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WHAT MOTIVATES YOU?

With my type-A personality, I’m motivated by the thrill of setting and achieving goals. But I’m most motivated when I help other women on my Beautycounter team achieve their business goals. I love coaching women over the hurdles toward their goals and then celebrating their achievements.

There’s no better feeling!

WHAT IS YOUR PROUDEST ACHIEVEMENT?

Professionally, passing bar exams in 2 states within 2 years was a proud achievement. But I’m actually most proud of making the decision to leave my law practice to strike out as an entrepreneur in direct sales. Leaving a “regular” job to work with a new, unproven company was a bold choice that has paid off in all aspects of my life. In my personal life, raising my 2 sons to be kind, confident, generous kids is my proudest achievement, and it is definitely a work in progress!

My favorite season is always the one that we’re in! I love crisp, colorful autumn days, cozy sweaters and warm drinks.

The routine of back to school, homecoming gatherings, and more structured days feel like a welcome change, especially after last year. While days growing shorter is sad, I’m happy knowing holiday festivities are just around the corner.

WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE BEAUTYCOUNTER PRODUCTS?

My favorites are the Overnight Resurfacing Peel and the Allbright Vitamin C Serum. At age 48, this combo is my daily go-to for the most glowing skin. Overnight Peel has skinsmoothing gentle acids that work overnight for a smoother, more even complexion (with no visible peeling), and the C-Serum has 10% vitamin C complex, Turmeric root extract, and Camu Camu fruit extract (they call it superfruit for a reason!) for visibly brighter skin. I can really see a difference.

You don’t need a drawer full of products to keep your skin naturally glowy. Just a few of the right products will get the job done! Ask me for free samples if you want to try it for yourself! Find me on IG @ncjennifer or contact me via my website: beautycounter.com/jenniferertl.

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EDITOR Keela Johnson Keela@ForsythMags.com

hen I was twelve years old, I remember visiting my grandparents at the beach and them sitting me down to tell me some scary news.

My mamaw had breast cancer. To a twelve-yearold, the word “cancer” was terrifying. I had never known anyone with cancer.

Thankfully, she had a lumpectomy and the cancer was gone. Today, she’s a healthy-as-can-be 81-year-old and I couldn’t be more grateful for that.

Fast forward five years to 2007. My parents sat me down to tell me some scary news. My mom had breast cancer. I was worried—of course—but to be totally honest, I didn’t worry about my mom for one second.

I know how much of a fighter she is, and I knew she’d conquer breast cancer just like she does everything else in life. And she did! She had a double mastectomy and all was well. Until 12 years later when the cancer came back. This go around, I wasn’t as calm. I still knew my mom was a fighter, but I was really scared. How could

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it have come back? She had a double mastectomy! In true Keela fashion, she fought hard. Breast cancer 2.0 didn’t stand a chance.

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I’m sure you know a breast cancer survivor…you may know someone who didn’t survive breast cancer.

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As always, October is such a busy month! If you’re looking for things to do this month, look no further!

This issue is chock full of events. Lewisville Laser is celebrating 13 years on October 14th (see page 23), we’re having a Girls’ BRUNCH Out (instead of our normal Girls’ Night Out) on Friday, October 8th at Young Cardinal (more details on page 53), the 2nd Annual Lewisville Clemmons Chamber of Commerce Golf Tournament is happening on October 18th (see page 131) and so much more!! For a full list of upcoming events, be sure to check out the calendar of events on page 144.

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OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Jen Brown Genevieve Condon Elisa Coppede Karen Cooper Martie Emory Amy Hill Taryn Jerez Jean Marie Johnson Debbie Lanier Tabatha Renegar Susan Schabacker Lauren Sephton Megan Taylor *others credited throughout accordingly

Finally, we’d be honored if you would consider joining the Forsyth Mags team for the Walk to End Alzheimers.

My uncle wrote a beautiful tribute to my papaw and we’re so proud to feature it in this issue on pages 139140. You can also see step-by-step instructions and a QR code for joining our team on the following page.

The walk will happen on Saturday, November 6th, and it’s FREE to sign up!

As always, be sure to give us a follow on our social media platforms for event updates, giveaways, and more! You can find us @forsythmags on Instagram and Facebook. And if you love listening to podcasts, tune into the Forsyth Magazines podcast! A new episode drops every Thursday on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or any of the major podcast streaming platforms.

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Wishing you a happy and healthy month of October with all the fun things that fall brings!

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All my best,

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The Power of Personal Rituals

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

On a cold March morning in 1991, dressed in only a long-sleeved tee and a pair of jeans, I left my condo apartment and started walking. On the surface, it was an “ordinary” action, but in truth, it was filled with the intention to accept the things I could not change and to change the things that I could. Over the past three decades, my morning walk has become a small daily ritual that reminds me of the control I have over the positive choices that only I can make. And it has evolved to encompass the sacred ritual of attending to my backyard birds before I head back inside. Then, before settling in for a few hours at my desk, I’ll turn on my diffuser to signal the start of my workday – another ritual.

A ritual is anything that is done with intention. It’s different from habits, which are actions we fall into and don’t give much thought to. My beautiful morning ritual began as an exercise in conscious choice, but in a more profound way, it is an expression of who I am and how I want to be in this life.

And that’s a big deal. So is the fact that replacing routine with personal ritual elevates my experience of the everyday.

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Mara Branscombe, writing for Head + Heart notes the larger human context for ritual: “Throughout history, the power of Ritual has been at the heart of both ancient and modern civilizations. From vision quests to high holidays, to tea ceremonies, sweat lodges, to birth and death rituals, humanity has experienced the deepening of self, community, and spiritual awakening through the power of Ritual.” From old-fashioned porch-sitting with neighbors, “whine and wine” walks with a friend, and loooong homemade Sunday brunches with my husband, my rituals create a much-welcomed continuity while allowing me to honor what matters. And yes, they are, in the words of Branscombe, “a remedy to feeling ‘disconnected’ in our ‘connected’ world.”

When my family gathers again this year for the annual “Bumbera (my maiden name) Family Christmas,” the children of my niece and nephew won’t know how the highly-ritualized day of celebration started in 1992 at Aunt Jean’s house. They won’t know the stories and lore behind the raucous Yankee Swap, or why Uncle Deano has to belt out “Five Golden Rings” even if it is by way of a Facetime connection. This ritual evolved over the years, added to by new

significant others, births, passings; even new technologies altered the specifics of this much-anticipated celebration. But what that next generation will experience is the profound joy of the ritual as their parents carry it forward.

Rituals are experiences we put our personal stamp on so that what we experience matters more. They sharpen our awareness and deepen our appreciation of people, things, and time itself. Where is there a place in your life for ritual? Start by asking yourself “What can I do or do differently to: • honor what matters • elevate the ordinary • celebrate small things • connect with others • get moving from a place where I am stuck?

Start small. Here’s a ritual that may resonate: my sister ends her Saturday housekeeping marathon by marking the moment. She turns on some background music and lights a seasonal candle. It could be as simple and celebratory as that.

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Keeping It Real STAND FIRM!

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER, PHOTO BY JODIE BRIM

Have you ever stood in front of the guards at Buckingham Palace? You can pull all kinds of shenanigans, but it doesn’t budge them one iota!

Make funny faces. Get all up in their space. Jump up and down like a crazy person. Even throw things at them (no kidding!) . . . they remain immovable and unfazed. Members of the Queen’s Guard know how to stand firm amid whatever crazy surrounds them.

Do you have crazy surrounding you? Of course you do. (If you currently sense any deficit of outrageousness pressing from every side, then you’re not from around these parts. It’s nuts out there!)

The resoluteness of the palace guard illustrates what the Scriptures mean when God repeatedly charges us to STAND FIRM in the midst of life’s turbulence. Maybe this is what it looks like to “be immovable” in our Faith amid relentless attacks.

While everyone and everything else wobbles and waffles, we stand firm! While others change their views on every kind of issue quicker than the hands move on a clock, we hold tight to timeless Truth.

The Apostle Paul urges believers to buckle up for the inevitable turmoil. When it gets hard, don’t morph into what you see around you. Don’t take the easy road and go along to get along.

Don’t get squeezed into the mold of this crumbling world system. Instead, “stand firm, stable, and enduring. Live your lives with an unshakable confidence. We know that we prosper and excel in every season by serving the Lord, because we are assured that our union with the Lord makes our labor productive with fruit that endures.”

(1 Corinthians 15:58 tPt) But how can you STAND FIRM if you don’t have a clue how long it will be before victory comes?

Go with me for a minute. Have you seen those teams rowing together in the Olympics? Eight people sit in the boat with their backs turned to the finish line the whole time.

They can’t see the place of victory. They only see their coxswain—the guy facing them, steering with his eye on the finish line. He keeps encouraging them based on what he can see that they can’t. The coxswain yells through each exhausting stroke: “Row harder! You can’t give up now! We’re closer than we’ve ever been! I see the finish line, I see it!”

Friends, Jesus is our coxswain. He’s at the helm and sees it all! He knows where we are and how far to the finish line. We can’t see anything about where we are headed, but we can trust the One who does. Our responsibility is to keep our eyes on Him, our ears open to Him, and ourselves rowing!

In other words, “Look away from the natural realm and focus your attention and expectation onto Jesus who birthed faith within us and who leads us forward into faith’s perfection.” (Hebrews 12:2 tPt).

The Aramaic word for “expectation” implies a gaze upon Jesus full of expectation that He is enough. Friends, He IS more than enough!

Stop trying to look over your shoulder as you push against the waves. Just keep rowing with your eyes upon the One who sees the victory line and gives us everything we need to get there! Friends, we’ve got this and He’s got us!

Just keep rowing!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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Simply Southern is sponsoring the entire month of Cheers! for Brenner Children’s, which benefits the Brenner Children’s Patient Assistance Fund.

Cheers! for Brenner Children’s Making Dreams Come True

Every child has a vivid imagination about growing up and fulfilling their life-long dream, whether that’s becoming a doctor, teacher, interior decorator or fireman, but for many injured or sick patients at Brenner Children’s, that journey requires overcoming obstacles that no child or their family should have to face.

All too often, especially in today’s environment, these families may be tasked with making the choice to buy medication for their sick child or buy groceries for the family.

Helping these families see beyond an insurmountable financial burden is our goal. We want to ensure that they can concentrate on getting their child well so they, too, can grow up to realize their dreams. Your help is needed to help Make Dreams Come True for all children at Brenner.

The Brenner Children’s Patient Assistance Fund was established to assist families with these burdens.

The team of doctors, nurses and caregivers at Brenner provide all patients with the best medical care in the most technologically advanced setting, however community support is needed to help families with additional costs such as travel expenses, medications, meals, bereavement services, home health equipment and much more.

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During November, the 17th annual Cheers! for Brenner Children’s, benefits the Brenner Children’s Patient Assistance Fund. The entire month of Cheers! is presented by Simply Southern, which aligns their corporate and philanthropic vision in their mission statement, “To create quality, affordable products that make people smile and to always help out the less fortunate.” Brenner Children’s is honored to be a chosen community partner with Simply Southern and extends a very special thank you to them for helping Make Dreams Come True.

An Evening of Cheers! for Brenner Children’s, brought to you by dream-maker sponsor Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Carolinas Realty, will livestream from Truist Baseball Stadium on Friday, November 12, at 7 pm. This year’s event chairs Shannon and John Faircloth, invite you to tune in, support Brenner and help Make Dreams Come True! Once again, WGHP Fox-8’s Chad Tucker and his wife Meredith will be our emcees for the evening. They will be sharing an update on their daughter Pearl “Roe-Roe” Monroe’s journey as she continues battling leukemia at Brenner. In addition, the evening will feature: • Musical guests • Touching patient stories • Donor and sponsor testimonials

• Brenner mascots Brenn, Belle and Beau • Surprise finale • And MORE!

Amber, a Brenner Children’s patient, will get the chance to make her dreams come true thanks to pediatric cardiologist Dr. Michael Walsh, who repaired her heart when she was 4 months old.

The Be A Cheers! Leader fundraising campaign will support the event through do-it-yourself virtual fundraising experiences.

The campaign is designed to engage Friends of Brenner and community individuals interested in sharing their passion for Brenner Children’s with their family and friends. The effort is being co-chaired by Davida and Harold Martin and Amy and Preston Yates, all dedicated supporters of Brenner Children’s.

Visit an area Great Clips throughout November, get a haircut and support Brenner.

Great Clips, a Cheers! sweet dreams sponsor, is once again supporting Brenner Children’s with their cut-out campaign and offering a coupon off of your next haircut in exchange for a donation to Brenner. You can also purchase a “We Make Dreams Come True” yard sign at Triad-area locations.

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To learn more about Cheers! and how you can help Make Dreams Come True, visit BrennerChildrens. org/Cheers. For information about becoming a Cheers! sponsor, contact the Office of Philanthropy and Alumni Relations at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist at philanthropy@wakehealth.edu or 336-716-4589.

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BY LAUREN SEPHTON

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Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer, a food blogger and the official Forsyth Mags Foodie! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

No-Bake Cookie Butter Oat Squares Servings: 8 | Prep Time: 15 min | Total Time: 15 min

INGREDIENTS For the Oatmeal Layer: • 1 cup Ground Rolled Oats • 1/2 cup Almond Flour • 2 tbsp. Maple Syrup • 1 tbsp. Almond Butter • 2-3 tbsp. Water

For the Biscoff Layer: • 3/4 cup Biscoff (about 1/2 jar) For the Chocolate Layer: • 1 cup Dark or Milk Chocolate • 2 tbsp. Biscoff

INSTRUCTIONS For the Oatmeal Layer: 1. In a large bowl, whisk together the almond butter, 2 tbsp. water, and maple syrup. Add in the almond flour and ground oat flour, then use a rubber spatula to fold together until smooth, adding in more water, if necessary.

2. In a loaf pan lined with parchment paper, press the oatmeal batter evenly into the pan.

For the Biscoff Layer: 1. Add the Biscoff to a small saucepan over low heat to soften to drizzle over the oatmeal layer. Let cool in the fridge while tempering the chocolate.

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For the Chocolate Layer: 1. You can either temper the chocolate for smooth, luscious bites or simply add 1 tbsp. coconut oil into a bowl of the chocolate chips to microwave for 10-20 seconds, then drizzle over the Biscoff layer.

2. To temper, add the chocolate chips into the top bowl of a double boiler, or a large bowl over a small saucepan with boiling water (but don’t let the bowl touch the water). Melt the chocolate, stirring occasionally, until 120F. Then, set it aside to cool to 80F. Add back onto the double boiler to reheat to 100F, then drizzle over the Biscoff layer.

3. Heat up the remaining Biscoff over low heat until thin enough to drizzle horizontally over the chocolate. Using a small knife or fork, create ridges by lightly drawing vertical lines (see video).

4. Let cool in the fridge for 1-2 hours, or until set. To make it faster, place in the freezer for 10-20 minutes. Keep in the fridge for up to 5 days. Enjoy!

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THE BARN at REYNOLDA VILLAGE

BY BROOKE EAGLE

residents, fresh from the local spring.

Long after the days of housing cows and after many years of serving as a home to various shops and offices, the barn was renovated and reopened in 2016 as a private special event venue.

Spend an afternoon in Reynolda Village, and you’re bound to notice the happy hustle and bustle of event attendees coming and going from The Barn at Reynolda Village. From corporate meetings and retreats to rehearsal dinners and wedding celebrations, The Barn is an elegant host venue with a fascinating history.

As The Barn at Reynolda Village approaches its fifth anniversary, I spoke with its sales manager, Tabatha Renegar, about what makes The Barn at Reynolda Village so popular. “Our clients and guests simply adore the charm and elegance that The Barn offers. The crisp, white walls, combined with so much natural light and classic architecture, create an ideal warm, and inviting venue.”

As sales manager, Tabatha meets with all prospective clients to learn about their event needs and show them the many options that The Barn offers for social and corporate events alike.

What kind of events are people coming to The Barn to plan?

We are so lucky to be a good fit for so many kinds of gatherings! Our 2nd-floor spaces, The Attic and The Loft, do double duty as comfortable and well-appointed meeting rooms, and then they seamlessly transition into dressing rooms for our wedding couples. They are also great for small staff retreats and strategic planning sessions. On the Main Level, we enjoy booking everything from charming, private dinners for 12 to joyful receptions for 130!

Why would a business choose The Barn for a corporate function?

Besides the pleasing aesthetics of The Barn itself, it’s impossible to overstate the amenities that The Village offers! Free parking in a lovely setting, shops to explore, and diverse dining options. Not to mention the best operations manager in the Triad, my colleague, Dawn, who makes events stress-free and fun!

And your wedding packages are pretty special, too, right?

The New Dairy Barn, now The Barn at Reynolda Village, was designed by Charles Barton Keen in 1916, and it made Reynolda one of the most modern dairies of its time. In the 1900s, a modern farm wasn’t complete unless it had a dairy, and Katharine Reynolds saw to it that her “new dairy barn” was one of the best.

Oh my gosh, yes! From April through October, the historic Reynolda Gardens are a stunning and exclusive ceremony location, just a lovely four-minute stroll from The Barn. Receptions take place either on The Village Green in a custom tent installation or inside The Barn on the Main Level with the coolest looking bar in town, inside our silo!

The Dairy Barn was one of the first barns in the country to have a concrete floor.

Though expensive, the floor minimized the spread of bacteria which would spoil the milk. The cows were also given the same drinking water as the village

I am so lucky to be here! I get to spend my days in a beautiful setting, meeting people from all walks of life planning events for so many varied reasons!

I hear fun engagement stories, get to learn about people’s lives, and get to see beautiful events come to life. There’s no place I’d rather be!

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Autumn Chic at Penny Lane Boutique: Shop Local in Clemmons this Fall

BY AMY HILL

Looking to update your fall wardrobe by shopping local? Trade out your summer florals and sundresses for flannels and flare jeans. Whether you’re adding popular, trendy crop tops and shirt jackets to your closet this season, or you’re in search of classic cardigans to layer up for chilly weather, the team at Penny Lane Boutique will help you heat up your style as the days get cooler.

In the heart of Clemmons, Penny Lane Boutique draws in locals and out-oftown visitors on a daily basis. Shop owner Chris Hambrick is a resident of Clemmons herself and loves the smalltown feel of the area, which allows her and her team to foster friendly relationships with regular customers. In February 2013, Penny Lane first opened as a shop for upcycled furniture before becoming a clothing and accessory boutique. Chris didn’t expect Penny Lane to transform into a boutique until she began receiving positive feedback from customers when the furniture store began carrying accessories such as cardigans and wraps around the holidays. Once the world of clothing and apparel piqued her interest, it soon became clear to Chris that carrying a full inventory of furniture along with clothing would be overwhelming. Soon enough, she bit the bullet and made the decision to transition from selling furniture to fashion. From an exciting new business venture to a stylish local favorite, Penny Lane Boutique shed its former furniture skin and rapidly became a Clemmons staple.

Penny Lane Boutique offers shoppers a wide variety of clothing items and accessories for all ages, personalities, and budgets. While the boutique is especially popular among 25 to 30 year-olds, young and older adults have no issue finding pieces to buy that catch their eye. According to Chris, even her 75-year-old mother rarely leaves the store empty-handed, and neither does Chris’s 19-year-old daughter. With such versatile pieces to choose from, Penny Lane is the ideal shop for a Saturday morning girls’ day out.

To set Penny Lane apart from other great boutiques in the Triad, Chris

keeps the shop’s emphasis on unique clothing items and accessories instead of gifts and collectibles. From cozy athleisure to dresses for a night out, browse the racks at Penny Lane for any occasion.

According to Chris, stocking the boutique’s shelves with classic staples is imperative, but she likes to add her own personal, funky flair to much of the boutique’s inventory. Although the shop doesn’t currently sell plus-size clothing, many brands sold online and in-store such as Z Supply carry sizes ranging from extra-small to extra-large to fit all body types.

Over the last year, Chris and her team at Penny Lane adapted to challenges presented by the pandemic and upgraded their customers’ online shopping experience. By utilizing the CommentSold mobile shopping app, online shopping has never been easier or more interactive. Penny Lane customers can snag their favorite items while tuning into the boutique’s weekly live streams after-hours on the Penny Lane Boutique app and on Facebook. First-time app users can take 20% off their first purchase by using the offer code “FIRST’’ at checkout.

Additionally, Penny Lane participates in a rewards program through the app, allowing customers to earn rewards through purchases and customer referrals. As a matter of fact, referred customers receive a discount as well.

To make things even easier, all online or in-app purchases can be shipped to customers’ homes or picked up in-store.

Ready to get started? Visit Penny Lane Boutique on Tuesdays through Fridays from 10:00 a.m. until 5:00 p.m., or on Saturdays from 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.

To shop online, visit the shop’s website at pennylanebtq.com and download the CommentSold mobile app to your smartphone or tablet. Watch the team weekly on Facebook Live and register using the link pennylane.commentsold. com to start shopping. Follow @penny_ lane_boutique on Instagram to stay up to date on the latest sales and hot new items. For all other inquiries, call the boutique directly at (336)-661-8336.

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October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month Supporting Those With Breast Cancer

BY SUSAN B. B. SCHABACKER

Breast Cancer Awareness Month is this October! From spreading awareness to campaigning and fundraising, there are many helpful ways to support and empower women with breast cancer.

Use positive affirmations to empower, uplift, motivate, and inspire you. Read this affirmation to yourself every day and internalize every word as you look in the mirror. You can also record it as an audio memo on your phone and play it back to yourself anytime.

BREAST CANCER STATS AND FACTS

“I am a strong, courageous, and independent woman of true worth, and I value who I uniquely am. Whatever the size or shape of my breasts, or if I’ve had to have them removed, I am beautiful inside and out. And, whether or not I have hair on my head, I’m authentically beautiful and one-of-a-kind. I don’t have to look like anyone else because I am happy and best at being uniquely me. I am always loved and am grateful for the life I’ve been given. I will not be afraid of breast cancer, of losing my breasts or hair, of pain, or of dying, and will live my life as the best version of me. Even if I have been diagnosed with breast cancer, I will do my best to survive it and thrive. I choose to be thankful for what I have. I choose to love myself and others. I choose to focus on living and being as happy and healthy as possible. I choose to make peace with myself, however I look or feel and whatever I do in life. I know I will be okay and choose to seize the day!”

As the most common cancer for American women, there is a 1 in 8 chance for women in the US to develop breast cancer. In many cases, with early detection, there is a 98% chance of surpassing the fiveyear survival rate, and there are over 3.8 million breast cancer survivors in the US today. Regular mammograms and self-examinations are essential to monitoring breast health.

Whether you’re battling breast cancer or are at high risk for developing cancer, there are many ways to increase longevity and help prevent breast cancer. Here are some suggestions to integrate into your everyday lifestyle right now: • Eat a healthy fiber-rich diet with a variety of fruits and veggies • Stay active with regular exercise • Maintain a healthy weight • Limit alcohol to one drink a day • Limit postmenopausal hormone therapy • Don’t smoke • Get enough Vitamin D found in food or through vitamin supplementation • Avoid chemicals like parabens which can disrupt your endocrine system • Amp up on antioxidants such as those found in green tea, berries, and pomegranate • Try yoga, Pilates, or tai chi • Practice deep breathing and mindfulness for healing and relaxation • Detox from toxins, chemicals, heavy metals, and stress • Massage your breasts regularly with an organic plant-based carrier oil mixed with essential oils

Good news! There are bountiful benefits of gentle breast massage, including healing breast tissue, clearing toxins, increasing circulation and “qi” energy, and promoting lymphatic flow and drainage. You can easily DIY and embrace your senses with scent-ual aromas.

BEAUTIFUL BREASTS WOMEN’S MASSAGE OIL Ingredients: Carrier oils: Almond, olive, jojoba, primrose, and coconut oil Essential oils: lavender, grapefruit, thyme, frankincense, cypress, geranium, clary sage, and wild orange, sweet marjoram, and/or ylang ylang.

Instructions: Pour carrier oil, along with two capsules of vitamin E oil (optional), followed by essential oil(s) into a plastic bottle. Dilute essential oil(s) of choice with 8-12 drops in 1-ounce carrier oil of choice. Secure lid and shake gently to blend.

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FOR FANS OF FOOD! ARTICLE & PHOTOS BY LAUREN SEPHTON

A 21 year old chef with a college degree and one cookbook already under her belt, Lauren Sephton’s enthusiasm for food is almost extravagant. She doesn’t just eat food, she celebrates it; she doesn’t just prepare meals for people, she lavishes her dishes on them. A foodie who knows how to feast, photograph and formulate her own recipes and articles for Forsyth Woman, Lauren is our Forsyth Mags Foodie!

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At Jeffrey Adams, you’ll find nothing short of a bold and innovative menu that features seasonal ingredients from local farms, including their very own, Andrews’ Farm, in King, NC. To put it simply, the food was amazing, the staff was top-notch, and the atmosphere warmly invited all who passed by on their stroll through the heart of downtown Winston-Salem. From its contemporary flares to its steaks and burgers that are cooked on a wood-fired grill, your experience is guaranteed to be incredible.

The evening began with their featured appetizer, an Espressorubbed Hanger Steak with housemade Hot Bourbon Pickles and a Chipotle Cream Sauce. This hanger steak was rich and full of a hearty, beefy flavor complemented by the bold espresso rub. Plated with a vibrant chipotle sauce that was both creamy and smoky in flavor, the hanger steak’s juicy and tender texture was unmatched. It may just be the best-kept secret that you won’t find on their traditional menu.

The hanger steak was then followed by their classic Trio of Dips appetizer that was beautifully plated with thin slices of baguettes lightly drizzled with olive oil and toasted for the perfect crunch as you dip. The first dip highlighted was their Smoked Gouda Pimento Cheese that was a little buttery from the gouda, mildly peppery from the pimento cheese, and had a slightly sweet caramel undertone.

The second dip was the iconic Whipped Boursin Cheese that was speckled with little chunks of shallots and chives. Lastly, their iconic Confit Garlic Hummus is made with tender, creamy garlic cloves that have been roasted at low heats to add a soft richness and flavor that is unlike the typical bitterness of raw garlic.

Moving onto the entrees, we began the first of two brilliant dishes with a heavenly, wood-fired Seared Ahi Tuna with a Chili-Ginger Glaze. It was topped with an Asian Slaw for a mild salty-sweet crunch and served over a creamy Sweet Potato Mash that could almost make a run for your grandma’s. And to finish off the beautifully plated

entree was the addition of vibrant green asparagus, whose salty and earthy notes balanced out the natural sweetness from the mashed potatoes and soy reduction.

Next on the menu was their featured Tri-Peppered Encrusted New York Strip Steak that was again seared to perfection over their woodfired grill, peppery on the outside and tender on the inside. The steak was served with our publisher Brooke Eagle’s all-time favorite JA side dish, Fried Brussel Sprouts, and I can understand why they’re her favorite now. The Brussel sprouts were mildly sweet with nutty notes, crispy in every bite, and utterly irresistible! And to top it all off, the steak was plated with a small sauce dish filled with their housemade Creamy Peppercorn Brandy Sauce that was a match made in heaven.

With stomachs full and satisfied, we rounded out the evening with a wonderful twist. Their Chocolate Crème Brûlée was the perfect combination of sweet vanilla and a chocolatey custard base that was surprisingly light, fluffy, and unlike any I’ve tasted before. Topped with caramelized sugar for added crunch and fresh strawberries, this is sure to become a new fan favorite in my household.

And if you’re on the hunt for your next aesthetically pleasing cocktail, look no further. Brooke and Michelle, our Social Media Manager, thoroughly enjoyed the Jeffrey Adam’s Bourbon Berry Smash that featured fresh blackberries, a housemade sour for acidity, and edible flowers to brighten your evening. Another favorite was their Citron Elite which was almost like a top-shelf margarita with another housemade blood orange simple, smoked bitters, and fresh orange peel. And lastly was their famous Berry Basil Sangria made with fresh strawberries, lemon, fresh basil, and topped with Pinot Grigio.

Thank you, Jeffrey Adams and staff, for one of the most amazing dinners! And if your stomach is grumbling like mine, here is your sign to head on over to Jeffrey Adams and tell them that the Forsyth Mags Foodie said hi!

On the Road Again: Northern California

BY AMY HILL

Since the state of California is so diverse, it’s nearly impossible to visit the entire state in only seven days.

To make the most of a week-long trip, break the state in half. Here’s how to spend seven days in the northern half of the Golden State.

Day 1: Arrive in Monterey

Book a flight for an arrival into Monterey Regional Airport (MRY) and a departure out of Redding Airport (RDD), and arrange a rental car to be picked up and dropped off accordingly. Upon arrival into stunning Monterey, I recommend staying in a hotel in the Downtown area close to the Monterey Marina for the best maritime views.

Because you likely had a long flight with a layover or two, ease into the evening by taking a stroll around town and the boardwalk at Del Monte Beach. Have a fresh seafood dinner at one of the various eateries on the wharf and watch boats leave and enter the harbor.

Day 2: Peruse the Pacific

Monterey visitors soak in gorgeous views of rocky cliffs pouring into the Pacific Ocean along the 17Mile Drive. Although it is a toll road, the views and vista points along the way are well worth the small fee. At the end of the 17-Mile Drive, take a break and catch some rays at Carmel River State Beach.

A short drive south of Carmel River State Beach is Point Lobos Nature Preserve, featuring gorgeous nature trails and plenty of opportunities to spot birds and sea lions.

Day 3: San Francisco

Wake up early and leave Monterey for your next two nights in San Francisco. After navigating through traffic and checking into your hotel, visit iconic touristy spots such as the Golden Gate

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Bridge, drive the famous switchbacks of Lombard Street, and snack on fried fish and clam chowder at Fisherman’s Wharf. If you need a break from city life without leaving the city, burn some extra calories in nature and walk along Lovers’ Lane at the Presidio.

coconut chia seed pudding and a watermelon “frosé,” an ice cold beverage made of local Sonoma rosé wine, fresh watermelon, and lime juice. Once you’re done wandering the streets of Sonoma, continue on your journey to Redding for the evening.

Day 4: Alcatraz Island

Day 6: Lassen Volcanic National Park

No visit to San Francisco is complete without exploring historical Alcatraz Island, the notorious former maximum security prison home to famous and dangerous inmates such as Al Capone and Robert Stroud. Accessible by ferry, visit www. cityexperiences.com/san-francisco/city-cruises/ alcatraz to find ferry departure schedules, tour options, and information about the island. I strongly advise all first-time Alcatraz visitors to at least utilize the audio-guided tours in order to make the experience as enriching as possible.

Traveling with children or teenagers? Encourage them to watch Escape from Alcatraz before the trip to provide them with more context and pique their interest ahead of time.

Day 5: Stop in Sonoma

Pack up the car early in the morning and head 3.5 hours north to the city of Redding. Along the way, stop for brunch in charming, artsy Sonoma, and participate in a wine tasting at one of Sonoma’s top-notch wineries if you have a designated driver.

Sunflower Caffé is the optimum spot for a quick brunch, with the summertime menu sporting a

In comparison to nearby Yosemite and Sequoia National Parks, Lassen Volcanic National Park often flies under the radar. On a smaller scale, Lassen Volcanic National Park can be compared to Yellowstone, featuring hydrothermal areas, hiking trails, waterfalls, and mountain views. Perfect for a fall visit, Lassen is less than an hour east of Redding. Be sure to stay on marked trails and obey all rules in the park, especially in hydrothermal areas where visitors who stray off the beaten path are likely to suffer burns and/or health problems caused by sulphuric acid and gases in the water.

Day 7: Head Home

After nearly a week of exploring the beauty of Northern California, catch a flight home out of the small Redding Airport. Catch a quick breakfast ahead of time, since dining options in the airport are slim. If you’re sad about leaving, spend the long flight home planning how to spend another seven days in the southern half of the state on your next trip out west.

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Something About Him

BY GENEVIEVE CONDON

Adam was about as entertaining as watching paint dry. He tried his best to make conversation, but that went south when he asked me if I wanted to hear a joke. That’s the thing with blind dates, there was no establishing chemistry beforehand. You just took a chance and hoped for the best. My current situation was a 30-year-old man with a receding hairline who thought math was a fantastic dinner conversation.

“Two random variables were talking in a bar.

They thought they were being discreet, but I heard their chatter continuously.” Adam laughed. I smiled to be polite.

“Do you get it? Two variables?” Adam tried to continue but was interrupted.

“Excuse me, Emery?” I blinked and tried not to drool at the perfect male specimen that stood in front of me. He was tall and dressed in a black suit that hugged all the right parts of his body.

He unbuttoned the jacket, letting it flow open as he spoke to me. He was amazing to look at.

Problem was, I had no idea who he was.

“Yes?” I looked between him and Adam.

“There’s been an emergency at the hospital, and you’re needed. We tried to call you, but your phone must be dead.” Adam looked down at his plate and the stranger winked at me and mouthed, “I’m saving you.”

“Oh, yes. An emergency.” I pushed my chair back. “I’m so sorry Adam. Duty calls.”

I shook it and smiled at the firmness of his handshake. And the size of his hands.

Both impressive.

“I’m Emery. But you probably know that already. Do you always eavesdrop on others’ dates?” I teased.

“Occasionally. His jokes were even terrifying to me.

I don’t know how you lasted that long.”

“After his last joke about the variables I was going to send an SOS text to my friend to call me and say there was an emergency. You beat me to it.”

“I’m happy to help.” He shoved his hands in his pockets and looked away.

“Well, I better get going.”

My date was a bust. My night that I hoped was promising was now going nowhere. Standing in front of me was a guy that we already had a better conversation than the past hour I spent with Adam.

“Want to go get a drink? I mean, if you have plans, that’s cool, but to repay the favor. Since you saved me and all.”

Logan smiled. “Sure. I’d like that. There’s a good bar right down the street.”

“Sounds perfect.”

We walked side by side, talking a bit about ourselves. He was a lawyer. The managing partner of some big law firm in downtown Boston. I told him a few stories of me working in the ER as a doctor.

“Let’s go.” He put his hand on the small of my back and he guided me.

Once in the park, Logan brought me to a tree that we sat underneath.

“It isn’t the bar, but it’ll do.” Logan commented.

“That it will. You’re much better company than Mr. Mathematician.”

“I tell better jokes, too.” Logan stretched out, his long, lean body pressing against his suit.

“What?” he asked, as I looked him up and down.

“You look good in that suit.” I said, half coughing to hide my nerves.

“Why, thank you. It gets boring wearing them all the time.”

“I wear scrubs every day. I get it.” I rested my head against the tree and closed my eyes.

“I think scrubs are hot.” I opened my eyes just as Logan leaned forward. He was going to kiss me.

“Hey! Parks closed!” A cop shined their flashlight on us. “Stay right there!”

“Hope you can run, hot stuff!” He took off in a sprint as the cops called after us. I lost track of him after we exited the park. Stopping, I caught my breath.

Logan was nowhere in sight.

I didn’t even get his number. With a sigh, I continued walking down the street.

I paused outside of a bar, the neon lights flashing.

“Whatever. I need a drink.” Once inside I sidled up to the bar and ordered a Jack and Coke.

“Take care.” I waved as I was whisked away by the mystery man. Once outside of the restaurant, we both stopped.

“Let’s go sit in the park.” I recommended.

“To what could have been.” With a long pull of my drink, I relished in the burn. As I put my drink down, I was whipped around, coming face to face with Logan. With a smile, he leaned forward and pressed his lips against mine.

“It’s after dark.”

“Whoa!” I said, steading myself on the stool.

“Sorry about that. I was sitting next to you and couldn’t stand to listen to the torture that you were being put through. I’ve been on a few blind dates myself and wished someone would have saved me. I’m Logan, by the way.” He held out his hand for me to shake.

“Let’s be rebellious.” I grinned.

“Now you know what could have been.”

With a smile, he sat next to me.

“Oh, yeah sure. Life of a doctor.”

“Man, we passed by the bar.” We came to a stop at a local park.

“I knew I liked you.” Logan said with a laugh.

“The cops aren’t kind around here. Trust me.”

“It’s okay. I know a good lawyer.” I winked.

“Let me tell you a joke—” I laughed as Logan told the corniest joke. But I didn’t mind because there was something about him. Something that I liked.

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Remembering a Son Who Had a Zest for Life

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

It’s been said, “It’s not the years in one’s life that counts, but the life in one’s years.” For Zane Snider, although his life was only 19 years long, he made that time count with his faith, a love of family and friends, and a passion for food and cooking now being lived out by his family, through Zany Flavors, a unique twist on old fashioned flavors.

When Sharon and Greg Snider were expecting their third child, at 16 weeks, they were given devastating news about their unborn baby. “We were told that Zane would be born with half a heart, HLHS (hypoplastic left heart syndrome), and given four options, including ending the pregnancy. Our decision was a series of three surgeries called The Norwood Procedures, the first one when Zane was two days old. When you face a series of surgeries, doctors do a body map to direct them during following surgeries. But he healed a bit differently than expected, so when his third surgery was performed, a nerve was nicked causing his right lung to collapse.

From this issue, Zane developed PLE (Protein-Losing Enteropathy), the inability to process proteins in his gut, and as a result, suffered from terminal malnutrition. At the age of four, Zane got a G-tube for his feeding,” recalled Sharon. While Zane could eat food, his inability to always digest it, led to an obsession with food. In his 19 years on this earth, Zane’s love of food, flavorings, and cooking grew exponentially, with much time spent planning meals, cooking, and canning with his mom.

“Zane had times of remission from PLE when he could eat whatever he wanted to eat. He was the one that planned our menus for family dinners on Saturday nights; he also planned our holiday gatherings. Seasonally, Zane and I would make jellies and jams, and can produce. Zane never met a recipe he didn’t want to tweak and experiment with. I made a pepper jam recipe and Zane wanted to make it hotter. My time with Zane in the kitchen was so special. One of his goals was to attend a culinary school. The second was to preach at Christian camps for teens, but that didn’t happen,” Sharon said.

On May 19, 2015, Zane had the first total artificial heart transplant performed at Duke, to address the hypoplastic left heart syndrome with which he was born. After 117 days in the hospital, Zane passed away on September 6, 2015 of complications from PLE. Because Zane was such a part of Sharon’s love of making jams and jellies, she had to step back for a time from the passion she and Zane shared.

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OCTOBER 2020: THE BIRTH OF, ZANY FLAVORS!

“Just a few years ago, I started making jams and jellies again, using some recipes inspired by Zane over the years.

Our friends Anna and Mark Anders, who own and operate a hydroponics farm in Tobaccoville, NC (Anders Family Farm), shared with me that their customers were asking if they knew of anyone making owner/grower jellies to be used in making vinagrettes. What we didn’t grow at our farm we got from the Anders (sadly, Mark Anders passed away from COVID in August of this year). We did a bit of a test run and sold out quickly. There was definitely a market for my products and in October of 2020, we opened Zany Flavors.

My husband and I have a family farm in Ohio with an orchard of fruit trees, assorted fruits, and berries, as well as the peppers and vegetables we grow here in our greenhouse in North Carolina. We grow as many ingredients as we can to use in our products. This year we grew 30 varieties of peppers which we smoke, dehydrate, and use fresh for our recipes and for Purely Pepper seasonings. We also grow and dry our own herbs.

Customers can purchase our items at Dragonfly Market on Dalton Road in King, NC, Mawmaw’s Market in Kernersville, and Angelina’s Teas on Stratford, as well as through Zany Flavors Facebook and email. I have unique jellies like dandelion with orange blossoms, violet jelly, and other florals to mention a few. A more complete listing of flavors is on our Facebook page.

We have two sizes: 4 oz and 8 oz, but apple butter also comes in 16 oz jars.

We press our own pear and apple cider made at our orchard in Ohio for use in our jams and jellies. As the holidays approach, we have charcuterie boards we pair with three different flavors of 4 oz jars, Purely Pepper seasoning, biscotti, Grandma’s Gingersnaps, or Zany Gingersnaps, which was Zane’s secret spicy recipe!

My daughter, Mary Kathryn, designed our logo, which is a heart representing Zane’s total artificial heart: Zany Flavors is written in the form of an EKG. Although Zane is no longer with us, he continues to be the inspiration for everything I make,” Sharon commented.

For more info on Zany Flavors, check them out on Facebook or email Sharon at zanyflavors@gmail.com.

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Innovating Equitable School Choice Have you ever asked someone about what she does for a living and discover immediately in her answer that she is perfect for her job?! The answer leaves you hopeful for the future and maybe a little jealous as you hear the energy and enthusiasm in the person’s voice. Not everyone finds their career calling right out of school or can maintain their passion for it longterm. Dr. Karen Roseboro is one of those passionate educators in the WinstonSalem / Forsyth County School system (WS/FCS) that is the perfect match for her new role as the Chief Officer of Choice and Magnet Schools. In this role, she will be responsible for creating innovative and equitable school choice systems that ensure fair and informed school options for all students and their families. Dr. Roseboro has only served in this position for one month but has been preparing for it almost her whole life and has experience at almost every school administration level. Her passion and preparation for this important role should bring hope to any family with a child in the WS/FCS system!

Dr. Roseboro is a product of the WS/FCS system. She attended Paisley Middle School and graduated from Mount Tabor High School in 1995. While at Paisley, she met a pivotal mentor in her educational journey, Ms. Sarah Alston, who taught her language arts, and a love for reading.

Ms. Alston would stay with her after school until her mother, who worked second shift, could pick her up. She proved that a caring teacher could build confidence and transform the trajectory of a child’s life. While serving as the Student Body President her senior year at Mount Tabor, Dr. Roseboro was encouraged by her history teacher, Mr. John Giles, to get involved in attending school board meetings regarding redistricting as a student representative.

These early experiences influenced her decision to attend East Carolina University (ECU), and she earned

the ECU Chancellor’s Minority Leadership award. She changed her major from nursing to history education and sociology, leading to a teaching profession and working with students with behavioral health issues and learning disabilities. After teaching for four years, Dr. Roseboro gained her administration certificate and became the youngest assistant principal in the WS/ FCS at the time, at 27 years young! She later served as a principal, eventually leading the North Hills school in the neighborhood where she grew up. She also served as an area school superintendent. She accomplished these goals while raising a family and working fulltime. “Where we start in life is not where we end in life” is true for Dr. Roseboro’s educational journey, even though she has come back to the school system that helped prepare her for a career in education. Her passion and energy are contagious when she says, “I’m sowing seeds of greatness into the lives of young people in my community.”

Dr. Roseboro’s impact on her community started well before this new role at WS/FCS. She was instrumental in several innovative grant-supported programs benefiting teachers, students, and families. The Opportunity Culture program encouraged teachers to stay in the classroom with financial incentives. She led the WS/FCS Equity Access and Acceleration team, which supported the newly developed Office of Equity.

She is now leading and transforming the school choice system that helps parents and students make informed decisions about the array of school options in WS/FCS schools, from residential schools, magnet schools, and choice schools. Dr. Roseboro describes the vision for the school choice process as parent-friendly, equitable, multilingual, and composed of worthwhile choices for all students. Students and families can submit their top schools and are guaranteed one of their preferred choices.

Dr. Roseboro is an innovator and admits that the pandemic pressured the community to be more innovative and attentive to the needs of underserved families. She facilitated the work of the Care Teams that engaged with underserved families, “boots on the ground” per Dr. Roseboro, in collaboration with other agencies to provide technology access, educational resources, and food to those in need.

Her hope is that these collaborative efforts continue in the future because our children deserve the best of everything. “It only takes a few people to believe.”

We believe in you, Dr. Roseboro!

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An Eye for Design We all deserve a little luxury in our day-to-day lives, and there’s no better place to start than your master bedroom. Even when you’re redecorating, the bedroom often slips to the bottom of the list. So, start thinking dreamy: Don’t leave your bedroom as a last thought.

Do give it – and yourself – some well-deserved love.

Let’s consider your master bedroom one of the most important rooms of the home, and let’s update it to bring about instant Zen, as it becomes your haven for relaxation and peaceful slumber. Now, let’s talk linens. We make it a pleasure to select your new linens and bedding accessories with one easy visit to our retail store. Just imagine the possibilities!

Does a romantic bed straight from a Tennessee Williams novel sound appealing? From our collection of multiple luxury lines, Bella Notte has you covered with its scalloped edges, all-over embroidery, rich silk or cotton velvets, ruffles, lace, and buttery feel linens. Even the soft shades -- Mineral, White Velvets, Winter White, Greens, Cloud -- evoke pure tranquility. These irresistible linens are manufactured in the U.S. with non-toxic dyes, and only get softer with each washing.

If a crisp, more tailored look is your style, then I recommend Sferra, an Italian bedding we carry that uses premium Egyptian cotton so fine it is referred to as “The Queen of the Nile.” With double-faced sheeting, the reverse side is as sleek as the front side, delivering elegance with easy care and durability.

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Peacock Alley believes in the beauty of simplicity enhanced by exquisite detail, and if you prefer a classic look, this bedding line will catch your eye. We offer several selections of beautiful Matelassé coverlets and fine Italian linens, in a variety of shades from neutrals to vibrant colors. Peacock Alley is also famous for their designer linen print duvets and pillow shams. Fresh florals, modern plaids, architecturally inspired prints, and subtle sophistication can be used for these brands of bedding.

Exquisite Taylor Linens, offer French linen curtains, as well as nostalgic and vintage coverlets, plus specialty pillows with a fresh feel you’ll fall in love with immediately.

We also carry Eastern Accents, Annie Selke Pine Cone Hill and Lili Alexander fine linen lines we can order, and have a studio/retail space with samples galore to order from. Once you’ve chosen your favorite from among our fine linens, we can also custom make finishing touches such as bed skirts, throws and pillows.

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Call us at June DeLugas Interiors and let your next design project be the creation of a completely new dream bedroom!

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Keeping Local Ladies Connected and Looking Luminous

BY AMY HILL

Located on Burke Street in Downtown Winston-Salem, Lash & Blade is a cosmetic tattoo and lash studio specializing in lash extensions and cosmetic tattoos. Opened by Caitlyn Wright in May 2019, Lash & Blade also offers services such as teeth whitening, dermaplaning, and tooth gems. All artists at Lash & Blade have been thoroughly trained by Caitlyn in each service provided and are a tight-knit group of women with a passion for what they do.

Although Lash & Blade has made a name for itself as a stunning studio in the community, Caitlyn’s climb to becoming a successful business owner didn’t happen overnight. She started working her first job at McDonald’s when she was 16 years old, and worked as a waitress at Mellow Mushroom for three years while she studied medical sonography at Forsyth Technical Community College. In August 2017, Caitlyn enrolled in Leon’s Beauty School before discovering that she was pregnant a couple of weeks later. Caitlyn pushed through her pregnancy in order to graduate from beauty school, in addition to waiting tables to pay for her tuition. After graduating and giving birth to her son Carson in April 2018, she became trained in applying lash extensions, lash lifting, and microblading, and even traveled to California for additional training. Despite the pandemic, she took a leap of faith and moved from a 100-square foot studio space to the studio’s current and much larger location in July 2020.

When Caitlyn met Urbn Girl owner Katie Shaver, along with Jordan Vines, the owner and photographer of Vines Studios, the trio decided to form an alliance among their fellow female business owners who might be struggling during the throes of the COVID-19 pandemic.

Known as the WSNC GIRL GANG, the trio and their newfound group of female business owners organized giveaways and two outdoor, socially distanced events to support local businesses in need. Soon enough, WSNC GIRL GANG became a social media sensation, reaching 2,000 local followers and counting on Instagram, and 300 official members on Facebook. “We are amazed at the growth GIRL GANG has seen and we hope to expand throughout the state,” explains Caitlyn. “GIRL GANG is all about supporting one another and creating connections and friendships.”

Events sponsored by WSNC GIRL GANG donate to various causes and give back to the community.

In fact, the group hosts four events each year as the seasons change. On October 3rd, GIRL GANG is hosting a Halloween Bash, asking members to bring clothing items or toiletries upon entry that will be donated to a local women’s shelter. If you missed the chance to purchase a ticket to

GIRL GANG’s Halloween Bash this fall, keep your eyes peeled for the group’s upcoming event this winter. Due to the dynamic nature of the pandemic, future events are subject to change and are constantly in the works. Follow @girlgangwsnc on Instagram to keep up with the GANG’S whereabouts and stay up to date on special events. If you’re a local female business owner interested in becoming an official member, request membership through the @girlgangwsnc Facebook page and fill out the team’s questionnaire.

According to Caitlyn, “We urge everyone to join our community of like-minded women, especially during this crazy pandemic where life is so stressful and uncertain.”

If your eyebrows are in need of some serious post-lockdown TLC, Caitlyn and her team are here to help. In addition to microblading and waxing, Lash & Blade also offers semi-permanent brow lamination services designed to help your brows grow thicker and darker, with results lasting for six to eight weeks. Considering investing in lash extensions? At Lash & Blade, extensions are applied correctly and will not damage your natural lashes, thanks to the studio’s licensed and trained professionals. Put down the tweezers and mascara and enlist the help of the Lash & Blade squad to keep your face looking fresh.

Want to book an appointment? Visit lashandbladewsnc.com to schedule. Keep up with Caitlyn and her team on Instagram at @ lashandbladewsnc, and follow the studio on Facebook for the latest news and updates.

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CELEBRATING ORTHODONTIC HEALTH!

Lucky patients of Salem Smiles Orthodontics continue to beam – about their beautiful smiles! – and are also eager to share with others their experiences of first-class care at the well-loved Winston-Salem practice.

Sarah C. Shoaf, DDS, MEd, MS, has been an orthodontist in the Winston-Salem area since 1992, as well as being the only orthodontist in Winston-Salem who is a Diplomate of the American Board of Orthodontics, a status requiring rigorous work and study. Her enthusiasm for the field is evident in her stellar patient philosophy and her staff’s continuing quest to make orthodontics a positive, healthful journey for all.

She and her incredible staff especially love the month of October – when they can celebrate Orthodontic National Health Month – and are excited to enjoy an entire month devoted to celebrating healthy smiles, the immense importance of good oral health, and the many, many benefits of orthodontic treatment. They were happy to share their expertise and remind Forsyth Woman readers about the primary reasons professional orthodontic care is vital to life overall!

TOP FIVE BENEFITS OF GOOD ORTHODONTICS 1. Good teeth – You need teeth to chew and to smile – two important activities! Good digestive health starts with the proper chewing of food, so the stomach and other organs do not have to overwork, causing digestive pain and issues.

Digestion is also crucial to gaining needed nutrients from your food for total body health.

2. Proper alignment – Good orthodontic treatment gives the optimum jaw alignment to avoid the frustration of TMJ problems, and other jaw and tooth pain.

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3. Better access – Well-aligned teeth give you easy access to properly clean your teeth and keep your gums healthy. It’s much easier to clean thoroughly when teeth are straight and aligned than when they are crooked!

4. The best gingival health – Studies show people with poor gum health and periodontitis have a greater chance for cardiac problems, such as heart attacks or stroke. Keeping gums healthy can avoid cardiac illness … and many other ailments!

5. Self-confidence – Whether you are looking at senior graduation portraits or wedding day photographs, having a great smile gives you confidence and provides a proud, lasting memory. Studies have also shown the job applicant who has a good smile is more likely to get the job than someone with poor dental alignment, especially in people-oriented jobs, such as sales positions. Even with Zoom meetings, people look closely at a co-worker’s mouth and overall face to “read” what they are saying. Putting forth a nice smile means you care about yourself and have the self-confidence to take positive steps to put your best face forward in every situation!

Visit salemsmilesortho.com online for more information, to meet their amazing staff, and learn what to expect at your initial free consultation. Salem Smiles Orthodontics is open for patient care Monday through Thursday, 8 a.m. – 5 p.m., and closed for lunch from 12 noon to 1 p.m. The administrative side of the office is open on Fridays from 8 a.m. to 12 noon to allow patients and parents to make appointments or payments. Salem Smiles is easy to reach at the corner of Reynolda Road and Northwest Blvd, at 1063 W Northwest Blvd, in Winston-Salem. Call them at 336-725-5757.

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BY AMY HILL

Having lived in Winston-Salem for over two years, I had heard locals rave about Childress Vineyards and was encouraged to visit many times, but I had never experienced its greatness for myself. One weekend, I bit the bullet and booked an early lunch at the Bistro in the Pavilion, the vineyard’s onsite eatery, not knowing quite what was in store.

Opened in 2004 by NASCAR legend and hall of fame member Richard Childress, a native to the greater Triad area, Lexington-based Childress Vineyards has excelled at producing award winning wines to wine lovers and NASCAR fans alike. Inspired by his past experience in visiting wineries and vineyards in Sonoma, CA, alongside his friend and fellow NASCAR phenom Dale Earnhardt, Richard’s goal in opening Childress Vineyards was to bring a bit of Sonoma’s wine country home to North Carolina.

Almost immediately upon my arrival, I was taken aback by the vineyard grounds’ serene beauty. At the Bistro, I ordered a trusty glass of Cellar Select Sauvignon Blanc to get the day started. Although most experienced wine drinkers would likely pair a heartier red wine with their steak, my untrained palette took quite nicely to the combination of a crisp white with a petite filet of beef - medium rare, of course.

After finishing my meal, I perused the gourmet goods and charming collectibles in the gift shop. Fortunately for me, Childress Vineyards added a daily Seasonal Sips Wine Tasting to its list of amenities in early summer. Since it was a warm, sunny day, I was enticed by the new Sun-Kissed fruit wines on the menu and opted for the peach blend, which was the perfect fruity refresher I needed as I relaxed at an outdoor table overlooking the vineyard.

Although Childress Vineyards attracts many NASCAR fans, its customer demographic extends beyond racing and wine enthusiasts. Due to its central location, visitors traveling north and south, or from the mountains to the coast, stop in along their journey to tour the facility. Brides and grooms

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looking to book a picturesque wedding venue flock to reserve a date at Childress Vineyards, some as early as three years in advance.

The vineyard is able to accommodate groups of all sizes with three different tastings offered daily. Small-group top tier tasters can enjoy an elevated Luxe Wine Tasting experience in the Victory Lounge, complete with a souvenir wine glass and the expertise of Childress wine specialists. Independent visitors can grab a wine flight and taste four of Childress Vineyards’ unique blends at their leisure.

As fall approaches, many believe cooler weather calls for earthier red wines as opposed to whites. Feeling a bit daring? The vineyard introduced its specialty Devil’s Tribute wine two years ago, with a whopping ALC of 15.9%. This dry red blend is aged in whiskey barrels and surprises sippers with a taste of fire whiskey on the back end. If you’re looking to go against the grain and choose an autumn white over red, Childress’s award-winning Reserve Sauvignon Blanc also packs a punch with an ALC of 14.2%. After all, the team at Childress Vineyards doesn’t believe in conventional wine rules, and encourages experienced and novice wine drinkers to follow their heart’s desire.

If you’re looking for something on the sweeter side, Childress offers eight different flavors of wine slushies, along with specialty fruit, muscadine, and sangria blends. Had I not already enjoyed two glasses of wine before noon, I would have gladly purchased a mimosa flight - leaving me with the perfect excuse to visit again soon.

Interested in touring Childress Vineyards or booking an event? Visit the website at www.childressvineyards.com to view operating hours, book a reservation at the Bistro, or shop for wine, gift baskets, and other products online. To stay up-to-date on the latest news and events, subscribe to the Vineyard’s newsletter, check out the venue’s Facebook page, and follow @childresswines on Instagram.

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Pat’s Body Shop & Towing Keeps Your Motor Running and Muscles Growing

BY AMY HILL

With cooler weather on the way, it’s time to make sure your vehicle is in perfect condition for the fall and winter months ahead. Want to make sure your headlights are bright and your heater is nice and toasty?

Pat’s Body Shop & Towing, located on Country Club Road, offers topnotch customer service, complete automotive and collision repair services, and restorative services such as body repair, painting, and interior repair. As the days get shorter, the team at Pat’s Body Shop also offers 24/7 towing, making sure you’re covered around the clock.

Sandra Scarlette purchased the body shop in 1997, putting the shop on the map as one of the few womanowned body shops in the nation.

Previously owned by her brother Pat, Pat’s Body Shop is the 2nd largest woman-owned body shop in the United States. Under the ownership of Sandra, the shop has expanded from only performing collision work to performing complete interior work, mechanical work, restoration work on older cars, and even interior work on small airplanes. Sandra and her team are known across the country and internationally, having been featured in Bodyshop Business and FenderBender magazines.

Additionally, Pat’s Body Shop was voted Best Body Shop in the Triad

by Winston-Salem Journal Readers’ Choice Awards.

After earning her IHRA drag racing license, Sandra recently opened Scarlette Performance Parts Division at 5730 Country Club Rd in September. Customers can find racing apparel and gear, as well as all types of high performance parts for round track and drag racing within the new 3,000 square foot addition to Pat’s Body Shop.

With a ninth grade education and no trade school or technical education under her belt, Sandra used her determination, discipline, and drive to transform the shop

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into the success story it is today.

However, her business acumen and strength don’t stop at the shop.

As a bodybuilder since the early 1990s, the 64-year-old force to be reckoned with has shelves of trophies and awards on display in the shop, showcasing her first-class figure. If owning a body shop as a woman isn’t impressive enough, in a 1999 bodybuilding competition, Sandra placed first overall in her class after training for seven years and competing in two shows each year.

At the age of 43, Sandra triumphed over numerous female competitors in their 20s. After suffering a horrible motorcycle accident in 2011, Sandra wasn’t sure if she would ever be able to walk again, much less continue her bodybuilding career. Astonishingly, she not only made a full recovery, but stepped on stage for the first time in 20 years and placed 4th in the 2019 Charlotte Cup. Want to see Sandra in action outside of the body shop? Show your support and watch her compete in Quincy’s Elite Bodybuilding Competition in Greensboro this November, as she aspires to qualify for Nationals.

With so much expansion happening at the shop, Sandra is searching for tow truck drivers, body technicians, estimators, and parts counter help to join her team. Send resumes to patbodyshop@aol.com to apply for a position at Pat’s Body Shop.

Ready to have your car serviced? For a free estimate and to see a full list of services provided by Sandra and her team, visit pats-bodyshop.com.

For any additional questions or to speak to a team member, call (336) 945-3767. The website also offers an exclusive coupon for $5.00 off your next oil change, along with a free 21-point safety check. Need a tow?

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WORKPLACE RED FLAGS You Shouldn’t Ignore: When it’s Time to Leave a Job

BY AMY HILL

NO WORK-LIFE BALANCE

ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT

If you begin noticing that your workplace’s upper management does not respect you and your co-workers’ needs to “turn off” after-hours or on the weekends, this is a potential indicator that something is rotten in Denmark.

Frequently, companies on the smaller side with minimal to no human resources personnel operate “on the fly,” leaving many areas gray and blurring the boundaries between their employees’ work and personal lives. For example, if your boss expects you to pick up the phone whenever he/ she calls in the evenings or on Sunday afternoons because you are salaried and not hourly, this is inconsiderate (and borderline exploitative) behavior that does not happen in every business environment. Attempting to establish worklife boundaries with management can be challenging, as managers who are lower in empathy might interpret your hesitancy to answer their phone call on a Sunday as not taking your job duties seriously. The occasional weekend emergency is one thing, but when this becomes a pattern, it might be time to sharpen your interview skills and polish your resume. There are plenty of workplaces with open positions where managers respect their employees’ time outside of work and understand that a rested, refreshed employee is a productive employee.

Although it’s easy to doubt yourself and your gut instincts, it’s imperative to listen to your intuition when it tugs at you. If you’re a female employee and one of your male supervisors begins speaking to you or other female employees in ways that makes you uncomfortable, it’s tempting to shrug it off or chalk it up to a “one-time” thing. Many times, people who behave or speak in off-putting ways are testing the waters, which might lead to an escalation of the behavior in the future if it goes unchecked. If your company has an HR department, it might be worthwhile to bring up your concerns. In smaller companies, however, employees frequently feel trapped without the option of third-party intervention.

In this scenario, confronting your supervisor directly or reporting your supervisor’s behavior to others whose hands are tied will likely do more harm than good. Take your knowledge and job skills elsewhere and find a supervisor who won’t creep you out as soon as possible.

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FINAL THOUGHTS: READ THE ROOM

If you’ve ever worked in an office environment where you felt like you were back in high school, you are very familiar with how toxic a workplace culture based upon gossip and favoritism can be. What’s even more alarming, however, is when members of upper management openly gossip about their subordinates’ work performance to employees.

With the absence of a human resources department, totalitarian management is able to play favorites and ostracize employees with whom they don’t get along or feel contempt towards. This can quickly escalate into a case for workplace bullying, if the gossip goes unchecked.

If you witness a gross display of unprofessionalism by members of management at your workplace, find a healthier company to work for. Prolonging your employment and surrounding yourself with negativity on a daily basis will eventually drag you down, too, and potentially impact your ability to trust others in the future when the environment is right for you. As the saying goes, if you lie down with dogs, you get up with fleas.

If you’re interviewing for a position at a company, or are brand new to a job, do the other employees seem exceptionally onedge? Is there a high turnover rate in your department? Do lower-level employees feel comfortable confronting their managers about issues, or are issues generally swept under the rug? If you get a sense that the company “mood” is off early on in your employment (or prospective employment), don’t ignore your instincts. While it might be tempting to jump at a great salary offer, if you have any doubts that this isn’t the right workplace for you, take some time to mull over the offer before accepting. Money can’t buy happiness overall, and quality of life is much more important for your health and personal relationships than an extra $10K per year.

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Who inspires your health journey?

BY SARAH FEDELE/AMERICAN HEART ASSOCIATION Calling all Forsyth County residents! The American Heart Association is looking to recognize people in Forsyth County who have made changes to improve their health, increasing their quality of life and reducing their risk factors for heart disease and stroke. We want to hear your inspiring stories so we can applaud these efforts and motivate others to make similar changes.

“Most heart disease and stroke-related deaths are largely preventable by making heart-healthy lifestyle changes, knowing your vital health numbers and managing your personal risk factors. Even if you have a family history of heart disease or stroke, what you do today can make a huge difference in preventing cardiovascular disease and ensuring a longer, healthier life,” shared David Zhao, M.D., chief of cardiovascular medicine at Wake Forest School of Medicine and executive director of the Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Heart and Vascular Center.

Check out just a few of these amazing Forsyth County Lifestyle Change Award past recipients!

Kelly Long, owner of Kelly’s Bars and Grilles in WinstonSalem, was recognized as the 2017 Adult Lifestyle Change Award winner.

Kelly was diagnosed with high blood pressure when he was 17 years old. Over the years, he went to his doctor regularly and took medication to try and manage his blood pressure.

In May of 2017, Kelly had a heart attack and five stents implanted. Even before he left the hospital, Kelly began his journey of improving his health. He started eating healthier and walking. Kelly has lost over 30 lbs since his heart attack and has completed his first 5K!

L to R: Tristan Long with father Kelly Long during Heart Walk

NaTasha Glaspy from the Walk Stage (L to R: Lora Songster, Kenny Beck & NaTasha Glaspy) NaTasha Glaspy was named the 2016 Lifestyle Change Award winner. NaTasha had been fighting with polycystic ovary syndrome, weight loss, type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure. In 2015, she joined the YMCA and began exercise classes. She also worked with a trainer and took a nutrition class on how to eat healthier and make better food choices. She has lost 165 lbs.! Her A1C is down to 5.0, she is off all blood pressure medication and is no longer diabetic. She also became a Zumba instructor and has shared her story in weight loss classes to help inspire others. NaTasha works at MedCost in WinstonSalem and has shared her health journey story nationally!

When Amy Thornton first began walking, she could walk less than half a mile. Now she exercises up to 90 minutes per day. She went from eating fast food to a low fat, low carb, high protein diet. Amy has lost over 167 lbs and has done it the healthy way. She went from having high blood pressure and high cholesterol to not having to be on any medications, with her blood pressure and cholesterol numbers in the normal range, and she even quit smoking! Amy decided to break the cycle of her family history of weight issues and heart disease.

She has inspired and influenced her family, friends and past co-workers to make heart-healthy lifestyle changes.

Amy continued to inspire others as the American Heart Association’s Winston-Salem 2014 Lifestyle Change Award Honorable Mention.

L to R: Amy Thornton with daughter Hannah Thornton

In 2008, Gregory Martin of Winston-Salem was diagnosed with congestive heart failure and liver disease. At that time, Greg weighed nearly 400 pounds. He started walking just to the end of his driveway and back again. In 2012, Gregory went to the William G. White Family YMCA and signed up for whatever he thought he might be able to do. He also started walking around the inside track at the YMCA. All he could do at first was one lap. It took him one month to walk his first mile and in just two and a half months, he had walked his 100th mile! Now, Gregory walks three miles every day and has lost more than 100 pounds. His doctor was thrilled at how his blood pressure, cholesterol, and blood sugar numbers were falling. Greg even started his own Healthy Heart Walkers Club at the William G. White Family YMCA. Gregory Martin was celebrated as the American Heart Association’s 2014 Winston-Salem Heart and Stroke Walk’s Lifestyle Change Award.

Nominations for the Lifestyle Change Award, sponsored by Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist, can be submitted by friends, co-workers or relatives, and individuals can nominate themselves. The deadline for Lifestyle Change Award nominations is November 8, 2021.

To nominate yourself or someone in your life, visit www.heart.org/Triad to complete the online form. If you would like to submit a photo to accompany the nomination, please email your photo to TriadNC@heart.org.

The individuals who have made the most significant changes to their lifestyle will be honored at the Winston-Salem Heart and Stroke Walk Awards Ceremony on November 18, 2021.

The Winston-Salem Heart and Stroke Walk is coming to Winston-Salem on Sunday, October 17. With COVID-19 safety precautions in place, the American Heart Association, with Healthy for Good Sponsors MedCost and Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist and Forsyth County Life is Why Sponsor Novant Health, encourages everyone to get walking – you can walk here, there or anywhere! Visit www.winstonsalemheartwalk.org to register today and find out all the details.

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Friendships Made and Treasures Found

BY TABATHA RENEGAR

Little did Chelsea Spaugh know when she began working at Yours Truly Consignment while in high school that the store would someday belong to her. Yet, that is how life works sometimes, and Chelsea, with the support of her husband Brock, couldn’t be happier about it!

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Yours Truly Consignment was started by Lynn Booker over 30 years ago and has been located at 835 Reynolda Road NW for the past decade.

After many successful years in the consignment/retail business, Lynn had thought about retiring in early 2020 and then, well… you know, pandemic!

Plans were altered and Lynn worked with Chelsea on a timeline that would work best for everyone involved. And on August 1, 2020, Yours Truly officially became Chelsea’s very own consignment boutique! Lynn made no bones about the fact that it had to be Chelsea or it wouldn’t be anybody! After so many years working together, the two women consider each other family, and Lynn knew that Chelsea would be the only person she would have confidence in to continue her work with as much passion as she had herself.

From the minute you step inside this West End treasure, you feel welcomed and at ease as you browse the aisles taking in the enormous variety of ladies’ clothing, accessories, shoes, and jewelry. In addition to the fabulous consigned items, there is also an amazing selection of jewelry made by a local artist! Cleverly and efficiently displayed, Chelsea or one of her part-time colleagues will point out any sales or promotions that are underway and ensure that you don’t miss the furniture and household items on the lower level. It’s also nice to know that all unsold items are donated to local charities.

“No two days are ever the same,” said Chelsea, “and I love that I have been seeing some of the same people shop in the store for 15 years; they are friends now, not just customers!”

Chelsea said that another thing that makes her work so joyful is never knowing what’s going to be brought in by the more than 100 consignors! And her customers surprise her, too! Like the time she thought she recognized her elementary school music teacher browsing and it did indeed turn out to be her. They chatted, reconnected, and are now good friends who are in touch all the time!

I asked Chelsea what was in the future for Yours Truly, and she said in addition to growing the shop’s social media presence, she is looking forward to the 2nd Annual Customer Appreciation Day on Saturday, October 30th!

“There will be snacks, sales, and surprises!” she said. Customers can park on the street in front of the shop or in the large parking lot behind it.

When Chelsea isn’t managing one of the longest-running retail shops in the Triad, she and husband Brock (high school sweethearts who went their separate ways but were later reunited!) stay busy with Marley-Dog and Kisses, their two 4-legged babies. “I am thankful for the support of everyone who stuck by us and everyone coming in, old and new friends alike!”

Give Yours Truly a “like” on Facebook and follow on Instagram, both at Yours Truly Consignment Shop, and make plans to stop in on October 30th for snacks, sales, and surprises! The shop is located at 835 Reynolda Road NW in Winston-Salem.

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3P: Power the Community with Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Outpatient Imaging

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Pink ribbons, shirts, campaigns, and pink parties are exponentially more visible in October: every year, National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, an international health campaign organized by major breast cancer charities, seeks to increase awareness of the disease and raise funds for research, and the signature color has been pink since the inception in 1985.

Early detection is key, as it’s associated with increased treatment options, survival, and improved quality of life.

Locally, we’re lucky enough to have Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Outpatient Imaging year-round, and during October, their events that fund 3P Positive Pink Power Fund.

“Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Outpatient Imaging started our 3P fund (Positive Pink Power) about 5 years ago,” said Brenda Bronk, Director of Center Operations. “We wanted to raise money to offer free mammograms to underserved communities in our area.”

With that idea in mind, for the past few years, Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Outpatient Imaging has hosted the popular Rosé @ Medaloni Cellars every October. While this year will be virtual, there is absolutely no shortage of fun or need.

First some of the fun: there will still be wine! Medaloni Cellars will be selling a Wine Bundle on their website for the entire month of October and a portion of the proceeds go to the 3P fund. Aside from the wine, there will be an online auction from October 4th – 8th. “Expect spa packages, overnight stays, Botox and filler specials, and lots more,” Brenda said. “Also, Forsyth Woman will be doing their Prize Board online from October 18th – 22nd with chances to win great gift cards from local businesses.”

All the details will be shared on social media platforms as soon as they are available, so be on the lookout!

Proceeds from this month of events will go into the 3P fund to provide mammograms for women that cannot afford the screening.

While health insurance generally covers the cost of preventative screenings, many local women are uninsured, and because of this, put off their screenings. Couple that with the staggering statistics that an estimated 41% of adults in the US have avoided medical care during the pandemic and since early 2020, breast cancer screens have reduced by 89%, and 3P becomes even more valuable in our community. “During the pandemic last year, there were about 6-8 weeks when screenings couldn’t be held,” said Brenda.

“When we started again, people were scared and missed an entire year.”

In 2018, Rosé @ Medaloni Cellars brought in almost $5000 for the fund, and in 2019, nearly $6000. To put this in perspective, those funds help 35-38 women get the screening services they wouldn’t otherwise be able to have. “Over the years we’ve been offering free services through our 3P fund, several women have had a positive breast cancer finding,” said Brenda. “Despite all of the advances in technology, a woman’s best defense against breast cancers is still early detection.”

Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Outpatient Imaging makes it easy to get scheduled for your annual screening mammogram. Serving Winston-Salem for the past 12 years, this conveniently located and accessible provider prides itself on being patient-centric. Starting with accessibility: they have two locations, Winston-Salem and Kernersville, and convenient hours to fit your busy schedule.

Winston-Salem is open from 7:00 am to 6:30pm, and Kernersville is open 8:00 am – 5:00 pm. Working with Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Outpatient Imaging allows them to bring the highest quality of care to patients in a comfortable outpatient setting. “People choose us because of our locations and we are billed at Outpatient Pricing. In a world of high deductibles, this is important to the patient,” said Brenda. “They pay less but still get the expertise of Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist Outpatient Imaging Specialty Radiologists reading their exams.” They offer imaging services that include MRI, CT, ultrasound, mammograms, bone density tests, and X-rays.

“We’re a ‘boutique like’ imaging center,” said Brenda. “From the phone call to schedule your exam, to walking into the lobby, then time with the tech performing the exam, a patient is greeted each time with a smile and a kind staff member to assist. We know patients may be anxious when visiting our center since they are coming to have imaging for medical reasons.”

Remember, stay tuned to social media for information about Rosé @ Medaloni and how you can join in the fun of the 3P fund! To make your own screening appointment, call the clinic directly at 336-765-5722. You can also visit the website and schedule your mammogram online at wakehealth.edu/pink or if you have a My Wake Health Account, you can schedule your annual screening on your account.

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SALEM PLASTIC SURGERY AND RENEWAL MED SPA:

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS

Exploring cosmetic surgery can be one of the most personal journeys you’ll ever make, and it’s certainly a venture you want to keep as real as possible!

Keeping things real is the primary mission at Salem Plastic Surgery as well. The talented, trusted, and personable staff knows no potential patient takes choosing their cosmetic surgery team lightly.

Founded in 1990 by Dr. Scott L. Tucker, who was joined

by Dr. Hampton A. Howell in 2006, Salem Plastic Surgery is widely known for expertise in body contouring, facial surgery, breast enhancement and reconstruction, liposuction, SmartLipo, and a wide variety of innovative nonsurgical procedures such as Botox®, the Juvederm® family of fillers, CoolSculpting, Emsculpt, to name a few.

Dr. Tucker and Dr. Howell, both Board-Certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery, enjoy a large, steadily growing patient following and are supported by their enthusiastic staff, all of whom are progressively continuing to increase their knowledge and the practice’s array of treatments and procedures.

In the fall of 2020, Salem Plastic Surgery introduced a large new addition, Renewal Med Spa, to offer patients an even broader expansion of the practice’s well-known patientfocused philosophy. This beautiful new space offers patients a comfortable oasis to receive a wide range of medicalgrade, spa-type treatments. Both Dr. Tucker and Dr. Howell were understandably excited to welcome patients to their distinctive medical spa that expanded services to include non-invasive facial and body treatments. Surgical and nonsurgical patients are invited to enjoy the calming atmosphere of Renewal Med Spa with the assurance they will be treated with the same high standards of safety and professionalism.

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THE PATH TO SURGERY The decision to have plastic surgery is a very personal decision which can be somewhat challenging. At Salem Plastic Surgery, the doctors will sit down with a prospective patient to listen to the patient’s goals and desires and then determine the best option to attain those goals, keeping in focus what is realistic and compatible with the patient’s lifestyle, genetics, and expectations, all of which contribute to the results of aging.

Before surgery, and even following their procedure, they may encourage utilizing the resources at Renewal Med Spa to facilitate and maintain an excellent outcome.

When a new patient is interested in a complete, overall change, the surgeons at Salem Plastic Surgery may customize a plan that involves a combination of more extensive surgical procedures over a period of time, or advise a more gradual approach, performed in varying stages, sometimes with the addition of treatments at Renewal Med Spa. All decisions and procedure options are formulated with the safety and best interest of the patient in mind, still with an eye on the desired outcome.

NON-SURGICAL OPTIONS On the non-surgical side, the team members have developed areas of expertise that ensure the best possible outcome for patients. The addition of a licensed Aesthetician, Meredith Luke, has opened a vista of treatments utilizing new and advanced technology to maximize patients’ skin health, and then maintain what has been enhanced. Nurse Injectors, Joy Goins, RN, and Alejandra Santos, RN, are excited to use their creativity and passion to help patients obtain the desired changes and provide improvements that ultimately make their patients’ journeys happier ones. Jessica McGarty, Body Contouring Specialist, focuses on non-surgical options, Emsculpt and CoolSculpting, to tone and shape contours. Finally, Becky Matlock is always available as the Spa Coordinator to assist and guide patients with scheduling and all other patient needs.

A good place to start on a journey is at the beginning. When thinking about skin care and non-surgical options, an honest assessment is the key. The following timeline can help by giving guidance at every age.

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THE WISDOM OF AGING AT A GLANCE YOUR 20S—AND EARLIER It’s never too early to begin good skin care practices that will set the stage for preserving skin quality and prevention of later issues. In your 20s - and even younger - the emphasis should be on healthy eating habits to maximize the benefits derived from good food and exercise. Although it’s tempting to buy less expensive products, including both skin care and makeup, in the long run, this can actually prove to be the most expensive in terms of having to correct issues that weren’t prevented in a patient’s younger years. Renewal Med Spa’s aesthetician Meredith states, “Think of your skin care routine as the foundation to a new home you’re building. You wouldn’t build your home with a cheaper structure that will ultimately fail you in the future. It’s best to build your home with a proper foundation and materials that will only require minimal maintenance to uphold. This is the same principle as a proper skin care routine, where the focus and care you put into your skin care at a younger age will inevitably keep you from more invasive and costly procedures to fix your skin in the future.” Meredith is available to schedule appointments to discuss what skin care products are right for the patient’s skin care. Microdermabrasion is a simple, yet effective treatment to start in your 20s that will also help prime your skin for years to come. Monthly exfoliation, such as with Diamond Glow, is also important to remove dead cells regularly and prevent acne. Sunscreen is also a must as skin damage from sunburn and over-exposure can have a serious impact on aging adult skin down the road. Toner at any age is important as a barrier to protect the skin against nature’s elements.

AGES 30-40 These are the years when the skin’s ability to repair itself decreases, and as a result, skin may appear less vibrant. Decreased collagen production will manifest itself in thinning lips, loss of volume, noticeably lower cheeks and facial contours, and prominent fine lines and wrinkles. At Renewal Med Spa, patients are offered multiple options to help boost collagen and fill in noticeable volume loss, such as Botox and fillers, light medical grade Retinol, Rejuvapen and Red LED light therapy. Proven medical-grade products, such as IS Clinical’s GeneXC serum and the Obagi Professional-C Peptide Complex, round out a program for excellent skin care. Continuing a healthy diet and exercise regime, along with the addition of antioxidants, helps control free radicals, which have a significant influence on aging.

50S AND BEYOND… The once youthful and resilient skin becomes thinner and less taut at this age, with added dryness and volume loss. The emphasis now is on repair, moisturizing, and brightening. More emollient products such as IS Clinical Youth Intensive Cream help restore lost moisture. Discoloration due to exposure to the sun and the elements should be addressed with more aggressive treatments, such as IPL, and hydroquinone products, such as Obagi’s Nuderm line. For a real boost, AquaGold micro-needling offers a combination of benefits to further hydrate, lessen the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, refine pores, tone, and texture, and increase luminosity for a glow that lasts up to four weeks. This is also the time to upgrade to stronger Retinol products to reduce fine lines and wrinkles by increasing the production of collagen.

Contact Salem Plastic Surgery or Renewal Med Spa at 336-768-8483 to learn more about their services, or visit salemplasticsurgery.com. The practice is located at 1345A Westgate Center Drive in Winston-Salem, a convenient location even for lunchtime appointments.

Thank you to our photographer, Jon Eric Johnson, who masterfully coordinated a safe photo shoot for our cover! Our staff follows CDC guidelines and always wear our masks to keep our patience safe.

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BY AMY HILL

Seeking a thrill this Halloween season, but ghosts and vampires aren’t up your alley? Ditch the haunted house and get spooked on three of the East Coast’s most extreme and cutting-edge coasters.

THE INTIMIDATOR – CAROWINDS IN CHARLOTTE, NC Looking for a coaster close to home? North Carolina’s long-standing amusement park Carowinds is a family favorite among many East Coast residents. One of the park’s most extreme roller coasters is the Intimidator, a hyper coaster reaching speeds of up to 80 mph. In fact, according to the park’s website, the Intimidator is one of the world’s tallest, fastest, and longest hyper coasters in the Southeast. Additionally, it ranks as one of the top 10 tallest steel roller coasters in North America. The coaster opened to riders in 2010 and was inspired by NASCAR’s Dale Earnhardt, a North Carolina native. If you reach the minimum 54-inch height requirement and can tolerate close to four minutes of an intense adrenaline rush, try not to close your eyes as you inch closer and closer to the top of the 232-foot hill, shortly before descending upon a rapid 74-degree drop. Want to ride the Intimidator, but don’t want to wait in long lines? Carowinds offers Fast Lane passes for $75 per person, allowing guests skip-the-line entry on many of the park’s most popular attractions.

Visit www.carowinds.com to purchase park tickets and view park hours, dining options, and more.

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GRIFFON – BUSCH GARDENS IN WILLIAMSBURG, VA European-themed Busch Gardens has been voted the world’s most beautiful park, and is home to some of the East Coast’s most unique thrill rides. Griffon, the park’s 205-foot tall floorless dive coaster, is horrifying to onlookers as riders slowly approach the summit of the first hill, and stop at a seemingly uncomfortable and nerve-wracking angle at the top before the car is released down the 90-degree drop, reaching speeds of up to 75 mph. Designed by Bollinger & Mabillard (B&M), Griffon has been a park favorite since it first opened in 2007. Griffon riders also get splashed by two 50-foot lines of water sprayed into the air, so don’t forget your rain poncho and an extra pair of socks.

The minimum height requirement to ride is 54 inches, and seeing other riders’ feet dangling due to the floorless layout may be unnerving to many who wait in line. Also coming soon to Busch Gardens is Pantheon, which will be the World’s Fastest Multi-Launch Coaster and was listed as one of the most anticipated roller coasters of 2021 by USA Today. To buy park passes and learn more about other attractions at Busch Gardens, visit www.buschgardens.com/williamsburg.

THE JOKER – SIX FLAGS GREAT ADVENTURE IN JACKSON TOWNSHIP, NJ With an ominous name and a terrifying 90-degree hill that stands as tall as a 12-story building, Six Flags staple The Joker leaves riders feeling weightless due to two beyond 90-degree “raven” drops, and its 4-D, free-fly coaster style. Not only are its drops alarmingly steep, but the coaster’s unique technology adds an extra layer of edge to the ride as the tumbling-like features of riders’ 4-D wing vehicles allow riders to flip through the air in every direction as the coaster twists and turns. This coaster is definitely not friendly for those with a weak stomach or those prone to motion sickness, so pack Dramamine (Non-Drowsy) and be sure to ride on an empty stomach. If you can manage to keep your eyes open, enjoy a view of the lake as you whip through the sky. With only a 48-inch minimum height requirement, and a maximum height of 77 inches, brave riders of all ages can embark on The Joker journey. If this coaster is too intimidating for some members of the family, Six Flags Great Adventure is packed with family-friendly thrill rides and attractions. Visit the park’s website at www.sixflags. com/greatadventure to buy park passes and read up on all Six Flags has to offer.

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“Spooktacular” Sites to Visit in North Carolina

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

It’s the spookiest time of the year! Halloween has officially arrived in the Tar Heel state. While the traditional “All Hallows’ Eve” activities, like visiting pumpkin patches and attending Halloweenthemed parties, will always be entertaining, there are also different and unique ways to get spooked! Whether you are looking for a real-life scare, such as touring an actual haunted place, to a more innocent experience like attending a Halloween parade, North Carolina has loads of Halloween activities perfect for anyone. Read on for five Halloween activities in our home state sure to frighten all.

HALLOWEEN ACTIVITY #1: DINE WITH A GHOST. For those wanting an actual haunted experience, consider eating at The Country Squire Restaurant, Inn & Winery in Kenansville, NC. At this inn, the spirit of original owner Joe West is rumored to still haunt his establishment. The cozy setting offers patrons delicious cuisine, as well as savory wines. After enjoying a meal, consider playing a game of darts, as this is one area of the inn where it is rumored that Joe West flies darts through the air challenging a game with his guests.

HALLOWEEN ACTIVITY #2: SATISFY YOUR ADRENALINE NEED WITH A TRIP TO SCAROWINDS. For those wanting to feel the thrill of Halloween on a different level, consider touring Scarowinds at Carowinds Amusement Park in Charlotte. Every year, the park offers guests extra spooks, in addition to its usual popular roller coasters and rides. Consider wandering through haunted mazes, working to find your way out, or touring a haunted house. For the not faint of heart, Scarowinds offers elaborately themed “scare zones” like the Blood Yard Playground or the Psycho Circus of Mystery and Mayhem. Be cautioned though, as there are over 500 monsters and ghastly creatures roaming the property, so wander through at your own risk.

HALLOWEEN ACTIVITY #3: STAY FOR THE DAY OR NIGHT AT THE GROVE PARK INN. Since the 1920s the “Pink Lady” has been a friendly and well-known ghost which wanders the halls of this historic and beautiful hotel. Legend has it that the spirit is of a young lady, who fell to her death from the fifth floor of the Palm Court Atrium at the Inn. While some speculate it was an accident, others believe it may have been something more sinister. Thankfully, the Pink Lady doesn’t seem to use her death as reason to be evil to those enjoying a stay. Many visitors report seeing her spirit as a vibrant pink mist, while others report seeing the figure of a young woman in a pink ball gown. This spirit has a great sense of humor and is often known for making the lights and air conditioners turn on and off, as well as rearranging objects in guest rooms. For those truly wanting a personal experience with her, they should consider booking a night in room 545.

This is the room where the Pink Lady seems to be particularly active.

HALLOWEEN ACTIVITY #4: MAKE IT A FAMILY FRIENDLY EXPERIENCE AT BLOWING ROCK’S HALLOWEEN FESTIVAL. Heaps of family-friendly fun is to be had at the Blowing Rock Halloween Festival! This Halloweenthemed event features spooky stories and crafts at the Blowing Rock Art & History Museum, a Halloween fun house for the littles, games, autumn hayrides, a costume contest, and a parade. The parade also offers children an opportunity to go trick-or-treating through downtown Blowing Rock.

End the day with having the kids participate in a “moonlight scavenger hunt” around Broyhill Lake.

HALLOWEEN ACTIVITY #5: HICKORY, NORTH CAROLINA’S “TRICK OR TROT” HALLOWEEN 5K. For those seeking an opportunity to exercise and enjoy some Halloween fun, consider participating in the “Trick or Trot” Halloween 5K in Hickory, North Carolina. The race will start and finish at Highland Recreation Center. Proceeds will benefit the Bill McDonald Scholarship Fund. This race could be modified, rescheduled, or cancelled due to concerns with COVID and, unfortunately, refunds cannot be given.

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BY TABATHA RENEGAR, PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM

I think you will agree that not too many business owners would entrust a teenage girl with their checkbook and then send her to market to choose prom dresses for their boutique! And yet, that is exactly what Anitra Mitchell’s boss did when then high schooler Anitra was working in her prom/wedding shop.

Although Anitra herself couldn’t have possibly known that she would grow up to be the retail dynamo that she is, I think that her employer sensed her talent at an early age and had faith in Anitra’s excellent sense of style!

Anitra and husband Brad, as well as a vivacious style team of eight at LoveWell Boutique, have brought fashion and style to the community in energetic and creative ways since their rebranding almost two years ago. Of course you can walk into the shop at 110 Oakwood and enjoy a warm welcome, an enthusiastic approach to style, and an amazing selection of clothing, but it’s the innovative ways that LoveWell has reached out to their customers that sets them apart!

APP IT AND THEY WILL SHOP If you haven’t already, take just a minute to visit the App Store and download the LoveWell Boutique shopping app. You’ll have access to the latest inventory and amazing sales, style tips and “lives” – lives are selling events with Anitra and team presenting in real time and you can also catch replays! With over 2,000 users already, the app is quickly becoming the primary way that loyal shoppers get their fix! Many local shoppers like to pick up their order in the store so they can take a peek at what’s happening in the boutique, but the app keeps them connected to the style team in between visits. First time LoveWell App users can use code LOVEWELL at checkout to receive 15% off their first purchase. It’s clear that introducing a shopping app was an idea whose time had come.

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FACING FORWARD As an innovator at the forefront of how business is done, Anitra began “going live” on Facebook several years ago and now makes it a regular part of LoveWell’s offerings. “Going live at the Atlanta and Dallas markets allows us to create a bridge between the designer and the customer. It’s really cool for customers to interact directly with the designer of a piece that they love!” says Anitra.

JOIN THE CLUB After 10 years in the retail business and the last two years branded as LoveWell, Anitra has gotten pretty darn good at knowing what works for her followers. Introducing the LoveWell Text Club! The Text Club offers another opportunity for nice savings and will keep you updated on exclusive offers for members. Text LOVEU2 to the number 57838 and receive a special treat!

PARTY TIME Mark your calendar to celebrate LoveWell’s two year anniversary on November 4th. The shop will be open 10 am until 7 pm and then transition into a Ladies’ Night Out with the Forsyth Woman magazine community at 5:00 pm which always means friendship, sips, snacks, and prizes!

For Anitra, Brad, Serene, “Chaos Coordinator” April, Kelsey, and the rest of the LoveWell style team, building women up and encouraging them to truly love themselves well so that they can love others well, is more than a slogan. It is truly at the heart of all they do and they have faith that a higher power has the bigger plan under control.

Visit LoveWell Boutique at 110 Oakwood Drive in Winston-Salem or online at lovewellboutique.com/store and facebook.com/groups/ lovewellboutiquevipgroup and of course https://www.instagram.com/ lovewell_boutique/.

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

This column is dedicated to uplifting incredible women that might not be featured in the local news about their accomplishments.

These are abridged versions of these incredible women; please find them and ask them more!

IRMA JACKSON What makes you YOU?

JACINTA WHITE What makes you YOU?

I think it’s my love of intimate conversations, my ability (sometimes) to be completely present, my need for space and contemplation, my freedom of expression, and my commitment to walk this path as authentically as I can.

What are you most proud of?

Diving deeply into my own healing and using that to help others do the same.

That shows up in the work I do and in my art. There’s a lot I’m proud of but I smile the biggest when someone else finds their way and I’ve been a light on the path.

I’ve come a long way and have overcome obstacles. I can’t take all the credit for my “success” but I’m thankful for being at this point in my life.

What keeps you going when things are tough?

There are a number of things but mostly it’s my faith that keeps me going. I have to remind myself that God is working things out in the background, and that I’m not in control, though I can forget this fact. Also laughter, time with people I care about deeply, and getting lost in writing and painting. Sometimes it’s permission to have ice cream and binge watch Netflix!

A good (cleansing) cry is a go-to as well.

Oh, and journaling! Lots of journaling!

What keeps you up at night?

Reminding myself, when things are tough, that God is working it out in the background. LOL. And even sheer excitement can keep me up.

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The sum of all my life experiences makes me who I am today. That would include the hard things I have endured (death of my aunt, grandmother, and mom over an 8-year period).

The wonderful opportunities that I have been blessed with - beginning a small massage business 20 years ago that still exists in spite of the pandemic and being in fairly good health.

I think that my life experiences have prompted me to become a better listener and an encourager. We all hear what others say to us but often we don’t listen closely to what is said, we are too busy with life and the things we struggle with personally. Trying to listen to what others say so that you are able to give something back that is positive is very important in the world we all live in today because we all hear the negative even with a slight positive spin but I try to find the positive so it can be shared to enrich and uplift the person and myself.

What are you most proud of?

I am most proud of still existing as a small business during and after the pandemic. I am equally proud of my granddaughter, Myshale’, who finished ECPI with honors during the pandemic.

What keeps you going when things are tough?

My faith in God and His promises keeps me going when things get tough.

My sister, Angela, and cousin, Jessie, are both sounding boards when I need to hear what I am thinking without being guided to a decision. Thankfully, there have been many people put in my path along this journey of life, some for a reason, season or a lifetime. The two listed have been with me for a lifetime.

What keeps you up at night?

Very few things keep me up at night. I pray that my grandchildren will be safe and not be tagged for LWB (living while Black). I trust that God will protect me and them or help me with the plan that will help us to all succeed.

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Best North Carolina Spots To View Fall Foliage

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE

BLUE RIDGE PARKWAY. Many North Carolinians will agree that our home state is strikingly beautiful any time of year. However, it is a well-known fact that autumn is when this state seems to come alive. Sightseers from all over the world travel to our state to view the fall leaves change color. Hues of yellows, reds, and greens paint our streets and parkways. Our mountains, valleys, and piedmont combine with perfect temperatures in the fall, drawing people in to soak in the grandeur. Plus, with over 200 species of trees, North Carolina is the perfect state for all to tour, and welcome the end of the hot summer season with the cooler days of fall.

When and where can one go to view this glorious fall foliage? Peak leaf season in our state can hit almost any time, as early as September and as late as mid-November.

With this said, it is important to make sure to not plan one’s trip past November, yet also not before early September. Regarding locations to tour, there are many, which are just a short drive from Winston-Salem.

Here are the top five locations to visit to experience the foliage.

BILTMORE ESTATE IN ASHEVILLE, NC.

Hands down, taking a drive along the Blue Ridge Parkway is one of the top spots to tour to view the leaves changing colors. The Parkway, which in North Carolina runs from the Virginia border south past Asheville to Cherokee, offers more than 200 miles and over 100 tree varieties. The intensity of fall colors on the Parkway varies and of course will be dependent on weather conditions. According to the website, “Travel Awaits,” the best spots on the parkway to tour include the northernmost section near Cumberland Knob, close to the Virginia border. Other sites include where NC Highways 89, 18, and the Blue Ridge Parkway intersect, just north of Cumberland.

CADES COVE IN THE GREAT SMOKY MOUNTAINS NATIONAL PARK.

Cades Cove itself seems to cast a spell over all its visitors any time of year. The broad, verdant valley surrounded by mountains, is one of the most popular destinations in the Great Smokies. Cades Cove Loop Road offers visitors an 11-mile, one-way loop road, which circles the Cove. This allows motorists the opportunity to sightsee at a leisurely pace. Thanks to this spot becoming increasingly popular, make sure to allow at least 2 to 4 hours to tour. Traffic can get intense during the peak fall season.

When you think of Asheville, North Carolina, images of the Biltmore House immediately come to mind. The “vacation estate” built for George Vanderbilt, draws thousands from all over the world any time of year. Completed in 1895, the 250-room chateau was designed by Vanderbilt’s good friend, architect Richard Morris Hunt. The house is incredibly impressive, more so today as it was over a century ago, with the picturesque fall season being the time of year when the estate is most filled with visitors. Set in front of a backdrop of vibrant and colorful trees, the magnificent mansion is as beautiful outside as it is inside.

GRANDFATHER MOUNTAIN.

While viewing fall’s changing landscape through a motor vehicle is pleasant, many may desire a more personal and hands-on experience.

A short drive from Winston-Salem will offer this to all. Consider viewing fall’s vivid colors by walking over them on Grandfather Mountain’s “Mile High Swinging Bridge.” The Mile High Swinging Bridge, America’s highest suspension footbridge, was built to give visitors easy access to the breathtaking view from Grandfather Mountain’s Linville Peak. The 228foot suspension bridge spans an 80-foot chasm with more than one mile in elevation. The bridge has been in place since 1952 and was originally built to give visitors easy access to the breathtaking view from Grandfather Mountain’s Linville Peak. Toda y, countless surveys depict how the journey to the other side of the mountain is always considered the highlight of a trip to Grandfather Mountain.

CLINGMANS DOME. At 6644 feet, the Observation tower at Clingmans Dome offers a striking 360-degree view of fall leaves changing color from green to orange, yellow and red. The highest point in the Smoky Mountains, and the 3rd highest peak in North Carolina, Clingmans Dome is a perfect site to visit to see it all. Located off Newfound Gap Road (Highway 441), by a 7-mile access road near the Newfound Gap overlook, the tower requires a short, yet steep hike. The Appalachian Trail also comes through the area and is easily accessible as well.

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2021 Walk to End Alzheimer’s Each year with more than 600 communities nationwide participating, the Alzheimer’s Association Walk to End Alzheimer’s® is the world’s largest fundraiser for Alzheimer’s care, support and research. This inspiring event calls on participants of all ages and abilities to join the fight against the disease. The event will be held on November 6th at 10:00 am in Winston-Salem, beginning at Bailey Park (575 N. Patterson Ave., Winston-Salem, NC 27101). To register and participate in this event, visit WalkToEndALZ.org According to the Alzheimer’s Association, in 2021 there are currently more than 6 million Americans living with Alzheimer’s Disease. By 2050, this number is projected to rise to nearly 13 million. At Homestead Hills senior living in Winston-Salem, caring for their Members with Alzheimer’s and dementia goes beyond providing excellent care. As a National Team for the Alzheimer’s Association’s Annual Walk to End Alzheimer’s, Members and staff of Homestead Hills are advocates for raising awareness, supporting families and those with Alzheimer’s dementia, as well as fundraising for research to ultimately find a cure to this disease. Homestead Hills parent company, Senior Living Communities is a National Team for the Walk. They are committed to raising $100,000 collectively in their organization through various fundraising efforts both at a company-level and community-level.

Homestead Hills has already surpassed their $10,000 fundraising goal with a few more events on the calendar to go!

Throughout 2021 they have hosted events for both Members of the community and staff including a variety of luncheons, ice cream socials, a Spring Celebration for Easter, Mother’s Day flower deliveries, and ‘Dunk Your Executive Director’ with a dunk tank. While coming up they have an Alzheimer’s Gala Fundraiser and a Cruise-In Car Show! “We hope to drastically increase this number with our efforts up until Walk Day” says the community’s Social Director, Jennifer Brown.

“The Walk to End ALZ is so important to Homestead Hills because we have so many folks that this disease affects each year,” says Brown. “We are here to support our Homestead Family and their loved ones and every little bit helps. Alzheimer’s is a devastating illness and we want to be a part of finding a cure and ending ALZ!”

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Seasonally Dress a Table

“If you wait until you have enough money to decorate and make your home your own, it will never happen. If you wait until you can afford to buy everything new, you are missing the point. It is the old, the new, the hand-me down, the collected, the worn (but loved things), in your home that make it your own.” ~ Stacy Risenmay

October is one of my favorite months.

Decorating our home for fall means summer is over and cooler weather is on its way. I love the beauty of this season and I’m thankful to live in an area where there is a change of seasons. And like many of you, I love ‘pumpkin’ anything… pie, bread, bars, pumpkin spice lattes, etc.

Not only pumpkins but apples, too, help celebrate fall at our house. One of my favorite outings this time of year is to ride to the nearby Brushy Mountains and pick up apples at one of the orchards there.

Most of you have probably done a little fall decorating already but I wanted to share something I found on the Internet from Julea Joseph about decorating a table top that will help you now and when you start putting out your Christmas décor or, for that matter, any season.

“Any flat surface is a great area to seasonally dress. Here are a few tips on making the vignette look fabulous: • Room’s purpose and style…..fancy in fancy areas, casual in the casual areas.

• Room’s function…a large arrangement on a family coffee table isn’t going to work if your room’s function is TV watching.

• Scale and proportion….whatever the area, make sure that the “stuff” is in scale to the surface or area you are placing it in. For example, a large mantle needs large accessories.

• Create highs and lows…use books, cake stands, easels, hurricane vases, apothecary jars to create highs and lows in your display.

• Group your collections in odd numbers.

• Try to break symmetry ….don’t be too matchy matchy.

• Add something unexpected in the mix….. to create interest.

• Don’t get lazy…hang what needs to be hung, use a tape measure when needed.

Take the extra step.

• Bang for the buck….use one spectacular piece, with ‘knockoffs’ around it and it will make the ‘knockoffs’ spectacular, too.

• Don’t go overboard….too much of a good thing isn’t always good.

• When planning a centerpiece for a dining table (when a meal is served), try not to go over 14” tall so guests can comfortably converse across the table.”

It’s October and time to look forward to the upcoming holidays. Ready to start a decorating project or just freshen up your home with the things you have? Now is a good time to schedule an appointment with Redesigns by Ava.

Thank you for reading my article each month. I do hope that it helps you make wise decorating choices so that you can create a beautiful home. It is my pleasure to share what I have learned with you.

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I had a meaningful conversation with some great guys from Yadkin County the other day.

Their company has been doing a little work for my wife and me on some land we purchased last year. The land is what we hope to be a great place to relax and enjoy some of our empty nesting years. After talking about all my thoughts and plans for this farm with my new friends, the topic turned to an IRA account that one of the guys, Kevin, has. Kevin said he has had the IRA for years. It started at First Union, went to Wachovia and then, well we know how that story goes… However, the conversation did not end up being about the bank he bought this investment from. The conversation ended up being the all-toocommon conversation with the do-it-yourself investor, “When do I get out?”

I could not help but jump right in with my thoughts. As financial advisors, we are always looking to pick up new clients and I have learned that farmers are some of the best people to work for. Farmers understand risk – their whole livelihood and the profession of farming is riskier than many other professions.

My response to Kevin was that there should never be a question of when to get in and when to get out. The question carries too much emotion and that can be reduced substantially. At Marzano Capital Group, we advocate for the process of trimming gains on things that are doing well and reinvesting those gains back into things that have either 1) not done so well recently or 2) into more conscious investments where you are not taking the same level of risk. Most investors are nervous about any number of things that are going on around the world. Right now, that list includes: the resurgence of the Covid, Afghanistan, fires around the world, political and economic stability – the list goes on and on. There are plenty of reasons to be scared, but do not let emotions alone drive your decisions on investments.

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BY AMY HILL

The growing pains of adulthood are more than just paying mortgages and mowing the grass. Puberty is rough, but it pales in comparison to the struggles of what’s to come. In light of Halloween, here are a few harrowing realities and realizations that all adults are destined to face throughout their lives.

AGING IS INEVITABLE Nothing is more daunting than realizing that you’re not getting any younger. Remember when you were in your early twenties and you never once batted an eye about the thought of fine lines and wrinkles? Fast forward to your late twenties, when almost daily, social media reminds you of your ticking biological clock as you’re trying desperately to hold on to every last second of your perceived youth. When you see college students in Target, they suddenly look like high school students. You are constantly fighting the urge to envy those younger than you for their extra years of great skin and vibrancy. To fill the void, you search for the highestrated night creams and under-eye serums on the market. To make matters worse, it’s no longer socially acceptable to condemn the older man hitting on you at the bar because you’re almost 30 – but it still feels just as creepy as it did ten years ago.

BEING AN ADULT CHILD It’s a terrifying moment when you realize that your parents are solely human beings and are only adults, just like you. They’re no longer omniscient in your eyes. While they might have a few tidbits of helpful advice here and there in their areas of expertise, you are now left with no one to look to in times of uncertainty. They can’t give you the answer you’re looking for. No one can. It’s only you and your defective brain left to decipher the world. Even scarier – it won’t be too long until you and your parents’ roles reverse completely. As they get older, weaker, and less sharp, your intelligence and grit will become more imperative than ever.

You can no longer go to your room and play. It’s time to face life’s problems head on, sooner rather than later.

MAN PLANS, AND GOD LAUGHS As a child, we were often taught that life should be fair. Everyone should be able to have the same amount of animal crackers at snack time, or no one gets animal crackers. If someone hurts you, your teacher encourages them to apologize to you and make it better. As an adult, however, you work long hours all week, and are looking forward to going out for a nice dinner with your paycheck. When payday rolls around, you get a flat tire.

That extra money you were hoping to spend on steak now belongs to Discount Tire. That trip you’ve been planning for a year and a half just got canceled indefinitely due to a worldwide pandemic. There’s no teacher in-sight to pay you back for your flat tire or to open Italy’s borders. You’re stuck to learn how to tolerate injustice and inequity, or you will simply drown in resentment and bitterness.

UNFULFILLED DREAMS At one point in time, you probably thought that you’d be married by 25 and find your dream job – or better yet, marry rich and not have to work. You’re 29 with no husband in sight, and you don’t even know if you could ever share your living space with someone else at this point. Sure, you like your job, but what is this “dream job” that everyone keeps talking about? All jobs are stressful. To not get fired means showing up and putting forth 100% effort day after day, and that is hard. It’s up to you to save for retirement, and when you’re old enough to retire, your joints won’t be able to take you up all the mountain trails you don’t have time to hike now. For many, and I actually suspect for most, a dream job is just that – a dream.

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e n i t u o R g n i n r o M How to Establish a

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

(Sequel to “Morning Routines: The Benefits are Many” article)

After reading last month’s article, you may feel enticed by the benefits of creating a morning routine while also thinking, “I know it would be good for me, but do I really want to commit to something like this? What if it’s drudgery…or if it makes me even more stressed out…or if I feel like a failure?”

I have a solution for that - it is the very first step in establishing an awesome, workable morning routine that’s customized just for you:

MAKE IT YOUR OWN There is no rule book for this - you are in charge. Yippee! Seriously, I’ve heard people include everything from “a prolonged headstand” to “yodeling.” It’s your routine and yours to customize. So, start there: with one luscious, or wild, or luscious and wild activity that will put your personal seal on your morning routine.

Now move on to these specific steps:

SET AN INTENTION Whether it’s a focus, a vision, a prayer, or a mantra, the idea is to define what you want to experience or “create” as the next

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24 hours unfold. I often repeat the word “patience” or “heart wide open” or “calm” to set my day’s intention.

IDENTIFY YOUR “TO DO’S” TO TACKLE We all have several things we absolutely need to do first thing in the morning. That might include making the bed, taking a certain medication, feeding Fido, or pulling up all of the shades around the house. Make your list of necessary tasks to ensure that your morning routine is grounded in reality and that nothing is missed. And yes, if you must check your texts and emails, that “to do” also goes on the list.

BUILD-IN SOME SELF-CARE Identify two or three things you will relish experiencing each morning so that you look forward to your new routine. Maybe it’s reading a poem along with your coffee or stretching for ten minutes while jazz plays in the background. It could be getting on your Peloton and taking a quick class or sitting on the porch to listen to the morning’s birdsong. It could even be enjoying an indulgent body wash in the shower. There are so many options, so choose a few!

FUEL FOR THE BODY Instead of relying on a haphazard “grab ‘n go” or a “whatever is in the house” approach, be more deliberate. Think about the foods and beverages that energize you and make you feel good from the inside when you start your day with them. The point is to be as intentional about what you consume as you are about other aspects of your morning routine.

ESTABLISH THE RHYTHM Now shift your attention to the pattern you want to establish. If you are a yodeler, is that the very first thing you want to do when you open your eyes? Trust me, there is no judgment here. Maybe setting your intention is first. It is completely up to you. Now start to draft a tentative “schedule” or timetable from the moment you awake, until you shift into another gear for the day. Be sure to approximate the time you’ll need for the specific activities you’ve already identified.

Next, give it a try and see how it goes. You may be amazed at how good you feel about taking control of your morning routine. One more thing - don’t hesitate to experiment a little until you find the groove that’s just right for you.

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Why Fall Is A Great Time To Stay Home & Get Cozy

BY KAREN COOPER

Every season has its charms, but fall is hands down my favorite time of year. When the weather starts to cool down, I relish the chill in the air and the need for an extra blanket to curl up in. I switch from iced coffee to hot lattes and thrill at the first sign of the changing leaves. Although it’s great to be outdoors in the cooler weather, fall is also a wonderful time to get relaxed and comfortable inside. Here are some delightful ways you can cozy up to fall in the comfort of your own home.

BUILD A FIRE As the temperature cools down, there’s nothing like a cozy fire either in the indoor fireplace or in a fire pit outside where you can gather with friends and family to roast marshmallows or hot dogs. The smell of a burning fire evokes feelings of cooler days ahead and brings on a feeling of nostalgia as we say goodbye to the warm days of summer…until we meet again.

CHILI NIGHT Cooler weather is great for making a big pot of chili (or any great soup of your choosing). Not only will a wonderful meal like this smell great cooking in a warm, inviting kitchen, it will hopefully bring the family together to enjoy this special time.

CARVE PUMPKINS

• 2 navel oranges, peeled • 1 apple, sliced in half • 3 cinnamon sticks • 3 star anise • 1 teaspoon-sized knob of fresh ginger • 1 teaspoon cardamom pods • 1 teaspoon whole cloves • 1/4 teaspoon dried orange peel

HAVE A SCARY MOVIE NIGHT Another seasonal activity that may strike your fancy is scary movie night. Pick out some of your favorites and get cozy on the couch with blankets, snacks, and friends to enjoy all the jump scares these creepy tales have to offer.

FOOTBALL Fall marks the kickoff of football season, making many sports fans very happy. Whether it’s NFL, College, or even High School football you’re interested in, there’s nothing like football to make it feel like fall.

GRAB A BLANKET AND READ A GOOD BOOK There’s nothing cozier than taking some time out to snuggle on the couch with a blanket and a favorite book. Cozy up to the warmth inside your home and appreciate the gift of being able to take this time for yourself to recharge while the cool air blows the leaves around outside.

With fall comes Halloween, and that means it’s time to go pick some pumpkins! A great activity to do at home is pumpkin carving or even pumpkin painting…whatever creative ideas you can come up with. This is a time-honored event that is fun at any age. The pumpkins can then be proudly displayed where everyone can see them.

BAKE SOMETHING DELICIOUS

BRING FALL SCENTS INTO YOUR HOME

With the changing leaves, cooler weather, harvest festivals, and new beginnings….there is just something warm and cozy about the fall.

There’s more of an excuse to stay inside, warm up and feel safe in your comfort zone. This season creates the perfect excuse to find comfort, warmth, and time for reflection.

You can find candles, essential oil diffusers, or recipes to “cook” on your stovetop to make your house smell amazing and bring in the aroma of fall. One particularly wonderful stovetop recipe is as follows:

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Homemade Simmering Spices – place ingredients in a big pot of water and simmer on low heat!

Baking is always a welcome activity…for the baker and those who benefit from the final product! There are so many delicious treats that make us think of fall…pumpkin spiced cupcakes, sweet potato pie, apple fritters, carrot cake, apple crumb cake…just to name a few.

Find one that appeals to you and have a great time making something everyone will be excited to indulge in.

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Working for Home: Advancement for Women?

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

In 2018, the following were true, according to the Center for American Progress: • Women are 50.8 percent of the US Population.

• They earn more than 57% of undergraduate degrees and 59% of all master’s degrees.

• They also earn 48.5% of all law degrees, 47.5% of all medical degrees, and account for 52.5% of the college-educated workforce. and… are only 12.5% of CFOs in Fortune 500 companies, 32% of full college professors, 16% of medical school deans, and 22.7% of legal partners.

The leadership gap with women was a very real thing before the pandemic, along with the pay gap and a plethora of other things holding back the advancement of women at work.

With another report due out soon, the worry is looming that women’s advancement will fall even further behind because of the past year and a half. While we can’t change the past or alter the current situation, there is a slight glimmer of hope that the recent changes might help women at work.

Working from home has offered a major shift in office dynamics – specifically moving away from the office-centered dynamic towards being fully distributed. Too often extra “work” in the office fell on women – things like cleaning the fridge, organizing birthdays, taking notes in meetings – and now that the office doesn’t exist, there is more of a chance for work to speak for itself.

Women can also have more challenging careers while juggling those high-demand moments in family life – as long as we are mindful of the work at home being divided between partners.

If we consider a wholly equal home life when it comes to household obligations – whether that be kids, pets, cleaning, or groceries – working from home allows women the space to do things they may have struggled with in the past. Speaking up in meetings, for example,

actually becomes easier on Zoom. If you don’t get a chance at the moment or keep getting missed, drop something in the chat stating you have something to add or say. This simple tactic can get your voice heard that much more.

When it comes to motivation and assessment, either hybrid or remote work can be uplifting without the simple pettiness that exists in most offices: intimidation is a real thing, and status games can get in the way of you doing the best possible job, as well as looking at your confidence for those positions. If you’re working in your own space, those outside affirmations and motivations are most definitely outside – and you can focus on the things directly in front of you, namely, your work.

Flexibility is also something that working from home and working remotely do an excellent job with – regardless of how close to work you might live, travel time exists and eats into your day – whether that’s your personal life or your professional life. Regardless of what is affected by a commute, it harms your professional life in the end. Truly, what could you do with an hour more every day? That’s your commute time – from grabbing your things and getting your stuff ready and walking to the car, driving, grabbing coffee – all of that is impacted when you stay and work from home.

All of the pieces might help women advance in the office if they choose – if there is an equitable distribution of work at home. If you’ve had a recent switch, look at your situation and see what working remotely can do to further your career.

What opportunities have come up now that you’re all at home?

When can you better showcase your skills or opinion? If you can take advantage of this workplace culture shift, maybe you can contribute one woman at a time to the leadership gap.

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Winston-Salem State University’s Nursing Sorority - “Service for Humanity”

BY KAREN COOPER

With a motto of “Service for Humanity,” Chi Eta Phi Sorority, Incorporated, is a national nursing sorority founded on October 16, 1932, at Freedman’s Hospital on the campus of Howard University in Washington, D.C. While established for African American female nurses, its current membership consists of over 8,000 professional nurses and nursing students of both genders, reflecting many cultures and diverse ethnic backgrounds. There are over one hundred chapters in thirtythree states, the District of Columbia, Liberia, and the Virgin Islands. Membership is by invitation and is a high honor.

Winston-Salem State University’s chapter, Chi Chi Beta, was chartered on March 16, 1991. The original idea was envisioned in 1978 by Yetta Clark, CRNA, who was the chapter’s first president. Ms. Clark attended Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center, North Carolina Baptist Hospital School of Anesthesia, and became Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center’s first African American student and graduate of the nurse anesthesia program.

Meeting with the current Chi Chi Chapter President, Panissa Bryant Caldwell BSN RN MHA DNP (c), I learned more about the sorority and the many community outreach projects they are involved with. These include….

DISEASE PREVENTION AND HEALTH PROMOTION

The sorority conducts health education sessions for healthcare professionals and others to address potential and active health problems. They often collaborate with other organizations to offer screenings and education sessions on the following: • Hypertension education and screening (Signature Project) • Cancer education and screening • Sickle cell disease awareness

PROGRAMS FOR SENIORS

For seniors, they provide services such as travel assistance, health education, help navigating the health care system, checking on the well-being of the elderly living alone, and other programs as assessed by chapter members that fit the mission of “service for humanity.”

PROGRAMS FOR YOUTH AND YOUNG ADULTS

Programs are targeted to youth and young adults and may include health education sessions, peer forums, mentoring, and health care monitoring.

COMMUNITY HEALTH OUTREACH

This program is designed to serve the members of the sorority.

Programs are designed to assist members who are ill or experiencing some type of difficulty. Activities include but are not limited to, phone calls, visitation, transportation, and special assistance as needed.

RESEARCH DEVELOPMENT

The research development program is designed to aid novice and seasoned researchers with scholarly activities that address research investigating health promotion, disease prevention, and health maintenance in vulnerable and underserved populations. The program awards small grants to researchers and members of this committee collaborate with the Grant Writing Committee and other experts in Chi Eta Phi as necessary.

RECRUITMENT AND RETENTION

Entry into the sorority is by invitation only.

Programs are provided to promote interest in nursing careers. Financial, tutorial assistance, and mentoring are provided to undergraduate and graduate students enrolled in accredited nursing programs. In addition to this, the sorority also offers scholarships to worthy recipients.

COVID COMMUNITY SERVICE OUTREACH

The year and a half since the beginning of COVID has taken a toll on nurses everywhere!

Nurses are true superheroes! Through it all, the members of the Chi Chi Chapter in Winston Salem have looked for ways to be of service to the community. These are some of the ways this tireless sorority has served the community during this time: • Provided food and beverages at vaccination events at Hanes Mall and the Fairgrounds.

• Assisted with administering vaccinations.

• Showed their appreciation to the clinical team at the Novant Health Highland Avenue Primary Care by treating the team members to “Italian Ice” on a sweltering day (the temperature was 90+ degrees!).

• Delivered hygiene kits to four schools in Winston-Salem: Winston-Salem Preparatory Academy, John F. Kennedy High School, Kingswood High School, Mineral Springs Middle School.

This sorority participates in all areas of community service. In addition, you will find the members in your doctor’s office, at the patient’s bedside in the hospital, in the classroom teaching the next generation of nursing students, and at the highest levels of administration in the field of healthcare.

Vice President of the Chi Chi Chapter, Barbara A. Crumb, BSN, RN, MSN, has this to say about why she dedicates herself to the sorority’s mission. “I am committed to helping others as I needed help as a child for childhood asthma. I am committed to the sisterhood and the sorority.

I think about our Chi Eta Phi Mascot (the turtle): Each time the turtle moves, it must stick its neck out. To implement change, we must be willing to move out of our protective shell and have the courage and the confidence to encourage and support creativity and innovation.”

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Caffeine Fix in Forsyth: 5 Coffee Shops You Need to Know About

BY TARYN JEREZ Coffee. Joe. Java. Mud. Bean Juice. Rocket Fuel. No matter what you call it, the world seems to run on coffee and our community is no exception.

Forsyth County is home to some truly high caliber and unique locally owned coffee shops brewing up their best for you! This month, we surveyed Forsyth Woman readers to get the scoop on their favorite mom & pop coffee spots around town and get the details on what makes them stand out. Read through the top five reader favorites we gathered to hear about their favorite menu items and what makes these local shops special.

BE KIND COFFEE CO! @bekindcoffeeco

CAMINO BAKERY @caminobakery

“The absolute best coffee shop in Clemmons and the owner, Amanda, has a heart of gold. She truly wants to give back to the community she calls home,” Trisha Prunest of Clemmons shared. If she had to choose, she’d say her favorite order is an iced coffee with coconut milk!

Brookstown - 300 S Marshall Street, Winston-Salem Open daily: 8am - 2pm

3560 Clemmons Rd STE B, Clemmons Open: T-F 7am-5:30pm / Sat 8am-4pm

If you are looking for a location as beautiful as it is delicious, Be Kind Coffee Co. is high on the list! Their black and white patio is often filled with patrons enjoying local shop owner pop-ups or performing artists while they indulge in something delicious. For those with a sweet tooth, you can find a surplus of freshly baked goods including scones, cookies, and other made-from-scratch treats. They are known for brewing unique blends and creating seasonal favorites with customer service the number one thing mentioned in every review.

Downtown - 310B W Fourth Street, Winston-Salem Open daily: 7am - 5pm

“Camino is in a prime location, supports local artists, has amazing staff, has the best lattes in town and bakes incredible bread and treats,” Sunny Townes Stewart of Winston-Salem shared. Her favorite order is the Hazelnut Oat Milk Latte with a Banana Chocolate Chip (vegan & gluten free) muffin.

Camino has been a staple in downtown Winston-Salem for years. Along with their locally roasted coffee and seasonal beverage menu you can find each location serving up freshly baked breakfast pastries, breads, sweet treats, and offering additional prepared foods including gluten and dairy free options. Sit inside to enjoy your order while viewing artwork from local talent or enjoy their spacious outdoor seating. You can also find them at the Cobblestone Farmers Market on Marshall Street on Saturdays from 8:30am-12pm.

BAKED JUST SO @bakedjustso1

KETCHIE CREEK @ketchiecreekbakery

Robinhood - 5395 Robinhood Village Dr, Winston-Salem Open: M-F 7:30am-5pm / Sat 8am-4pm

Clemmons: 6344 Clemmons Point Dr, Clemmons Open: M-F 7am - 7pm / Saturdays 7am-5pm

Lewisville - 6782 Shallowford Road, Lewisville Open: T-F 8:30am-5pm / Sat 8:30am-4pm

Mocksville: 844 Valley Rd, Mocksville Open: M-F 7am - 6pm / Saturdays 7am-5pm

“I wouldn’t have been surprised if my baby was born already loving their vanilla lavender scones since they were my wife’s biggest craving during pregnancy! The staff is wonderful and everything is made with quality and care,” Leo Jerez of Winston-Salem said.

His go-to order includes the Rosemary Goat Cheese Biscuit which should win an award, he said.

Abby Flynn of Clemmons couldn’t decide which menu item was her favorite between the Shadow Cake or their Italian Sandwich! “Their menu is delicious, it’s a great location, and they have the most friendly staff!”

Making a name as a community favorite when it comes to gluten free goodies, Baked Just So has perfected their menu to meet the needs (and wants) of all their customers. A beautiful display of traditional and gluten free baked goods along with homemade ice cream greets you when you walk in the door, although their sweet staff will most likely do it first. This coffee spot is family friendly with a fun color palette inside, bench seating and a special spot that includes a chalkboard wall. Their unique “walk up window” provides an easy, on-the-go ordering option but you can also bring a good book or a friend to sit inside with your coffee.

CAMEL CITY COFFEE @camelcitycoffee 110 Oakwood Drive, Suite F, Winston Salem Open: M-F 9am-5pm / Sat 9am-3pm / Sun 9am-1pm

The friendly owners, great location, delicious coffee and treats make this locally owned coffee spot a favorite for Kristi Johnson Marion. Her go-to menu item is Frosty’s Favorite ground coffee!

Known best for their handcrafted coffees and teas, Camel City Coffee serves up a traditional espresso menu with innovative twists.

Check out the “S’mores Cold Foam”, a chocolate cold brew topped with a toasted marshmallow + oak cold foam! You can enjoy a quick caffeine fix by ordering ahead using the “Joe Coffee” app or enjoy your latte on their pet friendly patio this fall. This coffee shop prides itself on being a place where community and coffee collide!

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When you step inside, you get a little throwback feeling to an old school bakery or delicatessen with big glass cases and lines of cake stands. Ketchie Creek is known for their cakes, brownies, pies and other treats but also has a full-service deli and coffee bar. Their offering includes a substantial drink menu serving coffee, teas, frappes, and more. You can grab a table for yourself or with friends and get a sliced-to-order Boar’s Head meat sandwich or sip on a large iced Ketchie Creek Blend! They keep local causes close to heart and many times throughout the year offer customers ways to help support the community alongside them.

We hope you’ve learned something new about one of these wonderful coffee shops and have an opportunity to check out somewhere new while supporting small and local businesses!

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Collection of Recipes for

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Simple Nights at Home

From an authentic Italian bruschetta for simple date nights to crowd-pleasing finger foods for your next game day that can be made lightningfast, we’re sharing easy appetizers that take less than 15 minutes to prep and use no more than seven ingredients.

GRILLED GOAT CHEESE & PROSCIUTTO-WRAPPED ASPARAGUS

Ingredients: • 1 lb. asparagus • 3 oz. sliced prosciutto • 1/3 cup goat cheese • 1 1/2 tbsp. Dijon mustard • 1 tbsp. olive oil • salt & black pepper, to taste

Instructions: 1. Preheat grill (or oven) to 400F. 2. Rinse and pat dry the asparagus, trimming off the tough ends.

3. Mix the goat cheese and Dijon mustard in a small bowl. Add salt and black pepper to taste. Set aside.

4. Cut the prosciutto slices in half lengthwise, then spread a generous dollop of the goat cheese mix on the inside. Wrap a spear of asparagus with the prepared prosciutto, then lay on a lined sheet pan. Repeat with remaining asparagus.

5. Drizzle the asparagus with olive oil, adding a pinch of black pepper on top. Grill or bake for 8-10 minutes, or until asparagus is bright green and easily pierced with a fork. Enjoy!

GLAZED BACON-WRAPPED SHRIMP APPETIZER Ingredients: • 16 large shrimp (fresh or thawed), peeled and deveined • 8 strips of bacon • 2 tbsp. honey, or maple syrup • 1 tbsp. olive oil • salt & black pepper, to taste • fresh chives, for garnishing (optional) • ranch, for serving (optional)

Instructions: 1. Preheat oven to 400F. Line a large baking pan with parchment paper.

2. Soak 16-18 toothpicks in cold water for at least 20 minutes.

3. Line the bacon strips in a single layer on the prepared baking pan. Bake for 6-8 minutes, until the bacon fat begins to render but is not crispy brown. Then, pat down each strip to remove any excess bacon fat, as well as replace the parchment paper (optional). Cut the bacon strips in half.

4. Lightly season the shrimp with salt and pepper. Wrap each shrimp in the halved bacon strip, securing with a toothpick.

5. In a small bowl, whisk together the honey and olive oil. Brush each wrapped shrimp with the glaze.

6. Bake for 5 minutes, then flip to bake an additional 5-10 minutes.

7. Garnish with chives to serve.

CREAMY THYME-STUFFED MUSHROOMS CLASSIC ITALIAN BRUSCHETTA Ingredients: • 1 baguette • 6 roma tomatoes, about 1 1/2 lbs., diced • 1/2 cup fresh basil leaves, chopped • 1/3 cup parmesan cheese, shredded • 4-5 garlic cloves, finely minced • 4 tbsp. olive oil • balsamic glaze (optional) • salt & black pepper, to taste (optional)

Instructions: 1. To make the tomato topping, start by adding the diced tomatoes into a colander to drain any excess juices, then toss into a mediumsized bowl.

2. Add in the chopped basil, minced garlic, and 2 tbsp. olive oil. Season with salt and black pepper to taste. (Optional: Add a drizzle of the balsamic glaze.)

3. To make the toasts, preheat oven to 400F and line a baking pan with parchment paper.

4. Slice the baguette into 1/2” thick slices diagonally, then arrange the toasts on the prepared pan. Brush both sides of each toast with the remaining olive oil, then sprinkle with parmesan cheese.

5. Bake at 400F for 5 minutes, then broil on high heat for 1-2 minutes, or until edges begin to turn golden brown. Serve with the tomato topping and enjoy!

Ingredients: • 12 whole, fresh mushrooms • 1 8-oz cream cheese package, softened • 1/4 cup parmesan cheese, grated • 1 tbsp. olive oil • 2 tbsp. fresh thyme, chopped • 1-2 garlic cloves, minced • 1/4 cup panko breadcrumbs (optional) • salt & black pepper, to taste

Instructions: 1. Preheat oven to 350F and line a small baking pan with parchment paper.

2. Clean the mushrooms with a damp paper towel, then break off the steams carefully.

3. In a large skillet over medium heat, sauté the garlic in the olive oil until fragrant, about 1 minute. Add in the mushrooms to cook until any moisture seems to have evaporated, about 2-3 minutes. Set aside to cool.

4. In the meantime, stir together the softened cream cheese, parmesan cheese, sauteed garlic, and chopped thyme in a medium-sized bowl. Add salt and black pepper to taste.

5. Fill each mushroom cap with a generous dollop of the parmesan mix, then transfer each to the prepared pan. (Optional: Top each with the panko breadcrumbs.)

6. Bake for 15-20 minutes. Enjoy!

With these crowd-pleasing and very simple appetizers ready at hand, dinner just got a whole lot easier!

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Exceptional Young Women in the Community:

BY AMY HILL

Meet Ella-Brooke Morgan

At only 16 years old, Clemmons native EllaBrooke Morgan has an impressive resume with a jam-packed schedule full of honors and AP courses, extracurricular activities, and volunteering. As a junior at West Forsyth High School, Ella-Brooke sharpens her leadership skills while serving as the Vice President of West Forsyth’s Student Government Association, the Co-President of West Forsyth’s Speech and Debate Team, and the secretary for West Forsyth’s Key Club. She was honored to become a WFHS Student of the Year for the 2020-2021 school year, and aspires to one day land a career that encompasses her love for both journalism and criminal law.

Aside from her academic achievements, Ella-Brooke’s passion for volunteering sets her apart from many of her peers. While acting as the Founder/Executive Director of Virtual and in-Person Tutoring and Peer Guides Program, a Forsyth County nonprofit organization, she has donated over 2,000 hours of her time running the program and tutoring from May 2020 to June 2021, with her team grossing over 7,000 total hours of giving back to students in need.

Additionally, Ella-Brooke raised over $800 for ViP Tutoring for the 2021 Big Brothers Big Sisters Bowl For Kids’ Sake fundraiser, alongside her team, who raised over $1,100.

Ella-Brooke was inspired to start volunteering from a young age, after being born with congenital muscle and eye disorders. While some things like reading came easily for her once her vision improved, other important aspects of life such as walking, riding a bike, or playing sports did not. She underwent years of occupational and physical therapy to catch up to speed with her peers, which she feels fortunate to have had access to. Because of the privilege she feels in having therapeutic help on a physical level, she believed it was her gift and duty to give back to others academically and intellectually. Ella-Brooke chose to make ViP Tutoring services free of cost to families who may be unable to foot the bill of private tutoring.

Starting a nonprofit organization as a teenager is nothing short of a challenge, but Ella-Brooke was up for the task. Once she was no longer able to tutor in-person after school due to the COVID-19 pandemic, when her school district shifted to remote learning, she had faith in the ability of herself and her peers to carry on their tutoring services virtually. She contacted programs and individuals in the county serving families who were in need of support, especially families struggling with language barriers or issues with technology. In addition to academic tutoring, she was able to assist the

families in navigating platforms such as Canvas and Zoom. Initially, age-related rules and regulations discouraged many larger organizations from taking her up on her offer to help, leading her to ask her parents for a loan from her savings account to create a website in order to more efficiently market her services to reach more families in need.

Soon enough, organizations such as Crosby Scholars, HandsOn NWNC, and Big Brothers Big Sisters (BBBS) entrusted Ella-Brooke with their clients.

She began tutoring seven students remotely, and later recruited the help of her friends, including her bilingual friend Ashley, who was able to provide help to Spanish-speaking students. In October 2020, Ella-Brooke applied for a Youth Engagement Coalition (YEC) mini grant to cover costs of the organization, which BBBS was generous enough to sponsor. In December, she was elated to discover that she had been approved for the grant, which covered ViP’s Pro Zoom account for training and other team needs. With the help of Camry Wilborn at Wake Forest University, ViP Tutoring also assisted with the virtual MLK Read-In in January, which promoted Martin Luther King, Jr.’s legacy to young children.

Ella-Brooke is thankful for the support of her friends, team members, and parents, and is especially grateful for Amy Lytle and Casey Capstick of HandsOn NWNC, who taught her the ropes of running a nonprofit organization. While running a nonprofit at 15 wasn’t something she initially thought was possible, she hopes to continue her service at ViP Tutoring throughout her college career as well.

According to Ella-Brooke, “It’s definitely rewarding to see, hear, and feel the positive impact my time volunteering has made on others personally. It provides me with a deeper sense of purpose as a human being, and as a Christian as well.”

In 10 years, she hopes to find herself working as an editor or editor-in-chief for a large publication, or at a law firm in a busy, urban city. When she’s not taking dance classes or studying, Ella-Brooke performs her duties as a member of the School of the New York Times Alumni Board, and is the host and producer of an upcoming podcast featuring School of New York Times alumni and others.

Follow Ella-Brooke on her journey on Instagram at @ebmorgan01 and learn more about ViP Tutoring at @viptutoring.

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C r e a t i v e Wa y s t o M a k e M o n e y Whether finances are tight, you’re in between jobs, looking to increase your savings or just want a little extra pocket change there is always money on the table. You just have to look for it!

When you take time to look deeper at your surroundings, lifestyle and even your talents the opportunity to increase your earnings becomes clearer to identify. Imagine what money may already be sitting untouched right in front of you that you haven’t thought of yet! If you are ready to embrace simple ways to start making more money right now, keep reading!

ASK YOURSELF: WHAT CAN I SELL?

When we talk about “money on the table” this is typically the easiest place to start.

Literally look around your surroundings and think about what physical items might be worth something! You’d be surprised how often people have hundreds, if not thousands of dollars of items just sitting and taking up space.

Start by looking in your garage, storage unit, attic or shed for higher ticket items like machinery, tools, antiques and other unused items that could be valuable to others.

Next, head to the bedrooms in the house seeking out gently used or never worn clothes, shoes and accessories that may be hanging in the closets waiting to be sold. If you have children in your family, remember that toys and electronics that are no longer being played with are often highly sought after second hand.

Hosting a yard sale, visiting a consignment shop or posting an ad on Facebook Marketplace are all simple and low effort ways to get your items in front of possible buyers. The trick is to remember the age old saying “one man’s junk is another man’s treasure.” If you’ve been looking for a little extra dough to make a difference in your income, look around and take inventory to see what just might be able to make that impact. Don’t forget, even small sales add up!

BY TARYN JEREZ

MONEY ON THE TABLE ASK YOURSELF: WHAT CAN I DO?

Time is money. What do you currently have the time to do and possibly the skill set for, that someone would be willing to pay you for? This could be as simple as picking up a few added hours per week through a service like Uber or Instacart. You could take it in a more entrepreneurial direction and consider what you could do on a freelance or contractor basis. If you and your partner have invested in great lawn care equipment and are looking to rake in some added money, perhaps you mow one neighborhood lawn per week to put towards your goals. If you were an English major in college and have a flair for working with youth, maybe you can offer tutoring a few times per month privately or through the school system?

Think outside the box on the tasks that you would enjoy doing and are valuable for others. You may be surprised with what you can offer for a good rate of pay in return.

A great place to get ideas and possibly even find something you can do is to check on your community’s Nextdoor phone app to see what neighbors and other locals may be in need of currently.

ASK YOURSELF: WHAT CAN I CREATE?

This last one may feel a little far-fetched for those who don’t consider themselves creative but when push comes to shove, everyone has their talents.

Capitalizing on the things that come naturally to you is often key to making money. If you are an artist or maker, have you considered creating an Etsy shop online or starting to sell in person at local craft shows or galleries? Are you the best baker in your family? Maybe it’s time to start sharing that you are taking orders for custom cakes or pies on your personal Facebook?

If you are great at decorating or landscape design, you can begin hiring out for your consulting services.

There are so many possibilities!

Increasing your income could come from something you already enjoy doing, you just haven’t started charging anyone for it yet! If you feel like you have multiple options and are struggling with figuring out which direction to go or which step to take first, consider asking friends and family. Have a discussion or two asking them what they think you could create and what kinds of things they think of you first for. Often, the people who know us best can help us identify those unique things about ourselves we sometimes overlook.

Remember, there is always money on the table! Give yourself permission to get creative and think about what resources are around you and within you to help you find it. Start with whatever is easiest first and go from there!

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5 Feel-Good Things to Try in October

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

As we trade in our ice cream cones for slices of pumpkin pie, we’ve compiled a short list of activities for this October that we recommend giving a try. Some may merely make you laugh, but overall, we hope to inspire you to find joy in the simplicity of life.

1. AS SWEET AS APPLE PIE Tis the season when apples are piled high in the produce bins, alluring new crowds at the farmers markets, and calling your name from only an hour or two away. Serve them as a nutritious snack to satisfy that sweet tooth, bake them into a delicious pie to share with family and friends or simply to give away to someone who needs a little perking up!

Fun fact: Apple skins are a phenomenal source of insoluble fiber, which has been linked to decrease the risk of cardiovascular diseases and keeps you feeling full longer.

2. HIT THE SNOOZE BUTTON Did you know that the 2020 annual survey showed Americans’ average night’s sleep decreased to five hours and thirty minutes? However, the National Sleep Foundation recommends that adults sleep at least seven to nine hours a night for optimal functioning. James Maas, a psychologist at Cornell University that specializes in sleep, advises adults to count eight hours back from the time you must get up in the morning to the time you should be going to bed every night. And since it takes three to four weeks to establish a regular circadian rhythm, the weekends are just as important as the weeknights. The end result? A more energized you to handle the holiday chaos to come!

3. GRAB THOSE OVERALLS AND GO PUMPKIN PICKING Whether you’re looking to decorate your front porch or have a pumpkin carving contest later in the evening, grab your friends and family to head on over to a local pumpkin patch. And if you’re not a fan of the pumpkin carving mess, then painting them would be another good option. You could even use glow in the dark paint to create the illusion that they are indeed carved! Another creative idea is to buy mini pumpkins to use as ‘bowling balls’ with tall gourds or filled water bottles as your pins in the grass. In addition, you can minimize waste by roasting the pumpkin seeds with a little salt and brown sugar, or Cajun seasoning for a more savory bite.

4. DARE TO CHALLENGE ALL THINGS PUMPKIN SPICE While Starbucks may have its PSL down to a science, who says you can’t find other creative ways to incorporate this classic into your other favorite snacks? This is a festive idea to do as a girls night in or with the kids as you try to find the next big Pumpkin Spice menu item. Shall it be a Pumpkin Spice Hot Chocolate, Cheesecake Stuffed Cookies, Homemade Pop Tarts, Marshmallows, Salsa, Doughnut Holes? We don’t know. So, throw on your favorite cozy sweater and tie on your kitchen apron, because we have some taste-testing to do!

5. TIME TO CLOCK OUT Can you guess how many hours the average American spends on their phone? It racks up to be nearly five and a half hours of screen time on just mobile phones daily, with social media being responsible for over two hours of that time. So, let’s challenge ourselves to set it aside for at least 30 minutes a day. Whether that is at dinner time or as you take a walk in the crisp autumn weather, you might realize that there are some things you’ve been missing out on before, like enjoying the taste of your food or meaningful conversations with new neighbors.

And just like that, you’re on your way to a healthier and happier you this autumn season!

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TOXI TOXI C C And... my friend is

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

We talk a lot about toxic romantic relationships – looking for red flags, warning signs and the like are pretty common discussion points among groups of friends.

What happens when the friends are the toxic ones?

Generally, we look at friendships as a positive: friendships and social connections can lengthen your lifespan, lower your risk of mental and physical health concerns like depression and high blood pressure. Not all friends are good friends – they can cause more harm than happy, and can look very different – but the bottom line, recognizing them and dealing with them can help your happiness.

BUT I’M JUST JOKING Have you heard of negging? It’s a type of emotional manipulation that can start as subtle insults or can be written off as a slip of the tongue or mistake. The problem: it keeps happening and it escalates.

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“constructive criticism,” and trying to one-up you are all examples of negging.

And when you call them out – it’s always on you to lighten up. If this sounds like a friend, make sure you’re expressing your feelings: how they respond will tell you a lot. Decide if the friendship is worth how they make you feel.

SORRY YOU FEEL LIKE THAT If they do realize they hurt your feelings, and they do one of two things: they either don’t apologize or they gaslight you with the apology. Statements like, “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings BUT it was a joke.”

These are not apologies.

Same negging friend? She often joked that she apologized in her head. Super funny unless you’re the person that got the criticism – and I know for a fact, it wasn’t just me.

I remember having a friend who would do these little digs about things I cared about or my life choices. I wondered constantly – is this me being sensitive? Is this me judging her as a person?

The advice here is similar: voice your emotions. If they apologize – know that you don’t have to accept an apology.

You very much can still be upset about something and not go immediately back to business as usual. You also have to take care of yourself and your selfesteem.

Nope.

YOU GIVE MORE THAN YOU GET

Things like backhanded compliments, comparisons to other people,

If you are always doing things for your friend and any ask seems like a massive thing in return – you might have a toxic

friend. This is where I realized my friend was toxic – I ran an errand (and didn’t get paid back), dropped things off (and never got returned), picked things up (and didn’t get a thank you). These things weren’t done to get something in return – and at the same time, when there is no sense of balance, you can’t get around that.

Yes, sometimes friendships will be unbalanced – but the key is sometimes!

THEY COMPETE WITH YOU Whew, this one is the kicker. It might be anything from work or romance – your friend will compete with you. It seems like they don’t like you to excel at something, and they aren’t a fan of you getting any praise or accolades.

In the age of social media, it’s weird when this shows up. You watch how they interact with other people and then you have something exciting or great for you – and they are silent. You don’t have to be competing with them – most of the time you aren’t in these situations!

This secret competition and trying things you’re doing/involved in to get more praise might seem like you’re imagining things. Take some time to reflect on this and see if it’s happening – or tap another friend to ask.

With all of these things, weigh the friendship and communicate with them if you want it to continue. It’s ok to break up with a friend!

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Our mission is to provide uninsured and under-insured This year’s event is going to be spectacular thanks to generous sponsors and unwavering support of the local community. “This breast cancer patients in North Carolina with financial is our first year partnering with the Sergeant Mullins and the first responders for the Battle of the Badges event,” said Nedell. “We assistance for quality, life-saving medical treatment. are just delighted to be a part of this community wide event and are so grateful to Sergeant Mullins for his commitment to making a difference for breast cancer patients in our community. The Battle of the Badges Charity Softball Tournament provides a wonderful opportunity for the men and women who support our community 24/7 to come together with their families to enjoy an afternoon on the ballfield. PIPF is so appreciative that they are supporting our cause to help save more lives in our community.”

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Insurance Co-payments The event will be held on October 23rd at 3pm at Wake Forest University’s Couch Ballpark located at 401 Deacon Boulevard Deductibles & David Premiums in Winston-Salem. This year’s event will include a raffle to win a Ford COBRAMustang GT. Tickets can be purchased at the Winston-Salem Police

Department District 3 Office located at 2393 Winterhaven Lane, at On October 23rd, local heroes will come together for the 3rd Annual Peak Insurance located at 108 Cambridge Plaza Drive and at both Battle of the Badges Softball Tournament to benefit the Pretty In Pink Parkway Ford locations in Winston-Salem located at 3150 University All grants are paid directly to the providers to help Foundation, whose mission is “…to provide uninsured andmedical underParkway and 2104 Peters Creek Parkway. Raffle tickets will also be in insured breast cancer patients in NC with financial assistance for reduce stress for our Champions. sale with the car on display at the Carolina Classic Fair and other area quality, lifesaving medical treatment.” Members of Winston-Salem events leading up to the softball tournament.

Fire Rescue, Winston-Salem Police and Forsyth County Sheriffs Intake 2020 helped event more than byarepaying for or who wish to do more can will part inwe this extraordinary to help those250 who soChampions, Those who unable to attend desperately need it. their life-saving medical treatments. go directly to the Pretty In Pink Foundation’s website to make a donation. Make sure you note that your donation is for “This mission is local, personal and lifesaving,” said Sayla Nedell, the Battle of the Badges Charity Softball Tournament (www.

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25 Years of Whimsical Women

BY TABATHA RENEGAR The inspiring history of the 25 years of the Whimsical Women Art Sale begins with a story of two sisters and the mother that they adored, admired, and wished to honor.

Luli Sanderford and Linda Palladino grew up the precocious daughters of Bill and Ellen Brown. Ellen was an amazing and creative seamstress who was always busy making something, often to be given away. “I don’t think Mom was courageous enough to try selling what she created, so she just kept making and giving things away!” says Linda. The girls noticed how their mother’s creations brought so much joy and peace into the lives of others.

After losing their beloved mom, Ellen’s selflessness, combined with her creative spirit, served as the motivation for Luli and Linda to put together an art sale as a tribute to her. Not only did they want to honor her, but they wanted to practice the idea that through the creative process, one can begin to heal the soul.

So, in the spring of 1996, with only the two sisters as artists and combined with the selling of bedding plants from Luli and Jim’s farm, the first Whimsical Women art show took place in Luli’s yard in Pfafftown. Even though Linda swears they were “terrible artists back then,” they quickly realized their art was selling better than the plants!

The following spring, they held the show again, this time inviting creative friends to join them. A few years later, they added a second show in Chapel Hill, NC. The only requirement for artists to join was that they be women who make their own art. It was, and remains, very important to the sisters that female artists feel empowered and supported by a like-minded community. The WW art shows have never been about anyone getting rich; they have always been about growing a community of women who care for and support each other.

Over the years, the sisters recruited many talented, hardworking, and generous women to help run the show. As a result of the tremendous growth of the show and the need to “make it legal,” they eventually created the Whimsical Women Executive Board. A common sentiment from those lucky Executive members is how honored they feel to be included and to help manage their favorite show of the year!

Although Linda and Luli “retired” after 20 years of directing the Whimsical Women executive board and annual show in 2016, the story did not end! The spark that ignited this creative and passionate endeavor in 1996 was still lit; it just needed to be adopted by other energetic women who were the best kind of crazy-enough to keep it going! That’s exactly what happened and a determined handful of artists, some previous Execs and others new to the board, jumped right in, and the show goes on!

While the show began on Luli’s farm, it has since been held in many different places over the years in both WinstonSalem and Chapel Hill. It was not uncommon for over 1,500 shoppers to flock to the show, with as many as 200 getting in line an hour or more before the start of the event! In 2016, it became apparent that the show had outgrown its cherished space on the Sanderford Farm in Pfafftown. After trying

settings similar to the Pfafftown farm for a couple of years and then missing one year entirely due to the pandemic, Whimsical Women is thrilled to be celebrating their 25th Anniversary Show at Bailey Park in Winston-Salem this November 20th!

Bailey Park promises to be an exciting space to fill with whimsical art from 112 artists! There is ample free parking in nearby public parking lots as well as street parking. There will be live music from The Brown Mountain Lightning Bugs, magic from the Fairy Hair Fairies, and several food trucks will be on hand. Shoppers can also enjoy the many nearby dining and drinking options that surround Bailey Park.

Whimsical shoppers are encouraged to bring their own earth-friendly bags and while most artists accept credit cards, having some cash on hand is always a good idea, too!

From humble farm gatherings to the stellar show that it is today, Whimsical Women has been a crazy, sweet ride. Starting out with gentle and soulful beginnings, the Whimsical Women art show has grown into a vibrant, all-day affair with thousands of customers enjoying beautiful art created by amazing, wonderful women. It’s hard to imagine a more authentic and harmonious way to honor a mother who raised two girls who have gone on to touch so many people’s lives with their creations – embodying what it means to be Whimsical Women!

When I asked Linda and Luli what they cherish the most about the last 25 years, they said, “The spirit of community and all those friends that we made was the best thing to come out of it… all the people helping and supporting each other over the years.”

For more information about the Whimsical Women, visit www. whimsicalwomen.org or on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ whimsicalwomenws/ and also www.instagram.com/whimsicalwomenws.

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BY TARYN JEREZ

A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

This month’s featured artist, Elizabeth Shanahan, finds sanctuary and divinity in the wildest of places, allowing each brushstroke to echo the inspirations and surroundings that only nature can provide. Her talent as a mixed media artist truly lies in turning familiar pieces of the world into a world all her own to share with her customers and students.

Elizabeth Shanahan | Abstract Mixed Media Artist How would you describe your work?

Being an artist is a job and you have to treat it that way. Because it’s a less traditional format (nobody’s going to yell at you if you come in late), it’s really easy to let life get in the way, and I won’t pretend to you that I’ve never fallen prey to this! But I’ve found the best way to handle it is to set a calendar with deadlines, and then stick to it. Let people know when you’re releasing new work, and do it. It’s much harder to renege when people are expecting a release.

What influences your art most?

How have you evolved, personally, as an artist?

I think I’m a little unusual in that I’ve gone from creating abstract work to making work that’s much more representational, while others tend to go the other way as they get older. I think I felt a lot of pressure in art school to conform to a certain idea of what a contemporary artist should be. As I’ve grown up, I’ve gotten more confident and open to channeling the creative impulses that come to me.

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I hadn’t thought about teaching before but when Mollie Bradford from The Little Chapel in Clemmons approached me about it, I thought, why not? The idea of giving that experience to someone else through this “Paint & Sip” class is exciting and I’m really looking forward to it. I don’t know whether it will become a regular part of my practice yet.

How do you carve out time to be creative?

I’m best known for my landscapes, which explore the relationship between God, humans, and the environment. I consider myself a neoimpressionist because I hope my paintings will inspire in the viewer the same sense of wonder and belonging I feel in a beautiful place.

Nature is easily my biggest inspiration.

Any amount of time outside leaves me with dozens of ideas for new work, and the deep sense of peace I need to make it. I do find inspiration in other places though; my Fiorendo collection from 2019 was about my daughter and the ways we grew together in her first two years of life, and last year I made a series of still lifes depicting fruit and flowers in fun, bright colors, because I wanted to make something that would bring me and my collectors a sense of joy while everything felt so hard and scary. Right now I’m working on a series of small still lifes of things my daughter brings me from our yard, because it’s such a special, universal moment in childhood, the collection of small objects.

You have your first group painting class coming up.

Tell us about that!

What are you working on that excites you right now?

Teaching students of different levels, what’s a common thread you see in your students?

In one-on-one lessons I’ve done, and in observing other students during school, the biggest commonality I see is a sense of personal aesthetic. Most artists have good taste themselves, and an idea about what they like and don’t like, and that’s what inspires the desire to make. Beginners, however, are often afraid to make marks, which leads to choppy, hesitant strokes.

It’s important to remember that art making is a process of making and remaking.

Experienced artists realize that whether you like your initial strokes or not, they’re going to be covered and recovered as you create your piece, so there’s no sense in being afraid.

I’m very excited about my Palette Collection! I’ll be releasing a series of photographs of my art palettes as prints. They’re so vibrant and textured, you’ll want to touch them to be sure the paint isn’t real!

The combinations of colors are like little studies of the paintings they made, which is fun for me as I edit the photos and say to myself, oh, this was from the Shelter Collection or this was from when I was painting Alicia while we were filming Nella Luce this spring. I’m excited to see the response.

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists?

Don’t stop. Like making art, building a career is a process of trying, going back and trying again, and eventually, you’ll find the formula that works for you.

If you are interested in learning more about Elizabeth Shanahan, you can follow her on Instagram @elizabeth.shanahan, as well as find her work online at elizabethshanahan.com. Elizabeth also does art fairs and gallery shows, which you can keep up with on Instagram or by subscribing to her email list on her website.

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BY AMY HILL

THE MORNING GREETER

THE ROUTINE GUY

THE SENSITIVE SNIFFER

You’re running a bit behind schedule this morning and don’t have time to drink your cup of coffee before heading to the office. After rushing out of your door, parking your car, and riding the elevator up to your office floor, you are in no mood to make small talk before being properly caffeinated.

Lo and behold, immediately after you open the office door, someone rushes by you and loudly exclaims, “Good morning!” Almost reflexively, you are filled with loathing.

You force a smile and provide a much quieter greeting in return as you keep your head down until you can safely make it to your cubicle.

As soon as you throw your purse down, you head to the breakroom, praying that the Keurig is unoccupied. As you feared, the Keurig is indeed in use, but the user is none other than the benign, quiet older man in the office who uses the Keurig every morning at exactly 8:04. Waiting to use the Keurig isn’t painful, however, because this coffeemaking creature of habit always keeps to himself, or at most, asks about your cat.

After all, it’s never too early to have a conversation about cats. As he finishes putting his creamer in his coffee and tells you the Keurig is “all yours,” you finally get to brew your muchneeded cup of coffee.

It’s been half an hour since you ingested your coffee, and you are now safe to be approached for any conversation – so you think. Your supervisor calls your office phone and asks if you can visit his office, which is unsettling.

You quickly head to your supervisor’s office and are surprised when he asks you if you have been wearing any perfume or fragrance to work. Confused, you explain that you only use one or two squirts of your favorite perfume each morning and that you weren’t aware anyone noticed. Apparently, the lady in the cubicle behind you is very sensitive to chemical smells, and made a complaint about your two baby splashes of perfume.

You agree to stop wearing perfume to appease the snitch and sadly sit back down at your desk, fragrance-free.

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THE LURKER

THE OFFICE GOSSIPS

As the day goes on, it’s nearing lunchtime and things are looking up. When you start brainstorming about where you’re going to take your lunch break, the office Chatty Cathy stops by your desk to “catch up,” because it’s “only been a week” since you last spoke.

Apparently, Chatty Cathy needs someone to lend an ear, as she drones on and on about how tired she is from potty-training her grandson, and how frustrated she is with the construction on her way to work every morning. As she continues cutting into the time you could be spending perusing local restaurant menus, your responses become shorter and shorter until she finally runs out of steam and scurries back to her desk.

Around 3:00 in the afternoon, you’re typing away on your computer when you hear two voices whispering. You glance over and see two middle-aged ladies covering their mouths with folders while they whisper back and forth (rather than just closing a door behind them and speaking in a normal tone).

The whispers are becoming more and more grating, reminding you of all the times your parents whispered in your ear and told you to behave during church services as a child. As a matter of fact, you don’t even remember the last time you whispered anything, and can’t imagine why anyone would feel comfortable openly gossiping on the office floor.

Unable to tolerate the two babbling mice in the corner any longer, you grab your earbuds and drown out the noise with a podcast while you work for the rest of the afternoon. Hopefully your snitch of a cubicle neighbor won’t file a complaint about you using earbuds next.

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I didn’t really want chickens. Didn’t look forward to the extra work, the mess, the worry….but then we went to pick out the chicks. Hundreds of them running around in a giant galvanized tub at Tractor Supply, all kinds and colors, moving so fast you could barely keep your eye on the one you liked.

The guy who had the job of catching them had a difficult job, indeed. Our son picked three, I picked three, my husband picked three, and then we each named our picks. Sally, Annabel, Sophie, Louise, Linda, Sharon, Pamela, Sunny, and Bock Bock. Spoiler Alert: Louise turned out to be Louis.

The early days with the tiny chicks were so much fun. Watching them grow, making sure they were warm, trying to figure out who was who. One night the power went out and thankfully, we had a generator to keep the chick’s heat lamp on…but the generator ran out of gas in the middle of the night!!

I woke my husband in a panic to go get gas at 2:00 am so the chicks wouldn’t get cold. They were our responsibility.

Our babies.

As we watched the chicks grow into awkward teenagers and then into fullgrown chickens, we learned things and grew very attached to them! Here are some of the more important lessons we learned from raising chickens…

PATIENCE Chickens are slow learners, but once they get it…they get it. There were nights they wouldn’t go into their coop, and we had to catch each one in the dark (or in the rain) and place them inside so they would be safe. Pretty soon though, they were marching up their ramp at twilight every night like clockwork. The chickens learned what they were supposed to do!

PERSEVERANCE Chickens get up EARLY….every day at the same time, lay their eggs in the same place, and go about their day. No matter what life throws at us, we have to get up to let the chickens out, feed them, make sure they have enough water and make sure they are protected because they cannot protect themselves.

HAVE FUN We built the chickens a swing, made them several tree limbs to perch on, offer snacks in the yard and big planters filled with dirt for them to take dirt baths in. When they are roaming free-range, there is always a lot to explore, and they appear to be having a very good time. The chickens show us that having fun and enjoying life is a critical part of being alive! We all forget this sometimes.

TAKING TIME TO GET TO KNOW THOSE AROUND YOU PAYS OFF

DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF… IT’S ALL SMALL STUFF

Every chicken is different and has a different personality; some are more docile, while some are more domineering. Some like to control the roost, and some are more easygoing and like to sit on your lap. Getting to know each one and forming a bond is good for all. The chickens are healthier and we get more pleasure out of raising them.

They fight over food, peck at each other for positions of authority, form chicken cliques, and generally act ornery…but after all that, they stick together. They all go in the coop together at night and go to sleep… letting bygones be bygones. The sun will rise the next day, and there will be another chance to get it right.

In life, we all encounter different people who approach situations differently, who like different things, behave differently, etc. We have to learn to accept each person for who they are and deal with them accordingly. One of the main things raising chickens has shown us is that everyone deserves a chance and there is no need to start passing judgment right out of the gate.

Chickens can be mean!

APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE It doesn’t take a lot to make a chicken happy. Some extra scraps from the kitchen, time sitting on your lap, a nice dirt bath in the planter, a ride on the chicken swing. The little things are what matter. Watching the chickens each day, you remember to appreciate the simple things in your life, which are really the most important things.

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Fall/Winter Fashion Trends Brought Down Home and Down to Earth From the Catwalk

BY SUSAN B. B. SCHABACKER

Get fashion-friendly and gear up for the colder weather with these trendsetting tips. Streamline this season’s stylish autumnal and winterish trends with your own seasonal wardrobe. Bring what’s in vogue downhome and down-to-earth to suit your style.

From pantsuits to power pleats, step out confidently in an empowered, independent businesswoman look. Get the style scoop on these and other top trends, and wear a wardrobe that’s cat-walk graced, making it your own.

Collection of colors gracing the fall 2021/winter 2022 runway: hot pink, purple, mustard. Get gorgeous in a plethora of different shades of green, too.

FASHION FRIENDLY WARDROBE TIPS, TRICKS, AND TIDBITS

• ‘Tis The Season to Boot Up – Get into boot-legging, pairing any type of boots (e.g., ankle/combat) with leggings and jeggings.

• Invest in Vest and Chilly Weather Outerwear – When the cold weather comes a-calling, layer it up. Mix ‘n match with some staple wardrobe pieces like a cashmere sweater, flannel, wrap, leather jacket, or puffer coat. Stay warm and be fashionable.

• Don’t Part with Summer Staples – No need to part with all your summer wardrobe. Be creative and innovative in the art of layering. Pair camis with cardigans and crop tops with long sleeve shirts.

• Play With Different Elements – Who says you can’t pair combat boots or a bomber jacket with feminine florals? Try a combination of masculine and feminine pieces that speak to you. Fashion is not one-size-fits-all. Just be yourself, think outside the box sometimes, and have fun with it.

• Adjust as Desired – Bored with your regular tee shirt? Grab those scissors and crop it as desired to make it more flattering. You can even cut some fringe and make ties. Tired with the same ol’ pants and long sleeve shirts or button-downs. Simply cuff the bottoms or sleeves.

• Accessible Accessories – A simple scarf is a versatile tool to complete your look or take it to a whole ‘nother level. Wear it around your neck, waist, or as a top. Want to add some interest around those eyes? Try some fashion eyewear, whether glasses or shades. And find the right belt for your look.

FALL 2021/WINTER 2022 LOOKS – HOT OFF THE RUNWAY

• Graphic variations of leggings – Prada, Pucci, and cut-outs – Dion Lee, Awake Mode • Swing it ‘60s style with a more modern and monochrome look/feel • Get cool and comfy with plush parkas that say “super ski chic” • Alice and Wonderland and Queen of Hearts – diamond shapes and checkerboard patterns in classic black, white, and red Casa Blanca, Gucci, Dior • ‘70s floral wallpaper, not wallflower – Victoria Beckham, Patou, Acne Studios, and Kwaidan Editions • ‘70s flared pants – Zimmerman, Stella McCartney, and Ferragamo • ‘50s tailored school uniforms - Max Mara, Etro, Celine • Neo ‘20s feathers, fringe, and embroidered dresses – Loewe, Prada, Paco Rabane, and Rokh • Ski suit – Chanel, Miu Miu, LA DOUBLEJ, and Etro • Chic silhouette with hi-waisted pencil skirt paired with crop top – Maximilian, Jacquernes, Emilia Wickstead, and Gucci • Bustier – Dior, Sportmax, Rokh, and Loewe • Sci-fi retro silhouette that’s strong, simple, and sleek – Nanushka, The Attico, • Sheer Romantic - Embroidered with satin roses, sequins, and bows Alberta Ferretti to Dior, Giambattista Valli and Simone Rocha, Gucci, Versace, Valentino, and Coperni

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• Ninja-esque Body Suits - Maximilian Davis, Halpern, GCDS, and Emily Wickstead • Color-iffic in the brightest hues of the rainbow for color therapy – Chanel, JW Anderson, Burberry, Roksanda, and Thebe Magugu • Baggy, wide-legged dark denim, some as comfy as yoga pants, so try a downward-facing dog – Schiaparelli, Celine, Carolina Herrera, Molly Goddard, Rokh, Peter Do, and R13.

• Pretty Puffers are no longer just for winter in the mountains but have graced many a fashion model on the catwalk – Balenciaga, Louis Vuitton, Longchamp, and Michael Kors.

• Preppy Sweater Vests – classic pieces that are lovely layered – Staud, Apiece Apart, • XX Long sleeves with no need to cut off your arms’ long lines by cuffing them. And an added benefit? Keeping those hands warm – Gabriela Hearst, Raf Simmons, Giorgio Armani, Max Mara, and Balmain • Shimmering sequins that are ‘20s meets opulent ‘80s reflect the light and illuminate your look - Connor Ives, Giorgio Armani, Prabal Gurung, Dolce & Gabbana, Carolina Herrera, Erdem, Isabel Marant, Prada, Valentino, Markarian, Givenchy, and Alberta Ferretti.

Check out the fall/winter beauty article in this issue to complete your looks. And, remember, it’s not about trying to be someone else or slavishly following fashion trends, but about being the best version of you and having fun with fashion!

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This past year, working from home and virtual learning were added to many people’s daily routines. Therefore, using a computer, iPad, or cell phone has become more a part of our daily life than we may have liked. These activities mostly required the use of a digital device with a screen. Spending hours staring at a computer screen can take a toll on a person’s health. Body stiffness, headaches, and mostly eye strain and blurred vision can be the result over time. As I worked from home, I shared in this struggle. Many days I would get headaches due to the additional screen time and stress on my eyes. However, headaches and eye strain can be minimized thanks to these seven tips. If you are experiencing some of the effects of too much screen time, give one of these tips a try.

1. Wear blue light blocking glasses – There has been some debate as to whether or not blue light blocking glasses actually work. Device screens produce a blue light that can cause eye strain and also interrupt a person’s circadian rhythms, making it harder to fall asleep at night. Blue light glasses block out that light, which can be beneficial to a person’s eyes while working on a computer. I have a few pairs of these glasses and they do help prevent my headaches and eye strain.

Pairs can be purchased on Amazon, as well as at other local and online retailers. Blue light blocking glasses also come in different magnifications to prevent the words on the screen blurring together. As always, check with your optometrist before using blue light blocking glasses if you have any questions.

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2. Blink as often as possible and take eye breaks – Computers can contribute to dry eyes, but this can be prevented by blinking as often as possible to produce tears that moisten your eyes. Also, making time to look away from the monitor will help tremendously. One rule of thumb is to use the 20-20-20 rule. Every 20 minutes, fix your eyes on an object at least 20 feet away from your screen for at least 20 seconds. Lastly, anti-glare covers for your computer screen and document holders placed to the side for your papers can assist with preventing dry eyes.

3. Use eye drops – Over-the-counter eye drops serve the same job as blinking and create artificial tears. Options for prescription eye drops are available for chronic dry eyes. Speak with your optometrist if you think you would benefit from eye drops.

4. Make changes to your monitor and screen settings – Always keep your monitor about an arm’s length away and the top of the screen at or just below eye level. Once you have your monitor in place, play around with your screen settings. Change the contrast, brightness levels, lighting, and the size of the type to what works best for you.

5. Adjust your environment around your computer – In addition to the lighting on the computer; take a look at the lighting in your workspace.

Bright lighting can cause computer glare, making objects on your screen difficult to see. Adjusting fluorescent lighting, sunlight, desk lamps, and overhead lighting can lead to a better working environment.

6. Maintain good posture and alignment – Sitting up with a straight back, a.k.a. good posture, is another go-to tip for working on a computer.

Keep your feet flat on the ground. Neck and shoulder pain are common side effects of too much screen time and maintaining proper posture can alleviate some of that pain. Also, be sure to have the right desk and chair and at the right level.

7. Stay up to date with your annual eye exam – One of the best ways to prevent eye strain or eye damage is staying current with your annual eye exam. Your optometrist is there to help you with any troubles you may be having while working on the computer and can direct you to the best solution. Don’t be afraid to share with your doctor what is going on.

While computers, tablets, and cell phones can have benefits, their screens can produce negative impacts. Take care of your health, including your eyes, as you are working on these devices. Keep in mind that one of the most important things you can do is take breaks and limit your screen time whenever possible.

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I can’t live without intellectual stimuli. I was never meant to be an at home mom.

Solving problems and working outside the home has always been more up my alley. I stayed home for multiple years and it wasn’t mentally healthy for me.

– Sarah

A pair of running shoes.

When a problem comes up during the day, sometimes I’d prefer to be five miles away, as quickly as possible.

– Jelisa

Nature and sunlight – fresh air does wonders for my soul.

– Hannah

Air conditioning in the South.

– Amy

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The Forsyth County Public Library. They kept me sane and in books during the lockdown. They are kind, efficient, and welcoming. I would wither and die without the Southside Library.

Free books! What an amazing place.

– Joyce

Indoor plumbing.

BECAUSE. – Natalie

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A big warm soft blanket to be cozy.

– Jane

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Mindnumbing television.

– Rachael

Live music – it soothes my soul, brings me great joy and connects me to my tribe of gypsies!

– Claudia

My iPad. It keeps me company with podcasts and music while I work from home, helps me fall asleep at night, entertains me with games and social media, and acts as my desk phone with Google Voice. It’s become indispensable.

– Mikal

Nature and music!

It allows my spirit to flow.

– Cassey

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Something to strive for, because I feel scared and lost without immediate purpose.

– Emily

A black hair tie.

– Anna

Ranch dressing and trash reality TV. Gotta watch my Real Housewives of blah blah every Sunday!

– Natalie

Roomba.

I’ve got four boys and four pets, and why didn’t I get this sooner? Not to mention Old House Dust, husky hair and a long-haired cat. Did I mention I have four boys? Dirty, roll in the dirt, backyard playing boys.

– April

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Notebooks/ planner and colorful pens. I am a doodler and my ADHD has to write everything down or I forget it.

– Rachel

Alone time.

– Alison

Sunscreen.

It has allowed me to work and play outdoors for years with minimal UV damage to my skin.

– Leann

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Books. In all the insanity that is a pandemic, an economic crash, and just existing, it’s nice to fall into a different reality sometimes.

– Nicole

Music! I literally need stimuli to function and drum up any energy when I’m low on spoons.

– Jasmine

I’m trying to decide between books and alone time.

Can books be a part of alone time? Because if so, then I’m alone time all the way!

– Caroline

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GPS! I’d try to go to Walmart and end up in Virginia!

– Aileen

Right now? Crochet hooks and yarn.

Something for my hands and a pattern to quiet the brain.

-Gloria

My smartphone!

The Kindle app keeps me sane. TikTok has really helped with managing anxiety through finding people in my same boat. The Amazon Music app has learned all my songs and my playlist is right on point.

– Christina

Coffee.

Coffee.

Coffee coffee coffee.

– Sabrina

Time to craft and create. Without artistic expression my mental health suffers.

– Paige

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Yoga class, sunshine, being outside and books!

– Elizabeth

Coffee, baths, migraine meds, books – traditional, ebooks or audiobooks.

– Tricia

Curbside pick-up – as a single mom with a high risk daughter and working full time, it makes it easier for me to get our essential items without exposing her to unnecessary germs.

– Bianca

A notebook and a pen – to make lists, plan, and empty my brain of all the things.

– Michelle

Coffee!

Because I like it and it makes me feel good.

-Lee

Living Your Best Life

Retired?

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

You gave a lot of thought to how you would maintain your health and financial well-being once you were retired. And you looked forward to reconnecting with old friends, traveling, and throwing yourself into a new or old “hobby.” The one thing that may not have crossed your mind is how you would safeguard your self- esteem. You didn’t think it would ever be an issue! While many retirees happily state “This is the best time of my life!”, others are blindsided when they realize that they don’t feel as good about themselves as they used to.

So, what’s going on?

A study published by The American Psychological Association found that self-esteem was lowest among young adults but increased throughout adulthood, peaking at age 60, before it started to decline. The study’s co-author, Richard Robins, PhD, observed that, “Midlife is a time of highly stable work, family and romantic relationships. People increasingly occupy positions of power and status, which might promote feelings of self-esteem...

In contrast, older adults may be experiencing a change in roles such as an empty nest, retirement and obsolete work skills in addition to declining health.”

All of these significant role changes are about loss. Add other losses such as the death of a spouse, a divorce, or profound loneliness, and these “threats” to self-esteem feel very real.

There are other threats, as well. Consider these: Telling yourself that you no longer serve a purpose. This one is on you. Remember that a steady diet of negative self-talk can chip away at your self- esteem and, if inertia sets in, become a selffulfilling prophecy.

Being “told” that your retirement should be nirvana. People look at you with green-eyed envy or question why you aren’t “happier.”

After all, you’re retired right? This could make you think there is something wrong with you. Just because you no longer work doesn’t mean that you live on cloud nine.

Being treated as “less.” People may drop subtle digs about your value as a human based on your age alone or because you are no longer on the hamster wheel, contributing to the economy. They might minimize your work and life experience and consider you “obsolete.”

Being compared. Comparisons to younger people or to a younger version of yourself are not helpful. In a youth-obsessed culture, some people can’t help but point out how you “stack up” against your younger self or others who are younger. This behavior may be conscious or unconscious, but either way, it can sting.

Being labeled. There is nothing humorous about being called or referred to as an old geezer, old biddy, old hag, old fogey, old fart… and so on. It’s hurtful to be dismissed or made fun of simply on the basis of your chronological age.

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Mind These Threats to Your Self Esteem

Being treated as feeble or incompetent. Age, by itself, is no measure of physical ability or mental agility. Nonetheless, some people may treat you in ways that feel condescending, or at least naïve, simply because you’ve got some years under your belt.

You may have noticed one or more of these threats because they are “active” in your life. If so, remember this: You don’t have to buy into any of it. By being aware and making a few different choices, you can keep these threats at bay and, best of all, feel VERY good about yourself.

(Look for Part Two, “Maintain your Self-Esteem in Retirement” in the November issue of FW)

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Better Than You Found It

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

During the 1990’s and through the first decade or so of the 21st century, my work took me all over this amazing and breathtakingly beautiful country. It transported me beyond our shores to South America and to Europe, as well. I am comfortable in my own skin and with my fellow humans of every stripe, so meeting people who were very unlike me on the surface was no big deal. Giving and receiving respect was a huge motivator and job satisfier for me!

What I am not comfortable with is careless behavior and action that demonstrate disregard or disrespect for others. I’ll name a few: • tossing a fast-food container out of a car window (what are you thinking?)

• dropping clothing from a hanger in a store and leaving it there (are you lazy?)

• leaving a trail or a lump of dog doo-doo on the street or on a neighbor’s lawn (that’s just gross)

• keeping a yard sale sign posted on a telephone pole forever (okay, maybe not so bad?)

• depositing trash bags and other junk on the side of the road (other than Bulky Trash Day) • sticking one’s chewed gum on the underside of a public table or chair (that’s never okay) I am certain that you can add to this list. If I sound judgmental, I understand the assessment and acknowledge that I am not without blame here either.

At one time or another, I stood guilty of one or more of these careless, even slovenly infractions…and others. The point isn’t to judge. It is to raise awareness of how our choices create the neighborhoods, the communities, and the workplaces we inhabit. Which in turn says something about who we are as humans, neighbors, citizens, and co-workers.

I don’t have a quick fix, but I do have a few words of wisdom from the former president of the company that sent me all over God’s earth: “Leave everything you touch better than you found it.” Wow. That made sense to me and to my colleagues who were also road warriors. It became a shared aspiration and a quality our company was known for. I am sure that the many small things we did made a big difference: • wiping down the sink in the airport bathroom, if only quickly • neatly rearranging the conference room chairs • leaving a smiley face post-it note on a client’s desk • meticulously wiping down the White Board For us, it became a challenge to identify new and even creative ways to lift and uplift everything that we touched. Doing so was its own contagious high and others followed suit.

There are countless opportunities to leave things better right where we are. Pick up a limb in the road and move it to the side, for example. It could save yourself or a neighbor an expensive car repair! This type of thinking generates the actions I’m talking about.

What difference would it make if we all adopted the “leave it better” aspiration as a worthy value?

What difference would it make if we taught our young children to think in these terms? Not only would they be more conscious of the choices they make and their impact on others, but maybe, just maybe, those small acts of responsibility and respect would transfer to, well, how about something as basic as: • acknowledging people • making eye contact • smiling • waving You know, simple expressions of respect and kindness. In my view, the difference made would be nothing short of immeasurable.

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Porch Sitting

I am famous, well, perhaps “infamous” for my porch sitting.

Oh, there’s Jean Marie again, say “Hey” y’all.

If you have read even a few of my articles, you know that I am a stickler for self-awareness and self-acceptance. I mean, otherwise, you spend an enormous amount of time being someone you are not and disliking yourself in the process. There is no point in that. But I digress.

Anyway, when folks wave at me with enthusiasm, or even if they give me the half-hearted, obligatory, milk toast version of acknowledgement, I am reminded that porch sitting is very much a part of who I am. Of course, this does mean spending an inordinate amount of time on my butt.

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I felt a tad vindicated when I discovered there is an organization that honors one of my favorite past times. It’s the Porch Sitters Union, founded in 1999 in Louisville, Kentucky. Who knew? I soon learned that porch sitting as a legit activity is seriously inclusive. The website says it all: “We look at Porch Sitting as a broad term. While a classic Porch can be ideal, we believe it is not entirely necessary to enjoy Porch Sitting.

Whether you are on a smaller portico, a veranda, a terrace, front porch, back porch…even the garage with the door open while watching the kids at play, that counts.” You see, they get it! And just as the Porch Sitters Union proclaimed, who needs a porch when one can “porch sit” just about anywhere? Perhaps you observed more of this phenomenon emerge during the pandemic. I certainly did. I especially recall a cool (as in chilly) St. Patrick’s Day evening when neighbors were gathered in a garage with the keg in full swing, the music blaring, and the “porch sitting” well underway. Of course, it was St. Patrick’s Day, so the ante was up!

The American porch is iconic. It makes sense that its original purpose was to provide shelter from the elements. But beyond the practical, the porch soon became a decorative feature and evolved as a place for our private and public selves to intersect.

In fact, porch sitting can be intensely private. When I am seeking my own company, I head out to my “veranda” which is on the backside of my house. With a wall fountain gurgling beside me, and the sights and sounds of nature enveloping me, I am in my version of heaven. At other times I embrace and seek out connection, because the porch is about community, about gathering in good times and in bad. It’s about heartfelt conversations, harmless gossip, and raucous fun. It’s about

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watching the world go by, even if that means only a few birds and a solitary butterfly.

It’s about being in the moment because the moment, with little fanfare or planning, matters.

COVID reinforced that. Sharing that moment with others may matter even more because it’s a space in which we strengthen our relationships and make memories with others.

It’s autumn now, my favorite time of year. Pumpkins adorn my front porch and porch sitting requires a sweater and a few lit candles. Some evenings, my porch sitting moves to the firepit of one neighbor or another. It’s the winter season that really tests my porch sitting mettle. When a mild evening arrives unexpectedly, I am the first to text: “Y’all sittin’ out?”

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BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I can still see my BFF, then 13, and her mom walking down our street with a ceramic vase, filled with earthy plants. It was 1971 and my dad’s funeral had been that morning, as was my eighth-grade graduation.

But, unlike my friend, my sunny yellow dress never left the hanger.

Instead, I was clad in a simple black sheath that befit our loss. I don’t remember much about that day except that my brother, armed with his Driver’s Permit, managed to nick the side of the funeral home with the bumper of the big old, borrowed car he was driving. That, and the fact that my BFF and her mom came with those plants, to sit with us. What they said, I can’t recall, but what I know is that their presence meant everything to me.

Fast forward several decades, and I am the one providing the presence to a dear friend who had just buried her husband. Of course, nearly 700 miles separate us, but hey, the heart doesn’t know that.

We did a Zoom call, she in her home office and I in mine. She with a tumbler of Malbec, me with a stemmed glass of buttery Chardonnay.

The shared drinks, virtual though they were, allowed us to toast life, a friendship that endures, memories shared, and to reckon with the reality that my friend had just lost her man. I simply uttered “Oh, Meg…” and then, over the unfolding 60 minutes, followed her lead.

I said little. Certainly, no platitudes, no wishful thinking, none of that.

Better to be with her in her story, her tears. Better to say, “I love hearing your stories about him,” and “I am here when and how you need me to be.” Yes, better.

I did one more thing: I visited Remedy Apothecary and put together a care box for my friend. Herbal tea for the morning, rose petals for the bath, body oil for bedtime. That’s how I sat with my friend in her grief. After that, I looked to see what the experts suggest we say and do. Here, in a nutshell, is what I gleaned:

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• Reach out to express your sympathy. Then, do so again in the weeks and months ahead to show you haven’t forgotten, and that you care.

• Replace “How are you?” with “How are you doing today?” or “How are you feeling today?”

• Acknowledge the pain and sadness of the one who is grieving while also reminding them of their strength, courage, resilience.

• Use the name of the person who has passed as a way of honoring them.

• Ask “How can I be of help to you?” instead of “Can I help with anything?” Make a specific suggestion such as: “Let me help you sort through things” or “I’ll swing by on Thursday night with some dinner” or, “I know how much you have on your hands. Let me get your groceries for you this week.”

• Offer understanding, NOT advice. Resist solution-making when it isn’t asked for. Focus on being there for them by listening patiently, sharing the joyful memories and empathizing with the painful ones.

• Honor their grieving process. Even if you have experienced a similar loss, remember that each person’s journey of grief is different. Their pace may be faster or slower than yours; they may “move forward” in different ways than you did. In other words, steer clear of judgment.

I’ll be reaching out to my friend again soon. In the presence of grief, the presence of a friend is priceless.

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Planning Ahead for the Holiday Sale Season This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

From October through December, millions of businesses will be shouting their promotions from the rooftops and I promise you, you’ll see a few “sales squirrels” among them and I don’t want it to be you.

What’s a “sales squirrel” you may be asking? A business without a sales plan in place who keeps darting from one deep discount sale to the next, trying to crack the code to increase sales, but sadly never succeeding.

This month let’s talk about how to avoid this scenario in your own business and instead embrace planning out intentional promotions for that work for you and your customers!

Start Planning It All Out Now Sit down with your inventory of products or services for the upcoming holiday season and start creating a plan! Allow your focus to come from creating a promotions experience for your customers rather than a random sale to encourage them to purchase. Obviously, whatever promotions you create should, in fact, encourage sales, but you want to make sure you are choosing something specific to what your customer finds valuable!

Perhaps it’s about offering free gift wrap with a custom card for items from your shop or doing a free gift or donation on their behalf when they purchase a certain amount or book a specific service? For discounts you plan to offer what could help them see added value and excitement but not take away from your bottom line? Think about things that encourage your customer to hit a specific threshold transaction amount or encourage them to buy or book more with you.

Once you have a brainstorm of ideas down, take time to home in and make decisions on which promotions you will run for which holidays and solidify your plan.

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Create a Holiday Sales Calendar Your calendar is your new BFF in your business this holiday season. It will help you stay on top of your marketing, shop or website updates, inventory needs, and your own personal life!

For each promotion you’ll be running throughout the holidays, include your “what, when and how” to help you stay organized and create concrete tasks with deadlines. Remember to create this calendar in a way that is realistic for you to stick to it! Have all promos set up in your shop, social media content ready, emails scheduled with an understanding of your promo timeline as a whole.

A great goal is to have this calendar set up as early as you can so you don’t get overwhelmed.

Prepare Your Audience in Advance As each holiday promotion approaches, don’t keep everything under wraps! This is your chance to prepare your customers and leads for what they can look forward to and keep their eyes open for! It doesn’t mean you have to share the exact details, but create a sense of urgency with reminders and countdowns when you are dropping something special, similar to how you would treat a launch. Work on building a marketing and sales strategy that helps you warm up your audience, so they are ready to buy from you - especially as holiday gifts for others! Design a graphic or two listing out your kickoff dates for your sales and customer benefits - get excited, show behind the scenes on social media, create a sense of urgency with cutoff date reminders and any limited inventory of your products or services.

Hustle & Heart Challenge

This month start narrowing down which products and/or services you’ll be concentrating on selling during the holidays. Once you have these selected, begin thinking about how you can create added value for your ideal customers, both new and returning, through promotions. Don’t limit yourself to what you’ve done in the past and think outside the box!

Choose 1-3 sales strategies you’d like to implement!

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The 3 Best Books for Animal Lovers

BY MEGAN TAYLOR Calling all animal lovers! Animals have taken center stage in numerous novels throughout the years. They have captured hearts, gone on journeys, taken part in historic events, and have become memorable companions. You may already have your favorite animal tale, but the novels, The Art of Racing in the Rain, All Creatures Great and Small, and Seabiscuit: An American Legend, have become classics, even being made into movies and television shows. Ready for your next animal themed book?

Take a look at the plots of these three books to find your read.

THE ART OF RACING IN THE RAIN

ALL CREATURES GREAT AND SMALL

by Garth Stein

by James Herriot

Inspired by the documentary, State of Dogs, and the poem, “The Revenant” told from a dog’s point of view, author Garth Stein published his book, The Art of Racing in the Rain in 2008. This novel focuses on race car driver Denny Swift.

Denny is convinced that his dog, Enzo, will be reincarnated as a human in his next life. Enzo’s time is spent watching T.V., other humans, and Denny, all the while trying to learn as much as he can. Throughout the novel, readers follow Denny and Enzo as Denny gets married, has a daughter, watches his wife battle brain cancer, and wins a custody case over his daughter, Zoe, from his in-laws. While seeing everything unfold, Enzo develops a mantra to live by “that which you manifest is before you.” The book, promoted under the phrase “Meet the dog who will show the world how to be human,” The Art of Racing in the Rain can be described as a story of love, loyalty, and courage. A complete mustread for animal lovers.

Based on the true story of English veterinarian Alf Wight, All Creatures Great and Small follows the journey of Wight’s career, his work with animals, and their owners. Author James Herriot, who is actually the pen-name for the real-life Alf Wight, takes up a job in Yorkshire Dales in England. There he discovers that in reality, practicing as a veterinarian is very different than being in school. Herriot describes to readers stories about people losing their beloved companions to funny stories and finally stories of sacrifice, such as poor farmers doing all that they can to provide for their working animals. Along the way, Herriot gives reflections about the wonderful animal world and its forthcoming challenges. Once you have finished this novel, read the other four books in the series. After you are done with the series, you can watch the stories play out in the PBS television show of the same name.

SEABISCUIT: AN AMERICAN LEGEND

by Laura Hillenbrand

The year is 1938 and there is one animal receiving more world news coverage than FDR, Hitler, or Mussolini. That animal is the legendary thoroughbred American race horse, Seabiscuit. Born in 1933, Seabiscuit’s racing history came at a surprise thanks to the dedication of three men. Charles Howard may have brought the automobile to the western part of the United States, but he became Seabiscuit’s owner in the 1930s. Together, with horse trainer Tom Smith and jockey Red Pollard, they led Seabiscuit to history in a span of four years. Seabiscuit: An American Legend is not just for horse lovers; it is a tale for sports fans and animal fans alike. It is also one that readers will want to enjoy over and over again. There are also versions of Seabiscuit’s story available for kids.

These books aren’t the only animal themed ones in the novel world, but they are a great place to start. Even if you aren’t an animal lover, The Art of Racing in the Rain, All Creatures Great and Small, and Seabiscuit: An American Legend are wonderful books.

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A charm bracelet depicting adventures we’ve had…. that my best girl friends and I gave to each other!

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Executive Assistant & Events Manager My puppy Spanky! I begged my parents for years and years and finally got her for Christmas when I was a junior in high school.

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My most memorable gift was my dad’s watch from my mother. (Sadly, he passed from ALZ in 2017). I look at it often and remember the man who wore it daily!

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Every year, and really every holiday, Alex (my husband) makes me a card - like a handmade card. This year for my birthday he got me a gorgeous woven blanket with crystals woven in and a card he made with watercolor of a crystal structure.

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Senior Staff Writer & Assistant Editor One of the most memorable gifts was a precious, fluffy dog that I fell in love with at a shelter. My mom told me she went to rescue him for me, but he was already taken. I was so worried about him until she showed up at my house with him in the backseat…I’ll never forget it!

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Publisher Forsyth Family My two most memorable gifts are my two amazing daughters that God blessed me and their dad with. A very thoughtful gift I received was a trip to NYC for my 40th birthday from my family. We made some great memories which are sometimes the best gift of all!

Susan Schabacker Writer

Though I’ve received many memorable gifts, there is one that can be shared musically, an original song by my ex-boyfriend/ forever friend for my 36th birthday that I enjoy covering on acoustic guitar called “Rosewater Girl.”

The reflective lyrics reminisce on gardens that grow wherever I go, the scent of rosewater, and making rainbows with my guitar.

Tabatha Renegar Writer

Mine was in two parts: my parents gave me a beautiful, vintage ring when I was going through a difficult time in my early 20s. A few years later my boyfriend snuck it out of my jewelry box, had a gorgeous diamond added to it and it became my engagement ring! 25 years later it is still a reminder of deep love and thoughtfulness!

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My mom took lace from her wedding dress and gave it to the florist to wrap around the stems of my wedding bouquet for me to carry down the aisle.

Something I’ll keep and cherish forever!

What is the most thoughtful or memorable gift you’ve ever received?

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The most thoughtful and memorable gift I ever received was from my father.

He knew I had always dreamed of going to nursing school, but as a single mother with two small children, it was an impossible dream at the time. He offered a “scholarship” of sorts and at 41, I went to nursing school for two years and got my RN, BSN. It changed my life completely and I will be forever grateful.

I was 18 when my dad lost his battle to cancer. Since having our son Isaiah, my husband has seen how often I think about what life would be like if my dad was here to make memories with him.

On Father’s Day, my husband surprised me with a painting he had commissioned of my dsd together with Isaiah. It was so unexpected and appreciated more than I can express. And yes, I cried like a baby!

One of the most memorable gifts I have ever received was when Tabatha Renegar, one of our writers, recently gave me a painting of me and my grand-dog, Ranger, riding my paddleboard. Everyone who knows me knows how much I love my grand pups and how much I love to paddleboard, it was such a surprise! She captured the moment so beautifully and I was blown away by her thoughtfulness!

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At our last family Christmas celebration, in December of 2016, my family presented us with a silver bell in a velvet box. This meaningful jewel was engraved with the words “Thanks for the memories.”

“Christmas at Aunt Jean’s” was a tradition I had started in 1992 when my nephew was about three. He now hosts the very same gathering at his house, carrying on the family tradition immortalized by that shiny bell.

When I was in my early 20s and living on my own, I had rented a house that didn’t have a refrigerator, so I bought a cheap used one. A few months later the refrigerator went out right after I had gone to the grocery store and ruined all my food. I was struggling financially. I knew I couldn’t get another refrigerator. The next day my dad came over and took me out and bought me a new refrigerator. Then after it was delivered my mom and sister came over and brought me a ton of groceries. I was fully stocked, more than I had been in months.

Family is everything.

One of the best gifts, although not tangible, was when I was having a bad day, with a sick pup, life kind of a mess, Jim went with me to Costco to pick up meds for my pup. As I was in the pharmacy, I got a text, ‘Come back to the front in the TV section.’ As I walked up a big speaker in the TV area started playing ‘I Like doing what she likes’ by Blake Shelton and Jim said, ‘No matter what we do or what we go through, I like doing what you like and what makes you smile. You want to dance?’

Jim had bluetoothed his phone and pulled up the song. We danced through the song with quite a few watching. Now that was a special gift.

Being Angry is OK

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

IDENTIFY THE EMOTION, WATCH THE BEHAVIOR

Forgive and forget.

Move along.

Don’t be mad.

Is anger helping anyone?

How often are you told to get rid of anger? Growing up, anger was seen as this horrifically negative thing – something we should try to get rid of as soon as possible. Therapy, doctors, even science tells us that anger is associated with an increased level of hypertension – all of these things jump on the cultural expectation that anger is to be controlled and avoided.

So instead of being allowed to feel anger, we’re taught to fear it and run from it, while people that keep their anger in check are considered to be model citizens – anger belongs behind closed doors. This is even worse when you’re a woman: be soft-spoken, apologize often, and only show “nice” emotions.

Something that people miss with anger is that it isn’t a personality trait for most people. It’s an emotion like happiness, sadness, and excitement – emotions are passing and they are caused by actions and behaviors. The things we dislike about anger – aggression, violence, hostility – are actions, not emotions. While anger can make you do those actions – so can other emotions!

Now think: are we supposed to avoid emotions?

Nope.

Emotions are real, valid and things that shouldn’t be suppressed.

When you suppress emotions, what happens? Think about a bottle of seltzer or a can of soda – when it’s agitated it builds up pressure. When the pressure gets too high, the can or bottle can explode. That pressure is what makes emotions like anger negative: repressing anger can even cause things like hypertension and heart disease.

So how do we feel our anger in a way that is healthy and not bottle it up in a way that essentially eats away at our soul?

I’ve said this before – if you struggle with naming emotions, look up the Feeling Wheel. Get in a habit to identify your emotions, the positive AND the negative. If you’re aware of your emotions you can see what behaviors are associated with those emotions.

For example, some folks may lash out when they are feeling angry or sad. This lashing out might cause them to hurt other people – and this is often when people think anger is negative – because of the behavior that is associated with emotion.

When you notice the emotion and stop the negative behavior – you have to replace the negative with something positive.

REWRITE THE BEHAVIOR Use your anger for good things.

YES – anger can lead to aggression – it can also be an incredibly motivating force. A lot of studies show that anger tells us that there needs to be a change.

Look at that anger and see where it comes from – and then use it to make something happen.

Anger can be a tool that helps us see when something is wrong, so try to connect the anger to direct action or behavior. Think of assertive communication: you’re feeling angry because of emotion or behavior, not because of a specific person.

EXERCISE CAUTION Because so many of us have been trained to repress anger, people can be startled or overwhelmed when you’re experiencing anger authentically. This isn’t to say “don’t experience it”; this is to say that you should be clear it’s not projected on to other people, and you’re very clear that the emotion you are experiencing is related to a behavior or action.

Since anger has led to violence and aggression, it can be very triggering to some people. Proceed with caution.

PAUSE IF NECESSARY When in doubt: pause. When you recognize that you’re feeling anger, and need to FEEL it instead of repress it, take a moment to breathe. Life is generally better when you respond versus react.

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Bored with the same ol’ look?

Want to know and try out the latest fashionfriendly beauty trends? Here’s what’s in and trending this fall/winter season.

BOUNTIFUL BEAUTY TIPS, TRICKS, AND TIDBITS

• Add a drop or two of castor oil or another plant-based oil with an eyedropper to your mascara for smoother application.

• Be your own make-up artist and experiment with mixing colors, expanding your palette.

• Experiment with the art of layering skincare products and pigmented cosmetics to create a look that’s uniquely your own.

• Multitask and keep it sweetly simple with one product. Apply blush or bronzer to your eyelids, cheekbones, and mix with some coconut oil or Vaseline for a monochrome face.

• Rub a few drops of a plant-based oil (like olive, avocado, jojoba, or coconut oil) between your palms and use it as a facial moisturizer and to add smoothness and shine to hair that tames frizzies and flyaways.

CATWALK CHIC AND COOL HAIR AND MAKE-UP

• Glitz, glam, and glow with sci-fi inspired eerydescent and metallic disco electric blue, fun fuchsia, limelight or darker gorgeous green smoky eyes and lovely lilac and vibrant shades of violet and pretty purple beset by bejeweled rhinestone and star sticker accents from the sweet ‘n simple to ornamentally ornate.

• Soap brows – brows can’t get cleaner or bushier. Brush up with a damp brush and soap.

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• Braided ponytails and gilded gold shimmery eyeshadow or bold Brooke Shields brows, glistening skin, and pigmented and bold tomato red lips.

• Bold under-eyeliner that wings out.

• Loops and hoops with hair and earrings with a cylindrical aesthetic.

• Contrast of bare eyes and face with dramatic and dark vampy lips.

• Middle parts and vampy lips in rich plums, burgundies, bordeaux, and berries.

• Goth dramatic deep, dark smoky eyes with charcoal shadow and coal-colored liner, paired with prom princess gilded updo’s.

• Classic drama – onyx black kohl-lined eyes or with winged liquid eyeliner with crimson or candy apple matte red lips and tousled locks (messy meets sexy).

• Yin yang fake nails with black, white, and nude pink.

• Time for texture with retro shag mullets (‘70s look made modern), accented by shaggy headbands.

• If you’re having a bad hair day, there’s no need to spend a fortune getting your hair professionally styled or spend all day heat styling. Bandanas, headscarves, and retro headwear have graced top models on the catwalk and can provide the perfect cover-up to conceal unruly locks and flyaways that just don’t want to behave.

• Monochromatic matching eyes and cheeks in gingerbread/terracotta/bronzed orange/ coral and sunset shades matched with dusty peach lips and naturally styled hair merge wispiness with control.

• Lived-in smudged liner with blunt fringe bangs (“a cool ‘90s girl look,” described Victoria Beckham).

• Middle parts, exotic and dramatic Cleopatra-esque eyes, and glossy lips that shine and shimmer.

• Variation on cat-like winged eyeliner that’s a sultry, sensuous, and smokey, smudged look.

• Get cheeky with a rosy and flirtatious, naturally flushed glow.

• Lush ‘n loaded lashes that fan out a la Penelope Cruz.

• Dewy-faced doll with skin that glows, glints, and glimmers by applying highlighting balm or illuminating shimmer to high points of the face (cheekbones, browbones, tip of nose, and top of lip).

• Nude lips are chic and cool in barelythere-beige and other neutral shades, paired with smokey winged eyes and a ‘90s grunge look.

• Some prefer kitten heels to stilettos and some prefer a kitten winged eye look with skinnier and shorter lines to heavier winged cat eyes.

What’s in vogue and fashion is not about being a slave to the trends, and beauty is not a one-size-fits-all. Have fun and be creative as you explore and experiment with different looks with make-up and hair.

No matter what your look, you’re still the same worthy, beautiful woman. Embrace who you are and enjoy being a chameleon!

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Alzheimers Walk

Walk to End Alzheimer’s – Let’s Get Personal

BY BRENT GROCE

By now we’ve all done or donated to many “walks for a cause.” These events have certainly been a powerful strategy to mobilize people and money for good works. There’s a risk, though, that folks get “donor fatigue” with so many fundraisers. (Or maybe it’s just me...)

As much as you don’t want to have multiple good causes competing for attention and donations, realistically people will respond to the best pitch or the ones that are closest to their hearts.

That brings me to the Walk to End Alzheimer’s. Unlike some of the things we all fundraise for, you can pretty much count on having an Alzheimer’s (or other form of dementia) sufferer in your close family. That’s why I called this pitch, “Let’s Get Personal.”

For my family, this is very personal. Kelly Groce, our father, papaw, uncle, cousin, neighbor, and friend, had Alzheimer’s.

We lost him two years ago and feel his loss deeply today. Like many of you we watched as he went from the man we had known all our lives to a different person.

Honestly, we don’t think nearly as much about this diminished and unsettled version of Dad/Papaw as we do about the one we loved for our whole lives.

I hope you’ll indulge me while I recount some quick stories of Kelly so you’ll see why it’s personal for us. At the same time, I’m hoping it will encourage you to think of your personal Alzheimer’s stories – or better yet, the pre-Alzheimer’s stories of that person and your lives together with them. And then, of course, to walk, run, or donate to the Walk to End Alzheimer’s.

WHO WAS KELLY GROCE? • Mr. Forsyth Magazines. No one was more of a supporter of Keela and Brooke and the magazines. He was deliveryman par excellence and ambassador for the magazines – a real stretch for a shy guy.

• Runner. He ran dozens (hundreds?) of charity races. He introduced his granddaughter and grandson to running and they’ve had a lifelong fitness orientation.

• Handyman. He was the honey of many a “honey do” list.

• Wisdom Sharer. Kelly was a real old school guy. He was frugal, practical, and common sensical… nothing touchy-feely about him, but he shared from a position of doing more listening than talking (you know the one about God gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth, right?).

• Creature of Habit. You could call it getting in a rut, but let’s go with creature of habit. It’s possible he ate 80% of all the meals in his life in 3 or 4 restaurants.

• Sweet Tooth. When his (also sweet tooth) out-of-town sons came to visit he’d make sure to include visits to Krispy Kreme, Dewey’s, and various ice cream places. Non-sweet tooth stops focused on BBQ and Pulliam’s hot dogs.

• Racing and Golf Fan. Racing was a life-long love for him, and golf was a later-in-life pastime that he enjoyed more on TV than on the links.

I encourage all reading this – and hopefully thinking of walking in the Walk to End Alzheimer’s or sponsoring a walker – to write your own list of things that capture your dementia-challenged loved one. I found this a fun way to remember the “real” dad I miss so much.

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1. Visit alz.org/walk 2. Search for ‘Winston-Salem Walk’ 3. Search for team “Forsyth Mags” 4. Click on Forsyth Mags team page 5. On the top of the page, click “Join Our Team” 6. Register as a team member!

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SECOND WEDNESDAYS PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting. Learn more at PWWS.org.

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 25 (WEDNESDAYS, FRIDAYS & SATURDAYS) SATURDAY SPECIALS 12-7pm, Campus Gas, 1231 Polo Road.

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OCTOBER 1-10 CAROLINA CLASSIC FAIR Winston-Salem. Second to none in 2021! @CarolinaClassic Fair

OCTOBER 1-31 PUMPKIN PICK HAY RIDES AT TANGLEWOOD STABLES Enjoy a scenic tractor-driven hay ride through Tanglewood Park with a stop at the pumpkin patch where everyone can choose a pumpkin and have lots of photo opportunities! Large group reservations accepted.

Cost: $10/person; $200 to schedule a private hay ride for your group. Cash or check online. Reservations are required. Call 336.766.9540 for more information.

OCTOBER 6 WBFJ FAIR CONCERT In the Grandstand featuring Andrew Ripp and Baylor Wilson.

OCTOBER 7-17 ALEXANDER BY DAYMOR TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Alexander by Daymor is a “Mother of” and special occasion line of dresses and gowns, offering extended sizes. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of designer couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, and sportswear. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s offers its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

OCTOBER 8 GIRLS’ BRUNCH OUT 10am-1pm, Young Cardinal Cafe & Co., 424 West Fourth Street in W-S. Grab a friend, a neighbor, your sister, your mother, a co-worker and have a much-needed Girls’ Brunch Out! Specials include $3 mimosas and $5 bloody Mary’s. As always, each attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board drawings!

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OCTOBER 9 FALL BIOBLITZ AT MINGLEWOOD 9am-12pm, Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield. Bring your lunch, walking shoes and enthusiasm for the great outdoors! Register to participate in our Fall BioBlitz. Once you’re registered, we will provide you with all of the information to be knowledgeable and prepared. www.eventbrite.com/o/minglewood-farmand-nature-preserve-17188338999

OCTOBER 9-17 (SATURDAYS & SUNDAYS) TRIAD FALL PARADE OF HOMES 1-5pm. Exclusive fall parade sponsor is Truist. Event is free to the public.

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OCTOBER 12 WHAT DOES A UROGYNECOLOGIST DO, AND DO I NEED ONE?

Zoom webinar (novanthealth.zoom. us/webinar/register/WN_1gKIn8LSyqSITtHrvhlMA). You’ve heard of a urologist, you’ve heard of a gynecologist, now let’s talk about a urogynecologist.

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OCTOBER 13 VIRTUAL LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE ANNUAL SPEAKER SERIES 2-3:30pm. We are pleased to present bestselling author and NPR host Celeste Headlee. She illuminates a new path ahead to put work aside and start living instead of doing – important lessons to help us all live our best lives. For tickets and sponsorship information, visit BestLifeSeries.org or call 336.331.1326. Registration is free, but donations are appreciated.

OCTOBER 14 OUR ANNUAL BIG EVENT AT LEWISVILLE LASER & AESTHETICS 11am-6:30pm, 6580 Shallowford Road, Suite 130 in Lewisville. Celebrate 13 years with us! Enjoy our best deals of the year, tons of giveaways and meet pros from Allergan, Galderma and more!

OCTOBER 14-17 DASH DISC GOLF AT TRUIST STADIUM 4-8pm (14th-15th); 2-8pm (16th-17th), Truist Stadium. Cost: $20-$25/person. Tee times can be reserved by calling 336.714.6862.

OCTOBER 16 SHREDDING EVENT SPONSORED BY BERMUDA RUN GARDEN CLUB 9am-12pm, Bermuda Run Town Hall, 120 Kinderton Boulevard in Bermuda Run. $5 per bag or equivalent size box. Cash only. Rain or shine.

Proceeds go to various Davie County community programs supported by the Garden Club.

FALL FESTIVAL & TRUNK OR TREAT 5-7pm, New Day Community Church, 1111 Lewisville-Clemmons Road.

Visit NewDayLewisville.org/families for more information.

RUN FOR JOY Winston-Salem. 1st annual 5K race in memory of Katelyn Joy Beardsley, a former student in the Wake Forest School of Medicine Nurse Anesthesia Program and seeks to support the mental wellness of health care trainees. Proceeds will support programming to increase awareness of mental health issues and promote mental wellness and advocacy. Visit runsignup.com/race/nc/ winstonsalem/runforjoy for more information.

TWILIGHT GOAT YOGA The Farm at Henley Hill, 6890 Henley Hill Drive.

Join us for an amazing evening of yoga, under the stars, led by our certified instructor, Fontaine Gervasi, while the goats enjoy grazing and hanging out with you. All you need to bring is a water bottle, a yoga mat or towel and an open mind. We will have a fire and smores after yoga.

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LEWISVILLE CHAMBER OF COMMERCE 2ND ANNUAL GOLF TOURNAMENT 10am, Bermuda Run Country Club East Course.

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OCTOBER 27 REACH: 2021 VIRTUAL EVENT FOR WOMEN

OCTOBER 22-24 HOLLY JOLLY CRAFT FAIR 2021

South Fork Community Center, 4403 Country Club Road in W-S. A delightful way to simplify your holiday shopping, the Holly Jolly Craft Fair offers a broad range of hand-made crafts from knitted stockings to wooden toys, eclectic snowmen and holiday wreaths.

Shop with us for that special one-of-a-kind gift and purchase some tasty treats! Come early for best selections! Door prize given away every hour!

OCTOBER 23 YOUNG NATURALISTS ALL-DAY CAMP (6-12 YEAR OLDS)

9am-4pm, Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield. Young Naturalists will spend the day at Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve exploring the farm, woodlands, meadows and creeks. Cost: $55-$70/person. Snack will be provided, but please bring a bag-lunch. See you on the farm! www.eventbrite.com/o/minglewood-farmand-nature-preserve-17188338999

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10am-6pm, Simply Sterling & Company, 5275 Robinhood Village Drive in The Village at Robinhood.

Come for the sales…stay for the friends! Join us for a day of shopping, socializing and savings as we present you with a simply amazing selection as well as a special gift with purchase!

5:30-7pm. Execs from StubHub, Acumen and Bank of America discuss why gender equity matters in organizations and communities. Register and learn more at REACHwomensnetwork.org/virtual2021.

Cost: $10/person; free for students.

OCTOBER 30 HALLOWEEN TODDLER TREK 9-11am, Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield.

Join us for our HALLOWEEN Toddler Trek where we will read a spooky story, investigate specimens up close from the natural world and explore the great outdoors all before naptime.

Dress up in your costume, enjoy the outdoors and learn and play together. This program is free. Donations are greatly appreciated. www.eventbrite.com/o/minglewood-farmand-nature-preserve-17188338999

TRUCK & TREAT BOOSTED! 12-5pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Bring the family and Trick or Treat in Kaleideum North’s Outdoor Science and Environmental Park. It’s a day of fall fun including food trucks, specialty vehicles, balloon artist, weird science, live entertainment and Spooktacular fun!

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Conversations with Your BFF One of the hardest behaviors or traits to overcome is being a perfectionist. I should know because I am one, and I battle it almost daily; many of my friends are perfectionists, too. You know what they say, “Birds of a feather flock together.” But is it possible to break the cycle of striving for perfection and focus on the idea of completion and doing your best? It’s easier said than done, but I’m so glad you asked the question!

OUR LIVES CAN SET US UP TO SEEK PERFECTION As an only child in a dysfunctional family, I thought being perfect was my job. If I did everything right, from keeping my room clean, to helping my mom with dinner, to my grades, and everything in between, all would be good. That wasn’t the case. The family dynamic had little to do with me and my perfectionist ways, but I kept trying up until I was 24 and got married. Then the role of being the perfect wife was mine and I was going to knock it out of the park. Not to brag, but I did. My house was spotless, I had a job I excelled in, a meal was always on the table every night, and I took care of the yard. But I can tell you I was tired. I never felt anything I did was good enough or ready to be judged by others.

No matter if you are working on a project, an essay for a college course, cleaning your house, or anything, a perfectionist always has a nagging feeling that nothing is ‘complete’ until it is perfect. Realizing that striving for perfection is harming your mind and your life is hard, but reminding yourself that nothing in this world can be created perfectly or completed perfectly can help set your mind right.

Perfection is subjective; what you may see as perfect probably isn’t what I would think is perfect. In fact, heck, Apple can’t make a new iPhone without glitches and in need of updates to fix the hiccups in their latest and greatest. If the first iPhone were perfect, then we wouldn’t be waiting on iPhone 13.

(Since 13 isn’t the luckiest number, if I were them, I would skip to 14, but I digress.)

Much like technology, we are also always evolving in our ideas, our tastes, our feelings, with constantly changing thoughts. Think back to your hairstyle in high school; would you wear your hair like that again? Probably not, but you don’t shame yourself too much over the Farrah Fawcett wings and Aquanet shellac, right?

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How Do I Stop Being a Perfectionist?

BY REBECCA COOPER

Our world is one where personal productivity is crucial to our success, so we have to complete the projects we start. To get where we need to be, we need to stop focusing on perfection and instead our goal should be completion to the best of our ability. When something is done, it is done! Don’t tinker on it to death until you’ve frustrated yourself and those around you.

It might come to mind that by focusing on completion, you are settling for substandard or not your best, but that’s not completely true. The more you do something; your standards will become higher, thus making completion more satisfying.

Someone once told me, as I was stressing over something, ‘the joy of completion is far better than the pain of a perfect, half-completed project.’ Don’t be so hard on yourself… no one and nothing is perfect.

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