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WHAT MOTIVATES YOU?

With my type-A personality, I’m motivated by the thrill of setting and achieving goals. But I’m most motivated when I help other women on my Beautycounter team achieve their goals. I love coaching women over the hurdles toward their goals and then celebrating their achievements. There’s no better feeling!

WHAT IS YOUR PROUDEST ACCOMPLISHMENT?

Professionally, passing bar exams in 2 states within 2 years was a proud achievement. But I’m actually most proud of making the decision to leave my law practice to strike out as an entrepreneur in direct sales. Leaving a “regular” job to work with a new, unproven company was a bold (and at the time, somewhat scary) choice that has paid off in all aspects of my life. Beyond professional achievements though, raising kind, confident, generous kids is my proudest achievement, and it is definitely a work in progress!

Beauty Counter, Jen Ertl

WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE FAMILY RECIPE?

I love to cook, but finding delicious and nutritious options with picky kids definitely makes it challenging.

Fortunately we have one family favorite that all four of us love: fresh basil pesto over pasta with grilled chicken or shrimp. It’s super easy and quick to prepare and bursting with fresh flavors of basil and garlic, yum!

JENNIFER ERTL

Founding Member & Managing Director

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Club Pilates

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Make great memories with your family, and be careful driving.

Scarlette’s Performance Pat’s Body Shop

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5720 Country Club Road Winston-Salem, NC 27104 Monday - Friday 8:00am - 5:30pm

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More than 20 different Sake available.

NEW WEEKLY DRINK SPECIALS Monday all wine bottles 30% off Tuesday all moscow mule cocktails $3 off Wednesday all mojito cocktails $3 off Thursday half price wine by the glass Friday half price flavored sake by the glass Saturday bottled beer $1.50 off and draft beer $2 off Sunday mimosas and bloody marys $5

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Exclusive FW Engaged Section

18 Friendsgiving Casserole and Maple Pecan Scones 20 In The Spotlight 28 Voices Changing Communities 54 Holiday Gift Guide 58 Small Business Saturday: 5 Ways to Show Your Support 86 Second Chances: From Veiled to Victorious 150 Women on the Move 152 Fierce Competitor, Talented Artist 156 Celebrations

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Accent Prone

Small Business Saturday is Saturday, November 28th Come shop with us that day and 20% of your purchase will be donated to charity!

We will have more deals throughout the store as well as an in store scavenger hunt with prizes from Accent Prone and other local businesses!

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PUBLISHER Brooke Eagle Brooke@ForsythMags.com

The Publisher Perspective

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CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS JEJ Photos Jodie Brim Photography Photo Artistry by Melinda

CONTENT EDITORS Kim Beane Meghan Corbett (Assistant)

SENIOR STAFF WRITERS

Back on October 3rd, we put on our first-ever self-guided edition of our infamous Tour de Boutique. I’m pleased to report that it was a huge success! We had close to 100 ladies shopping local at TEN of our favorite boutiques. Now that it’s November and the holiday season is upon us, I want to remind you to shop local. Commit to purchasing the majority (or ALL) of your holiday gifts at local businesses this year! Need gift ideas? Check out our holiday gift guide on pages 54 - 57.

If you or someone you know is getting married, be sure to check out pages 92 - 119! We have a very special FW Engaged section that is chock full of local wedding inspiration. Be sure to follow @fwengaged on Instagram and Facebook for all-things-wedding content in the coming months. We know that brides and grooms have had to do some major pivoting these last few months, but we’re here to remind you…. LOVE is not cancelled!

Oh, and one more thing… be sure to mark your calendars for November 10th! We have an extra special Girls’ Day Out AND Girls’ Night Out at Young Cardinal Café & Co. and Jeffrey Adams on Fourth! We all know and love Jeffrey Adams—but you may not have been to Young Cardinal Café & Co. yet! Let me tell you—it is one of my favorite brunch spots in Winston-Salem and well worth the visit. Learn more on page 59.

Meghan Corbett Denise Heidel Carolyn Peterson

OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Jen Brown Elisa Coppede Lisa Doss Martie Emory Amy Hill Taryn Jerez Jean Marie Johnson Dave McConnell Sara Migliarese Brooke Orr Tabatha Renegar Susan Schabacker Lauren Sephton Megan Taylor *others credited throughout accordingly

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I hope your November is full of gratitude….

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Boost Your Health

with a Girls’ Night

BY BROOKE ORR MS RD LDN, ACSM-CPT

Food is fuel. Eat this, not that. Drink more water to curb your appetite. Fill up on raw vegetables so you will eat less at meals. Most of us have heard these tips or something similar; however, despite the plethora of these helpful antics, Americans still struggle in their relationship with food and body image. In fact, Boston Medical

Center reported that “An estimated 45 million Americans go on a diet each year, and Americans spend $33 billion each year on weight-loss products. Yet, nearly two-thirds of Americans are overweight or obese.” It seems that many people find themselves consistently cycling through “The Destructive Path of Diets,” shown below.

Excerpted from Body Kindness: Transform Your Health From the Inside Out—and Never Say Diet Again by Rebecca Scritchfield, RDN. Workman Publishing © 2016.

It’s not all gloom and doom. The secret to better health and happiness may be as simple as eating foods you like with people you love! The Institute for the Psychology of Eating found that decreased pleasure from food is associated with the body’s chemical response to increase appetite and cravings for pleasure foods. Marc David, from the Institute for the Psychology of Eating put it simply “Vitamin P (pleasure), metabolism, and a naturally controlled appetite are interwoven to the core. The simple act of eating raises our levels of endorphins. This tells us that eating is an inherently pleasurable experience because biochemistry makes it so.” Humans are designed to eat foods that taste good and bring pleasure, and as it turns out “Vitamin P” plays a biological role in digestion and absorption.

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Registered Dietitian Alissa Rumsey explains it well “Enjoyment tells the parasympathetic nervous system to trigger its relaxation response. This is the same system that gets your digestion going by relaxing the muscles in your gastrointestinal tract and increasing digestive juices. So when you are eating food that tastes good and brings you pleasure, you’re also triggering digestion.” Digestion isn’t the only plus to enjoying a good meal with friends. One study showed that women absorbed more iron from a pleasurable meal than from a meal high in nutrients but low in satisfaction. Research is increasingly pointing towards what centenarians from studied Blue Zones have known: sitting down to a good meal with your besties is good for the body and soul.

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Striking Out Stroke

BY BRIA LEWIS/AMERICAN HEART ASSOCIATION

In March of 2011, doctors told Cécile Boynton of WinstonSalem that she wouldn’t be able to walk without assistance. In September of 2020, she ran 50 meters in 10.31 seconds – taking bronze in the National Senior Games.

SOMETHING DIDN’T FEEL RIGHT Prior to her doctors’ dire predictions in 2011, Cécile had been driving home from a long day of work and looking forward to her workout with her husband, Mark. They had met at a Tae Kwon Do school and five months into their marriage, training together was still part of their newlywed bliss.

Suddenly, Cécile started to feel badly, so she pulled off the road.

“It’s hard to describe, but I just didn’t feel right,” remembers Cécile. However, she thought she’d be able to make it home. “I pulled back onto Highway 52 South to continue driving, and the next thing I remembered was people standing outside of my car shouting at me.”

After 42 days, Cécile was able to come home; Mark did everything in his power to make sure his bride had everything she needed. In addition to her therapy sessions, he designed daily plans tailored just for Cécile. “I had to relearn basic arithmetic and colors. I spent countless hours trying to name a car for every letter of the alphabet, working with pegboards, and balancing on one foot. Mark even took my third-degree black belt from Tae Kwon Do and tied my left arm to my body, forcing me to use my right hand! Together, we were beating the stroke and the odds,” exclaimed Cécile.

STROKE DOESN’T MEAN THE END OF YOUR LIFE The stroke was lightning out of a blue sky for Cécile. In her early forties, she was in great shape since she had trained in Tae Kwon Do for almost 11 years, and she didn’t have high blood pressure or diabetes issues.

It was finally determined that her stroke was caused by a spontaneous clot that formed in her carotid artery. Doctors confirmed a diagnosis of Hughes Syndrome, which has an increased risk of blood clots.

Her car was upside down and far off the highway. “I vaguely remember the paramedics asking if I was okay, but I couldn’t answer questions like my name, preferred hospital, or what family member they should call. My vision was blurry, and the right side of my body, my arm, and my leg didn’t work,” recalls Cécile.

Continuous physical therapy, facing down depression, and focusing on cognitive rehabilitation allowed Cécile to return to working full-time. She has not jumped back into Tae Kwon Do due to her loss of vision in one eye and the need to be on blood thinners. However, Mark and Cécile are still working out together at their local YMCA. “Stroke doesn’t have to mean the end of your life. Don’t take ‘no’ for an answer!” shares Cécile.

Unable to speak, losing strength and paralysis settling in on her right side, she was filled with fear. “I didn’t know what was happening, but when I finally saw Mark’s face, I knew everything would be better because he was there. He took one look at me – right side unresponsive, face drooping, speechless – and immediately realized I was having a stroke,” said Cécile.

“Stroke has impacted our lives greatly. What many couples learn through decades of life together, Mark and I learned in a few years, making our bond unbreakable. We can overcome anything if we do it together! I am incredibly thankful for research, every doctor and therapist that helped save my life, and Mark, my biggest coach, cheerleader, and the love of my life,” Cécile stated.

The decision was made to perform a mechanical thrombectomy, entering through the femoral artery in her leg and passing through her body, heart, and into her brain to grab, retrieve, and remove the clot. Unfortunately, the clot broke apart during the procedure and Cécile continued to have strokes the next day. The one thing that gave her reassurance that everything would be okay was Mark. “All he kept telling me was that he loved me, and I had only one job: GET BETTER,” Cécile explained.

Cécile Boynton is a 2020 Forsyth County Go Red Woman. She is sharing her story to help prevent stroke. Novant Health is proud to be the American Heart Association’s “Life is Why” and “Go Red for Women” sponsor in Forsyth County, celebrating, supporting, and encouraging women to put their health first wherever they may be in their journey.

RECOVERY WAS A TEAM EFFORT “When we got settled in ICU, Mark started working my right side, literally from head to toe, trying to teach my body and brain how to compensate, working endlessly every day. He’d even try to get me to sing old nursery rhymes or the alphabet, anything that could trigger my speech,” Cécile stated. “We were a team and there was no way we were going to lose!”

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American Heart Association

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BY LAUREN SEPHTON

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Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a college student, freelance writer, and foodie. Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

Chicken, Wild Rice, & Cranberry Friendsgiving Casserole Servings: 8 - 10

Instructions: 1. Preheat oven to 400F.

Ingredients: • 1 lb. Chicken Breasts, skinless and boneless, cut into bite-size pieces • 1/4 Red Onion, finely chopped • 4 1/2 cups Vegetable Stock or Chicken Broth • 2 cups Wild Rice • 1 cup Plain Yogurt • 1 cup Celery, chopped • 2 cups Cranberries, or finely chopped honey crisp apples • 2 cups Broccoli, chopped • 4 Garlic Cloves, minced • 1 tbsp. Extra Virgin Olive Oil • 1 tsp. Dried Oregano, or Italian Seasoning • 1 tsp. Salt • 1 tsp. Black Pepper

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2. Grease a 9x13” baking dish with the extra virgin olive oil.

Then, add in the wild rice, cranberries, chopped broccoli, minced garlic cloves, chopped celery, finely chopped red onion, dried oregano, salt, and black pepper. Use a spatula or large spoon to toss all ingredients together until well combined.

3. Add in the plain yogurt, vegetable stock, and chopped chicken breasts. Stir all the ingredients together until evenly dispersed.

4. Cover the baking dish with aluminum foil to bake for 40-50 minutes, until the rice is fully cooked. (Optional: Stir the casserole halfway through to keep the vegetables from rising to the top.) Remove the aluminum foil for the last 5-10 minutes.

5. Lightly tent the casserole with aluminum foil for at least 5 minutes to cool, then serve warm.

(Vegan) Maple Pecan Scones Servings: 8

Ingredients:

Instructions:

For the Scones: • 2 1/2 cups All-Purpose Flour • 1/2 cup Pecans, crushed + more for serving • 1 tbsp. Maple Syrup • 1/2 cup Pumpkin Puree, or Applesauce • 1 tbsp.

Baking Powder • 1/4 cup Brown Sugar • 1/3 cup Extra Virgin Olive Oil • 1 tbsp. Milk, regular or plant-based • 1 tsp. Vanilla Extract • 1/2 tsp.

Ground All-Spice • 1 tsp. Ground Cinnamon • 1/4 tsp. Salt

1. Preheat oven to 425F.

For the Maple Glaze: • 1 cup Powdered Sugar • 3 tbsp.

Maple Syrup • 1 tbsp. Milk, regular or plant-based • 1/4 tsp.

Vanilla Extract • Dash of Salt

2. Evenly spread the crushed pecans onto a baking tray to toast for 3-4 minutes.

3. In the meantime, begin the scone batter by whisking together the flour, brown sugar, cinnamon, all spice, baking powder, and salt. Fold in the toasted and crushed pecans.

4. Add the extra virgin olive oil to the bowl, then use a fork to mix it into the batter until crumb-like texture. Add in the milk, maple syrup, vanilla extract, and pureed pumpkin. Use the fork once again to mix the batter until combined.

5. On a lightly floured surface, press the dough into an 8” circle, then slice into 8 triangles.

6. Bake for 16-18 minutes, or until golden brown.

7. In the meantime, whisk together the maple glaze ingredients in a small bowl to drizzle on the scones once cooled. After drizzling the glaze, sprinkle each scone with more crushed pecans before serving.

Salemtowne Retirement

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BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

This column is dedicated to uplifting incredible women that might not be featured in the local news about their accomplishments.

These are abridged versions of these incredible women; please find them and ask them more!

TENIJAH RENEE

ANGEL FANT

I am an artist, fashion designer, urban farmer, activist entrepreneur, and hairstylist. I became interested in hair as a young girl, and started doing hair when I was ten years old. I started creating my own recipes when I was thirteen. I went down the path of entrepreneurship and developed my first business around fourteen, No Punching Bag fashion brand. I developed an interest in farming and graduated from Urban Farm School at sixteen.

I opened my first independent business at age 18.

I was born with artistic talent that I have worked to develop throughout my life. I have learned to be independent minded, and to stand up for what is in alignment with being true to myself.

I am a social justice focused Fashion Designer. I am also blessed with the ability to sing, dance, act, draw, paint, sew, build, and create art using a variety of artistic mediums.

What makes you YOU?

What makes you You?

I am an artist to my core. I am in competition with no one other than myself, and my dreams. Both my inner world and my outer world revolve around the arts. Art is my heartbeat, and it has saved my life quite a few times.

Art was a refuge for me as a child. As an adult, the first thing I turned to after leaving my abusive marriage was my art. It’s often said that if you don’t use it, you lose it. I have not found this to be true. My artistic skills never left, even during the seasons of life when I didn’t use them regularly. I consider myself blessed and talented.

What are you most proud of?

What are you most proud of?

I was a contributing member of our family team that worked to have No Punching Bag featured in both Paris and New York Fashion Week. We have also been featured in magazines, newspapers, radio shows and news stations. Hajinèt Beauty is the beauty brand I launched within the last year.

I am running for Miss North Carolina USA as Miss Winston-Salem USA 2021. I had been person of the year for a newspaper. I have many dreams, but I realized I am living my dream. I learned to stop planning and do. I am most proud of myself for not giving up, and for understanding that it is a long journey to success. For me it is a journey that is currently still in progress.

My proudest moments are creating art with my children and the children of others. Creating art with my children is what led me to showcase our art on the runway at Paris Fashion Week.

What keeps you going when things are tough?

What keeps you going when things tough?

In Paris, I went on a riverboat ride. As I fully absorbed where I was, and what I had accomplished, I was really proud of the hard work and perseverance that brought me to that place. In that moment, I gave myself permission to feel proud of myself.

There were other opportunities before Paris that afforded me the opportunity to do art with children in Nicaragua through Habitat for Humanity. Working with Habitat for Humanity allowed me to serve 200 children a day as a UNCSA AmeriCorps ArtistCorps Visual Arts Instructor for 2 years.

I focus on remembering what I have accomplished thus far, and focusing on the legends in the past that started small and worked their way to the top of their art. There are a few songs that I listen to for motivation. They encourage me to get up again and keep pressing on when I have a down moment.

Things in my life have always been tough. I have never had it easy.

Seeing my dreams manifest even in small ways gives me hope that I can achieve even greater things. I was taught to be a fighter and pray.

I realized that both fighting for my dreams, and being a person of prayer are important. The prayers are what keep me enlightened. And the battles that I fight and overcome give me experience for the next storm. Life has plenty of storms that only fighters can get through.

What keeps you up at night?

What keeps you up at night?

I’m very innovative and am always researching ways I can make my ideas work more effectively.

I try to figure out what I am doing wrong and how I can best make improvements.

At night I am sometimes restless due to past trauma and my short journey as a 911 Operator. Beyond that, I’m sometimes kept awake from reflecting on the promise that I made to my children that we have the ability to be and do anything we set our minds to.

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A GEM OF A CAREER

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Supporting small businesses is more than a trend – it’s a lifestyle that many of us embraced even before the pandemic.

I know that every year for holiday shopping, I aim to purchase local goodies for my loved ones: a handmade scarf, tea from the local shop, maybe even some Cheerwine if my parents want.

What about larger ticket items? How can we get the same love and care that small business brings to something like jewelry?

Lucky for us in Forsyth County, specifically Winston-Salem (and if you’re reading this in Charlotte, you, too!), we have a Windsor Jewelers here in town. Windsor Jewelers was started in 1986 by Rob Simon as a curation of his experiences, knowledge, and dream to have the finest independent jewelry store in the Carolinas. One more goal of Rob and Windsor Jewelers?

Unparalleled customer service and supreme experience for every client that walked in the door – a goal they have had no problem fulfilling on their over 30-year history.

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Natalie Sherrill, Assistant Manager and Lead Buyer, has worked for Windsor Jewelers for 18 years. “I like to get to know my customers. This helps me select special items tailored to them and the occasion.” This relationshipbuilding shows. “Natalie was warm, welcoming, patient, and attentive.

Her impeccable customer service exceeded my every expectation,” said Mynetta Burney Edwards, a customer of Windsor Jewelers.

“I have been part of hundreds of packages being opened on holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and more.

One of my favorite things is having both people in a couple buying presents for each other on the same day,” Natalie said. “I’ve had to deliver a gift to one customer in the parking lot while the other half was in the store shopping.”

Windsor Jewelers has expanded several times to keep up with the immense customer response: in 1986 it opened on Fourth and Cherry Street; in 1991 it expanded to a new, larger location outside of downtown on Knollwood Street; and just four years later, moved to the current location at 526 South Stratford Road. “Over the years, fashion has constantly evolved and we keep up with the trends,” said Natalie.

“People dress much more casually now, and jewelry styles changed to become much more fun and playful, meant to be worn every day.”

“We had an explosion of wonderful jewelry being created in sterling silver versus exclusively yellow gold,” Natalie said. “We have an extensive collection of jewelry and watches to suit any occasion. We also have two very talented goldsmiths on hand to create one-of-a-kind treasures for our customers with a particular vision.” Aside from custom design and jewelry, Windsor also offers watch service, including repair, batteries and appraisals.

The attentiveness to the trends and exceptional customer service not only allowed for the Winston-Salem growth and expansion: Windsor Jewelers launched a Charlotte store in 2013 with the help of Ben Simon, Rob’s oldest son and General Manager Kevin Slusher. “The owners also support the communities, both WinstonSalem and Charlotte, and their charities in many ways,” said Natalie. From jewelry, watch donations, proceed-sharing and honoring local police heroes with watches, Windsor Jewelers isn’t just another jewelry shop, it’s one that cares about the customers and people around them.

“We love meeting new customers, especially when they come and visit the store to see what we’re all about,” said Natalie. If you need one more reason to come out and visit Natalie, take it from another customer. “Each item I have acquired from Windsor has been selected to fit my personality and lifestyle. With her assistance, Natalie takes the time to listen, observe and take the necessary steps to make the recommendation!” said customer Laura McKnight. “I am thankful for the memories and joy each purchase at Windsor continues to make in my life.”

Windsor Jewelers is located in Winston-Salem at 526 S. Stratford Road and is open Monday through Saturday from 10:00 am – 6:00 pm and closed Sunday. During the holiday season, Windsor Jewelers will be open 7 days a week with some extended hours for all shopping needs. For more information please visit Windsor-Jewelers.com, email Natalie at Natalie@Windsor-Jewelers.com, or call 336-7211768. For more information about the Charlotte location, please visit the website or call 704-556-7747.

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You don’t need to watch Netflix to see top-rated plastic surgeons collaborating with their very own skin experts. It’s happening right here in Winston-Salem at Forsyth Plastic Surgery.

BY ELLEN BASSETT, PHOTO BY JEJ PHOTOS

At Forsyth Plastic Surgery, you’ll find patients coming in throughout the day to meet with one of the practice’s five board-certified plastic surgeons: Drs. Fagg, Schneider, Kingman, Lawson, and Branch. You’ll also find these plastic surgeons calling on two other individuals for input when considering the best course of care for a patient: the practice’s licensed medical aestheticians.

Dr. George Lawson says, “When a patient comes in for a consultation at Forsyth Plastic Surgery, the board-certified plastic surgeon will see the patient and then often one of our aestheticians, Gina Racca or Kinsley Nix, will see them at the same time,” he says.

“They’re able to confirm the best treatment for the patient, and they’re able to give their recommendations. This collaboration of highly trained experts in the field of aesthetics and beauty is one of the biggest advantages of being cared for at Forsyth Plastic Surgery.”

Sound familiar? It may if you’re a fan of the popular Netflix show, “Skin Decision.” The show features a board-certified plastic surgeon who works with a nurse who specializes in non-surgical aesthetic treatments.

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Dr. Andy Schneider says, “At Forsyth Plastic Surgery, we work closely with our aestheticians to provide the very best cosmetic procedures and skin care for our patients. It is a team effort, and we trust our aestheticians with their decision making. There are so many non-surgical procedures and treatments now that offer excellent results. We recommend some surgical and other non-surgical solutions to create a comprehensive treatment plan that will provide the best results in many cases. Our patients know we’re looking out for them and giving them the state-ofthe-art care that they deserve.”

Dr. Leslie Branch gives a great example of how a treatment plan might include both surgical and non-surgical treatments. “A patient coming in for a surgical facelift might also benefit from a nonsurgical laser resurfacing treatment and injectables to add volume to the cheek area and lips.”

Every patient scheduled for a cosmetic surgery at the practice also gets a free beauty consultation. Aesthetician Gina Racca says, “We encourage our patients to use top-grade skincare products and sunscreen after their cosmetic procedures to extend the beautiful results they see post-surgery,” she says. “This is true for non-surgical treatments like Botox as well. If you’re taking great care of your skin, everything we do will look better.”

Many non-surgical procedures done at Forsyth Plastic Surgery are performed at The VISTA, the practice’s state-of-the-art aesthetic center, which just recently celebrated its first anniversary. Dr. Gil Kingman says, “Technology has changed and improved so much over the last decade. The VISTA was created to be a calming, welcoming space with state-of-the-art technology for skin care and body contouring.”

Dr. John A. Fagg notes, “Plastic surgery is always changing. We’re glad to be able to offer our patients so many surgical and non-surgical options to give them the natural look they’re looking for.”

Learn more at forsythplasticsurgery.com or call the practice at 336-765-8620.

Forsyth Plastic Surgery

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Weight Loss, Knee Replacement

Get Eve Barnes Back to All the ‘Little Things’ Over the course of a year, Eve Barnes’ knee pain got progressively worse, growing from painful to excruciating. “I couldn’t even walk to the mailbox,” says Barnes, a one-time Durham resident. “Even little things like that would leave me in tears.

I waited until I moved to the area to seek treatment, and my doctor referred me to Wake Forest Baptist Health.”

Eve needed surgery, but in her case, she first needed to address her challenges with weight, so she enrolled in Wake Forest Baptist Health’s weight management program.

Dr. Jamy Ard, co-director of the Weight Management Center, worked with Eve. “When Dr. Ard told me that I had to consume 1,200 calories a day in order to lose 10 pounds a month, I thought there was no way,” Eve says. “I knew that 1,200 calories were not a lot, and I really had to challenge myself to find a routine that worked for me.”

Eve found a supportive staff and learned that the process was about more than just shedding pounds. “You have to be motivated beyond the scale. It can’t control you,” she says. “You truly have to be doing this to improve your life in some way. The team is there to support you, but they can’t do it for you.”

Eve says she began to look beyond nutrition and exercise and examined her motivations and behaviors. She credits the Weight Management Center’s multi-disciplinary, individualized approach for her success: She lost 70 pounds.

Once she lost the weight, Eve was ready for surgery, and she met with orthopaedic surgeon and joint replacement specialist Dr. John Shields to discuss the possibility of a knee replacement.

“You can tell Dr. Shields has a love and passion for what he’s doing and that he’s a great surgeon,” Eve says. “He explained everything to me, showed me the X-rays and how it was bone on bone and was very clear with what recovery would be like after the knee replacement surgery. “Everything he told me ended up being exactly right!”

Within three months, Eve says she was back to feeling like her best self. After completing physical therapy, she reports no more knee pain and increased energy, which helps her keep up with her granddaughter, go shopping, work out at the gym and do all of the little things she says she took for granted before.

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The combination of weight loss and knee replacement surgery has opened Eve’s eyes to so many things she couldn’t do before. “My experience with Wake Forest Baptist Health has been truly amazing!” says Eve. For more information or to make an appointment, call or visit: 888-716-WAKE | WakeHealth.edu/Ortho WakeHealth.edu/WeightManagement

Brookridge Retirement

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DR. ANGELA P. HAIRSTON,

SUPERINTENDENT OF WINSTON-SALEM/FORSYTH COUNTY SCHOOLS “Our community should make public education a priority.”

The decision to return children and teachers to the classroom after months of virtual teaching would have many communities and school boards struggling to find the best solution for our children, their families, and their teachers.

Under the leadership of Dr. Angela Hairston, the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County School Board tackled this difficult decision on October 1. When Dr. Hairston accepted the role of superintendent of the WinstonSalem/Forsyth County School system in August 2019, she could not have anticipated the challenges that the COVID pandemic posed to the health and education of children in the public school system in 2020.

But she was uniquely prepared and ready to make difficult decisions while leading a community school board comprised entirely of women. Dr. Hairston values the variety of vocational backgrounds of the nine female board members and praises their belief in the local public school system.

“We should make public education a priority again, and our school board understands that need,” is the message Dr. Hairston voices clearly.

“Education is the backbone of democracy.”

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Though educational leadership is typically a male-dominated field, Dr. Hairston has served as a leader throughout her 30-plus years as an educator. Before her role as superintendent in the WS/FCS system, Dr. Hairston led several schools as the principal at the elementary, middle, and high school levels in Virginia and Georgia.

In many of these roles, she was the first female or first African American female to serve in a position, but that is not her focus when she is asked to describe herself.

She stresses her love of family, her husband, and children, and of her father, who taught her that girls should work just as hard as boys, at any task.

She accepts her many career “firsts” with pride and a sense of accomplishment but also sees them as a call and responsibility to mentor other female leaders. Strong female mentors influenced Dr. Hairston along her professional journey, starting with her mother, who was very spiritual, and her Aunt Sondra, a professor at the University of Maryland. Aunt Sondra mailed books as Christmas presents, not toys, fostering an appreciation for education at a young age.

Francis Davis served as her mentor while working in Georgia, and Ann Clark, from the Charlotte/ Mecklenburg school system, still serves as a mentor. Dr. Hairston urges female leaders to seek out mentors, especially those who are not afraid to ask challenging questions and nurture decisionmaking skills.

While Dr. Hairston stresses mentoring’s importance, she calls for our community to address the growing “education gap” in our public schools. When asked to name the most significant disparity impacting our public-school system, Dr. Hairston immediately identified the community issue of poverty.

“Experience has taught me that education is no longer enough as the equalizer to overcome poverty or racial barriers. More is needed. Poverty continues to have the greatest impact on the education of all types of children.” She explains that the gap is widening between the education of children whose parents have the means to enrich their children’s schooling and those who do not.

Parents may be working several jobs just to make ends meet and lack the resources for summer camps, tutors, Internet, or computers, many things that middle-class children view as expectations.

She, along with other educators, encourage our community to make Wi-Fi a public utility and to be strategic in opportunities to help all students eventually be successful in college. This has never been more acutely recognized as it is during the pandemic. The education gap became even wider after the COVID pandemic exposed the inequity in access to Internet and to devices for virtual learning. Making public education a priority means building more equitable access and learning opportunities, and narrowing the gap between the haves and have nots.

Dr. Hairston’s voice has already changed our community for the better by strengthening the ability of our public school system to meet the challenges of the COVID pandemic. Her leadership represents hope in our community’s ability and in our female leaders to make education the equalizer again.

Homestead Hills

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Finally Fall!

My favorite time of year is finally here. You can feel it in the air. I always love decorating my own home. I got up early last week to put out the few fall accessories that I have. Some of my favorite items were left to me by my mom, who passed away twenty years ago. I think most of her items are vintage because of the dates she purchased them. I love linens and dishes that are easily changed during the seasons. I plan to purchase some fresh pumpkins and flowers for my front yard this coming weekend. The weather is brisk and refreshing.

This is the time of year that I love riding by homes to see all the festive porch decorations with wreaths, pumpkins, and fall mums. The colors are so inspiring. Fall colors lead right into Thanksgiving and Christmas. The holiday season is definitely here, and most are not prepared. The COVID pandemic has us all in a spin with children at home, working from home, and trying to keep an eye on and protect our parents. But if you can find the time to think about the holidays, you can start planning these special events.

I will be doing my normal, traditional celebration with my grandmother’s dishes, gold antique silverware, and our regular food menu, including turkey, sweet potato casserole, dressing, green bean casserole, and sweet tea. Good old southern dishes.

If we are lucky enough to see our family, we will be ready for them with warm and inviting welcomes, food, chatter, and love.

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The holidays are also the time of year that our retail store and design center will be redecorated to make the store festive and fun. We have artwork and mirrors, along with pillows and accessories, to help you decorate your home. It is time to start decorating with holiday items and Christmas trees.

Let us know if you need help deciding how to move forward with decorating your home. We also offer in-home consultations and decorating. Get inspired at June DeLugas Interiors, Inc. The designing women love what we do.

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Alzheimer’s Disease: A Personal Account of a Devastating Illness

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDE, PHOTO BY PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA

My father, Daniel Reid Wallace, had a bigger than life personality. There wasn’t a stranger he wouldn’t enjoy a long chat with. At times, this could be embarrassing growing up, as we couldn’t seem to go anywhere in Winston-Salem, without our father saying “Howdy” to “Sheila,” our waitress at a local café, or “Jon,” our gas station attendant.

Having been a teacher for almost 40 years, my father had a razor-sharp memory when it came to remembering names. His former students loved him for this. Often, they would stop by our table to say hello to the loud, southern teacher.

This was exactly why, when my father began forgetting people’s names, a quiet voice began to whisper in my head that something was not quite right. I tried to brush it off.

The man was not a “spring chicken,” as he would say, and would often chuckle when he couldn’t remember his waitress’s name.

The same waitress that had been serving him for over a decade. Later, he would shrug when he couldn’t figure out how to add a simple five-dollar tip to our bill. “Princess, when you’re my age, your memory just isn’t what it used to be,” he would quietly whisper, quick to change the subject. “Now, let’s go grab an ice cream cone, my love!” he would say with a peck on the cheek, as he whisked us out to his truck.

We lost this man, my bigger than life father, almost three years ago. That quiet nagging voice wouldn’t be overlooked anymore. With great horror, I watched as Alzheimer’s disease took the very man who helped give me life. The former US Navy officer, Peace Corp volunteer, and teacher, who remembered hundreds of names, didn’t know his own daughter’s that last day. For this, I will always secretly hate myself for not listening to that little voice and trying to get him help sooner.

While my father ultimately died of Alzheimer’s disease, it first started off with him being diagnosed as having “dementia.” What exactly does this mean? According to the Alzheimer’s disease organization, “dementia is not a single disease; it’s an overall term — like heart disease — that covers a wide range of specific medical conditions, including Alzheimer’s disease.” Often these changes trigger a decline in thinking skills, also known as cognitive abilities, severe enough to impair daily life and independent function. What is most upsetting is that the decline can also affect behavior, feelings, and relationships.

What exactly are the troubling first signs of dementia and Alzheimer’s disease?

Read on for some of the tell-tale signs that someone you may love and care about is going through the same thing my father was.

Early Detection Sign #1: Problems with basic shortterm memory. Short term memory is the information that a person is currently thinking about or is aware of. It is also often called primary or active memory. If someone you know and love has trouble remembering something that just happened, like a trip to the grocery store, phone call with family member, or what they ate that morning, you may want to investigate.

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Early Detection Sign #2: Trouble keeping track of wallet or purse. While I am often misplacing my phone, I always know where my wallet—where all my IDs and credit cards are—is located. This is an item that most people with normal memory do not forget. If someone you know is having multiple issues with losing their wallet or purse, you may want to look a bit deeper.

Early Detection Sign #3: Trouble with paying bills. This was the one thing that truly made me begin to question what was really going on with my father. While my father was always great with numbers, I found it extremely odd when I heard him ask mother to pay bills or even add up a tip for a dinner out. This is absolutely a tell-tale sign that something with one’s memory may be happening.

Early Detection Sign #4: Remembering appointments. Considering that there are so many ways to remember one’s appointments, from hard copy calendars to digital calendars on our phones, when someone begins to forget these meetings, something with their memory may be up. My father was notoriously organized. He would cross off every day on his desk calendar, which would also feature when bills were due, birthdays were coming up, and of course, appointments. When I noticed that his calendar had gone blank, I began to hear that voice again.

Early Detection Sign #5: Trouble with traveling. Often those suffering from dementia and/or Alzheimer’s disease become fearful of getting lost. They may not want to drive, even to the closest venues. On the other hand, some like my father may not be fearful at all but begin to forget basic traffic rules. For my pops, when he began to have a few minor fender benders, we knew that we needed to stop him from driving. One of the toughest things that we had to do as a family was permanently take away his car keys.

While this was rough for us, we knew he was simply not safe on the road.

I am telling my father’s story for the first time publicly because I hope it can help those who are harboring the same pain, those ignoring the same quiet voice. If there is one piece of advice I could give anyone right now, it is to NOT disregard that nagging feeling. Instead, amplify it. Use it to research and learn more about this disease. Use it to get that person you love the most, the best doctor as quickly as possible.

Budget Blinds

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The AmeriLife Difference: Getting to Know Ashley Pruitt Lawson

BY DENISE HEIDEL This married mom of three is a woman of integrity, who is funny, kind, compassionate, and a caring professional who utilizes her industry expertise to make things easier for other people.

“While insurance is our business, in many ways, we are retirement planners. Retirement brings far more change than simply not working. It’s a transition of management of essential services most often provided by employers. From managing pensions, 401k, health insurance, etc. – my role includes walking my customers through the process. Together, we remove the overwhelming aspect and replace it with solutions that fit their lifestyle and budget.”

Ashley continued, “I always tell my clients – a good retirement plan starts with a good health plan. That’s because one in two people will go bankrupt because of medical bills. That is a travesty because there is nothing more valuable than our health. I want my clients to be financially secure, and that includes security during a medical emergency or an unexpected diagnosis.

AmeriLife is a company that operates with the tagline, “We make people’s lives better – and we’re proud of it.” And for local AmeriLife agent Ashley Pruitt Lawson, it’s a motto she embraces with enthusiasm.

“People are unique, so insurance should never be considered one-size-fits-all. And in my industry, I see that approach all the time. Not only do those customers often not get the kind of coverage they really need, but they also pay more than they should. My approach is different. I don’t want to sell a product. I am offering a service.”

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“One of the ways we go about tailoring a package to a customer’s needs is to evaluate every situation,” Ashley said. “There are so many resources out there and so many levels of care. I work with people at every end of the spectrum – from Medicaid to millionaires. And I have yet to meet anyone, no matter where they are on the financial spectrum, who doesn’t care about doing things cost-effectively. In my job, I won’t take ‘no coverage available’ as an answer.

There are benefits to be found, but we may have to dig a little deeper in some cases. When I’m helping a client, I look for services for which they are qualified, and I don’t stop just because I hit a brick wall.”

Ashley routinely gives her clients two pieces of advice: 1) Don’t throw your money away and 2) Don’t give your money to people who can’t do what they can’t guarantee. “That advice is how we cross the bridge from a cookie-cutter service to a customtailored service. A policy that doesn’t fit doesn’t help in a time of crisis.”

Beyond the services she offers, Ashley has been recognized for her stellar track record and, as such, serves as a trainer within the company. “We are the industry experts, so the foundation of what I do and the foundation of what I teach others is based in knowledge. It’s not enough that WE know it. We have to empower our clients with the knowledge, too, to be confident in their decisions. When we arm them with the knowledge they need – their circumstances are the way to improvement. And I always, always, always strive to leave people better than I found them.”

Ashley Pruitt Lawson is a Branch Leader at AmeriLife of Greensboro, LLC. Her office is located at 1500 Mill Street, Suite 106, in Greensboro. Contact her at 336.290.7149 or email Ashley.

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Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics

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All the feels of home!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS

Can you honestly think of a time – or a holiday season – when the feeling of “home” has been any more important than now? Those delicious tastes and smells are going to matter this season more than ever, and your favorite folks at Simply Southern Cuisine in Clemmons are determined to help you preserve those moments while making every day of your busiest season just a little easier!

Their mission – as always -- is to provide irresistible food to entice your family to sit down together and celebrate each other, no matter the circumstances.

“We’re focusing on online ordering and curbside delivery,” explains Lisa Miller, owner of the popular family-owned business, but regulars know they can drop by and choose something for dinner in a pinch. “What’s not to love? Customers order and pay online, and let us know when they’ve arrived at the shop to pick up their food. No waiting in line!”

Simply Southern Cuisine has been offering curbside service since the end of March – finding that option their best tactic for navigating COVID-19. “We simply learned to adapt and adjust,” says Lisa, sharing how she and her staff look forward to serving customers with curbside pickup and online ordering during the holidays, as well calling ahead to place orders, or just stopping by at the last minute, to keep the tradition of “comfort food” alive and well for their families!

As a conscientious business owner, she feels that by not opening fully for shoppers to come inside, both her loyal customer base and dedicated staff are kept safe. Lisa is planning to add multiple phone lines, additional registers, and several new employees to balance the curbside and online trend.

“We’re also outgrowing our space, so another plan is to move our freezers and refrigerators into the previous customer area in order to

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give us more workspace in the kitchen,” she says. “That’s another incentive to remain with curbside pick-up for now.”

Catering has always been a major portion of Simply Southern Cuisine’s holiday business, and Lisa is confident neighbors and friends will remember their homemade goodness when it’s time to plan a family holiday gathering (even if there are fewer guests than normal!) or a socially distanced office lunch.

“Our family-size favorites are a tradition, and nothing eases your holiday rush like having a delicious, homemade dinner picked up hot and ready to serve – or if you prefer, frozen and ready to cook on your own schedule,” she says.

Even if you can’t be side-by-side with family members this year, delivering a holiday meal – complete with those traditional memories – may be the next best thing. Keep in mind Simply Southern Cuisine offers gift cards, too!

To tempt your tastebuds, Simply Southern Cuisine’s number one seller – chicken pie – ranks by far as the ultimate comfort food!

Swiss chicken, baked spaghetti, and macaroni and cheese are also leading choices, plus a selection of the yummiest homemade desserts around. Of course, traditional turkey and ham are added to the menu for the weeks of Thanksgiving and Christmas, with special packages of a “Dinner for 6” or “Dinner for 15” – including ham and/or turkey, three sides, and dessert for a package price – and both can be found under the online ordering “holiday tab” to make your job even easier!

(Note: Due to increased volume during the two holiday weeks, those combinations are not offered hot, but customers are referred to the catering menu for hot orders.)

Mark your calendar now: The deadline for Thanksgiving orders this year will be Saturday, November 21, and for Christmas orders, Saturday, December 19.

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As you begin to plan for the holidays, don’t forget we offer a wide variety of pies, cakes and our delicious brownies.

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Sample Simply Southern Cuisine’s flavors of home for yourself by visiting 3570-C Clemmons Rd. in Clemmons, NC. For more information, call Lisa and Jeana at 336-712-4636, or visit their website at MySimplySouthern.com, where you can click on the Holiday Menus tab for more information and ordering details. Store hours are Monday through Friday 12:00 p.m. – 5:00 p.m., and Saturday 12:00 p.m. – 4:00 p.m., with special hours on Christmas Eve from 9:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m. for last-minute pick-up orders.

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BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Earlier this year, our mini poodle, Miss Noelle, turned 15. All week long, I showered her with extra praise, extra treats, extra love. Despite her poor hearing and failing eyesight, she picked up on the vibe and lapped up the indulgences.

“You’re spoiling her!”

“Am not, I’m CELEBRATING her!”

“Can I see your paperwork?” “Oh yeah, your dog’s over there.”

“Oh my God…is she breathing? She looks like a stuffed animal…a PERFECT stuffed animal.”

“She’ll get over it.”

Every Dog “I’m sorry... Get over what?”

Has a “Flew over in cargo, next to a corpse.”

Story We hustled our “perfect stuffed animal” out of there

I am so grateful for this girl, the fur baby who came to me by divine intervention (I am convinced!) and a cool story. You might say that I found her online as I reached out to several mini poodle breeders around the country in search of: “Healthy, potty-trained dog, five years or younger.” The candidates were disappointing, mostly nine-year-old former breeders who only knew the function designated to them.

While my heart broke for these babies who only knew about having babies, I held out. And then, one day, I was “presented” with Miss Noelle. She fit the bill…and then some.

For one thing, she came with a verifiable “past.” Born in Bend, Oregon, from a line of champions, Miss Noelle was purchased by a woman in Louisiana who was intent on making her a prize showgirl.

She certainly had the lineage and the looks, as well as remarkable agility skills. The one thing she lacked, however, was a showgirl personality. Quite the introvert, Noelle’s career and her owner’s hopes came to a swift end. What happened thereafter is a little murky, but I do know that she was being fostered until a new owner could be found. She spent most days watching the Disney Channel as her foster mom worked to bring home the bacon.

Once the deal was sealed – Miss Noelle came with a pretty price – we drove to the airport to pick her up in the building marked “Cargo.”

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lest we’d find ourselves subjected to more of the story.

And that’s when Miss Noelle started her second career as a canine concierge. We owned and operated a country inn in the coldest spot in northwestern Connecticut, and Miss Noelle adjusted to her new role seamlessly. Greeting guests and making them feel welcome came naturally to her. We soon realized that our unsuccessful beauty queen was a natural therapy dog, looks be damned! Miss Noelle became so popular that I felt compelled to launch her own blog, a place where “she” shared her musings about the 24/7 life of an innkeeper and weighed in on the peculiarities of human nature.

By the time we moved to the South in 2017, Miss Noelle was more than ready for a second retirement. Her stealthy addiction to sniping Hershey’s chocolate kisses from the guest rooms had caused two dangerous bouts of pancreatitis, which had sapped her energy.

My former showgirl, canine concierge, therapy dog, and everfaithful companion now enjoys a quiet life of consummate leisure, the perfect retirement for a girl whose entire story I will never know. Happy 15th, my love!

Massage Envy

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BY AMY HILL, PHOTOGRAPHY BY DOUG RICE Whether you’re craving ice cream from the Lill Dipper on a Saturday afternoon, or heading to Sunday brunch at Young Cardinal Cafe and Co. on 4th Street, Downtown Winston-Salem has its own unique allure and is more bustling now than ever. New luxury apartment complexes have been popping up in the Downtown area as more and more residents gravitate towards an urban lifestyle. Craft cocktail lounges, dining options featuring eccentric cuisine, and one-of-a-kind boutiques draw visitors daily (and nightly). With free on-street parking after 5 p.m. and on weekends, locals are ditching crowded shopping centers and chain restaurants in exchange for character and charm.

As for Doug’s personal favorite area of Downtown, he prefers the Arts District. According to Doug, “It retains a friendlier feel with a hometown atmosphere.” Popular activities in the Arts District may include dinner and drinks on the striking patio of Sixth and Vine, or exploring Art for Art’s Sake’s (AFAS) Artivity on the Green, an art park located at 630 N. Liberty Street (see Doug’s photos below).

Doug Rice, photographer and 33-year resident of Winston-Salem, has brilliantly captured photographs revealing the evolution of Downtown Winston-Salem. His photographs of Bailey Power Plant from October 10th, 2013 (top), and August 20th, 2020 (bottom), show the dramatic transformation of the plant’s renovation.

2013 As downtown living becomes more popular, it is inevitable that Downtown Winston-Salem will continue to grow and evolve. When asked how he would like to see the area change in the future, Doug replied, “I hope efforts will continue to preserve the old buildings and their history.” For those sharing the same hopes as Doug, beautiful loft apartments at the Winston Factory Lofts, located at 675 North Main Street, are prime examples of industrial buildings built in 1920 being converted into modern-day apartments without losing their historic charm. Nearby, the Nissen Building apartments on 4th Street provide lovely accommodations in the well-preserved, 18-story skyscraper built in 1927. The building’s stunning golden elevators are selling points on their own.

2020 As a Winston-Salem local since 1987, Doug states, “The redevelopment of the blocks around and including the Old Bailey Power Plant have been the biggest change. As a photographer, I enjoyed shooting the area before it was renovated, but the rebirth has given Winston-Salem a beneficial new hub for activity.” Today, locals and tourists flock to Bailey Park on Saturday evenings for a bite of pizza at Cugino Forno, or for a cold beer (or two) at Incendiary Brewing. With ample outdoor seating and plenty of character, these are great options to safely gather with friends and family during the COVID-19 pandemic. Alma Mexicana, a newer restaurant nearby featuring contemporary Mexican cuisine, is an excellent spot for margaritas and ceviche on the patio.

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For those desiring a more historical feel, one may enjoy an early morning cappuccino from Camino Bakery in Brookstown (my personal favorite), followed by a visit to Old Salem. Employees located in the downtown area can frequently be spotted exercising on their lunch break throughout the area, as it is walkable and provides a quieter and more nature-filled environment to help employees recharge before returning to work for the rest of the day.

For those who want to live downtown for an affordable monthly rent, the Hilltop House Downtown Apartments on Cherry Street South are an ideal option located within a 15-minute walking distance to the heart of downtown. If you’re lucky, you may even be able to sneak a peek of the friendly cat who resides at the Historic Brookstown Inn - just don’t feed him! If you’re even luckier, you may catch a glimpse of Doug in action, too!

Piedmont Federal Savings Bank

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Counseling with Compassion…

One Therapist’s Story.

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON

Although Debbie McCaffrey ultimately fulfilled her calling of being a marriage and family therapist a bit later in life, at the age of 43, it was her own personal experience of journeying through the highs and lows of living that fostered her deep compassion and care for others.

Growing up in the small town of Geneva, Illinois, as a pastor’s kid and the youngest of four children, Debbie saw empathy and genuine concern for helping others on full display every day. “Both my mom and my dad had visible roles in ministry, so they set a clear example for all of their children about what it really meant to support people in their deepest times of need,” recalled Debbie.

“When I am talking with clients, it is easy for me to meet them with empathy in their pain because no matter what the circumstances are that they are facing, we have all felt sadness, hopelessness and even despair at some point in our lives. At the end of the day, we are all human and in need of genuine human connection.”

Thinking back, one of the early times in her own life that brought complicated and complex feelings was during a family move when she was 16 years old. “Our family moved to Orlando, Florida, when I was a junior and my brother was a senior in high school. Needless to say, that was not the easiest time for two teens to uproot and say goodbye to all that was familiar. Leaving behind the same friends that I had been close to since pre-school, I had a profound sense of loss and confusion.

I turned to perfectionism in every area of my life, including academics and athletics. I realize now I was dealing with a lot of anxiety and I didn’t know of a more effective way to cope. Much like the teenagers of today, battling anxiety, depression, and social pressures, I hope to provide a safe outlet for them to process their feelings through counseling.”

“After originally pursuing my master’s degree from Liberty University in 2013, looking back, I can see that the timing wasn’t right for me to meet that goal. However, after four additional years learning through life as a wife and mother, I returned to Liberty in 2018 to earn my master’s degree in marriage and family therapy.

While 2020 has been a difficult year for most of us, I am grateful to be able to provide much needed counseling services during this unprecedented time,” reflected Debbie.

Debbie’s counseling practice focuses on everything from couples experiencing a significant marital crisis to preventative marriage “tune-up’s,” along with an emphasis on depression, anxiety, parent/child relationships, challenging family dynamics, and struggles unique to adolescents and teens.

“My greatest hope is that my clients will experience a warm, inviting, and compassionate counseling atmosphere when they enter my office,” Debbie shared. She believes that being a good listener is one of the most valuable skills for a counselor to possess.

“I consider it a true privilege to hear the personal stories that my clients’ share with me and I feel honored to build trust with each person who walks through my office door.”

In addition to her passion for counseling, Debbie is wildly passionate about her husband of 21 years, her two children, ages 19 and 17, and her three lively pups. In her spare time, she enjoys taking long walks, listening to live music, and frequenting locally owned vineyards and restaurants.

Debbie is now accepting new clients at her Clemmons office.

She can be reached at 336-930-7800 or debbie@debbiemccaffreymft.com.

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“The Show Must Go On” Said the Director

BY TABATHA RENEGAR, PHOTOS BY DANCING LEMUR PHOTOGRAPHY What lesson has the pandemic taught you that you feel will impact you the most in the future?

How did you and your team come up with the idea for the outdoor shows?

We listened to recommendations from the Centers for Disease Control and the local government and said, “Okay. Here’s what we know. How can we do this safely?

We need to have enough room to spread the actors out, the audience out, and to not have confined, recirculating air.” Outside was the only option, given the circumstances of the situation. Fortunately, we had our backyard at W. Northwest Blvd, as well as our new space parking lot at 650 w. Sixth St. as potential performance options.

What has been the biggest challenge to putting on outdoor performances?

Like the rest of us, those involved with local community theater could never have imagined how a pandemic might affect the world of arts and entertainment. Shows canceling left and right, and families hunkered down in their homes with crowded theaters the last thing on their minds.

But one clever mind was busy right from the start thinking about how to continue to delight audiences while also surviving this unexpected season! Jamie Lawson is the Artistic Director of Theatre Alliance in Winston-Salem and one of the busiest human beings alive!

From directing to set-design to marketing and promotion, Jamie is an unstoppable, one-person dynamo. Luckily, he made time to talk with me about the way that Theatre Alliance has continued to bring light to these dark days.

How has the pandemic affected live theater in the Triad?

It has put a screeching halt to all indoor theatre. Most all of us had productions in the works ready to perform that we had to cancel or postpone. For Theatre Alliance, it was “Evita,” which we plan to produce once we get back indoors.

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Well, there are many, and they are all “biggest.” First and foremost: safety for everyone involved. We take participants’ temperatures before all rehearsals and performances. We wear masks for rehearsals, all of which are outside. We wear face shields for performances. We require our audience members to wear masks. We clean (indoor) restrooms between patrons. We take every possible precaution. Next, weather. Battling the heat and humidity have been no fun for the performers. Our worst enemy is rain, though. Finally, finances. We break even, if anything, doing shows outdoors. Why do them you may ask? Because art is what will get us through this devastating crisis! I want Theatre Alliance to provide entertainment to anyone who wants it, who needs it, at this time. Theatre is good medicine for the soul, and I don’t think there is a one of us who couldn’t use some of that right now!

For me, it has made me examine what is really to be valued and what is superfluous. My life was a whirlwind prior to the pandemic, and honestly, it never really slowed down much (I was lucky to work and to host shows through most of it, to date), but for the time it did make me pause, and when the reality of separation from others became a method of survival, it became an unyielding time of introspection. Are the things I hold as valuable in this life really the things I should be holding as valuable?

What are you most looking forward to, personally or professionally, after the crisis passes? Personally: seeing people smile again. Genuine smiles, unhindered by masks or by momentby-moment concerns of well-being.

Professionally: a roaring, screaming crowd in a packed house, laughing… and laughing…and laughing…

Don’t miss Theatre Alliances interactive Winter Wonder Wander in December at their new location 650 West 6th Street on December 11-13 and 16-22. For more information, visit theatrealliance.ws.

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Your Home MarketPlace

HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE – NOV 7TH – JUST FOR YOU! At Your Home Marketplace, you will find 11,000 square feet on three levels where your imagination and creativity are encouraged every day! Michelle Kinnaman is an owner who believes in helping every customer become familiar with all the Marketplace’s 77 unique vendors – vendors who work hard to offer you furniture items that includes new, vintage, mid-century modern, and modern farmhouse.

Customers will also find an awesome array of home décor, whether you are looking for tasteful organic and natural modern farmhouse, muted colors, or something with the BoHo vibe or the new “Yellowstone” look.

Your Home Marketplace is also a one-stop-shop for beautiful jewelry, artwork, and an almost endless selection of gifts for your entire Christmas shopping list. And, for your holiday gatherings, please check out our distinctive gourmet offerings for your table. For your tablescapes, offerings include everything from holiday classics to the new and unexpected! Vendor selections change daily, as the Marketplace vendors realize their customers are the key to their success.

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KEEPING FAITH IN SIGHT & KEEPING SIGHT ON WHAT’S IMPORTANT!

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY BERT VANDERVEEN & GOLDBERG MARKETING GROUP

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When Dr. Vic Khemsara moved his family to Winston-Salem in 2008, he not only felt his deep faith was guiding him, but he also knew that along with his beliefs, serving patients with a strong sense of commitment would be the foundation of his new eye care practice.

Summit Eye Care opened its doors in 2009, with a passion and a promise to focus on correcting vision and maintaining it for a lifetime. Long-time patients agree they have always felt welcomed, respected, and given complete attention from the first phone call to schedule an appointment, to the moment they check out.

Now, over ten years later, Triad residents of all ages (they see children as young as five) still receive the finest care possible from Summit Eye Care, thanks to a supremely dedicated staff who continuously strives for an improved patient experience while nurturing what is such an important aspect of our overall health: our eyesight. With services that range from general exams and complete optical services for the entire family, to treating glaucoma and cataracts – including enormously successful laser cataract surgery – Dr. Khemsara, Dr. Keith Biggs, and Dr. Steve Laymon share a philosophy of investing as a team to deliver the ultimate in patient care. As Dr. Biggs explains, “We strive to treat every patient like family!” Their two locations – just off Stratford Road in Winston-Salem with 20 employees, and in downtown Mocksville, with nine employees – provide spacious settings that are also continuing to expand!

Despite the challenges of most of the past year, and working to implement a focus on practicing safe distancing, wearing masks, and continuing their regular safety procedures of thorough cleaning between patients and vigilant handwashing, Summit is keeping up with all CDC regulations. While keeping their practice safe for patients and staff alike, they have also made the most of some exciting growth opportunities.

THE NEW SURGICAL CENTER Having just opened in October, Summit Eye Care’s new surgical center is welcoming patients who now feel comfortable scheduling much-needed surgical procedures. “I decided to open a surgery center to provide state-of-the-art care and equipment, and an exceptional surgical experience for our patients,” says Dr. Khemsara. Proud of their ability to grow and learn as they add more services and technology, doctors will be performing several different surgeries here, including cataract, ICL (implantable collamer lens), and RLE (refractive lens exchange) surgeries.

The practice is excited to offer patients the Implantable Collamer Lens procedure, or ICL for short. The ICL procedure corrects for moderate to severe myopia (nearsightedness) and astigmatism.

Many patients have been told that LASIK is not an option for their eyes for several reasons, such as not having enough corneal tissue. The benefit to ICL is that no corneal tissue is removed.

Unlike LASIK, ICL procedures do not damage the corneal nerves within the eye, thus helping to reduce the major side effect of dry eye disease.

For patients in their 40s and 50s, Refractive Lens Exchange reduces or eliminates their dependence on glasses or contact lenses. Both eyes are typically done on the same day.

At each stage of the planning process for the surgery center, the Summit staff kept the patient experience at the forefront of their minds. They brought in the latest equipment, including 3D technology, because they always want the best outcomes for their patients, as well as a dedicated waiting room, pre- and postoperative areas, and two suites where the actual procedures take place.

THE DRY EYE CENTER Increasingly common among patients is dry eye, and the practice is also focusing on easing this condition that can easily disrupt daily comfort. Between 16 and 49 million people in the United States suffer with dry eye, which is roughly 5 to 15% of the population. In fact, Google trends for the topic “dry eye syndrome” have doubled from 2010-2020 and include symptoms such as sandy, gritty, burning, watery eyes with fluctuating vision, redness, sensitivity to light, and eye fatigue.

What sets Summit apart in dry eye care is determining the exact type of dry eye that the patient suffers from, so they can more efficiently treat the condition. Typical risk factors for dry eye can include age, sex (females are at higher risk), medications, level of daily computer use, and environment – both home and work. The Dry Eye Center is at Summit’s Winston-Salem location and is led by Dr. Biggs, who is also the practice’s contact lens specialist.

State-of-the-art equipment at the Dry Eye Center analyzes the tear film to give exact metrics to identify the type of irritation and to determine the best treatment. Summit offers Lipiflow, which helps to treat the most common form of dry eye (meibomian gland dysfunction), IPL or intense pulse light (which treats inflammation of the lids and rosacea) helping to improve symptoms and underlying causes, blephex (in office exfoliation of the lids and lash margin) which helps to treat blepharitis, as well as a number of other services. Above all, patient commitment is their first priority.

Summit is also excited to share that their Mocksville location will have a beautiful new, spacious facility coming in early 2021! Dr. Laymon (who has practiced optometry for 30-plus years) and the staff will be centrally located in town, providing yet another growth opportunity to serve the community.

Summit Eye Care is conveniently located in Winston-Salem at 3073 Trenwest Drive, 336765-0960, and in Mocksville, at 198 Hospital Street, 336-751-5734. To learn more about their services and staff, visit Summiteyecare. net. Office hours are Monday through Friday 8:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m.

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Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.

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The Magic of Apples & Honey

BY LAUREN SEPHTON Did you know that apples are a member of the rose family? Along with pears, peaches, and cherries, apples have this nostalgic crisp flavor that is always fresh in the produce aisle year-round. But, paired with honey, a whole new aroma and magical experience are offered. Savory or sweet, apples and honey are worth giving a try.

SRIRACHA HONEY CHICKEN WITH APPLES

BAKED BRIE, APPLE & HONEY CROSTINI

CRUNCHY HONEY OATMEAL APPLE CRISP

HONEY CRANBERRY & APPLE COMPOTE YOGURT PARFAIT

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Servings: 2

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• 1 lb. Chicken Thighs • 2 Apples, preferably Pink Lady, sliced • 1 tbsp. Extra Virgin Olive Oil • Juice of 1 Lime • 2 tbsp. Honey • 2 tbsp. Sriracha • 1/2 tsp. each: Salt & Black Pepper

INSTRUCTIONS:

1. Pat the chicken dry, then season with salt and black pepper. Add the extra virgin olive oil in a pan over medium heat. Add in the sliced apples and chicken to pan-fry until thoroughly cooked, about 20-30 minutes.

2. In the meantime, whisk together the honey, sriracha, and lime juice.

3. Turn the stovetop heat up to medium-high, then pour the sauce over the chicken and apples.

Keep spooning the sauce over the chicken for 2-3 minutes, until reduced to a glossy sauce. Transfer the chicken and apples to a serving dish, garnish with fresh thyme leaves, and enjoy immediately.

• 1 Baguette, cut into 1/2” slices • 6 oz. Brie • 2 Apples, preferably Honey Crisp, thinly sliced • 1 Lemon, juiced • 1/4 cup Pecans, toasted and crushed • 2 tbsp. Honey • 3-4 Fresh Mint Leaves, thinly chopped

INSTRUCTIONS:

1. Preheat oven to 375F. Line a baking tray with parchment paper.

2. Evenly spread the baguette slices onto the prepared baking tray in a single layer. On each baguette slice, place a thin slice of brie on top.

Bake for 5-7 minutes, until brie has melted.

• 4 Apples, chopped • 1/2 cup + 2 tbsp. Almond Meal • 1 1/4 cup Rolled Oats • 1/2 cup Extra Virgin Olive Oil • 1/2 cup Honey • 1/2 cup Pecans, chopped • 3 tsp. Ground Cinnamon • 1/2 tsp. Salt

INSTRUCTIONS:

1. Preheat oven to 350F. Lightly grease or line a 9x13” baking dish.

2. In the prepared baking dish, add in the chopped apples, 2 tablespoons almond meal, and 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon.

Toss the ingredients together, then evenly spread out into a single layer.

3. In the meantime, toss together the lemon juice, the thin apple slices, and the thinly chopped mint in a small bowl.

3. In a mixing bowl, whisk together the extra virgin olive oil and honey until very smooth.

Add in the rolled oats, chopped pecans, remaining almond meal (1/2 cup), remaining cinnamon (2 teaspoons), and salt. Toss together, then pour over the apples to evenly cover them.

4. Once removed from the oven, add 1-2 thin slices of apple on each crostini.

Garnish with the crushed pecans and a drizzle of honey. Serve immediately.

4. Bake for 35-40 minutes, until golden brown on top. Allow the apple crisp to cool for 1015 minutes. Serve warm with (optional) vanilla bean ice cream or powdered sugar glaze.

• 1 1/2 cups Yogurt (Greek or regular) • 1/2 cup granola (of your preference) • 2 Apples, preferably Pink Lady or Fuji, chopped • 1 tbsp. Extra Virgin Olive Oil • 1/2 cup Fresh Cranberries • 2 tbsp. Honey • Zest of 1 Orange • 1/2 tsp. Ground Cinnamon

INSTRUCTIONS:

1. In a non-stick skillet over medium heat, warm up the extra virgin olive oil for 1 minute.

2. Add in the chopped apples to cook for 3-4 minutes, stirring frequently.

Add in the honey, ground cinnamon, orange zest, and a dash of salt (to taste). Cook for another 2-3 minutes, or until the apples begin to turn slightly translucent.

3. Add in the cranberries to cook for another 3-4 minutes, or just before they begin to burst. If needed, you can de-glaze the pan with 1 tablespoon of water.

4. Remove the skillet from the heat and allow the compote to cool completely.

5. To assemble, add a layer of yogurt, a thin layer of granola, then a layer of the compote. Repeat until all ingredients are used.

Serve immediately.

Oh, the places that apples and honey can take you! The possibilities are endless with this magical combination that keeps life simple while always ensuring those delightfully complex aromas and tasty flavors.

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A great gift for the holidays or anytime of the year. Our olive oils and balsamic vinegars are perfect for hostess gifts, teacher gifts, stocking stuffers, your favorite foodie or those who just enjoy eating or who have everything! We offer an extensive list of high quality imported Italian white and dark aged balsamic vinegars, single varietal high polyphenol extra virgin olive oils and flavored olive oils for that perfect recipe. Come in and taste the difference. 125 S. Stratford Road, Winston-Salem, NC 336.331.3069

2 - ANGELINA’S TEAS With over 500 teas, local chocolates, honey and pottery, Angelina’s Teas is a great place to shop for your holiday gifts.

Angelina’s Teas 125 S. Stratford Road W-S 336.722.9532

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Fiddle & Fig offers carefullycurated home décor items for any budget. From pillows and throws to faux plants and shelving, the perfect gift is waiting at 403 West End Boulevard in Winston-Salem.

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The El Dorado pack - rough, but practical. This roll top backpack is your go-to when you have a LOT to carry. The top can be rolled down for style and fit or unrolled and zipped to utilize its full capacity. To order, e-mail Roger at Casey Creative, roger@caseycreative. us - turn time is about 2 weeks.

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Don’t let aches and knotted muscles weigh you down!

Theragun Percussive Therapy handheld massage devices are available in three different types: G4Pro ($600), Elite ($400), MiniPro ($200), and Wave Roller ($150). Attack plantar fasciitis, shoulder tension, or sore feet with the BEST self-massage there is. Available at Fleet Feet Winston-Salem, 278 Harvey Street (next to LA Fitness on Stratford). www.fleetfeetws.com | Locally owned by Emily & Keith Davis

6 - DALTON’S CROSSING Classic and Unique women’s fashions along with jewelry and accessories at Dalton’s Crossing. Dalton’s Crossing is located at 102/104 East Dalton Road in (downtown) King, NC 336.985.5464 www.daltonscrossing.com

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7 - THE VISTA AT FORSYTH PLASTIC SURGERY Give the gift of beauty! Gift cards from The VISTA at Forsyth Plastic Surgery can be used for relaxing facials, peels, medical-grade skincare, body contouring with CoolSculpting or CoolTone and more. Comes beautifully wrapped with a FREE gift box, hand-tied ribbon, gift bag and tissue. Gift cards never expire and can be made in any denomination. $200 is our average gift. To order stop by The VISTA at Forsyth Plastic Surgery or call Danielle, our Cosmetic Concierge at 336-765-8620 Monday-Friday, 8:30 am-5:00 pm for safe, contactless curbside delivery. Please note: gift cards cannot be used for surgical procedures or to pay outstanding balances.

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8 - WINDSOR JEWELERS

These amazing 18K cushion-shaped turquoise and diamond halo stud earrings from designer Frederic Sage would impress anyone on your list. Available in other gemstones and matching pendants.

Visit Windsor Jewelers to see these and more from Frederic Sage.

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Our Dough Bowl Doodlation candles make the perfect gift! Only $35 and in amazing scents. They can also be refilled

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Coming this Fall, the 18K Astrid ring is a new addition to designer Temple St. Clair’s Celestial Collection. This ring unfolds like an astronomical model of the cosmos, revealing multiple rings that can be worn on the finger or around the neck as a pendant. Engraved with symbols representing the planets and a verse from Danté’s The Divine Comedy, this timeless ring expresses the belief that it is love that moves the universe. See this exquisite piece and many others from Temple St. Clair at Windsor Jewelers.

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Offering wine, bar supplies, NC produced market goods, take-n-bake meals, butcher shop items and craft cocktail mixing supplies. Located at 205 South Stratford Road, Suite N Winston-Salem.

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12 - WOOD & THREAD BOUTIQUE Fall Into Me: This year’s autumn collection from Wood & Thread is draped with rustic hues, staple neutrals, and cozy fabrics. Shop in-store or online with us for all your sweater weather needs! Wood & Thread is located in The Shops at Brookstown at 301 Brookstown Ave Suite 500 in Downtown Winston-Salem. Visit us online at WoodAndThreadBoutique.com and on Instagram @WoodAndThreadBoutique. We also have free curbside pick-up!

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SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY:

5 Ways to Show Your Support

BY TARYN JEREZ

If ever there was a year to show up big for small businesses, this is it! After surviving the economic impact of a continuing global pandemic, Small Business Saturday gives a beautiful reminder that these businesses are still here serving their communities and are worthy of support. This year, November 28th will be the tenth anniversary of American Express first founding Small Business Saturday, a day dedicated to supporting small businesses and communities across the country.

Let’s dive into five different ways you can show up to support small businesses this year and make a difference!

#1 SUPPORT WITH YOUR MONEY

BY SPENDING INSTORE AND ONLINE Whether you are all set to put your walking shoes on to hit the streets or have that “add to cart” trigger finger ready, every dollar you spend with a small business this holiday season will make a larger impact than you might realize. Small Business Saturday is infamous for business owners using their creativity to make the day feel extra special by implementing activities and offering promotions and giveaways instore and online. If you’ll be shopping in-person, make a whole day of it! On November 28th, start your Saturday off with a trip to your favorite local coffeehouse, enjoy some great shopping, and order from a mom and pop restaurant for each meal! Deciding to stick to e-commerce? Check out some new websites you’ve been wanting to explore. Remember, many small businesses who hadn’t offered online shopping before made the switch during this pandemic!

#2 SUPPORT WITH YOUR VOICE

BY SHOWING UP ON SOCIAL MEDIA Did you know that word of mouth marketing is one of the best ways for a small business to grow? Social media helps take that word of mouth and spread it like wildfire to your friends and family. Take time to share the link to a favorite small business or repost the sale you saw their website hosting. Don’t forget when you share photos of your purchases or shopping festivities to tag the small businesses you helped support so more people can learn about them. If you had a truly great experience, you can like their Facebook page or follow them on Instagram to make sure you see what else they have to offer throughout the year. It may seem silly to some, but social media makes a huge difference for small businesses, especially as a way of free marketing!

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#3 SUPPORT WITH YOUR HEART

BY CHOOSING DIVERSE BUSINESSES As the world continues to work through and recover from the pandemic, minority-owned businesses have been hit hard and disproportionately affected. Your spending power has the opportunity to increase sales, spread awareness, and give support to businesses that need and value it most. As you put together your shopping list compiling all your wants and needs for Small Business Saturday, take a little time to research the businesses in your community and online before you shop. American Express has even added resources to their ‘shop small’ webpage to provide resources for shoppers looking to support black-owned businesses this year! Make a conscious decision to show up and support minority and LGBTQ businesses that may not otherwise have been on your radar this year and find some awesome new favorite shops, restaurants, service providers, and more!

#4 SUPPORT WITH YOUR OPINION

BY PROVIDING REFERRALS AND REVIEWS A positive review means the world to a small business and is their way of showing potential customers what it’s really like to work with them or purchase from them. When you share your opinion about an interaction with local and small brands, there are so many benefits that can turn a random person into a customer. Reviews and referrals help point people to new businesses, build trust in them, and offer confidence in their purchasing decisions. You don’t have to wait until Small Business Saturday to leave a review for one of your favorite businesses! Take a few minutes today to proudly proclaim the great experience you had with them on their social media page, website, Google, or even Yelp if applicable. It will mean the world to them!

#5 SUPPORT WITH YOUR RESOURCES

BY CREATING PARTNERSHIPS Did you know that small businesses are owned and operated by moms and dads, teachers, kids, church members, and just about anyone else in your community that you can think of? (You did, of course, but it’s always a good reminder!) Get to know the people behind your favorite small business and learn what their needs are and how you may be able to help one another. As Small Business Saturday approaches, think about the people in your life or those you are closely connected to that own a business. Are there ways you can partner with them that may be mutually beneficial? Maybe you can create a fundraiser or curate a collaboration between your own place of work and their business?

And remember that November 28, 2020 is SMALL BUSINESS SATURDAY!

GIRLS’ DAY OUT

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT

TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 10TH Brunch at Young Cardinal Cafe & Co. 10am - 12pm

Dinner at Jeffrey Adams on Fourth from 5pm until

Jeffrey Adams on Fourth Half Price Wine & Select Appetizers $5 Young Cardinal Cafe & Co

$3 Mimosa $5 Bloody Mary Grab a friend, a neighbor, your sister, your mother, a co-worker, and have a much needed Girls’ Night Out!

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Keeping It Real FOR LOVE’S SAKE

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

What was your least favorite subject in school? Mine . . . science. I know it’s essential. It’s just that all those formulas give me a headache, and all that dissecting lays this squeamish girl out on the floor! No kidding!

Passed out ON. THE. FLOOR! Nevertheless, when I try to ingest the magnitude of creation, the precision in the meticulous order of it all . . . science takes my breath.

Did you know that the galaxy we inhabit twirls at the speed of 490,000 miles per hour? Yet even at this rapid pace, our galaxy still needs 200 million years to complete just one rotation. And get this: there are over one billion other galaxies just like ours in the universe!

Some scientists say that the stars equal all the grains of sand on all beaches of the world. (Did you get that?!) Yet this intricate sea of stars spins with unfathomable order and efficiency.

It takes more faith to believe all of this “just happened” or “evolved” than to believe an Intelligent Designer constructed every meticulous detail with intention and purpose. The more science digs for answers, the more its findings point to our Creator. But as tremendous as science is, science can never explain WHY. It can only describe HOW something works.

You do realize, don’t you, that God did not need to create any of this? He CHOSE to! He created all we are and all we have. Why? For love’s sake.

Real love longs to extend itself toward something or someone to become meaningful. The Trinity enjoys reciprocated love, and God desperately longed to make you and me as a reflection of that love. He fully intended for our relationship with Him to be as intimate and “other” as the bond enjoyed between the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit. WOW! What an invitation!

This makes me pause. How similar, how intimate and “other,” is my relationship with God? Is it so deeply cherished and close that it resembles what Abba imagined when He breathed life into me?

Some of us feel so profoundly alone and isolated in this season. We seem to wander aimlessly with no clear direction for the future. For the life of us, we can’t figure out what is missing. At the very core of our personal crisis is the deep longing to be understood, even cherished, by another person, without dangling prerequisites.

My friend, the hole in your heart, the mystery of “what is missing,” is simply the deficit in this most primal and preeminent relationship you were created to enjoy.

When you consider the grandeur of this Designer coupled with the tiny speck on the map of creation that we are, the possibility of an intimate relationship with this majestic Creator is truly baffling. The reality is, we couldn’t know Him if He didn’t want us to know Him. He invites us near and pulls us close. He whispers into our soul in a way that infuses us with life-altering identity and purpose. His whisperings breathe calm into all the commotion. He has a way of bringing meaning to our moments and unprecedented order to our chaos.

I’m still not a fan of science class. But I’m profoundly grateful for the discoveries that remind me of His unconditional love and the intimate relationship He invites me to experience daily. I don’t want to miss anything this Magnificent Maker intended for me.

He’s reaching to me for love’s sake. He’s reaching for YOU for love’s sake. I surely don’t want to miss Him, and neither do you!

Say it with me: Keep whispering, Father; I’m listening!

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The Importance of Remembering Veterans’ Stories To this day, I always love hearing my grandfather’s military stories. Enlisting in the Army/Air Force during World War II, my grandfather served in Europe. While flying over Italy, my grandfather’s plane was shot down by the Germans.

He and his fellow soldiers had to parachute out of the plane and keep hidden since they were behind enemy lines. To help keep the soldiers safe, an Italian family took my grandfather and two others into hiding until the end of the war. The other men landed in a different area and were taken prisoner. Up until the day he passed away, my grandfather stayed in touch with the Italian family.

The reason I love this story, other than the fact that it is about my grandfather, is that it shows the courage and bravery many men and women have when serving our country. All veterans have a story about their time in the military, and it is important to make sure those stories are heard, remembered, and passed down from generation to generation. These tales are also part of our nation’s history. If you have a veteran in your life, take the time to listen and record their story. Here are some ideas on how to do just that.

1. First, start with interviewing your veteran. Begin with the basic questions about their military experience.

Sometimes just these questions can be valuable information and lead to deeper conversations. Also, ask if the veteran has any memorable or funny stories, met any important people, or kept any items from their time.

2. After interviewing your veteran and getting the facts about their military experience, create something nice to hold the story. Scrapbooks are a great way to record the information. Type up or write the interview and place in the scrapbook. Then, add any available pictures or items from the veteran’s time in the military. For example, they may have an image of the veteran in their uniform for you to add. Any keepsakes you can find will quickly become treasures for future generations.

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3. Another option would be to create an audio recording of the veteran telling their experience. Through this narration, loved ones will be able to hear the veteran’s voice speaking about their time in their own words.

Just be careful and make sure you document the audio on a trustworthy and stable device that your family will be able to keep for many years to come. Also, store the audio in a fire safe box.

4. Since we are in the digital age, share the memoir with others through email. You may be like me and save emails that are special so you can easily refer back to them. When archiving the information, type it into an email and send it to you and your loved ones. This option is an easy way to share the veteran’s story with many people. However, it is also important to always have a hard copy of the recollections.

5. Lastly, the Veterans History Project through the Library of Congress is a great opportunity to record and save your veteran’s memories for the entire country to read.

The Project was created in 2000 by the United States Congress and signed into law by President Clinton.

According to the Veterans History Project’s website, its purpose is to “collect, preserve, and make accessible the personal accounts of American war veterans so that future generations may hear directly from veterans and better understand the realities of war.” Veterans’ personal narratives, correspondences, and visual materials are all accepted to the Project. For more information on how to submit your veteran’s story, visit loc.gov/vets/vets-home.

Writing down a veteran’s story can be memorable and valuable for your loved ones. The veteran will always hold a special place in your family’s life, so why not remember their sacrifice for our country and treasure their military experience? These tales are just a little bit of our nation’s history that will be worth treasuring for years and years.

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Piedmont Advantage Credit Union’s Jean Golden-Rumer and Jeanette Stark and their role in launching the PACU Foundation to increase the credit union’s capacity to make a difference Piedmont Advantage Credit Union’s Jeanette Stark and Jean Golden-Rumer did not know each other prior to joining the organization. Upon meeting, it became apparent they shared a mutual desire to problem-solve and foster a workplace environment that values social responsibility.

“The credit union philosophy of ‘people helping people’ is what attracted me to Piedmont Advantage Credit Union. I was looking for a different challenge and liked the idea of helping people in a different way,” said Stark, who has been with the organization for a year as its first in-house general counsel.

Golden-Rumer’s path to Piedmont Advantage Credit Union (PACU) was a little different. As a recent college graduate and a new transplant to North Carolina, she was looking for an opportunity to put her marketing and management degrees to work. After five years with PACU, Golden-Rumer is now its learning manager, responsible for developing and implementing PACU’s training programs, managing internal communications, and driving its brand culture.

“PACU has a long history of reinforcing a culture of social responsibility. Being part of advancing, and even strengthening, this culture is something very important to me personally,” said Golden-Rumer.

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PACU Foundation was founded in January 2020, grown out of the desire of PACU’s Board of Directors and leadership team to enlarge PACU’s capacity to make a difference within its service areas of Forsyth, Guilford, Mecklenburg, Cumberland, Duplin, Iredell, New Hanover, and Rockingham counties. Being problem-solvers and having servants’ hearts made it easy for Stark and Golden-Rumer to decide to volunteer their time to serve on the initial Board of Directors for the PACU Foundation.

Stark took the lead in preparing and filing the necessary documentation to form and operate the PACU Foundation and was elected as Vice President of the foundation in January. Golden-Rumer was initially appointed by the Board to organize and chair the Fundraising Committee for the foundation. However, when the foundation’s initial President retired this summer, the PACU’s Foundation’s board recognized that Golden-Rumer’s dedication to serving others and ability to pull together and motivate a group of talented volunteers made her the overwhelming choice to lead the organization as its new President. Golden-Rumer and Stark are both eager to get past the COVID-19 pandemic so that the PACU Foundation can conduct fundraising events to grow the foundation’s fund balance.

Undeterred by the inability to plan events for this year, Golden-Rumer and Stark have been using this unprecedented time to build the foundation’s infrastructure and plan for the future.

“We already had a culture of fundraising to give back to the communities we are privileged to serve. We just needed a more structured way to engage our employees and members to contribute and volunteer.

The success of our foundation will be dependent on their involvement,” added Stark.

Even before rolling out planned fundraising and organized giving campaigns, the foundation has nearly $8,000 from more than 100 unique contributors. Stark and Golden-Rumer expect these numbers to grow significantly heading into 2021.

“We have a great story to tell. The foundation is 100 percent supported by PACU employees and members.

We will be using their investment of time and money to partner with our communities to identify their unique needs. I can’t wait to get started,” said Golden-Rumer.

The PACU Foundation’s mission is to create strong, sustainable financial health in local communities in North Carolina by using the power of cooperative efforts to enable dreams to take flight and soar. For more information, go to PACU.com/Foundation.

ABOUT JEAN GOLDEN-RUMER • Born and raised in Elkins, WV • Earned Bachelor’s degrees in marketing and management from Davis & Elkins College in Elkins, WV • Employed with Piedmont Advantage Credit Union (PACU) as its learning manager • Founding board member of the PACU Foundation • Elected PACU Foundation President in 2020

ABOUT JEANETTE STARK • Born and raised in Montclair, NJ, but has called Forsyth County home since 2000 • Earned a Bachelor’s degree in business administration from the College of William & Mary in Williamsburg, VA • Earned Juris Doctor degree from Wake Forest School of Law in Winston-Salem, NC • Employed with Piedmont Advantage Credit Union (PACU) as its first general counsel • Founding board member of the PACU Foundation • Elected PACU Foundation Vice President in 2020

ABOUT PIEDMONT ADVANTAGE CREDIT UNION AND THE PACU FOUNDATION LOGO In 1948, Aviator Tom Davis launched a small airline, Piedmont Airlines, in Winston-Salem, NC, to provide servicemen and women jobs after the war.

Under his leadership, the airline flourished, and the need for a credit union was recognized. By 1949, with airline volunteers and a cash box in a small office, Mr. Davis supported an aviation credit union’s launch to provide small loans and savings accounts to Piedmont Airlines’ employees. The credit union grew rapidly along with the airline industry.

Over the years, this credit union became known as Piedmont Advantage to reflect its growing membership. With access to over 5,000 branches within the credit union network and 35,000 surcharge-free ATMs, membership is open to individuals who reside, work or worship in one of the eight communities it serves in North Carolina or who are employed by one of its employer companies. These eight communities are in Forsyth, Guilford, Mecklenburg, Cumberland, Duplin, Iredell, New Hanover, and Rockingham counties.

The PACU Foundation logo with the display of wings is a tribute to Piedmont Advantage’s humble beginnings within the airline industry.

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BY LAUREN SEPHTON

You may be familiar with the unusual peanut butter and pickle sandwich pregnancy craving, but how about the bread-and-butter pickle sandwich?

Tracing back to the Depression Era, being first recorded in 1923 when a young couple went to trademark their homemade pickle company logo, there is a hidden story longing to be told.

The term “bread-and-butter pickles” is most often associated with those reliably crisp, sweet, and salty quartered pickles with hints of onion and mustard seed that are served alongside a juicy burger or chopped into an egg salad. But not in this case. During the Great Depression, many folks weren’t given the option of their choice meat, cheese, and spicy or mild aioli to go on the side of their sandwich. When the summer heat rose, and cucumbers were growing every day, life was good. It meant substance within two slices of bread. At the end of summer harvest, the excess cucumber crop was sliced, salted, and pickled in jars for the cold, harsh winter. It allegedly became a staple during the Depression Era due to the cheap and vast availability of each ingredient.

This sandwich is comprised of two slices of soft, chewy homemade white bread, each slathered with thick salted butter, and layered inside are paper-thin slices of fermented dill pickles that overlap. Simplicity to its finest, sort of.

Who knew that the comforting combination of bread and butter, paired with crunchy pickles, was the food pairing of a lifetime?

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Fun fact: The phrase “bread-and-butter pickles” was first recorded in 1923, when Cora and Omar Fanning from Illinois went to register for a trademark on their family pickles company logo. Later in 1996, the Feingold News released an article on how Mrs. Fanning worked out an agreement to receive groceries from a local grocer, which included the iconic salted butter and white bread, in exchange for her family pickles. Through the years, a multitude of individuals have trademarked their signature name with the “bread and butter pickles” phrase, but no one individual has yet to own the phrase itself.

If you have a little extra time on your hands, test out a batch of homemade dill pickles thinly sliced into “crunchy coins” in-between two richly buttered slices of chewy white bread to experience a small taste of American culinary history. If the three-ingredient sandwich seems a little questionable to your liking, maybe try out a more modernized version below.

1. Preheat oven to 350F. 2. Drizzle a little extra virgin olive oil on two slices of crusty sourdough bread. On one sourdough slice, add a thin layer of white cheddar cheese, then a few thin slices of pastrami or turkey meat, finishing with a final layer of cheese. Toast the layered bread slice until the cheese is melted, and the plain slice until golden brown.

3. On the plain slice of toasted sourdough, add a spread of wholegrain brown mustard, 2-3 tablespoons sauerkraut (drained), and thinly sliced dill (or bread and butter pickles). Combine the two slices to finish the assembling of your sandwich and enjoy!

The Bread-and-Butter Pickle Sandwich combination may not have made it into the award-winning cookbooks of its generation, or on the newspaper headlines for the best recipe of the hour, but it lives to tell its story through the heart of numerous family kitchens. It was the snack grandma always had on hand for afternoon plays, it was the lunch that was easily affordable, and it was the sandwich that kept many Americans satisfied during the roughest times. Its legacy may not appear on paper but has made an imprint in many grateful Americans’ lives.

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Making Dollars, Making $ense Securities offered through LPL Financial, Member FINRA/SIPC, Investment advice offered through Independent Advisor Alliance, a registered investment advisor, Independent Advisor Alliance and Marzano Capital Group are separate entities from LPL Financial.

Are you working with a forward-looking firm?

BY MICHAEL MCGILVARY, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

At Marzano Capital Group, we believe that the world of investment management has changed for the better over the past few years. You may have heard me say this before in previous articles, but the role of financial advisors has changed from product-oriented client relationships to advice-based client relationships. The client’s goals and needs should be first and foremost. Forward-looking investment management firms are conducting business in this manner and winning market share.

However, there is another financial industry trend we are noticing where investment firms may not be focusing on the future of their practices regarding the age of their financial professionals on staff. According to a 2019 CNBC article, the average financial advisor is in their mid-50’s.1 While years of industry experience are helping these advisors serve their clients’ goals and needs, we see some possible issues arising in the coming years, such as what will happen to those clients when their advisor retires? Who will make sure they not only get to retirement, but through retirement?

Have you and your family planned all these years with your advisor to make it to retirement and meet your goals, just to be turned over to another advisor you may not have a relationship with when your advisor hangs it up? I think not. We strongly believe the firm you work with should have a plan for their own succession, just as you have planned all these years. At Marzano Capital Group, we have made it a top priority to work as a team to ensure continuity of service for our clients and to focus on the next generation of professionals in our office.

We have members on our team with over 20 years of industry experience; however, we also have advisors in the office that are in their early to mid-30s. In our opinion, having a wellrounded financial team in regards to age also creates a holistic approach to client relationships. When our team at Marzano Capital Group has the opportunity to sit down with a client or prospect, at least 2 of our advisors are involved with the planning process. We feel this is a prudent way to manage relationships so that multiple advisors become resources for our clients.

Investment firms in our community that are placing clients’ goals first should continue to win new relationships, as they ought to. However, we believe firms that are not only putting clients first but planning for continuity of service and care for these clients, will be in the best position for the future.

1 Osterland, Andrew. “As Advisors Start to ‘Age out,’ Firms Look to Step up Succession Planning.” CNBC, CNBC, 29 Oct. 2019, cnbc.com/2019/10/29/ financial-advisors-need-succession-plan-to-benefit-clients-and-firm.html.

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Keeping Your Skin & Hair Na turally Hydrated This Winter

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

Hot chocolate, cozy sweaters, and warm nights by the fireplace – that’s what pleasantly comes to mind when we first think of winter.

And even though we’d rather the static, frizzy hair and dry hands stayed home this year, they always seem to make their presence known when the crisp breeze strolls in around late autumn. But this year is different, as it’s time to finally give shiny hair and glowing skin a permanent home all year long.

NATURAL HAIR MASKS • Strawberry Protein: Whisk together one egg yolk, 1 cup pureed strawberries, and 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil. Massage the natural hair treatment into your scalp and work it all the way down to the end of your hair strands. Wrap your hair in a plastic shower cap, or become creative with a plastic bag, to leave on for 20-30 minutes. Rinse with cool water. Remember to have patience when rinsing, as fruit tends to be super sticky.

• The Honeybee’s Avocado: In a blender, add 1 ripe avocado that is peeled and pitted, 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil, 2-3 drops lavender essential oil, and 2 tablespoons honey until very smooth. Focusing on the ends of your hair strands, work the hair mask onto damp hair. Cover with a shower cap and relax, maybe even sip on some tea for 15-30 minutes, then rinse and wash as usual.

• Peppermint & Coconut Samoa: A powerhouse for antiinflammatory properties and hydration, whisk together 2 tablespoons jojoba oil, 1/4 cup melted coconut oil, and 2-3 drops peppermint essential oil. Rub from your scalp to hair ends, then allow the mask to hydrate your hair for 25-30 minutes. Rinse with cool water and wash, as usual.

• A Balanced Diet. Just like your body, your hair needs vitamins and proper nutrients to stay healthy. Iron, Vitamin C, Omega-3, and Vitamin E are among the essentials. Did you know that your hair is actually made out of protein? Therefore, dietary protein is a necessity for growing shiny, strong hair. Just as important, always remember to stay hydrated with water.

• Trim Often, Heat Little. With the winter dryness, your hair is more prone to breakage, so try to cut off any split ends as you see them creep their way in. Similarly, try to stay away from any heating products, like blow dryers or curling irons, as they remove moisture from your hair.

NATURAL SKIN MOISTURIZERS • Sugar Scrub: Mix together 1/4 cup granulated sugar, 1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil or coconut oil, and 2-3 drops essential oil of your preference. Use 1-2 tablespoons of the exfoliant in the shower after washing your face to remove any dead skin cells, then rinse for silky smooth skin.

• Lavender Coconut: Melt 1/2 cup coconut oil, then whisk in 1 teaspoon liquid Vitamin E and 12 drops lavender essential oil. Whip it with a fork or whisk for 30 seconds, then let it sit until the coconut oil solidifies. Store in a glass mason jar with an air-tight lid, using 1/2 - 1 teaspoon to moisturize your face, as needed.

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• Rejuvenating Apple: Slice 2 apples, removing any seeds. Toss them into a blender with one teaspoon olive oil. Blend on high until a smooth, then transfer the paste to a pot to simmer for 5 minutes.

Remove from heat, add in 4-5 tablespoons of rose water. Use as a hydrating face mask, leaving it on for at least 10 minutes prior to rinsing and washing, as usual. Store remaining product in the fridge for 3-4 days.

• Steam Therapy. Yes, this is your excuse to take a nice, long, warm shower. The airborne water particles (aka steam) is one of the easiest ways to hydrate your hair during winter.

No more hibernating until warmer days. This year you’ll be walking out of winter with shiny hair and glowing skin!

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Be Thankful

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more.

It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” ~ Melody Beattie

COVID has changed our lives in 2020, and many of our holiday celebrations may look different this year as we continue to social distance. Let’s look forward to this season of Thanksgiving and keep the above quote in mind as we celebrate with an attitude of gratitude.

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays.

It makes me sad that it doesn’t get as much press as Halloween and somehow just gets passed over because everyone is rushing toward the Christmas shopping season.

Seems the moment Halloween is over, orange becomes red, spider webs become garlands, and Frankenstein becomes Santa Claus. So what happened to Thanksgiving?

It may be all about commercialism… on Halloween, you sell costumes and candy…on Christmas, you sell everything else. On Thanksgiving …well, it’s just turkey.

Just maybe the reason Thanksgiving gets passed over is, “You can’t sell thankfulness.”

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In 1621, the first Thanksgiving, Pilgrims and Native American Indians gathered to thank God. They had endured many hardships that first year in a new country.

During the Civil War, President Lincoln, in 1863 proclaimed Thanksgiving an annual holiday. His proclamation began with the following sentence: “The year that is drawing to a close has been filled with the blessing of fruitful fields and healthful skies. To these bounties, which are so constantly enjoyed that we are prone to forget the source from which they come, others have been added, which are so extraordinary a nature that they cannot fail to penetrate and soften even the heart which is habitually insensible to the ever-watchful providence of Almighty God.” Conditions were hard for the Pilgrims and Native American Indians, as it was for the people enduring the destruction and loss of life brought on by the Civil War. Our

ancestors knew the importance of taking time to be thankful for their blessings. In just a few weeks, families will gather, food will be prepared and enjoyed, ballgames will be watched, and hopefully, time will be set aside to be thankful to God for His goodness and faithfulness.

When I was a little girl, my mom gave me the job of setting the table before the family meals. I loved referring to mom’s red and white check Better Homes and Gardens Cookbook for help to set the table properly.

In this fast-paced world, you may be too busy to set the table or you are eating out… or maybe aren’t sure how to set a table properly. This Thanksgiving, take time to set your table properly. Use the diagrams above for a quick reference.

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Perfect for the gift-giving season this December, singer/songwriter/ musician, Susan B. B. Schabacker, and her team of local and international musical collaborators are releasing Susan’s 5th full-length, world music album about COVID-19 (Coronavirus) called BTV - Beyond The Virus.

BTV includes profound and moving spiritual songs, as well as lighthearted, funny, and comedic parody songs to lift spirits, bring smiles to faces, lighten lives with laughter and offer fresh hope for now and the future!

CREATIVE COLLABORATIONS In the album, Susan collaborates with musicians and vocalists from over 25 different countries, ranging from A to Z - Austria all the way to Zimbabwe - and many other countries in between. The worldwide collaborators range from local talent to well-known Grammy award winners and nominees.

Reflecting its global influence, the songs embrace universal genres, including pop, rock, blues, hip hop, rap, folk, country, Latin, jazz, and Christian contemporary. Passages sung in Spanish, French, Italian, Portuguese, Polish, Swedish, and German add to the international flavor.

CHARITABLE CONTRIBUTIONS In addition to worldwide musical collaborations, this special recording project supports two charitable non-profits, one local and one international. The local non-profit org, Love Out Loud, is faith-based and serves many different demographics throughout our community. The global non-profit org, Heart to Heart International, provides humanitarian relief + aid both in the States and worldwide. Both are proactively helping many lives recover + repair from COVID-19.

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BTV – BEYOND THE VIRUS – ARTS + CRAFTS Along with musical collaborations, the BTV project is selling organically inspired and uniquely handcrafted original art and jewelry, all heartfully handmade by dedicated artists donating their artistic gifs to support the lives of those affected by coronavirus.

“This is a team effort that involves visual arts, in addition to the original music,” said Susan. “The main theme is to reflect different people from different places and the whole planet coming together for a greater purpose and providing humanitarian relief.”

BEYOND THE VIRUS ALBUM ART The album cover art will celebrate the worldwide theme. Headshots of the musical collaborators will grace the BTV cover art in a musically masked montage.

All performers are equal and valued, and their images will be cropped with the same background.

“I wanted to include four main races of people – including African, Asian, Caucasian, and Latin/ Hispanic, so the tea ingredients I chose for the BTV – Beyond The Virus blends represent each group of people, harmoniously orchestrated,” said Susan. The BTV AM tea blend contains some caffeine with organic assam black tea, sencha green tea, coconut flakes, and mango extract. The BTV PM tea blend is caffeine-free, sleep-friendly, and includes organic cinnamon, ginger, coconut flakes, and lime. “I can honestly and proudly say these are two of my fav tea blends! I hope - with all my heart - you will also enjoy them and share, sip your cuppa happy!”

GIVE GIFTS THAT GIVE BACK! “We pray and hope our special gifts that give back will be at the top of your Christmas wish list,” said Susan. “They are perfect for your stocking or under the tree, ready to be unwrapped and shared with glee.”

“And,” she continued, “as our song titles suggest, together we can ‘Avoid Coronavirus’ while feeling like we ‘Can’t Take Much More,’ but remembering that it is ‘Up To You and Me.’ Remember, we are always ‘Together In Spirit,’ so let us ‘Come Together’ as the Beatles sang in one of their songs and ‘Let Us Unite.’

“Support many lives by purchasing BTV – Beyond The Virus, BTV arts and crafts, and Tealation! tea blends as gifts for yourself and loved ones,” said Susan. “Enjoy heartful, happy holidays, with love and blessings from all our collaborators!” Embrace this ideal time for gift giving and give gifts that give back!

BTV – BEYOND THE VIRUS – TEA BLENDS BY TEA-LATION! Susan also has a local, woman, minorityowned tea business, Tea-lation! (Tealation.com and @Tealation on FB + IN) that is supporting this special project by contributing proceeds from sales to support the charities.

Susan created two BTV – Beyond The Virus tea blends to represent people of the world coming together. In honor of the locals, she is also offering two favorite blends, W-S (Winston-Salem) Green Tea Blend and PT (Piedmont Triad) Herbal Tea Blend (caffeine-free).

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AN ICON IN THE MAKING

BY DENISE HEIDEL and we are proud to offer restoration that brings them up to current safety codes while maintaining the character and integrity of the home. In some cases, we are working with homeowners who have lived in their houses for decades! And in others, we’re working with new homeowners who are ready to make their own memories and put their own special signature on the property.”

When homeowners begin making plans for home renovation and remodeling, it can be a nerve-wracking experience.

There’s a broad spectrum of emotions that range from excitement for the finished project… Fear of delays and unexpected costs… And worries about security from having people in and out of the home. So, hiring someone you can trust is the first important step.

ICON Custom Builders have been a trusted resource for home renovation and custom builds since opening their doors in 2005. Owner and founder Chuck Hicks has created a business model specializing in service geared toward innovative solutions and strategic partnerships with the homeowners.

His team is comprised of an in-house architect, in-house carpenter, project managers, and designer – Project and Design Coordinator, Katherine Yeager.

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“Chuck is an extraordinary visionary,” said Katherine. “He genuinely cares about his clients and employees. And with that care has come empowerment – he trusts us to do what is right in both the industry and with the clients we serve.

I’ve been with ICON for two years, and through his example and my hands-on experience, I’ve learned how relational this business truly is. We do far more than renovations and builds – we become partners in a shared vision by families investing in their homes. It’s quite a humbling experience.

“At ICON Custom Builders,” Katherine continued, “We specialize in older home renovations, but certainly aren’t limited. We can remodel the kitchen, baths, do additions – no matter how old the home. But we are very proud of our catalog of work that’s been done on some of the iconic classic homes in our community. We have worked on some magnificent homes throughout the Triad, including homes in West End and Buena Vista.

These are homes that have longevity and history in the community. They hold decades of memories,

At ICON Custom Builders, communication is key. “We each bring our own set of expertise to the business,” Katherine shared. “While my role is to guide clients and facilitate decisions that work for their personal style and the direction of the décor, I’m also liaison for communication. Our clients are always kept updated. We are committed to making sure they are comfortable throughout the process, and as a result, our repeat business and referrals have been stellar. Our clients learn quickly that we are a family of professionals who love our craft, and everyone on our team is noted for exceptional integrity. Our clients know we will be fair as we work on their respective projects. We recognize that our invitation in their home is something we cannot take for granted.

“Additionally, our project managers are on the job sites every day, making sure everything comes together in a timely fashion with detailed attention to quality throughout the process. From start to finish, our business is built on trust: trust between our team that we’re all working towards the same goal, and trust between our clients that we recognize their unique and personal needs.”

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“It was a pleasure working with ICON Builders as they brought to reality our vision for an outdoor living space. They established a relationship with us of trust, excellent communication, and effective teamwork. The project was well-managed, on schedule and cost effective.

What more can I say! We are very pleased, and are thoroughly enjoying our covered porch.”

- S. Rainey

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Swanky Resilience

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Over six months into the pandemic and it feels like we’re still constantly adjusting to today’s normal. This is true for everyone, and especially true for businesses.

Luckily, the resilience and ability to pivot have saved many of our favorite small businesses from disaster. Whitney Boger’s Swanky and Swag is thankfully one of those resilient businesses.

For those unfamiliar, Boger started her entrepreneur career at 23 with a hair salon in 2005 in the Lewisville Corners shopping center – Bangz Hair Studio. With a passion for hairstyling and a niche for more, she started making earrings. Fast forward to 2018, and Boger is selling out of a mobile boutique – a 1972 vintage camper – doing vendor events all over the Triad selling bags, jewelry, clothes, and more. The tremendous growth in the previous few years was the set up for the perfect mashup concept. And then cue COVID.

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“Since we are a salon and boutique, COVID hit the salon part hard given the orders to shut down,” said Boger.

Reports and information show that up to 60% of businesses that closed due to COVID will not reopen. Unlucky for that statistic, Boger is a fighter and completely comfortable with stepping outside of her comfort zone – this wasn’t the first time that she’s had to pivot and it surely wouldn’t be the last. “With the shutdown of the salon, I got to really focus on the boutique. Thankfully, before COVID, we had an Internet store, and that’s what kept the business afloat,” said Boger. Through her heavy web presence and shipping throughout the US, as well as Facebook Live events to connect with customers, Boger has held on through the pandemic.

Boger has, quite literally, a village of support behind her as well. “We offered discounts almost the entire time during quarantine

and for local orders, my daughter and I would do front door delivery.

We stayed busy every day with the support of locals and even shoppers around the country.” Her community, both in-person and online, has always been an integral part of the collective support for Swanky and Swag. The shop is incredibly active on social media, and while it isn’t in her comfort zone, she maintains that it is “key to connect with our shoppers and let them know we are real people – and how thankful we are for their choice to shop small business!”

When asked about moving forward, Boger, in true fashion, was ready to go, even with the pivot. “Usually fall is a busy time for us with events and shows. This year we participated in Southern Charm at the Farm Virtual Show.

We hope and plan to have some holiday sales events, but all those are to be announced.”

Regardless of what tomorrow brings, it’s safe to say we’ll be seeing Swanky and Swag there.

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One of the biggest parts of Swanky and Swag was the friendly connection between Boger and customers. “I love what I do. It’s definitely not easy, but I have met so many wonderful people whether it’s behind the chair in the salon or putting together an outfit in the boutique,” said Boger. “I love making people feel good about themselves. When shoppers come in, we want them to feel as if they have walked into their best friend’s home – welcome and open!” While things are a bit different, with reopening, Swanky and Swag is “maintaining social distancing, offering curbside pickup and free shipping.”

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Family Heirloom Tablecloth

BY BROOKE ORR MS RD LDN, ACSM-CPT

When I became a mother, a wise woman with grown children said, “Remember, the days are long, but the years are short.”

At the time, I did not understand what her words meant. As Thanksgiving and my daughter’s fifth birthday approach, the sentiment is hitting home. I find myself reminiscing about special occasions from my own childhood, grandparents and great grandparents I have lost, and the wisdom they shared. I decided there must be a way to memorialize these occasions, for myself, for my daughter, and for future generations. A quick Google search returned a plethora of ideas, but one stood out the most, the Heirloom Tablecloth. Many holidays and milestones are celebrated at the table; it seems fitting to capture these moments on the tablecloth. There are many ways to start an Heirloom Tablecloth tradition. The basics are outlined below, but the most exciting part of this tradition is the ability to customize it -- letting your family and friends’ unique perks and quirks shine through!

HOW TO CREATE AN HEIRLOOM TABLECLOTH TRADITION • Start with a blank canvas.

A durable tablecloth made of washable fabric, a painter’s drop cloth, or a white sheet will work.

• Decide which supplies best fit your needs. You can have guests use Sharpies, but keep in mind that entries will fade a bit with each wash.

A more permanent, yet labor-intensive approach, is to have guests use a fabric pen then embroider each signature or entry.

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• Consider your purpose.

Do you want a basic guest book? If so, have guests sign and date. If you have small children, consider letting them trace their hands and write their name and age in the middle, or create a Thanksgivingthemed cloth by having each guest write their name and something they are thankful for. The ideas are endless; try including your family in the creative process as you decide what information you want to capture.

• Continue the tradition.

Some families have kept their Heirloom Tablecloth traditions alive for 30 plus years. One organization tip is to use a different color pen for each year. Deb Mills, interviewed by ABC News, took it to the next level. “Each year is done in a different color, and along the edge, I have the color code. For 2015 we have royal blue because the Kansas City Royals won the World Series.”

It is easy to get bogged down with stress from the pandemic, working, homeschooling, and regular holiday prep. The days can feel long, but upon reflection, I see the years are indeed short. I hope that you will join me this November in letting go of the things we cannot control. Instead, focus on the present moment. Consider starting a family tradition such as the Heirloom Tablecloth as a way to connect to your family and friends in the now and enjoy the memories for years to come.

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We want to thank everyone who has helped support Family Services as we continue to provide critical programs to families, children, and individuals in our community, many of whom have been directly affected by COVID-19.

The pandemic has laid bare social and racial inequities in our community that existed long before the virus struck. These inequities fall especially hard on families with young children from communities of color and/or that have limited resources. That’s why, in 2014, Family Services convened The Pre-K Priority, a group of representatives from twenty organizations that provide, support, or fund early learning programs in our community. Our goal is to provide every four-year-old child in Forsyth County with the opportunity to attend a high-quality Pre-K program. We have drawn on our collective experience, commissioned local studies and surveys, and examined the extensive body of research to identify how Forsyth County can achieve this goal.

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At this time, further progress toward this goal requires that our local elected officials—County Commissioners, the City Council, and the Board of Education—establish a community Early Childhood Education Task Force to develop both near-term and long-term plans for increasing the availability of high-quality Pre-K programs in Forsyth County. Elected officials in other urban counties have already done this, as long as five years ago in Durham County. As a result, Durham, Mecklenburg, Guilford, and Buncombe Counties have all made significant local investments in highquality Pre-K. The Pre-K Priority considers this election year a critical time for the future of the education of young children in our community. That’s why we have launched a campaign to persuade our local elected officials, County Commissioners, City Council members, and members of the Board of Education, to do something that other urban counties in North Carolina did years ago: To establish a Community Early Childhood Education Task Force to develop both near-term and long-term plans for increasing the availability of highquality Pre-K programs in Forsyth County.

You can help.

You can sign the Pre-K pledge Pre-K Pledge at prekpriority.org/#pledge.

You can encourage the leadership of the organization you work for, or are a member of, to contact us to sign a Declaration of Support. You can send an e-mail, write a letter, or call an elected official to let them know that it’s long overdue for our county to formally, officially commit to developing an action plan for achieving educational equity for all our children.

If you’d like to be part of our campaign, you can join us by contacting Leslie Mullinix, Pre-K Priority Project Coordinator, at lmullinix@ familyservicesforsyth.org. If there are enough of you, we will surely succeed.

Thank You, Robert J. Feikema President & CEO, Family Services

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Books by Fredrik Backman

BY MEGAN TAYLOR One of my favorite things about writing this column is all the new novel choices I get from my fellow magazine writers. When I asked for suggestions for November’s piece, many came back with praises for the books by Fredrik Backman, especially Britt-Marie Was Here, Beartown, and A Man Called Ove. Fredrik Backman is a columnist, blogger, and writer in Sweden.

He is also a number one New York Times bestselling author and a bestseller in Sweden. Backman’s books have been published in over 40 countries worldwide. Let’s take a sneak peek at three of his bestsellers.

BRITT-MARIE WAS HERE

Britt-Marie has been living a normal, ordinary life for more than 40 years. She has lived in Stockholm, Sweden, with her husband, Kent, and has strived for everything in every day to be perfect. Britt-Marie can’t stand disorganization, a mess, or anything out of place. She is known to be socially awkward and does what is expected of her. However, unknown to those around her, she dreams of big ideas for her life. However, these dreams are just thought to be only dreams for Britt-Marie, until one day she discovers that her husband has been unfaithful, and she decides to leave him. She travels back to Borg, Sweden.

While in the town, Britt-Marie is pushed and pulled out of her comfort zone. She soon realizes that an exciting and different life waits for her in Borg. Now, the question is: will Britt-Marie take this new life or go back to her old one, when Kent unexpectedly shows up one day? You’ll have to read Britt-Marie Was Here to find out.

BEARTOWN

According to Kirkus Reviews, Beartown is “like Friday Night Lights, this is about more than youth sports; its’s part coming-of-age novel, part study of moral failure, and finally a chronicle of groupthink in which an unlikely hero steps forward to save more than one person for selfdestruction.” Sound intriguing? Beartown is a story about a small community in the woods. At the heart of the community is a generations old ice rink that was built by the founding members of the town. This ice rink helps to prepare the junior ice hockey team as they compete in the national semi-finals. As their shot at winning increases, all hopes from Beartown are placed on the team and the pressure on the group of teenage boys is insurmountable. Trouble ensues as challenges arise during the semi-final match and soon all citizens of Beartown are impacted one way or another. This novel is full of twists and turns that will keep readers on edge.

A MAN CALLED OVE

Currently being turned into a motion picture starring Tom Hanks, A Man Called Ove is a tale about a grumpy, but loveable, man named Ove. You see, Ove likes his solitary life, follows strict routines, and can be temperamental. One day, Ove’s life is turned upside down when a new family moves next door. An accident that flattens Ove’s mailbox leads to an unexpected friendship between Ove, the couple, and their daughters. This new way of life and companionship are just want Ove needed. A Man Called Ove gives readers a story of comedy, sadness, and a heartwarming ending.

Readers are also given lessons of love and friendship to put to use in their own lives.

Fredrik Backman’s books are filled with satire, humor, and comedy, as well as with moments that will warm a reader’s heart.

Trust our writers, these novels are ones you can’t miss and will leave readers wanting more.

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SECOND CHANCES: From Veiled to Victorious

BY LORY SCHULER

Our testimony is our story. Not the story we create with our own mess and mistakes, but the Divine orchestration for good of those events – and the stuff that occurs in our lives, simply because…well, because we live in a broken world.

God can bring beauty out of second chances. As a result of God’s redemption in our own lives, God has called my husband and me to start a ministry to teach and lead others to Jesus Christ.

But I’m getting way ahead of myself. I want to share part of my story with you.

The mess I created without God’s help, of course, taken from the pages of the journal that I kept during my darkest hours…

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Veiled

July, 2010.

I ran to the other side of the bed to dial 9-1-1 from the bedroom phone. He lurched from behind, grabbing the phone from my hand and slamming it down. Red-faced and angry, his voice filled with both rage and fear as he said, “If you ever tell anyone about this, I’ll kill you.”

This was the second man in my life who had threatened to kill me if I ever told anyone the truth. The truth? My four children and I lived in a home marred by verbal, physical, and substance abuse. A home that was beautiful on the outside, but on the inside was a prison filled with dark secrets. The prison guard was my husband, the children’s father, who was the abuser.

I know that I haven’t gotten here overnight.

I think a lot about my own stupid choices that have driven me down this destructive path: leaving one abusive relationship for another; a marriage that started with overindulgent spending and partying with friends; a marriage now tainted with the misuse of drugs, alcohol, money, and ultimately to the debt, addictions, and abuse that now define our life.

Tonight, the arguing escalated to a physical fight, which left my eye cut and bleeding and my chest and arm bruised.

These are just the physical signs, of course.

My mind is in chaos. Why have I allowed my life to come to this and how I can protect myself and my

Scott and Lory with their two children, Matthew and Allyson children? I have even started this journal. Maybe recording the turmoil on paper will calm the turmoil in my mind. My heart feels hopeless. God, is this your punishment for my poor choices?

I had grown up going to church with my parents, raised to believe in the goodness and protection of a loving God. As a child, my parents helped me understand that I was created for a special purpose, with gifts and talents that God would use to help others. At that time, however, I couldn’t even help myself. I felt trapped, the dreams I had for my life were snuffed out like a light.

Lory with her four children: Matthew, Brittany, Allyson and Brandon.

Victorious

September, 2011

It’s been three weeks since my last entry. This morning is my daughter’s first birthday. I’ve hidden away in the guest bedroom with the door locked and a Bible in my lap. That’s when I read these words: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord [1], “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.”

Jeremiah 29:11–14 (NIV) These words have struck me to the core. I feel like a release happened deep inside of me. Locked away in my prison home, God reached out His hand, as His light and presence filled the room. I’m crying, laughing, and praying all at once. This morning I

know that I am not alone. I accepted God’s hand and invited Him into my heart, and that’s when the chains seemed to fall away.

When our lives are veiled in darkness, it’s hard to see the light. We desperately wonder why and how we arrived here – or why God would allow certain circumstances in our life: sickness, job loss, despair over our children, or other loved ones.

God didn’t promise to remove me from my circumstances that day. But He did promise that He would walk with me through them. I know the significance of my testimony is not tied to the details of my past, but in the redemptive work of God and His purpose for my future.

And that’s the victorious part. Ten years later, I am newly married to an amazing man of God, who has helped me understand that, all along, God’s greatest desire for each of us is to walk in relationship with Him.

Scott and Lory Schuler’s website is a teaching and mentoring ministry built from years of experience for both individuals and churches, with weekly encouragement through their blog and newsletter, opportunities to share prayer requests, and information about inviting Scott to speak at your church or organization. Please visit them at scottschuler.org. Also, COMING SOON: Scott has recently completed a book to help others navigate their walk with Jesus on their way to fulfilling the life and purpose He has prepared for them. See the website for updates on availability!

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321 W. 4th Street, Winston-Salem, NC 27101 • 336.448.1714 | JeffreyAdamsWS.com Monday - Tuesday: 11 AM – 10 PM • Wednesday – Thursday: 11 AM – 11 PM • Friday – Saturday: 11 AM – 12 AM • Sunday: 11 AM – 9 PM

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When it comes to downtown dining opportunities, few places are as essential as Jeffrey Adams! A contemporary dining experience, Jeffrey Adams is a local favorite for a good reason.

The ambiance boasts a look of urban-chic with exposed bricks and charm. Across the street from The Stevens Center, Jeffrey Adams on Fourth is a farm-totable dining experience.

Jeffrey Adams on Fourth

Our dining experience this month was inclusive of several new dishes and a few classic favorites. We started with Meatballs. The humble meatball is one of my favorite kinds of comfort foods. Savory and delicious, when they are done well, they are exceptional. And Jeffrey Adams has concocted a spicy meatball that would make any Italian grandmother proud! So juicy and delicious, it’s technically an appetizer but delectable enough for an entrée. Just order a side salad or a side dish, and you have a petite meal that is perfectly flavored and proportioned.

We also tried the brand new Fried Eggplant Napoleon.

This was a really interesting combination of flavors and beautifully presented. In all honesty, it reminded me of a sophisticated plate of fried green tomatoes, but instead of tomatoes – eggplant. The fried eggplant is served with fried spinach and topped with Boursin cheese and Romesco sauce. It’s a delightful blend of flavors and definitely a new favorite of mine!

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Next, we sampled a classic favorite. The Seafood Risotto is a favorite for a good reason.

Chock-full of seafood and cheese, it’s a heaven-on-a-plate kind of dish. It boasts perfectly cooked risotto with sundried tomatoes and smoked gouda cheese.

Every bite is full of seafood, including shrimp, scallops, and lobster claws. Spinach adds a nice texture to the dish.

Our last entrée of the evening was the Four Ounce Black Angus Filet Mignon, served with potatoes and asparagus. The steak (and y’all know I love my steak!) was perfectly cooked and tender. And the potatoes were magnificent (as they always are at Jeffrey Adams!). I also want to brag on them for their ability to prepare asparagus. Asparagus is one of those veggies that I like it when it’s really well done, but not something I reach for normally.

I found this asparagus to be perfectly prepared and delicious!

We wrapped up our meal with a slice of classic Cheesecake!

Creamy and delicious with a rich and buttery graham cracker crust, this dessert is a decadent way to wrap up a meal!

It’s always a joy to visit Jeffrey Adams on Fourth! Foodies all around agree that it’s amazing and a true culinary experience.

Their local, farm-fresh produce, including produce grown on their own farm (Andrews Farm in King), lets you dine confident that you have a meal made of the freshest quality ingredients. Visit soon, and be sure to tell them that Rosey sent you!

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Ginger

BY LISA S.T DOSS

The cultural knowledge of herbal lore is not entirely lost. The information may still be in our genes, urging to take root and blossom. It begins by first loving the fragrance and taste of herbs.

Take the interest one step further! Start drying leaves and flowers to make delicious teas, healing salves, tinctures, poultices and more to promote wellness!

lemon tightens pores and honey prevents acne, olive oil heals scarring. (Tweak recipes to serve your needs.)

Spices have a connection to various seasons. Like cinnamon and peppermint, ginger’s scent or taste immediately transports the mind to a family gathering or a holiday meal. Once the taste arrives at the mouth, the intense, spicy sensation spreads to the taste buds, mixing with other flavors. Just imagine what the medicinal chemistry of oils and heat can do to stimulate the body.

Combine one-cup granulated sugar, one tablespoon grated lemon rind and two teaspoons powdered ginger to a small bowl.

Mix 10 drops of lemon and five drops of ginger essential oils.

(Makes eight ounces.) Use gentle circular motions.

GINGER TEA Herbalists are proponents of the medicinal values found in ginger.

Through the antioxidants, it can strengthen a weak immunity system and help reduce stress. Breathing deeply to inhale the stream relieves nasal congestion, respiratory issues and environmental allergies. Taking sips of the heated concoction relieves motion or morning sickness to lowering blood pressure, improving blood circulation and preventing blood clots. Some find drinking hot, ginger tea reduces the sensation of hunger and prevents obesity-related complications.

RECIPE FOR NAUSEA Peel and chop a one-inch piece of fresh ginger, or measure one teaspoon of dried ginger. Simmer in one-cup of water for 10 minutes.

Add milk or sweater to suit preference. Sip until the nausea subsides.

RECIPE FOR FLU Combine one tablespoon of fresh ginger, a pinch of cayenne powder, one teaspoon of peppermint and two teaspoons dried rosehips (for added vitamin C) in a saucepan with three cups of water. Simmer for 10 minutes; then, strain and add lemon and honey. Drink as often as needed; one cup at a time!

GINGER-LEMON EXFOLIATING SCRUB Pamper the body, such as hands and elbows, and feet with an exfoliating, sugar scrub. While it will create soft, smooth skin, it is much too harsh for the face. Ginger contains 40 anti-oxidant elements, acting as an anti-inflammatory agent while improving blood circulation, promoting collagen production, increasing elasticity and balancing skin tone. Keep in mind the beneficial quality of various ingredients. While

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Recipe: Oils will come to the surface of your container; therefore, always stir before using. Apply while in a tub, and be careful when standing. The surface may be slippery.

FOOT SOAK As colder weather approaches, the feet need a treatment to combat the winter’s aches and pains or heal athlete’s foot. Ginger is a useful remedy, especially helpful to boost warmth and increase circulation. As the muscles relax, ginger eliminates toxins. Mustard powder promotes heat to ease chills while boosting energy levels and pain.

RECIPE: In a foot bath or similarly sized container, fill to the ankle with warm to hot water. (Have water on hand to add if the temperature becomes cold.) Add the combined powders of three tablespoons of ginger powder with six teaspoons of mustard powder. Swish with feet. To relieve muscle pain, add two drops of peppermint essential oil. Repetition works best; therefore, soak your feet for up to 20 minutes daily until the feet feel better.

WHAT IS GINGER YOGA? All across the country, the yogis are celebrating the benefits of ginger combined with yoga practice through the title “Ginger Yoga.” Drinking the tea comprising cardamom, cinnamon, cloves and peppercorn is known to aid breathing techniques and soreness while creating a warm core in cold temperatures.

In thinking that exercise requires an empty stomach, ginger tea is recognized in China and India as an herb to enhance the circulatory, digestive and respiratory systems as well as heal sprains and arthritis pain. Try the combination by starting slow.

Begin with arm circles and forward bends before entering positions, such as Staff Pose. Just like taking sips of tea, start slow with stretches and the asana breathing technique!

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D E G A G N E N A M O W H T Y S R O F

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In This Section

100 Making Lemon Wedding Cake Out of Lemons | 102 Our Favorite Things 104 The Wedding Checklist | 106 Wedding Alcohol Calculator | 108 Morgan + Stewart 112 Wedding Celebrations | 114, 116 - Engagement Celebrations | 118 The Love List

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D E G A G N E N A M O W H

Global pandemic or not, our mission remains the same: celebrating LOVE and celebrating local weddings of all sizes and styles!

As always, if you find yourself getting caught up in the stress of wedding planning, take a deep breath, and remember what this day is really all about.

As they have had to change, so have we. Our team has done a lot of pivoting these last few months and we are pleased to bring you our latest pivot! In the upcoming pages of this issue of Forsyth Woman, you’ll find our beautiful, first-ever FW Engaged Section! On page 100, Tabatha tells us how to make lemon wedding cake out of lemons and I can’t get enough of her optimism! To borrow a quote from her article… “the purpose of a wedding is to be a public declaration of commitment and enduring love, and it’s hard to imagine a more powerful testament to the durability of two people’s bond than the story of how they survived a pandemic together, endured the hardships it presented, and made personal sacrifices for the greater good.”

Cheers to you on your upcoming wedding!

We would absolutely love to feature your wedding or engagement photo in a future issue— email it to me! brooke@forsythmags.com

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A huge congratulations to my best friend Cassie + her new husband Zack Proctor! They were married on October 23rd in downtown Greensboro. It was an honor to be a part of their big day!

This section is full of local wedding vendors, engagement and wedding celebrations (I bet you’ll find a couple or two you know!), and much more! Stay tuned to our website, forsythwomanengaged.com, for lots of online exclusive articles dropping over the next few months, as well as our Instagram and Facebook pages – @fwengaged— for up-to-date and relevant content to help you plan your big day!

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2020. Oh, how we are all going to remember this year!

How the world was shocked into new ways of thinking and changes in our day-to-day behavior. Not to mention the more global changes to how people gather in groups, how we worship, and how we celebrate.

The “Wedding” as we have known it may be forever changed. And that doesn’t have to be a bad thing! I think one thing that we can all agree on when it comes to the Pandemic of 2020 is that it caused us to examine the most important things, to prioritize, and to appreciate simpler things.

This is true in the wedding industry also and seeing celebrations reevaluated and reimagined has been a true highlight in an otherwise gray year.

*Mini-monies: A mini-mony is a wedding ceremony with only the couple, officiant, and perhaps the couple’s parents in attendance. This allows couples to have the beautiful moment of actual matrimony with those closest to them while still maintaining capacity restrictions and distancing mandates. *One Year Anniversary Reception: Pairing nicely with the mini-mony, one-year anniversary parties promise to be all the rage in 2021 and perhaps, beyond! A date that would have typically been celebrated quietly by the couple can become that festive party that they opted out of in 2020. *Every Day is Wedding Day: With the movement of so many celebrations from 2020 to 2021, prime weekend dates in the most popular wedding months are a rare find! Happily, this has made engaged couples much more open to non-typical weekdays for their celebration.

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Brooke Eagle, Publisher Secluded dinners for the couple. Some couples choose to do this as soon as they arrive to the reception before anyone knows they are there. Likely the only time of the evening when you get to be alone with your new spouse!

Keela Johnson, Associate Editor Any wedding that involves kids! Kids always bring a fun energy that can lighten the mood during such a momentous occasion.

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Taryn Jerez, Writer Bridal jackets! Leather and jean jackets add a really fun edge and personality to your bridal look!

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Wedding parties that rehearse at the rehearsal dinner venue just before dining! This allows for a more relaxed pre-wedding celebration while still accomplishing the “practice” needed for the ceremony.

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The Wedding Checklist

Once you’ve chosen the date, the following serves as a general guideline for all the to-do’s as you count down to your wedding day!

10 - 12 MONTHS FROM THE DATE

• Announce your engagement to your parents, family and friends. Be sure to call or announce in person to close family and friends before announcing via social media.

• Think about your overall theme.

Are you dreaming of a rustic wedding or a more modern event?

Do you dream of a traditional ceremony or are you looking for outside-the-box wedding ideas?

• Start working on your guest list.

• Determine your wedding budget.

• Pick the date and time of day for the wedding.

• Secure a church and /or reception venue.

• Choose your bridal party.

• Hire a wedding planner.

• Make a list of vendors (photographers, florists, caterers, musicians, etc) and begin scheduling appointments.

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8 - 10 MONTHS FROM THE DATE

• Begin shopping for a wedding dress (be sure to budget for alterations and undergarments).

• Shop and select bridesmaid dresses.

• Sign contracts and make initial deposits to reserve vendors.

• Start thinking about a honeymoon destination and work on travel plans.

• Have engagement pictures taken.

4 - 7 MONTHS FROM THE DATE

• Send ’save the dates’ to your guests.

• Begin planning the rehearsal dinner.

• Schedule appointments for haircuts, color, wedding day styling, manicures, pedicures, massages and other beauty treatments.

• Register for gifts.

• Coordinate wedding transportation.

• Select and order attire for the groom and groomsmen.

• Purchase the wedding rings.

• Reserve a block of rooms at a local hotel for out of town guests.

• Buy wedding-party gifts.

• Choose and order wedding favors.

2 - 3 MONTHS FROM THE DATE

• Discuss photography wants with the photographer.

• Discuss the menu with the caterer.

• Meet with your wedding officiant to discuss ceremony details.

• Write your vows (if you choose to write your own).

• Mail wedding invitations.

• Apply for marriage license up to 60 days prior to the wedding date.

1 MONTH FROM THE DATE

• Schedule a final gown fitting.

• Confirm that your bridesmaids and groomsmen have everything they need and are aware of the schedule of events.

• Confirm arrival and delivery times from all of your vendors.

• Have your wedding program printed.

• Create welcome bags for your out-oftown guests and have them delivered to the hotel.

• Write thank you notes as you receive gifts.

• Confirm attendance of guests who have not RSVP’d.

• Provide caterer with the final head count.

DAY OF THE WEDDING

• Relax and enjoy your special day!

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Consider how many hours your reception / cocktail hour will be, calculate how many drinks per bottle and choose an alcohol mix based on your crowd (you know your wedding guests better than anyone) and adjust accordingly.

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FORMS OF ID

 Social Security card (start here. You’ll need this one for all of the rest.)  Driver license  Passport  Voter registration card

FINANCIAL INSTITUTIONS

 Bank accounts  Investments and portfolio holdings  Credit card companies

LENDERS

 Home mortgage financers  Auto financers  Student loan financers

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INSURANCE

 Health insurance providers  Home/renter insurance providers  Flood insurance providers  Vehicle insurance providers  Life insurance providers

EMPLOYMENT

 Payroll information  Tax forms  Email address and signature  Business cards  Professional licensing boards

UTILITIES AND HOME

 United States Post Office  Water and sewer provider  Electric provider  Landline and cell phone carriers  Cable and internet provider

HEALTHCARE

 Primary care physician  Specialists  Pharmacy

MISCELLANEOUS ORGANIZATIONS

 Local library  Civic clubs  Alumni organizations  Social media * Don’t forget to update your will and the designated beneficiaries of life insurance policies! * Consider ordering an extra copy of your marriage license, as some organizations will require you to send in an authenticated copy.

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Restoration MedSpa

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FASHION

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JEWELRY Windsor Jewelers

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OFFICIANT Reverend Jayne 336.409.4519 Revjayne.net

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PLANNING Katharine Mann Wedding and Event Planning 336.529.2725 Katharinemannevents.com @katharinemannevents

VENUES The Barn at Reynolda Village 106 Reynolda Village Winston-Salem, NC 336.758.BARN Reynoldabarn.com @barnatreynoldavillage

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Surprisingly Simple Holiday Centerpieces

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

The Thanksgiving turkey and Christmas ham taste divine, but the real showstopper is what lies beside them on the dinner table. With a little patience and creativity, these simple DIY centerpieces are bound to inspire you to help make the most of your holiday feast.

AUTUMN-INSPIRED Sweater Weather: Warm up the table by wrapping large mason jars in knitted cozies, then placing fresh white flowers inside. To add some vibrant color, pair red roses with the white florals.

Pumpkin Spice and Everything Nice: Draw in the attention by pairing miniature white pumpkins on top of an earthy brown wooden tone base or nestle the pumpkins into a bed of greenery. Some artists may wish to add gold sequins on the white pumpkins, fresh sprigs to make a small wreath, stencil autumn leaves, or simply paint wide beautiful contrasting horizontal stripes and add metallic to the stem.

Remember that less is more if you wish to cultivate these pumpkins to become the center of attention.

Fall Harvest: Although wheat stalks are fairly popular around the Thanksgiving holiday, spice up your centerpiece by setting the wheat stalk on a pile of naturally Autumncolored leaves. Where to find these beautiful leaves? Walk into your backyard and find the nearest tree! For added dimension, scatter in some tiny string lights or tea lights.

Seasonal Pickings: Become creative with the autumn season’s finest produce. From spray painting dried corn cobs in metallic hues to tie around a vase with raffia, or staggering your choice of brightly crisp apples, oranges, cranberry sprigs, miniature pumpkins or pears with thick candles, or simply showcase the natural beauty of nature with pinecones and acorns that you gathered on your afternoon walk. A simple way to bring a refreshing take and captivating appeal to any standard floral bouquet without breaking the bank!

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CHRISTMAS-INSPIRED A Deconstructed Christmas Tree: Set the stage with twinkling string lights craftily hidden beneath fresh evergreen cuttings. Often times, you can stop by a local Christmas tree stand to pick up their evergreen scraps for free. Incorporate the colors of gold, white, red, green, and silver through unused ornaments, candles, etc.

Maybe even fill a few small glass jars with dried pears, whole hazelnuts, cranberries, gold bells, apples or your favorite choice.

Mrs. Claus’ House: Whether your choose to make your own mini gingerbread houses to display or paint 3 descending-in-size white houses to mimic gingerbread houses, line them along a simple linen table runner with a few gingerbread-scented candles to mimic their fresh aromas.

A Candy Cane Tale: Instead of focusing on a single centerpiece, try turning the entire dinner table set-up to be candy cane inspired by stripes of bright white and red.

Fill tall white vases with an array of white flowers, large candy canes, and vibrantly green fir tree branches. Between each vase, add red candlesticks to bring more texture to the motif.

Snowy Gifts for the Guest: Brush the bottom portion of brown craft paper gift bags with white paint to create a snowy scene, then dot the paint above the snow scene to mimic fresh-falling snowflakes. Add your guests’ goodies inside, then replace traditional stuffing paper with pine, thin branches, and a little starshaped glitter for added dimension. Wrap the bags with twine before spreading out along the center of the dinner table, placing white candlesticks between each bag.

WINTER-INSPIRED Simply Fresh: Pair a simple, neutral table runner to lay under a short white vase beautifully filled with fir tree branches and fresh white florals.

Faux Fur: Add a little texture to the table by using a faux fur table runner to mimic the soft appeal of morning snow.

Finish the winter scene with large bells, and weathered stone vases filled with one or two green tree branches.

Winter Harvest Fruits: Having a hard time finding your perfect table runner?

Skip it altogether! Instead, drape sprigs of pine clippings in its place, then stagger taper candles with winter fruits (like clementine, figs, or pomegranates) in a zig-zag formation for added texture.

Floating Memories: Fill some skinnynecked bottles with water, then place a small cutting of pine into the water to float. Seal in the water by topping each jar with a taper candle for simplicity at its finest. For added dimension, try adding in a handful of cranberries.

Now that you have the prettiest, most festive table of the holiday season, it’s time to start planning the menu!

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How to Brainstorm W H E N YO U ’ R E N OT I N T H E S A M E R O O M

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

The future of work for many of us will be remote in some way. Even if we are in a room at a distance, the days of those shared whiteboard brainstorm sessions where everyone is passing the marker, grabbing a bagel, and sitting around an over-crowded conference table are gone for the foreseeable future.

Brainstorming and collaboration are not gone though – so how do we accomplish this already difficult-at-times task when we are sitting in our home-slash-office?

THINK ABOUT THE TASK AT HAND What specific thing are you working on brainstorming? A lot of the times, a brainstorming session can be moot if you don’t focus on the brainstorm. Are you solving a problem? Looking for more information? Figuring out the target will help you and your team focus in a distracting and new space.

DITCH PERFECTIONISM Now is the time we can dismiss the notion of being brilliant and embrace what brainstorming is – a series of right, wrong, and in between ideas that are used to get you and your team thinking. Now is not the time to have the perfect response, the idea everyone will think is the most amazing thing

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since sliced bread – because you won’t have the same energy that you would in a room full of coworkers. Whether it’s the overthinking, “Oh, no, did I say the right thing?” energy or the excitement of saying something brilliant, time to lean into what brainstorming is: an exchange of ideas.

GO INTRAPERSONAL FIRST Once you have the prompt or idea you’re brainstorming on, spend some time reflecting on your own. Take a moment, take a breath, and start letting all of the ideas run out of your brain and into the world.

This might be writing everything down (no editing!) or running your ideas out stream of consciousness style and recording them on your computer or phone – the sky is the limit!

Let them flow and try as hard as you can to leave your judgment at the door.

USE A SHARING DOCUMENT OR HOP ON VIDEO Time to start spreading those ideas! I like starting with a shared Google Doc: you can start one and share with the team, and then develop group norms. This might be the order of “speaking” or suggestions on what to do if you agree with another person or have a comment. Whatever the norms are, be sure they work on the medium being used – if you plan on using Zoom or another video platform, be sure that the norms “fit.”

In my experience, the norms that are helpful for a shared document include: an order of writing/contributing (and ability to “pass” if you have nothing to add at the moment), a way of showing that you agree/have a question/would like to get more information on an idea that someone else contributed, and a way to indicate that you’d like to add more information or discuss further.

On video, the norms are similar, with the most important norm being obvious: turn-taking. Video is both fantastic and terrible for introverted people – and for folks to feel like they can contribute, allowing for flow as well as the ability to pass allows for open sharing.

CHANGE THE GROUP SIZE Moving from large to small groups is great for attention spans – take this idea for discussion and you have a winner. If we’re in a large group constantly, sharing might feel like a judgmental chore, especially in a brainstorm, whether it’s on a screen or video. If you move to smaller groups or even partner conversations (or Google docs!), you’ll have a different level of comfort and engagement.

Remember, the brainstorming revolves around a focus! Find it, and make it rain!

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The GOOD You Can Do

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

For the longest time, my email signature was accompanied by one of my favorite Mary Oliver quotes: “Tell me what you will do with your one, wild and precious life?” If the provocative prompt stopped my email recipients in their tracks with its impudence, most didn’t say.

If it was perceived as a welcome jolt from the ordinary, a necessary question amid the every day, I don’t really know. What I am darn sure of is my good intention behind choosing those 13 words. I wanted to say, “So maybe ‘it’s just another day,’ but how you spend these 24 hours, and the next, and the next is what your life will be and what your memories will hold.” Is there a more compelling reality than that gobsmacking truth?

Of course, the question was - and remains - as much for me as for anyone else. Every time I composed or responded to an email, those words beckoned me to pause. Many times, that simple moment of heightened presence caused me to consider what I had just written, rethinking my tone, or even the substance of the message itself. My thoughts, my words, my actions – all reflections of what I am doing with my “one, wild and precious life” in that moment, that singular exchange.

The question of what I am doing in the earthly time allotted to me has hit home in new ways this year. I’ve started to think more and differently about the small moments, considering how I spend my time, give of myself, and express the good I can do. Mostly, I’m settling on simple, humble things: • Making sure I have enough popcorn for the mockingbird and the two wrens who hang out in wait for me each morning

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• Making a point of gathering a bag of clothing and household goods to drop off at the Thrift Shop (which supports a local ministry) on my way to the hair salon each month • Making up surprise “gift packages” for my dear friend in Massachusetts to say, once more, “I am thinking of you” • Making “small-but-kind” talk with every clerk, receptionist, service person whose path I cross And on…and on…and on. It’s not that I didn’t do these things before.

It’s not that I am doing them with more intentionality and frequency, creating my wild and precious life in a way that I can cherish and feel good about. And that matters.

When this realization dawned, I knew it was time to replace my beloved Mary Oliver quote with these nine words: “Let all that you do be done with love.” I typed it in, looked at it, considered: Too preachy? Too schmaltzy? Too Unprofessional? Too…what? In the end, I released my second-guessing. I trusted my heart, the source of the simple, quiet, humble things I am doing, all gestures of something I unabashedly call love. I later learned that these words are biblical; I hadn’t known that. What I do know is that they support me, comfort me, guide me. They also kick me in the butt when my thoughts, inclinations, or actions fall short of love, the most demanding standard. And that’s a good thing because the good we can do starts with challenging ourselves to live our way into a life we want to be in. A life worthy of who we really can be. A life lived from a place of love? That’s wild and precious enough for me.

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BY JEN OLENICZAK

Ever get the impression that your boss doesn’t like you?

Proof: I get more work than everyone else; this means that my boss hates me.

When you roll your eyes at me, I feel frustrated. Can we talk about this?

I’ve been there – I remember working at a non-profit and it seemed like my boss loathed me. Everything I did felt wrong, too much, not enough, and pretty quickly, I started operating and working out of fear and nervousness. I learned a lot of things about myself, my situation, and my communication during this time – and a lot of changes I would have made. If you’re struggling with a similar situation, let’s dig in!

Another reason: I might be good at the work they give me. I might also need to express that I am overwhelmed and doing too much.

This statement links their action, rolling eyes, with your emotion, frustration. You can continue the conversation with the second part – can we talk about this – and move the conversation along to how you can both work together. Assertive communication is about finding the middle.

TAP THE WHY Sure, you might have a feeling or an idea of feeling disliked by your boss. Maybe you’re thinking you get a lot of work that others don’t get, or extra critique – whatever the reason, start to think about why you feel like this.

One of the best ways to start tapping this why: look for evidence. What do you notice that makes you think that your boss dislikes you? Remember, this has to be more than a feeling: you’re looking for clear data points that prove what you believe, actual moments where you can say, “Hey, this is proof.”

When you have your proof, look at it with as nonbiased of an eye as possible. What else could be the reason for the behavior?

For example:

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Now, this can only go so far – if you have a lot of evidence that your boss might have an issue with you, you might be correct. If you can’t find much evidence or start seeing that, it might be something else – take some time and sit with that information. Remember, this might be completely unrelated to how your boss feels about you.

SET UP A TIME TO TALK This is probably making your work more difficult – or hurting your productivity at the very least. Set up some time to talk to your boss and do some work before you head in. When you’re setting the meeting, focus it around a conversation. Using a phrase like, “I’d like to set up a time to talk,” and then planning some conversation points will be helpful.

In your conversation, focus in on the bits of evidence and convert them to assertive statements. For example, maybe you’ve noticed that your boss rolls his eyes at you when you talk during meetings. You want to tie the action with an emotion – statements like:

Another way to prepare for the conversation: how can you work together? That “middle” in assertive communication needs to come from both sides – someone needs to take the first step, and since you called the meeting – why not you?

An important note: don’t have this discussion over email or any sort of text communication.

Focus the communication on in-person or video. There are far too many nonverbal communication bits, things like tone and body language, that will be missed if you aren’t able to see each other’s faces.

NOT FRIENDS, JUST COWORKERS Above all, remember: you don’t have to be friends. You simply have to work together.

Finding that center and making small changes – even if one is communicating more with one another! – will help you reach that middle ground.

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

3 Ways to Refocus Your Efforts to Grow Your Brand This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

“If you want to fly, give up everything that drags you down.”

When you read that quote, what are some of the things that immediately flood your mind? Can you feel the weight on your shoulders suddenly lessen as you imagine those things being removed from your life? The truth is, the longer we’re in business, the more we think we have to be doing to be successful. In reality, keeping your to-do list tight to your chest and remembering to focus on only the things that are aligned with where you want your brand to be is really an art form – especially as the world around us whispers “more” from every corner.

You can set goals all day, but if the projects you take on and the time you spend working don’t point directly back to those goals, are you really growing at the rate you could be? Take time to reflect on how you’ve spent the last quarter. I bet you will find a few things here and there that haven’t exactly led you to where you want to be and that’s ok. Imagine now what the next quarter can look like as you refocus your efforts to be as effective as possible in getting your brand to that next level.

#1 SAY NO TO THE THINGS THAT AREN’T SERVING YOU It’s all about being more intentional in every sense of the word. We need to stop putting things on our plates that are taking space away from the things that really need to be there. Take a deep breath and clear it off, make the room and don’t be tempted to add anything that isn’t getting you closer to your goals and what you really want.

Sometimes that means being a little ruthless and saying the word “no” more often than you may want to. If a project sounds fun but doesn’t directly impact your end game, it has to go. The time you’re spending on social media, industry education, or other content you’re consuming may need to be limited. Don’t forget to embrace the saying “out with the old, in with the new” when it comes to your product or services, and there may be some things that need to be removed from your brand goals now as well.

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#2 CHALLENGE YOURSELF TO DIG DEEPER When was the last time your goals scared you? Think about what’s on your list right now that you want to achieve and ask yourself, if failure wasn’t an option, would your goals be different? If the answer is yes, try to reevaluate. Sometimes that same world that whispers “more” at us can also yell “less” when we imagine what’s possible. There is a real fear in setting the bar too high that others might laugh if they saw our true dreams.

Give yourself permission to dig deeper and push towards the growth that you really want as a brand! The same goes for letting go of old goals that may not serve you anymore and creating new ones that do. Imagine what life would look like once you achieved them, the impact you could make on your customers, the financial outcomes as a business, what success would feel like, and how that would influence your next move.

#3 MAKE BABY STEPS YOUR NEW BEST FRIEND If you find yourself feeling unfocused in your business, just going from thing to thing, not seeing a clear path to the goals you once set, baby steps are the way to go. Look at each of your big goals and one at a time, create the path that leads to their achievement.

(I’m not talking about visualization for the sake of visualizing here, but actually doing the concrete work to find those steps.) You have to know what you need to do to accomplish each of your goals. What are the kinds of things you need support on? Add that to the list. What kind of timeline makes sense? Include those dates. What are the little things you can’t forget that may not seem important at first? Include each of these. Baby steps are how you get to that final destination you’ve been working towards on the journey to the brand you really want. You can’t expect to do it all in one fell swoop!

If you consider yourself a creative, chances are that you often allow yourself to get distracted by the next exciting creative idea. (Don’t worry, we all do it!) Have a plan to check in with yourself every few weeks to review what you’re working on and make sure it is aligned with the progress you’re working towards. Reevaluate your goals as often as you’d like, remembering that just as the year is evolving, so are you and your brand’s needs!

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What Kind of Driver Are You?

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Every aspect of a vehicle’s size, type and color reflects upon the owner’s personality!

Drivers of small cars are environmentally conscious, looking at fuel efficiency and the ability to park, while the sports car owner is energetic and likes the thrill of driving in the fast lane. Despite a multi-functional, midsized sedan to an SUV and truck, our cars are an extension of ourselves.

Let’s call it a storage unit on wheels which transports our bodies to vital and sometimes exciting destinations. From day to day, we choose a specific color of the fabric. Red if we seek attention and boldness, and blue to increase a feeling of stability and reliability. Does the color of a vehicle connect to our driving personality?

Well, yes!

COLOR CHOICE AND PSYCHOLOGY “Random – without method or conscious decision.”

The question arrives, “What color would you prefer?” The turning wheel of chance among a pallet of colors is not a random option. Within our subconscious, there is a psychological reason each of us leans toward one hue or another. White, the color that receives the most speeding tickets, continues its appeal as modern; yet, seeking a simple life.

Other colors: • Red brings attraction and the desire to receive attention. Drivers seek the label of energetic, ambitious, confident and assertive!

• Blue provides a broad spectrum of shades. Dark hues evoke a connection to professionalism, while a medium coloring relates to a “down to Earth” demeanor.

All the while, the driver is practical with an upbeat personality.

• Black, one of the most popular colors, makes a statement defining sophistication, power and luxury.

The individual seeks respect.

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• Encompassing the earth tones, comprising brown and beige, green hues and champagne, suggest a well-grounded individual who appreciates nature.

• Gray reflects a driver who does not want a lot of attention.

• Gold or yellow mirrors a personality of an easy spirited and creative person.

• Silver may connect to a fine line between enjoying practicality while enjoying the attention.

THE DRIVER’S PERSONALITY Is your view of driving a form of entertainment, necessity, adrenaline rush or an opportunity to relax?

Are you an assertive or careful driver?

• The performance driver needs a highpowered machine with a clutch to benefit from the heightened feeling of navigating through curvy roads and long straightaways.

• Power drivers need a vehicle allowing them to live every moment as if it is a race.

They seek the thrill of the light transitioning from red to green and accelerating, leaving others behind. The power driver may engage in road hogging for intended competition, preventing others from passing or switching lanes.

• Relaxation and comfort are Zen drivers’ goals. They choose plush interiors and quiet engines; and a suspension to escape the jostling of decisions and busy lifestyles.

The answers to those three questions are quite telling of an individual’s mindset while behind the wheel.

• Adventurous types want a customized vehicle outfitted with lifted suspensions and tough tires to explore obscure trails in various conditions. Sometimes, the roughand-tumble driver alternates mud-streaked cars on the weekends with a clean and shiny vehicle on weekdays.

• The defensive driver’s vehicle defines safety. It contains advanced safety systems with user-friendly controls that eliminate distractions, such as Bluetooth, voice activation features and car navigation systems. Drivers have excellent outward visibility to prepare for other motorists’ actions, while not actively feeling rushed to arrive at the destination. By taking a passive approach, the defensive driver remains calm and avoids confrontation.

Understanding strengths and weaknesses as a driver can determine how you respond in low or high-stress situations and ultimately become a safer driver. There are moments when an event of emotion provokes the experience behind the wheel. Personality related driver tests offer individuals the opportunity to understand their driver type from a psychological point of view. To receive more information about your personality as a driver, consider taking a few minutes to access a test. The results are fascinating!

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Sparking

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BY LAUREN SEPHTON

While the NC school shutdown meant no dress code and more relaxed mornings to some students, it presented a towering dilemma to kids in the public housing community. They were no longer guaranteed breakfast and lunch, the education gap was widening by the day, and “0’s” in grades were being stacked like IHOP’s “all-you-can-eat” pancakes.

Already preparing over 350 meals weekly to give to those in need “pre-COVID,” Hope Community Church nearly tripled their meal donations upon shutdown. With the limited reopening of Forsyth County schools in August, they saw a devastating need that went beyond the extensive commitment to provide the simplest of meals for the local community. On September 2nd, they opened their doors as the first free, remote learning center for Winston-Salem Forsyth County schools, only to find that their students did not have the resources, nor often the guidance, to complete and submit their required schoolwork since the March shutdown.

Hope Community Church is grateful for Imprints Care and the Forsyth County Sheriff’s Office, partnering with them to provide each student with no cost, one-on-one learning with a diverse group of devoted teachers carefully selected from the church. From early mornings to late evenings, with little to no breaks, these role models wake up ready to prioritize the children’s needs. Going beyond the educational demand, Hope Community Church has a deputy and nurse from Novant Health on-site at all times. However, they don’t just sit around until needed; they both are actively involved with serving the kids. For instance, the deputy not only watches over the safety of both staff and students but has become a role model to many. You may even catch him shootin’ hoops with the students during their lunch break! Debbie Lanier of Hope Community Church expressed her admiration as she watches this “beautiful healing between the kids and law enforcement.”

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Amidst Shutdown

Taking all necessary precautions, from plexiglass between the desks to masks inside the classroom area, Hope Community Church is making a lifelong impact on the lives of each child that walks through their doors, knowing passion can be felt, but action makes it count. Not only are they helping the students catch up on missing work, but they are tutoring them to excel in all subjects. After speaking with some of the children, one 8th grader proudly shared his accomplishment of passing every class. Another elementary student recalled her favorite memory of everyone reuniting on September 2nd with squishy hugs and cheerful spirits as they reconnected with school, cherished teachers, and beloved friends.

Lanier expressed that as we continue to walk into this time of uncertainty, it’s no longer sufficient to hunker down until things “pass.” No man is an island. Every person has the ability to make a positive impact in another’s life or bring a long overdue smile to another’s face. It can be as simple as dropping a home-cooked meal at the doorstep of someone older or substituting time spent mindlessly scrolling through social media to facetime longdistance family.

With that said, let’s take a little step back to the program that initiated everything, the contact-less food distribution drive-through that is held every Saturday at Hope Community Church from 11:00 am 12:00 pm. With lines that circle their parking lot, they safely provide boxes of food essentials – from frozen meat to fruit – to anyone that pulls through, without asking questions. Individuals who sacrifice

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their time to pack the boxes each week and joyfully give necessary resources end up reaping a harvest of thankfulness amongst their community.

The discovery of the needs continues multiplying and Hope Community Church is constantly seeking more supplies. So, maybe you’re not a fan of cooking for your neighbor, but how about replacing today’s extra treat with something that will fill an empty stomach. A person’s spirit is often uplifted by serving others, because every individual was created for a purpose greater than themselves.

But the needs of your community don’t stop there. The doors have always been opened; therefore, the question really is, are you willing to step through them? We all have something to give, even if it’s as simple as bringing a homemade sandwich to an older neighbor. The hope of just one person to fulfill a need with an open heart, putting others higher than herself, can change the future of generations to come.

There will be no greater time than the present to make an impact in someone’s life, so let’s step off the sidelines cheering and begin asking, “How can I take action today?”

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Maskne: A Problem of 2020-Proportions

BY DENISE HEIDEL

Until recent months, most of us were unaccustomed to wearing a mask. Wearing masks in public has become expected, but there’s an underlying issue, especially known to those who have to spend hours on end wearing a mask.

9. Take 15 minute mask breaks every four hours!

It’s not acne. It’s maskne.

11. Avoid using harsh skin treatments, abrasive cleaners, chemical peels, or exfoliants for the time being. Or at least wait until you’re home for a couple of days, so your skin has a chance to recover from any scrubbing.

Since masks made their way into our everyday lives, people have been struggling with skin issues. The humidity and moisture that builds up after prolonged mask-wearing is taking a toll on our skin, and even as we move into cooler weather, maskne continues to be an issue. Masks prevent our skin from doing what it does naturally – shedding dead skin cells, and now, those dead skin cells are clogging pores. Under the mask, we have a breeding ground of bacteria that has nowhere to go.

With that said, we’ve compiled some tips to help combat maskne and, hopefully, clear up your skin.

1. Wear a clean mask—every day. Wearing the same mask day after day should be considered the facial equivalent of not changing your underwear for a week. Wear a fresh, clean mask made from 100% cotton. The natural fibers of cotton are much kinder to your skin than synthetics like polyester.

2. Wash your masks frequently with fragrancefree laundry detergent – the fragrance may irritate your skin. Let your masks air dry.

3. Don’t re-use disposable masks. They are called disposable for a reason.

Just as cloth masks get dirty, so do the disposable ones. Throw them away and use a new one.

4. Make sure your mask fits! A loose-fitting mask may cause friction, which leads to irritation. It should not be too tight or too loose.

5. Wash your face before wearing the mask. Make sure you use a gentle cleanser that is fragrance-free and oil-free. Splashing on a great, natural toner or astringent like witch hazel is also a great idea.

6. Moisturize your face before wearing your mask. Avoid heavy, oily moisturizers and opt for something that is light and will serve as a protective barrier on your skin.

7. Skip makeup. There’s no point, plus you’ll save money. Makeup not only soils your mask as you take it on and off through the day, but it also clogs your pores and doesn’t allow your skin to get a breath of fresh air when you take a mask break.

8. Wear mask extenders if your ears are irritated. If you knit or crochet, mask extenders are easy to make, and if you don’t – knit or plastic extenders are inexpensive on Etsy.

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10. Wash your face after you take your mask off. Wash away all that bacteria that’s been sitting on your skin throughout the day. Moisturize your face again and let your skin breathe. Don’t apply makeup.

12. This isn’t the time to try a new skincare line, especially if you don’t know how your skin will react. Keep using what you know works.

Some other tips…. Wearing a clean mask cannot be emphasized enough.

Make sure you don’t handle it too much or lay it down on surfaces. Certainly, don’t share it. Keep a Ziplock bag handy to keep your mask in when you aren’t wearing it so that it’s not collecting dirt from the bottom of your purse or other pollutants from the air.

If frequent mask-wearing results in sores or skin damage that can’t be treated at home, you should seek medical attention.

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The Hope We Didn’t Know We Needed

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

At this point in the year, I think it is a general conception that 2020 hasn’t been stellar and that there are more negative moments than positive. These past several months, we have battled COVID-19, protests for racial equality, a presidential election, and economic challenges. Of course, what would you predict to happen when just a few days into the new year, the possibility of World War III was in the news? Even though 2020 has had almost everything difficult to happen, there are still good times that many of us have experienced this year. It is important to always hold onto those positive moments when we go through obstacles, and I know this from personal experience.

At the end of July, my first nephew, Elijah, was born and I became an aunt. July was right in the middle of the year and we all know things weren’t looking so good. However, Elijah’s birth brought hope to my world and our lives that we didn’t know we needed. As with every baby, my nephew entered the world with a lifetime full of possibilities and what-ifs. Currently, Elijah’s life is free of worries and full of contentment.

There are a few things we could learn from babies, and to me, he was the reminder of how to live out the rest of 2020. Elijah gives me hope that the world will hopefully get to be a better place for all of us, and that still many new opportunities and adventures await us all.

We don’t know what tomorrow will bring, but we can help shape what tomorrow will be by our actions and attitudes. Yes, there are things out of our control, but we can still control how we choose to handle things.

I will always know that 2020 will be a good year because of Elijah and the hope he brought with him. Many of us have a small reminder that will make the good outweigh the bad in our lives, no matter what is happening around us.

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As we wrap up 2020, take some time to remember the good things that happened during the last 11 months. Trust me, I know something hopeful has occurred to you, and it doesn’t depend on the size of that hope. There is tremendous power in hope because it gives us motivation, encouragement, and something to believe in. In addition, it helps us see the bigger picture of what life is all about.

When looking for your 2020 hope, look at the times you smiled, laughed, and enjoyed the company of others. It may be a phone call, a picture, or gathering before COVID changed our lives. These moments should be ones that left you inspired, have given you a little bit of normalcy, and left you with the hope that life will go back (or be even better) than what it was before.

After you have found your hope, document it and save it for the challenging times that will come and, unfortunately, they will come. Write in a journal all of the details that surround this joyous moment, gather any available pictures or moments.

Then, jot down how you felt and what you are feeling looking back at the occasion. These are key observations to record so that you will always remember the hope in 2020. Lastly, give thanks and practice gratitude. Be thankful you were able to experience this hope and that it made an appearance in your life.

Actor Christopher Reeve said, “Once you choose hope, anything is possible.”

Overall, the year 2020 didn’t provide many hopeful moments, yet, maybe our individual lives did.

Remember, it doesn’t matter if the opportunity is big or small; a memory of hope in an otherwise dull year can be the best thing a person didn’t know they needed.

As I look at Elijah and think about what joy he brings to my family, I can’t help but think 2020 wasn’t such a bad year because of the hope this little baby boy holds.

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An Open Letter to My Pregnant Body

BY TARYN JEREZ, PHOTO BY SIOBHAN LORRAINE PHOTOGRAPHY

Dear Body, I’ve always had a strange relationship with you, to say the least. If I’m being honest, we can replace “strange” with straight up unhealthy.

I’ve spent nearly all of my adult life, adolescence, and even childhood spending time and energy trying to change you. Surely there’s a way to figure out how to take what was given to me and chip away until I find the body that I was really meant to have. (It has to be here somewhere, right?) Too many days spent feeling like a child looking in a funhouse mirror at the fair trying to find the view she likes best but none of them seeming quite right.

This season of my life spent carrying this sweet baby is somehow different. I’ve learned a lot about you, this body of mine that I’ve lived in for just over three decades.

The same body which tried to sabotage me with cancer at age five, the one that’s lost and gained the same twenty-five pounds over six times, whose skin carries five surgical scars, whose midsection and thighs felt like a puzzle to be solved, the one I spent hours in therapy trying to appreciate and really “see” even after finally losing those 50 lbs, the one that I blamed for not being able to keep our first baby healthy past eight weeks or conceive again for nearly two years…

I am so sorry. I hope you feel the sincerity in this apology the same way I feel the weight of a lifetime of trash talking to you.

How did I never realize how amazing you are?

The irony is not wasted on me, that it wasn’t until you became a home for something that I felt at home in you. I’ve seen you grow, felt you shift, and get stronger with so much intention and purpose.

I have felt more empowered in this body during these nine months than I have in my entire life. I’ve shown you love for the first time. (Strange considering the scale has never been higher and all these new stretch marks have come out to say hello.) Yet here I am, realizing just how amazing you were all along and thanking you for what you’ve done for me in this season. You’re kind of a badass.

So, where do we go from here? When you change once again without warning and the home my son has known inside you is gone? Will we go back to before?

Instead, I think I’ll choose to love you still. You may feel the familiarity of uncertainty in my thoughts some days as you evolve into what comes next, but let the abundance of appreciation echo from these moments. I’ll do my best to show up for you with the same grace you’ve always deserved and shown me all these years.

Thank you.

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Questions about the program can be directed to Denise Heidel at Denise@LeadershipLC. Unfortunately, the arrival of COVID com. And if your business is interested in brought this first year to an abrupt halt. sponsoring Leadership Lewisville-Clemmons, The class completed the program online, please reach out to Meika Imes at and despite the interruption, it was wellMeika@Lewisville-Clemmons.com. received. Those who participated have proven to be enthusiastic supporters and advocates, including several who have since joined the planning council.

As conversation began around Year 2 of Leadership Lewisville-Clemmons, and after careful consideration, the LLC Council decided that the wisest course of action would be to delay the second year start date until January 2021. Every program day will be designed with the hope of meeting in person, with an appropriate amount of social distancing.

But, a Plan B option is being developed in the event the program needs to go online.

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STOP FEARING SUCCESS

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

You might have read the title of this article and said, WHAT? I don’t fear success! What a ridiculous thing to fear!

But if you did, you probably wouldn’t be reading this right now.

The fear of success is incredibly real. Unfortunately, the fear of success might be holding you back more than a fear of failure.

Psychologists focus on the fear of change when it comes to the fear of success. When you try something new and you fail, you go right back to what you knew – the same and your comfort zone. When you try something new and succeed, you are in a new place and a place of dealing with change. Any change can be anxiety-inducing, especially change that you’ve brought on yourself with your actions.

How do you know if you fear success? Consider this: the last time you tried something new, how did you feel? What were you most worried about?

If you had anxiety about making something new happen, keep reading, and let’s start working our way out of this:

FIND THE SOURCE Where did this fear come from?

Dig into your history – a lot of time this fear comes from youth.

If you’re having a hard time narrowing it down, reflect. Think about the feeling and the action associated with it. What made you feel anxious about success? Don’t feel like you have to discover this in a day – be kind to yourself and reflect a few times a month (or week!).

When reflecting, I’ve found journaling to be most successful, mainly because I can write, put it down, and pick it back up. The best part of picking it back up?

I see the similarities that pop up through my reflection. Similarities generally point at the source!

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FACE THE FEARS What do you do to avoid success? Once you start tapping into these behaviors, you can start to zero in on the specific fears and face them. When you see what you avoid, you can start to approach the situations instead of run from them.

Start by looking at situations where you avoid the chances of success. Are you sabotaging yourself? Walking away from possibilities? Ignoring things like emails or offers? Reflect on these opportunities and see what they have in common.

After you’ve done a bit of reflecting, look at all of the situations you avoid holistically and weigh them. Which one seems to be the easiest to try and test out?

The situation that would elicit the least amount of change if success does happen might be the easiest to try first.

If you’re still worried about change, think about the possible differences and write down some of the next steps you would take if these changes happen. Knowing about the possibilities usually calms the anxiety about the unknown – and allows a bit of planning.

Find peace in the knowledge!

BUILD SUPPORT Doing this alone is hard – but trust me, you aren’t alone. Finding someone to be on your side, whether it be another person in your life, a therapist, or a supportive family member, finding someone to be in your corner is one of the best things you can do moving forward. This person can be your sounding board – or they can just help you celebrate your success when it happens.

If you have to look to therapy, remember: it’s ok to not be ok. You deserve to be successful, to welcome success, and to get excited about your successes.

The fear you might be feeling is normal, common, and something that you can work on!

The Forsyth Mags Team is feeling GRATEFUL… In is year of fear and uncertainty, many of us have taken a hard look at what we value and what we really care about.

When Thanksgiving Day comes around at the end of November, what will YOU be grateful for?

We asked some of our Forsyth Magazines team staff and got a wide variety of responses.

I’m grateful for my awesome family who love & support each other, for God who continually blesses, and for all of my crazy friends (you know who you are!). Thankful for Forsyth Magazines as the absolute best place to work, and for my clients who make it possible to earn a living by interacting with great people every day.

Tamara Bodford, Senior Account Executive

I am grateful for the breath that breathes me, the resilience that fortifies me, and the love that has and always will sustain me.

Jean Marie Johnson, Writer

I am grateful for friends who became family!

Martie Emory, Writer

I wake every day with a prayer of thanks to my creator for another day to live and breathe. For this beautiful world he has created for us to enjoy!

I am thankful for the first mug of coffee in the morning and a cozy bed at night, for lifelong friends and new friends, and for the unfathomable love of God that carries me though each day.

Debbie Barr, Writer I am grateful for dirty dishes and crumbs under the table, because that means there was food on the table to be enjoyed with loved ones!

Lauren Sephton, Writer

I am thankful for the health and safety of my family. In a year full of surprises, all the extra time with the people who mean the most to me has been a blessing in disguise!

Meghan Corbett, Senior Staff Writer & Editor I am grateful for my wonderful job and my good health, my magnificent friends and my loving pups. And coffee. And gummy bears.

Kim Beane, Editor

I am grateful for humor and people who can find the funny in a challenging situation!

Laughter is the best medicine!

This year especially, I am grateful for the simple joys of this life. The love of my family, the gift of friendship, and the beauty this world offers each and every day.

Tabatha Renegar, Writer

Julie Fritz, Writer

I am grateful for my faith, family, and friends (fur babies, included). Also, a sipping a good cuppa Tea-lation! tea, creating original songs, drumming to rock songs, photographing beautiful blooms, and cooking + sharing a yummy meal.

I am grateful for the flexibility and creative thinking this season has brought to my family; as well as the ability to wear athleisure daily.

Tabi Falcone, Writer

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Susan B. B. Schabacker, Writer

I am grateful for the energy to keep fighting to make this country a better place for all people.

I am grateful that my loved ones and I possess good health, fulfilling jobs, and that we live in a community that cares about each other.

I am grateful for my loved ones and for all the special moments we have shared together this past year. I’m also thankful for the inspiration and resilience my students show me each and every day during this crazy time.

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JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

There’s no place like home. Home is where the heart is.

Home sweet home. I’m going home. The variations are endless. Without question, the word “home” is close to our hearts. Eavesdrop on a Thanksgiving or Christmas conversation, and you are likely to hear some version of “Are you going home for the holidays?” For immigrants and transplants, home is often the place of origin, or it may be the new country or state.

In many cases, it is both. When I was growing up, my father spoke long and often about “the old country” even as he railed at its politics and hardship. The letters arrived

by Air Mail and were immediately devoured and savored, a small piece of home. Decades later, long after he had passed, I traveled to my father’s homeland with a curious mind and an open heart. The immersive experience gave me an understanding of how my father’s home country shaped his spirit and his worldview. Flying back to the states, I remember thinking that even when memories of “home” are less than perfect, home beckons to us over the course of our lives. I also understood that whether our journey from house to house is across a continent or simply across town, we are all nomads in search of home.

And so I’ve been thinking about the many structures I’ve called home over my lifetime: at least three ranch houses, two apartment houses, four condominiums, one 1980s house, and two 19th century houses. Have I really lived in that many physical structures? Can’t be. In fact, I’m sure that I am forgetting something, but what I am remembering more than suffices.

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The houses I called home as a child shaped me. As I ventured beyond the known as a young teenager, my sense of house and, by extension, home, evolved. I saw how other people lived and expanded my ideas about what was possible. As an adult, each house was inextricably tied to my successes, my losses, and my mistakes, a journey with many twists and turns.

Every one of these houses shaped me and, to varying degrees, reflected me. They helped me to hone my sense of self and to more clearly define the type of home I wanted to create.

That’s what I love about the idea of home: it’s not static or fixed; it is as mutable as I am, always a thing in progress. At some point, I tossed the conventional notion of “the perfect home” where it belongs: out the window. My “perfect” home is one that honors where I’ve been (and been through) and genuinely reflects who I am right now. From my gaudy “disco-inspired” decorative pumpkin to my “shrine” of bird feathers, petrified moths and bird nests, and my New Orleans-inspired “veranda,” it’s a tapestry I fondly call home.

Of course, as with my father, it’s not that simple. When I go back to Connecticut, my home of origin, I will nestle there in familiar places. I will sleep in the daybed I bought my 37-year-old niece when she was three. I will eat in the old, boisterous diner where I used to take my mom after Sunday mass. It’s not all good, and it’s not all bad. Few things are. I will find comfort, joy, and sadness in these familiar experiences of home and I will see them for what they are: a forever part of me. I will thank them, bless them, hold them close to my heart, then turn my attention to my latest expression of home, right here, in Winston-Salem.

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Creative Ways to Help Your Community & Support Others Online & from Home

BY SUSAN B. B. SCHABACKER

Technology has come a long way, and there are lots of ways to give back to your community and help the world with the click of a mouse or the touch of a screen. You can make a difference right from your computer, tablet, or phone! Here are some ways you can help others.

You don’t have to be a huge organization or big business to help out with a donations drive. You can organize and coordinate it yourself.

Gather food, toiletries, coats, or toys. Post some flyers online, on social media, in your neighborhood, and around your community.

Encourage neighbors to pitch in and donate a few items, then deliver them to a local non-profit and know you’re making a positive difference.

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FOOD. It’s something we all need, often crave, and can take for granted. Donating food, drinks, and volunteering to cook for the hungry and homeless can offer a huge life-sustaining gift. Go shopping or just gather goodies from your own pantry, including water bottles and juices, dried fruit and nuts and drop them off at local food banks. Help out by preparing and serving food at soup kitchens. By volunteering an hour of your time – just a short lunch break – you can make a big difference and help feed others.

MONEY. We all need it to get by in life and buy the things we need to survive and thrive. Charitable nonprofit organizations require funding just as much as for-profit businesses do to stay sustained. How can you help? Fundraising can help a nonprofit cover the many costs needed to help people. From the overhead of supplies and materials to the very building they operate in and website fees, financial backing is needed to stay afloat.

SNAIL MAIL. Though our world has turned online for most communication these days, the old fashioned, hand-written letter warms hearts and puts smiles on faces. It’s always a joy to open an envelope and read someone’s writing, no matter how messy their penmanship. Thank you notes, though not quite as common these days, are a beautiful and memorable way to express your gratitude. Create your own cards, make them colorful, and write positive and uplifting messages that inspire. Enclose a bookmark, confetti, origami, and/or stickers to make someone’s day brighter! Send them to kids with cancer, seniors who need support and military veterans.

VIRTUAL KNOWLEDGE SHARING + SKILL & TALENT DEVELOPMENT

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TEACH, TUTOR, COACH. Mentor others online. Virtual learning is the way to go these days and you can help out by offering your skills and experience.

Connect with others in your community or eager learners all the way across the globe. Make a list of what you’re good at and the knowledge and skills you can most easily pass on. Stick with your areas of expertise and what you have background experience in. Do your research. What is currently being offered and by whom? How much time should you designate? Be generous with your time, but also keep track of your time and set time limits. You can share languages, academic subjects, creative arts and crafts and/or business tips and tidbits. Focus on what you love most and are good at. Have a passion for helping, and don’t forget to learn yourself. Adopt a positive outlook and make continual learning a lifetime goal.

STORYTIME. Certainly, a fav time for kids and kidsat-heart – perhaps just as much as snack time, and certainly more than nap time! Thanks to online tools and resources, you can just as easily read to kids in the UK as you can to your kids at home. They don’t have to be in the same room with you. Make a list of children’s books to read to them and also consider writing your own. There are lots of kids worldwide who would love and benefit by your book sharing.

From kids with cancer to orphans without homes, share a story with them in an online video chat and put smiles on their faces and in their hearts.

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TONI PHILLIPS & KRISTIN RANSON

Toni Phillips and Kristin Ranson met in 2008, when Toni joined the Leonard Ryden Burr Real Estate (LRB) team where Kristin was already an agent. After working together on a project, Kristin asked Toni to cover her calls from clients while she was away on vacation. Around the same time, Toni was running a horse-drawn carriage business downtown and she needed coverage while she was engaged with the work involved with horses and riders. Kristin helped with the carriage one evening and a partnership of helping each other out was born. In 2010, they formed The Phillips Ranson Team at LRB, realizing they could accomplish more working together. Since then, the Phillips Ranson Team has been the #1 producing team at Leonard Ryden Burr Real Estate for several years. Kristin comes to the partnership with an Economics major from Chapel Hill. Toni majored in German language and art at UNCG. The work/life balance provided by the partnership has allowed them to pursue real estate certifications and Ninja Selling training on the business side, but also allows them to volunteer at such organizations as The Crossnore School, The Children’s Home Farm, local schools, food banks and with a local youth recreational soccer league.

Giving back and being involved in the community are important to both Toni and Kristin. Toni has found time to renovate several properties during the partnership and Kristin has enjoyed travel with family.

MEREDITH TRANK

Meredith Trank is a lead instructor at CycleBar WinstonSalem. She earned her bachelor’s degree in religion and psychology from Texas Christian University and is currently in graduate school at Wake Forest University pursuing a master’s degree in divinity and counseling. When not at work or studying, Meredith spends time with her fiancé, Michael and adopted puggle, Chunk. She also loves to dance and blog in her free time.

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CAITLYN WRIGHT

Caitlyn Wright is the owner of Lash & Blade. Her business offers, microblading, brow lamination, lash extensions, teeth whitening and more! She received her esthetician license from Leon’s Beauty School and is a cosmetic tattoo artist as well as a lash artist. In her free time, Caitlyn loves to spend time with her baby boy, Carson.

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AMY HILL

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Amy Hill relocated to Winston-Salem in 2019 from Durham after accepting her current role as a Research Analyst with Womble Bond Dickinson. She earned a bachelor’s degree in psychology and a master’s degree in human resources from Western Carolina University. As a child, Amy spent hours writing stories in her bedroom and always had a passion for writing. Growing up with a pilot for a father, she was fortunate enough to discover the joy of traveling at an early age and began solo traveling as a young adult.

After working in aviation herself as a flight scheduler for almost two years, she gained valuable experience and learned more tricks of the travel trade. She is also the newest writer to join the Forsyth Magazines team! When she’s not working or traveling, you can find Amy working out at the gym, hiking, trying out new restaurants in the area or researching places to go on her next adventure.

Jamie Lapp is the co-owner of Fiddle & Fig. After graduating from Bloomsburg University of Pennsylvania with a bachelor’s degree in education, she was an early intervention teacher before starting her family with her husband, Greg. Jamie is an incredible mom to her three children – Ciera, Jordan and Maddy. She lived in Lancaster, PA for 28 years where she worked in different aspects of family business and volunteered for non-profit organizations and boards. Jamie recently moved to Winston-Salem because she recognized a need for an experiential and inclusive retail décor store here. Jamie lives a life full of grace and cares deeply for all people. When she’s not at the store, you can find her cooking a good meal for her family, taking walks with her husband or taking care of her garden.

Ashley Pruitt is a branch leader and trainer at AmeriLife of Greensboro where she has worked since 2009. She is a retirement planner for the 50+ community where she helps pre-retirees plan for retirement and assists retirees through the transition smoothly. “We help with annuities, Medicare, life insurance, health insurance, long term care and more,” said Ashley. During her career, she has won top producers awards for annual production, president’s club awards for annual personal production, top branch leader awards for monthly production, and gold and silver monthly trophies for personal performance. She has also won cruises to Cuba, Key West, Puerto Rico and the Caribbean as well as a 2017 Mercedes. In her free time, Ashley spends time with her three young children.

Michelle Hyatt is the founder and president of Flhy Marketing.

She has a BSBA in marketing from UNC Charlotte. “I took a leap of faith to start a company in a field I’m extremely passionate about, and I’m blessed to have seen my vision come to life and to be successful doing what I love which is helping local businesses,” said Michelle. “I love traveling, being outdoors, creating YouTube videos and spending time with my husband, Colby, and our furbaby, Jax. I’m also very close with my parents, Dale and Joanna Ayers, and consider them to be my biggest motivation in working hard and enjoying life every day. As my dad always says, ‘never a dull moment!’”

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Fierce Competitor,

It’s been nine years since I first saw Peyton Pesavento play tennis. It impressed me that this 12-year-old was getting up at 5:30 in the morning and coming to one of my fitness classes with her dad. Like most 12-year-old girls, Peyton was somewhat frail and was excited to start a strengthening program. It took me a very short time watching her play tennis to realize Peyton was going to be special. The somewhat shy, thin little girl I knew in class was not the same person on the court. The ferocity when she hit the ball

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Talented Artist was beyond anything I’d seen for high school players, much less for a 12-year-old. There was another quality that stood out as I watched her play. Peyton was a fierce competitor. She went after every point like it was the final point of the U.S. Open. Nine years later, that special little girl has turned into a special young lady.

Here’s her story.

Peyton, whose dad Pat played football and baseball at Notre Dame, played many different sports as a kid. She excelled in soccer, basketball, volleyball, and tennis. After her success in state tournaments at the age of 12, she started competing and succeeding in regional and national tournaments. It was at this time she realized she had a bright future in tennis. She now had the confidence she needed to set her goals at a very high standard. To reach those goals, it would take a tremendous amount of determination, discipline, and sacrifice, not only for Peyton but for her entire family. Peyton says she will always remember the drives to workouts or practices with her mom or dad before the sun had come up. Practice during the school year generally lasted for three or four hours.

This meant getting home for a late meal and doing homework until bedtime. Weekends were generally spent practicing 7 hours or playing in tournaments. The summer before her junior year, Peyton and her parents made the decision to allow her to enter a prestigious tennis academy in Charleston, SC. This meant leaving her family and friends and going to live with other elite tennis players. Her schooling would be all online and the success would be determined by the diligence and discipline

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of a 17-year-old. Let’s not forget this 17-yearold is the same 12-year old that got up at five every morning to workout. For Peyton, it wasn’t an issue.

Peyton’s hard work paid off at the end of her junior year. Straight A’s and a national ranking in tennis got the attention of many college coaches, but when one of the elite tennis and academic schools, Wake Forest University, offered a full scholarship, the recruiting was over. Peyton was a Demon Deacon! Peyton’s success on the court carried over in her freshman year at Wake. She posted an 18-10 record in singles and an impressive rating of 98 in the International Tennis Association.

While her success in tennis has been quite an accomplishment for any 12-year-old, there’s more to Peyton’s story. At a very young age, Peyton began drawing. What started as a hobby during what little free time she had, has turned into much more. Her talent became so obvious that in high school, she began selling some of her work. She now has a website and between her tennis and schoolwork finds the time to make some spending money from her artwork.

Peyton’s plans for the future, while uncertain, are definitely bright. She plans to go to Physician Assistant School after completing her undergraduate degree. A professional tennis career still looms as a possibility. As for art, Peyton will continue drawing and painting, and does not rule this out as a possible career either. Whatever the future holds, you can rest assured she will work to be the best and more than likely be highly successful. You can visit Peyton’s website at peytonspalette.com.

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FROM THE

RAINBOW

A lifeline to our furry friends! BY MARTIE EMORY Losing a four-legged companion is tough in so many ways, and as pets begin to age, we long for their younger, energetic days, secretly hoping once they cross that beloved Rainbow Bridge, they feel healthy and whole again. We dream that in this magical land, they are running with renewed spirit until they can again join with their humans, and in your heart, you know they are happy.

Now, thanks to the passion and creativity of Todd and Stephanie Belcher and their good friend and wordsmith, Julie A. Palm, you can receive heartfelt updates on how your pets are adjusting to their new surroundings!

Via Todd and Stephanie’s business, The Jimmydog Design Group, and the wisdom of their own departed pup and company namesake, Jimmy, they felt inspired to launch FromtheRainbow.com.

So, let’s meet Jimmy! Rescued by Todd and Stephanie after being abandoned as a puppy, he was a fluffy white poodle-terrier mix with plenty of personality. When Jimmy crossed the Rainbow Bridge in 2003, he left a hole in Todd and Stephanie’s hearts, yet his legacy lived on in their business.

While pursuing their passion for graphic design, the couple also nurtured their love for animals with the start of Todd’s custom pet portraits business, and they also added rescue pups Freddie and Joey to their family.

When Joey passed away, Stephanie shared an idea with her close friend Julie who wrote occasional blogs for the business, often in the “voices” of their beloved dogs.

“We decided that Jimmy, the company’s namesake, could write a blog called From the Rainbow, where he welcomed Joey over to the new world and reassured Todd and

Stephanie he had arrived safely,” says Julie. Not only was the blog post an emotional comfort to Stephanie, but it was extremely well-received on the company’s social media, and in a sense, brought Jimmy back to life for all those who knew him!

“It’s like this ‘letter’ also connected us to our sweet Jimmy in a whole new way,” says Stephanie. “We began seeing him as the ambassador of the ‘newcomers club’ at the Rainbow Bridge. Julie has created this most wonderful world through her writing, that we realized was a comfort when we were sad our pups were no longer with us.”

You can reach From the Rainbow at 336-2017475, or begin your journey with Jimmy at FromTheRainbow.com. You’ll find a complete price list under the Personalized Letters tab, and to start your own very special order, send Stephanie a note under Contact Us, and she will be back in touch on how to begin the process. You also can follow Jimmy and his Rainbow Bridge pals on Facebook (Jimmy Belcher) and Instagram (jimmy.rainbow).

From the Rainbow invites folks to share as much personal information about their former pet as possible – name, breed, age when they crossed the bridge, favorite toys, treats, and activities, and every detail that made their pet so special! Families are also asked to send photos of their pet so that Jimmy can ‘check up’ on them and see how they are adjusting to life over the bridge. Todd then adds beautiful illustrations to adorn the letter.

“Julie’s writing is so full of detail it’s easy to see something pop out that I should illustrate,” says Todd. “The more details, the better,” says Julie, stressing these are not fill-in-the-blank form letters, but personalized notes sprinkled with comforting details of what your pet is up to now. (Hint: Jimmy explains how the new arrivals are welcomed and how “magical” TVs let the animals keep watch over the families they left behind!)

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These beloved letters of healing are offered in several packages and make sweet gifts for friends or family mourning the loss of a furry friend. Packages include an illustrated personalized letter in a Rainbow Bridge envelope ($59.95), an illustrated letter in a Rainbow Bridge envelope with a custom 5” x 7” memorial Rainbow Bridge portrait painted by Todd ($159.95), or a custom memorial fine art portrait painted by Todd with a personalized letter in a Rainbow Bridge envelope. Custom portraits start at $175.00 for an 8” x 10” rendering.

Dear Jimmy, Joey, & Freddie, Thank you so much for the update on our beloved Vito Corleone Rostron.

He went to the bridge over three years ago and we have been anxious to know how he’s doing. My kids have been writing him letters, and finally we got our answer - although he misses us as much as we miss him, we’re comforted to know how well he is doing. My daughter said receiving the letter and rainbow portrait was better than Christmas!

Thank you again.

Best, RR, St. James, NY June 2020

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ASHLEY BRYANT PHOTOGRAPHY

CELEBRATIONS

Remi Marion Ligon was born on July 24th 2020.

Pictured with proud parents Joseph and Cameron and big brother Flynn!

One night this past October,

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heard a knock at her front door and found BOLT, the team mascot of the Winston-Salem Dash baseball team and other Dash staff members there, along with dinner! Shelley had been nominated by her friend Liz Miles, and then was chosen as one of five Community Heroes for her volunteer work. This work includes Joy Prom, where she serves as executive director; Fairy Godmother’s Closet, which she started five years ago; and Providence Culinary Training, where she served three years on the planning committee for its Full Plates Gala and chaired the auction for two years. Shelley has also donated her time to the women at Caring Services in High Point, in the preschool advisory board at her church, at Salem Pregnancy, as a foster parent with the Department of Social Services, in helping families with children with disabilities, and in support of several small business owners as they started their retail locations. Congratulations, Shelley!

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Congratulations to Miranda Briggs & Gunnar Garner on their engagement! Miranda said “YES!” to a surprise proposal on the south end of Wrightsville Beach on October 3, 2020. The happy moment was coordinated so that their closest friends and family could secretly be there to watch and photograph the proposal.

Miranda and Gunnar are planning an October 2021 wedding.

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SECOND WEDNESDAYS

NOW - JAN 3

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING 11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting.

Learn more at PWWS.org. Due to limited seating capacity, pre-registration is required.

A virtual option will also be available.

“TRAVEL ADVENTURE” EXHIBIT Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. You can go ANYWHERE – over land, sea or air – in the new exhibit! Using LEGO® bricks, visitors can think creatively to plan and build vehicles to move through all kinds of terrain, including mountains, jungles, oceans and deserts…just to name a few! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. kaleideum.org/

NOW - NOV 1 HAMMERBIRD VIRTUAL 5K & ONE MILE RUN/WALK Your route of choice. Get dressed up in your Halloween costume to run, walk or crawl anywhere of your choice, anywhere and anytime between October 23-November 1. Support Habitat, receive one of our awesome t-shirts, a Habitat cloth mask and a bag of Halloween candy. You can also select the option during registration of having your swag mailed after the virtual race ends.

Post your results and a picture of you in your running costume and tag #habitatforsyth.

Cost: $20-$30/person. www.habitatforsyth. org/event/hammerbird-5k

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From the Rainbow

VIRTUAL JAVASCRIPT WORKSHOP (FOR AGES 8-14) 5-6pm, Online (http://bit.ly/oct6_20). In the Beginning JavaScript Online sessions, students will learn how to create games using one of the most popular coding languages in the world, starting day one! As they progress, students will be challenged to create several JavaScript applications that can run in a browser or even on a server using p5.js. Cost: $79 for six sessions. Classes will consist of no more than five students. Spots are limited, so don’t wait! Students must use a laptop or PC while working in p5.js during the sessions. Student are allowed to join the ZOOM sessions using a tablet.

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TIFFANY GLASS: PAINTING WITH COLOR AND LIGHT Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. Visit Reynolda House, and experience the celebrated works of the iconic Tiffany Studios in an incomparable setting that includes the 1917 historic home of Katharine and R.J. Reynolds and a renowned collection of American art, set on more than 180 acres complete with lush gardens and soothing nature trails. The first exhibition of its kind at Reynolda, Tiffany Glass: Painting with Color and Light includes five windows, 20 lamps and displays showing how Tiffany glass was manufactured, how his lamps were assembled and how collectors today can distinguish between authentic lamps and forgeries. Advance tickets required. reynoldahouse.org/tiffany

NOVEMBER 3-6 FIDDLE & FIG CHRISTMAS OPEN HOUSE 403 West End Boulevard in W-S. In addition to amazing home décor and furniture, come see what beautiful Christmas décor awaits! Enjoy 25% off one Christmas item. Fiddle-Fig.com and @fiddleandfigmarket

NOVEMBER 6-8 PRONOVIAS BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

NOVEMBER 7 HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE Your Home Marketplace, 670 South Stratford Road in W-S. Come see what’s new in Holiday 2020 Home Décor. With 11,000 square feet, three levels to shop and more than 75 vendors, we are your one-stop holiday shopping venue. Enjoy 10%-30% off your entire purchase for the day only. Register to win gift baskets.

Doors open at 10am. yourhomemarketplacenc.com

NOVEMBER 8 WATKINS FAMILY HOUR 8pm, Online (the schaefercetner.org). Returning to the studio as Watkins Family Hour, Sean and Sara Watkins (of Nickel Creek fame) consider brother sister a duo-centric record – yet one that feels bigger than just two people. With Sean primarily on guitar and Sara on fiddle, and with both of them sharing vocals, the siblings enlisted producer Mike Viola (Jenny Lewis, Mandy Moore, J.S. Ondara) and mixer-engineer Clay Blair to harness the energy and honesty of their live sound.

NOVEMBER 10 GIRLS’ DAY &/OR NIGHT OUT 10am-12pm, Young Cardinal Café & Co. (424 4th Street in W-S); 5pm…until, Jeffrey Adams on Fourth (321 West Fourt Street in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much-needed Girls’ Day &/or Night Out. Enjoy brunch at Young Cardinal Café & Co. with $3 mimosas and $5 bloody Marys. You can also enjoy half price wine and select $5 appetizers at Jeffrey Adams on Fourth starting at 5pm.

Come to one or both! We’ll have our fabulous prize board at both locations!

NOVEMBER 10-11 LETTERS FROM HOME 10-YEAR REUNION SHOW High Point Theatre, 220 East Commerce Avenue in High Point. Experience the juxtaposition of nostalgia and music during the Letters From Home 10-Year-Reunion Show, as guests and former performers of the past 10 years join together to share music, singing, energetic tap-dancing and laughter all in honor of our nation’s veterans. Cost: $25/person.

NOVEMBER 14 TRIAD LUNGE FORWARD 5K, RUN, WALK & CELEBRATION 8am-12pm, Center City Park, 200 North Elm Street in Greensboro. Join us for the 13th annual Triad LUNGe Forward 5K Run, Walk, & Celebration! From the 5K race to the celebration rally to the kid’s dash, this year’s event will include a variety of activities for the entire family.

The Triad LUNGe Forward 5K Run, Walk, & Celebration will be a day of celebration and remembrance, as well as a day to take action and provide hope to those impacted by lung cancer. However you choose to participate, your support will make an impact in the fight against lung cancer in North Carolina. Cost: $15$35/person. triad.lungeforward.org GREAT PUMPKIN 5K TRAIL RUN 8:30am, Wesleyan Christian Academy Athletic Complex, 1946 Sandy Ridge Road in Colfax. Enjoy the best of fall at this in-person race. Cost is $35/person.

Registration is limited to 250 participants. Prizes awarded. Runners will receive a finisher’s medal and a neck gaiter, courtesy of Novant Health. Runners will be sent in waves of 50 or less; masks and social distancing are required per CDC guidelines. All proceeds benefit GO FAR. Register at runsignup.com/gofarpumpkin5k.

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NOVEMBER 19 REASONS FOR HOPE: A VIRTUAL DISCUSSION WITH DR. JANE GOODALL 8pm, Online (theschaefercenter.org). This public presentation is a rebroadcast of a private, live interactive question-and-answer session with Dr. Goodall and Appalachian State University students. From earliest childhood, Dr. Goodall was fascinated by animals and the Africa she discovered in the storybooks of Tarzan and Dr. Doolittle. In 1957, she traveled to the Kenyan farm of a friend’s parents and met the famed anthropologist and paleontologist Dr. Louis Leakey. In 1960, at his invitation, she began her landmark study of chimpanzee behavior in what is now Tanzania. Her field research at what was then called Gombe Stream Chimpanzee Reserve — most notably, her discovery that chimpanzees make and use tools — revolutionized the world of primatology.

NOVEMBER 20-22 RIVINI & ALYNE BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

DECEMBER 3 FIDDLE & FIG LADIES NIGHT OUT 6-8pm, 403 West End Boulevard in W-S. Ladies don’t miss a chance to shop and create your Christmas wish list! Men will have a chance to shop your wish list on December 10th at their own special event!

Charcuterie, appetizers and drinks as well as a chance for prizes from the Forsyth Family Magazine prize board! Fiddle-Fig.com and @fiddleandfigmarket

DECEMBER 5 MORAVIAN CHRISTMAS LOVEFEAST 2-6pm, Historic Bethabara Park, 2147 Bethabara Road in W-S. Start the holiday season at Bethabara with a Moravian Lovefeast service.

Children’s Lovefeast starts at 2pm.

Traditional Lovefeast starts at 5pm. Enjoy musical performances and colonial Christmas treats between services. Don’t forget to shop for unique gifts in our Visitor Center before you leave! historicbethabara.org

DECEMBER 10 FIDDLE & FIG MEN’S NIGHT OUT 6-8pm, 403 West End Boulevard in W-S. Men don’t miss a chance to shop and purchase from your favorite someone’s Christmas wish list! Beer and snacks will be served as well as a chance for prizes from the Forsyth Family Magazine prize board! Fiddle-Fig.com and @fiddleandfigmarket

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DECEMBER 31 THE TEXAS TENORS Steven Tanger Performing Arts Center, 300 North Elm Street in Greensboro. Dust off your 10-gallon hat and boots because The Texas Tenors are riding back into town, combining their personal charisma and powerful harmonies in a new show of Broadway and American Classics!

In the event this performance is postponed, all tickets issued, including those booked as part of the 2020–21 season, will be valid for admission to the rescheduled engagement. Patrons will be promptly alerted to any schedule changes should they occur. greensborosymphony.org

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Conversations with Your BFF I often wish I could go back to 16 years old and do much of my life over, but I would want the knowledge I have gained in the past 37 years. That would be the stipulation for sure. The reason I think that 16 is a good place to start over is because that is when I started dating my first boyfriend, and if I had taken note of his behavior and mine, it would’ve saved me some time in choosing future significant others. So what do we learn, or should we learn from our first relationship? I am so glad you asked!

My first relationship was not the greatest; however, I stayed in it for four years. I thought I was lucky to have him mainly because all my friends said I was, but they didn’t see what he was like behind closed doors. He had a temper, a very dysfunctional family, a volatile relationship with his dad, and two jealous sisters. I look back now and think, ‘You’re worth so much more than he gave you.’ The only way I can settle with myself the way I allowed myself to be treated is by knowing what I learned.

ONLY YOU CAN DEFINE YOURSELF Unfortunately, I thought that my boyfriend and being ‘his’ defined me. I lost my identity and became ‘his girlfriend.’ I needed more confidence in myself before even thinking about dating. I needed to see that I had an identity before I met him, and it wasn’t right for me to lose that while we were dating.

NEVER NEGLECT YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS FOR THE SAKE OF DATING When you start a new relationship, you tend to focus completely on your new mate, and everyone else falls to the wayside. A great way to lose friends is to ditch them when you find a new person to date. Remember, your family and friends were there first, long before this supposed love of your life came on the scene. At 16, I became all-consumed by my boyfriend and didn’t spend any time with my friends and I so regret that.

HAPPILY EVER AFTER RARELY COME FROM HIGH SCHOOL RELATIONSHIPS It is hard to understand when you are young and ‘in love’ that many of those butterflies are hormones when you see your sweetheart. You think ‘no one will

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What Did I Learn from My First Relationship?

BY REBECCA COOPER

ever love me and make me as happy as I am now, so I know this is my happily ever after.’

The numbers are against you in making it from high school to your 50th anniversary.

Your brain is still maturing and looking at your relationship in your youth as a lesson is a good thing to do, but hard at the time.

YOU DESERVE RESPECT….

ESPECIALLY FROM YOURSELF! When you are young, you tend to tolerate more than you do as you age. My first boyfriend missed Valentine’s Day one year due to a fraternity party. He came home from college the following day, with candy he bought on sale, and when I offered my two cents worth on how I was more important than a frat party, that box of candy came sailing at my head, hitting my parents’ basement door. That wasn’t a good move for him, but it wasn’t for me either because I felt I brought the situation on and his reaction was expected.

I deserved respect from him, but I also needed to respect myself and know I did nothing to warrant that treatment.

NO ONE OWNS ANOTHER PERSON Being in a relationship, no matter your age, doesn’t mean that you lose all sense of self. You have to keep your own interests and friends; realize your mate needs to have their time to do things on their own, too. Time together is important, but every waking moment, like I did at 16, isn’t healthy, mentally, or physically.

USE THIS AS A LEARNING TOOL It’s not impossible that you will settle down and build a life with your high school sweetheart, just not probable. But if you don’t make it through life together, you can use it as a learning tool. Look at what went right and what went wrong along the relationship. What could I have done better? What should I not have tolerated? Remember, you can only control yourself and how you exit and grow from any relationship. Stay healthy, mentally, and physically!

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