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SENIOR ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Tamara Bodford

August means back to school… and the end of summer. A bittersweet month if you enjoy summer like I do! This has been quite a busy summer in the Forsyth Magazines world. Keela, my mom and also the founder of Forsyth Magazines, is bringing her dream to life of launching a magazine in the Lake Norman area. She and my dad have lived on the lake for close to 5 years now and it seemed like the perfect time to start this new venture. She’s been working incredibly hard on this magazine and I am so proud of her.

I couldn’t agree with her more, I also know that LKN Magazine will be a success because of my mom, and more importantly, because of the team she’s built that’s behind it. If you are ever in the Lake Norman area, be sure to pick up a copy and give us a follow on social media— @LKNMagazine! The first issue will hit the stands at the end of this month.

Speaking of building a successful team, Jodie Brim wrote a fabulous article on building a team—check it out on page 36. If you’ve been in business for long, you know that your team is everything. It can make or break your business. An extra special THANK YOU to our amazing team that makes the dream happen each month. Our writers, editors, account executives, graphic designers, photographers… we couldn’t do it without each and every one of you. Recognizing your strengths and weaknesses and asking for help from those who thrive doing the things that may not be your expertise… THAT is the key to a great team.

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EDITORIAL DIRECTOR Vonda Henderson

BACK OFFICE & VIRTUAL ASSISTANT The Office Nerd, Denise Heidel MEGAN BLACK PHOTOGRAPHY

It’s wild to think, she launched Forsyth Woman nearly 17 years ago…when she was 46 years old and recently laid off from her 25+ year career at Sara Lee. And here she is, 63 years old and launching her FOURTH publication. The woman is unstoppable.

She thinks she learns a lot from me, but she has no idea how much I’m soaking in from her. Her perseverance, passion and entrepreneurial drive is unmatched. She told me the other day, “I just know this magazine will be a success. I can’t describe the feeling I have, but I just know it in my heart and soul.” If you know our story, you know that our entire family had doubts when she first had the idea to start Forsyth Woman many years ago, so you better believe I have all the faith in the world in her this go around. I learned my lesson!

ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE

A few other announcements:

COVER PHOTOGRAPHER Jodie Brim Creative

CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS JEJ Photos Jodie Brim Creative Megan Black Photography Photo Artistry by Melinda *others credited throughout accordingly

CONTENT EDITORS

1. We will not have a Girls’ Night Out event in August—but go ahead and save the date for September 14th at Bermuda Run Country Club!

We have a fun evening in store for you and we’ll be collecting school supplies for the Educator Warehouse! Stay tuned to social media for all the details (@forsythmags).

2. Tour de Boutique is right around the corner!! You can learn more about the event on page 24 and you can sign up at tinyurl.com/2022TDB. This event has grown, it’s evolved, and it’s become something bigger than we ever dreamed of!

Shopping local is a passion of ours, and this event truly brings this passion to life.

3. If you haven’t yet, be sure to follow us on social media! @forsythmags on Instagram and on Facebook. We’re excited to be adding in additional video and FUN on our pages!

We love the ability to connect with our readers on these platforms.

Wishing you a happy and healthy month of August!

As always, I love to hear from you! If you have comments, questions, concerns… please don’t hesitate to reach out. Brooke@forsythmags.com

Kim Beane Meghan Corbett (Assistant)

SENIOR STAFF WRITER Carolyn Peterson

OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Karen Cooper Angelia Cornatzer Candice Deal Martie Emory Anne Glenn Denise Heidel Amy Hill Taryn Jerez Jean Marie Johnson Debbie Lanier Debbie Linville Kelli Messick Susan Schabacker Lauren Sephton Leslie Speas Erika Taylor Megan Taylor Sheridan Watkins *others credited throughout accordingly

GRAPHIC DESIGN & PRODUCTION Emerson Designs

All my best,

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Forsyth Woman Disclaimer: Please note that the inclusion of stories and articles in Forsyth Woman magazine does not imply endorsement of products or people. The views of the authors are presented for information and entertainment only, and may not necessarily reflect the views of Forsyth Woman. Specifically, Forsyth Woman in no way endorses any claim associated with health and/or well being with respect to any particular person. We disclaim all warranties, express or implied, including, but not limited to, implied warranties of merchantability and fitness for a particular purpose. We will not be held responsible or liable, directly or indirectly, for any loss or damage that is caused or alleged to have been caused in connection with the use of, or reliance on, any content in this magazine. Forsyth Woman reserves the right to deny any advertisement or listing that does not meet Forsyth Woman standards. Submissions are welcome but unsolicited materials are not guaranteed to be returned. Forsyth Woman assumes no responsibility for information, products, services or statements made by advertisers or editorial contributors. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part without written permission from the publisher is prohibited. ©2005 by Forsyth Woman, Inc.

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Forsyth Mags Foodie Review: Bermuda Run Country Club

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Fashion for the Forsyth Woman: Hip Chics Boutique

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Keeping It Real “TO COME IN BETWEEN”

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Ever read Scripture that sounds completely out of character for God? Here goes: “…the Lord said to Moses, ‘Let Me alone now….’” (Exodus 32:9) Did God really just say that?! Have you ever in your life fathomed such a thing?! But it’s what God said, and I believe He meant it!

You see, no matter how many times God stepped in to protect and provide for His people, no matter how far He separated these former slaves from captivity, God’s freed ones kept imitating their captors!

They looked just like the world around them and completely ignored the Generous God who had delivered them.

(Sounds vaguely familiar!)

As Moses experienced God’s Glory on the mountaintop, God’s people remaining at the bottom acted fifty-shades-of-crazy. A wild party broke out! Problem was, they partied in worship of dead gods (with a golden calf to boot!) while ignoring the One True God that had delivered them over and again.

Jehovah championed their cause when nobody stood in line to help; yet in their liberation, they tossed Him like stale bread.

You’ve got to read Exodus 32, but for now, it went something like this . . .

God essentially told Moses, “I’ve been patient, but I’m done! I’m going to deal with them once and for all. I’ll make a great nation out of you, Moses, but I’m going to take them out! Now let me alone to do it!”

It takes a LOT to push this patient God to the brink, but the jig was up!

Stay with me; this is fascinating! Did you know that the word “intercessor” literally means, “to come in between”?

A praying person comes in between to say, “God, You have every right to do this, but I stand in the gap between You and this situation asking You to reconsider.”

Imagine that! God WANTS us to change His mind, to influence Him! Moses reminded Him: "If You do this, the world will say You only brought them out here to take them out.

Think what will happen to Your reputation on

the earth! And besides, You promised them by Your OWN Name to multiply their generations.

You don’t break Your promises. I believe this!”

The Psalmist declared, “Because Abba bends down to listen, I will pray as long as I have breath!” (Psalm 116:2 NLT)

Then, guess what? The Lord “changed His mind and let them live.” (Exodus 32:14 CEV) GOD CHANGED HIS MIND!

That’s what Moses did! He prayed, urging God to reconsider . . .

AND GOD DID!

Friend, do you realize the privilege we possess to speak intimately to this All-Powerful God in such a way that we can actually influence how He responds? FOR REAL!

What is going on in your living that needs your intercession? Where is it that you need to come in between?

When God said, “Let Me alone now,” He was actually saying, “Moses, if you step aside, I’ll act.

But if you remain in between, I won’t.” Y’all, THIS IS THE POWER OF PRAYER! God waits for true intercessors to come in between and remain! To stay there without letting go! To hold on UNTIL we see God move!

God responds to the perpetual prayers of His people, those intercessors who stand in the gap, holding on with all they’ve got UNTIL they see God move! In fact, He’s counting on the fact that you will! He delights to show mercy when we pray!

So what are we waiting for? Let’s get to it! He’s listening, you know!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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Celebrate National Girlfriend Day

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Some things are worth quibbling over, and one of them seems to be the origins of National Girlfriend Day. Some believe that it started as a way for the greeting card companies to sell more cards. Others claim it was invented in 2002 by authors Elizabeth Butterfield and Kathleen Laing who wrote a book about girlfriend getaways.

But who knows? It may have started in a way we’ll never know. The important thing is that August 1st is a day to celebrate your girlfriends. This year, National Girlfriend Day arrives on a Monday, and, by the time you read this article, it may have already passed.

That’s why I’d like to propose that we enterprising women claim the entire month of August to celebrate one another. Who’s with me on this?

ALL ABOUT US Now, before we get to the many ways we might do so, I feel obliged to clarify that this special day isn’t about boyfriends showering girlfriends with chocolate and roses - that’s what February 14th is all about. This is a girl thing if ever there was one! I’ve always been fascinated with female friendships, knowing in my heart that I do not know where I would be without them. Our closest girlfriends – as opposed to friends of convenience – are there with us and for us, through thick and thin. They give us a: • listening ear

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• ready-made support system • reality check • shoulder to cry on • buddy to go a little crazy with • and something dang close to unconditional It’s little wonder that the research suggests: • The average woman has six best friends in her lifetime (that seems high to me; I mean “best”?)

• 1 in 10 women say they have more fun with their BFF than with their partner • 25% say their BFF knows them better than their partner ( hmmm…)

• The average female friendship for women over 55 is 23 years • The average female friendship lasts 16 years (what? Way too low!)

• 47% of women wish they could spend more time with their BFF (count me in!)

CELEBRATE YOUR GIRLFRIENDS They already know you love them but demonstrating that love and celebrating your bond is what memories are made of.

See how many of the following ideas you can pursue this month. As you do so, be sure to tell her that you are reaching out in the spirit of National Girlfriend Day and encourage her to do the same with her circle of besties: • Text or post a photo of the two of you from “back when”

• Buy one of those greeting cards and mail it – the old-fashioned way • Tell her the three qualities that you most admire or appreciate about her • Share your favorite memory of the two of you: “Remember that time when…?”

• Send her flowers • Send her a gift card for her favorite site or store • Send her a current book on a topic she is interested in • Make her lunch or dinner • Have a picnic in a park or local vineyard • Plan an adventure: shop in a different town, try a new restaurant, take a hike in an unusual location • Stay with the tried and true: go to your favorite shopping destination, restaurant, hiking location • Indulge a little or a lot: mani-pedi, facial, massage, spa day? You decide.

You’re worth it!

• Gather your girlfriends who hang out together and have a group celebration.

My niece Megan invented the “All Day Brunch” which has become legendary back in Connecticut!

• Say “I love you” And if all of this sounds a bit too frivolous or over the top, remind yourself of the many ways that your girlfriends enrich your life.

Priceless, right? Now go for it!

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WISE Mobile Reading Sharing Books & Spreading Love

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

From serving her church family to countless women in search of spiritual growth in their personal and professional lives, Carolyn Edmond is an inspirational force in her community.

And as our collective thoughts are turning towards a new school year, her thoughts have been centered on how she and her organization can make a difference.

Since exiting the corporate world and joining her husband, Pastor Robert Edmond of Kimberly Park Holiness Church, in his ministry, Carolyn has touched the lives of many local women with her group WISE (Women in Spiritual Excellence).

A 501(c)(3) non-profit, WISE is built on a mission to empower women in all walks of life with faith-based counseling and a variety of educational workshops and ongoing fellowship.

As president and founder of WISE, Carolyn’s work has always focused on stewardship and servant leadership, and while pondering ways to expand the group’s work locally, she realized the needs of young students in particular areas of the community.

Meet WISE Mobile Reading – a program that is currently serving students who attend Kimberly Park Elementary, Ashley Elementary, and Cook Literacy Model School, and who may be lacking reading interaction at home. An absence of sharing reading with an adult in the early years can be detrimental to elementary age children, and statistics prove an astounding standstill by the time they reach a third grade level.

With a group of six volunteers (and counting!) the WISE Mobile Reading van has been spending Thursdays this summer bringing a love of reading into these at-risk neighborhoods, providing books, one-on-one reading time, and snacks to kids from ages three to eight.

“These are children who might have no one else at home to read aloud to them,” says Carolyn. “It’s a major step in helping prepare them for kindergarten.”

Many books in the van’s current collection are from Smart Start, courtesy of the wonderful endeavor Dolly Parton’s Imagination Library. Book donations are also accepted at any time, as well as monetary donations.

While there’s just one van for now, Carolyn would love three for the start of the new school year – one for each of the targeted elementary schools. She believes God will inspire people to help make her goal of a fleet of 10 vans a reality soon, reaching even more neighborhoods!

The exterior of the WISE van has also had an upgrade – colorful handprints of many of the children enjoying the reading adventure.

Carolyn knows that even helping one child develop a love for reading is a milestone – one she hopes can continue to grow with donations and an expanded volunteer base.

For more information, and especially if you have books – or time – to donate to the WISE Mobile Reading program, email Carolyn Edmond at info@wisefellowship.org. Visit this powerful women’s group online for more of their story and missions at wisefellowship.org.

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As your Sheriff, the Office of the People has made strides, broken many barriers, and elevated law enforcement in Forsyth County in many ways. We are just getting started. I ask for your vote in 2022. Most immediately, I ask for your financial support to run this race and win.

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Hair Studio:

Where Love Inspires the Craft!

BY MARTIE EMORY

typical salon pricing inconsistencies, the more obvious it became that men were receiving deep discounts on their cut and colors, while some women and others were being overcharged. Others were left to endure the pain of antiquated booking procedures that forced them to declare a gender they didn’t identify with, when hairstyles have no gender.

Fostering a welcoming salon environment has always been a priority for me. I also want my stylists to make consistent wages regardless of what service they’re performing.”

Amber’s professional approach has always been employee-centric – hiring top stylists, but also those who value continuing education and sustainability. A spokesperson for SALON TODAY also noted that 2022 had been dubbed the “year of the team” – more than ever – and that certainly rings true at Alkali.

Alkali Hair Studio has always been known for a genuine appreciation of the human spirit, and thankfully, their industry has taken notice.

In March 2022, the Winston-Salem salon was named to the SALON TODAY 200 by SALON TODAY, the leading business media for salon and spa owners. Each honoree was featured in the publication’s Spring 2022 issue, and distinguished salons were honored in Nashville this May, at an awards dinner. The competition recognizes salons for unique and forward-thinking business practices, which Alkali owner Amber Woodall accepts proudly, while reflecting on some recent changes.

First came a generous expansion of the salon – a project Amber worked on throughout the height of Covid, with completion at the end of September. The new space allows for an overall layout that accommodates the salon’s commitment to sustainability. Amber and her team also began participating in the GreenCircle recycling program, realizing they could contribute to the well-being of local waterways – and the entire planet – in addition to focusing on clean, healthy products in the salon. With that new recycling manifesto, she realized the salon also needed to go paperless.

“I streamlined our technology, and I also had to implement a way to store payment information and prevent any chance of missed reminders to accommodate our cancellation policy,” explains Amber. “With all these changes, I needed our website to be up-to-date, to clearly explain our policies and procedures. I was completely transparent about the salon’s choices, including our updated cancellation policy.”

Alkali also transitioned to a gender-neutral, ageless pricing system, also a major point contributing to their recognition.

“Separating services by gender is not only divisive but it doesn’t make good business sense,” explains Amber. “Alkali has always been a strong supporter of our LGBTQIA+ community, and this is an issue I’m passionate about. The more I analyzed

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Inspired by a current team of 16 – nine stylists, two estheticians, two managers, and three receptionists – Amber proudly explains one of the biggest characteristics she feels sets Alkali apart from other salons.

“Our culture is very unique!” she says.

“After many years of working in competitive salons where even the employees competed against each other, I knew I wanted my salon to be different. I truly try to lead from a place of radical love, understanding, and acceptance, and believe that example spills over into each person who is a part of Alkali. My employees are not only the top in their field, but they are treated that way – and shown they are valuable.”

Find a color and style that speaks to the real, authentic you at Alkali Hair Studio, located at 407 West End Blvd in WinstonSalem. You can reach them at 336-724-1453 or online at studioalkali.com.

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TOUR DE BOUTIQUE OCTOBER 1ST 2022 PHOTOS BY MEGAN BLACK PHOTOGRAPHY

How much does it cost? $40!

What does the cost include?

Your $40 registration fee includes the ‘shop local‘ crew neck sweatshirt you see pictured inside a swag bag with some other goodies, access to exclusive specials and discounts at all participating boutiques, door prize tickets (50+ door prizes are given away!!) and a day full of fun and quality time with your girlfriends!

One of our most popular events of the year is happening on Saturday October 1st! We want to address some frequently asked questions!

FAQ’S Will you have a bus?

Due to popular demand, the tour will be self-guided again this year!

Will there be route options like last year?

Yes! We’ll provide shoppers with several route options depending on which side of town they’d like to start from.

Do you have to visit the stores in a certain order?

No! You are welcome to go rogue and create your own route. Our routes are purely suggestions to give you some added efficiency.

When will you release a list of participating stores?

Stay tuned to social media -- @forsythmags on Instagram and Facebook. We have TEN participating stores this year!

Can you purchase apparel if you don’t go on the tour?

Nope! This apparel is exclusively available for our Tour de Boutique shoppers.

What time does it start?

As early as you’d like! We’ll be sure to communicate open and closing times of each boutique with participants. Many stores open early and stay open late just for us.

9am -6pm is the typical time frame, but since it’s self guided, you can shop at your own pace. You may spend 20 minutes in one store and an hour in another.

Are you required to visit all the stores?

No, but the more stores you visit, the more chances you have to win door prizes!! You enter into a drawing at every store you visit and we have a special GRAND PRIZE that you can only be entered into if you visit all 10 stores.

Do people usually sign up with friends or individually?

BOTH! We’ve seen three generations sign up together (mother, daughter, granddaughter), we’ve seen groups of friends, co-workers, sisters, cousins, AND absolutely people sign up individually. We know some people prefer shopping alone and that is totally fine! We can assure you the stores will make you feel welcome all day long!

WHAT PAST SHOPPERS ARE SAYING: “I love spending time with my girlfriends and being able to shop at our own pace!” – Cassie P. “In a world where everyone is shopping online, it was awesome to go to actual stores with your best friends and be treated like VIPs while doing it!”

– Meredith M. “My friends who started the day out not knowing each other, became friends by the end of the day! We had a blast!”

– Emily B.

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A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

This month’s featured artist, Kristi Hill, turns textures and vision together to shape remarkable works of art that capture her refreshing curiosity and appreciation of the world. Whether curating her next pottery collection or doodling away in her sketchbook, Kristi embraces the creative process not just for the outcome but the imperfect moments along the way.

Kristi Hill | Pottery & Painting How would you describe your work?

I make functional and decorative pottery that can be used in everyday life. Most of my pieces are wheel thrown, but I sometimes make slab or handbuilt work as well. I incorporate carving, mark making, and texture in many of my pieces. I also enjoy making abstract pen and ink drawings and mixed media paintings.

What influences your art most?

So many things inspire and interest me!

I love books, history, and spending time in museums. Street art, architecture, color and all sorts of texture and design that I see walking around city streets.

The twisty curves and shapes of tree branches and plants. Being outside in nature. Exploring quirky, eclectic shops and vintage thrifting. Deep, heartfelt conversations with friends and family.

It all culminates into who I am and what I love which, in turn, finds its way into my art.

How have you evolved, personally, as an artist?

I think just continually working over the years, learning, making mistakes, taking classes, exploring ideas, and staying curious has helped me to improve my skills as an artist and has helped me to understand the type of work that I love to make and that feels most like me.

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What do you enjoy most about the pottery experience?

The whole process of creating a piece of pottery from start to finish never ceases to amaze me! I love so many aspects of pottery, but I think my favorite would be the leather hard stage. This is where the clay can be carved, marked, stamped and manipulated. This is where a handle would be added or where the shape could be altered in some way.

Making a piece of pottery from start to finish is a long process. It can’t be rushed. Sometimes I get impatient and want it to be finished now! I feel like I am moving so fast from one thing to another in other areas of my life and the slow progression of making each piece has really shown me that there is so much joy and beauty in the process, not just the finished piece. A great metaphor for life!

How do you carve out time to be creative?

It is not always easy! I have to schedule time on my calendar. If I don’t designate the time to create, It usually doesn’t happen. I have also taken a ceramics class once a week at Sawtooth for years.

This is something I always look forward to. It is a time to learn and grow my skills as well as time to fellowship with other artists and to just be in a space filled with others making alongside me.

What are you working on that excites you right now?

I am really enjoying working on some new surface designs as well as playing around with glaze color combinations.

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists?

I would reiterate what I said before to just enjoy the process! Have fun, play, experiment with different materials and mediums and see what happens!

If you are interested in learning more about Kristi Hill or where to find her upcoming shows, you can follow her on Instagram @kristihillstudios as well as find her work at the Whimsical Women show this November at Bailey Park.

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Some ladies lunch, and some ladies lose themselves in their yards and flower gardens! If you are more like the second variety, Jack’s New Grass in Winston-Salem is a must-know local business, and their staff may become your new best friends.

Serving Winston-Salem, Clemmons, Lewisville, and Davie County since 1981, Jack’s New Grass is a favorite family-owned business that actually did begin in the family basement!

That family focus and commitment to their customers translates to inventory selected with quality and durability in mind, including both new and used equipment, impeccable service options, and an extensive collection of parts for both new and used tools.

If you’re a homeowner, a lawn care or tree professional, or a local contractor, you’re likely already familiar with their unsurpassed service and selection.

If you’re a “single-female-with-house” and you’re just getting started in your lawn care education, come by Jack’s New Grass and see Teresa! She learned the business from scratch and loves showing mowing and trimming novices how it’s done. You can always catch a demonstration going on in the store, plenty of folks to answer your questions, and tool options that are lightweight and even better, battery-powered.

Making yard work part of your daily exercise routine is definitely a win-win – good for the heart and good for the soul! Teresa offered us insight into her best tools to get started, complete, as always, with full instruction and impeccable warranties you may not find in the super-sized hardware stores.

TOP FIVE TOOLS FOR WOMEN 1. The single battery 18-volt weed eater 2. A leaf blower 3. All-around hedge trimmer 4. The Makita battery-operated chainsaw 5. A self-propelled, 21-inch mower (easy to start and basically walks itself!)

Let’s just say Forsyth Woman’s own Keela Johnson is the recent recipient of the Makita battery chainsaw, and is already a huge fan!

“My friend and neighbor is teaching me how to prune trees and create topiaries. I’m not yet at Master Gardener level, but with the help of this tool, I am on my way,” says Keela.

More handy tips for afternoons and weekends in the yard: It sounds obvious, but always wear sturdy shoes with closed toes for yard chores. Read your equipment instruction manuals thoroughly, and even consider protective goggles to make you feel more comfortable. Drink plenty of water on hot days and seek some shade when you need a break!

Jack’s New Grass also offers convenient pick-up and delivery service, they service most brands, and all warranty work is performed in-house. They carry only the best names in equipment -- Spartan mowers, Makita blowers, mowers, chainsaws, and grass trimmers, Oregon blowers, mowers, chainsaws, and hedge trimmers, along with Briggs & Stratton and Kawasaki engines.

Visit Jack’s New Grass at 4798 Kinnamon Road, Winston-Salem, NC, 336-712-9977.

Follow them on Facebook and Instagram (@jacksnewgrass), and visit their website at jacksnewgrass.com. Store hours are Monday through Friday 8:00 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. and Saturday 8:00 a.m. until noon.

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Mastering Your Peace

BY DEBBIE LINVILLE, PHOTO BY MEGAN BLACK PHOTOGRAPHY

A chance sighting of a friend’s Instagram post launched a movement! LaTrinda Moore was surfing on social media when she came upon the most unique collection of self-portraits (her friend’s naked body fully encased in the beauty of nature). Because LaTrinda had knowledge of her friend’s internal evolution over the past year, the photographs were even more special and evoked something deep inside her. A single word bubbled up in response, Masterpiece, but what LaTrinda saw in her mind’s eye, and recorded in the comment section was a most unconventional spelling of that word… “MastHerPeace.” Upon rereading it, LaTrinda recalled, “I knew there was a manifestation bigger than just the term.” She began pondering the peculiar spelling that had “dropped into her mind” and in time, questions began to form. “What does this mean in light of what I am dealing with? What is special about this point in my journey? What is the nature of the spiritual, career, and relational transitions I am going through?” She was stimulated by the questions around “MastHerPeace” and liked the way it looked in print and the way it made her feel.

LaTrinda remembers looking up the definition of “mast” (a pole that rises vertically from a ship and supports the sails, which allows the wind to propel the ship) and a tagline immediately emerged, and it was profound… “She stands upright in her Peace.” LaTrinda was ecstatic because she knew in her spirit that God had given her this message and intended for her to share it with others. But how should she go about doing that? Her friend and designer, Brandi Oliver, printed t-shirts and masks and encouraged LaTrinda to not only print her message on apparel, but come up with a bio to help people better understand what MastHerPeace meant in preparation for vending events. Because the message had been divinely obtained, human words seemed insufficient to describe the essence of MastHerPeace. LaTrinda struggled with the words, although she knew she was “purposed to nurture and encourage healing and strength in others; reminding them they are worthy of inner peace,” even as she, too, was learning to embrace the journey, accept her birthright “to be and be in peace,” and live her best life.

“MastHerPeace,” inspired idea of Source thru me, my journey, the experience, Eye hear and see. Afforded myself the lackluster gift of being “okay”. Truth is, Eye wasn’t (Okay?) ... Eye felt my way through imposed and exposed darkness while constantly changing my light bulb from what external-you-watts to more IN-Her-WATTS to reflect the Light Source that is the IN-HER me. The notion that Eye am anything other than Amazingly-Divinely-Creative is dead to me.

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And then it happened! LaTrinda beams as she vividly recounts that one fateful morning as she was getting ready for work. The words just started coming to her, quickly and with the utmost clarity. She raced to the other room to grab a stool so she could sit down, right there at the bathroom vanity, to record every word she received in her Samsung Notes. She did so with abandon as the minutes passed by and then, as unexpectedly as the words came to her, they stopped. She read what she had typed from top to bottom, and with misty eyes and a heart filled to overflowing with gratitude and awe, LaTrinda knew without a doubt the poem was indeed from God, and it was the perfect vessel for transformation... her own and that of others. The unique spellings, play on words, and seemingly random use of capital letters woven throughout the poem all provided the necessary emphasis to convey the message she had no doubt she was to share with the world. MastHerPeace is about embracing the journey, accepting the process, and cherishing the experience, every single day!

Armed with her God-given words and a timid, but willing spirit, she began to share MastHerPeace, a message about the constant self-discovery, evolution and reception of all life brings to you.

In LaTrinda’s words, “It gives voice to the weary and hope to the wandering and wondering.”

While uncommon, she shared it with a new facial client, Kristin Johnson (Director, Historic Broyhill in Clemmons). Although they had not met before, LaTrinda sensed a strong connection and felt led to share MastHerPeace with Kristin, who wept as LaTrinda passionately read the words.

The powerful way in which Kristin received the poem, coupled with her offer to have LaTrinda

“My Peace” is the MastHerPeace of this Spiritual Being flowing as waters through this BoDy. Eye am the Peace which surpasses all understanding. Eye am Passionately, Internally and Entirely In-HerStood. (By who?) It’s You who Vibrate in the higher frequencies of this Spiritual Vortex, you know the InHer-Hood. To Master Her Peace is the “MastHerPeace” of Me. Overstood?

speak at an upcoming event at the Cancer Center, provided the robust encouragement she needed to share MastHerPeace again and again, and again. LaTrinda understands this poem is bigger than her and she shares MastHerPeace every chance she gets (most recently, she was a speaker at Forsyth Magazines’ Women on the Move conference, April 2022). While she doesn’t fully comprehend why she was chosen for this role, she rejoices in having such a beautiful platform to share the message of continual growth and development of peace; providing a healing balm that meets each person precisely where they are.

MASTHERPEACE STRATEGIES TOWARD DAILY TRANSFORMATION: • Cherish opportunities for reflection “My Peace” is the MastHerPeace of this Spiritual Being flowing as waters through this BoDy. Eye am the Peace which surpasses all understanding.

• Acknowledge present state of being my journey, the experience, Eye hear and see.

Afforded myself the lackluster gift of being “okay.” Truth is, Eye wasn’t (Okay?)...

• Accept and be grateful for it all to reflect the Light Source that is the IN-HER me.

Your MastHer will hold upright your sail of Peace.

To obtain more information about LaTrinda Moore and her powerful poem, “MastHerPeace,” secure LaTrinda for a speaking engagement, or to purchase merchandise, please check out her website www.butterflymespa.com

You too are a “MastHerPeace.” Embody all HerPeace that will Usher you into YOUR “MastHerPeace” state of being. No weapons shall Prosper against your Peace.

Your MastHer will hold upright your sail of Peace.

MastHerPeace! A declaration of my Affirmation to Live.

Love. Honor. Find and BE Peace. The only healing place for me is in MastHer-In Peace. “MastHerPeace” She stands upright in Her Peace. And you too! Can. Will. Are. Be PEACE

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Triad Minority & Women’s Business Expo

BY CORPORATE PARTNER, KATHLEEN DERINGER OF TRULIANT

Over nine years ago, Reginald McCaskill, himself an entrepreneur and minority business owner, along with his wife, Aimee, saw a need in the community – and decided to address it. That need was for greater exposure and access to support for minority and womenowned businesses.

“We minority businesses don’t have the same infrastructure that most businesses have. I’ve always been a person focused on bringing folks together – so it seemed like a good way to use my talents to get the community engaged and shine a spotlight on minority-owned businesses,” shared McCaskill.

The first six years of the Minority and Women’s Business Expo were in Winston-Salem. However, since the awareness issue was really a Triadwide challenge, three years ago, McCaskill expanded the event, holding expos in Winston-Salem, High Point, and Greensboro.

ABOUT THE EXPO

The Triad Minority and Women’s Business Expo is for all minority business owners – including any women-owned businesses. The goal is to connect these businesses with the support they need while increasing their opportunities to grow throughout the Triad.

“Although women-owned businesses get some publicity and support, they are still not ‘there’ in terms of getting what they need. They need the leverage that non-minority businesses get. Aimee and I look at our event as a community celebration of all minority businesses with an added bonus of an opportunity for the businesses to support each other,” McCaskill explained.

Business owners will create, connect, and cultivate through the expo.

Create – build new relationships. Connect – establish links to businesses and community. And Cultivate – grow previously established relationships.

Everyone who attends will get to experience shopping, sampling, learning, and relationship building with hundreds of businesses.

A PLACE FOR KID-PRENEURS

The expos will also feature something called Kidzbiz for the second year.

Focusing on young entrepreneurs has always been a passion of McCaskill’s – developing and training young people to see entrepreneurship as a path for themselves. He wants young people to know that they can pursue a path of business ownership and find success for themselves. Kidzbiz entrepreneurs participate for free, promoting their own business, authorship, artisanship, etc. The organization expects to have 10-20 young people participating in each expo location.

THE FUTURE OF THE EXPO

While the expo is helping to change the landscape, there is much still to be done. Resources are missing, access to funding is hard to figure out, marketing expertise is lacking, and of course, visibility is needed. McCaskill said he hopes the expos will provide that bridge to connect the businesses to the resource providers.

In the future, McCaskill wants the event series to be like any other major event in the community where people look forward to it when it comes around each year.

“We want people to see this as a community celebration for all of WinstonSalem, High Point and Greensboro. I’d love to expand both attendance and business participation and reach a broader audience. All are welcome – y’all means all!” shared McCaskill.

The Winston-Salem expo is Saturday, August 27. If you want to participate as a business in any of the Triad locations, or simply attend an expo, visit triadminorityandwomensbusinessexpo.com for details on each event.

The expo event is FREE for attendees.

“Truliant is proud to be a long-time partner with Mr. McCaskill and the Triad Minority and Women’s Business Expo.

We are also honored to support this event because we understand that local, minority-owned businesses are an integral piece of the economic ecosystem and their success is critical to the vitality of the communities we serve.” — Truliant Federal Credit Union

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On the Road Again: Missouri

BY AMY HILL

Missouri is likely not on your travel bucket list, but that doesn’t mean it should be underestimated as a great vacation spot for all ages.

Here’s how to spend seven days in the “Show Me” State.

Day 1: Arrive in St. Louis

Book a multi-city flight arriving into St. Louis Lambert International Airport (STL) and departing from Springfield-Branson National Airport (SGF) to make the most out of your week in Missouri. Fortunately, arranging a rental car at STL to be dropped off at SGF shouldn’t be an issue, as major rental car companies such as Hertz, Enterprise, and Alamo service both locations. Spend your first day as a Missouri tourist scoping out the famous Gateway Arch and the St. Louis Riverwalk in Downtown St. Louis. Surprisingly, Gateway Arch is recognized as a National Park due to its historical significance in the western expansion of the United States. Nearby stands the massive St. Louis Art Museum, which is free of admission fees and the perfect idea for days bringing not-so-ideal weather.

Day 2: Missouri Wine Country

Less than 90 minutes west of St. Louis is the small city of Hermann, home to numerous wineries and the popular Hermann Wine Trail, which consists of seven family-owned local wineries. With your designated driver, spend a full day tasting fine wines and small plates along the Missouri River. A perfect place for girls’ trips or romantic getaways, Hermann is equipped with quaint bed and breakfasts to recuperate after a day of wine and cheese. To plan your visit to the Hermann Wine Trail, read more about the wineries in Hermann and upcoming events at www.hermannwinetrail.com.

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Day 3: Camdenton

Just under two hours southwest of Hermann is the gateway to the Lake of the Ozarks.

Camdenton itself is a small town, but the Lake of the Ozarks is home to plenty of resorts for families, couples, and solo travelers looking to find beaches and waterfront seafood restaurants in the middle of Missouri. Ideal for watersport lovers, fishers, and swimmers, Lake of the Ozarks State Park is one of Missouri’s summertime gems complete with hiking trails, caves, and campgrounds. Take a cave system tour of Bridal Cave and Thunder Mountain Park, or be lucky enough to enjoy a live outdoor performance or concert at Ozarks Amphitheater.

Day 4: Ha Ha Tonka State Park

You read that correctly – close to Camdenton is Ha Ha Tonka State Park, a beautiful oasis just outside of the Lake of the Ozarks. Ha Ha Tonka is packed with caves, sinkholes, hiking trails, and 20th century castle ruins that are definitely worth a visit and a photo. Tourists visit the park for their chance to spot wildlife, see a striking natural bridge, and take a peep at Missouri’s 12th largest spring. Pack a picnic dinner and take in the park’s sunset views of the Lake of the Ozarks before retreating back to your lakeside resort for the night.

Day 5: Drive to Springfield Head south to Springfield and check in to your accommodations before taking in the sights around the city. Visit Wilson’s Creek National Battlefield for a history lesson on the Civil War, or drive to Smallin Civil War Cave for a guided tour. If learning a little about history on vacation isn’t up your alley, automobile enthusiasts will enjoy a quick trip to the Route 66 Car Museum housing over 60 classic cars.

Day 6: Visit Joplin Drive an hour west of Springfield to check out Joplin’s Grand Falls, the perfect place for swimming and fishing after a long week of traveling. Joplin is also a great base for sightseeing the George Washington Carver National Monument, stopping by the iconic Bonnie and Clyde Garage Apartment, or indulging your nostalgia and visiting the Precious Moments Chapel, complete with murals and a gift shop for all things Precious Moments.

Day 7: Head Home from Springfield SGF is a smaller airport than St. Louis, so keep in mind that there will be fewer dining options to choose from onsite while waiting for your flight. If you were pleasantly surprised by all that Missouri had to offer during your stay, spend your flight home scoping out which state can catch you by surprise on your next vacation.

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BY JODIE BRIM, OWNER, JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

TEAM C R E AT I V E SUCCESSFUL A BUILDING

To thrive, hiring the right people at the right time is essential. I have worked with my team members for a minimum of two years and know them well. I have leaned into my zone of genius while trusting that they’re leaning into their zone of genius. This is one of the keys to building a successful creative team.

RULE #1 – OUTSOURCE TASKS THAT YOU’RE NOT THE BEST AT, AND FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS. Hire for gaps in your skill set when building a team. For example, if you procrastinate about completing specific tasks or find that they take longer than they should, it might be worthwhile to hire a virtual assistant to help you with them.

By delegating some of your tasks, you gain time that would have been spent on them and relieve a portion of your mental load. Often we think, ‘It only takes me 15-minutes to answer this email or do this task.’ A factor to consider is the time it takes you to switch from one task to another. It is not just about the task but also how it affects you mentally.

RULE #2 – A SUCCESSFUL CREATIVE TEAM IS AN ALIGNED ONE

The more specific you are in the process of hiring, the better qualified your applicants will be.

Hiring an admin position: • How long have you been in customer service?

• How would you respond to the following email? (Link an email for them) • How would you handle a client issue if I’m out of the office or unavailable?

• When you have too many tasks to complete, how do you handle it?

When hiring, it is essential to consider the alignment of mission, vision, and values between the company and potential new hires. Hire team members that are in alignment with your business. If you feel very strongly about punctuality and a potential hire’s idea of “on-time” means arriving at the same time as your client, that could create problems. If communication is a priority and your potential hire only checks their email once a week, that will be an issue.

Hiring for a creative team member, marketing, associate photographer, content creator, etc.:

Writing down what’s important to you makes hiring people who share your values easier. When you can clearly articulate what is most important to you, your team will be better equipped to help you achieve your goals.

• Here are three images from a recent photoshoot; what’s a caption you would write for my audience?

RULE #3 – BE SPECIFIC

When hiring a team member, provide that person with as much detail and guidance as possible. You cannot hire someone for a task, pass it off, and expect success. This leads to frustration for both parties. During the interview process, be clear about the scope of the job and its duties. If you’re looking for a marketing assistant, list the skills they’ll need. If you’re hiring a professional, then less hand-holding will likely be needed once they’ve learned your editing style and voice. Are you hiring an amateur? Then expect to spend more time training them to do the job the way you want it done.

With these questions, you’re receiving feedback on how they would handle your business. This will give you insight into their skill level and ability to harness your voice.

• What is one trend you’ve seen in marketing this year that you like? What’s one that you don’t?

• My target audience is X – what platform would you recommend I focus my marketing efforts on?

• You realize that a client is uncomfortable during a session; how do you approach that situation?

RULE #4 – GIVE FEEDBACK

Feedback is essential to keeping your team members on track. If you see something that needs improvement, take the time to explain how they can make the change. I’ve seen many business owners hesitate to give their team members constructive criticism because they fear the person’s reaction.

To be a strong leader, you need to do just that – lead. This can be uncomfortable at first. You’re used to being a solopreneur.

However, now that you’ve hired someone, it’s time to delegate and empower them to do their job. This means letting them know how they can improve but also when they do the job well. If you love a particular response to an email, let them know and tell them to save it for next time. Love a blog they wrote? Tell them! Want them to rework your caption to fit your voice better? Let them know. The more you communicate what is working and what isn’t, the better your working relationship will be.

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Take a Vacation from Yourself

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I called you this weekend but didn’t hear back.

I was worried.

Yeah, sorry. I took a vacation from myself.

There’s plenty you can do when you find yourself in a restless rut:

You what?

I took a vacation from myself.

Here’s the thing about my dear friend Lynda – you never know what to expect, or what startling wisdom lies just below the surface of her signature quirkiness.

I thought you said you were going to see your brother and sister-in-law in Pennsylvania.

I did.

And you took a vacation from yourself? I don’t understand.

It’s true. I didn’t. What Lynda described next both fascinated me and struck a chord. Yes, she went to Pennsylvania and visited with her relatives.

And while that was “a vacation,” it wasn’t “the vacation.” The true vacation was the one Lynda took with mindfulness and intentionality.

I was just sick of everything… the routine at my store, the food I was eating, the clothes I was wearing, the same old walk I was taking every day. I needed to put that me on hold for a little while.

It’s funny isn’t it? How the authenticity we’ve worked so hard to attain can sometimes feel like its own limiting trap.

Exactly! So I packed my car with food I never eat, stopped at the Dollar Store and bought hanging out clothes I never wear and drove a whole new route that I hadn’t taken before. We had a great weekend doing things I never do!

I was afraid to ask, but I did anyway: So, but now you’re back in your same old, same old. How’s it going?

Well, yes… I am pretty much back in my same old, same old. But, refreshed. That’s what happens when you step outside of the you that you know and have a little adventure, explore. You get out of your own dang rut.

Now see? That’s why I love you!

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HOW TO TAKE A VACATION FROM YOURSELF

Recognize where you are stuck or bored Instead of ignoring or downplaying your feelings, call them out. There’s power in that! Try to be specific: do you feel that you don’t have any options or are just plain tired of your routines? Do these feelings pertain generally, or more specifically to your relationships, your work, or your free time? The more specific you are in identifying the source, the more accurate you will be in identifying the actions to take next.

Treat yourself like a guest Yes, you’ve heard it before, but being good to yourself is therapeutic, period. So imagine you are a guest and ask yourself how you would treat that guest. What would you do for her that would make her feel more alive, more at peace, more joyful? Do that for you!

Say “yes” instead of “no” The thing about being stuck in a rut, or “tired of the same old you” is that it becomes self-perpetuating.

Your way of being is your habit and habits can grow old or keep us from growing beyond what we know and are used to. So, say yes to something your habitual you would ordinarily say no to. Some of my best experiences – and Lynda’s, apparently – have happened when we’ve uttered a spontaneous yes!

Take a big break Beyond that spontaneous yes, do something “bigger.” Lynda’s atypical approach to her Pennsylvania jaunt delivered a sense of wonder, adventure, and excitement because she freed herself up for a very different type of experience.

Change things up Invest in the long term to keep those ruts at a minimum by taking a mini assessment: • Where in my life do I find joy?

• What makes me unhappy or stressed out?

• Am I doing things just because I think I should?

• Do I need to revisit my relationship and job commitments so that they provide meaning and fulfillment?

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NICHOLS HEARING & AUDIOLOGY The Technology of Hearing

BY DENISE HEIDEL, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS

Perhaps you remember the clunky hearing aids of yesteryear. Maybe your grandparents wore them, and you remember their ongoing struggle with the awkwardness of the device and constant volume issues. Thankfully, the old style of hearing aids has gone by the wayside, and technology has stepped in, making the gift of hearing more accessible and easier than ever.

“The technology today is incredible,” said Dr. Anna Nichols. “These hearing aids are not your grandpa’s…. They are intuitive, slim, and incredibly sophisticated. Ninety percent of my patients are using hearing aids that connect to smartphones through Bluetooth technology. They are userfriendly and convenient for anyone of any age.”

Some of the benefits of today’s hearing aids include: Improved Sound Quality: Anna mused, “Generation after generation has worked to improve sound quality in our lives…. Anyone who remembers the transition from vinyl to cassette to CD remembers the distinct difference in sound quality as the technology improved. Likewise, the technology of today’s hearing aids produces clearer digital audio over the analog versions of years past.”

Selective Amplification: “This is a phenomenal benefit over hearing aids of years past,” shared Anna. “The ability to selectively amplify sound is hugely beneficial in noisy restaurants or other crowded areas where the background noise overtakes the conversation. The ability to filter out that background noise enables patients to feel more a part of things. They don’t feel like they have to be a shadow in the room because they can’t distinguish the discussion from the din around them.”

Volume Adjustment: “It’s not just a matter of the wearer being able to adjust the volume,” explained Anna. “The hearing aid itself can auto-correct the volume based on the environment. We don’t often think about the various soundscapes we encounter, but the audio conditions of home are very different than the road noise we have when we get in the car…. Or the sounds in a grocery store or playground. Today’s hearing aids account for those kinds of environments and automatically adjust the volume accordingly.”

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Directional Microphones: Anna continued, “The microphones in today’s hearing aids do a great job of picking up directional sound, rather than all the sounds all around the wearer. This directional microphone further streamlines conversations and filters out background noise.”

Feedback Reduction: “We all know that horrible sound that audio feedback gives,” Anna said.

“That agonizing high-pitched screech. Imagine that in your ear! Today’s hearing aids can self-correct before the audio feedback happens.”

“Beyond these benefits,” Anna said, “today’s hearing aids are rechargeable.

We also offer our patients the training they need to be successful with their hearing aids. The technology even enables our patients to stream their favorite podcasts and music! Truly – they are more like highly customized AirPods than anything. And they are also lighter and far less conspicuous, meaning people feel more confident wearing them.”

Hearing loss generally occurs gradually. Anna encourages her patients to be proactive about their hearing to catch issues before they become more serious. While every insurance policy is different, many plans cover the cost of an annual hearing test. Call to schedule a hearing test with Nichols Hearing and Audiology, and if you need assistance – trust that the technology today will help you regain confidence everywhere you go.

Nichols Hearing and Audiology is located at 3640 Westgate Center Circle, Suite B, in Winston-Salem. Call the office at 336.842.3437. Visit NicholsHearingandAudiology.com.

Be sure to like the practice on Facebook and follow on Instagram (@nicholshearingandaudiology).

Salemtowne Retirement

Kitchen & Bath Remodel Words Remodeling your kitchen and or bath seems like a reasonable thing to do these days. There is currently a shortage of houses for sale. It makes sense to update what you have and enjoy your home. When the time is right to sell, your home will be up to date, easier to sell, and probably more profitable.

Hiring a professional will make you feel more secure with your decisions when the planning, colors, cabinets, finishes, lighting, and special considerations are finished. That is why we offer turnkey designing and remodeling. The services provided by an interior designer are a luxury and should be an enjoyable process. You should feel very comfortable with your designer so you can communicate effectively. Easing the process of remodeling with a designer is the first step to loving what the result is. Turnkey is more than just remodeling; we can also replace all your lighting, paint your home, carpet a room or two, provide window treatments, and purchase new furnishings.

Typically, during the first client meeting we will visit your home, discuss your needs, color and style preferences, and items you have that you would like to use in the current project. We photograph and measure the rooms involved in the project.

After we leave your home, we return to our design center and pull samples and swatches of many colors, fabrics, and finishes, along with a professional CAD drawing. We often create room plans and renderings of window treatments and furniture necessary for your project. When all the elements have been selected, a second appointment is scheduled. During this appointment you may visit our design center and we will present you with our design ideas and solicit your feedback.

Hopefully, we have done our job well and you are ready to proceed. If you are not happy with something in the design plan, we will research additional options until you are happy.

Upon completion of your project, you can expect to see a space that reflects your personality and style while embracing timeless quality and design.

We have a video, portfolio, and weekly blog you can also view on our website: www.junedelugasinteriors.com.

Hope to see you soon. God bless!

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BY AMY HILL Thinking about getting hair extensions for the first time but not sure if you’re ready to take the leap? While there are many myths about the damaging nature of hair extensions, Rachel and Macey are adamant that hair extensions can actually help hair remain healthy and heal throughout its growing process as long as hair extensions are cared for and maintained properly. In fact, most Opal & Onyx clients use hair extensions in order to grow their hair healthy and long, and have seen major improvements in their hair since having extensions installed. Small steps such as using high-quality hair products and being gentle with your locks by sleeping in a silk cap or using a satin pillowcase can make all the difference in the longevity of your hair. Clients undergo a hair extension consultation at Opal & Onyx to determine which kind of extensions suit their hair best based on hair texture, density, and history.

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Although it might seem that the pair’s stark differences are a recipe for disaster, the duo is dedicated to honestly and openly communicating with each other. “We’ve both learned throughout the years of working in different environments that speaking up prevents any unnecessary butting of heads,” explains Rachel. “We don’t want our space to be drama-filled, and want clients and fellow employees to feel empowered to speak up.”

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Rachel and Macey want their clientele to trust their recommendations and have the best hair possible for the longest amount of time. Although the salon recently opened its doors in June, the pair is already looking to the future and hope to add to their team. If you’re an experienced stylist with an established client base looking to rent space in Opal & Onyx, reach out to Rachel and Macey at www.opalandonyxhairco.com to see if Opal & Onyx is the right fit for your expertise.

While Rachel and Macey are both color specialists, Macey’s focus is primarily on color and precision cutting, while Rachel recently perfected her craft in hair extensions. When making an appointment at Opal & Onyx, you can expect high-end services in an atmosphere that brings you relaxation, leaving you feeling pretty and pampered. All products sold in the salon are natural-based and paraben-free, with brands such as Olaplex, Oligo Professionnel, and Authentic Beauty Concept lining the shelves.

Looking to schedule an appointment or consultation with the Opal & Onyx team? Visit www.opalandonyxhairco.com online and follow @opalandonyxhairco on Instagram to learn more about Rachel and Macey’s work. Stop by the salon in Winston-Salem’s historic West End at 431 West End Blvd to purchase products and catch a peek of the brand new salon.

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After getting to know each other while working together in the same industry, Rachel and Macey realized that their compatible personalities, yet starkly different temperaments, would blend nicely in their own four-chair salon.

Together, they chose to embark on the journey of opening Opal & Onyx Hair Co., specializing in hair color, cuts, and extensions. Macey was the mastermind behind naming the salon Opal & Onyx, as she wanted the space to truly embody the personalities of its owners. Onyx was inspired by Macey’s darker and demure side, while Opal is a white gemstone much akin to Rachel’s bubbly and lighthearted nature.

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Triad locals are familiar with DASH Beauty, one of Winston-Salem’s esteemed salons for bridal styling, hair color, and more. DASH Beauty owner Rachel Newsome and her partner in crime Macey Ford, an experienced color specialist, are excited to introduce Winston-Salem residents to Opal & Onyx Hair Co., a chic salon tailored to treat clients to luxury haircuts, color services, and extensions.

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CONFIDENCE LOADING: 5 Different Women Share Their Experience with Embracing Confidence

BY TARYN JEREZ

From grade school to the golden years, women are faced with a broken record of messages about their physical beauty, brains, personality, and proposed value in the world. The reality is, you can find a myriad of news stories and articles sharing studies of girls and women struggling with their self image.

Imagine how the world could change if, instead, the spotlight shined on women as they clung to their confidence like a badge of honor because they knew what it took to get to that place of self worth and appreciation.

Where the story of a confident woman isn’t told under the guise of conceit or cockiness but admiration, knowing the strength it takes to grow and push oneself towards self acceptance and love.

There is power in other women’s stories and this month we’re rounded up some amazing ones to share what they’ve learned over the years about embracing confidence.

CRYSTAL CONGLETON, 41

“Flaws are beauty. Real skin has texture.

All bodies are beautiful and valid. I have to live with myself at the end of the day. And that’s exactly what I want to do! LIVE! In color and out loud. The expectations of others are none of my business. I AM that quirky girl you didn’t understand in high school, but that’s okay though because I understand and love her now. Some days you have to create confidence and sometimes that means looking to other women who inspire me like Amy Poehler or my daughters. Doing things like building up other women on social media, getting your hands dirty, turning on a song and dancing in your underwear! I recommend Lizzo, Lady Gaga, or nearly anything ‘80s! ”

MAGGIE PENDALWAR, 31

“I was told that I had a less than 15% chance of being able to conceive without IVF and a 30% chance of being able to carry my own child. I used to hate my body, but by some miracle I was able to conceive two months before we started IVF and delivered a perfectly healthy son. My body owes me nothing, but I definitely owe it some love. I may never feel 100% confident in my skin, but it’s the only one I’m getting so I’m trying to unlearn some toxic behaviors and show my body the love it deserves. Motherhood has been its own makeover for me and I’m just embracing this season of my life. There is some truth to ‘fake it until you make it.’ Do the things that make you feel confident and you really will become it.”

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E’LAINA BARRON, 33

“Confidence is my alter ego, something I don’t always recognize within myself but I’m able to tap into. The beautiful thing about an alter ego is that you can create it, and decide who you want to be or how you want to present yourself to others. I believe that oftentimes lack of confidence stems from a combination of uncertainty of self and misalignment with external beliefs. I have found myself in constant comparison with others, whether it was looks, personalities, qualifications - I never seemed to measure up. Once I got clear about the vision of the “Ely B” I wanted to be, I was able to work on aligning myself with that version of me. It’s taken a lot of releasing negative beliefs and replacing them with more self-affirming ideas.”

KEELA JOHNSON, 63

“My daughter Brooke has unexpectedly taught me more about confidence than I could have ever learned on my own.

I couldn’t be prouder of my amazing and super confident daughter! She recently shared one of her favorite quotes from a well-known book, The Confidence Code: “Confidence is the stuff that turns thoughts into action.”

My entrepreneurial spirit agrees with this quote wholeheartedly. But… where do you find this confidence? Waking up and feeling grateful, feeling happy, loving yourself, trusting yourself… these things breed both confidence and success! It’s one big cycle!”

BERMARIE JEREZ, 29

“I learned a valuable lesson from my mentor - we tend to think if we HAVE money, we’ll get to do what we want, and then we’ll be happy. If we have more time, we’ll do our makeup, then be more confident. She challenged me to change the order. Focus on what you want to become. If you want to be confident, do what confident and successful people do and then you’ll have the life you dream of. I’ve learned that confidence can’t come from outside factors or material possessions.

Your looks will change, your body won’t be the same. You have to learn to love the parts of you that truly make you you. “

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One in four women has had a migraine headache. In fact, the debilitating headaches affect three times more women than men. In the United States, over 37 million men, women, and children suffer from migraine, but fewer than five percent of those affected have been accurately diagnosed or are receiving appropriate care.

SOME OF THE MOST COMMON TYPES OF HEADACHES INCLUDE:

• Tension headaches: Pain from a tension headache generally spreads across the forehead, or it might start at the back of the neck and move forward. This is the most common type of headache. Things that can cause tension headaches include stress, hunger, or eye strain.

• Sinus headaches: These headaches often appear when you are congested or feeling unwell. They are caused by swelling in the sinus passages, which causes pain behind the nose, cheeks, eyes, and forehead.

• Cluster headaches: Like migraines, these headaches are usually very painful and come in “clusters,” which means they occur daily (often at the same time of day) and can sometimes last for several days or even months. Like migraines, they are caused by the dilation of blood vessels in the brain due to a release of serotonin and histamines. They can be caused by physical exertion, bright lights, heat, or even altitude.

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• Migraine headaches: A migraine is more than a simple headache. It is a neurological condition, which involves nerve pathways and chemicals.

Changes in brain activity affect blood in the brain and surrounding tissues which can cause any or all the following symptoms: intense pain, nausea, dizziness, fatigue, and sensitivity to light, sounds, or smells. Migraine sufferers often describe a throbbing or pulsing pain behind one eye.

There is no one cause for migraine and the triggers can differ from one person to another.

Triggers can include: • Hormonal changes: Many women experience more frequent or worse migraines when they have their menstrual cycle.

• Allergies: Allergies cause irritation and inflammation in the body. Because migraines are associated with inflammation of the blood vessels, allergies are a known trigger for some people.

• Genetics: Those with family members who suffer from migraines are more likely to develop migraines themselves. Scientists have discovered a genetic mutation that is common in people with the most typical type of migraine.

• Environmental: This can include a wide variety of triggers. Changes in weather, stress, food, smells, and lack of sleep.

Keeping a migraine journal can help you track patterns and identify triggers. It’s especially important to note things like the time of day your migraine began, what you were doing, and where you were. What were your surroundings like?

Indoors, outdoors? What was the weather like? Did you eat or drink anything? Also note how long the pain lasted.

This information can help you and your physician create a plan to avoid your triggers and reduce the frequency of your migraines.

Prescription medication may be indicated if you suffer from frequent migraines that are disrupting your life. Combined with lifestyle changes, migraine sufferers may find relief, but some trial and error will most likely be required.

Some medications that have proven to be helpful: • Blood pressure medicines, such as beta blockers • Tricyclic Antidepressants, such as Elavil (amitriptyline) or Pamelor (nortriptyline) • Anti-seizure medicines, such as Topamax (topiramate) • Botulinum toxin A (Botox) injections • Triptans, like Imitrex (sumatriptan) • Monoclonal antibody drugs, like Aimovig (erenumab-aooe)

LIFESTYLE CHANGES THAT MAY HELP:

• Exercising regularly • Dietary changes to avoid trigger foods (including dark chocolate, cured meats, aged cheeses, wine or pickled or fermented items) • Going to sleep and waking at the same time every day • Relaxation techniques, like yoga and meditation • Avoiding bright lights or too much screen time • Staying out of extreme heat or cold

WHEN TO SEEK IMMEDIATE HELP • Sudden, very intense headache pain • Severe or sharp headache pain for the first time • A stiff neck and fever • A fever higher than 102 to 104°F • Nausea and vomiting • Nosebleed that doesn’t stop • Fainting • Dizziness or loss of balance

Migraines can be widely misunderstood and because the person suffering doesn’t “look” ill, their pain may not be taken seriously. If you or someone you love is experiencing signs or symptoms of migraine, it’s important to find a doctor who will take your concerns seriously and treat you with compassion. You can also seek out support online where there are groups of other sufferers who offer their own stories and provide a place to ask questions.

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Surviving Office Politics

BY LESLIE SPEAS

Most organizations have some degree of office politics. In fact, some offices resemble an episode of Survivor where you need to determine who you’ll trust, who you won’t, and who you’ll form alliances with. As Aristotle said, “Man is by nature a political animal.”

Politicking in an organization involves gaining power and influence over others to further one’s own interests, often at the expense of other people.

Employees engage in politics to compete for recognition, promotions, pay raises, and/or to ensure that their jobs are secure.

Here are some “politicians” that you might come across in the workplace.

THE GOSSIPER Loves to talk about others, which can cause hurt feelings and damage relationships.

THE BULLY Exhibits harmful, targeted behavior towards others.

THE CLIMBER Uses the people around them to gain status and power.

THE BROWN NOSER Sucks up to the boss and other leaders for purposes of career advancement.

THE GRUMBLER Constantly whines and complains about things without bringing solutions to the table.

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THE BACKSTABBER Steals recognition or praise for another person’s work, passing it off as their own. Also won’t hesitate to throw others under the bus to make themselves look good.

THE SABOTEUR Sabotages the work of others and/or withholds information for personal gain.

Workplace politics can be difficult to navigate. Here are seven suggested strategies that can help!

1. Realize that you can make a difference Show courtesy, respect, politeness, and office etiquette. Demonstrate empathy, respect, and kindness, which may encourage others to reciprocate.

2. Build positive work relationships.

Develop strong positive relationships with other team members. This will provide a support network when you run into challenging situations.

3. Speak up for yourself and others.

Be brave and know when to speak up for yourself and others. Have difficult conversations and address situations

when needed, focusing on the behavior and not the person.

4. Know and stick to your values.

Define your values (what you personally believe is right) and stick to them. If politics in your organization results in the need to compromise your values, it is probably time to consider a career change.

5. Take the high road When coworkers try to make you look bad or undermine you, it’s tempting to do the same.

Don’t succumb to this temptation and lower yourself to their level.

6. Take a look at yourself Examine yourself first before you judge or give a critique of another individual. Think about your behavior and how it might be contributing to politics in your organization and make adjustments as needed.

7. Help in resolving conflict Assist in resolving conflicts where you can. But be sure not to triangulate and make things worse.

Office politics are an inescapable part of any work environment. It is possible to navigate them using some of the strategies above. If you act as a role model, your behavior can motivate others to change and make a positive difference in your workplace.

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Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer, a food blogger and the official Forsyth Mags Foodie! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

Healthy Croissant Chicken Salad Sandwich with Mint-Cilantro Sauce This healthier Croissant Chicken Salad Sandwich is made with a homemade Mint-Cilantro Sauce, Greek yogurt, and kosher pickles for the most flavorful, yet nutrient-dense, meal!

Prep time: 20 minutes | Total time: 20 minutes | Servings: 6 INGREDIENTS: For the Creamy Mint-Cilantro Sauce: • 3/4 cup Olive Oil • 1 Egg • Juice & Zest of 1 Lemon • 1 tbsp. Dijon Mustard • 1 tbsp. Apple Cider Vinegar • 1 tbsp. Fresh Cilantro, chopped • 1 tsp. Fresh Mint, chopped • 1/4 tsp. Salt For the Sandwiches: • 6 Croissants • 1 head of Bibb Lettuce • 2 lb. Cooked Chicken Breasts, sliced into cubes, about 3 cups • 3/4 cup Celery, chopped finely • 3/4 cup Red Grapes, halved or quartered • 3/4 cup Plain Greek Yogurt • 2 Green Onions, chopped • 1/2 cup Kosher Dill Pickles, chopped finely • 1/3 cup Cilantro, chopped • Juice of 1 Lemon • 1 tbsp. Dijon Mustard • (Optional) 1/2 cup Pecans or Walnuts,chopped

INSTRUCTIONS 1. To make the Mint-Cilantro Sauce, add all ingredients except the olive oil into the bowl of a stand mixer. Use the whisk attachment to mix together. On medium speed, gradually drizzle in the olive oil.

Whisk for 2 minutes. Set aside.

2. To make the Chicken Salad, add the cooked and chopped chicken into a separate large mixing bowl. Add in the finely chopped celery, grapes, onions, dill pickles, cilantro, and (optional) chopped nuts. Toss to combine.

3. In a small bowl, whisk together the lemon juice, Dijon mustard, and yogurt. Add into the chicken salad bowl with 1/4 cup of the Mint-Cilantro Sauce. Toss until the chicken is well coated in the sauces.

4. To assemble the sandwiches, slice the croissant 3/4th of the way to create a slit-like opening.

Add a small slather of the MintCilantro Sauce on the bottom piece, then a layer of Bibb lettuce and a generous portion of the chicken salad. Enjoy!

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Jump on Board the Juicing Train: How Juicing Can Improve Your Health BY KAREN COOPER

With juicing bars popping up in every city, juicing may seem like a recent phenomenon. However, juicing dates back to as early as 150 B.C. where the first record of juicing was from an ancient tribe in Israel who created a process of mashing pomegranates and figs to take advantage of their health benefits.

Juicing has continued to gain popularity through the years with the first industrial juicing machine being designed in the 1930s by Dr. Norman Walker. This machine squeezed and grated fruits and vegetables, then pressed them, making the process of juicing more readily available to consumers. More efficient commercial juicers became available in the 1950s and 1960s, and most homes during that time had access to blenders as well.

By the 1990s, the juicing craze was growing fast, boosted by celebrity endorsers who attested to its detoxifying properties and health and weight loss benefits.

Today there are many companies that will deliver frozen, cold pressed juice directly to your doorstep (for a premium price) and there are many high-quality juicers on the market to choose from so you can make fresh juice in your own kitchen.

But what about the health benefits?

Here are some you will love…

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JUICING HELPS YOU TO CONSUME MORE FRUITS AND VEGGIES!

Juicing is an easy way to especially eat enough vegetables. Many of us struggle to get in enough servings of fruits and vegetables every day, (the USDA recommends 4-5 servings each day), and with juicing you can have that covered (and then some)! You can eat five different veggies before 8:00 am and if you throw in an apple, it all tastes so sweet, you’ll never even notice the spinach and kale…although they’re really both pretty tasty, too.

JUICING CAN GIVE YOU MORE ENERGY.

When you drink fresh juice, you are getting the parts of the fruits and veggies that have all the vitamins and nutrients. This means you are infusing your body with all this healthy nutrition that will help you get moving. Green juices are especially beneficial if you need an energy boost fast. This would include things like spinach, celery, kale, and apple. There are so many recipes online for green juice - find one that looks good to you and add whatever you like.

JUICING CAN HELP YOU FEEL BETTER AND RECOVER FASTER WHEN YOU’RE SICK.

In our stressful lives and with a variety of illnesses out there ready to ruin our day, it’s important to not only protect our immunity, but also boost it if we do get sick. There are many testimonials from people who have restored their health in part through adding juicing to their daily regimen. There are recipes for special immunity boosting juice combinations that include things like apple, carrot, ginger, and lemon. As an added bonus….juicing can also improve your mood.

JUICING CAN IMPROVE YOUR ABILITY TO FOCUS.

Drinking green juices especially can help you feel more alert and energized, which in turn can help you focus. If you choose to drink fresh juice, instead of coffee or other caffeinated drinks (energy drinks) you will not get that dreaded sugar crash in the middle of the day.

JUICING CAN HELP YOU LIVE LONGER.

Feeding your body good nutrition is essential to maintaining good health and drinking fresh juice almost every day can help you achieve that. Fruits and vegetables are nature’s medicines. Consuming them regularly will help keep your blood pressure down, keep your blood sugars regular, and may even be able to help prevent a variety of diseases.

The wonderful thing about juicing is that the juicer extracts all the nutrients from the fruits and vegetables for you, which saves your body energy because it does not have to break down all the food itself. The body can absorb the nutrients quickly and use its saved energy to heal and repair.

If you’re interested in trying juicing, do some research on a few different juicing machines within your price range and make sure to read the reviews to find out what others think about your potential purchase. Once you have your juicer at home, stock up on fruits and vegetables and start experimenting.

Find some beautiful glasses and fun straws and make it a whole juicing event!

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Bermuda Run Country Club 336.998.8155 | BER MUDARUNCC.COM | 324 BER MUDA RUN DRIVE | BER MUDA RUN, NC 27006

At Bermuda Run Country Club you’ll be greeted with friendly smiles, spacious dining options and delicious food located at their main clubhouse in their East Dining Room, popularly known as Ariston’s. There is both indoor seating with large windows and an outdoor patio suite with a fireplace for those chillier evenings, all met with refined elegance and premier service. So, whether it’s for a relaxed evening with the family, Sunday brunch, gameday gatherings, or a quick bite before you tee off, it’s safe to say that Bermuda Run Country Club offers more than what meets the eye!

First up on the menu were two starters that were fresh, seasonal, and flavorful! The first was their Char-Grilled Oysters with a Garlic Parmesan Butter twist that’ll transport your taste buds to the Gulf Coast. It was served with a fresh salsa for a little added spice kick and on a bed of lettuce greens.

The second starter was their Watermelon Feta Salad that was crisp, juicy, and the perfect salty-sweet combination of flavors.

The tossed salad consisted of baby lettuces, ripe watermelon, thinly sliced red onions, feta cheese, cracked black pepper, and a lightly sweet white balsamic vinaigrette to meld the flavors together. This unexpected concoction of ingredients will surprise in only the best way!

Moving on to the entrees, the first was a classic Char-Grilled Filet Mignon with Forest Mushroom Demi-Glaze and Yukon Gold Mashed Potatoes. The Filet Mignon was tender, buttery, and mild in flavor for a melt-in-your-mouth piece of steak. And

when paired with the forest mushrooms, it balances out the earthy notes while enhancing the juicy steak flavor to the next level.

The next entree we had the opportunity to taste was a Sauteed North Carolina Rainbow Trout that was flaky, tender, and seasoned to perfection. It was paired with a Parsley Lemon Beurre Blanc that was light and creamy, as well as a side of Savory Herb Couscous that was fresh, herby, and had a hint of lemon at the end!

Bermuda Run Country Club loves supporting fellow local businesses, and one is a local young baker, DJ’s Cheesecakes, who provides them with a variety of his sweet goodness weekly. And because no dinner can be complete without a little sweet, we had a sneaky taste of one of his featured desserts of the week, the Strawberry Crunch Cheesecake.

This cheesecake immediately took me back to childhood summers when the ice cream truck would ride through the neighborhood since it replicates those classic Strawberry Shortcake Ice Cream Bars. The cheesecake layer itself was fluffy and light with a strawberry cake layer and strawberry crunch on top for the perfect sweet tooth fix.

Thank you Bermuda Run Country Club and staff for the beautiful meals enjoyed by a spectacular view. Now, if your stomach is grumbling, here is your sign to join Bermuda Run Country Club so you can grab the family for lunch or a friend for golf and tell them that the Forsyth Mags Foodie said hi!

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BY ERIKA TAYLOR, FOUNDER OF TAYLOR YOUR CLOSET & TAYLORINGSTYLE BLOG | @TAYLORINGSTYLE

The question is, what’s not to love about this dress? The dusty floral print, the square neckline, the puff detail sleeve, and the lightweight material (a must in the heat this time of year). Where are we wearing this dress? Date night, concert, baby shower, brunch, farmer’s market - take your pick!

As you can see, I styled this dress with white platform sneakers, but you could also pair it with tan wedges or sandals and even a pair of cowboy boots. The clutch you see is also from Hip Chics.

They have a great selection of accessories to choose from to complete your looks!

This next look is a little more formal and calls for a pair of heels or wedges. When it comes to building your wardrobe, there are certain pieces that we all should have on hand and one of those is a good black jumpsuit (and/or dress). Of course the more, the merrier, but if you have been on the search for a black jumpsuit look no further y’all, because this one is it.

This month we’re heading to Clemmons over to Hip Chics Boutique. Hip Chics has been slaying the boutique game for 15 years now. What started out as a booth is now a thriving 6,000 square foot brick and mortar. Hip Chics Boutique is proof to us all that if you believe in yourself and your vision, that great things are in store for you (no pun intended).

Now let’s talk outfits! This first dress is perfect for this time of year and it can be styled numerous ways, which we love.

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Our last look from Hip Chics Boutique is one that can be carried into the fall season. Below are two more staples you’re going to want to add to your closet if you don’t already own them. A white (or light cream) bodysuit and a neutral blazer. It also wouldn’t hurt to grab a fun, bright blazer (if that is your cup of tea) for your closet as well. Lucky for y’all, Hip Chics has all of the above!

Neutral, versatile items of clothing are my love language. The limit literally does not exist on the amount of ways you can style a bodysuit and blazer like this. We love a classic blazer look with a pair of trousers or slim pixie type pants; however, do not fear a more casual look with a blazer like you see above. If denim shorts are not your thing, try a pair of jeans (skinny, boyfriend, mom, distressed, flare) blue, white, cream, or black. That’s like eight outfits in one sentence - and we haven’t even laid out all the shoe possibilities yet. I wanted to make a statement with my accessories for this one, so I chose this chunky necklace and triple medium hoop, both by Sheila Fajl. Now back to shoes. If you choose to wear a bodysuit and blazer like above with denim shorts or jeans, go with a neutral tan sandal or a white/neutral sneaker. If you are wearing jeans, trousers, or more of a pixie/workpant, you could very well do a pair of neutral or leopard heels. Want to really step outside your comfort zone? Wear a blazer over an activewear set!

So what have we learned today, ladies?

1. Hip Chics Boutique has an excellent variety of clothing and accessories for women of all ages doing all the things in life.

2. We all need a classic go-to black jumpsuit or dress in our closet.

3. Leopard is our friend.

4. We also need a good neutral blazer in our closet.

Is this jumpsuit not chef’s-kiss-perfection?! I absolutely love the pleated detail up top plus the waist is cinched just the right amount.

Little reminder that I am on the shorter side (5’2”) and this length was great with a heel. I accessorized with these beautiful Sheila Fajl gold hoops and Hobo leopard clutch. Quick side note: 98% of the time, a pop of leopard with your outfit is always a good idea so I say add this to your list of closet must-haves!

Ladies, if you have an upcoming black-tie event or wedding weekend to attend, this is your look!

For our third look, we have this blue midi dress. The colors in this dress are so vibrant and welcome many options for accessories.

I paired it with the same orange clutch from the first look and a neutral tan sandal. You could easily take this dress up a notch with a tan wedge and wear it to a shower or Friday night party of a wedding weekend. You could even make a more casual date night look by pairing it with a white sneaker.

But seriously, Hip Chics Boutique has you covered for upcoming date nights, vacations, work/school, weddings, tailgates, day-to-day wear - pretty much everything! They also have an amazing gift section (seriously, I wanted one of everything). Candles, blankets, toys, personalized wedding gifts, drinkware, etc. Not to mention, the women who work there are so kind, personable, and love what they do.

If you go shopping at Hip Chics Boutique, be sure to tag them (@hipchicsboutique), Forsyth Magazine (@forsythmags), and me (@tayloringstyle) so we can see and share what you’re wearing.

Until next time, happy shopping!

XO, Erika Taylor

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DIY Girls Night: How to Host a Planter Painting Party

BY TARYN JEREZ

PAINTING YOUR POTS

If you’re looking to get the girls together for one last summer soiree, hosting a planter painting party may be just the ticket! Think grown up craft night meets garden party! The best part is that flower pot painting is an inexpensive project with an equally easy set up and skill level.

This is really where the fun begins! Remember, while some guests may jump right in, some friends may feel a little stuck. Encourage everyone to check out the Pinterest app for inspiration until they find something they are excited about. Have everyone share their paint colors and squirt a little out onto a paper plate to use as their paint palette. Remember the paint will dry fairly quickly on the terracotta so you can have fun adding multiple colors and layers.

Make sure everyone’s pots are fully dry before heading to the potting station! (A great time for seconds on snacks!)

Here is everything you’ll need to be the hostess with the mostess as you invite your friends to paint and pot with you this month.

PLAN THE DETAILS IN ADVANCE

Once you select a date and time, get a headcount for who’s joining the fun so you can gather all of your supplies. Head to your favorite local nursery or gardening supply shop and grab the following items: • Terracotta pots - 6” work really well • Indoor or outdoor Plants • Paint brushes, varying sizes • Acrylic paints, different colors • Paper plates • Water cups (mason jars work great) • Large bag of potting soil • Gardening tools to help pot • Gardening gloves, optional • Kraft paper roll or plastic tablecloths Don’t forget you can make this party B.Y.O.P (Bring Your Own Plant) to keep the cost down as a host, but also to allow each guest to bring a plant of their own choosing. Let them know what size pot you’ll be supplying so they can shop accordingly.

SET UP THE PARTY

Decide if the fun will take place indoors or outdoors and pick where painting and potting will be best for you and your guests. Lay down your kraft paper or tablecloth to keep your tables or sidewalk clean and put out some cups or old jars filled with paintbrushes and water for everyone to share. To make potting easy, you can dump your bag of potting soil into a gallon tub and add a few

POTTING YOUR PLANTS

Make sure to have your soil easily accessible to everyone with a few shovels or scoopers of some kind to get the soil into the pots. Keep in mind that each terra cotta pot will have a draining hole at the bottom where soil will spill out a bit, so mind the mess! Invite each guest to shovel a little soil into their pot and place their plant inside, slowly covering the roots up to the top of the plant with more soil. Gently pat the top of the soil line down with your fingers and step back to admire your work! cups inside for scooping. Set up your party food and drinks away from the paint and soil to avoid any contamination. Have fun serving up some summer treats or patio cocktails!

GET THE PARTY STARTED

As each of your guests arrive, be sure to invite them to pick a pot, grab a seat and start mingling and munching! Take a few moments to get everyone situated and then welcome them by sharing a little about what the night will look like and how the painting process will go. Make sure everyone knows where to find everything and what order of operations to follow to ensure they get to leave with their painted beauty!

COMMEMORATE THE NIGHT WITH A PHOTO

There is a sense of pride when you finish a project! Take the opportunity of having all the girls together to grab a group photo with your planters. You can encourage a selfie of your guests with their plants to share later with the group on social media and have friends vote for the best planter. Make sure before everyone leaves you remind people to take their planter with them and maybe get a few ladies to help with the clean up, too!

My biggest advice is just to have fun and don’t worry about the details. Enjoy the time together hanging out and being creative and that is what will make it a girls’ night to remember.

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Our Banqueting Table: Home Decor & Goods

All are welcome to the table!

It was a normal, sunny day when the vision for OBT Home Décor came into being. Owner Annie Marion was outside watching her two young children play when the name for the store came to her mind. Though the timing of opening a store wasn’t right, she put pen to paper and started writing down her ideas. Over the course of the next couple of years, she and her husband Jessup opened two vendor locations in Winston-Salem and Clemmons. This allowed them to test the market and learn the ropes of retail before diving in with both feet. Finally, in February of this year, the timing was right and they opened their own storefront in Clemmons.

and Winston-Salem pillows. They also have stylish lamps, signs, wall décor, and accent furniture pieces. It was very important to them to support Fair Trade. While not all products in their retail collection are Fair Trade, they are dedicated to including such products in their store. Fair Trade provides men and women around the world with fair wages, allowing them to provide for their families. OBT carries a stylish selection of fair trade products including baskets from Bangladesh, candles made by Syrian refugees, and bracelets made by rescued teen girls in Kenya, some of who have been saved from human trafficking.

The concept for OBT Home Décor evolved from years of family work in both the furniture and non-profit industries. Jessup’s family had worked for decades in the furniture industry, Annie had worked for years doing international aid work that allowed her to travel to some of the most desperate countries around the world. Her travels throughout Thailand, Mongolia, India, Kosovo, and other third world countries left an impact that could never be forgotten. Jessup also worked in a non-profit, traveling to countries such as Uganda, where he also developed a heart to help others. Pairing together their family legacies, passions, and life’s work was something they couldn’t stop thinking about, so they started OBT Home Décor.

Jessup and Annie created OBT with a mission in mind. Their goal is to provide a place where people can shop for unique home goods while also giving back to those in need. They wanted to create a place where all are welcome to the table and where they can help others enjoy a meal around their table.

They are often asked what the name OBT stands for. The answer is “Our Banqueting Table.” It comes from Song of Solomon 2:4, a verse in the Bible that reads “He brought me to his banqueting table and his banner over me is love.” The name symbolizes both what they do and why they do it. It’s not just a place of business, but also of giving back and where all are welcome around the table. Annie and Jessup wanted to develop a store that was socially minded, a store that would help not just their family but others along the way. Some of the ways they give back are through the sale and support of Fair Trade items and the support of various non-profit organizations.

OBT Home Decor sells a wide variety of industrial modern furniture and accent pieces, as well as pieces with a chic, farmhouse flair.

The shop’s versatility in inventory draws in customers of all ages and preferences. One of their most popular items are the Clemmons

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Purpose Push: Holding On Before Letting Go

Sheridan C. Watkins is a journalist and the owner of Shairpins, a jewelry and gifts brand focused on transcending self-worth to all women. Her true work began after climbing out of a dark place with the help of God and therapy and her life mission is to provide tangible peace through her Divine gifts to help women heal and transform their lives. Follow the mission on Instagram: @shairpinsgarden

BY SHERIDAN WATKINS

Sit back and think rationally about this question: Are you ready to quit your job?

I get it, you’ve been working hard and it seems like the only obstacle is time. If you had more time to pour into your business, it would take off in the way you’ve been praying for it to do.

Truthfully, like money, time is neutral and just because you have more of it, doesn’t mean it will solve all your problems. Your job has a purpose and it’s not only to pay your bills -- it’s also to keep your dreams alive.

Your job is your investor Chances are, if you put your lifestyle on a newborn business, it would be way too much for it to handle right now. Making monetary leaps and bounds is astounding but it doesn’t mean it’s time to cut off the reliable income that comes with working for an employer. In addition to earning revenue, you must invest a lot of time to learn how to build the business that will support you.

It’s your duty to nurture your business for growth and sustainability; you cannot do that effectively if you’re also relying on your business to pay the mortgage. Think of your job as an investor. Every payday you’re getting more money to build the foundation of your business. Remember the phrase, “It takes money to make money”? Let that money come from your employer for a while.

Advantage of duality A hidden advantage of working a job while building a business is the ability to handle multiple schedules and tasks. You’re forced to prioritize and even delegate when necessary, which is a blessing in disguise as all great leaders are able to do this effectively.

For a while, I struggled in this area and because I wanted to be my own boss so badly, I would choose my business over everything. Sure, I was laser-focused but the issue was not giving enough back to the hand that was feeding me. Being frank, I’ve been fired for not being a team player and negating workflow ethics which caused a domino effect of vulnerability

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and uncertainty with my finances and that was not fun. As much as I wanted it to be, my business was not ready to support me during those times.

However, I thank God for those experiences because a job is also a space for pruning.

Take heed to all the lessons you pick up as an employee because they’ll help you become a great boss. A lot of times, the very thing you need to work on in order to be successful in business will manifest itself in the workplace before you go. It’s not an attack. It’s personal development.

Think about job alignment While you are getting adjusted to the learning curves and new-growth, don’t stop looking for that dream investor (aka job) that will allow you to have the most freedom while building your business.

There may be a point where you know you’ve been doing the best you possibly can and it seems like the walls are still closing in. Here is where you check in with your spiritual source and pray. Ask to be connected with the best job for your unique situation and keep up the faith and the work ethic until it arrives. Look at your network and let people know what you need. Seek and you shall find.

You’ll get that push when it’s finally time for you to lean full time into business and you don’t want to get there a moment sooner.

Though I put in full time hours for my business now, I have supplemental income to help so my business can continue growing and taking risks. The story is still being written for you and me, so don’t rush the inevitable.

Your desire is known and you will get there, so learn and grow as much as you can.

I have faith in you.

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Club Pilates Winston-Salem: Embracing Your Possibilities!

BY MARTIE EMORY

If you’re in control of your body,you’re in control of your life!

In our social media-filled world of affirmations and catchy phrases, Club Pilates not only invites you to embrace this personal reminder, but they also give you the tools to follow through.

People are coming to realize more and more that a healthy body is easier to keep healthy, and that immuno strength goes hand-in-hand with exercise. “Pilates is a form of exercise that everyone, including immuno-compromised individuals, can access and benefit from,” says owner Kristin Henry.

“Thinking of your body as an entire system of interwoven needs is the first step to overall wellness. Physical health goes hand-in-hand with overall health,” Kristin continues. “No matter your age or fitness level, Pilates is life-changing!”

THE HEALTH Pilates incorporates flexibility, strength, balance, and so much more, to create a whole body workout focused on the core and postural muscles. Pilates is one of the most highly recommended forms of exercise for patients just starting out, and for those in recovery from illness or injury. It is also used by many amateur and professional athletes to maintain a balanced body and elite status in their sport. Pilates incorporates a blend of slow, detailed, and deliberate movements to safely target the desired muscle groups, while minimizing risk of injury or strain on joints.

The top five goals for newcomers to Pilates include strengthening core and postural muscles, reducing joint and back pain, improving flexibility and range of motion, preventing injury and balancing the muscles of the body, and improving overall balance in the process.

Centered on total well-being, Pilates takes health and safety to the next level.

“We don’t just focus on the muscles and joints, but also the lungs, heart, and other organs,” says Kristin. “Pilates is a full-body experience which utilizes strong breathing techniques, cardiovascular endurance, and overall organ health.”

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THE SAFETY To help participants keep moving in the direction of health, Club Pilates WinstonSalem takes an active role to provide a safe space to do so. “Our members say we are the cleanest place in town,” Kristin says.

She goes on to joke about comments they have made about eating off the floor or having surgery inside the studio.

“It’s almost like we were built for Covid by coincidence. Classes have a maximum of 12 people per session so everyone has their own complete station full of equipment and they are able to stay six feet away from the next person. After each use, all equipment is wiped down using a virucide cleaning agent.”

They have also incorporated some pretty impressive technologies to keep the space clean. In addition to UV air filters, there are elaborate air purifiers inside their air handling system, which uses positive and negatively charged ions to break apart viruses on a molecular level.

Upon walking in, it is common to hear how clean and fresh the air smells and feels. They even routinely treat the entire studio with Monofoil D, which clings to surfaces and kills viruses that come into contact with them.

THE TALENT What sets Club Pilates apart is the professionally trained staff who focuses on each participant’s personal experience in the studio. Kristin is also proud to offer a Teacher Training Program, which will be held on weekends this fall.

“Training covers how to properly execute each exercise, as well as how to teach that exercise to others. Our training also details how to handle various injuries and situations such as pregnancy or spinal issues, and how to safely work with people in each population,” she explains.

Participants may opt to complete the training on a single apparatus or multiples.

The apparatuses include mat, reformer, jumpboard, springboard, cadillac, chair, ladder barrel, spine corrector, magic circle, TRX, barre, and TriggerPoint. Each of these apparatuses are utilized in the Club Pilates group classes.

Kristin says the training program is selfpaced, with the exception of scheduled in-studio dates for each specific apparatus.

“Students can move at their own pace through the online study portion, the selfpractice, and the practice teaching. We call it a blended format which includes inperson, independent, and online learning.”

Access to a local Pilates Master Trainer is also a huge benefit of the program, and one that sets the Club Pilates Teacher Training Program apart from others. As a Master Trainer, Kristin works both in a group setting and one-on-one with participants to prepare them for teaching, and to help with the unique needs of each individual in the program. She will be there every step of the way to provide guidance, support, mentoring, and encouragement.

The Club Pilates Teacher Training also includes a new scholarship program, and candidates with relevant work experience or training such as dance teachers, yoga instructors, personal trainers, group fitness instructors, kinesiology majors, etc., may be eligible for partial or full scholarships.

“We are dedicated to developing skilled new Pilates teachers,” says Kristin. “While those teachers can come from anywhere, we are able to accelerate the process for those with overlapping experience or knowledge.

However, no experience or pre-existing knowledge is needed to enroll in the Teacher Training since the program is very thorough, and is designed to provide all the building blocks and important tools to develop an effective teacher.”

THE FEELING Always inclusive, with a joyful vibe the minute you walk through the door, Club Pilates is a boutique-style studio with a welcoming sense of calm and community. You’ll find affordable memberships and flexible class scheduling, and the studio being locally owned and operated is a wonderful bonus!

When you’re ready to give Pilates a try, your first 30-minute full-body session at Club Pilates is always free. The staff will introduce you to the studio’s state-of-the-art equipment, and guide you in the foundations of what will become your new passion for wellness!

Group classes are available for every age and fitness level, even those with limited mobility, including Reformer, Flow, Cardio Sculpt, Control, Suspend, Restore, Center + Balance, F.I.T., and cross-training for young adults. Participants can choose individual classes that fit their schedule, a monthly class membership, or private training if that’s a more comfortable option.

Do something amazing for yourself, and visit Club Pilates, located in Winston-Salem at 371 Lower Mall Drive in Thruway Shopping Center, or reach owner and lead instructor Kristin Henry at 336-717-1222. For more information on class options and schedules, visit clubpilates.com/location/winstonsalem. Club Pilates is also an excellent outlet for making and supporting new friendships, on a shared journey of overall health and wellness!

Simplify After Sixty

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I doubt that I will ever be a minimalist given the extreme delight I take in visual discovery and variety. And yet, as the decades have accumulated, so have my “things” - all ripe with something that matters - memory, whimsy, style, elegance - some quality that speaks to my being. I love to traipse through my rooms, my drawers, my closet. Doing so brings me a certain joy.

At the same time, I am aware of an inner restlessness, a feeling that enough is enough, or too much, and that my attention is being called elsewhere. I am listening to this inner shift and have slowly heeded its call. People say, “That’s what happens when you get older. You just want to simplify.”

I don’t put a lot of stock in “what people say,” but this time, they nailed it.

I’ve learned five things - a combination of lessons and strategies - about the process of simplifying.

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LEARN TO LET GO It can be really hard to let go of my old familiars. Hard to let go of a full rack of designer stilettos. Hard to let go of stacks of books, old friends from my corporate life. Hard to let go of hundreds of cards, letters, and trinkets from people who have enriched my life and made me feel loved or appreciated. All of these meaningful things fit my life in a different time and place. Now, they take up a lot of room, and maybe, just maybe, pull me back to the past a tad too much? Little by little, I am releasing them and learning that it gets easier to do so.

REMEMBER THIS PRINCIPLE: “TO ADD ON IS TO TAKE ON” Every single thing in my life, whether it’s a relationship, a new outfit, or a garden, is something that needs to be cared for. Everything. When I add on, I take on responsibility for that care. Consider gardening.

When I first moved here, I was hell-bent on transforming an area of my yard into a visually vibrant, birdattracting garden.

I am a mediocre gardener at best, but “no pain, no gain” was my thinking. At about year three, the care outweighed the comfort, and I scaled it back, replacing finicky plants with hardy shrubs and indestructible bulbs, and that feels simple enough.

PRACTICE THE “ONE ONLY” RULE FOR SENTIMENTAL ITEMS So many photos and doo-dads! Every one worthy of reflection. I needed some way to decide which would be the keepers when all had sentimental meaning. I landed on the “one only” rule of thumb: one photo of me with my siblings, one souvenir from that trip to India, and so on.

While I haven’t been 100% compliant with my new rule, I have made great progress.

Now when I look around, I can truly pause and relish these few special things.

REEL IN THE ONE-OFFS AND THE OUTLIERS This strategy thrills me! It’s about identifying the things that don’t really fit with everything else that I have. Here’s an example: that exotic spice I bought for a recipe I made only once is long past its expiration date and I’ll never use it again.

Or how about those brown leather pants that don’t go with anything? Instead of going out and buying things to make them work, I can bypass the stress and the expense by sending them on their merry way via consignment or donation. These days, I pretty much stick with a black/ white/cream color scheme that welcomes vibrant accessories. It’s so much less stressful. As for meal planning, I google my favorite ingredients, the ones I almost always have on hand, and discover new ways to use them. Then, it’s a simple matter of practicing meals on rotation.

Here’s the last and most important lesson: Simplifying creates new space which allows me to spend my time, attention, and resources on what matters right now.

Like bird watching….

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Essential Estate Planning Documents

BY STEVEN GALLO,, CFP®, PARTNER, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

Estate planning is the process that manages and preserves your assets while you are alive and conserves and controls how they are distributed to your heirs after you pass. Irrespective of your age or net worth, an estate plan is necessary to protect yourself, your loved ones, and your assets. These plans require legal documents and it is advisable to consult with an attorney to assist in the preparation of the documents, preferably one that specializes in estate planning.

Below are the essential documents you should be acquainted with as you assemble your plan.

WILL

A will provides instructions for distributing your assets to your heirs upon your death. An attorney can customize the provisions of the will to fit your family’s particular circumstances. You appoint a personal representative to pay final expenses, taxes, and distribute your assets. It is extremely important for parents with minor children to have a will as it is the only way to designate a guardian should both parents pass away. It is important to keep in mind that a will cannot instruct the distribution of assets in accounts with designated beneficiaries like life insurance, retirement accounts, and accounts with transfer on death instructions.

DURABLE POWER OF ATTORNEY

In the event you become incapacitated, a durable power of attorney names an agent to oversee your financial affairs until you are mentally able to do so or until your death. An agent’s decision-making powers may cover all facets of your finances, from signing checks and filing tax returns to managing investment accounts.

MEDICAL DIRECTIVE

Medical directives communicate your intentions regarding the use of life-sustaining measures in the event of a terminal illness. If you don’t have a directive in place, healthcare providers are obligated to prolong your life using artificial means—even if you would not want to have the procedures. Advance directives may include: • Living Will A document that states which kinds of health care treatments you wish to refuse or accept.

• Healthcare Proxy Another term for a health care power of attorney, this document states who has the power to make medical decisions for you should you become incapable of making them for yourself.

• Do-Not-Resuscitate Order (DNR) A document that tells your family and health care providers that you do not wish to receive resuscitative treatments if you are terminal.

TRUST

If your current family or financial situations warrants the need for more sophistication, then your attorney may advise the use of a trust. If a trust is used, the trust can simply be part of the will, such as a testamentary trust, or it can be a separate freestanding document executed simultaneously with the will, such as a revocable trust or a living trust.

Having a well-defined estate plan is a key pillar to a comprehensive financial plan. It will protect yourself, your loved ones, and your assets.

Once assembled, it is advisable to review periodically to incorporate any changes in tax law or in your personal family dynamics. To explore all of the estate planning documents you will need in your specific situation, we recommend contacting an estateplanning attorney.

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CHERYL LINDSAY A LEADER WHO RELISHES IN BEING THE SOLUTION This summer, June 17th, was an incredibly special day for Cheryl Lindsay. She celebrated 31 years of service at Hanesbrands Inc, where she currently serves as the Director of GLOBAL Diversity & Inclusion and Community Engagement. While at Hanes, Cheryl has been accountable for employee relations, has directed human resources and has lead the development and execution of Hanes’ Diversity and Inclusion strategy. A homegrown servant from Forsyth County with a heart for helping, Cheryl graduated from East Forsyth High School and North Carolina State University with a degree in business and a concentration in human resources. She came back home to Winston-Salem after college and started her career at Hanes, previously Sara Lee, and her long journey into community service. She joined the company in the HR Trainee Program and went on to serve the company in many roles throughout the years such as HR Manager, HR Area Manager, Director of Human Resources, Director of HR/PMO and Director of Diversity & Inclusion.

Community leaders recognized Cheryl for her “superpowers” to serve and her passion and heart to help people in a variety of community projects. She accomplished all of this and obtained her MBA from Columbus University!

Cheryl has served our community in numerous roles. Recognized for her love of Winston-Salem and her potential to make a difference, Shelby Chaden asked her to join the Arts Council Board more than a decade ago, serving in many positions there.

This opportunity ignited her passion to help others in her work at the Arts Council. Cheryl envisioned the AC Arts Knowledge Sharing Award and the AC Arts Development Awards.

Both were awards to urge large and small partnering agencies to collaborate to help diversify and enlarge their audience and community exposure to their organization.

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These connections and partnerships empowered the smaller arts groups through shared resources and expertise offered by their larger partner.

They also encouraged arts organizations to partner with non-arts agencies to expand and diversify their audience. Cheryl has judged “Dances for the Homeless,” and she has also danced for the homeless, benefitting the Bethesda Shelter for the homeless. She chaired the Forsyth County Board Annual Campaign and has served on ABC of North Carolina, a non-profit dedicated to providing high-quality, evidence-based diagnostic, therapeutic and educational services to people with autism. Her work with the Red H.E.A.R.R.T (Help Educate and Reduce Risk Today) Initiative and Nonprofit is in memory of her mother, who passed away from heart disease, as well as women who have heart disease and don’t know it.

As an only child, Cheryl tried to never take a moment for granted when it came to loving her mother. Cheryl is excited about her newest endeavor which creatively combines life coaching and education on best health, called “Best Life! Best You! LLC” (bestlifebestyoucoaching.com). With the goal of helping people, Cheryl has become certified in several areas to provide skilled life coaching to people who desire to live their best life.

Cheryl has certifications and is certified as a Say Life Transformational Life coach, health and wellness coach, sports nutrition coach, and group fitness and bootcamp instructor. She is also a Zumba instructor! She has prepared herself to help her clients improve their health, address stress and enjoy their lives.

“If we don’t have health, we don’t have anything!”

Cheryl values relationships and realizes that all of them matter, even the newest, smallest ones that you think are inconsequential. Those relationships have connected her to people who have helped her face challenging times in her life. She believes that everyone has significance and value. When she needed help, they showed up and treated her right. Her hope is that our community can build relationships that can address food deserts, the lack of affordable fresh fruits and vegetables, lack of resources, lack of sleep, lack of healthy cooking skills and the need for earlier education on healthy life habits for our children. She believes that the keys to making these critical changes in our community and in ourselves are relationships and love. “It all boils down to love.

If you love yourself and love other people, while building relationships, then God’s love will find a way.” Thank you, Cheryl, for loving the people of Winston-Salem and changing our community.

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BY ANGELIA CORNATZER

Don’t you love date night? We all love date night, but if you’re anything like me, you don’t always love the cost of date night.

Maybe you also love date night, but you may not always feel like getting dressed up and going out. Well, we are going to look at some super fun and meaningful ideas of how to have a sweet and intentional date night at home, without the hassle or bill of going out!

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If you and your other half are into reading books, grab a good one and schedule a night to just sit at home and read next to one another.

This can be so much fun while enjoying a book and each other. Maybe you even start reading a book together!

Going for a night stroll is a great way to enjoy time with your partner.

This is an easy way to do something together while having time and space to really talk.

During an at home date night, challenge yourselves to make a creative meal just using things in your pantry. You could also separately pick two things from the pantry to use in a meal and come up with a clever combination using all four items!

Grab some board games and let the games begin!

Playing board games with each other is such a fun way to spend uninterrupted time together… and to be competitive.

Grab the sheet, cushions, and pillows! Creating a fun fort together is such a sweet way to spend time together.

After it’s built, cozy up and turn on a movie or have a picnic!

TASTE TEST

SPA NIGHT

TURN UP THE MUSIC

LOVE LETTERS

Think of something you both like.

Maybe it is ice cream, cookies, or sodas! Lay out all of your options and go through them one by one! Do a taste test and rate the best.

Go big or go home for this one. Grab your lotions, face masks, bath bombs, and cucumbers and get to relaxing with each other.

Don’t forget the robes and slippers!

One of my favorite things to do is turn on the song from our wedding’s first dance and soak up the moment together dancing in the kitchen. Make a playlist of tunes that have been meaningful in your relationship. Dance the night away!

Take time to remind your partner how much they mean to you. Set a timer and write each other love letters. Write about what you appreciate about your partner lately and what they do that makes you smile. Let it all out in your love letter! Read them to one another and you’ll be in for a treat.

PLANT A GARDEN If you want to try out having a green thumb together, take the evening to put some new plants in your yard!

YOGA AND TEA Look up a yoga class online and make your living room into a peaceful paradise.

Maybe even play some kalimba music. Doing this will ensure that you have a breath of fresh air together. After your yoga sesh, brew a cup of tea and enjoy each other’s company!

No matter what it is or where you are, every night at home can be a special date night.

You don’t have to spend a dime or leave the house to have a lovely memory with your partner. Challenge yourself to have sweet intentionality in planning an enjoyable and refreshing night for you and the one you love. Plan your next at home date night!

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BY AMY HILL, PHOTO BY JODIE BRIM CREATIVE

Clemmons gem Lei Lei’s Cuisine & Bakery recently celebrated its eighth birthday with no shortage of birthday cakes for sweettoothed supporters throughout the Triad. This month, owner Lei Lei Patterson also celebrates her 50th birthday, and plans to participate in Southern Charm on the Farm for the 9th time. What put Lei Lei’s Cuisine on the map as a dessert-lover’s dream was none other than Lei Lei’s red velvet cake, which she first concocted out of happenstance.

Much of Lei Lei’s Bakery’s existence can be attributed to Lei Lei’s husband, who volunteered Lei Lei to bake a red velvet cake for his uncle. Lei Lei was a seasoned chef after operating Lei Lei’s Cuisine, but baking was something she had much less experience in. With short notice, Lei Lei scrambled to research recipes and methods for baking the best red velvet cake. Her impromptu cake turned out to be a family favorite, and also sparked the interest of her fellow nurses, who began asking her to make cakes for special events.

Popular bakery flavors ahead of fall include a decadent caramel apple velvet cake, a bourbon spice cheesecake baked with Kentucky bourbon and Vietnamese cinnamon, and a Caribbean spice carrot cake.

Customers also go crazy for Lei Lei’s chocolate cake, which sells out nearly every Saturday. With a wedding cake consultation, Lei Lei and her team can figure out which cake flavor best suits your big day.

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Busy brides can relax knowing that a wedding cake from Lei Lei’s Bakery will be intricately designed and carefully delivered.

According to Lei Lei, the key to consistently producing quality cakes and desserts is attention to detail, no matter how small.

Minute-seeming steps in the baking process can make all the difference, such as sifting ingredients and making sure eggs are at room temperature before beating. Lei Lei’s motto for providing customers with the best baked goods possible is, “When in doubt, toss it out.”

Although Lei Lei is sadly unable to taste test her desserts due to her allergies to wheat, gluten, and corn, she is adept at determining the quality of her products through sight and smell.

Aside from allowing her products to speak for themselves, Lei Lei also believes customer service is key in running a business with a stellar reputation throughout the community. For the first time, COVID-19 forced her to take her business online while businesses were closed during the early months of the pandemic.

Throughout the transition, Lei Lei learned the importance of being able to pivot and roll with the punches as a business owner.

In addition to baked goods, Lei Lei’s Bakery also creates a no-churn ice cream, which Lei Lei learned from her father as a child.

Her father also donated a highquality freezer to Lei Lei’s Bakery, which holds delicious flavors

of homemade ice cream daily. Lei Lei’s children, her enthusiastic and dedicated staff, and her mother Viola Roseboro are only a few of Lei Lei’s biggest supporters.

As her business has grown, she has been deeply touched by the support of other local bakers throughout the Triad community, along with her loyal customer base.

Lei Lei stays busy as a Novant registered nurse for over 21 years, mother, and business owner. In the future, she hopes to incorporate a cupcake food truck into her business, as well as offering shipping to customers who order online. In the meantime, Lei Lei will continue to turn out tasty works of art from her shop at 6354 Cephis Dr. in Clemmons.

Read more about Lei Lei’s Cuisine & Bakery and place an order online at www.leileisbakery.com. Check out Lei Lei’s Cuisine on Facebook, and follow the team on Instagram at @leileiscuisine.

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Picture Perfect

“‘Wow, our HOUSE didn’t quite feel like HOME until the artwork went up.’ Artwork and photography personalize our living spaces.

They offer a reflection of who we are and they bring warmth and coziness to any room.” ~ Lauren Heller

This past year I have hung many pictures for clients. The real estate market has had a crazy-busy year or so. Many people sold their houses and made a move or they updated and changed paint and décor.

The #1 decorating mistake that I continue to see when I walk into a home is pictures hung too high or a picture that is too small for the space where it is hung. Before arriving at an appointment I often ask my client to group all the pictures to be hung in a space where I can ‘shop’ their artwork. After looking at the art and the spaces to hang the art, I start placing art in a room beginning with the focal point and work around the room. Keep in mind pictures do not have to be hung on every single wall….. the eye needs a place to rest. The focal wall should have your best piece of art. If your TV hangs on your focal wall, you probably do not need to hang anything else on that wall.

Rules of thumb I use when hanging wall art: • Artwork that you will view standing (like in a hallway) should be hung approximately 60” from the middle of the picture to the floor……whether you are 5’2 or 6’4”.

60” is the average.

• Above a buffet, console, chest, etc. hang 4” to 6” above to relate the piece of art to the furniture. Too much space between the furniture and the art will disconnect them.

If hanging a mirror, you may need to adjust.

• Hanging art over a sofa, 6” to 9” is a good distance between the back of the sofa and the bottom of the art piece.

• Artwork hung in a room where people will almost always be seated (dining, family room, etc.) should be hung 3” to 4” lower than if the people were viewing it standing (60” from the middle of the picture to the floor).

• Walls less than 36” wide do not necessarily need art.

• If hanging 2 or more pictures horizontally, hang them approximately 2” to 4” apart. If hanging vertically, 1 to 2” apart. Remember it is all about connecting and if the pictures are hung too far apart they disconnect.

• Want to hang a grouping? Have a cohesive theme. It may be subject matter, colors, or frame size. There should be a reason to hang the items together.

• Size matters! General rule of thumb is 2/3s of the space (wall) or the piece of furniture it is relating to should be filled.

• Have a brick or stone fireplace and wondering what art would look best?

I have found that if the background is busy (brick with grout lines and stone

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with the different shapes and various colors) a piece of art with a simple subject matter looks best. If you have painted sheetrock or wood, then any right size piece of art will work.

• Some of the popular designers on HGTV hang mirrors over fireplaces but I do not recommend you do so. Most of the time people are seated in a family room and if they look up at the mirror hung above the mantle all they see is a ceiling fan or the ceiling. Mirrors should be hung where they reflect something beautiful.

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In need of some inspiration for your next date? Try one of these tried-and-true combinations for the perfect night (or day!) out with your special someone. (And for more ideas, make sure to check out our website: www.bestofwinston.com.)

1. PLAN A PROGRESSIVE DINNER Draw your evening out by hitting three different locations for each course of your meal. Kick off your date with a cocktail and appetizer at the ultraromantic Library Bar inside Spring House Restaurant.

Next, for a high-end vibe move on to either Meridian or 600° for your entreé. Finish off with a glass of wine and dessert at Mozelle’s - the chocolate torte is especially divine and just right for sharing.

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2. GET ACTIVE DOWNTOWN

For a different spin on your date night, try a bike ride before dinner. Park near Krankies on Third Street, and you can rent a bike at the entrance to the Long Branch Trail there. Follow the signs for a smooth bike ride that can be as long or short as you like, but make sure you end up looping back up north around Innovation Quarter for some great views. You can exit the Long Branch Trail at several places along the Innovation Quarter, so plan on stopping for dinner at either Alma Mexicana or Cugino Forno - both are delicious but casual enough that you can go as you are.

3. MAKE IT A DOUBLE FEATURE

If you’re a film buff, this date is for you. a/perture, the local cinema on Fourth Street, curates an excellent selection of movies with times that make it easy to squeeze in dinner before or in between - shows. Get tickets to an early movie, grab dinner or heavy appetizers at Jeffrey Adams or Mellow Mushroom, head back to a/perture for a second film, and then hit Ginger Fox Beverages afterwards to recap your favorite scenes with a seriously fresh cocktail.

4. TRY A DAY DATE Change your routine up with a thoughtful date during the day. Begin with lunch at West End Cafe and then walk up Fourth Street into downtown Winston-Salem. Pop into Design Archives Vintage Emporium or Bookmarks, depending on your interests, for some fun browsing. Order ice cream with or without alcohol at Chill Nitro, or walk farther up Fourth Street to Camino Bakery for a sweet treat and espresso to end your date.

5. ENJOY THE ARTS DISTRICT

Finding parking in the Arts District can be tough, so plan to park on one end and walk up Trade Street in order to see the many murals.

Make a reservation for the Prix Fixe dinner at Mission Pizza; it’s one of the best meals you can have in town and quite a deal. After dinner, walk over to ROAR for either the boutique bowling or the golf simulator on the second floor. Cap off your evening with a drink at either Fiddlin’ Fish Brewing Co or bar piña if you want rooftop views.

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Millions of people use social media daily. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and other sites are utilized for many reasons, such as staying up to date on the news, looking for new ideas, selling new and old items, and connecting with others.

The Social Media Comparison Trap

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

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One primary connection social media allows users to form is staying connected to family and friends. We post updates on the recent happenings in our lives.

That family vacation to Disney World you just took? Many people will upload pictures of that trip to share with their friends on their social media accounts. In return, we follow friends and family members to see their life updates.

Another type of connection social media creates is a connection to professionals, celebrities, and world leaders. We see their recent happenings, as well. While social media can be a helpful way to be in the know on what is going on with people, it can also have negative impacts, one being what I call the social media comparison trap.

As we scroll through our newsfeed and see the updates, we may start comparing ourselves to others, which leads us to feeling worse about ourselves. According to researchers, findings show that when people compare themselves to social media friends, they often perceive others as doing better in life than themselves. These comparisons can contribute to self-esteem and mental health issues, because the feelings of lack and dissatisfaction in our own lives caused by comparing can also create depression and an unrealistic view of the world.

However, in the article “Why We Compare Ourselves to Others on Social Media and How to Stop,” writer Emily Holland reminds us that our social media friends are, the majority of the time, posting the best versions of their lives. They aren’t exhibiting their true reality on their feeds. Instead, users are picking and choosing the happier moments that would sometimes make others feel jealous. For example, a user will share over 100 pictures of their beach trip, but won’t share the family fights that occurred during that trip.

Once in a while, you will get a user who shares all and produces

a true picture of their reality, the good, the bad, and the ugly. But, not everyone posts about the non-picturesque qualities of their lives, because, deep down, no one really wants to give others that information about their lives. Yet, it can be very difficult to remember this and separate the fact from the fiction. The good news is there are ways to make scrolling through your social media a little easier.

First, limit your time on social media. This can be a hard habit to break. Thumbing through Facebook is a mindless task and doesn’t require much thinking.

But, limiting your time on social media can make a difference in what you see and help block some of those comparison feelings.

Second, limit your exposure on who you see on social media.

That (rarely used) unfriend and unfollow button is a lifesaver, my friend. Make a list of family members, friends, world leaders, celebrities, etc. of who you want to see updates from and who wouldn’t have a negative impact on you. This is a great time to reconsider your relationships and their meanings. If you know someone can be a trigger, remove your exposure to them. As you complete this process, ask yourself “Why am I removing them and what is the trigger?” Are you envious because they are losing weight and you aren’t, but want to? Figuring out the “why” behind your feelings can help move you forward and make changes for the better in your own life.

Lastly, always be kind to yourself and understand that no one has a perfect life. Celebrate your successes and moments of happiness, big and small. You are not in competition with your social media friends and your life shouldn’t be treated as such.

Who knows - maybe a friend from social media is jealous about something you posted about? No matter what, comparing yourself to others on social media is unfair and unnecessary. If you find yourself doing this, stop, take a step back, reflect on the situation, and see how you can use the comparison to help better yourself and your own life.

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It’s Hard to Be Humble

BY LESLIE SPEAS

Do you remember this song? “Oh Lord, it’s hard to be humble when you’re perfect in every way. I can’t wait to look in the mirror, I get better lookin’ each day.” Probably many of you don’t, as I think it was from 1980. I wish I could remember other important things as well as I remember song lyrics from the eighties. But back to our topic, it’s indeed hard to be humble.

I always thought I was a humble person until I did more research on the sin of pride. Here some examples of behaviors of a prideful person: 1. Insists on arguing his/her point and won’t listen to anyone else 2. Has trouble with correction, is defensive, always has an excuse, or blames others 3. Finds fault with others 4. Craves superiority over others 5. Thinks he/she can carry his/her own burdens 6. Judges others 7. Is desperate for attention and/or has a strong desire to be admired 8. Thinks that he/she can handle things better than God Uh-oh. I see myself in a few of those, especially five and eight. Today, pride is often celebrated as a virtue. We have pride in our work, our children, and our culture, among many other things. Pride is defined as excessive belief in one’s own abilities that interferes with his/her recognition of the grace of God. Pride is also known as vanity. C.S. Lewis called pride the great sin and the devil’s most effective and destructive tool.

Humility is the opposite of pride. It’s knowing the truth about yourself and your proper standing with God. It’s accepting that you are weak and that your heart is beyond your understanding.

It’s acknowledging that you have a creator who knows you better than you know yourself. It’s freedom from pride or arrogance.

Humility is often seen as a weakness, but this is a misconception. It is associated with quietness, submission, and thoughts of inadequacy, but it does not mean that you should bow down or be subservient to other people. God wants us to

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possess humility. A humble person has a gentle spirit and thinks soberly about him/herself. This means that we don’t brag about our accomplishments and abilities. Rather, we acknowledge that our sufficiency is of God in all things. (2 Corinthians 3:5) Proverbs 11:2 says, “When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” I like C.S. Lewis’ definition of humility, “Humility is not thinking less of ourselves, but thinking of ourselves less.”

If we are honest, almost all of us suffer from pride at one time or another. If you sense pride in your life, consider some of these strategies to get back on track!

1. Pray Ask God to reveal and remove pride in our hearts, minds, and lives.

2. Read the Bible and do what it says For us to hear God, we have to listen to His Word and be obedient to it.

3. Repent To keep pride at bay in our lives, we must continually confess and repent of our sins.

4. Serve others If we serve others, we can stay humble and avoid pride.

5. Take your prideful thoughts captive Do what we are instructed to do in Philippians 4:8: Finally brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

REFLECT

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What will you do to overcome the tendency to be prideful?

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The Intentional Retirement - Part One:

Lessons from the Workplace

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Where were you in the last decade of the 20th century? I know where I was: catching planes, trains, and automobiles as I raced from company to company across our great nation and sometimes, “across the pond.” I was making a living in a way that I mostly loved, often catching Happy Hour on a 6 PM flight from Kansas City to the Big Apple, headed home. More than anything else, I loved the values-based engagement I had with corporate managers and leaders, which had everything to do with these three simple words: Be. Do. Have.

It’s amazing how that tiny trio could provoke real conversation amongst leaders trying to bring out the best in people while contributing to their organization’s goals and bottom line.

We talked a lot about how differently one leads when getting the sequence of these words “right.” Because when you think about it, the order most often goes like this: What do I want to have?

What do I have to do to get it?

Who do I want to be as I go about this pursuit?

I had the privilege of challenging this verb-based hierarchy, inviting conversation around how employees might respond differently if their leader were a renegade who lived from this variation: Who do I want to be as a person and a leader?

What do I need to do to achieve that?

What will we all have if I succeed?

Even back then, the research had proven that people don’t leave organizations.

They leave bad bosses. I certainly have.

The values-based challenge was to consider what might happen if leaders put their being before their doing. It was to consider how they might show up differently if they led from their own and their organization’s professed values.

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I spent countless hours in those corporate conference rooms where stories were told, laughter was shared, empathy was given and received. Nearly everyone could relate an incident where they made a bold move by doing the right thing, by challenging an ineffective policy, by supporting an employee who everyone else had given up on. The question was: What difference would it make if you led from that place – first, foremost, and always? Most people, in their hearts, wanted to be that type of manager, that type of boss. From that common ground, we grappled with the more practical matter of finding the bridge that connects and supports valuesbased leadership on the one hand, and achieves corporate results on the other.

They are not incompatible! Everyone, including me, left inspired to work on the Be. Do. Have. opportunity.

But what, you may ask, has any of this to do with ditching the old 9 to 5 and heading out to the golf course? In my view, everything. Here’s why: we wait seemingly forever to arrive at the promised land of retirement. And once “the pinch-me-now giddies” wear off, we often find ourselves face to face with a Be. Do. Have. crisis. We ask questions like: • Who do I want to be now? YES, please ask this question first because it is the key to living retirement with intentionality!

• What do I want to do with my time, energy, skills, interests, resources?

• What do I want to have and what do I want to ditch?

Thankfully, there are two zillion resources out there on how to live the retirement life. My approach – the one that mattered back then in those conference rooms and still does – is to get the order right.

Don’t shortchange yourself now when you have the ultimate freedom to define how you want to BE. Put your being before your doing and your having.

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The Real Deal with Candice Deal PAMPER YOUR PITS

BY CANDICE DEAL

The summer heat is on and so is the summer sweat. With temperatures at 90 and above, who isn’t dewy after fifteen minutes of being outside? Not to mention the humidity in the south that just adds to the glistening glow. Some of us are just naturally sweatier than others and I like to think that means our bodies are highly functional at providing our own natural air conditioning. After all, the body produces sweat to try to reduce the body’s temperature when it rises to a certain point. During your workout indoors, you are going to sweat once your body temperature rises - it’s our bodies’ way of thwarting the heat, no matter what source is bringing it on (nervous sweat, workout sweat, mother nature sweat).

While our foreheads sweat, they don’t quite bring on the aroma that your underarms might when you have been sweating for a long period of time. So, what do we do to prevent any odor that might offend our neighboring fellows? Well, throw on some deodorant or perhaps an antiperspirant to keep ourselves from even producing sweat.

Walk the aisle of the pharmacy and you will find a plethora of choices of deodorant and antiperspirants in all sorts of fragrances. You will also have some options on more natural choices, thank goodness, that don’t cost three times the price of the big-name brands.

A key ingredient in our traditional antiperspirants that keep our cooling system in check is aluminum. It seems odd that a metal substance would be put into a product that is supposed to make you feel and smell cleaner. It’s actually salts of aluminum that you will see on the labels with very long names like aluminum chloride, aluminum chlorohydrate or aluminum zirconium. It works by penetrating the skin and blocking your sweat glands, thus keeping you from producing any sweat. Top off the aluminum with that ambiguous ingredient “fragrance” and that is likely to be a cocktail of toxic chemicals.

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You may have heard that the aluminum in deodorant has been linked to breast cancer and Alzheimer’s disease. There’s conflicting evidence online, and to be honest, it’s hard to say if those rumblings are fact or fiction. Aluminum is, however, an ingredient that is well known for staining your clothes and it can even make you hotter when it intentionally clogs the pores to prevent nature’s cooling system in your body.

So, let’s look at some alternatives that could be safer for you in the long run, won’t interfere with your skin’s natural good bacteria biome and won’t leave you with those awful half moon stains on your shirts!

Baking soda: this is great for wicking away moisture without penetrating the skin and blocking your pores or your sweat glands.

It will also help thwart any offensive odor.

However, it does have a texture and if you have sensitive skin, it might be too harsh, especially if you have freshly shaved skin. A good practice with deodorants containing baking soda is to shave at night and apply your deodorant in the morning. If that’s still too harsh for you, there are other options.

Arrowroot powder and tapioca starch are some other great choices that have less texture than baking soda but still have moisture wicking power, odor absorbing properties and are not going to block your pores (and are certainly not a metallic ingredient).

If you are going to be using a more natural deodorant as part of your daily routine, you will want to find a scent that is pleasing to you. After all, your nose is closest to it all day! There are plenty of unscented options if that’s your preference but if you prefer a scent, many of the more natural deodorants are opting for fragrance from essential oils and ingredients like coconut oil and mango butter.

Some great brands to try with many options on ingredients and style (container or traditional stick) are Primally Pure, Native, Kompari, and Own Beauty.

If you want to make your own simple and natural pampering pit concoction: • 1/4 cup organic coconut oil • 1/8 cup baking soda or arrowroot powder • 30 drops of your favorite essential oils Warm the coconut oil in a double boiler; when liquified, add baking soda or arrowroot powder and stir until blended. Remove from heat, add in your oils, stir and pour into a lidded container.

Let cool slightly and stir again.

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Eight Great Movies

by The Sea As the hot summer days approach, your mind may wander to the seaside. Let the warmth of the sun, the sound of the waves, the beauty of the scenery, and your feet in the sand carry you away to your happy place.

These movie selections take place along sandy beaches or in the depths of the ocean.

There are love stories and sad stories and stories that may make you hold your breath in anticipation of what comes next. Hope you enjoy!

BY KAREN COOPER

JAWS (1975)

This 1975 classic has some of the best movie scenes (and lines) in all of movie history. “We’re gonna need a bigger boat.” It’s a classic summer beach movie…one that has probably made millions of viewers think twice before stepping into the ocean. The movie takes place in the New England tourist town of Amity Island. When a young woman is killed by a shark, police chief Martin Brody (Roy Scheider) is determined to close the beaches, but mayor Larry Vaughn (Murray Hamilton) overrules him, arguing the loss of tourist revenue could hurt the town. Fish expert Matt Hooper (Richard Dreyfuss) and surly ship captain Quint (Robert Shaw) offer to help Brody capture the killer shark, and the battle begins.

CAST AWAY (2000)

FedEx executive Chuck Noland (Tom Hanks) did not intend to spend several years alone on a deserted island, but as the sole survivor of a plane crash over the Pacific Ocean, that’s exactly what he did. Chuck makes the most of his time on the island, learning to make fire, fishing, attempting to build a raft, and protecting himself from the cruelties of nature. He is accompanied only by a picture of the woman he loves and his friend Wilson, a volleyball found in one of the packages that washes ashore. The suspense mounts as we wonder if Chuck will ever return to civilization.

BLUE LAGOON (1980)

This is a beautiful film, filled with breathtaking scenes and two gorgeous young actors just starting out in their careers. In a time that is unclear, two young children Emmeline (Brooke Shields) and Richard (Christopher Atkins) are stranded on an island with an old man named Paddy (Leo McKern) who helps care for them and show them how to survive. When Paddy dies, they are left to fend for themselves and learn how to live with no other guidance than just their own wits.

OPEN WATER (2004)

Daniel (Daniel Travis) and Susan (Blanchard Ryan) set off on a tropical vacation with their scuba-diving certifications ready to have a great adventure. As they’re diving, they separate from the group to explore a little further. This decision has grave consequences. The boat mistakenly departs without them and soon they are in sharkinfested waters with their chances of returning to shore safely growing smaller by the minute.

Not the adventure they were hoping for! This is a suspenseful, terrifying experience for the audience as well.

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NIGHTS IN RODANTHE (2008)

Adrienne Willis’s (Diane Lane) life is in chaos when she arrives in the coastal town of Rodanthe, N.C. She hopes to find peace and clarity while tending to a friend’s oceanside inn for the weekend. The only guest there is Dr. Paul Flanner (Richard Gere), a man with torments of his own. There is a storm approaching and Paul and Adrienne find comfort in one another’s presence that turns romantic. Based on a novel by Nicholas Sparks, the story draws us into this intense new romance of a divorced mother, and a divorced father and surgeon.

THE BEACH (2000)

Richard (Leonardo DiCaprio) is a young man who travels to Thailand and finds himself in possession of a strange map left by a man he meets at a hotel in Bangkok, which may lead to an isolated paradise…if you can find it. Based on a 1996 novel by Alex Garland, the movie version shows Richard and his friends who end up joining him in paradise discovering that things are not always as perfect as they may appear.

SIX DAYS AND SEVEN NIGHTS (1998)

Fashion editor Robin Monroe (Anne Heche) hires Quinn Harris (Harrison Ford), a bad-tempered pilot, to fly her to a work assignment from where she is vacationing with her boyfriend, Frank Martin (David Schwimmer) in the South Pacific. As luck would have it, they encounter a terrible storm and do not make it to their intended location. The unlikely pair must learn to work together if they hope for any chance of rescue.

FREE WILLY (1993)

12-year-old orphan Jesse (Jason James Richter) needs love and the security of a family. When he vandalizes a theme park, he is placed with a foster family and his punishment is to work at the park to make up for his mistake. When he finds out that a beloved young Orca whale is to be killed, the boy risks everything to set him free.

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Reassess, Refocus, Repurpose, & Reclaim Your Life: Make the Most of Mistakes that May be Blessings in Disguise

BY SUSAN BB SCHABACKER

Instead of labeling your life lessons as mistakes or failures, reflect on what went wrong, then improve your outlook and move forward. Sometimes it’s the setbacks that are setups for opportunities that can be blessings in disguise.

If you’ve been given some lemons or thrown some curveballs, no need to carry them with you. Make peace with what’s been; it’s in the past. You are fully capable of being the best version of you and living life to the fullest. Negative memories don’t have to hurt or haunt you. You can be free from them. Focus on living in the now and moving forward to embrace your full future - full of hope, opportunities, and blessings (including those in disguise).

Bad break-up getting you down? Financial constraints constraining you? Tired of being tired and burned out from bad burn out? Whatever your situation, start with your perspective and have patience piecing the puzzle together.

Use those lemons for anything lemony you like (like lemonade or lemon meringue). And, it’s not just the zest you can put to good use, but also the sour juice. You may feel like a rookie in the minor league with another off season, sidelined on the bench, but the more you practice batting, the less intimidating those curveballs will be. You just may hit a home run next time, but take it one bat at a time and one base at a time.

Affirm your power to overcome, moving forward from whatever or whomever held you back. Write positive affirmations and then say them aloud until you believe them. Speak from your heart. Affirm what will help your life improve and release what hinders it. Here is a guideline below, but tailor the words to your own life.

I know I’m not perfect and that’s perfectly okay. I am who I am and here I am now for a reason, accepting and appreciating myself as a whole. I choose to reclaim my life and let go of any source of negativity. I am empowered. I have the freedom to choose how I want to live my life and who I want to spend my time with. I make peace with what went wrong and choose to learn valuable life lessons from the experiences I’ve had. I choose a positive perspective and look for blessings in disguise.

I will stay full of love and acceptance of myself and others. I have faith things will improve and have hope now and for the future.

Write your affirmations down, which helps anchor them to your life, and then sign your name. Writing and speaking can be therapeutic.

Learn to express your feelings and emotions by letting them out instead of bottling them up to avoid internal combustion.

Like a pot of boiling water, contain the liquid with a lid and it keeps heating up. Eventually, it may boil over as the temperature and pressure increase. Inevitably, vapor or steam rise from the water, just as our feelings and emotions rise. Boiling water can scald and be hazardous to your health and safety. But, while boiling water could potentially burn, it can also make nutritiously delicious meals and soothing hot beverages.

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As you reflect on a bad experience, remember that it is in the past and envision what you wanted instead. Then ask yourself three basic questions: • What would be your ideal outcome for what happened?

• If you were able to go back and relive this, what might you have done differently?

• If a situation like this were to occur again, what steps might you take to have a more favorable outcome?

You can opt for a better outcome. While we aren’t in control of every aspect of our lives, we do have ultimate control over what we think and believe, which leads to how and what we communicate (what we say) and our actions (what we do).

Reassess, repurpose, and reclaim your life experience. This is your life, your time, and both are precious. It’s time to hit some home runs, so take all those lemons and get zesting!

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When Things Don’t Go as Planned

BY LESLIE SPEAS How did you imagine your life? Has it turned out differently than you expected? I feel sure that, for pretty much all of us, life hasn’t been exactly as we planned it. Mine certainly hasn’t been. But I know that it’s not my plan that prevails; it’s God’s plan. And our plans often do not align. I know His plan is better, but sometimes it doesn’t seem like it.

Here were a few of my plans: • To be rich and famous—kind of kidding here (I never thought I’d be rich and famous, but maybe richER) • To be home-free with parenting when the kids went off to college • To retire by the time I’m 60—probably not happening • To be well-traveled Here are some of the things that I DID NOT plan for: • Life being so hard • Life going by so fast • A failed marriage • A blended family with four kids— never imagined having more than two • A child who struggled through college with physical and mental challenges • My stepdaughter getting married to someone she knew for three months and not telling us until afterwards • Our kids getting five cats, five dogs, a bearded dragon, and a snake(Oh, and almost forgot a hedgehog) • Rainbow hair, piercings (lots of them), and tattoos • Having the “itises” in my back—arthritis and bursitis The list goes on, but I’ll stop there.

When things don’t go as we had planned or expected, we often experience disappointment. Disappointment is defined as the feeling of sadness or displeasure caused by the defeat of one’s hopes or expectations. Whether we like it or not, life should be less about what we desire and more about what God desires for us. Jesus prayed and asked God to spare Him from suffering on the cross, “Yet not my will, but yours be done” (Luke 22:42). Jesus wanted his father to take away his suffering but recognized that God’s will is what is most important. We should realize that God is working out a plan that is bigger than us and that will be better for us in the end.

These Scriptures tell us a little more about His plans for us: “My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord. “And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so my ways are higher than your ways and my thoughts higher than your thoughts. - Isaiah 55:8-9 “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord.

“They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope” - Jeremiah 29:11 When we experience disappointment, we may sometimes want to blame God. But God didn’t disappoint us; life’s circumstances and other people did. When something disappointing happens in our lives, it’s not a time to blame God; it’s a time to run to Him!

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Here are five positive ways that you can deal with disappointment: 1. Grieve and then release your disappointment to God You have experienced a loss, so you will likely need a period where you grieve the situation. Cry, exercise, read, take a trip, or whatever will make you feel better. Face your disappointment and then release it to God.

2. Pray Spend some time talking with God. Tell him how you are feeling and ask him to help you accept your circumstances and move forward with your life.

3. Assess and adjust your expectations Assess your situation and then try to readjust your expectations regarding the things you want in life.

Place your hope in God and ask Him to help you manage your expectations.

4. Don’t wallow in your disappointment Instead of wallowing in your disappointment, do something.

Help others, take up a new hobby, volunteer. If one dream dies, pick another one and keep moving forward.

In her book, It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way, Lysa TerKeurst says, “Sometimes to get your life back, you have to face the death of what you thought your life would look like.” Lysa explains in her book that the human heart was created in the context of perfection in the Garden of Eden.

We certainly don’t live there now.

We live in a broken world where we aren’t promised everything we want.

God knows what is best for us, and He will deliver us.

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5 Things To Do In Your Slow Season to Increase Sales

If you are experiencing a slow season in your business this summer, please know you are not alone, but more importantly you are still in control of the success of your business. Instead of hitting the panic button, take time to step back and be intentional about where your efforts are going this month so you can make the impact your business deserves.

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This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Here are five things you can get started doing now.

#1 FOCUS ON EXISTING & PAST CUSTOMERS

Bringing in new customers shouldn’t always be the focus. According to American Express, “the success rate of selling to a customer you already have is 60-70%, while the success rate of selling to a new customer is 5-20%.” Take time to review your customer records and create specific outreach to these people in your slow season. Create special alumni or returning offers, check in to see if they need anything, remind them that you’re there! Consider sending a referral incentive for them recommending people to your business and booking or purchasing with you.

#2 SHOW OFF WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING

Get credit for the work you’re doing! You want to showcase what it’s like to work with you by sharing customer testimonials! If it’s been a little while since you reached out to previous customers for a review, make the time and send out requests. Make it easy on the recipient by sharing a direct link to where you want them to leave the review and consider asking them to answer a specific question or two that helps you get the answer you are looking for. Once you have your reviews you can share them in a multitude of ways to leverage their worth.

Include them on social media, your website, in a service or pricing guide, or even attached in an email.

#3 POLL YOUR AUDIENCE & CUSTOMER BASE

If you are feeling frustrated by your sales right now, perhaps it’s time to ask the people what they want! Feel empowered by polling or surveying your audience in your slower seasons

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to learn what your customers need and want!

You can create a few quick Instagram Story slides that ask “yes” or “no” questions, include quizzes or ask your followers to follow a link to a Google Form or other online survey you create. Take the opportunity to ask helpful questions that you can use to formulate a new offer or tweak existing ones. Maybe there’s a new product idea you’re thinking about or an event you want to host? Help validate your idea before wasting time on it.

#4 HOME IN ON WHAT’S WORKING Stay the course. Not the easiest advice when you feel like the ship is sinking, but hear me out. A lot of business owners will attempt to pivot during their slow seasons. They’ll add new services that they don’t even want to offer, simply out of obligation to try to bring in profit. Instead, take time to review your previous sales quarters and look at what has been working. Take inventory of where sales are still coming in, and that may be

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#5 TAKE TIME FOR INTENTIONAL REST It can be difficult to stay positive during your slow season and while you may be tempted to work even harder to increase business, don’t be fooled.

This time can often be a blessing, not a curse.

Carve out intentional time to rest while you have the chance and allow yourself to do it guilt-free. If you are looking to stay productive, intentionally step back from specific areas of your that where you can, and focus your time towards skills you want to develop. This could be the opportune month to join a mastermind or enroll in a course you’ve had your eye on. No matter what, schedule some time to focus on what you need in your slow season and you will truly come back stronger.

This month’s challenge is to choose two things from the list to commit to implementing in your business plan. Write them down on a sticky note or add it to your planner and choose some intentional time over the next few days to address them. Believe that the next strongest season of your business is just around the corner.

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A Visit to the “Root Cellar”

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I was in a funk the other day.

Well, it wasn’t a day…more like three weeks. I wasn’t depressed, just out-of-sorts and unsettled. I played the blame game, blaming it on the weather, then on the fact that I pulled my back most inconveniently while doing something that was “good for me.” When it became clear that I wasn’t getting anywhere on that track, I shifted to a more stoical you’re just going through a phase form of self-talk. At least that was a nod toward self-compassion, right? Except that it didn’t work either.

I understood then that a trip down to the root cellar was in order. Maybe you’ve been there. It’s dark, dank, and messy. It’s also necessary.

I spent some time there amongst my old familiars sorting through the seeds of my discontent, rediscovering some cast aside seeds of joy, and seeking answers. There is no timer or stopwatch for a trip like this, but I knew when it was time to head back. I simply knew. It wasn’t like flipping an On/Off switch or automatically turning over a new leaf. Because when you do the hard work, it doesn’t work like that. Emerging with clarity and a sense of my funk lifting, I made a few specific choices: • I would own what was bothering me.

I wouldn’t discount or minimize it, regardless of how uncomfortable it made me feel.

• I’d try hard not to judge myself for the thoughts and emotions I preferred to deny. I’ll spare you the specifics; I imagine you have your own.

• I’d reconcile myself with choices made and chances missed. And, most importantly: • I’d refocus my energy on what I COULD do something about instead of falling back into that funk. Thank you, seeds of joy!

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And then I got moving, literally. I pulled on my cap and leapt outdoors. I looked up with gratitude for the beautiful day and the birdsong that accompanied my steps.

I accessed the song that lives in my own heart and started to hum along with it, right out loud.

To the beat of that tune, I reshuffled things in my heart and identified the four specific priorities I would recommit to.

Doing so grounded me and fired me up – what a combo!

And when I returned to my own front door – refreshed and renewed – I decided to celebrate my root cellar triumph by doing some “physical” rooting out: • I piled up books from another chapter in my life and put them aside for donation.

• I reorganized my capsule closet rack to feature the clothes that bring me the most joy.

• I pulled a few crystal glasses to the front of a cupboard shelf so that I could delight in them every day.

• I fluffed the somewhat ratty cushions on the veranda and brought out a few magazines to enjoy before dinner.

And so it went. It felt great.

A few days later, I shared the story of my root cellar trip with one of my besties, someone I knew would “get” the significance of that journey.

This wasn’t about having an “accountability partner.” It was about acknowledging complexities of the soul that are often left unspoken. And then we sat a while, taking in the beauty of a late Saturday afternoon, enjoying the gurgle of a peaceful fountain, and appreciating the root cellar, knowing that regardless of what we discover there, light and love await us when we reemerge. All we need to do is to reach out for it.

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Patiently Rooted

BY KELLI MESSICK, OWNER OF PATIENTLY ROOTED

Hi, plant friends! My name is Kelli and my goal is to help more people become plant people and see all the amazing benefits plants can bring to your life. As the founder and owner of Patiently Rooted, a company dedicated to spreading the word about the benefits of plants, I have always had a love of nature and plants, and now I want to share my obsession with other people.

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Trailing plants are the perfect addition to any space. They add the perfect amount of color and greenery and are very simple to take care of. Most trailing or climbing plants have similar care and that is they love to be left alone and do their thing, which is to grow! You will most likely see these types of plants on bookshelves with their leaves dangling down, but they can also learn to climb things like trellises.

As long as you give the new growth support, these plants will thrive just about anywhere.

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One of my favorites is the Marble Pothos, these plants have beautiful leaves that are always a surprise when they start to sprout. They are usually white and green but sometimes have completely white leaves! They love either shade or part-sun and like to be watered when the soil is completely dry, so around every 2-3 weeks. I keep mine in the shower and it thrives off of the humidity.

Another great trailing plant is the Lipstick Zebra Vine. These are great if you don’t have a lot of light in the space because they love the shade. These have beautifully colored leaves that mimic a zebra design on the top and bottom of them. If you care for them the right way, they will even bloom for you. They love to be watered when they are dry or about every two weeks depending on the environment you put them in.

A more rare trailing or climbing plant is the Monstera Adansonii Swiss Cheese. These get their name from the holes in their leaves that resemble swiss cheese. These grow quickly and can adapt to almost any environment. They love the sun and they love the shade, and you only have to water them about every 2-3 weeks or when their soil is completely dry. These plants will tell you when they are thirsty because their leaves will actually droop and look unhappy. After giving them a good drink of water, they will perk right back up!

BASIC CARE TIPS If you have been following along from my other blog posts, the most basic care tip I can give people for their plants is not to overwater. Always check to make sure the plant isn’t sitting in water, and don’t give them more if their soil is still wet. If you overwater a plant it is harder to bring them back to life because the roots might already be rotting. It is much easier to bring a plant back from underwatering because they are only dry and just need a good soaking.

When checking to see if your plant needs water, I would stick to a schedule. Stick your finger in the soil about every 1.5-2 weeks and if it is still moist or wet, wait to water them! If no soil is on your finger when you pull it out, then it is time to water your plants.

Once you get them on a schedule they will thrive and you will get into a rhythm of taking care of them. It definitely takes practice so don’t get discouraged if you kill a plant or two, but I find it soothing to check on them and see what they are up to and if they have any new growth I can admire.

Plants can always help complete your space and help you learn some patience along the way.

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WOMEN ON THE MOVE HANNAH CALLAWAY

Hannah Callaway is a seasoned marketing and communications professional dedicated to developing strategic content to positively expand the reach and reputation for the brands she serves. In her role as the director of marketing and communications for Reynolda House and Reynolda Gardens, Hannah is responsible for creating and implementing all marketing and communications activities for Reynolda House Museum of American Art, Reynolda Gardens and the Reynolda brand. Prior to Reynolda, Hannah served as the associate director of digital media for the University of North Carolina School of the Arts (UNCSA). At UNCSA, Hannah oversaw comprehensive digital strategy including content development, website enhancements and optimization, social media outreach and feature story development for the university’s magazine, Scene. Hannah has also worked in communications and social media management for Salem Academy and College and Market America, Inc. She has a bachelor’s degree in communication studies with a minor in English from Appalachian State University. Hannah lives in Advance with her husband, Brandon, and enjoys traveling, cooking and learning French in her spare time.

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Sarah Diamont earned her bachelor’s degree in communications from Appalachian State University. She’s spent the last six years of her career at Atrium Health Wake Forest Baptist. Sarah was the social media manager for Wake Forest Baptist Health for five years before taking a position in the Office of Philanthropy and Alumni Relations in 2021, where she is the campaign and communications manager.

“I love being in a position where I can share the impact our donors and community have on our patients and families,” she said. “As a non-profit organization, we rely on donations; they allow us to provide high-quality care, conduct lifesaving led research and offer leading medical education.” Most recently, Sarah lead the marketing efforts for the inaugural SummerLark benefit concert in Bailey Park. “The event benefited our Cancer Patient Support Program, and the goal is to ensure No One Faces Cancer alone,” said Sarah. “I am honored to be a part of a team that brought this event to our community for a wonderful cause and for the community’s support to make it happen.” In her spare time, she enjoys spending time with her husband, Sam, and daughters, Collins (5), Ella (1) and cockapoo, Lilly. “We enjoy time spent at the pool, river or beach,” said Sarah. “And, we love a good dance party in the kitchen.”

ALEXIA MITCHELL

Alexia Mitchell is the owner of Reset and Heal, LLC which was founded after her mother unexpectedly passed from Covid in 2020. “My life immediately halted and shifted when my mother transitioned,” said Alexia. Reset and Heal’s mission is to fill organizational and industry gaps as it relates to wellness and mental health. Alexia is a therapist, yoga teacher as well as a certified birth worker. She also has a master’s degree in social work. She is passionate about destigmatizing mental health in the minority community by providing therapeutic groups, camps and workshops.

Healing looks different for everyone, and Reset and Heal share healing space in different facets and ways. Additionally, it provides advocacy as it relates to black maternal health. Black women are three times more likely to die from a pregnancy related issue than any other race. In her spare time, Alexia enjoys going to local coffee shops, specifically ByGood Coffee, getting massages, shopping at local boutiques, supporting small businesses and being an active volunteer in her community. She loves spending time with her husband, Hasani, and her three children, Khristian, Hasani, Jr. and Kai.

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APRIL MULLENAUX

April Mullenaux is the owner of April Mullenaux Real Estate with RE/MAX Realty Consultants.

After retiring from her career as a registered dental hygienist, April wanted to start her own company in the Real Estate Industry to help buyers and sellers combat this challenging market. April’s business has been very successful in a short period of time. She set the record in her office her first year, thus receiving the rookie of the year award out of nearly 300 agents. In her spare time, she enjoys hiking, cake decorating, sewing, interior/exterior home design and setting up free client events to give back to her community. April also enjoys teaching classes at her company and surrounding real estate firms to give back the knowledge she has received. April served time on the Agent Leadership Committee helping to lead her office in the new technology launch in 2020. She also enjoys spending time with her fur babies, Benny and Frank.

VICTORIA PARRISH

Victoria Parrish is the founder and owner of Lashtastic Lounge, a business with a mission to bring the inner beauty that each woman who walks through the Lashtastic doors embodies to their own awareness. “Lashtastic Lounge began from a desire to create a space for women to express their feminine side fully and unapologetically,” said Victoria. “Modern-day women are tasked with so much from being the center of home life to providing for their families in emotional, spiritual and often financial needs, and on top of all of that – we’re supposed to also exude femininity. Each woman is unique in how her beauty is expressed, and the results-driven services provided here at Lashtastic Lounge allow each and every single woman to unleash her own unique femininity.”

Victoria also strives to help out her local community through her business.

“We love to give back in any way possible,” said Victoria. “We have been a sponsor for local elementary schools, doing giveaways for them as well. We are partnering with the Bright Beginnings Program through the Chamber of Commerce in Kernersville for local schools to have the supplies they need. We have partnered with The Beauty of Hope – where they donate 10% of revenue to help fight against human trafficking. Every year, we host a charitable donation for the local Women’s Shelter, having fun giveaways for our clients to partake in.” And, this is just the beginning. In her spare time, Victoria enjoys spending time with her supportive husband and her two children, 5 and 3.

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Kim Lewis is the owner of Lillie Dimple, a matching family apparel brand that helps moms create memories with their kids. “I create unique t-shirt designs and offer them in around 20 different colors, all available in sizes from infant to adult 4XL,” said Kim. “I make the shirts to order all in a 10x10 room in our house, with help from my husband and our two sons. Lillie Dimple shirts are perfect for announcing a new baby, a mommy and me trip to the park, or to celebrate a birthday. We make the shirts, so you can make the memories.”

Kim is a corporate manager turned entrepreneur who has created a successful e-commerce business in the midst of a global pandemic. “I’ve been forced to be innovative, creative and push my own limits in order to enter and succeed in a new space, relying on research and knowledge transfer from my newfound friends in the industry,” said Kim. “In my spare time, I enjoy going to the pool, watching my son, Lennox, work on his taekwondo, or my oldest son, Justice, play basketball. I also enjoy hanging out with family and traveling.”

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AUGUST 5-7 DISC GOLF Disc Golf and the “Hek Yeh Putter Party” returns to Truist Stadium! The Hek Yeh Putter Party is a premier disc golf/baseball stadium experience and competition. Participants have the chance to compete for 18 holes on our 9-hole temporary course designed in and around all of Truist Stadium including the playing field. The final hole has competitors teeing off from deep second base toward home plate to an Innova DISCatcher or basket. Each night includes 10 raffle prizes and cash prizes for the top 20% of the field, and a Gold Record Trophy for the best score. Tee times are available for groups of eight or fewer with groups teeing off every 10 minutes. First timers and experienced players welcome!

Advance tickets are $20/person.

AUGUST 6 BLUE JEAN MOBILE BOUTIQUE POP UP @ REMEDY APOTHECARY 11am-5pm, Remedy Apothecary, 4725 Yadkinville Road in Pfafftown. Blue Jean’s mobile fashion truck “Dolly” will be popping up for an afternoon of shopping fun at Remedy Apothecary.

AUGUST 7 JAZZ WITH WORDS 7:30pm, Piedmont Music Center, 212 North Broad Street in W-S. Jazz songs with poignant and evocative lyrics, including, “Is That Jazz,” by Gil ScottHeron, “Lush Life,” by Billy Strayhorn and more. Cost: $26/person. app.artspeople.com/index.php?show=140749

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AUGUST 9 LORENA GUILLÉN TANGO ENSEMBLE 7:30pm, Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, 251 North Spruce Street in W-S. The awardwinning Lorena Guillén Tango Ensemble captivates audiences with soulful arrangements of Argentine tango standards and original compositions that create a dynamic pan-Latin fusion. Cost: $26/person. app.artspeople. com/index.php?show=140614

AUGUST 11 KIDS’ EVENING OUT 6-7:30pm, Sunrise Disc Golf, 1111 LewisvilleClemmons Road in Lewisville. Join us for an evening of fun at the Sunrise Disc Golf course!

Never played, never fear! We’ll have a practice basket set up with some great coaches willing to help you get on your way to a great family fun activity! Free event for kids of all ages. And as always, each adult also receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings.

AUGUST 12 FITNESS FRIDAYS 5:30-6pm, F45 Training Winston-Salem, 486 N Patterson Avenue, Suite 125. Join F45 Training WSNC and Innovation Quarter for our free workouts every second Friday of the month April-October 2022 in the Bailey Power Plant Coal Pit! Drink ticket to Incendiary included with registration. All abilities welcome; open to the public. Must register to secure your spot; they go quickly, so make sure to act fast! Please bring a mat water bottle and sweat towel.

Registration: bit.ly/F45WSNCFITNESSFRIDAY.

AUGUST 13 FLOWER ARRANGING WORKSHOP 10am, Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield. Learn the basics of flower arranging; Margie will guide you through what it takes to create a beautiful, seasonal flower arrangement. Join us for a fun morning on the farm! Learn what it takes to create a beautiful, seasonal flower arrangement; from growing, cutting and processing your flowers to designing your arrangement.

Everyone will enjoy a tour of Minglewood’s pollinator garden and create their own arrangement to take home. All materials are provided. eventbrite.com/o/minglewoodfarm-and-nature-preserve-17188338999

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LASER EXTRAVAGANZA: FLOYD AND ZEPPELIN 6:30-9:30pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. We threw back to the ’90s with Lasers and Libations, so in August we’re going even farther in the Wayback Machine!

Save the Date for the last in our summer series of Laser Extravaganzas: Floyd and Zeppelin, a ’70s themed party for adults. Dig out the flower power headbands, tie-dye, platform shoes and bell bottoms. Then head to Kaleideum North for beer, brisket and two classic psychedelic rock laser shows. Radar Brewing Company is setting up a cash/credit bar at the event for beer purchases. Honkey Tonk Smokehouse is catering with smoked brisket, chicken sandwiches, sides and desserts. Event tickets include museum exploration, food, ’70s-themed arts and crafts and the hour-long laser shows of the best hits of Led Zeppelin and Pink Floyd.

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BOSSA NOVA WITH MARTHA BASSETT’S QUARTETO BRASIL 7:30pm, Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, 251 North Spruce Street in W-S. Martha Bassett, Russell Kelly and friends performing Brazilian bossa nova from the 1950s and 60s. The ensemble shares the histories and translations of songs sung in Portuguese accompanied by two guitars. Cost: $26/person. app.arts-people.com/index. php?show=140750

AUGUST 14 THE PIEDMONT JAZZ COMPOSERS COLLECTIVE 7:30pm, Piedmont Music Center, 212 North Broad Street in W-S. Featuring the original compositions of five local jazz musicians, arranged for jazz quintet. Cost: $26/person. app.arts-people.com/index. php?show=140752

AUGUST 18 MIX AND MINGLE 6-9pm, Bar NOLA, 1151 Canal Drive, Suite 105 in W-S. Join us (The Go-To Winston-Salem) at Bar NOLA for drinks, a charcuterie grazing table, a photo booth and an interactive game to meet new friends. Cost: $40/person.

AUGUST 19 THE WARP TRIO 7:30pm, Milton Rhodes Center for the Arts, 251 North Spruce Street in W-S. The New York-based Warp Trio will present “Black Voices,” a multidisciplinary performance that integrates Classical, Jazz, Hip-Hop and Spoken Word, presenting works all created by African-American artists. Cost: $26/person. app.arts-people.com/index. php?show=140766

AUGUST 20 TODDLER TREK 10am, Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield. Are you ready to take your toddler on an outdoor adventure? Join us for Toddler Trek where we will read a story, smell fresh herbs from the garden, investigate specimens up close from the natural world and explore the great outdoors. This program is donation-based. Thank you for your support! Even the smallest donations can make a difference. Visit our website to learn more about our mission and upcoming opportunities (minglewoodpreserve.org). Please register all participants attending (adults and children). eventbrite. com/o/minglewood-farm-andnature-preserve-17188338999

PETER AND THE WOLF: A FREE FAMILY CONCERT 3pm, SECCA Auditorium, 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. Enjoy the classic tale in its chamber music version and up-close to the musicians! Reserve your free tickets here: app.arts-people. com/index.php?show=140768

AUGUST 20-27 THE WINSTON-SALEM OPEN Wake Forest Tennis Complex, 100 West 32nd Street in W-S. The Winston-Salem Open is a charitable non-profit whose proceeds benefit many in the local community. The primary charitable partner is the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Schools middle school athletic programs. The Winston-Salem Open proceeds helped bring back crosscountry programs and expand tennis to all of the middle schools in Forsyth County. Tickets are as low as $10. winstonsalemopen.com

AUGUST 21-28 F45 TRAINING WINSTON-SALEM FREE WEEK OF TRAINING F45 Training Winston-Salem, 486 N Patterson Avenue, Suite 125. Join F45 Training Winston-Salem for a free week of training! It’s your opportunity to bring friends, family or your favorite workout partner to workout with you for free, all week long! All non-members must email the studio to register in order to book their preferred class(es).

AUGUST 22-OCTOBER 1 F45 TRAINING WINSTON-SALEM CHALLENGE F45 Training Winston-Salem, 486 N Patterson Avenue, Suite 125. Fitness.

Nutrition. Accountability: 6-week challenge to bring together exercise and nutrition to help you meet your goals. This is an opportunity to combine your fitness journey with a nutritional guideline to help each participant reach his or her goals. We will be offering pre, mid and post goal meetings with our coaches. This challenge provides all meal plans (mainstream, vegan and vegetarian), and recipes are delicious!

If you’re ready to kick start your health, this is a great opportunity. All fitness abilities welcome! Please email the studio for additional information.

AUGUST 27 F45 TRAINING END OF MONTH BASH 8-10am, F45 Training Winston-Salem, 486 N Patterson Avenue, Suite 125. Join us for F45 WSNC end of month bash featuring live DJ and vendors! Let’s get the party started team! We are so excited to be bringing back a DJ, to support our local vendors as part of our F45 WSNC Member Perks Program shop local campaign. Members, book into your classes on Mindbody; non-members must register to be guaranteed a drop-in spot – please book on eventbright: bit.ly/F45WSNCEOM.

PIEDMONT OPERA 7:30pm, Calvary Moravian Church, 600 Holly Avenue in W-S. An annual favorite with Maestro James Allbritten and artists from the Piedmont Opera. Cost: $26/person. app. arts-people.com/index.php?show=140769

FUTURE SEPTEMBER 16-17 2022 JOYTIME WOMEN’S RETREAT Church on 68, 300 NC 68 in Greensboro. Women from across the Triad and beyond are invited to this two-day retreat that will feature Christian author, speaker and radio personality Dr. Joy Green and lead singer of the awardwinning band Big Daddy Weave, Mike Weaver. The topic of the event will be “steadfast faith.” Tickets for the retreat are $22-$44/person and can be purchased through eventbrite.com.

OCTOBER 1 2022 TOUR DE BOUTIQUE $40 includes a swag bag with an exclusive FW gift just for you! You’ll receive door prize tickets, and the more stores you visit on the tour, the more opportunities you’ll have to win! Also, every store on the trip is going to have special sales, exclusive to Forsyth Woman’s Tour de Boutique shoppers! Grab your mom, your sister, your co-workers, your best friends, your neighbor and join us for another shop-til-you-drop adventure! Shop ‘til you drop, stimulate the local economy...even get a jump start on your Christmas shopping! Then, wait for us to call you to tell you if you won any prizes throughout the day! *Winners notified by October 4th. Register at tinyurl. com/2022TDB.

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Conversations with Your BFF Just to recap last month’s discussion on the topic of closure, from the perspective of it’s not always possible or needed, this month I’m playing devil’s advocate and looking at closure, focusing on why we do need it and how to get that elusive ending of a relationship. So, how do you get closure if you believe you absolutely need it? I am so glad you asked!

CLOSURE CAN BE NEEDED IN MANY RELATIONSHIPS Anytime there’s an ending to a significant piece of your life, whether that’s a relationship, job, or stage of life, moving on can be difficult and painful.

Closure means letting go of what was - of something or someone who was important in your life at one point.

People talk about ‘finding closure’ rather flippantly at times, but that statement implies an acceptance of what has happened and an honoring of the transition of the next step, from what’s finished to something new. There are a few steps that professionals suggest to get the closure process started and move through it to a new beginning.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR PART IN THE SITUATION It is ultimately up to you to make the decision to move forward and away from the ending. This is going to take some self-dialogue, maybe a list of the pros and cons of what has happened.

Ask yourself …

• What or whom are you holding onto and why?

• Does holding on make you happy, or are you hanging on to a situation or person because of what you wished was the case and not reality?

• Are you ‘holding on’ because you feel safe in what you know and the unknown of the future is scary?

• If you are willing to let go, what does that mean or look like moving forward?

• What do you believe will happen if you let go and are you ok with the options ahead?

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‘What is Closure?’ Part II

BY REBECCA COOPER

GRIEVE THE LOSS AT YOUR OWN PACE Take your time in grieving what you are seeking closure for because there’s no rush. Don’t listen to those who say ‘just get over it.’ However, grieving shouldn’t go on for years - that is called being ‘stuck’ and that isn’t healthy.

We’ve all heard of people having ‘unfinished business,’ so to move on you need to resolve and finish, tying up the loose ends of your situation.

GET YOUR FEET UNDER YOU AND RELY ON YOUR STRENGTHS When coming out of an emotional situation or relationship, you may feel down on yourself, so make yourself focus on your positives, like your strengths, talents, gifts, and assets.

Surround yourself with people who know you well and encourage you in this journey. Assess where you can make positive life changes and focus on the here and now, not too much looking into the future.

MAKE A PLAN FOR THE DAYS TO COME Make a concerted effort to determine what’s most important for you moving forward. If necessary, reorder your priorities to allow yourself to explore different possibilities and opportunities that may present themselves to you. Be open to trying new things and if they don’t work out, move on because at least you gave it a go!

Finding closure allows you to move into your future, not held back with the past and optimistic about the next chapter in life. Hopefully, in the end, you will have learned something valuable from all of the events and people in your life that have been significant in some way, even if they didn’t work out as you thought they would.

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