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PUBLISHER Brooke Eagle Brooke@ForsythMags.com

The Publisher Perspective

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t is my absolute honor to be the brand new publisher of Forsyth Woman!

If you’ve been a longtime reader of the magazine, you know that Keela (past publisher and also my amazing mom) isn’t going far! She’s simply taking a step back and enjoying more lake time with my dad. This magazine has been her baby for the last 15 years and she will always be involved with it somehow – and I wouldn’t dream of having it any other way!

I have to admit that I struggled a bit to write this initial letter as your new publisher. I want to kick this September issue off with a BANG and write something that really resonates with you, our amazing readers.

An entrepreneur that I follow and have a huge amount of respect for posted something the other day that really got me thinking. Her name is Jill Coleman (read the full post on her Instagram account, @jillfit) and she wrote about trust and how she experiences a whole lot more joy in life when she trusts. Trusts that she’s doing her best and that others are, too; trusts that she can always learn more and that every single person has something to teach her; trusts that every choice and action she takes is moving her closer or further away from the person she wants to be. These are simple, yet profound, lessons for all of us.

I have a growth mindset and believe strongly that you should surround yourself with people who are constantly searching for growth and becoming the best they can be.

Whether that’s in the gym, in your career or in your relationships… always. be. growing.

And trust that you will grow if you set your mind to learning from others and doing your best. The one thing most every person I choose to associate with has in common with me is that growth mindset. I surround myself with people who are constantly growing and becoming better versions of themselves.

It is no different for this magazine. I want nothing more than to see Forsyth Woman (and the Forsyth Magazines brand family) continue to grow. Not just in page count, but in other ways, too: bringing community awareness to important issues, raising funds for nonprofits, helping small businesses grow, bringing our community together through events, and being a local resource for light and positivity. The trajectory on which my mom put Forsyth Woman 15 years ago was one of celebration – of women, of local businesses, of community and charity, and of a passion for personal growth. I am humbled to have been chosen to continue along this path that she forged, and pledge to faithfully adhere to the original goals and ideals of the magazine she created, established and loved.

So I encourage you – each and every one of you – to do the work to adapt to a growth mindset, and if you already have one, I encourage you to get to growing! Let’s finish out this last quarter of the year saying we grew in some special way.

I hope you enjoy this issue that our team worked tirelessly to put together! We love what we do and we love hearing from you! Share an article you love on your Facebook page, visit a new business you see featured in these pages or check out our Forsyth Magazines podcast (a new episode releases every Thursday!).

If you have feedback for us, or just want to say hello, we’d love to hear from you!

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Keeping It Real THE OTHER SIDE

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

To make matters worse…Jesus was snoozing! We can imagine their thoughts, can’t we?

“How can He doze when the boat is plummeting?”

“Does He not even care that we’re going to die?!”

“If Jesus knows all things, why would He have instructed us to even be in this freaking boat?!”

So much panic. So many problems.

They frantically awaken Jesus with a thrashing, “Don’t you even care that we’re drowning?!” Jesus didn’t react to their accusatory tone. He simply said to the wind and waves, “Be still!” (That’s it!) SUDDENLY, calm laid on that ferocious water like a father’s hand resting on a disruptive child! It was that easy, that abrupt!

Jesus looked at them to ask, “Where is your faith?” These men had witnessed Jesus’ miracle-working power time and again.

Friends, we’ve witnessed His miracle-working power time and again. Yet, when the next storm seeks to capsize our boat, why is the first thing we scream, “Jesus, don’t You even care?”

The problem is, we focus on the wrong thing. We fixate on the storm. Jesus remains focused on “the other side.”

As we stand smack in the middle of a time like no other, I keep hearing, “We’re all in the same boat.” While I get what folks are saying, it’s not exactly true.

We are all in the same storm, but we are NOT all in the same boat.

Unlike previous times in our history, we don’t have the luxury of gleaning wisdom from mentors who wrestled with similar experiences. No one we know has been here. We’re in this storm together!

Whether we like it or not, life’s storms are inevitable. Jesus said, “In this life you will face trouble.” (John 16:33) Certainly, we recall times when our choices created our storms. (Been there, done that!) But, for the most part, we don’t get to choose our storms. They tend to spin headlong into our carefully laid plans. We DO, however, get to choose our boat!

Friends, it’s all about the boat we choose, not the storm!

Jesus got into the boat with His fishermen friends to get to “the other side.”

(Mark 4:35-41) The hovering dark clouds did not faze these experts as they pushed away from shore. But, once the violence of the storm surpassed their skillset, they realized they, the conquerors, were about to be conquered.

He knows so well that storms will inevitably assail us. The determining factor in getting to “the other side” of where you presently stand is NOT the ferocity of the storms you face, but the boat you choose.

I’m watching people I love row out into the deep in boats piloted by politics, while others are engulfed in boats steered by constant media sound bites. It’s no wonder so many folks find themselves afraid, angry, depressed.

If you knew what awaited you “on the other side” of this turbulence, you would choose the boat where the Peace Speaker dwells. He’s so certain of your arrival to the other side that He actually rests in the thick of this storm. He wants you to trust His ability to get you there so that you can rest, too.

Jesus said, “In this life, you are going to face trouble. But, take heart! I’ve conquered the world.” (John 16:33) Friends, choose your boat wisely. Don’t be so eager to jump on everyone else’s boats. If you’re prepared to stand out, I promise you, you’ll make it through this storm to “the other side” of this mayhem where the next great chapter of your life awaits! If you choose the One who rests even in the storm, you will be able to rest in it, too. No kidding!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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The beginning of the school year tends to be a hectic time for parents, even without adding a pandemic to the mix.

We know you have a lot on your minds, so we wanted to remind you of one of the most important items in readying your children for the coming school year. Parents want their children to achieve at the highest level. In order to do this, a child needs many abilities – SIGHT being one of the most important.

It has been estimated that 80% of the learning a child does occurs through his or her eyes. Vision is in constant use in classrooms, both virtual and in-person.

If a child has poor vision, academic and sporting activities can suffer.

When vision is impaired, children tend to not pay attention in class due to not being able to see the whiteboard, and they may not complete homework due to fatigue or blurring of the pages. This contributes to poor participation, poor grades, and added stress for the child and the parent.

We often think that 20/20 vision is all there is to an eye examination. Many children will pass vision screenings at their pediatrician’s office, thus hiding underlying vision problems.

There are many other visual skills beyond seeing clearly that should work together for great vision. Every child needs to have: • Visual Acuity – Ability to see clearly near (reading a book), intermediate (computer screen), and distance (reading the whiteboard). As mentioned above, a vision screening at your pediatrician’s office is not sufficient for a child.

• Eye Focusing – Ability to focus quickly when viewing objects at different distances in rapid succession (reading a book to focusing on the whiteboard).

• Eye Tracking – Ability to keep the eyes on target when looking from across a printed page or following a thrown ball.

• Eye Teaming – Ability to coordinate and use both eyes together.

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• Eye-Hand Coordination – Ability to use the visual information and direct the hands (drawing a picture or throwing a ball).

Parents with virtual learners take note! Many studies show that dry eye can increase while doing near work, such as reading or playing on the iPad/digital device. This causes eye strain, as well as contributing to dry eye disease.

It is imperative that children (and adults) take breaks while using their eyes. A good rule is every 20 minutes, take 20 seconds, and look 20 feet away. This helps to relax the eyes.

If any one skill is missing, the child can suffer from eye fatigue, headaches, poor grades, and even be misdiagnosed with learning disabilities.

Some signs that may indicate a child is experiencing visual problems include, but are not limited to, rubbing the eyes, excessive blinking of the eyes, short attention span, hyperactivity, headaches, holding reading materials too close to face, an eye turning in or out, complaints of double vision and many more.

To be sure your child has all the “supplies” for the new school year, call your eye care provider and schedule that pre-school eye examination. Let’s help them succeed to their highest capability.

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Double Chocolate Olive Oil Zucchini Muffins

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

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Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a college student, freelance writer, and foodie. From running around as a child with the native tribes of Panama to down-home cooking in Tuscany, Italy, my recipes will give you a taste of the world. My favorite part is seeing the smile that homecooked meals put on peoples’ faces as they enjoy the farm-fresh flavors from the very first bite. With extra inspiration by local farmers markets across the USA from Seattle, Washington to the Carolinas, the possibilities are endless. Stick around to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

Prep Time Cook Time Total Time Servings 10 minutes

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27 minutes

Ingredients:

Instructions:

1 3/4 cup oat flour, or all-purpose flour

1. Preheat oven to 425F.

1/3 cup cocoa powder 1 tsp. baking powder 1/2 tsp. baking soda 2 tbsp. flaxseed meal (or substitute with 1 small egg) 1/8 tsp. kosher salt 3 tbsp. olive oil 1/3 cup maple syrup, or honey 1 1/4 cup zucchini, grated 1/3 cup applesauce 1 cup almond milk 1/2 cup dark or semisweet chocolate chips, preferably mini

2. In a medium-sized bowl, whisk together the flaxseed meal with two tablespoons of warm water. Chill in the fridge for 10 minutes to thicken.

3. In the meantime, whisk together the flour, cocoa powder, baking soda, baking powder, and salt in a separate bowl.

4. Add in the maple syrup, shredded zucchini, applesauce, almond milk, olive oil, and vanilla extract into the flaxseed bowl. Mix well.

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5. Pour the wet zucchini mixture over the flour mixture, add in the chocolate chips, then fold to incorporate all ingredients together.

6. Evenly pour the batter into 10-12 lined cupcake or muffin pan.

Bake for 5 minutes.

Keep the muffins in the oven!

7. Reduce the oven temperature to 350F, then bake for an additional 12-13 minutes, or until a toothpick comes clean from the center.

8. Allow the muffins to cool for at least 5 minutes in the pan, then completely on a baking rack.

1-2 tsp. vanilla extract We hope you enjoy this easy recipe that is rich with chocolatey goodness and decadent for a midday pick-me-up!

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BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

This column is dedicated to uplifting incredible women that might not be featured in the local news about their accomplishments.

These are abridged versions of these incredible women; please find them and ask them more!

DANA MOODY

TAMIKA WELLS

What makes you YOU?

What makes you YOU?

The first impression most people have when they meet me is that I am awkward in just about every way imaginable, and I’m super quiet. Once you get to know me you’ll see that I am a treasure trove of bad puns, random geek trivia, cat videos, and I think I have a meme for just about any situation. I’m also fiercely loyal and more than a little feisty.

My creative ability to express myself and the ideas of others. Life circumstances have made me who I am: The only child of a single mother who struggled with mental illness. The daughter of a shell shocked Vietnam Vet who struggled with addiction. Finding solace in Maya Angelou and Alice Walker with fueled poetry. Being raised by MTV, VH1, HBO, Sesame Street, public television, Disney, Nick Jr. and my diverse community.

Becoming a single mom myself at 19 to a beautiful Black male and overcoming amazing odds, including going from being on public assistance, to putting my son through 3 years of private school and owning my own grocery delivery business. Today I think of my grandfather’s influence on my work ethic, as well. I’ve been shaped by many things.

What are you most proud of?

What are you most proud of?

I’m most proud of my constant drive to do better and keep learning. I make a lot of mistakes.

A lot. But every day the goal is just to do better than the day before and that means learning and listening and being vulnerable.

My relationship with Jesus Christ. It’s come to a level where it’s beyond a bumper sticker, T-shirt or a political affiliation. It is my hope that people, no matter who you are, leave our interactions different – hopefully empowered. Words I try to live by: “People don’t care how much you know. People want to know how much you care.” My relationship with God should be impactful in a positive, transformative way or it’s pointless.

It’s not textbook. I listen to Christian rap and reggae, have legally tinted windows, wishing for 24 inch chrome rims but I’m too frugal. In my head, I’m 19 again nodding to Lecrae like a ‘90s Cali gangster, but in reality I’m still mom and can’t look cool speeding in my work vehicle. Real life struggles.

What keeps you going when things are tough?

My family. I am so fortunate to have amazing kids, a supportive and loving husband, a big brother I admire and look up to, and parents who show me how important hard work and family are. My family inspires me to be better, work hard, and to always choose kindness when given the chance.

What keeps you up at night?

Right now? Everything. Mostly I worry that I’m not doing enough to take care of my family.

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What keeps you going when things are tough?

People. The name “Tamika” means “People Child” in Japanese. I was told my dad said it was the name of a village in Vietnam. Great interactions with children, employees in the grocery stores, strangers or good friends, refresh me. And...stubborn grit, good books, and purpose. My son is watching me. Like Horton the Elephant said, “I meant what I said, and I said what I meant. An elephant’s faithful, one hundred percent!”

What keeps you up at night?

Thoughts like, “How many pounds is 2000 oz of hand sanitizer? Will it fit in my car? Oh! It’s the weight of a small human... not bad.” Innovative social media posts and subconscious prayers for my grown son and today’s youth.

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WOODLANDS LIFE IS GOOD AT THE WOODLANDS! Soon after construction came to an end earlier this spring, excited residents began moving into The Woodlands, a new independent living neighborhood for seniors at Salemtowne. The Woodlands officially opened with a celebration on Friday, March 6. Since then, more than 70 residents have moved into The Woodlands, and more moves are scheduled in the fall.

As part of its protocol during the COVID-19 pandemic, Salemtowne put strict safeguards in place during the move-in phase to assure the health and safety of residents. Since moving into The Woodlands during a time when many seniors remained indoors, residents especially have enjoyed Salemtowne’s wide range of outdoor spaces, including The Plaza (a beautifully appointed center courtyard) at The Woodlands and the trails system surrounding the entire 120+ acre campus.

Crendell and Sue Herrin cut the ribbon on their new villa.

“Salemtowne has the levels of care so that we are good should a need arise. Our children don’t have to worry about us. It’s kind of a gift to them,” Judy Owen, a new resident of The Woodlands, said. “Keep an open mind about the possibility of a completely different lifestyle. This new lifestyle is very appealing to us.”

Judy’s husband, Sam, shared similar thoughts: “When you’re ‘ready,’ it may be too late. We wanted to come while we felt good and while we could enjoy the many activities that are available, and so far, we have not been disappointed.”

The Woodlands consists of two four-floor buildings that feature a total of 56 one- and two-bedroom villas ranging from 1,215 to 1,875 square feet. Each building has seven residences per floor and underbuilding parking.

The Woodlands residents are sure to find many campus amenities to enhance their new lifestyle, some new, and some favorite pastimes.

The Woodlands features six open concept floor plans, breakfast bars and pantries in kitchens, large utility closets, and walk-in showers with glass shower doors. All units have either a patio or balcony and walk-in closets in master bedrooms.

Other amenities in each building include a large common area for residents who wish to host parties and get-togethers and a satellite fitness

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area. The flourishing courtyard, which residents have named The Plaza, spills over two levels, featuring multiple sitting areas, a fireplace, grills, water feature, and fire pit. Residents find this a comfortable place to socialize safely or to be completely immersed in nature.

“The open concept floor plan at The Woodlands was carefully designed to maximize light from two or three sides,” Salemtowne President and CEO Mark Steele said. “In addition, the underbuilding parking will allow residents to come and go with ease, regardless of weather conditions. The Woodlands offers living choices and amenities that seniors desire in a beautifully wooded setting.”

“We decided that if we were going to be anywhere during the pandemic, we couldn’t think of a safer place to be than in the facilities here at Salemtowne,” new Woodlands resident Ben Floyd said. “For people who haven’t lived here, you can’t imagine the care and the planning and the adjustments that the staff has undertaken to make sure that everybody stays healthy.”

“I’ve been surprised by the number of people who have seen what we’re doing and have said, ‘You know, we’ve thought about that, but we just haven’t done anything about it,’” Ben added. “Start the process. It’s like anything else - until you begin, you’re pretty much making a decision not to decide.”

If you know of someone considering a move to Salemtowne, a limited number of residences in several of the six-floor plans at The Woodlands remain available. Salemtowne will be offering socially distanced tours on Wednesday, September 23, by appointment only. Call 336714-2157 or email marketing@salemtowne.org to make an appointment.

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ABOUT SALEMTOWNE Salemtowne, located near the original home of North Carolina’s Moravian settlers, is a nonprofit, continuing care retirement community founded in 1972 and renowned for providing the highest standards and options for seniors.

It is a community that embraces a deep Moravian heritage where residents enjoy life to its fullest and where every life shines. Salemtowne is situated on 120-acres and provides care for approximately 450 residents.

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Sixth Sense Health & Wellness Center Life-Changing Care for Veterans

BY MARTIE EMORY Knowing that wellness comes in all shapes and sizes, CEO Nikki Roach and the super experienced team at Sixth Sense Health & Wellness Center in Winston-Salem take every interaction with their clients personally.

positively affected by both acupuncture and massage therapy.

“Their first treatment usually lasts from 45 minutes to one hour, and most Veterans are approved for eight to 12 sessions in the beginning. They can request additional sessions if needed.”

From massage therapy and acupuncture techniques to balanced nutrition and healthy weight control, these supremely talented professionals are always true to a client’s specific needs, knowing their journey can be life-changing! After providing their services via telemedicine during the stay-at-home order brought on by COVID-19, Sixth Sense happily welcomed patients back in person when they reopened in May.

Senior acupuncturist Dr. Chelsea Wynter, and licensed acupuncturist and herbalist, Dr. Sylvia Bognar, LAc. ND often see ten patients a day, and both professionals see their craft as one that balances the natural flow of health as part of a complete wellness plan personalized for each client. Chelsea specializes in holistic medicine and acupuncture, specifically acupuncture for stress relief, sleep support, fertility, and pain relief, and she’s always pleased to modify treatments based on the client’s changing needs. Away from the office, she loves Zumba, dancing, being outdoors, and playtime with her daughter!

Among those clients are many grateful United States Veterans who have felt firsthand the benefits of acupuncture and massage on both a physical and emotional level – a results-based program the compassionate Sixth Sense team has been committed to for several years.

“We have been working with Veterans for about three years,” explains Nikki. “They will typically be seen by their primary care physician first, and if they are interested in exploring a more holistic approach to healing a specific injury, they can request approval through the VA hospital located in Salisbury, NC.” The U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs benefits package does cover personalized plans for both massage therapy and acupuncture therapy for qualified Veterans, with an excellent success record.

“Acupuncture is often used to treat a specific ailment – such as lower back pain – but the Veteran sees benefits in other ways as well,” says Nikki, noting that anxiety, post-traumatic stress, common sleep issues, and basic mind-calming can also be

Sylvia’s clinical expertise includes pain management, stress, mood disorders, strengthening the immune system, and personalized herbal therapy and nutritional counseling. She is dedicated to assisting her patients in regaining and maintaining total health, with an emphasis on prevention and wellness. Sylvia holds a Masters of Science in Oriental Medicine, and very much appreciates the opportunity to be part of the Sixth Sense staff!

Serving the Triad area since 1997 – and proud to be a Veteranowned company – Sixth Sense Health & Wellness Center is located at 1012 Brookstown Avenue in Winston-Salem, NC. For more information on their services and their dedication to serving our Veterans, call 336-723-4400, and visit them at 6ths.com, where you can schedule an appointment online. Patients are seen Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. – 7 p.m., and Saturday 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. Sixth Sense Health & Wellness Center also offers cosmetic acupuncture, cupping therapy, and Gua Sha.

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Maintaining a Positive Self-Image in an Ever-Changing World

BY ADELE CASANOVA

The modern world we live in moves at breakneck speed, placing us in ever-challenging situations.

With seemingly constant exposure to global news and the availability of affordable air travel, we now live in a mobile society where jobs and lifestyles can change often. We can easily become physically separated from family members and few people stay their whole lives in their original home town. With all this stimulation and change, how do you develop and maintain a positive self-image? How do you stay in touch with your core values when people and circumstances around you seem to be ever-changing?

A key to maintaining a positive self-image is by staying in touch with yourself, taking regular breaks in life to be alone, to reflect and listen to your intuition. Taking a moment to stop and relax, to spend quality time alone is essential to staying in touch with core values. A couple of practices to incorporate into a regular routine are journaling and meditating. You do not need to be an expert at either to benefit from these practices.

Keeping a journal, whether daily or weekly, gives you an outlet to express reactions and feelings to recent circumstances. The exercise of choosing words to describe your experiences and your emotional reactions to them puts things into perspective.

It is an examination of you living your life through your core values. Identifying and owning your feelings in a private, nonjudgmental way frees you to accept yourself.

Stopping all activity to relax and meditate on a regular basis also helps connect you to your inner self in a place of calm. Meditation can simply be a few minutes each morning just lying in bed with eyes closed, breathing deeply, and freeing one’s mind for a few minutes before delving into the day. Or it can be a needed break in a hectic day just to stop, relax, and fully experience your inner self.

The goal of journaling and meditation is to identify your core values.

Your values are the basis of your self-identity. By reflecting through these practices, you began to identify the values most important to you, the values you use to make decisions, to treat others, and to plan for your future. Another way to identify core values, and determine if you are living up to them, is to evaluate your relationships with others. Think of the people in your life with whom you choose to spend time and share your life. What do you admire most about these people, their values with which you most identify? It is a valuable exercise to ask these people for feedback about yourself.

Which attributes in you do they see and appreciate? This exercise should be done only with people with whom you share deep trust, those with whom you share a sense of integrity.

Once you have defined your sense of identity, the goal then is to live up to the values that make up your core self. The exercise of journaling will be a great tool to reflect on your success.

Your core values are the motivating factors in the choices you make as to your activity preferences, your choice of friends and spouse, your future path that you map out for yourself. Give yourself the gift of nonjudgmental reflection, through your own eyes and through the eyes of those you most trust. Develop a strong bond with your values and let them guide your positive self-image.

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A FRESH LOOK AT

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

With the end of summer, the accountability focus shifts into high gear. Teachers get their lesson plans in order, and kids turn their attention to the discipline of organized learning and homework assignments. How I loved that!

While most of my peers groaned their way through the first weeks of September, bit by bit relinquishing the freedom of summer, I rejoiced. For me, learning was, in some weird, idiosyncratic way, fun. Actually, more than fun. For one thing, while the teacher, and later the professor called the shots, I determined early on that I was the one who was really in control. I understood that I determined the level of interest I had in any given subject and the degree of effort I would accordingly expend. I determined what I wanted to learn, what grade I would aim for, and what I would hold myself accountable for. That self-determined accountability worked for me and transferred to so many other areas of my life. It became a psychologically healthy way for me to navigate my unfolding journey.

If you bump into someone accidentally or cough in their direction and not in your sleeve, you say, “I’m sorry.”

I’ve given a lot of thought to accountability in this year of affliction and upheaval. Many of us have done the same as we question who and how to help in both large and small ways, as we perhaps reexamine our assumptions and our beliefs. On one of my morning walks, my deep dive into accountability brought back an iconic line from the iconic 1970 movie, “Love Story.” Popularized as “love means never having to say you’re sorry,” the sentiment baffled me for the longest time. It was an inherently ridiculous idea, wasn’t it?

I think that’s what “Love means never having to say you’re sorry” was intended to mean in the movie, “Love Story.”

When I look through a bifocal lens of accountability to my values and accountability for keeping my word to others, I limit when and how often I say “I’m sorry” because most of the time, I am making the right choices.

If you make a mistake, you say, “I’m sorry.”

If you hurt someone you love, you say, “I’m sorry.”

If you fail to come through on a commitment, you say, “I’m sorry.”

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And yes, if you get caught red-handed doing something you really shouldn’t, you might even fall back on the wellpracticed, “I’m sorry.”

So goes the conventional wisdom. The “issue” with being “sorry” is that it is simply too convenient. With so much “Sorry” or “Sorry, my bad” being tossed about, what does it really mean…and what does it matter?

It has taken me a long time to realize what I already knew way back in middle school: that not having to say you’re sorry means two things.

1. Keeping your commitment to your own values and, 2. Keeping your word to others

Recently, I made a flippant remark to a good friend, a comment that disregarded one of her key values. To her extreme credit, she shared her surprise and disappointment in me. I had hurt her feelings, yes. But more to the point, respecting each other’s values, especially those that are different, is part of the glue that bonds us. I OWN that. I am accountable for that accountability misstep. I am grateful for that moment-of-truth because it reminds me that as long as I have breath, I am accountable for how I use it.

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Get Cozy!

The fall market is coming up, and there is always an air of excitement surrounding its arrival. As a matter of fact, my associates and I are in the process of redesigning the retail showroom and design center to showcase new artwork, bedding, lamps, and so much more. While things may look different this year for market and ordering, we have taken all necessary precautions to stay safe and keep our clients safe as well.

Part of our retail space has been sectioned off to create a safe zone for meetings with clients. The table is nine feet long, which allows for safe social distancing, and we have extra masks if customers do not have their own. We also have hand sanitizing stations throughout the shop. Our priority is to be able to work with you safely while continuing to bring you fresh, fantastic, and fabulous design work.

We are seeing traditional furniture making a tremendous comeback with 18th-century lines being touted as the “brightest and best.” It seems as though the consumer has realized that disposable cookie-cutter furniture just doesn’t work as well as heirloom pieces. High quality is in, as people want to get the most value for their purchases. The resurgence of traditional furniture does not mean that retail showrooms look dated; it just means transitional is mixed.

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Texture and more texture will make your room look fabulous.

Textiles, metals, woods, and artwork added to your upholstery pieces will be the understated test of time.

Monochromatic and light neutral color palettes are still in vogue and will always look sophisticated. However, if you love color, never fear. Blues are in now more than ever! Teal and turquoise have not disappeared, but some exciting new contrasts of gold (yes, gold) make all the other colors stand out. As we head into uncharted times, stay safe, and make your home one you enjoy being in. We are here to help.

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You’re Invited to Tour

BY DENISE HEIDEL 2020 has been a difficult year, to say the least. I know, I know – way to state the obvious, right? However, besides all the obvious challenges we’ve faced, one of the side-effects of 2020 has been the cancellation of so many amazing events we have looked forward to. One such event that was teetering on the edge of uncertainty was the Forsyth Woman Tour de Boutique. For ten years, Forsyth Woman has hosted shopping trips. Sometimes annual.

Sometimes biannual. Sometimes we called it a Consignment Shop Hop. And sometimes we called it Tour de Boutique. Always, we called it fun. It is a non-stop day of shopping fun that many look forward to year after year.

And our team was determined to figure out a way to still host Tour de Boutique! The 2020 Edition (TDB 2020) has required some major creative, outside-the-box thinking, but we have a plan! We are still committed to shopping! Stimulating the local economy (now, more important than ever)! And having fun with our family and friends!

Unfortunately, we did cancel our bus since there was no way we could travel as normal and offer social distancing. But, we’ve come up with Plan B! There are two options to participate in the TDB 2020: 1. A caravan option. For this option, shoppers will meet at a central meeting spot, and we’ll caravan our way from store to store.

2. A self-guided tour option. For this option, shoppers will be given a suggested route based on regional starting points to help these shoppers minimize their driving time as they shop at their own pace.

We are very excited about this, and the response we’ve gotten has been phenomenal. The stores are excited that we’re still offering a way to keep this event alive, and the shoppers are already registering! Everyone is excited that a solution has been found that will keep them safe and comfortable while still having fun! Win!

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Even though we do not have seats for which to RSVP, we are still requesting registration. The shopper fee is $40, and that fee is going to include the shopper’s choice of either a zip-up hoodie sweatshirt OR a crew neck sweatshirt. Both options have the Forsyth Woman logo on them in a pretty shade of heather grey, and are exclusive for our Tour de Boutique shoppers!

A $10 lunch voucher* to Midtown Cafe & Dessertery is also included in the shopper fee! Our shoppers can enjoy lunch on our shopping day, or save the voucher to use another time.

As always, door prizes reign throughout the day. The more stores our shoppers visit, the more opportunities they have to win!

Shoppers will be able to pick up their hoodies/sweatshirts, as well as their TDB 2020 packages before the trip at a location to be determined. We will notify our shoppers by September 28th about the pick-up location.

So, you’re probably thinking – this all sounds great! But WHEN is the Tour de Boutique?! Mark your calendars for Saturday, October 3rd! This year’s Tour de Boutique is going to look different, but we’re confident that it’s going to be another extraordinary shopping adventure! Online registration is open now at TinyUrl. com/2020TDB. If you’re interested in participating in this year’s Tour de Boutique, please register by September 13th, so we have time to order your hoodie / sweatshirt!

If you have questions, please contact Denise Heidel at Denise@ForsythMags.com. *Full details about the 2020 Edition of Tour de Boutique can be read at TinyUrl.com/2020TDB

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S A L E M P L AS T IC SU RG E RY: A SH I N Y N E W SPAC E

BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS

There has never been a better time for forward-thinking and embracing beautiful new options! So, adding to their successful Winston-Salem practice – one that has always emphasized the importance of patients’ personal needs and the goal of providing nothing but the very best results – Salem Plastic Surgery is moving into fall stronger than ever.

With a beautiful new addition to its current office space known as Renewal Med Spa, the popular practice will offer an even broader expansion of their highly respected, patient-focused philosophy.

“In some ways, it’s been a challenging time to expand,” says Practice Manager Lisa Wood. “In other ways, however, it’s been wonderful for our Salem Plastic Surgery family to have something new to look forward to!”

Already well-versed in the necessary steps of creating a sterile environment for operating procedures, and with a team of aesthetic nurses who are the true experts of clean, Salem Plastic Surgery began welcoming patients to the new space in August, while continuing their delivery of the best options in cosmetic and restorative procedures

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for both women and men. The staff is still relentless about necessary safety procedures and following the enhanced COVID-19 cleaning protocols they instituted several months ago, but always with a positive spin!

“The new space also still exudes the warm, cozy, intimate feel Salem Plastic Surgery has always reflected,” Lisa explains. “You’ll see different colors, but the same emotion; the new area is decorated in cool blue tones, a change from the main area’s warm tones.”

Founded in 1990 by Dr. Scott L. Tucker, who was joined by Dr. Hampton A. Howell in 2006, Salem Plastic Surgery offers body contouring, facelifts, eyelid surgery, chin surgery, liposuction, smartlipo, CoolSculpting, rhinoplasty, breast reconstruction, reduction, or augmentation, and wonderful nonsurgical procedures such as Botox® (a popular cosmetic treatment to relax and soften wrinkles), Juvederm® (injectable fillers to smooth wrinkles and folds), and Kybella (the only FDA-approved injectable that destroys fat cells under the chin).

“Renewal Med Spa is going to be a great addition to the practice, offering a

comfortable, inviting space dedicated to delivering a wide range of medical-grade, spa-type treatments for our patients,” explains Dr. Howell. “These include high-quality procedures such as injectables, and non-invasive face and body treatments that can stand alone or complement a patient’s previous surgical results.”

Dr. Tucker echoes the excitement of introducing Renewal Med Spa. “This is going to be a relaxing space to have your nonsurgical plastic surgery procedures by our amazingly talented staff,” he says. “It will all be done with patient safety, as well as the safety of our staff, foremost in our minds.”

Lisa adds that the new area will have three aesthetic nurses, and more new features to come, including a new loyalty program, online scheduling, and the convenience of evening and Saturday hours.

Always growing in knowledge through focused research and continuing education, the staff of Salem Plastic Surgery is happy to be also growing with options for clients who don’t need or want surgery, and who will benefit from an area designed for more varied procedures.

“After much planning, we are so excited our dream has come true,” agrees Donna Langley, RN, who is a certified nurse injector and laser specialist. “Our practice has grown so much we have added on to our beautiful office to accommodate the aesthetic needs of our patients. We can’t wait for you to come visit our new Med Spa!” Salem Plastic Surgery is located at 1345A Westgate Center Drive in Winston-Salem. Reach their office at 336-768-8483, and learn more about their services at salemplasticsurgery.com.

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FIND IT ALL DOWNTOWN

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON, WITH NOTES FROM MARY CHARLOTTE HINKLE

The same things that make downtown Winston-Salem a desirable destination to visit are also what make it an attractive place to work, reside, and do business.

There’s an unmistakable creative and collaborative spirit in the restaurants, shops, arts venues, and innovative businesses centered here. The vibe is consistent and, despite COVID, continues to catch on.

With a pleasant year-round climate as the backdrop, the arts and culture thrive 12 months of the year in our downtown. Case in point: a visit to the arts district offers over 90 shops and galleries where you are sure to find more than a few treasures that suit your taste.

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ART, BOOKS & GIFTS … GALORE!

FEELING HUNGRY? THIRSTY?

In galleries such as Artworks , the longestrunning cooperative gallery in WinstonSalem, you can peruse and purchase the works of both emerging and established artists, most of whom are local. If you’re one who craves the immersion that a real-time bookstore has to offer, be sure to visit Bookmarks, the quintessential independent bookstore which has been a part of our community since 2004. Or if you need a truly unique (and sassy!) gift, try URBN grl on Burke Street. Check the shop and gallery websites or simply call for the specifics you need. Your patronage means so much to our creative community! And while COVID has meant some pulling back and adapting, there are still a variety of events to attend, most of which are free to the public.

Here’s a statistic that will make your mouth water: our downtown district offers more than 75 restaurants and coffee shops, eight breweries, and 30 bars and nightclubs. There’s something to please everyone’s palette or craving. You might find your way over to Lill Dipper on North Patterson for a “low-guilt” vegan ice cream. Or, maybe you fancy a banana and Nutella pancake at one of downtown’s newest brunch spots, Young Cardinal Cafe & Co. For a “farm to fork” urban dining experience complete with craft cocktails, there’s Jeffrey Adams on West 4th. The options are nearly endless and always evolving to reflect today’s tastes and the creative passion of our chefs and their patrons. Of course, for the time being, many of your favorites are likely to offer limited inside dining, outside dining, takeout, and curbside pickup. Be sure to check their websites or give them a call for current hours and COVID protocols.

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Another way to immerse yourself in the uniqueness of our downtown is to grab your walking shoes for a pleasant stroll through other attractions including Old Salem, the West End Historic District, and the Wake Forest Innovation Quarter.

These areas of our city offer a colorful peek at our history, as well as a glimpse into the future of how we are evolving.

Of course, there’s a flipside to the commercial buzz and it’s more personal. Our downtown is currently home to 10,000 people and residential development is still underway. With 4,100 housing units already established, there are another 275 proposed, including a 244 unit apartment community across Trade Street from Winston Junction Market and Earl’s.

There is more than meets the eye when it comes to downtown’s forward momentum. The Downtown WinstonSalem Partnership (DWSP) is working behind the scenes to ensure the city center’s success. By supporting businesses and organizing events, the not-for-profit group is helping to make downtown Winston-Salem a vibrant place for all.

Make no mistake about it: #DTWS IS BOOMING!

And while our downtown streets may not be back to their usual traffic volume just yet, this area is also home to 1,500 businesses that employ 22,000 people.

Now more than ever before, our downtown offers all of us the opportunity to connect with the past, engage in the present, and marvel at the future. Here’s one stop to make on a regular basis: downtownws.com.

Whether you participate in real-time or shop our local businesses online, the heartbeat of Winston-Salem is alive and well downtown.

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September 29 is

National Coffee Day!

BY DEBBIE BARR

This year, Americans will celebrate National Coffee Day on Tuesday, September 29. If you happen to buy your coffee at Starbucks on that particular day, the celebration will instead (understandably) be called National Starbucks Day. Nevertheless, in any location—and whether you call it Joe, java, mud, wakey juice, go juice, or just plain coffee, and whether you like it iced or hot, caffeinated or decaf—we pay homage to this immensely popular drink each year on National Coffee Day. To say this beverage is “immensely popular” might actually be an understatement. The United States leads the world in coffee consumption: about 150 million Americans drink 400 million cups of coffee a day, or more than 140 billion cups a year!

On National Coffee Day, there’s a very good chance that you’ll be able to score a free cup of coffee. Rumor has it that Krispy Kreme, Cinnabon, Dunkin’ Donuts, and many of the nation’s 37,274 coffee houses, possibly some local ones, may be giving away free coffee or at least discounting it in honor of the day. Punchbowl.com will add to the fun by offering free National Coffee Day e-cards that you can send to your coffee-loving friends. You can check out their unique Coffee Day e-card collection at punchbowl.com/ecards/ national-coffee-day.

If you would like to commemorate National Coffee Day by impressing others with your knowledge of coffee trivia, feel free to use this cheat sheet, compiled from various sources: • The average American drinks 3.1 cups of coffee a day.

• Of the Americans who drink coffee, 65% drink it in the morning.

• Regular coffee drinkers who consume their java at home rather than at a coffee shop will save about $427 per year.

• About 17,537 Americans are employed by the coffee industry.

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• In a survey by MyFriendsCoffee.com, 32% of millennials, more than any other demographic, said they drank an espresso-based beverage “yesterday.”

• Men consume only slightly more coffee than women: 1.7 cups per day versus 1.5 cups per day.

• Studies suggest that people who drink four or more daily cups of coffee have a 50% lower risk for Type 2 diabetes.

On National Coffee Day, when free coffee may abound, it’s good to remember that too much of a good thing, even free coffee, is, well, not a good thing. Excessive coffee consumption can lead to caffeinism, an overdose of caffeine. The caffeine from coffee is usually absorbed about 30-45 minutes after you drink it. If you’ve had too much coffee, it can cause insomnia, make you nervous and restless, give you an upset stomach, make you irritable, and speed up your heart rate and breathing rate. Those symptoms can be mistaken for a heart attack.

If you’re especially sensitive to caffeine, even small amounts can cause unwanted side effects. According to the Mayo Clinic, “People who don’t regularly drink caffeine tend to be more sensitive to its effects,” and so do those taking certain medications. You can avoid caffeinism by limiting your coffee consumption. The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) says that 400 milligrams a day (about four or five cups of coffee) is an amount not generally associated with dangerous, negative effects in adults. The FDA has not yet determined a safe amount for younger people, but the American Academy of Pediatrics discourages caffeine consumption by children and teens.

If you are having symptoms of caffeinism, the Mayo Clinic experts suggest, “You may want to cut back if you’re drinking more than four cups of caffeinated coffee a day (or the equivalent)...” By “equivalent” they mean don’t forget to account for the caffeine in any colas, chocolate, energy drinks, and caffeine-enhanced snacks you consume in addition to coffee. That’s great advice any day, but it may be especially important on National Coffee Day!

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Hindsight: The Lessons of 2020

BY MARTIE EMORY

If, while navigating the madness of 2020, you’ve seen a relationship or other personal opportunity clearly for the first time, I applaud you. For anyone who hasn’t learned at least one life lesson during this crazy year, I say, you haven’t been paying attention!

In these s-l-o-w moving past few months, it’s become more and more apparent that amid the scary unknowns and heart-wrenching scenarios of what won’t be remembered as a banner year, hidden rays of light have emerged. It sounds like a deep, philosophical concept, but it’s really quite simple. Ask those in your inner circle, and you’ll likely see they’ve made at least one personal discovery in the last few months that might not have appeared had our daily lives not been turned upside down.

As the familiar saying goes, hindsight is often 20/20 – a moment to think “if we’d only known better” – but in our new reality, perhaps it took the calendar year actually turning to 2020 to enlighten us on what matters most. What are you seeing more clearly now?

Personally, I’ve seen much more clearly that my sons are both adults.

Sure, I KNEW they were 24 and 29, but this year has brought their grown-up versions front and center as we’ve discussed love, hate, and our society’s shortcomings, all of which came very close to home. I dare say many families have joined in tough conversations recently and were blessed to see emerging wisdom in their offspring, and on a global level like never before!

Perhaps what you saw clearly for the first time came during some unexpected weeks off work, where a new passion for an old hobby has led to a new career path or a freelance opportunity. Even more life-changing, maybe your personal vision showed you with crystal clear clarity that working from home is NOT your dream scenario. (You are not alone!)

Maybe in these months of growth despite upheaval, you’ve drawn your friends closer to you – even if it couldn’t be in person. I’ll bet your bond grew a bit stronger and when you hug next, it will be a little tighter. I’ve heard many women admit they realized during 2020 distancing just how much the support and camaraderie among friends fuels their life.

You’ve realized those girls’ night out dinners were ultimately the very best kind of therapy.

You’ve hopefully noticed some strengths in yourself you hadn’t tapped before, such as creativity and adaptability, which are both crucial life skills. They’ve been with you all along, but now you’ve been tested by a complete overhaul in your daily schedule, in your spending habits, and possibly in your self-care routine. But you’ve found new ways to stay on top of what you can control, and found joy in simple moments.

I also imagine I’m not the only one who has seen that many of the truths of my life thus far, were not true at all, and that many of the ideas I had believed in for over 50 years now needed questioning.

Maybe these months weren’t so much a time of determining who had the most “essential” job, but instead, finding out what was truly most important to our own well-being. Five years from now, the word essential will mean something entirely different – we will be talking about “life essentials” such as the people you share your home with, and the values you believe in.

Looks like we won’t be needing those rose-colored glasses now to see only what we want to see; we’ve been given the quirky – and exhausting – gift of 2020 to lead us to the best that is yet to come!

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The Woman’s Ultimate Personal Space,

The She-Shed!

Move over man cave; women also need a space dedicated to their hobbies and interests, or merely a place for relaxation.

It truly doesn’t matter why a woman wants a backyard hideaway; the she-shed can define the female sanctum dedicated to her specific needs! Women, all across the country, are converting old sheds or shopping for cozy little buildings and saying, “That’ll do!”

THE BEST SPACE Not all houses have the available space to fulfill the needs of an office, art studio or simple potting shed; yet, the possibilities of size and upgrades offer a practical option to every woman’s dream. Mary Sue McDaniel is just one example in thousands.

She was tired of sewing in the basement of her home. It was a cold and dark space. In seeking an expansion, Mary Sue opted not to seek professional help; instead, she kept costs low by purchasing a 10X20 garden storage shed. With the help of family and friends, she installed insulation, sheetrock, flooring, a tin roof and electricity. Shopping at thrift stores and clearance racks added a personal touch of tables, shelving and lighting. The transformation upgraded her location and brought forth creative inspiration to the art of sewing.

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• Most small building kits, whether made from plastic, wood or metal, allow buyers to upgrade. In reading the fine print, most DIY endeavors lack the materials for a sturdy floor and excludes roofing. With carpentry skills, you can shop for select items, such as a metal or tin roof, or additional window while meeting a budget.

• Every shed and carport manufacturer offers perfectly good structures at a tremendous discount. Perhaps the customized unit was turned down after purchase. Ask about the availability to purchase scrapped wood, tin and metal roofing. You’ll be surprised at the wide-selection of sizes and colors at a low price.

• Look for a blueprint and build your own! Happy she-shed owners minimalized the cost by adding salvaged, old windows and doors to create a well-lit potting shed, greenhouse or glass sunroom.

• Google social media sites for available buildings. You might find an unusual container, such as a salvaged silo, a Connex container, a portable barn or oversized carport! Secondhand structures include the amazing find just waiting for you to say, “That’s it!”

• Purchasing a pre-made wood or metal building offers shoppers the availability to customize flooring and roofing materials, and the location and quantity of doors and windows.

Knowing a friend who has their very own she-shed quickly infuses an inner passion to get started! Reach out to family and friends to discuss your plans for building a one-of-a-kind getaway. Fortunately, the backyard cottage isn’t necessarily rooted in large expenses. Thrifty women can find fantastic deals just by researching and keeping an open mind.

• Extend the space by 10 feet by adding a covered lean-to on opposing sides of your structure. While not a luxury space featuring air conditioning, it can remain open or enclosed to keep various supplies dry.

• Do you have a neglected shed or unused child’s playhouse?

Even if the building is initially small, you can expand the size at a relatively low cost and not worry about a building permit if you are within the city limits.

Why wait? You can transform an old building or erect a new structure for your very own personal needs! There are no rules when it comes to creating the perfect she-shed. With four walls, a floor and roof, it will become a place of peace and creativity!

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• Shop at flea markets and antique shops to purchase inexpensive items, such as doors, windows, lighting, tables, benches and chairs!

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Strength for the Cancer Journey: 30 Days of Inspiration, Encouragement, & Comfort A New Book by Deborah Barr

BY VONDA HENDERSON According to the American Cancer Society, in 2020, over 1.8 million new cancer cases are anticipated in the US. The words ‘You have cancer’ is something absolutely no one wants to hear. Yet, so many Americans of every age, race, or gender face that diagnosis.

Support is a critical component as one faces a personal cancer journey. Deborah Barr has recently written a new 30-day devotional, Strength for the Cancer Journey: 30 Days of Inspiration, Encouragement, and Comfort, as a comfort and support resource, based on other cancer patients’ experiences. Published by Moody Publishers, this devotional contains easy to read, topic-specific insights, scriptural references, and space for personal journaling for 30 days. Each chapter can be re-read as often as needed. Chapters cover subjects every cancer patient faces, such as anger, brain fog, waiting, feeling lonely, etc.

Deborah reached out to personal friends, friends of friends, and her church family to form her panel of ‘experts’ – eight people who shared their thoughts on the importance of faith in God and support of others during their journey

with cancer. As Jeff (one of the eight) shared, “God loves you. God is not abandoning you. . . .[by sharing] my hope would be that I’ve planted a seed that the storms of cancer will water.” Keela emphasized that for her, her faith and her family were the rocks she leaned on during her journey. “I have a passion for encouraging people to engage deeply with God in their hard times,” shared Deborah, “and I think this book grew out of a desire to encourage people with cancer to do that.”

Deborah met each of the eight participants in person for a recorded interview that covered specific topics, as well as unique questions regarding their personal experience.

As she shared, “Every journey was different in some fashion.”

To illustrate some of the topics, the Day 17 devotion covers brain fog, described as “The hazy thinking, lack of focus, and memory problems that sometimes result from treatments such as radiation or hormone therapy.” Sometimes it’s referred to as ‘chemo brain.’ The panel collectively described the condition as frustrating and embarrassing, especially when dealing with people who may not know you well or understand the underlying cause.

Another topic (Day 25) is titled The Hardest Part and discusses the difficulty of asking for help.

As Deborah described, “Cancer sometimes forces people to admit that they do, in fact, need help. It can unleash a lot of blessing, not just for the person being helped, but also for the person who gives the help.

People get to use their spiritual gifts.”

As Laura shared after receiving the blessings of help, “The thing I look

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forward to the most is to be able to help someone else.” The pay it forward cycle continues and grows from one act of help.

Each daily subject is covered in an easy to read style with scriptures related to the topic and personal insights that reassure you that you’re not the only one dealing with these situations. Many have or are walking on their journey, gaining strength for each step from God, friends, and family.

Strength for the Cancer Journey can be found online at Amazon.com, Barnesandnoble.com, Christianbook. com or wherever books are sold.

Deborah’s hope is that the devotional will be provided at local cancer centers, hospital gift shops, and support centers.

Strength for the Cancer Journey is Deborah’s sixth book. Her devotional for dementia caregivers, Grace for the Unexpected Journey, was named “Best Inspirational Book” at the 2018 Digital Book World awards. As an author, speaker, and health educator, Deborah has a God-given gift of encouragement for people impacted by devastating, life-changing conditions, either as patients or caregivers.

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Ginseng Crime in the Blue Ridge

BY LAUREN SEPHTON

A centuries-old, traditional Chinese medicine, grown right here in the beautiful North Carolina mountains, is being taken captive by night and admired by day.

While you may have steered away from a fairly common-looking plant on a recent hike, thinking it was the poisonous water hemlock, you may have actually just passed a bit of shining mountain gold. Ginseng grows close to the ground, as it is a root plant, but disguises itself with small, ridged leaflets and beautiful red flowers that shine when it’s ready to harvest.

Ginseng roots are often described as being shaped like a man with a thick “body” and thinner leg-like roots extending from it.

Did you know that American ginseng was one of the first marketable herbs back in 1860? Originally discovered in Wisconsin, the US successfully exported 120 pounds of wild ginseng roots to China, which would redefine the American dream for many individuals. Illegally harvesting wild ginseng root became like winning a lottery ticket for sellers attracting buyers in Asian black markets. Although some US states now allow harvesting and exporting ginseng roots during specific seasons of the year, and with the necessary licenses, wild American ginseng can sell anywhere between $400 - $800 per pound. With its great popularity concentrated in Asia, you may even find an offer close to $1,000 per pound. In 2015, the ginseng industry brought in nearly $3 million in revenue.

Unlike the California Gold Rush in the mid-1800s, poachers are being drawn near to the Great Smoky Mountains, the largest fully-protected wild ginseng reserve in the USA, on the hunt for their own kind of mountain gold. With ideal ginseng plant growing conditions, poachers have brought the originally discovered 43,560 ginseng plants down to as low as 3,400 in less than a year’s time. On average, poachers are taking captive nearly 145 ginseng plants each night.

While the selling price may be high, the cost for illegal poaching is even greater.

Billy Joe Hurley, a man who lived with minimal needs, sought ginseng roots as his only way out from living in a shack on his parents’ property. Nevertheless, every time he put his plans into action, he was caught and paid the price for his illegal activities. Hurley succeeded in illegally digging up more than 500 American ginseng roots that he quickly stuffed into his backpack on his fifth attempt. As he neared the park exit, he was once

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again confronted by park rangers who found him attempting to hide his backpack behind the hiking trail guardrail. Hurley was sentenced to six months in prison and a hefty fine, but he left devastation in the soil beyond recovery in certain parts of the national park. Although park biologists plant nearly 15,000 American ginseng roots each year, their expectations remain low as over half of them will be illegally poached by next year’s rooting.

Now you may be wondering, why are individuals willing to pay such a high price for wild ginseng root? The simplified answer can be narrowed down to one word: Ginsenosides. A unique compound with the Panax species, the genus that Ginseng belongs to. Ginsenosides have been long coveted for various medicinal qualities, such as boosting energy levels, reducing Type 2 diabetes, and preventing cancer cell growth. You may even notice these highly sought after “man roots” being carried around in the pockets of the superstitious who are just in need of some good luck!

With all assumptions of ginseng root being a “get rich quick fix” put aside, challenge yourself to spot the September blossoms of American ginseng roots on your next hike through the Great Smoky Mountains.

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ALKALI HAIR: ABSOLUTE LOVE!

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS

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After a conversation that feels very much like one with a new friend, magic happens. You walk out feeling pretty amazing, and time goes by – and you need another appointment. This time in the semi-private alcove, you get asked something most stylists don’t ask – was there anything you didn’t like about your hair or style? Was there anything too hard to do and fix?

“We’re not a group that has egos too big for constructive critique. We want you to walk out and love your hair,” said Amber.

And they welcome feedback! They’ll take it and grow with it – the goal is really to get you to be able to do your hair, too, and well – not just for that one day of “salon-perfect” then “frustrated ponytail” every day after. The process repeats and every time gets better and better…and suddenly, you’re in a relationship. It’s serious. And it’s with your stylist at Alkali.

I know this for certain because not only am I a client, I’ve been one for years, and consider my hairstylist, Colleen, my friend.

She also understands my hair, how much effort I put into it, how much time I spend on it daily, and for special occasions. And let me tell you – it makes a difference.

“We want to think about what will fit your hair and lifestyle, as well as what is the most polished look YOU can achieve with your lifestyle and health of your hair,” said Amber. “We educate clients by spending time with them.”

This service will carry with Alkali in their move – a move that allows for additional stylists, an esthetician, a larger space for product, and more.

“We’re taking everything we are already doing and making it better.”

Amber Woodall isn’t new to the hair game: Alkali Hair Studio has been open now over ten years as of this past April, and before that, she worked as an educator in the hair field. She is excited about the new larger location of Alkali Hair Studio, slated to open this fall.

“This is a move for Alkali. Air (Alkali’s blow dry bar that does blow outs, up-do’s, and makeup) is staying put,” Amber said, “This move allows us more space to upgrade the services we already have and expand what we offer.”

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If you haven’t heard of Alkali, you’re missing out. Walking in, you get escorted to a semi-private alcove where you talk to your stylist. The conversation, even when you’re new, isn’t a cookie-cutter, “look at this photo on Pinterest and make me look like this model” talk.

Each one of Amber’s stylists ask questions about your hair, the time you spend on it, what you want to do, and what aspects you’re specifically looking to change.

“I’m getting to carry on with some visions with the brand that I haven’t been able to do before,” said Amber. The move to skincare isn’t surprising: Alkali and Amber have always been attentive to products and ingredients. “This move to add skincare started selfishly to avoid certain bad ingredients and find things that work and aren’t harmful.”

Picture this: you spend time in your semiprivate alcove with your stylist. You can talk, have a conversation, and get to know one another. After a while, you’re going to start talking about more than hair – maybe you’re thinking about your skin after looking at your face for the duration of your haircut. “With this relationship, people ask all the time about higher-end services. We’re constantly referring

people to do these things, I finally thought, why don’t we just offer it in house?”

I think many of us tend to think of a salon as the stereotypical movie experience: loud, hairdryers, chatting and gossiping, listening to conversations four chairs over. The semi-private alcoves at Alkali were something new for me, and as a customer, it’s fantastic. Colleen and I can chat about hair, skin, eyebrows, food, adventures – and I never feel like people are eavesdropping, or that I’m listening to someone else’s life. The experience truly gives you space to get to know your stylist – and for them to get to know you, your lifestyle, and your hair. If you aren’t going to put hours of work in learning how to perfectly curl your hair, your stylist needs to know that! Amber and her team at Alkali want your hair to look amazing even when you aren’t leaving their doors with a fresh cut.

Amber intends to continue this customer education practice in her new place, with skincare – if you’ve taken a look at the skin market lately, you’ve probably realized how many products are out there. “Just like how it goes with hair, people can do damage by not knowing things. It’s the same with skin: there are a lot of things on the market now that can do damage and thin out the skin,” said Amber. “I want to help people do the most good with the least amount of harm with their hair and skin.”

This passion is relayed through each stylist: it’s all about building trust. The team at Alkali share why they make choices in products, and why they might use one thing and not another with their clients.

The studio now is far from a hustle and bustle atmosphere, and that helps with the trust-building – and will continue in the new space. “That personal and cozy feel builds trust. We’ve always done private appointments and never been a chair to chair to chair studio,” said Amber. “I’ve always valued time for stylists to get to know their clients. I want my team to feel invested in, own their work, and know they are paid their worth.”

Aside from expanding relationships, adding stylists and services, focusing on products, Amber gets to live out another part of her vision with the larger space: recycling color. More space means more room to focus on lessening their carbon footprint as a salon. “The space will help us give back. We need it to package and ship color, foil, hair, and single-use products,” said Amber. “It’s allowing me to express my whole vision, far more so than just focusing on the daily grind.”

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How Do We Communicate Now?

BY JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

For the foreseeable future, communication is changed at its core.

OVER ENUNCIATION

I spent some time at a friend’s house this weekend; she had just moved and needed help hanging up her patio lights. This wasn’t a new friend – we’ve been friends for a while actually, so I offered up my ladder happy husband to hang the lights while we caught up in person. This in-person catch up was drastically different from what we had been doing with text and video chat. We were over six feet apart, masks on our faces, and perched on chairs in mild discomfort.

If you’re wearing a mask, chances are your voice is mildly dampened. This one is easy to get past: work on overenunciating what you’re saying. This means you’re hitting all of the syllables in words and making sure that you’re also speaking clearly. If you want to practice, use tongue twisters to warm up your voice – my favorites are “Irish wristwatch” and “red leather, yellow leather.” Say these two slowly and over enunciate – it’s like stretching before you run a marathon.

Even though it was different, we made it work, because we are both communication-minded folks. There were a few things we talked about consciously doing to ensure our communication still “worked” – even with our masks. These are a few tricks you can use in person (and online!) to make your communication as clear as possible, even at a distance.

WHEN YOU’RE IN PERSON:

Gestures

Meaning comes from 55% body language, 38% cadence (our next point!), and 7% the words you say.

If you’re not using gestures to show some of your meaning, you should take advantage of what you can share through your body language. Pay attention to what your gestures are saying – nervous gestures are ones you’re not aware of. The best way to tap into effective gestures initially? Think about what your hands are doing. Are they ADDING to what you’re saying or distracting? Aim to add!

Cadence

How you say what you say is even more critical now. A quick comment can be missed easily when it’s tossed away as an aside or a side comment. Think about how you feel when you’re speaking – and remember to show, don’t tell. When you’re happy, you want to sound happy – not just say you’re happy. Another way to think about cadence is by moving your voice around. If you’re excited, you can speak quickly, and if you’re making a point, you can speak slower. Check in to how your voice moves through space.

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WHEN YOU’RE ONLINE:

Over-communicate

So much communication is happening over email and social media channels, you have to think about what you’re saying, how you feel, and what you want. If you aren’t clear and specific with what you’re saying, your meaning could get missed or confused. Remember the 55% body language, 38% cadence statistic from earlier? You don’t have any of that in your email and online communication. Quick trick? Use as few words as possible to say what you need to say, and be sure that your ask or action item is clear.

Read what you wrote, out loud

When you take some time to read things out loud, you can hear meaning, intention, and more.

Don’t just read it in your head! If you’re keeping it in your head, you’re going to fill in meaning and words where it might not be clear. If you say it – really say it, even if it’s quiet, you’ll be able to hear the tone and make sense of your own meaning – that way, you can ensure that you’re making the point you want to be making. Reading things out loud also helps with clarity. Keep it straight and to the point, out loud and written down.

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Thanks to COVID-19, we are all living through a time of disproportionate crisis. With the trauma it has left in its wake, it can become easy for one to be irritable and angry at the world. However, rather than focusing on the negative situations, this virus has caused us all, why not do the opposite? Rather than wallow in one’s sorrows, seek the positive out of life. What better way to do so than to celebrate those that live near you, and lend a helping hand during National Good Neighbor Day! What originally began as an idea from Mrs. Becky Mattson of Lakeside, Montana, who realized that we all need to recognize the value of good neighbors, Mattson’s idea quickly began to gather attention. By 1978, U.S. President Jimmy Carter announced the creation of a national day, aimed at raising awareness that “good neighbors” can help build strong, prosperous communities.

Since then, National Good Neighbor Day has been acknowledged by various levels of government and is celebrated every year in the fall. The holiday was originally celebrated on the fourth Sunday in September, but in 2003 it was decided that the day would change to September 28th.

If we look around, especially during turbulent times like these, we can all agree that the community we live in is extremely vital to the welfare of ourselves and our families. It is a true godsend to have a good neighbor, but an even a greater thing to BE that good neighbor. Often, good neighbors can eventually become close family friends.

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a helping hand during times of need, and be first to give advice when needed.

Good neighbors also provide their friends with a host of different helpful tasks. From collecting our mail when out of town to helping coordinate “meal trains” when a pregnant neighbor goes into labor, these friends help us live our best lives, in the safest and manageable way.

Curious about how to celebrate these amazing people during National Good Neighbor Day? Read on for five easy ways to celebrate our good neighbors, not only on September 28th but all year long!

KNOCK, KNOCK!

dog when you were staying late at work?

They would also likely love a treat. You can add a special touch by adding ribbon to the package of cookies, and adding a small note, just thanking them for being such a great friend!

GET OUTSIDE! What better way to get out of the house, especially since we are all cooped up inside more now, than taking a nice long walk around the neighborhood? Instead of going solo, consider asking a neighbor to join you!

Not only will you motivate each other to get outside and get exercise, but it can also provide you with a new friendship.

Pay a visit to an elderly neighbor to “checkin” and make sure all is well. Chances are, they may need help with a few basic tasks. Not to mention that it is always nice to hear their life stories and learn from our older generations. Considering that this demographic has been extremely nervous about heading out of their homes during the pandemic, if we check in on them regularly (while wearing a mask of course), we can also make sure they do not need something from a local store.

HOST A “NEIGHBOR CIRCLE”

BAKING TO THE RESCUE!

STAY CONNECTED

For many, baking is a way to relieve stress and enjoy a sweet treat afterward. When making cookies for your family, considering baking an extra batch for your local neighbors. Remember that neighbor that gathered your mail while you were gone?

They would surely appreciate a sweet bite!

Remember that neighbor that walked your

Since everyone is social distancing these days, rather than host your traditional barbeque, consider hosting a “Neighbor Circle.” Invite 6-8 neighbors to your driveway or outdoor area, where all can form a circle with outdoor chairs. (This is where it will be important to sit at least 6 feet apart.)

You can offer them food or drink, OR since we are in a pandemic, they can bring their own and simply enjoy each other’s company.

Since we are limiting our social interaction these days, consider reaching out via text to your neighbors regularly. If you check in on one, and they need an item from the store, considering grabbing it for them when you go. During times like these, we all can appreciate small acts of kindness more than ever!

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Trellis Supportive Care, formerly Hospice & Palliative CareCenter, is excited to announce our Virtual 5th Annual Living Your Best Life Speaker Series, featuring Mitch Albom, scheduled for September 30. Albom – the New York Times bestselling author of Tuesdays with Morrie and The Five People You Meet in Heaven – will speak on his latest book, Finding Chika. This memoir shares how a young orphan in Haiti changed his life and his understanding of family – teaching valuable lessons that can help us all live our best lives.

“Trellis Supportive Care’s first priority is always compassion for those we serve, whether that be our patients and their families, or our community at large,” shared Beth Forrester, Vice President of Donor Relations for Trellis Supportive Care. “With this in mind, we will host this year’s Speaker Series virtually, in lieu of our usual in-person event.

To share this message of hope, we are waiving the event’s ticket price this year, but we need your support now more than ever. No matter what else is happening in the world, we are committed to delivering expert care for our patients. We ask that you consider a donation that will directly impact patients and families we serve.”

Started in 2016, the Living Your Best Life Annual Speaker Series event is an annual community event benefiting Trellis Supportive Care. This event is designed to significantly impact people’s lives, bring energy to our community and encourage us to ask ourselves, “Am I living MY best life?” One of the core elements of the Living Your Best Life event is to provide the community an opportunity to hear an acclaimed speaker who will address subjects consistent with the theme of the series, a message that will truly lead to an enhanced life experience.

We are excited for Mitch Albom to join us for our 2020 event.

Tuesdays with Morrie, written by Mitch Albom, spent four straight years at the top of the New York Times bestseller list and is the bestselling memoir of all time. Mitch Albom wrote seven other #1 New York Times bestsellers - including The Five People You Meet in Heaven, For One More Day, and Have a Little Faith, and four of them have been made into highly acclaimed TV movies. Oprah Winfrey produced Tuesdays with Morrie, which claimed four Emmy awards including best actor for Jack Lemmon in the lead role. In addition to publishing, Mitch has founded nine charities in Detroit and operates the Have Faith Haiti orphanage in Port au Prince, Haiti, which he visits monthly.

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Making Dollars, Making $ense

How Much Money Will I Need for Retirement?

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BY STEVEN GALLO, CFP®

For most of us, we work our entire lives to do four things: take care of ourselves, provide for our families, save money for retirement, and hopefully be able to leave something to our children and grandchildren when we depart. We work hard every day to be able to one day reach the finish line and the word we all want to hear: retirement, when you can finally kick back, spend more time with the family, enjoy the grandkids, and do all of the things you never had time to do when you were working.

Life expectancy: According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the average life expectancy in the U.S. is approximately 79 years of age, the highest it has been in history. Therefore, people in the U.S. should be prepared for a longer retirement than their parents and should plan accordingly. For a person who retires at 65, he or she will have an average of a 14-15year retirement, and for many of us, it will be even longer. Therefore, you should plan your retirement finances accordingly.

One of the things I’m often asked by clients, and one of the areas Marzano Capital Group specializes in, is retirement planning.

Specifically, the number one thing one every client’s mind when we first sit down is, “How much money will I need for retirement?” And while that may seem like a simple question, the answer can often be more complicated, as many factors play a role in what each individual will need to retire in the manner in which they desire.

Social Security benefits: For many of our parents, grandparents, and greatgrandparents, Social Security benefits made up a significant portion of their retirement incomes. However, as more and more Baby Boomers reach retirement age, and people on average are living longer, the Social Security program is coming under increasing stress. As a result, Social Security benefits in the future could be significantly less, and this should be factored in to retirement planning.

Overall, the general rule of thumb is that retirees will need approximately 80 percent of their pre-retirement salaries in retirement.

However, that number fluctuates depending on your specific needs. Here are a few things to consider when planning your retirement: Your age of retirement: The first question to ask yourself is, “When do I want to retire?”

This is probably the biggest factor when planning the amount of money you’ll need for retirement. If you hope to retire earlier, you’ll need more money in savings, as chances are you’ll be retired longer. Conversely, if you plan to work later in life, you may not need as much. Determining your retirement age is the first step in planning for your post-career life.

Your retirement lifestyle: Once your career is over, how do you want to live? Do you want to travel? Do you have new or existing hobbies you want to pursue? Are you looking to begin or continue the countryclub lifestyle? Do you envision yourself buying or leasing vacation property? All of these factors can play in to the amount of retirement income you’ll need and should be considered when retirement planning.

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Inflation: It is very important for your savings to keep pace with or exceed inflation. If you think you have accounted for every possibility when constructing a savings goal, but forget this vital component, your savings could be far from sufficient. Inflation has the potential to lower the value of your savings from year to year, significantly reducing your purchasing power over time.

These are all factors that should be considered when planning for retirement.

But after determining your retirement savings goal and factoring in how much you have saved already, you may be able to determine how much you need to save each year to reach your destination. The important thing is to come up with a goal and then develop a strategy to pursue it. The sooner you begin determining and planning for your retirement goals, the sooner you’ll be able to achieve them.

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6 Reasons Why Failure May Just Be the Key to Success

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

For many people, the word “failure” comes with a negative connotation. Hearing that word could mean to some that you have given up, weren’t successful, and are now overwhelmed with feelings of dread, guilt, and sadness. But did you know that J.K. Rowling was rejected by twelve publishers before publishing Harry Potter and the Sorcerers’ Stone? What about the fact that Walt Disney’s first company, Laugh-O-Gram, went bankrupt or that Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team? Failure happens to everyone, but the key to success is to learn from it. Learning from failure is hard because it means you are admitting that you failed, and something didn’t work out as planned, and that’s okay. Here are some pieces of advice to help make it a little easier to use failure as a step to success.

1. First, admit you were already a bit successful because you took a risk and stepped out of your comfort zone. Yes, it may not have worked out, but you did something to better yourself and to grow. Also, take note and write down what did go right for next time.

4. Be aware of ways you can prevent failure when possible.

Try to do things as correctly as possible the first time, but utilize your patience and take things slow. This is also important with learning from past failures. You want to try and not make the same mistakes twice. Just because there will be times you fail, doesn’t mean you should not do anything to prevent those failures.

5. Failure can help create opportunity and creativity. When a person fails, new ideas, discoveries, and relationships can be developed, because you are looking at where you have been and where you want to go. Think about an inventor, such as Albert Einstein. When an invention doesn’t succeed at first, the inventor has to find another route to making it succeed.

This route may require you to think outside of the box to find a solution, but will always help you realize something new that could be used for the better.

2. Experience is the best teacher. No one is born perfect at a skill, trait, or profession. They may have been born with the ability to be great at that skill, but it takes practice, risks, and many tries to become an expert.

At some point, a person will fail. Think about failure in terms of a lesson and something that will only help you move forward. Just be sure to never give up until you have accomplished your goals.

6. A person can strengthen various character traits through these missed opportunities. Patience, courage, motivation, and perseverance are a few of the character traits that are involved with a person’s success or failure. Patience and perseverance are related because it can take time to pursue a goal and overcome challenges. Courage and motivation are also related. Think about how you feel when you fail at something. Most people want to give up and forget about it. But it takes courage and motivation to pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, and continue to press forward. It can be hard to be rejected or not have something go as planned time after time, but when that moment of success does happen, it will be sweeter than ever.

3. Give yourself the grace to fail. Many have heard the phrase “being perfect is overrated,” and that is true. No human being will ever be able to succeed in perfection.

Understanding you will make mistakes and fail means you are giving yourself the freedom to try new things and see where they take you. Failure is just a part of life that everyone will have to overcome sometime.

Failure can be a powerful teacher only if a person accepts it. Don’t be afraid to feel the disappointment of failure, but in due time, get back to work, and success will eventually come. Once this happens, a person may realize that failure had to be a stepping stone in order for them to be successful. In fact, Steve Jobs once said, “I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.”

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Decorating Do’s

“Decorating is all about the things you do; the colors you choose, the furniture you love, and the accents you choose to finish off your space to get the perfect look you’ve been waiting for.” ~ Lauren Flanagant

Helping my clients make wise decorating choices for their home is an opportunity I don’t take lightly.

Some of the best reasons to give ReDESIGNS by Ava a call are because there are so many choices out there, and most of the time, clients don’t have a clue about where to start. The goal of my business is to help people create a beautiful place where they can come to be loved, refreshed, and encouraged.

I only sell my service and that includes assisting my clients in making budget-friendly decisions.

So many times, a client just needs help to create a plan and then he or she takes it from there.

I write this column each month to give you the tools to make wise decisions that will help you to create a beautiful home. Here are a few ‘decorating do’s’ to help you do just that: • Do choose furniture pieces that fit the space. When shopping for new pieces, don’t forget to bring room measurements with you.

And please don’t buy just because it’s a good deal!

• Do hang a mirror where it reflects beauty. Over a fireplace mantle is not always a good place if all the mirror reflects is the ceiling or worse, the ceiling fan.

• Do splurge on a quality piece you really love. You are likely to keep it forever.

• Do pull collections together.

Consider editing your collection to help showcase your favorites.

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• Do use lamps or floor lamps to cozy up a room. Using at least three lamps in a room placed to form a triangle will help distribute the light around the room. Yes, even do this in a bedroom.

• Do define the use of your space with the placement of furniture in your room. You may need to pull furniture away from the wall to create conversation areas.

• Do use the right size rug for your space. In a conversation area, the rug should extend under both sides of the seating area. Under a dining table, the rug should extend 2’ on all sides of the table, and this will allow space to pull the chair out and still be on the rug. Under a bed, the rug should extend 2’ on either side of the bed, go 2/3’s of the way under the bed and extend 3’ to 4’ at the foot of the bed.

• Do hang pictures at the right level. Find the vertical middle of the picture and if the picture will be viewed standing, the middle should be 60” from the floor. If viewing the picture while seated, the middle should be 57” from the floor.

• Do know when to quit.

No need to overdo on furniture and accessories: keep it simple!

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Wood Ash & It’s Many Uses

BY LISA S.T. DOSS The enjoyment of a roaring fire continues to be a preferred pastime, whether its from the fireplace or backyard firepit. Despite the dust from the residual remnants, the collected scoops contain one of nature’s amazing gifts. Long before baking soda arrived, wood ash preserved foods, amended gardens, provided natural pest control, leavened baked goods and was an essential ingredient for soapmaking.

The minerals, calcium, potassium, aluminum, magnesium, phosphorous and sodium, act as a liming agent to neutralize acidic soils, but that’s not all it can do. The next time you have a full bucket, apply the following uses to your garden and home!

GARDEN Boosting Nutrients in the Compost: The term “potash” contains a potassium source, a building block of plant health. It comes from soaking ashes in water. As the letter “K” represents the alkali metal, potassium, it achieves a balance of PH levels. A less acidic compost creates the ideal environment for earthworms and increases the decomposition process. As a result, wood ash will ultimately nourish your garden, plants and trees.

Avoid acid-loving crops, such as blueberries, rhododendrons, azaleas and potatoes.

Tip: If you live in a location of omnivores, such as bears, spreading a pile of wood ash over the compost prevents animals from entering an open bin.

Calcium Loving Plants: Gardeners often use crushed eggshells and bone meal to prevent a calcium deficiency. Rather than buy bone meal, add a fourth-cup of wood ash to each hole when planting broccoli, cabbage, carrots, cauliflower, celery, lettuce, melons, peppers, potatoes and tomatoes.

Prevent Frost Damage: In containing mineral salts, ash lowers the freezing point of water without damage to a plant’s leaves; therefore, sprinkle your more susceptible vegetables and fruits with ash.

OUTDOORS Winter Miracle Worker: Just remember wood ash when your walkway or vehicle requires a melting agent. A slight sprinkling on icy spots will melt without damage to the soil or concrete.

Pots and Camping: Combining a small amount of wood ash with water creates a weak lye and soap compound to clean the carbon buildup of outdoor pots, pans and coffee pots!

CRITTER DETERRENT Slugs and Snails: Use a natural desiccant to eliminate critters with a high-water content. Just create a thin circle around your plants, and the slugs and snails will not cross the barrier.

Reapply regularly.

Ants: As insects take over the lawn or infesting an object, the easy solution is to sprinkle wood ash. The presence alone forces ants to relocate.

Skunk Odor Remover: As a natural neutralizer of odors, dust cats or dogs with wood ash and allow them to remain outdoors for a few hours before giving the pet a thorough bath.

Tip: For outdoor animals, dogs, cats, rabbits, cows and chickens, a dust bath of wood ash is an effective way to control fleas and ticks.

HOME Remove Indoor Humidity: Think of the purpose of baking soda; it absorbs odors from the air. Wood ash also absorbs moisture; therefore, place a small bowl in your refrigerator or musty room, such as a basement or poorly ventilated bathroom, to increase the air quality. One recommendation – check the container regularly.

Tip: Try placing a container in a dark corner to repel bugs.

Glass Cleaner: Combining wood ash with water removes soot from glass panels. The paste also cleans cloudy headlights!

Silver Polish: After dampening a towel, add a small amount of wood ash. This combination polishes tarnished silver!

Absorbs Oil Spills: Since wood ash removes flakes of paint from concrete, it can also take-in other spills, especially oil!

BEST WOOD OPTIONS Although plentiful in North Carolina, softwood trees, such as cypress, pine or fir result in a short burn, high levels of smoke and creosote buildup. While not all wood burns hot, slow and clean, the best types of hardwoods are maple, oak, ash, birch and fruit trees.

If cured, the wood ash provides the highest level of nutrients.

BUCKET OF SAFETY Fires result each year from the improper disposal of ashes. Winds often arrive to uncover embers and ignite a forest, field or structural fire.

It’s vital to wait several days until the embers cool before dumping the contents from a galvanized metal bucket, spreading and soaking with water! For added safety, never cover ashes!

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DR. CHERE GREGORY, A PRESCRIPTION FOR CHANGE

Our community is blessed to hear the voice of Dr. Chere Gregory, a voice of empathy and compassion for our community. She has been the “Total Package” her entire life, despite being told as a young black female that she “couldn’t”. Whatever goal she was told she could not reach, she did.

Chere Gregory, MD, MHS, is the Senior Vice President and Chief Health Equity Officer for Novant Health. Dr. Gregory received a bachelor’s degree at Brown University, a master’s in health finance and Management at The Johns Hopkins University Bloomberg School of Public Health, and her medical degree at the University of Maryland School of Medicine.

She completed her neurology residency at Case Western Reserve University and was the first African American woman to complete a fellowship in neurocritical care at The Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine. Recruited by Novant Health in 2003, Dr. Gregory built, from the ground up, the Neurosciences Research Center, the first Joint Commission Certified Primary Stroke Center in the Carolinas, and the Stroke and Neurocritical Care Unit. She is most proud of the Comprehensive Stroke Center and Neuro ICU, as she was the first African American female in the country to design and direct a Neurocritical Care Unit. And while these accomplishments are impressive Dr. Gregory will share that as her grandmother would say that “we are not seeing you saving lives but witnessing God’s work saving lives.”

Both Dr. Gregory’s mother and grandmother were strong women of tremendous faith. They started her on a life’s journey feeling loved, supported, and empowered to reach any goal. Moving from North Carolina to New Jersey for better opportunities, her mother placed a list of the top 20 colleges on the refrigerator when Dr. Gregory was only two years old, and she returned to college herself when Dr. Gregory was in high school, modeling the high standards needed to overcome societal obstacles. Her mother told her that,” There is only one medal and it’s the gold medal!” They nurtured a belief in herself that pushed her past the many nay-sayers that doubted her abilities and told her she would never go to an Ivy League college or become a doctor because she was black.

She met every goal she had as a child, and along the way, grew in appreciation and understanding of disparities that impact the health of our community. Since joining Novant Health in 2003, she has worked non-stop to provide culturally competent care for every patient, regardless of gender, race, religion, or background. As the co-founder of the Novant Health Maya Angelou Center for Women’s Health and Wellness, she advocated for looking at women beyond babies, breasts, and bones. She believes in the importance of education on social determinants of health.

Social determinants of health are the economic and social conditions that influence individual and group

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differences in health status. They are the healthpromoting factors found in one’s living and working conditions (such as the distribution of income, wealth, influence, and power), rather than individual risk factors (such as behavioral risk factors or genetics) that influence the risk for a disease, or vulnerability to disease or injury, along with the need to identify implicit bias (unconsciously-held set of associations about a social group.) She believes that the most significant healthcare disparity is the lack of social justice.

In her current role as Chief Health Equity Officer at Novant Health, she researches the interconnectedness between social determinants of health and health outcomes. For example, the odds for better health are stacked against someone without transportation who has to take one bus for 30 minutes just to get groceries and then two more buses in order to buy medication at a pharmacy, before catching a bus home. In our community, as well as around our country, people who experience microaggressions (intentional or unintentional slights or insults toward any group) suffer from higher levels of hypertension, obesity, and chronic illnesses related to the daily mental stress of battling social injustices. She urges us to understand and address the disparities in our community, acknowledging that we spend most of our lives in the community and not in a doctor’s office, so that is where change can have the biggest impact on health. She recommends a TED talk entitled, “How Racism Makes Us Sick” by David R. Williams, to gain insight on the connection between social injustice community and health.

When Dr. Gregory thinks of the community, she reflects on her home. When her mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease at the age of 55, Dr. Gregory brought both her mother and grandmother to North Carolina to be their caregiver. Every morning, her mother would ask her where she was off to and would experience the surprise of hearing that her daughter was a doctor and on her way to the hospital and wonder why no one had told her sooner. She experienced the daily joy of knowing that her belief in her little girl helped her reach her dreams. As Dr. Gregory’s voice continues to improve the health of our community, she also passes on the lessons in selfbelief from her mother and grandmother to her 5-year old twin boys. Knowing that she makes a positive impact on the lives she touches and the family that she loves helps Dr. Gregory get up every morning, excited to make a difference. She is our community’s “total package” and a voice we should listen to!

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Bra or No Bra? That is the Question!

BY CAROLYN S PETERSON

Depending on your age, you either participated in or heard of the days of bra-burning, when women decided to free themselves of the confines placed on ‘the girls’ every day. We all can remember the anticipation of getting your ‘training’ bra (which has always sounded strange because, in 53 years, I don’t think I’ve trained them to do anything, but, I digress). That first shopping trip with your mom to help you enter into the early years of womanhood was a big deal. The only moment that matches that first bra-wearing moment is every one thereafter, especially when you get of a certain age, and you can’t wait to take your bra off at the end of each day. Over the years, bras lose their novelty and many women just decide to forego even wearing one, so are there reasons to wear or not to wear a bra?

WITHOUT A BRA, ‘CASUAL FRIDAY’ TAKES ON A WHOLE OTHER MEANING With many of us working from home these days, ‘Casual Friday’ occurs every day and many people have become more casual with the choice of bra or no bra. If you choose to go without a bra, how does that affect breast tissue? Well, like many topics, the jury is out on this one. One school of boob-boosting thought is that when you go without support for an extended period of time, the tissue pulls away from its anchor, the chest wall, and can become saggy. The other side of the argument is that sagging is more likely to occur based on the density of your breasts; if they have more fat than fibrous tissue (i.e., larger), they’re more likely to sag, and for smaller breasted women, there’s no structural benefit to wearing a bra. Like in most areas of our lives, weight, genetics, and stage of life also play a role in breast tissue.

slinging it far and wide, hitting the dog in the head. There’s really something about that moment when you get your bra off and have nothing restraining the ‘girls.’

Call it power or freedom, it’s a great feeling, and we all look forward to it at the end of each day.

IS WEARING A BRA DURING EXERCISE NECESSARY? While working from home, wearing a bra may be an option, but most researchers agree that if you have breasts of any size, a bra worn during a period of exercise is a must-have. As it turns out, a high-impact workout can do some serious damage to your breast tissue if not properly supported, and please don’t choose an old, worn-out bra with little support to get you through Zumba. The up and down bouncing that comes with many impact aerobic workouts can do damage to your breasts. It is recommended that the best bra for a workout is one with definition and separation for each breast, not the uniboob compression style. Not that anyone has ever noticed, but breast tissue moves in a ‘figure-eight pattern’ during most types of exercise, so separate cups will offer more protection. Who knew, right? I felt for sure mine were in a left to right pattern.

A BRA THAT DOESN’T FIT IS BETTER THAN NO BRA AT ALL….

RIGHT?

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BY NOT WEARING A BRA?

Can you believe that up to 80% of women wear the wrong size bra? This can lead to a multitude of issues. If you are experiencing headaches or back pain, it could be traced back to an ill-fitting bra. Too tight or too loose can cause strain on the back and the chest wall, leading to back pain. Neck pain has also been associated with the wrong size bra, so invest the time to get measured to ensure you’re wearing the right size and style of bra for the most comfort.

We’ve all been sitting in traffic at the end of a workday, feeling the tightness of our bra. It seems the longer we sit, the more irritated we get. So you reach and unhook that puppy, and all of a sudden, the angels sing. For most women, their bra is the first thing they remove when they get home, pulling it out of their sleeve,

The key idea in all of this is ‘comfort.’ In this strange world that we’ve been living in where bras are actually more optional than ever, it’s important to do what works for you. If not wearing a bra for a while will bring you comfort, then so be it. Your ‘girls’ will be okay and so will you.

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mbrace Literacy Through National Read a Book Day

BY ELISA WALLACE COPPEDET

Reading is a hobby many enjoy to unwind and escape reality. During these pandemic days, there is nothing better than curling up with a good cup of tea or alcoholic drink and diving into a great story. While the days feel so uncertain for many of us, reading can be the one constant. An engaging and beautifully written story pleases all and can help those who are struggling with the feelings that come with being quarantined, break free from their gloom. Even if it is only for a bit.

With all this said, one can see why book lovers unite every September 6th, during National Read a Book Day. The national event, created to raise awareness of the importance of literacy, also is the perfect opportunity to set aside a little time to catch up on our “to read” list. While this national celebration’s exact origins are not clear, one thing is for sure – those in the U.S. do enjoy reading! And, for many, this is a welcomed day because 81% of us do not feel we spend as much time reading as we would like.

FIND THE BEST METHOD FOR YOUR LIFESTYLE.

Some may enjoy this celebration as part of a book club they belong to. The popularity of book clubs among both women and men has been on the rise for many years. However, not many realize that they date back to the 1600s with women’s Bible studies. Thanks to Oprah’s Book Club, reading within a book club has taken a much more social element. The club officially began in 1996, with Oprah recommending one book for viewers to read over the course of a month. During that month, readers could discuss and dissect the plot through questions. By the end of its 15 years, Oprah’s Book Club recommended 70 books, contributing to more than $55 million in sales. The club has also inspired millions to get together to discuss and read new books.

KEEP A STEADY LIST GOING!

While reading with a book club may be a fun method for some during National Read a Book Day, others may find this a time to do some solo reading and venture out to read something new and fresh. No matter how you decide to embrace reading, it is vital for all to focus on finding the right book. From historical fiction pieces, to memoirs, to dystopian love stories, National Read a Book Day encourages all to embrace literacy.

What are a few ways to enjoy National Read a Book Day? Read on for five fun ways to enjoy reading during this celebration.

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Who says that you have to read a paperback? Audiobooks & E-books are books, too! If you are a busy new mom or a hard-working professional, all of those who are strapped for time can embrace literacy by checking out a new audiobook. Audible.com has thousands of best-selling books, sure to make your late-night nursing or morning commute go by in a flash. Listening is the new reading! If audiobooks are not your thing, e-books is another great method to check out a new book. Do not have time to get to the library?

Check out a new book through one of their many platforms, like OverDrive, Hoopla or EBSCO eBooks.

It is easy to forget a friend’s recommendation, so why not store the books you want to check out immediately? If you have an Amazon account, you can simply put the recommended book in your shopping cart, not buying it until ready. If you use your public library, try adding the book to your queue.

There is also always the old-fashioned way, too. Keep a paper list handy to write those new titles down!

DO NOT LEAVE HOME WITHOUT IT! Kindle books are so easy, as you can read your new best-seller from the comfort of your phone! Waiting for your doctor’s appointment? Enjoy this quiet time by reading. Reading a new book is a much better use of time than social media scrolling!

READ WHAT YOU LOVE. While book clubs are a fantastic way to get friends together to discuss the latest hot book, it is also perfectly fine to want to read what YOU pick out on your own. This said, do not let your friends make you feel embarrassed about wanting to check out a new romance book. If that is what you want to read, do it! Dying to read a new young adult vampire piece? Do it! Reading something you choose is the least guilty pleasure one can have.

SET THE MOOD. If you enjoy reading at night, make sure to have ample soft lighting, possible light music and even a candle or two. This can help you relax and enjoy what the author has written for you. It is also important to choose a time and place where you are not distracted and can just enjoy your book.

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Dear Friends, Last year, Christy and I led the inaugural RISE Against Domestic Violence Campaign for Family Services. We raised over $60,000 and brought 180 new donors to Family Services. With this success, it was easy to say yes when Family Services asked us to lead the effort again in 2020. In case you didn’t know, Family Services has been around for more than 100 years and continues to do very important work in Forsyth County. For example, they serve more than 3,800 victims a year. They have managed the Domestic Violence Shelter since 1988, and last year provided safe shelter to 188 women and children. The community need is great, and with the first year’s success of RISE, we knew we could have an even bigger and better 2nd year!

Then … COVID-19.

Nothing has been the same, and it seems as though it will still be a while before things are able to return to some sense of normal. As small business owners, we understand the toll this pandemic has had on the economy. Like many of you, we are living month to month, adjusting as we go and trying to figure out the best way to stay healthy, keep our customers and clients safe, and remain in business.

However, these uncertain times have not diminished our passion for the work of Family Services. Just the opposite.

We know once we emerge from the pandemic, the services needed by the community will be even greater.

On a Zoom call with Family Services, we were told the number of hotline calls was down during the onset of COVID, and we initially thought that was good news.

Then they explained the calls were down because the abused were now trapped at home with their abuser. For these victims, the already small window of opportunity for help had just disappeared.

This is why we are reaching out to you today. Help us continue to ensure Family Services is ready and able to provide the much-needed services to this community.

A gift in any amount is greatly appreciated and can be made online at RISEforsyth.org.

Christy Cox Spencer Small Business Owner Community Advocate 2020 RISE Co-Chair

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Reimagining Life and Work

BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I’ve been asking myself, “What’s going on with my pedal to the metal girls?” The women who, like me, have worked for many decades and seem to be experiencing a seismic shift.

They, “we,” are everywhere, excelling at the built-in discipline of work, the continuity and focused persistence that pays the bills, provides for tomorrow (we hope), and keeps us sane in some weird and mostly-fulfilling way.

As I venture out more often, having conversations with women who own and operate their own small businesses, hold more traditional corporate jobs, or who work in healthcare, retail, and other frontline roles, a new thread is emerging. Many of these women tell me that they don’t want to go back to work as it was. Let me clarify: it isn’t that they’ve lost or abandoned their work ethic. It’s that they’ve discovered something else: a different way of working, living, and being, one more in sync with who they are or have always been. For some, it is exhilarating, for many surprising, and for still others, somewhat baffling.

“Work-life balance” is a term we’ve used to capture a state that respects the human need to make your living and to live your life. Now, as millions have been “sent home to work,” many are realizing that they can create a life of “balance” where the personal and the professional co-exist in greater harmony and integration. This may not be “news” for those of us who have long worked from home, but it is a revelation to many. I’ve heard: “It’s scary. It feels like subterfuge, like this can’t be okay.” Ah, but it is. The traditional construct where work exists in one box and life in another worked

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more-or-less, but it was always a bit of an illusion. Who didn’t handle personal matters and certainly mini-crises from work?

Who didn’t respond to emails and worked on PowerPoint presentations at 10 p.m. from home? Life – and work – don’t lend themselves to a hard and fast construct of time and place.

One by one, and in our own unique way, we are discovering that we can work productively, and, as the research tells us, often more productively from home while living and enjoying our lives more fully. With the support of our friends, coworkers, and sometimes, our boss, we find our rhythm.

The initial shock and disorientation of “being sent home to work,” and sheltering in place have worn off and transformed into something new. In my neighborhood, a mix of young couples with dogs, families with grade school kids, and older working and retired folks, I am observing a fresh energy. People I’ve seen only in passing or never before are roller-blading, bike-riding, dog-walking – sometimes while conference-calling. For the most part, they are waving and smiling. It’s a beautiful thing. This experience we know as COVID-19 has challenged our conventions and our constructs.

It has blurred the lines between work and home, school, and home, strangers, and neighbors. I don’t have to look far to see the potential, lasting good in all of this. I hope we never go back to things as they were. I hope that we sustain the courage and the creativity to reimagine how we live and how we work. I hope we use social media less and make more time for congregating and connecting in real-time in our suburban and urban neighborhoods. Here’s to you, my “pedal to the metal girls” who are doing just that!

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Planning for a Pandemic Relapse

BY LAUREN SEPHTON The winter season will be here before you know it, and to ensure that you enjoy the holiday season free from worry, we have put together some recommendations that’ll prepare both your body and household for a potential pandemic relapse.

PREPARING YOUR BODY

PREPARING YOUR HOME

MAKING A LIST OF THE ESSENTIALS

The key to fighting any winter cold or illness is preparing a healthy foundation for your body before the germs set in.

As you spend more and more time inside during the colder months to come, there are a few suggestions that’ll keep you and your family safe, healthy, and comfortable.

By now, you are more than likely a pro at grocery shopping for your family! However, if you need a little refresh, we have a short list below of essentials for your winter pantry to prepare ahead of time.

• Wash your hands and wipe down your phone to prevent spreading germs.

• Test out new workout routines and/ or indoor activities to find the one(s) you enjoy the most to keep you active throughout the winter months.

• Take a multivitamin that is high in Vitamin D, Zinc, and Vitamin C, the immunity superstar, to support various body functions.

• Add a little zing to your dinners or morning routine by incorporating ginger root, which has powerful antioxidants to provide a variety of benefits, such as helping to increase blood circulation, ease breathing during sickness, and soothe an upset stomach.

• Make a list of some pantry essentials that you have found to be most to helpful have on hand this year. If possible, try to slowly start stocking up on these essentials to prevent any panic shopping.

• Maintain a clean home environment by setting aside 30 minutes each night to disinfect and clean any surfaces that are regularly used to prevent spreading germs.

• Make sure your smoke detector and carbon monoxide detector alarms are working in case any deadly gas is present, since you will be at home more frequently.

• Think ahead about any household members that have an increased risk for a severe illness, and talk to them about planning ahead for ways to care for them and keep them comfortable in case of serious complications.

• Staying properly hydrated with water is key to a healthy body and illness prevention, as moisture inside the nose will trap pollutants from airborne viruses from entering into the lungs.

• Find people that you can trust and depend on to understand ways that you can help each other during the winter months. It could be your good neighbor or other people you trust. Also, think of ideas like dropping off weekly groceries, driving people to medical appointments, sending care packages, or simply checking up on them to help keep them socially active in the safest manner. It can make a world of difference during this time.

• As your mother probably told you a million times growing up, keep your fingers out of your mouth. Try to avoid touching your mouth, eyes, and nose with unwashed hands.

• Plan educational activities and entertainment for potential early school releases. Try setting up a small playroom area that provides your kids with a separate area to keep themselves entertained while working from home.

• Invest in a hydrating moisturizer and/ or humidifier to keep moisture from evaporating from your skin, which can strengthen your body so it’s less vulnerable to airborne viruses.

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Pasta, Grains, and Cereals Old-fashioned rolled oats are perfect for warm morning porridge, brown rice is perfect to serve with hearty stews, barley adds great nuttiness to soups, Arborio rice makes creamy risottos, and handcrafted whole grain pastas bring comfort food dreams to life.

Canned and Packaged Goods Canned, fire-roasted tomatoes can add great depth and flavor to your winter soups, bone broth and stock are vital your health, miso is perfect for Asian noodle dishes, and dried legumes add great proteins to your meals. Olive oil is extremely versatile in a variety of recipes, honey and maple syrup are healthier sweeteners that can assist in cold prevention drinks, and cocoa powder makes deliciously comforting drinks for those bitter cold evenings.

Herbs and Spices Consider starting with the basics of dried mixed herbs and ground cumin, which perfectly pair with lemon juice for a simple winter stew, as well as curry powder, ground turmeric, chili powder, cinnamon, and nutmeg to make just about any meal burst with flavor.

Cleaning Supplies Try to always keep on hand a few disinfectant cleaners to consistently clean those well-used surfaces and doorknobs to prevent spreading any bacteria.

With this little refresh reminder, you can hold your head high as you are well prepared for the future’s uncertainty.

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When you want to enjoy great food at a reasonable price, in a trendy setting like downtown Winston-Salem… Look no further than Young Cardinal Café! I was recently invited to sample some of their dishes. And frankly, when I learned that it’s a breakfast and lunch café, they could have stopped right there. They had me at breakfast. But the fact that they are a sister-restaurant to Jeffrey Adams (YUM!) and The Trophy Room (Fabulous!)? Well, I knew I would be in for a great experience!

Even though Young Cardinal Café is known as a breakfast and lunch stop, they also have an incredible cocktail menu, including mimosas and Bloody Marys, which are the perfect addition for brunch! Additionally, they have a complete selection of wine and beer options from which to choose.

One of the first things you’ll notice upon arrival is the beautiful sidewalk dining. While we ate inside because, hello – it was July when we did this review – there is a charm and elegance about sidewalk dining on such a lovely corner of Fourth Street. If outdoor dining is your thing – then you’ll absolutely love the ambiance at Young Cardinal Café!

But the inside is great, too! Clean lines, simplistic in nature – it’s a comfortable place to gather with family and friends.

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The first thing we sampled was Huevos Rancheros. And honestly, I wish we hadn’t started here. This is exactly what I would have ordered for myself if I hadn’t been there for Rosey’s Review. So, it was very hard to only take a few bites and then send it on its way. Served on a bed of corn tortilla, the Huevos Rancheros were piled high with pulled pork, pinto beans, and two eggs.

Then, because they clearly know what they are doing, a masterful blend of flavors from fresh avocado, pico de gallo, and queso fresco completes this masterpiece of breakfast dining. Seriously, it hurt my heart to see this one go…

Our next entrée was the Chef’s Choice Avocado Toast of the Day. While I typically don’t write about things that our readers may not be able to try for themselves, this is a rotating menu item, meaning – just trust the chef. He’s not going to disappoint. The presentation was gorgeous!

We were served two thick slices of toasted bread that was generously covered in smashed avocado. Then, in an unexpectedly creative twist, the chef topped that with seared tuna, dragon fruit, mango, and a sunny side up egg.

Y’all, it was both delicious and delightful.

The third breakfast entrée we sampled was a Pimento Cheese Omelet with Ham. But before I get into the details, let’s just say there are so many omelet options – if you’re an omelet fan, you could easily go every day for a month and have something new every time. Their Build Your Own Omelet menu includes cheese options… veggie options… and meat options.

The possibilities are incredible! The chef chose our omelet combination, and he has exceptional taste. Both creamy and hearty, this omelet also packed a spicy punch! This was clearly not your grandma’s store-bought pimento cheese! It was the good stuff! Furthermore, the omelet was served with a side of decadently delicious hash browns, as well as a good ‘ole fashioned southern-style biscuit covered in sausage gravy!

It was a breakfast to make any Southerner proud!

As I mentioned earlier, the Huevos Rancheros had my heart at first bite, but if it’s possible to have breakfast, and then order breakfast for dessert, look no further than the Nutella and Banana Pancake. This is the kind of deliciousness that ruins diets, people. And every single calorie is worth it. This pancake is so big that it covers the plate entirely. It’s packed full of fresh bananas and topped with a generous dollop of Nutella and decorated with more bananas. And if that wasn’t enough sweetness for you, top the whole thing off with butter and syrup!

We moved out of breakfast mode and finished off our review with a hearty Cardinal Cuban sandwich. What is it about a great Cuban sandwich? When they are made – they are great. When they are made well – they are exceptional. Pulled pork is piled high on a thick slice of bread and topped with ham, pickles, Swiss cheese, and dark ale mustard.

They served this Cuban with an order of fries that are those perfect kind of fries…. Crispy on the outside but melt-in-your-mouth delicious on the inside.

And after all that – the rest of my day was shot.

What can I say, friends? Food comas are a side-effect of the job. But I encourage you to sample Young Cardinal Café for yourself. This is destined to be a Winston-Salem classic and is a prime example of what makes our foodie town unique! So, go see them soon! And let them know that Rosey sent ya!

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Alzheimer’s Association Charity Spotlight

BY ALZHEIMER’S ASSOCIATION, WESTERN CAROLINA CHAPTER

Alzheimer’s disease is the sixth leading cause of death in the United States. More than five million Americans are living with the disease. With that number estimated to nearly triple by year 2050, the Alzheimer’s Association works diligently to serve the 180,000 North Carolina residents living with the disease and the 479,000 family and friends who provide care to them.

The Alzheimer’s Association is the leading voluntary health organization in Alzheimer’s care, support, and research. The Association provides patient and family services, information and referral, education, support, and advocacy across North Carolina.

Its services range from a 24/7 Helpline, support groups, and educational programs to MedicAlert®.

While the on-going coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic still threatens the health of millions in this country and around the world, it continues to create additional challenges for people living with Alzheimer’s and all dementia, their families and caregivers across the state.

The Alzheimer’s Association chapters in North Carolina offer free virtual education programs and online support groups to help all N.C. caregivers and their families. Launched in May in response to the impact COVID-19 was having on those affected by dementia, the Association now offers education programs that can help those living with Alzheimer’s and their families understand what to expect so they can be prepared to meet the changes ahead.

The Alzheimer’s Association can continue to provide care and support to families during these difficult times while also advancing critical research toward methods of treatment and prevention thanks to community support. The following are some of the many opportunities to get involved locally and make a difference in supporting the organization’s vision of a world without Alzheimer’s:

WALK TO END ALZHEIMER’S® The Walk to End Alzheimer’s, which attracts thousands each year to raise awareness and funds to fight Alzheimer’s disease, will look different this year. Instead of hosting a large gathering, the Alzheimer’s Association – Western Carolina Chapter is encouraging participants to walk as individuals or in small groups on sidewalks, tracks, and trails across the state.

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This year’s Walk will include three components. On Walk day, an Opening Ceremony will feature local speakers and a presentation of Promise Flowers to honor the personal reasons participants join together to fight Alzheimer’s and all other dementia, all delivered to participants’ smartphones, tablets, and computers. Next, everyone will walk in their own neighborhoods with their family and friends.

Finally, the Alzheimer’s Association will create the iconic Promise Garden in a “view only” format that participants can drive by on Walk day to honor all those impacted by Alzheimer’s.

The Alzheimer’s Association hosts 19 walks across North Carolina, including three in the Triad area: Alamance County (September 26), Guilford County (October 17), and Winston-Salem (October 3). To sign up as a walker or team captain or to learn more about becoming a sponsor of Walk to End Alzheimer’s, visit alz.org/walk or call 800-282-3900.

VOLUNTEER OPPORTUNITIES Both of the following opportunities are urgent volunteer needs of the Association that are being offered virtually and can convert back to in-person experiences eventually.

Public Policy Volunteer — Join the Association’s public policy volunteer team who help improve the quality of care and quality of life for people with Alzheimer’s disease and their families by carrying their message to elected officials at the state and federal levels. Training is provided, political experience is not required and efforts are strictly bipartisan. Visit alzimpact.org/volunteer.

Alzheimer’s Association Community Educators — Be part of the team of trained volunteer Community Educators who assist with education and outreach programs as well as provide support to families living with dementia. Visit volunteer.alz.org/home.

The Alzheimer’s Association, Western Carolina Chapter provides patient and family services, information and referral, education, and advocacy in 49 central and western North Carolina counties.

For more information about Alzheimer’s disease or the Alzheimer’s Association Western Carolina Chapter, visit alz.org/northcarolina or call (800) 272-3900.

Lanie Pope — Forecasting Hope for Alzheimer’s

BY MADISON ROBERTS

When Lanie Pope was growing up, her mom was the center of her world.

“She had a laugh you could hear down the street,” Lanie says. “She could carry on a conversation with a wall and was very down to earth. Really, she was just pure joy.”

Lanie, chief meteorologist for WXII 12 news and Winston-Salem resident, continues, “She was a dancer, not a professional or even someone who took ballet or tap, but if the music was on, she was dancing and singing around the house.”

However, when her mom was 56, Lanie started to notice differences in her mom’s spirit. At first, Lanie considered that her mom might be facing depression, but when she started digging deeper into what was going on, she realized it was much more than that.

“My mom had always kept a clean house,” Lanie says. “If you dropped a sock, it was up before you even knew you dropped it. But when I was in college, I went back to visit and it was not the home I remembered growing up in.”

Then, Lanie began helping out with her mom’s antique store and learned that she was behind on bills, and she hadn’t paid her mortgage.

“She was in her fifties, so Alzheimer’s never even crossed my mind,” Lanie says.

However, that was the diagnosis her mom had been given.

Lanie began looking for answers and tips on how to handle the caregiving journey and specific information about youngeronset Alzheimer’s disease, which is a form of dementia that affects individuals under the age of 65. The Alzheimer’s Association provided her with the resources she needed, including reliable online information about the disease, education workshops, and support groups.

“This epidemic is crippling our mental health industry,” Lanie says. “But it’s not just the people who are living with the disease who need support. My mother, for the most part during her journey, had no idea what was going on. It’s the caregivers and the family who really need love and support, and the Alzheimer’s Association provides services that help both the patient and the caregiver.”

After her mom passed away in 2009, Lanie decided she wanted to help other families facing the journey she had just taken through her mom’s diagnosis. She served on the board for the Alzheimer’s Association in North Carolina and became the emcee at the local Walk to End Alzheimer’s - Winston-Salem.

The Walk to End Alzheimer’s® raises money for research, and many of the services Lanie found so useful that the Alzheimer’s Association provides, including a 24/7 Helpline (800.272.3900).

However, for Lanie, the Walk is more than just a fundraiser: it’s a way for her to honor her mom and lend support to

others who have experienced a similar journey.

“I like to say that when I was going through this, I felt like I was treading water, and the water was right at my nose and I was about to drown. The Walk is my way of pressing pause on my life and remembering what it was like during my caregiving journey and to use my experience to help others emotionally.”

Walk to End Alzheimer’s - WinstonSalem, which attracts thousands each year to raise awareness and funds to fight Alzheimer’s disease, will look different this year. It will still occur on October 3, but instead of hosting a large gathering, participants will walk as individuals or in small groups on sidewalks, tracks, and trails across Forsyth County. But a difference on Walk day won’t stop Lanie from spreading the word and fighting to end this disease.

“Honestly, this year, I am hopeful because the Walk to End Alzheimer’s will be an opportunity for families to bond even more on a different level and pay tribute to their loved ones in a safe environment,” she says. “This is a way for people to celebrate in their communities and perhaps get more people involved. I am excited about that.”

To join Lanie, sign up as a walker, team captain, or sponsor of Walk to End Alzheimer’s – Winston-Salem at act.alz.org/WinstonSalem or by calling 800-272-3900.

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Explore Options for Making Money Online

BY SUSAN B. B. SCHABACKER

Maybe you lost your job or need another stream of income. Or, maybe you just want some extra spending money. Good news! There are options for working online and from home to support yourself and your family financially.

First, conduct a personal assessment and decide what you are best at. Stick with two main things: 1) what you love, and 2) what you are good at. Hopefully, they go hand-in-hand. You’ll be a lot better off when you have a strong sense of who you are.

BE BOSS OF YOUR OWN BIZ Rather be your own boss? Consider becoming an entrepreneur, starting your own business, and working from home. You will save money on transportation and not have to travel far for food and drink. But, before you jump into your new role of becoming a CEO, remember to do your research, plan out your business with a thorough business plan, consider your contacts and prospective customers/clients, and also figure out a plan B in case your business doesn’t pan out. It’s always smart to have a back-up plan.

IT CAN BE TAUGHT! Are you an expert or particularly knowledgeable about something – be it math, music, cooking, or Spanish? You can make money and pass on what you know. There are plenty of opportunities to coach, teach, tutor, and mentor that you can explore. Want to teach a language, but only know English? Consider teaching ESL (English as a Second Language) and work in the comfort and convenience of your own home, teaching students from all around the world.

PRINTS ON PRODUCTS For those who are creative and good at photography and/or graphic design, consider selling your prints online and getting them printed on t-shirts, bags, mugs, and other products that show off your work. Branding can become your business. Enjoy customizing and personalizing? Offer your photography and graphic design services to clients who can make your creative work their own.

TIME TO RESELL? Not everyone wants to buy something that’s brand new. When it comes to books, household goods, and cars, sometimes used items and vehicles can be in high demand. Make a list of all the things you can resell and make note of their condition. Before you just drop ‘em off at your local

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consignment store or chuck ‘em in the garbage, decide if you want to resell them online. Yes, it can be some extra work to get them listed, follow up with customers and ship them out, but depending on the value of the item, it can be worth the extra effort.

BLOG IT UP! You don’t even need to be good at writing to have your own blog and make money off of it. You can hire a writer or write your own. Keep your voice (and branding) authentic and consistent.

Let it reflect the true and unique you, your brand, and your business.

Check out other blogs and network with other bloggers to keep building your knowledge and resources. Be sure to include visuals with your copy since people are accustomed to being visually stimulated (and enticed). Words alone usually won’t cut it, so add in at least one image and/or video. Want professional photos, but don’t have any? Try a free account on Pixabay.com. Search for keywords and download professional stock photos to use in your blog posts.

OTHER OPTIONS FOR ONLINE MONEY-MAKING Other ways to make money online: online surveys, referral programs, write reviews, write eBooks, sell your music, edit/proofread articles and/or books, become a translator, become a virtual assistant, podcasting, affiliate marketing, sponsored posts, data entry, develop an app, create/edit promotional vids, and design/develop websites.

Think of the world as your oyster! Money doesn’t make the world go ‘round, but we all need it to survive. Enjoy the process and reward yourself along the way. A little positive reinforcement can’t hurt. Be practical, don’t expect too much too soon (be patient) and just do the best you can to make it work. Happy money making! And, even if you’re still low on means, you can always be rich in spirit!

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She received her medical degree from the University of Michigan, did her residency at Baylor College of Medicine and completed a cornea fellowship at Bascom Palmer Eye Institute.

She enjoys running, baking, traveling and spending time with her significant other, Dr. Nimesh Patel.

CAROLINA CORONA

Carolina Corona was born in Veracruz, Mexico. As a child, she did not receive an art education, but she looked for ways to express her creativity and free spirit through craft making and exploring her backyard. When she was ten, she moved to Wilmington, North Carolina. She struggled to settle in her new home, but one thing she loved was receiving art classes. After graduating high school, she moved to Winston-Salem and enrolled at Salem College. She graduated with a bachelor degree in fine arts and art education. After teaching for two years, she decided to dedicate herself to painting and photography. She now owns Corona Fine Art in Winston-Salem. Some of her exhibits and major commissions include the 2020 Bus Shelter Project for the city of Winston-Salem, the 2020 Nature’s Tempo Collaborative Exhibit and the 2019 Salem College Solo Show. In her spare time, she enjoys traveling, photography and doing pro-bono work for local organizations dealing with environmental and mental health issues as well as art organizations.

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Kristi Johnson Marion hails from Mount Airy, NC and has enjoyed living in Forsyth County for more than 20 years. She strives to connect her work with her passion to help others and has had a long career in non-profit public relations working with the North Carolina Zoo and NC Zoo Society, RiverRun International Film Festival, MyWinston-Salem.com and the March of Dimes. She finds fulfillment in being a voice for the mission and good works of outstanding organizations to help them achieve greater success.

Writing has been a large part of her work, and she has been a writer for Forsyth Magazines for more than 10 years. She loves sharing the amazing stories of people, artists, organizations, events and business owners that strengthen our community and make it a better place. She has received Smitty’s Notes Best of Winston-Salem “Mover & Shaker/Local Scenester” Award. She is excited to join the Forsyth Magazines team of account executives and looks forward to helping businesses reach a greater audience. She enjoys spending time with her kids, hiking, kayaking and the martial art of Krav Maga.

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BY LISA S.T DOSS

FIRE ELEMENTALS The cultural knowledge of herbal lore is not entirely lost. The knowledge may still be in our genes, urging to take root and blossom.

It begins by first loving the fragrance and taste of herbs. Take the interest one step further! Start drying leaves and flowers to begin making delicious teas, healing salves, tinctures, poultices and more to promote wellness!

The cultural knowledge of herbal lore is not entirely lost. The experience may still be in our genes, urging to take root and blossom. It begins by first loving the fragrance and taste of herbs. Take the interest one step further! Start drying leaves and flowers to make delicious teas, healing salves, tinctures, poultices and more to promote wellness!

On a shelf in a glass bottle contains a nostalgic memory. The stick-like scrolls bring hot chocolate or cider on cold nights or simmered with a pot of oatmeal. Instantly, the body feels warm, comforted and tingling with excitement. Great-Grandma, Grandma or Mom knew the properties of folk and traditional medicines. Cinnamon, while an indulgent kitchen spice used for flavoring, is also a medicinal plant. It contains phytochemicals, vitamins and well-needed minerals, such as calcium and iron, to boost our healing systems. By knowing folk and traditional medicines, promoting cinnamon was a useful digestive aid, while encouraging a mixture of healing and happiness!

GROW A CINNAMON TREE Allured by the unique shape of exotic leaves, colors or fragrances, North Carolinians can grow a diverse range of plants from the far north to the arid south. If homeowners living in zone seven can feature banana and palm trees, why not consider investing in growing another tropical plant, the Ceylon cinnamon tree? Pruned, it can maintain a maximum height of three to eight feet. Thriving in temperatures above 60 degrees, the Ceylon can withstand a mild frost. The broad, shiny leaves turn red and develop flowers by summer. The birds and bees, attracted to the scent, find the yellow and white blossoms irresistible.

Cultivators chop down the tree at the base after two years to peel strips of the fragrant bark. As it dries, the sticks curl and harden, and are pounded into a powder. Suckers appear and create new growth.

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Burning incense is a ritualistic experience for those who need to soothe the brain’s nerve pathways, encouraging peace and relaxation while reducing heart rhythms. In choosing cinnamon, the mind comes alive with a wellneeded boost of energy and increased intimacy, passion, creativity and mental clarity. Over the centuries to the present day, incense is a tool for meditation, religious practices and clearing away negative energy. As an incense, cinnamon still possesses similar bodily effects as the powdery slice. Through the skin’s pores, the mind releases the thoughts of depression, sadness and pessimism!

ESSENTIAL OIL Uncapping the lid from the bottle labeled “cinnamon bark,” the fragrance offers a woody, spicy and warm scent comprising minerals and vitamins, anti-oxidants, anti-fungal, anti-bacterial and anti-microbial properties. Potent labels suggest some essential oils are digestible and added to teas; however, one small drop can reduce inflammation, infection, rash and pain relief. Diluted within a carrier oil to prevent burning, the application as a rub can ease aching joints, nourish the skin and enhance circulation.

A TEA FOR THE DIGESTIVE SYSTEM In learning about herbal healing, we can feel empowered by knowing that each medicinal herb has a connection to relief.

Under digestive health, teas labeled as black, chamomile, chai, ginger, green and peppermint offer the same antiinflammatory benefits to help with stomach cramps, and intestinal spasms while fighting indigestion, nausea, gas and diarrhea. The potent drink can stimulate circulation, increase energy levels, shorten colds and improve overall well-being.

Cinnamon is a healthy spice and choice! Proven to reduce cholesterol by 18%, sugar levels by 24%, control blood glucose levels and reduces cravings; cinnamon is a better choice than sugar! It contains the third-highest anti-oxidant content to slow down aging.

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Addressing Poor Drainage Issues

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Not everyone welcomes storm warnings with the same level of excitement! With each torrent of pounding rain creates new problems for homeowners. Pooling water arrives in small to semi-large depression areas in the yard or near the foundation. If you daydream about buying rolls of sod to remedy a new problem of algae or mud, first, you need to address an underlying issue – poor draining.

UNDERSTANDING POOR DRAINING In North Carolina, most yards comprise dense areas of clay and a percentage of loam, which combines soil, clay and sand. To better understand, try an experiment using a gallon-sized glass jar, if not larger, preferably with a wide-mouth opening. Dig a six-inch hole, fill the jar, compact it tightly and allow a few inches of available space from the lip. Pour water, set on “shower,” slowly.

If water filters quickly, your soil is well-balanced and includes healthy amounts of organic material. Clay, on the other hand, is a fine-particle material, which expands as it absorbs water. Without organic matter to create spaces for draining, water collects at the surface.

The density level influences the length of time the pool remains, which can span from hours to several days.

STEP ONE, DRAW A MAP Visual representations help pinpoint problem areas and the direction of flowing water. Start by sketching your property, including the house, patios or decking, driveway and other significant features. Does the soil slope from the house outward? Water should never pool near the foundation. Determine if the concrete walkway prevents water from entering the yard. Use lines to indicate high and low spots, and arrows to illustrate the direction of water flow. The goal is not to direct water towards your neighbor’s property, municipal storm sewer or street. Viable solutions are possible without involving your local government.

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ADDRESSING SLOPES, DOWNSPOUTS AND WALKWAYS With an illustration in hand to help resolve problems, focus first on the areas closest to the foundation. Look carefully at the slope of the soil; it should be at a three to six-percent downward slope.

1. Erosion, often, is a culprit leading to water damage or pooling areas near the home. French drains resolve the potential issue in new homes; however, rock draining fields coupled with pipes are effective methods. Alternative solutions require heavy plastic laid inches below the surface and extending three to four feet. Ground cover plants need little soil to grow and add a low-maintenance solution rather than grass.

2. Are downspouts pointing into a flower bed or not long enough to forcefully push the flow away from the house?

Too often, excess water collects in the mulch and seeps back to the foundation. Larger downspouts made from PVC pipe can lead away from the house and empty into a pit of stones underground.

3. Large, mature shrubs may interfere with a clear view of the slope. Are the trunks mere feet away from the block or brick? In most cases, foliage that typically expands 15 feet requires a planting distance of eight feet. It’s wise to remove it. Concrete walkways may require an in-slab draining system with gravel-filled channels to change the course from pooling to flowing away.

LANDSCAPE ALTERNATIVE TO GRASS Depression areas can transition into beautiful eye-catching locations with a bit of effort, creativity and resourcefulness.

Take the attributes you love, which may comprise a wow factor, such as a few large rocks or a creek bed of stones. Imagine surrounding the main attraction with water-tolerant, perennial plants such as Hostas, water hyssop, Iris, canna, elephant’s ear and a variety of ferns. What initially was a problem area could well-become your favorite place in the yard!

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How to be Assertive...Online JEN OLENICZAK BROWN

need some information by the end of the day – demanding the information clearly doesn’t work, but neither does assuming that someone else is going to understand your timeline! When you assume someone knows what you’re looking for, you’re taking a passive-aggressive stance, because you’ll inevitably be angry when they don’t meet your expectations.

STATE ACTION CLEARLY If you need something, stating it clearly is the assertive path. Just like asking versus ordering or assuming, being clear with your ask at the end of your email will yield the best results. If your action item is buried in your email text, it might be missed or confused. When you end with your ask, it’s the last thing they see. By also setting it up as its own line, you don’t chance it being missed.

MOVE CONFLICT TO REAL LIFE Have you heard of the email hydra?

A friend of mine coined that phrase a few years ago – it’s the idea that you go through your email box and send off the emails that you need it, responding to everything – and suddenly, you have an exponential number of replies. Some are necessary and others…clarifying emails because of passive communication on your side. Questions you thought you answered and information you thought was clear (it wasn’t).

How do you defeat the email hydra?

Understanding that you can’t vanquish all of the heads is step one, and targeting the ones you can is the best place to start.

Some emails are always going to come back for the last word or confirmation – others can be cleared up on your end by practicing assertive communication.

First off, assertive communication is best categorized by the phrase “I win; you win.” You’re looking out for the clearest possible outcome that benefits you AND the person you’re talking to. Aside from

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that phrase, there are several tips to move the needle of online communication towards assertiveness.

USE “I” STATEMENTS When you’re sending an email to another person, thinking and writing in “I” statements often removes misunderstandings and confusion. If you mean something and it’s coming from you, present it with an “I.” Before you send your email, think about what you want and how you feel. When you’re writing your email, keep that and what the other person wants in mind. That’s a key difference between aggressive and assertive communication: aggressive focuses on what you want, assertive focuses on what you both want.

Make those “I” statements equitable and state them clearly, in writing.

ASK, DON’T ORDER If what you want needs to be done by the other person, be sure that you’re asking for it versus ordering or assuming. Say you

Email is no place for conflict. Several strategies are helpful when someone is being manipulative in person: if someone is emotional, you can do something called “fogging.” Fogging is relatively easy – you pull out factual information and restate it back to the emotional person.

Another technique, if someone is ignoring you and your questions, is very much like a broken record: you repeat your question or statement without additional information or emotion – just a restate.

Nothing more or less.

Neither of these techniques work over email without considerable back and forth.

When things get misunderstood or emotional, it’s best to move the conversation offline: if that’s hopping on the phone or talking in person or on video, you need to relocate.

Emotions over email are hard to navigate, and the moment they run high, misunderstandings happen. Take a breath, move the conversation, and save yourself the headache.

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Build a Better Business Culture:

EMPOWER•YOUR•EMPLOYEES

BY ADELE CASANOVA

The two most valuable assets of a business are the employees and the culture. Employees get the work done.

They produce goods and services and serve the end-users. They are essential to success. The business’s culture is composed of the values, beliefs, and visions of the management. It is manifested in the working habits, manners, and style of the organization. A strong, successful business culture must be communicated to the employees by management and embraced by the employees who will then bring it to life. This embracing of the culture by employees has a direct effect on customer perception and satisfaction.

How does management of a company succeed in getting employees to own and perpetuate a business culture? Management must lead, first by example, demonstrating the company’s and culture’s values, and then by investing in employees for their own successes within the company.

Here is how:

EMPOWER EMPLOYEES The individual success of each employee within the company should be a number one goal of management. When people feel personally empowered to succeed, they are motivated to do so. This empowerment comes from adequate ongoing training and support. Inspiring employees to continue to learn and improve leads to additional success. Employees must know that management supports them with any tools needed for success. These can include training techniques, essential products needed to complete tasks and clear documentation of expectations. Employees can be inspired to succeed using the values held and enacted by management. Employees can actually learn to be leaders themselves when they are led to success by an investing management.

VALUE EMPLOYEES Rewarding employees with more than a paycheck can instill appreciation and loyalty. Management must include the concept of valuing employees for their hard work as part of the business culture. Incentives that show appreciation of employees can include flexible scheduling for family and personal time, incentives and rewards for achievement of set goals, and the opportunity for employees to voice their concerns and ideas in a receptive atmosphere.

President Eisenhower once wisely said, “Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.” Motivated employees will perform at peak performance to be a part of the overall success of the business, and this will strengthen the bond between management and staff, making the culture even stronger.

LET GO OF EMPLOYEES Well trained and motivated staff can be “let go” to perform without micromanagement. The sense of trust employees will feel when allowed to perform their jobs with a certain level of self-management will lead to a strong internal business culture. Employees will then begin to become leaders themselves. They can first learn to lead themselves to success and then learn to lead others.

When employees gain these powerful skills through effective management, everyone wins. What better testimonial for any employee or manager to be able to say that their experience working together has benefited not only the company but has empowered everyone involved.

When management and staff are able to engage together in creating and practicing a shared vision, a strong, successful business culture will prevail. By motivating, valuing, and inspiring employees, management will lead each member of the business community to realize his or her own potential.

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Exploring Additional Revenue Streams to Amplify Your Existing Brand This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

It’s funny how quickly we can turn to every option under the sun to grow our business (or save it in a struggle) and somehow forget to start with the very foundation of our business – what we sell.

Customers are constantly being shown an evolving world from brands big and small, and the value you offer needs to be evolving in front of them as well. Adding additional revenue streams can be like waving a magic wand over your business that you didn’t realize you had in your back pocket the whole time!

Simply put, your revenue streams are every single thing you do right now to bring income in. Regardless of what you currently offer to customers or clients, by giving yourself the creative freedom to brainstorm new revenue streams you’re ultimately creating the safety net you didn’t know you needed. Instead of relying on one resource to bring in the bucks, diversify your revenue streams by offering additional value to your audience in new ways!

RETHINK YOUR EXISTING OFFERS. Take a moment to really look at what you currently sell in your business. What problems are your offers the solution to for your customer? Imagine if you could create something new that helped solve that same problem in a different way. You may even be able to come up with additional problems you could solve for your customer with a new product or service that complements your initial one. Take inventory of your skillset, both interpersonal and technological, while thinking about new revenue streams and what wouldn’t be a huge stretch from what you’re already more than capable of.

CREATE A PRODUCT. If you’re unfamiliar with the product-based business world, it can seem intimidating to get started. The reality is that there are many simple avenues to go down to get a great looking product without a manufacturing background! Think about what products you really want to offer and do some market research before jumping in. Do you see a want for this product in your market? How is yours going to stand out? Is the overhead going to be affordable for you? How will you package and ship these items if selling online? Once you know the answers, even a quick online search will show you loads of options to order mock-ups and receive pricing and shipping turnarounds.

OFFER A SERVICE. On the opposite end of the product world, we have service-based offerings. What’s great about adding a service to your revenue streams? It’s typically cheaper upfront to add as most of your investment will be the time it takes to create your new service. Before you commit to any one option, be sure to do your research! What is the problem your service is solving for your customer and why

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are you the right choice to offer this service? It’s a lot easier to sell something you know people want! There are so many services you could adopt into your own business model if it’s the right fit, from consulting and planning to design services and custom orders. Find the right fit for you!

TEACH SOMETHING. You’ve spent all of this time running your business and learning so much about what you do, who you serve and the industry that you’re in. Did you ever stop to think about sharing that value? Finding public speaking opportunities to teach some of your skills and share your knowledge can be a very affordable revenue stream to add. You can pitch talks and classes to conferences and online opportunities, and also have the freedom to offer your own. Take things a step further than the more mainstream social media teaching options and create a paid opportunity for customers to take advantage of a webinar, e-book, or course you can offer.

TEAM UP WITH ANOTHER BRAND. Sure, great minds think alike but different minds often complement one another and make for some inventive ideas! Finding the right partner-in-crime to collaborate with can give you some amazing resources. Need a graphic designer to help create those stickers you want to start selling? Interested in finding a co-host to launch your podcast idea? When you find the right person and brand to collaborate with, you’ll be amazed at what you learn from one another and the added value you can bring to your own brand.

NEVER STOP BUILDING. While we’re honing in here on the benefits to your income, adding these new and separate revenue streams is always a great way to stay creative and prevent burnout in your business. Challenge yourself to think outside the box and come up with ideas that not only your clients will appreciate, but you’ll enjoy offering.

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How to Fully Relax from Work While on a Vacation

BY MEGAN TAYLOR Fans of the television show, FRIENDS, know the meaning of the classic phrase “We were on a break.” For those that don’t, this phrase refers to a possible break in the relationship of Ross and Rachel (two of the characters). For our use, this phrase will relate to being on a break from work, as in a vacation. When a person is on vacation, whether they go somewhere or have a staycation, one of their main goals is to get more rest, relaxation and to rejuvenate from being burned out. This time is meant to be a break from your daily reality.

However, it can be hard to put your mind at complete ease and let go of everything job-related for your vacation time.

happiness during this time and shouldn’t have to feel the need to commit to anything. Sometimes over-planning activities can lead to exhaustion and leave you more tired. We all know the line, “I need a vacation from my vacation.” Don’t let this happen to you. As for returning to work, it does help to have a plan for how you return.

Would it be beneficial to prepare on the last day or evening of your vacation? Maybe you prefer to wait until you are actually back in the office to reenter the working world. You may feel sad as your time off comes to an end, so try to make going back to your job as less stressful as possible.

It is common to feel guilty for not checking and immediately responding to emails or assisting, if needed. This guilt can stem from numerous reasons based on the person and their work.

• Turn on your “out of office” messages, and turn off your notifications. Your workplace already knows you’ll be away. After all, paid time off is meant for employees to recharge and take a break. Before you leave, double-check your plans with your employer and make sure they remember you will be away. Then, set your “out of office” message on your email to inform others, and turn off your notifications. If you are like me, anytime an alert goes off, you feel the need to check-in immediately. Understand this is your time. You deserve it, and you deserve the chance to breathe.

The American Psychological Association’s survey from 2018 found that 21% of U.S. adults felt stressed during their time off, and 28% actually worked more than they thought they would during their vacation. While these percentages aren’t high, they are more than one would expect. The ultimate goal is to not have anyone working while on vacation – 0%. The next time you feel the need to complete a task while taking some time for yourself, use these tips to help you say “no.”

• Discover the ways you relax best. Everyone is different as to how they relax. Some enjoy doing absolutely nothing, while others enjoy gardening, playing a sport or doing yoga. Think about what you like to do in your spare time. Then, transfer that to your vacation. For example, if you like to hike on the weekends, go for a hike while on your break. The key is to disengage your mind from reality and everything that comes with it, such as work, responsibilities, etc.

• Allow for impromptu trips, but have a plan for returning to work.

No matter where you are for your holiday, be open for spur-ofthe-moment adventures or unexpected rest time. Usually, people have a plan for their time off with what they want to accomplish and places to visit. Nonetheless, feel free to add something to your list or take something away. You should be focusing on your

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Our culture focuses a great deal on the amount of time a person works at their job. Don’t feel ashamed to take a break every once in a while. In fact, this will help you be a better employee and person. It is just another form of self-care. And, if you do start feeling guilty about not working while on vacation, repeat to yourself the phrase “we were on a break,” and the guilt will start to go away.

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Benefits of Art Therapies Visual Arts, Dance, Music & Poetry Therapies

BY SUSAN B. B. SCHABACKER Studies show that listening to classical music can affect your brain waves and enable you to have better attention while aiding focus and concentration. Improve your overall health and enable therapeutic healing by making art and music a permanent part of your life. Here is how you can make the most of art therapies.

Right-brained therapies can help people who are struggling to cope with anxiety, stress, trauma, depression, and addictions. The arts can help alleviate and overcome pain and loneliness. Throughout history, our ancestors have expressed themselves in varying forms of pictures, art, stories, chants, songs, music, and dance.

BENEFITS OF ART THERAPY Visual art can be a therapeutic form of expression and communication. What is not expressed verbally or kinesthetically can be conveyed through artistic means using various tools and mediums. One can tap into the thoughts, feelings, and emotions often deeply buried, but still very real and present. Visual art therapies via pencil, pen and ink, charcoal, paints, and pastels can be a healthy and positive way to confront and cope with negative past experiences that are harmful to one’s psyche and health, sometimes even resulting in trauma and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

BENEFITS OF DANCE THERAPY Dance therapy can be beneficial to a recipient’s physical, as well as mental and emotional health and wellness and can encourage positive social interaction. Learning and practicing dance can enhance cognitive abilities, help focus concentration, and improve memory. Those involved with dance therapy can achieve greater mobility, balance, agility, and also acquire skills such as increased self-confidence, assertiveness, and selfdiscipline. Many who engage in dance therapy experience a positive reduction in stress, better mind and body control, coordination, enhanced mood, and overall better health.

BENEFITS OF MUSIC THERAPY Music therapy seems to be the most researched medium of healing arts and is a creative, artistic, and auditory process that often involves songwriting, singing, and playing instruments. This therapy can help patients with both communication and motor skills. Music therapy can help recipients overcome obstacles, move past blockages, see beyond limiting beliefs, and heal from traumatic experiences. Rhyme, rhythm, coordination, timing, melody, and harmony (and sometimes discordant disharmony) are utilized in music. This therapy can also assist those with physical disabilities and/ or sensory impairments. Music therapy can be especially therapeutic for people with medical conditions such as mental illness or cancer.

Music therapy can help restore better emotional balance and achieve greater mental stability. Research studies have shown that music can calm neural activity in the brain and thereby can alleviate anxiety. “Music just soothes the soul,” as George Jackson and Thomas E. Jones III wrote in their song “Old Time Rock and Roll.”

BENEFITS OF POETRY THERAPY Another form of artistic, literature-based therapy is poetry therapy, sometimes called bibliotherapy. Poetry is a creative way of using language to express what one is going through. Reading poetry can help with the realization that no one is alone in their struggles. Writing poems is an important part of the artistic process and can be therapeutic when expressing what the writer of the poem has experienced. The poem can be recorded in audio format and replayed, or the poem can be converted into a song and recorded. Poetry can be as short and concise as a haiku (or even shorter) or can be really long or even an epic (think Walt Whitman’s “Leaves of Grass” or Beowulf or The Iliad). A greater self-awareness can be reached, as innermost thoughts, feelings, and emotions are released through writing and speaking.

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There is no doubt about it. Art, dance, music, and poetry therapies yield healing properties that can benefit our health and wellness. And, unlike some medications that are accompanied by negative and sometimes harmful side effects, these artistic therapies contain only upside potential. They can all be instrumental (pun intended) in our healing.

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May I Help You? Your Customer Service Can Set You Apart

BY ADELE CASANOVA

In today’s highly competitive business environment, consumers expect excellent customer service. Customer service is just as important to many consumers as price. So, as a business owner or manager, how do you develop and maintain top-notch customer service?

Process development, training, tools, consistency, and communication are five key management concepts to employ for excellent customer service.

PROCESS Developing and documenting the process by which you want your business to run is critical, not only for good customer service, but for overall business success. An easy way to envision what process means is to consider fastfood restaurants. The high-volume production, packaging, and delivery of the food products requires detailed, well researched, and documented processes to guarantee consistent quality in a timely, profitable manner. Imagine all the steps of each encounter between customers and employees that occur in your business from greeting to completion of the transaction. Break down each step and document how you want the staff to complete the tasks.

This eliminates assumptions by staff on how to represent your business, and leads to the next four key concepts.

TRAINING Set up a training process and be sure that every employee is taken through this same process. Don’t be afraid to be as detailed as possible when describing what staff is expected to do and say in each step of the client interaction. This detailed direction gives employees confidence in performance and, more importantly, sets up quality customer service expectations for the customers.

When customers receive consistent, well-trained service, right down to greetings and closing remarks, each time they visit your business, they go away with a sense of confidence in the service standards that they will return to enjoy.

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TOOLS Empowering employees with the tools and knowledge that they need to do the best possible job is one of the surest ways to guarantee great customer service, even when management is not present. Tools can include training manuals, quick reference menus of step-by-step instruction for more difficult tasks, and in-depth knowledge of products and how they might work together. Also, crisis training is invaluable for staff to deftly deal with the occasional negative customer experience and to defray a crisis in customer service. Training classes outside of regular work hours, without clients, using role-play and discussing past crisis management will prepare staff to better handle the unexpected.

CONSISTENCY Stressing to employees the importance of consistency of service and product delivery is critical in establishing a reputation for customer service. Think of when you have visited a corporateowned store or business and reflect on the consistency of the language and manner of service you experienced at each visit. If the corporate store delivered consistent quality and service, you can be sure that process development, training, and adequate tools were provided to the employees to deliver it in each and every transaction.

COMMUNICATION This last concept is a key proponent of excellent customer service. Through open and continual communication, consistency in outstanding customer service can be maintained.

When employees make errors or step out of the process, communication with them about expectations and the possible need for additional training can help avoid fear or resentment between management and staff. Staff recommendations for improved customer service should be listened to with sincere interest and discussed with respect. Open communication as a management style leads to a content and confident staff. A harmonious environment where staff feels appreciated and valued will result in a positive business culture, an essential aspect for exceptional customer service.

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The Mysteries of Mary Higgins Clark

The mystery genre is one of my favorite to read and Mary Higgins Clark is one of my favorite within the genre. Dubbed as the “Queen of Suspense” Mary Higgins Clark’s books will take you through many twists and turns. These novels are ones you’ll quickly read through because you won’t be able to put it down. Throughout the years, I have read several of her books, including the ones below. However, I still have many Mary Higgins Clark novels I want to read.

Hopefully, you’ll become just a much of a fan as I am.

WEEP NO MORE, MY LADY

Grieving the loss of her sister, Leila, Elizabeth Lange arrives at Cypress Point Spa in Pebble Beach, California, in search of some rest and relaxation. However, Elizabeth soon discovers this won’t be possible. Leila was a famous actress who jumped from the balcony of her Manhattan penthouse and her death is suspicious.

Multimillionaire and friend of Leila, Ted Winters, is being accused of her murder. Yet, Elizabeth’s visit to the spa reveals more clues about herself, her sister, and Leila’s death. Are these clues Elizabeth actually wants to discover and will Elizabeth soon find herself in danger? I won’t spoil the ending to this tale or the other two. You will need to read the books to find out.

TWO LITTLE GIRLS IN BLUE

As with many novels in any genre, the reader hopes for a happy end for all the characters. Sometimes that doesn’t happen. Mary Higgins Clark’s Two Little Girls in Blue is one of those novels. The plot of the story surrounds three-yearold twin girls, Kathy and Kelly. After coming back to their Connecticut home after an evening in New York, parents Margaret and Steve Frawley discover their babysitter unconscious and both of their daughters kidnapped. A ransom note is left from the kidnapper, the Pied Piper, and says the girls will be returned only when he receives eight million dollars. Things seem to be taking a turn for the better when Steve’s company hands over the money. However, only Kelly is returned in a car. As for Kathy, the car’s driver is dead and the suicide note states she has been killed. At Kathy’s memorial service, Kelly tells her mother that “Kathy is very scared of that lady. She wants to come home right now.” No one, except for Margaret, believes Kelly and the fact that Kathy may still be alive. However, over time, Kelly’s warnings become more specific and alarming and eventually help the FBI with their search for Kathy. Will they find her?

You’ll have to read Two Little Girls in Blue to find out.

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YOU BELONG TO ME

Dr. Susan Chandler is a radio host who decides to do a segment on women who are killed by people who prey on the lonely and insecure. One particular case is of Regina Clausen.

Years earlier, Regina disappeared from a cruise ship and Susan is determined to find out why. However, Susan quickly gets in a little over her head and find herself in a trouble when Regina’s killer not only wants to get rid of lonely women, but anyone who is helping with Susan’s investigation. As her search continues, she realizes her life and Regina’s may have overlapped and one of the important men in Susan’s life may be the killer, who is now wanting to kill her. You Belong to Me brings about the reminder to not always trust everyone with whom you come into contact.

With the mystery genre, some books can be easily predicted, while others end in the most unexpected way. One thing you can count on with Mary Higgins Clark books, and with these three book titles especially, you will not be able to figure out the resolution until the novel finishes.

Don’t we all want our mystery books to be that way?

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From Procrastination to Habit

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE LEAK

“I have plenty of time until the task is due.” “Hmm, I’ll do it later.” “But there are other things I ‘need’ to do first.” “Such a big assignment gives me anxiety, so I need to relax by doing other pleasurable things.” “I just don’t want to do it now!” Says the procrastinator in all of us.

Procrastination—for many of us—is the easiest habit to sink into when we have a big, intimidating project or assignment to tackle. We tend to back down from the impending task and, instead, “momentarily” check into our social media accounts, calm our nerves by watching “just one” Netflix video, call a friend, or even find household tasks to occupy ourselves such as reorganizing a bookshelf or cleaning the kitchen.

These are all escape routes we habitually take when we don’t want to get started on that scary assignment just yet.

We all procrastinate to a certain extent – it’s only human nature. But here are some ways to diminish the urge to procrastinate and make productivity a habit!

CREATE A DISTRACTION-FREE ENVIRONMENT. Today’s world is inundated with distractions. Our phones and computers are constantly buzzing with emails, our spouse and children demand our help or attention, and we are bombarded with news updates. All these surrounding stimuli prompt us to procrastinate when we try to focus.

To keep from procrastinating, create a work environment that inspires productivity and laser focus. Where do you feel like you concentrate best? At the library? A quiet room in your home? Outside? Whatever venue helps you focus, pursue that environment—even if you must recreate it (in case it may be shut down). Helpful tip: the workplace you choose should only be used for work and nothing else. That way, you begin to associate it with working and not playing or relaxing. Avoid working in your bedroom, or a booming atmosphere like Starbucks.

RESIST PLEASURES. While many of us are working from home, we see the procrastination gremlin lurking behind each corner. iPhones, YouTube, Instagram, movies, music, and, yes, food! So many pleasures surround us, tempting us to “come out and play,” but we have much to get done!

Engaging in pleasurable fulfillment will thwart us from doing our work, resulting in procrastination. Set your mind to work until a certain time, or when you get to a certain place. If you can, rid your atmosphere of anything pleasurable or gratifying and think of how gratifying it would be if you completed whatever you set yourself to accomplish that day! Remember, work comes before play. That principle will give you many successful years and feelings of accomplishment and achievement.

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REMEMBER, YOU WILL BE REWARDED FOR YOUR WORK. Whatever you have to tackle, imagine how much you will be rewarded when you complete it. No matter what it is. It could be work-related, or it could be anything from developing a workout routine to calling an old-time friend. Procrastination is never rewarded but always reprimanded. Completing that task or assignment may bless you with promotions, opportunities (depending on what you’re working on), a sense of confidence and accomplishment, and even something as simple as more time to yourself! Focus on the rewards and not how daunting the task seems.

“ACT NOW!” Procrastinators notoriously put things off until later. We push those tasks back further and further until, eventually, we either don’t get to complete them, or we’re straining the very last minute at crunch time. It is important to take advantage of the present moment and get that assignment out the way! It’s better to do it now than worry and fuss about it later, right?

DON’T DO IT ALL AT ONCE. If you have a mega assignment that you know will take more than one day to handle, break it up into smaller, simpler nuggets. Completing these and checking them off your “todo” list will give you more confidence to take on the whole assignment and, before you know it, you will be done! This trick is very effective for chronic procrastinators.

Procrastinating is easy, but the repercussions for doing so are difficult. Try to genuinely enjoy the task you’re working on and find reasons to be grateful for your work. After all, nobody will fulfill the task like you can!

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Don’t Tell This Girl “You Can’t Do it”

BY DAVE MCCONNELL It’s been seven years since a mother and her quiet, ten-year-old female soccer player walked up and introduced themselves to me.

The mother went on to say that her daughter would like to join one of my training classes. I tried explaining that most ten-year-olds were not ready to take on the mental aspect of the vigorous workouts she would be subject to. She felt quite confident her daughter would be fine. The mother, Christine, knew her daughter well. Her daughter is Megan Peters, and I’m telling her story of how hard work, dedication, and determination can allow dreams to come true.

to find out. The next day we were on the Forsyth County Broncos field kicking footballs. Watching her on the soccer field for years of playing soccer, I knew she had a strong leg, but that does not always transition to kicking a football. Once she got her steps down and got a feel for kicking off a tee, surprisingly, she was very efficient. When we finished, it was quite obvious that she wasn’t spending a hot summer afternoon just for the joy of kicking a football. Megan was going to start kicking every day. Megan had to get ready for the start of football practice for West Forsyth High School.

At the time, when Megan started training with me, the class was made up of primarily males that were older. Anything I challenged the older boys to do, she was going to attempt. When I had them doing chin-ups, she was right there to join them. Initially, I would have to hold her feet and give her assistance to pull her chin over the bar. Now she is doing ten chin-ups on her own. This is a rare feat for anyone, especially a female. This is just the way Megan would approach any obstacle in her young life. She was never blessed with great speed or size. Generally, one or both of these are essential to become a good high school soccer player. She never let this interfere with her goals of playing high school soccer at West Forsyth High School, one of the elite programs in the state. Endless hours of footwork, speed, agility and strength training not only allowed her to reach her goal of making the team, it propelled her into the starting line-up as a freshman on the varsity squad. One might think this accomplishment would be enough to satisfy any high school athlete.

But again, this is not your typical high school athlete and her next endeavor would be one that had everyone’s heads turning.

August 1st, the first day of practice. Although admittedly nervous, she waited anxiously for her time to kick. While she waited, her coaches and players were giving words of encouragement that brought some relief. But now was the time to perform and all eyes would be watching to see if “the girl” could really be a part of the team. Megan kicked, and she kicked really well. She went on to be the first female to be on the varsity football team at West Forsyth High School. To a roaring ovation, Megan’s first extra-point attempt sailed right through the uprights. As she was being mobbed by coaches and teammates coming off the field, the announcer said, “That’s Megan Peters, who just became the first female to score a point in West Forsyth Football history.”

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With the looming uncertainty of the upcoming high school sports, Megan will continue to work out and practice in hopes of being able to excel in her senior season in football and soccer. She’s also setting goals for life after high school. She will be applying to become a cadet at the prestigious West Point, where she hopes to play soccer.

Who knows, she might even pay the football coach a visit, too. I wouldn’t bet against her!

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SEPTEMBER 20

PROFESSIONAL WOMEN OF WINSTON-SALEM MEETING To find information on virtual meetings and updates, visit PWWS.org.

BEETHOVEN LIVES! SALEM BAND CONCERT 3pm, Hanes Auditorium, Salem College FAC, 500 East Salem Avenue in W-S. The music of Beethoven and his contemporaries, Haydn and Mozart, will create a program of beauty, familiarity and comfort as we explore just how alive Beethoven remains in the hearts and minds of today’s music lovers. Original works for band, a transcription of “Allegretto from Symphony No.7,” marches and a unique take on Beethoven’s 5th, “Four: On a Remix of Beethoven,” make up this exciting classical program. Established in 1771, Salem Band is the oldest, continuous mixed wind ensemble in the nation. www.salemband.org

NOW THROUGH SEPTEMBER 8 BLUSH BY HAYLEY PAIGE BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations. Fabulous since 1964! nitsas.com

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 3, 2021 “TRAVEL ADVENTURE” EXHIBIT Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. You can go ANYWHERE – over land, sea or air – in the new exhibit!

Using LEGO® bricks, visitors can think creatively to plan and build vehicles to move through all kinds of terrain, including mountains, jungles, oceans and deserts…just to name a few! Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. https://kaleideum.org/

SEPTEMBER 15 SIP AND PAINT AT SIR WINSTON 7-9pm, Sir Winston Wine Loft & Restaurant, 104 West 4th Street in W-S. Choose Option 1: Wine Bottle In Shoe OR Choose Option 2: Cigar and Whiskey Glass. Jerrica with Frozen Imagery will be teaching the class – create a masterpiece and hang on your wall at home! Cost: $40/person which includes first drink. Email Info@sirwinstonrestaurant. com to sign up. sirwinstonrestaurant.com

SEPTEMBER 21-26 YOGA FOR HEALTHY AGING INTENSIVE 9am-12pm, Sunrise Yoga Studio, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in W-S. Join medical doctor Baxter Bell and Melina Meza for an enlightening and informative program that focuses on practical strategies for a lifetime of vitality and well-being. This intensive includes expert medical information and adapted yoga postures for maintaining physical, mental and emotional wellness. Practitioners learn to set themselves up for a lifetime of healthy living; 200-hour yoga teachers have the opportunity to receive Yoga for Healthy Aging certification. Cost: $800-$1,000/person.

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BY BERMUDA RUN GARDEN CLUB 9am-12pm, Bermuda Run Town Hall Parking Lot, 120 Kinderton Boulevard in Bermuda Run. $5 per brown bag or equivalent size box. Cash only. Rain or shine. Proceeds go to various Davie County community programs supported by the Garden Club.

SEPTEMBER 26 HANDS-ON HISTORY DAY 11am-4pm, Historic Bethabara Park, 2147 Bethabara Road in W-S. Experience the tools and trades of colonial Bethabara. Try your hand at indigo dyeing, woodworking and blacksmithing. historicbethabara.org

HAYLEY PAIGE BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

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OCTOBER 16-18 LEGENDS BY ROMONA KEVEZA BRIDAL TRUNK SHOW Nitsa’s Apparel, 107 South Stratford Road in W-S. Nitsa’s offers the finest selection of couture bridal gowns, bridesmaid dresses, veils, accessories, social occasion and cocktail dresses, sportswear and cosmetics. As the Carolinas’ Couture Bridal Salon, Nitsa’s provides its signature personal service and exceptional in-house alterations.

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OCTOBER 31 BOO! AT BETHABARA 2-5pm, Historic Bethabara Park, 2147 Bethabara Road in W-S. Start your trick-or-treating at Bethabara this year.

Candy, hay wagon rides, lighted jack-o-lanterns, haunted tours and more.

Wear your costume, and join in on the fun! historicbethabara.org

*DISCLAIMER: EVENT DETAILS ARE SUBJECT TO CHANGE. PLEASE CHECK EVENT WEBSITES & SOCIAL MEDIA PAGES FOR UPDATES AS THE DATES DRAW NEAR.*

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Top 10 Reasons You Should Attend

Tour de Boutique 2020!

Saturday, October 3rd ❶

You get an awesome (PINK) swag bag perfect for reusing at the grocery store!

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Quality time with your best girlfriends!

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Exclusive store specials and discounts ONLY for Tour de Boutique shoppers!

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Lunch is on us! Receive a lunch voucher to Midtown Cafe and Dessertery.

(If you decide to brunch or lunch somewhere else day of the tour, you can still use your voucher anytime through the month of October)

With the self-guided option, you ❺ Tour de Boutiquecan stay socially distant while also shopping at your own pace!

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If you’re directionally challenged, we’ve done the work for you! We’ve mapped out the best routes based on several different starting points.

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All participants receive a Forsyth Woman zip-up hoodie or crew neck sweatshirt!

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Shopping local = a boost for our local economy!

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Conversations with Your Is Asking ‘Why Don’t You BFF

BY REBECCA COOPER

Have Children?’ Okay?

I think most of us can agree that life has stages that the majority of us go through. You start dating someone and things progress to engagement and then to marriage. Most of us have barely gotten the rice or birdseed out of our hair before the questions start…‘Are you starting a family right away?’, ‘Are you guys at least trying?’, or ‘Do you want a family? But are any of these questions ever appropriate?

I’m so glad you asked!

SOME QUESTIONS YOU NEVER EVER ASK A WOMAN From an early age, boys and girls are taught that there are three things you should ‘never ask a woman about’: her age, weight, or size.

But it’s time to add another question to the ‘don’t ask’ list: ‘Are you going to have kids?’

Strangely, the comments and ongoing questions in relation to a woman’s ‘biological clock’ are not only inappropriate but never seem to end until you have your first hot flash.

Even after a woman has one or two children, she still gets asked if she plans to have another one or how big of a family they want. If there are certain people in your family who ask these questions, you may even start to steer yourself away from them at family gatherings just to avoid the question. So don’t be the one family members steer away from at Thanksgiving dinner.

THE QUESTION THAT MAKES EVERYONE UNCOMFORTABLE There are a few reasons why the ‘kids question’ is not appropriate and makes people uncomfortable.

Infertility: In a recent survey of married women, the CDC found that 1.5 million women in the US (6%) are infertile and 25% of infertile couples have more than one factor that contributes to their infertility. This is not only a touchy subject but a hurtful one causing the infertile couple to judge themselves for not being able to biologically do what their friends are doing…having a child.

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We Don’t Want Children: There is no rule book that says as a woman you must have a child, and if you choose not to have a child, there’s a stigma of ‘she must be selfish to not want kids.’ It’s that judgment and more questions that usually follow like ‘Don’t you want to add to the next generation?’ or ‘Having kids is the best way to show your love for your partner, so why wouldn’t you want to have a child?’ As you can see, it just gets worse in the question department.

We’ve Been Trying for a While: Pregnancy doesn’t always happen overnight, and even a fertile couple with no medical issues may take a year or more to conceive. Hearing the ‘kids question’ just adds stress and unnecessary pressure to an already hard time.

We’re Dealing with IVF: After years of trying to conceive naturally, many couples will attempt to add to their family using in vitro fertilization (IVF), which is a physically challenging process for the woman and stressful for the partner watching the mom to be go through all the testing, etc. Most

of the time IVF doesn’t happen the first attempt and often feels like an unrealistic process. When the ‘kids question’ is posed to IVF couples, not only are you reminding them that they long for a child, but that IVF is very expensive, and the quicker it works, the less expensive it is. IVF couples are not guaranteed results either, making the whole process draining emotionally and physically.

We’re Not Ready for Kids: Many couples are two-career households, focused on climbing the corporate ladder, and so the pitter-patter of little feet is on the back burner, and there’s nothing wrong with that at all. Couples may have a bucket list of things they want to do and places they want to visit before they start a family. That’s not selfish, that is understanding the importance of needing time to spend with a child and not being distracted by wanting to travel.

Having children is a very personal decision and not one that many want to share in just casual conversation, so try and stay away from making anyone uncomfortable being a bit too nosy. You won’t regret it.

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