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Lunch is on us! You’ll receive a lunch voucher to Pie Guys’ Pizza & More! If you decide to brunch or lunch somewhere else the day of the tour, you can use your voucher another day. It will be good for the entire month of October.

With the self-guided option, you can shop at your own pace!

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Q: WHAT MOTIVATES YOU?

A: Helping people. Period. If I hear of a need and I can do something to help fill that need, I just step in. Loving God wholeheartedly, and loving others in His Name ... that is what motivates me.

Q: WHAT IS YOUR PROUDEST ACCOMPLISHMENT?

A: This is a tough one. I would have to say my role as wife (38 years, husband is Dan), Mom to 3 grown daughters: Dr. Emily Miller (36), Kate Rath (33) and Chelsea Rath (31) and Mimi to 4 grandchildren.

All 3 daughters have grown into amazing women, who are world shapers and changers, who love their purpose/role in life, and are incredible citizens working hard to make this world a better place.

But, I’m also very proud of my mentoring roles - as an Executive Director with Beautycounter, I mentor my team of women who are trying to also make this world a better place while bringing in an income for their families; in my mentoring role with youth and other women within our church; and in several ministries that I take part in.

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Q: WHAT AREA DO YOU FEEL YOU ARE PERSONALLY GROWING IN THE MOST?

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A: Well, Covid brought me a very real need to be organized.

Perhaps that sounds silly, but it’s true. So I spent a portion of each day during the past year going through my life and straightening it up!! And, because of that, right now I feel I am better leading my Beautycounter Team; specifically helping them find a “rhythm” that is right for them ... to grow our Mission of getting safer products into the hands of everyone! In fact, if there are people reading this right now who would like to try free samples of our ah.may. zing products, please just reach out to me! I would LOVE to send some in the mail!! (Please note: email me at marykayrath.bc@gmail. com and include your name & address, and email address and/or cell number.)

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EDITOR he other day I watched a video on mindset and meditation. I’ll admit, I hardly ever meditate but I totally see the benefit of it and am planning to make it part of my routine. Even if I start with five minutes a day! One thing Dr. Joe Dispenza said in this video really stuck with me: “You can’t wait for your success to feel empowered.”

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How you think and how you feel creates your state of being…and through practicing meditation you can learn to control your thoughts and feelings. A good starting point? Be aware of what you are consuming right when you wake up. If you believe in the power of meditation or not, I think we can probably agree that opening up a rude email, hearing a depressing story on the news or seeing something frustrating on social media within a couple of minutes of waking up isn’t ideal.

It sets the tone for your day! I’ve heard it called your “media breakfast” and I really like this term.

Instead of immediately grabbing your phone (I’m raising my hand because I am so guilty of this), consider starting your day with something like meditation, reading a positive article in Forsyth Woman, watching an inspiring video or getting some fresh air and taking the dog for a walk. Give it a try for the month of July and see how you feel by the end of the month!

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Our team has worked hard on this issue, and I’m thrilled you have it in your hands! We’ve featured Simply Southern Cuisine on the cover this month. Attending cover shoots is one of my favorite parts of my job. You wouldn’t believe the attention to detail and the (sometimes) hours it can take to get the perfect photos! Especially with food photos! It was so much fun to work with Jon Eric Johnson of JEJ Photos, Lauren Sephton of A Bright Moment and the fabulous team at Simply Southern Cuisine to capture these images. Check out all the beautiful photos and read more about this delicious family-run business on page 58. When you head over to pick up a chicken pie, let them know Forsyth Woman sent you!

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Speaking of food, this month we launched a brand new column! Forsyth Mags Foodie: For Fans of Food. Our very own Lauren Sephton is the designated foodie and we kicked off this column at Ryan’s Restaurant. Read about our experience on page 26!

CONTENT EDITORS

In case you missed it, Girls’ Night Out is BACK! Last month we had an amazing time at Providence at the Manor House (check out photos from the event on page 50) and this month we’ll be at Midtown Café & Dessertery on July 14th. Come out and join us for an early birthday celebration for Keela Johnson and Robin Bralley! Keela’s birthday is on the 15th and Robin’s is on the 16th! I love celebrating these two special women in my life back to back!

Also on July 14th, if you don’t have lunch plans, I’ll be speaking at the Professional Women of Winston-Salem meeting! If you aren’t a member, join us as a guest! This group is a great asset to our community, and I’m honored to be a part of it. You can learn more and register at pwws.org.

Wishing you a safe, happy and healthy month of July!

All my best,

Brooke Eagle, Publisher

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Exceptional Young Women in the Community:

Meet Kaeley Marzano

BY AMY HILL

A senior at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, 21-year-old Kaeley Marzano balances a full academic, philanthropic, and fun schedule. Majoring in marketing with a minor in communications, Kaeley is heavily involved in various organizations across her campus. While serving as the Vice President of Recruitment and Membership for her sorority, Zeta Tau Alpha, she has had the opportunity to raise money and awareness for breast cancer, build long-lasting friendships, and meet new people - her main motivations for joining Greek life.

Although Kaeley was initially skeptical about Greek life, especially as a freshman, joining Zeta Tau Alpha surprisingly made her feel at home on campus. Seeing familiar faces around campus and meeting lifelong friends prevented her from suffering the homesickness that many college students face when they move out of their family homes for the first time. Kaeley encourages anyone on the fence about joining a sorority or fraternity to keep an open mind and give it a shot.

While there are many misconceptions about Greek life, Kaeley has had nothing but positive experiences thus far.

“Women who want to join Greek life are looking for connections, and we all value each other for who we are and are all seen as equal,” explains Kaeley. “Greek women have been the most accepting people I have met on UNC-Charlotte’s campus.”

Zeta Tau Alpha serves the community with the help of the Pink House, a respite center in Charlotte for breast cancer survivors, as well as breast cancer patients currently undergoing treatment. Kaeley has provided and served food for Pink House patients at the Pink House’s annual Thanksgiving feast. She also aided in coming up with interactive table games for patients to play at the dinner,

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which allowed her to bond with Pink House staff members and patients. Hearing the stories of individuals she met during her volunteer experiences at the Pink House had a profound impact on Kaeley, and has inspired her to remain involved in supporting those affected by breast cancer.

According to Kaeley, “Breast cancer affects one in eight women, and I felt as though joining Zeta would give me the opportunity to make a difference and get involved within the community. I have always had a passionate and loving heart, so being able to touch the lives of these women really has made joining Greek life worth it.”

In addition to Zeta’s involvement with the Pink House, Kaeley and her Zeta Tau Alpha sisters have hosted numerous events throughout the

year to raise money for breast cancer awareness and education. Zeta’s biggest event, Big Man on Campus (BMOC), takes place in October and is a collegiate, all-male talent competition where contestants from different campus organizations compete to raise funds for breast cancer awareness.

The event is so popular that it receives more attendees than any other Greek life event held on UNC-Charlotte’s campus. In fact, Kaeley and her sorority sisters have raised over $90,000 in three years by collecting donations, offering sponsorship opportunities for the event, recruiting contestants to perform, and advertising the event on campus. Although COVID-19 affected the chapter’s ability to hold its usual in-person events over the last year, Kaeley and her sisters worked diligently to reach out to the community and volunteer in every safe way possible. The challenges of the pandemic presented obstacles for raising as much money as Zeta has raised in the past, but the awareness raised for breast cancer throughout the community remains unscathed.

When Kaeley is not busy organizing events and giving back to her community with Zeta Tau Alpha, she maintains her membership in other campus organizations such as the American Marketing Association, the American Red Cross, Sigma Alpha Lambda, the National Society of Collegiate Scholars, Coloring for Chemo, and Delight Ministries. As she nears the end of her college career, Kaeley is excited to begin her upcoming internship at Charlotte Radiology. Kaeley hopes to obtain a full-time position utilizing her marketing and communication skills in the Charlotte area after college and plans to continue volunteering to raise awareness for breast cancer after graduation day.

A Lewisville native, Kaeley spends her school breaks with friends, family, and her puppy Cooper - one of her biggest supporters.

While visiting the Triad from Charlotte, Kaeley enjoys supporting local by dining at Tavern 2520 in Clemmons or shopping at Hip Chics Boutique. Follow Kaeley and her journey on Instagram at @kaeleymarzano, and check out @uncc_zta to stay up to date on the latest news from Zeta Tau Alpha.

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Keeping It Real

“ARE ALL OF THEM TOGETHER STRONGER THAN GOD?”

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER, PHOTO BY JODIE BRIM PHOTOGRAPHY

What makes you cry that you know makes God cry, too? What can you do this day to help bring change in that area? Maybe it feels small. But the Lord shows us repeatedly that nothing is too small for Him to use mightily.

One of the most profound and impactful persons I’ve ever studied must surely be William Wilberforce. This wealthy, brilliant young man from England experienced an encounter with God that radically altered every part of him. (That’s when you know it’s legit! We cannot truly come upon this Magnificent God, so much higher than our greatest comprehension of Him, without being fundamentally changed!)

Wilberforce’s newfound relationship with God led him to run for office in Parliament. He spent his life fighting for the things that mattered to God’s heart. It’s impossible to list all the ways this great man altered society for good.

(Truly! Look it up!) But his chief burden centered around abolishing the horrors of slave trade and eventually ending slavery altogether.

Fighting this demonic, oppressive stronghold required everything he owned, his wealth and his health, but he willingly gave it all. IT TOOK DECADES (and we think we’ve been waiting a while for God to move)!

I imagine all the times Wilberforce felt like he had nothing left to give. How many times did he want to “call it a day” and return to some semblance of calm? How many times did the impenetrable mountain seem too impossible to move and too costly to continue confronting?

One of the last letters penned by the great John Wesley (another of my heroes!) spoke into this brave Wilberforce and his relentless struggle to do God’s work in the earth.

Wesley said to Wilberforce, “Unless God has raised you up for this very thing, you will be worn out by the opposition of men and devils. But if God be for you, who can be against you? Are all of them together stronger than God? O be not weary of well doing! Go on, in the Name of God and in the Power of His Might!”

And so, he did! God used Wilberforce to completely destroy the demonic strongholds of slavery upon that nation.

Friends of God, He is calling us in this hour to something so much greater than ourselves. Can we dare believe that God will use US (YOU AND ME!) to bring down demonic strongholds in our nations?

Let us stop cowering in fear of all we see coming against the Church.

Let us stop buckling beneath the weight of evil agendas that completely oppose God’s heart for the nations and their people. “Are all of them together (the opposition of men and devils) stronger than God? O be not weary of well doing! Go on, in the Name of God and in the Power of His Might!”

We must stop waiting for God to swoop down and fix everything. He’s waiting on US to get up and MOVE in the Power of His Might! #BEthechange #BEthemove #beHisagentintheearth

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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MAKING EDUCATION MORE ACCESSIBLE FOR SINGLE WORKING MOTHERS IN OUR COMMUNITY

BY JENNIFER KIGER CHAPMAN

“My son is my world. Being a mother has been one of the best things that could have ever happened to me! My education will guarantee an amazing future for my son and I. I’m working hard so he can have a good life and be proud of me.”

– Briana Coad In their 2020 report Through a Gender Lens: The Economic Security of Women and Girls in Forsyth County, Forsyth Futures studied the effects of education and other factors on the economic success of women in Forsyth County. They found that “female residents with higher levels of education earn more income, and higher levels of education can increase the likelihood that children in low-income families will become higherearning adults.”1 In no uncertain terms, a college degree can be transformational, particularly for parenting mothers, because their academic success affects their employment opportunities and lifelong earning potential which ultimately impacts their children’s access to health care, health outcomes, and academic and career success. In fall 2019, 1 in 5 college students was reported to be parenting a teen or child while enrolled in classes.2 Although college parents typically have GPAs higher than their non-parenting peers, 52% of college parents leave school without a degree compared to 32% of those without children. Of those that persist, only 28% graduate from college with a degree within 6 years of initial enrollment.

In an effort to improve the outcomes for student mothers in Winston-Salem and support their economic empowerment, a group of local businesswomen called the Professional Women of Winston-Salem (PWWS) started a scholarship fund in 2000 which is awarded annually to single mothers living in or attending school in Forsyth County.

The scholarship is intended to help single mothers complete their education while juggling the demands of family, work, and school, all while demonstrating a strong commitment to their academic studies. It also helps to lower their overall education debt and allows the recipient to focus more on schoolwork and work fewer hours.

To date, the group has awarded scholarships of $2,000 each to 20 single working mothers in Forsyth County. Last year’s winner was Briana Coad (pictured with son, Lorenzo), a student at Winston-Salem State University majoring in exercise science with a concentration in fitness and performance. While accepting her award Briana shared, “This scholarship means a lot to me and my son. When I became a mom, my perspective on life shifted. With this award, I’ve felt a sense of achievement and my son continues to motivate me to be the best that I can.

A strong background in education is going to be what sets the pathway to my career and will ultimately determine the life I can give to Lorenzo.” After graduation, Briana plans to go to physical therapy school.

The PWWS Scholarship Fund will be accepting applications through July 15, 2021. For more information and eligibility criteria, visit pwws.org/scholarship or contact scholarship@pwws.org.

Sources: 1. Forsyth Futures. (2020) Through a Gender Lens: The Economic Security of Women and Girls in Forsyth County. https://www.wfgenderlens.org/ 2. United States Government Accountability Office. (Aug 2019) Report to Congressional Requesters on Higher Education. https://www.gao.gov/assets/gao-19-522.pdf.

Margaret Peg Weir (Scholarship Chair), Briana Coad, her mother, and Kineka Hull (her academic advisor at WSSU)

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Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer, a food blogger and the official Forsyth Mags Foodie! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

10-Minute Hawaiian Shrimp INGREDIENTS • 16 oz large shrimp, cleaned and deveined • 2 tbsp. extra virgin olive oil • 2 tsp. paprika • 1 tbsp. flour • 5 garlic cloves, finely minced • 3/4 tsp. salt • 1 tsp. black pepper • fresh parsley, finely chopped INSTRUCTIONS 1. In a large plastic zip bag, toss the shrimp with the paprika, flour, salt, and black pepper.

2. In a large pan over medium high heat, warm up the olive oil for 1 minute.

3. Add in the minced garlic to sauté for 1 minute, until fragrant.

4. Add the seasoned shrimp in a single layer to cook for 2-3 minutes, then flip to cook an additional 2-3 minutes, or until fully cooked.

5. Garnish with fresh parsley and enjoy warm!

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Sparks

BY GENEVIEVE CONDON

Forsyth Woman articles are primarily human interest or advertiser stories – they keep the magazine relevant, useful, friendly (and free)! This month we are stepping outside our box and doing something new: a column called Flash Fiction by new writer Genevieve Condon. Many women love romance novels and romance movies, so we thought, “What about a tiny romance tale that fits in a magazine?

One that ladies can read in a flash?”

Hope these are just enough to make you smile and your heart beat a tad faster!

The parade was the same every year, but here I stood, waving my flag because, America. Soldiers from all branches passed by, waving, and smiling.

I swung my flag a bit harder when the Navy men came by. One of the first guys that marched by looked good enough to eat. His pristine white Navy uniform fit his body like a glove, and I couldn’t help the smile that spread across my face as he passed. I swear he looked right at me and winked, but the California heat was known to play tricks on you. I shook my head once he was out of sight and tried to focus on the parade.

It was the same parade and firework display I came to every year with my family. It was a tradition I would never break.

“Hi.” I looked beside me and saw the guy I was admiring not long before. His hair was a sandy blond and only peeked out a bit from his cap.

The blueness of his eyes matched the ocean that I had loved since I was a little girl.

“Hello.” I fidgeted with my jade stone necklace that my father got me when he was stationed in Japan.

“That’s a pretty necklace, did your boyfriend get it for you?” I smiled at his question as he raised his eyebrow. He was trying to be slick and find out if I was currently attached.

“Oh, no.” I stopped playing with the necklace and relished in his eyes. “My father. He got it for me when he was stationed in Japan.”

“So, no boyfriend then?”

“Well, I don’t usually just give out my relationship status to random strangers.” I was trying to be flirtatious but was failing miserably. He laughed.

“I’m Archer. I’m in the Navy and home on leave.

I’m allergic to shellfish and I like long walks on the beach.” He took a deep breath. “Your turn.” I eyed him curiously. He was different than any man I met.

“My name’s Amanda. I’m home visiting my family like I do every fourth of July. I’m a law student and I, too, like long walks on the beach.”

Archer brought his hand dramatically to his mouth.

“It’s fate. Two people from California who like long walks on the beach. We’re destined to be together.”

Fate. Destiny. All things that every girl wanted to hear. I knew this was just a moment in time. That I was just a girl that smiled at a man as he walked by, but Archer intrigued me, and I didn’t want the conversation or the butterflies in my stomach to go away.

“What are you doing tonight?” I asked, once again fidgeting with my necklace.

He crossed his arms and grinned. “Are you asking me on a date, Amanda? We just met.”

“What can I say? I’m a sucker for a man in uniform.”

I crossed my arms. “My parents own a house on the water. It’s a great spot to see the fireworks.

Invite your friends. Come hang out. Food. Beer.

Music. It’s fun.”

He pulled out his phone and typed out a message.

It dinged almost instantly.

“We’re in.” He handed me his phone. “Put in your number and I can hook up with you in a bit. We want to change out of our uniforms.”

I plugged in my number.

“Okay then. I’ll see you soon.”

“Yes. You will.” Archer left me to finish watching the parade, feeling like I was on cloud nine. *** Archer and I were able to sneak away from the party to take a walk on the beach. We found a spot by the dock to sit and talk.

“I couldn’t picture myself doing anything else.” Archer played with the sand as it flowed between his fingers. “I love my job. I love my country. I’m honored to serve.”

“Sounds like you have everything you want.”

“Not everything.” He looked over at me, the air around us changing. There was no denying that we were attracted to each other but… this. The feeling of him just being close to me, our fingers almost touching, it was intense, like sparks and fireworks all combined.

“Look!” I pointed to the sky where the fireworks had just started lighting up in various colors. It didn’t matter how old I got; I still loved the fireworks.

Our fingers that were brushing against each other now were intertwined.

“Perfect,” Archer said, looking down at our hands before focusing back on the fireworks.

His profile was highlighted by the colors that danced in the sky. I wanted to seize the moment, not let the feeling of just living and being happy pass me by. Leaning in, I placed a kiss against his cheek.

Archer didn’t say anything; he just squeezed my hand even tighter as we watched the sky light up for freedom. For our country. For sparks that could be something more.

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Show Off Your Patriotic Side this July Shop Local at Ellie Ray Boutique

BY AMY HILL

Need a new outfit for your upcoming Fourth of July cook-out or need new beach gear for your tropical family vacation? Spread your patriotism and support local this summer by shopping in-store and online at Ellie Ray Boutique.

From quality clothing, custom-made tumblers, and Dock & Bay beach towels, Winston-Salem’s Ellie Ray Boutique has everything you need to celebrate summer in style.

At Ellie Ray’s new location at 3292 Silas Creek Parkway, shelves are stocked with merchandise made locally or produced in the USA. Emily Smith, the boutique’s owner, is adamant about supporting local businesses and understands why it’s important to do so. According to Emily, the quality of locally made clothing, accessories, or home decor is typically much higher than massproduced products at a rapid rate in other parts of the world. While many boutique owners might be tempted to stock up on items that will sell fast, Emily selects merchandise for the store that is high in both popularity and quality.

Named in honor of her late mother, Ellie Ray Boutique was opened by Emily in 2017. In fact, with July 6th being her mother’s birthday, Emily chose to feature her boutique in the July issue of Forsyth Woman to honor her mother.

Emily and her mother loved spending time together by shopping, which inspired her to open her own boutique and continue her mother’s legacy. In addition to her avid shopping history, Emily had experience working in retail and even became Eckerd’s youngest store manager at just 18 years old.

Filled with entrepreneurial spirit and drive, Emily took a leap of faith to open the shop and works her hardest every day to give her customers the best shopping experience possible.

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While the pandemic was nothing short of an obstacle for most local businesses throughout the country, the challenges of COVID-19 served as an eye-opener for Emily, inspiring her to work harder than ever to keep her dream alive.

Working daily from Monday through Saturday, Emily prefers putting all of her love and effort into making the current Ellie Ray Boutique location the best and only location. While expanding the boutique would bring more financial opportunities for the Ellie Ray gang, Emily’s emphasis on quality goods and outstanding customer service is why she wants Ellie Ray to remain a “one-anddone” boutique.

The team at Ellie Ray stays up to date on the latest fashion trends for their shoppers. Recently, Emily has noticed an uptick in the popularity of jeans with a more relaxed fit, such as “boyfriend jeans” or “mom jeans,” while noticing shoppers beginning to drift away from skinny jeans - something Emily and many of her peers (including myself) refuse to part ways with. Additionally, the boutique sells other hot and trendy clothing items such as custom bleachwashed tees, band tees, and graphic tees. Although following fashion trends is fun and natural, the boutique also sells timeless staples that shoppers can wear for years on end.

If you’re looking for a new delicious scent to fill your home with, Ellie Ray Boutique sells Doodlations candles, which are hand-poured in WinstonSalem and make adorable decorations for your home. In fact, Emily met Kim, the founder of Doodlations, during her former job at the Forsyth County Clerk’s office. What started as a hobby for Kim turned profitable, with her delicately designed candles, wax melts, and whipped soaps becoming Ellie Ray customers’ favorites. As COVID restrictions have eased, Emily and Kim hope to team up in the near future to host pour parties at the boutique to give customers a glimpse into the art of candle-making.

Ready to shop and support local this July?

Browse the racks at Ellie Ray Boutique in-person at their brand new location on Silas Creek Parkway or shop online at ellierayboutique.com. To keep up with the latest sales and trends, check out the team’s Facebook page or follow Emily and her gang on Instagram at @ ellierayboutique. 336.893.8764.

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BY TABATHA RENEGAR

9.25.2020/DEAR DIARY:

1.15.2021/DEAR DIARY:

We can’t wait to go tent camping at Huntington Beach, SC this weekend! The forecast looks perfect - 80s and clear! We’ve packed the tent, the cots, the portable stove, the Yeti, the dogs, and we’re ready to roll!!

A new year, new hope, and new plans to be made! I have booked a few weekends for tent camping. Spouse says, “We’re buying an RV,” but I just ignore him. I am not sure he knows this, but according to the RV Industry Association, RV sales in some areas went up 170 percent in 2020! Not only can we not afford a new RV, but used ones are nearly impossible to find!

9.27.2020/DEAR DIARY: Didn’t see that coming!

As we were sitting down to a boiled shrimp feast at our campsite, the sky opened up, and it started to rain. We scrambled to get everything in the tent to wait it out.

And we waited.

And waited.

The rain never stopped, so we did our best to go to sleep. Then we woke, and it was still raining.

We tried to wait it out but had to pack up everything in the rain to head home. The dogs were no help at all.

2.1.2021/DEAR DIARY: Our first tent camping trip of the year is confirmed for April at Huntington Beach, SC. Yes, that is the same place where we had the awful, unexpected rain last year, but I am optimistic! Spouse can’t get his eyeballs off Craigslist and Facebook Marketplace and swears he will find a fabulous, used, affordable RV by April. The dogs and I are dusting off the tent and the cots.

3.1.2021/DEAR DIARY:

9.28.2020/DEAR DIARY:

Spouse made us go to Camping World and Outdoors Mart today “just to look” at RVs. Wow. Queen size beds… air conditioning…. refrigerators.

Spouse says we’re buying an RV! I said, “You’re crazy! We’re not RV people - we’re tent people!” Spouse says, “If we had had an RV, we could have gone inside with our shrimp and had a fun night instead of listening to rain and praying for it to stop.”

I ignore him.

I must admit, the idea of not schlepping tents, coolers, cots, bedding, Yetis, ice, more ice, our portable propane stove, lanterns, and more ice is appealing! But still… an RV? Us? Next thing you know, I’ll be using some kitschy “happy camper” drink tumblers!

10.16.2020/DEAR DIARY:

Nope… the tent is for me!

We are not RV people.

Had to cancel tent camping plans for the weekend due to weather. Spouse says we’re buying an RV. I said, “You need to get over your rainy tent-camping-PTSD!” He said, “I’ll start looking on Facebook Marketplace.”

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3.15.2021/DEAR DIARY: WE BOUGHT AN RV! I am really not sure how it happened…

Spouse has been telling me how people were making over-the-asking-price offers on RVs without even seeing them because the camping craze of the pandemic is alive and well! And I kept saying,

“Exactly!! It’s nuts out there; we are NOT RV people!” But then…

He saw a listing for a used 2015 Palomini that met 98% of his RV purchase criteria: • Our price point • Small enough to tow behind our Honda Ridgeline • Big enough for two but not for company • Shower and toilet inside The next thing I know, we are in Kernersville, meeting two amazingly kind people and looking at the RV they are selling because they now have a bigger one. And here’s the thing: the minute I walked inside and saw the big window next to the dinette, I had to have it! I could picture all of our future camping trips and the various, amazing views that we would have from that window, rain or shine.

If a human can have love at first sight for an inanimate object, this was it! An offer was made, and we await delivery.

6.3.2021/DEAR DIARY: We have now taken two successful camping trips with Jeffrey P, the RV, and we couldn’t be happier!

Has there been a learning curve? Absolutely!

The towing, the hooking up, the parking…. they make shirts that say, “Please forgive me for what I said when I was parking the RV” for a reason! But as it turns out, WE ARE RV PEOPLE! It rained on both trips and we didn’t mind... it gave us a chance to come inside, play dominos, listen to music - on the Bluetooth stereo, for Pete’s sake! – and just BE. The dogs have adjusted quite well, and we sleep like babies in the queen size TempurPedic bed. We are meeting the nicest and most interesting RV neighbors and loving everything about this new chapter in our lives! And turns out, all my RV neighbors love my “happy camper” drink tumblers as much as I do! I guess we are, indeed, RV people.

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FOR FANS OF FOOD! ARTICLE & PHOTOS BY LAUREN SEPHTON

A 21 year old chef with a college degree and one cookbook already under her belt, Lauren Sephton’s enthusiasm for food is almost extravagant. She doesn’t just eat food, she celebrates it; she doesn’t just prepare meals for people, she lavishes her dishes on them. A foodie who knows how to feast, photograph and formulate her own recipes and articles for Forsyth Woman, Lauren is our new Forsyth Foodie! Please join us in welcoming her!

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Ryan’s Restaurant 7 1 9 C O L I S E U M D R N W, W I N S T O N - S A L E M , N C 2 7 1 0 6 • 3 3 6 . 7 2 4 . 6 1 3 2 • R YA N S R E S TA U R A N T. C O M

Ryan’s Restaurant has been a Winston-Salem staple since its doors opened in 1977. And even though they’re only minutes from downtown and the Wake Forest University campus, Ryan’s offers a hidden surprise - your escape from the hustle and bustle.

From their window table seating to their large starlight deck, you’ll be sure to find serenity within the panoramic view of large oaks alongside a gentle stream running beneath a bridge twinkling with lights. You may even spot a few blue birds passing by earlier in the evenings! Whether you’re celebrating or simply dining, Ryan’s can turn any night into an experience with its intimate atmosphere and impeccable service.

At our visit, we were blessed with the opportunity to briefly speak with the very welcoming owner, Dennis Carter, and young chef, Jon Willis, to learn more about the hard work each team member puts into creating such an atmosphere, the creative touches Chef Willis is adding to the timeless menu, and how they only provide their guests with the highest quality ingredients. By the time our conversation finished, we had decided to hand in our menus and allow them to pick and choose for us. And to say we were amazed, would be an understatement.

The evening began with their Heirloom Cherry Tomato Caprese that took a little twist on the traditional Italian appetizer. The fresh mozzarella paired beautifully with the firm, almost crunchy, cherry tomatoes that are naturally a bit sweeter than your typical tomato, then plated with a balsamic reduction, micro greens, and a vibrant green spinach pesto that brought out all the herbaceous flavors.

The fresh caprese was then followed by their Ahi Tuna Tartare appetizer that is tossed in a sesamecitrus vinaigrette, chives, and shallots with a side of crispy wontons for the most divine pre-dinner indulgence. The citrus and chives perfectly complemented the silky taste of the tuna, and the scattered sesame seeds added a nice crunch for texture. Eat it on its own or with the crispy wontons, you can’t go wrong!

And thanks to Chef Willis, we were able to have a sneaky taste of a seasonal entree, Confit Duck Breast, as one final appetizer. While it’s typically served alongside a creamy vanilla sweet potato mash, still slightly crispy yet tender haricot verts, pickled cherries, and a blackberry pomegranate duck demi, we were able to have a savory version that tied in quite flawlessly with the ahi tuna tartare.

It was plated next to a crisp cabbage and bell pepper salad with a sweet sesame-soy dressing.

Let’s just say, there are few and far in between that can cook duck correctly - keeping it tender, moist, yet full of flavor - and Ryan’s is one of them!

Moving on to the entrees, we began the first of three with the most heavenly Pan Seared Scallops that were delicately sweet with a browned crust on the outside, yet the inside texture was as soft as butter. They were garnished with an apricot beurre blanc sauce and a citrus parmesan gremolata for a little crunch. Hungry, yet? Well, we still aren’t finished... The scallops are also served over an almond pearl cous cous and asparagus, whose salty, earthy notes balanced out the natural sweetness from the citrus.

Next on the menu was their Chilean Sea Bass that was once again seared to perfection, crispy on the outside and tender on the inside. It was served with citrus basil basmati rice, sautéed asparagus that still had a slight crunch for the best texture, a pineapple salsa, balsamic reduction, and micro greens that are in full blossom this time of year.

And as any local will say, you can’t leave Ryan’s Restaurant without having a steak, and they aren’t wrong. Serving only the best choice meats, their 5oz Prime Filet Mignon did not disappoint. It is a steak that is designed to impress with its lean cut that’s tender, and a texture that’ll just melt in your mouth.

With stomachs full and satisfied, we rounded out the evening with our publisher Brooke Eagle’s favorite. Their Vanilla Bean Crème Brulee was beautifully plated with a fresh raspberry puree and dollops of whipped cream. It was a wonderful balance between the light custard, the floral notes of the vanilla bean, and the nuttiness of the top layer of caramelized sugar.

Nevertheless, Ryan’s Restaurant is a treat that can be enjoyed on all occasions! Thank you Mr. Carter and Chef Willis for one of the most amazing meals and a pleasant night. Now, if your stomach is grumbling, here is your sign to head on over to Ryan’s Restaurant tonight and tell them that the Forsyth Foodie said hi!

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On the Road Again: Seven Days in Utah

BY AMY HILL

Going on an adventure out west? Here’s how to spend seven days in the spectacular State of Utah.

Day 1 - Arrive in Utah and Head to Moab

When flying commercially to the State of Utah, it’s almost impossible to avoid a long drive to and from a major airport. Depending on where your starting point is, landing in a neighboring state such as Arizona or Nevada might be a better option. In my opinion, however, Salt Lake City International Airport (SLC) is the most pleasant (and beautiful) option. While it is far away from the destinations you’ll be visiting for the week, don’t be scared off by driving a few hours immediately upon arrival.

Opt for an early morning flight in order to enjoy the stunning scenery in the daylight as you drive nearly four hours to Moab. Personally, Moab is one of the best cities I’ve ever visited due to its charming downtown area and proximity to two of the best National Parks in the state. I recommend choosing a hotel in downtown so you can easily walk to restaurants or shops when you aren’t busy hiking.

Day 2 - Arches National Park & Canyonlands Island in the Sky

Wake up early for your first full day in Moab and head to Arches National Park. The visitor’s center is only a 10-minute drive from your downtown hotel, making heading out the door by 8:00 in the morning not as painful of a task. The trails in Arches are on the shorter side, in comparison to other parks in the state, and while there are some trails I’d highly recommend (Double O Arch Trail and Delicate Arch Trail), it’s better to save your energy for hiking later in the week.

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After exploring Arches for the morning hours, take a break for lunch and head to the Island in the Sky district of Canyonlands National Park. This is the most popular area of the park and is best explored via the scenic drive as well. In my opinion, the best photo opportunities along the scenic drive are White Rim Overlook and Mesa Arch.

Day 3 - Canyonlands Needles District

I cannot stress enough how important it is not to skip this area of Canyonlands National Park. The Needles visitor’s center is a whopping 90-minute drive from Moab, but the views at Elephant Hill are not to be missed. This district is much better suited for experienced hikers, and I highly suggest using a GPS to help you along the trails, as spotting the cairns can be confusing. You won’t have to worry about crowds here, but I would still recommend arriving earlier in the morning.

Day 5 - Drive to Zion National Park

Zion is a hot spot for tourists, especially in the summer months. In high season, most of the popular sights in the park are only accessible via shuttle or bike (unless you like walking for hours). Check Zion’s website in advance to purchase shuttle tickets so you don’t miss out on hiking the exhilarating Angel’s Landing trail one of the more dangerous hikes in the country.

If you’re not up for an adrenaline rush, enjoy walking along the Virgin River or hiking along the Watchman Trail for breathtaking views of Springdale.

Day 6 - Downtown Salt Lake City

After spending the day hiking on one of the many strenuous and lengthy trails in this area, head back to Moab for tasty fish tacos and a prickly pear mojito at The Spoke on Center. This is one of the best spots in downtown for tasty food, outdoor seating, and people watching.

After your short stay in St. George, drive four hours north to Salt Lake City to prepare for your flight home the following day. Hotels in Salt Lake are plentiful, but I suggest staying downtown for the afternoon to enjoy a break from nature. For dinner, head to Settebello Pizzeria Napoletana for truly some of the best pizza you’ll ever eat (the pear and jalapeño marmalade pizza is much better than it sounds). After dinner, pack your bags and get a good night’s sleep for your long flight home the next day.

Day 4 - Drive to St. George, Utah

Day 7 - Head Home

Check out of your hotel and enjoy the nearly fivehour drive west to St. George, Utah. This is a much cheaper area to stay when visiting Zion National Park than Springdale, although it requires a short 55-minute drive to and from the park. There are plenty of hotels and family-friendly restaurants in this area to compensate for the drive.

Drive to Salt Lake City International Airport for your flight home. You can skip stopping for breakfast or coffee prior to arriving at the airport. There’s a great place for coffee and French toast in the charming and quiet airport before you board the aircraft and catch a tailwind home.

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BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

I’m seeing more and more people come to classes and contact me for coaching to work on interpersonal communication skills. This is completely understandable – we are transitioning to “back to normal” after more than a year of mainly communicating halfway – if we were working from home, we’ve been communicating through a computer screen. If we were working at a location, we’ve been wearing a mask.

With both of those limited communication methods, you’re losing important data: through a screen, we forget how people feel! We all bring energy and emotions into a conversation, if you’re feeling joy, stress, frustration, excitement, whatever, you’re bringing that into the conversation and space you’re taking up. If you’re in-person and talking through a mask, you’ve taken away half of your facial expressions; sure, we can tell if people are smiling with their eyes, but how vulnerable and intimate is consistent eye contact?

While we haven’t forgotten how to talk to people, we have dropped some of the skills we had pre-pandemic – couple that with the contested environment we’re currently in historically, and you have a recipe for communication disaster. If you’re feeling any of these anxieties or need a refresh, keep reading for interpersonal communication tips as you brace for full re-entry.

LISTENING IS STILL KEY. I don’t write an article for any publication about communication without this advice. It’s often seen as foundational, and so many people are looking for the larger “silver bullet,” but the truth is, this is one of the most effective things that people miss!

When you’re getting back into the groove of in-person, don’t forget to listen. Real talk: when you were on the Zoom, you were probably doing a few other things at the same time.

No shame! Just encouraging you not to do that in person. Ditch the distractions and focus on the person in front of you. If you find yourself drifting, bring it back and pick up words they are saying to summarize or reiterate in your responses.

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MIND YOUR BODY LANGUAGE.

ACKNOWLEDGE EXPERIENCES.

DON’T GO TOO FAST.

I found myself, again, in a meeting and sitting like a croissant.

Thankfully, this was at home, but look at your posture: are you sitting all scrunched up? Remember when we would talk about how folks would stand with their arms crossed and thought they looked standoffish or disengaged or insecure?

If someone is sharing something with you, acknowledge that you heard them. I know we’re in this new world where we have experienced so much trauma, joy, adventure, solidarity – by ourselves – so we have so many things we want to share. If someone is taking time to tell you about something, listen to them with a full heart and attention instead of getting ready to tell them about your experience.

This has been a big piece of advice lately: we’re going to want to do all the things and go to all the events and see all the people. What happens when you go to a restaurant and order all the food? You might have joy for a moment; then you feel ill. Take your time on reentry: don’t go too fast, and keep taking care of yourself.

Now that we’re back in spaces, be aware of your body language, and watch others! If you’re sitting or standing all crunched up, and someone might get the impression that you’re nervous or something similar, fix it! If you’re cold (I know, how were offices always this cold?!), say that! Don’t just sit there and let folks wonder.

Need some guidance on this one?

Take some turns with yourself being an asker and a teller – an asker does exactly that: asks questions!

A teller shares experiences.

Make sure you’re giving yourself time to do both.

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Tell ice cream to take a seat in the back of the freezer as the summer heat makes way for a new favorite treat in town! Introducing, a delicious and refreshing cool down snack – gourmet popsicles!

#2 TOASTED COCONUT LATTE POPSICLES

Whether you’ve been hitting up your local farmer’s market or vacationing in a cute beach town as of late, you’ve probably seen all different varieties of gourmet popsicles being sold. Flavors can vary from simple and familiar combinations like strawberry-banana, to more daring and complex flavor profiles such as spicy salted watermelon margarita!

INGREDIENTS ½ cup unsweetened coconut flakes (toasted @ 325 degrees) 3 cups coconut cream, divided ¼ cup maple syrup, divided ½ teaspoon vanilla extract, divided ¼ teaspoon pink Himalayan salt, divided 1 cup cold brew coffee

If you are ready to create your own frozen treat, we’ve got 5 gourmet popsicle recipes right here for you to create a refreshing taste of summer in your own kitchen for any occasion!

Basic Tools to Get Started: Popsicle Freezer Molds Wooden Popsicle Sticks (optional) Blender or Food Processor Freezer

#1 MANGO LASSI POPSICLES Perfect for: The girls’ night hostess serving up some Instagram worthy summer snacks INGREDIENTS 1 cup cubed mango 1 cup yogurt ¼ cup water or milk, your choice ¼ teaspoon cardamom powder ½ teaspoon saffron strands 3-4 tablespoons honey Blend cubed mango until smooth. Add in the remaining ingredients, blend until smooth. Pour into molds leaving ¼” of room to allow for expanding. Freeze for 8 hours or overnight before enjoying.

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Perfect for: The teacher who deserves a tropical getaway but will settle for Starbucks and sunshine at home

Blend all ingredients until smooth making sure to set aside your divided ingredients. Pour mixture halfway up the molds and freeze. Add remaining divided ingredients and blend for about 1 minute until smooth. Fill molds the rest of the way with coffee mixture. Add popsicle sticks and freeze for 3 hours or overnight.

#3 STRAWBERRY GREEK YOGURT POPSICLES Perfect for: The “cool mom” who wants something healthy for the kids without them knowing it INGREDIENTS 1 lb. fresh strawberries, rinsed and hulled 2 cup vanilla-flavored Greek yogurt Sprinkling of brown sugar, to taste Blend or process strawberries on pulse until they resemble a jam with a few bigger pieces in the mix. Pour into a mixing bowl with yogurt and brown sugar and fold together. Spoon into molds and freeze overnight.

#4 BLUEBERRY LEMON PUDDING POPSICLES Perfect for: The best BBQ host on the block looking to cool down with guests (once the burgers are done) INGREDIENTS 1 cup heavy cream 1 cup milk 1 tablespoon sugar 1/2 cup lemon juice 3 tsp lemon zest 3 cup blueberries Whisk together lemon juice, lemon zest, sugar and cream. Place blueberries into molds leaving room at top. Carefully pour lemon mixture into molds over top of blueberries.

Freeze for 6 hours or overnight.

#5 BOOZY MOJITO POPSICLES Perfect for: The woman juggling it all who deserves a little “quarantini” PM snack after these last 16 months INGREDIENTS 2 oz. Bacardi Light Rum 3 oz fresh lime juice 3 oz. simple syrup 2½ cup lemon lime soda 12 fresh mint leaves 3 cup ice cubes 1 lime, peeled and sliced thinly Blend all ingredients (except the lime slices) until smooth and resembles a slushy. Place a lime slice in each empty popsicle mold before pouring in the mixture into the molds. Add Popsicle sticks and freeze for 8 hours or overnight. Of course, please enjoy responsibly and store out of reach of little one’s hands.

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Speaking the Language of Change Doris Molina-Henry, PhD, and Assistant Professor in the Department of Physical Therapy at WinstonSalem State University (WSSU), possesses a knack for languages. She excelled as a young girl growing up in the Dominican Republic in interpreting for an English-speaking medical team abroad, called Healing Children Midlantic, during their annual trips to her small hometown. With encouragement from a team member, Arch Aitcheson, Dr. MolinaHenry applied to one college in the US. Her voice (and her brain) “literally” brought her to the US, where she earned a scholarship to Elon University, then completed her PhD and post-doctoral training at Wake Forest University Department of Neurobiology and Anatomy. Dr. Molina-Henry is an Afro-Caribbean Latina woman who dreams big! With a supportive family, both in the Dominican Republic and here in North Carolina, Dr. Molina-Henry is making a difference in our community.

Influenced by her father who battles a degenerative spinal condition and who never saw obstacles from his wheelchair – only challenges to navigate around – Dr. Molina-Henry is giving a voice to underserved adults in our community who are at risk for cognitive decline. She reports that, “African Americans are twice as likely to experience dementia when compared to Caucasian Americans, while Hispanic-Americans are 1.5 times as likely, both groups suffering from earlier onset.”

Dr. Molina-Henry researches how lifestyle changes can help protect brain health in older adults who are at increased risk for cognitive decline, part of the Wake Forest School of Medicine and the U.S. Pointer clinical study. She is part of the Wake Forest U.S. POINTER Sleep sub-study team, whose

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focus is on the relationships between sleep and the ability of the brain to combat dementia. Additionally, she is exploring potential markers in blood and cerebrospinal fluid that might be involved in the cognitive benefits of aerobic exercise. While just recently, a drug that may treat Alzheimer’s disease was approved by the FDA, “decreasing the risk or delaying the progression through lifestyle changes is important research, especially for underserved populations who are not always well represented in medical trials or who lack access to early cognitive screenings and adequate medical care.” Lifestyle interventions help manage modifiable risk factors for Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias including poor eating habits, sedentary lifestyle, cigarette smoking and sleep disturbances. She urges older adults who experience changes to their thinking and memory to ask their primary care provider about cognitive screenings earlier rather than later, as earlier detection and intervention can help reduce the risk of progression. You don’t have to be a scientist and an interpreter like Dr. Molina-Henry to understand that lifestyle changes can potentially help the brain combat functional decline through better sleep (when the brain clears harmful proteins), more oxygen (through physical activity and better cardiovascular function), and healthier food choices (nutrients the brain needs to function). Statistics reported in March 2021 by the Alzheimer’s Association speak loudly to the need for this research: 2021 Alzheimer’s Disease Facts and Figures: At a Glance: Prevalence, Incidence and Mortality • An estimated 6.2 million Americans age 65 and older are living with Alzheimer’s dementia in 2021.

• More than 1 in 9 people (11.3%) age 65 and older has Alzheimer’s dementia.

• Two-thirds of Americans over age 65 with Alzheimer’s dementia (3.8 million) are women.

• Deaths due to Alzheimer’s between 2000 and 2019 has more than doubled, increasing 145%.

• 1 in 3 seniors dies with Alzheimer’s or another dementia.

Dr. Molina-Henry grew up in a family that always gave to others, despite not having “extra” to give away. She gives of herself to her physical therapy students at WSSU, to her Wake Forest and WSSU colleagues, to her family here in the US and in the Dominican, and to her research. She hopes her pursuits will change the quality of life and health outcomes for adults and caregivers battling cognitive decline, especially those who are medically underserved. She is blessed with the ability to think creatively and talk rapidly! Muy bueno, Dr. Molina-Henry! Our community will benefit from hearing your voice and learning more about how we can combat dementia.

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Lighting Is Important Whether you are building a new home or updating your current home, lighting fixtures are an important aspect of interior design that are often left to the last minute. Light fixtures can define the style of your home and affect the overall ambiance of the space and should not be overlooked. Replacing outdated light fixtures in your home is an easy way to achieve a whole new look without major construction. My clients are always excited about the new options I can show them for lighting, whether they are replacing bathroom vanity lights, adding a fabulous dining room chandelier, or looking at an entire house of lighting.

While the lighting portion of your budget might need to be robust, it is well worth the investment. When it comes to “form meets function,” nothing could be truer of your lighting. From ambient to task to accent lighting, this critical part of any design project cannot be underestimated. The world of lighting is a dynamic one, with legally mandated changes occurring as we make our planet a friendlier place. The use of energyefficient LED lighting has become more affordable and has improved with function and lighting spectrums. In addition to the changes in light bulb options, we are constantly adding resources to our repertoire at June DeLugas Interiors of lighting fixtures to suit any style.

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The spring and fall furniture market brings two events that we look forward to all year. The High Point Markets allows us to observe the latest trends and new products in the world of home furnishings, accessories, and especially lighting. This year because of the Pandemic, the spring market was postponed until June 2021. We in the retail and design industry have become excited about these events. We love new introductions, and we are privy before the public begins to feel the effects of new introductions. It is like the experience of opening Christmas presents – so exciting. Our adrenaline is pumping out the creative juices. We can turnkey your projects from start to finish, whether it is a bathroom/kitchen remodel or a new room of furniture, rugs, and accessories.

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Drink Local

AT BLACK MOUNTAIN CHOCOLATE BAR’S BRAND NEW LOCATION

BY AMY HILL

If you’re craving a break from distilleries, breweries, or your local dive bar, switch up your Saturday night routine and indulge your sweet tooth. At its new location in Bailey South, Winston-Salem’s beloved Black Mountain Chocolate is now serving up delectable craft cocktails alongside its classic chocolate treats and coffee drinks.

I rarely say no to an opportunity to try out a new local gem, so when I discovered that Black Mountain Chocolate had added a full bar to its new location, my friend Kim Beane and I didn’t hesitate to make an appearance. Upon arrival, we were pleasantly surprised by the ample bar seating available, along with the factory’s bright ambiance and mouthwatering chocolate aroma. We were greeted and served by friendly and knowledgeable bartenders Alex and Trey, who helped lead our taste buds in the right direction. During our first round of drinks, Kim ordered the delicious Fire on the Mountain cocktail, a Kahlua and whipped cream vodka-based chocolate drink topped with a toasted marshmallow and surrounded by a crushed graham cracker rim. With its delicious taste and appearance, this drink is top-notch and one of the factory’s staple cocktails.

Having a soft spot for coffee, I ordered an absolutely delightful espresso martini topped with coffee beans to munch on after I devoured the drink. The espresso martini packs a nice, light punch of caffeine and vodka, so drink responsibly.

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wanted something on the fruitier side.

Kim’s Beary Bramble was an excellent choice for fruit-lovers, with lemon and blackberries stealing the spotlight. To add a bit of Latin flair to my Sunday, I chose the Spicy Paloma - a tequila cocktail with a grapefruit twist. Although I was initially hesitant about the incorporation of Chalulah and jalapeño syrup, this recipe was the perfect combination of refreshing grapefruit with a subtle kick.

Black Mountain Chocolate owner Brent Peters is passionate about artisanship and craftsmanship - two qualities that helped propagate his career in the chocolatemaking industry. When his affinity for creation dipped its curious toe in craft cocktails, what started as experimentation with recipes for close family and friends soon resulted in a new cocktail bar where Black Mountain Chocolate lovers can pair craft cocktails with their classic favorite BMC desserts. The bar’s detailed cocktail menu guides patrons on which drinks pair perfectly with treats such as Black Mountain Chocolate’s cocoa nib brownie or the salted caramel tart.

As a bean-to-bar chocolate factory, BMC’s chocolate is born from raw cocoa beans from a fair-trade co-operative in the Dominican Republic. The beans are roasted, ground, and transformed into chocolate in-house, with plate glass windows allowing visitors to watch the process inside the factory from start to finish. Black Mountain Chocolate’s reputation is not solely attributable to its chocolate alone, but for a combination of its perfected chocolate recipes,

unforgettable desserts, and its one-of-akind factory experience for customers.

To add to its esteemed factory experience, Black Mountain Chocolate hosts monthly tasting events for attendees to sample flights of featured spirits, paired with sweet or savory small plates from the kitchen. Additionally, the factory hosts craft cocktail classes to teach patrons how to concoct libations of their own.

If that’s not exciting enough, beginning this month, ice cream, water ice [similar to Italian ices], and sorbet will be making their debut at the factory as well!

Although Black Mountain Chocolate has expanded its menu, location, and event schedule, according to Marketing Manager Marissa Joyce, BMC is still dedicated to keeping the factory and ambiance “sweetly southern.” While the factory itself has undergone massive changes and improvements, the team’s focus on using local ingredients, local suppliers, local flavors, and local inspirations remains unscathed.

Craving one of Black Mountain Chocolate’s new cocktails? Visit BMC’s new location in Downtown Winston-Salem at 450 N Patterson Avenue, Suite 110.

They are located in the Coal Pit in the new Bailey South Building, right across the street from Bailey Park. Read more about the factory hours and products at blackmountainchocolate.com. To stay up to date on the latest news and events from the team at BMC, check out the team’s Facebook page or follow @blackmtnchoc on Instagram.

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Jump at the Sun

BY MARTIE EMORY

Take a minute to visit Jumpatthesun.org, and you’ll realize their mission to enhance the social studies experience for local elementary children revolves around the belief that our history is not the result of just one story, but many untold stories that define us all!

A collaboration between Action4Equality, Bookmarks, Heritage 365, Read Write Spell, The Winston-Salem Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., and WinstonSalem/Forsyth County Schools, Jump at the Sun takes its name from master storyteller Zora Neale Hurston, an anthropologist, author, and filmmaker, who wrote Dust Tracks on a Road, where the central mother character nudged her children to “jump at the sun” every chance they had, noting you might not always land on the sun, but you would at least get off the ground!

With those inspiring words, the program is the culmination of a vision that every WS/ FC school be fully equipped with the books, curriculum tools, and educator training to deliver a historically appropriate, multicultural photo of our collective history. It’s also the first book drive to purchase books teachers need to teach the African American Infusion Curriculum, after a need to review history being taught to WS/FC students, and the “K12 Cultural Infusion Project” began in 2019.

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Jump at the Sun believes every child will benefit from an educational system willing to teach every aspect of our national history, and their plan is to work to ensure they are offering high-quality social studies instruction to students. The group wants to increase focus on instructional materials for elementary social studies, and increase the class time the subject is given for those age children.

Their hope is that by developing lessons aligned to social studies standards using picture books and other texts that are incorporated into literacy instruction, that more students will be exposed to the content. Paired with the goal to have all students ‘see themselves’ in their classroom experiences, this effort will lead to the development of book lists that combine multicultural stories and characters with the social studies standards for elementary classes.

The book drive’s goal is to buy 1,222 books, or 26 titles for each of the district’s 47 elementary schools, says Sara Fox from Jump at the Sun, and donations of any amount may be made at jumpatthesun.org. They also invite the community to join them in education equity when it comes to educating and empowering the whole child.

Specific book titles can also be selected and donated through Bookmarks (bookmarksnc.org/wishlists). Local groups interested in helping with the project may also visit jumpatthesun.org/contact, or follow them on Facebook and Instagram @jumpatthesun_wsnc.

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BY TABATHA RENEGAR

You’ve probably seen the lines wrapping around the crisp white building on West End Boulevard most mornings and occasionally, later in the day. And perhaps you’ve heard the rumors about the most decadent cinnamon rolls on the East Coast! (It’s true, by the way… they really are something to behold!)

But did you know that the magic taking place inside Lavender and Honey is being expertly managed by a dynamic mother-daughter team!?

Meet Naomi and Natalie Gingerich.

As a young girl, Naomi learned the basics of baking from her own mother which fueled her passion to continue educating herself. Years of experience was gleaned by participating in cooking clubs with friends around the world. She also fine-tuned her talents in the art of pie baking with help from her mother-in-law so it’s easy to understand why the family aspect of creating delicious food together is deeply ingrained in Naomi. Her daughter Natalie remembers a childhood filled with only homemade food, so it has always been second nature to Natalie to create from scratch. Naturally, everything in the Lavender and Honey kitchen is made from scratch, too, using organic milled flour from North Carolina.

It’s one thing to be fabulous at baking seasonally inspired heirloom recipes to create decadent desserts. It’s quite another to take those skills out of the safety of your kitchen at home and open a bakery that’s open five days a week! “We knew it would be busy opening our shop over the holidays. However, what took us by surprise is that the lines have not dwindled since.

We are incredibly grateful for the support of our customers and our West End neighborhood,” Naomi said of their success and popularity.

When you enter Lavender and Honey, you are immediately engulfed warmly by the bright, welcoming décor and the highenergy sounds from the kitchen and the front counter. I always wonder when I see a new business bustling and succeeding, what the entrepreneurs have learned from the experience or what they might do differently. The response?

“Design a bigger kitchen. Hire more people.”

And when asked what keeps them awake at night and what brings the most satisfaction, the duo had this to say: Natalie: Thinking about quality control - how to produce consistently perfect and delicious food every day.

Naomi: Seeing how much people love the beautiful and delicious food we work hard to create is what brings me the most satisfaction.

Although hard to imagine these two determined entrepreneurs doing anything else, I asked what it might be, if not Lavender and Honey?

Natalie: I was working in fashion before this but opening up our bakery has made me realize how much I like being an entrepreneur and how much I like business.

Naomi: Gardening and growing herbs and flowers.

With the unwavering support of their family, including son-in-law and barista Luke Skaggs and Chief Cookie Tester, 3 year old Louis, Naomi and Natalie are growing the business and have big plans for the future of Lavender and Honey.

Soon, they will begin a shipping program that will allow those famous cinnamon rolls to delight hungry people everywhere!

They will also continue to focus on brand building and other opportunities for Lavender and Honey to grow and expand.

“Owning our business and being a part of our city is so fulfilling and is a dream come true. We are honored to be a part of historic West End.” Pay a visit to Lavender and Honey at 401 West End Boulevard and online at lavenderandhoneykitchen.com, or on Facebook and instagram @lavenderandhoneykitchen. You can call the store at 336.422.7500

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BY TARYN JEREZ

A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

This month’s featured artist, Carrie Leigh Dickey, has pulled artistic passion and prowess from her Salem College roots to curate a career leaving footprints from paintings and web design to interiors and stage productions. This avid supporter of the arts is on a journey to not only reach her full potential but be a catalyst as other artists strive to meet their own.

Carrie Leigh Dickey

Artist, Designer, Avid Arts Supporter How would you describe your work? I am a trained oil painter (BA in studio art with a concentration in oil painting from Salem College), yet I mainly work in acrylics. I like experimenting in order to make acrylic paint function as oil paint. Subsequently, I love to create marks with anything that is not a paint brush including my fingers, old credit cards, and aluminum foil. I can often be found removing paint from a canvas with a garden hose.

What influences your work most? I am inspired by nature and young children’s raw and organic approach to art.

How have you evolved, personally, as an artist?

When I first began as an artist, I was afraid of imperfections: I wanted to make each mark perfect. I held on too tightly to my work. It was when I started teaching art that my perspective shifted. I was amazed how children didn’t worry about their creations but just enjoyed the process. Inspired, I began putting into practice this concept of raw and organic child-like marks within my own art. That was just the start! I was then inspired by my study of birds. Birds are focused on the now and not the past or present—basically they don’t stress. They do what they can today and save the rest for tomorrow. My newest artistic and personal challenge is to “do the bird”—aka be free in all things. My art has evolved to reflect the beauty of the imperfect as expressed through the use of creative and fresh marks.

How do you carve out time to be creative? It can be hard. My best found plan is to station paints and a fresh canvas somewhere in my house—usually my kitchen.

The supplies may sit there untouched for a while, but they are there inviting me to be creative. Usually, it only takes a few days for the invitation to take hold and a new piece of art to come to life.

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What are you working on that excites you right now? I have just teamed up with Kimberly Varnadoe to found Artfolios. Artfolios—a Winston-Salem based online fine art gallery—celebrates, showcases, and promotes artists in the Winston-Salem area. Our personalized approach to art collecting is three-fold: we curate an online art gallery offering a hand selected collection of fine art originals; we collaborate for corporate art installations; and we individually consult patrons helping them find the perfect art match.

How did you come up with the idea for Artfolios? At the start of the year, I had a spark of an idea to do something locally this spring/summer with fellow artists. I reached out to Kimberly Varnadoe, who was my professor when I studied at Salem College, and shared my idea. She, in essence, advised me to, “Dream big!” And, I did! A few days later, I had a business plan, a business name, and a team of people—including Kimberly—willing to help me set up and launch Artfolios.

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists? You have value and worth.

The world needs you and your creative marks.

If you are interested in learning more about Carrie Leigh Dickey or Artfolios you can check out CarrieLeighDickey.com or Artfolios.shop. You can also follow Artfolios on Instagram @shopartfolios or Facebook @Artfolios. If you’d like to inquire about Carrie’s work email her at designer@ CarrieLeighDickey.com.

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Yes! I have a Doctorate in Physical Therapy from East Carolina University, after graduation I took advanced courses to specialize in this area, so expect to exercise!

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BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

One morning, while settling into my office chair and gazing at a pair of house finches right outside the window, my phone rang. Recognizing the name of a company I had worked with for many years, an immediate feeling of dread filled the pit of my stomach.

One of our former coworkers has a terminal illness and I immediately feared bad news.

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Jean Marie?

Hi… Hey, how ARE you?

– Rita Moreno, Stage and Screen Star

“Smell the roses. Smell the coffee. Whatever it is that makes you happy.””

Happy Habits

Um, fine.

Is everything alright?

Yeah. What’s the matter?

Is something wrong?

I just thought that maybe something bad has happened you know.

We haven’t spoken in like a year, girlfriend, that’s BAD ENOUGH, and someone at the office mentioned your name, so, here I am.

My sense of relief was palpable and audible on the other end of the line. For the next 72 minutes, we reconnected, shared huge belly laughs, and caught up on each other’s lives.

All too soon it seemed, we were out of time. I had so many more questions I wanted to ask and news I wanted to share. Did your son finish his Ph.D? Whatever happened to what’s his face? Did I tell you about my nephew? That unexpected call made my day and I couldn’t stop thinking about it. In fact, I can’t stop thinking I want more of that.

The lesson isn’t lost on me. We want more of a lot of things.

More time, more money, more health, more peace of mind, more chocolate. The real question is: do we want them badly enough to get them? We already know that we will have more time by clearing out less important activities. More money by spending less and saving more. More health by making conscious choices about diet and exercise. You get the picture. It all comes down to which of our wants make the cut, how badly we want them, and what we are willing to give or give up to do so.

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Here’s what I know: I don’t want to let those belly-laugh friendships forged in other chapters of my life to live only in my fading and inexact memories. So, do I wait another year or two or three for an old friend or former colleague to reach out, or do I take action? I can make taking action a happy habit, one that brings me joy and nurtures my connection to people I enjoy and care about.

How different would your day-today life be if you adopted just a few happy habits?

A HANDFUL OF HAPPY HABITS Here’s a trio of “happy habits” to consider: Be fierce about staying connected – Make those calls, send those texts, get on Zoom, send that funny card in the mail, lean over the fence and wave. Your emotional, cognitive, and physical health will thank you for it.

Spend time with Mother Earth – Walk, bike, jog, or hell, just sit out there and take it all in. There is a world of mystery and delight that surrounds us. Watch your attitude improve and your spirits lighten.

Practice positive self talk – Trust me. It’s never too late. Learn to catch yourself when that negative feedback starts to mess with your self- esteem. Think of it as an expression of self- care.

But please don’t stop here. Ask yourself: What do I want more of?

Then listen to your heart’s response.

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BY AMY HILL

THE OVERLY POLITICAL GUY You spot potato salad out on the table and rush to load up. As you’re spooning the potato salad onto your paper plate, Eric from down the street begins making small talk about the various dishes on the table. After 30 seconds of commenting on the spread, Eric then attempts to subtly bait you into a political discussion.

When you provide a neutral response to diffuse a potentially uncomfortable situation, Eric interprets your neutrality as approval.

Now that Eric believes you’re on his political side, you’re stuck holding your plate while he babbles about immigration and taxes a little too loudly.

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When your one-sided discussion with Eric finally trails off, you find an open lawn chair and sit down to start eating.

Unfortunately, your neighbor Marsha decides to sit next to you and ask how you feel about the baked beans. “I like them, they have a bit of a bite to them,” you reply.

Marsha, however, does not like the baked beans, claiming that they are too spicy and make her poor, whiny eyes water.

To make matters worse, Marsha begins gossiping about how the host’s newest fence might be against the HOA rules, in addition to speculating on how the host was able to afford a brand new Lexus. While Marsha’s attention to detail is impressive, you’re not fazed by her nosey nature. You’ve been reading Marsha’s rants on the neighborhood’s Facebook page for the last year, so you expect nothing less.

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THE SPLASHER When you’re finished eating, you decide to stick your feet in the pool to cool off without getting your hair wet. While a few neighborhood children are playing together in the pool, they are staying relatively far away from all of the adults sitting around the edge. Just when you’re starting to relax (away from Marsha and her gossip), a large, middle-aged man suddenly cannon-balls into the pool, splashing everyone sitting nearby.

While he believes he is the world’s greatest comedian and finds it hilarious that your mascara starts running down your face, the nearby adults placate the clown with a halfhearted laugh before returning to their conversations that he abrasively interrupted.

THE UNHAPPILY MARRIED COUPLE As you’re drying off, you overhear your acquaintances Tim and Nancy in the middle of what has the potential to be an explosive argument. From what you can hear, it seems as though Tim, who’s currently on his fifth Miller Lite, is leaving on a golfing trip with “the boys” next weekend, which Nancy is not pleased with. You watch as Tim becomes annoyed with Nancy’s nagging, pulling his phone out of his pocket to tune her out. This was the wrong move for Tim, however, as Nancy begins berating him about “always being on his stupid phone” and texting his receptionist.

As you continue to eavesdrop, you wonder if nosey Marsha has any inside scoop on their marital woes that could help fill in the gaps.

While the Tim and Nancy saga is heating up and becoming increasingly awkward for onlookers, you direct your attention to the grill, where three dads in baseball caps are standing proudly with beer and spatulas in hand. Their conversations seem to be lighthearted and surface-level, unlike other conversations you’ve encountered throughout the afternoon. They soon prove themselves to be the most laidback guests at the barbecue, calmly discussing their newest bass fishing gear, the price of gas, and how they don’t understand why their teenage daughters are always using TikTok. Since they seem like a harmless bunch, you bring a lawn chair near the grill, hoping to work your way into their conversation and escape the chaos by the pool. If you’re lucky, you might even be one of the first guests to snag a hotdog.

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BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

When I became a manager, I instantly earned a seat on “leadership row” but declined the relo.

I wanted to be off the beaten track, away from the buzz and the interruptions. It worked because I spent enough time in meetings to stay connected with my colleagues and “in the know.” Later, as an HR manager, I made the argument that being tucked away in a small office by the rear exit meant that I could focus on employees who, often discretely, needed my listening ear. It turns out that my location decisions proved wise as studies show that the typical manager is interrupted every eight minutes. And, no surprise, interruptions occur 64 percent more often in an open office. Long live the office door!

Whether it’s work, housework, or a crafts project, it helps to understand that anything that pulls you away from what you are focused on is a distraction that you can learn to pre-empt or manage.

WHAT MAKES US DISTRACTED? Our basic needs We’re hungry, we’re sleepy, we feel the need to get up and move. The longer we ignore these needs, the more likely we will become frustrated and stressed.

Our wandering mind It’s “normal” for our mind to wander when we are: • unclear about where to start or what the end goal is • not invested in the task • thinking about what we’d prefer to be doing • feeling bad about other things we’re not getting to • thinking about the future

Our space Other people, the sound of a nearby lawnmower, the dog barking, a cluttered desk… you name it; we are bombarded by distracting stimuli.

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Deal with your fears

The temptation to check your email, voicemail, text messages is nothing short of CONSTANT and draining.

Fear of a task can paralyze us. Whatever the fear is, we can learn to manage it by taking small steps and thereby gain confidence along the way. Inaction simply reinforces fear and clearly makes our goal unattainable.

STRATEGIES FOR MANAGING DISTRACTIONS Attend to your basic needs Getting enough sleep means that you will be more alert and less likely to become irritable. Eating before your morning Zoom call means not being distracted by hunger. If sitting at the sewing machine for too long makes you antsy, take a brief walk or do some stretching before settling in.

Manage your mind Whenever a distracting thought enters your mind, give it a place on your to-do list and then return to the task at hand. I keep a list near my mousepad for jotting down these thoughts so that I can return to them later. It may be a mundane thing, or a breakthrough thought that makes it to the next day’s priority list. By “parking” these worthy distractions, we know we won’t lose them and can return to our focus.

Make your space work for you Ask yourself what small or large changes you can make that will minimize distractions. I moved the birdfeeder from outside my office window because it’s allure was simply too distracting.

Maybe for you it’s letting the kids know that a closed-door means mom is in concentration mode and should not be disturbed.

Control your technology A great deal has been written about our “addiction” to checking, checking, and rechecking our feeds, texts, and emails.

The best thing to get that habit under control is to remind yourself that 1. You are in charge.

And . . .

2. It will be there when you decide to get to it.

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The Broken Road How difficult times can lead us right where we need to be

BY KAREN COOPER

The older I get, the less I fear making mistakes…and the more I realize that mistakes and failure are all part of life’s incredible journey. It may sting and feel awful sometimes when you’re going through the hard parts, but oh, what wisdom you emerge with on the other side!

The road of life is not a direct path for most of us. It’s filled with twists and turns that we never anticipated. It will jolt us, startle us, and shake us awake until we give in to it – to the realization that we’re not in control of everything…. life is unfolding before us, and we are just along for the ride.

NOBODY TOLD ME THERE WOULD BE DAYS LIKE THESE I grew up as an only child in a loving household in 1970s North Carolina. There were relatives to enjoy time with, kids to play outside with, and time just to be me and love life. Coming from a place like that, I thought that things would continue this way – that I would grow up and always be happy. That was the message I received as a young girl.

Everything will always be wonderful for you!

Well, friends, when reality slaps you in the face….it slaps you hard. Life was not going to be perfect; there were to be large, nearly impossible hurdles to climb, pits to crawl out of, broken hearts, unbearable changes, depression, regret, the whole lot… and I was not prepared.

WITH FAILURE COMES SUCCESS No one likes to fail because we have been taught that failing is a bad thing. Well, let me say from experience… it’s not true! You will have failure in your life. The important thing is to learn from it.

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learn something new. People tend to equate failing temporarily with permanent failure… but just because you haven’t reached your goal today doesn’t mean you will never reach it.

WITH LEARNING COMES GROWTH We make terrible mistakes…mistakes that are hard to recover from. For me, those mistakes included marrying the wrong person and moving across the country only to find that the job I moved for was not what I had expected. Each time you have to correct something big like this, your life shifts, your path changes, and you learn more about yourself and the journey you’re on. It’s not pleasant! It takes time, energy, willpower, money, support, and strength of character to recover from these things. But there is growth and ultimately, it is good.

YOU WILL MOLD YOURSELF INTO THE PERSON YOU WANT TO BE Though all of these difficult experiences may feel like they break you at the time, the aftermath will build you back up in an entirely new way. You will emerge as someone different, better equipped to handle the next challenge. Failure and disappointment and the grief that results plants deep empathy and compassion within us so that we can better understand life and the world around us. These “mistakes” simply become learning experiences which fine-tune our lives.

ALWAYS PRACTICE GRATITUDE… EVEN WHEN YOU SEE NOTHING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR There were many times when I thought God had forgotten me. In hindsight, I see he was really just holding me close, protecting me from things that were not meant to be.

Things that were not my final destination.

I didn’t feel grateful then because I couldn’t see what was happening. I thought my life was ruined, but really, I just needed to be patient.

My life is far from perfect now, but when I lay my head down at night, my heart overflows with gratitude because of where I am, where I’ve come from, and the things I left behind.

Sometimes I think I don’t deserve this much love, this much goodness, and this much grace. But I came through a lot to be here, and I will be thankful every day.

What I learned from my broken road is that the end of one road just means the beginning of a new and, most often, better road! The broken roads you travel in life may be hard sometimes, but they are the stepping-stones that lead you to the places you are meant to be.

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Did you know that, according to the Mayo Clinic, approximately 1 in 3 adults in our country meet the definition of “caregiver” even though they may not identify as such? A caregiver is “anyone who provides help to another person in need, such as an ill spouse or partner, a disabled child, or an aging relative.” Almost 60% of caregivers work (or worked in the prepandemic days) outside of the home. For most, caregiving is a reflection of personal values and love. At the same time, the role comes with unique stress and can often give rise to feelings of anger, frustration, exhaustion, loneliness, and sadness. These feelings may carry an extra layer of heaviness if the person being cared for has a chronic mental illness.

If “caregiver” is one of your roles, you already know the importance of prioritizing your self care. While staying healthy - mentally, emotionally, and physically - matters, doing so may seem like yet another responsibility on an already full plate. Fortunately, there are several key things you can do to attend to yourself while you provide for someone who needs your help.

Start with the basics: eating right, sleeping well, and seeing your doctor for preventative checkups and vaccinations.

Next, focus on your risk factors and your stress.

In terms of risk factors, are you: • Living with the person you are caring for • Feeling isolated • Feeling depressed • Having financial difficulties • Spending many hours caregiving • Having trouble with coping skills or solving problems • Being a caregiver because there is no other option?

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Accept Help Others want to help but don’t know how.

When someone asks, “How can I help?” be ready with specific, concrete ideas: “It would be great if you could run by the supermarket and pick up…” or, “If you could work on that puzzle with my dad for a couple of hours so that I can run some errands, I’d really appreciate it.”

Notice how stress affects you and identify how to reduce your stress Do you: • Feel overwhelmed or constantly worried • Feel tired often • Get too much sleep or not enough sleep • Experience weight gain or loss • Become easily irritated or angry • Have little interest in activities you used to enjoy • Feel sad • Have frequent headaches, bodily pain or other physical problems • Abuse alcohol or drugs, including prescription medications?

Get Connected You can find out about local caregiving resources in our community just by Googling. Here are a few that immediately appeared when I did so: piedmonthomecare.com/you-and-your-lovedone/ forsythaging.forsyth.cc/resources homeinstead.com/ Carve out “Me Time” This can be hard for caregivers who may feel guilty booking a massage, getting a pedicure, or playing a few rounds of golf. Remind yourself that “time for you” is an investment in your well-being as it counteracts burnout.

Stay Social Caregivers are at a greater risk of isolation based on their role. Be intentional about reaching out to friends and neighbors.

Set up walk dates, lunch dates, or even Zoom chats to ensure that you remain engaged with others.

Consider these helpful strategies:

And finally:

Be Realistic and Establish Daily Routines Say “No” to requests for your time when doing so supports your necessary self care. Most people will understand.

Create as much “normalcy” and continuity to your days.

Focus on the Positive For some caregivers, that might mean staying committed to prayer, meditation or yoga.

Others may benefit from keeping a gratitude journal, gardening, or even trying their hand at a coloring book to bring unexpected joy to the day.

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Family Ties

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS

Flash back to your own favorite childhood dessert – and the precious time spent with your grandmother in the kitchen – and you’ll realize the memory of Sunday dinner always reminds us of the goodness of home and family. Now, meet the amazing family behind Simply Southern Cuisine in Clemmons, who has found the winning recipe for nourishing both bodies and souls!

This year will mark their 15th anniversary of providing irresistible food that entices families to gather around the table and enjoy each other’s company.

Owner Lisa Miller is proud of the popular family-owned business for a multitude of reasons! The original business began in 2003 – focusing mainly on lunch deliveries – and Lisa and her late husband stepped in as owners in 2006. Since then, Simply Southern Cuisine has continued to grow and update, while staying true to the original recipes that customers can’t resist. Their days are spent as a family, which also includes a staff of wonderful employees, with a balance of love, laughter, and plenty of hard work creating memories for themselves and their community of happy clients.

FAMILY IS THE FOCUS… With family at the heart of its mission, Lisa shares how her daughter, Kory, is actively involved in all aspects of the business, and makes all the delicious chicken pies! Kory’s children, four-year-old Lincoln, and three-yearold Timari, love to come visit grandma at work, while Lisa’s son, Kevin, and wife, Savanna, often deliver and serve for catering events, rounding out the valuable family contributions that make Simply Southern Cuisine so successful. Lisa also gives Kevin full credit for inspiring her to update the company website to offer online ordering.

“What a huge blessing in light of Covid, as our online orders in 2020 skyrocketed and continue to be a large part of our sales,” says Lisa. With her own computer programming background, Lisa has loved bringing her small business into the 21st century – technology wise – and learned the finer points of a pointof-sale system that not only tracks every detail of the business but allows the staff the freedom and flexibility to handle necessary curbside orders in the past year as well as offer the best possible service to their loyal customers.

Always keeping pace with Lisa, and sharing the excitement of creating new ways to improve the business and having fun in the process, is her “right hand” and kitchen manager, Jeana Garraghty. “Without her we wouldn’t be where we are,” says Lisa, praising Jeana for her outgoing personality and connection with customers, always making each one feel special! “She’s another true example of family, as our families are intertwined in so many ways. Jeana’s 19-yearold twins, along with her husband, have also been assisting with catering events for the last few years.”

… BUT FOOD IS AT THE FOREFRONT! And now, let’s chat about that incredible comfort food! Regular customers know they can drop by and choose something for dinner in a pinch, in a single-serving size, a small size that serves two to three, or a large size serving four to six people. Those loyal “regulars” – also considered family – have their calendars marked to order ahead for special occasions such as birthdays and anniversaries, as well as Thanksgiving and Christmas feasts, easing the stress of hosting during the holiday season!

At Simply Southern Cuisine you’ll always be dining on the freshest ingredients available, whether you choose to pick up a meal that’s hot or frozen, with portion sizes and entree varieties just right to please any taste buds at your family’s weeknight dinner table. Plus, your special event can be made perfect with selections from their catering menu that include breakfast, lunch, dinner, and even appetizers. In addition, they offer a broad delivery area for their catering services. It’s no surprise that chicken pie is still the number one customer request, with Swiss chicken, baked spaghetti, and macaroni and cheese also atop the list of tried-and-true favorites. When it comes to homemade desserts, your mouth-watering choices range from apple pie, pecan pie, and banana pudding to a lineup of amazing family recipe cakes and brownies.

“We’ve also added one new dish this year,” says Lisa, describing a Keto meatloaf inspired by her sister in Ohio. “It’s a win-win as it’s also gluten-free, and we do have a rather large gluten-free customer base.”

AND FREEING UP FOUNDATION SPACE IS THE FUTURE! What’s also in the works for Simply Southern Cuisine is expansion!

“We are running out of room, yet it isn’t feasible to move or build a new kitchen,” Lisa explains. “Location is everything and our people know where we are. With our current six freezers, we are also in the process of adding a walk-in freezer to the back of the building.”

They are also hoping to knock down some walls between the kitchen and the existing counter, building new walls in order to move the counter closer to the door. Lisa is excited about adding hundreds of square feet to the kitchen area to accommodate more food prep space as sales continue to boom.

The Simply Southern Cuisine team is authentic proof that it’s possible to love your job and love going to work every day! Lisa admits she was “kicked out of the kitchen” several years ago, and she’s perfectly happy to keep things moving and growing on the business side.

“It really does take a team,” she is quick to explain. “I have a great team who loves to come to work – I love my part of the business, and they love their part of keeping customers well-fed and the client list growing!”

Simply Southern Cuisine also hopes to hold a celebration later in the summer to commemorate their anniversary, so stay tuned to their Facebook page for updates!

If you haven’t yet discovered this culinary treasure, Simply Southern Cuisine is located at 3570-C Clemmons Road in Clemmons. Call 336712-4636 for more information or to place an order or order your next delicious family meal online at mysimplysouthern.com. Hours are Monday through Friday 12:00 p.m. - 5:00 p.m. and Saturday 12:00 p.m. - 4:00 p.m.

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Kindness The Practice of

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

TRUE CONFESSIONS You know that annoying driver behind you? The one who follows too closely and looks annoyed when you glance in the rearview mirror as if to ask “What the heck…?” Well, I have a confession: that driver could be me. Not always, and not usually, but tailgating is one of my very bad occasional habits. I am not proud of this. It falls into the “If you know better then do better” category of admonishments.

Of course, my tailgating isn’t a random, disconnected thing. It is a manifestation of my chronic impatience.

Rewind the video and it’s my mom’s admonishment that I hear: “Spomaľte, Jeannie. Spomaľte.” It means “slow down” in Slovak and is pronounced Po-mah-lee, or something close to that. My mom’s gentle nudge, spoken in fragments of a language we used between us, was nothing short of an act of kindness. She understood that my impatience wasn’t serving me. But instead of lecturing, she spoke gently and without judgment, letting the mere drift of that word settle in my consciousness. It is easy for me to see that my road-rudeness is all about my stuff. I continue to catch myself and to course correct when it shows up because my behavior is rude, dangerous, and admittedly unkind.

THE REWARDS OF KINDNESS Both the giver and the receiver reap the rewards of kindness because true kindness comes without strings.

Mindfulness writer Mary Ann Christie Burnside explains, “In any given moment, the kindness you offer to yourself or to others affects what happens in the very next moment...

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Kindness—which reduces stress, anxiety and depression—can literally put us, and others, at ease.” Most of us have experienced exactly what Burnside describes. Kindness research further supports this experience. “Thinking about, observing or practicing a kind act stimulates that vagus nerve, which literally warms up the heart and may be closely connected to the brain’s receptor networks for oxytocin, the soothing hormone involved in maternal bonding.

Kindness also triggers the reward system in our brain’s emotion regulation center releasing dopamine, the hormone that’s associated with positive emotions and the sensation of a natural high.”

LEARN TO BE KINDER Whether it’s putting the brakes on a bad habit like tailgating or replacing other habitual responses that are rooted in emotions like anger or frustration, anyone can train their brain to practice kindness.

Here’s how: Be kind to yourself. Start by being committed to self -care – your nutrition, exercise, and sleep. Monitor your selftalk and redirect when judgment and negativity show up. Start to treat yourself as well as you treat those you love and care most about.

Manage your responses. You know that text you kicked yourself for sending? Or those cutting words you directed at your sister? You can’t take them back. When you are inclined to react in a way that you know isn’t kind and will later regret, take a step back. Give yourself some space to consider how to respond instead of simply reacting.

Train your brain. Yoga and meditation instructors often encourage us to choose a word or phrase we want to embody in the moment or in life in general. It will come as no surprise that the phrase I often claim is “I am calm.” Whether I am behind the wheel or attempting to fall into a deep sleep, I reach for those three simple words to train my brain toward calmness.

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Cybersickness

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Looking at my calendar still makes me exhausted.

The amount of back-to-back to back (to back) Zoom meetings I have hasn’t gone away – I think folks are realizing that meeting on Zoom or another virtual platform is a pretty efficient way to meet.

Consider it: you don’t have travel time. You can join from anywhere.

And if you designate a preset amount of time, generally speaking, you can start and end the meeting fairly concisely as folks don’t stick around to small talk or other things.

Those back-to-back (etc.) meetings are not just efficient – and exhausting – they can make you physically ill.

Ever feel a little woozy after a bunch of meetings, computer time, or doom scrolling? You might be experiencing cybersickness.

Much like motion sickness, cybersickness happens when your senses are sending information to your brain that doesn’t seem to match what your brain thinks your body is doing. Think about being on a boat – you might be walking, standing, sitting – and your body is like “Wait! I am moving!” The same idea happens when you scroll consistently, use several screens or attend meetings when someone else is scrolling, confusing your orientation. That Zoom exhaustion that leaves you feeling kind of gross? Real deal.

Cybersickness isn’t new: it has been often associated with virtual reality and augmented reality for years. It’s marked by nausea, vomiting, dizziness – again, the same feelings that come with motion sickness.

How do we deal with this? Zoom meetings, as mentioned earlier, aren’t going away anytime soon: and even if they lessen, they won’t disappear entirely. Lucky for us, there are a lot of things that we can do that also help with our self-care and general wellbeing.

LESS CONSISTENT COMPUTER TIME Don’t laugh: you know we need less screen time.

Maybe you’re thinking that this is impossible – but I need to work! You need more breaks away from a screen, period. If you’re feeling exhausted and woozy by the end of the day, take time away from all screens during your lunch break, bio breaks, and more.

Don’t move from one screen to a smaller screen or a larger screen when you’re on break. All that will do is increase the likelihood of cybersickness.

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SLOW YOUR SCROLL Do you doom scroll? You know, the consistent scrolling of Twitter or Facebook, looking for the next thing that might explode? Or the next amazing thing? That scrolling could be causing some of your woozy feeling (and not just due to content!) Easy fix on this one: slow the scroll. Chances are you’re scanning those words, images, and articles, and if you’re starting to feel weird while scrolling, a simple slowdown will help you (and might get you to read more of the content!).

FOCUS ON STABLE THINGS If you can’t spend less time on the screen, then take breaks and focus on unmoving objects. Take a moment to admire a plant, a photo, something on the wall – anything that is unmoving will ground you.

The break itself will help you, too – fatigue is a real thing with scrolling and screen time. If you give your body and eyes a break, you’ll be able to be more effective with your work when you are working.

KEEP AIR MOVING This one makes sense if you’ve ever experienced motion sickness.

Make sure the room you’re in is ventilated, has consistent airflow, and is free of strong odors. Since you’re overloading your senses with the scrolling and screen, adding another strong sense reaction will only make the woozy, dizzy feeling worse. This also applies to heavy and strong food – think of your senses as a fuel tank: they get full, and you don’t want things spilling out all over the place.

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Which

Hawaiian Island Should You Visit?

BY AMY HILL

Want to explore Hawaii, but don’t know where to start? Deciding which island to visit can be overwhelming at first glance. Here is a breakdown of the four most popular Hawaiian Islands to help you choose which spot is best for your next tropical vacation.

KAUAI Known as the “Garden Island,” Kauai is the oldest island in Hawaii and is notorious for its jagged coastline, luscious rainforests, and mountainous terrain. Although beautiful, this is not the ideal island destination for vacationers craving a relaxing day on the beach with calm waters and no rain. In fact, Kauai’s Mount Waialeale is one of the wettest spots in the world with an average rainfall of 450 inches per year. Rainfall varies depending on your location on the island, so check the forecast or monthly rainfall averages ahead of time before deciding on which area on Kauai suits your vacation needs.

Hikers, however, will thrive in stunning Waimea Canyon State Park and in trails along the notorious, picturesque Na Pali Coastline.

Beaches in Kauai can be rockier with rougher waters than beaches in Maui, but with only a fraction of the crowds.

OAHU Home to famous Waikiki Beach, Oahu is the best Hawaiian island for solo travelers or younger folks craving a combination of nightlife, nature, and relaxing days on the beach. Bustling Waikiki is a vastly different environment than quiet Kauai, and luxury retail, chain restaurants, and heavy traffic abound. Tourists flock to see historical sights such as Pearl Harbor, and hike to the top of volcanic Diamond Head State Monument overlooking Waikiki.

Surfers will be drawn to Oahu’s North Shore where waves are large and food trucks are plentiful. Families can enjoy calm waters on Lanikai beach and can enjoy ziplining at Kualoa Ranch. If you’re indecisive on what you want your Hawaiian vacation to consist of, Oahu’s vast array of activities might suit your needs.

MAUI Romantic Maui is ideal for honeymooners and families with small children, with its western side of the island being lined with resorts, condominiums, and major retailers and dining options. Calm waters and idyllic scenery draw in tourists year-round. Although historic Lahaina offers somewhat of a nightlife, it does not compare to the nightlife of Oahu. Hikers will be pleased with the Sliding Sands Trail in Haleakala National Park, along with hiking in Iao Valley State Park.

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Another hot spot in Maui is the Road to Hana, which can take hours and becomes quite crowded during high season. Along the Road to Hana are waterfalls and swimming holes, a black sand beach, and even a red sand beach. If you want the stereotypical Hawaiian experience, there are plenty of Luaus hosted in the evenings for families to enjoy. Wildlife is also abundant in Maui, as Lahaina is famous for whale watching tours, while sea turtles are frequently spotted while snorkeling and swimming in the crystal blue Maui waters.

ISLAND OF HAWAI’I (BIG ISLAND) Known as “Big Island,” the Island of Hawai’i is the youngest and largest island in the State of Hawaii. Unlike the previous smaller islands, circling Big Island in one day is a daunting task. Home to Hawaii Volcanoes National Park, visitors have the opportunity to see active volcanoes, including Kilauea, one of the most active volcanoes on earth. Big Island is a great destination for those looking to minimize their chance of rainfall during their vacation, as a large portion of the island remains relatively dry.

Adventure travelers heading to Big Island can enjoy cliff jumping, night snorkeling with manta rays, and exploring some of the island’s more isolated beaches. Alongside black sand beaches, Big Island is home to Papakolea Green Sand Beach, which is one of the only four beaches in the world with green sand. To get to some of these destinations, an all-wheel drive rental vehicle might be your best option (just be sure to read the rental contract ahead of time to avoid driving on forbidden roads). Although not nearly as perfect for nature lovers as Kauai, Big Island is another great choice for travelers looking to avoid the crowds and take in the beautiful scenery of Hawaii.

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I truly thought we were past the point of hustle harder, girl bosses, and endless working.

I think the pandemic made it harder.

Hear me out: I think the pivoting, working from home, figuring out how to either do the jobs we were all doing or find new employment, coupled with remote work and a focus on reopening, getting back to normal and go go go…we have fully dug our heels in the hustle culture and it’s not good.

You might be reading this and thinking, but Jen! Strike while the iron is hot, get in there, and make it happy; let’s do it! And I hate to tell you that the constant work, lack of clocking in and out, and no time for yourself is harming you more than helping you. Here are a few ways we can ditch the hustle culture and still focus on our dreams.

First thing first: several studies show that longer hours working can result in increased depression and anxiety.

Humans need to socialize! We need sleep! The toxic effects of hustle culture far outweigh the gains from working extra.

WORK SMARTER, NOT MORE Easier said than done, right? Seriously though: make a to-do list of the things you are working on for the month, the week, and the day. Looking at things collectively can help you work in a way that allows you to focus on what needs to be done, as well as the things that you can combine or work on at the same time. If you just keep working without looking at everything holistically, you’ll probably end up doing unnecessary work.

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HAVE A LIFE IN YOUR WORK-LIFE BALANCE Want to be more creative, successful, and grow in a way that helps how you work? Get a hobby. It doesn’t matter what the hobby is – volunteering, reading thrillers, being a plant mom – no matter what that “extra” is in your “extracurricular,” it is going to help you in the long run. While your hobby doesn’t need to help how you work, the feeling of guilt might be real when you aren’t working. If you need an extra nudge to get you on that hobby train, allowing your brain to rest and recharge helps with creativity and organization!

ALIGN YOUR ACTUAL GOALS Quick question: what are you working for? What is success?

If you are drawing a bit of a blank, I have some news for you: if you are just working and have no clear goal with actionable objectives that are in your control, you’re going to keep chasing the finish line that doesn’t exist. It’s not just you – lots of people don’t have their goals laid out in a way that the control lives with them. For example, if you’re working to that promotion, but you don’t know how you’ll get it or the tangible things that you might need to be doing to achieve it, you’ll never be satisfied. If you’re never satisfied, you’ll keep working, creating a nasty cycle. Outline those goals and objectives, so you know what you’re working towards, and aiming at, versus throwing everything at the wall to see what sticks.

BOUNDARIES WITH A CAPITAL B Yes, boundaries are incredibly helpful when you’re working on relationships: how about the boundaries you have with yourself? It’s just one email on a Sunday night – that turns into three, or five, and suddenly you have no time off.

Set some boundaries with yourself: I understand how nice it is to have a clean inbox Monday morning, but at what cost? If you’re taking time for yourself, do it: take time for yourself!

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Questions to Get to Know Someone

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

Getting back into the groove of small talk might seem like a terrifying ask.

We’ve spent so much time on Zooms and Meetups where the event or meeting starts pretty quickly to the time we sign-on. Even networking events are conducted with a “ready set go!” mentality.

How do we get back to getting to know people?

Studies out of Harvard show that small talk is best served by question asking and answering – the reason being that you’re showing interest in another person, getting them talking, and hopefully listening and adding to the conversation. But what questions are the ones that truly help you get to know someone?

Certain questions will help you learn more about another person, whether it’s professional or personal – but before we start to dig into those questions, a few things to keep in mind: Whatever question from this list you use, make sure you are truly interested in the answer. Any time you ask a question “because you have to” or because you think it’s the right thing to do, you’re going to end up not caring about the answer, not listening, and just asking for the sake of asking! Ask questions you care about.

Listen to the answer. This seems obvious – for some reason it is not. If you ask a question, don’t just wait for your turn to talk, actually listen to the answer!

You’re asking because you care, right? So listen!

Don’t ask anything that you’re not ready to answer. If you ask a question, be ready to offer your answer. Shared vulnerability is real, and a way to build trust and understanding between two people.

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And now for the questions…

WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SHOW/MOVIE AND WHY? The first part sounds normal right? Everyone has a show or movie they love – and that’s the point! When you ask questions like “Who is your hero?” or “What is your dream?” or “What do you want to do when you grow up?” you might create anxiety if the person you’re asking doesn’t have one! The “and why” allows for more information – and if it feels too confrontational, you can use any variations of “and tell me more” or “and why that is” or “and what makes you say that.” Any of those “tell me more!” requests lead to more information and a deeper conversation.

WHAT MAKES YOU LAUGH THE MOST? (AND OF COURSE, AND WHY?) Joy is amazing. I don’t like to know what frightens people – I want to know where your joy comes from. If a person knows where their joy, happiness, and laughter comes from, and can talk about it, that’s the kind of self-aware person I want to keep talking to.

IF MONEY WAS NO OBJECT, WHAT WOULD YOU DO ALL DAY? Along the same lines of joy, seeing what someone would do if they weren’t at work (remember, not everyone loves their jobs!) tells you SO much about a person. You’ll see if they love people, things, helping, volunteer work, activism, cooking, traveling – you name it! Something you’re probably noticing about all of these questions by now – success is built in! These questions allow for folks to get as deep – or superficial! – as they want.

WHAT’S AN IDEAL WEEKEND FOR YOU? Remember, you’re trying to get to know someone. If you’re tapping into good vibes, joy, and things that make people happy, you’ll create a level of trust and vulnerability. Too often we want to jump from not knowing someone to being close, and that jump is too much! Ease into that safe space with questions about joy – there will be a time for vulnerability!

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BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

At one time or another, everyone experiences the pain of loneliness. But did you know that loneliness is a challenge that 30 – 40 percent of seniors are all too familiar with? That loneliness is often more pronounced as illness, major lifestyle changes, and relocations separate seniors from the people and activities they formerly enjoyed and counted on.

If loneliness has become your unwelcome companion, know this: you are not stuck with it. Even if you doubt your ability to move forward, there are several key actions you can take to begin to replace loneliness with friendship and the companionship you enjoy. But first, why not start with the people you are already connected to?

REVIVE OLD FRIENDSHIPS Before looking to create new friends, hit the “Refresh” button on the people you consider friends from the past. With social media, it’s easier than ever to track down someone from your college years, your old neighborhood, or a former workplace… and then, reach out. Research suggests that reminiscing with “good people about good times” improves our outlook and our sense of well-being, so why not go for it?

You may be surprised by the appreciation coming back at you.

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Are you stuck in a rut with the people you love most? During the pandemic, many seniors tried their hand at virtual get-togethers and can’t imagine stopping now. Schedule them, put them on your calendar, and don’t cancel! You might also consider reaching out to one family member each week or each month by calling, sending a card, or putting a thoughtful “little something” in the mail for them. And when they invite you to visit for a long weekend or family celebration, say “Yes” instead of “No.” The point is to rethink how you engage and to try something new.

You may be surprised to discover how many clubs, groups, associations, and meet-ups you can find within close proximity by simply Googling a word or phrase. Many of these are actively seeking new members, so why not reach out? Doing so may open up a whole new world of friends and outings that are right up your alley. Here are two good reasons to join an established interest group: first, you already share something in common with others in the group, and second, structured, scheduled get-togethers create the continuity that leads to a booked calendar and potential friendships.

Now you’re ready to focus on “blooming where you are planted.”

CONSIDER THE NEW FRIENDSHIPS YOU WANT TO DEVELOP Making friends and creating new relationships right where you are is important for your wellbeing. So give some thought to the types of friendships you’d like to pursue. For example, it might be someone with whom you can enjoy a similar passion or interest, whether it’s books, bird watching, or bowling. If exploring a new interest or hobby is on your mind, you might prefer doing so with a companion. Or maybe you just want a few friends to have coffee with.

Get clear, but also stay open to other ideas.

VOLUNTEER Did you know that over 40% of retirees in the United States are volunteers?

The rewards of volunteering are many, including a sense of contribution and fulfillment, as well as the opportunity to meet new people. You might seek out a cause that matches your passions and your experience, or, try something that’s entirely new. Organizations appreciate the work experience and the work ethic that retirees bring to their volunteer role.

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A-Tisket A-Tasket… what fun to decorate with baskets!

“Whatever basket or baskets you have… use them in the most creative ways you can think of. They will make you smile… tidy up your house… look fabulous and all those great things.” ~ Andrea/The Cottage Market Blog Baskets are so versatile and can serve many purposes in your home, from decorative to useful, to helping add texture or even giving a home’s décor more interest. I remember hanging baskets on the wall in our kitchen when we lived in Sumter, SC, many years ago. Not that decorating with baskets has ever gone completely out of style but it seems I am seeing more and more baskets being used in home décor these days. From beautiful woven baskets hung in a grouping as art, used as a container to hide the original plastic pot of a green plant, repurposed as a lamp shade, placed as an accessory on a tabletop, or used to provide attractive storage to organize everything from towels to toys (children’s and pets’).

In my own home I have baskets in most every room, and most all of them perform a function and look great doing so. Two large baskets with lids hold my music books by the piano, several baskets organize food in the kitchen pantry, in the great room a tall round basket holds throws needed for cool nights, a basket holds magazines in the den, a couple of decorative ones hold green plants on the sun porch, a large tray is used to corral items on the kitchen island….another basket tray is used in the sunroom on an ottoman to keep accessories and a green plant in order, several baskets hold items from fabric to threads in my sewing room, and just recently

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summer décor was added to the front door by hanging a basket of hydrangeas…..

I love baskets!

Baskets can be used in any season by just changing out the contents. A trend now is the ‘tobacco’ basket that can be used on a surface or hung on a wall. You can hang a seasonal wreath inside it or place it on a flat surface and accessorize with seasonal items – I call this a ‘chameleon accessory’ that can change with the season.

Baskets are not only made of different reeds but also metal, wood, ceramic, fabric, and plastic making them easy to use and easy

to fit into any décor. There are endless possibilities for their use. If using them for storage, don’t just throw items in the basket but take time to organize the items.

I hope your creative wheels are turning and you are now inspired to add more baskets to your home. If you choose the right basket, it can solve about any storage or decorative need and look great doing it! Have fun!

Thank you for reading my article each month. It is a joy to help you with decorating decisions for your home. Need help? Give ReDESIGNS by Ava a call.

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How Do I Start?

BY MIKE MCGILVARY, AIF®, PARTNER, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

How should I start investing? This is a popular question our team has received for many years now. With so many opinions floating around due to the age of social media and technology, it can become quite overwhelming.

This may be even more true for the individual that has their hands full with professional and family responsibilities and commitments.

In our opinion, there is no one-size-fits-all investment product out there. As a matter of fact, we believe if the conversation you are having with your investment professional is product-based, not goal-based, it is probably time for a second opinion.

One way we strive to learn about each client’s goals and where they may like to start is to simply ask about their short-term and long-term goals. We feel it is imperative to learn about our client’s wishes and time horizon long before we make a recommendation. We also make sure we introduce the team of Financial Advisors to incoming clients so multiple investment professionals can provide input and, hopefully, add additional value to the client’s financial situation.

You may be one of those folks asking the question, “How do I get started investing?” Below are some points to discuss with your potential Financial Advisor(s) regarding how to get started: • Let’s say you don’t have a large lump sum to start investing with, yet you have some extra dollars on a monthly basis you would like to put to work. Ask the Advisor what their Firm’s procedure/process is for setting up systematic investment programs for clients.

• Ask the Advisor how they are compensated when you make deposits to be invested. Do they accept commissions? Or are they a fee-based firm? Do you pay any transaction cost in the trading process?

• Discuss account minimums. Some Investment Firms have restrictions on deposits they will accept based on amount.

• Know what you own and why you own it. This is important no matter where you invest your funds.

There are many other topics to discuss when you’re looking to invest your hard-earned dollars; however, we hope this article can give you the confidence to start the conversation.

We believe it is a privilege to be in this profession, and we work hard to make sure our clients know we feel this way.

As always, thank you for taking the time to read our column!

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Pandemic Keepsies

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

I, too, would like to toss much of 2020 in the trashcan.

And some of 2021 honestly.

Jokes aside, last year is going to be one of those years that we hear about in future conversations and respond with, “GASP. We don’t talk about THAT.” While I’m sure that will be the case for many people, myself included, there are a few things that I learned – and we learned as a culture – that I think we should keep around moving forward.

Read mine – and let us know what yours are!

TELEHEALTH VISITS I like going to see my doctor in person sometimes.

It’s great when I’m having a physical or have a lot of questions or have an upcoming allergy test – it’s not great for things that I’m literally at the doctor for five minutes, and the drive takes longer than the visit. Cue the telehealth visits from the pandemic! It’s made visits so much easier to schedule between meetings or on days I know I have a lot to do – plus – the doctor is usually not late!

REMOTE WORK Teaching and coaching are two parts of my job that I love – and this past year, I’ve gotten to work with so many global companies because of working from home.

While it’s not perfect (my dogs, the laundry, dinner, and snacks are distracting!), it has opened up a whole new world of possibilities for more than just my teaching career: many friends now have better jobs because they have been able to get hired for companies that are working with remote employees.

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PERSONAL SPACE Am I alone when I say I want the 6-foot rule to always be in effect when I’m in crowds? This might be a holdover from a decade in NYC, but having space to myself in grocery stores, restaurants, the mall – it’s a dream! Who likes being smashed in like sardines in hot, stuffy places? Even in cool spaces, I like having my own space where I have some distance between me and the person I don’t know.

MASKS IN CROWDS I will be masking on planes and in crowds for a long time. Know why? Every year I get a massive sinus and ear infection that knocks me out for almost two weeks. I have not been sick – not even a cold – in over two years. Sure, I used to travel constantly (will mask) but this whole not-sick-and-allergies-are-ok thing?

I can handle that.

END OF HUSTLE Hustle culture is toxic – why are we working 60 hours a week to pay for things we can’t enjoy because we’re working 60 hours a week? The emphasis on ending work when work is over that had to happen when we were all working from home is something that will stay in my life for a while. Those beautiful boundaries are staying right where they are.

MENTAL HEALTH MATTERS The pandemic brought an emphasis on mental health – we were going through collective trauma, regardless of how it changed or altered our lives. The fact that folks see that – and want people to care for their mental health – is huge. Checking in to see how I am feeling and regular visits to a therapist are now staples.

VALUE LOCAL Too many local businesses closed. Whether the slim margins that they ran on, a lack of need during a global crisis, or whatever, the pandemic brought us a renewed love and importance for local businesses. Let’s remember that when we are supporting the small business down the street, we’re supporting our neighbor. And it matters.

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Igniting Inner Independence as Strong Empowered Women of Yesterday & Today

BY SUSAN B. B. SCHABACKER

On July 4th, Independence Day, we Americans celebrate America’s independence and our individual rights and freedoms, which veterans of this country fought for. And as modern women of 2021, we have come far, continuing to value, stand up for, and promote equal rights.

Ground has been broken in the women’s rights landscape. We strive to eliminate gender inequalities and discrimination while becoming independently capable, empowered women. Other key women’s rights issues include abuse and violence, economic equality, sexual discrimination, and media misrepresentation. We still face issues, but we have collectively moved forward on many issues.

We often credit and uphold the Declaration of Independence as the primary foundation for upholding equal rights and freedoms, but there is also another important document that was written for the first women’s rights convention held in 1848 in Seneca Falls, New York.

Called the Declaration of Sentiments, this document was inspired by the language and plea for equality in our Declaration of Independence and argued for “the civil, social, political, and religious rights of women” who, according to the document, felt themselves to be “aggrieved, oppressed, and fraudulently deprived of their most sacred rights.”

Since then, we’ve come a long way and don’t have to look very far to be inspired by women of all ages and demographics who worked tirelessly for equal women’s rights. Women, named and unnamed, have set the standard and encouraged us to be strong and independent.

Some of the better known names include Maud Wood Park and Susan B. Anthony (suffragists), Mary McLeod Bethune (champion of racial and gender equality, Margaret Sanger (proponent of birth control), Eleanor Roosevelt (First Lady and women’s rights activist), Ruther Bader Ginsberg (Supreme Court Justice and women’s rights activist), and Maya Angelou (poet and women’s rights activist), among many others.

Despite lingering stigmas and stereotypes, glass ceilings, and double standards, American women are no longer limited to the role of housewife, teacher, nurse, or secretary, as essential as these roles are.

What’s important is that each woman has the right to make her own life choices and not to be frowned upon when stepping into what was formerly known as “a man’s world.”

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INDEPENDENCE IS KEY Whatever our political standing or views on women’s rights, independence is key to our identity and is an integral part of our right to freedom. Despite what may have been thought in the past, we are not the weaker sex; in fact, it’s quite the opposite. Women are equally worthy and don’t need a man or anyone or anything else to complete us or to fill a void. We are already complete creations. Yes, like all people, we may need other people and things to survive and thrive. But let’s first and foremost accept ourselves, wholly and completely, and claim our lives and livelihoods. Let’s respectfully and honestly voice our opinions and share our beliefs, as well as listen to others, with thankfulness that we live in a free country.

ME, MYSELF, AND INDEPENDENT I-RENE Stay real with yourself. Get to know yourself; unconditionally love, support, and stand up for yourself. Be your own best friend and cheerleader. Remind yourself continually of what a worthy woman you are with empowering positive affirmations. Celebrate your strengths and work with your weaknesses. Appreciate your unique beauty and talent and use your God-given gifts for good. As you overcome, triumph, and succeed, reward yourself and, when you fall down or feel like you’ve failed, realize you really haven’t. You’re still a worthy woman. Pick yourself back up, help yourself heal, recenter, realign, and refocus before you get back into the ebb and flow of life.

Cultivate a healthy, positive relationship with yourself and be true to you. Don’t try to be someone else; just be the best you.

Just as in our gardens that require weeding and in our diets that require eliminating unhealthy foods, our relationships may also require some gatekeeping to keep out what’s holding you back. So, allow yourself to respectfully say “no” to some people or projects that might be toxic or harmful to your health, well-being, and growth. Take time for yourself to just breathe and be - and enjoy being independently free!

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ON’T

We pass by each other, glancing up and down, taking stock of outfits, exposed skin, tattoos, hair color, and piercings. Our immediate perception and opinion of someone is formed in mere seconds, all based on how they look. We wonder about their life.

What they do for work, their personality, and relationship status. We form our conclusion and that becomes our basis for any interaction or lack thereof. So many people could impact our lives, but these opinions cloud opportunities and potentially prevent relationships from forming.

Picture this: The blue tint of curls shines in the sun, the beautiful flower tattoo runs up her arm. We scoff, roll our eyes and shuffle just a little bit further over, thinking perhaps her creativity and uniqueness might just rub off on us, fearful because being a little bit different would mean being judged and exposed. She raises her arm to brush her hair out of her face, her belly showing just a bit. We shake our heads in disgust. How could she dress like that?

And her hair!

Does she even have a job?

I bet she doesn’t have a car.

She probably still lives at home with her parents.

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Our judgments come quick and relentless. Our conclusion of this poor woman happening seconds after seeing her. Then we hear her speak of her students, the fondness in her voice apparent.

She loves her job, her true calling and passion seeping through with each word. We take another second and glance at her. Our cheeks heat as she smiles warmly at us, unaware of our thoughts. Quickly, we realize we passed judgment unfairly, all because of how she looked. Anything out of the ordinary, unique, or different becomes an immediate thought of lack of education, poor judgment, and immaturity.

Truth is, these people are our doctors, educators, businessmen, and women.

They serve our children lunches, bag our groceries, and run companies that may someday cure cancer. The fear that once existed to showcase our true personalities are slowly diminishing for some; others still hide behind lab coats and long t-shirts, fearful of what their image might portray.

It’s time that the days of judgment based on looks are forgotten. Our initial perceptions should not be clouded by what we see but by the interactions and experiences that allow individuals to show us who they are. To speak of their love of their job, to say a kind word, or conduct an act of kindness.

We will encounter rude, arrogant, and immature behavior, but at the core, these behaviors have nothing to do with image.

The tattoos, piercings, or hair color did not make them this way.

Perhaps their exposure to negativity did (wouldn’t that be ironic).

So, to combat this vicious cycle, we must fight against our own bias and realize that we are all unique beings, opting to showcase this creativity in various forms. Some journal, others take to the kitchen and cook, while others radiate towards body art and funky hair. At the end of the day, we are all human just longing for acceptance.

We need to give each other a chance because at the root of all of us is the innate desire to be kind. Unfortunately, we have been programmed to fear anything that is different. So instead of giving judging looks and moving away from the blue-haired girl, give her a smile because at the end of the day, you really don’t want to judge a book by its cover.

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EZRA GOLDBACH FOUNDATION GOLF TOURNAMENT Friday, July 30, 2021

Ezra Goldbach’s family and friends are honoring his life by having the 5th Annual Golf Tournament in his memory at Pilot Knob Park Country Club in Pilot Mountain.

We are excited to see everyone again this year and welcome anyone that hasn’t played before to join us!

Each year a scholarship will be awarded to an upcoming college student with a brilliant future and has played on their High School Golf Team. This year we feel so blessed and fortunate to award 4 scholarships. Congratulations to Emma R. Hutchens from East Surry HS, Isaac Riggs from North Surry HS, Emily N. Cox and Lukas Sikorski from West Stokes HS. In 2020 The Ezra Goldbach Foundation donated to Food Banks, donated to several needy families due to COVID-19 in Stokes County and adopted a local family for Christmas. Each year we hope to reach out and help a school or family in need.

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Please mark your calendar for Friday July 30th for a fun day of golf in Ezra’s memory!!!

There will be lots of food and hydration available! Prizes and giveaways too! All this and the incredible golf at P.K.P. We thank everyone in advance for being a part of this awesome day!!

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The Benefits of a Spray Tan Getting the Glow Without the Damage

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON

When I was in high school, I loved laying out in the sun. Back in my day, it was baby oil and a reflective blanket, flipping every hour, following the path of the sun all day. No one said very much about it ever leading to wrinkles, because at 16, who is worried about wrinkles? Fast forward to present day, I don’t lay out much due to…you got it, damaging my skin and wrinkles.

So, turning to a safe way to get a tan was definitely a route I wanted to take!

Someone once told me, “Tanned fat looks better than white fat,” and I have to agree. But, what are other benefits of a spray tan that you may not have thought about in your search for that summer glow?

NO UV EXPOSURE My tolerance for the heat of southern summers is different these days. I love a hot summer day, but to just sit and bake like a rotisserie chicken isn’t for me anymore. With my spray tan, I get the look I want without any of the damage that comes from the sun. Basically, no sun exposure means no skin damage from the harmful UV radiation leading to lower risk of developing melanoma.

INSTANT RESULTS With a good spray tan, like a personal spray tan or a Mystic Tanning booth, you don’t have to spend hours in the sun to get that sun-kissed look. It will only take about 10 to 20 minutes for you to get the results that you want, which works well with today’s busy schedules.

NO STREAKS FOR ME! I have tried many lotions, sprays and foams to get a tan, but most leave the tell-tale signs of the product…streaks! My experience with the Mystic Tanning has been excellent. Not a streak to be found! You can start as light as you want and gradually get to the color you like, or jump in and go for the mid-summer-been-to-the beach-fora-month look. It is recommenced to exfoliate before getting the spray tan, so it will be easily absorbed and then wait at least a day before you shower.

My spray tan lasts about a week to 10 days.

FACE IT, YOU FEEL BETTER WITH A TAN! I always feel better about the way I look in my clothes when I have a tan; my self-confidence gets a boost with a jump in my skin color. I feel healthier, too. It’s a weird psychological thing for me…I just like a tan.

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TAN LINES ARE USUALLY IN THE WORST LOCATIONS I’m one of those girls who hates tan lines. I will unhook whatever type of bathing suit I have to make sure my tan lines are as minimal as possible. As my tanning professional, Tara Snow, likes to say, “With a spray tan, you can maneuver yourself in the booth to make sure all the nooks and crannies are sprayed.” She’s right! No tan lines is a major plus to spray tanning. You can wear the strapless sundress without everyone knowing what bikini top you wore the day before.

If you are like me and have decided to let the reflective blanket, baby oil and frying like bacon in the sun go for whatever reason, look into spray tanning. It is a great option to still get the look you want and leave any additional damage to your skin behind.

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les: a T ’ s e v i ion? t i t Old W s er p u S Truth or

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Ever heard the advice “don’t go outside in the cold with your hair wet”? Or what about “wait an hour after eating before swimming”? These phrases are well-known old wives’ tales. According to dictionary.com, an old wives’ tale is “a superstition or traditional belief that is regarded as unscientific or incorrect.” Most of the time, these tales are based on alleged advice, folklore, and legends passed down through generations by older women. While these old wives’ tales originated from a place of heart, many of been proven false and to be only a myth, such as the following tales.

Wait an hour after eating before swimming

You may not need to wait a complete hour after a meal before heading into the water, but it is suggested to wait until your food is fully digested. It may be only five minutes, but be aware that a bigger meal will take longer for your body to digest. Avoid swimming or strenuous activity after a large meal for a bit.

If you go outside in cold weather with wet hair, you’ll catch a cold

This is one I remember being said when I was growing up. Viruses are the culprits that cause colds, not cold weather or wet hair. Viruses are easier to catch in cold weather, due to their ability to spread more easily indoors.

Chocolate causes acne

This old wives’ tale is (thankfully) false.

Research has shown no connection between the sweet treat and acne.

Yet, too many sugary, high-fat foods should be consumed in moderation.

Reading in the dark will damage your eyes

Based on research, reading in dark or dim light will not cause lasting damage, except it can cause eyestrain.

However, good lighting will help prevent eye fatigue and squinting.

Eating carrots will improve your eyesight

Research has proven that carrots do help improve a person’s eyesight, but you don’t need to eat large quantities to reap the benefit. Researchers believe this tale may date back to World War II. According to British intelligence officers, their pilots during the war had wonderful night vision, due to eating a lot of carrots. In reality, the British pilots were actually using radar, but wanted to cover up this form of technology from the Germans.

Too much TV or sitting close to the TV is bad for your eyes

Watching television is not bad for a person’s eyes, no matter how far away they are from the screen. Like other old wives’ tales, watching too much TV can cause eye fatigue and it is suggested to split up your time with other activities, such as reading, spending time outdoors, etc.

Feed a cold, starve a fever

Within this piece of advice, it is suggested for people with colds to eat, while others with a fever to stay away from food. The truth is to actually drink tons of liquids and eat regular meals to help ease the symptoms of a cold and a fever. Taking in additional nutrients will help the sick person get well faster.

Spicy foods cause ulcers

The fact about spicy foods is, while they don’t cause ulcers, they can still cause irritation.

While the majority of old wives’ tales are false, believe it or not, there are a few that have been confirmed true.

Fish is a brain food

Different types of fish are full of omega-3 fatty acids. These acids are known to help with brain function. The key thing to know – be careful of the high levels of mercury within fish. According to the U.S. Food and Drug Administration, it is suggested to only eat swordfish, shark, or tuna only once per month or not at all for pregnant women or those of childbearing age.

Loud noises cause hearing loss

Loud noises can cause hearing loss…just temporarily.

These noises cause the eardrum to vibrate extensively and the tiny hairs in the cochlea to change the sound into electrical signals. The brain then processes these signals into hearing loss. Just 15 minutes of loud noise can lead to tinnitus, a ringing in the ears, and hearing loss for a day or two. Over time, loud noises can turn into permanent hearing less. Just be careful as to how loud you listen to your music, TV, and more. When in doubt, turn down the volume or wear headphones.

There are many more famous old wives’ tales that people will continue to follow and pass to their family and friends. Whether the tales are true or false, they are valuable and beloved traditions that will last throughout the course of time.

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Marriage is hard.

Divorce is hard.

Choose your hard.

Obesity is hard.

Being fit is hard.

Choose your hard.

Being in debt is hard.

Being financially disciplined is hard.

Choose your hard.

Communication is hard.

Not communicating is hard.

Choose your hard.

Life will never be easy.

It will always be hard.

But we can choose our hard.

Choose wisely.

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Choose Wisely

BY TABATHA RENEGAR

A friend, whom I cherish very much, sent me an excerpt from a journal that she had seen and suggested it might be the inspiration for an interesting article. Now, it just so happens that this beloved friend is also kind of my boss since I am a writer for the magazine she created, so this suggestion was also an assignment! (Insert smiley and winky face emojis here!) I just hate saying ‘no’ to this friend, and I was drawn to the charm of the photo and the theme of the message. Yet, what to do with this idea of “choosing your hard”?

How to write about something that seems to be put quite succinctly in this sweetly, doodled page.

So, I pondered. And I thought about the hard times I have experienced in my life and in the lives of others that I have witnessed.

Like so many of you, last year presented an opportunity to see more “hard” than usual. And I don’t just mean the pandemic and the havoc it introduced to so many of our family, friends, and neighbors. I watched a friend suffer great loss in her life… not once but three times. My husband learned of a close young friend’s shocking cancer diagnosis. And all around us we watched as jobs were lost, pets crossed over, marriages crumbled, and friendships dismantled.

Yet, every one of the people I referenced in the above scenarios has also shared a laugh, hug, or joyful experience with me at some point in the last 18 months. Do they still hurt?

Of course, they do! Is there still healing taking place and emptiness that may never be filled? Yes. But what each of these warriors shares as they navigate their new journey is how they chose their hard.

The sudden, tragic loss of a beloved husband turns the world upside down for a wife left behind. No one would blame her for shielding herself from the world and allowing grief to take up fulltime residence. Yet, the woman I know chose a different hard. She chose to look for the lessons

that may exist in this tragedy, and she chose to feel the pain and glean strength from it when small amounts of light shone through.

So how do we steel ourselves for the next unexpected and possibly world-shattering “hard” that will undoubtedly come our way? How do we prepare to be warriors, choosing the hard that also offers growth and empowerment? It might be as simple as cutting out the cute journal entry pictured here and placing it where we can see it so we can practice it in little moments each day.

I believe it’s trying to tell us that work is required by us each and every time we face a challenge and that it is our CHOICE which work we are going to do! The work to just survive and get through or the work to survive, get through, heal and learn? The work to handle the difficulties associated with challenges or the work to handle them with grace and share what they’ve taught us with others?

I am no counselor or inspirational speaker. And there is no judgment about how I see others handle life’s unexpected roadblocks and detours.

But I do know that the words you see to the left will accompany me on whatever journey I am blessed with from this point forward. May my heart and soul see their way to choosing the hard and doing the work that brings me the most enlightenment and the ability to share love, laughter, and strength with others.

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BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

This column is dedicated to uplifting incredible women that might not be featured in the local news about their accomplishments.

These are abridged versions of these incredible women; please find them and ask them more!

DAWN POOLE

HOLLI WARD

I’m an introverted people person. Very shy, but I work hard to get out of my head and connect with people.

Connecting digitally and virtually has made me realize that I prefer every part of seeing people in person.

Now that I am older and have had time to reflect (a benefit of COVID), I think my history has a lot to do with what makes me, me. Looking back, I see and appreciate the family and friends who have instilled my compassion, work ethic, and empathy for others. Even the bad that has happened in my life has helped form my life today. I am more appreciative of what my parents and grandparents did to provide me opportunities that have helped me become who I am today.

What makes you YOU?

What are you most proud of?

I’m so proud of my sweet family -- Jayson, my husband, and our daughter, Sunny. They are both very funny, aggressively charming, and really good dancers.

I am proud to have a tender heart that hasn’t been hardened by some of my experiences in life.

What keeps you going when times are tough?

The community of folks who are encouraging and supportive to Jayson and me is humbling but is also very motivating. If I’m having a rough time I try to find a way to be a benefit to other people so that I’m not spreading around any of my woes. It sounds super hokey, but even when you think you don’t have anything to give, you can give your kindness, whatever that may be, and that’s very encouraging to me.

What keeps you up at night?

I wonder and worry about the world we are leaving for every child. This would have sounded not-believable to me several years ago, but then I had a kid and now I really get it. Not everyone is like this, but it took having a child to expand my heart. Sunny increased my capacity to care and worry for other people in addition to making me realize that each of us were just kids once and that keeps me up at night (and distracts me in the day).

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What makes you YOU?

What are you most proud of?

Of course, I will say my daughter. She is independent, tough, and smart. She has also made me a Yia Yia (grandmother) to an amazing little boy. I am proud of the work I have done to help my husband recover from an extremely debilitating stroke fourteen years ago. I am proud that through my career choice, Geriatric Care Manager, I have started and maintained a business that I can feel good about and know that I make the remainder of my clients’ lives as successful and fulfilling as possible.

What keeps you going when things are tough?

The love of my family. The appreciation of my clients and their loved ones. Finding humor in situations or myself. I tell people I am my own best entertainment. My husband has always been supportive of me and my business. He reminds me not to sweat the small stuff. Knowing I make a difference.

What keeps you up at night?

Worry and my sense of responsibility. I want to figure out what makes my clients and their families tick, and how best to make a difference for them. I want to be there for my daughter and make sure she knows how special she is. I want to support my parents as they age. Sometimes my dog is a bed hog, too!

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A POEM’S INSPIRATION

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Some years ago, my brilliant, compassionate friend Meg sent me the gift of a lifetime: a collection titled “A Year with Rumi: Daily Readings.” Leave it to Meg to find the perfect gift, one whose relevance will extend well beyond my days on the earth plane. Given that the collection covered 365 days of the year, I fully intended to read a poem a day. It didn’t work out that way. Instead, I found myself randomly opening to any-which page. Doing so was predictably unpredictable, sometimes providing welcome solace; at other times, offering unexpected inspiration; and often, delivering a serious soul punch that stopped me in my tracks as it provoked and challenged my spirit.

I’ve learned to relish the unpredictable company of Rumi’s words.

Jalāl ad-Dīn Mohammad Rūmī, also known as Jalāl ad-Dīn Mohammad Balkhī, Mevlânâ/Mowlānā, Mevlevî/Mawlawī was a 13th-century Persian poet, Hanafi faqih, Islamic

scholar, Maturidi theologian, and Sufi mystic originally from Greater Khorasan in Greater Iran. You may know him as “Rumi.” I imagine that he would prefer the familiarity.

In Coleman Bark’s introduction to this timeless volume, he writes of Rumi the man, and of his work, “When he died in 1273, members of every religion came to the funeral.

Wherever you stand, his words deepen your connection to the mystery of being alive.”

That says it best for me. Because indeed, wherever you stand, Rumi speaks to the individual, yet universal, human soul. He speaks to me as he embraces the complete and utter mystery of the human experience and gives expression to every niggling nuance of it. It’s his unequivocal acceptance, his profound “let it be because it is” wisdom that gives me strength and encouragement every day of the year. Consider the following poem in which he likens the experience of being human with the unexpected comings and goings that characterize a guest house:

THE GUEST HOUSE This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from above.

I have reached for this poem countless times, especially when it’s the dark thought or a fresh sorrow that has come to call. I find consolation here, in the space of these 94 words, as Rumi reminds me that to invite in these unexpected visitors is to trust that there is “more beyond” this thought or this sorrow. The door to my guest house is indeed the portal through which my human experience enters. When I can sit with each “unexpected visitor” I can own my journey with awareness, courage, and grace.

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Conquering Isolation & Loneliness: Part One

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

“The coronavirus pandemic has reminded us that human connection can spread illness. But human connection also promotes wellness.”

– Kasley Killam

Right now, I am encouraged by observing people out and about. Kids ride scooters and skateboards while their parents hustle to keep pace behind them. Couples walk the dog after they’ve shut down their work-from-home offices and catch up on their day. I am especially encouraged when I see my elderly neighbors sitting out on the porch or taking a slow stroll to the mailbox at the end of the drive. Just the other day, an elderly widow stood at her door, waiting for me to pass by so that she could wave. I waved vigorously, as did she.

These are small things, I know. No panacea for the pandemic or magic pill for loneliness or isolation. But consistent connection in any form helps maintain the thread that holds us together, keeping depression and despair at bay. This matters so much that we need to stay on it, for ourselves and for those around us, especially the elderly. The Administration on Aging (AoA), reminds us that just 15 minutes a day of in-person or virtual connection can counteract loneliness. Every one of us can manage 15 minutes, in fact, we must. But help, helps. Knowing that we are supported and encouraged by others makes us feel cared for and keeps us going. You think: But what can I do?

The great news is that you don’t need any “super skills” to help; you already have what you need, simply by being a caring human.

HELP SENIORS STAY CONNECTED AND ACTIVE If you have senior family members or friends, you can help them stay connected and active in small ways that can make a big difference: Reach out. The single, most important action you can take is to simply reach out. Call, Facetime, send a card in the mail. However you extend yourself, know that you may be helping them to ward off loneliness, especially if they live alone. Take it a step further and bring by a potted plant or consider another small gesture that lets them know you have not forgotten them.

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Perform an Act of Kindness. If ever there was a time for spontaneous kindness, this is it! Offer to run an errand, to walk their dog, or do a chore. Consider the person, of course, but remember that it is absolutely the thought that matters more than the gesture right now.

“Alice, I’m running to the supermarket. What can I pick up for you?”

It’s as simple as that.

Encourage Engagement. Use positive reinforcement to help seniors develop the good habits that keep them connected and active: “It’s great to see that you’re getting outside again, Sylvia.” or “Looks like you are getting in some steps today. Good for you!” or, “I bet your granddaughter would love to hear that you’re feeling better.” Just the fact that you are showing interest and a caring attitude reinforces connection and the good habits that keep all of us strong in body, mind, and spirit!

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1. AVOID VAGUE SUBJECT LINES The subject line is the first thing receivers see in regard to your email and is the spot to make sure they know why you are emailing.

Use words that make your message stand out in a full inbox.

Also, be sure the subject refers to what is said in your email’s body.

2. INTRODUCE YOURSELF TO UNKNOWN RECIPIENTS In brief, one to two sentence descriptions, introduce yourself at the beginning of your email to new recipients. Let them know who you are, how you met (if possible), and why you are writing.

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3. AVOID USING THE “URGENT” SETTING WHEN APPROPRIATE Never mark a message urgent, unless it truly is, such as a deadline, emergency, or important update.

4. USE CC AND BCC RESPECTFULLY CC (carbon copy) and BCC (blind carbon copy) can put a person in a tricky position when not used correctly. For CC, don’t add unnecessary people to the conversation if you are passing on a task, taking credit for a project, or giving unrelated information. For BCC, use if you are sending to a large number of recipients to help protect their privacy.

5. ALWAYS CREATE A DRAFT OF IMPORTANT EMAILS AND HOLD OFF FOR A LITTLE WHILE BEFORE SENDING It can be instinctual to quickly respond to an email that makes us angry, irritated, or causes us to hastily make a decision. When this comes, write an email draft of what you would like to say or get off your chest. Once you are done, don’t hit send. Instead, take some time away from your computer. Go outside, walk around your space, or anything to get your mind off the situation. Then, go back to the email and edit if necessary. You will probably find yourself switching out words, your tone, or deleting the entire email and starting fresh.

6. KEEP MESSAGES BRIEF AND TO THE POINT We all receive multiple emails very day and may not have the time to read each one. Once you have made your subject line noticeable, do the same with your message. Keep your email’s body brief and to the point of your message. If you need to discuss further with your receiver, ask to speak with them in person or over the phone.

7. WHEN SCHEDULING AN APPOINTMENT, STATE WHAT TIMES YOU ARE AVAILABLE Instead of saying “what works for you?” when trying to set up a meeting or appointment, give a few days and times when you are available. Let your recipient choose from those dates.

8. ALWAYS KEEP YOUR GOAL OF WRITING THE EMAIL IN MIND If your email needs a response, an action to be taken, or task to be done, be clear and specific on what is needed. Never use a passive aggressive tone, but state your goal upfront.

9. WHEN APPROPRIATE, GIVE THE RECIPIENT THE FINAL SAY If your message doesn’t need a response, something to be completed, or a follow-up, you may not need to respond to your recipient’s message.

Use your common sense and respond when appropriate.

Emails don’t have to be difficult to write. It may take some time to find the right wording; however, these tips will help make sure your message is direct, meaningful, and clear to your recipient and will also help get you get a response, if needed.

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How to Stand Out in an Oversaturated Market This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

When we pause and look at all of the different businesses there are in the world it can quickly feel like there isn’t enough room on the shelf for everyone. Surely, we don’t need yet another pest control company or coffee shop? Is that really another bookstore going in? The truth is, there’s a reason we see so many similar businesses not only existing but thriving simultaneously.

Think about your own business and brand.

You may not be recreating the wheel, but there’s a reason you pursued what you’re doing. Even if we don’t know each other, I’m going to go out on a limb and say that partly it was because you felt called to it.

Often, that calling is what fuels the fire and ignites unique customer loyalty for a business, helping it stand out even in an oversaturated market.

If you ever experience the feeling of your competition’s walls closing in, wondering how you’ll succeed, remind yourself that you have the power to stand out with these three unique elements in your business: effort, experience, and energy.

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#1 EFFORT

I could list twenty metaphors starting with “the early bird gets the worm,” and you would very quickly see that the common belief that the effort you put in is almost always equal to the results you see on the other side. In business, it can be easy to get busy doing a million things but taking time to pause and make sure you’re busy doing the right things can make all the difference. Don’t worry about how many other businesses are selling something similar, instead concentrate on making yours the best it can be. Put in the effort to learn new things and improve existing processes and offers while striving to have a business that makes you proud. Place your time and energy towards the things that are really moving you forward and making an impact on your bottom line.

#2 EXPERIENCE

If you’ve ever been through a Chick-fil-a drive-thru, you can’t argue that the customer experience is like no other fast food restaurant. Can you buy a chicken sandwich from somewhere else or a soft-serve ice cream cone? Of course, but would the experience be the same? The experience your customers have when working with your small business is one of the most important things that will help you stand out, regardless of how saturated your market is. How does your customer feel when they walk into your store? How do you manage clients from start to finish once they are under contract?

Taking time to create a flawless and intentional experience for all who interact with your brand will make a lasting impression, build brand recognition, and increase customer loyalty like nothing else.

#3 ENERGY

Somehow, a cheerful barista makes the caffeine in your coffee order work twice as hard. Energy is contagious - both positive and negative energy, unfortunately. The ideal audience that your business exists to serve will absolutely react to the energy you put out into what you do. There could be five different photographers in town with similar pricing and aesthetics, but I guarantee the energy that the photographer puts into their work is why a client books them instead of another.

You are in control of how you talk with customers (both existing and potential), show up on social media, write emails, engage with the community around you, and more.

If you want your business to really stand out, remember that the energy you put into it will speak volumes and attract business in a way that nobody else can match.

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My Top Picks from Well-Known Book Clubs Book clubs have been around for many years with a few well-known ones popping up in the media. Celebrities and news personalities have spread their love for reading by creating public book clubs. Within these groups, people are able to follow along (for free) and see what new picks are chosen each month. The choices are published online on the club’s websites, as well as a list of past novels. Three of the most famous book clubs were founded by Oprah Winfrey, Jenna Bush Hager, and Reese Witherspoon. I recently went through the book lists of each of these clubs and chose my favorite reads to share with you.

OPRAH’S BOOK CLUB PICK

Night by Elie Wiesel

Night was selected to be a part of Oprah’s Book Club in 2006 and the talk show host even stated that this “little book should be required reading for all humanity.” In this novel, Nobel Prize winner and Holocaust survivor Elie Wiesel describes his horrific experiences with his father at the Auschwitz and Buchenwald Nazi concentration camps in 1944 to 1945. Sadly, Wiesel’s father passed away at Buchenwald. Wiesel’s writing will bring tears to your eyes as you read about the horrors conducted by the Nazis in World War II. But, readers will also be left with messages about humanity, loyalty, faith, and freedom from oppression. After reading Night, a quick search on the Internet will pull up speeches given by Elie Wiesel and an interview between Wiesel and Oprah. During the interview, the pair travel back to Auschwitz and readers are given an additional in-depth view about his experiences. I’d first read Night in the 9th grade and today, many young adults continue to read the novel. To see more books in Oprah’s Book Club, visit: oprahdaily.com/entertainment/books/ g23067476/oprah-book-club-list/

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READ WITH JENNA BOOK CLUB PICK

The Giver of Stars by Jojo Moyes

I’m a fan of author Kristin Hannah’s writing and her latest book proved no different.

Set during the Great Depression, The Four Winds tells the story of Elsa Wolcott and Rafe Martinelli. The two married back in 1921, when marriage was the only option for Elsa and her survival. Now, fast forward to 1934 and a changed world. The Great Depression is leaving millions out of work and the Dust Bowl came barreling into the Great Plains, causing drought and destruction of farms.

Add in the slow downfall of Elsa and Rafe’s marriage, and life for the Martinelli family doesn’t look bright. Elsa is now forced to make the decision to fight for the farm and keep her children alive or move her family west to California. If you are looking for a novel about courage, strength, and hope, The Four Winds is a perfect book for you. To see more books in Read with Jenna Book Club, visit: today.com/shop/read-with-jenna

Also set during the Great Depression, British woman Alice Wright marries American Bennett van Cleve and begins a new life in small town Kentucky. However, things don’t go as planned when life turns hectic living with her new overbearing father-in-law. Alice soon meets Margery when the town calls for women to participate in delivering books for Eleanor Roosevelt’s traveling library. As the team’s leader, Margery doesn’t take no for an answer. Soon, Alice and Margery are joined by three other women and create the Packhorse Librarians of Kentucky. Throughout The Giver of Stars, readers are taken on the journey of Alice’s new life in America, as a librarian, and the lessons she learns along the way. To see more books in Reese’s Book Club, visit: reesesbookclub.com/picks

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REESE’S BOOK CLUB PICK

These three novels only touch the surface of book club picks available to read. While the book clubs in this article are free, readers can also subscribe to monthly online book clubs. No matter what, the goal of all book clubs (and this column) is to spread the love for reading and the many stories out there.

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WOMEN ON THE MOVE VAVINA LAPHAM

Vavina Lapham serves as the aquatics director and head coach for Salem College Swimming (NCAA Division III) and the Brookberry Farms head coach (first female to assume the role) for Greater Forsyth Summer League. Lapham now enters the private sector of swimming by developing her very own year-round team and nonprofit, King Triton Aquatic Club as owner and head coach, and owner and executive director of Triton Amateur Swimming Foundation. Lapham’s history as an elite-level coach with Swim Atlanta has given her strong experience combined with her role as NCAA Division III swim coach. From weekly Team Talk with the Pros to an individualized approach targeting the swimmer’s strengths and weaknesses to increase sports performance, Lapham’s mission is to empower young people to be champions in and out of the water. Lapham then took her plans a step further to develop Triton Amateur Swimming Foundation to provide families the pool space that will serve 300 children weekly and is establishing scholarship opportunities for learn-to-swim and competitive swimming.

KIM BAGGERLY

Kim attended Virginia Commonwealth University in Richmond, VA where she obtained her undergraduate & graduate degrees before relocating to North Carolina to be closer to family.

She has a medical background in transplant surgery & orthopedics, but her passion lies in aesthetics. She has been practicing & training in the aesthetics field for nearly 2 years. Kim has always dreamed of opening her own practice to help others look & feel their best self. She knew she wanted to provide a luxury one of a kind selfcare experience where everyone is welcome for their beauty & skincare needs. The Aesthetic Haus doors opened in November 2020, & Kim is so excited & grateful to be apart of the amazing Triad community! In her spare time, Kim enjoys traveling and fitness. She is also a home interior enthusiast, a wife and a mom to Ledger (3) and Loucille (1).

ALEX DUMMIT

CEO of Decent Concepts & COO of Net Impact Triad Alex is an executive with over a decade of experience in sustainable business development. Previously serving as an Executive Director and a Serial Entrepreneur, Alex has built and led teams of over 2,000 staff and has operated 12 unique businesses, simultaneously. In her extensive entrepreneurial experience, Alex prioritizes her passion not only for spearheading business development, but also for developing effective and transferrable techniques for motivating leadership teams. Alex works to make Decent Concepts a reliable, compassionate, and sustainable service across the Triad region, thus pursuing her passion for sustainable and social justice. Furthermore, she views Net Impact Triad’s model as an essential step in cultivating the future of North Carolina. Always eager to make the next leap, Alex has found a home with Net Impact Triad, where passion meets purpose.

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INTRODUCING THE TEAM OF THE NEW RENEWAL MED SPA AT SALEM PLASTIC SURGERY: JOY GOINS,

BECKY MATLOCK,

RN, NURSE INJECTOR & AESTHETIC NURSE

PATIENT CARE COORDINATOR

ALEJANDRA SANTOS,

MEREDITH LUKE,

RN, NURSE INJECTOR

LICENSED AESTHETICIAN

“I’m passionate about fillers, Botox and laser. It’s so rewarding to help people feel more confident about themselves.”

“I’ve loved art since I was a little girl, and filler is like art.

Making people feel their best is so important to me.”

JADE SIMMONS, RN, AESTHETIC NURSE

“I chose to be an aesthetic nurse because, with each patient, you have a blank slate and can customize treatments to fit the patient individually. It is not only fun, but very rewarding when you help someone feel great about themselves. It makes what I do each day more than just a job. I have a passion for what I do. I enjoy coming to work each day!”

“I love seeing the beauty we bring out in our patients and their smiling faces when this is achieved.”

“Aesthetics is not only a rewarding career but a chance to be creative and innovative daily. Being a skin therapist is my passion, and I look forward to enhancing, treating and transforming all of your skincare and body needs.”

We’re proud of our team at the new med spa. They are highly trained, dedicated to their patients and work as a team to make sure every spa patient gets the best of care and results.

The nurses are also operating room nurses. The team has the added benefit of first-hand experience on the surgical side of the practice with the anatomy of the face and body, which helps them determine the best treatments for patients.

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We’ve all heard of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which typically affects individuals during the colder, rainier months of the year. Many sufferers of seasonal depression or anxiety are too familiar with the impending sense of doom they experience as fall and winter approach.

On the other hand, many people become peeved as the sun shines and the temperature rises. Whether it’s the unbearable insects, sunburns, humidity, or crowds, summer isn’t always a walk in the park. While a general distaste for all that summer entails doesn’t warrant a mental health diagnosis, there are a few remedies to help summer-haters survive the season. Below are some tips on how to make the most of your least favorite months of the year.

TIP #1: WEATHER THE STORM While winter brings snow and ice storms, warmer weather carries the threat of hurricanes, thunderstorms, and tornadoes. If you’re anything like me, nothing is more anxietyinducing than an emergency weather alert for a tornado watch or warning. During the summer months, I find myself constantly on the prowl for funnel clouds whenever the sky is overcast.

In 2021, we rely on electricity to survive and depend on the internet for entertainment.

When powerful thunderstorms blow through your area and wreak havoc on trees and power lines, power outages can last for days. August in the south with no air conditioning? No thank you. To be better prepared for summer storms, consider keeping an emergency kit on hand packed with essentials such as non-perishable food, water, candles, a battery-operated fan, and a power bank to keep your electronic devices charged. Although the supplies won’t completely alleviate the discomfort you experience from a weather-related power outage, knowing you have an extra battery pack or two on hand can help put your mind at ease.

TIP #2: TAKE THE ROAD LESS TRAVELED Love summer travel but hate summer crowds?

If this is the case for you, the months of June through September are definitely not the time to visit that National Park you’ve been dying to see. With schools closed and parents taking their much needed vacation time, why not save Yosemite for the fall? For introverts, it might be best to ditch tourist attractions or beach vacation hotspots to avoid crowds and the high cost of peak season travel. Smaller mountain towns or destinations that aren’t as touristfriendly (think fewer hotel accommodations and no nonstop flights) might be your best bet.

Alaska, for example, has plenty to offer tourists, but is less likely to attract as many families as Yellowstone or Glacier National Park due to its fairly remote location. Families with only a week of vacation to spare are less likely to choose hours of driving through the wilderness of Alaska with small children when Disney World is perfectly tailored to suit their needs. If you can’t make the flight to Alaska this summer, just be sure to avoid Myrtle Beach in July at all costs.

TIP #3: STICK TO A ROUTINE Part of the reason some people might despise summer is due to an interruption in their daily routine. Longer days, fewer people working, and an abundance of summer festivals and activities can be moderately disorienting to those who are less comfortable with change. To combat feeling overwhelmed, try waking up and going to bed at the same time every day (even if it’s still a little light outside around 9:00 p.m.). On your days off, avoid being a slob and get ready for the day. With your routine in tact and a fresh shower under your belt, you’ll be more likely to take up your friend’s offer on hitting the town for tacos that night instead of hiding inside like an anxious hermit. Finally, if you’ve tried each of these tips for combatting the summer blues and are still miserable, perhaps it’s time to make a move to the Arctic.

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CELEBRATIONS

Marissa Ann Blizard West Forsyth High School Class of 2021.

Go forward on your journey! Always remember to keep God first, and know you will always have our love and support.

We are proud of you! Mom, Dad and Justin

MelanieMarshall Mom, I am so proud of you for working hard and earning your PHD! Love, Londyn

Oliver Edwards Oliver Edwards graduated with a bachelor’s degree from East Carolina University.

Ollie will be continuing his education at Jacksonville University graduate school seeking his master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling.

Emily Anne Beauchamp

Wilma Reed

Congratulations to Emily Anne Beauchamp who graduated Cum Laude on May 16th from Wake Forest University. She received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Communications with a double minor in Entrepreneurship and Psychology. Emily earned Dean’s list honors several semesters and has been accepted to WFU Master of Science in Management program beginning in July.

Right at Home in Home Care & Assistance of the Piedmont Triad is celebrating their 2021 East Central Regional Caregiver of the Year, Wilma Reed. Wilma has worked for Right at Home for 12+ years. She has demonstrated extraordinary care and dependability for the many clients she has impacted over the years. Congratulations, Wilma!

CELEBRATIONS

Briana Bralley Holt Congrats to ECU graduate Briana Bralley Holt with her doctorate in Nursing Practice!

Carter Marzano Carter Marzano graduated from West Forsyth High School on June 5th. He played Varsity Football for 3 years and found his forever brothers. Carter was nominated to play in the East - West NC Football All-Star Game and the 2021 All-Forsyth County Offensive Team. Carter will be working for Infinity Contractors this Summer and is enrolled at Forsyth Tech in their Welding Program.

Carter, we are so proud of you and can’t wait to see what the future holds!

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Love, Mom, Dad & Kaeley

Legacee Lyric Leak Congratulations to our very own Brittany Orie Leak and her husband Pastor Robert a Leak III for bringing forth their first child, Legacee Lyric Leak, on May 15th, 2021

Wyatt Gray Pendry Hi! My name is Abby Pendry. In 2018 I became a wife to Hunter. We are currently going on nine years together and just had our first baby, Wyatt Gray Pendry. We are excited for this new chapter in our journey through life together!

I have to say, KUDOS to all the full time mamas out there!

Just know, you are amazing and God built you for this!!

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JULY 6

JULY 12

BROYHILL CHAMBER MUSIC SERIES PRESENTS EMERSON STRING QUARTET

HEALING TIPS FOR EPISIOTOMY AND VAGINAL TEARS

SECOND WEDNESDAYS

7pm, Schaefer Center for the Performing Arts, 733 Rivers Street in Boone. Emerson String Quartet, one of the world’s premier chamber music ensembles, performs an allclassical program of Purcell, Shostakovich and Beethoven. “With musicians like this,” wrote a reviewer for The Times (London), “there must be some hope for humanity.”

Cost: $35 in-person/$15 livestream.

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING

JULY 8

11:30am-1pm, Footnote on 4th Street in W-S. Join PWWS for the monthly meeting. Learn more at PWWS.org.

NOW THROUGH JULY 15 SALEMTOWNE LEARNING LAB - RELIGION & RACISM: MORAVIAN RELIGION & RACISM Zoom event. Join Salemtowne for a virtual series examining religion and racism. Topics include Moravian Religion & Racism with Reverend Frank Crouch and The HiddenTowne Project with Martha Hartley. These are free Book with Purpose events; details: www.bookmarksnc.org/ BookwithPurpose.

NOW THROUGH JULY 27 READ | WRITE | SPELL AND ST. PAUL’S EPISCOPAL CHURCH Zoom events. Tuesdays in June and July at 12pm and 7pm.

As Episcopal Christians, addressing the sin of racism is part of our Baptismal call to “respect the dignity of every human being.” Trust in Jesus’ resurrection requires us to look at the places in our world where new creation is not yet happening and join God in making it so. Join us as we look at ourselves and our world, praying that God will make things on earth as they are in heaven. This is a free Book with Purpose event; details: www.bookmarksnc.org/ BookwithPurpose.

NOW THROUGH JULY 31 LEARN TO BELLY DANCE WITH BOLD BALADI In-Studio Classes, 711 Coliseum Plaza Court. Welcome to your sacred dance space, where you are free to move your body and relax your mind. Awaken the Goddess with Bold Baladi is an introduction to belly dance movements, combining aspects of meditation, yoga and high-intensity cardio. Cost: 6-week session: $55; drop-in: $15; 10-class card: $100. www.eventvesta.com/events/5926

JULY 4 SALEM BAND “STARS & STRIPES” CONCERT 7:30pm, Salem Square, 649 South Main Street in W-S. Honoring veterans in our community with marches, big bands, Armed Forces Salute and, of course, Star & Stripes Forever! Including a salute to baseball hero Hank Aaron. All concerts FREE in Salem Square, Old Salem. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Food vendors on site. salemband.org

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KIDS’ MORNING OUT AT THE WINSTON-SALEM OPEN

12pm, Zoom webinar (https://bit.ly/3gwOKbB).

Soreness after vaginal delivery is normal. If you had an episiotomy or vaginal tears during delivery, your pain is different. Dr. Doug Miyazaki and Dr. Eloise Joubert will share strategies to increase comfort if you experienced an episiotomy and/or vaginal tears during delivery.

JULY 13 CANNON WEALTH MANAGEMENT MID-YEAR SEMINAR “GETTING FINANCIALLY ORGANIZED”

10am-12pm, Hanes Park, 625 West End Boulevard in W-S. Kids’ Morning Out is back!!!! Grab a friend, and bring the kids for a morning of fun at KMO! School’s out for summer! Free event for kids of all ages.

Games, activities and prize! Kids must have tennis shoes on, but all other gear will be provided. Each adult receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings!

Maple Chase Golf and Country Club, 5475 Germanton Road in W-S. Please join us for our Mid-Year Educational Seminar “Getting Financially Organized.” This is a wonderful opportunity to take a look at where you stand halfway through the year and assess where you want to be by year end. We will discuss the latest financial updates and provide tips on how to help you get better at organizing your financial future. Pre-register on our website. Seating is limited. cannon-wealth.com

JULY 9

JULY 14

FITNESS FRIDAY

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT

5:30-6pm, F45 Training Winston-Salem @ Bailey Power Coal Pit, 486 North Patterson Avenue. We will have a live DJ and everyone registered will receive a free drink ticket to Incendiary after the event. This event is sponsored by Innovation Quarter.

Registration: bit.ly/F45WSNCTRACK.

JULY 10

5pm until…Midtown Cafe & Dessertery, 151 South Stratford Road in W-S. Take advantage of amazing specials and meet up with some friends you haven’t seen in a while for a great dinner with drinks and a dessert. A perfect Midtown night out! Specials include $4 desserts, half price appetizers as well as drink and dinner specials.

As always, each attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board drawings!

JASON ISBELL AND THE 400 UNIT

JULY 17

8pm, Kidd Brewer Stadium, 270 Stadium Drive in Boone. Americana outfit Jason Isbell and the 400 Unit make a tour stop in Boone to promote their newest release, Reunions. The former Drive-By Trucker and his bandmates open the season with an unforgettable evening of rousing anthems and lyrical standouts. Cost: $60/person. appsummer.org

JULY 11 BROYHILL CHAMBER MUSIC SERIES PRESENTS CANADIAN BRASS 7pm, Schaefer Center for the Performing Arts, 733 Rivers Street in Boone. Canadian Brass, who has earned the distinction as “the world’s most famous brass group,” perform an engaging, spontaneous and virtuosic program ranging from Bach to The Beatles. Cost: $35 in-person/free livestream. theschaefercenter.org

LESLIE ODOM JR. 8pm, State Farm Road Concert Lot, Intramural Field Road Lot in Boone. Be in the room where it happens when Oscar nominee and Tony Award winner Leslie Odom, Jr., the original Aaron Burr from the Broadway phenomenon Hamilton, appears in concert for a special evening of song.

Cost: 2, 4 and 6-person pods: $110/$210/$300. appsummer.org/event/leslie-odom-jr/.

BRIAN STOKES MITCHELL & MEGAN HILTY 8-10pm, State Farm Road Concert Lot, Intramural Field Road Lot. Experience a night of Broadway hits and unforgettable music with Tony Award®winning Brian Stokes Mitchell (Man of La Mancha, Shuffle Along, Ragtime) and Megan Hilty (NBC’s Smash, Broadway’s Wicked) in concert. Cost: 2-person pod: $110; 4-person pod: $210; 6-person pod: $300. appsummer.org

JULY 20

JULY 26-31

BROYHILL CHAMBER MUSIC SERIES PRESENTS TESLA QUARTET

EMMANUEL CHURCH VBS

7pm, Schaefer Center for the Performing Arts, 733 Rivers Street in Boone. Praised for their “superb capacity to find the inner heart of everything they play, regardless of era, style or technical demand,” the Tesla Quartet brings refinement and prowess to both new and established repertoire. The ensemble expertly interprets the many layers of Dvorak, Haydn and Bartok in the evening’s program. Cost: $35 in-person/free livestream. appsummer.org/ event/tesla-quartet-2

SALEM BAND “TWENTIANA” CONCERT 7:30pm, Salem Square, 649 South Main Street in W-S. ‘20s popular music from several centuries including Kittyhawk, Salute to Bob Hope and Big Band Polkas. With vocal soloist Mignon Dobbins.

Pre-concert music by the Salem Saxophone Quartet. All concerts FREE in Salem Square, Old Salem. Bring a blanket or lawn chair. Food vendors on site. salemband.org

JULY 20-31 F45 TRAINING WSNC TEST DRIVE F45 Training Winston-Salem, 486 North Patterson Avenue. Join F45 WSNC for our Test Drive Series designed specifically for the first time F45er. This series will be offered over a two-week period where you can come to our classes for free to see what we are all about at our 8:30am class during the summer months. Registration: bit.ly/F45WSNCTESTDRIVE.

JULY 22 PETER MAX: THE RETROSPECTIVE 1960-2021 LaMantia Gallery, 440 Daniels Street. A Retrospective collection, with a significant nod to music, the arts and the legacy of the Pop Art genre from the studio of artist legend, Peter Max, will be on exhibition and available for acquisition in a limited engagement presentation at LaMantia Gallery Raleigh’s premier fine art gallery. Call 919.900.8453, or email james@lamantiagallery. com for more information. All events are open to the public with RSVPs strongly recommended and complimentary at Eventbrite. lamantiagallery.com

JULY 24 ALAN CUMMING AND ARI SHAPIRO: OCH & OY! A CONSIDERED CABARET 8pm, State Farm Road Concert Lot, Intramural Field Road Lot in Boone. Tony winner and TV star Alan Cumming (Cabaret, “The Good Wife”) and NPR staple and singer Ari Shapiro (“All Things Considered,” Pink Martini) join forces in song and storytelling with this evening of tunes and tall tales.

Cost: 2, 4 and 6-person pods: $100/$190/$270. appsummer.org/event/ alan-cumming-and-ari-shapiro-och-oy-aconsidered-cabaret/

9am-12pm, Emmanuel Church of Winston-Salem, 407 Petree Road in W-S. Join us this summer for our Vacation Bible School Our theme is “Egypt: God is Our Redeemer.” VBS is free and is for ages 3 (potty-trained) through rising 6th grade. emmanuelws.com/ministries/vbs

JULY 30 5TH ANNUAL EZRA GOLDBACH FOUNDATION GOLF TOURNAMENT 8:30am and 2pm shotgun start, Pilot Knob Park Country Club in Pilot Mountain. Ezra Goldbach’s family and friends are honoring his life and supporting the scholarship fund created in his name with this annual golf tournament. Each year, a scholarship will be awarded to an upcoming college student with a brilliant future and has played on their high school golf team.

This year, four scholarships will be awarded. There will be lots of food and hydration available. Prizes and giveaways too! For additional information, see Ezra Goldbach Foundation Golf Tournament on Facebook, or email ezragoldbachfoundation@gmail.com.

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AUGUST 21 1ST ANNUAL LCC CHARGE FORWARD 5K Located on the beautiful grounds of Forsyth Country Day School. More details are coming soon. Interested in sponsoring? Contact Meika Imes at meika@lewisville-clemmons.com.

OCTOBER 2 TOUR DE BOUTIQUE 2021 After the popularity of last year’s self-guided Tour de Boutique, we’ve decided to offer it for 2021, too! $40 includes your choice of either -- Forsyth Woman Tour de Boutique Quarter Zip Sweatshirt OR Forsyth Woman Tour de Boutique Hat + Long Sleeve Tee Combo.

Plus, you’ll get a $10 lunch voucher!

You’ll receive door prize tickets, and the more stores you visit on the tour, the more opportunities you’ll have to WIN! Also, every store on the trip is going to have special sales, exclusive to Forsyth Woman’s Tour de Boutique shoppers!

Grab your mom, your sister, your coworkers, your best friends, your neighbor and join us for another shop-til-you-drop adventure! Visit tinyurl.com/2021FWTDB for more information and to register.

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Conversations with Your BFF As the dog mom of four rescue pups, dating someone who doesn’t love my fur babies is not ever going to happen. In fact, two of my pups found their way to me after their owner of three years started dating a woman who didn’t like dogs or any animals, in general. The girlfriend posted the pups on Craigslist to quickly get rid of them. I contacted the owner, and after hearing the story of why he was rehoming them, my reply was, “If I were you, I’d keep the dogs and rehome the girlfriend.

Her not liking animals is just one of the red flags to come. Trust me.”

Needless to say, since they are with me, he kept the girlfriend. What if you fall head over heels in love with someone who doesn’t like your pets… what do you do? I am so glad you asked.

“YOU DON’T LIKE ANIMALS? SERIOUSLY?!”

It probably doesn’t surprise you to learn that most recent data shows that 67% of American households have a pet of some kind. That number grows a bit each year, but not as much as the number of single people with pets. In fact, the American Veterinary Medical Association found that 57% of single women living alone have pets and 43% of men. With numbers like this, your chances of falling for someone who likes or has a pet would seem high, but just in case you fall for the odd one who doesn’t, what comes first…your pet or your love life?

Loving an animal is a good indication of how a person will love you. People who love animals usually have a deeper love for others and understand love in general better. Plus, animals are our best representation of pure, unconditional love. In animals, we see an example of how we are ultimately to love, and if someone doesn’t appreciate that type of love seen in an animal, you might want to think twice on having that person in your life. If you can’t look at a puppy or kitten and get a warm feeling, something is definitely wrong.

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‘My Date Hates My Dog… What Should I Do?’

BY REBECCA COOPER

Sometimes your new love interest may lead you to believe they love animals, although they’ve never had a pet in their life, but pay attention when you introduce your new ‘friend’ to your ‘furry friend.’ Animals, especially dogs, are much better judges of character than we could ever be. Dogs know when someone is giving off bad vibes, and they usually let you know. If your pet shies away from your new love, think twice before keeping that person around.

It’s understandable that some people are drawn to dogs more than cats, but to not like either, well, there’s something up with that. There is an exception and that would be if someone is allergic to animals. For me, that would be a fate worse than death with the love I have for animals, but allergies can be miserable, so a love interest would get a pass, but then you still have to decide, should the relationship move forward, can you live apart, or perhaps rehome your animal? I can also understand anyone who had a bad experience, like a dog bite, in their past and

they have a fear of dogs. But as with allergies, you really need to weigh having your animal in your life or this new person. You are your pet’s universe, and they have feelings, too.

I often read on social media, ‘A dog will never break your heart,’; that’s not true. They will never break your heart on purpose, but the day they leave this life, your heart will be broken.

However, our partners could betray us at any point, usually on purpose. The loyalty of a pet has no bounds, but people do, even the best of them.

So, just as you would consider things that may be a deal-breaker in a relationship like smoking, alcohol, excessive spending, etc., consider if your possible new mate can open their heart to your pet. The love from your pet will always exceed what you expect, the love of a person, not so much.

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