and in others’ lives doesn’t lend itself to reflecting on your life.

Getting this time alone is essential if you want to answer the big questions in life: What do I want?

What can I do in my life to bring myself more happiness and satisfaction? There’s nothing wrong with going with the flow of life, but on major life decisions like work, dating, long-term commitments, having children, etc., you need to spend time weighing what you want, and that can only happen alone. Time goes by quickly, and many of life’s decisions are time-sensitive, so enjoy the ride, but take some moments to weigh where you are and what you want.

Get More Things Done When you separate yourself from the busyness of life, you tend to get more things done. We all know how difficult it is to accomplish the simplest task while trying to cook dinner, help with homework, and calm a dog barking at a squirrel.

I have found that folding laundry is a calming task. No TV blaring in the background, no one in the room with me, just a pile of laundry and me.

That can lead to some good thinking time.

Alone Can Lead to Confidence There’s a confidence in people who have learned to embrace and enjoy their own company. They don’t talk for the sake of being heard; they tend to talk only when they have something to share, and they feel relaxed enough to let others carry a conversation and just listen. There’s a lot to be said for listening.

Understanding and Connecting There is Something Bigger Than YOU There’s something amazing and yet calming that happens when you have a little solitude in your life. You start to ask the bigger questions: What is my purpose?

Why am I here? And what can I do to make a difference in this world? With all the noise that comes with a busy life, it is hard to focus on realizing there is something bigger than you in this world and connecting with that, no matter what you call it; for me, it is my faith and God. This alone time for me is the sweetest because I not only come to know myself better, but I grow to know that One who put me here much better.

Don’t run from spending time alone; embrace it and the person you meet on the other side of that time….a new, more focused YOU.

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